Finding und stimulating the G-spot

The G-spot is a 1-2cm big erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to orgasm. A German gynaecologist, Ernst Gräfenberg, discovered the G-spot in the 1950s when he wrote about an “erogenous Zone in the anterior vaginal wall along the urethra which swells when sexually stimulated”. The discovery happened by accident: Gräfenberg had prescribed diaphragms to women in America. Thereby, one of this patients reported of not being able to orgasm whilst having sexual intercourse when she was using the vaginal diaphragm. The gynaecologist noticed that, the area we call the G-spot today, was covered by the diaphragm and could therefore not be stimulated. Gräfenberg did not name the spot after himself but it was named after him years later. However, this sensual area was brought to attention early on. Today, the existence of the G-spot is confirmed by scientists and doctors.

 Finding the G-spot – The area of the G-spot isn’t different from the rest of the anterior wall, there are no visual differences either externally or internally – the spot is somehow “hidden”. Nonetheless, the urethra, which is situated behind the vaginal wall is surrounded by gland tissue that, similar to the penis, can swell when stimulated. The swelling can be felt with a finger: it feels like a small lump that is only sensitive when aroused. So the G-spot is not a magic button that can be pushed in order to satisfy a woman – something you may often read in magazines and the media.

 The Female Ejaculation – The gland tissue with its so called “Skene glands”, are supposed to be the source of female ejaculation. Despite that, the existence and development of the female ejaculation has yet to be completely clarified. Nevertheless, it is known that these glands expulse a colourless and odourless fluid during or before an orgasm. It is presumed to serve as vaginal lubrication. During an orgasm, small quantities of fluid are released intermittently from the urethra.

 Discovering the G-spot – With certainty the G-spot can be found in every woman and its stimulation can be extremely arousing during sexual activity. Although the emphasis is on “can” be arousing: there are also women that do not find its stimulation arousing or pleasurable. The area is typically reported as being about 4-5 cm from the vaginal entrance, on the front wall towards the abdominal wall. For some women, the spot is directly behind the vaginal entrance, for others it is deeper inside. When aroused, this area is slightly swollen and the surface might feel a bit rough. Once found, you can smoothly rub the spot with circular movements and apply slight pressure. Some women may feel the urge to urinate. This often happens when the vagina is not wet enough: the more aroused she is, the less she will feel the urge to urinate. Once you have overcome this point, you can continue to stimulate the area simulating a “come here” finger movement. This movement is not possible with the penis but there are some positions that help a man reach the G-spot whilst having sex. Both doggy style and cowgirl style are suitable. The penetration angle is preferable and the penis tip can touch the G-spot. Cowgirl style is advantageous because she is in charge of the rhythm and speed. Both factors are in important to climax easily. Reversed cowgirl – when she is also on top but facing the other side, as well as the spoon position are equally suitable. You can find many more positions in the Kamasutra. With a caressing touch you can integrate the G-spot in sexual activity. The vaginal orgasm through G-spot stimulation is often felt more intensely than the clitoral orgasm.

 The Male G-spot – The male G-spot can be found with a prostate massage. During sex, anal penetration can be very arousing for men. In contrast to women, the male G-spot can be found directly: gently put your finger 2 inches inside his backstage entrance, and curl it in toward the front of his body until you feel a round bulb of tissue. Lightly tap or swirl your fingertip around it. With any anal sex practice you should be very careful and slow. In order to avoid injuries, it is recommended to use a lot of lubricant.

The area of the G-spot doesn’t exist anatomically for women or for men. Nevertheless, if the area is once found – for men the prostate and for women the glands around the urethra – stimulated, it can be a very arousing experience for the sexual partner.