Hi, I'm Coach Corey Wayne and this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be I married the woman from hell. I've got a special guest today Mr. Anthony dream Johnson also known as the president of the manosphere. Yes, sir. Thanks for coming by. Yeah, man So you probably heard me say this before is that no matter how bad you think you got it in life There's always somebody that's got it worse. If you remember the video I did just in the past week It was a guy that had been dating this girl for I think they were together about three years and he found out after he'd had a kid with her Had kind of mingled their family. You know, she had a child from a previous relationship He had two kids from another relationship So they kind of merged their families together if you will and then basically he found out that She was a sugar baby and been selling nude pictures of herself since she was 17. She's now 25 And I guess had several men that were giving her money some of them. She was sleeping with and Obviously as you can imagine the dude was pretty devastated and he's been following my work for quite a few years And so I kind of went through in the video and critiqued some of the things where along the way There were red flags and he just kind of Because he really liked her and she was hot.  He's had it worse What's interesting about my story is that you know, I had this Leadership position the man is here for a long time before I met my ex-wife and obviously since then now, you know the president saying stuff So the fact that this happened to me If just looking at an observational basis That was kind of fascinating itself that this would happen to someone like me in the middle of a lot of speakers like you Similar to you anyway that have a lot of good messages from men that are legitimately controversial and strong and positive So at a base level for this to happen to someone like me was you know a big surprise to a lot of people a lot of fans We when I gave the speech a lot of fans were initially confused because they weren't even they didn't even know She wasn't at the conference. They thought she was interviewing somebody or something like that because that's what she used to do for us for a couple years So this is a man-sphere community kind of thing was fascinating for it to happen. You're supposed to be immune. Yeah Yeah, that's right. Yeah, I was surrounded by guys who are legitimately a lot of these speakers are not just Coaches and you know things like that and other you know speakers to doctors and you know FBI agents Navy SEAL is a lot of cool people But a lot of these guys are also just absolute slayers of women A lot of speakers have notch counts that are like two to three four hundred and stuff like that So they have whether you prove that or not morally you these guys have real experience of women That is like not normal You know the average guy in America has a notch kind of like seven or something like that over a lifetime according to CDC Anyway to kind of get get back to the experience itself in the story of marrying the woman from hell I gave a speech on this this experience and it's gone viral It's got about 400,000 views going in on half a million soon and it's called marrying Medusa how to survive a female psychopath So the title alone is super you know triggering and the story is interesting And there's a good hook at the beginning and your fans can actually go watch this on YouTube They can go type marrying Medusa and it should pull right up And I think one of the reasons to they don't viral Isn't just that you know I was this figure running a conference and had a YouTube channel and all that that dealt with a lot of these issues Dating and relationships and masculinity and all these things It's also like I think it's probably the most intense like you mentioned Presentation on this experience ever happening to a man that was then presented in public So without being a celebrity or something like that I'm not like Johnny Depp and Amber Heard and that kind of you know should show gone on right now But I was a young man that a lot of people could relate to and this story You know I gave the facts on what happened as best I could for two hours and like a formal You know Ted talk style presentation And it was pretty bad.  We did the under 21 convention But a lot of the guys were immediately some of them almost in tears is hearing this stuff on like an empathy level like holy fucking shit, dude Other guys could also relate to me They actually would say that you know my experience wasn't quite as bad But I can relate to you on like that point in that point and that experience and all that See it was basically it was a nightmare That's it's more complex than that though because like a lot of it was a good time I mean this chick was you know super hot had a really good time.  So a couple days from now I went from thinking that my wife was monogamous and loyal. We've been married for two years and dated for two and a half before that I Thought she was monogamous and loyal. I found out she was cheating With one guy I found this two pictures Then I found out she had been cheating with a lot of guys the whole time she I got her to admit this and Then I found out she was had been a prostitute for a long time an escort I'm not a prostitute like she wasn't like a street walker like an escort She actually called herself a high-end.  Yeah, exactly So these days, you know, who knows what she's doing now, but these days you would see this more like sugar dating But really it was escorting is what she was doing. She did this before I met her in other relationships She did it when we were dating and I found out she had been doing it. We were married She didn't need the money.  These are like epic, you know, but the guy you mentioned with just recently You know that you did the video on It sounds like he was dating a single mom. He got married to her. He knocked her up.   This was not I don't think her family knew this this her family was very surprising to hear this I think I think they had the brother for example. I think he knew that she was kind of like super mischievous But I don't think they knew she was a hooker like this This was a big shock to her family and stuff like holy shit and to me as well all my friends and stuff But when a lot of these guys get roped into these relationships So there was mine or that guy and you know a lot of your fans will have been through experiences like this These women are not just bad women that act out.  She builds a baby. I know right People thought I should have kept her and like pimped her out basically and I was like man I'm not I'm not down with that But good thinking right good, you know be a hustler But yeah, I mean this is this is disordered behavior. This is malignant behavior that destroys relationships. It destroys lives Fortunately, we didn't have any kids together and I also protected myself legally. I never got legally married to her I'm firmly opposed to any kind of legal marriage in the West today I think the government I support the position of like senator Rand Paul and congressman former congressman Ron Paul The marriage should be a private Ceremony a private religious kind of institution and the government should have very limited involvement in it Maybe for example, if you have a contract or civil union kind of thing going on That's it and the way we do marriage today with government heavily involved I think it's a bunch of nonsense and as a result men get you know screwed over in divorce court and family court every day And I didn't want to go through that As a you know is being a part of the man's fear and run in the conference I knew enough from the pickup artists in the men's red skies It was like something is really off with marriage today in the West and I'm not okay with that I don't want to get involved with that regardless of the trick You know, I thought she was of course amazing. I thought she was this unicorn love my life all that a Lot of that there was those fake. I mean that was her playing to my values playing to what I wanted Well beyond the level that would be considered healthy a woman may be adopting what a man wants and responding to that Everything that everything the people not just women that basically told you what you wanted to hear and you were a predisposed and believe it Yeah, she told me I wanted to hear at a really extreme level just like her behavior wasn't just promiscuous. It was criminal I mean, this is like deliberately, you know prostitution in Florida is not legal. This is in Nevada So the behavior that people personality disorders do tends to be really exaggerated almost cartoonish And that's what she did the rampant lying the rampant cheating the prostitution like all this stuff It's very abusive behavior at a really bizarre level just like what that guy went through and she wasn't just kind of like lying A little bit about this.  She did I think yeah after how long you're dating About a month About a month. Yeah, when it was like the first red flag that you're like Oh, yeah, let's get into that.  