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I think we often feel that no has to be felt like a door slamming in your face or someone facepalming you, right?
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We almost imagine a no to feel like rejection.
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And I think that when we decline an invitation, it doesn t have to feel like a closed door.
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It can feel like a gentle communication, a gentle nudge to say, hey, I would have loved this.
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Thank you so much.
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I am so grateful.
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I appreciate it so much, but I won t be able to make it.
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Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose.
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Thank you so much for tuning in, checking in with yourself, whether you re walking your dog, whether you re cooking, whether you re driving, whether you re training at the gym right now, wherever you are, thank you so much for being here.
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Thank you for trusting me.
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I am so happy that I get to connect with you at these really important times in your life.
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I think that
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Right now, with the holidays around the corner, it s natural for anxiety and stress to be high.
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It s a heavy time because you re meeting family, maybe family that triggers you.
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Maybe family that causes you stress.
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Maybe it s stressful because you re worried about your finances.
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It might have been a difficult year money-wise, and it s getting to that time of year where you re trying to make important choices for this year and next year.
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Maybe you lost someone during this time of year a few years back.
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And whenever it swings around to the holidays, you re reminded of how special those times used to be, and you re struggling to find that new normal.
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Or maybe the stress and anxiety exists because you ve got to go to so many parties, you ve got to talk to so many people, you ve got to show up to your work party, your friend s party, your family s party, there s so much going on.
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If you re feeling stressed right now, I want you to know that s okay and it s normal.
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If you re feeling anxious right now, I want you to know it s okay and it s normal.
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And if you re feeling overwhelmed right now,
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I want you to know it s okay and it s normal.
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I think when we don t acknowledge our stress, when we don t acknowledge our anxiety, when we don t acknowledge our overwhelm, it actually just grows.
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It actually gets worse and it actually feels like it increases because it s almost like trying to avoid something that you know is there.
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And all it s trying to do is get your attention.
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Your stress, your anxiety is simply trying to get your acknowledgement, your recognition, and your validation.
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It s trying to say, look, I m here.
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Don t ignore me.
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I m trying to warn you.
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I feel a certain way.
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And the more we try to avoid it, the more we try to pigeonhole it or get it stuck in a box, the more it has to shout and scream and knock for our attention.
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So the best thing you can do for your stress is be aware of it.
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And the worst thing you can do for your stress is try to avoid it.
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Remember that.
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The best thing you can do for your stress is to be aware of it, to acknowledge it.
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And the worst thing you can do for your stress is to avoid it or try to pretend that it doesn t exist in the first place.
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Now, as I mentioned before, there are so many reasons for us to feel stressed.
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And I looked at a study that said that 66% of people feel they feel more stressed during the holiday season.
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And what s causing all this stress, the top source is financial factors ranked highest at 28%.
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Family gatherings was next at 21%, traveling and planning was 18%, and disrupted routines was next at 18%.
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So the top four sources of stress we experienced around the holidays were financial, family, travel and planning, and disrupted routines.
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And I m sure that you can relate to at least one of these or a couple of these that may feel really real for you.
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And I think it s even harder because we look at the holiday period as a time to celebrate, as a time to relax, as a time to enjoy, as a time to be with family, as a time to rejuvenate, right?
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It s meant to be a positive time.
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And when something s meant to be positive and it isn t, it almost feels worse than if you expected it to be not positive.
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Does that make sense?
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It s almost like if you re going to a comedy show, you expect it to be funny, and if it isn t funny, you re like, wait a minute, I wanted to laugh.
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I came here to laugh.
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I came here to let loose.
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I came here to be silly.
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I came here to be entertained, but it isn t that.
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Whereas if you go for a night out, if it ends up being funny and you didn t plan on it, it s a bonus.
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That s kind of what the holidays are like.
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We go out there expecting to feel loved, to feel cared for, to feel connected, to experience kindness, to be in a safe space.
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And we often walk away feeling more triggered, more misaligned, more disconnected from people we re supposed to love, from people we re supposed to be close to.
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And I think a lot of our stress is around this idea of what the holidays are supposed to be.
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what the holidays are meant to be.
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And so as I walk you through these pieces of advice, I want you to recognize that we need to reframe our mind to the holidays.
