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What s up, Mango?
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I ve been trying to write a promo for our podcast, Part-Time Genius, but even though we ve done over 250 episodes, we don t really talk about murders or cults.
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I mean, we did just cover the Illuminati of cheese, so I feel like that makes us pretty edgy.
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We also solve mysteries like how Chinese is your Chinese food and how do dollar stores make money?
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And then, of course, can you game a dog show?
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So what you re saying is everyone should be listening.
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Listen to Part-Time Genius on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.
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The joy they brought to the nation.
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You re free completely.
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No one is there to destroy you.
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The danger they endured.
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They said my head should be cut off.
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I m John Legend.
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It s a show dedicated to helping you figure out the trickiest parts of adulting.
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The monks which I learned to train was constantly asking myself why.
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Every time I wanted something, I would trace the why.
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Is it because of a societal expectation or ego pursuit or a deep value?
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That three-letter word is a skeleton key for unlocking your self-awareness.
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And self-awareness is at the root of self-mastery.
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This week we re tackling the topic of mindset and how to approach life with focus, perspective and positivity.
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Hey everyone, I m so excited to be speaking with you today about six ways to monk switch your mind for growth and resilience.
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There has been a lot of research involving monks that shows how monks are really masters of the mind.
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I detail some of it in my book, Think Like a Monk.
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For example, several years ago, a monk named Yonge Mingyo Rinpoche traveled from Nepal to a research facility in Wisconsin so the scientists there could observe his brain activity while he meditated.
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They put a device that looked like a shower cap on him and fixed hundreds of senses to his skull.
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And they had him cycle in and out of meditative states on cue.
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Now, if you ve ever tried to meditate, you sit down, and what happens?
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The second you try to clear your head, your mind floods with thoughts, right?
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It takes most of us at least five to 10 minutes to settle down mentally and get into that meditative space.
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if we re lucky.
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So knowing this, the researchers in Wisconsin were astonished by what they saw, which is that whenever they gave the monk the signal to start a meditation cycle, his brain immediately went into meditation mode.
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It was like flipping a switch.
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They had never seen anything like it.
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He was able to switch in and out of meditation mode again and again, just like that.
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And here s the thing that s important to understand.
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This monk wasn t special.
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No offense to him.
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What I mean by that was that he wasn t following some exclusive special training program.
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All he was doing was he was living the regular life of a monk.
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These same scientists, along with others, have run many exhaustive, detailed studies on long-time monks and other seasoned meditators, and they all show the same types of results.
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An astonishing degree of mental control, whether in the form of focus, compassion, and even the brain indicators for happiness.
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Monks spend so much time training their minds that when challenges arise, whether it s dealing with external challenges, like what we re all experiencing now, or internal ones, like struggling with ego, that s when their training kicks in.
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Like Yonge Mingyo Rinpoche, we can learn to monk switch our minds so that the practices we ve trained automatically kick in, in times of stress and struggle.
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Today I m going to share with you six ways to monk switch your mind so you can feel more resilient and experience a greater sense of meaning and purpose, especially in the face of massive challenges.
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Now, at the monastery, monks have what is mostly a controlled, immersive environment for their training.
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And so you re probably thinking, but Jay, I m not a monk, and I don t want to be a monk.
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So how can this apply to me?
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This time we re in can be your monastery or your ashram.
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And in a few minutes, I ll talk about some ways you can actually create more peace in your own surroundings.
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So if you re ready, here we go.
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Now, some of you know I m massively into movies.
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I already referred to one movie, now I m going to bring in another.
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I especially love Christopher Nolan movies, and his movie Memento is one of my favorites.
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If you ve not seen the movie, it s about a man who has a very specific type of amnesia, a brain condition where he can no longer make new memories.
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And the story is told starting with the ending, then working backwards.
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Now, since that movie has a neuroscience theme and I m about to delve into some neuroscience, I thought I d do it Memento style.
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We re going to start at the end with where you want to end up and work backwards to how you get there.
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For most of us, it relates to resilience.
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We want to feel that no matter what happens, we can handle it, that we have the tools to deal effectively with whatever life throws at us.
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That s our target.
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Now that might be individually, and it also might be from a relationship perspective or from an organizational perspective.
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You re an entrepreneur or a family person.
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Whatever type of resilience you re focused on creating, here s the thing.
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In order to change your external experiences in life, you have to master your internal experiences first.
