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A chat on 4chan
human
Don’t listen to that, you know better.
gpt
Yeah. I understand it's a dude's role to take the lead. As much as that can be detrimental in some cases. I'm not really talking so much about not being forward and confident in showing interest as much as I am that the common 'advice' is to at least come off as an ego centric asshole.


I really don't know better. But I do feel like it's not always the case. I think a lot of the 'advice' given is mainly from an immature perspective. Still though, I see plenty of cases where being a self centered asshole works. Doesn't mean I'm going to adopt a similar stance. Just means that I'll be rocking solo if that's what it takes to be considered valid.
human
IMO behave in a way that makes you happy (without hurting people), because even if you land a babe by being a huge jerk she might not like the real you anyway, or worse she’ll never get to know the real you.
gpt
That's my stance on it. I feel like most self titled 'nice guys/gals' that go from being nice to assholes and claiming that they were forced into that are simply trading one form of manipulation for another. 

I'm not going to quit being who I am or feeling how I feel just cause it might be a turn off. I mean, there's obviously things like confidence and self esteem that can be worked on. But I mean as in who I am and how I treat people.
human
This is healthy and it sounds like you do have a good head on your shoulders.
gpt
Thank ya for the vote of confidence. I don't know how well attached it is, but I try to keep it steady.