We're going to be looking at the day of the Lord as found in 2nd Peter chapter 3. Let me begin reading to you at verse 10 I'll read just verse 10 is the introduction then we'll move into our study though We're going to continue into into the conclusion of the book of 2nd Peter this morning But we'll read verse 10 2nd Peter chapter 3 verse 10 The Apostle Peter writes but the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night In which the heavens will pass away with a great noise and the elements will melt with fervent heat both the earth and The works that are in it will be burned up Now as we get the context of this because at the conclusion of this chapter The Apostle Peter once again returns to what he's been saying and we'll see that by summarization But as we look at chapter 3 we know that the Apostle Peter has been writing concerning false teachers Whom he has referred to as scoffers or mockers remember verse 3 how he had said knowing this first That scoffers will come in the last days walking according to their own lusts So he was speaking concerning these mockers who are motivated by their lust They're motivated by self-interest and he was saying that the presence of these kinds of people these scoffers Was really a primary sign that we are in the last days and and as they were coming and as they were giving their false teachings and all He made it clear that they began to question and undermine the authority of God's word Now that's the source of all of our encouragement and hope the word of God and the word of God We as believers really believe is inspired by God and Intended by God to to give to us hope and comfort direction and and all of the things that the word of God claims that it supplies for us Even as it says in Psalm 119 160 the entirety of thy word is truth When Jesus was speaking in Luke chapter 21 verse 33 Jesus said heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will by no means pass away And so the scoffers the underminers of faith come and attack the word of God and their argument as they're doing so is basically that that the the world and all has remained the same even since the beginning and As the apostle was speaking concerning that he made it very clear that they willfully forget that God judged the earth through the flood during Noah's day And so he is saying that God's word is true And you're forgetting what God has done in the past when he brought judgment Even as God judged the earth through a flood Even so the heavens and the earth which now exist are being kept in store for this by the same word for judgment And so as he has been saying God in the past judged and in the future He will judge again this time bringing a fiery judgment on the earth And so as he's speaking concerning that he's saying these things to keep these things in mind That's why he says in verse 8 but beloved do not forget this one thing that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years and a thousand years as one day We as human beings simply have a different concept of time. God is not locked into it the way that we are It's like that story of that man who is having a conversation with God and as he spoke to the Lord God He said Lord. I have always wondered about time What is a thousand years like for you? God answered for me a thousand years is like a second So the man then asked well, what about money? What is a billion dollars like for you? God answered for me Billion dollars is like a penny So the man said Can I have a penny and God said if you wait a second, but an old joke. I like it men have a different concept of time and So that's what the apostle Peter is speaking about with the Lord one day is a thousand years a thousand years is as one day This is because God inhabits eternity as it says in Psalm 93 verse 2 your throne is established from of old You are from everlasting as it says in Psalm 90 verse 2 before the mountains were brought forth Or ever you had formed the earth and the world even from everlasting to everlasting you are God Psalm 90 verse 4 1,000 years in your sight are like yesterday when it is passed like a watch in the night And so he's been speaking concerning the certainty of judgment and even though it seems delayed It is most certainly coming and that's what he's been sharing And so he's going to continue that thought by picking up in verse 10 and saying but the day of the Lord will come as a Thief in the night in which the heavens will pass away with a great noise and the elements will burn Will melt with a fervent heat both the earth and the works that are in it will be burned up And so he's saying this day of the Lord is coming it will come in a certain manner like a thief in the night When we hear the term the day of the Lord we need to understand what that's referring to Because that's a word or a phrase that you find in both the Old Testament as well as the New Testament The day of the Lord is an extended period of time When the Lord begins to deal with his enemies by destroying them Then he establishes his kingdom. He ends the present world system And he begins to reveal his glory The Old Testament has much to say concerning this day of the Lord It is referred to as a time that God pours out his wrath on the ungodly you see this in a lot of the Of the Old Testament prophets like Isaiah When you look into the book of Isaiah chapter 13 verses 9 through 11 Isaiah writes behold the day of the Lord comes cruel with both wrath and fierce anger To lay the land desolate He will destroy its sinners from it for the stars of heaven and their constellations will not give their light The sun will be darkened and it's going forth The moon will not cause its light to shine I will punish the world for its evil And the wicked for their iniquity I will halt the arrogance of the proud and will lay low the haughtiness of the terrible Or Jeremiah 46 10 For this is the day of the Lord God of hosts a day of vengeance They may he may avenge himself on his adversaries Zephaniah 1 14 through 18 The great day of the Lord is near near and coming quickly listen The cry on the day of the Lord will be bitter the shouting of the warrior there That day will be a day of wrath a day of distress and anguish A day of trouble and ruin a day of darkness and gloom A day of clouds and blackness A day of trumpet and battle cry against the fortified cities and against the corner towers I will bring distress On the people they will walk like blind men because they have sinned against the Lord Their blood will be poured out like dust They're in trails like filth Neither their silver nor their gold will be able to save them on the day of the Lord's wrath In the fire of his jealousy the whole world will be consumed for he will make a sudden end Of all who live in the earth Joel continuing this cherry theme in Joel 2 verse 2 It is a day of darkness and gloom a day of clouds and blackness the day of the Lord A day when God pours out his wrath on his enemies In the new testament the day of the Lord is also known as the tribulation The tribulation is described for us in the book of revelation chapter 6 through 19 Again, it's a prolonged period of God pouring out his wrath on the Christ rejecting world In revelation 6 verses 15 through 17 it reads the kings of the earth the great men the rich men The commanders the mighty men every slave and every free man hid themselves in the caves And in the rocks of the mountains and said to the mountains and rocks fall on us And hide us from the face of him who sits on the throne and from the wrath of the lamb For the great day of his wrath has come and who is able to stand the day of the Lord And that's what we're seeing here in verse 10 of 2nd Peter chapter 3 