So I'm Alexis Neely and you might know me as Ali Shanti and I'm here today with my friend George Cowell and We're here having this conversation because there's been a lot of dialogue in the online world about business models and what is really the best business model for each person and how do we choose that business model and You know George and I had a conversation some time ago because I Noticed that the business model that George has chosen Was one that oftentimes calls to me and I'll see him posting about how he left the internet marketing world and he gave up promoting his programs and courses just you know to work with people one-on-one and It's something that I've been resistant to myself I've invested so much time and energy and attention and building my business models online and Then ultimately even building a program to help people choose the right business model for them and yet as I built these big teams I noticed this draw to do what George has done and let it all go and just work with people one-on-one and so I wanted to have a conversation with George because Really I wanted to explore that and what led into his decision to leave the world of online marketing or you know leverage and Selling you know online programs and courses and instead give of his time in this one-to-one way really as a way of Helping me to get more clear on Whether that might be something that I wanted to do and I really respect George He and I have done work together over the years and I've just seen that the way that George serves his community is really heartfelt and I Specifically didn't use the word heart centered because I think that that word has gotten watered down and Doesn't really mean a lot anymore But but I feel George's heart. So I say heartfelt and I'm really excited to be here with you George having this conversation That we can share with more people who might be in this inquiry for themselves about how do I choose the right income model for me? How do I know if I should invest in the program that's gonna teach me how to do a product launch and should I create a course and you know really what is my next level and I think that this is a great space for us to have a an open and honest conversation that can help a lot of people who are considering going down the path that we have and We've chosen different things and Also, maybe I can help to give me more clarity on What I'm continuing to choose and maybe give you more clarity on what you're continuing to choose. Absolutely. Yeah. Thank you That was great so I am excited about this conversation because Ali you and I like you mentioned we've known each other for years. We first got to Working together because I was in the internet marketing world of joint ventures Doing big webinars selling big ticket Programs, you know two thousand dollars a piece, you know, where people didn't even have one-to-one access to me $2,000 they had some group access and Then I so admired you and I still do because you have been so successful in that world You've built a successful You've built you have more businesses and I think I understand but you have a successful business in law and You have a successful business teaching lawyers How to build their practice and succeed there and then you have had a successful business teaching business owners How to relate to the legal piece in their business whether they should incorporate and why and all that good stuff And then you went and developed a whole program that was successful called the money map, right? And you help people discover what the different models were for sharing their gifts online and how to relate to the money piece of it and I've seen you over the years Become more of a spiritual leader, I might say to your community anyway Even though it's not your product or your service I feel like you are a It is it's spiritual leadership into into a way of authenticity Is what I would is what I felt is like how do we become more radically? Aligned with what what the what the heart really wants to express through our business so I kind of saw that more and more from you and Recently we reconnected because I saw a posting that you had made on Facebook about how you are writing a new book about money in the context of what is enough and You're creating a program around that and interestingly I saw it because I was visiting James Altichur's profile and he's a He's a blogger and podcaster. I think that we both admire. I really like his podcast and You attacked him he had liked your post You had also tagged several people including Charles Eisen Einstein you mentioned him and Lynn twist and these are both people I admire for their You might say radical way of thinking about money in this world But I think it's radical only because the way that we do it right now. I think it's pretty screwed up the way that the economy is Designed really designed or it keeps funneling Money more more and more money and more power to the people at the top And leaving a lot of people Including many of the people that that we know our clients and our colleagues and sometimes ourselves as well lacking because Community you know the sense of community has Largely disappeared unless we create our own and I know that you've been Quite effective at creating your own community and network And I think that that is partly that I think that's part of this conversation too is in order for us to be able to Thrive in a new economy, which is what the term you've been using in a new economy. I think it requires us to Be especially cognizant about how we are building community again In a way that even though we don't live with each other in a village. We don't we don't live in neighborhood together. How can we? Really diligently and actively Maintain and deepen these bonds that we have Virtually you and I have never met in person. How can we do this in a way that we can truly be supportive of each other and We can build a an ecosystem where No, you know Spiritual entrepreneur you might say gets left behind Yeah, you know so anyway I kind of want to preface that with with this idea of community Yeah, well, I love that about our last conversation and I'd love to Explore that a little bit more because one of the things that you had said is you you know as you've gone into doing more of this One-on-one work with people You also wonder how we can Still come together to support each other and I'd love to just give people some insight into the way That it has happened in the past. Yes, the thing that that you stopped doing You know participating in these big joint venture launches and these big like partnership networks and Because in a way you might say that those are communities of people who are coming together To support each other Bringing their programs and products out to the world but I think probably what you might have noticed There and wanted to pull away from and consciously pulled away from and something that I personally have also struggled with and Might be why my work isn't more out in the world is That what I've seen with those communities is that they First of all, they're they're exclusive. Yeah They're very exclusive. You can like only get into them if you have a certain list size, right? Yeah, and then the the way that the community exists that's been painful to me personally is That it's really based on this competition mentality Right, and if you get into the back end of these joint venture launches What you'll see is that the way that the the joint venture partners are incentivized Email their list and to support the launch is by setting up these competitions Among the partners and I will be honest I have gotten pulled into those sure and my competition self has gotten Activated in a way that I would email my list more because I wanted to win or I wanted to be on the leaderboard Yes, yes, and ultimately I began to recognize that that was actually painful me The part of me that was activated Mm-hmm participating in those launches wasn't the part of me that I love the most It wasn't the part of me that I feel Where I feel my heart the most where I was really making a choice about whether to send an email or not. Yeah done Do I really think that this thing is the best thing out there in the world? Or do I just want to win this competition and so I pulled away from it But it's hurt my business Yes, right to do it, you know in many ways and I and you changed your whole business model You said okay. Well, I'm gonna serve people one-on-one. I'm not gonna I'm not even gonna participate in this more anymore I have not I kept my business model Serving people with my courses and programs and products and we can talk more about why we each, you know chose that Yeah, I'd love to hear what your experience has been with these kinds of communities Why that didn't work for you and what you would prefer to say? Yeah, so great I'm you said you it described that world so well It's very masculine very it's almost like you can imagine sports teams or You know sort of everyone's showing off their muscles or something like that, you know Their muscles being their list and their ability to write copy that converts so It's Yeah, and I'm thinking you know back to the masculine It's kind of like people have list envy like what you have a hundred thousand people on your list and oh your conversion rate is this You know and I think why what no longer worked for me about it was the I think myopic focus on certain numbers It was list size it was can you know how much you sold and that's pretty much it To the exclusion of Was your like you said what your audience truly served by this do you really believe in it in other words to the exclusion of the heart To the exclusion of the heart of service and also the authentic Endorsement from our from our intrinsic motivation instead of the extrinsic motivation so I and Also You couldn't the other thing is you can't be part of that community unless you're essentially scratching each other's back It's like well, you know Ali. I'm only gonna promote you if you promote me war No matter if my thing is right for your audience or not Maybe your thing is right for my audience, but you got to promote me regardless, you know, and if that and so I Could no longer Tolerate promoting things to my audience that I felt were basically taking their money and Not really giving the average buyer What the hype was promising I Think that was the key the there along this journey, there have been a couple of Models that have been that have been people that have been Have shocked me by their sincerity In the way they do their business and I would say by the way you said it's hurt your business And I would say it's only hurt your business Maybe in one way which is maybe some of the numbers but in another way you might say that it's helped Your business maybe for the longer term in that you are drawing More of the people to you that you actually want to be with long-term In terms of clients customers and partners Right and maybe right now in the short term the business numbers are not as great But if we are able to look at the long game I do believe that we'll look back and say that was the right choice Or that was the choice that I'm so glad that I made Even though it was scary at the time But one of the models I want to bring up and I also want to hear about the models of the people that kind of inspired you along the way One of the folks is Leo Babalta Zen habits net I remember reading One of there's several of his postings which if I can find it all included in the notes of this of this episode one of the Posts he wrote was Basically giving advice on how he was able to to do so well in his business. I mean he has over a million Readers of his blog regularly