  "I would rather have spent my life with your father than had
you"  (63 Posts) newrhythmics Fri 16-Nov-12 14:18:24  I'm not
really sure why I'm starting this thread. I suppose I'd like to
hear people's reactions to this comment, which was made by my
mother to me a couple of years ago. At the time, I had no DC of
my own- but I still found it puzzling. Then I had DD, and I
found it harder to understand. And now I'm about to give birth
to DC2 and it's haunting me again.  There's no real context,
except to say I was having dinner with my parents (happily
married for 40 years) and we were discussing a friend of mine
whose long-term relationship had collapsed when (both in their
mid to late 30s) her DP had confirmed that he most definitely
did not want to have children- and nothing would change his
mind. As my friend most definitely did want children, she felt
she had no choice but to move on. My mother said she couldn't
understand this at all, and "would much rather have spent her
life with my father than had me