  by Gena Kaufman  Kate Powers Kate Powers A reader recently
wrote to ask me if she should turn down a guy she thought was
really great but wasn't physically attracted to, and if so, how
should she do it without being too harsh? For the first part of
her question, I'm including links to past discussions of the
issue at the end of this post.  But I've contemplated the
dilemma of how to turn a guy down without being awkward or plain
old cruel a few times myself, so I consulted some men in my
circle of acquaintances for their take on the issue. If they
have to be rejected--sorry guys!--what's the way they'd prefer
it to happen? Here are three ways to do it:  See more: 11 Dating
Don'ts You Should Stop Doing Now  Just say no. Not to bring up
'80s anti-drug slogans into the conversation, but sometimes, the
simplest answer is the easiest to stick to. In fact, it was the
most common response from the guys I informally surveyed. It's
hard to come right out and say it, and sure, it probably doesn't
feel great to hear,