You look for out for each other, you're compassionate with one another and so on and so forth. So and there's others who have compassion, they treat their wife or they treat their husband well, but they may not have that deep love, right? And they can live for maybe 30, 40, 50 years together, but they, you know, sometimes it's just not, they didn't, it's really a lock with each other. So those two components are so beautiful and so beautifully stated in this eye. So that our beloved Prophet ﷺ he said, al-Nikahu sunnatī fa manna ad-dib'a'in sunnatī fa l-aisaminin, or fa l-aisaminin, or kamalqār ﷺ. That, you know, the marriage is from my way, is from my sunnah. Our example, our model in every aspect of life is Rasulullah ﷺ. He modeled in his life the most beautiful marriage between him and Sayyid al-Khadeegah ﷺ and the Prophet ﷺ he said, whoever turns away from my way they're not from me, they're not following my way, they're not following my path, right? So that's why marriage in Islam is a very, very, very important matter. And our Prophet ﷺ he encouraged that this is an encouragement that stands for all places, all times, all societies. Ya'ma'ashar al-shabāb, man istaqā'a minkum al-ba'a, fa liyyat al-zawwaj. The Prophet ﷺ he said, O young people, whoever is able from amongst you, whoever has emotional maturity, physical maturity, financial maturity, you're ready to get married. Get married. So the Prophet ﷺ encouraged this for people, when you're at that age and you start, you know, your body is telling you that you need to get married and you have whatever it takes to support somebody. It doesn't mean that you have a 50, 60, $70,000 a year job, doesn't mean you have to have a bachelor's degree or master's degree and so those are good things, those are obviously going to make you more stable and so on and so forth. But some people, quite honestly, are ready to get married before that and if they don't, it can be extremely difficult for them to maintain their chastity and maintain their modesty in the meantime, right? So as parents we have to think about those things while we're raising our kids. So those are just some very brief reflections that the Islamic base is for marriage. I'm talking about the benefits and the blessings of marriage, you know, it kind of touched upon a little bit, you know, the companionship, navigating life's challenges together, it's a foundation for raising a family, a source of, can be a great source of happiness, it can be a great source of pain and we know that divorce in Islam is allowed as well. So we know that that balance, I mean, there is that exception and there is that out, and Alhamdulillah, this is a halal way for men and women to be intimate with one another and to enjoy that. And it's important to see it that way and it's interesting what Suhaib was mentioning, love, you know, and Rahmah, Muwadda, love and mercy, that this is one of the reasons and this is kind of a non-scientific reasoning, but when a lot of young couples and even a lot of divorce-fabric, Americans are deep inside and so you hear this a lot of times, you know, I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore, you know, or I fell out of love, but that's where the Rahmah comes into play, you know, you have that time, no matter what, you know, there will be a time when you've had that giddy, that love feeling, but then there's that deeper love that I do things because I love you, you know, it doesn't have to mean, you know, all the time that, you know, okay, we're going to watch a movie for teenagers and we have kids and whatever, but that's when somebody makes a mistake, there's mercy, right? Somebody's not able to fulfill their part of their responsibilities for whatever reason, there's understanding, there's mercy, and that's what really creates a full and blessed marriage and when Al-Aswantala is in the center of the marriage, you know, that is the reason why the marriage was founded upon. Well, like this makes for the most successful marriage, when both individuals go into the marriage saying, we are here to please Al-Aswantala and whatever disputes we have, we take it back to Glorenza. This makes for a successful marriage, and I think we can end on that, alcohol. But, and when there are, when there's issues with Rahmah and Oatham, when there's issues with love and mercy, you know, you're just clashing to somebody and say, things are not working out, and that's when you ask Al-Aswantala for help. And Al-Aswantala will put that back into the marriage, you know, very important to remember that always, that even when things are very bleak and you ask Al-Aswantala, and of course it is his will to continue the marriage or not, but in all of those efforts, when that sincere effort is made, that is a possibility that we're allowed to put that back into the marriage. So it's a concept relationship that goes three ways, Glorenza. It's you, your spouse, and number one, Al-Aswantala, in terms of raising up a family that is open to you. Yeah, I mean, raising a family is so stressed in the focus of how that family should be raised and, you know, is exemplified in this dua, right? Rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhuryatina qurta'a yunin waj'adna li muttaqina hina, that for our Lord bestow upon us offspring that will be the pleasure of our eyes, right, the comfort of our eyes. Our family members, our spouses and our children, we want them to always be close to us, near to us, and we're asking Allah SWT to instill that within us.  Before they get married, they're looking. Guys nowadays are extremely picky in terms of who they want to marry as far as looks are concerned.  He doesn't even win the beauty contest like for two or three houses that he lives in, right? And he wants to marry Miss Universe. When you love someone, Allah SWT and when you come to someone for the right reason, Allah SWT puts that person in your eyes makes them look more beautiful than anybody else in this world, right? When you come to somebody for the right reasons, Allah SWT will make that person beautiful in your eyes. So when you look for somebody, you're looking here, you're not looking here and you're not looking at the rest of their body, you're looking at what's inside of them, right? Because that's what Allah SWT looks at. As our beloved Prophet ﷺ he says Allah is not looking at how you look and your shape and your form, he's looking at what's inside, right? That's how Allah SWT deems a person worthy or not, right? Let me know that, that taqwa is that component that is going to put you in good shape with Allah, right? So look to people in the same way, right? When you're trying to get married, you're looking for the same quality. You want to look at that quality which Allah SWT is looking at. So that should always be the focus for us pre-marriage and then of course post-marriage we're helping each other now develop that taqwa, right? Now you're in a family of God consciousness where you're working on that together. Some interesting statistics on marriage and SubhanAllah points to some interesting facts that happily married couples have a far lower rate of physical problems such as high blood pressure, heart disease, anxiety and depression. SubhanAllah not to underestimate the fact that stress is really a killer and it comes up in different forms whether it be these diseases that are mentioned, people say it also can lead to cancer as well. So SubhanAllah, it's really, really important if there are couples that are struggling in the home and they're fighting, they're arguing really to take a step back and see this is not only good for our health because of these issues, it's also not good for our children as well. Because they're seeing you are the role model for what they are going to be as husband and wife. The rate of satisfaction in marriage, this is really interesting so a national poll, it's a national survey, is higher for husband and wife when both regularly maintain religious attendance and feel that God is in the center of their marriage. This is a poll done by non-Muslims, done over the whole nation. So it's very interesting again, so we said it, we know this Ta'ala SubhanAllah is really the focal point of the marriage and again, this stress, this is stressed here as well in this survey, that when Allah is in the center of the marriage then both husband and wife, they feel more satisfaction. And it's also very interesting in terms of divorce, more than three-fifths of divorce Americans wish that they had worked on their marriage harder to actually save it. And again, SubhanAllah at the end of the day, it's going to see you made a Sahara, you chose, you thought it was great, God-conscious and it doesn't work out and it ends up in divorce. So that's not the point to a fault in a person when that happens. But again, when we talk about some of the shallow reasons why people divorce from another, this really points to that. So again, it's to kind of remind those that are looking to get married, to really take things seriously and to look at equality. And of course there has to be, when Sahara is mentioning, it's really important to look at the heart and not just the outer appearance, we're really talking about setting the bar so high, becoming so thick it has to be this size and this hair color and eye color. Of course there has to be acceptance, you know, so that there is some attraction. But again, not setting it as a model. We have to be super smart. Any other? Okay. I wanted to jump in here.  It's not static. Just like you are not static. So how can you expect, now there's two people involved and of course there's going to be children and then there's the in-laws and then there's all kinds of co-workers and friends and what have you. So all of those things are not static. How would a marriage be?   And to continue with that type of thought process can really create a losing situation.  