Okay, welcome to part 2a on this series of imaging the Pleiades, or Messier 45. If you haven't seen part 1 yet, the link will be in the description, and in part 1 you can watch the first 46 minutes or so to get the whole picture of capturing the Pleiades and making the calibration files and everything like that, and learning the whole process of imaging. This part, though, 2a will be about using two free programs, DeepSkyStacker, and the GNU image manipulation program to process our astrophotography, and will be specifically processing the M45 tracked data today. Okay, now on my computer, this is a Windows laptop that I'm using so that I can use DeepSkyStacker, and I've moved my files, both my 60 lights and my calibration files to the computer so I can stack them using DeepSkyStacker. And I'm just going to show this once with the tracked results, but the only difference with the untracked results is you would need a lot more space on some hard drives to do this process, because if you're doing 2,000 lights and a few hundred calibration frames, that's going to take up many, many gigabytes of space, and then it's going to take up even more for the process, because DeepSkyStacker does use a lot of hard drive space while it's working and puts that all into a temp folder. And so what I do is I use external hard drives to manage all of this, because a lot of times, like on my laptop here, it has a SSD that's not very big, so I need to use external hard drives to make this process work, especially with the untracked results where I have so many files. But anyways, I've just organized my files, copied them off the camera's SD card into these folders, lights, which are again the actual pictures of the night sky, flats, which are the flat frames, which correct dust bunnies and optical problems like vignetting, darks, which match the lights in length and temperature, and bias, which are very, very short dark exposures. And I'm going to be using a free program you can download online called DeepSkyStacker. It is Windows only, but if you are a Mac or Linux user, I'll have future videos in this series which show programs for those systems. Let me find it here. There we go. Okay, and I guess I'm not on the latest version, but I doubt Moch has changed. This is what the interface should look like. If it doesn't look like this, if you're seeing something radically different, be aware that DeepSkyStacker is packaged with another program called DeepSkyStacker Live for live stacking. So, make sure that you're clicked into the regular DeepSkyStacker. It should say up here, DeepSkyStacker, four point something, and it should look just like this. Okay, anyways, let's go ahead and start and you basically just go down this left-hand side going through these different commands. The one thing that I like to do first before I do any of that is just set up my temporary folder. And I think this is under settings, stacking settings. Yes, here we go. So I think I've already actually set it up, but what you would want to do, and it will remember this setting if you've set it before, is click into settings and then it'll say temporary files folder and you just want to click on these three little dots and tell it where to put the temporary folder. So like I mentioned before, I don't have much space on the computer here. I only have six gigabytes. So the process of stacking would definitely fail. While on my external hard drive, I have 164 gigabytes free. And so I use that as my temporary folder. Okay, with that done, we can now load up our pictures. So we're just going to go up here into the upper left and click on open picture files. And my folder is on the desktop. And I'm going to start by bringing in all my lights. So I'm just going to click on one, press control a to select all and then click open. Okay, and it brings in all of our light frames here. But if we look right up here in this blue bar, it says light frames zero. And the reason for that is it only registers pictures that are checked. And for some reason, the first time you bring in some picture files, it doesn't check them. So I'm just going to click check all over here on the left. And somehow I thought it took 60, but it only took in 59. That's okay, close enough. I might have deleted one that was bad or something. So we have 59 light frames. And then we're going to add our dark files. We just go down the list here and go into the darks folder. And again, select all open. And now it starts checking them. So I have 49 dark frames, and then we'll bring in our flats. We're going to skip over dark flat files, so-called. These are files that would be darks that match your flat frames, but since our flat frames are very short, and we are using bias frames, we don't need dark flats. They would be to correct thermal noise in your flat frames if you were using very long darks, like with narrowband filters or something like that. So I'm going to skip over those. I am going to add bias files, though. Control A, click open. Okay, so we have everything loaded up here. 40 flats, 50 darks, 60 bias, 60 lights. Okay. And these numbers don't have to be exactly your numbers. Yours may be different. I would just always recommend at least 30 of each calibration file and as many light frames as possible. The other thing we can do is we can just quickly scroll through here and looking over in this far right-hand column, I can see that these all are registering as the same size, which is good. If you have any with incorrect geometry, you know what I mean, a different size, that might stop the process. Okay, this is all looking good. And I can also see that they're all CR2s, which is the Canon RAW file, which is what we want. Okay, that all looks good. So now we just have to check a few settings and then we can start the process and it just does its thing. And then we have a picture at the end. One thing I will point out here is you can look through your files right here. And so if you haven't already looked through your light frames, I would recommend looking through them and just making sure that they all have fairly round stars and that there aren't that have any like huge streaks or stars that look really bad or clouds or things like that. If you do find any with clouds or anything, you can just uncheck them and then it wouldn't include them in the stacked result. Okay, let's go ahead and click on register checked pictures over here on the left. You can see there's a link right there. And I'm going to click into advanced and click compute the number of detected stars. Okay, and it found 2088 stars. That's perfectly fine. I just want to show you if we take down the star detection threshold, then it will find more stars. And if we take up the star detection threshold, it will find fewer stars because it will treat smaller little things as noise. And so really it anywhere from a few percent to 20 percent, it really doesn't, I can't tell you exactly where to set this, but the point is you want it to be confident that it's finding enough stars. And I often get the question, well, even when I set my threshold to one percent, it says it's only finding three stars. If that's the case, then something went wrong with your capture because it should never have that much trouble finding stars. And the usual problems are that you weren't tracking or using the NPF rule correctly. So you have stars that aren't round or you were out of focus and then it can't find the stars because it finds the stars based on their star cores. And if it can't, if they're really out of focus and it can't find those star cores, I'm going to select the best 100 percent of pictures and stack them because I've already looked through these pictures. And I also want to get as close to a half an hour of data for each setup so we can make this a fair test. I am going to click stack after registering. And let's go into the recommended settings and look through these. These all look good. If it was if it was finding anything weird, and then I'm going to click on stacking parameters and just check this. Oh, this is another thing I hear people talk about. Well, why not enable one of these drizzles? It's going to make the picture bigger. I'm not going to get into what drizzling is, but I'm going to say if you if you don't know about drizzle, if you haven't read about it, don't check these because drizzle is a specific algorithm that you really need well-dithered data for it to work correctly. And so I would not check one of those unless you know what you're doing. OK, and then I just use sort of the recommended different stacking parameters through all of these. And one thing I'll note here is it will create an output file in the lights folder called autosave.tiff. You can certainly use that. It's a 32 bit tiff file. Or when you're all done, you can just click save picture to file and save it as a 16 bit tiff file, which will work with basically any processing software we use after this like Gimp or Photoshop. OK, this is all good. I'm going to go ahead and click OK and click OK again. It will give me a summary of everything. And this all looks good. And it tells me right down here how much space this process will temporarily use six point five gigabytes. Now, keep in mind that is going to be much, much higher with the unstacked process where we're stacking like some 1800 lights. So just keep that in mind that this is one advantage of using a tracker is your file sizes will be a lot more reasonable. OK, I'm going to click OK and let it start doing its thing. And so now it's very automated. It goes through all these different steps like creating calibration masters, calibrating your light frames, registering your light frames, stacking them in the end. What you have is one calibrated, registered, stacked light. So basically it's it's all of this stuff. All of these hundreds of pictures are used to make one final picture. And then we take that and bring it into the next program. OK, so we'll let it do its thing and then move on when it's done with that