

TipsForSuccess: A Major Source of Stress with a Simple Solution


A Major Source of Stress with a Simple Solution

"It could be said that there are introverted personalities and extroverted personalities. An extroverted personality is one who is capable of looking around the environment. An introverted personality is only capable of looking inward at himself." -- L. Ron Hubbard from The Problems of Work

If you are introverted, your world is very small. It includes you and your immediate surroundings, but not much more. Most of your attention is on yourself.


If you are extroverted, your world is very large. You see everyone around you. You can better understand what is happening in your family, your group and your community. Your attention is out and away from yourself.


This is how you might get introverted.


* You read papers and reports at work, then go home and read newspapers and books.


* You stare at a computer screen all day, then go home and stare at a TV screen all night.


* You give instructions or orders at work, then go home and drive your spouse and kids crazy with instructions or orders.


When you are introverted, you feel stressed. You cannot sleep well. You are on edge.


This explains why vacations are so much fun! Before the vacation, your attention is focused inward. You feel exhausted, mentally drained and overwhelmed. You then travel to a new location and look at mountains, buildings or oceans, for a change. Your attention goes outward and you become extroverted.


Fortunately, you can get extroverted any time you like, without the time or cost of a vacation.


A Simple Solution


Whenever you feel introverted, take a few minutes to move your attention outward by taking a walk.


"When one feels tired on finishing his work, no matter if the thought of doing so is almost all that he can tolerate without falling through the floor, he should go out and walk around the block until he feels rested." -- L. Ron Hubbard


For example, instead coming home from work and continuing to read papers or watch a screen like you have been doing all day, take a walk and you'll feel refreshed and happy.


Do you ever feel too tired to sleep? Take a walk and you'll feel relaxed and sleepy.


Can't get your mind off your problems or a fear? Take a walk and get extroverted. Your problems or fears become easier to deal with.


Give it a try! Walk around your neighborhood or a park. Feel the air, look at the sky, listen to the birds, wake up your senses, focus on the present. Take this mini-vacation until you feel relaxed and optimistic.


If you cannot get outside, walk around your home or yard. Touch and feel the textures of objects. Find something new to look at. Keep putting your attention on your surroundings until you extrovert.


When you are extroverted, you think more clearly. You treat people more rationally. You feel relaxed and in control.


To succeed you need to be extroverted. So take a walk!




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FW: TipsForSuccess: What the Universe Gives to You



What the Universe Gives to You

Where do you spend your energy?


Do you use it arguing or yelling? Surfing the web? Watching television?


Or do you spend your energy getting more work done? Helping people? Learning new things?


"That which a person works hardest on, he winds up having. That's one of the fundamentals of this universe. That to which he devotes energy, he finally has." -- L. Ron Hubbard


For example, if you spend your energy on parties or sporting events, you end with memories of parties or sporting events. If you work hardest at ruining your enemies, you end with enemies who are ruined. If you spend your energy worrying about being poor, you end up with more worry and less money.


If, however, you spend that same energy doing something that makes you money, you end up with more money. If you spend your time finding a spouse, you get a spouse. If you spend your energy learning new skills, you have new skills.


So how do you spend your energy? On what do you work the hardest? That is what you have. Make sense?




Use this powerful idea to get what you want from life.


1. Write down three things you want. Do you want a successful business? Love? A healthier body? More intelligence? Happiness?


2. Devote your energy to those things. Work hardest on those above all others. Devote yourself to getting these three things.


3. Don't be too surprised when you get them!




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TipsForSuccess: How to Handle Bullies, Complainers, Critics and Whiners



How to Handle Bullies, Complainers, Critics and Whiners

A big jerk at your work place is demanding you do part of his job without pay or credit. How do you handle it?


Your neighbors wake you up in the middle of most nights with screams and curses. What do you say to them?


Your father constantly criticizes your work and tells you what you should do. How do you deal with him?


Difficult people are part of everyone's life. Employers and employees can't get along. Partners clash over money. Spouses cannot resolve disagreements.


If you ignore these situations, they get worse. Employees get fired, partnerships and marriages break up, everyone is miserable.


