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Today, Radhi and I switch roles and I go grocery shopping in Radhi s place.
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Tune in for the road trip with the all-electric BMW iX.
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Yeah, it s super nice.
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It s really spacious.
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Let s go!
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So, Radhi, what s the challenge today?
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Okay, so you remember a couple of years ago, we did this YouTube video where you made something.
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Yeah, I ve been trying to block it out ever since.
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Okay, so you, at that time, made me.
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What did you make me?
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I made you... So this is the one and only time in our entire life that I think I ve cooked for you.
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One time, one time only.
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And I promised it would be one time only.
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I cooked you a stuffed pepper.
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And it was the best rice stuffed pepper you d ever had in your entire life.
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It was.
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It actually made it into my cookbook.
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I don t know whether I ve ever even told you this, but there is a recipe.
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Imagine you, out of all people, have a recipe in my cookbook.
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That s amazing.
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No, it s ridiculous.
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I told you if I wanted to be a chef, I d be...
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I was asked if you ve ever cooked for me, if there s any recipes that remind me of you, and there was one.
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It was either that or beans on toast.
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They said I couldn t put beans on toast in there.
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Beans on toast?
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That would have been the best, with cheese sprinkled on top.
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No, that s not in my cookbook.
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With ketchup.
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What made it into my book, just because stuffed pepper didn t feel fun enough, it s a one-pot Mexican rice.
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Wait, why did the stuffed pepper not feel good enough?
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It just was like a bit basic, honestly.
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The actual Mexican rice has made it.
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It s like a one-part Mexican rice dish.
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So, you already kind of know how to do this.
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I don t.
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I have no idea.
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You re like cheating a little bit.
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I literally have no idea.
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What we re going to do is we re going to the grocery store or the supermarket, as we like to call it, and you re going to buy all the ingredients.
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This is my worst nightmare.
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But on top of that, just to make it a little bit spicy, we are going to get you making some guacamole and some healthy sour cream to be able to dollop on top.
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And then I will joyfully eat it for lunch.
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While we re on the way to the grocery store, let s answer some questions.
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All right, let s do it.
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So you ve got them next to you, because I can t read questions and drive at the same time.
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I don t think that would be very safe.
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If we were doing carpool karaoke right now, what would it be?
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Mine would be, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Or it would be, baby, calm down, calm down.
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Okay, calm down, yeah.
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Don t tell me no, no, no.
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Well, you have to know the words.
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Cut it, go.
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You always make fun of me because he makes fun of me and my music choice because he says a lot of it, there isn t actual words.
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It s either mumble or it s sounds.
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So that would be mine.
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And if it was Jay, it would be,
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Don t never stop.
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What was it?
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It d be a Drake song.
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Yeah, a Drake song.
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Everybody obviously got that I was doing Drake.
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Right, that s exactly what they got.
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All right, so what are the questions?
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What s the biggest difference between drivers in LA and drivers in London?
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Oh, I don t know.
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I have to say, I do find LA drivers a little bit more impatient.
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Really?
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Really.
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Yeah.
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I do find there s a lot more beeping, no one wants to give you away, whereas in London I d say people do let you into things.
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Really?
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Oh, interesting.
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One thing I really love about driving in LA as a driver myself is I love the palm trees.
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I feel like I m on a constant vacation.
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This is about drivers, though.
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Right, right, right.
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Like drive, but I agree.
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I do find the highways scary in LA.
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Me too, because you have that thing of going off.
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Yeah, when people are switching lanes, and obviously everything s the other way around for us.
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So you re driving on a different side of the road and the steering wheel s on a different side of the car.
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So especially I find, when I come back from London, I find it even scarier.
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And I find myself too much on one side or the other.
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Oh, I do that all the time.
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Yeah, and I think drivers pretty much everywhere in the world are pretty impatient, aren t they?
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Yeah, I am too, to be fair.
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Do you believe you re a backseat driver?
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Okay, I m a proud backseat driver.
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You know why?
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Because my line every time I do a backseat driver thing, like, watch out or don t go that close, is, imagine I didn t say that.
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I could have just saved your life and somebody else s.
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The difference is every time you say it, I m like, the way you say it is more likely to cause an accident.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Yes.
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Don t do that!
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Yeah, exactly.
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Then save me.
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Like, I m like, literally, I have a shock.
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Like, I literally have a shock every time you say it.
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I m like, what happened?
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Like, what happened?
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Did something happen?
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And you re like, no, just... What s my usual, oh my gosh, it s mummy!
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Yeah, mummy.
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It s like, what s mummy gonna do?
