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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
Because it's just not safe for us to be open about it online.

I have an incredibly high sex drive. I responded to a question here on Reddit about what women think about men who have difficulty with erections, and I basically just said that I think most women are pretty understanding, and my damn inbox blew up. 

And the thing is... if it was just guys saying, "Thanks so much for what you said. That really made me feel better," like a NORMAL HUMAN BEING, I actually wouldn't mind. But alas... It was guys IMMEDIATELY asking me stupid shit like, "Do you have racial preferences?" or, "Do you like it when a guy dominates you?"

I'm going to tell you the number one lesson that I teach to younger guys I sleep with, because it's very, very, VERY important... Women can be sexual AND human at the same time.

See, I've had this happen where I'm hanging out with a guy and everything's going great and we're all cool, maybe a little flirty but everything is awesome. And he talks to me and treats me like an equal. And then we have sex, and suddenly it's like I stop being an actual PERSON. After sex, every conversation is about how sexy I am, how much they liked the sex, how much they want to have sex again, when can we have sex again, etc. Suddenly all those great conversations about our hobbies and interests just kinda disappear and our ENTIRE relationship is JUST about sex. And it sucks. 

Do you have any idea how shitty that feels? I feel like all our good conversations were just lies, like you never actually thought of me as a person in the first place, like my only VALUE to you was sexual. I feel like you don't see me, like I'm invisible to you. I feel like you don't actually want to know who I am.

I can (usually) be taken seriously and have some really good conversations online. I can make friends and learn things and share and whatnot. But the SECOND that I mention that I might not be entirely virginal, I lose my sense of PERSONHOOD.
gpt
You described a good chunk of my experiences. It's like we get reduced down to genitalia and a warm place to masturbate for them. If I don't genuinely intrigue someone for who I am and it's all about what I can offer, I'm turned way off. This is usually the precursor to shitty sex where they have zero desire to get anyone off but themselves. No thanks.