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Did you get a haircut?
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I didn t.
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Oh.
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But I want to.
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I want to have your hair.
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Well, I m getting a haircut.
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You are?
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You re getting a haircut this weekend?
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On Friday.
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Do you like your hairdresser?
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Yeah, I love her, but— She s expensive.
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Well, she s a hairstylist, but I just have known her for a long time because of— Oh, so you have a good price.
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It s free.
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It s not.
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I pay her, of course.
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But like, she doesn t really do haircuts.
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Oh.
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She just does because we re friends at this point.
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That s cool.
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You should—
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Start a hairline company.
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I would buy it.
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I would be a cheat and a fraud Because I don t know any let s be okay It s like when JLo is selling her olive oil and look I m not saying she doesn t do that I have no idea and I d like her a lot.
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Have you watched the documentary?
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I did watch the doc
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As a lover of J.Lo, how do you feel?
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I m not, like, an insane lover of J.Lo.
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I m just not, like— This is gonna sound so, like, Pollyanna, and I m not.
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Oh.
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I m really not, but I am, like, done hating on things.
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Oh, okay.
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I just am.
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I m sick of it.
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I don t like this.
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I don t like trying to take people down.
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I know there is a whole thing against her right now.
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It s like no one— No one allows anyone to just, like, be happy.
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I m not for it.
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Okay, you re not jumping on the bandwagon.
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No.
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Even though during the documentary, were there parts where you were like, this is a problem?
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I actually, I mean, I guess I was sort of like half watching to be fair, but no, I was like, that s fine.
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Whatever she s doing is she s doing it.
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I also liked that she was
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in her way telling us she was a love addict.
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I think she is a love addict.
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Right.
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And not that many people admit that or know that about themselves.
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And I think it s more common than we talk about.
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That s true.
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So I liked that.
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It s not harmful.
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We re coming up on an election where there s harm.
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There s a harmful person in the mix.
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So I am super uninterested in just calling everybody else out for no reason.
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So
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you want people to be called out for— —Causing harm.
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—Causing harm, not for just being, like, annoying.
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Exactly.
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Exactly.
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Like, just don t watch it or don t pay attention if you don t like her or you don t like it.
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Like, this Kate Middleton thing.
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I hope people felt like such pieces of shit.
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I m sorry.
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If you were, like, so deeply invested in what s happening with this person you don t know slash her photo shot, whatever, like…
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Okay, I m with you.
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I think that we have to take into consideration the context of the royal family and the deception and the lies and the corruption of that institution.
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Like, we are used to being lied to.
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Who cares?
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Again, I didn t even indulge in Kate Middleton.
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If people don t know, which I actually believe it s possible that some people don t know.
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She was, like, not participating in some events and stuff.
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And so a bunch of theories started popping up, asking, where is Kate?
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What happened to Kate?
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Is she dead?
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Did William cheat on her?
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Is she leaving?
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Like, all these conspiracy theories and all this craziness.
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And then there was a picture that the firm put out.
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It was her with her children, and it was Photoshopped.
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And people were, like, deep diving into the Photoshop.
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Oh my gosh, this is so clearly ridiculous.
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And like, she s definitely dead.
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And then it came out on Friday that she has cancer.
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Like, of course she does.
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Of course there s a reason she s not participating.
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And it s none of anyone s business.
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I m just like, I feel like it s scary to be a public person.
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Okay, I agree.
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I think we agree like 99%.
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I just think the like,
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shaming of people who had theories or sort of expressing concern.
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Publicly.
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Publicly.
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It wasn t concern, Liz.
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It was gossip.
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Yes, but sending a photo that s edited to the AP and like to journalists and claiming that, like, they re not supposed to do that.
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And again, the royal family, it s not like, oh, this is just a random celebrity.
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Like, they re
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figures of state, they do represent something and are expected to take part in certain activities.
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I m not saying everything should have happened the way that it did.
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I think the royal family should have, like, said something earlier.
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Like, it would have been easy for them to just— But she probably didn t want to say anything earlier, and she has that right.
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She has children.
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Young children, like, but you have to you do have to remember that first and foremost, these are real people.
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I don t think even a president, which, by the way, is not the royal family.
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That s more of a position where they re ruling and in charge.
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I don t think they re obligated to immediately upon diagnosis.
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But say something and don t send a photoshopped photo to major news networks.
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Like, I think everyone is at fault.
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Like, I don t think it s just people are crazy and people are unwell.
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Like, there were things that the Royal Family did that, you know, were not helpful.
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Isn t every photo photoshopped though?
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Like, it s cleaned up.
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But it was made.
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They were weird ones, but it was like her pat on her shirt.
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It was a specific picture of her and the kids.
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Was it made?
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I have no idea, obviously, but one of the things, like, the trees were, like, not the color.
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It s like claiming that this photo is recent when it s not.
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It s just stuff like that that you re like, don t do that, you know?
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And I can t imagine what it s like to go through that in that kind of public position.
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But I just think also, come on, it s the royal family.
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Like, of course, we re going to be skeptical of what they say.
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Should he have gone that far?
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No.
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The reason they did do that is because she just wasn t going to things.
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It wasn t that they were putting out a ton of Photoshop things.
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She had a surgery and she was recovering, which they said that clearly she is recovering from a surgery.
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They did try to tell the truth and she wasn t ready to come out publicly and say that she has cancer.
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So they did that out of desperation, and I hope people felt bad.
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I really do.
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Do not make people s lives your specific entertainment unless it s like reality.
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If it s a reality TV show, I think awesome.
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You can talk about it.
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That s a buy-in.
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People are choosing it.
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But like, leave people alone.
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I just think it s gotten really out of hand.
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Well, it s the parasocial.
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I think we need a new name.
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It s past that point.
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It s really that we think we know these people, and we almost spend more time talking about them and talking about our own lives, right?
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Or again, even with this J-Lo thing.
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Entertainment Tonight, I saw this TikTok thing.
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She talks about being from the Bronx a lot, and then there s a part of the documentary that people are poking fun at where she talks about it again.
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Entertainment Tonight took every time she spoke about the Bronx and did a super cut of it.
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after that clip, almost like feeding the sort of commentary that s laughing at her, always talking about being from the Bronx and people from the Bronx being like, we don t know you.
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Like that s the sort of discourse.
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But yes, like people are participating in it and then get views and clicks.
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There s that element too.
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They get attention from coming up with the greatest conspiracy theory about me.
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Well, exactly.
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That s why it s
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predatorial because it s using somebody else for your own gain.
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Yes, it s for clicks, it s for likes, it s for like, what s the funniest thing I can say right now so I get the most attention at this other person s expense.
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It s a problem.
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I mean, I think it s a, I don t know, I just think it s bad.
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And I do think people who are like really happy are not doing it, are not posting and are not taking a bunch of glee in other people s follies.
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Anyway, that s my take on that.
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But I have a more important thing to talk about, which is I learned that Sephora has same-day delivery.
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They do?
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Yeah.
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They ve always had it?
