Kiddos and Kiddes, Babes and Bebets. Welcome to Professor Vaknin's horror show. Have you seen the latest video where I conduct mind-warping experiments on a subspecies of humans known as students? It was put together by the inimitable Dorcas, Dorcas, D-O-R-C-A-S. She has her own Instagram channel and it's called T-Zing Kafka. And she creates compilations, mine and others. Highly recommended.  I call it Jordan Vaknin and Sam Peterson.  Today, I'm going to discuss a topic that for a change is going to provoke you to fury an uncontrollable rage.  Yes, this is today's topic and that is what it is going to do to you, inevitably. I'm going to discuss, are you envious of the narcissist? Are you scared to see yourself in the narcissist? Is the narcissist actually a part of you? Your dark side. When you want to grow up, would you like to be the narcissist? Hated narcissist, scared to see yourself in him, envy him. He is your shadow, dark side. That's the title of today's video. Stay with me and let me provoke you to the point of temporary insanity. Ask yourself this question. Why all the celebrities, all leaders, all heroes are at best narcissistic and usually full-fledged narcissists? If you hate narcissists so much, why do you elevate them? Why do you make them pillars of the community? Why do you follow them? Why do you love them? Yes, many of the public intellectuals online, coaches, experts and so on, they're narcissists if you didn't realize. Some of them are covert narcissists, but some of them are very, very overt narcissists and you love them. You love to listen to them.  Why do you do that? Why do you follow leaders who are manifestly, openly brag about being narcissistic? How come?  Question to Ponder, isn't it? Before we go in there, I would like to torture you with my latest poem, short, I promise. Those of you who survive after the poem can proceed to the video. In the video, I'm going to introduce you to four concepts from psychology. The first one is the shadow or the dark self or complexes. It's a Jungian concept. It comes from Jung. The second concept is reaction formation.  First described by, of course, ineluctably, Sigmund Freud. Sigmund Freud also described the next topic in this video was the first to analyze it and that's projection or in German, Projektion Ja. And we're going to discuss projection and introduction. And finally, we're going to discuss yet another Freudian concept, the narcissism of small differences. There's no way, no way to escape from Freud. There's no way to avoid him. He's all over the place, he's in every nook and cranny peering behind every corner. If you're a psychologist, even if you hate Freud and detest psychoanalysis as a form of literary art pretending to be a science.  You still have to use his thinking. He is the father, his genes are in each and every psychologist who had ever lived in many of them who are already dead and in many of them who are yet to be born. And yes, it does remind me of some. Now, today's poem, my apologies and condolences in advance but you, this is the price you have to pay, my poetry. By the way, award-winning poetry. And this is what I wrote yesterday. The narcissist is an absence, a howling wind in the vacant corridors of his tortured mind. He is the echoing cry of a wounded, sepia child faded into a bleeding emptiness. He is a void, mirror upon mirror reflects the nothingness where a person should have been. Into his carnival attraction, you are solicited to fill the bottomless pit of him. Around a million times you beckon and seduce to join his vanishing act and to not be. So this was the poem. Some of you found it touching on Instagram. I hope some of you would like it in my rendition here. And without further ado, let's dive into the question of are you envious of narcissists? Do you actually want to become narcissists or even much worse?  Is the narcissist merely an expression of your own dark side, your own shadow? Now, the concepts of shadow, dark side, complexes, failed narcissism, failed introversion, all these concepts actually come from Siege Jung. Siege Jung was a student of Sigmund Freud for quite a long time. As opposed to Freud, he was a psychologist. Freud was a neurologist. And he had adopted Freud as a father figure. Inevitably, they had a fallout. He rebelled against his father figure. He was contumacious. He hated authority figures. And he was quite a bit of an adolescent. A narcissist, of course. Jung went also through a period of at least five years of psychotic disorder. He was a psychotic, a little like Joker in the movie.  And it's a very, very amazing, amazing uber, amazing opera of insights into human nature. Later in life, he again deteriorated into the occult, UFOs, witchcraft, the task. And he joined luminaries, other luminaries in history such as Arthur Conan Doyle in investigating spiritualism. He coined many invented concepts which I find ludicrous and rank nonsensical, such as the collective unconscious. That's besides the point. Today we want to discuss his insights into what he called the shadow. And I want to encourage you to watch a video I have placed in this channel. How Jung viewed narcissism. Jung's view of narcissism is diametrically opposed to Freud's view of narcissism. Freud considered adult narcissism or secondary narcissism as a pathology, as a failure in the process of growing up and being able to relate to people. Jung regarded narcissism as a crucial element in introversion and the creation of the self. Jung also made a distinction between self and ego which Freud didn't. So I encourage you to watch that video about the differences in the perception of narcissism between the two grandfathers of psychology, Jung and Freud. But again, let us delve into the issue of shadow because here's the question. If each and every one of you has a shadow, if each and every one of you has a dark side that you had repressed, that you deny, that you are ashamed of, that you feel guilty about, then each and every one of you is not different to the narcissist in any meaningful way. Perhaps this is exactly why you hate the narcissist. You resent the narcissist. You want to punish the narcissist. You want the narcissist dead.  So the famous, although controversial psychoanalyst Jung wrote the following. Now, everything I'm quoting in this video is from his collected works edited by Adler, Fordham and Reid. It's 21 volumes. I'm warning you. It was published by Princeton University Press over 23 years, between 1960 a year before I was born in 1983. So here's the first quote from his collected works, Jung. Complexes are psychic fragments which have split off owing to traumatic influences or certain incompatible tendencies. As the association experiments prove, complexes interfere with the intentions of the will. They disturb the conscious performance. They produce disturbances of memory and blockages in the flow of associations. They appear and disappear according to their own laws. They can temporarily obsess consciousness or influence speech and action in an unconscious way. In a word, complexes behave like independent beings, a fact especially evident in abnormal states of mind. In the voices heard by the insane, they even take on a personal ego character like that of the spirits who manifest themselves through automatic writing and similar techniques. And this quote is borrowed from the, is taken from the structure and dynamics of the psyche, monument. He then proceeds to write. I use the term individuation to denote the process by which a person becomes a psychological individual that is a separate, indivisible unity or whole. And this quote is taken from the archetypes and the collective unconscious. He elaborates on individuation. And as you will see, individuation is critical to the issue of the dark side. Individuation means becoming a single, homogenous being. And insofar as individuality embraces our innermost, lost and incomparable uniqueness. It also implies becoming one's own self. We could therefore translate individuation as coming to selfhood or self-realization. This quote is taken from two essays on analytical psychology. Another quote, but again and again says Jung, again and again I note that the individuation process is confused with the coming of the ego into consciousness and that the ego is in consequence identified with a self which naturally produces a hopeless conceptual model. I fully agree with him by the way. Jung continues. Individuation is then nothing but ego-centeredness and autoeroticism. But the self comprises infinitely more than a mere ego. It is as much oneself and all other selves as the ego.  Individuation gathers the world into oneself, the structure and dynamic of the psyche. So to Jung, the self is an archetype, the archetype. It is the archetype of order borrowing from Jordan Peterson. It's the archetype of order as manifested in the totality of the personality and as symbolized by a circle, a square or the famous quaternity. Stay with me. I know it's complicated. I know it's highly academic, but it's leading somewhere. It's leading to an insight, a discovery about yourself. Sometimes, so stay with me and follow what Jung, follow Jung's argument because he leads to the darkest corners of your soul. Sometimes Jung uses other symbols instead of the self. He uses the child. He used the mandala, et cetera. In two essays on analytical psychology, he says the self is a quantity that is superordinate to the conscious ego. It embraces not only the conscious, but also the unconscious psyche. It is therefore, so to speak, a personality, which we also are. There is little hope of our ever being to reach even approximate consciousness of the self. Listen to what he's saying. It's shocking. There is little hope, there's no hope of our ever being able to reach even approximate consciousness of the self. We are not conscious of ourselves. Since however much we may make conscious, there will always exist an indeterminate and indeterminable amount of unconscious material which belongs to the totality of the self. And today, having measured data input, we know how many bits we process per second. We now were able to measure input of data into the brain via bits of information. And today we know the exact number. 