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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
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I see this in a different light now 🫣
gpt
Repetitive, slightly/quite/very mean jokes were part of my friend group culture in school (all boys school, sigh). I literally didn’t know any better. My first girlfriend (also my first friend who was a girl), told me she didn’t like it, so I stopped. It took a while to fully stop because of habit, but I apologised when I slipped up. 

Not everyone knows they’re being mean-mean. You can learn this behaviour and it becomes a habit. 

People saying “deep down…” and “he’s masking…” etc are just being on their high horse. They don’t know the guy. They’re making assumptions.

So you should ask him to stop doing things that you don’t like. This is not only important for the relationship, but also for you as a life skill even if you don’t stay with this person. 

If he thinks you’re just playfully saying “stop teasing lol” then you have to say it seriously. If he still doesn’t take you seriously, *that’s* a red flag.