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Welcome back to the Tony Robbins Podcast.
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We want to thank you for tuning in to listen to these fireside chats from Tony and his wife, Sage, as they share their own stories about this year that has brought so many challenges for everyone.
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We hope you find them to be helpful.
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If you listened to the first episode, you heard how they encouraged us to find the blessing, to see the beauty in each moment, and to be the creator of your own emotional experiences.
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What you re about to hear now is the second part of this three-part series, where they explain the next step, how to be a blessing.
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you ll learn how to make one small, simple shift in how you approach the holidays that will allow you to enjoy yourself so much more, and also open your heart and anchor your state of being in love and kindness so that you can be a blessing to those you love most.
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To watch the video version of this episode, go to TonyRobbins.com slash holiday.
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And we hope you tune in in a few weeks for the next fireside chat from Tony and Sage.
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Hello everyone, it s Sage Robbins back for fireside chat number two.
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We loved hearing from you.
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Thank you for just your outpouring of love and it was just beautiful to hear from you.
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And it s Tony here, and I m wondering if you did your homework.
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If you haven t seen the first one, I hope you do.
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Remember, the homework was to find the blessing in the middle of COVID, not to just be positive thinky, but because you deserve to feel that no matter what happens in life, there is some positive meaning if we look for it.
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Maybe it was time with family.
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Maybe it was your own growth.
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Maybe it was finding a new way to do your business.
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I don t know what it is, but there s something there.
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Maybe it was time for you to take care of your own health.
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But if you did the steps, the first step was find the blessing.
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The second step was be a blessing.
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Find a way to give to others, because that s what the Spirit of the Season is about.
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And if you be a blessing for others, you ll be blessed.
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But today, we thought we d do a shorter fireside chat.
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That s funny.
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These were always supposed to be 10 minutes, by the way.
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Thanks for sticking with us.
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But I m going to attempt to do it.
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And our theme today is, since the holidays are literally around the corner, we just want to see what would happen if this was the greatest holiday of your life in spite of COVID, in spite of politics, in spite of, you know, maybe the limitations and all the questions that you normally deal with
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the holidays, like gifts and getting there and who s gonna host and all those things.
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But now we gotta go, who can come or not?
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Can we eat outside or inside?
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Can we use the bathroom?
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All these rules that are being added out there.
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But what if in spite of all that, you could make this the greatest holiday of your life?
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And we believe we can and we know you can.
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But in order to do that, you gotta kinda come back to what s the purpose of the holiday and how do people think about the holidays normally?
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I know in the past there were times we ve had stress and there were times we ve enjoyed it.
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What was the difference?
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I don t know, I remember, maybe this was about four or five years ago, and I was gearing up, and it was right around this time, and getting ready for Christmas, and I was just so focused on the logistics of it.
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I was so focused on the list, and trust me, it can still happen.
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But it took, I, not it, I took the joy out of the process of really giving, and the spirit of it, and I don t even mean just giving gifts, just being connected to the time to be together, and to celebrate together, and to connect.
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And, you know, I came to Tone and I was like, honey, I said, like, I just I caught myself because, you know, it s so easy to get down that rabbit hole sometimes.
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And just the experience is so much kinder and more beautiful than that when we come back home inside of ourselves and connect to the deeper meaning.
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And so, so many people, when they think about the holidays, their first experience is stress, and that was before COVID.
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So add COVID, add politics, add all those things, and what happens is people are kind of expecting it to be stressful.
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And of course, whatever we focus on, where focus goes, energy flows, right?
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And so, whatever we expect, we tend to find.
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It s just a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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And so, maybe it s time to make a decision about the kind of holiday you wanna have, and the time you wanna have with your family up front, instead of waiting to see how it evolves, or worse,
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anticipating all the challenges that are going to be there.
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And don t get me wrong, I know there s logistics and things to deal with, but we can have those experiences.
