How To Identify Stubborn Beliefs

A lot of us have beliefs that we KNOW are stubborn, we just can’t seem to kick them. And a lot have stubborn beliefs that we refuse to acknowledge are stubborn!

First, let’s talk about beliefs. I like the way things are described in The Law of One. Essentially, LOVE is the ultimate absolute truth. Everything that is in existence is some form of love or some distortion of it. Fear-based beliefs are distortions, because fear itself is the ultimate distortion–a perception that there is no love.

How do you evaluate a belief and where it lands on the scale between love and fear?

I ask myself one simple question:

“What is at the root of this? Is it love or is it fear? Is it telling me to love or is it telling me to fear?”

If the answer is fear, it is a distortion. A false reality.

What about those stubborn beliefs that we understand are fear-based but just can’t seem to let them go, or we are AFRAID to let them go? Well, there’s your key word. If you are AFRAID to let go of a fear-based belief, because you are AFRAID that it is actually true… well, you’re still running around in fear, aren’t you?

Do not confuse fear-based beliefs with a fear-response to imminent danger.

Fear and danger are not the same thing. Danger is physical and imminent. Fear is an emotional response to danger.

When fear exists absent of danger, then it has no basis other than belief (conditioned or unconditioned). Sometimes those same areas of the brain that respond to danger also light up when there isn’t any danger, tricking us into believing that something poses a threat when there isn’t one.

Being afraid when face to face with a hungry mountain lion is a biological reaction to imminent danger and a survival mechanism. Your body’s response is to be afraid, in order to motivate you to act to protect yourself. Being afraid in the face of uncertainty is natural and normal. This is fear based in immediate danger.

Our biological response to high probabilities of uncertainty is to plan and prepare. And yes, worry/anxiety (which are fear-driven responses) is a natural, biological driver for survival. When you come across a bridge that looks like it’s not in the best shape, it makes logical sense to weigh whether or not it’s safe to walk across it. This is a survival response to immediate potential danger.

When you’re crossing the street, it makes logical sense to look both ways to see if a car is coming so that you don’t get hit and die. This is a survival response to potential danger.

When faced with a global pandemic, it makes logical sense to follow health and safety guidelines. This is a survival response to immediate potential danger.

Being afraid when you’re a member a systemically oppressed group with a well-documented history of being attacked by people who hold power over you is a normal response to potential danger and uncertainty. Being afraid when you’re in an abusive relationship where there’s a high likelihood of being physically or emotionally hurt is a normal response to potential danger and uncertainty. These histories of abuse and oppression continuously inflict harm and trauma. This is trauma response based in valid experience and an environment of constant potential danger.

All of these “fears” are based in physical reality.

Being afraid of rejection, of not being good enough, of personal failings, of events that have an extremely low likelihood of occurring (like a rogue planet careening through the universe and crashing into Earth), of invisible monsters and secret government conspiracies, and things that are not physical and imminent is where fear goes awry and becomes crippling and debilitating–fears that have no basis, no foundation in immediate reality.

This is fear based in belief and it only exists in your mind, not the physical world around you.

It makes no difference to me what you choose to believe, so long as you are conscious that it IS your choice and whatever you believe, you will create. But I can’t imagine that a single person would come to that realization and still choose to live from a fear-based belief system.

But for those who still fear, I will still be here every day reminding you that there is nothing to fear and offering you the opportunity to choose something else. Love is all you are. Love is all there is.

You need not be afraid of anything, and the moment you choose to accept that ultimate reality as your ultimate reality, your world will change.





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1 Comment

  1. This is true 100%. Like Thoreau said, Things don’t change, we change.

    Since accepting love as the basis of my being and living a peaceful and creative life, my world has changed 180 degrees. Every single thing is falling into place. It is wonderful and marvelous.


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