Recently, I got a question emailed to me asking, why would an educated man use a woman? And I thought to myself, what does education have to do with using someone? I mean, how does that, someone's education? I think it's because we have this belief that people who are more educated are more genuine, that people are educated are more sincere, okay? We kind of feel that same way with attractive people. There's this belief system that if someone is attractive, they're more of a quality candidate to be in relationship. So today I wanna lean into the real truth as to, well, a truth of why a woman might get used by a man. And I think the most common narrative with respects to being used by people centers around narcissists. That tends to be the number one reason why men and women seem to be using one another because they are a narcissist, okay? Now, it's interesting because this morning, my sweetheart was sharing with me a list of traits that are narcissistic. And I kept saying, well, I checked that box and I checked that box and I checked that box. I didn't check all nine or 10 boxes listed, but I checked out a few of the boxes. And I share this because we all have on some level selfish traits, we all have some self-centered traits. We all have that. It's just kind of human nature. In fact, in the dating realm, most people are rather myopic and myopic is kind of tunnel vision, okay, tunnel vision or they're self-centric because we start from self. We start from that place of wanting to have our own needs met. So it seems to stand to reason why people get called narcissistic when they're in a relationship with someone and they're only focused on their own needs, okay? But think about it, when you're on a date, are you focused about his needs or are you focused on your own needs? It's a very natural human thing. And yet once again, the term narcissist gets thrown about. And yes, there are some people who are narcissists. There are some people who are completely devoid of empathy. There are people who don't apologize for their actions. There are people that will turn everything around and make it your fault instead of taking ownership on their own part. So yes, that's a true thing that can happen, all right? But at the same time, being used is oftentimes comes from a place of victim consciousness versus victor consciousness, okay? Victim consciousness says somebody did something that wronged me, okay? That's victim consciousness. Victor consciousness is this experience happened in my life and this is what I learned about myself from this experience when you can actually come at it from a place of what positive things that I learned about myself in this experience, we have a greater chance to be attracting in our lives, those who are more aligned to who we are and what we want. So today we have to talk about being used because I want everyone to differentiate between a short-term mating strategy versus a long-term mating strategy. That's right, a short-term mating strategy versus a long-term mating strategy, okay? Why do I call it a strategy? Because the reality is with, listen, I'm gonna pull up my phone. With these devices, we are now, because of our smartphones and access to people we wouldn't otherwise meet in our daily lives, many people, men and women, have a short-term strategy. In other words, they only are seeking to have a good time and the internet has certainly amplified what's now known as the hookup culture. And these days, many are people are experiencing very short-lived relationships where there is physical intimacy with one another without any deeper dive into a real serious relationship. So if you have a long-term mating strategy, you operate differently.  You're vetting, and vetting means screening, it means filtering, it means establishing, do we share the same values? Are our lifestyles blendable with one another and more importantly, is this person emotionally mature enough to be in relationship? And as that woman asked me earlier, how can a highly educated man use a woman? The reality is his intelligence doesn't equal relationship success. Attractiveness doesn't equal relationship success. If you really wanna learn and understand about vetting, check out a free discovery call with me, there's a link right here. You can go to the link below, jonathanasley.com forward slash coaching to schedule a call with me because my area of expertise is all designed to help you learn how to vet for compatibility. And more importantly, how to vet for emotional maturity because the reality is, is most people these days in the dating marketplace have a short-term mating strategy. And men are, I'm gonna be candid with you, men have this fantasy, not fantasy, a delusion or a lack of awareness, understanding that chemistry doesn't equal relationship success. Okay, chemistry doesn't equal relationship success. Men often focus on chemistry as their indicator for relationship success without truly, not all men, most men, without truly understanding the importance of compatibility as I shared with you. So what are men seeking? Companionship, connection, sex. That's the short-term mating strategy. A long-term mating strategy is companionship, connection, sex and commitment. And I think it's important to unpack this. What is companionship? Well, somebody to do stuff with. That's companionship to go to dinners, to go sailing, to go play pickleball, to do things with somebody else, to go to dinner parties, to go to family gatherings so you can have a companion. That's a basic human need to want companionship. Connection, route is as human beings are thirsty for connection, whether it's romantic connection or just even community in their life, family and friends. It's important need to wanna have connection with someone, to be able to be vulnerable, to be authentic, to be transparent with a person.  That's a driving force. We men biologically are driven more so by sex, not to say women aren't any less appreciate sex. I'm just saying, but we oftentimes we're so conditioned to spread our seed that it's not about commitment, it's about the sex.  I wanna build trust with you. I wanna care about your feelings as much as you care about your own feelings. I wanna have your best interests at heart when I'm operating throughout the day and I don't mean operating like a surgeon in the way I operate through life. Commitment, people who have a long-term mating strategy operate differently. And yet today, most people have a short-term mating strategy. And their short-term mating strategy is because of this shocking truth. And I wanna read something I wrote for everybody. So bear with me. I said, loneliness is one of the leading causes. Loneliness is one of the leading causes. And the internet has amplified this abuse. Men do it and women do it. Because of the internet, humans have access to more people than ever in history. Because now you can meet people in the privacy of your own home, meaning you don't have to get out in the real world to connect with someone. And these days, women are falling for cyber relationships because they are also lonely. In addition, COVID amplified our desire for connection because the reality is, is for many people, we don't have a physical tribe or more importantly, an emotional tribe to support us in this ever-changing need for community and connection. See, the shocking truth why you might get used or why a man may only have a short-term mating strategy is because he desperately wants connection with someone. We humans are, there's a vast majority of humans that are lonely and they just wanna connect with someone. And maybe they might want commitment, but they don't even know how to be in a committed relationship. They don't know how to be a grown-up in relationship. If you're not familiar with the book, where is it? Oh, oh, here it is. How to be an adult in relationship. People can want companionship, connection and sex. They even might want commitment, but they don't know how to be in a committed relationship. So they have a short-term mating strategy believing that if you're with the right person, magic fairy dust will make it all work out because magic fairy dust always makes things work out. Folks, we are swimming in a sea of dysfunctionality. The vast majority of humans that are in the dating marketplace are rather dysfunctional and while a small percentage are users, 60% or more are dysfunctional and very few have done the inner work to actually be what I call a grower and a builder. So what did I write? Oh, and I wrote the only reason why this is shocking is that there are so many stories about how bad men are. Men, and I'm here to say men aren't evil. Humans are flawed and worse, the lack of community will be the downfall of our society. So don't be fooled or become jaded because most men are good guys. They are simply hurting on the inside. I can speak from personal experience because after my divorce, I was a damaged, I was a train wreck, I was lonely and I wanted companionship, connection and sex. And these devices created a portal to connect with people all over the world practically. This is why so many of you are being hooked to cyber relationships. So I just got an email or I saw a post in my YouTube channel, a comment saying, one of her friends for six months was engaged in a cyber relationship with a man and right the week before they were supposed to meet, he had an emergency and he needed money and she wired him $25,000 and she never heard from him again. Folks, cyber, by the way, if you do not schedule a FaceTime with any long distance person and if you are communicating with someone for over 30 days and you haven't physically seen them through FaceTime, run, forest, run.  