  Q: I screwed up and, in a drunken stupor, slept with another
guy. I'm engaged. What do I do? I don't want to loose my fiance.
Do I carry this burden to save his heart or do I clear my
conscience and buckle up for troubled waters? Please help!  A:
Something tells me, deep down, you either don't want to get
married or just aren't ready for it. I have been a drinker.
Hell, I cry teardrops of whisky. But I've come to believe that
alcohol only amplifies desires, weaknesses, and insecurities. I
have woken up hungover in some pretty compromising positions
(it's just a fire escape!)  But in retrospect, those drunken
dramas reflected something deep, down, and dark in me. Namely,
that I was unhappy and looking for something.  If you cheat on
someone after a night of partying, you can't blame the booze.
You have to stop and ask yourself some serious questions.  Now,
I believe in mistakes. They happen. I actually totally believe
that you can screw up, feel terrible about it, and never make
that mistake again. But there