Psychology can reveal some crazy things that can surprise even the experts. In the last few years, a ton of insane psychological studies have been done by equally crazy researchers. But the craziest thing of all is that they've actually struck gold. These studies have revealed some of the most surprising facts in the world of psychology, and some of this new information is even disproving previously held beliefs. And the best part of all is that these facts are about some of the things that everybody's talking about right now. Things like love, sex, Facebook, the newest iPhone, and of course, Donald Trump. 1. Loneliness Hurts, Literally An amazing study has recently discovered that the emotion of loneliness does incredible harm on both our mind and body. The study, which was done in 2015 by Nancy J. Donovan through the National Health Institute, sampled 8,300 adults over the age of 65. Every two years, they were surveyed, and at the beginning, 17% of them admitted they suffered from loneliness. Over the next 12 years, the researchers realized that the people who said they were suffering from loneliness were suffering from a 20% faster decrease in cognitive ability and brain function. A separate study showed that those who were suffering from loneliness had an almost 15% higher chance of dying prematurely. 2. Having sexual fantasies means you're healthy, not sick-minded.   A study, which was released in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, has a lot of people rethinking sexual fantasies in kinks. 902 people who practice BDSM were compared with 434 people who just had normal sex. The results were surprising. Those who practice BDSM were less neurotic, more open with their partners, and more sensitive and open to rejection. Not only that, but they seemed to be more secure in their relationships and were generally happier. 3. Facebook will make you depressed. Everyone who is addicted to Facebook needs to listen up right now. A new study released in 2015 by the Palo Alto University and the University of Houston has discovered that increased Facebook usage is linked to depression. That's right, the technology that is supposed to connect us with our friends is actually making us more lonely and depressed. Why is this? According to the study, which was published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, this is because people are comparing themselves to other people. In other words, Facebook turns our social life into a competition of who has the most friends and who is having the most fun. iPhone users really do think they're better than everyone else. In 2016, a psychological study was done by the University of Lincoln in cooperation with two other schools. What they were studying was something that's become huge in recent years, the iPhone. The choice of whether a user chose Apple or Android revealed a lot about their personality. Dr. David Ellis of Lancaster University said, In the study, we demonstrated for the first time that an individual's choice of smartphone operating system can provide useful clues when it comes to predicting their personality and other individual characteristics. In other words, the smartphone has become an extension of ourselves, including our personality. A study found that iPhone users think that their phone represents their social and economic status and are more self-conscious and extroverted. In addition, they also try to look different. On the positive side, they also tend to be more open and sensitive. 5. Liberals are breaking record stress levels because of Trump A new survey has shown that Americans are more stressed out than they've ever been before, and that's no coincidence. It turns out that the most stressed out people in the US right now are liberals, and it doesn't take a genius to figure out why. Every year, the American Psychological Association posts its annual stress survey of America. In 2017's edition, broke all existing records for stress levels. They found out that liberals were the most stressed out people in America right now, and that more than half of over 1,000 people surveyed said that the current political climate was a very or somewhat significant source of stress. In addition, a full two-thirds of respondents to the survey said that they are stressed out about the nation's future. 6. Going for a walk could be the ultimate way to cure everything. Who could have thought that merely going for a walk could be so helpful to your mental health? A recent study released in 2016 by Iowa State University found that just 12 minutes of walking can increase one's mood massively. Another study released by Stanford University in 2014 suggests that walking can increase creativity by up to 60%. Yet another study released in 2010 by the University of Illinois suggests that walking can create more sparks and connection between neurons. A further study released in 2009 in the European Journal of Developmental Psychology suggests that walking can actually improve memory. Which one of these new studies surprised you the most? Which ones can you relate to? If you found these points interesting or simply unbelievable, check out the sources in the description below. If you want Part 2, let us know in the comments. Also, don't forget to subscribe to our channel. We aim to continue providing reliable and interesting psychology facts to blow your mind out. Thanks for watching!


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One of the most surprising things about Europe today is how little anti-European sentiment there is. The institutional shift that is envisaged by the phrase More Europe is simply an institutional shift from a confederal structure, which is what the European Union currently has, to something more like the Federal Republic of Germany. The core way in which federations work is that the more productive parts of the Federation end up transferring resources to the less productive parts of the Federation. That's how it works. Everybody is locked into More Europe. There isn't a massive anti-European campaign anywhere, but they won't admit to themselves what More Europe really means, which as I've been trying to say means a transfer union, a federal Europe, the Federal Republic of Europe, with the transfers that that implies from the court of the periphery. The decision is very, very clear. Either you go to a federal system, not on austerity pack, that's not enough. There has to be a transfer union to use another German term, and there have to be Euro bonds. In other words, there have to be bonds issued by this federation, this European federation, with the full faith and credit of all the governments, including the German government. But if I were in the situation of having to sell the idea to German voters, I'd say this, look, if you go down the route of dismantling the monetary union, it's not going to be cheap. It is not because the scale of the debt and the scale of the productivity gap between Southern Europe and Germany is huge. So the transfers from Germany to the periphery are way bigger than anybody wants to say. It's probably around deep breath. 8% of gross domestic product from Germany to the periphery every year for the indefinite future. Now you know why Angela Merkel is desperate not to level with the German people. There's no point in any longer pretending that this isn't the project. German taxpayers are going to be transferring resources every year to Greek taxpayers. That's how it's going to work. The question is whether or not it's possible for Europe's diverse peoples to live in a federal political system. It's a game of Russian roulette. If you get this wrong, you have a Lehman Brothers event, probably a Greek default sometime this year. Nobody, nobody knows what the ramifications of that will be, except that I can tell you this, the European banking system will be in a situation of such dire crisis that not even the European Central Bank manically printing money will necessarily suffice to stop the crisis.


Boston, Massachusetts. It's theCUBE, covering HPE Big Data Conference 2016. Now, here are your hosts, Dave Vellante and Paul Gillan. Welcome back to Boston, everybody. Jeff Vista here, he's the man behind the event. Great to see you again. Thanks for coming back in theCUBE. So, well done. Thank you. Fourth year, you keep up in the game, great outside speakers, really motivational. Phil Black yesterday. Today, another awesome presentation from Miguel from Uber was phenomenal. The customer panel that Chris ran. So, it's good, yet you've been able to preserve the ethos of this conference, which is... Which is really important to us. Customers, right? Yeah, and I try to explain that to people, and it's one of those things where you have to kind of experience it. You can describe this as not a marketing conference. It's about substance. It's about getting real information, about making it authentic. You can say that all day long. I think when people come here, and it's happened here, people get here, you can say that to your blue in the face, and then they experience it, and they go, I had no idea. That no idea that you can go after session, after session, talk to you directly to our own engineers that will tell you the truth. You know, marketing people don't necessarily do that. So, they can get the real skinny of what's going on and get real answers, and then they can talk to real customers, and once again, get the truth about what they experienced. And that connection with those communities is just as important as what goes up on the fancy main stage. One of the things you do a lot at this conference is spend time in briefings, in meetings with customers, getting their feedback. What have they been asking for? Well, they want more of the same and a lot of new things. And what I mean by that is that, for example, with the Vertica franchise, our customers that use that advanced analytics database, they want speed and scale. And you know what, we'll be here 10 years from now. You know, maybe we'll be drinking something different, but they will want speed and scale. I can guarantee you that. So, they want to know how they can go fast, how they can bring lots of data and start applying that capability. And there's really no boundary condition. We see what we thought was fast and great and Olympic caliber before is now becoming the status quo. So, that's point one. And I think it's key for us and other leaders in this industry never take their eye off the ball. But now the pivot in this industry, and now it's gone from being a novelty or interesting to something that's becoming a little more air and water, which is that fact that you have to bring in increasingly advanced analytics into what you're doing and you have to be able to connect and work in your ecosystem. And I know that sounds obvious, but it's about being able to analyze data without moving it and being able to work within the data fabric that organizations have. The error of the data grab, I think is quickly becoming dead and buried. People want to have access to the data, they want to be able to utilize it. And any solution that says you have to put all your data with me, I think is a non-starter. So, Mike Schultz hopped on a plane from Seattle, came down, was up on the stage today. You guys announced Haven on demand for Azure. Tell us about that deal, how it went down, why Azure, how did it come about? Well, it's a huge deal for us. And it's part of a bigger strategy, which is what we call any cloud. And it's that simple that if you move from one lock-in to another lock-in, I don't think that's progress. And this industry historically has had lock-in. Maybe organically, maybe simply by design. But the old traditional data warehouses did lock-in companies and now as companies are moving to the cloud, they don't want to move from one lock-in to another. They want choice, and this is how I put it, they want choice on day one and choice on day 1,000. And we explain what I mean by that is, giving choice where you want to start up a new workload or a new instantiation to be able to do your analytics, that's fairly obvious. And that's something we've taken our unified architecture to do. But what is maybe