Everybody in the back can hear me? Yes? Okay. How many of you already have a blog? How many of you would like to make money on that blog? How many of you have written a business plan to make money on your blog? Oh, there's like five people. Congratulations. That's more than usual. Okay. We're going to talk about traffic. And the thing about traffic is you probably don't have any. And there's probably a really good reason for that, because your blog's probably not very good yet. Quite honestly, when you start a blog, you're like, yes, I'm such a good writer. I'm such a good blogger. Anybody would want to read this.  I sucked. And you're right.  Most people have to go through about a year of sucking before they get good enough that anybody's going to want to read their stuff. And it's the same thing. Anybody play a musical instrument? Who in here plays well enough that you would charge money for somebody? How long have you been playing? Voice. Voice? How long have you been singing? Forty years. Forty years. Who else plays or sings well enough that they would charge money? What do you play? Several instruments. And how long have you been playing them? Twenty years. Twenty years. Anybody been playing an instrument for a year or less? Yeah? What do you play? Would you play on stage yet? Well, there you go. Kind of the same thing with blogging. Blogging is a completely different skill from writing. I was a writer. I had gotten paid to write things when I started blogging.  Because it's a different skill, you have to learn how to write in such a way that people want to read it, you can read it on their phones, that they feel like they're having a conversation with somebody and all those are things you build over time. So, if you've had a blog for less than two or three years and nobody's reading it yet, congratulations. You're exactly where you need to be.  But if you have a blog because you want to make money, you can't necessarily afford to go through that long process of getting good. So, we're going to start talking about building traffic, okay? There's some basic habits that you need to form in order to start getting people to read your blog. The first thing is writing stuff that people want to read.  And what do I mean by that? Usually when you start blogging, you're blogging kind of like a journal, you're writing for you, right? And you think people who are like me will find this. But you're writing from your perspective. Has anybody in here ever read a Realtors blog? Is anybody in here a Realtor that blogs? Okay, I don't want to offend people that badly, but Realtors are notorious for this. They start a blog because they're like, okay, I've heard if I start a blog, people who are googling things, they'll find me and then I can sell them houses and help them find houses. So, they write a blog about things that Realtors care about. Like whether or not it's a buyer's market or what banks think about certain things in the housing market.  You don't care. When you're going to buy a house, what do you want? I want a house that I can afford that has these things that I like. I want a yard.  I want to be able to have dogs that I let out and don't have to walk on a leash. I want to live in a neighborhood where my neighbors aren't douchebags. Pardon me, aren't jerks. So, if a Realtor is writing a blog about the things that Realtors care about, how does that actually help somebody who's trying to buy a house? It doesn't, right? But that's the first beginner mistake that we all make. We're looking at it from our perspective. So, start learning to put yourself in the shoes of the people that you want to read your blog. So, anybody in here want to volunteer what their blog topic is? Anybody? Go ahead. Aviation. Aviation. Are you a pilot? Air traffic control. Air traffic control. Good job. More power to you. I have flown and I have great respect for air traffic control. I do not have the brain to do that. Who do you want to read your blog? Pilots. Pilots. So, people like me. If you were going to write something for a pilot, here's a good way you can start. What do pilots usually ask you as an air traffic controller? Anything that comes to mind? So, we're talking about aviation weather, about rules when you're talking as a pilot to air traffic control, flying in and out of certain areas, about what a pilot really needs to know from an air traffic controller, right? And there's a lot. That's got to be a two-way relationship. So, if I'm a pilot and I want to know the rules to fly in and out of a certain area, anybody in here familiar with aviation? Is that kind of a basic topic? Okay.  It's a really basic way to put it, but that's true, right? So, there's a lot of technical terms to avoid confusion. You know that phonetic alphabet, alpha, bravo, Charlie, delta? You know the reason they have that? It's because C and D and E sound like the same thing, but echo and Charlie and delta do not. So, as a pilot, you need to know what the air traffic controller is going to say and what it means. They want to say it as quickly as they can, and they want to say it as clearly as they can. So, let's say I want to be a pilot, and I want to learn about air traffic control. I might Google what is the phonetic alphabet. I might Google air traffic control commands, right? Those are things called keywords. There are tools you can use to do that, but the easiest way to do this, and change optimization, helping people find you, is to say if somebody wanted to find this information, what would they type into Google? That does two things. First of all, it helps you figure out keywords so that you can put it in your post and people can find you. Second of all, it helps you put yourself in your reader's shoes so you can talk about things in the way that they are going to understand it, and in the way that they are going to want to find it. So, as an air traffic controller, you might know the phonetic alphabet, and somebody might Google, what's that thing where you use words instead of letters? So, somewhere in your post, you can say the phonetic alphabet is that thing where you use words instead of letters. Now you're in your reader's shoes, and somebody can find you, right? So, another way you can put yourself in your reader's shoes and figure out what people are actually wanting to find out from you and write in their language is to go to forums.  So, forums. Anybody in here use forums? Occasionally? Very prominent in the tech world because Googling in the tech world is a little sketchy. You don't know what you're going to get. In forums, you get a conversation of people and you have a back and forth, right? Well, here's the thing about forums. Somebody goes to a forum first. The reason that somebody goes to a forum is because they googled it and didn't get a clear answer. So, if somebody's asking a question in a forum and you're seeing a question come up a lot, you know that that's an answer that lots of people are looking for, and they actually wanted an answer bad enough that they went to a bunch of sketchy strangers on the internet and asked a question. In certain industries, you'll see this a lot. In blacksmithing, you see it a lot. Different artisan crafts, little kind of niche areas. In technology where things are updating so fast that people can't keep up and keep relevant information on the web. That's something where you're going to find answers in forums and you're going to find search topics. And you're also going to see what language people are using. The people in the forums are actually looking for blog posts like the ones you're going to write. Now, this does not mean go to forums and say, hey, I wrote a blog post, here's a link to a spammer and spammers are a-holes. Nobody's going to click on that. But it does mean that you can go in and see what people are actually wanting to read from you and get better at providing relevant information. Does that help? The next thing you can do to make your writing better to write stuff that people want to read is to work on your communication skills by cutting out the first half of your blog post. So anybody, food bloggers are notorious for this. Sorry, food bloggers.  And about, you know, 150 words in, 200 words in, you get to the point. And she gave me a fried chicken recipe. But you still don't get the fried chicken recipe.  So you had to switch out the time with oregano because you're, anyway, those posts are hard to read. And in food blogging, sometimes it kind of works, which is why it continues to be common. But in most types of blogs, if you've got a bunch of fluff at the beginning of your post before you get to the point, people are going to leave and they're not going to come back, which means somebody found you, they didn't find what they wanted and they will never come back to your website again. And you don't want that.  And then you highlight all of the text before that and you hit Backspace. And it's hard to do because you put so much work into making that stuff fun to read, but nobody cares but you. And you're not writing for you. You're writing for the people that are going to come to your blog and read. You don't have to get rid of that stuff entirely. You can move it to the end of your post if it's still relevant. But I'll tell you what, if you take that stuff out and you try to move it to the end and it doesn't fit and you're trying to cram it in, then it's not necessary because it doesn't have anything to do with what you're writing about. Do this for about a year and you will start getting to the point automatically so that you don't have to delete a bunch of text that you worked on. That stuff that takes guts. But if you actually want more than 12 people to read your blog post it takes a little bit of guts. So now you know how to get to the point and you know how to put yourself in your reader's shoes. The next thing we're going to talk about is search engine optimization. This is what I do for a living during the day. I write blog posts that are designed to get more traffic from search engines to websites. And you don't do that by writing blog posts for search engines. Google is getting better and better and better at figuring out what people want to read and giving it to them. Google's whole job is to say, you are looking for things that say this. Here are things that say this. Go visit them. There's something like 8 billion Google searches a day. It might be 12 billion somewhere in that... a very large billion number. Not very good at numbers, that's why I do words.  That's their job.  Back in the day, Google used to figure out what things were based on keywords. The more often you set a keyword, the more likely you were to show up in the search results. Circuit City got in trouble because on their pages for printer ink, their descriptions would be like, this is printer ink when you need printer ink and it's black printer ink and blue printer ink and pink printer ink. And then at the bottom of the page, there would be a big white space and what they had done was white text on a white background with printer ink, printer ink, printer ink, printer ink. So they would show up in Google search results. Well, Google got wise to that. That's called keyword stuffing. It's irrelevant now. It doesn't do anything. Here's what works now. Write content so that people can read it. Figure out what people are actually typing into Google and make sure you use that phrase at least once in your post. Cover the topic thoroughly in natural language and Google's way better at natural language now. And then there's something called backlink strategy. Now backlink strategy gets a little bit sketchy sometimes. There's things like buying links which can actually get you knocked out of Google search completely. They will penalize you for it. Google just updated their algorithms in December. So if you're getting links from things like yellowpages.com, Huffington Post links don't count anymore because people could just submit whatever articles they wanted to Huffington Post and Google said those don't count. Anything where a low value website that's completely irrelevant and has nothing to do with your website at all links to you, doesn't matter. It doesn't count. Not going to help your Google search rankings. But if there's another blog like let's go back to food blogs, okay? Let's say you do cake pops. Anybody know what cake pops are?  