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A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
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The games people play instead of just saying what you think. 

This last year there was a barista who kind of broke my heart. After my divorce I read a bunch of self-help books, lost a bunch of weight and started talking to girls. It was an uphill battle and I had asked 10 or 15 girls for their number before one gave me their number. 

I work from a coffee house a lot of the time because my work can be done anywhere. Her and I played flirty eyes for almost 2 weeks before I got up the nerve to talk to her. I talked to her several times before I asked for her number. 

When she gave me her number and agreed to a date I was floored. She was the prettiest girl I had ever been around and I was over the moon about the date. 

Because I'm an observant person I had noticed things about her that I found really attractive. She was a really hard worker and got along well with all the customers. Her staff seemed to really like her as well. Not to mention she really was a 10. 

A couple of days before our date I thought it would be cute to write or a small note and bring her some flowers from my garden. I went to the drive-thru and gave her the note and the flowers. And then she ghosted me.

I was so embarrassed I didn't go back to the shop for almost a month. But when I did I asked her what I had said in the note that upset her. She told me it was because I was looking for a relationship and she wasn't. She told me she had a lot going on in her life and wasn't interested and dating. I asked her why she gave me her number and agreed to go out if she didn't want to date.
gpt
To quote one of other posts" good luck sending me mixed signals , i dont even understsnd direct ones"  some people just aint build for that