How Tandem Biking Changed My Marriage  Being independent is
great. But sometimes, giving up some control in a relationship
can make you stronger—and closer, too.   Going Along for the
Ride  My husband and I could never exercise together. I’m a
runner, and Dan’s knees can’t take the pounding. He’s a cyclist,
and I’m a traffic wimp. Most weekends, I’d go for a steady
7-mile run and he would cycle for four hours, returning too
exhausted to do anything other than eat take-out food on the
sofa. (So much for our Saturday nights.) I knew I should support
his commitment to fitness, but I couldn’t help but feel that if
he really wanted to be with me, he wouldn’t be sacrificing our
precious weekend time. I never said anything, but we would
inevitably spend those evenings quiet and careful with each
other, as if we had been fighting. I guess we could have
smoothed things over by skipping our respective workouts, but
both of us had been married before, and we had learned the hard
way that you can sacrifice too much in th