Everybody has on their device WhatsApp. If he's speaking to you on a phone, unless he's speaking to you on a landline and he doesn't, I mean, if every almost 90% of, well, a significant percentage of the human population, especially here in the United States has access to the internet. They can send, they can do FaceTime with you. They can do WhatsApp with you. So don't believe that rhetoric. But what's the truth? Humans are lonely. And in that loneliness, we oftentimes operate from a selfish place, not a narcissistic place, but a self-centric place because we are swimming in a sea of such dysfunctionality and the emotional maturity of humans and their relationship skills are incredibly poor. This is why I wrote my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway? A Journey of Personal Development, Self-Health and Spiritual Work. By the way, in the description and the show notes, you can get a copy of, you can order my book. All the books I recommend are listed, but we have a distressing lack of self-love because the number one emotional health issue we are most everyone is facing is I'm not good enough, I'm not lovable and I'm not likeable. Think about that. And dating triggers that like nobody's business. You know, most men, you have this ex, a lot of women have expectations. By the way, men can be jackasses. So let me be clear. But what I'm about to say is women have this expectation that men are supposed to be chivalrous and alpha and perfect. They know exactly what they're doing and they take the lead and so you can just sit in your feminine energy. Most men are good guys. They're just bad daters. But guess what? A lot of those good men that you might have rejected in the past, they make the best candidate to be in relationship. And the reality is, is these days, our lack of community is going to be the downfall because we feel very alone. Men and women alike. Can you relate to this? Can you relate to feeling alone? If you do, please write down, Jonathan, I can relate to feeling alone. And can you understand that men might feel this way too? And it might mean that they don't know how to be in relationship, but it doesn't mean that they're bad people. And if we start to believe the opposite is sex is bad for us, then we're never going to attract the kind of relationship we want. For those heterosexual relationships, let me be clear. So the shocking truth, loneliness is one of the leading causes for people to feel like they got used because the person who wants that connection isn't capable of anything deeper. And this is why I invite you to do a better job of vetting, of screening, of filtering in the early stages so you can attract in a person that can actually lead you to having a fully fulfilled, long-term relationship. Is this sinking and is this resonating? Please let me know if it is. Please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel. Again, check out the links below to a discovery call with me, to my group called Midlife Love Mastery. You can join the membership group here. You can follow me on Instagram and get all the copies of the books I recommend. All right, it looks like people are saying I can relate to feeling lonely. Thank you so much. Wanda says yes. Elder says the same thing. So we're gonna be taking questions in a second. By the way, I'm gonna do try something a little bit different. If you want to be on live with me to ask a question, I just posted it in the chat box, a link. I'm actually open to taking direct questions from those of you. Anyone who clicks on that link will be one of the first people that can actually, I can bring you in on the show. So again, click that link in the show notes that I just posted or in the chat box. All right, if you have a question for me, write the word question then post the question there after or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All of the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of him right there. He's my son who passed away a few years ago and in his honor, I've started a scholarship fund to donate to causes like the Hoffman Process and Insight Institute, just to name a few. All right, let's see what kind of questions we have here. And again, if you want to be on live, just simply hit the link. I posted in the chat box, okay? See if someone's brave enough. Christina says, Jonathan, I love the fact that you tell us and explain the truth. I am so grateful for that as well. Thank you so much. Let's keep swimming. Let's see. I could have swore I saw a question here earlier. Bear with me, everyone. Bum, bum, bum, bum, bum, bum. Here's a Jeanette wrote question. Is it because subconsciously we want to be used? How to get out of that without becoming selfish, self-centered and basically not beautiful? Okay, great question. All right, and Violet, I see that you're in the box or there, I'll plug in just a second. I want to answer Jeanette's question. All right, so, oh, just something occurred to me. I won't be able to hear Violet, I'm muted. Oops, sorry about that. Coming back to, it looks like I got muted for a second. So I just want to say, I do believe that there might not necessarily a subconscious level to be used, but there is a lack of self-love and in that lack of self-love, being used actually creates an opportunity to choose self-love, because if you've been used by someone and you don't stand up for yourself, I think God, universe, spirit, Gus continually sends you opportunities to actually lean into your own sovereignty, your self-worth and self-esteem. So I don't think it's, it might be a subconscious, it's not about wanting to be used subconsciously. You want to heal your own lack of self-worth so you'll choose people that use you until you actually stand in your power. So great question there, Jeanette. So thank you so much. All right, it looks like we have, okay, the loss of the sound, sorry about that. We are back. Let's see, I can't connect this device. Kick it from studio. It looks like a kick guest. Okay, if you want to ask a question, write the word question, then post the question there after. Let's see, we've got a couple of questions here. Sweet Art says, what's your favorite date ideas to go on? So, you know, when Marie and I first met, and there's a picture of my sweetheart and I, you know, we really, we didn't date.  