So here's a question When is the right time to date after a breakup? This is a question that gets asked so frequently and I'm sure you've looked at it for yourself as well So let's explore this a little bit deeper now I want to be candid with you many of you have been following me but if you haven't my most significant relationship ended about seven months ago and We actually met up for the first time since then just for a brief visit because she happened to be in town And just for there for those who don't know she lives 3,000 miles away from me currently And we had a nice catch-up and we shared something very personal to one another and that was when the relationship ended and She actually moved to another state after it ended. It was kind of an awkward experience When we were saying goodbye to each other So it was nice to have this little bit of closure at this moment seven and a half months later and And and I'm smiling because it was a very nice lunch that we had We didn't really spend a lot of time revisiting the relationship And we and we wanted to learn where each other was at at this point in time And we didn't talk about our dating or our love life Other than say there was it was really non-existent for either one of us In other words, when is the right time to date? And her choice is different than what my choice is So what's interesting? I was talking to my coach the following day or two days later. I should say and We we we explored whether or not it's the right time for me to date and by the way a good coach Will have a coach in their life So I just want you to know if you haven't considered working with a coach particularly a dating relationship coach I invite you to check out the link below to schedule a discovery call With me to see if working with a coach is right for you because I believe we all need Confidence in our lives people that we trust but more importantly people that can give us good solid grounded advice And oftentimes our friends who might know us the best have a prejudice and give us sometimes skewed advice So as I'm getting ready to Prepare for this video. I actually was reviewing another video I'd done about letting go after a relationship and I made some notes and I want to share this with you all So bear with me because I'm going to be reading. Okay Here's the challenge for many of us If we've been in an unhealthy Transactional conditional relationship that causes most humans to suffer from being in a bad relationship Oftentimes feels better than being alone Wounded people who've done little healing struggle to be in a relationship and sometimes stay Longer hoping that it will change So why am I bringing this up is if your relationship has ended or you're not in a good relationship right now And you're evaluating whether or not it makes sense to end the relationship and then put yourself back out in the dating marketplace It's important to look inward Before you ever put yourself out in the dating marketplace. Let me repeat that It's important to look inward before you ever put yourself out in the dating marketplace. That's number one Now i'm going to go on to read it's never a waste of time to love someone And often a short-lived relationship or a deeper longer relationship Um has a deeper purpose than mere companionship or the transactional needs that many experience Such as one person transactional meaning one person pays the bills the other takes care of the home That sort of thing but most humans choose transactional or conditional relationships Then the more evolved person who seeks an experience of something greater now when i'm sharing with you many people Experience deep deep deep pain after the ending of a relationship What that deep pain typically is a reflection of an attack There's probably some level of an attachment an unhealthy attachment to the other person Or worse even a trauma bond with the other person hence why ripping apart that relationship feels so painful And oftentimes many people point the finger at the other person Blaming them for everything if you are still in blame Of the other person then it's not the right time to date if you're still in blame of the other person Okay, now that's not to suggest that you might have an experience First off if you have to call a doctor an attorney or a policeman I heard this from dr. Pat Allen Then you have every right to have you know some level of of disdain for this other person But if you don't have to call one of those three people Then I invite you to look at where is the pain coming from and I invite you to read two books Attached by emeer levine and rachel heller as well as getting the love you want by harbell Hendricks and helen hunt all the books I recommend in this video are listed below in the show notes under jonathan recommend books Why i'm recommending these two books is there's a good chance you might have an unhealthy attachment With this other person still and if you do I invite you to do the inner work To heal as part of your preparation to be ready to date After the ending of this relationship Now I want to read you something that I read on jason gattis's Facebook page jason gattis g a d d i s he wrote Relationships are a gateway to healing Good relationships heal trauma Just being in a good one can prepare years of hurt feeling unseen feeling alone. Thus relationships are a path to healing and personal transformation As I reflect back to my relationship with marie, I can't begin to tell you how much On a micro cellular level there was healing It wasn't a bad relationship. It was a very good relationship. There was misalignment And that's okay. We oftentimes have this expectation when two people are misaligned We have to make it work. We have to make it work Sometimes it's okay that it doesn't work. Sometimes when I say sometimes, you know, I'm saying If a relation if it doesn't work for one, it doesn't work for both That's just a fact of life So when I say sometimes when it doesn't when it's close, but it doesn't work out doesn't mean you need to try to Fix it to make it work Sometimes people come into your life Simply as part of your journey Fact marie was kind enough to give me a card the other day when we met And she said thank you for being part of my journey and I equally feel that same gratitude towards her I am so grateful that she was part of my journey Because I grew and heal and I'm going to give you a few questions to ask yourself To to determine if you're ready to date again, and these are the exact same questions. I asked of myself By the way, my coffee mug says don't make me go all psycho roommate on you. This coffee mug is hot So was the breakup a healthy breakup or was there anger? Was the breakup a healthy breakup or was it was there anger? I believe healthy breakups have when a person ends a relationship from in a very healthy conscious uncoupling way if you haven't read the book By my dear friend Catherine Woodward Thomas. I highly recommend checking out conscious uncoupling five steps to living happily ever after Why i'm recommending this book again When a healthy relationship ends There's very little charge Towards the other person most of the time there's significant gratitude towards the other person But if there's anger resentment judgment Towards the other person you have to ask yourself are you to if you're going to ask yourself when is the right time to date?  