It's nuts to me. She didn't she had like 10 or something I was like, that's reasonable. Like that's that's interesting. Most girls are like not like that She had a house and it was put together. It was clean and that was that was not just the beginning I was consistent for years and it wasn't like some weird She was older too, right? It was older than me. Yeah, that was that was a big mistake How many how many years older was seven seven years? Yeah, I mean she looked young though She looked a lot of people thought I was older than she was Growing up in Florida. I've always on the Sun and stuff So I've looked like a lot older than I am for years. It seems to be leveling out now at 30 31 But yeah, there are plenty of red flags like that movement I moved in with her really fast a few months after we started dating My lease ended on my place and it was you know convenient. It's how a lot of guys get ripped into that stuff So moved in too fast which is a big red flag that she would even want that moving too fast all that stuff and Women with personality disorders tend to push that stuff, too Like we mentioned earlier to women are good at you know seeing through your bullshit and finding chinks in your armor Women with personality disorders borderline personality disorder Antisocial personality disorder all that they're like that to the max Like they will not only find weak chink weak links you have and rip them open We'll find we'll generate more if they can we'll find insecurities and magnify them and amplify them So they're very destructive and that keeps you guessing and doubting yourself. They want me I did something wrong. Maybe maybe I was a little bit of a jerk and maybe I should apologize and they want to distort your sense of Reality between right and wrong and what what's true and what's what's false. I look gas like the hell out of you You know through the roof So it's a lot of very negative destructive behavior and it's it's their own unresolved trauma Mixing with some of yours, but they're like the active initiators of this stuff and they're for their predatory And like one of the things I mentioned the speech that people found pretty pretty interesting As most guys look at the sexual marketplace They'll go to girl and they want to I mean, this is super common in the man's fear and beyond that They rank a girl right 1 to 10, you know, she's a 10. She's a supermodel. She's super hot. She's exactly what they want You know across maybe a variety of factors physicality personality whatever it Boops, but looks you know age or whatever the case is Down to one there, you know overweight ugly hideous all that stuff I think it's actually a mistake and I think that women with personality disorder is actually represent negative value to your life So if you look at it like a diagram, you have like 10 Zero if they're like, you know hideous Then you have a negative 10 spectrum and I think that these women that you know the goes into the energy vampires They're vampires exactly they're vampires. I call them sharks like sharks swimming in the depths of the ocean You look at like an ocean But they really are predatory and they're dangerous to your life much more so than a normal woman even could be Even considering things like false rape allegations false domestic violence allegations Women like this are and men like this too, right? These people exist the vipers as we call them They're dangerous The possibility for cheating is way higher Relationship abuse emotional abuse false allegations. I was worried about that when I split up with her In Florida, for example, there's like a two-year statue and some of these false allegations for the server the first two years I was like, holy shit Is she gonna fall seek use me of whatever because she's pissed about the video She does she is aware of the video, of course, and she wants it taken down which I'm like, nope So that's that But yeah, I think women with personality disorders I mean, they're a chunk of the population just like men they say up to 15% of people have cluster B personality disorders And it's not always obvious, you know Some of these chicks will have a bunch of tattoos and they have very obvious daddy issues and they're kind of unhinged Those are like lower functioning versions of this But not a woman are like that. Some of them have these disorders and they're higher functioning They're able to navigate like my ex-wife for whatever reason smart clever motivated whatever the case is They'll navigate the tattoos zero tattoos zero. That's what I'm saying like dude I've personally found the more tattoos a girl has the higher they are in the crazy scale In a way that you can see that's that that's the problem with some of this So she had zero tattoos before I knew her with her and beyond. This is coming from a guy It's a several girlfriends that had tattoos. Yeah. Yeah, she had no it's not that I don't like women without tattoos It's just you tend to get a higher when I compare them versus women I've dated that had none the women had none had good relationships with their dad We're pretty level-headed The ones that had tattoos father was missing or they had several fathers so I kind of like girls that have tattoos because Now these things you're saying are true the issue is they're showing you their trauma They're physically expressing it on their body by you know marking up an organ their skin And that has problems with it like you're saying and I agree with you The issue is is when if they have those problems and they don't express them in a way that you see they hide them And those are the ones that are the most dangerous. They're covert narcissists.   That's right. I even shared that quote it is on my yeah, punch back ten times harder The issue is is that narcissism is not I don't think he's disorder I don't think it's personality disorder But the way he expresses narcissism on purpose for strategy or whatever he's doing in his life Whatever goal he has business or presidency or whatever. He's expressing it openly and outwardly. It's over It's the covert narcissist male or female.   This is not a purpose and That was emotionally very traumatic. It was the first time in life. I had very serious Emotional trauma from a relationship like that Everything before that was you know peanuts compared to that. It was devastating. This is a woman that you know I lived with for you know over four years was married to you know loved her.   I'll tell you when we get done Filming that I can't say on camera, but yeah, I choke some chickens. Yeah But like you mentioned to those so there was some things that were not you know, she had no weird piercing she had one She used to have one or belly button, but she took she got rid of it and she had a piercing You know just like on her ear lobes and that's it So there was no she wasn't covered to head to toe in tattoos There was anything weird like that. She was not overweight. She was put together She stayed fit the whole time we were together Super tried wife too. So I was one of the things too.  Oh, yeah. Yeah, like do really yeah, that's that's that's you know I should have mentioned the speech. That's one of the reasons.   What's such a show?   Yeah, well, I think she would I think she would I don't know if she felt guilty or not.  I'll never I'll never forget I mean how many times you're gonna marry a hooker in Vegas? We got married in Vegas, too By the way, I was my idea. We didn't meet in Vegas. We met in Florida We lived in Florida, but I wanted to get out of Florida. So I picked Vegas By the end of the day, you know, I didn't know she's a hooker So it's like I'm ready to hook her in Vegas like what else is new So what other kinds of red flags did you see along the way? Were there things you saw in the beginning that you were like that's not right about that But then you just dismissed it well one of them for example, I didn't know so there's a couple I didn't know how to interpret so for example when she didn't have tattoos I didn't understand why she didn't have tattoos which the end of the day I think it's because she had she has MPD.  So tattoos interfere with that That's the reason she didn't get tattoos not because she didn't have trauma She hid the trauma and expressed it in other ways so cheating prostitution and stuff like that So it's the tattoos are not as important as why someone has them or doesn't have them Which is what I realize now. So that's not That's advice people need to hear but it's not as easy to understand and apply in real life I mean, it's irresponsible for applying it and it's complicated sometimes. This is a really good example that I know chicks are Way less crazy than my ex-wife who have a bunch of tattoos that they just kind of own it It's just who they are they get marked up because they were traumatized or whatever Another one knows that her dad asked her early on because when our speakers talked about this and I liked it He was like always ask a woman what her relationship is like with her father So early on first or second day at aster's like what's relationship like with your dad and she pops back Oh, he died like a long time ago years ago Which was true and I had never had a girl that I wanted to bang before it, you know all that Wanted to date. I never had one say that to me It was you know dad was always alive because I was young I was 22 when I met her about to be 23 So that kind of like I was like, oh shit like a stuff in a landmine and so factually that was true Her dad had died years before, you know, I met her like 10 years or something like that But I didn't know how to handle that and it wasn't told, you know I don't know probably a year or two later that we got more into the issues You have with her father and what that was like So I asked a good question early on that men should ask generally But I was so young and inexperienced with that specific kind of question probing I didn't know how to handle it and of course, you know, I'm not having the father is a very deep wound and someone like that If she wasn't, you know that old she was like 30 at the time But yeah, not having a father. She never talked about the relationship. She had with him Well, she had played it like she didn't want to get into it because it was so painful Which is partly true. It's just later on. I found out how dysfunctional was and stuff like that and By that point we had already been together for probably here at that point. Yeah, that's one of the big things Man, it's like women to love their dads They're proud of them. They talk about them. Absolutely. And if you got a woman, it's evasive. Yes You know, you got to pay attention.  So Yeah, there's a red flag I missed and frankly I didn't understand how to navigate it at that point when a girl's father had died at this point of her girl's father's dead. That's Unfortunate but it's almost a red flag in itself for girls if he dies when she's 30, but she doesn't want to talk about it Yeah, what 37 at the time? No, she was 30. She was 30 at the time. Yeah, and he died when how old was she when she was she was probably like 22 23 So it'd been you know many years not a super long time, but a good chunk of time.  They've had in their life So without that because he died or because it was abusive or whatever like yet It's a it's a bad thing. There was no uncles or grandfathers that she was close to or anything like that Actually met her her grandfather a great grandfather. Yeah, she did she was I met her grandfather one point up in Michigan She was close with him, but it wasn't like it wasn't like a father relationship It wasn't like a substitute. Yeah, she got into a jam or needed advice She's not gonna pick up the phone call him. Correct. Yeah, she was close with her grandma a lot too But her grandma died Probably two three years before I met her So that was the whole thing too, but some other red flags.  