You can make them shape like animals. Super cute. Bakerella is the blog that invented cake pops. If you write a blog post about cake pops and Bakerella says that's a good article and links to it, Google says oh, this person has some credibility. They just got a link from somebody else who we find very credible. So we are more likely to show you in search engine results hire. Okay? The way that you get those is by asking for them. Don't offer to pay for them. Don't go out to an SEO agency like us and say would you just get me 100 backlinks? That's not how that works. What you do is you write really good long form articles hopefully filling some kind of need covering a lot of information. And then Google it and see who else is ranking in Google for those terms. Look for the ones that are linking out to other websites. And just send them a very polite email saying hey, I see that you have this blog post. I wrote about something similar. I love your opinion on it and if you like it I'd appreciate a link. 99% of the time you're not going to hear back from them and that's okay. People are not obligated to link to your website but that's how you get started doing that. As you get a little more advanced there are tools you can use. There are things like Deadlink building. You can go on Wikipedia to a certain extent. There's a lot of really cool stuff you can do but as a brand new blog the place you should start is making good connections with other bloggers. Don't have to be authority sites. It can be other bloggers that you know personally. Don't trade links. Don't be like I'll link to you if you link to me because that can also get you penalized in Google. Doesn't count. But go out there and be part of the community and you'll start seeing links coming in. You're not going to dominate search results as a new website generally unless you really know what you're doing with search engine optimization. But if you covered something obscure like I'm not going to tell you some of the more risky things I've ranked for by accident but if you're covering something like God of spirituality or a very specific brand review like you're a beauty blogger and you're reviewing something that you got it Sephora or something like that you'll start ranking for those very specific terms and the better you rank the better you can rank in the future. So this is really just getting your foot in the door. Make sure you have your brand name and be a good member of the blogging community. Never ever ever go to somebody else's blog and be like this is a great recipe for carrot muffins. I also wrote a recipe for carrot muffins. Here's a link in your comments because then you're a spammer and nobody wants to work with a spammer. So rookie mistake can be forgiven once if you do it multiple times in Facebook groups and things like that you're going to start getting booted you're going to get blacklisted from different blogger communities it's not a pretty thing. Now these are basic habits the only other basic habit I'm going to cover for general traffic building is posting regularly that doesn't necessarily mean posting a lot. How often should you update your blog as often as you can do it consistently? If you can write a blog post every day write a blog post every day if you can write a blog post every week and you know that you're actually going to have that blog post written every week write a blog post every week if you do not have time to blog do a blog post every month every two months update your blog quarterly whatever it is that's consistent there's two reasons consistency are important one because you're going to start gaining readers and they want to know when they're going to come back and look for more stuff and if they come back and look for more stuff and there's not more stuff they're going to leave and not come back anymore there's a lot that crawl your site to see what's new they start to learn how frequently you post and they crawl on a consistent schedule Google's little robots don't crawl the entire internet every day the internet's very very big so they index your site they say okay here's this site it's coolcountertops.com and we see that coolcountertops.com does a blog post every month so we're going to go back every month and see what's new if you say I'm going to update every week if you start updating every week but then you miss a couple of weeks but then you update again and then you go for a month and then you update again and then you do three in a week then it's going to throw those robots off and you're not going to be indexed as regularly as you could it's not a huge deal but it does hurt you just an inchy inchy little bit okay now more advanced traffic building tactics depend on why you want traffic to your blog that's kind of a tricky question right anybody ever sat there and been like yes I need traffic and now you're thinking wait why so raise your hand if you definitely want more traffic on your website keep your hand up if you want more traffic because you want to make money from that traffic okay how many of you that want to make money are selling products how many of you that want to make money are doing affiliate marketing that's pretty good percentage how many of you are showing ads on your site how many of you want to make money and you don't know how you're going to do it yet alright so pretty good mix all of those strategies are different if you're showing ads on your website quality of traffic is not as important you need numbers over quality if you are selling products on your website you need good quality leads on your website that you can convert into sales if you're doing affiliate marketing you need to attract the kind of traffic through to other websites and make purchases so you've got to start marketing to those websites audiences if you're doing some combination thereof you've got to say what's the way that I'm most likely to make money and attract the right kind of traffic for that right not all traffic is created equal anybody ever watch late night television anybody ever seen those late night infomercials for the weird like I project lights on your house and you can do these little jelly things those things I love watching late night infomercials because of the copywriting but also because depending on what channel you're on you get stuff that's just wildly different right if you watch soap operas during the day what's going to get advertised Windex and MaxiPads if you're watching Dateline NBC are they going to advertise Windex and MaxiPads probably not if you are watching one of those history channel things about the manliest weapons ever invented what are they going to advertise probably technology and tools right so that is because not every audience is created equal if you are advertising depends adult diapers on Saturday morning cartoons you probably have the wrong audience so traffic matters the type of traffic matters before you start paying for traffic to your website any kind of paid advertising you need to know what you're going to do with that traffic once it hits your site so even if you don't have anything for sale yet you say I need to start building my traffic now so that I can advertise to these people later and I have an audience I know I'm going to develop an online course I know I'm going to sell snarky t-shirts I know I'm going to do this but I'm not there yet I'm going to have an audience the first thing you need to do before you start sending traffic to that site is to set up something so you can collect email addresses put something on your website to make it sticky give people a reason to come back again and again I'll give you an example from my real-life career there's a brand called We Pickem We Pickem does entity wagering now I live in Las Vegas so it's probably not going to be a thing here right entity wagering is the type of sports betting so that if you're not in Las Vegas you can legally place bets on sports games but you don't actually go in and say I'm going to bet on this game you say I'm going to put my money in this fund and an expert is going to bet on a set of games and then I get the balance from whatever the winnings are that's what makes it legal elsewhere it is newly legal it was legalized at the end of 2015 and We Pickem was formed right after that while We Pickem is not allowed to actually take bets yet because they have to go through all these regulation processes because only two people got licenses to do it and the state of Nevada said we want to see how these people do before we start licensing other companies to do it so We Pickem is like we have this business we're registered but we can't actually take anybody's money what do we do? and they hired the marketing company where I work they're like we need to build an audience but nobody can bet yet so we now have a Facebook audience for them that's got about 280,000 people their website gets a couple thousand views a month which is kind of low but they have a mailing list that has a couple hundred thousand people on it and there's lots and lots and lots of people who know what We Pickem is and does and they're ready and as soon as they say okay we can start taking money to hand money over and say please bet my money on sports games but they can't actually take any money yet so they can't sell anything to these people they're still investing and advertising why does it work? because we created other things that these people can engage with there's a mailing list, there's a community that they can engage with that keeps them coming back the Facebook page is very active it's not just Facebook advertisements it's actually people coming to the page and having conversations and talking sports and enjoying each other virtually so there's something to keep them there now if it was just a landing page website that said one day we'll be able to take money how many of those people would have come back? maybe a couple that were like super into sports betting but probably not a lot so you don't have to have your whole business set up now but you have to have something to keep people coming those things can be mailing lists or communities or a really active blog that has good information that keeps people coming back again and again and again because we're in WordPress and because I'm a blogger let's go the blog route but always, always, always do something to collect email addresses I use tools from BuzzSumo BuzzSumo has something for free to collect email addresses and you can use MailChimp for free to start sending them emails I don't use the free tools generally because I do this professionally most people are investing in their advertising so we invest in the tools in order to get a better return if you're just starting out and you don't have money to invest start collecting email addresses for free with BuzzSumo there's probably plugins that can do it BuzzSumo B-U-Z-Z S-U-M-O and their blog is awesome by the way I don't write for it yet but I might so something for people to sink their teeth into once you determine why you want these people to come to your website whether it's like my ex who just wants to have millions of viewers to win awards for his ego he is a very good blogger I'll give him that but shh anyway that's a perfectly relevant reason and he doesn't pay for traffic he gets on average 3 million views on his blog per month and I kind of hate him for it if you're like that building social media communities is a great way to start getting traffic figure out where your community is and start engaging with them it's very labor intensive go ahead yes it does and that's going to be my next tip so I'm going to steal my thunder so when you engage in communities the way you do it is not by spamming your links it's by having your profile branded a lot of us blog under our names if you blog under a brand name then