It was just, we decided to explore the validity of a relationship with one another because we had distance in all. So when she came to visit me after the first time I met her, we didn't go anywhere. We just, I laid a picnic on the floor and we just laid our cards on the table and we talked for 10 hours straight each day. But tonight is a happy hour and we're gonna go out for drinks. I actually prefer a happy hour. At first I like doing social gatherings with friends is another thing. I like to spend time with family is another thing. So these are all things I like to do but I'm trying to think, what's my favorite date? You know, my favorite time is just connecting with someone where you can really connect and share from the heart. So that to me is the best date. It could be having a cup of coffee. It could be tea, it could be alcohol. It could be going to Disneyland. I remember once I had a date where we went to Disneyland and because we're in line so much, we just, we're talking. That's my idea of a great date. So hope that helps. Thanks so much for that question. Wanda writes, question. Why would a man decide he doesn't, why would a man decide suddenly he doesn't want anything from you after years of accepting help? Probably he wasn't either just not that into you or he wasn't true. He didn't want true partnership in his life. Remember I talked about the men earlier that have a short-term dating strategy versus a long-term dating strategy. When a man has a long-term dating strategy, if you're not the one, he eliminates you rather quickly. But men who are lonely, desperate or horny, they'll stay with someone for years to get their needs met of that connection but they're not really capable of something deeper. That's usually the case anyways. And Pam says, loneliness can make a person vulnerable. That's true, very true. All right, let's keep going. Sharon says, yes, Jonathan, I have felt alone and I do feel alone, but I'm okay being on my own. Way to go. Francesca writes, question. The man is emotionally mature, seems he has learned a lot from his past. Only thing is he's in job transition, unstable financially, willing to see what he does moving forward. Red flag. First off, a red flag simply means ask questions. The reality is, is this is a, by the way, COVID caused a lot of men and women to be displaced professionally. So I'm not surprised that this has happened. And there are a lot of other reasons. I know I went through a period of time where I was struggling financially. Now, here's the challenge with this man. If the ground underneath him doesn't feel solid, it makes it difficult for him to lean into a relationship of full commitment. He could want companionship, he could want connection, he could want sex, but it makes it difficult for him to lean into our instinctual provider protector. So you have to be careful not to be the financial supplementer of the relationship. Now, if we think about it, men do this all the time. So wouldn't it be okay to do this in reverse? Well, you have to do this with a sense of consciousness because could you financially support the two of you if you ever get married? Ask yourself that question. If the answer is no and the ground underneath him isn't solid, you could be investing in a money pit, okay? But it's hard to say because like myself, I turned it around, but a lot of times when a man turns it around financially, they want to end the relationship so they can be a bright, shiny penny to someone new. So, yes, it's a red flag. Does it mean you end, is it a deal breaker? You have to ask that for yourself, Francesca. Have a great question. So thank you so much. Elder writes, I've ended the new relationship. I've been in because once again, I've been used. I give up, I'm so sad and lonely. What should be my next move? Okay, you ended the relationship. Good for you, that's standing in your power. The minute you say I'm used, you're in victim consciousness. I'm here to say, your next step is to simply ask yourself these three questions. What positive things did I learn about myself in this experience? What positive things did I learn about myself in this experience? Number two, what was good about this experience? What was good? And lastly, what am I grateful for in this experience? When you can answer those three questions, you will be much closer to being attracted, attracting what you want instead of living in victim consciousness.  I'm just saying it could be your victim consciousness. Okay, so thank you so much. Jennifer says, I like masculine provider. I think a man who wants 50, 50 is essentially using a woman and not in his masculine energy. You talk about women treating and how it's nice that she does. Well, thank you for sharing that. That's your perspective. I will tell you, if you were married and for whatever reason, your husband lost his job and he couldn't work for a year and you had to pay all the bills, does that put him in his feminine energy? What if he got disabled? Does that put him in his feminine energy? I'm not suggesting anything is 50, 50. I think two people should put 100% in each relationship. I'm a big proponent of throwing out the gender rhetoric and operating from a heart-centered place. This is why I recommend the book. If the Buddha dated, if it Buddha dated because it throws out the gender rhetoric and says, how can two people connect from a heart-centered place? And money, by the way, the second most common reason for divorce next to intimacy is money issues. And so if you're not on the same page about money and if there's an expectation, that leads to disaster in many cases. So that's my two cents on that, Jennifer. I hope you found value in that. Debbie says, this is resonating. Thank you, keep me good. Thanks so much, I appreciate that. Dawn says, what, and by the way, everyone write the word question first. What does it mean when a man is enthusiastic about doing handyman jobs, cooking for me, working on my car, but he doesn't want to be bothered with phone calls. He doesn't answer texts or communication. You know, a lot of men, and I can be, by the way, my sweetheart was out of town for a few days and she wanted to talk on the phone. I'm like, I just don't feel like talking on the phone. I mean, I've reached a point in my life and believe me, for a lot of baby boomers and Gen Xers, talking on the phone and texting is a chore. But he demonstrates all these great qualities he fixes things for you. He works on your car, he does cooking for you. Those are great signs of his love language. If you're not familiar with the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, I highly recommend checking this out. He is an acts of service guy. He is demonstrating, he cares about you. Believe me, guys don't do that stuff if they don't care about you. So he doesn't want to talk on the phone, BFD. That's my two cents on that anyway. So thank you so much, Don. Sheila writes, question, my ex-boyfriend and I are going to date again. I use some of the, are we compatible questions, et cetera. He was overwhelmed, he said. Let him process and two weeks later had a three hour phone call. Well, thank you for sharing that. That's not a question, but thank you for sharing that. I appreciate it. Ursula writes, question, why would a man not call but continue to text? He is slower than molasses. Are there any valid excuses? He's just not that into you. I mean, I'm sorry.  That's it. When I, by the way, after my second date with Marie, after we went to the wedding together, I was like, first off, she looks spectacularly gorgeous. So couldn't take my eyes off of her. Yes, I am a red-blooded male and she was wearing a red dress. But the thing is, is once I realized I liked her, I did everything I could to covet her into my life. That's what men do when they really like you. When they're passive, they use you. And when they're not into you, they're flaky. They still use you, but they're flaky. And when I say use, they want, they're doing it from their own perspective, not from your perspective. They just want their needs met. That's what being used is. Is I want my needs met without genuinely caring about your needs. And many of you fall into this trap. So Ursa, stop it. Okay. Julie writes question. Could you recommend online dating apps or sites preferred by high-value men and women who are serious about relationships? Well, I would say eHarmony is one of them because you got to pay 50, 60 bucks a month. Millionaire Match is about $70 a month. It's a little bit more expensive. I mean, the apps are free, so there's no real seriousness involved in them. Match.com is one of the other ones. I think it's about $45 a month. If you've got a little bit of skin in the game, you're a little bit more serious about it. So those are the couple three that I would recommend. All right. Here's a question. By the way, folks write the word question so it's easy for me to find. Sharon writes, I find in the dating world, why is it that so many men want to only date with sex? And that's fine, but they don't want commitment. So why is it they don't want commitment? For, okay, ladies, it's because you make sex so easy, we don't have to commit. We're watching the 90 day fiance the other way and there's one woman says, why, and this is her words, why should I give my milk if you ain't gonna buy the cow? Kind of thing. Ladies, it's because sex is relatively easy to obtain so you don't have to. It used to be if you wanted to get laid, you had to get married. Well, now hooking up is the easiest pie. So very few men are out of the gate want commitment except for those men that have a long-term mating strategy. You have to adopt a long-term mating strategy. And first off, it doesn't matter what men want to do.  