Yeah, of course not of course not but generally they tend to be like I mean look, I'm gonna tell you right now almost every nurse. I bang is fictits and I'm a big fan. I think fictits are wonderful The issue is it's like why do you have them outside of a relationship? I'm a do so did not a fictits what I met her, but she was a nurse and eventually in their relationship She did get fictits which I was like fuck.  I didn't pay for them So that was great Anyway, though the nurse thing is a problem to be honest. She didn't pay for him.  You're fun Somebody be easy. These are they're older than her even right there were like late thirties and forties It was like it'd be easy it's five hundred bucks, right?    That's how specifics on the evidence I found was too and that's part of what made the speech compelling.  I thought that was pretty good And at face value those kind of things are good The end of the day. I did not have the experience With women or in life to navigate some of the more complex ones that were she was hiding things or compensating for things too An example would be the elaborate dinners and grocery shopping.  Exactly.  I didn't get any STDs from it. Thank God when I fight when I figured out She's prostitute. I merely went to get you know, tracked and I was like when I remember when they called me I was actually started crying when like a week later I got the results and I had zero STD is a I thought I was I thought I had something I'm like, there's no free last free last. Thank God almighty. We are free.  Fuck. No, I had nothing at the end of the day But I figured I had something and I didn't and I was like so you were gonna be Charlie Sheen, huh? Yeah, exactly. I didn't know I was like dude. I mean this this hit me so fast like a ton of bricks It was just wild But the other day I learned a lot about women a lot about myself It was a pivotal experience in my life and the speech I think it's an expression of that I think that's why it's part of the reason it's gone viral I think you talked about it was something very relational for men to learn from and it's very raw I curse a lot in the video probably too much But you know, it's an expression of the passion intensity of what I went through lots of cursing happens on my channel Yeah, yeah, I tend to be my monetization detriment But I take all challengers for dropping f-bombs and I tend to win I have a few close like Hunter drew a buddy of mine on our speakers. We both dropped like a bunch of f-bombs and we speak Yeah, it was a wild experience and I'm glad it happened I'm glad I made the mistakes I did with her with the red flags for example Because ultimately that relationship was long-term useless like I should have never been in the first place at minimum due to the age Quite frankly in your line of work I mean the way I look at things is what happened happened and it couldn't have happened any other way That's right. It had to happen. Yeah for you to you know, because that makes you a better speaker or better coach a better teacher Well, now you got something that some some kid might be 16 18 19 years old and they hear it And then five years from now they start dating girl and those little things are happening That's right. I remember when president Johnson experienced that well I knew you know for example the speakers that I can mention for years I talked about you know energy vampires and women who are you know toxic for you and not good for you And I would hear that and I didn't really understand it and looking back on it I can see why I didn't understand it because I'd never experienced it at a very visceral in your face level I had bang girls all these girls in college and stuff, but they were like the worst ones were just kind of like You know wild party chicks that were kind of like unhinged and shit with tattoos and whatnot Which comparatively is not that bad versus a professional hooker who's good at manipulating men and getting money from them and you know didn't all this toxic shit So I had to learn the hard way that there are dangerous women out there.  That's right. Yeah I think we literally got married. We had a wedding. Anyway, I mentioned the private marriage We never got legally married, but we did have a wedding that both families come out We had a honeymoon in Hawaii for a week.   Thanks. Yeah Yeah, a few people that's masculinity there. It's like, no, yeah, not willing to compromise even a means means you leave You know what I'm a good good friend of mine. He he was uh, this is back We were in our 20s and he was engaged and his then fiance was gilded shit about something and he didn't like like I don't know what she said But she was kind of I think at a way threatening about something and he was just like, well, give me my ring back. Nice. She looked She was taken back and you know, she started crying and you know, he was He he was gonna do what he wanted.  Wow He's one of the few few guys I listened to when When we talk about dating Put down as probably part of the reason that relationship is stood for so long Yeah, having the boundaries and the enforcement of those boundaries.  It's just they're driven that way. They're you know, feminine energy is driven to test Masculine strength.  You're gonna get treated like one. That's right That's harsh reality. You like it or not. It's like, sorry I didn't make women this this way. You don't like it. Talk to the big man upstairs Now we're gonna make women great again. Now we're gonna make women great again at the convention So What at what point did tell me about how it all unraveled we're like your perfect world just What tell me this I mean things at the end were pretty rocky anyway But we started a wedding anniversary and it was February 2nd. We got married on Super Bowl Sunday actually that year in 2014.   They can only keep the mask on for so long No, that depends on their motivation and other factors like how competent are they how smart are they In her case, I think she was highly motivated for whatever reason from pain trauma Whatever, right like one of my friends said her her marriage to me was a scream for normalcy She had been not normal for so long had been a prostitute for so long Had lived this kind of double life that she wanted to get away from it And she saw me as a pathway or tool for doing that along with whatever other motivations and fucked up shit she had going on Uh, but yeah, so eventually the the mask slips whether that's you know, six months in two years in or in my case A little bit over four years and things started getting starting to unravel How would that look like what specifically happened? Oh man, that's a whole fucking was it fighting or you're not getting along was she being visioned to you like I don't even know where to beginner There's some of the stuff I can't share on camera because I don't have evidence for it So I don't want to get like defamation stuff.  Would obviously the red flags are you got too serious too fast? Yes You um Which is bad in general But it's especially bad when a woman is pushing like, you know full speed no breaks for that stuff That's the symptom of personality disorder. It's not a girl that likes you too much and just kind of digging into it Like too much. It's that there's an agenda behind it. There's a there's a it's fake basically Yeah Um, so you want to keep going into it though? Yeah, well the red flags that so overall, what are the what are the red flags? You miss that, you know, so they're the 18 20 the 22 year old guys that's watching this that He doesn't know yet, but maybe next week or in a couple weeks. He's gonna meet a similar girl It's like yeah, what's he got to be in the lookout for? Uh, number one if it, you know, this is a very old school saying but it's true And if it's too good if it sounds or looks too good to be true, it probably is So in this case, you know her being Being older was a problem in itself But her being just this girl who happened to be single and all this stuff It was hot and you know, it was really into me. It's it was just too much too fast Especially with the values and the way she's playing to what I you know telling me I don't want it to hear Not just telling me but acting to what I wanted to hear too I even had a friend early on which when he one of my best friends met her We did a camping trip together. I did a camping trip every year of my friends We had you know from 10 to 20 of us went out And actually said to me and this is very common for these kind of relationships with people of a personality disorder He said, uh, dude, she's like a male aversion of you And he meant that sincerely and he meant to I think it's a compliment at the time The problem is that she was not a male version of me And you don't want I don't think you should want that anyway men and women are different and You don't need a fucking you know a female version of yourself with tits I don't think that's a healthy relationship to have It's okay to be different from your partner or from your you know your girlfriend or whatever But anyway, she was you can have similar goals or values or you're gonna be clashing all the time You should yeah, but there's room for differences too and they can be substantial Uh, you don't have to have like all the same hobbies for example and shit like that Yeah, I had a girlfriend that was a uh socialist and I just yeah, we butted head on heads on just so many things that We saw the world completely opposite in a lot of ways. Yeah, it's like trying to have that discussion.  Well, my friend making that comment though that to me This is actually studied and talked about in uh books and things like that that discuss these kind of toxic relationships It's a really early sign that your friends will notice The partner whether you're male or female or wherever the girl is sort of the words the red flag is she's Putting on an an act and she's she's so much like you she's too much like you and that that should be concerning Yes, it should be concerning especially if your friends are noticing it Not just you because you're in the middle of it and you're the target I mean, this is literally predatory behavior.   Yeah. Yeah Um, if you're maga's swipe left, yeah Honestly, you know, I know some of your fans meant I like it the girls But you know, uh massage therapists tend to be really like odd They tend to have a lot of weird beliefs and she even she even told me this like all her friends Yeah, they're all like nuts Well, they honestly they are like I've met other massage therapists and they tend to be like in a really weird stuff Hey, it's a free country deary thing. But it's like the hairstylist, right? Hairstylist girls are always like kind of wild Uh, you know good for a night. Maybe not good for you know a relationship or building a family Uh nurses again, not in all cases though So I'll be getting out of there of course, of course not but a lot of them Uh, similarly, you don't you know, this isn't this is another level, but you don't intentionally date strippers Like they're notorious for having unlimited problems Any guy I ever know who's been banging strippers or knows them or worked at a nightclub.   