Sunday, February 7, 2010

When Life Hurts

When you accidentally bite your tounge, it's hard to see "pain" as something positive. The same goes for a blister on your big toe and who needs a throbbing foot? But what if you felt no pain? How often would you bite off bits of your tounge or burn your backside in the bath?

Physical pain is a marvellous alarm system that prevents further damage. It tells us, "You'd better change what you are doing!" Emotional pain gives us a similar message,
e.g: "You'd better change how you're thinking!".

It's normal to get angry or jealous or a bit resentful and temporarily. But if those feelings become permanent the message may be:

  • Don't expect to control other people.
  • Don't expect other people to behave like you.
  • Don't depend on other people to make you happy.
While we keep thinking the same thoughts, we keep feeling the same pain and then we say, "But I'm right!" Unfortunately being "right" doesn't help!
A blister on our foot is a message to change our shoes. With emotional pain-which feels like a blister on the brain. The message is usually to change our thinking. Our egos love to be right. So, we sometimes hang on to anger, blame and resentment for years "I may be miserable but I'm right".
The good thing about pain and suffering is that they erode the ego. When we can no longerstand the pain, we shift from "I'm right. There is no other way to see this!" to "I can't take it anymore. Maybe I could have a different point of view!"
Recall an incident in the last week that disturbed you: you were abuse in traffic, your boyfriend call you "Fatty", your wallet was stolen. Realise it wasn't the incident that was disturbing, it was your thoughts about it. You say, "Anybody would have been upset." Wrong. Most people. All our lives we've been conditioned to think certain thoughts about things. It's the thoughts that make us unhappy and we can change our thoughts.

In a nutshell
With both physical and emotional pain, when we keep doing the same thing,it keeps hurting!


FiLZaH said...

when our life become hurt because of love...what do u think?

for a long time ago, i felt, i don't want it...and don't need it right now....

i want to focus my study..

nabihah said...

Thats a right way..focus on your study first..
because love is so hard..I hope you will success in your life..We are friend and will help each other..friendship 4 ever.. =)