Subscribers probably in the hundreds of thousands in terms of email. He lives in San Francisco supports a family of six and He barely sells on his blog He does sell don't do launches every now and then but his his his words in his contact are very much aligned and he Says basically Shockingly to me Don't worry about SEO Like ignores ignore social media ignore SEO Do what is right for the audience for your audience? Does it help your reader make all your decisions based on that question? When when I read that I was still in the JB world and I was shocked by that I'm like, how is This guy able to create such a successful business with that kind of with that kind of mandate and Eventually and I am starting to see that to be honest. I mean Ali I feel like I just started my business over again in the past year or two From scratch and I feel like my audience. I'm it's like I'm developing relationships with a new group of people There were some from the from my old life My old business life that I've now seen my transformation and are interested in participating, but I feel like I'm really creating a new tribe and I have Never before seen this kind of loyalty From my audience before and I feel like it's an intrinsically motivated loyalty They're not trying to get to me and and try to get me to promote them or something like that It's a wow. I really connect with you in your heart I believe in what you're doing and that's why I'm supporting you Yeah, but what what have you? What have you seen in the transformation in your transformation in terms of how you're relating to your audience. Have you seen Any difference there? Yeah Yeah, I Biggest challenge for me George has been my In congruence Yeah, and What what I what I notice And this does come back to really knowing Knowing your audience like you're saying but that starts with knowing yourself And as I've gone through my own personal transformation. I haven't always known myself. I've been Torn between these two worlds of Alexis Neely and Ali Shanti and it's only been really recently I would say in the past year that I have felt an Integration between these two parts of me that are allowing A sense of congruence so when I'm speaking to my audience Sometimes I'm speaking really clearly about the heart Sometimes I'm still speaking a lot about money. Yeah, and I got an email message Recently which I shared with you the last time we talked from a man who is on my email list and he said Please unsubscribe me I don't feel your heart in these emails. These emails are all about money and freedom being the path to Success and I don't believe that is the path to success and I want to hear from Ali Who you know, I believe knows that love and truth are the path to success And I want you to show us a model where we can just give everything away for free And we don't need to charge for anything and we can trust that we're going to have what we need and this email was the perfect reflection of my own internal In congruence on these issues. Hmm. I agree with him in so many ways Yeah I want to live in a world where we can all just give our gifts for free and trust that we're going to receive Everything that we need back in return but we don't live in that world right now and The part the Alexis Neely part of me knows that I would be leading people or at least feels that I would be leading people astray if I were to say Hey, just give everything that you have away for free and don't charge for your services And if I wasn't showing people ways That they can give their gifts and ask for what they need back in return Yeah, that is actually truly what they need and so you know this idea of Speak to your audience and always only write to your audience Right begins Really with you truly knowing who is that audience? Who are you to begin with? You know like really knowing yourself deeply and Then coming from the most congruent place that you can in each moment That's really been my biggest challenge is that I have an internal conflict. Yeah, I'm wrestling with yeah, I'm not hiding it You know, I'm not like well I'm gonna hide this internal conflict and I've resolved it one of the things that I longed for 10 15 years ago Was I wanted to see people in process and not just after they've become successful I wanted to see like what was it like when they were, you know still figuring things out and so I share that and For some people and I guess I just have to trust that the people who don't respond well to that aren't my people but I think that the more congruent you can get with the truth of who you are and then speak from that place The more you are going to find that audience and so I I guess the question that I have for you, George is Who is your audience? You know you say that you've you've gotten into this clarity around this new tribe that you're creating and One of the first things that of course we teach whenever we're teaching someone to build their business is Know who you're serving right? It's the hardest thing for most people because we want to serve the world Yeah, you know when I was doing a state planning like I serve everybody because everybody needs a state planning But the truth is is when I went through Michael Port's programs way back when and I got really clear that no I'm gonna serve families with young children And I was willing to make the commitment to that and build a business around serving families with young children Even though all the other lawyers said Alexis don't do that You're gonna starve families with young children don't want to do a state planning. They don't want to think about that They don't want to pay for it, but I knew as a mom. Yes, they do You just haven't been talking to them in the right way and I went for it. That's when my business exploded So this is the right question to ask. Yeah, who is your audience? Yes, and I'm curious for you George what you've discovered in this kind of rebuilding of your business and discovering this new tribe Who is your audience?  What's what stage are there at are they at that you can best help them? What is it that they are? Well in conflict with in their own hearts right and Not even I feel like I used to I used to think that my audience was a particular Well, it's either women or men or people of a particular gender particular age range rather And I feel like my new audience is not it's confusing to me I and I think in part Ali is I am not quite sure who my new audience is yet You know because I feel like I just started my business over again after five six years like new business Same kind of stuff. I'm talking about but talking about in the new with it with a new heart And essentially with a new therefore with and I'm talking with a new heart. I'm connecting with With it with it from a different place and so I'm connecting with new people I do I do notice that I think maybe it's because we're in this political season right now that My audience tends to Connect with certain, you know political values And we can kind of connect there or maybe it's the love of animals or and at the same time They really love and I'm so glad that Facebook now has this like love, you know different reactions to our posts They love When I talk about the things that we're talking about here Yeah, and so I'm getting a sense that that is my audience and and I think that that encourages me to keep talking about it Not shy away from it You know and so on this question of business model Yeah, on this question of could we give everything away and still be taken care of I am now experimenting I Don't know if you saw my thread on this yet in wisdom printers, but I'm experimenting with patreon I am now moving all my client billing over to patreon in a radical move You know it's still early. I don't know if it's gonna pan out. You know, we'll have to check in on this experiment in six months Thus far I've gotten about a thousand dollars moved a month moved over to patreon and Which is interesting because it's more money than most people are making on patreon But my the idea for those of you who don't know patreon is a platform where content creators can Ask their audience can be supported financially by their audience So if you saw a youtube a youtube video creator, you know, maybe this sort of the the Traditional way of thinking about patreon is this person, you know sing songs on youtube. You love it so much You want to support their next song because they're a poor musician and they said, okay I've set up my patreon page. Please go and support me there Maybe you can chip in $2 per song that I upload or the other model on patreon is a monthly support And the monthly support is what I'm using right so because I work with clients on a month to month basis And you know certain number of sessions per month that kind of thing so I Told I actually took the I was proactive in cancelling my clock my current clients PayPal subscriptions Without asking them first. I should cancel their PayPal subscriptions and I said, please do me a favor Click this link instead and let's move our billing over there So the ones I canceled actually did move over there I had some clients that have already paid me lump sum so those are not reflected on my monthly amount, but it's it's very interesting that There's some Amazing clarity. I'm getting from wow. I'm making a thousand dollars a month recurring and my clients, you know I'm still serving them the same way just the billing is different, but The the framing of the the money is different too. It's not it's now framed as I'm Financially supporting George at a certain level and on patreon There is you can set up reward rewards for certain levels Like if you chip in seventy five dollars a month you get access to this you chip in 350 a month you get access to that and so it's like oh, I'm now supporting George financially because the way my patreon pages is Framed is that I'm creating free courses to help people build their authentic business So that's my mission on my patreon pages. I'm giving away all my content away for free That's my commitment to them and if they want to support me they support me But really the majority of the money has been from my clients I've just moved the building over there, but I'm starting to see people support me because they want to even though They don't get any of the reward levels. So my Experiment in hope is that this will work and I think that if this works Maybe it'll work for Others who want to pursue this path to that could we Eventually I want the money my money mainly to be from people who just love my content and wanted to want to chip in I mean in the meantime, I think the compromise the middle solution is well I'm still mainly making money doing the one-to-one service But the dream of course just like the email you mentioned is could we eventually just be sharing our brilliant gifts? I mean Ali, I think if you had a patreon page, I would pledge You know because I think you're I think you're your spirit and The way that you want to transform the world is amazing, right? And I imagine there's others who Love your your your message who love who you are and would love to do that as well, right? That's a that's an experiment. I'm always experimenting and and I'm just interested to see where it goes from here So what I'm what I'm hearing is that even though you left the online world where you were you didn't leave the online world Obviously here we are online And we reconnected on Facebook So you are in the online world But you left this world of internet marketing hardcore sales joint venture partnerships And transitioned into serving people on a one-to-one basis What you really would like is a reality where you are creating Consistent content that can serve more people than you can serve