The apostle Peter is making it clear that God will be pouring his wrath out on those who do not receive Christ as Lord and Savior But he says in verse 10 the day of the Lord will come notice as a thief in the night Now when he says as a thief in the night That's an important thing because it gives to us insight that it's going to occur suddenly and without warning So what Peter is doing is he's making a distinction a distinction between Believers in Jesus Christ and those who have rejected him The point he's making is non believers will be taken by surprise when this occurs for them It will be like a thief in the night, but Christians are not to be taken by surprise And the reason why we as believers are not to be taken by surprise is very simply because we have God's word And because God has given to us his word We ought to be prepared for the return of Christ When paul was writing to the church of thessalonica in first Thessalonians chapter five versus two through four This is what he said to them He said you yourselves know perfectly that the day of the lord so comes as a thief in the night For when they say peace and safety then sudden destruction comes upon them as labor pains upon a pregnant woman They shall not escape But you brethren are not in darkness so that this day should overtake you as a thief You're not in darkness. This is not to be a surprise to you Why because you know this perfectly well you have been taught this that's what he had said when he said you You yourselves know perfectly that the day of the lord so comes as a thief in the night you've been taught When jesus was speaking in book of mark chapter 13 Jesus said in verses 33 through 37 take heed watch and pray for you do not know when the time is It's like a man going to a far country who left his house and gave authority to his servants and to each His work and commanded the doorkeeper to watch Watch therefore for you do not know when the master of the house is coming in the evening at midnight At the crowing of the rooster or in the morning less coming suddenly find you sleeping and what I say to you I say to all watch So a thief comes in the night he comes by surprise and takes you suddenly You're not aware of it. He doesn't send you a note a week in advance saying by the way on tuesday at 10 15 p.m I will be breaking into your house. You don't get letters like that. The thief is going to come suddenly and in unexpected fashion So when this day of the lord hits the unbelieving world they will not be prepared You're prepared Believers are prepared because the word of god tells us to be on the watch on the lookout be ready And that's what he's speaking about now when this great day comes He speaks of the heavens in verse 10 again He says the heavens will pass away with a great noise the elements will melt with fervent heat All the elements that make up the physical world are going to be dissolved by heat They're going to melt away now as I was thinking about that I thought what kind of heat are you speaking about that everything's going to be disintegrated and so You know I started googling some things And I I found some things that you might find interesting because I was trying to get something to intellectually Hang my hat on what is hot and and and how how what things are hot and what is the melting point of certain Metals and islands. I just wanted to see that because it says the heavens are going to melt away and so Some of us have seen films of or perhaps you've been in a helicopter and you've flown over A volcano that is actually erupting and you've seen the lava flow And I've often wondered how hot is that? And the answer is the hottest lava is 2000 degrees That's pretty hot 2000 degrees But I started thinking well, what are some of the melting points of various metals and all and so Aluminum for example will melt at 1220 degrees copper At 1 983 degrees Gold will melt at 2000 degrees and cobalt melts at 2723 degrees Carbon steel melts at 2800 degrees ruthenium at 4500 tantalum at 5400 degrees and tungsten at 6150 degrees That is hot but I wanted to know is there anything hotter than that And the answer is yes, marie salsa, but What would be hotter and I found this An atomic bombs explosion temperature An atomic bombs explosion temperature 540,000 degrees Think about that for a minute 540,000 32 to be exact When it explodes, that's the heat that radiates from an atomic explosion The bible says that everything is going to melt There is going to be and if you will an explosion where the universe itself will burn He says it will it will be dissolved. It's going to burn It's going to pass away with the great noise and fervent heat When he speaks of this fervent noise naturally when I think of fervent noise I'm thinking in terms of just an explosion But the term fervent noise is really speaking about the noise that Something that is burning or something that has been ignited. It's that crackling sound when fire is burning dry brush And the universe is actually going to have that kind of sound the way that the apostle peter describes it When it is consumed in fire God brought judgment in the days of noah with water that will never happen again The next judgment is one of fire And it's going to be an explosive fervent fire that dissolves all things In isaia 34 verse 4 it says all the host of heaven shall be dissolved And the heavens shall be rolled up like a scroll All their host shall fall down as the leaf falls from the vine And as fruit falling from a fig tree And so with that in mind believers are encouraged verse 11 Since all these things will be dissolved what manner of persons ought you'd be in holy conducting godliness Looking for and hastening the coming of the day of god because of which the heavens will be dissolved being on fire And the elements will melt with fervent heat So this is the day that's going to come a day of punishment for the wicked And seeing that that's the case then what are what are you as a believer to do he says as a believer you're to live You're to live a holy life. He speaks of holy conduct. That's my manner of life That's the way that I live live in such a way that is obvious that you are separated to god He speaks of godliness godliness refers to our worship our personal devotion our piety Not only within me have a heart for god But without me in terms of what i'm doing on the outside Live in such a way that it's evidenced by the behavior that I have that that people can see and can understand This person is sold out for jesus christ if we really believe it and that's where the problem is I think a lot of people know it but don't believe it But if we really believe it You're going to change You have to If you really believe it if you don't believe it you'll be the same As a matter of fact what happens As we start being like Like those who claim to believe something the false teachers but really don't Where is the promise of his coming since the fathers fell asleep things have been going pretty much the same Somebody can say i've been taught about the rapture and the return of christ and the tribulation and millennial kingdom and all of those things Since I was a young believer it hasn't happened yet There were an awful lot of people who think like that Who have gone back to their old lifestyle And the apostle peter is saying listen Seeing that these things are most surely going to happen you have testimony in the old as well as the new testament And the false teachers have come to undermine that hope that expectation That sense of being in the last days and therefore being ready for christ and seeing that this has taken place He's saying they're actually stealing your hope from you because you're beginning