Okay. Good morning everybody. Good morning. How are all of you? Good. Okay. Good. Okay. Good morning to all the e-learning students. Good morning to all the online students. Welcome to class. It's good to have each one of you here. Okay. We are drawing close to the end. We're on the 12th week of our class today, and we're continuing on with special issues in counselling, especially those particular issues in counselling. The next topic that we are doing is counseling the abused. All right. What did we do last week? Sorry. A practical session, but what practical session did we do on marriage, marriage and family? And the class before that was mental health. Yes. Mental health. Yes. Okay. So we'll be looking at three more topics, that is counselling the abused, grief counselling and suicide over the next two weeks. And last week we'll be doing on ethics. Okay. All right. Okay. So counselling the abused. Now, when we look at this entire topic of counselling the abused, the first thing that we really need to understand is, what are the different types of abuse or basically what is abuse? So what do you think abuse is? Harassment. Okay. Coercive behavior, forcing. Okay. What do you think is abuse? It's a violation of something that is personal to you, right? It's a violation of something or it's a disrespect of something that is somebody else's. Okay. All right. Okay. So we're going to look at different kinds of abuse. There are many different types of abuse and commonly known forms of abuse, what do you think are some known forms of abuse? Physical abuse. Okay.  Anything else? Okay. That's a personal, you're not violating somebody else. Right. That's a personal, that's more on, yeah. It's also a part like abuse, but we're looking at how, no. A person abuses somebody else. Social abuse. What is social abuse? Oh, okay. All right. Oh, okay. All right. Social abuse on media platforms. Okay. Okay. They're saying hacking somebody's personal information. Okay. Yeah. So there are many kinds and there's also domestic violence. Yeah. Domestic violence. So there are many and we'll go through a few of them. It's important to know what kind of behavior, that any kind of behavior that deliberately causes harm or upset to somebody is what is considered as abuse. All right. Somebody causes deliberate harm that is intentionally when they know that it can hurt somebody that is called as abuse. Now abuse can happen in any stage of life. Financial abuse. Okay. It can happen in any stage of life, right, from childhood to through adulthood and even after that. Have you heard of elder abuse? Right. Older people. People abusing the elderly. So it can come in different forms and it can come from different people also. So someone can use physical violence. They can use emotional violation. They can use cruel words to abuse. Okay. Now all types of abuse can cause either physical pain or psychological pain. All right. Okay. So that's what you would look and it of course, it takes a lot of time to heal. So when you deliberately undertake certain actions that are harmful, that when you deliberately do certain actions that are harmful, that can be morally wrong. Okay. Like in the sense of sexual abuse. It is a form of misusing your own power to harm somebody else. That's what it means. You find yourself in a powerful position and that's why you are bringing about harm towards somebody else. So I think it's important to remember that no one deserves abuse or no one asks for abuse. Sometimes when you talk to people, they say they deserved that beating. They behaved in such a way that they deserved it or they were asking for it. Right. You probably would have understood or heard these times. It doesn't matter how much, whatever the issue is, harm towards a violation towards somebody is wrong. Okay. All right. So let's explain a few types of abuse. So I'm on page, no, no, I'm not sharing anything. I'm just, I'm on page 45, okay? Page 45. So the first one we can look at is physical abuse. So what is physical abuse? It is deliberately harming or hurting someone through any kind of a physical contact or it is, it can be violence, any kind of a violent behaviors called as physical abuse. So anyone of any age, sexuality, gender can be affected by physical abuse.  What are some of the physical abuse that you can see? What do you mean? Hitting. That's, that's later. Verbal is different. Physical is. Biting. Anything else? Okay. Burning. Using, giving, yeah. Basically giving any kind of pain that's physical. So you can, like it can be kicking, throwing objects, burning, scalding, okay. So all of that is what you would call as physical abuse, okay? Now you should remember that this kind of physical abuse can lead to, it's just not the physical pain that a person goes through, right? It can be a lot of other things that, that happen. What else happens apart from physical pain? It's just not about physical pain, right? Okay. Like what emotions come up? Okay. Anger, sad, tears. Okay. So there can be a lot of shame also because with the physical abuse, there's a lot of verbal abuse as well, right? So that can be, they can experience fear. Isn't that it? There's a lot of fear that actually keeps them away from taking any form of help, all right? And other, other kind of feelings could be a sense of shame, a sense of guilt, and also a sense of isolation. They may tend to isolate themselves from others because they do not want others to know, okay? And that's what keeps them in that loop. And often you will find that physical abuse is unreported. Why do you think it's unreported? Unreported, that is it doesn't go, okay? Why would you not report abuse? Physical abuse, okay? Okay. It's generally because of fear. The fear that if I go and tell someone else, that more than that, there will be, and if the person, the abuser gets to know, physical violence will be even greater, even more, right? So often because they don't have any space to go away, they have to come back to their own physical space and that's why they get trapped in that sense of abuse, okay? All right? Emotional abuse, what's emotional abuse? Correct, okay. So in physical abuse, you can see injuries or marks or things, right? But in, it's easier. It's easier to identify, yeah, because it's visible. But whereas in emotional abuse, it's not that visible. Yeah, scars are a lot more inside. So what happens is a lot of people who experience emotional abuse feel that others won't believe them, especially if they are, let's say, if they are, if they have a partner who's extremely nice to those outside, right? It's the gem of a person on the outside, but when they're at home, they can be very strong abusers, you know, emotionally using words or blackmills. So this generally, again, this is a show of power. Every form of abuse is a show of power, saying that I have more power over you to bring you down to my control, all right? So it's basically a way of power. And how is it generally done? It's done through threats, through criticism, to manipulation, name calling. It can be through blackmills, emotional blackmills, any kind of actions or gestures, demeaning words, all of that is what is emotional abuse. Now, emotional abuse often can be put into, people can become very, very aggressive, okay? Or they can actually dismiss, be dismissive, or they can deny. They actually can deny that they said something after that they have said it, okay? And you would have heard the word gaslighting? Okay, gaslighting.  You actually light the gas.  That's what gaslighting is, right? I don't know how that came there, it's there, but I was in the one who did it. So that's, again, another form of abuse, okay?  Sexual abuse, okay. Sexual abuse is any type of sexual assault or it needn't totally be violence, it's basically assault of an adult to someone who is a minor, all right? Who doesn't have, doesn't give consensus to that, to a sexual encounter. So it's generally, it can range from unwanted touching to even exposure to any kind of sexual, sexually explicit material, like pornographic material, sexually explicit movies, any of that. So it can be straight from just touching to coercive sexual contact to any form of explicit viewing of any sexual material, okay? Are we all here? People are dreaming away, you're here? Okay, all right.    Okay, depression, okay? Fear, shame, yes. Shame and guilt is one of the biggest, psychological symptoms of sexual abuse, okay? Some, what is it? Loss of identity, okay? An anger on other people, okay, wonderful. Anything else? Francis, isolation, Francis, what happens when someone is sexually abused, what are some of the effects of sexual abuse? Very good. They find it very hard to trust people that could be difficulty in managing, maintaining relationships because of forms of sexual abuse, okay? There'd be a different way that they behave. Give me an example. Okay, they isolate themselves, they may be in depression, okay? So generally what you're saying is you can observe from their behaviors, okay? All right, okay. I know I have not put in domestic violence here, but I think I'll just talk about it a little bit. Domestic violence is also known as domestic abuse. That is, there is threatening behavior within a relationship, someone who is in a relationship. And this could include family members. It could include people who are not even in romantic relationships. They don't have to be in romantic relationships. Like it can be to a parent, to a child. So. There can be, but generally in friendships may not be. It's generally you would find it in, when we say non-romantic relationships is what we mean by, let's say, within a family member, like husband, wife, or parent, child, or parent and, sorry. Yeah. Like an elder person and a child, siblings, right? All of that, it's there. It can also be among romantic partners also, okay? All right. Now, these violence that is domestic can have psychological as well as physical impacts. Similarly as physical abuse and emotional abuse, okay? Again, these, this kind, domestic violence is also, again, goes unreported. Why? Again, does it go unreported? Yeah. Because you're exposing someone, excellent. And that's some of the reason why they are not bought out in the open, okay? All right. Now, I just also talk about neglect. Now, neglect could be where there is, the care that is meant to be given to someone is not adequately given. Now, neglect can be to, it can be to a child. It can be even to an older, like an elderly person. When they need the care, maybe when they need food, they need clothing, they need medical care, they need assistance. When all of that is withdrawn, that is not given, that itself can lead to a sense of neglect, neglect, okay?  