Okay, so here's here and what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna kind of huh I'm gonna I'm gonna point this 99.999% on real estate and real estate agents but also it's for everyone like it's in general any small business owner here's what most most try to do and let and here's the newsfeed so let me refresh this whether you're looking at Facebook from your computer whether you're looking at it from your looking at it from your cell phone it's the same thing as we scroll to the newsfeed the middle section so let's just scroll through and see what our friends are posting and see what what's going on and then let's see when we come across a sponsored ad so here is let's scroll down there's okay so here's a sponsored ad okay perfect now again it could be real estate it could be whatever but let's let's in this case let's talk about real estate let's let's let's assume this was a real estate agent right here okay here's here's one huge reason and there's two reasons why ads don't work for real estate agents or for any business in general reason number one is most people they'll try to run ads look at this is the business page so this ad every sponsored ad it comes from a business page so when I scroll over this business page or when I look at this business page I see family love automatically there's really no connection unless unless I'm a loving type of person but when it comes to Facebook what we're used to looking at psychologically is a name so as I scroll through I see Julie as I scroll through I see Stephanie as I scroll through I see Leandra right we're used to seeing people's name that's social media but when people start to run ads they start to get creative with their business page and they'll name it something different which automatically psychologically makes me know that that's an ad that's problem number one problem one most people don't even put their their name right here and the name the reason why that's important is because it has to blend in as we're running ads it has to look like a normal post from my friend it has to blend in and the moment you change that to some business name it doesn't blend in anymore that's number one that has to be her name number two what a lot of real estate agents do is they'll run ads on just a house or they'll run ads on something very generic as I told you before actually yeah I'm pretty sure I mentioned this on our first call like first time around the number one thing that you have to be doing is branding yourself like you have this has that's what I'm saying this could be a perfect example of a good ad for a real estate agent let's say she was an agent only thing she's messing up on is the name of the business page that should be her name but if it was her name there's there's her face so most agents they don't put their face out most agents don't do video and I know this personal experience because again when you come to my personal when you come my Facebook page as I showed you this before and I'm this is this is I always touch on this because this is this is so important because what most agents do is they'll talk to a handful of colleagues in their office or they'll talk to one marketing person when it's like I'm trying to tell you I'm getting all this from personal experience since 2016 as I showed you this before my 5,000 friends every single one of them is a real estate agent every single one so not only have I and this is all from 2016 and this is not the same 5,000 from 2016 people and friend me I and friend others I'll replenish it I'll request more agents I'll always keep it at 5,000 fresh agents because this is my list this is where I get leads from this where I get my clients from it's all from my personal Facebook page because I end up direct messaging just like I direct message you you and 400 other real estate agents since 2016 that I've helped and done business with but here's my point I've been seeing what thousands of agents are doing when it comes to promoting their business so that's where I'm getting all this from is that when I start to talk to agents I've spoken to this point thousands I've seen tens of thousands of business pages like I'm not exaggerating these are real numbers so I'm looking at what the market is doing first hand because I'm connected with thousands of agents now when it comes to Facebook ads no one's doing video so that's that's that's that's problem number two problem number two the reason why your ads ain't working bro the reason why I tell them the guy you're talking to in Los Angeles is because number one I'll ask him are you putting your face out are you putting video out the answer will be no what they're doing and what most agents do and what most business owners do is they'll run generic ads of a house personal branding like I want to scroll through Facebook I want to scroll through Instagram and I want to see people that's social media but the moment you just run an ad on a house like that and then the moment you change your business page name to properties in Los Angeles it's like all of a sudden there's a disconnect people are not related to that I've seen a million houses what's so cool about your house like it's the same damn house every consumer has seen a million real estate houses we've seen real estate everywhere so unless you're putting your face right there that's why on the first ad that we ran I wanted your face because that face is everything and that was just a like ad once you start running these ads so so so problem for one let's go back because I don't want to lose lose you or even lose myself on what I'm trying to say because I have all the answers to every