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Hello Everyone,

Our identity emerges out of our habits. You are not born with preset beliefs. Every belief, including those about yourself, is learned and conditioned through experience.  More precisely, your habits are how you embody your identity. For example :- When you make your bed each day, you embody the identity of an organized person. When you write each day, you embody the identity of a creative person. When you train each day, you embody the identity of an athletic person.

The more you repeat a behaviour, the more you reinforce the identity associated with that behavior.

In fact, the word identity was originally derived from the Latin words essentitas, which means being, and, identidem, which means repeatedly. Your identity is literally your “repeated conduct”. Whatever your identity is right now, you only believe it because you have proof of it. Let me give you some convincing examples :- If you go to church or Temple every Sunday for twenty years, you have evidence that you are religious. If you study biology for one hour every night, you have evidence that you are studious. If you go to the gym even when it’s snowing, you have evidence that you are committed to fitness. The more evidence you have for a belief, the more strongly you will believe it.

For most of my early life, I didn’t consider myself a blogger and Life skill coach. If you were to ask any of my school teachers or college professors, or colleagues, they would tell you that I was just a regular guy: certainly not a standout. When I began my writings , I published a new article every week and gradually increase its frequency in various others forms like my Newsletter letter ( Sunday Retazo) . As the evidence grew, so did my identity as a blogger and a writer on productivity and cerebral happiness. I didn’t start out as a writer. I became a one through my habits.


Every action you take is a kind of vote for the type of person you wish to become. If you finish a book, then perhaps you are the type of person who likes reading. If you go to the gym, then perhaps you are the type of person who likes exercise. If you practice playing the guitar, perhaps you are the type of person who likes music. Each habit is like a suggestion to yourself: “Hey, maybe this is who I am.”



If a change is meaningful, it actually is big. That’s the paradox of making small improvements. Putting this all together, you can see that habits are the path to changing your identity.





This is why I am a great advocate of starting with incredibly small actions (small votes still count!) and building consistency. Use the 2-Minute Rule to get started. New identities require new evidence. If you keep casting the same kind of votes you’ve always casted, you’re going to get the same results you’ve always had.

The thumb rule is :- If nothing changes, nothing is going to change.


Get in touch… — JOE’s LIFE SKILLS LAB/Joe Sehrawat


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