It's towards the basic important needs like food, shelter, education, love, care, all of that is what we're looking at, basic emotional needs, okay? Clear? Any thoughts? Any questions? No questions? All clear? Okay. All right. So we'll just look at, I know the section is not there, but just want to quickly bring about how abuse can affect somebody. Now it's important to know that abuse can have a significant impact on mental health as well as a person's well-being and it's not just at the time that the abuse is happening, but it can have a lasting impression even after that. So that can also take place. There is a lot of long-term impacts that can happen as a result of any form of abuse. Repeated abuse or even single-time abuse can lead to some kind of mental health issues like depression, anxiety, other kind of mental health disorders or even personality disorders can be experienced. So some survivors of abuse go through trust issues, okay? They go through flashbacks. What are flashbacks? What do you think of it? Yeah, maybe it comes back in their dream or they picture the entire form of abuse over and over again, okay? They may have problems in forming good relationships. Every time they come with relationships, they're not able to trust so that they have trust issues and they have suspicions or they may have a very poor sense of self-esteem and confidence that makes them feel that nobody can love them. So they have a lot of trouble in finding contentment, in being able to be happy even in situations that they are in. So their relationships are being affected. Their mental health is being affected. The way that they feel about, like you said, the sense of identity gets affected. There is low self-esteem that comes about, okay? And it could also lead to, Francis, it could also lead to other issues like self-harm. You know what self-harm is? Self-harm? No, suicide is not self-harm. So suicide is one like self-harm. But what we're looking at self-harm is not with an intent to die. It is an intent to relieve pain. So it is, yeah, you're right, you know, cutting superficial cuts. But it is not an intent to die. It's an intent to alleviate that pain. Substances, yes. Addictions, substance abuse is one thing that is often seen. All right, this is what you would find in general fallouts of an abuse, okay? All right. Okay, so how do we help? What can we basically do to help? So, okay, and I think I want to open this out as a question, okay? Someone comes in and tells you that they, and this is, let's say, you know the person, you know the person that they're talking about, okay? A well-known person or a very respectful person. But let's say it's a child or it's a wife that comes in and tells you or a husband that comes in and tells you that their parent or their uncle or their aunt or, you know, someone is abusing them. What is the first position that you take? What should you be doing? Okay. Okay, so I'm going to give you an example, okay? I have come to class today. Suppose I have a nice black mark on my eye. Okay. What would you say? What happened? All right. And I may say, I mean, I'm not talking to you about students, but let's say one of you came and asked me, what happened? So I'll say, you know, such and such person hit me on my eye. What's your next thing? Let's go. Let's go hit the person back. What, Francis? So you don't look at counselor. You look at people who are okay. So I said I got angry and I burnt the dosa today. I said he burnt. I burnt the dosa today. He hit. You got there. That's all over done. Let me go on my way. So you mean to say that? Okay. So what will you tell me that? Okay. Okay. So you will ask me about all of that. Is it? Okay. If I'm willing. Okay. If I'm not. Okay. Okay. Okay. You'll appreciate that. I have told you what it is. Okay. Yeah, I know. I don't think they can hear. I'm no one is saying anything also. Okay. This is open also for the online students. My students here are all talking. I don't know if you can hear, but if you all can also talk, that'll be great. Okay. So, okay. I'll give you another example. A child comes to you. Okay. And tells you, let's say you know the child's. The abuser, whoever. You know the child's abuser very well. Okay.  What is the first thing you do? You'd say, really? Okay. What does that communicate? Exactly. All right. So when you say, really, or are you sure? Is it? Huh? Seriously? Or is it? Yeah. What are you doing is you are not paying attention or believing what the person has said. So what do you think will happen then? Absolutely. They are not going to. Absolutely. They will, the very fact that they took the courage to come in and tell you shows that they wanted some help. Right. So if you dismiss it, if you don't, if you like question, then it, it may put them at a back foot and really not want to share anything with you. So that's something that you can always look into at a later point of time. But yes, you're the first response that you would do is to believe them and say and appreciate them for the fact that they came in and told you. So appreciate the fact that they told you and confirm that what they are feeling is absolutely valid. Okay. Maybe they're fearful or whatever they're going through is absolutely valid. Okay. So that is very, very important for you as a counselor to do. Okay. Got that? Now the other thing that you said, yeah. Okay. So when someone is actually coming and telling you, you can be empathetic, but you also have to get to, I don't want to say what it is, but what's the next step? Investigate. Maybe you're not in a position to investigate when someone is telling you that they are being abused. What would you as a, forget the counselor as a normal human being? You've done all that. They've told you all of that. What's the next step? Who? The abuser? What are you going to tell them? Comfort and empower. Right? Empower the. So what do you think would happen? Unless, no, no, unless of course you are in a setting that, you know, you're in a legal setting, it may not be very safe to do that. Why? Yeah. See, your, your, your focus is first of all on the abused. Your focus is on them to what is it to what? Yes. Believe them. Only the most important thing is to keep them safe. Right?  Right? Isn't it the first thing you will do is find a way to get out from that place. What is the way that you can be rescued from that abuse that is happening? That's the first thing you need to do. And that's what you are getting into a conversation with. How can they move away from that place of abuse? Now it can be very different for what do you say, a different set of people. Let's say a child is being sexually abused. How would you go, go with it? Okay. So you, okay. You've got to be careful when you say next time if it's happening, which means, No, not only that, the fact that it can, it can go on and that you have not done anything. There are so many things that can be done from this episode to the next episode to avoid that. Okay. Why? Why? She's a minor. Yeah. Okay. So let's say if it's a child, remember any kind of abuse, sexual abuse towards a child is a criminal, it's a criminal offense. Right. Which means as someone who brings something like that to you, you are actually bound to report. You are bound to report. Right. You have to take, because if not at any point of time that, you know, let's say someone else finds that out, you will be charged because of the fact you'd be responsible because you knew and you didn't take action. Right. So what are some of the steps to do that?  Okay. So you elicit from the child who are people that you can trust. All right. And once that is so ensuring that, you know, letting the child know that you will need to get the support and help from these people who they can trust. Right. So if it's a parent or if it's a teacher or whoever, getting their support and bringing them into this information that this child is being, and you don't have to do it to many people, maybe with many people, maybe one or two trusted adults that you can get support from. All right. And then there are ways that you can rather than you ensuring that the responsible adult, maybe it's the parent or whoever is in charge, brings about a complaint to the legal system. Okay. So it is up to you to do this first part of reporting is getting the any other member of the family or the environment spoken to so that they could do what is what is needful. Never talk to the abuser. Okay. Because it can it can bring about a lot of issues at the end of it. Okay. Yeah. You shouldn't. You should never talk to the abuser. Right. I'm talking about, let's say if it is something like a child, let's let's look at another case like violence, physical violence. You have two adults. Okay. So there again, the first and foremost thing is talking with them to keep them physically safe that they don't go back. They don't go back into the same environment where they are being abused. So devising a plan alongside with them to ensure that they get support or they get help or they are moving away from that place. So one of the things is getting support if need be, especially, you know, if the physical violence is continuous is regular, then maybe getting the help of other people involving other people, maybe like the church pastors or beyond that. I mean, first the family, then the past, then, you know, if that's a church that's involved and if not, then the legal system. Okay. So what you're, what you're basically doing is to help them to stay safe. Okay. Got it. Any questions? Any questions? Yeah. You said we should not listen or we should not talk to that abusers. What if that abusers did something like not that much, but something, any small kind of things with any person, woman, so he will come and he will tell big things. What if it will become big fight? It will not listen to that abusers because he didn't did that much, but