The Policy of Undivided Attention  Before you were married,
spending time alone with each other was your highest priority.
You probably spent the majority of your leisure time together,
and the time you spent together was probably the most enjoyable
part of every week.  You tried to talk to each other every day.
If you couldn't be with each other face-to-face, you talked on
the telephone, maybe for hours. And when you were together, you
gave each other your undivided attention.  But after marriage,
like so many other couples, you may find that you can be in the
same room together and yet ignore each other emotionally. What's
even worse, you may find that you are not even in the same room
together very often, particularly after your children arrived.
One of the more difficult aspects of marriage counseling is
scheduling time for it. The counselor must often work evenings
and weekends because most couples will not give up work for
their appointments. Then the counselor must schedule around a
host of evening an