I have for you some of the funnest cheaper and better at the drug store. When drugstore does it better by this, not that type thing. Now, I have been recently learning about saying this word right here. And I know it's a really popular word and I know that's the word that you guys always want to hear. However, when you're talking about different brands, some of these brands do not want you to use that word because when you do, it denotes that they have done a knockoff. And most of times it's not a knockoff. Now, there are some companies that do that directly, but most of these that I'm talking about, they're not knockoffs. This is about buy this, not that. Save your money to buy this, not that huge luxury price tag. But before we get into it, I'm going to show you what I wear. I always do that. If you don't want to see what I wear right here is a timestamp where you can skip ahead and you can just go to the cheaper and better products that we're going to be talking about. Also, we do have a numbering system. It is one through however many products we get through today. And you open up the description box and you can find products based on the number that was on the screen next to them. There will be the link and any other information that you might need about that. So it's easy to shop that way. Let's see what I have on. Otherwise, skip over to the timestamp. All right, I've had this top for a while and I just think it's so cute. I'm just now getting around to trying some of the stuff that I bought while I was down and not feeling that great. And some of it is so adorable. Okay, this has got a cute little ruffle on it. It's over the shoulder and then it ties like a halter at the neck. You're going to have to wear some sort of an underwire or some support there.  I don't know if it's the best one or not. And then I also have these pants that are dress pants and I thought they would be so cute, office appropriate completely. You can wear them with the belt. So you could wear this tucked in with the belt and I do like that it has pockets right here. No pockets on the back. I like that too. I can give you a slim silhouette from the back, but these pockets lay down nicely, which is what I was glad about. And then the leg is completely straight on it and I am wearing some adorable pointed toe kitten heels. They are so cute. I will show you those up close as I show you the jewelry before I show you the jewelry though. I wanted to show you the cute little cross body bag that I put with it. I have shown this to you before, but I'll show it to you close up. Here's the bag close up. It's got such cute detail on it. It looks like a designer type fabric or it's not really fabric. It's kind of a vinyl on there. It's got this little Fox right here as the class and then once you turn it, you can get into the bag and it has some dividers in there. It's pretty small, but I really have been enjoying my smaller bags. So I love this one and I know I've shown it before, but it might have been last year towards the end of year or something. So really like that. Here is the shoe that I had on. This is like I said, it is an adorable kitten heel. You have probably maybe two inches, maybe two and a half inches. So it's not that high pointed toe with the swig piping or the suede accent on it. I just think it's so cute. I love the tonal look on there and it gives the dimension and then it's got the faux leather right here. I really like these shoes very office appropriate as well and these are so much easier for me to wear than a much higher heel and yeah, these are really, really cute. The jewelry I know I've shown pretty recently, at least the earrings I have. These are some hoops. They're about I would say a two inch hoop, but they have the silver on there that kind of catches the light and I find myself reaching for these almost with every outfit because they just go with everything and then I know I've also shown you this bracelet before, but it's one of my favorites and it's just got a cute clasp on it like a toggle clasp on it and it's really easy to put on and off if you have trouble with that. So that is everything that I'm wearing. Let's get into by this, not that cheaper and better so that you can see this word right here or but without talking about that word right here. Usually I do lipsticks very last when I do these videos, but I'm going to do them first because I have some really great by this, not that. Now everybody went Gaga over the tart maracuja juicy lips and then they came out with a plumping and they are really good. They're really, really good. I have several. I have the plumping ones and then I have the ones that aren't pumping. So what I'm going to show you that's the cheaper and better is not necessarily the pumping part of it. It's just the lipstick part of it. What these are is they're a hybrid of gloss and shine and a super wonderful moisture on your lips, but they also have great colors and the thing is though is when you get this on your lips, you're not necessarily going to see that much of a color, which is kind of sad because you know when I put something on my lips, I don't necessarily see now that one hardly had any color to it. I don't necessarily just want a gloss unless I'm actually reaching for a gloss. So what I want to tell you to look at that is actually cheaper and better are these that are the Rouge shine lipsticks from Sephora collection. What I love love love about these is you get to shine but you get a high color payoff. You get the moisture and look at the color payoff. It's so good. I'll make sure that I list these in the order that I put them on my hand down below so that you know. Otherwise, I'm going to get my glasses out and unfortunately these have such a small print that there is no way even with my glasses, I can hardly see. But yes, there is a color that is very much like the first one that we saw. I'm finding that as I put this on, it's smoother. It doesn't feel patchy. It doesn't feel like a lot is coming out of the tube when you put the tart maracuja on.  So these are beautiful. I really want to highly recommend them and when they're on the sale, I think it makes them something like a little over $8, which is come on close to drug store prices. Anyway, I think that if you've been longing to get some tart maracuja, which they're good, they're really, really good. I think that you will be just as happy if you try the Sephora Rouge Shine lipsticks. Now the other one is just a straight lip gloss and those are the Natasha Denona I Need a Rose lip glosses. I really like these.  So I like both of these. They're both beautiful. One is a little bit more saturated than the other one, but to me, the price tag doesn't merit what I see come out of the tube and what I mean by that is I feel like there are lots of other glosses that you can get. So here's my suggestion for buy this, not that, and that is the NYX Butter Gloss. And I talk about these many times on my channel because I do feel like this is probably the best color lip gloss on the market in the drugstore. It's just so, so good. Look at the pigment payoff on that. I believe that one is Tiramisu and then I believe this one is Cream Pie or something like that. I will make sure again that I list these for you. This one is super light, but if you like a nude on top of your lip liner, you're going to like that. And then this one, I think is a meringue. I like I said, I'm not a hundred percent sure, but I will make sure that I list them for you below. Just wonderful, amazing payoff on these where we're talking about, you know, I think these are around $25 for an Natasha Junona lip gloss and we're talking about $5, $6 for a NYX Butter Gloss. To me, that is just such a no-brainer. Years ago, Anastasia Beverly Hills came out with this Emeryzy highlighter and I can't bring myself to get rid of it because it is so beautiful and it isn't exactly my color, but the color of it when it gets on your cheeks is just stunning. It's one of the colors that you really feel like just brings a lot of life to your face without any texture whatsoever and even putting my finger through there, it just feels so soft and so easy to blend and I loved it. I wish that they bring it back. I wish that they had 10 more colors. I know they came out with one color afterwards. I didn't like that because it was a dual chroma and it looked really fake on my mature face, but I went in search of something to replace this. So we can't buy that anymore. So I'm not going to say buy this, not that. This is cheaper and better. Rimmel has a highlighter that I had no idea was even out there. I didn't even know that Rimmel had a highlighter until one day I was on Amazon and I'm looking. I'm like, that's so pretty. And then when I looked at it and I put it on my hand, I'm like, oh my goodness. This highlighter from Rimmel might be a half a shade lighter than the shade than the Emeryzy shade from Anastasi Beverly Hills, but barely and no fooling. This formula is every bit as good as the Anastasi Beverly Hills. It's really super soft and yet it's really super high beam and really super pretty and I just, I love it. So I do have one or the other on either side and obviously once it gets on the cheeks, you can't tell. So this is the Emeryzy and this is the Rimmel. It's just beautiful. And when this was released, I believe it was like around $40 and the Rimmel one, I'm not exactly sure, but I want to say it's under eight, like nine, ten somewhere in there. That can't be beat right in the world of blushes. All of a sudden stick blushes have become the rage. I have two here. One is from makeup by Mario and his formula is very soft, very creamy. It's a little bit more emollient, a little bit