I will return to the member momentarily before we move on to the next item of business. I wish to address an issue that occurred at the equality, human rights and civil justice committee this morning, which members may be aware of and which members have raised with me. At that meeting, a visitor to the public gallery was asked to remove a purple, green and white scarf. Having declined to do so, the visitor was informed that she would not be able to return to the gallery. This request was made by officials in connection with the Parliament's code of conduct for visitors, which sets out that the display of banners, flags or political slogans, including on clothing and accessories, is forbidden. Let me make one thing crystal clear. Suffrage colours are not and never have been banned at the Scottish Parliament. We actively support and promote universal suffrage in a number of ways at Holyrood and we will continue to do so. I would like to advise the chamber that the action taken this morning was not prompted by any members of the committee. The action taken was an error and I would like to apologise on behalf of the Parliament. The wearing of a scarf in those colours does not in itself breach the visitor code of conduct. The Parliament wishes people to engage with the democratic process, including observing elected representatives' debate and to make the law of the country. Rachael Hamilton. I thank the Presiding Officer for making it clear that no breach had occurred within the Equalities Committee this morning. I had planned to make a point of order regarding this particular issue. I think that it is important that you have confirmed that MSPs are treated exactly the same way as the members of the public and the suffrage colours were not in breach of the guidelines set by this Parliament. I thank you for your intervention and for sharing that with Parliament and being clear regarding that. I seek your guidance on comments on the Minister for Higher Education, Further Education, Youth Employment and Training, Jamie Hepburn MSP, made in this chamber which do not appear to have any resemblance to accuracy. On 27 October in this chamber Mr Hepburn said, There is no freeze on apprenticeships this year. There are still many places available to be taken up in the contracts that have been awarded and they should be fulfilled. Let us be clear, he said. There is no freeze on apprenticeship places this year. Training providers have been in contact with many of us in this chamber to make it clear that they have been told something very different by Skills Development Scotland. At the start of the financial year, training providers were told that they could utilise the process for requesting additional starts as long as they met their key performance indicators, as has been the standard practice in many previous years. However, last month, despite meeting all their key performance indicators, training providers were told that, as a result of John Swinney's announcements, Skills Development Scotland were unable to process any further requests for additional volume or value to provide modern apprenticeship qualifications. That removes the ability of the training providers to respond to the training needs of our businesses and provide opportunities for our young people. The practice has always been that training providers can apply for additional places halfway through the year to allow flexibility in the labour market. They had received assurances to the effect that that would continue. I know that Mr Hepburn has received the same correspondence that I and many other members have received from training providers. The normal practice has ended, and the number of places on apprenticeships has frozen, yet Mr Hepburn said that there was no freeze on apprenticeships. That feels more than a little misleading. What options exist for members to have Mr Hepburn come to the chamber to explain what he meant by, there is no freeze on apprenticeships this year, when there clearly is a freeze on apprenticeships. If he has inadvertently misled Parliament, he should put the record straight. What sanctions exist? If there has been a change since the minister spoke just a few days ago in relative terms, would it not be normal practice for the minister to come to Parliament and inform Parliament? I thank Mr Kerr for his point of order. It is of paramount importance that members, including ministers, give accurate information to the Parliament, correcting any inadvertent errors at the earliest opportunity. If any member has a question about the factual accuracy of another member's contribution, they should raise it with that member. I am sure that all members here are aware that the Parliament has a corrections procedure and how that mechanism operates. I have not received a request to make a statement. If a member considers that a statement should be made, they should raise that directly with the relevant member. If a request to make a statement was received, I would notify the Parliamentary Bureau so that time could be scheduled set aside. The points that I am making reflect the procedures and the practices that have been agreed by this Parliament, but if anyone considers that they should be revised, they can raise that matter with the Standards, Procedures and Public Appointments Committee. We will now move on to the next item of business, which is topical questions. To ask the Scottish Government what its response is to reports that its claim that Scotland has 25 per cent of Europe's offshore wind potential lacks evidence and that it knew there was no basis for it. Minister Lorna Slater. The figure relating to Scotland having 25 per cent of Europe's offshore wind potential was first set out back in a 2010 publication. It is now out of date. However, this does not change the fact that Scotland already has an important offshore wind sector and we have huge potential to grow this and become a global leader with over 40 gigawatts of potential offshore wind developments already in the pipeline. I thank the minister for that answer, but I'm afraid the minister has completely missed a point. Presiding Officer, everyone wants the renewables industry to succeed, but this will not be achieved by ministers putting out dodgy data. Only a couple of weeks ago, I made a point of order, as the First Minister had misrepresented Scotland's energy consumption from renewables. Instead of doing the honourable thing and publicly admitting her mistake, she quietly amended the official record. It seems that the misrepresentation and misuse of data might be endemic within this Government. The civil service apparently knew the data was not true several years ago. When did ministers first become aware that what they were using or that they were using a figure that, to quote Scottish Government officials, hadn't been properly sourced? Minister became aware of the issue on Tuesday, 8 November, ahead of the publication of the report by these islands. What does not change about the statistic is the amount of renewable energy potential that Scotland has, which is still significant and is part of our future energy provision in Scotland now and as an independent country, with over 40 gigawatts. That is in the pipeline already, presuming planning decisions and finding a route to market, which is the equivalent of producing enough electricity to power every home in Scotland for 17 years. Once again, she has completely missed the point that the claim was that Scotland has 25 per cent of the potential, and the bogus statistic, which civil servants and ministers knew was wrong, has been repeated ad nauseam. The chamber has heard it, either here or in the course of their duties, from First Minister Sturgeon, Deputy First Minister Swinney, Minister Todd, Minister Macpherson, Minister Robertson, Minister Matheson and Minister Slater. Minister, the ministerial code at section 1.3c says that it is of paramount importance that ministers give accurate and truthful information to the Parliament, correcting any inadvertent error at the earliest opportunity. Ministers who knowingly mislead the Parliament will be expected to offer their resignation to the First Minister. As the Presiding Officer just asked us to do, what action is the minister taking to ensure that the ministerial code is always complied with? Scottish ministers understood that the statistic was accurate at the time that they cited it. Now that it has come to our attention that it is not, we are working to update statistics on how our offshore wind potential compares to other countries. We will update Parliament once this is done, and at that point we will consider how any legacy documents may need to be updated. The key point is that Scotland's enormous potential for offshore wind has not changed. In fact, we have made big progress in recent years, with, as I have said, 40 gigawatts now in the pipeline. We know that the claim that Scotland had 25 per cent of Europe's offshore wind was always untrue, just as the claim that nearly 100 per cent of the electricity that we consume comes from renewables is not true. Let's turn to another figure. The Scottish Government promised that there would be 120,000 renewable jobs per year by 2020. Was that target reached? Is that still the target? Just how many of those supply chain jobs from the off-shoreing of the Scotland leases will be created in Scottish businesses, not foreign-owned businesses? We are, of course, all keen to ensure that the development of the offshore wind industry benefits Scotland's businesses and our economy. Initial supply chain commitments around Scotland indicate an average of £1.4 billion of investment in Scotland per project, which equates to £28 billion of investment across the 20 projects. I hope that all of us here are here in order not to play politics about the past but to propel progress in future. To that end, can I reflect that, when I was energy minister, one of the most frustrating experiences was that it could take 12 years to get consents for, say, a wind farm onshore, which it took 12 months to construct? Therefore, can I make the suggestion to the minister that the Scottish Government review the processes for obtaining permissions, licences and consents, for on and offshore developments and subsea cables, and particularly grid connections, with the view to simplifying, shortening and streamlining them, and that the Scottish Government should, in order to achieve success throughout these islands, engage with the UK Government in order to try to identify those issues? One lead body that can guide this process. Otherwise, I fear that many of the projects that we all wish to see may be thwarted and jeopardised through delay. I thank the member for his question. However, it does not bear relation to the substantive question on the paper. Therefore, I will ask that the minister does not respond. I go to Liam McArthur. Thank you. Now that the Scottish Government has admitted to cooking the books, something that did the renewable sector no favours, does the minister believe that it is advisable for SNP MPs to double down on the statistic that has been admitted to be not true in the House of Commons earlier on this afternoon? Does she not believe that this will simply spread further fake news about the state of the sector? I welcome, of course, my Liberal Democrats colleagues' new-found interest in statistical rigor, which I am sure he will bring to any future election materials as well. I repeat that Scottish ministers understood that the statistic was accurate at the time that they cited it. Now that it has come to our attention that it is not, we are working to update the statistics on how our offshore wind potential compares to other countries. What has not changed is that potential, merely how we report it in comparison to other countries, which we will update in due course. To ask the Scottish Government what its response is to Baroness Helena Kennedy's final report of the independent commission of inquiry into asylum provision in Scotland published on Friday, which highlights avoidable failings in the provision of care to new Scots during the Covid-19 pandemic. I thank Baroness Kennedy and the Asylum Inquiry Scotland for its work. The inquiry report is a shocking indictment of the UK's broken asylum system. It highlights the need for fundamental change so that the UK upholds its responsibility to recognise and protect people who have been forced to flee persecution and treats them with compassion, dignity and human decency at all times. The