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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
Because it's friggin' expensive.

 I pay rent to live at home (albeit well below market rate), and I have managed to save up some money that way. I stayed at my previous job for too long and was way underpaid. I got a better one just about two years ago; it's still not enough to live on independently, but I have been able to really start saving in earnest for a down payment on something with my gf. Depending on her job, we may have a real shot, finally.
gpt
Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about still living with your parents.

It’s extremely common these days, and reports state that adult-aged children are living at home more so than during the Great Depression. I know good people who lived with their parents, still, at my age. 

I’m 33. I moved out at 18 (not even a month later). Honestly, I wish I had waited. No one prepared me for finances, taxes, apartment shit, jobs, loser boyfriends, moving, forwarding mail, etc. 

I’ve since moved about 6 times since 2007. So, on average every 2.5 years. 

I’ve had to ask my parents countless times to help me get by. My parents severely did not prepare me for the “adult world.” I didn’t even know to forward my mail until I was 27. 

I’ve finally got a “career” I think. I’m feeling good about everything and then I get a shitty neighbor and I’m renting (same place for 8.5 years). Shitty neighbor hates me so she calls the cops randomly and now I’m currently fighting an eviction. Courts next Monday. I just spent 2 years fixing my credit to 750+ from 524. Right now, there’s an “eviction” on my record since they filed it in court, so as of right now, shit is so ducking stupid and messed up. 

I felt like I finally had gotten to “the place”! Now, there’s a looming possibility that I’m going to have to relocate my entire life, ruin my child’s first year of a “normal” school year (she started kindergarten in 2019-2020 so we started school off already messed up because COVID March. 2020 shut down schools here) move back in with my dad, move 750+ miles away and hope my job lets me work full time remote. 

I mean, I know my parents would help me move. Boyfriend is physically disabled due to an accident so he can’t even really HELP pack or move but gotta fight that system for benefits. So, things are fucked up and I’ve lived out of “home” state for 12 years now. I really really really don’t want to move back “home” even if it’s not to my fathers house (I could live back home really affordably BUT it’s Indiana and … I have a daughter &amp; politics). 

I hope you get what you want! Imma keep fighting on :) I’ve never been evicted before but I find myself in some unusual situations most times (seriously weird situations, Indiana put a lien on my bank account in 2016 because I opened a bank account in nyc in 2013 so they thought I owed them taxes??? I spent 60 hours on the phone in 1 week getting it all sorted). I think it’s just to trial myself or something, idk. It just seems right as I hit a comfy spot, something comes around to challenge me and it’s really getting exhausting!

But please thank your parents for their dedication to you. My parents weren’t even shitty people or bad parents, they just didn’t know I guess? They didn’t kick me out or anything either, I just wanted to move. 

Bonus is, I’m doing better financially then they were at my age. Which is fucked up cause I’m doing pretty shitty, lol (&amp; with 1 kid instead of 3!!)