more creamy than I would choose. And then I have one from Anastasi Beverly Hills that is a little less. It is a little bit less creamy, but when you get it on, it blends out very easily. They're beautiful. Everybody is coming out with these and everybody has jumped on this bandwagon, but my personal pick to replace these would be by this, not that situation and it would be these Nyx Wonder Sticks and this one is a blush one. They do have the contour sticks and the contours have one on one color on one side, the contour color. And then on the other side is a highlighter. But with the Nyx one, you get a duo sighted. Now, these seem to be really matte to me, but I like that because number one, I feel like makeup by Mario is not as pigmented as these are. And I also feel like these stay around a lot longer than the makeup by Mario one does. The Anastasi is kind of a tie as far as longevity goes, but as far as pigment goes, these are definitely brighter and the fact that you get two colors instead of just one, I think that's awesome as well. This would definitely be my pick for by this, not that in stick blushes. Now, let me just talk to you about the glow wish primer from from hood of beauty. This came out and everybody was just absolutely enthralled with it and it is nice. It's a beautiful primer that doesn't have any silicone or any oil in it and I don't know how it does it, but when you start rubbing it onto your face or wherever you're going to put it, it really does blur. You can feel the hydrating start. I have to apologize because I had a fan going to keep my camera cool. My camera's been overheating and I had a fan going. So if you heard background noise for the through the first half of this video, I do apologize for that. And now the garbage men are here. So yeah, we're just we're about in a thousand, but that's okay. So back to the primer, the glow wish primer already even though I got quite a bit out and rubbed it on my hand already. I can feel that set down and it feels that I can feel a smoothness on there and it just really is blurring and hydrating and everything the same time without having any silicone. So it's not going to clog your pores if you have that problem. No oils. So again, you know, you're not going to produce more oil if you're oily, but a long time ago. I found this product from hard candy and it's the sheer envy poor defense primer. That's the 12 hour poor refining minimizing pores. The appearance of pores oil free and silicone free. Now this is not the same consistency. I'll tell you that right off the bat, but I'll tell you why I enjoy the hard candy better than the glow wish when it comes out of the tube. It's very thin. It's got this very thin formula to it, but the viscosity as you're working with it or the way that it feels on your skin as you're working with it. It's much more hydrating and the other thing that I love about it is that as soon as you get it worked in, it's going to have that blurring property. It's going to have that smoothness to your skin. No oil, no silicone, but in my opinion, you're going to have more hydrated skin with the poor refining benefits. Now you could probably see how this one on this side already looks like it's dried down and this one looks like it's still got a lot of moisture on it. That's true. That's the whole point of this whole thing. I need to rub it in just a little bit more. I put too much on is what I did, but it's really nice.  It really is a by this, not that this is cheaper and better and I like that neither of them have oil or silicone. I love that about them. But if I'm going to buy one, I'm going to buy one that is a little bit more hydrating and that one is the hard candy one. When we get to the cheaper and better, everybody and their mother is going after the same formula that Charlotte Tilbury's flawless filter has.  You can mix it into your foundation and get a glow as well. It's just a really nice product and everybody has been trying to duplicate it. And so in walks Kosas and they're trying to do the same thing. Now, I think this is a nice product and the reason that I even think this is a better product than Charlotte Tilbury's is because this has a huge amount of skin loving benefits in it. Go ahead and take a peek at that. When you go look at this product yourself, it does have a lot of skincare in it and that's what Kosas is famous for any makeup you buy from them, anything you get from them, you're going to know that they just chalk it full of skin loving ingredients. So that's really good. But hook on to my very favorite and I've been saying this for like five years. The L'Oreal gloomy Glotion. This one is in light is so much better of a product if all you want is glow. The thing is, is that this also has dimethicone in it. So you're going to get some blurring there. It does feel a little bit more hydrating once again, but man, oh man, I feel like that is so much more glowy than the Kosas. Even if you take the Charlotte Tilbury and you do the same thing side by side comparison, you're going to see that the L'Oreal is so much better than the Charlotte Tilbury and it is so much better than the Kosas too. So I've gone through tube after tube of this whereas the others I'm like, yeah, I kind of like you, but you're not my favorite. I just the L'Oreal is perfect for giving you that lit from within candlelight glow skin. You can wear it on top of your foundation as just a lit from within look ethereal look. You can mix it into your foundation. It does mix really well with just about every foundation except for if you did have a silicone free foundation. It might not mix too well with that just because it does have silicone in it, but I've never found a foundation that it didn't mix well with. And as far as what Kosas just released, I would still go for my L'Oreal and I was sent this one. So you know, I'm completely unbiased when it comes to this stuff. Okay, one of my favorite high end foundations is the Fenty Beauty Ease Drops. I feel like for a mature woman, this is a thin enough product with enough coverage that this in the summertime is what I reach for mostly because it's super easy to put on. It just seems flawless really quickly and it's just really pretty. The only problem I have with this is the shades all seem to run just a little too warm. Recently L'Oreal repackaged. I don't know if they reformulated it. I think that they did reformulate the true match foundation and this has so many shades and you're going to be able to find a cool tone shade. If you're cool tone like I am or neutral, you're going to be able or the deepest. I love that too. They go really, really light and they go really, really to the deepest colors. I love that. They've done such a great job at that and I am actually wearing this all over my face today. I didn't even use the Fenty Ease Drops because I'm kind of getting to where I just love the way that the true match looks. If they did reformulate it, I'm happy that they did because it's incredibly beautiful now. But if they didn't, they repackaged it with a pump bottle and I think that has drawn so many people in because it just becomes so messy when it's just a bottle that you tip out. So really give this a try again. If you have tried it before and if you haven't tried it before, I think you're going to love it as a mature woman because it does lay very pretty on my skin and I have texture and I have a lot of places that I need to even out. So yeah, give it a try. You might really, really enjoy it. And as far as it being better than the Fenty, I would say it's more along the lines of equal. So we're talking about a cheaper product that you can get that's equally as nice. It's really pretty. One of the liners that I have loved since it very first came out is from Lancome and it's the Tint Idol liner. The reason that I like it is it comes to such a really super fine tip and it stays on all day. I don't have a problem with it. I'm not going to swatch it for you because when my hands are kind of shaky today. So I'm not going to swatch it, but I'll tell you that the Maybelline. This is the ultra thin pen liner and this one works better for me because it's even thinner and it stays on every bit as long as the Lancome. And as far as we're talking price tag. Oh my goodness. So you're getting the product that is very comparable almost the same thing. You know, it performs the same way, but you're also getting that price point that really gives you a break in your budget. Let me find the exact name so you know what the Maybelline one is Maybelline hyper easy brush tip liner. So that's what it is. And they're both in black. So pretty. I really, really think that this is a very comparable product in this instance. This is a by this, not that. So love those. All right. That is it for today's video. I hope that you did enjoy seeing all of what we aren't going to say anymore. I really enjoy bringing these videos to you. These are some of the funnest ones that I have because I know that there is such great makeup at the drugstore that we can substitute and it look every bit is good. Are there any of those substitutes that you would like to tell me about down in the comments section? I would love to hear that from you. How's your day going? Mine's going really well. We have finally, I think, crossed over that hump where we're into spring. Now it's going to end up turning like blue blazes and be hot outside all the time. Of course, but I hope that you are doing well and that everything is going good for you. Please come back around in my next video so that I can see you because I love seeing you guys and speaking with you. Thanks so much again. I love you much and I'll talk to you very soon. Goodbye, my friends.


