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She s a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire.
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Fantastic.
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And he s a serial entrepreneur.
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A very smart cookie.
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And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostick are bringing you along for the ride.
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Get ready for some major realness.
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Welcome to the Skinny Confidential, him and her.
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Welcome to The Him and Her Show.
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Happy Friday.
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Another solo with me.
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I recently did an episode on 10 steps to upgrading your morning.
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And I thought I would just sort of keep the flow going, keep the series going.
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So today I m doing 10 self-care habits to optimize your day.
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These are going to be habits professionally and personally.
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especially that have to do with being a wife, being a mother, being a founder, and sort of how I balance it all.
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The first habit is... It s kind of funny.
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I m obsessed with it.
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I have told every single one of my friends about this tip.
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I don t know why, but it has absolutely changed my nighttime.
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It s weird, but once you do it, if you do it, you ll be like, oh my God, this is good.
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So, I got this neck warmer.
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It s like a neck wrap.
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It s slightly weighted.
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It has herbs in it.
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The brand that I really like is Sonoma.
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It s absolutely beautiful.
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I got it off Amazon.
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It s in my storefront.
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And it s slightly weighted.
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And like I said, it smells like herbs.
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And so, what I was doing is every single night, I was putting it in the microwave and heating it up for like two to three minutes.
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And it was amazing, warm, a little bit of weight, sort of like soothing anxiety.
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It would just like wind me down at night.
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And I realized that I didn t want all of the EMF from the microwave on me every night.
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I was like, if I m going to do this every single night, I need to find something that really works.
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So I went and I got a
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salon, spa, warmer.
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And they use these for towels at Facialist.
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And I got one, I put it in my laundry room and then I stocked it up with all my weighted herbal neck pillows.
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And I am telling you,
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I love this when it comes to getting ready for the night.
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So what I ll do is after I ve cleaned the kitchen, I ve gotten my kids dinner, got them in the bath, is I ll go and I ll grab this lavender scented weighted neck pillow.
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And I ll put it on.
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My kids call it my warmie.
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They have one.
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They like to put theirs on.
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And it immediately just tells your body it s time to relax.
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Zaza will go to bed so quickly after this is on.
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Townes loves it.
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He s smelling my neck.
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And then after I put my kids to bed, I ll go in my room, so warm around my neck, and I ll read my Kindle.
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And it is just the best wind down.
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So that s something that I have found recently that has absolutely improved and optimized my life.
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It s such a good self-care habit, and it s an easy one.
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I will link this setup on my Instagram stories and on the podcast so you guys can see exactly what I bought.
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But that s one I cannot shut up about.
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The second self-care habit that I think is really important as a mother and as a business founder is taking space to do something for your skin.
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This could mean a facial, this could mean facial massage, this could mean
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Putting your face in ice in the morning, anything that helps your skin or helps improve your skin, I think is a really good one to implement if you haven t already.
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And I m going to tell you how I implement taking care of my skin being busy.
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So the first thing I do is when I wake up, I have a quick five-minute routine.
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Obviously, I like ice on my face first thing.
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I ll ice roll.
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I will do a little bit of facial massage with like a nice de-puffing oil.
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I ll dry brush.
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I ll just make my skin feel really invigorated and get the circulation going.
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I sometimes too will sit outside and do a meditation or an activation while I m massaging my face.
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So I try to constantly habit stack the skincare.
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I even did something that really helped is I got a makeup bag.
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And I put my skincare in that makeup bag and I have it in my car.
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So if I don t have time to do the skincare routine of my dreams, I ll do it while Michael is driving and we re taking Zaza to school.
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So I can do something to my skin that s preventative, even if it s quick.
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And then as far as nighttime, I ll do the same thing.
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I ll do a little facial massage at night.
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I ll really activate the limp by dry brushing, just making sure that I bookend my day with some skincare.
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I am not someone that has a 20-step skincare routine.
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I have my go-tos that are quick, it s efficient, and I can do it in five minutes, both at the beginning of the day and the end of the day.
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I like to take a shower and wind down at night, a hot shower, and so what I ll do is I ll turn the water to cold really quick and I ll wash my face in the shower so at least I can get the day off.
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Another thing that I love, and you guys know this, is I like to get a facial at least twice a month.
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I know that that s not for everyone.
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I like to spend my money on my time and my skin.
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And a facial for me is a non-negotiable.
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I think it s really awesome to find a great facialist and tell them exactly what you want.
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So my facialist in Austin, she s very holistic.
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Her name is Brooke.
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and she ll do a lot of facial manipulation.
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And it s amazing.
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And that s a way that I really take care of my skin.
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It improves elasticity, and it also smooths out wrinkles.
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So a facial is non-negotiable for me.
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The other thing that I do is I am someone who likes to plan out the day.
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And I do this in different ways.
