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The Signs of a Psychopath and Narcissist

March 16, 2010 8 comments

[April 2, 2013: For a glimpse into what it's like living under narcissists, read the blog at There first seven posts describe what can happen to your life and what it will be like living directly under their control.]

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You can lead a narcissist to evidence,
but you can’t stop him from dismissing it with his feelings.

Note: There is a simplified explanation of these mental disorders at which is also more suitable for kids with limited vocabulary and comprehension, but keep in mind that the beginning parts of this page (the one you’re on now) are actually simple, intentionally so, but it’s the long lists below that are very time consuming to get through. Take your pick of which you think is easier to use for memorization or understanding.

Update: December/19/2011: I think I know why the term “antisocial” is presently a hard to define term. I reason it’s because of the attempt of various mental researchers to classify people who repeatedly commit crimes or who do things which are in general considered to be bad, but by doing so mixed up psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists with people who simply had poor morals, or became addicted to pleasure, or who became bitter. And though you can say those things are mental disorders, such people are very unlike narcs, socs and psychs, because those three types are incurable, and either think they are above laws, or usually don’t care if they hurt anything living. To label someone as antisocial therefore, is as useful as labeling rebellious teens antisocial. Imagine someone knew that some teen was often rebellious, and so then said, “That person is antisocial.” And? At best it’s just a warning to be extra careful around that person. But is it any better than just saying, “they’re rebellious” or “stubborn”?

Update May/4/2012: It’s been bothering me somewhat long ago for using the word sociopath the way I have hear, it always seemed wrong, as if the word didn’t match the description, and then yesterday when I went to YouTube and found some video, saying a sociopath actually had a little conscience. So, I have been thinking of coming up for a new word to replace sociopath. If you can think of one let me know. The best I can come up with is “chaotican” or “chaopath”. Maybe simply “chaotic” is better, as in “a chaotic”, but that may cause a lot of confusion because someone may think you’re committing a grammar error by not saying, “A chaotic person”. That might be avoided in writing at least by capitalizing chaotic so people realize it’s a noun. I also considered that Chaopath might be a good replacement for an “anti-social”, but it seems to me anti-social is a variation of psychopath and perhaps narcissism. Yesterday, I made yet another attempt at a compact guide to the disorders mentioned here, except for RAD, it’s in one of the permanent links on the top of the page.

Note: before you can judge a person’s character, you must hear them say certain things, or read what they say to determine what kind of person they are and what they believe. Unless a person is giving a away plain signs instantly about what kind of person they are one after another, you’re going to need to take maybe hours to a day or more to find out, especially since there are many straight-faced liars these days who can keep up a lie for a long time, without showing by any obvious behavior that they are liars. There are quick ways to get to the heart of a person’s character however, and it’s by asking them certain questions. But to learn that you will need to pay me a consultation fee (I have to make a living too).

For those of you in a rush or who want quick definitions, here you go (the rest of the page is in depth):

Psychopath, Chaopath (Sociopath) and Narcissist: A self-centered person who does not have a conscience (either doesn’t feel guilt or remorse when they break God’s laws, like “Don’t murder”, “Don’t lie”, “Don’t steal” or rather laws which they see are good and which are also felt as being good by others.  Narcissists do have low level of conscience, but are self-obsessed and that unhealthy obsession interferes with their ability to control themselves and to fully care about right from wrong. A chaopath is an impulsive psychopath, in other words has a low level patience (which may be due to having an addition and not being able to satisfy it when he or she desires to).

Such people are much more likely to break good laws, the best example being the so called “10 commandments” and other laws in the Bible, like laws forbidding withholding the wages of a person on the day they earn them (and yes, that is very different from the American system), oppressing the poor, showing favoritism, showing partiality (which includes not treating strangers and foreigners the same as you’d treat yourself, neighbors or people you are friends with), joining mobs, cheating in measurements, violating a person’s property (like by going into a person’s home to get collateral or something owed you rather than waiting for them first to bring it out to you), holding grudges, wronging an enemy, and the uniquely Biblical laws of, Loving God with all your heart, loving your neighbor as yourself, and doing to everyone else as you would have done to you (which the Bible makes exceptions for in the treatment of of those who would waste what you give them or those who would attack you if you gave them a gift). In general, it’s universally accepted as good to not murder, lie to, steal from, hate for not good reason, your friends, and to not engage in disorderly and reckless behavior that could provoke an attempt to take away the lives of your friends without them being able to defend themselves well enough to survive. That doesn’t mean that it never goes on in cultures that believe this, because not all cultures have the same level of belief in responsibility for their individual actions and the level of moral and religious wisdom. So, cultures will be more hypocritical, blind and stupid then others and not realize they’re doing the things they think are wrong. Other traditionally good behaviors accepted by the world are to not be arrogant (at least not beyond mere boasting, so that you end up wronging others in your belief that you should get your way above all others), to obey your parents and to be kind in return to anyone who is kind to you, whether a friend or not, especially if they give you a useful gift or one worth a little money or who helped to protect you.

Those things are important to know, because, for all of history, the majority of citizens of the world (not including their corrupt leaders) has repaid kindness for kindness with the exception of kind acts from those preaching Christianity to them. As time goes on however, the world has been getting worse, making it harder to determine who is a psychopath or narcissist and who isn’t, and so, unless there are obvious signs, a longer time may be required to make a correct judgment. The behavior of the world has been getting worse, because worse and worse leaders have been coming to power and more often, and causing greater oppression and allowing and provoking more crime. And because they are liars and want to say in power, such leaders and leaders under them however may put out or bribe others to come up with false statistics to make it appear as if that isn’t true and not count their own crimes or indirect crimes through their judges, police or armies as crimes or consider the unreported crimes, which are often unreported due to fear of the army, police or judges doing something worse to them and the cost in time or money of making a report of the crime or because they know that the “system” is to corrupt to take the right action. The worst leaders, due to their brutality, are usually the narcissist, psychopath and sociopath types, or some combination of the last two types with the first. A false Christian can appear to be those evil-minded types if, he, in his poor judgment, pride and/or misunderstanding of how to please God, makes bad decisions and does so in the name of God, which together, can be mistaken for twisted malicious behavior meant to make it appear as if God approves of their behavior rather than just in general not realizing they are doing wrong.

Psychopaths have a normal or high level of patience and like to order their belongings and things they are given responsibility for in whatever way they desire, like an army or non-living things like books or guns or other things. They tend towards being obsessive with the type of order they choose to use and will feel rage if they are unable to keep this order. They hold grudges much more than non-psychopaths and so much so that they will wait years if they think they have to commit a successful crime. Even if no offense was committed against them, they will act like they have been offended if you offend anyone they approve of (usually a mentally ill person that they can relate to, or they may pretend to be offended and use it as an opportunity to take advantage of the one who offended and/or the one who the offense was supposedly committed against) and possibly seek to harm or murder the offender for it. Some choose to be “loners”, some choose to be apart of groups. They are much more likely then merely anti-social people to stalk people. They delight in cruelty. They hate to be judged as being evil (condemned), but love praised and flattered, and depending on their personality and the situation, even as being “evil,” but most if not all will take comfort or joy for being “good” no matter what they do.

Chaopaths or psychopaths with low patience, and as a result are more likely to be reckless and to die soon from trouble of some sort.

Narcissists are distinct from psychopaths in that they have a conscience, and from chaopaths in that they have more of a conscience and think of themselves as superior to everyone or most people in every way, from superiority in being morally good or bad and deserving of whatever they want. They are like the Bizarro version of Superman, though without the super powers, in that when they do what they think is good, it is actually bad or they try to do something right but end up doing it in the wrong way and harming others as a result. Their drive to appear to be superior and lack of a normal level of conscience enhances their ability to deceive more easily by putting on an appearance of never or rarely doing wrong so much so that it confuses others into believing that that is true or to delude themselves into thinking that the bad behaviors not as really as bad as they are, even when that narcissist repeatedly and clearly does wrong and severe wrong.

1) A psychopath, during their preteen years (though not necessarily early preteen years) shows signs of regular cruelty to or indifference to cruelty to animals (when exposed to them, including insects) or people due to a lack of a long-term, loving care from the person or persons raising them with the teaching of good morals or inconsistent morals. A parent may seem to be doing good to their child when they yell at them for repeatedly stealing from someone, but if they do so only when that child is caught and the child knew that the parent was aware of the stealing before they were caught, the child may think: “It’s bad only when I am caught, I am being punished for not having hid my theft.” Or, if the parent disapproves arbitrarily of some theft but in front of the child lets others go, the child will feel that they can sometimes get away with stealing, and so do so. A child will especially not form a good moral boundary if their parents and others they steal from are not consistent that they should not be stolen from or if the child sees the people they intend to steal from stealing from others. They will have the “But you did the same thing (therefore I can do it to you and others too” attitude. I’m not saying you should punish a child for every single lie or theft or investigate or rigorously investigate every real or seeming wrong your child or child-relative or neighbor does to you or others (which if is done can actually cause the child to become a narcissist because of the lack of mercy shown to them), but that you should not let your child repeatedly go unpunished for wrongs or be inconsistent with what you say, for example telling your child not to steal when they steal from you when they’ve stolen $500 from you, and when they only give back $250, not asking where the rest went, merely scolding them if it isn’t returned soon and treating them this way whenever they do a wrong and worse, not even bothering to scold them at times, especially when they’ve committed a great wrong. You can also cause a child to lose their conscience if they repeatedly do wrong, and despite you scolding and punishing them, you quickly “make up” for the punishment, or give them a gift, especially a great gift (the child will believe they can be endlessly rewarded for doing evil). Worse is if someone teaches the child that evolution is the rule (and/or survival) rather than doing good to please God, because the child may believe that doing evil is necessary to evolve and survive and to succeed at anything (which isn’t true, so it’s not something you need to lie about).

2) They are okay with seeing someone do an occasional good deed (though they won’t feel happy about it at all unless the deed is done to them) and may praise them for it and understand that good deeds are honorable, but have a hatred for people who do good deeds in general, hence why none of them have a charitable lifestyle, and if they are charitable, it is merely to give them the appearance of actually caring about others feeling happy (or appropriately sad in order to also be happy).

They are also highly resistant to being charitable even if it is to gain an advantage over others, which is because they strongly associate charity with goodness, which they hate. This is why they will accuse Christians of merely, “Shoving religion down everyone’s throat” and ignoring and not mentioning any good deeds Christians do no matter how many are done or how great, and may refer to those who do good as “goody-goodys”);

They are:

3) hypocritical in their rules and accusations and (due to having no conscience to let them know when they are doing wrong and their minds being narrowly focused on satisfying the desires of their heart rather than being careful to do what is logical and morally good). In other words, they are hypocrites. For example demanding that no one judge anyone, yet they judge (as in make the moral determination) that anyone who does judge is an evil person and also claim that such a person will end up in Hell forever (if they hated that person). But they are perfectly happy to accept judgments that praise their character or deeds or character or deeds of those that they admire even if they realize the praise was for something they didn’t do or for some quality or skill they don’t have, but they won’t necessarily always accept such praise as narcissism doesn’t by itself cause a narcissist to be completely blind, gullible or delusional nor does it cause them to lie about everything, although they will be likely to use false praise to make a joke to get praise of themselves by replying in a humorous way.

