We demystify what goes on behind the therapy room door. Join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. This is The Therapy Show, behind closed doors podcast with Bob Cook and Jackie Jones. Welcome back to the next episode, episode 98 of The Therapy Show, behind closed doors with the wonderful Mr. Bob Cook and myself, Jackie Jones. And what we're going to be talking about in this episode is cultivating resilience in the therapy process. What a wonderful topic. I've actually just come back from a long walk, so I was thinking about resilience as I was walking along and the cultivation of resilience. I mean, when I had my heart surgery when I was 69, I had a triple bypass and recovering from that. One of the things that the surgeon said to me as we left the hospital, he said, keep walking to strengthen your heart muscle. So I took up walking. Are you still walking now? Yeah, so there's physical resilience, but I also think there's psychological resilience, which is what I really want to talk about. But I have somebody who never really was very active. I've become active over the last nearly three years now. Yeah, well done, you. Yeah, I did a lot of walking, so that's good. But we're talking about psychological resilience and in some ways they go together because as we were talking about... I think they really do. I think the mental and the physical are intertwined. Yeah, absolutely.  And I, besides doing the assessment and sending the therapist to deal with the depression, I also say usually something like, you know, if I had a magic wand, which I don't, I would sign a prescription for all the GPs in the Northwest or even the United Kingdom for everybody that comes for treatment of depression for the GP signs, a live membership for the gym. In other words, we all know that exercise is very important in the treatment of depression, for example, but I actually think exercise is very important for the treatment of many, many stressful illnesses. You can call them illnesses in this case. Stress, you know, it's really important, I think exercise. Yeah, but it doesn't need to be in the gym, though, does it? No, no. It can be just walking and being outdoors with nature. Absolutely. That's just as good. That's just as good. Outdoors, hugging a tree, walking many miles, dealing with the internal stress externally or depression, if in this case we're talking about is very important. I went this weekend with my best friend, who I've been friends with for probably 30 odd years. We went to a place that was doing rest and restore. We sat in some stone circles and we did a grounding exercise and then we met a herd of horses and we mingled with the horses for a while and then we went in a yurt and did some mindfulness and a bit of chakra work, which was really interesting. Where was this? In Stafford. Well, in Staffordshire. Yeah, she lives in Stafford, so I drove down there and we went and did that together. My gosh. And is it a sort of thing you have to pay for? We did. We had to pay for it. It was for about an hour and a half, but it was it was it was really interesting. I can't think I think better. Yeah, and it certainly got me ying and me yang sorted out and build my resilience and just being outside with nature and listening to the bird sing. And it was cold, but it was refreshingly cold. It kind of made you feel alive, feeling, you know, the cold on your face and stuff. It was nice. No, I think it's really important. And I agree with you, the physical and the psychological are entwined. Yeah, because I've had this conversation this week as well. I don't know if I'm going off topic and bring me back again if I am. But our body holds on to a lot of things. You know, the trauma and and disease and all that sort of stuff, you know, with neckache and back pain and all those if we're, you know, stressed and holding ourselves tense and everything, our body holds on to it all. Yeah, there's always a somatic response. Yeah. Our bodies become a container. Often for trauma or or defending against many things. Yeah. And a lot of our internal. Poses that get played out in the body. It's like headaches. Yeah. Stiff necks, knotted stomachs. Yeah. All these things. Tight calf muscles, very tight shoulders. Often the internal psychological processes are in fact, you know, affect the body a lot. Yeah. So what does resilience mean to you then, Bob? Oh, well, let's get back to that then. OK, but I think they are entwined. Oh, no. In transaction transaction analysis terms, resilience would mean a robust adult ego state. In other words, the person that has developed a strong, robust adult ego state. And if we look at definition of adult ego state, it's when somebody can stay steadfastly, if you like, in the here and now and they don't get stuck in past thinking. Yeah, feelings or future. Meandering so they can actually stay. You know, in the present, yeah. So in TA, it would be a robust sense of. Being able to be in the adult ego state, which I can talk about in a minute. So you must be reading my mind because when I cut to 10 to four, I thought, oh, I'm going to be doing a podcast on resilience. So I'll look up what resilience means. So I've got my phone. Good, good. And here we are. First things I found on my phone when I put resilience in and mental health. Tips to improve your resilience. I just read these six out and we can talk about them. I'll read them out first and then we can go over them and talk about things as well. So number one, get connected, building strong, positive relationships with loved ones and friends can provide you with needed support, guidance and acceptance in good and bad times. Establish other important connections by volunteering. Or joining a faith or spiritual community was their advice. Number two, make every day meaningful. Oh, I like that one. Do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose for every day, set clear, achievable goals to help you look forward to the future with meaning and purpose. Thirdly, learn from experience. Think of how you've coped with hardships in the past. Consider the skills and strategies that helped you through difficult times. Okadokis, next, remain hopeful. You can't change the past, but you can always look towards the future and present. Next, take care of yourself. Tend to your own needs and feelings. Participate in activities and hobbies you enjoy, including physical activity in your daily routine. Get plenty of sleep and create consistent bedtime rituals. Eat a healthy diet, practice stress management and relaxation techniques, such as yoga, meditation, guided imagery, deep breathing or prayer.  I like that. Don't ignore your problems. Instead, figure out what needs to be done. Make a plan and take action. Although it can take time to recover from a major step back to a medical event or loss. Know that your situation can improve if you work at it. That's the six tips. In this mental health definition on Google. So do you agree with all of them? Oh, I've just got rid of them all again. I've just, Google, do I agree with them all? Yes, I do. And also, I think it's important for each one. So, for example, get connected, building strong, positive relationships, loved ones, et cetera, et cetera. It's very important so that you can feel you know, soothed by internal and external references. You can carry people around with you that, you know, love and care for you. And in stressful circumstances, you can hear their voice and remember memories of them. They will all help build up, I believe, positive resilience. Yeah.  