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Welcome to Minnesota Monday happy to be with you here helping to kick the week off with something quick and Actionable that you can implement right away.
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That ll make you more magnetic and effective today I reminisce about my trip here to Shanghai that place had Brits French Americans Japanese and of course Chinese all in the past hundred years or so So talk about an identity crisis
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So many people, so many different cultures, different languages, communication can get really tricky, and I find this a lot when I travel.
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I rely a lot on nonverbal communication.
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People often ask if whatever we teach here at AOC works in other countries or other cultures, and I often find that to be one of the top excuses from guys, well, this is never gonna work in the UK, this isn t gonna work in Canada or Australia.
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Not only is it effective, but it actually becomes more important in foreign places because often it s all we really have to work with.
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In fact, it seems like the less of a verbal or written language you actually understand, the more important the nonverbal communications become.
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Thankfully, nonverbal communication is largely universal.
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There are cultural differences, there are nuances, but for the most part, the signals and subcommunication are almost exactly the same.
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Now I m not talking about hand signals or certain gestures, but I m talking about the more nuanced nonverbal communication, confidence and posture and charisma and things like that.
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You don t have to travel overseas to work on deciphering nonverbal communications, though.
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Observe people from afar, interactions with one another, especially if couples are on dates or friends, things like that.
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Try and deduce what they re doing, what they re thinking, and try this with a partner.
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because somebody might pick up something that you don t, especially if you have a partner, if you re a guy doing this, try doing it with a girl, and vice versa, you ll find people observing different things, or being less observant than you perhaps, or perhaps even more.
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And when you re observing others, it s very difficult to see if your predictions are accurate, but it really doesn t matter.
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What we re really doing here is training ourselves to become more observant in the first place, and look for things that we normally brush aside in favor of spoken communication.
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If we get really good at observing what s in front of us, once we do get the words out, our communication will be that much better.
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Of course, your newfound skill set will come in pretty handy when traveling as well.
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What do you see this week in other people s nonverbal communication that you never noticed before?
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If you re on the Facebook group for the Art of Charm Challenge, let us know there, or if you re not in that yet, definitely get in there.
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You can text charmed, that s C-H-A-R-M-E-D, to 33444, or go to the website and opt in at theartofcharm.com slash challenge.
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I m interested to hear what you start to notice this week, what you see.
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Until then, stay charming.
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Hey everybody, producer Jason here.
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I just wanted to give you a heads up that we re talking to Adam Grant this week on Tuesday and Raj Raghunathan on Thursday.
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Adam Grant is the author of the book Originals and it is an amazing conversation on how to differentiate yourself from the pack and Raj s book is about
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being intelligent, but still being unhappy.
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And he gives us a roadmap on how to fix our lives if we overthink.
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So both of those conversations out of the park, they were just great.
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So I hope you check those out and we ll be talking to you soon.
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Thanks for listening to the Art of Charm.
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Get more confidence, relationship skills, life hacks, and more at theartofcharmpodcast.com.