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Hey, Jordan Harbinger here.
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Welcome to Mini-Sode Monday here at The Art of Charm.
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I m happy to be here with you kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away that ll make you more magnetic and effective.
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And now today, I m talking about my buddy Alex Kutz, you ve heard on the show.
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He s done a lot, and he just complained, oh, I m turning 30 pretty soon.
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And it got me thinking about all the things that I ve done, but mostly all the things that I have not done.
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And it made me realize, wow, comparing yourself to other people is just a never-ending battle.
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And there s no big news there, right?
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I mean, a lot of us do this.
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We catch ourselves, we know it s unhealthy, and either we knock it off, or for many of us,
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It becomes like a vice, and not the kind you use to hold something, although there s probably a pun in there somewhere, but a vice like smoking, drinking, drugs, or complaining, which by the way, if you re doing a lot of that, is also a vice.
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And it s especially unhealthy if you compare yourself to your friends and your family, because if you do, you constantly find yourself either
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bringing your friends quote-unquote down to your level or you engage in this weird competitive relationship with them and so basically the success of your friend almost becomes some sort of personal tragedy for you where it actually makes you feel bad about yourself instead of feeling good for your friend.
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And that is super bad news for those of us that actually want to keep our friends around.
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And by the way, this is something we go really deep in in our podcast with Dr. Carol Dweck.
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So if you haven t heard that yet, the link is here in the show notes.
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Instead, the healthiest thing we can do is appreciate where they are, our friends and family, what they ve done, and take that as a compliment, not only to your value as a friend, but realize that you re very fortunate to be considered a friend by successful folks.
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So find motivation and appreciation in this instead of comparing yourself and measuring yourself and measuring your shortcomings by the accomplishments of others.
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If you really want to get expert level at surrounding yourself with amazing people and high performers, I highly recommend checking out the Art of Charm Challenge at theartofcharm.com slash challenge.
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Or if you re here in the States, you can text charmed, C-H-A-R-M-E-D to 33444.
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We ll go step by step, getting you to reach out to influencers, higher ups, high performers, and those that inspire you so that you can become an inspirational, high-performing badass yourself.
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Oh, before I let you go, here s a little life pro tip, a little life hack that I ve been using to really good effect, and I hope you find useful as well.
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When you go to a new barber, new restaurant, bar, whatever, tip maybe twice as much as you normally would the first time.
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This will take advantage of what s called the primacy effect, so they ll remember you as a generous tipper, a generous guy, a great customer, whatever, because that s your first impression.
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Just don t be a cheapo, because after that, you should tip well every time.
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but do that especially well the first time you do something and that is how you ll be remembered and you ll be treated differently as well.
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It s very, very useful.
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I ve used this for a really long time and it s a really great effect.
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Alright everybody, have a great week.