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I don t know if they ve always had it, but they have it now, and it s a problem.
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Oh, what have you done?
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I ve ordered multiple things at multiple times, and I just learned about it on, like, Thursday.
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I kind of have been on a Sephora binge.
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Have you found any new products?
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Should we do a new product wrap-up?
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Actually, sure.
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But also, I have something important to talk about.
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But it s on par with Sephora Same Day.
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I can go into it later, or we can talk about it later.
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Okay, we can put a pin in it.
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What s made you get into Sephora lately?
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Deep dive.
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I kind of came across this video on my feed with this makeup artist that was like, here s how to do the lazy girl.
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Like, I needed that in my life.
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Lazy girl makeup.
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Yes.
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What I have right now.
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It looks great.
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Thank you.
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It s all of her stuff.
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Do you want to shout her out?
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Because I just don t remember her name.
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There s no way I remember her.
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Basically, she said it was all about SPF foundation, whatever that product is that s like— It gives you SPF, but it also is like a moisturizer.
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Oh, you mean like a tinted moisturizer with SPF.
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Yeah, that s right.
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Great.
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Great, great.
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Thank you.
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So I ve tried a lot of different ones, but she recommended this brand.
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Oh my God.
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Oh no.
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This is what s gonna happen.
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It s like purple and cute.
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Tatcha?
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Probably.
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Or Dr. Idris?
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No, I think it was that one you just said.
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Can we Google it?
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Yeah, of course.
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Of course.
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This is important.
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Tatcha s T-A-T-C-H-A.
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Yeah, I think that s it.
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It s like a nice brand.
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Was it expensive?
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It s not that brand actually, but I do love that brand.
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Damn it.
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Is it Dr. Idris?
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No, it s purple.
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It definitely could have a T or a D. Was it Tower 28?
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I think so.
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Yes.
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It s purple?
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Yep.
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Is it this?
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Yes.
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We figured it out.
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Okay, so I got that one and I like it.
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Okay.
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It stays on but it s not too thick.
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It looks really nice.
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It s great.
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And then she talked about doing brows.
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Brows were very important and obviously you know that.
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So she talked about a frozen brow gel.
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Oh sure, Anastasia.
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Again or Anastasia or Anastasia Beverly Hills.
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Yes.
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So I got the Anastasia Beverly Hills brow freezer and she talked about also how like you laminate and then you put anyway she had like a whole little strategy technique and then interesting so I never had
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a brow pencil.
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But she said to, like, fill out— Yeah, what were you doing just leaving it?
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Kind of leaving it like, I don t know.
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I don t know what I was doing, honestly.
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You were going all natural.
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I was going—I guess.
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But now that I m filling them out, it s so much more fun.
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And then she also was like, add a little line with your brow pencil to give yourself, like, a little bit of an eye lift.
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Like, I like those little tips.
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Sure.
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Because I would have never thought about doing that.
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And that s me.
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That s been my latest— Wow.
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You just stumbled upon it on TikTok.
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Or you sought it out.
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No, she came up on my feed and she was just like, here s how to do it.
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There s a wealth of knowledge on TikTok about makeup.
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Yeah.
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It s a really— It s kind of incredible, like, to think about how in the dark I was in my 20s.
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Like, I didn t know what I was doing.
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It was word of mouth.
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Oh, yeah.
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Womp.
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Yeah, that was most things.
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God, the blue eyeshadow days.
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Were you a blue eyeshadower?
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I was a blue— I was a white line eyeliner, which that— yikes.
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Although, sort of recently, I saw a white eyeliner in the waterline that was really nice.
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It was very brightening.
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I don t know if I ve tried it, but I did get the liner.
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I do nude down there, and it s really brightening.
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And that was like a makeup artist that told me to do that, and it makes a diff.
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What d you get into?
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I went down a huge wormhole.
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Hung Van Gogh.
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Do you know Hung Van Gogh?
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Have you heard of him?
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Don t.
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He is a makeup artist here in LA.
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Well, I don t know if he s based here, but I think he is.
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He does like a ton of celebrities for red carpets and photo shoots.
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I don t know if you saw the Oscars.
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You did see the Oscars.
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And Jennifer Lawrence looks so good, right?
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She did.
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And she looks so beautiful.
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She did.
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And she looked like she wasn t wearing makeup.
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And Hung did her makeup.
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Yeah, he does Selena Gomez.
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He does a bunch of people.
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But he has videos on YouTube.
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He does tutorials.
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And every now and then, I ll like remember that he has those and I ll watch them.
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And it s so— It s like my cooking videos.
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I find it so soothing to watch.
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And he always gives the models like a face massage with the moisturizer.
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Ugh, and I want that.
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And he tries different products on different people.
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So I watched so many makeup tutorials yesterday of Hung Van Gogh.
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And then I kept buying stuff because I was like, oh, that looks pretty.
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And I would buy and I don t even know what I did.
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You don t know?
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It was like I was drunk, but I wasn t.
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I was totally sober.
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I ve been there.
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I mean online shopping sometimes.
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I ll all of a sudden.
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It s just my card is I filled up and I just close it I just closed the window cuz I m like I don t know what just happened and then I ll freak out But you didn t you did the right thing and got it.
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Well, we don t know yet and we don t know
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And it s hard to, you know, I couldn t close out the browser because what was happening is I d watch a video and then there d be a product.
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There s this Chanel blush on one of them that looked beautiful.
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And he said, the thing I don t like about Chanel is that they discontinue their products a ton.
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So, like, they re kind of all limited edition.
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I was like, oh, fuck.
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So I, of course, bought it and then I go back to the video and I m watching more and then maybe there s something at the very end and I m like, oh, I want that.
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So then I ll go somewhere else and buy that.
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So I just don t know what I ve done yet, you know, because it was like all day long.
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It was just random at different times.
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Like I bought this perfume.
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It smelled unscented.
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Yeah.
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Inside Unseen.
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Wait, did he talk about it or did you?
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Yeah.
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Oh, wow.
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But I trust him.
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Like, I don t even know this guy, but just based on what you ve told me— No, he s very trusted.
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Yeah.
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Perfume is tricky because, like, everyone has different tastes, but it was like a blind trust.
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Oh, no.
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I have never regretted.
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Me either.
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Like, come on.
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But sometimes you will go and you will leave $300.
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Yes.
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Poorer.
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Poorer, yeah.
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It happens quickly.
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Okay.
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So one thing I bought, this is bad.
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One thing I bought were these Shiseido cotton pads, basically.
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That s ridiculous, right?
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Because they re expensive and they re basically cotton pads.
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They re just like a little nicer.
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They do feel really nice on the skin.
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But I thought I was buying
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single-use—this is really bad—single-use towels, basically, for my face.
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And I was never going to tell anyone in the whole world that I was buying that because it s like so bad for the environment.
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But then it wasn t that.
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It was just these cotton pads.
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And I was like, ugh.
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So I am
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I m looking for single-use towels.
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And the thing is, I m doing it.
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I know it s bad for the environment, but I need that to keep my skin clean because it s very volatile, and it s been very volatile for the past couple months.