Do you hold anger resentment or longing for the other person if you're longing If you're wishing this person back Then it's probably not the right time today You know I think some of the challenges when a relationship ends is did they do it out of the blue? Or did you see it coming? You know it fascinates me I speak to women in uh who have gone through a breakup and they all seem the same the same They all seem to say the same thing. I knew something was wrong from the very beginning. I went against my better judgment I think we humans have a capacity of taking red flags early on and painting them green And most likely when we do that is because there is a lesson that needs to be learned and we're going to explore that in a moment But if it came out of the blue Certainly there's going to be some sting to it There's going to be some sting to it I would say most of the time there is a disconnect because when When really great what what makes a great relationship great Most of the time it's they're they're actually progressing fairly nicely There's usually very much very little doubt Going on when two people are perfectly aligned now That's not to say that someone might not nine months into a relationship Feel some doubt. Okay. There's this there's this kind of push pull that happens in our emotional state of being where We're all in and we're afraid and we're all in and we're afraid and we're all in and we're afraid. Okay This is a natural experience Sometimes it happens in the first few weeks Sometimes it happens in the first few months usually within some time of a year When good couples i'm talking about the couples that go the distance they might have a doubt Now one of the things you should never do is bargain or beg for someone to come back if they have doubt Let them solve their doubt on their own. That's their job to solve their doubt. Your job is to stay in your lane But that doesn't mean sleeping with someone if they're in a space of doubt And I think sometimes people might need a week or two to reevaluate I think reevaluating allows one to either choose to appreciate and accept the relationship for the goodness that it has Or sadly, it's an opportunity to say, hey, there's a misalignment. We have to move on you know One of the questions I invite you to all year to ask yourself when is the right time to date after a breakup Are you reliving the relationship over and over and over and over again hoping That they come back Or do you reflect upon it do self reflection? When my relationship ended at first it stung and I bargained for just a moment to have a reconsider I mean that lasted an hour if you will because I recognize if it's not right for one. It's not right for both And and I and I relived the relationship mostly In a little bit of anger. That's a very common experience for many people because just like the the loss of a loved one grief, if you will We go through these stages. We go through denial anger bargaining depression guilt And then hopefully we come to a place of acceptance And in that place of acceptance, I recognize that there were these Micro misalignments between the two of us. They were just ever so subtle and yet they were so critically important for the longevity because At the end of the day, we had two different life visions. We didn't know what going in because it was like I would think we were clouded a little bit with rose color glasses I think that happens frequently. We go in with a clouded rose color glasses version because The reality is is sex Is a very powerful experience between two people that can bond one another and oftentimes we lose Objectivity during the sex now. I said in our case, it was a micro wasn't matt It wasn't this gigantic recognition of differences It was kind of like more like micro And that's what a relationship is all about. It's a relationship is a journey of exploring You're vetting one another over the course of hopefully a year or two or three To see if you're really meant to go the distance long term see unlike our Our grandparents and them prior to them, okay? I want to share something with you For the longest time most humans believed chemistry equals relationship success and what happened was Back in the day due to be two people wanted to have sex Or they had to get married. They usually had lasted with by the way Do you know how how many courtships lasted less than 30 days? And so once they bonded with one another physically They're incompat and by the way, this was back when survival and transactional relationships were so radically important that It didn't matter whether or not they were misaligned They were bonded with each other and they needed each other for survival We are in a unique period of time in our history where we mess particularly women are no longer dependent upon men For their physical survival you especially those of you in midlife. You have fully curated lives You can simply choose who you want to be with from a non financial perspective And this is where this where the nitty gritty comes in because now it's all based on compatibility not survival And the reality is is most humans are not compatible with one another They could be if they took out their ego, but unfortunately our egos are a rather gigantic thing So when I said earlier, it might take one two or three years to vet someone you it takes time to be in multiple different experiences with a person Whether it's traveling together whether it's spending time with family and friends whether it's um You know social activities hobbies mutual interest going through these these little intricacies over a period of time Allows you to get to know them at a deeper level So coming back to when is the right time to date after the breakup? I'm going to invite you all to ask yourself these four questions to determine When is the right time for you? the first question I want you to do this is all self reflective I want you to ask yourself What positive things about myself did I learn in this relationship? What positive things about myself and it's not like I learned how not to date a cheater or liar No, you didn't learn how to do to you did not learn. That's not the positive thing yourself That's not the positive thing that you learned I'll share with you something personal I learned after my relationship ended I I recognized I'm ready to go all in with somebody. I went all in in this relationship All in that's you know, that's like the wedding vows to some degree for sickness and health better or worse The good and the bad all in I didn't I wasn't capable of that for Listen, most of you most of us if you were fall if you were like me growing up if you were a baby boomer or a gen Xer We were taught to go to college get a job meet somebody get married buy a house start a family Okay, and