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Coming up next on Passion Strike.
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But to get there, you have to spend countless hours on your own, in empty stadiums, doing the tedious, monotonous work that is skill development, that is running sprints, that is doing squats and push-ups.
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That has to be what you fall in love with, such that you can experience that moment that you dream of.
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and the athletes that fall in love with the process, that get into the detail during practice, that understand that they actually improve the most when they practice away from practice, especially team sports.
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You hear whether it s Larry Bird s story or Michael Jordan s story.
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So practicing away from practice, when you re on your own in the quiet, the early morning hours, the late night hours, that s where the best end up rising to the top.
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Welcome to Passion Struck.
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Hi, I m your host, Jon R. Miles, and on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and guidance of the world s most inspiring people and turn their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you.
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Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the best version of yourself.
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We have long-form interviews the rest of the week with guests ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries, and athletes.
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Now let s go out there and become Passion Struck.
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Hello everyone and welcome back to episode 451 of Passion Struck.
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I am so excited to announce that my new book, Passionstruck, is a finalist for the Eric Hoffer Grand Prize Award for best book of the year.
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And you can find it at Amazon or on the Passionstruck website.
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In case you missed it, last week I had three phenomenal interviews.
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With astronaut Steve Bowen, New York Times bestselling author Bronnie Ware and Jerry Hussey, the number one peak performance coach in Ireland.
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In my interview with Steve Bowen, we explored the critical moments and decisions that propelled Steve s career into the stratosphere.
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He ll share how he tackled self-doubt and the unexpected twists on his path to the stars.
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In my interview with Bronnie Ware, author of the internationally bestselling book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, she shares powerful stories and lessons about living without regrets
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embracing authenticity and finding true fulfillment.
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And lastly, in my interview with Jerry Hussey, Ireland s premier health and performance coach, we discussed his transformative approach to achieving sustainable high performance while nurturing health and well-being.
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Jerry goes into his journey from preparing Olympic athletes for the world stage to writing his acclaimed books, Awaken Your Power Within and The Freedom Within.
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Today, I am absolutely thrilled to be joined by a true titan of lacrosse and a visionary entrepreneur, Paul Rabel.
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Paul Rabel s 14-year career as a professional lacrosse player in the United States is marked by extraordinary achievements and groundbreaking milestones.
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In 2019, while still an active player, Paul co-founded the Premier Lacrosse League, where he continued to compete for the final three seasons of his illustrious career before retiring in 2021.
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His accolades include winning two World Lacrosse Championship gold medals and earning the title of a 10-time All-Star in Major League Lacrosse.
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where he also secured two league championships.
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Often referred to as the Michael Jordan or Wayne Gretzky of lacrosse, Paul s rise from a determined young athlete to becoming the sport s first million-dollar man and the founder of the PLL has cemented his legacy as a legendary figure in the world of sports.
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But Paul s path wasn t just about athletic prowess.
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It was about creating a manual for greatness, a manual he meticulously compiled through conversations with icons like Bill Belichick, Steph Curry, and Sue Bird.
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In his new book, The Way of the Champion, Pain, Persistence, and the Path Forward, he delves into this journey, offering a blueprint that transcends sports and applies to the boardroom and beyond.
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In our interview, Paul will share the profound lessons from his incredible journey, from tackling personal challenges like auditory processing disorder, to overcoming professional hurdles such as losing a world championship and enduring a public divorce.
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He ll reveal how embracing vulnerability, building relationships with world-class talents, and maintaining a rigorous mindset shaped him into the champion he is today.
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We ll explore how the principles of The Way of the Champion can empower you to excel in adversity, set ambitious goals, and discover
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your strengths.
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Whether you re an athlete, an entrepreneur, or anyone with a dream, Paul s insights will help you navigate your path to success.
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So get ready to be inspired, to learn, and perhaps to start writing your own manual for greatness.
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Thank you for choosing PassionStruck and choosing me to be your host and guide on your journey to creating an intentional life.
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Now, let that journey begin.
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I am absolutely thrilled and honored to have Paul Rabel join us on Passion Struck.
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Welcome, Paul.
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Hey, thanks for having me, John.
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Excited to be here.
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When I do these interviews, I like to start off by giving the audience some context of who I m interviewing.
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And for you, I wanted to do that by exploring your childhood a little bit.
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It turns out that you and I have a few things in common.
