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A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
Most women don’t need a “manly man.” We can hang our own pictures, reno our own houses, figure out a way to lift something heavy, etc. 

We want partners. As in: a man who doesn’t have to ask his wife for help when he’s left alone with their children; a man who can look around the house and think “ hmm baseboards look a little dusty, I’ll add those to MY cleaning list and do that myself”; a man who can wipe his own ass properly too. 

Women are divorcing men because they don’t pull their weight in relationships. It’s so far beyond “being manly”. In fact, I think most of us would prefer a less manly partner in the sense of wanting to be with someone who emotionally cares for you, and either knows how, or is willing to learn, to express their needs, wants, and fears in healthy ways. 

We don’t need the baggage of raising an incomplete human while dealing with our own shit. Easier to be alone at that point, or be with your girlfriends, who actually care about you and yours, and don’t see you as a mommy to fuck.
gpt
Women are, and always have been, so clear about what they want and expect in a relationship yet a lot of men refuse to listen. 

Coming from a family where all the men are pieces of shit it pains me to constantly be reminded that many men aren’t changing any time soon. 

A lot of it is just toxic masculinity and I’m not sure how much more objectively I’m able to view things from the outside as a gay man, but all of the things you’ve said seem like plain common sense to me.