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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
That's...not giving a lot of agency to those younger partners. 

Their adults. Why are we so sure that they aren't choosing to live in a more tradional gender role. Or even just straight choosing an asshole for her own reasons. 

If everyone involved is an adult...unless/until we start talking about dangerous or abusive behavior it kinda seems like none of the rest if the world's business.
gpt
&gt; Why are we so sure that they aren't choosing to live in a more tradional gender role. Or even just straight choosing an asshole for her own reasons.

Because I've seen this play out and sometimes seen these women grow up and leave.

Maybe they did choose to live in a more traditional gender role, that's kind of beside my point.

I'm not saying these people don't have agency, I'm saying the life they've lived so far, they've usually not properly _exercised_ their agency and actually explored what they wanted for themselves, instead of sticking to what they think is expected of them. Which is a very common problem for _many_ people that tends to show up in different ways, based on how they were raised.