Another day, another story of insecurity is bluggless, dumb as a rock, while Northern Leaders Forum throws its weight behind talks of impeachment against the President. And Ohanezin B. Will condemns shutecite policy in Southeast. Also, Pitalbi claims that there is a plot to blackmail him by a current state governor. This is Plus Politics and I am Mary Anacorn. The big question every Nigerian is asking right now is, where exactly is safe in Nigeria? Because a gang of robbers reportedly attacks the residences of the Chief of Staff to President Mohamed Bukhari, Professor Ibrahim Gambari, and an Admin officer, Abubakar Maikano, within the presidential villa, Aso Rock. Well, meanwhile, the Northern Leaders Forum have thrown their weight behind the calls for impeachment of President Mohamed Bukhari, warning Nigeria cannot survive two more years under his regime. Well, joining us to have this conversation is former National Deputy Publicity Secretary of the All Progressive Congress, APC, Mr Timmy Frank. Thank you very much for joining us. Thank you very much for having me. Great. I'm sure that you obviously are following the stories in Nigeria and all of the headlines, the crazy ones, the outrageous ones, and of course the realistic ones. And you obviously know that Nigeria is facing some form of insecurity. And it's not just now, as normal, you would hear insecurity, you would think about the Northeast, but now it's literally happening everywhere in the country. But let me start with the Aso Rock situation. They have been conflicting reports. Of course, when the story first broke, the two presidential aides on social media had conflicting reports. One said it was fake news. Another came to confirm that actually that story was true. When you hear that a house of an aide to the president or rather the chief of staff to Mr. President was attempted to be boggled, what kind of message is this sending to you as a Nigerian and for one who has been following all of the events that have been unfolding in the country? Yes. First of all, let me thank you for having me and I want to say good evening to Nigerians. It is very clear we did the conflicting reports that you just talked about right now. We did the presidential aid that should show you when a confused government, when you start seeing conflicting reports from a presidential villa, this is the first time we are seeing this kind of embarrassing situation that shows you they themselves, you know, they are confused. They are not united. They are not together. And that is why you can see under the watch of General Bukhari, Nigeria cannot be united because if it cannot unite its own house, unite its own staff, how can you unite Nigerians? So it is very clear that this is just, you know, a very clear embarrassing situation that in the history of Nigeria we have not seen where, you know, before today the presidential, you know, the presidential villa or maybe the Asur Rock, you know, have been boggled as they claimed. They said it was boggled and it is very clear that is to tell you clearly that this government is very incompetent. This government is not serious. So that could issues. But again, I want to tell you that what has happened, you know, for me in the other way around is bad. But in the circumstances we find ourselves today, I think this scenario has shown clearly that what they are suffering from today is the same situation of what they put in Nigeria. Because today I can tell you clearly there is poverty in the land, there is unemployment, there is kidnapping. There is hunger. The economy is zero. So that shows you very clearly that the people of Nigeria are tired and now they have decided to take the struggle, the struggle straight to the presidential villa. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry I apologize but I want to take you up on that.   You can't tell me that that's because the person is hungry. That shows our security system has collapsed. So it's not my fault or it's not the fault of Nigerians that our security system has collapsed. Let me tell you this, at the same situation, the common Nigerian suffers every day in their houses. You see criminals breaking into their homes. You see such kind of things happening. You know so if today it happens, Gambari is not the first on the canoe. They are all Nigerians. They are not bigger than the common Nigerians. So in today, I didn't see any reason why they should be on issue. It is clearly shown that they are the ones in power. That shows if they were doing the right thing, if they provided jobs, if they have greater employment, if they, you know, you know, beefed our security, we will not see this kind of case. So this is failure on their own part. I'm not saying this scenario is good, but at the same time, I'm trying to let you know this is what they created. So it is good for them to also feel the impact. So at that point in time, I think they are going to do something to the security system. This is going to, you know, to make them to really work hard to let them know that it is very important to secure Nigerians. It is very important to secure the Nigerian citizens. So now that it's happening to them, maybe security issues will be taking serious. All of this while security issues have not been taking serious. So I think this is the reason why I said this is the same in the other way around, it's not so bad for them. It's not themable. But this same stuff of people should do everything to secure the country. I'm curious once again, permit me. I know the president is the commander-in-chief of the armed forces. He's supposed to be, I mean, he's number one. But then the people who are supposedly protecting that parameter are supposed to be the ones checked right now, not Mr. President, he's not carrying a gun and walking around the parameter fencing of the Aso Rock Villa. So I mean really, can we also say that, okay, it's because Mr. President is not doing his job as a Chief Security Officer, that's why Aso Rock Security men are not doing their jobs? Is that even an excuse in the first place? It should be not be putting these people on the chopping board right now, not the President. The President is the Chief Security Officer of the country and the Chief Security Officer of the Presidential Villa. Whether the President carried guns or he does not carry guns, the truth is if the President has appointed competent hands, we are not going to be seeing this kind of shameful embarrassment. That is just the truth. Why did this situation happen under a general passenger when he was there? Why did a scenario like this happen under the late Shio Musa Yeraduwa? Why did the same thing do not happen under the former President Guglok Jun Nata? So this is to clearly show Nigerians that General Buhari is a failed general. So when you have a failed general in power, this is the kind of situation you are going to find yourself. That shows he does not have any intelligence background and I want to use this opportunity to say that I do not think and I do not believe General Buhari truly is truly a general because from the man of which he has been a general. What does that even mean? He was a general. You saw him. He was a military head of state and you saw him. You saw him be a general. So when you say you are not sure if he was a general, he has, I mean we were all alive to see him be a general before he translated to being someone who was in plain clothes. We've seen other presidents that are general, under general IBB, we did not see situations like this. This is colleagues, under general Sonia Bata, we did not see this kind of scenario, under general Abu Salam Abu Bakar, we didn't see things like this. So why under general Buhari, security system, there's nothing to write about. So it is very clear that his own general needs to be questioned. And first of all, remember this is a man that till today, till today, we've not seen, you know, a circuit to show that this man truly was qualified to be a general. Even the Nigerian army came out to tell the whole world clearly that they cannot even find a circuit.  