What's up guys? How are we? And welcome back to another reaction video. The pleasure's mine. Today we're focusing on a player by the name of Baker Mayfield.   He's gonna be up there in all three categories. But like I said, when I think about Baker Mayfield as a person, the thing that comes to mind is passion, culture, confidence. He's cool, man. He is cool. He's only been in the league for a short three years, but what he's done in that time to turn the Browns around is absolutely incredible and the best of luck to him for this upcoming season. But guys, we're here right now to focus on his 2020 season as told by his peers. And with that in mind, before we do get into the video, a quick word from our exclusive video sponsor, Manscaped. Sup guys, it's Jacob here. Thank you, first and foremost, for clicking on my video. Secondly, this video is proudly brought to you by Manscaped. 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He's got two absolute gun running backs. I'm not sure about the tight end situation. He's got Miles Garrett on defense. Do I know any other defenders? No, not really. So I guess we'll stop there. But as far as the offensive side of the ball, they have firepower absolutely everywhere. So I feel like the Browns as a team, they've got the tools to do it. But a lot of that responsibility, a lot of that, a lot of those, you know, clutch moments where confidence is key are going to rest on Baker Mayfield's six foot tall shoulders. So with all that in mind, let's continue. His hearts are really pinpointed. One play.  We've seen that before. Funny thing about Landry is he might have a tiny head, but he's got some of the biggest hands in the league. And with those hands, it's about to throw what looks like a touchdown pass. No, it's out at the 25, but it is a catch. It's a throw from Jarvis Landry to Baker Mayfield. And Landry's not the only wide receiver in the Browns who throws. That's the kind of play that when I think about Baker Mayfield comes to mind. Flea flicker type plays, the trick plays that started a couple of years ago. Man, I mean, he made a lot of plays. Well, not there. Well, I don't know what kind of play that was, but a lot of people call me not on the list last year.  A gun slinger. Yeah. When that clock starts turning the savages, let's go. Yeah, come on here.   Baker, you're dealing a hot hand right now. He looks so much more comfortable, doesn't he? You're looking at. Yeah. Oh, I'm winning. It looked like he's cocky and arrogant when he goes out there. About 98 percent of the time, I'm right. Like 98.7. Well, at least you can admit when you're wrong, mate. I'm all for it. I'm a back home whenever. And I'll tell you what, man, look, I have to stop the video here. Miles Garrett, the more times I see him on screen, the bigger he looks.  He reminds me of Dwight Howard in the shoulders. But then you go down a bit and you look at Miles Garrett's arms. They're 20 inches at the very least. The last time I saw 20 inch arms at 10 percent body fat was on the Mr. Olympia stage.  He runs a 40 hour dash in less than 4.5 seconds. What?  Don't mind a bit of miles, Garrett. Drafted him and he really turned the whole franchise around. Go mode right now. You showed up this year.  And if you. There you go. A Brown's tight end. So we've got Jarvis Landry, OBJ, Nick Chubb, another running back and David and Joku, a tight end. So there's five. Add Baker in there. That's six. Interesting. It was a lot of us. Popeye on the spinach. He's not one of those guys who get flustered. Hell no. Baker makes me sounds confident. Way to stay in the pocket, man. Composed. A lot of times, quarterbacks may get down. They start getting hit, sack. He's a guy that just just keeps. Bang. Tell you what, there's a few running backs out there that would be pretty pleased with the left foot step like that. That was that was that was violently stuck in the ground. Have a look at this. He's a guy that just bang. Now, now if your name is Lamar Jackson, you'd probably expect to see something like that most games. But I've got to give Baker Mayfield credit. Like I said at the start, he's not going to be the fastest, but he does have some pocket awareness. Just keeps keeps going. Some real pocket awareness. It's really hard to stop. He's just been pinpointed, especially in the second half of that year and searched the Browns into the playoffs, man. It was it was fun to watch, man. If you had a nickel for all the times people talked about Mayfield swagger, you'd be rich. But Baker makes his money by dropping dimes. And just how how many dimes you ask? Well, let's find out. Baker Mayfield. Six foot one. Sorry, mate.  And I know you wouldn't like that, but I'm going to give you two more KGs. So let's say six one, a hundred KG. Pick number one of the 2018 draft. And as we look down to his contract details, the Browns exercised Mayfield's fifth year contract option for the 2022 season on April 23rd, 2021. So he's in his fourth year. I assume that's putting a franchise tag on Mayfield for his fifth year. But as far as how much he got paid, he signed a four year rookie contract with the Browns on July 24th, 2018 with a deal worth 32.68 million dollars. Yeah, that's a, that's a fair few dimes. Wonder what he's spend it on. Looks almost good enough to catch. The Bengals game when we, I ran like a little corner post and he threw it on the dive. Let's have a look at that. And he threw it on the dive. Look at what a catch by the tight end. A joku. He just dropped back home, dropped back home. Dinkin' duck all the way down the field. He can just, he can really eat you up. No, no, no, no, no, no. Well, he's one of those guys that, no matter what the stakes are, he's going to be able to seize the moment. And he's going to be ready for that moment. In 2020, Mayfield led the Browns to their first playoff win since 1994. Go Landry. Time's down. Baker, Mayfield, and Charmas. Ah! Putting on a show right now when Baker was the ringleader of that. I like what I see, guys. I do, and like I said at the start of the video, it's not about his skill, although he has it in spades. It's about his personality. It's about the culture that he brings to the team, which then brings culture to the area of Cleveland. Have I been there? No. Would I like to go there? Absolutely. I want to go to the football hall of fame, which is in the same state, but not the same city, right? Cleveland is a city in Ohio. So is Columbus, which hosts the Arnold Classic. So is Canton, which hosts something else. Anyways, any Cleveland Browns fans out there, I hope you enjoyed the video. I hope you enjoyed the jersey in the background. And with all that being said, have a fantastic day. Thank you for watching, and I will see you in the next one. Peace out, guys.


We engraved our AI image and we'll show you what we learned right now What is up a welcome back do you like to do a builder to make it? So do we and we have new videos each week So be sure to like leave us a comment subscribe and hit that bell to be notified of our new videos Today we're doing our top 12 tips for laser engraving how to get them dark crisp and clean This is a follow-up to last week's video where we did some Prepping for some laser engraving this week's video We're gonna show you everything that we learned in the order in which we learned it so that you can do a perfect engrave as well Tip number one choose the right tree wood does matter we started with pine We ended up moving over to a different type of wood Woods like cherry and alder and basswood are soft woods and then you can use a hard wood as well And that would be something like maple and birch wood does matter You're gonna get different results with different types of wood There's different grain patterns different grain density and different types of resins We ended up choosing maple it had a great green pattern. It was a light colored board So it's gonna give us good contrast with the engraving Tip number two no need to be too fast or too furious So for my first engrave, I just went as fast as I could with a hundred percent power That was not the way to do it.  Yes, you have to do we got a nice burn We did several tests So we got a nice burn and we ended up going with 200 millimeters per second and 50 percent power Tip number three your image You want to start with a high resolution image if you're doing something like photo engraving If you have a low resolution image Something that you've maybe grabbed off of the web and it's a very small photo You're gonna have issues with Pixelation your edges are going to be rough and they're not going to get a clear Beautiful engrave so the higher resolution image that you start with the cleaner your picture is going to look the more detail You're going to be able to see Conversely if you choose a high resolution image for a tiny engrave You may have too much detail for something so small You won't need all the extra detail if it's going to be very tiny anyway So you're gonna want to balance that image resolution if it's going to be a large image You want that detail if it's going to be a small image a little less detail will be fine Our image was seven and a half by 42 inches long We had a very large image that we were going to engrave so we needed to ensure we had high dpi So we are at least 300 dpi for our image when we exported it tip number four Proper focus height if your laser is out of focus you can get some burning. It'll look blurry Or it can even have uneven depths The best focus point is where the laser looks the smallest or the thinnest on the board It looks like you drew on it with a pin if your laser beam looks fat or you're having a fat line That means you're out of focus. We are going to use a two inch lens We're going to clean our mirrors and we're going to do a ramp test to make sure we have the perfect focal height Tip number five have enough material for testing now that you know what your image is going to be You know that you're going to do what woods are going to use now You have to test the engraving now the board that we were using is a maple board and It is very expensive right now So we did get a little more than what we needed because we knew we were going to have to do some testing and We knew we were going to size our image down or just take a Like a cross section. Yes of our image to do some testing So that we could make sure that we're testing on the same material that will be engraving on tip number six Keep it clean.  