Welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast. I am your host Rob dial and if you have not yet done So hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode of this podcast This might seem weird and woo wooing. I completely understand that because I'm a very logical Sensible person, but when I go through this and I'm very analytical as well You're going to see what I mean by how the law of attraction works whether you happen to be woo woo Or whether you happen to be a very analytical Science-based type person. This is going to make sense to you no matter which one you are I'm going to teach you how to use the law of attraction to get what it is that you want in your life Now I'll tell you this I've been using it now for about 15 years And I can't tell you this no matter what your stance is on the law of attraction It works if you take notes on this if you use it I'm going to teach you how it works how to use in your life and how to get what you want in life as well On a basic sense. This is what the law of attraction says it says that you can attract anything that you want into your life But you need to believe in it to your core And if you believe in it to your core every single cell in your body Then you will get whatever that thing is but that's the secret to it is that you have to you have you have 50 trillion cells in your body right now, right? You have to get all of those cells to go towards that one thing in the way that you control Your 50 trillion cells is through the central voice your thoughts and that's what we're going to go into I'm going to go much more in-depth, but basically you will attract into your life what you think about the most That's the easiest way to think of the law of attraction, but we're going to go much more in-depth than just that alone Now you may have seen the movie the secret the secret is on the law of attraction I think it's a great movie. It's a great book But I think it leaves a lot out the way that the secret seems to be for me is I'm going to sit down I'm going to figure out what it is that I want I'm going to sit there and I'm going to think about it all day long And it's just going to the universe is just going to bring it into my life And I think that that's part of it, but it's missing a lot and that's what I want to dive into And there's no real explanation of how it works So it makes it a lot easier to believe in something when you know exactly how it works because then you go Okay, yeah, I can get behind this idea You know, you can't just sit there and just Meditate the rest of your life and try to meditate a million dollars in your bank account without actually getting up And doing something right so it requires you to yes the law of attraction But also it requires action you got to do something so we're going to dive into that and to understand the law of attraction We must understand our bodies as they are our bodies are Molecular structures that are vibrating at a massive speed at all points in time So you can look at my hand and my hand seems like a solid object, but my hand is not solid It is actually vibrating if you were to be able to look at my hand through a microscope You'll be able to see all of the trillions of cells in my body all of them moving at a specific rate Whatever that is if you look at anything that you can see in your physical reality Everything is a vibrating structure my desk this Podcasting mic the camera this recording it on my computer this recording this audio everything is vibrating It's just that everything is vibrating at different speeds and we're constantly vibrating everything is the difference between my body and my desk though Is that my desk is one constant speed one constant vibration my body? Changes depending on my thoughts and my feelings so you know I'll give you a perfect example of how this is going to make sense to you have you ever walked up to somebody and You just have a bad feeling around that person like there's just a feeling of something's not right Right that is your body's vibration and their body's vibration coming into contact with each other And they're not in alignment in some sort of way That's called destructive interference if you want to go deeper into it right But if you ever met somebody before and you don't know why but you just connected them and you get an incredible feeling around them That is my body and their body their fields coming together I know it sounds weird I get it for those guys that are in a local our fields coming together because you're your vibration of your body Doesn't just stay within your skin right so we are in Alignment if I'm vibrating at a certain rate and that person's vibrating a certain rate I'm gonna have good feelings That's where the phrase good vibes come from that's also where the phrase bad vibes come from as you can tell Whether something's right or right wrong you can tell whether someone is right or wrong based on have basically how you feel now in order to Understand how the law of attraction works. We must understand two separate things number one is our conscious mind Which is the mind that you hold all of your thoughts in and the other one is then your subconscious mind So we're gonna get really deep today. I hope you're ready Right your conscious mind is the mind in which you think right your conscious mind is only about 5% of your thoughts throughout the day Right everything you think about and you can only hold one thought at a time Your subconscious mind is like your mind's filing cabinet.  It's what you believe. It's what you don't believe. It's what you love It's what you hate.  I'm never gonna be rich to successful, you know I Have to do bad things to make money money's the root of all evil money doesn't grow on trees now I've got a paradigm around money Which is going to change my perception of the view of money of the world It's gonna change my thoughts around money It's gonna change my vibration around money and it's going to dictate the way that I either attract money or don't attract Money or the actions that I take to go make money or the actions. I take not to make money, so If you're poor now as an example If you're rich now as an example if you're good in relationships now if you're bad in relationships All of those are guided by your paradigm and those were all programmed into you at some point in time when you were a kid Now that being said when we're looking at the program and really the conscious and the subconscious mind We're looking at the paradigm. It's not something that you can just change overnight It's not just something that happens quick and easy. It takes time But believe me it's worth putting time into and to actually start figuring these things out, right? So ultimately what we're trying to do is we're trying to in its simplest form We're trying to affect and change all of the results that we have in our life. We're trying to affect our Are in change out of the results around our money making more money if we want our relationships having better relationships our happiness our joy Our success everything and it all starts with what you think right and what you think whether it's good or whether it's bad goes Into your subconscious and will eventually produce whatever results you want in your life Now if you want to change your results, you're going to have to change your thinking, right? And all of your results typically line up with your paradigm. So let me give you an example There's gonna be a lot. I promise you. I told you this is gonna be a big this can be a rich episode just so you know Do you know somebody who has all of the education in the world? They have you know degrees falling off the walls and they're getting another degree and another degree and another MBA and all Of the stuff, but they just can't seem to succeed. They just can't seem to figure it out Do you know anybody like that if you ever heard of someone like that? Why do you think that is because they think that education is going to change them? But it's not what actually changes and needs to change is their paradigm because they can get all of the education They want to in the world, but the paradigm hasn't hasn't changed now What does this have to do with the law of attraction your paradigm is in control of the Frequency of vibration that you set off into the world the frequency and the vibration that your body is at so in order to change your Vibration you must change your frequency in order to change your frequency You have to understand how your programming works how your paradigm works and what is stored inside of your subconscious And when I say change your frequency and your vibration the easiest way to think of it is this You know if I'm inside of my car and I'm going for a drive and I have the AM Station turned on in my car my car will never Pick up an FM station if I am tuned into an AM station, right? It won't happen because I'm in an AM station not an FM station So the same thing happens where if the law of attraction the way that works if I have a poverty mindset if I have a poverty paradigm if my subconscious is being run by You know these poverty thoughts and money's the root of all leave You have to screw people over and you have to work all day in order to become successful If I have that poverty mindset then I'm going to send that it's in my thoughts. It's in my body I'm vibrating a poverty mindset frequency. I'm gonna send that out into the world, right? So an example of that would be all of the people places opportunities and things that could get me out of my poverty mindset I won't even notice them Why because if someone comes in that could change my or an opportunity comes in that says Oh, this could get me out of my poverty mindset. I'm not even going to recognize that it's something that could help me I'm automatically going to push it away the same way That if I meet somebody and I'm not vibrating at the same frequency as them I'm gonna get bad vibes So for instance, I might have a poverty mindset and the best freaking investment opportunity or the best business idea can come into My awareness can come into my field can come into my, you know I can literally be sitting there and talking to somebody who's got the best business investment They can make me millions of dollars if I'm vibrating is at a negative, you know poverty mindset I'm not even going to take that thing as an option. I'm gonna be like no, this isn't right It doesn't feel right, which is usually how you can tell, you know the frequency. It doesn't feel right Why because I'm vibrating at poverty if abundance in in wealth comes into my life and starts to vibrate I'm not going to be in line with it. There's gonna be a part of my bias says no Rob Don't do this. Don't do this. Don't do this. Therefore. I will reject that person. I will reject the opportunity I will reject everything around me that could get me into my abundance I could get me into my wealth because I am at a poverty mindset Make sense if I'm vibrating at that frequency of poverty then anything that's not lined up without poverty I'm going to reject It's crazy, isn't it, you know So what happens is we have to get ourselves on a quote-unquote money-making frequency We have to realize that our programming of money's the root of all evil and you know You have to screw people over whatever it is that is your your your frequency the station that you're turned into the same way That if I'm on an AM station, I won't be able to pick up an FM station if I'm on a poverty frequency I'm not going to be able to pick up an abundance frequency or a wealth frequency It's simple it makes a whole lot of sense doesn't it remember the difference between myself and my desk is that we're both vibrating But I can change my my vibration. I can change my frequency. I could change the station that I'm turned into Right, so you will attract whatever vibration or station that you're turned into and you can only listen to that one station So if I'm on a poverty mindset, I won't be able to poverty station won't be able to get the abundance and you know abundance in wealth Frequency if I'm on the scarcity one, let's go to another one if you've been screwed over Maybe your maybe your parents divorced when you were younger and your mom talked about how all men screw you over and men are cheaters And don't trust men or you heard her maybe she even say it directly to you Maybe you ever heard her talking to friends about it, right?  This is just an example It could go the other way for men to women women and men and you keep repeating that thing over and over and over inside of Your head what's going to happen is you are eventually going to to create a paradigm around that you're gonna go from your take it from Your conscious thoughts stored into your subconscious mind Which is going to change the frequency that you're vibrating at and that's why so many people like I don't know why I keep dating men that are broken. I don't know why I keep dating men that are assholes I don't know why I keep finding people who are screwing me over who cheat on me all of this stuff It's because we tend to attract into our life Whatever it is that is going to line up with what we believe is true in our conscious mind and our subconscious mind and our paradigm We are going to attract those things into our life So if we even if we consciously even if you're a woman out there or even a man out there that just wants a really good man You're still going to attract The ones that are not good for you if you're always vibrating at the frequency of men will screw you over Same way for men for women for all of this stuff You know you can switch out all of the genders and any way that you want to it just makes sense though, doesn't it? So the same example if I'm a woman who wants a really good man But I've been screwed over and my mom said things when I was younger when a really good man comes into my life I won't even vibe with them or be attracted to them in a sort of way because they don't line up with the Reality of the way that I see the world I'm only going to be attracted to the people who Reinforce my paradigm of the way that I see the world So that's why you know someone comes in they could be really good for them And you're like why don't you see your friend maybe and yours like why doesn't she like him like he's perfect for Why because he as a really good man doesn't reinforce her belief Paradigm consciously and subconsciously of the world of men are assholes men screw you over men are cheaters Why does she always end up with those types of people because that's what she believes? at a Thought and at a cellular level that men actually are This is what meditations for this is what going out and actually becoming aware of these things is for is so you Can start to reprogram yourself you realize what station am I tuned into?  