But the problem is when you sabotage yourself. Making these connections, when you sabotage yourself, having a narrative of positivity. When you sabotage yourself by concentrating on negative thoughts. Yeah, memories from your loved ones. Yeah. When you sabotage yourself, becoming isolated rather than connected. Yeah, because I've had this conversation with clients over this last week about that a lot of the time, we're not even aware of the fact that we are sabotaging ourselves. It's like habitual behaviour. That's right. And I think what happens is that we I can explain this. I like the way I like that term habitual behaviour. I don't think we know English sabotage relationships and things. Not in our awareness. Yeah, usually, usually. However, unconsciously or out of our awareness, yeah, we certainly do. Absolutely. 100 per cent of the time, I'm saying, well, 99.9. Yeah, often the habitual patterns that you're talking about are often seen as negative ones or can be negative rather than habitual positive. Behaviour. So, for example, I took my daughter down to her new job and she was going to be staying overnight for a first shift in the residential care home. She's going to be working. And she says she was saying she was feeling anxious and apprehensive. Understandably. Yeah, so I said that's normal and be odd, if you weren't. Yeah.  Whatever happens, the world won't collapse. I'll phone you tomorrow to see how you got on and wished you well. Oh, that's nice. Yeah. And in that process, I hope she would remember those words. And if she felt stressed, she can think back on what I said. Yeah. That's what I think number one meant when it said stay connected. Yeah. Yeah, because it's easy to isolate ourselves when we're not feeling on top of the world. Yeah, definitely. That's negative. Yeah, so it's very important to, I think, number one, connections. I mean, we're all social animals. Yeah. And it's when we don't. How can I put it? Socialize or surround ourselves with people who love and care for us. There. Our resilience is harder to create because we stay isolated or surround ourselves with people who give us negative messages instead of positive narratives. And therefore, our resilience gets less or contaminated. Yeah. So. For you, is resilience connected to our self-esteem? Oh, they go together, don't they? Well, I think so, yeah.  But so often it's dependent on recognition and validation from outside. I was going to challenge that assumption you just said. I understand why you said it, because so many people say it and it makes sense when you said self-esteem comes from inside us. Yes and no. And then you went on to say the second part, which is what I think, which is actually the building blocks of self-esteem and resilience comes from validation, permissions, encroachments from our loved ones. Yes, yeah. And then our self-esteem will build from that. It's very hard. If you've had a very, very negative history, well, there hasn't been much validation, permissions, recognition, positive compliments. It's hard to have self-esteem inside yourself. Absolutely. You see, the thing I suppose why I say that is because if it's wholly dependent on external validations and permissions and everything, it can be taken away from us at any given moment. And I think particularly now with the younger generation and Facebook and TikTok and YouTube and all these sort of things, that it's so dependent on being accepted in the outside world and getting likes and shares and all this sort of stuff on social media that we need to be able to build it for ourselves away from that as well. Well, I'm going to say yes and no. If that's absolutely fine. That's why I said this is yes and no. I do agree, of course, and all those things you said. I mean, you just got to look at all these reality TV programmes. And I was watching a programme on the 158 people that had come out of Love Island in the last seven years or whatever it is. And something like only 10 percent actually, you know, make a lot of money or go on to actually get to position they want to be. And all the other people fade into the significance. And a lot of people it's actually that they report feeling worse afterwards. Well, and I'm sure for a lot of the reasons you've just said that it's very easy for people to forget people. It's very easy for people to take away all these likes and all these things and recognition on social media and all the things you're talking about. And then they feel worse. Yeah. You're absolutely absolutely correct. So I think the building blocks of esteem come from connections from your loved ones, from your early external significant figures. Yeah. Not all these other people or friends and everything else. They become important. I'm not saying that. I mean, you know, I remember Jess, I remember daughter of teenagers and all these sorts of things and how important the peers were and the teenagers. Absolutely. Yeah, one sort of negative stroke or commerce made you think the world was going to collapse. Yeah. So I do understand what you're saying. And I still think under stress, if a person's got a narrative of recognition, validation for important, significant other people, that says a lot in the building blocks of self esteem. Even though what you said is also true. Yeah, things can be taken away very easily. But if you've got that intrinsic building blocks of self esteem, which are also from validation from the others very early on, they can't they aren't taken away so easily. Yeah, I kind of agree. I do agree with that, but there's so many of us that those building blocks and that, you know, recognition and validation and permission isn't given to us at a young age. No, and I fall into that category, by the way. So, you know, but if you look at me at the age of and I was talking about it's over breakfast today with someone, if you look at myself at the age of, you know, 27, 28, 29, I'd achieved quite a few things, I thought, but I had very, very little self esteem. And that came primarily because I was never given a validation recognition, positive strokes or any of those sort of things you're just talking about when I was growing up. And I mean, right up to the age of 26, 27, I'm talking about. I gave myself validation, have achieved university degrees and various other things, but certainly wasn't enough. And so self esteem really started to build actually when I went to therapy. Yeah, yeah, I can understand that. I think it did with me as well. Yeah. So I'm not. It's just a very, I know, I know exactly where you're coming from, nature and nurture and everything else. And it's probably something we could do a podcast, talking about nature and nurture in a therapeutic process. And I still like to think that early building blocks of self esteem come primarily from external validation, permissions, encouragement. Spontaneity and everything else from significant loved ones. More than anything else. Yeah, yeah, I think it's a combination of both. I I think for me, I just like the idea that my self esteem is in me and nobody can take it away from me. Well, I think that, yeah, but I don't think that comes from. Um, you know, later in life, I come. I think that comes from early connections and early in life. Now, can we get those sorts of connections from people we admire, love and have as mentors later in life? Yes. Well, yeah, I sense those from earlier in life. I don't think so. Because I'm constantly working on my resilience, you know what I mean? And when life throws as a curveball, I think our resilience drops. You know, and fortunately, I've got people around me that can hold me up at times when I need to be held up. But for some people that can't, you know, it's how they build their own resilience. Yeah, so do you think then resilience and survival are the same thing? I don't know whether we can survive without resilience. Because I survived in the most harsh circumstances. And when people talk about how I survived in terms of not just my physical sense of self, but my actual mental sense of self and how and where I am today. A lot of people say I got a lot of resilience. I would think for the first quarters, essentially my life, I simply survived. Yeah. So