What is Hattening man to say so We have a new poster that has just been released Okay For Batman v. Superman so I'm on comic book calm the link will be below And here's what it says it says Batman. I max poster released without Superman logo on the grill peach I guess they talked about but I can see it right here says the Batman I max poster without the Superman logo has been released online The new look of the poster shows a much cleaner look at Ben Affleck in the Batman cow Batman v. Superman of Justice Okay, so when in the you know anyway look I don't like it Don't man something about the picture. Okay the picture the poster itself Because he looked cool when he stepped out of the shadows in the trailer He looked cool in the black and white photo that was first released was the first look at him He looked cool in that one-side shot picture that they released. Okay, I Don't like this look right here. I don't know what it is something looks Kind of stupid or not right I don't know what it is something does not look right with this is something in the mouth area in the neck I don't know something doesn't look right to me That's my opinion on it and I'm sticking to it Excuse me, but I am not Pre-judging the man. I am not saying this ain't gonna be a Batastic movie. Okay.  I'm not saying that's not gonna be a great movie I'm just saying I don't like the way this poster makes him look that's all that Alright, so post your comments down below. Let me know what you think about it because No, sir, I don't like it Yeah, pretty much What my subscribers? Whoo


My journey was a bit tough. The economy was very bad in Zimbabwe. No jobs, companies were closing. So I decided to come here in South Africa looking for work. My first chance was operating a forklift because that was the only available option. I had previous experience from home then I had some experience while mechanically just a little bit I could do all sorts of small jobs. So they realised there's time when this guy can easily adapt. Now I'm a pay-cost manager for the tomato pay-cost and the banana pay-cost. I would say maybe agriculture is one of the sectors where it attracts people from neighboring countries to come for employment because other places to find a job is very difficult. People will migrate to this area because they want to get better life for their families. They want at least to get employment. Africa is the youngest continent full of energy, but at the same time it's a continent with an enormous unemployment. Every year we would need to be generating 12 to 13 million of jobs for the new entrants into the market economy and Africa only generates 3 million. This is again why I believe sustainable agriculture and climate smart agriculture and the rural areas play a crucial role. Agriculture is, I think it gives more jobs than any other jobs and people adapt easier to agriculture. They learn quickly because it's the evening the rural is their homes. People still practice agriculture at a small basis. Most of the times they already know the work but they need to adapt a little bit to the circumstances of the hosting country. Capacity building creates immediate benefits and a win-win situation both for migrants and for the hosting communities.  If you farm then you are creating major opportunities for other people as well and there is a program from the government that people must be trained to also be able to farm and all that. That is why we are now even having a university of Bumala so there is a need for us to keep on training people to be farmers. One of the strengths is to provide the adequate skills to migrants or non-migrants to rural communities in order to make agriculture modern. They need to learn new agricultural techniques. They need to learn how to strengthen the value change of agriculture that goes from harvesting until the consumer. So to reinforce agrobusiness, to reinforce harvesting, transportation, market opportunities. We bring them to the land, we start working with them. We sometimes refer to let them work maybe for 2-3 months doing everything with their hands because we believe the more you do the more you can start learning because that's how it happened with me. I started working with my hands myself then I was a foreman supervisor and manager and now I'm happy to be a production manager. If they have good potential they give you space, they try to teach you. So after a long time somebody decides to go but they will have a lot of work experience. We do train them to become farmers because we believe if we empower them then we will be empowering the nation. A big issue for us is that rural areas have been neglected and that youth live in rural areas. A growing population in Africa that is supposed to double by 2050 and that's why we're working constantly to make agriculture attractive, to connect agriculture with rural and urban linkages, to make agriculture part of the value change, to make subsistence agriculture closer to agrobusiness, to bring innovation, to bring ideas and success stories so other youth, when watching the neighbors succeeding can also replicate with a good example. When I came from home to be frank I was just an ordinary guy but for now I've learned a lot. I've got a 16-year-old boy who is in Zimbabwe. I send money every time there after three months for food, for school fees, everything. You'll be going to university I'm not worried about paying for him I'll be able to do so. So it changes somebody's life.


What's going on guys welcome back to the channel critical overload here she's talking about several different topics in this video here today We'll be talking about screen six. We'll be talking about Chucky the TV series We'll be talking about the nun too and we'll close it out with Friday the 13th now Just to kick it off with screen six David Arquette recently talked a comic book movie about his role in screen five as do We Riley that has led to his unfortunate absence in screen six He went over the fans reaction to do his role in screen five He said I know it was really sweet to see the reaction of the fans. It was hard. It was a project I really loved being a part of they went off to do a number six and I was like, okay He said it's hard. It's something that's really close to my heart, but I love how they handled it He also commented on do his arc and five by saying I think my character had a really good role in screen five I had a lot to do that was really nice. We'll see He laughed and said who knows anything is possible. I mean how many movies have Jason or Mike Myers been in not that do He's a killer, but there is a coming back to life element within these horror films He said comments like this honestly before in the past and I will say I'm all for a Dewey Riley cameo I hope do he returns for screen seven because when it comes to that movie if that indeed is going to be the conclusion to this saga as We now know have as it is now as opposed to what we got with the original conclusion in screen three Similar to how they were all there for screen three. I think they should all be here for screen seven I don't care if they're alive or not Dewey Sydney Gale some way somehow I think they all should be featured in if they're not they're just not but I think that it would be Appropriate to have them all featured in the conclusion of this saga since they have been around since day one now I also think that just having him appear in screen seven would be something that can be a nice Emotional moment in the movie you can utilize that by having one if not both of Sydney and Gale reminisce on Dewey Or maybe we are reintroduced to a Riley care that we haven't seen since the first movie in Dewey's mother There's so many different ways I feel like Dewey could appear in the conclusion along with some other lovable members of the cast that have not died But characters that have died in screen seven, but we'll see what happens Just to jump into the topic of Chucky season two Chucky season two episode four will star WWE superstar Liv Morgan This was announced last week and what a perfect day to have this video come out because Monday Night Raw is on tonight It'll be by the time this is uploaded. It'll probably just be on you'll probably be watching this during the commercial break of your WWE fan now I had already seen the first four episodes and I was shuckling to myself about how Chucky made a lot more appearances related to WWE this time and now we all know about this cameo for Liv Morgan I was certainly shocked when they announced it because I did not expect them to I will say this I'm sure all of you would like to know her role and I won't spoil that but I will say I'm sure some of you will be able to figure this out You'll be able to piece this puzzle together before episode four comes out next week Episode four as many of you know is a Tiffany centric heavy episode So you might have a question. Well, how does Liv fit fit into that if you can figure out where Liv Morgan fits into that Then congratulations, but chances are her role will either become more confusing based off the teaser That's released for episode four or it'll become more clear I will say that her appearance is something that's very in line with what we've been seeing from the franchise for a good while and It's not something that is a hindrance anything. We've been seeing from the series so far, but it is also something that is Again in line with what you've been seeing from the series for a very long time not a very long time But you've been seeing it for a while going as far back as seat of Chucky You've been seeing elements such as this the way they use her.  