What station are you tuned into because whatever station if I'm tuned into 98.7 FM? I'm only going to get 98.7 FM. I'm not gonna get 710 a.m. If I'm tuned into 98.7 FM So I've got to pay attention to man What do I actually consciously and subconsciously think is true about money about business about? Relationships about wealth about happiness about abundance about scarcity all of these things because that's going to dictate Where my body is vibrating at and if something vibes with me, which is usually going to you know That's called constructive interference versus destructive interference Then I'm going to actually Understand that I'm only noticing and attracting things into my life that line up with the way that I actually Truthfully deep down at a cellular level believe the will the way that the world is so that's why you can consciously want success But then you're not taking any action That's why you can consciously want to have the best relationship, but you're screwing them all up or finding the wrong person That's why you can consciously want to have a successful business But you're freaking sleeping in and you're bringing the wrong business partners in and all of these things are happening Is because you have to become aware not only just of your conscious thoughts But of your subconscious thoughts and your paradigm around all of that because that's 95% of what you think about and it Doesn't happen overnight like I can't just go oh my gosh You know what I'm going to change my frequency and I'm just a different person You know you can try to work on it every single day But you have to resin you have to literally brainwash yourself into believing that that's why I have an episode You know, that's you know brainwash your your way to success or you have to brainwash yourself to change your paradigm And that's brainwash yourself to be successful that episode that I did Talks about how you have to spend every single moment every down time Brainwashing yourself with what it is that you actually truly want to do in this role So if you don't see results right away, it's not to be it doesn't mean it's not going to happen It just realize it takes time for you to reprogram yourself if you're 35 years old You've got 35 years of programming it might take more than a couple weeks to start to switch your programming Start to switch your paradigm and remember that we're all programmed from a young age So our our our job now as adults is to go back Look at what our pair our paradigm is look at what our programming was from a young age Ask ourselves does that line up with the future that I want for myself And if it doesn't then I need to consciously change it and also subconsciously change it because my it starts with my thoughts Which is my conscious mind they're stored into my subconscious mind that changes my vibration Which then changes what I attract to my life That's why if I have a poverty mindset once again in a great business Opportunity comes into my awareness comes into my life. I will be like no it just doesn't feel right It's not that doesn't feel right because it's not right for you It doesn't feel right because it's actually not Vibrationally matching where you are. It's too freakin abundant for you for where you are right now So if you want something in your life, are you tuned into it? Think about that for a second if I want something in my life.  If I want to have the best relationship in the world and attract the best man or the best woman into my life I need to sit there and I need to meditate it into my life and meditate and meditate and meditate and eventually that man Will just show up at my door.   I'm just ready to ready to stop playing games I want to attract her if you're that's what you're thinking, right?  How do you feel about it? Are you starting to actually feel that maybe a real relationship is something that you're you're gonna settle into like is your body at That vibrational frequency and and it sounds weird I understand a vibrational frequency and all that stuff, but you can ask yourself Do I feel ready to attract the right person? Do I feel ready to bring in the right person into my life and you can feel in your body the relaxed State that it can get into then your physical body You've actually got to leave your house, right? You've got to leave your house and go to places where you think that person might be and what happens is whether you realize it or not In the same way that you're vibing with somebody They also need to be vibing with you. So you might Might find somebody right now and they might be the perfect person for you But because you haven't changed your vibrational frequency to them. It doesn't feel right So if you work on yourself that's why they always say if you want to if you want to find the perfect person become that perfect person first because then you're Going to match them vibrationally and then it's going to be good vise between the two of you constructive interference versus destructive interference AKA bad vibes, so you can't just meditate that person into your life, right? Same way that if you want to have a million dollars in your bank account You need to program and consciously think about this money that you want to make and you've got to consciously Brainwash yourself and to believe in that this is actually true But then you've also got to get out and go make the money The money's not just going to show up and you're not going to just you know ding-dong FedEx is here to bank You know is that your is at your front door and they just drop a million dollars in cash?  So when they say attract things into your life with the law of attraction This is what it's talking about what you think about will be stored into your subconscious Your subconscious will change your vibration that vibration is at a certain frequency And you will only line up and get things that line up with that You know only get things that line up with that that frequency if you think you're gonna be poor your whole life You're gonna be poor your whole life if you think you're gonna be wealthy To at a cellular level deep down you'll eventually be wealthy it's gonna come to you if you think that people are always there screw you over and That men are there are gonna screw you over and cheat on you Then you're gonna find a lot of those people because those people line up with the reality line up with the frequency that you're vibrating at You're gonna find only those people But if you switch it around and you truly believe that the right person for you is out there as long as you get Yourself out there that person is going to find you you're gonna find them and when you do find you're going to match Vibrationally, which is how the law of attraction works So I've done past lessons talking about the law of attraction But now we're gonna talk about how to actually use that in your life And one of the things that comes down to immediately and I want to start off before we go any further Is to tell you this if you want to attract quote-unquote the life you want if you want to Manifest the life you want or if you just want to create the life that you truly want the first thing that you need to start doing is to stop Focusing on what you don't want So I'm gonna take a take a pause and I'm gonna ask you a question before you go any further When you were if you were to take yourself out of your own head and look at Everything that you think throughout the course of the day between your 60 to 80,000 thoughts that you have every single day Which is about average for a human Are you focusing and thinking more about what you want or are you focusing about more of what you don't want? what you fear what you are worried about because what you focus on you will get more of and The reason why I'm doing this episode is because my girlfriend Lauren and I we were driving about three nights ago We were driving back from dinner and we were just talking about life and about how I feel like Basically all of my dreams have come true like I don't really have a whole lot of goals because I'm like damn I kind of checked them all off the list, which is awesome But I feel like I am the creator of my reality like I feel like I created this life Now obviously I had people that helped me I had mentors along the way no man as an island but I feel like I Created this as if I was a painter that walked up to a blank canvas and just wrote down exactly what I want and I drew out this perfect life and I created it and One joke that my mom and I have had for a really long time since I got started getting into personal development about 15 years ago Since I got into the law of attraction and trying to manifest things is that I tell my mom and I've told her because she's always like How do you always she's like you always get what you want and I'm like most of the time I do get what I want The reason why and here's the secret this is what I told my girlfriend the other day is the opposite of what I want So first I've actually meet before I said I know exactly what I want. I'm very clear and exactly what I want I'm very clear on the the life. I've wanted to create the lifestyle I've wanted to create the traveling that I've wanted to do the money that I want to make the Person that I want to attract into my life the people that I want to be surrounded by I'm very very clear on all of those The reason why I happen to get those things in my life is because the opposite of what I want doesn't even Exist in my reality in my head I never go to fear that I won't get what I want worry that something could come up in the way Worry about other people's opinions the opposite of what I want doesn't even exist in my reality So why do I get the life that I why do I have the life that I've created is because Nothing else exists in my reality I'm walking up to a blank canvas, and I'm painting whatever the I want to create right so when you think about your life Are you thinking of your life the exact same way or are you thinking about the things that you don't want? Are you focusing on worry and fear and sadness and all of the negative emotions, right? So I can give you many examples in my life first off since I'm already talking about my girlfriend my girlfriend Didn't want to date me when she first met me. She didn't want a boyfriend at all She just got a relationship a couple months before and I was like hey That's great and all but I think I'm pretty good. I think you're pretty good I think would be a good match and eventually she was like oh, I do like this guy, right? So she was like yeah, she tells a story all the time. I didn't I wasn't I wasn't in the mood I didn't want to date people. I was just kind of having a great time by myself But I was like I really like this girl really attracted I think that we fit really well and now we've been together for years and you know because I just feel like that's what I wanted and in Turn she was like oh, I'm starting to see who this guy truly is right So the first thing I can think of is is with Lauren when I was younger way before that I used to sell knives I worked for him we called cut comb and I was I've never been in sales before But all I wanted to do is be the the very best Sales rep that I possibly could be so I was like you know what I'm going to be number one in the office There is no other option. I will not be anything other than that, right? And so I built up some confidence I built some confidence eventually became number one in the good the office that I was in in Tampa Then I became a manager with the company I was like I will not lose to anybody else because I feel like I am the best that exists I'm out there and I it was just this inward belief. It's never a Cockiness or anything like that just this this confidence this inward belief that I know who I am I know what I deserve and I know what I can do and my capabilities so I'm going to go and I'm going to create it So then I built my office someone office United States, right? Then I left there because I was like I feel like I've done everything that I can and then I decided to you know Go into the corporations that I went into and I was the youngest sales rep in those companies But still also became the number one sales rep in those companies I decided to start a podcast became you know the the top motivational podcast in all of iTunes We're going to do about 50 million downloads in the next year And and then I decided to start a Facebook page and how my video starts go viral So I put time into figuring all of those things out you know, we're about 1.5 billion views on Facebook and I don't say these things to brag in any sort of way I just say them because number one. I know what I want Number two the opposite of what I want Failure doesn't exist in my mind. It doesn't exist in my reality If it doesn't exist in my reality, and I am the creator of my reality, then there's absolutely no way that I will fail So that's number two and then number three. I just don't give up I don't I don't I don't see anything as failure unless you give up and so I just decide Slow and steady wins the race life is a marathon business is a marathon everything's a marathon I'm going to put every ounce of energy that I have into whatever this thing is that I want And I'm not going to do anything else until I succeed at it, right? So I don't say any of these things to brag I just say it because this is my perspective what the past 15 years have been for me and how I've created what I have and It comes down to what I tend to focus on right and I say this a lot too I teach coaches how to impact the world and how to make money and how to grow their coaching businesses And one thing that I always say to them is don't focus on this not working out Like if you're trying to build this coaching business not working out should not exist in your reality Right because if it does and you're focusing on what if this doesn't work out? What if I can't pay my bills? What if this person says no to me? What if one of my clients cancels you're probably going to create that in your reality But if you step up and you say this will be the business that makes me the dreams the dream life that I want I'm going to impact the world I'm going to do this and this and this and that's the only other option that exists for them Then that's what they're going to create Right, so I want to pause and take a step back and when you hear me talk about these things the first thing I want to say is I haven't always been this confident in my Capabilities this is 15 years of working on myself and actually seeing how this works and Understanding the law of attraction understanding manifestation understanding Even if the law of attraction manifestation are not things that you focus on or they're not in reality They sound too woo woo for you.  Are you concentrating on building the life that you want or you? Concentrating on I hope this doesn't I hope I don't fail. I hope other people don't judge me I hope this person doesn't cancel their order. I hope this works out for me, right? And so you have to Have this internal confidence that will be built It will the more that you do it and moist if you try this out and it works for you You'll gain a little bit of confidence you try it out You get works for you gain a little bit more confidence and more and more and more and over years It just compiles into I don't lose and that's what you'll start to get to is just you won't lose Winners win and when you step into becoming a winner and you have that winners mentality losing doesn't exist It doesn't because you just won't give up Right and so like I told you my mom says I get everything that I wanted always it always she always makes a joke on it I just feel like I'm kind of dancing with the universe like I I don't know the way the universe works And I don't think I ever will I don't think I'm ever gonna be that intelligent God the universe whatever is out there I just feel like we're kind of in a dance and we're having a tango and I'm moving and it's moving and we're figuring it out together and And I don't even like to you know It's hard to use the right words because when I say the life that you want I'm also taking a step back in my head because I don't even necessarily know if the word want is the best word because want is A word that comes from a place of lack Right a place of I don't have this thing and in order to be a powerful creator you have to create from a place of absolute certainty and Pure fulfillment as to where you currently are so when I want something a lot of times I'm wanting something coming from a place of lack I don't have this thing and this thing that I want will complete me in some sort of way Right, that's the reason why a lot of relationships don't work out is because people want to get into the Relationship because they are there quote-unquote better half or because they complete them.  