4) unwilling to come up with any insight of their own on religion or philosophy, cannot, without explanation from a person with a conscience, belief in absolute right and wrong, punishment to restrain stubborn behavior, and belief in a god or gods or God, reason out the psychological, emotional, or physiological consequences of certain religions or philosophies, hence why

5) many psychopaths, or about all them, are happy to make simplistic judgments on religion, especially complex ones, like, “(all) religions cause wars” or “(all) religion is responsible for deaths” as it conveniently excuses psychopaths to live without moral restraint and is why they are

6) either the deep-thinking type or shallow (the simple-minded, take-it-easy type) concerning anything at all despite specializing in something, like finding cheap air fair, a correct translation for a word, the correct answer to a mathematical formula. By imitating what others say in certain situations and with assistance they may appear to be smarter and wiser than they really are (as can anyone who imitates well and gets good help), and so then appear to be a anything, including lawyer, physicist, mathematician, biologist, baby-sitter, priest or even a pastor, police officer, psychiatrist, psychologist or leader of a country. And with no conscience, they can act without showing signs of nervousness.

7) Their mental shallowness is also evidenced by very stupid questions (shocking to a normal person), for example, if they ask someone to strip naked for them and get the reply, “It’s against my religion to”, they may reply with something like, “Well can’t you change your religion?” or “What is you stopped being religious?”.

8) Their mental shallowness is also evidenced by gullibility, sometimes great gullibility (shocking to a normal person). For example they show that they have a hard time (in general) determining real from not real no matter how absurd or clearly wrong a fiction is (for example belief in a billions of years old giant explosion creating all the wonders of the universe, including irreducibly complex, very beautiful, living, emotional things of countless types). So when a person plays an obvious joke on a psychopath, the person playing the joke will find to his or her amazement (if they don’t realize the person was a psychopath), the psychopath taking the joke seriously.

They are:

9) without empathy (in other words won’t imagine themselves in the painful situation of someone else in order to understand that person’s pain due to a lack of love for others);

10) No remorse: though they can experience great joy over achieving or obtaining something, they don’t experience joy in general over seeing good deeds done, especially not seeing them done regularly and don’t feel deep anger or sadness over seeing anyone wronged (except themselves) and will, if a friend, close companion or someone they admire encourages them to laugh about it, do so. Some will fake tears and look you directly in the eyes to

11) Their displays of sorrow over seeing someone wronged, if any, are sometimes combined with a look of bewilderment and/or awe, being fascinated by the misdeed.

12) Though they may sometimes feel sorrow over seeing someone else in a bad position or wronged, it does not last long, and are unwilling to give much help, especially not long, great, suffering unless lead to do so by a friend, parent or someone that they admire.

13) Secretive. For example they may not reveal the full name of their any of their friends even if they are friends with you. They may give you the full names of imaginary people however, because you’ll never find them.


14) will experience fear and anxiety, including in great amounts when they believe they are in danger of feeling mental and physical pain or thinking about the possibility of such, but unlike non-psychopaths, will happily do moral wrongs and commit crimes (like stealing, destroying property, lying or committing adultery, regardless of whether or not anyone is being hurt of if they believe anyone will be hurt) if they don’t believe that there will be any painful consequences.feel great distress and worry when they perceive an immediate threat to their life-style. They can also have phobias.

15) They are emotionally shallow on immorality or good deeds (for example don’t feel anything or any deep anger of seeing someone do moral wrong or deep joy over seeing someone sacrifice themselves to help an innocent person or joy over someone suffering to help another who doesn’t deserve it – however they can and do feel great anger over themselves being wronged, especially if threatened by someone who can hinder their lifestyle – and at best experience someone deep wonderment or awe over seeing such things, which is also why their displays of sorrow over wrong-doing or someone suffering or dying lack a sad expression and they do not feel very sad).

16) Though they may sometimes feel sorrow for seeing someone else in a bad position, it does not last long, are unwilling to give more than what they consider to be of little value to help the person they feel sorrow for, though for their own entertainment they are willing to give a little physical help to or chat for a while.


17) may find kind responses to what they realize is their bad behavior to be extremely funny and laugh aloud;

18) try to display appropriate sorrow to having done wrong or seeing wrong done or over some sad thing (like a suffering child dying in front of them) if they think they may lose their advantage over others or be unable to gain an advantage over others if they don’t display this sorrow;

They are:

19) rude (for example will, when annoyed by someone, reply with a cold, annoyed or mocking tone sometimes combining them with expressions like, “well if you would let me finish” or “stop interrupting me”, and gross, annoying and hurtful behaviors, including showing blunt disinterest to a thing someone is trying to get them interested in rather than politely dismissing themselves or politely asking to be left to themselves or to do something else with the person who is trying to entertain them;

20) self-centered/cares more about themselves than anyone else (for example may brush off a request from a friend’s request for some emergency merely because they desire more sleep or hoard money to the hurt of others though not necessarily out of greed);

21) arrogant (for example sees themselves as much better than most people yet having no evidence for this, and may boast aloud of some existing or non-existent trait they have (like clairvoyance) thinking that that trait gives them great uniqueness and a level of goodness or intelligence that makes them much more worthy of attention than other things, including people, and much more valuable than other things, and so if they are interrupted when they are wandering, rambling or ranting or interrupted at all, will make a reply like, “well if you would let me finish” or “don’t cut me off” even if what they are saying is not relevant or obvious, even if that is told to them, and will behave as if what they have to say is relevant, original/not obvious and profound and unable to be known by the person they are talking to unless they tell it to them);

22) are obsessed with finding uniqueness and non-repetition in others (for example may insult someone for not being original and “repeating” themselves) and without realizing it is implying that the uniqueness and originality that they are seeming is immoral and illogical (which they often call “random”) behavior;

23) often quick to lie to save or keep an appearance of being very unique, wise and or whatever their idea of “good” is;

24) able to lie very well due to not being hindered by a conscience.


25) will complain about and show frustration about the difficulty they had in learning subjects that require much patience and concentration which did not interest them (for example may say, “it was really hard to study these things”);

26) live a parasitic lifestyle/take advantage of others in order to survive and avoid having to work either mentally or physically hard for long;

27) will do complex mental work only if they see absolutely no other likely way for them to accomplish their long term goal of having an easy-going life (for example doing math work that bores them in order to get through college);

28) have no conscience (and therefore feel no regret or sorrow or guilt regardless of how badly or how many times they disobey God);

29) have poor emotional self-control/impulsive (for example will touch a person in a place where that person requests not to be touched if they think that they can escape being punished for it, though they may not be promiscuous or display their lust openly out of fear of being rejected for their inability to please another sexually and not having adequate sexually-pleasing physical characteristics);

30) are very resistant to accept that they’ve done wrong if it wasn’t intentional;

31) sadistic and cruel, taking glee in seeing someone else suffer or angry (for example will intentionally and repeatedly do wrong and laugh at seeing it greatly upset a person even if they see that their cruelty is causing great pain or damage to that person). Some when in an argument will be likely to say the other person when they upset them: “Wow. Such rage and sadness.”

32) They believe that they have an inherit right as a person (but not because of God’s word or the word of some other supposed god), to do whatever they desire to do (and may refer to it as their “free will”, which is a common dogma you can find in cults), so long as it is lawful, though like most people will question certain laws and believe some to be useless and pointless.

33) They don’t believe that there is a logical, discoverable reason for the occurrence for everything, for example, why they or someone else may go for a walk at a certain hour of the day and go to a certain street.

35) A psychopath, to protect his or her life-style, may attempt to ruin the life of, blackmail or murder the person who may ruin their life-style (for example if a psychopath suspects that someone is going to try to send them to jail, he may try to poison that person, or if he or she thinks he can get away with it, stab that person to death).

36) Paranoid.

37) Masking by jobs: Psychopaths will try to appear to be nothing special at first so as to not try to attract scrutiny, and prefer common, secretive, or low supervision jobs so that they can more easily get away with their crimes. If they feel they’ve achieved some level of so called untouchableness while still having obscurity, like having become a police detective or chief in some city that doesn’t stand out much or a high government intelligence agent, owner of a large private bank or corporation, or a drug lord, they will become more daring. They will also be more likely to have a job which gives them direct control over the life of another, like street police officer or chief, soldier, president (who exists in a corrupt government) soldier on a battlefield or general, priest, bishop, pastor, church elder, court judge, doctor, nurse, teacher of children, school principle, baby-sitter or abortionist. They may also settle for or also be a veterinarian. However, if the psychopath is the torture-loving type, and feels he won’t be able to have fun torturing anyone if the job he’s getting will prevent him from it, he may choose some other job that doesn’t appear to offer as much control, or none at all, or may even forsake having any job. For example if the psychopath things that as a president of some moral country, that he won’t be able to get away with hurting anyone because he’ll have a moral staff who is always guarding him and keeping track of who he meets, he may fear being exposed if someone realizes someone he met never came out of some room that they met him in if he were to kill them and store them there. So, if he or she feels that being a wanderer doing odd jobs will allow him to “have more fun” then he or she will be more likely to take such a path in life.

38) They have no empathy/unempathetic.

39) Remorseless.

Note: A narcissist can also be psychopathic (have no conscience) or chaopathic (impulsive without a conscience).

The Signs of a Narcissist

(Note: it’s important to know that the less knowledgeable and unintelligent a narcissist is, the less aware that he is doing the things listed here on purpose, so, the more ignorant one is, the less angry you should be at them). Unlike the psychopath, a non-psychopath narcissist does have empathy or a kind of twisted shallow empathy (not I didn’t say “shallow intelligence”), and that empathy isn’t consistent because the narcissist cares more about themselves and will readily act in a harmful way to whoever they feel compassion for. So for example if a narcissist is crying over the wrecked relationship of a beautiful and married couple due to the male not having enough money to care for his wife’s medical costs, and the wife crying over wanting to leave him for it to marry a richer man, and the narcissist has the money to help them, but knows that if she gives it to them, that she’ll likely become poor and fears obscurity from the loss of that money, she will most likely keep that money and quickly forget the married couple to get a cup of coffee. It may also be that the narcissist is not actually having concern for the couple (or whoever else) but is rather imagining themselves in such a relationship and it failing and being sad over it.

1) Narcissists are unloving/unkind/rude, though not always intentionally rude being that they are often unaware that they are hurting anyone’s feelings. This is a general/main sign with many resulting signs that stem from it as I’ve listed below.

2) They consider themselves to be more valuable and important than others without reason or evidence with the exception of those whom they consider to be special whom they will either consider equal or more valuable.