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And like you, I also faced an auditory processing disorder growing up.
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So I know firsthand what it s like to experience that.
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How did having to overcome that learning difference and also ADHD shape your approach to overcoming adversity?
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Well, it s nice to hear we have that in common.
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I view our learning differences, our challenges in life as one that can ultimately render itself as a gift.
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So for me, growing up and struggling in the classroom because I just learned differently,
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required me to study more, study harder, develop mnemonic devices as techniques to retain information, learn how to storytell, make sense of things through alternative narratives.
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That extra workload made its way onto the field as I developed into a high school, college, and then professional athlete.
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I just noticed that I worked harder than everyone else.
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And I think it was ingrained in me because that was how I assimilated to the traditional education system.
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If we re lucky enough in life to progress and develop a sense of perspective, we realize that our greatest challenges were ultimately the biggest avenues of growth.
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It s very interesting because my daughter inherited the auditory processing dysfunction as well.
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And
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just seeing how hard she s had to work to achieve what she s achieved, but also how much fulfillment it s brought her is really interesting from the eyes of a parent.
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When I think about learning and processing, you hear it on the athletic field all the time, where a coach will get mad at his player and he ll say, you re not listening.
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And you sit back and you go, I am listening.
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And it becomes an emotional thing.
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That s how relationships end up in rows.
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I ve learned through the educational process for me that
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First, consuming the information, whether it s through reading or listening, viewing.
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The second is then writing it down.
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So I ve been keeping journals for 25 years.
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I fill them up every quarter, and I would always take notes in class.
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The third is actually the one most left off, and that s teaching the material or at least attempting to verbalize it to someone else.
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And I learned that in an R&D class I took when I was younger.
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And I feel it now, especially as a coach to a lot of the younger next generation lacrosse players, is it s difficult when you first give it a go.
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That s why we should always practice ahead of our oral presentations.
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But the process of sharing the information that you just learned and wrote down completes a full loop for me stored into long term memory.
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I found I have to do the same exact thing and people would always ask me, you just write constantly during these meetings and for me it was the way that my mind worked I had to write it down if I wanted to retain it.
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And then even if I was in a meeting I tried to ask questions back to the people who were in the meeting, basically reiterating
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what they were saying.
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So what you were taught, it seems was the same thing that I was taught.
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I want to jump into defining greatness, because you wanted to be great from a young age.
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How do you define greatness for yourself?
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And how has that definition evolved over time?
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It s a great question.
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I think it s first starts with the eye of the beholder.
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And the lessons that I have learned from my peers and going through the process on my own of trying to be the best lacrosse player in the world and win championships and MVPs is that you first have to dream big.
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You have to set the biggest goals for yourself.
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That s the way to first test what your human potential is.
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Going back to the full circle of how we discussed storing new information in the long-term memory, I also believe that having the vulnerability to step into the spotlight and profess that you want to be the greatest is also part of the manifestation trend.
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And then after all that big dreaming is done, we have to act small.
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And that means every single day, having the discipline, having the focus, having the level of commitment, a lot of it s critical thought, that will lay the groundwork to your improvement over a long period of time.
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There is no such thing as an overnight success.
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Companies that reach success starting from the startup phase, it often takes them 10 years.
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Athletes, it will take them 20.
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So you have to commit to the small steps for the long haul.
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I love that.
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Similar to you writing your first book, which we re going to be talking more about today.
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I just released my first book in February, and one of my chapters was called The Bee and Turtle Effect.
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And what I m trying to explain to people is that you have to be like the turtle who thinks about things from the long-term perspective and is willing to be slow and methodical about the journey.
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But you also need to be like the bee and active in the everyday moments where you re trying to do tasks that get you closer to your long-term
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ambitions and aspirations so very much aligns to what I talked about.
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So for the audience who might not be familiar with you, you are often referred to as the Michael Jordan or Tom Brady or Wayne Gretzky of lacrosse, which really speaks volumes about your impact on the sport.
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However, a lot of listeners might not be from the East Coast and might not really understand the game of lacrosse.
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And it was interesting for me to learn as I was doing my research that it actually dates back to the 17th century.
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Could you provide a little bit of background for listeners on what are some aspects of lacrosse that make it so distinct and exciting?
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Yeah, and probably further back, so 17th century discovered by colonists that came over from France and England.
