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Something that makes me crazy is when people say, well, I had this career before, but it was a waste.
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And me, Simone Boyce.
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I am so excited about this podcast, The Bright Side.
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You guys are giving people a chance to shine a light on their lives, shine a light on a little advice that they want to share.
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Get emotional with me, Radhi Devlukia, in my new podcast, A Really Good Cry.
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We re going to be talking with some of my best friends.
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I didn t know we were going to go there on this.
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People that I admire.
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When we say listen to your body, really tune in to what s going on.
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Authors of books that have changed my life.
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Now you re talking about sympathy, which is different than empathy.
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Never forget, it s OK to cry as long as you make it a really good one.
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Listen to A Really Good Cry with Radhi Devlukia on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Let s make it the year we re a little kinder to yourself and others.
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We re less judgmental of ourselves and others, even when it s hard, especially when it s hard.
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If we can t love ourselves, we can t love others.
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And if we can t love others, we can t love ourselves.
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I m here for you.
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I want you to win.
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I m forever in your corner.
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Here s to 2024 being your year.
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Happy New Year!
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Welcome back to On Purpose in 2024.
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I am so grateful, so excited, and I also want to add, I am committed this year, deeper than ever, more than ever, to help you become the person you know you can be.
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To help you become the person you want to be.
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to let go of all the layers, all of the coverings, all of the false identifications, the energies that you no longer need, to be able to leave them behind in 2023 and move forward towards your greatest self in 2024.
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Thank you so much for picking On Purpose as your partner for growth
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because this is the place where we re having some of the most amazing conversations with insightful thought leaders, experts, athletes, celebrities, and of course, for your Friday workshop with me.
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Now today s one is really, really important.
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You ve heard the stats before.
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80% of people are not practicing their New Year s resolutions by the end of January.
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I don t want you to be in that camp.
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And the reason why you re not going to be in that camp is because we re switching resolutions out for goals, growth, and reformation.
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Resolutions are these pie-in-the-sky ideas that we hope we ll be able to live up to.
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They re usually created as an extreme to what we experienced in December, where we were eating anything we wanted and drinking anything we wanted.
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And really, what we miss out on
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It s what s at the root of who we want to be.
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What s at the core of the person we are becoming.
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What s at the essence of who we are and where we re going, not just an idea or a habit or a practice, these are all good and well, but if they re not rooted to something deeper, something more profound, something more powerful that we re committed to, something higher, it s really, really difficult to pursue it properly.
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Now, you re here because you want to improve.
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You know there s another level you can reach in some area of your life but you re just not getting there.
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You can feel inside you that there s an opportunity you haven t yet grasped.
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But for some reason you also doubt yourself.
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You already know that this will last for a few weeks and then fall apart.
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Or maybe you re optimistic but going to push yourself too hard and burn out and crash.
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So I want to help you reframe this idea.
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I want you to look at it this way.
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Think about this for a second.
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What type of year is this for you?
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I m guessing no one s really ever asked you that question before.
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We always want every year to be the best year.
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We want it to be the biggest year.
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We want it to be the most winningest year, right?
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It s the year where we achieve everything.
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But have you noticed that life is so much more about cycles?
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Life happens so much more in rhythms and patterns.
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And not every year can be your title-winning year.
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If you look at a sports team, there are years where they re building, developing players, and there s years where they re outperforming their peers.
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If you look at the Oscars or the Emmys, there are years where an actor or an actress is dominating, and there are years where you don t hear about them because they re doing the work.
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If you look at music, how often do you get Taylor Swift on tour or Beyonce on tour?
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Not very often because they have to prepare, they have to create, they have to practice, they have to go inward.
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So what we recognize is that each year can have a different feel.
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So there are generally four types of year.
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There can be a year where you re learning.
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There can be a year where you re experimenting.
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There can be a year where you re performing.
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And there can be the year that you re thriving.
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Now there are some people that are so prolific that they ll be able to do one of those per quarter.
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So quarter one is learning, quarter two is experimenting, quarter three is performing, and quarter four is thriving.
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And you may even have some of those people around you.
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But for all of us, what we think is 2023 had to be a thrive year.
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We didn t get there.
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2024 has to be a thrive year.
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We didn t get there.
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2025 has to be a thrive year.