even more important is day 100, day 1300, day 1,000, if I want to be able to change or augment, this cloud vendor has got a deal of the day. And I want to take advantage of it. Having that flexibility to be able to do that without the friction, without the risk is key. And part of that is making sure we can support in a best-in-class way any cloud. And so of course we've been running formally on Amazon Web Services, very key strategic partner, and a fair number of our install-based runs on that. And now we've added to it Azure. Now, Azure with Microsoft also brings in the strategic alliance that the Hewlett Packard Enterprise Company has formed with Microsoft to be able to deliver best-in-class hybrid computing. And so this is an element of that bigger alliance. And then I think it's going to give two excellent choices. And we're going to add more so that wherever you want to take Vertica and run in the cloud, we'll hopefully have that option for you. So explain why that's not a lock-in to people. So if I'm running Vertica in AWS, I got to go through the Amazon API. I'm running Vertica, I got my processes wired around Vertica. How is that not a lock-in? Well, first of all you need to have the ability to go other places. And then the question is if I want to run on Azure or I want to go back on-premise, and it might not be moving your whole job, you may be spawning up other workloads and you want to be able somehow to cash the data you need and run on that so you don't impact your mainstream job. So it's not always switching out willy-nilly, but it may be augmenting what you want to do because of a need to have that capability. By having one analytical engine where all your queries, everything that you've written, all the projections that you've written will run unchanged no matter what deployment model you're in. That makes it viable. And that's something that's very rare, unique to us that we can go from on-premise, on open source, and in the cloud, without any changes to the query jobs and the models that you've put together. The other point we did by the way is we've always had support for Hadoop. And that came in two flavors. Flavor one was ingest in from Hadoop and we've had that for a while. And our competition for the most part has that too. So you can bring data into Vertica from a data lake. So check that box. What makes us more unique is what we had announced a year ago, which is running Vertica directly on a Hadoop node. So if you have those servers and those resources, you can bring the analytics to the data. Check box two and do that at Hadoop Economics, which is part of the Hadoop value proposition. Now of course you're in a Hadoop format. That's not always going to be optimized. So there's going to be trade-offs. But for a lot of companies, certain use cases that may make sense. The trifecta, if we can talk, course racing here. It's over this weekend. There you go. Is that we just added support for Hadoop analysis in place. And let me emphasize what that is. That allows you that if you have a traditional Vertica deployment, let's say it's running on premise in your data center. And you have your mainstream financial data in Vertica in its optimized format. And then you want to join in some data that is sitting out in your data lake. Maybe some customer support information. Now you can go and connect and query and analyze that data without moving it at all. And be able to bring that supplemental data into the query model. You don't have to bring it into Vertica. You can if you want, but you don't have to. And you don't have to bring Vertica to it. So it is a third offering and the whole idea is we want you to increasingly analyze the data you want to analyze and do it as effortlessly as possible. And to our knowledge, we are the first vendor that offers this capability and the only vendor that offers these three flavors. So it's about embracing open source and that's the other element. It's not just speed and scale. It's not just getting to the cloud. It's being able to bring analytics in a best fit way. Do you do that through connectors? I mean, how do you get at that data? Well, the product or the capability is called a reader. And that doesn't necessarily sound very sexy, but it's optimized. So we have to understand, we've worked closely in this case with Cloudera and Hortonworks to optimize our reader technology so that we can really, really intelligently understand the formats that they're in and be able to have high performance to do that. So we not only connect to it, but we have to, in an optimally way, be able to access that technology and then be able to run those queries and analyze it. And that is what we have facilitated. And that's why you don't have to move the data and you're going to get high performance. And performance means concurrency, not just throughput, right? And that's a big challenge with a lot of the Hadoop technologies. They're still fairly early day and you take up concurrency into lots of jobs running. You'll see other vendors have challenges, challenges that we've surmounted years ago and that's one reason you can take a proven technology like Vertica. So it's best of both worlds. You get the data lake of your choice, but you're going to get proven high performance. It's talking about cloud portability. I mean, isn't data sort of the new lock-in though? If you have 10 terabytes of data on Amazon that you're doing your analytics on, you can't easily move today over to Azure and work on that data. So how do you address that problem and giving customers that choice? Well, there's no magic wand, but I think one thing is that point of bring the analytics to the data. So if I don't have to force you to move the data to accomplish any task, drive a business process application, do analytics like we're talking about, perhaps we'll talk about the machine learning APIs that we came out with that can interrogate that data. That gets you half the battle done, then you don't really care where the data is. Now, where the data does reside and the format's it in and is it on a slow network in Prague, or is it in a high performance flash server sitting two feet away from your server? There's laws of physics that imply there, but if I'm able to have a technology that has an I don't care view about where the data happens to be stored, you're halfway there and you're not initially locked in, you haven't locked in your analytics with your data sources, you're able to separate. And that allows you to do two things. It allows you to use the right tool for the right job and it allows you to supplement your data sets. That's the big thing today is these organizations have these diverse silo data and they're dying to be able to bring that in. And sometimes the data's not in their four walls. Sometimes it's public data, it's data from their partners. It could be weather data. And right now you don't necessarily want to bring that all into your data center, but you want to be able to tap it and utilize it. And we haven't even talked about IoT and the data wave that's coming in from the edge. So it's not about one huge data store. Those days are gone. It's about let the data sit where it naturally is, use economics and performance judgments and make the right trade-offs. And those can be dynamic and then have technologies and platforms that can bring analytics that can deal with it. And that's the target we're going to have. And I think the answer to the locking question is choice. I mean, open has, the definition of open used to be UNIX, right? And now it's become either open source, which is okay, that's one spectrum. And I think the market's proven, it's two-edged sword or it's choice. I can run an Amazon, Azure, on-prem, et cetera. So I have choice of deployment now. If I go and put processes around Amazon, well, that's a formal lock-in, is what it is. I don't think that's ever going to go away. There's going to be in different ecosystems, different capabilities. And if you take advantage of them, then they're unique to that. But with Kafka and these messaging buses that are very intelligent, the ability to pull out from your main data center, get a task done and then return back, that's the kind of orchestration we're talking about as opposed to one-stop shopping and everything happens. It's not one shopping mall anywhere, right? I mean, it used to be, you went to where the Macy's and Nordstrom's were and you could shop at the stores in between and that was it. And now, you want to be able to go to any store anywhere, any time. And that is where I think computing is going. It's that anchor, the anchor concept of start in one place and everything's got to be there, it doesn't make sense anymore with the modern hybrid systems. Well, Tim Crawford's coming on too. I want to get his perspective on this issue, which is from a CIO perspective, the trade-off between not having lock-in and getting value and how a CIO thinks about that because it's not a no-brainer. I would argue that actually most people would accept some degree of lock-in, maybe even a lot of degree of lock-in if it delivers business value. And that's a personal decision that every business has to make. Well, you're hitting on an important point, which is we've seen it with these various open standards that drive a lot of innovation, right? And that we embrace, but that doesn't make that maybe early-stage product magically the best. And so the term we're using much more often is about best fit. It's like, you want a great solution. You don't want lock-in. You want to be able to have choice. You want to be able to have flexibility, but at the end of the day, it's got to perform. There's no free lunch. And I think sometimes when the new wave of, quote, whatever the flavor de jure is comes where you see the fact that it creates this open standard, it doesn't magically make that technology performing. And we're seeing that repeat in waves and now I think people understand it's a balance. All right, we got to wrap. Give you the last word. The conference, so tonight you got another customer event, right? Half day tomorrow. Give us the summary of the event. Well, this event I think is built on what we've done before and really taken what separates this particular business from others, which is we're about making it real and very authentic as we connect and service our customers. We have pushed the envelope with some new announcements, whether taking advanced analytics, columnar databases to the next level, or the amazing, exciting announcement we made in applied machine learning, now with this offering called combinations. That I think the big takeaway there, if you check out our information, is it takes this topic of machine learning, putting intelligence in for the mainstream software developer. And I think that's the miss of the whole industry. Everybody's either doing, building a self landing rocket, or they're trapped in kind of the geeky side of the data science, which can be very compelling and is suitable for some solutions. But there's the other 90% of software developers that are just trying to make their app better. They're trying to get that new consumer mobile app out. They want to take their CRM application and create an advantage with it. And they just want to get a solution that's going to help them. I don't necessarily want to get a PhD in data science. Haven on demand and idle, those two franchises, which we coined this term applied machine learning, they're about pragmatism. And that separates us from, I think a far majority of the industry, we've got a lot of interest in that and that's worth checking out, because that's a big bet for us. Well, Jeff, thanks for coming on theCUBE. Thanks for having us here. This is, I can say, our fourth year in a row. You guys have been very supportive and also respectful of our editorial model. So we really appreciate that. You guys are an institution and you keep us on our heels and you never give us the free pass and we appreciate that. So thank you very much. All right, our pleasure. All right, keep it right there. We'll be back with our next guest. This is theCUBE. We're live from HPE's big data conference in Boston. Right back.