That's what you should be asking yourself, Sharon. Great, but thank you for reaching out. I appreciate it. Rita writes, question, could getting back to your ex ever be a good idea? Only under the question, why did this relationship end and why should we continue to go forward? Ask yourself this question, why did it end? What has changed and why should we move forward? Okay, it's my invitation for you. All right, Jennifer says, do you think that matchmakers would work? They would vet the man and make sure of their intentions. I would say the Indian matchmaker works, but the vast majority of matchmakers don't do the kind of vetting that you need to do for yourself. This is why I created my private coaching. Here's a link to it. My job is to teach you how to become your own matchmaker because all matchmakers do, especially if you're paid, they have a database of people and they just say, let's just send them the people we have. Have they done some vetting? Yeah, they've done some vetting, but can they vet for emotional maturity as good as you can? Can they vet for compatibility as good as you can? Some matchmakers can, the vast majority don't. Some can, but not all. Ether writes, question. I recently ended a one-year relationship with a guy 20 years younger than me from Egypt. He said he loved me and wanted to move in with me, but his family knew nothing. Thank you for sharing that, Ether. That's not a question though. Folks, if you're gonna ask a question, ask a question. Don't post a statement. Let's see what Vera writes, question. My boyfriend has two kids with two different women. We have been in a relationship for six months only. I asked him if he wants more kids and he said he doesn't, but maybe in three years. I'm 34. Again, not a question. If you have a question, write the word question and then ask me a question, ladies. Debbie posted, do you feel that guys get in trouble were stuck somewhere, pled for your love, attention and affection? Wait, do you feel that guys get in trouble? We're stuck somewhere, plead for your love, attention and affection. How do you handle them? Debbie, I really don't understand your question. I'm sorry, I just don't get it. Okay, so let's keep swimming. Okay, here's a question. What should a woman focus on the first date? Asking and talking about serious topics or going light and getting to know each other a bit? We're both in our mid-30s. So if you've met through a dating app, I would actually use the first phone call as your first date, asking the deeper questions. So that when you meet in person, you can actually have a good time if you passed the test, so to speak. So do it on the telephone before you meet and so your date, if you do decide to meet, can be, you know, find out some things. Do you share the same values?  Do you seem to want the same things? Ask these questions ahead of time so you don't have to go get dressed up to only find out you're disappointed and maybe do a FaceTime ahead of time to do the initial sniff test to see if you're attracted to one another. That's my invitation for you. April says, amen, Jonathan, 100%. Thank you so much. So Elder says, I don't think I had victim consciousness. I was just giving you the information of what happened and how I felt, but thanks for your reply. Again, oftentimes, and if I directed that towards you, let me clarify, oftentimes people feel like they got used, they feel like they got hurt and they're operating from a victim consciousness. The reality is, if we are standing in our power, we can never be used by another person. It might be an experience we didn't like, it might be a misaligned experience, okay? And there might be a significant learning experience in the process and that was really the gist of what I was saying there. So thank you for that as well. Emily writes, question, being a widow is very different. I have no horrible divorce story. I like my husband. I was cherished and trusted. How do I find that from a divorce man? What are the ready signs? First off, I'm sorry that you lost your husband. That's very sad. You know, divorce people, oftentimes, are riddled with a lot of traumas, okay? Just like a widower could be, you know, the trauma of loss can be as equally damaging emotionally as the trauma of a divorce, I mean, on some level. And divorce people who have not done some healing after their divorce oftentimes aren't good candidates to be in relationship. When you think about the divorce rate for second marriages is 65% and third marriage is 75%. Going through a divorce, oftentimes, people are worse off than when they started their marriage, okay? So what you wanna pay attention to is his languaging. Does he talk negative about his ex-spouse? That's a great sign that he may not have been healed, especially if he thinks he got used by his ex-spouse, he may not have been healed from that relationship. That's one thing I would pay attention, okay? All right, Nicole writes, question. After 11 month relationship and being out for three weeks, I'm hurting, but now, wait, but how long should I wait to start dating? You know, they say sometimes the half, you know, somewhere between six months to two years on 11 month relationship, I would say four months to six months would be a good break. Allow yourself some time to heal, maybe do a workshop, do personal development, self-help the spiritual workshop, read some books. If it was a devastating breakup, then I would contact Adele Theron at the Naked Recovery, Naked Divorce, there's a link below. Ask for Adele, mention my name. And there's a link below to Naked Discovery, Naked Divorce. That's what I'd recommend if it was a traumatic ending, okay? Question, I just left my person who I've been talking to because he was very inconsistent. I'm ignoring his phone calls. He calls all day and all night. Why didn't he appreciate me when I was around? As I said earlier, the vast majority of human beings want companionship, connection and sex, but they're not able to lean into the most important component and that is commitment where you build trust with another human being. So he is most likely feeling lonely, okay? He is feeling lonely and he is operating from a dependent place to get you back. But if you don't heal the underlying cause of the relationship problems, it's gonna be another problematic relationship. So why is he doing it? The question is, why do you care? Why do you care? Does the why really matter? Okay, because we oftentimes think, oh, he must really love me if he keeps calling me. Well, if he genuinely loved you, then he would have been that way and appreciated beforehand. Sometimes men don't appreciate what they have until after it's lost, but trust me, they oftentimes revert back to their old behavior the minute they got it because it's the sad reality is. I'm gonna use an analogy. My son, there's Colin right there. I remember when he was 13 years old, he wanted to get the new placed game called Halo. And we had to wait in line till midnight before the store was open to sell the game. And the line was like three football fields long, thousands of people, we had gotten there early, so we arrived in the front of the line. And he got the game and he was playing it and playing it, playing it, playing it. Till the new game came out, Duke Nukem. And we stood in line for that. And what happened to Halo? Well, he was sitting on his shelf. You know, he appreciated before he got it. He used it for a bit, but he was on to the next one. Sadly, many people treat human beings the same way. It's the novelty that they like. And when the novelty's gone, they might revisit it because they're missing it, but they're oftentimes looking for the next novelty to replace them. That's just one of many reasons why, Jane. So I hope that helps. All right, let's keep swimming. Sheila writes question. My boyfriend, after three hour call, told me to date other guys to make sure I knew he was the one I wanted to be with. Sorry, my end of my first question got cut off. I told him, I'm done. That's very interesting. I don't think I've ever heard that before. Go date others to make sure I'm the one. I don't understand his logic on that one, Sheila. That one doesn't make sense to me. I'm sorry, I'll have to ponder that a little bit because that one confuses me, okay? All right, thank you so much. Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? Exactly. Let's keep going. Bartola, question.  