one-to-one. Yes, you do want that Yeah, so so similar to what you're So you're you're also wishing to Have a positive impact on more people's lives because you believe in your message and the same thing with me is that that's what I want as Well, I think when it comes to content, there's I mean, I guess there's kind of three things that I know I need to work on one, of course is the quality of the message itself So the efficacy of the tools processes, etc. Second one is the well the production value or the entertainment value of the message And the third one is really the distribution relationships That that's I think part of the ecosystem idea that I'm talking about is if we can form an Ecosystem of people who believe in each other then it's much easier for our message to spread and help the people that it needs to help Right, and I feel like I have a long way to go in in all three of these areas No, and I feel like I'm just starting again Wow and But I think that if if we all work on these things for ourselves We have a message that's out there. That's really helping people That's easy to consume because it's it's good production value or it's entertaining and it's being distributed to us from people we trust Okay, because maybe it's someone else we hadn't heard of and now now we get to we get that message from someone we trust and if everyone is kind of Getting their lives benefit in this way And they are supporting and that's why I talk about reciprocal gratitude, you know I mean that there's sustainable generosity and then there's reciprocal gratitude. I think about it this way like sustainable generosity is We are recording this video. We're hoping that it'll help many people But we don't have to have the same conversation with a thousand people We can have this conversation once, right? I think that's sustainable generosity, right? And reciprocal gratitude is if the person who is watching and listening Truly benefits from it and feels an overflow in their heart and saying gosh I want this overflow to benefit the people that I've just received the benefit from And they know that okay, they can go support you Ali. They can go support me At whatever level is Comfortable for them Then truly everybody wins They win They win because they receive the generosity from us But they win also because they get to give back. It doesn't just it's like a river that gets to go somewhere Yeah, for that heart to go and then the world wins because of this model of um mutual support Yeah, that's kind of my dream and It's gonna take us a while. I think to get there Well, this is this is one step closer and and here's what I want to identify because What you identified about the efficacy of the message The production value and then the community supporting each other You might look at these preeminent marketers Yeah, the brennan brashards the ebb and peg and police the sasvitches the jeff walkers You guys have seen them all in your inboxes, right? And you might say that the reason they are the preeminent Because they have mastered Yeah, those three things. Yeah the efficacy of their message They've mastered the production value. They all have really good production value and they have created this network among themselves to Um promote each other But there's a reason that both you and I I haven't fully opted out. I want to I want to say that I haven't fully opted out I still do promote the things that feel really congruent. Yes With where I am if I personally benefited from it If I really do believe that my audience is going to benefit from it And if the affiliate commission is sufficient for me to be willing to email my list Um, because we have a business that does uh rely on making, you know, a certain amount of money for each time We send out an email you have a team. I have a team. I have a big team to support, right? So it's not just you know me. It's it's this whole team that i'm supporting Um, but there's something about That version of it. Yeah that had you opt out and not want to Play in that sandbox anymore. Yeah, and i'm curious What specifically? Yeah, it was. Yeah that you see is addressed or could be addressed By what you're talking about here with sustainable generosity and reciprocal gratitude. Yeah I think that there is something that will get us closer to the world. We want to live in so great What a great question. Um Yeah, I I think you're right that identifying the fact that The big inner marketers do have efficacy of message Um production value and the community of distribution distributing their messages and products The thing I think maybe there's a fourth one. I realize I'm not sure if it's really part of efficacy or if it's fourth one, which is The efficacy The impact of their message on the world for the longer term The effect that their tools have on the The holistic nature of the world and kind of where society needs to go that was what's missing for me And that's what is missing for me. Whenever I Sometimes I mean My job like part of my job is I have to keep learning about marketing right for the sake of my clients Yeah, and it's hard. It's funny because it's hard for me to I can almost sometimes not stomach reading yet another blog post that is so profit driven Listening to another podcast. That's all about building our list Yeah, because that's that that piece of I don't even know how we can call it. It's almost um the Well, we could say the heart Heart intention Is missing is missing, you know, and I want to listen to podcasts or I want to read blog posts where Essentially, I mean I mean when I read it from you, for example, I feel the heart there And so therefore it's much easier for me to learn That that's the piece that I want to bring So maybe that and I feel like maybe the the three things I talked about working on are the things I feel like I need to work on because I think that the piece of the heart intention Has been so transformed for me that that is where It's much easier for me to bring that now And I think that's much and that heart intention is what is so come so easily to a lot of the people in our audience Like you said, you know the spiritual entrepreneurs They just want to give everything away from a pure heart intention but they haven't instituted systematized A way of doing business that is going to support them financially And I think you know what I'll have to say this I think a lot of heart entrepreneurs spiritual entrepreneurs They do need to work on the efficacy of their of their tools and their message They need to work on their production value and they need to work on their community of support And all of that though takes financial resource to do Yeah, you know what what what I'm what I'm finding is that You know a lot of the people that I work with don't have a lot of money And and it is oftentimes because they are coming so much from their hearts and they do just want to give it all away And they don't necessarily have the ability to ask for what they need Because they've been so much in this mindset of just well, let's just give it all away And maybe not always valuing their time appropriately, right And I only know these things by the way because As I made this transformation myself into My own heart. I noticed how It's almost in a way that I rejected the money piece for some time And What I and it's really the same message that this that this man gave me in the email You know, it was like the pendulum swing away from Well, we need to reject money In order to live love and truth and what I'm seeing as I integrate into my own being Is that it's not a rejection. We don't want to reject anything that in fact as we evolve our consciousness We want to transcend and include as ken wilber says in the integral studies. We want to we want to utilize money For its right purpose put money in its right place Yes, it's been, you know, so much of of my work is discovering. Well, what is its right place? and what I'm discovering for myself is that Its right place is as a fuel Fuel our creative dreams and our heart projects rather than being a compass Telling us where to go and I think what you are helping me to identify right now Is that part of why I think that you pulled out of that industry and part of what has had me be like Uh, is that money is the compass? Right driving these communities and what you and I are both wanting to see more of Is how can we allow money to be the tool the fuel? That fuels the engine But isn't the compass telling us where to go or how to make our choices? Um that instead we're allowing our hearts to lead and allowing money and the mind to support the mission of the heart All right, that's beautiful. And now I'd love to hear an example if you if you can think of one whether it's something that you've recently had to decide on Money being not no longer, you know no longer being a compass being a tool Has there been a situation In your business right now that you've had to make that decision or can you imagine? That decision Yeah, it's happening every day actually as I enter into this Inquiry about whether to work with people one on one again as an example Yeah, um before when I was making my decisions based on money with money as my compass It was a much easier analysis for me to say well, I'll just you know choose the business model that will make me the most money Right, which is which is actually what we're continually every day being inundated with from The blogs we read from the corporate media Is that that is supposed to be the compass profit for business right right? and so as I have um Shifted my orientation from money as the compass to money as the fuel It's had to become this reorientation inside of me where I am first Have to be really clear about the life that I want How much time do I have? for Work for earning money um and for Bringing my message into the world, but none of that can happen until I'm first engaged in the self-care That I need to engage in to support myself Which by the way that you know 15 years ago. I think I hired my first coach. I was uh earning a six figure income as an associate in a law firm Dream job and yet I was you know, it's like 27 years old success, you know, and I was miserable and I remember being really confused. I went to law school. I graduated first in my class I got the job at the best law firm in the country and making the six-figure paycheck bought a house Have a baby. I'm married. How could I be miserable? What is wrong with me? Yeah, the american dream. I'm living it. Yeah, and I hired this coach Even though back then coaching was really weird and the voice in my head was like You don't need no stinking coach. You're You graduated first in your class from georgetown. What's this coach going to be able to tell you and I was like, well That you're not happy. So you know, give this a shot and the very first thing that she had me focused on when we were coaching She's like When's the last time you went to the dentist? When's the last time you got your hair cut? When's the last time you got a massage?  Yeah And now she's talking to me about pedicures and massages And I was really angry and I was like, okay I am this is not what I'm paying you for.  