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Hi, Nicole.
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Hello, Sasheer.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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Hello, Nicole.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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How are you?
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Listen, I m good.
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I m thriving.
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It is sunny in L.A.
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I m in a good mood.
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The rain came.
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I was in Austin, flew back to fucking rain.
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And I was like, do I die?
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Like what is happening?
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It feels like I live in Seattle.
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I did not sign up for that, but now it s sunny.
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We love that.
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Thank goodness.
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Yeah.
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I was just outside soaking up the rays.
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Just like standing there, soaking them up.
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No, I sat, but I was soaking them up.
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I said, feels good on my body.
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Clyde and I went on a lovely walk this morning where I stole a bunch of flowers from an alleyway and I scattered them around outside my house, hoping that those flowers will grow.
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So you took the flowers and you scattered them on the yard?
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I scattered them in a planter, hoping that the planter will take.
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Is that how that works?
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I don t know.
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I ve seen flowers in the back appear in the front and I was like, oh, they must have flown somewhere and landed.
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So I was doing the flying for them.
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I don t know.
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I m not a botanist.
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And nor am I. I don t know.
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Are you a gardener?
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I do think you re right.
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I m not a soil preservationist.
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Is that a joke?
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I have no idea.
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I don t know.
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I made it up.
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I made it up.
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I don t know.
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I don t know.
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I don t know.
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I also have plants in the back that are in the front, but I assumed it was because maybe some animal ate those plants and then pooped them out in the front.
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But maybe not.
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Maybe there s a different way.
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They re just transporting them and they land there.
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So I should eat these flowers and shit them out.
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Please don t.
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And smear my feces where I want it to grow.
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Please don t.
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Okay.
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I m on it.
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I m gonna do it on our next walk.
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I m gonna eat, eat, eat.
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And then I m gonna catch it in a bowl.
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and slap it around outside.
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No, because then everything s going to smell like shit out there.
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Nature.
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She s a gardener.
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She s a soil preservationist.
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I m a farmer, gardener, soil preservationist, and a botanist.
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Okay.
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What have you been up to?
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What have I been up to?
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I mean, mostly watching Dawson s Creek, which is done now.
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Nothing really.
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Okay.
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That s exciting.
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Yeah.
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Also catching the rays.
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Nothing.
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Yes.
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Get out there.
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Let the sun in.
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Nothing else can do it for you.
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Everything is for us all.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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I don t know this.
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Yeah.
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Let the sun come in.
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There s nothing else that s better for you.
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Let the sun come by.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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Who is this?
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I don t know.
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You heard the song.
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It s like, it s either like a theme song to something or it s like been in movies.
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♪ Let the sun come in ♪ ♪ No one else can do it for you ♪ ♪ Let the sun for you ♪ ♪ Let it in, let it in ♪ I m really not getting it.
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♪ Let the sun come in ♪ ♪ No one else will do it for you ♪ ♪ No one else can find it for you ♪ ♪ Let it in, let it in ♪ Everyone knows, you know this song.
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Jordan knows it.
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I don t think so.
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No.
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No.
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Is that, okay, I m searching.
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Let the sun come in.
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No one else can do it for you.
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No one can make you feel better.
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Let it in, let it in.
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I swear, both of you know this song.
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I don t know.
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Wait, sing it one more time.
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I m gonna time out where you re singing.
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Let the sun come in.
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No one else can do it for you.
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No one can do it better you.
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Let it in, let it in.
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I mean, I think it s also hard because the lyrics are never the same.
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But let the sun come in.
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No one else can do it for you.
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I think that s consistent.
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And then let it in, let it in.
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Are you singing a Natasha Bedingfield song?
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I don t know.
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Maybe.
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How does it... Oh, God.
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Keep singing.
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Let the sun come in.
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No one else can do it for you.
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No one else has dreams for you.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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the sun on your skin okay and we got it we got it it s a really popular song
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Like, and I feel like when you hear it, you ll be like, oh my God.
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Yeah.
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So I m going to find out how it sounds, but the lyrics that I m seeing are feel the rain on your skin.
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No one else can feel it for you.
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Who is this?
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Hold on.
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I m the Natasha Bening, Beddingfield.
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Hold on.
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Sounds like it would be a Natasha Beddingfield song.
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It s a bop, and you ve heard it, I promise.
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Yeah, I think it s this one, hold on.
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Nicole, if it s this song, I m gonna be real honest with you.
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You did not do a good job singing it.
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I don t think so.
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But maybe we ll be taking that back.
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I love you so much, but I could not figure out what the lyrics were.
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Hit the chorus!
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Yeah!
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No.
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Way.
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There s no way!
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Yeah, that s the song.
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That s the song?
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Let the sun come in.
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The word sun wasn t even in there.
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No one else could do it for you.
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And yeah, we got it from the lyrics.
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I knew it was one of the elements.
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Oh my God.
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Well, why is she standing out in the rain?
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The sun is better for you.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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I think I did a great job.
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Jordan did a great job of deciphering that.
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I m really glad we got there, because I was not figuring it out.
