Eight more formal business English phrases from espressoenglish.net. When writing a business letter or when emailing a business contact who we don't know well, we tend to use more formal English. Today, you'll learn how to transform casual conversational English into more formal business English. If you're learning English for your career, make sure to check out my Business English course with 40 practical lessons. Click on the link in the top right corner of this video for more information. Informal. I want to talk to you about the project. More formal. I would like to discuss the project with you. I would like is a more polite way to express what you want. Discuss is a more formal way to say talk about. Note that we don't use about after discuss. Also note the prepositions. You can talk to someone about something, but you discuss something with someone. Informal. I'll get in touch soon. More formal. I will contact you shortly. In more formal business communication, we avoid contractions, short forms, like I'll. So that's why it is changed to I will. Get in touch is an informal way to say contact. The word soon is also okay to use in business English, but shortly is another alternative that makes it sound a little more formal. Informal. You need to send in your application by June 30th. More formal. It is necessary to submit your application by June 30th. It is necessary is a more formal or indirect way to talk about needs and requirements, and submit is a more formal way to say send in. Informal. Sorry, it's taking forever. More formal. We apologize for the delay. It's common to use sorry in conversational English, but in more formal business communication, use we apologize if you are speaking on behalf of a group or company, or I apologize if you are speaking for yourself. It's taking forever is an informal way to exaggerate the length of the weight, essentially saying it is taking a very long time. But in business English, the word delay is a better choice. Informal. I promise to fix the problem right away. More formal. I assure you that I will resolve the issue as soon as possible. I assure you is a more formal way to promise things. Solving a problem as an issue helps minimize the negative connotations associated with the word problem, and resolve or solve can be used as a more formal word for fix. Right away means now or in the very near future. In business English, it's better to say as soon as possible or immediately. Informal. Don't forget that you need to pay us by Friday. More formal. We would like to remind you that payment is due by Friday. In everyday English, we tell people don't forget, but in business English, we would like to remind you is a more polite way to help someone remember something. If something is due on or before a certain date, it means it must be finished or completed before that time. Informal. Also, please give us a list of your products. More formal. In addition, please provide us with a list of your products. When speaking informally, it's common to start a sentence with also, plus or and to add information. In more formal business English, in addition, sounds better. Provide is a little more formal than the common verb give. Note the prepositions.  Informal. See you later. More formal. I look forward to seeing you. When you are anticipating seeing someone in the future, say, see you later, informally to friends. In business communication, it's better to say, I look forward to seeing you. If you're learning English for work, then you will love my business English course. It has lessons that will teach you phrases for meetings, interviews, phone calls and networking. And you'll learn useful vocabulary for talking about finance, marketing, retail, management and much more. Click on the link in the video for more information and to take a free sample lesson. Thanks for watching and I'll see you next time.


Live from London, England. Extracting the signal from the noise. It's theCUBE. Cover, Discover 2015. Brought to you by Hewlett Packard Enterprise. Now your hosts, John Furrier and Dave Vellante. Okay, welcome back everyone. We are live here in London, England. This is theCUBE, HPE Discover, HPE Discover. Make sure you get that E in there. HPE Enterprise is the first show for their official spin-out split of the two companies. I'm John Furrier with Dave Vellante. This is theCUBE. It's our flagship program. We go out to the events and extract the signal from the noise. Our next guest is Casey Choi, VP of Global Solutions, Architecture and Engineer at HPE, HPE Enterprise. Welcome back to theCUBE. Good to see you. Talk about the 10-year difference between today and 10 years ago, because microservices is really exciting. Look at the possibilities. A lot of leverage there. Costs to deploy is lower. Everything's lining up nicely for this new development application tsunami coming. 