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A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
 rather something you give to somebody else

I think we put far too much value on virginity and shouldn't think of it as a gift or transaction at all. What exactly have you *given* that person? Having sex is just a thing we do. Doing it for the first time is a big step for many people, but it's more about them themselves than the person they're doing it with. The first time I had sex, I wasn't doing it as a gift or for the benefit of anybody else; I did it because I was ready to do it and wanted to do it for me. Viewing it as anything else is just weird and a bit creepy and unhealthy for society.
gpt
I did it because I was curious. Maybe I'm weird but I never placed any value on it. I always found it weird as fuck that people did (I'm a woman). 
I just wanted it gone. Technically, I was abused as a child, so that wasn't actually "losing my virginity". But I do count it as that, and as my first time, and I had literally no emotional connection to it, and I broke up with the dude soon after. 

People find that weird. As a woman, it's like I should have emotional connection to my virginity - even tho I am completely secular and I live in a fairly secular country. I don't, and I never did, even when I was 15. 

I was just curious. And like anything else I was curious about, I just wanted to do it.

I think putting too much on it is pretty negative for people. It certainly was for me.