freya_280Old people don’t just fear illness but also, and
especially, invisibility. Living in a youth-crazed society the
elderly are often stigmatised as sick, weak, or poor. The
thought of old people as active, emotional and sexual human
beings rarely crosses our minds. The idea of learning from
elders is increasingly abandoned and aging citizens continue to
be marginalised. What happened to the times when the old were
the wise and taught the young about life? Having so little
knowledge about the elderly, I went to retirement communities to
find out more. “If you are lucky, you get old” comprises of the
stories of the elderly people I met and spent time with. To my
surprise, the old people were not just proud of their age and
the fact that they made it to this point in their lives, they
were also still falling in love and breaking up. They were
overcoming their lifetime partner’s death, living out their
erotic fantasies or dealing with the loss of their sexual
desire. Talking to them showed that inner growth