Let’s Build The Missing Connect!

As, I watch the sun rise and sip through my coffee, I get a thousand thoughts about where India is heading. Digitalisation is a boon to the society, with the help of Internet we are introduced to the world methods and techniques minute by minute. The question is we expect and demand change but are we mentally prepared for it, on a whole. Are we ready to accept what the new generations have to bring in? This is the age between development and acceptance, which leads to hollowness amongst the youth because they have little or no understanding towards the old traditions and are criticised for being irresponsible and insensitive on daily basis. They are unaware of their duties and how important it is for them to carry India forward in the way India is recognised.

Most families are frustrated today because they are disappointed with each other. Where parents expect a certain behaviour from their child, Children demand an understanding from them. There is a huge communication gap but if that bridge is built, our families will not only be living together but will also be thinking and reasoning together. India is known for its traditions, cultures, values and that is how we mark ourselves differently on the world map. The youth needs to be introduced to the same by their families and teachers, otherwise with all the westernisation pouring in, we will soon be called Americans living in Indians. Lets not kill, what’s attractive in us. The youth is under a lot of pressure to constantly adapt to change and stay cool, but parents are equally responsible for ignorance in children. Everyone is so busy leading their own life, that we prefer to hold grudges but do not have the guts to confront each other on our opinions. Parents think the child will not understand whereas the child doesn’t know what is to be understood?

Humans have become a puppet stringed to convenience. Most youngsters when they come back home after years of education abroad or may be in metro cities, they are clueless about their future because what they have learnt is not being practically practiced in their homes, offices or even their country. They have been living alone and are use to taking decisions on their own, whereas now they are asked to follow an elder, just because he is an elder. It would rather be better if elders become magnanimous enough to sit and reason it out to their children. Please understand, you have spent all the money, given them freedom and asked them to be independent, so that they are capable enough to lead a happy and successful life. But yes, when the freedom is misused it becomes hurtful, and in most cases the child isn’t even aware of the pain you are going through. When you send your child out to study or on a holiday with his friends, you are opening his horizon and it gets difficult to look back from there, which does not mean you made a mistake in parenthood, you did what time demanded.

The youth must also be responsible and gratifying enough towards the sacrifices made by their elders. Life is not a cakewalk, everyone goes through struggles, and they have been through many. You are young and your health and mind allows you to be patient and hold strength during a crisis. Our traditions are important to be followed because that is what we have carried from our ancestors. That is what justifies different surnames and families. If you cannot understand certain rituals, please know that there is a protocol for everything, like you must dress formally for office, keep your personal issues away from work, Call your teachers Sir and Madam, in the same manner there are certain rules of performing a ‘hawan’ or a ‘puja’. Yoga is performed in a quiet space because it connects your body to the soul. In the same manner Fasts are kept to follow a certain discipline throughout the day, which eventually brings a lot of strength and quitting any thing, even for a day makes you strong wilfully.

An underlying problem in the west is depression amongst humans. Man is a social animal and it is impossible for him to stay alone, but with so many differences in opinions, the youth today prefers to run away from their problems, which is not the best solution, that is not where we want India to be heading. Communication is the best solution to this problem because the love hasn’t died, understanding has, and that is due to ignorance towards each others lifestyles. The gap needs to be filled and we need to pick the best from both ends, a youth must learn from experience and an adult must learn newness from the youth. We must walk hand in hand and reach the stages of development with perfection. This will also inculcate peace in us and make our lives stress free and beautiful.


Ritika Walia Mehra


Warrior or Worrier- The choice is yours!











AH! In pain, my soul cries

I worship her but she dies,

Each day, every day

Her birth will only pay,


She is constantly looted,

Opinions lowly prosecuted;

Society will forever yearn,

She simply needs to learn,


The world merely lures,

Her carriage carries cures;

Her fortitude must fill in,

And fight against her villain.



Ritika Walia Mehra

Just before you give up, Think again!