3) Frequently refer to themselves. Examples are often saying, “I,” “my,” “me,” especially in response to others after they say something. For example, if someone says to a narcissist, “We were hunting for bigfoot last year, but only found hairs,” the narcissist might respond, “I don’t believe in bigfoot, I’ve done a bit of research and I think it’s nonsense. When I was a kid I used to think about bigfoot a lot, but I realized it was a bunch of fantasies repeated by others. If only something other then hairs could be found you know? Why can’t bigfoot leave us behind his dead body for once, or at least a foot? But that’s just me maybe.” More arrogant narcissists will say, “we” sometimes, like, “we scientists” which is another sign listed below.

4) Impressed by whatever they do . In other words they hold their actions, thoughts and words in high esteem, like whatever they do is great and something to make a movie into. They are frequently entertained/showing/wonderment delight in whatever they say or do. For example, if they spill coffee on themselves they may suddenly point it out in a dramatic way, even with sound effects and childish-sounding disgust, saying, “Bleaaauw I just spilled coffee on myself! Ugh! Oh man!” and when it’s especially not an appropriate time, like when hosting a radio show. A proper expression would be, “Ooops, (or Aaah! I just spilled coffee on myself, pardon me while I dry off.” Another example of taking delight in their own qualities would be, for example, accentuating their speech, for example saying speaking like this, “These scientists were vvvERy baffled as to how one atom could cause another atom to move at the same time no matter how far away it was. They said, ‘How can this be?’ haha, so, they did the experiment again, and AGAIN they said, ‘What’s this? It’s happening again. And so they were stumped.” They may also talk with a snooty British accent, or trying to imitate a snooty British way of speaking without the accent. Sometimes a narcissist may seem to switch from the urgent to the take-it-easy type, but they may simply be resting, very tired, drunk, drugged or high.

5) Taking credit for things they haven’t done or had little to do with or despite not having contributed anything significant to what they are taking credit for, like building a house. For example, they may take credit for having painted a house even if they only pained half a plank, or if they were sued for a bad paint job, and not say anything about the lawsuit.

6) Extremes in the level of concern with appearance: either not caring or caring greatly. Their degree of concern for their appearance is also of opposite extremes when it comes to who they associate with, either not caring how others appear, or caring greatly. If however they realize they can only get something they want by being dressed in a certain way, they will take effort to conform, but if resenting being made to work and spend money to conform won’t go to any extreme to conform or to conform to something pointlessly extreme. These polar opposites they can have can damage the life of others in obvious ways, including the children of narcissists. For example if a child has two narcissist parents, and the mother is overly concerned with how they want their child to dress, and the child no longer wants to be dressed by their parent, and so goes to their dad, or the mom goes to their dad and the dad says he sees nothing wrong, either because he’s more concerned with something else or because he has no good understanding of what is a good look to have in the culture his child lives in (meaning what look will promote a good social life rather than being beat up), the father may say he sees nothing wrong, and then the child will be stuck in a conflict that may erupt in a bad argument, and both parents taking their anger out on the child for causing the argument, and later the child maybe even being beaten at school for looking like “a momma’s boy.” And it can result in continued bullying that leads to the child being killed either by themselves or others. Ironically and hypocritically a narcissist may be very concerned with their appearance, but not with that of their own children (a lack of empathy and feeling that they are more important is generally the reason).

The main concerns of a narcissist is how they visibly appear to themselves or their “good” reputation in the eyes of those that they admire, or that they are seen by others often or always, and to a lesser degree, how they appear in other ways (for example, how they sound or what their clothing or skin or possessions feel like).

7) Prideful. Narcissists take great pride in whatever they do. It can be seen in their facial expressions and heard in their tone of voice. That pride causes them to act in an arrogant way. Signs listed below.

8) Self-praising and boastful: Narcissists more often than others (and they love to do this) praise themselves as being wise, and depending on who they are talking to, as being either evil, or good or both, and framing evil as something good, either by their tone of voice, implication or directing saying that evil is good.

9) Snobbish (only associating with certain people that they perceive as being “special”.

10) In their mind, “special” is what anyone else would regard as special: that which is not usual. Like anyone else that depends on what they know to be the average at that time, and in what locations or for the entire world. They are repelled like anyone else however, by annoying or ugly people. Modern examples of specialness:

someone who gets:

a) more or unique attention (even negative attention)
b) perfect to nearly perfect grades in school (or the worst)
c) more success than others (or the least)

someone who:

d) uses rarely used words (or only simple words)
e) speaks eloquently (or nonsensically)
f) someone who speaks nonsensically in a humorous way
g) has something of great value
h) has a beautiful voice, very deep voice, very high pitched voice, is very: strong, active, tall, short, fat, skinny, light or dark-skinned, has a beautiful skin color, fine skin, etc., skinnier than others, fatter than others, more proportionate or overall more beautiful, or whatever is not the average, at least what they perceive to be the average look, but again, what the greater majority of people praise they will esteem (unless what is being esteemed has offended them, then they may side with the few, and if offended by everyone, will avoid socializing with all but a few and become reclusive)
i) someone who is good at persuading, even if it is by lying

In addition to snobbish behavior, they will use what they consider to be the words of the rich, special, romantic or wise, using “high” or rare words or phrases, trying to be eloquent.

11) Narcissists are strongly given to imitating what seems to them to be the most highly praised by the most people or by the most special people, so long as the group they go along with hasn’t offended them. How beautiful something is to them will also affect their choice of what to imitate. A healthy-minded person with wisdom however would imitate what is most beneficial for them even if for a time is painful or brings them sad or situations in which they will become emotionally upset.

An example of what narcissists may imitate is if they see some romantic leader figures. For example if seeing some movie about the civil war and see masses of soldiers dressed poorly, speaking glumly, covered in dust, dying one after another, and the generals speaking boldly, bossing others around, dressed well, covered with medals, sitting on horses upright while around them are soldiers look beaten down and are silent and doing whatever that general says, and when commanded by him suddenly coming to life with enthusiasm, the narcissist will choose to imitate the general, bossing others, sitting up right as if on a horse (or trying to get a real horse) and so on. And if in the same movie he sees those generals or and rich civilians socialize in some stately mansion using formal language and acting very “gentlemanly” and the women very “lady-like”, standing upright and bowing, the men kissing the hands of the women, all dressed finely, and when they get angry speaking in booming voices or shouting so everyone can hear their anger, he may imitate those behaviors too. If the narcissist is bisexual or homosexual he may imitate the women too or exclusively the women.

The acting can seem especially awkward to even other narcissists when it’s a young person who is doing this imitation, trying to seem scholarly and well-learned or like someone with great authority, but is still very young, without or with very little experience or discipline to justify such behavior.

Offense will change their view of what is best to the narcissist, or sour it, causing instability and conflict in their preference. They may openly express their resentment and dissatisfaction with whom they imitate or side with, sometimes even harshly and often, but their admiration will also at times come out. For example they may say, “The bankers of the world wreck and destroy and prance around like demons trying to eat up everything they can get their greedy little hands on. I mean, I admire their lust for life and at least doing something and taking charge unlike most brainwashed, pansy, sheeple Christians who just roll over and do whatever is told to them to do by the bankers and monster government, I mean I’d rather be those bankers and some wicked government official giving orders and being worshiped then the zombies just letting themselves get hit around, at least they are living rather than being slow-killed by the wicked, like a bunch of idiots…” If the narcissist claims to be a Christian, such statements in bold would betray if they were a sincere Christian or not and if they truly believed in a God of justice and rewards or not.

12) Only using and ingesting certain things and strongly resisting others. For example, insisting on using their own coffee in a restaurant, bringing it along with them in a thermos, or using their own cups when there’s no reason to believe that they’re likely to be hurt by using the cups of the restaurant. As far as food and drink, will only eat and drink particular things, even to their own hurt. Nonsensically they may take many supplements and herbs and yet knowingly counteract all those things by eating things containing refined sugar (which counteract the benefits of helpful nutrients).

An example would be only drinking certain wines, or wines that taste good, or pretentiously trying to get someone to leave them alone with a snobbish hand gesture, like with the arm up and fingers down and then flicking the fingers upward. They do this thinking that it appears to make them appear to be rich or very important or to make themselves feel that way, and will do this sometimes to get more attention (by trying to get others thinking that they are royalty, of a high status or rich.

Examples of obscure forms of particularness would be only using software that is meant for a certain operating system, like MacOS or Windows 7, or only software made by the makers of those operating systems, only sharing certain audio file types, like FLACS, or WAVS and shunning people for not doing the same.

Depending on the intelligence of the narcissist, they may only stick with behavioral snobbery including modification of their tone of voice. It depends on what they learn is the behavior of the wise, rich and special. Examples of unusual words or pretentious phrases they might use: “drek”, “ergo”, “notwithstanding”, “intricate complexities”, “tight co-evolution”, “I see you’ve made quite a…”, “please do”, “do say,” “honestly I don’t know,” “may I suggest”, “me thinks [that] you”, “my dear friend”, “well of course,” including Shakespearean or Shakespearean-like phrases). Or if too mentally lazy, ignorant or stupid to learn “hard” or rare words, simply call themselves smart, intelligent and wise and tell people who don’t see things as they do as not being able to notice the “obvious” and that they are “ridiculous” or “absurd” if not agreeing with the “obvious”. Because of their general hatred of logic, work and addiction to praise, they will compensate with the words they use and behavior, so much so that they will often say illogical things.

13) Narcissists are prone to repeating the same things to the same people no matter how many times they’ve said it already and no matter how recent, like, “I’m paying the bills not you, so you can’t argue.” This seems to be due to a combination of things: stunted learning (so that they never have anything new to say, feeling that certain things are more important than others (even if they aren’t), to try to show their superiority by trying to make the other person feel inferior (as in the narcissist believes or wants it to appear that the person they are repeating too is stupid or too stupid to remember no matter how many times the same thing is repeated to them), or to trying and dominate the person they repeat to (meaning as a way to try and break them down by wearing them out), or as a way of bringing the attention back on themselves. For example in a radio interview a guest narcissist might ask the host, “Do you know of any red planet named after a god of war?” And if the host says, “Mars,” the narcissist may repeat that back to get people to refocus their admiration back on him as “the wise/wisest one”.

14) Belittling. An example would be repeating what someone says in confirmation. For example, if a narcissist asks you, “Do you know why the planet Mars has a red coloration?” And you reply, “Iron oxide.” They may repeat with a that’s right tone saying, “Iron oxide, that’s right,” or simply, “That’s right,” as if to seem like a high and wise teacher and that you are their student or a stupid person who needs their help to know the truth. Belittling could be grouped together with the “prideful” sign, since it’s so similar to being snobbish. Such repeated repetition could be another sign of narcissism as could confirmation, as in saying, “That’s right.” if there was no belittling involved. Another way of belittling would be to say to a person, “Obviously,” or “Of course,” as if they were stupid for not being aware of the obvious or what they claim is obvious.

15) Delusions of grandeur / Grand delusions. Signs of this are:

a) Seeing themselves as more beautiful than they really are or overall beautiful;

b) seeing themselves as more important than they really are or overall important.

