Suicide Prevention

If you suspect that someone you love might commit suicide, go ahead and butt in. Their life might depend on it

April 3, 2012
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If you suspect someone you love is suicidal, it's crucial to speak up. But starting that conversation can be awkward. A direct approach is best: Talk openly and matter-of-factly about your concerns for her—don't be judgmental and don't act shocked at what she tells you. (And now is not the time for a lecture on the value of life.) Just listen and let her know you want to help. In addition, keep an eye out for anything that seems like an opportunity for self-harm.

If she owns a gun, remove the bullets from her home. If you see potentially harmful pills in her bathroom, remove those too. You may feel as if you are invading her privacy, but her life is more important than hurt feelings. It's not in her best interest for you to keep quiet. Share what she's told you with a medical professional or crisis intervention program for advice on what to do next. For more info on how to help, go to


Signs of Suffering
A friend may be contemplating killing herself, but the warning signs aren't as easy to spot as you might think. These more quiet indications may be cries for help:

She Thinks She's a Burden
If she constantly talks about how others would be better off without her, it's a possible sign she's looking for a way to end their (and her) suffering.

She's Boozing A Lot
A sudden increase in the use of alcohol or drugs can be an attempt to dull the pain inside.

She's Withdrawn
If a formerly social person is sleeping a lot and isolating herself, these signs of depression can also indicate a deeper desire to "disappear."

If you or someone you know exhibits any of these signs, call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255).

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