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I would say I am more of a backseat driver than Jay is, yes.
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I m not a backseat driver at all.
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Maybe that just shows I care more.
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I m also not a backseat driver in life.
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Oh, line dropped.
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No, no, but it s an interesting question, right?
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This is like, you know what, Jay Shetty, you re getting Jay Shetty on me.
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Actually, you know what, let s go deeper into that.
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What does it mean to be a backseat driver in your life?
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It s a good question, then.
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What does it mean, Jay, to be a backseat driver?
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Please do tell us.
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No, I just think that some of us, you know,
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grab life by the steering wheel and navigate and take the journey ourselves.
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And some of us sit in the back seat and criticise and judge and complain about whatever else is going on.
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Do you not think that in life we need both back seat drivers and people who want to take the steering wheel and too many steering wheel people would actually be not good?
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That was an amazing question.
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That was an amazing question.
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No, I believe that when you re driving, you should drive safely and securely and responsibly.
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And when you re in the back seat, you should be obedient.
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I m talking about that... What?
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In life, in life.
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Oh, in life.
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Yeah, in life.
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Okay, next question, people.
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Next question.
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If you could pick three people to fill your car with on a road trip... Oh, good question.
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Oh, just to remind everyone, these were questions that my team came up with, so we had no idea what we were answering.
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If you could pick three people to fill your car with on a road trip, who would they be?
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Go on, let s try one each.
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What, three people in the whole entire world?
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Yeah.
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Okay, I know who it would be.
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Yours are easy, go on.
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Yeah, mine are quite easy.
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Go on.
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Mine would be, okay, people alive would be my grandma, my niece and my nephew.
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Yeah.
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Banter, forever.
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Yeah, didn t make it.
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So much fun.
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I didn t make it.
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No, but that ll be like, it ll be so funny.
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Three in the back, three in the back.
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We ll put three in the back.
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Three in the back.
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You can be in the car too.
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But not alive, I would love to have a car full of like my grandma and then her grandma and like my ancestors.
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Oh, that s sweet.
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One, I love driving around old people.
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I do it for my grandma and her friends all the time and it is so much fun because they re hilarious.
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You know one thing I found?
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My dad opens up on road trips
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Like, if it s just me and him, he s driving me to the airport, or my sister told me yesterday that he was driving her to the airport, and he starts telling stories about himself.
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Like, it creates this time and space where people can open up a little bit.
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And so, with that in mind, I think I would want that with people that I really wish I had got to know but didn t have the chance to.
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What questions would you ask or what game would you play with these people in the car on a long journey?
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For fun, I would definitely play, well, our version, Indian version of carpool karaoke on Thakshari, where you all just sing, like, old Indian songs.
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But I imagine my grandma and her ancestors would probably sing, like, devotional songs or God songs, which is amazing.
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But then to actually ask them questions.
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Oh, I love word association.
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I think it tells a lot about people.
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Right.
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To, like, understand when they hear something, what they relate it to.
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Right, right, right.
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So, yeah, that s what I ve got.
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What about you?
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Who would your three people be?
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Oh, gosh.
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All right.
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So, if it was living, it would be you, my sister, and my mum.
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Yeah.
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And that would be, like, my family trip.
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Yeah.
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If it was people who weren t alive or, like, people I don t know, I d want it to be Steve Jobs, Martin Luther King,
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and Einstein.
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Oh, wow.
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And I wouldn t say anything.
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I would just listen.
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Are we all of them in one car?
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Yeah, because I would just listen.
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I would have nothing to say.
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Yeah, just observe.
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I would just sit there and think about what they would say.
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You know what else is so fun in the car, though?
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We ve done a few random car trips with him together as Radhanath Swami because I feel like he really brings up such good conversation and also does the same thing my dad does where there s so many stories that come out during those trips.
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Totally.
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I love those trips.
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Actually, I d take you out and put him into mine, sorry.
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Got it, got it.
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My grandma, my niece, my nephew.
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Yeah, I m not sure of that.
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I m not sure he d enjoy that.
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I was going to say the other person you love having in the car is Ardil.
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Oh, yeah, that s a good carpool karaoke.
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Yeah, you and Ardil are always singing in cars.
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That s true.
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That s a good answer.
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That would be a really interesting conversation to have if it was possible.
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Who is more likely to leave the car lights on overnight?
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I literally did that yesterday, not overnight.
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Did you?
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Not overnight, no.
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You leave the car lights on, you leave the car unlocked, you forget to charge the car,
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I leave my little crickets in the car.
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We re so lucky that we have electric cars.
