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Bring a little optimism into your life with The Bright Side, a new kind of daily podcast from Hello Sunshine, hosted by me, Danielle Robay.
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And me, Simone Boyce.
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Every weekday, we re bringing you conversations about culture, the latest trends, inspiration, and so much more.
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I am so excited about this podcast, The Bright Side.
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You guys are giving people a chance to shine a light on their lives, shine a light on a little advice that they want to share.
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Listen to The Bright Side on America s number one podcast network, iHeart.
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Open your free iHeart app and search The Bright Side.
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This is the story of how a group of people brought music back to Afghanistan by creating their own version of American Idol.
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The joy they brought to the nation.
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You re free completely.
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No one is there to destroy you.
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The danger they endured.
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They said my head should be cut off.
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I m John Legend.
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Listen to Afghan Star on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Guess what, Will?
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What s up, Mango?
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I ve been trying to write a promo for our podcast, Part-Time Genius, but even though we ve done over 250 episodes, we don t really talk about murders or cults.
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I mean, we did just cover the Illuminati of cheese, so I feel like that makes us pretty edgy.
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We also solve mysteries like how Chinese is your Chinese food and how do dollar stores make money?
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And then, of course, can you game a dog show?
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So what you re saying is everyone should be listening.
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Listen to Part-Time Genius on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Imagine you had a ladder and the only step on the ladder was the step at the top, which got you right to the top of where you wanted to go, but there were no other steps.
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Well, you might jump up and down a bit.
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You might try and reach that top step.
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Once you reach it, then you got to pull yourself up.
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And when you pull yourself up, you re going to use all your upper body strength to try and then you probably fall.
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How many of you have experienced that in your year when you re trying to gain your newest resolutions or your big goals because you only ever built the top step?
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Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world, helping you become happier, healthier, and more healed.
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I am so excited for 2023.
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I hope you are as well.
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Thank you for choosing On Purpose once again.
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I am just so humbled by your commitment, your growth, your love.
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The reviews have just been so beautiful.
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I hope you had the most incredible break.
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I hope you were able to take out time to reflect, to renew.
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And this episode is my favorite framework for growth and goal setting.
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This is the framework that I stand by, I swear by, I use it every single year and I can t wait to see it take effect and make an impact in your year this year.
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And so make sure you get your notepads out, your pens out, your notes on your iPhone out, whatever you use, this is going to be one that s going to transform your year
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and I m so pumped you re listening to this.
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Thanks for being here.
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the year that you ve been wishing, wanting, and waiting to have for such a long time.
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And the best thing is, this year, we get to start it together, right?
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No matter how busy things get, no matter how hectic things get, no matter how crazy things get,
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I want you to connect with me here every single week.
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Because here s the thing, it s the consistency that keeps you going.
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It s the consistency that builds a momentum.
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It s the consistency that breaks down those barriers, that lets you help those breakthroughs.
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It s the consistency that makes everything else possible.
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Even the days when you re like, I can t today, I can t make time.
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When you make time on that day,
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That s when the magic happens.
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That s when incredible things start to happen in your life.
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It s when you don t want to and you do, that s when you see shifts and change in your life.
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But we re literally walking into a new decade.
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We re walking into a new decade, a new moment in our lives.
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The last decade is there.
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It s gone, you ve reflected, you ve learned, you ve left behind, and now it s time to start anew.
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Now, when we re writing the story of our lives,
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Imagine we ve just finished chapter 19 and you ve now started chapter 20.
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It s very, what s the right word?
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It s very interesting and intriguing and curious to want to go back to chapter 19 or 18 and 17 and keep rereading it.
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Nostalgia, memories, lessons, mistakes, failures.
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It s easy to go live in the past because it s already written.
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But chapter 20, you re writing it right now.
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So you haven t started living it yet.
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So it s somewhat harder to live because you have to write.
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You have to create again.
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Now, if you keep rereading the old chapters, you can t consciously write the new ones.
