Hi everyone  I've been with my partner for 8 years now, he is a
survivour. We've had lots of ups and downs, the real downs are
always caused by him struggling with his demons and not being
able to deal with them. There are only 2 other close friends
that know what he has been through and he is adamant he doesn't
want anyone else to know. He tried a counsellor once and she was
totally not interested in helping him, we made a complaint
against her but this completely destroyed what little confidence
he had in counselling. I'm now at the stage where I'm not
prepared to live with his outbursts where he totally loses
control and is emotionally very cruel. I've told him he has 2
choices, seek help or leave. My question is, am I wrong to put
pressure on him and is it a waste of time if he is doing it for
the wrong reasons?