Following the motto of this conference, I would like to present how we have built a bridge between two projects on one shore of the river Dolia, the documentation management system of the Europe and on the other shore Ariadne, an European project ended in January 2017 and where Europe has been a partner. Before to start I would like to thank all the colleagues involved in this project and in particular Emmanuel Brias co-author of this contribution. Some context information, so the French National Institute for Preventive Archaeological Research in Europe was created in 2002 in application of the National Law on Preventive Archaeology according to the Balletta Convention. The Institute ensures that the attention and the study of archaeological remains concerned by construction projects in France and its overseas territory. It exploits and diffuses the results of its research to the scientific community and participates in teaching, cultural diffusion and public outreach. The Europe has today 2000 collaborators and researchers in 40 research centers. It manages more than 200 archaeological excavations and approximately 2,000 diagnostic operations by trial ranges per year. And for each operation the Institute produces an archaeological report. It means a huge amount of documentation. So as I just said the operation reproductions produced a considerable mass of documents, particularly since the development of digital technologies. It's a heterogeneous mass of documents different by the degree of elaboration of the message carried, expression vector, support of the technique implemented. And quite naturally the operation report imposed itself as a point of entry as an administrative document. Its content is set by law since 2004, it's a decree of 27 September 2004, as activity report which contains a series of seven regulatory inventories listing the stratigraphic units, the archaeological structures, furniture uncovered. The samples taken, the graphic, photographic, written paper or digital document produced. As a scientific document, so proposing a first interpretation as close as possible to the sources of the site unearthed and as a patrimonial document because it preserves the memory of the operation. In 2006 the Institute decided to collect, classify, inventory the old documentary collections. In addition to the books and the periodicals purchased, the main purpose is to take available the results of the archaeological operations carried out by the Institute. The aims was to set up a unique tool allowing at least the reporting, referencing and location of the documents kept by the institution. Several arguments prevailed in the choice of the IT solution. The catalogue had to be able to be fed and consulted simultaneously on different sites. A client service solution was so essential. The selected software would allow access to the electronic version of the document from the catalogue record. And the chosen solution should guarantee the interoperability of the data, in particular with the other documentary catalogs relating to archaeology. So we chose a proprietary integrated library system named Flora, respecting the international Unimark standard and making full text consultation possible. The Unimark format is a variant of the machine readable catalogue format, the format for the exchange of computerized bibliographic data from library catalogue. To unify the descriptions and facilitate the linking of the documents, it was decided to describe their content using a controlled and structured vocabulary. Each document in the catalogue is described using the pactles, the plates, subject, chronologies and people's micro-phesaurus of the pactles-phesaurus of the CNRS network frantic. This phesaurus, specialized in archaeology from prehistory to the industrial era, is multilingual, polyarchical, evolutionary, but above all standardized. It meets the standards for semantic interoperability, and in particular the ESO25-964 and above all the SCOS recommendation, the system knowledge organization standard. The use of phesaurus-controlled vocabulary instructed by semantic and hierarchical relationships to describe the content of the documents allows a unification to the descriptions and facilitates their connection. Indeed, the principle of a phesaurus is to avoid semantic ambiguities. It's used to describe the reports of archaeological operations conducted throughout the national territory, allows to connect discoveries made in different archaeological contexts. Through the alignment with other vocabularies, the data of the Europe could be put into perspective with those of the other institutions, in particular in your new European framework like the platform Ariadne. Nowadays, the reason and the management of the operational reports has offered a framework that makes it possible to consider the availability of all the documentation produced by excavations. The export of data in Ariadne and in the frantic catalog has proved the interoperability of Dalia's data. Ariadne is an EU-funded project aimed at integrating existing archaeological data infrastructures across Europe. So researchers can use the various distributed data sets and new technologies to explore new research methodologies. Ariadne was managed by a partnership joining the excellence of European archaeology and technology and opened to the collaboration of researchers, professionals and institutions from anywhere in Europe and abroad. Some figures about the Ariadne community, but I skip because of the time. The aim of the Ariadne infrastructure is above all the data sharing, mobilizing, integrating and making accessible the data. That means interoperability. So each partner brought their own data without changing the original format. The choice has been to do a mapping between each data set and a catalogue data model, the ACDM, Ariadne catalogue data model. In our case study, the French one, we did the mapping between the UNIMARC fields and the Dalia and the ACDM. This is an example. On the left side, the field name in the center of the UNIMARC code on the right side, the related field in the ACDM inherited from other standards as the doubling core or the digital catalogue terms. The choice done in the Ariadne project has been to investigate the data by using a three-principle question in archaeology. What? Where? When? To answer the first question, what? At the Europe, we did an allegment between our Phaesaurus, the Pactals, and the Phaesaurus chosen in the Ariadne project, the AAT of the Paul Gaiti Museum. The results were quite good, and as you can see in the table on almost 2,000 concepts, the 71% exact allegment and almost the 21% of the broader concept. The work has been done by using a simple spreadsheet, as you can see in the image, linked in a source term in French and a target term in English. These works allowed us to link all subjects with the data of other countries with a really useful multi-language approach. Here, you can see the extended results linked not only to the single term but to the occurrences in our database. The second question has been where? To answer to this question, we did a more complicated work because in our system and in Unimark, in Dolia, the special information was implemented in a textual way as an address. So we had to translate these addresses in couples of coordinates by using some app online, as those published online by the French National Institute of Geography. In this case, the results have been less accurate than for the subjects, of course. As you can see in the table, only 13% correspond to an exact point. The biggest part correspond to a centroid placed in the middle of a municipality. Furthermore, we should consider some trouble due to a wrong feeling of the Dolia form. As presented in this case, for example, a wrong postal code avoids an accurate geocoding. Anyway, if we consider the results at a different scale, it's the first time that the all-archeological operations of the INRAP, almost 30,000, can be displayed on a map. By using a leaflet, a web mapping library, we produced some IT map on the cluster map. Last question. One. In this case, the Alignement has been between the terms used in the Dolia, inherited from the part of the hours, and the online gazetteer period. We mapped 124 chronological concepts, covering the old French extensions, and we attribute a time span, a large time span, to cover the old nation for each period. In the Ariadne portal, it's so possible to search records by using the timeline graph that represents the occurrences in a graphical way. And for us, for example, we can compare two different regions of France looking at a glance the difference between them. At the end, the result is the publication of the old Dolia database in the Ariadne portal, and developed by the technical partners of Ariadne, as the Italian CNR, the German DAI, and the Swedish SMD. As you can see, all the data published are already ready to be linked to open data. Of course, each record is linked to the original source with an URI that allows to go directly... Sorry, to go directly... to the Dolia web page. Sorry. In conclusion, Dolia was originally designed as a traditional library catalogue allowing the references and location of the institutes document library. Very quickly, the growing number of digital documents and the advance of the web of data have necessitated the development of a digital library. Dolia, in a context of patting and wrap data into perspective with the archaeological data of other institutions, appears as a source of metadata to describe the general scientific framework of the operation. With the export of Dolia's data in Ariadne, we switch from a database focused on paper to a database focused on archaeological finds. Or rather, for documentary research, to a tool for information retrieval. Our perspective and our hope, of course, is to bring together all the projects developed at the time wrap as presented by our colleagues during this conference. For example, Christophe Tufferi about the experimentation of the CDOX-ERM on wrap databases to achieve the interoperability between different databases or, more on the experimentation of data and the construction of a web mapping, a special data infrastructure. Thanks to all those projects and the experience gained during the Ariadne project, we are now ready to make some step forward towards a unified system that should be able to manage the all data produced during the archaeological operations. The results should be an archaeological information system, AIS, open and shared online that would allow to a various audience the access to the all data. We personally think that is the only way to build a bridge towards the future and to manage and preserve the archaeological data of our institution. So, thank you for your attention.


