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Welcome to Minnesota Monday.
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Hope your weekend was fantabulous.
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Happy to be here with you.
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Kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away that will make you more magnetic and effective.
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Today we re talking about loneliness.
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Loneliness, that discrepancy between your desired level of social contact with what you actually achieve.
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It s that contradiction between how we want to feel versus what we actually experience and it opens up this weird emptiness within us.
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We ve done a couple of shows about this with Kira Esatrian and other folks here on the podcast as well.
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We can experience loneliness even when you re surrounded by friends and colleagues all day and you go home to a spouse, partner, or children at night.
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If loneliness is really a state of disconnection or isolation from a group or people or some sort of community, then the increasing presence of technology should theoretically help ease the pain, right?
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Think about something like Facebook.
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You log into the site, you got all this abundance of other people s lives humming along without you, complete with photos of trips, friends, gatherings, parties that you re not at.
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We can just feel the inadequacy of our own social life seeping through the screen.
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And the gap between what others supposedly have and our own reality can make us feel dissatisfied and even lonelier than we were before.
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Of course, social media only shows you one side of someone s life.
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That s the side they want you to see.
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Same with their stories, their marketing, and their books.
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In fact, the algorithm on Facebook and other social media
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works such that you end up being surrounded only by people with similar opinions, which makes it harder for you to learn and makes you erroneously think that most people think just like you do.
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In fact, the algorithm on Facebook and other social media works such that we end up being surrounded only by people with similar opinions, which makes it harder for us to learn and makes us erroneously think that most people think just like us.
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For example, if you re only engaging with people who are really liberal on Facebook, you re only going to see those posts, which means that you re going to feel that everyone thinks the exact same way, and that those with different opinions are actually very few and far between, even if you re in the minority.
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So challenge your thinking.
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That s often what I do here on the Art of Charm podcast and in these types of Minnesota Mondays, and especially, of course, at Boot Camp.
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When we do so, we open ourselves up to see issues from a variety of diverse perspectives, which actually make us feel less isolated than being surrounded by the same ideas all the time.
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So surround yourself with people this week that challenge your thinking, not just people who agree with you.
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Hear people out when they express opinions you disagree with.
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Read an article from a website you don t normally agree with, or maybe that you can t even stand.
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You ll subconsciously or consciously poke holes in the logic, and it ll make you a better critical thinker.
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In some cases, it may change the way you think entirely.
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If you need me to be more specific with this, check out theartofcharm.com slash challenge or text charmed, that s C-H-A-R-M-E-D, to 33444.
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We ll help you go step by step with weekly missions that you can do in your spare time to help cultivate your personal and professional network.
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It s free, so check out the challenge at theartofcharm.com slash challenge.
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And of course, we ll be with you later this week here on The Art of Charm.
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Hey all, Producer Jason here with this week s coming attractions.
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On Tuesday, we re talking with retired four-star General Michael Hayden, former head of the NSA and CIA.
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We talk about warrantless surveillance and the Apple iPhone encryption controversies, ISIS, as well as the General s thoughts on Edward Snowden and Donald Trump.
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This one s not our normal type of fair.
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It s a little less psychology and more world affairs, so jump out of your comfort zone for a day and definitely check this episode out.
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On Thursday, we re back to it with Amy Herman.
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Amy teaches a course called The Art of Perception to most law enforcement agencies across the globe.
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We talk about assessing situations, analyzing observations and information, articulating what you ve seen and adapting to make decisions.
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We re using art to hone our skills and all of the artwork we re discussing in the show will be in the show notes so you can play along at home or wherever you ll be listening to the show.
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And of course, as always, we ve got Fan Mail Friday.
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So make sure you re subscribed in your podcast player of choice so you don t miss a single episode of the Art of Charm podcast.