final auto save dot tiff. Or like I said, you can also save the tiff off as a 16 bit file with this save picture to file command over here. And then we'll bring it into the next program. OK, I have my output file from Deep Sky Stacker. I just saved it as a 16 bit tiff file here. And I'm just going to go ahead and open that up with the new image manipulation program. It asks if I want to convert to working sRGB and I do. OK, now we have our file in here and I can press the minus key to zoom out and the plus key or shift equals to zoom in. You can see that the picture is mostly black right now, except for a few saturated star cores. So the first thing that we're going to do is we're going to apply a stretch to the image. We do this by first duplicating the layer over here. So you can see I want to just keep this DSS dot tiff just in case we need to return to it. So I'm going to make a duplicate of this just by right clicking and choosing duplicate layer. And I'm going to rename this layer first stretch. And then what I'm going to do is I'm going to go up here to the colors menu and this is where we go to find many of the adjustments in the GNU image manipulation program. The adjustment that I'm going to use here is called levels. And basically what levels does is it has this sort of small histogram right here, but I also have a bigger histogram open over here, which you can get to just by clicking on histogram so I can see what I'm doing a little bit better. And I just take these the shadow slider in the mid tone slider and basically move them in on the histogram peak. Now it's the histogram peak right now in this linear form is so far right up against the left hand side that we have to start by doing a stretch with the mid tone slider. So I'm going to take that slider and I'm just going to grab it and grab and drag or click and drag and move it to the left like this. And you can see when I let go, it gives me a preview over here of what's happening, but I can also see on the histogram right here that that histogram peak has been moved over not quite half, but almost halfway over. So we're going to do this incrementally because now I can't really see what I'm doing here because it's so small. So I'm going to go ahead and click OK. And then we'll just open it right back up. So go to colors, levels again. And now we can see that it's out here. And this time I can grab my shadow slider and move that over. And so you can see the image is starting to take form. And we just do this a few times until it looks like we have brought up all of the data levels and that can really see the full extent of what we have here. Now a mistake that I see a lot of people making is maybe not stretching their image enough. So they maybe just will stop here and maybe just make, you know, the sky background black and think that that's all there is. But you really want to go ahead and fully stretch your data to see what's there.  And then you can make choices after you've really fully stretched it. So what I mean by that is we're going to do this a number of times. We're going to take the shadow slider and move it to the right and take the mid tone slider and move it aggressively to the left. So you're moving these two in on the histogram peak. And what's going to happen is you'll see that this histogram peak gets wider as more and more of the information is spread out and you're sort of adding dynamic range to the picture. The brightest brights will get brighter. The blackest blacks will get darker and you'll have a lot more information in between those two. Before all the information you can think of was sort of compressed down and then you're stretching it out. This is why we call it stretching. Okay. So we're going to go to levels again, do the same thing. Okay. And at this point you can see we have brought out a lot of the image. You can see that there's this faint dust sort of surrounding the main Pleiades star cluster. Out here extends up there and it also extends down into this corner down here. So that's good. Now I'm going to go ahead and just do one final levels here where I just set my black point by just taking the shadow slider and moving it over. And what I'd recommend at this point is don't try to set your black point too dark at this point. So you don't want it to actually be the sky to be actually be black. So do something like this where you can still see all of that dust and even the darkest points of the picture are not truly black. Okay. That looks good. Let's go ahead and make another duplicate. And from now on, I'm just probably going to do duplicates going by up here to layer and just choose new from visible, which is another way to basically make a new version just based on what you're seeing here and we can always rename it by saying that you want to edit the layer attributes and calling it something different. So I'm going to call this saturate and I'm going to go back to that colors menu. But this time instead of levels, I'm going to choose saturation and I'm just going to increase the scale here quite a bit. Okay. That looks good. So I just we can turn that layer off and on to see what we just did. You can see before and after. And one thing that you notice is that the Pleedy star cluster now looks nice and blue, but it also made the sky background quite blue, a darker blue. And so I'm going to now go back into colors and curves and I'm going to go up here to where it says channel value and change that to my blue curve and I'm going to reset the black point on the blue curve just by taking this little control point way over here in the bottom left corner and grabbing it, click and drag until it matches up with basically the start of this histogram peak. And you can see what that did is it reset the black point globally here. So the sky looks natural again. But if we turn this layer off and on, we can see what it did. So we could stop right here. This is actually a basic edit that I think looks really good. And if you were just going for a pretty sort of neutral processing of your data to sort of wanted to let the data sing for itself, you could stop here. I often sort of push things a little bit further. And one of the ways that I push things further is by using a method where we're going to take this image, remove all the stars from it using a program called star net plus plus, then we'll have this version with the stars and a version that is starless. And for in the version that is starless, we can play around with a curve a little bit, you know, making a little bit punchier, bringing out the dust and then we can add the stars back on top with a screen blend mode and the screen blend mode itself will accentuate anything, any faint dust and things in the picture. And so let's give that a shot. This is again, optional, but it will can it can really boost some of the faint details in your photograph. So to do this, we want to first make flatten the image because when it's not flattened, you have an alpha channel. So we're going to go to image, flatten image. We'll take everything and compress it down into one layer and then we'll export this as a tiff file. And I'm going to call it stars dot tiff. Save it to the desktop.  This is a standalone program that's useful for removing stars from astrophotography. And I'm going to download it from this source forage page. And if you go to files up here at the top and then go into version 1.1, they have a nice zip file for each main type of operating system. So since I'm on a Mac, I'm going to download the Mac version star net here. I'm going to go ahead and I put the folder that got downloaded onto my desktop. I'm going to go ahead and open that folder up and just drag my stars dot tiff file that I saved out of the GNU image manipulation program right into that folder. Then I'm going to open this run underscore RGB underscore star net dot SH with a text editor. You could do this with just like text edit or whatever. I'm going to use Adam is my preferred text editor. It opens up like this and then basically you just want to write in what the input file is right here. So for me, that's stars dot tiff. And then you can tell it what to call the output file, the starless version. So I'm going to call mine m 45 starless dot tiff. And then this is the stride number. And basically this is how many panels it's going to break down the image into or how fine those panels are going to be and a lower number will take longer, but it'll break it down into smaller pieces when it's going through and taking out the stars. And it's the default is 128. I usually use 64 for something like this for a lens based setup, but 128 seems to work well for telescope based setups. Okay. Anyways, I'm going to go ahead and save this file that I've edited. Then I'm going to go ahead and open up the terminal program.  