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And when you re looking forward to something, those logistics are part of an excitement and anticipation.
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And, you know, what are the holidays about?
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To me, they re really about wrapping up the year and breaking our pattern of day-to-day work
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and really reconnecting to what we re grateful for.
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I mean, Thanksgiving, as an example, is supposed to be about giving thanks, but some of us think it s about having an impossible turkey or a regular turkey or managing so many details.
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So if you want to have that, you got to ask yourself what gets in the way.
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And right now in our society, there are two emotions that are pretty dominant, fear and anger.
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There are people that are really fearful and there are people that are angry that they re fearful because they feel like they don t understand what s really going on.
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And there are people that are fearful of angry people because they think they re angry about it.
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And what s making all this happen is a set of rules.
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And I don t mean rules as a hot topic right now.
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Because we all have rules, but now some rules are being imposed upon you.
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How many people can come to your dinner if you re in California?
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You can only be with your family two hours.
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And I have some friends in New York that called me and they re like, what is this?
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Everybody s saying it s science, but I can t go to my favorite restaurant after 10 p.m.?
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They said, where is COVID at 7, 8, 9 p.m.?
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You know, it just suddenly shows up.
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It isn t science.
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Whether you like the rules or not, there are rules out there and we have to figure out how to deal with those rules, but the ones that bother us more than the ones even trying to be imposed upon us, and some of them are probably extremely useful in some areas, the real ones are the ones we have inside of ourselves that we don t even realize are controlling us.
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Look, from the time you re born to about seven years old, everybody has different estimates,
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You re basically, your unconscious is recording things.
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You re taking in and recording things and they still affect you decades later when you re 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years old or more.
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And so rules are just these unquestioned beliefs about how things are supposed to be or how people are supposed to be.
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And so much of our stress comes because we think our mother shouldn t be worried.
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I was talking to my dearest friends recently and she was telling me how worried she was that her mother s gonna be worried during the holidays because she s in her 80s.
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And I said, do you hear what you re saying?
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You re worried she s gonna be worried.
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Here s what s true, she s gonna be worried.
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It s her way of expressing love.
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And if you don t want her to be the way she s gonna be, you re adding stress to yourself and stress to her and you re no longer connected.
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And you know, there s so many, what are the types of things that show up at the holidays that people like don t look forward to when they get together with family?
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I think just, you know, as we talked about the logistics or dynamics of human beings, I remember the first time that Tony came home with my family and my family, we re not Italian, but we are kind of like a big Italian family.
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We re loud and playful.
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And everybody s talking.
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Like I d be talking to somebody in my family, you listen, right?
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And you give attention.
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It s part of how you re expecting to love somebody.
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So somebody s talking to two of us and all of a sudden one of them just checks out and starts talking across the table to somebody else.
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And I m like, I couldn t even concentrate.
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I m like, honey, is everybody happy?
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She goes, yeah, this is the way we are.
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And I had to change my rules to chaos is joy at some level, or this is how they do it.
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So I m gonna be talking to somebody and then just suddenly talk to someone else and leave that conversation in the middle.
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So a lot of our stress is how we ve been raised or how we ve been programmed.
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No, for sure.
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And I was going to say exactly what he just did right now.
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I love it so much because we talk over each other all the time.
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Yeah, we do.
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But what was so beautiful is it was like a meeting of worlds.
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And part of those worlds were different belief systems and rules.
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And what s so beautiful about my family is there s laughter.
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It sounds like we re yelling.
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Everybody is talking all over each other.
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But there s a playfulness.
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There s a playfulness.
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And it all fits.
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And then there s your mom.
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My mama, yeah, for sure.
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Your mama makes the entire atmosphere.
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There s just no right or wrong way to be.
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And I don t know whether I ll be going home this year for Christmas, due to just with crossing the border in Canada and so forth.
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But I can still, in this moment, close my eyes and hear my mommy s laughter.