I followed that script And my role was provider protector And that relationship ended Then I was out in the dating marketplace and the last thing I wanted to do was get remarried That was the last thing I wanted to do For over a decade after my wife and I split up for more than over a decade Last thing I wanted to do was get remarried. I wanted companionship connection and sex I wanted what I talked about is the three people that are actively dating today the users By the way, this is not a fact. That's merely an opinion the users the spenders and the grower builders The users are those people that seek short-term game love bombers players gold diggers Entitled people selfish people. They only care about their own needs. That's roughly about 20 percent of the population Then the spenders I call them spenders because they're spending time with you They seek companionship connection and sex no direction Uncertain fearful usually have a dysfunctional life and the grower and the builders which is probably 20 percent They seek long-term commitment. They're emotionally grown up. They have good relationship skills. They have their act together So the positive thing I learned For myself and I invite you to ask that question of yourself as well Positive thing I learned myself. I was ready to go all in amongst other things number two How did I heal from this relationship? How did I heal from this relationship? Folks if you're not familiar with your childhood wounds or adult traumas and we all have them on some degree or other Some people have significant trauma and childhood. Some have garden variety childhood But if you're not familiar with them I highly recommend reading the book the hockman process the hockman process listed below This is a deep dive into healing your childhood wounds and adult traumas By the way, I should also recommend you get my book what the act is self love Anyway a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work link below self. Love the book dot com folks How if you are not familiar with your wounds? Then you won't know what need what this relationship helped you heal This is all an inward journey to decide when you're ready when it's the right time To date after a breakup You know a lot of people date other people right away so they can they can forget the other person that I think is the most unhealthy thing to do And by the way, if you're woman knowing for a fact That you're not ready for a relationship and a man takes you out and entertains you And you're just taking advantage of this company. That's bad karma Let me just say that's bad karma and you women can't stand it when men do the same When a man says and he spends time with you and he sleeps with you And then he says i'm not ready for relationship. Aren't you devastated? So why do that to another human being? That's just bad karma in my opinion heal At least self reflect and the last two questions I invite you to ask yourself was what was good about this relationship? What was good about this relationship and what are you most grateful for? Oh my god in my relationship. There were so many good things I can't even begin to tell you all the good things that came out of this relationship and i'm most grateful for That we both were able to heal and grow Had learned more about each other And we could end on a very amicable note These are just some of the many things that I am so grateful for That was good in the relationship and i'm sharing my personal experience merely to illustrate how you can do the same for yourself So when is the right time to date? Go back and rewind this video listen to each part that I covered And maybe through this experience of self reflection you will find That the right time for you Is when your heart is wide open to receive somebody new with a beginner's mind with beginner's mind And beginner's mind means you're not going to hold this future person Hostage to your past experiences beginner's mind and that's what I invite for every one of you Is this sinking in is this resonating? Please let me know if it is post a comment below I'd like to hear your thoughts. I do my best to read all of them in the first 24 hours As always if you find value in my videos, please hit that like button. 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So, um Check out the little dollar sign our goal today is 50 dollars. We'd love to have some love today. Okay So if you have a question write the word question and if you're bold enough to be on the hot seat There's a link right there. You can join me live right now and ask me questions directly okay Light blue Good morning, jonathan. I agree with everything you say I still have yet to buy your book and especially the hoffman process which is sad because that's my last name Again, there's a link below to get a copy of all the books. I recommend. I hope you do get both books I'd be honored if you got mine as well Gina wrote Two years ago. I decided I was ready only problem. I couldn't find anyone to date I have my first date coming up soon. I'm so out of practice I hear you By the way, um, I haven't gone on a date since my relationship ended I've I've met several women from a very friends type of perspective. I I feel like you know, it's interesting After my divorce I remember um when the early stages of online dating a number of times I met women said, hey I'm going to be at such and such bar With some friends on Thursday night, you know, if you have any girlfriends show up and let's meet there for the first time And what was interesting Was this happened about a half a dozen times in the course of a year It was a much friendlier way to meet someone. There was no pressure You could talk to your friends. You could talk to this person There was no pressure and I kind of like that. I like that no pressure And so even though I haven't gone on any dates, uh, since my Uh relationship ended I've had a couple what I call friendship dates women. I know that happen to be single I said, hey, let's get together as friends. No pressure. No expectation of a date um And just to connect with each other and then if something, you know came of it like I mean I wasn't thinking along those lines, but I I think too much pressure Especially when and by the way, these were women that I met out in real life So these weren't online dates, but even if it wasn't someone I meant through an online connection I'd probably make a request that hey, can our first meaning just be something You know friendly not a date not the expectation. Let's both jointly think of a place to come up with So there's no expectation. I think that's oftentimes the the uncomfortable part Is the expectations associated with dating and that's my suggestion to you Gina. So thank you so much Gina also said marriage ended 10 years ago out of the blue not amicable the first eight years being single I had no desire to date. Yeah, we need time to heal from that You know because you don't want to bleed your stuff into with anyone new going forward so I can totally appreciate that um You know brown says and by the way if you have a