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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
&gt; but I still see it a lot from other people I know

So here is my thought you are clearly aware it can be an issue so set your boundaries firmly from the start of the relationship. 

FWIW Old guy here happily married for 30+ years.
gpt
Definitely will if/when I decide to be in a relationship again. Glad to see not everyone is this way. Congratulations! I know 30+ yrs is not easy work