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And the rule to choose to bring your heart and to bring your state of being and your love, it changes completely everything because then it s just like that s your guiding force, that s your guiding light.
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And it s a game changer.
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It s a game changer in your inner world because then we literally get to be a blessing to those that we love most.
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I remember I watched a CNN program one time, it was a piece of CNN that was done on this double mint commercial, double mint chewing gum.
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And they usually have twins that they do.
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And they did this little commercial and it was for families with quintuplets, had five children at once.
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And you saw these parents, they were so stressed out trying to keep all five kids doing something for the commercial.
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And there s this one man, and I knew he couldn t be as old as he looked, right?
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Because he just, he looked completely worn down.
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He was balding and stressed out.
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And I remember them interviewing him, and they asked him, he said, do you have any advice?
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Like, what did you learn by having five children simultaneously?
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And he looked at the camera and said, don t have too many rules.
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Because with this many kids, somebody s always breaking one, and I m always stressed out.
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And I think that s true here, because we have these expectations.
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And people are not going to meet your expectations.
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If you expect your mom not to ask you about your weight, is it up or down, or your relationship, or someone else, is this person drinking too much?
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You know, all the dramas that people have, because they expect people to be different than they are.
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Instead of, it s like, you ve got to ask yourself, do you want to be right, or do you want to be in love?
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Do you want to be right, or do you want to have a beautiful holiday?
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And love doesn t care.
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accepts people as they are, as their evolving role, evolving and changing.
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And if we can let go of some of that, that let go creates an opening for people to connect and have the joy that they really deserve to have.
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But you have to cultivate that gratitude.
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Because think of it, fear and anger, they re the dominant forces in our culture right now, obviously.
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You can t be fearful and grateful simultaneously.
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That s the power of gratitude.
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If you can really connect all the people in your family and what you re grateful about them, not all your judgments, but what you re grateful, or the fact that you can be together at all, or by Zoom, or by whatever, gratitude destroys fear.
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And gratitude destroys the other thing that messes up our life, which is anger.
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And don t get me wrong, we all get angry, we always get fearful, all of us do.
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But when you go into gratitude, you re not going to be angry.
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You can t be angry and grateful.
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They don t go together.
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So finding the things you re grateful for, again, finding the blessing, that same theme, and then becoming the blessing to the people around you by having fewer rules and having a commitment to greater joy is really what we re encouraging you to consider.
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You know, as I mentioned, my family, my mom and dad always had, you know, just every, they re in AA.
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And so anybody that didn t have a home to go to, you know, my mom was always like, come on over to our house.
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And what was so beautiful, there was just a diversity, a diversity with our family.
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you know, strangers a lot of times that we d never met before, but, you know, we welcomed them in as family and it was such a beautiful... I didn t realize as a younger woman what a blessing that was of inclusiveness and understanding and compassion and willingness to invite these people in.
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But it just shaped me so massively, those principles early on in my life.
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My parents as well, you know, we fostered children.
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And so I was just raised with different, you know, cultures and different races and different, you know, just experiences of life and different religions.
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And all these individuals came into our life and it ended up being a blessing.
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You know, there s so much externally in the world right now of divisiveness or, you know, people fighting for what they believe.
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Or politics.
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Whatever it might be.
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Who were you talking to the other day, you re telling me?
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Oh yes, a very dear friend of mine, she s 84, and I called her and she was whispering, she was like, hello.
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And I called her mom and I said, Mom Bee, I said, what are you whispering?
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She s like, I m watching the news and I don t want to tell anybody what news channel I m watching.
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And as much as it was delightful and it touched my heart and I thought it was precious, it so struck me that we as human beings, even amongst our own families, would feel that, gosh, you know, we can t share what our own inner world is, what our experience is, what our beliefs are, what we feel pulled to.
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I think that s
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What makes us beautiful as human beings is our differences.
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We all get to bring different things to the table.
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And when we do that, we see parts of ourselves.
