Speak up and have a better vacation  Posted: Sunday, June 03,
2007   The secluded beach looks like heaven to you, but your
teenager pronounces it creepy and heads instead for the pool.
Your partner wants to have sex immediately after tipping the
bellhop, and you just want to sleep for two days.  Welcome to
vacation dysphoria. It's not a destination; it's a state of
mind, and you know you've arrived when you look at your beloved
travel companion and ask, "Who is this person, anyway?"
Although there are many known causes of vacation dysphoria,
psychologists and couples therapists say that among the most
common is the unexpected discovery that travel companions - so
compatible amid the comforts of home - seem to have nothing in
common when on the road. It is a complaint often heard, with
myriad common variants. The lingering symptoms - conflict,
disappointment and regret - can provide grist for therapy
sessions long after the suitcases have been stowed and the
credit card bill paid.  "You always hear this stuff