question you have right now number one it's the name most people you got to check that name number two are they are they running ads of their face or are they running ads of video of themselves and the answer is going to be no and then and then the third one the third one here's the third one 99.999% of every real estate agent is inconsistent with Facebook ads they'll run an ad for 15 bucks and then turn it off they'll do it again next month maybe for 20 bucks and then turn it off it's like there I haven't spoken to one and I'm telling you I've spoken to thousands I haven't spoke to one agent this is a fact I'm recording this call this call is going to go to YouTube so shout out to every real estate agent out there but me personally I have I've spoken to thousands of them and I haven't spoken to one that says David I run ads every single day I've yet to meet that person now maybe the friend that you're speaking to maybe he deals with agents that run ads every day but I highly doubt it I spoke in a thousands no one runs an ad every day so so it's not a new ad every day it's just an ad every day so for example with your ad that we had running we were running that for a month so so when it comes to lead capture when it comes to local ads for leads you want to run a new ad every week so so whether it's a new image of your headshot every week or whether it's a new video every week so if you're running a new video every week that's a new video once per week that's four videos a month one video every week which is an ad every day so you run one video for seven days or an image like this for seven days capture some leads and then maybe switch out the image and do it another seven days and maybe switch out the image and do another seven days so you're running an ad every day but every seven days you're maybe running a different type of ad not one has ever said David I've done that not one not one not one and again your friend again he speaks to a lot of people as well maybe he does speak to people like that but not me and and I'm also willing to bet that he hasn't spoken to as many agents as me at all like I'm willing to bet I spoke in a thousands not and and all on this topic not about hey let's do business and let me do your loan no I'm talking about this like on this exact topic I spoke in a thousands of agents and not one can say that now one runs ads consistently that's problem number three and then problem number four so let's recap problem number one the name problem number two they're not putting their face out whether it's image or video problem number three they're not consistent problem number four is what he was what he's referring to and this is where you get a bunch of junk leads and and the reason why let me back up the reason why a person would even be getting junk leads is because they don't know who the hell you are they don't know who you are that's a random picture of a house that's a random picture of some I don't know some city picture of some something stupid and random there's no personal branding so people are opting in but they're thinking that they're opting into some company they're thinking that they're opting into some advertisement they're thinking they're opting into some random ad they're not opting into you that's the problem so people are opting in they're putting a bogus name and email because they don't know who the hell it is they're not seeing a face here They're not seeing a face in the profile picture. Not only is she changing her name. Her name's not family love Not only is she changing her name, but she's not even putting her face in the profile picture So that's like no, there's no connection there. So if I click on this, I'm gonna give her a wrong number, too So so here here's here. Here's where you get a lot of wrong numbers. So now let's go to the actual ad Here's where a lot of agents tend to run ads or try to run ads is they try to go lead generation Lead generation is when is when is when Facebook provides you with a lead form So for example as I'm scrolling through the newsfeed, let's just let's actually let's click on actually that's a shop now That's a little different type of ad But let me let me see a different. Let me let me scroll down and let's let's look at a different ad So we're looking for sponsored Sponsored sponsored. Here's sponsored. Okay. So look Here's sponsored. Here's video. Look, this is a different different type of ad Andy so right away. I think that that's my friend Automatically psychologically it doesn't look like an ad. There's his name. There's his profile picture and there is Andy That's him That's a different type of branding than your generic house So I'm here to tell you real estate agents. They don't do that Nor do most business owners. Most people are afraid of a camera even you You're afraid of the camera.  