95% is in the unconscious. Only 5% is in the conscious. Jung intuited it. He said, the self is not only the center, but also the whole circumference which embraces both conscious and unconscious. The self is the center of this totality just as the ego is the center of consciousness. And this is in the essay Psychology and Alchemy. He proceeds to saying two essays on analytical psychology. The self is our life's goal for it is the completest expression of that fateful combination that we call individuality. So let's see. Jung postulated the existence of two personalities, actually two selves. One of them being the shadow. Technically, the shadow is a part, though it is an inferior part, of the overarching personality, one's chosen conscious attitude. How does the shadow develop? Why do we have a shadow? And what's the connection between shadow and narcissism? And if we have a shadow inside us and a narcissist outside us, who is communicating with the narcissist? Is it our ego? Egos, ourselves? Who is communicating with your narcissist? Your ego, yourself? Or is it perhaps your shadow that is communicating with the narcissist? Maybe that's what the narcissist does to you. He brings up your shadow. He reveals your dark side. He provokes you to become a penumbra. He makes you different. The narcissist has the ability to tap into that part of your unconscious that is forbidden. He walks brazenly into your forbidden city and exposes all the deities and the divinities that rule your mind. It is the narcissist who unlocks you. Who unlocks the Pandora box that is you. And once the Pandora's box is unlocked, all your demons come out. This is your interaction with the narcissist. The shadow develops this way. Inevitably, some personal and collective psychic elements are found wanting, inadequate or incompatible with one's personality, one's narrative. And the expression of these personal and collective psychic elements which are uncomfortable, rejected, not working, dysfunctional. The expression of these elements is suppressed and they coalesce into an almost autonomous splinter personality. Jung actually was the first to suggest not in so many words that all of us via dissociation of the shadow become multiple personalities. And this second personality is contrarian. It negates the official chosen personality though it is totally relegated to the unconscious. Jung believes therefore in a system of checks and balances. The shadow balances the ego. The ego is the consciousness. The shadow is the unconscious. You put together conscious and unconscious, you get the self. This is not necessarily negative. The behavioral and attitudinal compensation offered by the shadow can and often are, is positive. Jung says, the shadow personifies everything that the subject refuses to acknowledge about himself. And yet, the shadow is always thrusting itself upon the person, directly or indirectly, for instance. And he gives an example, inferior traits of character and other incompatible tendencies. This is the shadow.  You repress it, but you can't repress it. It's like an insurrection. It's like an insurgency. It's like a rebel movement, a freedom movement. It's a terrorist organization. It's all the time in operation. And he wrote this in the archetypes and the collective unconscious. The shadow is that hidden, repressed for the most part inferior in guilt-laden personality whose ultimate ramifications reach back into the realm of our animal ancestors and so comprise the wholly historical aspect of the unconscious. If it has been believed either to that the human shadow was the source of all evil, it can now be ascertained on closer investigation that the unconscious man, that is, his shadow, does not consist only of morally reprehensible tendencies but also displays a number of good qualities such as normal instincts, appropriate reactions, realistic insights, creative impulses. It would seem fair to conclude that there is a close affinity between the complexes which are split of materials and the shadow, perhaps the complexes which are also the result of incompatibility with the conscious personality. Perhaps they are a negative part of the shadow. Perhaps they reside in the shadow, closely collaborate with the shadow in a kind of feedback mechanism. Perhaps whenever the shadow manifests itself in a manner obstructive, destructive or destructive to the ego, we call it complex. Complexes may really be one and the same, the result of a massive split-off of material and its relegation to the realm of the unconscious. This is the duality of the narcissists. The narcissist is not all negative. Narcissists exactly as Jung suggests, narcissists reify instincts, drives and urges. They sometimes act upon them and gain our admiration. We ascribe to narcissists, we attribute to narcissists, bravery, courage, defiance, go-getters, ambition. As Jung suggests, the shadow contains also realistic insights that's called empathy, the narcissists ability to scan you, to spot your vulnerabilities and creative impulses. Many narcissists are highly creative. Narcissists, I think narcissism is a condition where the shadow did not become unconscious, but somehow intruded unconscious. The firewall, the partition, the separation between conscious and unconscious in the narcissist has collapsed under constant stress and strain of trauma and childhood abuse. And so the conscious and the unconscious mix together in a melange, in a salad, in a primordial soup of urges and drives and wishes and impulses. And so the narcissist experiences shadow exactly as in the opening poem. The narcissist experiences shadow and therefore denies himself because shadow goes with denial. Shadow is about denial. But if you experience a shadow, you experience your own self-denial. You feel non-existent. You feel empty. So whenever there's a person whose conscious is mixed with his unconscious so that parts of his unconscious, the shadow, the complexes become actually conscious, that's a rarity that happens very rarely and we call these people narcissists. But even so, we recognize ourselves in them. There's a distant echo, a kind of resonance, the guns of August. There is this thundering far away. We hear our voice in the maelstrom of the narcissist existence. We suddenly see our face appearing and disappearing for a split second, for a splitting micro and a flitting microsecond, but we are there. And it is this self-reflection that draws us to the narcissist inexorably we are drawn actually to our own shadow. The narcissist is our way to vicariously, by proxy as it were, experience the risky and dangerous, disavowed, repressed, hated, disgraced part of our self, which each and every one of us has. The narcissist allows us to experience ourselves fully as we have never done before. And in this sense, the narcissist affords you a kind of therapy. All therapy is painful. All therapy is agonizing. So you could say that therapy is abusive. Therapy leverages techniques which are also used in abuse. Narcissistic abuse and most modalities, most treatment modalities, most psychotherapies are indistinguishable from narcissistic abuse. If I were to observe a psychotherapy session well done when the therapist knows what he or she is doing, rare, unfortunately, but if I were to observe such a session, I wouldn't know if this is therapy or an abusive exchange. This is what the narcissist does. It dredges up buried materials, pet cemetery.   And that's the sense of horror that you have. And also the sense of inexorable attraction. How do we react to a horror movie? We can't stop watching it. It's horrifying. We want to throw up. We want to avert our eyes, but we can't. Why can't we? Because it's about us. It's about a part of us that is black and dark and hidden and repressed. The narcissist produces and directs a horror movie in which we are the protagonist. And this leads me to defense mechanism because of course we would tend to defend against this. We would tend to react in a way that will preserve our conscious, separate it from the unconscious and not allow intrusion. And this is one of the roles of defense mechanisms. The second role is to reframe and interpret reality. Two defense mechanisms that I would like to discuss are reaction formation and projection. And both of them indicate that we hate the narcissist. We anger the narcissist. We want to destroy the narcissist because the narcissist is uncomfortably like us. It is not the narcissist that we hate. It's the part of us that is identical to the narcissist. It is not the narcissist that we want to destroy. It's that unconscious realm, that kingdom inside our heads, inside our minds that resembles the narcissist too uncomfortably. And this is called reaction formation. You remember the line from Hamlet by William Shakespeare? Not a Jew, by the way. The line from Hamlet. The lady doth protest too much, me thinks. Queen Gertrude, when there is a character in the play, there's a play within the play. Hamlet is as usual an amazing work of art. And Prince Hamlet creates a play within the play and there's a character there. And that character is overacting, overdoing it, exaggerating. And it appears immediately to be fake and insincere. And Queen, because Hamlet is trying to prove his uncle's guilt in the murder of his father, the king of Denmark. Never mind. So Queen Gertrude looks at this character in the play and says, the lady doth protest too much, me thinks. You protest too much, you have something to hide. Reaction formation is exactly this. When your consciousness is fixated, stuck, like full gas in neutral, you're stuck. On an idea, affect, emotion, desire. But these are opposite to your unconscious impulse. So consciously, openly, you communicate one idea, one belief, one effect, one emotion, one desire, one wish, one cause, one drive, one plan. But really, in your unconscious, you hold exactly the opposite views and beliefs and tendencies and proclivities and inclinations.  