It doesn't matter what you're doing You're simply not going to be happy and Once I actually started doing that. I started working out and I went to the dentist and got my first pedicure I'd never actually had a pedicure before I found That this creative channel opened up inside of me that ultimately led to me starting my omap practice That had never been on my horizon before I couldn't even see any of that Because the truth was is I I wasn't needing my needs for self-care I wasn't my inner self was actually not taken care of and and so as I go into the inquiry of Should I work with clients one-on-one which you know, by the way when I when I do work with clients one-on-one You know, they pay me a lot of money To do that It has to start and it is it's continuously starting not with this question of how much money I can make but this question of What really fits into my life? And how does it feel for me to do that? and What I notice is that I'm doing a lot of one-on-one work with people for free You know funds and yeah things like that because it feels good. I I really do like working with people one-on-one. It's it's super rewarding um What I also notice though is that when I charge for it and I feel the obligation Yes to deliver in a certain way. It's yeah specific times. It actually doesn't feel good to me Interesting. I start feeling resentful that I have to show up at a specific time in a certain way I start to feel them being like is this really valuable and I'm testing my value and Because they are paying me so much because my my money map number Which is the amount of money that I need to receive for each hour that I'm getting paid to deliver a service Just based on what my companies need for me is really high But I start to feel this feeling of like oh god. I got to really deliver. Oh god I start taking personal responsibility for their results in a way that doesn't feel good And that's what has me not wanting to Serve in the one-on-one In that's fascinating. Yeah, and I think it's Yeah, it's it's really having me inquire about that dynamic Right now I've got um I could say three types of client relationships The first type is the traditional they pay me upfront Either lump sum or monthly and we have a set number of sessions over the over the course of a year great You know everyone understands that model the second model is the Complete reverse which is the people that I support for free Because they're my loyal fans and they ask me questions on facebook Like they comment on one of my videos saying oh, george. What a great video. I love this so much But what do you think about this? I mean, how does that work? Right and I out of an outpouring of wow, they're they like my video. They're engaged with my content and they have further questions And we we all know that you know, well, we all should know that questions from our loyal audience are like gold because it tells us It's a signal. I believe from the universe Through the market for what we should be Creating and focusing on more of so I'm very happy to support them there. That's free And just do it in a sustainable way You know, I think that's that's key and then now I'm experimenting with third relationship Which is deferred payment coaching is what I call it and it's where I'm very clear with the people I'm working with in this way My fee Percession is actually double The fee for what people would pay if they were prepaying for coaching But they don't there's deferred payment coaching clients. They don't pay that fee Until their business is at a level that supports them fully And and then they're able to make that payment without financial hardship. Wow Ali it has been a I have been having a blast with these clients I love it. You're really invested in them Totally invested and also I make them go through a very lengthy application Well, it's just in filling out a form online, but it's It's one person after filling out.  Yeah, that's that's a little bit of a exaggeration But I have them in the application think through What are your income? What is your current income? What are your expenses? How much would you need to make in order to be able to pay for coaching? What is your idea right now just based on before our coaching? What is your strategy right now for making that much and all that stuff? So that they have to think through things and then and then I tell them also that We don't have a set number of sessions We only meet when you need to meet when you have made real progress based on what we talked about last time And so they're really They're really valuing of my time I'm really valuing of that precious session because we may or may not have another session And it's great. Everyone it seems to be now we're I'm just starting so I don't know if people are going to pay me yet That's far They've been so appreciative that they're saying I I'm gonna and and I see them making Interestingly more progress in one session after one session that my prepaid clients are in first second even third session You are giving me a huge idea here. I I love this I really love it because I do get you know people who message me they're like Well, let me pay you after I'm successful But I've had this feeling of Knowing that there have been times when I wouldn't have been successful if I didn't have money on the line I wouldn't have pushed through my resistance if I didn't have money on the line And so that's been a bit of a challenge for me and well, okay How can I how can I make that work? And one of the things that I one of the things that I do is I train money map masters And so these are people who are trained in the money map process To take other people through the money map process since I'm not doing it one on one And people do really need to go through it one on one often And in order to become a trained money map master, you need to make a big payment upfront $5,000 is what it was last time And I've noticed that I want to be able to train money map masters Who don't necessarily have that $5,000 up front And I've been thinking about how how could I do this in a way that has Then be able to pay upon success right in a way that's also sustainable for the business because There is a lot of giving of my time of our resources My one concern Is that if they don't have money on the line That when the resistance comes up, they won't push through it And I saw this with one of the money map masters that I have in the program now She might be one of the most resistant people that I've ever met and if she watches this she'll be able to identify herself And at each juncture where I have seen her say I want to quit I have coached her Through the resistance To keep moving forward Recognizing that everything that she's going through that has her want to quit and give up is what she's going to be supporting her clients with And I'm curious if she would have pushed through the resistance Yes, if she wasn't financially invested and what we could Create as a replica of that Yeah If not, you know, because we want them to have the intrinsic motivation that you're talking about And not be an extrinsic not reinforce this idea of having to have extrinsic motivation So how can we create this? Sustainable generosity. Yeah with the reciprocal gratitude that you're talking about and ensure that people keep showing up Through the resistance, even if they don't have money on the line Yeah, that's it. That's the question yeah the idea that came to me as you were as you were asking this is Well, one is a deadline For when they would pay that money back um one of my clients uh Really dislikes the word deadline and she replaces it with lifeline And I think that that's so appropriate because it is it is a lifeline to pull them into a higher life, right? So Deadline is one. It's like, okay the second one is I think there needs to be a serious application process Yeah, it's not just anybody can sign up and pay later But they have to go through a long application Not not long for its own sake but really detailed having them think through Whether am I the right am I the right fit for this kind of deferred payment situation? And why am I the right fit and what what am I willing to give? Yeah, and what am I going to do when I'm stuck and when that resistance comes up I mean have them answer that question right and maybe there's interviews or whatever but Because I mean your your money map masters program is Higher price than it's kind of my deferred payment. So I think there needs to be a more serious application and third I think that um There is something strange. I've noticed when people pay money for for a program It's like their brain says I've just completed something. I've accomplished something Mm-hmm. And sometimes it means They actually have less motivation To do the stuff because they're like, oh, I bought the program Yeah, you know and so like did I Then I have to keep telling the clients just because you bought the program doesn't mean that you did the program Yeah So so so I've noticed with my deferred payment clients. It's kind of the opposite dynamic Which is that they haven't paid the money, but they know they need to pay the money And so they're gonna work hard. I feel like they're working harder to make sure they they can pay the money back Well, here's what I feel that you're doing George and I feel like you're doing it In a way that I hope is going to pull people into their higher selves and um One of the things that I once heard Lisa sassovich say that was really has really stuck with me She said when people are looking to get out of something They're going to find all the reasons to make you wrong And you don't want to set that dynamic up with your clients where they're looking for reasons to make you wrong or um and and And when she said that The way that I internalized it Is that I I took that um to mean That when people pay me they are often going And their resistance comes up. They're often going to find reasons to make me wrong To maybe you know, they get scared and they Are in a money crisis moment and they want to get a refund or something like that I don't want to set up that dynamic and I I had a private coaching client I worked with about a year ago And she said to me she said oh, yeah All of my students have to go through this process of wanting to kill the teacher kill the guru and uh, and and she just knows that that's going to happen But I I would like to shift that dynamic And and and I think that what you are offering here is the potentiality To shift that dynamic and that if you set it up right from the beginning like you're saying with a really good application process Where you're really believing in their work And you actually want to partner with them because that's what I get is you're partnering with them You you are becoming their partner in their business Um, and you preemptively address the potentiality for resistance for them wanting to kill you You know metaphorically Um, and for them wanting to sabotage so they don't have to pay the money And I think that's one big risk that you have to look for You don't know yet what's going to happen But one big risk I want you to look for ahead of time and mitigate Is the potentiality that as they get closer to success And having to pay you yeah Some of their old behaviors might come in That if you pre proactively and preemptively address those behaviors Call them out bring them from shadow into light That you can head that off at the pass And really that's something that a good partner would do anyway Right And so I'll just you know suggest that maybe you can incorporate that into the model And I I do notice that we are uh at the top of the hour and I wanted to keep this an hour I want to keep this series going. I think that this is Um, I hope it's really valuable for people who are in this conversation in their own heads To be able to hear us talking about it Yeah, we've got we've got some answers not not all of them. We're we're still in And I think even the answers are experimental That's right That's right and you know george's His model is more one-on-one. He wants to find a way to offer his content in The sustainable generosity reciprocal gratitude model that he's laid out I'm not doing any one-on-one. Everything I do is big group programs Memberships coaching