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I ve always got a spare hairband, a spare drink, a spare pair of sunglasses, some snacks.
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There s always something here lingering.
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That s really a blessing.
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So then, yeah, it wouldn t be me.
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I ll take that one.
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I find that I go through periods where the car is immaculate, and then when I have too many clothes and shoes in the car.
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There are times I will literally come to the car and it s like he s been living out of his car for a long period of time.
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Because I ve started to realise, like, it happened the other night, right?
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You needed a tuck.
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I needed a suit because I had an event to go to and I ve started to realise, so I keep my pickleball stuff in the car, I need a suit in the car, I need a suitcase in the car potentially.
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I find so much of my life is so last minute, I jump on a plane, do this, do that, that I ve started to realise that I need to be more prepared.
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I feel like you weren t prepared for this road trip because where are my beverages?
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No, but we re going to buy some juni when we get there.
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Okay, fine.
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Who s most likely to get car sick in a car that they re not driving?
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Me.
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Me.
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I get car sick so much.
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If I do this, it s bad.
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Let s figure that out though, that kind of like...
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Let s just go a little bit deeper into this, shall we?
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Let s dive into it, Jay.
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Go on.
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I m trying to figure out this whole classic situation.
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Yeah, it s just the imbalance in the ear, babe.
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There s nothing to figure out.
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No, but then how do we solve our imbalance?
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Because we ve had this for a while.
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Yeah, no, it s an imbalance in, like, your eardrum.
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Right.
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So there are different ways you can use peppermint.
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All that really helps me.
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Right, so why didn t you bring peppermint?
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Chewing on ginger, that s really helpful.
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And then if you are reading, read upwards.
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Got it, go on then.
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What s the next question?
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Okay, the next question is, would you need maps to get from our house to go to a grocery store?
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Yes, yes.
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Completely.
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I think Google Maps has really ruined my ability to absorb in things around me.
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I don t know what I would be without Google Maps.
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Well, no, I know what I would be, I don t know where I would be.
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If I m in London, I can really get around, but I feel like ever since we moved to the States, I ve become so reliant on maps.
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Yes, so in conclusion, we both would need maps to get anywhere.
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I m assuming this is a question from you to me.
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Do you not answer texts from me because you re playing hard to get?
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So I told the team that sometimes you don t respond.
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I have to explain this to our friends as well, because our friends will be like, he s rather upset with me, like he s rather OK.
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I m fine.
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I m like, she doesn t reply to her own husband for like seven messages.
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Like, I have to ask her the same question.
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You re someone who like, you re not so succinct though.
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I am succinct.
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Okay, fine.
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It is me, honestly.
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But I also think... You know what I really do think?
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I m going to have a Jay Shetty moment now.
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I believe that we have this terrible habit of wanting people to reply within a day or two.
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And I m like, what if I want to reply within a week?
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But what if we live together?
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Yeah, then you can ask me when you see me.
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Right.
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And I just think that there s this, I don t, I find that the reason I get distracted so fast is because this kneeing of, oh my gosh, I have to reply to this person fast, I have to reply to this email within this amount of time, I have to, and sometimes I just want the freedom, like today I replied back to an email three days later, was anybody hurt by it?
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No.
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Well, if they were, I m sorry, but, or like text messages, someone messaged me and I remembered it this morning, so I was like, oh, four days later, and I don t even feel like I should have to apologize for a late reply, because late is relative.
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Got it.
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But yes, I am bad at it.
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No, no, you ve got really good at it.
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I ve gotten so much better.
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I just find sometimes I need to make a decision.
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Totally.
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Call me.
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I am not a messenger.
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I am so good with calls.
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And I m the opposite.
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I m a messenger.
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You re a messenger.
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Yeah, don t always call me because I ll be in meetings.
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I m a like, if you call me, I will pick up and we can talk.
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I m more than happy to do that.
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But because I have to type so much for work and I m on my phone all the time for that, communication via phone becomes so tedious for me.
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It s not fun.
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So call me, beat me if you want to reach me.
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One of the times I do take calls, which I do love, is when I m driving.
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That s usually my time to take a phone call.
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It speeds up any journey.
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Except LA has such bad reception.
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Fair.
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What would each other s first line be if we met now at a party?
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Oh, interesting.
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Mine would be something like, did you try the vegan tacos?
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Are you vegan?
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What would mine be?
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Mine would be... We never met at a party, so I don t also have that context.
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I think maybe you d probably get into a group convo with people, and then you d say something intellectual, and then I d ask you something.
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Oh, so I d use my intellect.
