 When they took off their clothes before sex, he would be reminded of the death of his wife and would not be able to maintain an erection.For this reason he had been having sex with other men, as they don't wear girdles that would remind him of Sarah Lou's horrific immolation.Rather strangely, during the telling of this story, Chandler is being fellated by Sash (Melinda McDowell) and has no apparent erectile problems.