All Learning Happens Through Love

Love is the biggest motivation to have the desire learn something. Scientists have had this knowledge for a long time. But what about ordinary citizens and what about politicians, do they know it?

As from the first day of birth a young baby is most curious and eager to experience new things. During the first three years of life the baby learns an enormous amount. Yet the motivation for learning is not just curiosity it is much more, it mainly is love.

Love is a baby's motor. It is through love that he or she copies his mum and dad, it is because of love that he tries to communicate with his parents. The more love and loving care a baby receives the faster his development grows, the more he leans.

This is the main reason why babies in orphanages are much behind in their development. I experienced this myself when I worked in a baby orphanage. One of the nurses there had her own baby, and this baby lived together with the orphans. Thus the mother was able to continue her work and to earn money.

Yet this particular baby developed much faster than all the other children. Without doing it on purpose the mother gave her own child a lot more care and love that to all the others in the group.

Here is another example: Some parents think that they would do something particularly good to their child by confronting him with as much knowledge as possible. However it does not make any sense at all to have foreign language videos on TV. The baby is ignoring these. He might recognise some noise, but he does not accept any of such noise as something specific. On the other hand when e.g. the two parents speak different languages and address the baby accordingly, then the baby just naturally learns two languages. The reason is that each word is accompanied by loving care.

In addition all baby's learning happens unconsciously and by instinct.

By the earliest at the age of about four years the child gradually start to be interested in learning on purpose. As from this age on he is capable of taking lessons. Yet again learning through lessons only functions when the child loves his teacher.

It does not make any sense to tell a child in primary school that he does not study for the benefit of the teacher but for his own. Even here a child learn the more, the more he loves his teacher in the normal way of love between a teacher and a student. At this age only gradually grows the interest in studying for the only purpose of being fascinated by a certain subject. Through a many years lasting process the motivation for studying gradually shifts from love to the teacher to pure interest in the subject.

What is the use of all this scientific knowledge? Do we use it for the benefit of our children? In Germany where I live, most unfortunately the state reacts totally the opposite way.

In some dictatorial systems the state is interested in separating the children from their parents as quickly as possible in order to teach them their dictatorial ideas from early childhood on. The children shall be brought up as functioning parts of the system. In case on the way there some children break down, nobody really cares.

But Germany is a free country. Nevertheless more and more very young children are being sent to pre-nursery schools at an extremely early age already. Don't the responsible people know that even the most modern and the best pre-nursery school will never be able to replace a loving and caring home?

A child that is being brought up by his mother or father or grandparents or any other person that permanently cares for him will gain much more mental strength and stability than a child that had to go to pre-nursery school from very young age onward, even if it is for some hours per day only. The longer and the more intensely a child is able to enjoy the warmth and care of his family's nest, the mentally stronger he will be when starting primary school at the age of three or four years. Even here three or four hours per day would fully be enough in order to learn all the social skills that he will need in school.

When looking at the CV of young people who have serious emotional and psychological problems you will discover that most of these did not have the possibility of building up emotional connections and contacts with their families at an early age.

Parents that are aware of their responsibility should very seriously consider what they do with their baby and where they put their priorities. Is it more important to earn a lot if money in order to have a possibly high standard of living even at the risk of their child's health? Or do they care for the welfare of their child and are they willing to accept having less money in their purses because one parent is working only and the other is taking care of the child? Everybody may decide for himself.

The state would be able to help if mothers and fathers would get more financial support and thus time for bringing up their children, instead of building more and more full day pre-nursery schools for babies.


In the New Testament of the Bible Paul writes the following about this subject:

I may speak in tongues of men or angels, but if I am without love, I am a sounding gong or a clanging cymbal. I may have the gift of prophecy, and know every hidden truth; I may have faith strong enough to move mountains; but if I have no love, I am nothing. (1 Corinthians 13, 1 – 2)