question write the word question and post the question thereafter Brown says dating at the bars in the 90s was fun. You know what? Actually, I met my my wife my first I say first wife as if I've had many I met my first and only wife at to this point in time Uh in 1990, but I remember the late 80s and 90s going out to the bars and going out dancing was so much fun We'd go out Friday and Saturday nights to go out dancing We didn't go out dancing. We we men went out to pick up chicks, but we did it in the dance environment Excuse my slurping um Coffee's still a little hot. Um because it was a great way to say hey Would you like to go dance and talk? So yeah, I can totally totally relate to that. So thank you so much. I appreciate it It doesn't look like we have any questions today. We've got kind of a bashful group Hey, I give you one more chance to join the hot seat. I'd love to have someone join us live um But again, if we don't ask questions, we're going to be wrapping up really quickly Uh, Kathy McFadden says oh, hold on a second. It was fun. Wasn't it? Yeah, I thought I have a lot of you know what it was fun because We didn't have these devices.  It's just an observation. I've noticed so All right, you know what folks seems like we have a bashful group tonight We have kind of a low numbers here. So I think this would be a great place to wrap up. When is the right? Oh, here we go Okay, sweet chick says I was just about to end sweet chick says sorry. I just joined. Have you covered speed dating? You know what? I haven't had much fun speed dating. I mean I mean it's interesting um It's interesting, but I just haven't had fun with it myself But you know, there's you know, I look at these all as a spoke in the wheel try different things to connect with different people You know, maybe go with some friends Uh several people and hopefully guys go with several friends and then afterwards you mingle and chat with one another Um, but yeah, I mean I'm speed dating is just a spoke in the wheel to connect with people Really, it's only it's an opportunity to connect with people. Usually they have a balance between half men half women And while it's rare that you find a love connection There's always the broken clock that is right twice a day. So I'd certainly give that a chance All right, folks, you know what? I think this would be a great place to wrap up today I want to if you have something to share about when is the right time to date after a breakup Please post a comment below. I'd like to hear your thoughts As always if you find value in my videos, please hit that like button Please share this video Please subscribe to my channel and hit that notification bell if you can to be notified of new videos And if you want to schedule a call with me check out the links below in the show notes and in the first comment You can schedule a call with me. You can join my group called midlife love mastery. You can follow me on instagram You can get all the books I recommend and join all the groups as well All right, this I think this will be a great place to wrap up this video First off, I want to give myself a big gigantic jothin barrow of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We can all use more love in our lives And no, this is not a replay cindy. This is live I just you guys waited too long to come up with questions. So we're wrapping up today, but cindy. This is live All right, everyone. Thanks for joining me. Have a wonderful day. Be well. Bye now


So the line-up for the opening race, then. You're not seeing it on the inside in red. Patrick Dudek coming out of gate two in blue. Paweł Szapelski will come out of gate number three. And Mike and Ty Woffendom will go from the outside in yellow for the opening heat here. First time we've been back in three years. We are absolutely privileged to be in this arena. It really is something very special indeed. And I'm sure we're going to be in for some show here tonight. There's no doubt about that. Just sense that something pretty special is going to happen here tonight. Our rates are up. Szapelski looked pretty relaxed there on gate number three. So we'll watch how he gets on. Do hope that Ty Woffendom after that injury he sustained in a training accident in Denmark. It's really fair. But here we go. The opening race of the night in the principality. Here we go. The green lights on. Ty Woffendom takes her up and we're away. They charge towards the first turn. Younowski fires himself to the front. Woffendom roaring round the outside. But it's Dudek up the inside. But Woffendom powers his way once again. Just about hanging on. No, it's Dudek. Dudek now coming through to hit the front. Younowski running through wide. Possibly an error there in the opening race. Dudek now almost turning the bike inside out. Powers to the front. Younowski selfless in second. Woffendom there in third. Szapelski out the back. Stunning move from Dudek early on, Chris. Fantastic move. Definitely a mistake from Younowski there. You've really got to get that front wheel right home. You can see some of the riders, particularly Ty Woffendom, on his front wheel right over that curve. It's a tricky manoeuvre to make the track as he drops off there. The front wheel becomes very low and he can easily ground out the engine. But they're all at the moment. It's all around the inside. Danerbeck strike for the last time in the opening race here in the principality. Oh, Szapelski there from Dudek. Fires himself to three points. What a start to the night from him. Didn't make the starter gate number two, but Younowski just running slightly wide. Possibly a mistake there from Younowski, but Dudek was ready to bounce. Stunning opening race. Woffendom back in third. Well, once again, we're off to a dynamite start here. There's the result then. Dudek out in front, picks up three points. Younowski back in second two for him. Woffendom third one and Szapelski missing out. Good opening heat, Chris. Yeah, tight opening heat. And that's what these indoor tracks are all about, the one-off tracks, the early heats in particular. You've really got to be focused, just not to drift off the inside line. As soon as you give someone the opportunity, as we saw that time out with Patrick Dudek, they will take it. And he did with both hands. He's found his form. We'll watch it again now. Yeah, Younowski from the inside. He makes a clear start. Absolutely wonderful start. He's done his job there. Surprised to see him running quite so wide, even in the first term, and he got away with it right there. And Patrick Dudek's just patient for the first couple of laps. Keeps the bike around the inside. Look at that front wheel. It's right over the curb. The curb drops off there about another six to eight inches. So easy to ground out the engine, but he didn't do so. He just got it right, creeps up the inside. Once he got his nose in front, no looking back. You've got to keep it around the curb and he's opening a few heats. And he did it in spectacular style. Lovely bit of showboating as he come out of the last corner to complete the race.