You'll figure it out I'm not gonna spoil it, but I do like how They utilized her in this episode and I think some of you will like it This is gonna be an episode where again, you are mostly just dealing with Tiffany and her loved ones You'll get to catch up with Glenn Glinda Learn more about Tiffany get some context on what things have been like for Glenn and Glinda after seat of Chucky So that's gonna be a very eventful episode for see the Chucky fans mostly Just to jump into the nun to The nun to has started filming according to this behind-the-scenes image James Wan shared to announce that filming had started in France We know this movie starring storm reed ties of Armiga and Barney Aaron's will star Aaron's in Farmiga are the only were two are the only two returning cast members had it been announced and highlighted in some capacity by Major outlets. However, there is also this third person that has now been confirmed courtesy of Wan's post the character of Frenchie will return in this story because one also tagged actor Jonas Blockette in the post This film we know is set in 1956 and we will see sister Irene try to stop Valic once again Now what's interesting about this is earlier this year a casting call revealed that this film is going to also potentially be set at a school named St. Mary's and there's a there's a person who works there that becomes friends with a character named Sophie The character was named Frenchie now I overlooked this because I was like maybe that's another Frenchie It's just like an Easter egg or a cold name for the person's actual real name But I guess this could indeed be the actual legitimate Richie from the first movie Richie apparently will be working there and he gets close to a bullet girl who again is named Sophie I'm assuming Sophie will be played by storm reed now that Jonas is back again This to me means that that casting call was referring to the actual character Frenchie from the first movie that we know Was possessed by Valic? I cannot wait to see how this plays out because to me now what this insane waste is Maybe the narrative is going in this direction where they found out about Frenchie being possessed by Valic and have been searching for him They track him down to this school where he somehow managed to become an employee there Valic of course is the one in control. She gets close to some some girls at school tries to have them Unlock all these other demonic things probably and sister Irene will show up And she will save the day when Valic gets out of whack or tries to get things out of whack at the school What storm reeds character and her friends? We'll see how this all comes together as production continues in France and we'll learn more as Production closes and of course as we near the release date in September of next year I believe think it's coming out in September not October of next year Just to conclude this video by talking about Friday the 13th Friday the 13th is still waiting on that revival that I will say I whole Harley believe is gonna come in 2023 if it doesn't it just doesn't but after these breadcrumbs that have been Spilt this year near you have Roy Lee teasing something could happen regarding this IP by the end of the year something could be announced Recently though we had David Bruckner who has previously or who had previously been set to revive Jason in the mid 2010s He's made it known that he thinks it'd be difficult to find his way back to that IP now when speaking with comic book resources about the topic While he was promoting his new Hellraiser movie He reflected on his time with the series that never made it to the big screen unfortunately by saying that those ideas are not Interested to me quite the same way they were with the work. We did in particular, but I'm a fan of the franchise He also seems to be confident that more will come. He said there will be others There will be other Friday the 13th films They will figure it out the IP is too valuable the fans want it too much And I do hope he's right and I wish we could have seen his version of Jason But things always happen for a reason his version basically would have been like a three arc story where I think we were going to See each version of an Voorhees as a killer allies We were finally metalized Jason's father Pamela and then it would have all concluded with Jason and his role as a killer So we could have seen some type of killer legacy film play out there Would you guys have wanted to see a Friday the 13th movie from David Bruggler? Let me know down the comment section below if you have no records make sure you subscribe turn on post notifications So that you never miss a video in the description. 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So today we're going to talk about Where you can meet a high quality man over 40 years old now? This is a question that keeps being asked repeatedly Amongst those of you out there in the dating mating relating realm is where can I meet my quality guy? Where can I meet my mr. Right? You know in a sea of dysfunctionality How am I going to meet this person? Where am I going to meet this person? I think it's really important to identify what is high value You know a lot of times especially in the in the red pill community They will describe high value as a man who has financial success who has physical attributes In other words, he's in great physical shape. He is a leader amongst men. That's what makes a person high value Well quite frankly I think of high value in a completely different vantage point and we're going to lean into this Together so we can have a basis for understanding those what is high value? So we can know where to meet or how to meet a high value person now for those who follow my work You might also know know this as what I call a grower and a builder a grower and a builder now There's basically what I say are three types of men.  They want companionship. They want connection They want sex, okay, but they're incapable of going through the levels of commitment And then there are grower and builders and I roughly say the grower and builders is about 20% of the male and female population I will say that the users are about 20% and the spenders and women you're in this category too, okay? Roughly 60% are somewhat emotionally dysfunctional. So what is a high quality person high value person? Excuse me. I think first and foremost it represents. They have their act together both in their Physical world and in their emotional world their physical world might be that they can pay their bills That their life isn't in emotional chaos See if you're in your 40s You have a greater chance of finding someone in emotional chaos because roughly 75% of singles over 45 years old are divorced and whether we liken or not divorce comes with it a set of emotional Dismantling you're kind of unraveling the tapestry of a life you had with another person and In that a lot of emotional trauma could be experienced in This you know in this dynamic we call divorce No, many of you know this you're dating someone who has a contentious X Maybe they're still in the contentious divorce. Maybe they've got issues with their children Maybe their professional life is in chaos. It doesn't matter Their outside world means that they're they're they're clean in their structure of their life For the most part now, that's not gonna say that we aren't going to have Momentary things that will derail us many of you know, I lost a child. There's a picture of my son who passed away Connor Astley You know, there are always going to be circumstances where life gets in the way But it didn't take me down emotionally. It didn't take me into such a state of death Devastation so you have to examine the outside world of a person. Okay Now I just mentioned inside world what I was really talking about when I was reflecting upon my son is my inside world, you know Now I think a person who is high value. They are introspective meaning they are they know their insecurities and fears and they don't make their partner Responsible for medicating these fears and insecurities. Do you realize we have a significant population? that uses each other as therapists now I Say use in other words If there's not a mutual exchange It's one thing if you and your partner are processing something in your life, but in some cases on an unconscious level They make their partner Responsible for their well-being in other words We are suckling on the nipple here in United States of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to like me I need you to have all this so I can feel good about myself if you have known Insecurities and fears you can't make your partner Responsible for that in other words self medicating or medicating Okay, this represents what this represents the outside world But actually being in good physical condition makes you a better partner in life You know a lot of people don't take good care of their health. I hear this complaint bitually from Men and women that they don't take good care of their physical Well-being well if you can't take care of your physical well-being are you really valuing yourself You know, so it's important them to be aware that a high value person values their health Okay, in addition a high value person's actions match their words Consistently, that's not to say that we aren't going to make mistakes on our communication That is going to be a natural happen stance You might plan on calling someone that evening and you might have just got wrapped up in work Okay, there's there's gonna be those moments where it happens But if it's consistent where your actions don't match your words Then you're not really a high value human being and again, this isn't segregated by men or women This is by human being behavior Next they are very clear on the type of relationship They seek more importantly a high value person in the dating realm seeks partnership with another human being partnership you know, we we are in such an ambivalent dating environment particularly on I Believe we have somewhere near nearing a hundred million singles in the United States There's no value to partnership With the ease through our devices of hooking up Excuse me With the ease of our devices hooking up It's actually relatively easy to get companionship connection and sex without really making a commitment and I believe a Please if I'm offending anyone I apologize But I believe it's low value to only seek a casual relationship a Situationship of friends with benefits and I'm guilty of doing this. I've been guilty of being in low value