You don't want any excess dust. You don't want any piles of debris You don't want any oil spots on it. You want a nice clean even surface so you get a nice clean even engrave tip seven a Little bit of air assist So when you're doing an engraving or when you're doing any laser cutting You want to use that air assist that helps keep a clean cut in a case where we're engraving wood You don't want that air too high Because it will take away the char that the engraving is trying to put down on the wood It'll also make the laser beam burn a little bit hotter in this particular engraving You want to dial your air assist back? We typically cut at 15 psi We dialed it back to 5 psi because we did want to blow away a little debris from the engraving and a little air Assist will keep that smoke away from your lens But we didn't want too much air and then we didn't want it getting too hot Tip number eight a darker image is not always a better image So I thought I needed something dark with a lot of contrast So that would show up on my laser engraver, but I was wrong You need to go ahead and balance your contrast and your brightness Until you get a good balanced image all the way across You don't want super dark blacks and you don't want super white whites You want to try to keep them in the middle so that your laser has something to work with when it starts doing its dots And something to keep in mind in this case We didn't use this method, but you can just file this away for testing in the future You can always break your image up so that certain parts of the image are on different layers in this case We were using a photo so that didn't really work But if you're using a vector engrave You can put darker areas on one layer and lighter areas on another layer And you can adjust the settings for each layer tip number nine light burns adjustment tools So while Garrett modified the brightness of the contrast over in Photoshop before we ever exported the image We also did some image adjusting once we brought it into light burn You can go into light burn and use its image adjustment tools to again adjust the brightness and the contrast But also the gamma adjustments gamma adjustments Adjust those mid tones without affecting that brightness and that contrast So we had to tweak those right inside light burn as well to get that image just where we wanted it So that it was dark enough in some areas, but light enough in others so that when it engraved We could really see that road come out and pop out of that image on the wood tip number 10 Activating dither mode so dithering is just a technique using little dots to create a black and white photo Using shades of gray with little dots kind of like a newspaper or a comic book if you zoom in It's just little dots same thing. So light burn offers Several different modes for dithering the most common are Jarvis Stuckey and Atkinson So Jarvis is good for details and like a good smoothness Stuckey is good for like a good balance of black and white with a smoothness and Atkinson is good for a light or spaced out dots We went ahead and use Jarvis because we were looking for some good detail But with a smooth gradient tip number 11 11 Tip number 11 optimizing your line interval so in light burn It's actually called DPI, but what it really is talking about is lines per inch or The spacing in between the lines So a higher DPI is going to give you more lines per inch But a lower DPI will be fewer lines per inch now you're thinking with a photo engraved You're gonna want higher lines per inch or a higher DPI But do you So in our testing we found that the higher DPI or the higher lines per inch This one was at 300 and you can see it really burned it out It was just too long and too much It wasn't really about power on this one because the difference between this one and the beautiful engrave on this one Was simply the DPI. We changed it from 300 to 180 180 tip number 12 Post-processing once your engraving is done.  So blow that off with some candare Maybe you wipe your image down Or even a light sand over top to help pop it out once you sand it hit it with some candare again You could also add some oil lacquer or varnish Know that we'll change the color of your wood which may change the color of your engraving could make everything darker Did you learn anything? I mean we learned a lot with all that testing we were able to I Feel like next time We'll be able to dial it in even faster Oh, yeah, I like we've already learned some of these things But maybe every image is a little bit different and I think you might have to tweak it for every image this is photo quality and You'll you know to get some of these details. I mean we really worked on this cross-section over here to really make sure that you could see Trees grass hill landscape the road, you know, yeah, I had to make sure it was all Visible once it was done, but I think I learned a lot my top takeaways Wood matters and a higher DPI doesn't always mean a better image. Yes Yes, that was the that I think that was the most surprising take away for me Me too Big thanks to all of our patrons. Thank you. We love you guys And that is the best way to support this channel Join us over on patreon or we have all of the files that are in our store all the files that we use in our videos Most importantly, we have an awesome community here to help you and we're here to help you if you're a new laser or Engraver if you're new to lasers, then that's the place you should be there's a whole Slua folks a whole group out there willing to help and willing to share ideas like a giant mastermind of people with this different expertise I'm about out of time. I have to go get this in the mail You have to go do something productive and we will see you next week where we'll do it building to make it again I don't think that's a good idea. I think it's a great. I'm in it's too late. Okay. I'm in this one's an easy one It's just a very expensive board You


I'd like to give a link for introducing me, and I'm here to talk about the Nobel Prize in Physics for this year. So, Nobel Prize of this year has helped us in understanding the fundamental questions about our universe. Topics, like how did our universe take it? How did it has evolved? And what's our place in the cosmos? Topics, like these, were explored by these in this year's Nobel Awards, and James Lippon got half of the Nobel Prize for his political discovery in the Feast of Cosmology, and the other half of the awards were shared by Michelle Mayor and T. G. O. Cullums for discovering an exoplanet orbiting around some type of a star. And before we are touching their work, I'd like to talk briefly about our cosmos, what we know about it, and just to present a current picture for the universe. So, if you look, this is a picture of our cosmos taking from Hubble Space Telescope. And here you see very different beautiful objects, like galaxies and some of the stars. And if you go back about 100 years ago, then astronomers like Edmund Hubble used their telescope to observe these kind of objects. And what he noticed that these objects, particularly galaxies, were moving away from us. The universe was expanding, it was growing. What we see as our universe today is not the same as yesterday, and it will not seem tomorrow. And since these objects were moving away from us, so if you go past in time, it means that these objects were together, and they were much denser and closer to each other. And this led us to the formulation of the baking of our universe, which is the Big Bang. So, initially, the universe was hard and dense condition, and as the time passed away, the universe started expanding, and it got pulled out, and different types of objects like galaxies and stars came into existence. So, if you want to summarize about the Big Bang and about the evolution, we can do this in a picture like this. So, here, the very beginning of the universe was a hard and dense phase of the universe, and this we call this as Big Bang. And then, after this moment, the universe's very phase of the universe took place for a year of 14 billion years of history. And then, at this time, the gravity rolled into place, and different particles started combining, and different kind of objects like galaxies came into existence. So, it started out from the Big Bang, it was a cosmological history, and from the expansion of the universe, different types of objects came into our existence. And then finally, in the present, we have our own. So, James, we will help us in understanding the evolution of our universe, and then finally, Mr. Mayo and Pichu Pellos help us in exploring how unique is our place in the cosmos. So, let's see how James Pichu Pellos has helped us in understanding the big bang and the evolution of our universe. So, let's begin from the very beginning. So, the Big Bang was hard and dense, the reason of the initial phase of our universe tried to imagine that, here in this picture, the different red and yellow circles are the teeny-tiny particles, the very smallest particle, and the white color you see here is the light particles, the light which we see here, assuming that these are the light particles, and it was very hard and dense condition. It was so hard and dense that the light particles couldn't escape. But as the time passed today, these tiny particles started combining with each other, and they formed fundamental particles, they formed the fundamental elements, and at this moment, the universe was a bit cooler, and it was a little cancer, such that the light particles could escape from the universe. And this was the first moment, or the first glow of the initial phase of our universe. This is the Big Bang, and we call this, in simple terms, we call this the first light. But in scientific terms, we can recall this as cosmic microwave back-up radiation. And here you see our group picture, which is explaining to you how the first light originated from the Big Bang, and here the integral picture with the previous and glow-stallar is the real scientific picture of the first light of the universe. And Jane Friedman, in 1965, she made an important political contribution in understanding the origin of the first light of the universe. And this light was quite trans-detected by Pansias and Wilson in 1965, and actually it wanted to change people for understanding what they're detecting. And we got the Nobel Prize in 1970 for this discovery. So it was the first time that Jane Friedman missed his Nobel Prize. But, and since we have detected the first light from the Big Bang, to give an important support that something like Big Bang has happened in the past, later, in 1966, Jane Friedman used again the idea of first light to calculate how much matter, or how much matter should, how much mass should form through the Big Bang, like the formation of fundamental elements, like hydrogen or helium. And what she calculated in 1966 matches exactly with our current observations. So this was a kind of summarizing the story of the beginning of our universe. But what about our present? Like, what about our present time? We see different kind of objects. And for this, a very simple motion for you all, and I hope that you will answer this, does our night sky look like this? Simple yes or no motion?  And on the light, you can see many stars. And if you use them in school, then you see, you can exchange. So how these type of objects have a big interest in it? So Jane Friedman, he again came into the game, and he had us that how these objects have a big interest in it. So he said that first light, which is the first glow of the universe, like how the first light is spreading in the universe, how it has spread in the universe, it should not be very smooth, because as the time passed away, if there is little difference in how the first light has spread in the universe, each little difference can grow into further objects, because of the gravitation, if there is a little difference in each object can grow together, because of the presence of gravity, and we see different kind of objects like the Alexine from other stars, and further, these clumping of matter of little particles also led to the formation of our own planet Earth and some of the objects we see nearby us. He made this calculation, he did this in 1998, and later in 1992, this little difference in the first light was detected by sunlight and Josh at school and Josh's mentor on the Nobel Prize in 2006 for this discovery. So this was the second time when James was going to miss his Nobel Prize. So it's kind of unfortunate that a theoretical physicist is missing Nobel Prize again and again. But this year, finally, he got a Nobel Prize for explaining us the beginning of our universe and about our evolution. So the type of space of matter which formed galaxies or the stars, which we see here or does, also formed planet or our own whole planet and objects which we see nearby, like sun or moon and other objects. So this part, like how unique is our other, was explored by Michel Mayer and did your collaboration. So here you see a picture of our solar system. This is really fancy notion that all of us, you know, in our solar, in this universe, are being the only one which are still engaging in the universe. So now we know that since we see different type of stars, there are billions of stars. So we have to detect whether there are other planets involving other stars. And this we call as exoplanet. There is a planet without any other star except also the system we call this as an exoplanet. So it's really hard to detect an exoplanet because this presence of the sun, because the star oversize the presence of a planet. So imagine, like just see here, it's a picture of our sun. And here, if