Before you can figure out the number one sign, a man emotionally wants to invest in you, he emotionally wants you, you first have to determine, does the man have a short-term mating strategy or a long-term mating strategy because there's a big difference between the two. Men who have a long-term mating strategy are genuinely seeking a life partner. Somebody who can build a life with someone he could either live with or get married at some point, they actually have a longer strategy. Their strategy is for the long-term. However, these days, a significant percentage of men have a short-term mating strategy. Let's think of the word mating for a second. Mating is basically having sex. If we think about it, it's mate to make offspring. Now, for those of us in midlife, many of us don't want to have offspring. So that problem oftentimes is solved based on age and certainly birth control. But for those have a short-term mating strategy, this is the greatest challenge women face because to determine if he has a long-term mating strategy, you have to notice this one fundamental sign, which I'm going to talk about in a few moments. Now, before I do, though, I want to share with you a survey I did with our group just this morning. We had well over 11, 1200 people already respond, but I want to share with you this survey so you can get a sense of what I'm talking about with respects to a short-term mating strategy. So the survey asks the following question, ladies, what do you think men use dating apps for? What do you think men use dating apps for? And what was surprising is the first answer was meeting a life partner, which got 4% of the votes, only 4%. Next was simply hooking up. That got 55% of the votes. The next was testing the waters and casually dating. That garnered 20% of the votes. Next was they're lonely and they just want some cyber company. That represented 4%. And lastly, they're lonely and or wounded and they want temporary companionship. Temporary companionship. So, you know, it's interesting. I do occasionally follow those in the red pill community and the red pill community basically their assessment is, they basically claim that the real problem with relationships is the feminist movement add to that a selfish group of women seeking the cream of the crop type of man, the average woman seeming, seeking the cream of the top men and therefore going a lot of the lesser quality men. That's my interpretation of the red pill community. And this is a very loud community that blames women for our relationship problems here today. And I'm here to say, that's, well, okay. I wanna say, while there is some truth to that, some truth to that, the reality is is both men and women equally are too if we're gonna assess some sort of blame because there are a lot of emotionally wounded men out there especially for those men in midlife. And those know my claim that midlife is after baby making years and before retirement. So this significant percentage of men and women alike are wounded in the demographics that I speak to. So it has nothing to do with an entitled type of female personality. That's the problem with relationships. Maybe that's true for 20 year olds. I don't deal in the 20 year old population. Those that are in my demographics, those are the people that have gone through a divorce roughly 75% of singles here in the United States who are over 45 years of divorce. And by the way, did you know that the single, the population of America that's single is 125 million? Oh, I'm sorry, of people who are 18 years and older, 25, 125 million. In fact, I believe couples only represent, I mean, represent another 125 million give or take. So half of the adult population is single here in the United States. That's a very sad statistic to some degree. Now, not to suggest that marriage is the end all be all. And I know there's a lot of arguments against marriage in that it could be a servitude or a bond, you could be bonded to someone you don't want to be with. I get all that and I don't want to get into the particulars of that. But why I'm drawing attention to this, if the single population, if going back to the survey, if well over half of the men are only looking for hookups and another percent, over 25% of the men are deeply wounded, traumatized, incapable of relationship, that basically leaves roughly maybe 25% of the population actually seriously wants a relationship. This is why folks, I'm here. I scream at the top of my lungs so frequently that this dating is a process of vetting. You have to vet someone and so few of you actually know how to get to know another human being at a level that allows you to go deeper than the surface. This is why I recommend books like Are You the One for Me by Barbara DeAngelis. I highly recommend reading this book. And by the way, there's a link below to get to check out all the books I recommend. My recommended book reads is in the link in the description below. Also, let me also say that my job as a coach is to help you learn and develop the questions you should be asking based on your personality to determine is this person right for me? So if you need some help on that, schedule a free discovery call. It's the link below. It's the link right here to see if working with a coach is right for you because the reality is, is the mating dance is a dance of attraction. It's a dance of compatibility. It's a dance of emotional maturity and relationship skills. But most importantly, it's a dance of intentionality. Being intentional, those people that have a short-term mating strategy, the difference between them and the long-term mating strategy men and women is that they are intentional about the process. So before I share with you the number one sign he emotionally wants you, I wanna dive into a TV show I recently watched. It was on A&E back in 2014. I was watching it on Discovery Channel with my sweetheart and I the other night. It's called Love Prison. And I wanna set the stage for this because I see so many of you locked in this same problem that's happening today. What it is, is it's a group of couples who have been, they met through an online connection. They met through an online connection. They've been communicating for six months up to two years. They've been communicating, and basically they have been flirting and texting with each other every day. It's incessant communication for between six months to two years, okay? The premise of the show is they basically take these couples and say, hey, we're gonna give you an opportunity to meet one another, okay? And it's gonna be on an island off of Boston, Connecticut, something like that, somewhere in that general vicinity.   They are basically, they're trapped in this house for seven days. They're only allowed to go outside one hour a day for their, I guess, air time, if you will. And they're cooped up in this house.  This is an old rickety house. The mirror in the bathroom is about this big. The beds are bunk beds with the top bed, with a twin size bed and the bottom bunk with a full bed. And there's no television. There's no electronics. There is no music of any kind. They are basically stuck with each other for seven days. Now these are couples who have basically declared their love for each other. Oh my God, we're so amazing together. I can't wait to meet and build a life together. Only to find that when they're cooped up in this type of environment, at least in the four couples I've watched, three of them practically came to blows with one another. I mean, literally they were at a point of like, I don't ever wanna see you again. They spent years developing this cyber relationship. And I see so many of you doing the exact same thing. What's the other conclusion I came from this? What was fascinating was three of the, two of the three men of the four that I watched, two, one couple made it, okay? Three couples couldn't stand each other. Of the two of those three, two of the men were very intentional. They were asking very serious questions about a relationship. And the one that where the woman was doing that, the guy was kind of a jackass. Okay, why am I bringing this up? Is they were literally, they spent six months to two years not digging deep in asking the more important questions when it comes to a relationship with someone. They were so passive, so naive, so much on the surface. At the minute they met, it imploded. Now, the problem is, as I said earlier, we have a significant percentage of the population that is deeply, deeply wounded. We are, many couples are suffering from childhood wounds and traumas. Not when I say couples, I'm talking about individuals, they are suffering from childhood wounds or adult traumas that make them very damaged to actually, when I say the word damaged, I don't want to make it out to be Machiavellian in any way, I'm just saying they're wounded and their capacity to actually be in a significant relationship makes it very difficult for them. And this is true for women as well as men. Ladies, I wrote a book and I'm encouraging, this is not a dating book, the book is called What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway. It's a journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work. There's a link below to get a copy of my book. Why I'm encouraging this is many of you find yourself in relationships with men who are basically unintentionally using you. Now, certainly there are plenty of the narcissists out there and the other types of men who are genuinely using you, probably about 20% of the population, of the single population. Sadly, about 60% of the single population out there are unintentionally using you. These are men who want occasional companionship, occasional connection, occasional sex, but they don't have a capacity to go deeper into a relationship. This is why I repeat over and over the importance of vetting. It's a screening process, it's a filtering process. Dating is a vetting process.  And the number one sign, a man definitely wants to emotionally invest in you, that he emotionally wants you, is that he wants, and drum roll please, he wants to integrate you into his life. He wants to integrate you into his life. Integration looks like this, doing social activities together, doing hobbies together, mutual interests together, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in your personal and your professional life. You've noticed my sweetheart Marie, there's a picture of her right there. She's come on and she videos with me. That's an example of teamwork.  When a man want is intentional and he has a long-term mating strategy, he wants to integrate you into his life. So I remember as I said earlier, dating is a vetting process.  