Is "Eating Disorder Projection" Real?  The New York Times
Consults blog answers an odd question today — whether someone
with an eating disorder will sometimes try to keep a spouse fat.
Actually, it's not exactly a question. "Erik" writes,  Back 40
years ago I was married to a woman who secretly threw up after
almost every dinner. (I didn't know to call it bulimia back
then, but I knew about it.) Oddly, she insisted that I eat
heaping meals with her even though I was not bulimic. [...]
[T]he curious thing was, back then, that while my wife was
trying to get or stay thin by vomiting, she was trying to keep
me fat. As she would tell me, "Don't worry about your weight.
I've got it under control." That was the issue.  Consults's Dr.
Katherine Zerbe answers,  I imagine that your wife wanted to be
the thin one in the relationship and disavow any chance of
becoming overweight. You were indeed compensating for your
wife's unconscious wishes to eat and yet stay thin at the same
time by being the one who ate. In compa