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I m going to share, just so we have the lyrics.
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By the way, for those listening, it s unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield that Nicole is singing.
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Oh, yeah.
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I am unwritten.
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So you were singing the chorus, but I didn t realize it was let the rain feel the rain on your skin.
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I thought it was the sun.
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Feel the rain on your skin.
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No one else can feel it for you.
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Only you can let it in.
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I mean, I think I was singing the melody of it.
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I honestly, okay, hearing the song after my singing of it, there was no difference.
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It was as if Natasha Bedingfield possessed me and she was coming through me.
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I can t believe you guys didn t know what it was.
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That s so wild.
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Can you sing your version again?
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Feel the rain on your skin.
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No one else can do it for you.
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No one can let the sun on in.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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Okay.
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I think it was a let it in.
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I mean, it was all of it that messed me up.
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It now sounds more like the song because we heard the song.
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But if we go back, if we go back to the beginning of this episode, I bet there is people from the first time I sang it were like, that s Natasha Banning.
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Like people knew, people knew.
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I don t think so.
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Let the sun in.
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Nothing else can do it for you.
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Everything is for us all.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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I don t know this.
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Yeah.
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Let the sun come in.
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There s nothing else that s better for you.
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Let the sun come by.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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Who is this?
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I thought it was gonna be Hilary Duff s, let the rain fall down.
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Let the sun fall down and on your skin and everybody knows you can do it better.
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That s a different song.
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Funny that they re both about rain and you can substitute the rain with sun, but that s a different, that melody is different.
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Yeah, you re so right.
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Thank you.
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I got confused.
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And that happens.
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That happens to the best of us.
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We don t know what sun song is being sung.
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We don t know what sun song is being sung?
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We don t know which sun song is being sung.
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But neither of those are sun songs.
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Listen, you got to flip it and reverse it just like Missy said.
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Now she s talking about the rain.
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Oh, she can t stand the sun.
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I can t stand the sun at my window.
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Listen, I really do think people listening knew exactly what I was singing.
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And I feel confident in that.
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All right.
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Well, I guess we ll just see.
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Hearing you sing it after we heard it, now I get it.
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Now I can hear it.
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Thank you.
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I take back my comment.
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Thank you.
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That s okay.
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You re a lovely singer.
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You can keep the comments flowing.
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I know in my heart I did a good job.
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So nothing can knock me out because I let it in.
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Let it in.
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Okay?
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She lets it in, lets it in.
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Okay.
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It is funny though that I thought it was sun and it s definitely rain.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Because there s also so many sun songs.
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I m singing in the sun.
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Nope.
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That s not one of them.
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I know that one s rain too.
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There s so many songs about the rain.
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You actually said a lyric of a very popular sun song.
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♪ I wanna soak up the sun.
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♪ Tell everyone.
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You were literally like, oh, I was out there soaking up the sun.
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It was right there.
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And then he chose a rain song.
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Boy, oh boy, oh boy.
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Wow.
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I guess the rain is just on.
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I m trying to flip the rain away into the sun.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and that s good.
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That s a good instinct.
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And now it s stuck in my head.
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I m like bopping internally with it.
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Do you have an earworm?
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I mean, now it s Hilary Duff s let the rain fall down.
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Let the sun fall down.
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I get it.
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Let the sun fall down.
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Oh, my God.
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That would be so scary if the sun fell down.
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That d be horrifying.
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It would be so hot.
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Ooh, it s falling towards us?
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I guess.
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Oh, God.
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Oh, I guess it could just fall in space.
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Yeah, it could fall anywhere.
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I didn t know it was coming right at us.
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It s hurling at us.
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No!
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I would be so mad if I turned on the news and they were like, an asteroid s coming towards the Earth.
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I d be like, are you kidding?
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Yeah.
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I don t want that.
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What if an asteroid was coming to the Earth and we had, like, three months?
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We knew it was coming.
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We only have three more months.
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What would you do?
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Oh, I d go on a lot of vacations.
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Are you kidding?
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I would spend my money.
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I would dry it right up.
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I would go into debt because what?
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You can t come after me.
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We re all dead.
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This is true.
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Yeah, I think same.
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I would go places I ve never been before.
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Yeah, I d have a nice time.
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Mm-hmm.
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But then it s like, oh, man, would everyone be having a nice time?
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Would people go to work if we were all gonna die in three months?
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That s a good point.
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Would people fly planes?
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Would there be pilots?
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Or would they be also enjoying themselves?
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Like, who s gonna take us to these extravagant vacations if everyone s like, well, who cares?
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I guess as soon as it was announced, I would get a yacht, and then I would find someone to yacht me, and I guess I would pay them, even though money doesn t matter anymore, or I d just be like, do you wanna just take us around, vacation, and have a nice time with us?
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Yeah, I think that s what I would do.
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I like that.
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That s very smart.
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Yeah.
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Well, all right, Comet, come on down.
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No, we don t want it.
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Come on down, Yacht, I have a plan.
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No, I mean, it s good that we have a plan, but I don t think we should want... End us all, Comet, or Asteroid, or whatever.