You guys know so much about real estate. It's not even funny Like your license your professional you have all this information and knowledge You could tell me about foreclosures about forbearance about short sell about FICO scores debt-to-income ratio my credit score my my tax returns you could tell me everything about real estate But the moment the camera comes on we're afraid to talk So so most people are afraid of the camera and they're not even willing to put themselves out there So they hide behind No profile picture they hide behind changing their their business page name to something real estate Generic and then they hide behind a an image. That's not even them And then and then and then they end up coming over here to Facebook and they want to capture leads So they end up going with lead generation and lead generation again back to this over here This is most likely not a lead generation ad This is a conversions ad and the way I'm going to be able to tell is if I click on learn more and he takes me off of Facebook So so 99% of marketers who actually know what they're doing Do not use Facebook's lead form a lot of real estate agents use Facebook's lead form because they're too cheap to pay for their own and So your friend or whoever they're running ads under this objective lead generation They're using Facebook's lead form and when you use Facebook's lead form the reason why a lot of it is junk Leads because when you use Facebook's lead form you click the button. So going back to the ad You click the button and automatically Facebook's lead form pops up right here in front of my face and that lead form is already Pre-populated it's pre-populated with information the person's name the person's email But what if that email is not the email that's connected to Facebook or what if that email is not even their email anymore? So you end up clicking learn more Facebook's lead form pops up Information is already pre-populated and then that lead can press submit So that information being pre-populated that the lead didn't fill it out the information is already pre-populated so a lot of times that information that's pre-populated is wrong information and Once I click submit or once the lead clicks submit That person the advertiser the agent gets that lead and a lot of times that information is wrong Yeah, so so so nine out of ten marketers that actually know what they're doing. They do not use lead generation They use conversions and what that means it just means that when I click on learn more Let's see where Andy takes me because Andy he knows what the hell he's doing I know who this guy is if I click learn more look where he takes me he takes me off of Facebook to his own page That's what you have to do So so nine out of ten actually I'll say ten out of ten ten out of ten real estate agents that just think they know what They're doing. They're not using conversions they're not running conversions to a page off of Facebook and That's the biggest problem They're running lead generation depending on Facebook's lead form When Facebook's lead form is gonna provide a lot of wrong information on that lead form You have to take them off when I click on that learn more when I click on learn more You have to take me off of Facebook take me over here where there's a headline a Few bullet points and there's only one button. This is not a website. This is a web page Yeah, and and here's another problem. Here's another problem If an agent is actually taking me off of Facebook, so let's say they're not running lead generation They're running conversions. So they have the right idea, but when I click on learn more They're taking me to their fancy website. They're taking me to their rematch site their kw site They're taking me to their cold wall site. They're taking to their full-blown exp site where there's a bunch of stuff going on When I click on learn more on this guy look, he's taking me to a web page There's nothing up here. There's no contact us meet the team directions to the office 15 other listings click here for a consultation.  It's one page. There's a headline Three bullet points and one single button. I click on that. That's the lead capture now What happens? I actually have to come here and physically type in my information And so for someone to do that and go that far, that's someone who was interested Especially if they've been seen your face every day for the past four weeks So here's the deal in real estate look I see it by look let me go to let me go to a real estate group that I have This is a real estate group that I started, you know a couple years ago There's there's 4,700 real estate agents in this in this group now. I'm the admin This is my my Facebook group here And I have real estate agents that come in here and post their listings and so look What most agents do is though they'll just post their listings everywhere and there's and and and here's just a button to message them So if I click there it messages them, but that's about it That's not an ad these are just random random posts, but here's what I'm trying to say Let's see if I can find one that actually has a link Let's see because this is what most people will do most will run an ad and then if they are running Conversions and they're trying to take me off of Facebook. Let me show you where they end up taking me Let's see if I can find one that actually has a link Just listed Okay, okay perfect example, let's see where this person takes me and this is the last the last problem Okay, okay perfect example perfect example Here's the last problem and I know I said a lot of problems here in this last 10 minutes, but I'm recording it So you can always play it back But here's here's pretty much the last problem if I'll give Judy the benefit of the doubt and I'll say okay, Judy You know what you're doing you're running conversion ads. Let's go back to the you're running conversion ads Judy You're not doing lead generation. You're not depending on on Facebook's lead form You're actually running conversions. So good job. Let's imagine this was an ad and she's running a conversions. Here's what 10 out of 10. Well, I'll just say 9 9 out of 10 agents will do They'll run the ad. Let's say this is an ad. It says sponsored right here at the top I'm seeing it in my news feed and this is an ad. She's running it Here's the images and then and then and then here's the link. So here's what most agents will do I click on learn more and Rather than coming to a page that looks