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My name is Lee Hawkins.
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I ve been a journalist for over 25 years.
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On my new podcast, What Happened in Alabama, I get answers to some of the hardest questions about how things came to be for many black Americans and the truth that must come before any reconciliation can happen.
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I investigate my family history, my upbringing in Minnesota, and my father s painful nightmares about growing up in Alabama.
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What Happened in Alabama is a new series confronting the cycles of trauma for myself, my family, and for many Black Americans.
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Listen now.
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I don t know, being famous is not the great redeemer I thought it was going to be when I was a kid.
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You know, every time somebody did something to me, I was in front of the shower curtain going, I d like to accept this award and you, I will not forget about you.
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This is Don t Ask Tig.
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I m Tig Notaro.
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And if you re lost, you can write in and you will find me giving half-decent advice time after time.
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I m so unbelievably thrilled to introduce to you today to a true musical icon, the one and only Cyndi Lauper.
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Cyndi.
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Hey.
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Welcome to Don t Ask Tig.
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Thank you.
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Cindy, the last time I saw you, it was after your show at the Hollywood Bowl.
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I don t know if you remember this, but you were performing with Rod Stewart and I met you briefly backstage.
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Yeah.
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I remember you were also apologizing for sound issues, but I truly felt like I had just witnessed one of my top favorite live performances.
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Oh, wow.
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I mean, really.
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I tell everybody,
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since that time I saw you.
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Cyndi Lauper, hands down, was one of the greatest concerts I ve ever seen in my life.
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Really?
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Oh my gosh.
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Oh my gosh.
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Your performance was so inspiring and emotional and you just felt 100% in every moment
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every song and I felt it and I was like next time Cindy Lauper is performing that is a concert I am gonna buy a front-row center ticket for I do not want to miss a single move that you make oh well that s so sweet
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You know, I it s true.
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I know I like to include people in whatever the heck is going on.
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Because I always usually go climbing up in the back because those poor bastards that s where my seat was.
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You know, when I go, do you know who presented you with your kinky boots?
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Grammy?
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No, it was me.
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Wow!
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See how selfish I am?
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I was just, I was so crazy because they had to do the MC.
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I was kind of like the MC and, you know, I was very excited because I had the piano skirt, you know, I thought that was get it music, you know, so.
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No, listen, I was I watched the whole thing.
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I was a presenter that year.
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I was nominated myself didn t win.
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But I got to present you with your Grammy, which was a real thrill.
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And yeah, and you ve received many well deserved awards in your career.
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Is there one that that means the most?
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Well, I got this Ms.
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Magazine award way back when, and I was standing next to Geraldine Ferrara in 84.
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That was big.
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And also, honestly, take the Emmy that I got for Best Guest Star.
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I stood next to Maureen Stapleton, you know, all in the family.
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Oh, very well.
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And right next to her was somebody else and all these famous women that I grew up watching.
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And then when they gave me the award, I felt like, I always feel this way, but I felt like, no, you take it.
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You know what I mean?
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Oh my God.
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To stand next to them was an unbelievable honor.
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You know,
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all the way Glenn Miller played.
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You know, how many times do you do that when you re a kid?
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I love that show.
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And I feel like the sitcoms from the seventies were where it s at.
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Well, if I saw Mary Tyler Moore and everything worked out, after rehearsal, I d come home, you d watch the Mary Tyler Moore rerun and Star Trek.
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Between the two of them, I thought, okay, the world is safe.
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I could go to sleep.
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Well, guess who s on the new Star Trek?
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Oh, really?
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Yours truly.
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Oh, wow.
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Did they let you be a commander or something?
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Yeah, I m Commander Jet Reno.
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Get out!
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I m Star Trek Discovery.
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Wow, that s pretty good.
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You re the commander.
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Wow.
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When you sat in the chair, did you want to just... Well, no, I m not the captain.
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Oh.
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So you re above the captain.
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So you tell the captain what to do, right?
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I guess.
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I honestly, Cindy, I don t know what s going on on that show.
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I try my hardest to learn my lines and do my best, but I don t know what s going on half the time.
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I stumble over my lines.
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It s a real circus.
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Do you get one of those laser guns?
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I think I ve maybe held one once.