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Come on down.
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Come on down.
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It s like the price is right.
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Price is wrong here.
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Price is right.
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Come on down.
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End us all, Diva.
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Right as rain.
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Is that a song?
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Probably, but I don t know.
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I haven t taken a singing lesson in a minute, so I m a little rusty.
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The singing, I don t have a problem with.
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It s the mystery melody that was confusing.
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Listen, I don t know how many times I ll have to tell you.
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I was on the fucking melody.
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I think what tripped you up is I didn t know the words.
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You know, you were searching for a sun song.
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It should have been a rain song.
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This is true.
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That s the only difference.
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That s it.
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I am Natasha Benningfield.
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What?
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Imagine I just like peeled my skin back and I was a white woman.
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That s where she s been.
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Yeah, guys, I ve just been in Nicole Byers  body and now I m back and better than ever.
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Has she been away?
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I think she, like, pops up here and there.
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There was a... Was it this song?
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I feel like something came back in the Zeitgeist at some point and someone was doing a dance to it or something.
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I don t know.
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I just remember a few years ago she, like, came... became, like, popular again because people were doing, I think, a dance to one of her songs.
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Probably this one.
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Probably this one.
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But then, I don t know if he s like releasing music still.
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I don t know.
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I went to karaoke a couple weeks ago and Bad Romance is such a banger.
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I like often forget how good of a pop song it is.
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Oh, I love it.
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And then we sang Jennifer Page Crush.
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Do you remember that song?
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Oh, yeah.
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It s just a little crush.
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Every time you fly.
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Fly.
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Fly?
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Not touch?
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Oh yeah, maybe that s probably the lyric.
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I just think it rhymes with crush.
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Oh, that s good.
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Crush, touch.
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Oh, that s smart.
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That s probably how it goes.
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It s such a good song.
1
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Yeah, it s a very good song.
1
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Also a good song, Natalie Imbruglia, Torn.
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Very good song.
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I can t remember how it goes though.
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I m torn apart between two things cause I m torn.
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That s not how it goes.
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Can t decide.
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Is it this thing or the other thing?
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I m torn.
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Oh my God.
1
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No.
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Oh, here it is.
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Ooh, yeah.
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A man s book tonight.
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He was warm, he came around like he was dignified.
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Dignified.
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He showed me what I used to like.
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Who are these men?
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The conversation has run dry.
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Has run dry.
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That s what s going on.
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Why is she naked on the floor?
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Cause she s torn.
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She torn her clothes off.
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I ve never been so torn between two options that I m lying naked on the floor being like, which one?
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I mean, I think she s like,
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heartbroken or something.
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Is it about choosing something?
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I don t think so.
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I think she s just heartbroken.
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I don t know.
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But there s two men in the video.
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and a tall one.
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Is she torn between those two men?
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No, I think they re directing a scene.
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Or, like, I think it s, like, they re directing the music video or something.
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Oh.
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Wow, you really remember that.
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Honestly, it was just context clues.
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It s just... Oh, okay, so you, like, pay attention or something.
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I get it.
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Okay, cool.
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It s just context clues.
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You know, when you watch something, you understand what s happening.
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That s what you sound like.
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I was just paying attention to the clues bestowed upon me.
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And that s how I figured it out.
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I m secure.
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That s exactly what you sound like.
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Wow.
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Well, if you look at minute 35.
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Or at a minute and 35 seconds, you ll see someone was holding a script and then someone else is moving props.
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So I deduce that it s probably a scene of some sort.
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God, you fucking nerd.
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Well, some of us like details, OK?
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Fair, but also when I watch things, I am watching them.
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Okay, I don t understand people who watch movies and then they re like, oh, this is probably gonna happen next.
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And I m like, what?
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Don t do that.
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Why are you doing that?
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Why are you getting ahead?
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Sure, sometimes I Wikipedia things to know exactly what s gonna happen when I m really like, what s happening?
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But for the most part, if I m in a theater or watching something with a friend, I am on the ride.
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I m not trying to figure out what s next.
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Why do people do that?
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Interesting.
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I don t know.
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I feel like it happens in my brain naturally where I m like, oh, it s probably going to be X, Y and Z. And I don t know if it s because of all the content I ve already consumed in my brain is like creating patterns based off of patterns I ve already seen or what.
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But I think I don t think I intentionally do it, but I do do that where I m like, oh, this will probably happen next or I can probably see this happening.
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Wow, everything s a surprise to me.
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I m always like, whoa!
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Okay!
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It s a nice place to be.
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You re the perfect audience member.
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I really am.
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I never know where things are going.
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I m like, what?
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Millheiser does that all the time.
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He s like, oh, this is probably gonna happen.
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When it happens, I m so mad.
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Because I m like, why did you tell me?
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Keep that shit to yourself.
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Did you see The Village?
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The M. Night Shyamalan movie?
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Sure did.
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Did you, were you like for the ride the whole time?
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No, I kind of knew I was like, Oh, I think they re just like on the outskirts of life.
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And I don t know why I thought that.
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But then I was like, Oh, that is it.
