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human
>How does that even work anyway? You don't know them so how can you be lusting over them? Do you just construct an imaginary personality of your liking and attach it to their image?

If they're really physically attractive, that's a starting point. Go forward by watching interviews, reading about their life, reading what other people have said about them, 'researching' their life to try and get as best of an understanding of them as possible (books, bios, Wikipedia, etc), consume as much media about them as possible to get a good idea of their image and mannerisms. The lusting is more for their physical features but the 'love' which I guess is just admiration, comes from trying to understand the type of person they were, usually by their actions or thoughts. I usually like guys who were considered good, kind hearted, smart, generous, thoughtful, kind, etc., tough not knowing what they were like behind closed doors because nobody is perfect... But you can use what little you can get (like if they died young) to build a type of personality I guess. 

And there's something about them dying young, especially if in a very tragic way like overdosing or a fire or murder, that just really adds to it. Not sure. Probably empathetic bleeding heart stuff of how you think they deserved better, heart broken that they suffered, wishing you could save them, etc.

Also bonus points if you have sex dreams about them or get off thinking about them (:
gpt
So which dead-young celebrities have you lusted over?

Do you think of stopping creating those fantasy scenarios anytime soon?

Have you been in an actual relationship?
human
I really only think of em for a few months before moving on and getting over em. I write as a hobby, and sometimes use them as a face or loose base for characters, then get bored or find someone else interesting that replaces them. It's usually just bored daydreaming. It only becomes a serious problem if I get obsessed to the point of wanting to buy stuff relating to them, it ends up being just a huge waste of money and I'm left with useless junk. I actually stopped doing it a few days ago when I realized I was using them as an escape to cope with life, with stress, with feelings of emptiness, for having to care for a dying, elderly relative, for years. After they died, and after going through immense grief, I woke up one night to realize that the stuff I bought was just garbage and the guys were a bunch of nobodies who had no real impact on my life and the hours I spent thinking about them should instead have been spent with my relative, despite how anxious caring for them was. But I'm getting off track here. 

Basically, things like that are just escapes for most people and I think that's the root cause of most celebrity obsessions, as well as girls just looking for somebody 'safe' to have a para-social relationship with, someone who won't hurt or disappoint them, someone who they don't have to be vulnerable with, or if they're just awkward and don't know anything about real dating, etc. 

>Have you been in an actual relationship?
Yes, quite a few, mostly casual, and we always ended up drifting apart. The thing with most young guys, at least the ones I dated, was they never wanted anything serious and were serial womanizers who'd date girls for a couple months before moving on to a new girl, repeat. It's annoying and frustrating. There's the constant worry of them cheating. And if I want a guy who will truly want to commit, I'd likely have to date someone much older which I don't want to do right now. I'm honestly much happier being single, to be honest
gpt
Good post.