10 years ago, we had web servers. We had service-oriented architectures. We had these things, but what's different now? I'm not saying there's some cost differences, but the parent contrast, and then how that's making this today's architecture more compelling to make moves now. Yeah, John, I think it's a generational difference. We're talking almost a generation, and part of it, frankly, is a generational difference. We've got a new generation of developers. We've got a new generation of folks that are coming into this space as enterprise architects, developers, coders, and engineers that are really, they think differently, frankly. They're taught differently in terms of the computer science that's coming out today, right? And the things that we learned in terms of structured languages and the way to program for things has fundamentally changed. I think one fundamental difference is you've got a very brand new generation of people that think differently. They're thinking much more in a runtime model versus a compile model to kind of break it down that way, where versus being something that's preformed and ready to go, you're composing these things, you're composing these services, and you're delivering them through very different mechanisms. 10 years ago, we were just at the cusp of virtual machines. Now, we're at the cusp of delivering services through things like container-based technologies and offering tremendous isolation and security that we didn't have before, right? That was preformed in the services. So I think there's quite a bit of difference between what was there, the concepts that were out there. So virtualization has been a big enabler. Absolutely, yeah. And as we move forward, more of the container type technologies that are coming out from the open source community and others, and I think it's going to be that next leap forward because now you're going to be able to do this at a more granular level. You're going to be able to do some separation around the data plane aspects of it. So we're getting better and better at the composability of these services, and we're seeing that reflected everywhere. So one of the conversations we had on our crowd chats a couple of weeks ago was this notion of in the 80s and 90s with the mini computer generation, two generations, I guess three generations ago, or two generations ago, we saw the boom of applications. Now they were siloed-based applications. We pre-packaged they had some silo activity going on big data, but we saw the companies get formed, you know, Oracle, Siebel, all these companies, but they were fully integrated software. Are we going to see something similar because if you look at today's infrastructure and architecture with DevOps, you're kind of talking about this application explosion. Yeah. And you can almost tease out and say, well, based on the thesis of cloud and agile and containers, this new enablement is disruptive in a sense that there should be a slew of apps and then what's the implication, if true, what's the implications of that thesis? Yeah. So John, you're asking me on the crystal ball thing, right? That's an honest question. You know, I'm not sure. I'm not sure we're going to see, you know, the level of vertical integration that we saw, you know, in that last wave, right? Where we saw a lot of those companies form up because the stuff was complicated and required a degree of vertical integration. It required a degree of industry integration that was required to stand these up. I mean, think about the man hours it took to, you know, stand up in Oracle environment or an SAP environment or any environment for that matter, right? It was a significant effort, not only cost-wise, but time-wise. I think this next wave is different. I think it's going to be much more built on an open construct. I think it's going to be platform-based. I think it's going to be driven by, again, a set of capabilities and offerings. I mean, everything from what's available in the infrastructure stack, all the way up through the development tools. And I think it's going to be, you know, primarily based on who can provide the best ecosystem for that versus, again, being the vertical integrator of all of that. So I think the model's quite different. I think the end objectives are similar in a lot of cases, right? We're still going to need systems of record and transactional systems, but they're going to be overlaid, much more transient in the way that we look at these applications. Hold on a minute before I give back. So let's back up. It's a little pre-crystal ball because I agree with you. I think that bloated software models is pretty much over. We've seen that. But at the top of the stack, lightweight is the new thing, right? So when someone say, I want to have a lightweight software, because it's runtime, because they don't want to have a lot of stuff going on that they can reuse code, infrastructure as code, dev ops. So more of the lightweight applications seem to be emerging, whether that's an iPhone app or a native app, maybe some level of integration at the top of the stack, but not like fully integrated. Do you see that trend?  And a lot of it's just, again, driven by the appetite for freshness, newness, functionality. I mean, just take a look at most folks today. I heard a story that was told by one of our CTOs the other day where everyone's got these, right? Where he has young daughters and the way they select banking services today is based on really the type of applications that are available through the app store, right? And what is available? What seems to suit their needs? A lot of it's very personalized and personalization is going to drive a lot more need for much more impermanence in the application. So think about what's driving the appetite and the appetite is being driven by the fact that none of these applications last that long, right? And because of that, you are inferring a sense of lightweightness. What isn't lightweight though is the backend stuff, right? You've got to preserve that data chain of custody. You've got to have