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I feel like I m coming out of it, and I do think it was related to egg freezing.
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Totally.
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hormones.
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Same thing happened after the last freezing.
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There is this six-month period-ish of fine.
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And then I had a crazy couple months of major hormonal cystic acne flare-up.
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And so the timing is adding up after my last retrieval for it to be the same thing.
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So I do think it s that.
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I think I m coming out of it.
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But still, I m so paranoid, you know, using all these fucking products and doing all this stuff.
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And I need the clean towels.
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But what is a single-use towel?
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Is it like— It s kind of like a nice paper towel, essentially.
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Single-use.
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So there s like a box.
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Okay, got it.
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So then when you re drying your face or like patting it dry, you re not reusing your towel.
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I also heard recently that you re not supposed to use a towel on your face.
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Also on TikTok, which might be a lie.
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But that it s too rough for your face.
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Well, you re supposed to pat— Do you pat dry or do you smash?
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No, I definitely smash.
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Liz, yeah, you re not supposed to smash.
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You re supposed to pat dry.
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And if you don t have very temperamental skin, which I don t feel like you do, you have beautiful, wonderful, pretty consistently even skin, you re fine with a towel.
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And I m probably fine with a towel too, but right now I feel like I need it.
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And then I also remembered that I drink out of plastic water bottles pretty much all the time.
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So then I wanted to ask you, what are the, like, those are the two things that are sending me to hell.
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Oh.
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Well, not really.
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Okay, so as your friend, I m always going to defend you to the end of the world.
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I know.
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Eating meat, which you do.
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I eat meat.
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Okay, it s not—you don t—
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You only eat it sometimes.
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You only eat half the chicken when you make it.
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So you waste it, which is even worse.
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No, but you don t travel a lot.
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You don t go on private jets.
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I don t.
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Okay.
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You know, you could be doing far worse things.
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Look, I m more worried about your health drinking out of plastic bottles.
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Oh, no, but I use Zen.
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It s a specific water brand and it doesn t have plastic leaching.
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SPEAKER_00
It doesn t have plastic, but still, could you get like a water?
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Yes, of course.
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I could get anything.
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I have so many reusable water bottles and I won t drink water.
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out of them.
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Yeah.
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Because... It s just like not happening.
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Have you tried?
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Yes.
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Over so many years.
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Okay.
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And then I also like, then I feel guilty and then I ll try again and then no water.
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Drink.
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Okay.
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All day.
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Mentally, for me, it makes such a big difference in my water intake.
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Oh, one other thing.
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I hate, like, carrying around the huge fucking things of water.
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Like, Molly has this huge water bottle.
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Oh, I know, but that s not sustainable.
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And where do you put it?
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Then it s like you walking around with it.
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It doesn t fit in my purse.
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What if we found you a tumbler that you really like, that s very stylish?
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I also feel like there s definitely mold in these.
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Even when you wash them really well, if you smell them later, they smell.
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And I use like a copper sponge.
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I don t trust it.
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But out of my coffee— Yes, you always have a mug.
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I do.
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I use mugs.
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I don t use plastic cups for my tea.
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But I don t like using the top because I think that s where a lot of like the moisture gets trapped and the germs happen.
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So I just like carry it in this cup.
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But don t the germs get in then if it s just open?
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Doesn t that also— Well, no, that s just like drinking out of a mug.
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But it s like an open-air container.
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If you re just concerned with
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I m not concerned with germs as much as mold, the weird growths that happen.
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Your feeling about tumblers is how I feel about bottles of water.
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Like plastic, there s like a physical aversion to it.
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Well, that s good.
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But that s what we could build for you.
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What if we like found some data that show that the plastic does something to your brain because you re afraid of brain cancer?
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I am, but okay, if it was like there s a direct and 100% causation.
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It can t be a correlation.
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Okay.
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I might.
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I ve looked into this.
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Like, it s not—
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Or it doesn t necessarily have to be like, it could be liquid death, which is a can, or it could be box water, which is paper.
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I just won t use a reusable.
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It s single use.
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And so the single use issue is going to like, you know, it s going to send me to hell.
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And look, I guess I m going to be fine with that.
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Well, a lot of people are going to be there too.
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All my friends are going to be there.
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Oh, that s such a good question.
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What do you do?
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Like, things like this that are very problematic, you know they re problematic, you know you re not supposed to do it, but you do it.
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Do you leave the water on when you brush your teeth?
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I do.
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I do too.
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Because it makes me feel like it ll end quicker.
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Me too!
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Me too, me too.
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I m like, come on!
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I anticipated ending because I have an electric, but then it like keeps going and I m watching the water.
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I m like, but it s over, it s over, it s over, and then it s not.
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I need the temp to get warm for then my face wash, so it s like the time I use for it to get warm, but I m sure it s too long.
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We re so lucky.
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I mean, I have a fireplace in my room.
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It s an electric one, and I use it in the summer.
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I put my hotel room at 80, and I don t put it down when I leave because I don t want it to be cold when I come back.
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Like, that s not good.
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That s going in my file.
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Well, I guess it s true.
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We are supposed to, like, energy save.
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It s very bad.
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My dad definitely thinks I m going to hell for that.
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I know.
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But dads are like— Yeah.
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That s too conservative about it.
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Do you think that if you re a single mom, like, you take on that role?
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Like, you re always monitoring the temperature, like, just to take it on because there s no dad to do it?
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Yeah, I think so.
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Okay.
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I mean—
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You have so much on your plate as a single mom.
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Maybe you just say, fuck it.
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But also as a single mom, you re paying for everything on your own.
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So the waste— Ew, what is on my pants?
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SPEAKER_00
There was mud out there.
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I kind of almost— Is that mud?
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Probably.
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It splashed, I guess.
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Oh, yeah, there s mud all over my shoes.
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The fuck?
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No, there was like muddy.
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I didn t, I don t know.
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Did it rain?
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I don t know why there was rain yesterday.
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It did.
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Anywho, so that s it.
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No, there s stuff.
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Say it.
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I feel like this is bad.
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In my 20s, I wasn t a homewrecker, but there were situations that I was in that I regret.
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Sure, sure, sure.
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It s dark.
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Because it gave me such a bad outlook on marriage, too.
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I was like, married guys are dicks.
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Pigs.
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Pigs, because they all want to fuck.
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Yeah.
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Not all, obviously, but like so many of them.
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On a dime, you re like, wow.
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And so I regret just being like a weird participant in that.
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I think I m going to hell for that, for sure.
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Now, let s turn the tables.
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I think that s like something to learn from, obviously, in life.
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But I don t think you re going to hell for that.
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I think that s a very human learning lesson.
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Not for everyone.
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Not everyone has to learn it.
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But a lot of people do of like, this approval feels really good.
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And it feels really good because it s like, well, if they like me and they really shouldn t like me, I must be so likable and lovable.
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Right.
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That s a good point.
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You only need that if you feel so lacking in that.
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And there was an element where, like, it was also perfect for me because I was like, I m just this thing you can t have.
