Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem. I'm so happy to be with my wonderful group in California I love coming to visit your school and your mosque and meeting your families a few years back And we hope we can do it again and I'm so honored to be getting together with you to talk about Zakat and This is the book of Zakat of Ghazali is rather big and so there's a lot to cover But the book of fasting which we'll do next week is very short So we're going to get into a lot of personal talk and experiences. This is a very important subject And you all are going to be learning everything Imam al-Ghazali has to say about it even though it was written for adults It's so much easier to understand it in children's language And it's really important for parents and children now remember in all the different great Religious traditions of the world people are asked to give charity and to be generous and In Islam, of course, we speak of charity not just giving money, but even if you smile at somebody Somebody who said that's a form of charity, too But Zakat is something it's a amount of of money or goods Maybe you're a farmer and you have grain that's given every year to those people who are in need but it's a very deep subject and talking about being generous And what all that means and charity Actually is something all these ideas. We're going to talk about today are really useful in your daily life and not just useful They're really important. All right in book one you all learned. All right There are three basic needs people have what is the first the thing you need more than anything to be alive Can anyone say? Water water and food. That's the first thing and next you need clothing Right on your body and lastly, we need shelters to keep us safe from the rain and the snow in the sun It protects us now people now Have gotten so involved in what they eat They cook all kinds of complicated things that takes hours and then clothing We all have lots of clothes clothes. We don't wear and then houses Oh, we've done so much more for houses than we even needed. We're like redecorating them And Emma Moghazali says you have to watch You have to watch out because you shouldn't spend all your time just taking care of your body, you know, oh You you have to really take care of your golden heart and you all have been studying the golden heart from the very beginning so But before we get into how exactly, you know, you give and what Incredible things are you have to think about every day around your friends and family Is first before we get into the actual charity of Zakat, I'm going to tell you something really a story Remember remember in the books we have Hajj Abdullah Remember the children go to Hajj Abdullah and he talks to them and he answers their questions from the Mamal Ghazali All right, so he tells a story and it was a Ghazali story All right, he tells a story which is really important for you because it will make you understand What it is to be giving. All right Once upon a time, they're these children and they're going on the merry-go-round. Do you see the children on the merry-go-round? Ah, and do you notice that there's some children on the other side of the fence and they're looking They wish they had the fen the five sets to go in the merry-go-round, but they don't have enough money to So the children are very sad when they see this and they run to Hajj Abdullah and they want to ask him Why are some people rich and some people poor? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Yeah, you see some people have money and some people don't you sometimes seen beggars in the street people who have Cardboard signs up asking for money for food, but on their way to see Hajj Abdullah They pass a beggar and he's saying Leela Leela Leela, he needed help and they rush into Hajj Abdullah and they say oh Hajj Abdullah Why are some people rich and some people poor and there's this man saying Leela well Hajj Abdullah says To start with you know a law made everything in opposites day and night Good and bad rich and poor if a law wanted to make everyone rich He could have made everyone rich, but there's a reason for rich and poor All right, and he said now that man when he sang Leela Lea means two things it means for the sake of God and it also means it Belongs to God already. You know kids when somebody dies people say inna li lahee We're inna elehi Rajahun Surely we belong to God inna inna li lahee so he says Children take this money and give it to the beggar and then come back because if somebody every Children if someone reaches out to you, do you ignore them or do you help them? Maybe they don't put their hands out. Maybe they just look lonely in that way They're reaching out. Do you ignore them or do you go and help them? So anyway, of course that you do and so then they come back in and Hajj Abdullah said all right He said all right isa inna in Naya and Zahra and Isla and Jibril and all you children and your mothers and fathers did any of you now I'm asking you this Hajj Abdullah is asking you this did you give yourself?  He's given them for you to use and give back in a good way So if you do something good, can you take credit for it or or is it that Allah? Gave you the good ideas and the strength and the wherewithal to help so we can't take credit for what we do You know and this is very important to remember that what we have is only on loan and a little boy said to me He said auntie. He said if I borrow a book or if I borrow somebody's Legos It's easy to return it because I just borrowed it right But guess what then you go to give something you didn't borrow and you have a hard time you feel I don't want to give it. It's mine. I don't want to give my good truck. It's mine This is a problem. So then Hajj Abdullah says I'll tell you two stories Imam al-Ghazali tells in Order for you to understand how to give when you all give and how not to give What's really bad way? All right, so okay one day. There's a king And this king is really a law right al-Malik and this king goes to a rich man who has fields and plants and animals and he said oh Abdullah had There's a poor family in town and they need food Would you take them food and he says no, no, no. Well, look, these are my lands. I tilled them I take care of them. They're mine. Why should I give to those poor people? They should work But he's wrong, of course So he goes into town and he takes a plate of food and instead and he holds it up high Look at how he's holding it way up high and the poor people are reaching up They're needing to they feel poor they feel Low because they have to reach up they have to beg him and they're also worried what if next time he comes to town Maybe we'll have to take care of his horse. Now. Maybe we are beholden to him You see so then is that the right way to give or the wrong way to give everybody? Wrong exactly. And so then one then another time, right? Wrong and then the king the king says all right The king says he goes to a man called Abdelhaq and Abdelhaq was an orphan and these nice people They raised him and they taught him about money and banking and all this and some and the king goes to Abdelhaq and says Yeah, Abdelhaq There's a poor widow.  She needs money to send her little children to school Okay, now you're gonna find out the correct way to give. All right, so He goes to the lady there. She is you see and he puts the plate of gold load. You see he holds it low and He says to her oh Blessed lady, I beg you to receive The money I bring on behalf of the king not my money I bring on on his behalf in order that I might give back some of what is being loaned to me in other words When we're giving maybe She can send her children to school But the real thing is happening is you the greater thing is you are obeying what Allah has asked And you are returning something of the loan. He's given to you now next time you give I want you to think about that. All right so now In that story you're getting some important principles Do you think we can be proud and stuck up and say I did this I have this we can't We have to be humble because Allah gave it to us to use on his account We weren't given things just to I mean, of course, we're having some fun in our life But also the thing is I'm gonna put my glasses on So God has given wealth to some people and made other people poor for a reason now hmm, did you know that Zakat, you know how important it is to pray everyone Zakat is the highest duty after prayer and In fact prayer and Zakat are mentioned together in 82 verses of the Quran, right? Establish prayer and give Zakat. That's it's so important and you know why it is Because giving Zakat Purifies your heart. Do you remember children the book of knowledge where we start out? You've all got two hearts, right? the physical and the spiritual your golden heart and Your golden heart gets dust on it But you have to polish it off because how can you go to Jannah? How can you finally be happy and content if your heart has dust on it? So one of the best ways to keep your heart clean is charity is giving and did you know if you do naughty things or bad things?  Guess what?  You've given charity. All right, so it's to purify your heart and just always remember It's everything we have is a loss. It's not ours, right? So why should it be so hard for you to give it? Why should we be greedy and hanging on and hoarding what he's given to us particularly if there's somebody who has need? By the way, you know what a hadith is that's something the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him said Here's a very interesting hadith. All right One of the Prophet's companions Abu Dhar said I came upon the messenger of God Sitting in the shade of the Kaaba and when he saw me he said by the Lord of the Kaaba.  