Anger and resentment is deadly

Having clear judgement helps us make right decisions as we go about our daily lives. That is our free will to make decisions and getting angry and resentful is also part of life . Things may not go as you planned it or as you want it to be and it is natural to get angry and upset.

Do you know when you get upset your mind is so clogged up there is nothing you can’t do? Some people after they commit a crime cannot figure out what happened. Even people they love so much they would destroy them and not recognize at that point in time what is happening. Some people are so angry that the person they pass their anger on may not necessarily be the person they are angry with, it just happened that that is the first person who crossed their path after the anger built up. They may also be angry with themselves and the anger just keeps building up and you cross their path and bam, as they say ‘all hell break lose’.

So how do you deal with this anger and resentment that has built up inside of you. You can get upset then move on, no tantrums, no yelling, screaming or punching because you recognize that you have to change how you look at things.

Acting out that anger is a different issue. When you are angry such that you want to knock the person you are angry with off the map, or wish that they were dead or some awful thing happens to them then there is a huge problem.

The first thing is any violent action towards the person not only hurts or destroys that person which of course you want to do, but also hurts and destroys you. It mat hurt your reputation, your character and if it reaches the authorities chances are your entire life could be affected. Not only your life but that of your family, and this is huge if you have children.

The second thing is that if you continue to hold this anger it destroys not only your reputation but your body. It is like a form of darkness, a virus or parasite eating you up inside when you see or hear about that person , you relive the entire situation. The nervous system starts to go haywire, you cannot think clearly, your head feels like it is bursting, soon all sorts of illnesses start to show up.

It is not an easy thing to get rid of or even reduce anger and resentment. Some suggestions that help me:

  • take time out for yourself;
  • take time to cry, worry, punch some punching bags but put a deadline on this then move on;
  • break down the issue – what about it caused you to be angry? Is it true or not true. If it is true what can you do about it? If it is not true then forget it and move on;
  • have you realized that the person you are so angry with is going about their life happy as ever and you are there fuming with anger;
  • do you have the guts to be the better person and apologize first, even if you were wrong? Two wrongs do not make a right;
  • seek guidance and counsel. Find a life coach.
  • remember we are all connected, the same God who made that person made you. There would always be some disagreement, but there is forgiveness. If God can forgive you what is keeping you from forgiving the other person.

Forgiveness is so hard to do but it is a choice, you see anything that is good for us sometimes shows up as hard work. We believe that we have the right to strike back when someone tells us something that is hurtful or when they do something to us that is hurtful, but this is so far from the truth. We are a better person when we forgive. Forgiveness and love changes everything. Try it, you maybe surprised.