An example of them seeing themselves as more important then they really are would be if you were being driven in a car by a male narcissist who is lost while driving, and they recently heard news about someone trying to become a president who was being accused of sexual harassment by a female, and they believed the accusation was to stop that person from becoming president, and you then ask the lost narcissist to stop so you can ask a female for directions, the narcissist may say, “No, she might accuse me for sexual harassment,” even though that narcissist had no plans for becoming a president or anything similar and were retired. This example is also used in the paranoia sign.

16) Privileged communication. They may think that because of their goodness or specialness that they are able to have direct communication with God, spirits or aliens, deluding themselves into thinking that they are hearing God, spirits or aliens say things to them or that when they speak that they are heard by them.

17) False humility. Though they see themselves as more important then they are, in order to exalt themselves they will feign humility. For example they may say, “I’m not that important, when I die I’ll be forgotten,” but though they say that, they may only mean that they aren’t popular (and only because the world is too stupid to recognize their goodness, moral superiority, and good achievements/deeds). They may also believe that those who are more important then them are some people who really aren’t more important. For example in their ignorance may imagine that those who are morally superior are Buddhists, or some particular kind of Buddhists. Their arrogant acts and words also show they don’t truly believe themselves to be “nothing special.”

18) If they realize that some belief that have has resulted in or is causing great damage and that it is likely to be soon known as such to someone that they admire, in whose mind they don’t want to lowered in, may try to deceive (or even themselves) by pretending that they never had that belief, or that they doubted it, or that it wasn’t or hardly was their fault, and try to assure that person that the damage will be forgotten or fixed soon.

18) Speaking for All. In their dismissing of those who disagree with their important beliefs, will then “speak for all”, making claims that “everyone” believes what they say they believe, and not acknowledging the existence or significance of those who disagree. For example will say, “We” or “We scientists believe that an asteroid wiped out all the dinosaurs and that the dinosaurs then turned into birds and believe that this one fossil here is proof that all the birds came from the dinosaurs that were all killed” and refusing to acknowledge the millions of scientists who disagree as being scientists or as being insignificant, and by so doing, imply that all scientists believe in whatever they say they believe in (speaking for all, including the disregarded scientists). Not limiting themselves to simply speaking for a group, a narcissist will also speak the entire world in the same way. Due to their disregard they will also end up stereotyping,

19) Arbitrary. Like the psychopath, they will use arbitrary reasons as evidence for what they claim to be true, for example say that “well everyone believes this” which implies that if the majority of people believe in something or all, that that belief must then be true, but if they realize that they are in the minority in what they believe, will simply dismiss the majority as stupid, ignorant, inhuman or insignificant, or make up lies about them to make it appear as if they can’t be trusted.

20) Their motives are usually self-serving, even with people they admire, their “good” deeds are to gain praise and greater love from them, not simply to make them happy at the expense of their time, energy or possessions.

21) Though seemingly contradictory to being a narcissist, they may isolate themselves in order to get others to wonder where they are and how they doing (just as a person will or feign harming or killing themselves in order to get sympathetic attention). Instead of going into hiding, they may radically change their appearance (or try to) to keep from being recognized or to restore or enhance their appearance.

22) If they can, they will display one or more images of themselves prominently or in great amounts for themselves and others to obsess on, and if they can’t, will try to be in public view often.

23) They idolize or obsess on those whom they believe to be superior in some way (with the exception of the “Reformed Christian” God, which they regard as boring, petty or a person who over-reacts), like in beauty, wealth, strength or eloquence or their fame or high status.

24) They are easily offended by criticism against themselves, regardless of whether or not the judgment is right and will be quick to show their annoyance and disapproval even going so far as to say that all judgment is wrong in order to gain the love and support of others who hate being criticized.

25) Though not necessarily intending to be rude, they will expresses blunt disinterest in whatever disinterests them if coming from a person that they find of little significance to sustaining their life-style, which especially includes persons who won’t pander to them.

26) They crave attention, and if not satisfied with the amount they get may make up imaginary relationships, imaginary close relationships or even imaginary people to get attention from, when they are don’t get the attention that they desire. . They may even go so far as to create false evidence to strengthen their belief in these people (for example may make imaginary Internet user accounts or email accounts supposedly used by these imaginary people and sending email to themselves from these accounts). This is either an insanity or they believe that they can, by their mere will, will things into reality, in other words, “wish” things into reality (including their being right about something).

27) They strongly avoid associating with anyone that they believe is not unique, but is instead common, and will as much as possible only associate with those whom in their minds is being given special attention, for example for business, academic, athletic or altruistic achievements (unless those achievements are done by someone whom they realize is a Calvinist type Christian, more commonly known as a “fundamentalist Christians” (though the phrase “fundamentalist” Christian also includes anti-Calvinist Christians)) or “negative” attention, for example someone being given attention for what they perceive to be some out of the ordinary crime or if a there is excited behavior being made over the crime by the one being investigated or accused or the ones investigating or accusing them.

28) Narcissists will do things that they believe are deserving of praise, but which aren’t. They also exaggerate the help they’ve given and will even entirely imagine a helpful act they’ve never performed.

29) One of the defining traits of a narcissist, which everyone thinks of a narcissist as, is that they see themselves as over all being beautiful. However that alone doesn’t make them one, since a person can be generally beautiful, however a narcissist will see themselves beautiful even if they are not, even when they see that they have many flaws like being obese, face severely covered in acne, many decaying teeth, many stray hairs coming out of their face, very poorly combed hair, and so on.

30) Strange behaviors (due to illogical assurance of being so good or beautiful that no one would care or love such behaviors): A narcissist, though being very concerned about their public image, is so confident of themselves as having a good image, either moral or physically, that they may have odd physical behaviors, gross ones even. For example the man in the hat above (the picture in this post) would in front of anyone stick his fingers in his mouth, seemingly picking at something and draw out his fingers with strings of spit. This is something older preteens, young adults and older adults would not do unless alone and which if they did, would have a napkin or cloth ready to remove the spit or who would immediately wipe it off on the side of their pants, a tree or outside wall, which this person did not do. Another example off acting physically odd in public would be sniffing your fingers, like the cyberstalker Jimli Oxley appears to be doing in the above photo, or sticking your fingers in your mouth and drawing out saliva like the one with the faux fur hat, or combing your hair into a bizarre form that only mentally ill people would find attractive.

31) Chameleon (adaptable image and life-rules): A narc., soc. or psych. all see evil as a good thing, even virtuous, the more sophisticated ones see it as some evolutionary advantage, and as natural, because it exists in nature. Because of that opinion, they will, depending on what a person says to them and what others have said, boast that they are evil OR good or both at the same time. For example:

A narcissist (etc.) named Robert is confronted by a decent person named Daniel who tends to do what is good, who says to Robert: “Antonio is an evil person and liar” (while Robert realizes Antonio is hiding behind them), reply, “I’m evil and a liar too,” or add to it “you need to be to survive in this world, you can’t be a good all the time, that will get you killed, but if that’s how you want to life I won’t judge you.” Or Robert may say, “Evil is a good thing” or “What’s wrong with being evil or lying?” etc. Or if a narc. is praised for his evil, and no good person is around, show acceptance of such praise, maybe with a “high five” with the person who praised them and/or saying something like, “I’m a clever guy” or “I’m wise.”

Or, if a narcissists hears a friend next to them praise someone for their gun expertise, may make up a lie about having some expertise or gun-use experience themselves, or having a friend (even an imaginary friend) or an elite acquaintance who is an expert with guns or who has something directly to do with guns, like selling them. After a while you may tend to notice a narcissists doing this so often you may eventually feel suspicion that they are lying, because you realiz that it is highly unlikely that the narcissist always or often “knows” or “has experience with” whatever someone brings up to them.

Another form of chameleon behavior is masking by jobs/job-masking: Narcissists, wanting to be seen as very special, will likewise try live that lifestyle, and if wise and tolerant enough to get a job, will do so. Some may think narcissists would go after jobs like acting mainly, in order to become famous, but it’s not true, because narcissists have trouble discerning real from fiction so much so, that they even see the movies and shows actors in as all true to life and confuse how greater attention can be obtained, so for example if they see Miss Super Beautiful Rich Woman in a mansion talking to one person and acting like a snob, and then see them at some red carpet event being showered with flashes of cameras, they may think that behaving like a snob EVEN IN PRIVATE or with just a few people around (special people) will get them fame. They think: these special people will spread word of my great behavior to others, forgetting the reality: which is that the fame of the actor is mainly being spread by their behavior on camera. They confuse acting with what is good behavior in other words. And if a narcissist was taught or sees that humble isolated people can also get great or special attention (which is much harder to achieve for obvious reasons) they will also try that out in their attention-getting methods. The differences in behavior between narcissists are for the same reasons as anyone else: the environment they were in and how they were raised. That doesn’t mean that if a parent is religious that the narcissist will be too, because depending on how much freedom and understanding they acquire, a narcissist child may rebel and became anti-religious, though they will still have a strong attachment to their mother if she is still alive and raised them enough to the point where it had some large effect on their personality, even if it resulted in a rebellion against that mother’s religion. A narcissist may also try out jobs that endanger their lives, or try hard to obtain them, like solider, warrior or police officer. Though some might think they’d avoid it thinking that they are too great to allow themselves to be put in harms way, some narcissists will instead think that they are invincible due to their amazing character (which again is because of how they were raised and environment, like seeing non-family members acting arrogant, including on TV).

Jobs they may try harder than others to obtain will most likely be are leadership jobs (including ones in religion like pastor, elder, bishop priest, or pope), expertise jobs (like “expert researcher” or scholar), authoritative jobs (like that of a judge), hospitality jobs, medical jobs (including psychiatric), psychological jobs like psychologist or “counselor”, science jobs (including astronomy or debunking or researcher of anything) and legal jobs including policing as in police officers aka cops). They may also go for a way of life in place of a job which though seemingly lowly to many is also seen as high by others, such as “Yogi” or “mystic”, witch or a monk of some kind, and if they feel they are not getting enough attention, will make themselves more visible and be more active, even doing what is very silly or plainly wrong like burning money or throwing away gold coins (and may claim the wrong had a hidden good purpose, like to teach people to not be materialistic). A pure narcissist will avoid jobs with a high injury risk factor, like being a street cop or field soldier, and so it will be difficult for them to become police detectives or high military officers unless they are already in a government position in which they can use to simply insert themselves into such positions or declare themselves to be.

32) A narcissist fears the loss of support of their mother or father, though it seems to me there is more of an attachment to the mother, this may be because of lack of a father in their lives or who associates with them much or in a loving way. They don’t feel love for anyone in their family, but only a fear of losing their support for money, transportation, housing, to keep their lives stable, keeping people to leech off of and abuse or for meeting new people to leech off and abuse.

33) Secretive (see sign 13 for the psychopath).

