Teleseminar: May 23, 2013

Sexual Intelligence:
What People REALLY Want From Sex–
And How To Help Them Get It

May 23, 2013
noon-1pm PDT
or via recording

What do most people say they want from sex? Some combination of pleasure and closeness. But that’s not what people usually focus on during sex.

What do people focus on? The answer to that is the beginning of why and how people undermine their own sexuality, often reducing the enjoyable, frequent sex of their early years into something they eventually start avoiding. I’ll discuss why our conventional wisdom on treating sexual problems often leads to better communication—but little else.

Sexual Intelligence is the combination of information, emotional skills, and body awareness that people need to create enjoyable sex. In this teleseminar you’ll learn how to enhance people’s Sexual Intelligence—a completely different approach than improving sexual function. Some of the issues I’ll address include:

• Sexual function is a means to an end, not an end in itself. Paradoxically, focusing on function often undermines sexual satisfaction.
• In adults, the similarities between male and female sexuality are far more important than the differences.
• Anyone who thinks that orgasm is the best part of sex is missing most of what sex offers.
• Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person. Since most of us don’t have that body very long, we need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives.
•Our desire to be sexually “normal” is precisely what prevents us from becoming our authentic sexual selves. Therapists who collude with this desire by “normalizing” patients’ interests and concerns will limit what they can accomplish.
• Sometimes we get so distracted by sexuality cases that we have trouble seeing the power struggles, guilt, gender stereotypes, and other dynamics that underlie content issues such as pornography, affairs, and desire conflicts.

Sex is more than an activity–it’s an idea. This teleseminar will help you focus individuals & couples on their ideas about sex–and to change them.

Cost: $49, which includes:
* One-hour seminar
* 30 powerpoint slides
* A recording of the entire seminar
* CE certificate (AASECT, California MFTs & LCSWs)

To register, click here

Want to attend, but can’t make it May 23? Sign up and use the recording to “attend” on our own schedule.


Call: 650/856-6533
Write: Klein@SexEd.org

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