Do you want to be a loser? No, that would be a terrible thing and remember in the book of knowledge We're told the things you absolutely can't do that gets the most dust on your heart being greedy being angry being Envious, you know all those all of those things you don't want any of those things Because what you are doing if you're greedy and you're full of pride and you're angry and you argue, you know what you're doing You're actually saying you're putting yourself first Do you think in the Prophet Sunnah that we're trying to copy? Do you think he ever kept the best for himself? Do you think he was angry all the time and greedy and do you think that he wasn't generous? No, so aren't we trying to be like him? Isn't that the whole point? What Imam al-Ghazali is teaching us in these wonderful books? He's given you is ways to not only copy the Prophet and outward things But in us in our same kind of golden heart, wouldn't you like to have your heart like the Prophet? Or would you like to have your heart covered with all kinds of smudges of of greed and envy? so now um Now there are you know with Imam al-Ghazali. He says everything we do There's an outward way of doing it and an inward Remember with wudu you can just wash your hands and rinse your mouth or you can be saying Ya Allah Help me to do the right thing. Ya Allah forgive me for what I said There's an inward thing you can pray just running through your prayers You've memorized them or you can be present in your prayers So he is going to tell you some of the inner meanings of zakat Now even if your parents are paying money and you are not aren't there many ways you can also be generous and giving to So you you need to be giving all the time and you're going to understand why and and so All these things that you're learning about zakat you can apply in your daily life from right now All right. All right, so then There are different kinds of zakat that have to be paid right and they're also good manners when they're giving it And also they're different types of people that should be receiving it Now to give it to give zakat. Okay and picture this in your own life giving something You first have to have a good intention Like you're playing paying zakat. You would say I intend To give zakat tomorrow when you pray. Don't you say no way to a solo? I intend to pray the aster prayer. Don't you say that? Isn't intention near very very important and secondly with zakat You don't wait a long time to pay for it You rush to do it because you don't want people who are hoping to get food for the eat Who are in need you don't want them to feel sad and anxious and also you have to remember The reason you're doing it is not just to send some food to people or give people who are poor extra money who need it You remember this is a part of worship that Allah has said is this as important as prayer So now do you see why important it is how important it is? so of course We know that the prophet obeyed Allah And that he did the zakat and so we have to obey what the prophet said and how he said it should be done All right, so then So even remember even know You are helping people by giving charity or sharing your toys or helping your mother right The real the real reason you're doing it is it's like the widow right who received the money You by doing it you are actually returning something of the blessings Allah has given Back to him right don't you want to do that?  Because they were given to you just on loan. All right so and then also One of the other things in giving zakat Usually it's a good idea to give to the people in your own town Imagine in your own town that there's some people who don't have enough and they see you sending money to another country Not that we don't have charity all over the world But particularly at the time of Ramadan And the groups of people the kinds of people your parents will be giving to are the poor People who are needy People who help distribute zakat Uh prisoners who are deserving People who are in debt they borrowed money and they can't pay it back Then there's those people who are struggling To tell about Allah's way to other people and then there's the traveler These are some of the categories that your parents will be giving to and people you can help too And remember this is a duty imposed By god and god Is wise and you're going to see why this is so important right? So normally let's say you're going to be giving yours a cat You're your mother or father and they find three or four groups that they know of so they take each group And they divide it. Let's say they have people who are simply Have debt and they owe money They they divide those group into three groups and they divide their money into three different sections So it's spread members the cat is not in Islam just paid by people A big company's let's say Amazon or mobile oil if you want to if you all have a charity and you want donations You can go to amazon if there's an amazon in a muslim country and say When you go to give your zakat this big company consider our charities So the wonderful thing with zakat is with everybody giving every one of you I mean women sometimes think I have a lot of jewelry which I don't use and it's worth this much So every year they would pay two and a half percent on that jewelry which is not moving So everyone and the companies so it gets all this money going back into the world and getting things moving and helping people now Now Now we're going to get into a really deep thing. Let's just talk about you all giving Maybe you want to give oh, we have a lot of afghan refugee families in our town Do you have any afghan families that have come now to where you are? Because they're coming from that terrible war torn place No, you don't well, we have some families here and they need everything. They need a clothes washer They need toys. They know because they need food, right now. Um We do we do I bet you do now one of the important ways to give Right Is we do it? Humbly we don't go and feel really proud There's a family here.  Make them feel that they have nothing in their poor. No, you wouldn't do that So the state of our heart remember children. We're working on our golden hearts Isn't that the most important thing we're all doing every day all day long with everything? So the way you give Let's say Even the way say your mother needs help in the kitchen and you go to give her help, right?  Because really you can't you can't give her enough help You know, we don't help our parents as much as we should think of all that they're giving us so of course Golden heart is what has to be thought of right and remember. All right, this is important You know how we talked about how we get the dust on our heart One of the tests you know, did you ever take exams or tests at school? You get a test One of the tests of how good your heart is Is just see if you're greedy or if you're really generous just watch your hearts everybody, you know Because we we we and know let's say you do something really horrible Guess what? There's a hadith that says if you did something not very nice Immediately be charitable give something and that will wash it away. Isn't that wonderful and also, I mean we have So many bless blessings.  What would happen if you didn't have eyelashes? Well, things would get in your eye. It'd be terrible Do we it's we should say alhamdulillah. We have eyelashes So we should also be thanking Allah for all of our blessings Not just that we have food and clothes and wonderful parents and we're being educated But we have eyelashes. We have fingers. I mean think of all the blessings we have. All right So now There are different There are three different types of people see which kind of person you are These are three different types of people who give all right Right the highest type When we go back to the time of the prophet peace and blessings be upon him Did you know that his companion abu bakr? He gave everything he kept nothing back for his family right And and the and the prophet said what did you leave for your family? he said god and his messenger and Said no Omar another one of the companions. He gave half of what he had Now that's a very high group Then there's another group These are people who have just enough money to live and they keep just what they need and a little extra in case they should be A big problem. Someone needs an operation The car is broken and they kept and they keep a little more for charity and then they gave the rest away right Right and they keep some for their relatives, but you see Very few people are even of that category, right? and um, so in a way Being generous really is testing our generosity Just watch yourself and see how much how much you don't share or you don't give or you don't help And then the imam imam all gazali said and then there's the third group They pay only what is exactly asked for the cat and he said Sadly most people are in this category.  There's a problem sometimes you have a greedy thought let's say I've got a box of candy. I'm just going to hide it in my room. I'm not going to share it with the family You have a greedy thought Isn't that sad to even have that thought what could you do to fix that thought just overcome yourself?  My father has a big car. We live in a big house You know, those people are poor you don't want any of those feelings of being proud And and and having bad desires and being greedy you have to polish it off And one of the ways you can do it guess what you can do everybody Get in the habit of forcing yourself every day to give something away Just go into your toys and you've got lots and don't pick your worst toy Pick something you love and give it and all of a sudden if it becomes a habit every day It'll make it easier for you to be generous, right? And it will help to polish your heart and it will give you also not will it just polish your heart? Guess what everyone you'll feel of a special joy a special joy Because you're giving and look how generous a law is to you And i'm speaking to parents here and to myself. This isn't a children's program. We're doing today And another thing another reason we give saka Is to show our gratitude for all the blessings that we have right now Let's talk about our physical bodies, right? When we worship we pray we use our bodies to pray right when we fast We use our bodies. We're not having water and food So these are ways that our body can show thanks for all of its blessings But then we have also to show thanks for all of the blessings we have like let's say, all right, you have eyelid. Look at that You didn't have an eyelid. What would happen to your eye?  This is like the windshield wipers on your car Imagine if you couldn't blink so we have so many blessings we have to thank a law for And then you know what if you get used to giving all the time And be grateful my dears that we don't have to beg have you seen people ever who were begging who were in need? Maybe you haven't but they're out there lots of all those homeless people We have to be so grateful. We didn't end up being born one of those people right and so If you get your greed used to being washed away You'll find yourself filled with joy and light. So you're also going to feel a lot of joy, right now There's some other inner dimensions, right all right, so The reason you want to hurry to pay your zakat Or hurry to help your mother or father or your grandmother is also You you should take joy in obeying a law if a law says it's wonderful to be charitable to people Don't just do it. Oh, I've got to do it. I want my heart to be clean I'll just have to do it You should be joyful being able to do it. You should be you should rush to do it not delay So also be joyful in your charity, right? And it's you know, it's a good idea also to do anything You know remember we studied in the book of knowledge how when you have a good thought It's the angels inside of you and your heart telling you what to do and you don't want to ignore the angels and also you know Remember that we want to be examples for other children and other parents and if we do things joyously You see they will copy us and maybe that little boy thing. Oh, she gives joyously. She runs to help her mother with joy She's not just dragging herself in to help or he So then you remember that 40th chapter in the book of knowledge Allah Imam al-Ghazali reminds us we're all teachers and remember about teachers teachers Did you know that the ants And these fish in the sea all pray for the good teachers and the angels take their wings And like stroke the good teachers. So everything you do every day.  