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This is a Native American game.
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It s the first sport of North America.
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It goes back thousands of years.
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Early documentation in 11 and 1200 AD.
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Now, the Native Americans played it
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in two ways.
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One, which comes from the Haudenosaunee people, which represent the six nations, is through what they would call ceremony or their longhouse, and that is the version of the game they call medicine game.
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And so it was very much played to celebrate the creator and it was a spiritual practice.
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The other version that they called Dejuntique Juaez is essentially, what that also means is they bump hips, was a version of the game that was meant for recreational purposes and to solve conflict.
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And that version of lacrosse was sometimes over fields that stretched miles long with hundreds of players per side, no time, no boundaries.
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And it was sport or the game in its truest essence.
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So then comes over a Frenchman who ended up being French-Canadian.
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His name was George Beers, and he saw a native nation called the Kanakawe playing the game.
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He spent time with their leaders to figure out how to essentially build the first rule book.
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And for a long time, it was the national sport of Canada because of George Beers.
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And he, along with the Kanakawe, so the Montreal Lacrosse Club and the Kanakawe, would tour not only North America, but they went over to the UK.
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to play lacrosse and share the game.
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From there, it made its way into New York, where Manhattan College and NYU were the first universities to play in the 1800s.
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And then Johns Hopkins, my alma mater, played against Maryland in 1895, which is considered the rivalry in college sports, the North Carolina versus Duke basketball.
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And it has made its way through the youth high school, college,
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into the international level over the last two centuries.
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It was once an Olympic sport in 1904, 1908.
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And then as the Olympics began their commercial approach to the international games every four years, they had some requirements like having governing bodies out there where lacrosse fell off.
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cut to when we announced the build of our league that I oversee called the Premier Lacrosse League in 2019.
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One of our outside the box efforts was getting lacrosse back into the Olympics.
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And we announced this past November alongside Casey Wasserman and the LA 2028 folks that lacrosse will indeed be back in the Olympics come 28 in Los Angeles.
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So a crazy story.
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It s a really wild story that s unknown by many.
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No, I think it s fantastic because my son played lacrosse.
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We were living in North Carolina where it was a pretty big sport and I loved it because it kind of fuses hockey, which I loved playing, soccer, football, kind of into one sport with elements of each.
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Because it s predominantly played in Eastern states, we moved from
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North Carolina to Austin, Texas, where it was actually still being played.
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They just weren t as good at it.
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And then unfortunately, we moved to where I live now in the Tampa Bay region, and they weren t playing it at all.
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And the only way that my son could have played was by joining a traveling team.
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And this is something I wanted to ask you about, because
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There s a concern that I often hear about that the demands of travel sports are negatively impacting American families.
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And for people who don t live in the regions where lacrosse is played the most, that s their only option.
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How do you think people who find themselves in this situation can maintain a healthy balance when a child s involvement in travel sports can sometimes become too central to the family s overall life?
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Yeah, yeah, it s a great question.
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So a couple of things.
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First is that James Naismith, who started basketball, was also Canadian, and he took those peach baskets and the idea of a ball.
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He played lacrosse before basketball.
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And lacrosse truly is, I think, an amalgamation of
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The big four sports that we see today, so you have the endurance of soccer, the contact of football, the agility and hand-eye coordination of basketball and baseball.
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It really is the best of all, is the way that I feel.
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And really, I think a reason why if a lacrosse player in your neighborhood, they are so passionate about it.
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It really fulfills the wider range of skill sets and even artisanship.
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The reason why it was for a long time mostly played in the Northeast is that s where it was created as we discussed with the Haudenosaunee making its way from New York down to Maryland.
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And then the other two areas is there just wasn t greater leadership over the last 100 years that was both lobbying publicly and investing privately in the game s growth out West.
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And that s what sort of football, basketball, and baseball in America had.
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So there s the coaching component, it s really important.
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And then the other piece is lacrosse, because it s an equipment sport, is more like hockey and golf than it is like basketball and soccer, meaning it requires an expensive upfront payment, if not otherwise covered by your local rec in town program.
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And that inherently creates a barrier to playing anything.
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I study youth sports quite a bit.
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And for us to make an investment as parents and players, I think often is led by a love or passion for whatever it is that we want to invest in.
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And with equipment sports that cost money and are not funded by your local town and rec,
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you re essentially asking a family to invest before they know if they love.
