Ladies and gentlemen, let me see Want to pop on here tonight. Let me see what I could Get going. Y'all got to forgive my son dog got there Barking at somebody The dog is one and a half pounds and be barking like It's a pit bull Make sure I got my chat on Got this set up. Okay. Now I got it on Right there. Thank y'all for popping in Posted a video earlier today. I might have I might was a little late with it Off the relationship topic today, so if you didn't get to see it, you know Maybe you catch it later or tomorrow talking about dealing with family on your journey to success Very important that you catch that Want to pop in do a Q&A? I Know we'll have people coming in over time Make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question Glad you got to see it. Enjoy it so I can identify that it's a question Try to get through as many questions as I can tonight, but I got um My battery is not a hundred percent. I think I'm around 80% so I might not get to do my full of 90 minutes that I try to do Love and faith in your opinion do rebound relationships work out No, not if it's a rebound relationship in the true sense of a rebound relationship You know where you just kind of using somebody to get over the last person They know but can you meet the person for you? Right after you break up with the person that what that wasn't for you Yes, but if you get with a person and say I'm a get with this person just because I need to you know Try to heal from the last they know It won't be a great time to meet up if newly dating You probably want to get about five to ten conversations in Meaning that should be five to ten hours Ideally it would be good to be able to talk to somebody about ten hours before you meet up with them Just to see if you can peep any, you know loose screws before just meeting up with a complete stranger Baby father start to show Interest because he sees me with a new guy. Why is that so?  Because men have learned over time with women that that's typically not true That if he tries hard enough, he can get back in regardless of what a woman says he can get back in That's what most men believe and so that's why he keeps trying you also relationship failure Is the one type of failure that a man feels like he has the most control in if he fails on his job or in his sport? Or you know something like that where he just gets fired like think of like a Man on a sports team when you get cut you don't get to go in and talk to the general manager and say hey Let's negotiate this and about me getting back on the team why you cut me? I could prove myself and you don't get to call that general manager every day but in a relationship, that's a space where you keep getting to reach out reach out reach out and Eventually most women give they give in and say okay, you keep reaching out. You must you must be serious So that's what men have learned over time Tony I an ex-boyfriend 23 An ex-boyfriend 23 was together for five years Who I've known for ten years decided to be abstinent he literally used this to say we are not on the same page spiritually thoughts I Don't know who decided to be abstinent sounds like he did if he said y'all not on the same page spiritually, but That that is true. If one person want to be abstinent and the other doesn't then y'all y'all aren't on the same page spiritually Why do guys keep contacting you okay London pose her question over and over Trying to make sure I see it. I got you London. Hopefully You don't call it up with me now. I Feel the guys trying to get my attention through snapchat and IG but he has a girlfriend. Is he considering leaving her? Why would a man do that? We can't really answer that REL God bless you now. Bless you. We can't really that's a grown boy That's what grown boys do and I wouldn't feed into it because he ain't trying to leave his woman If you know he got a girlfriend trying to leave Jray by design what you got to realize is most men just want to cheat Most men who doing stuff like that. They just want to cheat They don't want to leave the woman that they're with for a new woman Otherwise, he were already left for and you wouldn't know about a girlfriend But when you sense a man has a girlfriend and he's trying to kind of get your attention He just looking at cheap. Do you think it's true that the man should like the woman more? That's a good question right there. Let's spend a little time right there. Um, Yes, it is true. It is true because what you have to realize the reason why that's true Is because men love less So if you notice and you look at relationships, what you'll find is that more women are faithful than men What you'll find is that more women are strong than men What you'll find is that? Men move on much easier much faster than women. So what that means is men love less So the fact that men love less That means in order for a relationship to work that man has to love a woman as much or More than she loves him. So that's why that is true because of the way men love So I Don't have thoughts on that I don't speak on that on my page because it's largely misunderstood and It's subjective, you know, it's really reading and comprehending people trying to read a diagnosis You know of the term and think about what it means and what a lot of people say it means is nearly eight nine out of ten men, so it really Which that term is actually a clinical diagnosis that a doctor Diagnosis someone with so to be honest with you I think right now, you know, I just stay away from that because it's really being overused Tony when I call my boyfriend and I say his whole name when he answers the phone and Then he says my name back with his last name. We've been dating almost a year. Does he see me as his wife? He don't see you as his wife till he get on one knee and give you a reign until he asks you to marry him All that is just cute, you know, it's just cute It doesn't it doesn't mean anything because men are tell a woman that they love them You know two weeks into talking. So, you know, don't don't hang your hat on that Marilyn King why do so many men abandon their kids, you know, that's a that's a very Deep question, but to be honest with you Really only God in the man. No, but when you think about it, it's like a lot of men Who do that? Typically the only man who do that is Men who were abandoned by their father When a man had his father in his life all his life, he's less likely to do that So when that happens, it's really just because and in the beginning Men were losing when men started to lose fathers. It was due to imprisonment. It was due to disease, you know health related issues Death from gang related issues, it was things like that to where a lot of fathers Started to get taken and then from there it created even more brokenness, you know, and even all the way back You know to slavery where men were stripped away and sold And so that created brokenness and now just passed down So it's not that the guy is just like this cruel individual who wants to just wreak havoc and Just bring all this pain. He's literally operating from his pain. He's doing what he saw done and He's operating from pain. He's operating from fear, you know, he's really afraid And so we just have to start to Rewire that and the way that we will change that is how we raise our sons and Really being active, but when you look at it, you'll see a lot of mothers not really Single mothers not really being active in their son's life in the way of holding him accountable Chastising him, you know setting real standards really teaching him how to be a man Even though his dad is not there and then you'll even see a lot of men single fathers or men who with their woman Not teaching their man their young man. What real manhood is instead? Reinforcing like we saw the rapper on go viral talking about his 12 year old son. He let him get Okay from a grown woman That right there shows you how broken this Goes into more brokenness Lost hurting confused was not raised properly was not raised just grew So now passing that brokenness that pain them generational curses ignorance All of that passing it down. And so that that's really what's happening And it's just going from family to family Hi Tony was in an over 20 year marriage husband left Stated due to his son being sick First year I traveled to see him. I don't know what that kind of what that word is there Yeah, Mimi. I really don't know what that question is See, but need see God bless you now There's this man I used to date and he would always say God sent me to him and that I reminded him of his mother How do you know when it's genuine or not when a man speaks like this? It's never genuine unless his actions back it up So you have you have to watch what a person does More than you listen to what a person says Nothing a man is nothing a man says is true unless his actions back it up So his actions will back it up and he will be consistent So you you won't know what's genuine from a man just right when he says it You'll know over time that may take three months six months nine months a year So you got to understand that Veronica M. God bless you now when a guy says he wants to take a break for three weeks until The semester is over because of school stress. Do you think he was being honest?  