published Sunday, October 13th, 2013  Baumgardner: There are
ways to prevent infidelity  By Julie Baumgardner  Many marriages
have been rocked by an extramarital affair. Listening to those
interviewed by the media could lead one to believe that, if you
are married, it is inevitable that someone is going to cheat.
According to psychiatrist and author Dr. Scott Haltzman, that is
just not true.  "Affairs are complicated," says Haltzman. "Very
few people actually set out to cheat on their spouse. After
conducting research in this area, I have found that infidelity
has to do with a combination of Need, Opportunity and
Disinhibition, the 'NOD.'"  Need: People often report that it
was the need for respect, sex, validation, attention or an
escape that led them to look outside their marriage to get the
need satisfied.  "I met a sports trainer in California who told
me he had had 20 to 30 affairs with women," says Haltzman. "He
thought he was being helpful, stating he gave them attention,
listened, appreciated what the