Today, we're going to talk about why men pull away and then come back and what you need to keep in mind Right now you're not going to like this conversation because I'm going to be well. I'm always real with you Actually, what is real anyway? I'm just sharing with you my thoughts my perceptions my opinions by no means do I suggest this is the truth Okay, so I I think it's really important for women as well as men to understand is that many of you are living in a delusional state when it comes to romantic Relationships and what I mean by a delusional state is you really many of you don't have a real understanding of the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship number one and many of you operate from the perspective of you think you can attract Something you what you actually attract in your life. You have this expectation That's going to be better than what you actually attract in your life We see this with older men who think that you know on their dating profiles They can put down younger women and that they'll actually attract those when they don't actually get those I mean yet and I will say that men with money do attract those types of women because they're offering some exchange and Oftentimes women are not satisfied especially in midlife that men are balding and they're holding up a picture of a fish And they think they can attract better than that And when I say by this I don't mean it as a judgment I mean as a delusion we human beings oftentimes overvalue ourselves and That's why I'm leaning into this conversation today And it's going to take me a little while to get to why men pull away and come back because I think many of you need a Re-education on the dating mating or relating process first and foremost is attraction doesn't equal Relationship success I'm repeat that attraction doesn't equal relationship success and if you're not familiar with my Relationship iceberg. I think it's important to look at this and as you can see above the water line It says attraction. It says chemistry, but real relationship success comes from compatibility and that's shared values blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity and The reality is as many humans lack a sense of emotional maturity in the relationship process and that's why men ghost or white people ghost why women Disappear and why men disappear and why they act dysfunctional in relationship? I think it's important to understand that human beings particularly right now Are thirsty for some level of connection and companionship and wanting that physical intimacy and yet They're not capable of actually diving deeper Into an emotional relationship And again, many of you are operating from this fantasy of Disney and the notebook and serendipity as everything I don't know as if everything is okay, and yet you've witnessed You've witnessed in your own life one disappointing relationship after another And I think what's happened with a lot of people is they lack a sense of trust in the process of getting To know someone in many cases women have become bitter and jaded and men have become bitter and jaded as well It's a real mess out there from a dating perspective because many of you are operating from the fantasy Men and women alike of this idea that you know How do I say this the idea that you know your prince charming or your princess charming is going to show up without you Having to do any true deep inner work to actually attract a really good partner. That's going to stick around And I think it's because of human beings if you think about it for 200,000 years neanderthals are 200,000 years old We've only had electricity for 100 years only electricity for 100 years out of 200,000 years of mankind Ops humankind, excuse me And within the date the mating process for literally hundreds of thousands of years you made it within the tribe that was in front of you I think it's important to recognize that there was a lot of tribe accountability in the nurturing of couplehood Now we have to also recognize that men slept with many women and spread their seed And women were the caretakers of the children and men were the ones who just went out and hunted for food and then they slept with women At least going back a couple hundred thousand years. Why is this important understand? Because there's this you know There's this interesting narrative that's talked about that men are the hunters and men are the providers and women are the nurturers As if it applies to the way we operate in dating mating or relating today because in the last hundred years We operate from a dysfunctional emotional perspective Instead of the biological instinctual perspective that happened a hundred thousand years ago This is why I talk habitually about emotional maturity and relationship skills And by the way, this is not a fact, but I believe 20 of the population has clinical issues And while I say 20 are healthy from a relationship skills perspective I might be generous most human beings are rather dysfunctional myself included. I am not perfect in this process What makes someone Come back You know pull away and come back is because they want that companionship with you They want that connection with you and yet they're afraid to lean into a deeper relationship because they haven't made the choice To actually want to be in a fully committed relationship This is why most people who are actively dating today men and women alike are either again. This is not a fact It's merely an opinion are either users and I say it's about 20 of the population They're spenders or they're growers and builders Now a user are those love bombers those players those women who are gold diggers those Entitled type of women out there or men out there that are entitled and then the spenders Are the ones who are seeking companionship uh coupling Connection but they have no direction. They're uncertain. They're fearful of relationship That's why they come they they pull away and then come back They're fearful of a fully committed relationship and then the growers and builders They're fully capable of a commitment and they're ready to commit and they're ready to face their fears And when I say that's 20 of the population I'm probably being a bit generous there too And this is true of you ladies as well because many of you are fearful of relationship And that puts you in the spender category and the reason why I call it spender Is you're spending time with someone without actually deeply growing into a relationship It's because many of you don't understand the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship This is why I continually recommend before you sleep with somebody You should purchase two copies of the book eight dates by doctors john and julie gotman and begin reading chapter one Because it talks about trust and commitment trust and commitment. Why is this so hugely important? Because without trust Without trust and trust isn't just