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That s why I also love getting to your question, the purity of rec sports and town play versus the threat of privatized club and travel leagues.
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Now, just like in any industry, there is a benefit to being able to, if you choose as a family, to go play travel lacrosse for the same reasons that there are perceived benefits if you want to play AAU basketball.
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or club soccer.
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Oftentimes it requires some fundraising, and the other time a lot of travel, which can be expensive for households.
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I think for similar reasons as
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we had discussed in the first chapter of this conversation, thinking big and acting small.
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As a society, we struggle with holding space for two things that might actually feel like they oppose each other, but can both be true at the same time, meaning we can have a really good public sports environment, which is our rec in town, and also have private club and travel options for certain families or players that desire that.
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Now, what we don t want, and this is the trend we see over the last 10 years, is that because private and club sports have gotten so big that town and rec deteriorates.
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And the primary reason it s deteriorating is because kids who get cut from the club team are no longer playing.
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Town and Rec because it s perceived as not cool.
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So it s incumbent on leadership to make Town and Rec feel cool, right?
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It s like Pop Warner football.
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That was named off of a famous football coach.
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And there is a vibe and a brand that is associated with it, the Little League World Series.
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So I think that it s incumbent on operators to continue to invest in rec sports.
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Now, the recommendation that I ll give to parents that are deciding whether or not to invest in private sports for their kids or sports specialized, which has also been a trend over the last 10 years, meaning
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Fewer kids today are playing multiple sports, and they re choosing one sport to play year-round at a very early age.
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That s not part of my generation or my parents  generation.
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My parents  generation guided me to playing four sports a year until my sophomore year in high school, when we looked at data and my emotional commitment to lacrosse to say, OK, I m going to stop playing basketball, soccer, track, and field.
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So here s the deal.
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I understand the viewpoint of parents and kids who want to sport-specialize because the route to getting a college scholarship is pretty linear.
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You re going to know by the time you re 18.
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So if you re just doing the math and saying, well, I d rather play for four seasons a year when I m 12 so that I have six years of runway to getting the most time in the calendar to develop my skill at the highest level such that I can achieve a scholarship, I understand that skill acquisition.
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The other side of it as an athlete more widely, your muscle agility, your emotional agility, the exposure to different teammates and coaches, different sport disciplines actually make you a more well-rounded athlete with greater potential.
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So threading the needle is I think all kids should play as many sports as they want to, should they be able to afford or get into the programs locally.
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And then if they really want to specialize,
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The parents and the kids need to balance the timing of doing such.
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And I believe that there s more data to support the decision that meets the eye.
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Parents and players are going to be biased.
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They often, and I was, and my parents were, think that we re better than we are.
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But you can look at the stat sheet.
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You can look at, is your kid a starter?
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Are they practicing when they re not being told to practice?
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I think that s important.
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Are they the best player on their team?
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Do they become the best player in the league, the best player in the city and state?
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We have to remind ourselves that it s really difficult to play college sports and extraordinarily difficult to make it into the pros.
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So this has to be a mindset that s backed by performance data to suggest that, OK, let s go all in.
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Thank you for really answering that in a comprehensive way.
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And I ve seen this play out firsthand because my nephew was a really good soccer player.
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And for him in Chattanooga, Tennessee, they were limited by how many teams they could play.
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So he played club because they thought it was his only ticket to potentially playing professionally or in college.
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But I remember
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My brother, one week he s in Tennessee, the next week he s in North Carolina, the next week he s in Virginia, the next week- It s hard.
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It is.
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Paul, let s talk about your new book, The Way of the Champion, Pain, Persistence, and the Path Forward.
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Congratulations.
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Thank you.
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I went to the Naval Academy.
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I should say I graduated from the Naval Academy, and that s where I first really became familiar with lacrosse because so many of my friends played, and back then the Academy was a top 10 team.
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But I bet not many of the listeners know that Bill Belichick spent much of his life on the Naval Academy grounds from the age of four on.
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His father, for those of you who don t know it, was an assistant football coach for 33 years.
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In fact, a couple of my classmates were able to send me a picture that his parents are actually buried on the Academy grounds.
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I bring this all up because Bill wrote the foreword for your book and I wanted you to tell the story of how you met him and then how he actually recruited you to be a safety for the Patriots.
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So coach is a dear friend.
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He s been a mentor.
