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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
This may be terrible advice (cuz idk ur dad or the whole situation) and unsolicited, but since this is an anonymous internet forum I’m gonna give it anyways. 

The language your dad speaks is most likely based on power dynamics and leverage. For your entire life, he’s had power/leverage over you. 

Possibly without realizing it, since you work for him and he’s short staffed, he recognizes that he’s lost leverage/power over you. You could quit tomorrow and he’d be in deep shit. You possibly have more leverage/power over him than at any point in your life and this may be his attempt to regain that power.  You may be exacerbating it by being passive (perceived as whiny) about your desires/issues. 

If I were you, I’d probably pull him aside next time he talks shit and speak his language back to him. Utilize that leverage to basically say “cut that shit out, you need me and if you keep fucking around you’re going to be even more short-staffed.”

Of course, this is predicated on the fact that you are actually working hard while you’re there and that he does need you. 

Also, stop complaining about work to your boss. It never goes well. If you need an avenue to vent, find someone else.
gpt
I understand that your trying to give me advice and like you said you don’t know the dynamic between us. He’s a great dad, other than this he’s a very good dad and has done a lot for me. We leave the boss dynamic at the bar and return to family mode in the house and this is where I think he’s getting mixed up a little. This is what we always agreed and if I’ve been working 12 hours 2/3 days on the run he will tell me to go chill out, take a bath etc. 


I definitely have the leverage in this situation as it’s only me (his supervisor) and his general manager left and we’ve both said if one leaves it’s likely the other will too and I’m pretty sure he knows this. It’s not often I complain but when I do just a little “thank you for your hard work.” Would be nice or just a bit of motivation rather than acting as if I’m whining about nothing