he's making that things big. The abused or the abused? The abused. The abused is saying something much more than what happened, is it? Okay. Now, see, like I said, every situation may be different. Right? So how you can act like, like for example, how is it that one of the ways generally that you can understand is let's say the abuse come and says, okay, this person did this and did this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this. Okay. So they will say you call and ask, right? Or you take, you take charge and get to the police. That's why you do not take that responsibility of going to the police or doing anything because you are empowering them to do it themselves. Right? So if you are getting the abuse to make a, let's say a larger complaint, they have to have enough evidence for what they are saying. Let's suppose the abuse were just maybe, let's say hit them once, but the abuse says that, you know, he took a knife and he stabbed me or whatever. Right? So what happens is, when you're empowering them to do that, you need to get them to bring evidence and without evidence, that isn't a case. Right? So if something like that happens, it's important to empower them so that they will be able to report to a higher authority. All right? So that's why I said, so a lot of this may be different in the way that it presents itself. But each of, each of these things need to be done with a lot of wisdom. Okay. Now, even as they are talking to you, it's important to understand details of the abuse. What's happening? How is it happening? What's the frequency of it happening? How many people know? Have they sought help earlier? You know, is it safe for them to go back? So asking all of these questions is very important to get them the support that they need. Okay. Yeah. Like for example, let's look at it in a setting of a church. There is some kind of physical abuse that's happening between let's say a parent or a child or let's say a husband and wife. Suppose, and one member comes to you. Okay.  They've given you the permission. Right? If they've given you the permission, then it's okay to discuss it. Suppose they say, don't tell because if you tell, then I will get into a deeper problem. All right. So then you may need to devise another plan. One is, like we said, is safety. If a life is in danger, it is safe. It is safety. And once that happens, let's suppose it's a wife, she moves away from the place. She's staying at another place. Then definitely the husband is going to ask why are you going or whatever. Right? So you're empowering her to speak up and say that, you know, unless and until you are not going to come back or until and unless you get that kind of support, you know, or if this happens again, I will report this to such and such person. So every case may be very different in its thing, but I'm just giving you different scenarios if it happens. So then you need to use a lot of wisdom in ensuring that the person who's come in and discuss this with you, their trust in you should not be violated. Secondly, they should not be in a worse danger of before they actually came and told you. So that's something you need to ensure. Okay? All right? Okay. Again, the point is to keep this conversation absolutely confidential, which means you're not, you don't have the right to actually talk about this to even others, you know, anyone else maybe in your team or any of that not to really talk about this. Okay? So Jacken's written, if the person who abuses is one of the trusted close circle of the child, then how do we protect the child as in when they are scared of even staying at home, especially the child being fearful and has no one else? How can we assist as a counselor? In that case, do we do the reporting or connect them directly to some child welfare organization? Yes. So if you have seen that let's say the child is only with the, it's a close member of the family and that's the only person in the house and the child has fear, the thing to do is to report. You can actually directly, there are numbers that you can directly report. It was 1098, now that number has changed, I'm sorry, I can't recollect what it is, but you can actually directly report to the concerned welfare system and they will immediately get the child out into a safe space. Now, I want you all also to remember that, you know, here, especially in India, when a child is rescued, they are put into what you care as childcare, CCIS, childcare institutes, okay, to keep them safe, but those childcare institutes often are also very, very extremely bad condition, right, and they are quite emotionally and physically very, very run down and actually there isn't much of support that is there, right. So maybe one of the best things for us to do is, yes, we may need to do the reporting, but basically to find if there is someone else within the family that would take the child rather than the child going into a childcare institute because they will be there till, let's suppose a child is alone, right, in the house with a parent, there isn't anyone else, then that's the place that they go to, so because we know the affair of a childcare institute, we've got to be careful if there are other family members or any of that, it's always best that they go, you know, to some family members, distant family members house till the person or the abuser can get that support and that kind of help, okay. I'm just telling you that is because the childcare institutes in India are very, very, they're very poor in itself, you know, there can be a lot of abuse that happens there also, right, and a lot of mental trauma and all of that, but nevertheless if there isn't a way out, that's the only thing to do, but I'm just giving you a thought, okay. Yeah, then the question of if, what happens if the person chooses to return home against your violence, against your advice, what do you do is make sure that you give them ways of how you can be contacted, right, so that in case they go against your advice, they will be able to reach out to you and you will be able to follow up in some way. Remember, you cannot force anyone to make a decision that they should be doing themselves. The only decision that you can take is when it's a child, okay, because they're not an adult, they're not a major, they do not have probably the capacity to think or to do things for themselves, that's the only time that you can take, you know, some kind of active step, otherwise when it is an adult, ensure that you're empowering them to do what they need to, okay, all right. When we come back, we'll just talk about how a couple of things of how Christian counseling can help, especially survivors, that is people who've gone through abuse are not in that abusive environment anymore, it must have been a thing of the childhood or of the past, but are carrying significant burdens or hurt as a result of that, okay, all right. We'll close for 10 minutes and we'll come back after 10 minutes at 11 o'clock for the second part of our class.


Do people who live in the decline of a civilization know that they're living in the decline of a civilization? I was talking with one of my friends the other day and he mentioned that, hey, you're not going to like this, Dylan, but the time for posting your opinions online is over. Like it's going to get bad, basically he's saying, you know, it's going to get bad and posting your opinions online at this point just makes you a target for the future gulags. And I have some sympathy with that. I certainly can understand that line of thinking and then I don't necessarily fault anyone for thinking it. However, as I've thought about it, I've kind of come to the opposite conclusion, which is if this is our end, then I would have us make such an end. I would prefer to go screaming into that darkness rather than silently waiting. I understand the sneaky warrior and Opset and all this stuff and I, like I said, I understand if you fall in that camp. But I think that if anything, now is the time when we should be talking the most and now is the time when we should be complaining and preaching the most because again, if this is the end, if this is going to be the end of the Republic and being conservative and being right wing will soon be criminalized and considered domestic terrorism and all these other things just for having a different political opinion. If that's it, if that's what's coming, then I would go screaming into that darkness. I'm going to fight tooth and nail now while I can and I still can post videos online and whatever and I still can talk to people. I would have us make such an end. The other part of me says, if you're not willing to say something now, what makes you think you'll be willing to fight for it later? I'm sure you've heard the Mueller quote. He was a pastor in Germany in the 30s when Hitler was taking over and stuff and after he was kind of on Hitler's side or kind of, I want to say on his side, but was sympathetic. You know, wasn't standing in the way. And he has this very famous quote that's something to be effective like, first they came for the trade unionists and I did not speak out because I was not a trade unionist. And then they came for the whoever and I did not speak out because I was not one of them. And then they came for the Jews and I did not speak out because I was not a Jew. And then they came for me and there was no one left to speak out. And I think it's a very insightful quote. You need to really understand your own mistakes to say something like that. And I think I don't want to do that, right?  So my thought is I'm going to go screaming into that darkness. I'm going to say something now. I'm going to post things online now. And if things do get really bad and that gets me bumped up to the top of the gulag list, well, then I guess that's pretty bad and we'll have to deal with it then. So this isn't to me about preserving myself. I want to preserve liberty in America and I'm willing to say something about that now. And so I would try to win you to my camp, right? Because that's what I'm doing. I believe in it. I would try to win you to that camp of now is the time to say something. And if we're not going to say something now, what makes you think we're going to do anything later? Think about it. Do brave deeds and endure.