If you attack the person, at least you are trying to fix the problem. However, anger gives you a bad name, makes people afraid of you and prevents honest communication.


Prepare to Succeed




By getting organized and working out a plan of action, handling people becomes much easier. The following seven steps can help you handle the difficult people in your life.


1. Make the decision to face up to the person directly and by yourself.


2. Write down the exact problem you need to handle and your goal for the confrontation.


Examples: "Joe is refusing to pay me despite our agreement." "Chris drives me crazy with her continual complaining." "Bob may be telling people that my work is inferior and I am dishonest."


3. Write down a goal for the meeting. "By the end of the meeting, I want . . . ."

Examples: "Joe pays me in full." "Chris stops complaining or leaves." "Learn the truth about Bob's comments and if true, get him to stop it." "Decide if I want this person as a friend."


4. List the of points you need to make to support your goal: facts, reasons and explanations you may need the other person to understand.


For example, to get Joe to understand why he must pay you, you might make these points: A.) Joe requested the service. B.) Joe signed an agreement to pay for the service. C.) We provided the service as promised. D.) Joe was happy with the service.


5. Write down objections, reactions or disagreements the other person may have. Include everything you are afraid might happen during the meeting. Putting specific concerns and fears in writing reduces their impact on you.


For each objection, reaction or disagreement you expect will happen, write a solution of how you will deal with each.


6. Arrange the meeting where you will not be disturbed, preferably in a space you control.


7. Start the meeting. Look the person directly in the eye. Explain the specific problem you want to resolve as you noted in Step 2. Go over your first point on the list from Step 4.


Listen carefully to the other person and make certain they feel understood. Hold a position on your points. Use your solutions to their reactions that you worked out in Step 5.


Continue describing your points from Step 4. Keep listening to the person's side and look for solutions.


Do not give up. Communicate and persist for as long as it takes to reach your goal.


The more frequently you confront and handle difficult people, the easier it becomes. The amount of time it takes to prepare for a confrontation decreases. You become strong and tough.


When you confront and handle everyone around you, people respect you for your courage, your honesty and your control. Your associates, employees or coworkers follow your example and become more productive. Your enemies either become harmless or become friends.


Taking positive organized action, despite fear, is the kind of courage all successful people must have to succeed.




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TipsForSuccess: How to Be a Leader


How to Be a Leader


You are a leader, even if not officially. People follow your example, learn from you, want to know your opinions and so on. Constantly improving your leadership skills is essential to your success.


Most people have the wrong idea about leadership. For example, car salesman Jim was promoted to the Sales Manager position. During his first week as manager, he decided to show everyone who was boss.


Jim cracked the whip. He held a meeting and told the other sales people, "I want 10 cars sold today or someone will get fired!"


The sales people ran around looking busy and avoiding Jim. Everyone tried to force customers to buy cars, but car sales dropped.


Jim yelled even louder. "You can't sell cars by pressuring customers, you idiots! Now get out there and sell these stupid cars!"


After a month of this, his two best sales people quit. Sales dropped even further.


Jim said, "I can't believe this! What am I doing wrong?"


Five Bad Leadership Attitudes


Like many new managers, Jim had these five wrong ideas:


1. "Because I'm the manager, you better respect me . . . or else!"

2. "People are lazy; I have to force them to work."

3. "Because I'm the boss, I can do anything I want."

4. "If you work for me, you need to kiss my butt."

5. "If you don't like how I run things, you can leave."


Because of these attitudes, Jim's sales people were selling fewer cars and looking for other jobs. If Jim did not change his attitude, he would also be looking for a new job soon.


Just in time, Jim learned this vital fact about management.


A Key to Leadership Success


"I believe that to command is to serve and only gives one the right to serve." -- L. Ron Hubbard


At first Jim said, "What? I'm supposed to serve others? How ridiculous!"


But then he thought it through and a lightbulb above his head flashed on.


"If I SERVE my staff members by teaching them about sales and cars, they know how to sell better."


"If I SERVE my staff members with kindness and courtesy, they will treat customers better!"