There we go. And I'm going to first tell it to go to this folder just by typing in CD, which means change directory space and then just dragging this folder over here and hitting enter. We're now inside that folder so I can execute commands in the folder. And so I'm just going to drag run RGB star net.sh right into there and hit enter. And it starts going now before we move off of star net, I just want to mention a few things. One star net uses TensorFlow. You your CPU may not support that in which case you just can't use star net unless you have a different computer. So it's something just to be aware of. I'm sorry if your computer doesn't work with star net. The other thing is I often get questions about, you know, technical questions about how this works. I'm showing right now the Mac way of doing it. My understanding is the only difference with Windows is you don't have a normal terminal program in Windows like this. You have the command prompt, which is a little bit different. But I think in Windows what you would do is just drag the TIFF file directly onto this one on this icon that's just RGB underscore star net plus plus and then it will start running the whole program just like this. Okay, hopefully that makes sense. One other thing to note about star net is that it is free and you can use it on any computer that offers the right instructions for the TensorFlow library, but it's also part of the program picks insight, which makes a little bit easier because you don't have to do all this stuff with terminal and, you know, editing a text file. So one thing to keep in mind is that in picks insight star net is now built in. You don't have to even do anything. It just comes with the latest installations of picks insight. Okay, I'm going to let this do its thing. You can see it's right now 5% finished. So it'll take a little bit of time to make the starless image when that's done. We'll bring it back into GIMP and keep working. Okay. Star net has finished taking out the stars. So let's go ahead and open that up into GIMP. Just file open. There it is. m45starless.tif and this is what it looks like. And now what I can do is I can increase the contrast and saturation on this a little bit. So I'm just going to use my colors commands. I'll do colors curves. And if I if I go really extreme here, you can see there's a lot of dust going on. I think that this weird dark line is some kind of artifact. I'm not sure what that's from. Um, I'm not going to go quite that extreme, but I'll do something like that and maybe we'll increase the saturation just a little bit. Okay. Good. And so now we're going to put this layer on top, the stars layer. So we'll do that by just doing edit copy visible. Go into this one and do edit paste in place. It comes in as a floating selection and we just want to click on the little green add a new layer button down here. And let's go ahead and rename this stars. And with the stars, we're going to go ahead and change the mode from normal in normal mode. You can see it's just covering up our starless version. We're going to change it to not hard mix. We're going to change it to screen. There we go. Okay. So that already looks pretty neat. Um, you can see the the dust is is really a lot accentuated over this one, but it also gave the overall picture a very bright blue sort of tone. So let's work with some curves and to do that, I'm going to make a new layer again. So we're going to go to layer new from visible. I'll call this one curves and like the name suggests, I'm going to go into colors curves. And I'm going to start with just the the value curve, which is is all the values in the picture and I'm just going to apply a basic S curve where you take the shadows and bring them down and take the highlights and keep those the same. So this is a very, very small S curve. You know, sometimes you'll see really dramatic ones like that or something, but I think that's a little garish. I don't I don't like how bright that made the picture. And so what I'm trying to do is just more bring the overall level down quite a bit, but keep the keep a little bit of punchiness in it by by just making another point here and keeping this part of the line pretty straight. Okay, cool. Now, I think it overall is a bit too blue, especially if I compare it to this image, sort of like a magenta blue. So really what it needs is you would think more green, but what I'm going to do instead is actually keep the green level where it's at and just remove blue and red in the shadows and I'll do that again with curves. So I'll go into curves again. This time I'll click where it says value under the channel and choose red and I'm just going to take that red black point and move it over a little bit. And I'm going to take the blue one and do the same thing, but with the blue one, I'm going to I'm also going to add a point up here, which is this part of the Pleiades and just make sure that that doesn't get too much blue taken out of it. Okay, something like that looks good. So I'm just going to compare again. Here's before you can see it's a good picture, but it's not super dynamic and then here's after and I think it's a lot more interesting a picture. One thing though it has done is maybe made the Pleiades a bit too bright or maybe not too bright, but just too a little bit washed out. And so if we wanted to, we could try to bring back a little bit of saturation in this core area of the Pleiades. And so I could do that by again doing a new layer from visible and to this one I'm going to add a selection. I'm just going to use my lasso tool and just sort of get the the bright core area of the Pleiades here. I'm going to go ahead and feather that quite aggressively. So you can feather by going to select feather and I'm going to feather it by a hundred pixels and then we can go ahead and saturate or let's make a layer mask from that. So let's just go ahead and do right click add layer mask and we're going to initially is the layer mask to the selection click add. Okay, and now we can get rid of the selection. Just click select none. So now everything that we do on this new visible layer is only applying to that central core area. So I'm just going to go ahead and rename this saturate core. Whoops to click back onto the layer. I was clicked onto the mask. So I'm going to click back on the layer and then I'm going to go to colors saturation and just by I just raise up the saturation a bit. Perfect. Okay, and I can see what I did here by clicking this off and on. There's before there's after I think it just adds a little bit even more punch. So here's the starting point of just basically a stretch and color correction and here's after the more extreme working with a starless layer screen blend mode and a bit of a punch to saturation and curves. So I think both processing styles are perfectly valid. I just usually go for like I think a little bit more extreme version here. Okay. Final thing I'm going to do here is just some savings so I can do file save to save it as an XCF file to open it back up in this program. But if I want to save for final, I can do file export as and this lets me save as Tiff for PNG or JPEG. So for putting on the web or sending my email, you do JPEG. You can either just type in JPEG up there or you can select it down here. I'll select it and I'll just call this M 45. Okay, save it to my desktop. Okay, and there is our final result out of deep sky stacker in the GNU image manipulation program using a sky watch or star adventurer Canon 200 millimeter lens and about 60 30 second frames stacked together. This has been Nico Carver from nebula photos dot com. I do have a patreon where you can support me if you like tutorials like this one and you're about to see all of the names of people who do support me over on patreon. I really think everyone who does because it keeps me going with this and and keeping to a good schedule and releasing new videos. So till next time, clear skies.


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We appreciate you becoming a member all of you so far And so that's encouraging that people are finding it useful And so the emoticons are juicy to say the least and then germs thanks so much for becoming a member as well What I'll do is I'll show you guys this should work. Let me pull this in right now On screen you can see this right now where basically it has Let's see You can see the channel memberships on screen. And so I am excited though This is a a new kind of new way for modern day debate to try this out. And so extra juicy 199 a month which is Loyalty badges next to your name or a loyalty badge in particular as well as the what's the word I'm looking for the emoticons That's it. And then also very excited for that You will also be able to chat during the members only live chats That's going to be rare that we do the members only live chat However, it's not a another reason to join in in addition to the badges and the emoticons that you can use as we Especially like the juicy and the nasty emoticons, so again, thanks to Potsul for making those then the 799 one is the next one up so much soy That's a juicy one as well And so it has members only live chats and it also has your name on screen and the thank you ticker on the bottom of the screen that you're seeing let me pull this up you can see it right now actually and That is namely your name would be added in there as we currently have only patreon patrons And this is a way in which we say oh, this is actually if you wanted to do so much soy Membership level you could also have your name in the ticker at the bottom of the screen that you can see right now Cruising at the very bottom of the screen and then amazing would be the last one and That's right. I always forget which monitor I'm looking at amazing which is Member shout out so we would we're actually going to plan a new patreon perk as well We'll do shout outs for patreon For this new patreon perk that we're about to open up and so that would just be basically we do a shout out and say Thanks so much at the end of each debate where we name you by name and you'd also get access to the other perks Of course and so gleam. Thanks so much for your kind words as congratulations mate sending love from the UK Thanks so much. That's super encouraging. I appreciate that I'm always excited when I see like people tuning in from different parts of the world So that's one announcement. That's cool something new and something that some people have asked for and I'm like I'm so sorry. It's been so late first to finally get that up. So thanks for your patience on that now We will go to the votes as You guys I am pumped about this. Let me pull this up votes. There is so This sweet little Vote should work where basically what I'm gonna do I'm gonna put instructions for how you can vote on this in the live chat and The way this works is You will see names of people these names are about to be on screen and These are the people that we're going to have votes for Two seconds boomer tech over here Basically, you can see names on screen These are the people were like hey if you would like let us know and thanks so much for becoming a member as well Just saw that general Balzac and Bob Sadler