34) Invincible or Paranoid. These mindsets might be due to delusions of grandeur. An example of narcissist paranoia: Suppose you ask a male narcissist who is lost while driving, and they recently heard news about someone trying to become a president who was being accused of sexual harassment by a female, and they believed the accusation was to stop that person from becoming president, and you then ask the lost narcissist to stop so you can ask a female for directions, (here’s the example:) the narcissist may say, “No, she might accuse me for sexual harassment,” even though that narcissist had no plans for becoming a president or anything similar and were retired, and if the females in that area weren’t known for making such accusations. The paranoia is also wildly irrational in other ways, to the point of extreme absurdity. For example if a father finds a virus on his computer, he may ask his six-year-old-child, who shows no understanding of computer-programming at all, “Did you put a virus on my computer?” as if the child had created the virus or knew where to find them and how to infect a computer with it, even in a time when there was no Internet and when few people understood computers, and when the child clearly doesn’t have the learning or desire to do anything with a virus. A narcissist may, instead of being paranoid, think themselves to be invincible or more powerful than people they are not (a delusions of grandeur) and could easily get himself or others killed by doing something that he thinks he can defeat or control, but really can’t.

35) Narcissists are either stingy or compulsive givers. Of course the stingy type is the worst. They treat needy people, even their own children with a tight fist and are repeatedly abusive to them by making it seem as if they never have money to spare (I’m not talking about a poor narcissist of course). This creates strife and despair as the narcissist father or mother denies their children basic things they need or attempts to obtain worship and simultaneously make them feel guilty for attempting to obtain money from them or expecting it from them. Narcissist children will also be either stingy or compulsive givers to their needy parent or parents.

36) Narcissists are of of the “take it easy” or the urgent, in-a-hurry, disaster awaits, over-dramatizing type. The urgent type often exaggerates everything including by saying something is less important than it really is. For example if a child was bought three bikes by their narcissist father at a cost of $99 each, and all three were stolen through no fault of the child, and the bikes were stolen every three years, the father, not wanting to spend anymore money on bikes, might give the reason, “You’ve had five bikes stolen now, I’ve spent $600 on bikes, so I’m not buying anymore bikes,” and as if the bikes had all been stolen within a short period of time in order to make it seem as if the child had gotten no use out of the bikes and had therefore entirely wasted their father’s money. The urgent type often make it seem as if something needs to get done immediately, walking quickly ahead of others, or rushing, or as if disaster will occur if something isn’t done right away or if you don’t watch your step when going down stairs, especially if you’ve got food in your hands and might spill it and waste the money they spent buying it and ruin their carpet or cause them to spend money to clean it. They either truly believe that, or are being pretentious, putting on a show to make themselves look important and like you need their help, even going so far, for example, if you were to spill their food, tell you to go away as they work themselves up trying to clean up your mess, because, you’re too stupid and inefficient to do it yourself (despite what they say). Sometimes they may be too tired or in pain to clean, and will then be angry if you don’t rush to clean yourself and do an excellent job doing so, or, if they are very vain, will, even if very weary and in pain, and though you aren’t and have the time to clean, will still dismiss you to hurt themselves cleaning up the food you dropped. Ironically narcissists’ belittling and badgering can cause the disasters they don’t want to happen or at least pretend they don’t want to happen, because it distracts others from being able to keep from accidents and keeping a calm temper in their interactions. In that way, urgent-type narcissists are a complete threat to the well-being of others and themselves as they raise the chance of physical and emotional injury and death, including the kind caused by suicide. Another form of exaggeration is when they accentuate their tone of voice to make themselves appear to sound wise when they aren’t or exaggerating how someone else felt. They may increase the speed of speech and place emphasis on certain words. They may speak quickly to seem quick-thinking and alert (to impress people) or trying to speak like a stereotypical old wise-man, or deep-voiced as if they were powerful and mighty, or speaking with a drawn out tone to try to convey a sense of wonderment. And they may place emphasis on certain words to make something seem more important than it is or to make it seem like someone cared about something greatly, though they didn’t, like, “He was VERY impressed.”

37) Narcissists can tend to ramble unless perhaps if they are the shy type, because they want attention and praise, and so their judgement about when to stop talking is overridden. If they don’t ramble, they can tend to take forever to make a point, either by taking forever to finish a sentence, or including excessive details. Remember they will resent being interrupted or criticized for not getting to the point sooner, so unless it’s urgent that they get to the point quickly, either excuse yourself as politely as possible or bear the pain and try to focus on something else to keep from showing them contempt.

38) Narcissists hate to be interrupted. They may hide this in public, by abstaining from pointing out when they are interrupted, or at least not point it out with a resentful or self-important tone that they were. They may show their anger in another way however for the interruption, including by repeatedly interrupting the other person or talking for an overly long time so that the other person isn’t able to say as much. They may also imagine they are being interrupted if someone is talking for longer than they like, and feeling as if time is being taken away from them from being able to show off what they know or from simply being able to talk. They may say things like, “Let me get a word in,” or “Let me finish,” or “Stop talking over me,” or “You act like you know everything (to get you to stop talking so that they can be the center of attention).” And, being that the narcissist is arbitrary, may then find fault with you if you don’t reply enough back to what they are saying, and may ask often if you’re listening to them or not.

39) Denying responsibility for bad desires and actions based on those feelings. They tend to deny responsibility for a bad thing they’ve done by implying that because others do wrong, they may do so too or everyone else who does wrong must be punished first before they are. For example a son caught stealing may say, “But my brother also stole.” They may also say they were tricked into doing wrong, or mislead. Christian ones are prone to excusing or trying to rationalize away their immoral thoughts, words, and acts or mistakes into being necessary, and therefore believe they shouldn’t be sent to Hell and still at least qualify to be loved by God if they believe they don’t have it at the moment (like for not having given God permission to to love them). They may tend to blame or always blame Satan for anything bad they do, saying, “So, really, it was Satan who did the wrong, I was just a puppet,” or implying something similar or basically that. This can be a contradiction if they teach also that nothing can influence their will, not even God, yet blame Satan if they do wrong. They may even blame God if they believe in destiny, and say they were destined to sin (which, by the way, isn’t what so called “Calvinist” type Christians believe.) A narcissist may also simply refuse to admit an immoral act or unintentional mistake. Usually, but not always, a narcissist will rationalize away immoral behavior fit it’s severe, or twist the facts of the bad behavior to make it seem less bad. They may rationalize it into being excusable, like having been confused, naive, under a great amount of stress, which though may all be true, still will resist taking responsibility for it if no one is praising them for it, or are being more condemned for it then praised. If the mistake is petty enough, or so clearly wrong to them that they fear it might make the other person wonder if they are insane or not, and that they will spread their observation in public, especially to those who would be able to get to the facts with the most ease,  the narcissist, without much pointing of it out, admit on their own, though probably with a begrudging or disappointed tone that they made a  mistake, and will likely not say they were sorry for it or feel sorry about it, unless they think they can fool some significant amount of people into admiring them for their acting remorseful, or someone they think is special, or to get something from the one they are saying sorry to, like some book they want, or a gold coin, or, to prevent some severe retaliation they fear is likely, like being sued in public for something that did great damage to the person they say they are sorry to.

40) Narcissists are often contrary to those they feel are inferior to them or who have angered them. For example if a son says to his narcissist father, “I plan on starting my own cleaning business”, the father, if angry at his son for not agreeing with him throughout his life, especially strongly disagreeing with him, or worse, doing so in public, is likely to thoughtlessly respond with something like, “There’s too much competition in the cleaning industry,” or “You can get sued if someone slips if you don’t dry out their floor well enough and people are looking to make a buck all the time.” And if the son says, “You’re just being negative again,” the father may respond with, “Son I know what I’m talking about, I know about these things, people will lie.” And if the son says, “You’re being just being paranoid, I’ll tell the judge the facts and document everything beforehand.” And the father, still unwilling to admit any error out of pride, will again be contrary, perhaps responding with, “That doesn’t matter, if they have a report from a doctor showing they were injured then you’re going to lose. Judges like to side with the accusers and will feel sorry for the person who says they are injured.” And the son may reply with, “I’ll have a prepaid lawyer and insurance, and what’s your evidence that a judge will side with the accuser all the time?” And the father is likely to again respond contrarily, with perhaps something like, “I know from experience what judges are like, I went to law school. And insurance can be expensive. You need money to make money.” (And hence why it’s best not to even bother replying to a narcissist if you’ve upset them too many times or in a few ways they found very offensive. They will be looking to prove their superiority and mentally beat you down for upsetting them.)

41) Ignoring and dodging to win an argument. Narcissists will ignore certain things in an argument if they don’t know how to refute them or realize they are right. For example in the above example I pointed out a son mentioning insurance to keep himself safe from injury lawsuits, and the narcissist father didn’t mention that point. Narcissists will also ignore an argument against them completely in order to keep themselves from appearing to be wrong, and my feign not having noticed what was said, perhaps using some arbitrary excuse like, “I’m working on my computer, I can’t be distracted,” or “I have to pay attention to the road,” even if no cars or walls are around and it’s a long, wide and flat road slowing going up hill with no turns in sight and nothing to obscure their view.

42) Narcissists hate to be contradicted (yet hypocritically have no problem being contrary to others). And being that they hate being contradicted they also hate being argued with and disbelieved. However, that doesn’t mean they won’t change their mind about something ever, like that creationism is true and evolution false. Some may wonder what can get an arrogant person to change their mind, and my only reason would be is if God allowed them to have a change of heart (and a change of heart often affects the mind so that it follows the heart) or if God intervened directly by changing their heart. That doesn’t mean that knowledge is unimportant to a change of mind for anyone, because, of course, obvious information which contradicts a person is hard to disbelieve or say is wrong if everyone else knows it contradicts them. A narcissist might have a change of beliefs or pretend to change his beliefs if he sees that he will get more praise and attention if he does, especially if he feels those of some belief, like Darwinian Evolution Theory, being repeatedly humiliated for their belief and as a result, not being able to maintain a happy disposition or healthy life any longer and not getting much praise as a result. A rebuke can contradict them. For example if you rebuke them for lying, by saying, “It was wrong for you to lie!” they’ll hate you for it or be displeased with you for it, perhaps not always, but in general, especially if it happens often.

43) Narcissists hate to be argued with (and disbelieved/not trusted). Going beyond simply telling them something that is the opposite of what they believe or say is true (as in simply contradicting them with a short sentence), narcissists also hate to be argued with (contradicting them repeatedly in a row can qualify as arguing, at least if reasoning is employed in the contradicting statements) and even if it’s peaceful arguing. It upsets them even worse if they are being angrily argued with. Multiple rebukes (angry corrections) can also be arguing if reasoning is used, as opposed to just saying, “You were wrong to lie, you should not have done that, what’s wrong with you?”

44) Narcissists hate to learn more about certain subjects they believe they’ve already mastered even if there is clearly more important things to be learned. For example if someone a narcissist sees as special or legitimate gives them a Masters Degree in psychology who is officially permitted to do so, they may think that there is nothing more important that could possibly be mastered, or that no one with a less prestigious degree could teach them anything of much value. This doesn’t mean they won’t learn anything new or won’t even make a radical change in their beliefs, just that they hate to have to make such changes due to the effort they spent getting to learn what they did and if they based their work or life on it.