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And we put so much pressure on making every year a thrive year that we end up just about surviving.
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Right?
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If that.
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And so I want you to reframe how you think about the year.
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I want you to ask yourself, is this a year where you want to learn?
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Maybe you ve been giving so much energy outwards.
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Maybe you ve expended everything that you d gained up till now.
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Maybe you re in a position where you ve just given, given, given, and you re like, well, I don t have anything.
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The cup is empty.
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Right?
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The tank is empty.
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This is a year that I need to learn.
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It s a year that I need to grow.
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It s a year that I need to level up.
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Does that make sense?
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And it s a really important consideration because all of a sudden your energy moves away from I want this result to I want to build this skill.
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I want this award or this achievement or this goal to I m going to craft
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a plan to develop myself.
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That s what I m focused on this year.
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Becoming better is more important than being seen as the best, right?
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This year, if it s about learning for you, becoming better is more important than being seen as the best.
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And I mean, it always is.
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But sometimes we re so fixated on what makes us look good that we only end up doing what makes us feel good, right?
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Sometimes we re so focused, so addicted to what makes it look like we re doing well, as opposed to doing the things and being the person that makes us feel well.
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So if this is a learning year for you, that s a year of courses, it s a year of programming, it s a year of coaching, it s a year of classes, it s a year of reading, it s a year of listening.
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Now I m not saying you re not doing those things in other years, it s just that in this year, that s the top priority.
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Notice how that completely shifts how you ve been developing your year.
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Maybe you ve never launched a podcast before or you ve never written a book or you ve never started a company or you have never really prioritized time with your family and all of a sudden your big goal is you ve got to be the best parent in the world.
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Your goal is you ve got to launch the number one podcast in the world and all of a sudden you re crippled by your goal.
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you re totally stuck, frozen by your goal, right?
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Because you re so scared of it, it s so big, it s so hard, and you haven t allowed yourself to learn.
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I ve had many years in my life that I would call learning years.
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And if you looked at me from the outside in, you would say, Jay didn t achieve anything that year.
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But when I look at myself, I know when I look back that that was the year I learned everything that people then noticed later on, that people then agreed with or celebrated later on.
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Now, maybe it s not a learning year.
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Maybe you did a lot of learning
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and you re like, Jay, I need to do something now, right?
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Like, you re like, Jay, we ve learned enough.
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I ve done enough courses.
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I ve done enough of that.
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I need to actually execute.
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I need to do something.
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So this is the year of experimenting.
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Again, we often try and skip experimenting and go straight into it.
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We haven t yet tested the waters.
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We haven t yet seen whether we enjoy it, what skills we are missing out on.
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I ll give an example.
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Last year in 2023, I went on my world tour.
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And on my world tour, I d never done a world tour before, but
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For the previous years, I d done a lot of speaking at corporate organizations across the world.
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And so I d got into the habit of what it felt like to travel, to speak, to recover, to rest, to get back on a plane and do it all over again.
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So it s not that I d done a world tour, but I was familiar with what the experience was like.
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And that experimenting is what gave me the confidence to go on a world tour.
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Now, if I...
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In 2016, 2017, when my videos first went viral, if I said, OK, now I m going to go on a world tour, I probably wouldn t have known how to stay healthy.
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I probably wouldn t have known the amount of voice rest I needed.
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So for example, when I was on my world tour, I never went to a restaurant at night.
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We never went to a bar.
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We never went to a noisy place.
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I would be in a quiet space without any music, without any background noise, even the noise of people talking.
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because of how much I had to protect my voice on tour because I know how easy it is to lose your voice when you re performing every night or multiple shows a day sometimes.
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Now that s what experimenting gives you.
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If you ve never interviewed someone before and all of a sudden you re launching a podcast, maybe it s a good idea to experiment this year, right?
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Whatever it is for you.
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experiment maybe you ve come up with a new idea of how to spend time with your family experiment with it before you put in a rule every week we need to do this every month we need to do x every quarter we need to do y like that can be challenging if you haven t experimented the third one is performing this is a year when you ve kind of got into your groove
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You found your zone.
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You ve got into a bit of practice.
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You ve experimented, you ve learned, and now you re in your rhythm, right?
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You re in step.