and then thanks so much for becoming a member YouTube surgeon general you do appreciate that and cider and port Really exciting and so thanks Munda skeptical for your kind words in the chat. I appreciate that and again folks It's a community effort. I'm just a guy shooting out, you know kind of emails in the background Hey, you want to debate this person stuff like that? It's really it's you guys folks You have made this channel fun. You guys have given so many great ideas You guys have connected us with debaters in terms of like hey like James like this person said they like to come on and so We really do appreciate that and Nate the lawyer. Thanks for your kind word says 50k, baby. Congratulations appreciate that thanks so much Nate and Dwayne Burke good to see you buddy. It's been a while and Let's get into this vote. So on screen you can see the names of these speakers Let me put into the old live chat how you can actually oh That's right. Let me think about this Two seconds folks we're gonna make it I'm having a I'm sundowning right now. It's not really it's not even dark here yet But let me let me pull this up and I will put the link for how you can vote on these upcoming speakers So these are speakers that are Like I said rarer for us to have There might be a little bit of buffering because Okay to vote Go to Okay, so this gives you the chance to vote. Let me know of this link In the live chat works to where you were able to go vote here And you can use the code within what I just put in the live chat in order to put your vote in and this should Update in live time in other words like as people vote it should show Let's see Here we go, okay So we have one vote for Jesse Lee Peterson and Anybody you want folks? We are open to suggestions if you want to let me know But basically I wonder if it's a country thing cider and port said it's not working Let's see if you go to www.menti.com and then use this code that is there as well I Would let's see so if you just copy and paste the code in Let's see if this works Works for nugget man. Okay, we've got more votes now Let's see. Let me see if I can troubleshoot for your cider and port Maybe there's a way I can because who knows what it is. I don't know. Do I look like a techie guy? Okay, so Hmm, I wonder if it could be a country thing. It's working for me But I'd be surprised if it would like depended on a country Slam our ends that she had to copy and paste. Maybe that's the trick So I'm curious to see what your guys's votes are. Let me pull this up So far. These are the votes Juicy it's continually moving and so Let's see here David Wood with two votes are in raw with four votes So this is going to be open where people can vote. I'll put this on our YouTube community tab We can't guarantee it. So some of these speakers may say like no, no, I'm just not coming on But I'm going to try really hard for real who whoever our top voted people are I'm very serious that like I really will give a very good. What's the word? I'm looking for a Very sincere try to try to get the person to come back on so it's really important for me We really do. Thanks so much Bob for becoming a member at extra juicy Appreciate that. Wow five for Jesse and five for Aaron. That's interesting. I had a feeling I was like I thought Aaron would probably rank high. I thought Jesse would rank high amazing and then Yeah, you know, we technically never quite exclusively hosted shoe let's see because the last time was We we co-hosted shoe you could say with Dylan Burns But yeah, a lot of people love shoe on head and so that would be a fun You know fun opportunity to reach out to shoe and so Aaron and Jesse are in quite the race there. It's very close though. And then David Wood acts 17 apologetics getting some respectable votes as well. And then let's see Milo and Hunter and Ken Ham one vote two votes for Hunter now And so we will have that on don't worry. That's going to stay on the community tab So this is a small sample although this is kind of what I expected you'd maybe see and so Really juicy there and we're excited about that and You guys it's it's exciting stuff. So we are excited about that in addition to let me see if I can move this around I have got another vote. So I've got to show you these based as you like to say Uh these base little David Wood with seven votes now jumping up shoe on head up to five and Let me see if I can go to the next page on this. So Here we go. Okay, which logo you guys I'm excited about this Which logo you like the most if you're like, you know what James? Let me tell you what logo I prefer. Maybe you're like James It's time for a new logo and I'm like, okay. I would agree. That's fair And maybe it was time for a new logo ever since we got that last one last like a lot of people are like James did you did you make that yourself in word art? I did but here it wasn't word art though. Come on guys, seriously now I'll show you these actual uh logos because you might be like, what what what are the options james? Let me know. I need to know Let me know if you're able to view The the next like vote page Um, you're hopefully able to like go to the next slide in terms of those votes Let me know if you can Uh, two people at least were able to I can see that but I will start showing you the actual uh logos to consider so option one Let me pull this in right now in the good old obs and you guys can decide for yourself. So option one Let's see. Where is this bad boy? logos option one all right I have to shrink this down a bit And then you'll be able to see it a little bit more There's a large logo. All right This is a possible replacement. So Uh, let's see. I'm gonna move this What logo is the hottest? This is option one what I recommend you do.  So thanks for your patience on that is I know that it is buffering. Thanks for your patience Are you guys able to vote? Now what you could do is as each one is pulled in you can decide do I like that one better than my currently held favorite Here is option two No, you can't see it yet Option two is showing right now Let me know Thanks for your kind words darth fool says congrats on 50k moderated debate. Thank you my friend We do appreciate that seriously. That's super encouraging And so if you prefer logo number two that is this one right here If you like this one better than the last one that we just showed go ahead and click on option two in your vote So just so you know like the if you're watching the stream The the logos won't show on the web page where you vote for the poll I can't get them to do that. That's a little bit come on. I'm a boomer you guys You have to look at the stream in order to see the logo So if you're watching the actual watch page, you'll see it Thanks so much for becoming a member hannah anderson. We appreciate that and so Let me see. Let me see. All right. I'm going to pull in the next logo this one This one was made on fiverr and so it has like the background where it has What's the word it has kind of like those like things in the background that won't be there So for example, it's it has the word fiverr but That's something that we could We'll get you know, we can once the final version would be done This is what it would look like Jamie Russell. Thanks so much for becoming What's the word i'm looking for Hold on. I'm like, what's the word i'm looking for I'm a little bit slow today. Jamie Russell. Thanks so much for becoming a member We appreciate it at the extra juicy level. Thanks so much. And so that's number three I've got some respect for number three as well and thanks so much. Let's see Pulling in the next one This is option four Well, I have to shrink it down a bit By the way, I want to say thank you so much to our friends who have submitted You could say submissions Samuel Lilleholm. Am I pronouncing it right? Let me know. Samuel is one and also Topazal. Thanks so much for your artwork submitting it. Topazals was You actually, I think you saw a number you saw two of topazal so far And you're all namely number one and number two and then Number three and number four what you're looking at. This is number four on screen So if you like this one vote for number four if it's the one you like the most that's what we're looking for and then Last one this was this last one made by Samuel Lilleholm Thank you so much for both Samuel and Topazal for submitting logos. Appreciate you guys doing that That is right there and so What are your thoughts folks So if you cookie man, if you just got here, there's a link Pin to the top of the chat where it says to vote go to www.menti.com and use the code that's there and then you should be able to see so Let's see so far. We've got a number of votes for number three and Thanks dwayne burke for your super chat says congrats on 50 000 Be great to comod again soon. Thanks so much for that dwayne burke We do appreciate your support and thanks so much for being willing to comod. That's helped a lot and so we are excited though. My dear friends 12 for option one now juicy Eight for option three and this is something I'm going to try to figure out how we can put this on our community tab So that way people can vote over the next several days As I know you're probably a lot of people right now are out in the sunshine and I don't blame them So they weren't able to make it and so we really do appreciate your feedback And so a lot of nice ones. So it looks like as of now We have a lot of we have some competition between numbers I'm going to pull these in so you can compare them side by side and Highly likely it'll be one of these two Uh, namely, I mean this is assuming that what's the word Assuming that the votes from everybody else on the community tab look similar to these Uh, let me pull in the last one Image no This was Number one. Let me shrink this down Okay, so you can basically see on screen I have made it so that number one is The logo on the left side of your screen And then number two is the logo On the right side of your screen now Number, I would mention this