But today we cannot, even Jonathan, that was not a military general, he has done better than security than Buhari. And then he said, you know, this was the same Buhari who were saying that, oh, when I come to power in six months, there will be no Boko Wara, when Jonathan was present of Nigeria. Remember, yes, there was insecurity, but the insecurity was trust only in the North East, trust like as he said, trust in the North East, but for today, tell me which part of Nigeria that he say, from the North East to his own village in Daoran, the president right now can tell he cannot even go to Daoran for 20 weeks. He cannot. The last time he was in Daoran, they went there to kidnap children and students when a city president was in the stone town. So that tells me this man has failed. And this man does not have the capacity and will. And let me tell you clearly, it is because the man is not in charge. He's not in charge. If General Buhari was in charge, he was, if General Buhari was truly the president of Nigeria, Nigeria will not remain like this. Well, he is the president of Nigeria. He was sworn in. We also, when he was sworn in, he's truly the president of Nigeria. He was voted into power. And he is truly the president of Nigeria if we're going by semantics. But let's move on to other issues. Anyway, let me correct you on that part. Let me correct you please on that part. General Buhari was not voted by Nigeria's. General Buhari is still the vote of Nigerian people. Nigeria's never voted. Well, either way, Inaq returned him. There was a conspiracy by the military. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. This is plugging a dead horse. Inaq returned Mr. President as, you know, the president of this country. So whether we want to debate that back and forth. Inaq is a corporate. But he is the president. He is the president. He's sitting. He is the president. And when this issue was, when this issue was up for debate. I'm not saying he's not the president. I'm trying to let you know this must tell the mandate of Nigerian people. That is why it does not have the experience and capacity and idea to lead the country called Nigeria's at today. He has been overwhelmed by all activities of the country. So clearly Nigeria's never voted Buhari. He's still the mandate of Nigerian people. And that is why today until General Buhari comes to apologize to Nigeria's. The same way Yeradwar did, you remember when Yeradwar came to power in 2011? After the election, Yeradwar told Nigeria's that that's why these circumstances have brought me to power. Apologize and I believe future elections will be great. Which means Yeradwar let Yeradwar that it's also from Kathina like Yeradwar Buhari confirmed that the election that brought him in 2011 was rigged. So therefore he assured Nigeria's of electoral reform. He assured Nigeria's that the elections after him would be better. This is what we expect Buhari to do until he start confessing his sins. To say look, I told the mandate of Nigerian people that Nigeria should forgive me for stealing from them. I beg you until he made that confession, maybe some of the troubles we are passing through today were not going to come out of it because it is very clear that that is the only way God can forgive us. So not just Yeradwar Buhari, including the INF chairman, Professor Mamuji Akubu, needs to come out to declare Buhari to win the 2019 election when we all knew very well that Yeradwar Buhari did not win that election. Alright, let's move away from this because we're not discussing elections today. In the current Yeradwar Bractite, we're using military to rig the election for Buhari. We will come back another day and talk about rigging of elections but let's talk about the insecurity that Nigeria is facing right now. That's the core of our conversation. The chief of staff to the president had come out in a statement to say that there was nothing to worry about after the incident because they said it was an attempted incident and it was failed. It was a failed attempt. It was unsuccessful. But then again, we all are made to know by reports that both the chief of staff and the admin officer have, as a result of this failed attempt, been prompted to leave their homes. So they're not in their homes right now, of course, because if something of this nature happens, it means that you have to check what's happening within the country. But let's move away from that as they're still trying to figure out what happened in Aso Rock, the south-west governors, I beg your pardon, have been having a meeting and today is the last day of that meeting. I'd like to give you some information as to what they spoke about. They spoke about restructuring. They talked about national dialogue. They refused open grazing and said it would never happen. Would you like to comment on some of these things, the issues that were raised? Yes. For the first time, let me thank the governors of the southern governors that this is the first time we've seen them desperate party lines to come together to discuss the issues bordering the country. I commend them for good job, but I want to make it very clear that I have seen their communique and I totally agree with them with their position, but we think as Nigerians that they should go beyond this communique. We don't want this to be lip service. We do not want this scenario to be where you just come and talk and there is no action. We want to see action. We want to see them coming up and take strong decision. And again, we expected them to come up with a plan to say, look, General Buari, you failed as the president of Nigeria to protect the citizens of this country. We expected them to take this kind of the same position. We saw the northern forum where they came up to tell us clearly that General Buari should either resign or be impeached by the National Assembly. So if his own king's men are calling the National Assembly to impeach him or General Buari should resign, I expected the southern governors should have us to as well today make a pronouncement by telling General Buari that you failed us. You can no longer lead. So therefore you should resign. We expected them to say you are not going to resign. But most of these men that you're making reference to are members of the same political party. I'm sorry to speak over you. Most of this men you're making reference to are members of the same political party with the president. I mean, there's no precedence. There's never really been a precedence where members of the same political party are able to point fingers at the president so loudly and so boldly. So I'm trying to understand why you expect that to happen. Is it going to be a magic or what exactly are you expecting? The same political party we're talking about. The southern governor's home is now made up of a PC members. We have 50 members, we have a PC members. So the truth is what is happening today in Nigeria is beyond empty seat of PDP. You must get it right. The people dying are the members of PDP alone dying. The people dying are just Christians alone. The people dying are just Muslims in their midst. So what are we talking about? The people dying are just APC members. Nigerians are dying. So this is beyond, you know, issues of PDP or APC. The truth is the president has lost control of the country. And today there is no leadership in Nigeria. First of all, a president that has surrendered is the sovereignty, whether we like it or not. To say, look, from the example, the president demonstrated he sent me after his phone call to the Secretary of State when he was begging, begging for the America to relocate the American