like this Rather than and then coming to one single page. This is a this is a page for a listing This is a page that you should be running an ad to get instant access to the price and photos of this property Homes in this market move extremely fast Schedule your private showing before the bidding war begins and all this could be edited It's just an example. Yes my page But here are a few bullet points of the property and then one single button very similar to this guy over here Headline few bullet points one single button. Here's my page Headline bullet points one single button. They click on that view all 17 photos now They enter their name and email send me the details That is one page, but here's what agents do agents will not send me to a one page thing like this when I click on that when I click on this agents ad She's taking me to a full-blown website.  It's one property. Why are you sending me to a full-blown website? We're all of a sudden I'm a bunch of other stuff Before you know it.  That's why that's why ads aren't working Because it's more basic than than anyone can imagine like this is basic stuff. They're just not running the right objective It's conversions. They're not taking it to a page off of Facebook to capture a legit lead They're not putting their face out in that ad. They're trying to hide behind the camera That's the bottom line why most real estate agents do not capture leads and most business owners because now From 2016 this is all I've been talking to a real estate agents But as I started building my YouTube channel about a year ago Now I have momentum on my YouTube channel and now I'm having a lot of different type of business owners Find me on YouTube and reach out to me for consultation Right other business owners as well They're all afraid of the camera too And it's like that's why your ads aren't working because social media is personal branding But if you don't want a personal brand yourself then then then social media marketing might not be for you That's right. You know and it's very expensive. Look look look this person right here This could easily be an agent if I kept seeing her and she's running an ad Eileen They're sponsored. There's her face if I kept seeing this every single week if I kept seeing that every day and She wasn't just pitching a listing. She wasn't just pitching an open house coming up Let's say she was putting out a video every week On the topic of selling so right here. She's educating me right here This is a this is a one-minute video watch the scroll it back. This is a 54 second video Teaching me what it takes to sell and every week she has a new topic Hey guys, this is Eileen this week We're gonna talk about curbapill and the importance of making sure that you're landscaping and this and that is up to date So when you go and list your property your value is there she could easily be dropping one new weekly video Educating me on the process of selling. Oh, and then here's the last thing here's the last thing and At the end of the video, let's say she's a listing agent Here's the last thing. Here's what most people here's what every agent does not do and every business owner. Here's the last thing But what what what agents are not doing is they're just what they are doing is they're pitching Everyone's pitching how awesome they are everyone's pitching. No one is giving away value So imagine if she was educating me on the process of selling and at the end of the video She said hey guys, and by the way, I put together a 2020 seller guide It's nine pages and it consists of all the tips and strategies that we give our clients when they go to sell The education the tips the strategies what we tell them to do for the paint the renovation the kitchen How they should update their roof all the things that homeowners need to know to position their property for the best Possible price point is all in this nine page PDF and I want to give it away for free So if you click learn more if you click learn more, it'll take you straight to my page Where you can download your free seller guide Talk to you guys soon So what she's doing every week is she's educating me on the process of selling She's given away a seller guide and she's capturing leads in her local backyard That's the last thing I have for you. No one is giving away any value Which is educating me via video? No one's doing that and no one's giving me a tangible Physical PDF that I can put in my hand. That's gonna educate me on what they're talking about Right, so if she was giving away a seller guide and I can come over here and download it and read it With my wife at home while we're drinking wine Like that's value and and and if I kept seeing her in my news feed if look She stands out just like you you got a good look if you were on video you would stand out Yeah And for you to think that that's expensive. That's another thing that blows my mind You don't think that 600 a month For local branding and capturing leads and taking over Los Angeles is a lot.  