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Welcome to the Art of Charm.
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I m your host, Jordan Harbinger.
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I m here with producer Jason DeFilippo here at AOC.
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We may not have all the answers, but we certainly have some of the questions.
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And of course, on Fan Mail Friday, those questions, those come from you.
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So if you re new to the AOC podcast, Fan Mail Friday is not my recommended place to start.
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And a lot of people laugh at that because some of
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A lot of people love Fan Mail Friday more than the other stuff, not sure what to make of that, but much more of our content is in-depth, it s longer format, interview-based stuff, so check out the best of at theartofcharm.com slash best, or the fundamentals toolbox at theartofcharm.com slash toolbox, or just go back and download something with somebody s name who you recognize.
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But in the toolbox, we ve got the fundamentals of reading body language and nonverbal communication, the science of attraction, negotiation techniques, networking strategies, influence strategies, persuasion tactics, and pretty much everything else that we teach here at the Art of Charm, either on the show or on our live workshops.
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And we can send all that stuff to your inbox if you text the word charmed to 33444.
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In the States here, that works.
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Everywhere else, just go to theartofcharm.com.
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All right, let s cut to it, Jason.
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What do we got this week?
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Hi, Jordan.
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I ve spoken to you a few times, but I want to get in touch as I m concerned about my family s and friends  support towards my work and what I want to do.
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I have a registered networking agency where I want to help develop and provide promotion ideas for business.
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I don t know what that means.
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I was going to edit this, but I m like, oh, no, this is germane to the topic.
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Yeah, let him do it.
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I find it really hard to explain this in simple English.
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Well, there you go.
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It s like they don t want to believe and all they want me to do is just get a full time job.
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I even launched my first campaign and it didn t feel like they even cared.
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And I know they won t support the campaign, but oh, well, I can live with that.
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So I want to know if you have any advice.
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Maybe you ve done a podcast previously about helping the people around you understand what you are doing.
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Is this a sign that I shouldn t be doing what I m doing?
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Regards, Adam.
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So I m going to buffer this with, first of all, congratulations on launching a side gig and launching your first campaign.
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That is actually a big deal.
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You re an action taker.
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Double thumbs up on the launch.
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Double thumbs up on the launch.
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But with that in mind, here is my honest opinion.
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You have a registered networking agency where you want to help develop and provide promotion ideas for business.
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And you find it hard to explain that in simple English, but
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Unless I m mistaken, you ve just created a marketing agency, right?
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Unless I m missing something.
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And you definitely need to nail that description down if you re going to run a marketing agency.
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Because there s a lot of irony here that you re helping businesses promote and yet you can t even tell people what you do.
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in a concise way, so maybe it s that disconnect that your family and friends are seeing and they re trying to keep you from falling on your face, so I understand where they re coming from as well.
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And I think, to your question, whether or not we have a show about helping the people around you understand what you re doing, Clay Hebert, it looks like Hebert,
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And I, we did a show about this earlier, it s about this issue, telling other people what you do, the six word intro, it s recent, so check it out.
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And definitely, it ll help you tremendously.
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A lot of people have gotten major mileage out of that Clay Haber episode.
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And no, I don t think that other people telling you that you shouldn t do something is a sign that you shouldn t do it.
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I really don t think that that s the case.
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In fact, AOC started that way.
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AOC was a joke.
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People at law school used to make fun of me for this all the time.
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I mean, they would play pranks on me, I d get messages like, help, I need help with my body language, and they d be like, ah, you re so gay, or whatever people said in that era that was still quote unquote okay to do that.
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And there s a lot- Don t nig me, bro.
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Yeah, it was even before that stuff, right?
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They were just like, what a loser, nobody s gonna buy that, you guys are such dumbasses, you re killing your brand, no one s gonna hire you, I mean, just name it, it was in there.
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What was funny though was a lot of people were also very supportive, they were like, you re gonna get famous because of this, and I thought like, yeah, slow your roll there, that s never gonna happen.
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And I remember people thinking like you know you re gonna run out of stuff to say and I thought yeah I m really worried about running out of stuff to say which so far has that worked out for you Yeah, no so far so good on that, but but the people in your life Who aren t of course just being jerks like the folks at law school were being your friends and your family for example are?
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often they re trying to save you from the headache and pain of failure.
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So not everybody who s a quote-unquote naysayer is like this negative person, you gotta cut out your life and stuff like that.
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I mean, even my own mom tells me not to get too excited about various business victories just in case it doesn t work out.