base to Nigeria. That tells you clearly that you have seen that I cannot no longer do this job. My military Nigeria is no longer competent. Therefore, I need help from the United States of America. Please bring down your military to secure my country. That shows the president has failed. And I think this are some of the things that prompted his own king's men to call on him, you know, to resign, or let the National Assembly do their job. So if his own king's men can take this kind of situation, why will the Europe provide government no standard for the truth? Why would an individual government no standard for the truth? Why would an people government no standard for the truth? They are not representing their parties. You know, they are representing the people who elected them. The people who elected them have decided to say it's our time for the National Assembly to do the needsful. It's our time to respond. All right. Let me give you a response coming from the presidency today. The Minister of Interior, I think so, sorry, the Minister of State for Defense had said something today. I think he talked about the fact that most of us have been saying that there's this belief that the government is being overwhelmed by the insecurity in the country. But they're saying, and I like to quote him directly, that the government and its security agencies have the wherewithal in terms of personnel and firepower to crush insurgents, bandits, criminals, and other enemies of the Nigerian state. So what you're saying that the presidency is overwhelmed, the president cannot, he has failed our army, he's incapable, this statement from the presidency negates all that you're saying. They're saying that whatever you are saying is propaganda. You're trying to start a fire where there is none. My sister, let me tell you clearly. Your statements and the president has conflicted themselves. I'm not the one that demand for the Americans to relocate their military base to Nigeria. It was the same president, Buhari, who requested and appealed. He was even begging. So if the Nigerian military or the Nigerian security agencies had the will and capacity to defeat the bandits, to defeat Boko Haram, to defeat all kinds of criminal activities in the country, why would you have Buhari be beg for the US support? So that shows you they are confused. I'm not surprised. The president to give one directive, his ministers to give another directive, the governments of their Buhari, they are not united, they are confused and that is why you can see everything that is happening today is also part of the corruption in his government. This government is the worst government ever in the history of Nigeria. Today, every government official has taken advantage because to them, the presidency has no capacity to investigate them. So everybody has decided to loot whatever that comes their way. And that is why you can see it is very clear. All these are in go to the military. Tell me one sector of Buhari's government that is not corrupt. From military, it's very corrupt. You go to the cabinet members, they're all very corrupt. So tell me which sector. Can you give us proof? Can you give us proof on live TV because you're making these allegations of live TV and I'm having to plead the devil's advocate because the president is not here. Neither is Mr. Lai Muhammad or all the people who speak for the president. But you're saying that they have been looting. People in the president's cabinet have been looting their different ministries, departments and agencies. What's your proof, sir? I can give you an example. Let me tell you clearly. Listen, remember what I want to remind you. I'm not making propaganda.  These things are very clear. Look at what is happening all over the country. You saw what happened in NPA recently. The same government is accusing the former MTA of NPA of $460 billion. This is an evidence. We are reaching a recent time. How? You know, the Minister for Petroleum, to me, he was accused of different corruption. We've seen in recent time how the former government of river states that is the Minister of Transport wrote in a typical message has also been accused of corruption. These are cabinet members. First of all, remember some of these persons that Buhari made minister in his cabinet today. Some of them remember the majority of them have ESCC case before they became minister. Okay. I can give you an example. Like my own government. Well, out of time. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Even a minister in Kuhari's government that was prosecuting him. So what are we talking about? Great. Unfortunately, we have to wrap up. But I want to ask one last question. Recently, the presidency has come up to say that there are people who are trying to topple its government and some of them are within and some of them are without. And we know that you're not in Nigeria and you are a serious critic of Mr. President. And one would wonder if you fall in that category of people who are trying to overthrow Mr. President with your criticism. And I'd like to ask what party do you belong to, Mr. Timmy Frank? You used to be in the APC. Where are you aligned right now? Let me tell you before we leave. First of all, you know I'm not in a Kuhari's criticism. I'm just a reality. Remember one of the founding members of this party called APC before I resigned my position in 2017. So what party do you belong to? I can give you the history of APC. I know. What political party do you belong to, Mr. Timmy Frank? So I'm not a critic, but I'm just a realist. It is because I decided not to take part of this Catholic rule. Can you answer my question please? Let me say, I don't like to pass it in 2017, so I'm going. I know. So what political party are you aligned with? Do you have any intentions in the future to run for any office in Nigeria? I'm an activist right now. So you do not belong to any political party right now? Oh, yeah. I'm just a political activist. I'm just fighting for a better democracy in Nigeria. I'm fighting for a better future for the Nigerian people. I'm fighting to make sure I want to see a government that will form and keep corruption, not to promote or celebrate corruption. But today under the Kuhari's government, under the APC government, what they're used to do is to promote those that have polluted our resources. They celebrate criminals. And that is why nothing is working in Nigeria as a country. So but let me tell you, we are not just going to fold our hands to do, you know, to watch some of these people. Let me tell you what some of us were working on rights now before we go. First of all, we directed to make sure the members of the opposition party, the two minority leaders in the both houses, we directed them, we sent message to them to start commencement of impeachment of Tintinara Kuhari. Okay. But we must not wait. This is the time for them to rise up, to stand by the side of the Nigerian people who have asked them to come up with motions. Okay. To come up with an effective motions to everybody that has been accused. Remember today- We have to go, Mr. Frank. Mr. Kuhari government. We have to go. I apologize, but we have to go. Timmy Frank, thank you so much for being part of this conversation. Well- Nothing is happening. So we are not just going to sit down. We, Nigeria's industrial rights now, we are taking some strong measures to list out those corrupt people in this government. Okay. And I can assure you very soon, very soon you'll see a minister under Kuhari's government who goes to America, who goes to Lundan and they'll now come back to Nigeria. We need to go. We need to go. Thank you very much. Well, thank you all for staying with us. We'll take a short break down and when we return, Ohaniz indeed will warns the Nigerian government to learn from history by not fighting an unwinnable war. Stay with us.