And she feels guilty that she hates the child that is about to come. She feels guilty. So because she feels guilty, she becomes overprotective. She becomes solicitous. She becomes, she pampers the child. She smothers the child. She spoils the child. She feels guilty. Really, deep inside, she can't stand the child.  And so she will try to compensate for it. And consciously, if you ask her, do you love, do you love your child? Wow. I adored this child. I never thought I could love a child that much.  And so you turn into the opposite. For example, if you are really, really into money, you are greedy, you are avaricious. You will act charitably and generously and altruistically.  Overt behavior, open behavior, ostentatious behavior, conspicuous behavior, opposite. You give away your money.  You will attack homosexuals. You will deride them, you will decry them.  You will be Oliver. You will be, you will be, you know, in most extreme cases you may kill. You may assassinate homosexuals. It has happened.  You find your latent homosexuality threatening, reprehensible, alien.   No way. The basic conflict between drives and control processes, this is what creates reaction formation.  So reaction formation is adopting a position. I'm quoting from my, from a dictionary of mental health that I offered a few years ago. Adopting a position and mode of conduct that defy personally unacceptable thoughts or impulses by expressing diametrically opposed sentiments and convictions.  He publicly berates, taunts and bates homosexuals. Additionally, he may flaunt his heterosexuality by emphasizing his sexual prowess and conquest or by prowling singles bars for easy pickups. This way he contains and avoids his own unwelcome homosexuality. That's from my dictionary of mental health. Back to the original conception of reaction formation. Reaction formation in German was Reaktions Bildung for those of you who want to read it in the original. I know many of you speak perfect Hochdorch and really, really resent the fact that I'm using English when I could actually quote, read all the quotes in German. So my apologies. In German it's called the Reaktions Bildung, okay? Go on search for it right now.  It's when emotions and impulses create anxiety. And they create anxiety, as I said, because they are perceived as unacceptable. And so we reduce anxiety by acting totally the opposite of who we truly are. Reaction formation is a rotating defense mechanism, of course, and it's part of a family which includes dissociation, displacement, intellectualization or rationalization and repression. You are beginning to see where I'm leading. The more you rail against narcissists, the more you hate narcissists, the more you want narcissists dead, the more you protest against narcissists, the more I believe you are narcissists. Precisely why I keep saying that empaths are covert narcissists, majority, not everyone, but overwhelming majority of empaths are absolutely covert narcissists. They protest too much. They are too anti-narcistic. It's like homophobes who are actually homosexuals. They are narcissists who attack narcissists to prove that they are not narcissists. They are narcissists who cannot live with their own narcissism, cannot countenance it, cannot accept it, reject it, hate it, but they're still narcissists. And so they show the world and themselves that they are not narcissists. Here, you see, how can I be a narcissist if I hate narcissists? You know, give me a break. This Vakanim, he has no idea what he's talking about because he lacks empathy like me. I'm a supernova empath.   If I see a narcissist, I will step on his neck until he dies or place my foot on his neck until he dies. It's very empathic, by the way. So reaction formation is very common and indicates the more valuable you are, the more vociferous, the more convinced, the more dedicated, the more I believe that you are what you're protesting against. I believe that and most psychologists do, actually. There's something called counterphobic attitude. It's a response to anxiety where instead of fleeing, you remember flight, flight, fight, freeze, form? Counterphobic attitude is the fighting. You don't freeze. You don't fly. You don't flee, but you fight. You attack the source of the fear. It's kind of reverse phobia. You actively seek the fear and you say to yourself, if I confront my fear, if I engage with my fear, if I destroy the source of my fear, if I appear to be fearless, then I will get rid of my fear. I will have become indeed fearless. And this is what many people do with narcissists. They kind of play with fire. They poke the snake. They play games, mind games, power plays. They tease. They flirt. They are like circling the wagon. You know, they're like touching and not touching. And this is their way of exposure therapy. They're exposing themselves to the source of the terror, which is the narcissist, thereby believing that this would render them immune to the narcissist. It's a little like vaccination. You know, what do you do in vaccination? In vaccination, you take a weakened bacterium or an organism and you inject it into the body to generate an immune response. The organism that you inject into the body, the bacteria, bacteria in the vaccine, they're weakened, they're destroyed or they're partial. And the immune response makes you resist the real thing when you come across it. So many people do it with narcissists. They vaccinate. They inject themselves with weakened versions of the narcissists, temporary versions of the narcissists. I don't know, partial versions of the narcissists. They surround themselves with normal people plus one narcissist. Like, you know, if I expose myself, but in a modulated, regulated way, I'm going to acquire immunity. I'm going to join the herd. I'm going to have herd immunity or to use Donald Trump's immortal phrase, herd mentality. Contrary to avoidant personality disorder, the counterphobic represents another solution. It's not very common, but it's there. And it is seeking, seeking what is feared, associating with dangerous people, risky people. You see this groupies and fans of narcissists and psychopaths and so on. This is one of the reasons they want to acquire immunity and many of them are co-dependence. Many of them are co-dependence because actually what happens is the co-dependent is afraid to attach, afraid to attach. By the way, afraid to attach generally. Co-dependence have insecure attachment styles, several of them, but they are definitely afraid to attach to narcissists, the psychopaths. And so what they do, they disguise this fear of attachment and they convert it via reaction formation, counterphobic reaction formation into over-dependency. Let me repeat this. It's an important insight. Co-dependence are afraid to get attached to narcissists and psychopaths because they anticipate the pain and hurt and rejection and humiliation and abandonment, exactly like borderlines. They're afraid of what's about to happen and what's about to happen inexorably and assurantly. They know it's going to happen. They're terrified. But to cope with this fear, to cope with this reluctance to attach, modern reluctance, terror of attachment, what they do, they disguise it and they become exactly the opposite, over-attached. They are afraid to become dependent so they become over-dependent. That is precisely reaction formation. The best book about reaction formation has been written many, many years ago. It's called The Primer Freudian Psychology by Calvin Hall, published in 1954 in New York. And here is what he has to say among many other things. It's a wonderful book, by the way. The instincts, you notice before I proceed, you notice that I rely a lot on old books. I find new books to be very shallow and very how-to-oriented. Everyone is obsessed with money and they know that if they write profound deep texts, no one is going to buy them.  An example and point is Jordan Peterson. His first book, Maps of Meaning, is borders on a masterpiece, an amazing in-depth dive and analysis of numerous disciplines arranged together. A work of genius, it sold 500 copies. And then he wrote the 12 rules of life which is replete, literally on every page with factual errors, statements which I personally considered nonsensical, arrogance and hubris of telling you how to live, based on faulty research such as Cadiz, Elizabeth Cadiz studies, et cetera. And this book sold 3 million copies. That's why I go back. If you want to find good psychological literature, go back 40, 50, even 100 years. Okay, Diatribe and Rant finished. A primer of Freudian psychology, 1954. Calvin Hall writes, the instincts and their derivatives may be arranged as pairs of opposites, life versus death, construction versus destruction, action versus passivity, dominance versus submission and so forth. When one of the instincts produces anxiety by exerting pressure of the ego, either directly or by way of the superego, the ego may try to sidetrack the offending impulse by concentrating upon his opposite. For example, if feelings of hate towards another person make one anxious, the ego can facilitate the flow of love to conceal the hostility. So reaction formation is a rejected impulse. It's a rejected impulse and you camouflage and you disguise the rejected impulse by displaying the exact opposite behavior. But the impulse doesn't vanish, of course. And this is where I'm saying that by rejecting the narcissist and hating the narcissist, you are not successfully eliminating the narcissist in you. It's not a solution.  