We copy our teachers. So be good teachers, right? Okay, here's the next very important thing everyone We don't want to Give things so that we're impressing people. We're showing off Imagine you go and tell oh, I just gave I just gave 10 dollars to that charity Oh, so in other words, you're showing off and you're bragging that you gave that money It's it there's the prophet said peace and bliss blessings be upon him God does not accept the good deeds from somebody who reminds others of the favors he has done for them, right? Hey, I just gave my doll to that poor little girl. Oh, I just shared with my brother No, no, we're supposed to we're supposed to keep these things to ourself, right? The prophet said peace and blessings be upon him when a servant does some good deed in secret God records it as a as a good done in secret, but then if he shows it It's moved from what is secret to what is public and if he talks about it It's moved from what is secret and what is public to what is done out of a desire to be seen So are you doing these good things to please a law? Or to impress people and you want to be Seen and praised so anyway, we want to be careful the way we give the manners in which we give, right? Okay, then another important thing is um Now sometimes we we we give money in public Let's say sometimes. I'm sure you've been to an auction At a mosque and they're raising money. Let's say to build to build a new mosque All right, so I'm going to find a picture here And uh to build a new mosque and so a man raises his hand and says I will give a thousand dollars Okay, he's doing that in public But what is he really doing? He's also Giving other people a good a good example, you know a good example. I'm trying to find a pic this picture to show you all Anyway, ah here here's a picture Here's a mosque that's being built and here's a man writing a check And at the dinner party where they're raising the funds He gives a good amount. He's encouraging other people to do the same But we want his intention to be helping not to show off, right? Isn't that important what his intention is? right all right then next thing um so um Because you remember remember the story of the king and the poor widow right now remember when Abdel hawk gave the money to the widow and he held the gold low and he looked up in her face and said Oh black blessed lady. I beg you to receive this. You know what what's really interesting Is she said it must be very hard to be rich now? This is very interesting because sometimes being poor Is superior to being rich because when you're rich there are many dangers Remember we talked about even people some people only give the exact set cap amount and don't give any more They're not they're really still being greedy where their hearts are not open So the difficulties of rich people are more difficult than for the poor because rich people Have so much wealth when you have so many toys or you have so many blessings and you're holding all back You are actually in trouble. That's amazing dust on your golden hearts, but then Person that has nothing if you give to them they feel grateful to Allah, you know, so in many ways, right? Um The people who are also poor are giving us an opportunity to purify what we've been given So that's um, that's quite something all right Yes, gazale says Don't forget that the poor person all of you listen to this Is actually doing us a favor by accepting our charity and purifying ourselves agreed, right? So even if there's something you can do in the house, maybe your grandmother needs help Maybe your father needs help. Maybe there's picking up some something in the yard Maybe Helping clean out the basement whatever it is. All of this is something you all can be doing, right? And it's very very important very important and you should do it joyously and is giving back some of the blessings you've got All right, so then um another duty Don't remind people that you've given them some given them something you could go back and say Oh mother, wasn't it great that I helped you the giver shouldn't ruin the charity by reminding everybody of the generosity Now these are some sometimes you all may feel pride, right? Very proud, right? And so here are some ways you can keep from being proud, all right This is let's pretend you all are going to be giving some charity or your parents is going to be giving Giving some zakat, right? How can we keep from being proud of what we're doing and feeling satisfied? I gave the money I helped Do you have your hand up? In Naya, is your hand up? Would you like to say something if you were okay? So if you had like a lot of siblings, okay, parents were mentioning all what they did Like like if they were like writing down a contract of what they did Yeah Homework or something. Yeah, and then you said what about me? I did this also Would that be considered like Bad, no, I think not. I think in that case you would want to be recognized for keeping your contract with your homework. Yes I think it's more bragging about what you've done, you know Because I think in that case you should be recognized for doing the correct thing, you know, but um um Sometimes this is very interesting Let's say let's say, um Oh, all right, here's a good example You have a neighbor who's not well And so your mother cooks a big meal and takes it to the neighbor. All right now She could say look what I cooked for you. It took me all day, right? Or she could say Here's a little something, you know, she could make small of it. It's a little something I'm bringing See that is the better manners than Getting all this extra, you know bragging about it, you know, and also This gizali says there's two things here when you give charity you should not only Realize it's small what you're doing. It's very small what you're giving But also we should feel shame that we don't give more You know, think of all the toys. Let's say you might have And you take one to the afghan family you should feel one That i'm giving very little of what I have and two you should feel a little bit of i'm shamed I didn't give more these are ways that we've been given to really look at ourselves We think we're doing so well and we're so good and then we notice how ungenerous we are So imam al gizali is just showing us a really, um inaya these Really subtle little things that we do. Yes, Sahra So, um, I'm visiting Pakistan because some of my family lives there. So I'm in Pakistan right now. Okay. So I was saying, um Sometimes some people come and ring the bell Ring the bell of our of my grandparents house To ask for money. Yeah Uh, according. Yeah, go ahead keep going. Yes, uh-huh Yeah, and then, um One person rings the bell because they can't work here They're too old and the other person like has like three kids and like doesn't her flower needs flower Yes Well, according to what we're studying If someone reaches out to you you don't turn them away The way I look at it in my life, there's people in need everywhere But the things they talk to my door to my hand who reaches out to me who calls me up That's what I'm being given to address You know, not that we don't send funds for people in other countries that are in trouble that um Imam al gizali does point out that when people reach out for you, you don't you don't disappoint them You know, it's very embarrassing and also if uh, if people There's a picture of that too Here's this man He needed something and she very humbly she gives it to him. He reached out and she gave it to him So and of course, there may be instances where you can't give but we're just talking about the general principles of being generous I love these examples. So you're in pakistan right now right this minute I love your country I've been there many times. I've been to lohor. I've been to kweta. I've been on a camel There's a desert you have called the trollistan desert down near Are you? I've been to carachi. Oh, I've not been to carachi, but I have so many friends there. Is that where you where you are right now Yeah, yeah, that's where most of my family lives One of the things I love most about pakistan are those big trucks that are all painted And they have the jangles on them. I like them so much. I took hundreds of pictures of them I just love it. Okay, so we've got this principle down kids and parents and mothers and dads me all of us Whenever we give notice that we are not really giving enough And that really we should feel shame and these are things that imam all gazali recommends Is ways of helping to cure us because you know from being so proud We should feel shame So um and he says and how can we feel proud of giving what doesn't even belong to us but belongs to a law Remember all of this is a loss So why do we feel proud of giving stuff that's just on loan to us? That's just an imam a trust, right? And then he says and we're getting to an end here But i'm you we're learning lots of things here all of what we're saying today You can use every day in your life, right? so You know you you you want your heart to feel humble and feel shame, you know Imagine if someone left something oh and also remember this is something Imagine if somebody lent something for you all for safekeeping Somebody has loaned you something to keep carefully, right and when they asked for it back You held it back. You didn't give them all of it. Can you imagine? Well, that's what's happening a law gave us everything and when he sends a beggar to your door or someone in need Or an old person who's sick who needs help if he sends us those things And we hold back and we don't give what's not even ours that's on loan to us That's kind of shocking isn't it and it's a whole other way of thinking about it Imagine a law gives me everything and then it's time for me to return some of it and I don't You know, even there's a beautiful hadith I heard years ago Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says When I was sick Why didn't you visit me When I reached out to you