Friday, February 25, 2011   The DTR (“Define the Relationship”):
that often awkward, nervous-sweat-inducing but necessary
conversation that every couple must have (besides perhaps an
arranged marriage). How many dates must pass before the talk?
What’s the best way to do it? What if they’re not feeling the
same way and the DTR causes a premature end to your (or their)
live-in-the-now happiness?  When to DTR: This varies from
relationship to relationship, so instead of following some
arbitrary timeline, do it when it feels right. The DTR should
happen when you start feeling ready to take things to the next
level. If you’re feeling excited about them and want to see what
happens in an exclusive setting, bring it up.  The other
situation in which to DTR is if you’re getting the impression
that they’re way more into you than you are into them (and/or
feel like maybe they’re thinking exclusivity when you’re not).
Put yourself in their shoes and treat them well, even if you
think their assumptions about your relatio