about fidelity trust is about can I count on this person to care about my feelings as much as my own? Isn't it fascinating that we human beings will give our bodies to another person that we barely know and we barely trust Think about that It used to be that You know when a man wanted to have sex he had to marry you for it For the most part this is in the least in the last couple hundred years in the cave man days They didn't need to have to marry you or make any commitment But for a short period of time commitment was required to have sex And now that's just completely gone away the only commitment a man has to make is simply to say I want a relationship Think about that all he has to say is I want a relationship and a woman will say oh he wants a relationship I want a relationship great. I can have sex with this person and it's gonna work out great Without really any understanding of the context of what that means And what that agreement is with each other. This is why most of you might have heard my recent Conversation about something called the dating vow the dating vow And why this is so important because this is going to help you maybe avoid the man who's going to pull away and then come back And the dating vow is simply and by the way if you're not familiar There's an old saying women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment Ultimately, men are the gatekeepers of commitment because at some point a man has to want to say this either before he meets you Or while he's with you. I want to take care of this person. That's what real commitment is It's a level of saying I want to take care of you. I only want you.  So this is why I invite you all to do the dating vow and the dating vow is this It simply says the following I And you fill in your own name and you both men and women are doing this Agree to explore the process of getting to know one another with the intent to declare something serious Within the next three to six months. You make a declaration. You make an agreement to one another You also say I agree to be monogamous sexually while we're having regular sex together That's a pretty important agreement to make with one another I agree to not actively seek to meet or date others while we're in the dating process of getting to know one another I agree to speak up if this isn't working for me instead of pulling away Ghosting or disappearing and lastly I agree to invest regular time in the process of getting to know you Which includes doing social activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends on a regular basis By making that vow look at For the ladies who follow my channel 90% of guys are going to run away The spenders who are not capable of being in a relationship are going to run away You're going to lose those guys But you know what? What are you really losing? Are you really losing a serious person?  Can I can I interest you in some sarcastic comment today? As you know, my personality is a bit caustic a bit sarcastic It's a bit strong. It's a bit passionate I'm this way by the way, I'm because I have a middle eastern background My family and I used to yell and scream at each other. That's why sometimes yell and scream It's because I'm trying to get a point across to you to make sure that you're thinking about the bigger picture Instead of the fantasy that many of you are operating from This is why when clients work with me I teach you how to ask the right questions in the early stage of dating based on your personality To determine is this guy a user? A spender or a grower and builder? And by the way, there's a link below to schedule a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you Because if you don't understand this You're going to be what's the definition of insanity doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results So what's going to cause you to attract the grower builder because I said if you really look at there's a delusion of what you can attract out there Partially because many of you do very little personal development work To heal childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that cause you to have negative patterns and limiting beliefs in your life This is why I continually recommend the book the Hoffman process the Hoffman process This is a great starting point to start to heal from within because when you're healing from within You are less likely to attract that man who's going to pull away and then come back Now that's partially because you have to love on yourself and any of you know I already wrote a book about self-love by the way. There's a link below to get a copy of my book. What the heck is self-love anyway But if you really want to be that empowered woman that attracts that guy that grower and that builder and the reason Why they're called grower and builders is because these are the men who actually want to invest In a healthy happy relationship But you've got to sift through the the weeds to find these guys and sadly many of you women aren't growers and builders as well Just because you have a propensity to want to attach to another human being doesn't mean you're good at being in relationship with another human being This is why I'm encouraging everyone these days to purchase the book you ladies purchase the book why men love bitches Men love bitches and bit stands for babe in total control of herself. Yes This is an amazing book to start to become empowered because empowered women don't attract The flaky men to the same degree is that the woman who gives her power away I repeat this over and over and over again. Why? Because this is all about personal empowerment This is all about being in your sovereignty your self-worth your self-esteem self-confidence Because you will repel men who are lacking their own self-esteem self-worth and self-confidence and look at I'm here to say we have a huge mental health crisis here in the united states in particular An emotional health crisis. In fact the number one emotional health issue faced with human beings today Is I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable and I'm not likable and sadly dating triggers this like nobody's business This is why a vaccination to emotional chaos is loving on oneself And yet we are bombarded Through the social media and digital age in the in the world of swipe dating today We are bum it's bastardized the process of getting to know another human being And it's important to think about all these things. That's why I said you have to look at the bigger picture because men are not bad people Men are not bad people It might be bad daters Just like many of you are bad daters and you're bad daters because many of you are operating from that fantasy Of some past belief of how relationships were it's the pride and prejudice that he's going to be Chivalrous and he's just going to be the emotionally unavailable man. It's just going to open up to you It's a fantasy because today For