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I think we become more whole because of the other.
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Not one person.
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I don t have all the answers, that s for sure.
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And loving this man, loving my family.
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It s like it opens our mind.
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We all behave and relate to life differently.
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But I think that s the beautiful thing of the human experiences.
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It isn t that we are all the same.
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It is actually our differences.
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And it s really focusing on what we have in common instead of what s different.
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It s hard these days to have a discussion about something political or religious or anything of that nature.
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People get so frustrated.
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And so maybe it s best to steer towards what you do love and leave the external world away so you can really have that beautiful holiday.
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Let me offer you, just real quick, a little tool that I created for myself years ago.
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And I ve helped so many people with it.
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It s got a funny name.
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It s called a quality quantifier.
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And here s what it s based on.
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Most people never decide in advance what kind of experience they re going to have before they engage in something.
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If you re going to go for a run, if you re going to go visit with your family, if you re going to go to a business meeting, if you re going to visit with your brother or your sister, whatever the case may be, I decided early on that instead of just letting life show up, life is still going to show up, but wouldn t it be nice to decide how you want it to be instead of just hoping things work out?
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And so one day it started with me with running.
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I was running all the time, and I was actually flying to Hawaii, and I gotta get myself on the time zone, so I ve gotta go on a run, and I didn t feel like running.
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I was all stressed out, so I stopped for a second.
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I thought, you know, I ve been running so hard for so long.
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How can I enjoy this run, like really enjoy, like be euphoric in this run?
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Well, first of all, when I think about the run, where would I put it?
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That was my first step, zero to 10.
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I feel like if it was a minus 10 to a plus 10, it feels like a minus one right now to go on a run.
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I m exhausted, I m beat up, but I know I gotta do it.
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Instead of having to do it, what if I decided the experience is gonna happen in advance and then made it happen?
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And I want a great experience, I want a beautiful experience, I want an enjoyable experience, I want a euphoric experience.
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And so I said, you know, most people don t decide in advance the quality experience they re gonna have and they don t quantify it.
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That s why it s called quality quantifier.
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And I said, okay, I wanna have an experience of running at least at a nine on a zero to 10, maybe a 10.
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And right then it was, you know, maybe a two or a minus two.
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I m not sure which it really was at the time.
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And so I said, okay, right now when I think about it, it s a two.
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I want it to be a nine.
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What qualities would I need to experience myself to make that a nine?
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And I thought, well, what if I brought some music?
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You know, instead of just gutting it out.
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Yeah, what music will I bring?
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What would I really enjoy?
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And then, what s my route?
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Maybe I ll run along the ocean, even if it s a little bit more difficult run.
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I ll enjoy it more.
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And then I was like, well, what if I take a friend with me?
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And then I got excited about it.
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And I thought, what if we ran?
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I told him, I said, what would make it a really cool run for you?
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He goes, well, sometimes you and I don t run with you.
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He goes, you go blasting ahead.
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I get really intense and just go.
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And he goes, I wanna stay at a normal tempo.
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I said, well, what if we went at the same tempo
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for the first 35 minutes, and that last, let s say, two minutes, three minutes, we run as hard as we can, we re competitive as hell, and we feel our bodies fully alive.
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He goes, turn the music up during that time then, right?
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And so we put this little list together.
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I did it for myself, he did it for him.
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I m like, what would make this a night?
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And at the end of it, I did everything I planned out.
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I also had to decide to change my belief that this isn t just about I have to do it, it s I get to do it.
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You know, so many times I have to, have to, and we tell ourselves that, and then it becomes stressful.
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It s like, no, I get to go on a run, I get to go with my friend, I get to run along the ocean, I get to put on my favorite music, we get to run in unison, it felt really cool, and then we re gonna sprint and compete at the end.
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And at the end, it was like, I asked myself honestly, it was more than that, it was a 9.5, so what would make it a 10 next time?
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And then we made some more adjustments.