That part of you resembles the narcissist to the point of discomfort.  No way, it persists. It's in the unconscious. It's infantile. It refuses to go away. It throws temper tantrums. Where love is experienced as a reaction formation against hate, you can't say that the hate is gone. It's not gone because the original aggression is still there under the affectionate displays of love for humanity. There is actually misanthrope. You're using love to hide hate. You're using generosity to hide stinginess. You are using good neighborliness to hide hostility.  Now, many of you had written to me to say it's not true. I lie only 5% of the time. Congratulations.  Good to hear. You don't understand the concept of lying.  It's going to be, it's going to be a lie because it's not going to reflect the facts as I know them. Let's, these are rare lies. We lie in numerous ways. We lie without beliefs, without convictions, without pretensions, without behavior in a million ways. The concept of lying, confabulation is at the heart of modern psychology. What is psychoanalysis? Which was the first school, first modern school of psychology. Psychoanalysis says, we lie all the time about everything. Now let's find out the truth. Let's go back to childhood and find out the truth. And when you exaggerate, when you're compulsive about something, when you're inflexible, that's reaction formation. You're trying to hide something.   Reactive love protests too much. It is overdone, extravagant, showy and affected. It is counterfeit and usually easily detected. Another feature of a reaction formation is its compulsiveness. A person who is defending himself against anxiety cannot deviate from expressing the opposite of what he really feels. His love, for instance, is not flexible. It cannot adapt itself to changing circumstances as genuine emotions do. Rather, it must be constantly displayed as if any failure to exhibit it would cause the contrary feeling to come to the surface. Solicitude may be a reaction formation against cruelty, cleanliness against dirt, dirt against being dirty. Unconditional pacifism is a reaction formation against sadism. High ideals of virtue and goodness may be reaction formations against primitive object catexes, primitive investment of emotions in primitive objects. So these ideals are not realistic values that are capable of being lived up to. Romantic notions of chastity and purity may mask crude sexual desires from obscurity. Altruism may hide selfishness. Piety may conceal sinfulness apropos all the evangelical high priests who were exposed with prostitutes, group sex and worse. Even more counterintuitively, according to this model, phobia is an example of a reaction formation. The person wants the very thing that he fears is not afraid of the object, he's afraid of his wish for the object. The reactive fear prevents the dreaded wish from becoming fulfilled. You want the narcissist, you wish the narcissist, but you're afraid and your fear is a way to not be with the narcissist. It's self-preservation. Do you remember the Stockholm Syndrome? Stockholm Syndrome is when a hostage or a kidnapped victim falls in love with a very person who had kidnapped him, who is holding him hostage. Her, in this case. Stockholm Syndrome is based on a real story. In the 70s, there was a bank robbery in Stockholm. Yes, bank robberies happened in Stockholm, believe it or not. And one of the bank clerks, a woman, fell in love with one of the hostage takers, the most violent of them. She fell in love with him. Literally fell in love.  Gonna get married after all this. I mean, don't ask. She was on television. Denouncing the police, denouncing the police as being over-violent and that the police is not taking the best interest of the hostages in consideration, she became a hostage taker in effect. So this is reaction formation. It's when you love the feared and the hated person.     So you say, okay, I love him. I love him. It's a resolution of cognitive and emotional dissonance. And there are many reports of paradoxical behavior like that. There are reports of people in Nazi concentration camps in Auschwitz, for example, who fell in love in a way or became admirers and fans of some of the SS officers and guards. They collected objects that were discarded by the SS officers and guards.  That's the absolute manifestation of reaction formation. Let's talk about another defense mechanism, projection. The port calling the kettle black is projection. By the way, this proverb is Spanish originally and the English borrowed it in the 17th century. It's when you accuse another person of the very thing that they accuse you of. It's a kind of projection, an hypocrisy. Projection is a defense. It's when you have unwanted feelings, unwanted urges, unwanted wishes. When you hate who you are or elements of who you are. So one way is reaction formation, where you pretend to be exactly the opposite of who you are. But there's another way. You can attribute everything you hate about yourself to someone else. You say it's not me who is like that. He is like that. It's not me. I'm an empath. I'm not a narcissist. He's a narcissist. I'm an empath. I'm not sadistic. I'm not aggressive.  I'm not kidding you by the way. I've been on empath forums where they have expressed pure, unadulterated, sadistic, violent, aggressive sentiments against narcissists claiming in the same breath that they are highly empathic and wouldn't hurt a fly. It's an example of projection.  And then you say it's not me, it's him. I'm not, I'm not abusive. He's abusive. I'm not a narcissist. He's a narcissist. I'm very generous. He's stingy. It's an individual that is threatened by something and externalizes the trait. For example, when you're angry, then you would say, well, he's angry at me. He's hostile to me. I'm not angry. I'm not hostile. I'm okay. He's the one from my mental health dictionary, according. We all have an image of how we should be. Freud called it the ego ideal. But sometimes we experience emotions and drives or we have personal qualities which don't sit well with this idealized construct. Projection is when we attribute to other people these unacceptable, discomforting and ill-feeding feelings and rejected traits that we possess. This way, by attributing all these to other people, we disown these discordant features and secure the right to criticize and justize other people for having or displaying these traits and behaviors. When entire collectives, nations, groups, organizations, corporate structures, when entire collectives project, this is narcissism of small differences which we are going to discuss shortly.  The German projection, ja, takes me five minutes to recover every time I speak, I say something in German.  It's when the ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or unconscious qualities. By the way, you can have projection of a positive quality. Not many people realize this.   Sometimes, for example, you feel threatened by success. You don't want to succeed because you identify success with commitment. Never mind now. Some people are threatened by success. So they will tend to project onto others their positive traits, the traits that could lead them to success. They would say, for example, I'm not, I'm not intelligent. I'm not really intelligent. See, this guy is intelligent. Or I'm not really hard working. This guy works twice as hard as I do. This is projection, denying the existence of some things, some qualities, some impulses, some urges, some drives, some behaviors, some beliefs, some denial of this in yourself and attributing it to someone else.  