You know, romance in the early stages is the reason why many of you find yourself being used. I believe romance should be reserved for those couples who are in a relationship. Versus as a precursor to get into a relationship. And I know that doesn't sound very endearing in any way, but the reality is is today, we don't know when the person is love bombing you, when they're overly excited, when they're all excessive, you don't know if it's legitimate or not. Okay, there's an old saying. Men are the gas and women are the brakes. How do you curtail, how do you put the odds in your favor? First, it's what I talk about frequently. You start with radical honesty. Radical honesty means, look, in the very beginning, you ask those deeper questions to determine if you're on the same page with one another. These couples on this love prison show, they didn't ask any serious questions of one another. Now, mind you, this was a younger demographics, mostly 27, 30 year olds, there was a 39 year old, I think a 37 year old, okay? Certainly by the time you hit 30s, you should be asking deeper questions. And for those of us in midlife, and remember I said before, roughly 75% of singles over 45 years are divorced. I'm not sure if I said that actually, but I just want to clarify that. That's anecdotal by the way. Do you know divorce is an unraveling of the tapestry of one's old life and with it can come significant trauma? And many people after going through divorce, particularly men are absolutely gun shy. And so remember I said earlier, there are the wounded men that want temporary companionship. These are men that don't have a long-term mating strategy. They don't have a plan. And it is your job. Listen, you can do whatever you want. You want to sleep with someone on a first date, go ahead and do that. If you want to have a short-lived fling, go ahead and do that. That's okay, you can do whatever you want. But if you have a long-term mating strategy, like the clients who work with me, and I got to tell you, I just got a text message this morning from a client. She worked with me back in January. It's already May. And she's got a full-fledged boyfriend right now. I'm so, and by the way, she knows the difference because she vetted him. She doesn't have to second guess. So I'm here to say, if you want to make some significant changes in your life, check out the books I recommend. Check out my coaching if you need some support. But most importantly, this number one sign of he integrates you into his life tells you that this relationship has some possibilities. Now, does it mean it's going to go the long run? Not necessarily. Sometimes people integrate each other into their lives and it turns out to be a slow version of the love prison. Little by little by little, they start to deteriorate because the reality is, is most couples don't know the number one component for a healthy, happy relationship and that's conflict resolution skills. See, very few people like myself were ever taught this when I was younger. I invite you to read books like Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson or Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. All the links are below. These two books in particular talk significantly about the importance of conflict resolution. In fact, there's another book I want to recommend. This is about this guy, Doctor, excuse me, Pastor Calvin. He's on the show, married at first sight, but he wrote a book, Marriage Ain't for Punks. And I love his approach because he continually talks about conflict resolution as being one of the fundamental keys to a healthy, happy relationship. So you've got a guy who's integrated you in his life. If you want your relationship to flourish. And just like the video Marie and I did yesterday when we shared, we had a little bit of a glitch between the two of us. She got annoyed with me over something. She took ownership of her being annoyed and I took ownership to the extent that her perception was very valid. Now at the time I didn't really recognize it but I certainly took ownership of it once we got a chance to talk about it. But she chose a very loving way to approach the conflict. And again, when you can reach that point of integrating into each other's lives, it's so critically important that you learn and you both practice healthy conflict resolution. So your relationship doesn't implode at a later date just like these relationships did with these cyber relationships like on love prison that imploded literally within one week of meeting each other. And I wanna encourage everyone to ask deeper questions if you find yourself in a cyber relationship as well. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. Okay, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this. Post a comment below. If you're watching the replay, please hit that thumbs up button. Please hit that subscribe channel. Please share this video with your friends. And again, check out all the links to what I recommend as far as books and things like that. All right, for those who know my format, this is our time for Q&A. If you have a question, write the word question, then post the question there after. Or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. There's a little dollar signed in the chat box. All of the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chats goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of him right there in the obey shirt. It's my son who passed away almost five years ago. And in his honor, I donate to causes like the Hoffman Process Insight Institute and a new charity that was introduced to me by Marie's cousin who is helping underprivileged children who got abandoned by their parents who have in Columbia that have a terminal disease. I believe it's called the seeds of love. Now it just escapes me.  And in a lot of third world countries, this is a very frequent occurrence. And for those of you who have been blessed with abundance, I invite you all to support causes, whether it's through this venue or any other venue. All right, it's time to take questions. But first I wanna give props to our new member, Krista Rollin.  By the way, folks, if you wanna join the YouTube channel, you can just simply click the link below to join access to this channel. You get certain perks like badges and things like that as well, okay? All right, let's check out the comments. Wait one second. All right, question from Leslie. What about wounded men who are intentional and integrate but eventually freak out about commitment or find something to make them run? But then circle back later, how to vet for that? Okay, that's a great question. Okay, one of the things I do in my private coaching is give you kind of the cliff note version of how to vet someone. Now, first and foremost, you have to do what I call laying your cards on the table. This requires detective skills by sharing your past experiences with them, finding about their past experiences, including their childhood. And you have to learn detective skills to be able to weed out those people who are deeply wounded. A lot of information based on someone's childhood or their past relationships will give you clues. You know, it's interesting. I've spoken to women who have reached out to me after a breakup and they've been in a relationship with someone for six months, a year, two years, five years. And what's fascinating to me, I'd say 90% of the time they've always said to me, I knew something was off in the very beginning, but I went against my better judgment. See, here's the thing. If you're gonna screen and debt, then you have to be willing to cut someone loose if you believe that they're not capable of emotional maturity or you delay giving your heart to someone until you've thoroughly vetted them, folks. And there's no guarantee, I get it. There's no guarantee. But by the way, the reason why women get used by these men who are only hooking up is because they acquiesce to some, you know, minor romantic gestures without doing any vetting. You can literally eliminate 80% of your frustration with dating by doing a better job vetting early on. So some of the key questions relate to his upbringing and most importantly, his past relationships. Does that help? I hope that does. All right, let's keep going. All right, Wanda writes, question. Why do you have chemistry with the wrong guys but not the good ones? How can I change this? That's a great question. Okay, there's a couple of schools of thought on this. First and foremost, we oftentimes attract, at least this is my philosophy. Let me just put it that way. We oftentimes are attracted to partners that are similar to one or both of our parents in the way that they emotionally damaged us.   If you had an emotionally unavailable father, he was there present, but he wasn't very loving. That could deeply affect you, okay? I'm using some examples. Now there's the psychological, but there's also the chemical reaction we have to certain people as well. So let's put that chemical in a box and go back to psychological. I invite you to read the book, Getting the Love You Want by Harbell Hendricks Helen Hunt. Why I recommend this book, it will talk to you about something called the amago, the amago, I-M-A-G-O. Can someone put that down there and put Harbell Hendricks and Helen Hunt? Okay, why it's critically important to understand this is that when we choose people like our parents, it's oftentimes our soul or our spirit, in my opinion, seeking to heal our relationship with our parents by actually stepping into our power, our sovereignty, our self-worth, our self-esteem, self-love. The reason why there are repetitive examples of people who choose the wrong partner is because they're trying to heal from a childhood wound or trauma. When I say trying, their subconscious is trying to heal that. That's my impression anyway. That's what I've observed frequently. Now there could be some biological reasons as I shared earlier, but for the most part, I believe when we've healed our childhood wounds and traumas, we no longer choose the wrong person. Yeah, it's interesting. Marie and I, we've talked about this a number of times. We talked about timing. We thought about why is it that we met and it worked for us so easily? Well, it's because we did so much work prior and we also reached a point where we were no longer trying to find perfect. We just wanted perfect for us. So we healed a lot of our childhood wounds and traumas. We settled down. We didn't settle, but we settled down from perfection. And by coming to terms with that settling down and healing our past, we just gravitated to each other very easily. So that's just my two cents on that, Wanda. I hope that helped. All right, let's keep going here. And Dawn said, me too, Wanda, great question. Nancy wants to follow up and say, trust your gut. Trust your gut, okay? All right, let's keep going here. Wanda also says this is totally is messed up and sex isn't even on the table. But when you have, that gets it on the chemistry. But you have to have what, but you have to have that. Let's get it on the chemistry. Okay, got it. Rebecca says he has a group called for $7 a month. You don't have to do this in his private coaching. Exactly, if you want some support, check out my group for, it's called Midlife Love Mastery. This gives you direct access to me on a regular basis. And I shoot videos for those in the group to answer questions from members. Okay, Zengal writes, question. My guy 76 has his daughter involved in his financial affairs. Is this a red flag? I don't take the idea of marriage with his daughter involved in our finances. Well, I'm gonna assume that his daughter is in his 40s. So you're not dealing with a 20 or 30 year old, you're dealing with a grown adult, okay? Now my father who's 97, I'm in charge of his finances, okay? And at some point when my parents were probably in their late 70s, and you mentioned the guy is 76, I became the executor of their trust. And I did handle some of my parents affairs. I would say at age, you know, rough, by the way, given that the average lifespan is 79 years old. I want you to think about this. The average lifespan is 79 years old. 76 is only three years away. Listen, my son, like, and by the way, in these days for the older demographic, they don't know how to navigate. We need these devices to navigate so much of our lives, including our banking and such. So with respects to his daughter, well, remember I shared earlier the integration of lives with one another? Well, that's a big part of it. So I would, and by the way, the second leading cause for divorce is money. In fact, it's chapter four in the book, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. Will she be involved? Most likely, but then he has his, all right, what's his is his, right? So he's certainly entitled to have his daughter manage what's his, and you have what's yours.  