BOOM! A harsh sound was heard and seconds later a five year old saw her mother fall flat on the floor. The woman was rushed to the hospital. In the meanwhile cops came and questioned everyone present in the room, when the incident happened. Her two children, five and three years old and her husband were the eyewitnesses. The wife had come to know about her husband’s extra marital affair, and the couple was having an argument over the same. Just then in the heat of the moment, she took out his licensed gun from the drawer and shot herself. Her last words, “If I am an obstacle in your love story, I shall be gone”. She was now breathing her last in the hospital and tears rolled down her eyes, when she looked at her children. She was guilty and thought to her self, he would never take care of them and she had destroyed three lives in 5seconds. She took a final glance at her children and thought to her self, how important was it, for her to stay back but her eyes were shut. Her kids could never sleep peacefully since then.

What could possibly force a mother to take such a drastic step, Anger, frustration, a sense of failure or a broken faith? No one knows where we come from and what’s next after death. We all have one chance to live it, and win it. Problems would never end. We face them in all spheres of life. Life is a battleground for all, if not this; we could be fighting something else. Anyone can get up and say, “If you were in my shoes, you would know.” But hey I am wearing my own pair. Lets try exchanging, believe me it wouldn’t be fun. We have become pros at handling our own struggles. No one can fight ours better than us. If there are haters, there are lovers too. Anger takes away our intelligence and hampers our ability to perceive, forgive and forget.

Please scrutinise your issues; there could be reasons for extreme anger. Only if we know the reasons we can solve our problems. Usually it’s a pile of instances, which result in massive reactions to small matters but usually termed as baseless by people because they wouldn’t search for reasons in the past. Failing after regular attempts to achieve something, Things not turning out your way, you could be taking out some one else’s anger on yourself. The last and most unexpected reason could be any physical disturbance in the body. We usually tend to get irritated when we are unwell, but anger without a disease could also signal towards some internal issues. Physical weaknesses or sufferings take away the mental strength too. There could be hormonal issues in women, which push them towards extreme anger or frustration.

Reasons could be any but in any such situation, most people come out as losers rather than gainers. An angry or frustrated body only attracts negative energy. Here is a list of a few ways in which we can overcome difficult situations. First and foremost, “Delay the moment”

If you have to take a decision or get into a conversation, postpone it till you are calmer. If things are not turning your way after repeated efforts, then there might be some divine force trying to push you towards something better, because how much ever we analyze the existence of this force, all religion do support the existence of a super power. Some other ways could be writing down your thoughts on a piece of paper, it seems very satisfactory for a few, because sometimes you just want things to get out of your system rather than taking action. You could just make a note in your phone and delete it later. Talk to a friend, you might not always wish to discuss your problems but it could completely change your mood. Listen to some music don’t let your self-aloof. There are many solutions once you decide that life is worth living, and my struggles are my achievements. We are not even talking about wining or losing. Going through harsh times clearly displays your capabilities.

I would end with another story, which might help you, delay your frustration the next time you want are in a difficult situation. A man was walking angrily from side to side outside the operation theatre. Just then he sees the doctor walk in, buttoning his suit up. He went ahead and abused the doctor in front of all his staff for being late. He held him by the collar and told him, he hadn’t seen someone so irresponsible. The doctor did not speak and just rushed in to perform his duty. After three hours of surgery, the doctor returned and told the man his son was all right and he is sorry for the delay and walked off. The man was still not ready to forgive him, just then a nurse came up to him and informed that rather than being abusive, you should be grateful and sympathetic towards the doctor as he just returned from his son’s funeral. Please give this blog a thought and watch yourself the next time you get into a random argument with anyone.


Ritika Walia Mehra

Etiquettes- Basic Judgment of a Human!

