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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
After this comment, I am going to say yes, major red flag for me.

Dating for MONTHS before you are willing to give me your name screams trust issues. In your title, you say “days”, and I can understand that. But months? No way. Sure I can Google you, and tbh, I’ve googled people I’ve been on a few dates with. And I hope those women have done the same. Have you ever googled the people you’ve been out with? Because unless you haven’t, that’s hypocritical imo. And even if I know where someone has worked/gone to school, I still ask them because I want to learn about their experience.

This comment implies that you’re not gonna share where you live, what type of car you drive, where you’ve worked, where you’ve gone to school within the first few dates? I’ve had these conversations with total strangers sitting at the bar. I agree it’s totally fine to have reservations with sharing this information, but trust is a two way street. If I shared my name and a woman didn’t want to share her’s, I would give it 1-2 more dates max, and if she still refused to share, I would move on and chalk it up as major trust issues. That bleeds into more than just a name.
gpt
Don’t forget she said they were friends before and made it sound like they’ve already dated over a month. The dude has to know her car and idk how he wouldn’t know where she lives.