45) Narcissists are stubborn, as in, resistant to change. Though they can’t be changed from their “superior-to-you, I deserve to do what I want to no matter what” attitude, they can be persuaded to change certain behaviors. For example if they are in the habit of locking up their child in their room for days if the child does something wrong and not deserving of such treatment, it can be hard to get the narcissist to stop doing that without the threat of ruining their reputation. Stubbornness can also show up as damage-denial. Because of their high vanity and pride, they will be highly resistant to admitting if they have some belief that is wrong if that belief has or is causing great damage or annoyance, unless it’s to appease someone they admire or are facing extreme punishment.

46) Childish retaliation. A narcissist will retaliate in childish ways, even to their own children. For example, if a child contradicts his dad, or asks why his dad laughs a certain way, the dad may take offense and as a result not find out what is wrong with a toy that brakes when his child asks him too, and even show glee in refraining from delaying or not giving any help to his child. Another example would be if one were a news informant, like a radio show host, one who was trying to show everyone the world was falling apart, and so depended on new and strong evidence for such, who rejects any such evidence when presented to him if it comes from a source that criticizes him. Or to put it simply, rejecting help or even praise from someone, like a dad rejecting help or praise from a first born son of upstanding character merely he pointed out a fault in his dad or strongly voicing his disagreement with his dad.

47) Easily offended/angered.

48) Quick to take offense/angered.

49) Inappropriate angry joking (as opposed to a plain insult). A narcissist will make angry jokes (something they start to learn through playing as kids, pretending to harm others for fun and joking about being hurt). Though such play may not be bad in and of itself, taking pleasure in the thought of harming others and making it seem like something funny all the time can have a warping and desensitizing effect on a child and adult. An angry joke would be saying something unfunny, flat, dry, like, “I’ll run everyone over to get a parking space,” with a disturbingly serious-sounding or arrogant tone rather than a spontaneous and cute tone which would indicate an absolute absence of any hostility. The jokes are usually unfunny. An angry joke might also come from being sexually frustrated, so that they may say, “Oh, all women are stupid, you can trust me.” Or from offense, like a female stepping ahead of him in line without asking, and the narcissist responding with, “Females are so stupid aren’t they?”

50) Sexually promiscuity and lewdness or avoidance of sexuality. A narcissist is either the sexually promiscuous type, and may dress in such a way as to show off or accentuate what are generally considered a person’s most private parts (breasts and genitals) and may be very or frequently flirtatious and overly sexual as if “hyper” or crazed or will be stand-offish, as if too holy or precious to be touched or above sex and “superior” by not being able to be influenced by the beauty of the opposite sex.

51) Extremes in personality. For example a narcissist is either the shy type or an outgoing and very talkative (mass-attention seeking type). Narcissists also are, it appears to me, people with personality extremes. For example they are either shy or outgoing, domineering or submissive (a submissive one will still be manipulative and only submissive to another narcissist or someone arrogant and domineering), pretentiously humble (false humility) or boastful, stingy or overly giving.

In my opinion, a shy type (one that what’s contact with only a few people) could be mistaken for a mass-attention seeking type if they seemed to be talking to many people often, like if they were a radio show host trying to get as much attention as possible for some amount of time. But really they are isolating themselves in their radio booth and if going out to make a movie, are only meeting various people in order to make the movie. For example, if a shy type felt his freedom was in danger, he might due to fear of it being taken away, try to incite “the masses” to prevent whoever he fears from taking it away, or try to scare everyone into submitting to his wishes. For example, he might pretend to have special insight into a coming attack, and then scare everyone by saying a nuclear missile is headed their way, as a way of scaring everyone into listening to him, and even if it doesn’t come true, hopes that he sounded sincere enough that people will still look to him as someone with potential special information about future nuclear missile attacks. If a clever liar, he may even say, “Okay, I don’t want to use false sources again I will only report things I can verify,” in order to gain more trust after having gotten their attention with his scare tactics. A narcissist who is the type that doesn’t want much contact but who puts himself in front of many people will resent such a situation, because he feels he’s being forced to give up his privacy in order to remain a mostly private person. So he may say things like, “I would rather be fishing then here,” while talking to many people, which might be mistaken for meaning, “I just want some peace” which is true, but the narcissist also means that he doesn’t actually care about the people he’s trying to rally to the cause of protecting his freedom, even if he’s saying, “I want us all to be free.” The other type of narcissist though, the highly extroverted type, wants to be around people often. They love the attention, though because of their self-centeredness, will be prone to stepping on the emotional toes of those who give them attention.

I’m also guessing that being that narcissists have personality extremes, that they are more prone to getting bipolar disorder (having poor emotional control so that when finding something funny will find it much more funny than is normal, or finding something sad, will find it much more sad than is normal, or being angry at something, be much more angry than is normal).

52) Overbearing to children. Narcissists will often not give their kids mental breathing room. For example, to assert their authority, they may give a child an arbitrary rule that is nonsensical and not based on anything rational, just to make their child feel inferior to them and to assert more control over them. A specific example would be a dad telling his son not to open his PC even though the son can easily upgrade and knows all about computers while his dad is ignorant about them. The dad may give an arbitrary reason like, “Whenever you open one up something bad happens.” Another example is one I found on the Internet here: Notice how member “sionarah” keeps a close watch over whatever her daughter does on the Internet, and displays a class sign of narcissism, ignoring that she may be about to humiliate her daughter but showing no concern that she is the one who is about to “lift her skirt” so to speak, and that the daughter might not want her mom to get into her private thoughts. Parental behavior like that can lead to a division very quickly, and the children becoming suicidal as they continue to deal with callous over-controlling behavior.

53) No remorse.

Another sign of psychopathy, sociopathy and narcissism is that they all tend to be either atheists or religious people who believe that they can earn eternal peace, perfection, God’s love or immortality, (or that God or some god or goddess or both loves them no matter what) and that God must allow them to depart from his reward of eternal peace, perfection immorality if they will it. The more extreme narcissists still believe that God should and will still love them despite those deliberately evil acts of rejecting him, others will boastfully admit that God would hate you for such an act, trying to make themselves appear to be wise for their admission of that “fact”. This tendency towards atheism or a God or goddess that is subservient to or who tolerates their will, and particularly, for those that believe in God, one who gives in to their desire to somehow get rid of him if they wanted to, is due to their self-centered way of thinking. It also makes themselves feel equal to or greater than God. The Christian ones have a hard time denying that they can defeat God, so they fall back on what seems as close as possible to defeating them and getting their own way without his interference, and that is to “go to Hell” by their own choice, even though they read and hear that it’s by his choice to send them there. It’s a childish resentment and attempt to make it appear as if God can’t shame or humiliate them. In other words, it’s not God who would ever punish them like a parent punishing their child, it’s they who would of their own goodness voluntarily punish themselves, “I’m sending myself to Hell by allowing God to send me there, so I’m still in control of my life,” is basically what they think, or at least want others to believe. And in a way, it’s a denial that God can hurt them and make them feel pain and sadness and as a result of suffering those things, be shamed. So it’s as if they are saying, “God can’t hurt me or shame me, I’m still a happy person so you can’t gloat when I appear to be being forced to Hell, in pain and sad.” But when they really are faced by God and Hell, they won’t be fooling anyone with such claims. A Christian narcissist when given advice or correction is also prone to defend themselves by mentioning some good deed they do or their good way of life, like to say, “I love God, I do my fair share of helping old ladies across the street,” or “I work at soup kitchen for the homeless” or to appeal to their position, like, “I’m head of the soup kitchen for the homeless” or, “I’m the lead player of my soccer team and I work hard to earn my money,” rather than, “I was once a sinner, but confessed my sins and accepted Christ’s death for me, but your advice isn’t right because you misunderstand this word you’ve used, it really means “_____” according to dictionaries, including an accepted Bible dictionary.” If they realize or sense the advice or correction/criticism of them is or might be partially, They will usually avoid being specific and avoiding logical reasoning and just quickly accuse you of being wrong, judgmental, negative, pessimistic, hypocritical, the one who really deserves to be judged, someone who might not be saved yourself, and will be vague and not explain their insult or judgmental back on you. Or they may ignore you or reply indirectly without acknowledging your comment or questioning, like saying to their friends, “I was happy to help those kids today.” This is because to confess some fault would hurt the narcissists’ false image. They might also feel that to admit the error they’ve committed or that they could improve something about themselves would be legitimizing what they perceive as an “attack” on their character or that they really are a Christian even, and really do love God, despite even numerous obvious signs showing the opposite of their belief. The most extreme type of narcissist would be one who believed themselves to be a god, God, or the most extreme of all, greater than God.

Signs That Can Be Mistaken for Narcissism Disorder

1) Interrupting. If a person believes themselves to be right and is being repeatedly criticized wrongly by the other person, naturally the wronged person will repeatedly try to break the flowing criticisms of the person criticizing them, especially if they are short on time, or very damaging things are being said about them in front of others, and if the person criticizing them is about to do something that might harm themselves or the one they are criticizing (because they actually believe the bad things they are saying, like if the criticizer is says, “You’re a dangerous murderer” and  then reaches for a gun to shoot you).

2) Boasting. If a person is being wrongly said to be evil and lacking gin any good deeds to show themselves to be a better than decent or good person, then logically the person being criticized might start mentioning good deeds they’ve done, even listing them and referring to witnesses as evidence or some other forms of evidence, and that might come across as boasting or being self-praising.

3) Paranoid. If a person is being repeatedly wronged, like robbed and lied about, like due to constantly being around evil people and not being able to get away frequently from such people, then it’s not unreasonable that such a person might begin to constantly express their desire to not get into trouble or to not want to do anything risky that would put them in danger of losing what they own or their reputation being put in danger by doing something that might look bad to others.

4) Using “high” words an trying to be eloquent. If someone was criticized for being unintelligent, or is trying to make money by being poetical or trying to come across as assured that they are correct rather than give the false impression that they are doubtful or unsure of what they are saying, they might be incorrectly perceived as being pretentious and

5) Dressing to cover up themselves up from giving off any hint of sexual lewdness may be viewed as others if it’s not cold outside or mosquitoes around and if they dress is flagrant. It may just be the person had nothing else to where at the time that would suffice or because it was dirt and ugly and so just used some unusual form of dress they acquired for some reason other than to look like something they aren’t, like a wizard, or prophet of God, or some ancient scholar.

6) Quick to anger. If may be that if a person is quick to anger or makes an angry response back that was undeserved, that it was because that a person recently experienced a tragedy, or was recently attacked in very wrong and hurtful ways or is often, and so is too angry, sad or worn out by it to reply. They may also just be tired.