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But I was like, I wasn t trying to figure it out.
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I was like, this seems weird.
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Something s off.
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Yeah, I think I found out pretty early too.
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And I was really upset that that s what was going on.
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Yeah.
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But I did ruin the sixth sense once and maybe this is why I don t do it anymore because I was just like understanding and I was like, oh, oh, he s dead.
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And then it happened like seconds later and everyone turned around and looked at me and I was like, sorry about it.
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But I was just like understanding things.
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Yes.
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Oops.
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And I didn t mean to.
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So maybe ever since that incident, I was like, hey, let s not think.
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Let s just enjoy the ride.
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Yeah, you re like, I don t want people mad at me anymore.
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No, simply don t.
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Keep my brain off.
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Dumb ideas away.
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Have you seen Old?
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No.
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Jordan, have you seen Old?
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It is an incredible movie done by M. Night Shyamalan.
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Oh, my God.
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OK, are you going to see it?
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Probably not.
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OK, I m going to ruin it.
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Jordan, are you going to see it?
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You can ruin it.
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Go ahead.
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No, there was hesitation.
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OK, watch it and get back to me.
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It s, the twist is nuts.
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Are they like not actually old?
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When did it come out?
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Years and years ago.
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The poster was like on a beach with like legs and it said old.
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It was like old hands and young legs or something like that.
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Something like that.
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Boy, oh boy, it s a doozy.
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Sissier, you gotta watch it.
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All right.
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Out of all of his movies, did you like the twist of Old best, or were other M. Night Shyamalan movies better?
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I think The Sixth Sense is really his creme de la creme.
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I think it s so good.
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Old is truly just, I was like, wait, what?
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And I watched it on a plane, and I was loud as hell.
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I was like, no, what?
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Have you ever watched The Gunna Play and you look around and be like, am I the only one seeing this?
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And you re like, oh, I guess I am.
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I am, it s my private screen.
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What a trap to put yourself in, to be like, I m the guy who always has a twist.
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Like, that s gotta suck.
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Like, you just can t make a straightforward movie if you wanted to.
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It s like, I gotta find some sort of freaking, some fun twist happening.
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Fun twist that makes people feel like I got them.
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Oh my god, you want to know what I watched on a plane?
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There was kind of a twist, but not really.
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American Fiction.
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Have you seen it?
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Oh no, I still haven t seen it.
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What a lovely movie.
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Oh nice.
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I had a nice time.
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Oh good.
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Things happen that were surprising.
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Wow, I m loving this review.
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It was well acted.
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Good surprises.
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Um, fun things.
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Yeah.
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Seth Seth from the OC is in it.
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Okay.
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What s his name?
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Andy Cohen?
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Oh, yeah.
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Adam Brody.
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Whoopsies!
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I think his name was Seth Cohen on the show, to be fair.
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Oh, yes, yes, yes, you re right.
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Okay, wow, that was, yikes.
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But he s in it, he s good.
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Erica Anderson from Living Singles in it?
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Oh, yes.
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Oh, Erica Alexander.
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Yes.
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She s great.
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Oh, great.
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Everyone is so good in it.
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Issa Rae s in it.
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Oh, nice.
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Oh, my God.
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What a time.
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What a time.
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All right.
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And there s one scene where I went, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, and I looked around and nobody else was laughing with me.
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Yeah, that happens on a plane.
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Yeah.
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Also, I think I have exercise-induced asthma.
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What?
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Okay, I ll tell you why.
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Because I was flying to Austin.
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My flight was leaving at 6.30 in the morning.
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And I got a Uber who happened to get off the highway twice.
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And I, okay, when I go to the airport, I leave just amount like the right amount of time for no mistakes.
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This man made two mistakes.
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and we hit traffic.
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So I got to the airport at 6.08 for a flight leaving at 6.30.
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So I had, I don t know, five minutes to get through security and run to the gate.
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So I went through clear and there was a line at clear and I said, Dios Mios.
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So I said, hi everybody.
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And I left my phone open so I could prove to them I only had 20 minutes to get to the gate.
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Technically I only had like five minutes, but I said 20 because I was like, it leaves at 730.
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So then everyone rolled their eyes and let me go ahead of them, which was really kind.
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Thank you everyone at LAX.
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And then the lady who did my little eye scan, she s like, when do you leave?
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And I was like, 630.
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And she s like, we gotta get you.
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And I was like, thank you.
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So then go through security and then a couple of people were like, heard you re leaving at 630.
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And I was like, yes, and I can t talk to you.
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And they were like, good luck.
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And then I ran.
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I ran the whole way to the gate until I was like, OK, it s around the corner.
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Then I stopped running because I was like, phew, I m getting hot.
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And then I got on the plane.
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Oh, first, the gate agent was like, we thought we were going to have to leave you.
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And I said, no, I m here.
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And she s like, catch your breath.
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And I said, okay.
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And then I got on the plane, and then I started going... And then I couldn t stop coughing.
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And I was like, oh, my God, everyone thinks I am COVID.
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And then I didn t stop coughing for most of the flight.