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I ve known him for about 20 years now.
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He grew up playing lacrosse.
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It s one of his primary loves.
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He keeps sticks in his office like I do back here.
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And whenever we get together, we try to go have a catch and a shot on net.
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He used to watch his father study film at the Naval Academy, and that s why he became such a great student of football, cut to winning eight Super Bowls.
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Coach Belichick has a level of curiosity and humility unlike anyone I ve ever met that is at the top of their game.
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And the way that comes to life is he is always asking questions.
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He s asking for help.
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He s looking across the aisle at his peers in other industries to try to learn.
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In this case, my head coach at Johns Hopkins, Dave Petromala, became friendly with Coach Belichick because Coach Belichick wanted to understand how this team in Baltimore had been the number one team in the country for six straight years and gone to six straight Final Fours and won two national championships.
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So he met with Coach Petro, asked if he could come to a practice.
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When I heard that Coach Belichick, my junior year, was coming to one of our practices, I asked, as a captain, my coach, if I could get 10 minutes of time with him.
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So he asked Coach Belichick.
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Bill said, sure.
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After practice, I sat in an office with him and probably pelted him with 20 questions of my own.
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So the two of us built a bond and then a friendship over those next two years, I think, around our shared curiosity.
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That ties into a lot of the lessons that I share in the book.
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I would say if you look at the best athletes, entrepreneurs, and entertainers in the world, they re all incredibly curious.
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And that s why they develop at a rate that they do.
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That s why they have so much resilience.
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That s why they are able to respond from loss so well, is they comprehend, they understand, and they ask questions.
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So I finished my career at Johns Hopkins, began playing professional lacrosse, was on the national team my second year out of graduating.
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And Coach Belichick and I would try to get in the habit of going to dinner a couple times a year, and he would invite me out to watch the Patriots play.
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And at one of our dinners, he had asked if I had ever thought about playing in the NFL.
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And I told him yes.
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I told him that I was interested in being a receiver.
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He thought I d be a better strong safety.
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We left the conversation saying, hey, let s think about next summer, coming to OTAs and giving this thing a shot.
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So I started working my traction conditioning coach.
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This was before, by the way, Chris Hogan made the crossover, who was also a college lacrosse midfielder like me.
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He went to Penn State.
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Then he ended up trying out in the NFL five years later.
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Bill Belichick takes Chris Hogan to be a receiver on the Patriots, and Chris ended up winning three Super Bowls.
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It s weird how life comes full circle.
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When Chris retired from the NFL, he came back and played in our league, the PLL, for a season and was my teammate for my last season playing.
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Going backwards, Bill and I decided together that the more
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Daring path for me would be to stay in lacrosse and try to pursue greatness to your first question John He knew that I had just come off an MVP campaign I was a starting midfielder for Team USA and that I wanted to play for the next 15 years of my life and while I could have Grinded it out in as a practice roster player then broken a roster worked my way up having the
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courage to build something from scratch, when many were telling us that we couldn t, was where we arrived.
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And that began my professional career as a lacrosse player, then entrepreneur.
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Thank you for sharing that.
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I was recently watching the Netflix documentary on John Elway s draft pick, and I bring it up given the draft
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was last night.
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And it was so interesting to me that he did not want to play for a certain team.
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Yeah.
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And therefore he was leveraging major league baseball as much as he possibly could.
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But I look at these situations, whether it s him or Bo Jackson or Deion Sanders, or even Tom Brady could have played.
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And I think trying to play two professional sports, even Michael Jordan at the Luce
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your abilities, because I think that the skill set that you need in one sport can be drastically different than how you have to train yourself for another sport.
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But we don t have to explore more of that.
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That s just my personal thought.
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No, I write about having singular focus.
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If you want to achieve a championship,
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career and strive for greatness.
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You have to be so singularly focused on your discipline where sacrifice becomes easy.
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And I think when you are doing two things that are extraordinarily difficult at the same time, you will not reach your potential in either.
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I think it s a great point and people have told me since I launched the podcast, why aren t you building all these courses out and why haven t you been doing all this consulting and why aren t you doing more keynotes and things like that?
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And I figured to be an expert in being a podcaster, that should be my focus.
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And once I got closer to that, then I would start branching out, which I m now doing with the book and speaking.
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But the results speak for itself.
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Yesterday, I was ranked the number two health podcast in the world.