Oh, I need to take a break, but it goes to show you y'all too young to be dating AC high tower God bless you now married four years together 14 years Husband cheated one year ago. I stayed and he wanted to be just friends yet won't stop talking to the woman I put him out, but he still calls as if he has nowhere to go thoughts Well on that situation right there you wasted 13 years of your life Because what we don't realize oftentimes is that after that first year is really that's at month 12 That's the deal breaker. That's when you know if somebody is in or out that's when you know if it's real or fake but a lot of time we don't evaluate it and anytime Where anytime a man is with you more than three years without marrying you Now y'all together 14 years got married four years ago If it take a man 10 years to marry you that mean the relationship was over a long time ago So now the fact that you don't put them out You don't move on with your life and you say he cheated a year ago He's been cheating for 14 years But it's so easy to cheat that you just didn't catch him a man.  You just didn't catch him So you need to keep going about your business keep going about your business Miss China dog. Bless you. Is it a good idea to learn how to flirt how to flirt without being trashy? Thank you No, it's not a good idea to learn how to flirt.  That's all the flirt.  I was sitting there talking to my wife. We were sitting eating Lady walked past me looked at me. I told my lady. I think I look good I'm just making something. I don't know that but that's how men we just oh we just reading the stuff I say yeah, oh lady that baby you look so good in here and they see how well taking care You will they trying to get to know what what's up with this man? Why this woman so well taking care of you know It all is here nice put together but So imagine a single man Reading into it. So you really don't want to learn how to flirt You just want to learn how to be cordial cool calm collected without coming off I was joking about looking mean without looking mean and nasty make sure y'all put hashtag cute in the chat and For right now in the beginning of the chat only questions in the chat So y'all you'll notice the moderators deleting extra commentary We only got room for questions in the chat right now because I'm already missing When you met your wife was a part of yourself operating from fear fear of commitment fear of giving up your bachelor Lifestyle, that's a good question D love. Um, no, I was looking for my wife I was looking for my wife, but I didn't know what she would look like I didn't know how to really treat her wife or how to receive her for me Unfortunately, it was it was a bad situation for me because I was ready to get out of the game because I had done so much Which is not a good thing. I had done so much. I feel like a lot of times with guys is a lot of guys move a lot slower and And so they don't really do as much with women So it takes them longer a lot of men that I'm noticing today Not even nowhere near ready for marriage at 30. I got married when I was 23 But that's because by that age I have been out there so wild so loose that I Was I had done enough to retire at 22 and so it was different for me in that in that sense, but When I talked to other guys You know and especially young men mentoring young men I really get to see how loose I was because I'm like wow So it was kind of normal in my circle, but I really don't know You know, I really don't know Can a 35 year old man be genuinely attracted to a 49 year old woman or is he just looking to use her? He can think she's attractive. He can think she's beautiful But when you say genuinely attracted like will he sleep with her? Absolutely, does he want to marry her and grow old with her? probably not Unless he's like you said is looking to use her so a 49 year old woman. She may have Multiple streams of income. She may have a nice savings of you know, 10,000 or more You know 20,000 or more third not including like Social Security that she been paying into since she's been working since 18 or 15 Whenever that starts not not dimension 401k So she could be pretty established especially if she'd been single All her life a majority of her life. And so this 35 year old he looking he looking to come up He looking for some stability. She got the credit to get a house to get a car. He's looking for that So nine out of ten times. No, it won't be genuine. Could he think she's attractive? Yes, could he think that she's beautiful? Yes, could he want to sleep with a yes? But does he want to marry her? Not a ten time. No Creative art God bless you not Tony what goes on in a man's mind as he decides to leave a marriage How does a man decide if he if his marriage is worth it or not? Well, see what you have to realize about that is if a man is deciding to leave a marriage And it's not due to the woman's doing like she's not a cheater You know disrespecting him and all of that that really means that he was done a long time ago and he just was going through the motions because He had no other options. No real options didn't know Where to go or what to do? So that's what you have to realize about that It's not that a man is married and then all of a sudden wake up and says hey I want to leave this marriage. No, he was done a long time ago Because and he just stayed because he didn't have anywhere else to go Me me God bless you like right now. I've been married 13 years. I Know as a man that unless my wife cheats on me or she started disrespecting me Like talking to me like a dog There's no other reason that I would leave her like I'm not just gonna wake up and say oh, I'm tired of this I want to leave that that ain't how I work Because that would that decision would have been made a long time ago So a man know what he gonna leave now a man might decide year one that he done But he may say let me get financially stable Let me use half of her income to help me build wealth because she'll help me get in the house She'll help us get some nice cars with her credit with her income Five ten years in fifteen years in I'ma leave and then I can leave with half of what we built together And so a man already knows year one year two if he's gonna leave that relationship Only way he doesn't know is if he's in love and that woman is faithful and then she becomes unfaithful Asia God bless you now been friends with a guy five years. He recently expressed being in love with me We are compatible and there's a bit of chemistry, but something is missing If something missing keep going, you know, it's kind of like trying to make a cake without any egg If something missing then keep going don't don't don't waste no time on it because Like I tell y'all all the time a man is not really your friend He is a friend with benefits waiting in waiting. He's not really your friend He weighed the shooting shot nine out of ten times now. There are exceptions to a lot of rules There's not an exception to every rule, but there are exceptions to a lot of rules so a man can genuinely be your friend but One out of a thousand so it's so few and far in between that You'll get hurt and used and take advantage of so many times before you find a genuine male friend That's not waiting to pounce Wonderful wonderful What makes a woman attractive?   