Dear Amy: My mother has two sisters. She has had multiple
falling outs with them over the past decade or so. It has gotten
to the point where I don't even know what they're fighting about
or why there is still so much tension between them. I don't know
why these two siblings feel the need to ignore and ridicule my
mother.  The thing is, while I don't condone their behavior, I
do miss them. I would like my mother's side of the family to be
a unit. I miss having family members to spend time with. I miss
seeing my younger cousins grow up. It makes me sad that my
siblings and I are getting married and having kids and my aunts
are missing out on these events.  I'm not quite sure if they'll
ever change their ways because they have been quite nasty in the
past, but sometimes I just want to reach out and ask them why.
Why do they want to be so mean and distant? Do they even miss
us? Do they have any desire to work things out?  In a situation
like this, is it wise to reach out when things have been so
toxic in the pas