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You may write it unconsciously or unintentionally.
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And if you unintentionally or unconsciously write it, you end up living a life that you don t really want to live.
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So I want you to bring your presence and your awareness and your attention right now.
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This is your year.
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This is our year.
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This is the year that you make the shifts, the changes, the progress that you ve been wanting to make.
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And to help you do that, I m going to give you a new type of goal setting, a completely unique and different type of goal setting that you ve never done before, because a new decade needs new tools, right?
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A new decade needs a new approach, a new progress.
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I don t want us to keep applying the same things that fail every single year.
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How many times have you made goals and resolutions and they have just failed every single year?
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I want to give you a plan that if you genuinely commit to it, if you genuinely listen and connect with what I m about to share with you, when you make goals in this way, you re going to find them
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It s not about being easy to reach.
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It s going to be easy to process, easy to focus on, and understand what to commit to.
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Now, this goal-setting framework has four key elements to it.
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And before I dive in, I just want to let you know about some of the stats around New Year s resolutions, right?
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Because I think it s important to realize how unlikely people are to keep up with their New Year s resolutions.
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Now, this was something that I read
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in a Inc article and it was talking about how the top 10 new year s resolutions according to a survey of 2000 people 71% wanted to diet or eat healthier 65% wanted to exercise more 54% wanted to lose weight
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32% wanted to save more and spend less.
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26% wanted to learn a new skill or hobby.
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Remember that.
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21% wanted to quit smoking.
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17% wanted to read more.
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16% wanted to find another job.
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15% wanted to drink less alcohol, and 13% wanted to spend more time with family and friends.
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Write down right now which ones were ones that you ve made before and broken.
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Number one was diet or health, two was exercise more, three was lose weight, four was save more, spend less, five was learn a new skill or hobby, six was quit smoking, seven was read more, eight was find another job, nine was drink less alcohol, and 10 was spend more time with family and friends.
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We ve all made those.
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We ve all broken those.
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Now, why is that the case?
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Why do we break New Year s resolutions?
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And here s my hypothesis.
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My opinion hypothesis is because we don t follow this four-step framework.
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This four-step framework will give you the ability to realize
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Why we make mistakes and why we don t live up to our resolutions and our plans that are so important to us, right?
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And why researchers say that about 60% of us make news resolutions, but only 8% are successful in actually following them through.
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We want to change that.
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We want to change that.
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We don t want to bet on being part of that 8%.
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So here are the four steps.
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The first step to think about when looking at your goal.
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So you set a goal, right?
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Whatever your goal is, one of those goals, here s the framework to achieving it.
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The first thing you ask yourself is growth.
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What do you need to grow to get that?
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What do you need to learn growing?
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What growth do you need to focus on in your life in order to get that goal?
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What is the growth behind the goal?
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So let s say it s social media, right?
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Let s say it s social media and you say,
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My goal is to have more followers, which I don t think is a great goal.
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But let s say you have a more meaningful goal.
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Let s say your goal is to create content that impacts the world.
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Now, you don t need to grow followers.
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That would be the common thing to say, oh, I m trying to grow my followers.
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That s the growth I need, Jay.
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No, no, no.
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You need to grow content, which means you need to grow storytelling skills.
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Notice the difference.
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Right, so someone writes down their goals as I want to grow my followers.
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Someone writes down their goal as I want to grow the amount of subscribers to my podcast.
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Well, that s a goal, but that s not really the growth you need to make.
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Because then all you re trying to do is do things that directly impact that, but that s not the case.
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What you need to do is grow your content, which means you need to grow your storytelling, or it means you need to grow your content creation approach.
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You need to grow in learning how to create more content, right?
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That s the focus that it has to be.
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So we don t focus on growth.
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We focus too much on goals when our focus should be growth.
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What do we need to grow in?
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to achieve that goal.
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Now I ll give you an example.
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So this year, my first ever book is coming out in April.
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It s my first ever book.
