Wednesday, January 13, 2010  Response to another postdoc having
a hard time  This conversation began as a comment two posts ago,
so I am including that here.  At 10:27 PM, Anonymous said...
Dear YFS,   And I totally misunderstood, so this is what I
wrote:    Fortunately for all of us, Anon wrote back and
patiently told me I had it all wrong:  HI Ms PhD,     Anon
10:27,  Well, thanks for clarifying, and sorry I misunderstood.
I think(?) I understand a little better now.  Now I think this
sounds more like a personal question than a career question.  I
have to wonder if your SO understands how hard it is to get a
"permanent" job in this business, and whether you do?  You
really have to be willing to give up everything else and drag
your SO with you if necessary. Would you? Are you?  If you
really thought you wanted to have your own lab, did you not
discuss that this was your top priority, and how everything else
would have to come second? Do you think that now? Can you have
that talk now?  Because truthfully th