What are you doing to contribute to the relationship? How is your relationship with Allah? That's something you should be asking yourself. Not always to blame it on the spouse. When your relationship with Allah is correct, it's on the right track, you will feel barqa and everything, not only your spouse and relationship that work with the kids, so on and so forth. So that's something really important. Also, you're the way that you feel about yourself. You know, what are you doing? And there's phases of life, right? Maybe it's an early stage, maybe life is not working, maybe husband's not working in the beginning, you know, maybe later when there's kids, there's a period of time when somebody's at home, maybe later in life. All those different times, you may start to internalize your own frustrations with yourself perhaps, or your own life situation and reflect that onto your spouse. But maybe it's just that you're not happy with yourself. So that's something also to consider when you're reflecting upon the status of your relationship. What are your strengths and weaknesses? Are you hot tempered? Are you sometimes aloof? It's easy for you to kind of get lost in your own self. Is there some kind of things that take you away from the family that maybe could be a stressor to the household? So what are your strengths and weaknesses? Again, look at yourself first before you start really thrashing your spouse and putting them down. And again, the beauty of Ahmad Muwadah when there's mercy in the relationship, it can keep that love alive. When there's mercy, you realize that the relationship, it's not all about you. It's two people and realizing that people change. So things went this way for five years. Okay, well, that person doesn't want to do that anymore. Or they don't feel it, certainly. Whatever it is, I don't like this routine. They change, so you can't just feel it. Well, this is not the way I found you when I married you. People change. Usually it's not dramatic, but again, that flexibility. It's a constant reflection process. Marriage is not static. So to expect that to stay the same, it would be foolish. Part of the problem is that women have certain expectations and men have certain expectations. By the way, this is talking about this issue of change. When women marry men, they expect them to change. Men don't change. And when men marry women, they expect them to forever look beautiful. But they change, right? So there are some changes that take place. What are you trying to say? I think that was a bad idea. I just see it. It's a perfect plan to change everything about a man. How do you know that? You just have to say something. Nobody should expect that they can change somebody else. But we can compromise. This is the word. We need to compromise in order to get along with our differences and to reach a middle point. Nobody can change anybody. Everybody in the relationship, he's going to change over the time. I can change her in my way. Nobody can change. But we need to compromise. I recommend it.  I'm going to give it on this. So you give and take. Then that's a happy situation. And it's not tit for tat. I did this, you did that. Everything is flex. Everything is just constantly moving. Although women have an easy memory of real. Score cards always keep you track. But you don't get that when you first get married.  That it all, you know, things change. When you first get married, you're just trying to, you know, change the other person. Absolutely. And that's why, I think it's very helpful. I know that Swah Alhamdulillah, when he was doing marriage stuff, that he required, he talked about that, he required a couple before they get married. If they sit with you. Yeah, of course. It's important, you know, when you get married. Islamically, a man and a woman should get to a point where they accept each other for what they are. They should know enough about each other that they feel comfortable with each other before they tie the knot. We live in a different generation than our parents and others. When people would, they would literally see each other one time if that or on their parents' recommendation and they would marry, right? We don't live in that time. We're bombarded with so much media and so many images of what women are and what men are and who they should be and what they should be like. And also in the education system that we grew up in, in the workplace, men and women interact freely and so on and so forth. And at that level, education at least was segregated to a large extent in many places and so on and so forth. So my point being that it's important that people get to know each other before they get married and they're comfortable with one another. Of course, what does that level of how much they should get to know? It's a subjective thing. There's boundaries that one should follow as long as those are considered and those are followed. That's fine. But the point is two people should know each other and understand each other before they get married and they should understand what their weaknesses of the other party is. You're not going to understand completely what their weaknesses are until you're together before marriage. It's a big show. You're putting on your best face. She's putting on her best face and so on. But there should be some level of interaction where you have some understanding of who the other person is and not ending up with somebody completely different once you actually start marriage. What I was pointing to in the now that they require a couple of meetings with the man before couples get married and I think that's helpful and I think a lot of times you've got couples in that direction that need just kind of the general advice before marriage to make sure that they understand each other. So Joao for the kids generation now will be experienced and tell them that we'll have some safe lives inshallah. It was interesting. Somebody asked me where you're going later today so I can talk about marriage and of course we're here to learn from you as well. It was an older woman and she said do people really go to these things? Can somebody really benefit from it? Everybody comes into a relationship. They don't change. She's a little bit sour. I said you know, so kind of people who really fear al-asqa al-ta'ala they will, doesn't have to come to a marriage and talk but they will be concerned. Am I doing the right thing? Am I pleasing al-asqa al-ta'ala? Even if you're making mistakes, even if you've wanted to have people look at you, you would be the type of person to be ready to accept advice. It doesn't mean you can be able to improve everything. Maybe you'll catch one thing tonight. Maybe I'm going to catch one thing tonight. I'm going to go home and try to work on that. And that's the beauty about Islam. When we understand this concept of taking account of yourself, it's not just me and how is my prayer five times a day and my do I complete Hajj or not or do I pace again, but it's also how do I interact with other people? It's not just my relationship with al-asqa al-ta'ala. Alhamdulillah every time I'm in Salah, I'm wonderful but I go and I'm back writing and I'm angry and I'm mean, I'm putting other people down. I'm nice to people outside of the home and then I come and dump on my spouse and on my children. And the dog, we have it. They're in the back room. This concept of keeping yourself accountable is really important and this should push ourselves to constantly better ourselves in all aspects of life, particularly in marriage. This ayah, al-asqa al-ta'ala says, I believe it's the only ayah where al-asqa al-ta'ala says that have taqwa of al-asqa al-ta'ala, be conscious of him be fearful of him, be mindful of him where he says it before the concept and right after the concept which obviously means in between those two times when al-asqa al-ta'ala says have taqwa pay attention to what's in the middle what's in the middle here every soul should pay attention for what it's putting forth for tomorrow. In other words be mindful of your time and how you use it how you spend it or what you do with it the most amount of time that we spend with anybody is with our families is with your family so that private life of yours let it be right be mindful of al-asqa al-ta'ala in that time like she said many people put on a very good face outside the house but inside the house there's somebody else don't be that person be mindful of al-asqa al-ta'ala everywhere you are in between closed doors in private even with yourself when you were sitting in front of the TV and watching the TV by yourself and what you're allowing yourself to see when you're sitting with your wife alone with your kids alone or whatever it is that you should be just as mindful of al-asqa al-ta'ala there than when you are outside in public and obviously in public we all straighten up and we try to put on a nice pose and you're more conscious of what you do but al-asqa al-ta'ala says everywhere all the time we try to touch upon the concept sometimes can be a source of conflict and marriages, you know what are the rights and duties of spouses and I think usually I don't want to be stereotypical but it can tend to be a morbid issue perhaps of men's expectations of what women should be doing and the misunderstanding of household chores household responsibilities we're coming upon a time where many households have two people working all and unfortunately and I think this happens more so people who have a lot of cultural expectations where the man will still this can be an issue where man can still expect that okay well the woman should be at home and take care of the children and all the house duties that cannot be the same when both people are working all of this is comprehensive understanding you know talking about what do you like to do what do I like to do, what do we do best and let's work on that together whether the husband is that woman, the wife is working or the woman is that woman, the husband is working that has to be a concept conversation it's nothing I'm using so elsewhere it's something that's black and white you have to do this otherwise you're not a good husband or you're not a good wife I want to just make sure that there's no misconstruing of that concept the man is responsible for the household fighting to be right, that's understood I didn't want that to be lost yes, that's one good that's one good you know one thing that's there that's for a man who's not sure of his responsibility financial responsibility to the home again there's a layoff or something that's a different story but for someone to say no I'm going to be home you have to go work that's not there, the man is responsible for that so again rights and duties and spouses in terms of household chores that has to be something flex any other thoughts on this of course there are the rights upon one another of course it's to treat each one with respect to keep the guard the secrets of each other not to expose them on the outside you know with this world of Facebook and Twitter people are exposing a lot about their families and SubhanAllah even this is just my advice this is kind of stepping aside a bit but your family is sacred what you and your husband do you and your wife, you and your spouse but what you do, where you go when you put it out there realize that people look at that and they're like wow they're going here they're going there and they're always happy and you know people SubhanAllah they get jealous because maybe I just had a fight with my spouse and somebody posted oh look what my husband gave me double you know two dozen roses and we went to this restaurant you know it makes people feel bad right and at the same time you know it's also creating a false reality that everybody's happy all the time you know somebody might have just fought and they posted that picture not to say that somebody cannot have an awesome relationship all the time but God bless me you know some things are a gem you don't have to always put it out there this is something precious always ask what's found out put marika in it and you don't want to create that content cycle I mean I know people that have left Facebook for years because they taught themselves always ideas of other people vacations, children all kinds of good things happen our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he taught us that to share private matters of the whole particularly intimacy is something that is absolutely forbidden right you're not allowed to talk about affairs of intimacy outside of your home with your with your spouse and an extension of that is your romantic relationship right it's it's not the exact same as intimacy but what she's talking about you know people