Scottish Government will respond to the inquiry report and the social justice cabinet secretary has written to the Home Secretary seeking an urgent meeting to discuss the inquiry's findings in the asylum system. I thank the cabinet secretary for that response. Of course, the tragic death of Badreddon Abdullah Adam and the injuries he caused to others were preventable. He had called the Home Office and two of their contractors 72 times seeking help. The use of institutional accommodation such as hotels is clearly not enabling the right support to get to people in a timely way. What more can the Scottish Government do while people are here to ensure that vulnerable adults and children, including survivors of trafficking, are not left in grossly inadequate institutional style accommodation for indefinite periods of time without the vital specialist mental health support they need? I thank Maggie Chapman for her follow-up question. As she knows, asylum is a matter reserved to the UK Parliament. The UK Home Office is responsible for the provision of asylum accommodation and support to people awaiting a decision on their asylum application. People seeking asylum should be accommodated within communities with access to the support and services that they need to rebuild their lives. The Scottish Government will continue to raise concerns and press for improvements to the UK asylum system. It is clear that, here in Scotland, we are trying to do better than appears to be the case south of the border. The hostile environment rhetoric of invasions and deportation flights to Rwanda is not replicated by our Government. But there is still more to do and things we can do here. Helena Kennedy's inquiry report has some clear recommendations for Scotland to act upon. Will the cabinet secretary and perhaps even the First Minister agree to meet refugees for justice, the survivors of the park in tragedy and Baroness Kennedy to discuss immediate actions and future strategies that will better secure the rights of refugees? The Social Justice Cabinet Secretary met with Baroness Kennedy last week and has also previously met with representatives of refugees for justice. The Scottish Government and our partners at the Convention of Scottish Local Authorities and the Scottish Refugee Council are preparing to undertake engagement to inform the refresh of our new Scots refugee integration strategy, which we intend to publish next year. At the new Scots national conference last Friday, we asked people with lived experience and support services how we can enable people, communities and organisations to participate in engagement to shape that strategy. The new Scots refugee integration strategy will continue to set out our partnership-led approach to supporting refugees, seeking asylum and our communities from day 1 of arrival. To see for Glasgow Kelvin where those unfortunate tragedies that were avoidable referred to by the commission took place, I was also able to attend the launch of the final report last Friday at Merchant's House. I asked the Scottish Government if it will join me in pursuing recommendation 6 that calls on asylum accommodation support and care providers that they should immediately ring fence a fund of £5 million per month. To our anum for asylum seeker wellbeing, mental, emotional, health, support and trauma, there should be no profiteering from pain. Does the cabinet secretary agree with me on that? By commending co-cab assured as the constituency member of the Scottish Parliament for her dogged pursuit of justice in this question. Just to reiterate the point, the Scottish Government is still to respond to the inquiry and will do that in good time, but I will make sure that my cabinet secretary colleague who has ministerial responsibility for this area looks very closely at the points that she makes. If not in that inquiry response that she writes to the member to update her on the position of the Scottish Government and the priorities that she is calling to her attention. To ask the Scottish Government what its response is to reports that nursing staff at the Queen Elizabeth university hospital in Glasgow are routinely left in charge of up to 30 patients and are forced to conduct 5am bed washes due to staff shortages. Cabinet secretary, Humza Yousaf. The Scottish Government expects health boards ensure that at all times there are sufficiently suitable qualified staff to support the provision of high quality care. This includes reviewing staffing levels daily with decisions regarding real time staffing being made right throughout the day. It is my understanding that Greater Glasgow and Clyde does not ask nursing staff to carry out any non-essential care for patients in the night time hours or indeed in the early morning. This is not their policy and that remains the case. The board also supplements wards with healthcare support workers to ensure that tasks can be supported at appropriate times as part of that wider care team. The cabinet secretary will be well aware of the wider problems facing our national health service. Spiralling waiting times, missed targets and indeed impending strike action due to the low pay have been routinely discussed in the chamber and our common knowledge. Just last week, a whistleblower contacted me to express their grave concerns about the conditions that nurses and patients are facing at the Queen Elizabeth university hospital. They explained that nurses are, and I quote, frequently left in charge of up to 30 patients and how they are being forced, despite raising those concerns with management, to conduct deeply inhumane 5am bed washes of vulnerable patients due to severe understaffing. Was the cabinet secretary aware of that prior to the press reports on Sunday, and if he was, does he think that either scenario here is acceptable? I say to Paul Swinley that I am aware and the Government is aware of the extreme pressures right across our acute sites, including the Queen Elizabeth university hospital. Having heard the allegations that have been made, we saw immediate assurance from Greater Glasgow and Clyde who are saying to us, and I will repeat what they have said, that the policy remains, of course, that they do not ask nurses to carry out any non-essential care for patients that includes bed washes during the night or early morning. That is not the policy now. That being said, clearly, if Paul Swinley has details of these allegations, I am happy to speak to him, happy to speak to the whistleblower, indeed, off-table in a confidential space. I should also say that whistleblowing is important. I have met the whistleblowing champion in NHS Greater Glasgow and Clyde Charles Vincent and reiterated to him the importance that I attached to whistleblowing. If those issues have been raised to senior management and have not been rectified, that would give me concern. However, as I said, I have sought those assurances from Greater Glasgow and Clyde, and they have told me that that is not routine practice. Paul Swinley, I appreciate that the cabinet secretary might have been unaware prior to the press reports of that practice, but I would urge him to investigate this further. I welcome his offer to meet me and potentially with the whistleblower should they be interested in doing so. Since the publication of that story in the Sunday Times, current and former NHS staff have contacted me to say that this practice has been on-going for years and is not exclusive to the Queen Elizabeth University hospital, the reality is that nurse staffing levels across Scotland's health and social care services are dangerously low and patient care is suffering as a result. That is not my words. Those are the words of the director of the Royal College of Nursing in Scotland, Colin Pullman. The cabinet secretary, while acknowledging that this is an immediate issue that requires investigation, except with some humility, the decisions that his Government has taken over the last 14 years in power have resulted in staff being demoralised and overstretched to the point of industrial action. I have left us with a system in our health service where staffing levels are so low that staff are being forced to conduct those inhumane practices despite the fact that it risks impeding a patient's recovery. I say that if you look over the course of the last 10 years, we have seen nursing admit with free student intake numbers increase consecutively over that decade. In fact, they are almost double over that decade. In terms of staffing and nursing staffing in particular in Greater Glasgow and Clyde, I would acknowledge that staffing has been a problem and continues to be an issue. That is why I was really pleased to see that in Greater Glasgow and Clyde nearly 600 newly qualified nurses and midwives were welcomed to the health board and started their jobs in the last few weeks. That has helped to reduce that vacancy level. We have the highest record levels of staffing in the NHS under this Government best paid staff, of course, anywhere in comparison to the UK. I would say to Paul Sweeney that nobody, certainly not myself or anybody else in the Government, is complacent about those staffing challenges that exist. That is why I will get back around the table, as you would expect with our trade unions and our staff side representatives, to make sure that we can do everything in our power to avoid strike action, which I know would be catastrophic for the NHS in the course of this winter. Nurses are doing their best in trying to deliver care at the Queen Elizabeth University hospital, but they are breaking point with overtime up and the Scottish Government is responsible. The Scottish Government does not have their backs and any semblance of trust that Cabinet Secretary had has been evaporated from staff and patients. Working conditions in the NHS are so bad that 70 per cent of nurses felt their last shift was compromised, patient care and was unsafe. With an NHS winter crisis fast approaching, this seems unlikely to improve. My question is what specific action will the Cabinet Secretary announce today, an action not a willy announcement, that he can guarantee will improve the working condition of nurses and thus patient safety, which was woeful before Covid with record 6,000 vacancies. I would reiterate that I do not have any complacency in that there is a Government around the challenges that are facing our NHS staff. That is a problem that is faced by health services right across the UK, but it is worth noting that we have more qualified nurses and midwives per thousand of the population In England, for example, we have 8.3 qualified nurses and midwives here in Scotland compared to six in England. We also have higher staffing per head than other parts of the UK. Notwithstanding that, the rate of vacancies is too high. That is why I stood in this chamber a number of weeks ago and committed additional funding towards international recruitment of 750 overseas nurses, midwives and AAHPs. I would say to Senator Scohani that, if he had any influence whatsoever, it would be better if he was demanding that his party provide additional funding to the Scottish Government because, due to their economic incompetence, my budget is worth £650 million less. Emma Harper The NHS across the four nations faces recruitment challenges in the current climate in attracting people with the right skills from outwith the UK. Does the health secretary agree that comments such as those of Mr Sweeney's UK leader, Keir Starmer, do not reflect the welcome and nature of Scotland's NHS and that Brexit, which Labour now clearly backs, is a further barrier to recruitment in our NHS? I would say that, in fairness, knowing Paul Sweeney and Scottish Labour, I do not think that those remarks from Keir Starmer reflect their position. I know from having spoken to many Scottish Labour members that they are pro-immigration. That is why I think that they would share my disappointment and Emma Harper's disappointment about Keir Starmer's very divisive rhetoric. There are three elements to helping our staffing crisis. One is increasing the pipeline of graduates, and I have spoken about that already. The second is domestic recruitment. The third prong, which is really important, is overseas recruitment. I want to make it clear from my behalf, from behalf of the Scottish Government, that if you are an overseas worker working at NHS, your contribution is greatly valued. That concludes topical questions. There will be a brief pause before we begin the next item of business.