you notice carefully in the center, you can see a black dot. And this is a picture of Mercury as seen from our eye. So if the star is very far away from us and it's really bright, then it's really hard to detect a presence of a planet because it's just over-signed by the light of the star. So how are we going to detect a planet? And here, I'm just showing you a little technique how we can detect presence of a planet on a star. So try to imagine that we have a star somewhere in the universe as our own sun. It's somewhere in the universe. And if there's a planet around it, of course it's not going to be visible because it's getting over-signed by the light of the star. But if there's a planet around it, by chance, then we see that the presence of the planet as it is revolving around it, it affects the motion of the star because the gravity plays a role and it starts also kind of making motion. And here, we see the light coming from the star and it's changing. We have the basic, simple effect. If an object is moving away from us or it's coming near to us, we see that the light from it's getting changed. When an object is moving away from us, then we see that the red light is coming to us. And when an object is moving near to us, we see that the blue light is coming to us. And this, in scientific terms, we call this a donor effect. And this also happens even when the other is from a system that if there's a planet around it, then the presence of the planet and the star it causes the star to make motion and when the star moves away from us, we see that the red light is coming to us and when it moves near to us, we see that the blue light is coming to us. And this kind of change in the light of a star signifies that there might be presence of a planet around it. And this was invented used by Michel Bayer and his own colleagues. And they used this AP in 1995 and they detected the first exoplanet in our universe and it was a whole different planet. And this was like they detected this planet around a sun type of star and with a sun type of star I mean a star similar to our sun which has the same physical properties and the same temperature. And this opened like they were people who have also discovered planet but they were not confident and I should add two words here like these people. They were real people who were confident and very sure about their history and they were so confident and they told us and they have discovered a planet. And even before then there was a few people who found that they might have detected a planet but they were not sure about their discovery. So having such a confidence they made sure that they have detected a planet and this opened a new vibrant field in astronomy and physics and till now we have detected 4,000 picture planets in our universe and they are still yet to explode and recently with our scientific and technological advancement now even we can study the atmosphere of exoplanets and recently people have detected water in the atmosphere of an exoplanet so beginning from the starting phase of our universe we are at the level where we can detect water in the atmosphere of exoplanets but there are still some fundamental questions to explore but no one knows what happened before the big planet. Although we have detected 4,000 exoplanets and even at this time we can detect water on the other planets but are there half of it somewhere else? So these are fundamental questions and I really motivate people that try to think from the common point of view that what we can think because Einstein said that imagination is more important than knowledge. So try to imagine what could happen before these phase or is there life somewhere like this. So finally I might present a message for you to take home that it started out that even the phase of the universe was really hot and dense and this we call as a big planet and the first glow or the first light which we have from the big planet this we call in the scientific term as cosmic light and this has helped us in understanding how different types of objects like galaxies or stars came into existence and then finally the last message that we are not unique in our solar system that are one of the facts of planets existing in our universe more than 4,000 and we are going even further to discover more. Thank you. So we have some problems in the microphone so we are going to go for a while with the plastic fish out. So someone has a question? Here? Thanks very much. Any question? How can you distinguish the first light from so much light around us? So see on screen how would you distinguish the first light from this piece kind of light so very simply if I am moving towards you you know my speed. If someone from very bad like in very simple terms if I am coming to you you know my speed like how fast I am coming but if there is someone very far imagine the other part of Germany then life takes time how fast it is coming so the first light has already launched its energy and now it comes into the very low energy energy regime and if there is a sun it has higher energy parameters so this light will distribute with the energy source. And then I am hoping like an average I guess it is 30 years to win another prize something like that but regarding like the guys who found actually discovered the exoplanet why did it take so long? I mean like it was clear but after 30 years at least I don't know actually they discovered the presence of light but why did it take so long? So he asked me why did I want to detect an exoplanet so was this the question? so imagine here is a star and I am a planet and if I am going on it then the effect I produce on this star is like 0.5 meter per second yes you should ask this you should ask this I don't know how to answer this but they are you could cast them as the father of exoplanet thing and this led to revolution and I guess even change people did this in 1965 whatever he did and he is getting after like 60 years yes we can discuss this out thank you very much for the lecture thank you you said that the 4,000 more than 4,000 planets are just kind of and what is the percentage as to how many stars we have looked at that we found 4,000 is it safe to say that most of the universe has planets around us there is possibility that there can be planets around other stars it's up to our technological advancement and we can detect them all and these number of planets are mostly coming from the satellites so if we have a more technological upliftment we can detect more planets yes we have so he asked me whether we have seen some stars without planets so there are cases where we don't see any planets we have time for last question here in the middle and the full now so we mentioned that the universe has a singularity and that life as a house is the big bang shouldn't that first light be expanding as the edge of the universe of course it isn't expanding but maybe we can read that life is the fastest thing in the universe so if we are still observing the smaller edge of the universe does that mean the universe is expanding faster than light so Steve asked me whether the universe is expanding faster than the speed of light so I mean that in the expansion there is acceleration but it's a number expanding with the speed of light I think it goes to very theoretical part of physics you are welcome to discuss it after we answer the talk it's a very good question before concluding thank you all for the attention and for your life thanks my colleague for helping me and me in that for the support thanks for preparing me for having time


Okay, so does he want a real relationship or does he not want a real relationship? That is the question here. If you're not sure about whether he wants a relationship or not, you could be getting yourself into a really bad situation that doesn't end up leading to what you want and you may end up wasting a whole bunch of time and being really regretful and wishing that you would have looked for the signs or known the signs beforehand. And so today we're going to talk about seven different signs that he wants a real relationship with you. And so my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. I am your big brother in the dating world.  Okay, so we're gonna be talking about seven things to look for with a guy who wants a real relationship with you. And the first six things that we're gonna be talking about, if they aren't there, that's a huge red flag. However, if they are there, that doesn't necessarily mean that he wants a relationship with you because the only one that really matters long term is number seven. I mean, they all matter, but the first six, if they're not there, they're red flags. And number seven is what really determines whether he wants a relationship with you or not. So and if you're here with us right now, make sure that you say hi in the chat and let us know where in the world you're watching this from, because that's really awesome to see all these people around the world watching all these live streams. It's a lot of fun. Okay, so number one is he'll talk to his friends and family about you. He'll invite you into different aspects of his life. He might invite you to meet his friends. He might invite you to meet his family. He'll go and meet your friends. He'll go and meet your family. So that's number one. And you're going to be doing things more that involve more than you guys just going out and hooking up.  That's what it means. It means that he trusts you.  It means that if he thinks that if he brings you around his friends and family that you're not going to be embarrassed of them that he's not going to be embarrassed of you.  He's proud to show you show them that you're around him and you're reliable enough in order to do that. Number two is he deletes his dating profiles. And really what this means is that he's done searching and is certain that he doesn't really care about meeting anybody else anymore and that he wants to or he is getting his needs met through you and or it could be other people if he's seeing other people as well. But it means that he's getting his needs met and that he's not searching anymore for anybody else to be in his life. Sign number three is he gives more than he takes. And so what this looks like is he puts an effort. He gives you compliments. He goes out of his way to meet up with you and see you and he pays attention to you. He might end up buying you things or doing different things. Really what this means is that he wants to impress you and that he's investing in you. And if you know anything about we've talked about this in some of the other live streams and videos that I've done where I talk it's basically it's called the sunken fallacy. I can't remember the name of it right now but it's something about sunken something fallacy where basically the more somebody invests in something the more that they feel like they're really attached to it and they're committed to it. And so a guy will invest a lot in you if he believes that he wants to be a part of you and he wants to be kind of with you for a while. Guys will invest in you if they feel that way. Number four is he's reliable and he's consistent with you. So he plans to meet up with you consistently every single week. And he so for instance if you guys are dating and first it's kind of like you know let's do this you know are you free then or whatever right and I'm not sure really if I'm gonna have that time available or whatever and eventually what he does is he'll end up scoping out like a piece of his life where he kind of fits you into it and he's like okay every week I'm gonna make sure that we meet up and I'm going to have some space available to meet up with her. He'll he'll figure out what's going on with your schedule and what your schedule is like and then he'll be like okay every week we're gonna do this at the same time or you know I'm gonna have this time available for myself so that we can end up meeting up because she has become more of a priority for me in my life over other women over other events over other things that I might be doing. And so really what this means is that he's created a space for you to be there. If you get what I'm talking about here say I get it in the chat if you don't get what I'm talking about here just ask me whatever questions you have about this. So number five is he makes things easy and so what this looks like is that you don't have to worry about what he's doing or where he is or how he feels or what's going on. He'll make it really easy for you guys to meet up together. He'll stay in communication with you. He'll talk to you about things. He'll connect with you in different ways.  