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And like this, this, like, thing of desire.
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And I don t have to, like, hear about your problems with your mom and see you take out the guard.
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Like, it was a very—it allowed me to kind of avoid intimacy.
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I didn t do it, like,
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But I did it more than I feel proud of, or I feel proud for zero of it.
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But just allowed even flirtations to go, right?
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Like even if nothing happened.
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Like, ew, that s low quality.
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Liz, we do things in our 20s that are dumb.
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What s the dumbest thing you did in your 20s?
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That s such a broad question.
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I was in college.
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We did so much crazy stuff.
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I don t know, other than like the usual, just like drinking a ton and driving, I m sure.
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Although I actually think when I was in my 20s, I was much more cautious of those types of things than I am now, which is weird.
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Drinking and driving was instilled as the worst thing.
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So when I was early into my drinking days, and because it was always binge drinking, so there was no option to drive.
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Or I guess some people did, but it wasn t like, oh, maybe I can swing it because we re so drunk.
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Now, there s a weirder fine line where it s like, well, how many drinks before I m drunk, or not even drunk, but before I m even crossing a legal limit, I don t know.
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I do want to test that, actually.
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I want to get a breathalyzer and see how many glasses of wine before I am past the legal limits.
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I don t know that about myself.
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And you re so little.
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I am little, but I have a high tolerance.
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It s true.
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I ve never seen you— Wait, this is cra— I ve never seen you drunk, actually.
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Really?
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I ve never seen you drunk.
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I ve seen you, like, loosen up.
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Yeah, and happy.
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But I ve never seen you drunk.
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Even on your birthday, you weren t drunk.
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What do you qualify as drunk?
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Like, sloppy?
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It reaches, like, a limit.
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Like, you re just being goofy.
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I feel like I ve never seen you, like, goofy, silly drunk.
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Or maybe I was drunk, too, but I don t remember.
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No.
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We ve never gotten drunk.
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Yeah, I ve never seen you drunk, but you stopped drinking, like, quickly.
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I know.
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I know.
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I ruined it for you.
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When have we drank together?
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Well, we would drink a lot with dinners and stuff like that.
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We would go for wine.
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Oh, yeah.
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When I was drinking, we would— I was like, when I m with Monica, I m drinking so much.
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We would drink but for me like two or three glasses is a lot because I ll feel it the next day I feel like you never even when we when you were drinking you never like really drank more than one I would try and keep it to one or two.
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Yeah, but
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I would often drink more than one because I was with you.
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No, but like, it was fun.
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I feel bad.
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Don t.
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Maybe this will send me to hell.
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But this is actually— It won t because I think people are making their own decisions.
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Yes, of course, dude.
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We had this running gag of like, when I would look at my bank, I knew when I was shopping.
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Because I would just be like, oh my God, all this funny I m spending.
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But again, like, it would be so fun and I would love the time we spend together.
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I think we should get drunk together.
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I think you should know I m pretty fun.
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I think we should do it.
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Well, you tell me.
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You re the one who s not drinking.
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I drink pretty regularly.
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So this is really on you.
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How many drinks does it take to be drunk?
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I think it depends on the alcohol, and it depends on how long I ve abstained.
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Okay.
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I m trying to think the last time.
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I mean, like, I ve been drunk with Ana and Jess many times.
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Like, when we go to Foreman s and play poker, and then we go to Don Cucco s and have burrito, like, it s a whole thing.
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I m definitely drunk by the end of that often.
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And do you ever get, like, impulses to do things, like, when you re drunk?
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Like, do you ever, like, impulses to do bad things?
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No.
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Like what?
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Like jump in a hole?
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Like what?
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Text someone you re not— Or, you know, say something that has been on your mind and then it comes out.
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I actually do think when I am drinking, I think I ve hurt people s feelings.
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Well, I know I have.
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Like, one time... Yeah, one time was a full disaster.
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Not that long ago, actually.
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Well, it wasn t a full disaster, but it was... I just said my truth.
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That s usually not a good thing.
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SPEAKER_00
Yes, it is, though.
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It is.
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It is a good thing.
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This person was also drunk.
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That s the thing.
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Everyone s drunk, and everyone s drunk in a different way.
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If I m in, like, I m gonna share my truth, and they are in a, like, emotional headspace, it s not a good match.
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But there were other people there that validated my thought.
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What did you say?
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What did you do?
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Oh, God.
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Okay.
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So bad.
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And it s extra bad because I don t feel that bad about it.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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It was somebody s birthday.
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Me telling the story is complex because there s a huge history.
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Got it.
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There was an ask of me that I felt was too much, and it wasn t too much, but it was a part of this history we have where it was building for me already, where I felt like the asks were becoming too much in general, and that there was a little bit of a, I felt a little bit of an,
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entitlement around me and what I was giving.
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So then I like snapped in that moment because when you re drunk, you can t really control yourself.
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And so that s how it happened.
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And then they cried and a couple other people were there and they were also kind of
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Oh, amongst themselves?
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SPEAKER_00
Yes.
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And so the whole, like, it was a bit of a disaster.
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SPEAKER_01
Wow.
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It was like an eight-year-old s birthday party.
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SPEAKER_01
It was.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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And Ori, ew.
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SPEAKER_00
There s a dingleberry on here.
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SPEAKER_00
What?
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SPEAKER_00
On the mic.
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SPEAKER_00
Why is there dirt everywhere?
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SPEAKER_00
I don t understand.
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SPEAKER_00
Sick.
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SPEAKER_01
So close to that dingleberry for itself.
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SPEAKER_00
Ew, why didn t you tell me?
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SPEAKER_00
I can t see that.
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What?
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Not dingleberries.
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SPEAKER_00
I don t tell people when they have something in their teeth or on their face or I don t.
3
SPEAKER_00
Monica.
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SPEAKER_00
I just look down.
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SPEAKER_00
If you see me looking down, there s probably something going on with your face.
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SPEAKER_01
You wouldn t tell me if I have, like, a green.
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SPEAKER_01
I want to, but I can t.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01
I say it one out of four times.
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If there are other people around, the responsibility is completely diffused.
3
SPEAKER_01
Yeah, it s not on you.
3
SPEAKER_01
Okay, if I m about to go somewhere and I have something green, would you tell me?
3
SPEAKER_01
Oh.
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SPEAKER_00
Monica!
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SPEAKER_00
I hope, I hope.
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SPEAKER_00
I don t want to promise you because I m just not so sure.
3
SPEAKER_00
If I was going on a date, you have to.
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SPEAKER_00
Okay, I would.
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SPEAKER_00
If you were going on a date, I m pretty sure I would.
3
SPEAKER_01
Okay, what if I had like period blood on my pants?
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SPEAKER_01
Going on a date or regs?
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SPEAKER_00
Regs.
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SPEAKER_01
I probably wouldn t say.
3
SPEAKER_01
Monica!
3
What?!
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SPEAKER_01
I know, I don t know what it is.
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SPEAKER_01
Dude, that s like a feminism faux pas.