Item number SCP-409 Object Class Keter Special Containment Procedures No physical contact may be made with SCP-409 for any reason. Anything making physical contact with SCP-409 must be contained in quarantine immediately, along with any materials used in the transport of the subject. SCP-409 must be kept in a granite case at all times. Any transportation to SCP-409 must be done in a sealed granite container. Residue from SCP-409's effect are to be sealed in granite containers along with any tools used to transport residue into containers. Description SCP-409 resembles a large quartz crystal approximately 1.5 meters or 5 feet tall and 0.6 meters or 2 feet wide. Any objects coming into contact with SCP-409 will begin to crystallize for 3 hours. This effect will occur any material other than granite. The crystallization will spread by approximately 2.5 centimeters or 1 inch per minute and will convert the entire object or organism inside and out. Subjects report this effect to be extremely painful and similar to frostbite. After complete crystallization, the object will begin to make snapping and creaking noises for approximately 20 minutes before bursting into thousands of fragments with great force. Anything touched by or touching a fragment will immediately begin to crystallize. Everything at this time is able to reverse the effect in organic matter, including amputation of affected areas. Inorganic matter will only crystallize for a few centimeters around point of contact. SCP-409 was recovered in ██████ under a pile of crystal shard several feet deep. Losses of personnel during recovery were high. Addendum 409-1 With the suggestion of Dr. 500-0021D, Subject 409-D5 was exposed to the effects of SCP-409 and was left to become severely crystallized. After that, he was treated with SCP-500, complete recovery with achieved in 9 days. Subject reported that he continued to feel pain in body parts that were crystallized even after the estimated recovery time. Pain faded 13 days after the subject was treated. It is unknown if the pain effect was psychological or real during the intervening 4 days. Subject 409-2 Extensive testing has yielded no information as to why the crystallization occurs. SCP-409 and a shard created by it are indistinguishable for any other quartz crystal. The effect appears to be similar to a seed crystal, where a pre-existing crystal formation added to the solution, causing the crystal to grow. SCP-409, however, appears to do this with all solid matter and does not need to remain in contact. While this is done, why SCP-409 is unique among all other quartz crystals and why granite is the only material immune are all still unknown.


Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay calm And I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today our topic proof He's emotionally interested in you the five signs We're gonna share that in a moment really quickly if you're brand new to my youtube channel Please hit the subscribe button hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos And if anytime during this video the content resonates with you Please hit that like button so I could be seen in the youtube algorithms really quickly my coach is what I call heart centered radical honesty It's direct a little tough love and a lot of heart and occasionally I use Explosives to enhance a sentence so if an f-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea I suggest logging off right now Lastly these are my thoughts my perceptions my opinions by no means do I suggest this is the truth You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a contrarian So I oftentimes go against the grain of the advice you might be hearing out there So you have to decide if this feels true for you. All right, let's talk about the proof It'd be is emotionally interested in you emotionally intimate with you all that good stuff All right ladies I am quite aware that from a woman's perspective it can feel very Confusing to understand male behavior. I'm repeat that can be very confusing to understand male behavior In fact oftentimes men give mixed signals a lot of times they they operate one way and they do something else and while that's true For men, I'll say it's true for women as well human beings can oftentimes be incredibly Dysfunctional in the way they operate in the world. So this is this is the reality We're dealing with here today And so I'm gonna lean into a conversation today to help you gain some clarity because I Recognize that many of you get confused because men often because men were taught to be the hunters to be the chasers in the Relationship process and since they're oftentimes hunting and chasing sex. They're leading very demonstrably very effusively very much, you know coming on strong that it might give the impression that they want a serious relationship I'm repeat that might give the Impression that they want to serious relationship. In fact, even their own words might say that they want a serious Relationship how many of you have been in the dating process you talk to a guy and you say I'm looking for a relationship And he says I'm looking for a relationship, too And you date him for a few weeks a few months whatever it is and all of a sudden it seems like he Switches he turns around and says I'm not looking for anything serious Well, this often is a result of Miscommunication between men and women because what you might perceive a relationship Let's just say you perceive a relationship here He perceives the relationship here that mismatch that space in between that's called drama Drama drama because you have set your standard of your expectation here and in his mind his Expect let me reframe that it's not an expectation Your reality of a relationship is here His reality of a relationship here and that space in between Oftentimes is drama because whenever we have an expect an unmet Expectation and especially when we're in a romantic relationship We oftentimes point the finger at our partner for not filling that void Repeat that we point the finger at our partner not filling the void instead of really recognizing that the Perception of what you think a relationship is might be quite different than the way he thinks a relationship is So we've just set the stage on why men are confusing and why this can be very Challenging so I'm gonna lean into the conversation of how to determine If he's you know to give you some proof that he is capable of emotional maturity that he's Emotional intimacy and give me one second to explain. I just have to do something really quickly Intimacy what is intimacy? intimacy means into me you see For a healthy relationship to thrive It's very important for two people to be able to be Vulnerable authentic and transparent with one another let me repeat that vulnerable and authentic and transparent with one another and True intimacy is that capacity to be able to share Your deepest darkest fears Insecurities what keeps you up at night knowing that it's a safe place to speak to this person And I want to give you some context here. I want you to think about Your own individual best friend, I'm gonna assume that we you have a best friend out there I have a best friend I have several very dear close friends in my life and Many of these close friends in my life are people that I can share my deepest darkest Truths with them knowing that I won't be judged Oftentimes I reach out to them to get feedback to help me in my life So I don't feel fear in speaking my truth and one of the fundamentals of what love does in Relationship or what I say what love would do is be able to speak your truth in Relationship from a kind perspective and if you're not familiar with my book what the heck is self-love anyway There's a link below to get all my recommended books chapter 1 speak your truth with kindness Here's what I've witnessed with from so many women is that you feel fear to speak your truth in relationship and men Equally fear-speaking truth because what's missing in many of the relationships is a real deep Routed friendship What I mean by friendship. I mean that that ability to share your your your your fears your doubts your insecurities with someone knowing it feels safe and so many Relationships are missing this fundamental piece. It's not about communication. It's about genuine friendship. That's missing in the relationship Here's the thing if you're in relationship with an emotionally immature person Maybe they're selfish. Maybe they're impetuous. Maybe they're quick to judge Maybe they're in victim consciousness, whatever it is. Maybe their actions don't consistently match their words It's going to be very difficult to know if he's capable of emotional intimacy and Today, I'm going to give you the five signs to determine Giving you the proof that he's capable of that emotional intimacy that he's capable of leaning into Into me you see into me you see I Have a podcast called the what would love to podcast and it's all centered around the idea of what would love do and how Would love respond and that's how I invite you all to lean into this conversation today and to recognize that when I'm about to Share with you is what people who genuinely love each other operate from this premise. So this so I'm going to put on my trusty glasses And I'm going to share my notes here with you Proof he feels emotional intimacy when he's with you those five signs and let me just say this This is true for women as well as men I repeat that this is true for women as well as men So one of the signs that you know He's capable of emotional intimacy is that his actions Consistently match his words his actions consistently match his words in other words when when you're You know when he says he's going to do something He follows through with it when he says hey, let's get together next weekend He doesn't at the last minute flake out on you saying I'm going to go play golf with my buddies He's consistent with his words and while that listen We all there's going to be things that come up in life often times our children take priority often times our work priority It's the consistently That the actions match words and when you're with a man who who base who does Live up to his word on a regular basis, especially when it comes to making plans with you spending time with you You know following through with that commitment that you you know, you should go to vacation together That's a great sign and prove that he's emotionally Intimate with you and invested in you Okay, number two he operates from a place of victor consciousness and not victim consciousness, okay Unfortunately here in the United States, we are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness We are a rather dysfunctional band of human beings here in the United States In fact, if you haven't seen my most recent emotional maturity relationship skills chart I'm going to show this to you by the way I just want to point out at the bottom. This is not a fact. This is merely my opinion But I I roughly believe that 20% of the plot population have clinical clinical emotional issues going on in their life I mean, they are absolutely clinical and then roughly about 20% of the population This is true of men and white are rather healthy with their emotional maturity and relationship skills and most everybody in between That's 60% is dysfunctional is dysfunctional because the vast majority of people have Didn't done little to heal their childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that cause negative patterns and limiting beliefs in their life With often time leads to victim consciousness and not victor consciousness And as I said before we are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness here in the United States