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There are indisputable facts about what s going on around us right now in the outside world.
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But on the inside, we re all experiencing it differently.
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Some of us are filled with fear and anxiety, while others are finding a way to navigate it with more equanimity and even make progress in their lives or their organizations or relationships.
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Some couples are leaning in and becoming more of a team.
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Some individuals are using this as a growth opportunity.
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Some companies are creating new service lines.
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Take ZocDoc, an online service for booking in personal medical appointments.
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The company had a massive amount of momentum coming into 2020.
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But by the end of March, they saw bookings decline anywhere from 50% to 90%.
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Co-founder Oliver Karras was advised to lay off staff and lay low for the duration, as many companies have done.
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Yet Zocdog did the opposite.
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They expanded.
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Instead of trying to weather the storm, Karras says he saw an opportunity to build windmills.
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Instead of initiating layoffs, the company tasked their staff with creating and implementing a telehealth platform so patients could get remote care from their doctors.
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It was a massive effort, but within two months, the company had done the impossible.
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They pulled off a successful launch of a brand new telehealth platform that, under other circumstances, Karis says would have taken them two years to create and introduce.
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One of the greatest monk switches out there is to train yourself to equate change, especially change that seems negative, with opportunity.
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Monk David Stendhal Ross talks about something he calls grateful living, which is a way of cultivating trust in life and in all that s happening in the external world, no matter how it feels.
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As Stendhal Ross says, when you receive every moment as a gift,
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You ask yourself, what s the opportunity in this moment?
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And that s exactly what Zot Dog did.
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And that s what you can learn to do to find the opportunities that are present in these otherwise challenging moments.
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But I m sure you know countless other examples of organizations and people who are doing the opposite.
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They re struggling.
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And that s understandable.
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I want to acknowledge that this really isn t an exceptional time for us all, and most of us are experiencing some combination of personal loss and financial loss or stress.
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That s very real.
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Yet, as Dr. Andrew Huberman says, part of what determines whether we struggle or find a way to thrive depends largely on how we frame stress.
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Huberman is a professor in the Department of Neurobiology at Stanford University, who studies, among other things, brain plasticity, or our brain s ability to learn and progress.
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He says perhaps the biggest determinant of how we will weather storms, from the pandemic down to everyday stresses, is whether we run from our fears, whether we freeze, or whether we move towards what we re afraid of.
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In fact, neurologically, it s only really in conditions of discomfort that we can train our brains to learn to thrive from stress and become more resilient.
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So we have our goal.
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Now, to uncover how we get there, along with how ancient wisdom figures into the equation, let s take a step backwards and look at some of Dr. Huberman s research on neuroplasticity.
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It used to be that we thought that once you hit about your mid-20s, your brain couldn t change much.
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You can t teach an old dog or even 35-year-old new tricks, right?
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But thankfully, modern research shows that s just not true.
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In fact, in some ways, we can actually become better at learning difficult things and performing at the leading edge of our ability, especially if we understand how our brains work.
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Unfortunately, according to neuro research, there s a pretty predictable formula for it.
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I m your host, Gabrielle Collins.
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And this season, we are bringing fans even deeper into the ton.
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Colin Bridgerton has returned from his travels abroad.
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It s a show dedicated to helping you figure out the trickiest parts of adulting.
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Like how to start planning for retirement, creating a healthy skincare routine, understanding when and how much to tip someone, and so much more.
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We re back with season two of the podcast, which means more opportunities to glow up and become a more responsible and better adult, one life lesson at a time.
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And let me just tell you, this show is just as much for us as it is for you.
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So let s figure this stuff out together.
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This season, we re going to talk about whether or not we re financially and emotionally ready for dog ownership.
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We re going to figure out the benefits of a high yield savings account.
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All that plus so much more.
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Let s learn about all of it and then some.
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Listen to Grown Up Stuff How to Adult on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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The first part of the formula involves three things.
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These are the three elements you need to be able to learn to raise your level of performance.
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First, you need clear intention and direction.
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The second thing you need is intense focus.
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And the third thing you need is a strong motivation.
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The next step in the formula for learning and growth is that you need to apply direction, focus, and motivation continuously for an extended period of time.
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Think about it.
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If you lose your direction, you ll go off course.
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If you lose focus, you ll be ineffective.
