How To Accept A ComplimentS  Kate Harding points out a skill
that often escapes even the most accomplished women: accepting
compliments without self-deprecation. So how to acknowledge your
awesomeness without being an ass?  Of course, taking a
compliment well can be a delicate thing for men too. But women
especially are socialized not to toot our own horns, and in our
unwillingness to do so, we sometimes unintentionally reinforce
the idea that women shouldn't be proud of what they do. Harding
writes about her friend, who responded to a compliment on her
music thus: "Thanks. Yeah, I like to think I'm good at what I
do. I could act all self-deprecating, but it is, you know… what
I do." Harding was initially surprised, but then realized "that
what just happened was unusual and very cool: Two women had just
had a conversation in which they admitted out loud that they
were good at something, without feeling the need to qualify it
with a bunch of stuff about how they're not as good as they
could be, or how other pe