what's up family welcome welcome welcome come on in we got some things to talk about where did I put my notes yeah no foreplay tonight we get straight to the point so welcome good evening this is an impromptu stream I didn't plan on going live tonight please if you're here put a thumbs up if you can hear me make sure my my sound is okay it'll I see you brother long story short I appreciate you Paul I see you Courtney I see you long story short you know I've mentioned on occasion that it's time for us to redefine this space and it's time for us to speak with foresight and prioritize people who have balance I want to start by talking about this story and we'll get to the panels I'll be joined by mr. illesophical mr. Stacy yeah I'm Stacy and Nathan daily and we're going to be talking about chameleons we're gonna touch on the soccer player we're gonna touch on a lot of things going on in this space six the goddess the Nica Marie O'Shea Duke Jackson we there's a lot of stuff for us to touch on but I wanted to start here because again I ground this conversation or at least my understanding of this conversation through my understanding of blackness and recently a young man was shot for being black I'm a young man I used to be a younger man and I want to play this video and I want to help frame this the way that I understand it folks protesters in Kansas City have repeatedly gone to a neighborhood where a black honor student and talented musician Ralph Yorle was shot by a white homeowner as he went to the wrong house to pick up his siblings protest around in the event included several hundred individuals demanding the homeowner be charged in silent stating ringing a doorbell is not a crime and the shooter should do time again the 16-year-old has been hospitalized so social media they posted photos of him on social media in the hospital there as he is fighting to survive he was trying to collect his younger twin brothers from their friends home this took place on Thursday when he rang the doorbell of the wrong house and unknowingly went to the incorrect address northeast 115th Street instead of northeast 115th Terrace the white homeowner is in his 80s according to the Kansas City Defender officially injured injured y'all he shot y'all once in the head as they as they opened the door and again in the chest when y'all was on the ground y'all search for help from three neighbors who refused to open the door until one opened the door but only helped after y'all was told to put his hands up and lay face down that's when he lost consciousness homeowner who shot y'all his identity was not as not been made public but admitted to the shooting and was taken into custody and placed on a 24-hour investigative hold Kansas City Police Chiefs Stacey Stacey Graves explains why the white man was released so I want y'all to actually head over to Nathan Daley's channel after this he did a in my opinion comprehensive breakdown of this situation he talked about it from the perspective of a 13-year police veteran what disappoints me is that when I listen to some of our leaders in more prominent voices in this space they would have you believe that we live and we operate in a post-racial society and you know kind of like when I talked about meritocracy a couple streams ago that if you are a quote-unquote good black person you have nothing to worry about in the hands of white people what they forget to mention is for instance the the guy who shot this this boy is in the 60s so according to my math he was born in 1940 in the 1940s so anybody in their 80s I'm sorry not 60s 80s anybody in their 80s was around before the civil rights era during the civil rights era after the civil rights era and just like we talk about black trauma not leaving in a couple years or in a couple decades white supremacy white priority white guilt whatever whatever you're talking about does not leave overnight either and there's no amount of being one of the good ones that helps you I expect or I expected leaders in this very black space to be giving the lesson of yes talk to the police with respect yes talk to white people with respect yes articulate yourself pull up your pants but still understand how they see you like I know for fact the fact that I wear glasses makes white people a bit more comfortable the fact that I'm a bit more articulate than the average bear makes white people just a bit more comfortable therefore it tells me that their baseline is a certain expectation of me this is the kind of game that our young boys deserve this is the type of game that our young boys should be getting as opposed to naively sending them out into the world and thinking they can be white for all intensive purposes so with this particular case if this white guy gets life he's gonna end up spending what four years five years in prison he's already in his 80s it doesn't mean shit what I wanted to mean for us and it's also the theme of this stream with women uh it's time that we prioritize proactivity over reactivity it's time that we prioritize foresight over hindsight and and a lot of us unfortunately have become accustomed and our community has become accustomed to simply reacting to something when it happens as opposed to putting things in place for things not to happen in the first place my mom would always say prevention is better than cure one of the questions I have is why is a 16 year old being sent to pick up his siblings at 10 o'clock at night to an unfamiliar location I want to check our people why is a 16 year old black boy why wasn't he properly made aware of the circumstances and the world that he lives in why was he not properly made aware of how white people actually see him some people would have you believe I don't want my kids paranoid the the the critical race theory people say I don't want my kids paranoid I don't want the black kids to feel inferior I don't want the white kids to feel guilt but the reality of it is we must tell the truth and the truth is white people have to be biased against us they did a study recently and they gathered a a group of uh of some of the good white people liberals the the freedom fighters the ones who show up with running shoes to protests and they flashed images in front of their face random images and they wanted to monitor their brain's responses to these images even the good ones when they were shown a picture of a black male their autonomic response was triggered that fight or flight reflex was automatically triggered so what does that tell me there it is a baked in it is a baked in implicit bias we could talk about birth of a nation we can talk about the fact that you you google three white teams right now you're going to see a picture of three white dudes holding hands or something you google three black teams you're going to see mugshots it is baked into our consciousness as americans to think black criminal black dangerous you see a black boy he looks larger than he actually is he looks older than he actually is this is game we need to be telling our boys this is game we need to be telling our girls we shouldn't be waiting until the world shows us what it really is before we react again we talk about you know women saying you know i should be able to you know go outside butt naked and nothing should happen to me in a perfect world yes this ain't a perfect world i should be able to be a black man and and not have to a black boy and i have to worry about anything in a perfect world yes but this isn't a perfect world so we must be telling our children we must be telling our black boys we must be telling our black men our black women we must be telling them the truth because we must be dealing with how shit is not what shit looks like in this particular conversation tonight we'll be talking about women and that's the theme that's a perfect theme how shit is versus how shit looks like because unfortunately too many of us are too easily fooled all right again appreciate y'all being here um we got the goat statue in the building we got illesophical in the building matter of fact nathan just text me let me see what he got going on all right i think he might join on the move but paul i see appreciate your brother he's still at work i know it's kind of an early stream or earlier that i'm used to doing sports droppings um yeah so like i said go to nathan's channel he covered this more in depth i couldn't i couldn't answer that for you afro disciple yeah we don't value black boys um and i would take it a step further that we don't value the truth right and and and that's something that's an l we have to take you know especially for me i think that's an l black men have to take i don't know the situation of his family whether he has a father in his life or not but i maintain the position that women's job is to teach children why to survive men's jobs to teach children why to survive i mean how to survive i'm sorry um so some of those harsh hard truths it needs to come from a man because in order for us to protect the provider for damn we have to be kind of pessimistic we have to kind of expect the worst right to prevent the worst from happening so one of the consequences of the men being taken out of the home or the men being incentivized out of the home is that uh our community is less proactive and it's more reactive all right so before i pull the brothers up i want to go over let me share this i want to go over my community my community page and if you guys don't know that's where i post my thoughts from time to time and that's where i attempt sometimes to drop some nuggets to help us be a bit more proactive so two weeks ago i posted this survey i said who seems the most genuine i did it twice i said shea shard a crimson cure six the goddess melanie king shantel samon cordy michel denika marie now i understand completely that these results might be a bit skewed because most of the people voting are going to be part of my audience so for instance if they realized that shantel and i have a beef they might have voted her down or that i like Courtney they might have voted her up um but this this one aside this particular one had more votes they had 2700 votes yep 2700 votes and i i don't really have a tie to any of these women other than my observation from far away but i gotta tell you fellas i i'm disappointed i'm very very disappointed melanie king has 27 percent of your vote six the goddess has 11 percent of your vote crimson cure has 51 percent of your vote shea shard has 10 percent of your vote more people think six the goddess is more genuine in her cause than shea shard a we go talk about it um i also post that women prefer pookies and ray rays for the same reason some of y'all make certain content creators famous prioritizing excitement and drama over substance we go talk about it also don't forget to get your ticket for our event let me see oh it's up here the tickets are selling pretty fast and also we already we also secured a hotel at a discounted rate my session timed out give me one second so if you're going to be in atlanta during the event shout out to cordy michelle she was able there we go she was able to get a hotel um near the event site um at a complimentary rate for our event so once you buy your ticket you'll be sent this link um again y'all please be proactive let's not wait until these tickets sell out pull up it's going to be a great time it's going to be a very productive event as well corny michelle will be there nathan daily will be there um some of our goat level members will be there you know so it's going to be a it's going to be a great thing but again going back to going back to this um i've i've started doing or condensing some of the live streams into shorter videos more digestible videos so you guys be sure to check that out it's in the playlist called live stream recap um i don't know if i address this but apparently bgs um signed me the other day he said that i um and being overly critical or i'm i guess self-righteous um i agreed with some of his points i disagreed with others um oh yeah let me read this by denis burling he said Malcolm X that we loved was under the tutelage of the Honorable Elijah Muhammad he was one that told the young white girl there's nothing you can do to help us i wish us oh you i wish you niggas had said the same thing to miss and who now who's now your new leader shout out to denis burling he's one of the proactive brothers that i found in this space who could actually peep gang from a mile away um philip scott uh this was a good uh a good video also check out this video by minister ferrican i'll be quoting him uh later on but um he talks about polygamy again i want to share some of my sources people ask a lot like where do i get some of the information that i get it's reading and listening um this is funny this is funny um so when i asked this question it was kind of cryptic the other day um to be transparent it was about six it was about six the goddess i wanted to get a sense of who's paying attention or how many people are paying attention um even though i assume people didn't know what i was talking about most people voted no i hope they know what i was talking about but you know we'll see all right and then i asked the question what do we want more this question is posed to the black manisphere beautiful parrots are reasonable virtuous women the reason i asked that question is because in my observation it seems like um the women who are being incentivized in this space are only being incentivized not because they are thought leaders not because they're adding any extra um context or any extra perspective to the men that they're talking to but just because they regurgitate things so whether we're talking about the white girl pearl or we're talking about some of the black women in this space unfortunately there is a demand for beautiful parrots and it's something that we have to address if we really want the black male legislation reform that we claim we want to we really want the black male studies departments that we claim we want we have to get serious about how we gatekeep what it is that we're doing here again i asked what's the primary goal of the black manisphere black male improvement in community building catharsis and entertainment the results are too close for my liking but it's a reality we have to deal with everybody can't come and this is 769 people who voted 38% voted for catharsis and entertainment another question i asked which video would perform better in this space proof that the sky is blue why does the sky appear blue what i met by this question i was asking to see if people want uh analyses or reactions and exposés right because unfortunately like i keep saying the people we continue to give our attention to the the shiny things that we continue to gravitate to are not adding any extra to the conversation they're simply just pointing at stuff and saying look at what happened you know but me speaking up or critiquing that i think i'm better all right so i also said the women who tend to have the worst outcomes with men or those who view them as a commodity simply to be exploited the men who tend to have the the point of this was it works both ways a lot of men think that you can buy women's affection and that's some of what we'll talk about today a lot of men think that if you check some arbitrary boxes you know i'm saying it's it's it's it's a done deal but unfortunately i think what tends to happen and especially with the quote-unquote grifters in this space and you can make the same argument for strippers you can make the same argument for prostitutes they understand that this is the trend uh this is a transaction and because they understand this is a transaction they can never respect you because you're a customer and they know that you see them as a product so whether it's the only fans model that you're tipping