Monday, October 22, 2012

Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?

I recently came across a great story - as a matter of fact it is a great teaching - that I thought I ought to share with everybody I know! I strongly believe that in this case it is quite unappropriate to write an introduction or any other kind of comment. This story just speaks for itself, and it speaks straight to our heart and the heart has a much better and clearer perception than the mind!
So the story goes like this:

    A wise man from India asked his disciples, “Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?”

    The disciples thought for a while, and one said, “We lose our calm and so we shout!”

    “But explain to me, why do you shout when the other person is right next to you?” asked the wise man.

    -Well, we shout  in order to make sure the other person hears us,tried another disciple.

    The wise man asked again:

    “Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?” The disciples gave some answers but none satisfied the wise man.

    Then he gave an explanation:

    Finally, the wise man explained: 

“When two people are angry at each other, there is a distance which arises between their hearts. To cover that distance they must shout, to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.” Then the wise man asked, “What happens when people are in love? They do not shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.”

The wise man added, “What happens when their love for e achother grows even more? They do not speak, they only whisper. Their hearts come even closer with love. Finally, they need not even whisper… they only look at each other and that is all. That is how close people are when they love each other. The heart is like one.

    Mahatma Gandhi

When you talk,do not let your hearts separate from one another.Do not say words that would make your hearts grow apart,because one day will come when the distance between your heart swill be so big that your hearts won’t find their way back to each other.

Apply it: Next time you get angry, try speaking in a soft voice. Your anger will reduce a lot.

Always remember that! 


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