Why is it that a man would say that it's over but his action says different and Why would a guy not be up front and say he has a girlfriend? Okay, you put two questions in there When a man says that it's over and his action says different what that means is that he is Removing you from the girlfriend round to friends with benefits round. So it means that You don't have the right to ask me who I'm talking to what I'm doing where I'm gone But I'm gonna keep you right here because the longer I keep you right here The more you're gonna fall for me when you start to fall for me thinking that I want to be with you I thought I already told y'all want to be with you Then I'm gonna put you on your back now. I got you as friends with benefits. That's what he's doing and why would a guy not be up front and say he has a girlfriend because Most men are Okay with cheating most men are Raised and trained and born and bred to cheat Most men are not faithful. There are a lot of faithful men Let's say 20 to 30% So if that means a million men, then that means 200 to 300,000 will be faithful That's a lot of that's a lot now The other ones can be faithful, but they but they will only do it if they are held accountable Along the way throughout the relationship not most humans won't do what they're supposed to do unless they made to do it So the speed limit say 55 you're going 60 you're going 65 Why are you going 60 or 65 you see the speed limit say 55?  You get in the wreck most of the time we go to speed limit after we didn't got a ticket or after we get in the Wreck that's the same thing happened with men and dating and cheating Most men are capable of cheating and will cheat But what lets him know he can't cheat is when he does a small thing and he gets checked Every little thing he does she check on she check on so he say wow If she checking me on this raising my voice if she checking me on coming in late If she checking me on not calling her when I said I was gonna call her if I cheat on her I know she gone. You see what I mean? So then he says hey, I got to do right We don't like to hear that we y'all want to hear that.  What then makes a man value his wife more than his options Well, see what you have to realize is most men don't have options so When you just walk down the street and you look at and if you could see how much a man make and What he looked like you can see what he looked like, but you don't know what he made Options is not just plentiful Because women's standards are higher So a lot of women want a man that make a certain amount of money and with that certain amount of money She gonna know that or she gonna assume she know that by his shoes He got on the watch he got on how he dressed what kind of car he driving your average man might make 35 45,000 he can't afford multiple women and Most women expect for a man to pay for a date The average man making the average amount of money can't afford to be paying for multiple dates Barley can afford the woman he got So a lot of times a man is forced to be faithful because he doesn't really have options And that's why you see so many men get into nasty movies watching the nasty movies and The only fans that's popping up these accounts where you could pay a little something and see you something a lot of Men getting into that because you ain't got to wind it down her. They just pay a little subscription fee And get to see what they want to see you see what I mean, so When a man becomes when a man has plenty options and he faithful That's because he has surrendered to something that's bigger than him He surrendered to God or he surrendered to his purpose He surrendered to the law for his children their legacy them seeing a healthy household a happy household My 80 t salesman cute. Thank God bless you now Ask me on the date. How do I go about it being that he already knows where I stay and my kids was here at the time He sold me my security. He nasty He nasty because he breaking the company rules. You're not supposed to go in the woman house Doing your job for 80 t and then ask her on the date You'll wait if you're a man of integrity, you're gonna wait You're gonna pass that up and you're gonna wait to meet her at the grocery store at the gas station So he nags that I wouldn't even entertain that I wouldn't even entertain that if you didn't feel in your spirit when you saw him Wow, that's my husband. That's the exact picture. I saw in my dream That's what I described on my list and he came and knocked on my door if you ain't feel all of that right there Keep it moving. Keep it moving. Even if you did feel that you still need to take it slow three to six months Social distance talking on the on the telephone Wonderful wonder if you had a daughter, what is your best advice you would give her to sum it up?  You're gonna learn what you need to learn Nicole moody.  What if a woman never meets her husband? How can we cope with the loneliness and be pleasing to god?  All right. He got the everlasting arms So me personally, I'm not gonna be able to tell you how to cope You're gonna have to pray and if you know god, you have to pray for the strength for the wisdom for the clarity For your purpose because see god could take and show you your purpose. Look at Oprah now Step might be knocking a bike out of place every now and then But could you imagine having a job that that's that that is that big? You might be too busy for a man So that's what you also got to realize is Uh, Rodney should god bless you now is sometimes what you got to do Uh, lovely rose god bless.  Hey, Tony. I was in a seven year relationship with a guy. He left me for another woman got married and had kids Now he's in my dm with bible scriptures and wanting to get to know each other again. Why? That's old time That's old time. He you know, he never healed. He never healed. He never grew. He never learned He just went from pain to pain He went from mistake to mistake and he didn't learn anything in between So he's still a dog. He's still immature. He's still lost.  You really got to do that because you can't attain that Pretty humble god blessing. I broke up with my baby daddy three months ago He's 31 sleeping with multiple women, but still tries to sleep with me and control me I asked if he wanted to reconcile. He said no, why won't he leave? Let me move on. Why won't he let me move on?  That's what he want to do So you got to just cut him off only communication is about y'all children Tony, what are the specific signs adoring galore? I hope you listen because I just keep seeing your name pop up But the vip line was filling up on I hope you listen and now adoring galore if y'all see adoring galore post the same question Remove the question. So we'll have to keep looking at saying question over and over Tony, what are the specific signs a man is planning to leave you and is only with you for His convenience atm That's it, you know That's energy. That's the energy It's not really like it's going to be oh this sign. Oh that sign. It's really energy When a man doing that, he's going to have an attitude. He's going to be short Tempered, you know, he's going to just kind of use your wham-bam. Thank you, ma'am You're not going to feel wind and down. You're not going to feel appreciated You're not going to feel any of that. So that'll be energy. That'll be common sense That'll be your woman's intuition letting you know it'll be going on sounding alarms You you you will see that coming He won't be all perfect and all of that. You'll know it's there Beautiful heart if men value loyalty, how is it that a man can leave a marriage of 15 plus to be with someone else? Is it a matter of trading up because of his options or is it a matter of lust overriding loyalty? Well, see what you have to realize is that a lot of men don't know what they want Because most men are not raised to be husbands. Most men are not taught as a young age This is what a wife is.  