whether it's a stripper you're tipping or whether it's the lady on youtube regurgitating talking points they can never respect you because they know you haven't even done the due diligence enough to actually vet if they actually believe what they're saying but again you want them to tap dance for you okay how fast um let's see so the brother keeping 100 kept the 100 he said if we are serious about blackmail advocacy dr tia sond johnson should have 100k fucking subscribers guess who has 100k fucking subscribers or close to it melody king six the goddess pink book lessons crimson cure people are supposed to be talking to women so like you know brothers we have to be serious about what the hell we're doing here again a key hallmark of leadership is pro activity not reactivity foresight over hindsight now this particular pitch i video i'm sorry i posted this video um from jr wisdom shout out to him i don't know the brother but he was spinning this video um he was talking about well it was a video of a white woman explaining to a black woman that black men warning white women is not a compliment to white women and the brother took offense he was like not necessarily real ones know that it's true and again i thought that we were as men we were supposed to be facts over feelings we were supposed to be able to put our feelings to the side look at things objectively and analyze them and i don't know how many times a white woman has to get on tiktok or youtube or instagram and say i know i'm getting fat when black men start hollering at me i know i know you know i'm saying i might i might be having an off day when black men start hollering at me or i could let myself go because i know black men are still want me brothers the reality is our gaze is cheap the reality is our our you know our desire is cheap because we give it out to freely whether we're talking about on youtube whether we're talking about on the street that's something we have to deal with is black men and you know the reality too is some white women if we're being honest the reason they deal with black men is because black men are a bit more docile than the white men they're used to yeah we'll control them in the bedroom but to them we're still man dingo we're still we're still we're still a nigger boy and whereas to her white man she might have to you know what i'm saying she might have to hold herself to some kind of standard she may have to pay attention they they know with us there's a bit more you know the the leash is longer they know that you know that we're a bit more accommodating that's something that that's something we have to acknowledge and i'm saying when i say black men i'm not even talking about african americas i'm saying africans as well especially my nigerian brothers we'll show up to the party with the 300-pound white woman and be proud as hell of her it's shameful it's shameful and a lot of these things we do validate some of the dissenting voices that we claim to be against so the other day one of the quote-unquote leaders of the manisphere he uh sent me an email and then he posted said email calling in an open letter and basically made the point that i am not uh knowledgeable enough of this space to be properly critical of it this is my response first quote a reasonable man adapts himself actually hold on actually i remember it it says the unreasonable man but the reasonable man adapts himself to the world the unreasonable man persists to adapt the world to himself i don't know why i didn't open it nipsey said are you going to be at peace with the world and at war with yourself or at war with the world and at peace with yourself the last quote no tree can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell i say all that to say based on what i've seen in this space in the year that i've been in this space um there's a lot of validity to the space and you know people like t.s.l. johnson have my respect uh people like denny spurling based on what i've seen have my respect um the brothers on the panel have my respect but some of the energy in this space if we're being completely honest is goofy is people who simply want to bicker is people with no vision for what they want to see happen for our community for our men for our boys for our women and if i'm misunderstanding that i would submit that the manasphere has to do a good enough job being concise about its mission statement because the handling of the just pearly situation even now the handling of the six the goddess situation is completely contrary to what i believe the manasphere was created for so to the quote-unquote leaders of this space um i plan on creating a new one because y'all are full of shit i also made this point and i want to read i want to read an example of what i'm talking about about with the manasphere i said all women are chameleons gentlemen the trick is not to find one that agrees with you all the time but a woman that can maintain a certain level of respect for you and herself in the inevitable moments you both disagree i made this statement because i was having a conversation with Courtney about this whole chameleon thing you know as you guys may or may not know pink book lessons made a video about Courtney being a chameleon because of how she reacted to some middle eastern woman being pulled up on the lapief panel a while back and not just being pulled up but being propped up by the men on that panel as a shining example of what black women should be obviously as a black woman she reacted negatively to that situation now i told her i said all women are chameleons all women are capable of showing different colors you know you've heard the the the phrase hell half no fury like a woman scorn in Nigeria like me and some of my my uh Nigerian brothers we we always say fear women women are dangerous women are the most beautiful but dangerous motherfuckers you haven't been in your life and what makes them specifically dangerous is because they're they're not as capable to inflict damage physically as we are like physiologically so their mouth makes up for it their cunning makes up for it their how strategic they can be makes up for it as an example i guarantee you i probably couldn't have gotten this deal from the hotel that Courtney was able to finesse that's the power of women now with that being said those colors can be bright and lovely and beautiful and those colors can fuck you up but again as men we shouldn't be drawing the delineation lines based on a woman's colors and based on the times that she's on our side we should be making the distinctions of how she acts the times that she's not on our side how she respects us how she respects herself so i want to go to this comment right here uh boom king strong he says i've been married 10 years and this is some of the worst advice lol all women are not chameleons me and my wife agree almost 80 of the time if you want a healthy relationship you choose a woman who agrees with you more often than she disagrees with you you need a like-minded spouse not an adversary anything else leads to divorce now that's free game okay so the brother thought he was telling me something here's my response let me pull yeah make it look bigger so in response i said okay nope we okay it's not like instagram so in response i said laugh my ass off i would submit to you that due to the inherent differences in our nature she she and other women do not agree with you or any other man 80 of the time but if you want to believe that knock yourself out my message here is that respect the quorum and agreeableness should be the distinguishing factors not how good of a non-critical yes woman you can find he responded he said never said all women have to agree with 80 with men 80 of the time i said my wife agrees with me 80 of the time and that's why she's my wife you don't have to agree with that brother but i'm assuming that's why brothers like you aren't in successful long-term relationships okay mr micah gene don't know this brother he jumped in he says successfully married i've seen you in women's chats like shantel talking bad about women i'm calling cap that you're married or happily married there's no wife that would want her husband simping for women online king strong he responds and says lol so because i agree with women you dislike i'm simping now i also don't talk bad about women i tell the truth about my surroundings and the women i simp for or the woman i simp for is my wife man move around so i responded i said first of all i'm only 29 years old so i'm not quite done pimping yet there's a joke i'm almost done part of the reason a lot of young brothers like myself have lost respect for married older brothers is that some of y'all have delusional expectations of women quotes find a woman who agrees with you 80 of the time is objectively shallow advice to give young brothers what actually matters is how she behaves the 20 of the time she disagrees this is a macro conversation and you're using the uniqueness of your individual situation to dismiss the validity of the big picture is disappointing so the reason why i think that is such a perfect example of what the hemisphere has become is because when we see certain things happen whether we're talking about just pearly things and i told nathan this as well whether we're talking about now six the goddess my understanding of leadership is foresight my understanding of leadership is high level my understanding of leadership in in in ebo culture for instance we have a saying um that what a child has to climb the the tallest erocal tree to see an elder can see it sitting down right so foresight so to see our leaders instead of point out potential booby traps ahead of time instead of when those booby traps reveal themselves instead of giving a higher level more nuanced dissection of what's going on and what should be taken away our leaders spend two hours doing a live stream of whether or not some white girl is racist our leaders spend 15 minutes doing a reaction video about the beautiful whoever the fuck and i'm left like these aren't fucking leaders if if i can't send this to my 18 year old brother this doesn't help him uh uh uh deduct how to move into the future intelligence is what you know wisdom is how you apply it i'm not seeing wisdom in this space right and one of the things that real motherfuckers understand is just just because she she got a ring on don't mean she's valid i got a couple homeboys who've been knocking married women down i got a homeboy showing me news of a woman and then show him here i g posing with her husband don't get this shit twisted but again some of us here are so easily fooled we see a diamond ring on a woman's finger we think she's valid or a niggas been married for 15 years we think he knows what he's talking about or i'm the founder of whatever the fucking people think you know what you're talking about do you have a clearly laid out plan a clearly laid out objective this is what we're going to do this is what we're not going to do no so whether we're talking about just pearly things whether we're talking about now some of our biggest manosphere creators are former strippers the big picture is we have made a joke in a mockery of what we set out to do here because instead of the progress and the things the tis on johnson is talking about the legislation the the men's rights fucked the the getting women to see what the hell we're saying now we're just satisfied with confirmation porn and like i told nathan the other day listen these women ain't fucking stupid these only fangirls are taking notes oh i don't have to show my pussy no more i don't have to show my titties nobody's got to get on uh the internet makes a manosphere videos and and call women hyenas and cockroaches and whatever other terms that they taught you and i i can make fifteen hundred dollars on a live stream whereas the motherfuckers actually doing the work the tis on johnson's of the world they'd be lucky to make five hundred we're making this shit a joke and the funny thing is when even in the in the instances where things come out and they're clear and it's like you know you can't even deny this niggas still make excuses niggas still make excuses i see i saw i saw people talking about the only people criticizing six the goddess are people who wish they could have fucked a girl like that in in high school and i'm like niggas i'm like i'm like stacy i see you laughing i'm like niggas y'all y'all y'all just and what's funny and what's ironic is these women wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire and this is part of the reason part of the reason is because they know you don't care if they believe what they're saying but this is the space but you know we go renovate this motherfucker and i know you know i might sound self-righteous you know i might be all this who this young nigga think he is he hasn't put put in enough do's and this this and that but like based on me looking around and and what i've seen and the the the caliber of questions that i'm seeing grown ass men ask who does more damage to black men black women or white women and that's like a valid question like this shit is middle school so you know if a 29 year old nigga has to come in and get shit together that's what i'm gonna do and i'm gonna bring some brothers who actually know what the fuck they're talking about are naturally familiar with women and actually understand that a pretty face don't mean a fuck and actually understand that women are wired differently than men the goal is not to get them to think like us the goal is to get them to appreciate us the goal is to get them to respect us because anything other than that when she gets tired of thinking like you when it inevitably it inevitably comes to pass that like she's tired of putting up the facade it'll go to shit and then i'm supposed to empathize with your divorce story i'm supposed to empathize with the fact that you you chose a you you chose a a bitch that my homeboys used to run trains on under the bleachers and she moved two states away and she became the love of your life because you didn't know the telltale signs to look for and it's like some some people's like sob stories are valid and the things that people people are saying is like that but when you actually pay attention to what how they position themselves as men is is hard for me to and i feel the same way about women if you knew he was a drug dealer what kind of pussy you thought you had that was going to change that so again man we got to start telling the truth man we got to start telling the truth and nobody nobody's beyond reproach i don't care if it's kevin samuels i don't care if it's oh shea duke jackson i don't care if it's the obsidian nobody's beyond reproach so the brother states you in the back and i'm gonna bring him up next um he did a video four days ago of this brother crying after being dumped and cheated on by some hoe that he fell in love with i want to play it a little bit because i think this is a teachable moment and shout out to stacy go over there and subscribe actually i don't think it's playing the audio y'all give me one second because all i did was love you all i wanted to do was just just have a family with you i do apologize i forgot you the names but i just i was i just wanted you to hurt the way that you that you hurt me i know that feeling bro and like and i know that feeling and i know i might be crazy to think this but i feel i still do have love for you and like i just all all i ever wanted was a family you don't have love for her you don't you have love for your idea of her shout out to brother stacy without further ado let me bring up the brothers stacy elisapha what's going on brothers what's up what's up man man man man what's going on y'all i don't even know where to start what's what's happening man what's going on great