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We need to not have the expectation that this is going to be the best time, that everything s going to be perfect.
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And we also don t want to anticipate things and not prepare for them.
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Often, we know things are going to be difficult or stressful, but we re not prepared in advance.
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So I m hoping that this episode gets you ready.
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So the first one is remembering you re allowed to say no.
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One of the points that came out is this disrupted routine.
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And I think around the holidays we feel the pressure to have to say yes to every party and every event.
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And I think we have to remember that it s okay to say no.
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You don t need anyone s permission.
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You don t need to check in with anyone else.
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If you don t feel like going, it s okay.
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And I think what a lot of people do is we think that we know that, but we wait till the last minute.
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So what we do is the RSVP comes.
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We know we don t want to go.
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but we feel bad in the moment so what we do is we say yes i m attending and then as it gets closer and closer and closer we re now spending every day getting more and more stressed thinking how do i get out of this party how do i say no and as it gets closer it gets harder we see the person maybe posting saying they re preparing maybe they sent a text saying hey this is what everyone can bring
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Right you start to get closer and you think wow i m gonna let them down even more now and then it comes to the moment just before the party and you either force yourself to go.
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Will you guilt trip yourself when you send the message saying you can t go and now you feel bad about it and now you try to make it up to the person and now you re overdoing on the next event or party how many of you can relate to that.
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I know so many of us can relate to that, and that s why it s so important to be okay with saying no with a beautiful explanation ahead of time.
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I really believe that it s not about your answer, and it s more about the affection with which it s delivered.
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I m not able to go to some of my friends holiday parties either because I m traveling or I ve got work and I ve clearly communicated to them from the moment I got the invite saying hey you know what I would have loved to be here I know you put so much energy and effort I m so grateful to be invited but
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this is what s going on, and I m so sorry I can t be there.
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And I find that having a genuine, open communication at least lets you feel better about yourself, but also lets the other person know that you value them.
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I think we often feel that no has to be felt like a door slamming in your face or someone facepalming you, right?
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We almost imagine a no to feel like rejection.
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And I think that when we decline an invitation, it doesn t have to feel like a closed door.
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It can feel like a gentle communication, a gentle nudge to say, hey, I would have loved this.
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Thank you so much.
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I am so grateful.
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I appreciate it so much.
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but I won t be able to make it and I think I want to remind you that please do this earlier because the closer it gets you re just carrying that stress for longer and the more stress you carry for longer even if you do end up getting the courage to say no you at the end of it feel bad for saying no and then it kind of starts the spiral all over again so remember it s okay to say no
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And it s okay to prioritize the events and the parties that matter to you the most and not feel pressured to go to the ones that don t.
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And I think when we do things out of pressure, we actually end up disliking ourselves and the person more.
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Right?
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We often think like, oh, if I say yes now, then it will all be OK and everyone will be happy with me.
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But guess what?
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You said yes.
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The person didn t notice you much at the party or they were busy.
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They were hosting.
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And now you go back thinking, oh, they wouldn t even have cared if I wasn t there.
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And it s like, yeah, maybe they wouldn t have.
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And why did you put that pressure on yourself?
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So that s point number one.
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Now, number two, this is a huge one.
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When we know we have time off, we almost assume that it s enough.
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But the truth is, and this blows my mind, more than four in 10 US workers don t take all their paid time off.
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Not unpaid, paid time off.
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When workers who don t take all their time off are asked why, some reasons are more common than others, says Pew Research.
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About half of those who don t take all their time off say they don t feel they need to take more.
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A similar share, 49%, say they d worry about falling behind at work if they took more time off.
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And 43% of workers who don t take all their time off say they d feel badly about their co-workers taking on additional work.
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Now, notice how all of those are really beautiful and noble thoughts.
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But here s the reality.
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When you don t take time off, you don t get time to refuel.
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If you don t take time to refuel, you re actually doing less at work, even though you re spending more time at work.
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Now when you feel burnt out or exhausted or feel like you ve been on for work for a long period of time, guess what?
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It negatively impacts your relationships with your co-workers.
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So all the things that you re trying to get right, all of a sudden you re actually making mistakes on all of those things.
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So it s so important and healthy around the holidays, especially at a time when everyone s switching off, especially at a time if you can, taking a bit more time off to say, you know what, this is the time I m going to use to refuel.
