system
A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
based. had a few times where I asked if I could go. They may have been hesitant, but after seeing that I was pretty chill and could get along, I started getting invited to much more. It is worth the risk of shame.
gpt
I very clearly remember the first day of university, sitting alone in my dorm, hearing people socializing outside, and forcing myself to go ask to join them. 15 years later, still friends with some of them.