transactional integrity. You've got to have all that. So we still like to try to remind people, the Hewlett Packard Enterprise that, yes, the front end needs to be custom and it needs to be very personal, but you do have some heavy-duty, you know, transactional integrity. This is what you were saying earlier, but you've got to have that engine underneath the apps. Absolutely, yeah. And the DevOps guys want to have composable architectures where they can do a lot of fast runtime with microservices, real time. Those guys aren't worrying about configuration management. They want to actually have that provision on its own. I think they're worrying about it, but they're worrying less about it. And I think what they're doing is they're worrying about it in smaller chunks, right? So, I mean- They don't want to worry about it. It's a fast-fail mentality and it also says, and again, I'm not criticizing it. I think it's the right sort of model for what we have today. It's contemporary, right? But what it's saying is, you know, I can do this and I'm only going to be taking down a part of my application versus, you know, having a huge degree of dependency within the code. And I think it's a model for today, right? It is a continuous service delivery model, which basically says, look, I'm going to push a lot of things to production, but I'm going to do it in such a way where, you know, a lot of this doesn't have as strong a monolithic dependency as we've had in the past. And again, I think this is a contemporary model. Well, like the old software development models, we used to do our own graphics. Those were in libraries per application, vertically integrated, that went away. Now DevOps guys, they don't want to worry about it, but they might have to. But the DevOps movement says, hey, there's stuff orchestrating and automating on its behalf. So there's not so much they don't care about it. I'd like to have people look at it in a Jeffrey Moore kind of a way, right? You're going to have strong systems of engagement, right? That you're going to build on top of systems of record. Let's just make sure that you are building for the right specification. You know, systems of engagement have to move fast, right? They have to be, you know, temporal by nature. They have to be customized. But, you know, that basis for what happens on the back end side is going to be just as critical. And in many cases, a lot of that, fortunately or unfortunately, is legacy. And that binding has to be there. And I think we're in a good place because we've been able to address and kind of understand both sides of that. And honestly, I'm not sure bimodality is the right answer. I think you got to do both, right? You can't do one or the other. You have to do both. Well, and his latest is systems of intelligence, which bring together analytics and transactions. Yeah, you get the cognitive and the predictive starting to come into the model here, right? And in that sense, you're driving that further and further away. And I think it blends, you know, very well into what the industry's talking about in terms of continuous service delivery because that's probably the penultimate example, right? Because you're modifying what is happening, you know, at the production delivery side, you know, as it's being learned or as it's being utilized.  Get foundational, have some foundational work done and then have some building blocks to work with engagement. Right, right. Casey, final question. What's your take on the show? From a customer standpoint, looking around, briefings you've been through, early customers you've talked to, or so you're feeling, what's the customer view of this show for the takeaway? Is it that they have to move now, that the architectures are in place, HP's the bridge to the future? What's the overall take? John, I think there's two things. And you know, you guys and I were together in Vegas back in the summertime. And think about back then, you know, and what we have on the floor today. I mean, this is organized very much around these transformational themes, right? We were just hinting at it back at the time. And quite honestly, a year ago, we weren't there. I think this is a pretty clear indicator of what the new company is going to be about and wants to be about, which is, I want to talk a lot more about outcomes. You know, we want to try to address, in some respects, a different audience, a different buyer. We still think IT is exceptionally important to this. And we want to make them a pivotal piece of what goes on. But you know, we all recognize that we're all going to have to move, right? To this model where the conversation is different. You know, how we look at technology and what its role is is different. But I can't think of a better response to it than to say, look around on the show floor. And this is the new HP. This is the new HP Enterprise, right? And Hewlett-Packard Enterprise. It's organized this way. And I think we're aspiring to be, you know, again that company that helps drive that. And we release that. We're excited to cover you guys. I mean, now that the whole team is together formally. Great.  Feels younger? All right, good. Maybe somebody will rub off on me. I appreciate that. It feels fresh. All right, good. Good to hear that. Casey Choi here inside the Cube, getting the signal from Noah. He's getting ready for the general sessions. We'll be right back with more live coverage here in London, England after this short break.