Particularly if she's using her body Not in her case, she wasn't but I would say in general If a woman is using her body and her physicality to get money in her job, that's a bad thing Even something the bartender If she's a bartender, some girl you're into is a bartender to bar She's constantly wearing push-up bras to get more tips Her it's been normalized for her to use sexuality to get money to make it like super transactional Not like a relationship or trading values, but she's literally trading sexuality for cash And that's not prostitution, but that's not healthy. It's not healthy at least for someone You want to build a relationship with in my opinion? I'll eat wool and let me say this it's something to watch out for Just like tattoos, right? Maybe not the end of the world. Maybe, you know, some bartenders are worth dating A lot of them make or not Because they're constantly trading the woman anyway sex for money or sexuality for money You don't want that in your life Unless you just want to go go that angle and you know go to town I've been there done that and wouldn't recommend it So those last few months you guys were together you said it was already were you just not getting along? What was what was different? What had changed? I mean she tried shutting that she tried this early on and she tried it again later She tries sort of example six months after we got married. She tried shutting the sex off To whenever she wanted Whereas up to that point this has been this had been two and a half three years at this point We had sex every day whenever I wanted which is every day I'm just you know, I'm super young super horny like that, right?  I even say this in the speech I was like, hey, like I didn't sign up for that. I love you, but I'm not okay with that We've been having sex every day pretty much for you know years and we're gonna keep doing that or I'm gonna leave Tomorrow like in 24 hours.  It was kind of a repeat of the six month thing Because a lot of this is planned, right? It's all fake. It's her playing to what I want to hear doing what I want It's not real and it's not genuine fashion So do you wish you knew you feel that she was never in love with you never really cared It was all an act in her part. That's a good question. That's something I've I've thought a lot about I think early on it was a lot more genuine Uh, just the newness of it and stuff like that. I'll be that could be bullshit too though It's hard to say a good book you should read 3 man. Yeah. Yeah interesting. Yeah, I look for I ordered my copy today actually Yeah, get your book now understanding relationships.com. Oh by the way You can definitely get you can read 3 man and mastering yourself my second book at understandingrelationships.com Like I do subscribe to email newsletter So it is a really good question Part of it why it's complicated to answer is I don't know if she's even capable of loving someone Genuinely and in a meaningful way in an adult mature way. I really don't know And that's not just unique to her that's unique that's specific to anyone with a personality disorder That makes relationships basically impossible Like one of the key characteristics of women with borderline personality disorder is abandonment issues Usually from a dad. So we call these daddy issues in everyday language, but really it's abandonment issues And basically they're so dysfunctional in their personality and their psychology They make it impossible to be in a long-term relationship with them They engage in behaviors that make it impossible to stay with them So in her case for example, uh, I told her early on I have zero tolerance for violence domestic violence and zero tolerance for cheating You ever hit me? You ever cheated on me? I'm gone immediately. Which in the end is what I had to do She acted and now she did she cheated on every boyfriend she ever had as far as I know That's what she told me like you mentioned that in the earlier tooth some of the other stuff. She told me flat out I was like, whoa And of course that was never disclosed because that would have made me watch out. Yeah, you found that out at the end I found that out at the end now that so she hid a lot of stuff to like you mentioned some of the red flags She put to her credit She put in the effort to hide a lot of this as best she could And then on top of that there was some what appeared to be genuine green flags like the no tattoos So a lot of this was convincing especially when I was young and did no better um Don't know where I was going with that but uh somewhere interesting We were talking about red red flags things to look for yeah, how things spiraled out of control. Yeah at the end. Yeah, yeah, yeah Yeah, I mean it wasn't it wasn't like we were about to get divorced any day But you know things were not as good at the end. I think the mass was slipping She was getting tired of the act for whatever reason it had served whatever purposes she wanted like for example One of the speakers the guy who married us actually I had a speaker be the officiator basically in vegas He said Later on that he thought a lot of the marriage to me or the wedding specifically to Was to like get back at her mom like her mom was there obviously And there was some animosity that we didn't know a lot about between her and the mom So marrying me was kind of like ha ha I can do it and like fuck you kind of thing like a like a revenge kind of thing And that was a support for that Oh, you mentioned the love thing Yeah, so the acting ways to make it impossible to date them long term and in my case I like I mentioned I had zero tolerance explicitly for Violence any kind of dv and any kind of cheating zero What I didn't understand for example and telling her that it's good to have clear boundaries like that It's good to put your foot down and make that clear off the bat In her case that was this information That was like intel like oh now I know what I have to hide Don't ever let him know because there'll be no forgiveness and there wasn't The minute I found out she was cheating I took the ring off in like 10 15 minutes And within an hour I had announced to my you know my family and friends that were done That's it leaving as soon as I can And I did leave in real life probably four or five days later. I had to pack up all my shit, you know moved to Orlando Where were you living at the time? I'll be hikers fort meyers. It's almost for misery. Yeah for misery. Yeah See is another mistake that's where I'm from. Yeah That's my hometown Friend of mine is from fort meyers. I went to high school with and he used to always call it for misery But that was that was 30 years ago. It's obviously changed a lot since it's probably not any better I'm actually from Cape Coral Cape coma Home of the nearly dead newly wed. I don't want the high school for meyers. So I know the area pretty well They were living in lehigh acres, which is it was right on the border of fort meyers like right nearby Yeah, but I wanted to get away from her. I knew I was like this is first of all I'm holding true to my values.  So that's fun and vice versa obviously and zero cheating. I never cheated on her So how did you find out that also did you see her phone? Like what was what was the magic? What was pandora's box?   Like why don't I this is my wife? Like why don't I trust her like this is being stupid? So I let it go for about two weeks. So I was like, all right I'm just being I'm just being ridiculous and being paranoid, you know Kind of a lot of the shit they would tell men today, right to feel this stuff Like from a feminist perspective like toxic masculinity like I'd be so controlling, right? But I trust I was even two weeks. Trust your guy. Yeah So two about two weeks later. I'm like man something, right?        Hey, hey, you ain't got a meeting I forgot about Oh, she was she was deer in the headlights like Like she it just absolutely froze whole body absolute deer in the headlights froze But I invited my friend over too because I was again at this point. I knew everything was done I knew she was cheating and I was worried about as a witness basically Yeah, false tv, you know false right ballad stuff So I'm glad I brought him over and then from there she actually denied everything.   We call it in the red pill part of the atmospheric trickle truth, right? And eventually that led to she had been cheating the whole time on and off of all kinds of guys And then she let slip the prostitution thing kind of like off the hand.  I left like a day later anyway But that little slip is what led me to actually dig through I mentioned the speech I ended up digging through her phone records because we had like a shared account Email records stuff like that And that's when I found all the prostitution So this all happened like super fast too. This happened like 10 days From we're together no cheating, but I was a little bit suspicious To one guy to a bunch of guys to escort style prostitution Yeah, and then she spent about three months trying to get me back Uh, now she didn't know that I knew about the escorting.   Uh, to that guy, yeah And married him for real I think so they well they got married in November Uh, I don't know if it was legal. He's probably all happy with himself.  I have no idea what she's up to she changed her last name again, obviously and her first name So like I have no idea what she's up to people. She changed her first thing. Yeah. Yeah, that's I mean I'd say you tell the the identity crisis the identity issues.   It's weird Unless you have a really really really good reason like your parents named you like Fart or something Short of that. I think that's pretty weird. The last name doesn't make sense obviously Be the first name. That's a big no no that was a red flag too. I missed I just took that as That was a you know a few months into marriage you change her name And the fact that she even wanted that I thought that was weird and you know, I put my foot down on it But I didn't I didn't understand The one for that is a red flag in itself like why would you even want that?  