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to cope on the ball field  By Julie Christie, May 7, 2013 --
Updated 1827 GMT (0227 HKT) Parents are key to cultivating a
young athlete's ability to cope when the game doesn't go his
way.   • Soccer referee Ricardo Portillo died after being
assaulted on the field   • Julie Christie's father refereed and
coached her as a young fiery athlete   • Christie recognizes her
own perfectionism and temper in her daughter   • A sports
psychologist says parents must mirror good behaviors for
children  ( -- It wasn't until soccer referee Ricardo Portillo
died that I started to really think about what happened there,
and not just because I grew up on the field myself.  Like
Portillo, my father was a volunteer referee. He was my coach for
years in the town league. When I grew up and moved on, he missed
those days of camaraderie and competition. He missed supporting
kids and being a part of their development, teaching them to
love the game, to deal appropriatel