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And then when we landed, it, like, kind of subsided, but then I still had this little cough, and I was like, it s from the run.
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It s probably from the run, yeah.
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That s exact scenario how this happened to me, too.
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Like, after rushing to a flight, sitting down, I ll start coughing, and my nose will run, too.
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Mm-hmm.
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Same.
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But I don t know if that s asthma.
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Can t you know, like, I feel like with asthma, you can t breathe, right?
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Oh, maybe.
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OK, so I have exercise-induced coughing.
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Yeah, it s gotta be called something else.
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I think I looked it up once and I cannot remember what it was.
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It went in my brain and right out.
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Maybe it s like exercise induced bronchitis.
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I don t think so.
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Bronchiological disease?
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No, I don t think it s that serious.
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I think it s just like
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coughing when you exercise.
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But I cough for so long.
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Like the lady next to me was like kind of mad at me.
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She was like, Oh, stop coughing.
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And I was like, I can t I ran here.
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I swear it s running not COVID.
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Okay, so I looked it up.
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So exercise induced asthma is when the airways narrow or squeeze during hard physical activity.
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It causes shortness of breath, wheezing and coughing and other symptoms
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during or after exercise.
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The medical term for this condition is exercise-induced bronchoconstriction.
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Whoa.
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Okay.
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You said all those words.
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Sure did.
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Well, well, well, looks like you re the nerd.
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Looks like I m a doctor, Dr. Byer, MD, me and Doogie studied at the same, I almost just said farm, but that s not it, medical school.
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The doctor farm?
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Well, because earlier we were talking about farming, right?
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Planting?
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Soil.
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Soil.
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Oh boy, oh boy, I m all over the place, Lord Jesus.
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Oh Lord, it was tough though.
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I was, it really, and okay, so I also anticipated the gate being in the 30s, which a delta is closer than the 20s.
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So I had to run further, oh Lord.
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Did you, on the thing you just read, does it say like how to stop that?
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Oh.
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How do you fix exercise-induced asthma?
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Take the prescribed asthma medication about 15 to 30 minutes before exercising.
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Warm up before exercising to prevent chest tightening.
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Breathe through the nose during exercise.
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Take short breaks if you find that helpful.
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If symptoms start, slow down the exercise.
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Seems tough.
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Seems like there s no real way to do it.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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You can t take a break when you re at the airport.
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No, you gotta keep running.
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Gotta get on that plane.
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No, I truly just couldn t make, I couldn t believe I made it.
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It was wild.
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And then I was like, I need to leave my house earlier.
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And I know for a fact I won t.
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Cause you keep making their flights.
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You ll never learn your lesson.
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Nope.
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You re like, well, it didn t really matter before.
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So I could, I can now make it with five minutes.
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I think I got to the gate at like 616, which is, uh, simply like a minute because they closed, they allegedly closed the door 15 minutes prior to departure.
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Yeah.
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But I think I was scanned in and they were like, she ll come.
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Wow.
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Damn.
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Yeah, I know.
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Wild, right?
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Wild.
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Yeah, I should leave.
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I should really at least give myself a half hour to get through security and not eight minutes.
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Absolutely.
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I know that there s a price difference and also flights are different, but would you rather do the Burbank Airport or LAX?
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Um, I know people say that the Burbank airport is easier, but I got through security in eight minutes at LAX.
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So... But didn t you have someone guiding you?
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No, I asked to go in front of everybody.
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Oh, okay.
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But that s not normal.
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Are you going to do that every time?
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Oh, sorry.
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Sorry.
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Like, we ve seen you before.
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Get here earlier.
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You do this every time.
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Well, I always have my phone out, you know, so they can be like, let me see if anyone has to see it.
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I show them to, you know, and I take screenshots of my boarding pass because they will give your seat up and then you cannot check in.
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And that has happened to me once and it ll never happen again.
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I think it was an overbooked flight and I got there, I think when it was boarding.
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So when they do that, they release the seats of an overbooked flight and then they take away your chance to check in because they ve taken your seat or whatever.
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But you re not gonna get me.
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You re never gonna get me.
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I ll screenshot that shit.
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She knows all the tricks.
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Oh, I ve missed flights before not asking people.
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So I ll ask.
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I ve missed flights by somebody booting me off the app because they gave my seat away.
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SPEAKER_02
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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Screenshot of that shit.
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Yeah.
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OK.
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OK.
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Great.
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Yeah, I should get there earlier because I did get to go to the lounge when I was in Austin and I did have mashed potatoes.
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That s the night.
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That s the other part to getting there early.
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To get mashed potatoes, yeah.
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Yeah, and just mashed potatoes.
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SPEAKER_02
Well, OK, I did have mashed potatoes, strawberries and cucumbers.
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Okay.
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It was tasty.
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Don t, don t, don t make that face.
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This is an interesting combination.
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It s like having mashed potatoes in like a seasonal summer salad.
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This is true.
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You re right.
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You had a summer salad.
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Yeah.
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Just without the lettuce and like dressing and stuff, you know?
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Yeah.