It's really about the fact that he grew Or he did not grow but what he learned is that he didn't want you And that's why he moved on because he doesn't feel like he owes you anything because To eat their own Everyone for themselves in this world and that's how men move. That's why even when you watch the movies and you see The the the young drug dealer he want to take the life for the older drug dealer so he could control the corner Men are territorial and always looking to advance grown boys Which is men now when a man becomes a grown man That's when he's a deviation from the common theme And that's because of his experiences in life his relationship with god the revelation that he gets along the way So it's really when something when people say oh, we grew apart. That's a real thing meaning that Y'all didn't know what y'all wanted and then somebody found out Hi Tony is your entrepreneurship with purpose course only for people that want to be life coaches I am starting a skincare line um, that's not a life coach course, but it is for people entrepreneurship with purpose so what it means is like purpose meaning if you want to be a service-based entrepreneur like You know author life coach speaker Non-profit founder something like that skincare. That's more so A business you can get some principles from the course, but it's more so just like, you know A normal business it doesn't have to what you're doing may or may not be purpose-based like that Entrepreneurship with purpose will show you or encourage you and talk to you about Maybe having a leg of your skincare business to be for Women who going who coming out of a talks relationship. You have a non-profit that you raise funds to have Girls pamper days to where you get teenage girls and you do etiquette with them And they learn about skincare They learn how many times a day they should wash their face what they should be washing their face with Moisturizing their face with and you've raised money from doctors and lawyers and successful people in the area To buy all this skincare or you get CVS or Walgreens the sponsor X amount of thousand in skincare That's what entrepreneurship with purpose is about it's about earning a living but making a difference in people lives at the same time It's like what what you see me doing.  I'm talking about something that could save you life and death something that could Keep you saying something that could keep you from catching the std. Keep you from getting a view physically emotionally spiritually Keep you from soul ties. You see what I mean? So it's purpose based based versus me on here Talking about a video game that's not gonna change your life not to say, you know, not the people that talk about that but Um, test it god bless you now. Why does your why does your boyfriend want you to agree to all? his talking options about Talk and opinions about any issues, but if you disagree with him too many times He thinks you're talking down to him. I told him I have my own opinions on things Well, that's it's just controlled in nature. He immature He's immature. That's why you were the immature man because An immature human being learns how to agree to disagree How to respect somebody else thoughts and opinions and see what they can learn from what another person thinks Versus just arguing back and forth. But this is the other thing You also can't really get too caught up on it. You got to ask yourself. Is this opinion worth sharing? Like if it's opinion, that's a deal breaking opinion like something that actually means something like should we spank our children or not? Should we pay our tithes or not? Should we go to church or not? Like if it's something that's foundational But it's like if it's about Is the president a narcissist or not? That's not really arguing about you know what I mean not really worth arguing about So a lot of times we'll take these little petty things and we'll be arguing about what type of gas is better to go in the car And you believe it don't matter 87 is fine And he's saying 93 and y'all literally going to full-blown argument And then he came back because you won't listen to him and he been fixing on cause his whole life You see what I mean?  My favorite daddy is in prison and calls my son and I almost every day I do not have a problem with him calling our son's phone But should I answer my phone for him every day? I'm not in love with him. No, you should not He need to be calling son. If you're not in love with him That's your that's not your man That's your ex Then you shouldn't be answering his calls because he just holding you and got you stuck because he in there behind bars Bored and needs somebody to talk to no call your son Be with your son get to know your son talk with your son, but you ain't got to be talking to me I'm grown talk to the talk to the one who needs you emotionally So no, you should not be there because if you dare answer his phone What you telling him is that you not you have not moved on and that you're not moving on and that you're waiting for him That's what you telling him. So you will be sending mixed signals with that So talk to you talk to him when you need to give him a report about your son That you don't think your son is going to give him Wonderful wonderful What to do when a guy tries to play back everything you said to him to try to make it seem like y'all have things in common Does he genuinely like you? um No, he does not genuinely like you Okay, I saw that one. I thought I missed one brighter days What does it mean? Bless you now. What does it mean when men say they want variety? Are they talking about wanting multiple women or wanting excitement in their relationship to keep things interesting? um It depends on that man, but When I say men like variety I'm talking about Men in general now what he's talking about. I don't know it depends on him If he a dog if he a cheat if he a womanizer he talking about multiple women Might talk about you coming down a pole might talk about you inviting another woman to the relationship He could be talking about anything it just it depends on that man If I say I want variety as a faithful man as a honest man as a as a lawyer Changed man now when I was a trash man Not taken out of the trash, but a dog variety would have meant something totally different So it depends on the man now what you have to realize is that men have short attention spans So what that means is men get bored easy And that's why you'll see faithful men get into something like restoring a classic car or golfing Or doing something to kind of keep their mind occupied to have something else to give their mind to because men Attention span is short and typically what a man give that time to is something sexual And that's why you see so many men into the nasty movies That's why these that's why script clubs thrive and do as well as they do Men keep them open That's why the pages that's popping up like the only fans and all these different little pages Because men keep them going men keep it open because I don't mind devil workshop Um chastity god bless you now tony why Does a guy leave things behind if you were moving on example personal belongings Then dogs and last now you have a child with the person Well, it doesn't mean he ain't going nowhere You know, it's just like a dog leaving toys around the house in certain places The dog's gonna keep going back to them toys because the dog don't plan on moving So your dog man, he don't plan on moving.  So like before I met my wife It was several girlfriends that I had But when I look back through them, I realized I never was in love And the reason why I never was in love because They didn't know what love was. I didn't know what love was. They didn't know what their standards were They didn't know how they wanted to be treated So anything I wanted to do from anger from pain from stress from worry It was fine.  It's kind of like in school The best teachers are not the teachers that let the kids do whatever they want to do The best teachers and the teachers that students love the most are the strictest teachers Because they know it's tough love. They know miss johnson.  