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I'm Salvatore Bobona, and today's lecture is Social Policy Tools for Fighting Social Exclusion. Social exclusion exists and has negative effects in every society.  But people are also socially excluded in less visible ways through income, education, language, appearance, even behavior. We can't eliminate social exclusion, but we can reduce its prevalence through good social policy. Social exclusion is, quote, exclusion from the prevailing social system, typically as a result of poverty or the fact of being longing to a minority social group, and that's from the OED. Minority group exclusion can be highly visible and is often the focus of public education and awareness campaigns.  But other kinds of social exclusion can be harder to see and measure, but are no less powerful in their effects on people. Lack of income and wealth, often you can't see it, but nonetheless it has a massive impact on people's ability to integrate in society. The inability to speak in polite, standard language, it's not something that's easy to measure on a census form or easy to identify across the whole population. But when you meet somebody who doesn't speak the language in a standard polite way, you certainly notice immediately and you're much more likely to exclude that person from friendship, from job opportunities as a tenant. It's not a person you want necessarily in your life. And finally, lack of knowledge about how to use financial and educational systems. It may sound obvious in the internet era that everybody knows how to manage a bank account, how to manage a credit card, how to get into a university, how to pay for a university, but it's not so obvious for people who don't have that knowledge. And for people who come from families where maybe no one has ever had a credit card or no one's ever had a mortgage, nobody has ever gone to a university that handicapped against such people. And here, to some extent, I include myself as an example, a handicap is really profound and, again, very difficult to capture on a social survey. The solution is universal social policies. Universal policies that redress that second kind of social exclusion also tend to reduce the more visible social exclusion that is usually the focus of our attention. So, for example, free public education helps reduce the social exclusion of someone who doesn't speak proper language by giving them 12 or 16 years of education in using proper language. So, no matter what family you come from, everybody is exposed to how to speak standard proper language. But free public education also tends to reduce the gap between majority and minority populations or between men and women. Higher minimum wages, all the same things apply. Workplace regulation, consumer protection, consumer protection in the United States, for example, is often focused on protecting targeted minority groups like African Americans, yet everybody benefits from better consumer protection laws. Public parks make it possible for everybody to learn to play golf, everybody to learn to swim, everybody to be part of the activities undertaken by richer people in society. And maybe the greatest level of all that we often take for granted, public transportation in many cities and many countries, people who have resources are able to get places and people who don't have resources can't or can only do so with much difficulty or by taking a much longer amount of their time to do it. Free, efficient, high volume, high frequency public transportation is one of the great levelers of society. These universal social policies often reduce both the extent of inequality in society and also the salience of inequality for social exclusion. So the extent of inequality we all know about, that's the difference in resources between bottom and top. People have different incomes, some people inherit wealth while other people don't. And keep in mind some people inherit houses, which is a lot of wealth when other people have to buy their own from scratch. The difference in educational qualifications achieved by people is a massive inequality in society. The degree of social mobility between generations, in some societies it's very easy to get ahead, in some societies it's very difficult to get ahead if you start at the bottom of the ladder. These differences in inequality tend to reinforce social exclusion. Like universal social policies tend to reduce the extent of inequality in effect by giving everybody the same resources so that people's initial position or people's place in society just doesn't matter as much. If there's a public golf course that's inexpensive to use, everybody can play golf, not just the rich. However, universal policies also reduce the salience of inequality, the importance of inequality, the degree to which a given level of inequality leads to social exclusion. So for example, consider the importance of people's jobs for their health care, vacation time, sick leave.  If you have a professional job with a good company, free free and free. If you work as a casual employee at a low quality company, you get no health care benefits, you get no paid vacation time and you get no paid sick leave.  You can have a good job or a bad job, a good employer or a bad employer, you have the same lived reality of life. Similarly, universal education can reduce the importance of income for people's educational outcomes. If universities are free, if graduate schools are free, then it doesn't matter what background you come from. That starting position no longer matters as much as it did previously. Even more difficult to see, but maybe even more important, is the openness of institutions to people of diverse backgrounds. Many top employers, the highest wage jobs, the most rewarding jobs, only recruit from a narrow slice of the top universities in a country. Well, that closed recruiting process makes it very difficult for people who can't access those universities or who maybe didn't have the social capital to know to access those universities. It makes it very difficult for them to get on the ladder. So when institutions are open, when they have open recruitment procedures, an advertisement in the newspaper or on the newspaper website, instead of recruiting at a university campus, that tends to, again, reduce the salience of inequality. People who are ambitious, talented or hardworking, who may not have the right qualifications, nonetheless at least have an opportunity to break into those institutions. This is especially important in places where universities like in Australia and the UK, where top universities mainly take students from feeder schools, from high schools that they know to be high quality high schools. Well, if that's the case, then obviously the system is reinforcing the effect of inequality rather than reducing the effect of inequality. If instead universities rely on an open testing mechanism to recruit students like the SAT test in the United States, that tends to equalize opportunities across different groups in society. The necessary social policies are well known and well understood, but they can be difficult to implement unless people have a very strong commitment to their societies. Most people want, or most people are selfish. Most people want to keep their own money. Most people don't care much about creating opportunities for others. Now, social exclusion by definition means that those at the top, those who are doing the excluding benefit by monopolizing the best positions in society for themselves and their children. Now, the desire to pass on advantage to your children may seem natural and innocent enough, and we all admire things like family businesses that have been in the family for hundreds of years. This is the Likla Bakery in the confectionary in Warsaw, Poland that has been in the same family for 150 years even throughout the communist period. They were able to maintain their family business and their family dedication to this small business in the heart of Warsaw. And that's really admirable and we all love stories like that of the family business being handed down through the generations. But what if your family business is a major New York investment bank? And maybe what if you're handing down incredibly privileged positions at the top of society's economic and power hierarchy to your children? Well, that's much less socially redeeming. It's something that we have much less respect for, but also it's something that tends to undermine social solidarity. Whenever we see positions at the top of the social hierarchy being monopolized by people in a family over generations, we know that they're not caring to see their children drop down the hierarchy to make room for someone else coming up. Whenever you hear the phrase, someone comes from an old family or a good family, I think it's worth remembering that every family is equally old and many families are good. An old family is used to mean a family that has had money for a long time. And any society where you have old families, meaning the same family has had money for generations, implies that there's very little mobility in that society. Those old families have the ability to monopolize the top positions in society for themselves. Social mobility and the reduction of social exclusion implies not just that people are able to move up the hierarchy, but that others have to move down the hierarchy to make way for them. We can't all be at the top of the hierarchy and when we reduce social exclusion, we dismantle the hierarchy. And while that's very attractive for many people at the bottom of society, that's very threatening to many people at the top of society. Key takeaways. Social exclusion is exclusion from the prevailing social system, typically as a result of poverty or the fact of belonging to a minority social group. And that definition is from the Oxford English Dictionary. Social exclusion is best addressed via universal social policies that benefit everyone in a society. These universal policies can be used to reduce both the extent of inequality and the salience of inequality for people's lives in a society, thereby leveling people's opportunities and outcomes across groups. Thank you for listening. I'm Salvatore Bubonis. You can find out more about me at my website, SalvatoreBubbonis.com, where you can also sign up for my monthly Global Asia newsletter.