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And if you lose motivation, you ll disconnect from the emotion that was acting like a propeller pushing you forward.
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Imagine a marathon runner during all those days and miles they log when they re training.
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If they lose sight of their direction, they won t train properly.
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If they lose sight of their focus, they can get distracted by all the other things they d rather be doing, like hanging out with friends and eating pizza instead of running 15 miles in the pouring rain.
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And if they lose their motivation when they re out on the road or the track, they won t have the heart to keep going.
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So you need to be invoking all three over and over again, just like that runner training day after day to run that marathon.
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And there s another part of the equation.
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The progress you make doesn t reshape your brain and create actual learning or skills you can repeat until another element is added.
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And that element is periods of deep sleep or rest.
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So direction, focus, motivation, sustained along with deep rest.
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That s the formula for how we can reshape our brains.
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And it explains why Yonge Mingyo Rinpoche showed those incredible results in Wisconsin.
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Because that formula is essentially how a monk lives every day of their life.
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in focused, directed, intense effort, followed by periods of rest.
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Fortunately, as Huberman s research shows, you don t have to live like a monk to change your brain.
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You do, however, have to understand how to overcome some neurochemical hurdles.
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In that first part of the equation, direction, focus, and motivation, your brain is releasing two main neurochemicals to assist with the performance and learning processes.
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Those are acetylcholine, which will help to make those actual changes to your brain when you rest, and noradrenaline.
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The noradrenaline, as you might guess from the adrenaline part, gets you amped up.
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Think about how you feel when you re about to compete or about to give a presentation or about to sit down to an intense work session.
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You might feel anxious or excited or fidgety.
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Many of us interpret these feelings as negative.
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But as Huberman points out, some amount of agitation or even a feeling of frustration is normal to the process of getting ready to do something that s at the edge of your performance zone.
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It s what the initial stages of growth feel like.
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For many of us, let these feelings of agitation sidetrack us.
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We can t get focused, we say.
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In actuality, part of the noradrenaline s role is to help you get focused.
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So instead of allowing yourself to click over to Twitter or text a friend, you need to train yourself to just get started.
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In a few minutes, the agitation will pass as you get into the next phase of the process, which is the sustained effort portion.
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So that s where that stress response comes in.
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When you feel that stress of agitation, that s a time to monk switch your mind.
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When you feel that anxiety, your hands maybe go a bit cold or you get fidgety, tell yourself again and again, I m about to learn.
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or I m about to grow.
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Over time, those body signals will cue those thoughts automatically.
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As Stanford researcher and stress expert Kelly McGonigal says, when you choose to view your stress response as helpful,
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you create the biology of courage.
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How powerful is that?
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Literally when you choose to see stress as useful.
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Now remember, once we step over that stress threshold and start learning or performing, we re in our presentation or our high stakes meeting, we re working on writing our book, or we re running that marathon, we have to sustain the effort.
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And this is where another neurochemical you re probably familiar with kicks in, dopamine.
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Little hints of dopamine signal us that, as Huberman says, we re on the right path.
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And that s what draws us forward.
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Otherwise our brains would become too saturated with noradrenaline and eventually it would make us give up because we d be worn out.
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Occasional dopamine hits actually balance the noradrenaline by giving us a chemical and emotional thumbs up and that keeps us going.
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That s why marathoners will tell themselves, just make it to the next water station or to the next intersection.
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Or it s why people tell you instead of focusing on writing an entire business plan to chunk it down
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into smaller pieces and just focus on completing one at a time, then giving yourself a mental high five.
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Those smaller milestones give us a boost of dopamine when we achieve them.
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There are other ways to get dopamine hits as well.
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Research from Huberman s lab shows that things like laughter, a sense of group cohesiveness, a feeling of being supported, or a sense of playfulness, among others, gives us that dopamine that sustains our effort.
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So now let s backstep again and I ll show you how a monk would approach that formula for growth, learning, and resilience.
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The first element was a clear intentional goal.
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For monks, our GPS that points us in the right direction is our value system.
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We look to our values to direct us.
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So our intention or our goal would link to our values.
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For example, I tell a story in my book of a time when I was walking with my teacher, and we came across a monk who was an incredibly accomplished scholar.
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I was so impressed with how many verses and passages from the ancient texts he had memorized.
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I turned to my teacher and said,
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I want to do that too.
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And he asked me, do you want to do that because you want to be known as someone who did that or because you want to actually put in the hard work of doing it?
