When your lover tells you're a good friend, it's bad. It
shouldn't be that way really, after all the things that make for
a good friendship all ought to be found in your partner. If you
are lovers and not friends, that ought to suggest a problem.
Unfortunately, most of the time the friendship part of love is
taken for granted, assumed within the context of the deeper
relationship. By both of you. So when your partner says that
you're a true friend, that almost always means they don't want
to love you anymore.  I've heard it many ways. Sometimes it's
sugarcoating for a bad pill. Or an attempt to escape guilt. Once
it was a compliment, for a lover who never wanted me for more
than sex, and discovered I brought her more than a few tasty
orgasms. She had been hurt badly, and when I met her preferred
casual sex to the deeper satisfaction of romance. I've seen that
before in people who have been abused. These people fear forming
real attachments because they don't believe themselves lovable.
No one can hurt you li