day man great day yeah playoffs going on so it's a beautiful time you know so thanks i just want to have a good night man a good um entertaining but yet informative live stream with the homies man what's good bro just meeting for the first time bro what's good with you man you muted bro you muted yeah you muted brother likewise brother peace man we go there we go let's just share a platform which i'm sure you got some pretty good talent if allen is repulsing it because you know i definitely trust allen's you know inspectors and miles so i'm looking forward to it to dialogue we got that nice absolutely absolutely appreciate you brothers appreciate you brothers pulling up man i'm gonna start with you stacy man because the video i just played uh is is is your video um i've watched the whole thing but for the for the people watching break down kind of what happened and your synopsis of what happened and the bigger larger takeaway that you know some some young boys and men can take from his story all right in that situation what was going on is the guy was dating a woman for seven months she had a kid he had some children so obviously sometimes when you have some baggage you think you have to lower your standards a certain type of way you have to accept accept some bullshit so in that situation i've seen the way that the bro was speaking is that he was accepting her baggage and he thought that that's the best that he could have did was to be with her and then a long story short it was so many different situations and throughout that short relationship that she kept pushing him away because you could only hide who you are for so long but homie just kept ignoring the red flags and just kept on rocking kept chasing the kept fighting and pull it pull it pull her in because that's all he thought he could do and this woman i guess came to him and some vulnerable time for him so she validated him based on what you're saying um she validated him so you can tell that she feel to some feel some void but that he didn't take the time to feel for himself so now he's in a position that you finally have i guess he may be a hopeless romantic you finally got a woman that's going to rock with him in the situation and he's taking bullshit and then he fell in love with the idea of that woman that said one and now you sit here realizing she the one him i guess she finally came to the point that that was inevitable for her to finally push him away because now she's realizing she's in too deep because she's a shallow trick herself but now she's in too deep and she can she can't give that man what he needs she can't do it so she pushed him away and now he's hurting so now he's stuck in the in the position once again like i said he's in love with the idea that i want because he fell in love with the facade not only that she painted but you know you have confirmation of bias that we go through a lot of times um women they just sit there and they listen to you they're gonna know how to play that role and she probably was playing that role and he thought as soon as he heard she she checked a couple boxes oh i'm in there he just dove in and like i said in the video you can't dive in a shallow water a woman that's three feet deep four feet deep five feet deep you can't dive deep you want to get fucking hurt so that's the situation the homie was in ended up being hurt shit and then after that point obviously she was cheating on him this crazy whole video but that's situation right there bro and a nut shit you know absolutely man absolutely so illa i'm gonna throw this question to you man what what are some because again we're talking about being proactive instead of reactive what are some telltale signs if i'm a if i'm an 18 year old dude you kick in game too what are some telltale signs to like yo if she moved like this if she looked like this if she walked like this talk like this that's a dub just stay away um that's a great question and it's it's really the smallest things a lot of things that guys ignore is the littlest things it's like the avalanches build from little snowballs and we don't see it until then and turn into a huge situation if you're at a restaurant how she responds to the waiter she overreacts when um the food may get a little late or just look at look at the the the temperamental overreactions you know i mean service the the way that they equip the disrespect somebody who was you know wrong them in a slight way you know you got to watch that you got to see how when you this is this one that a lot of men don't realize you'll talk you'll be talking to a woman about something serious and she'll come out of nowhere but like oh wow you're my nails done you know give a fuck about what you're talking about and she's she's gonna do it and they it's like they move where they hide what they do on the plane site so they don't feel bad because they in they mind they're like i've been showing you i don't care so that's why when y'all have an argument they go overboard because they feel like i've been not caring about so now that we at the point where it's obvious was i could say whatever i'ma say whatever you know what i'm saying because like women have relationships with men not all women throughout all time because you know everything is taken out of context and you know women of the modern time in most cases they create relationships with men they can control but they have sex with the guys that they like and they can't seem to find the guy that they like that they can control and the guy that they can control they're not sexually attracted to so most out of nine out of ten times if a guy is with a woman who's slightly he got a little bit of gripes a little bit complaints more than likely he's dead control because most guys who can't be controlled either got a girl that they've been with for a long time what they say that don't mean they alone real yeah yeah yeah that's real real quick though let me let me read the super chat uh shout out to mr brown appreciate your brother so mr brown says thank you for not throwing away the vocabulary we created at this point the atmosphere is a body of work and no need to throw out work just to start over side note tickets to atl so doubt our focus group reps want to go um yeah i saw that earlier man so the 10 percenter tickets are sold out and for whatever reason the system made all the tickets sold out so i updated it and removed the 10 percenter tickets and uh the uh general admission tickets are still up i believe it's 89 89 tickets still available so yeah y'all jump on that um before those sell out but appreciate it um to address your second uh your first point i think um i might cast some heat for this but like i think we mistakenly attribute certain things to the man is fear like men didn't have these conversations poke pre man is fear or men didn't have these gripes pre man is fear and the reality is niggas been talking about this if you've dated women in this country if you've had black male friends if you've had a father cousins whatever we've been talking about this so like another piece of game one of the ways that i root women out is if she starts using man is fear terms like hyena and and 304 and shit like that because people don't talk like that in real life so when she starts regurgitating those specific terms because she knows it hits and she knows kevin said this and said that chances are she's full of shit so again you know uh um from from the tia san johnson angle of the manuscript that's actually interested in uh like pushing forward a message and pushing forward a mission and actually trying to fix it i'm with that a thousand percent but the other men who just congregate to gossip that's a dud man so i'm gonna throw this question to you stacey man um what's up in in in the video you talked about you know how the brother wanted he he he envisioned a certain thing for her right and as men we're supposed to do that you know we're supposed to have a plan in the whole nine but unfortunately what he ended up doing was he closed his eyes and his ears to who she was and just fell in love with who he wanted her to be so what do you think is at the core of that why do you think so many of us as men we get so wrapped up in what we want to see in a woman versus what she actually is um i'm gonna be honest with you bro for some for some of us as men it is hard to find women that may look a certain type of way and then match the attitude as well so sometimes we get like anything that comes quite close to that we're gonna try to see it out we're gonna keep giving certain chicks an extra chance extra chance to try to see things out if they give us like they check certain boxes that's the attraction and that's the submissiveness and especially they do what they're supposed to do in the bedroom in our and to our in our pain i think a lot of a lot of men become weak in the head in the other head i'm point point up here but you know what i mean but um we become weak when it comes to certain things so we overlook certain shit and a lot of times when some men not all but um you can see based on the um the the voice statistics when we end something we're gonna ride it on out and just just just ride it on out for whatever reason i don't know but we ride a lot of things out until the wheel just falls off i don't know why we do that bro i don't know why we wild like that but we do that it is how we are and sometimes we give people a lot more chances i guess sometimes we just start stop diving in or or eventually once we do fire how things are that's when a man may cheat or whatever move on but instead of accident relationship the right way i don't know but for some reason we do that bro what you think about that though you know what jumps out to me man um when when i was uh in miami man we were on the strip i don't know if you remember uh that that that young dude we were talking to and he was young dude he had to be like 14 15 16 you know i'm saying he was young but he was talking about man these women be you know if you give him some weed they'll go with you if you got some money they'll go with you like a lot of these young boys have also seen the worst of women and for me i think there's a balance right because i don't want those 16 year olds thinking that every woman is a hoe every woman is is on go in the whole nine how do we balance stains back out like if we can pull that brother back to the side and be like yo nah these are just miami girls out here but there's some wholesome girls how do we make this conversation a bit more balanced so it's just not nihilistic and these holes are a lost cause in the whole nine well i think the only way you can do that just show them a different different experiences is to recalibrate their minds that's the only way because some people are like bro i'ma keep it keep it keep it keep it do what you were i remember the first time i left miami and went to college and came back and i came came and seen the same damn people and i realized like some people do not move out without outside on four blocks that one neighborhood that's all they see just those type of women those type of experiences and it's tough when that's just your world that that's your oyster so that's all your experiences so it's tough the only way is that i'ma keep it to you they have to want to go and find something else too and it's funny you say that funny i say that because you it makes sense for movements like those passport bro shit pop out i don't agree with every single thing i'm thinking theory it makes sense but i don't agree with everything but when you hear certain things like that it makes sense when people just want to see something different to open up their experiences when you experience more just learn more it's just simple as that bro facts facts facts so i'ma throw this to you uh illa man so one of my favorite quotes from uh not elizabeth i'm sorry lewis ferrican he said the greatest pleasure a man will ever feel is not a woman he said the greatest pleasure a man will feel is bringing an idea from his mind to his hands right so the the process of actualizing your dreams is the greatest pleasure a man will ever feel go ahead you mute it brother yeah i haven't eaten all that out of food coming up i'll just get in the oh no no no it's all good man it's all right you need to go you need to go real quick away okay okay yeah so just just kick the answer real quick to me um so basically one of the pieces of advice that i tell brothers is you know we've heard you know if you chase women you'll lose money if you chase money you'll never lose women but like really drive that point home why is it so important for a man to prioritize his purpose over women because once you get into your purpose you want to do with certain energy that ultimately they're drawn to and that's the energy of focusing on oneself they're always pursuing men who are so locked up in their own ideas they may find themselves lonely sometimes they might find themselves you know saying baby you don't touch me back soon enough and things like that but ultimately they're going to be drawn to the fact that you're so captivated with your own goals and you have such ambition to drive to what you need to be that's ultimately going to put you in in the driver's seat when it comes to one he's going to put you as the hunted instead of the hunter because contrary to popular belief people say oh women need to be pursued most women pursue who they want it may not be overtly but they put themselves in the line of where these men need to be because they know that the men that they really really want are not looking for them they're hunting there uh what they need for their their life they hunt and they trap they're not hunting you see the trap for the man is a life that is prosperous a woman is an added benefit of that so when you're chasing that she's chasing you you know I'm saying most of these guys that are in the places where we would like to be and I'm not even just talking about celebrities you know like that just men that are on their purpose they're working out and just doing the things that that um keep their their manhood to a certain level not just physical but spiritually um reading right eating right you're going to just exude a certain energy that's going to track her if you're constantly pursuing her and trying to prove to her your value you're only going to turn her off you know what I'm saying but it takes a man to understand new walks to feel like that she's not going to say this to you and that's the problem I was saying on the shoulder of the day being listened to where women tell them so much and the first thing they say a lot of times they my brothers will tell me I have an issue with they want me to but she said this but she said that it don't matter what she said she's going to say a lot of things it's about you being the example of consistency for what you do not about capitulating to her feelings that those feelings are going to sway and guys are just they just listen to women too much sort of just saying this is what I'm going to do I'm gonna stick to it sometimes we're gonna laugh sometimes you're gonna cry but she's gonna stay there you know I'm saying that just you know thanks so you know with me and you met man you know we had it we had a conversation we had a conversation on your rooftop man we were talking about you told me about one of your boys who like he had a bad thing like college educated find a whole nine and he didn't have a dollar to his name but she was taken care of I bring that up to say a lot of men in this space who are angry at women and kind of rightfully so they would tell you that yo I got the degree I got the house I got the money I got the cars I got the education but for whatever reason I'm not having luck with men I mean I'm sorry with women what are those brothers