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This is the time I m going to use to feel better.
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Often the stress and anxiety comes from the fact that all of our time off are spent at the events.
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All of our time off is spent with other people.
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And then we go back from the holidays feeling like we didn t get time to rejuvenate.
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Get emotional with me, Radhi Devlukia, in my new podcast, A Really Good Cry.
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We re going to talk about and go through all the things that are sometimes difficult to process alone.
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We re going to go over how to regulate your emotions, diving deep into holistic personal development, and just building your mindset to have a happier, healthier life.
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We re going to be talking with some of my best friends.
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I didn t know we were going to go there.
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People that I admire.
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When we say listen to your body, really tune in to what s going on.
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Authors of books that have changed my life.
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Now you re talking about sympathy, which is different than empathy, right?
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And basically have conversations that can help us get through this crazy thing we call life.
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I already believe in myself.
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I already see myself.
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And so when people give me an opportunity, I m just like,
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Oh great, you see me too!
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We ll laugh together, we ll cry together, and find a way through all of our emotions.
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Never forget, it s okay to cry, as long as you make it a really good one.
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Listen to A Really Good Cry with Radhi Devlukia on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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That s where The Bright Side comes in.
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A new daily podcast from Hello Sunshine that s bringing you a daily dose of joy.
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And I m Simone Boyce.
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Listen, both Danielle and I are reporters.
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We ve covered the news and we know the world can feel heavy, but The Bright Side podcast is a space to have a little fun, to learn something new and get into some friendly debates.
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Something that makes me crazy is when people say, well, I had this career before, but it was a waste.
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And that s where the perspective shift comes.
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That it s not a waste, that everything you ve done has built you to where you are now.
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This is She Pivots.
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the podcast where we explore the inspiring pivots women have made and dig deeper into the personal reasons behind them.
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Join me, Emily Tish Sussman, every Wednesday on She Pivots, as I sit down with inspiring women like Misty Copeland, Brooke Shields, Vanessa Hudgens, and so many more.
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We dive into how these women made their pivot and their mindset shifts that happened as a result.
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It s a podcast about women, their stories, and how their pivot became their success.
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Listen to She Pivots on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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I think it s so important to set aside some time to really enjoy and appreciate this moment, to not put so much pressure on yourself around this time to say, all right, I ve got Christmas up families, I ve got this event at this person s, and then I ll be back at work, and not feel like you ve really got
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decompress.
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Please take some time off.
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Please prioritize time off during this period of the year.
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Number three.
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This is a really tough one during the holidays, but hear me out.
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So research shows that, of course, the holidays are a time where we like to overindulge.
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The festive time of year is known for an abundance of food and drink.
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We know that, says this study.
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Most holiday parties, obviously, are filled with high-calorie foods and alcohol.
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And the overwhelming majority, 79% of respondents, said that they follow a less strict diet during the holidays.
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And most people reported that they eat more sweets and dessert at this time.
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26% reported an increase in sweets and desserts.
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And I think all of us, including me,
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I m in this boat, right?
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I am in this boat.
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I let loose, I let go.
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What does that do?
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It drops my immunity.
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It makes me feel more unwell.
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Now, especially as someone who grew up in London, the weather s not always great either.
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So if you live in a cold climate, the weather adds to all of this.
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Now you re feeling more rundown at the end of the year.
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You carry that into the beginning of the new year, and now you re recovering from that.
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Now, I m not saying I don t want you to eat what you want to eat and have fun.
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Of course, I want you to have the best time.
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But I do think that it s important in between the events to add some healthy meals and some healthy habits.
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For me, one of my favorite things to do is making sure that I m taking a pack of vitamin C every single day.
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I take the one that has the pulp in it.
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You literally almost like drink slash eat it.
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I feel so much better.
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It has saved me from getting ill so many times.
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I remember I had just finished my press tour.
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So check this out.
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When my book came out this year, Eight Rules of Love, I went from, I did press in New York,
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for over three days, it was stacked from literally 7 a.m.
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to 9 p.m.
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We did everything from Good Morning America to CBS through to, what else did we do?
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We did The Colbert Show in the evenings, we did a ton of podcasts, like there was so much stuff.