you want to make sure you're interacting with your brand name and just give value to people like let's say you have a blog about organic gardening you can go to forums and Facebook groups and other areas online communities about organic gardening and just talk to people offer free advice don't send them back to your blog they're going to start recognizing your name because you're so active some of them will google you and some of them will say what do you do I see you have a brand name and you'll start to build traffic that way and it's a long form strategy it takes a while but it does get you out there my second best tip in the corporate blogging world this is always a fight because if you go to a brand and you're like oh hey Circus Circus Steakhouse you know how we're going to get people to come read about your steakhouse we're going to write about the Caesars Palace Steakhouse this is a real life example of things that I do in Las Vegas all the time one Las Vegas brand has this little tiny audience and I'm like we're going to write about all of the best places that you can do the same thing that you do and they're like no we don't want to write about our competitors but you're not necessarily just writing about your competitors you're not sending your traffic to them that's not how this works people are not your audience is not coming to your blog and saying oh my god Circus Circus Steakhouse just said something about Caesars Palace Steakhouse that must mean that Circus Circus Steakhouse is not as good that's not what people think they think this is super classy these people know what they're talking about they have a steakhouse they know what's up with the steakhouse and they say this other steakhouse is good too I trust them and I trust them more because they're not just being the average marketer that's like me me me I'm the best don't talk about anybody yet no that's not how this works and here's the beauty of it when somebody else is looking for information about Caesars Palace Steakhouse they end up on the Circus Circus Steakhouse's blog and suddenly they're on a competitor's website when they were looking for somebody else and while they're on the website they see that the Circus Circus Steakhouse is doing a two for one deal and they're like what a great deal so they go to Circus Circus and you just stole their traffic and they're like oh my god they're giving us free advertising so they're sending it to all their people and they're sending all their traffic to your website in the corporate world this is the nicest possible way you can steal traffic from your competitors and they will hand them over for free in the rest of the world it's a little more community based so I got started as a broke blogger writing about books literally I sat down at my computer and googled how to start a blog and WordPress came up and I clicked on it and started a blog and that is my whole beginning of a career I'm a nerd in case you couldn't tell and I wanted to start a book blog because I wanted to write and sell books and I figured I better build an audience of other people who like books and I ended up becoming a professional blogger not doing any of that stuff but that's neither here nor there and I started going around up and down the east coast I'm originally from Virginia so I went to West Virginia quite a lot too and I started going into little community bookstores independent bookstores and saying is it okay if I take pictures I'd like to write a blog post about you how I like your store and what makes you different and I did this for a company called Wonder Book they were my second ever blog post period I just walked around their store and took a whole bunch of crappy photos with my nice camera that I don't know how to use and when on my blog I'm like this is my favorite bookstore here are some pictures of it I love that they do these sales I like that they do these snarky t-shirts and you know just average not very good blog post and like you know 15 people read it and about 12 of them were my mom but the owner of Wonder Book emailed me and he's like are you the girl that wrote this blog post I said yeah, yeah and he was like well I don't know if you realize this but we are the biggest online retailer of used books in the world and we have our book facility for our online store near you would you like to come visit it and they're like okay I would like to come see your gigantic facility full of books and I walked in there and it was an old mail sorting facility it was the Maryland regional mail sorting facility so they did like eight states with a mail gigantic building and they had it full of used books and they ran their whole online operation for all six of their different brands out of this place and he walked me through and then he was like just don't mess with anything have fun and I'm like what he just let me loose in his warehouse and I was like okay so I was super stoked and I wrote another blog post about it and they shared it on all of their websites and it got a few thousand views and this was my third ever blog post and I was like well I'm not a very good blogger but this was working out okay so I emailed him and said hey this is getting great traffic anything else I can do for you and he gave me a list of people who owned bookstores in the United States and said all of these people would like you to come and do behind the scenes tours at their bookstores so I did the bookstore where the president bought all his Christmas books I went up to Pennsylvania and did an interior design bookstore that was in an old freight building on the river I did all these really cool stories about bookstores and they weren't that good my pictures weren't that good and my writing wasn't that good but the people were really excited because they were getting free exposure in ways that they never had before this was somebody who was excited about them just saying I just want to share with the world what makes you so cool and because they shared it with all their friends and then their friends shared it with their friends and then the other bookstores were like we want you to do this for me so to get my attention they were sharing it with their audiences from other bookstores so it became this huge community I ended up having to upgrade my hosting because I couldn't handle the amount of traffic I was getting on my website for my not very good blog and I was like I could do this for money so I started blogging for other people it was not that easy but because of the enthusiasm and because I was saying nice things about other people I had more traffic than I could handle on my website and it was all exactly the kind of traffic that I wanted because I wanted to sell things to people who like books the only people that were coming to my website were people that liked books it worked out great so give free exposure to as many people as you can anybody in here have ever been featured in a small town newspaper especially when you were a kid like you have the community newspaper you're in the Boy Scouts your pictures in the paper how many copies did your mom buy did you tell everybody I'm in the newspaper right you've done that right small town newspaper effect it's the same thing when you get featured on a blog the sweet spot there you don't even have to know people Penn Gillette the magician you know Penn and Teller is notorious every time he gets any kind of publicity at all he shares it out with his Twitter following I know people in Las Vegas who built their entire website around sharing things about Penn Gillette and it worked it worked when they moved on since then you have to move outside of Penn Gillette eventually but that's how they got their traction so find either they call them influencers now they're not just influencers anymore just find people with engaged followings on some kind of network maybe they have a lot of people following their website and maybe they have a huge Twitter audience whatever and feature them in a very nice way and then tell them you did it that's it that's as simple as it is not all of them are going to share what you wrote but some of them are interview blogs and listicles and roundups their entire strategy is writing about other people and getting those other people to share it in those situations if you're doing roundups and you're trying to tap into other people's audiences the type of traffic you're going to get will be a lot of one-off people a lot of people that read your blog that one time, that one post they don't come back because they're not a fan of you, they're a fan of that other person so if your monetization strategy has to do with the amount of traffic that you have and not necessarily the traffic being sticky that's a really good way to start building traffic and to get your numbers up if you have to have a certain quality of traffic to stick around with your blog start there but supplement it with other things such as Facebook advertising this is not just boosting posts on Facebook this is actually getting into the Facebook ads manager and learning how to use audiences and running ads to those people now anybody know what a sales funnel is? is that going to get way too advanced? so a sales funnel is essentially the process from I just heard about you for the first time to I'm a little bit familiar with your brand to I'm kind of interested in what you do to I bought things from you and it's called a funnel because there's lots of people who are hearing about your brand for the first time and then at every step where people get more engaged there's fewer people so you're funneling in the most important leads the people who are actually going to make a purchase when we're talking about building traffic this is at the top of the funnel where people are hearing about you for the first time it would be irresponsible to talk about this top of the funnel let's get people to come to my website without saying there's stuff in the middle to get them to where they're buying something from you okay so be aware of that it's a little advanced right now but there's something called Facebook pixel write that down Facebook P I X E L it is free it is super easy to use and if you use the Yoast plugin or WordPress which helps you with your SEO Yoast has a place where you can just copy the code from Pixel stick it in Yoast and it's on your website and you can start using it what Facebook pixel does is it gives you the ability to see who is coming to your website and then when they leave your website again Facebook knows that they've been to your website and you can send advertisements just to the people who already know who you are the reason that's valuable is because you know they're not strangers anymore you can tell what page of your site that they've been on so if they've been to your blog you know they've probably only recently heard about you they know a little bit but if they've been to your online store added stuff to their cart you know that they're pretty darn familiar with you and you can send them a different kind of ad okay there are different tools for retargeting Facebook pixel is Facebook specific and it also uses all the data that Facebook collects in mass so that you can advertise to people who are similar to the people that visit your website Facebook pixel gets super advanced all you need to know right now is that it exists and it's really neat and by the way there's free Facebook trainings on Facebook Blueprint blueprint.facebook.com it is run by Facebook it's 100% free and it will teach you literally everything you need to know about using Facebook for business so free Blueprint.facebook.com Blueprint like blueprint for your house you can also just Google Facebook Blueprint it's usually the first result Facebook kind of knows what's up with SEO so that stuff is really cool if you're going to start getting advanced into building traffic I will say another good source for traffic if you just need numbers and you don't need quality is stumble upon it is not free you can run ads on other people's websites it is not free many of the ways you're going