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Wow.
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Beam me up, right?
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Yeah.
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I ve been beamed out of places.
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That s great.
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What was that like?
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I mean, you know, it was me standing on a stage and then they told me I had beamed out and I could go take a break for a little bit.
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Oh, wow.
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I didn t go anywhere in real life.
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I just kept standing on the stage until they told me that I was officially beamed.
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Now, Cindy.
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Tig.
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Cindy.
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Yes.
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Cynthia.
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Whatever.
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I don t care.
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Cynthia Laufer.
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I ve read that when people ask if you re Cyndi Lauper, a lot of times you say no and that you are another occupation.
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Is that terrible?
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I do.
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My husband told me that it s really rotten.
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So I try not to.
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He s always pimping me out anyway.
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What are the occupations though that you claim?
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I m in production.
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It s not a lie.
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I m a writer.
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It s not a lie.
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Do you disguise your voice?
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No, I m just from New York.
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If you re in a cab, everybody sounds like me in New York, right?
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I don t know.
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Yeah, but you have a face that looks a lot like Cyndi Lauper.
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Yeah, they say that and they say, thanks.
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But if I feel bad and then I say, I m sorry, it is me.
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It started when I had my kid.
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Now he s like 23.
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But when he was a baby, he didn t know.
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And people would stop me.
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And I remember when he was like almost two and I had him in my arms and we would go in some place.
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And this couple stopped me and said, oh, you know, we love you, blah, blah, blah.
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Thanks for your work, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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And I said, thank you.
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And then, you know, I was bringing him up to the apartment and he goes, who are you?
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And I said,
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I m mom, mom, mama.
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And he goes, no, you re not, you re Cindy Lauper.
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And I was like, holy cow, this kid, who is this kid?
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I wanted to say, who are you?
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That s great.
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It s always hard for him to share.
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me.
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That s why I used to say, I m sorry, it wasn t me.
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Because I d want my kid to have privacy.
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Yeah, of course.
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You know, and that was a big deal when he was a baby, a little kid, because they don t understand the whole thing and the pictures and stuff, you know.
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But it was something that bothered him.
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So I started to just say no.
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My sons are four years old and, um, oh my gosh.
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Yes.
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They re tiny little people, but actually they re pretty big.
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They re in the 99th percentile, but, um, they call me mayor, which is French for mother.
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And, uh, when they see me on Netflix or Amazon or something, when they re skipping through to look for a cartoon.
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They just scroll past me and Stephanie asks them, they say, do you know who that is?
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And they re like, yeah, it s Tig.
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So they call me Tig when they see something on the TV.
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Oh, wow.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So they don t say, yeah, that s mare.
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They say, that s Tig.
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Do they learn French?
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No.
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But, you know, we ve got a house full of mommies and that there s two of us.
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So Stephanie is mom or mommy.
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And I decided mare.
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I have French in me and just thought, yeah, I ll go with mare.
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That s nice.
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Yeah, I like it.
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Yeah.
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And it s ended up being Mare Bear.
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So I enjoy it even more because they gave me that name.
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There you go.
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And Cindy, you re, I m assuming,
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you re happy to be forever tied to the Girls Just Wanna Have Fun song.
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It s such a great anthem and just bright, fun energy and with such a strong message of feminism and empowerment.
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We snuck that past them, didn t we?
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Where do you think we are today with feminism compared to when that song debuted in 1983, when I was 12?
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Oh my gosh.
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I think, you know, two steps forward, one step back, two steps forward, one step back.
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There s so much going on now.
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I found something recently that said what you re taught as a young woman that you sacrifice your life for love and you become basically enslaved because I saw women
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who were disenfranchised every which way they turned.
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But my background is Sicilian.
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Me too.
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Oh, well, then you ve seen it, maybe.
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Maybe your generation didn t, but I did.
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I saw my grandmother
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She said, in those days, you did what you were told.
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So she came over and married who she was told to marry.
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In fact, she married her first cousin, which is really scary, but this is what they wanted, so she did it.
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She cooked and cleaned and scrubbed and scrubbed sheets in the tub, and she was like a slave.
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And this is what you did.
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And if you loved your family, this is what you did.
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And I wasn t buying that as a kid.