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And I started doing that with all kinds of things.
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There was this little boy that I was working with,
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And he was overeating all the time.
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And so I came in, and I used it with food, because also, it s a way of changing your desire for something.
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You can increase it or decrease it.
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So I said to him, I said, I said, that muffin there, how much do you want that?
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Zero to 10.
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Minus 10, you don t want it at all.
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Plus 10, you want it totally.
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He goes, eh.
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He goes, it s like about a four.
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I said, why is it a four?
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He goes, well, he goes, it s been sitting there a while.
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And I said, OK, well, let s make you want it less.
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What would make you want it less?
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What would you have to change in what you focus on or notice or appreciate or in the environment?
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He goes, well, I notice it s really dry.
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I said, what is it now?
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And he took the number down.
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I don t remember what the number was.
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Let s say it was a four and he brought it down to, it was like a two or a one.
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I said, what would make it a minus two?
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He goes, if I notice the grease on the side.
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Oh yeah, I can see there s like grease on the side, right?
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And I said, what would make it a minus five?
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He goes, I don t want to make it a minus five.
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I said, well, what?
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He goes, well, you know, if there was some, you know, some hardened butter beside it or something, I don t know.
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And I took him all the way through.
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I said, okay, now let s increase your desire.
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Like, what do you want it to be?
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He goes, I want it to be a nine.
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I want it to be a 10.
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I said, okay, what do we gotta do?
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I said, what would make it a plus six?
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And he goes, well, if I heated it up, it d be a plus seven.
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I was like, okay, what else?
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He goes, if we melted the butter, that d be a plus eight.
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What else?
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He goes, if I had like that soda pop over there with it, it s a plus nine.
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And then I said, okay, what if that thing is stale?
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And we played literally seeing how we could change his emotions by changing the conditions in himself, his expectations or beliefs, and the conditions in the environment.
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And so what sounds funny about food
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or about running, it s the same with your family.
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So my question would be, what s your current thought when you think about your holiday coming up?
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Is it stress?
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Is it frustration?
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What are some of the qualities?
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Where would you say you are minus 10 to plus 10?
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Let s say you re a plus five or six, maybe even a plus seven.
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What would it take to make it a plus eight or a nine or a ten?
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What do you want it to be?
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I m not going to settle for less than a nine.
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Great.
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Well, what would make it a nine?
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Well, maybe when I m flying there, I can think about some of the stories and write down some of the things I want to share or some of the questions I want to know from my sister or what I want to compliment sincerely my mom about.
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And you start making this or I want to put some special music on and you can literally
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Quantify and qualify what will make this holiday amazing both what you do shift in my own mind Like I m not gonna react to anybody s over drinking or somebody ask my questions are gonna do that They re gonna be worried, but I m gonna look at it as love you decide what you want and then you decide the plan of what s gonna change in you or the environment to make it happen and This incredible soul here my woman here My lady my wife is just unbelievable in creating that like we try I call it scoring
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Like, you know, I could watch a film without the music.
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It s not the same film.
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You ve got to score it.
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And so we score our lives.
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Why don t you share some of what you do here, like, not just in the holiday time, but all the time.
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Sure.
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Well, I think it s beautiful in our homes that, you know, to make it our sanctuary,
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And, you know, Pandora is such a gift or whatever Spotify, whatever it might be.
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But, you know, we have the gift to have this beautiful music of this intuitive, you know, you get to, you know, use your preferences and so forth.
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And we literally have music and binarial beats and so forth that create a coherence and
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you walk in a lot to our home a lot of people be like what is that music it s not music but it s just it s this container that fills the home with this beautiful harmony and you know i i love to light candles or incense and it s just the intentional i think you know what s so unique about the holidays whether you re a religious person you re not or you re spiritual you re not there s still a sacredness and you know to uh
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whether it be the holidays or just every day, the awareness that this life is a miracle.