the most part we're meeting total strangers We don't have a tribe accountability We don't have a tribe that's watching over us in many cases This is why lately I've talked about the book talking to strangers by malcom glad god glad well because When we are meeting strangers, it's difficult to trust someone And yet it shocks me how easily Most of the time people will have sex with people that they barely know and sex is a very intimate personal act Look it. I'm not here to suggest, you know, we have free will we have free bodies. We can do whatever we want That's okay I'm guilty of having friends with benefits in my life. I'm guilty of one night stands I've been pretty forthright every time it's happened. I think I have been Okay, that's what's most important is to be transparent with another human being And at the same time do your due diligence ladies If you all band together for the next 90 days and stop having sex with men It would change the narrative because you are the gatekeepers of sex Men are the gas and women are the brakes And why is it all centered around sex because that's what we men crave We don't walk around going, you know, the men are hunters. Well, we don't hunt going. I want a relationship I want a relationship. I want to really we don't hunt that we hunt sex for the most part And the growers and builders are also seeking something deeper from that So you have to differentiate between the men who are the growers and builders And by the way, the spenders or might be here's the thing the problem with the spenders most of the time The guys who are the spenders that want companionship connection and coupling The problem is if they have any dysfunction going on in their life Job issues a divorce an ex-spouse issues with children health issues the ground underneath them doesn't feel solid That's why they pull away and then they come they they excuse me They pull away and then come back and they pull away and come back Because when the ground isn't underneath them solid, they might want something from you But they're not capable as I said earlier of taking care of you And until a man actually reaches that state where he wants to take care of someone not you take care of someone And you have to be in that state of wanting to take care of someone Well, Jonathan, I don't want to be a nurse or a purse Well, guess what until you actually till two people say I want to take care of someone And then they meet that person that they want to both mutually want to take care of It's going to be difficult to have a juicy delicious relationship like I talk about frequently So why don't men pull away and come back? Most of the time it's because you started with the wrong choice to begin with You chose a user or a spender and you didn't choose a grower or a builder Is this sinking in is this resonating if it is please hit that like button Please share this video check out the links to a free discovery call with me Check out my group called midlife love mastery. Check out all the books. I recommend follow me on instagram And I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love I'm going to ask you to turn to someone a pat a teddy bear or a pillow Here's a teddy bear and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love And let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives. Bye. Bye now. Bye. Bye


Live from Toronto, Canada, it's theCUBE. Covering Global Cloud and Blockchain Summit 2018. Brought to you by theCUBE. Hello everyone, welcome back to theCUBE's live coverage here in Toronto for the first Global Cloud and Blockchain Summit in conjunction with the Blockchain Futures event happening this week. It's your honor, I'm John Furrier. Like I was Dave Vellante, we're here with CUBE alumni, Bradley Roder, pioneer Blockchain investor. Season Pro was there in the early days as an investor in hedge funds, continuing to understand the impacts of cryptocurrency and its impact for investors and long on many of the crypto. Made some great predictions on theCUBE, last time at Polycon in the Bahamas. Bradley, great to see you, welcome back. Thank you, good to have you. Thanks for coming on. So let's get, I want to just get this out there because it's just you an interesting background.  You were early before the hedge fund craze as the pioneer then. Yeah. Talk about that and then how it connects to today. You see some similarities, talk about that. I actually had begun trading commodity futures contracts when I was 15. I grew up on a farm in Iowa, which is a small state in the Midwest. I've heard of it. And I was in charge of- Was it a test market? I was in charge of hedging our one corn contract. So I learned the mechanisms of the market. It was great experience. I traded commodities all the way through college. I got to go to West Point as undergrad. And I raced back to Chicago as soon as I could to go to the University of Chicago because that's where commodities were traded. So I'd go to night school at night at the University of Chicago and listen to Nobel laureates talk about the official market theory. And during the day, I was trading on the floor of the Chicago Board of Trade and the Chicago Mercatome Exchange. Grown men, yelling, kicking, screaming, shoving, and spitting. It was fabulous. Sounds like blockchain today. So talking about the dynamics, obviously you've seen the evolution certainly of capital formation, capital deployment, efficiency, liquidity, all those things that are happening. How does that connect to that? How do you, what's your vision of today's market? Obviously lost $30 billion in value over the past 24 hours. As of today, we've taken a little bit of a haircut, significant haircut since you came on theCUBE. And you actually were first to predict around February. It was February time for you. You kind of called the market at that time. So props to that. Hope you're on the right side of those shorts. But what's going on? What is happening in the capital markets, liquidity? Why are the prices dropping? What's the shift to, what's your take? So just to recap, at the time in February, you said, look, I'm on short-term bear on Bitcoin, maybe other crypto, because all the money that's been made, the people who made it didn't think they had to pay taxes. And now they're realizing, and you were right on. You said up through sort of tax season, it's going to be soft and then it's going to come back. And it's exactly what happened. Now it's flipped again. So your thoughts? So my epiphany was, I woke up in the middle of the night and said, oh my God, I've been to this rodeo before. I was trading utility tokens 20 years ago when they were called something else, IRUs. Do you remember that term? No. IRU was the indefeasible right to use a strand of fiber. And as the internet started kicking off, people were crazy about laying bandwidth. Firms like Global Crossing were laying cable all over the ocean floors and they laid too much cable. And the cable became dark. The fiber became dark. And firms like Global Crossing, Enron, Enron went under really as a result of that misallocation. And so it occurred to me these utility tokens now are very similar in characteristic except to produce a utility token, you don't have to rent a boat and lay cable on the ocean floor in order to produce one of these utility tokens that everybody's buying. I mean, it takes literally minutes to produce a token.  