Oh, she wanted to change her first name. Yeah When you guys got married, yeah And so after we spooled up she went and did that on her own obviously Oh, wow Gotta cover our tracks for the next the next victim as he comes along. It might be for the speech I mean, obviously the speech that has her name in it, which was the time was merrily johnson At this time, I don't know what her name is.  She literally deleted herself from your life on the internet or from the internet Yeah to hide from the speech Yeah, wow, I mean it's gonna make it hard for her to uh I had a guy that uh I did a phone session with how many years ago it was but he'd been with his wife, I think like 30 years and I think they had three or four maybe it was five or six kids. He had a lot of kids. I remember that And he was just sitting at home one time and his best friend was over And his I think it was his daughter or his son was kind of sitting in his best friend's lap and he was sitting there going Wow, my my kid sure looks a lot like my best friend.     I think my ex-wife tried to do that Uh, I don't think she succeeded as far as we know Speakers and friends and things like that Um, I think though that she was looking for the opportunity to do that for sure Just for the thrill of it and the kicks a little payback payback. Yeah. Yeah.  Yeah, yeah So, I mean at the end of the day, I don't know if that for a fact But as far as I know that didn't happen But it's certainly I think I believe firmly that was on her mind And she was always looking like a chess player looking for openings and opportunities to get you like to do shit like that Looking back on it now with the lens that I have for the relationship like a red pill lens so to speak That was another interesting thing too is when I figured out When it snapped for me who she was in early 2016, february or march. It was actually march by that point Um, it really gave me a lens to look back on the whole four and a half year relationship Like an autopsy almost like a relationship autopsy And the whole relationship made a lot more sense to me then I mean, it's been an evolution since then a process for understanding it and growing from it But really it was it was seeing through all the layers of her masks and the fake personas and all that crap And it's like whoa I now have the ability to see four and a half years of reality rather than the fake illusion that she had presented And it was very educational a very extreme form of female behavior That I got to be up close and personal with that that's pretty extreme. Yeah, cool. So as you were saying Yeah So I guess one of the last things I'll say is that I'm really happy that it happened Kind of like you mentioned it happened another way could have happened In particular too in the you know, some of the advice I followed from Nathaniel Brandon, you know him He was a former lover of iron rand Therapists do psychotherapists.  It's it was educational It was uh, you know, a very provocative story. I got to put out to the world I even had lion's gay reach out to me at one point about doing a tv show for it They make the movies like john mccain stuff So it was a hell of an experience so I learned a lot from it and um, it's part of my life You can't undo it I'm also happy that I got to make these red flag, you know, missing red flags and all these mistakes I made with her I got to do that, uh, like I mentioned earlier a little bit in what really was a useless relationship long term It had its meaning in my life then and it has some lingering meaning now like an after effect education and you know all that But you know, I made these mistakes with the women who I didn't belong with so it's like I didn't get any stds. I didn't lose any money Nothing too serious like that. No kids or anything So I made out for how toxic the relationship was not crazy. She was I made out really good And I got to make these mistakes kind of like training wheels with the women that ultimately didn't matter And in the future, I know the next relationship I get into will be with the much better women Hard to do worse but much better And it'll be much healthier more positive the feeling relationship and it won't have the kinks and the problems Well, some of the kinks Hopefully, yeah, none of the goals learn and not make the same mistake over and over exactly Yeah, and I got to make mistakes with the woman that just for any number of reasons even even physically being older than me Like I didn't belong with her So it's a good thing that it happened and it's a good thing that happened with her and then I made it out I made out really well Uh, also you mentioned to you whether or not you love me and it's that's a tough question, dude Um, just from a just from a psychology mental health perspective I don't really know, you know, if she's capable of that with me or anyone And then how much was genuine how much was fake how much was played up It's like Some of that you can look at with a red pill lens and kind of see through the bullshit But some of it is so personal and subjective to her You you don't know but you can't see inside of her head You're gonna see what's on the outside the behaviors the mannerisms all these things So even in a best-case scenario, it's like I don't really don't know There's a part in my uh my book I call it the attraction level table and it goes through things that the higher woman's attraction things that she does And you know, you can kind of gauge based on her actions the things she's doing the things she's saying how she feels about you because In a long-term relationship, it's gonna go up and down. So it's you know, it's really helpful for a lot of it's the chapter It's called it's all in numbers and then a three percent man book And so it's really helpful for you know, a lot of my people my audience a lot of clients If they're able to to gauge because if she ain't feeling it, she's just simply not going to do those things Yep. Yeah, in the monastery we say that desire cannot be negotiated. It's says to be very raw very natural And otherwise and if you don't have that you don't have a relationship. She's just your roommate or something Yeah, so So what was the the title of the whole thing for people to be able to find and watch the whole Title the full title of the speech it's still on youtube miraculously It hasn't been banned yet or censored although it is censored in australia You can't watch it from australia for some reason australia banned it The full title of the speech is marrying medusa how to survive a female psychopath Also, one of our speakers put together a course that we filmed from recently and uh, it's Not from me. He's a speaker. He gave the course That course is actually called female psychopaths from surviving and thriving And it's for guys who went through like me a toxic relationship like that and how to heal from that Specifically and move on and do better in life So they can go to female psychopath.com So what about that? Female psychopath.com on the proud owner of female psychopath.com. Yeah They'll see that in the speech I actually watermarked it with that Because I at the time I had been intending to do a blog uh on female psychopath theme That you know personality disorders And actually put together an aggregate blog of speakers that would contribute to that At the end of the day, I'm not going to do that. We're doing the product instead of my friends doing it But it's same. It's the same Intent to help men have been through like super toxic relationships like that Not just a bad breakup with some girl you met at a bar like a really noxious Fucked-up relationship People get hurt. There's criminal stuff going on prostitution Sugar-babying shit like that or violence and you know beyond So a lot of men go through it. I mean, there's a good chunk of men and women who have real personality disorders that are super toxic and dangerous And their predators like I mentioned the value thing.  We jive so well. I'm gonna go ahead and move in We I know we won't be dating a month, but it's meant to be the universe has Prearranged it and it's just it's amazing. It's going to be amazing and we're amazing. It's going to be awesome Yeah, everything's amazing till it blows up in your face.  They want the ceo job now It's like you have to go through a set of steps You can't put the car before the horse because if you do Yeah, you end up having a um, marion medusa.  I agree takes time I've been running my business now for example for almost 14 years 13 and a half years And you know most businesses fail by 10 years like 95 percent of them or something like that four to five years Is what most of them have failed by yeah, that's right Yeah, so it takes time And it takes other things too courage dedication persistence But really if you just have patience with these things I think it works out a lot better Like I've been single now for four years and that's so long the girls get like Really curious about that when they find that out like why are you single for so long? Because they're whatever, you know reasons they have for getting curious about it But I think being single for so long is actually setting me up for a really good relationship Because I've been navigating the marketplace in the meantime watching how the world's been changing with me too and all this crap And feminism in America But also learning about myself healing from my own, you know experiences and trauma and stuff Is growing as a man and figuring out like what do I want like I do want a family and kids and these things But it's like okay at what point In what way and with what kind of woman do I want to be the mother of my children? That's a really serious endeavor to take on And I was 20 20 year plus commitment. That's right.   You want me to be 31? Like All right, you're an equal opportunity seducer. I'm an equal opportunity seducer. That's right. That's right I don't take responsibility for other people's actions Uh, you know I'm responsible for my choices and my behavior. I was you know Uh, significantly responsible for my experience of medusa. I walked into that Not knowing any better and whatnot, but I'm It's my job as a young man to know better and you know, I've failed to do that in some ways and that had consequences But it's the same thing for young women, you know I'm not responsible for the actions my ex-wife took that I was not even aware of This is a person who was dedicated to that kind of behavior Was not going to change it for anyone including me and including anyone else as far as I know And young woman today too I'd hook it up like I want you to change. I think you should do better than that I think woman for example should have as much sex as possible over a lifetime with as few men as possible That seems to be a recipe loosely speaking for happiness for them But you don't want to listen.  