missing that the brothers who are getting everything for nothing understand unapologetic understanding of themselves they don't have them they know how to fit a role in society but they don't have based on their own students based on their own inquiry of knowledge based on their interpersonal relationship they haven't got they haven't gathered an identity that they can stand on that gives them some some gives them a certain uh mystery about themselves and to make in lamest terms they're fucking boring and dudes think that being though they think that being uh being lit is being able to to this level's to it women do want experiences okay so now you got her on the beach now she's on now you got her in an exotic place now that you and her you're on the beach you're paid for the shit you don't pay for the best situation you don't pay for the best room now she's there with you and her what the fuck is you about to talk about women want to listen they just want to be put in a pristine environment where it's just like the movies but they want to be in that environment to listen to you but these dudes don't have nothing to say because they don't know enough they just know how to regurgitate societal victories but they don't have an understanding of something that you're supposed to be able to talk to a woman about something she's never heard of in her life and most dudes don't have the ability to take her mind to a place she's never been and they don't value it so when they get the brand to get the money and they're like oh she still don't kick it because you boring is nothing exotic about your mind you have a boring mind motherfuckers they car is exotic they car is foreign but they mind and their intellectual capability and their articulation is very domestic Stacy jumping there man I know I know because because and you're in such a perfect situation well not situation but city because Miami LA New York are kind of like vanity central so how would you respond to that same question like what would you add to what illicit it makes the most sense when it just becomes just looking at things is growing up bro most people that got the chicks are the people that are most sure of themselves he said it perfectly you know understanding yourself just confidence confidence because me myself as a jet I'm from Miami so no I'm saying jet I'm Florida but as a jet bro I got the baddest chicks the baddest chicks and I had pretty much nothing to offer but just a personality and some things I guess as far as like it looks people may say one may find me attractive but that was it but just building my personality and I had to focus on that to be able to offer because I don't have much to offer much much else other than that other than that and then in college also learning how to start reading I mean I started reading I started to learn how to um read things to build my vocabulary give myself more tops to speak about I learned how to I'm a KBG fuck a woman's mind if I couldn't stimulate the parks at a certain point in time it then as I got older and I got you know being able to provide that just became more far as in my repertoire so I just became able to like you know learn how to compete for women bro that's just how I personally did it you feel me I know other dudes may have the own type of way how they go ahead and get chicks like that but me personally I just built myself up I studied my opponent and I wish he went on attack I did it the most modest way possible there's no way in chick come out here and say I'm some type of asshole type of dude I'm a chill dude but I just studied my opponent I just learned women and I just did it cool as a dude as simple as that that's just me telling you how I went about it bro one one of the things I see um a lot of brothers unfortunately because because you know the man is fear got its start if if I'm not mistaken not even the black man is for the original man is fear a big part of it would like would like pick up artistry right it was like you know what I'm saying these are the tips and tricks and a whole nine so a lot of dudes mistakenly think that there is a magic term or magic phrase that you'll say and for me in my experience sometimes it's what you don't say so explain to us like what is the balance of kicking knowledge like ill is talking about but also knowing when it when it be quiet bro it's you gotta understand that um first you gotta you want to figure out that chick is even worth your damn time so you have to listen for that shit that's my main I gotta wonder I gotta understand it so as I'm listening I'm picking up you know your interests and these x1z and that's gonna determine whether or not we may just smash this one night and I keep it pushing and by the way this is back in my days you feel when I was in my playing days now I'm locked up you know I'm chilling but back in my playing days you know I listen to get understanding and see what why are you gonna fall into what I figure you are you're gonna be someone I'm a wife or try to wife all right then I'm gonna go ahead and see how I can go ahead and where can I provide some type of what can I show that I am and I guess I would say how can I peacock how can I show my importance you feel me once should this woman be a woman that I um I would say I can't think of I don't know why so I court this woman but what that's what I'm trying to say but that all comes from just listening bro you have to hear that and then you go ahead and see all right what can I provide you know show my substance how poppy here in the next ones are you feeling absolutely illa same thing to you brother um you saying when is a good time to be silent yeah uh basically like he said you know we're getting to know her you know what I'm saying uh just letting her explain herself let her let her talk sometimes they can't reciprocate with the silence so sometimes you may have to say a little bit to make them say a lot you know what I'm saying because if you quiet sometimes they're required so you just got to know when to be quiet you know get them excited sometimes after a couple drinks it's time to be quiet because that's when they're a little more relaxed and you get it you all turned up but that's really when you need to just show that you can handle your drink chill and let us show her true show you know what I'm saying but in the beginning stages you should always uh let them be silent when they're explaining when they have a right with you you should just let them get it all out you know just be silent don't don't interject you know just just let them when they're emotional let them talk just let them all just let it all hang out because sometimes they're going to tell on themselves or give you a window for a solution you know what I'm saying so don't be so quick to try to show her another way like let her be who she is a lot of things we do we try to force things on each other it's like no I want you to be yourself and who you are naturally are should naturally complete who I naturally am I shouldn't have to edit you in the beginning you know later on which I'm going to be able to report you could throw something at a baby try to look at in the beginning let her be herself let her natural self totally allow it to be shown so you can see if your natural self is compatible with us so in the beginning you should definitely be silent that's a real talk bro I don't want to cut you all but you know a lot of times bro you can learn about a chick just from what she's allowed her past you give a chick her time because she can tell you about all her ex-wife and did this that you're gonna tell your whole life and you're gonna like wait wait wait you allow him to do that and what do you provide to you for you to open up to him and that way you just sit down listen like all right so so hold on hold on you sometimes certain chicks will make you feel offended that they think that they can deal with you based on the people that they dealt with in their past bro so you just sit down listen till you realize right now and they got nothing to say that they may be really behind on some shit so sometimes you gotta ask the open-ended questions get them going sometimes the first dates man sometimes I wonder either I may go out for drinks or we have a chill chill type of vibes they play some game night type shit you feel me I may go ahead and say let's play never have I ever they wouldn't do that all right okay let's get to it I want to see I want to get uncomfortable to start telling me stories and I want to pick their minds and see like what have you allowed in the past and if you allow some fucked up shit to happen to you do you realize some fucked up shit happened to you have you grown past that point are you still dealing with that trauma am I going to have to still be that still deal with that same baggage or my favorite artist is Eric about do one of the best songs is Bagway that talk about all the damn time pack light is what she kept saying over and over in that goddamn song so I tell people I'm into all the time on my channel pack light when you're moving from place to place relationship to relationship is she gonna bring that damn baggage over here to me am I have going to have to fix this broken woman that's the type of shit I gotta deal with I'm thinking about those things on my own as I'm an individual hopefully most of us have fixed those things before we move into another relationship on our own so we ain't just being hypocrites out here as men I'm gonna say that right there by the same damn time you give them the time they're gonna tell you what it is bro but you have to ask the right questions and just let things manifest bro we'll just let things just happen it's gonna happen because women not just women I'm gonna just say people we all are the main character in our own movie so we feel like we're so damn important and shit like that you give someone that's gonna let you tell they let you tell you you're gonna let's get someone that's gonna let you tell your story to them they gonna do that shit especially if it's a potential partner they're gonna want to pour into you give them the chance and you're gonna find out you're gonna find out so so you know I don't know if y'all are familiar with like um you know so there's blue pill with some beta shit there's red pill which is you woke and then there's black pill and some of the black pill people they they talk about some shit called looks maxing right they they say you know you got it you got to have you got to have a square jaw you got to be six five you got to be you know what I'm saying a good-looking dude to get women and I've always had an issue with that because some of the best-looking dudes that I know like objectively speaking don't get any bitches and some of the ugly motherfuckers that I know pull some baddies so why do you think so many of us are stuck on well I just I didn't hit the genetic lottery I'm not six foot you know what I'm saying I don't have a deep voice I don't have like what is it that they are missing and how can they actually make themselves competitive instead of just fixating on the things God get didn't give them what are they missing that's a great question what are they missing um I mean they've got to sit back and think on an individual basis what they are missing because it is important on an individual individual basis and then you see that you have to in life focus on what you can control that's that's one thing that I've learned as a jit and grew up and got older all I could do is focus on what I can't control and then from that point that God had a rest bro so once you do that you are going to be much more happier with how things how the dominoes fall in place for you based on you just doing your best and focusing on what you can't control yes you may not have this attribute or that in the third and when but you once you figure out you validate yourself as a human as a man as a as a grown-ass person period you go out in this world and you you're confident who you created you worked on yourself mentally everything and then you're going to be happy with the results you get and you're going to you're going to be surprised based on what you said bro some of the ugliest dudes in comparison to some dudes that are what what you said the square chin whatever you're going to see some of the ugliest dudes based on society standards are able to pull the baddest chicks and shit even even some of the unfortunately some of the broken dudes are able to pull the baddest chicks because of some confidence that they may have some dudes may have confidence in the stroke game i don't know they may have that confidence but that confidence it oozes out and ladies just they just sense that shit and they hop on to it but that's the validation that you have in with yourself sometimes you have some fall sense validation but some ladies they still get trapped into that hopefully you are the man that is not necessarily a trap hopefully that's not you but if you do have confidence in yourself you are going to be able to get chicks bro you just uh so illa explain explain that like break that down to us what does that mean right because just like you said earlier his brothers in the hood ain't got a dime to their name like we can't we can't assume all of them are these Casanovas all of them got stroke game with a whole nine but there's something they understand so how do you understand confidence man i mean you got two different types of men you know i mean you got men that are attractive but people in general men and women that are attractive then you got people that are magnetic that's the difference even men don't have no magnetism that's not a physical attribute so in other words attraction is just like i see that it caught my eye let me go see what that's like go see what it's like that's cool that's attraction magnetism is i'm drawn to something and it's beyond my control and i'm compelled to see what's going on with this person and that's what i think the difference is they don't have any magnetism you know they're just relying on the superficial surface abilities and they don't attract that's why a man that's not physically attractive to get certain women because he has a certain magnetism and the man that is attractive can't so that's that's right all right brother listen i like to get granular break that all the way down so let's say i'm i'm 15 right i'm just i'm just now hitting my growth spurt you know i'm starting to look at the women i hear you know uncle illa he says you know you got to get magnetism what's step one step one is ignore everybody and focus on you lock into who you are lock into where you want to go lock into building your mind lock into being the best you don't follow trends just act like nobody's there because just on the strength of you focusing on you people want to know hey what's up with you you seem to be to yourself but just really lock in on you and really focus on formulating how you view the world and don't be so quick to fit in with other people find your own lane things you don't agree with that other people are about follow those notions follow those inquiries of why you feel like i don't want to fit with this person i don't like that read become studious learn about the world doing just focus on that because when you're in your teen years for real for real what do magnetic and all that don't even matter at that age because you're still trying to build yourself to become a man a lot of times we put a lot of pressure on our young men and women to be whole already now you're still trying to figure out life you're still in student mode so you shouldn't even be trying to focus on trying to do anything but become the best version of yourself and be a student of life take that same student energy in the classroom and take it to life and get and listen to