state I'm gonna own it But I truly believe high value means you value partnership with another human being I think another facet of being high value is Having an agreeable Personality with boundaries an agreeable personality with boundaries, you know, I I witnessed so many Disagreeable people in relationship. In other words, they're just not they're not I mean They're they're part one or both people are just disagreeable. It's pretty much their way or the highway You know when you're in a relationship with someone What's most important that you're in alignment with each other on what you want to do and you agree with each other And if you're constantly butting heads with one another Is this really the right relationship to be with or if you're in a relationship with someone you're agreeable and they're Constantly complaining and they're they're being difficult. Well Listen, I don't consider that very high value in my book. This is my interpretation of what high value is I think another facet that is so underrated but so critically important is Having a sense of humor There I said it I believe, you know, when you look at the absurdity of Human behavior when you look at the absurdity of how how an individual How an individual can do so many absurd things in their life, you know, if you can't laugh at yourself If you don't have a sense of humor and I don't mean self-deprecating. That's not what I mean I mean just to laugh at your own foibles But also appreciating The insanity in the world we live in here in the United States we have an election coming up It is fascinating to witness these political parties act like idiots in my book And I'm equal opportunity judge your of both parties in my opinion I probably offended a few of you. I apologize if you're highly political But that's just my belief system that it's just absurd anyway You know to me a high value person Is very clear about their feelings for another human being more importantly their commitment Towards the person that they're spending regular time with and ladies if the penis is going inside the vagina the regular basis You have every right to establish What is this relationship? Where's the direction of you have every right to ask where this relationship is going if two people are having regular By the way, you can undervalue sex all you want but honestly speaking And i'm not here to be puritan here I mean if everybody is allowed to express themselves however they choose to see fit I'm not here dictating an edict That is all about you know, some sort of restrictive behavior But I will tell you The best sex is with two people Who genuinely have deep feelings for one another and more importantly they have built the roots of trust That's the best sex getting off Yeah, getting off is fine, but you can do that with your hand or a vibrator, you know If you want something deeper than value sex beyond the surface in my opinion And be clear about your feelings towards your partner Again, it was the point I was making Another facet of a high value person is they don't have a past relationship that will cause contention in their life They don't have a past relationship that will cause contention in your life and lastly They have high emotional IQ They know how to regulate their emotions and not from a stoic perspective. That's being stoic Stuffing your feelings is not regular. It's it's merely suppressing your feelings and believe me just like a volcano.  You know, that's weakness. That's insecurity Trust me stuffing in those feelings with those guys. It will implode Or it will manifest in disease in their life. So just be aware of that so Coming back to the question. Where can I meet a high value person? Well, first you have to become What you seek to attract it's not about where to meet this person if you in that In fact don't operate in the in the premise that I created here today And I will tell you most humans are rather delusional Everybody thinks they're the exception It's fascinating how okay, let me give you an example I I went to a speaking gig last night. It's like I shared with you a lot. It was a singles event And since I was the speaker they're talking about relationships a couple women came up to me and asked me to look at their dating profiles I think there was a half a dozen or more dating profiles that I looked at And I can't believe how they were arguing that they're I mean by the way, these were shitty profiles in my opinion or mediocre Let me reframe that wasn't they weren't so shitty. They were mediocre um And in their mediocrity, they don't realize that they're presenting themselves in a mediocre way Not in a high value way in a mediocre way And by the way ladies when you represent yourself in a mediocre way You're you have to ask yourself. Why do you keep attracting? assholes and players and men who only want sex Is because that's what you're putting out there if you want to meet a high value man then set yourself apart It's and if you're going to use online dating as a platform As an example then set yourself apart from everyone else by curating a quality representation of yourself You know, the other thing is when it comes to meeting a high value person Um The fact is this I shared with you last night. I went to an organic event where you can meet people By the way, there were 50 people there. I want to say 35 30 women 20 men 35 women 18 men something like that. So I mean for the guys It was a great opportunity because there were more women But I hear men complain where to meet women will go to where women are Actually, it was probably 30 to 20. So it was I mean it was a little bit more the there were more women than men But at the end of the day You have to put yourself in environments to be seen by a high value person So there's an app. You can guys all go to it on your phone or on your laptop. It's called event bright or is it Is it event bright? Yeah event bright. Okay, b r i t e There are dozens of of things happening in your community That you can start connecting with like-minded people. I actually looked it up. I was like signing up to things.  Uh, what kind of sound bath was it? Oh A cacao cacao is a chocolate. It's a cacao sound bath No, probably me.  Where is that? Well, certainly golf courses is one place where there are men But I would say personal development workshops believe it or not are Like very attractive to men because they're trying to improve themselves.  That's where there's a lot of people But certainly I invite you to become what you want to attract So I want you to think about this. You're looking for a needle in the haystack. Well, guess what? He's looking for a needle in the haystack too. So do you really represent yourself? Do you really represent yourself as a high value person?  By the way, there's a link below to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with a Coaches right for you discernment helps fine tune your intuition. I can't tell you how many of my clients I get calls each week. Jonathan. I met a great guy. Jonathan. I met a great guy. Jonathan. I met a great guy and they know the difference They know the difference Oh, one other thought came to my mind Actually, I mentioned this at the speaking gig. I forgot to mention this earlier in this conversation where to meet high value people Is dancing, you know, we need to go. Do you realize throughout history? Dance and sell up dance song and celebration was how people communed with each other, you know before electricity Before electricity they celebrated with each other Through song and dance I invite you organically to put yourself out there in environments where you can go dancing You can walk up to a guy and say would you like to dance? I'm going to make it a point to do free dance, which is in Santa Monica, Venice area free dance is just kind of free flowing kind of dance Dancing is a great way because it allows you to connect with your body your heart your soul. You're free And it's an easy way to interact with people. Do you want it? Would you like to dance this next song? Ladies can ask men men can ask women It's not we don't have to go to this This outrageous hierarchy that men are supposed to be the confident ones and they're supposed to do all the asking Because they need to be chivalrous and they need to be a man Look at what matters most Is not, you know, whether the guy pays for the first date or all that Supposed manly stuff what matters most is can he show up authentic transparent vulnerable Can he show up being crystal clear as to what he wants in a relationship and not waste your time? because he's only in it to satisfy his broken wounded side instead of his Smart strong confidence self Both men and women operating from that high value place is this thinking in is this resonating? Please let me know if it is post a comment below. I do my best to read all of them in the first 24 hours As always if you found value in this content, please hit that like button. 