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Hey, Jordan Harbinger here.
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Welcome to Mini-Sode Monday.
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Happy to be here with you, kicking off the week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away.
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It ll make you more magnetic, and it ll make you more effective.
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Today, Jenny Blake, Get Unstuck, how to separate difficult decisions from difficult conversations, and how we can handle both of these so that we can move forward.
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All right, here s Jenny.
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A lot of people come to me when they re at a pivot point or a plateau in their careers or their businesses, and they say, I m so confused, I don t know what to do.
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And when I ask them, I ll say, well, what do you really want?
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What does your gut say?
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They know, they always have a sense for what it would really take to get them unstuck, but they re afraid.
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And a lot of people, when they re facing a big career or business decision,
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conflate, they end up conflating the decision itself with the difficult conversations that might be involved.
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So there are four parts to difficult launch decisions when we re talking about actually putting the final steps of a pivot in place.
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Number one, making the decision based on your gut instinct.
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Two, figuring out how to express that difficult decision in words clearly and directly to the parties involved.
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Three, deciding when to have that conversation.
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Four, communicating the decision to the people involved.
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And then I would actually say there s a fifth, which is responding to their reaction and any ensuing consequences or follow-up.
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Sometimes having the conversation, if you can think about a breakup or leaving a job, it s like there s an earthquake and sometimes there are aftershocks.
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So if you can, instead of just saying when you re at a pivot point, I don t know, see if you separate out having to tell anyone about your decision, if you re any clearer on what it is for you.
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So if I said to you, if I gave you the permission and said, what do you really want?
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And even when you know what it is, you don t have to do anything about it.
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You don t have to tell anyone.
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You don t have to take any action.
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But if I could wave a magic wand and let you have this new thing or this new direction, what would it be?
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That a lot of people know that.
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So then just let that truth be there and give yourself permission not to have to do anything about it yet.
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And trust that then you can work on the when to have that conversation, how, and then muster up the courage to finally do it.
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And by separating out, it can help you get clearer on the decision as an isolated thought project.
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and then later on your own timing and when you ve taken all the practical steps that will, it s the action steps that bring us courage.
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So it s then taking steps toward that goal when you re ready that ultimately makes communicating it, kind of speaking your truth around it much easier.
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Thanks so much to Jenny Blake for that.
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Her book, Pivot, will be in the show notes for this episode as well.
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Don t forget about the Art of Charm Challenge.
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It ll help you connect with others, create more productive personal and business relationships, and includes step-by-step challenges to help you move forward.
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There s also a Facebook group with thousands of other AOC family taking the challenge as well.
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Of course, AJ and I are in there with the rest of the Art of Charm team, helping you all move through these challenges.
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Text CHARMED to 33444.
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That s C-H-A-R-M-E-D to 33444 here in the USA, or go to theartofcharm.com slash challenge and get moving.