from the street for a handout Why didn't you give to me what it's being said here is the sick person and the beggar are they are A law is in there throughout everything and when you don't give to that beggar and don't visit the sick you are not Addressing a law's presence in them. That's kind of a hard thing to say. Yeah We hold back for ourselves. Now. This is something kids Maybe not in pakistan, but the culture is in the west People are judged in these countries by how much you have not what you're like He has a big house. He has big cars. He goes on the big boats. Oh, wow, he's important, right? But the real thing that should impress is the state of being he has a good heart He never misses his prayers. That's far more interesting far more important And the problem is you grow up in a society where everybody is Judging you by how much you have rather than how much you are, but don't be tricked by that, right, right? Uh, you know Then another thing too, um Ah This is kind of tough Let me do it. Um, there are people raising their hands. Oh, I where where are they? I can't see them because it hasn't popped up on my screen Do you have a question go ahead and ask it I actually have a comment A comment. I would love to hear your comment. What is it? Um, I actually went to this Um donating place and I donated stuff to the homeless Oh, that is wonderful. Did it feel good to do that? Hmm That's wonderful. That is so wonderful You see you're just returning that loan all these blessings that have been given to you by a law That's so beautiful to hear that that Yes Your Omar Yes, salamu alaikum. Omar. Tell me about you Um, what if we have a lot of toys and we don't donate it? So and we don't donate some of our toys Well, that's what we're talking about today The reason we're all gathered is to learn how important it is To share some of all the major blessings we've been given So maybe you can look at some of your toys and decide who needs them who would be maybe during Ramadan There's some families that could use some extra toys Yes, Inaya Um, if you have an intention to Doos if you have like an intention to give charity charity How does that still count? Yes, but then you have to go through and do it as well have the intention and then give it because What what if you what if you don't have anything to give? Okay count Yes, it's good to have those intentions. Let's say you were really poor and had absolutely nothing right But you intended you wished you could but remember charity can also be a smile If somebody's sad and everyone can smile, right? Everyone could be kind. It's not just giving stuff It's even Listening to someone who needs to be listened to with being present for the other person Wouldn't you say there are many ways what other ways young people can you be giving without giving actual stuff? What are some other ways you can give? we could We could take a walk and Look around to see if there's any poor people and we could we take some like money and give it to them Very nice. Wonderful idea. Yes good in Naya, yes um, what if like um What if you get make do offer people? That's wonderful That's giving isn't it. That's very thoughtful I love that. That's a wonderful thing and sarah. Do you have your hand ups sarah thuli man? Or or not Other ideas, okay, let's just say you're in your room And you you've got the door shut, but maybe there's some ways you could help out in the house with your family What are some ideas zahra? Well, I actually have a question. Okay, go ahead So what happens if like you're giving money to a poor person and like they uh They throw the money at you and they're like, I don't need this go away. I don't want you in front of me You know what it doesn't matter What matters as you've learned is that you gave right? It's the giving you it's all it's not even them receiving it. It's that they have given you the opportunity to give right? But also another thing is sometimes I don't know if this is an india or pakistan, but some in some place like in the subcontinent They're like these people who like take kids and pretend that they're like Orphans and then they put them on the street and then they say like No, we want money and then My mom told me that sometimes but not all the time You know what that can happen, but you've learned from the story What matters is that you are giving with a good intention. What they do with it afterward is not your problem Whether that widow used the money to educate her children isn't the issue The issue is that she offered an opportunity for you to be generous None of us want to get Get involved in some scam. Did we no we didn't but you know, be we use our good intelligence Safra, what are you saying your hand is still up All right, I'm going to tell you a few more ideas and we'll have some more questions and answers And I'm going to show you some more pictures. All right. Um Okay at the end of our lives when we die, okay, let's pretend we're all old and we're about to die, right? Um And what we wore the clothes we wore and what we ate that's all gone. Isn't it? That's gone But what we gave away Will last forever the very act of giving of transmitting what a law gave to us that lasts forever And the Quran says oh you who believe right? Given charity from the pure and wholesome things you have earned And from that which we have brought forth for you out of the earth and do not go after what is bad, right? To give it in charity When you yourselves would not take it except with eyes closed what he's saying you there is Don't give away your worst say you have some vegetables and there's sort of rotting ones and you give those away You wouldn't give away your worst It's very important to give the best and that's extremely hard to do, you know, there's a story I'll show you the story here is that Um Yeah, but The children remember the children in the story their grandfather was a beekeeper you see that And when it was time to give us a cat He had some very special honey Do you know we were beekeepers and there's a kind of honey you get which is orange blossom They take the beehives and they stick the beehives in the Orange grove and then they take the orange honey out and it's so delicious That you never see it for sale in school Because beekeepers keep keep it for themselves. Well in this story the grandfather said Oh, I give my best And it feels good to give your best because what's the point of giving stuff that you didn't like very much And it wasn't that great anyway, you know and another thing We told you how important it is to give with joy and respect and kindness and here's another thing You got to keep this in mind too. You have to be aware when you're giving to people, right? In the cat You give to different types. You give to pious people who are really humble and really pray really good There's a story of that gazale tells of a time Time when aljanade lived nearly 200 years before in Baghdad And someone was giving money to this grocery store and he gave to the poor And then one day The grocery store didn't have any money left. So this man gave to the grocer so he could keep giving Another type of person that your parents will give to let's say imam al gazale He was spending all of his time writing wonderful books for you He would be a good type to give your money to there are other ways to give money Because you want him to keep writing. You don't want him to just have a kind of job. You want him to be able to do that and then It's also you want people when you're giving money to them to understand that this is not from you But they know it's coming from a law, you know, and that's important too Sometimes they're people who have lost all of their wealth and they don't grumble or complain about it They have a dignity and that's a good type to give to And then they're people, you know, there are people out there your family must know I'll talk to you in just a moment Hassan people who are ill, right? And then there are people who are taking care of them That's a category of person that would be good to help, right? You know, the people who are ill and who are supporting them and then, you know, relatives, you may have relatives They're all kinds of categories of people that you need to give to right And you know, um, of course as you do it It's purifying your greed from your heart, but also the people you help They may say oh Omar.  So you also get blessings, which are wonderful. All right, uh Zahra you want to say something and then Omar Zahra Yes, you want to speak your yes. Yes, Zahra Um, it was sorry my sorry actually i'll re-enate myself Okay, we'll let we'll let Omar speak Omar. What did you want to say? No, I was I also um used my brother used to want to say something too. Okay, use it Um, so what happens if you don't really like Life the money you have and then you get minutes really good What do you think? What is your what do you think? I think I would give I think that's wonderful Okay, I have two pages left. Let's finish it and then we'll go back to questions now also Another another kind of person you would help are people who are in debt. Do you know what it means to be in debt? You owe money You maybe don't have any money and you promise to pay the grocery store later and later and you get more and more debt Yes, yes, Omar. Yes. That's the type you would would give to um One oh once my teacher she told me I think it was one of my friends or my teacher She's that um Uh her mom Uh Is she uh her mom used to say that um to give it your your favorite blanket Donate your favorite blanket Because because you'll get a more uh a reward from Allah And we've just talked about that good for you bringing that up. It's hard to give it But if you just gave it you just did it you'd feel so great afterward and of course maybe the person that You know would ask a lot to bless you for that, but you would also have the joy of Of being your highest self you being you the golden heart would give its best, right? right, and so also, um we Ghazali says we all have many cares. We all have all these things we're worrying about We're worrying about this and did we get the neighbors and did we do the food and did we invite the people and did we We all have so many cares and and imam al ghazali said you should bring all the cares into one big care That you want what you do To be a way of worshiping Allah, which is really beautiful and then another thing is that let's say Somebody gives you a gift, right? Now, of course, you know, that's coming from Allah, right? If they give you something But you always thank the person who is the go but who is the go between between Allah and you Um, and the prophet said peace and blessings be upon him He who does not thank people does not thank Allah So that person who is you don't knowing it's all coming from Allah That's fine, but you want to thank the go between the person who does it So the donor someone who does a gift or pays the cat, right? That person is thanked, right? And then lastly Also, there is um Different levels of charity, you know, there is the voluntary charity that you all can do anytime, you know Satan isa jesus peace and blessings be upon him Upon whom be peace said if someone turns a beggar away from his house with nothing The angels will not enter that house for seven days That's why when Zahra was talking about these beggars who come to the door It must not be easy. I mean we have a house in Cairo and it's the same thing But now we're understanding that that that it's very important not to turn a beggar away And then oh, this is a beautiful hadith for all of you listen to this The prayer brings prayer brings you halfway down the path Fasting brings you to the door of the king and charity puts you in the presence of Allah Now that's really quite something right that Prayer prayer is very important and fasting is very important But to be able to really give and that's coming straight from your golden heart that puts you in the presence of god, right?  