Q My wife and I have talked about divorce for years. Now that
our kids are 13 and 14, we really do not agree on parenting and
we are thinking about making the break, but we wonder if we
shouldn't wait until the younger is 18 and off to college.  A
Battling parents often ask us what we think about waiting 'for
the kids' sake,' and we will tell you what kids have told us:
Most kids, no matter their age, vote against their parents'
breakup. The exception: When one parent has been subjected to
violence, addiction or mental illness.  Older kids understand
infidelity as a reason, but younger kids have no concept of
infidelity, so discussing it with them as a reason for the
breakup just confuses an already confused child.  Don't bet
waiting will make it easier on your kids. Eighteen is only a
number arbitrarily assigned to adulthood — many kids really
struggle with the changes associated with taking the next step
after graduating from high school.  Many kids have told us
stories of desperation the first time they re