It was like the peak of the internet which we were all involved in. It occurred to me then in January of 2000, the market was demanding internet shares and the market was really good at producing internet shares. Too many of them and it went down. So I think we're in a similar situation with cryptocurrency. The Wall Street did come in. There were a hundred plus hedge funds of all shapes and sizes, scrambling and buying crypto in the fall of last year. It's kind of like Napoleon's reason for attacking Russia. Seemed like a good idea at the time. And so we're now in a corrective phase, but literally there's been too many tokens. There are so many tokens that we as humans can't even deal with that. And what's the outlook for you?  What do you see as a bright light at the end of the tunnel or short right in front of you? What's happening from a market that you're excited about? At a macro scale, I think it's apparent that the internet deserves its own currency. Of course it does. And there will be an internet currency. The trick is, which currency shall that be? Bitcoin was a brilliant construct. The inventor of Bitcoin should get a Nobel Prize and I hope she does. Because Satoshi is female. Who knows that? I got that from you actually. But it may not be Bitcoin and that's why we have to be a little sanguine here. People got a little bit too optimistic. Bitcoin's going to a hundred grand. No, it's going to 500 grand. I mean, those are all red flags based on my experience of trading on the floor and investing in hedge funds. Bitcoin, I think, I'm disappointed in Bitcoin's adoption. You know, it's still very difficult to use Bitcoin and I was hoping by now that that would be a different scenario, but it really isn't. Very few people use Bitcoin in their daily lives. I do, I've been paying my son his allowance for years in Bitcoin.  Damn, so on terms of like the long game, you've seen the developers adopted Ethereum. That was classic, the decentralized applications. We're here at a cloud blockchain kind of convergence conference where developers matter on the cloud. Great developer stakeholders with Amazon cloud native. Certainly there's a lot of developers trying to make things easier, faster, smarter with crypto. But at the same time, it's also hard for developers.  So there's a race for developer adoption. This is a major factor in some of the success and price drops too. Your thoughts on the impact, has that changed anything? I mean, Ethereum's at its lowest. It's been all year. Well, that was fairly predictable. And I've talked about that in a number of talks I've given. There's only one thing that all of these ICOs have had in common. They're a long Ethereum. They own Ethereum. And many of those projects, even the few ICO projects that I've selectively been advising, I begged them to once they raised their money in Ethereum is to convert it into cash. I said, you're not in the Ethereum business. You're in whatever business that you're in. Many of them hoarded on to that stake, again caught up in the excitement about the potential price appreciation, but they lost track of what business they were really in. They were speculating in Ethereum. I said, they might as well have been in speculating in Apple stock. They could have done better than Ethereum. Much better. So too much supply.  And they're easy to make. That's the issue. Yeah. And you've got lots of people making them. When one of the first guys I met in this space was Vitalik Buterin. He was 18 at the time. And I remember meeting him. I thought, this is one of the smartest guys I've ever met. It was a really fun meeting. I remember when the meeting ended and I walked away, I was about 35 feet away and he linked in with me, which I thought was cute. That's awesome. Talk about what you're investing in. But now, there's probably 1,000 Vitalik Buterin's in the space. Many of them are at this conference. And lots of people have plans. Super smart, great ideas and boom, token. And they're producing new tokens. They're all better, improved. They're borrowing the best attributes of each, but we've got too many damn tokens. It's hard for us humans to be able to keep track of that. It's almost like requiring a complicated new browser download for every website you went to. We just can't do that. Yeah. Is the analog, you mentioned the dot com days you referred to that earlier. There was quality. And the quality lasted, sustained. The Amazons, the eBay's, the PayPal's, et cetera. Are there analogs in this market, in your view? Can you sniff out the sort of quality? There are definitely analogs, I think. But I think one of the greatest metrics that we can look at is, is that utility token being utilized? Not many of them are being utilized. I was giving a talk last month, 350 people in the audience. And I said, show of hands, how many people have used a utility token this year? One hand went up. I go, Ethereum? Ethereum. Will we be using utility tokens in the future? Of course we will, but it's going to have to get a whole lot easier for us humans to be able to deal with them and understand them and not lose them. That's the big issue. This is just as much a cybersecurity play as it is a digital currency play. People elaborate on that thought. Why? Is it cybersecurity playing? I've had an extensive background in cybersecurity. As an investor, my mantra since 9-11 has been to invest and catalyze companies that impact the security of the homeland. A wide variety of security plays, but primarily cybersecurity. It occurred to me that the most valuable data in the world used to be in the Pentagon. That's no longer the case. Two reasons basically. One, the data's already been stolen. Not funny. Two, if you steal the plants for the next generation, F-39 Joint Strike Force Fighter, good for you. There's only two buyers. The most valuable data in the world today, as we sit here, is a Bitcoin private key. And they're coming for them. Prominent Bitcoin holders are being hunted, kidnapped, extorted. I mean, it's a rather extraordinary thing. So the cybersecurity aspect, if all of our assets are going to be digitized, you better damn well keep those keys secure. And so that's why I've been focused on the cybersecurity aspect. Rivets, one of the ICOs that I invested in, is developing software that turns on the power of the hardware, TPM, trusted execution environment that's already on your phone. It's a place to hold keys in hardware. So that becomes fundamentally important in holding your