Let's say you're selling 500,000 Like what's your commission on 500k? For us to say we won't put 600 into into a monthly campaign. It blows my mind and I get it Everyone has expenses. Everyone has liability. I get it. Everyone has overhead. I get it But this is important. Yeah, it's like marketing is everything and that and and yeah, it's like It blows my mind it blows my mind it blows my mind like we're the first to get that 10,000 are 10,000 are a commission check and hit the mall We'll be the first to go get that bag or those shoes, but we won't market our own business It blows my mind. Yeah. No, no makes this was great. No, this totally you answered all my questions and concerns And you don't have to start you don't have to start that That high 600 like you could start half that and facebook doesn't even bill you all at once That's the good thing about facebook is they bill you once per month So if you started ads on the first they don't bill you till the 31st But you have all month to run ads all month to capture leads You know, that that's the good thing about facebook is that it's it's it's it's it's not 600 up front like right and and you would start at $10 a day with video just roll out some videos But again, no one wants to do video right you know, so so that's why like That type of branding for me to see her in my news feed every single freaking day And all she's doing is giving away a seller guide That's right. That's powerful like that's powerful She would be the queen of real estate after just a few videos after four or five videos. I can see her she lives down the street She's giving away education in the video. She's giving away a seller guide that I can download and read She's she's queen. She takes over she dominates That's all it takes and no one no one's doing that. No one's doing that. Let's let's do it You know, it just comes out of the budget. I mean it comes down to having the budget It comes down to to being comfortable with video and and and and just educating It's not about it's not about high produced Hollywood video like no this is this video right here was shot in a park on her cell phone Right Like there's nothing to it like nothing that's natural light. She doesn't have a green screen or light, you know production like It's that simple like it's that simple and no one does it Yeah, so when you when you when you can reach out to me say david I'm comfortable with video david. I have the budget. Let's run Then that's when but that that that's when we can run but to tell you the truth That's why I don't I don't even take on monthly clients no more That's not even my business model.  They don't most agents aren't doing the video and most agents aren't closing deals every every month and most Most agents don't have the monthly budget to retain a marketer So I don't do it that way no more. I don't want to take you on as a monthly client What I would do is I would teach you how to run these ads yourself and then just be your just be your consultant on the site What that's what I do now.   That's what I do now Okay, once you stop recording this I have a couple of things to tell you That was we're done


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Hey, what's up coach now? I wanted to shoot this quick video because I've spoken with a lot of trainers recently That are dealing with the same problem. And here's what it is Let's say a parent is interested in training with you and you're busy you're either out at the field You're at the courts wherever you're doing your session at someone texts you or someone calls you and You're trying to like figure out the best way to communicate with them And a lot of coaches what happens is like you let the lead slip through the cracks So like you forget to respond because it's late at night Or you have something going on. So it's like you just don't get back to them Or you try to call them like on the spot because like maybe you are ready to talk to them right the problem that I'm seeing though is if you just call someone and They're not ready for your call most likely. They're not going to pick up So you scheduling the call with the parent is so key and I've seen too many coaches right now that just don't have an organized way of Scheduling the call and actually having that sales call with the parent. So if you're watching this I want you to just ask yourself and just say Do I have a step-by-step pattern of how I deal with new people that are interested in training with me Because if you don't it makes you as the trainer look very Disorganized to the parent and I want you to imagine these parents that are reaching out to you that very day They're also reaching out to other Coaches and trainers in your in your area. They're not just shopping for one person They're shopping for someone that can help them. All right, and they're oftentimes they want someone to get back to them quickly So if you are on it from day one you're professional with your response and you have a process to reach out to them and Actually get on a call with them you will be very different than the other trainers that are in your area So I want you to think about that and if you need help Step-by-step with what I'm talking about where you have a process where someone comes in You have a scheduled call you know what to say on that call You lead them to an evaluation session and then you get them to sign up for a longer term contract If that's something you need help with our accelerator program can obviously help you with that But if you want to just chat for like five ten minutes with me And I can go over your process with you and try to figure out different ways to improve it Send me a text at this number right here And I'd love to chat with you because this single thing can make a huge difference in your business long-term. That's it catch you later