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And you know, I remember a Susan B. Anthony quote, the biggest oppressors of women are religion, the family, the government.
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And I could
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quote Susan B. Anthony, but I saw that quote in 1980.
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I have not seen that quote since.
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I ve been looking for it, so I don t even know if she really said it.
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But it is true, because I lived through it.
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I lived through laws, and I lived through religion, and I lived through the family.
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In 1970, we couldn t have a credit card without our husbands or late 60s.
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That s so insane.
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Yeah, you had to have your husband s name on a credit card, not yours, not even if you worked.
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And so they changed that.
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You know, now there s Me Too and Black Lives Matter, but education.
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I just see we need to be educated and understand about the real history of our country.
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And I came from a generation where you were taught how to cook and clean and they told you that s what you re going to do for the rest of your life.
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And in my head, I was thinking for you, maybe, not for me.
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I m glad you didn t listen to that.
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And I mean, you re to,
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I mean, you ve done so many incredible things.
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No, I did different things, Tig, because it was always gatekeepers.
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So I d think, well, how do you get around them?
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Well, try this.
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Well, I m glad you did.
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Well, Cindy, I am on your side and I would say- I know, they didn t even let you talk.
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No, listen, I talk all the, that s my entire job is talking.
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I have guests on because I want to hear them talk, but I was going to say we should help the people that have written in.
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It s a perfect moment to actually help people out there that need help from Tig and Cindy, the Sicilians.
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All right, this first question comes from a mom who may be honest to a fault.
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Elle writes, I typically answer my children s questions with complete honesty.
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This is normally not a problem, but they were super upset when I told them that while pirates did exist, they were largely criminals who murdered and robbed and then spent all their money.
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I also may have mentioned that there were really no
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treasure chest filled with gold.
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My husband insists that I shouldn t destroy their childhood fantasies with facts, but I don t quite know how to answer their questions less truthfully. 
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Oh.
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My immediate feeling about that is, why on earth does this child need any information about pirates other than they are at sea, typically with an eye patch over their eye and a parrot on their shoulder?
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I mean, that s my feeling.
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Well, Tig, I have a little something that I could ask you.
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Okay.
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And being that you re funny, what makes pirates so sexy?
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I mean, I don t think that they re sexy.
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They just are.
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Oh.
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I thought we were in the middle of a real- You could share that with the kids.
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God, I can t believe you snuck that in.
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I didn t even see that coming.
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I thought you were really, really trying to figure out why is it?
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And I just walked right into it.
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I immediately thought of Johnny Depp in the Pirates of the Caribbean.
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And I just thought, well, I don t think that
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That s not sexy or I thought of Captain Crunch.
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I was thinking of that pirate on Oh, Captain Crunch.
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Yeah.
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Well, yeah.
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Yeah, I just I don t know.
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But yeah, you got me Cindy.
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But you know, the reality of that situation with the pirates.
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Yeah.
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Um,
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When England was at war with Spain, they also had what was called privateers.
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And that s kind of like, they were pirates, but they were working for England.
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So they would attack the Spanish galleons with all the gold and stuff.
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And that booty was either, they kept it for themselves, obviously, but what they were doing was breaking down the Spanish
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Connection with the new world.
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I mean that is history.
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I know that s true.
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But so they weren t all just criminals It feels like you re on the same page as L. It sounds like you guys are like here.
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Yeah, let s give this small child factual pirate information whereas I m on pirate ears, but either way I m more on the side of her husband where I just feel like They re babies.
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They don t yeah.
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seemingly innocent as playing pirates.
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I mean, I guess you could really get in there and give your kid the history of pirates and the good and bad that they might have done over the
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the years and years and years, but my feeling is... Just leave it with Captain Crunch, right?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Elle, come on.
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That s just our two doubloons, but hope that helps, matey.
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Cindy, we will... Look, you did your pirate thing.
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Arr.
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I ll do mine.
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No, that s good.
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We ll be right back after the break with some more questions.
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a six billion dollar con.
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It didn t take long for it to spread like wildfire.
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You got to take a look at this really crazy gold stock.
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A buddy of mine got in at a dime.
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Which destroyed lives and devastated communities.
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Every little town across the nation, people have shares in this.
