Rhaid i wedi ei cobl yn ei ngwynhau a'r wyf o'r swyd-isi ac o'r eich cyfnod o'r byd ar All. Y gallai bod yn ochr rhaid oherwydd cael cefnod o'r ffren кажетсяg ar gyfer ddiolchio cyflwynghau, sgwrs, acóig oedrych, oedrych, lle, oedrych, oedrych, oedrych ei cyfnod o'r hyn, oedrych yn gyfnodi i byw yn in self care efficiently are abuse survivors, people who are spiritual or those who are required to practice self care for their career. It really shows how important image and looking good on the outside is these days. When people literally neglect their mental, emotional and physical health. They will spend thousands on cars or design a clothes and it's nothing for them to do that but they would never spend that same amount of money on their health unless it's an emergency. Just think about how crazy that is. In my personal experience I have found that narcissists do not practice self care efficiently. The narcissist in my life did not eat a nutritious or healthy diet. They had eating disorders and developed thyroid or bowel issues from a young age. They rarely exercised. To them rather than seeing the gym as a place where you can improve your health, they saw it as a place where they can go to present their image or to get attention. Usually going to the gym is one of the main forms of self care that a narcissist will practice. They have to be in shape. They have to display an attractive image but some narcissists have such a strong sense of arrogance and entitlement that they believe they don't even have to be in good shape. Narcists don't always follow up with medical care. They will put off checkups or visits to the doctor, opticians or dentists. They have this magical thinking in their minds that as long as they think everything will work out okay, they don't need to take any action to take care of their bodies. Narcists most often will not practice mindfulness or meditation. They have overactive minds. They are never at peace. They don't practice meditation because it involves self reflection and looking within is too painful for them. Narcists can appear to be very attractive when you first meet them but if you look closely you will see signs that they do not practice self care efficiently. In my experience I have found that narcissists will dress well, do their hair and wear makeup. They are very good at creating the image they want to display to the world but this is all they really focus on. They neglect self care and basic hygiene. They have poor hygiene habits. There are red flags you should be aware of when you are dealing with a narcissist, red flags of poor hygiene. In my experience I have found that they would have stained teeth or bad breath, offensive body odours disguised with perfume, dandruff, hairy nostrils, dirty fingernails. They would spend long amounts of time in the shower which can strip away the skin's natural barrier. They would have very hot showers which can lead to infections. These are all basic practices of self care and hygiene which narcissists will neglect. On the surface they look clean, they dress well and smell good but if you get a bit closer or look closely at their hair or fingernails you will find that it isn't real self care. They focus more on their external image rather than actually taking care of themselves. It's all about what you see on the outside.  They are just very good at creating a certain image that you might want to see. They've had years of practice at lowering in targets and manipulating them. They don't spend much time practicing self care or basic hygiene. They don't even wash their hands after they've been to the bathroom. They don't think about this stuff because they just magically think that it won't affect them or it will just magically go away. You may find yourself feeling unwell when you are around them. Especially if you have sexual contact with them.  I don't really want to go into detail about that IQ but just be careful if you are having sexual contact with a narcissist. You might get sick or have an infection and try to keep the lights on so you can really assess their level of hygiene. They don't practice self care or basic hygiene so they are prone to disease. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist please be very careful and take all of this into consideration when you are around them. I haven't seen any videos on this topic before but it was a recurring theme in my relationships with a narcissist so I thought I should discuss this. Please share your thoughts in the comments about your personal experiences. That's all for this video. Thank you for watching. Please like, comment, share and subscribe and I will talk to you soon.


So today we're going to talk about how to clean and just generally take care of your cast iron pans. They are one of the best tools you can ever have in your kitchen. I think they're just fantastic. They are heavy, but they last a lifetime if you treat them well. Cast iron pans are really easy to take care of.  It's really nice. It's really simple. One thing you want to remember is don't mix it with water. Water and iron just don't mix. If your pan sits in water for any length of time, it has a tendency to rust. We don't want rust, right? So don't leave it. You can get it wet, but don't leave it soaking in your dish water or put it in the dishwasher. You can't do those kinds of things, but you can get it wet for a few minutes as long as you dry it right away. You also want to avoid using soap. You just don't need it and you don't want to take away that finish that you've already developed on your pan. So don't use soap and you want to oil your pan or season it every time you use it, and it just takes a few minutes. So I'm cooking some bacon over there on the stove just to show you as an example.  I didn't have a steak to cook, although that would have been nice, but I went with the bacon because I love to eat bacon.  Like just immediately take care of it and wash it. Well, sometimes that's not always convenient.  And I say, that's the priority, not the pan. So I let it cool off and if I need to heat it up again because the grease is coagulated, I can heat it up a little bit and get it uncoagulated. All right, I've finished my bacon and my pan has been sitting here for probably 15 minutes, maybe 20. It's still warm. I can touch it. I can see that it's warm, but if it gets too cool, coagulates, turn on your flame and, you know, get the grease to be a liquidy again. So what you want to do after you cook like this is you're going to want to take a paper towel and just wipe out the excess oil. And if you have a lot of oil, you can just pour it out. And there's still plenty of stuff on the bottom of this pan. Let me tell you, that's stuck to it. So you have some options here when you're cleaning out your pan. Now I do have a lot of residue stuck to the bottom of the pan. So one of the options is to use one of these male chain scrubbers that is made by Lodge. And it has sort of this chain link exterior that doesn't scratch the surface. It's not real abrasive, but it gets the gunk off. And then there's a little piece of like silicone in there to give it some body. So that's a good option. Another option is a lot of times I've used these pampered chef little nylon scrapers, which does a great job as well. You can use just a plain rag. You can also use one of these non-scrubbing or non-scratching pads. I don't usually use those though because I like my chain male scrubber there. And you're going to need some kosher salt. So I'm going to use some salt in this. We'll pour in a little dab. And I'm going to add just a touch of water. And then I'm going to use the chain male scrubber here. But I'm going to start off with my nylon scraper. And I tell you, this thing comes in handy. We use it all the time. I'm going to leave links for you down in the description to all these items if you're interested. So think of cleaning a cast iron pan like getting a facial with a salt scrub.  