you are more eligible for mysticism than ever before. Ask the youth, are they interested without going to the back streets and buying, simply sitting here and stoned out. If entire life is a race, finish line is death. Is that what you want? It's time the youth of this world stand up and demand a more sensitive, humanistic education process for your own growth, well-being and the well-being of the world because this world is yours tomorrow. Mysticism is not some magic. Mysticism is just this, anything that you do not understand or perceive is mysterious to you, isn't it? Yes or no? Let's say this is a thousand years ago, all of you are sitting here, somewhere outside and I came cycling. You had never seen a bicycle, you don't know what's the concept of a bicycle. I came cycling on these tin two wheels. Then I say, I just rode down from heaven and I'm here. You'll leave it. Then I'll pick up somebody who is most inefficient and say, you come, you try, well, can you do this? Of course he will fall down. Then he says, established. I rode down from heaven and things. Because anything that you don't understand looks mysterious to you. Anything that you cannot perceive, if somebody perceived, it looks absolutely magical to you. Isn't it? But today generally, we call this engineering. What was magic at one time is engineering today, isn't it? From here, if I just, along with this seat, if I just float around, it's a wow, what is this new technology? You will not check from which heaven I came from. So I'm saying you are more eligible for mysticism than ever before because you see there are possibilities which we have not yet explored. I'm a little bit perplexed when I'm talking to people who are younger, like, say 20 years old, or in a mode of strengthening their individuality and being actually totally resistant to this idea that they need to let it art down. See, about a year and a half or about nearly two years ago, we launched a movement called Youth and Truth. This is not an advice thing. This is not a religion. This is not some philosophy we're going to advise you how to be. Just you have questions. When you're young, you have lots of questions. Whatever kind of question you bring, we will answer as it's sensible for you in some way that it makes sense to you. And it picked up so much momentum that as I'm saying over 162 universities right now in whites are waiting. We're just not able to go. So what is it that draws them? So I'm in Bangalore city. They've been inviting me to all these under-25 conferences, you know, there are under-25 conferences. Only those who are under-25, somehow I am eligible. Well, nearly 12,000, 13,000 youth are sitting there. Strong smell of marijuana, okay. So there are many ways to approve them. I'm saying a simple way. Just look at my eyes, I'm always stoned. Ask the youth, are they interested without going to the back streets and buying? Simply sitting here and stoned out. Would they be interested? All of them are interested. That's why they're after me. So don't try to teach them a philosophy. Give them a better alternative. Hello? Give them a better alternative. Why will they not go for it? Because youth don't want to listen to the rubbish that the old people are talking endlessly. They're always talking about things which have not worked in their life. When I say it's not worked, I'm saying how people were when they were five, six years of age, how joyful and exuberant they were. By the time they're thirty, how they've become? Has it worked, I'm asking?  Just the reverse has happened, obviously it's not worked. Nonsense has survived for too long on the basis of being the authority. A time has come when no authority will survive. Truth is the only authority. What works lives, what doesn't work dies. Good times. Unfortunately, we have created a movement in the world, education being the core of it. There are many other aspects. Education is the core of it. Where it's always about conquering the world. Right from kindergarten, they're only asking, who is number one, who is number two, who is number three, who is number last. Education is a consequence of the general attitude in the society. We have become a conquering mode. I think this is a fallout from the imperial way of existence that we've had for last three centuries, that we think we are powerful and we are good only when we have everybody at our feet. Well, with technology, with worldwide growth of human aspiration, having everybody at your feet times are over. But still we have not managed to change the education system fundamentally. Here, still you're struggling, who conquers whom? When you want to race with somebody or when you think life is a race, all you want to do is get to the finish line fast, isn't it? Hello?  Hello? Is it what you want? People are telling me that is also happening in the universities, unfortunately. That is also happening, most unfortunate. Why would a young person want to take his own life when they want to take their own life? We are doing something very fundamentally wrong in the society. The main problem is this, we want everybody to be conquerors. Not everybody that has a heart to be a conqueror. Not everybody wants to conquer anything. Hello? Everybody would want to explore, engage, understand, but not everybody wants to conquer. But we have set the whole world in a conquest mode. So the only way is, all the sensitive people will get trampled, the crudest lot will get to the top. Not a good way to structure this society and this world. It's time we change the structures, which make people... education is an important process because nearly ninety percent of the human population is passing through that one sieve, isn't it? Hello? This sieve should become a sensitive, very humanistic sieve. This is... This should not be an imperial sieve. This should not be, you know, an Adolf Hitler or Alexander the Great kind of sieve. Right now we are trying to produce them. We are trying to produce them always. We are trying to produce tyrants who will enjoy other people's failures, isn't it? Hello? I want to be number one means what? I enjoy all of you have failed. Why? Why have we brought this about? It's time the youth of this world stand up and demand a more sensitive, humanistic education process for your own growth, well-being and the well-being of the world because this world is yours tomorrow. And you as one of the people with some direct impact on the land have taken all the challenge of planting 2.4 billion trees to rehabilitate the covering basin in India. To me, 2 billion trees sounds like a really huge number. Well, 2.42 billion trees definitely sounds like a large number. But that number, 1.3 billion people in dry lands which is keeping Abraham awake in the night is what I see as a solution because India's population is about that. So these 1.3 billion people, if all of us commit to plant just 2 trees in the next 12 years, you've got the number, all right, largely. So our problems and solutions are not separate. If we harness a certain dimension, it becomes a solution. If we leave it unharnessed, it becomes a problem. So right now, will we harness this towards a solution or not is the only question. Cauvery calling is addressing Cauvery basin, which amounts for 83 to 84,000 square kilometers. To replenish the soil, you need leaves from the trees and animal waste. But both these things are missing, as I was saying that whatever you do somewhere, somebody is growing it, all right?  So you don't sell only locally because it can always be sold at the other end of the world. So when this is the case, maintaining soil fertility, the richness of biodiversity in our soils is the prime responsibility. That's what Cauvery calling is about. I would like to really finish by thanking you again, Sattgol, for coming to our offices this morning to the UN Convention to Combat Desertification. This is obviously your office. And the work that you do is absolutely in line with the mandate of this convention. And we are very happy to work with the Isha Foundation and develop this partnership. We sincerely hope that there will be more leaders like you from around the world, not only in India, but in other parts of the world, because for someone to dedicate their life into this mandate of sustainable development and a sustainable planet is absolutely essential. So Cauvery calling is a 12 year commitment for me and all the volunteers around me. We need your support to make this happen. We have, we are fully behind it. And we are not looking at just one river. We want this to be a demonstrable model for the rest of the tropical world. Thank you very much. Thank you.


how it happens is that because it's a protective function of the brain separating those things, you're basically not expected to know that this happened to you. And I only understood that. The funny thing is that I always felt like that's the case. I really keep coming back to a drawing that I made in my teenage years where I had four personalities in that drawing. That's not confirmed. I only have two. My teenage self was when I was there. I was already understanding that something must be different with my brain than from a normal brain.


