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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
I’m with you on this. Living with extended family is so much easier for literally everyone in the household. There’s always extra money, someone to watch the kids, someone who can make a sandwich here and there. If your car breaks down, you borrow someone else’s while yours gets fixed, etc. Thats how I’ve chosen to live as an adult, and when my kids are that age, I’ll be letting them know, they are always welcome in my home. Why waste money being lonely and poor just to live in your own pod? Is having to tolerate the presence of other people such a sacrifice that it’s worth throwing away all the potential benefits? I just don’t get it. American individualism is a blatant trap in my opinion.
gpt
Multi-generational housing can be toxic af though, particularly for women (who are the bearers of the brunt of the work of caring for both elderly grandparents and their own young children). Look at Korea and India— women there are positively fed up with multi-generation households, and at least in Korea, are acting against it by not getting married and forced into domestic servitude.

(In India, many women won’t marry a guy if they must live with his parents after the marriage. They will choose a different candidate who has their own house because of the rife abuse with multi-Gen in-laws abusing their new daughter in law. Lots of Bollywood films depict this exact arrangement and the drama that ensues from it)

The situation is difficult all around. Different society, different problems.