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Yeah, I think you d use your intellect.
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What s the first song?
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No, but do you know what?
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Let s... Let s get into this.
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No, no, no.
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I really feel for everyone who s dating right now online and stuff, it s really hard.
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It s so hard.
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The struggle is real.
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You have to be interesting on your profile, you have to be interesting on your pictures, then you have to be interesting on text, then you have to be interesting on a voice note, then you have to be interesting in real life.
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And then you get the real life.
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It s because...
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You re forced to have to be interesting at every tiny point of connection.
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No, sometimes I just want to not talk and just be silent.
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You can t do that on dates.
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You can t just be yourself.
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You always feel like you have to show up as a really excitable, interesting person with a lot that you do in life.
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What s your screen time?
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Oh, my gosh.
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Tell me yours.
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I ll tell you mine later.
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I don t even want to tell you.
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Tell me.
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7 hours 30 minutes.
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That makes sense, it s during the work day.
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Let s see what it is though.
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Most used WhatsApp, so like yesterday, was WhatsApp for 3 hours, that s messaging and calls.
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Talking to your mum.
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Instagram for 1 hour 10, not bad.
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Internet surfing for 1 hour.
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Notes section 42 minutes because I write on that.
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Yeah, write your quotes.
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I write my quotes on there, write my little reminders, reflections.
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Google Maps, 30 minutes.
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Messages, 26 minutes.
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And Google Calendar, 23 minutes.
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That s not too bad.
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Honestly, that s probably one of my... And Google Mail, 20 minutes.
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That was writing back to that one email.
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Great.
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Something that makes me crazy is when people say, well, I had this career before, but it was a waste.
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I didn t know we were going to go there.
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people that I admire.
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When we say listen to your body, really tune in to what s going on.
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Now you re talking about sympathy, which is different than empathy, right?
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Oh great, you see me too!
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Listen, both Danielle and I are reporters.
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If our relationship had a theme song, what would it be?
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Pop star?
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Yeah.
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I m a pop star.
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Yeah, I d go with that.
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I don t think that goes with our relationship.
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I think that s great.
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Do you have an ick about me?
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Where to start?
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Yeah, literally.
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I think it used to be when you used to run late.
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I can tell you mine.
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What?
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Mine is because you know you have this photographic memory.
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I let you remember everything.
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Sometimes, even if I know I m in the right, I question myself.
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But you re not in the right.
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I am, though.
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There are some times where you actually get it wrong.
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I don t.
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You do.
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And this is my egg.
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This part.
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You re the stubborn one.
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I don t get anything wrong.
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No, I do get stuff wrong.
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I m actually the first to say I m sorry or first to say I ve got something wrong.
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You are.
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You re the stubborn one.
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I am stubborn.
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It s your stubbornness.
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OK, great.
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It s going to start a fight.
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All right, so we re here.
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Yay.
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Made it.
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Made it.
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Enjoyed that conversation with you.
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Me too.
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It was really great.
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I m really excited to get a little beverage.
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And for the challenge, I am
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Are you ready?
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Are you ready?
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Come on, let s go.
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Let s go get some food.
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Come make me some dinner.
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It s Friday.
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I need some... I need a break, OK?
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Let s do it.
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How do I open this?
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Oh, yeah.
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Amazing.
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Oh, you re not opening my door for me now.
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Oh, sorry.
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See, sorry.
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Shall we do this in here?
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Yeah.
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Let s go.
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That was fun.
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That was so fun.
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I know you re hungry.
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I m going to go home and cook.
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I m going to go home and make lunch for you.
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How does it feel when someone makes your own food for you?
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Honestly great because you know what the amazing thing about cooking and recipes is?
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That you can, like when I cook my mum s food, I can literally cook the same thing with the same recipe and it will never taste the same.
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In a good way.
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In a great way, like everything is so different.
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So when I make your recipe, it will have its own flavour.
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Yeah.
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Because it will be made with love for you.
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Yeah, we ll just be using different hands, different amounts.
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Even if you re measuring things out, somehow things always taste different.
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That s what s so amazing about food.
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Right.
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I m just not a person to speak to when I m not fed.
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Right.
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I don t know whether you re like that.
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Is that how you feel right now?
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That s how I feel right now.
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I get what you re saying, though.
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I get quite hangry as well.
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Do you?
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Don t you?
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Hopset.
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I get more hopset.
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I get hopset.
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Yeah, hopset.
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I get agitated.
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Agitated, right.
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Agitated.
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Agitated.
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So what do we do?
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What do I do when you re agitated?