It's not that they just was bad kids and didn't want to learn They just had to meet somebody that's gonna have standards and say this was going to go down in here And that is a part of human nature We go until we meet our match and somebody awakens us and call the greatness out of us because They have standards and then we are able to reciprocate that with our own standards Hold on i'm hoping i won't miss too many of these Natasha god bless you tony when working on the three b's And then fall into a fornication One time with that delay future husband's timing Um, yep, it it definitely can because now when you're in fornication, you create a whole soul tie And when you create that soul tie, you may have to war back and forth with that soul tie So it can delay it but that don't mean that it'll it'll be denied just because it's delayed if it That might mean it might throw you off a month It could throw you off six months could throw you off a year Depending on how strong that soul tie is and what happens with that situation John harry god bless you now my ex left me to get back with Now how your name john harry My ex left me to get back with his baby mama For his kids, but still tell me he wants to be with me We will still sleep around sometimes should i believe him You're on the wrong page You on the wrong page now for one you put john harry in there Okay, so that that throw me all the way off now You ask me about a man now Is your name something else? Because i really don't know About that situation there tonight And on the other side You're on the wrong page You need to watch all my videos if you asking me is it okay to sleep with a man who left you for another one And say he want to sleep with you every nine in come on now Y'all trolling y'all got money to waste come on now come on now y'all ask a real question now um It's kazoo god bless you now. He lied to me. We dated for eight months and found out He has a five-year relationship with another girl She forgave him. Do those relationships last after all? She said he will not cheat after marriage. Is that true? Well, let me ask you, you know For one, I want you to know you weren't about the wrong thing You got to start worrying about them and what they got going on And you need to start asking questions about you What do I need to do to heal? What did I do wrong? What do I need to look out for in the future? Because see It won't serve you wishing bad on them and hoping that they fail That just have your life stuck in a rut and you blocking your blessing because you focus on what him and her got going on Now what you did not want to hear is Yes, absolutely. They could work out They could work out and ride off into the sunset and be absolutely happy you know why because sometimes people do something stupid like cheating And get checked Get forgiveness realize the error in their ways and change Most relationships have dealt with infidelity Nine out of ten relationships have dealt with infidelity nine out of ten successful relationships have dealt with infidelity So they could ride into the sunset and be absolutely happy That's not what you wanted to hear so that's why It's the wrong thing to do to focus on Somebody else's fate in the future versus your own Joyful happiness. Also, can you join my mentor if you already have your life coach certification from another place? Yes, you can my mentor dot life I think the link is in the description box my mentor dot life. It's just for certified coaches. So if you've taken a, uh, a coaching course and you got a certificate in by email or what have you that you can upload in there Then yes, you can join. Okay. I see other question here. How do you sustain attraction? In long-term marriage, you don't sustain attraction, you know, you you love And when you fall in love, you don't have to sustain attraction because when you fall in love That comes naturally you want to do you want to see so like today. I'm coaching today And when I got done coaching I had to go handle some business my wife asked that I want her to ride with me or did I need some a long time? I say come with me. I would love for you to come with me She came with me. I handle business And then we went out to eat sat down at a social distance restaurant And we had a something to eat then we went and looked at a couple of Apartments, you know for a family member that we've been moving to their own place And looked around and we spent that quality time when I get off of here We're gonna get on netflix and we're gonna watch some netflix and then tomorrow morning we going to train You know with one of our trainers is my session, but she coming with me So he gonna train both of us.  That's manlish.  So I'm comfortable working and being with my son hint hint I'm comfortable working and being with my son hint hint So he's trying to tell you move on with your life Unless you want to be a friend with benefits to where you can't ask me no question about my whereabouts what i'm doing Who i'm doing as long as you're going to be on your bike with your legs open That's essentially what he's saying Because understand this A man could have three jobs When he meet the woman that he feels this for him He's gonna give her time every single day He's gonna find the time if he got to talk to her going to the job one On lunch break a job one leaving job one going to job two Lunch break a job two leaving job two going to job three lunch break on job three leaving job three going home He's gonna be calling that one On his day off. He's gonna be with that one A man is never ever ever ever too busy for the one he wants So when a man tells you he focused on business or he focused on his child or he focused on anything And that mean i ain't got time for you or i can't give you the time that you need or that you want That he's trying to tell you politely gone about your business I'm trying to tell you that i'm not attracted to you and i'm trying to put it in other words So please hear what i'm trying to say. That's that's what he's telling you um Jenae god bless you now How soon is too soon for someone to move in with you if they haven't Or never had a place of their own i'm a firm believer that everyone should have that experience prior to moving in with anyone You 100 right and you got to stick to that Because a relationship is too independent people Coming together to be interdependent. So you shouldn't ever Let somebody go on go from being a dependent living with somebody else having a roommate or living with a family To move it in with you.  What are the top offensive and defensive plays lady can make in the game of love Now here go jasmine hill with ease hill question And jasmine might just be keep changing these names asking you question because these questions sound like some of the Other questions i've been getting now jasmine And what what i say to you is keep watching the videos And don't try to make it like a science, you know, don't don't try to get to where You got it, you know wrote down and and you Okay Okay, all right x y left cross on hike on 42. All right. Let's go Okay, tony said we've been a run of fly You see what i mean?  Is there any point in waiting if most men cheat? And she won't end up with a christian man um You got to a point that now. Yeah, you could wait now. Yeah, you could wait. But see this is the thing The man that weighed on you is actually Could be the man for you if a man will wait on you And he has character beyond waiting on you Then that must mean that's the man for you now if a man waiting, but he's controlling. He's insecure. He's jealous He's condescending. That's the type of man that's gonna cheat on you But if a man is waiting on you and he's respectful. He's loving. He's kind That's the type of man That can be faithful to you Now if you're not christian keep watching me Keep listening and You might find a lord I coached the young lady today who said she was the atheist when she found me and she read my book She said she read my book real love And she said the book real love changed her life and made her want to To have a godly relationship And now she a full-time believer Helping other people change their life.  My brother is looking for his wife He's 32. He loves boy bands romantic comedies hair and fashion Women judge him for this and it's been hard dating What can he do without changing who he is? Natasha, what you're gonna do what you're gonna need to do for broth is Book him a coaching session because you're not gonna be able to translate it to him and You know, I don't want to make any judgments or anything like that on here Or or assessments without talking to him and getting to hear from him That is a unique, you know combination that he has there And he really needs somebody to talk to that He can really express himself and But the stuff he likes it to me is plenty of women that like that stuff now So if a woman judging him or it's hard dating they could be picking up something else from him And so he may need to you know talk through with that to see what what that energy is Joy god bless you now told me he wasn't ready for a relationship Put a stop on it and blocked him without explanation Was I wrong to block without telling him again that I need more?  