Hello again everyone, I'm Ray Gildow, host of Lakeland Currents. Join me this week as I talk to women of the outdoors, Nancy Kep and Mandy Yurek.


Cooper Hewitt, Smithsonian Design Museum, Tablescapes, Conservation of the Certu de Table. Two women stand behind a semi-circular display tray with a mottled silver mirror base and ornate golden sides. This is called the Certu de Table, which is French. It would have been displayed as part of a dining experience in the early 19th century. Light gleams off the fully assembled Certu de Table. There are so many reflective surfaces between the glass and the mirrored element and the beautifully cast and worked metal components that it would have been full of specular quality to really give a feast for the eyes in addition to whatever food might have been served during this event. And at the moment we have the really amazing opportunity to conserve all the pieces. In a lab. What I'm doing is cleaning the surface and a lot of that is surface dirt and grime and also corrosion products from the metal substrate that have come through the gill layer and it caused it to turn this brassy type of color. After testing I've ended up using an EDTA solution, which basically binds the copper corrosion products and then I'm able to clean them away. And so I've been applying the solution and letting it sit for about a minute or so and then I've cleared the surface with DI and ice water followed by acetone because the acetone helps drive the water away because we don't want water sitting on the metal surface. Display objects are cleaned by hand. In addition to having additional specialist conservators working with us on the project, this also enables us as the staff conservators to take a closer look at the technical observations we can make about the manufacturer. So we're using a technique called Reflectance Transformation Imaging which is a computational photographic technique that overlays images together looking at different angles of light and it helps you really see surface details in a really precise way. So there's a lot of interesting contrast in matte and shiny. The cleaning is really revealing depth and a real change in reflective surfaces, so reflective in matte surfaces. So this kind of technical examination is something that conservators really like to do in addition to the treatment. We're really concerned about understanding how is it made and how can we see those things now in different ways using new technologies. Beneath a layer of glass, patchy imperfections mar the surface of the tray. And just looking at it, the obvious instability of the silver leaf mirrored elements, clearly a lot of the silvering has started to detach we would say cleave from the glass support allowing you to see both the air gap in between the metal leaf and the glass making it hazy and less reflective as well as some of the tarnish or corrosion that's developing in all these areas where you have these flaky islands or bits. Well this piece is probably the worst conditioned mirror I've ever actually worked on. The real task involved is trying to reattach what has either delaminated and detached completely or what is still there but barely hanging on. He uses a tiny iron. In conservation there's a lot of different aspects of lost compensation depending on what kind of objects and materials you're using. So in this case using a backing material as the lost compensation seemed like the best way to go. He holds a silver leaf sample card to the surface of the tray. A lot of this silver is oxidized as well as slightly discolored so the discoloration is what we're trying to match actually rather than the original silver. A little bit unfair because we get to spend a lot of time with it and so we know that the work really intimately. So there's little details that we see and we really get to spend a lot of time under the magnifying glass. One of the staff conservators playfully pinches a tiered tray.


So, hello everyone. Today we are with one more interview with experts in the field of education because we are having Eden anniversary for 30 years and our aim is to hear from different people involved in Eden but also experts in their field about education and situation which is going now and how they can reflect it regarding the Eden role in these times. So, I'm very happy today to have Antonio Teixeira with us from Universitate Averta in Portugal who was also Eden president before and actually he was my role model to follow when I started to be Eden president. So, how are you with Antonio? Very nice to have you with us. I'm fine. Thank you. Well, it's a pleasure to be here with you and all the colleagues that will be following us. Well, I'm fine. I have already my shots, my vaccine shots, so I'm perfectly fine in this sense and it's really a pleasure to be here and let me also start by congratulating you as the president for the 30th anniversary of Eden. This is quite a remarkable feat for the association. Yes, can you imagine that we have already been 30 years old and I hope that next 30 years will be even more interesting than these ones. But let me ask you as a person involved in education with many experience from the position of the lecturer but also from the position of the person who was in the management and who made some topics. I cannot forget when I was in Lisbon and you and Tony Bates presented how you started the implementation, systematic implementation of e-learning at your institution. How do you perceive all these changes which are happening now and do you think that this COVID pandemic was really significant one in education? Well, it is. I do feel that it has been a milestone. I wouldn't say that it has changed dramatically the way that we think about education and technology has learning in particular. I wouldn't also say that it changed dramatically the models that we applied, the research in the broader sense as well, but on one hand it has dramatically accelerated the process of change that was already occurring. So these phenomena that we call the digital transformation of education had already started and it of course got a tremendous boost as a consequence from the impact of the pandemic. There's also something important on my view which is the widening of the field. So it dramatically widened the number of practitioners, but it's also widening the number of researchers. So there's a new interest of the research community on open education, on distance education, only learning online and digital education in general. And this is bound to lead, of course now we're seeing a lot of outputs which maybe are not too significant in terms of quality, but this will lead to an increase not just in the scale of research and practice, but also in the quality of research and practice. And so in this sense, it has contributed a lot to upscale in this sense the dissemination of learning. On the other hand, I would also say that it's also high, it had a very important impact in terms of public opinion, how society in general think of these topics, how also policy and government policy and well, being a national level, regional level, even institutional level, so this awareness of these topics has also increased tremendously. And in the end, I would say that our field has also gained from the experience in the sense that a number of problems that we, some of them were already identified, others are new, have been also, will of course, in a sense rearrange our agenda and will give us some new focus of interest as well. So, of course, I mean, I would say that, of course, there is not much new discoveries in the sense but the impact, the scale, the speed of the transformation has changed and that has created new opportunities and also new challenges in the sense. As you are right, number of issues that you have mentioned have been already existing for 20, 30 years, this is not a new thing that now we have moved online, we know lots of things about that. Michael, the issue of open education and you said public awareness. Do you think that now the open education has got the five minutes of glory to start to be much more present and much more knowledge in the society as I would say issue which can significantly contribute to the quality of education as such. Yes, I do agree. On one hand, we can also, we could already see that there was a wider movement of integration of the different open movements and being open access, open education and others open source, different kinds of openness, open movements in the sense in the field of educational related to education. And these under the big umbrella of open science, so in as the umbrella concept in a sense. So this movement was already developing. But what happened, and we could see of course with the pandemic crisis the importance of openness, open collaboration in this sense, not only in research but also in innovation and in practice. We've seen something that is really remarkable, which is the create the generation of a tremendous amount of networks of collaboration in education. And as it happened also in other fields of knowledge in, for