I've been dating him for four months. Now is good time. If he's stuck around that long, that's a good sign. I mean, now when you say dating for months, have you been cyber dating him for four months? Or have you been seeing each other two, three, four days and nights a week together, doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in our personal and our professional life. And if you've reached that, then it is time for intimacy.  But if it's occasionally, if this four months is cyber, it's not until you've established a hundred hours of face-to-face time.  All right, let's keep going. Nicole writes, question. Oh, we already did that. Let's keep going. Francis writes, question.  Carol for free. Okay, thank you. Not a question. Jill writes, question. Been dating eight months, had a conversation where, wait, been dating eight months, had a conversation where we act.  He said, please be patient. Then Jill, guess what you say to him. You don't get my vagina anymore until I meet your family. That's what you say to him.  And then you see his real value, okay?  Does he really want to explore something? Now, here's the tricky part. If family means his children, I can understand why we might be reluctant to introduce our children. But you know what? If you're having regular sex together, and if he doesn't know by now eight months in, that's a real problem, okay? Listen, let me get on the phone with him. Can schedule a discovery call with me. Let me get on the phone with him. I'll do the talking for you. My job is to be your big brother. I've got the shotgun pointed at his face and saying, what's your intentions with my little sister?  So don't be naive. And if you need a big brother, I can do that phone call for you. Just schedule, hire me as a coach, so, okay? Julie writes, question. Is there a red flag in a relationship when your man disappears almost every weekend without notifying me? He claims he's an introvert and needs a long time, but he never notifies me beforehand. My guess is he has something to hide. And Marie just overheard me and she said, run, run, run. That's Marie's advice. So listen to Marie, run. He's hiding something. Corny Cobb, just personal question. Has your son read what the heck is self love anyway? You know what? It's funny, as I'm reading this, I think the answer is yes, but I don't recall now if we ever talked about it. So great question. I'm gonna have to ask Colin at the end. So thank you for that personal question. Mel says, question. Why do ex-husbands want to remarry the wife they let go? Familiarity, just like I was telling the story about my son and his video games because it's on the shelf and you'd like to go back to what's familiar. It's very common to go back to what's familiar because familiar oftentimes feels safe. By the way, I scratch my nose because I've got a fan on and it's blowing dust in my nose. So that's part of the reason why sometimes I scratch my nose, but coming back to your question, it's because it's familiar and sometimes familiar feels safe. Doesn't necessarily mean you healed your problems in relationship, it just feels safe. So thank you so much. Oh my God. All right, question. What can you tell us about successful men who are highly educated but never married, red flag? We are both in our mid 60s, no children financially independent. All right, so what does it say about a man who's been divorced? Does that mean he's any better at relationship? Yes, one made a commitment, but it didn't work out. Another person. So what you want to do is find out because most likely I'm going to bet he's a serial monogamous, a serial monogamous. He's probably had multiple relationships. He probably lives in David Foster who was the producer for, oh God, Whitney Houston and so many famous recording artists. He was a serial marier. He'd be in a marriage and the minute something go wrong, he'd end it. And he's had multiple marriages, David Foster. But now he's met a woman and he seems to says I've healed from that pattern of running. My guess is he's possibly a runner. The minute something goes wrong, he's off to the next person because he can't handle conflict. If you're not familiar with the book, eight dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. And second is eight dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. But more importantly, the book Marriage Ain't For Puncts by Dr. Calvin Robertson. He is the pastor who is on a married at first sight. I love his work, but his whole premise of relationship success centers around conflict resolution skills. And the fact is, is most humans have terrible conflict resolution skills because they have terrible communication skills. The vast majority of people have what's known as violent communication instead of non-violent communication. If you haven't read the book, Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. And this should have been titled Compassionate Communication. This is learning true compassionate communication. And so coming back to your question, why that's probably the reason why. I'm just speculating here a little bit of projection on my part. All right. Nicole says, why would a man say he needs to walk in the desert where together almost a year? I have no idea why a guy would say that. Let's keep swimming in here. Looks like Robin says, well said big brother, Jonathan. Thank you so much, okay? Oh, this dust is bugging me. Jeanette says, I need you as a big brother. I'm honored if I could be your big brother. I can do all the talking for you. So yes, let's keep swimming.  Does that mean he's never cared? It means he's an insecure person in my opinion for someone to, yeah. It doesn't mean, real care is looking beyond our own insecurities and say, this person matters to me.  Folks, our current dating strategy is many people have a short term mating strategy, not a long-term mating strategy. And a long-term mating strategy says you either want to move in together or get married.  You might want to have deeper questions to determine if you're on the same page. Earlier I mentioned, where I was asked about matchmakers and I talked about the Indian matchmaker, what a TV show on Netflix. What I appreciate about the content in that show is these are couples who want to be in a long-term marriage and they negotiate their terms before they ever have sex with one another or they date for a very long period of time. You want, if you want to have a life mate, then you have to establish a long-term mating strategy and that's what I teach you in my private coaching. So schedule a discovery call with me at seeing if the work is working with the coach is right for you. There's links below to my group, Midlife Love Mastery to talk to me. And again, if you need help, I can talk to your boyfriend as well. Check out all the books I recommend, check out the Naked Discovery, check out my Instagram page and get my free gift as well. All right, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do.  Oh, and subscribe to my channel, by the way. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to hit that like button as well. And if you can't hug yourself, you can't hug the person you love, then go find a friend, find a teddy bear, a pillow, give them a big, gigantic hug or a pet because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we can all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Tamara and Jennifer and Roller Girl and Tasha and Jackie and Leif and Sweet and Mel and Ether and Sheila and Barbary, Barbie and Jeanette, Robin, April, Bartola, everyone, thank you so much. Have a fab evening, bye now.


