 Some are very huge ones for close relatives.As soon as the death has occurred all family members will be notified, nowadays often by a radio message and they are supposed to come to the "putu" (funeral rites), no excuses.For friends or distantly related members it is enough that they come, pay their respect to the dead, bring a small gift for the widow (or whatever the case may be), have their share of food and then leave until the actual burial.