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Amazing.
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Ahead of Jay Shetty, ahead of Lewis Howes.
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And I wouldn t have gotten there, I think, if I were diluting my time, so to speak.
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So I completely agree with your point there.
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Yeah, and I think it s a mindset, too, because, John, I m sure you do other things, right?
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And there s a lot of people out there that are probably singularly focused on their career and then have a family.
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So it s also understanding how to manage time and manage your energy and pursue hobbies that you frame are hobbies, right?
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Like, I love to paint.
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I love to play music.
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Those were things that I was able to compartmentalize.
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I might do this once a month.
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I am not aiming to be one of the greatest artists of the 21st century by any stretch.
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So it is very possible to be singularly focused, in my case, on being the greatest lacrosse player in the world and also pursue these other hobbies of interest and not hold that bar to yourself, right?
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We are our own biggest critics.
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And so to have a conversation with yourself around where everything falls in a range of priorities is important.
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So one of my favorite things that I talk about is something that Stephen Covey actually brought up.
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And he says the main thing about the main thing is keeping the main thing.
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And it sounds so easy, but it is so freaking hard to do.
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And the other thing I say all the time is the greatest person you ever meet in your life is the person who stares back at you in the mirror.
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But the biggest critic that you ll ever meet in your life is that person who stares back at you in the mirror and
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You really have to learn how to overcome becoming your own visionary arsonist to achieve the things that you want in life.
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Yep.
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And that s when you start implementing process.
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And going back to Bill Belichick, his famous phrase that everyone knows is, do your job.
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He was so good at saying, OK, we have these big ambitions.
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We want to win multiple Super Bowls in a row.
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We re bringing in new draftees.
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We re making big trades.
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People have families.
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There s distractions.
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How do I get everyone to just focus on the process?
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And I think that s really important.
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So once we have these ideas, and these visions, and we want to go execute is always getting down to, okay, what do I need to do now?
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How do I do my best ability?
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And how am I planning for what I m going to do next?
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Yeah, I m glad you brought that up.
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Because I interviewed Sean Springs on this show a couple of years ago.
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I love Sean.
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Yeah, yeah.
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If people don t know who he is, Sean played for the Seahawks.
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Then he played for the Redskins.
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Now the national now whatever they re gonna call themselves commanders.
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Yeah.
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if that even sticks, and then the Patriots.
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And I asked him, what made the Patriots so much different?
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Could he actually feel a difference?
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And he said it was completely the system.
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He said there were no excuses.
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Everyone came in there to do a job, and you were expected to come and show up every single day and to treat practice just as you would treat a game.
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So it definitely is a mentality.
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And I think I love that interview with him because it showed just how different each team was.
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Yeah, I mean, I can share a story through Marty Bennett, who s a friend of mine and one of the great receiving tight ends, was on the Patriots team the year they made that heroic comeback against the Atlanta Falcons in the Super Bowl.
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And Marty got traded over the Patriots and said that exact thing that Sean Spring says, man, the culture was crazy.
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You get into training camp and it is about the Super Bowl.
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And believe it or not, there is this misconception that
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If you re playing professional sports, that your level of commitment and discipline, the playbook is so high, the playbooks are so dense, every team believes that they re going to win.
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That s not true.
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Some athletes out there that are in the pros have gotten there by talent mostly.
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It s rare to find the Tom Brady that has the entire package, that commitment, that discipline, that competitive fire.
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And then the Patriots is just truly an organization that is embedded in winning.
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So getting back to Marty, as they won the AFC championship, he came in the locker room with celebrating, and everyone was sitting in their locker room, in their lockers, looking at him like he had three heads.
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And he was like, what s the deal?
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They were like, we re here to win a Super Bowl, not an AFC championship.
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And he was floored by that.
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Cut to the Super Bowl and why the Patriots are so thoughtful.
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This even ties into Bill Belichick.
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Is Super Bowl week prep?
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Bill actually builds in 30 minute breaks to their practice to embody the elongated Super Bowl halftime show.
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That s super nuanced, but a lot of people don t think, oh gosh, an athlete is going in the locker room and hanging out for 30 minutes before they go play the second half of the biggest game of their life.
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So he creates that simulation.
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You get to the game, they re down 21 to three, 24 to three, whatever it was at halftime.
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Marty comes in to the locker room, he said, everyone was focused on their job.