And that's what the salt's doing here. It's taking off the, you know, all the gunk. And then it's leaving behind the foundation intact. And then you're going to oil the pan every time you use it. So think of that as moisturizing your face. This is moisturizing the pan to keep it nice and it won't rust. Once you've got it all scrubbed, then you just have to give it a good rinse. So I'm going to clean this out really good. And then we're going to put it right on the stove. So I'm going to take a towel and I'm going to wipe it out. That's nice and dry. And then we're going to turn the heat on. I've got it on medium. And that's just going to dry the pan, get any moisture that's on it out of it so that it won't rust. So I'm going to add about a tablespoon of avocado oil to our pan. And I'm going to take that cloth that I have that's clean basically and spread the oil around inside, outside, all over. So I leave that on medium heat until it's nice and hot. You can almost see it smoking. And as far as oils go, you can use like I did avocado oil or you can use rapeseed oil and even canola oil. So that's a good choice as well. All right, time for a little chef joke. So what is a panda's favorite cooking implement? A panda. So it's really pretty easy to take care of a cast iron pan. Just think of it as your face, right? We talked about exfoliating it. Use some kosher salt for that. And then you're going to moisturize it, right? With some oil after every use, okay? It's pretty simple. Just don't put it in any water and let it sit and soak or don't let water sit on it either. That's why we put it on the stove. After we've washed it and wiped it out, we want to make sure all the moisture is gone by putting it on the stove for a few minutes until that pan's hot again and all the water has just dissipated. You don't want to use any soap in that. And yeah, you're good to go. I mean, that's pretty much it.  And the beautiful thing about cast iron is you can put it in your oven. You can put it on your stove. You can even put it on your barbecue. Nothing's going to hurt it. So give this a try. If you have any more questions, let me know down in the comments. I would be happy to answer them. And if you've found this video useful at all, go ahead and hit that like button or smash it, whatever you want to do. 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Have you ever experienced any issues with sleeping, or are you often under severe stress during the day? Well, performance lab sleep could help you out. Hey, what's up, Greg here, the founder from Inception. Welcome to my channel, where you can learn top secrets on how to achieve limitless productivity and performance. Subscribe below to start your journey. We all live in this super stressful, fast-moving world, you know, and we're often under severe stress during the day, and consequently, we often experience issues falling asleep and having a high-quality sleep. Now, performance lab sleep was developed to help you out, getting more relaxed during the day, especially in the afternoon, and secondly, to help you out ensuring a high-quality sleep. Now, let's look at the advantages and disadvantages of taking performance lab sleep. But first, the question, guys, have you ever taken any supplements for sleep? Let me know in the comments section below. I've been taking performance lab sleep for about two weeks. Now, first week, I took about two capsules every single night, one hour before sleep, and the second week, I increased the dosage to four capsules per night. Now, to be very honest, I very rarely experienced any sleep-related issues. I have a very high-quality sleep, which I optimized in the past years. When I took two capsules per day of performance lab sleep, I didn't really experience any kind of positive benefit. It was, you know, too difficult for me to say if the product works or not, even though I know it should work based on all the ingredients that are in the stack. After the second week, when I increased my dosage to four capsules per day, then I started feeling, you know, the main benefits of taking performance lab sleep. After my test period, I figured out that in the second week, when I took four capsules per day, I had an amazing sleep on six days. And on one day, the sleep was kind of okay, but it could be better. And to be honest, I was very satisfied with the product. Now, if you look at the ingredients of this NETROPIC stack, what do we find in? There's magnesium, there's L-tryptophan and amino acid, and there's a tart cherry. So it's a very straight forward formula. And I really like that because, you know, there are not too many other NETROPICs or too many compounds in the stack. Now, magnesium plays an important role in our sleep, in our quality of our sleep. So you should anyway take it either in this NETROPIC stack or, you know, separately. Then I've looked at the L-tryptophan, which is an amino acid, an essential one. So we need L-tryptophan in our bodies. It also plays an important role. It's a very high dose in this NETROPIC stack. So this is a big, big benefit. Now, tart cherry is one of the best natural sources of melatonin, which I'm sure you know about this, also plays an important role in our sleep. 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So, I mean, I never experienced any side effects, but if you do, L-Triptophan might be the reason for that. So, you know, just something to keep in mind. Another thing is I tried a lot of other NETROPIC stacks for sleep relaxation. And one thing that I noticed is I would want to have GABA in this NETROPIC stack as well because I tried other NETROPIC stacks with GABA included, which is a neurotransmitter. And I saw a lot of benefits. I mean, it's not that I'm not satisfied with this product, but it's something to consider for the future development. Besides those two things, I think there's nothing to complain about. It's a very affordable, very effective NETROPIC stack. Definitely want top three NETROPIC stacks for sleep relaxation that I've ever tried. So if you need a product that will help you fall asleep faster and ensure a higher quality sleep, performance lab sleep is definitely something to check out and to try. 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Hi, baby. Hi. Oh, you're so cute. There she is. Good morning, Mura. Hi Good morning. I've missed my morning stick calls. Can I have one? Oh? Is it necessary to have coffee every morning? Are you one of those coffee people that need it? Civilized I guess I get a lot of comments about never drinking coffee. Yeah, I know people that don't But you don't trust them. No. Yeah, most of them need serious help Keeps my hands warm. Yeah, that looks nice How was you Mura? Oh, you're having a stick for breakfast Just waiting for somebody to throw that stick, aren't you? My hands are frozen packing this bag. That white stuff is Frost Yikes. Is this the stick you want? Is this the one you want? This is a great way to warm up in the morning. Thank you for the exercise Boo! Thank you flat piece of frozen ground.  