system
A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
Meanwhile when I shoot my shot (which I do 99% of the time), guys call me "desperate" and say they prefer chasing. My guy friends have literally told me that men see women who make the first move as desperate, lonely and easy and after my experiences, I believe them.

Out of the maybe fifteen times I've asked men out, only two lead to actual full-fledged relationships. The rest just insulted me and made me feel like I was a hideous troll (one guy even slapped me and called me ugly back in high school).
gpt
Agree. Had a friend say she doesn't mind shooting her shot. I seconded. The guys in the group protested.