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Ideally, not talk to me, but we can t do that right now.
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No, we can t.
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Because we re recording a podcast.
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Let s keep this going.
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What do you do to keep yourself, like,
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Because you re someone who expends so much energy during the day, I feel like you re probably one of the most... What s the word for a person who uses their time really well?
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organized.
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No, no, no.
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You are one of the most productive people that I know.
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And you really don t, you know, you re not a time waster.
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You really use your energy and your time so efficiently.
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But I always wonder, and I feel like I get asked this a lot, like, how do you manage to maintain that energy level throughout the day?
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I don t.
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There are times when I feel tired.
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But secondary part to that question is when you do, like right now I feel like I just want to get into bed and do nothing for the rest of the day, but like one can t do that often.
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So what would one do if one was feeling that way and actually, you know, how do you keep motivated and then pick your energy back up?
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I think, first of all, I do love what I do and I m really grateful to get to do what I do.
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I feel like I appreciate that I get to do what I love every day and I don t take that for granted.
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I ve noticed that about you, even if you are feeling that way, you self-soothe a lot in the sense that you self-talk to motivate yourself.
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You don t really rely on other people to bring you...
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You give me encouragement.
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No, but what I m saying is you find ways.
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I know even when you re feeling tired, you re like, no, you know, I may be tired, but this is something that I love doing.
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Or you re constantly talking to yourself in a positive language to motivate yourself or energize yourself.
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Yeah.
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And I ve noticed that about you, where even if you are tired, and even if you re, yeah, I m exhausted, but I ve had, like, the best week, and it s been so productive, and I got this done, and what an amazing thing to be able to do this or this.
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And so I ve noticed that with you, where even, and so I think that language really makes a difference to you.
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Yeah, how we talk to ourselves, yeah.
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And I always say to myself,
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I am tired, so I m accepting.
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Yeah, accepting.
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And then I add an action to solve that.
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So, I am tired and I ll go to sleep tonight.
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I ll sleep early tonight, yeah.
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Yeah, I ll go to sleep early tonight.
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Or, I am tired and tomorrow I m going to sleep on the plane.
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So I ve got a flight tomorrow.
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It s always telling you.
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You know what it is?
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It s your body reacts to how you re feeling and what you re saying to it.
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Yeah, and you re not lying to it.
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You can t just be like, oh, I feel energized.
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It s one of those things where you are always giving it that hope and that something to look forward to where it s like let s just put in that last amount of effort and then just know that I also know you are struggling and I know that this is happening in my body so I m telling you body that we are gonna do this and it s gonna make us feel better.
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And also planning recoup, right?
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Like, I know that... Like last weekend when you planned a little spa day for us.
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Yeah.
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Like, I was looking forward to that the whole week.
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We knew we had a tough couple of weeks before that.
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And now I know I ve got another quite intense, like, seven days ahead.
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Yeah.
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And then I m hoping to have a couple of days of rest.
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And so I think it s also balancing that out and saying, OK, I know I ve got a busy period.
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When am I going to plan some deep rest?
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Totally.
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Rather than going, OK, I m just going to rely on that energy.
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I think people, and by people I mean people like me, we live moment to moment rather than, like there s a lot of people, and I m not saying whether that s good or bad, but there are people who live moment to moment and react according to how they re feeling in the moment.
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And then there are people who, and I think there s a training element to it where, you know, you can t always act on how you re feeling because often how you re feeling may not be
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may not be the right way to do what you need to do.
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Like, I feel a certain way right now, but do I have things to do and do I need to get them done?
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Yes.
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Whereas if I went with how I was feeling and I didn t train myself to push through that sometimes, I wouldn t be able to get done what I need to do.
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So I think it takes an element of training.
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I think that s every single time you re feeling that way, having that talk and pushing yourself to do those things.
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Yeah, that s really smart.
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There you go.
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There you go.
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Solved it.
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What was that last question on the page?
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It was, what kind of party person are you?
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Oh, introvert, extrovert, what was the option?
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No, it was kind of like the, so I know I.
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And the person yawning at the party, but also the person who I find one person to talk to the whole night, usually.
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That s what I do.
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And I stick with that person.
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No, you are like a full-on social butterfly.
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No, I m not!
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Trying to get you out of a party... No, no, this is... So, okay, look.
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I find Jeremy at any party... No, no, this is true.
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When Humble lived here, I would find Humble or Jeremy at any party and we would sit and have a philosophical conversation for an hour and a half.
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That s fact.
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That s fact.
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No, that s fact.
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Ask humble old Jeremy.
