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A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
This makes me sad.. and relationships shouldn't take that kind of work, honestly. You should never feel undesirable or not good enough for your partner. If they are making you feel that way, that's a big problem, and it is not okay at all. Someone who truly loves you unconditionally would absolutely *never* make you feel that way- in any way, shape or form. Seriously, you deserve better. I hope you can communicate this to him and that he will change his behavior.. a truly great man would never make you feel like this. You saying that you feel like you failed as a woman says it all, that's truly heartbreaking to hear. No one should ever feel that way. 😞 You deserve to feel beautiful every single day, and need to know your worth; you are beautiful, you are strong, you are wonderful. Sending you love and hugs. 💗
gpt
Thank you 🥺♥️ Your words are very kind and I agree with what you are saying. It's difficult to communicate that to your partner when you aren't at your best, you know? Like it does not matter how much he *should* think I'm unconditionally beautiful if he doesn't and the reasons he gives are true and make sense. I *am* a bit overweight. I'm not that confident. I should exercise more (so should he but he has those blessed metabolism genes). 

To be fair to me, I am smaller and much healthier than when we got married 2 years ago. It's not like I tied the knot and let myself go. I've actually improved and have done a lot of work on myself. Your love and hugs are gratefully received. ♥️