number two, which is on this list, by the way. Well, perhaps I'll go to what I liked rather than just this follow this list. Yeah, talked about. I think the last one about proactivity, taking action. I love that one. It's really an important one. Absolutely. Yeah. You know, seriously, I mean, by taking proactive, sorry, by being proactive and taking action and finding purpose in life and finding a sense of ownership of identity. Yeah. Are all such important things. I've just entered retirement or semi-retirement age and have been struggling with this for the last at least two years. And I'm now down to a three day week. But, you know, part of finding purpose, identity and status when you retire is such an important things. Yeah. In terms of what we're talking about here. Yeah. Resilience is linked, I think, to finding purpose in life and taking ownership of identity. So I very much like proactive, proactive, proactive, delight and having a plan and not just being passive and doing. Passive, behaviours in life. Yeah. Absolutely. I 100% agree with that. Again, I was having a conversation with somebody and we ended up laughing about it because she she didn't have or she doesn't feel like she has any purpose or dreams or aspirations or anything. She doesn't know what what she wants to do or what she wants to be or anything. She's very flat lined.  I think not having dreams is a big one. Yeah. It is for me. You know, that's having a purpose. One, you know, to me is really important because that's what makes us progress and go on to the next day and the next day and the next day. Oh, oh, absolutely. Purpose, identity, the ship of self, the capacity to love ourselves and other people. Yeah. They all make of the building blocks of resilience. Yeah. And I get what you were saying about, you know, people that are coming up to retirement or are retired, you know, often when I would job is I were identity to a certain extent and when we're not, you know, partaking in that job is like, well, who am I now? What's my role? What's my purpose? What do I do? It's kind of like as a parent when your kids grow up and leave home. It's, you know, my job's done now. What do I do? Yeah, you know, if you read some of the works of Bruno Bethanyl, Bruno Bethanyl, who was in the concentration camps with. Frankel and he talks about survival and resilience and the difference between the two of them. And he talked a lot about memories, significance of love and care for mothers, positive narrative, purpose, moving away from a spiritual wilderness as ways that he survived the concentration camps. Yeah, I think I've read a book by somebody that was there and that was all about resilience and everything. Yeah. Yeah, I do think that when you talk about psychological resilience, we do need to look back or help the person create a positive narrative, find purpose and take ownership of identity in their own life. Yeah. So what do we what do we do to cultivate this in the therapy room, then? Those are the things I've just put down there. Yeah, we've read those tips. And we talk about cultivating in the therapy room. Well, you know, the most important person besides the you know, the client self in that room, of course, is the other person, which is the therapist, especially if he's individual therapy. And I here we go. Another another I say is plea for what I've said in most of these podcast and you have as well is the importance of the relationship between the therapist and the client. Yeah, the client cannot cultivate, maintain. Resilience by themselves. Yeah. So this has to be done through or with the journey of two people, psychotherapist and the client. And psychotherapist can pit pivotal in that relationship to help the person cultivate what we're talking about here, resilience. Yeah. And they also and the therapist also needs to help the person be aware of how they sabotage resilience.  A lot of these things are outside their awareness.  I absolutely hundred percent agree with that. But they do go through life often unconsciously, unaware. Sabotaging. Building up self esteem and resilience. Yeah. So the therapist needs to help the person. And help the person understand what is usually understandable, in other words, help them understand how come they sabotage building up their own self esteem and their own resilience. Yeah. Go on. No, go on. I'll say it after you. I was just going to say it. And ultimately, as in transactional analysis and more things, it's all to do with our past. We sabotage because of past experiences. Yeah, absolutely. And I know this is going to sound very dark to you, I suspect. And that's my fantasy and people listening may also think I'm being particularly dark here. But a lot of people sabotage their own resilience and self esteem because they hate themselves. You know, I wouldn't say there's many clients and they're coming into my therapy room, past or present, who can who say quite freely they love themselves. They concentrate much more on the hatred in themselves. Yeah. Haters. It's a very strong word and dislike. But yeah, I get what you mean. It is it is hate in themselves. Yeah. Let it go and let it go. Well, he's a poet. He was a poet. He died. But he also, you know, was a singer and he did sing about a lot of dark things. And he he was, I say, a fantastic poet, but he did, you know, poetry quite dark, if you want to put that one of his records, which I think probably was one of his most popular LPs that shows my age, isn't it? Love and hate all about singing about love and hate. Yeah, because love and hate come together in a way. My dad always used to say there's a very fine line between love and hate. There is. Absolutely. And I never understood that when I was a kid and I was growing up. But as an adult, I do. Yeah. And I think a lot of clients, I have seen over a long time. And I think you and me talk a lot about hate. OK, you might want to say dislike, but they often also talk about their hatred of the self. No, that is what stops themselves building self-esteem and, you know, finding purpose of life. So the next question is how come a person stays invested in such a negative hatred and dislike of themselves? So the therapist is pivotal in helping the person. Understand often. The processes which the client. A isn't aware of or if it is aware of, they don't know what to do about.  So working on self-care and self-love and self-worth and self-growth and all those things that start with the self are going to help with building resilience. Yes, and also, yes, 100 percent. And also a therapist needs to help the client find out what stops that person doing all those things you've just said. Yeah, because unless they do find that, if unless they do help the client understand that, yeah, how can they do what we've just said? Yeah, self-care, self-love, compassion, all those sorts of other things, they'll just become adaptations to the therapist. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So we have to find out how all that was thwarted in the first place. So, yes, you're right, it is a background of past. Yeah, because it that last bit that you said then, you know, when we say taking action and everything, we can fake it and do all of this stuff. Yes, and go through the motions and not change anything. Well, it's like empathy, actually. You know, if we talk about degrees of empathy and how empathic a person is, you know, if you look all the students that have come through my doors, I've lost God knows how long to train to be psychotherapist. I meet people who I want to say they're particularly empathic, but they have have what I'm going to say. Learned empathy. So you're right, people can learn these things and maybe that's better than nothing at all. However, if we can find out what is, what's the process that has thwarted the authentic spirit of the human organism and help the client understand that they then have more of awareness of what to do instead. Yeah. And as always, Bob, this is not going to happen in one session. It's it's a long process to unearth and unveil and work all this stuff out. And it intertwines everything really, doesn't it? Yeah, it does. And if the client can find, feel the compassion of the therapist, that goes a long way. Yeah, I love that. So there's six tips there on building resilience that we can all focus on. And the other bit we've just been talking about is unavoidable, which is visiting our past to look at how we might sabotage all those tips, because that's where the growth is, I believe. Yeah. Thank you. I've enjoyed that, Bob. You're welcome. No, I think it's a very important topic. Yes, I think in this day and age, building resilience and being resilient is quite important, whatever age we are. So next time, episode 99, Bob. Oh, my gosh. What can we do? An ultimate one. Yes, an ultimate one before the magic 100. Oh, my gosh. We're looking at repetitive cycles in therapy. I'm interested in this one. This one is really interesting to me. I'm going to get lots of hints and tips from you. So until next time, Bob. Yeah, bye bye. Speak to you soon. You've been listening to The Therapy Show behind closed doors podcast. We hope you enjoyed the show. Don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review. 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We're serving more than we're scaling up to 50 nodes. There was one time when we scaled this thing up to 50 nodes. Instead of 3 over there, you see we scale up to 50 nodes running on a single database server. And we're able to scale and take 1,000 concurrent requests. From 20 concurrent requests, we increase it to 1,000 concurrent requests. Yes. What I want to share with you guys is that the database is still trashing at this point. But because we managed to scale up PHP, the PHP nodes, each PHP node is able to take the load and it waits. At least it doesn't trash. The PHP doesn't trash. Okay. When you have a single node and your database is trashing, you know what happens? All the PHP requests start coming in. They will queue up. They will queue up all the PHP requests and your PHP node, your PHP server starts trashing. Your database is trashing, yes. But because your PHP server is trashing, you start seeing all the 500, the HTTP 500. Your customers start seeing HTTP 500 server error. Or else, when you scale it out, your web server still works. Why? I mean your website still works because the PHP is not trashing. It just waits for the database to be available and when the request comes back, when the data comes back, your PHP will just serve the web page. It just slow down the web page but it won't trash. So that's what our experience is. So there was one time we had about four nodes then we never expected the traffic to spike so quickly because one of our partner was running some events and everybody started to access the website and it starts trashing. We see that the database is trashing, then the PHP site is all trashing. Then we immediately the good thing about AWS is that you can just create new nodes, new EC2 instances and we spread it across and immediately the traffic started to go normal again. In fact, it helps. In fact, the database doesn't trash that much anymore. It doesn't reach 100%. So it does help to scale out the PHP nodes in this manner. And what we experience is that it's very easy to scale out or scale in. You call it scale in? You can either remove or add nodes without any issue at all. Okay, this is we use AWS for this. So we just start up an instance, add it into the load balancer as one of the nodes to be round robin. And it just works like that without issue at all. It's very easy. And whenever we find that the load is not that high, we just take out because every node is cost to us. So when the traffic is not as heavy, we just take out the nodes to save cost. That is very easily done. What is the pros and cons? So what is the disadvantage of using this implementation? Okay, the implementation that I've shown you guys here doesn't take into account the single point failure in the centralized file system, which is the NFS or the database already. If any of this fail, the whole site goes down. But our motivation is not for HA, it's not for high availability but more for scalability. We want to be able to take the load. So in order to have HA as a totally different scenario altogether, you have to make sure that you have your NFS, your database and your ready server, they are all HA. I mean that is another talk. But I think to do that is not that difficult. You just need to get some expert to help you. And I'm not an expert on that. Okay, but to let you guys know, we have been running this for one year plus. No issue with NFS or database or ready server failing. Not a single instance. Where else we can scale up and down very easily. And that helps us a lot. I think now you guys will be interested in the gory details. But I have to warn you guys you may not appreciate this because it's a lot of gory details. Okay, I'm going to go into what we did. Can you see that? I'm so sorry. This is wrong. Okay, what I'm trying to show you here is the engine X configuration needed to spread out the PHP nodes. Maybe let me change the color, if you don't mind. Let me change the color of the fonts. Give me a moment. Let me change it. Is that okay? I'll just go. Let me go back to the slide. It's better, right? Because I changed to the black color. I will let you have some time to soak in all the implementation. I think the gentleman, you can appreciate that. These are very, very system stuff. And we went through a lot of pain to discover, well, not really to discover, but try and error. And then we finally got it to work. So this is an exact configuration that we have on most of our engine X, our PHP nodes. Okay, so basically we are saying that when a PHP request comes in and engine X sees as a PHP request, it will just call the PHP node to compile to serve out this request. Right? It's as simple as that. This is a very usual setting in PHP. Okay. Are you able to see this? Okay. This is the part where you need to take node off. The session, PHP session, this is the crucial part. Right? If you look at a normal PHP .ini file, you will see that the sessions are saved into local file. Now we just change this. Instead of saving the local file, we save it into a ready server. Two-liner. There's four lines over here. The third and fourth lines are being commented out. First and second line. Right? So instead of saving to local file, session file, we store it into ready server. Two-liner, but took us quite some time to discover this. Just this. Okay. And then the NFS. Each of these PHP nodes will also, each of these PHP nodes is actually a NFS folder, which in this case is an upload folder as an NFS mount. You mount the folder in the NFS drive. So all of you are mounting the same folder on the NFS server. Over here. Then of course on the NFS what we do is that we install an NFS server and then we designate it as a shared folder to be mounted by all the PHP nodes. By doing things this way, you are able to centralize all your files into one location. So all your PHP nodes see the same file, see the same assets, see the same PHP files. But one thing to note is that this NFS server does have a delay in updating the nodes. For example, if let's say this node over here uploaded an asset file into the uploads folder is being stored here. It takes about a few seconds for the rest of the nodes to see it. So if your website is very well, you need everything to be very quickly updated. So NFS may not be the solution for you. There are other solutions which I'm not aware of right now. This thing works for us because our website is not that kind of high demand website. So we are able to take that hit of a few