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So, we'll get started shortly. Welcome to our community chat. Today's topic is the North Amherst Library. We'll get started shortly. So, we have a special guest host today. Breonna Sundrade isn't with us, but Ansel Mills is filling in, capably, for as our guest host, like today old Johnny Carson days. That's an old reference. Yes, it works. So welcome, everyone. And I will allow our special guest to introduce themselves. Paul, do you want to start? Sure. I'm Paul Backelman. I'm the town manager. Guilford. I'm Guilford mooring on the superintendent of Pollock Works. I am Charles Roberts with June Rital Architects, please. Thank you. And I'm Chris Farley. I'm a project architect with Cune Rital Architects. And I'm Angela and I'm pinch hitting today for Breonna. And our topic is the North Amherst Library. So we welcome everyone. I think we're going to do a quick overview. So Paul, if you want to give some updates. Sure. So, topic of the day is vaccinations on Angela and our team at the town manager's office and at the senior center and our COVID vaccine ambassadors have just been hammered with lots of phone calls. We've made it our mission to answer as many calls as we can and to return calls if people leave messages. It's quite different than almost every other community. And the 211 number at the state is just is crashing along with a lot of other things at the state because this morning the governor opened up vaccinations to people 65 and older, which is a very large population. And quite frankly, there is not enough vaccinations vaccine available to serve everybody. The other big change in the governor's announcement was that they are looking to funnel as many people as possible through the large vaccination sites in our area. Eastfield Mall is the large vaccination site. Other locations are in Danvers at Fenway Park and at the at Foxboro and at Gillette Stadium. This is not a path that we would have gone through. We think local vaccination sites are much more productive and more accessible to our community. So we are working to reach out to the state to see if we can continue to host and maybe collaborate on a regional basis to offer vaccines locally. You can also get vaccines at UMass, but it all is based on supply. If we don't have the supply of vaccine, we can't offer the the vaccines to people. So and the state is limited. I think they get over just over 100,000 vaccines a week. They don't go very far. There's hundreds of thousands of people who are now eligible. So it's a long, rocky rollout. We're doing a fantastic job. Our vaccine stations are doing, you know, we're, we're able to do hundreds of vaccines when we're able to be open and we have the vaccines in hand. It's a, it's a logistical challenge. So spent a little bit longer than I normally do on that, but that's sort of the thing that's been dominating us. It's the most important thing to our community is how do I get a vaccine? Who's getting the vaccine and making sure that it's efficient and as possible. So anything you want to add to that, Angela, because you're talking to lots of folks, what's the most common thing? It's been a really frustrating morning because the state is our conduit for information. They're rolling out the supply of the vaccine. And so to not be able to tell people where to find a vaccine has been, I think, frustrating for all of us. Good. So, Gopher, do you want to start or Charles, who would like to talk, give a little synopsis of what we're the North Amherst library, which is our topic of the day, which is very exciting topic. Gopher, do you want to just sort of give a sort of a little rundown on the genesis of this and how we get to where we are. I can do that. I just had to unmute myself. Okay. So this project started with some interest in the people in North Amherst. They acquired some money from the town through town meeting to do a preliminary study which has been conducted. And from that, we've moved forward. We have a donor come forward and fund the final part of the design we're right in. We're in right now. So, that's kind of how the thing got started. People wanted bathrooms in the library which there's no bathrooms now that are usable to the public. And from that this little project has grown out or we have accessible bathrooms we make the library accessible. And we have a small community room which can be used post pandemic times. And a lot of three people can meet in that little community room we're designing right now with the COVID restrictions but once the restrictions are up, you'll be able to be able to be used as a community room like it's supposed to be. So those are the three things that are two things that we wanted was accessibility to the library and bathrooms and we added in a community room as well. So that's kind of how this all started and got going. We're now in the design phase and schematic drawing phase and then Chris and Charles you want to go. Sure. Anshiel do you want to bring up the image. Thanks. Okay. So this is a view of the of the addition where we're putting on the library from the north. The floor plan will show you to sort of put it in the context of the existing library. But, you know, there's a couple of ways you can approach a project like this the North Amherst library is an important building. It's much beloved. And so when you think about adding on to it, you know, you can do something that's sort of very modern and complimentary, or you can do, you can imitate the existing library or you can do something where you sort of take the cues of the existing building and add on to it and create something that's new and has its own expression yet is kind of very much about the language of the existing building. The approach we took here. So this view is is from the the Northwest is coming in off of Thunderland Road towards a new accessible entry with that arched opening. And there's the the community media room is off to the right, I believe and then and then off to the left is the is the bathrooms, or maybe it's the other way around. It's the it's the other way that the the bathrooms are to the right and the community room is to the left in this image. Okay, thanks Chris. And so we're using we're using very similar materials to the existing library it's it's a it's shingle and painted trim, we're matching the roof pitch which is a steep 14 and 12 roof pitch, and we're using a durable roofing material in this case it's standing seam metal roof, the existing library I believe is slate. And so it has a certain kind of, you know, durability and and and timeless quality in that respect. And then the architecture itself is is is complimentary in terms of the way the windows are configured and the amount of windows in the building and overall scale of it. We're just trying to create a, you know, a welcoming inviting community space that is accessible has a meeting room and has new bathrooms as well. So maybe we can go to the next. Sure. Next slide and Chris do you want to walk through the plan quickly here for folks. Sure. So the, the lower kind of somewhat grayed out rectangle that's the existing library. And right near the bottom is the existing main entry this is on the south side. The new addition is going to be on the north side. And the new entry is is on the north there's a covered a covered entry. When you come through the main door, there's an entry lobby just to the left on this image is where the accessible bathrooms and storage and janitor's closet will be. And then to the right is where the meeting room is. There's a bay window to the north and a bay window to facing the east Montague Road. As Gilford said, post COVID, this room can probably comfortably seat around 40 people. So it's it's certainly big enough for a good community meeting. And then if you go through the entry lobby through the double doors into what we call the connector, which is the kind of square shaped space in this plan. There's a there's a main stair that goes up to the existing library level. The new addition is about four feet, three and a half or four feet below the library level. So it's a half light stair of stairs up. And then there's also a wheelchair lift, which makes just to the right of that stair, which makes the existing library level and stacks, fully accessible. Did you want to mention, then there's the stair down to the left of that it goes to the level. Good point Charles yes there's a there's a staff only stare down to the existing basement, which is currently being used as storage and the intention is that it will continue to be used as storage. It is not publicly accessible. It is just