It's not like I'm I'm Incomplete without this person that person's incomplete without me. We're we're you know two halves No, it's like your hole their hole and you're creating something amazing so I Hesitate saying that this is a life that you want Because I feel like it comes from a place of lack But I'm really running out of words to use here. So we're just gonna have to use those words But you know, it's not even it's not even that you want it. It's that you are absolutely Certain that it will happen, you know, so how can you? Brainwash yourself in a sense to being like my future that I want is going to happen and so when people usually hear about the law of attraction they hear about manifestation they think that they're supposed to go into some You know nirvana states and meditate and they're gonna start floating and then that they're gonna say oh money is freeing Freely flowing into my life from all the areas of the universe and the the perfect lover that I've always wanted My entire life is gonna be knocking at my door soon like all that stuff's beautiful That's what you want to do, but I just happen to be a very, you know Analytical logical person and I'm like, you know what instead of actually sitting there and just Meditating on the idea. I'm going to fully embody the idea. There's nothing wrong with the meditating on I promise you that I do meditate as well, but it's like I'm with with every action that I take I am going to be the person that will create this life and I am going to Create this reality from absolute certainty So I know that for some of you guys this probably is a big step because maybe you haven't Got an amazing results in everything that you've been wanting to do in your life and so to think Okay, and if I look in my past, I don't have a whole lot of examples of massive success from me Right, I've been there before I understand exactly what you're talking about if that's sitting in the back of your head But you have to be able to strip away the past and strip away the present say hey None of those things actually matter at all for the future that I'm going to create and so I've got to in my head Start from a place of absolute certainty. What do I need to do to start from a place of absolute certainty? Well, I need to strip away the past and you strip away the present and you say the future is Being written at any moment every moment everything that I do I've got a number one be very clear on what it is that I want you guys have heard it said in ancient texts the Bible all Of them they say asking it. She'll be given right Well, if you're going to ask for something if you're going to focus on something you better be very very clear on Exactly what it is that you want So the first part of creating this absolute certainty is number one Be very clear on what it is that you want because when you're very very clear on what is that you want it makes it easier to go And hit it you've heard me say it before if I were to take you and the number one archer in the entire world And have you to line up and shoot a bow and arrow at something some target They're gonna beat you every single time But if you blindfold them and spin them around so they don't know what direction they're facing and then you are able to You know literally see the target have nothing over your eyes You have a better chance of hitting it not because you're better simply because you can see the target So the more clear that you can be on what it is that you want to creating a life The more likely it is that you're going to be able to create it, right? We are all conscious creators We are creating at every moment of our lives the exact life that we want right you are creating it if you Focus on what you want you will create more of those things that you want You will notice the people places opportunities things in front of you that will create that if you're focusing on what you don't want You will notice and create the people places opportunities and things that will create the reality of what it is that you don't want Right you've heard me talk about this before there's a part of your brain called the reticular activating system That is basically the brain's filtering system At any moment in time your brain could if it would probably explode if you were to be able to take all In taken about two trillion bits of information, but it only takes in two hundred bits of information per second So your reticular activating system is the filtering system And so if you're going into your day and you know what it is that you want, but you're thinking to yourself Yeah, I'm not I'm not good enough I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do this then your reality is going to show you all of the places that you are Not good enough why simply because your reticular activating system the filtering system is going to find all of the places that you're not Good enough Your brain is basically like cosmic Google. Whatever you ask of it. It will find the answer to You ever have any friends that have terrible relationship problems, and they're like why do I always find the guys that cheat? Right if you ask yourself that question brains gonna go It's gonna pull up all of the answers as to why you only find the guys that cheat But if someone were to ask that different question say why do I deserve to have somebody who's loyal?  On all of the people who are the cheaters and why you find them or? On why you deserve to have someone that's loyal, right? If you focus on what you don't want you will get what you don't want because your reticular activating system is Focused on those things if you focus on what you do want you will get more of what you do want So if you know exactly what it is that you want and you set your reticular activating system to go and get it Once again the people places opportunities things will pop up in your life and show you Where you could possibly move forward in the direction that you're looking for so you have to be very clear of what you're looking for a Perfect example of this is I went a few years ago my friend It was his birthday and we went on these really fast go-karts They were like 50 miles an hour and the guy who owned this track here in Austin is an ex F1 driver He's actually driving F1 Super funny nice French guy making jokes the whole time as he's explaining everything to us And then he got really serious at one moment and he said listen to me looks everybody straight in the eye He says if there is a crash which there will be and my friends are kind of crazy So there were a lot of them. He said do not look at the crash because you will hit them You've got to look at where you want to go and I was like That makes so much sense. That's exactly how life is because if you look at the crash what you don't want You will hit the car in front of you You ever see a car on the side of the road on the interstate and they're not moving But somehow some cars just end up hitting them even though they're not moving because the person was looking at it So what are you looking at? Are you looking at where you want to go or are you looking at the crash and where you don't want to go? If you've ever been you know if you've anybody who listens rides a motorcycle knows someone who does They say look through the turn right so don't look at where you are when you're in a turn on a motorcycle You're looking at where you want to go because your body your brain will position you to get to that spot So you don't look at where you don't want to go You only look at where it is that you're trying to go the same way with your go-karts Same way with your motorcycles is exactly how it works in life You look and you focus on only what it is that you want to go and you don't have any other example that pops into your head If you're a salesperson out there the thing that I teach Mike the the coaches that I teach You know a lot of people in sales people say this is oh, I hope this person doesn't say no to me Versus I'm gonna have this this person is going to buy for me So instead of thinking I'm going this person's gonna buy for me people think I hope this person doesn't say no And if you go into it with the energy of I hope this person doesn't say no What do you think they're more likely to do? To say no right everything in life is energy but if you go into it if I if I just think about the energetic state of my body of This person's going to buy in what type of state that would put my body in and how that would change my physiology How that would change my voice to I hope this person doesn't say no Right like there's a different energetic state that both of them Put me into this person's definitely going to buy and I'm gonna change your life or I have this person doesn't say no And how that energy is going to translate to the other person They're probably gonna say no right you ever you ever walked into a room and started talking to someone and immediately you got Yeah, this doesn't feel right. It was bad feelings We've all been there before right and then something happens down the road that shows you. Oh, yeah, my original feeling about that person I was right You ever also had feelings though You meet somebody and immediately you're like I feel like I've known this person forever and become great friends It's the energy Think about how the thoughts of what I just said Change the energy of how you go in to what is it you do? It changes the emotion into it emotion is energy in motion E motion energy in motion So if I think thoughts it's going to change my energy in the way that I feel It's going to change the way that I act which is going to change my results in my physical world Because everything is energy And you can sense when energy is on you can sense when energy is off But the key to it is you have to think about the thoughts that are going through your head at any moment in time Every moment in time are the thoughts that are going through my head getting me closer to or further for my goals My focusing on what I want or what I don't want and you have to literally analyze every single thought that you have And it'll take some time. It'll take time to get used to I've been doing this now for 15 16 years now But I have so much proof of how my thoughts Change my energy change my actions change my reality And so what it takes is is ultimate self self-awareness You've got to think about every single thought that's coming through you've got to think about every Energetic state that you get into you got to think about every action that you have and it takes time It takes a lot of mental energy when you first get into this But then what happens is you start to change your thoughts you change your thoughts you change your thoughts And now instead of being habitualized to think negative thoughts and to think about what you don't want You start being habitualized to think positive thoughts and what is it? You do want because at any moment in time Every single thought that you have is creating a reality but You've got to think about this or the thoughts that you are having Creating the reality that you want if you change your thoughts You change your reality you change your future make sure that you know what it is that you want And then make sure that every thought that you have Lines up with that future that you want and that will then manifest the future in the life that you want Today we're gonna be talking about the incredible future that you want that seems and I get it sometimes when you think about The life that you could have the life that's in your dreams the the cars the houses the love the spouse the Family the traveling the private jet whatever it is that you want you think oh my gosh It would be so nice to have this thing But what we tend to do is by having that feeling of it would be nice What we're actually doing is we're actually pushing that thing away from us energetically because the the would be nice feeling Actually makes it feel like ah never gonna happen. Can you relate to that where you have the feeling of? Man, I would love to have that house on the water. It's beautiful. It's amazing, but Three million dollars. I don't know if I could ever afford three million dollars, right? And what you're doing is you're actually pushing yourself further away from the life that you want from Everything that you want because of the feeling of I just don't know if it's possible So today we're gonna talk about is how to normalize the feeling of the success that you want and what I mean when I talk about Normalizing I'm talking about normalizing Energetically inside of your body how it feels to think about those things how it feels to think about Owning those things and how it feels to think about you being the person that could Attract all of that success all of that happiness all of that love all of that Life that you truly want because the house the car the family the love the travel all of those things The easiest way to get those and this is gonna be kind of a mind mess up for most of you guys The easiest way to get all of the stuff that you wanted to future is To have them before you have them You're like what the hell does that mean to have them and to feel them energetically and I understand for some of you guys that are Analytical you're like this is sounds like some woo-woo. We'd be asked trust me on this. I get it. I've I understand this I'm extremely analytical But also I can dip my toes into the woo-woo stuff that's out there as well The easiest way to have the life that you want is to have it before you have it, right? So for those of you that are like, I don't get it you're gonna get it just follow along with me Okay, this is the reason why people who grow up rich It's a lot easier for them to make money, right because energetically It's just normal for them and what I mean energetically I'm talking about the feeling inside of your body when I grew up and I used to look at people who had money There was a part of me that was like, I don't know if I'll ever have it I don't know if I'll ever get there, right? Can you relate if you've if you've grown up not having a whole lot of money? Have you ever had the feeling of I don't know if I can do it though, right? I've had those feelings and most people have those feelings as well Those feelings inside of your body are what's holding you back from actually getting it, right? It's the reason why people who grow up with money end up usually making a lot of money not always But usually it's just easier for them. It's not too hard It's not as much to struggle and the reason why is because it's not too far down the road for them They're already in the road. They're already on the road. They already know exactly what it is that you need to do It's simple It's just normal That's what I mean by normalizing if they grew up in a mansion Well, then it's kind of just the standard to live in a mansion, isn't it? And so when they see other mansions, they're like, oh my god, look at those mansions. They're amazing It's just like, oh, yeah. Well, yeah, we have one as well. It's normal It doesn't feel like it's too far away But this is also the reason why it's so hard to break free from where you currently are is because where you are feels normal and Then the more normal that you feel The more uncomfortable it can feel to look at those things that seem so far out of your grasp They don't seem like something that you could ever get Right and so you have to normalize the feeling and I'll teach you how to do that today And I'll give you an example of a feeling that is normalized.  You're just blown away. It's beautiful. You love the pool.  I'm going over Stacy and John's right and you're still like wow This house is beautiful, but it doesn't blow you away every single time It blows you away the first time and then what happens it starts to become normal to go to Stacy and John's That's really what it is right when I first moved into the house that I have now I remember when I first walked in and I saw it.  