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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
I’ve always treated my kids partners with respect. Tried to get to know them and never played the “tough dad” routine or “I don’t like them because they are with my daughter” routine and here’s why.

When my kid DOES come home with someone who is bad news, or disrespectful to them, or shows manipulative or abusive traits, I want my kid to hear me when I say to them “girl, run. Block the number”

There’s been a few they have dated that I, just couldn’t stand. I was never going to be friends with. We were never going to like eachother. But they were GOOD TO MY KID. It doesn’t matter if I like them or not. They get my respect as a bare minimum. They are welcome around because my child, is safe with them and felt good about they’re self with them.

We had to have the “this one isn’t good for you” talk once. And my kid listened. And then saw what we were talking about (emotionally manipulative, borderline verbally abusive.) I’m glad I never played the tough dad card.
gpt
You deadset legend.

My eldest is approaching dating age and I’d always planned to be this type of parent during that phase, and the rest, of her life.