Okay, so he operates from a place of victor He's not pointing the finger and he's taking personal responsibility for his choices And by the way when I say he I mean men and women take personal responsibility for their choices when two people Can take personal responsibility for those choices. That's a great sign of emotional maturity and a good example of this Would be when someone talks about their past relationship and they throw their previous partner under the bus as they're being the problem in Relationship I know as a single man dating. I've talked to women and almost every woman. I've ever dated It's always the man's fault why the relationship ended and I've spoken to men and every single one says it's the woman's fault a True healthy person takes ownership and says I was partially Responsible for the ending a relationship and that's a great sign of victor consciousness and not a victim I'm a victim. I'm a victim and listen unless you have to call a doctor a policeman or an attorney Everything else is consciousness in my book anyway all right number three an Emotionally mature person who seeks that proof of intimacy. He knows how to fight fair fight fair and fighting fair simply means You listen to the other when you're gonna have a disagreement and everybody folks We're all gonna have disagreements in relationship. It's natural to have disagreements in relationship Here's the thing fighting fair means you listen Listen to the other person's point of view You accept that person's point of view as being true for them you listen to their point of view and They do the same for you because when two rational people have a disagreement It's about sharing point of view and accepting the other person's point of view is being true for them Unfortunately, I'm most emotionally unhealthy people operate from a place of I've got to be right. I've got to be right So when there's a different disagreement, it's you're wrong. I'm right that is a sign That's not the proof you need when you want to be genuinely intimate with someone you want to be with someone Who's going to listen to your point of view and accept it for being true for you now? That doesn't mean you can't agree to disagree It merely states that they accept your point of view is being true for you That's what a grown-up person does in a relationship That if you really want to lean into a grown-up being a relationship I highly suggest reading the book how to be an adult in relationship how to be an adult in relationship sadly most Most human beings men and women like are operating like children. They're operating from that impetuous It's about me me me me and ladies just because you give more in relationship Doesn't make you any more healthier to be in a relationship giving more than somebody else does that drama is on you Not on them You know, I'm a believer of a relationship being a two-lane street You equally invest in each other throughout the entire relationship and sure there's going to be times when you're Investing more because of maybe someone is look at someone sick and they're in their bed You're going to take care of them. That means you're giving more and hopefully they do the same for you It's a balanced relationship in effort So number three learning how to fight fair number four Empathy empathy now empathy isn't just I can feel your feelings empathy means You care about the other person's feelings and to take it at a level step further It's you care about your own feelings as I said before in a month in my book What the heck is self-love anyway look at one of the fundamental principles of loving yourself and being in a healthy happy Relationship is to be able to put the oxygen mask on yourself first Just like when the flight attendant says in the case of cavern pressure change If if you're traveling with small children put the mask on first empathy starts with oneself It's not that you can just feel the other person's feelings It starts by caring about your own feelings and then caring about the other person's feelings and maybe even being able to feel Their feelings that is genuine empathy and when a man or woman operates from empathy They're in a much better position to be intimate with their partner And I don't mean intimate the penis in the vagina intimate. I'm talking about into me you see Into me you see intimacy and Lastly number five is transparency as I said earlier vulnerable authentic and transparent if it's material to the relationship Then it's highly important that two people discuss the material things that are material to the relationship and to be transparent So when you've been with men who have been very stoic and unable to share what's going on Especially if it's it can affect you That's not a healthy human being. That's a dysfunctional human being. That's a selfish human being That's a myopic human being if it's material to the relationship now We all need time to process information So I don't mean you have to say it right away when it happens But when you've had time to process something if it's going to affect the relationship then genuine intimacy means you're going to be Transparent with your partner because it's important to them as much as it is important to you And I'm here to advocate deeper transparency and relationship because if people were more transparent it wouldn't be as dysfunctional out there as it is And as I've said before it is a fucking clusterfuck out there in the dating realm and look I'm your big brother I wish I could be out there with the shotgun on the first date pointing the You know pointing at the guy saying look, what are your intentions with my little sister folks? I have to encourage you to be your own Protector because I can't always be there for you and it starts by learning how to ask better questions Right from the very first date and if you need some support with that check out the link to a free discovery Call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you That's my area of expertise teaching you how to determine true compatibility How to ask the right questions based on your personality and how to vet for emotional maturity So you don't spend time with the wrong guys and again You're listen look at 20% clinical issues 80% dysfunctional If you want to have a chance at that 20% healthy What's the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results? I'm here to offer an alternate way for you to approach the relationship process Does that make sense? It does give me a thumbs up right now. I'd really appreciate it. All right, this would be a great place to move to our Q&A portion of this live stream and if you're listening to the audio recording I am shooting this live right now There's a chat box in the YouTube channel if you want to post a question write the word question then post the question there After that way I can find it or you can purchase a super sticker super chat This the funds from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund that I created a name of my son Connor Asley that's a picture of him right there and right there That's my son who passed away a few years ago in his name I've started a fund to help defray the cost of Personal development. There's a little dollar sign in the chat box So if you purchase a super sticker super chat write your question I'll get to you quickly and by the way last time we did a live stream nobody Invested in the Connor fund So I really hope some of you jump in and make an investment in the collar Connor Asley Scholarship fund because I'm going to be donating some more money To a few Extending charities and I really would appreciate your support. All right time to jump into our Q&A So I'm going to scroll through the board really quickly to see if there's anything there Actually before I do really quickly. I want to share something personal with you all y'all and That is a couple days ago. I shot a video. I shared it on just the other day Called he says he's not ready for a relationship. He says he's not ready for a relationship I did this little sign and I shared something very personal and very vulnerable about myself And I shared how I feel as though I'm experiencing what's called dating fatigue dating fatigue and what that means is It can be very exhausting Spending time trying to get to know another human being and then it not go anywhere I repeat that the dating process can be very exhausting and very fatiguing Fatiguing fatigue. Well, you know what I mean Um when you invest time and it doesn't go anywhere and when you've done this one two three or four times It can be or dozens and dozens of times It can be rather exhausting and I noticed a lot of human beings are experiencing dating fatigue I shared with you my own personal experience now a couple people said well if you're feeling dating fatigue don't date You know, I'm genuinely like to be in a fully committed relationship. I mean to the with the right person I'm gonna repeat that I want to be in a relationship with the right person And yes, I'm a little bit burnt out in the process But let me tell you something I go to the gym five days a week. I can't stand going to the gym I sometimes begrudgingly go to the gym and sometimes I start my workouts begrudgingly And yet once I get started and once I get a good sweat going once I'm into it I'm happy that I did it. Here's the thing a lot of people wrote back saying you shouldn't date if you're burnt out I'm just said I'm I'm not saying I'm burnt out. Although there is a heaviness in the world right now I'm merely here to say that it is very Frustrating it could be very fatiguing and at the same time I still want the result of a great partner in my life. So that means I have to make effort Now does that mean I'm making effort with every single person? Absolutely not No, not at all I make effort with people.  All right. I just wanted to share that with everybody All right time to take questions from the group if you have a question post the word question and write the word Write the question there after all right And by the way for the record, I've only gone in the last six months I think I've only gone on three or four first dates So it's not like I'm doing it every day of the week a lot of talking a lot of Prequalifying via the phone, but a lot a lot of pre qualifying and a lot of no dates because I've pre qualified my prospect And that's what I teach you and that can be a little exhausting Christina says now I want some coffee I get it. All right. Are there any questions for me? Okay, go girl go go to girl says question Should I start all communication as texting calling when I when I do through they answer right back? Um, I don't understand your question. Go to girl Should I start should I start all the communication as in texting calling etc when they when I do though They answer right back. I'm a believer. I think what I think what you're asking is should you initiate conversations? I'm a big believer that men initiate conversations and women initiate conversations I like to think of it like a good ping pong game. You make effort. They make effort. They make effort You say you make effort you make effort. They make effort. Do you get it? It's like a ping pong game If you're constantly making all the effort That's not a good sign If they're constantly making the effort, that's not a good sign Human beings should mutually make effort in the initiation of communication. That's the way I view it and that's the way I suggest it for you. So great question there. Thank you so much All right, let's go swimming. Oh, alexandra. Thank you so much for the two dollar super sticker big hugs to you alexandra I really appreciate it lianna says Anything worth having is worth putting in the effort. I agree way to go Marie says question How many chances should you give your partner whose actions don't match their words sending you a big hug and kiss? So, thank you so much. Um You know, that's a tough one because it's not based on a number It's based on consistency and it depends on you know, look at we all have lives that may cause us to be You know, not consistent with our words. Okay But I'm thinking the ratio should be no more, you know For every eight times you're consistent, you know, maybe two times you're not consistent out of 10 Okay, but if it's two times out of 10, you're consistent.  