instance in medical sciences, we've seen that as well so the emergency the impact of such a, well, and such an impact such a phenomenon has as a pandemic for which, of course society was not ready to tackle with as generated a tremendous amount of collaboration. And that is of course, fostered on one side on one side but also on the other, had also relied on openness. But I would also say something and we have seen how resources were open resources, open educational resources were shared and used and what even itself had a tremendous experience with the webinar series and all of this. And this of course is more, more than just something that we already knew what had an impact and effectiveness that we are not probably counting on. I would also point out something which it was important with this crisis, which is how we look at education as a process. I mean throughout times we can, we can go back to the, to the ancient Greeks and beyond. Education has always been thought about as a process of emancipation. And in that sense, the process of emancipation is, and education is a caring for that emancipation of others and oneself as well. And now it has become even more clear as we've been progressing in the last couple of years on the need for this emancipation be a global movement in this sense and be open to everyone. We've seen this with what we could call digital citizenship for instance, right? The awareness of the importance of having the right to access, having also the duty to learn online. So the understanding the digital citizenship as a right and also as a duty to act using this new media. This awareness is something that also will in a sense highlight the importance of opening up the education process. So this connection between open education and the digital transformation of education, I think it has become even more strengthened in this sense. Of course, open education and distance education have had a long connection, but this has in this, in this context I would say become even more important and significant for society in general. Well, yeah, I agree with you it's open education is now open education and well distance education as well have become part of the mainstream. So there on, it's not just something from the borders of the education systems, something that you'll have there's a kind of complimentary thing something that could help you to reach out for people who cannot access educational opportunities as the other so marginalized groups or groups at risk populations at risk things like that. So now it had become something of a need for everyone. And that was an important change I would say. Yeah, I agree with you, as you mentioned that we are now open more globally, more networking.  What would be your vision or some insight, where is even position now in the world in Europe, especially, and what should be our next steps. Well, you're the president. Well, I'm looking for some advice. No, I think if you look back at the at the history of Eden, Eden has managed also as an organization. Eden is basically an association. But as an organization, which is basically supported by all its members being individual members or institutional members, it has always understood the sense of time and how things were evolving in the field. And if we look at how Eden has progressed throughout these three decades, we can see also important changes in how the association has conceived about its mission, its portfolio of activities, how it connected with the field, how it acted as well. Looking ahead. And so I think that in the in the last decade, in a sense, even has prepared for this moment. And the role that Eden has played in this context, which has been significant, especially in Europe, has been, I think, a kind of natural conclusion of a process of rethinking and readjusting and preparing that the association has undertaken throughout this decade in a sense. Looking ahead, as as you were just challenging me to, I would say that this this pandemic crisis has also proven the importance of networking, but in a sense, in a new sense, even has a as a role, of course. But the role is not, I mean, it's not dependent only on the association. So we are part of a global network, in a sense. And if even understands how it can operate in debt in that system, better still. Eden is now has now a global outreach as never before. And in this sense, what do we do we, I mean, as as practitioners as researchers, what do you need, we need from in. I think, based on what has been the experience in the last year, even can play a very important and displaying a very important role in representation of the field. So, understanding what what is important in terms of legal framework, for instance, quality standards, all of these things that actually regulate in a sense, the field of practice, of practice. But it's also, it also had plays a very important role in leading trends of research, leading trends of innovation, leading trends of practice. Not just so in this, in this sense, it's it also plays more than just a representation role, also a role of inspiration. It should also inspire not only the current practitioners, but also the new practitioners that are coming in the new researchers that are coming in. Also supporting innovation, but supporting it, not only in terms of sharing knowledge, but also sharing their Eden has a tremendous amount of expertise, not only in terms of the output of the fits conferences or the output of its journals, but also the use of its members, individual and institutional, and how it can help, how it can facilitate sharing of that of that expertise, but also speeding up and supporting the connection which I think it's critical between research and practice, and to, and so supporting this knowledge and innovation transfer from research to to the change of the traditional practices. There's also a quality reference as well so we live now in a society that is well a network society in which we are living in an era, in an age for information abundance, and this has been also very clear in the context of a pandemic. All the information that we want sometimes too much information. So we need to have some kind of guidance in what is what what are the quality references, what is actually a good reference and not and even can help the community and not just the community, all the ones that are interested in in these topics to to actually understand to learn how to differentiate the end to validate in the sense even even can help validating and reference the good references. Well, that in practice is a research output and all of these so in the sense being a kind of a quality reference that can be important to the field. There are other important roles that even can play, but the important thing is to understand that the role of an association is even with its tremendous outreach is also to help lead others in other associations throughout the world in generating movements of change of positive change can also sometimes be negative. So in this sense, I think that even has a very important role probably even more important now than ever before, because also the outreach is much larger, much wider. And, and, but, but I'm really confident that the the organization and the association and all its memberships membership will will will push it forward in that direction. Thank you for such a nice words. And for the last for the last question, very briefly, if you can predict the future. So you're so safe now. What would be your ideal educational education system, which we should live in. Well, I mean, going back to the basics, the ideal educational system is the one that promotes the best emancipation. So in this sense, the best education possible is the one that allows everyone to to develop its its potential and to to develop its own autonomy. And in that in that kind of process. Of course, we cannot expect that everyone has the chance to opportunity to to learn from from the best, but we are all learning from the best which which is also the result of our own collaboration so we are also moving from a kind of understanding of knowledge and education as a very individual process to another understanding in which the inter can interdependence and interconnection between all of us is very important so this kind of collective intelligence this collective also agency that that is now, of course, probably the focus of education and in that process. Technology is very important, because it can help help this minute that those opportunities for everyone, it can help improve the processes it can in the way it's a tool that can also help you be more efficient in that in that for that goal, but the goal is basically to allow everyone. And I mean, everyone independently of its condition fits well, if it's context to be able to emancipate and to develop its soul, its full potential. Thank you really nice words and I hope Eden will contribute to the world and educational systems you have predicted and hoping for. So thank you very much for this interview and looking forward to see you soon. Thank you. Bye. Thank you, Sandra.