How are you doing? What a beautiful voice you just heard there. Yes, we are back with another interview as you all know. This is that segment we bring in a guest in studio and this guest anakongana mazuri as always. Kavile miskia. But we get to know the artist even better. Kingsley. How are you? I'm not okay. Why? Takwamiya badai. Anyway, guys welcome back, welcome back. This is our guest for today. And it was Kailaki. Kailaki. Okay. Wala niwa najiwa yungo maingin, wanaza kwa kidogo confused, lakini siyo hiyo. Niskaya S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. Yajindetohu na notattchabadточisuhu. Wala thiisetiko, Wan tubeploza justvihu nahaha. Ulianda templesa patakia. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. S-K-E-Y. Mxow lakeni nUsdunia na. Mx wczeen uziuk fencebohiko. Mx sjibasa, ag executives kenushesmana na, sumaldike ni n Sigew grabsawa, plazedu uziunaipلfuwa. 75 la Daniil doensyeen lezi deter. 50 la Disuppiliyunoxurik при Upadboko. Diường, But people's songs Then after our days when I was like Yeah I can do music but before I was doing I was mostly focusing on football Wow, it's interesting you said that you were forced I believe you were forced Because you could not sing in secular So you had to translate it to gospel How are you doing that? Kali riks mi chafu mi chafu But creative it's creative I think there are some people who happen to like some beats that are from secular Plus I was in a family where a lot of people were sowing to Christ So actually they didn't know I'll be a secular artist But when I went to the studio I was struggling a lot writing gospel Automatically just became secular It cool didn't come, gospel just cool didn't So I released my first song and they were like no that's not you So I had to release another one Then they were like okay But they want okay, your family Wow, so are they supporting you now? Because bro you are doing great out here Ama kidogo My music journey is me It's me I've never I've never gotten support from family They never wanted me to do music But I started did business management So after words I just I just called in I sing a deny music Sing a watch a music I just love music too much I can tell this is your passion you know And I'm curious Is that the reason why you wrote this song My life Yeah my life comes okay my mum's late My mum passed when I was five And I don't know my dad But I had he died So my life is the struggle Because I struggled so much Bit being from her Well my background wasn't bad I can say when I was growing I didn't struggle so much Than when I was I got done with high school So it was too much struggle that I didn't find was Too be necessary because my family is okay But since it's my career and I have no option And there's no one to help So I just had to go ahead And actually my first and second song I did I hooked I've hooked For like so it's the longest thing I've done Seven months Hoking Hoking for music I did my first and second song Through hooking Audios Videos is when I had gotten job with taskies So I was able to get good pay And be able to do my first and second video But actually this song is more of come back Because even Ali I couldn't also be myself Because to go to Nambuwa Like right now the way I look And before is different Because Unapata Monyanakit Kayo manager is like For you to get much funds For you to do this And that you have to have feminine energy But that wasn't me So I had to force it for some time In which I couldn't do it after the end of 2019 So I had to stop music for some time Started managing artists And fashion business Then I was like Now it's time for me to come back Because I've gathered myself I've accepted me I've known how to deal with myself And be like Now I can do my music Because that was the only problem If I become me Can I be able to do music again Or people will take it differently You get But I thank God because The love I've been receiving since I started being me And the comment There's no negativity So I'm good All right Umesema You finally accepted who you are How is that How do you come to that conclusion Was it a fight I was fighting against myself Because I have to please family Because they don't like this There's fans of the same time There's friends So at some point You are being who you are not Because of people You get In which at the end of the day It's your life So since I was the one doing for myself Almost everything from after high school It reached a point where I'm like Let me just be mayor At the end of the day I'm the one doing everything It's not like Even if I'm trying to please family Or whatever They are helping me in anything So I just took my time And yeah We're here today Maybe you can just tell guys Where to find you On social media As we proceed My social media handles Are scale lucky Just scale lucky S-K-E-Y-L-U-C-K-E-Y Scale lucky Almost everywhere Actually everywhere Kinsley You got any question I don't know what's going on What's up? What's going on? Whatever you said When you met Wambia I said that's deep Do you have any word To the parents That don't support their kids In what they do How many of you When it comes to Supporting art Come to it While Either while Adoption Aili Aili What do you have to tell them? We are in a very critic generation Where Sometimes we study too much And we end up not even Pursuing what we studied And also Most of the people Who are in universities And staff Because that's what their parents want So that simply means We are not allowed To be ourselves From childhood Because maybe your brother Became a lawyer Your other brother Is a business person Say they expected you To go through the same line And Kenya Is the same How much difference Here to other countries When their children Are being supported Is because When you learn your children When they are young Most of us Is in 1990 Before 2000 We want free With our parents When we are growing So we want We want to sit in a room We want to be in a bedroom We want to get So this is your time Your relation with your parents And the moment you don't have Parental relation Or a parent doesn't have A relation with the child It's hard for you To know even what your child wants When they say My name is Tundu When they say My name is music When they say My name is Sijuia When they say My name is football When they say My name is Pa Because you don't know What their passion is And what's important Ni passion by the way Because art has a lot Art can't be bought Something that is within you That you don't struggle Reading like for years That just comes naturally Is something a lot of people Have to treasure You get So if you take that serious It's easy to make A lot