Time for me to get serious, sort of. Sometimes when you're
dating someone new--especially when you've been burned in the
past--it's hard to leave the six-piece Louis Vuitton set of
emotional baggage behind. But really, you gotta.   OK. On the
bright side, self-sabotaging is a "smart person" problem. You
overthink everything, even your brunch order. That's (mostly) a
good personality trait. But when it comes to a burgeoning maybe-
relationship, overthinking is kind of the kiss of death.  1.
Don't immediately lay all your emotional sh*t on him--the whole
"I've been hurt before" shebang, I mean. Even if he's a good
guy, any rational, healthy person would be overwhelmed by that
right away. Instead, send each other stupid YouTube videos.
(Really stupid, like "people falling down" stupid.) Keep it
light.  2. Don't panic. Don't overtext--you're worth the chase.
Also, you're busy as balls, man! You have friends to hang out
with, yoga to do and a career ladder to climb, otherwise known
as "a life." Don't forget that.