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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
It's probably worth talking to your GF about how she provides feedback. If she had phrased this as "I really like boxer briefs and I'd love to see you wearing them" this probably wouldn't have been a problem.
gpt
also, often women aren't very confident to be vocal about what they find appealing/sexy, so it come out weird and controlling instead. some women end up distressed and shy to communicate what they find sexy cos they've been told for years that expressing desire makes them morally reprehensible or something (slut shamed essentially). so they want to communicate it but not express that it's because they find it sexy. then it comes out like a demand, no questions asked, no discussion. Cos that's dangerous, nobody can find out she's a sexual being!

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not at all saying it's ok to not work on that communication and internalised shame, just... that's how it can come to be that someone might do this.