I love this house is amazing I've never lived in a house like this I've never seen a house like this with this design and I was just blown away by it And then I realized about a month into being here I was like this just feels normal and I was outside and I was you know The dogs were outside going to the bathroom. I looked back and I was like I love this house But it feels normal to be here now like it doesn't feel like oh my god. It's amazing It was just like yeah, it you know, it's the house. I live in which is awesome, right? I love it But it feels normal It's a good thing normalizing the feeling so I remember when I was a kid I was lucky enough where even though I didn't grow up with a lot of money I was lucky enough in my opinion to have an aunt and uncle who my uncle made great money He had a business that was doing you know $20 million a year and he had a nice house and a nice car I lived in a gated community that was on the water on the the beach in Florida siesta key, Florida which is super nice beach and And it's the nicest community the nicest gated community that's on siesta key beach and you know You would go into the gated community and he used to have a golf cart and my cousin and I would drive the golf cart around and I Remember being a kid consciously 13 14 years old 15 years old whatever it is that we would you know younger So we were driving the golf cart and we would go and look at these houses and I was like these houses are amazing I'm gonna and I would tell myself all the time when I was a kid. I'm gonna live in a house like this one day I'm gonna live in a house like this one day I'm gonna live in a house like this one day and I would just drive around and I didn't realize I had no idea what the hell I was doing but what I was doing is I was starting to normalize the feeling of being around Houses that were massive I was in houses that were on the beach with beautiful views and Ferraris and Lamborghini's outside I was just I was normalizing that feeling right so I was lucky enough to be around people like that I was also lucky enough to see that my uncle is one of the kindest people I've ever met and so sometimes It when you're when you don't grow up with money and you don't see a whole lot of money You can see how sometimes people with money can be demonized in the media and people can talk trash about them But I've said it many times in my podcast some of the kindest best people I've ever met in my entire life have Boat loads of money and they're kind and they're amazing and they're beautiful people and that makes you realize Oh, they're not as bad as they tend to seem on the media sometimes, right? so I was lucky enough to be around people like that and so I think that for me The transition from not making much money to making a good amount of money was easier because I was around it And I was normalizing myself for years now if you haven't been around somebody with money or any that type of stuff It doesn't mean that you can't normalize the feeling I won't even lie to you when I first moved to Austin I used to there's there's a couple areas in Austin that are gated and I just love driving around and looking at houses And I love I've always thought to myself I want to normalize the feeling of being in houses like this and being in neighborhoods like this And so what I would do is no joke if I saw a neighborhood that I really liked I would park across the street and just wait for someone to drive in and I would just follow them in Why because I want I love to be able to dream Right, I love to be able to think that this could be mine not because I just want to own more shit But because I want to see What it would take from me to become the type of person to get something like that right think about that for a second What would it take for me to be the person to be able to get that thing that house or that? You know car, you know I was in a place the other day that I followed somebody in and they had a helicopter outside of their house And I was like that's pretty sick. I've never just seen someone's helicopter sitting outside. I thought it was amazing So there's there's examples of things like this a good friend of mine Tells us amazing story of how he he normalized the house that he wanted so he knew what part of town he wanted to live in and this is an Austin and lives out in the hills now and There was this big beautiful house was being built and he was driving by it one day This big beautiful modern house and it wasn't finished and you know big houses take time to to finish right they take years Sometimes to finish he saw this big beautiful house and he's he was like I'm gonna pull over and just see what the house looks like And it was in the middle of construction. There was nobody there It was like on the weekend or something like that or at night and And so literally he walked into the house and he's like holy crap like I can see it's got a pool I can see it starts to the layout of the house I can see the view of downtown Austin through the hills And so what he did was every day and this is important every day He would literally leave work. He has own business, but he would leave work and he would tell himself. I'm driving home I'm driving home. I'm driving home.  I'd recommend you don't do this at anybody who actually lives in a house This it'll be for construction, right? Don't go to someone's house and be like this is my house when you knock on their door But you know go you can go to the house and you went to the house and eventually the house is finished And the people who actually paid for the house moved into the house and then one day it went on the market and he went in to go see how much it was and it was over a million dollars for the house and He went in to see if he could afford it and the bank said he couldn't afford the loan But he said this is my house. This is my house. This is my house and over the next 30 days He was able to build his business to a such a significant number He went back into because you know this is before Austin's market was just insane like it is now He went back into the loan officer and asked them show them what his business was doing It was able to make it work. He bought that house Four years after normalize the feeling of that being his house. You could tell me that's a coincidence if you want to But there's also something behind the scenes that I think is working, right? Whether it's the universe or God or whether it's just the normalizing of the feeling or maybe it is coincidence He was able to normalize the feeling of that being his house that being the house that he was going to now What does he do? He walks into his house. He parks inside of his driveway. He sleeps in the room He told himself he would sleep in he has coffee every single morning with the view that he told himself He was gonna have coffee with the view it why because he freaking created his reality, right? So you got to think to yourself which reality am I creating? What feelings am I normalizing? Normalizing the feelings of being broke because I'm hanging out with broke people all of the time Right and they're talking about how you know the it's the government's fault. It's the president's fault It's my boss's fault. It's the the local authorities fault So whatever it is that's going on around them and they're like they're blaming They're taking all of the blame and externally putting on someone else or you hanging out with people who make You know making a decent amount of money normal to you to feel that way, right? What car do you want? Why don't you go test drive it guess how much it cost to test drive a car? Nothing, so if you have a car and it's on the background of your computer like when I was younger You stop cars in the background of my computer the background of my phone all that stuff I want to see it. I wanted to normalize it Why don't you instead of having it be on a computer which seems out of reach because you can't physically touch that Car through your computer. Why don't you go to the Audi dealership or whatever it is in test drive that car? Even if you can't afford it right now and as you're driving the car say this is my car I'm driving my car. I'm driving my car. I'm driving my car. I'm driving my car And then go a month later and do it again And then go a month later and do it again and just keep test driving the cars and go to different places And start to normalize the feeling if you have a you know a Toyota right now There's nothing wrong with it But if you're looking you're like I want an Audi well then as you are actually going to the Audi dealership Say I'm going to pick up my car. I'm going to pick up my car.  I I'm grateful that I do have this car that can drive me around but that Audi was amazing It's gonna give you internal drive to work harder towards that thing that you saw towards that thing that you want It's going to normalize the feelings inside of you of actually having that. What if you want a great relationship? Are there people around you that have incredible relationships? It's you know, maybe you grew up in a house that didn't your parents and have a great relationship Maybe they fought a lot. Maybe they got divorced and all you've ever seen was turmoil in a relationship Is there someone that you know are people that you can get around that have an incredible relationship so that you can? denormalize the feeling of Turmoil in a relationship and normalize the feeling of what an abundant beautiful loving relationship looks like if you want to be a Great parent, maybe you have your first kid on the way Do you know anybody? It's an incredible parent that you can normalize the feelings of being an incredible parent anything that you want in this world is within reach But if you look at something and you think to yourself, I don't know like energetically it feels too much to me It feels like it's impossible That is something that needs to be normalized because if you feel like it's impossible It is a hundred percent impossible if it feels like it's out of reach It is always going to be out of reach the way to bring it into reach is to be able to start to Live that life to normalize the feeling of that house to normalize the feeling of that car to normalize the feeling of that Relationship to normalize the feeling of being a great parent to normalize whatever it is that you want because everything that you want is fully 100% within your reach, but if you think to yourself that it is out of reach I promise you you've already taken yourself out of the race before you've even stepped up to the line The way to win in life is to figure out What is it you want and to normalize those feelings because the life that you want is within reach that ten years from now that perfect life that Beautiful family that travels all over the place and has the abundance of money to do whatever they want and to give it away And to give it to charity all of that is within reach But you have to normalize the feeling internally first before you actually get it externally the question I have for you is do you think that it's possible that you are being subconsciously Programmed and you're completely unaware of it Does that scare you Would it make you pay more attention to your surroundings and every single thing that you did if you were subconsciously being programmed Completely out of your awareness well you just might be and I'm gonna give you a couple stories that make you realize How possible it is and how little people understand what's actually going on so I'm gonna give you a couple stories about it One of them there was a study that was done about something called unconscious Priming unconscious priming you can Google you can look it up if you like to but Yale did a study to see if they could change the Way that somebody feels about something Simply by the temperature of the coffee that they're holding on to and so what happened was they had these these Students come in They would come in and the researcher would meet them down on the bottom floor and they would say hey good to meet you And then what they would do is they would say they'd hop into an elevator and they had a lot of stuff in their hands And they would notice the researcher would notice that their shoe was untied and what they would do is they would have you know They go hey Can you hold my cup of coffee for me real quick and so they would hand them the cup of coffee? They would put their stuff down. They would tie their shoe They'd pick up their stuff and then they get the cup of coffee back from them And then the person that was part of the research but didn't know that they're part of the research at the time There was part of the study that would go in and they would read a One-page story and it was just a typical story And then they were given a quiz real quick quiz at the end of it where they were told to answer questions about the person And you know so they would take one character from the story in the one page and then they would answer questions about them and You know all they would do is they would you know answer the questions then they would go and what they realized was this Was that even though they had just held a cup of coffee? For about 15 seconds at most it changed the way that they felt about the people that they were reading about about 15 minutes later So here's what happened The people that were given an iced cup of coffee because there was ice cup of coffee There was handed to people and then there was a hot cup of coffee There was handed people people that were given the iced coffee felt that the character that they had the questions about was much colder Less social and more selfish The people that were handed a hot cup of coffee for the researcher to be able to tie their shoe felt that the person was warmer More social in someone that they could trust So let me pause right there These people were given a cup of coffee one of one set of people were given a hot cup of coffee One set of people were given a cold cup of coffee and across the board Statistically the people who were given the cold cup of coffee felt that the person was cold less social and more selfish The people that were given the hot cup of coffee felt that the person was warm more social and somebody they could trust So if they're given literally 15 seconds of holding on to a cup of coffee and it changes their perception Around the world around them and everything that they think about people What is happening in your world that is changing your perception? Think about that for a second. How crazy is that that just a simple temperature of something that somebody holds for 15 seconds? Can change the way they feel about people 15 minutes later? All right, I got some more stories. I'm not done So there was also researchers that went in and they had students come into a room and they had them answer questions Actually come up and see how creative that they could be right and what they didn't realize was that some students went into this room and They were they constantly like three or four times They saw the logo for IBM because IBM was just you know It's see IBM is seen as a typical Standard company not very creative, but there was you know, they said okay We're gonna go ahead and we're gonna put something up on the board and they turn the computer on They'd see the IBM logo it would be right there and then they'd be okay This is what we're gonna do and what they had people do was figure out as many uses that they could use for a brick Besides what a brick is normally used for besides like throwing through a window to break the window besides You know building a house any of that type of stuff. What can you how can you be creative? So they had people see the IBM logo three or four times before they were asked the question to write down what it was they come up with you know Non-typical uses for a brick and then they had another set of people that instead of seeing the IBM logo They were they saw the Apple logo and it wasn't like they're like hey This is an advertisement for Apple it was just like they happened to see it It was either in the room somewhere or it just popped up as they went to ask them the questions Now if you look at the two companies between IBM and Apple if you were to look at the two of them You say IBM is a pretty typical company not very creative not outside the box You don't really see a lot of advertisements for many of that type of stuff when you look at Apple Apple tends to be a very creative company people tend to think that they're a creative company and they trust them a lot They have creative packaging. They love a lot of you know, there's people that are hardcore about Apple I don't know too many people that are hardcore about IBM Here's what's crazy exact same situation just different logos that they saw the people that saw the Apple logo found three times more Uses for a brick than the people that saw the IBM logo Isn't that pretty crazy?  