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Ah, I see, that can be difficult. Something to keep in mind is that you don't need to strain yourself to convince them or struggle for your desire in that moment. That whole situation and conversation was manifested before it happened. Trying to think about what you can say or should have said at this point would be detrimental.

I struggled with revision also. I think that there's a great virtue in truth-telling and revision struck me as practicing delusion and falsehood. But it doesn't have to be.

Write down what you experienced. You can downplay it or minimize it if you like, but the purpose is to acknowledge, vent, and remove the negative emotions and feel like you're actually facing the truth. Then, write down what you would have liked to experience. You can lavish a bit more detail, but it should feel realistic. Then simply identify more with the revised story. 

The whole purpose of any revision exercise is to change your state, not to change the past per se. Although it sounds kind of wacky(but to be honest, all of this sounds wacky), the 'vibration' terminology some people use is very intuitive and practical in this regard. You should be vibrating not as someone who is regretting and resenting their circumstances, but as someone who has achieved their desires and is happy with everything that's happened/happening. How would you remember this event if you were already dating? Whatever means you employ to sustain that state is good. Some people are impulsive and consistent liars and find no difficulty in complete denial and make-believe. Other people want their negative experiences to be acknowledged and can't deny them. Either way, a consistent, healthy vibe is the key.

Also, the situation as you described it is nothing unusual. Many couples go through uncertainty and turmoil before settling down together. Things could very easily swing your way dramatically very soon, so don't be discouraged if you've decided this is the girl for you.
gpt
thanks anon, you're a good guy.