Relationship Disconnect: The Plight of Cell Phones



Over 80% percent of us have cell phones.  And we’re on them a lot. Some research completed last year found we spent over four hours a day on our phones texting, talking, responding to emails, and going on social media. Combine that with the amount of time we spend on other devices such as TV, computers, tablets, or video games and that number rises to over ten hours a day. That’s huge!


What impact does this have on our relationships?


If you go to a restaurant, a movie theatre, a coffee shop, or anywhere people congregate, you will see people using their phones. How many times have you seen a couple texting away while they sit together? Or someone texting while in a group, or during a work meeting or a movie? What about the times you’ve seen people waiting in line to go to an event, pushing a baby stroller, or talking to someone while texting at the same time?


It seems that cell phones are becoming even more important to us than the people we’re face-to-face with. When we keep our cell phones in our hands or put them on the table when we’re with someone, what are we saying to the person or people that are in front of us? You’re important unless I get a text or a call? You’re okay but I really need to talk to this person right this minute?


What impact?

What impact is this having on communication skills, attention spans, patience levels, and even our quality time?


The next time you’re tempted to text someone or check out your social media accounts while with a loved one or even a colleague, think about it. What message do you want to give him or her? Truly connecting with others requires our time and attention. Disconnecting from your phone may help you connect meaningfully with the people in your life.