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SPEAKER_01
You have to tell any woman, even if your arch enemy has period blood.
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SPEAKER_00
My nemesis.
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SPEAKER_00
I m never telling my nemesis.
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SPEAKER_00
I m just kidding.
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SPEAKER_00
You must.
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SPEAKER_00
That ll get you straight to hell.
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SPEAKER_00
I know.
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SPEAKER_00
You know what?
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SPEAKER_00
This is horrible.
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SPEAKER_00
I m probably more likely to tell a stranger.
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SPEAKER_01
Interesting.
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SPEAKER_00
Or a nemesis.
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SPEAKER_00
I think there s something about like, I can t have you feel embarrassed right now.
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SPEAKER_00
I get that.
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SPEAKER_00
And I don t think people feel that embarrassed around strangers.
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SPEAKER_00
You feel more embarrassed around people you know.
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SPEAKER_00
Interesting.
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SPEAKER_00
What if it s a family member?
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SPEAKER_00
Like if it s my dad and he has food in his teeth, yeah, I ll tell him.
3
SPEAKER_00
Okay.
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SPEAKER_00
So it s just the friend zone.
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SPEAKER_00
I guess.
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SPEAKER_00
Wow.
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SPEAKER_00
I m sorry.
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SPEAKER_00
Maybe I would.
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SPEAKER_00
Maybe I would.
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SPEAKER_00
Maybe I would.
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SPEAKER_00
I ve never been in that position, so I don t know.
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SPEAKER_00
Maybe I would.
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SPEAKER_00
How would you say it?
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SPEAKER_00
Let s roleplay.
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SPEAKER_00
It s me who has it.
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SPEAKER_00
Okay.
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SPEAKER_01
Monica, you have period.
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SPEAKER_01
I would— There would be no— You would say it like that?
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SPEAKER_01
I would be like— I would— Because it s also— Yeah, you want to get it— You want to get it— We need to have you changed right away.
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SPEAKER_01
We gotta find you pants.
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SPEAKER_01
We re gonna figure this out.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01
But it s like, we got a situation.
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SPEAKER_01
Would you say period blood?
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SPEAKER_01
You would say it like that?
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SPEAKER_01
Well, if it s— I would say like— If it s obvious?
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SPEAKER_01
There s blood on your pants.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh, that s better.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, there s blood on your pants.
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SPEAKER_00
Because it could belong to murder.
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SPEAKER_00
Or murder.
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SPEAKER_00
And then I say, okay, I guess I should tell you.
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SPEAKER_01
So you would tell me in a murder situation, you don t want to tell me about blood on my pants.
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SPEAKER_00
No, I think I would.
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SPEAKER_01
I think you would.
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SPEAKER_00
I think I would, but I am being very honest with you.
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SPEAKER_00
I won t about the food.
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SPEAKER_00
Unless you re going on a date, I guess that s like a different scenario.
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SPEAKER_00
I ve never been in that position.
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SPEAKER_00
Right.
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SPEAKER_00
Okay.
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SPEAKER_00
Tell me.
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SPEAKER_00
I feel scared to say it.
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SPEAKER_00
Say it.
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SPEAKER_00
But I was in a situation sort of recently that s been haunting me where I was with a friend and...
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SPEAKER_00
I feel like I can t say it.
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SPEAKER_01
You have to.
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SPEAKER_01
You did your laugh face that s like, I know this is gonna be so good.
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SPEAKER_01
You re gonna start crying.
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SPEAKER_00
It s really bad.
3
SPEAKER_00
Okay.
3
SPEAKER_00
I was with a friend and they were a little sick.
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SPEAKER_00
No, don t take pictures of this.
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SPEAKER_00
And this person coughed.
3
Oh my god.
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SPEAKER_00
They, like, turned to cough.
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SPEAKER_00
It s like with the V8.
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SPEAKER_00
There s no reason to be laughing at that.
3
SPEAKER_01
Monica s crying right now.
3
SPEAKER_00
Okay, so when they turned back around, they had, like... Oh, no!
3
SPEAKER_00
Oh, no!
3
SPEAKER_00
Oh, no!
3
SPEAKER_00
Oh, no!
3
SPEAKER_00
Oh, no!
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SPEAKER_00
You didn t tell me!
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SPEAKER_00
Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
3
SPEAKER_00
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
3
SPEAKER_00
Okay, they had something on their face.
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SPEAKER_00
Like phlegmy phlegm.
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SPEAKER_00
On their face.
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SPEAKER_00
But also, we were eating, so I didn t know if it was phlegm or if there was just like food.
3
Oh my god.
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SPEAKER_00
It s Thomas.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh my god!
3
SPEAKER_00
It could have been Thomas.
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SPEAKER_00
No!
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SPEAKER_00
Anyway... I didn t know.
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SPEAKER_00
I didn t know.
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SPEAKER_00
But I just went to the bathroom.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh, that s helpful.
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SPEAKER_00
Yes, because it was helpful.
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SPEAKER_00
You know why?
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SPEAKER_00
Because I went to the bathroom.
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SPEAKER_00
When I came back, gone.
3
SPEAKER_00
Wow.
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SPEAKER_00
I think that was the best thing to do because that person can go on in life thinking maybe I just didn t see it.
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SPEAKER_00
No one ever knew.
3
SPEAKER_00
And that they themselves caught it before anyone saw.
3
SPEAKER_00
But okay, what has this been on to you?
3
SPEAKER_00
It really has.
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SPEAKER_00
Because I keep thinking about it.
3
SPEAKER_00
Like, I get like— I have like PTSD from it.
3
SPEAKER_00
Yeah, war flashbacks?
3
SPEAKER_00
Yes.
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SPEAKER_00
I ll get like a flash of their face with the thing on it.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh my god.
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SPEAKER_00
I know I should have said something, I think.
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SPEAKER_00
So it is haunting me.
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SPEAKER_00
It seems like it ended well.
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SPEAKER_00
It didn t, but like, was it the right move?
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SPEAKER_00
I don t know.
3
SPEAKER_00
Okay, where was the phlegm?
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SPEAKER_00
It was on their face.
3
SPEAKER_01
Like on the cheek or something?
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01
Like right in the middle.
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SPEAKER_01
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01
Oh, that s really embarrassing.
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SPEAKER_01
It is.
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SPEAKER_01
It s so embarrassing.
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SPEAKER_01
Like, I couldn t— I—
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SPEAKER_00
I couldn t handle that.
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SPEAKER_00
It was just like, I gotta escape this right now.
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SPEAKER_00
Right, right, right, right.
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SPEAKER_00
Okay, this is what I would do.
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SPEAKER_00
I would grab a Kleenex or like a napkin.
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SPEAKER_00
I d be like, oh, you have a little something.
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SPEAKER_00
That s the move.
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SPEAKER_00
You have a little something here means you have a booger like in the middle of your face.
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SPEAKER_00
Because if it was hummus, I would say, oh, you have hummus.
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SPEAKER_00
But if someone says, you got a little something here and they do it, that means there s something embarrassing happening.
