One character in this work claims that common sense is lost on those who are "too much of a man or too much of a woman."  The protagonist's father, his lover's husband, and his father's former mistress all once owned a black bowl that spurred the protagonist to lose his virginity to a woman twenty year older than him.  The 
One character in this work claims that common sense is lost on those who are "too much of a man or too much of a woman."  The protagonist's father, his lover's husband, and his father's former mistress all once owned a black bowl that spurred the protagonist to lose his virginity to a woman twenty year older than him.  The protagonist decides that Yukiko is an auspicious match for him because of a bundled kerchief designed with the titular pattern, and this novel begins in Kamakura at the Engakuji Temple.  FTP, name this novel whose protagonist is the bachelor Kikuji Mitani, a work that centers on the traditional Japanese tea ceremony by Yasunari Kawabata.
One character in this work claims that common sense is lost on those who are "too much of a man or too much of a woman."  
{Thousand Cranes} or {Sembazuru} (2) [AH]