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Then I flew to London, did a week of press in London, all the TV shows and podcasts, then flew to India for 36 hours, did a photo shoot for Vogue with my wife, then flew back to L.A.
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and did more press there.
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Then I had five days before I left for my world tour.
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That s a crazy schedule.
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And I ll be honest with you, in those five days while I was rehearsing for my world tour, I was so certain that I was going to get sick.
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And every day, thanks to my amazing, amazing chief of staff, Jordan, I took these vitamin C packs and they saved me from getting sick.
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And
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It was amazing that I didn t fall sick during that time.
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So again, I m not saying I don t want you to have fun, but I want you to find a way to have some healthy habits.
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Having your vitamin D, vitamin C, B12.
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If you re taking a basic multivitamin, it s so important, especially during this time.
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And if you can have some healthy meals in between, it will make a huge difference.
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Now, habit number four.
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This one is really important because I feel that, as we heard, family triggers and family conflict is a big one.
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Maybe you re seeing a family member that, you know, from your childhood has been someone who triggers you.
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Maybe you re going to see someone who you know
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you have different political religious views from.
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Maybe you see someone who always likes to point out that your career isn t going in the right direction according to them.
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You meet someone who doesn t like your partner.
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Maybe you are the partner that your in-laws don t like, right?
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Like there s so many ways family can be triggering.
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And I ve experienced this before as well.
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And for me, it s always been to remind myself that I know who s going to be triggering.
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I prepare knowing that I m going to deal with that.
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I m going to sit and smile, and I m going to try and spend time with someone else.
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I recognize that I can t fight this person.
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I can t debate them.
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I don t want to waste my energy trying to convince them otherwise.
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And I m going to expect it to happen.
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Rather than hoping that it won t happen,
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I m going to expect that it will happen so that I m not surprised, so that I m not caught off guard, and so that I can actually enjoy myself by saying, this is expected, this is likely.
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It s almost like saying you know traffic s going to be there.
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If you re going on a road trip and you don t predict the traffic, and suddenly you hit a traffic jam, you re like, well, why is this happening right now?
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Whereas if you say, you know what, I know there s going to be traffic, but I m going to take along my favorite playlist.
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I m going to take along a bunch of games for the car.
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I m going to listen to my favorite podcast.
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Thank you so much, right?
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Like, the idea is saying, I know this family member is going to trigger me.
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I m going to ignore them.
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I love talking to this family member.
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I m going to make sure I take games.
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I m going to make sure that I take a book.
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I m going to make sure that whatever it is, right, whatever works for you.
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The point is expecting triggers is better than hoping they won t happen.
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Tip number five during the holidays.
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One of the things that I think we don t recognize that stresses us during the holidays is that we often start doing what everyone else wants us to do.
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How many of you go to events just because someone else wants you to do it?
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How many of you go to holiday parties just because someone else wants you to go to it?
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How many of you get into the festive spirit because someone else wants you to get into it?
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Now, I m someone who loves holiday music.
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I love holiday decoration.
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I m a holiday person.
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I love holiday movies.
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I love all of it.
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Right?
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But not everyone feels that way.
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And what I find is that I have to do what I truly want, and everyone else has to do what they truly want.
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So if I want to do a Harry Potter marathon with my sister, which is something we do every year, I m going to do that no matter what.
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Because the holidays are a time for you.
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It s rare to have that much time off when the whole world switches off at the same time.
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And I want you to think about that for a second.
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It s one of the few times in the world
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where most people in the world are able to switch off and therefore allowing yourself to switch off and do what you truly want.
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If you want to party, if you want to have certain experiences, if you don t want to do any of it, if you want to focus on things at home, whatever it may be.
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This is your reminder to say make sure you do what you want to do.
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Not what you feel pressure to do.
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Not what you think you have to do.
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Not what you think you should do.
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But what you truly, truly want to do.
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And don t sacrifice for that.
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Don t settle for any less than that.
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Because this is the one time of year when you can truly do it.
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Now, this one is a tough one, but I have to make a point of it, because of the finances being such a big thing.
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Make a budget.
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Please don t go into it.
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I know sometimes, right, like, the reason why we don t make budgets is because we d rather not know.
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But the problem is, at one point, we inevitably end up checking.