7) Refraining from arguing/replying to a criticism. It may be that a person recently experienced a tragedy, or was recently attacked in very wrong and hurtful ways or is often, and so is too angry, sad or worn out by it, to give a reply. They may also just be tired.

8) Frequent attention to appearance or how they sound. This may be due to being criticized often for how they look or sound or noticed something unsightly about themselves or because they are trying to win the love of someone.

Things like this need to be considered before judging whether or not some sign is a sign of narcissism, psycho or sociopathy. In other words: don’t assume. Better to ask these things about someone first, like if they recently experienced something bad or are under a lot of stress, and what that source or sources of stress are, and not to make it worse like a narcissist, pscyopath or sociopath might do, like by saying, “It’s because you’re displeasing God, and so you deserve what you’re getting,” especially saying that without any specific explanation as to why you think that.

Other relevant information:

Unlike a narcissist psychopath, it is my opinion that a non-psychopath narcissist may have a little bit of conscience, though it will be very, very dull and narrow (like only carrying if they offend their mom whom they idolize or not wanting to harm animals, and therefore being a vegetarian). And having a conscience, they are more likely to be fearful about doing some wrong, like lying to someone they see as greater (fearing being caught and punished and / or disappointing them). Though a narcissist that shows nervousness when lying, ironically, my oppositely be fearing letting a person down to whom they are lying by not lying well enough, which has nothing to do with a conscience. It may be that what appears to be a conscience is really a fear of failure and pain.

A person can be turned into a narcissist by often praising that person for their looks and deeds no matter what they look like or do, or praising any arrogant act they do, and teaching them that they should only associate with those who are unique and/or who can advance them in life and that the feelings of everyone else should be taken advantage of. They can also be made to be more dangerous by strongly emphasizing (especially repeatedly) that they should move out of their way anyone who hinders them being able to advance in life or sustain their way of life.

A similar but more dangerous type of psychopath realizes the or great threat that theistic based morality poses to their lifestyle, and attempts to subvert it, even going so far as to pretending to be a moral theist in order to infiltrate moral theistic groups and subvert them by immoral behavior (to ruin their image and discredit them), and by causing in-fighting or by some other type of sabotage like disorganizing, damaging or destroying property.

Psychopaths and narcissists are not necessarily more evil than others (due to their mental handicaps), but are more dangerous and immoral than non-psychopaths and narcissists because of their handicaps. In other words they do greater evil and more often, but unlike a more sane person, are much less aware and forgetful when they are doing wrong. Above all else they are less reliable for telling the truth due to their lack of concern for telling lies for which they don’t believe they will suffer for for telling.

A “normal” well-off person might find a lost wallet with much money in it, but not return either the wallet or money, while an impoverished psychopath and narcissist might not do so out of fear of of some bad consequence, or, without such fear: in the blink of an eye return someone’s lost wallet, even with a large amount of money in it and without expecting anything more than a “thanks” (though rarely deeds that require a great effort or that will cause them to be unable to live comfortably for long, and in my experience, probably not longer than a day). The reason for that is that both a psychopath and narcissist simply aren’t able to correctly emotionally respond to some things, just not all things. But what make both a psychopath and narcissist worse than normal people, is that they are more rude in general, more likely to do greater evil without any concern or effort to make up for it, more simple-minded (therefore much harder to reason with than with someone of normal intelligence) and that combined with their impulsiveness allows them to be easily influenced by those they admire or desire to please into doing something as bad as severely abusing a child or murdering one. Another contrasting example is that a normal person, though a career thief, will strongly limit himself to doing anything but stealing, and only from well-off people if they can, and will be more likely to try and make up for their thefts (unless they believe that they were justified in what they did or are angry at whomever they stole from for immoral acts that they believe those people committed). But concerning who is more immoral: a mentally ill person or a normal person who does evil, ironically, it is probably the normal person, since the normal person is not morally disabled by a mental illness, but doing what is wrong with greater clarity of thought and with greater self control and with a greater emotional understanding of how bad it feels to be wronged.

Basically, psychopaths and narcissists are highly untrustworthy, arbitrary, manipulative, gullible, heartless to nearly heartless, self-centered, contradictory simpletons who avoid doing hard work and thinking and instead, to get what they want, rely on others to do the hard work and thinking.

As a consequence of these things psychopaths may have many short-term relationships (depending on how high the population is where they live) and due to their relentless disrespectfulness, unthankfulness, lack of appropriate emotional responses becoming unbearable and because the psychopath desires and seeks out new experiences to keep from feeling boredom.

There are different degrees of psychopathy and narcopathy being that their root cause is, as with any sinful state, hatred of God, and unforgiven people don’t all have the same amount of hatred anymore than a forgiven people all have the same amount of love for God.

A psychopath and narcissist, like anyone who sins, can, by God only, be cured of their desire to disobey God, their illogical thinking, impulsiveness and imperfect moral judgment, however, I personally believe that narcissism and psychopathy are not curable conditions, but permanent conditions brought about by God, something which Jesus hinted at:


That however is talking about salvation/giving someone eternal life/peace, so it may be, as the author of “The Narcissism Epidemic” believes, that it can be cured by various relationship failures in life which she believes forces them to eventually realize they are not better than others just because they feel they are.

The Related Characteristics of Psychopath, Sociopath and Narcissism Disorder:

1) They feel no guilt when doing wrong except perhaps things which they misperceive as wrong, like going into a forbidden sacred cult site because it is supposedly sacred and should not be entered by “ordinary” people.
2) They are habitual liars.
3) They seek to take advantage of people whom they believe will relieve their boredom or pain or cause them to feel pleasure. Taking advantage can also include attempting to harm a person.
4) They are very likely accuse you of doing wrong (even for doing good) in order to make themselves appear to be good (including by trying to make it appear as if they want true good, mercy and justice to be done to everyone). This is either done for personal pleasure (by being malicious) and/or to cause people to forget their wrong-doing/s so that they won’t be punished for it, feel bad about themselves and to continue taking advantage of people

5) They feel no concern for the moral improvement of others, but will fake concern to take advantage of others and even try to help others become more moral but only because they see that increase as making it easier to take advantage of that person (for example an increase in a person’s forgiveness ability makes it easier to repeatedly violate them without harm in the mind of these anti-social groups). And you can tell they have no genuine concern for the moral improvement of others because of their lack of showing a true sign of guilt, them lying often (which can also show up as contradictions in their stated beliefs), and their abusing some person, in some way, especially those who are physically and or mentally weak. The abuse can be subtle, like implying that a person is stupid with an arrogant tone, by saying, “Well, you’re not the brightest person I’ve ever met,” or if a person says, “I’m stupid,” the anti-social person my readily agree by nodding their head “yes” and giving a large smile and making their eyes large, and perhaps giving a laugh or two.

6) They will commit any sin if they believe they can get away with it or if it will bring them such great pleasure that any pain after will be insignificant. So they will be not just be internal liars, but likely to steal, fornicate, rape, molest and unjustly physically and mentally harm and murder others. They will also be likely to be sexually deviant, though the frequency of their sexual activity with other humans will depend on their looks, because if they are very ugly, no one except some desperate or blind person or animal will physically sexually touch them). They will be more likely to resort to rape for personal gratification than someone with a conscience.

Sexual deviancy includes same-sex lust and romantic-love and same-sex sexual touching, bestiality, body-part obsession (like being sexually attracted to feet over a person’s body as a whole), age-obsession (like obsessing on how young/old the person is they will be with, for example not dating, marrying or having sex with someone who is a year younger or older or not in a certain age-range, like 15-30 regardless of that person’s personality or appearance), sexual obsession with inanimate objects, like diapers, high-heeled shoes or boots, hair-color, or anything and sexual-style-obsession, for example sexual obsession with a certain style of hair (which can also be a hair color or combination of colors).

The Signs of a Sociopath:

A sociopath is like a psychopath, only is impulsive, reckless, loves a high degree of chaos (to their hurt, since chaos hinders getting other things they want and want to keep) and like narcissists, are scatterminded, have a short attention span, are shallow, avoid work because of either the physical pain and exhaustion it causes, or if it requires a “painful” amount of thinking and patience. They avoid helping others, which can seem like laziness, but is really about their lack of concern for the well-being of others. They are also more likely to be messy and disorganized than a psychopath or narcissist or mentally healthy person.

Because of the sociopath’s impulsiveness, they will fire-off lies which often will contradict within one sentence. For example a sociopath may say: “I have the money you gave me, but spent it just now, but will give it to you tomorrow but don’t count on it because I need some money to feed myself.”

Differences Between a Sociopath, Psychopath and Narcissist

A sociopath is impulsive and disorderly; a psychopath is patient and orderly; a narcissist is obsessed with getting attention and praise for being “good” (which to them includes being evil) and believes themselves to be good even for doing what is morally and logically wrong, and believe that they are beautiful in some way even if they aren’t. A narcissist is very flattering and praising of himself, or much more than non-narcissists.

Other Things Note:

A child becomes a sociopath as a result of their parent or parents giving that child immediate gratification and cleaning up after whatever mess they make, including ignoring immoral behavior or, in front of that child, verbally excusing it, or the child reading such excuses. For example a child kills a person for no reason, and their parent says, “Well you were angry and I wasn’t feeding you well enough, so you did what you had to to get that anger out of you so that you could be calm again.” In other words not teaching a child to be responsible for their actions and excusing them from guilt. And what causes a psychopathic personality? The same as a sociopath only by not giving the child immediate gratification, so that the child learns to patiently manipulate people before getting the gratification they desire. If it is found that raising a child in these ways isn’t sufficient to produce such disorders, then surely it can be done if the child is traumatized (it seems some psychologists and sociologists believe there must be a traumatic event in a child’s life to produce an incurable or almost impossible to remove mental disorder like narcissism, sociopathy or psychopathy). The trauma that would seem most fitting to produce the base of these three disorders would be complete callousness to the emotional needs of the child at some time when the child was in a situation where they could suffer great humiliation. An example would be hitting your child repeatedly when they were crying for food or to go to the bathroom at the table while in front of others in a restaurant or place where they could see that they were being watched by others. This would cause great bitterness in the child, and if young enough they would forget why they became bitter and so be at a great disadvantage to getting rid of that bitterness, in that they wouldn’t know what they were supposed to forgive, and so the feeling of being wronged remaining unresolved, (and instinctively taking their anger out on others, a kind of revenge – the others acting as substitutes for those who saw them humiliated as a child – to try to satisfy that bitterness, but being unable to get rid of that bitterness, because they aren’t sure who caused them to feel bitter or can’t find them all). And on a side note: these anti-social types become addicted to the pleasure they get from being openly hateful to others as it temporarily smothers the hatred in them, but like drug-addicts, they need to act more and more hateful to others to get tame the bitterness in them.

It may seem like a contradiction that you can be callous and yet give immediate gratification to a child, but you could give that gratification with a callous, hateful or indifferent attitude, and that could produce a sociopathic child in that they would become impulsive, addicted to hateful love or craving from others positive love for their impulsive behavior that they couldn’t get from the parent.

Can a Psychopath Become a Sociopath?