So number six is that he actually wants to get to know you to know more about you and your personality and so he'll start paying more attention to you. He'll start listening to you. He'll ask you questions. He'll learn about you. He'll learn about things that are going on with you. He'll learn about the things that you like and the things that you don't like. Things that you're favorite. Things that aren't your favorite and he might kind of surprise you with things around that kind of stuff. And basically what this means is that he's deeply attracted to you. And so that's one through six. And like I said, number seven is the most important one. If it's not there, then none of this means necessarily that you are going to get into a relationship. And so number seven is that he'll unapologetically, he'll be very unapologetic about wanting a relationship with you and to be exclusive. And usually it starts off with being exclusive and he'll kind of talk about that. And he'll talk to you about it and he'll ask you about it or he'll say something to you about it. And the other one is he'll be unapologetic about being in a relationship with you. And so if you bring up either one of these things, it'll sound something like, yeah, of course. Yeah, absolutely. Like, yeah, I have no problem with that or, you know, yeah, that's what we're doing this whole time. And sometimes it will even seem like, you know, he'll be like, yeah, what do you think we're doing here? Right.  And so if you do bring it up or he brings it up, it's very clear that he wants a relationship. He doesn't beat around the bush.  He'll be very straightforward with you about actually wanting a relationship. And you know, one thing to note is that if you don't talk about it, then you can just assume that you're not in a relationship. And that's why number seven is so important. There was a woman in our community today that I was chatting with who was talking about how, you know, she's been seeing this guy for months and and she didn't want to give him the wrong impression that she didn't want a relationship and they've been sleeping together and all that kind of stuff. And she's like, Well, I don't want to give him the impression that I don't want a relationship. And it's like, well, you guys kind of like jumped the boat on that one, right? Like you need to talk about that earlier in kind of the dating situation that you're in, in order to make sure that you guys are on the same page there. Because if a guy's interested in a relationship with you, he'll know pretty, pretty early on like really, really early on with the first within the first few dates. And within the first six months, he'll know absolutely for sure what kind of a relationship he ultimately wants with you, whether it's something casual, something real, or actually going through the entire marriage thing altogether. And so he'll know exactly what's going on by the six month mark. And so you should have talked about it way, way before then I keep getting questions about that where they're like, Well, you know, we're hitting the six month mark, should I ask them if we're in a relationship yet? And it's like, oh, man, you guys should have talked about that way before the six month mark, right? And but it's just by that time by the end of that time, he knows for sure. And so if he's still waffling after the six month mark, studies have shown this where they've there's they've surveyed and interviewed guys about this. And pretty much unanimously, they figured out that guys by the six month mark know exactly what kind of a relationship they want. And so if they're not talking about that, if they're not being clear and concise with it, when you bring it up or talk to them about it, then basically, you need to know that that's, it's probably not going into a relationship ever. And so you need to think about what you actually want and what's what's good for you and whether you want to stay in that situation or not. Okay, so I'm going to go back over the seven different signs. And if you have any questions, make sure that you put them in the chat, and I will get to all of the chats here in a second. And if you have any questions, make sure you ask them in the chat and I'll go through them and I will answer any questions that y'all have for me. So going back over. So number one is he talks to his friends and family about you. He invites you into different aspects of his life. And he does things with you more than just hooking up. And you know, this could be inviting you to meet his friends and family or going and meeting with your friends and family. Number two is he he deletes his dating profile. Number three is he gives you more than he takes. Number four is he's reliable and consistent with you. Number five is he makes things easy for you. Number six is he actually wants to get to know you more more about you and your personality. And remember those six are important there. If they're not there, it's a huge red flag. And the most important one is number seven he's unapologetic about wanting a relationship and to be exclusive with you. So let's see what everybody's talking about in the chat here. So we have Malik. Hello, hello, hello. Hello, Yolanda. Hey, Julie tree. DD thinks my hair looks good. Thank you. Thank you for that. I love compliments. If anybody wants to give me a compliment. Thank you so much. Melissa says she's from Denver. That's cool. Miss paranoid Android says hello. Perfect timing. Fantastic care. Thank you. Kitty Sprinkle from Cincinnati. That's where I grew up. Let's see. Suborna says we are 40 in age. Do you think all the signs will be the same for our age also? Yeah, I mean, it's one of those things where there are some big differences from in age groups, right? Like when when you go over 40, there's some things that happen biologically that are really different. But it's still the same, right? Like even for you, right? It's the same with him. And so like a lot of women look at it and they're like, Oh, you know, is this just what a guy does? No, this is the same thing for both men and women. And it's pretty much universal, right?  And, you know, there's a few other things that are going on there. But absolutely, it's definite. Like if he's not unapologetic about being in a relationship with you and being exclusive with you, then that's a huge, huge, huge red flag. Debbie from Chicago. 48 and 60. Yeah. It's the same. It's the same at those ages. Hi from Africa. Can you suggest what should I think at this age? What should you think? Thank you. It depends on what's going on in your life. What what should you think? If you guys have any questions about anything, I will answer. I'll answer any questions, even if they're crazy. So can you suggest what should I think at this age? I think at age 40, you should be thinking about, you know, what you want. What what kind of a legacy you want to leave on the earth? What kind if you have children, I think you should be thinking about what kind of a role model you want to leave for them and how you want to give to them or give back to the world in general. Erica says what is long distance consistency? Long distance consistency, it depends on what you're talking about. Like one of the things that you need to do in long distance is make sure that you're meeting up with each other at least once a month. If you're not meeting up with each other at least once a month in your long distance, you're going to have a lot of challenges and a lot of problems. You're going to be not getting your needs met in a lot of different ways and that could end up being a problem for either one of you. And so that that could be a big, big challenge. Lee says girls get him. He's the perfect guy. Okay. So Darla says looks like I'm back to square one looking for someone real darn it.  And like I said, one of the things you want to make sure of is just talking about like what kind of a relationship you're looking at for from the get go, right? Because guys will be pretty upfront and honest about it, right? Most guys are looking for a real relationship that those are the statistics statistics show most men are looking for something real. Some men don't believe they're ever going to find it. And some men don't when they met you, there's something about you that you've done that makes it so that they don't feel like they want something real with you. And so if as long as you're kind of discussing all this stuff, he'll kind of let it be known through what he says, whether he's looking for something real with you or not. And so you need to kind of communicate and talk about these things and don't leave it up for chance and don't go around guessing and being wishy washy about it. And you know, these are the hints or you know, is it there? It's like have have come conversations, you know, communicate about these things. CB says, is this saying he does want a relationship but few hang ups? He says, I am glad you are clearly a caring person and I know you want something special, but I need to I need that to involve being the total package for me. So well, what he's saying is that there's something, there's something missing for him. That's what he's saying with that when he says, I need that to involve being the total package for me. There's there's something missing either with you or with him there that he feels like he he's unable to get into a real relationship with you right now. And so basically what you want to do is if a guy says something like that, you want to just be curious about it and say, Oh, what do you what do you mean about that? Like what is what's the total package for you? What's missing from that total package that you need, right? And he might start talking about himself. He might start talking about you. And you just want to ask him about that and just try not to get overly offended. If he's talking about you and just just let it go, right? One of the big challenges that a lot of women do is they get into these situations where a guy just wants a something or they get into a situation where they ask a guy things about stuff like this. And then when the guy starts saying things, they start taking it really personally, and they feel really hurt about it. And my suggestion is just just let it all go whatever he says, because he's going to say whatever it is. And it might be something really kind of harm feeling really kind of harmful to you. And it might not, right? And so you don't know. And then he's going to say something and if it's really bad, just let it go and just move on and get support and, you know, do whatever you need to do to feel good about yourself. And don't let it let it just roll off your back and don't take it personally. Then he says, What if we are just friends without benefits? He invites me to go out but as friends. Well, if you want something more, which is the only reason I would think that you're asking about this, then what you need to do is you need to go watch my live stream. I did a live stream that's called how to go from how to go how to turn your guy friend into your boyfriend. You should go watch that live stream. It's everything you need in order to turn a guy friend into a boyfriend. So if that's what you want, go check out that live stream. Rebecca said, Number seven, yes, he has communicated this said he is more interested than I realized. I'm sure that's awesome. Congratulations. Congratulations on that one. Lisa says, Hi, I've gotten back with my ex after nine years. How do I go about it? What do you mean