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So if I can sit in meditation in the morning, I will go over how I want my day to look.
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And I will literally visualize the entire day happening seamlessly, and everything is going on harmoniously and working for me.
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So I ll think about the day and how I want it to be laid out in my meditation.
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And then I ll go to my skinny confidential planner, and I ll do my one page.
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It s so quick.
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It takes like two minutes.
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I ll write down how I want the day to look, what book I m reading, podcasts I m listening to.
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It s all in this planner.
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It s one page, my priorities.
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And then if I can take a walk at any time of the day, I ll pull out my notes app and keep going with that list.
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But what I do do, and I think this is a really good self-care tip, is I do not overwhelm myself with 600 to dos.
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I m very tactical when it comes to what needs to be done and what the most important thing is.
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As I ve grown my business and scaled it to a team of 14,
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I ve realized that prioritization is the number one tip on the planet.
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So I can look at my day and I can really focus on what is going to move the needle, what is important, what is absolutely essential, and I will do the Ivy League method.
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I ll put it in order and I won t move to the next thing until I get the first priority done.
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So I m very, very thoughtful about how the day goes.
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I m very, very methodical about my time.
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As you guys know, I really take space and time to think about it.
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And that may be stupid to some people, but to perform at the level that I want to perform at, it takes a lot of thought, consideration, and strategy.
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Number four is sex up your water.
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OK, you re already drinking water.
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This is an easy habit stack.
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Sex it up.
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So how can you do that?
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You can add minerals to it.
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You can add a squeezed lemon.
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You can add electrolytes.
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You can add key on amino mango acids.
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You can add creatine if you re working out.
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I am constantly getting creative with my water.
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So I do a lemon water.
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I do minerals in it.
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When I wake up, I do electrolytes and I will not have my coffee for 90 minutes until I ve done that.
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So then I ll have my coffee with raw milk, which has a lot of enzymes, probiotic.
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prebiotic minerals, vitamins in the raw milk.
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And then after that, I ll do my Keon Aminos with the creatine in it while I m working out.
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So throughout the day too, I m finding ways to make the water sexy.
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Like I want to make sure that water is water on steroids.
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There s a girl on TikTok that talks about sexy water.
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I m not sure what her name is, but it s true.
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You can really, really get resourceful when it comes to water.
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It also helps you drink more too.
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Finding ways to just make it different is awesome.
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And then at night, I always wind down with Moon Juice s Magnesium Water.
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It s absolutely amazing, and it signals to my body it s time to go to sleep.
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Number five is habit stack with something aspirational or educational.
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This one is one of my favorites.
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So when I make the bed every single morning, I like to listen to something that s uplifting.
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It s the start of the day.
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I don t want to hear gossip.
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I don t want to hear trash.
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I want to listen to something that is really going to set the frequency of the day.
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So usually I m listening to Louise Hay, maybe some Robert Green, maybe some Ryan Holiday, just something that s really going to kick the day off.
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And I like to take this tip throughout the day.
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So you could listen to a meditation while you re walking.
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You could listen to an activation while you re in your car.
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You could put your headphones on and listen to something while you re getting your nails done.
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The point is, is that when you have space where you can be passively multitasking, you re using the time to learn.
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Number six is watering your marriage.
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I am a big fan of watering my marriage.
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I try to do something that waters my marriage every single day.
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So whether this is scheduling a date night with my husband, taking time in the car to put my phone away and really listen to him, to use me as a sounding board,
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Maybe it s like creating some space in the night where I set up something sexy in the room.
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I always try to water my marriage in whatever way I can.
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My marriage is the foundation of my life.
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We have businesses together, we have kids together, we podcast together, so I think it s really important to make sure that I m watering the garden of my marriage.
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And this is another thing that I m very thoughtful about.
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I think about it.
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It s like, how can I uplift my husband?
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How can I maintain a positive relationship with him at all times so the other stuff grows?
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A lot of people put their kids first.
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I try to put my marriage first because my marriage, I want my kids to see us.
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I want them to see what passion and a good relationship looks like.
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So watering your marriage for me is a non-negotiable.
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Number seven, you probably guessed I was going to say this, but how could I not?
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I go to the foot spa.
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I love the foot spa because it s a place where I get something called deep work done.
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Deep work is not usually done in an office setting.
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When I m in the office, I m collaborating.
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I m talking to the team.
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I m
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Hanging out with my assistant Katie and going over what needs to be done.
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I m podcasting.
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I m moving.
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I m very fluid in my office But when I m at the foot spa, I am a hundred percent focused.
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There s no distraction.
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No one s talking It s like a hole in the wall
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And I go in there for 90 minutes to 2 hours and I walk out of that foot spa and I am telling you I have never got so much work done in my life.
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I ll bring my iPad sometimes.
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I ll just do my feet so I can use my hands so I can work and I will get literally 90 minutes to 2 hours of uninterrupted deep work done and that has really helped move the needle of my business.
