Send to Friend  Bookmark  Print  Keeping Kosher and Keeping It
Real  April 13, 2009  My husband and I did not find one another
until our late 30s. While I sometimes pine for the years we
might have spent together, there were also advantages to meeting
relatively late in life. We entered the relationship with a
tacit understanding that we would not try to change one another.
Instead, we focused our energy on merging our lives
harmoniously, and sometimes creatively, while preserving our
individual identities. Sometimes this was easy--we re-
alphabetized our shared CD collection and gave away the
duplicates. Sometimes we voluntarily relinquished old habits--I
stopped listening to the radio at bedtime, and he stopped
playing the accordion while watching TV.  Even in matters of
religion, compromise wasn't challenging. Keith had given up
Catholicism long before he met me, and as a world traveler and
geographer, had a cultural anthropologist's affection for all
things traditional and seemingly exotic. (A response car