you've gotten back with your ex and what questions do you have about going about it? It's a very vague question. Very vague. Cynthia says, We've been together for a year and started out being friends with benefits. Then he made me his girlfriend. Awesome. You are one of the few. He started doing things I like, but he doesn't but he doesn't. He's more affectionate. Okay, then he says, test says, Hi, how are you? I am doing fantastic. I am feeling amazing. My life is absolutely great right now. I'm living the dream. So thank you for asking. Then he said, Does these signs apply to if me and my guy are just friends, friends without benefits? Well, yeah, I mean, if he's showing interest, what you want to do is one, you want to turn it into something that's romantic, right? Create kind of a romantic frame around it, which is what I talk about in that live stream that I'm talking to you about is create a romantic frame around it. Look for the signs and then make sure that you end up having that conversation about what it is that he wants so that you don't end up getting into something that's just a friend with benefits. Lee says, Are you in a relationship yourself? Yes, I am. Jody says, I have red flags all the time. One year in two months and never took me on a date. Introduced me to anyone, but he tells me he wants me so confusing. We are 60 and not easy. Yeah, I mean, that's a big red flag. That's a big red flag. And so you should be very concerned about that. Elizabeth says, You have a great smile. Thank you. I appreciate that. Cynthia says, He stares into my eyes and hugs and cuddles even though he doesn't like it. He's 57 and I'm 58. So why do you think he is changing? Do you think he wants more? Well, I think he wants to please you. I think he wants to make you feel good and make you feel happy, right? That's what I think. Guys will do that, right? If he knows that you want something and he wants to please you, which a lot of guys do, right? A guys that are compassionate, they want you to feel good and they want you to be happy and they want you to get your needs met, right?  Tess says, if he doesn't, if he says he doesn't do the lovey-dovey stuff, but I'm always, but always is concerned if I'm seeing someone and is constantly referring to him and I as we. Yeah, see what you're doing right here is exactly what I was talking about. And what I was talking about was looking around for little hints instead of actually having a conversation about what's going on. Because, you know, sure, you want to look for hints. You want to look for red flags. You want to look for green flags, but you also want to have a conversation so that there's no miscommunication about it. All this hinting around and, you know, is he interested? You know, what does he want? Like, you know, just talk to him about it.  One or the other. Julie Tree says, Matt, I am not considered high value if I am disabled and can't work. You know, not being able to work or not working is just ridiculous.  I was just reading about it today. I can't remember exactly what it was talking about specifically, but what they said in it as one of the ending conclusions is that most men absolutely don't care about your job, how much money you make, or anything like that. Your job has nothing to do with your value. It's women that are concerned about men who have jobs that are better than theirs, right? That's what is high value for women. Is a man who has a job and has financial resources. For most men, they don't care about your job. They don't, you know, if you have one that's cool and they like it and they're happy for you and all that kind of stuff, but it's not something that determines your value in his eyes, right? That's a thing that the feminine determines is valuable, right? His resources, his security is kind of creating this shelter and this environment for her to be in. That's a feminine thing to look for, not a masculine thing. The masculine doesn't care about financial security from outside sources because he's creating that dome of security for you. So just remember that. Sissy says, the guy I'm, I was seeing changed. He started working so much, but texted me every day morning and talking like my boyfriend, but couldn't meet up for three weeks. Red flags for me.  He hasn't text me since. Okay, Diane said, I had a guy exactly like what you just described and I was scared, felt like he was too good for me. Okay, we broke up a couple of times, got back together. He broke up with me. Should I wait for this guy? What you should do is you should build up your self-esteem and you should build up your confidence and you should build up your believing that you deserve something greater and better and that you deserve a great guy, right? That's really what you should do is build up your confidence in yourself and what it is that you deserve in your life because if you're waiting for this guy, if you get back together with this guy, if you talk to this guy, what's going to end up happening is the same thing is going to happen over and over and over again and it's probably going to happen in any other relationship that you end up getting into as well because it's this thing that's internally driving it, right? This belief system, this emotional state that you have that says that you don't believe that you're deserving of having a great guy, of being treated well, of having what it is that you want in your life and so what you'll end up doing is you'll subconsciously sabotage any guy that gets in any kind of interaction that you get with a great guy into your life and you'll keep doing that forever until you break the pattern and allow yourself to feel good and connect with yourself in a way that allows you to believe that you are deserving of what it is that you want. See, Plunk says five months in love with a man that will not have a relationship with me. He says because he has been hurt two times, he will not do it again. Why can't we just do what we are doing? He says, well, and so this is about you, right? So he's getting what he needs. That's what he's saying right there. When he says why can't we just do what we are doing, what he's saying is I'm getting all my needs met. Why can't we just stop right here? And so what you need to decide is whether one of your needs is having something more or not, whether it's the label, whether it's the ring, whether it's whatever it is that you feel like you need, you need to decide whether that's one of your needs and whether that's something that you absolutely want or not. And if it is something that you absolutely want, you need to pull away and start seeing other people and kind of let him alone and stop sleeping with him, stop making, getting his needs met, right? Because if he's getting all his needs met and he doesn't care about your needs, then he's not going to do anything about it.  Either one, he's gonna step up and start being a man for you and start actually being compassionate and making sure that you are getting your needs met or he's gonna end up saying, okay, it's not worth it to do this again. I'm too scared. My inner child has hurt too much and I'm just gonna walk away from it, right?  He's either going to step up to the plate and become the man that you want him to be or he's gonna walk away completely and decide that it's not worth it for him and that's a choice that he has to make. And if you're coming from a place of power, which is what I suggest and I've talked about in some of these other videos, I think you've been in some of the other live streams and you've probably seen me talk about kind of coming from this place of power instead of the place of force, that's where you need to be coming from. So that there's choice, so that he has a choice and he makes a choice whether he wants to be with you or not. Tess says, what if he says, I know you're not mine but I don't want to share you? Well, what you want to do is find clarity about that. Like, what do you mean I'm not yours? You know I'm not yours, right? Like, but basically what he's saying right there is he's saying like he doesn't think that you're in a relationship or that you're exclusive but that he wants you, you to be exclusive with him. And so you need to have a conversation one about exclusivity, right? So that you're talking about not just you being exclusive with him but him also being exclusive with you, right? Which is something that ends up happening sometimes if you don't have that conversation with him where you both talk about being exclusive with each other sometimes what people will do is try to pigeonhole you into being exclusive with him while he gets to go off and do whatever he wants which some women do this as well so it's not just like a guy doing this to women thing I just want to throw that in there because I might get some like man haters out there hating on guys here for doing that but yeah you need to have that conversation with him and get some clarity around it and talk to him about it Mary says grandma says hi well tell your grandma I said hi I think your grandma is wonderful So Jobin, Jobina says I have met two of his three children he changed his relationship status on social media but won't tag me to it what's your opinion on that? My opinion on that is that you should stop caring about what's going on on his social media right the meeting two of his children thing is great stop worrying about what his social media status says and start being more concerned about what your relationship is like in real life I mean obviously if you know he actually cares about his social media status enough that he changes the relationship status on it it means that he cares about that but your biggest care shouldn't be about his social media status and what's going on on social media because that will end up driving you absolutely crazy what you should care about is how he actually feels about you and being in a conversation with you about this you know one of the things you have to remember too is that both men and women kind of played this game where they're like waiting for the other person to say it first right to bring up the conversation first and my suggestion for you is that as the woman if you want more than just something that's casual you should definitively bring it up so Cynthia says he recently excuse me he recently said that I am the complete package do you think he wants a more serious relationship with me like I said stop looking for the hints right this is this is what I'm talking about like we get women all the time they're like okay well you know I'm not gonna ask him right I just want to search the hints they're like you know plan detective right you know like looking around seeing you know picking up the you know the the you know the the clothing on the ground and you know like do I see any blood spots on the clothing stop doing that you know go and talk to him about it that is where you will get the definitive information about really what it is that he wants and what he doesn't want and whether he's going to wave a big red flag in your face or not so make sure that you're talking to him about this Diane says we broke up a year ago and still want him back he told me that he was emotionally connected to me and didn't want to let me go right you know but you know is he letting you go so it's it's not he's emotionally connected to you but he doesn't want to let you go but is he letting you go you know like what jury says hey Matthew amazing topic I'm getting it from Nairobi all right so Elizabeth says Julie Tree I'm disabled and can't work either after years found someone that cares and takes advantage of the time I have that's better don't ask me how Paco says he became a celebrity and moved to another city and then broke up with me he has a huge fan following of girls today okay Melissa says what does it mean when a guy asks to be friends with benefits can that end up in a relationship what it means is that it's probably not going to end up in a relationship what what they've done is they've done a study on this and people who try to go from a friend with benefits