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You re the person who... This is that stubbornness coming out in you.
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I know why too.
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No, I know because I m always waiting by the door, waiting for you to leave.
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That s never happened in a million years.
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Are you joking?
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Are you joking?
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Name one place that we went to recently.
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Okay, I m going to ask all my friends, all of our friends tonight when we see them, what usually happens at the end of the night?
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It s you talking to everybody, saying bye for about an hour.
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Yeah, but that s because they re guests at our home or at our event.
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No, when we re out.
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People are rounding about, you re talking to people and I m waiting to go to the next shop and you re just having a drink.
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You re just a chatterer, you are.
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I m definitely not.
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You are.
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You love socialising.
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You know what, though?
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We went to some really beautiful things lately.
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So we were really fortunate to go to Kristen Bell was being honoured by UN Women and for the World Peace Humanitarian Fund.
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That was phenomenal.
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And it was a gala, the first ever gala.
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It was absolutely incredible.
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I think we were both moved by Sharon Stone who spoke.
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Sharon Stone gave such an incredible speech.
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She talked about... She shared so much that I just didn t know about.
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And you know one thing that s made me, that situation made me think, it was about, there was some women who are, you know, advocating for a lot of peace around the world and this was a woman that came from Afghanistan and she was talking about the amount that s happening in Afghanistan and it made me realise
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that there is so much happening around the world that we don t hear about.
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And what makes it to us is based on what the media decides to show us.
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And I find that so interesting, because when I then was thinking about other things that I ve heard through my friends, or, you know, depending on where you re from, originally, you may hear more to do with that country, right.
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And so I was thinking about
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in the other areas of the world that we just don t hear about.
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And there is so much happening around the world that we just don t know about.
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And we can t even... And we can t.
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It s so difficult.
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And it s obviously what s close to you and what s meaningful.
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But it is so interesting that we do kind of live in our own bubble, even though you think we have so much access to other parts of the world.
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Like, they were talking about what s happening in Afghanistan and how, you know, how women are treated.
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Yeah, refugee camps.
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how the women there are treated, and how they re not allowed to go out into even walk by themselves on the street.
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They re not allowed education.
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There s so much.
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Yeah, I was really blown away.
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I think we were both blown away by when Sharon Stone was saying that the average refugee spends 11 years in a refugee camp, and there s no access to toilets and showers for that much time.
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Yeah.
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You know what?
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I was thinking about this.
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My parents were in refugee camps while my mum was for a long time.
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So was my dad for years of their teenage life.
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And their refugee camps, my mum was saying, was actually, it was in London, it was in Scotland, sorry.
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And they were saying they did have those facilities there, but I think maybe in different parts of the world they didn t.
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But I think it s more collective showers, collective toilets.
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And you just think about how different
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people s lives can be.
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My parents went through that for their teenagers.
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They spent it in refugee camps.
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They see it as a place that saved their life.
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They see the refugee camps as we were able to leave an unsafe place to come and take refuge.
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Because they were able to get out.
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Yeah, exactly.
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And so they were so grateful to even have that.
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someone that actually took them in and given that opportunity to start over and start a new life.
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Yeah.
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And then the other event we went to that I think was really beautiful and special this week was the celebration event for Clarence and Jackie Avon.
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Oh, yeah, that was a great event.
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That was just spectacular.
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We re so, so grateful.
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We both were invited by Nicole Avon to celebrate her parents.
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And even though we didn t know her parents,
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I felt like I knew them.
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It was such a beautifully organized event.
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I felt so moved and touched because I walked away going, wow, if only I could even try to serve my community and live in the way her parents did.
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To have that much impact, and whether it s impact online, offline, the people closest to you, the people that you meet in a shop, whatever it is,
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to have that effect where people are so touched by who you are as a person and how you ve gone above and beyond for them, I think it was incredible.
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The number of people in so many different areas, so many different walks of life, I was blown away.
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It was incredible.
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Yeah, it was unbelievable to have that experience and just, yeah, just to hear about how
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Yeah, how someone for that many years as well could continue to support and serve their community.
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I know, I feel like it was from his pretty much teenage years, or both their teenage years, all the way up till 90.
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And still, there were people who had met him at 90 and were sharing how much, even within a couple of months, they had completely changed their perspective on home.
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Yeah, it was really, really special.
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Yeah, it was incredible.
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And then obviously we got to watch this beautiful performance by Stevie Wonder, which I thought was spectacular.
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Oh my gosh, it literally made me cry.
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What a legendary human.