to look at Days differently than god does and god is simply saying listen if you believe this and live like you do You see in verse 12 he says my motivation is to be looking for and hastening the coming of the day of god He's saying I need to live with a hopeful expectation and what we would refer to to today as a holy urgency A holy urgency It's like what titus chapter 2 verses 11 through 14 says for the grace of god That brings salvation has appeared to all men It teaches us to say no to ungodliness and worldly passions and to live self controlled upright and Godly lives in this present age. Well, we wait for the blessed hope the glorious appearing of our great god and savior jesus christ Who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own Eager to do what is good live with expectation and urgency He speaks in verse 13 of a new heaven and a new earth notice where righteousness dwells The return of jesus is intended to stir us up and then to give us hope It's like what it says in revelation 21 5 when it says he who sat on the throne said behold i make all things new And he said to me right for these words are true and faithful The ravages of sin Shall be forever eliminated Sin shall not have the final word The paradise that was lost becomes the paradise regained isaas 65 17 says for behold i create new heavens and a new earth And the former shall not be remembered nor come to mind Revelation 21 27 says nothing impure will ever enter it Nor will anyone who does what is shameful or deceitful But only those whose names are written in the lambs book of life When you begin to look at the last days And you begin to see the chronology especially as it relates to the period of time that we're living in You can begin to see that there are certain things that are Are about to happen and that will happen The next prophecy on the prophetic calendar that you find in scripture that is to happen and can happen at any moment Is the the prophecy related to the rapture of the church The apostle paul writing about that Told us in first acelonians chapter 4 verse 13 through 17 that there'd be an event that we are caught up to be with The lord in the air it's called the rapture And after that rapture you have what is called the fulfillment of daniel 70 70th week It's also referred to in scripture as jacob's jacob's trouble as well as the tribulation You have at the conclusion of the tribulation the return of jesus christ Jesus will establish the millennial kingdom You have the destruction of antichrist with his armies You have judgment of individual Gentiles according to the treatment of the the jews you have the judgment of israel You have that millennial reign of jesus that lasts a thousand years at the end of that you have a revolt from satan You have judgment you have the resurrection final judgment of the wicked dead Then you had the destruction of the present earth and heaven by fire And as mentioned earlier the creation of the new heaven and new earth And these things are about to take place So what are we to do while verse 14 looking forward to these things be diligent to be found in him in peace There's going to be perfect righteousness And since there's going to be perfect righteousness christians live life lives that are called righteous If we really believe that the lord's going to return our lives ought to demonstrate that If you believe that at any moment jesus christ could take the church his bride to be with him We ought to prepare ourselves to be with him First john three two and three says beloved now we are sons of god It does not yet appear what we shall be But we know that when he shall appear we shall be like him For we shall see him as he is and every man that has this hope in him purifies himself even as he is pure One day And it's not that long from now The voice will cry come up here Shout of an archangel The dead in christ will rise first We who remain shall be caught up together with them in the air Thus we shall be with the lord forever And when we're there in heaven with the lord jesus christ There'll be no more pain There'll be no more sorrow There'll be no more tears There'll be no more sin There'll be no more sickness. There'll never be another death. There'll be no more funerals There'll be no agony. There'll be no lies. There'll just be nothing but peace and joy. I look forward to that I look forward to being with the lord jesus christ I do I You know some of you have been having a very difficult uh year Maybe maybe a very difficult life, but some of you have been having a very difficult time There are a lot of people who are going through some very serious times of pain A friend of mine's uh foster son was hiking just last week He liked to climb And he went to the summit And as he was on top of this This summit that he had climbed There were those who were around to Heard somebody yell out something like I wish I could remember the exact quote, but it was something like Praise you jesus. I love you shouted from the top of a mountain And only to find that he slipped and fell to his death and they recovered his body a thousand feet below the summit His last words I love you jesus friend of mine's wife Just within the last two three weeks Died of cancer Pastor friend of mine another calvary associates five-year-old little girl Had a nasma attack And died in his arms Five years old My friend frank Riding his bike coming home Gets hit by a car Goes into a coma as we all know Goes home to the lord. I was in the hospital I had come to the hospital on the day that frank went home And I walked in There were a lot of delays for me to get into the room to go pray for him And I walked in and and as I walked in I I saw my friend He'd been in this church for something like 23 years I walked up to the side. I brought dave bustamante with me Walked off to his left side Reached over and touched his hand He'd been in a coma for four weeks And I um I spoke to him. I hadn't spoken to him in that state. I Normally would just stand there and pray silently and then pray for him and then leave But I reached over I felt impaled to touch his hand and reached over and And I said frank, you know, we're praying for you I love you And we want you to come home And I prayed for his family. I prayed for Frank and I remember saying something like father may he May he he needs to come home May he come home And as I walked from his side and I got to the foot of the bed The alarm went off a moment later the entire room was filled with nurses and his doctor By the time I got to the waiting room as they had said could you please wait in the waiting room We're walking through the door.  It's not good We step into the foyer And a moment later he's whisked into the presence of jesus christ Is that bad? No, it's great But as was said Christians grieve deeply because christians love deeply and we do we do My savior stood at the tomb of a dear friend by the name of lazarus And the shortest new testament scripture that I know of found in john chapter 11 simply says is he stood there at this grave site Jesus wept And I wept and I weep You know as a pastor there are many times that I walk up to this pulpit Pain in my heart You see me cry, but you don't know why It's because I hear a lot of pain It's because I stand at the At the base here at the altar And a mama brings her six-year-old baby and says can you pray for my son? Because his father told him yesterday. He doesn't love him And the baby cries in my arms And people sometimes think why is that pastor cry so much? Because I ask god to give me a heart like his And sometimes it breaks But there's a day coming When there'll be no tears there will be no pain. There will be no sorrow. There will be no death There will be no sickness. There will be no suffering There will be joy and the lord jesus christ and I look forward to that day to that day No more No more saying goodbye No more crying No more Sickness and sorrow Just joy and the death that swallowed up in victory Because we have life through jesus who is our life. I look forward to that.  