selling products that range from $500 now up to you know, let's say 2,500 for a product. Although I did just create my first $47 product, which I'm excited about see how that goes I've never sold low-priced products. So we'll see how that goes. Um, and I'm I'm curious to see how over this series we influence each other perhaps come More towards each other and find a sustainable way to give our joint gifts in the world We each have our gifts in a way that can allow more people to have efficacy of message Recognize that maybe you don't really need the high production value. I mean here we are with zero Product I'm in my bedroom. Yeah in his office. Yeah, uh, and um, and then ultimately be able to build a community of heartfelt people Who do know how to ask for what they need in exchange for what they have to give in a really clean way That doesn't just put profit first, but does understand that money is a fuel. Yeah For our creative teams and our heart projects. I am so looking forward to this This has been such a rich hour I think I'm going to be listening to this again myself so that I can Let let the inquiry Swin around and bring me bring my Way of doing business to a to a higher level. Like you said Transcend and include Yes Great. Well, we'll be back again With another one of these no production value conversations But hopefully lots of really great Inquiry for you content to help you choose ultimately the right income model for your life and and and Do the very best you can to um Make the right choices not because you were sold something Right, um, that's not right for you But because you truly know yourself and the life that you want to live and the way that you want to deliver your worth in the world Yeah, beautiful. Thank you George. This is so great and I look forward to next time sounds good


In 2020, it was reported that Harry Styles had forked out about 4 million pounds on a third home in the celebrity enclave of Hampstead in London, right next to an 8 million pound property he bought in 2019. All of this has led us to believe Harry is creating his own mini-compound or mega mansion in London as he will likely carry out more renovations and combine the properties. While working across the pond in LA, Harry has also been living in a Hollywood house with his boo Olivia Wilde. While filming, Harry has been staying at a humble yet charming abode in Laurel Canyon and it didn't take long for Olivia to move in with him. Today, we'll check out a few of the spots that Harry calls home. Also, Michael and I have dropped our own house tour of our new home that we moved into this year so go ahead and subscribe to our personal channel if you want to see where we're living and more of what we're up to. In these videos, we don't reveal any addresses even though I've done a house tour of my own place. Please do not show up at any private residences because it's not safe for anyone. Harry Styles is a singer, songwriter and actor who hails from the UK and rose to fame as a member of the boy band One Direction. His music career began in 2010 on the series The X Factor, where he was chosen to join One Direction and went on to become one of the best-selling boy bands out there. Harry's solo music career has also been super successful, debuting his first album in 2017 which came out on top at number one with more hit singles and albums to follow. At the time of this recording, Harry's amassed himself a net worth about 80 million dollars which will likely only keep climbing. While he's buying up real estate in the UK, Harry bought his first property there where he was only 18, spending almost 3 million pounds. Then in 2019, he added on to his portfolio, singing a five bedroom Georgian style mansion across the road and more recently purchased an early 18th century villa for over 4 million pounds. Hey everyone, I'm Cara the Vampire Slayer here for you with another exclusive house to our infamous entertainment. While we reported on Harry Styles' homes back in the day, it was time for an update because he's been purchasing and living in some amazing spots from London to Hollywood and even New York City. If you haven't already, be sure to subscribe and ring that bell for notifications because we post brand new videos daily. As always, you can follow me on Instagram to chat and now let's get into this video. Before we get into Harry's compound in the UK, I know you fans of Harry and Olivia Wilde want to see where they've been living as a couple. Since the beginning of this year, the pair has been heating up and their relationship seems to be getting serious pretty fast. Around Valentine's Day, Olivia was spotted moving her suitcases from the LA home she shared with her ex-husband to where Harry has been living in Hollywood. If you're wondering, Harry has had a temporary pad to call home in LA this year which is surprisingly humble. While filming Don't Worry Darling, the upcoming film which Olivia actually directed and the set on which the couple met, Harry has been living at the Hollywood Hills abode of his manager and friend Jeff Azoff who allegedly lent him the home. Azoff purchased the home in 2014 and it's located in the upscale Laurel Canyon neighborhood of the Hollywood Hills, so Harry and Olivia are close enough to their work. It costs about $1.3 million and sits on a 6,336-square-foot lock. Charming abode is tucked away behind private gates and inside, and boasts three bedrooms and two baths. While it isn't a sprawling mansion, the house is an oasis surrounded by peaceful greenery. The mid-century home that Harry and Olivia are shacking up at was built in 1952 and has been updated since. According to LA property records, it's only changed hands three times in 30 years without ever actually hitting the market. The home which spans 1,378 square feet of space offers many friend stores that open up to the pool and hot tub area which is probably the feature of the property. Beautiful windows and skylights are among some of the other bonuses around the house. The combination kitchen and dining area seems to be pretty basic with limited living and eating space but it should be enough for the couple. The home is not what you would expect from the usual luxurious celebrity-style properties, especially considering Harry spent multi-millions of dollars on his own real estate across the pond. However, the backyard in the Laurel Canyon house is an oasis of fun and relaxation offering a flat yard, swimming pool and hot tub. There are also some lounging areas out back furnished with comfy seating whether you want a tan or unwind with a book. Regardless of its size, I think the house Harry's staying at is cute and charming. Now let's head across the pond and see what Harry's doing in the UK. Last year, the pop star spent 4 million pounds on the third home in the posh enclave of Hampstead, London next door to one of his other homes. Hampstead is an affluent residential community long-loved by academics, artists and celebrities alike. Hampstead Heath has meadows, woodland and swimming ponds, as well as gorgeous city views from Parliament Hill. With Harry buying up real estate here, it sparked speculation that he may follow in the footsteps of his buddy Ed Sheeran who's built his own little village in Suffolk and we think Harry may be creating one large compound as his London base. In two years, Harry had spent a whopping 12 million pounds on two homes, another one which he acquired next door to the latest back in 2019 for 8 million. However, he bought his first digs in the area when he was only 18 for about 3 million pounds. So let's take a look at what we know about the first house he bought on the street. Back in 2012, Harry snagged his first London bachelor pad which he still owns and back then they called it Harry's party palace.  The star spent a few million pounds for the large home located in the north London area of Hampstead Heath which we now know he's staying put at. Harry's first London property clocks in at 2300 square feet and has four beds and three baths which are spread across three floors. In 2019, Harry splurged even further with the purchase of an 8 million pound Georgian style mansion located across the road from the first home which he bought outright. The boat is much bigger boasting five bedrooms and plenty of space throughout. Listing photos depicted the property looking slightly outdated in terms of interior design with Liberace inspired furnishings and a homely vibe. Harry's Georgian property fronts a white stucco design and the previous owners decorated much of the interior in a faux Regency style with a ton of chandeliers and similar dramatic details. The grand sitting room offers floor to ceiling windows and leads into the large dining room. You'll also see the curved staircase which takes you to all of the first floor bedrooms in the home. Other features of the house include a home movie theater, a games room in the basement and a large garage with additional private parking outside. Finally, Harry's most recent purchase is a neighboring home an early 18th century villa which wasn't listed in the open market. We do know it set him back about 4.1 million pounds. Harry has carried out plenty of renovations within his London homes even adding his own private pub called Harry's Bar to the first property. The neighboring properties he now owns were once one big mansion before being separated into two semi-detached homes so it's possible that Harry may be planning to combine and restore them to their former glory. The pop stars rumored to have moved to this secluded street as it's a private road not accessible to the public and in the past he had issues with a stalker that targeted his former abode in London. His surroundings here are fancy, an area with Hamstead Heath and the historical Kenwood House nearby. The area also features some of London's oldest pubs with the Spaniards Inn and the Flask which is situated in a great two-listed building in Highgate. Let's not forget Harry owns some other real estate across the pond in New York City. A few years back in 2017 it was reported that Harry quietly bought a penthouse at a celebrity-loved Greenwich Street building in the heart of Manhattan. This upscale building is in the Tribeca neighborhood and celebs like Justin Timberlake and Jessica Beale, Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds as well as Jennifer Lawrence also own apartments there. Harry bought this place for around $8.35 million and it has three bedrooms, 3.5 bathrooms and spans just under 3,000 square feet of space. The building offers a ton of great features aside from the views of NYC, like a gorgeous pool and extra security and privacy away from the paparazzi. From listing photos we can see Harry's penthouse both finishes like exposed beams and aged brass fixtures which are super trendy. So after taking a look at Harry Styles updated real estate portfolio I think I'll bring this house to an end. We saw what he's been doing at his home base in London and I'm sure soon enough we'll report back with news that he's created his own mega mansion in Hampstead with his multiple properties there. We even saw the humble abode he's shacking up with his girlfriend Olivia Wildat in Hollywood which is cute but on the small size. At least that place has a gorgeous backyard and pool because what else do you really need in LA? What do you think Harry has planned for his mansions in the UK? If you were redesigning a mega mansion or compounds as I should call it what features would be must house? I wouldn't need an indoor pool because with a home that big why not? Be sure to let me know down in the comments. Thanks for watching, don't forget to follow me on Instagram and I will see you all next time. Bye!