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It s called Think Like a Monk.
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It s available for pre-order right now.
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And so for me, of course, I want so many of you to be able to change your life and transform your life through my book.
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But the growth I need to be able to do that is to be able to help you understand why this book is relevant in your life, right?
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I need to be able to make sure that you all know that it s available, because guess what?
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The algorithm doesn t make everyone know and let everyone know that my book is available, so I need to make sure that you all know that it exists and that it s available.
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So I m focused on the growth, not just on the goal, because if I m just focused on the goal, I m just obsessed with this elusive, arbitrary result.
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So many of our goals are really not goals, they re visions, right?
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You may have a vision to be one of the best, you know, businesses of all time.
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You may have a vision to have one of the most beautiful romances of all time, but that s not really a goal, right?
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A goal is something that you can grow towards, and I want you to focus on what growth you need to make this year.
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Growth includes things like what skills do you need to learn?
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What abilities do you need to gather and grow?
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what qualities do you need to grow and develop in maybe that s what it s going to take so last year when i was launching my podcast my goal was to have a number one podcast which thanks to all of you happened but the gold s not enough to get there what i needed was a growth to the growth was i need to grow to become an interviewer.
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I needed to grow to have a network where I could invite incredible guests onto the podcast.
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I needed to grow my understanding of how to develop and produce a podcast, right?
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Those were the growth elements that were powering the goal.
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The goal in and of itself meant nothing.
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So if your goal this year is to, which is usually one of the number one goals, is to diet or eat healthier, it s like, well, what skill do you need to grow?
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Or maybe you need to grow habit formation skills.
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Right?
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Maybe you need to grow resilience.
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Maybe you need to grow mental strength.
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Maybe that s what you need to grow.
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That s what s stopping you.
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Because, hey, guess what?
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Just telling yourself, I m not going to eat carbs or fats, right, if that was your diet plan, that s not good enough.
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Because it s the growth that gets you to the goal, not the goal in and of itself.
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Does that make sense?
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Does that really resonate?
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Do you connect with that?
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If your goal this year is to exercise more, you have to ask yourself, well, what do I need to grow in to be able to exercise more?
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Okay, so I need to grow in my discipline.
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Okay, I need to be more disciplined.
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Okay, I need to grow in my accountability to someone, right?
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It s not just about exercising more.
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It s not just forcing yourself, pushing yourself to the gym, just pushing yourself there with all the energy you have, dragging yourself there, right?
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That s not good enough.
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We have to think about what skill we want to learn.
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And that s why I said only 26% of people
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have the resolution of learning a new skill.
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Only 26 people.
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So if only 26% of people have the resolution to learn a new skill or hobby, that s what we re missing out.
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That s the growth, right?
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That s where we re missing the trick because it s actually the learning of a new skill, the growing in a new ability or quality that gets you to the goal, not just thinking about and having a goal in and of itself.
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And so often that s all we have.
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The reason why we don t get to our goals is all we have is goals, not a growth plan, right?
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And I really want you to think about growth this year.
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Do you need to learn a new language?
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Do you need to learn how to code?
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Do you need to learn how to edit?
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Do you need to learn how to master habits?
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Do you need to learn how to focus on purpose and passion and peace and meaning?
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So much of it is in that.
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So much of changing our life is in learning how to change our habits, observing ourself.
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Because once you know how to change your habits, you can then apply that to any habit.
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But if you ve never been taught or trained how to change your habits, then you can t change any habit, and that s the challenge we end up in.
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The second focus in goal-setting is I want you to observe yourself.
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your opportunities, right?
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I want you to know the opportunities that you re going to say yes to this year, and the opportunities you re going to say no to this year, and the opportunities that you re going to say maybe to this year.
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So I want you to be clear on the criteria of opportunities you say yes to, opportunities you say no to, and opportunities you say maybe to.
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I ll tell you why.
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One of the biggest reasons why we don t achieve our goals is because of this.