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And bear in mind, this is our 10th year in business, and just about every single week that goes by, I could probably repurchase the house I grew up in.
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But that doesn t stop my parents from making sure I don t get my hopes up.
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Hey, but at least your mom pitched in by naming the company.
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Yeah, she did, she named the company.
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Back then, she probably thought it was a phase, but it s true, yeah.
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I mean, look, a lot of people who are trying to dissuade you from something, who love you, the reason it seems so unusual and disappointing that your family s not interested in helping you is not because they don t believe in you, but often because they don t wanna see you fail, and maybe they ve seen you fail in the past, or maybe they don t get what you do, so they think, oh man, this is never gonna work, because I don t get what he means when he says he has a networking agency
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that does X, Y, Z, right?
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Or maybe you re really young and they don t think that young people can do things like that.
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It s a lot of their own bias.
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You can choose to not listen to them.
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If they have pointed feedback, like my mom did about our company name, which was, I don t even remember what it was, it was so awful, that was valid.
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Somebody just saying, oh, you shouldn t do that, you should just get a regular job, that s maybe more in line with their own bias and their own fears than anything to do with you.
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So I hope that helps, Adam.
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Let us know how it goes with your marketing company, question mark?
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I d also say check out the Toolbox episode on the elevator pitch.
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Ah, yeah, yeah, that too.
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Clay Abair and the Elevator Pitch Toolbox from AOC.
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We can link those in the show notes as well so you can find them real easy.
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Alright, what does Mark have to say?
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Jordan, I just want to tell you that I strongly disagree with the following statement.
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You bear some responsibility for allowing psychopaths or sociopaths into your life.
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That may be true in some cases, but it certainly was not in mine.
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In my line of work, I m constantly exposed to liars, con artists, and manipulators and can spot them right away.
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However, I lived with my ex for 22 years before catching her in a lie.
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In fact, everything about her was a lie, including her emotions.
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She actually admitted to mimicking the emotions of actors on TV.
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Never underestimate a psychopath.
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Sanely yours, Mark.
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Well, I assume when he says I strongly disagree with the following statement, I guess I at some point maybe made that statement.
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I don t know.
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I m not gonna search for it.
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But this is such a weird letter because I believe you, Mark, but it s so strange that you can spot liars and manipulators right away, but you lived with one for 22 years.
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I guess it s not that weird.
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I guess it s the people that are closest to us that really do tend to be able to turn the screws, and we have our own emotional biases in place where
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We think, oh, well, this is happening, but I don t want to believe this is happening in my own house, so I m not going to look at it this closely.
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I do disagree, though.
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I disagree that you disagree.
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The statement to me, at least from what it looks like, again, I don t exactly remember what context that was in.
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This statement actually comes from an article that Johnny wrote.
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We have a four-part series on dealing with psychopaths and sociopaths on the Art of Charm blog, and this actually comes from Johnny.
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You re off the hook, but Johnny, grab him by the scruff and bring him in here to account for himself.
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Well, yeah, I mean, I would, but I m gonna put this out there.
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I disagree as well.
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I think, well, I disagree with your disagreement is what I meant to say, right?
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I think this isn t a moral judgment of your responsibility.
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It s rather the idea that you need to focus on what you can do.
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control.
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It s like extreme ownership, like Jocko said when he was on the show.
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If we dig deep enough, as I encourage you to do in pretty much every situation in which you find yourself quote-unquote victimized by things like this, you ll probably find that you spotted this behavior a long time before it finally came to a head, but you were perhaps, and again, big perhaps here, all caps,
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Perhaps you were so focused on getting love, or making the relationship work, or not being lonely, etc.
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that you ignored the red flags.
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And even if that wasn t the case, even if you were completely blameless when it came to the signs, there was nothing, she was a perfect manipulator, we still have to focus solely on what we can
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Control such as making sure we re consistently developing our eq our emotional intelligence To the point where we can spot this behavior before it does us harm And the good news is that you re listening to this show which is a great step in the right direction especially in terms of developing your eq spotting bias spotting manipulators and Getting that s getting a handle on all that stuff really so thanks for the note mark and thanks for your candor
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I just don t want to know what Mark does for a living, that he s surrounded by all these con artists and manipulators.
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Yeah, you know, that sparked something for me as well, and I didn t really want to go there, but since you brought it up, we will.