posting nowadays on social media look what my husband got me you know that type of dialogue that's something for you and your spouse alone that's not to be shared with the whole world to have that value it enjoy it but between you and him why does anybody else in the world need to know about I think that's very very important you don't know what type of effects that can have on your own selves and on others our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he told us is is the kitsman right that seek help in the fulfilling of your duties with secrecy with privacy do your stuff and don't tell the whole world about it right what is the whole world need to know about what you and your husband Where you went on vacation or what you did in this and posting it out literally to the whole world, right? That is not There's no benefit in that there is no benefit in that if somebody can come up to me afterwards and give me a benefit I'm willing to listen, but It does a thousand times more harm than it will do Help so that's very very important this issue by the way of rights and duties of spouses and Islam It's a it's a big topic. It's not a small topic. We just we've glossed it over And oftentimes this is a point of contention When husband and wife struggle Because one party says this is what you're supposed to do another party this says what you're supposed to do those kind of Negotiation so to speak when people get stuck on them You should seek some you know some mediation to help you with that right whether that be Going to someone who's learned a family member a counselor or whoever it may be But that that issue of rights and duties is a big is a big Dividing point where people misunderstand what I'm supposed to do as a woman what I'm supposed to be the husband And so so we didn't want to leave that, you know and without making that point I Have a quick question or Maybe it's an assumption But individuals or let's say sisters or brothers that do post spouse information when they're married couple of the nation Could it be because of a sense of insecurity or wanting to be recognized or a sense of low self-esteem or something of that nature absolutely Yeah, absolutely that could be a process Wife can talk about That's a very good point I mean he's looking into the psychology of why you know somebody would post about their their intimate relationship or or about what my husband got me or this and that the other does that show some insecurity about the other partners Side and yeah, perhaps it does along the out and should you know should those Discussions and should that and I'm really curious, you know, so follow when people make those postings To that gratitude that they're showing publicly. Do they really do they really reflect that back on their spouse? you know do they really thank them and do they really appreciate them and and you know and show them In with love and care and affection To the same extent that they just throw out in the public It's a very good point and I think that speaks to Why do you social media in general, right?  So it may not even just be why did she post?  We went to this restaurant friend You know, what have you but in general, I mean Supanala it feeds the ego, right? And this is something really to be guarded and I'm telling you for personal experience I'm sure all of you have felt that at sometimes, you know, it Facebook is tricky Twitter all those kind of things You know what why are you posting just ask yourself just like we have to guard our tongue This is another means of communication. Why am I posting this? You know, what is the benefit am I gonna harm anyone ask yourself that and then again all of us can be guilty There's a one point so something to think about. It's not just about personal relationship Well anything that you post, you know person communication super key Subhanala key to successful marriage is having Communication and what does that mean? By the way, it is interesting. I think there's a A Fact of that 90% it's kind of high 90% of Communication is actually non-verbal Not verbal. What does that mean?  That's really important to understand how Each spouse communicates, you know, I understand it's somebody more verbal as somebody more non-verbal What are the cues understanding how you speak? Maybe you don't understand that you give certain cues I think that's so true but I think just even with you know any relationship people like to use this a lot to kind of Priests or assume how the other person is feeling and I feel like that kid that can go two ways Like somebody's by language might seem angry upset, but then really the other person is just like oh and totally okay And then that becomes blown up and it takes time. That's a very good point and it takes time But with time, you know, your partner's body language and what it means, right? Everybody has a different way of life So my when I smile I smile like this That's a big smile for me When she smiles you see how she smiles, right? But when you know each other you understand those parameters, so You're right in what you're saying, but it comes to a point when your relationship is solid and you still You will understand each other's cute, but it's a good point. You should always inquire Yeah A lot of this is understanding yourself so when you understand yourself you can understand yourself Oh, wow, it's different. So then there's some understanding there These are kind of not really in particular order But between husband and wife in the beginning you feel like you have all the time in the world as work It's more a busy life. It's busy. You have in-laws your family. You have children. Hello That's like a big time.  It's very interesting. It's actually a source of friction So that when you do have a few minutes you start fighting It's like it doesn't make sense that actually fighting because you actually miss each other and you even haven't had a chance that quality time So you start picking up the surface things Knit picking that's why you know America's bigger a lot But in reality, you haven't had that good quality time to spend with one another So make appointments with each other, you know at whatever stage of life make an appointment You may think I'll go home. We're retired. I see you every day make a lunch point that let's go out You know Tuesday, let's go out. Let's do this special thing. So it changes the flow You know when you when there's a younger you have kids, you know, say hey every night or maybe once a week Whatever it is. We're it's just gonna be you and me But no phone no Facebook no email, you know, unless it's an emergency We're not you know, we're putting that aside put the kids to bed and enjoy each other Even sometimes it's 15 minutes 20 minutes.  What's going on job? You know, but then you actually get to like talk about fun stuff could be something even in that level So that's very important understanding the emotion behind the words somebody just came home from work Somebody had a bad day at home. Whatever it is and someone is Raging, you know, it takes a lot of maturity and it takes a lot of What you know calm this within the other person to be able to say I know they're not mad at me I'm gonna let this go. I'm not gonna say why are you going and what have you, right? You're understanding that someone else's having a bad day has nothing to do with you and that takes a lot of practice stuff But that's really important and that's that's part of that mercy, right? That's part of that Love that and adding to that your expectation in my case like just to travel at all when he will come home He was exhausted or traveling for working I he wanted me to recognize his effort. I was exhausted from taking care of the kids and all that I was like I should be treated like that queen and he should talk he should be So it's a lot of what you expect from the other person and how to get to that middle It's a lot. Yeah, it really is That's a perfect example It's almost an experience We fall into blind communication Everyone thinks like every other part Things that they need to be heard they need to be like the other one is it's like sometimes you just feel like if you could switch to You know positions like you'll be on the other side and the other person would be on the other side Maybe you'll be understood. That does help. Yes. That does help too. By the way, you know, especially with stay at home situations you know, um I found that with myself that a lot of times something I felt like I wasn't being understood or or or maybe And it's not the fault of the other person. They just haven't experienced that Then when you switch roles it doesn't have to be for a long time. It could be for just a day A couple hours you really do get to appreciate and imagine if you came home from traveling and all of a sudden, you know, you know There's expectations, whatever you're like, okay, you know, I you totally get it when you switch So we've done a number of communication setting up rules. This is very difficult for me not to interrupt the other person You know, especially when you're trying to be heard if you're really trying to resolve a situation You know, so you guys have to kind of set your rules for for and and try to find easy ways to remind each other And this is also going to talk to stick to but blaming the other person saying you always and you never it slips Nobody's perfect, but automatically puts the person on the defensive You say, you know, I'm having a tough time In understanding this or you know, I really felt hurt when this happened yesterday So it is still talking about a situation that your spouse is involved in but you're not out of the same You It's a very it sounds really Technical, but honestly it doesn't put somebody on the defensive right away It really helps to kind of separate the person so they can be a little bit subjective. It's not a small thing. Sorry objective as much as possible And then when the other person's talking we understand that some people and this has to be between men and women Sometimes it's not just a gender thing. Some are more talkative than others. Some really want to be understood maybe Even if you know, one is more talkative. No, I said maybe the one that's less talkative Has an issue and you're just tired or whatever But you want to that you want to make the other person feel like they're being heard So show them that you're listening, right? Don't doodle. This is deadly to conversation. Uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah Just stop what you know and sometimes you need to remind other person. Please stop I need your attention like listen to what I'm saying So don't interrupt by picking at your fingernails doing the phone Have a real conversation and pick the right time. Don't do it in the middle of dinner when the kids are screaming Somebody has to go to the bathroom. There's an alarm going off, you know, don't pick a long time for an important conversation Um and and again to try to remember not to raise your voice in front of other family members Some people have joint family situations or in front of children. That's not really setting the right message to them So I'm off next Sure Sorry, uh, it seems like there was one that I actually came across which was Um If there's a moment of emotional distress between the husband or spouse