  Let Your Children Raise Their Kids  When Sophie, a loving
grandmother of two, complained to her adult son in front of the
children that he was being too lenient with the boys, she was
told to stop interfering.  On a weekend sleepover at his
grandparents' house, 8-year-old Zack refused to go to bed. He
insisted he be allowed to stay up past 10 p.m., because that was
his bedtime at home.  Whether you're caring for your children's
children after school, on weekends or during holidays, being a
grandparent can be rewarding and satisfying. But when it comes
to disciplining grandchildren or disagreeing with parents,
tensions can run high.  "Today's grandparents are an important
resource for parents and grandchildren," says Amy Goyer,
coordinator of AARP's Grandparent Information Center. "Learning
to handle family conflict is an important part of good
grandparenting."  So who's in charge, the parent or grandparent?
Experts say it's the parent's job to parent unless grandparents
are told otherwise.  "The grandparent