Am I slowing down the show? Your Canadian blood is used to this cold Yeah, tough people. Yeah, tough people. You know who the toughest is though is this one right here You're the toughest. Are you ready to go ride bikes? Are you ready to go? Yeah, you make cold mornings warmer There's the sweetie. Here we go No flat ease. No crash ease. No whammies. Anything else? Yeah, I think those those are three solid things to ward off here today. There she goes. She's free Let's go. Let's go. Mira sees cows Mira wants to herd these cows so bad It's in her blood. You know, there's a lot to learn from Mira She doesn't complain about cold or heat or wind and she wakes up every day just psyched bouncing around for a new day so I am I'm gonna try to be more like Mira Remember those Michael Jordan commercials be like Mike? Be like Mira Be so psyched about every day that People think you're insane So I stopped here because I saw a refrigerator And I want to show you what's inside bottles of water Check that out. So I'm guessing this is here For ranchers travelers going by maybe it's a little trail magic station because You know locals know that water is hard to come by. That's pretty cool Thanks for opening the gate John There's lots of gates like this all around the place. You got to open them and close them So the cattle don't get out And everybody kind of just does it on the honor system. That's how the Wild West works About being polite. Yeah, we are definitely in the middle of nowhere We have not seen a human In a long time, which is fun We are out here Okay, it's time for a little mid-morning stick toss Go Can I have that stick please? Oh, can I please have that stick? Give the stick to me I've missed your games You're too fast for me Here I got a thorn in her paw Daddy's gonna fix it There all better all better All better, buddy. So we came from way over there And we're just gonna keep on heading that way Primitive road use at your own risk Are you intimidated John? What about you Mira? You've been getting lots of stickers today in your your paw. Are you okay?  Who needs an energy bar when you can stop and pet a sweet dog that just refills Refills your soul So when you're in the desert you have to be really mindful about water and sometimes you're filling up And cattle tanks and right now we just found a little Gas station up the side of the road and yes They have water So I got water Mira got raw water. What did John get? Razzleberry. How's it taste? I'm gonna taste like razzleberry Do you have razzleberries in Canada? Of course. Yeah, that's right They grow like this, right? And then sometimes you just can't avoid But get on a busy road. We're gonna be on a highway now for 14 miles to a town called Fredonia I just saw a sign back there that says we are 89 miles from the North Rim of the Grand Canyon Which is pretty cool. I just love this Canyon country the Wild West Boy when you're out there riding on dirt roads not having to deal with traffic at high speeds You realize how nice that is because once you hit one of these roads Even though there's not really all that much traffic on this road when they come flying by It's spooky when you're in Fredonia. You got to get a world famous gas station burrito It's actually not world famous at all, but all burritos to me are world famous. Oh, man. You got the bomb I did get the bomb It could be a bomb We will find out tomorrow morning. Yes Or somewhere between now and then And a 50 cent fountain drink that's impressive it's a bucket So you can get a lot done in the parking lot of a gas station John is currently on the phone here buying backcountry permits for the Navajo nation and those are necessary To camp and so we're buying those online. They're emailing us the permits We're excited about that if you don't have the permits You can't do it. So he's getting that taken care of and then we're gonna be on our way We'll be on Navajo land probably at some point tomorrow Mira Mira, thank you for the mirror hug We're just getting stuff done here. How you doing John? I'm pretty good, but so when I'm Traveling around I'm like, oh mirror. I don't jump up. Don't jump up and And I've told them I said I have this good friend and he encourages it And so here we are proof positive on video That Ryan is not helping me with my dog training On the bad uncle it's okay Uncles are supposed to let their kids get away with stuff John Goodbye Fredonia Thank you for the hospitality We're on our way well We found our dirt And it has just made a huge difference in just our sense of joy that 15 mile road section was just stressful It's no fun to have huge trucks flying by you This is what I love about hitting dirt It's beautiful. It's quiet. It's safe and just fun Dirt is more fun period Another great thing about being on dirt roads out in the back country is it's Way easier to find places to camp when you're on a road It's hard to find places to camp because a lot of times roads are lined with private property fences and You know out here you can camp wherever you want Is this our camp spot for the night? This looks pretty good blocked Camp right behind this tree blocks the wind. Good day my friend Tick to do So John before we set up for camp my viewers love bike gear and stuff. Tell us about your bike Okay, so this bike is very similar to the salsa black burrow that I had before Um, it's a mid-tail fat bike So it's a little bit longer that space is basically between the seat tube and the and the wheel so about eight inches longer more or less This one has some major differences over the other bike I have a ren suspension four cup front, which is great. Um, still have the dyno hub so I can power batteries in there um Titanium frame instead of aluminum, which is great. I've retained the salsa black burrow rack Which has been terrific for the basket from mira A lot of the other things have stayed the same bars and whatnot One of the major changes and an improvement that I love is the pinion and gate system Um, maintenance is very low mud isn't an issue Shifting without pedaling what you think No one really knows about that until you are able to do it It makes a huge difference when the train is undulating You can just turn into the right gear going over and then back up steep ones. That's been great Has that 600 ratio treated you well? It has I have maximum stump pulling ability going up the hills You saw yesterday on that loose gravel with a heavily laden bike I can still climb and with mira she's 40 pounds and yet I have the range To go pretty fast and take advantage of tail winds or or downhill.  