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Sometimes I ll return text messages for an hour and then I ll do emails for another hour.
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Sometimes I ll go in there and brainstorm.
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I went in there and I started writing my next book.
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Whatever you want to do that s something deep, find a place that s quiet and peaceful, that s out of the crowd, that s out of like a bunch of people around and take yourself and make sure you give yourself space to do that deep focused work.
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Self-care to me has to do a lot with beauty.
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I like to feel good.
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I think if you look good, you feel good.
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And so self-care to me is getting a really great manicure.
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It s getting a blowout.
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It s getting my makeup done.
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It s doing things that make me feel my best so I can show up as my best.
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I also use these times in self-care to take conference calls.
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So I do feel like I m being productive with the time.
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And it s been so helpful to building my business.
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I also feel like it helps me to be more present as a mother because I schedule these appointments when my daughter is at school.
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So I can focus on going through the car wash of beauty and also getting work done.
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So when my daughter comes home, I m present.
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I m either ready to go to the office or a podcast because
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I don t have to like spend all this time dressing up.
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I really look at my time as an asset.
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And I say this a lot because I think that looking at your time as an asset has been 20% of the success rate in building the Skinny Confidential.
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I think I ve always looked at my time as something so important.
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So I look through the lens of when it comes to beauty or self-care, if I can have a moment to be productive while I m doing it, then it s a win for me.
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I don t know what my life would be like without a book.
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If you had to take everything away from me, my last thing would probably be my Kindle.
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I have like a full Beauty and the Beast library on that Kindle.
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And the reason that I go towards my Kindle is because I can read it in the dark.
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I read it on dark mode on airplane mode every single night.
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And it s something that has just an incredible self-care outlet for me to be able to lay there with my weighted neck pillow.
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and put my legs up on the wall and read my book, Kindle, whatever it is, is absolutely one of the most important self-care parts of my day.
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I think self-care has to do with your brain, too.
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And reading, obviously, makes you smarter.
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It makes you craftier.
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It makes you more resourceful.
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It makes you less ignorant.
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And you re learning.
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And so what I do is I like to mix the books up on my Kindle.
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So I ll have a self-care book.
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I ll have a book on business.
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I ll have like a chiclet book.
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Right now I m reading Mr. and Mrs. American Pie.
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It s based off the show Palm Royale.
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It is so good.
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I think you guys will really like it.
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Go buy that book if you like to read.
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I m also reading Art of the Deal by Donald Trump, which has nothing to do with politics.
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I just find it fascinating to read about someone who became president before they were president and like hear the inner workings of his business and being on The Apprentice.
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It s wild, really wild to read a book from, I think it s like written in the 80s or 90s.
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And then a self-care book that I have on there is Discipline is Your Destiny by Ryan Holiday.
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And that s a really great one.
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I also have Daily Laws I m constantly highlighting.
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If I do read a hardcover book, I just got a red light nightlight that s a book light.
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It s absolutely amazing because the yellow light like kind of shines in your eyes.
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But this red light book light, I ll put it in my storefront, just calms your nervous system.
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So that s a good one.
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And then last but not least, number 10 is I m just going to list a bunch of little tiny self-care things that I do.
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OK, so I m just going to give you, I don t know, a bunch of little ones that really improve my life.
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The first one is a salt rock nightlight.
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I love this.
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I don t turn on lights in my room at night.
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I either have natural light or the salt rock nightlights, and it s so amazing to take a shower, put some eucalyptus in your shower, put on a meditation, and put on your salt rock nightlight.
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You ll never go back to a blaring yellow light again.
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Another thing is taking a hot shower at night.
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We talked about that earlier, but I think that s a really great way to wind the night down.
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And it s something that I feel is like very self-care-esque.
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You could also do a bath.
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I just don t have the energy for that at this moment in my life with two kids under four.
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Grounding outside, putting your feet in the ground when you wake up, amazing.
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Google all the benefits of grounding.
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There are so many.
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And then my favorite, I got to end with this because I got to say this one s really good, getting sunlight in the morning.
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I sit out on my deck.
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I have a whole setup.
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I sit out there with my kids.
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I read them books.
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I try to do it in the morning and towards the night, and it really trains your body and your hormones.
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I can t explain it.
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You start to, like, crave it.
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It s really good for your circadian rhythm.
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Listen to Andrew Huberman, though, to hear all the benefits, but I like to wake up and get my ass outside as soon as possible on this deck with my book, with my kids.
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It s the best.
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Those are a bunch of my self-care hacks, tips, and tricks.
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I hope you love this.
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Let me know what you guys want to hear next on my solo episodes.
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I m having the best time doing these on my latest Instagram at Lauren Bostic.
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And make sure you re following at TSC Podcast for all the updates.
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See you on Monday.