I'm being blunt, but I cannot stand inconsistent people my my younger brother is one of those guys who are always late and finally I just go look If you if you're going to be late coming to my home I'm not going to be here when you get here and I love my brother with all my heart But he has a he used to be very late now because I set a boundary He's not late anymore. I have another friend. That's the same way And I set a boundary and they're not late anymore Setting boundaries simply says what's okay and what's not okay for you so set a boundary and if they're not able to Meet you with that boundary then maybe they're just not aligned to who you are and what you want Because you're not aligned to who they are and what they want and what they want is inconsistency and what I think you want Is consistency so I'm here to say set a boundary Again, if it's if it's two out of ten times It's not a big deal if it's eight out of ten times They're inconsistent set a boundary or tell them, you know, take this job and shove it motherfucker I'm sorry.  They're gonna think you're bipolar.   It's like the book.   This one. I'm very passionate about Because it's time to stop screwing around Set your boundary set your standard Express your boundary Sometimes give them a kick in the balls not literally figuratively. I mean and you know Then take your chances on what's you know, if they're really somebody you want in your life or not Is that okay with you? I hope that answers your question Who was that that answered that question? Thank marie. Thank you so much for that question I really appreciate can I give you a big gigantic jotham bear hug of appreciation. Thank you so much All right Question from susan. What do you do when a guy always wants you to apologize? What do you want to do? So why are you? I don't even understand What kind of man asks a question like that? I really don't I don't understand why a man would even Want you to continually apologize. Now if you're Listen healthy communication. I really want to recommend this book right now Nonviolent communication by marshal rozenberg nonviolent communication by marshal rozenberg You know if couples would read this book together Read this book together. They'd have a greater chance of relationship success along with and i'm going to do my little disclaimer Ladies before the penis goes inside the vagina Read the book eight dates to determine if you're on the same page if you want a relationship together Listen, I just got the phone with the woman who's in a six month relationship I go and she's not even sure if they're in a committed relationship because she went in casual And now she's left with the aftermath because he he's his standard.   That's as far as they'll go Let me repeat that men will only rise to your lowest standard So set your standard high now you have to be careful setting expectations to how I might get you in trouble But set your standards. What's your standard? Let me share with you my standard I'm looking for a relationship where we spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities hobbies mutual interests spending time with family and friends Traveling together teamwork building skills both in our personal and professional life Uh intimacy both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either moving in together or getting married That's my standard Know your standard if you need some help schedule a discovery call with me because that's my area of expertise by the way There's a link below in the description Stop setting your standards so low Especially when it comes to are we in a committed relationship?  All right. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it Elaine says I love the playing ping-pong Exactly. Thank you so much Declan's world question I've been having a great relationship with a man for over a year But I'm so scared to have a talk with him for fear. I'll mess things up. How can I approach it without pressure? Great question. Declan now coming back to my book.  Let's go to chapter nine read it If it's sincere and from the heart you can't say the wrong thing Speak from your heart speak from your heart What is it you want to say? sweetheart I recognize that I in this relationship. I want something more substantial in this relationship To you know before I continue to invest anymore And I'd like us to have a serious discussion on where we both see this relationship going to see if we're on the same page I'd like to have a conversation It can be as simple as that Declan's world Just come from your heart because you can't say the wrong thing to the right guy Great question. Thank you so much All right Folks, I want to be candid with you. My back is acting up again a little bit And I'm probably going to wrap up this live stream a little bit early Um So I'm just going to be on for another minute or two just as a reminder If you want to invest in the Collins or Connor scholarship fund purchase a super stick or super chat I'd really appreciate that. I'm going to take a few more questions right now. Jen says question What did you learn from the course of miracles and would you consider doing a video on that? What did you learn from the course of miracles? Great question. So what I think I learned most Was the understanding about the unhealthy ego And how it has to rationalize and try to create meaning out of everything Let me repeat that the unhealthy ego rationalizes and tries to create meaning out of everything. Okay I'm going to stand up here for today um, and now here's the thing folks Sometimes we don't feel Something like well, let me use a dating example Okay, I was communicating with a woman and for whatever reason I didn't want to go on a second date with her I couldn't I didn't have a reason behind it. I just didn't feel like doing it The ego will have to sometimes come up with a reason So some of the reasons are she lives too far away. Some of the reasons are she was too tall Some of the reasons she's too short. Some of the reasons is she had this going on in her face or something I don't know. I'm making up shit right now The unhealthy ego has to create meaning in your life You don't need to have meaning for everything. Sometimes it's simply I just don't feel it and that's one of the fundamental things I learned from the course of miracles Chapter one of course of miracles Everything has no meaning The ego creates meaning out of things So it helps rationalize rationalize Our choices let me repeat that rationalize our choices and that's one of the fundamental things I learned from the course of miracles I did it every day for three solid years In a study group and I recommend doing it with a study group But i'm not going to shoot a video on it because that's way too complicated to even remotely touch on it Marianne listen read the book if you want to get a course of miracles in a condensed version Read the book return to love by Marianne Williamson return to love by Marianne Williamson This is the course of miracles condensed. I have the cd version, but I suggest getting the book All right. Great question there, uh, jen. Thank you so much all right Cas says how important do you think is sexual chemistry in a relationship? um, okay, so let's go to jonathan's relationship iceberg Ha ha ha Okay above the waterline attraction you can see the word chemistry Below the waterline Compatibility shared values blendable lifestyle and emotional maturity should it be blendable lifestyles or lifestyle? Okay, it should be life. You know, we got to add an s there We've got to add the s there. It's actually lifestyles so Blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. Can you see how much bigger it is?  I say making love too.  I'm gonna want that sexual chemistry along with everything else All right, this is going to be the last question of the day Christine Would you list all the books and authors not all the links show up in the link? Thank you. I appreciate the information I will update the jonathan recommends Um shortly and then you jonathan recommends books is in the description below. I'll uh upgrade. I'll um Update that shortly to add many of the new books that I talk about All right, everybody, you know what I'm gonna wrap up today. I didn't want to do a very long Livestream today. I just want to say to you. I hope you found value in the proof He feels emotional intimacy with you Well, when he's with you these five signs just a reminder his actions consistently match his words He has victor not victim consciousness. He knows how to fight fair He is has empathy both for himself and for you and lastly there's transparency if it's material to the relationship He'll be transparent Folks, I want to thank you so much If you enjoyed this livestream hit that like button really quickly If you found value in this, please share it with your friends if you'd like to schedule a discovery call schedule it here And if you'd like to join my group called midlife love mastery There's a link below this group allows you to have direct access to me on a regular basis Where you can ask me questions and I shoot personalized videos just for you So if you'd like to connect with me and for me to shoot videos for you go to my group called midlife love mastery in the description below I want to thank you so much for allowing me into your life today Please share my youtube channel with your friends We're going to wrap up today as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic shot the mark of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone a pat a teddy bear or pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives Thanks a bunch. Bye now. Bye. Bye linda. Bye elaine. Bye yasmin. Bye kitty cat. Bye y'all Thanks everyone purchase a super sticker before you wrap up Thank you


