on november 7 , 1989 , lisa cohen filed a declaration in superior court stating dr. grinberg was an extremely violent man , that he had threatened to kill her repeatedly , that he had threatened to take haley from her , that he had refused to pay any of the medical costs , that he had never taken an interest in haley , that he lacked even the basic parenting skills and was a danger to haley , that he had burglarized her home and that the relationship had been an abusive relationship for three years .