Ask E. Jean: He's Giving Too Much of Himself  My philanthropic
boyfriend is cheating  Gregg Delman  Dear E. Jean: I've donated
at least $400 to Haitian relief, volunteered with local
organizations to amass food, and been hard at work on a Haiti
fundraiser, so I feel silly asking this question. The doctor
I've been seeing went to Haiti to help after the earthquake.
Once there, he never called, and I waited a long time for his
e-mails. So the other night, I decided to call him to see how he
was doing, and boy did I see how he was doing.  It turns out
that he must have accidentally punched a button on his phone
with his hand or something, because I heard him and another
woman having sex—very loudly. It was horrifying and hurtful.
Though I know we're merely "seeing" each other and not in a
committed relationship, I feel possessive of him. He's coming
home soon, and we'll be working together on the fundraiser.
Should I take this as a sign to leave him before I get into more
trouble?—Dazed and Confused  Dazed, my d