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You know, I think part of some of the external world events is calling us to wake up and calling us to wake up to the preciousness of this life.
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We are alive.
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That s a miracle in itself.
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And for us in our home, besides all the things that we do with music and
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You know, or candles.
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Incense.
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Like anybody walks around, they go, what is that smell?
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What is that sound?
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And we don t just do the holidays, or I say we, here s who does the majority of it here, is that we create an ambiance, so the environment itself, an atmosphere makes you in a sense of awe, or appreciation, or gratitude, or love, or just take a breath when you come home.
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And you certainly want to do that for your holidays, but maybe you want to do it all the time.
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Maybe you want to score your life more.
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And scoring just requires awakening from your day-to-day stress and saying, how do I want it to be?
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Not, why isn t it the way I want it to be?
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How do I want it to be?
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And what do I got to change in me?
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instead of my judgments of these things.
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What do I need to appreciate more?
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What do I need to notice in my family or my friends or whatever?
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What am I gonna decide to do?
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Because if you don t decide, the world will just take you.
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Stress will just take you.
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Because we all have a world where we ve been pretty much wired, where we have a highway to stress and a dirt road to happiness.
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And maybe the holiday is a chance for you to rewire yourself.
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Because the more you put yourself in these beautiful states of mind and emotion and gratitude and awe and appreciation and love,
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the more it becomes addictive in a positive way.
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Then you got a highway to joy, a highway to love.
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And the best way to do it is where it s hard.
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Like, how do you build a muscle?
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You don t build a muscle by lifting a lightweight.
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So if it s a bit challenging this holiday season, take away the challenge and find the gift.
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That s what we mean by find the blessing.
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And then be the blessing is, what if you decided to show up in advance and it s like, I m gonna love my mom while she s worried completely.
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I m not gonna have any reaction.
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I m gonna, my sister asked me about my boyfriend or girlfriend, I m married or not, or we re having kids or not.
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I don t get hooked by it.
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I m just going to see, like, everybody s just curious.
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And I m going to be there.
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What presence are you going to have?
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I don t mean physical presence.
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What s your presence going to be?
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Your presence.
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Listening, caring, loving.
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These are gifts that are priceless and they cost you nothing.
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And if you be that blessing, if you find the blessing, you be the blessing, you will have a blessed holiday and a blessed life.
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yes and the a simple practice of you know speaking of gratitude uh you know if you re prayerful it s beautiful i think the simplest prayer is just to say thank you a lot of times for thanksgiving as a family we ll go around and it s just we ll just share what was literally a blessing during the year or what we re thankful for uh it can be as simple as our health or
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you know, just a moment or whatever it looks like, you know, but it s really beautiful because it s like the mind s just focusing on that and, you know, somebody else will share, they ll share something else and it s just, it s expanding, it s heart expanding and it s a beautiful practice.
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And by the way, we do that every day of our lives, you know, if we re sitting down and we re coming together as a family for breakfast, we just hold hands and we just literally say, thank you, thank you for this day.
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Thank you for this family.
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Thank you for this life.
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But it sets the tone.
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It s one thing to say, oh, I m grateful.
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I give you something, and you say thank you.
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But to actually invoke that, and to actually put your attention in that, and to share that.
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And the sharing that, when a family, it s such a cool thing.
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I always look forward to a Thanksgiving dinner.
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Because we all just go around, and it s just this really intimate, beautiful love letter of life that just everybody actually takes the time to say, oh, I got another one.
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Oh, I remember this one.
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And just everybody just sharing.
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It creates a momentum of itself, too.
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It really does, but it s beautiful.
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It s beautiful.
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And so whether you re together, whether you re on Zoom, whether you re alone, you know, whether you re on your own, you can still pull out a piece of paper and just journal what s been blessed in your life, you know, what you re grateful for.
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It s just, you know, this very simple fact that, you know, we re here and you re watching this and we re alive.
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Life is a miracle.
