system
A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
Believe it or not, this pretty perfectly embodies a few things a lot of people from the old 2005-era pickup community would have told you to say.

* Open with a question for her opinion - one that invites further conversation 
* Imply that you won’t be around long
* Imply you’re out to have fun on your own (with friends), not looking to pick someone up
* Keep the stakes low 

The scene has a terrible rep, because of certain people and their “black hat” approaches, but there was a lot of thoughtful insight there too.
gpt
Every scene gets judged by its worse examples. Over time, the non-crazy elements get sick of explaining that and just leave, and then the group really does become as bad as everyone says. The self-fulfilling prophecy of the internet subgroup.