The husband or the spouse can say let's take a five minute break And or let's talk about this tomorrow I know that was in there as it's sometimes it's better to just Be patient and it's the next day or a lot more common Yeah, different couples have different ways of communicating. So you have to figure out what works So some people it can drive The opposite party nuts if you tell them, you know, if you walk out the door, right? Um, it's the worst form of disrespect for another couple that may be a good thing and it works for that Right. So you have to find out what works for you and when things get really heated and really bad What do you do? You know, what do you and you can talk about that at calm times, you know what when because it happens it's going to happen It uh, those conversations those arguments those Fights Is that's part of the marriage, right? But also regulating And making sure that there is some semblance of Yeah, so what decency, right? That's the right word to those conversations That's still important. So you couples have to figure out. There's no right formula for any, you know, one black and white formula for everybody So would you say prevention plays a key role? prevention Letting before you get into the marriage or conflict you guys are already discussing Okay, if both of us are very very distressed You know, this is the And you're Because I know in the health field The mental health field they talk about prevention prevention prevention prevention. Don't wait till the onset But work on the prevention and I'm wondering if that's It may I mean it's it's good to have ground rules, you know also when you do when you talk about meetings and having dealing with different sorts of Mediation or you know conflict there has to be ground rules, right? And so we're talking about that too. So sometimes you have to get into it You know, there's not much of an option But you can't we can't cross these boundaries, right? And when you cross these boundaries, you completely disrespect me And that's not acceptable, right? So and what those boundaries are they there's a negotiation And it's good for a husband and wife to know each other at that. No, it's important because marriages will break over those Undiscussed boundaries, right? You disrespect me beyond anything. I'm done. We're done You know, no, if you understand the other person and there it can save a lot of that headache right I think we'll open it up for questions now. It's it's one more Oh, go ahead. Uh, so having to let kids Sort of glossing over it, you know, remember that they're in Amanda from a lot of Make sure that we spend all the time and that's part of the healthy marriage, right? Is your kids as well um Sharing the responsibility of the kids um discussing expectations and again, remember that you're modeling to your children how to be a good husband and wife So, you know, you want to make sure as much as you can that you are modeling that in the way you communicate and Keeping your dirty laundry, you know, private as much as you can and what happened. Um, there's another Uh, we didn't want to talk about intimacy as an extremely important aspect of marriage And I don't think it's discussed enough. Uh, again, we're all going to details, uh, but but it's important to to really Talk about this issue. Let me say let me let me give the Summary of this issue in one you can read the points there. I was in the counseling session the other day. I was counseling someone and this woman We have an intake form the agency I work with We have an intake form that standard that we take people's information, etc, etc And so when it comes to marriage issues, you know, there's different questions. One of them is on intimacy So I said to her, you know, I said, I'm sorry about this question a sensitive question Um, how is the intimate relationship between you and your, um, husband? And her answer was, uh, to me was, you know, thank you so much for asking, uh, shift, um, doctor


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Probably my least enjoyable bangles win in all of bangles history. We've got that game to talk about of course all the Tua aspects We'll get you updated on that unique and Gakway stops by the show ahead of colds Titans on Sunday. Happy Friday No undefeated teams in the AFC bangles win 2715 over the Dolphins the story of course is Tua the latest We know from Adam Schefter five hours ish ago here is what we are in California at 8 a.m. Local time I think we have the tweet don't we from Schefter saying that he traveled with the team McDaniel said that his quarterback suffered a concussion and nothing more serious The team said Tunga by Loa flew back to Miami with the Dolphins There are so many thoughts about this and I enjoy that because I think it's a really a Moment to be thoughtful about a process that might need to be re-evaluated and further worked on For progress now. This is of course coming from somebody who worked for the NFL for six years Someone who saw the technology someone who saw the investment and the priority that it is for have to have the game be as Safe as it can be But when you look at what happened Sunday, and that's what you have to do You see what happened last night and as a human you look at what happened Sunday, and what did your eyes tell you I? Felt weird about it on Sunday. I think you probably felt weird about it, too It didn't sit well It was one of those things that didn't pass the eye test and then of course last night We're all watching and this happens The bottom line is and it's a simple point. It's not some take that's right. We have to protect these players We have to understand the players want to play. It's not that hard their competitors They only get to do this 17 times a year a few more after that if they're lucky This is something that they've worked on since they were kids It has more gravitas every game every minute every snap has more meaning They're all they're playing for their money. They were gonna want to play Everything in the NFL is heightened everything has more meaning. That's why we love it So because we love it and because we're invested in it you me owners Sponsors everyone for whatever their agenda is right. We don't we don't have to get into why people are invested Why people should care about concussions? Why people should care about? Protecting these players it doesn't matter We all do and we have to do a better job and we have an opportunity here I think to collectively evaluate that and stop and take a little extra moment here to check in with that process What can we do better? I don't have the answers and I'm also not gonna rush to judgment here because there's just Too much flying around right now. I'm happy to us seems to be okay. At least okay enough to get home I'm wishing him a quick recovery. I hope he's okay And I hope everyone's asking questions and that's what needs to happen here. Everyone needs to ask questions It's the NFL PA's job to push the league on all of that to investigate to Do everything their due diligence? It's what they're there for it is up to the media to push for answers too Because we have to protect the players this one should stick sometimes we collectively Dig into something rightfully that deserves outrage that deserves eyeballs and there's too much going on and we move on from it This one I really feel like needs to be sticky. It needs to be seen through and that's on media That's on me that's on everybody out there And everyone knows who they are and it you know it goes without saying and it's not it's like a dumb to even say it that of course If it is found through that process of asking questions and taking that moment collectively to re-evaluate all this But he did have a concussion and the dolphins mishandled it or had a hand in that The most severe possible consequences should of course take course. We can never have this happen again There has been so much done to prevent this so much done to try to Eliminate to eradicate to minimize this to put player safety first We shouldn't be in a place where we're even having to question it The protocols have helped I believe that I believe that as working in the years seeing the technology talking to dr Allen stills talking to you know knowing what goes into it a little even just a little bit I just know a little bit of that but this shows last night Even if nothing happened that we still have so much work to do because there simply shouldn't be questions And now we just have to ask them It's hard to go over to the bangle side of this and we have games to look forward to of course And we'll keep you updated and we're all sending our very best to Tua and hoping that everything is okay It I have to talk about the bangles because they won the game. You can't sleep on them anymore. They're two and two We're gonna get to this kind of quickly the o-line coming together boros act once hallelujah only stacked You know once after three times over the last two games bangles defense. They stood tall They stepped up. They haven't allowed a hundred yards rushing to a team so far this season Bangles, you know, two was out the majority of the game But you can't tell me it wasn't a season defining Variety type win right the offense made plays T Higgins stepped up He is such a blessing bless you to Higgins chase a bit quiet He did have that huge play to set up a touchdown though. So we like to see that there I hate to criticize them in a win and I'm a huge bangles backer, of course. They're still not clicking They're not quite on all cylinders yet There's not a lot of sustained offense after that first drive right if you're watching it they need to keep building and It's not a worry It's just they need to do it quickly because the schedule gets brutal at Ravens at Saints Those are big tests big offense test big defense test. So Zach Taylor. I I luck. Yeah, I love you You took the team to the Super Bowl last year. I like to see a little zest I'd like to see a little spice spruce it up look alive out there 10 days until the Ravens So I'm looking for creativity from the bangles side of things as we look ahead here on up and Adams And I want to hear from you guys. What do you think? What do you think about to uh? Do I need to have a hotter take do I need it? You know? Whatever everybody thinks I need to know your thoughts at up and Adams show. How did you feel with what you saw on Sunday? How does it relate to what you saw last night? What should happen going forward? Let's have a talk about it As you bring in some guests to talk about what's going on around the league unique and Gokway on the show today We've got a lot of fun coming up. So don't miss that and we've got to bring in Catherine Fitzgerald who covers For the Buffalo News the Buffalo beat here. Oh, this is a great game. Are you kidding? Vils Ravens? This is amazing. How are you? I'm good. Yeah, I'm super excited for this game, too. I think it's gonna be such a fun matchup Thank you for joining me yet again here on the show So Alan and the bills they racked up like 500 yards of offense last week. So it feels weird asking this question What adjustments do they need to make to make sure they get a win over this Raven squad because Lamar is no joke Yeah, it was a weird game against the Dolphins where they had almost 500 yards on offense They