people from young to old anybody that can give you wisdom learn and be a sponge at that point and then start applying these things once you master being a sponge and master being a student of life as you get into your 19s and 20s and the early 20s those experiences are going to shape you and make you a unique individual because you humbled yourself to life you didn't think you haven't figured out at 15 i need to be smashing 20 and 50 girls they don't even need to do that you need to really lock in on yourself and really shape who you are who you want to be and let that guide you into your older age stacey same thing to you brother i'm just gonna keep it going with what bro said man those things are so important and a lot of us young dudes when you're young go out the puberty you get caught up and you are attracted to women but it's tough but it's important that you have to understand that a certain caliber of woman is a byproduct of the man that you are whether you successful have a type of way that's a byproduct of you so when you got a trash woman that's what you attracted i like to think of us when it comes to dating whatever like that is rebate but at the same time as a man like the homie said you don't even have to you know he doesn't really supposed to focus on that till a certain age you're not supposed to so as it is important when it comes to getting your mind right and really focus on those things because to get what you want in this area you kind of got to block that shit out you kind of have to not not even kind of you have to so you can focus on building yourself up as an individual as a man and then later down the line when you are ready to go ahead and start a family and stuff like that you are this man that women will want like crazy and at the same time um homie did say focus on yourself but he also said study you know think about the different type of people that you would want to be around x y z at the same damn time because you have to study society and study how people are and study the personalities and in front of that point once you validate yourself once you validate yourself as a human being as a man then you know basically all right if this person doesn't respect who i've made myself out to be i don't need them around this person can't come and take you and knock you off your pivot because you are sure who you who you are still you understand people and you still you know you know you got to make some deals in life if you're going to go ahead and deal with another individual when it comes to relationship wise x y z but still they completely disagree with the man that you are because so many times in relationships with different relationships whether it's romantic or whatever we lose who we are just to still have some type of relationship with folks you ain't got to do that especially if you know for show for show who you are you ain't got to do that there's people out here that are like-minded that you can go ahead and take your time and if you have done the time to work on yourself then you have built built up the patience to go ahead and find the right person in the first place if i'm absolutely jumping in brother um nothing young brothers need to realize and the young young sisters um relationships aren't just intimate and sexual relationships if you're a teacher that's a relationship that's your classmate that's a relationship the principal your mother they're all relationships learn the art and the nuance of relationships by observation and participation when you're at that age look at how the teacher responds to this student look at how the teacher responds to that student look at how the teacher responds to you look at the difference look at what made her go become more um amicable and what made her more upset compare that to the teacher in the next class study yourself by studying people people is nothing but people and understand the nuance of relationships when you're in school when you're out of class that's when the class really starts on that playground in the lunch room listen and watch and look at the what look at cause and effect in relationships what calls them to go left what calls them to go right like really become a student of your surroundings and really study relationships in relationships it's not just who you land no they're just relating first word of relationship is relate relation so there's a kinship there so they're all around us we all have relationships relationships are all around us so just understand the basics of it just a good relationship of learning how to relate to people that's the problem people are not relatable because they're not paying attention to nothing so you can be locked into your goals but still be aware of the world you can do two things at once facts facts so let me let me throw this at you what what is a um what is something you learned about women that surprised you and how have you learned to move around that we asked me or yeah no you um that there are a lot like us man you know what I'm saying they're very there's two dynamics happening in this in this from the black woman right now and in the world period men are able to vent in ways they haven't been able to vent publicly and not just we always been talking like this like you said something earlier that was so needed to be said only the goofy dudes learned the game when youtube came out when I seen a lot of content creators on youtube it just confirmed what I've been saying so I was 17 18 years old like I told y'all it didn't it didn't it didn't give me I mean you could take points because you know you always work on that jump shot but you already was shooting you know what I'm saying so I didn't learn a whole bunch of new stuff it just confirmed what I already was saying but a lot of times when we're dealing with each other there's two dynamics going on may not be able to speak for the first time and whether we want to deal with it or not this might be controversial but I'm gonna say women we confuse what women was forced to do versus what they felt like or wanted to do now this is not defending crazy behavior well I'm just my I'm always trying to I'm always gonna make people just look at stuff different that's just who I am always been women when you people be like oh my great grandmother and back in the day you had a culture that has certain laws that things were not allowed that don't mean people didn't want to do it women since beginning of time has always had to be in a certain decorum at the sake of being ostracized or killed women for the first time have just the first time they've ever been allowed to do what they felt like doing and at the same time men are able to speak in ways they never spoke before that's an interesting dynamic and at the end of the day what I learned is women are not what we've been taught they were they are just like you now can they build that do they can they be used on a physical level no but as far as they inclination the far as they feelings are wanting to be adventurous to say the least they've always been that way we just live in a society that suppressed that but that's not what they they they only did it because they had no choice so I feel like the fact that women are allowed to do this and they're thriving on it is because I feel like they've always wanted to so I feel like for the next I feel like both sides have to really evolve and look at each other from and look at each other from new eyes women are not going back in that bottle that they was in you and in a day regardless of how we can let's let's be real the only documents the only trends of thought that told us that women should be in a subjugated role are religious texts and if I'm wrong you could tell you could I could be wrong but what other trends of thought in the world tells you a woman is supposed to do this and supposed to do that outside of religious text and if you understand religious text you have to understand political text because they are one they upstairs and religion and politics and synonyms so when you remove yourself from that what why should they do what they do so now they have the freedom to do whatever we got to deal with them as they are not saying you have to accept everything but we have to deal with them as they are they're not these pets that we've been told they were they have a brain like we've got they may have they may not understand their physical limitations as much as they should but they're a being that has his own mind her own feelings what you're going to do you can't they have free will is real man and a lot of men cannot deal with that you can't make a woman you can't make a man do nothing we live in a town where you gotta this is the time of creation and inspiration you can only inspire her to deal with you you can't make her do nothing the only reason they act the way they did back in the day is because they had to that don't mean they wanted to do it a lot of grandmas they was real good you put grandma put you to the side should take some more freaky shit no he's fucking good that motherfucker don't miss man in the heat of battle he'll be cooking in the heat of that's listen that's and you know the first thing if i'm being honest like when i started paying attention to the space the first thing that disappointed me was a lot of people were talking about it as as if it was modern women and traditional women and what you just said added such high level nuance to this because what they don't mention is how grandma was fucking a milkman what they don't mention is that grandma only needed grandpa cuz she couldn't really get money like that or at least one income when you know babysitting shit like that wasn't enough for her to do what she needed to do but if she had it her way she would have you know what i'm saying and that's why a lot of these older women give the young women such bad advice but again we talk about it as if it's just you know women back in the day were just good flat out and women today are just bad flat out nah women today are honest grandma was a better liar than her granddaughter women today honest shape you could we call it shameless whatever the case may be but they honest listen i'm a hoe i'm a hoe it is what it is grandma was a hoe nobody knew but your brother and your sister didn't have the same daddy but nobody brings that up now you got it now but it's like you know we're limited our people are they're very religious but they don't have any other the foundation of who we define ourselves are is religion and religion is only effective if it has political value in my opinion you study history that's what it was the conflicts that created the current paradigm socially or religious conflicts where one religion had a trainer thought and a way of life versus another religions trainer thought and a way of life and whoever conquered that created the reality and the type of civilization that we have so it was always about politics not about your god versus my god that's what people on the ground level think it was about politics they said manifest destiny said we're conquering in the name of god god told us this is our land so it was all about acquirement of resources it's not about anything spooky so when we take away these religious ideologies we don't really understand who we are based on any types of any other trends at all so it comes from judgment because once a woman if a woman for women don't need you financially a weak man feels like we gotta get these women back in place but they don't need us no more no she needs more what you used to give is not enough anymore your your money is not enough who are you and the dudes is nothing there they are their career they're their sorority they're their fraternity they're their game they're their jump shot they're their verse and their car and their house but them as an individual is nothing there they've been fooled we had a level where the physical is here but we passed we are we at 5g right now everything is energy that's why people today don't listen to lyrics no more because they be like they just want to you know i don't vibe with that shit vibe is short for what vibration so this is the this is the time of all energy it's all about now it ain't about what you think you know it's all about what vibe is you people want to deal with your energy not your ability not your acquirement that's why people that acquire a lot look at the soccer player he acquired a lot he made money but money don't necessarily get you to a place of dominance with a woman everything is energetic and inspirational right now that's the vibe we own so if you're not you're not energetic and inspirational and you're just strictly informational it's over that's why these red pill dudes is dying out because they they they they did it in from they did a paralysis of analysis they did an information overload but they wasn't coming from a place of inspiration and creation that's why they limited to the information so now it incorporated a new vacuum for some real information you know what i'm saying so that's what time it is oh shit i didn't realize i was muted now that's facts brother that's facts absolutely so stacey i'ma get you to i'ma get you to jump in there but real quick let me read these two super chats real quick mr brown says also purple pill uh oh also purple pill where this channel falls under respectfully meaning we understand female nature but we still choose family and legacy absolutely absolutely appreciate the super chat brother mr smith says and this is what i think is interesting he says can this space not be full of substance and entertainment while being productive we have stem textbooks and stem magazines both have value this is what i say i agree i think you know i'm all about edutainment right you know i think i think you know as our attention spans get shorter you know you have to captivate people you have to hold people's attention however what this just pearly things taught me because again anybody could have seen just pearly from a mile away is that the leadership in this space if nothing else should prioritize substance over entertainment everybody else can be entertainment entertaining everybody trying to make a name whatever the case may be but if you call yourself leadership your first priority should be substance and your first priority should be gatekeeping said substance so it's not co-opted for anybody's nefarious purposes and for me what i've been seeing more often than not is that the leadership continues to prioritize entertainment and it cheapens the space and it validates a lot of people would like to detract from the space we talk about the divestors we talk about the the synthia g's and the whole nine or the fd signifiers and the whole nine but like when i watch a panel of manasphere black men and fd signifiers on that same panel and he's the one keeping himself composed he's the one talking you know what i'm saying at a low tone where the other dude's talking about yeah i'll fight you this this and that it cheapens what it is that we're doing here so whether we're talking about staying on code or staying on the message whatever the case may be if we truly believe that this space is necessary for young men for older men for young boys we have to keep the main thing the main thing and that's my only position um i see another super chat from dan yell the five dollar super chat thank you so much appreciate you but um you know the reason the reason i brought my brother uh stacy and my brother uh illesophical is because i wanted to have a conversation for the first time with brothers who aren't jaded with brothers who don't hate women understand women obviously we still have our greats with me a lot of shit they do doesn't make sense a lot of shit they do is fucked up but like there's a difference with saying those women and our women two