seconds update. Right. So we leave the question to you later. Let me go through this thing. It's about the end. Even with this implementation we find that we can take about 1,000 requests. But the issue with that is that it is still calling the database. Every request that comes in will still work the database. So there's a lot of database calls in and out of the MySQL server. And during the peak period, over to share with you this painful experience that we have is that the engineers have to be there to see if there's a spike. When there's a spike, they will quickly add more nodes. At one time we add up to 50 plus 60 nodes. Then it solves the problem so we are able to take 1,000 2,000 concurrent request coming in. So we are always starting especially every weekend is burned because the weekend is a time when everybody access our website. To add more nodes and the spike goes up. And then when the spike comes down, we have to remember to take out the nodes. If not, we will be checking up our cost. So we are always sitting down there to add and remove nodes. And of course I may sell a bit of selling for AWS here. AWS, they do have this thing called the auto-skilling. They have this auto-skilling that you're able to configure the automatically scale. But the issue with that is that when they add one node, it takes up to 20 minutes for the node to be active. By the time the spike went down already. So we can't do that. We have to manually add the nodes. That's a lot faster. So that is what we did the last time. So we still have this problem. Even though we're able to scale out and scale in we still have the problem of having to sit there to add nodes. Of course, we can add 100 nodes and just leave it there running. It will just run. But we'll be paying so much. So it's not feasible. So the next thing we did is that we realized that actually our website mostly is serving static contents. We don't really serve a lot of people that need them to become subscribers and login. They have their own content. So every time we serve the landing page or whatever page, category page, it's always the same page. So what we did is that we just do caching. And what we did is that we used the fast You see that? We used a fast CGI caching. Fast CGI cache within Nginx. We love Nginx. Nginx is everything we need to be able to serve out a server that can take high load. So we use fast CGI caching. And you will see from the diagram over here actually everything stores into this. When a request comes in we fetch from the database and then we store a copy within the disk. But next time the same request comes in for the same particular page and you know what? With this, we are able to handle 10,000 concurrent load. And our CPU was running at 6% with 10,000 concurrent request. So caching is really the way to go. But the disadvantage with caching is that once you cache, you cannot have dynamic data. For example, you can't be loading a page that say hello John. Because if you cache that page hello John the next person that comes in you will see hello John. So it's not feasible. So if let's say you're running an e-commerce website that needs to have dynamic data this solution doesn't work for you. We are currently working on another solution that takes advantage of caching as well as injecting dynamic information into the site. That is another talk again. We are working with that. Of course we invite comments. If you have any comments you could help us all the more we would be very happy to hear that. Okay. I think that is all I have to say for WordPress scalability. Basically today what I did is that I share with you guys what works for us. What works for us. I'm very sure there are better solutions out there. But this works for us and we are sharing it with you. So yes it's a bit more system than WordPress a bit more system administration than WordPress. I hope we can all appreciate that to know that WordPress actually is scalable. You just need to do some thinking. So should we have Q&A? Q&A ya. Any question? I may not be able to answer every question but whatever I know I can share with you. Whatever works for us. Yes. About the nodes that you say you can switch it in and switch it off. So I'm just wondering because AWS will cost you although the nodes it switched off unless you terminate it. So are you going to set it up all the way again before you switch it on that's a lot of work. That's a very good question. At one time we actually set up 50 EC2 instances but we turn it off. Let me just shut it down. When a node is being shut down you're not paying for the nodes. You may be paying for the storage but the storage is minimal because our storage is in NFS. We only had about 8GB so there's very little cost to us even though we run 50-100 nodes we're not paying anything. So we can just leave it there and then at the time when there's spikes we just attach the EC2 to the load balancer to round up all the requests. That's what we did. But after we do the caching now we're only running 3 nodes and it's taking 10,000 concurrenties at the spike. He's about 10% CPU and a database doesn't trash. So that's the beauty of this caching. I heard about some people setting up WordPress with Heroku would that be an alternative to this and what would be the pro and cons? I didn't really get you can repeat that in WordPress again. With Heroku the company purchased by Salesforce to build an app on top of it without taking Heroku, sorry. Oh, I'm not so familiar with that. Is it a web hosting company? No, no. They provide platform as a service so you can easily host your app there. So what's your question? I would like to share my knowledge if I can. Actually but not that much because Heroku would manage the things for you but the technology or the infrastructure he told about Heroku is not that much into that much like all these things. But for a mid-level user or Heroku could be a solution but not that level. I'm going to put that off. You need to be able to quickly provision more service on the fly. Well, not on the fly. Very quickly provision more service and attach it to the system. I would love to know more about your infrastructure what PHP version you are using. PHP version you are using. Oh, we were using PHP 5.6 but now we have upgraded to 7.1 but there's not much a lot of people have been saying PHP 7 is a lot faster. But it's not that much faster. With this implementation actually we don't see any performance gain in PHP. And have you tried like MariaDB and MySQL both performance optimization or benchmark that have you tried MariaDB or something? MariaDB We mostly use MySQL MySQLDB Ya. Is MariaDB faster? We have found that MariaDB is better. It's an actual open source fork of MySQL and we have seen that it's at least 1.5 time faster than MySQL. Thank you so much. Actually we are looking at optimizing MySQL as well. So what we did is that provision and RDS server we just use whatever the default that is there. But lately one of our colleague has been looking at how to optimize MySQL. Actually MySQL it depends on what you want to do. If you want to optimize it for reading there's one type of optimization you want to optimize it for. MySQL is good for read write Ya. So we are looking at that to optimize MySQL server So actually it's not that WordPress cannot scale. In fact if you are using Drupal or whatever CMS they won't be able to scale as well. You have the same issue. But you can do the same thing over here not just for WordPress, for anything else that is PHP. As long as you take care of the session how system itself centralize it you can scale. Any PHP application you can just scale with this implementation. We have used that implementation for another of our app developed using Laravel It scales as well. So it just works this thing. It works. Do we have more questions for Mr. Cog? If not, thank you so much Mr. Cog. Thank you very much.