So you see it's very important now also This is very important everybody These are treasures in heaven right Giving there's another way you can be very You can give charity and spot being silent.  Oh, I'm so sick. I have a headache I'm the do you think that's very charitable to people or do you think it's too much for them to listen to all the time So if you're silent about your illness, then there's the hardship Oh, we fall on our times. My son broke his bicycle. My daughter broke her arm Just complaining complaining complaining If you are silent about those hardships children, right and don't complain about them That is also a form of charity and lastly silent about all the good you do, you know Oh mummy, I I did so many good things. I helped my brother today Of course, you'd love for her to appreciate that But you can also realize that you were doing that in order to return Your loan and your blessings to Allah and there's a hadith which says If Allah had willed he could have made everybody wealthy and not a single poor person No one coming to zahra's door and karachi But he tests some of you by ways of others So we're all getting tested The poor person maybe he gets turned away His patience is tested and then when we don't give to someone who's in trouble or needs our help or attention or love Or needs a kind word or needs let's say kids. It's your school There's some children who are left out and nobody everybody's mean to them Ah, wouldn't that be giving to go and include them and make them feel good? We'd want to do that, right? So what is being said here is Allah made some people rich and some people poor And they're really deep reasons that are beyond what the human beings can understand Both are blessed And both situations by being both poor and rich Are real ways to polish the heart, right? And Of course giving in secret now this one thing that might happen you all okay.  Hey, I'm giving my sweater So what's happened to the little girl who's receiving it? She's feeling embarrassed and humiliated and then the other kids may be feeling envious I wish we were getting the sweater so by doing it in public Showing her generosity she could have met with the girl in private Or just put it in a bag with the person's name on it and put it for her to find But the problem is if you take credit for it and also you might embarrass the person receiving it Have you all ever been in a situation like this where somebody got something and you envied and you wished you'd gotten it too Have any of you experienced that? You have yeah, basit says he's experienced that, you know Yeah, you want to protect people's dignity. You don't want on look You don't want the onlookers to be envious or Backbite at all this because oh, wait. Do you hear this children? This is an amazing story The imam al ghazali mentioned that there was a man in his town. Now listen carefully to this Who didn't wear his best clothes when he went out because he didn't want Other people to envy and to think how we all put on our, you know The great shoes that everybody wishes they have and the Nike gosh knows what and the t-shirts that have this logo and we go out But there might be people who see that and they feel oh, I wish I had that too So that's something imam al ghazali talks about that's very important Um And he says Really we have to ask ourselves. How can any of us all of you here? How can we write continue with looking down on children?  They're poor. They're a beggar You know, we all have golden hearts And we have to guard our the honor and dignity of ourselves and others In in private and in public So anyway I'm going to show you some pictures And that's the end of today's lesson. It was very long, but you see how important it was Very important. Okay. Let me show you some other pictures Okay, here is a picture of A family that are poor getting cicat. These are the people Your parents will rush to give quickly because they shouldn't be made to wait. They're in need They need the food and they need the dignity Now look at this little boy. He's sitting at home And he's taking some of his toys and there's a donor box at school And he's thinking what can I share and give this could be you And it'll be very hard for you to give something that you really love But if you did it, you will feel amazing because it'll be your golden heart doing that. All right I have a question.  Isn't that really hard to give it's a good question many times I keep those things that came from family and mean something I have a ring on that my great grandmother gave And I keep it But honestly the truth is probably that dear person who gave you that Would feel doubly blessed that you gave that thing you love the most away and I'm not saying you should do it But I'm just saying the amount of blessings in there is that's an amazing question. You've asked anisa That's right. Here is a little girl who is showing off that she's giving doesn't look very nice, does it? And if we see people showing off and we think it's awful, we shouldn't show off ourselves, should we? Because then we're just we're no better than we're no better than what we were talking about And here's the little boy He's returning the Legos But he kept some behind him the little boy said can I have my Legos back and he didn't give all back And that's like what's happening a law has given us all this And then we hang on to it And this is one of the types of people that your parents would like to give to A person who is pious and remembers the law and she's starving and has not much You want those people to be able to continue in their worship in their lives? These are some of the types you give to as you can see it's account has many dimensions, you know many dimensions Now I want you all to respond to this Say you saw saw somebody like this at your school I want each one of you to tell me what would you do and why would that be charity? All right? What would you do? Okay Everybody's gonna respond to that Yeah, yeah, Naya go ahead um, so I would help her I like Like making like helping her Like doing stuff to make her happy. That's wonderful. Yeah, obviously she said something's happy. Okay, and uh, uh, zahra, what would you do? And then Make friends with her Very good, and anisa she needs friends anisa go. What would you do? First I would ask her what why was she upset? And then I would try to help her in whatever way I could of course you would and omar. What about you? I would ask her what happened and then I could uh play with her You see there you are right away and when you do that. Are you acting from your golden heart omar? Wouldn't it feel good doing that?  That's my brother. Oh your brother. Yes. What is your name brother? Issa issa. All right issa. What would you do if you saw a person like that? What would you do? Yeah You'd help her up good. Can I talk? Yes. Yes, please go ahead and talk. Yes. Go ahead I would invite her to play with me and Ask her what's wrong and Help her That's so lovely. That's so lovely. Thank you so much. That's so beautiful So guess what everybody we went way over the time Next time we will make shorter, but guess what next time when we do the fasting That's short and we'll have it'll be fun But there's something I want you all to do between now and a week from today One of you okay to write three ways In which you were especially generous and you did it in the right way And I want all of you To talk to your mother and father and ask them about their sakat and see if they're doing it in the right way And ask them did they consider the categories and all the rest? So you have you have to have one question You're going to talk next week. You're going to talk about your family giving sakat Some of the ideas that you've heard and then you're going to talk about three things Where you actually acted from your golden heart and you overcame your greed. Yes, Anissa But wouldn't that also be like bragging if we said that? No Not in this case. We are a class and we are encouraging each other. This is in case of We are all being honest. We're on a journey together We are beautiful little golden hearts traveling hand in hand and we are helping each other by incurring each other I I overcame this greed and I did this anyway, you know And then others will feel wow if anissa did that I can do that too. You see All right, so i'm gonna say salamu alaikum to you all and I can't wait to see you next saturday And we won't go over but I want you all to think about all the things you've learned today And our dear brother munir is going to make a copy of this recording and maybe put the pictures in it Rather than stuck up with me holding them up and um, I just really loved meeting all of you and bless you all And there's adam and ibrahim. Did you all speak adam and ibrahim? Did you you didn't speak?


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It's almost time for the Kentucky Derby, but why do we call it a Derby? Okay, so it all started in 1778 with this guy, the 12th Earl of Derby in England. He and his friends were having a dinner party and they wanted to create a horse race. He actually flipped a coin with a buddy to see who got to name it. Luckily Derby won because I'm not sure the Bunbury has quite the same ring to it. So since 1780, the Epsom Derby has been run in England and it's considered their most prestigious race. Fast forward to 1872, Colonel Maryweather Lewis Clark Jr. made his way overseas, attended the Derby and wanted to bring the same type of race to America. He came home and founded the Louisville Jockey Club and the Kentucky Derby has been run since 1875.