keys. I mean, certainly we've heard stories about kidnapping, that private key. I mean, still, how do you protect that? That's a good question. That's a really interesting question. Is it a consensus? Do you have multiple people involved? You've been beaten up until you hand over your private key. It's been happening. It's been happening. What about the security token versus utility tokens? We've got a lot of tokens now. So there's too many tokens on the utility side. But now there's a surge towards security tokens. And Greg Bedinger wrote this morning that the market has changed over and the investor side is looking more and more like traditional structures and companies raising money. So security token has been a, I think relief for some people in the U.S. for sure around investing in structures they understand. Is that a real dynamic or is that going to sustain itself? How do you see security tokens? And we heard in the panel this morning, you were in there where they were predicting the future of the valuation of security tokens by the end of the year, doubling, tripling, whatever it was. What are your thoughts? I think security tokens are going to be the next big thing. They have so many advantages to what we now regard as share certificates. My most exciting project that I'm heavily involved in is a project called the Entanglement Institute that's going to, in the process of issuing security infrastructure tokens. So our idea is a public private partnership with the U.S. government to build the first mega quantum computing center in Newport, Rhode Island. Now the private part of the public private partnership by the issuance of tokens, you have tremendous advantages to the way securities are issued now. Transparency, liquidity, infrastructure investments are not very liquid. And if they were made more liquid, more people would buy them. It occurred to me, it would have been a really good idea if grandpa would have invested in the Hoover Dam. Didn't have the chance. We think that there's a substantial demand of U.S. citizens that would love to invest in our own country and would do so if it were more liquid, if it was more transparent, if the costs were less of issuing those tokens. More efficient, yeah. So when you see that as a potential way to fund public infrastructure build-outs. It will be how public infrastructure is financed in the future. How do you see the structure on the security token? It comes up all the time. There's different answers to this. I'm not only saying there's one, we've seen multiple, but I'm putting a security token on my, what am I securing against? Cash flow, equity, right to convert to utility tokens. So we're starting to see a variety of mechanisms because you have to give the investor a security outcome. Minister, what do you look for? Well, I think it's almost limitless of what these smart securities can be capable of. For example, one of the things that we're talking with various parts of the government is thinking about the tax credit that have been talked about at the Trump administration. That could be really changed on its head if you were able to use smart securities, if you will. Who says that the tax credit for a certain project has to be the same as all other projects? The president has promised a $1.5 trillion infrastructure investment program, and so far, he's only $1.5 trillion away from the goal that hasn't started yet. Wilbur Ross, when, in the transition team, I had seen the white paper that he had written, was suggesting an 82% tax credit for infrastructure investment. I'm going, 82%, oh my God, I've never, it's an unfathomable number. If it were 82%, it would be the strongest fiscal stimulus of your lifetime, and it's a crazy number, it's too big. Then I started thinking about it. Maybe an 82% tax credit is warranted for a critical infrastructure as important as quantum computing or- Cyber security. Cyber security, exact, very good point. And maybe the tax credit is 15% for another bridge over the Mississippi River. We already got those. So a smart infrastructure token would allow the Larry Kudlow to turn the dial and allow economic incentive to differ based on the importance of the project. The value of the project, yeah. That's a big idea. That's what we're working on. That is a big idea. That is a smart contract, smart securities that have allocations and efficiencies and incentives that aren't perverse or generic. It aligns with the value of the society needs, right? Talk about quantum computing more. The potential, why quantum? What attracted you to quantum? What do you see as the future of quantum computing? You know, you don't have to own very much Bitcoin before what wakes you up in the middle of the night is quantum computing. It's a hundred million times faster than computing as we know today. The reason that I'm involved in this project, I believe it's a matter of national security that we form a national initiative to gain quantum supremacy, or I call it data supremacy. And right now, we're lagging. The Chinese have focused on this acutely and are actually ahead, I believe, of the United States. It's going to take a national initiative. It's going to take a Manhattan project. And that's really what Entanglement Institute is, is a current day Manhattan project partnering with government and three-letter agencies, private industry, we have to hunt as a pack. And focus on this, or we're going to be left behind. And that's where that's based out of. Newport, Rhode Island. And soon get some DC presence in there, too? Yes, lots of DC pressure. This is being called Quantum Summer in Washington DC. Many are crediting the Entanglement Institute for that because they've been up and down the halls of Congress and DOD and other. We'll have to introduce you to Bob Pitchiano, Cube alumni who heads up quantum computing for IBM. Would be a great connection. They do a ton of work there, great chips to building. Open that up. Bradley, thanks for coming on and sharing your perspective. Always great to see you, impeccable vision. You got a great vision. I love the big idea, smart securities is coming. That is, I think, very clear. Thank you for sharing. Thank you. This is Cube coverage here, live at Toronto. The Cube, I'm John Furrier. Dave Vellante, more live coverage. Day one of three days of wall-to-wall coverage of the Blockchain Futurist Conference. This is the first Global Cloud Blockchain Summit here kicking off the whole week. Stay with us for more after this short break.