were effective in a lot of ways, but just couldn't score They couldn't translate that into points and I don't think that game is totally indicative of what this bill's offense is gonna be But there were just some things where you know, they had a 20 play 92 yard drive. They got a field goal out of Things like that where they just need to actually punch it in they're capable of that. They were really banged up It was a weird game from just who all was rotating in and out But I think just solving that ride zone efficiency some more short-yarded Situations will really be big against the Ravens and what might also be a really messy weather game Well, there I always have to think about that. Yeah raining in Baltimore great con and crow song now The the bills have been riddled with injuries, especially in the secondary I mean both sides really have been on this in this matchup So how concerning is that for Buffalo going up against a guy like this former MVP that wants to get paid Who's lighting the world on fire as predicted Yeah, there's no good game to be banged up on defense, but I think this is a particularly tough one They're still waiting to see on a few guys a lot of them are day to day We just heard from Shawn McDermott on the radio a little bit ago that Christian Benford will be out that was expected He had hand surgery this week and came back into that Dolphins game after breaking his hand on special teams Which you know just a testament to how thin they were across the roster But still waiting to know for sure on Dane Jackson who's been back at practice, which first and foremost is so glad He's doing better after a really scary hit if you You know just like 10 or 11 days ago. He's been back doing really well Jordan poyer still TBD So yeah, there's a lot that still could determine what this defense will look like come Sunday You have a really nice piece and the Buffalo news to read about that of course and the brutal hit of course I'm glad to hear he's doing well We appreciate you Catherine Fitzgerald Buffalo bills beat writer for the Buffalo news big one between those bills and those Ravens with that one You know, I just keep thinking about what boomer said and boomer said say, you know Potentially say Kwan could get moved in that they would be interested in bringing him in. There's the dable tie, of course There's the fact that this is a Player who's playing really well It looked like he could become a player of the year and he could have success there He could win a Super Bowl ring for himself there and for everyone and then he can get paid This is last year and then he's a free agent. So I guess what I'm looking for in this game is bills. Can you run? Do you need to make the move for say Kwan? Like are is that going to gain some speed some traction those boomer words because once he said I'm it went out there Cuz it's a star. It's a former quarterback. He's a New York guy like it all makes sense But is single like is that running game effective against the Ravens can they get it going? Bills are one of three teams to not have a single running back with more than 80 rushing yards yet this season So always a question perennially with the run game and what they're doing And it's something that seems to be more important as the weather gets worse. So we'll see how that goes Let's see up next. We've got Bill Belichick. I had this crazy Do we have that do you have the bill Bellichick sound? Okay, let's do that Day by day film day by day That's the plan They buy a day by day is getting better. See how it goes day by day Does he have a high-angle spring day by day? What do I look like a doctor or orthopedic surgeon like I don't know Talk to the medical experts. What are the medical experts on staff set? Day by day I'm sort of wondering if that and it's not it's charms not the word but like is that wearing off up in New England with the losses like the It's it's an interesting question. That's Bill Belichick. Of course, they've got a big one this weekend in lamb in Green Bay at Lambo I'll be in the building. So let's bring in a guy who covers the New England Patriots side of things for WEI in Boston Day by day, you're covering it Kyrie Thompson. How are you? I'm doing great. How are you doing? As a matter of fact, he's in there right now I'm at Gillette Stadium while he's putting the charm on and doing his whole Yeah, you know it will Mack Jones practice today. We'll see here's my question And I just thought of this right now while listening to because I was up there a long time But they were winning Super Bowls every time right? So it's like you're asking him the question He's not giving you the direct answers He doesn't want to tell you what's going off of Mac Jones blah blah blah on to the next one Do your job and then you're hoisting a Lombardi. So everyone in the media up there is like, all right I guess but when you're not winning when you're not successful and he's not giving those answers still is it a different experience? well, I think it's still a little bit of okay, we're used to it and There's a little okay, almost you have to we have to laugh in a way You can't take it too seriously because I mean that's just what he's going to do He's not going to change and it's not necessarily contempt And I do think that that is a question though with the larger media and the fan base like hey You could get away with this when you weren't winning But I think that when it comes to us in the room or just like look, this is just what it is Huh? Well, you have a really nice disposition. I don't know if you belong covering the New England Patriots in New England They're for WEI But whether it's it's Mac, you know that tell me about the Mac Jones thing because you know I know Mac is saying ask Bill Bill saying I'm not an orthopedic surgeon. So what is the latest? Is it Hoyer the destroyer who can't get a win and then loving games? Well, apparently that's the expectation though There was a report that just came out this morning that Mac Jones is continuing to progress and get you know response strongly to treatment and that it could be a game time decision and he's obviously pushing very very hard to play and The pack in the Patriots are reportedly putting two Game plans together for the Packers one with Mac Jones and one with Brian Hoyer at the same time I spoke to an expert Yesterday that talked about Jones's injury the way the way that it looked and really the prognosis of what that is when you have What's called a pretty severe high-angle spraying that he reportedly had and and it's it's not one of those things You just come back from in a week He said it would be a straight-up miracle if Mac Jones played this week So if you're a betting person, which you might be being on fandal TV, I would say Being the guy, okay, but you know what? I don't know if it's Mac Jones or Brian Hoyer if anybody who's a betting person is going to I don't know that either of them together on the field They're gonna beat the Packers and the Packers don't even have anybody to throw to but I just think the Packers Are at home. There's a lot to like about them I'm not telling betters what to do because I would never do that But but to get into this matchup. How can the Patriots possibly take down the screen base squad? Well, they're probably gonna look at the game plans from week one and two where the Vikings had 126 yards on the ground the Bears had a hundred and eighty yards on the ground in week two And they're probably gonna look at Damian Harris and Remandre Stevenson say saddle up. Let's go We're riding you all the way through the finish line on this one And I mean that had mixed results in week two because the Packers still beat the Bears Even though they rushed for 180 yards But this is a situation where they're probably gonna look at those games and say we can win on the ground They've they've been able to kind of find you know kind of rediscover their identity as a running football team Over the first couple weeks of the season and I think when you've got those two players that that's right now The strength of your team is the running game Brian Hoyer I mean he obviously knows the offense better than just about anybody out there and so you so you're saying to yourself Okay, maybe you can at least not mess this up and we can control the ball and keep it away from Aaron Rodgers That's really gonna be the key, but I think when it comes down to it I'm not expecting you know a 400-yard game from Brian Hoyer to shock everybody in this one It's probably gonna be ground-up pound big time But I would love to see it and it might be ground-up pound the other way too with Aaron Jones and AJ Dylan So I mean this trend of low scoring games and defense can seem to continue As we head into week four, it's kind of a for me Kyrie. It's really nice to meet you Absolutely great to talk with you. Thank you. Well, you are really to honestly like you're too nice to be working in New England Not that anybody might be right, but like Tom Curran's kind of a curmudgeon like I guess Phil Perry over there at NBC Sports He's really nice. Hey, Tom's my guy.  Come on. You're like so it's so lovely Well, I'm from Chicago, so I mean that's thing Midwest and then that whole Midwestern thing I can't get rid of it and that's why we hope the Packers lose you and I kidding. All right Thank you so much Kyrie talked to you and a bit here. You can catch them on w e I for Boston covering the Patriots there The big game, of course is one. I want to get excited for these games But I don't I just want them to be high scoring Sunday night Patrick Mahomes and the Chiefs They're in Tampa Bay and the game is being played in Tampa Bay. Yeah, which is the Buccaneers, of course There's a lot of talk about that Both quarterbacks unimpressive last week. So my quick thoughts on this one. It seems The marquee matchup is not them. It's the defenses. It's just the theme of the year. Like I was just saying So I hope we get fireworks, but I don't know. There's missing pieces on both sides My home's got stymie by the Coles defense This is a much tougher defense than that the Bucks not a stretch to say they're the number one defense in the league I think they are they are they are the number one scoring and they lead a league in takeaways They have eight they've got 11 sacks That's the third most in the league and they have the fourth-ranked total defense So that's just gonna be defensive performance Chiefs. They need more takeaways, by the way Spags has them playing well and they always like make a play when they need to but not takeaways They only have two and three games. So I'd like to see that change. It's gonna come down to defense Which I don't love especially when it comes to these two quarterbacks But that said speaking of the snoring we're sleeping on both teams because this offense is going to get right It could happen on Sunday night. It's going to happen one one of these teams is going to just you know Really start going off pretty soon. So that's not sleep on either the Chiefs or the Bucks All right, we have to get out of here because we have Yanik and Gakwa. He's probably not going to be happy But I'm kind of clowning on Defense and he had a really nice sack last week of Patrick from home So we'll get into all of that. We'll talk Raiders too with my boy Q Why just watch the Chiefs versus Buck in your Sunday night football match of this week when you can earn a share of $20,000 of cash prizes when you enter the hut hut Hulu Instant free play this weekend on fan duel take it out. All you have to do is enter the pick-up contest You answer 10 questions about Sunday night's game fans who answer the most questions correctly will win a share of $20,000 in cash prizes hut hut Hulu visit And rule dot com to enter do you like how I just like kind of trashed that game a little bit nothing I trashed it and maybe it'll be a lot. I like undersell over deliver I'm sick of the movie posters of like Brady Rogers, Eli Apple, Tyreek like it's at Under under sell over deliver and maybe that'll be our Sunday night matchup between the goat and the young goat Let's head out to Vegas right now.  