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And that type of a year could be a year for you right now where you re like, Jay, you know what?
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The past couple of years, I ve learned, I ve experimented.
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This is the year to really work in that direction.
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And that type of year requires commitment.
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It requires dedication.
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It requires focus.
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It requires persistence.
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So it requires a whole different set of skills and abilities.
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In the learn year, you needed a lot of curiosity.
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In the experiment year, you needed a lot of openness, right?
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You had to be open to what the experiment brought about.
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In a performance year, you need a lot of commitment and consistency.
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And finally, in a thrive year, you need humility, right?
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In a thrive year, you need humility and a lack of complacency.
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So notice how what you need to work on and what you need to build in all of those years is so different, yet we treat every year as if it s the same.
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Just as we treat every person as if they re the same, but every year, every person, every act in our life requires a different intentionality.
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So in my life this year, I m in a learning year and an experimenting year.
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And because I ve been through this cycle many times, I m able to do all four in one year.
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But a big part of it for me this year is learning and experimenting and building.
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And it won t be a year of performing in the new areas that I want to expand in.
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Now, you may say, Jay, but you just had an amazing guest on the podcast and you just did this.
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And so that s everything that s developed over time.
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So we will thrive this year in many areas.
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There ll be lots of amazing achievements and announcements by the grace of the universe, which I m extremely grateful for, right?
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Not by my own doing.
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But all of that is happening as a result of practicing what I m sharing with you.
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And that s why I m giving you this secret.
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The reason why I m giving you this idea is because once you start approaching your year differently, your year will be abundant beyond how you think about it.
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So some years you re going to learn, some years you re going to launch, some years you re going to level up, some years you re going to love, but
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You have to ask yourself, what is 2024 for you?
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Okay, that s step one.
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Step two is a really important question I want you to ask yourself.
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And this one s a big one because how many times have you ever been through a day where you checked off everything off your to-do list, but you still felt dissatisfied at the end of it?
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How many times have you been through a couple of months maybe where you go, wow, I m on target, but I m not feeling fulfilled.
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Maybe even a few years have gone by and you re thinking, wait a minute, I m pretty much doing everything I set out to do.
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So this is the question I want you to ask yourself.
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365 days from now, what would you want to be true about you and your life?
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Think about that.
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365 days from now, what would you want to be true about you and your life?
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We often think about what we want to do, but we actually have to start one year away and visualize ourselves and think, what is truly going to make a difference?
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And what is truly going to make me feel different?
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What is going to make me feel different?
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And what is truly going to make a difference?
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What will I be proud to say in a year
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that I ve been able to do.
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For you, it could be, I just slept well this year.
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Notice how your inner voice will give you an answer that feels so much more true than when you go, what s on my vision board?
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What do I need to achieve?
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What do I need to do?
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And all of a sudden, you could be chasing a group of goals that aren t yours.
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So many of us waste years pursuing a path that isn t ours because it feels right, it seems right, it sounds right.
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What about
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What is us?
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Because often we add things because they sound good or everyone s doing them.
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There s a famous quote by Bill Gates where he said,
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we overestimate what we can do in one year, and we underestimate what we can do in 10 years.
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And I think that s the same principle of we overestimate what we can do in one month, and we underestimate what we can do in 12 months.
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So resolutions often become a one-month thing.
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And then all of a sudden, we re like, I ve used all my grit, all my resilience, all my strength, all my willpower, all in January.
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How many times have you felt that?
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Raise your hand, nod along right now.
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If you ve ever felt that way before, where you re like, I just used, now I ve been there.
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I just used all my energy, all my willpower, all my mental strength in January.
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I ve got nothing left for the rest of the year.
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Let s really break it down.
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Let s really, really think about it.
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What is going to be worth working towards for 12 months?
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That we re allowing ourselves 12 months
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to develop.
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They re called a New Year s goal for a reason, a New Year s resolution.
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But we only spend one month on it because we go so hard.
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We don t recognize what would it feel like to wake up like that in 365 days.
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We want to do it in three days or three weeks or 30 days.
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The Therapy for Black Girls podcast is an NAACP and Webby Award winning podcast dedicated to all things mental health, personal development, and all of the small decisions we can make to become the best possible versions of ourselves.
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Here, we have the conversations that help black women decipher how their past inform who they are today.