Elizabeth Grace's little daughter So he I was living in this house. It's a big house But you know, he had a four-week-old baby and I just moved in after divorcing a hooker And I'd known these people I'd known you know I was you know the wife and obviously the guy and stuff So yeah people stepped up for me and it was it was good to see that And that was a result of building strong positive relationships in my life People would not just freak out and abandon me or the conference people thought the conference would fall apart at the convention Because the founder had messed up and married this crazy bpd hooker And that was not the case the speech has done super well. It's one of the highest videos in the whole channel The highest one is you know, we have couple we have videos over a million But mine's done really well 400 000 and the conference has moved on We've had you know, I don't even know half a dozen conferences since then or something like that conventions We've had 18 total now. We've had bigger and better speakers You know since then just to find my only new FBI agents navy seals like what kinds of stuff What is the website? How do the people get in touch with that? 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So, I got a call from somebody about two days ago saying you have to present this talk because they first did not take it and someone canceled, they wanted somebody a sacrificial goat at the last minute. So, that's why I'm here and I threw together this presentation in maybe the last couple of hours but I'm very familiar with the topic so there may not be everything that I wanted to say in here so please excuse me. So this talk is on the autonomous risk management of DAOs where obviously DAOs, DAOs is a decentralized autonomous organization and I call this ARM with apologies to ARM, the chip company. So the themes are very simple, what are, you know, institutions, the evolution of the institution, the DeFi stack, risk and management of risk, the DeFi stack reworked, implementation and of course references and Q&A. Of course you can do, you can ask questions anytime you want but for your questions to be recorded you have to have a mic or you have to tell me so that I can repeat the question, all right? So the DeFi stack, you know, is, before I go into the DeFi stack I wanted to talk a little bit about institutions. Institutions may seem a strange word because we use the same term for a place where you send people who are not right in their head to recover but institution has a long and sort of varied meaning. The meaning that I intend here is the meaning that is ascribed to an institution from Douglas North and new institutional economics. Only this, their thesis, I mean the new institutional economics thesis is that institutions are the basis of society, institution is just a law, like some kind of a law, the rule of law. Property rights being the primary one which the western societies have adopted and Douglas North and others think that that is the main reason for the rapid economic development of western societies and obviously the IMF has taken that and said, oh, you know, governance matters. So they want every society to be reflected, you know, to be similar to western society which obviously has problems because that is not the only thing that controls the evolution of the institution. The institutions evolved through organizations, organizations meaning more organized groups of people or actual structures that created this sort of take off point. What the main thesis I want to say is that it is not an end point meaning western society in this particular form is not an end point and that's what Douglas North was saying that it's an end point. Obviously we have seen new forms of organizations coming to being decentralized autonomous organization being one of them. And obviously the same principles that animate the regular economy will animate this too. One of the things that is important there is property law meaning, you know, the rights enforcement of rights and enforcement is usually not just a law standing by itself but it's some form of government that has to do the enforcement with the standing army or some other way of enforcing that law. So the thing that the DeFi stack, DeFi's lack today is a structure similar to that. It does not have to be a centralized government but it has to be some kind of a something that is monitoring and enforcing the law of property which means if I own a token, if somebody else steals it then there has to be recourse. And obviously that's a problem, you know, today it's a problem, it cannot be done very simply. So the DeFi stack, you know, this is proposed by some guys long before but it is a very familiar stack for us, right? There is a base, immutable orders, blockchain, assets, tokens of all kinds. And what distinguishes DeFi is logic, so this is all reworked by me, you know, these names were not in the original paper but we are familiar with this and the logic layer is the most important layer for DeFi which we already know. That is what is decentralized autonomous organization means. It is animated by logic and of course the highest level is the UX layer. That is wallets and APIs. So let's back up a little bit, we have now risk in DeFi which is liquidity risk, transformation of maturity risk which means that, you know, we are trying to leverage using one asset and exchanging it for another asset, the various exploits. So the main way that we can manage the risk in this is using ideas from C5. One of the ones is dynamic and static scoring, scoring the logic layer or scoring the asset layer. The other one is circuit breakers. You might be familiar with the idea of circuit breakers from equity markets which is also due to program trading which is a kind of autonomous execution of trades without human intervention but it has cost a lot of problems including rapid falls in the price of certain equities or a turmoil or volatility in the market which is not a natural volatility, it is cost purely by the autonomous programs acting on their own. After one of the crashes people proposed that we should have some kind of a circuit breaker. If the price of an equity falls at a certain rate, you know, like 20% in an hour or in three minutes or whatever, whatever the rate is, that security will no longer be traded, there is an automatic pause that goes on for, you know, depending on the exchange it will be for 20 minutes, 30 minutes and so on. So that is the idea of circuit breakers. The other one which is the scoring stuff, we are already familiar with it from, normally it is scoring of individuals but you can also score any organization or an asset using certain conditions, using certain criteria, sorry. And when we say dynamic scoring that means that score constantly changes and how would this work is if you are a trader in that market, first of all you have two types of trades, one is the ones that you hold positions in and the other is stuff moving up and down all the time and you decide either to participate in the market or sell off in the market. So it's for individual decision making and also, you know, this kind of method can be used for scoring of any asset including decentralized assets. In DeFi there is several types of risk, one is a contagion risk which means that if for example the stablecoin Terraluna lost its peg and went down rapidly it caused mayhem across the market, right, that is called contagion which is in regular centralized finance. The other is systemic risk not just in the crypto asset market but also in the regular market. Why? Because let's say that you have a stablecoin like USDT, their reserves are held in corporate bonds. So if there is a run on USDT where people are rapidly trying to get dollars back from the USDT market then they have to sell off the corporate bonds rapidly which of course will cause prices of corporate bonds to fall. So now you have a cross system contagion. The liquidity and maturity risk is, you know, we know that if buyers disappear from the market, that prices will fall and if sellers disappear, you know, prices will rise. If there is more demand than supply, supply, you know, the old, you know, this liquidity risk in regular markets is controlled by centralized organizations like the central bank. Central bank is the liquidity provider of last resort. There is no such organization in DeFi. So obviously that is very difficult to do in a decentralized marketplace. The other is autonomy risk which is things happen rapidly. Just like in program trading, you know, you can have a rapid fall or rapid rise in the prices of certain tokens or assets and that is also due to autonomy. So now I'm proposing another layer called an analysis layer which does audit and control. We are familiar with the analysis layer which just does auditing, meaning it's monitoring the prices, it's reporting out all of the, you know, the websites like CoinGecko, they all rely on this kind of reporting tool. But nobody has a way to using the, what's happening in the market to then control it because obviously it's not meant to be controlled. The decentralized autonomous organizations cannot be censored, right? But there is a thought today that we have to extend the token standards to include facilities to control the token, meaning like TTF proposed that it should be, there should be an interface which pauses the token and then resumes the token. But obviously not everybody can call this, it has to be some kind of a governance-based control, meaning there has to be a wallet or a set of wallet with a multi-sig that is under the control of this analysis layer that can issue those commands. And it would operate similarly, meaning that if the price, the observed price falls rapidly, the observed price rises rapidly, then they would call a pause on the token. This idea has been tried a little bit in, for example, in some of the bridges. But there are multiple problems with these, this approach, that means if someone hacks the smart contracts not to, let's say, obey the command to pause or presume the token could be permanently disabled, but with enough controls we can take that, you know, we can try to fix that problem. So this is probably one of the last slides and I don't know how I'm doing for time, but I have about 15 minutes, but, you know, I want to leave enough time for questions because this is not just some, this is all material that is absolutely new in some sense.  