So now he coming to make you pay So when you make a decision like that with somebody that you don't owe nothing to it's different if you block your mama your daddy Your sister blood relative best friend from childhood But when you block a man that you just met and he tell you he don't want a relationship Don't go back on that don't question it. Don't worry about it. Just keep it moving Miss angel god bless you now advice on how to respond to my kids dad If at all when he starts asking a bunch of questions about me Looking for slash finding a job. It's like an interrogation Who looked at you et cetera on and on? um Yeah, you should not be Talking about that at all.  If not, I gotta get going Just like that and sit down and write out your response Write out your response to the different question get it in your spirit Get it etched in your spirit to where you got a few go-to responses to where you just Know his personality and you know what you can say, but understand this Um d madison god bless you now What you got to understand is that when you break up with a man and y'all got children together And you don't want to be with him. He don't want to be with you The only thing y'all supposed to be talking about is old children. Nothing else nothing else outside of that um make up artists sherry old god bless you now Let me see now. Hold on I'm a new member tonight kimberley Um welcome. What are some ways I can tell if I'm the only one he's seeing without asking directly Since I understand all men have three or four in rotation You can't really worry about that.  That's just what I call it. Okay.  Where were you at between the hours of 1 and 3 30 p.m. Eastern on May 26 Oh Okay, my sources say otherwise. Where were you? On Memorial day between the hours of noon and three you said I mean when you go to doing that He finna run because you chasing him But when he's not on your phone And he's not in your presence and you working on your nonprofit organization You working on your for-profit company you writing your book you getting your life coach certification You making your profile on my mentor dot life So that you can start helping other young ladies when you doing that. Guess what he finna come sniffing your behind Because he like whoa, why you ain't chasing me? What's going on when he see you confident And you not worried about what he doing If if he got other women now Confidence is attractive So he want to come to you And I wrote about this in my very first book when I was 22 years old and when I tell you my wife did this thing perfectly She listened to me and she did that thing perfectly So when i'm on the road If she calling me and blowing me up That let me know she ain't doing nothing Because she checking for me But when I'm on the road I don't hear from her Unless it's I unless I call her I don't hear from her now. I know she got we got two sons at house, but my mind might go to Man, I wanted she put in the bed and got her mom over there babysitting and she Hanging out with her ex-boyfriend So then guess what that made me call her So now I ain't got no time to cheat because I need to sit in the house Sit in the hotel room and talk to my wife just to make sure Everything good and I I caress my nerves. You see what I mean?  He could be one in the same thing If you weren't about you, but when you calling him now, he know for sure. You ain't got nothing else going But so that's what that's gonna make him come to you now.  Welcome to the new members now Rochelle blessing. I love your videos. Keep them coming. Hey, I'm sure we're gonna try Y'all got to keep giving me topics now if I run out of topics one day. I'm just gonna post a video Hey, y'all it's been good. I'm gonna be retiring from old youtube now because I'm not no, you know youtuber YouTube for me is by 10% You know my business so the reason why I'm able to show up here Is because y'all give me questions if I if y'all don't give me no questions Then I ain't really gonna have a reason to be on here. Just just talking outside of my neck Um Ashley Blair, I see you got married to a husband Because found out I was pregnant even though I caught him cheating on the phone And I plan to break up with him now one year later feel like I made a mistake Hold on. Let me see now Want our daughter to grow with parents in the same home advice You're gonna need coaching. You're gonna need coaching.  No good cheating father So then she's gonna catch you crying She's gonna see y'all arguing and her growing up in a situation that's not faithful and happy can be Way worse than her being in a single-parent home seeing you happy healthy whole Strong confident driven focus and seeing that and then getting to see her um You know daddy on the weekend Somebody's in the phone must went dead. I don't know what happened Do they phone over there? Um, miss classic, please break down the male psychology. We can handle the truth tired of all these games Now that's what all my video is doing and I really can't tell you no more than what I tell you Because you're not ready. You're not you cannot handle the truth the little bit of truth. I get y'all on these videos Y'all be up in arms Be up in arms that video I did on dating 50 years old and up I had to block like 20 women.  So i'm like I definitely can't tell the whole truth not a whole game No, y'all will be out here because I did a video about um how men date or something like that And it was so many women in the comments. I'm I'm done. I'm done. I ain't they no more.  I'm not talking about anything new But just the fact that I put it in words Made it all of a sudden a revelation This has been happening your whole life. You you've been seeing men cheat your whole life You've been seeing men lie your whole life Your daddy might have did it to your mama But now when I said in the video it's like It's a revelation And y'all Oh, I am not dating I retire from dating this how men are What do you mean? What news you watching? What blogs you reading? You don't see what these men are here doing? You just don't see a whole bunch of happy couples prancing around. We got to create love And that's why I tell y'all love is not found Love is created And the only way you create it is by learning what love is and what a real relationship is That's what it is Gina god bless you now despite getting positive reinforcement for how I love It's always been my biggest insecurity.  So you need to start getting some confidence So what you're gonna have to do you might have to write some affirmations And put it on a three by five card Put one on your mirror in the morning Put the other in your purse you read it in the morning You read it at lunch You read it at night and you recite these affirmations to yourself over and over and over And you start to fall in love with yourself and believe yourself You might need to hire a life coach go to my mentor dot life.  You're strong. You classy the reason why we have insecurities is because we have never been affirmed We didn't have somebody that routinely told us that we're beautiful. We're smart. We classy. We're strong And so that's why we had those insecurities. But when you hear that Over and over it's going to change the way you see yourself and that's going to change the trajectory of your life And that Solomon god bless you now i've been seeing a guy for eight months last weekend He told me why he's had an attitude for a while and it's his finances Is this a reason why god gets distant and not wanting to rush in a relationship? Um, yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes All a man life and a man a man's entire life When his money is funny, he's gonna be acting funny You hear me but listen, that's not your husband So if a man acting funny, then you let it be a you let his money be a stand-up comedian It could it need to be as funny as this going to be and you don't offer a dime You don't offer a dime and if he can't get that money in order If he can't get that money in order because he listened A man with character Is not going to be mad about the money A man with character when that money get funny, he's gonna find a way To get it where it needs to be he's gonna find a way to make something happen Now it's gonna stress him at first He might get a little distant at first But when he get distant it's because he digging in it's because he getting ready to go He getting ready to put that foot on the gas.   