for library staff. And I guess the other the other important thing to point out here is including southern entry to the to the building the main entry that will remain, but it will no longer be used. Everyone will be coming in the the fully accessible north entry. And as you saw in the rendering, there will be parking, including accessible parking just to the north and a sidewalk of going between the addition and the new parking. The main entry will become the main entry. Another thing that's interesting about this designer, or is the fact that the, the addition can can function independently from the library. So the bathrooms and community room amenities of the addition can can be open, while the library is is closed so that it just it offers flexibility in terms of staffing and in that and how the two buildings sort of relate as one availability to the public, even if the library may be closed. Right. Okay, so as we open it up for the question and answer period I just wanted to remind people you can use the question and answer function. You can raise your hand and we'll bring you into the zoom room so you can ask your question and if you're on your phone you just need to press star nine to ask a question. And I see we have some questions waiting. I will ask this is in relation to the vaccines. If people make a vaccine appointment but there is no vaccine what happens their appointment. Sarah, that's a great question. My understanding is that we've only been booking appointments for the vaccine we have on hand. I know we postpone today's clinic to the 25th people are keeping their same appointment time, and the location is the same it's at the level just the date has changed to the 25th. So we're really trying to just make appointments when we know we have vaccine on hand. And so that's this is one where the weather and the other parts of the country really inhibited delivery. So our vaccine for today is still in Michigan. So we emailed everybody but also our team was calling all night, you know, all not all night but starting late afternoon and through through the evening calling everybody to connect with anybody who had an appointment today to make sure that they knew they should should not come in with them. They should come in next Thursday instead. And so there's another question that asked if the lift will go down to the basement. Yes, the lift does go down to the basement. Okay. So we have a question from Meg Gage. Meg, if you want to ask your question. Go ahead. Need to bring me in but anyway, thank you. Everyone this. First of all, I'm really proud of our town for how well we're dealing with COVID and just generally how well. We've just made a huge creativity and can do attitude. It's really, I don't know any place that's doing as well with the various tears and so on. So thank you town. I have a great suggestion that we start thinking right now about the nitty gritty details of how the community room will be used when the library is not staffed. And I'm really grateful, extremely grateful that the plan has always been that it'll be usable outside the 19 or 20 hours that their staff and we also know we don't want to be sort of subtly pressuring the town to suddenly hire more staff. So it's really, it's been so stretched. I can easily imagine thinking this through and thinking, gosh, we really can't let the public into a town building without any staff there. And there are all sorts of ways we could fix it with either docents who are highly trained or I just urge us to do that now so that it doesn't become a controversy down the road. And we really need the community room up here. We have a survival center on the weekend which when it's empty, we have to pay the staff. And we, we can go to banks but it's kind of far away or. Anyway, I'm really grateful to everybody for doing something positive during this hard time and it would be really easy to just pull a blanket over your head. I hope my suggestion is helpful. I'm not seeing it as a problem. I'm just seeing it as something we should address sooner rather than later so that it doesn't catch us unaware said, Oh shoot, this is a town building and people want to the public, you know, there have to be some restrictions on who can, you know, conditions or, you know, it's open all night long. Obviously, there has to be some plan and I'm sure we'll come up with one. Sorry, I should have said that briefer. I'm going to exit. No, I can't exit. Angel will take care of you. Guilford, you want to address that. You mute it though. My chair squeaks a lot so I mute myself a lot. We've kind of addressed this with a door entry system we're going to use the same key swipe system that's used in public works and then some of the recreation areas in town. And what we've done with the recreation areas is someone wants to use a facility. They can get the key, and they sign it out and they're responsible for it and they can open the door and they can make sure things locked up when they leave. And we're kind of leaning in that direction for the community room this time. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Good afternoon from Ludmila. What is the reason that the south entrance will be closed? It really has to do with accessibility, I believe, and the adequacy of the entry to sort of function and accommodate everybody. It's still available for emergency egressing. I think the focus of the design was really to draw people into the north, the north side for accessibility reasons and just for functionality. Charles, you're exactly right. The intent of the architectural access board regulations here in Massachusetts is that the main entry be able to be used by everyone. So it really doesn't, doesn't the existing entry doesn't perform in the spirit of these accessibility regulations where only able bodied people can use that southern entry because it's, it's, it's got a half a flight of stairs so that's why we're proposing moving the entire entry to the north side. The other reason is that the north side is where the parking is. It just makes it much more easily accessed. If you're in a car, even if you're in a, if you're riding a bicycle, there will be bike racks there as well. So we're bringing Mary and Mary, if you want to ask your question on mute and go ahead please. Hi, Mary Sarah from North Amherst and I agree with Meg on the COVID roll out of vaccines I'm really proud of Amherst the way we've handled it. About the library I also agree with Meg, but I wanted to know what the timeline would be on starting on it and if you have some hope of when it will, you know, actually be open because I love I love the plans I think they really address pretty much all the, all the interest we had in North Amherst. So thank you. Do you want me to run that down Chris? Sure. Okay, so we're just submitting the permit documents tomorrow to the town for site plan review. We're working on demolition delay of submission requirements we have requirements submission requirements for the conservation commission walls design review. So there's a two to three months period of permitting right now when the project sort of going through the town departments and boards. Once, once the project is completely permitted, we'll, we'll move into design development where we take the conceptual idea, develop it further add more detail, you know, sort of really get integration of structural systems together in the building and we'll get another cost estimate at that point. Then we'll move into construction documents through the summer and so the anticipation and the hope is that if everything goes smoothly and permitting is fine and cost estimates are all working the way that way we expect them to, we should be able to start construction. We had during September and start construction around the end of September beginning of October. So, kind of like an early midfall construction date. In terms of how long a building like this could take to construct, I would, I would think nine months to a year probably would be the time frame for construction. Just jump on that. So, yeah, so we have, we have, we have had a very generous anonymous donor who's given us money to get us to construction documents and at that point we don't have funds moving forward but we've been led that anonymous donor has sort of indicated that they're interested in seeing this project through to completion so that's very, very exciting to us. I think you're right. This is a nice little positive thing in this in this dark age of coven to see this project moving forward. It is a town project so therefore it has to we have to follow our procurement are permitting everything. And, and I