Good morning friends. We're here again at Flying J and Saskatoon. This road was slept last night. Now we're just in line to grab some fuel. Once this guy's done fueling, two pumps over there are frozen again. Cool figure. Happens every winter. Yet they never fix it. Every winter all the pumps freeze. The DEF pumps freeze guaranteed. Oh well. Welcome to the day. So today I'm going to Hardesty, Alberta. Sort of like just in the air, general area there. We got to bring these big steel plates I got on the trailer to the oil fields there so they can build a big oil tank and store oil in it there. So that should be fun.  So we're here on the Canadian prairies, sort of in the centre of the Canadian prairies. If you guys have been following me long enough, this is where we had our surgery for Frankie and it's in Saskatchewan. And I'm just waking up here. I just moved the truck around here so I can grab some fuel and go inside and grab a coffee. We'll be on our way. Let me wake myself up and I'll get right back to you. Like usual, there's a truck over to the left. All the way to that last one over there with the black drain trailer. I saw him. He just parked in the pumps and walked inside and it's been about 10 minutes, 10, 15 minutes and he's still not out. I don't know why he would just park in the pumps. I don't know if he's grabbing food or going to the bathroom but it was all very nice. All very nice to block a pump like that. And this guy in front of me, I thought was almost done fueling. But I guess he was just done fueling one side. The thing about these Canadian pumps here is that they can only fuel one side at a time. That's nationwide. Every pump in Canada is like that. Sometimes you get one that malfunctions and you can fuel both sides at once. I love it when that happens. It's like Christmas. But no, it takes twice as long to fuel your truck up here in Canada as it does in the States because in the US you can fuel both sides at the same time, right? Not here. So it takes a little bit longer and the lineups are a bit longer because of it. Here we go. Leaving Saskatoon. I've got to go a little bit back. I've got to backtrack just a little bit this morning. Because we're taking the highway directly through to Alberta West, not the 16th trans-Canada. Now what highway is it? Is it 44? No. The 11th? No. I forget right now what highway it is but it goes straight through the Kindersley, Saskatchewan. It's a two-lane road but it's a direct route right to where I need to deliver this. They are expecting me today around noon. It should be there right on time. If I look at it a little bit early, I like to be early but as long as I'm on time that's okay. Hopefully we don't run into any traffic problems or anything on the order of spring already. I don't know if you guys know this. I feel naked. It had to happen. Now I need a haircut. Look at my hair right now. I shouldn't even be showing you that. I can't reach my tooth either. Oh no. And there's a hole in my shirt man. I'm just truck or bum here right now, aren't I? I don't think I'm bum. That's why we wear this. And then my bummy hair doesn't show. I need a haircut. Badly. Especially when I shave my beard a little shorter than I usually do. Especially when I do that. And I have longer hair like this. It makes it look worse than I'd like it to. Let's say that. Alright, let's keep going. I just stopped for this. Just needed a little shave. That's all. Well, we're here at the oil field or it's not maybe the oil field is the oil. It's the place. We're here at the place. I shouldn't call it an oil field. I don't really know what this place is but I do know that they deal in oil. Black gold. The lifeblood of our economy out here. What puts food on everybody's table. So we got to go around to the back. Same place we delivered to remember a couple weeks ago. Go around to the back and you see all these bins all around us here. Left and right. All these big bins. They're built with the steel plates that I have on my trailer right now. It's very possible that we delivered the steel that made all of these. I'm not sure when we started doing this for them but we've been doing it steady for a few years I'm pretty sure. I wonder how much oil they can store at this facility. There's like, there's gotta be, there's gotta be two dozen at least of these massive bins. At least maybe more. And I'm assuming that it is just crude oil that they're storing in there. What else would they store in there? That's not how you store natural gas. Like, when it comes to this part of it I don't really know how they work it. I drive a truck. I just deliver the products they need to build this stuff. Whatever it is, definitely got a lot of it here. Down this little road here and they'll be waiting for me at the end. Hopefully this is nice and quick. I don't think I'll make it to Edmonton to load today yet but if I do I can. I'm pretty sure I'll be reloading in the morning. Maybe I can find a gym to go to tonight then. Edmonton somewhere. Arriving at road. This road doesn't even have a name. It's just road. Well, they were a lot nicer this time. I don't think they meant to be mean last time, you know? And I tried to give them the benefit of the doubt. This is the place where they wanted, didn't want my dogs on the site, right? So I don't have my dogs with me today. The nicest lady ever. I just got to move up a little bit so that vehicles can get around me. Super nice today.  