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I think a lot of people who tend to write in about how much they ve been victimized by somebody close to them, they often
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Sort of append this with and I m also being victimized by everybody else around me or they try to victimize me to wear and it s sometimes it s probably very true but other times I think there s a certain archetype of person that sees
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Everybody around them is trying to get them or trying to victimize them and for some people.
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It s a pathology It s a mental thing, but like a disorder here, you know, but for others It s just the way that they view the world because of the way that they were raised and that actually of course Ironically in so many ways attracts those same manipulators those same victimizers into their life because they see a pre-programmed target that like like formatting a hard drive with DOS or winter or
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Mac OS, right?
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They look at that person and they go, oh, this person has experienced a pattern of manipulation, I can slip right in here, and they ll never know.
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It s kind of ironic that a lot of the people who ve been victimized the most throughout their lives are actually the prime targets to be victimized yet again, instead of being the people who can see it coming a mile away because of past experience, because that programming goes so deep.
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Interesting, that s interesting, because I was thinking maybe he was a cop or a prison guard.
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Yeah, I mean, that would be interesting.
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That would be super interesting.
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And if that s the case, then you re definitely surrounded by riffraff, manipulators and con artists all the time.
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And I want to know how you spot those people a mile away, aside from the fact that they re behind iron bars.
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So let us know, Mark.
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All right.
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Next up, Jordan, I hope this finds you well.
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I ve been an AOC listener for years and first heard you when you were on the social engineering podcast.
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Hey, Chris, Maggie.
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Good times.
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I ve listened to your words when doing fieldwork on a tractor, felling trees, chopping wood, repairing a high rope course, setting up rappel anchors and countless hours of commuting to and from work and school.
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Cool job, though.
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I mean, yeah, no doubt.
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Get out there in the sun.
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Good for you.
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Yep.
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Well, I ve been a longtime listener.
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This is the first feedback I ve given to AOC and my gratitude for what you do is grossly overdue.
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I ll say just go ahead.
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Keep going.
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My apologies for not saying it sooner.
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And my sincerest thank you for your vision of equipping a generation like me.
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The catalyst for this email is based on your recent episode titled The Antidote to Positive Thinking.
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Oliver Brookman.
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I ve been struggling with the tension of vision, effort, and drive while maintaining and earning any form of confidence.
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Maybe I m simply at an intersection where life experience and information met for the first time, but for some reason that episode resonated with me in a way that advice rarely does.
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I ve already listened to the episode three times and have ordered Oliver s book in order to glean more wisdom on the topic.
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I m not sure how the material will impact my life, but I know that each listening of the episode has resulted in a moment of clarity that has reframed material I ve been wrestling with for years.
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I m sure you get hundreds of these emails every day, and this is probably more for my sake than yours, but thank you.
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You do fantastic work, and I appreciate your words, life experience, and insights more than you may ever know.
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Well, we know it now.
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Cheers, daily.
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Daily, thanks so much for the note, man.
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One, obviously you have a real cool job that lets you listen to shows while doing some amazing, super lumberjack-y type stuff, so I appreciate the fact that we get your attention while you re doing all that stuff.
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I think the point here that I wanted to make is that some episodes will resonate with you more than others, and I get a lot of letters like, oh my gosh, there s so much going on here,
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or I wasn t sure if I understood that.
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I think it is important to find the stuff that really resonates with you and sort of latch onto that, listen to it again, read the book yourself.
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You don t have to go for the width rather than the depth.
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I think it s better the other way around.
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I think what we re trying to avoid here is self-help that s a mile wide and an inch deep.
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and rather go for the smorgasbord that says, oh, I really like this and I really like that, but I can do without all these other things, and we do that to a certain extent here on the show.
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As we mentioned, I think, last week on Female Friday, we don t cover business-y stuff that much.
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We definitely don t cover fitness and health stuff that much, aside from the psychology angle, because we want to go deep on these topics.
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Don t be afraid
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to find what really strikes your fancy and then go for it and really dive in deep to some of these topics because that s what we re here for.
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We re not doing an exhaustive presentation of every single author s work that comes on the show.
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There s a lot more that these people have to offer at least 99% of the time.
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So I m glad that you re getting so much value out of this daily.
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Thanks for being a fan and definitely don t be afraid to do a deep dive on anything that you think can help you that you hear on the show.
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Hi, Jordan.
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I would very much appreciate some advice.
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When and how should I respond to public criticism?
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I have a work colleague who is the lead on a long term project.
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I report to him for this project, but he s not my boss.