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And then to be able to, I think more than anybody that I ve seen in real life, and we went to Beyonce s concert, we went to so many things, but I don t know, there s something, for me, I ve got a personal kind of nostalgia with Stevie Wonder.
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It was play, my dad used to play it all the time in the car when I was growing up.
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Just an amazing, amazing artist.
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Yeah, really fun events.
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So those are two social events you didn t have to drag me out of.
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There you go.
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I really love attending these events that almost remind you of humanity.
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Like I walked away in different ways.
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One was what we can do to serve, what we can do to help.
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The other one about how we can celebrate humans as well.
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I felt I walked away thinking, how do I want to celebrate my parents?
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How do I want to celebrate what they gave me?
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Yeah, it made me walk away thinking, because there were so many amazing stories that they were telling.
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And it made me walk away thinking is there s these amazing games you can buy and journals that you ask your parents to fill in and to talk about their life before you and even their life throughout you.
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But it s a year long journal.
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I don t know what it s called, but I m going to try and find it again.
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I saw it and it asked questions that you would never normally ask your parents.
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And I realized I want to go back and put all these pictures and things from when they were younger, to actually ask the stories behind the pictures and write them down in the album.
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Because there s one thing about having footage and being like, oh, this is a nice picture.
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But when you have the depth and the story behind it, it makes it so much more meaningful.
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So I m going to do that with my grandma and my parents.
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I was going to tell you to do that with your mom as well.
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Remember when you tried to interview your grandma?
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I did try to interview my grandma.
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I wish there was a way of doing it where she doesn t realise.
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My grandma gets into, like, performer mode when the camera s out, when she gets really serious.
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But I still think I learned so much from that.
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You need to do it in a way when you re just sitting in a room and just have a conversation.
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But I do think it s important.
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I follow this page on Instagram that s all about the questions you should ask your parents.
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Oh my God, look, this car does hand gestures.
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What is that?
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Like, to change things on the screen.
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There it is.
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I ve seen that on BMWs.
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I forgot.
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You can change songs and stuff like this.
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OK, but what are you doing right now?
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That s the hand gesture.
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I don t know what I m doing right now, but that would be like if a song is playing.
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Yeah, I think it s so nice getting to know your parents before you to be able to understand them and how they are with you now.
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I definitely want to invest time in doing that.
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Yeah, definitely.
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It was really beautiful, really, really special.
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And her book is amazing.
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It s called Think You ll Be Happy.
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It s really, really special.
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I was really grateful to have her as a guest on the podcast.
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SPEAKER_00
Oh, I was going to say, my sister s wedding was one of those times that I feel like I really got to celebrate her.
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Yeah.
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And I think it s so interesting.
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You get very few opportunities to celebrate the people that you love.
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and you almost have to take all of them and create more because people don t take that much time to celebrate their own lives and we don t take time to celebrate the people s lives that we love.
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Yeah, so true.
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Birthdays are a good opportunity to do that if you do it properly.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah.
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So, who are you wearing?
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No, no.
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Oh my God, look!
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OK, ready.
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I love how you have energy for stuff like that.
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Okay.
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No, I was just thinking that my sister s wedding was honestly just so much fun.
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Talking about spending time with family and talking about doing amazing things.
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So my sister had five events across seven days.
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She had a proper Indian wedding.
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With an average attendance of over 300 people at every single event.
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And that s a small Indian wedding.
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And that was a small Indian wedding.
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But it was insane and I was more run down from her wedding than I was from my tour.
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And I think the reason is because it was so emotional as well.
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Oh my God, this boy was crying.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, I must have cried.
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SPEAKER_01
He was just crying every day.
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I must have cried.
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Every day, every hour, the whole ceremony.
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You were crying as well.
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I would look across at him and he d be crying and then naturally when people cry, I cry.
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Obviously, I just also love their relationship.
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It s so sweet.
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It s one of the sweetest brother-sister relationships I ve ever come across.
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There was one time where he turned to me and he just stopped crying.
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And then suddenly I look over, he s crying again.
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SPEAKER_01
He looks at me, he goes... She was saying her vows.
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She s so well-spoken.
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I was like, OK, great.
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SPEAKER_01
Yeah, she did really good speeches.
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Like, she went to elocution classes when she was younger.
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SPEAKER_00
She did it, she did it.
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It was just really, he was welling up at her speaking so beautifully.
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SPEAKER_01
I think she said, like, one line.
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But you were crying as well.
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Of course I was crying.
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We love her.
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She s just like... She s a baby.
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Yeah, she s your kid.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah, it was really cute.
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It was really cute.
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And then I cried throughout my whole story.