Hey everyone so I wanted to share this week's new releases keeping it kind of simple this week I was expecting the cards I'm talking to my girls to send my Facebook group and I think they'll be here either tomorrow or Saturday they were set for Monday so if they just happen to come Monday I'll just put them out there on Monday but this is what we have I want to get into this kit first because this is our only kit so far I'm doing another kit I'm gonna start doing monthly kits so you'll have a monthly kit that's just good for the whole month and maybe I'll do one kit a week a new release a week and you can probably add on to the monthly kit so you get this deco sheet and this is called the self-care rituals and I was gonna call it rituals but I didn't want anybody think it was like the Monarch or anything like that and I know people are into crystals so the girls are into crystals and sage and this is this is for you and self-canning with your you know crystal short oils and all that great stuff so you get your crystals flower towels oils hairpins lotion safe stick another flower oil dropper I think that's the massager and this is a massager and then this is the rest of the kit now explain I changed up my format a little bit because I wanted it to be functional like all the way around because this kit is mainly you can use this in your other planners your bigger boxes but these these measure 1.25 by 1.5 and that's so for those who want to use it in their rain planners or their pocket planners whatever they should fit and wouldn't take up too much room or like if you use the cloth and paper vertical weekly these should fit in there and shouldn't take up much room and you can still be functional in your planning so that's the reason why I like to use the 1.25 by 1.5 because I didn't want to take up a whole box but again you can still use this in your other standard planners and you should have probably white space around it but that's the reasoning and so this is it and you get your regular how my regular kit is but this is the new part to the kit so I got rid of the half circle boxes because the to me this really wasn't being used so I'll make like half circle boxes the scallop boxes that you can just purchase but you still get your corner flags but I just instead of having a row of them I just moved them side by side you still get these flag stickers here you still get your bows on the paint swatch but what I did was sorry I added another one of these again I wanted to be more functional and then I took the icons and made them a little smaller and then double them double them but you won't always get the same thing so I've updated the icons so I'm a go across them just a little bit more some of the icons they you have a car a present a weight your dinner plate television grocery cart balloons printer house cash cooking pot underwear there's will be place underwear camera trash can I call this notes pages telephone I call this zoom meeting scissors for a haircut a grocery bag with food in it a piggy bank a clock Instagram icon gas cell phone and envelope and then it'll start a little bit again with your car so I tried to incorporate things that you would need more than one time a month but made it like functional so you get another car you get like your watch for your workout watch you get a spray bottle I had a spray bottle begin with but I just got rid of the bike part of it and just left the line a broom or destined broom a scale I'm garland some more on balloons a coffee cup credit card the cash again another pot fingernail polish another camera trash can another no page another set I mean so another telephone zoom medical computer another piggy bank another clock vacuum another television cell phone and iron so these may be updated on a regular basis but I wanted to kind of give you things that you use regularly and more often throughout the month and I made them a little smaller so that you can you know put them in your pocket plan is put them in your smaller plan is but they can still go into your regular planner so I think I like this layout better and I just want to make sure that you get more icons that was just my thing I wanted to get more icons I'm updating my icons so I'll be updating my icon sheet and it will include these but it'll get rid of a lot of the older icons more black icons that I had so now let's we've gone through that so sorry about that so we have the LV cups coming as I explained I think last week I didn't think the I've had this artwork for a while and I didn't think it would go with the LV stuff that I've been putting out but after printing it I felt like it actually went better than with what I already had besides I guess the gold you know in the cup so now I just made a whole new LV cup this is going to be the gold cup and then I'll keep the regular LV because a lot of people like that one so I'll keep the two also they'll be featured on two different types of paper premium mats you know you're clear and your regular mat now I will say that the color payoff will be different I just moved it but do understand like this is only regular mat on premium it may be more vibrant it may be less vibrant or unclear it'll be a little more translucent so the color will be different according to your paper but I'll make sure to put that in the description box okay next up we have LV pink for my LV girl so I didn't really like the washi on the LV kit last week so I took that off but I wanted to offer you another version because I've had this artwork and I need to get it out so I want to offer you another version of LV for my girls who like LV and pink this is for you and then you get your coffee cup and then your coffee cup and some shades and purse and a whole situation over here so these are smaller sheets so they of course will be less than a regular deco sheet and then we have LV light and then the LV light is pretty much the same thing but you get like two suitcases here because the artwork was just a little different and then this is what you get but they'll be around the same price okay so that's so far it's all for the new releases again the summer I'm not some well it's pretty much the summer of the July kit will be up going forward it'll just be like the July kit so from now on each month will be a monthly kit but I'm very pleased with the new format of the regular weekly kit so let me know what you think and I will talk to you guys later bye


Hello everyone. So today in this session we're going to talk about breastfeeding assessment form. I do recommend that this form we should fill out while mother is in the hospital during PNC time. She's generally in the hospital anyway between 24 to 48 hours depending about you know which area she comes from. But by and large you know they are there at least 48 hours or so. And this particular form will tell us whether she's capable of breastfeeding her baby or not when she goes home. And what I experienced from our FMCH days that babies who had good latch, babies who had good positioning, those babies were definitely gaining good weight. But babies who had poor latch or just nipple latching, mothers were not holding the baby properly, those babies were gaining less than about 25 grams weight gain per day. And you know and those babies were the one which we were not seeing good results on the growth chart. So what we did basically once we started using cross little hold in our program you know we just added few points in this WHO breastfeeding assessment form. So now we call it modified breastfeeding assessment form and extremely important I also recommend to use this form not only during hospital time but when baby goes home in the community. So if you were running NGOs, if you're part of a government you know organization I would definitely recommend that you use this form at least for first 10 days or so. Now what we do in US is once the baby go home in US really by and large baby goes home by 24 hours. So on day two or 48 hours of age they come to the doctor for check. So for weight check they come for they also come to check for jaundice. I'm not going to talk about jaundice here but I will talk about weight and then we continue to see that baby every 24 to 48 hours depending upon the weight. Okay also jaundice of course but if supposed to weight gain is tremendous and baby is not putting on weight obviously we know that you know the latch is not good or mother is not feeding on time or all that you know. So this form will kind of tell you what is wrong with the baby okay and the mother not just a baby but basically the breastfeeding techniques and breastfeeding counseling.  Okay so here on the left hand side you take to observe favourable behaviour and if it's not favourable you will take it over here I'll go through each and every point but this is what I recommend okay and suppose you're seeing the baby every 24 to 48 hours if weight gain is good say around 30 grams 35 grams even 40 grams in fact I recommend 40 gram weight gain then you know you don't need to see that baby very often maybe then as per your HPNC guideline then you can see the baby you know as and when if you're in private practice then you know maybe at two weeks you want to see again and then probably at six to eight weeks for the first dose of vaccination okay but at least for first 10 to 12 days till you are confirmed that my baby is gaining 30 to 40 gram weight gain per day please see this baby every frequently very very frequently very important for those first 10 days when mother is learning to last the baby okay so let's see what we're going to examine so the first thing you're going to examine you're going to examine general examination of the mother so you want to see whether mother looks happy healthy comfortable whether she's enjoying so that's what you want to see right a lot of time when mothers come to us they are like very stressed sometimes they cry sometimes they are sad you know sometimes they're unhealthy they are they're fever you know so you want to look at the general health of the mother whether she's comfortable or not or whether she's unhealthy sick you know of course if she looks unhealthy you want to take it over here okay if mother is relaxed sitting straight with the back support so while she's breastfeeding you have to examine that also okay this is basically checklist so again in US we use all the checklist so pretty much your WHO has also created checklist but we have just added a few more points okay so here you want to see how mother is sitting her posture whether she is sitting with tense shoulder whether she's leaning over the baby whether she's kind of bending forward you know without any back support because once you're filling out this form you'll know exactly what points that you're going to counsel her okay and that's why you will not miss a single point so you don't have to remember a lot of those points you have the checklist ready so just make copies you know and then use it in your program okay the third point is whether baby is being held securely or not or close to her or not okay so you want to see that also whether baby is close enough to the mother or not okay also you want to look at the confidence level because lot of time now mothers they don't feel confident especially in first few days so you want to look at the confidence level also whether she's mother is holding the baby nervously and whether baby is kind of a little bit far from the mother okay then you want to see whether she drank some water or not so of course you know lot of time when she used to come to clinic she didn't carry water or sometimes we didn't have water so obviously she didn't do that but you know in ideal situation you want to see whether she remembers to drink water or not okay then also you want to look at if mother is wearing loose clothes or not while breastfeeding because as I told you in my previous session that lot of this mothers what they do is they just kind of lift up their bra you know and then tight clothes and then you know all the pressure comes on their breast okay so you want to kind of tick mark that also because you will have to tell her if she if she's not wearing loose clothes if she's wearing tight clothes then once you pick it over here at the end of breastfeeding session you know assessment session you will know what all things to tell her okay now once the mother's examination is done then you want to look at baby okay so baby whether baby looks healthy or not whether baby looks sick whether baby's alert baby's sleepy you want to look at that also whether baby keeps sleeping whether very sleepy child okay whether baby turns and searches for mother's breast whether baby looks disinterested so you want to look at general overall picture of