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Hey Psych2Goers, welcome back to our channel. Did you know that your ongoing support is what helps us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone? Well, it's true. And we are so grateful for all of the love that you've given us. Thank you so much. Now, let's continue. Have you ever found yourself agreeing to certain favors you thought you would never agree to? Or perhaps you've found yourself in situations you swore you'd never be in. But somehow you are successfully persuaded by your friends. Your friends may have used some psychological tricks to get you to do what they want. Or they're just really persuasive and nice. But now you might be thinking, what kind of psychological tricks actually work? Some of these tricks are cleverly used by teachers, psychologists, and maybe even your friends. So, here are eight psychological tricks that actually work. Number one, call them by their name. People love it when you talk about them. Well, most of the time. When you say someone's name mid-sentence in a conversation with them, it's a great way to grab their attention and redirect the conversation back to you or them. Have you ever noticed, as a child, when a teacher would say your name in the middle of a lecture? That's because when you hear your own name, it grabs your attention and pulls you back to the present. School teachers don't want their students to be distracted, so they say their students' names to bring them back to the discussion at hand. This same tactic goes for making someone notice you. While in conversation with someone you admire, try saying their name often and at the beginning or end of the question. This will grab their attention and add some charisma to your regular conversations. Number two, hand someone something while in mid-conversation. Here's a fun trick. Let's say you really need help carrying something up to your room, but your pesky brother isn't interested in helping you. In order to get his help, try handing him the object while in mid-conversation with him. For some bizarre reason, when people are in the middle of telling a story or engaged in deep conversation, they'll generally take anything you reach out and hand them. Go ahead, try it out next time. Eating a banana?  They'll probably take it from you, without any question. Number three, practice the Pavlov theory by chewing gum during an exam. Believe it or not, bubble gum may just help you ace your next big exam. Oh, what? How on earth will chewing gum improve your test scores? If you really need to ace that next exam, you might want to find a distinct flavor of gum and start chewing it during your study sessions. Then, when you finally take the exam, you'll have conditioned yourself to associate that flavor of gum with the information you studied for the test, and it may just help you remember the information during the test. This is a form of conditioning that started from the Pavlovian theory. According to Hassan University Online, the Pavlovian theory is learning procedure that involves pairing a stimulus with a conditioned response. In the now famous experiments that Ivan Pavlov conducted with his dogs, he demonstrated how the presence of a bowl of dog food, the stimulus, would trigger an unconditioned response, salivation, in the dogs. So next time you're studying for a test, bring out the bubble gum and get chewing. It may just earn you that A+. Number four, try imagining you're where you want to be in life. This is one psychological trick that can really help you. If you use it correctly, using a form of cognitive dissonance to benefit you, try changing your mindset to the person you want to be. According to medical news today, cognitive dissonance is a theory in social psychology that refers to the mental conflict that occurs when a person's behaviors and beliefs do not align. But instead of experiencing that discomfort, try using cognitive dissonance to motivate change within you.  Let's say you have a habit of spending too much money and that you're a bit of a shopaholic. If you want to move past this habit, try to tell yourself that you just aren't the type of person who likes shopping a lot and that it's not your thing. Changing your mindset could possibly change your actions if you really work at it. Or perhaps you're feeling a bit sad and always look at the negative in most situations. Although it is important not to suppress your emotions, try to imagine yourself as a person who always looks on the bright side and you may be inclined to start seeing the good during your grumpy days. Try using cognitive dissonance to your advantage by imagining that you're where you want to be in life. Changing your mindset to the person you want to be may set you on the path to actually becoming them. Number five, ask for a big favor, then change it to a smaller one.  You pass by the pet store every day on your way home from school and the chinchilla is just there staring you down with his cute little beady eyes. Your birthday is coming up and you don't have the cash to buy them for yourself. But you've already decided that you want to name them giblets. Well, if you want to use a psychological trick to your advantage try asking your parents for a dog first. Wait, what? But you don't want a dog, you want giblets, the chinchilla. Yes, but if you ask your parents for a big favor first they're bound to say no. If you change it later to a favor that is smaller they're less inclined to deny you. In psychology this technique is called the door-in-the-face technique and can be used in many situations. If you desperately need 20 bucks but you know your friend doesn't like to lend you a lot of money try asking for 50 instead. 20 bucks seems like a lot less now in comparison. Huh? You and giblets are now living splendidly. Number six, ask for a favor when someone is exhausted. This is another sneaky psychological trick. Say your friend really needed to crash at your house. You're definitely busy and have spent the whole night binge watching the office on Netflix.  Somehow you've now let them in and told them they can stay the night. You gave in because you were exhausted and too tired to say no to their pleas. According to several studies people are more likely to be influenced to do something they initially didn't want to do when they're tired. You were mentally exhausted as well as physically and you really didn't want to be up that late arguing with your friend. You would have done anything to have the situation over with so you could get some rest. Number seven, mirror others to help you make friends. Are you having a hard time making friends at school? Without having to change anything about who you are try mirroring the other person's movements and gestures and they may just be more open to getting to know you. This kind of mirroring is called the chameleon effect and has been explored in further studies. If someone thinks that you're like them they may be more willing to be your friend. So someone could be mirroring you subconsciously to lure you in and gain your trust or most likely they just want to be your friend. And number eight, nod your head if you want someone to agree with you. Have you ever needed someone to agree with a pitch you were making at work? Perhaps you really wanted to persuade someone to agree with you on a subject you just know they would understand if they opened their mind up to it. Like, okay, they just really need to watch the office on Netflix. If they just understood this point you're making and agreed with it they'd likely want to watch it. Try nodding while you're discussing a point you want someone to agree with. According to a 1980 study published in the Applied Psychology Journal psychologists found that when others nod while listening to someone they are likely to agree with them. You may even find yourself subconsciously nodding to someone's intense story because they are too. So what did you think of these psychological tricks? Remember, like what Uncle Bed said, with great power comes great responsibility. So only use these for good. And be aware that others may be using them on you too. Are you going to try any of them out? Let us know in the comments below. Please like and share this video if you found it interesting and want to share it with your friends. The studies and references used are listed in the description below. Don't forget to hit the subscribe button and notification bell icon for more Psych2Go videos. Thanks for watching and we'll see you next time.


تفتحوا آدك الأيام فتا أشارحوا الشيخ من العثمي الثلاثة قولوا هو The statement of the sheikh إن من تمام الاجتماعي السمح وطاعة That from the completeness of unity Is to hear and to obey To the ending of that word Or the part of the paragraph that we explained From شيخ محمد بن عبد الوهب الشيخ من العثمي الثلاثة Is now going to explain it He said The author mentioned God has mercy upon him أن من تمام الاجتماعي That from the completeness of unity Is a sum to listen وطاعة to obey لولاة الأمري The Muslim leader بمتتان ما أمروا به By following That which he orders you to do وترك ما نهو عنه And to stay away from that Which he prohibits you from ولو كان Even if he is من تأمر علينا عبد الحبشي And even if he is اي If he is a slave who is an Abyssinian قوله the statement of the author محمد بن عبد الوهب فبين الله هذا بيانا شافيا كافيا اما شائعا شائعا كافيا The sheikh said he means أما بيانه شرعا The legislation of clarity شخب العثمي Said is ففي كتاب الله يتعالى وسنة رسوله It is that which is in the book of Allah And the sun of the messenger So now he is going to give us the evidence in the Kitab And the evidences which are in the sunnah pertaining to this issue From the Kitab الله ordering us to listen And obey our leaders is قوله تعالى شخب العثمي And he says the speech of Allah يا أيها الذين آمنوا Those of you who believe اطيع الله أبي الله وأطيع الرسولة And obey the messenger وأقول الأمر منكم And those who have authority over you الآية the best It is the 59th آية في صورة النساء So الله تعالى قوله تعالى قوله تعالى الله تعالى قوله تعالى سبحانه وتعالى To follow To follow him To obey him سبحانه وتعالى Allah ordered us to obey him And Allah تعالى قوله تعالى قوله تعالى The messenger Without Without what? Without any condition Allah and his messenger Or their obedience are Without a condition بدون قيد ولا شرطين There is no condition A stipulated to it Are you with me? We obey Allah and his messenger Unrestrictedly Allah and his messenger We obey them unrestrictedly Because they are infallible Everything that Allah تعالى Told us There will be no mistakes in it Everything that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم Tells us There will be no mistakes in it Are you with me? Very good And that is why الله تعالى He repeated the verb Twice Are you with me?  