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and use that information to decide who they want to be moving forward.
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We chat about things like how to establish routines that center self-care, what burnout looks and feels like, and defining what aspects of our lives are making us happy and what parts are holding us back.
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I m your host, Dr. Joy Harden-Bradford, a licensed psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia.
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And I can t wait for you to join the conversation every Wednesday.
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Listen to the Therapy for Black Girls podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Take good care, and we ll see you there.
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Tune in to the new podcast, Stories from the Village of Nothing Much, like easy listening, but for fiction.
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If you ve overdosed on bad news, we invite you into a world where the glimmers of goodness in everyday life are all around you.
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I m Katherine Nicolai, and you might know me from the Bedtime Story podcast, Nothing Much Happens.
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I m an architect of cozy, and I invite you to come spend some time where everyone is welcome and kindness is the default.
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When you tune in you ll hear stories about bakeries and walks in the woods.
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A favorite booth at the diner on a blustery autumn day.
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Cats and dogs and rescued goats and donkeys.
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Old houses, bookshops, beaches where kites fly.
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and pretty stones are found.
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I have so many stories to tell you, and they are all designed to help you feel good and feel connected to what is good in the world.
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Listen, relax, enjoy.
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Listen to stories from the Village of Nothing Much on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Something that makes me crazy is when people say, well, I had this career before, but it was a waste.
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And that s where the perspective shift comes.
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That it s not a waste, that everything you ve done has built you to where you are now.
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This is She Pivots.
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the podcast where we explore the inspiring pivots women have made and dig deeper into the personal reasons behind them.
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Join me, Emily Tish Sussman, every Wednesday on She Pivots, as I sit down with inspiring women like Misty Copeland, Brooke Shields, Vanessa Hudgens, and so many more.
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We dive into how these women made their pivot and their mindset shifts that happened as a result.
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It s a podcast about women, their stories, and how their pivot became their success.
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Listen to She Pivots on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Now, how you start seeing it as a year is really important.
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So I always look at it this way.
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For each goal, so let s say I have one goal, I m looking at that across four quarters.
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right?
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And then I m looking at it as what am I going to do in each of those three months?
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And then I m breaking down the months into each week.
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This is what I call the 1431 method.
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It sounds like a sports lineup or something like that, but 1431 method.
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One goal,
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across four quarters.
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What do you want to do for each of those three months inside the quarter?
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And what are you going to do per week?
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So let me break it down.
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This year, I want to write my next book, right?
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That s a big goal.
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I want to write my third book
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by the end of the year.
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So I have to break down what do I plan to do over the four quarters.
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So in the first quarter, my plan is to research and develop the idea.
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Quarter two, my plan is to write
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the first draft.
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Quarter three, it s to write the second draft.
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And then quarter four is to edit and of course work through it.
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So notice how I ve broken down one big goal into what I need to achieve in each quarter.
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It makes it much more tangible.
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When I have a goal is write a book,
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I have no idea where to start, I don t know what I need.
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So I have to design phases.
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So phase one for quarter one is research and develop the concept.
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Now, if it s research and develop the concept, now I go a step further and go, okay, if that s what quarter one is about, what do I need to do per month?
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So month one, I m going to spend reading and researching about the topic.
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Month two, I m going to spend developing a plan of my chapter structure and chapter summary.
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Plan three, I m now going to look at the references and the content that I already have that I love, that I believe should be in this book versus what I don t have and looking at all the gaps.
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For example, so notice how at every step it gets even more in-depth.
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Now I break down that month, each month, into each week.
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So I say, okay, what am I going to do in the first week of that month of research?
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I m going to read this book.
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I m going to reach out to this person.
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I m going to interview this scientist, whatever it may be.
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Notice how we ve taken one goal of writing a book all the way down to finding a researcher.
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You ve broken down a difficult task, a difficult project, into a really simple step.
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One, four, three, one method.
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One goal, four quarters, three months, one week.
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I promise you, if you sat down with each of your goals and broke it down this way, not only are you more likely to get there,
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you re more likely to allow yourself the year to get there.
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Most of us don t break it down this way and so we re hoping by the end of January that we ll already have mastered it.