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It was a good strawberry, man, too.
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Oh, good.
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I m glad.
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And I was mad because I was like, it s eleven thirty.
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Why am I eating mashed potatoes?
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Give me a bagel.
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SPEAKER_02
Yeah, I don t know if I had breakfast cut off at 11.
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And it should be noon.
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Noon is afternoon.
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That s mashed potato time.
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Nobody wants to be eating mashed potatoes at 1130.
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Certainly not me.
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No, but I did it.
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So brave.
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Should we answer questions and queries?
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Let s do it.
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Hi, Judith.
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You re in heaven.
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Hi, Judith.
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Yeah, it does look like you re right in heaven.
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She s soaking up the sun right now.
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♪ You re soaking up the sun ♪ ♪ You gotta tell everyone ♪ No, no, no, before we get into listener questions, Nicole, you sing that song again.
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Judith has to figure it out.
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Oh, okay.
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♪ Let the sun fall down and in your heart you know ♪ Wait, hold on.
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♪ Let the sun fall down ♪ Wait.
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Uh-oh.
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let the sun come in and in your heart no one wait no i think i m now singing the other one you are yeah okay let the sun fall in no one else can do it for you no one else can let it in this i know this i know wait no let it in
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Okay, Judith, what do you think Nicole is singing?
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Well, two different songs.
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Okay, wait, let me do it again.
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I ll do it one more time.
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Let the sun fall in.
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No one can do it for you.
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Everyone needs it for you.
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Let it in.
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Let it in.
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Well, the Latin is Natasha Bedingfield.
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Yes.
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And then the first one felt like it was Sheryl Crow.
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SPEAKER_00
No, I think the first one you were singing the Hilary Duff song.
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I think so.
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But see, Judith knew.
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Judith, I m so shocked.
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I told you, these women, these friends and allies didn t know what I was singing.
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But my good friend Judith, she said, I know exactly what you re singing.
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And I said, the listeners are going to know too.
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I feel validated, I m vindicated.
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All right, let s answer some questions.
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Hi, Nicole, I m Sasheer.
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I m a new listener and oh boy, I m a huge fan.
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I have a situation that I could use some advice with.
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A few weekends ago, I went to a local bar slash restaurant near my home to have some food and drinks, food and drinks.
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I go to this place.
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I go to this place every now and then.
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Usually I want a drink with dinner since I don t like to drink alone at home.
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On my way in, my favorite lady bartender was on her way out.
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She seems sad.
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So I said hi and hope to see her next time.
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So I was sitting at the bar with a bartender I had not met before.
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This man is very attractive and we were talking and vibing and having a great time.
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We have a lot in common and we were both really excited about it.
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I ended up staying much later than I expected because we were having so much fun.
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He asked for my number.
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I gave it to him next day.
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I hoped to get a message or a call, but alas, I did not.
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The next week I was having dinner and drinks with a friend and we decided to go to this bar for a drink.
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The same bartender was there and told me he lost my number and he was really excited I came back.
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We stayed late again that night because we were having fun and when I left for the night he walked me out.
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We kissed and it was glorious.
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In the morning we made plans to see each other.
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A few days later when we hung out again he told me that he d been in an on and off relationship with the lady bartender that I like.
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They were not together the last few times I saw him, but since they have decided that they are going to try to make things work because they live together and he feels stuck in this situation.
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We re both sad about it, but I respect their relationship and I don t intend to become involved in a potentially messy situation.
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My question is, would it be inappropriate for
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me to go back to this bar.
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It s a good spot for me because it s close to home and I don t have to drive or get an Uber.
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I don t drink at home and I prefer to have company when I do drink, so that bar is my go-to.
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I would be unhappy if I was unable to go back.
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However, I don t want my presence to cause issues in a relationship that I m not trying to get in the way of, regardless of the feelings I have for him.
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He usually works in a different part of the bar that I don t go to often, so I could probably avoid seeing him, but I would likely see her there, and I don t know how to feel about having fun bar time with her, like usual, knowing that I have feelings for her boyfriend.
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Ooh, thank you so much for being here to listen.
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Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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That s tough.
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That s tough.
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I would just find another bar.
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Yeah, I guess it s like kind of unnecessary to.
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Have all of that stuff floating around.
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Yeah, I don t I mean, I guess it would just be like if you feel awkward, because I doubt either of them would say something.
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Or maybe they would, we don t know.
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But I don t know if the guy would have been like, oh, I met a lady.
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She comes to this bar all the time.
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It s that lady.
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I don t know if he s gonna tell the other bartender about you, per se.
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But yeah.
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But I guess I could feel how it feels being two-faced.
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being like, oh, I ve kissed this man that you live with and is your partner and you are trying to work things out.
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While you weren t together, we kissed or so he says, you know, who knows if they were actually apart then.
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Maybe he lost that number because he s a history of collecting numbers from, you know, ladies that he meets and
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We don t know.
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We don t know the actual full scope of things.
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So, me, personally, I would feel... I would feel like a nasty, dirty bitch if I was like, okay, I kissed this woman s man and I m sitting here talking tee-hee-hee-ing with this girl and I ve kissed him and you re trying to work... Like, I would just not... I wouldn t feel good about it.
