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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
I think this is well said.

I'm a female, and I have quite a few male friends - including my ex-husband. But my now-husband knows that he is my husband, my partner in life, and the one I want to be with. My male friends are just that: friends. We sometimes meet up for dinner, or go out with our spouses on double dates, or send each other funny things, or use each other as a sounding board for ideas, etc. - you know, as friends.

For me, the true test is, can I share what they've sent me/what we've talked about/etc. with my husband? Because I do (unless it's an embarrassing-type secret). And not one has ever crossed the line.

I don't know; maybe it's because we're older? And we know the value of friendships and relationships? I don't know. I do know that at this stage in life, sex isn't the major definer of...anything. For example, my ex-husband. He's still my friend and my family because we have a shared history. Sex isn't an issue for us anymore; what is important is that we are there for each other as family. I'm an only child and so when my parents died he was always there for me after we divorced as a friend, and his family still treated me as family. So...we're family.

My husband is my core family, my best friend, and the only one I want to have sex with. He's my partner in life, we have each other's backs, we have fun together - he's what matters, ultimately.

I hope I'm making sense.
gpt
Just wanna say it’s nice to see someone have healthy relationships and appropriate boundaries. Everyone involved seems like they are good people.