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And he s written several emails which, at least in my opinion, are open to be interpreted as criticism of my input.
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These emails always have my line manager on copy.
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Where I struggle is in deciding how to react.
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Do I ignore the criticism?
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But that leaves me feeling like I ve tacitly accepted the criticism.
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Do I take it to my line manager?
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I ve done that before and just to be told that I m too sensitive and I need to develop a thicker skin.
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He seems to read the emails completely differently from how I do.
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Do I go on the attack?
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Criticize him or his input?
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Or be more passive-aggressive?
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Or like write back stating, this is how I read your email.
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Is that what you were meaning to say?
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Thanks in advance for any guidance you can give.
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Yours, Can t Take Criticism.
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So I ve got some thoughts on this, Can t Take Criticism.
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The key here will be figuring out why he does this.
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That s the key question, because it sounds like he may just be kind of a jerk, honestly.
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It s also possible that he s trying to help you improve, and possibly just following protocol by copying your manager, although I m a little suspicious of that.
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If your manager, though, doesn t see it as negative, then you re probably okay.
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I would be curious as to why he wants to develop a written record of criticizing you that s also
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That s what I was thinking too for sure that s weird right it s kind of sketchy it s like well wait a minute if you really just like Jason if I ve got some feedback for you where I m like hey you were late all week today I wouldn t copy in your or our boss if we had one you wouldn t CC Johnny or AJ on that email and if you did I d be like hey dude what s going on here
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What s going on?
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Because then it would be like, well, you know, since I m firing you now, I just want them to be in the loop.
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You know, it d be weird.
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Yeah.
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It would be highly unusual for me to do that for no stated reason.
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If I said I m copying in AJ and Johnny because they re going to meet with us next week and blah, blah, blah.
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I just can t even think of a scenario where it would make sense to loop them in, but not tell you why.
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Yeah, if I saw like Janet from HR start showing up on the email CC threads, then I d be like packing my desks and checking Craigslist, you know?
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Frickin  Janet.
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But yeah, I mean, you should ask him, possibly.
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I mean, think about it.
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Ask him.
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Do the conversation in person, by the way, and don t get defensive.
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Definitely don t do it in email because we know he likes to CC everybody.
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Exactly, exactly.
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But try to get a read on why he s doing it.
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If he thinks he s making you better, he ll be friendly about it.
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If he s accusative about it, or if he s cagey,
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about it, there s maybe something else going on that s worth exploring and you can bring that to your line manager or whoever else is appropriate.
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Here s another little tactic that I like to use that I think will take a lot of the wind out of this person s sails.
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First of all, I would definitely ask, but I would also start to reply to these emails and not in a passive-aggressive way, definitely not in a defensive way.
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But I do like your thoughts on, this is how I read your mail, is this what you re meaning to say?
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For example, if he writes you a mail that says, hey, you know, this was delivered a little bit later than I thought, and in a format that I didn t really think was useful, and he copies your line manager, you can reply and go, great, what I think we should do is, why don t you outline the exact format that you d like me to
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put my thoughts and my report into, and then I can make sure that it s in that format for you.
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That way, you re not taking criticism from him and then going, yes sir, or ignoring it, or he s not reporting you to your manager.
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Basically, you re replying in a way that puts you on equal footing with him.
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Will you say something like, oh, that input wasn t how you wanted it?
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Okay, set up a report and I ll do my best to put it in.
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If it s not too much extra work, I ll put it in the exact format that you find most convenient.
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Thanks for the help, always looking to become more efficient. 
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And if you do have criticism for him that s not just defensive, you can put it in that same email.
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Just don t let it get into a bickery shouting match or some sort of one-upmanship or some sort of back and forth on that.
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But the reason that this
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will take some of the wind out of his sails is because you re not just being passive, you re not just passively accepting it, you re actually working with him.
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So if it does come down to, well, you know, can t take criticism, you re always doing this and I have a written track record of it, you can go, yeah, and I have a written track record of responding in completely appropriate ways to everything that you said and also action steps,
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that have resolved everything you ve said, so I don t exactly see where you re finding it difficult to work with me, or why I m not a fit for the company, et cetera, and my line manager s CC d on all this, so then he will end up looking really bad, and he ll probably cut it out, because if you reply in a mature, appropriate, professional way to everything, he s just giving more work for himself to constantly make this BS record of where you re falling short, especially if you re not falling short.
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Yeah, I think we can sum it up basically as be professional and be proactive.
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Those two things will get you out of pretty much any jam with your line manager.
