Question: Hi Dr. Barkley, thanks for taking the time to do this AMA! 
  
  In your experience, how does ADHD affect long term relationships and more specifically, the sex life of relationship ships? Are there any tools, or resources you could suggest for people trying to work on their long term relationships/sex lives? 
  
  I’m asking from a gay male’s perspective. I know the experience for females can be different, in case there are others on this sub who have a similar question. 
  
  I also wanted you to thank you for all your work and the resources you’ve created and made available. I’ve found them immensely helpful and useful for explaining to loved ones how my ADHD affects me in terms they can understand.
Answer: Thanks, Sarah.  You are welcome.  I addressed the general social relations problems above.  There is far less information on this aspect of intimate social behavior than on social relationships with others more generally.  But check out Ari Tuckman's latest book, ADHD After Dark, which specifically focuses on sexual relations.  Also, ADHD Roller Coaster website managed by Gina Pera deals with cohabiting, intimate, and marital relationships.  There are one or two other books at online booksellers that address marriage and partnering though not as much for the gay male perspective as one might wish.  Its all such a new area of research at the moment but these resources might prove informative.
content: Q: Hi Dr. Barkley, thanks for taking the time to do this AMA! 
  
  In your experience, how does ADHD affect long term relationships and more specifically, the sex life of relationship ships? Are there any tools, or resources you could suggest for people trying to work on their long term relationships/sex lives? 
  
  I’m asking from a gay male’s perspective. I know the experience for females can be different, in case there are others on this sub who have a similar question. 
  
  I also wanted you to thank you for all your work and the resources you’ve created and made available. I’ve found them immensely helpful and useful for explaining to loved ones how my ADHD affects me in terms they can understand.
   Ans: Thanks, Sarah.  You are welcome.  I addressed the general social relations problems above.  There is far less information on this aspect of intimate social behavior than on social relationships with others more generally.  But check out Ari Tuckman's latest book, ADHD After Dark, which specifically focuses on sexual relations.  Also, ADHD Roller Coaster website managed by Gina Pera deals with cohabiting, intimate, and marital relationships.  There are one or two other books at online booksellers that address marriage and partnering though not as much for the gay male perspective as one might wish.  Its all such a new area of research at the moment but these resources might prove informative.