is that the logo on the the right side It looks a little bit blurry because it has like the you know Marks in the background that wouldn't be there. Normally it would just have like the the podium shape And then also the modernated bait in a neutral platform stuff there So those are the two that are at least leading right now. And so Let's see I love getting your guys's opinion on this and so we do appreciate your guys's votes I am confident Like I said, we'll see. I mean these are we're going to keep these up for uh, maybe several days and let people vote And so these are at least the initial votes you could say and so exciting stuff as We do appreciate you folks. We cannot express it enough just how much we appreciate all of your support everything you have Done for us. You guys, this is a community effort. This is a celebration to say. Thank you folks Seriously, let me pull this so you can see me. I want to say thank you so much We'll be back in less less than five hours. We'll be back in four and a half hours folks And so don't miss out on that. It's going to be juicy. It's going to be fun It's a good old flat earth debate tonight fight the flat earth returns to take on flat earth flat earth aussie That's going to be juicy and so But yeah, jimmy russell the the first one was uh, the one that I had showed if you just pull the the Little timer back it'll show you you'll be able to see it and so We are excited. I want to say thank you everybody for your support eric cartman. Thanks for being here as well as heat shield thunderbird M stone and dan zamit. Thanks everybody for your support. Again, we'll be active in the community tabs putting out things like where people can vote I should make an image where it has all the logos within it and that might be an easy way to do a poll So I want to say thank you guys so much though. Seriously. I'm excited about the future It's going to be epic and we are also let me show you guys this in case you like modern day debate clips This is something we're just trying out We we're doing it as like a test on another channel to see like What we can learn in terms of like doing the whole clips deal We have a modern day debate clips channel now. Let me find this I think we do Let's see. I I know it was up and someone else was working on it Which I really do appreciate big time So we do have a modern day debate clips channel if you want to check that out that has got clips from past debates We're excited about that as This is brand new our clips channel That is in the very But what is it the word? I'm looking for that's in the chat right now I'm going to pin that as well and then we're planning on releasing maybe one clip a day At most from the main modern day debate channel Eventually we're like kind of playing around kind of figuring out how to do this because we want it when we do launch the clips on this channel And not just our modern day debate clips channel, which I just pinned at the top of the chat We want it to be done like really well or we're kind of like we'll have some experience at it and we know like what People like so we are excited about that announcement as well. That's pinned to the top of the chat There's so far not too much. There's only some clips Well, check it out see for yourself if you like it. There are currently Three clips up and so highly encourage you it's it's interesting to see that like one of the clips got way more views than the other So I'm like, oh, okay, that's interesting But yeah, let's see want to say thank you guys. Let's see. Uh, what does it say? Oh, yeah, let's do see so anyway. Thank you guys. Let me know If there's anything I can do to make your day better, we do appreciate you guys And so I love being here with you guys. Thank you for all your support and thanks and haxed who says it's 4 30 am here So I'll have to catch up later at that debate. I hope you get some rest. Thanks so much for being with us friend Thanks for being up late with us and then jamie rustle says number three should be made into a video like the original alien intro That's funny. I like that and then Let's see here Slam our ends is how many choices are there Oh, there's the there's a total of five choices And so that again, I'll put these up in the community tab and so David McGinnis. I will wrench you up Thanks for your support of modern day debate Seriously, thanks for being a mod. Thank you to the moderators. We don't thank you enough You guys, we appreciate you so much seriously. Thanks for all you do It really does mean a lot and then That's it watermark. That's what was in the picture So thanks for letting me know that David is that the watermark stuff would be gone from number three if we go with that and then let's see Mr. Pisa james versus tom the chair versus the curtain and confirmed that sounds juicy But yeah, thank you guys so much for everything again 50 000 subs. We're excited. I got to tell you folks I mentioned it before 50 000 subs in a way Is the tip of the iceberg for modern day debate in other words like don't get me wrong I'm thankful and I'm excited 50 000 is a huge landmark What's even cooler is you guys our stats in terms of views I look around oftentimes at other channels our stats in terms of the viewership Like the number of views or like channel minutes our stats are like they're superb In terms of the impact we're having on youtube and that to me is more important I'd rather have 10 000 views a day on youtube and zero subscribers compared to a thousand views on youtube per day and 100 000 subscribers Because that's what we're looking for is we want to have impact on youtube to where actually people are clicking on the content And I got to tell you though I've seen channels that have way more subscribers than us and nonetheless We're having way more impact through channel views and in watch time things like that And so it's exciting. It's it's only the tip of the iceberg though and in the big picture It's just a small step for what we want to accomplish here at modern day debate as we strive To fulfill the vision of providing a neutral platform so everybody can make their case of the world on a level playing field And so thanks everybody. We do appreciate you. I love you guys. I appreciate you so much It's honestly, I'm so honored and excited and just thankful to you guys for making this an epic channel people from all walks of life coming together To support that vision of providing a neutral platform for everybody on youtube And so thank you guys. Love you guys. We'll see you tonight. Hopefully it's going to be a juicy one We're really excited about that and keep sifting out the reasonable from the unreasonable Seriously, I'm overjoyed. I love you guys. Take care. We're excited about the future and I'll see you tonight amazing


30 years ago tonight, the Dodgers won their last World Series. Tonight, they're going back to the World Series to try to win the next one. Congratulations to the Los Angeles Dodgers with us here. Owner Mark Walter, congratulations. President and CEO, Stan Casten, President Baseball Operations, Andrew Friedman, General Manager, Farhan Zaidi, and Manager Dave Roberts. Congratulations. I'm sure it never gets old, guys. For the second straight time, the Warren Giles National League Championship Trophy presented by Baseball Chief Operating Officer, Joe Torre. Yes, Tom. I'm very proud and happy to present the Los Angeles Dodgers, the National League Championship Trophy for the second year in a row. Congratulations. Well, Mark, back in May, your club was 10 games under. In September, you were in third place. In this series, you were down two games to one. What is it about your club that enabled it to go back to the World Series? We'll get right to that in a second. I want to congratulate Milwaukee. They played great all year long. I think a lot of people underestimated them, and they gave us all we wanted, and they deserve our congratulations. Now, though, this team, as you said, we were 10 under 500. We had a ton of injuries. I think we had 18 different starting pitchers this year, and we really just hung in, fought all the way. Weren't in first place at the beginning of September, and they fought all the way back, and they did it. Congratulations. Skipper, right over here. In this series, coming from behind two games to one, what was the key to get this thing flipped? It's just each one of those guys over there believed in each other, and we never wavered. It's never been easy for us all year. Every single guy in this room has their fingerprint on not only this series, but this entire season. So the players, coaches, staff, baseball ops, the fans, my hats off to everyone. So congratulations to you guys. It's been 40 years since the Dodgers went back to back pennants. What is it about this club that you learned? This is a tough group. This is a tough group, and we have four more wins. But again, to echo what Mark Walter said, I just want to congratulate the Milwaukee Brewers on a tremendous season. Congratulations. Cody Bellinger, I've got some more hardware to give out. Guess who's getting the NLCS MVP award? Cody Bellinger, you come to bat in the second inning, Dodgers down one-nothing. You get two strike count. Tell me what you were looking for, what you got, and what it felt like? I was looking for a pitch up, two strikes. Just trying to put a good swing on it, and luckily it went out of there. Let's go back to game four. It was late at night with your base hit, the walk-off hit that really did turn this series around. Did you feel the momentum changed with that hit? Yeah, definitely. I think I like our chances even when we lost yesterday. We had Bular on the mound. Once we had a lead form, I knew he was going to shut it down for us. How do you feel about visiting Fenway Park on Tuesday? Yeah, it's pretty cool. That's going to be a pretty special series against us. It's going to be a pretty cool series. It's time to go celebrate. Go join you guys. Thanks so much. Congratulations. Back to you, Kevin. Thank you.


