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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
There isn't any polite and respectful way to say that, because it's not a nice thing to say in the first place.

How would you feel if you were given a shitty name at birth, then changed your name later in life, and someone said, "I want to be polite and respectful, but I do not agree or follow the name you want to be called by. I will call you by your birth name only" ?
gpt
Seriously this. 

It's pretty damn hard to respectfully disrespect and marginalize someone.