They are unrestricted بدون قيدن ولا شرطن But the leader His obedience Is if it is in accordance to what? His obedience Is if it's in accordance According to the obedience Of Allah And his messenger So if he tells you If he tells you To do that Which Allah تعالى Prohibited You don't obey him on it But he still doesn't Lose the overall obedience You just disobey him In that particular matter And you say to him I can't do this Are you with me? I can't obey you in this sin And I am not allowed to do it But if he tells you To do something else Which is permissible You obey him And you have to listen to him You see That is the wisdom in the ayah وقوله تعالى And the statement of Allah وأطيع الله أبي الله ورسوله And his messenger ولا تنازعوا Do not dispute one another فتفشلوا And so you lose وَتَدْحَبَرِيحُكُمْ And your strength goes وَصْبِرُوا بِيْبَيْشَنْ إِنَّ اللَّهَمْ عَصَّابِرِيْنَ Allah is with those who are patient Good وقولوا جدا إِنَّا آيَة اللَّهَةَ بَارَكُوا إِتَعَالَا Where did he say to us? إِنَّا بَارَكُوا إِتَعَالَا He tells us what? That us disputing one another And breaking up Is a path for weakness It's a road to weakness So we don't dispute one another We were ordered to be patient With our leaders We don't dispute with them When we do not argue with them The ayah it falls under that And that's why the sheikh brought it إبن عثيمين وقولوا And also the statement of Allah وعتصموا بحبل الله جميعا ولا تفرقوا Hold on to the rope of Allah Together And do not dispute one another Don't dispute your leader Don't go against him Stay with him It falls under the ayah In Surah Al-Umaran Very good So that's from the Kitab of Allah The Sunnah is left now وَمِنْ بَيَانِ فِيءِ وَمِنْ بَيَانِهِ فِي سُنَّةَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ Also the clarity Which is in the Sunnah of the Messenger Is مَاتَبَةَ في الصحيحين من حديث عبادة بنصامتن It is That which has been transmitted In Sahih Al-Bukhari And in Sahih Al-Muslim In Sahih Al-Bukhari And in Sahih Al-Muslim Which are the two most authentic Books After the book of Allah That عبادة بنصامتن رضي الله تعالى عنه And said با يعنى با يعنى رسول الله The Messenger He took a pledge of allegiance with us با يع is a pledge of allegiance Look what the Prophet took pledge of allegiance with the companions On What was it? على سمعي to listen وطار عاتي and to obey He told them عليه الصلاة والسلام what When lacking When in times of ease and joy No, both times فِن من شطينا ومكراهينا At times when we are enthusiastic And at times of hardship وعصرنا ويصرنا And when it's hard And when it's easy We obey We obey the leader In those situations Very good وأثرت علينا وألا ننازع الأمر أهله And that we do not dispute With the people who have The matter in their hands Who are the leaders We don't dispute with them We're not allowed to go against them We're not allowed to go Against our rulers We are not allowed To uprise against them This is not from That which Allah And His Messenger have permitted Because the Prophet said what وألا ننازع الأمر And that we do not dispute The people who have authority We don't But we're allowed to win The Prophet said إلا أن تروا Until you see كفران this belief بواحا كليكات عندكم من الله فيه برحانه look how many conditions The Prophet stipulated to this أولا يجب أن يكون كفر اهلا أنت مستعدة عندما يأتي مع كليكات عندما يأتي مع كليكات هل أنت معي أخي يجب أن يأتي يجب أن يأتي يجب أن يكون كفر which is Photoshop or you saw on YouTube يجب أن يكون كليكات كفر has no other interpretation It is crystal clear that he came with kufr something you saw over the internet or somebody sent you a picture or something Where is that clear cut Nowadays technology things can be photoshopped Videos can be made It has to be clear cut The Prophet is saying to you بواح Is that it No عندكم من الله فيه برحانه You have an evidence and a proof in the eyes of Allah in the day of judgment You can bring a proof forward to Allah In this point You are able to You see That is very serious Going against the ruler isn't enough to say Oh A matter which the scholar is disfigured on Whether it is kufr or not Doesn't fear Allah to go against him It is not kufr بواح It is not clear cut kufr It is not clear cut kufr وقال عليه الصلاة والسلام And the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم also said صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم Now before I mentioned other hadith I have to explain that hadith that I just mentioned on the commentary of Imam Nawawee رحم الله إن شلح صحيح مسلم He explained this hadith of عبادة منو صامت Very well Pay attention And I want you to understand this It is very important I am going to really speak on him It is on you guys ألمام النواوي أبو زكرية نواوي أمام النواوي صاحب رياض الصالح أربعين النواوي He has a shalah on what مسلم صحيح مسلم He explained that hadith Imam Nawawee said معنى الحديث the meaning that is in the hadith is what لا تنزعوا ولاة الأموري Do not dispute with the people of authority في ولايتهم in their leadership Don't dispute with them ولا تعتريبوا عليهم And don't oppose them إلا أن تروا unless you see كفرا منهم unless you see disbelief from them منكرا إيول كفر محققا and that it's real and it's literal which you're definite and you have unwavering conviction that he came with it تعلمونه which you know من قواعد الإسلامي you know it from the fundamental principles of religion فإذا رأيتم ذلك if you see it the hadith didn't say if you hear it إلا أنتروا it said see right you have to see with your eyes فإذا رأيتم ذلك if you see that فأنكرو عليهم reject that from them وقولوا بالحق say the truth to them حيث ما كنتم wherever you are وأما الخروج عليهم but as for to go against them as for to what as for to go against them وقتالهم and to fight against them فحرام it is haram بإجماع المسلمينة it is haram for you to what to go against them and to fight with them it is haram بإجماع المسلمينة there is no خلاف on this issue to muslim علاماء هالسونة don't dispute on this issue وإن كانوا فسقة ظالمينة even if they are what even if they are فساق فاسق ظالم he is a transgressor he is a criminal you can't go against him this is what إجماع it is a unanimously agreed upon matter so when you brothers look at الإمام النور رحمه الله he brought that إجماع and also إبن حجر he brought that إجماع as well and others have brought إجماع regarding this issue so the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم a statement which is what pay attention brothers the prophet statement let's analyze it إلا أنترو unless you see so the statement of إمام النور is finished we finished it so now we are going to analyze the Hadith in more details the prophet said إلا أنترو until you see with your eyes very good كفران it has to be disbelief it has to be بواح بواح means what it has to be جهار it has to be out in the open it can't be something which is behind closed doors it has to be out because the word بواح comes from the what باح الشيء يبوح إذا أعلنته we took it when we were talking about what مباح the word مباح when we were studying it we took the quote of زمكشري he said لم أبوح بي my method I won't bring it out in the open to nobody very good باح الشيء يبوح إذا أعلنته if it's when you when you make it out in the open it has to be out in the open then he does it and also what did Allah the prophet said عندكم من الله فيه برحان you have a حجة which you know from الله تبارك وتعالى so there are conditions stipulated to it that you have to see you have to see it not that somebody I'll show it for you okay and it has to be كفر it has to be ظاهر apparent and it it has to be كفر so it can't be there is a خلاف amongst أهل السنة is it a كفر يخرج من الملة or is it not and it none of that also what falls under what also falls under it عندكم من الله فيه برحان is that the conditions are all present توفر الشروط or the conditions are met وانتفاء الموانع and the obstacles that are standing between it is also such as establishing the proof the proof on him it's not there now who is the person who can establish the proof on him who is the one who uplifts it from him who is the one who can talk about these issues again it has to be a person of knowledge because the حديث says what انترا كفر بواح عندكم to you guys who is the عندية talking to عند من to who to who every back عمر the عندية here brothers is meant by what it means the people those who know the kitab and they know the sunnah and they know how to extract rolling from the both of them not a person who can't even say his name in Arabic properly okay or a person who doesn't know the ABCs of their religion نعم very good that is very important also the prophet he said anyone who sees something from his leader be patient فإنو من فارق الجماعة anyone who goes against the Jama'a the Jama'a here is what it is the leader and the people who is running all this is I mean it's being حديث فإنو من فارق الجماعة شبرا anyone who goes against the Muslim unity what's the unity here it is the Muslim and the leader who they are following anyone who tries to cut off from them and he separates himself from them شبرا even if it's a handsband and he dies فماتا فميتتو جاهلية his death is a death of pre-islamic time it's like the death of a pre-islamic time what does it mean that his death is the what does it mean that his death is the death of a pre-islamic what does it mean it means that the people of the جاهلية before أهل الجاهلية they were upon misguidance and they never used to have a leader which they used to obey they never used to obey their leaders so it means that you as an individual like those in their action that you're dying without having on your neck a plague of allegiance to your leader and that statement is benefitted by حجر العسقلاني in فتح الباري he said المراد بالميتة ابن حجر said this he said المراد بالميتة الجاهلية what is meant by that is بكسر الميم he said you have to put a and not for ميتة very good بكسر الميم حالة الموت he said it's the situation of the death كموت أهل الجاهلية like the death of the pre-islamic people which was upon على ضلالة they were upon misguidance وليس لهم إمام المطاع and they never had a leader which they obeyed لأنهم because كانوا لا يعرفون that they never used to recognize that وليس المراد they never it doesn't mean that بل يموت عصين rather he would die as a disobedient individual so brothers إن شاء الله يتعالى observe that statement of him it's powerful also الشيخ من عثمين brought the the prophet من خالع عيدن anyone who takes his hand back من خالع عيدن he gave bayat to the leader and he slips his hand back out من الطاعتي from the obedience لقي الله he will meet Allah the prophet said this عليه الصلاة والسلام the previous hadith that I just mentioned من رأى من أميره شيء أنفل يصبر فإنه من فارق الجماعة شبرا فماتة فميتاته جاهلية the previous hadith was narrated by بخارن مسلم and this hadith is narrated by من مسلم إمام المسلم من خالع عيدن من الطاعتي لقي الله يوم القيامة لأحجة له anyone who takes his hand from the leader and he meets Allah the day of judgment he will come and there's the next hadith إمام المسلم is narrated by إمام المسلم رحمه الله إمام المسلم which is that the prophet said إسمعوا لسن وأطيعوا أن أبي وإن أميره عليكم عبد الحبشي لسن أن أبي even if the leadership is passed