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So for monks, while we might have a goal in mind, say memorizing books or verses, we would link our goal to a deep value such as learning rather than a surface pursuit such as ego.
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Did you catch the monk switch there?
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It was a bit hidden.
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The monk switch I learned to train was constantly asking myself why.
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Every time I wanted something, I would trace the why.
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Is it because of a societal expectation or ego pursuit or a deep value?
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That three-letter word is a skeleton key for unlocking your self-awareness.
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And self-awareness is at the root of self-mastery.
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So train yourself to ask why for a week.
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Every time you want something, ask yourself why, even if it s just a type of food.
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Where does that want come from?
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If you do this with regularity, you ll start to do it automatically.
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And the practice will help you connect with value-directed goals.
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The second component in the learning formula is focus.
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How many of us have sat down at our computer with the intention of doing something, we re finally going to start that course, and then five minutes later, we re on Instagram or texting a friend to see what they re up to?
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Without the ability to bring your focus fully to a task and sustain it, you will not make progress.
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There are several ways a monk cultivates focus.
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one of which is through mindfulness.
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You can think of mindfulness simply as noticing what is in the present moment without judgment.
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Here s a practice you can use to train that.
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Simply sit in a comfortable position, breathing in deeply and then out.
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And in again.
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And now instead of trying to totally clear your mind, just notice what comes up.
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Acknowledge it.
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Release it.
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Like, okay, I noticed some anxiety around work.
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Okay, I acknowledge you, anxiety.
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Now I realize you and I bring my mind back to the present moment.
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If it comes back, acknowledge and release it again.
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There s no need to get upset at anything that arises.
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The goal is to not have an empty mind.
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It s to be where you are, practicing, noticing, and releasing.
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The monk switch you re training here is that when you sit down to start that course, when the inevitable distractions arise, you can simply notice them and release them, coming back to focus on your project.
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Essayist and novelist Pico Ayar said, in an age of distraction, nothing can feel more luxurious than paying attention.
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And I love that quote, because that s a way we can hack our focus, but reframing it not as something that s hard, but as a treat, as a luxury, as he says it.
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Guess what, Bango?
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What s up, Will?
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So Ayar is giving us a whole minute to promote our podcast, Part-Time Genius.
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I know, that s why I spent my whole week composing a haiku for the occasion.
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It s about my emotional journey in podcasting over the last seven years, and it s called Earthquake House.
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Mango, I m going to cut you off right there.
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Why don t we just tell people about our show instead?
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Yeah, that s a better idea.
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So every week on Part-Time Genius, we feed our curiosity by answering the world s most important questions.
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Things like, when did America start dialing 911?
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Is William Shatner s best acting work in Esperanto?
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Also, what happened to Esperanto?
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Plus, we cover questions like how Chinese is your Chinese food?
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How do dollar stores stay in business?
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And of course, is there an Illuminati of cheese?
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There absolutely is.
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And we are risking our lives by talking about it.
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But if you love mind-blowing facts, incredible history and really bad jokes, make your brains happy and tune in to Part-Time Genius.
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Listen to Part-Time Genius on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.
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When the Taliban banned music in Afghanistan, millions were plunged into silence.
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Radios were smashed.
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Cassettes burned.
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You could be beaten or jailed or killed for breaking the rules.
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And yet, Afghans did it anyway.
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This is the story of how a group of people brought music back to Afghanistan by creating their own version of American Idol.
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The danger they endured.
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They said my head should be cut off.
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The joy they brought to the nation.
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You re free completely.
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No one is there to destroy you.
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I m John Legend.
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Listen to Afghan Star on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Now the third component is motivation.
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As I write in my book, according to a Hindu philosopher named Tucker, there are four fundamental motivations, fear, desire, duty, and love.
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Everything we do sits in one of these four motivations.
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However, a monk would say, Adis Thakur, that fear is not sustainable over the long term.
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Your anxiety may motivate you now, but it s going to exhaust your body and your mind.
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Also, fear limits your access to creative thinking and decisive, creative solutions.
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And when we are motivated by desire for personal gratification, we may be happy when we first get that new car or whatever it is, but we all know that feeling quickly wears off and we ll need more to achieve the same pleasure.
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However, when we re motivated by duty and love, these motivations create meaning.
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Love is the ultimate motivation and the ultimate why.
