December 11, 2013  Change Without Judgment — Beware: Reasons
Always Win (Part 4)  This is Part 4 of a series called “Change
Without Judgment.” If you have not read Part 1, Part 2, or Part
3, go back and read them now. We’ll wait, and you’ll be glad you
did.  Suppose we get past all those judgments and accusations
and start moving toward the change we want. Does that mean we’ve
put the negativity behind us for good?  Unfortunately, no. In
fact, be warned: the longer we keep moving forward, the more
we’ll hear those judgments again and again. At first, they’re
bombastic and in your face. Over time, they get sneakier,
camouflaging themselves as just plain reasonable and prudent
common sense. Maybe you’ve heard some of those already: “Hasn’t
this gone on long enough?” “Isn’t it about time you gave up this
nonsense and got a real job?” “Haven’t you made your spouse/
family/ friends suffer enough?” Talk about a guilt trip.  I do
an exercise in my workshops where I ask people to list all the
reasons why they can’t h