Dear Abby: This is my wife's second marriage. When we were
dating, she led me to believe I was the second sexual partner
she ever had. Shortly after our wedding, I found out through
mutual acquaintances that she had been promiscuous during her
college years, and the number of men she has been with is far
greater than two.  I feel lied to and trapped in my marriage. If
I had known this, I would not have married her. She knows I
know. She dismissed it by saying the past doesn't matter, but
what she fails to recognize is that it matters to me. I can't
help but wonder if she has lied to me about something this
important, what else will she lie to me about?  I love her and
want to stay with her, but I feel betrayed and embarrassed by
her now. What do I do?  -- Confounded  Dear Confounded: People
lie when they feel threatened, when they want to impress someone
or when they're ashamed of something. The lie your wife told you
may fall into the latter category. She wasn't honest about the
number of men she had been wi