I don't know. I don't know what kind of policy is like. I know that they love dogs personally but for some reason this job site does not like dogs. Just got to get out of the way a little bit. Just like this. There we go. So that people can get around me if they need to. Turn it back off. Yeah. Very, very, very, very nice. I was a little nervous. I thought they were going to come and get mad at me again. So this might not be crude oil. Like I was telling you before, I'll admit I'm kind of ignorant to what they're all storing here. I just assumed it was crude oil because it's a big bin and it's an Alberta oil country, right? But I saw a sign as I was coming in here, something about gas. So this might be natural gas. Do they store natural gas like this? Like I don't claim to know everything. I don't know these things. I mean I'm bringing them their steel so they could build another one of these big storage bins. I don't really know what they put in them. Do any of you know? I'm just waiting for my escort to come and guide me into the site. And I'm not going to film anything past this point at the security checkpoint. Some places don't like it if you do that. And you know, I don't want to rock the boat. They're all in a good mode here and I just want to get this stuff unloaded. I want to get to Edmonton. How far away am I from Edmonton? One second. My reload is Edmonton. Let's just quickly type this into the Googles. The almighty Google. Of course am I. Directions. Give me directions. Is this my guy here? There's a guy coming up here. No, I think he's just driving past. Yeah, he can get past. Oh, I'm two and a half hours away. Oh, dad's in Edmonton. Well, would y'all look at that? He's just south of Edmonton. Maybe I'll run into him today yet. I wonder where he's going. We got locations on our Google Maps of all of our family just in case if there's an emergency. Like my sister got into that accident last week. We know exactly where she is. And we know exactly where we are. It's not like a creepy thing where we stalk each other. It's just in the case of emergency, our phone will broadcast our location to our family. So two and a half hours.  I'm guessing I'll be out in between three. No, I'm not going to make it today. Unless if they load into the evening. I could probably call the customer and see. See how late they load. But other than that, I guess I'll talk to you once we are unloaded. I showed you the load already in Ontario, right? So this load came 3,500 kilometers across the country. It took me three full days, but I split it into four or five, I think, because I took one day off at home because they didn't need this here. I could have been here yesterday morning, but they didn't want it here because no one was working here yesterday. They took an extra long weekend. It was family day or like I was saying yesterday, Trader Day in Manitoba. So they had an extra day off after that, I guess. I don't really know what's going on, but I don't know where. Am I making sense? I have a feeling I'm not making any sense. Let me know down below in the comment section. Am I making sense? I want to go home. The weather's getting a little worse here as we approach the city of Edmonton. We're just merging onto their perimeter highway. They call it the 216. We're going to go to a snap fitness gym in the south end of the city here. I looked it up on Google Maps before, and it's one that I can go and park the truck nearby. All of these gyms that I find where I can park the truck nearby, I always flag them on my Google Maps app. That way I can find them easily next time I come to town. Because I can't go to every single one of their gyms because some of them are right in the heart of a residential zone. It seems the weather here is a little crazier than I'd like it to be. See if I can get into traffic here. There we go, they're making room for me. They're making room. Thank you very much. Say thank you. Drive 32 kilometers on highway 216 west. We're going to make a pit stop on the way to the truck stop, man. The berms in back are a little sore from the gym yesterday still, so I'm going to let them rest today. And just probably go for about an hour on the treadmill. Just something to get my heart pumping and something to keep this routine going. Because you remember the last time I got into this... Before the wedding I got into this kick of walking. It wasn't winter time then and I'd actually go for actual walks. If I didn't do it every day it was so easy to break the habit and not go the next day. And then the next day, before you knew it, I had gained 15 pounds back and I hadn't gone for a walk in over a year. So I'm trying to make it a habit. You know, if I do it as often as I can whenever I have an opportunity and it becomes a habit in my mind that I just subconsciously know that this is just what we're going to do today. We're going to go spend an hour at the gym. That's just a given. Then my mind is trained at the same time my body is getting trained. So we're here in the southern part of Edmonton. From what I've seen on Google we're allowed to park on the street here. Pretty much right outside the gym. It's the closest one I could get to in the city. Let's see what these signs say here on the right. Yeah, we are allowed to park here. Two hour parking. Good, I only need one. And the gym is just off to the right here in this little strip mall thingy, whatever you call these things. Oh, no parking here. It's not fitting. It's right over there. But I am allowed to park here. Okay, perfect. That is awesome. I can park right at the gym. I don't even really have to walk anywhere. Beautiful. It's right over there. Not this store right there. It's the one right next to it. I