So when you see something it doesn't just affect one part of your brain It affects many parts of your brain.  Okay one of the best that I've that I find as far as grocery stores that deal with people and The way they they skew and change your perception around everything is whole foods Whole foods is one of the first ones to do this when you walk into a whole foods What do you almost always have? I'm thinking of whole foods that I walk into that's right down the street flowers Right flowers and fresh produce Why because they want you to feel that this is a Fresh place to walk into because when you walk into a place that has flowers You can smell the flowers. You can smell the fresh produce It makes you feel as a human like we are sensory organisms.   Oh, yeah, this is great I really like this. This is I feel fresh in here I've never walked into a grocery store and all of the dead animals and flesh was in the front Why because that'd be a really weird place to put it Where do they put the meat in every single grocery store in the very back? Why don't they put the meat in the front because that's not how they want you to walk in they want you to Walk in seeing beautiful colors. They want you to walk in smelling beautiful scents They don't want you to walk in and just see dead animal parts right there and you know I'm just telling you honestly how it is And so what happens with the fresh flowers with the fresh scents everything is it makes you a little bit more hungry And at the same time makes people feel better when they see beautiful colors They smell beautiful scents so if this is what companies are doing and able to do with you at all points in time Do you think that in your life there might be unconscious priming that's happening around you that you're completely unaware of? Absolutely a hundred percent the best psychologist in the entire world work for advertising agencies, right? And I'm not trying to be doom and gloom and I'm just trying to make you aware of what's happening so that you can Start to program yourself and that's what we're gonna do today But advertising agencies know that at the core of every human fear like fear that holds you back at the core of Every single one of them is the feeling of I'm not enough and if I won't if I'm not enough that I won't be loved And so advertisers know this and they exploit your psychological weaknesses in what happens They know the feeling of I'm not enough is what's usually at the core of most people's fears And so what they do is they make advertisements to make you feel Subconsciously like you are not enough until you buy our product Simple it makes sense that's how they start to sell more if you want to know more about this there's a A a beautiful documentary. It's like four hours long. It will blow your mind That's called the century of self. I believe that's what it's called pretty I'm like 90 I'm sure that's what it's called The century of self and it goes through talking about how it used to be before like the 1940s It used to be that people would 1940s 1940s people would buy stuff based off of if they needed it And then a lot of psychologists learned about psychology and human behavior They came into advertising agencies and they started to actually use the Advertising and the psychology in advertising to make people stop buying things that they need and make them buy things that they want And so the perfect example that they give inside of this the century of self is That there was I'm gonna try to remember this because it was about two years ago that I watched this is that a pre 1950s cigarettes were seen as something that only men smoked so women weren't really ones who smoked this and so so there was a guy that came in and the guy that came in was actually the the Sigmund Freud's nephew who's Sigmund Freud's nephew and he came in and he's like I'm gonna come in and help you with The psychology behind this because if you're only selling to men you're missing out on an entire 50% of the market It's out there. How can we change the perception and start selling cigarettes to women so that women can start, you know Start start consuming them and so what happened was they came up with this big campaign and they what they said is there's gonna They they had these women and inside of these women were there's big massive like Thanksgiving parade or something like that And so they had the women Go and they were walking through and they they went to all of the news outlets And they said there's going to be a line of women who are going to be They I think they called them suffragettes is what they called them and they said they're going to go and in and have have freedom torches that they're going to show to take over their power take their power back So they're gonna have freedom torches and what happened was they went to all the news groups There's gonna be these women.  We gotta see whenever this thing happens So as soon as they're walking there were these women that were in these these dresses they had inside of their Inside their dresses they had cigarettes and so all at once when they got in front of all of the news and media outlets They took out their cigarettes they lit them in front of everybody and that was the way that women to in this Perception of what happened here took back their power to be able to smoke cigarettes and say it's not just gonna be men They're gonna smoke cigarettes. It's gonna be women as well and that alone Sparks women smoking cigarettes from the 50s on and so they knew how this psychology work It's mind-blowing when you start to see how psychologists are in advertising and actually hijack your system and exploit your psychological weaknesses So once again, I'm not saying this be doom and gloom I'm saying this so that you can understand that your mind if you're not very Self-aware is able to be hijacked very easily by people who understand how your mechanisms in your brain work better than you Do right and so you've got to start thinking about these things if an advertising agency can make you feel differently Just by watching a 30-second ad to make you want to buy their product if a grocery store Can make you feel differently based off of the stuff that you see and the stuff that you smell if a brick Can you come up with three times more? Uses for a brick simply by the logo that you see walking into a room if you know a company if School can make you feel differently about someone that you read and on a piece of paper simply by the Temperature of the coffee that you're holding on to then there's millions of these things happening around the place And you've got to be very aware of what's going on This is one of the reasons why I tell people not to watch the news because the news is hijacking this system like crazy right now It's also why I tell people not to watch stuff like reality TV, you know people that are yelling at each other and terrible people and you know the The Kardashians and all the shows that are happening where people just they don't seem to treat very people very well every time I've seen that and also when there's like the What the housewives of whatever place they all are it now that what happens is when you're watching these things it might be like Oh, this is just a mind. You know, I was busy all day. I just want to watch something. That's just entertaining You've got to ask yourself is this just entertaining or is this making me feel better about myself in the world around me?   Oh, man, they're fit.  The people that you follow on Instagram is it pro programming you in some sort of way I always tell people go through your newsfeed go through the people that you follow Just now that you know that this is a thing and start removing people that you feel are not good for your own personal psychology now The reason why this is important and this shouldn't be something that disempowers you but something that empowers you is because when you realize That this is how the world works. This is how your brain works You can take back your power and you can use it the way that you need to so you can go okay Beautiful. This is how it works. I understand that this is my my system being hijacked I understand that this is going to affect me this certain way the music that I listen to is it something makes me feel better Is it something makes you feel worse? Is this how I would talk to somebody in real life or is this just something that I say when I'm all alone and I want I don't want to say this when my mom's around or I don't want to say this when my girlfriend's around I don't want to say this when people that I specter around right you start thinking about every single thing that you do You start thinking about the people you hang out with the music that you listen to the ads that you see the The the news that you watch or don't watch the food that you eat the places that you shop and you start to become very aware of Oh, that makes sense now. Oh, that makes sense now as well. It's not doom and gloom It's actually empowering because you go, you know what I'm going to surround myself with all of the people all of the stuff All of the the music all of the the podcast all of the YouTube videos all of the books All of the people that are going to get me to a better level of who I want to be because if anybody can hijack the system Why can't I hijack my own system?  Because ultimately every single thing that you do is unconsciously priming you everything that every single thing that you're around is unconsciously Priming you so you've got to ask yourself am I in control of my priming am I taking control of it?  I don't watch TV I don't even have you know any TV stations that could come in got Netflix and YouTube that's basically all I watch in my TV in my house and I was inside of the paint store and I won't tell you what station it was on or any of this stuff But what it was on was it was on a very popular talk show Won't tell you which one it is and it happened to be on a station that the talk show was talking about a lot of things that were very politicized and Every time we would go to the the commercials the commercials would have a news flash like little break that would happen And it was another thing that was going on right and what I became aware of in this moment Obviously, I've known it, but to be able to actually see it I was in there for about three to four minutes, and I was like I wonder what they're actually gonna be talking about And it was so blatantly obvious to me that This station was trying to push their propaganda to make you think and feel a certain way Now I'm not saying what station was any of those things But I'll tell you is no matter what side it is whether it's the left or the right whatever it is They are trying to have a war for your mind by throwing out propaganda in things and making the world seem a lot worse Than it actually is right and within three to four minutes of being in there I became very uncomfortable because I was like I can literally Feel how other people that don't know this is going on can think that the world is absolutely Terrible right now think that the world is absolutely going to shit to think that there's so much to be afraid of and I've got to pick a side of what side I'm on You know, I've got to be on this side and when I pick a side This is important to know when I pick a quote-unquote side that puts me on one side Which means that there is always an enemy which is the other side Right and it was so obvious that this one side was trying to push their agenda and push their agenda and push their agenda And to somebody who is not aware of what is going on. They are going to be extremely easily influenced into number one Thinking the way this side thinks number two Seeing that there was a side that is against them that they need to be fearful of and number three think that this world is Going to absolute crap. So there's a couple things. I want to pack out, you know Pull out of that and unpack the first thing Why is the news so negative and I've done episodes on this before in the past the news is so negative Because as a human our brains naturally go towards what is negative aka what is wrong? Why is that important because 10 20 30 a hundred thousand years ago when we focus on what was wrong We were able to fix it which then meant that we would stay alive because what was wrong a hundred thousand years ago Could mean death if we don't fix it. So now What happens is the news in this media not even just the news now It's also just the media these stations the then they disguise them as talk shows They disguise them as TV stations They disguise them as all of these different shows they put out there are Out there putting fear and fear and fear and fear into people and the reason why is because when you're fearful You're going to watch more because you want to find the solution to this problem And the more that you watch these stations the more money that they're going to make off of ad revenue If you watch them you're going they're going to get more ad revenue the more millions of people that watch their shows Their TV stations their new stations their you know talk shows all of those things the more people that watch them Well, they're gonna make more money. So that's the first thing So you've got to be very clear as to what you're watching and to be very clear Is this something that is supporting Me growing into the person that I want to be or is this something that's actually holding me back and keeping me in a fearful state Just simple way to diagnose just ask yourself this question. What I'm feeling what I'm watching right now How does it make me feel? Right if you are watching TV and the news happens to pop up and you say how does this make me feel and you're like I feel really worried. I feel very fearful and I don't feel very positive about the direction of the world Turn it off like get it off as soon as possible because that's not helping you create the life that you want That's holding you back. That's keeping you paralyzed. That's immobilizing you versus mobilizing you towards What is it you want to create right so the first thing to be very aware of is that they are putting fear Into every person's out there Because it's an easy way to control the second thing that you have to realize is this and I'm once again Before I go any further. I'm not saying that the world doesn't have problems The world definitely has problems in the world will always have some problems in some sort of way There's 7.5 billion people on this planet. Are there a few bad apples out there?  