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Quite through the whole speech, blubbering away.
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It was really sweet, though.
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I don t think... Do you know what it was?
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Actually, the speech was half sweet and half sassy.
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Yeah.
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The first half was legendary.
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SPEAKER_05
The first half... Normally, you know, in speeches, people have a bit of banter.
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Jay took it all the way, bantering.
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It was a full-on comedy set.
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SPEAKER_05
It was.
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Yeah.
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Who knew you were funny?
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I did.
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You did.
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I think what it was, right, about the wedding was I actually realised
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just how much my sister loves me, and I realized how much I love her.
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It was like, that was what I was feeling.
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How you didn t know how much your sister loved you, you are literally the epitome of, like, you re just everything to her.
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SPEAKER_05
There is nothing you could do wrong in her eyes, and even if you do, she s forgiven it within, like, five seconds.
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SPEAKER_05
Well, I think it s also, you know what it is.
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But she knows how much you love her, that s why.
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I think because we live far, I think sometimes I have to put some of my feelings aside to get on with my focus and my drive.
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And there s an element of where I have to
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I don t get to express those emotions all year round.
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SPEAKER_04
Yeah.
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But I am carrying them internally.
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And then they all come out in that moment.
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SPEAKER_00
Yeah.
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Because I don t, you know, I don t get to see my sister every week.
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I don t get to talk to her all the time.
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And when I do even, I ve never found phone conversations to be as fulfilling and as deep as being in person.
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SPEAKER_04
Yeah.
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And so I feel like I carried that love around and then it was all, all had to come out.
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SPEAKER_04
You were so wonderful.
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SPEAKER_04
You helped her with the wedding so much.
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SPEAKER_04
And she was so grateful to you.
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SPEAKER_04
And you did so much for the wedding.
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It was amazing.
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And she did an amazing job planning an epic wedding.
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I was like, I don t know how someone plans five events in seven days.
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In so much detail.
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Yeah, it was insane.
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SPEAKER_04
It was.
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SPEAKER_06
Oh, is that the sound of the car?
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SPEAKER_04
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_06
It sounds like a spaceship.
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SPEAKER_04
It does.
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SPEAKER_04
It feels like a spaceship.
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SPEAKER_06
It does.
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SPEAKER_05
I m excited to eat.
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SPEAKER_05
I m so hungry.
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SPEAKER_04
I know.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some Mexican rice?
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SPEAKER_05
Yeah, honestly, I am.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some stuffed pepper?
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SPEAKER_05
No, we re not doing stuffed pepper.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some cabbage?
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SPEAKER_04
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some cilantro?
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SPEAKER_05
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some avocados?
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SPEAKER_05
Oh my God, fresh guac.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some taco seasoning?
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SPEAKER_05
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some bell peppers?
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SPEAKER_05
Yeah.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some vegan aids?
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SPEAKER_04
Mm-hmm.
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SPEAKER_04
Are you excited for some sour cream?
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Yes.
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There you go, see?
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Remembered everything on the list.
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SPEAKER_04
I actually remembered your recipe.
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SPEAKER_05
Oh my God, you know that game that s like, I went to the store and I bought, but that s usually an alphabetical order, but I went to the store and I bought.
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SPEAKER_04
Asafoetida.
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SPEAKER_04
Oh, I got you there, didn t I?
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SPEAKER_05
I went to the store and I bought asafoetida and beans.
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SPEAKER_04
I went to the store and got some asafoetida, beans and canned tomatoes.
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SPEAKER_05
There s no reason for this to be in the actual cart.
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SPEAKER_04
There is, this is great.
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SPEAKER_05
I went to the store and I bought asafoetida, beans, what did you say?
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Canned tomatoes.
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Canned tomatoes and dried oregano.
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SPEAKER_04
Okay.
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So that was good, that was fun.
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Now we re going to cook and then eat.
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Let s do it.
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All right.
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If everyone wants to see me try and cook this recipe from Radhi s book, For Radhi, tune in to YouTube.
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Yes, please.
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Let s do it.
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If you loved this episode, you ll love my interview with Dr. Gabor Mate on understanding your trauma and how to heal emotional wounds to start moving on from the past.
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It grows where it s soft and green and vulnerable.
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I mean, we all want to be more present and self-aware, more patient, less judgmental.
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I mean, you do?
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Finally, a show about women that isn t just a thinly veiled aspirational nightmare.
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It s not hosted, not narrated.
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I found out when my dad was gay when I was 10.
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We were in a convertible on the 405 freeway, listening to the B-52s.
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This is already all gay.
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