Ask Amy  Build a bridge to distant grandmother  May 09, 2009|By
Amy Dickinson  Dear Amy: I've never been close to my
grandmother. When I was young, we would visit out of obligation,
but she and my grandfather never liked children much, so the
trips were unpleasant.  As I grew up, I stopped pretending to
enjoy their company and limited my visits to family functions.
Now that I'm an adult and have two small children of my own, my
grandmother wants to visit with them. She lives only about two
hours away by car, but no longer drives, so lately she has been
asking me to bring my children up to see her.  Amy, I have no
relationship with my grandmother and absolutely no desire to
spend any time with her. She made little effort to be a part of
my life.  My kids have no idea who she is. The only thing they
would get out of the visit would be a day in the car. Should I
be made to feel guilty because I don't feel the need to take my
children to see her?  -- Not Feeling Guilty in L.A.  Dear Not
Guilty: There are times i