I think it's very fair that his daughter handled that. Now, if someone has a difference of opinion, please post a comment. I'd like to hear that, but that's just my perception on that quickly on that. All right, let's keep going here. Oh, Elena wanted to write down, remember earlier I said Amago by Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt. Thank you so much for sharing that. Okay, let's keep going here. Oh, I want to give Roller Girl a big shout out. Thanks so much for the $1.99 Super Sticker for the Connor Asley Fund. I really appreciate that. Oh, let's keep going here. Oh, if we have a question, Rebecca says hashtag ask good questions. I need questions if we're gonna have a dialogue. All right, here we go. Oh, thanks Karina for the $6 Super Sticker question. What are some warning signs a guy just wants sex or casual playing and not a serious relationship? Okay, great question. Okay, first probably the easiest warning sign is he pushes for sex on the first date. Second, he might love bomb you. Love bombing is excessive, excessive exaggeration about affection towards you and keep in mind most likely when you're meeting total strangers, when it's excessive, that usually has an ulterior motive. They either wanna use you in some way or they want sex from you. Okay, couple other things. They deflect the idea of a serious relationship. Anyone who says I'm not looking for a serious relationship that's code for I don't want a serious relationship, okay? The scary part are the men who say they want a relationship, okay? And why is that scary? You would think that would be great. Jonathan, I'd like to have men say they want a relationship. All right, that is the most dangerous and tricky thing men can say these days is I want a relationship. Why is that dangerous and tricky? Because you don't know if they're a user but the users actually the guys that are in it for sex you can smell that a mile away, okay? Usually, okay?  These are the men that will use you, okay? When I mean by use you is they're really not emotionally healthy enough to be in a significant relationship. And they say the exact same thing a grower and builder is a man who genuinely has a long-term mating strategy. The difference between the two. When a spender says I want a relationship he doesn't back it up. When a grower and builder does he backs it up because when you ask them what does a relationship look like what does commitment look like for you? And you start probing deeper with the spenders they fold, they collapse, they say I like to take things slow.  But let me just tell you what taking it slow means.  In fact, let's say you went shoe shopping at Nordstrom's and you happen to know that Nordstrom's has a return policy. You can return anything for up to a year. You could have worn these shoes. You could have worn holes in the shoes and they still will take them back. See, that's what taking it slow is. You're not buying the shoes and fully well, you're actually buying the shoes but you know you can return it at any time. That's what taking it slow means. I can get all the benefits of all your love and then I can decide it doesn't work for me. Okay, coming back to relationship the most dangerous thing men say I need to do a specific video on this. Actually, I did the other day. Shoot, I can't remember the title of that video. I'll look it up real quick. But what I want to say is when a man says I'm not looking for anything serious, that's a user when a man is a love bombing you when he's basically initiating sex that's a guy who's going to use you. It's the guys who say they want a relationship. Those are the ones you have to vet. You have to be a detective to determine is he a grower or a builder or that wounded guy that has terrible relationship skills that has weak emotional maturity. Is that sinking in? I hope it does. Again, thank you so much for that question, Cory and I really appreciate it. I hope that helped. Leif just has a personal question. How's your dad doing? My dad will turn 98 this July. He broke his hip the other day. And it turns out he had surgery and he was walking two days later. It was a minor break, a fracture, but still he had surgery and he was walking two days later. They say he's got the heart and temperament of a ox, I guess. So thanks for asking that question. Question, we're not committed, more just friends. He keeps reconnecting with his toxic ex. The toxicity rolls over by him, disrespectful to me by jumping when she barks. Should I give up or walk away? Well, how much time have you invested in this person?  Notice the problem. It isn't gonna change. It's been over three months or longer. You've at least physically been in each other's presence 10 times, okay? Now, I'm stipulating this because Barbara, there's a good chance I'm gonna take a guess. You're in a cyber relationship with them. I'm just taking a guess here. Now I take this guess because I find so many women say they're friends with someone, not committed. All they have is a texting relationship with this person.  Ladies, have any of you experienced this before? Men who basically dump on you and they're used, believe it or not, you think you're feeling intimacy with them when you're actually just his therapist. I see this over and over again. This is why, that's why I'm so great. I'm so blessed to have clients that change their patterning. They operate in a different way when it comes to relationships. And they are seeking, they're experiencing much deeper connection. One of our loyal followers, Wijin on here, has just gotten married. And she says it was because of all that, the content I share with you, which I really am what I'm trying to impress upon you, is the importance to stand in your sovereignty, your self-worth, your self-esteem, your self-love and don't accept bad behavior. And what it sounds like to me is in this particular case, you're his friend because he can vent with you. And my guess is it's through texting and or telephone calls and it's not a significant relationship. Anyways, Barbara, that's just my perception on that one. Zengal wants to add, I'm in regard marriage. Why get married? I'm 64, he's 76. Well, you were asking about his financials, so you don't have to get married. So why does it matter that his daughter takes care of his finances? Okay. Oh. Leaf wants to tell Barbara, run, run, run. He is disrespectfully testing you to see what you'll put up with and how desperate you are. The longer you stay, the worse the inevitable ending will be. Leaf is dead on. All right, Nancy posted. First time ever on a dating app. Preferred not to post photo publicly, but will send privately upon request. Question, why is my sending a smile solicited rude remarks? Well, my only, well, certainly it depends on who you're sending it to. I'm assuming it's only happened a few times. If you told me it happened a hundred times, in other words, you sent your photograph to a hundred different men and they all of them had rude remarks, then there might be a problem with the photograph. I'm gonna say that could be the problem.  I don't know your sampling, so I'm just gonna say it's probably the exception and not the rule. But I'm not a big fan of people who don't have their photographs posted because, well, let me think about this for a second.  I never really liked communicating with the women who didn't have photographs. Why? Because when they sent their photographs and I wasn't feeling a connection with their photograph, I didn't like letting them down. I hated that. So I just didn't engage with people who didn't have a photograph, Nanny. So that's just my thoughts on that one, okay? All right, Dawn writes, what about May, December romances? Possible, not good. All right, so May, December, for those who don't know, it's older women, younger men. Okay, it depends on the age difference. Marie's a year older than me. So not that it's a true May, December, but I guess it's December, November. Here's the problem. If a man is in his 20s and 30s and the woman is in her 40s, a lot of men that are in their 20s and 30s are attracted to women in their 40s because women in their 40s are less likely to get pregnant, number one. Number two, they're mostly more emotionally mature than women their own age. And number three, they have a built-in exit clause. When they've used this person up, I'm not saying all the time, but this can happen. When they've gotten their fill with this person, they have, and then it doesn't go, and it's no longer beneficial to him for whatever reason, he has a built-in exit clause. I've decided I wanted to have children. And now he probably says he doesn't want to have children. You might already have children, okay? And he goes, oh, I just don't want to have children. And then when he wants to break up with you, it's because all of a sudden, magically, he's decided to want to have children. So that's the risk you take with someone who's older, excuse me, who's younger than you. But why do men choose it? Is because, A, lots of great sex and usually you don't have to worry about pregnancy and B, they're more emotionally mature than women their own age. All right, thanks so much. Oh, Karina wants to say thank you for answering my question. I really appreciate that. All right, Susan says, thank you, Jonathan. I was just pondering this exact same thing yesterday. Well, thank you so much. I appreciate that. Descent, dissonant, let's see. I'm more interested in finding someone who's compatible and healthy with boundaries than chasing a relationship with whoever has the misfortune of stumbling on my path. Well, thank you for sharing that. We appreciate it. All right, if you have a question, write the word question and post the question thereafter. Okay, Don writes the question. What do you, oh, we already said that. Okay, I already answered that. Bum, bum, bum, bum, bum, let's keep going. By the way, if you're finding value in my content, please hit that thumbs up. Please hit that like button. Please share this video with your friends. Dana says, I'm currently going through this with my newly divorced boss.  He doesn't ask me anything about my thoughts and seems teaching me politics. Okay, newly divorced boss. You know, when you're in a work environment where somebody is superior to you, I don't know if you have a human resources department, but if it's becoming like, you have to be careful because when someone goes through a divorce, a lot of men seek out female energy because women have a greater capacity for compassion, understanding and listening. So men seek out female energy and a lot of women are attracted to the male energy. They're attracted to that man who's confiding in them. But I just want you to know that's not intimacy. In fact, it's a form of artificial intimacy. So, but if it's such that it's becoming toxic towards you, I would talk to your human resources department, your controller, whomever is an authority above your boss. And this is a really tricky thing because if you're in a small company, you might just want to practice neutrality or disengaging. Look up the word neutrality, but neutrality in the human development realm is being neutral when someone's communicating to you. And I wouldn't overly engage with the person. I would hyper focus on your work and then I would do my best to depart from engaging in conversation with them. Find reasons to disengage. That's just my two cents on that. I'm not a human resource expert, but that's just my thought on that with someone you work with, okay? All right, Patricia writes, question. What do you think about dating someone who has never been married and isn't very mature in relationships? Okay, so I'm gonna tell you a little story. This is one of my dear friends who we hung out together in our 20s and 20s, but most of my group of friends, we met women, we followed the program. We met, we went to college, got a job, met a girl, got married, bought a house, started a family, okay? But our friend Craig didn't. And at 45 years old, he was still single, never been married, okay?  