Hello, this is Dr. Michael Krueger coming to you live from my treadmill, so I do every month to answer any questions you may have. For those of you who are familiar with my work every year, I read through every issue of every English language, nutrition journal in the world. So busy folks like you don't have to. I think a pile of the most interesting, most groundbreaking, most practical, finest and new videos and articles I upload every day to my non-profit site, nutritionfacts.org. Everything on the website is free. There are no ads, no corporate sponsorships, strictly non-commercial, not selling anything. Just put it up as public service as the labor of love as a tribute to my grandmother. New videos and articles almost every day and the latest in evidence-based nutrition. Oh, what a concept. All right, let's get to your questions. Nice thing about YouTube is questions are already laid out so I can just go right on down the list. Apologize, I was on Facebook live a little over half an hour ago and my sound wasn't any good, but hopefully my sound is okay coming to you now.  We can eat and still be healthy. 10% calories are going to be lower as long as your omega-3s are adequate. But 10% calories is probably the normal amount of fat for the human species. Hard to imagine getting more than fat for the first 90% or so of our hominoid evolution. And some very healthy populations lived even lower than that, like 7%, like the Okinawa Japanese. So you need to get your essential fatty acids. Once you do that, you don't have any need beyond that for fat. But this question was in relation to lean body.  It's just more difficult. Low and added fat is actually one of the criteria. One of my 17 criteria for a healthy weight loss diet, which is the first half of my book coming out in December. I'll proceed to receive, of course, all my books go to charity. But instead of playing whack-a-mole with all the popular diets out there, I decided, well, let me just list the criteria which have been proven to facilitate weight loss. And then any new diet that comes along, you can put up against that list of criteria and see if it's efficacious for weight loss, beyond, of course, being saved, nutritious life, external, et cetera. One of those is low and fat. I talk about this amazing study on prisoners in Vermont, ethically dubious study I may add, where it was an experimental, you know, most weight loss diets are weight loss diets. This is an experimental study in obesity where they had people, prisoners, to eat as much as 10,000 calories a day to try to get them to gain weight. And so they, so to gain 30 pounds, it took 100,000 calories more per unit body surface area to gain weight when they were eating a mixed diet versus just by adding fat to their diet. So it's super easy. It takes about 100,000 calories to less. They gain the same amount of weight if you're using fat. So eating a low-fat diet, you can effectively make 100,000 calories disappear. Just fascinating study. Anyway, but all right, that's just one question. Matt Lincoln's back, though, with question number two. If you eat tons of veggies, fruits, beans, and adequate nuts and seeds, do I need whole grains from health? Can you just be as just as healthy without them just based on the nutrients? Well, I mean, we only know, I mean, the nutrients that are, for example, on the side of a, you know, a nutrition label or something, or maybe 20 or so of the tens of thousands of five nutrients that exist in nature, that some of which we don't even have names for yet and may play a role in the reason why on whole grain consumption is associated with improved health. The five things that are killing human beings, dietary related risk factors for death on the planet. So number one killer of human beings is the human diet. This new global burden disease study just came out to reveal that. And so what are the five worst things about the global diet?  No, the five worst things, one, inadequate food consumption, inadequate vegetable consumption, inadequate metham seed consumption, inadequate whole grain consumption, and too much sodium. So inadequate whole grain consumption is one of the top five dietary risk factors for death on the planet Earth. That's how important they are. Now, what's special about whole grain? So basically just seeds of a grass. What about eating seeds of a tree?  We don't know. It's never been put to the test. But I see no reason for not including whole grains in one's diet because they appear to be associated with excellent health. All right. Matt Lincoln again, see if you get on here early, you can get all your questions listed.  Not doing it, just wondering. Would it depend what kind of bacteria are on those unwashed vegetables? Very unlikely. But even if you did, the next time you didn't wash your, it's no guarantee that the next meal, the bacteria on those other vegetables, had enough B12, do not rely on dietary, on tooth plaque, or the bacteria on your kitchen counter. We live in the sanitary world for a reason. And we try to decrease our bacterial load in our food. I recommend a regular label source of vitamin B12, and that's fortified foods or vitamin B12 supplements. I recommend 2,500 micrograms of cyanocobalamin, at least once a week. There's also daily doses. I've got videos on that. I'm going to have a whole new series of B12 videos, just updating people on the science. Although I don't think my, it's going to change my bottom line recommendations, although I haven't gone through all the new science yet. I can again, do birth control pills increase risk for cancer? It's interesting, if I remember correctly, I may have this wrong. Birth control pills increase the risk of breast cancer and cervical cancer, but actually decrease the risk of endometrial cancer, ovarian cancer, and colorectal cancer, I think. So it's actually both, increases and decreases, depends on what cancer you're talking about. Next I'm going to ask Dr. Greger. I've been hopeful plant-based for three years since my heart attack in stent, yikes, but so glad you're eating healthier. LDL, ooh, 131. I hope that's weighed down from what it was before, and their doc wants them to take a statin, understandably. And Laura is resistant, but what do you think? I think you should try to decrease it with diet first. So on a hopeful plant-based diet, presumably you have eliminated things to increase your cholesterol, such as your trans fats, concentrated sources of saturated fats and dietary cholesterol. Although, look, if there are plant sources of saturated fats, if you're God forbid using coconut oil or something, that can increase your LDL cholesterol.  And for most people, that's all it takes. It's a drop down to 70 or so. But some people, through genetic predisposition, just has a higher baseline, it's a bell curve. And so then you have to add foods to your diet to actively pull cholesterol from your body, as I've talked about. So Dr. Jenkins, University of Toronto, my research shows developed a portfolio diet, so it's a plant-based diet, but with added foods that bring down your cholesterol through different mechanisms, so they kind of complement each other.  And so you just go, just Google a portfolio diet, see how far you can bring it down. But you need to bring it down some way, and if you can't, then pharmacologically, you need to get it down some way. And if it's the only way you can do that through drugs, I would take drugs. Lord Jackson, total, oh, total, oh. So Lord Jackson again, total cholesterol 146. Oh my, total cholesterol 146, and they'll be out of 131.  But one medication has been, all but one medication has been discontinued, congratulations.  If not, there are specific foods such as ground flax seeds and hibiscus tea that can actually drive your pressures lower. You may be able to get off that final medication under, of course, your cardiologist's auspices. And so you can just check out the hub blood pressure chapter in How Not To Die. Becky Chan asks, Becky Chan Art asks, what are your thoughts on black shot molasses? Is it green light to be taken for health benefits, or is it more amber light to be used only as a condiment when needed? Thank you. So I would consider, there are really only two kind of green light sweeteners. One is date sugar, or date syrup is made from whole dates. So date sugar is just powdered, pulverized dates, a whole food. And two is black shot molasses. You say, wait a second, that's a processed food that should be amber light. It's actually processed in a way to make it healthier. It's like cocoa powder. So cocoa powder is a green light food. But wait a second, it's been processed. Yeah, it's been processed to take the cocoa butter out, which can actually raise your cholesterol. And so same thing. Like, so black shot molasses is basically sugarcane without the sugar or with a lot of sugar extracted. That's what's left over after you make sugar from sugarcane. And so it's really nutrient rich, lots of iron, lots of good stuff. It's a strong taste, but I love it. You know, so I use it to sweeten things where the taste is okay. So like, you know, I can use an oatmeal or something, but I wouldn't use it to sweeten tea or something, because then it would just overpower the tea. But hey, if you like black shot molasses and tea, more power to you. All right. Tracy Irvine asked Diabetes Question. If hubby's blood sugar is high in the morning after a 12 hour fast, but not high two or three hours after eating, should he have a snack at night? The blood sugar is high in the morning. I don't understand the snack at night thing. Why would a snack at night lower your blood sugars in the morning?    I'm sure you actually do what's called glucose tolerance test. I'll give you a sugar, basically, a sugar drink. See how high your sugars go to see what kind of insulin resistance you have. Yeah. So it's not about, yeah. So just an important question. You should not be having that high fasting blood sugars anytime. And we should not be snacking at night because of chronobiology. I have a whole chapter of my new book on that. Very excited about it. Okay. Anita Anahita asks, how is the daily dozen quantities of each category the same for everybody? Would a 15 kilogram individual need the same amount as a 200 kilogram? So, I mean, so the difference between a 50 kilogram and 200 kilogram individual is body fat. I mean, mostly. I mean, if you're kind of a similar height, I mean, some of them could be muscle mass. But basically, that's typically how we, I mean, depending on the nutrient, some of them is determined by body surface area. But just having extra body fat doesn't necessarily increase your nutrient needs. But remember, these are minimum. So daily dozen is minimum recommended intake.  I mean, it's not, this is not the recommended, it's just recommended minimum to get people to eat, to include some of the healthiest of healthy foods into their daily diet. Anahita again says, most vegan omega-3 supplements include carrageenan, should I be concerned. It would include such a minuscule amount of carrageenan. I don't think it should worry anybody. And of course, carrageenan periods should only worry people with some kind of bowel inflammation. As it may worsen bowel inflammation. But we don't have data that actually causes it in people that don't have it in the first place. Morrow Morrow asked, today I ate ham with two scrambled eggs and cheva chichi. I should enjoy the same. Well, you know, ham is a group one carcinogen. I was just on Fox Business in the morning yesterday talking about this new process meat study that came out published next month in the General Academy of Nutrition Dietetics. So the process meat consumption hasn't declined over the last 20 years essentially or so. It's an abject failure of the public health community to warn people about the dangers of process meat. Bacon, ham, hot dogs, lunch meat, sausages are considered known human carcinogens. We know they cause cancer in people. Yet we continue to, you know, send kids to school with lunchables. Increasing risk of colorectal cancer for about a 50 gram portion which is like one sausage link on the order of 18%. That's about the increased risk you get of lung cancer living with a smoker. So there's a risk of secondhand smoke living with a smoker being exposed to smoke all the time. About 15% increased risk of lung cancer. Well, you get about a 16% increased risk of colorectal cancer or an 18% risk of non-cardiac stomach cancer. Eating a single, you know, 50 gram serving a processed meat every day. And colorectal cancer is second leading cancer killer of men and women combined. And so look, it's your body, your choice.  But I choose to make healthier choices because there's lots to do. I have lots left to do in my life. And I want to be healthy to do it. All right, Katrina asks, I avoid oil on a hopeful plant-based diet. So I confused that when I advised to take a plant-based EPA DHA, what are my thoughts on this oil? I mean, that's a miniscule. So, you know, I encourage people to consider taking 250 milligrams of DHA, for example. 