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I'm a World Series champ two-time NL side young award winner World Series MVP four times slugger silver slugger award winner five time and I'll win Slater Retired my number by my team part of that team's Hall of Fame and was inducted into the Hall of Fame in 2014 with a ninety one point nine percent first about first ballot voting another interesting fact about me is I was drafted by my Kings in the NHL before Luke Robatite who was a Hall of Famer as well and The highest scoring left-winger in NHL history. I'm sure that team will pretty much beat that soon But was drafted before Luke Robatite and a head of Brett Hall. So who am I? I'm not I'm not Greg Maddox. You're thinking of the right player right team at least I Played for the Braves the Mets and came back to the Braves my last year There you go. Jeff got it. Yes. 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All right, welcome everyone. And the subject of our talk is support for Postgres protocol in Envoy proxy. Next slide, please. So my name is Krzysztof Pakulski. I'm software engineer at Tetrate. And I also contribute to Envoy project. Hello, everyone. I'm Fabrizo de Wajsmielu. I'm a Postgres research and developer for Congress Company. The Congress Company means on top of Postgres. I'm also a Postgres contributor for a long time. And this is my first contribution to Envoy project. So let's start with Envoy proxy. This presentation will have several parts. So in the first part, we will look towards Postgres protocol from Envoy point of view. So this is a simple connection model. At the go, it's connecting a client to the farm of servers. So on the left side, we have a typical client that is the application. And it really wants to connect to databases. And Postgres really requires a TCP connection between the client and the server. And that's what Envoy does. If you look at this picture, it's a really simple configuration. It's just a TCP proxy. And it provides the connectivity between the client and the server. So we can use extensive back-end features, which are provided by Envoy. So we can do load balancing on the back end. We can do health tracking. We can detect that one of the nodes is behaving in a really weird way. This is something we call outlier detector. And it works. So clients, we achieved what we wanted. We wanted to connect client and the server. You can also get some statistics. But on a very gross level, so you will only see that the client connected to a database. And that's all. You won't be able to see what was going inside of that session. So TCP stats will tell you how many TCP were open, TCP sessions were open, how many bytes were exchanged. There's also an access log which will tell you that pretty much describe similar things. So you know that the client talked to a database, but you don't really know what was talking about. So in order to know what was going on inside of the session, you need one extra component in this picture. And this is a Postgres filter. One thing you have to mention right now that in order to achieve all these things, we're talking about Postgres filter needs access to a clear text protocol. So it cannot be encrypted. We'll talk about later on what we do when it's encrypted. But when I talk about this, assume that it has a clear text. So from the connectivity point of view, it's really nothing different. So client can still connect using TCP to the server. And we still use the extensive features of Envoy on the backend. So we can still use load balancing, outlier detector, health checking. But now all of a sudden, Envoy can tell us more about what's going on inside of the TCP session. And this happens by introducing that extra filter, which is able to read the packet just before sending either to a data to the backend or either send back to the client. So now, it's not only that there is a TCP session which extends between the client and the server, but we can also look inside what kind of messages are exchanged between the client and the server. So you're able to see how many selects there were, how many updates and search errors. So it's not as a one long-lived TCP session, but Postgres filter will know what was going on inside. So one thing I have to mention here that the sequence of Postgres filter and TCP proxy filter is established every time client establishes a connection to a server. So like I said, it's a long-lived. And when it ends, that two filters are destroyed. That would be next slide, please. OK, so let's see what's going on inside. So on the TCP level and the data delivery, the TCP windowing mechanism and also buffering on the network are literally completely not aware that their Postgres messages pass on top of these. So a filter receives just chance of data. And it has to make sense of this. So before the filter can start processing it, it needs to reassemble entire Postgres message. And when it receives the data, which is sent by the client or the server, it has to see whether the data contains one full message. If it contains, that's all good. We can immediately start processing. But in the other situation that can happen is that the received data does not contain a message. So it has to wait until the next data arrives in order to reassemble entire message. And that requires some buffering between the fragments as they arrive either from client or either from the server on the opposite direction. So next slide, please. So here is a filter has a state. So it always starts in the initial state. And it stays in the state as long as the coder so-called likes the messages. So I'm saying like. So it's able to find the boundary when the one message ends and when the next starts. And it can kind of make sense what's passing between client and the server. And as long as the coder likes, we stay in the in sync state. There are two states. There are two situations when the coder can leave that state. So the first one state is normal state. I'm saying there's no error. And it's going to encrypted state. And it happens when client and the server negotiate that encrypted session. And basically, it's encrypted. And filters say, hey, that's nothing I can do. And it's just basically starts passing this without looking inside, without doing any deep inspection. So the other situation when the filter can leave in sync state is when something unusual happens. So either there was a corruption. And the coder says, you know, I don't really know what's going on here. And say, you know, I better start ignoring those messages. The other situation is when it can happen is that when administrator configures everything for Postgres, so there will be a Postgres filter, TCP filter configures everything, but starts passing the traffic, which is not really Postgres. And the biggest danger here is that the filter really looks inside of the Postgres message header. There is a four byte fields, which indicates the length of the message. And as I said before, a filter can start acting upon that message. And it has to keep it in a memory. If this is corrupted and tells you some outrageously large number, filter may try to allocate that much memory and can run out of memory. And the process will be killed. So by indicating and introducing out of sync state, we're trying to prevent that situation. Next slide, please, Fabrizio. So in addition to the producing