"He was just kind of left by himself," a friend of Richard Shoop
commented to reporters.  I never met Shoop, but I nearly ran
into him at a Nordstrom in Paramus, N.J. He had just shot a
rifle in the air there, starting a mass panic and police
lockdown that ended in Shoop committing suicide. Like every
other customer and worker in the mall at the time of the
incident, I'm unharmed -- Shoop evidently wasn't prepared to
hurt anyone but himself. I just can't get Shoop off my mind.
Based on the media testimony of family and friends, Shoop seemed
like he was trying to be functional. He went to work and lived
his life. But he would fall into addiction, violence and
confusion. And he's not alone.  In her book "Men on Strike," Dr.
Helen Smith writes that in 2010, more than 38,000 people killed
themselves in the United States -- more than 30,000 of them men.
Why would Shoop choose to terrorize a mall before taking his own
life? Perhaps because we don't notice people until they do
something really crazy.  "People care