to a real relationship like people that actually try it's not just friends with benefits that go into a real relationship it's people who actually try to go from a friend with benefits into a real relationship it only happens one in nine times right and so basically what you're getting right now is a big red flag that says hey I'm probably not going to want anything more anytime in the future we're agreeing to this right now you know that you're agreeing to this right now and so if you bring up anything else in the future just remember that you agreed to this and he'll point back to when you agreed to this and that you're nothing more and so my suggestion is that if you want a real relationship do not get into a casual friend with benefits situation with anybody just stop doing it completely and because what what ends up happening is you're going to have this guy in your life right and if this guy is taking up the space of getting your needs met and getting into something real then you're not going to have space open for another man who's serious to come in and give you what it is that you actually want so lisa says we are now back together he said we are back on how do i go about texting him you just you just want some texting tips i don't know are you you're back on i mean you should i i've got videos about texting i've got articles about texting you can go check those out like that that's a whole another topic all together like how do you text somebody okay so c plunk says my guy has been hurt badly and wants to not use the word relationship but i want more time with him i mean really you know you want more time with him or do you feel like you you you're just doing this because you know like if you're feeling like it's just this emotional thing where you're just addicted to it or you're just like with him because you know you're getting some of your needs met right now it's like you know what do you want long term and is this going to give it to you miss paranoid android says he told me he used to be a player in the past and that he's fed up with his past do you think i can trust him and believe he has changed his goals and the way he sees women well a lot of a lot of guys do right like what ends up happening with most guys most guys that are even players is at some point they're like uh you know like you know how much time it takes to be a player like i don't think you realize this right a lot of women don't get it because for most women if they want to hook up with somebody it's pretty easy right send out some text messages see who wants to come over and netflix and chill with you right and you'll have uh you can get a lineup most women can get a lineup of dudes jump on tinder and just say you're not looking for anything serious and just hit the you know accept button for you know just swipe right on every dude that you see and you'll you'll you'll end up getting some guys that want to hook up with you right that's that's really really easy to do for a guy it takes a lot more it takes lots of time because most women that you meet aren't just like ready right they aren't just ready to hook up and so they need some you know some attraction they need to be talked to in a certain way they need to feel appreciated and all these kinds of things and then the guy has to make sure that he says the right thing figures out what's going on with the girl and then kind of pulls her back and escalates things you know to the right degree in order to do it and it takes for most men it you know if if he wants to go out and meet a new woman it can take him you know anywhere from you know many many hours in a day to you know days or even weeks to end up hooking up with a new woman and so it's it's really difficult for most men right there's there's like a small minority of men that are around somewhere between like 15 and 20 percent of men who are like you know they're just players and they want to be players for life and then there's an 80 percent of men and most of them are not players most of them don't want to be in a you know player situation they don't want to go out and meet new women it takes up a lot of time they'd rather be doing anything else with their time right and so getting into a relationship makes way more sense for the overwhelming majority of guys out there even if they've been players in the past and so you know it's possible that you can trust him what you want to do is make sure that you're looking for red flags and looking for green flags and if anything comes up you know just make sure that you halt it immediately and just go slow with him and make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation. Kerry says a guy told me he called me last weekend but I had no missed calls from him he said he will call me this weekend but still hasn't what's your opinion well I'd say that there's a pretty good chance that he's lying to you that's what I'd say Sandra says you look good but I like your natural hair when no when there's no gel in it okay thanks my guy won't do the word relationship see blank you're still talking about this uh yeah he's saying you're exclusive but you're not in a relationship that's what he's saying he's saying he's saying you guys can hook up together and that he won't hook up with anybody else but he's not going to do anything real and you have to decide whether that's what you want or not Erica said he asked about being exclusive a friend said guys only bring up exclusivity to avoid a real relationship no I mean sometimes sometimes you know you want to look at his actions right so you know one you want to talk to him about it right ask him what it is that he wants does he want a real relationship what do you want do you want a real relationship and just ask him you know ask him what what it is that he wants ultimately and he'll talk to you about it and so you know sure some guys might do that I think your friend might do that or maybe she I don't know if it's a guy or a girl but if it's a girl you know maybe she's she's had that happen to her before maybe she's done it before who knows but it's possible it's possible I mean it depends on what you think a real relationship is and what your needs are that you need to have met are and then determine whether this guy's a guy that's going to do that with you or not and have a conversation with him about it and what he's looking for and what his ideal situation would be like Rebecca said he's traveling five hours today to spend a couple of days together awesome good job congratulations last saw him a little less than two weeks ago and we FaceTime almost every day I've met his high school classmate and his older brother sounds like that's going quite well for you Rebecca congratulations Stacy says I think you're more valuable if you don't work sounds smart to me Sonia says Sonia says hi Matt from Quebec I love your super awesome videos do you have one for green flags I don't but I might be creating one Stacy said my sister is unemployed and I encouraged her to call it semi-retired it shifted her consciousness and now she's having fun with it cool prista says if he gives you the keys to his house but never calls you to come over and when you say you're coming he always says it's okay is it bad must he always say come over well I mean what kind of a situation are you in you know are you are you what are you looking for here you know he gave you he gave you the key all he all that really means is that he's given you some of his trust right he trusts you a lot you know if he gave you the keys to his place and he's basically saying come on over whenever you want what he's probably hoping is that you end up moving in with him which I suggest that you don't you know or spending all your time over there I mean you know you don't have to only come over there when he says to come over but it's one of those things where it's like you know it's it's such kind of a you know slippery slope that you're getting yourself into here right you're in a situation where I don't know if you want marriage ultimately or not but he's giving you his key which is kind of opening the door for you to come into his world as much as you want to go into his world but it sounds like you don't have a ring and that things aren't moving in that direction and that he hasn't talked about it and what you need to do is you need to sit down with yourself and figure out what it is that you ultimately want here and figure out whether you know you hanging out over there all the time is ultimately going to lead to what it is that you want which if it's marriage it probably won't if you're not you know if he's not giving you a ring or something and so my suggestion is that you don't spend all your time over there if what you want is to get married and have a real relationship and you know like figure figure out and and you ultimately want to do whatever whatever that is right and so I don't know I need to know a little bit more about your situation are you guys in a relationship or you guys just hooking up together you know like what's going on there. Lulip says I was thinking the same thing because I'm disabled and not working thank you for the question and answer to this you are welcome. Vicki says my hb is that does that mean husband hb told me one of the main reasons he fell for me was because he felt I was easy to talk to that he didn't need to censor his thoughts for fear I would judge him that's cool yeah I mean you know men want to feel safe talking to you they want to feel like they can talk to you without you freaking out or judging him or anything like that and so that's that's pretty important. Cplunk says he also would only rather hang out when we have time so instead of like the 10 minute each day he would rather do time only when we have hours to spend together to dedicate more solid time okay. Zenny said I have one more question my guy friend without benefits gives me mixed signals he invites me to hang out texts and calls sometimes just friends but he shows me signs that he's interested okay yeah what I said you know I'm just gonna suggest the same thing go watch that live stream. Cynthia said I'm asking these questions because I'm trying to figure out if he's falling in love with me or is already do you think this is why he is trying to do things to make me happy and do more with me now yeah I mean men start when they when they feel like a woman is valuable to them right which means that he thinks that you're special it means that he's really attracted to you it means that he really likes you a lot which means that you know if you're doing the right things and you do things like I talk about in my forever woman program which by the way if you're really interested I think I forgot to mention this earlier if you're really interested in getting into a real relationship where you feel loved and seen and valued by the man you're with make sure you go to the goddesscommunity.com and consider joining there for free and you'll also get a free copy of my forever woman program if you join there which I talk all about you know how to connect with a man and you know be of have him feel like raise your value in his eyes and have him feel like you're an amazing valuable woman that he wants to be with forever see plunk says uh thank you for your help yes thank you he says I'm using force I'm trying power not doing it well I'll keep trying love your advice thank you you're welcome Diane said thank you Matt we'll work on myself more and build my own self-worth awesome it's exactly what you should be doing Jobina says thank you I'm good with not being tagged in the relationship status he's a great guy and I'm enjoying learning and growing with him awesome Sonia says so what if he introduces you to his father and his best friend on the second date well it what it shows is that the first date must have really gone pretty well and that and that he likes you and that he's okay with you meeting them and not you know it not being some kind of weird thing in that he he's proud that he's around you and he wants to show you off to his best friend and