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We lost everything.
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And to date, no one has been brought to justice.
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Somebody knows more than we know.
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The $6 billion gold scam from the BBC World Service and CBC.
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Search for the $6 billion gold scam wherever you get your podcasts.
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We re back Cindy.
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We have another question from a mom Lonely mom writes I m a single mother with a 17 year old daughter finishing high school and planning to move away
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away for college.
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I work full time and I m gone all day.
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She s home alone all day doing high school online and of course wants to go out when she s done for the day.
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She spends a lot of her time at her boyfriend s place with his big family and nicer house.
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His mother cooks up dinners for everyone nightly and has food delivered from restaurants.
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I m really happy that she has this, but I find myself at home alone almost every night and most weekends.
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I want to spend more time with her and enjoy the time we have left before she s gone.
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Is there a way to find a balance without being a controlling mom?
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I don t know, like if it s really fun by his house, can t she go over one time and have dinner?
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That s a great idea because when I was reading this, this really broke my heart.
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Yeah, it s sad.
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You get jealous too, right?
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Because, you know, the mother can spend time with, she s not a single mom.
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She has time to cook.
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She has, she can spend time.
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She can make it this really wonderful household, you know.
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It s tough when you re a single mom or you re the breadwinner and you gotta come back and, you know, rattle them pots and pans and make it happy.
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I don t know.
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I don t know.
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I would say
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make a picnic where everybody could go and have fun and laugh.
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And that s a great idea.
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A picnic, meaning you could, it doesn t have to be at their house or lonely mom s house.
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I hate calling you lonely mom.
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It s so, I hate that you feel this way, lonely mom.
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Yeah, a lot of women.
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I know, I know.
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I just feel for her.
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I hate that she s going through this.
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And I think it is a great suggestion
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Not that you need to go to your daughter s boyfriend s house every night with your daughter, but maybe see if she would be interested in bringing you along, or as Cindy mentioned, a picnic or elsewhere, just someplace else where it s neutral ground, where you could all meet and bring your own food.
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Go to the grocery and just buy a bunch of sandwiches and say, come on, I m inviting everybody.
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Go have a picnic.
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Lonely mom, Cindy and I feel your pain.
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Please write us back and let us know what happens.
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All right.
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Our next question comes from Andy.
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Andy asks, my fiance Kimber and I have been discussing changing our last name when we get married.
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After months of discussion, we found
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one that we both love that sounds great with our first names.
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We started using it to get into what it would sound like.
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And we re like 90% sure about it.
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Then I Googled my first name and last name and found out there s a person with this name and they re a pretty famous porn star.
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I m heartbroken.
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I still love this last name, but I also own my own business and I m an artist and actor and don t want to be confused with this porn star.
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Well, I was offered to change my name and I didn t want to for personal reasons, but I don t know about that.
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If you named yourself Cyndi Lauper and it s not your given name, you named yourself as an adult and you Googled that Cyndi Lauper was a very well-known porn star, would you keep that name while you re trying to be an actor and singer?
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No.
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Yeah, see, there s there s literally 10 quillion other names to choose from Smith.
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Yeah, Smith.
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There you go.
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Cindy does it again.
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That s the name of your podcast.
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Cindy does it again.
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But I would say I know you like the name last name you chose.
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But it s not like you ve lived decades with this last name.
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And as I said, there s 10
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Quillion other names.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, so find a new one something exciting like Smith You can make it up you can be what about notaro Andy and Kimber notaro There you go Andy notaro Kimber notaro that works problem solver lopper Andy lopper Kimber lopper.
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Oh, I got it Andy and Kimber lopper notaro
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Well, La Notaro.
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No topper.
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Oh, that s not good.
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Nobody will want that.
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Okay, La Notopper.
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Andy, congrats on your engagement and best of luck.
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Cindy, this last question comes to us from the confession booth.
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Welcome to the Confession Booth.
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The Don t Ask Tig Confession Booth features listeners sharing secrets they ve never told anyone in order for us to give them the advice they re afraid to ask for.
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Okay, that s why this is anonymous.
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Today s confession comes from an anonymous listener.
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Here s my secret.
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When I was in fourth grade, our school went on strike.