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And maybe take like, like Jordan said, take the wind out of his sails, but just don t be a smart ass, which is, you know, what I would do, but don t be emotional about it at all.
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Do not be emotional, professional.
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Keep it clean.
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And also, yeah, just offer suggestions and take the criticism.
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That s the one way you can definitely when if he sends back some criticism saying you should do it this way, do it.
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Yeah.
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As long as it s not like, hey, can you clean up my desk after I leave?
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I mean, it s got to be some reasonable request.
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Here s the other rule I m going to give you.
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Can t take criticism.
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The other rule that I will give you is every time you reply to this person s email, draft the response, put it in a drafts folder, and then take
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15 to 30 to 45, whatever amount of time you need to essentially forget about the issue in the email, and then look in your drafts folder at the end of the day, maybe, and then send those emails out.
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You don t, what you don t want to do, and here s why I m doing this, what you don t want to do is, oh yeah, well, you know, you didn t even give me the format to report the data, so this is equally on you, and also, you re ugly, or whatever, you know, you re throwing in the email.
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Your mama fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch.
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Exactly, exactly.
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Whatever s in that email that s making you emotional, you can strip all of that out, and then you come back just Terminator cold.
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Details, protocol, nothing else.
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That way, when the written record will show he criticized you a bunch, and you took action on everything, that s what model employees do.
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So you will end up looking, you ll end up smelling like roses, and he ll end up looking like an anal jerk face.
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for sending you corrections on your behavior every single time you work with them on something.
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And eventually, your line manager s gonna get the idea that, hey, you don t need to criticize this guy every five seconds.
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He s doing fine, and his work product is sufficient, and you re not his boss, so knock it off.
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That will eventually happen.
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But if you complain about it, you start to look like, meh, why is this guy treating me like an employee?
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And it goes downhill from there.
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Hi Jordan, love the show, but I have a quip.
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You answer a lot of important questions for a lot of folks, but you and Jason do so from a position of white privilege, whether you realize it or not.
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So as much as you guys mean well, you re not really able or qualified to address the problems that people of color, women, or other minorities are really facing.
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Signed, James.
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Hey, James, yeah, maybe, maybe not.
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I often give advice here from the position of a man, and we ve heard from a lot of AOC sisters about this as well, how, well, you know, how come you re not talking about this women s issue or that women s issue, and the reason is because
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Since I m not a woman, I can t speak factually to a lot of things that I think face women specifically.
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I can only speak in general terms or I can only say, here s what I would do as a guy in my own skin.
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And you re right, I am white, last I checked, right?
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So I get that.
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But I m not going to debate the finer points of what makes someone privileged compared to another because I think
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Jason, given your upbringing, and given the upbringing of other people that we know, or maybe my upbringing, it s kinda hard to say how privileged someone is, but I think James  point is that just by virtue of not being anything but regular old white guys from the Midwest, we have some sort of privilege, and I m just not gonna argue with that, because that s a losing battle, no matter which direction you go in.
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But I will say this much.
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If our white privilege and class protects us, and let me just phrase this differently, if your white privilege and class protects you, then you have an obligation, we have an obligation, to use that privilege to take stands that work to end the injustice,
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that grants that privilege in the first place.
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So, in other words, I can t not speak from the position of being me, and I m not going to apologize for that, I m not going to be ashamed of that, I m certainly not going to stop doing it anytime soon, but I also think that you shouldn t throw out the baby with the bathwater here.
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I also think you should take our intent into consideration here, because what we are doing is giving out free training, free advice, a lot of really beneficial things that will benefit anybody of any color, of any gender, or a non-gender, because I don t even, I m not even up on what that is now.
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Yeah, you don t even want to go down that road nowadays.
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Right, exactly.
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So, this stuff that we re talking about here is, often enough, so generally applicable, and full of such wisdom from the guests, especially, that we have on the show.
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It s universal.
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It s universal.
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And I just, I refuse to believe, and maybe it s my white privilege talking, that there s something here that is so unique to white males from Michigan slash Illinois that we just should shut our mouths and not do it anymore.
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I just, I won t believe it.
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I can t believe it.
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And I think that by delivering this information and delivering this advice and being accessible, we re helping a lot of people who are white, who are not white, who are men, who are women, who are anything, any color of the rainbow you wanna pull out of the box, this stuff will help you.
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And so I do understand your point, James.
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I think it s a little bit possibly ridiculous, but I m not gonna dive down that rabbit hole.
