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human
I never buy the whole 'too busy to talk' thing. If somebody genuinely wants to talk with someone, they will find the time.
gpt
How do I deal with resentment and feeling hurt and dismissed by this? I have these little vindictive fantasies where she tries reaching out to me again and me being nasty and despondent towards her
human
The best way is to affirm the opposite: she reaches out to you and you're magnanimously warm and accepting(while still having a spine and dignity).

It helps to realize that your thoughts aren't entirely your own: you have those vindictive fantasies in part because that's something she is worried about. It's good because that means she already is thinking about reaching out to you, and it can be better if you allay her fears rather than drag her through them.

You can also let her apologize if you believe you had good reason to feel hurt. Keep in mind that the apology isn't really for you(you don't need it because you don't feel hurt anymore) but for her to feel resolved and affirm a better attitude. Then you're working with a partner that not only expressly wishes to act in the best way possible towards you but does so herself.

Isn't that nice? The only reason you were entertaining those vindictive fantasies at all were because you wanted that power and trust back, and thought you had to go through that drama to get it or prove to others you deserved it. But you didn't need to do any of that, you can just take it. And that's the benefit of LoA
gpt
I had something similar. Plus I had an overwhelming urge to contact my SP recently. Which I didn't do. was that a mistake?
human
It means they were thinking of you and wanted you to contact them. Not necessarily a mistake, certainly not worth thinking that; would you prefer it if they contacted you? Maybe they should. They will do that if you focus on it. Or contacting them yourself will be successful if you focus on that.

Did you read the story of Neville going to Barbados? He got the ticket, and his friend Abdullah said 'I didn't imagine you going to Barbados in coach/economy class. You're going to go there first class' Then when he was about to go they upgraded him for some reason. 

The point is that while you're not supposed to condition your desire from the negative end(I have to do X and Y before I get it), you should expect it to play out in the best possible way. And people say you shouldn't wish for specific outcomes but that's silly: Neville wasn't okay with going to any tropical island, he wanted to go back home, and his family brought him home.
gpt
Damn, thanks. This really lifted my spirits.