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She s a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire.
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Fantastic.
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And he s a cereal entrepreneur.
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A very smart cookie.
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And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride.
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Get ready for some major realness.
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Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her.
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Happy Friday.
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This is kind of a plot twist.
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We are now podcasting on Fridays.
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Michael and I have switched up our podcast schedule.
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So we are releasing Monday, Wednesday, and Friday now.
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So here s what you can expect.
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On Monday and Wednesday, you can expect the full normal podcast interviews or long episodes.
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And then on Friday, we re giving you a bite-sized version.
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And what that will look like is a solo episode by me or Michael or us together that ranges from 10 to 15 minutes.
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And every single episode will bring you tangible, tactical tips and tricks that you can apply to your own life.
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So that s what we re doing on Friday now.
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I m going to go first.
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I ve been brainstorming what to talk about on the first solo episode of the year.
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And this is something that s been on my mind.
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And it is as simple as this.
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Success follows interest.
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Basically, I discovered this to be true through experimentation of my career, but it also was solidified by Robert Greene.
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He wrote a book called Mastery, and it s all about looking at what you loved as a child and going back to it as an adult.
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So for me personally, I loved scrapbooking and creating magazines when I was little.
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So I would cut up magazines, make vision boards.
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I would scrapbook.
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I would make scrapbooks for my friends and family.
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And it s so funny because when I fast forward to now, I m essentially doing that online.
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And I think that that is a lesson to be had.
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If you are in a place
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where you don t feel like you are being successful at your career.
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I would take a look at what your interests were when you were little.
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And if they don t match up, that s a big clue.
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And I m all about clues.
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Really sit down and think about what you used to like when you were little.
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Was it baking?
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Was it cooking?
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Was it dancing?
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Was it singing?
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Was it writing?
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Was it words?
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Whatever that is, pull those interests into the now.
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And you might sit down and write a bunch of stuff down and you re like, this isn t going to make me money.
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It s not going to make me money to scrapbook.
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But if you pull it to modern times and you re creative with it, you can actually probably monetize off what you used to love when you were little.
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So success follows interest.
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When you go after things that you re genuinely interested in,
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you re going to naturally be focused more, and this is going to really put you in a place where you can succeed and have true success.
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Charlie Munger just passed away, and he always talks about how success follows interest.
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So if you re doing something that has nothing to do with the things that you re actually interested in, I would take a beat, have some clarity, and think about what it is that you re actually interested in.
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One thing that really works for Michael and I is we try to do this thing called a think day.
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It s kind of based off Bill Gates.
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Bill Gates goes away in a cabin for a week out of the year, and he does a think week.
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I obviously can t get away for a week right now because I have two kids under three.
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But what I ll do is I ll do a think day.
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I usually do it on January 1st or 2nd, sometimes both days.
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And I ll sit down with a pen and paper and a journal.
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And I ll write down all the different things that I m interested in and conquering for the next year.
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And then what I ll do is I ll make this huge list and I ll circle the top three things.
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And those are the three things that I ll focus on.
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So let me give you an example.
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Maybe it s grow the podcast, write a book, launch blank.
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put out a new product.
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Whatever it is, I ll make that huge list of all the goals that I want to accomplish.
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I ll circle the top three and I ll only put my energy towards those top three.
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And what that s going to do is it s going to give you a deep focus towards the three things that you actually really want to accomplish that are priorities.
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To do this, though, you have to have space to think.
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Thinking time is so overrated.
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You can t do this on a Monday when you have 600 emails or on a Tuesday when you re in and out of Zoom calls.
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There has to be space.
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Right now, we re in a fresh new year.
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I always say the first two weeks of the year are super slow.
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Everyone s kind of like coming out of hibernation.
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This is such a good time to sit with yourself and think.
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I don t even care if you have an hour with a pen and paper.
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Give yourself the space to have the clarity to figure out how you want the next year to go.
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I am all about meditating and thinking about my future from an umbrella standpoint.
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So what I mean by that is a lot of us are so close to the picture all the time.
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I think it s important to zoom out and look at the whole picture as a whole.
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And so you could even give yourself prompts.
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What do I want out of this year?
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What are my top three goals out of this year?
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How am I going to get to these three goals?
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So what are the systems that you re taking?
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And let me give you just like a example that s super tangible.
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Say you want to be a podcaster.
