Ask the Expert: Baby Showers  Is it against the rules, or just a
superstition?  Print this page Print this page  Question: My
mother-in-law wants to throw me a baby shower. But I heard Jews
don't have baby showers. What should I do? --Sarah, Vancouver
the expertAnswer: Okay Sarah, first this depends on your
relationship with your mother-in-law. Is she a major pain in the
tuchis or do you guys generally get along? If she wants to do
something for you that feels problematic to you, and you feel
like this is a situation where you need to set up boundaries
with her, I would say beg off. Once the kid is born (pooh pooh
pooh) your mother-in-law will probably want to be around all the
time, so if you want distance, best to get it now.   It's true
that in many Jewish communities, baby showers are frowned upon.
Why? Many Jews avoid baby showers (and even avoid purchasing
clothes or furniture for the baby before the baby is born) out
of fear that making a big (or even medium-sized) fuss about an
unborn baby might caus