the baby also okay then the breast examination is important breast examination what you're going to look at you're going to look at whether breasts are soft whether they are filled before breastfeeding or not so whether there is any milk or not you want to look at that okay sometime what happens that breast becomes very hard they become very gorge so you want to look at that also whether breast and gorge or not okay breast issues healthy rounded up pecotins you know that also want to see in breast examination the breast is stretched drop a droop you know bruised crack any red redness any abscess any inflammation tenderness does it hurt or not so all that you will have to look at breast also then in early part of breastfeeding you will see that there will be milk ejection okay now generally we don't see milk ejection after maybe probably post six weeks or so you know because what happens that once the milk is adjusted as per baby's requirement you know you don't necessarily feel a lot of milk gushing out when the lead ground reflex occurs okay so but in initial days in first 10 12 days you'll definitely see as soon as she starts breastfeeding you will see that the other side of the breast is leaking too okay those are signs of milk ejection and there is no sign of milk ejection then I mean you know obviously you want to make sure that psychologically mother is doing okay or not because once suppose if she's very you know who do I say kind of scared or lack any confidence or she's stressed about something then she will not be able to have milk ejection okay or if she's in pain or she has a lot of crack nipples you know she will not be able to see milk ejection okay then you want to look at the position now in my last session I went through detail about positioning of the baby so again I have taken those exact same points for here also for this form so here you want to look at mother's kind of body is close to baby's body so basically tummy to tummy this is what that you know one of the point of positioning whether baby's tummy is touching mother's tummy also all right and if if it's not then basically the body is probably twisted you know the stomach is lying upward towards the sky okay and baby's probably held too far baby's head and back hip and leg is supported in straight line okay so not only in the straight line but you want to make sure that they're fully supported and which is pretty it is definitely possible in cross little hole only shoulders heads are supported and baby's body is twisted okay so you want to make sure that you know you look at very very important examination again is look at the positioning of the baby okay those four points are as I mentioned to you earlier four points are really important that's what we're going through right now then third point is your near of the nose so near of the nose near of the nose is in the line of nipple so make sure that the nose doesn't come to right in front of the nipple it should be near of the nose okay so near of the nose coming in front of the nipple a lot of time what happens I again explain to you in my last session is that the nose is coming directly on the nipple or if the nose is too high up you know too lateral to the nipple lateral means more on the side like this because baby's in a horizontal position right so if baby's too high up the nipple and what would happen that baby will have to flex the neck okay so you want to make sure in that situation what you do you just pull the baby more towards the other side so the neck will get flexed okay so that's important also you want to make sure that when mother brings the baby to the breast the chin is forward chin is chin forward means the neck is backward so so the neck is extended backward this is chin forward okay so you want to make sure that mother brings a baby chin forward and of course a negative sign you will see that the chin does not come forward the whole face comes to at the same time okay so the chin does not come forward baby comes just like that straight okay all right baby's face is completed towards mother's breast now this is very important point because you know somehow I see all the all the mothers even healthcare workers they have this tendency to tell mothers or you know they put the baby more the face is more towards mother's face you know and that will not give a good attachment so just make sure that baby's face is looking directly at the breast and not looking up okay so this is another point that you want to mention okay now here there is another point which I have put in is basically about if baby's feeding on the right side upper lip is at nine o'clock position and lower lip is at the three o'clock position so suppose this is my right side okay so I want to make sure that when I bring the baby to my right breast you know the upper part the upper lip will be more at a nine o'clock position and the lower lip will be at the three o'clock position okay so and in this position your lips are completely vertical and this vertical lips are important because you will be holding your you know mother will be holding the breast in a three o'clock and nine o'clock position okay so you want to make sure that in that position your lips at lips upper lip is right in front of the thumb and your lower your thumb is in front of fingers okay so in that position they have to be parallel so obviously you know both of them have to be a three o'clock and you know upper part should be a three o'clock and the lower lip should be at the nine o'clock position okay and then about the latching part latching while actually one more thing I want to also mention to you while we're talking about three o'clock and nine o'clock position suppose if baby is kind of oblique okay so in an oblique position you will notice that the upper lip will be at around say 10 o'clock position on right side and the lower lip will be at five o'clock position so you want to make sure that they are not oblique or they are not in a in a different angle you know just keep the baby absolutely horizontal so the lips fall on three o'clock and nine o'clock position okay all right now let's talk about latching part latching and you know mouth positioning not mouth positioning but basically kind of suctioning of the suctioning action of the mouth so in latching basically you want to make sure that your mouth is wide open minimum 120 degree so we recommend between 120 to 160 degree but minimum should be at least 120 okay mouth is not open believe me my in my experience when babies did not open their mouth wide those baby landed up only on nipple and babies did not have enough you know suctioning of this thing so the latch was not good latch was very superficial so that's important that you tell mother to wait till baby has that big wide mouth then only latch the baby okay a second point in latching is basically look at the lower lip okay now remember I told you that you have to examine the latch okay I don't see many healthcare workers or medical officers examining the latch just because they are not used to it I don't blame them but just make sure to it's like you know how in in medicine we always examine the physical examination is very very important right so while you actually examining the latch just by looking at the mouth you won't know okay you have to put basically you'll have to examine by pressing the breast where the lower lip is okay you deeply kind of push that breast inside and look at where the lower lower lip is okay so here the lower lip is at the border of area or on the breast when the area is small okay why like lot of time you know there are different sizes of area so if we have small area then your lower lip will be coming on the breast if you have a big area then by large you'll see that the full lower is in the mouth and then so the lip is sitting at the border of area okay and in a negative behavior you will see that lower lip is sitting just below the nipple or it will may not be just below the nipple but it will not cover the full area latch okay so this is important that what you're looking at then third point is I find it kind of very crucial in my practice I want to make sure that when the baby's latch baby's so deeply attached that the lips and your you know chin is not at all visible okay that means you have a very deep attachment so what you can do is you tell mother to push that baby more into the breast so that you know the full breast kind of covers the lip and the chin but when do you tell that only when there is a deep attachment because if suppose if baby has a poor attachment suppose baby's a shallow attachment and baby's only latching on the nipple you will see that even you push it you may not realize that it's only small mouth like 45 degree and it's only nipple which is latching so that's why it's important to examine that latch with your eyes okay and in that examination three things are important okay one is how big is the mouth where exactly is the lower area line lower lip okay and then also once once you're done with that you want to make sure that baby's very deep enough close close to mother okay so that the lip and the chin is not visible W H word only recommend the chin is not visible but it's what I've noticed that babies who are much closer to mothers those babies are definitely gaining more weight okay all right but then another point which is I've mentioned over here baby grasps the lower part of the mouth and the upper latching with the lower lip okay so here this what I'm saying is that you know again this is one of the W H word point of good latch is that because the lower lies in the mouth obviously you will see upper la outside okay so this is called asymmetrical latch so asymmetrical latch means that lower upper realize out you can see through your naked eyes when a lower realize in the mouth obviously you cannot see it okay so that's your important another thing is also that upper lip when you have a good attachment upper lip is sitting just at the border of nipple okay and the lower lip is sitting at the at the area border so that's so that's what I've mentioned over here when there's a good attachment the cheeks are rounded and there is no dimple okay now this is one point that I want to discuss a little bit further because many times you would see that babies have dimple so when they when they breastfeed they're having like dimple now once you see a dimple then there are three things which could go wrong okay which are the three things which I again have mentioned in last session first is nipple latch only nipple latch even though baby is very deep like you know close to the mother with that you know superficial latch which is your nipple latch baby will have dimple second thing if baby is having lot more upper area in the mouth so you will definitely notice that you know when you examine you say oh my god this is upper realize much more in the in the mouth so that's when you will see that baby is having you know dimpling of the face and third thing is if baby is too far so even though the lower lice there in the mouth but if baby is too far you can see the lips very clearly even those baby will have you know kind of dimple in the cheek so remember those three points if you're seeing dimple something is wrong okay you need to get that of course I don't recommend to delash the baby every time suppose if baby has a good mouth opening and if baby is just a little bit further away from the area you just push the baby in okay as long as the mouth is big and lower lice in the mouth but if there is only nipple feeding if upper lice in the mouth you know then I may delach now one more thing I may do if the upper lice in the mouth if the if the face is if the mouth is open 120 degree and I may just pull the baby a little bit towards the other side you know to see if baby can glide and try to get lower lice in the mouth but you know I mean depends you know that's all basically that will come with the experience when you start helping mothers but see what works okay all right now another point which which I wanted to mention about you know basically as soon as you know baby's latched then you will see kind of babies you know babies start sucking so you will see the tongue movement a little bit okay and then you know obviously babies come babies alert you want to see make sure that baby's alerted breast because many times we see that a lot of these babies they sleep you know mother feel that oh baby's still feeding but it's more of a non-nutritive sucking and they keep you know and mothers get tired babies get tired I do not you know I while baby is active is sucking and if baby's tired you know not tired I say if you feel that baby has slowed down a little bit you know and you feel that baby's