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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
I'm 38. I'm not saying I would never date a 25 year old, but I'm very unlikely to find a 25 year old consistently attractive &amp; interesting enough to *want* to. Somebody 13 years younger than me has a different relationship to politics, media, money, memes, major life events, etc. It's going to be rough fitting in with their friends even if I am not dismissed as a dirty old man, &amp; getting along with family's even worse.

And I tend to find the kind of snap judgment I was prone to in my twenties a major turn-off now, preferring to reserve judgment, wait to hear more, doubt my sources &amp; the depth of my own knowledge, because experience has taught me it's better to get it right than to decide NOW.

Would I think a 25 year old pursuing me was OUTRAGEOUSLY flattering, find that hot as fuck, and be tempted? Sure.

But at the end of the day, I want a partner who has the experience to be able to understand &amp; relate to me. I sometimes have trouble that way with a partner who is 30. A partner who gets that I need naps &amp; may cancel plans due to indigestion. A 25-year old would have to be exceptionally mature &amp; just generally not *feel* 25 for me to be interested.

EDITED TO ADD: for all the older guys that keep coming into this thread telling me why their younger girlfriend is okay: please re-read this post and note that I am 100% talking about my habits and my preferences. I made 0 statements about whether this would be okay or not for anyone else. Please find someone who has actually told you what you should do, and defend yourself to them instead.
gpt
The singer in my band is like 24 and I am almost 50. We don't have much to talk about aside from music. 

She's already married and running a business. When I was her age I needed my father to pay my rent and I paid him because I'd forget. I was completely irresponsible and a total mess. 

I try and teach her about the music business with regards to performance and potential on-stage mishaps (I always get her permission unless she caused the mishap) and she once tried to explain TikTok to me. 

So, if SHE wanted to date a 45 year old, I'd say she is well past being able to make an informed decision. She's absolutely mature enough to handle the weight of dealing with it. 

I just don't know what they'd talk about.