"If I'm here to SERVE my team, I don't force them to make sales, I help them make sales."


A New Day


The next morning, Jim brought in a box of chocolate doughnuts for the sales staff and said, "Today is a new day! This may be a shock to you, but I've realized that I can be a better manager. I want to try helping you instead of yelling at you, okay?"


He then asked, "How can I HELP you each sell a car today?"


His team offered some ideas: "Fill the tanks full of gas so we don't have to buy gas during test drives." "Let us give out more brochures." "Offer cookies to the customers."


Jim said, "No problem! I'll get you gas, brochures and cookies."


The sales staff was stunned, but happy.


During the day, he helped his people give service to the customers, not pressure.

"She wants to discuss it with her father first?" "That's probably a good idea. Give her a phone."


"He wants to test drive twelve cars before deciding?" "No problem."


"They want to show the car to their mechanic." "Great! Invite him down and give them a tour of our service department, as well."


Customers felt they were buying luxury cars because of the excellent service. The sales people enjoyed their work. Jim had more fun with less stress. Car sales soared.


Service, Not Slavery


Jim had one small worry, "Will my people take advantage of me or run over me if I'm trying to give them service?"


He soon found this was not a problem when one salesman said, "Jim, I need a few hours off to run some errands for my wife. And I need to borrow the demo car, okay?"


Jim said, "No. And you can't take off a few hours until I see you sell a car today. How can I help you do your job?"




1. Make a list of everyone you lead in one way or another: customers, staff, coworkers, family members, friends, colleagues, even your boss.


2. Write down one or more ways you can better serve each of these people this week.


3. Provide these services during the week.


4. Observe the results. Watch how people react. Notice how you feel. You might be amazed!


If you persist with an attitude of service, your position improves, your pay increases and you have more fun. Not only are you more successful, so are the people you lead.




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TipsForSuccess: Imagine Success



Imagine Your Success


During a tour of duty in Vietnam, Major James Nesmeth was captured and held prisoner in a tiny cell for seven years. To keep sane, he mentally practiced his golf game.


Every day he would imagine being at the first tee at his favorite golf course. He would imagine the weather, the feel of the club and the grass at his feet. He would look at the ball and imagine the perfect swing.


Soon after he was freed and returned to the United States, he went to his favorite golf course and played a round of golf. Without touching his club for seven years, he improved his game by 20 strokes . . . as a prisoner of war!


"One's ability to imagine is directly proportional to one's ability to be successful." -- L. Ron Hubbard


As well as using your imagination to improve your golf game, you can use it in many other ways.


Goal Achievement


Imagine successfully achieving your goals and your chances of reaching those goals are greater.


For example, Shelly and her sister Jill both want to own a home.


Shelly keeps a box filled with paint colors, carpet samples, floor plans and so on. She clips out articles about home locations, loans and buying tips. She has a clear mental image of what her home will look like.


Jill, on the other hand, worries about the problems of buying a home. She worries that house prices are too unstable. She feels terror whenever mortgage rates increase. She complains that life is unfair.


Shelly and Jill both learn about a house for sale for a very low price.


Which sister says, "I'm sure I can't afford it." Which sister says, "I'm going to go see this house during my lunch break."


Who do you think will be first to own a house?


What Can You Imagine? 


Your imagination can help you do a better job at work. For example, your paperwork mountain is swallowing up your desk. While taking your morning shower, you envision yourself completing the entire pile in one day. You imagine yourself working hard and fast to clean up the backlog. You feel the joy as the last piece of paper is handled and you look at your clean desk.


When you arrive at work, you know what to do. Because you have a good imagination, you soon have a clean desk.


Other uses:

  • Imagine how the rest of today will go for you. Take a minute and imagine it will be a wonderful.
  • Imagine getting more work done next week than ever in your life.
  • If you are looking for a spouse, imagine what he or she will be like. Imagine your lives together.
  • Imagine what you might accomplish this year. What if you could accomplish anything at all?
  • Imagine accomplishing one of your goals. How will it happen? How will you feel?
  • When you think about being successful, what does it include? Imagine that!




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