Polyamory.com Forum  -   -   Joy and frustration part 2
(http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=22752)  learner
03-31-2012 11:06 AM  Joy and frustration part 2 Hi all,  I
posted this nearer the start of my first polyamorous
relationship. Unfortunately since then the situation has become
more difficult with my metamour, and I have nearly ended my
'secondary' relationship twice because of it.  I have become
fairly convinced that my metamour is a narcissist, but my
boyfriend doesn't see it, and we end up having difficult
conversations because of the way he panders to her every need,
sometimes at the expense of mine. He says he appreciates the
fact that I am 'easier' but to me it doesn't feel that he does.
Today I have come to the startling realisation that part of the
problem is that he is not a victim of her narcissism, I am! So
no wonder I am feeling so ill at ease about everything. I
recognise that this is largely my fault as I am allowing the way
she is to affect me and potentially even encouraging