different energies right and for me the direction i'm moving is our women i sit them down on my couch because i want to correct them i care about how they turn out in life because them looking good makes me look good them looking bad makes me look bad right so i just wanted to get back on the the topic the subject the mission uh and hopefully you know our our gen z brothers and sisters our gen a brothers and sisters aren't as jaded as some of us have uh become but stacy jump in there man what um what illa said a bunch of a bunch of a bunch of he dropped a bunch of heat man what what can you add to that man um you know that super chat want about a stem as far as um the entertainment one i want to continue on based on that point right there okay i'm i'm gonna keep it Jesus you dog when it comes down to just observing the space and seeing how things are and then talk about the entertainment factor and then the topic of the conversation we're talking about millions and i seen what you posted earlier about uh asking questions about us every woman um every woman can be a chameleon i understand that logic but um at the same time some of these shits are poisonous creatures and feel the toxins and you have to figure out how to distinguish between the two and the others but i'm gonna keep it gee when it comes to content creation it's like i understand after looking at the whole landscape how things are bro i've learned that during the type of content i have made i am a chameleon based on the content that i make i'm purposely seeking to infiltrate the market as an asian that has a black man's best interests at heart so i study women i study coach i study the interests to make content to meet the audience where they're at and simply just put the medicine on the candy because when it comes down to just looking at women that take in our content and seeing um far as like the ministry content i can't consider myself a black ministry or creator because i have i can't i don't want to dilute a lot of messages that are in there the red pill people i don't want to dilute the message because a lot of things that i don't have the same ideology so i don't want to throw off that thing but a lot of women that consume their content there are some chameleons or like you say all of my chameleons i think it's like um three different type of women that consume this type of content you know woman number one those are the hate watchers they just imagine to be mad woman number two that's the woman who want to change to be like be better companions they wouldn't be better better people and better companions woman number three those are the women that want to change to be better competitors you've heard me in my opinion better competitors and the only difference between woman number one and woman number three don't differ between woman number one and woman number three is just that woman number three is smarter because they are gonna prove like fake the phone to men to make them believe they're woman number two and woman number three they're gonna play dirty they're gonna play nasty for me because they are out to win so they're gonna you know try to prove themselves to be the competitor they're gonna be sexy you feel me they're gonna you know call you daddy they're gonna you know wear a certain type of clothes perform you know overperform in the bedroom they're gonna do those things because they're playing to win it's outplay those more modest women that's number two that's trying to still come at a more modest perspective and in this world you feel me while we are watching the people that make this type of content you have those women type those women number three that make certain content that become entertainment because once again those women are smart they're studying the game just as i studied the game from my perspective i think i'm doing the right thing by trying to infiltrate the culture seeing where i'm trying to meet people where they're at they like this type of um salacious concepts well i still think i have the best men's best interest at heart i'm trying to infiltrate that to go ahead and sneak those messages in my video people are watching my content they know what i try to do but some women have their best interests at heart so then you have them come along and sneak that sneak those messages in there and that goes even beyond content that just goes beyond beyond goes along with them that's what i'm saying women number three like i said the ones that are competitive you see how she was if you know that person as an individual you've seen their growth you've seen them back in the days and you'd be like wait six months from now based on how they've adapted whatever content now they married and shit like that you see wait they used to be superhead from back in the day oh that was to be the stripper hole from back when but now she married you feel me because she had that mind state to take in everything she became a chameleon but she maybe a toxic chameleon but she took that shit in and she competed to get a prize but it's on the man to figure out how he gonna make sure that he's able to vet those women that's on us to do that work it's hard bro but you gotta do it because you won't get caught up in these type of cheers bro so let's let's talk about that because you know you know what's what's the saying every every saint has a past and every sinner has a future so like you know i don't believe in necessarily throwing people away but i do believe their past means something right and and for those who who've been paying attention to the ministry they know kind of what we're talking about when does a woman's past matter slash is there a certain type of past that should matter more than maybe another type of past like you know so soon so you should do this and because it was this particular thing like she don't need to be here he don't need to be here is there a cut off or like you think it's just it doesn't matter what somebody's past is we should just embrace them wholeheartedly i think if your past matters in regards to your message that you put another like is your past a story that you're going to tell to be transparent so i used to be this and now i'm this and you're still going to like relate to certain people that's still on that journey i see a lot of people that used to be that but are hyper critical over critical of people who still were a certain type of way but don't even want to admit that they was that type of way as well rather they was like um a lame a simp or a hoe you know or x y z they were shamed someone else that's on there on the same journey as them you feel me and i see that i understand that the entertainment factor people want to see people get dumped on they want to see people get roasted and ranked they want to see that shit so the entertainment factor incentivize you to go ahead and shine on somebody better same damn time it's hard for me to take someone seriously especially if i've seen your past and i know who you were in the past x y z but then you are not giving someone the same grace to go through the same process and like that you did you from so that's when i think it matters as a creator it really matters to me bro so when i come across let's say for instance in the video that i was covering that you showed earlier and um as bro was in a vulnerable state i once again i never had no issues with getting women my life but i say i've been in vulnerable states before so as i'm seeing it i'm speaking to also people that may view the video that may be in a position that he's in saying i've been there before you feel me i've been hurt i've been in a situation dealing with a woman and all i seen was black i didn't see the future as far as getting past that position but if you acknowledge that but then you show someone a listen i made it from that point it then became this and i'm still able to you know continue to go on the track and i don't hate women i don't hate women from that point i just acknowledge that you know i have to take control of my situation and who i invite in my life as well that's why i talk about conditional love too under only entertaining certain situations under certain conditions you feel me and that takes responsibility it puts responsibility on me that puts accountability on me as far as who i allow myself to deal with you from because i think a lot of times all we do is spend you just put a kind of responsibility on other people but you know i always talk about you know i'm not trying to victim blame and trying to victim prevention and that's even when it comes to so many different situations you know trying to prevent ourselves from putting ourselves in you know vulnerable situations to get got in its life you feel me it's so many different things so as men or if you're a woman that watches our content as women you try your best to prevent yourself from getting taken advantage of by certain people and that's that and taking time before you know you give give yourself up somebody bro so that's those are certain things i think about bro so you know i've been interviewing women for a while and like i mentioned sometimes during these streams like some of the women will send me screenshots of their DMs from uh from some of the fans of the channel yeah and i try to i try to explain that all the glitters does not go you know just because she looked good don't mean she smelled good but basically what i'm trying to get at is like unfortunately it seems like part of the reason so many men in the real world and especially on the online world are so easily fooled and enamored by women is because they're thinking with their eyes right and women to my point earlier master is of you know camouflage right they can look the part whether or not they really are you live in miami one of the cities with like where the beautiful women just come through in and out in and out what piece of game can you give the brothers watching who may or may not have experience with beautiful women what is what is the dark side of beautiful women the the dark side is um aside from my woman that i'm dating right now probably the most beautiful most baddest chick that i've been with was a bonafile bonafile like on some real shit the most baddest chick i'm in right now i'm sure she has over 200 000 subscribers i mean 200 000 followers on instagram um and i'm and i'm not a type of god i don't like calling chicks hoes if i've never been with them i don't like doing that it serves you know purpose the only time i feel like it's it's important to call her with distinguished whether woman is a ho and not as whether or not i'm going to take them seriously as far as they do so with that being said just because a woman is attractive overly attractive super bad beautiful face hip styles as natural that doesn't mean that she automatically is a wife i see that you know once you experience women once i learned from a young age bro i'm i learned from a young age though that the more beautiful woman is at a that she has less to develop to start getting what she wants from men because she already realized okay all the different type of dudes that may be the type of guys that i want uh you know you learn from young age i'm talking about football players or basketball players who had a proper guy at school all she has to be attractive and she has access to those men so those women develop less skills as far as personalities so they're kind of shallow but you lower get to the more average girls or the above average girls that's where you may find more developed girls for its maturity personalities and things of that sort and in miami you see it all the damn time and especially in miami bro it's crazy because the ones who have nice bodies they are beautiful they're incentivized to go ahead and pimp it out go strip go inside the main street they're incentivized to go ahead and do that or they're incentivized to go ahead and um there at a young age you're going to see them chicks being picked up by the dudes in the dump with the dunks you're going to be have those chicks the baddest six in your school and they may even be i know some girls who are who are doctors now back we're back or lawyers now but back in high school there's been about 25 year old dope boys not now we doing scamming and shit but back in the days we had the dope boys you know so those chicks who have pretty good careers pretty good heads on their shoulders we're being we're dating older dope boys when it was like 16 15 years old and that's like the shit you see in miami and then you see what those chicks deal with because that's kind of like that's definitely out of their range and they're dealing with dudes who are more advanced and so they're now they're already fighting a losing battle they're going to have experience that's going to create trauma and then you are growing up and now you're in a position to finally compete with those old ass niggas and now you have some bread so now you're going to be now you're having to deal with the trauma that these chicks you know you know have the baggage that these chicks have gained over them over that time so it's a crazy cycle down here when you think about that type of shit it's a crazy cycle bro a lot of these shakes that be the baddest shakes growing up they end up having the babies you feel me kind of early they end up going through situations where they was dealing with men who were emotionally unintelligent that only felt like the way that they could prove themselves or gain respect for some people is putting their hands on them so you're going to have women that may deal with some men that beat them you feel me there's so many different things that these women go through that you end up dealing with in a city like mines bro and it's like it's kind of fucked up it's kind of fucked up but as I'm like one thing that I like to do I like sitting back and watching the whole society and seeing how things are and just seeing how can I serve myself and insert myself into it while protecting myself and seeing you know how I can find a good partner absolutely absolutely so how can we better because because you know when everybody was talking about whether or not pearl is racist I wanted to have the conversation of okay how do we better vet people whether vet people in this space whether vet I think e40 said you know believe having what you see and none of what you hear analyze that fool before you let him get in your ear so in real life you have to make you know you have to have some discernment decide who you know I'm saying I believe them or this person as how would you suggest men women in this space differentiate and distinguish between people worth listening to and people who are full of shit the only thing that I can do is provide personal experience bro and what I do is just listen that's all I do and I do my research I do extensive research especially being a content creator I guess I do more than others so if someone is in the space I go through and look at all the content and I see okay based on what why are you making this type of content that's what I want to know what's your why what's your angle what do you want and hopefully I'm able to stumble across a video that shows me that because I know sometimes you know if you just click on one random video it may be a take that you mean I like for somebody and but I still give someone that grace to you know maybe it takes that they don't like I know sometimes some things a lot of my subscribers don't agree with so I'm not going to just hold them down to that but hopefully I'll find something that really shows what their purpose are for being in this space some people purpose is just strictly for entertainment and for monetary value if that's that me personally you got to be super entertainment for me when it would consume it and I have in my own mind this is