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Having production know you a little bit about your personality Having that advantage. I think is really important I believe is really important because people want to work with people that they trust and that they're excited to have on set But how do you have production know who you are before auditioning for them? Like how do you even meet these people industry events? So let's go to some mixers together Let's go to this aura casting event. I've talked about aura before It's an online casting company 100% online if you're an actor in the US go ahead and submit yourself You just put your photos your information if you do have a rep They will send their information to them when they have casting calls If not, they'll send them directly to you You can do a self-tape and then you can get bugged as far as I know mostly in California although I have seen some stuff in Colorado for them. Let's go to this aura casting event Here so I am doing a raffle. I'm doing two fifty three inch paper backdrops just like this one You all have to do subscribe to my channel, and then I'm going to be giving away two Later today This could be a bunch of entertainment I'm after a YouTube content creator and today I'm here with Amity Taylor And I'm just showing you guys who I am. I'm an actor and I like to share about myself on YouTube And how to do self-tape auditions and actually just my experience as an actor So my self-tape audition set up is over there today If you're busy already, you pay attention now because now's the time And sure, yeah, and I feel like not enough people saw it yet So I'm doing a contact Savage Universal which is who provided the backdrops and asked them for one more So if you haven't Entered come back after and I'm gonna have you like enter the rest of you I emailed Savage I haven't heard back. So I'm pretty sure they're gonna say yes, but if they say no Guess who's gonna use her credit card So let's choose a winner for the third paper backdrop. Look at all the people that enter. Whoa, okay I did take out already the two people that won at the event, but I'm doing a third one because I wanted to Oh, this one's blank No way Lorena Flores. Um, she is a subscriber.  So my cousin won this. We're not actual cousins Lorena DM me Give me actually I'll DM you because I just started following you on instagram too.   You know, if you're coming by yourself and you don't really know who to talk to Somebody easy to approach is somebody who's selling things Warm up conversations with the vendors first and then you can Continue and talk to more people and you can be like, hey, did you visit the candle place? They had some pretty cool names on their candles Conversation starters. Is that why there's funders networking wise for me? I met so many actors A lot of people actually came up to my booth like my self-tape setup thinking it was for photos And they were asking me like, oh, could I take a photo here? You know, of course I could but I would also tell them like, oh, this is actually my self-tape audition setup I'm an actor and I would ask them what they use for their backdrops A few of them said the wall or that they used a pop-up one Or I showed them how a full body shot would look like with a seamless paper Because it's nice and clean. You don't see the edges of the pop-up backdrop or anything I want to say I met around 30 actors. I only filmed a portion of The people that I actually met I said hello to an owner of a production company that I've worked with before He's also director the DP for that production company I met another owner two more owners of production companies one in Sacramento and one in the bay area I met a few agents. One of them was Dina from Sacramento who also reps people in the bay area 350 people it really felt like so many more But because there were vendors and circus performers There's a dj really good music Photo booths like there were so many things where everybody was like walking around So it's not like you stayed in the same circle at least I didn't see that You really got to move around and talk to people and people were introducing people and throughout the event People would just ask me like hey, do you know this or that or when I said hello to my friend who owns a production company I was like, do you want to meet some actors or like sure? So I like grabbed my friend Justin and I was like Justin meet max and you know just like I just the energy was really good. And I think it's all because of taylor and emily They have such a friendly open energy Sometimes casting directors can get very Overwhelmed and overworked or agents But I think taylor and emily do a really good job of keeping a positive Light energy and this event I believe was definitely a success If you were at the event, please leave me a comment Tell me that you're here because I was so excited to meet some people that actually watch my videos Thank you so much to aura. Please go check them out on instagram and you can submit yourself On their website and thank you so much to savage universal for gifting these paper backdrops Again, not sponsored at all There's a lot more mixers in december that i'm going to go to la and san francisco area So let me know if you know of any that I should go to that you enjoy Tell me what your questions are around mixers I'm not an expert, but I can tell you my experience as somebody who actually enjoys going to these things I went to another huge mixer in arizona this summer. It's this one right here with casting director bella hybs Highly recommend checking her out too. She gives out a lot of really helpful information


Takeholders have berated the comments by the chairman of INEC, Bermud Yacubu, that the general election risk cancellation or postponement if there was no improvement in the security challenges across the country. The such a statement was unacceptable even as the called on government's officials to build hope and doubt's tension. INEC at this stage should not tell us a lesson may likely be cancelled because of security. We have been present in the lesson for years or months and if I may ask, as the INEC chairman discussed with the president about security issues concerning INEC and the election, what did the president say? Whose responsibility is it to ensure security of life and property? This question of postponing our election, that one is unacceptable because how many states of the federation do we have the crisis? Are they even not safe in these? But INEC doesn't need to come out openly and be telling Nageranda that we might shift the election, we might not conduct the election. No, it is sad for them that the election will be conducted because any president must emerge in this country February 25. Even if they want to shift it like Jonathan did, February to March, at that time February it was March and the election was conducted and even how many states do we have crisis there, I remember the incumbent president said that time that that will not disturb us. So they need to give us the statistics of where these crisis are for all of us and they have to be a stick to that meeting. Everyone of us must be in the know about the statistics.