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And there s just no matter what s happening in the external circumstances, there s just
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truly so much to be grateful for and we re grateful that you joined us once again.
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Really, we ve loved the sharing and it s been fun for us as well.
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So here s our invitation.
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Don t settle for a mediocre, a stressful, a frustrating Thanksgiving, or Christmas, or Kwanzaa, or whatever you re celebrating during this holiday season, whatever your faith may be, or whatever your just personal rituals may be.
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Why not make it the best one ever?
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Why not decide to make it best?
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Come up with a plan, and then it ll be interrupted, of course, because we all have 10 million year old brains that are designed to look for what s wrong and then react to it.
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But that s your conditioning.
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Then there s the higher awakened part of you that can show up and just bring love and appreciation and gratitude to everybody.
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And boy, don t we all need that right now?
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And in a relationship, the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.
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And in a relationship, it s not a place to go get.
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That s the mistake most of us make.
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It s a place to go give.
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Because when you give love, when you give appreciation, when you give gratitude, you re filled up because you re feeling it as you re giving to someone and you don t have to receive anything in return.
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you already experience it within yourself, but it also tends to prime the environment for something beautiful.
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So we always say, you know, we all have expectations, but that s the mind.
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The heart knows something better.
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So trade your expectations for just appreciation for whatever you have, even if it s less than you thought or want.
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Appreciation makes suffering disappear.
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Appreciation is the guide to thanksgiving, to joy, to love, and to the quality of life that you deserve and I know you desire.
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And by chance, if you do get hooked and you are stressed, I ll share something I do.
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If I m feeling tension or that resistance inside myself, I ll just bring my awareness to this moment.
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Literally, in how I do that, I ll just notice my breath.
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I ll just catch a few breaths, and I ll notice my breath in and out.
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And then I just notice what I wasn t seeing the moment before.
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I just open my eyes and my ears and I just notice the senses.
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And no matter what is happening externally, no matter what s happening on the news, no matter what s happening out there, just where you are, you know, it might be as simple as something as like the sunbeams coming in or just laughter that you didn t hear in that moment or, you know, whatever is in front of you, just simply notice.
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and start with your breath first and then just open your senses and come back to the moment because that s where all the beauty is.
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That s where all the richness is and it really is a useful practice for me.
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So thank you once again.
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God bless you all and thank you for joining us and happy holidays.
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And just remember, what s wrong is always available, but so is what s right.
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We get what we look for.
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So if you re unfamiliar with it, you might want to check out our priming video.
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There s no charge for it.
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You can go to TonyRobbins.com forward slash priming.
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And it shows you a 10-minute process you can do to get all the stress out and fill up.
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Most of us overreact because we stack all the negatives.
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It happened again.
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But if you stack all the positives, this life is such a gift no matter how much challenge we re all facing.
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We re all facing challenges.
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This is not about denying that.
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It s about creating a place that you can have awe and you can have gratitude and you can have joy and you can have love.
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It s a chance for you to take these holidays and fill back up.
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So, and then if you like it enough during the holidays, perhaps you ll make it your New Year s resolution that you actually keep to do it more and more.
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Thanks for joining us.
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I don t know how long this went, but hopefully it was brief enough for you.
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Not 10 minutes.
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Blessings to you all.
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Take care.
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you.
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Hello, Tony Robbins family.
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We are so excited that you were able to join us for Fireside Chat number two with Tony and Sage Robbins.
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Did you enjoy that?
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Do not go anywhere for the next few minutes.
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We re going to spend some time going over how you can apply what you just learned with Tony and Sage in your life.
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So the major lesson that we got today is that we can actually become the architect of our holiday experience and create the experience that we desire.
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by using a tool just as simple as the quality quantifier.
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And Tony just shared that with you a moment ago.
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And when you do this, you re designing, what do I want this holiday season to be like?
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And we hope you recognize that you can think your way in to an experience that s going to be a blessing for you.