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Okay, so coming back to this singles event and again if you have a question post it You know, it's interesting Folks if you've never done public speaking It could be a little unnerving. Okay I mean fortunately I've done enough public speaking events that I feel very confident But I do remember those first few times earlier in my life where I had to get up in front of a group of people And I was scared shitless What I realized last night is that Just like dating It's scary to put yourself out there to be vulnerable whether dating is like giving a giving a public speech. It is scary Doing the inner work that I've invited you all to do I constantly invite you all to do inner work for example I always recommend this book the hoffman process the hoffman process to heal childhood wounds and adult traumas You know, my ideal client Is a person who's done the inner work who's done the inner work Because if you've done the inner work to become a high value person All you need is a fine-tuning and a tweaking. I have a coach in my life that fine tunes and tweaks me And that's my invitation for y'all is to do the work And again when you need fine-tuning or tweaking come to me my job is to help you To amplify your intuition and there's a link below again. Oh, by the way, if anyone wants to join the hot seat tonight That means you can be on with me live to ask questions. I just posted the link Hey, one of our facebook group members. We have a group called midlife love mastery This is a group where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis through a facebook page There's a link below to join midlife love mastery. One of our members writes Can you go deeper about expressing your feelings or telling a man about your feelings? well I'm not sure I understand this question in this how how can you can you go deeper? About expressing your feelings or telling it. Well, yes, you can absolutely go deeper. That is something I think it's a prerequisite to a healthy happy relationship It's to go deeper. So yes, the answer is you can absolutely go deeper Now you can only go as deep as the capacity of someone who can receive Not everybody can receive but this is something you can build together. Okay All right, if you have a question write the word question by the way this little ticker box goes by pretty fast So if you wrote something I might have missed it if you wrote something.   I I'm afraid of cooties Does everyone remember the word cooties your byproduct of the 70s or 70s you would know the word cooties I'm afraid of cooties. I believe in monogamy and exclusivity If I'm gonna have regular sex with someone that's a prerequisite for me So in the context of a monogamy and exclusivity, it's a prerequisite And if someone won't adhere to that prerequisite then I won't give them my body And I don't want their body if they're sleeping with other people. So yeah Should you can you should at least have agreement to monogamy and exclusivity at the very least um You know, I met a woman a couple years ago She was seeing somebody He said he never discussed exclusivity And and he never discussed monogamy He assumed it that they because they were seeing each other so frequently Well, she met another man and she started a date. She broke up with this guy I mean, you know, she wouldn't have dated this She said I wouldn't have dated anyone else if he didn't make it exclusive. So I just kept my options open So anyway, that's my feeling on that. Okay Oh margaret wants to let us know dancing is great. My preference is for partner dancing. I agree Okay, let's keep going Beach lover just wrote they said jonathan has the air of a movie star and we knew him when Oh, well, who said that? I don't know who said that but oh, well, I I don't I don't know if I guess that's a compliment. I guess I'll take that as a compliment Uh jane spitfire is in the house Question there are differing types of men nerd bad boy prince charming professor widower friendzone guy Can any of these be high value? I think a nerd can be high value just because someone is intellectual I think that that's a I mean again, they they They embody all of what I shared in the beginning of this broadcast. Yeah bad boy probably not bad boy is probably indicative of A person that is selfish prince charming prince charming doesn't exist ladies so Professor that's kind of along the lines of nerd widower absolutely friendzone guy If if you put someone in the friendzone, they could be high value That's just your choice that you put them in the friendzone And if they put you in the friendzone that was their choice too. Okay Um em says your profile sounds high maintenance You know, I understand if you're talking about uh when I shared publicly my dating profile I can recognize how some people would consider that high maintenance. I I can see that But again, I'm looking for the top of the tree I'm not looking I'm not looking for the bottom of the tree. That's just my choice You know, if if you're referring it to me I I believe if you if you I I have a stat and by the way I want you everybody to think about this statement your profile's high maintenance So I roughly wrote in three thousand characters what I'm looking for there's up to four thousand characters You can write so three thousand characters I mean roughly it takes about a minute and a half to read my dating profile minute a half to two minutes If a life can be summed up in one to two minutes That's a pathetic life. Okay. I am not my whole life is beyond One to two minutes. I mean the fact is is why aren't more people Expressing themselves With a little bit more flair a little bit more consciousness a little bit more emphasis On what's important instead of the superficiality. I like this and I like that and I'm blah blah blah blah blah So if that's high maintenance, I'm laughing because The totality of a person cannot be summed up in one or two minutes It's a tiny sliver of a snapshot. That's all I did was a tiny sliver of a snapshot All right, let's keep going here See julie agrees.  I just started talking to someone. When should I tell them? Well That's a good question So I don't know of the different medications that can actually suppress um The pain on that. Um, I I suspect that we're going to have advancements in medicine over the years I believe Be careful. I'm a little worried kathy because some people and I'm not suggesting of this of you. Okay, but some people wear their their their illness their their Their ailments as a badge of honor. Okay Well, if you can't love me with this then I'm not going to bother to spend time with you Now at the same time if this is a true health concern that actually directly affects a relationship Then you must be transparent about it and I would suggest if two people begin catching feelings for one another You may want to share this Okay, if it's material to the relationship the sooner you discuss it the better Um, but just remember very little trust is built From the beginning but again and you have to be willing if you wait a little while to build trust and share it That might be a reason for them to end the relationship. You have to be willing to accept that too Being high value means you're not going to let it affect you one way or the other If a person doesn't feel comfortable with that And by the way, if the roles were reversed you have to ask yourself Would you feel the same? That's just my invitation for you. But thank you for that question. I appreciate it appreciate it I don't know how to pronounce your name P K E U L What kind of girls did you meet at the mixer? Did you meet anybody interesting? Did any girls ask you out? So I had some unique experiences while I was there um And to the extent that there was it was slightly a younger demographic most everybody was about Uh 10 to 15 years younger than me and I'm not interested in anyone 15 years younger than me or 13 years younger than me. I just feel like I want someone who's my contemporary To the extent that there was some interest from people. Yes, um to that extent I I got that sense that were there was some interest from people I also recognized that um you know It when you're in that kind of environment like I was in that environment I was in kind of a work mode environment even though there was a social gathering of that I was maintaining a boundary for myself and not getting I wasn't there I mean, I might I wasn't there to meet anyone. I was there to be Uh a host and to be a speaker. So from that perspective, I did establish them a boundary for myself So I kept some distance from that actually happening. I let's just put you this way I wasn't in like pickup mode or anything like that. I'm saying that tongue in cheek So anyone takes that out of context, but thank you for asking that question. I really appreciate it Um pump pump pump pump pump Rachel says I love your videos. Well, thank you so much. I appreciate that um Julie says what is stonewalling great question What stonewalling is is basically when usually It centers around when there's conflict in the relationship and you're avoiding dressing addressing the conflict Or you're avoiding dressing an issue within the relationship. You are stonewalling. That's the effective meaning of stonewalling is you're avoiding Discussing the more difficult when there's a difficult circumstance in a relationship My mother was a quintessential stonewaller Beach lover is in the house Question do you find that women who choose you have actually read through your profile? Do you ask if they haven't do you use it as a deal breaker? You know, that's an interesting I had I had a woman reach out to me on match.com and and I And I was attracted to her but I felt like there might have been I kind of wondered did she really read my profile So I I sent her a very long message You know, I I invited her to read my profile in its entirety and ask her if there was any alignment to her And what's fascinating she never responded back So it kind of it kind of affirmed that I didn't think she was really interested in me okay um It was maybe she just interested in a free meal. I don't know that's being judgmental on my part I'm just kidding. Uh, but yeah to me. It's rather important that they read it um So yeah, thank you for that question. I appreciate it And alexa says stonewalling is refusing to communicate basically what I said there Okay Jane Spitfire If you and the man have shared values and hobbies does this make him high value man? Well, again, high value also represents actions matching words high value means you can effectively communicate your feelings in a way that's seen heard and understood You know how to regulate your emotions your feelings your did I say actions matching words more importantly I think high value in the dating context are people that are very serious about partnership So just because you share values and hobbies doesn't necessarily make you high value at least in the context of this video Maria says why do you think a lot of dating sites only let you write a short bio? um Let's differentiate between a dating site like a match.com or an ok cupid versus a dating app Match.com allows you to write 400 4000 characters. So uh, that particular site Um, that particular site has the