It's been great Um, everything else is very similar. Um, you know a few little bling points that you know I have pedals that match the the gate that are the pinion gearbox, you know, those kind of things It's um, yeah, it's been a great ride. What about them tires? Oh, yeah. So here's the cool thing Uh, got some maxis tires on here right now. These are 27.5 by 2.8 This bike can take a fat bike wheel. So it has that wide spacing so I can go up to a five inch tire there So I have good quality rubber and and it takes all all stuff snow mud asphalt snow I said already Is this john wash up time it is john wash up time Get the salt and the grime off your skin. Just breathe so much better. You're warmer in the tent Healthier feel better Doesn't take a lot of water. I mean that's that bottle was Full and that's all I've used for my entire body Well, yeah, not bad just a little mitt a little water sometimes put on some tea tree oil in there And you smell like roses. Yeah Desert roses How much food do you give at the end of the day?  So basically Three big scoops heaping with my my hand. So it's it's probably somewhere close to two cups Um, and that's morning and night and then if she if we done a lot of riding I know she's losing weight or energy levels then she gets more and she gets treats and cheese. She loves cheese This is a really beautiful spot We have views of these cliffs way off in the distance It's pretty warm right now. Although it's going to change. I'm sure and get really cold But right now the temperature is perfect. We had a wonderful day of riding And uh, I'm in my groove. I'm with my people. I'm with You know nature and everything that I love so much in life bikes nature burritos mirrors and johns So it's just after 5 p.m. The sun is already getting ready to set it is winter time So it's not like the summer when we were on the great divide a couple years ago We can't ride late into the evening. We got to be starting to set up camp around 4 15 Um, so yeah, these days are a bit shorter Okay, good night you two Hi ryan. Good night Mira. Are you sure you don't want to sleep with uncle ryan? Huh? Yeah, you want to come with me come here. Yep. Keep coming. Yep. Keep coming. Keep coming. Yeah, sorry john. She's mine. Bye


My blood boiled, as I reached a point of no return. You found the best place, for your vengeful needs.  But this punching bag hits back, destroying a marriage and family.  An insulting scoff, becomes the catalyst that spirals his life, into deportation. The last story goes next level nuclear, so don't do this at home. When a boyfriend cheats on his partner, their relationship is broken. And whenever something's broken, his partner grabs glue to fix it. Before we start. Make sure to send Farmville requests to the like button. Every single day. Naturally, viewer discretion is advised. These nuclear revenge stories, might be disturbing to cheaters. So I have a personal story to share, which is several years old. I'll keep it short, but worth it. I've always been the black sheep of the family. Cousins grew up to be doctors, professors, creatives and such. Meanwhile, I've managed to make a humble stable passive income, through some business decisions. Nothing fancy, but I can afford a one-bedroom apartment in New York City and live comfortably with that, while working a part-time job in a cafe. Everyone in the family, including my own parents, judge me harshly for not pushing myself to do what my cousins do, especially my one cousin, who we will call Randy. I won't go into all the gritty details, but I'll go into some examples. The comments about my wasted potential weren't just, oh your cousin's a doctor, what about you? They were more like. I can't believe Randy just sealed a deal for X amount of dollars, and you still working at that shitty cafe. Are you still together with? What's her name? The girl with the pudgy stomach. Aren't you ever gonna do anything with your life? I'd feel so worthless living like that. Those are the nicer ones. I'm not kidding, welcome to my family. The worst ones include being told that it's better I didn't try, as I wouldn't amount to anything and other such things along those lines. I really don't care to remember the more toxic lines. So back to the golden boy, Randy. Think about the stereotypical dude bro, who got rich thanks to working for his dad, multiply that by 10, and you got Randy. Anyway, he always gave me the most shit, and eventually I just tuned them out. Mostly because I just wanted to enjoy my life with my significant other, work part-time and still afford what I want. So, to cut the bullcrap short, Randy has a wife and two kids. And let me add, he also had a mistress. I found this out, cause one day when I was walking through the city, I saw him walking down the street with a woman who clearly wasn't his wife, arms around each other. I checked Facebook, and saw he had indeed posted about visiting a bagel shop in the city while on a business trip that morning.  I followed them for five hours, snapped several photos, one of them going into a hotel together. I held onto these and waited until Christmas that year, about six months later. Why you ask? I've been humiliated by these people at family events constantly as a sport. So I'll get back at them, in the same fashion. I decided to unceremoniously drop printed photos in front of everyone at the table before dinner, and made sure to get his wife to see them. Cue screaming, which was also pointed towards me, how I dared to tear this family apart. Followed by fighting and a solid punch to my face, that actually resulted in a black eye. It was Randy's dad who did it though, not him. Enter the police, a lot of questioning, my significant other and I get kicked out. We head back home after talking to the cops one last time. What's the aftermath?  Whatever, even my parents had always expressed disappointment in me for not applying myself fully. So no real loss there. Bit strange, but that's how they are. Randy has been the golden boy, so they're willing to forgive his cheating, while hypocritically judging the neighbor as pure scum if they did the same. Randy got divorced and lost full custody of the kids after threatening his ex. Of course he did. Family occasionally tries to guilt me into apologizing, but my response is some variation of, not gonna apologize for outing a cheating snicker doodle, and I'm promptly blocked for another few months. If it were me or any other family member who did the same, then it'd be good riddance, but with Randy it's a fair mistake anyone can make. So glad to be out of that toxic swamp. My significant other and Randy's ex-wife are good friends and the kids call me uncle, nice having a family who actually loves me unconditionally for once. My significant other and I got married, and that's when my family last tried to get into contact with me and were actually nice for once, seeing me moving on eats at them, I guess. I personally felt it was them not wanting to lose their control over me, instead of not wanting to miss out on future grandkids. The reason for this is because they would always claim she wouldn't work for me in the long run. Me getting married to her disproves that idea, and they're starting to not want to be left out of other ways to try and keep me under them. Maybe realizing their punching bag is gone for good. That's it really, living my best life now with a good family, as opposed to a shitty one. This happened over a span of three years. Let me preface this by saying, I do feel somewhat bad about the events that transpired, but it would be eating my conscience to say I didn't do it on purpose, because I did. I started