not now getting more milk and just kind of relaxing or just resting you wake up the baby okay because I don't want the session to last for hours and hours because you mothers will get so tired you know when baby's sitting there for like half an hour one hour two hours you know mothers they don't know what to do so I like that active active sucking okay so what you do you wake up the baby okay immediately like you know as I mentioned my earlier session you wake up the baby the baby's still not getting up you delash the baby by putting finger in the mouth you make the baby sit again in my experience I've seen that once you make the baby sit you know again you know I've shown the technique immediately within a minute or two baby will open the eyes okay they will open the eyes they look around and they'll open the eyes and then again you can put the baby back okay now when you put the baby back you want to make sure that you know mothers know that whether hind milk is there or not then again we have explained but you know make sure that baby completely finish on one side but that active baby is very important so if baby goes to sleep again again you put the baby in a sitting position feed the baby okay sometime it may take two or three times that you want to wake you may have to wake up the baby but believe me those babies you know they finish it fast you wake up the baby feed them probably as as long as they want but if as soon as the active sucking slows down you remove the baby okay and that's what like I've seen great results with just active sucking you know and some of these babies are so a lot and so active by four minutes five minutes they are done you know and if they're done and if you feel there is no breast milk left on that side just you know kind of put the baby in a sitting position you know make sure that baby has if baby has burping which is good but if they don't you know don't worry because if you have a good latch we will not have a lot of sucking of air if you don't have a lot of sucking of air they will not burp so do not freak out if they don't burp please don't worry okay all right now you want to look at the important counseling points of breastfeeding what are the important counseling points that you guys already know but again I'm going to go quickly go go through it mothers know how to check the latch of the baby okay so again you know obviously we teach healthcare workers we teach nurses how to check the latch but it's important in mothers know because once mother goes home she won't have a nurse to check the latch okay so teach this technique to mother also to how to check the latch okay and if mothers don't do the latch check you you mark it over here on the right hand side that mothers they don't know or she forgot because that's an important point every time that she latches the baby at least in first few days she has to examine okay because once she knows what it is like then she doesn't have to keep doing it but she has to she has to know what it is all right all right then when she puts her breast when she holds the breast okay she'll have you'll have to make sure that her fingers are parallel to lips okay now here I've made it very common to all the holes whether it is cross cuttle cradle whether it is a side line hold or laid back or whatever hold that you would want to recommend you know just make sure that when mother is pressing the breast it's parallel to baby's lips okay so if baby is in a completely horizontal position the lips will be vertical so you want to make sure that your fingers are also vertical you know or just a parallel to baby's lips okay all right and a negative behavior what you will see is that you will see that mother is not keeping her fingers parallel to baby's lips what she's doing is she's keeping it perpendicular and most likely believe me in your practice or in your program you will see mothers are always holding their breast not in parallel to lips but they are you know perpendicular okay it's like eating your burger not like this but eating your burger like this you would anybody would laugh if you do that in when you go to say fast food joint to eat your sandwich or something and you're not eating this when you're eating this way okay so I mean we would make a fool of ourselves so I think we will do the same if we allow mothers to do that okay all right then second point is basically three fingers away yeah so one thing you want to make sure that when mother is holding the breast make sure that you know her fingers are three fingers away from from nipple so it's not too close so it's not too far and it's just a tip which is touching the breast and not the whole finger okay if the whole finger touches then those fingers will come in the way okay so it should be like really round shape the dip of the U should be at six o'clock position okay and it should be just a tip touching and the tip of the finger three o'clock and nine o'clock position not at above or not below okay exactly three o'clock and nine o'clock position okay we are just standardizing the process so it becomes easier for everybody to understand all right now mothers know early hunger cues so of course you know some of these questions you can ask that when do you breastfeed the baby so just kind of make sure that you know whenever you have explained her all these important counseling points that she remembers all this point so while she's nursing you can ask all these questions so that you know whether she knows or not okay so what are those early hunger cues squirming opening of the mouth putting finger in the mouth all that putting finger in the mouth becomes a little bit later so it will be mid hunger cues but mainly squirming and looking at the breast and all that okay and then if she says oh I feed the baby when baby's crying that means it's a negative behavior all right then you also want to look at if mother is waiting for baby to open the big mouth so that's important so 120 degree and how does she open the mouth because that's another point you know which which I'll explain is that she has to brush the upper lip with her nipple and that's how baby will open the mouth okay because a lot of mothers don't know that so they keep waiting and they keep waiting so just remember to tell her to just basically brush the nipple with upper upper lip okay all right and you know one more thing which I want to reiterate again which I've mentioned earlier also they tell mother to be ready you know hold the head properly hold the breast properly keep the baby very close as soon as baby opens a mouth you know 120 degree just immediately kind of like that mouth in the in the breast okay because a lot of what mother mothers do sometimes they're on the phone sometimes they're talking to somebody sometime I don't know they are not focused so baby opens the mouth and she doesn't do anything as soon as baby close them out she starts pushing the baby in the breast okay so tell her to be very kind of wide awake and alert and then just be ready all right okay now how many times to breastfeed so here I mentioned baby feeds 10 to 12 times in 24 hours this is important because again you know we always say how they make it the popular how many times in a day how many times at night so don't use the word day because when you use a day word that means it's probably 12 hours from 6 a.m to 6 p.m okay so always use over 24 hours so again you know just tell her 10 to 12 times in 24 hours now after about say couple of months two three months they may not feed 10 to 12 times then they'll go down to eight times then they'll go down with six times okay but at least in first couple of months I would say six to eight weeks it's important to feed baby 10 to 12 times because we are catching up on growth most of the babies are born small okay all right then of course nighttime feeding so nighttime feeding I've written over here that if baby feeds three to four times at night and if baby's feeding less time you know that's your negative behavior okay then mother feeds your baby completely from one breast before switching to other so that hind milk is important and it's also it's it's crucial to tell mother how to examine the hind milk so here I've given one point that she kind of she has to express milk a little bit and see whether it is watery or it's you know thick and even if it is thick if it's coming with force that means that hind milk is still there okay so that it's important to ask mother that how does she examine how does she know whether she has fed milk from from the back part of the breast or not okay all right another thing which is I've asked over here whether mother knows a technique of burping the child now there are some new latest recommendation is not to burp the child no need for burping the child no but you know in my experience to be frank many times baby do burp especially if the latch is not good so you know like I do recommend burping the baby but more than that you know when you put the baby in a sitting position the biggest advantage what what I've seen is that all the sleepy babies they become very alert and active they become so alert and active and they are ready to breastfeed again okay so just remember that to kind of burp the baby you know burp the baby just couple of minutes you can try baby is not burping just leave the baby but make sure the baby is awake okay this is another point I mentioned about waking up the baby so three ways you can wake up the baby one by stroking the legs okay one by stroking the back or the spine or one by kind of putting the baby in a sitting position okay so she needs to know all the three four points of how to wake up the baby okay and then of course how to manually express milk because remember I mentioned to you that mother need to check whether she has hind milk left or not so in that in that process she will have to do a little bit of manual expression of milk so remember it's press compress release so you press it towards the breast press compress release so it's you know you're basically pushing the breast a little bit inward towards the chest okay and then you basically you don't kind of you don't milk the breast you you're not milking the breast okay you're just basically pressing the breast towards the chest inside again then press compress and release okay so that we have a beautiful tutorial which it will come you know and in our next this session particularly so okay so this is our breastfeeding assessment form once you have tick on left hand side say all your ticks on left hand side and your baby's growing to 30 to 40 grams my goal is 40 grams okay so if your baby is gaining 40 grams a day and then all the click on the left hand side you are fine okay then you don't need to maybe if you want to see baby once in a couple of days just to make sure then you can do it but if baby is gaining weight you know a couple of times you see baby is gaining weight and all mothers know everything you know you need to see baby for even one month two months you mothers know babies know what to do okay but again of course we'll follow what HBNC guideline is so in HBC guideline you do you do see baby at day three day seven fourteen twenty one ten twenty eight days you know so although obviously in government this thing you will be checking those babies on time but you know again don't wait from zero to seven days or ten days because those ten days is time when mother is learning breastfeeding so if you can teach her properly then look at the baby growing fast because they grow highest in first three months of age you know and then to catch up is very very difficult later on okay so try to get that catch up growth going as soon as possible one more thing that we have full experiences again I'm getting a lot of calls from a lot of pediatricians that if they teach this proper technique of latching right from birth then you know by day three day four these babies have already gained birth weight and they are on the upward trend so by the time like you know by day seven they have they already start gaining 200 or sometimes 300 gram weight gain and in fact WHO if you look at a WHO growth chart WHO table boy child they gain 200 gram by day seven okay by day seven 200 gram weight gain okay and a girl child they gain about 100 gram by day seven okay so if your baby is not gaining weight 200 gram boy child by day seven that means something is wrong that means what is wrong by and large is breastfeeding factors okay so that means you have like you have not focused on breastfeeding latching and that's why your baby is not growing well okay and that's that's unfair unfair okay all right so thank you so much and I'm going to close the session now and we will go with the next one okay thank you