Yes The earth and all the elements the universe itself will be redone And when it's over it's going to be this place that is new because god says behold I make all things new and the false teachers are creeping in and they're undermining that They're stealing the joy from from the believers and and so it says in verse 14 Beloved looking forward to these things be diligent to be found by him in peace without spot and blameless And account that the longsuffering of our lord is salvation As also our beloved brother paul according to the wisdom given to him has written to you As also in all his epistles speaking In them of these things in which are some things hard to understand Which those who are untaught and unstable twist to their own destruction as they do also the rest of the scriptures You therefore beloved since you know these things beforehand beware Lest you also fall from your own steadfastness being led away with the air of the wicked But grow in the grace and knowledge of our lord and savior jesus christ To him be the glory both now and forever amen Let god's word Dwell in you richly these false teachers are misquoting the wisdom god gave to paul These are unlearned ignorant men. They refuse apostolic teaching and without that foundation He's saying they twist god's word out of context to their own destruction So watch out. He says watch out for false teachers. They will lead you astray Seeing that by prophets and apostles you've been forewarned be on your guard Lest you be led away from the truth delivered by the prophets and apostles by the air of the wicked Paul and philippians 3 said it like this He said i want to know christ The power of his resurrection The fellowship of sharing in his suffering Becoming like him in his death and so somehow to attain to the resurrection from the dead Not that i have already obtained all this or have already been made perfect But i press on to take hold of that for which christ jesus took hold of me Brothers i do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it But one thing i do Forgetting what is behind straining toward what is ahead I press on toward the goal to win the prize from which god has called me heaven word in christ jesus Grow in grace grow in the knowledge of our lord and save you jesus christ For to him be the glory both now and forever Amen


Okay, we're back, we're live, I'm Jay Fidel, happy to be here at Think Tech and we're talking about community matters and one of the matters we'd like to talk about is, you know, decency. And today we're going to talk about the gender gap in America and how it is growing with Brad Coates. Brad Coates is a lawyer, but he's also a philosopher and he's also kind of a social analyst, if you will, and he's here with us now and so is his book. So Brad, welcome to the show, as always. Good to be back, Jay. And the book, now the book is called, Divorce with Decency, and I was thinking, it's a great book and we talked about it before, and there's so much that you need to learn, in looking at divorce with, you know, the scribe by decency. But you know, what about life with decency? Divorce with decency, life with decency. I mean, don't you think the human condition would be better for all eight billion of us if we were just decent all day? We tried hard. I don't think anybody would argue with that, but my focus has been mainly on relationships.  And I've rewritten this book about five different times, and each time it seems to be getting more and more clear that what's actually happening is that there's a growing gender gap between men and women in society, and that I think is contributing to the divorce. I mean, the divorce rate. There's all kinds of other factors, of course. Oh, okay. Well, that's the title of our show, the gender gap. Imagine that. That was growing. But let me unpack that a little bit with you. What do you mean gender gap? Is there a gap? What is it? Something viva la différence? You know, French is a de rigueur this week, a view of Notre Dame. Of course. Viva la différence. What is the gender gap, anyway? Well, the gender gap as pertains to marriage, again, it used to be that the surest way to financial security for women was a marriage to a potentially wealthier guy. Women were at home being homemakers. The guy was bringing home the paycheck. He was the one who had basically almost all the money, and the more successful the male was, the more successful the marriage was, maybe. Now, women are more successful than men an awful lot of the time. And that has been a relatively recent shift. I recall, leave it to Beaver in the 50s, you remember that? And all the, you know, the public view of marriage was the white picket fence. And it was the women staying home and tending to the cooking and the cleaning and the children. And the man goes off warrior style and makes a living and brings home a paycheck. And so many families that I knew in those days, the women would never have thought about working ever. But at the same time, she was, you know, under the thumb, that's too strong a term. But she was submissive and the husband was prominent. Well, women are no longer submissive. No. That's for sure. Let me just give you some statistics about how dramatically this has changed. I'm going to read them off my crib sheet because what's happened now is that, you know, this is really the roots of feminism is that women are now much less dependent upon men, certainly economically. Nowadays, many women, married men would have less education and lower earning power than they did. In 1960, 32% of wives worked in 1980 was 60, 61%. Life is now the main breadwinner and over 25% of all US households. That was 7% in 1970. Almost 60% of all bachelors and higher degrees, more than half are now earned by women. One third of married wives are now better educated than their husband. One third of all small US businesses are now female-owned. California just had a past and new statute that requires female, minimum numbers of females on boards of directors for major companies. It's getting to be, you know, you had the largest number of women ever in US history, 102 women elected to the US House of Representatives in last year's election. So this is a major and significant change. Is this all out of glorious stinum? What happened here? Women's rights, women's lib, if you will. Well, it's the extrapolation of that, for sure.   