Absolutely. There will never be nothing bad I don't believe that will ever get to that point. What I'm saying is it is Seems way worse than it actually is based off of number one all of the cameras now exist in the world because Everybody's got a camera inside of the pocket the number two how it can be pushed over and over and over again Through every platform through the news through social media through everything that you could possibly see So our art is the world perfect. No, we'll let ever be no But it's nowhere near as bad as they make it seem right So that's the first thing to be very aware of the second thing as to why would the media? I don't even just say the news anymore. Why would the media the stuff you see on TV? Talk shows all of these things. Why would they put so much negativity and so much fear-based stuff out there? Reason why is because the easiest way to control people is through fear guilt and shame You say again the easiest way to control somebody is fear guilt and shame Think about what's been going on the past year and how much fear guilt and shame has been put out into the media it is Crazy how much has been put out there right and I'm not talking about any side I don't I'm not part of any side just so you guys know I don't believe in any specific side I don't think that there is a side to just go for But when somebody picks a side as I said earlier once you pick a side You now have a side that you're against right if I'm rooting for one basketball team If I'm watching a game and the Miami Heat are playing and I'm a heat fan They're playing another team that other team. I want to lose So if I'm on one side Whether that's the left or the right or whatever it is that people believe in at this point I want the other side to lose and when I want the other side to lose I'm losing and the reason why is because when you can when we're split up and divided It's the phrase that we've all heard United. We stand divided. We fall if we divide as humans We are easy to control. We are easy. I Don't have a side, right? I don't I don't have a specific side. That's that that That I believe in or they think is right or wrong I think that there's different sides of both from but there's another thing that also is very important as well That people don't take into account is that you're seeing the world through your lens of the world Based off of everything that has happened to you in your past Right, you're seeing the world. You think the way that you think you believe what you believe Based off of the way that you are raised in circumstances that were presented to you in your life Let me say that again You think the way that you think and you believe what you believe based off of the way that you are raised and Circumstances that life presented you with So someone who doesn't believe the exact same thing that you believe and Think the exact same way that you think is Because of the way they were raised in the circumstances that life presented them with so it's very important to realize Who's to say that if instead of having your life you had their life that you wouldn't think exactly the same as them? So what I want you to realize is that we need to stop looking at other people and saying that's the enemy I'm different than them. This is my side. That's another side. The only thing that we should be doing at this point It's focusing on how we can love the other people now This is really interesting because I put up a video on Instagram talking about this the other day And most people will in full agreement Yes, we need to figure out a way to love more to love more to love more because the opposite of love is fear Think about how much if I don't like the other side, but if that side is it's coming from a place of fear, right? Love is the only thing that's gonna get us through all of this Right. There is no other way Battling and picking sides will not solve our problems.  Oh, there's this side There's this side. There's battling all they're doing. There's no love at all and all of that Right closing off will not solve our problems There is no other side that you can be on the only side that you can be on right now or ever is human You are a human no matter where you're from no matter what you look like no matter what you believe in no matter Any of those stuff none of those things matter What you are is you're a human and everybody else that's on this planet all 7.5 billion of them are human as well When we are divided we are easily conquered if you look around and you don't see the things in this world that you currently if there's Certain aspects of this world that you don't like I completely understand that but fighting is not going to create something better What's going to create something better? figuring out a way to love more Right to unite not to divide when people are united is when things happen But when we say that's evil this person's evil that side's evil what happens we get divided and when you divide Nothing's gonna actually happen. Nothing good is going to have actually happen Look at but look at look at the past hundred years of how much division has happened the past hundred two hundred years Right, does it look like it's going in the right direction? Probably not if you watch the news it looks like it's going in the wrong direction really fast actually right But anything that you've tried to do in the past and and put somebody into a box and Anything that's happened has put somebody into a box of this is what you believe this is what I believe this is what they believe divides people and when you are divided you are easily conquered So what we need to do is figure out a way to love more Let me give you an example who I mean As I said a few minutes ago People believe what they believe and they think what they think based off of what has happened to them in their past What life has brought to them in what they were taught right? So I might look at somebody and say you know what I don't necessarily believe the exact same things that they believe but Does that mean I can't love them or find some sort of love for them? It might be hard sometimes, but it doesn't mean it's impossible It means it's something that we got to work towards right so you look and you've heard the phrase love your neighbor, right? Love your neighbor love your neighbor when we're divided nothing's gonna happen That's gonna be in gonna be good But when we unite and we can work through our problems we can work through things that are going on That's when things actually that's when things actually start to change right so if I look at somebody I say okay this person I Don't agree with much of what they said Actually, I don't agree with most of what they said, but I Didn't have their life. I didn't have them certain their circumstances I didn't have any of the things that they had so if I was in their exact same shoes And I went through the exact same life that they had would I think the same as them? And there's a possibility that I would which means That how can I say I'm better than them and that my opinion and my my stance is better than them I can look at them and I can say you know what I don't agree with them not a hundred percent There's some things that we definitely on other sides, but I can love them either way Why can I love them because number one? I'm an empathetic person. We all have empathy and we can always be empathetic towards other people what they've been through in their lives, right? Number two if I want things to actually change I Need to be able to look at someone who doesn't agree the same thing as me and say I can still love them through this I can figure out a way to to for us to work together That's the only way that this is going to work and I could say okay If I go come from a place of love when I go and speak to this person They're more receptive to listening to me and to listening to my side if I go from a place of hate and a place of anger They are way less likely to listen to me and what they can do they're gonna build up their walls And they're gonna push their side further so if we really want to have an intelligent intellectual, you know adult Conversation maybe I should come from a place of love first and not a place from Division and hatred towards them come from place of love and that would make them more receptive to actually listening to what it is that I have to say Maybe that's a way that we can actually get them to change Because if what they have been taught and what they what life has presented them with What if I come from a place of love and present them with a different option and present them with something different? Maybe then that would change them in some sort. Maybe it wouldn't But in reality, I know that if we come from a place of love and everything that we do Life is gonna be a lot better and that's the thing that the world is missing So what I want you to realize is that right now there seems to be a war for your mind You're in control of all of the things that you watch all of the things that you listen to all of the people That you hang out with the music that you listen to the media that you consume whether that's Visually auditorily the people that you hang out with you know You're in control of all of those things and all of those things brainwash you in some sort of way The question is is it brainwashing you to become the person that you want to become or is it brainwashing you to hold You back and not get you to move forward right all I know is that when I walked into that paint store And I saw those three to four minutes. I was like, oh my god I literally physically did not feel good in my body And I was like I got to get out of here as quick as possible Because number one I could see what is doing to me and number two I could see what it's doing to other people who aren't necessarily paying attention and who don't have this knowledge as well so just be Number one come from a place of love be very loving in everything that you do and number two Realize you're in control of the information that comes into your head Be in control of it be very diligent about what you allowed to come in your head number three Look at everyone else around you and realize that if I pick a side and if I become divisive We're easily conquered the only way that we're going to change this world into becoming the world that we want to be Is we have to first become that change if we want people to get along more than they're getting along now We need to first be the people who start getting along with people if we want people people to be more loving We need to first be the people that are more loving Gandhi said it Still make sense be the change you want to see in the world What do you need to do and change within yourself to be the change that you want to see in the world? What change do you want to see in the world and how can you take that and put it inside of you? There's a war for your mind going on Be in control of what's actually coming into your head being control of every thought that you think every action that you take And come from a place of love in every single thing that you do and I promise you that'll be the first step towards a better world I had put up yesterday a Instagram and Facebook stories poll and I put up a couple different things and one of them said do you think aliens exist? Yes, or no is money the root of all leavely yes or no And then one of them said do you think the world is getting better or worse and I was super surprised to find that? 78% of the people who follow me think that the world is getting worse Yeah, I was super surprised by that and the reason why is because I think that the typically the people who follow me tend to be more Optimistic versus pessimistic And so I wanted to dive into the issue to talk about my viewpoints Of if I think the world is getting better or worse because I was super surprised and what I Think is I think the world is getting better, but I think the world is going through an awakening So let me give you an example of what I mean by this Let's say that somebody is 50 years old, right?  They don't get good sleep And then one day that person has a heart attack and the heart attack luckily doesn't kill them But it does Give him a heart like they do have a heart attack heart attack isn't fun I'm sure never had one before but I'm sure it probably isn't the most fun thing in the world So you look at this and you say after years and years and years of abuse and neglect and not treating their body right Their body has a heart attack and because of that heart attack the person wakes up And they go oh my god, like I almost just died. I'm now becoming aware Of how I haven't been taking care of my body. I haven't been treating it right. I haven't been giving it the right fuel I have been just eating stuff for tastes and not for actual health reasons I haven't worked out and God knows long how it's been since I've worked out. I don't get any sleep I don't get good sleep. I drink a lot of alcohol and All of that over years and years and years and years has accumulated to this one moment of me having a heart attack Now I have a choice either I can go back to life as it was or I can make some different choices based on my heart attack And let's say that person aside. You know what I want to live long enough to see my daughter walk down the aisle I want to live long enough to be able to be a grandfather That ends up being able to play with his his grandkids and go to their sports games and be able to continue to travel I want to live longer than just past the age of 60 years old I want to live to 85 90 what would it look like for me to live to 90 and see my grandkids get married as well and They start to take care of themselves. They start eating healthy Maybe they hire a nutritionist they hire the nutritionist and take care of their body They hire someone that that teaches them how to work out in the right ways to move They start figuring out ways to improve their sleep and they read books around improving their sleep And because of this this heart attack their entire life shifts Because they now woke up to how they have been treating their body Why do I bring this up? Well? Why don't you just think about what we've been going through? And actually before we dive into what we've been going through If somebody were to have a heart attack and then switch their entire lives around in change for the better It lived longer and was able to see their their daughter walk down the aisle to be able to hang out with their grandkids and have a Better life and be healthier and happier and better sleep and all that stuff Is the heart attack still bad or? Was the heart attack the thing the good thing that came in to awaken this person from the sleep that they were in and the Neglect that they were giving their body and now That's amazing because you know what now I can treat my body the right way and that heart attack woke them up Is what you can say it is their awakening from everything that they were going through now Was a heart attack bad or? Was maybe the heart attack a blessing was a heart attack something that actually end up being good Because in the long term it changed them And I think basically what we're in right now is the middle of a heart attack right I'm assuming that when you go through a heart attack.  