 Instead HR suggests that partners wait until each has calmed down and is able to discuss things from a place of inner comfort and security.HR sees chemical dependency and related behaviors as a response to a lack of a sense of self-efficacy, rather than the result of disease.That is, some people who are, in HR terms, "unaware" of their own "innate health" and their own role in creating stress via their thoughts turn to alcohol, drugs, or other compulsive behaviors in the attempt to quell their stressful feelings and regain some momentary sense of control.