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We ll already be at our ideal weight, we ll already be at our ideal diet, we ll already be at our ideal
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whatever it is that we re chasing.
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One goal, four quarters, three months, one week.
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Please, please, please use that method.
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Break it down and I promise you the results will be astounding.
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The other reason why is because what I m encouraging you to do is not just goal set.
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But take your goal into a process and then into a task, right?
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Goal, process, task, GPT, like chat GPT, but GPT.
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Goal, process, task.
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If you don t break your goal down into a process and then into a task, it s not going to happen.
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So for example, my goal is to write a book.
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The process is to research, but the task is,
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to find the right books and find the right scientists to study, right?
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That s the task.
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So I ve got to break down a goal into a task through a process.
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If I don t do that, I m stuck with a big goal of writing a book.
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And that s where so many of us set ourselves up for wasting time because we don t follow that process.
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We don t understand that methodology.
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We just have this vision of, I need to do this.
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I need to do that.
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it just feels further and further away.
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As the year gets along, right, as more time passes, your goal feels further away, and then you get less and less motivated.
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It s like time decreases, goal feels further, motivation decreases, right?
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Now, the next step is know that you will fall off your plan.
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So I just laid out for you the 1431 method.
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you will fall off.
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There will be a week or a month that goes completely wrong, no matter how committed you are, no matter how awesome you are, no matter how much work you ve put in.
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It will fail, the first plan.
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And knowing it will fail is your greatest ally.
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Avoiding believing that you will never fall off is your greatest hindrance.
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That s one of the biggest reasons people don t achieve their goals is because they believe that they won t get distracted.
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They believe that there will be no pushback.
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They believe that there won t be a detour or the need for a contingency.
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When I say have a plan B, I don t mean have a second goal so you don t care about the first goal.
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I mean have a plan B of the process.
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See, people think having a plan B means, oh, if I want to build something really successful, no, my plan B is I ll just settle for what I have.
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My version s different.
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If I m not reaching a goal because of plan A, I have a plan B, right?
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It s not goal B, it s plan B. But when we talk about it, we go, oh, no, no, don t have a plan B, otherwise you ll never get to plan A. No, plan B is a different route.
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It s a different path, it s not a different goal.
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You don t have to change your goal, you can change the journey towards it.
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And so I know that there are going to be months where I m not as healthy as I want to be if I m traveling a lot.
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I already know that.
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So my contingency plan is that when I am at home, when I am in town, that s when I m taking even more care of my health.
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I m being even more productive and proactive.
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And then I have a plan B version of a workout and a diet when I m traveling.
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But if I don t create that process, if I don t create that plan B,
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I m at the mercy of falling apart and going completely in the other direction.
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So if you don t have a plan B, you will go to the other extreme.
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But remember, this is not goal B, it s plan B. Overall, we have to create an internal essence of grace over guilt and growth over guilt.
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If we can t give ourselves grace, we won t enjoy the journey.
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You can choose grit and push yourself and we become more hard-hearted when actually going through pain should make us more compassionate and soft-hearted.
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If you become hard-hearted through pain, which means you don t want to help others and you just think, yeah, it s hard.
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It should be hard for everyone.
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You should find it hard.
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Yeah, get over it.
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If that s the energy you develop through going through pain,
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you never really went through it, you re still in it.
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For someone who truly moves through pain, they become soft-hearted and compassionate.
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What I mean by that is they recognize how hard it is and therefore they wanna support others even more.
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They wanna help others even more.
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They want to recognize the challenges that people will go through and help set them up for it.
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So knowing whether we re becoming more hard-hearted or soft-hearted is a great way of realizing whether we re in pain or not.
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That s the way to figure it out.
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That s what we have to recognize.
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That s what we have to understand.
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Are we becoming more graceful to ourselves and others?
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Or are we becoming more hard towards ourselves and others?
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Is our success leading to wanting to help others become successful or wanting to remind others how hard it is?
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Now, I m not saying it s easy and I m not saying we should tell people it s easy, but compassion is a natural result of inner grace.
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When we feel we can be compassionate towards ourselves because we recognize what I m trying to do is difficult and everyone s finding it hard.
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Everyone s struggling.
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And that s why in order to actually get through that 12 months,
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We have to have a deep reason.
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There has to be a really deep intention that s driving us.
