marcia 's own sister , merilee , the popular know-it-all from great neck , had the nerve to say , `` you need to focus on your husband and other children and stop wallowing , '' and when she said that word- '' wallowing '' ! -marcia wanted so much to punch merilee in the face and tell her to worry about her own damn family and that her son greg was taking drugs and her husband , hal , was probably having an affair and to shut the hell up .