When the narcissist wants another chance, I'm sure many of you may be dealing with this Where you may have already given the narcissist so many chances And typically they do the same things again and again It's like they're never going to stop Even if you confront them and you tell them what is wrong Once they know that it's getting to you it's hurting you They will typically save that in their back pocket for a later date So that they can use it again as ammunition against you It will typically make things even worse. It's not going to make things better When you confront them and you tell them that their behavior is wrong But whether or not you decide to give them another chance, that's really up to you And you may not know for sure whether or not you are actually dealing with a narcissist So some of you may believe that they can change And what I would say to that is How many chances have you given them already? I mean of course everyone deserves more than one chance Maybe two or three But when you're giving them 10 chances 20 chances And it just keeps going on and on At some point you need to know when to stop You need to be able to recognize that it's not going to get better It's only going to get worse Because what you're doing then is you are enabling them You become an enabler Because you already know that their behavior is not right You already know that something is wrong with it and when you're around them And they keep repeating the same things You are enabling their behavior to continue You're making it possible Narcissists will always want another chance They're very arrogant and entitled They think they're the best thing since sliced bread And they expect you to see it as a privilege just to even be around them And because of that yes, they will feel entitled to your time and energy And typically they don't tend to look back at all of the things they've done to you They will provoke you to react and then they will focus on your reaction They're not going to look back to see what caused that reaction And this is just how it is with narcissists. It's like this toxic amnesia But they don't even seem to remember what they did wrong It's this denial projection, blame-shifting, gaslighting And even the double bind as well where it's like no matter what you do, it's still wrong Because they always feel like they're wrong That's why they had to create the false character and the illusion So that maybe then they can't be wrong anymore And that is why you will find that you can never confront them on anything Because they always have to be perfect They always have to be right They have this blackaway mentality Where whatever they think of their minds that becomes the truth The problem is it's always based on their emotions So the truth can change from one moment to the next What's the truth now May not be the truth tomorrow It could be something different by then So considering all of this Should you give the narcissist another chance Myself I would say that it's probably not a good idea I would say that you just be setting yourself up for even more abuse Because that's all that they're going to do to you There's only two things you're ever going to get from a narcissist And that is abuse or manipulation You're never going to get anything else other than that And yes they will lie to you, they will future fake They will try to make you believe in a possible future with them But it's never going to pan out in the way that you might think And to be honest I don't think you should want a future with them anyway Because it's not going to result in anything good They need you far more than you need them And if you go no contact, you move on Eventually you will realise that you never needed them You're perfectly fine on your own But they want you to believe that you need them around you They want to make you dependent on them Because by doing that then they can keep you around And then they can get supply from you Which validates their false character and the illusion So that's all that that's designed to do It's all manipulation Making you think that you need something around you when you actually don't You don't need that around you at all But what you do need is some time by yourself Self reflection Because doing that will empower you But yeah as I said it's really your choice whether or not you decide to give them another chance That's your decision I would say that it's usually not a good idea It's just going to set you up for more abuse And the longer you stay with them the worse it's going to get I mean you just got to look back at the time you've spent with them already How long have you been with them so far? Some of you may have been with a narcissist for five years Just look back at those five years that you spent together What did you experience with them throughout that time? Are you willing to stick around for another five years for that same amount of progress? Because that is how it's likely to be Which is why sometimes it's best just to cut your losses It's best just to forget about them and leave them in the past Because if you are dealing with a true narcissist Nothing good is going to come out of that They're always going to be the exact same way You're never going to feel good or comfortable around them But many of you You think that if you stick around Maybe they've had this false epiphany And they've given you this fake apology You may think that now things are going to change Things are going to be better But most often they're just telling you whatever they think you want to cure And a lot of times yes they do get it wrong But they will feed you whatever they think will keep you around But it doesn't mean they're about it for real All they can do is give you the false character Once you've seen who they really are All they can do is put that mask back on And pretend to be something they're not Pretend to be about something that they're not really about They're not about change They're not about being anything better They're not about growing together with you And you should know by now that they are just about keeping you down Because