his dad Melissa says thank you Matt you're welcome Roxana says it's first time I'm listening to you from Bangladesh hope to have a real guidance to improve me as a person okay Lauren says I am in a eighth month's relationship how do I ask for what I need in a feminine energy without entering in masculine energy should I wait for him to offer and do things if he wants to well you know the whole feminine energy thing means that you're kind of you're in a space of receiving you're in a space of inviting right so you can invite a guy to do things with you you can invite him to help you you can invite him to do all kinds of things with you and for you and all that kind of stuff as long as you're coming from a really secure like feeling strong and secure and confident and you know a place of being in feminine energy and and just inviting it that's not a big deal as long as you're not attached to any kind of expectations or making him do anything it's really not a big deal if you if you do that kind of stuff you can wait for him to offer but what you can also do is frame things in a way that you find attractive I talk all about this in my love frames toolkit if you want to check that out I think there's a description in the link below in the there's a link in the description below if you want to check that out about exactly how to do that and frame it in the right way I'm also going to be talking about that in the forever woman program but yeah basically what you want to do is just you know tell them what's attractive to you and what's not attractive to you and what you like and what you love and things that you enjoy and it's real easy if you're doing it that way and it's a normal conversation it's not something like weird you know it's not something you know sketchy you're just talking about things that you like and things that you love and things that you enjoy and things that make you feel good things that make you feel bad or feel unattracted yukchuruling just butchering names over here hello I've been on two dates with this guy he would plan the next date after each date but he didn't contact me that much in between is this a red flag no it's not a red flag you've been on two dates and you know he's doing the masculine thing which is he's setting up the date and then he's going about his life and he's making sure that he doesn't screw things up between the last date and the next date and that's what yeah that's one I you know I suggest that you do the same thing right because a lot of times what ends up happening and guys know this especially if they get dating advice from the men's dating side is what they'll find out is that a lot of guys what they do is they talk women out of going on dates with them by messaging them and talking to them through the week and so if he's smart he knows that the magic happens in the meetup and so what he's doing is he's just setting it up and he's like hey let's meet and okay you know and if you get to a space where you want to reach out and you want to start talking to him you can but I suggest that you keep that to a minimum if he's not reciprocating or he's not doing it as well Darla says first time here from South Carolina married 44 years listening for advice to help my eight daughters wow eight daughters it's amazing thank you thank you for helping populate the earth dating is so different now much more complicated yeah I mean there's definitely more complications because of social media and some of the other things out there it's not that it's created more problems but it's that it's amplified the already existing problems that are there ultimately I think it's going to end up being better long term but in this short term kind of initial thing it's kind of turned into a very complicated situation for a lot of people Julian says hey from Germany my ex-fiancee and I are again in daily contact but he doesn't want a relationship for the next couple of months or even years what can I do he wants to be alone after being six six years so what you want to do is you want to continue to go out and date other people and create you know potential for other people to take you off the dating market and not wait for him to make up his mind because it's very possible that he's going to decide that he doesn't want anything real and then you'll just wasted you know more time hanging out waiting for him to make a decision he's already canceled on you once right which is what it sounds like and so basically what you're doing is you're setting yourself up to be in a situation where he's able to cancel on you again and so what you want to do is create abundance for yourself put yourself in a position of power and if he decides that he's not going to choose you then what you need to do is allow somebody else to choose you somebody that's going to meet your needs and actually take care of you Rajini said hi Matt I'm Angie oh Angie from Utah he's 56 and I'm 52 we both met on bumble and we had five wonderful dates he's so affectionate he spent six to seven hours on every date he's so nice he invited to his home for dinner we had a great time I'm so touched with his behavior and then suddenly he's saying he's pulling away he's saying he's pulling away or he's pulling away I was shocked I don't know what to do now give him some space that's what you want to do give him some space Julie Trees says I'm sad that you are taken because you are so handsome thank you thank you I appreciate you telling me how handsome I am so Steve Silber says I am late but trying to catch up hi there handsome brother from Hong Kong hello miss paranoid android says thank you so much Matt for this elaborate response keeping my eyes open for red flags taking it slow with him thought so I'm giving him time to develop his new skills she plunks says why does he kiss me on the forehead when I tell him I love him he says I know you do I mean really it just sounds like he's he's got this big bag of red flags and he's like pulling him one out at a time and waving him in front of your face and grabbing new ones and throwing them in front of your face you just need to pay attention to that Alexandra says knowing this guy for a few years through through mutual friend we live in different states so we only saw each other once three years ago plus messaged here and there we reconnected recently and he's flying to and then your message cut off so then he said thank you for answering our questions much appreciated you're welcome Lauren says if my boyfriend said we are couple and we are in committed relationship that meant he will be interested in marrying me that is not what that meant that's not what that means that's not you know it's it's funny whenever I talk to somebody and they're like you know he did this and he did that does that mean you know this thing way off in another universe which is what this is right and that's not what that means it's not what that means you got to talk about these things you have to have a conversation with him about it unless he's talking about marrying you or being together with you forever or any of that kind of stuff that that it does not mean marrying if he is talking about that then that that's what that means but if he's not that does not mean that doesn't mean that doesn't mean it Alexandra says flying to see me in two weeks we already spoke about being ready for long lasting relationship looks like we're on the same page should I ask him in person when he visits me that I want exclusivity well I would before you guys sleep together what I would talk about is being exclusive specifically around sleeping together that's what I would Sissy said Matt you have a contagious laugh I laugh when you laugh by the way you skip my question did where did I skip your question I didn't skip skip your question did I I don't know where your question is there's so many comments in here I apologize if I skipped your question I apologize Cynthia says thank you Matt I value your advice and listen to you all the time well I appreciate that I was in a verbally abusive marriage and I am trying to get back my confidence I'm in love with this man you are gorgeous okay so you know you're saying that I'm gorgeous on here Rochelle says hello Matt why do men send mixed signals then says he feels pressured into a relationship that he isn't ready for and stops communicating with you but says we can still be friends it means that he's taken a big red flag and he's waving it in front of your face and he's going hey I'm not relationship material here's my red flag and what you got to do is if you want something real and you want a real relationship you need to just let him go and just be like okay cool peace out I'm going to find somebody that does want something real with me Erica says such good advice the idea of space makes me nervous from being cheated on but I'm busy so talking daily is tough so not talking daily isn't a red flag no not talking daily is not a red flag in fact talking daily is not normal for most people that are living lives and doing things with their lives I mean you know sometimes it's good sometimes it's you know not good I mean it's it's no big deal if he's talking to you daily or he's not talking to you daily if that's something that you need that's something that you have to communicate because that's not normal behavior for most people talking every single day is not normal behavior for most people who aren't living together I mean it can be normal if that's what you want and that's what you guys want to do all right let's see if I can find sissy's question where's your question sissy where is it I do not see your question anywhere I do not see your question anywhere where is your question I see one question from you it says in talking like my boyfriend but couldn't meet up for three weeks red flags for me I cut him off he hasn't text me again there I don't see anything else after that sissy so you might have to ask your question again I think it got cut off it got cut off should I should I pursue a singing career it got cut off it got cut off Nicole says I'm dating a young guy he says he doesn't want to title us one day he says we are dating another time he says we aren't red flags red flags then he tells me he hasn't he has feelings then he doesn't I'm confused sounds like he's confused I mean imagine that you're like dating somebody you're like yeah we're dating no we're not dating I have feelings for you no I don't have feelings for you it sounds like he's confused and if he's confused what you need to do is let him be confused somewhere else and make sure you're getting what you need so sissy says why would a guy text you every day after being intimate and dating he kept only texting and being romantic but put excuses to meet up in person if was only sex for him why bother so why would a guy text you every day after being intimate but put excuses up to meet together in person because you're because you're not a priority to him that's what because he takes you for granted and he doesn't value you and so my suggestion is if he keeps doing that what you should start doing is cutting off the conversation so if he starts texting you just be like hey you know you know just answer whatever and just be like yeah keep in touch you know and just let me know you know if you want to get back together again I'm really busy right now gotta go and just do that because it sounds like you know whatever's going on with him is making it so that you haven't become a priority for him anymore and that he's and that he's doing and he's just kind of bread crumbing you right now and just kind of feeding you along for whatever right and so what you need to do is cut that off so that he feels like he's starting to lose you right so you're crazy creating scarcity there and so he starts to feel like he's losing you and he's going to have to make a decision about whether he wants to meet up with you again or whether he wants to not and that decision is and that that that decision is going to decide whether you know you end up being together or whether you end up seeing other people