capacity to um Write a lot but hinge and and bumble do not why? Because here's the deal about dating apps most of you don't realize that the original dating app was I believe grinder That was uh for people of same sex to basically hook up that was the original intent You happen to be out at a nightclub on a Friday night You did a search of one mile and you've looked at people that was interested and you basically hooked up That was the original intent. It was never intended to be utilized in the format now As and by the way is still hooking up to some degree But it was never intended to be utilized to the robustness that like a match.com site has so I hope that answers your question By the way, who wants to join the hot seat tonight? um By the way, jane spitfire wants to let uh, that person know that morgan tea And herbs will help with them arthritis. That's awesome Let's keep going here So sherry lin comes back and says, where do we meet? Well, I've already discussed this. Okay It's not like people. Here's the deal folks The question isn't how to meet or where to meet The question is how can I be seen by a high value man? That's the question. Can someone write that in the chat box? How can I be seen by a high value man god universe spirit? I'm inviting in the following I want this question answered for myself and I invite you to give me the downloads At any appropriate time and the question is how can I meet a high value person that I can explore? A juicy delicious healthy happy relationship. I want god universe spirit. I want you to download the answer for me How can I meet? How can I meet how can I be seen? By that high value person that is interested in me god universe spirit. I invite that in That's the question. How can I be seen? by a high value person Rachel Is it judgmental to judge someone who has tattoos and is into their nails? I like their face, but they are artistic. Should I look for other things and how do I get past the tattoos? So It's only judgmental if you judge the person, you know, it's only judgmental if you by the way, what if you judge the person as being bad Then you're judgmental Okay, stop it. Okay As far as being attracted to someone who is has tattoos and such I can understand why that may not be attractive because if you don't have tattoos then there's an element of what's called Me not me me not me me not me someone put that in the chat box me not me I Am no tattoos. I thought about getting one with Connor to get salty but You know something tiny maybe on my wrist and nobody would notice it kind of thing but If someone had a sleeve on their arm, that's not like me and because it's not me I I know personally I'm not attracted to it doesn't mean that there there's anything wrong with it. That's just not me So we often in the dating realm are looking for me not me How is someone like me and how is someone not like me? I don't have to judge Why they did it that's on that's on me if I judge them. I'm just like, oh, that's not me. That's okay So margaret wrote that down me not me me not me Julie freckler says I enjoy your videos while having my morning coffee. Well, I'm flattered. Thank you so much um I value look at maybe your tone presentation friendliness levels and where to meet at exactly Okay, sally is in the house Uh, you seem quite away into your spiritual journey jonathan. How long ago did you get into that and how do you feel? It's working for you. I started my spiritual awakening in 2022 Okay, this is going to take me a while and by the way, feel free to ask personal questions along the way After going through a divorce turning 40 and going through a divorce in 2005 um I was a train wreck. I was an absolute train wreck in my life And life wasn't working for me I'd actually reached a point where I went to bed wishing I didn't wake up and to this was around 2008 Uh, the stock market crash wiped me out I'd lost my high end corporate paying job and I always went through a divorce. Okay and I was at the pit of dis I was in the pit of despair And right around that time the movie the secret came out and I watched it and I go this resonated with me I began listening to wane dire abraham hicks joe dispensa to name a few The movie what the bleep came out can someone write what the bleep? I love that movie with all the scientists and physicists in there talking about Personal development from a scientific perspective. I began listening to tony robbins Oh my god I began listening to tony robbins I had cds that were like that were 15 years old Unopened in a box and I started listening to I listened to it with my kids when I Go visit them I would we would listen to tony robbins cds And then little by little as I began doing this work of coaching and I originally started as a dating and relationship coach Just helping women improve their online dating profiles. That's how I got started 15 years ago was helping women improve their online dating profiles But here's where the story gets interesting You know, I went on I went on date after date after date after date and what seemed like Hundreds if not thousands that I'm just kidding. I realized the common denominator. I was the problem In about 2011 I met a woman who happened to be a therapist and we began a relationship together Well, and I didn't realize in this relationship. She was reparenting me And what I mean to say is I was learning to love myself in this process And I was getting a lot of free therapy along the way and and then she gifted me for my birthday the hofman process in 2017 no 2017 yeah, um, then I did insight in 2019 I got my neuro linguistic programming certificate. I got a reiki certificate um But I would say also my my coaching began getting more personal development oriented right around the time of 2017 2018 In addition since 2014 I began doing Spiritual camps With groups of people they were designed It's like group therapy meets pajama party meets cocktail party and I began doing a deeper dive into healing Or really being able to learn how to express my emotions and feelings in a safe container So coming back to your question. I've been at it for a decade decade and a half I'm constantly peeling the onion. I I think it takes a lifetime to master I mean didn't buddha sit under a tree for 30 years. I'm exaggerating To master enlightenment So that just gives you a cliff note version of what happened with me Thank you so much for asking that question. I hope I answered and I hope it helped Let's keep going here Okay, if you have a question if you have a personal question write the word personal question I'm more than happy to share Part of my journey. I feel like I'm a role model in that And I say role model. I'm just here to share what I've learned and pass it on a pay it forward type of role model Do you only use the dating apps where you can write a long buyer or do you use apps like bumble with short bios? Okay, the app the okay. I am currently on bumble hinge match.com and millionaire match I just happen to like millionaire match because People that have good jobs tend to be on that site and I just like somebody who can pay their bills. So So those are the sites bumble hinge match.com millionaire match Kathy wants to know are these recorded and can we watch on midlife love mastery group? Yes, you can. Uh, usually these are recorded and placed in both areas Okay, julie writes If a guy smokes too much weed out Wait, if a guy smokes too much weed should this be a deal breaker?   Those are the questions you should be asking. I'm inviting you to ask yourself. How is this affecting our relationship? But that's something you can only ask answer for yourself. Thank you so much for that question I wonder how long is healthy to get over an x. I am personally feel a little intimidated when women Ask me out as a man. I'm just wondering should the man make the first approach to ask women out. Um I I'm first off I believe a woman can ask a man out a man can ask a woman out If you're not in a good place Then you shouldn't be putting yourself out there number one If you're not over an x then you shouldn't be putting yourself out there But when you feel healed and complete put yourself out there if a woman asks you out great And if I'm if uh, if you want to choose to ask someone out great too, you you guess what? Rodney danger field once said I think I'm going to become bi People ask why and he goes it doubles my chances of getting laid The point is by the way, we improve our odds when women make effort men make effort. We just double the odds So that's how I feel about that power of cheese in the house Question have you ever considered doing cold therapy retreat with wim Hof?   