Bullies are vulnerable people. They're trying to cover up for their vulnerability by becoming bully. That's reaction formation. But at the same time, the bullies would say, everyone here is vulnerable. They're projecting their own vulnerability onto other people. Or you could shift blame or shame dump. It's called shame dumping. This, all the victim shaming, these are all processes of projection. And projection is intimately linked with another process called interjection. Never mind all that right now. There's been a voluminous correspondence between Zygmunt Freud and everyone in the universe, but Zygmunt Freud and Wilhelm Fliess. And later there was Carl Abraham and Zygmunt Freud's own daughter, which was a brilliant psychoanalyst and child psychologist, Anna Freud. All these people were debating how to fine tune projection, how to exactly understand it. For example, does it apply only to thoughts, motivations, desires and feelings? Does it apply only to things that the person cannot accept as one's own? Only to things that are rejected by the person? Do you have to place these things in the outside world and to someone else? Or can you have internal projection? When the ego repudies something, it's split off. And then you can take it and project it onto another. But is it possible to split it off and leave it inside somehow and still call it projection? There were many debates. It seems that in the case of narcissism, there's a lot of projection going on. People are projecting their own narcissism and their own abusive traits and behaviors onto narcissists. I am not saying I am not invalidating the experience of falling prey to a psychopath or falling victim to a narcissist. Ladies and gentlemen, I coined the phrase narcissistic abuse in 1995. So don't tell me that I don't recognize the victim suffering. I invented the victim suffering. I gave it a language. Still, I'm saying many victims project people, resent and reject the narcissist because they are narcissists or narcissistic. Projection doesn't take place arbitrarily. Freud himself said it. He said that what happens is we scan and we find someone who resonates with us and then we take the part we reject in ourselves and we project it onto him. There has to be some resonance between you as a projector and the recipient of your projection, which is the projectee. If you're projecting your narcissism onto the narcissist, you have to be narcissistic. And that leads to projective identification where you actually force the person to behave in a way that you accept. Melanic line regarded idealization as projection, which is a brilliant insight. She said, there's no difference, she said, between idealization, devaluation and projection. They're all the same family. What is idealization? Is when you take the positive traits in yourself, things you would like to see in other people and then you attribute them to other people.  You want to see these in people around you. So you idealize them.  So you reject it. Instead, you would tend to convert someone into a genius in your own eyes. You tend to idealize someone as a genius. Your own conscious is projected. A conscious is a very nagging, unpleasant, discomforting, sometimes painful thing. Sometimes ominous, threatening. And so what you do, you project your conscious, for example, onto an authority figure, a policeman, judge. We outsource our conscious. The law is a form of projected conscious. To avoid painful contradictions with reality or cognitive dissonances. And also to ameliorate a raging abandonment or separation anxiety. The narcissist aims to micromanage and control his human environment by subsuming it or by merging and fusing with it. This is not different to what you are doing as codependence. You're doing exactly the same. Codependence are almost indistinguishable from narcissists as far as the coping strategies are involved. The theology is different. The psychodynamic landscape is very different, but not the behavior. The narcissist's nearest and dearest are reduced to mere representations, avatars, extensions of himself, internalized objects. This is where projective identification comes into play. It's like the simpler projecting projection. You know, there's projection and projective identification.  Projective identification consists of the attribution of the narcissist's own psychology or urges, desires and processes to other people. So the first stage in projective identification is of course, projective projection. You attribute to others things that are inside yourself but then projective identification involves forcing the target of the projection to conform to the contents of the projection, to actually become someone else, to behave in ways that are prescribed by the projection to undergo introjective identification. So if I want you to be an abuser because I am actually abusive, I'm a sadistic abuser deep inside. I would like to torture, taunt and torment everyone around me but I hate it in myself. I don't want to be a sadist. I don't want to be an abuser. So I'm going to projective. I'm going to say my partner is a sadist. My partner is the abuser. I'm okay. That's projection. But then projecting it into someone who is not an abuser, who is not a sadist is not going to work. So I have to force my partner to act the part. I have to convince and cajole and coerce the blackmail in my partner to become a sadistic abuser so that my projection is rendered successful. I'm a sadist. I can't take it. I can't accept that I'm a sadist. So I'm saying I'm not a sadist. My partner is a sadist.  Are you beginning to identify some of the dynamics? You've had with your narcissistic abuser. In the idealization phase, the narcissist cajoles, coerces, extorts, incentivizes his chosen source of supply to transform herself into the kind of person that the narcissist projects. For example, intelligent or strong. This is the process of co-idealization. Co-idealization. Narcissist idealizes you to enable him to idealize himself. He cannot idealize himself if he is surrounded by nobody. If he's surrounded by failures and losers, he must idealize you. He cannot see you as you are. As if he sees you as you are, he cannot idealize himself. And similarly in the devaluation stage, the target is manipulated to assume, to adopt, to exhibit the narcissist's own shortcomings and unmanageable, chaotic and dysregulated emotions and behaviors.  He projects all this onto you. He says, it's shameful. She's shameful. She's an abuser. She's, she's contemptible. She's envious of me. She rages of me. I mean, everything is reversed. It's like a mirror. It's, it's Alice through the looking glass. It's you become the mirror to the interior of the narcissist. You become his externalized interior. The narcissist rejects these parts of himself. He refuses to own these parts because they challenge his self-perception, his grandiose, inflated, false self, his fantasies, his ability to regulate his sense of self-worth and, and the way he misperceives reality. The challenge is enormous. If the narcissist were to accept himself as he is, for example, pretty dumb, a buffoon, that results in modification. Modification is life-threatening. So instead, what the narcissist does, he takes these parts of himself and he farms them out.  In other words, to reconstruct his comfort zone. People, the narcissist's life is a theater production. And other people, they are not other actors. There's only one actor, the narcissist. Other people are props, props like an armchair or sofa or chandelier. That's other people. They are containers of unwanted bits of the narcissist's persona and psyche. They are constant reminders of his superiority and magnanimity because what he had done, he had taken, taken all the inferior things, all the rejected things, all the dark things, all the disgusting things, all the unacceptable things and he sliced them off and he threw them away. And now he's perfect. Now he's unadulterated. He's pure. Now he's, now he's amazing. Now he's perfection. His grandiosity is not charged. Still, it is important to realize that the material that the narcissist cast off in the process of projective identification. As I said before, this material doesn't disappear. It remains a part of the narcissist and, and the problem, the narcissist has a double problem. When a healthy person projects or when there is reaction formation in a healthy person, the original impulse, the original drive or wish or belief or trait remains. It remains hidden. It remains repressed, remains denied and disowned, but it's still there. But with the narcissist, there's, there's a problem. The healthy person can convince herself that these traits and behaviors and urges and beliefs and so on and intentions, they're not hers. They belong to other people and that's okay. It works. It can't work with the narcissist because other people are also internalized. They're also part of him. Ironically, when the narcissist projects anything onto other people, he actually projects it internally, not onto other people, but onto the internal objects that represent these people. You remember snapshotting? When the narcissist meets someone, he takes a snapshot and he interacts with this snapshot in the future. So he interacts with this snapshot. Anything he projects, anything he attributes to an external person, he actually is not attributing to the external person. He's attributing it to the snapshot. He's attributing it to an internal object, but this object is, this object is part of him. Even his projection is self-contained. Never leaves the premises unlike Elvis. He cannot get out of himself. He cannot even use other people to get rid of parts of himself that he hates. He doesn't have operational, functional defense mechanisms, even the most primitive and infantile that other people do. With the narcissist's projection and projective identification don't work because in his mental world there are no other people. There's no outside. There's no external. There's no reality. You need to project something. You need to have someone outside yourself. But what if there's nobody outside yourself? Everyone is inside you. You can project. The narcissist's solipsistic worldview prevents him from successfully getting rid of what bothers him the most. His own imperfections, deficiencies, inadequacies. Carl Jung considered that when the personality has unacceptable parts, every personality has unacceptable parts, that's the shadow archetype. And he said that it is the shadow that is likely to give rise to projection. And remember Marie-Louise von Fanz, the love of my life, could have been had we met. She wrote Puerra et Theunus. Her view of projection is a bit different. It's wherever known reality stops where we touch the unknown, where we project an archetypal image. Jung wrote, all projections provoke counter-projection. When the object is unconscious of the quality projected upon it by the subject. So there's