I feel like we're friends on Twitter You know, I'm a big fan, you know, I listen to your stuff But I don't I think we can't really get to know each other until I know your real name And I'm sure it's not your boy Q. No, no, it's not and my mom would be very proud that you actually ask it Thanks for having me on the show. I appreciate it, but it's it's Keont's. It's spelled Q. I NT so Keont Keont Keont like your key and your aunt so key aunt But you're just your boy Q and everything you never say that, right? Well, because it's so hard to explain sometimes So it's like anyone who has a name that starts with a Q it always ends up getting dumbed down to just the letter Q and so my mom was spent a lot of time trying to work on my name and Be creative it's kind of upset that I dumbed it down to one letter, but here we are Good morning, hopefully you're watching and I'm glad you're proud You should be proud of him because he does excellent working as great energy Listen, I did my research because I'm so great and I looked at Vegas and it's a high of 98 today out there in the desert What's the temperature of the Raiders fan base right now? Wow if it's 98 outside, it's about 198 with the fan base They are so angry right now Raider Nation is is fired up and upset, you know because of the 0 and 3 start And why wouldn't you be you know you go to the playoffs the year before and then you go out and make a move for Devonte Adams Chandler Jones you bring in Josh McDonald's as the head coach who's been to the Playoffs of Super Bowl so many times with the Patriots and then you start out 0 and 3 so the fan base is fired up They're angry the sky is falling But you know everything changes with the win and so they need to really win starting this Sunday They do and you show up to the stadium and the bottle services and billion dollars and everything You know Got a couple wins you got Devonte Adams that whole drama so listen the higher Josh McDaniels his head coach We know he's a genius play caller You can't argue that and then we know Devonte Adams comes in and we know Objectively he's one of the best wide receivers in national football league. He has a hundred eighty nine receiving yards the fewest of three games since 2016 Why isn't it working be specific for me your boy Q key aunt and How did they turn it around against Denver? You know I just think they're still feeling out the process right? I just don't think that they're on the same page yet I mean we all heard the story about Derek R and Devonte Adams at Fresno State But this isn't Fresno State. This is now the national football league and they haven't played together in a very long time So I think they're still trying to work out the kinks and get on the same page And I also believe they're still trying to learn Josh McDaniels system So you combine all that through three tough games and you just you have a lot of inconsistencies Devonte caught a lot of passes week one, right? I mean he had 10 catches on 17 targets and everyone thought he's trying to target him too much and then the next week He only had two catches. So what's the rhyme or reason? What's the middle even? There's really not one just yet Denver this week division rival this team has Max Crosby this Raider squad. I love Chandler Jones You have Chandler Jones. How many sacks do you have? Zero zero What's you for Max Crosby was zero for Chandler Jones, right? Two between both of them. What is going on? Here's here's my worry Don't be that team that lets Russell Wilson cook Don't be that first team that lets Russell Wilson have a great game. What is happening with the Raiders defense? The Raiders defense just hasn't started clicking yet I mean they and it's really it's a tale of two halves They'll play really well in one half and then the second half they won't and some games It's the first half some games is the second half And so they haven't got that consistency yet and that's really been with the whole team But Chandler Jones, they've asked them to play a little bit different style of defense Not really pin his ear back and get to the quarterback, but okay, you know Chandler Jones gets to the quarterback So for him to go three games and not have any sacks. So it's a pretty big disappointment Max Crosby is fantastic, but still he only has to he needs a little bit of help on the other side Yeah, it seems like you're peach. We were preaching patience, which I think is interesting because everyone's full I mean somebody has to have the worst record somebody has to be last it happens to be the Raiders They happen to be in a tough division But it seems like you think things might turn around because you're saying for now for right now It's like this you think this will get better for the Raiders and they might end up in the bottom of the AFC West I feel like they have an opportunity because they have so much talent, right? I mean I almost feel like you have so much talent that you have to be better And if they're not, you know, they've already had a player's only meeting which to me is kind of a red flag after three weeks It's a little concerning because you can't keep going back to that. Well, so now we'll see this week how that turns around Browns had one after two weeks and got a win the next time that day after so maybe it works My my concerns and you have a player's only meeting. What does it say about Josh McDaniels? Right exactly and I think that they are still trying to get used to who Josh McDaniels is as a head coach You know, he's a really good play caller. I believe and even his play calling has been inconsistent in my opinion, right? It hasn't been exactly what I thought it was going to be leading into the season So I think there's a lot of inconsistencies from the top down when it comes to this team And so they they're just trying to get that first W. It's like getting that first basket, right? You just need to see it go through the hoop once and then once you do it Yeah, then maybe you can get some more cute. You must have seen me playing Papa shot with Shaquille Leonard I don't I my basket goes in first all the time. Don't worry.  That's what it is between you and the Broncos. Who's to blame for the offensive issues is my big question for the Raiders Who's to blame for the defensive issues and there's a guy who wears a visor who didn't have a lot of success in Denver now In a bit of a revenge game back going up against Denver who I'm looking at hopefully he can turn things around as Not just you guys are trying to figure out and the players are trying to figure out what kind of head coach He is when you come from that Bella check tree You have to figure out what kind of coach you are to separate yourself from that We have not seen much success from that tree in the National Football League as far as head coaching is concerned So he's I'm looking forward to it and you can only go one way one way now. That's right That's right. I mean they haven't won a game yet, so it can only get better, right? And so I mean the one thing that I think the saving grace for Raider Nation is that AMC West is not as strong and is Much of a juggernaut as we thought it was gonna be heading into the season The Broncos the struggle than the charges are all banged up. So it's still kind of a tight tight punch It's your fewest touchdowns in the NFL this season need to get a win We appreciate you Q and we will hopefully have you back soon. Absolutely. Thank you so much. Thank you Kiwi appreciate it. We I believe are we going to yannick? All right Let's do it. So I sat down with yannick and gawk way and he was with me with the Colts last week at the kicking the Stigma event. He was one of the first people to show up. He's sitting there standing playing games And this is just how I view him if he was a jug Of course he traveled around the league a little bit and then he has this this nice sack We have to get into we sat down and just talked about what this Colts team has and whether or not they can turn it around Take a listen. Hello, sir. How are you doing? I don't know. We're not gonna have that kind of energy. You guys welcome me. Yeah, yeah. We're gonna downplay it. That's it. We can't we can't be too excited with cycle. So we can we think you know I think you should got you guys should go swing from chandeliers at the local club restaurant Just have the time of your lives. No Okay Well, let's just look at that. I looked at the stat lines here. Mm-hmm 58 rushing yards For those chiefs zero rushing yards for Clyde Edwards Allaire. What did I tell you when I saw you in indy? You said that you know that this could be a game that we definitely should win and You spoke it to existence. So I said stop the run win the game and you said Well, Gus Bradley stops the run you've been with him a long time, right? Jags Raiders Colts now what works so well between you and he?  Whatever. You're not being very fun about it But we're going to celebrate this because you've sacked him three times now Uh, what what does it take to bring him down? Uh, he's a guy, you know, that's a special player.  I was like, oh Yeah, I was you know that was you know rushing cover go together The db's had a great coverage on that play and I was able to get back there and hit him one more time So it's not like it's new due to sack players. You've had 56 and a half sacks in your career If you had to power rank your sacks in terms of Satisfaction like the most satisfying to you. What's number one? Uh, my first play ever in an NFL was a sack It was versus uh, it was a preseason game I was in Jacksonville versus the new york jets in new york And my first play ever in the NFL was a sack. So that was like my who'd you take down? Uh, what's his uh, this patrick? This patrick you taking down ryanford You taking down ryanford patrick in a meaningless preseason game is your favorite one? Why? Because it was my first Well, I'll play as a pro my first snap ever, you know, that's that's like I was special for my first play to be a sack in the NFL I think it wasn't even a real game honest Satisfying to you now.   All right I love that Why are you called the patron saint of indianapolis?  Is your first year in india? Yeah, absolutely. We've helped over uh 40 teachers so far just getting some school supplies for kids and title one schools and That's just basically uh schools that don't have as much resources as you know, certain other schools in the area of indiana Um, also, we've uh gave back did some back to school shopping You know the first week before school started took some kids from the corp corp in safe haven place Uh a place that's founded for kids going through like domestic violence and you know, uh Just kids going through a lot of different different situations and we just took them back to school shopping So that was a blessing, you know, many little things.  