Listen to this, childbearing has been reduced from being the primary activity in a female's life cycle, to now being only one of several activities that she does. Before, conceiving and childbearing occupied half of a woman's life cycle. Now, it's down to about 10%. Why is that? Women are having fewer kids, so they're not as many, I'm replicating. And there's better childcare services available. So women that used to have to be out of the labor force just for childbearing alone now can come back into it. And it turns out they're smarter and getting more degrees and out earning guys a lot of the time. And at the same time, men are getting weaker. So that's kind of a bizarre phenomenon, too. How about the Me Too thing? A Me Too thing is two years old now. Funny it came up just around the time that Trump was elected. Yeah, not that funny. Not that big a coincidence. Sorry, not that funny. And certainly not a coincidence. No. So here we have the Me Too thing. It has gone in every direction, including don't even touch me in an affectionate way. And that has somehow changed and catapulted us all into a new view of the relationship between men and women, at least in public, and, I suppose, in private. Oh, totally. I mean, it certainly has expanded the concept of the sisterhood standing up for one another. I mean, after the Kavanaugh hearings, the number of hotline abuse calls, domestic violence calls, exploded. A woman who had previously hadn't wanted to talk about it felt like they had a good support system to talk about it. So you have our very own Senator Maisie Hirona, who I like and respect in many other ways. We're basically calling men misogynists and telling men to stand up and shut up. That was, I think, her famous quote. That triggered a counterreaction on behalf of men to the term that I'd never even heard before, misundry, which is a misundry is when women hate men. I've never heard it. I know. It's always misogyny. But misundry is now women who hate men. And so just all that stuff tends to further devise. Well, it certainly hasn't come to rest, has it? I mean, it's in full play. People are, may I use the term divisive? We have a lot of divisiveness in this country. And I think divisive seems to apply to the gender gap, too. Oh, totally. I've never seen the country more divided. It's a real problem, especially between genders. If there is this instinctive gap between men and women, it's going to impact how you can hold marriages together. Or whether people are even going to get married at all. Because now, marriage oftentimes has been shown now that men benefit more from marriage than women do. I started by saying this was a surefire route to success for women. Now there are many, many, I don't know if you'd call them slack or guys. The guys have kind of alcoholism, video game addiction, the opioid crisis. That's mainly a pornography addiction. Those are mainly male habits, not some of their better habits. Women certainly, in their college years, they maybe drink too much and go on spring break and get into wet t-shirt contests and stuff like that. But women immediately start to change around. They get much more serious about life quickly. Usually by their late 20s, it's okay. If I'm going to get married, if I'm going to have a kid, I want a roof over the kid's house. I got to start saving for private school tuition, especially here in Hawaii. Women start getting the serious to-do list going and guys are still partying. Yeah, and that changes the relationship in dating, in marriage, and in the office place, and I suppose in divorce as well. The old thing about male dominance is really... The old thing? The old thing that doesn't really work anymore. Not in most of the country anyway. So this is a huge social change what you're talking about. Yeah, it really is. Like I say, women getting stronger, men getting weaker. It's not necessarily true that women are necessarily happy about it. Maureen Dowd is a famous writer. She's talked about how did feminist revolution wind up benefiting men more than women? And she talks about how the midlife crisis now is more of a women's issue because now women have got all the stress of their life in the professional world and they're still doing most of the heavy lifting around the house. So they can get a little resentful about that. Can we come to rest on this? As I say, I think we're still in process. We agree on that. But take the military. And without getting into the LB... LB2? Lesbrough? Yeah, right. And the trans issue that Trump raised this week. Before getting to that, the question was, can we have men and women serving on the same ship? In the same unit? In the same aircraft? In the same battlefield? Can we do that? And it seems clear that we have done that. Correct. And that in a 90%, I'm making that up, but in a very large percentage of the units in the military world, it works. It works. The women have found a place to men except the women. They're equals or so it seems. And they function well together. So does that tell us something about how it should work or is working in the office? Well, I think that's where it's got to go.  And that certainly will help promote the likelihood that the genders will get along. But again, it's one thing to get along in a context of maybe an office or a military unit. It's another thing to get along in marriages, which is again what I focus on, or relationships. 80% of all relationships are ended by women. Two-thirds of all divorce filings are started by women. What does that tell you? It means that women are unhappy more often than men are. Men will basically stay in even a bad marriage as long as they're getting fed regularly and as long as they're hopefully getting some sex and getting whatever. How many of those are the result of the fact that the fellow goes out and plays. He's having an affair where it's a woman cannot tolerate. Women do not tolerate that. A sort of catalytic result, catalytic reaction. In my experience, and I've handled, I don't know, it turns a thousand of divorces in the coats and fry law firm. If you're going to see a divorce started by a man, it's almost always because he's got some gal on the outside. And you're right, the wives don't think that's very funny at all. But that's about the only time guys will leave marriages. And how about the women? If a woman finds out that her husband is having an affair, doesn't that inevitably lead or great likelihood that will lead to a divorce? It certainly increases the likelihood. But women will get divorced for what you would call the right philosophical reason. Women will get divorced for lack of communication. A lot of guys don't even understand what that is. Physically, women have 20,000 communication signals a day. Guys have 7,000, whether it be rolling your eyes or speaking out actual spoken words or shrugging your shoulders, whatever. Women are totally turned on by and tuned into communication. And guys are not great at it. Guys are still cavemen in a lot of ways. So women get dissatisfied with that. They will literally leave a relationship just because a husband is not their dream guy anymore. Women, a guy will, like I say, as long as he's relaxed in his lazy boy lounger and getting to watch sports on TV and getting fed three meals a day, he'll stay in even a bad marriage. This also affects the affair itself. A fellow who has an affair or a woman who has an affair, that's probably part of the gender gap issue too, that that relationship is also affected by these changes. The relationship of the husband with an outside interest or the wife with an outside interest. That relationship is not like it used to be. It's different, right? It's hard for society to adjust to that, though. Multiple partners is not something that a Western society has ever been very comfortable with. I mean, certainly Muslim societies get used to it, Asian societies do, but not in the West. Well, you know, one thing that strikes me is that you're talking about here in the title of the show. The gender gap in America is growing, which suggests that they're further apart. The male, the female would have you further apart. But isn't, I mean, economically, aren't they closer and closer? Why do we talk about growing apart when in fact, you know, salaries, power in the office? Oh, yeah, no question. You know, possibilities of advancement are closer. I'm talking about as it affects the relationship.  