How to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence?

As I wrote in my post: What is emotional intelligence and why do we need it? Dr. Developing a four-arm model with Peter Salovey, Dr. In Mayers view, emotional intelligence is “a type of intelligence in which person expresses his/her ability to distinguish, control, and use one’s own and others’ emotions and feelings. These information guide thoughts and actions”.

Emotional Intelligence (EI or EQ) is considered more important than IQ (intelligence quotient) today.

This is true primarily because people with high levels of emotional intelligence relate better to others, are more accessible, open-minded, and therefore it is easier to work together in both a team and a team environment. individually.

Various studies have also shown that those with high EQ scores are more confident, reliable, and approachable than those with low scores. They are also better leaders and generally perform better in the workplace.

It goes without saying that a high rate of emotional intelligence often contributes to increased productivity and success. In fact, many companies gave applicants EQ tests before hiring, while others started EQ training programs.

Of course, increasing or improving their Emotional Intelligence is in everyone’s best interest!

Ways to increase your emotional intelligence

  • Be aware of your own emotions and adapt to them. One of the first steps, and perhaps most important, is to become more aware of yourself or develop the ability to adapt to your own emotions. Why is that? To control your emotions, you must first be aware of them. Some suggestions for self-awareness include: acknowledging and monitoring your emotions, examining, and then evaluating your triggers and trigger points. Mindfulness practice is also a great way to be more aware of yourself and to control your emotions. By being aware of your own emotions, you will be able to better understand and be aware of the emotions of others.
  • Always try to understand what other people think. Once you have considered your own feelings well, try to understand and empathize with others. This is especially important in the workplace, on committees, or in a group environment where ideas flow and exchange. To do this, listen carefully, put yourself in the other’s shoes and try to imagine what they thought and felt, and how they might have reached the results. You will not only have a broader perspective, but you will also broaden your own perspective.
  • Communicate effectively. Effective communication does not complete until there are both verbal and non-verbal skills are availablele. As I explain in my article Good Communication Skills: The Key to Every Success, communication is more than information exchange. Effective communication is all about understanding emotions as well as the intentions behind shared information. It is an exchange that involves ensuring that a message is delivered as intended and then received as intended. Non-verbal skills include careful listening, eye contact, attention to body language (not being too close, making gestures, making facial expressions, etc.).
  • Connect with people. No matter how shy or introverted you may think you are, learning to connect with others is a huge component of emotional intelligence. In fact, even if you are shy, you can start by listening, showing interest, and making others feel comfortable first. Sometimes it is easier to do this for shy and introverted people than for outgoing and outgoing people who like to talk first. For both types, showing that you care and care for others goes a long way toward creating valuable connections.
  • Practice emotional management. Once you become aware of your own emotions and those of others, it is important to understand how to keep them balanced and in control. Some ways to practice emotional management include: Stop taking time to process and understand what is happening.
    • Turn your attention away until you are calmer.
      walk, exercise, play with a pet, breathe deeply
    • Reframe the experience i.e. explore a new and broader perspective
    • Look at the big picture and determine how important it is.