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I won t say that I don t see it, I won t say that I,
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that there is no element of privilege here, but I will say that, man, if you throw out the baby with the bathwater, if you don t listen because I m not from, if you re not listening because we don t look like you, then you are being very wasteful of what I would consider to be a decent resource that we ve spent a lot of time creating just for people like you and just for people like everybody that you know.
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And, you know, I really don t know what else to say about that.
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It s a touchy topic.
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I don t want to dive down that political rabbit hole slash walk through that minefield.
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And there s no reason to, because we are universal.
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We are gender neutral.
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We do have the training for men, but we are gender neutral.
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We love our AOC sisters and brothers and whatever lies in between nowadays on the gender scale.
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That s right.
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Yes, if we do have white privilege, you know what we do?
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We use that white privilege to get information to people.
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That s it.
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Yeah.
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And to try to fix some stuff.
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Yeah.
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You know, if and I think if our white privilege got us to the top of iTunes, then great.
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We ll use it to help other people get to the top of their game as well, no matter what they look like.
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Exactly.
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Also, everybody, I ve been watching documentaries a lot lately.
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Speaking of white privilege, this is like, I feel like that s a very white privilege thing to do, right?
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It s like, I m going to make a film about something.
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I m going to wear my skinny jeans and watch a documentary while I stroke my beard.
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Exactly.
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I put beard oil in.
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But a lot of documentaries, man, they ve got a really liberal
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Slant and some are even extremely left, and I don t have a problem with that, but I would I really don t mind I love all ideas I love all knowledge coming into my brain, but where are the conservative leaning or even just like centrist?
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Documentaries where are those it does anyone have a recommendation of something that I could watch that doesn t have a political agenda that
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isn t also just nature.
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Even nature stuff has a political agenda, which I m fine with.
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I just kind of want to get away from that occasionally.
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And I m not saying no bias.
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I realize that is actually impossible.
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But I just want something that isn t extreme left and isn t necessarily like religious right or something like that.
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And Netflix, man, is just not doing it for me right now.
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I got a great stuff there, but you can t escape the bias.
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It s driving me crazy.
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Well, I m going to throw one out for you and to the audience that I just actually finished this weekend.
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It is a documentary called Unlocked.
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It s about the history of video gaming is really good.
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It s an eight part series.
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It s got Tony Hawk guest on the show, Penn Jillette guest on the show, and a couple other couple other folks that you might recognize, like Allison Haislip from Ninja Warrior.
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But it s a good eight part series.
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You can right now it s available to buy on iTunes and Amazon, but it s a fantastic little series.
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and available to steal on BitTorrent.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Cool, well that stuff s cool.
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The tech stuff tends to be a little bit more centrist because it s almost hard to make that into a political agenda unless you re throwing in net neutrality and stuff, which even net neutrality is hardly controversial these days.
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Kind of a cool episode, hope y all enjoyed that.
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Don t forget you can email us Friday at theartofcharm.com to get your questions answered on the air.
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A link to the show notes for this episode can be found at theartofcharm.com slash FMF98.
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Also, we got the AOC Challenge.
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Text the word CHARMED, that s C-H-A-R-M-E-D, to 33444 if you re in the States.
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If you re not, go to theartofcharm.com slash challenge.
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We re taking you through the steps to becoming better at making personal connections, professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your social capital, your charisma.
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It s for both guys and gals, and it s for people with white privilege and people without.
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So, you can text the word CHARMED, C-H-A-R-M-E-D, to 33444 in the USA, or if you re anywhere else, just go to theartofcharm.com.
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Please, we d love to see you in there.
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Quick shout out to Joseph Taylor in New Orleans, Louisiana.
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Heard about AOC through the Art of Manliness, and has listened through Asia, South and North America.
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Cool, we re being taken on the road, Jay.
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And Allegra, in Israel by way of Canada, studying her post-doc in Tel Aviv, ran into another AOC fan over in the Holy Land.
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Thanks for being a fan and talking about the show, I love that.
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Are you in a strange land listening to my familiar voice?
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If so, hit me up, I would love to shout you out here.
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More from AOC at theartofcharm.com, including info on our live residential boot camps that we run every single week here in L.A.
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If you really want to dig into this stuff and work on your AOC skills with us as your coaches,
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That s bootcamp.theartofcharm.com.
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Now stay charming.
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Get out there and connect and leave everyone better than you found them.
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Thanks for listening to The Art of Charm.
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