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human
I'm saying what you might perceive as an act born of of hate may simply be a corrective, preventative, or symbolic measure done with no feeling one way or another.
gpt
i see what you are saying there. 

the way i was thinking of it is when someone says sentiments like that to someone, it's usually all good until that someone makes a decision that isn't being suggested by the one that preached it.
human
I'd say that's a failure on the part of the speaker. If I tell you to just be yourself, and you're a school shooter at heart, then you just go and shoot up a school, I can't hate you for being yourself, nor can I hate you because I blame myself for what you did. I can hate you for what you did.

If your hypothetical speaker hates you for just being yourself, fuck him. He was never your friend or mentor, he just wanted you 'just be yourself (as long as that self is just like I want you to be).'
gpt
no, i don't mean a miscommunication or misunderstanding. 

i'm talking about if you were to tell me to think for myself. but then one day i tell you i'm going out somewhere. but you want me to stay. and then you get furious when i still go out despite you expressing that you wanted me to stay in. 

in that sense, you didn't want me to think for myself. you just wanted me to until it's inconvenient for you.
human
>in that sense, you didn't want me to think for myself. you just wanted me to until it's inconvenient for you.
That's exactly what I said. I agree with you. That person was never your friend or mentor, he wasn't saying 'think for yourself' he was saying 'think for yourself (but think like me).'

There are a lot of people like that out there. They won't tell you what they want, they'll give platitudes and get upset or angry or hateful when you don't conform.

The real question is would you have conformed with this person had he been direct about what he wanted from you in the first place?
gpt
i think there is a difference between being upset and hateful though. which is something else i was (trying to) say. 

i feel it's understandable to get upset. like in that example, you want me to stay in but i don't. and you get upset cause you had a night planned. but you respect it and don't let it turn to resentment. 

as opposed to getting mad, blaming me for ruining your night, and sabotaging mine. 
i was mainly just talking to air with  in mind when i first brought it up.