statistics, the Postgres filter can produce a metadata. So let's try to explain here what the metadata is. So this is a SQL database. So there is an SQL query passing in the messages could be quite complex. And the really only database in SQL parser really understands this. So metadata is the way of describing the quite complex SQL query using just a few labels. And those labels might be whether this SQL query is read operation, write operation, on which database, on which table, just using three or four labels to be able to describe it in a concise way what this operation is about. And that metadata is attached to a request and it travels with data as it passes different filters. So if we put another filter like RBAC, we can program RBAC to reject or stop certain operations from being sent. So you may program it would be a good simple example, you can program it that it only routes reads operation on a specific table and stop all the right operations right at this moment. So you can have the program access controller right at the network level, even before it reaches a database. There probably might be other examples of using metadata that this one is simple enough to understand. So that would be it from invoice point of view. Thank you. So thank you Christopher. Now let's talk a little bit about Postgres SQL. Here, the idea is not to talk about a lot of great features but give you a clear picture of current stats of development side of Postgres, you know? So Postgres has more than 30 years of development. It's fully open source since the beginning and we have a Postgres license as a specific license based on BSD license. It's totally driven by community, I mean driven by Postgres SQL global development growth. There are no single company driven the development. Nowadays we have 29 core committers working for different companies and nowadays we have a thousand of peoples around the world testing and reporting issues all the day. And this, and here is the result of so many years of mature development. If you see in this picture, there are a lot of great use cases. Apple, Skype, Instagram, Twitch, Spotify, IMDB and there are a lot of missing, other great missing use cases in these images like Liftee, TripAdvisor, Meijing, GitLab, Atlasian and a lot of government different scales use Postgres today, you know? So it's a great, great open source database. We often call the most advanced open source database in the world on the Postgres community side. So let's talk more now about what we did here for Envoy Network Future for Envoy. Let's start talking about the protocol versions. Today, the Postgres wide format, it's a very stable and mature protocol without major changes since 23, lasted 17 years without any major change. So since the 7.4 version, it's the same version of the protocol and the server still supports the protocol, the first version of the protocol, you know? So there are a lot of other derived projects, derived Postgres projects that can benefit of this Envoy Network Future. I can say HeadShift from Amazon was built on top of Postgres many years ago, Aurora, RDS, Yuga ByteDB, KokoroDB, Greenplan and there are a lot of projects out there that implement the Postgres wide format so you can benefit for this Envoy Network Future. So about the protocol, there are a name called Phoebe Frame Format. Phoebe is a common term in Postgres world. That means front-end and back-end. It's same like a client and server or upstream and downstream, you know? And basically we have two types of packages that traffic between the client and the server.  And the startup package, there are three fields. The first field is the length of the message. The second field is the protocol version and there are a payload with other needed information with parameters for start the connection. And the headguard package, we have a first field is a tag, which is one byte, one character, the length of the message and the payload with the necessary data about the message. And there are a special startup package called SSL Negotiation. That is the same as startup package, but the difference is when we start SSL Negotiation, we send to server a dummy protocol version. So Postgres start the SSL Negotiation using this special startup package has, we will see more in the next slides. So here we can see the message for a new connection. On the left side is for an encrypted connection and the right side is for encrypted connection. So here we send the startup package, server response without a request, it's okay. And optionally you can send a password and server response with a lot of parameter status, backend key data and finish it really for query that send the say to client, hey client, I'm waiting for you and you can send the next comment, a query, a parse message, independent of simple or extended protocol. And the difference when we start a encrypted connection is because we send a SSL Negotiation, it's a dummy startup package and the server will response yes or no if a server is able to start a TLS, if you have, if you have enough configuration, certificates and whatever. And if the response is S, we will start the SSL Handshake and after that the message flow will be the same as an encrypted connection. And here it's other other parts of the protocol when we negotiate with the server to for example run a simple query, okay. In Postgres, why protocol? Basically there are two different ways to interact with the server. There are simple protocol and extended protocol that was introduced in version 3.0 70 years ago, okay. Here, I will just explain the simple protocol because the idea will be the same for extended. The only difference is on extended, we process the parse message and in simple we process the query message. As you can see here, the client send a query message to the server and the server get this message with SQL statement side and do all the processing, I mean the parser, here write query, planning and execute and then start to response to the client. And the first response will be the row description that contains all information about the dataset. I mean the name of the fields, the length of the fields, data type, type a line in a lot for metadata about the results set. And after that start streaming all roles fetched by query, you know. And at the end of streaming data, the server response send back to the client by special message called common complete. And the common complete, all in the code, the postal network filter, the decoding part of the postal network filter, it's around of this common complete. Of course, there are a lot of different parts there to filter and whatever, but here is the trick to the code, the wire protocol because at the end of the execution of some SQL statement, Postgres response, the back end of the server response back to the client with a tag about what happens in the query.  