A system that consists of tunability, that means like, I will say, okay, 20% down, if the token goes down by 20%, then we pause, or I can tune it to say if it goes down by 19.5% or, you know, some other percentage. So that's what I call tuning. I mean, that's a simple example of a token that is controlled by an exterior system, not exterior, but, you know, now you can try to enlarge the system by saying, okay, how can I make it decentralized? How can I make the analysis system, analytic system itself decentralized? These are some of the ideas that we are playing around with, you know, I have been talking to some people about these implementing, you know, building something like this. The other is upgrades, which is how do you upgrade either the analytic layer or the smart contract itself? There are ways to do the smart contract upgrades. It's a very rigorous process, you know, and so on. Then adopting techniques from stock markets, which we discussed just now. There are other techniques that we can talk about, that is, you know, either to throttle the system. That means if the system rate is observed to be, let's say, 20% higher than normal, then you can say bring down the rate so that it's, you know, let's say only 10% higher. You can do a lot of different things with this, and it has to be in the governance. That means most tokens today, most DAOs operate with the white paper. Maybe we have to state these governance ideas in the white paper itself so that it controls the way, you know, the arm works, and people are not hit with unexpected effects. The third idea is to reuse already existing infrastructure, right? Like, for example, the graph, which uses the Ethereum events to create a database of events, and then it exposes a graph-sequel, you know, interface. And you can build on top of it. So that's another idea. The fourth idea is, of course, do not give all the control to programs, but have some way of manual intervention. And these are my references. You'll get the PowerPoint presentation from the site. And now, of course, it's Q&A. If you guys have any questions, I'd be glad to answer. And he's going to hand out the mic. Hi. Thank you for the presentation. Interesting topics that are addressed. Less than a question, but more probably than a point of discussion is, like, you suggested, for example, having something like a multi-seq wallet that can, let's say, can assemble the agreement of the entities controlling the wallet in order to pose a token and something like this. So my question is, don't we already have this in the economies that we know since years, and it's called, like, governments, for example? Yes. And I'm not criticizing what you are saying or what you are suggesting. On the contrary, I'm seeing the, and I'm critical towards the, how DeFi works and what is being claimed there, because generally there is, and again, that's my personal opinion, like, a lot of claims put there, like, oh, we don't trust our governments, we don't trust who controls the economies, and so on. And that's where we try to bypass all that through DeFi. But at the end of the day, I think the reality is that if you don't trust your governments or what you named the institutions that govern your everyday life, probably, you have more problems that you can solve with the blockchain. And it's more like theoretical and, how to say it, like, philosophical point to discuss rather than technical, but would you like to comment on that? Because you also bring the point of taking, let's say, approaches that we know from the traditional, let's say, economies and applying them to the DeFi world. So, where are we? And where are we going to? So with regards to this, can you comment a bit? Yes, definitely. Most DeFi is actually centralized, because anybody, some wallet controls the smart contract. I can put another smart contract in there, and that can steal all the stuff. So, I agree with you that there exists already government, but there also exists the Dow, and people are trading on it daily, with billions of dollars. So, we have these two situations. I'm trying to say, how do we bridge the gap? How do we bring them together? What can we do that is similar to a decentralized way of thinking that will bring, you know, that will bring some kind of an institution, a rule of law to the Dow. That's where I'm going with this. I'm not talking about idealism, I'm talking about reality, because both of these things exist, right? Governments exist, and so do Dow's. The other point is the multi-sig wallet could be controlled by multiple analytic programs, and only if like two out of three agree, then you will do the pause. I mean, that's one way of doing it, because human beings cannot intervene in the time that it takes for these to go south. It always happens very rapidly. We are not, you know, we are not cyborgs, not yet anyway. And we have to have delegation to certain things that we can trust. But who will watch the watchers?  And so that's how we advance by degrees, not by, you know, like one day governments disappear and we will be all safe. Anybody else? Yeah. Thank you. So when you're talking about the management of risk, so if I understand correctly, you're trying to superimpose the concept of a Dow to basically do risk management, but with the Dow's in production, like the way that we're so when you deploy a smart contract, right, a lot of the code that has been deployed out there, you cannot fundamentally change. You can change a state though, through like subsequent actions. And when you're saying mitigate risk, so like my primary concern is that any centralized system is always going to be strictly faster than a decentralized system, right? And your stipulation is correct that humans cannot intervene in a time necessary for a malicious attack to happen. So my primary question is, is it necessarily like true that if we're imposing these like analytic mechanisms, like we're operating at the speed of code here, how can we necessarily at scale prevent, you know, like basically a plus one attack. So an exploit happens. How can the humans like in a Dow necessarily intervene?  And you could have an emergency font to, you know, disperse that to the parties affected. But I think for like a truly scalable solution, I think there needs to be the implementation of, for example, formal like formal verification or things that could really operate at the edge. So we could basically verify that what do we determine and how could we arbitrate on an autonomous way? What is malicious behavior versus non malicious behavior? So can you be more precise about how we're doing that in a Dow based setting? Well, you made several statements which I have problems with right away, right? The first thing you said is smart contracts cannot be changed. They can be. Second thing is the first Dow attack was handled by the fact that the Dow did not allow immediate withdrawal of funds but had to be segregated into a separate area before and had to wait for 48 hours or whatever before the person could withdraw it. So Vitalik and others created a fork where they actually proscribed that wallet address and that wallet could never be spent inside Ethereum after that fork. So, you know, all of these things have happened before but what I'm proposing is, you know, some way to, first of all, there's no system without risk. Every system has risk. And when you invest in a system, you want the reward to be commensurate with the risk you're taking. So the scoring mechanism, for example, you know, all scoring mechanism are flawed. So does that mean that we should never have any scoring mechanism? It means that we have a scoring mechanism and then we see where are the false positives, where are the false negatives and we keep improving that system. So in terms of that, the scoring mechanism would be an edge solution. That means you, as an investor in multiple tokens, can say or multiple systems, Ethereum based, Solana based, you know, whatever else based. And you say, okay, what is my risk across the spectrum? And how would I manage that risk? So along with the risk, there is risk management that is not perfect. I mean, we had the crash of 2008-2009. There were plenty of risk systems in operation then. But they have changed the practice of risk after 2008-2009, mainly by slowing down things, mainly by changing things. All I'm talking about is, you know, reality based approach, not idealism, you know, not something that is, I mean, we can talk about this outside, maybe, because I think I'm coming to the end of my, yeah, it is 346, I mean, whatever, 246. Is that the time? Yeah. So, I mean, if you have any comments or questions, I'm always willing and able to answer them. Or hopefully, if I cannot, then, you know, we can explore it together. And anyway, all of this is sort of spun out of my mind, in a way, in a very short period of time. And I'm writing a paper for UCL, University College London, which is on this topic. And, you know, it's a work in progress. Let me put it that way. Thank you.


