Broken Hearts  Exploring myths and truths about grief, loss, and
recovery.  Winning the Lottery: Instant Millionaire or Instant
Griever?  Be careful what you pray for.  And the correct answer
is... both!  A huge percentage of the people who win major
lotteries all over the world, lose all the money within three
years. As Yogi Berra once famously said, "You could look it up."
They also wind up in therapies they didn't need before, not to
mention the acquisition of scores of cousins and new best
friends they'd never heard of.  The somewhat surprising fact
that such a positive event can cause enormous grief may be eye-
catching, but we're using it here as an example to help explain
some basic facts about what grief is and what it isn't.  In
order to understand how and why winning the lottery produces
feelings of grief, it's helpful to apply a definition of grief
we use in our books, The Grief Recovery Handbook and When
Children Grieve:  "Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by a
change or end in a familiar pa