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Yeah, that makes sense.
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Yeah.
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Maybe... Yeah, maybe find a different bar and maybe over time you can go back to that bar.
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But maybe this is like a little too...
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soon yeah they don t have their stuff figured out you don t want to wait or like be a part like watch this unfold in front of you um yeah i think just for your comfort you probably should find a different bar yeah and that s why they say don t kiss where you eat right isn t that like a saying i think it s no shit where you eat but don t kiss where you eat is much nicer
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Don t kiss three divas.
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Okay.
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Because like what a treat to have like a man so close at your bar.
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But then it s messy and it s not really a treat.
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It s not really a treat.
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And yeah, what also kind of even if the girlfriend wasn t a thing.
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Like, even if you were able to, like, date this person separately, now, if it doesn t work out, there goes your bar again.
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Really, you know, go to a place where there s ugly bartenders.
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And make that your place.
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Yeah, go to Coyote Ugly.
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I hear they re ugly there.
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Get an Uber, girl.
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Get in a little Uber.
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Spend $10 to get a little further.
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Yeah.
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Thankfully, there s options.
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Yeah.
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Or get your steps in.
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Walk a little further.
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I mean, it can t just be one bar near you.
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Yeah.
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I guess it s just like the convenience because it s the closest bar, but I m sure there s another one.
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Yeah.
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Keep stepping, which sounds rude.
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Keep stepping.
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Yeah, I think it s a little too messy, and I think it s nice to just be like, I m going to remove myself from this.
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Yeah.
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Solved.
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Solved.
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Or, or go into the bar on Friday and be like, bitch, you re not working shit out.
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That s my man.
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I m sucking his dick tonight.
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And then there s a fight.
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Yeah.
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And then you brawl and then you brawl and then that woman gets fired because she fought at the bar and then you can take her job and her money.
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Yes.
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And if they put up a picture of you being like, she s not allowed in, get a wig.
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They ll never go.
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And sunglasses like and set it off.
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They were hard to find.
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This is true.
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Solved.
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Problem solved.
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Give us one more Jordan.
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Hi, Nicole and Sashir and the whole team.
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Love you guys and adore y all s friendship.
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I suppose I had a question on how to navigate a recent breakup.
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We dated for three and a half years.
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He was my first actual love.
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We truly loved each other, but eventually he chose the bottle over me.
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There was a lot of factors at play.
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I m a travel nurse, and he traveled with me.
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He could never commit to advancing any type of career, no matter how much time and financial support I gave.
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I understand he was sacrificing some things to travel, so I took on 70% of the bills, if not more.
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Three months ago, his mother came to get him because of how bad the alcoholism and lying about the alcoholism got.
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He texted me and apologized and said that he needs to better himself, followed by neither of us are
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Followed by neither of us are perfect, OK?
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A few days later, I haven t heard from him since.
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I just feel like I deserved more closure, especially since I tried and tried and he couldn t even give me a sober discussion slash apology when it ended in person.
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After I texted him a couple of weeks after the breakup to say my piece, he ignored me.
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I texted him a couple of weeks after that.
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Once I found out something he did that he should have told me, but lied to my brother.
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and said he did tell me when he did not.
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He ignored that, too.
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I know I made mistakes, too, and I m far from perfect.
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And I understand it s painful for him.
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And it s even more painful to face someone you let down so much.
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I wish he could.
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I wish he would have fought for me, though.
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It s clear he didn t have any fight in him left.
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It was a great relationship at first, but it definitely sank.
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I miss him and his dog.
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It was very it was and is very heartbreaking.
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I m taking a new contract in New Hampshire with a great friend of mine, so it ll be nice to leave his apartment and not live alone.
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It s been an adjustment since this was my first actual love.
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I suppose I m seeking advice on how to navigate post breakup with the lack of closure.
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P.S., I m 28.
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He s 26.
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Both gay guys, just to add to the details.
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Okay.
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I mean, alcohol is a beast and alcoholism is horrible for everyone involved.
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And I think you have to, you don t have to do anything, but I think it ll help.
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knowing that a lot of this doesn t have anything to do with you or your relationship, it s, he s sick.
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And, uh, it s possible he wanted to have a good relationship or wanted to be a good partner.
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And there are things that he can t control that made it hard for that to happen.
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And it s not a thing of like,
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If he wanted to, he would.
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He probably wanted to and can t.
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And that is sad.
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And he s also probably sad because he can t or couldn t.
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And who knows?
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We don t, I don t know if this person knows where they are.
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I don t know if they re like working on it or like trying to get their shit together or just being
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an alcoholic somewhere else, but it seems like they don t want to talk right now, or they don t want to talk about this right now.
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And it s fine for you to get your piece out, but if you re doing that, do it because you want to get it out.
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maybe don t do it expecting a response because you either won t get a response or you won t get a response that feels good because it sucks either way.
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If you think about it, whatever this person s going to say back, it probably won t be satisfying because it just happened the way it happened.