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And as American football coach Bill Walsh once said, if your why is strong enough, you will figure out how.
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So when you re thinking about what you want to do, you want to align your motivation with duty, such as getting a better job so you can support your family, or love, such as helping others, or the simple love of learning and improving.
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When they opted to create a telehealth platform, Zocdoc had the strongest why.
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Of course, the company wanted to remain profitable.
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But more than that, they wanted to protect their staff and their jobs.
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They wanted to support the medical providers who suddenly couldn t see patients in person.
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And they wanted to support people who were abruptly cut off from medical support during an international health crisis.
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When ZocDoc created their new platform, they even offered it for free to doctors who are not ZocDoc providers.
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See, here s the single most important thing I m going to tell you today.
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Service is the ultimate hack.
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When you tie your work or your goals to love and service of others, it s the most powerful way to game your brain to strive and grow.
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Because service not only feels good, it also boosts our self-esteem and creates connection with others.
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And service is a self-reinforcing motivation.
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We want to keep working and to keep serving because we get so much satisfaction from it.
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And so we want to keep expending that effort.
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Service has its own built-in reward system.
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For monks, our lives revolved around two distinct and intense areas of focus, the self and the not-self.
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We d spend the first half of our days meditating, learning, classes, otherwise training and mastering ourselves.
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The rest of the day, we would spend in service of others.
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Service was our highest purpose.
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For me, it still is.
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It motivates me deeply.
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So that s another monk switch.
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Whenever possible, figure out how to switch your work from total focus on self to service.
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Whether it s service of your family, your community, or your company, it will help you feel motivated, directed, energized, and like you can make a real impact, even when it feels as if everything that s around you is crushing down.
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Remember this, emotion will follow action.
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Even if at first you re feeling down and defeated, if you re not sure how you re going to move forward, if you can use these steps to just get going, just start learning, just start growing, just start serving, the positive emotions, the sense of motivation, of accomplishment, of connection, of satisfaction will follow.
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Now here s the last back step.
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I promised I d give you a monk tip on bringing some of the ashram-like peace to your everyday training grounds.
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You want to make your environment supportive of your development.
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So you want to remove or limit, as much as possible, the things that are putting you in an anxious, reactive state, rather than a calm, proactive state.
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One of the easiest ways to do this is to pay attention to the three S s, the sights, sounds and smells in your environment.
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Let s look at what we see.
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How do most of us start and end our day?
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Not with a kiss or a kind word for a partner or even brushing our teeth.
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It s checking our phones.
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Data from Asurion says that the average American checks their phone 96 times a day.
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It s usually to check social media or our email.
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And how do we feel after we do that?
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Agitated?
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Negative?
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Lonely?
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Frustrated?
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Monk training would be much more difficult if monks had smartphones, trust me.
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So one thing you can do is to try and control what you see at least as much as possible, at least first thing in the morning.
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And that includes minimizing your interaction with your smartphone.
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So you maybe print a beautiful image or motivational quote that you put next to your workstation or your bedside table.
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You may scribble it down on a post-it note.
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You may look outdoors.
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That s one of the reasons monks are so tidy, and ashrams and monasteries are typically in natural settings.
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We support the cultivation of internal beauty by creating and enjoying external beauty.
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When it comes to smells, scents evoke emotion.
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In fact, they re the most powerful link to memory.
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That s why you remember someone s cologne or perfume, the smell of cut grass or linen hung out to dry, because scents have such strong triggers.
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You want to try and expose yourself to scents you enjoy or that calm you or energize you as needed.
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Lavender, eucalyptus and sandalwood are three of my favorites.
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The final S is sounds.
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When I was living in bustling New York City, I would usually end my days exhausted and maybe even a little cranky.
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Now that I m in LA, which is a little more chill, it s a different story.
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Later, I learned about something called cognitive load, which you can sort of think of as programs running in the background on your computer that you don t actually need to be open but are using up resources, except it s happening in your brain, right?
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So now I make a point to, again, as much as possible, control the sounds around me.
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You can t have the news on the background and wonder why you feel negative.
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You can t have people talking all day and wonder why you can t find stillness.
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Now when I have to set an alarm, I set it to soothing sounds instead of a blaring sound that will startle me.
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Try to cut down on any extraneous or unpleasant noise so you can have access to more of your brain s energy.
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So now that we ve arrived at the beginning, here s your assignment.