my first full-time job when I was 20, fresh off college and ready to take on the world. I resided in a Middle Eastern country, where people got brought in frequently by employers, and one mistake could cost them everything. I was spared of this pressure, because I was a resident of the place despite not being from there. Anyways, when I first started, I got along well with my co-worker, despite the fact that he came off as bad news. We tried hanging out, but the more I got to know him, the more disgusted I became. He was a misogynist, a purist of his religion where he believes execution of certain people should be allowed, and he was extremely homophobic. But nonetheless, I tried making friends with him, because I was open to anything. In our office, we have a portable Wi-Fi that he took with him every day, so he had free internet at home, and I never commented on this because I have my own. I'll add that we can afford it both, more on this later. The closer I got to him, the more he opened up, but in the worst ways. While we're in the office, I learned he had a girlfriend, but he would send me lewd images of woman he's sexy timing. He also talks about drug use, and sometimes disappears from work for hours on end, while I'm in the office. I must admit I'm also in the wrong for sort of enabling this behavior. At that point, I would rather suffer in silence and didn't have the co-honus to say anything.  Like I said, I was 20, I was still young and naive, and I tried my best to seem calm and friendly, I wanted to make a good impression. I'm normally the quiet type who keeps things to himself and tries not to bother people. I get to places through my merit and hard work. This man however, was the opposite. He was several years older than me, and acted like he was above me through every step. But I ignored it, because I wanted to be civil. Sometimes I would help him with his work, until eventually, his work became mine. He would just expect me to do it, without even lending a hand. I didn't say anything nor protested, I just did it.  Then there's the lateness, where I would come in on time every day, and he'd come an hour late. Still, I kept my mouth shut. It escalated to him adjusting attendance records, so it seems like he's not absent, even though his absences were frequent. Unfortunately, he was put in charge of those records. I remained quiet throughout all of this, remained civil. Until I finally spoke to the general manager about pursuing a different line of work. I was always into graphic design, and they needed to get some work done so I offered to do it. But during this time, I couldn't afford much things anymore, because I had to help pay for bills for my parents, so I usually just walked to work back and forth every day and limited my eating to once a day. I also canceled my Wi-Fi subscription with my internet provider to save money. So, as an agreement, I could take the office Wi-Fi with me and work on designs from home. However, my co-worker didn't agree to this. He pretty much attacked me with a barrage of insults, he scoffed at the fact that I needed the Wi-Fi to do design work, and said I was a joke. I've suppressed majority of what the conversation held, but it went something like this. I just need it tonight, you can have the Wi-Fi tomorrow. Why? It's not yours. I need to do some design work. Yeah me too. I need to do that too. So leave it here. I couldn't remember much of what else he said, but there was a scoff after he said that. He proceeded to make fun of my designs, saying they sucked and that I should just stop while I'm at it. My blood boiled and I reached a point of no return. I immediately phoned the office manager and talked about the situation and how if I don't get the Wi-Fi, I'll complain to the general manager, who did in fact give me his blessing unlike this turd. He immediately called my co-worker and told him to give me the Wi-Fi, which he did, and that was that.  The next day, I went to the head office, and had a meeting with the general manager. I spoke to him about all the misconducts this guy had, how he's always late, never in the office, changes his absences, steals money sometimes etc. I spilled my heart out on all his wrongdoings, showing the messages and photos I was sent during work that I never asked for, and how I'm doing all of his work. It escalated to a point where he got brought into the main office for a meeting, where I proceeded to berate him in front of the manager, and he could only try to defend himself, but I came prepared. It turns out the office manager never even spoke to the general manager about his misconduct. Afterwards, he was brought back to the office having been yelled at by both me and the general manager. And I could say that's where it ends, except it's not. After he left, the general manager realized if I had been doing all the work, then why didn't I say anything? I responded that I was simply there to work, and to help. However, with what just happened, and the fact that this guy was getting paid more than me, I've decided that as long he's here, I won't be staying in the company. I gave him a choice, me, or this guy. The answer was obvious, because by the next day he was handed a termination letter, and another letter that states he's been booked a ticket and he has to head back to his home country within a month. He's also barred from entering the country for several years due to his public misconduct, that was reported by a certain someone, to the local authorities. I could say that's the end, but okay, this is the last one I swear.  Funny enough, he added me on Facebook when we first met, and she proceeded to add me too, because he talks about me to her. Well, our messages weren't just inappropriate, it showed details of him cheating on her, with me questioning him if that's a good idea. Every screenshot, sent. All the photos of the women he's been with, sent. She was livid, and I kept apologizing for keeping her in the dark. But that I thought she deserved to know at least. I haven't spoken to her since, but judging from the fact that her Facebook status no longer states she's engaged to him, is enough of a confirmation. I sent him one last thing before blocking him on every social media we've been connected in. You deserve this, shithead. It's been several months since then, and I'm thriving at work. I gotta raise, have better coworkers, and I'm getting a promotion. As for him, well he's out there somewhere in the world, who knows and who cares right. We're no longer in the same country, so whatever else happens to him no longer phases me. During the times we were on good terms, he overshared and sent me a photo of his fake Italian ID, because he was planning on illegally migrating there next year. I'm on the fence if I should send it to the authorities in Italy or not, just as a precaution. I could escalate things further, but with everything I've been given since he left, I don't want to tempt fate any more than I have. Things are good now, and my new coworkers are great. This was the first time I actually set out to destroy someone, and I don't intend to do it again. When I was around 16, I was dating this really cool guy who I had met through a friend. At this time we were both in the closet, so nobody knew that we, in fact, began a relationship. Back then, I was very low in the self-esteem department and was pretty relaxed when it came to dating. Through our relationship, I was so emotionally insecure that I didn't really notice that he liked to keep me as a docile boyfriend. He would often treat me like garbage around friends, openly flirt and grope up on other people and seem to keep me at his side. Making me remember that he was the only one who found me attractive, and I would be all alone without him. I had heard about him cheating on me before, but I didn't want to believe it. One night I was laying in bed with him, since he decided to stay the night.  