Look at that one. Who's putting these together for you? I stopped myself and I'm I said I'm a wall humility. I said I'm a wall humility. You really do We were having me and my producer Marissa McBride here were like there's no way he styles himself and you really do What's the process? The process. Yeah, um, I just you know I would say like thursday or like sometimes on wednesday I'll just go through the closet and just kind of see like what goes with what and I like to pick out like two outfits So one for the plane when we're taking off to an opponent and then uh a new outfit for that game day I don't want to you know use the same, you know look so Uh, what is your jimmy johns order? Because I just noticed turkey turkey turkey Little bit of cheese little bit of cheese. What kind of cheese give me the give me this specific order Hi, this is jimmy johns. How can I help you? Let me get a turkey light cheese with provolone provolone cheese with provolone. I mean, this is this is an ad This went it could go great wing over the chiefs. They were all arrested. Everybody's talking about them We won the word you use is joy. That's fine. Are we building on this? Is that the mood in the locker room? How did the wind change the team? I would say the wind changed the team. Uh, like I said, uh, that was considerably like the best opponent. Um Honestly, that will that will see uh with my homes, you know, he's the he's a dangerous quarterback. So, um We just took that win with confidence and understanding what we could come together on all three phases Those are the kind of results that we can get so we just need to continue to uh have that same mindset with preparation That we're about to have in a few moments and uh Also just a film study and then on sundays everybody just needs to show up and everybody needs to know They have to do their job. Everyone has to win their individual battle within a game How do you an outfit you pick up a practice to or? No, no, no, no office of practice. No, no, no last one for you. I know you've got a lot on your mind and a lot to get to Uh, it's a familiar division rival first time with the colds, but of course, you know the titans team, uh In and out and very well. What are you looking for in this match up? What are you really focused on specifically this week? You know, Derek Henry's a good back He has gray yards after the run, you know falling forward. So let's just see how physical we can be and um Let's step up our game as well as uh getting to the quarterback affecting uh, ryan tannahill and also like I said Just putting all three faces together offense running the ball Making touchdowns and special teams giving a skill field position All right, Derek Henry and ruk tannahill are not happy that your back feels good. I'm telling you that And next time you win and next time we talk, I'd like you to you know I don't need you to have a bottle of champagne or anything with you But we got to celebrate the fact that you're getting these wins. It's not an easy thing to win in the film game It's just you're right. You're right. Let's celebrate next time There we go You're the best. Thanks for the time yannick.  You have your neek and gawk way. He loves ghost bradley I love hearing him talk about him and how they've traveled together and worked so well together Uh, and they got a big one a division matchup one that he's super familiar with one that he beat You know beat to get to the a ofc championship game when he was a young jag wire now He's of course a jag wire a jag wire jag wire jag Can I have that miller light now? Can we have the beer? Can we do the friday beer, please control room? I walk in here and I go when I have my friday beer, please and they're holding me up Uh, we've got dfes coming up next. Hey, sam monson from pff. Want to know what is pff up? We'll tell you But seriously, it's pff up that I can have a beer That's the problem. I'm right back. Let's go Just love right the start of the football season fando casino hosting a friday casino happy hour Take a look all you have to do is log on to the fando casino app tonight from seven to eight eastern Standard time just in case to get the special offer. Don't miss out download this fando casino app and get tonight's friday Happy hour free bonus. Okay. It's happy hour Time for some dfs. Okay that it's the read said happy hour. Can I can I can I have my beer? Thank you? Yes, thank you so much. All right speaking of yes How was here in dfs for you gino smith? You saw that that uh sound going to break last time and you're like, what the heck is that? Well, it's because of this so I like him and I like tyler locket, too So the lions have the leagues were scoring defense giving up 31 points for game this year Gino has leagues highest completion percentage this season and tyler locket Is to was targeted 22 times the last two games. Why do we forget about tyler locket so disrespectful? He's incredible 18 catches over the last two games Uh, another water saver for you for df. Yes deontay johnson targeted on 33 percent of travisky's past attempts this season Sixth highest rate in the league both tyler buoyanty higgins had over 90 receiving yards against the jets last week So this will just make sense at that price point now. Let's talk about one running back because I love you and it's Uh df. Yes To james robinson everybody He's the only player in the nfl with a rushing touchdown in each of the first three games this season A hundred yards to rushing yards against the chargers last week. We love it. Let's take a look at our df. Yes players Gino smith and tyler locket. That's what the people in the business call a stack They're stock balls too because it's great value and I think that they connect deontay johnson and james robinson. You are welcome Uh, let's bring in. Oh, this is gonna be very fun. I love fantasy and I love numbers And i'm not good at math and so I don't crunch those numbers by myself instead. I rely on people like The nfl podcast on pff's lead analyst for the nfl sam monson to do that sam. How are you? I'm good. How are you sam? I'm great. Thank you for asking. It's friday. Happy friday to you big slate on sunday So I love pff and sometimes when i'm there at the website pff.com or on the app I think it's an app which is amazing. I come across a number That makes me say well, that's that's that's pff up So that's what we're gonna play here with you right now So I think you have some of those numbers for me. I have the actual number, but I don't know what it means So first up 56 56 is the total number of pressures that the new york jet's offensive line has given up this season Which is the most in the nfl It's the most in the nfl despite Cincinnati having played an extra game with a bad offensive line And everybody's looking ahead to you know, zack wilson potentially returning getting a start This is a bad situation for him to be coming back to Given how bad that offensive line is with all the injuries they have been hit with But those young rookies looks pretty good though, even without him. Isn't there some bright spot for the jets? That's how I saw it No, there is he's got receivers and he's got better receivers than he had this time last year But that offensive line is a concern for a player that in his rookie season You know displayed problems with holding on to the ball too long with dealing with pressure badly It's just a situation that feels like it's going to be a rough outing for him If he does come back and even with those receivers. Okay next number is 78.7. I think that's the amount of beer I will drink amount of miller lights. I will drink in the stands at lambo this weekend. But what is it to you? Nobody told me there was drinking involved in this segment I just call for it. It happens changed everything. Um, that's jacoby berset's pff grade through three weeks Which is a top five figure in the nfl. We had a rough game from jacoby week one Then he was Really quite good in week two except the bad turnover right at the end that basically cost him the game And then we three against pittsburgh. He was almost flawless. He really didn't miss a throw in that game And his numbers should have been a little bit better than they actually were You know the deep throw to a marie cooper where marie stepped out of bounds That's one that kind of should have been credited to jacoby berset Would have made his stats look an awful lot better But all of a sudden it was all sort of doom and gloom around cleveland Jacoby berset might actually be able to steer the ship for 11 weeks That would be a fun. I would like that rewrite for him. He's traveled, you know, he's a good quarterback teams Love him. Of course, he runs in the end zone. He scores. How about the number 19? I'm gonna guess that is my producer conrad How many times he will be swiping left and right this weekend on some sort of dating app 19 is the number of pressures that michael parson says leads the nfl in pressures Michael parson's this year has become the best pass rusher in the nfl He's nuts. It's absolutely crazy. How good he is right now Uh, okay.  Okay big number here. What could this be 297? That is the total number of passing yards that justin feels has not in one game, but in three games to start this season Okay, one of them was in a monsoon. It was in a rainstorm and he's got a ton of rushing yardage as well You know, we have to credit him for that but this is a historical level Of lack of passing production and people will say yeah, but the bears are two in one They are but you know one rainstorm game one game against the texans They're 25th in yards per play. They're 26th in successful play rate and they're running an offense that just doesn't You know bear any resemblance to the way Football has run by everybody else in 2022. Yeah, okay. These are insane numbers We'll hear more of those of course from you on your podcast over at pff And everybody chris Collins wrote stopped on and talked about this Download the pff app and you can get all of your numbers and all of your information It'll help you in places like fan duel or fantasy football or whatever you want. Sam. We really appreciate it next time bring a beer I will absolutely. Thanks so much for having thank you sam monson over at pff getting pff'd up which which calls for a beer I'm just saying what Miller wisconsin at all makes sense brewers. I think have a big game tonight. We'll be back right here on up in adams nfl players owners coaches holofam So many holofamers fans. I'm gonna say this isn't just that fans too fans uh media people You get away with everything You all think you're above reproach. No, no one's gonna catch me. No, no one's gonna see what i'm doing Well, guess what up in adams and myself. We're here to tell you We're on to you. The jig is up chris long chris long and his water boys giving access to clean water greg holson raising Millions dedicating so much of his time for congenital heart disease what the mannings do what brady all these people uh The nerf I'm gonna