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Much Distance  You're both so busy with work, the kids, and your
own interests that you can go for days without having a real
conversation. And bedtime? That's strictly for sleeping, thanks.
What's the problem? When you eliminate quality time from your
marriage, you risk getting too casual about your relationship --
or worse, assuming that you don't need to work on it anymore.
Too much of this for too long and you could wake up one day and
not even remember why you married each other. "People respond to
detachment by pulling back themselves," says Kirshenbaum. "And
things just go downhill."  Cleanup time: People also respond in
kind to respect and niceness. So cut out distractions and use
the time to reconnect. You can't miss your kids' games, but you
can share a pizza in the stands or sneak away for a short walk.
If you've fallen into the habit of zoning out in front of the TV
every night, turn it off for at least 20 minutes and talk or do
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