The holidays are upon us Sounds like the title of a horror movie franchise and not in vain We are going to be reunited with our families and then reunited with our therapists Because nothing Nothing my child's and child's child's deaths Nothing can be worse than meeting your parents again or Having to share a dinner table with your siblings. You thought you've got you got rid of them But you never do you never do they stalk you forever And today I'm going to discuss number one how to cope with toxic families number two the dynamics of toxic families and the inevitable number three and insider view of how Narcissists experience holidays birthdays and other dismal days Okay, for those of you who don't know who are lucky enough to not know who I am My name is Sam Vaknin. I'm the author of Malignant self-love narcissism Revisited and a professor of psychology to the most unfortunate students of on earth Those who are forced to listen to me and pretend that I am fascinating That's a prerequisite for passing my courses Okay, I'm going to start with an article in time. You remember time magazine magazine a Sheaf of papers Collated and assembled together which include content. No, okay forget it Once upon a time there was a magazine and it was titled time the competition was titled Newsweek And it's now strictly online anyhow 50 years ago exactly Time magazine on September 25th 25th 1964 I was three years old three and a half years old by the way That's the second important historical event of the day, but on that day time published an article the article reviewed an academic study and The academic study said that couples who stay in abusive relationships and fight Do so because the fighting can I'm quoting? I'm not inventing this. I swear to you The study said that couples remain in abusive relationships because of the fighting and the fighting balances out each other's mental mental quirks The study was published in the archives of general psychiatry and it looked at 37 cases of assault between couples in Massachusetts It found something interesting a common trend. I'm quoting again from this incredible piece of history of psychiatry Though reasonably hard-working and outwardly respectable The husbands in the study were in reality shy Sexually in effectual Mothers boys you try to publish such a study today. See what happens to your tenure The wives continues the article also fitted a pattern. They were aggressive efficient masculine and Sexually frigid. I'm lucky. I was only three years old imagine living in such an environment The article the article continued usually the wife was boss and her weak-willed husband Was content to play the subservient role until he had a few drinks then inebriated Role alternation would take place and the husband would insist Belligerently upon his conjugal rights. This is a euphemism for the husband would rape his wife What is what is interesting is the last paragraph in the study? It said The periods of violent behavior by the husband Served to release him momentarily from his anxiety about his ineffectiveness as men while giving his wife a parent masochistic gratification and Helping probably to deal with the guilt arising from the intense hostility expressed in her controlling castrating behavior I'm not drunk. I am not high This was really published This is a study. This is a real study. It was really published in 1964 Okay, that's a perfect segue into the issue of toxic relay toxic families Toxic families of families were one or more members of the family behaves in abusive controlling or humiliating ways in other words is toxic Personality clashes Play a role Disagreements about politics and sports a hint do not discuss politics and sports if you want your Life expectancy to remain the same also don't try to contradict conspiracy theories It's the wrong way to go about it conspiracy theorists are heavily emotionally invested in their pet theories And would regard any attempt to refute them as a personal attack so Some people simply avoid Reunions on Thanksgiving or Christmas or Russia Shana or whatever the Muslims have for Family reunion. They simply avoid family reunions. This is too much.  They can't take the needling and the preaking They can't take the insults implied and Explicit and implicit they can't take the relative positioning Comparing children each one each couples children to the others They can't cope with the competitiveness and so on so forth say so they simply avoid such Families here are several tips on what to do number one except Admit that your family is seriously dysfunctional Toxic and bad for you Embrace this knowledge do not reject it. Do not deny it. Do not reframe it. Do not pretend. Do not fake Do not bury Things or sweep them under the carpet Acceptance is the first step to healing you need to accept then plan ahead plan ahead Because the main mechanism In operation in toxic families is control people compete for control We will discuss a bit later in the second part of the video the dynamics of toxic families. It's a lot about Control and what is called emergent dynamical roles again? We'll discuss it a bit later, but Suffice it to say at this stage that it's about control you Toxic families Disregulate you and they dysregulate you on purpose They do it in order to reestablish the old order of things the packing order and in order to manipulate you Now none of this is done a little of this is done malevolently or maliciously a little very little very small part of it is Premeditated there's no grand scheme. There's no psychopathic kind of a master plan these are just Dynamics that have characterized the family early on and have never changed because they cannot change People put you down They mock you. They ridicule you.  I'm sorry or a biting dark sense of humor They make demands that you cannot meet. They set you up for failure. You know all this prepare yourself Ask yourself some very basic questions Why am I going there? How much time am I willing to spend there? What are my boundaries? How am I going to communicate my boundaries? What are the red lines beyond which I simply pack and go? What do I need to avoid? Who do I need to avoid? What makes me angry and what can I can overcome? Answer all these questions in order to set healthy boundaries firm boundaries not aggressive and communicate them efficiently expect nothing Don't expect That you will heal your childhood wounds Don't expect to have a frank conversation Don't expect to change the family dynamics in any meaningful way. Don't expect to resolve all grudges inheritance issues or the division of property Don't expect to regain your father's love or your mother's attention. Forget all this BS This should have happened a long time ago the person who Irritated you last year will irritate you again the one who needled and preached you will do it again and the one who humiliated you in Public and shamed you by exposing your secrets would be only too delighted to repeat the performance expect the worst and Then be surprised by how much worse it can become So this is a question of attitude actually rather than experience anxiety Do something relaxing before the trip do something relaxing during the reunion I don't know meditate think about the last book you've read or the last sex you have had. I hope it was good Yoga put on earphones listen to music start dancing in the living room go for a walk minimize the pressure Reduce and ameliorate the stress eliminate the anxiety by becoming emotionally numb indifferent Don't show your emotions Adopt something called reduced effect display because anything you say or do Can and will be used against you in the court of your family Avoid getting sucked into arguments.  They're not your point of reference focus on getting through this This is boot camp. This is a revisit of the worst period in your life focus on Rendering it a kind of illusory nightmare. Tell yourself. I'm just dreaming this I'm about to wake up Avoid sensitive topics. Don't engage when you are facing inappropriate or insensitive questions People will try to provoke you. They will try to bring out the worst in you. They will try to humiliate you They will try to make you behave in ways that you will regret the next morning.   They have no empathy They're narcissistic. They're grandiose their childlike in short people are delightful except this tolerated remember that you have to Tolerate it for a short while luckily for you Find a distraction Positive psychology think about something positive Try not to think at all Watch a movie on the telly Do something serve the internet in in as a last resort watch one of my videos Yes toxic families are even are even worse than my videos. Can you imagine?  That's how they see you You don't need to see yourself this way Remind yourself of everything that's great about yourself everything that you have accomplished and that you are Lovable and you are worthy of love and respect. How do I know? Because I don't know you're married You have an intimate partner someone smiled at you when you bought a candy So remind yourself that not everyone shares the point of view of your toxic family You could come to the family gathering with a friend or partner And this may force your family to be a lot less toxic like, you know, you don't longer the dirty laundry public so they will try to act and pretend and so on but It can be a double-edged sword They can draw your partner Into the negative dynamics of the family your partners may be supportive But they may suddenly prove to side with your family proof to be unsupported. They may side with your family so Don't isolate yourself but Try In my opinion not to involve third parties in all this mess because you may end up losing these third parties your friends or even your spouse or and and so Prepare an exit strategy You're a hostage You're a prisoner. You're an investor in a scam. How do you get out? If things become unbearable if you can't stand it anymore Leave If you can't leave outright pretend that you have to leave to do something I don't know to buy cigarettes in the grocery store. You have to go for a walk for your constitutional Doctor's orders you have an emergency at the local hospital or you're an astronaut And your rocket is about to launch You know reasonable explanations as to why you are living in a hurry Take a child with you when you walk away Safeguard the children protect them from the toxicity of your family Once all this is over Once the drama is finished the curtains are drawn You will emerge from this shaken and steered and You would need to talk to someone Make plans in advance Agree with a close friend with an intimate partner with a colleague. That's that you're you know pals with Agree to talk to them immediately after the event. It's kind of debriefing It's like an espionage mission in at the heart of china or soviet russia You need to be debriefed and at the same time Deprogram and detoxicated tell all the stories to your nearest and dearest and i'm not talking about your toxic family Shuhorn your close friend to push him to a corner and Share with him everything bad that's been done to you at the reunion this so-called get together Compare your experiences to his or her experiences.   