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Dating in 2023 is like being an NBA player allow us to explain and hopefully this video can possibly help you Yeah, I mean online dating vice is trending really hard in 2023 and or just take a look at some of these posts from reddit How to balance simping versus maintaining attraction in a relationship this guy's talking about is he texting too much? Is he texting too little this other guy said I'm depressed after trying everything to looks max being an Asian male is a huge Handicap even or even after trying everything to improve my physical appearance. Yeah, so We want to point out the huge flaw in Asking the internet for dating advice and why it is very similar to asking for basketball skill advice on the internet Yeah, that's like basically saying hey guys, you don't know anything about me But should I incorporate more crossovers into my game? I don't know maybe but maybe not so anyways guys We're gonna break down this analogy hang with us. Hopefully you find it useful Please hit that like button and check out other episodes of the hot pop boys But one thing that doesn't need much explanation is smaller sauce check it out on our Instagram at smaller sauce There's a lot of great content a lot of great foodies and chefs have tried it. They love it You can still order it now. Why do you think so many people go to reddit for dating advice? Is it because they might not have anybody knowledgeable in their circle? Yeah, who's willing to analyze their situation and give them a man-to-man talk, right? Sometimes it is hard to find someone that you can ask personal questions about I think you do have to be very vulnerable when you're asking dating advice Sometimes you're sharing your flaws sometimes you're sharing your inner fears and it's a lot easier to type it out on the internet for Anonymous people to rate and give you advice on then it is to me ask you personally and sit you down and be like Hey, David, I really need some dating advice and this is gonna be very scary I'm gonna be very vulnerable right now But we will I'm gonna tell you why it's not that effective Because you know what I mean like oftentimes what people leave out a lot of baseline information because the internet doesn't know who you are That's the biggest part guys the internet does not know what you look like how tall are you how good-looking are you? What's your physique like they don't know where you live? They don't know the environment the city demographics. They don't know if you have money or a good job Do you have any money any means income at all? What's your living situation? Because that impacts what yeah a lot of flexibility. Are you weird awkward or mentally unstable? Are you neurodivergent the internet doesn't know you right? Are you a creep?  Do you just want to date around and have fun? Do you want to date? Asian ABG's or do you want to date non Asian women? You know what I mean? Like who knows yeah? I mean I compare dating a lot to basketball and specifically like trying to be in the NBA but just basketball in general because if you ask for generalized basketball advice Andrew without a lot of in-game footage of Somebody playing five on five as well as seeing individual workouts So you could kind of see like everybody's tendencies and nuances How can you realistically give anybody any basketball advice? One of the worst places to ask for basketball advice on your game. That's like saying Hey guys, I need help with my shooting form and then everybody's like okay Well, what do you shoot like can you send us a video and then you're like, okay? Here's a video of me shooting and then they're like, okay Well, I would adjust this about your elbow You need to use your legs more load them up and then you're like hey based off this video Can you tell me how to be a better point guard and then everybody's like what are you talking about? Different questions Competition you're playing against if you're playing one-on-one three on three five on five was set plays and all these schemes Yeah, anyways guys, so David Let's delve more into this analogy because a lot of Asian guys out there do like basketball or just men in general because men in General want a lot of dating advice. It's not so this is a very generalized Basketball to dating advice analogy. So if you understand basketball, this is gonna make a lot of sense to you There's three components to a basketball player and there's three components that sort of like determined sort of I guess You're immediate stats when it comes to dating, right? You are your appeal and attraction. Yeah, your immediate appeal, right? It's a in basketball. It's high in athleticism is number one, right? And then number two is your general skill sets pass shoot dribble and number three is your schematic IQ And how much can you understand like the rotations and the coverages that are happening in real time? Constantly shifting on the court the mental stuff the intangibles So for example, if we were to carry that over to dating Andrew I would say that the height and athleticism would almost be like possibly your race and your height These things are kind of out of your control just like height and athleticism in the NBA You could work on it, but it's kind of out of your control, right? Some of it is genetic number two Andrew would be like your skill set shoot pass dribble, right? That could be just like generally how good looking did you build yourself?  And last but not least I would say is a schematic IQ which in the dating world would be like game That would be what that one guy was referring to on Reddit where he's like, you know, am I texting too many times? She texts me three times Do I need to text her two times to build the desire for my texts or to keep myself in a small Availability right that's like IQ read. No, that's like saying hey guys my basketball IQ is really high Can I make it to the NBA and then someone's like well? What's your other statistics, right? You shoot pass dribble how tall are you? What's your durability like? Have you strengthened your joints? There's a lot that goes are you an injury prone? So so here's the thing One thing that I notice a lot of people look at Andrew is they look at their tall good-looking friend That might be like white or hopper or something like that, right? And they're like man, they like they're not they're not funny, but they like always have a cute girlfriend Okay, they you have to understand there are certain guys in your friend group They are just naturally genetically very tall good-looking. Maybe they're hopper they're half white So they have a lot of appeal to a lot of different women Andrew these guys He doesn't have to have a lot of game or skills to still be in the NBA Like your friend might be like a Javail McGee a DeAndre Jordan Jackson Hayes Shaden Sharp Jericho Sims These guys are in the NBA For the most part I'm not saying they can't play at all because they had to beat out some other guys But like these guys are mostly in the NBA because they're seven foot and can jump out of the gym, right? And they will would you agree with me Andrew these guys? They might not ever be all-stars, but they will always have a job in the NBA or they will always have a job Playing basketball even if they fall out of the NBA some overseas team will pick them up So they will be able to get opportunities It does not mean they're all-stars and it doesn't mean that it's easy to become an all-star, but they will have Opportunities right but the skills are not there to ever become an all-star right unlike this next group of guys Andrew These guys they give you 40 50 points a game. They're always in the talk of like first-team all NBA Andrew We're talking about guys like Paolo Ben caro Zion Yanis Kawai LeBron These guys have incredible body and height, but they're also incredibly skilled and I would say at least above average IQ Obviously if you when you're talking about a LeBron or somebody his IQ was like 10 out of 10 Right, I mean these guys are generally to be all-stars right shy Jiltress Alexander like these guys are long Can shoot can dribble can play defense. They almost have every advantage and they're good at everything But here's the here's the truth Andrew most guys we are especially let's just say this let's be real Andrew bulk distribution of Asian guys We're going to be short and not that athletic But possibly keep our job in the NBA and potentially even have a good NBA career I mean it's gonna be hard to have a dominant NBA career at all But to be honest we can still be in the NBA if we're highly skilled We're talking about Chris Pauley six foot tall Peyton Pritchard six foot tall Fred van fleet these guys when you Immediately look at them. You're like there's no why no way this guy should be getting 30 40 50 in a game Right, but they figured it out because there's such beasts at everything else, right even though their initial Height and athleticism a.k.a. They're raw looks. It's not there Yeah, I mean Earl Boykins was in the NBA. He was 5 5 Nate Robinson supremely athletic He was 5 8. Yeah, like I feel like I would be like TJ McConnell, you know, I'm not having a dominant career at all But like I'm using my IQ man. I'm get I'm in there. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I mean for sure And I think however you slice up those attributes Basically, if you look at dating that way Then you kind of know what you need to work on right and it's never to say you don't have a chance because there's six Footers in the league. There's five eight guys some.  