Dad's Wife Not Welcome On Trip   October 29, 2009|AMY DICKINSON
ASK AMY  Dear Amy: My brother and I are planning a vacation with
our families in the coming months.  My dad's wife got wind of
our trip and is asking about where we are staying, etc.  We
would love for our dad to come, but his wife drives us crazy.
She's so selfish.  I don't really think my dad wants to come
along on our vacation (he has had melanoma and is not good in
the heat), but she wants to go and is pressing him to come.  How
do I nicely tell my dad that we would love for him to come - but
not his wife? - Doting Daughter  Dear Doting: You say you
believe your father wouldn't even enjoy this vacation, and yet
you'd like to invite him to come with you, as long as he leaves
his wife at home.  Married people don't generally accept family
invitations that don't include their spouses. It isn't necessary
for you to invite your father and his wife to come along on this
vacation, but you certainly shouldn't only invite one.  Dear
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