Maybe your absence is even more more more helpful than your presence Maybe it will help you to develop new habits that will make you happier And maybe then you will be a new person and maybe you will induce positive dynamics in the family next time you go Do what's good for you You don't owe anyone anything except me, of course Okay family dynamics toxic families Are a variety of family? It's a sub it's a variant of of the family structure and there's a whole field called family dynamics The family is a system Relationship dynamics are interactions between people that determine how these people think about each other Or relate to each other. What do they do together how they work together and much more? And so relationship dynamics Is a field that is applied to family dynamics. It's ways in which family members interact Now there is a huge variety of dynamics, et cetera, et cetera. I will not go into it This is not a video about female family dynamics, but I will mention examples of family dynamics There's the authoritarian family Where there's one top honcho. That's one guy and he rules the rules. Usually it's a man But it could be a woman This person sets all the rules is a dictator in in effect. If you don't comply you're punished, et cetera, et cetera Then there is a competitive family Where all the members are always in competition to see who can do better who can get more Who can outweigh who and who can suppress who? Um, siblings usually are competitive. So they form a competitive family subsystem Then there is the uninvolved family Uninvolved family is possibly the worst possible kind of family It's when family members go their own way drift apart are totally detached cold and distant They don't care about each other. They are utterly indifferent. They're not present Either physically or emotionally They don't give attention to each other and so on and so forth. This kind of family is super destructive Then there is a communal family these are families in which each member feels valued Knows that they can share their thoughts and opinions safely. It's a it's a secure base That's the optimal healthy family. And finally there's alliance based families This is a family this is this is sort of dynamics that happened when Some members work together In a coalition to use other members to get what they want So it's a very manipulative type of environment and within each and every one of these types of families There are roles each one of us is allocated a dynamic emergent role And we play this role in the family consistently and repeatedly and habitually and it sticks with us for life And when there's a family reunion These role roles are reactivated You can't get rid of them. They are again with you for life. So the role of the hero It's the golden child It's a well behaved over achiever Uh, they maintain an image of perfection. They have big goals. They are a bit grandiose and um The hero the golden child is the golden standard For everyone else the this kind of child sets the expectations But the hero could be a parent if the parent is highly narcissistic or selfish or egocentric or whatever The parent is likely to set himself or herself Up as the hero and the children should measure up to the hero Another role is the rescuer. It's a family member that's always doing Something for someone else. It's a family family member who is a people pleaser her job Her energy Is to help others to make sure that everyone have what they need To try to ensure that no one does anything they should not do They never focus on themselves and what they need and so They are fixers and saviors and rescuers and that's for life Then there's a scapegoat. It's someone who is the troublemaker the black sheep The failure the loser Everyone blames them for the issues in the family and for the dysfunctional dynamics of the family All this is happening because of you.  You brought so much trouble and pain and hurt to this family scapegoats Failed to follow the rules that defined the consummations the reject authority they exhibit self-destructive behavior Usually it's the weakest weakest link. It's the weakest person in the family There is another role which is the switchboard. It's a family member who has all the information It's like a database the internet the family's internet Not only does this person have all the information. He undertakes functions of communication They keep up with everyone's schedules school and appointments They are present in healthy and dysfunctional families but in healthy families the family members get everything they need and And the switchboard makes sure that they fulfill their commitments, which is a functional thing In a dysfunctional toxic family the switchboard Fills the weight of everything on their shoulders. So switchboard Children for example Are parentified They act in lieu of the parents. They gather all the information about all the other members of the family They communicate communicate this information between members of the family They make sure that all family members are Adherent to their timetables and schedules. They make sure everyone gets what they need And and fulfills their commitments. They're kind of micro managing the family They're like chief executive officers, but they're children after all So they are there's a form of parentifying Then there's a power broker. It's someone who controls everything They make sure they remain on the top spot in order to maintain control They're present In in all the situations in all the events They are they use information or leverage information and Um They thrive on controlling everyone. They need to control all the time. Now, they often masquerade this control in terms of tough love or responsibility or just being there for you, but That's nonsense. That's control and they want you to be dependent on them There's the lost child wrong. That's a member who make themselves It's a member of the family who makes himself or herself invisible Their conflict averse They don't want to engage in the toxic family's dynamics So they go along with whatever is expected to them to maintain peace and order They have a hard time standing up for themselves and making personal decisions because of their role And so this role is In dysfunctional families is a role of subservience It's fear-based The child is afraid not to comply Because they are afraid that if they don't comply the family will fall apart or they will somehow suffer and it's always Important to them to be good To follow the rules to make life easier for everyone in every family. There's the clown the court just It's somewhat always always makes jokes jokes kids around Lightens the atmosphere and the mood. They try to make everything amusing But actually It's a very dysfunctional role because what they're doing is they're trying to ignore things They're trying to deflect attention from real problems. They're trying to camouflage The serious dysfunctions and toxicity with humor That's they feel pressure to always save save the day By making everyone laugh in a problematic situation and this leads to the cheerleader This is a family member who supports and encourages others all the time They're a little like the rescuer. They help others But they don't neglect their own self-interest needs and self-care So the rescuer is self-neglectful. The rescuer sacrifices herself Just so that others can be happy The cheerleader Tries to bring out the best in you. She tries to encourage you and and help you There are no cheerleaders in toxic families None Everyone in a toxic family is at each other's throats And most of it is done passive aggressively under the radar In a way that is really difficult to decode Unless you are deeply enmeshed in the family dynamics There's the nurturer It's someone who emotionally supports other all these to remind you are that are dynamical emergent roles in families So the nurturer supports others. They are there for everyone to help them through problems They mediate between different members nurturers are also Seen only in healthy families. You do not have nurturers in toxic families. Now. I want to talk a little about The narcissist what else I want to talk about how the narcissist sees holidays And family reunions and birthdays And all the other disasters that happen in life from time to time so I read this to you. This is something I've written actually And about myself Holiday blues are a common occurrence even among the mentally sound In me they provoke a particularly virulent strain of pathological envy I'm jealous at others for having a family or for being able to celebrate lavishly Or for being in the right festive mood My cognitive dissonance is crumble. I keep telling myself. Look at those inferior imitations of humans Slaves of their animated corpses Wasting their time pretending to be happy. I can't believe that anyone is genuinely happy. I think they're all faking Yet deep inside. I know that I am the defective one I realize that my inability to rejoice Is a protracted and unusual punishment Meeted out to me by my very self I'm sad. I'm enraged I want to spoil it for those Who can celebrate?  I hate happy humans because I'm unable to be one A long time ago.  I feel that they are hypocrites Dissimulating joy where there is none I feel envious humiliated by my envy and enraged by my humiliation I feel that they are the recipients of a gift that I will never receive The ability to enjoy life The ability to feel cheer And then I do my best to destroy their mood I bring bad news. I provoke a fight I make a disparaging remark A snarky comment I project a dire future I saw uncertainty in the relationship and when the other person is sour and dour and sad I feel relieved and good It's back to normal My mood improves dramatically and I try to cheer her up Now if she does cheer up, it is real. It is my doing. I controlled it. I made it happen I made her cheer It is a form of control Holidays remind me of my childhood Of the supportive and loving family that I never had Of what could have been and never was And as I grow older Will never be I feel deprived I feel it's an injustice And coupled with my rampant paranoia I feel cheated and persecuted I rail against the indifferent injustice of a faceless cold world Holidays are a conspiracy of the emotional haves Against the emotional have nots Have have's not Birthdays are an injury To me An imposition a reminder of vulnerability a fake event artificially constructed I destroy in order to equalize the misery I rage in order to induce rage Holidays creating me an abandon of negative nihilistic emotions The only ones I could I consciously possess On holidays and on my birthday I make it a point to carry on routinely as if nothing is happening I accept no gifts I do not celebrate I work till the wee hours of the night It is a demonstrative refusal to participate a rejection of social norms and in your face statement of withdrawal and avoidance It makes me feel unique Makes me feel even more deprived and punished Makes me feel powerful It makes me feel helpless It feeds the furnace of hatred the bestial anger the all engulfing scorn that I harbor first and foremost to myself I self-load I want to be drawn out of my sulk and pouting Yet I decline any such offer I evade any such attempt I hurt people who try to make me smile and to forget In times like that In holidays and birthdays I'm reminded of this fundamental truth My voluptuous virulence spiteful hissing and spitting grudge Is all that I have Those who threaten to take it away from me With their love affection compassion care joy cheer Those who threaten to take it this grudge away from