This is great. I'm having a heart attack It's usually people are probably freaking out and probably hurts a lot It's probably something that you don't want to go through but If you think about what we're going through in the heart attack that we're going through the amazing thing about it is that We're now starting to wake up to everything that is wrong in the world that we need to fix And this isn't me saying this I take this side of this I don't take any side in politics or any of that stuff in my opinion doesn't matter because everyone has an opinion So it's just me talking from just a this is the way that I view the world We're now waking up to old Oppressive and evil systems that are being brought to the surface and a lot of people who were not aware of them are Now aware that there's a lot of things happening that maybe they weren't aware of maybe different racial things Maybe different gender things it's becoming apparent that some people have been held down by society It's been apparent that maybe some people don't get a hundred percent equal opportunities Like group a might not get the same opportunity as group B based off of where they lived or where they grew up in the The school that they were able to go to in the education system that they had It's becoming aware how our government is not set up for the people's best interest But maybe their own and people are starting to become very aware of these things like a heart attack that wakes you up And goes holy shit something's not right But in turn now we're in the middle of a time where things can start to shift things can start to change So is having a heart attack fun probably not I don't think anybody's ever I've never heard of somebody using the adjective is fun for a heart attack but Does it seem like sometimes if you're in the middle of a heart attack hits hit the fan probably but if you live through the heart attack You make changes you change your life. You change your lifestyle. Did it turn out to be a good thing? my Robot will be yes. I do think I might argument be yes I think that it is something that helped a heart attack is an awakening for bad health In most cases obviously there's Circumstances outside that where someone just has heart problems But in most cases a heart attack is an awakening to bad health right civil unrest is an awakening to how we should look at the systems That we have in see if we can make them better for all people So the same way that a heart attack wakes up somebody who hasn't been taking care of the health Civil unrest wakes up the public to how we should be treating people and start to change our systems and processes make sense so another thing that we should consider when we're talking about the The the the way that the world looks really bad right now is it you have to realize We're seeing a lot more footage a lot more videos a lot more pictures Then we ever have of things that are bad that are happening in the world Are the things that are bad are happening world? Absolutely. Are there more than there ever have been? Absolutely not and I'm gonna share some statistics with you around that in just a little while to tell you that But I think what you're also really have to realize is that if you were to rewind 20 years ago 25 years ago 99% of people did not have a phone or I Mean actually not even take phone They didn't even have a camera to take pictures if you would have talked to somebody 20 years ago I'm like, yeah, I take pictures with my phone to be like Yeah, you're fucking crazy because that would make no sense to somebody 20 years ago, right a phone was made to make phone calls But if you just think about that Now every single person Has a camera in their pocket at all times they could take pictures of anything So things that were kind of under the surface in hidden a long time ago are now coming to the surface And they have to come to the surface just like a heart attack so that you can be able to work through them So that's one thing another thing that I want you to consider is that now there's a lot more cameras than there ever have been So if you're seeing more things and thinking that the world is worse because of that you just have to realize There's just a lot more cameras in there have happened and once again, I'm gonna go over the statistics and just a minute I think they're gonna kind of surprise you another thing that has shifted a lot in the past 20 30 years is that the news used to be something that you could trust They use had no the news had no Hidden agenda now we all know that they have their own agendas that they want to push to you And so they're pushing them another thing that you can actually start to think about is The rise of social media in my opinion social media is not a good thing It's not a bad thing it is just a thing in the human condition is now coming out through social media But the interesting thing about social media is that social media makes it easier to share information Faster and more widespread than any time in humankind So if it was 30 years ago, and you saw something with your own eyes that was bad that happened in front of you The only people you could really tell is you could I guess you could call the cops You could tell your neighbors you could tell your family But right now if something were to happen bad in front of your eyes And you were to videotape it and put up on Facebook and put up on the Instagram It could immediately go viral Millions or hundreds of millions of people could see it news groups could take pick it up and then it would be all over the place So it's not that things are getting worse It's just that the darkness is coming to light because we are able to share this information quicker than ever before And to dive into the statistics, which I want to share with you guys. It's super interesting is this so there's a I did my own research on this and there's also a Harvard psychologist. He's a cognitive psychologist named Steven Pinker He's actually got a couple books about in a TED talk about how the world is getting safer and it's better than it ever has been It just seems like it's not based off of the fact that we have a lot of information that we can share pictures videos Immediately if you go to the Department of Justice's website and on the Department of Justice's website if you look at statistics firearm homicides are down 39 percent from 1993 so if you look at anything oh my gosh, there's so many more people dying from guns There's actually 39% less people than there were in 1993 You know and it's continues to go down year over year I'm not here to argue firearms, so don't even think that that's what I'm trying to get across I'm just trying to give you plain and simple statistics to show you that the world is actually getting better Right to make you feel better about maybe it's not as bad as I thought it was maybe it is actually starting to get better Non-fatal firearm accidents are down 69 percent So non-fatal firearm accidents are not down 69 percent the numbers of people who are murdered on a yearly basis And the United States is down And now you might say okay. Well, what about side of the United States? I understand There's there's places where things have gotten worse and they've gotten better and things have got worse I think I've gotten better But if you look at the world collectively as a whole and I understand there's gonna be some anomalies to this everybody But if you look at the world collectively as a whole the number of people killed in war is 112th of what it was in the 1950s in the 1960s, so you literally have to look at that and go wow One 12th of what it was before 60 70 years ago, so now right now is the safest time to be alive as a human. Is it perfect? Hell, no Absolutely not, but what I think we're going through is a little bit of a heart attack We're starting to realize some of the ways that we weren't taking care of our quote-unquote body other people's bodies our system Are you know the body that we are all a part of? the Governments that were a part of the local areas were a part of the Nations were a part of in the world that we're a part of we're starting to become very aware of old evil oppressive systems And they're very blatantly in front of us now and we're now able to start to work through those things So is it the most comfortable time to be alive? Absolutely not Will it get better? Will there be something good that comes out of all of this? I tend to be an optimistic person So I think yes, and I would like to argue that with anybody I think that it is getting better statistically. It's showing it's getting better. There's books that are written on it getting better Is everything perfect? Absolutely not. There is no way you will ever hear me say that everything is perfect And I don't think humans are perfect. Therefore. I don't think everything ever will be perfect but I tend to Lean towards the side of everything is working for me not against me The world is working for me not to me and if that's the case I also feel the world is working for you and not to you. It's never working against you It's always working towards your side. So is it perfect absolutely not But what I would recommend is this if you're starting to feel the feelings of of the world being heavy of the news being Heavy of stuff that's happening in society being heavy Turn off the news The news is not there to support you. It's not there to inform you. I Promise you that I've done episodes before about how the news is literally just there to make you not informed But conformed and they put out a bunch of negativity because your brain is addicted to negativity because that's how the human species survived So turn off the news if you're starting to feel like the world is heavy Turn off social media if you're starting to feel like things are heavy as well Go out and experience the world Walk outside look at the sun and you'll realize Man things aren't as bad as they seem to be when you watch them on the news on the on the screens Everything seems to be collapsing when you walk outside of your house It tends to be a lot better and I'm a very optimistic person. So I think we're going in the right direction I think we have a lot of work to do. I think there's a lot of things that still needs to be be worked through But you have to realize that everything that comes into your brain Influences the way that you feel everything that you see Influences way that you feel everything that you hear influences way that you feel every person that you talk to Influences way that you feel everything that you read on social media or see on TV is going to influence the way that you feel And in turn that kind of brain washes you to be a certain way So if you're thinking of it this way if if every single thing that comes into our brain in a way brain washes us to feel a certain way, why don't we take control of our own brainwashing? Why don't I go, you know what? I'm not going to look at the news today. I'm not going to turn on social media today. I'm going to read a book. I'm going to watch some YouTube videos from some motivational speakers or from some psychologist or neurologist or whatever it is you're trying to learn from and be in control of your own brainwashing. Because I promise you this, if you're not in control of it yourself, you're still being brainwashed. Is it the brainwashing that you want? I would prefer to wake up and say, I'm in control of my own brainwashing. I'm going to put on the music I like. I'm going to listen to the podcast I like. I'm going to read the books that I like. I'm not going to turn on the news. I'm not going to turn on social media. And I'm going to hang out with the people that I like. Because ultimately, that's the way that we get better. So is the world getting worse? I don't think that it is. I just think that we're in the middle of a heart attack. And I feel like on the other side of this heart attack, the world will be better. People are going to work it out. We're going to figure it out. And the evil, old, and oppressive systems will be worked through and released. And we'll be on our way towards a better society and hopefully a better human connection. We're going to be talking about something that I should have probably talked about quite a long time ago. But I talked quite a bit about anxiety and all of those things in March and April and as things were going on. And then I had a conversation with a friend about COVID, about all the things that are happening. And I'm not going to give you my world perspective because who needs to hear another opinion in this world? So I'm not going to give you any opinions on anything. But what I will tell you is how I know how to work through anxiety, how I've helped myself get through anxiety, have had my friends help get through anxiety, have had clients get through anxiety and stress and depression, all of those. And there's a lot of heavy that's happening in the world. We can admit it. And first off, we probably need to admit it. Like this has been for most people a heavy year. It has been a lot of unknown things that we did not see coming up that have come up, right? And you can feel really heavy if you're a person that's very kinesthetic.  You might just be ready for this to be over. I'm actually pretty sure that everybody who's listening to this is ready for this to be over. But at this point in time, it's not. It just isn't. And so what comes down to is us accepting that. And I'm here to tell you, everybody, it'll be all right. It will eventually work itself out. And the quicker that we just accept that it is the way that it is right now and that it will eventually be all right, that I think the easier it'll make our lives until it gets to at least some feeling of normalcy. And I'm going to try to help you feel better. And I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and we were talking about COVID and the fact that she's going home to her parents for Christmas. And she has a lot of anxiety around possibly bringing COVID home to her parents for the holidays, which is the worst Christmas gift you can give your parents. But she's afraid of giving that to her parents going home for the holidays. Completely understandable. Makes a whole lot of sense. And she was talking about that, but more than anything else that she was really anxious about is the fact that COVID is still around. The fact that we're still dealing with this thing. What are we nine months into it? And she was just talking about how she was anxious and stressed because of that. Then the conversation went a little bit further and she was talking about, you know, the other thing that scares me a lot as well as the economy. Like I don't know what's going to happen with the economy, with all of the inflation that's going on, with, you know, about 20% of the world's money or the US's money was just printed this year, you know, and just what's going to happen with the economy. And then she went into rolling into how she's also having these anxious thoughts around getting these test results that she's waiting for her dog.  And she's just at this point in time, it's a waiting game for all of them, right? So it's a waiting game for the test results for the dog. It's a waiting game for seeing what eventually if COVID's ever going to pass or what's going to happen with our lives next. And it's a waiting game to see what's going to happen with the economy. And I let her go through and talk about it and talk about it. And then what happened was I mentioned to her that the things that she's having, all of this stress and anxiety around, she has absolutely no control over. And that's what's giving her stress and anxiety, right? So she has no control over what's going on in COVID. She has zero control over that. She also has zero control over the economy. And she also has zero control over test results from blood work that was done a few days ago for her dog. Zero control over all three of those things.  