Respond to someone who seems to believe in either meritocracy or rugged individualism, and argues that handouts are unacceptable unless there is a real need for them.
Damn brother, you must have a cold heart and dim mind to believe that people who earn their way are nothing more than a feeding trough for those that do not. You have a "screw you, I don't need to earn mine I will take your's" mentality. 
Barney, Sorry if you have difficulties in life but you can not take the fruits of my efforts so that you don't have to put out effort. You can not use me as a bandage because you have a wound. That sir is not my place in life. On the other hand, if you get in real trouble and truley need a hand up you can count on my charitable nature. Just don't try and take it by force.