I don't mean to cry. I ain't crying. I ain't crying. It's just like I done been through a lot it's like My brother died And he gonna take you all the way through You hear me?  He's gonna be like Well, yeah, it was but it was like When you bless me things just started going right Ain't nothing go right. Ain't nothing go any different. He just I don't I don't think change he used your money for that down payment on that new charger that new challenger That's all it was. So let it money stay funny. Okay. It could be a stand-up comedian Let them stay broke and let them figure it out. Let them figure it out. All right Lila J. God bless you now. Now some of y'all need to sign up for a co-decession like lila You need a co-decession. Okay, sister. All right. I'm gonna need you to visit my mentor dot like Because I keep seeing you in here getting a whole co-decession for the 999 you gonna need a co-decession system I have a crazy life story. I mean crazy. Is it worth to write a book about it? I'm afraid of people judging me, but I also would like to help others and show that I'm a different person thoughts um Uh, yes, you should write a book and you know, you can't be both you can't be afraid And want to help people you're gonna have to make a decision And so make the decision. What do you want to what do you want most?  Like they say when you get tired or being sick and tired when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired And you're gonna make a change and so yes, you need to write your book I stepped out. I wrote my book. My mama was mad at me at first My daddy was mad at me my homeboys was mad at me But by me writing that book to help other people It also helped me in return and it has changed and touched millions of lives Me sharing my mess as my message. This is what i'm doing right now I was a dog. I was a womanizer. So when I changed my life instead of just riding off into the sunset I said, let me teach the game that I played. Let me give away the game because I broke so many hearts Let me see how many hearts I commend how many hearts I could help heal and so that's what I committed myself to and When you give it's gonna come back. It's gonna come back to you. So you'll be taken care of While you serve you'll be serving and you'll you'll be taken care of and be able to keep serving Um, lady god bless you now Uh moderators now, I don't know if y'all can hear me y'all y'all could take the night off moderators You don't have to um delete any more questions or comments I really appreciate y'all y'all that went 80 minutes strong tonight y'all get get them moderators around our applause now at your house I really thank y'all appreciate y'all y'all could Unless y'all see some crazy now you see some crazy block them You see somebody you see some crazy block them, but other than that y'all could just you know Relate Lady god bless you cf got upset cf Oh, maybe that meant bf boyfriend got upset with me because He said I made him miss his job interview Came to dad home where I lived and broke the bedroom window called me out my name I blocked him daughter asked about him daily What to do listen listen let her keep asking about him let her keep asking about him. Oh child father. That's what that means All right. That's a new abbreviation. Huh? Okay cf child father. Okay all right Let her keep asking about him and you keep loving her you keep being there for her But he's sick right now.  You done lost your mind if I was you I would never talk to him again.   You play with a man. That's cuckoo like that.  I recently divorced my ex. He's a narcissist and a therapist Did declare this he is turning our 17 year old son against me. My son hates me because of his father. What should I do? You're gonna have to keep working with your therapist. Okay I don't deal with all the the narcissists. All right. I'm a life coach That's a clinical term life coaches. We don't deal in clinical terms and diagnosis So if he's truly that that means that could be a very toxic or deadly situation That's out of my round We I deal on more elementary stuff. We don't we don't use labels And diagnosis in my in my business So hope everybody on here tonight hear that And never say the word narcissists to me again. I see the word 10 15 times a day Sometimes 20 25 times. That's what let me know is being way overused because it's no other word that I see that many times a day I read over 40,000 comments a month on youtube And I see that word way more than any other word And it's just not that rampant It is it if if narcissists is that rampant as much as I see it that'll be the pandemic that'll be This right here what we going through you hear what I'm telling y'all Somebody who famous somebody who got a big youtube following. I don't know who introduced y'all to that word But I did not hear that word before 2018 As a relationship coach in my business. I did not hear that word So I don't know who gave y'all a new vocabulary word that y'all just running with And a lot of time when y'all described that man, I'm like That's the school teacher That's the police officer That's your daddy That's your brother That's the next old neighbor that you describe all the men capable of what y'all be saying Is what a nurse that's now about what every man go through in his life that he do to some woman in his life It just y'all y'all got to come on now Y'all got to start trying to just Look for labels and start just getting the common sense from the situation Playtime child care training.  That's a mighty blessing. You sent them now if I read if a man isn't working the career. He loves and making the money He wants he can never give a woman his all And if she has to help him get to where he wants to be In life, he will not stay with her because her presence will remind him of his struggle your thoughts Um, if the man knows god, that's the difference That is true for a man who does not know the power and the strength and the love of god And that a woman is the favor in his life So for a man who does not have a relationship with the one who said a man who finds a wife and receives favor from the lord That would be true But a man who knows the lord understands that when he meets his wife, he's going to go from Any struggle because we always in some kind of struggle He's going to go from any struggle that he's into a higher level of blessings and favor So he's not going to resent that woman or be reminded of the struggle.  She tried to have a builder bear and tried to build him and then when she built him he left her But it's not because he reminds she reminded him of the struggle It's because he never wanted to be with her in the first place Or it was written by a man who was not a man and he was a grown boy and then He used the woman to build him and then when he got where he wanted to be He left her because he just used her to get there. You see what I mean So what you also have to realize is that anything you read Is written by where that person is in their life So unless they are happy and healthy and whole Then they're not Going to the what you read ain't gonna be sound Keyleth Crawford God bless you now bless you and your family Tony. Thank you for all you do Have a blessed even bless you Keyleth. Bless you. Bless you now Juicy princess bless you now Juicy prince had now made some of my wife ain't hear me say that. She's like, who here now call a juicy princess She said Me and my ex are not together because of infidelity Should I help build For our kid or only for myself? I don't want my kid to have to share inheritance um I really don't understand what you're saying now. I really don't understand what you're saying on that one But um If you saying