also just want to know what we what we have folks here that we do have a, I have an advisory committee that has Guilford on it. Sharon Sherry that library director. Alex Lefebvre, who is a library trustee, Molly Turner who is a former library trustee and Laura Fitch who's who I see here today who is also an architect in North Amherst and there's a, they've had one meeting. We get more and more through the permitting process and start to talk about some of those nitty gritty details. They will become more involved as we sort of grapple with some of these things. So, I have kudos for the design team Sarah says very nice design and so glad the community room can be used after hours so thank you Sarah for your positive comment. We also had someone write in and ask will this project have to be a net zero building. So, Chris do you want to talk about this and sure more detail thanks. Yeah. So, we, we're approaching this so that this is net zero ready. We are designing and detailing it to have a robust envelope exterior walls roof and floor. All of the systems will be electric. The existing oil fired hot air furnace is going to be removed, and we're going to air to air heat pumps for heating and cooling of the building. The lighting will be LED lighting, which is low energy lighting. The, there isn't currently a photovoltaic component to the project. We don't have PV panels on site, but the, but the addition itself will be ready to receive that and I believe that we would get very close to if not meet the zero net energy, once PV panels are hooked up. I will say also it's my understanding that they're because of the size of this project there isn't a requirement that it be zero net energy. I don't know Paul if you if you or Guilford you want to speak to that. I think that that's the side, the value of the project is below what would normally trigger that. But with all of our construction projects we're moving toward it we want you know it is a goal of the council to move towards as much net zero as we can so we are implementing that. There's some limitations in terms of where do you generate electricity on site on this location and that's the challenge for this site. Right. You're muted Angela. Sorry we've just promoted Mary to a panelist and she's coming back in to ask her question. It looks like Mary is muted as well. Mary do you have a question. Sorry, go ahead. This is her husband Bruce Coldham. I'm sitting in, and I've been watching the progress of this project all the way along. A few comments, starting with Chris, Chuck, this is a wonderful piece of work. And I guess that extends to Guilford and Paul and the town as well because I've learned over my career that you don't get good projects by just having good design teams or good constructors you have to have a good clan as well and this seems to be the full Monty here so I'm going to cut us to all on that. Secondly, I really want to support the observation or the request that Meg made about thinking through the, the functionality of the community space. After hours with a way to lighten the load of the town, I was going to make some commentary about it extending down all the way to door hardware and things like that which would be part of the architectural and design teams. So he thought fine grain stuff. I wondered, I don't have a solution to this but I wondered whether the same sort of thinking could go to some way to facilitate self maintenance so that I know, for example, the we in this north end of town have been using the pioneer common house, which is offered a similar possibilities but it's constrained in all sorts of ways but I know that that the community has become quite well disciplined to cleaning up after them and so if there could be some thought given to how maintenance could be devolved to the user in a way that would be reliably executed. I don't know what the architectural implications of this but I guess they may be some, and this makes it. Let's try to think about them before rather than after if we can. Finally, so far as the solar potential of the site is concerned. My guess is that it would be standalone panels if they were to be on the north side. It would be a wonderful solar aperture on the north side, but that would mean that suitable conduit would probably best be run out a few feet from the building to facilitate that more readily even when that resource was harnessed. Thank you. So we have just a few minutes left and I know Sarah McKee has her hand up so Sarah come on in and ask your question. Hi, am I on needed now. You are. Oh great. Since the lift is going to go down to the basement. Oh, I, I love the design. I just have not seen it and I just went with delight when it first. The angles are right the spirit is right. I really like it. The lift, since it's going down to the basement, which is now used for storage. Does that mean that potentially the lower level could also be used as public library space. Chris, do we have enough headroom down there. It is a low headroom space and that would sort of be the one determining factor on that I think. I mean, the, the, the directive that we got was that the basement would be used just for storage and would only be accessible by library staff. I don't know, Guilford or Paul, you are you in a position to address that question. Yes. The good it's a very good question. The reason the lift goes to the basement is so that in the future if you decide to do something in the basement, there's not a need for a major change. It's easier now to make sure the lift goes to all three levels. And that doesn't limit you in any way. But the plan right now by the library is so they don't have to increase staffing is to not use the basement for anything but storage right now. But we haven't restricted the future use if something happens where someone leaves a nice endowment to fund the person who wants to work there or something like that. That you could possibly change how you staff the library and then possibly have that for a room of some type. So that's the reason why the lift goes to all three levels. So I'm looking in the attendees and I don't see any more hands raised. We are almost at the 1230 limit. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone. And this has been really fun. And I've enjoyed hosting and seeing the design and again kudos for the team effort. So I look forward to our next community chat. I'm not quite sure what the topic is Paul do you have a preview for us. We know who it is but I don't remember who it is. Well thank you everyone and thanks to our community for showing up and stay healthy. Thanks everybody. Bye bye. Thank you everyone. Bye bye.


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The Nigerian Navy is an intensifying effort to track down oil thieves in river states, so says the commander of the Nigerian Navy's ship, NNS Pathfinder Commander Suleiman Ibrahim. Ibrahim stated this during the destruction of multiple trunk lines connected to well-owned 17 operated by oil mining license that eaten belonging to the Nigerian National Petroleum Company in the Gemma League government areas of river states. The commander vowed that those involved in the economic sabotage will not go unpunished. Equally come with some of our heavy equipment to make sure we dismantle the illegal structures that are being used to siphon code illegally. That's what we've been doing since morning and if you look just around us you would see a lot of the pipes which have been recovered from the general area where they were illegally deployed. What I have seen here is a way way way beyond what I've seen anywhere the sophistication is outside this world you know the individuals involved if taking their time they've done a lot of measurements they've done welding on site and I think we already doing something you know attacking the people involved but I want to assure the general public that all of those involved in these illegal activity would then be arrested and they would definitely have their day in court. Earlier and wrote to the site four men suspected to be oil thieves were intercepted along the cranks with a local boat laden with diesel. On our way to this site we noticed that there was a big Kotonu boat which was loaded with illegally cooked agio then based on that as we always do we deployed an intervention gun boat which went down then they arrested all of them and they were equally going to hand them over to the persecuting agency so that they would have their day in court. We are really suffering it's not like we even like this job we like this kind of job but we are just doing it because we don't have anything to do sir please if there is any way you can help us I beg sir I beg sir we are begging help us sir we have lost of responsibilities I think my my my my my my girlfriend is pregnant and normal she's from Tieta state you have to pay normal you have to pay morning at least not to introduction before she put to bed but no money from Vienna. We do come here our our our own is to just get the product go back to the person that sent us deliver it we don't have anything in without pipe or crew we don't even know anything about crude oil what we know is the diesel or kerosene we have produced diesel we have produced crazy common by the agent will call us I have something we are just drivers will come to the police they load us we'll go back to Pottercourt hello hope you enjoyed the news please do subscribe to our YouTube channel and don't forget to hit the notification button so you get notified about fresh news updates