And so I'm mentioning that when the women got there, there were three women. And I'm mentioning my friend, Craig has never been married and what came out of the women's mouths floored me after that. They said, I would rather date a man who's been married and divorced who cheated on his wife than be with a man who's never been married. And I thought, what? So by the way, my friend Craig met someone, got married a couple of years after this party and he now has two children and we're the same age, okay? Okay, my thoughts on people have been never gotten married, okay? There could be a valid reason. Maybe they had a traumatic childhood. Maybe they had been hurt deeply in their past relationships. Does that mean they're not capable of getting married? Not necessarily, does that make them bad people? No, it doesn't make them bad people. But I will say this, anyone who's been divorced doesn't have a good track record either. Anybody who's been divorced or has had more, had several relationships didn't work out. They don't have any better track record either. So just because they, and by the way, think about this, men who have gotten married once before are less likely to get married after a divorce. Their desire to get remarried drops by 50%. So coming back to your original question, it's not a guarantee of relationship success. So now, if they're very immature in relationships, well, and isn't very mature in relationships, that's because they haven't been taught how to be in relationship, and that's a frequent occurrence. I recognize that, okay? So with that said, that's just my two cents on that one. Okay, great question. Thank you so much. Zengal goes on to say, question in general, why get married as older adults? This is the tricky one, because I'm in a relationship with someone I care for deeply. We've talked about the idea of getting married. We're not in a rush to do that. But there are some financial benefits, not necessarily the tax benefits of it, but there's certainly not financial, but there's certainly benefits from the perspective of being there, each other's, what's the word I'm looking for when you're in the hospital, they have the authority over you. I can't think of that term, but nonetheless, but at the same time, a lot of second and third marriages fail at a greater rate. The real question is, are you building a partnership with one another? So to me, and I mentioned this before about integrating into each other's lives, that to me is the most important thing, whether it's moving in together, living together apart or getting married, I wouldn't focus on the why. What I would focus mostly on, what are you two trying to create? What are you trying to create in a relationship? One of my favorite books, which isn't necessarily a relationship book, but it's a business book. Where is it? It's called the partnership charter, how to start outright with a new business partnership. Okay, why I'm bringing up this book is, it's a business book, but it's all about how to create a great partnership with a business associate. And one of the things that's most important is the concept of mutual exchange. So we used to think of this as roles, gender roles in relationship. A man brings in the money and the woman takes care of the home. But for those of us in midlife, that's not necessarily the same vantage point you're entering into a relationship. So I like to think of it like a business partnership. And it's assessing your strengths. This is what Marie and I have done. We assess each, we basically assessed our strengths. I happen to be strong in some areas of our relationship and she happens to be stronger in other areas. She's an experienced traveler. So she takes care of all the travel plans. She handles all the inconveniences of it and everything. I happen to be a little bit more of the driver of the bus from the emotional side of the relationship. I initiate our monthly, what I call camps, which is our group therapy meets pajama party meets cocktail party. When I say group therapy, I meant to say therapy. Well, we do it with a group as well once every three months or four months. We do a version of group therapy meets pajama party meets cocktail party. And then Marie and I do this every month and it's designed to assess our relationship and unpack what might be ways to improve our relationship. And we talk about the deeper things that are on our mind in this relationship. We do this every month. We do it every morning when we have coffee. Every morning when we have coffee, we unpack things within our lives. We spend, and I'm the one who initiates this. That happens to be my strength because this is what I do for a living and she happens to have other strengths. So anyways, that's just my two cents on that one. I hope that helps. By the way, I've got scratchy nose. Okay, question, should trust be my default setting until they give me something to think otherwise or should I be weary until they've earned my trust? Oh, I love, love, love this question. Okay, first off, what is trust? You have to really determine what is trust. Well, trust is, you know, to some degree about fidelity. Okay, do I trust that this person is being honest with me? Do I trust this person is not, you know, using me? Do I trust this person isn't sleeping with other women? There's the fidelity piece. But I think trust is more about, does this person have my best interest at heart? Does this person care about my feelings as much as I care about my own feelings? Well, that's not something that you can happen on a first, second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, 10th date. It takes about a hundred hours of face to face time just to build the first layer of trust. Okay, the first layer of trust. So trust is built. What I do suggest though, is don't operate from a place of distrust. Okay, if you're operating right from the very first date from a place of distrust, you're setting yourself up for failure. So to me, I believe it's kind of like everyone's innocent until proven guilty. At the same time, trust is built over time. Now, one of the things I talk about in my private coaching is really the fundamental areas that need to be addressed to build trust in the relationship. See, many of you are operating on some fantasy software that if we just love each other, all the magic fairy dust will make our relationship work out. You also are driven on the fantasy that chemistry equals relationship success because so few of you actually do the necessary asking questions to determine, do we share the same values? Are our lifestyles blendable? And more importantly, is this person emotionally mature enough to be in a healthy, happy relationship? How is trust built? Well, it's interesting.  When a man wants to integrate you into his life, that means he trusts you. He trusts you. He feels safe with you. So what does it feel like to be in a relationship of trust? It feels calm. It feels calm. That's when you know you can trust someone. You're not feeling agitated. You're not feeling anxiety. You feel a level of calm. Kelly, I hope that answered your question and please let me know if it did, okay? Thank you, that was a great question. All right, let's keep going here. Oh, leaf goes on to add, trust should be earned. I wish my parents and teachers that taught me this give little bits of the time, see how it goes over a long period of time. Again, in my opinion, trust is built, okay? But don't operate from a place of distrust, okay? Question from Debbie. I'm in a relationship with a younger man. He says he doesn't want a relationship but I don't understand him. But I feel like I need someone more permanent in my life and I'm only imagining his intent, love real. Not really understanding your question, Debbie, but hey, he's a younger guy. He says he doesn't want a relationship. So the question is, what do you want, okay?  Well, wouldn't it make sense to choose someone who wants the same things you want? Has nothing to do with his age. I mean, it could. But my invitation for you is to choose someone who wants the same thing with you. And I'm being a little rhetorical only because folks, sometimes I scream at my top of my lungs because, okay, I want to share something that happened this past week. And I was with Marie and her primas and anyone who speaks Spanish knows what primas mean. Now, what's interesting when these ladies get together, they are like screaming at each other when they communicate. And they, by the way, they talk over each other all the time. That's called passion. But what's interesting is Marie was telling me the story about one of her primas who was encouraging her to end a relationship with the one significant relationship she had before me. And she would tell me that her cousin would scream at her to end this relationship. Now, I recognize that screaming isn't necessarily the best tool and folks, I yell frequently in my videos. But I yell because I'm passionate about the wakeup call to shake you all up to start making better choices for yourself. So when you see me go on a rant, when you hear me scream, it's because I'm passionate about it just like these primas communicating with one another. So I just wanted to share that. All right, wow. All right, Zengal, I'm just gonna wrap up, I think, with this one. I'm having a wonderful time with my long distance guy. He drives five hours each Thursday to see me. We will be traveling and then going about to a 17-day music festival. Well, that's awesome. All right. Um, Debbie Stage, let me see. Let's see, someone named Debbie Stage. Oh, we already answered that question. All right, folks, you know what? I wanna come back to the number one sign he emotionally wants you. Folks, when a man wants to integrate you in his life, that's a great sign. He wants something serious with you. Now, does that mean he's capable of something deeper? No, things can trigger us. People who haven't done the inner work oftentimes can be easily triggered and want to end a relationship. That happens. But it's less likely to happen when someone integrates you in his life and that's a great sign. He wants to progress something forward versus having a short-term fling with you. Like many who seem many, many, many men have a short-term mating strategy and I'm here to help those who have a long-term mating strategy. And if you get, again, if you need some support with that, check out the links to a free discovery call, check out my group, check out my Instagram. You can check out all my other free goodies in the description. All right, I hope you found value in this video. If you did, please write a comment below. Please purchase a super thanks or a super sticker when you come back to some of my other live streams. I hope you did find value. I'm grateful to be able to share this with everyone and I wanna thank everyone that's been on. But first off, I'm gonna end this video as I always do.  I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear or a pillow and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Leif, who's one of our members. I wanna thank Zengal and Elena and Kelly and Rebecca and Jennifer and Debbie and Patricia and Dawn and Dana, Dissonant. I think Kelly, I think I've said everyone. Thanks so much. Have a great evening. Be well, bye now.