me Are my mortal enemies indeed So this is my personal confession More structurally The holiday season should be a time of family get-togethers Love shared Relatives and friends brought up to date Holidays are supposed to be the reification of that contradiction in terms mass or group intimacy Instead for victims of family violence and abuse The holidays are recurring nightmares Replete with danger and duplicity A theater of the absurd with menacing overtones This is especially true when the offender Also has narcissistic or antisocial personality disorders It is important to understand the mindset of such abusers And what they do in holidays and birthdays Number one envy Holiday blues are a common occurrence even among the mentally sound In abusers with narcissistic and antisocial personalities This holiday blues this envy provokes a particularly virulent strain of pathological envy The psychopathic narcissist is jealous at other people For having a family For or for being able to celebrate or for possessing the right festive mood The narcissist the narcissist keeps telling himself look at these people Wasting their time pretending to be happy Deep inside the narcissist knows That something is wrong with him. He realizes his inability to rejoice And that it is a protracted and unusual punishment Mitted out to him by his own hands The narcissist will never admit it But the narcissistic or psychopathic abuser is actually sad Enraged envious Consequently, he wants to spoil the party for everyone else He wants them to share his misery to reduce them to his level of emotional abstinence and absence Holidays remind the narcissist of his childhood The supportive and loving family he never had The narcissists the narcissistic and psychopathic abuser They feel deprived Encoupled with rampant paranoia. They feel cheated and persecuted as I said Holidays are a conspiracy to them Then there is passive aggressiveness Holidays and birthdays are injurious in positions and reminders of vulnerability The abuser ruins such events destroys them in order to make everyone else as miserable as he is The abuser rages in order to induce rage Holidays create in the narcissist an abandon of negative nihilistic emotions On holidays and birthdays even on his own birthday the narcissist Makes it a point to ignore everyone to remain indifferent to the event and to any participant in the event It's a kind of demonstration Kind of protest A rejection of others and what they can they can offer The narcissist On the one hand wants to be loved wants to be fitted wants to be cheered up wants to experience joy On the other hand he rejects people who try to help him with that And so it's very difficult to Somehow interact with the narcissist on these days. Narcissists also control freaks they are Unhappy when other people are happy They want to cause happiness in other people Because they also want to be able to take it away They have to be the cause of everything. They're the pivot They're the axis around which everyone and everything should revolve and so They're counter dependent in a way The psychopathic narcissist projects his own desolate inner landscape onto other people He's convinced that people are faking and feigning their happiness That this happiness is false and false It feels that they are hypocrites and so besieged by knowing in adequacy The narcissistic abuser does his best to ruin it for everybody else to to deconstruct this celebratory celebratory mood And when he has rendered his family in social circle Sad distraught unhappy Then he feels elated feels relieved What can you do about such people? party poopers Wreckers of joy hateful people self-hating and other hating What can you do about them? well Act against your better instincts Do not try to involve the abuser in festivities Family events birthdays holidays special occasions and gathering forget about it Such attempts will only infuriate the abuser further as i've just explained instead Leave the abuser be let him be let him sulk Mired and immersed as he is in his self-pity Sithing envy and martyrdom complex. He needs to go through this.  He will haunt you all the same Just because you have been happy for a minute just because you because you've been out of his or her clutches for a minute With the narcissistic and psychopathic abuser No good deed goes unpunished and no good occasion goes home


War prediction algorithms are these seemingly abstract things, but in reality There's tons and tons of new big data sources coming online And we're trying to use all that information to predict where future events in the world are gonna happen like war like genocide like large-scale atrocities and killings So there's this analogy that I always like to draw back on when I talk about war prediction algorithms to make them more accessible and understandable So for millennia, we survived without really understanding the dynamics of gravity and then all of a sudden we came along and said Okay, let's understand gravity through physical forces and that allowed us to then make engineering solutions to counteract it So building things like roller coasters sending people to the moon came directly because we understood the dynamics of nature War prediction algorithms and human nature are largely similar So we have all of these governing laws that we don't necessarily understand yet And if we want to engineer solutions around creating peace then the first step is Understanding the laws of nature that contribute to war One of the big data sources for predicting revolts and revolutions is Twitter data If you have governments like Brazil that are having tons of revolts and they know where they're gonna happen They can do large things to quash those revolts at the same time If you're a country that's trying to produce revolts to provide democracy then it goes both ways People have been doing quantitative forecasting for decades They did during the Cold War predicting whether Russia was about to send missiles over to the US We're pretty good at understanding really simple trends that we have immediate data on In Brazil and Venezuela people could predict where and when within a region of three to seven days Future revolts are gonna happen The reason why war prediction algorithms are something that I think you really really need to invest a lot of effort in now is Because we've had a Cold War two world wars in the last hundred years It's a little bit naive to think that with all this new technology That's going to allow smaller and smaller entities to contribute a large effects towards a global population That we're gonna survive unless we meaningfully push society down a peace-filled and prosperous path Rather than just allowing it to blindly guide itself into walls


Hi everyone, this is Rob Horlacher from Project Sandbox, a University of Lethbridge Library initiative. This is the third video in a series of videos teaching you how to print at the University of Lethbridge. This video is specifically going to focus on how you can use the web app to print. So to do that, we're first going to go into a browser. Just from any browser you might be in, what you want to do is type in printing.uleth.ca. Once you do that, it'll bring you to the printing website. You'll just click on the little print button and then put in your user ID and password. Once we get in, you click on campus and then you can set up all of your stuff. So you can choose your file, whatever that might be. So what I'm going to do is do my printing videos, our awesome document, put in the number of copies I want, and then the page range. One thing I should mention too is if you do have a web page with a specific URL, like say you wanted to print off ruleth.ca website, you would be able to put that in there. We don't want to do that though. So after you've done that, you just hit continue. And here's where you can change all of your settings. So it defaults to double-sided and black and white. If you want that changed, just make sure you click on the drop-down menu and change it to what you might want. So for me, I want single-sided and I want color, so I'll change it in there. Something to mention is if you click on the color option, but print it off at the black and white printer, it's still going to charge you for the color printer that you originally asked for. So make sure you're going to the correct printer for the correct document that you want to be printed. Once you're done that, you hit continue, and then it'll say that your job is processing. Once it's done, it'll say complete, and then you can go to a printer. So through the magic of snapping, let's go to one of the printers. So through the magic of snapping my fingers together, as you can see, I am now in front of the printer. The printer that I'm at is a black and white printer. The main thing you want to do whenever you choose a printer to print out of the library is that it's actually the type of printer that you want to go to. What I mean by that is if it's a color printer, you want to go to either level level 11 of the library. You can find a color printer just outside the Kerlab, or you can go to level nine of the library where there's also a color printer. If you want black and white, you can come to level 10 north, where this one is right here, or you can go to level 10 south. The one thing to keep in mind with that printer though is there's no photocopier or scanner attached to it, but if all you want to do is print, that one's good for you. Whenever you choose which type of printer you want, the next thing you need to do is actually print your photo. So the first thing that you'll want to do to print off a photo is you'll want to swipe your card.  If for some reason you leave this screen, let me just see if I can do it. So if for some reason you leave the screen and you want to go back to your actual printing screen, say you're at something like this, you just need to hit that print copy scan button. Once you hit that button, it'll take you back to where you're supposed to be. From there, you just need to hit follow you printing and then select whichever document you want to be printed. So I just want this top one printed for now. If I wanted the other ones, I could select them, but I don't. So I'm just going to deselect those and just print off the photo.  Obviously, I don't need to say printing that many times, but there you go. So once you're done printing off your documents, the next thing you want to do is just log out of this screen so that other users aren't going to use your information. So if you notice there's a log out button at the very top. That's actually not the one that you're supposed to press. You're supposed to press this one in the bottom left hand corner. So we're just going to press that. It's going to log us out. We hit OK and we're done. So thank you very much for watching this video. I want to, first of all, thank printing services for going over all this information to make sure that it's still correct. And I just want to remind you if you want to keep up to date with all of the new tutorials and stuff coming out of the library, just remember to subscribe to our channel. And if you would like to watch other printing videos in this printing series, you can see two boxes on my right hand side with future videos to watch. Once again, thank you very much, and I hope you watch the rest of these.


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