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All right, welcome to Minisode Monday.
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I m very happy to be here with you, kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away.
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It ll make you more magnetic and it ll make you more effective.
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Now, the other weekend, I re-watched a great movie, Bridge of Spies with Tom Hanks, really, really good movie.
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One of the characters is Abel.
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He s a Soviet spy and he s going through a trial and he s facing the death penalty and all the while, he remains really stoically, kind of weirdly, bizarrely calm.
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And at one point, Tom Hanks  character asks him if he s worried at all, because Abel seems to be remarkably calm about the whole thing, just no reaction, and he rhetorically replies, would it help?
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And I love this mindset, and Abel expresses it perfectly.
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Worrying never helps.
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Worrying is what we do when there s nothing we really can do, and it s counterproductive.
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It causes stress, which takes us off our game in tons of other ways.
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It interferes with our performance.
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It interferes with our energy levels, and I mean real, actual energy, not the metaphorical woo-woo energy, and it interferes with our focus, and I m no stranger to it myself.
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I ve often been one to get very worked up over pretty much nothing, and the cure for worry is presence.
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Focus on the task at hand.
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Face forward, but don t live in the pretend future, which is what worry really is.
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It s the pretend dystopian future.
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It s a pretend future where the thing you re fearing as the worst is actually reality.
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And I m not saying that you can t think strategically and plan for a wide range of outcomes, but we have to stay emotionally detached from those outcomes if it s causing us problems with what s happening in the present.
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If worrying is stressing about the worst case scenario by assuming that will be the outcome, what if we instead assumed that the best case scenario and most positive outcome was going to happen?
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That would be amazing.
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Of course, we d need to find a new word for it.
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So this week, when you catch yourself worrying, assume the most positive outcome instead.
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And write me, I m Jordan at theartofcharm.com.
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Tell me about how this shifts your thinking and what the outcomes are for you.
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If worrying is your habit now, let s make the opposite of worrying, whatever we call it, your new habit.
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I think it ll be a game changer.
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I look forward to hearing from you.
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Till next time, stay charming and don t forget about the Art of Charm Challenge.
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It ll help you connect with others, create more productive personal and business relationships.
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It s unisex, so that means both guys and gals, so check it out, text charmed.
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to 33444 here in the US, or go to theartofcharm.com slash challenge and get rocking, and don t forget you can join our Facebook group once you get in there as well, and meet almost 2,000 Art of Charm members, Art of Charm Challenge members, along with me, AJ, and the Art of Charm team, helping you go through each of the challenges.
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Check it out, it s amazing to me to see the results in there, and I m looking forward to seeing you in there if you re not in there already.
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Now here s producer Jason with this week s coming attractions.
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Thank you very much, Jordan.
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On Tuesday, we sit down with Sean Blanchard.
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Sean s gone from being a crack baby to author, speaker, and mentorship specialist.
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We talk about how to find mentors, a systematic approach to leveraging mentorship, and why mentorship isn t about making rock stars, but making people better than they would have been without you.
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On Thursday, we talk to serial entrepreneur and author James Altucher about his successes, and more importantly, his failures.
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And as always, Fan Mail Friday, where we answer your questions and drop some knowledge.
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You can get more from AOC at theartofcharm.com.
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For information on our live residential boot camps that we run every single week in Los Angeles, head over to bootcamp.theartofcharm.com.
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If you want to really dig into this stuff and work on your skills with us as your coaches, there s no better place to start.
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That s bootcamp.theartofcharm.com.