A lot of people say it's much better to have women, you know, run companies and that they're better mediators and, you know, better managing partners of law firms. I mean, all that stuff is very auspicious. The problem is what happens when, you know, when the woman who's been the managing partner of the law firm and has had a very stressful day comes back home and her husband is, you know, underachieving, you know, playing video games, watching porn, getting drunk, doing all the kind of things that guys are so great at and making half the money she is. How long does that, you know, how long does it take before that starts affecting her dissatisfaction with the relationship? One minute. It takes one minute. Yeah, exactly. And that's because we're going to have a one minute break right now. Brad Coates, matrimonial lawyer and philosopher. We'll be right back. Aloha, I'm Gwen Harris, the host here at Think Tech Hawaii, a digital media company serving the people of Hawaii. We provide a video platform for citizen journalists to raise public awareness in Hawaii. We are a Hawaii nonprofit that depends on the generosity of the supporters to keep on going. We'd be grateful if you'd go to thinktechawaii.com and make a donation to support us now. Thanks so much. Aloha, my name is Andrew Lanning. I'm the host of Security Matters Hawaii, airing every Wednesday here on Think Tech Hawaii, live from the studios.  We want to teach you about those things in our industry that may be a little outside of your experience. So please join me, because security matters. Aloha. Okay, we've had a minute to think about that. But you know, one thing is this discussion, this issue that you've raised, and I know you give talks about it, Hitherian, it's a little scary for men, isn't it? They no longer have the prerogatives they thought, maybe they thought when they were younger that they would have. Listen to this. The new trend, as published in a recent article by the American Psychology Association, has described toxic masculinity as a public health crisis and recommends treatment guidelines for men and boys which effectively pathologize the male half of humanity. The report asserts that traditional masculinity marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression is harmful to both themselves and society, which results in the oppression of women and minorities and an epidemic of violence. Holy men, they need conversion therapy just for being men. You know, this is, I always look at, and maybe this is an inaccurate way of looking at it, look at American cultures through American art, through movies of which we are covered these days. And I wonder, that's a fair way of looking at this, because do you think the movies we see, the shows we see on television, correctly inform us about these changes and about what is really happening and about, for example, this male conduct you described, toxic male conduct. Can we learn anything from popular art? Well, it certainly seems like, you know, now the superheroes are women. I mean, Wonder Woman, I thought was one of the best movies out of all of these superhero movies, and I guess the new Avenger movie focuses on Captain Marvel is actually a wahine. So, you know, the movie makers are going with this, maybe because Harvey Weinstein is not in charge of movie studios anymore.    So this gets to be very, very serious and could get serouser the more... Well, let's talk about that. I mean, so it's going to get worse. Maybe, you know, anything I say can be turned the wrong way against me in the elevator or otherwise and expose me to criticism or worse because of the gender gap or at least the sensitivity after the Weinstein change. At the very least, the genders are going to be more on guard vis-a-vis one another, which may be, you know, that may be okay. It also does kind of mess with, you know, the Darwinian theory in thousands of years of, you know, human history and biology. Yeah, you know, what about the old thing about male hormones? Male, you know, need to hunt, right?  I mean, historically, necessary role of the male. Are we going to lose that? Maybe we have to. We're going to have to neuter it to some degree. I mean, men are going to have to get to be more sensitive. What women want is sensitive, communicative males.  You know, female athletes are doing stuff that you would have never even believed anymore.  You know, it's amazing. Just in Boston this week, that's right. So, you know, I just wonder, you talk about the future, and I'm interested in the future. I mean, I think we here think that we're always interested in moving into the future. So, yes, maybe it'll get more Harvey Weinstein concerned, you know. Better be careful. Don't say anything. You might offend anyone. The other side of it, though, maybe they'll be, and you referred to this earlier, sort of a backlash. You know, right now, for example, there's an organization called Women for Energy, Women in Energy. Wait a minute. All the energy organizations in the past have been people in energy. Women in energy. Are we going to see more men in energy? Is that what's going to happen, you know, sort of a loop back? Or are we going to continue to see the you know, the process by which women ascend, you know, to greater influence and the men really don't celebrate their malehood? Well, I think the ascension of women in the Western world anyway is very simple at this point. I don't think there's any question about that. I mean, women are able to do stuff that guys don't seem to be able to do, and the more the paradigm shifts to the focus in society being on that rather than on just, I mean, nowadays you fight a war by triggering a drone strike, you know, and women can do that. That's as well. It's not how many hands do you need to hold a browser? Information technology, computers, all these big companies that are very successful companies and women can do that just as well, if not better.  I'd love to hire women in my law firm. The problem is, you know, what it's going to do to the traditional male-female romantic relationship and marriages. I mean, 51% of all females in the U.S. nowadays are unmarried. They don't want to get married. They have kids out of 50% of all kids who are out of wedlock. There's really almost no need for them and the world is becoming, the western world is becoming more secular and less religious and so the religious confines that they use constraints that used to keep society together. You don't need marriage anymore. Before it served the purpose of economic primarily, but other things. Now you don't need it because you can get what you want without marriage. And with a longer lifespan, you know, then you've got to try and have a relationship that actually sticks to that and continues to work and that gets less and less likely because oftentimes people need different partners for different stages of their lives. There's a guy named Charles Martel who's predicted the end of marriage between 2028 and 2034. This sociologist Charles Martel which that ain't that long away. Six years span there? Somewhere within the next 10 to 15 years he predicts the end of marriage altogether. As a matrimonial lawyer this should be of some concern to you. No kidding. Already we've changed our practice a lot to focus on maternity cases which are child rearing cases, custody and child support for kids born out of wedlock. Different issues now. And domestic abuse is a huge issue nowadays. Is it huge because of this? It's certainly been brought more to the forefront now. Because we're more civilized about it and we're more sensitive about it. Case loads in those areas for a matrimonial lawyer have gone up exponentially. So really what I want to get out of this here in the last few minutes of our discussion is some advice. Advice to men and for that matter advice to women about the gender gap how to deal with it how to adjust your thinking about it your worldview about it and your day to day conduct so that you don't cross a line and undermine your position in the community your relationships with people around you. What's your advice going forward knowing all this and thinking about the gender gap and how it's growing? Well, there's I think women's progress at least in the western world is virtually unstoppable. I think you got to take that as a given. There are some chemistry that might work. There's something called a vasosuppressor which is a bonding hormone where maybe people can literally take chemicals that make them be more empathetic and more emotional towards one another. Fixing the sexual problems would probably help but that's something that's gotten even worse. We'd have to do a whole other show about what the impact of instant dating the pornography something like 60% of all males but only about 30% of all females is important to their marriage.  