  Don't want kids but wife does - is divorce the only solution?
(290 Posts) justthisguy31 Sun 29-Sep-13 20:34:10  I'm a bloke,
aged 31, married to a clever, beautiful, successful woman who
loves me, but I'm starting to think we should get a divorce. She
seems firmly set on having a baby, and the idea of parenthood
scares me stupid. I know how much hard work it is, as the oldest
of a big family, and I still have so many other things to do in
my life that will be hard or impossible with a child.  We have
had the argument, several times, and then talked about it for
real, and finally agreed a compromise. If she still wants a baby
when I turn 38 (she is 6 months younger btw), we'll do our best
to have one. That gives me time to build a better career and
save some money, and both of us some years together as a couple,
to have fun before we have to live just for someone else.  Are
we just kicking the can down the road though?  I wasted time in
my 20s on bad ideas and dead end jobs, and it took me until last
year t