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SPEAKER_00
It s like a euphemism.
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SPEAKER_01
Okay.
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SPEAKER_01
But then are you just handing them a tissue?
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SPEAKER_00
You could do that.
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SPEAKER_00
You could be like, oh, you have a little something.
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SPEAKER_00
But I would probably just wipe it.
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SPEAKER_00
That you would?
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SPEAKER_00
Unless it s like a work dinner or like a work lunch.
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SPEAKER_00
If it was you, I d just start laughing.
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SPEAKER_00
No.
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SPEAKER_00
It s so funny.
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SPEAKER_01
You have a booger on your face.
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SPEAKER_01
No.
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SPEAKER_01
See, this is why I m going to Helen and why it s hypocritical.
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SPEAKER_01
Because I, of course, I m like, you better fucking tell me immediately.
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SPEAKER_01
We re not friends if you don t.
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SPEAKER_01
So I understand being on the receiving end and feeling like you ve got to, but I don t know what happens in the moment.
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SPEAKER_01
I feel paralyzed.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, I get it.
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SPEAKER_00
That s why I asked about your parents, because I feel like that was a big trigger for you of being embarrassed.
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SPEAKER_00
And so it s probably that.
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SPEAKER_00
But you don t have it with your parents because you re close, but maybe there s remnants of that feeling.
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SPEAKER_01
Maybe.
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SPEAKER_01
And I hate embarrassment so much.
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SPEAKER_00
Yes, you do.
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SPEAKER_01
So maybe I m projecting it.
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SPEAKER_00
Well, you re feeling embarrassed because— I m secondhand embarrassed.
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SPEAKER_00
You re secondhand embarrassed, and you are now part of the phlegm-like situation.
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SPEAKER_00
Because it s a two— Again, if there s more people at the table, you can diffuse responsibility, like, okay, someone else is going to tell her.
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SPEAKER_00
But you in that situation, it s on you.
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SPEAKER_00
The phlegm is on me.
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SPEAKER_00
You ve been involved.
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SPEAKER_00
I mean, you re an accomplice.
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SPEAKER_00
You re implicated.
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SPEAKER_00
You re an implicated agent.
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SPEAKER_00
And so you are put in the situation where you re like, neither option is good, right?
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SPEAKER_00
You re either sitting there while they have the phlegm on their face.
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SPEAKER_00
I know.
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SPEAKER_00
That s why you go away.
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SPEAKER_00
But what if you had come back and it was still there?
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SPEAKER_00
I know.
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SPEAKER_01
Well, I was so worried about that.
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SPEAKER_01
I was like, what am I going to do if it s still there?
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SPEAKER_01
And if it was still there, I think I would have had
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SPEAKER_01
to say something, but it was like probably a full minute before I went to the bathroom.
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SPEAKER_01
There was time where it was a sitting on the face.
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SPEAKER_01
Oh my god.
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SPEAKER_01
And I thought maybe they ll figure it out and they weren t, so then I had to go to the bathroom.
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SPEAKER_00
That s why, like, I get so stressed with swimming with people.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh, because boogers?
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SPEAKER_00
Because there s booger— Or, like, it ll happen to you and you don t know it.
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SPEAKER_00
I know.
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SPEAKER_00
I know.
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SPEAKER_01
At Synchronized Swimming, did you guys just have boogers everywhere?
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SPEAKER_00
We had nose clips at all times, which honestly probably helped.
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SPEAKER_00
How d you breathe?
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SPEAKER_00
You don t.
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SPEAKER_00
That s why it s crazy.
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SPEAKER_00
Wait, what?
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SPEAKER_00
You didn t know this?
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SPEAKER_00
No.
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SPEAKER_00
That s the whole sport.
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SPEAKER_00
You go underwater, you re not breathing, you come up, you breathe with your mouth, but you re not breathing with your nose.
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SPEAKER_01
At all underwater?
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SPEAKER_01
No.
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SPEAKER_01
How did you think we breathe underwater?
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SPEAKER_01
You do breathe underwater.
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SPEAKER_01
Normally, when you swim, you breathe out your nose until you need more air.
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SPEAKER_01
Breathe out, but not breathe in.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, breathe out.
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SPEAKER_00
Okay, yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_00
You breathe out with your mouth if you want.
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SPEAKER_00
With your mouth?
4
SPEAKER_00
How?
4
SPEAKER_00
Like bubbles, but you don t really.
4
SPEAKER_00
You re not really breathing out because you re fucking...
4
SPEAKER_00
Oh my God.
4
SPEAKER_00
How long can you hold your breath?
4
SPEAKER_00
Kind of a long time.
4
SPEAKER_00
Wow.
4
SPEAKER_00
But it used to be way better.
4
SPEAKER_00
Wow.
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SPEAKER_00
That s cool.
4
SPEAKER_00
We could do it together.
4
SPEAKER_00
No.
4
SPEAKER_00
Okay, wait.
4
SPEAKER_00
Before we go into questions, my pen.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh, your pen.
4
SPEAKER_00
Oh my God.
4
SPEAKER_00
I m so sorry.
4
SPEAKER_00
No.
4
SPEAKER_00
There s been a lot to cover.
4
SPEAKER_00
So my dad discovered a new relative.
4
SPEAKER_00
That s my dad s favorite hobby in his retirement is discovering relatives.
4
SPEAKER_00
What?
4
SPEAKER_00
From history?
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SPEAKER_00
From history.
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SPEAKER_00
This is all he does all day.
4
SPEAKER_00
It s crazy.
4
SPEAKER_00
We laugh at him, like, I talk to dead people, like, that s my dad.
4
SPEAKER_00
He s just, like, constantly talking to dead people and interacting and discovering them and learning about them.
4
SPEAKER_00
And there s a new relative, and her name is Monica, and she is a therapist who lives in London.
4
SPEAKER_00
She s divorced, which could be aspirational for you.
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SPEAKER_01
Oh, God.
4
SPEAKER_01
Is this my future?
4
SPEAKER_01
Is this another rip in the time-space continuum?
4
SPEAKER_01
I do feel it s
4
SPEAKER_00
weird.
4
SPEAKER_00
It s Monika because it s like the Hungarian way.
4
SPEAKER_00
My dad was like, it s Monika.
4
SPEAKER_00
Like he like said it and me and my sister were just laughing.
4
SPEAKER_00
We re like, it s Monika.
4
SPEAKER_00
Like, it s so funny.
4
SPEAKER_00
Like, you re not acknowledging how funny this is.
4
SPEAKER_00
How do you spell it?
4
SPEAKER_00
That s a good question.
4
SPEAKER_00
Oh my God, 11-11.
4
SPEAKER_00
Stop.
4
SPEAKER_00
And my texts, three, three, three, three.
4
SPEAKER_00
What is happening?
4
SPEAKER_00
Monica with a K, Baconi, and her mother, Irene Elisabeth Plank.
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SPEAKER_00
Elisabeth is Elizabeth.
4
SPEAKER_00
Oh!
