now what?  (11 Posts) purpleroses Sun 25-Nov-12 09:41:27  Could
work - my DP finds that asking his kids stepdad if he can drop
them off on the odd ocassion (rather than DP doing all the
driving) works much better than involving his ex in it. Very
much depends on the stepdad really - if he's a decent bloke it
could help as he might not be caught up in the emotions of being
an ex-partner that your DP's ex is.  I guess the fear would be
that the ex fuels her partner to have a go at your DP though.
The suggestion above of the PIE chart sounds good. But things
are difficult you really don't need that much communication to
get the basics in place (esp with a 12 year old who can
communicate some things herself). It can be kept purely to the
practicalities of who is having her when.  Simply don't accept
any requests to vary the contact arrangements from DSD herself
without checking it out with the other parent first.  onionlove
Sat 24-Nov-12 22:51:58  i am shaking my head in disbelief as it
has now been decided my d