distinguish that but if I want someone to provide some entertainment to provide information to me then you have to match my goal you have to match my main thing like you say everything has to align so in particular when it came to just pearly things as far as when it came to in relation to the management the reason me myself as a content creator even came within the manuscript was just me reacting to the manuscript content just as she was but my reasoning was to understand black men like myself and hear their gripes you hear their concerns and have and listen to shared minds I think and then also I started seeing more black women talk to see what they're saying and I wanted to hopefully get to a level of understanding for growth so we can mend the relationship based on how we are right now when I see this that one woman in particular having this conversations that I feel like conversation that we shouldn't have with outsiders you from you can't control who watch our content we can't control that but if this person is hosting said since the very sense of the topics on that platform if the optics just was weird for me I just couldn't I just couldn't fuck with these the optics alone which is weird for me because this person person's hosting this conversation so for me personally I couldn't rock with that and then there's other content creators and based on me knowing certain people in their past I'm like okay you are making this type of content all right so how are you being yourself as an individual how are you packaging this and this is doesn't really align with your truth thoughts and your true message we're trying to get because I also one once again it has to matter whether or not are you doing this just for this monetary value is an attainment distinguish that I get that and oh are you doing this for just um because you really want some understanding you really want like say for instance what you want before you want to mend the relationship between black men and black women just especially just for us to be able to make the families whole again to raise the kids in better situations so if you're making this type of content are you moving with this type of situation this type of thinking but if I see if I see you as a woman and I see you self-deprecating to a whole other degree you are so self-deprecating as a black woman I'm like okay you are turning every man off to black women but you're a black woman I'm like that don't even make sense to me where where does your where does your your in go when it where's your personal value comes I understand how the people are kind of but when it's so it's so deprecating I'm like I can't it's something funny going on it's sound it's not the funny with the money because you get what I'm saying it's it's some constant yeah it's like they only shit on women and their woman or they only shouldn't black woman yeah black woman that's all you do so black female passport bros but you are here I'm like what about your daughter what about what about what about you like I it don't make sense to me I'm gonna keep a g even though I do have my man go my man go as far as like the community I still have my personal interest as far as partisan or the word I want to create for my my son and or daughter and our daughter you feel me I want to have a future because I have the kids right now if I still have ideas as far as what I want to create so when I see certain type of content being made I'm like bro what you really want but then it's clear when it comes down to it those are people just want to check they just want the money and I get it but I hope the people that's gonna assume it get it to I hope they get it to it if they get it and they cool with that then that's cool bro because I don't want to take no money on nobody else's profits if they understand that point it's cool everybody can rock as long as we're not out here just being blind it's cool before I let you go brother because I know you know your time is limited what what do you want to see from the black menace field moving into the future now that we got some young blood in here what what what do you want to see instead of what we've what we've become used to the bickering and the bitches ain't shit and look at this black woman do this to this black man what do you want to see more of bro I want to see clear goals and real solution driven discussions that's what I want to see that that's really what I want to see bro more solution driven discussions because so many discussions is just like boogeyman boogeyman boogeyman or boogeywoman that's it and that's it and it's just like um avoid this be scared of this be aware of this all right I get that we get that and that's why I don't know um I know myself personally when I at some point in time took a step back and went to my videos page and I seen a certain type of content being regurgitated over and over again I became disgusted disgusted with my damn self so I can only imagine some viewers when it comes to ones that are becoming just more aware of what's going on in space how they feel when they look at certain content creators like damn all right when are we going to make it pass to the next point or you just keep driving it in so I want the conversation also to proceed to the next point or try to find some solution driven responses to what's going on in the world you feel me and um provide I said that's mainly ready is I don't want to keep saying things same thing over and over again but um that's what I want bro what what do you think is the role of the women in this space the role of the women in this space is to I want a woman to be true to herself and also to be understanding of our nature be understanding of us but still give us your true understanding don't just give me tell me what I want to hear provide insight and provide the truth and be able to relate to messages just represent woman totally don't just tell just don't come in just um how would I how would I say just tell me that I'm all right I don't want to just hear that right come on you don't just tell me that right just go ahead and give me that insight as far as all right this is how I think but if I may come across a woman that may give me issues based on how I think why does she think that way help me get into a month and should I give a woman grace that thinks opposite you know I think that insight based on you know whatever set issue that may be discussion of whatever video even if they give me the opposite perspective if from a woman's perspective to give me that true opposite perspective and then I could say all right whether or not I want to deal with that as a man but based on based on her providing that true thoughts but just don't tell me what I'd already think I don't need that I don't care for that I just don't learn absolutely brother absolutely any final words man any final words um final words long is just live life live life experience you learn a lot from experiences a lot of times you have these conversations that we have in the red the red pill space once again I'm not a red pill content creator I'm not a manuscript content creator but you have a lot of men that consume a certain type of content you feel me but at the same damn time once you get those talking points you still have to go out there and live life and then once you get sort of information has a finesse to the game too I see certain certain test measures threads based on how some dudes go ahead and run certain top talking points out there and it just be so hockey so awkward so weird but has a finesse to game too and also how to keep the main thing the main thing when it comes down to it stay focused on the main thing validate yourself as a man you do that no one can tell you no different throw you off your pivot it's going to get rocky it's going to be some times that things don't always go in your favor but once you validate yourself you understand where your zero is where your balance is because I like to look at where like integers a life is integer sometimes sometimes be in a negative sometimes in the positive but you know where your zero is then you always are going to be cool you always going to know know where to go in hard times or when you're feeling like you feel like you're smelling yourself you feel like you the shit you're still going to know where your zero is where your balance is so that's my last words for now bro appreciate you my brother I appreciate it thank you so much brother listen um you know I'm I'm gonna owe you one whatever I could do you know I'm saying just let me know man we'll be we'll be in touch yes sir I'm sorry sir salute absolutely man all right y'all like I said in the beginning we are adding new blood to the man is fear to balance things out away from just brothers who were hurt away from just brothers who would like to see black women become men or think like men which is ironic because we spent a lot of time complaining about how they become masculine but no now we're moving towards brothers who appreciate women and would like to guide them brothers who are taking some ownership of our shared dysfunction brothers who recognize that a lot of these problematic hoes that y'all talk about are financed by brothers just like you and are financed by some of you as well I won't get to name the names so yeah but I see Mr. T in the back I'm not going to take a whole bunch of callers up but feel free to call in the link is in the chat I've been kind of diplomatic but I will answer any question that is asked to me head on so don't be shy with the questions yeah let's go Mr. T what's up brother hey man what's good man I'm chilling man long time no see man I'm busy man just work you know just that's what it's about man yeah I've been able to come on but you know what I wanted to say was like you know leading up to this whole you know stuff with uh you know just probably things and other content creators you know I thought you were killing it you know I thought you were killing it with the content the quality of the you know the people you brought on for interviews that the I forget the young ladies named the the social worker she was like that interview was probably one of my favorite interviews you know watching this channel for so long and um you know it's like I understand the need to address certain things you know certain you know certain uh in terms of the drama would just probably things but you know for me I felt you know as a long time view it was a distraction in terms of like achieving the goals of this channel achieving like what you've said that you want to put out there and I um you know in terms of just like me personally I mean this is just my I'm just one man's one man's thoughts but like you know I feel like the best approach would just be you know that those guys like just probably things I'll put I'll put a fresh and friend in that category too even though they're black you know that you could find videos out you should I don't know if you've ever seen a video talking about why they prefer uh women that are not black women if you haven't seen it I really recommend watching it yeah yeah and it's like I put those guys in the same category I mean it you know those guys are going to exist unfortunately man and you know my films are the guys who are really out here looking for real solutions looking for answers that they're going to gravitate you know you know towards the um you know people actually out here looking for solutions and in regards to other people you know self-proclaimed leaders of the mantle sphere I don't got any names I'm sure you know what I'm talking about I mean I got some of the comments in terms of like the marketplace of ideas you've already beat them you already won like you know I'm sure the the specific one you know I'm talking about you got three time reviewers three time the scribes and they've been here for years you know they've been here for years you know they're almost twice the age and you know you've already won now so that's just my feelings on it as a longtime viewer and a supporter I you know I want to hear what your thoughts in terms of like your strategic approach in terms of uh you know addressing you know these specific elements in the mantle sphere and you know if you see you know seeing the credence in my argument in terms of like you know just you know let them be and just you know focus on the mission man that's a good-ass question um and you know I've had I've had several conversations about it and at first I wasn't actually going to say because because again you have to you have to realize I didn't want to do live streams initially at all right like live streams were just they were supposed to be my opportunity to re-interview some of the women that I interviewed before and and you know take the conversation a bit deeper live the reason why I spoke on the just pearly things situation wasn't because of just pearly things because I don't know if you remember but I talked about just pearly things a year ago after she and Donovan Sharp and Femme Sapien reviewed one of the videos um I was disappointed by the response of our quote-unquote leaders because when I sit the women that I interviewed down on the couch and they are you know we're doing the sword fight of ideas some of the things that they say is that black men don't have a backbone black men aren't trustworthy black men aren't you know this or that and in this situation this was an opportunity for us to prove them wrong from who we allowed in the space in the first place to the conversation that happened after the person was found out which I don't even think is really um relevant but instead what I saw people do was be reactive and from my point of view who's spending so much time trying to quote-unquote fight the good fight it validated what the women are saying because I can't I can't in one breath say no even though the manosphere might come off hardship times at the core of it we're trying to improve men at the core of it we're trying to move the community forward the black male female dynamic forward but in this perfect opportunity for us to prove that we didn't so so for me I can spend the majority of my time talking to women and telling them they need to quote-unquote do the right thing they need to quote-unquote think about their future and you know prioritize the right type of men instead of these fuckboys and shit like that but at the very same time if she goes back home and is constantly being rewarded by validation of people who are trying to just get close to her she doesn't she can't listen to me she can't hear me so as much as we have to talk to the women we have to address the men who make it difficult to talk to we call them simps in a whole nine but men who are not on code with what it is that we're trying to accomplish make what it is that I'm doing impossible men who constantly validate the bullshit of these women that I'm trying to sort out make what I'm saying impossible because I can I can tell a woman you know men care about you know how you talk and your vocabulary and your your decorum and your you know your kindness and shit like that and then she could pull up a video of six the goddess cussing somebody out because they have an accent and it's like this is your king what's my response so so again like I'm not doing any of this shit in a vacuum I have to I have to answer for these things so unfortunately since nobody else is speaking up I guess I have to I mean I can I can understand that perspective um you know it's you know it's unfortunate you know it's just this this whole thing because I you know I like I said I did feel like you you know you were killing it with the content and your channel's been I mean it was before a while you like stuck at like 40 you know thousand subs and you've just been you know you you jump one from 50 000 to 60 