, , ,  I was coaching with a really great mom recently and we
were talking about how she is going to help her children through
a crisis which happened in their extended family. We wondered,
how can she help the kids learn to help others who need them?
There are so many times when teens want to be helpful but just
can’t figure out how. For example, when a friend gets in trouble
or is sad or depressed. How about when someone loses a loved one
or suffers a disappointment. There are even times a kid wants to
encourage a sib or pal.  So, this mom spoke about an approach
she’d used teaching school. She calls it, “Looks Like, Sounds
Like, Feels Like.” Wanting kids to learn how to enact complex,
abstract concepts, she asks them, “how would this look? sound?
feel?”  Let’s use “cooperation” as an example. Ask kids,  “How
would cooperation look?” It might look like making eye contact,
nodding your head, getting up from the couch and moving toward
the kitchen.  “How might it sound?” It might sound like, “Okay,
I’m comin