And it can change someone's life Some tumor A lot of talents Have changed A lot of background situations So that's something A lot of parents should consider On the same path Education is very important By the way I want you to come and compliment And go to your talented dean It's in there It's in there It's in there Kusimukweli Pia minili so At the end of the day So it's very important Having knowledge Because it's a music industry Be like your knowledge bro Ok You'll find the person Who has money to go to the studio Has money for the video But where are you going to put it out? That's an investment Because music is an asset So the moment You don't know where you're going To put it For you to get something back from it Then there's nothing you're doing You're just investing for zero That's onapa tawasan You won't walk on a talent But in Afika Point They drop Because they didn't know Why they were doing it Some are doing it for fame Some are doing it out of Disparation Onapa tawasan Contracts Labels And these labels Won't even take you anywhere Because there's something I believe If an artist Didn't reach a certain level And this is something I don't always tell any artist I come through Always in a sign Kwa iwa lebo Kama Uku fika a certain level Because you won't make me Reach there Whether we like it or not Uta takatuni kwe chinia ko Nagat So na, that's the difference With tizi, daimon Every artist in the label Reaches somewhere Because he has reached there But the moment an artist Hasn't Do na pata contractze To mingis na fail Misaniya lingi Apaleji ya desperate Being desperate Then in Afika Point Because you don't want to Hustle for your music You don't want to do anything Ok, drop iwa You're going back to zero You're starting a new YouTube channel Because you don't have knowledge Na izivi tu zote Kilam tu sayakona Access to internet You get It's all about research But we too lazy for that So izoni vi tu Knowledge ya music There's a lot in music Because there's some people Who are making money Even without doing videos In music So You can even be doing that song You applaud it After two months You do your video If you're smart But to kingoja tiju Na na watu Because even this big art Is started from somewhere So piwa na faku puta The back of your mind You have to start from somewhere Talking about knowledge Kuna mani li kwa na skeza So you can do something on social media too Kuna msa ni Very big in the US Nbigi sana But size di Then na li kwa mbigi Nivele sezi sema jiniakia Ata wa kusema Laki ni kuna Mali nipiga research Niki na niki joni naani So li kuna sema kuna Doctorif lani Yeni doctori He has nothing to do with music Adjiki Yesim sa ni Yesim na Mani jasim naani Laki na na kuna Roeltizu msa Yes Nasi wukuna wa sanim baka leo Labels zina Expecialy wuki ingi akwa 360 Una jo watu na sa in contract Na uju at a type of contract you're signing also Because there's 360 There's 180 Kuna difference of how your management is handling you Na wuki sa in 360 That's like selling your soul Your soul You get Because the moment these people drop you You have nothing And you can't do nothing Na una patayo lebo li na kwa Nbi wuki tokahapa You won't record You won't do anything for a number of years Na you know something like talent Uki nda inje Uwambiwe wazi ingi ata studio kufanya anything And it's a rule If you do it Ata iso studio zina jua You get Uki ingi akwa yo studio It's a problem Una pata Una pata say letu na ta kakurudi Kuna wa sanipia wa Kenya wali Go through that I won't mention names But una pata say leon ta kakurudi Kwa game maybe una try ata kuku ingi Into gospel Uwana kaita kubali But it doesn't work It doesn't work Because uli rush Muzik ni safari Angaliya sauti sol Angaliya kina nya This people have taken ten Kina diamond It's a journey If you don't want it to be a journey There's nothing fun about it You have to struggle Alright Seems like you already have You know a proper strategy Of how you manage your Your work Your music Your music Work or career I'm curious Because I've seen you on the Streaming sites I'm curious to know Are these streaming sites Beneficial to you As an artist You know Since Zimeko introduced 2015 Hadisai As an artist to Mecheki At least kuna change Is it streaming Streaming sites in a letter Ama Asu to For school download Is the ups You know For the sake of it Isu atando life Mi atasi angaliyangi YouTube by the way Really? I don't look I don't focus with YouTube I focus with Spotify Shazam Apple Diza You get I focus with these digital platforms Because They can pay me even Before any artist knows That my song is on YouTube Then I do a video You'll think it's a new song But I had a ploy I did some time back Because I can remember In 2019 I survived with music payment So you are doing so well On boom play? Yeah I do so well in boom play I was doing so I was working with Ziki So I can say it paid me For you Nice And these platforms By the way King is a poor Ukiwa na fans to a fiti Uneza li pwo Month li na wunali Pa rent Una fanyani No way Artist get There's money Mr Una nabluwa na semanga Kuna do kenya Kuna do niwewe ju You're the only determinant Because We also expect too much When you're not so big Because I can tell you Kuna wasa niwa bigi wunye Wali kuwa na name Tula wana tukwa TV na wana pata shows But their songs are not in these platforms So Wana tegemea niwa shows Na the moment there's no Nisi zona kuna show So wana sota So wana pata amsani at some point I think wana wasa niwa kitambuki dogo Wani kuwa hit But sayume Rurinuma Ama wana pata wameki into drugs Wameki into Because of depression Because of pressure You get Because Uja gather your knowledge Na utaki Na wana takapiai kuera Nisi jumu Na wana kwa ina pambiyanga Twingia studio Keshokutu atu kuna video Lafu na onatungu wama iku Epoly kuwa Pina ujua teimei ingi You don't even ask yourself that How That's you That's Sige tiki blim Sani afiki riku Alright Let me tell you Because trust me Uki wuliza wunye Anaku manage How they put them Your music there They won't answer you They won't answer you Alright Let me tell you something If you're watching The Bounds today right here Right now And you missed on that Particular beat Panyamu miambiwa What to do as an artist Well, we're not going to repeat that Atu tarubia But 20 luck So in short Kwa nyangoma Juliza wunye kawapi Atu okenda tuwa nike kwa google Where to put music Where to distribute maybe It will answer you Music distribution I think that's very important It will answer you If you want Kenyan platforms They are there If you want to work With outside platforms They are there You get as long as You're a citizen somewhere As long as you have your ID As long as you have everything