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instead of always asking your fiance to make the call  CAROLYN
HA, Seattle Post-Intelligencer Updated 12:45 pm, Wednesday,
December 4, 2013 Larger | Smaller Email This Page 1 of 1  Hi,
Carolyn:  I wanted to check this disagreement I'm having with my
fiance against a neutral third party.     He said that was fine,
but later expressed that he didn't understand why I didn't just
assume he'd rather I spend the time with him, and that in
general he'd prefer I sometimes try to anticipate his desires
rather than always asking about them. I feel like this kind of
communication is an integral part of a healthy relationship, and
I'm not really inclined to do less of it and more guessing. What
do you think?  -- Communicating    But there's more to it than
that. By running your conflict by him as you did, you basically
assigned the Thursday night decision to him without taking any
position of your own