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And I m sure they don t feel good about how they treated you.
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But also,
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they weren t actively thinking.
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It wasn t like they were using their logical brain to hurt you.
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They just couldn t control another part of their brain.
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And they probably don t like thinking about that.
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So, yeah, it s hard.
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It s really, really hard to not take it personally.
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But it isn t about you, I guess.
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And then I m also like, what closure are you looking for?
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Like this person cannot give you what you need?
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And what like, do you want that articulated to you?
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Like, wouldn t that just hurt your feelings more?
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I think a good exercise might be what you think was happening in the relationship, writing
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that down and then writing down what was actually happening in the relationship to help you stop romanticizing the good times that you might have felt like you had with this person.
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And it s like, yes, you miss their dog, you miss them, but it s like you also had problems and that s why you re not together.
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And I think people think closure is a thing that helps you move on.
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When I don t, I think you don t like, do you get closure from everything in life?
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Not really.
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And you just learn to move on.
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And it sounds callous and like kind of mean, but like, I don t think people actually like heal, heal from stuff.
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I think distance makes things easier.
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And it s like, as soon as you start putting distance between you and this relationship,
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the better off you ll be, you know, and maybe this person will get better.
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Maybe this person will come to terms with how they treat you and reach out later and be like, I m sorry for X, Y and Z. Hopefully you ll be in a place where that that s like it s nothing.
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It s like, OK, I m glad they felt like they needed to say that.
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But like I didn t need that because I did the work to be OK by myself.
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Yeah, I also saw a post somewhere that was like, growth is forgiving someone without requiring an apology.
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Like, you can forgive someone and they don t have to necessarily say sorry.
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You don t actually need another person to get the closure you re seeking.
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That can be inner work on yourself.
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Maybe it d be nice, but also, would it?
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Like, it sounds like it didn t end well.
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Yeah, I don t know even if you guys did talk another time if that would be satisfying.
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Yeah, I think it s okay to know that wasn t a good situation.
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Thank goodness you re not in it anymore.
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Of course you guys loved each other and it s sad that it ended, but also he s dealing with a lot and I m glad his family stepped in and I hope that he s getting the help that he needs.
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Um, but yeah, like there s, you re not going to get a coherent back and forth from this and especially bringing up the past and like starting, like trying to like flesh out why things happen.
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He doesn t know why things happened.
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He hasn t, he does not know why, why he did those things.
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They just happened.
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Um, and yeah, hopefully he will get to the point where he can make amends and come back to you and say, sorry, but if not,
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That s also very real.
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It s a real possibility that you ll never get that and hopefully you can be okay with that so you can move on with your life.
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And I think there s something to deleting their number.
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I think there s something to deleting the text thread in general so you can t return to it and like stew and be like, why didn t he answer?
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Why did this happen?
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If it s not there, you can t look at it.
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If you have pictures of you guys together that are favorited, unfavorite them.
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Just try to not live in the past and live in the good memories.
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And yeah, you don t need closure.
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You don t need validation.
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I think the closure is you moving on and really working on yourself and figuring out what you want in another partner.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah, I m sorry.
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This is happening.
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Yeah, I said.
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There s also, if you really want to like talk to more people and hear their perspectives, there s Al-Anon, which is a support group for people who love alcoholics.
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And since that is you, you are a person who was in a long-term relationship with someone who s an alcoholic, you might find some solace in hearing some other people s stories and hearing their perspectives and yeah, getting something out of it.
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Mm-hmm.
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I agree.
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Because it is nice to be like, oh, I m not alone.
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Yeah.
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Someone else is going through the same thing as me.
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Mm-hmm.
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Ooh, that one was heavy.
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If you...
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If you let the sun fall down, let it, let it, let it sun fall down.
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You re the only one who can do it.
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Here s the funniest part.
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I m like, you re, that s wrong.
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Like, I know that I m not singing the same words every time, but like, I was like, oh, Sashira, like you re, that s not right.
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Let the sun fall, no wait, let the sun shine in.
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No one else can do it for you.
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No one else can let it in.
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No one else, no one else.
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Okay, if you liked my rendition and or got it on the first sing, you can email Nicole and Sashir at gmail.com or leave a voicemail or a voice note or a text telling me how good I am at singing and how you thought Natasha Beningfield had taken over my body.
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at 424-645-7003.
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We also have merch at podswag.com slash best friends.
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And we have transcripts of our new episodes so you can read the way I sang to check it out and go, yeah, she got it good.
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And you can check it out on our show page at yourwolf.com.
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Lastly, don t forget to rate what you thought of Nicole s rendition of the song, review if it sounded like the other song, and subscribe to this or Natasha Beddingfield s actual page.
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Thanks.
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That s the easiest way to support this show.
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Signing off from the body of Natasha Beddingfield, it s been Nicole Byer.
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And from the rain, Sashir Zameda.
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See you later, everybody.
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Bye.
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Feel the sun on your skin.
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No one else can do it for you.
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Blow you to let it in.
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No one else, no one else can speak the words on your lips.
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Yeah!