Hi, welcome to my channel. I am so excited for today's video. I'm gonna do what I got for Christmas. It's a little bit late but I still wanted to get this video up because I'm in love with my gifts. There's so much that I want to talk about with you guys. I wasn't gonna do this video but I just feel like there's a lot of things that I'm actually going up to be talking about later on in the next few months in my channel so I thought I would introduce them here and I'm just excited. I love watching these types of videos. I must have been a very good girl this year. I am so thankful to my family for going up above and beyond. Thank you. If you're in my family and you gifted me these presents, I'm excited. Let's get into it. I got a lot of home stuff because my husband and I are moving soon to our very first place so let me show you. Jose and I are very, very big coffee people and my parents have an espresso machine that Jose and I just love the coffee from so we got our own little espresso. It's not the fancy big machine, it's just the one that only does certain sizes of coffee. You know it doesn't have like a frother or anything but this is perfect because we love the taste of the pods so I'm so excited to have this in my apartment. I don't think we could have lived without this. The coffee just tastes so good so this is one that Jose and I knew we were getting. No questions asked because this is what we wanted for Christmas. See over here? This is another household item so we got a new blender. I'm so excited because I've been using a NutriBullet for I want to say like five, six years and it's starting to break. Some parts get stuck. Jose has to physically shake it so we needed a new blender and this one looks really, really snazzy. This is the Beast E10 and hydration system. Oh my goodness, holding this is hard. So right here this is really just a water bottle and then you can put your smoothie in here but it also comes with, let me show you right here, comes with this infusion chamber so you can put like fruits in there to flavor your water. I'm not so into that but Jose is but the motor on this blender is supposed to be extremely strong. We haven't tried it yet but look this is a fancy blender okay and it's super cute. So really excited because we needed this. We also got a attachment piece for the blender as well so this is another lid. It's bigger than the one that comes in the kit here for when we want to make bigger drinks just like this. Again, we haven't used it yet but I'm really, really excited to. I love a good blender. Love smoothies so hopefully the motor on this is really strong. Can blend my fruit. You are looking for a good drinking cup. My whole family we love Yetis and this is our favorite shape of Yetis so our names are actually personalized here so Jose and I both have of our own. I think the white looks really, really sleek and clean and I love this shape because it holds a lot of water or a smoothie. You can get a lot out of this and it has a handle. We have a lot in my household you guys of Yetis and with us moving out Jose and I definitely wanted some Yetis of our own so we're excited. These make really great gifts because you can personalize them on the pack. It says the mister and the misses but I love this shape. This is my favorite and Yetis really do keep your drink cold all day. They're amazing. Oh see I'm using a Yeti now. This one's not as cute as ours but they're awesome. So this is the final home item. We got a set of non-stick pans for our apartment. This is by the brand Myzen and there's a 10 and 12 inch non-stick pan so let me show you. They have a nice rubber handle and it's just a basic non-stick pan and fun fact my mom is an amazing cook. She loves to cook. She loves her fancy schmancy pans and she ordered this for us and she actually used one of these just to make sure it was good before she gave it to us so she cooked an egg on this before we opened it up. She says they're quite nice. They work pretty well so we got some new pans. So this one is like a cute tacky gift. You guys know I'm always editing my videos. I always have headphones in and I've been dying for one of these headphones so this is just I'm it's a pair of headphones with cat ears. It's pink and it is so so cute. It's by the brand Razer. I already have a pair of Razer headphones that I really love. They were hand me downs from Jose before he upgraded his own headphones and he's really into the techie stuff. So I had a pair of white Razers but I've always wanted these cute headphones. I haven't opened them yet. So these are wireless. I always see those really cute gamer girls wearing these. Oh my god. OMG. I love it. Okay you guys are definitely about to see editing Morgan wearing these. I'm so excited. You can't hear anything out in the background so I'm probably yelling right now but the Razer brand headphones are really really good. They're super duper comfortable and they offer them in pink cat ears. Must have. Love them. Okay it is time to get to the beauty items. The things that I think you guys will be really really interested in. So I got a perfume that I've been wanting. I actually ended up with a sample of it and I fell in love. So this is a Dior perfume. It comes in a beautiful Dior box. Presentation phenomenal. When you order a fragrance from Dior there's like a little protective pillow in there. This is a Dior pillow. It's so cute. Then it comes in the Dior dust bag. In the box I did get a sample of the Dior prestige cream but here is the scent that I got. I've talked about this before. I wanted to get it during the Sephora sale but Sephora didn't carry this fragrance. This is vanilla Diorama. I wish the bottle was a bit cuter but whatever it's fine. The scent amazing. So this is what I would describe as a mature vanilla. You guys know I love cupcakes, frosting, icing, buttercream kind of scent. Anything that smells like a bakery or candy or fruity. Just think of this sense of a teenager. I like the sense that teenagers like. So I like this because it's very vanilla but it's a mature vanilla. This is like my step into adulthood. It's absolutely delicious smelling. Mature vanilla is how I would describe it and I love it if you can get a chance to smell this in store. Definitely just test it out first. This is a beautiful perfume. I don't have the largest or most exciting perfume collection. I tend to stick to what I'm comfortable with and cheap ones too but I'm really really excited about this perfume. It is delicious. Let me look up the notes. On line I can't find exact notes but it says warm, round and opulent. The vanilla Diorama fragrance evokes the nobleness of Madagascar vanilla. It portrays the perfect vanilla. Its warm intense trail with accents of rum and patchouli is contrasted by fresh citrusy notes and highlighted by a denser cocoa note. AKA mature vanilla but I absolutely absolutely love it. A lot of you guys know I got this because I bought it for myself. Well actually this is from my husband technically but I ordered it during the Sephora sale so I could get him a discount but yay I finally have it. My Dyson Airwrap complete set. Now for me I haven't been in a rush to use it or open it. I'm going to just to make sure I don't need to return it and make sure it works but my mom has one so I knew I wanted this and I never wanted to buy it for myself because it was in my house. I would just walk into my parents bathroom and use it and I know I love it. I know how to use it but since your girl is moving I was like oh no like I need to buy myself one now. I love it love it love it for getting a blown out look. I know that the Airwraps are really trending on TikTok now which is funny just because I've used it for well over a year or two but no it really really is that good and apparently because of TikTok it's sold out. Nobody can get it but surprisingly I got asked by a lot of you I want to say like four of you what color did I get so if you don't know the Airwraps they come in this box which is uh not small so that's another reason why I didn't want it right away it just took up so much space and then you open it they have instructions and then here is the Airwrap so this is the color that I got just the normal pink one this is what they sold at Sephora. I'm