That's actually gotten even worse. It used to be that both genders sort of ran out of gas as far as their sexual needs sort of simultaneously as they age. Now men could take Viagra so even an old fart like you could theoretically feel sexy. No, you could believe that. So, you know, Guy pops a Viagra, gets an instant erection, now he wants to use it. Women don't want that. They want foreplay. That's more important than the actual sex act. For guys now, they're hard and erect and they want sex. And there's been no drug that makes women feel sexier that's really worked all that well. So the chemical part of this thing has actually gone kind of out. That's another fact. The chemistry is another factor. So that means in bed the way you conduct yourself in bed the sexual relationship, forget about all the other aspects of relationships. In bed, you may need to readjust your thinking about how to deal with the old line, hard like feminists hate the Viagra epidemic and the porn epidemic. Porn tends to make women make men, excuse me, view women as objects. They're watching all these 20 year old girls all siliconed up and doing all kinds of crazy stuff that their wife doesn't seem to be doing. And all of a sudden, guys are objectifying women. That makes women hate men even more. Some of these things are really seriously impacting relationships. Well, it sounds like it creates kind of a discomfort at some level and anxiety. And I suppose that some people would say well, thank you, Brad. But I think I like the old model better. You know, I was predictable. I knew where it was going. I knew my role and I really didn't know. It also opens to me the fact that you identified this on a geographical basis. The U.S. and for that matter, Europe these things have changed. There is a pronounced gender gap in the processes. But what about Asia? What about developing countries? What about rural parts of America and Europe? What about this divide between the Muslims and the Christians? Muslims can have four wives. How does that tie in with the liberated women's view of their ability to be equals in society? Maybe they can drive now in Saudi Arabia. That's a breakthrough. It's like there are major, major gaps. Asia, the more wealthy Asia gets, the less the idea of the old Chinese billionaire having four or five mistresses, the raise the red lantern thing, that starts to change. But Asia is still much more freewheeling than the West. The Muslim and Arab countries are totally different. The whole different grid that people function on. It's going to be hard to bridge. In America, if guys can be more in tune with their sensitive female side, that's probably the best advice you can give somebody here. Ironically, women get more satisfied as they age, and males get more satisfied with or without marriage. Guys in their 50s are happier than guys in their 40s. They've traced that. A male's time to be down on himself and be suicidal or whatever is in his 40s. Women, as they start to age out, they get less happy, although you would think that they would be maybe more happy, maybe they'd be even more stressed along the way. Self-image, image of their own looks and beauty, what not. It's complicated, but let me say that I'm always amazed that what you do in terms of the matrimonial practice is really at the center of multiple intersections. And you've written it up in your book, and you talk about it, and it's really right on the money. I'm not joking when I say you are that. Well, what's happened is it's turned into family law. It's turned into sociology, demographics, biology. There's all kinds of that that starts to interweave. I've been a divorce lawyer for a long time. I run the biggest divorce firm in the state, and we've probably done 30,000 divorces. I've probably personally done 8 or 9,000 of them. I got a little tired of just doing the meat ax down the middle kind of divorce law, and I kind of wanted to get more into what goes behind it. Very important that you've done that. Very important for any family law attorney. But it's also very important that all of us integrate what you're talking about. Thank you, Brad. Brad Kurtz, really appreciate you coming down. Good to see you, Jay. Yeah, do it again soon, right? Okay. Good.


An earth citizen is someone who takes ownership of their own health, happiness, and peace, and trusts themselves to be able to overcome their current situation. Your brain has more power than what you might be believing right now. And I think it starts from there, first and foremost, because nobody teaches us this in school, that your brain has more potential and power than you believe. So imagine if you have everybody in this world, all almost 8 billion, almost 8 billion people who have this kind of spirit, who have this kind of thought, who have this kind of independence, who have this kind of self-love and self-trust in themselves and in their divine brain.  Hi guys, this is Linda from Brain Education TV. If this is your first time, welcome. Please consider subscribing to our channel, like this video, and click the bell for notifications of each new episode. In this video, I'm going to talk about what is an Earth citizen. So if you've been following my 10-minute routines that I put out every Saturday, you'll probably have noticed that I start the beginning of each video like this. Hello, Earth citizens, hello, Earth citizens, hello, Earth citizens, hello, Earth citizens. So I've been calling you guys Earth citizens this whole time, and maybe you're thinking, what the heck is an Earth citizen? So I'm going to break it down for you in this video. Earth citizens, first of all, is a term coined by the founder of Brain Education, Ilchili. It describes someone who takes care of their own health, happiness, and peace using the power of their brain. It comes from the idea that a person who knows how to take care of their own health, happiness, and peace using the power of their brain knows how to take care of other people and the Earth also as well using the power of their brain.  