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SPEAKER_00
Is she dead?
4
SPEAKER_00
Monica s alive.
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SPEAKER_00
Her mom is dead.
4
SPEAKER_00
Elisabeth is dead.
4
SPEAKER_01
Oh, no.
4
SPEAKER_00
It s all good.
4
SPEAKER_00
Okay, so she s a therapist.
4
SPEAKER_00
Is your dad reaching out?
4
SPEAKER_00
Of course he is.
4
SPEAKER_00
That s all he wants at night.
4
SPEAKER_00
Really?
4
SPEAKER_00
Writing emails back and forth of Monica.
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SPEAKER_00
And that s all I know so far.
4
SPEAKER_00
It s very new.
4
SPEAKER_01
Oh, my God.
4
SPEAKER_01
So do we think we re going to learn about my future based on her?
4
SPEAKER_00
For sure.
4
SPEAKER_00
I think there s going to be a lot of information coming through this channel.
4
SPEAKER_01
This is so simp because Callie had a dream a couple nights ago that I ended up with a British person.
4
SPEAKER_01
What?
4
SPEAKER_01
For real.
4
SPEAKER_00
No.
4
SPEAKER_01
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01
Wait, I love this.
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SPEAKER_01
I know, but I, you know, I notoriously, I love London.
4
SPEAKER_01
It s one of my favorite cities, but a lot of Americans are obsessed with British accents.
4
SPEAKER_01
It s true.
4
SPEAKER_01
A lot of American women are obsessed with male British accents.
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SPEAKER_01
I mean, of course.
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SPEAKER_00
Like, immediately attracted to.
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SPEAKER_00
Immediately.
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SPEAKER_01
Not me.
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SPEAKER_01
I don t have that.
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SPEAKER_01
It s not my thing, normally.
4
SPEAKER_01
I told her, you know, that s not likely for me.
4
SPEAKER_01
And she was like, I know, but it s gonna happen.
4
SPEAKER_01
Wow.
4
SPEAKER_01
Then I thought maybe they were born in London but moved to America.
4
SPEAKER_00
I feel like that s what s going to happen for you.
4
SPEAKER_00
That d be cool.
4
SPEAKER_00
That makes a lot of sense.
4
SPEAKER_01
But then we move to London together for like a fun country home, and then we get divorced and I become a therapist?
4
SPEAKER_01
Yes.
4
SPEAKER_00
I mean, would that be that bad?
4
SPEAKER_00
That sounds cool.
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SPEAKER_00
It sounds pretty great.
4
SPEAKER_00
Or maybe it s not your future.
4
SPEAKER_00
Maybe this is who you could have been.
4
SPEAKER_00
Or another me.
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SPEAKER_00
Another life, yeah.
4
SPEAKER_01
Just like the girl in the Indian restaurant.
4
SPEAKER_01
She s also you.
4
SPEAKER_01
Wow, that s so special.
4
SPEAKER_00
I want to know more about her.
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SPEAKER_00
I ll find out everything.
4
SPEAKER_00
This is my dad s entire love language, and I never care, but now I m infested.
4
SPEAKER_01
And in this other, are you my mom?
4
SPEAKER_00
Yeah, that s a weird one.
4
SPEAKER_00
Why is your mom Elizabeth?
4
SPEAKER_00
I don t think that s our relationship.
4
SPEAKER_00
No, at all.
4
SPEAKER_00
I think it s the other way around.
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SPEAKER_00
I don t think anyone s the mom.
4
SPEAKER_00
I don t either.
4
SPEAKER_00
But you re definitely the bigger sister.
4
SPEAKER_00
Even though you re younger.
4
SPEAKER_00
Oh, right.
4
SPEAKER_00
I think that s right.
4
SPEAKER_00
I m glad we don t have them.
4
SPEAKER_00
That s a dynamic that I feel like I ve been in and it s creepy.
4
SPEAKER_00
It s bad.
4
SPEAKER_00
Yeah.
4
SPEAKER_00
And even with boyfriends, one of my ex-boyfriends was like, okay, this is getting dad territory.
4
SPEAKER_00
So I m glad we don t have that.
4
SPEAKER_01
It starts to feel unequal in a way.
4
SPEAKER_00
There s a power dynamic.
4
SPEAKER_00
There s a person that s in charge, you know, there s a person that s, that s
4
SPEAKER_01
Calling all the shots.
4
SPEAKER_00
Calling and de facto is the authority a little bit.
4
SPEAKER_00
Yeah.
4
SPEAKER_00
Oh, that s interesting.
4
SPEAKER_00
You know, but I think I indulged in I m the kid too.
4
SPEAKER_01
Everyone played their part.
4
SPEAKER_00
Exactly.
4
SPEAKER_01
I think I liked that.
4
SPEAKER_01
I ve had that too.
4
SPEAKER_01
You have?
4
SPEAKER_01
It can be
4
SPEAKER_01
Also, I think the times where it s not great is when you break the paradigm.
4
SPEAKER_01
When you re the kid, but then in a situation you re like, well, not a kid, like you break it, you become real life.
4
SPEAKER_01
That s hard for the dynamic and that s hard for the other person.
4
SPEAKER_00
It is.
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SPEAKER_00
And when that happened with me, explosion and mom is mad.
4
SPEAKER_00
I did something bad.
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SPEAKER_00
But thankfully, I think when I saw it, I mean, it took me a while, but I got out of it.
4
SPEAKER_00
I look out for it.
4
SPEAKER_00
When I m playing that part, I m like, why am I— Yeah, what s happening?
4
SPEAKER_00
I ll just notice it.
4
SPEAKER_01
I do think because you are so nice, you defer a lot to people.
4
SPEAKER_01
Sure.
4
SPEAKER_01
So I would see that being a common trap for you.
4
SPEAKER_00
Interesting.
4
SPEAKER_01
Because you often give people, not power.
4
SPEAKER_01
I mean, I do think sometimes you give people power, but you re just easygoing.
4
SPEAKER_01
I think you just defer a lot.
4
SPEAKER_00
Yes, that s true.
4
SPEAKER_01
It s a great quality, honestly.
4
SPEAKER_01
You re very, like at your birthday dinner, someone said, you lift everyone up around you.
4
SPEAKER_01
That s very true.
4
SPEAKER_01
Like you re kind of constantly trying to lift people up, which is so lovely.
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But then I don t know that you necessarily get all that back because that s not everyone s MO.
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Sure.
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But you deserve to get it back.
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Thank you.
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But I hope I don t expect it back.
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I m not like doing it so that I get all this validation.
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It doesn t feel like a transaction.
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Like it doesn t feel like you re saying it in order to hear something.
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But you might be doing it as what you think is your, like, value add.
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That s true.
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Even though it s not.
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Thank you.
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And again, I think it attracts a certain personality.
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People who like to feel... Elevated.
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Yeah, elevated.
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And I ll probably be a good foil to that at the beginning, at least.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Okay, well, we got to do questions and we don t have much time.
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For usual.
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Oh my god, the booger stories.