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We say yes to too many things that are not what our priority is.
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We say no to too many things that are our priority.
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And maybe it s just for those of you who are saying, I m still undecided on a few things, but really you want to know and clarify for yourself the criteria of why you say yes to an opportunity and why you say no to an opportunity.
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Let s say your priority this year is to exercise more.
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If your priority is to exercise more, and that s a priority in your life, then you may say that opportunities that come up during my exercise time
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are always a no.
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So if I m exercising at 8 a.m.
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every day, if it is this type of opportunity, I would not do it.
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So I ll give you a personal example of mine, just to make it really, really simple.
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I exercise every morning from 8.15 a.m.
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to 9 a.m., about four to five days a week.
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That s my workout time.
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And I have a very clear criteria that the only reason I will miss that time is if I have a press interview.
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So this year when I ve been on the Today Show or I was in Access Hollywood or any of those examples that I ve had to go on a press piece, which isn t all the time, it s an exception.
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It s not like I m on press every single week.
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When I ve had to do that, that is the only criteria
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by which I say no to my workout and yes to the opportunity.
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Apart from that, and of course, family emergencies or personal issues, apart from that, I do not compromise.
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I do not negotiate with that time.
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So you need to realize, what are your non-negotiables?
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What are the things that you will not negotiate on?
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What are the opportunities that you will say yes to and no to?
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I ll give you another example.
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Let s say that your priority this year is waking up early.
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you might have to say no to late night parties and late night networking events.
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Now, if that is your priority, you have to be clear, what is the criteria with which I would say yes to a late night event?
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It may be that I m going to get to meet the biggest idol of my teens, right?
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It may be because I m getting to interview someone I ve been wanting to interview for a long time, right?
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It may be because you re getting to spend time with someone you love and family that s in town, but there has to be an exception.
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When you find that bright spot to help you get through your day, it s powerful.
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That s where The Bright Side comes in.
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A new daily podcast from Hello Sunshine that s bringing you a daily dose of joy.
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I m Danielle Robay.
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And I m Simone Boyce.
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Listen, both Danielle and I are reporters.
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We ve covered the news and we know the world can feel heavy, but The Bright Side podcast is a space to have a little fun, to learn something new and get into some friendly debates.
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That s right, join us five days a week to see how life can look from the bright side.
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We ll hear from celebrities, authors, experts, and listeners like you.
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Whether it s relationships, friend advice, or figuring out how to navigate life s transitions, we ll talk through it all together.
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Listen to The Bright Side from Hello Sunshine every weekday on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Hey everyone, this is Molly and Matt and we re the hosts of Grown Up Stuff How to Adult, a podcast from Ruby Studio and iHeart Podcasts.
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It s a show dedicated to helping you figure out the trickiest parts of adulting.
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Like how to start planning for retirement, creating a healthy skincare routine, understanding when and how much to tip someone, and so much more.
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We re back with season two of the podcast, which means more opportunities to glow up and become a more responsible and better adult, one life lesson at a time.
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And let me just tell you, this show is just as much for us as it is for you.
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So let s figure this stuff out together.
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This season, we re going to talk about whether or not we re financially and emotionally ready for dog ownership.
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We re going to figure out the benefits of a high-yield savings account.
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And what exactly are the duties of being a member of the wedding party?
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All that plus so much more.
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Let s learn about all of it and then some.
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Listen to Grown Up Stuff How to Adult on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Guess what, Bango?
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What s that, Will?
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So iHeart is giving us a whole minute to promote our podcast, Part-Time Genius.
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I know, that s why I spent my whole week composing a haiku for the occasion.
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It s about my emotional journey in podcasting over the last seven years, and it s called Earthquake House.
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Mango, I m going to cut you off right there.
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Why don t we just tell people about our show instead?
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Yeah, that s a better idea.
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So every week on Part-Time Genius, we feed our curiosity by answering the world s most important questions.
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Things like, when did America start dialing 911?
