Q: I have been married for eight years. I met my husband 11
years ago, and I was on birth control pills. After having two
kids and having my hormones go back to normal without any drugs,
I found that the scent of my husband was not pleasing. I read an
article indicating that the pill can shut off certain senses,
including smelling out a potential mate. In any case, I find
myself not attracted to my husband, even if he wears cologne.
He is a good father and husband, but the relationship lacks in
the bedroom. We've tried to spice it up, but it just comes back
to no romance on his part. Any advice you can give a married
couple? Is this normal?  A: My guess is that your sexual
problems have more to do with your relationship and that these
issues are symptoms rather than the cause. Your desire for more
romance shows that your relationship needs work.  You really
must have a serious conversation with your husband. You might
need some professional guidance from a therapist, but first try
to talk to him on your own.