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And it was in the middle of the winter and my sister and I got really bored and our dad was staying home with us, but he wasn t very attentive.
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And so one day we were throwing water balloons off the second floor to watch them splash on our yard.
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And the summer before my mother had bumped her engagement ring and a diamond had come out and it was in a Ziploc bag and she kept it on her dresser.
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Well, once we were out of water balloons, I grabbed the Ziploc bag, not realizing the diamond was in it, and used it as a water balloon.
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So it is somewhere in our garden at my parents  house.
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And I ve never told anybody that story.
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Wow.
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That s a dirty trick for your mom, right?
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Yeah.
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Come on.
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Diamonds are a girl s best friend.
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Yeah Yeah, I don t know.
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This is my wedding ring.
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It s just a silver ring and then this Ring, hmm.
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I played Joan Jett s mother in the Runaways movie Wow, and then I was cut out of the movie but I accidentally walked off with the ring and
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and I never returned it.
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That s my confession.
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That s your confession.
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And also, I named my character on Star Trek Jet Reno after Joan Jett.
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You know, I was looking in my phone for her number and I know I wrote it in my phone, but I put it under a secret name in case I lose my phone so that nobody... You can put it under Tig.
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Well, I put it under something that I don t even know if it s her.
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There s a JJ and I could contact JJ, but I m not sure that s her.
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It could be JJ Walker.
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from Good Times.
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It s a wonderful comedian.
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That was one of my favorite sitcoms in the 70s, yeah.
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But when you get in touch with Joan, tell her I said hello.
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If it s her, that s the whole problem.
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I don t know who s on my phone because it was so covert that I can t even figure sometimes.
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I know Paul Reubens and I know Paul Reiser and one time I m writing to Paul Reubens, but it was really going to Paul Reiser and he says,
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I don t think this is for me,  and then I tried to explain, well, I tried to keep it, you know, a secret.
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It was such a secret that I didn t even know, you know, who was who, but you know, yeah.
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Joan Jett.
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the greatest song.
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I love rock and roll.
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Yes, that song and her documentary is so good.
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Right?
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No, I have you saw it.
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I don t get it.
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So good.
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I don t give a damn about my reputation, my reputation.
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Could you imagine she put that out in the 80s?
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And we were all like, Yeah, yeah, that s Joan.
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That s Joan.
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But when you stop and think about it, what she was saying was so great.
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Oh, my God, it was really she s incredible.
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And that documentary is so
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Yeah, it s good.
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What do we do about this anonymous caller, though?
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Well, if she ever makes enough money, she could go to the diamond district and buy her mother a new diamond.
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and say, mom, this is for you because a long time ago it was a dirty rat bastard.
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And I know I didn t mean it.
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I was just young and dopey and bored and I lost your diamond, but here it is.
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Here s a new one from me to you.
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I would be so touched and charmed if one of my sons or both of them came to me years later.
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and return something that they lost or broke.
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And I would feel for them.
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It don t have to be big.
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It just has to be the thought of it would make her really happy.
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Yeah, I would be very touched.
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Cindy, you ve got great advice.
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Oh, wow.
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Well, we didn t hear back from Anonymous.
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She might say, hey, you guys, what do you know, you know?
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Well, well, I mean, if that s the worst that we get from that, I think I can deal with that is some anonymous woman saying,
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Hey, what do you know?
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I d be like, not much.
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The show s called Don t Ask Tig, so.
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Thanks for your confession, Anonymous.
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For penance, Cindy and I recommend doing some gardening.
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Who knows?
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Maybe you ll find something valuable.
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That s great advice, Tig.
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Yeah, and start an organic garden too while you re out there.
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Why not?
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Listeners, if you have a confession, call 833-ASK-TIG.
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That s 833-275-8444.
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And leave me a voicemail.
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Feel free to make it anonymous.
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You know, in fact, I encourage you remain anonymous.
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Cindy, that s all of our listener questions.
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But before you go, I have one final thing.
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Okay.
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Typically, I asked my guests about the best and worst advice that they ve ever received.
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But since you re a master of lyrics,
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I was wondering, what is the best wisdom you ve ever heard in the lyrics of a song?
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Oh, there s a lot.
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There s a whole What s Going On album.
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That was so incredible.