Sipping coffee on a Monday morning in the hills of Shimla, the recorded weather was 16 degree Celsius, and a little sunshine to add more beauty to the entire scene. What more could a writer ask for, I took out my laptop and quickly starting jotting down all ideas my brain could get at that moment. Only when I started to pen them down, comes a lady to meet her friends, who happen to be my neighbors in that coffee shop. Little did I know that she would be the inspiration to write my next blog? Etiquettes! Basic social etiquettes, I think she had never heard or learnt them in the life she had lived so far and why I can say this is because, not only did the pitch of her voice disturb me in everything that I wanted to achieve that morning, but also made me aware to the current situation of her household. Believe me, we did have an eye contact a few times and I clearly tried to show, how unappreciative I was towards her but either I am a bad actress or my message was far above her understanding.

So, I thought why not talk a little about some basic social etiquettes that must be followed by us, as humans. We are social animals and the word “social” differentiates us from those living in the jungles. In the same manner we must behave in a certain way to be called social beings. The minimum that can be done for someone is, to be on time. Always try to reach before or at least on time, when you have to meet someone, to avoid any inconvenience to the other person, time is money, and we all should value it. Maintain a hygiene level and keep the areas around you clean, you must take this as your social responsibility. Avoid drinking and smoking in front of children. They will know everything with age, why ruin their childhood by urging them towards harmful things. Their brain is not capable enough to learn about them at this tender age. Please for gods sake keep your pitch to a minimum when at social gatherings or during movies etc. Always pay attention and be a good listener in a conversation, make the other person feel comfortable and accepted, avoid any phone calls if possible, they might be discussing the most important moments of their life or alarming towards a mental disturbance. Something very basic that we must revise is, don’t ever ask a woman her age and a man his salary. Might just sound like a moral class, but believe me many of us are still not clear with the right way of behaving in public. While in a restaurant, wait for everyone on the table to be served before starting your meal, do not speak while eating and please keep your mouth closed while chewing.

Jobs today are a big headache, trying to cope with targets, corporate politics and huge competition are some of the few stress giving factors. So why not list a few etiquettes that must be followed in the corporate world. You must never keep a casual attitude towards work, consider it worship in true sense and only then expect something in return. As a staff member, you must portray certain decorum. Don’t peep in to workstations or cubicles of your colleagues, never check their files or notepads, until n unless you are the boss, pun intended. Never judge or criticize any coworkers capabilities, everyone is trying to perform their best; they could be better than you in many ways. Popping a chewing gum at work is a very unprofessional behavior. Always carry a notepad and pen to a meeting. Be adequately dressed; follow the dress code if required. It is unethical to share office data or news with people outside work, so don’t make them a dinner table discussion. Always carry your visiting card, never hand it over with the left hand and you must ask for the other person’s details in exchange. You must always park in the space allocated to you, don’t be a moron and create a ruckus in the parking lot. Nobody has the time to waste on such petty issues. Keep your personal work confined to home. Never mix the two, be the best at where you are.

Last but not the least, in this tech savvy world how can we miss on phone or mobile etiquettes. Selfies, Snapchats, Whatsapp, Facebook and then there is a user with no behavioral sense. So, here we list the right way of handling everything about phones. You must always call and receive with a pleasant voice, don’t shout if the signal is low, move to a different area or call back when the reception is apt. Carefully dial numbers and always confirm if you are speaking to the desired person, we don’t want you to accidently propose your girlfriends father. Do not eat or chew while on a call, believe me it sounds gross on the other side. If you miss a call, make sure you call back or message to acknowledge the other person. Reduce the volume of your music system or television when talking to someone over the phone; it could interrupt a healthy conversation. Always keep your phone on silent when asked for it, there could be reasons, why you are asked to do the same. Do not make official calls before or after eight. Always greet well while receiving and putting down the phone. Don’t use your phone while driving; it could cost you a life.

We might be talking about big developments in life but sometimes a few petty ones need more attention for the overall upbringing of us as humans. We must teach our children to be appreciative when they meet someone, a few lines like, “Oh, this color looks lovely on you” or “you look beautiful today” might just light up someone’s day and on the other hand it will teach our children to look above the negatives and have a positive vision towards the world. In the longer run they would be happier human beings and would possess the art of bringing smiles and carrying one too. There is no harm in a smile, why not lend or light one. Please give it a thought.