I was just about to nod off when my phone notified me of a text. I looked and saw it was a mutual friend, who, I have to admit, would be willing to sexy time any man with a pulse. She was the type who liked to tell her friends about her latest conquests. But she sent me this text, telling me she added my boyfriend to her list. She actually slept with him. It turned out, that he took off of work early so he could visit her and they could have sexy time. What made it even worse, was that he came to my house after and we also had sexy time. The thought of him sleeping with someone he knew I saw as a close friend, before coming home to me just to sleep with me as well. Just made me snap in that moment. At first, I was prepared to slap him and kick him out of the house, but I had a better idea. Slipping out of bed I searched around my dad's tools, finding a half empty tube of super glue. I made my way back upstairs, making sure that I unplugged his phone before returning to his side. I continued to glue his venerchanetzle to the side of his leg before moving to sleep on the couch the remaining night. I was upset, but knew that it would be worth it once he wakes up the next morning. I woke up that afternoon, and sat at the table to start breakfast with my unsuspecting parents, enjoying a piece of french toast when I heard a loud thud from upstairs. I couldn't help but grin, as my now ex limped down the stairs, most likely preparing to curse me out for what I had done. Of course, my parents were at the table and he did not want to out himself to anyone, nor would he want to face my father about both cheating and sleeping with his only son. He simply grabbed his phone and attempts to phone one of our friends for a ride, to find that the battery was dead before choosing to walk his way home. Long story short, I enjoyed my toast before inviting a couple of friends on what was supposed to be a date. We all had a lot of fun and I ended up coming out to a couple of friends and explain the situation. I later found out that he now has three kids from different women. Yes, I am in fact a male as well as my boyfriend who I had gotten revenge on. I know that my actions weren't the wisest or most sane, and while I was hurt, I knew it was not an excuse and honestly feel bad for doing it. What led me to do it was a bit more than just him cheating the one time. Later down the line, I realized that it was a toxic relationship. I should have just left, and now have built myself up to someone I could feel confident being, both emotionally and physically. Also, I didn't do something as bad as emptying the whole bottle onto his precious or anything like that, I did just enough for it to make it effective, but not enough for any real permanent damage. He, from what I have heard, still hasn't learned. I want to take this moment, to thank you for your support, I really appreciate you. Remember that these stories are shared for your entertainment. Specifically concerning the last story, so don't do this yourself. Subscribe so you don't miss out on future episodes and show your vengeful devotion, by tickling the like button without mercy. Do you have any experiences surrounding the topic of this episode? Share yours below, I'll join the conversation. And I'll be seeing you, in the next one.


I'm Chantal, I'm a retired physician and I'm a moon gardener. Lunar gardening is something that's been going on for centuries, farmers have developed it, but it's become more of a quote-unquote science. I started planting according to the lunar cycles. I have found that by putting it into practice, things grow much faster than they would otherwise. And I think what it's got to do is got to do with putting yourself in sync with the rhythms of the seasons and the rhythms of the earth and the rhythms of planting. And I think that when you put yourself in sync with the seasons, when you're in touch with nature, you feel different. You are more grounded, it's a different feeling. And I think that that's what permeates this garden. As a result of the fact that this garden is on a street corner, there's a lot of foot traffic around it. I don't have a fence, so it doesn't make any sense for me to try to keep things to myself. So it was almost out of necessity that I created a garden that's open to the community. This just happens to be where I can garden, so I'm gardening out front. That necessity pulled me out of myself. It pulled me out of my depression. It put me back in touch with the community. And now a lot of different things have grown out of it. I put out this little stand, which has become an exchange. When I have excess produce, I put it in there. People can pick it up. When people have excess stuff from the neighborhood, they'll come in, they'll put it there. It's just a really nice way for people to share what they've got. I started the garden on this little plot right here, which is about, I think, 10 by 20 feet. And that was the very first garden. Everything else when I started gardening was lawn, except for just a little border over here. And when I first started gardening, it was not really in my mind to do anything other than just to plant a few flowers and to have a pretty garden. But the real urge to garden, and this particular garden, came about after I got really sick. I hurt my back and had a couple of spine operations. And the recovery was very, very difficult and long. I was on a lot of medication, became very, very depressed. And just found really a very hard time motivating myself to do anything. I had so much pain I couldn't stand for very long to do anything inside the house. It was hard to imagine that I could even do anything outside. But I had this urge. It was like a elemental force that said, come and do this. You can do this. I didn't listen at first because it seemed impossible when I couldn't stand up to cook a meal.  