 The official engagement must follow from formal consent given by the family elders from both sides.Through a ceremony called "paka-dekha" or "dekha-dekhi", the alliance is formalised so final wedding preparations can proceed in due course with confidence that it is indeed intentional and assured to take place.Paka-dekha is celebrated on a day when both families convene at either side's home to fix the final date and time of day of the marriage, and entertain any demands made by the groom's family in order to ensure that the bride's future is well assured.