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All right, welcome to Mini-Sowed Monday.
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Happy to be with you here, helping you kick the weekend off right with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away, today, this week, that ll make you more magnetic and effective.
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Today, a lot of people have commented, wow, Jordan, you re really observant for a guy who s kind of all over the place, because if you ve met me in person, I m both distractible as well as observant in kind of weird, quirky ways.
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How do I read people so quickly, I ve been asked.
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I ve been recently, or at least the past few months, on and off going to yoga.
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And Jenny said, hey, did you notice the girl with the long eyelashes and the blue pants?
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And I said, oh, the one who didn t make eye contact and sounded a little bit tired?
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And she was kind of like, yeah, random thing to have noticed, especially since she noticed long eyelashes and blue pants, which seemed much more obvious.
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For me, it helps to think of other descriptors for people, and I make this as a matter of habit, a drill.
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Think of other descriptors for people besides strictly appearance-based traits.
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So it forces you to think and look for other factors that are probably more important.
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So instead of saying,
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oh, the guy in the blue sweatshirt, you might think, oh, the guy that moves around really timidly but speaks with a lot of enthusiasm, that might sound like a weird combo, but you ll get what I m saying when you start to look for other traits that people have that just aren t what they re wearing or what their hair looks like.
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And these things are more important and actually more descriptive depending on your goals, but certainly when it comes to observing people s personality.
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Now this also hones your judgment and makes you more observant in a deeper way than just the surface.
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And I ve noticed that good writers do this to paint vivid pictures of scenes.
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It s never a girl wearing a blue jumper with blonde hair pulled back.
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It s always more than that.
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It s always something more descriptive that makes you feel what these people look like and are like instead of just what they appear to be on the surface.
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So, I challenge you, for the next week or so, to describe people, even in your own head, by something other than just what they re wearing, their hair color, or their facial features, and see what else you now notice that you might never have seen.
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Of course, I want to hear how this goes, so let me know.
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You can email me, tweet at me, etc.
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And don t forget about the Art of Charm Challenge.
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It ll help you connect with others,
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create more productive personal and business relationships, and of course, has step-by-step challenges every week to help you move forward.
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That s at theartofcharm.com slash challenge, or text charmed, that s C-H-A-R-M-E-D, to 33444.
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I believe that only works in the U.S., I could be wrong.
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Anyway, have a great week, and I hope you use what we ve taught you today to leave everything and everyone better than you found them.
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Coming up next on The Art of Charm, Cal Newport, deep work, professional focus, military-grade focus, I would say, and we re gonna talk about how to schedule this into your life, why it s important, why it can make you not only more effective, but also neurologically more healthy.
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That s what s next on The Art of Charm.
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Thanks for listening to The Art of Charm.
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