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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
that's what I learned when my dad started the revolving door into hospital, and then went into care later on.  they pressured him/me hard to put his wishes on file and I resented it.  still do a little but I understand the context now.  no wishes known == have to do it.  

and ofc he wanted "any means necessary" without really understanding what that could entail.  like, neither of us realised that could entail "break my ribs doing compressions", never mind anything past even that.
gpt
I understand you were in a fragile state then, but it's so freakin' important to have these discussions early and often. Far too often, families play the fainting violet game when you try to have these discussions with them, then when something serious is happening, you either can't get ahold of the family member to confirm their loved ones' wishes or the family member is useless (understandably) because their loved one is actively dying. Edited to add: and then you end up with lawsuits. If you have the family commit to something on paper early, you can ward off a lot of " you didn't do everything to save cousin Jesse (even though it wouldn't be medically appropriate) so here's a 1 billion dollar law suit."