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There wasn t like, oh, how do we get here?
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We re playing so poorly.
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We re not going to be able to come back and win.
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Everyone was focused on their job.
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And then one of the assistant coaches came over to him and said, hey, this second half, we re going to ask you to chip block.
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not go out for passes.
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And he was leading the league in touchdown receptions as a tight end.
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He didn t come over there and chip block, but he goes, right, okay, I ll do it.
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And he said, he chip blocked the shit out of everyone in the second half.
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And we all know the story of the Patriots coming back and winning.
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So it talks about culture, that lesson is in culture, in preparation, in humility, and then in execution.
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Yeah, I m a huge Eagles fan and I thought we blew it two Super Bowls ago.
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But when you, I would hate it to have been an Atlanta Falcons fan during that Super Bowl, because wow, who would ever thought that come back?
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Well, something I wanted to tie into here is last year on the podcast, I had Alan Stein, who you might know, and Sally Jenkins, the journalist on the show.
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And earlier this morning, I was talking to my friend, David Nurse, who s a former NBA player.
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And we were talking about
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Your interview and this whole concept that they all talk about, which is the unseen hours, those moments of hard work behind the scenes that elevate great athletes to elite status, which is what you were just talking about with Bill Belichick and how he approaches this.
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How has you doing this work in the unseen hours transform your performance and what should a listener learn about from this concept?
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Well, it s actually interesting because the cover of the book was designed to try to encapsulate exactly what you re talking about.
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You ll see the print, The Way of the Champion, and then it s an empty stadium.
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And there s a picture of me running stairs.
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Because as athletes, we always dream about playing in a national championship game, sold out at Gillette Stadium, 70,000 people there, overtime, ball on our stick, game on the line, chance to win it for our alma mater.
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That s the dream.
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But to get there, you have to spend countless hours on your own, in empty stadiums, doing the tedious, monotonous work that is skill development, that is running sprints, that is doing squats and push-ups.
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That has to be what you fall in love with, such that you can experience that moment that you dream of.
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And the athletes that fall in love with the process, that get into the detail during practice, that understand that they actually improve the most when they practice away from practice, especially team sports.
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If you are a skill position player in lacrosse, and you go to your team practice every day, at most you re going to take 20 shots.
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And that s going to, most of the time, live during shooting drills.
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But when you re out on your own, you can get a hundred shots up in 30 minutes, 200 shots.
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And so you hear whether it s Larry Bird s story or Michael Jordan s story.
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So practicing away from practice.
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When you re on your own in the quiet, the early morning hours, the late night hours, that s where the best end up rising to the top.
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In the book, in addition to Bill, Bill check, you highlight stories from some of the greatest athletes and coaches in the world.
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And I wanted to
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Talk about one of them I could talk about a lot of them, but you write about Steph Curry, who s renowned for his long range three pointers.
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But I think what people don t understand.
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I m going to share another story and then I ll share the one that you had in the book is that he practices almost more with his non dominant hand than he does with his dominant hand because he didn t want there to be a difference between the two when he needed to execute a play, but he also emphasizes.
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that he doesn t start by practicing those long three pointers.
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He starts by going close to the basket and even as great as he is focusing on form and mechanics.
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How does this methodical approach to skill development influence your performance and mindset in games?
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And what could the audience learn from this example?
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Yeah, I always think about it from a sports skill standpoint, is you can t do the extraordinary until you master the ordinary, and the ordinary is fundamentals.
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And Steph has told me time and again, and also tell my own experience growing up, that he starts in the paint.
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That s the name of one of our chapters, is Start in the Paint.
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And so when we see Steph on television knocking down 40-foot jumpers, it always starts with him shooting from four feet.
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And in close, in tight in lacrosse is where we can actually continue to hone in on our fundamentals and master our form.
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So I think
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Steph is an embodiment of an artist who paints all over the canvas, but had to establish the canvas first.
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So when you re out there as a young athlete, or even a professional, you have to maintain that mindset.
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Don t show up on a lacrosse field and begin your shooting workout from two point range.
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Don t show up on a basketball court and start chucking up threes.
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Start in tight, build repetition, muscle memory,
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consistency, then step out.
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And the personal story is Morgan Wooten is one of the greatest coaches in basketball history, was the coach at my high school, DeMatha.