a resonance of unconsciousness. There's projection and then there's a recipient or the target of the projection. And the unconscious of that target, the unconscious of the recipient will project it back to the projector. It's a kind of mutual projection or a mutual acting out. And there was Harry Stack Sullivan who discussed counter-projection and he tied it into compulsion and to psychological trauma and to obsession. And it's a very interesting topic, projection and counter-projection. In the context of narcissism, you keep saying, for example, I saw online, self-styled experts and so on, keep saying the narcissists projects, no such thing. You project together. He projects and you counter-project. Exactly like idealization. It's not only the narcissists. I mean, there's co-idealization. The narcissist idealizes you and himself simultaneously. He projects onto you and you project back to him. It takes two to tango. You are part of this. Psychological projection is common, as I said, in victim blaming. So, you know, it's common in many, many situations where there's suspicion of infidelity to the actually projection. You know, you're the one with cheating or wants to cheat. So you suspect your spouse. General guilt, even hope, even false memories, memories that were induced in therapy by an unscrupulous therapist and never really happened. It's also a form of projection. When you shame victims, when you blame victims, you're projecting. There was a guy called Gordon Allport and he said that projective techniques can help express the self. So tests like Rorschach, ink blood tests, thematic appreciation tests, they're actually projective tests. So it's a whole enormous field. But it's important to understand that projection is used by the ego to reduce anxiety. But when you project, what do you do?  Get rid of it. What's another name for this? Yes, dissociation. Projection is actually a form of dissociation. When you project things, you dissociate them. You forget about them in yourself because you see them in others.  But at that very second that you suspect her of cheating, you forget, you dissociate your own urge to cheat. And so in some cases, especially when we tend to believe that other people are like us, this is called the false consensus effect. When there is a false consensus effect, when there is a belief that everyone is like us, it's much easier to project.  You can't project. It's a problem. And this raises a very interesting question. The narcissist projects on you, but it's not possible to project unless there's an enormous similarity between the person who projects and the recipient of the projection. In other words, the narcissist judges you to be very similar to himself. The narcissist is very good at treating people. It's called empathy. So is the narcissist wrong? Why does the narcissist commit such a catastrophic mistake? He projects on to you because he thinks you are narcissists as well. Is this a mistake? Or does he tap into something that you have no access to? Does he actually resonate with your shadow, with your dark side, with your own narcissistic pathology? Is not the very fact that the narcissist is able to project proof that there is a part of you open to this projection, part of you that resembles the narcissist uncannily? I know you don't want to admit it because you're projecting. If you're saying right now, Sam Vaknin is a narcissist. Of course he would say this. You're projecting. It's a defense. Neumann Duff and Baumeister. Baumeister is one of my favorite psychologists, by the way. In 1997, they came up with a model of defensive projection. They say that repressors, people who repress try to suppress thoughts of their own undesirable traits. And these efforts make the trade categories highly accessible. So that they are then used all the more often when forming impressions of others. The projection is only a byproduct of the real defensive mechanism. Let me explain this again. It's an amazing revolutionary thought. They're saying like this, there are people who are not comfortable with who they are. So they're trying to suppress their undesirable traits, cognitions that they are not comfortable with, beliefs, emotions. They're busy repressing and suppressing all the time. Because they're busy repressing and suppressing all the time, they become aware of what it is that they are trying to suppress and repress. And because they are becoming more and more intimate with these parts that they are trying to suppress, repress and deny and disown, they become intimate with these parts. So it's easier for them to use these parts to project onto others. In other words, there's a process of natural selection. The more we try to suppress or repress or deny or disown certain parts of ourselves, the easier it is for us to attribute these parts to other people. This would indicate that victims of narcissistic abuse, probably a somewhat more narcissistic than usual, needs to be, we need to study this possibility. And of course, ultimately, narcissism of small differences. It is common to believe that the more marked the differences between people, the more pronounced the resultant hatred. So if you are very different to someone, you're much more likely to hate that someone, to resent and to reject that someone. So Freud gives the example that when there are big differences between immigrants and citizens, there is a resultant anti-immigration or racism. So white Frenchmen, Americans, Dutch hotheads, they are all attack black people. Different.  But this is only half the truth. The angliest manifestations of racism up to genocide are actually reserved to immigrants who look, act and talk like us. The more these immigrants try to emulate us and imitate us, the harder they attempt to belong to us, the more ferocious a rejection of them. Let me repeat this. Immigrants who are like us, look like us, share our values and try to belong successfully, provoke us much more than immigrants who have nothing in common with us who are totally different to us, visibly or otherwise. Freud coined the phrase narcissism of small differences in a paper titled The Taboo Virginity that he published in 1917. Referring to earlier work by British anthropologist Ernst Crowley, Freud said that we reserve our most virulent emotions, our aggression, our hatred, our envy towards people who resemble us the most. We feel threatened not by the other with whom we have little in common. We feel threatened by the nearly we, the people who mirror, reflect us and are exactly like us. The nearly he, the nearly we, they imperil the narcissist's selfhood. They challenge the narcissist's sense of uniqueness, perfection, superiority, the fundamentals of the narcissist's sense of self-worth. If the narcissist is confronted with someone who is very different to him, he can always claim, safely claim superiority, difference, distinction. But what if he's confronted with someone who is a carbon copy, a clone of the narcissist? It's very difficult to claim to be different or to be superior. When the narcissist comes across someone who is like him, it provokes in him primitive narcissistic defenses. It leads him to adopt desperate measures to protect, preserve and restore his balance. This is the Gallivar array of defense mechanisms, if you wish. They are lily-pushians. There's Gallivar. Gallivar is unlikely to react badly to lily-pushians, to midgets, to dwarfs. But Gallivar will react very badly if he were to encounter another giant on his turf. The very existence of the nearly he, the similar, constitutes a narcissistic injury. The narcissist feels humiliated, shamed and embarrassed, to not be special after all. And he reacts with envy and aggression towards the source of frustration. In doing so, in attacking the person who looks like him, who acts like him, who shares his values, who has the same intelligence. So in attacking this kind of people, the narcissist resorts to splitting, projection, projective identification. He attributes to other people traits that he dislikes in himself. He forces other people to behave in conformity with his expectations. In other words, the narcissist sees in other people those part of himself that he cannot countenance and that he denies. He forces people around him to become him, to become narcissistic, to become himself. He forces other people around him to reflect to him his shameful behaviors, hidden fears, forbidden wishes. But how does the narcissist avoid the realization that what he loudly decries and derives in other people is actually a part of himself? By exaggerating or by dreaming up and creatively inventing differences between his qualities and conduct and other people's qualities and conduct. The more hostile the narcissist becomes towards people who are similar to him, the easier it is for him to distinguish himself from the other by lying and confabulating. Simple. When you see a narcissist lying and confabulating one of the main reasons is to preserve his uniqueness because he is surrounded by people who challenge him and they challenge him because they're exactly like him. He has no advantage on the contrary, often very inferior. To maintain this self-differentiating aggression the narcissist stokes the fires of hostility by obsessively and vengefully nurturing grudges and hurts many of them imagined. The narcissist dwells on injustice, on pain inflicted on him by these stereotypically bad people, unworthy people. He devalues and humanizes other people. He plots revenge to achieve closure and in the process the narcissist indulges in grandiose fantasies aimed at boosting his feelings of omnipotence and magical immunity. In