should you leave inheritance to your child or should you build your net worth Then yes, um But i'm not really sure 100 what you what you ask me on that one Okay, so now we ought to read this cf at because the night the first night i'm seeing cf So y'all been in somebody comment section who's made cf a thing. So now I know cf means child father, okay Child father is trying to set me up with his co-worker of four years But didn't tell the man who I am to him. Isn't it messy to entertain the man? Wow It's absolutely messy since you didn't have to ask that question now Now if you had to ask that question, forgive me if you had to ask that question God bless you if you had to ask that question says God bless you if you had to ask that question now I ain't making fun of you But if the situation right now you need to cut both of them off You need to cut both of them off because because you if your baby daddy doing that to you Let me show you what you mean to your baby daddy You see this here piece of lint off the floor. This isn't a piece of lint. Now this will be This is a piece of sheet rock. Let me get this piece of shirt You see this here piece of shirt Y'all know that my mentor shirt that I'll be wearing This right here. I ripped it off the shirt. It was coming out the shirt. I ripped it off the shirt This is what you mean to your baby daddy This right here what you mean to your baby daddy, you know what this do this going in the trash When I get ready to clean up this going to trash.  You hear me? That man crazy is no man in the world Going to hook his baby mama up with another man Come on now. Come on now I develop God bless you now should I date a man Recently divorced five months ago. Thank you for your advice. No He needed at least a year to heal humility grace bless you now question Single for two years my choice to self love learning heal I notice I only get approached by married men and bummy men. Why don't men approach me? Men approaching you men approaching, but that's just the way the numbers fall right now You got to keep increasing Your rate of visibility.  You got to keep going different places You know, you got to get in different groups getting different circles join different organizations You got to keep getting out go with classy organizations being held Classy events, you know as you open as the country opening back up.  It's going kind of fast and y'all y'all got to forgive me Because uh, I don't I don't I'm over my time limit now Smile of charity. Pleasure now mention women should guard their heart and said Your own wife still hasn't fully given herself to you. How can we guard our heart even after marriage? Since intimacy and children bring closeness Um, you still guard your heart in a sense of you're not open to doing any and everything Like you still have some reservations.   Maybe it's etiquette. Maybe it's a later thing Maybe she just saying look I want to keep this Sexiness, you know, I want to keep this. So that's what I mean like Some women they come and they think that because this my man.  Oh, I'm finna be You see what I mean? This we don't want to be youtube live out the dark But you see what I mean? That's what I mean by giving too much now. You still got to have some stuff that you say, okay I'm not with that. I don't do that. Oh, I'm finna save that. That's what I mean by Guarding your heart to where you not just a sleigh Perfect p. God bless you.  Thank you for your time effort and patience. May God continue to bless you Sherry Tony and take the aid That's your thank you now. Thank you. I really appreciate that Martina bless you. Wow. Martina show that now y'all showing out with your blessing. I so Appreciate that now y'all give me a second because I feel like I probably missed a couple of Questions in there A couple people that sent a blessing so y'all Hold your question now. Let me see if I can see some Uh, Lenina bless you Lenina sent me a blessing without a question. Okay Um, sin quit Wilkes. Okay, I see your question sin quit. I miss you now. Hey, Tony You don't have to address this now But thought it could be a question for entrepreneur Saturdays But can you talk about how to go live on social media? How to not be camera shy I don't know if I could really teach you that, you know, to be honest with you. I'm I'm I'm extremely shy I'm extremely shy. I know sometimes y'all can't tell it But the only reason why that I'm able to get on here is because I connect with my purpose It's because I realize that what I'm doing is helping people And I only know that because people will write me or they'll see me out and about And they will come and say your message saved my life. It changed my life You know, I literally was on my last straw and your message saved my life I was getting ready to end it all And just hearing you it gave me the confidence to keep going. So that's I just connect to purpose But I'm extremely shy. I'm extremely shy extremely camera shy If you meet me in person, you'll be like, is this the same guy I follow online? Even my my coaching calls, you know, some of my clients on the coaching call They'd be like, is this the same person from online? You know, like now I keep it real with them the same way, but You know, it's not exactly the same And so that's what so what I'm saying is It's good when you shy when you love attention That's not good When you love attention when you when you love the camera when you want to be on the camera When you want to be out here and have everybody looking at you, that ain't good. That ain't good because that's ego But when you shy and you got to overcome that shyness and and you have to connect to purpose That's when you're operating from humility and that's when you really going to be able to be a blessing And things going to work out for you. So understand that Hey, y'all, I'm over time six minutes nine Yeah, I've been on here an hour and a half and it ain't healthy for me to be standing these lights Standing all these bright lights in my face. So god bless you now I may try to go lie tomorrow night depending on what's going on Depending on what's going on tomorrow night, but I typically try to go lie right now Monday through Thursday, though yesterday was a holiday So I ain't do no video or anything But to the wins in Thursday this week I may go lie then sometimes if I get free or something going on And I'm home by myself because my wife had to do something that I might pop on the live like I did on Sunday this week But other than that Monday through Thursday is what I shoot for And the night I announced it 15 minutes before I got on here So I ain't getting nobody heads up. So I really can't plan my life out like that because my life, you know revolve around my wife and my two sons. So Me and my wife was out the day. So that's why it happened this way So y'all kind of keep your eye on the community page I post it every now and then when I'm getting ready to go live on Monday through Thursday Or if I'm gonna do a bonus live But hey god bless. I really appreciate you and to the moderators. Thank y'all so much for helping me keep the chat clear And the moderators, you know, they don't work for me. They're not in my organization They just support us on youtube who I kept seeing a name over and over So y'all understand that and I don't tell them to post my courses. I don't tell them to post my mentor dot life I don't tell them to do any of that He's literally just genuine supporters And they're gonna be blessed and I pray over them and I pray that lord pull out in their life and answer all They prayers and open doors in their life. So thank y'all for your service and for helping me God bless y'all appreciate you And in addition to y'all who sent a blessing on here tonight. Thank you. I really mean more than you know and to the Person that sent me a cash out because caramel kisses post my cash out. Thank you I got that. I saw that I appreciated and I hit that heart button Now for man sent me a cash out. I don't hit the heart button I hit the I hit the the prayer hands the hands up like this right here so Y'all fellas if I actually didn't send you a heart You know, I love you like a brother in Christ, but understand that means something else. All right I send these here to the fellas But I really appreciate you.