He's not that athletic and he's a good player though Yes, and Fred van fleet was all-star. He won a championship on the Toronto Raptor. That's contract JJ Borreya married miss Just some hot beautiful woman whatever and then he's only five nine. He's a champion So I'm saying Jose Alvarado There are still short guys in the league, but yes for them to have a long success over Multiple years. They have to be highly skilled and understand the game And this is where understanding dating and understanding yourself and understanding your goals Understanding what you have to offer women and offer the other person comes into play. Yeah, for example this next post And or where the guy was like man, I'm so depressed after trying to look smacks. I'm still not getting any women This guy was like about 511. Here's a photo of him But uh, this guy I would compare him in the NBA to like a Stanley Johnson where it's like yeah on paper Stanley Johnson was like man. He can match up with LeBron. He looks like LeBron when he stands next to LeBron But all the other skill sets and possibly some neuro typical, you know, no neuro divergent You know sort of like possibly not all there mentally there There's guys with above-average bodies that are not in the NBA and can't stick in the league Yeah, like Stanley Johnson. Yeah, because he's just not good enough at all the other aspects You need to be good at to be an NBA. Here's another layer to the analogy David Why date being good at dating is like being an NBA player because it also depends On where you're at which team you're on not all teams and organizations are the same the warriors an amazing Organization, but they're very picky about the players that they bring onto their teams Same with the spurs right same with the spurs particular system not all players will thrive on every team There are players who would still be in the league if they didn't spend Several years on a team that did not help develop them. That was the wrong city for them Maybe that city was too distracting. They should have been in a small market city So they could develop their skills situation matters a lot and this is where i'm saying when it comes to dating advice We don't know where you live. We don't know what city you're in We don't know your means or your ability to travel or move or what your job is Do you have means to spend money on things buy clothes get haircuts take dates out? We don't know but lucky enough. Andrew. We're not NBA players where we have to be traded to a more favorable city You can just up and move right It's kind of like being an NBA player, but you actually you're like a free agent sort of right right So you can sign on to any team you want now There's different teams that will give you that will care about you more than others But let's say you could sign on to any team in the NBA You get to choose your organization and I wish that dating was a little bit more like being an NBA player in this aspect Where you know like NBA players they almost always have agents and those agents are always on the phones with scouts And different coaches getting different opinions being like, oh, okay I think this guy could be good in the dunker position. He can rim run It's funny. But the thing is obviously guys You don't really have most a lot of guys, especially Asian guys, especially Chinese guys They don't have anybody in their corner acting like they're agent They can give them Uh, they're they're essentially proposed market value estimated market value where they think they could fit Where are they going to be a role player here? What's their usage rate? What's their contract length? Do we need a team option or player option? Those all are real details You can like transfer them over to dating like. Oh my goodness. Am I chasing like? I'm not an ABB, but I love ABG women. That would be like me Loving wanting to be a scorer, but the team that I just signed to wants me to be like a udonis haslam role player So there would be like there's a fundamental mismatch and I see like so many people Essentially, especially like Asian guys that are asking for advice on the internet. I just See that they everything's not aligned Like with this analogy. Yeah. Yeah, okay. So the analogy may not be perfect But essentially you're an NBA player That's a free agent that can sign to any team, but you also don't have an agent that's negotiating deals You have to negotiate yourself. Yeah, and he's not he's not like finding out what your worth is on the market You know who's famous for not having an agent. I think John Stockton didn't have an agent He didn't have an official agent this whole time. Well, that's he's just stuck with the Utah Jazz See he made his decision easily That would be like an azn guy who's good with azn girls And just staying in the azn zone his whole life like John Stockton stayed on the jazz and he has the most assists in history And he never had to do any thinking about player movement. He's like I'm saying he got you know, obviously he was lucky enough to get drafted Into a locality Also Utah Very white city. John Stockton white. He very vibe with it too. Yes. What can we learn from John Stockton guys? Listen guys, I'm just saying this man everybody that's asking online like You know what? I mean like all these questions. You got to understand where you fit in this mb analogy first. Hey, David How do I get more attention from girls? send What We cannot help you. We literally cannot so hopefully this video if you watched it it helped you Understand why people can't help you and what you need to think about so next time you make a post on reddit Or you ask your friend or you make a post on whatever forum or whatever it doesn't even even if it's not reddit if it's on discord Give the people some more detail, please We don't know who you are give us some game footage Let us see your highlights and that's why Guys, this all leads back to the purpose of this video is to sign up for our personalized dating coach I'm just kidding. We don't have that. No, we don't have a subscription to any sort of dating coach But that's why there are personalized dating coaches out there That's why people have programs that you know, I think the intention is good I'm not saying I'm not vouching for those programs that they're legit But I'm just saying at least there's somebody who's Thinking specifically about your situation. Listen, if you're born in a Peyton Pritchard's body Please do not look at how much work Jericho Sims Or Javale McGee has to put into their career to stay in the mba and be like, hey, how come they you know They get away with this You in a different situation, man.  All right. But anyways guys, hopefully that analogy was helpful It's obviously something that you know, we're on those forums a lot. I'm curious about what's going on We've made plenty of videos. We're just here to help Hopefully you found that analogy helpful if you know nothing about the mba Hopefully you hopefully you learned a little bit about it. So now you can think about it in that way So dating is like the mba. Yep. Let us know what you guys think of our analogy in the comment section below Let us know if you agree with us on the reasons why we think asking for dating advice online is oftentimes very perilous Kind of useless because the details are too vague. Let us know what you think in the comment section below Keep the debate alive until next time. We'd hop out boys. We out. Peace


Sup guys, welcome back to another video. Welcome back to the second day of reactions in the top 100 NFL players in 2022 it's a series that I really enjoyed doing today. We're looking at OBJ Odell Beckham, Jr aka the man who finally secured that Super Bowl ring Not with the Giants not with the brand Browns, but with the Rams believe it or not so a guy who I believe has a lot of good football left in him and A guy who I cannot wait to get back out in the field. I'm not sure if it's gonna be in week one I doubt it with the injury that he sustained in the Super Bowl But all of that and more will be revealed and let's get into it And then I'm gonna go I'm gonna put Odell in here He's still got it. There's there's not a doubt in my mind that he's still got it In 2020 Odell Beckham, Jr. Fell out of the top 100 for the first time in his career 2021 was a bit different. Well, that's what happened when you don't get targeted, right? Well, he started it as a brown and Did it as a Super Bowl champion ran and Somewhere in the middle found a rebirth and tell you what that kind of emotion guys that kind of emotion You might call him a diva but You know, I don't think there's too much about that that screams diva to me.  Oh, Del. I saw a maturity works so hard Perception burst reality. What's that fellow's name? Weddle didn't he just get brought back at like age 37 as a safety to help the Rams out What's his first name? Justin Weddle What was it? It's gonna annoy me Eric Was never gonna get that. Hey, we know what you're all about. Go put on a show for us today I mean at one point he was Top five most popular athlete in the world It's a lot. So that's the way to get a poster done. You put it flat against the the barrier there. All right It's a lot man NFL guys, we don't you could put NFL Jersey flat against that and they might even sign it for you Typically get that type of stardom Especially as early as he got it when the guy gets that they're at Tom Brady's age or Aaron's age Rogers, right? Not as young as Odell was So that was a lot for him to handle it and actually let's look at some stats. He's been in the league for like what seven years and He is 29 so born 5th of November 1992 LSU for three years 2011 to 13 picked up in the first round of the 2014 draft pick number 12 went to the Giants then the Browns now the Rams and And yeah, but he's tween. He's 29 years old for God's sake. It's not over by a long shot Sometimes just to change the scenery right a new situation Sometimes all the guy needs Stafford to throw I'll tell you what a bit of a geographical change if you can afford it if you can manage it You know it can help in a lot of situations not just within an NFL Athletes Team environment it can yeah, I mean, it's no it's no it's no miracle cure. It's no quick fix, but it can help After joining the Rams help me tell OBJ caught 27 balls over the last eight games of the regular season Then 21 more over LA's playoff run It definitely stepped up in the playoffs. I Remember there was Dublin team in him and the Green Bay game and Green Bay plays a lot of quarters Want to see around like a slant and go? So you kind of split the double team because it was a corner and a safety that was both I mean technically responsible form in the sense And he was able to split them, you know, I catch the ball score touchdown And this is what we talked about that slant and go that they've been setting up all game I'll tell you what that is. That is the cornerback trying to stay on him But being just burnt by you know legitimate 4.4 speed. That's what happened there If he breaks the first tackle he's away Then it was like a primetime game and I'm like, oh, yeah, that's a hotel You know He's back to being himself and it showed up in the Super Bowl Right so he scored in the in the in the Super Bowl Catches Beckham had two catches for 52 yards in a touchdown before tearing his ACL in the second quarter Bangles rush for Stafford deals short juggled and drop and OBJ goes down. Oh, no If he don't get hurt that that that game hang on hang on Did the coach just say his a just blew how the how did he know it was the ACL game looks It looks a little different. I'll say because he was on fire and he finished out the Super Bowl He would probably you know had, you know, 10 plus catches couple of touchdowns under God's new couple touchdowns He would have definitely had his moment And he got his ring, I'm happy for him because he deserves it. Absolutely. And now he's truly commanded the respect of his peers Who doesn't dream of winning the well, well, well Jerry and Marge go large Obviously, I'm not in the right playlist guys. Thank you for watching once again It's been an absolute pleasure. That is OBJ. We're down to number 89. I'm not exactly sure who it is But all of that and more will be revealed in the next video. Thanks for watching and I'll see in the next one. Peace