the process of acquiring an enemy an adversary the narcissist blocks out information that threatens to undermine his emerging self-perception as righteous and offended. The narcissist begins to base his entire identity on the brewing conflict which is by now a major preoccupation a rumination, an obsession and a defining or even all pervasive dimension of his existence. Narcissists thrive flourish in conflict and with an identifiable enemy. Very much the same dynamic applies to coping with major differences between the narcissist and other people. Narcissist emphasizes the large disparities while transforming even the most minor ones into decisive and unbridgeable differences. Deep inside the narcissist wants to be different. He's continuously subject to a knowing suspicion that his self-perception is wrong that he's not omnipotent not omniscient not irresistible that he's flawed that his narrative is contaminated and unrealistic. Narcissist is very is thomas the doubter and he doubts himself all the time. When he's criticized the narcissist actually agrees with the critic. That's a problem. In other words there are only minor differences between the narcissist and his detractors and critics but this threatens the narcissist internal cohesion. And so the narcissist erupts with wild rage at any hint of disagreement, resistance, debate or criticism. And similarly intimacy intimacy brings people closer together. It makes them more similar. They share something. They have something in common. There are only minor differences between intimate partners. The narcissist perceives this intimacy as a threat to his sense of uniqueness. He reacts by devaluing the source of his fears. The maid, the spouse, the lover, the partner whoever tries to get close to him getting close to the narcissist is making the narcissist common and average and knowable. The narcissist is divine. Cannot be known. Cannot be approached. The narcissist reestablishes the boundaries and the distinctions that were removed by intimacy by destroying the intimacy. And so restored is emotionally ready to embark on another round of idealization. And this is what Freud called the approach avoidance repetition complex compulsion. In a study titled War and Relatedness published by the National Bureau of Economic Research, the authors Enrico Spolaore, Romain Watzialde, Jesus, concluded, I'm quoting the degree of genealogical relatedness between populations has a positive effect on their conflict propensities because more closely related populations on average tend to interact more and develop more disputes over sets of common issues. Populations that are genetically closer are more prone to go to war with each other even after controlling for a wide set of measures of geographic distance and other factors that affect conflict including measures of trade and democracy. None of what had happened to you with analysis would have happened had you not been really, really similar. Sorry to break the bad news.


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Ssssssssssssssssssssssssssss proctor Earlier this week I took a look at the Demolition Man games for Super Nintendo and Psychogenesis and their serviceable regular old run-and-gun games that are perfectly decent playthroughs all beat with a fair share of flaws with the added bonus that it manages to represent the source material nicely as well unfortunately a few comments asked what about cliffhanger well in my opinion cliffhanger is one of those movies that goes back and forth between being a pretty good thriller, as the opening scene indicates, and being one of the best comedies of the 90s, albeit unintentionally. Let's see, we've got Sly doing Sly things, which is good, but then you've got Michael Rooker screaming his face off in every scene he's in, you've got John Lithgow chewing the hell out of the scenery since he's such a clever bastard, you've got the character Travers incapable of saying one sentence without cursing which seriously cracks me up, and of course you've got your typical action movie ridiculousness, like Sly Stallone being able to survive overnight at 8,000 feet wearing only his trusty sweater. Once again, since it's Stallone, we get a boatload of video games on everything from Amiga, NES, Game Boy, Game Gear, Sega CD, Sega Genesis, and Super Nintendo. You may get your hopes up when playing the Super Nintendo Edition since you see the Sony ImageSoft logo right away, and they've made some pretty good games in the past, but they're merely the publisher, this game was made by Malibu Interactive, who also claim wings 2, ace is high, and 3 ninjas kick back to their resume, two strongly aggressively mediocre games. Sadly, Cliffhanger for Super Nintendo is much worse than mediocre, it's a beat-em-up that kinda sorta follows the story of the movie, you start out with Stallone running around in a t-shirt and the snow and the mountains, who does he think he is, Bud Grant? Within about 4 seconds you get the gist of what this game is about, you get two enemies on screen at once, they slowly leer at you as you hope to somehow make contact with them before they make contact with you, rinse and repeat. But oh look, you get to jump over something here, how about that? Ooh, now you've got a dude in the red jacket instead of green, just a multitude of enemy variety and gulfs your senses, oh man, now we gotta jump over another pit, and then we got a guy in a red shirt, but then the game really gets clever by making you jump over two pits. See, the level design is brilliant here, since it builds up your confidence by jumping over just one pit to start, but then they up the ante, it really helps you get comfortable with jumping. Yeah, no, this game is dreadfully boring and I'm just trying my best to make it at least seem kinda sorta interesting, which it isn't. Cliffhanger does at least have you replenish your health by sitting at a campfire, then it throws you a major curveball by having you climb stuff, and it's somehow even more dull and lifeless than what you've been doing before. You just hold the up button, absorb damage, it doesn't matter since there's another campfire up there anyway, you get to the top and then you're out running in avalanche and jumping over stuff.  Man, what is with Stallone's running animation? He almost runs like Tina Belcher. I will say for what it's worth, the Sega CD version of Cliffhanger has an over-the-shoulder snowboarding mode in place of this part, and it looks, uh, not terrible. There's six total levels to slog through here, and you get three lives and five continues with no saves or passwords, not that you'd want any. The controls are what you'd expect in a game like this, albeit with A as jump, and it does let you double tap left or right twice, so you can speed up this misery.   Oh, sorry, that's the wrong movie. You use the L or R buttons to use a special sweep kick move, but it uses up part of your health, and that's a problem because the hit detection in this game sucks out loud, so you're gonna get cheap-shotted left and right as you progress. So yeah, that's all I got with this one. I mean, I guess you do get to fight a helicopter at the end of the game, which is pretty hilarious, but then you'd have to suffer through six levels of tedious, boring, and SLOW gameplay. It can't be overstated how freaking slow and tepid the gameplay is here. Reviews at the time of this game's release called this one a poor Double Dragon clone, but that's being way too kind. At least Double Dragon clones TRY to make the combat interesting, and sometimes they try to implement some kind of block or parrying system, unlike this game.  But hey, that didn't stop programmer Chris Shrigley, who worked on the Sega Genesis version of this game, which by the way is pretty much the same as the Super Nintendo Edition, from making the source code of the Genesis game public. It's as if to say, don't do what I did kids, stay in school, don't make a game like Cliffhanger, and do not ever play a game like Cliffhanger. Avoid this game. All right, I want to thank you for watching, and I hope you have a great rest of your day.


channel I have another what I eat in a day today and I'm really excited because today is also an announcement video and it's been something that's been in the works and I just feel like it's gonna be a fun new direction that my content and stuff is going in. So first of all let's chat about what I have for breakfast so I don't eat breakfast I actually do intermittent fasting so my first meal of the day is usually a little after lunchtime so normally whenever I'm staying in fasting mode I actually drink black coffee whether it's ice or hot and I'll put a little bit of stevia in it and go about my morning just kind of sipping at it but today as you guys just saw I made kind of a special coffee and the reason I made a special coffee this morning is because today is a little bit of a celebrating day so I have an announcement for you guys I'm so excited I have decided to go ahead and actually start two more channels and the reason I've done that is because I think I've got about three different types of viewers and maybe you guys fall into all three maybe you only like one that's okay and this is why I'm doing this so I just launched a vlog channel and it's called Adeline vlogs the links for everything will be below and then I also just started a cleaning channel so this channel is going to be called Adeline's kitchen from now on instead of just Adeline's my name and I'll be doing a lot of meal prepping freezer prep what I eat in a day meal planning dinner ideas all of those kind of things anything in the kitchen will be on this