And here you can see from Postgres source code there are a long common tag list there with all common tags, okay? Oh, so let's start with the demonstration part of the presentation. And we will expect some results like this. We are able to create some dashboards in Grafana to get the metrics and as you have several graphs, interesting graphics without touch to the Postgres. I mean, zero configuration on Postgres site. Just by decoding the wire format, we can expose those metrics on the voice side. It will create, we will not create a lot of overhead on Postgres side because it's another way to get this information running some queries to against the Postgres server. Requirements is very simple for this demonstration. Just get Docker and Docker compose. You know, the architecture is very simple. There are five containers here and there are a special container that generates some traffic. I mean, create some dummy workload that we are using here, some housemade descripts and the PG bench. It's a tool, a Postgres tool for benchmark. And those, this traffic is sent to Envoy and Envoy send to another container with Postgres and Prometheus to grab, to scratch the metrics from Envoy and Grafana to collect the two exposed metrics to create some dashboards. So now I have all five containers. The most important container in this case is Envoy, for sure, here we are in debugging, debugging mode. And here you can see some interesting information. For example, here, here we have a front end messaging. Query send a simple query to the backend. I mean this SQL statement and the backend response with whole description. And after that, several data holes sending back the data to the client. No, and here there are a lot of, and another important thing is common, complete. Here, this is the tricky that we did for exposed metrics, drilling down, select a different kind of statement, drilling down for a different kind of statement because the Postgres response at the end of the, the data row is streaming this tag for the command. And here, what we are doing on the Envoy side is increase a specific metric about select statement when the command completes, arrive, pass through the network filter, you know. Ah, the other important thing is here, here we have a script to generate some traffic. It's very, very simple. We do a lot of random to run some benchmarks and run within different protocols, you know, a simple, extended, prepared. So we can generate a lot of different traffic in this small demonstration to generate some graph. Here is our Graphana running and we have a special dashboard with all graphs about the traffic, TPS transactions per seconds, hidden and righties, different types of statements, front-end and back-end messages and the number of sessions per second. So let's talk about it, what we plan for the future. So we want to do a few things and some of them are already under active developments. The first one is a necessary termination and we said that in order to produce all those statistics we need an access to clear text packet.  So we want to terminate as a right at the envoy level. So traffic between the client and it's gonna be encrypt and then an envoy can actually look what's inside of the packet. So it's under active development. We also want to have a better rescuer parsing. The current parsing we use it's not sufficient in all cases, so we want to switch to a better one. Like I said before, Infabrizio was demonstrating here we can provide all different statistics in an aggregated way but they are also a requirement that if some clients are using one database and the other clients are using the other but they share network, we want to basically provide those statistics per database. So when we talk to promiscues and we extract data, we just want to somehow divide it and say that's for database A, that's for database B. And we also want to maybe introduce a routing based on query and that's I said when I was talking about the metadata that metadata can be used later on during the processing. Maybe you want to route some queries to a certain host because it's a ride operation and maybe to a different host because it's a read operation. So what's going on in a community? So there is a dedicated Envoy Slack. There is a bunch of channels for development users and there is one very specific dedicated to Envoy, sorry, to Postgres development. So there is a hash here and all the issues which are raised by users or by developers, they labeled as a Postgres issue and here is a link how you can find them in Envoy project. So I guess that would be all. Thank you on my side. Thank you everyone. Bye-bye. Bye-bye. Hello everyone. No, there's absolutely no question. So I guess we everything's super clear or everybody is super familiar with it, right? Yeah, but there are one question there. Is there any plan way to use this to support connection pooling? Yeah, that would be on the back end. There would be something similar to PG pool, I guess. Yeah. PG Bouncer. To replace PG Bouncer. PG Bouncer is more specific to Postgres pooling because on PG Bouncer we have different pooling modes. I mean, we have a session pooling, the full pooling mode that was shipped by the pool. And when you leave your session, you can use the session for another session but is driven by sessions. But we have two more specific pooling modes and more aggressive pooling modes. We have a transaction mode. I mean, when transaction finish, the connection is returned back to the pool and we can create a really funial between a lot of connections using just one session. We didn't plan to do nothing about that on the invoice side yet. I don't know if it's possible. Maybe yes, I don't know Chris, you are the guy, you are the invoice guy. No. Okay, so to answer specifically the question whether there is any plan. So actually, no, it's not in the plan. It popped up a few times but we didn't make any concrete decision. And, but anyway, maintain some open session on the back end so maybe we can leverage that. Definitely, we have to look at very technicalities, how we can leverage things which already exist. Yeah, so there is a question about the CockroachDB. So all the databases which support wire protocol which is compatible with Postgres, you can benefit from this filter. So Fabrizio mentioned a long list of that. I think Cockroach was one of those. You got by it would be another one, yeah. Yeah, exactly. Even Redshift, we work, Redshift was built on top of Postgres eight version. So at that time, we already have the current protocol version. Is this... No, no, it's purely C++. There is a directory, so if you go into the source code of Envo, you will see different extensions and network filters and you will find the Postgres filter over there.  I think Redis will be so, it's easy to find. Yeah. Yeah. Did you just share the link? Yeah. Thank you. All right. So, all right. Great. Thank you very much for listening to our presentation. Yeah. Thank you guys. Thank you. Bye-bye. Bye-bye.