So why is this concept important for our 21st century world today? In our world, especially in this pandemic era, there's a lot of fear, a lot of mistrust, and a lot of anxiety surrounding our society right now. 2020 was a year of huge awakenings. It was a chance for us to see that these systems, these man-made systems that we put into place, such as politics, education, religion, these kinds of institutions that hold a lot of power and influence in our society, they weren't able to completely guarantee people's safety and well-being during this pandemic era. And I think that brought a lot of huge awakenings in me and also it opened a lot of eyes for people in society in general. These systems that we believed in so much proved to be something that, of course, we can utilize, but not 100% completely rely on. And the reason why I talk about this is because an Earth citizen is someone who takes ownership of their own health, happiness, and peace and trusts themselves to be able to overcome their current situation. So many of us, we give our power to other people to fix our problems. If we're not feeling well, we take a pill, or if we're lost about something, we ask somebody else to solve the problem for us. So many times, in little subtle ways, we rely on other people to fix our problems for us, especially if it's like a physical health problem. We rely on other people more than we trust ourselves. I think that's a key point that I just mentioned there, that we trust others more than we trust ourselves. But an Earth citizen is someone who trusts themselves and knows how to use their brain well to create their own health, happiness, and peace. So the reason why we say hello, Earth citizens is because on this channel, we hope to give you guys some resources and let you know first and foremost that your brain has more power than what you might be believing right now. And I think it starts from there, first and foremost, because nobody teaches us this in school, that your brain has more potential and power than you believe. Your brain has the perfect system to reverse any ailments that you might be feeling.  And your brain has the power to also break through any mental barriers that you might be creating right now. But when we're so drowned by our problems, it's very hard to even see or believe that our brain has this much power. And because we're in this state where we don't see it and believe that we have the power to change and overcome, even though it might sound like a good thing, but if you're right here, if you're stuck here, you don't believe that this is possible for you. But the first step comes from saying, no, I might be stuck in this state, but I have the power if I choose to slowly lift my hands away and open and see. And an Earth citizen starts from there, someone who says, wait a minute, do I really have to be stuck in this unfavorable state that I'm in, whether it's a physical thing, whether it's an emotional thing or a mental thing, a spiritual thing. An Earth citizen is someone who says, no, this can't be all there is to life. I have to find what is real. I have to find the real truth and the real answer. And that real truth and real answer lies within me. So I am going to build a relationship of self-love, self-trust, self-discovery to find the power within my brain for me to take ownership of my health, happiness and peace, because it is my responsibility to take care of these three things. It's not anybody else's responsibility to make me healthy, make me happy or make me feel at peace. Because you might have wonderful people who give you health, who give you happiness, who give you peace, but ultimately, if you don't feel that on the inside, it does not matter what you have on the outside at all. So an Earth citizen is someone who hears this message and says, yes, I totally understand, I totally feel you and I feel the same way. I feel like I have so much more power inside of me than I realized. And I believe that I 100% have the ability to overcome any hardships that I'm feeling right now. So once you say, yes, I totally believe it and I totally am with you, then you take the steps, the action to make that into your reality. What do you think that person will do next? Do you think a person who really believes their brainpower will say, okay, I believe it, but let me just go to my doctor and let me go to my other people to fix my problems? Or do you think a person who really trusts that they have the power to fix their problems will then act and find ways to solve their problems on their own? Taking ownership of their health in their own hands. Of course, it's the latter. So I'm not saying that you should never listen to a doctor. That is not what I'm saying at all. So please don't get my message wrong. There's a fine line between using experts for help and relying on experts to fix you. Do you understand the difference? There's a huge difference. I'm all for using experts to help you because they have more expertise, more knowledge in certain areas than you do. Please by all means receive help from experts when you need it, but do not rely on experts to fix you and by turning your brain off and saying, I don't know what to do.  This is what I'm saying. An Earth citizen does not do. So imagine if you have everybody in this world, all almost 8 billion people who have this kind of spirit, who have this kind of thought, who have this kind of independence, who have this kind of self-love and self-trust in themselves and in their divine brain, in their brain that holds so many of potentials and so many secrets and so many things that we don't know yet. Imagine 8 billion people who live that way.  Because if we have people who know how to fix their own problems, then these people, through their own experience, can help others with their issues as well. So then we create a society where everybody knows how to take ownership, take responsibility and resolve their own issues and also be in a place where they can help others as well. So then with this spirit, with this mentality of Earth citizenship, you create a whole society of healers. This world desperately needs more healers, more lovers, more people who can bring nurturing energy into the world and I believe that an Earth citizen with that kind of spirit and belief in themselves to take ownership of their health, happiness and peace can make that a reality. So I hope everybody watching this video and everybody on this channel can agree with this mission and philosophy of Earth citizens. And I hope that you can join me, Gabby and other people to create a world of health, happiness and peace for everybody. So I would love to hear your thoughts about what I just shared about Earth citizenship. So please leave your comments down below and I would love to read them and see what you have to say. And also if you agree with this Earth citizen spirit, please comment below, I am an Earth citizen and join the gang to help create health, happiness and peace for myself, for my family, my community and humanity. Thanks for tuning in everyone. As always, I love you all. Thank you so much. Bye.


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Palmonism, Concentration. This is a game based on memorizing cards or other objects placed in front of the players, that has become a standard activity in the ESL classroom. It is known as concentration in many countries. Create 5 pairs of cards with beginnings and endings written on them. For example, with a second conditional, card 1 if I lived in Antarctica, card 2 I would be very cold. Lay them face down, and either mark all the backs of the beginnings with 1 and the endings with 2, or at beginnings and endings on different colored card. Set students up in groups of 2 to 4, with a set of cards each.  If they are a suitable match they keep the pair, if not they replace the cards face down and the next student continues. You must design the pairings, so that there is only one possible match. Make sure the students say what the ending might be, before picking up the second card to maximize student talk time. The student with the most cards at the end wins. Can repeat as time allows. Thanks so much for watching, we are ITTT, the leading provider for TEFL and TESOL training courses. If you liked this video, please subscribe by clicking the button down here, and click on any of the videos here on the left, for more interesting teaching tips for getting certified to teach English abroad and online.