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And before I ever knew who Steph Curry was, then met him down the road, and I suspect his father, Dell, was either taught this from a Morgan Wooten or someone like that, is everyone at practice had to start directly under the rim.
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make 10 swishes in a row, then step back another 10, then step back another 10.
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However, this was with full form.
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So that means a gooseneck follow through the ball goes up and down.
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It s not a touch shot from one foot out to the basket.
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So you re really working on your fundamentals no matter how close you are.
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I then took that drill and added it to lacrosse.
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And over 20 years, my first set of reps were always at the island, which we call which is five, five and five, five yards outside the post and five yards up.
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I got made fun of a lot because Paul, you re never going to shoot from there in a game, which was mostly true.
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But they didn t realize I was honing in on my fundamentals.
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Such an important topic and thank you for sharing that.
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Another thing that I ve heard you describe yourself as is a competitive compromiser.
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Can you elaborate on how you balance the need for competitiveness with the necessity for kindness and empathy?
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That s a great question.
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I will zoom out and first explain the structure of the book.
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The book s called The Way of the Champion.
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The subtitle is Pain, Persistence, and the Path Forward, which I tend to get along with.
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The only two things we can count on in life, and especially in sports, is pain and patience.
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We ve talked about playing the long game.
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Pain, you will lose.
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The greats all lose.
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And actually, counterintuitive to what people think, winning comes easy to them.
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They ve actually lost more than most.
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They ve built resilience.
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And through that resilience, they succeed.
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So understanding that, we talked about the cover of the book.
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And then the book is broken into three parts, amateur,
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professional than beyond the game.
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Some of the lessons that I ve pulled and shared are reoccurring, but others evolve.
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And in the beyond the game portion of our lives, when we retire or no longer play, it becomes about service.
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What I learned in my version of beyond the game and starting the PLL is that, oh, to be successful in a boardroom means working with your partners, working with others.
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The greatest partnerships allow the greatest businesses to grow.
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In sport, you re trying to take out your competitor.
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You re not looking to bring other people in.
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It s your locker room versus the rest of the world.
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And it is the hardest worker in the room, the team with the greatest chemistry, and those that don t let up, whether they re winning or losing.
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In business, it s about compromise.
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If you enter a partnership where you re getting a leg up in the negotiation, assume that partnership s not going to renew.
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So I talk about competitive compromise as the third portion of my book evolves and the lessons then transmit into our careers, into our romantic lives, into our family and friends.
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into our community service.
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I think compromise becomes very underrated, is often misunderstood, and it s a key to success.
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After hearing about our Secretary of State s visit to China today and reading the news, it seems to me like competitive compromise is something that might work well in that relationship.
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My last question for you is, you have achieved so much in sports, in the PLL, in all the businesses that you started.
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What new mountains are you looking to climb in the coming years?
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Well, right now, in the spirit of our singular focus discussion, is making lacrosse a top five sport in North America.
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And the vessel of which I m working day to day on is through the Premier Lacrosse League.
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So how do we become a top five sports league in North America?
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But to become a bigger league, we need more participants at the grassroots level.
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We need more nations.
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Playing the game, we need accessibility to increase.
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So a lot of my time spent in this mountain that I m climbing is around getting sticks in hands, goals on field, attention on the cross, educating people on the history of the game.
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It is an enormous mountain.
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But it s one that I m uniquely positioned to climb, given that I ve played for almost 30 years of my life.
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And it s a game that I feel not only spiritually connected to, but really love as a former athlete.
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Paul, it was such an honor to have you on Passion Struck today.
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Thank you so much for joining us.
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And congratulations not only on your book, but what you re doing with the PLL.
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Appreciate you, John.
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Thanks for having me.
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It s a great conversation.
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When we look through the lens of what I want, this is about acquiring things.
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And the problem is that when that is your focus, those things become very important because that defines who you are, you believe.
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And it results in only a very shallow sense of happiness and one that s quite transparent.
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You have to keep feeding that machine.
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Versus Uttamanic happiness, which I believe most people want to aspire to.
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And that is having a sense of purpose and meaning in your life that drives your behavior.
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And that is a type of happiness.
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It s not as exhilarating necessarily as hedonic happiness.
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but it is very deep and it is one that supports you in the sense that when you just think about who you are as a human being, what you have accomplished, what you ve done to improve other people s lives, it gives this very warm, deep, calming
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