Performance anxiety is an elephant-in-the-room sized issue for everyone who spends time on any kind of a stage. Its management is the subject of a thousand books, workshops and programs that teach how to deal with and mitigate its effects... how to ride its wave rather than have it come crashing down upon you.

Yet only a fundamental shift in how performance anxiety is perceived will allow you to overcome and indeed, transcend it. This shift begins by considering how the majority of us view stage fright: as a barrier between a performer and an audience.

That performance anxiety is a barrier is not news to most of you. But what may come as a surprise is that its status as such only exists when another much larger barrier is already in place: the perception of the performance as a performance, rather than as a communion, a conversation and a connection.

To illustrate what to some may seem like a foreign concept, consider the excitement you feel at a wedding, watching a concert, or during the birth of a child. Most of us don't call this sensation anxiety, in spite of the fact that many of the same physiological reactions are being triggered. Why? For one, in these instances we're participating and sharing in the moment with those around us. We are not focused on ourselves. We are in tune with the group.

In our culture's current understanding of performance, however, the opposite is true. As we make our way to the stage, the wall of separation rises, and the opportunity for communion and connection instantly transforms into a profound sense of self-absorbed isolation. Standing opposite and apart, the fear in our belly rises as we wonder about and focus on one thing: "will they like me?"

To break away from this conditioned response and indeed, overcome the dual barriers that are performance and anxiety, we must move closer to those we've walked away from. Who are the people sitting there before you, not only collectively, but individually? What do they want and need? What are they looking for in their lives? Imagine that they have come to your home to share a meal, discuss their concerns, their ideas, and their dreams. How would you reach out to them? How would you help?

Those who come to experience your sharing on stage are no different. While they are there to listen to you, they are in fact asking to be heard. They are waiting to be touched, to feel inspired. They are longing to experience something in your voice and expression that will open them up further to themselves.

You might be the one on stage, but it's not about you. When you begin to get this- that a 'performance' is actually an invitation to and participation with another rather than an offering of the self, the grip of anxiety begins to unravel and fade. Why? Because when you're listening deeply to another in this way- both on and off of the stage- it is almost impossible to be concerned with how you sound.

'Performers' imagine there to be a great divide between their best and worst shows, and thus, fearfully obsess about the technicalities that communicators know are largely irrelevant in the minds of those listening for something vastly more valuable.


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