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And then when we end up checking, we go, oh, no, I wish I checked ahead of time.
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And so here s what I m going to say to you.
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Check in advance.
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Right?
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Like check in advance, set a budget, write a list of all your gifts.
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I promise you, you will not regret it in the future.
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As opposed to overspending and then looking back and thinking, I should have done that.
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Or sometimes underspending and thinking, oh, I wish I got them a better gift.
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I wish we did more for them.
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And so I think so many of us don t set a budget.
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I m going to say make a budget right now for all your holiday gifts, for all your holiday decor, so that you don t give yourself a hard time later on.
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Number seven.
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If you re like me and you love gifts and you love presents, make sure you re clear with people about what you want.
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I think expectations are really tough during the holidays.
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You unwrap that gift.
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Do you remember that scene in Love Actually?
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Oh, I love it, where the guy who plays Snape, Alan Rickman, rest in peace, phenomenal, you know, wonderful talent.
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Alan Rickman goes to buy a heart-shaped necklace for this girl at work he s flirting with, not for his wife.
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And then he ends up going to Mr. Bean, and Mr. Bean takes too long to pack his gift.
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I ve felt like that so many times when I ve got to get a gift, and then his wife spots that he bought that, but then she doesn t get it.
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Now, I ve just realized that this doesn t apply to my point, but I m glad I told that story anyway.
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But what I was trying to say is that if you want something, make sure someone knows.
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His wife, unfortunately, in that situation, was being kind of cheated on, so I don t think that.
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That would have mattered in her case, but if you re expecting your partner to guess your mind, read your brain, and know what you want for Christmas, please don t do that.
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Allow them the opportunity to plan, to prepare by letting them know.
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I think a lot of us open gifts.
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We get something that we didn t want.
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We get something that we feel wasn t good enough, whatever it may be.
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Be clear about your wishes.
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I think, you know, if you grew up
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believing that Santa Claus was going to deliver your perfect gift and your parents read your mind, it s easy to expect that from a partner.
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It s easy to expect that from a loved one.
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But as we get older, it becomes harder and harder for our minds to be read, and it becomes harder and harder for someone to deliver on that.
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So it s a simple one, but please make someone know your wishes.
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Number eight, I think a lot of the times during the holidays, everyone says just be present.
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And I think there s an issue with this advice because I also think we need to plan ahead.
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I think we need to plan ahead and say, okay, how many parties
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Am I going to?
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Am I going to be tired on Saturday night?
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Do I really want to do that on Sunday?
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I would say actually look at your calendar and plan ahead.
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You can be present and be really frustrated with your presence because you didn t plan for it.
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So there is a part of us that needs to think about the future, but we need to think about the future right now, like right now.
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And so plan ahead looking at your calendar and making sure you get it right.
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And now number nine is the opposite.
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Make time to reflect this year.
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I m going to be doing an episode at the end of the year helping you reflect on your greatest lessons, your greatest goals for next year, your aspirations, the learnings, the meaning from this year, but make time to reflect.
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I find that the holidays can be stressful because we didn t plan on reflecting.
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And here s my favorite way of reflecting.
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What s something I want to add to next year to make it better?
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What s something I want to subtract from next year that I did this year to make it better?
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And what s one thing I want to multiply?
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What s one thing I want to double down on?
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What s something that really brought me joy this year and I want to do it a lot more?
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What do I want to add to next year?
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What do I want to subtract from next year?
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And what I want to multiply.
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I never thought math could be so useful.
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And number 10, don t abandon therapy and meditation and whatever your self-practices are.
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It s really easy to abandon them, thinking this is a time where we just have to have fun, let loose, or we re too busy.
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But this is a time we often need it most.
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So here are 10 strategies to help with your stress.
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I hope that they support you.
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I m wishing you all the best.
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I really hope that you feel supported during this time.
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And hey, not everything s going to go to plan.
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People are going to say things to annoy you and trigger you.
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You re going to have days where you feel upset, but I hope that you ll reconnect with this episode and pass it on to reconnect with these tensible things that can really help you.
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Thanks so much for listening.
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I appreciate you.
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Look out for some more amazing episodes during the holidays, and I can t wait to continue finishing off 2023 on a high, and I look forward to doing that with you.
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Thank you so much.
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