Do I have any control over those things? All of the things that are bringing you worry and fear and anxious thoughts. Do you have any control over them or do you have those anxious thoughts and feelings around them simply because of the fact that you have no control over them? And you want to have control, but you don't. So your anxious thoughts could be coming from the fact that you want to have control over something that you absolutely will never have control over and you haven't just fully accepted that lack of control. Because of those three things that I mentioned to you about my friend, none of them, literally none of them, she can't control. She cannot do anything about those. And it's not that those things don't exist. They all exist. It's that she's fighting them in her mind and that is bringing in the anxiety. So what are you fighting? Are you fighting things? And the other thing that she's not doing is she's not accepting. She's not accepting that they exist. They are here. They are the way that they are. She's just not accepting them. She is resisting the way that the world currently is right now. Right? That's what at its simplest form, she is resisting the way that the world currently is. She's resisting the COVID. She's resisting the economy. She's resisting the dog's test results. She's just resisting. And this is not uncommon. I was reading an article the other day that says depression has gone up four times, 400% from the exact same time last year. And I think a lot of the reason why is because people are feeling all of these anxious thoughts. And at the same time, they're not accepting the way that the world is. And they're not allowing themselves to learn and grow and get better in these times and be able to work through it because they just so badly want the world to go back to quote unquote normal, whatever bit of normalcy that they can have again. And if you've listened to my podcast before, you've heard me say this, your level of stress, anxiety, worry, and fear, and depression, unless you're clinically depressed, there's a completely different, that's a whole other episode that we could do. But your level of worry, anxiety, sadness, fear, all of those things, anxiety, all of that, your level of it will be in direct proportion to how much you're resisting the way that the world is.   If you're having low levels of anxiety, just a little bit, maybe it's just bubbling under the surface, which I feel is, for most people, how it usually works. It's not that it's full blown anxiety it takes, it's just a little bit of anxiety that's bubbling under the surface all day every day. And the reason why is probably because you have a low level of resisting the way that the world is. You're wishing, all right, well, yeah, you know it is this way, but I just wish it would go back to normal. I'm just so, I just want to go back to work. I want to see my friends again. I want to be able to hug my mom. And it's not that it's a full blown panic attack for you, might just be that you're just resisting versus full acceptance. You know, there's a shaman that I've worked with in the past and then psychedelics with. And he says, just surrender harder, right? Just surrender harder. That's what we all kind of need to do right now. And actually what we need to do probably for the rest of our lives is just surrender harder. I'm not saying surrender to the powers to be, if you think that the, you know, the economy and the COVID and all of that stuff is being put on by some masterminds behind the scenes. I'm not saying surrender to those. I'm saying surrender to the fact that it is the way that the world is right now. And at this moment, there's nothing that I know of that we can do about it. So do I want COVID to exist anymore?  But what can I do about it? What can I personally do about COVID, right? I'm just a college dropout. I don't know about COVID. I don't know. I think about all that science and stuff. I can barely formulate words sometimes. How am I going to save the world from COVID? I'm not. So do I want it to be here? No, but it is here. And I've got to figure out a way just to accept that. And you can either resist or you can accept. Those are the two things that you can really do. Yeah, it is the way that it is. It's not what I would have chosen, but it is the way that it is. And what you have to realize is that's completely my decision. And you can resist or you can accept. And that is completely your decision as well. It's fully 100% up to you. And what you have to realize is that the more that you're resisting, the more that you're stealing away your joy in the present moment.   If somebody breaks up with you, your joy is stolen from you if you're resisting and going, God, I just wish that we would be back together again. And you're thinking about how the past used to be. And you're thinking about your love and all of the times that you hung out and watched Netflix and chilled and had all of those great moments. You're like, God, I just want it to be that way again. But it's not. And guess what? The more that you're resisting the fact that it isn't the way that you want it to be, obviously the more that it's going to be holding you back. The more anxiety and stress and worry and fear you're going to be having around that thing.  That's all that it is. There is no past and there is no future. Everything that has happened to you and will ever happen to you in your entire life is in the present moment. Nothing has happened to you in the past. The past is just a present moment that has passed, right? Nothing has happened to you in the future yet. But when that future thing does happen, that will be a present moment. And so if we're really serious about this and trying to make ourselves feel better, we need to be very aware that our entire life is just the present moment. The only thing that does exist and will ever exist for us is the present moment. And if we're resisting COVID, if we're resisting the economy, if we're resisting a breakup, if we're resisting test results, all of those things, we're resisting it and having our joy stolen from us in this moment when we fully can experience the love and the joy and the happiness and the peace that we truly want to, if we were to just step into it and accept, stop resisting and go, what is great about this moment right now? And just allowing ourselves to sink into the present moment more than anything else. And the perfect question asked herself, and that's what I asked my friend, I said, okay, now that we've gone through all these things, I got a question for you. The question is, are you okay right now? She's like, what do you mean? I was like, in this moment, in this very second, are you okay?  You know, I've got this coming up and this, I was like, no, no, no, no, no, I don't care about bills. I don't care about anything that's happening in the future. I don't care about any of that. In this very second, are you safe and are you okay? She's like, yes. And I was like, now just think about that thought, just marinate on that thought. How does it make you feel? And she's like, it makes me feel a lot better. And the reason why is because all of the stress and anxiety that we have is all for things that could possibly be happening in the future. And we make up all of these ghosts and demons into the future that could possibly exist. But in reality, it's never about those things. It's always about this present moment right now. So if you feel anxious thoughts, if you feel like there's something wrong, I want you to ask yourself in this moment right now, am I okay? Not, oh my God, I have pills. I have to pay tomorrow or later on at five o'clock. I have to make sure I'm at this appointment. No, right now in this moment, this very second, are you okay? And the answer is yes. Can you sink into that feeling of being okay? Don't sink into the feeling of the anxiety of the possible things that could happen in your future. Can you sink into the feeling of being just fine right now in this present moment? Feel the feelings of what it feels like to be fine in this moment. Are you okay? You are. Okay. I feel better. I feel at least a little bit better. And if I can continue to notice when I feel anxious thoughts and start to repattern myself to go, am I okay right now in this moment? Yes, I am okay. Am I okay? Right? 99.999% of the time, you're okay right now in this present moment.  Right? So if you have anxieties of anxiety or stress or fear or worry that you've been feeling, my question to you is this, what are you resisting? If you're anxious, if you're worrying, if you're fearful, if you're feeling those negative emotions come up, what are you resisting? Think about that for a second. What is it? What is it that you're resisting? Is it a breakup or you're not accepting the breakup? Wanting it the way the world to go back to the way that it used to be, the fact that you're not, person's not in love with you anymore. What is it that you're resisting? And the question is, are you okay right now? Are you okay? And the other thing we have to do is we have to accept and that we can control almost nothing. Like we literally can almost control nothing. Like literally you can barely control your own bowels after taco Tuesday. Like you can literally control almost nothing. You can't control other people. You can't control your children very well. You can't control the weather. We can barely control our own thoughts most of the time we can't. We can control almost nothing. And this is me telling you this as a recovering controlaholic where I realized on one of my very first psychedelic journey that I did that I was a control freak. I control issues and that was causing all of my stress and my worry and my anxiety in my life. And the past three years, three and a half years since I've done it have been a complete unraveling of just letting go of all the control and noticing it when it comes up and realizing that the more that I let go of control and the less I try to control everything the more amazing my life becomes. And so we can't control our first thought but you can always control your second thought. And so even if the first thought comes up as an anxious thought well then notice it identify it and then go is that the thought that I want? No it's not. Okay what is a better thought that I want to replace it with and replace that thought with a new thought? You can't control your second or you can't control your first thought but you can always control your second thought.  If you're naturally a negative person identify that negativity and replace it with positivity and if you do this over and over and over and over again all day every day hundreds of times every day depending on how much negativity pops up in a year or two years, three years, five years, you'll notice that your new first thoughts are positive and not negative anymore. We can repattern our brain by noticing it and by taking control of it. You can't control your first thought, but you can always control your second thought. And then what do you do? It's very simple. Right now, am I okay? In this moment, it's very second. I am okay. Okay. Good. Number two, accept. Stop resisting. The world is the way that it is. And the more that I resist, the worse I'm going to feel. So if I can just accept, I'm going to feel better. And number three, ask yourself this question. This is something that I had. I was feeling a lot of, it was probably about five years ago. I got off a plane and flew into to Austin and it was like, I came from Florida and Florida was hot and it was amazing. And I was on the beach and I flew back into Austin and it was like 19 degrees and just like it wasn't even snowing.  And I got off the plane and I was like, Oh gross.  I'm waiting for my Uber to come pick me up. And it's like wind is just like howling. It's like 30 miles an hour. It's cold. I came from amazing, beautiful Florida to cold, rainy, windy, wet Austin. And I started to notice my feelings change towards being in Austin at that moment. I didn't feel good. I was like, David, why don't I just stand? I started to get really kind of anxious about why don't I just stay in Florida? I could have stayed in Florida for an extra week, whatever it was. And then I made myself reframe what was going on. And I asked myself this question, this is a question I have for you is what's beautiful about this moment? And I forced myself to answer what was beautiful about this moment. And so I looked around and I started noticing different things that I could feel are beautiful. And my gosh, I have my health.  I have, you know, a business that I love running. I have things that I love doing. I have, you know, a time tomorrow to go work out with one of my best friends. And I started noticing what was beautiful about the moment. And by noticing that thing that I felt was beautiful, I was actually starting to unravel all of the feelings of anxiety and stress that I had about coming back in to the way that it is in the cold and the rain and the sleet and snow and all of the crap that we had that day. And so I think I want you to do is number one, ask yourself, am I okay? Number two, accept it. And number three, ask yourself this, this one question. What is beautiful about this moment and reframe your thoughts in the current moment, the current present that's being stolen from you and reframe it to finding what's beautiful in your life and what's beautiful in this present moment.  And it's actually a strategy I've used for myself. And it's actually a strategy. The reason why I'm talking about it is because it's a strategy I had to use for myself at 4 a.m. in the morning a few days ago. And I don't know if you guys have ever done this before where you wake up in the morning, it's early in the morning, maybe you have to go to the bathroom or you hear noise or dogs are barking or something like that. And then immediately a thought comes through of something that needs to be done or something that you have to do or it could be an anxious thought. I don't know what it is for you.   You can't stop it. And so a few nights ago, we've been super, super busy in my business this week. We have an event that we're planning, which we'll tell you about later. We have a mastermind that we're planning that's coming up as well. Another three-day event. We have tons of other amazing things that are coming up. And it's all good stuff. But the problem is I woke up to go to the bathroom and immediately one thing that I had to do popped into my head. And then it was a cascade of all of these different things. Oh my gosh, I'm behind on doing this. I've got to reach out to this person. I got to get a quote for this. I've got to get this. This I have to negotiate this price. And it started to become all of these anxious thoughts rolling into my head. One of the things that's very, uh, that's a huge misconception is because I'm a mindset guy that I must have this perfect mindset and nothing holds me back. But nothing could be further from the truth.  And so what happened was I had the first thought, I had the second thought, third thought, and I was sitting in bed for about 45 minutes. So it's about four o'clock in the morning, right? I'm in bed and I'm like, I'm not falling asleep. It's not happening. And I was like, I have to get up and I have to use my strategy on myself and I had to get up and I had to get my journal. So I went into the living room, I got my journal four o'clock in the morning and I started journaling some of the stuff that I needed to. And I'm going to take you through exactly what it is that I did for myself and what I've done for many other clients as well. You know, I've worked with a lot of different people that have anxiety problems. Um, and this is just one of the strategies I've come up with. And the first thing is the awareness that I'm having anxious thoughts. That's the first thing, right? Like the first thing is, is now you have to, you're inside of your head, you're having issues thoughts, you're inside of your head, you have an issues thoughts, you've got to pause and notice as the observer, what's going on here. Oh, okay. Yep. I've done this before. I know exactly where I am. I'm in the middle of anxious thoughts. I need to then remov