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Is William Shatner s best acting work in Esperanto?
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Also, what happened to Esperanto?
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Plus, we cover questions like how Chinese is your Chinese food?
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How do dollar stores stay in business?
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And of course, is there an Illuminati of cheese?
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There absolutely is.
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And we are risking our lives by talking about it.
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But if you love mind-blowing facts, incredible history and really bad jokes, make your brains happy and tune in to Part-Time Genius.
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Listen to Part-Time Genius on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.
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So when it comes to opportunities, because guess what?
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We all have endless opportunities in our life, in different areas of our life.
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We have to make a clearer criteria.
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of what do I say yes to and what do I say no to?
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When do I say yes and when do I say no?
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Why do I say yes and why do I say no?
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Because we don t create these agreements and these contracts and these, to be honest, because we just don t clarify this criteria with ourselves, we re confused.
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When you don t clearly clarify your criteria, it leads to confusion.
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about your choices.
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And when you get confused by your choices, you end up lost and then you generally don t achieve anything.
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And so I don t want you to be in that position.
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I don t want you to be confused.
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I don t want you to be lost.
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I don t want you to lack clarity.
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I want you to have clear criteria for your opportunities that you re going to say yes to and no to.
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based on your goals.
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So let s take another goal just to give you a fresh example.
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Let s say your goal is to save more and spend less.
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When are you going to say yes to that?
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And when are you going to say no to that?
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Know your criteria.
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You may say that I m going to say no to that for one vacation this year where we re going to treat ourselves more.
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We re going to treat ourselves more.
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We ve got a big anniversary coming up.
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But apart from that, I m going to honor that rule.
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We have to set rules with ourselves.
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We don t set these rules consciously.
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So when it comes to them, what happens?
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Your default mind wins.
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That s what s happening every time.
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When you don t set these rules, when you don t set this criteria, when it comes to crunch time,
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Your default mind your monkey mind wins because that s the mind and the habit and the pattern that s already been built that s what you ve already given into.
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When you saying i m not gonna eat sugar anymore but you don t have no rules of yes and no.
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Right?
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Then when it gets to eating sugar, you give in because that s what you love.
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That s what you ve built the habit and pattern of.
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So one of the biggest reasons why we don t achieve our goals and our resolutions is because we don t create clarity around our opportunities.
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So I want you to say, yes, this is what I m going to say yes to based on these criteria.
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This is what I m going to say no to.
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Right?
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And I want you to find so much understanding around that.
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Point number three of this four-step framework, the action plan.
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We have these goals.
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We write them down.
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You may even make them the screensaver of your laptop at work and your phone, but there is zero action plan.
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There is zero activities planned as to how you re going to achieve this goal.
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When I say an action plan, I mean a minute by minute
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right, quality by quality, I mean a minute by minute, hour by hour plan of when this is being worked on.
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Too many of us set these lofty goals and never break them down into the building blocks to actually get us there.
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For me, I see this like a ladder.
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If you have a ladder and your goal is at the top of the ladder, your action plan is creating every step of the ladder so you can go up there.
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Imagine you had a ladder and the only step on the ladder was the step at the top, which got you right to the top of where you wanted to go, but there were no other steps.
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Are you going to achieve that goal?
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Well, you might jump up and down a bit.
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You might try and reach that top step.
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Once you reach it, then you gotta pull yourself up, and when you pull yourself up, you re gonna use all your upper body strength to try, and then you probably fall.
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How many of you have experienced that in your year when you re trying to gain your newest resolutions or your big goals because you only ever built the top step?
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You didn t build the one, two, three, four, five, six, seven steps before the top step.
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I m actually staring at the ladder right now in my office, which is a false ladder.
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It s a bit small, but for my bookshelf.
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But it s like, if there were seven steps missing, how would you get to that top step?
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So the action plan should be, let s say my goal is to,
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Find another job.
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That s the top steps.
