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Hey, Jordan Harbinger here.
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Welcome to Mini-Sowed Monday.
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I m happy to be here with you kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away that should make you more magnetic and effective or just break a bad habit, which is kind of where I m going with this one today.
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Now, whenever anyone says something and it gets an emotional rise or a reaction out of us, it s usually because of one of two things.
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One,
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It s partially true, and it s something that even bothers us about ourselves, or two, it s something so contrary to one of our core values, even if we don t label it as such, that it offends us deeply.
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Now let s focus on the first reason for now.
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The other day, someone I don t know well told me upon my arrival that it seemed like I was always late.
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I simply shrugged it off because I am very punctual.
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I hadn t been late the past few days of the workshop we were in, and I even forgot about it until I needed an example for this video.
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However, had she known me better and found something more specific to me, something with maybe a kernel of truth to it, it may have been the type of comment that I would sit on and let stew for quite a while, because look, I m not even immune to all this stuff, so don t worry about it if you aren t.
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Now, the reason we often get upset with significant others, family, close friends, it s because they know exactly where our buttons are, and therefore, they can be pretty skilled at pushing them.
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In the case of close family, especially parents, they are the ones who helped install those buttons in the first place.
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See, when we find something that bothers us emotionally, it s because it acts as a reminder, a highlighter, if you will, on something that we aren t especially proud of.
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A character weakness, or a flaw, a vice, or an event we d rather put behind us and forget.
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Now this week, this is where the action is for us.
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Observe not only others, but yourself.
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What pushes your buttons emotionally?
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What gets a rise out of you?
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If we can find those buttons, we can find some truth in there.
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If it s a truth that bothers us on an emotional level, it may be the smoke we need to see the fire, and it s a great place to start correcting your course, changing your old habits, and replacing them with new ones.
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send me an email or tweet at me at The Art of Charm.
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Let me know what your buttons are and how you discover them.
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And of course, I promise, I won t use it against you.
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If you re really interested in habit change, head on over to theartofcharm.com slash challenge or text charmed, C-H-A-R-M-E-D to 33444 and join us there.
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We ve got some drills and exercises to help you break bad habits like this one and replace them with better, more productive habits that will serve you so much better.
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That link is in the show notes or you can text CHARMED to 33444 or go to theartofcharm.com.
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Until next time, stay charming and have a great week.