But that voice wouldn't stop. It just said, yeah, you can do this. You can do this. Come out and garden one day. I remember that I had this little stool that rolled around and I put on my back brace and I slipped an ice pack in the back here. And I came out and before I knew it, I had cleared up the space. And within a few days, I had actually, I planted my very first garden and I got enough vegetables out of that very first garden to share with a lot of people. And that's what got me going. This part is the herb garden. And I always tell my students, if you're going to have an herb garden, you must put it really, really close to your front door. It has to be just within a few steps so that when you want something, you can walk out, clip it and walk back inside. So I've got parsley, oregano, all of my culinary herbs, but I also grow some medicinal herbs. I've got lemon balm, I've got lemon verbena, fever fuel, and I like to make my own soaps and I make my own creams and lotions. So I use the herbs and the flowers from the garden to infuse oils and then from those oils I make the different products. And I use, that's pretty much what we use for the whole family. I make enough so that I can ship out to the whole, to my family at Christmas time. And that's my Christmas gift. Lavender is one of my favorite plants. It's one of my favorite plants. I think it's really calming. If you've got any kind of anxiety, you want to have lavender growing in your garden. And certainly as a stress believer, it's just a wonderful scent. This is French lavender and I propagated it and grew a whole hedge out of that one plant. It's one of the things I talked during the class. I specifically created a path from one side to the other to encourage people to come through the garden and to wander and to cut through and to sit down if they wish. I have a lot of fruit trees growing. This is my guava tree and you can see some guavas we're going to be making guava jelly this year. This is a satsuma tangerine. That's a mango tree right there. Gave some beautiful mangoes and there's a cherry moya tree, a couple of pear trees and plum and nectarine. I've always got kale growing and I like to keep the kale right in front because I encourage people to pick it themselves and the kids love to come by and pull the kale and just chew at it. This is my vegetable exchange stand. People will bring things that they have extras of and whenever I have any extras, I'll put it in there and whatever the neighborhood partakes. I have a few more beans growing so this was loaded up with beans. You can see they're really drying up and I've left them on the vine to dry up because I want the seeds for next year so I don't have to go and buy any more seeds. I just collect the dry seed pods and wait until they're completely dry and then I will use those seeds for my next year's crop. Happy and that little thing, that little pole with the can at the top that's where I put peanuts for my friend Blue Jay and he comes and eats the peanuts but he stays around and eats the bugs too so I encourage him to visit the garden because that's my pest control. I've got bird feeders hanging all through the garden for the same reason because you bring the birds to your garden they will help you out by eating the insects. Today with the children of the neighborhood we planted the box and this is our winter vegetable box so we planted kale, lettuce, broccoli, onions there's cauliflower and there are flowers growing to attract beneficial insects all throughout the box. At the bottom it's full of logs so it's called a hoogle culture because it's very expensive to fill a box with a lot of soil and you can get away by putting a bunch of twigs and grasses and everything at the bottom put about four inches of soil and that's all you need to grow and as things go along the branches will decompose and actually rot and turn into soil so that's what's going on with this box. We planted a bunch of trees along the parkway now that we have gotten permission to grow food on the parkways so I've got citrus growing on the parkway. The outside of the garden is not irrigated at all and only depends on whether I water it or the weather waters it and that's because it's meant to be a permaculture garden so it should not really depend on watering it's hard to maintain at first but once you get it going you just have absolutely no worries it just keeps itself going so it may not be obvious to put roses but roses are actually really hardy they are drought tolerant and they will reward you with a profusion of flowers whenever it starts to rain again I find them good plants to interspers These are my favorite roses and I plant roses in remembrance of people so when I lose a friend or a family relative I will plant a rose bush so there's a rose bush this is my aunt's rose bush she likes yellow roses and there's one planted for my mother so yeah, it's my way of keeping their memory alive I have one more plant that in terms of memory and keeping things alive is really important to me that I'd like to show you so it's over here and it's right by my door it's not a very showy plant at all and it doesn't look fabulous but it means a lot okay, so this aloe plant was given to me as a gift from a family that has preserved it since the middle passage this particular plant made it through the middle passage was smuggled aboard ship by a slave it was grown in the fields of America that family escaped to Canada they took the plant with them and grew it over there some of them came back to the United States they came to Maryland, they brought the plant to Maryland and some of them moved to not too far from here a few blocks away from here and I was lucky enough to get a piece of it we don't have very many things to connect us to our past there's a big block that's been taken away from us and to have anything that you can touch that carries the memory of your ancestors be there, not even blood-related to me this is my talisman it's amazing to have this it's just amazing I take my inspirations from some people that I really admire Vanda Nashiva is one of my heroes she started the seed-saving movement in northern India after the epidemic of farmer suicides up there and she has been a real force against Monsanto she established an organization that has really revitalized seed-saving and heirlooms seeds in India and really it's an amazing woman so she's one of my inspirations she says that to garden, to produce your own food is a revolutionary act because right now we are so enslaved by our systems our food production systems the way that they've been set up there's not enough response to demand and our food is shipped from all over the place you don't know what's on it you don't know what pesticides are on it what preservatives half the time it's been picked before it's ripe and it's been subjected to gas in order to ripen it artificially it's not real nutritious food and it's really really important I think to everyone to get their hands in the dirt and to get back to growing something whatever it is on your balcony wherever you can find some open space a little bit of sunshine grow something it'll make you better it'll make your life better