that's all that they can do You generate this powerful energy From within you And when they see it they just want to stamp it out or take it away from you They don't want you to have that And a lot of you may be isolated They don't want you to be around any other powerful or influential people People who could be a positive influence in your life Because they see it as though that's taken your power away from them Which is why they want to be your only source of influence So that they can be the judge, jury and the executioner They can tell you what's right, what's wrong What's good and what's bad They can be the be-all and end-all But you should know by now that that isn't any good for you That's not going to make you better That's not going to improve your life That's just going to make matters worse for you But I know many of you may want to stick around and see if things do get better But typically they won't, as I said, all you're ever going to get is abuse and manipulation They're just going to keep lying to you and deceiving you Because they have this very fragile sense of self And they need to protect it at all costs And of course they do that through you They filter everything through you They live vicariously through you And that's why it's all about just stripping you down, isolating you Taking away all of your passions and interests Anything that you like, anything that you've got going on Anything that makes you you If it makes you you, no, they don't want that around you They don't want that around you at all But what they do want around you Is they're suffocating and overbearing presence To where you just become this extension of them, this reflection You're whoever and whatever they want you to be Because they want you to think that something is wrong with you That is the whole point of the devaluation Is to keep you down and make you question yourself Because by doing that Then they can strip your power away from you By making you think that you're not right or something is wrong with you They're not going to do anything to empower you as an individual As your authentic self Because that is a huge threat to their false character and the illusion So of course they don't want you to do that But as I said yes this is what I advise you to do Take some time to yourself Go for a walk somewhere You could do like what I'm doing right now As you can see I'm just walking on the beach Or you can walk in a forest like I did earlier Just try to find some time to yourself Where they are not constantly pressuring and suffocating you When you have some alone time Then you will begin to find that confidence in yourself again It will empower you But being around narcissists Yes they want you to see it as a source of validation and empowerment But that is actually disempowerment That disempowers you I've said as I've always said Your power comes from you being alone From isolating yourself Not forever but just for a certain amount of time When you do that You will find the source of your energy and power from within So yes that is what I advise you to do I know a lot of you can't go into contact for whatever reason But I still recommend that you take some time to yourself Even if it's just a small amount of time each day That will help you It's not good when you're just experiencing abuse and mobilization day after day It's destroying you Of course as I said it helps when you take some time for yourself Even if you're just watching one of my videos It can help to inspire and motivate you But be very careful watching these videos when you're around the narcissist Of course they don't want you to do that They don't want you to see me or listen to my voice Listen to my message Because it goes against them It goes against their narrative It goes against what they want you to believe about them Other people and the world around you So yes be very careful when you are watching my videos Yes it may be good for you You may enjoy it It may inspire and motivate you But it's not going to be any good for them They're just going to tear that shit apart They're going to pick apart everything that I or another YouTuber or coach says in the video And they're just going to give it a different meaning or interpretation Other than the message that I'm actually trying to give to you So yes let this be a source of influence to you Let it motivate and inspire you And I know that it will for a lot of you I know that it will uplift you It will make you feel better It will make you recognise that strength and confidence in yourself And of course yes that's what we all want We want everyone to feel uplifted Thought I'd just come out here For the end of the day Enjoy this view at the beach As I said before not everything is perfect for me Of course there are ups and downs But I'm still out here living my life And I'm enjoying every minute of it Even though at times it may not seem like it But yes this is what I advise you to do Go to the beach if you have one near you You should be using it And if not you can walk in the forest Go to a lake Just be around nature I know it will feel good for you After everything you've been through with this person All of the things they put you through Sometimes it just feels good to be free To be able to be yourself and do what you want to do So yes of course that is what I advise for you Anyway that's it for this one As always yes of course There will be more videos soon And you can hit the subscribe down below To receive the notifications for my future videos Other than that please give it a thumbs up as well If it was helpful for you And as always I will talk to you in another video very soon