What is up, you guys? Welcome back to another one. If you are new to the channel, I am Gold Pony. I do new car truck SUV reviews on YouTube. And today we are in the new 2021 Ford Mustang Mach-E courtesy of Bob Ruth Ford in Dillsburg, PA. For more information on their inventory, please feel free to check out the link in the description box below. And so I am in this one today, of course, because this is an all new electric SUV from Ford, of course. Essentially you just plug it into your garage every night and it is charged up then in the morning. And it is pretty darn good looking in my personal opinion as well. A lot of its styling cues, of course, coming from the Ford Mustang itself. And so in this video, I will be testing out and going over everything about this one from acceleration to braking, the steering feel, ride quality, I just let off the gas and there's regenerative braking essentially is bringing me to a stop without me having to hit the brake pedal at all. I like that. And so anyways, I'm just gonna cut right into it. And as always, let's start with pricing. It's a before I actually go over the trim levels and the pricing for each one of those trim levels. I did want to mention to you guys at least at the time of this video, there is an available $7,500 federal tax credit if you live here in the US. So if you were interested in one of these, you have that to look forward to as well. And so first trim level is going to be this select that starts at $42,895. Then there is the California Route 1 for $49,800 premium, which actually is the one we have today starting at $47,000 even GT, which is going to be the very quickest Mach-E. That one starts at $60,500. And lastly, the first edition starting at $58,300. And so as you can imagine with each of those trim levels there are different specs when it comes to horsepower, torque, all of that fun stuff. So first configuration I'm going to go over belongs to the select and premium trims like the one we have today. 266 horsepower, 317 pound feet of torque for the rear wheel drive. However, 428 pound feet of torque for the all wheel drive actually that we have today. Zero to 60 on this one, approximately 5.2 seconds with 230 miles of range in case you were curious there. Then there is the California Route 1 trim level. That one puts out 290 horsepower, 317 pound feet of torque. That particular setup is rear wheel drive only. So no all wheel drive is going to be available for that one. Zero to 60 for that, 6.1 seconds with 305 miles of range. Then you have the first edition trim level that one puts out 346 horsepower, 428 pound feet of torque. All wheel drive only for that one. Zero to 60 in 4.8 seconds with 270 miles of range. Lastly, the GT trim level, again the quickest one putting out 480 horsepower, 600 pound feet of torque. By the way, there is a performance edition for that one that puts out 634 pound feet of torque. All wheel drive only for that one, 3.8 seconds to 60 or 3.5 seconds if you go with the performance edition with 250 miles of range for that particular setup. But before we do any kind of fun acceleration test in our mock E here today, a couple different things I wanna mention to you guys first. Let me start with of course the drive modes. There are three of them. They are labeled whisper, engage and unbridled. And so I currently have it in unbridled of course. So if you were to think of it in a different way, whisper is gonna be eco, engage might be normal and unbridled means sports. So I just think of it that way. But they will adjust things like the acceleration, the steering feel, which was immediately noticeable. For me, it is a much heavier steering feel when I put it in that last driving mode there, which I currently still have it in. So it's also going to adjust how quickly the mock E is going to slow down for you as well actually. Gotta love these driving modes when it comes to electric cars. It's so different. And also one more thing I wanted to mention to you guys before we do that acceleration test. There is a one pedal drive mode. And so I just put it in that drive mode. And really what that does is it just takes full advantage of the regenerative braking.  And it did without me having to touch the brakes whatsoever. So that is a pretty crazy concept if you were not used to electric cars. So I think that is pretty cool. I like that there. And actually there is a button labeled propulsion sound. Let's go ahead and hit that just for giggles here. I like that. I'm gonna leave that on. It makes this thing sound like a turbo jet taking off, like an airplane taking off if you will. So I like that. I'm gonna leave that on another little cool feature of this one. But anyways, I'm loving playing around with this thing.  The time of this video, five years from now when I'm watching this, that may be different. But now I haven't got all of that out of the way. What do you guys say? Let's go ahead and find it straight away here. Let's put the Mach E to the test with our 400 plus pound feet of torque here. And let's see how quickly we can get this one here up to speed. All right, this is our straight away here in three, two, one. Oh my gosh.  Oh my gosh. This is a premium. This isn't even the GT. Wow. Yeah, buddy. This thing is fun, man. I wasn't, okay. It has over 400 pound feet of torque. I get it, but still, dang. You can feel it in the pit of your stomach, you guys.  Not the ones where it's just like slow, but it's just the ones that shoot you out. That is how fun this thing is. I can't stop smiling. This Mach E is a beast, son. And this is coming from somebody who owned a 2019 Mustang GT. This thing is a blast. Anyways, I'm done. Took all along with that acceleration as always, braking is equally important. And so as you can imagine, four-wheel ventilated disc brakes do come standard, but it comes to that 60-zero stopping distance that comes in at 109 feet. And by the way, for comparison sake, you guys, typically the Mach E is compared to the Tesla Model Y. That 60-zero stopping distance for that one, 118 feet. So 109 feet is much better instantly brings you to a stop in this thing, not to mention the one-pedal drive mode, where essentially you don't even have to hit the brakes and it brings you to a stop, which is so freaking weird and very cool at the same time. So braking feel is absolutely wonderful, actually, in the Mach E, believe it or not. Sometimes electric cars have issues with the braking feel, but definitely not the case. In the Mach E, touching on suspension and handling independent front and rear suspension, if you were to go with the GT-term level, you will also get a MagnaRide damping suspension as well. And so always want to emphasize that one because that really does give you the best of both worlds. It not only tightens up the suspension during heavy cornering, but it also monitors the road imperfections. It gives you a much smoother ride then as well. So it essentially monitors each shock absorber individually. It's how it's able to pull that off. So that is definitely one that I like to emphasize. But overall, as far as ride quality goes, it's perfectly fine, actually. You can feel a little bit more of the road than maybe some of its other SUV counterparts, but it's not that. I will say that. As far as steering feel goes, when you put it in that unbridled driving mode, it is wonderful. A very nice feel to it, definitely on the heavier side without a doubt. So absolutely no issues whatsoever when it comes to the steering feel. I'm loving it. When it comes to cabin noise, you guys could probably tell I am driving right now. There isn't a whole lot of exterior wind noise whatsoever coming into the cabin. It is a very quiet cabin, as expected. This is a lecture car after all. So that is quite interesting and quite cool as well there. And by the way, that is due in part because there is acoustic laminated front windshield for every single trim level. Then if you were to go with the premium or GT trims, you will get acoustic laminated front side glass. And actually first edition trim level is going to give you the side glass as well. So that is pretty cool. As far as visibility goes, it is great. I can see perfectly fine out the back. So absolutely no issues there whatsoever. And in addition to that, there are rain-sensing windshield wipers that do come standard on every single trim level across the board as well. But that about rounds out the performance segment of this review, you guys. Let's now go ahead and take a look at the exterior of our brand new 2021 Ford Mustang Mach-E. All right, so now since we are around front of the Mach-E, when it comes to that front grille, there really isn't one. I usually start with the front grille, but that is not going to be the case here, obviously. However, I will say, if you were to go with the GT trim level of this one, that GT trim actually kind of imitates a front grille with the look of it, although still not technically a front grille. So I wanted to mention that. Also, if you guys are wondering what is in place of the engine underneath of the hood, instead you're actually going to get compartmentalized storage in the front. So that is pretty cool. Sometimes with the lecture vehicles like, I don't know, the Volkswagen ID-4, you don't have that. But I know with Tesla, you do. And with the Mach-E, you also have a frunk. So that is a pretty cool setup out there. I'll say that. But to the sides, LED reflector headlights are going to come with the select and California trims. However, LED projector headlights are