250 milligrams, that's a miniscule amount of oil. I'm talking when I say no oil, no added oil, no added fat, salt or sugar. I'm talking about using oil like in cooking. There's no reason we need to pour oil on anything. Mostly just empty calories where we could be substituting those calories for something much healthier. So, yeah, and of course, the DHA is for cognition. And you can see my studies about that on NutritionFacts.org. Okay, Leanne asks, please talk about different types of vinegar. Are they all on our green light? Absolutely, they are, yes. Are they all equally beneficial? Well, so they're all equally beneficial in that they're all sources of acetic acid by definition. Vinegar is a dilute solution of acetic acid, and that's the magic of vinegar. But, you know, a red wine vinegar, in addition to having acetic acid, also has, you know, those anthocyanin, those red pigment compounds that white wine vinegar doesn't have. So, same thing with balsamic vinegar. You know, pomegranate vinegar has phyto-nutrients from pomegranate, not a lot, but a little bit more than distilled white vinegar or something. So, hey, you might as well get those extra phyto-nutrients. Or is there evidence they actually contribute to health beyond just acetic acid? No, but why not? But for the benefits of vinegar, any source would do. Of course, you're never drinking vinegar. I have a whole video on my caveats about doing it, but putting spoonfuls in a cup of water or adding to tea or dressing a salad is a good thing to actually recommend in my upcoming book, Spoiler Alert, December 10th, to have two teaspoons of vinegar at every meal.  In terms of accelerating weight loss, regardless of whatever else you eat in your diet, which is the whole second half of my book, How Not to Diet, coming out in December. Okay, Alan Johnson asked, now being full-time, hopeful, pump-based, does that mean with cavities, I have to pay for the sentence of my past with Drill and Fill is another way to naturally heal cavities through diet. Superficial erosions can fill in in terms of your enamel, but if you actually have a cavity that's a puncture through, then there's nothing you do to reverse that as far as I know, and you just have to not get no ones and take care of the ones you have already. Sandra Early, a yearly, asks, is it possible to reverse a low-functioning thyroid? Well, it depends what the source, as always, treats the cause. What's the cause of the low-functioning thyroid? If it's the most usual cause, which is an autoimmune thyroiditis, your body has attacked your thyroid, scarred it up such that it's not producing enough thyroid hormone and presumably wouldn't. I mean, there are actually cases of people that have reversed it, but it's not something that's actually been put to the test in a systematic matter. But if the reason you have an indirect thyroid, you're not getting enough iodine or something, your body needs iodine to create the thyroid hormones, well, then the easy fix, obviously, is to have enough iodine and then it will reverse on its own. But other than that, one would presumably need thyroid replacement, hormone replacement for the rest of one's life if it is indeed from our kind of scarred-out thyroid. Relax Good says, oh, is we're applying to Katrina, et cetera, et cetera, it says, what are the harms of yogurt? I have seen benefits, no articles, information, any other issues. Yogurt would seem the least harmful, a dairy product. I presume we're talking about dairy yogurt. So, I mean, so there's, I have lots of videos on dairy consumption. If one is going to eat dairy, yogurt would seem to be the least harmful choice. So, it's really a matter of opportunity cost. So, every calorie yogurt is a calorie you can get from something healthier. So, it depends what you're going to eat instead of that yogurt. So, is yogurt healthy? Well, compared to what? Compared to, I don't know, ice cream? Yes, compared to what would someone eat instead of yogurt? Compared to eating oatmeal for breakfast? No, I think oatmeal would be healthier. In terms of, look, you know, yogurt has zero fiber, oatmeal's got a lot of fiber, et cetera, et cetera. Okay, where are we? Okay, Luis asks, eating while standing versus sitting? Anything on that? Good question. Not something I've looked into. I don't know if there'd be any data on that, but so I don't know. That's cool. That's a cool question. Ben asks, are there any other hacks such as the ground mustard seed and broccoli for sulforaphane? Any hacks I've found are made into videos on newsreactionfacts.org. So just check out my videos. There's about 2,000 of them. So lots for you to do until our next live Q&A. Any sign of the fasting videos coming through soon? Yes! I have a webinar live, a three-hour webinar, July 26th. Right? I keep telling people July 26th. Let me make sure it's actually July 26th. It is July 26th. No, yeah, 2 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. So that's the first three hours. I have another fasting webinar in September, which will be many more hours. This one's mostly on intermittent fasting as opposed to water only fasting, although I do cover water only fasting when it comes to weight loss. And all those, of course, will be in videos. Those should be over the next few months. But you can watch all, you can watch three hours of fasting videos live. July 26th. Excited for the webinar. I think we have about 1,000 people signed up. I'm excited about it. All right. Okay. Enoch, Enoch, sorry about nameless vaccinations, loves my work. What I do, some people say they need healthier meat in their diet for various reasons. Not just protein, but for thyroid function. That doesn't make any sense to me. Any concerns there? I mean, no one needs meat in the diet, even the one in 20,000 people that have a deficiency that they are born without the ability to create carnitine in their bodies. They have a birth defect. I could still take carnitine supplements.  I have a video about that. But no, there's no such medical condition in thyroid function. In fact, those who eat strictly plant-based diets actually are more like the so-called youth thyroid, or have good thyroid function, not too low, not too high. That's in the Adventist 2 study. And they don't need any animal products. Forget meat, just no animal products, and they seem to do better. How many cans of lentils should I eat every day? Ask Mark. How many lentils in a can? Now I make my own lentils, so I don't do cans anymore. And if you're hopefully doing a BPA-free can, I think it's like a cup and a half. So it's a cup and a half, one can a day, right? Because I recommend three servings of legumes a day, servings half a cup. And so there you go. And I think, and for homeless, I think it's maybe a quarter to... You have to look. You have to look at either my free Daily Doesn't App on my phone and Android, or In How Not To Die, go get it from the local library. And it's exactly how I cut down the other legumes. But for lentils, I think, are things a half a cup. And so if it's a cup and a half, one can a day should do ya. Leah asks, is it possible to get all the nutrients you need if you have a legume and grain allergy on a vegan diet? That'd be tough. If you could not eat any legumes, any grains, I've never heard such a thing. But you would need to see a really good dietitian to make sure that you're getting all the nutrients. So like, for example, fiber, I mean, so legumes and whole grains are the number one and two sources of fiber. And so if you weren't getting... So that, for example, would be a nutrient of concern of mine. If you were not eating those two categories of foods. Eric, George asks, since I donate all my book proceeds to nutritionfacts.org, how do I get paid? So my book proceeds don't necessarily go to nutritionfacts.org. The first book did, but they'll go to charity period. One, but hey, nutritionfacts.org is a great 511c3 charity. Anyone who's interested in donating. And I am on staff. I'm the chief science officer. I used to have a day job as a public health director at HSUS, but now I am working on infectious disease, but now I want to work on chronic disease full-time. And so I now doing Nutrition Facts and I'm paid. I'm on salary. So if you make a donation to nutritionfacts.org, you are helping me put kale on the table. Relax Good. Oh, it's just offering a suggestion. Maria says, do I know anything to help androgenic alopecia? What's that you say? That's what it is. It's male pattern baldness. I have not, I remember looking into it once and not seeing anything, but it's not something I've peaked at, looked at recently. But if you go to PubMed, put in alopecia and diet and anything pops up, let me know. And maybe I'll do a video about it. I can do a before and after video about it.  Ooh, scattered over morning oatmeal for a calcium boost. Is that reasonable or harmful? Ooh, sounds delicious. I have a video on the tolerable upper daily limit of poppy seeds. And I think it's under, I think it's over two tablespoons, but I'd have, but you'd have checked. So go to nutrition facts.org type in poppy seeds. I have a video on how much is too much. And so I just stand under that level. But for an adult, I think for my recollection, two tablespoons sounds perfectly fine. And that would be a healthy addition. The only concern is if you had to get drug testing. I'm like, if you were an athlete who got tested for, I don't know, if athletes get tested for narcotics. Well, so if you were working at a job where you were tested for narcotics, you'd be concerned about poppy seed consumption because that's where, you know, that's how they make heroin from the morphine poppies. Anyway, Audrey asks, are sweet potatoes in the same category as spinach in terms of oscillates? No, there's only three. Well, okay, four with rhubarb leaves, but by definition, no one eats rhubarb leaves unless you have a garden because they're cut off because they're toxic. And so, yeah, no, the only three high-acidate greens you got to worry about are spinach, Swiss chard, and beet greens. And by worry about only if you eat cups a day, there's a super healthy foods. I eat them. I encourage people to eat them. But if you follow my recommendations to eat cups of greens a day as you should, I would diversify your greens. And if you're doing cups, you should use the low-acidate greens, which are all greens, except for those three.  Never heard that before? Well, you have not been seeing my videos because those just came up. And so please feel free to subscribe to my YouTube channel or on studentnutritionfacts.org and you'll be alerted when my new videos come out. Okay, Nihaw asks, what's the best way to avoid relapses of mild schizophrenia symptoms? Any remedies? Any remedies? That is not something I've looked at. Kind of thing, schizophrenia. I haven't done a lot of schizophrenia. And I don't know what there is about mild schizophrenia. I'm sorry. I cannot help you. If you do however, look at pubmed.gov, pubmed.org, and find articles about preventing relapses of schizophrenia and diet. Let me know and I can do a video about that. And finally, the last question, as time is almost up. Carol asks, any special dietary supplement advice for those who've had a gastric bypass surgery? Yeah, particularly if you had a room-wide gastric bypass, there's all sorts of, you are at risk for serious nutrient deficiencies because you've cut out part of your digestive tract for which nutrients are absorbed. And so you can Google the list and make sure and you should be supplementing your diet with nutrients. And there's been very serious cases described in the literature of people running into problems after bypass. All right. Thank you so much, everybody.  Have a wonderful day. Bye. How do I turn this thing off?