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Okay, I want to be a podcaster.
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How many podcasts are you releasing a week?
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What day of the week?
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What time?
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Who is helping you edit?
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How are you recording them?
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Meaning, are they on the calendar for the next three months?
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Have you reached out to guests?
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Do you have cover art?
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Do you have a header?
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Are you doing a website?
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Are you doing Instagram?
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Who s running the Instagram?
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Like you really get
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super in the mud with the idea that you pick.
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So you re going to pick your three ideas and then you re going to get in the mud with those three ideas during your thinking time.
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And I want to also say that these three goals that you have for the upcoming year don t have to be just work goals.
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So it could be something like,
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I want to be the best mother ever. 
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Okay, what does that look like from a practical, approachable standpoint?
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Well, maybe it looks like me getting on the floor with my kids and playing with toys with them from 7.30 to 8 every single morning.
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Maybe it looks like taking my son for a walk and doing a meditation with him.
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Maybe it looks like booking a tumble class for
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me and my kids, like some alone time.
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Maybe it looks like putting something on the schedule every single week where we actually connect and it s not an activity.
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I think what s important about setting goals is getting really granular with how you re going to accomplish them and then actually putting them on the calendar so you hit those goals.
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Goals are cute.
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Goals are great.
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We all have goals.
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But if you don t set the infrastructure on how to get to those goals, they re really hard to achieve.
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Another big mistake with goals is when you have too many.
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So that s why I think it s really important to write down 20 and then circle the top three that are priority for that year.
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Another thing that I like to do for my think day
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is I like to write out what would make the best year possible.
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So I ll write out like outrageous things.
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It could be anything from a publication that I want to be in to a podcast guest that I
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want.
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I ll just write it all out.
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And then the last thing that I do on my think week is I create an execution board.
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I am not a fan of the vision board.
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I feel like a vision board is just cutting out other people and actresses and like models and and I don t know just like other people s vision.
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Like it s like almost like a Pinterest board.
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It doesn t feel personalized to me.
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I like to actually draw out what it looks like.
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So if I m launching a product, I ll draw it out.
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I ll put the dye line on my board.
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I will actually draw out a website.
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Say I want to launch a website.
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I ll draw it out in front of me.
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I ll put colors on it.
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I ll make like a board that is actually executing what s in my head on a piece of paper.
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Again, this doesn t have to be just with work.
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This could be like, I want to spend an uninterrupted hour a day with my husband.
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And what does that look like?
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Maybe it looks like a sauna.
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Maybe that looks like us going for a walk, whatever it is I put on this execution board.
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And then I keep the execution board near me so I can look at it throughout the year.
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My point is here is it s really important to stop and think, especially in the beginning of the year, that you re focused on what makes you feel the most successful.
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And you can do that in a lot of different ways, but you can t do it if you don t have the space and time to have the clarity to figure out how you want to live the rest of your year.
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I do this every single year.
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I always take a day or two to have a think day and this piles up.
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It s like compounding every single year.
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I ve done this for the past five years and I can tell you that I have hit 80% at least of the things that were on this execution board and on this goal list.
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You would be surprised how these think days are subliminally on your consciousness.
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I also do one more thing that I have to tell you guys.
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I take all my ideas from my think days and I try to meditate on them every single day.
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Even if it s for two minutes, I try to just like go back to my execution board, go back to my goals, go back to the systems that help create those goals.
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Success follows interest.
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Give yourself the time and space to think and try a think day or two in the beginning of the year and let me know how it goes.
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I hope you guys love these solo episodes.
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This is so fun.
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We ll be talking about all different kinds of subjects, health, wealth, diet, business, kids, and it ll just be like a little coffee talk with Michael and I. On that note, happy new year and we will see you on Monday.
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The Him and Her Weekly Newsletter has launched.
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Michael and I are putting together five tips for you guys, and we are condensing it into one email once a week.
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They re good tips, too.
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They re tips we don t even talk about on the podcast.
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Everything from sex, relationships, success, money, happiness, kids is in one newsletter.
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And so all you have to do is go to tscpodcast.com.
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You can sign up for our newsletter and you ll get a him and her five tips of the week right to your inbox.
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We also have collected our monthly favorites and that will go out once a month with all the things we re buying, loving and wanting in one spot.
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So everything s organized for you.
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Go to tscpodcast.com and sign up for our new him and her newsletter.