over to a Abyssinian slave because the Arabs wouldn't allow that they wouldn't allow that so even if you guys don't like the idea لسن أن أبي لسن أن أبي وقال عليه الصلاة والسلام and the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and said علي المرء المسلم السمع upon the believing مسلم is to listen and to obey فيما أحب وكريها you listen and you obey the leader in that which you like and that which you dislike you still obey him إلا أن يؤمر بمعصية unless he orders you a disobedience فإذا أمير بمعصية if he orders you disobedience فلا سمع ولا طاع he has no obedience over you and no listening in that particular معطا only but if he orders you something else which is permissible you have to still listen to him that hadith is narrated by Bukhari and Muslim نعم and that hadith that I just mentioned which is the one that I brought I'm going to mention you in its length I'm going to mention to you in its length because that will allow you to understand it properly and say well we're not going to listen to our leaders because they tell us they call us disobedience so they have no obedience over us are you with me and to show you know it means that only that matter you're not allowed to obey him on it because once you read the hadith in its full context you will know it Imam al-Muslim narrated it that علي رضي الله تعالى عنه he said علي رضي الله تعالى عنه he said بعثة رسول الله the messenger sent he sent a group سرية and the prophet he placed one Ansari man in leadership whenever the prophet used to send a group they would always make a person in charge so he made a man in charge of them and he ordered the others و أمرهم أن يسمعوا له و يطيعوا the prophet said this man I've made in charge of you all when listen and obey him listen and obey him so فأغضبوه في شيء they angered him they angered the leader so when they angered him فأجمعو لي حطبن he said to all of them bring me sticks they ordered them bring me sticks he said اجمعو لي حطبن bring from me all sticks so they brought sticks for him فأجمعو له when they brought with them and then he said and burn a fire he told them to light it and they lit it فأجمعو له ثم قال they lit the fire and he said to all of them ألم يأمركم رسول الله did the messenger not order you to listen to me and to obey me قالوا بلا he said of course فأتخلوها go into the fire all of you all of you go into the fire burn yourselves alive فنظر عظوم إلى بعضن some of them looked at each other فقالوا إنما فررنا إلى رسول الله من الناع they looked at him and they say we run to the messenger from the fire we run to the messenger we run to the prophet فكانوا كذلكة and they did so they ran to the prophet his anger went when they said that his anger slightly went وطفئة النار of the fire was extinguished when they came back they told the prophet what took place and then the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said to them لو دخلوها ما خرجوا منها if you guys entered it none of you guys would come out of it وإنما طاعتوا في المعروف the obedience is placed on what in good you obey the leader in that which is good so it means that the obedience was only you disobey him in this particular matter if he orders you a matter which is wrong like that you don't obey him in it but anything other than that you obey him you still carry on obey him شخم العثيمين goes on to bring more hadiths he brought the hadith عبدالله من عمر رضي الله وطعاله good he brings that وقال عبدالله من عمر رضي الله وطعاله عبدالله من عمر may Allah be pleased he said في سفرين on a journey فنزل منزلن we came to a place فنادا منادي فنادا منادي رسول الله the caller of the prophet called out somebody called out the prophet ordered a person to go and call the people and this is the way that the prophet used to call the people he used to say the salah is to come together very good so remember we have to say أصلاة جامعة why would we say أصلاة جامعة because منصوبة على الحالي okay أصلاة جامعة the salah is جامعة come together come together فجت معنا we came together to the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم when we came to the prophet the prophet looked at and he said to us إنه مام النبي بعثه الله Allah did not send a prophet إلا كان حقا and except it was obligatory on him and it's a responsibility on him for him to show them the good in which he knows for them وينذراهم and that he warns from them the evil that he knows that might harm them that he warns them of it so Allah has not sent a prophet except that it was obligatory it is his mission he has to come with his what he has to tell his the good that he knows that they can achieve take this road you can see this and it's upon that prophet as well that he warns them of any evil that he knows that's going to come that he tells them of it and the prophet tells them he said وإن أمتكم هذه جعلة عافيةها في أولها that this umma the cure has been placed in the earliest the early generations Allah placed in them the cure وصيصيب آخرها بلاء وأمور تنكرونها and the later generations there's going to afflict them and calamities and matters which they will reject وتجيءوا فتنةهم trials and tribulations will come تراقق بعضها بعضا some of it will soften another meaning when one comes the people will think that the one before was nothing and then the other one that was nothing each one would make the other one before it weak it seems like that wasn't even a problem good تجيءوا الفتنة the trials and tribulations will come فيقول المؤمن the believer will say هذه مهلكة this is my destruction وتجيءوا الفتنة and then the trials and another trial and tribulation will come فيقوله he will say no this is this one not the one before no this one this one this one look how the prophet told us the solution the prophet said فمن أحب anyone who wants أيو زحزة عن النار anyone who wants to be diverted from the hellfire ويدخل الجنة ويدخل الجنة and for him to be put into jannah فليأتي منيته منية means death let death come to him فليأتيه let it come to him منيته let death come to him وهو يؤمن بالله وليوم الآخر let death come to him why else he believes in Allah and the day of judgment let death come to you why else you believe in Allah and the day of judgment وليأتي إلى الناس and let him come to the people and let him come to the people with what اللذي يحب أن يؤتى إليه and let him come to the people in that which he loves the people to come with him with deal with the people in the way he loves to be dealt with and then the prophet went on to say ومن بايع إماما anyone who gives a leader pledge of allegiance فأعطاه صفقة يدي and he gives him his palm his hand وثمرت قلبه and he gives him his heart فليوتعه لهم إن استطاع if he's able فإن جاءه آخر if another person comes another individual comes يونازعه trying to argue with the one that's already in place another one comes and he wants to take over فضربوا علق الآخر he smacked the neck of the second one who wants to take over رواه إماما مسلم وإماما مسلم narrated that hadith إماما مسلم he narrated that hadith نعم والله وإماما مسلم إن شاء الله وإماما سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك أشهد بله إلا إلا الله استغفركه تقوله


Sam here with late sports car driven 22 Panini flawless baseball hobby one box break number one Random left side serial numbers. Here's a look again at your random results As always you can find these on the website under the results tab as well as the link that's in chat I did explain to you guys earlier This is how it's going to appear on the website as they are the results that came straight out of the random I myself am just gonna sort it so I could find the numbers easier So get started. Let me do that first, and then we'll keep we'll get it rolling here. Good luck.  No, I don't I got pulled down Yes, I did have the mic up actually better better sound good. So we're worm Ed. What up, dude? Good. All right, perfect. Thank you. We're good start. Here we go starting off going to the 11 spot 11 of 15 that's gonna be hunter green for the reds going to Derek D. Congrats, Derek Player one on that one. Very nice Hunter green got no recap on this. Everything is a hit Going to the 10 spot pension C. We've got Luis Apparicio On the bat card that is game use bat Luis Apparicio Very solid Congrats, Pengian next up going to the one spot. There you go Ramar's Jesse Winker One of five that is still reds Jesse Winker right there Grats on that remarks one spot paying off We've got going to Brandon M at the seven spots. That's gonna be a Jacob burger on the RPA That's three color three color nice one there. Grats on the burger Brandon M at the seven spot So we got going to Lance Lance H at the two spots. There's a Blaze Jordan two of seven nice one there on the prospects auto that is on card, of course Blaze For the red Sox back to Ramar's Nice one here. We've got for the twins. That's gonna be Jose Miranda on the signature prime materials three colored RPA Grats on that remarks. That's awesome, dude Jose Miranda signature prime materials for the twins Gorgeous, we've got 25 of 25 going to Dale C on the bookend Ozzy albis on the quad hatch auto That is game worn as well game worn Ozzy albis on card as well. That's really cool That is two color two color all the way around except there is a little bit of a three color on the bottom right It's a little bit of white down on that one nice Ozzy. That's so sick Game one flawless stuff. It's just fantastic. And we got going to Christopher s How about a Pete Rose on the flawless greats auto number eight of 25? That's awesome There you go, Christopher nice Rose. I don't think you'll really see him in top stuff to be honest But that's really cool You can get him to inscribe anything when you Just give him like a baseball There is one someone got him to inscribe I've walked through hell and gasoline suit to play baseball There's people that'd be like RIP Harambe Yeah, it's so funny roses roses the man hit hit King right there Empty empty All right, so we got in here start with this one we've got going to Brandon M at that seven spot. There's a Rhino Ryan Sandberg on the legends diamond Grats on that. Of course that has your diamond guarantee agreement So nasty Defensive weapon right there taxes legend three points specialist. Yes, that is All right last card of the break It's going to the eight spot. That's gonna be Christopher s. How about eight of 25 Bobby with junior Boom two colored RPA Yes, sir true RPA, that's awesome, man Congrats on that. There you go, Christopher. Heck. Yeah, buddy Player worn on it as well Big time wit Bobby wit junior for the Kansas City Royals Just a design of the RPA and the numbering of it too So like with NT with like national treasures is the easiest Comparison like the true RPA is always gonna be the horrors like the vertical number to 99 most years sometimes it's horizontal Awesome awesome wit on that one so sick And there's your empty box that will do it for the break again. There is no Um What's it called on this recap? Yes. No recap on this. So thank you guys again. I'll get this up and up next we have number two