How to deal with interpersonal homophobia at the time (safely)

Interpersonal homophobia is the homophobic speech and or actions of an individual towards others who are, or who are perceived to be lesbian, bisexual, gay, transgender or queer. There is no overall “best” way to respond to every instance of interpersonal homophobia in every circumstance. When you’re in the situation you are the only one who can determine what the best way to respond, while still feeling both safe and empowered. The more informed you are about options for responding, the better you can be at making that decision.

When interpersonal homophobia happens, there’s not always time to respond or maybe we feel too unsafe or frozen to do so. And that’s okay. Since a homophobic incident can be startling and throw you off balance, practicing these responses aloud and role playing scenarios can help you feel more able to actually use them.

Six suggestions for how to talk to a homophobic person:

  1. Use strong body language. Look the person in the eyes; speak in a strong, clear voice. Using your voice, facial expressions, and body language together, without mixed signals, show assertiveness and strength.
  5. Do not swear or lose your temper: This type of reaction is the most likely to make the homophobe respond with anger and violence.

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What else can I do?

You can also report homophobia or get active through Rainbow Territory to stop institutional homophobia.