Lesley Arfin is the kickass author of "Dear Diary" a longtime
contributor to Vice magazine and one of the raddest girls we
know. So it makes sense that we'd go to her for advice. Got a
question about love, relationships or that burning sensation?
Q: I've been with the same guy for 12 years and have always
respected the relationship. I've found evidence where he hasn't
been faithful, yet when confronted, he lies. How can I truly
catch him without going overboard? He works out of town
regularly, and I'm sure his male co-workers will cover for him.
--- Signed, Scorned.  Dear Scorned,  Thanks for writing. I'm
glad you asked, although I do have some follow-ups questions.
First, what is the evidence you found? Is it proof? Because if
it is, then you have caught him. Second, if you know he's lying,
why do you need to make him tell the truth? Not only is he a
cheater, he's also a liar.  I mean, look, 12 years is a long
time. If you can't call him out on his bullshit now then I think
the situation has more to do with