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Then I want you to ask the question, how am I going to find another job?
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Okay, I m going to research about other jobs.
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Okay, how am I going to research about other jobs?
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Okay, notice how this is building the steps downwards.
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Okay, then, okay, research other jobs.
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How am I going to research other jobs?
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I m going to speak to people that I know in careers.
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Okay, how
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How am I going to speak to them?
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I m going to ask my friend for their number or their email.
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Okay, how am I going to do that for my friend or my email?
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I m going to text them right now.
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Notice how I have built the stepladder.
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to right now.
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If your action plan doesn t build a step ladder to a step you can do right now in this very moment, that is not an action plan.
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So now my action is I m going to text my friend to say, can you please introduce me via email or message to your friend that is a graphic designer, that is a digital marketer, that is a accountant, that is a lawyer, whatever it is, because I need to talk to them.
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If you have not built your action plan to an activity you can take right now, if your action plan is, I need to research new jobs, no, that s not right now.
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You can say, I need to research new jobs on LinkedIn, and I m going to go to LinkedIn right now.
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That is an action plan with a step that you can take today.
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If your action plan doesn t have a step you can do right now, it is not a complete action plan.
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An action plan isn t just, I will go to the gym three times a week.
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No, an action plan is, what can I do right now?
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I will go to the gym to do these exact workouts at these exact times and not compromise on them.
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Part of the reason we struggle with our goals is we don t ever create the plan.
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We end up at the gym to do the workout, but then we re like, okay, well, what workout should I do?
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What workout should I do today?
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The action plan includes the plan of what workouts you re going to do.
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The action plan includes the meal plans of what you re going to eat.
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The action plan includes all of that detail.
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If you don t have an action plan,
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you won t achieve your goals this year.
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And the action plan has the details of what we re going to do, when we re going to do it, how we re going to do it, who s going to do it, and why I m going to do it.
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This is a full action plan.
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So this part of the framework, this pillar, can be broken down into this.
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When am I going to do it?
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What am I going to do?
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How am I going to do it?
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Who am I going to do it with?
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And why am I doing it?
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So when you write down what you re going to do, that makes it very simple.
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So what I m gonna do is I m going to do a circuit with these three exercises.
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For example, for the one going to the gym.
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When am I going to?
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I m doing it at 8.15 a.m.
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every morning.
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How am I going to do it?
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I am going to do it by using the gym in my building, right?
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Or I m going to do it by signing up for a membership here, or I m going to do it by going with my friend, whatever it may be.
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How?
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Who am I going to do it with?
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Am I going to do it on my own with a trainer or with a friend?
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And why am I going to do it?
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The action plan has a why.
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I m going to do it because I want to be healthier for my kids.
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I m going to do it, why?
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Because I want to be more able to work harder and push myself more.
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I want to do it because I want to take care of my health.
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That is a complete action plan.
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Do this with me right now.
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Don t just let this be something that you re hearing theoretically with me.
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Build your goals in these way because this is the thing, right?
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Like, otherwise you re going to be in the same place next year.
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We re going to be talking at the same time next year.
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You re going to be like, Jay, I didn t achieve my goals, but this framework works.
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This framework is, it works.
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It s what s between you and achieving your goals.
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So just take this moment to be focused and be effective about it, right?
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Take this moment to give yourself that opportunity.
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So the third thing is having an action plan and that s how you build a full action plan.
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And the fourth is this.
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Now this one s slightly more advanced and slightly more progressive for those of you that really want to push forward this year and make an impact this year.
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A lot of people ask me, Jay, it seems like, you know, something s always interesting is happening in your life.
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Something always is, you know, exciting that s happening in your life.
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And for me, it all comes down to the fact that I make years about something.
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So it s like the year of, you know, in the Chinese calendar, which you may have known about when you grew up, they have the year of the whatever, and there s different animals, et cetera.
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So it s like a year of the ox, year of the hare, year of the rabbit, year of the dragon, right?