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I m gonna think about it tonight.
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Oh my god, I feel like I just like laughed and like snotted.
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No, you didn t.
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Oh my god, do you see it?
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I would tell you and you don t.
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Okay, let s try this.
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Is the best sex of my life worth forcing a relationship with?
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This is from Anonymous.
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Hey, ladies, I ve been casually seeing this man for just less than a year now, and it is truly by far the best sex I ve had in my life.
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Not only is it satisfying in a way I ve never experienced, but I have some sexual relationship trauma that makes it really difficult for me to feel this level of trust with the man.
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Basically, it s so good that I m afraid to lose it, and because we re essentially just fuck buddies, he could meet someone else tomorrow.
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He s also perfect on paper, gorgeous, amazing body, med student, soon to be doctor, kind, hardworking,
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silly, and we re both children of Asian immigrants, which is just exciting for the parents, lol, but also we share a culture.
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Unfortunately, we just don t click in regular conversation.
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It s almost awkward before we have sex, but then the sex is amazing, and then the vibes after sex is great.
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On top of that, I don t feel ready to get back into a relationship quite yet, but I do feel myself catching some feels.
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Do I try to make this work or do I chill?
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This is mixed messages.
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Yeah, because the vibes are good after but not before.
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It s not like the vibes are off, period.
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And he sounds so great.
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But look, it doesn t matter on paper.
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That s true.
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As we ve learned many times.
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It s not just that they seem great.
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They are great.
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But if it doesn t click, unfortunately, it s not a match.
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It s frustrating, but you have to listen to how you feel.
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Okay, here s what I ll say.
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I think don t force a relationship just because he s like right on paper and the sex is good, but keep hanging out with him and having sex with him.
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See if that changes.
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And if he does get in a relationship, what I would do immediately is like, oh fuck, he was perfect for me.
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He was my person.
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He was the one and I fucked it up.
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And that s not true.
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You have to remember this, that like you guys didn t,
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talk well together.
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Talking is the whole relationship.
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A marriage is a 40-year conversation, right?
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Like, it s just— I would do the same thing, and I ve done it, and it s— You can kind of gaslight yourself, but it s not true.
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And also, if the sex is that good, and you re not like, you know what I mean?
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Right, right.
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Then you re really not into— Because that should be filling up a lot of the condom.
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I agree with you if by now you ve had a lot of sex with him and the conversation should follow easily.
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And so I agree with you.
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If it doesn t... And if you want to find out, try and go to brunch.
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Try not to have sex once.
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Do something that s not sex related and then you ll know.
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Like, I was seeing this guy once, and like, same, similar thing, and we just went on a hike or something, and just being in a car with him for like 90 minutes, I was like, I knew in my body, I don t like this person.
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Like, it was the same thing where on paper he was, I mean, it was kind of nuts.
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I still sometimes I go like, I feel like that was supposed to be my husband, but— See?
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You re like, don t do that.
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I know, I know, I know, I know.
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But there was like a disconnect that was just not overcomable.
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I ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
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You know, there are people you meet in life, like you to me, where relationships are work, right?
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But the initial part is not work, it s immediate connection.
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Yeah, that s true.
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I know what it s like to have a connection with someone.
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And so in romantic relationships, we do so much mental gymnastics to try to make it work.
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And we re like, well, I m gonna go on like six more dates with him and then decide if I have a connection.
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All the other areas of our lives, we aren t doing that.
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You just know.
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Yes.
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And you just hang out with people that you like and you don t hang out with people that you don t like.
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It s like we put it in a separate category and we treat it completely differently.
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And my therapist has done that with me where she was like, this sounds like a lot of work.
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Think about the relationships in your life that you really enjoy.
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Do you feel like you have to do so as much work?
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And I was like, no, that s a really good exercise.
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And it s been a long time.
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This isn t like, it s been a few weeks.
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Just keep having sex with him until he or you get in a different relationship.
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Exactly.
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Enjoy him.
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Sounds great.
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And remember that thing Esther Perel says all the time, like, people serve different buckets for you.
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This person is filling a sexual need, which is great.
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Very important.
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Doesn t have to serve anything other than that.
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And with women, like, we have a tendency to want to— It s like almost like— I don t think it s nature, necessarily.
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I think it s both.
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Where you want to turn sex into— You re like, oh, but this is— But you don t have to.
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And men s brains don t work that way.
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They just go, like, great.
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Sex is great.
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Oh, no.
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This one s hard.
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It s bad.
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Okay, I m going to save this one because this one is more intense.
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Are we 1130?
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Yeah, but he s still pumping.
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Yeah.
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OK, let s try.
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OK, going on a girl s trip without one of my friends.
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Should I tell her ahead of time?
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This is from McKenna.
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Hi, Monica and Liz.
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Long time listener.
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First time caller.
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I ve talked to my mom, best friend and therapist about this, and I still feel conflicted.
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So I m hoping the sync squad can help.
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I m 29 years old and I m from a small town in central California, but I moved to Montana for college and I ve lived here ever since.
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I ve made a really amazing group of close friends here.
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And next month, we re going on a trip to my hometown in California.
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I m really excited to show them where I come from, introduce them to my friends back home, and generally give them a better sense of who I am and that part of my life.
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I just have one problem.
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Uh-oh.
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Okay, we ll save it, cliffhanger.
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Yeah.
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Wow.
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Yeah.
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We ve done it.
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Okay.
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I like it.
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We have to go because we re on a tight sketch today and we re about to start a fact check and then we re recording.
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So that s a cliffhanger for the same spot.
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Sorry.
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I hate to do that.
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That s a good one.
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And there s another really good one that we can sink our teeth into.
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But we had a lot to talk about.
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Phlegm, what s sending us to hell.
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These are all important topics.
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Your double slash future.
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We don t know.
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We ll learn more of.
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I m scared of her a little bit.
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I m scared of her.
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I mean, if Elisabeth is her mama, I would be scared, too.
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She s not related to this story.
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I don t like that because she died.
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Who died?
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Elisabeth.
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So I don t want her to be you.
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Okay, got it.
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It s Hungarian.
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It s not even my name.
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When you said it, it didn t sound anything like Elisabeth.
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Say it again.
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Elisabeth.
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Right.
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That s not the same as Liz at all.
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Okay, we also didn t pick our new challenges, and I haven t reached out to Adam Grant yet.
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Lots of homework.
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But we will get it all done.
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I promise.
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Take your time in life.
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It s true.
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Nothing s that urgent.
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Exactly.
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If it s important, it s not urgent.
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If it s urgent, it s not important.
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Wow.
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Wait, I said that wrong.
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I said it wrong.
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If it s important, it s not urgent.
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And if it s important, it s urgent.
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And if it s urgent, it s not important.
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Yeah, you said it right.
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Okay, I did.
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And I ve never heard that.
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It s a really good one.
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I like that.
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I know.
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I like wrote it in my notes app because I was like, that is so true.
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Cool.
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Okay.
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Well, this was really fun.
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I love you.
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Love you.
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Bye.