In my opinion a psychopath could degrade into a sociopath (because evil people get worse) and by a psychopath deciding that it is better to be like a wild animal “only” living by instinct rather than reasoning, or if they worn out and no longer have the tolerance for patience. I also believe a sociopath and psychopath can get worse also by becoming narcissists, which can happen if they are flattered enough (and becoming narcissists by believing such flattery and becoming addicted to it). And what would I call a narcissist sociopath?: a narciopath. I believe that a psychopath could degrade into a sociopath.

How does a person become a narcissist? This happens when the mother of a child or possibly father, flatters the child to no end and obsessively tries to control them, including through flattery. This causes the child to feel pleasure when controlled due to the flattery they get, and they become psychologically over-dependent (co-dependent) on the mother, and fearful of losing her support, especially if they can’t get the flattery and obsessive attention they want from others. The mother figuratively becomes an idol to the child. It also happens when the mother or father inconsistently punishes the child, so that the child feels that doing wrong is an acceptable risk, rather than something to always be avoided due to eternal punishment. A contributing factor can also be the parents being arrogant towards others and hypocritical in their treatment of others (and the child seeing this behavior), and be especially if the parents get away with it often and aren’t imprisoned for any long period of time.

Mistaking Certain Behaviors for Compassion

Some who have observed narcissists may think I am wrong to say that they have no compassion for others and can’t “feel” the pain of others, because they’ve observed them expressing uncomfortableness or embarrassment with things that are wrong, like theft, child-abuse and hurting animals.

Which is the Worst?

Some might wonder which of these so called “anti-social” personality types are the most dangerous. In my opinion it is the narcissist psychopath. This is because people in general are attracted to what New Agers call “positivity” (mentioning good things that happen, praising/pandering, and refraining from speaking evil about those who do such things). And dangerous also because the psychopath cleverly waits for a person to let their guard down or when they are more vulnerable then at other times. A sociopath on the other hand is less patient and so less likely to strike when a person is weakest, and fail early in life due to their wild life-endangering behavior.

Th blindness of the world to such illogical behavior and thinking that it’s a good thing, is due to Satan blinding the world’s ability to reason morally logically and manipulating their emotions in general, they confuse good with evil, and so will even accept something hurtful that merely seems positive. A good example of how people fall into this trap to no end is how the world keeps electing clearly immoral and moronic leaders over them, for example ones who openly endorse murdering babies of all things. It’s bad to murder anyone, even an middle-aged evil person without a mental disorder, because such people can potentially be changed, and saying, “You do what you have to do,” is a bad justification, but to ENDORSE murdering a baby as acceptable, that is extremely evil. It’s usually never the end of someone’s life to have a baby. It is the duty of the mother to try and keep her baby alive, it is her child, even if forced on her. It’s also the duty of someone to care for their neighbor when their neighbor truly needs help and is not a danger to their life. Even if the neighbor may use up food that may help them to live longer, you still have a duty to feed your neighbor when they need food. Narcissist psychopaths are also a danger because of the spread of Christianity, and Christians are required to be humble (and that’s not a bad thing even to the extreme) and not to resist people who lay hands on them (except in my opinion if someone is trying to rape them). Millions of Christians would not resist a person who captures them. There are military leaders in this world who are narcopaths, who obtain an army and grow stronger by robbing and enslaving others. It’s happening now in America, which is mainly made up of Christians. Even though Catholics can be lead by their pope to be violent, they are instead being lead to be humble, in a twisted way.

So, what will happen if these corrupt forms of humans continue to grow in power and warp the minds of children? Obviously it will result in the destruction of all humans, if not all the life on the planet. If a bad enough narcopath obtains control over many nuclear missiles, and obtains dictatorship status, there is a high possibility that he or she will destroy this planet.

What Is Anti-social Personality Disorder (APD)?

From what I’ve learned (and it’s a confusing subject) APD isn’t a mental or personality disorder at all in the way that some might mean it, as in some sort of mental disease. At least one person says it’s an impairment of the conscience, as in it’s partially not working. That would mean that everyone is anti-social, since over time peoples’ consciences become more and more unresponsive except to extreme things like murder or wrecking or ruining someone’s life who didn’t deserve it, or doing excessive damage to someone in retaliation for something. I get the impression that APD is something liberals came up with to use as a tool to take advantage of others and force them to conform. This is because the definition of APD is “someone who doesn’t  conform to social norms” such as the laws that are considered normal, NOT what is absolutely moral regardless of what is considered the norm. So, for example, if it’s an established law in all secular governments in the world that homosexuality may not be said to be an anti-social personality disorder, or something bad, then liberals could then accuse someone of having APD themselves merely for saying homosexuality was a symptom of APD, or for saying that it was a sin according to traditional Bibles and not the norm in ancient times in most places. If anyone wants to say I’m merely being contentious, not at all. Consider that in ancient Greece it was the norm to get rid of a female baby or handicapped child by leaving them in certain places to be killed by an animal or where someone could come along and enslave them. Or they would push them off a cliff. And sometimes fathers would end up having sex with a child prostitute who turned out to be the  child they got rid of. And by the definition of APD, anyone speaking out against that at that time would be someone with APD. But some might argue that it’s also someone who takes drugs. No, not necessarily, that’s just one of the ways it can be expressed. A person who is generally rebellious against what are genuinely moral laws, but does have a conscious, is simply a person who is rebellious, who has a dulled conscience, perhaps is angry and bitter as a result of being abused, and is apathetic as a result of getting away easy after doing something wrong, and perhaps also because they’ve believed in a bad philosophy or religion, or that there is no God. Such people are often the ones to become Christians. When someone becomes an atheist from once having been a devout Christian or one who was very engaged in reading and listening to the Bible, and even teaching it and doing many prayers to a God they thought loved them, are more they are likely to become “anti-social”, as in more rebellious and less sociable. This is because they feel betrayed by God, or let down by him, and then decide that he must not exist out of disgust that such a God would do anything like that to them when they had given much of their time to him and even endorsed him, especially if they spent money to do so perhaps. As a result of this, they live trying to avoid remembering God or trying to assure themselves that he doesn’t exist, and when reminded of him, become hateful because of their past experience, and also reject absolute morals since they were taught that God wanted people to only do what was right even to their own hurt. So then, they reject what especially has to do with God while trying to enjoy his creation, trying to separate the two, as in believe that God had anything to do with making anything, or that even if he did make the universe, had no concern for it or even if concerned, would never “interfere” with it. So then, they live as they please, without fear of eternal consequences, and living that way hurts themselves and others at some point.

What to Do With Pathologically Mentally Ill People, My Opinion

The Bible, a book of history and logic and laws, commands Christians to have nothing to do with unendingly contentious people. Note how many of the characteristics of narcissists are mentioned in it’s warning/command (note also how corporate giants, corrupt government officials and career drug dealers fit in): “…in the last days there will come times of difficulty, for people will be in love with themselves, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.” – 2 Timothy 3:1-5. What should be done with such people? They should, the Bible implies, be executed. It’s implied here:


An example of what happens when you don’t execute them is America. The people with apds have wormed their way into government and the police forces of the world, and corrupted them all the way up to the heads of those institutions. Very few officers and government officials are honest. Ron Paul and his son who won an election seem to be the only wise AND honest ones left, though I wouldn’t be surprised if there were a few others. With these anti-social people in control, they provoke everyone to anger so much so that police and government are almost universally hated and distrusted, and yet the corrupt ones keep conning the world into at least allowing them to continue to remain in power. Those who are not mentally ill yet corrupt fall into the love of money trap, allowing corrupt officials to stay in power in order to take advantage of them by trapping them into a spot where they must not betray them. For example, judges in America repeatedly turn down lawsuits against President Obama (to show his birth certificate) so that they can keep their jobs and secure for themselves future job security or money, gifts, and other help, that, and also not wanting to see a liberal god fall to Christians, which would be a devastating blow to liberalism (which is filled with people with aspds). And some of the children of these non-mentally ill people in power who see their criminal behavior will become anti-social, and the cycle will continue and worsen and spread like flesh-eating bacteria. History is also shows what happens when anti-social people rise to power: they wreck the people the are in power over, and many of them murdered hundreds of thousands of people, and some murdered millions. Imagine if narcissist psychopaths were at the head of every government in the world at all times: how long would their citizens stay alive? How long would anyone in the world stay alive?

If there was no God, and no evidence of a being much like him, I would help anyone whose goal it was to exterminate these people so long as it didn’t put my own life in significant danger or at at significant risk of extreme suffering, but there is a God and he commands Christians to obey the powers in whatever Biblically lawful things they command. Let the world judge the world, and let God judge the Christians.

More about narcissism:

Webster Dictionary Definition of Narcissism

The Narcissist as a Compulsive Giver.htm [Note, Sam Vakin claims to have narcissism disorder, and from having carefully read some of his work I looked for signs of this (lies and defending narcissists) and he makes the absurd claim that narcissists aren't self centered! On a YouTube documentary that partially examined him, he also called narcissists a "superior species" (a delusion of grandeur)]

Book: The Culture of Narcissism: American Life in an Age of Diminishing Expectations

Narcissism and cults: The Wikipedia Cult or go to:

Basics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

7 Myths About Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) at a Glance

Narcissism Goes to Church: Encountering Evangelical Worship

How to Recognize a Narcissist

U.S. Teens Brimming With Self-Esteem (…”may have gone too far”? Must be a liberal).

Do narcissists really hate themselves deep down inside?
More about sociopathy:

What causes sociopathy?

The Sociopathic Epidemic

Similar Disorder: RAD (Possibly Early Signs of An Impending Anti-Social Personality Disorder):
Attachment & Reactive Attachment Disorders

The meaning of anti-social:

Anti-Social Personality Disorder from the DSM IV (Explanation, Symptoms, Treatment

Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD)

A problem among psychologists and psychiatrists have distinguishing between personality disorder and mental illness

What Is The Difference Between a Sociopath and…

Impulsivity and mental disorders

Addictive Personality Disorder

What is an abnormal personality or narcissistic personality disorder?

Related Information

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding,
rather: in airing his feelings.

Proverbs 18:2

An oracle is within my heart
concerning the sinfulness of the wicked:
There is no fear of God before his eyes.
For in his own eyes he flatters himself
too much to detect or hate his sin.
The words of his mouth are wicked and deceitful;
he has ceased to be wise and to do good.

Psalm 36:1-3

Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Proverbs 22:6

He who spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

Proverbs 13:24

A lying tongue hates those afflicted by it,
and a flattering mouth works ruin.

Proverbs 26:28

Even a child is known by his actions,
by whether his conduct is pure and right.

Proverbs 20:11

Fathers, do not exasperate your children;
instead, bring them up in the training
and instruction of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4

Children, obey your parents in the Lord,
for this is right.

Ephesians 6:1

Charm is deceptive,
and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears Yahweh
is to be praised.

Proverbs 31:30

he of whom little is forgiven:
his love is also little.

Luke 7:47


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