But how and why? What are the signs and hallmarks of a mentally ill family? Today I am going to review 13 of these signs. Did you notice that 13 is an unlucky number in all cultures civilizations and traditions, more or less, except in Judaism where it is a lucky number. The Baumitzva, the communion of Jewish boys, is at the age of 13. Good luck to them! So today unlucky families, mentally ill families, 13 signs, hallmarks, red alerts and warnings. Listen to this list and by the way apply it to your own family. Let me know in the comments. Take these 13 signs and ask yourself, is my family like that? If you score more than 6, your family is pathological, pathogenic, generates pathologies in its members, generates mental illness in its members. And if you scored more than 10, it's hopeless and you should seriously consider to go no contact. My name is Sam Vaknin and I'm the author of Malignan self-love, narcissism revisited. I'm your dysfunctional family online and I'm a former visiting professor of psychology. Let's delve right into this delectable topic. First of all I would like you to watch two videos, narcissistic families, pseudo-mutual and pseudo-hostile. The other video is toxic family holidays gathering, survival guide. I also wish to remind you that the full transcripts of most of my videos are available on a website and as an Android app. Just go to the description and click on the links. Description is under the video. The video is above the description. Got it? Boobot. Okay, 13 signs of mentally ill families. Number one, the family acts as a single organism. It is an enmeshed, merged, infused system. There are no individuals in such families, in pathogenic pathological families. No one is allowed to separate and individuate and acquire personhood. So all the members of the family behave as if they were cells in a multi-cellular organism. The family moves forward or backward as one, reminiscent of the military or total organizations such as a prison. These kind of families are exclusionary. They exclude outsiders. These families are xenophobic or paranoid, strangers, a suspect, are best avoided. They are the long arms and the representatives of a hostile world. There's a general perception of the human environment as detrimental and dangerous. Other types of pathological and pathogenic families are exactly the opposite. They are permissive, they are promiscuous or unboundary. People come and go, including strangers and outsiders. They just come and go. They enter the physical living space of the family. They parasite on the family. They use the family or leverage the family's resources. They bond with certain members of the family. They create coalitions and so some families are closed units, not open to outsiders, suspicious of strangers, rejecting an exclusive or exclusionary xenophobic and paranoid. Other types of pathological families are exactly the opposite. Open permissive, promiscuous. Both types of families are sick. These are two dysfunctional modes of running families. A balanced family, a healthy family, provides a modicum, some form of firewall against the world out there, but lets in relevant information, helpful people, interactions, socializing and so on and so forth. This family should never be 100% permeable or 100% impermeable. Number two, these kind of families, pathological families, mentally ill families emphasize appearances, not substance. They are perfectionistic. They are pseudo-hostile or pseudo-mutual. They present to the world a facade of love and care and compassion and solidarity while inward inside what's really happening is a kind of pernicious, virulent civil war. Or they present to the world a facade of hostility, rejection, suspicion, paranoia, xenophobia, hatred, etc etc. So pseudo-hostility and pseudo-mutuality, I recommend that you watch the relevant video, but these families are preoccupied with the way they appear to others, to neighbors, to peers, to teachers, to social workers in church, in the community etc. So preoccupation with appearance is so extreme that there is a total neglect of real substantive dynamics and there is an emphasis on never getting it wrong, infallibility, perfectionism, top marks, 9.5 is not enough. It should be always, always be 10. So this is a second sign of a dysfunctional family. The third sign, out of 13, yes, the magic number. This kind of family provides a selective interface between internal and external realities. Now, hold your horses. All families do this. All families serve as membranes. They let in, as I said, certain data, certain people and they keep others out for a variety of reasons, for example, a value system. But the mentally ill family, the interface that the mentally ill family provides is rigid, uncompromising, punitive and therefore separates internal reality from external reality to the point that they can never be seamlessly integrated. Does this remind you of something? Right you are.  Some people are all good, others are all bad. Some situations should always be avoided. Some sought after. Some vocations, avocations and occupations are disgusting, repulsive, low brow and should best be shunned. Others should be pursued because they are prestigious or whatever. So it's always either or black and white, good and evil.  The mentally ill family serves as a defense mechanism, writ large, and the defense mechanism is internalized, introjected by its members via the parental figures. It becomes an integrated or integral part of the process of socialization and acculturation because parents are usually socialization agents. They represent society to the children.  The narrative could be totally delusional, divorced from reality, paranoid, narcissistic, crazy, psychopathic, borderline narrative. It could be anything. It could be utterly insane, but it is rigidly and aggressively enforced. And the narrative is coupled with sanctions and punitive measures. You adhere to the narrative. You pledge allegiance to the narrative, time and again if you are a member of such a family. Actually adherence to the common narrative of the family is the main loyalty test and these kinds of families engage in loyalty testing time and again. Of course this is reminiscent of another type of social organization, the cult. Mentally ill families are cultish in the sense that it's we against the world, us against them. There is a very prominent perception and conception of the other and the otherness of the other. Number five, mentally ill families reinforce emerging roles and competitive hierarchies. Each member of these families is allocated a role.     You, etc.   