Excuses are like buttholes. Everybody's got one and they all stink.  If your life is great, it is your fault. If your life sucks, it is your fault. Everything in your life is your fault.  But sometimes we all need a little bit of tough love. We need someone to wake us up. So when are you going to do it? When are you finally going to get rid of excuses and take control of your life?  So what do you need to do?  You can no longer blame anybody. You are where you are right now because of your past thoughts, decisions and actions, which means it is your fault because you're in control of all of those. But Rob, you don't know about my past and all of the terrible things that I've been through. Hmm. How hard it is to let go of things that really hold us back. Yeah, that's the card that you were dealt. Now what? I guarantee that if we were to search long and hard, we would eventually find someone who had a tougher life than you did. But they still made their life great. But Rob, I've got children. I don't have time to do all of the things that I wish I could do. This one drives me crazy. Really? You're going to blame your children for your lack of success or happiness or fulfillment? That's a low blow. And I mean a low blow. It's not your children's fault that they were born. They're here. They're in your life. Now what? Oh, and also Lauren Hill has six kids. Clint Eastwood has seven kids. Mick Jagger has eight kids. Marie Osmond has eight kids. Eddie Murphy has nine kids. Charlie Chapman had 11. Mia Farrow had 14. And Marlon Brando had 15 freaking children. So clearly it's possible to bring children into the world and still bring greatness out of yourself. So now what? Now what do we do? We need to divorce our excuses and take 100% blame for everything that has ever happened to us in the past and everything that is currently in our present moment because we have created our lives up until this point because you can either have excuses or you can have results but you cannot have both. But the best thing is you get to decide which one you have. What's up everybody? Thank you so much for watching this video. Please go ahead and share it if you like it. And if you're interested in joining a free community of thousands of people who have decided to divorce their excuses and make their life great, you can either click the link that's in the comments down below or you can go to coachwithrob.com and you can actually join the free community there. Either way, make your life great because you're the one that's in control.


Hey guys, welcome back to my channel. So today I have an entire house clean with me.  I'm so proud of myself for probably about two or three weeks now. I've been doing a load of laundry every day and it has helped so tremendously much in just keeping the chaos under control. The other thing I do is before I go to bed at night, I load my dishwasher and run it and then when I wake up in the morning I empty it so that I can kind of load it throughout the day which has also helped a ton.  I know sometimes I've thought that doing multiple loads, you know, at one time folding it all seemed to save time but in reality it just gets piled up and it doesn't work out how I imagine it's going to. So those are some things that I have been doing lately that have really, really helped me stay on top of just the things that you need to do all the time. So as you can see, I'm just kind of doing some regular cleaning, just vacuuming, dusting. I wash the front window and just wiping stuff down. This is something I definitely do not do often enough and that is wiping down my washer and dryer. They get so dusty with the lint from the dryer. I feel like laundry rooms can sometimes be one of the dirtiest spots in the house for sure. I decided to go ahead and wipe down all of our baseboards. This is something I don't do too often. It doesn't need it very often but since I was already kind of tackling everything in the front part of the house, I decided to wipe them down. This entry area and the dining room are the only areas that we have this style like baseboard or paneling and it does collect some dust. If you're new here, I'd love it if you hit the subscribe button. I try to give you at least one cleaning video a week and motivate you. If you watch my vlogs, I do a lot of DIY projects and other fun things. I'm always on the go and I don't like to sit still for very long. So I feel like my projects are never ending. This has been something I've been pushing to the back burner just because I didn't have time to do it but this day I found some time and that is just to wash all of my cabinets down. Having white cabinets obviously makes it so that you need to keep up with them a little bit more and I do a lot of spot cleaning but once in a while it's good to just wash them all down and I'm using the same spray I used on the baseboards or the paneling out in the front part of the house. Also, if you're interested, these knobs are actually from Amazon and they're a great little renters hack because they bring a modern touch but you don't have to drill multiple holes, especially if your kitchen just has the knobs with one screw. So I will leave them linked in the description box. Another little perk is that they are super inexpensive. I encourage you guys today that if you're feeling like giving up as a mom or a homemaker that you have so much more in you and that you can accomplish so much more than what you think you can.  I just need to tune into that and just ask him for help and so I really encourage you guys if you're feeling discouraged today just that you can do it as easy as those words are but I know that there's been so many times people have said those words to myself and I have felt encouraged by them. So you can do it today. All right, so I'm probably gonna get questions about this.  It comes kind of in a block inside that round tub and then I add a little bit of water to it just to kind of loosen it up and then you can use it to clean your glass top stove like you saw to clean really anything. It's slightly abrasive but not that it's gonna scratch anything so I use it with one of my Norwex claws and then I just shined my sink up this day. I also added in some grapefruit oil just to make it smell good. We could laugh when we're just having the girls help clean out their toys and things has been a major priority on my list and they've been doing so well with it so I just asked them to come into the living room and collect the things that were theirs that they knew where they went and they did that and helped me get it all whipped up pretty quickly. This Caldria spray smells so good. Caldria is probably my favorite cleaning brand. It's something that Grove carries. If you guys have never heard of Grove they're just a company that has a lot of cleaning products that you can order from and there's always a link in the description box to get a bunch of free products with your first order so you can always check that out because I know I've gotten some questions recently in the comments of where I get my cleaning products. I guess I just haven't talked about Grove for a while but yeah, that's where I like to get them and if you search on their website you can find the Caldria brand. I use their countertop spray and their linen spray a lot. This is my constant battle just because of course I use it every day but my little like office area and as something else I encourage you guys to do I just decided to take the plunge and do this. You see the papers on the wall.  So sometimes writing your goals out does really help and I've noticed how much better I've been able to stick to my routines. They don't always happen at the exact times I have written on my routine papers but if I can at least get the routine done then I can keep up with it. The things like I was talking about in the beginning of doing your laundry once a day, doing the dishes, those sorts of things. So write it down and you might see a big change in accomplishing your goals. Okay, this was actually the same day just later and I put on a big comfy shirt. I had been getting hot and so I had to make supper, all of that happened and then I could get back to getting the house cleaned. So this bathtub is actually where I bathe my daughters. I don't use the bathtub in their bathroom and so I don't clean that one very often but of course that tub does need to get cleaned on a weekly basis. So I just sprayed it down and rinsed it down. Another little tip I have for you is to be using something natural in your bathtub especially if your kids are taking baths in it because it doesn't really matter you know what if you scrub it or whatever. There's still some residue left from a cleaner. So in some sense they're getting it in their tub water. So I would just say to be really careful what you use to clean your tub with so that your kids are not getting exposed to cleaners on their skin. This is the bathroom that's closest to my daughter's rooms and it's the one they use a lot but like I said we don't really use the shower in here and also the shower in our bathroom I'm trying to wash whenever I take a shower instead of you know going through the routine of getting soaked while I'm trying to wash the shower. Anyways, so that's why I didn't show me scrubbing my shower out. The Rosewater Driftwood is always my favorite for my daughter's beds. It has a very floral smell to it. It's not overwhelming, I'm not a huge floral person but I love using it in their rooms. Thank you so much for joining me today. I hope that this motivated you. If you're new here don't forget to hit that subscribe button, join my channel and I hope you guys enjoyed. Have a great day, whatever you're doing and give this video a thumbs up for me.


All is now set for the 2022 Lagos Food Festival ahead of the event of the State Commissioner for Agriculture, Abisola Oluswaya, says this year's edition will talk the fires of Jalaf Rice War between Nigeria and other African countries. Plus the news-corresponding Larvi Kukou, Yedokun brings us details in this report. This Media Parli here was the 2022 Lagos Food Festival, the sixth in a series. The annual event, formerly known as the Seafood Festival, aims to sensitize local and international markets to the state's numerous agricultural commodities and foods. It is also part of measures to promote seafood cultivation, local fish production, and enable investment opportunities in aquaculture. State Commissioner for Agriculture Abisola Oluswaya throws more light on what's respect. For those of you that attended or were a part of it one way or the other, or saw it across the various social media platforms on TV in the newspapers, you would attest to the fact that it was a massive success, like we've never reported before. And I believe it has to do with people coming into that space and recognizing the fact that whatever it was that they wanted, they could get it. It was not limited to seafood alone. And I mean, that's as a result of the fact that not everyone likes seafood, not everyone can eat seafood. Some people are actually allergic to seafood. So we've just thought we just needed to broaden the scope. And we saw how the turnout was last year. She discloses that over 25 million Naira was realized from transactions at the 2021 Festival. The government is expecting, nonetheless, from this year. For 2022, since we're expanding the scope to be taste of Africa, we're expecting to even have more people. We're expecting to have more vendors. And since we are partnering with the Culinary Institute as well, we expect that more people will turn out, more stakeholders in the food producing sector of the agriculture industry will turn out. And we should have more even in terms of transactions. But the key takeaway for this year's food festival is for people to come and have fun. This year's edition has us a theme, artist of Africa. It is expected to attract chefs from Lagos, Nigeria, and other African countries. Bolabo Adebalki is one of them. We want to do something really interesting with the taste of Africa. We're going to curate an after fusion menu using ingredients that are unique to Lagos state. Some of the things that you know already that are very popular in Lagos, we're going to be taking them and we're going to be recreating them in a fusion style using international techniques. There are a lot of techniques that are being used today across the world that we also use in Nigeria. We're not inferior to some of these things. We already use them on a daily basis. Just like previous ones, this year's edition will feature a wide range of fresh products, organic groceries, dry food, confectionery, pastries, ready to eat consumables and drinks as well as entertainment and many more. Love Ikuku Uyeduku, plus TV news.