Ritika Walia Mehra



Tamil Nadu Rs 29,672 crore
Haryana Rs19,703 crore
Maharashtra Rs18,000 crore
Karnataka Rs15,332 crore.

Lets explain it like this



Ritika Walia Mehra

All about Man’s Best Friend!



Ritika Walia Mehra

Know it! But, don’t do it All!

Drinks, Drugs, Sex, Smoke…. Does it seem like I am beginning with everything controversial today. Believe me, I am not a stereotype orthodox human with a cliché lecture. This blog is to give a direction, to most parents and children, that living in the twenty first century we must know about, every existent but we shouldn’t make every concept our own. I am not talking against anything, but just discussing what is good and when is the right time, what are our limits because LIMITS are hero like, my friend. I am really sorry to reveal this truth to you, but everything available in the market (legal or illegal) is not meant for you. Its almost like most people would give up a $5000 handbag and prefer to buy something more needful. Basically, you need to educate yourself and know what’s the best for you. Always have an eye of a businessman and search for benefits in all that you do. Why harm yourself for nothing?

Being sloshed every weekend is not the best you can do for your mental and physical health, but after a legal age of drinking, according to The School of Public Health at Harvard University, drinking a moderate amount of alcohol has certain health benefits. A moderate amount is defined as one drink per day for women and two drinks per day for men. Moderate Alcohol raises levels of HDL (good cholesterol) and hence proves to be a great protection towards heart diseases. It also reduces the risk of gallstones and lowers the chances of diabetes. All these benefits are observed by moderate drinking, which means the amount consumed on any single day and not an average over several days. So, the next time you are out, set your limits to the best, for you.

When a baby is born, he cries and the first cry is to clear the lungs from amniotic fluids and other secretions. He wasn’t breathing during his stay in the womb. Oxygen was being supplied through the umbilical chord attached to the mother, so his cry helps him inhale, for the first time in life. Smoking hampers healthy breathing as it damages airways and small air sacs (alveoli) present in your lungs. The only element other than food and water that keeps you going is your power to breathe and you are hampering the passage of oxygen because of one bad habit. Smoking can cause all kinds of cancer in the body. It results in Cardiac and Respiratory diseases. What are you harming yourself for?

The next topic is beyond my capability to explain, but I still wish at least one-person changes his thought after reading this. I was recently driving to the next town, when my friend read out, news of a three year old being raped and killed with pieces of clothes stuffed in her mouth. Do you think this was for pleasure? For GODS sake, raping a three year old, is a case of pure mental sickness and such living beings need medical help, they cannot be left unbarred. It would be unfair if we called them animals, because animals might posses a smaller brain than ours but their emotions are more majestic than humans. Intimacy between two people should be, out of choice and not forced. No one has the right to kill anyone’s spirit because of his or her rotten mentality.

Drug abuse kills 2,00,000 people every year. What are drugs and why do they even exist, if they are so harmful and addictive? They are plants, yes, kinds of plants that are wrongly used. They too carry benefits in their pockets. According to the national institute of Drug Abuse in the U.S.- Cannabis (marijuana) can kill cancer cells and shrink, one of the most serious types of brain tumors. Two out of hundred types of cannabinoids are of medical interest. Out of which THC increases appetite and reduces nausea. It may also decrease pain, inflammation and muscle control problems. But the problem again is wrong thing at the wrong time. A single mother of an infant died, due to drug overdose and her child also gave up on life after starving and crying the entire night, who should we blame?

I have just tried to pen down what I feel as a human of today. The motive is not to stop you from all that you wish to do. I urge that you must educate yourself before getting into any new habit. Don’t be an alien towards what you consume. Read about the effects, it would have on your body in the longer run. Get in touch with your doctor and be regular with your health check ups. There’s nothing like belonging to a cool group. Life comes in phases, someone who is important today, might not exist tomorrow. Your successes and sufferings are beard, only by “YOU”.



Ritika Walia Mehra