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Year of the pig.
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So you have all these years.
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So when I come up with a year plan for me, my action plan revolves around year of what?
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So 2018 for me was year of social media video, year of uplifting content, year of conscious content.
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And 2019 for me was the year of the podcast, year of on purpose.
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2020 for me is year of think like a monk, year of the book, right?
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This is my focus, this is my priority.
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And so when you make it that simple for yourself that ultimately everything I m doing is around this, and for you it may not be something you re creating, it could be year of my family, it could be year of my passion and purpose, it could be year of creating my entrepreneurial business, it could be year of whatever it could be, right?
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It just has to be simple as an overarching plan
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And then there are the three Ls, Ls, not elves, we re past Christmas, not three elves, but the three Ls of what you want to be doing every year.
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You want to be learning one thing, you want to be launching one thing, and you want to be loving one thing.
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And I explain what I mean by these in depth.
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Every year, you want to be launching something.
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When I say launching, I mean focusing on something.
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So for me, I m launching my book, but it could be that you re launching your career, you re launching a relationship, right?
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When I say launch, I mean like, that s what it s all about.
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That s what you re excited about.
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That s what you re passionate about.
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That s what you re launching.
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It s what you re giving your main focus to that year.
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What you also want to do every year is you want to be learning something.
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this could be something that you ll launch next year.
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This could be something you re focused on next year.
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So for example, let s say you re expecting, you and your partner are expecting, and you know you re going to have a child next year, and I m not putting it in business terminology at all, but just for the point of this, you ll be launching a child next year.
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This year you may focus on learning how to parent.
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You may focus on learning about conscious parenting.
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So then next year when you have your child, you can focus on that, right?
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So you re learning about the thing that s happening next year.
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When you live in with this intentionality, with this consciousness, you re so much more prepared, you re so much more happier, you re so much more excited because there s something to look forward to.
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So you always want something that you re learning every year, right?
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You always want something that you re learning every year.
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So always be launching, be learning.
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And the third thing, which is very important, is always be loving something.
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So this year, I m going to be loving the podcast.
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I m going to be loving my genius community.
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I m going to be loving my videos that I ve been creating.
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These are things that I m loving, that I ve been doing for a few years now, and I m loving them.
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I love them.
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I have a rhythm.
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I have a pattern.
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I have a workflow, I know how it works, so I love the process.
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But at the same time as loving something, I m learning something else and I m launching something else.
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The launch is where I m having my mistakes, where I m growing new skills, where it s exciting.
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The love provides the consistency and the stability that I need in life.
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And the learning provides the exploration, the curiosity, the intrigue.
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Notice how they re all fulfilling different parts of me.
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If I was only learning stuff, then I may not feel focused.
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I may not feel excited.
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But if I m only launching something, then I may feel like I need more stability in my life.
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And if I m only loving something, then I may feel bored because I may feel like, well, I want to do more with it.
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So notice how learning, launching, and loving gives you
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a different energy.
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Now, why is this the four-step framework as a whole?
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It spells out the word goal.
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Growth, opportunities, action, learning, launching, loving.
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Right?
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Growth, the first thing that I told you was don t focus on the goal, focus on the growth.
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The second thing was clarify the criteria of opportunities.
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You say yes to and no to to know your priorities.
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The third is build that ideal action plan.
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And the fourth is learn, launch, and love.
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If you follow this framework, and I recommend coming back to this episode and building your goals around this framework, it will set you up for success.
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I m sending you all my positive vibes and my meditations, and I want you to take this very strategic and thoughtful plan, whether it s your business goals, your personal goals, or your relationship goals.
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And I can t wait to be on this journey together this year.
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And you re listening to every episode until then, and we re together.
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You re going to say, Jay, I made progress.
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You re going to say, Jay, I grew, I chose the right opportunities, I built my action plan, and I learned, I launched, and I loved.
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That s enough.
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Thank you so much for listening to this week s episode of On Purpose.
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