to start attracting higher quality traffic to your website people are actually more inclined to buy things from you those things cost money why? because you're going to make money and people who have already done the work to weed out the traffic that's just people bouncing off of your website they're going to charge for the work that they've done they're going to charge for the tools that they're using so if you're running a business anticipate that you're going to invest a little bit into your marketing if you are like my ex and you want to have all the free traffic in the world and win best blogger awards and have millions of people to your website you can, it's just more labor intensive so here's how this works if you put money into something to generate traffic it requires a little less skill because you're doing more financial investment if you're going to do something for free there's a, for one thing a lot of people doing it already and it takes a lot more skill mostly because there's so many people trying to do that same thing that you have to be good enough to stand out if you look around in this room there's, I don't know, I'm not good at numbers a couple hundred people, hundred people, somewhere like that all right, I kind of stand out because I have pink hair, right people in the red shirts, they stand out because they're wearing a bright color and they're kind of all unique, they're doing the same thing but for the most part, if you stood up here and then you closed your eyes and tried to tell me the people that you've seen in this room do you think you could do it? not really, right? but if one of you stood up and yelled something which I'm inviting you to do nobody, okay if one of you stood up and yelled something bet you every last person see, see, how many of you are going to remember that guy? good job you've got to be the person that stands up and yells something if you're using the free methods because the free methods are like this if every single one of you in this room said your website's name at the exact same time I probably wouldn't catch any of them but if everybody was in here just saying their website's name over and over again and one person had a banner and stood up and their website was on it in big letters you'd probably all remember that guy, right? so that's what all the free advertising is that's how you get free traffic to your site by doing things better than everybody else and what does that mean as a blogger? that means you've got to go through that year and suck and actually get good at writing so I'm going to take questions we should have about 15 minutes you can ask me anything that was a broad swath of information go ahead it depends on how you're monetizing your site and what kind of audience you're advertising to I know that like Forbes doesn't even let you go to their site anymore because ad blockers are cutting into their revenue which is funny because I have an ad blocker and when I go to Forbes and it's like you can't read this unless you turn off your ad blocker I just go read somebody else's blog things like gardening magazines and things that will tend to have an older crowd there's not as many of those people using ad blocker so it won't cut in their revenue as much it's all very industry specific there is monetizing your site goes the hierarchy is number one run your blog like a business have a product that you sell that you make the money off of and then number two supplement by advertising other people's stuff and making a little bit of money because you're actually running a business if your whole business model was like Google saying go buy all these other people's stuff well then your entire income is in all those other people's hands which is why things like Google AdWords and affiliate marketing are not as popular as they used to be if all of your traffic comes from Facebook and Facebook changes their algorithms like they just announced that they're going to and they're not going to show Brandon content as much then your income is down the drain and it's Facebook and that's their world they can do whatever they want so that's kind of a roundabout answer to it depends well the reason I thought of it because you mentioned Facebook I haven't seen Facebook ads in probably seven years or something you know but I mean I guess people do and there's different kinds of Facebook ads and you can run primarily on mobile where ad blockers are less common on a mobile device so you can optimize a Facebook ad to run only on mobile devices to certain users so ad blockers can cut into your revenue or they might not depending on your industry and your strategy and how well you're making money make sense but it will also cut into your traffic if that's your entire traffic building strategy but probably not significantly as long as you have a healthy strategy with lots of different ways that you're attracting people go ahead so the question is when do you add affiliate marketing as you're building traffic and the answer is whenever you want if you're marketing heavy in order to make money with affiliate marketing your copy which is the words that you write on your site it's all called copy it has to be a little more marketing focused in order to get a result like you're directly asking people please click this link and buy a thing so if your blog is built around I have this community of people and it's a small community but they trust me let's say you come to my website and I'm teaching you about how to build traffic on your website and I say this is a really great tool and if you buy it I'm going to make a little bit of money then maybe I only have a couple hundred people visiting my site a month but if I'm doing an affiliate link for something that's a $500 tool and one percent of my people say well I really trust this person so I'm going to buy this then I'm making a little bit of money the thing with affiliate marketing I generally don't recommend it as a primary strategy because you're selling other people's stuff and not your own and you're making just a smidge of money and it can also hurt your credibility there's some blogs that have lost a lot of traffic and credibility because every single post that they do is an affiliate post and according to the federal trade commission you have to say if you buy a thing I will make money you have to disclose that it's an affiliate link and if you don't it's automatically a $10,000 fine so please do that if every single post you're like here's an affiliate link here's an affiliate link kind of like the people that market for Bluehost I know they sponsor a lot of word camps but Bluehost is big on affiliate programs there are a lot of bloggers that lost credibility because they were only recommending Bluehost and Bluehost pays the highest affiliate fee and they were like well you're only recommending this because you're going to make money not because you actually care about whether or not it's good for me so affiliate marketing can hurt your credibility because people think you're just manipulating them to make money you are trying to trick them into thinking you're trustworthy and to take your advice the correct way to do affiliate marketing is to say you know these are my honest opinions I like this I don't like this I like to give honest opinions and don't make every single post an affiliate link and you're not going to make as much money that way but you will have a longer term survivable website that way was that way too much information for your question? go ahead how do you manage time for writing research and running your business I don't I do this for a living so my own website I don't update very often because it's not how I make money and I do that to get ideas out of my head but I have to write blog posts every day because people pay me to do it so it started out anybody ever have writer's block? writer's block generally is not a lack of ideas it's a lack of motivation it's when you sit down at your computer and you're like I would rather pull out my own tooth than write another word and I write for a lot of things that I don't necessarily care about such as concrete stains and insurance companies and orthodontists and it's really hard to write a weekly blog post for three different orthodontist office and have them all different and all new and all interesting it's teeth braces on teeth there's only so many ways you can say put braces on your teeth and they will be straight but you know what if it's a priority to you you schedule your time ahead of time and you say this is what I have to get done and when you have those bursts of information work ahead and schedule posts so most of the companies that I work for freelance I work two months ahead I bill for it but I work two months ahead so that if anything happens I have to go out of town I'm coming to a word camp I just really don't feel like writing about plus size men's t-shirts today then if I don't write today something's still going to get published on time and I can catch up because I've scheduled out two months worth of blog posts and that's more from the business side of things you just have to be a grown up and say this is a business and I'm going to treat it like a business which means I do it even when I don't feel like it kind of like your job do you have a question go ahead Brad so I've got a website and a blog on the website information how do we know what side of the platform if you have good information and you have a website with static pages and a blog that's regularly updated where are you going to put that information you can put it in both places here's my general rule of thumb if there's something like frequently asked questions that come up a lot I do a frequently asked question page and I optimize it for search engines and because I do SEO for a living I use a lot of very fancy tools that are not inexpensive to go and find the keywords that people are searching to find the volume of those keywords to find the sites that have backlinks and then I go in and optimize the crap out of that one page that's going to be static and then I take all the individual FAQs and I go to my blog and I give longer form answers for each one of them so that if somebody is looking for one piece of information they're going to end up on the blog post but I also link it to the FAQ page so my blog post might be like okay you you build garages so a frequently asked question might be how much does it cost to build a garage and how long does it take to build a garage and what kind of options can I have in a custom garage right hypothetically so all those on an FAQ page is optimized and then I will write a blog post about how much does it cost to build a garage and I will go into all the little variables okay if you want these kind of options this changes your cost and if you have a time constraint this changes your cost and if you live in this kind of area and you have to work around these things it changes your cost which is a lot more detailed than you might get on an FAQ page and I say if you have more questions please go to the FAQ page and see what else is there so then it's called an internal link and it keeps people on your site a little longer so you can have things on multiple pages you don't want to say the exact same thing on both blog posts tend to be more in-depth information on a single topic whereas my pages will tend to be more broad information on a category of topics does that make sense and you don't have to do it that way but that's how I like to stay organized because of my brain go ahead I wonder if you could comment on my recent experience I have been working with Google My Business so I have a posting there actually they prompt me through email to do another post and it's the only thing I'm currently doing right now from my website it is a website so a little one so they sent me an email saying that I had 900 viewers from my last post which is way more than I ever got on my website is that credible so you're using Google My Business you have some basic information on Google My Business and you have your website and