Dear Abby: I'm a dad in my 30s. I have been battling anger
issues since I was a kid. I have been finding myself getting
more and more worked up with my children. When they misbehave, I
lose it and yell at them. It is the way I was raised, but I feel
even worse afterward.  I want to break this habit. I don't want
the only memories my children have of me to be images of my red
face and bugged-out eyes hollering at them. How do I begin?  --
Loud Dad     There are healthy ways of dealing with anger and
frustration.   Developing the control to express emotions
verbally without being abusive or calling names is one of them.
Leaving the room or going for a walk or short run also can be
helpful.  Unhealthy ways that should be avoided include getting
into your car when you are angry or using alcohol or drugs to
calm you.  I hope some of these techniques work. If they don't,
you should talk with a mental health professional. It's
important to get a handle on your feelings so your children
won't grow up thinking that ve