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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
Yup! Best friend and her fiance are Christian. They moved in together and there is SO much guilt and manipulation happening. 

The pastor kept requesting "meetings" with her fiance and says that he is sinning, jeopardizing his relationship with God, he needs to move out, etc. The fiance would come home every Sunday (they attend different churches) with tons of guilt and doubts. He would go back and forth on moving out every week. It was emotionally upsetting for her (not to mention that it would screw her over if he moved out because they signed a lease and she can't afford the place on her own). The fiance finally put his foot down with the pastor about living together. 

The shenanigans haven't stopped there. The pastor now says that she needs to move and become a member of his church. She already doesn't like his pastor because of the previous paragraph and she is happy with her church. She has attended her church since before she met the fiance - why should she leave? The pastor says that he won't marry them or let them use the church if they both aren't members and if they are still living together. Fiance's best guy friend since childhood (also a member of the church) calls him up and says that he won't be best man if they are still living together. It has just been a constant nightmare. Why does it fucking matter to these people? Are they going to pay his half of the rent if he moves out? Friend &amp; fiance's lives have no bearing whatsoever on these other people's lives. They have basically been pushed into eloping or getting married by a Justice of the Peace in town hall because of the stupid BS.

I was raised in the church and bounced out once I was an adult because I couldn't deal with the control issues and guilt/manipulation tactics that are used. I have openly discussed this with my best friend and she knows that **people** are what drove me away from religion. I don't think she truly saw it until these events. It has been very eye opening for her.
gpt
man that so much mirrors the control from the Mormons I saw as a young adult too. If you had sex you were treated like you murdered someone. You were heavily encouraged to only date and marry in the faith and any relationship outside of it was super discouraged. It was all about controlling people and making sure they got locked into a lifetime of service to the church. Once you are married and have kids in the church it will be a million times harder to leave it when you have questions later so of course they also push getting married as young and dumb as possible. This is why divorce rates are so high for mormons that marry young. 

Also the things they tell you too look for in a spouse are completely wrong. They say, look for a man who is a returned missionary and a woman that is faithful in the church. Never look for someone that isn't an abusive twat that you actually have things in common with. The number of Mormons that are deeply unhappy in their relationship and trapped by the church and their marriage is super high (especially women). I lucked out in I was way too bad at dating to get married young and the woman I married we actually have a ton in common and a great relationship.