you had a spurt of viewers on Google My Business it's been growing actually so that's actually common and it is a traffic building strategy what you're doing is you're tapping into an audience that already exists and telling them about you and my recommendation for that would be to make sure that there are things enticing people to click back to your website so yes having 900 viewers on that totally credible they could be browsing the site the quality of those viewers I don't know could be anything but if you're Google My Business listing is well optimized and it gives people a reason to click back even just inviting them to click back for more information then the right people will end up coming through you have a question can too much affiliate marketing mess with SEO can too much affiliate marketing mess with SEO yes that's a short answer but the long answer is maybe so affiliate marketing the quality of the people that you are marketing for will affect your credibility both in Google and with your audience and as your credibility with your audience is affected your credibility in Google SEO is kind of like voodoo it's Google's world and you just kind of bow down before the Google God and hope for the best which is funny because I do it for money but SEO there are some big factors that Google considers and some minor factors that Google considers the big things that Google considers are what's actually written on the page who is linking to that page who that page is linking to and how much traffic that page gets and whether or not it sticks around so if you have a lot of affiliate links on your website and they are linking to sites that Google thinks are low quality sites that can hurt you and if people start bouncing off of your site there's something called bounce rate and what bounce rate means is somebody comes to your website they go to one page and then they leave they go back to whatever source they came from they close it, they go back to Google, whatever and they use this bounce rate as an indicator that people found or did not find what they wanted so if affiliate marketing is causing your bounce rate to be really high because somebody goes to your page and then clicks off it can affect your rankings it's generally not one of the biggest factors though I have not seen cases where affiliate marketing has been exceptionally detrimental or exceptionally good for SEO make sense other questions? Yes for searching SEO tools that you like the easiest free tool is just Google when I started out and I was flat broke and I was doing SEO I would go to Google and I would type in a phrase that I would think somebody would Google and I would look at Google's auto-complete then I would scroll down to the bottom and look at the related searches and then also Google if you notice when you search a term it'll have bold text in those little snippets sometimes that bold text is not the term that you put in there so those little bold words are the words that Google is using to determine whether or not those results are relevant to that keyword so things that have double meanings like if you Google cars it's going to try to figure out whether you mean Disney cars like the movie or cars like you drive so if you like Disney cars well you might scroll down and see that movie with the bold words so you know that's a word you want to put in your text if you're writing about the cars movie as you get more advanced and you're ready to invest I'm a big fan of SEM rush S-E-M-R-U-S-H I use that for keyword research to figure out what people are googling the volume how difficult it is to rank for it I'm also a huge fan of BuzzSumo's paid platform online topic research it tells you all sorts of crazy things like what social networks a topic's most popular on who wrote the most popular articles each month by social shares on specific networks who's linking to those articles very very powerful tool not an inexpensive tool but if you're trying to have traffic for money you're monetizing your blog and you are already making money BuzzSumo is a great investment there's also AH refs I use sometimes for keyword research and see what I'm ranking for in backlinks A-H-R-E-F-S also not free AH refs is the only tool I have found that will tell you whether or not you're ranking for a featured snippet which is when somebody googles a keyword and there's that box up at the top that has a whole answer written out if you are in that box they call it position zero and SEO and it's like the holy grail right now it's super trendy AH refs will tell you if you're ranked for that you can google it and find out because I don't know any other tools that do it and there's a bunch of other SEO tools screaming frog but my big ones are the BuzzSumo, AH refs, and SEM rush that I pay for it but I also get somebody else to pay for them because I work for them so it's fine go ahead this is one of my favorite questions about blog posts how long should your blog post be and this would be the last question because it's 11.15 your blog post should be as long as it takes you to cover your topic and no longer and if you use Yoast Yoast gives you a bunch of recommendations about SEO it says a minimum of 300 words well here's the thing that's like a wide average and it's different for every industry and every topic and every blogger and every google algorithm update so the best thing you can do is one topic, one concise topic to cover it thoroughly without a bunch of extra fluff and as long as it takes you to do that it's fine I write for a company in England about SEO and hosting and content marketing and my posts for them tend to be 4,000 to 8,000 words my posts about life insurance tend to be about 400 words and they rank very well it really just depends and as long as you're continuing to write concisely you're not going off on tangents and your writing is clear and by the way writing clearly is a lot harder than writing well as long as they're clear and you stay on topic and it continues to be relevant people will read the whole post so that's a non-answer that answers the question I think that's all the time I have so thank you very much tweet me if you have other questions and if anybody took a flattering photo of me please tweet that to me and I'll send it to you in the ender profile


As a last piece of physics today, I would like to introduce electrostatics and proteins to you. You probably know what the potential of interacting charges is. 1 over 4 pi epsilon 0 epsilon r, where epsilon 0 is the permittivity of free space and epsilon r the relative permittivity, multiplied by the product of the two charges divided by the distance between them. In water, epsilon r is a high number, and that means that the potential will be much lower than in vacuum. The reason for that is that if you place a charge or two charges in water, water molecules will instantly screen that. In this case, it's a positive charge, so they're going to screen that by turning their oxidase reward. Because waters have fairly high partial charge, they're going to be efficient in screening, and the entire water molecule can rotate, which is going to orient this dipole to screen things very efficiently. And that's the reason for the high value of 80 for the relative permittivity of water. The protein interior doesn't work this way at all. The side chairs are not completely free to rotate. They don't have large charges. But rather, you're going to have an epsilon r inside a protein that's almost like oil, two, three, maybe four. And that's going to make a very significant difference. So if in water, these two unit charges at the distance of three, four angstrom, they might have an energy in the ballpark of, well, one, two kcal per mole, maybe three, I haven't done the math. The same charges placed inside a protein, well, that's almost like placing two charges in oil. And this oil will not hide them at all from each other. They're going to see almost everything. The reason why it's not one is that there is some electrons here and the electrons, there are some electrons here and the electrons will shield it, but not very efficiently. What that will mean that two charges inside a protein at the same distance might have an interaction energy of, say, 40 kcal per mole. That's gigantic. Remember, you should compare it to the unit, which is 0.6 kcal per mole. E raised to 40 divided by 0.6, that would be, say, roughly 50 or 60, right? That's a large number. So large that it's in my, eat my left true territory. Meaning free charges will not occur inside proteins. We do not expect to see them there. Expect is the keyword. There are exceptions and we will come back to that when we look at membrane proteins and in the next slide, actually. So how can we introduce proteins because, sorry, charges in proteins, because occasionally we need them? Well, there are some charged amino acids, but in fact these amino acids are not really charged. They're so-called titratable amino acids. And by titratable, we mean that the side chain has an acid or a base. And what that means is that they might be either positively or negatively charged at room temperature, but depending on the pH of the surrounding, they can either take up or release a proton to become neutral instead of charged. That is not a free lunch. It will not happen without paying, but it turns out that it's significantly cheaper to pay to neutralize amino acids. That might be a handful of K-Calc rather than taking that charge and bringing into the interior of the protein at any cost. So whenever we see so-called titratable amino acids inside a protein, it's a very good bet to assume that they might be neutral after all. But even there, we have some exceptions to that rule for membrane proteins.


Now the Taraba State Governor Abou Kefa says students are used with passion for innovations will be supported by the state government to explore and develop their talent. The Governor speaking on the made-in addition of junior engineers, technicians and scientists club exhibition organized by the State Ministry of Science and Technology corresponded to the new Gundali found in this report. It is the first time that secondary school science students in Taraba State under the junior engineers, technicians and scientists clubs popularly known as JETS club will hold a competition at the instant of the state government. Students from the 16 local government areas of the state participated in the made-in addition of the competition which was organized by the State Ministry of Science and Technology. The title of my project, let me say our project is a solar boiler. It's a device that uses mainly solar energy that is a heat from the sun. Well actually right from childhood I've always wanted to build a car myself and drive it. So actually I've tried it and then this time around I came up with this. So I used recycled materials for the building. Aruba says the state government will continue to identify and support such talents to complement its intervention in the education sector. The purpose of the program is to identify these young talents and then the state government has the intention to put them at the side in order to develop these talents. So it's a plan from the Ministry of Science and Technology to construct a technology village where local technical activities will start taking up there. Taraba State Governor Abou Keifers, who was represented by his deputy Amino Al-Khali at the event, cautioned the young innovators against using their talent to perpetrate crime. He reiterated the commitment of government to support and grow their talent to the benefit of the society. All the requirements of the students provided by the Ministry so that they will progress in that manner to move the state forward because by doing so we are sure that the students will not even stay here. Their development will promote the technological advancement of the state at the national level. Exhibited innovations at the event included a car named Black Panther by its innovator, power bank, solar powered water heater, architectural project designs. Thank you for watching.


