   Should I end the relationship? I think in some way if I do,
I'll be better off without him. But after 11 years and all that
he has done for me, I'd feel really sad.  -- Frustrated in
Minneapolis  Dear Frustrated: Although I'm sure Harold has many
virtues, sensitivity and discretion do not appear to be among
them. It would be interesting to know if he would be willing to
marry you if your FICO score improved, or if he's using it as an
excuse because he doesn't want a legal commitment.   Couples
counseling could help you decide what to do. Inquire at your
nearest gay/ lesbian community center about seminars it offers
for longtime couples on this subject. Just because people can
marry doesn't necessarily mean they should.  Dear Abby: "Jesse,"
my boyfriend of two years, has suddenly changed. He's pushing me
away. We are both 17 and have a 9-month-old baby.  Jesse spent
the first six months of our son's life in state custody. Since
he has been back, he ignores me and isn't affectionate. When I
get upset about i