instruction: hello doctor I am in love with a girl who already got married four years back she was in my relation so we have some common relatives and nowadays we are meeting frequency and I am feeling the same thing about her in my heart which was there years back
output: hi welcome to icliniq com first of all we need to understand that this not something which is unusual we all come across with past experiences and associate with them on certain occasions if those past experiences were pleasurable one that there is innate wish to re experience them and same is applicable for you it can be said that this is normal to have fantasy to love and loved by someone who was very close to you however we need to keep track of society and changes that took place over the last four years since she is married it will be completely wrong for her to get associated with you in any romantic relationship since you love her there is a good chance you will not push her in trouble in case you push her in some different way that too create problems for her as well as you at this stage it is important to do following minimise the interaction with her through common friends and relatives if possible avoid meeting her completely engage yourself with productive work do not allow your brain to wander here and there get married or in relationship if still single this is most important part as other romantic relationship will distract you to the core needs of life and will also allow you to understand her situation acknowledge that this is common emotion and you will try your level best to overcome it discuss with your best friends about the situation and moral dilemmas if possible