A couple of weeks ago, Risk Bides explored some of the dangers associated with that icon of 21st century living, the cell phone. Can these ubiquitous devices be bad for your health? The good news is that according to experts, the outlook is pretty good if you're worried about your phone causing cancer. The bad news though, is that they're potentially dangerous if used inappropriately while driving. The problem is distraction. Distracted driving occurs when something pulls the driver's attention away from what they are presumably supposed to be doing. It may be a conversation with a passenger, or ogling some passerby, or fiddling with your cell phone. Researchers in one study found that in a driving simulation, cell phone users were more prone to rear-end collisions and unresponsive driving than subjects who had had a few drinks. Of course, driving in a simulation isn't the same as driving on a real road, and you can always put your cell phone down whereas you can't sober yourself up on demand. But there is growing evidence that things that vie for our attention while driving impact on our ability to drive safely. What about drivers who use Bluetooth or hands-free devices though? Social simulator studies have reported that drivers using hands-free devices are no better off than those with their phone held to their ear. In fact, the hands-free crowd often seem to drive faster in simulators and show slower reaction times. Researchers think that using cell phones hands-free makes drivers believe they're less distracted than they actually are. But this is in simulators. On the road, things get a little bit more complicated. Research on drivers in real cars driving on real roads suggests that the additional risk associated with talking on a cell phone, whether handheld or hands-free, is quite low. On the other hand, texting or anything that takes your eyes off the road for around two seconds or more has a dramatic impact on additional risk. One study on drivers on real roads found texting while driving increased the risk of a serious incident by over 20 times. The bottom line is that cell phones can be bad for you if you let them get in the way of what you're supposed to be doing, especially if that thing is already potentially dangerous. So please keep your eyes and attention on the road, not your phone, and stay safe.


Just climbed to this cave temple Don't know if you can see it up there some really great views And they really peaceful place been traveling a lot over the past few days Really enjoying it having a good time, and I'm just on the way back now To the car just gonna walk through this jungle forest And across the bridge over there back to the car on the other side of the river So we had a video on this topic the other day Similar theme about why you should not have sex with the narcissist And I think this is a very important topic Especially from my own experience Let's just recap on what a narcissist is This is someone who is self-absorbed and they lack empathy So they're not really concerned about you. They don't even take the time to get to know you Or have a conversation with you to learn more about you They don't ask you any questions. Their mind is already made up about you already They've already got you figured out or so they think so there's no willingness to Share your feelings or understand your experience They don't care about that. It's all about them They live in this bubble This world inside their heads with a population of one It's just them and it's not even them at all actually Because they created a false character a false self That is meant to be everything that you could ever want in your life Well, at least that's what they think But then they also know as well, of course, you don't really want something fake you want something real But they can't give you that all they can do is manipulate you They already know you don't want to see who they really are Of course, they know you don't want to see that that's why they hide it from you At least until they've got you attached to them emotionally That's when they rip the mask off and they show you exactly who they are by devaluing you or ghosting you Or even withholding from you the very things that you need or the things that you want such as sex And I'm sure you've experienced this a lot of times as well Where you're meant to be in this committed relationship, maybe a marriage And suddenly they just withhold sex from you and yet at the same time Maybe they still expect you to give them money or they're staying in your home And then you may later discover that they have other sources of supply to having sex with other people on the side as well and Yes, it can be very frustrating Very confusing as well as it may even make you question yourself where you wonder What is wrong with you? Why weren't you good enough for them, but you write you have to recognize that it really has nothing to do with you at all It's all about them and how they can't be satisfied They have these unsatiable these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled So Yeah, once you've been with them long enough, you'll never feel like you're good enough for them They'll always want something else or something more But they get you hooked in it as well They will go above and beyond To fulfill your sexual fantasies And then all of a sudden they'll start devaluing you or ghosting you After they've just got you hooked and Yeah, it just makes you want it even more When they're withholding it from you it frustrates you sexually and Yes, it is very cruel and Very unfair treatment It's not right at all for them to do that. But of course as we know that's how they get supply At the same time they're getting supply from their other sources of supply When they love bombing them So, yes, it can be very dangerous when you get involved with these types of people Because they will have you Desiring something from them Whether it's sex or something else And then all of a sudden they will take it away they will they will withhold it from you and By that point you may have already developed an emotional attachment Which to some extent that's completely normal.  You're very confused You Feel like you've lost Value in yourself as though you've just degraded yourself As though it's affected your self-worth and self-esteem As though what you just did with them was very wrong Because as I said, they are self-absorbed and they lack empathy It's like they just use your body as a tool Appliance They view you as this object that exists to meet their sexual needs Rather than you being a separate person With your own feelings and needs That they're meant to meet as well They might meant to satisfy you as well because You're supposed to be in a relationship a Committed relationship a marriage And of course that should be certain standards that you expect I mean, of course, I'm not talking about if it's early days you're dating Or you only just got into a relationship And the other person wants to wait they don't want to jump in too quick. I Mean, that's fine. That's healthy Of course It is better to wait in those types of situations Get to know the person first See what they're like see what they're about connect to them emotionally and Then When things become sexual It will have more meaning and it will be more enjoyable for you So of course, I'm not talking about that. I am talking about Relationships where you've been together for a while and marriages and They make you think that it's something in the beginning and then it turns into something else and you don't know what's going on It's confusing you and You feeling validated You feel undeserving Unworthy as though you're not good enough for this. Oh something is wrong with you And that's exactly how you will feel when you are around these types of people Especially when you are Intimately involved sexually involved with them You're always going to be left feeling unworthy As though something is wrong with you because that's exactly how they feel about themselves and they project that onto you You feel about energy, but they're over there feeling like Nothing is wrong with them. They're perfect They've done everything right. They did all they could the you So as always you're the one who is left to take accountability for that You're left to look within And try to fix it As though it's your problem your mistake When you didn't feel like there was anything wrong with you before you got involved of them, I Mean things weren't perfect, but you thought you were alright So they stir up all this mess within you this dysfunction Well, you think there's all of these things wrong with you And then you're searching on YouTube you find my videos You find this community And now you're starting to realize that It's not just that you can keep trying and Do the best you can And even then when that's not good enough you keep trying even more and even more again You can do that as long as you like It's not going to make a difference You will always be left feeling unworthy And undeserving as though you're not good enough whenever you're around a narcissist That's just how it's going to be Unless of course, it's just something just for the weekend or it's a one-night stand Always be so bad with narcissists But something really short-term and your emotions are not involved That's different That's a completely different situation all together Of course what I'm talking about the problem is when your emotions are involved and It's not like you're just hanging on and they made it clear to you. It's a one-night stand It's just for sexual purposes only nothing more than that No, they didn't do that They made you believe that it was something more it was a relationship you were intimately involved They manipulated your emotions. They got you attached to them They led you on they strung you along and then they pulled it away Left you feeling unworthy and deserving as though you're not good enough because that's exactly how they want you to feel They want to invalidate you they want you to feel small They want to do all these things to you but the problem lies with them They can't be intimately involved with you They can't connect emotionally Because they lack empathy That is why as you may have noticed The sex is not very good with Narcissists I Can say this because I know it from my own experience.  