Um, I don't feel the need to do that I'm am I curious to like I know tony robbins jumps in an ice cold plunge and I've tried it before I've I've gone in the shower ice cold but I'm at a point in my life where I I beat my body up enough. I don't want to beat it up anymore That's how I and I'm not suggesting that that's harmful to your body. I'm just I don't want to do it You know, but thank you for asking and does it work? I have no effing clue I can see the benefits. See I believe in Looking at a variety of different modalities and finding what works for you Jetty says How long should you date a man after his divorce? I don't want to be his rebound you know I I I I believe Depending on the contentiousness of the divorce depending on the circumstances It takes a person a good depending on the length of the marriage too It takes a good two years and probably two transition relationships For a person to get a sense of who they are this is not this is not a statement of fact But usually two years and they've usually hopefully have had two transition relationships So the question is do you want to be the rebound? Then there there must be a less if you become a rebound to someone There's a lesson there for you to learn as well Yeah If you don't choose someone who's clean and I don't mean you know wash their undies Then you have to ask why did I choose that person? How long should a man wait to get into a serious relationship after is to oh the same one sorry um again, I I um, sorry What is a high value woman basically everything I said in the first 15 minutes of this broadcast Is exactly men and women alike high value is is is no different from one to the other Okay, this isn't based on gender. This is based on of being of good Really being a good human being that's to me The essence of what I shared earlier, okay Margaret gg tells margaret Millionaire matches were worth it. I could have been on there for a year for all the money Spent on junk sites. Okay great testimonial there Cruel says when are you doing another speaking event like a mixer? I hope I'm hoping in march In the culver city los angeles area. That's where I'm hoping to do it next I I'm going to do a little different format It's going to be a speaking gig for two hours than a single mixer act afterwards Most likely it'll be more women than men just because my audience happens to be women But I hope men show up as well and we'll do some exercises to build That muscle of talking to people will work on that as well. So thank you for asking Are you in los angeles? Okay, we've already asked that question Okay, rose says improving my odds by dropping a few pounds and hanging out in high end areas where men Of means are and even then I know the odds to find a gorgeous not rich to find a gorgeous not rich There's a difference are slim You know, I guess it all you know, you can act like that you can act like e or There's no good men They're all users, you know, there's no good men or you can be tigger It's raining great men. It's raining great men. It's raining great men If you begin, you know, what you put your energy towards is what you'll attract. So begin to um embody See a high value person also embodies what they want to attract and they also Project that out there. In other words, if you want to become a needle in the haystack You know become the needle first and foremost and radiate become an electromagnet Karen says I love listening to you. Thank you so much. I appreciate that Um bum bum bum bum bum Power of cheese says I do cold showers at the end of a regular shower. It's awesome.  I just I mean, yeah, it feels great, but I don't know if it's like this amazing. Oh my god, I'm gonna live 20 years longer I'm just grateful that my dad is 98 and my mother was 88 before she passed away. So please god, I hope my genes are like theirs Aquarius says bunch of players online.  But then again, if you don't go out, you're not going to meet anyone Again, oh jade brings up a good point There is this in this day high value means beautiful good-looking big money good career house Not very much ethical characteristics Exactly a lot of the garbage narrative out there is selling a narrative that I can't stand. So yes, I agree with that All right, if we don't have any questions come up. I know you guys are talking about cold showers Erica says Preach it Jonathan. It's definitely raining great men All right I'll take these last two questions. We're gonna wrap up for the night. Why do few men move a girl? Wait, why do a few men move a girl in on the third date? I have a man friend who did that and married her eight months later Sometimes you just know, I mean like Like by the way, but you're talking about the broken clock. I mean it happens so infrequently Why do why do most people never get a second date? Maybe that's a question to ask Why do most people never get a second date cruells back in the house? What is the perfect looking girl for you? What kind of girls are you attracted to personally? I like red heads and there aren't a lot of red heads around be careful Ha ha You know what? I've always had a thing for red heads. Interestingly enough. I mean I but I just I happened because I had a big crush on Stephanie powers from heart to heart But I also had a crush on grace kelly. Oh my god Stunningly beautiful and then I've had a crush on linda carter.  Um I mean, I had I think jacklyn smith is one of the most beautiful women I'd say lately. I have more of a crush on kate beckonsdale. I mean, I have a big crush on her um Those are female actresses, but actually I mean I I've always I've dated my my wife was a blonde My Second most significant relationship was auburn hair. My last relationship was dark brown hair. Um, I'm you know, I So from that perspective, um But yeah, I've always had a crush on red heads. I I think there's just something and by the way I dated a red head and we used to play connect the dots with her freckles I I think it's just you know, I I like them, you know, I like a person with a good heart I'm attracted most to people who do personal development self-help spiritual work Somebody appreciates my mission in life someone who can get on board with my mission someone who has a connection with their divinity That's most important someone who values health and and and is aligned with the things I do if they're a jock type of person I probably won't get along with them. I like an introspective person. Um, I love an introspective person I love going down rabbit hole conversations Um, so those are just some of the things I like um bump bump um Why do most women not get a second date for the same reason most men don't get a second date? They're just not into each other. That's the main reason why You know, most people show up most people have terrible communication skills They have terrible flirting skills, you know, most people are poor at that By the way, we we gave us a five dollar super sticker. That means we only have 45 dollars left for our goal tonight How about giving me some love before we wrap up in the next few minutes by? Um by uh purchasing a super sticker super chat Howard she says my first crush was on bruce lee I vowed to marry him one day when I got older than someone told me that he was dead You know, my ex-wife was in love with harrison for that was her dream guide This would have been back. I met her in the 90s. So um, he was coming off of all of his powerful movies in the 80s So so harrison ford was her crush Jane spitfire said go to a military base or a police station. That's actually an interesting place to go I would concur with that um All right, we we If a man told you he didn't want to be with you will he have will he have a change of heart? I mean I mean, I take people on face value if they're not that india then move on Okay, it doesn't matter if it bit by the way he can have the question is why do you care if he has a change of heart If he doesn't value you now It's rare that they're going to value you later. Okay Uh sandi says my sister-in-law went to high school with harrison ford and de moine illinois Um desplanes illinois. Excuse me. Uh pretty cool. Yeah, that is cool I'm trying to think of who's one of the most famous people I know one of my One of my dear social acquaintance friends is terry nun from the rock band berlin Her and her husband are part of a community of friends. I have I mean she's someone famous. Who else do I know? I've met tons of famous people in my life But that's probably the closest Um Beautiful human being she is. I mean amazing voice but more importantly.  So yeah, I'm very blessed to know that person Um bum bum bum bum So we wants to say he gave me $16,000 for a down payment for a car. He said he cared but doesn't want to be with me I mean, I don't know how to respond to that, you know He cares about you by the way great to have a benefactor in your life Good for you, but I wouldn't hold hope if he says i'm not that into you crew says Where can you do spiritual journeys in la? Um, you know, unfortunately, I can't say that publicly. Um I would start doing let check out the meet-up groups that are associated with Cannabis is a great place because cannabis is legal here in united in california So start looking at cannabis spiritual journeys and within those people see if there's um, there's a connection to more of the Psychedelic journeys that are out there, but I would start with cannabis and look around in your area Um Sherry wants to tell we we do not take it personally next. Yeah, you got a benefactors But I wouldn't count on him for anything else Is ayahuasca legal? It certainly is in south american countries. Um, I think in oregon now for medicinal purposes They're starting to use psychedelic therapy in oregon and hopefully in california that will change in the next couple years Hey says jonathan, why would a guy say he isn't romantically attracted to you yet calls? Meet his girlfriend to his friends. We're engaged three years ago and been friends for 25 years. Is he definitely avoidant?   You are correct most likely All right, you know what folks I really appreciate an opportunity to share where I we talk about where to meet high quality high value men and women It's not about where you can be in and it's how you become a high value person and eventually asking yourself How can I be seen by that high value person? Ask your Spirit guides ask your guardian angels ask god universe spirit to answer that question for you Because it's more important that you become the needle in the haystack and then become the electromagnet that attracts in your watermark Is this I hope this is a value with you? Please post a comment below I'd like to hear your thoughts if this was a value to hit that like button. Please share this video Please subscribe to my channel and check out all the links to schedule a discovery call with me to see if Working with the coach is right for you my group called midlife love mastery Follow me on instagram and all that good stuff and I'm going to wrap up this video Is I always do first off give myself a big gigantic jonathan barrick of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm asking you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives Thanks a bunch. I want to say good night to q and sally and Jennifer and julie and joy and elizabeth and beach lover and margaret and power of chi And sherry and aquarius and we we And jane and I don't know how to pronounce eskimo lard a eskimo. I gotta can't pronounce it I'm just a terrible at names All right, everyone big hugs have a fantastic evening wishing you well. Bye