Hey guys, welcome back to my YouTube channel. This is Daniel Rosal here bringing you today's video from my lovely home office as usual in the lovelier city of Jerusalem Jerusalem and I thought it cover a entertaining facet of Israeli culture today from my viewpoint as an immigrant here as an Oleh Adash of seven years vintage now I am a huge fan of a YouTube channel called peace of Hebrew It's really it's run by Doron and Elsa Doron is like the only Israeli You will ever find who will actually speak Hebrew at a comprehensible pace. It's an amazing channel Whether you're learning Hebrew for the first time or you've been here like me for a while and you're Hebrew Rustified is that a word rustified got rusty. I like rustified if you're Hebrew rustified over the COVID period Then their channel is so so good in my opinion the state of Israel instead of putting money into these Old-fashioned olpan programs where they still use cassette tapes or at least it was back in my day in 2015 they should be funding creators like Doron and Elsa helping them make more videos because their content is so useful For Oleh and so many more people could be benefiting from it So I'm doing what's called in Hebrew another word another Hebrew slang is called fear goon Fear goon is an unusual word and it means like what I'm doing when you really sort of get into something somebody else's Content or just what they do when you try to share it with people that you care about So I'm doing for goon. I recommend at their YouTube channel highly. I'll put a link in the description What I wanted to talk about though in today's video was Friar culture So I looked on YouTube I put in what what does Friar mean to see if anyone had tried to kind of explain the What what it is and I find a couple of short videos giving very sort of dictionary Descriptions, you know, which is very easy to do right a Friar and that's my attempt to roll my Rs like an Israeli Friar It means a sucker and that's basically we can end the video here if we're just talking about the definition, right? It means someone who is I guess gullible They get scooped into like bad deals not the most discerning person you get the idea, right? And it doesn't just mean in deals It just means in general a Friar is a sucker now But that doesn't really do justice to the pervasive fear in Israeli culture of being a Friar and how far reaching that is It's one of the strangest facets of Israeli culture versus the culture of Ireland Where I grew up. So let me try to just explain it a bit more. There's this expression in Hebrew called low Let's say it Friar. It means low let's say it not to Leave and in this case it means to like emerge from a situation Friar low. Let's say Friar and that explains what Friar culture is Israelis are always worried that they're gonna be screwed over or get some kind of a bad deal and that fear is firstly this kind of weird National fear and it causes people to proactively put their guard up now. I'm not a Anthropologist. I'm not even really. I'm not a sabra a born Israeli So originally born Israelis can comment on my observations of this culture So it's a national fear and I know when everyone is worried that they're gonna be Screwed over for for good or for worse now I think there is good and bad aspects to this cultural aspect of Israeli culture much as if you critiqued any Culture you'd find good and bad things about it But in the case of Israel, it's kind of particular. There's something vaguely comical about this fear Particularly if you didn't grow up grow up from it. It's used for instance You'll see it in Israeli ads right when you're watching Hebrew TV and the ads come up. You'll sometimes see marketing saying like don't be a don't be a sucker like You know I'll be a Friar and do and buy our product right and I think that's a very strange form of advertising that wouldn't really connect with People in other countries where that's not sort of this entrenched norm now I would say the bad side of not not wanting to be a Friar is I don't know firstly really where it comes from. So if you Know where it comes from or you have thoughts about where this strange mentality stems from really? Please leave them in the comments. I'd be very interested to have a To hear from Israelis as in native-born Israelis about this because I find it very interesting And I think a lot of all him had a shim do as well But wherever this trade originates, I think the bad side of it is that people can Be sort of harsh to other people because they don't want to be a Friar So you might for instance see this on the roads and the roads in Israel are absolutely Chaos I hate driving in Israel. I've said that many times. I love the public transport I think it's good. It could of course be better But I choose generally to take the train or bus where I can just to not get behind the wheel here because it's so stressful And why is it so stressful? Everyone's being hyper hyper aggressive everyone's Everyone's honking. It's like people liken it to driving driving in other Mediterranean countries. So coming from Ireland We have a whole different driving culture It's very much a considerate manner Lee culture let people go ahead of you and it's the 180 degree opposite of what it's like in Israel So when people are driving and they're driving like maniacs and they're cutting people off and they're not letting this guy into The lane and they're being very strong. I think what's underlying that is the fear of being a Friar No one wants to let the first guy into the lane because the second guy and third guy and fourth guy are gonna come and then you're gonna be You're gonna miss your meeting. So you're gonna end up a Friar. You see the connections now. I Think another strange cultural dynamic of Israel that's connected to this strange Friar culture is something called she thought the matzliah she thought the matzliah literally translates to Trying the successful method and it means basically trying your way Hoping the other hoping the other party doesn't say no, right? So you ask for 30 days vacation if you're negotiating a job contract and you hope the employer says, oh, that's fine Again, my understanding as a non-Israeli Looking at this culture and sort of making my own notes about it So I think Friar culture and she thought the matzliah are connected one example of what I consider a bad sort of outcome of Friar culture is I'll give it. This is this is a sort of cultural Example here is when is ready when Israel was having the Covid the outbreak of Covid the government had very strict laws about don't visit other people for a while It was really crazy for a period and a lot of people were Flouting this law people were very openly visiting their family members Even though they weren't supposed to and there was no enforcement of the law really the police said we're gonna have these checkpoints But everyone knew there's no way the police are gonna be able to police the entire population and prevent Someone in this neighborhood from going to dinner in this person. So that's an instance where Friar culture would say You don't don't it would be like a Friar move to play by the rules because everyone knows you can get away with it So that's where I see the bad side to Friar culture I think Israelis will share my amusement at Friar culture when we discuss it And I think most people would also probably agree that it's generally Not so nice feature of the Israeli culture and I didn't by the way make this video to criticize Israeli culture as a newcomer It's not my place. I just think that this is sort of a funny dynamic But at the same time it can have negative repercussions stemming from it So those are my thoughts if you have other opinions about Friar culture what it means to be a Friar what why Israelis are so worried about being a Friar if you think it's a good There's other good aspects. I didn't touch upon other harmful aspects. I didn't touch upon I'd be interested to hear your views. Please leave me a comment Thank you for watching if you want to get more videos about life in Israel my observations I do have a living in Israel playlist on this YouTube channel and I post the Israeli related videos under that playlist Thank you for watching and Speak to you soon