I Felt like something was wrong with me and I had all of this energy going into it all of this enthusiasm. I thought we were going to have a good time by the end of it My head was down Couldn't even smile. It was miserable Felt like something was wrong with me and there was just no closure no validation and sometimes You feel like you're intimately involved with them you're experiencing all of these sensations and emotions and You may see as well. Yes They get an orphan it It's gratifying of them. They're enjoying it They're experiencing All of these sensations They're having orgasms all of this stuff and yet Regardless of that you still feel like they're not connecting to you emotionally As though that they can't receive Your love And I think this is the biggest problem when we do have sex with narcissists It's like they can't feel your love And they can't reflect it. They can't reciprocate it back to you Which is what then leaves you feeling unworthy And then it makes you feel insecure and then you feel Even guilty You may even feel shame But that's their shame because they already know they should never have been intimately involved with you in the beginning They should never have the chance To get in your beds or to get you in their beds or wherever it is But you like to do it They should never had that opportunity with you And the reason why I say that is because they created a false character which they used to manipulate you All of these things that they were never about love intimacy a connection all of the things that you want They knew that they never had that to give to you So of course you were going to be left feeling this way feeling insecure feeling undeserving Feeling guilt and shame and it's just not healthy. You shouldn't feel that way When you're intimately involved with someone It's supposed to feel good that I can tell you it does feel good When you are connected with someone if you haven't experienced this already When someone is able to show empathy and compassion And they can share Your feelings and understand your experience When someone is able to do that for you it is an incredible feeling It really is especially If you don't jump into it too quickly If it's something where you wait and you talk to them for a while first you connect to them Emotionally before you get involved sexually And then when you do that and then it's a gradual process Maybe it's something where first you Go to a spa or you go to the beach And then you get to see them in a pair of shorts or a bikini or something And then after that then you begin Foreplay and then maybe the next time oral sex And then after that then you are full intercourse And when you go through these stages these processes, I mean You know, we don't really want to see it in a logical way So much. I mean, it's meant to be fun, but just for your understanding To see it as stages As something that it's leading to Because it should be more about the journey rather than Just this goal, this destination Of having sex, having an orgasm That's not something that should come so quickly If it does most often you will end up feeling unfulfilled In a relationship I mean, of course with one night stands that's different But if you're looking for a real connection intimacy It's much better when you wait And you get to connect to the other person to understand them And then it makes you feel more comfortable as well Because you know that they're willing to wait They're actually interested in you as a person And getting to know you So it's just better all around that way It really is And I'm an old fashioned man myself Anyway So If I am to be intimately involved with someone I don't think that Women should be having One night stands or these weekends With men I don't think that's right at all I mean, I'm not saying I've never had a one night stand in my entire life Of course not I have done that before I've had these experiences, yes And I do believe that Women value men Based on their experiences They want an experienced man That is what they want While Yes, men Prefer women who haven't had too much experience Because they want to be the teacher They want to show you Things for the first time Or just where you haven't had too much experience before them And I think that's typically how it goes That's typically just what men and women want And it's what works best in intimate relationships But with narcissists, of course, it's never like that And they lie to you, they future fake They make you believe that it's a relationship It's a future When they were never about that to begin with It was just to manipulate you And sometimes you may not even have sex with them at all That all you get is just the manipulation lies and future faking But either way, whether you have sex with them or not You can be sure that, yes, you will be left feeling dissatisfied and disappointed You will be left wanting more And if it's not from them, you may end up having sexual fantasies about someone else Because they can't fulfill you They can't give you what you want And what you want is It's not all about a larger penis Or a tighter vagina It's not so much about the physical, is it? It's that emotional side of it That emotional connection That's more important than anything else And of course, that is what was missing with the narcissist That's what you didn't get from them So of course, in the end It's always us, we're the ones who are left Feeling dissatisfied Feeling disappointed Feeling undeserving and worthy Not good enough Feeling guilt, feeling shame Yes, I know, I felt all of these things before On many occasions in the past And that's how I'm able to validate your experience That's how I'm able to show you that you're not alone Because yes, I've been there, I've felt that sexual frustration That resentment Feeling like it's unfair And it's just not a nice feeling to experience But that is what you will experience When you are involved with a narcissist You're not going to be left feeling like You're on top of the world Like you just climbed a mountain Like you just scored a goal You're not going to be left feeling like that You're not going to be left feeling like that at all And in fact, what you are going to be left feeling like Is like something is wrong with you Or you fail to understand something You're going to be left feeling very confused, perplexed, bewildered You're going to be left feeling all of these things That's what you're going to be left feeling like Once you've been involved with a narcissist And it's going to make you look at yourself and question yourself As though something is wrong with you When there isn't because something was missing with the narcissist And all you really wanted and desired from them was an emotional connection That's all that you were desiring Because you didn't get that and you wanted it But the problem is you wanted it from someone who didn't have it to give And that is why you didn't get it Yes, that is why you didn't get that Even though you wanted it, you couldn't get it because they didn't have it If someone has it and they're involved with you, there's Really not much they can do about that These connections, these emotions It's not a choice It's going to be there It's perfectly normal, it's natural There's nothing wrong with that Yes, you will experience These intimate emotions The love, the joy, the happiness The pleasure and excitement And there's nothing wrong with that Sometimes, yes, they may shame you for that as well As though something is wrong with you, you shouldn't want that And that's only because they know they can't give that to you They know they don't have that to give And they don't want you to be seeking that somewhere else Because then they're the ones who are going to be left Feeling like something is wrong with them So they have to set it up in a way where They're coming in and yearning for something from them Which they failed to give to you But they set it up in a way as though No, it's you You're not good enough You're undeserving, you're unworthy Something is wrong with you And that is why you couldn't get it from them But I'm telling you right now With my five years of research and a lifetime of experience In this I can tell you that That is not the case at all It's not It's not even really a choice Whether or not you give that to someone It's just going to be there whether you like it or not It's just going to be there It's not something that you can control You can't control something like that These emotions You can't control that joy, love and excitement You can't control that at all And they're not controlling it They just don't even have it I don't know sometimes when it looks like they do But that's just a revelation That's only intended to deceive you And that is why by the end of it Even if you are sexually involved with them You're still left feeling dissatisfied And disappointed You're still left feeling that And this is why Because they never had it to give to you to begin with And I need you to understand that This is very important Because yes I know I understand that a lot of you out there Your experience has been invalidated due to this person's lack of empathy Their lack of ability to shed and understand your feelings and experience Causes you to feel like you're not good enough You're undeserving, you're unworthy Causes you to feel guilt and shame Causes you to feel insecure But you need to recognize that these are not your emotions These are not your feelings This is not even your experience It's just because of your empathy You are sharing their feelings and experience And taking it as your own And they're dumping that on you They're dumping that all over you Their guilt, their fear, their shame That's what's coming on top of you And they're projecting it onto you They're assigning it to you They're deflecting it away from themselves Because they don't want to deal with that And then you're taking on that energy As though it belongs to you When it does not So you need to recognize that Immediately as soon as it happens As soon as you feel those feelings and emotions You need to recognize that it doesn't belong to you And when you do that You will be validating your own feelings and experience So that's really it I mean of course If you are in a long-term relationship With a narcissist Or a marriage I'm not saying that You should just cut off having sex altogether I'm not saying that you should go and cheat on them Of course I'm not saying that at all Of course we all enjoy having sex I mean We all have that craving from time to time And although sex with a narcissist may not be perfect Sometimes yes it's difficult to control That you want to have sex You want to experience those physical sensations Even though you may not get the emotional side of that And of course I completely understand that I'm not saying you should completely stop having sex If you are married or you're in a long-term relationship And I'm also not saying that you should cheat on them I do not condone cheating at all So yes please be aware of that And of course what I do suggest and recommend Is that you should go no contact Especially if you are having these fantasies You're desiring something else Then of course that doesn't mean that you should go and cheat Or do something behind their back Of course I never condone that Yes you should find a way to go into contact And to do that you can speak to me at a one-on-one Or you can speak to a licensed therapist And they will be able to help you to do that And to decide whether or not it is safe for you to do that Because of course it does depend on your situation So yes these are all things to be aware of It's not always that simple But yes I am available for a one-on-one coaching session Which you can book on my website It is narksurvivor.co.uk And I'd just like to thank you for joining me on this live video today I do appreciate you all And you can show your support by sharing the video Giving it a thumbs up down below Let me know your thoughts in the comment section As I do read your comments every day And 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I'm Ryan and I'm Allie after falling in love we decided to ride bikes across America collecting love advice along the way. This is Love Cycles. No flatties, no wedgies, no crudgies. How you feeling Allie? Feeling great Ryan. I'm feeling ready to go ride bikes again. Love Bugs ready to go. Wow it feels crazy to be getting back on the bikes. What you don't know is that we took six days off and part of the reason is because we flew all the way to Washington. Went to my good friend Zach's wedding. Flew all the way back and now we're ready to ride. No crashies, no whammies, no flatties. Let's go to New York. We're about a thousand miles away now from New York. We're starting to close in on it. Bye-bye Capitol. So here we are riding in Madison and all of a sudden this interesting fella starts following us. Who is this? Here we have my soul brother Ben Leroy. Ben lives here in Madison. It's a fact. I'm looking forward to riding with you partway to New York. Yes. For at least like two or three miles. This is the first time I've been on a bike in a couple of years but I am I'm excited to be out here with you guys. You've inspired me. I see that from the comments on YouTube that people are very much inspired by what you guys are doing and I am part of that legion. So you know how to navigate the city right? Let's go to New York. Let's talk more bike. Alright. I want to give a big shout out to Mitch at Trek, the mechanic. He's got these bikes humming like they're brand-new. Feels so good. Thank you buddy. Madison is one of the friendliest of the bike friendly cities and I really love it. There are bike paths everywhere and people just get it here when they ride bikes. They say to the right and the cars stop at all the pedestrian crossings. I feel very safe when I ride a bike in Madison. How you feeling back there Ben? I'm feeling awesome Ryan. Well, got to pay attention to where I'm going. Ben are you sure you want to leave? You're having too much fun bud. I don't want to leave actually. This has been a wonderful experience. Allie get on over here. It's time for a group hug. A moment of love. Thank you for joining us my friend. Thank you for having me man. Absolutely.   