To do with the documentation There's nothing impossible Alright Please remind people Where they're going to find you On the socials In case Ntuame miss Your beat Aniza kuli zaje Aniza kupataja Kuli ze yoswali Music distribution Sana-sana Skalaki everywhere Atu ita everywhere Maybe spell it S-K-E-Y L-U-C-K-E-Y Alright The lioness The lioness wunyewe Great Watcha twinge Back to the music What song would you like us to play Definitely the new one The new one Maybe that song Also artists need to take time In their songs You need to take time Because you need to know What you're putting out here Can be listened So I struggled with that I struggled with that He knows that So the moment when I release Music yungu Si nijuna jua My music is so unfamiliar With a lot of people You get But it's something they can listen But because Kuna wa tutu wa shawe kuwa Ondo anafanga kuwa paju You won't be listened to So the only way you can Look for something for yourself Is just research And eat While you're seated in your house Or if you want to work Kuna mtu anaka kwenyuma naanaan Whether kuna mtu kaziya Ketu ni kuskuma mziki Nga angoja endman Please nipeni His skills na kwenyuma naato Is all my jobs Future prospects Future prospects What you expect from them What you've seen there Is a lot of me And there's going to be A lot of me You get Yes Regardless, though There's a lot of limitation In the industry, but Ata o tile wile ali kujanangu Maile ake na legs ilia Bounds ali sema Eh, suno na lidili tihila Kitu kongram Aka sema it's time for him To do music That can go out there Because ashajuwa Yes, beat him being a star Here He still needs to go there Out there So sometimes you can start Ali if you want Because ushajuwa But okay I don't know Kitu na ito Ono na kama mi Mi nili slag behind Because I was pleasing people Because this is what my people wanted But at the end of the day Kuna fans Uengisa na onatika kuniskeza Ako inje And that's the only way I can make it You get So what do I do I have to explore Music is for everybody Not for specific people Alright Great You know what to do Just stick around there We'll be back with another interview There's another guest in studio And of course Kingsley got you on the Music My name is Kaya Jessa Yes Into Kingsley Right now


So, let's build the structure carbon dioxide from its Lewis structures, okay? So, CO2 is carbon dioxide, everybody's cool with that, right? So, the first thing we want to do is write the three atoms, okay? So, which of these atoms can make the most bonds? Carbon or oxygen? Carbon. Carbon. Okay? So, that's probably going to be your central atom. And in fact, in this case, it will. So, let's draw Lewis structure of carbon, Lewis structure of oxygen. And again, I'm just drawing these in this particular way because I know how I'm going to bond them. So, how many bonds would you expect carbon and oxygen here? Two. Two, right? Why? Because oxygen needs its octave good, right? Is everybody okay with that? What about over here? Same. What will happen when you do both of these oxygens bonded to this carbon with double bonds? Yeah, so you'll have two double bonds, a double bond here and a double bond here, right? You'll have a full octet on this oxygen, full octet on this oxygen and also like you were saying, only the full octet on the carbon. Is everybody okay with that? So, yeah. You know it's a double bond because there's two of the other oxygens, right? So, there's two spaces here, right? And there's four spaces here, okay? So, let's just put it together and you'll see and see if you'll have that same question, okay? So, remember our fish oak arrows? So, again, if it's hard for you to do this, just go straight from just this kind of structure to bonding, you can do that intermediate thing like I was saying. Like they used to do in the early 1900s. They'll show you the like that, right? Is everybody okay with that? Now I know it looks very strange, right? But you can see 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 around oxygen, right? 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 around carbon. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 around oxygen. So, again, we want to draw it like a modern person, so that's carbon dioxide. So, some things that we'll learn about carbon dioxide in a little bit, but I'm going to give you a preview since we're recording this thing, is that when you look at the bonds, right, you should realize there's going to be a difference in electronegativity between carbon and oxygen. Is everybody cool with that? Yes, no? Yes. Okay, so yes, right? Which one of these is more electronegative? Oxygen. In fact, it's one of the more electronegative elements. That's one of those three that you might want to remember, the very electronegative ones, okay? So, if I said which way is the negative charge being pulled in each of these bonds, or if you want to think of which way is the partial positive and the partial negative in these bonds, right? So, carbon, when looking at this bond here, is going to have a partial positive and the oxygen will be a partial negative. Is everybody okay with that? Same thing over here, but partial positive and partial negative, there. Okay, is everybody okay with that? And also, the amount of pulling that this negative will have is the exact amount of pulling that that negative will have. Is everybody okay with that? Okay. So, this structure is a linear structure. All of these atoms are in the same plane, okay? They're in a line. Another way to depict this is through these vector arrows. The butt of the arrow has a plus sign, indicating that it's the positive section, okay? And the head of the arrow means negative. That's a negative picture in chemistry as arrow does. But notice, they're pulling equal but opposite in nature, right? So, even though, so would you say this bond is polar or non-polar? The bond is polar or non-polar? Polar, right? Why? It's because there's a difference in electronegativity. Yeah, there's partial charges, okay? The bond itself is polar. But if you asked if the whole molecule is polar, you would say no because they're pulling opposite charges. So, it's like pulling tug-of-war. Two people pulling tug-of-war that are of equal strength. You're not going. So, the bonds are polar, but the molecule itself is non-polar. We'll talk more. Yeah. Yeah, so it would be polar then because there would be a difference of electronegativity, right? So, we'll talk more about this. And in fact, this is a linear molecule. So, when we get other geometries of molecules, you'll see that they may be polar or non-polar just due to their various geometries, okay? Are there any other questions on this? Cool.