instead Julie says don't sing please does that answer your question sissy does that answer your question you need to start pulling back on him and just be like look you know if you're you know just tell him that you're busy and you don't have time to text all the time and that you know if you want to get together with you to let you know and just leave it at that and just cut off your texting conversations and just you know start pulling back a little bit because he you know or and ask him what's going on with him you know pull back pull back pull back sissy pull back Chelsea says this guy said I love you a couple weeks later I said it back and he said thank you he hasn't said it since yeah that can happen Zenny likes my singing okay all right Julie Jenny likes Zenny likes my my singing I think I'm gonna join get a singing career here soon Nicole says thank you for answering my question I appreciate it been thinking the same thing I need to let him go by the way great singing see more people like my singing see see they're ganging up on you Julie they're ganging up on you Beinerton says what makes a man value a woman I did a full live stream on that just go check out my live stream about how to raise your value in a man's eyes there's a couple of them on the channel one with myself and Helena and one with me you can also go check out the forever woman program you can go to the forever woman formula dot com or go to the goddess community dot com and join there and you can get my program for free and it that's all about how to raise your value in a man's eyes Lauren says Matt you have such a wise wisdom for a young soul loving your advice as always awesome Lisa says my boyfriend says he may not see me on Wednesdays or Fridays he's busy with work meetings his daughter daughter so I'm worried so I'm not sure if you're saying he can see you on Wednesdays or Fridays or if he cannot see you on Wednesdays or Fridays your basic e-girl says what do you do when your ex's friends want to date you well I mean if your ex's friends want to date you I mean that's it's kind of messed up you know if I mean they need to have a conversation with their friend about it so I mean I don't know from from your standpoint you know you can obviously do whatever you want he might feel betrayed you know from you if you start dating one of his friends and he's not okay with it and he'll definitely feel betrayed from his friends if you know and I'd say that if they haven't had a conversation with them about it which they should have then he's going to feel really betrayed and they're not actually his friends and that might be something that you want to think about Kathy said I broke up with my with my ex six weeks ago and he texted me how is it going last week I waited a day and said good I hope you're doing well he hasn't responded it's been five days so what does he want well he wanted to connect with you and you connected with him and didn't keep up the conversation you know you kind of just like said you know like if you want him to respond you have to ask him a question and I think he was probably hoping that you'd you know pick up the conversation and start talking with him but it doesn't mean much of anything you know just let it go and if he wants he needs to initiate meeting up with you and if I mean it kind of depends on who broke up with who right if you broke up with him then you're going to have to put more effort in if you want to see him again and if he broke up with you then he needs to put in the effort if he wants something with you otherwise he's just going to be stringing you along which is what you don't want oh more people not want me to sing I just is so sad this is not not okay oh well we're way past the the the hour mark so thank you everybody for being with us here somebody suggested that I play some music I'm not going to do that so I don't get this live stream demonetized but thank you everybody for being here this is all about empowering you if you're really serious about getting into a relationship where you're loved seen and valued by a great man make sure that you go to the goddesscommunity.com and consider joining our community there for free you'll also get my program called the forever woman which is all about how to uh it's all about how to attract a man into a relationship where you're really valued and you're he wants to be with you forever so go and check that out if you're interested in that and thank you so much for being here with me today and I will speak with you again soon so toodaloo goodbye


Next question is from an orthodox fitness me. What is one thing that each of you does on a daily basis as far as general maintenance for your body or something to improve on the daily? I mean, the easy one is exercise and working out.  So I typically will alternate between heavy workouts and then the days in between is when I go out there and I just touch body parts with lighter exercises or I'm working on full range of motion or I'm doing things that work on my mobility. But I would say that's probably the most consistent thing that I do. Now, the other thing I started adding is I'm trying to make it more of an effort to have some kind of a daily spiritual practice. I think the necessity of that is just higher now. I think kind of what everybody's going through, I find way more value in having a daily spiritual practice. So I'll watch preachers or pastors or spiritual leaders talk and, you know, I just, it makes me feel better because a lot of the messages that I'm, that tend to come across and you find this common among all most popular spiritual practices is this message of acceptance. But they present it in different ways and I find that the message of acceptance is helping me the most right now. So as of right now, that's something that I'm making effort. I would say mobility and reading for me. Those, there's a lot of days that go by that I don't get a lift in. Like I'd like to say that every day I'm training and lifting weights but the reality is I'm not. But what I'm really good about is, you know, there's a handful of movements from our Maps Prime Pro that have just been life-changing for me. In fact, I got tagged on a post the other day. Somebody tagged me because Mark Bell was showing that he couldn't get down in a full squat and somebody tagged me and said, you should, you know, talk to Adam. And, you know, his response was he's been friends with Kelly Starrett for, you know, decades and still can't, doesn't believe that he can do it. And I was in the same camp. I thought the same thing about myself. I didn't think that I would ever be able to get down in a, you know, bottom squat and sit there comfortably. It just, the little bit of effort I'd put towards it just never felt like it. I was in pain and didn't feel like it was possible. But, you know, it took a few years of being very, very consistent and I'm very mindful of the work that it took to get to where I'm at now that I appreciate it so much that I make sure to do a few of these mobility drills every single day, just to kind of say it. And I know that even if I just put a few minutes of effort towards them, that I'll keep that range of motion up, which has just been life-changing for me. I mean, I had bursitis in my hips. I had chronic low back pain all the time. Even though I was buff and looked good, I felt kind of miserable and that's been gone for two years now. And so I've made it a daily practice to always, you know, hit my 90-90, hit some combat, hit some thread the needles, like there's a handful of movements that we have in Prime Pro that I made like a ritual to always make sure that I do. And then the other thing would be reading. Whether that be like articles, newsletters or diving into the books that I'm reading or listening to, try and make a practice of that, even if it's for just a short period of time, being consistent with that. That's one of the single most important things that I have found with continued growth for myself. So those two practices I'd say I've been really good about always making sure that's a daily practice and that I'm striving to make sure that I have my workouts, but the reality is those don't always happen, but the reading and the mobility does. Yeah, I've definitely ritualized certain mobility moves on a daily basis, mainly because of recognizing how my habits had changed based off of, you know, what I do for a living now. I'm not up rewracking people's weights. I'm not walking around constantly.  So like half the day, I'm trying to be very mindful of sitting in a squat. I'm either in SESA or I'm in 90, 90 or I'm, you know, down in pigeon before the boys or the dogs attack me, you know? And I'm basically down there and then just doing my thing whether the TV's on, whether I'm, you know, like at home or I'm here, if there's an opportunity for me to kind of sit in sort of a mobility pose or yoga pose or something I can do to restore my hips and, you know, my shoulders, getting rotation out of my shoulders constantly, because that's something that if I don't do that, I can just feel the stiffness and, you know, the pain as a result of when I go back to lifting weights, all that stuff, you know, you start to feel that to intensify. And so I'm just very mindful of constantly moving my body and trying to keep, you know, that, you know, oil, like a well-oiled machine. And, you know, in terms of that, like I intentionally try to take everyone in the family out on a walk. And this is something that Courtney sort of helped me with every time I'm home is we get out and we go walk and it doesn't matter where we go. We have trails near my house. There's a field that we go a lot of times to take the dogs, but I use that time to roughhouse with the kids, but then also we just connect and we're able to talk, you know, and communicate a lot better when we're active and moving together as opposed to sitting and trying to recap people's days. So that's definitely something I always do.


Russians fear that Ukraine may cross Nipro. Russian pro-war bloggers have expressed concern that Ukrainian forces may be able to cross the Nipro River in Kursan, Oblast, according to the daily report from the Institute for the Study of War. Russian mill bloggers have seized on recent Ukrainian activity on the east bank of Kursan, Oblast to call for an increased presence of small river vessels and equipment in the Nipro River to prevent further Ukrainian advances. Russian mill bloggers appealed on the 2nd of July to the heads of the Dagestan and Tatastan Republic's Astrakhan Oblast, Krasnodar Krai and Primorsky Krai to send boats confiscated from poachers to the Kursan Oblast frontline specifying that 10 regiments and brigades of the southern military districts Nipro grouping of forces sorely needs the vessels. Dagestan Republic head Sergei Melikov responded to the mill blogger appeal on the 3rd of July and ordered Dagestan to solve the issue of transferring confiscated poaching boats to Russian forces. The ISW said according to the ISW one Russian mill blogger called for the resurrection of the Nipro Flotilla a special military river unit that was active in the 1735 to 1739 and 1787 to 1792 Russo-Turkish wars the Russian Civil War and World War II. The mill blogger claimed that a resurrected Nipro Flotilla could significantly ameliorate the position of Russian troops in the Kursan direction and that this grouping could be reinforced with simple civilian use boats. The overall anxious mill blogger response to recent Ukrainian activity across the Nipro River suggests that many Russian mill bloggers fear Ukraine's ability to cross the river and believe that the current command of the Nipro grouping has not sufficiently prepared its troops for that potentiality. The ISW added it is noted that the ISW previously reported on the 2nd of July that Russian mill bloggers had accused the Russian Defense Ministry of failing to provide Russian troops on the east coast with the necessary boats and other equipment and has now redirected their requests for additional logistical support to Russian regional leaders.