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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
Hey, so a lot of people have suggested online dating, and I agree, but you said you haven’t had much luck online in the past. 

I also don’t like to go out, and my hobbies include houseplants, cooking, videogames, board games, and playing pool at my house (lucky enough to have my own table). I was able to find a really great boyfriend very quickly on Tinder with a very similar nature, so I thought maybe I could offer some profile advice?

First, are you describing yourself as ‘boring’ on your profile? I understand that you’re comfortable with your hobbies and lifestyle, but you want to try to avoid anything that can be perceived as negativity on your profile. Adjectives like ‘boring’ don’t mean the same thing to everyone, and people who enjoy the same things as you may not see your common hobbies as boring at all.  They may read ‘boring’ and imagine someone who is not interested in anything at all and will not be able to hold a conversation with them, rather than someone who enjoys the same things that they do. Instead, try to be very specific about how you like to spend your time. If you like board games say you like board games and list a couple of favorites! If you like movies or TV shows, say that and list a couple favorites, maybe even explain why you like them so much! Talk about your specific interests, and be enthusiastic! People are drawn to positivity and specific interests, and describing yourself as boring is selling yourself very short.

As far as not liking to go out, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! However, instead of talking about things you DON’T like to do, talk about what you do like to do! Instead of “I don’t like bars or nightclubs”, say “I love nothing more than a quiet Friday night in with Thai takeout and a 1000 piece jigsaw puzzle” (or whatever you’re into). This creates a positive message about what you enjoy, and suggests you would like to meet someone who would enjoy a similar lifestyle. It communicates the same message, but in a positive, specific way. This will sound like a fun, comfortable lifestyle to many who read your profile - you’re not alone!

Finally, it’s okay to say that you’re looking for a relationship in your profile, but I think it’s a good idea to pitch a couple of first date suggestions in your profile as well. For example, “my favorite restaurant is ______ Sushi and I’d love to take you for a couple of Tiger and Dynamite rolls so we can get to know each other!”, “Let’s go for a walk in _____ park and then get ice cream down the street at _____! They have the best Coconut ice cream in town!”, “I love the ______ Natural History Museum, and I would love to take you so we can check out the _____ together!”. These are all fun, positive suggestions that are specific about the experience a potential partner can expect with you, and after they read your profile they may have a few great suggestions of their own! Best of all, all of these ideas will give a potential partner insight into your personality and allows them to imagine the fun times they could have with you.

For me, I think about three paragraphs is a great length for a dating profile. You can do a little more, but I wouldn’t exceed about five. Be engaging and be positive! Also, if you send messages (which you should), be sure to read the other person’s bio and ask them specific questions about things they wrote! People love to talk about themselves :)

Pictures are important too, obviously. I’m not talking about objective attractiveness, but your profile pics need to be smiling, solo, and ideally interesting (doing a favorite activity, holding a pet, interesting background, etc.,). There are several dating advice subreddits, as well as a Tinder subreddit, that will give you feedback and advice on your dating profile and/or profile pictures to help make sure you’re portraying yourself in a positive and interesting light.

I hope some of this was helpful, and if you have any questions about writing a bio or anything, feel free to message me. Best of luck, OP.
gpt
"First, are you describing yourself as ‘boring’ on your profile?"

No, I said reserved and introverted.

As for the rest, thank you immensely. This is very helpful, and I will reread this before writing a profile. I appreciate your tips, thank you again. This will likely help a ton.