going to come with the premium and GT. Therefore, a little better illumination if you were to go with one of those top two trim levels there. Either way, you're going to get the automatic feature, meaning when it starts to get dark at night, they're going to turn on automatically for you there. And LED daytime running lights then as well. But so then making our way to the side of the Mustang Mach-E, black windows surrounds do come standard rear privacy glass, come standard along with that. Charging port is going to be found on the driver's side front fender in case anybody was curious where that was located. As far as the charging speeds go, few different ways you could charge it, of course. There is the traditional three pin plug or the wall outlet, I should say. That is going to charge this one up completely in 33 hours. There is the 3.6 kilowatt. That is going to be 21 hour charge. And a seven kilowatt is going to charge you up in 11 hours. That DC fast charger, if you wanted to go that route, it's going to charge this thing up from zero to 80% in 47 minutes. After that 47 minutes, it does slow down a little bit. So Ford recommends that you just charge it up to 80% and then stop and continue on with your trip. But anyways, wanted to mention that. In case anybody was curious about the warranty, since I haven't mentioned yet when it comes to the battery at least, battery is warrantied for eight years or 100,000 miles, whichever comes first. So I wanted to mention that as well. But zooming back out to the side mirrors, they are power adjustable heated side mirrors that do come standard. They will also come with LED integrated turn signals and pony projection lights as well. That is pretty darn cool because I know that's with the premium trim level of the typical Mustang GT. So do like that it comes standard on the Mach-E here. Also wanted to mention as far as the finish of the side mirrors go, it is going to be body colored for the select but all other trim levels, those side mirrors are going to be finished in gloss black like you were currently looking at right now. But now let me get to how you actually get in the Mach-E because it is a little bit different than every other vehicle out there. For example, there is simply a button on both the front and rear doors that you just press and then the door will slowly nudge open. So you can then pull it all the way open the rest of the way. So simply just pressing on the button, it'll pop out for you and then you can pull the door the rest of the way open in case anybody was curious there. Taking a look down at the wheel configurations, 18 inch carbonized gray painted aluminum alloys for the select trim, 18 inch high gloss black painted aluminum alloys for the California 19 inch machine finished aluminum alloys for the premium that of course being what you guys are looking at right now and 20 inch machine faced aluminum alloys for the GT. And of course you have that Mach-E badging located on the front door sent towards the bottom as well which is pretty darn cool. But now let's go ahead and make our way to the back of the Mach-E rear spoiler with an integrated brake light does come standard just below that rear window wiper as well. LED tail lights with clear housings. I've always loved clear tail light housings or really any vehicle. It's kind of the Euro look if you go with the traditional Mustang that is how they're set up there in Europe but then when they get to the US of course the red. But anyways, pretty cool look and this is how they look when the turd signals are on and also when I'm breaking I wanted to show that to you guys but Pony logo also looks very good back there with a carbon look to it just below it all a gloss black lower rear bumper of course no exhaust outlets this is an electric vehicle so typically at this point I do the exhaust clip but instead we're just gonna skip on to the rear tailgate here. A bit so then when it comes to opening that rear tailgate it is a manual tailgate for the select in California trim levels hands free power tailgate them for the premium and GT. Once opened up cargo capacity comes in at 29.7 cubic feet if that what it's not enough space as your receipts of course do fall down bumping that up to 59.7 cubic feet of course in that cargo area you can also find tie-down anchors there are grocery bag hooks a 12-volt power outlet of course some cargo lighting back there and there's actually an adjustable cargo floor with in-floor storage then as well and if you wanted a cargo cover that is going to come standard on the California trim level and up in case you were curious there but now making our way up to the rear legroom that comes in at 38.1 inches so for reference I mean even six feet tall this is how much space I have back there for those rear passengers they can also find a rear center armrest with cup holders there is rear ventilation back there as well and a couple of charging ports for the rear passengers then as well which is pretty much as expected there but to then make your way to the front seats active X black cloth material coming with the select in California trims however if you were to go with the premium or GT that turns into active X perforated leather which is very comfortable by the way but Mico suede inserts and are going to come along with that if you were to go with the GT trim level front seats are going to be heated with the premium and GT trim levels as well and again seats are ridiculously comfortable in the Mustang Mach E I will say that I had no issues one of the first things I noticed was how plush these seats were so definitely very nice seating here then take a look at the steering wheel it is tilt and telescoping it is soft vinyl wrapped I don't think I've ever said that in a review so that's a little bit different kind of feels like leather quite honestly anyways heated steering wheel also coming with the premium trim and the GT trim level then as well but to then make your way to the startup let me first start by showing you guys the key here it is essentially like your standard Mustang key that I've held before so you got your Mustang logo on the one side when you flip it around lock on lock and that button to pop the rear hatch and then a push button start though is going to come standard for every single trim level along with the ability to use your phone as a key as well and so once started up this is one of the coolest gauge clusters kind of similar to the Volkswagen electric vehicle I drove recently but it is a 10.2 inch digital gauge cluster and it looks so cool digital readout essentially is front and center and it's really all you're going to need on that one but now let's go ahead and make our way to overall interior quality a panoramic fixed glass roof comes with the California premium and it's going to be optional for the GT then if you wanted it overhead sunglasses holder coming standard on the Mach E universal garage door openers standard on the Mach E got to love that wireless phone charger also coming standard on this one multicolor ambient lighting for the premium and GT trim levels then just the front of the shifter you have a little bit of storage found there with the USB charging port also an auxiliary port just underneath of that even more storage but it's going to be hidden storage this is the part I loved and didn't expect to see so that is pretty cool so if your girl and you were hiding your purse or something that is where you could potentially put it so that is pretty cool dual cup holders just behind that and by the way the gear selector to actually change this thing up is going to be the circular selector just like they use in the new GT 500 just like they use in the fusion on pretty much all of their other vehicles at this point but anyways within the center armrest you have a 12 volt power outlet any decent amount of storage then within there as well but overall as far as interior quality goes everything is finished in very high quality I love the contrast colors in this one with the light leather and the dark leather also like the contrast stitching but perhaps my favorite part about the interior design I guess you could say was the way they integrated the speakers into the whole design so we have a Bang & Olsen sound system I'll get to that in a second here but they kind of used the speaker design and finished a lot of the other interior with that design like just above the passenger side glove box that continues on just behind the infotainment screen and of course that same material is found on the doors