Skip to main content  Why telling bullying victims to 'just
fight back' doesn't work  By Carrie Goldman, Special to CNN
updated 12:35 PM EDT, Wed October 31, 2012 A bully may back off
when his target fights back, but will he learn a lesson?   •
Telling bullied kids to fight back is the wrong advice, says
Carrie Goldman   • Fighting back creates a cycle of bullying
that doesn't end when school is over   • Asking bullied kids to
conform to others' expectations can harm their self-esteem,
Goldman says   • The answer is to educate bullies about
compassion and consequences  Editor's note: Carrie Goldman is
the author of Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs
to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear. Follow her on Facebook
or Twitter.  (CNN) -- Fall is upon us, and that means the school
year is in full swing. Along with the stress of homework
assignments and extracurricular activities, unfortunately some
students bear an additional burden -- bullying. October is
National Bullying Prevention Awareness Mont