We continue today with chapter 20. The vision of sinlessness. Vision will come to you at first in glimpses, but they will be enough to show you what is given you who see your brother sinless. Truth is restored to you through your desire as it was lost to you through your desire for something else. Open the holy place that you closed off by valuing the quote something else and what was never lost will quietly return. It has been safe for you. Vision would not be necessary had judgment not been made. Desire now its whole undoing, and it is done for you. Do you not want to know your own identity? Would you not happily exchange your doubts for certainty? Would you not willingly be free of misery and learn again of joy? Your holy relationship offers all this to you. As it was given you, so will be its effects. And as its holy purpose was not made by you, the means by which its happy end is yours is also not of you. Rejoice in what is yours, but for the asking. And think not that you need make either a means or end. All this is given you who would but see your brother sinless. All this is given waiting on your desire but to receive it. Vision is freely given to those who ask to see. Your brother sinlessness has given you in shining light to look on with the Holy Spirit's vision and to rejoice in along with him. For peace will come to all who ask for it with real desire and sincerity of purpose shared with the Holy Spirit and at one with him on what salvation is. Be willing then to see your brother sinless that Christ may rise before your vision and give you joy and place no value on your brother's body which holds him to illusions of what he is. It is his desire to see his sinlessness as it is yours and bless the Son of God in your relationship nor see in him what you have made of him. The Holy Spirit guarantees that what God willed and gave you shall be yours. This is your purpose now and the vision that makes it yours is ready to be given. You have the vision that enables you to see the body not and as you look beyond your brother you will see an altar to your father holy as in heaven glowing with radiant purity and sparkling with the shining lilies you laid upon it. What can you value more than this? Why do you think the body is a better home a safe for shelter for God's Son? Why would you rather look on it than on the truth? How can the engine of destruction be preferred and chosen to replace the holy home the Holy Spirit offers where he will dwell with you? The body is the sign of weakness vulnerability and loss of power. Can such a savior help you? Can you turn in your distress and need for help unto the helpless? Is the pitifully little the perfect choice to call upon for strength? Judgment will seem to make your savior weak yet it is you who need his strength. There is no problem, no event or situation no perplexity that vision will not solve. All is redeemed when looked upon with vision for this is not your sight and brings with it the law's beloved of him whose sight it is. Everything looked upon with vision falls gently into place according to the laws brought to it by his calm and certain sight. The end for everything he looks upon is always sure that it will meet his purpose seen in unadjusted form and suited perfectly to meet it. Destructiveness becomes benign and sin is turned to blessing under his gentle gaze. What can the body's eyes perceive with power to correct? Its eyes adjust to sin unable to overlook it in any form and seeing it everywhere in everything.  All that could save you you will never see. Your holy relationship, the source of your salvation will be deprived of meaning in its most holy purpose bereft of means for its accomplishment. Judgment is but a toy, a whim. The senseless means to play the idle game of death in your imagination but vision sets all things right bringing them gently within the kindly sway of heaven's laws. What if you recognize this world as an hallucination? What if you really understood you made it up? What if you realize that those who seem to walk about in it to sin and die, attack and murder and destroy themselves are wholly unreal? Could you have faith in what you see if you accepted this? And would you see it? Hallucinations hallucinations disappear when they are recognized for what they are. This is the healing and the remedy. Believe them not and they are gone. And all you need to do is recognize that you did this. Once you accept this simple fact and take unto yourself the power you gave them you are released from them. One thing is sure hallucinations serve a purpose and when that purpose is no longer held they disappear. Therefore the question never is whether you want them but always do you want the purpose that they serve? They hold out many purposes each different and with different values yet they are all the same. Again there is no order only a seeming hierarchy of values. Only two purposes are possible and one is sin the other holiness. Nothing is in between in which you choose determines what you see is merely how you elect to meet your goal. Hallucinations serve to meet the goal of madness they are the means by which the outside world projected from within adjusts to sin and seems to witness to its reality. It still is true that nothing is without yet upon nothing are all projections made for it is the projection that gives the quote nothing all the meaning that it holds. What has no meaning cannot be perceived and meaning always looks within to find itself and then looks out all meaning that you give the world outside must thus reflect the sight you saw within or better if you saw it all or merely judged against. Vision is the means by which the Holy Spirit translates your nightmares into happy dreams your wild hallucinations that show you all the fearful outcomes of imagined sin into the calm and reassuring sights with which he would replace them. These gentle sights and sounds are looked on happily and heard with joy they are his substitutes for all the terrifying sights and screaming sounds the egos purpose brought to your horrified awareness they step away from sin reminding you that it is not reality which frightens you and that the errors which you made can be corrected. When you have looked on what seemed terrifying and seen it changed to sights of loveliness and peace looked on scenes of violence and death and watched them change to quiet views of gardens under open skies with clear life-giving water running happily beside them in dancing books that never waste away who need persuade you to accept the gift of vision and after vision who is there who could refuse what must come after think but an instant this you can behold the holiness God gave his son and never need you think that there is something else for you to see and from the workbook lesson 165 let not my mind deny the thought of God what makes this world seem real except your own denial what but your thoughts of misery and death obscure the perfect happiness and the eternal life your father wills for you and what could hide what cannot be concealed except illusion what could keep from you what you already have except your choice to see it not denying it is there the thought of God created you it left you not nor have you ever been apart from it in an instant it belongs to you by it you live it is your source of life holding you one with it and everything is one with you because it left you not the thought of God protects you cares for you makes soft your resting place smooth your way lighting your mind with happiness and love eternity and everlasting life shine in your mind because the thought of God has left you not and still abides with you who would deny his safety and his peace his joy, his healing and his peace of mind his quiet rest his calm awakening would he not instantly prepare to go where they are found abandoning all else is worthless in comparison with them and having found them would he not make sure they stay with him and he remain with them deny not heaven it is yours today but for the asking nor need you perceive how great the gift change your mind will be before it comes to you ask to receive and it is given you conviction lies within it tell you welcome it is yours uncertainty remains yet God is fair sureness is not required to receive what only your acceptance can bestow ask with desire you need not be sure that you request the only thing you want but when you have received you will be sure you have the treasure you have always sought what would you then exchange for it what would induce you now to let it fade away from your ecstatic vision for this sight proves that you have exchanged your blindness for the seeing eyes of Christ your mind has come to lay aside your smile and accept the thought of God as your inheritance now is all doubting past the journey's end made certain and salvation given you now is Christ's power in your mind to heal as you were healed for now you are among the savers of the world your destiny lies there and nowhere else God consent to let his son remain forever starved by his denial of the nourishment he needs to live abundance dwells in him and deprivation cannot cut him off from God's sustaining love and from his home practice today in hope for hope and deed is justified your doubts are meaningless for God is certain and the thought of him is never absent sureness must abide within you who are host to him this course removes all doubts which you have interposed between him and your certainty of him we count on God and not upon ourselves to give us certainty and in his name we practice as his word directs we do sureness lies beyond our every doubt his love remains beyond our every fear the thought of him is still beyond all dreams and in our minds according to his will Amen


Hello and welcome to the session. The question says, integrate the following function 18th is 1 upon root over 8 plus 3x minus x square. So first let us learn, if we have a polynomial of the type Ax square plus Bx plus c, then to change it as the sum of the squares of 2 polynomials, it is formalized A into x plus B upon 2a whole square plus c upon A minus B square upon 4a square, which is on page number 614 of your book to find the integral of the type whose denominator is a polynomial. So this is the P idea we are going to use to integrate the given function. Let us now start with the solution. Firstly, let us consider the polynomial 8 plus 3x minus x square which can be written as minus of x square minus 3x minus 8. This is further equal to minus x plus minus 3 upon 2 into 1 that is 2 whole square plus c upon A that is minus 8 upon 1 minus B square upon 4a square. So B is minus 3, so B square is 9 upon 4 into 1 square. So this is further equal to minus x minus 3 upon 2 whole square plus into minus s minus and on simplifying this we have 8 plus 32 and 32 plus minus 41. So we have 41 upon 4 which can further be written as root over 41 upon 2 whole square minus x minus 3 upon 2 whole square. That is the given function can be written as 1 upon root over root over 41 upon 2 whole square minus x minus 3 upon 2 whole square. Now we have to integrate this function, so we have to find the value of this integral. This is further equal to, first let us put x minus 3 upon 2 is equal to t. So in differentiating both sides it is 2x we have dx is equal to dt integral further implies dt upon root over root over 41 upon 2 whole square minus t square and to solve the integral of the type 1 upon root over a square minus x square with respect to x its formula is sin inverse x upon a plus c. Thus this integral can further be written as sin inverse t upon root over 41 upon 2 plus c or this is further equal to sin inverse t s 2x minus 3 upon 2 into 2 upon root over 41 plus c taking this to enumerator. This further implies that sin inverse 2 cancels out with 2 and we have 2x minus 3 upon root over 41 plus c. Thus when integrating the given function our answer is sin inverse 2x minus 3 upon root over 41 plus c. This completes the session. Bye and take care.