say the nerf the nerve of these players Out there running around Doing good and let me tell you brandon copeland. He's one of the worst He has hosted golf tournaments for the underprivileged cheese created holiday shopping spree programs for single moms This man An undrafted guy is holding football camps across the country and he thinks no one's gonna talk about it He thinks no no one's gonna notice. He signs with the ravens last week and he's already up to good. Hey brandon copeland Gotcha You're working on it lately as a raven Yeah, so right now september is national hunger Awareness month and so we are trying to help fight food insecurity in baltimore, you know, there's a um, obviously it's sad to think about there's kids going to sleep at night and you know their Stomachs are growling and you know, it's easy for us to forget about it Honestly, I was wanting to do this segment and you were the first person I thought of and I told the guys Let me see what brandon's got going on on twitter and you're tweeting about food scarcity How like how do you where are you getting your information? Where are the donations going? Yeah, yeah, so uh, Literally this thing started from you know a fan Um, Blake ramy he tweeted that you know, hey if brandon copeland gets a sack, I'll shave my head bald and You know, I hadn't seen it at all or anything like that But after the game I started getting a lot of buzzes on my phone and I saw it and I'm like, listen I mean, you know, you're 10 on dragon free agent I want to see you shave your head bald as well too, right like go ahead and keep those words a little bit Growing up here, you know in baltimore, you know, for those who don't know I signed with the baltimore ravens last week That is my hometown team. That is where I grew up. I grew up watching ray louis and ed read and I grew up dreaming of being in this Jersey I grew up dreaming of having a sack on sunday in this jersey and having my city cheer for me and so to do that And to have that experience But now be able to how do we take that experience and have a ripple effect where we can actually help somebody else and so Um, you know, we we reached out to blake. Um, he's been such a great sport about it And now we're trying to again get the community involved. So the money that we're raising here people are donating from the community Which is awesome. I'm matching up 10 grand It's not that it's your money your own money your heart earns undrafted money Yeah, I know you count your dollars. You're the best with money that you give me finance It is so commendable. It is so inspiring and amazing. I want you to know we see it. We want to we caught you You thought you could get away with it Brandon, but you did it we caught you.  Was it like a surreal experience? Yeah, yeah, I will admit it was um It was one of those things where you know, it was fourth quarter, especially I mean, it's a big drive, you know, the team needs you the city needs you Um to show up big in that regard and Kaleas Campbell and the entire D line did a great job of fresher Mac Jones that entire time max stepped up and at the entire time I'm hoping like please just don't throw it away. Please just don't throw it away, right? Um, you know came down with the sack and everybody's kind of getting on me I should have done the celebration or something But I was more of in a in a zone of like we got to win. We have to win, right? And so, you know, yeah, the sack was amazing my wife Taylor my two sons were there and and Like when I tell you I I grew up dreaming about my sons being able to watch me play or my kids being able to watch me play Again, I just check that off the list and again now it's on to the next one. So again, literal literal dream come true Um, and now it's you know, how do we get the next task accomplished? No one deserves it more cope. Thanks for your time Brandon Copeland, we caught you shout out to you Thank you for all the work that you do for the community You are such a star and if you are interested in helping and you want to get caught also www.healthreformbeyondbasics.org I don't know how my producers do it because I have the best team in the business Marissa McBride sitting right here to do such good work on this but the wizards figured out how to do this The camera thing where you can help donate qr code. Yeah, sure on the screen and it'll be on my twitter feed, of course And if you are out there in the NFL world and you catch someone doing something good They can't get away with it hit us up at up in Adams and we will take a look Next we've got a big slate of games on sunday. I'm going to green bear right after this. I'm so excited But there's a couple players I think might be in the end zone and I sucked at this last week So we're gonna make it better this week Because I love you three guys that will score touchdowns in week three waddle He has three is going up against buffalo. We know the health issues there t higgins going up against the Jets and michael pitman I was in indy matt ryan to pitman in week three against the cheese. Let's go. Good luck. I'm looking awfully l.a. there It's grossing me out. That was me last sunday. Wham. Wham. Wham. Woof If I could punch myself in the face I would I hated that I was over in this t higgins. Oh T higgins. I want to do right by you guys So I'm trying to make it better and I'm going to tell you three guys. I think we'll get in the old one zone This week, uh, they want me to make guarantees. I'm not doing that, but these are my k makers I think mike evan scores a touchdown. This isn't like some, you know, huge Whatever, but he did score week one. He should be well rested. He has one game suspension He's thought about things And he should be doing that, uh, this week. How about romeo dobs romeo dobs scored his first touchdown of the season last week Eight targets got the ball Rookies don't get love from erin rogers. I'm drinking wisconsin beer. I'll be in wisconsin romeo dobs. Let's go He'll score a touchdown this week. I almost guarantee it, but I won't because that's awful and stiff on digs Leads the league with four this season. I don't see why that would not continue this week against the ravens And that secondary with that secondary that might be our first high scoring game of the year Like really a whopper high scoring game. So these are my k makers who scores a touchdown I think mike evans does against the chiefs romeo dobs up against the patriots with brian moyer the destroyer And then who's the last one I have? Stefan digs.


Hey there friends, thanks for checking in. One of the questions I often get is, what is the best handgun for the money? And it's a tough question to answer. It's a loaded question because there are so many options out there and everybody has their opinion on what's the best for the money. It's a subjective question and answer, but I do believe many people would go with the canik models and here's the TP-9 Elite Subcompact. It's a great handgun, has a tungsten grade finish which is kind of classy looking, a nice trigger with a short reset and people love canik. It's optic ready, offers a lot for the money and many of the canik models offer a ton for the money. Saira really gained popularity the past four or five years. People took notice to it. I remember the Saira 9 could be picked up for 250, 260, 17 round mags. This is the Meta. This is optic ready as well with a nice trigger. Not a great difference between the Meta and the original Saira 9, but the MSRP on this is 530 these days. So the prices have inched up a bit over time. They've reached a point where they're kind of out of the budget scene. Here we have a Taurus G3 tactical and I've said this is the best 9mm polyframe handgun Taurus makes. Optic ready, threaded barrel, nice trigger, 17 round mags. Cool look to it with the flat dark earth and the Coyote 10 Saira Colt slide. Love these three handguns, but none of these would be my choice for the best handgun for the money. So what is my choice? Well at one point you could pick up this handgun for right around 360 bucks. It made its way higher with the MSRP, but here it is. Do you know what it is? It's a Bursa. It's a full size Bursa with a four and a quarter inch barrel, 17 round mags, 360 dollars at that time. About five years ago, four or five years ago anyhow. I told people you ought to check this out for the price they're asking. It's a great handgun. The MSRP now is 4.85 and it is a Bursa TPR 9. They make this in two tone. They make it with the all black model and they make a smaller model, but the 17 round mags come with two. It has a polymer grip, vertical serrations with the front strap, poly serrations with the rear, but that's not even what I want to talk about. The single action trigger is really nice. Breaks right around four pounds, but check out this reset. That is amazing. Now people would say the shortest reset they've ever experienced is with the SIG SRT. It's called SRT short reset trigger. Here's my P226 ASC alloy stainless elite and SRT short reset trigger. Which one is shorter? Is it the SIG or is it the Bursa TPR 9? I think I don't know. It could be a draw. Check this out. That is so short. I'm giving it to the Bursa for just a little bit shorter. Is that going to make a huge difference? No, not at all, but I like the way the trigger guard is beveled out a little bit. It gives you a little more room in there. It has an alloy aluminum frame, and that's why I went with this for an MSRP that's a little bit less than at least two out of the three. It has the alloy aluminum frame, two slot pick rail. It's not optic ready. If it did, that would be an added bonus in my eyes. Three dot sights, excellent feel, ambidextrous with control, slide stop, decocker, thumb safety on both sides of the pistol. But another thing that makes this incredibly unique, and we did show clear here, well let me drop that thumb safety, is the disassemble. See that lever right there? All you do is push it downward and off comes the slide from the frame. It has full length frame rails, and many people will say, hey, those handguns with full length frame rails keeps everything nice and tight. There's very little room to play around with, and there's the four and a quarter inch barrel. It is such a nice handgun to shoot, to disassemble. Whoa, kind of dirty. I need to clean this thing. And to own.  So it's a great handgun. Now the MSRP I mentioned is 485, and by the way, Latin American law enforcement adopted this. Many of them, I know Latin America, like that could be a lot, but many of them adopted this as their side arm for law enforcement. So they have confidence in it. I don't ever recall having an issue with this handgun ever. And so I find it to be extremely reliable. I've owned it for four or five years now. And I think that for what you get for the money, it's a great deal with the alloy aluminum frame and the four and a quarter inch barrel and two 17 round mags. Now, you can pick it up for close to the MSRP.  It seems to me the two tones go for a little less, but I am very fond of the Bursa TPR9. I have since day one, loved it and I still do to this day. And as it sits down, I think this is a great handgun for the money. If you like videos like this, please subscribe and share. I always appreciate thumbs up button. Thanks for watching and you guys be safe.