How's it going everybody? DatoDoy here with another Dragon Ball FighterZ video and in this video we are going to be taking a look at a brand new scan revolving around the last character for Dragon Ball FighterZ season 2, that being Dragon Ball Super Broly. Now in this scan we actually get a couple pieces of new information, a few high quality screenshots we've already seen, a better look at Broly's overall render, and then a little bit of repeated information. After we cover the scan we'll also be going over when I think we'll be able to see the trailer for Dragon Ball Super Broly, and then after that a loose prediction on when we can expect his release. Before we dive deeper into any of that though, let's just go ahead and start with the scan. You can see here we get a full page of Broly news and a couple of pictures to go along with it. The one on the top left we actually have seen before in its high quality version, so I'll just go ahead and put that up on the screen now. I believe this is going to be from his intro, or at least I hope it is, it definitely looks like an intro shot to me. If it's not though, it'll definitely be in some form of a cinematic, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. It definitely looks like that kind of shot that you'll either see in a super move or at the very beginning of a match. Moving on from that we also get a better look at Broly's overall render. I won't stick on this too long as it is a minor point, but I felt the need to bring it up because a surprising amount of people from my experience at least really didn't like the Gojita render for whatever reason. I'll go ahead and throw that up on screen now. I thought it looked fine, but a lot of people said it looked really weird, even people I know, so I don't know. This looks like a return to form to me. It is stylized in a different way from the beginning renders for sure, but this one looks a little more toned down than Gojita. You can let me know down below in the comments if you were one of the people that had a problem with Gojita's render and whether or not Broly solved that problem for you. The thing that I think we can all agree looks pretty good though is Broly's level 3 or the giant mouth beam where he blows off all his armor in his transformed Super Saiyan state and lets a huge mouth beam go. Now we know from older scans that after this you keep that upper body form without the armor, but you do lose the hair color. I think that has been confirmed now. I'm not entirely sure, but I do think that after this level 3 you always power down, but you do keep that transformed upper body state. And of course in addition to that you also get an attack damage boost, but that is probably going to be very minimal. Think of boosts like when GT Goku's level 1 gets a little stronger when there's only 2 characters left on your team as opposed to 3. You know something like that where it is useful, but probably not going to be busted anyway. And now that we've covered his level 3 we can move on to all of the new stuff the scan shows us. And we're going to go ahead and start with these 2 panels over here, covering Broly's command grab. From my understanding both of these shots are from Broly's command grab, which looks awesome by the way. I don't know what order it's going in, I don't know if he chucks them up and slams them down or slams them down and then chucks them up. To be perfectly honest with you I am fine with either, but I do really love that they're both a part of the animation. This is a big thing to see because they said they wanted Broly to have some throws with him. I don't know if they're only going to make sure he has the one or if they give him another throw option to go with, but I hope throws are a big part of Broly's game. I think that would be awesome. Another big part of Broly that I want to see is some super armor in some way or some form. I mean this is Broly, the other Broly we got in the game is already the super armor king. I would like to see maybe a little less, but at least some for Broly down here. And while I don't know if it has any armor I definitely like what I'm seeing in this new move down here. I believe this is the same move he used in the movie to clash with Goku and Vegeta's beam. So I definitely hope that has some beam invincibility to it, that would be awesome to see. But just in general the move looks really slick and really clean. That about covers every bit of information we got in the scan itself. Of course another thing we can tell from this that I think we've been able to tell for a long time is that Dragon Ball Super Broly will most likely suffer from fuzzies in this game as well. You can see here that it looks like he's beating up on Gojita and Gojita is a character that gets fuzzied. And just comparing their sizes Broly looks like he might be, I don't know, 8 feet taller than this man or something. But he will definitely suffer from that high low mix up syndrome. And he's really going to have to find some other ways to make up for it if he's gonna land a spot on people's team. Of course I don't think Broly's gonna have to really worry about that. He'll probably be on a lot of teams just with style alone. Alright but moving away from the scans completely now let's talk about when I expect we can see the trailer for Dragon Ball Super Broly. And that I believe is going to be on November 10th during the World Tour event in Spain. If you take a look at the Sunday schedule that Bandai Namco Esports Twitter put out you can see at the very end they had their grand finals and of course what really draws the eye is that special announcement memo that is listed right below there. This is not something you see a lot for Dragon Ball Fighters. You don't see a special announcement after a World Tour event unless it's something like EVO or something like that. Usually tournaments do not have announcements with them. So I suspect along with these grand finals you can expect to see a Broly trailer almost for sure unless they want to do a big confirmation like you're gonna want to stay tuned for the World Tour Finals or they make an announcement about World Tour Finals. I would say that the Broly trailer is a relatively safe bet but even if we don't see it here I do think we will see it very soon as I would also like to predict that Broly's release date will be sometime during this month maybe a little more late than early I can predict somewhere like maybe the late 20s, 22nd, 24th, 25th, something like that. Regardless that does put Broly's release in the timeframe of sometime this month and if not then it'll have to be very early December because like I mentioned in a few of the past videos on this DLC character time is just running out in general for Season 2 of Dragon Ball Fighter the World Tour Finals will most likely be sometime in January and they're going to want every character playable at an event so they're going to want to give the pros as much time as possible to learn that character decide if they want to play them or at least learn how to defend against that character and things like that. So just in general I suspect we're going to be wrapping up Season 2 here relatively quickly and moving on to whatever they want to announce next at the World Tour Final but those are just my thoughts on that I do want to stress that nothing has been confirmed including what that special announcement is but rest assured I will be watching the entire Dragon Ball Fighter's World Tour event as I usually do and I will be reporting back to you guys on what that announcement is just in case you guys can't catch the stream I do recommend you watch it though these have been top tier entertainment for a while now with that I'm going to go ahead and get out of here but let me know your thoughts on Dragon Ball Super Broly down below in the comments are you liking what you're seeing are you hoping Broly's trailer is on that special announcement or just what are you hoping to hear for Dragon Ball Fighter's moving forward While you're down there though make sure to leave a like and subscribe to the channel if you enjoy these videos and hey maybe check out another one of the videos on your screen right now if they catch your eye I've been Dr. DeRio though thank you for watching to the end and I will see you in the next one