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And that s the overall theme of our holiday campaign.
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It s find the blessings.
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Be a blessing and experience the blessings in your life.
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So really quick, if you re taking notes or if you re not, go ahead and just write down the words, it takes practice to find the blessing, to experience the blessings, to
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to live out the blessings.
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We have to practice doing that.
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So a few questions that Tony wants us to ask you right now for you in your own life to apply these lessons to your life is this.
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Do you think, is it possible in any way that you could step outside of your own stress this holiday season?
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Despite all the craziness going on, is it possible?
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And the next question is, what would make this holiday season more enjoyable for you?
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And even Sage shared with us earlier, sometimes she catches herself in her head.
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And when she does that, she just takes a step back and focuses on getting present, finding her breath, tapping into the senses that she has.
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And she says, that s when you really experience the beauty and the richness of life.
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And when you re in that space of presence and gratitude, he talks about that in the video, that s when you find those blessings.
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So are you up for finding some blessings this holiday season?
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As Tony would say, say yes.
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How are we gonna do that?
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We want to practice consistently.
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So practice is the theme here today.
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Practice is something that you do ongoing over and over.
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Tony always says, if you wanna direct your life, you must take control of the consistent actions that you put in play every single day.
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And when you do that, you re building the muscle
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of being more present or of finding those blessings or whatever it is that you desire.
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But if you re going to do this and you re really committed to doing this thing, there s one thing that you must have.
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One thing.
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Do you want to know what the one thing is?
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It is a map or a massive action plan.
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How are you going to get from where you are to where you want to go?
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Now there s one key element.
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You can create this massive action plan, which we hope you do that today, and go share that with us, or tag Tony.
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And so we can look at it, but you have a massive action plan, but how are you actually gonna get yourself where you wanna go?
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You wanna be strategic about it.
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And the great way to be strategic about it is to get yourself
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accountability toward your consistent actions.
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Is there someone in your life right now that you can think of and say, yes, that somebody is someone that can be an accountability partner to me.
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It s also gotta be someone that can guide you through your massive action plan.
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So take a moment right now and think, do I have someone in my life that I know will push me, will hold me accountable, but can also act as a guide to take their hand out and carry me in the direction that I know I desire to go?
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And this is what we call in our world a coach.
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Tony invented the coaching industry.
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And everybody has coaches.
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You think, you know, Olympic athletes, high-powered CEOs and entrepreneurs, even Tony Robbins has many coaches.
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And you can get a coach for pretty much any area of your life.
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So if you re right now watching this and you re a business owner, yes, you can get a coach for that.
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What about relationships?
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Could you get a coach for that?
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What about your physical body, you know?
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What about your spirituality?
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Could you get a coach for those areas of your life?
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The answer is yes, but you don t wanna get just any coach.
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You want someone that can support you and can push you, not someone that s just gonna be your friend, but somebody that can see potential inside of you.
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So this holiday season, get yourself a coach, find your massive action plan, commit to yourself to being the blessing.
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The greatest coaches in the world that I know, and maybe I m biased, but there are coaches at the Tony Robbins Company, and if you haven t taken a look at our bundles for the holiday and all of the great bonuses that are included,
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Go check that out because our coaches go through extensive training, a 90-day training academy that teaches them the proprietary tools that Tony s been using for the last 43 years.
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His top coaches, hand-selected, and these coaches are going to help you get from where you are to where you want to go.
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And so I hope you get yourself matched with one of our coaches to your specific needs.
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And you can go to tonyr.co forward slash coaching to learn more about coaching, how it will support you to have a powerful end of your 2020 and a really powerful start to 2021.
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My favorite part about this is that during the holiday season, you can actually get a few sessions to give away to friends and family in your life, and that is a gift that keeps on giving.
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So we re so happy you could join us at Fireside Chat number two.
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We love you, and we can t wait to see you at the next one.
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Bye-bye.
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