Do you have any love advice that you would like to impart to Ryan and I? I do. And I don't want to be redundant with some of the other things you've heard because you've gotten a lot of great advice. But what I want to remind you guys is that both of you are beacons of light and love and that it's great that you're focused on the how to keep your bond together. But it's really important especially in this day and age for you guys to be able to take that love that good feeling that what gets you out of bed in the morning and take that out into the world. So you've already seen that in action along the way. You've you've made great relationships with people. And I would say that always treasure the two of you. But remember that you are part of a larger ecosystem and that we are in time we're spreading that love and light that you guys are feeling for each other spreading that out across the world is super super important. So don't get isolated on your bike rides. Remember to be a part of the world. Wisdom for keeping your sanity in this chaotic world. That's tough. I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna be honest and say that's tough because we are in challenging times and doing this getting yourself outside of the Ecto chamber of the digital cauldron that is social media of clicking on headlines every day of refreshing your Twitter and your Facebook feed. I think that buys yourself some breath and some heartbeats. But what you guys are doing when you see people along the road that you're not asking questions about like I wonder who they voted for I wonder what their politics are but you're just taking them on as a human being. It's so important that we foster those kinds of connections and those relationships that we see people essence to essence. And we recognize that they maybe aren't as bad as the caricature of what we think they are but also we realize that we have a responsibility to be an ambassador for the good things in the world and that we let people see us like that. So just recognizing the humanity in people even when it's tough and it is tough. Thank you. Thank you for sharing that is the perfect thing. I say often how important you are and it is so wonderful to see the two of you having magic and knowing that you are out in the world doing what you're supposed to be doing. It is great to see that and watch that. We love Ben. And I love you guys. And we'll see you down the road man. Yeah. The road of life. We are back in the world of rail trails. This one is the glacial drumwind trail. It is quite beautiful out here and it is really nice to be back off the roads and into the wilderness. These trees today are acting as umbrellas because it's raining out there. Not very much in here. We've been riding like in a tunnel of trees for the past 10 miles and then we popped out here in this field of these little white yellow flowers and they smell so good. I don't know what kind of flowers these are but they smell really good. I love them. It's really dangerous to stop in these little tree tunnels because there are tons of mosquitoes but it is so beautiful. This one has a weave above our heads. The trees are just crisscrossing and they've created this fabric above us. Fabric of leaves and branches. It's really beautiful. Check it out. It's a little bit late. It's 7 p.m. We were thinking about camping back there 10 miles in Waukesha, Wisconsin.  The fairgrounds 12 miles away. Here we are riding to the State Fair hoping to find a place to camp but all we really care about is riding on a ferris wheel and some roller coasters. This is really cool. We're riding up this street and we're noticing all these cars parked in front of these houses. Obviously they're all going to the fair and we're like maybe we can camp in one of these backyards. We roll up to this this nice guy right here. He's like yeah you can camp in my backyard. No big deal. And now here we are headed into Jim's backyard. Apparently they do this every year. The State Fair is always here and there's only 5,000 parking spots so the neighborhoods here open up their backyards for parking and in our case tonight, camping. Jim. I'm Ryan. Nice to meet you. How you doing? Where are your originally from? We're from Colorado but we started riding our bikes in Oregon and we're going all the way to New York City. This is so cool. And look at this. We have a view of the ferris wheel. It's right there. Into the State Fair. State Fair. I've never been to a State Fair in my life and all my dreams are coming true. There's deep fried everything. Cream puff. I didn't know that. Now I do. This for dairy is very important to the culture and milkhouse and try some of this flavored milk. Root beer flavored milk is a winner especially for 50 cents. Hey Ali I have a treat for you. Cookie dough sundae. Oh my gosh look at that thing. Yes. Oh we're gonna do the giant ferris wheel. Provides some very pretty views of this whole State Fair park. It was an open air like a ferris wheel traditionally is and you are in a in a cage with a bunch of other people so it's not quite as romantic as ferris wheels can be but it was cool anyway. They're sleeping. I can't tell if he's cozy or uncomfortable but he's just kind of chilling right there. This is super cute. These are the cuddling pigs. One of my very vivid childhood memories was going to the stock show when I was a kid. I started crying. It smelled so bad and this is bringing back those memories. I like how all the sheep have party clothes. Look at these. We got a cheetah leopard zebra. Hey buddy hi there. Since the ferris wheel was a little bit less romantic than expected and more enclosed we're now on the sky ride. Perfect and it's just the two of us and there's no cage and it's quite lovely up here don't you think darling? I love it. I love being here. Cozy night here in Jim's backyard lit up by the giant ferris wheel which was in fact illuminated all night long. Now we're going to ride about 10 miles to the ferry dock and go across the Great Lake.  All right let's have no flatties and no whammies. We've made it to the Lake Express super fast ferry across Lake Michigan. This is pretty cool. Taking our bikes on a boat. It takes about two and a half hours. It is America's foremost high speed ferry and it's going to dump us off in a city called Muskegon, Michigan and then we're going to get back on our bikes and keep on riding, riding, riding, riding. We're officially in Michigan now. Jumped straight on a bike path. We don't know where we're going today. We jumped into the eastern time zone. We lost an hour so it's really about 4 30 p.m. Maybe we'll stay here. Maybe we push on. I don't know. Tree. So we are still in Muskegon. We're in a hotel room and the reason why we're here is because we couldn't find any good camping. All the campsites were full. There's some giant Christian rock festival going on so we didn't really have many options and Ali found this great place online for $70 and we're like, sweet, let's do it. Ali, how is this place? Yeah, it's pretty grody. It smells bad, but... I wish I had a gas mask. Yeah, it's all right. We're going to be okay. It actually, it almost smells bad enough.  It's about at that level. There's definitely some cigarette burns on the mattress over here. Oh yeah? You got some authentic cigarette burns. Oh yeah, that's nice. Yeah, we can't open the windows either. They're like completely locked, but we have a great view of that container and you can tell that it was once a red roof in. Oh well, we're still in a beautiful town. We're going to leave right now. Oh, that feels so good.


A safety network for students is being created in response to a recent spate of attacks on students in district 3. The Ministry of Education first met with the Royal St Lucia Police Force to solicit their assistance. In the second phase of the creation of this network, the Ministry held a meeting with stakeholders. Dr Fiona Philip Meyer is the Chief Education Officer in the Ministry of Education. As mentioned last week, we met with the police, a very fruitful meeting out of which came quite strategic plans to support our students and their well-being. Today we're meeting with the Transport Services, as well as the police are represented. We have our Chief Transport Officer with us, principals are there as well because we want to make sure that everybody works together for the good, not only of our students for the wider community. School Health Safety Officer, Benes Scordra, explained the meeting allowed stakeholders to discuss solutions to maintain the safety of students outside the school grounds. Coming out of our meeting last week, we have already seen an increase in the presence of the police on the various bus stops. We have devised creative ways with the police in terms of keeping our students safe, both on the way to school and from school. So we have several initiatives that we have already implemented and we are looking to sustain most of those initiatives so that everybody would feel safe whether they are going to school or coming from school. Identifying that the transport sector plays a prudent role in meeting the school, students will be encouraged to utilize the school shuttle system instead of walking to and from school. The way we do that is by having the school having a proper plan, working with the principal, the students, the teachers as well as the parents. The parents also have a very important part to play and that is to encourage the children to at least take the public bus or at least communicate with the said associations who needs help and who doesn't need help. LRL's St. Lucia Police Force has increased patrols at bus stops. Acting Inspector of Police Calixtus Shalmine says, although their resources are limited, they are committed to playing their part in the safety of students. When we was invited to the meeting, we brainstormed the ways in which we can assist in curbing that situation as it is presently on that area of Water Works Lesson Area. The main focus will be traffic patrol. We have also identified as to what means that we are going to take in patrolling that area. Nina Kodra Eugene, Acting Chief Transport Officer, ensured that the ministry will continue to collaborate with stakeholders to maintain the Student Safety Network. From the Government Information Service, I'm Hermione Mark reporting.