000 in no time and now you're at you know 65 and you know I think you're going to get to 100 000 you know maybe in a year or two maybe even less depending on how the algorithm is you know it's playing in your favor but I'll I'll get there this year yeah this year yeah so it's it's um I guess my next thing I would I want to bring up like you know a lot of the response videos like I was on the stream uh you on with Courtney and she brought I think it was a dude named angry man and he was talking about like how you know black women didn't have hurt me more than white women ever did or you know something like that like guys like that they're just responding with even like if what they're saying is bullshit like which I I agree like a lot of it is just like hyperbolic but you know to me is like I sort of even though I don't agree with the substance of what they're saying I sort of understand I could understand the anger you know I understand the anger from where those guys are coming from but even though I don't agree with the ultimate conclusion where they come from and I I don't agree that excoriating black woman constantly on a regular basis is going to get anywhere nowhere do you think those guys deserve any grace in terms of you know what they're feeling and and in terms of their how their experiences with black women have sort of shaped that opinion even no matter how like a hyper like I said you know I think I've mentioned as the comments like you know how they're hyperbolic or extreme their point of view you know maybe I feel the same way about them as I feel about black women in the same boat there's some black women who've had terrible experiences with black men they've been molested they've been sex trafficked in the whole nine and I think that catharsis is necessary I think they deserve an opportunity to be heard now the question is should they be leading the civil rights movement no that that's that's the point right because unfortunately and and you've seen the movies where it's like you know we're about to win the fight but the hothead runs back into the building and starts up some new shit right like when it comes to leadership leadership leadership's focus should be where are we going not where have we been right they should take where we've been to chart a course for where we're going and how we can get there in the most effective way so in as much as yes those men because I have my grievances too I've had my red pill rage there needs to be space for that but it shouldn't be these space and and and you know what's what's this saying let calm it has prevailed like calm it has should be like yeah like I've said it multiple times yeah some of these holes ain't shit but this is where we're trying to go and if if if you want to be angry and that's it and you've been angry for two three four years then you just want to be angry yeah what's next what what's the plan to rehab to your point about the the the girl that I interviewed who's a social worker what's your plan to rehabilitate these young girls so they don't become these problematic women right saying and this this goes for the female content creators to claim to be talking to women what's your plan to make sure that these women don't get or these girls don't get put in environments that corrupt them and compromise their character to become this or are we just going to wait until some shit happened and then confirmation bias confirmation bias confirmation bias those shouldn't be the prevailing voice because if those remain the prevailing voice what dr. T. S. Johnson is trying to accomplish dr. Tommy Curry is trying to accomplish it invalidates it every step of the way because they already don't want to listen so if we're not willing to keep the main thing the main thing we're shooting ourselves in the foot yeah yeah yeah I mean I agree it's unfortunate because it's you know I see some of these guys they talk in a way like these these you know our women have made conscious choices you're the first person I've actually seen with a conversation or just like even touching on it like how you know um you know sexual abuse plays into the you know things like that plays into what we're dealing with now and you know they're making it seem like it's a conscious choice and and just like they're just choosing this like it's you know unfortunately the thing about our people is like you know with the absence you know the absence of our father figures in the households it's allowed predators to thrive and and our woman in fact to deal with the brunt of it unfortunately you know I mean there's plenty of consequences for our men too but our woman in fact to deal with that and it's unfortunate to the framing it as like a conscious choice like they just chose this path that they're on right now that it was just you know they just woke up one day and just decided this you know it's you know unfortunately it's just the environment you know people product of the environments and then I you know it's just it is what it is and you know we're that that that that's what's frustrating right because you can't have the conversation about black women's misbehavior without talking about post-traumatic slave syndrome without talking about generational trauma without talking about the healthcare system without talking about mass incarceration the crack epidemic you have to talk about all these things because again just like if we were having a conversation with white people we should be painting a picture for them where they can understand the totality of Chicago why are these motherfuckers killing themselves in Chicago it's not because they're black it's because they're unemployed and it's because they have access to guns and it's because an idle mind is a devil's workshop when we say we say these things like you know what I'm saying with other situations and it's clear to us but when it comes to making sense of our dilemmas in our situations we kind of throw it to the side and we oversimplify no this shit is complex and for us especially being intertwined whether you know me and Nigerian women you and and Caribbean women African-Americans and African-American women we should at least be able to articulate a higher level of more nuanced answer to what is going on outside of just these bitches don't want any better these bitches just keep choosing these type yes that's true but then why and unfortunately what we've allowed to happen in this space is we've allowed leaders who genuinely do not understand women and and you know bgs was talking about I've got daughters older than you and shit like that that doesn't mean you understand women the other dude was talking about I'm married 15 years that doesn't mean you understand women what are your listening skills like versus your talking skills and the other thing we see a lot in this space is a lot of motherfuckers who know how to talk but cannot listen or for damn and I've only been here a year and I've observed this right so the only way we move forward is we shut the fuck up take some time to actually take things in process things compare things and chart a new course for where we want to go instead of just this regurgitated nihilism but um I've got afro-disciple yeah man I'm gonna give you the last word oh no man I appreciate you having me on and like I said man you've been killing it the shorts the the quality of the interviews man it's I'm trying brother I mean you started off well with your presentation there but you just like you you know I've seen the growth I've seen you that first you've taken to expand your network and you know I can see it in the content so man again I appreciate you having me on and you know I wish you all the best absolutely bro thank you man take care all right appreciate that brother all right I missed some super chats um Angel says children need protection from women's morals uh man this is a layer this is a layer thing uh women's morals I don't think women are immoral I think women's priorities are different than ours like you you'll you'll hear for instance men tend to do things based on like an honor system on a code things like that women aren't necessarily wired that way females aren't necessarily wired that way but it doesn't necessarily mean they're bad people right um they they weren't socialized to run into battlefields knowing that they're going to die they weren't socialized to march in the coal mines knowing that they might die um so the same way that you know men for instance have chivalry and we have these different mandates imposed on us um womanhood is a bit more flexible and you know from the perspective of a man that sucks but I think what the lesson to us is like they need us not not you know as a shepherd or a babysitter because I also don't think women are children but and I've said this before women's energy is inherently chaotic men's energy is inherently order uh what happens when you bring together order and chaos creation so we we need each other and my goal here is to get the chaos to value the order and get the order to value the chaos listen if I bled once a month I probably would be chaotic as well mr brown says we have solutions we've been working on the past three years brothers brothers on the panel I'll share an ATL everyone's strength are not content creators listen absolutely pull up the link to get your tickets are still pinned in the chat um pull up let's talk let's talk solutions um part of my effort is to formalize the dialogue between black men and black women build and sustain that bridge of communication between black men and black women and I'm hoping taking this thing back offline um we'll you know we'll help that process alone afro disciple he says paying homage as per usual keep up the good work uh good work I appreciate you brother and matter of fact you are in you're in the back what's going on man nothing just listening as per usual he's giving me food for thought you know um it's it's like when I listen to you talk and I started thinking about like what separates us even just like the the monologue you just had right now I'm just thinking like the way that we um engage the world is so different from women because we have to deal with it on a physical plane in a way that they don't so everything that that comes back to all their attraction of all the things that they value come back to I want to feel safe when they say they want someone bigger stronger resources is I want to feel safe and I I I have such deep empathy for that because as men we never feel safe we we don't have anything outside of ourselves to look at to say this thing outside of me will protect me and give me the things I need to feel safe so that's what I think sometimes like you know where it's difficult for us to communicate but um to the better part of like you know the conversation you were having today and even uh last night I was just again thinking about this uh on the way of the gym just I I think the unfortunately I think we're a generation lost um I think we might have to take an L for uh a good 15 to 20 years and not to say that we can't come back together as a community but I keep thinking about how do we get um people to listen that don't want to listen that that that because everything that you you know you talk about or um even some of the people that you have on as guests is all this relies on the fact that the other person on the other side of the equation actually values what you have to stay and actually thinks thinks if you have someone worth listening to and how do you do that when the competing narrative is you ain't shit and it's not just from other women that look like themselves it's from the greater narrative it's it's even to like even to still it down to like I think about the whole pearly things or anything that's been dealing with the the black man's fear there's such a scrutiny on black men that I find interesting that we don't have for our women like the the fact that we put so much attention on the idea that we let this white girl into the I don't know into the mix I still don't I still have a hard time understanding that concept like who let her in who the gatekeepers are how do we what metrics are we using to show that black men support her I have absolutely no idea but when it's other people that cause a damage let's say it's like you know black women um like this has been brought up before like Cynthia G or anybody like that talking about using black you know black men as bullet bags or black men or boarding black babies you don't have the same vitriol but for some reason when it's a white girl that came in that people think black men let in and everybody has to talk about everyone has to like zero in on black men why are you fucking up and I think that's a extra burden that not only do we get from the outside we put on ourselves as to something about the way that we think about ourselves or we think about our men we think less of and feel that we can actually go in on for some reason I don't see that happening elsewhere so it's it's two things that that come to mind for me when I don't know if you remember the the beauty queen who jumped off a building in New York a lot yeah yeah yeah so um a friend of mine is actually um her her brother's neighbor right um but I was thinking about that situation and statistically um you know women actually attempted more than men but men's rates are higher and according to the like the data like behind it it's because of the methods that men choose versus women right so when it comes to like emotional volatility the data shows that women are higher right but when it comes to being concise when it comes to I don't want to be here anymore bullet that's men right so so part of the conversation is like we have been socialized to take men more seriously hmm right because the consequences of female descent is at worst weaponizing men so so at the end of the day we are still the spear we are still the sword like even dr. T s on johnson talks about how some black women turn their black men into pit bulls into attack dogs and the other piece too is like heavy as the head um as a kid I'm the I'm the oldest sibling I have two sisters and a brother um I was blamed for every goddamn thing and like my brother would get a bad grade in class and it would be like if you were a beta brother he would be a better student right and it used to piss me to fuck off but in in upon reflection you know leadership isn't what people think it is like people think it's about you know being having the last say and the buck stops to be a shit like that but part of that buck is the blame and it's like who takes responsibility and part of the unsexy aspect of black men retaking our rightful place as the heads of the black community is black men resigning ourselves to being the blame right black men resigning ourselves to whether or not it's 100 the truth but the paradigm that it starts and stops with me right and you know I I use the you know the nature versus nurture debate all the time and in truth I probably lean more towards nature than nurture like as far as what dictates how we are as people yeah however I would prefer whoever my daughter's school teacher is to be a nurture person I would prefer my doctor to be a nurture person I would prefer those people to err on the side of no I can affect the situation so I say all that to say the unfortunate reality of us as black men taking our rightful place and fixing this bullshit this bullshit that our women have done this bullshit that the system is done this bullshit that you know the world has done is resigning ourselves to understanding that listen it wasn't my fault but it's my responsibility shout out to Nathan I think he says that it wasn't our fault but it's our responsibility so whether you say okay I'm a passport bro whether you say okay you know what I'm saying I I'm I'm