channel and then on my cleaning channel will be home decor my decorating videos my DIYs home makeover or stuff like doing rooms over things that I've done for a long long time and obviously cleaning motivation so that will be on that channel and then my vlog channel will just be vlogs and face-based videos which I know you guys have been requesting like how I study my Bible and just encouragement and stuff like that so that will be on my vlog channel and then my vlog channel will probably also be in place that whenever I just get a great idea to film something it will go on there so maybe you've fallen to all those categories maybe you're only interested in one or the other but I thought this would be a really great way to kind of categorize things and then you guys can pick what you want to be subscribed to or maybe you want to be subscribed all of them the other thing I wanted to mention in case you didn't know this because I think a lot of people don't know this but if you don't have the bell notification hit next to the little subscribe button on your favorite channels you're actually considered an optional subscriber so that means that they will choose sometimes to not show you videos that youtubers upload even if you're subscribed to their channel so if you want to in your subscription feed have your favorite youtubers videos pop up do make sure you always have the bell hit so if you want to make sure that you can see my videos whenever I upload them because I get messages pretty regularly where people say like I was unsubscribed or I never saw your videos or all of a sudden I stopped seeing your videos so that is one way that you can be sure that you will catch all the new videos pause for a moment sip of coffee I love the pumpkin cream cold brew from Starbucks but this is this is really really good anyways the other thing I wanted to mention is I'm now going back on a schedule so at the beginning of each video you will know what the schedule is for that particular channel and I will also leave that below with the links for my new channels so now that you guys know what's up what's going on I just I can't even tell you how excited I am about all of this and got a lot of content new content coming up and then also today today there is videos on those channels they went live right when this one did and so you guys can go you guys are getting three videos from me today which is a little bit crazy I've never done three videos in one day for sure but from then on you guys will see what the new schedule will be and I think that's all I have to say about this other than I hope that you go subscribe to both of the new channels and let's get our day started alright so in the morning after I get my coffee made because we all know that's got to be first I always get the girls breakfast together and sometimes I give them a little snack like before I have breakfast ready and sometimes we do cereal I would say that our breakfast is our breakfast is breakfast is our pretty like there's a pretty big variety of what we do so this morning I'm actually gonna do what we call dippy eggs and toast and I don't know if that's just something I grew up saying or if there's other people that say that let me know in the comments if you guys say that too but I'm gonna just go ahead and fry up some I think they would be considered like over easy eggs and then just some toast in the pan a little fun fact about us we do not have a toaster I think we did right after we got married but I got rid of it because my husband loves having toast toasted right in the pan with some butter and once I started doing it that way I fell in love with doing it that way too and so that's how we make toast of the food yummy okay alright so something that we have been trying to do while they're eating at least one meal it might be breakfast lunch today it's working out to be lunchtime is I'm reading out of this I recently got this off of Amazon I really love it because every single story points to Jesus which is really cool it even brings out the fact that he's coming soon in the Old Testament stories I just love how it's written it's really really nice and the girls really really like it right guys yeah it's one of your favorite things okay so Cory and I tend to eat lunch a little bit later than the girls do I would say probably like two o'clock there are days that we only eat one meal to we will do like a big dinner and just totally skip lunch so a lot of times our lunches are on the light side since we tend to eat a majority of our food in the evening so what I'm actually gonna be making for Cory and I is something that we both really really love and it's the whole reason we got our air fryer back here it is wings you can make amazing wings chicken wings in the air fryer just as good as at the restaurant and it's something that we often do for a meal and so today as kind of a light lunch we're gonna just do up some chicken wings in the air fryer I'm gonna show you how we do it and it's gonna make you want an air fryer if you like chicken wings because it just makes them crispy and just totally perfect all right so basically it's pretty simple but all you'll need is some chicken wings and these here I think I need to cut most of the time you have to cut them right in half and then you can put them right into the air fryer so basically cut them you spray them down with a kitchen spray it can be any kind that you want and then you throw them into the air fryer great so we put them in for I think it's like around 30 minutes it's at 400 yeah I think that's about what we do and then we just kind of check them as they go and we can put them in for longer if we want them to be crispier and then I'll show you how we add the sauce while the chicken wings are frying up in there I'll tell you what the girls had for lunch so they had some meatballs which I pre-prepared they were in the freezer and I'll leave the video link where I made those in my last freezer prep video below and then they also had some apple sauce with cinnamon on it and then they also had some of the yogurt sticks that I make with strawberries and stevia trying out different sauces and stuff and the one brand that we've been trying the last little while is what is it called beef oh brady's I think Cory really likes this one the garlic parmesan sauce and then they have a what is it buffalo just a regular buffalo sauce and then what was the other one that we had tried like mango habanero something like that yeah so they have some really great ones I have found them at Publix he's showing you that is what the buffalo ones look like but they turn out perfect how was your nap good how about you Evie did you sleep good so usually after the girls wake up from their nap they have some sort of snack to kind of hold them over until it's a dinner time and so right now it's in the middle of the afternoon and this is what a typical snack looks like around this time of the day okay guys so it is dinner time and I'm going to make one of our favorite dinners in fact the side I'm making tonight or one of the sides is one that I make pretty much every single week so I'm going to be making some barbecue bacon cheeseburger meatballs and I'm gonna be making some peas just putting some butter and salt on them and then I'm also going to make some mashed cauliflower if you watch me a lot you know that that is something that we make a lot something we really enjoy and I'll show you guys how I make it and I'm gonna go ahead and get the meatballs mixed up and I'll show you what I'm putting in them alright so I've got some ground beef here it's actually I get the three pound like log of beef and I just cut it in half so it's like a pound and a half in here and then I'm gonna be adding in an egg I'm going to add some of this stuff I'm gonna not say it because every time I say it everybody corrects me on how they think I should say it but it's really good in meat and then I'm also gonna sprinkle a little bit of coconut flour just to be the binder then I'm going to put a little bit of olive oil in my frying pan and put all of the meatballs in there and actually pan fry them I really like making my meatballs this way the best and then I will heat up my barbecue sauce in the microwave and dump that over it and I'm gonna top it with grated cheddar cheese and some bacon to give us that barbecue bacon cheeseburger feel and I'm going to also put my peas in my pot back here put some water in there and then I will be putting my cauliflower into my pressure cooker because that's how I make my mashed cauliflower once you have your whole head of cauliflower in here all you're gonna do is push manual and then you want to take your pressure and put it all the way up and you want to push cook time put it all the way down to one minute and then push on and so at this point it's gonna build up the pressure you want to make sure your valve is closed up here and then it's gonna sit and cook for one minute and then it's going to release the pressure and I let it release the pressure for about seven minutes or so then it's ready to open and you can dump the water off and then I'll show you how I finish it up put a little sour cream in it and it's super simple super yummy what I eat in a day and I was super excited to share with you guys about my new channel so don't forget to go over to them and check out those new videos and don't forget to leave a comment on this video especially if you like this style content it really gives me a good idea on which videos to make or which ones you guys enjoyed the most don't forget to give this video like 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