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Mine is really simple.
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I really believe...
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that each and every one of you can write a new story for your life.
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And all that s missing is the tools.
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I don t believe anyone who s living a beautiful life is because they are smarter or better in the academic or external sense.
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It s because they ve been exposed to a set of habits, skills, practices, and mindsets
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that have allowed them access to this new life.
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And that s what I m dedicated to do here on On Purpose.
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I m dedicated to introducing you to the skills, the tools, the people, the energies, the ideas, the mindsets that we miss out on in our normal day-to-day life.
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I want to expose you to the conversations that will help you create refinements in your pursuits and your goals.
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I want you this year, as you listen to a podcast every day, or maybe you listen to three a week, or maybe you listen to the two new ones every week, whatever it may be, remember we ve got five years worth of podcasts here.
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And I promise you there s something every day and every week for what you need right now on On Purpose.
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And I hope you ll find it.
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I hope you ll use this as a resource to become directed towards your greatest self.
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That s what I m dedicated to.
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That s what I m committed to.
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That s what keeps me going.
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Knowing that people are in pain or suffering or dealing with something in a way that I know I m confident that they could manage better if they had access.
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That s what keeps me going.
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Notice how what drives you often has to be outside of you, in the sense, not an extrinsic.
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I m not driving towards an extrinsic motivator.
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An extrinsic motivator is, I want this, or I wish I had this.
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But an intrinsic motivator is, I want to serve.
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I want to give back.
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I want to share what I ve been so lucky to get.
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That s why I do this.
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Why I do what I do is because I ve been so fortunate
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to meet amazing mentors, teachers, guides in my life, to be introduced to phenomenal wisdom that I feel deeply grateful for and honored that I get the opportunity to share it.
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And that s why I m doing it here on On Purpose.
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I hope you ll join me this year.
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I hope you ll subscribe.
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Please follow.
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It makes a big difference to the podcast.
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Share it with your friends.
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I m rooting for you.
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I m in your corner all the way.
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I want you to win.
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I m dedicated to you.
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I m committed to this journey.
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And I wrote this the other day in my captions, and it really resonated with all of you.
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So I want to repeat it here.
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Let s make 2024 the year you ve been waiting for.
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Let s make it the year you live your purpose.
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Let s make it the year you learn that skill.
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Let s make it the year you love your relationships.
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Let s make it the year you launch that dream.
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Let s make it the year you level up your habits.
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Let s make it the year you let go of anything that doesn t serve you.
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And most importantly, let s make it the year we re a little kinder to yourself and others, even when it s hard, especially when it s hard.
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We re less judgmental of ourselves and others, even when it s hard, especially when it s hard.
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We re more compassionate to ourselves and others.
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We re more kind to ourselves and others.
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If we can t love ourselves, we can t love others.
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And if we can t love others, we can t love ourselves.
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I m here for you.
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I want you to win.
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I m forever in your corner.
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Here s to 2024.
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being your year with so much love and gratitude from me.
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Thank you for choosing On Purpose to become happier, healthier and more healed in 2024.
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Hey, it s me, Blippi, and this is my best friend, Mika.
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Hi, I m Mika, and this is our brand new podcast, Blippi and Mika s Road Trip.
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The Blippi Mobile will take us to amazing places.
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And we ll meet new friends along the way.
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Listen to Blippi and Mika s Road Trip podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Hey, everybody, welcome to Across Generations, where the voices of Black women unite.
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I m your host, Tiffany Cross.
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Join me and be a part of sisterhood, friendship, wisdom, and laughter.
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We gather a seasoned elder, myself as the middle generation, and a vibrant young soul for engaging intergenerational conversations, prepare to engage or hear perspectives that literally no one else has had.
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Listen to Across Generations podcasts on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Guess what, Will?
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What s up, Mango?
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I ve been trying to write a promo for our podcast, Part-Time Genius, but even though we ve done over 250 episodes, we don t really talk about murders or cults.
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I mean, we did just cover the Illuminati of cheese, so I feel like that makes us pretty edgy.
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We also solve mysteries like how Chinese is your Chinese food and how do dollar stores make money?
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And then, of course, can you game a dog show?
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So what you re saying is everyone should be listening.
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Listen to Part-Time Genius on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.