happy because I love this color I know they have like the blue and orange but I like the pink one so this just has all of the things my most used attachments for me personally are the big curlers. Listen I know Dyson has this but I can't stop using my Revlon round brush dryer I feel like the Revlon's a little bit better when it comes to the round brush but I don't really use the paddle brushes too often but I'm gonna try and play with those. Don't blow dry my hair normally but anyways I'm really really excited to have my own of this definitely couldn't live without this it's very very pricey so definitely next to for a vib sale you're going to want to wait at midnight to order this because they'll sell out they always sell out every Sephora VIP sale so I was up till midnight to make sure I got this on discount or you can buy your refurbished one I've heard buying refurbished ones they're good as new. Now the question is do I think they are worth it? It depends what you're using it for really I love it but it's definitely a luxury to have I don't think you're going to die without it the Revlon blow dry brush is great it's more of a luxury and I do think it is a bit healthier for your hair you don't need it but it's fun to have but you don't need it okay and then I got two jewelry pieces from Kendra Scott I love Kendra Scott jewelry I think their pieces are so adorable and they last a really long time my parents usually get me a piece or two from Kendra Scott every Christmas which I really appreciate because I love their stuff so I got a necklace and earrings set this year this is a really adorable gold heart necklace super cute and simple I love it and then if you don't know how the Kendra Scott packaging works it comes in this box and then you open it and then you guys can see the earrings and then it comes with a Kendra Scott bag as well and I got a matching set of earrings to the necklace which are super cute and dainty little hearts so I love these I love Kendra Scott jewelry I don't have a very big collection of them but I love everything that I have from them all right guys last item I know it's the most exciting item I've purposely had it in your face but this was a gift that I was not expecting and it's so funny I asked nobody for this because I don't really want anyone to buy this for me it's really really expensive but that morning Christmas morning I was looking at some Instagram reels I saw a girl wearing this Louis Vuitton person literally in my head I went to myself hmm when I go to Miami next week maybe I should stop by the Louis store just to see if they have it not to buy it but just to like window shop I unwrapped this and I was like no I couldn't believe it was a Louis box because you guys I love luxury purses but I don't make that much money to be buying luxury purses I'm more of a contemporary purse kind of person I have two luxury purses in my collection that I love and adore and covet but I wasn't expecting to get a luxury purse anytime soon but I opened it up you guys I'm so excited it's a little fudged up right now because I've been pulling it out but comes with my Louis dust bag cannot believe this so not only did I just get something from Louis Vuitton which was crazy to me I got the exact purse that I saw that morning that I thought oh I love that so this is the multi-pouchette so how it works I have it all kind of messed up here but there are three pieces the multi-pouchette so you get a coin bag right here and I just got the classic monogram canvas I don't know the technical terms sorry I'm not a purse expert I just like them and then it comes with a little mini poochette right here and then a little bigger one and I don't know if you guys can see this this is not a new purse by the way this is actually quite trendy a lot of people have it but there are three separate pieces you disconnect them and then it comes with two straps so the first one is a little bit more sporty I have the pink strap here this is great for like athleisure wear and then it also comes with a gold chain which is the one I'm more partial to but let me show you the multiple ways that you can wear this so if you want I'm gonna stand up I don't have too much space let me zoom out so if you want you can just wear it like this with the one piece or you can put the second piece on like this which is really cute and it gives you something extra to hold and then on the strap there's this you're supposed to put your little queen purse here which this is a bit extra for me I don't think I'll be styling it like this very often and then if you want to get more extra with it you can put the strap on here like I said a bit extra for me probably won't wear like this too often I can see myself wearing this like with probably without these two pieces just like this and this to quickly run errands but my favorite way to wear it probably with the gold chain if I'm looking for something super chic just to wear for dinner I can wear it on just the smallest one which I think is super duper cute what I don't like about this is that the big one doesn't have a hook and the chain doesn't have a hook so you have to hook the little one is the one that comes with the hook so you have to hook it onto here and you can also wear it like this which is probably going to be more daytime for me so I love this purse it was a purse that I didn't tell anybody that I wanted so I cannot believe I have it in my hands I am so so excited I'm gonna wear it to dinner tonight but I want to show you something that I picked up from Amazon this is not a gift I got this for myself I love the look of a gold chain oh I got it for this purse because I didn't like that the big bag here doesn't have any hook and I didn't like that the chain didn't come with the hook either so there was no way for me just to do the big bag and the golden chain and I wanted to share this with you guys because no matter what purse you have you can do this I picked up these gold hooks from Amazon so that way to grab the smallest ones I can use this hook to connect the gold chain and the big bag so I can wear them together so this was good this was like $10 but because I'm even extra I ordered four sets of different chains that come with hooks so I will link these because you can use these with any purse take any strap off I believe a set of these four different lengths was like 13 bucks for all four you can see it's a bigger chain than the Louis Vuitton one but I don't really care it's a gold chain is this one the same size so yeah I think this one is around the same size maybe just a little bit longer but this way I can put the chain directly on the bag that doesn't have the clip I love that there's different lengths because this one is even smaller than the one that the Louis comes with so if I want just like the tiniest cutest little shoulder bag with like not you know what I mean this is perfect or they have in this set really long ones I could make my Louis a whole cross body if I want to let me show you so these do come with hooks so you just hook it onto your purse this is a bit long for my body but anyways see how cute is that now I can wear this as like a full cross body which is something that you couldn't do before so I will definitely have these amazon gold pieces linked for you guys because you can do this with any purse you can change up the strap with any purse that you have it certainly does not need to be Louis Vuitton and there we have it that was everything that I got for Christmas most importantly a huge huge thank you to my family I am so grateful like wow I truly am so blessed but anyways I hope you guys enjoyed this video I know it wasn't a makeup video but I wanted to share some things that I love that aren't makeup when I start vlogging more in the new year after I move a lot of these things I know I'm going to be talking about and you'll see so I wanted to just share my excitement with you all because you will be seeing me use these items and products in the future so I hope you guys enjoyed this video if you weren't subscribed to my channel already I would love it if you would consider taking the time to do so all of my makeup details will also be in the description box I will see you guys in the next one bye guys have a good one