DEAR AMY: Our daughter is 45 years old. She has never been
married or lived with a man. She has a conservative demeanor.
One month ago, she met a divorced man her age. He has two
adolescent daughters. They seem in an unreasonable haste to get
married.  Our concerns are many. He is a laborer, and she is a
gifted classical musician and has done well in her life. She
owns her house free and clear. We worry about her having to
bring up two girls of a broken home (the parents share custody).
We also worry about the difference in social standing between
them (although we respect any hardworking person). We advise her
to look for a more compatible mate, but she will not listen.
What is your advice on this situation? What would be a
reasonable time span for getting to know each other before
deciding you want to get married?  Worried Parents  DEAR
WORRIED: At 45, your daughter is old enough to make up her own
mind about the life she wants to live -- and with whom she wants
to live it. Love has no timetable, and some