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In addition to training your monk switches, I want you to make a list of 15 opportunities that are present for you right now.
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Now 15 might seem like a lot, and it is, but that s the point.
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To make you stretch and get creative with how you re viewing this current time.
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From those opportunities, start with just one goal you want to pursue that will get you closer to that skilled, resilient, powerful version of yourself.
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You now have a science and monk tested formula for how to make it happen.
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Thank you so much for listening.
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I hope you have an amazing day and I hope to meet you soon.
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Today s mission, rewire the brain to focus on the positive.
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Today s tool, self-talk.
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The next seven minutes are about you and reframing your inner monologue.
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I m Jay Shetty.
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Welcome to The Daily Jay.
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It s nearly impossible to reframe if we re rushing ahead.
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So let s take a moment to slow down and get centered with three deep breaths.
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Breathing in and out.
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In, feeling the stomach expand.
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And out, releasing any tension.
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In, focusing on the breath.
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And out, arriving here in the present.
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Let s dive in.
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Half a century ago, the conventional wisdom said that the adult brain couldn t change.
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But that was half a century ago, when TikTok was just the sound of your clock in the hall.
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Scientists have since discovered that our brains are never done growing and reorganizing.
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they re never done rewiring.
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It s called neuroplasticity, and it s led to some major medical breakthroughs, but it also has huge implications on our daily lives.
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Believe it or not, we all have significant influence over how our brains continue to develop.
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To quote an eminent neuropsychologist called Rick Hansen, the details are complex, but the key point is simple.
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How you use your mind changes your brain for better or worse.
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Whatever we do consistently becomes an unconscious mental habit, like leaning into gratitude or dwelling on our fears.
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The challenge is, the brain is actually biased toward negativity, so it s really important to take intentional steps toward changing it for the better.
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Okay, so how do we do that?
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Well, there s emerging evidence that self-talk is an agent of neuroplasticity.
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When you shift your thinking from negative to positive, and you do it often enough, you ll move your brain in the right direction.
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And self-talk is an incredible tool to shift your thinking.
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Self-talk both reveals and then affects how you view yourself, with compassion or criticism.
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But today, I want to discuss your self-talk in relation to feelings and emotions.
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Let s take the example of being tired.
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It happens to all of us, right?
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When you re in the middle of your day, but you already feel exhausted,
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In that moment, you could say two different things to yourself.
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You could say, I m so drained.
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Why don t I have any energy?
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I can t believe I still have all this stuff to do.
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There s so many hours before I can relax.
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Or I m going to make sure I get to bed early tonight and get a good night s sleep.
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Only a few more hours to go.
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I can do this.
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Basically, do you complain or do you make a plan with a positive outcome?
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Frustration, hunger, discomfort, it doesn t matter.
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Any feeling or emotion can be met with a complaint about the problem or it can be reframed to focus on the solution.
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Of course, it might take some work to fight back on negative impulses and approach self-talk constructively, but ultimately,
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That process of reframing will rewire your brain for positivity and you ll feel better in the moment too.
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Now how many of you want some more good news?
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Practicing meditation has also been shown to boost the brain, which is yet another reason we close with a moment of stillness.
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So get comfortable wherever you are, settling into your body,
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seeing if you can find a position that brings you greater ease.
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Close your eyes if you re able to.
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No worries if not.
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Just try getting as present as possible.
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And now let s tune in to the breath.
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The pure flow of air.
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In and out.
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Today the breath can be your home base.
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Try holding your attention here, bringing your focus back if you ever wonder.
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If your mind gets caught up in any thoughts, return to the breath.
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If your mind gets caught up in any negative thoughts,
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See if you can reframe them in a positive light and then return to the breath.
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We re not judging those negative thoughts.
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They re natural and we want to accept them.
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But let s see if we can move to a more positive place.
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And now let s open this up by reflecting on feelings or emotions that we tend to complain about.
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For me, it s when I feel overworked.
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Now you may notice that there s often a pattern to your negativity.
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So how can you reframe things to break that pattern?
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How else could you improve your self-talk to rewire your brain?
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Change might not happen overnight, but there s no rush as long as you re heading in the right direction.
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If this session helped you reframe your thoughts today, think about who you could share it with to help them with theirs.
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Thank you so much for joining me today.
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I m so grateful you re on this journey with me, and I ll see you again tomorrow.
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