Self Talk

Part 1 - Information and Bibliography

The desired outcome is for self-talk habits to become second nature. The first stage is for one to become aware of negative self-talk. Keep in mind that the power to improve and achieve success is always within reach. Empowering and learning how to take control of your self-talk is often as easy as simply doing some reading and practice!

Some guidelines for positive self talk:
1. Phrase your affirmations in the present tense. You want to achieve your goal now, not in some indefinable future. For example, if your goal is to find a job, don't say, "I will have a good report at the end of the semester", using the future tense. Say, "I am doing well in every class and I enjoy studying and learning and am achieving at a high standared".
2. Use only positive and constructive words and that describe exactlly what you really want to attain or achieve.
3. Self tak should be specific. Tell your mind exactly what it is that you want.
4. Keep the affirmations short and easy to remember.
5. Include feelings and strong desire in your self talk. You should feel and believe that what you are saying is already true. Feelings and emotions give life to your words.
6. Repeat affirmations at any time you want or at set times during the day. Immediately after waking up and before falling asleep are two very appropriate times, as at these times it is easier to get to the subconscious mind.

Our inner world creates the outer circumstance and shapes the events that we experience. Our inner world consists of our thoughts and beliefs. A belief is a thought with a feeling associated with it. We can consciously choose to change either our thoughts and beliefs at any time and by doing so we can improve the quality of our experiences.

If we chose to feel negatively and believe a thought – then we have chosen to be a product of bad thinking. A thought can produce an emotion only if you believe it to be true. Believe it or not holding onto a thought and creating a feeling is a choice, just like it’s our choice to insert a new one.

Like water that overflows when it is being displaced from a container, the human mind can only hold one thought at a time. We tend to believe the mind holds more because it functions so rapidly. This is just an illusion of your experience. The truth is you can displace any unsupportive thought in the conscious mind with a more positive or productive affirmation. With practice you can begin to do this at any time.

To intercept stinking thinking before it lowers your confidence you need to become aware of our internal dialogue, or self-talk, you have with yourself. Listen to your self-talk and what you are saying to yourself inside your head. What do you tell yourself? In what tone of voice? How does it make you feel?

What you project forth into the world reflects back. This is also known as what goes around comes around and the notion of Karma. If you express love and you will receive love. Be respectable and gain respect. How do you expect to love if you do not first love yourself? How do you expect to treat others with respect if you don’t respect yourself foremost?

Pay attention to your self-talk daily. Are you a nurturing coach or a alarming critic? Do you reinforce your own success or negate it? Does your internal dialogue help grow your results or shrink your potential? Do your thoughts magnetize or de-magnetize your ability to attract success?

Here are 21 common self-talk phrases, which ones are you more comfortable saying to yourself?
1. What if I try and fail?
1. This will work for me!

2. This is difficult…
2. Challenges are made to overcome!

3. I can’t do that…
3. I’ll do that and to the best of my ability!

4. If only I were I would
4. Because I am _ I will do this

5. Why does this always happen?
5. Good things always happen to me

6. I never get anything right…
6. I always learn from my mistakes and failures

7. I’m stuck in this rut…
7. Now is a great time to get into a new groove!

8. I’m such a screw-up
8. I like myself

9. I wish I had _
9. _ is on the way!

10. There goes another opportunity…
10. Things always turn out for the best

11. I’ll never get there…
11. I am stretching towards my biggest goals

12. I am cursed
12. I am blessed

13. Why doesn’t this happen for me?
13. That’s more like it!

14. He’ll / She’ll never change
14. I will change so I am bigger than the problem

15. My kids don’t respect me
15. I will work to become a more effective parent

16. I can’t lose weight
16. I can eat healthier

17. My boss ignores me
17. I always strive for excellence

18. Why don’t I ever get a break?
18. I am not a helpless victim

19. I have no time to exercise
19. I will make time to exercise

20. I’ll never get out of debt
20. I take small steps each day towards my financial goals

21. He / She never listens
21. I need to better understand him/her

Now that you are aware of what you could say differently, strive to make positive self-talk a habit.

Part 2 -Contributions and Comments

Part 3 - Plan


By Mon 2nd Nov I will - Research topics, select a topic and find good websites.
By Mon 9th Nove I will - Create a Plan (Part 3)
By Mon 16th Nov I will - Work on Part 1
By Mon 23rd Nov I will - Work on Part 1
By Mon 30th Nov I will - Work on and finish Part 2 (Contributions)
By Mon 7th Dec I will - Work on and finish Part 1
By Mon 14th Dec I will - Relax because everything is finished!

Seven Principles for setting Goals

Desire - I will create an excellent page that is helpful to others and looks good.
Written -
Plan to deal with resistance - Possible obstacles include - Computer problems, can't find good information and time management.
Deadline - see above (timeline)
Planning - I have the folloing good resources - students with IT skills and teachers.
Mental Picture - I want my site to look like a wikipedia page
Persistence - I will work hard during class time and, if needed, will spend extra time on my page at home.


Specific - Well defined. Clear to anyone that has a basic knowledge of the project. YES
Measurable - Know if the goal is obtainable and how far away completion is. Know when it has been achieved. YES
Agreed Upon - Agreement with all the stakeholders what the goals should be. YES
Realistic - Within the availability of resources, knowledge and time. YES
Time Based - Enough time to achieve the goal. Not too much time, which can affect project performance. YES