How to Build Positive Communication Skills

by Mallory Otis, Demand Media
Good communication can begin with honing your listening skills.

Good communication can begin with honing your listening skills. Images

The famous American businessman Lee Iacocca once said, "You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can't get them across, your ideas won't get you anywhere." Proper communication in the workplace is essential. However, for some people, communication does not come naturally. Perhaps you are one of those people. With a bit of practice and some instruction, you can be on your way to building positive communication skills to use in your workplace and beyond.

Step 1

Examine how you listen, making sure that you try to keep your mind clear while the other person is talking. Concentrate on what he is saying and don't think about what you're going to say next. When the other person has finished speaking, ask well thought out questions to show him that you were listening.

Step 2

Respond to facts and don't lash out in emotion when a difficult situation arises. Validate what the other person may be experiencing by asking him about his concerns or frustrations. Express understanding and a willingness to work on the situation. Don't play the blame game. Take responsibility for your own actions. Realize that any emotional reactions you have had in the past may have caused the current difficulty in communication.

Step 3

Verify that you have heard correctly. When someone is explaining a situation or giving you instructions, you may think you heard correctly but might have missed something. Work on this aspect of communication by following up with a summary. Repeat what the other person said in your own words. If you did hear correctly, this will show the other person you were listening. If not, this gives you an opportunity to immediately correct any communication errors.

Step 4

Know that every person in your workplace, including you, has his own agenda. This means that each person is working toward the goals that are most important to him. Talking about what is important to you and listening to what is important to your co-workers is an important piece of the communication foundation at work. When possible, communicate how your agenda could also benefit your co-worker's.

Step 5

Be aware of how you speak. Stay away from language that could be construed as offensive or vulgar. Also, avoid phrases that have become overused. Instead use positive words. Instead of analyzing a situation from the negative side, analyze and instruct on those aspects that are positive. Also, use language that inspires a team environment.

Step 6

Apologize with sincerity when necessary. Everyone makes mistakes. It's the recovery from them that is important. When you make a mistake at work, take responsibility for your actions and sincerely apologize. Do not to assign blame. Explain what happened, without shirking responsibility or blaming, and express how you will avoid similar mistakes in the future. When possible, try to make amends.

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