These are all known as emergent roles. Mentally ill families allocate emergent roles exactly like healthy families. The allocation of emergent roles is common, is normal process in all families, but in mentally ill families the emergent roles ill match mismatch the children. So the wrong child is usually chosen for the role and then the role is enforced if necessary by violence. This creates competition, internal competition as some of the members of the family aim to transition from one role to another to usurp someone else's role. So there are competitive hierarchies in these families and there are arbiters, decision makers, judges, if you wish. The whole family functions like an extended court and when Kafka, Franz Kafka wrote his famous book The Trial, it might as well be seen as an allegory of such a family or to such a family. There are father and mother who are the judges or maybe only father or maybe only mother. They are the judges and the children compete and enlist in constant kind of jousting in an attempt to replace each other as the favorite or the golden child or whatever. Number, let me count, one, two, three, number six. The family, the mentally ill family places an emphasis on the ambient, on the implicit, on the hidden text, on the unspoken, on the unthought known. It's a concept which was first described by Bolas, B-O-L-A-S. This kind of family does not verbalize. More things go unspoken of than spoken of. Everything is in the air, atmospheric. You have to guess all the time. You have to decipher and decode. Communication is cryptic. It's like there's a cabal running things, like there's some arcane hidden knowledge, a mystery of sorts. This is this kind of family. It is penumbral and this kind of family is never overt, never explicit, and it imposes this vow of secrecy on all its members. You should not launder the family's dirty laundry in full view of the neighbors. Sunshine disinfects abuse. These kind of families are highly abusive. There's a lot of coercive abuse and a lot of implicit or ambient abuse, a lot of verbal abuse, and so on, so forth. So to hide this, they block the windows, they close the doors, and they devolve into the basement. They are basement crawlers, these kind of families. The family is in constant darkness and shade, terrified as if it were made of vampires, terrified of sunshine and its disinfectant qualities. Number seven, this kind of mentally ill family. Mentally ill families make use of emotional blackmail, ostracism, shunning or excommunicating members, wayward members, rebel members, defiant members, and as I've mentioned, lots of coercion. The coercion could be, again, verbalized, non-verbalized. For example, in many of these families the main instrument of coercion is unmet expectations. The parental figures promulgate their expectations, and if you don't meet these expectations, your punishment is to be ignored, neglected, ostracized, mocked, and so on, so forth. Now in some of these families, in extremis, the parents don't even verbalize their expectations. They just punish you if you don't meet them. So in many of these families the overriding expectation is mind reading. You have to read the minds of the godlike figures of your parents or else. There's always an or else. Everything comes with a price list and a cost and a punishment, penalty, and everything is transactional. Love is not unconditional. It's doled out in bigger portions, and it is subject to performance, but not just any performance. The performance that gratifies the parental figures, the performance that caters to their unfulfilled dreams and fantasies, the performance that makes them look good outside to outsiders.  Next, all mentally ill families, and there is no exception. I know you're going to be told that there are exceptions. There are no exceptions.  Wrongful intimacies are sexually and emotionally inappropriate, boundary breaching behaviors, inappropriate and unboundary behaviors. So emotional insist, actual insist, parentifying, regarding the child as your substitute spouse, creating coalition with children against the opposing parent, colloquially known as parental alienation. All these happen very often in mentally ill families, sexually and emotionally inappropriate families. Next, the mentally ill family is past-oriented or and or future-oriented. It is nostalgic. It idealizes the past. It grieves and mourns the by-gun era. It focuses on the past as the main venue for learning personal growth and personal development. Similarly, it imbues the future with an inordinate weight. Future becomes extremely important via fantasy or compulsive daydreaming or manic planning. So these mentally ill families live in the past or they inhabit the future, but they never, they never reside in the present, never. They are never mindful. They're never content. They're never in the here and now. They're always floating somewhere in the midst of time, past. They are what I call archaeological families or they vanish into the future and I call these fantastic families or fantasy-oriented families. Mentally ill families are sinks and amplifiers of negative effects. The mentally ill family places much more importance on emotions such as anger, envy, hatred, fear, resentment, criticism, self-destructiveness, defeat, failure, being a loser, etc. etc. There's much more emphasis on these negative effects, negative emotions and negative experiences in short on negativity rather than on positivity and positive psychology. Mentally ill families process negativity much faster, much better, much more often than anything positive and even if there is by mistake some penetration or intrusion of positivity into a mentally ill family it's immediately reframed as something negative. So I gave you an example. You come home and you say mommy I just got nine in the exam out of ten and mommy would say why didn't you get ten? You're inadequate. You're lazy. You could have easily gotten ten. How am I going to face my neighbors now? Your teacher, your father. So a positive thing, an accomplishment, a self-esteem building, building block, something that helps with your self-confidence, self-image. Your mother or your father would be sure to ruin it for you. They would reframe and convert it into negativity. Both the parental figures and the members of the family have no experience at processing positivity. They either catastrophize and as they say this positive thing is temporary and is likely to end up badly or they regard positivity as a form of faking something wrong, deception or self-deception. They become suspicious and paranoid when they are faced with positive things, positive events, positive accomplishments and of course positive people. Mentally ill families are negative. Mentally ill families allow for role reversals. Children become the parents of their parents, a process known as parentifying. I have several videos on my channel regarding parentifying. Children are treated as adults and there are expectations in accordance or commensurate with such treatment. I call this process adultifying. These are role reversals. The parents are the only adults. Even families that on the surface appear to be very equitable, egalitarian and compassionate are actually mentally ill families. So when parents consult their children as if their children should have a say because they are like adults, these are mentally ill parents. If the child is given latitude and freedoms which should be absolutely strictly reserved for adults, that's a mentally ill family. If the children are unboundary, spoiled, pampered, idolized, pedestalized and so on, that's a mentally ill family. These are all forms of abuse. Role reversals in mentally ill families are very common and actually in psychodrama we use role reversals. We use the technique of role reversal to undo the damage of mentally ill families, but I will not go into it right now. In the next few days I will make a video on transactional analysis and so on and so forth. There is a video on role reversal and doubling in psychodrama, techniques that I am well acquainted with and in my counseling I advise my clients to use, especially the more recalcitrant clients, more difficult clients. The members of mentally ill families are egodistonic, they're unhappy, they're unhedonic, unable to experience true pleasure, they're depressed, they're anxious, they're even suicidal or entertain suicidal ideation. They're always eager to flee the confines of the family and never look back. I'm mentioning this because these are the easiest signs to spot. If you see children who are perpetually unhappy, who can't be aroused by any type of pleasure, who are visibly depressed and anxious, who talk about death and suicide frequently, if you come across adolescents or young adults who just run away as far as possible and as soon as they can from their families, the family is probably mentally ill.   When you talk to outside observers, they would tend to characterize mentally ill families in single phrases.  So when you talk to the neighbors of mentally ill families, to teachers, to social workers, they all refer to the mentally ill family as if it were a single person.   These are the 13 signs of mentally ill families. Score your own family. And again, if you score six, something is seriously wrong with your family. If you score 10 and more, go no contact. This is a severely disturbed and pathogenic pathology creating environment. You don't want to be involved in it a minute longer than is necessary. And yes, honeys and honeys, you can go no contact with your mother, with your son, with your husband or ex-husband, with your father, with your sister, with your brother. No contact is a survival strategy. The survival should trump any family affiliation, especially if the family is out to get you.