Monday, March 17, 2014 Inquirer Daily News  Tell Me About It: Be
clear with your choices  Communication isn´t just about asking
questions and seeking input. (iStock photo) Communication isn't
just about asking questions and seeking input. (iStock photo)
Question: I wanted to check this disagreement I'm having with my
fiance against a neutral party. Once in a while, I notice a
situation in which his preferences or perspectives might be
different from mine, and when those come up I like to
communicate with him about those preferences and how strong they
are respectively, to figure out the optimal course of action.
He said that was fine, but later expressed that he didn't
understand why I didn't just assume he'd rather I spend the time
with him, and that he'd prefer I sometimes try to anticipate his
desires rather than always asking about them. I feel like this
kind of communication is an integral part of a healthy
relationship, and I'm not really inclined to do less of it and
more guessing. What do you think