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Aretha, respect.
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I mean, even the one that you mentioned a moment ago with Joan.
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That s right.
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I don t give a damn about my reputation.
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Gotta love that one.
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And that s what Joan said.
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I mean, who s going to argue with Joan?
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Nobody.
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JJ.
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JJ.
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I wonder if that is JJ.
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Why don t we call?
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Why don t we find out?
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Really?
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Give Chrissy Hines a number?
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No.
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I love her too.
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She s so cool.
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Well, they all are.
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She doesn t give a damn about her reputation.
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They all are cool.
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That s the whole thing.
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Okay, JJ.
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Why would I, do you think I would have put it, should I just text?
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Okay, text, did Tig play your mother in the movie about your life?
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And if it s somebody else, they ll say, what?
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And if it s Joan, she ll be like, yeah, and we cut her out.
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She sucked.
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Did Tig play your mother?
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really doing it.
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Why not?
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What if she on her end, her phone says CL and then she s like, CL.
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Who the hell is CL?
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Who is CL?
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Should I put my name?
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No, don t put my name.
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Cause then.
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Say dear, dear JJ signed CL.
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But what if she thinks I m being an ass?
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Well, you don t give a damn about your reputation, Cindy.
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And she didn t give a damn about hers.
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So you re left with who cares?
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Oh, I really like her.
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I think she s so great.
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I do too.
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Even though I was cut out of her movie, I still love her.
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Cut out of her movie, never saw her again in my life and named myself after her on Star Trek.
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I should have her on this show.
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You should.
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Why don t you?
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I will.
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There s a lot of people to get to, but I had to get to CL first.
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JJ.
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I m now dying to find out if that s her.
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Did you send it to her?
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Yeah, I did.
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It s sent.
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Well, let me know.
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Yeah.
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JJ.
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Well, I m going to have to say.
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Yeah.
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Adios.
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I know.
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It s been great talking to you.
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Now I have to watch Star Trek.
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Yeah.
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Star Trek Discovery.
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I don t start until season two.
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And what channel is it on?
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It s on CBS streaming, but they started showing the show, I think, on the network since the pandemic.
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But yeah, Cindy, it was an absolute pleasure.
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And I m telling you, next time you are in Los Angeles performing, front row center, you re going to see me and my wife, Stephanie.
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And we can t wait.
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Well, yeah, I ll find you.
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I cannot emphasize enough what a pleasure it was to have you and how much your live concert that I saw at the Bowl just blew.
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my mind and I can t wait to see you again in person.
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Oh, thank you.
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I hope I live up to that.
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Geez.
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Oh, you will.
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Thank you, Cindy.
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Okay, take care.
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Bye.
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Have a good one and beam yourself up safely.
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Bye.
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so much
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Don t Ask Tig is hosted by me, Tig Notaro.
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It s produced by Thomas Ouellette, Shana Deloria, and Ryan Lohr.
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Our editors are Phyllis Fletcher and Beth Perlman.
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Executive producer, Lauren Dee.
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Engineering and sound mixing by Johnny Vince Evans and Eric Romani.
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Digital production by Christina Lopez.
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Talent booking by Marianne Waves.
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Production support from Pizza Shark.
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Our theme music is Friend in Tig by Edie Burkell and Kyle Crusham.
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And Listen to Your Heart by Edie Burkell.
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Special thanks to Hunter Seidman, Lily Kim, and Alex Schaffert.
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Concept developed by Tracy Mumford.
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Our executive consultant is Dean Capello and Gobsmack Studios.
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You can always ask for advice at DontAskTig.org.
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Just write in with your problem or send us a voice memo.
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You can also follow us on social media at DontAskTig.
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DontAskTig is a production of American Public Media.
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And as always, thanks Dana, and I ll tell Becky.
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I m Christina Cauterucci, and this season on Slow Burn.
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It s called Proposition 6.
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The Briggs Initiative.
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John Briggs is going to fire every gay and lesbian schoolteacher in California.
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With so much at stake, young people became activists.
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We can t let this happen in California.
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And activists became leaders.
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My name is Harvey Milk, and I m here to include you.
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Slow Burn, Season 9.
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Gays Against Briggs.
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Out now, wherever you listen.