Sunday, November 13, 2011  What Defines.  At some point we have
had or will have that one pivotal moment or event in our lives
that plays a major part in the direction our paths take. I've
mentioned mine. When I lost my job at the bank more than two
years ago. It changed my life irreversibly. I was set in a whole
new direction that I never would have taken otherwise.  Recently
I began to wonder. How many of us have had the rug pulled out
from under us? How many of us have had our lives so completely
upended by just one, singular event? It's so easy to let that
one major triumph or defeat consume us. If we're not careful,
that one life changing-event can become the thing that we use to
define ourselves. Too often we get trapped in that moment. We
let what we see as out biggest failure, or or even victory,
define who we are. I know that was how it was for me for a
while.  For a long time I let that one event define me. I let it
cast a shadow over how I saw myself and dealt with others and
with situations. I fel