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How to Handle Women

Three Methods:Communicating EffectivelyValuing DifferencesRespecting RelationshipsCommunity Q&A

It is no secret that men and women are different on many levels. Because of these differences, it can be helpful to better understand how to handle various situations involving women. While both men and women can have tendencies common to their gender, the information below focuses on interactions with women. Life is all about relationships, and how we handle ourselves in those relationships can be the key to enjoying life.

Communicating Effectively

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    Actively listen. Great communication is important to any healthy relationship, regardless of whether or not it is a professional relationship or a personal relationship. Effective communication occurs when both parties actively listens to the other and understands what is intended.[1]
    • Sometimes when a woman is communicating a problem, she does not necessarily want your advice on how to solve it, she simply wants you to listen.
    • Use body language and gestures to demonstrate that you are paying attention. For example, using good eye contact and leaning forward are ways to communicate that you are interested in the conversation.
    • Never interrupt because it can appear as though you do not value what is being said.
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    Give her the benefit of the doubt. If there is a misunderstanding, do not assume that she is being deceptive. Instead of making assumptions, listen to what she has to say about what has occurred.
    • To make sure that you are clear on what has happened, repeat what she has said to ensure that you are on the same page.
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    Define the nature of your relationship. In order to avoid misunderstandings, it is a good idea to communicate your understanding of the relationship. If you are just friends without any type of commitment, that should be communicated. If you feel like you are more than friends, then that should also be communicated.
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    Keep your word. During your communication with women and anyone else, it is best to say what you mean and mean what you say. Being straightforward will alleviate unnecessary drama and hurt feelings.
    • Trust and reliability are critical components of any relationship and is especially important if you want to maintain deep connection with someone.[2]
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    Express an interest in her feelings. To maintain a great long-term relationship with a woman, it is necessary to demonstrate an interest and openness to both caring about and understanding her emotions.[3]
    • Get her to open up about her feelings with questions such as: "How do you feel about what happened?" This type of open-ended question will allow her to communicate her feelings so that you can better understand each other.

Valuing Differences

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    Understand emotional differences. While some people believe that women are more emotional than men, that is not necessarily the truth. Research has revealed that men and women simply process emotions differently. The types of situations that provoke an emotional response in women is different than that of men. [4]
    • Instead of dismissing a woman's emotional response, try to get an understanding of what is causing her response.
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    Acknowledge her strengths. One great benefit of relationships is that others may be strong where you are not so strong, which can be highly beneficial to your life. When you are honest about areas where the woman in your life is stronger, it can be of great benefit to you in the long run.
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    Respect her boundaries. Some women need personal time and space. How much varies, but generally speaking, you should not be intimated by phone calls and text messages from friends, nor should you feel compelled to monitor them. As long as you trust each other you should not worry about the time that she is away from you.
    • You should also avoid being controlling and allow her to be her own person by not trying to dictate how she should live her life.[5]
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    Appreciate her career. There should be a mutual respect for each others career without one person diminishing the other based on the nature of their job. If the woman makes more money, this should not cause a rift or any feelings of insecurity.
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    Compliment her. Whether you are in a serious relationship or just friends, a good compliment is often appreciated. When complimenting a woman, be sincere and do not just focus on her physical attributes.
    • There are many aspects of a woman besides her physical appearance that deserves attention. Consider complimenting her intelligence, sense of humor, creativity, cooking skills, or compassion for others.

Respecting Relationships

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    Be thoughtful. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, be thoughtful and consider her unique personality and the characteristics that make her special. Making a decision to accept your differences, whether they are based on gender or not, will likely help you with building positive relationships throughout your life.[6]
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    Say how you feel. As with any relationship, being forthcoming and not playing games will get you a lot further than being dishonest.
    • In the beginning of a relationship, you do not have to put all of your cards on the table right away because you might scare her away. However, if you feel like both of you are moving at the same pace, you can share your feelings and encourage her to do the same.
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    Be proud of her. Shine a light on her accomplishments and show her that you are proud of what she has achieved.
    • Kind words, a nice greeting card, or a gift are all ways to celebrate her achievements.
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    Demonstrate empathy. Show that you respect the relationship by viewing situations from her perspective to better understand how she feels. For most people, perception is reality, so examining situations from her perspective is a great way to be more empathetic.
    • Set aside your point of view and be open to another perspective.
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    Avoid being suspicious. Instead of constantly questioning her motives, assume the best about her. If you become suspicious about a situation, do not automatically assume that she is guilty, but instead, respectfully share your concerns to get clarification or more information to better understand the truth.[7]

Community Q&A

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    • Everyone likes to feel good about themselves and a compliment can go a long way towards encouraging women you care about.
    • Avoid playing games with women and being deceptive because in the long run it usually does not work out well for anyone.
    • When angry or under a lot of pressure, it is best to avoid having difficult conversations because men and women handle stress differently. Revisit the situation at a later date when you are feeling calmer to avoid straining your relationship.[8]

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