then as well but a very nice design overall to the Maki of very high quality design I personally absolutely loved it but anyways let's now go ahead and make our way to the fun part to the infotainment screen it is a 15.5 inch vertical color touch screen display works just like a smartphone so it was very easy to pick up on for me personally Bluetooth and audio streaming do come standard one of my favorite parts though wireless Android Auto Apple CarPlay so many vehicles are still not doing that these days it's kind of hit and miss at this point I guess you could say but gotta love the wireless Android Auto Apple CarPlay this is a sync 4A system in case anybody was curious it's not the sync 3 system found in the 2020 Ford Mustang for example I don't know factory navigation system also coming standard you can check out your climate control settings up on that screen as well and your drive modes of course when it comes to the sound systems on this one six speakers are going to come with the select in California however you will get a 10 speaker Bang & Olsen sound system with wonderful looking speakers just like I said if you were to go with the premium or GT so having said that I do believe you guys know what we have to do next let's go ahead and turn on the radio see what we got playing today and let's test out the clarity of this one definitely a ton of bass going on with that sound system that is a wonderful Bang & Olsen sound system here in the Maki and definitely more of enough of a sound system for the size of this vehicle it's up the last thing I wanted to mention to you guys on that infotainment screen is when you do put the Maki in reverse you will find your rear view camera coming standard across the board 360 degree monitor then coming standard on the premium and GT trim levels which is always is going to lead us into safety and so then first thing I wanted to mention when it comes to safety IIHS top safety pick which pretty much says it all right there front side side carrying airbags do come standard drivers knee airbag up front as well in the back you're going to have latch aka lower anchors to tethers of children for the rear car seats rear child to relax tire pressure monitoring system that's all pretty boring but Ford does a very good job with a bunch of standard safety on the Maki it is called Ford co-pilot 360 and this safety suite is going to include forward sensing system auto hold automatic high beams a blind spot monitoring system with the rear cross traffic alert lane keeping system pre-collision assist with automatic emergency braking post-collision braking reverse brake assist rear parking sensors adaptive cruise control with stop and go evasive steering assist quite a bit there and then the California trim level and up is also going to add to that active park assist 2.0 where it is going to park itself like parallel park itself and things like that so all in all when it comes to my final thoughts let me tell you guys I might catch some crap in the comment section for this this thing is definitely worthy of the Mustang name and this is coming from E 2019 for Mustang GT owner let me tell you guys once you drive it you will understand if you're that Mustang guy like I was let me tell you an incredible acceleration when you put over 400 pound feet of torque and in a electric vehicle you are going to get instant acceleration it's like a roller coaster it's wonderful amazing braking especially when you compare it to the Tesla Model Y great tech great interior quality on this one which I can't always say when I do Ford reviews but this is definitely an amazing interior quality here also you got the $7,500 tax credit going on right now which is also a wonderful thing one pedal mode is an absolute blast especially if you're not used to it like Mason's electric cars are still relatively new at this point and overall I got to be honest you guys I would buy one of these things this was an amazing drive and quite honestly probably my favorite drive all year from being honest this thing was a blast everything about it so let me tell you if you get a chance to check this one out you definitely want to so anyways from the video at least let me know what you guys think of the Mustang Mach-E in the comment section below and so but that is about it for this one you guys thank you so much for watching feel free to follow me on social media at the bottom of the screen there if you wanted 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Greetings from the Commonwealth of Learning as we celebrate World Teacher's Day. This year the theme, the right to education means the right to a qualified teacher was chosen to mark the 70th anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights where education is recognized as a fundamental right where no one must be left behind. Higher teachers are critical to helping us achieve this aspiration, but even today they are an estimated 262 million children and youth still out of school globally and according to the UNESCO Institute of Statistics the world needs almost 69 million new teachers if we are to realize Sustainable Development Goal 4, SDG 4, which means achieving inclusive and quality education and lifelong learning for all by 2030. It will not be possible to train these numbers through conventional means alone. Innovative and alternative approaches are required and by harnessing the potential of technologies the Commonwealth of Learning has worked with governments and institutions around the world to increase the number of qualified teachers by providing effective training at lower costs. So how can we close the teacher gap and increase the number of trained and qualified teachers? Let me highlight three of Kohl's interventions in addressing these challenges. First, retraining and re-skilling teachers in the age of technology is absolutely important. Kohl developed the Commonwealth Certificate for Teacher ICT Integration to help teachers to integrate ICT into teaching policies and practices. Mr. Edward Iow, a teacher at Dara Christian High School in Uganda, benefited from this program. After completing the course, Mr. Iow used game-based and project-based learning in teaching biology and chemistry, which resulted in better learning outcomes even for students who had previously scored poorly. Kohl launched massive open online courses or MOOCs on an introduction to technology-enabled learning in partnership with Athabasca University here in Canada, and more than 5,000 teachers around the world were able to participate and update the pedagogical knowledge and skills. Second, Kohl promotes the development and use of open educational resources, or OER, especially for teacher training. In response to the challenges of teaching English in Africa, Kohl developed open educational resources for English-language teaching to provide high-quality multimedia materials. This has created a community of teachers in Kenya, Tanzania, and Uganda who use these resources as well as develop, adapt, and share their own materials. This has resulted in improved learner participation and engagement. Kohl also launched the Green Teacher Program in India and Nigeria to help teachers inculcate environmental concerns among children from the early stages. This content is again OER and can be adopted by teachers anywhere in the world. Third, Kohl worked with UNICEF to train teachers in child-friendly schools' methodologies in eight countries. In Nigeria, this project was integrated in the National Preservice Teacher Training Program, and research shows that this has resulted in improved teaching outcomes for the teacher trainees and better performance of students in maths. All these interventions have resulted in more qualified teachers and improved teaching practices. As the poet Yates once said, and I quote, �Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire�. I am sure all of us remember that teacher who inspired us to go beyond the confines of our reality and reach for the stars. Kohl salutes the hard work and dedication of teachers around the world and will continue to support them as they inspire citizens of the Commonwealth and indeed the global community to become lifelong learners. As we reflect on our progress and find ways to address remaining challenges, let us collaborate and work together to ensure that every child has the opportunity to learn from a qualified teacher who opens up the infinite possibilities and excitement of our wonderful world. Happy Teacher�s Day.


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