can park right here. This is the best parking I've had so far. No, wait, other than the one in Michigan. I could pretty much park right in the parking lot, but that was late at night too. During the day it would probably be different. So the time is now. It's the time. It's 7.40 at home. It's 6.40 here. Oh, so it might be kind of busy in there. As long as I got a treadmill. That's all I need to do today. I just need to do a little cardio. It should be good. Oh, this phone will not stop ptinging today. What? This is the only place I can get DEF fuel in the winter time because they have the only pumps that don't freeze in the winter time. But there was a flying jade down the street behind us. That way. The same way that truck is going right there. So I fueled up there so I can get my pilot points. And I came over here fueled up DEF and I noticed that there was a parking spot right here. Perfect spot. And I know it's going to be a quiet night because only bob tails can fit in there. So they'll be way back there. I won't be able to cure them. No noise from them. And this guy beside me here he just got into a taxi and took off. So I guess he's gone for the night. Cool. This is what we're going to spend tonight. Tomorrow morning we unload pretty much just around the corner from here. Going to throw some lumber on the deck and strap it down. That's always very important. Always strap down your loads.  I don't think I can get all the way home tomorrow pushing it. If I could do the speed limit I probably could but I'm governed at the lovely speed of 62 miles an hour. But other than that so we should get pretty far tomorrow. Maybe I'll get up to Brandon or something and see where we get to and we'll do the rest of the way tomorrow on Friday. Saturday we're doing that donation and Sunday I'm not too sure yet if we're going to go visit my sister yet or not but Monday this truck we're going in for a little bit more maintenance and then what else do we got going on? Like I said Tuesday I'm really hoping to be able to just chill at home and just you know just just be just exist in front of the TV. I know that's not going to happen because whenever I get home there's like a million things to do so I never have time to watch TV that's a nice TV but I never have time to watch it. Oh well that's a lie we usually watch at least a movie or two when I get home. Anyways thanks for watching today guys tomorrow we head back across the prairies it's going to be riveting excitement and tons of scenery tons it will blow your mind I don't promise I'll see you later don't forget to subscribe if you haven't already join the TJV channel here also all the links to my social media and my wife's social media is down below as well she makes videos as well and if you're interested in them her link to her channel is down below as well take care and I'll see you tomorrow


Howdy, today we're gonna be talking about some of my photography favorites so far here in 2021. If you're into that, stick around. If you're not into that, stick around anyway. Please. I need the validation. Today's episode is sponsored by Squarespace. Favorite film stock. Well, if I'm being honest, I'd have to say it's FPP retrochrome again, but that'd be two years in a row and we can't have that now, can we? Honestly, you should see my retrochrome collection at this point. I'm stocking up on that sh** like a squirrel hordes acorns for hibernation. Do squirrels hibernate? I don't know. This year I have to say, without a doubt, one of my most used films is Kodak T-Max 400. A black-and-white film stock casted forth from the film gods themselves. Why do I like T-Max 400? Well, gotta say it's all about the contrast. What I found is that the shadows on T-Max 400 kind of fall off a little bit quicker than other film stocks, which creates this really dark and kind of moody rendering, which when merged with this stock's overall sharpness becomes a better combination than cosmos and sex in the city reruns. I recently went on a week-long Dairy Queen Field film photography road trip from Kansas back to LA and I shot, dominantly, T-Max 400. And I gotta say, even for a mediocre film photographer like myself, the shots look pretty bueno. I'll show you the rest of the shots when that video comes out, if it ever comes out. I shot something like 55 rolls of film and I'm still processing them in Lightroom and emotionally. I've been shooting a lot more black-and-white as of late because I'm starting to realize that I can kind of get the results I want a little easier with black-and-white than I can with color negative film. With color negative film, I truly feel like there needs to be a reason to shoot a scene in color. Otherwise, I can nearly always get the result that I want in black-and-white. Kodak claims that T-Max 400 is the sharpest black-and-white 400 speed film in the world. And that might be true, but it's pretty specific. That's kind of like claiming Hawkeye is the strongest Avenger in the archery and family farm category. The reason Kodak can claim T-Max as the sharpest is because of its unique T-Grain emulsion. If you're confused, think of T-Grain as similar to T-Pain. T-Grain renders your image silky smooth, just like T-Pain's autotuner. But anyway, T-Max 400 gives you a lot of detail in your image and I think I'd have to agree that it's probably one of the sharper films in existence, yeah. At this point, I've shot it for both 35mm and 120mm. I would have shot it for 8x10, but it's discontinued. A word that most film photographers are quite familiar with. This may or may not be obvious, but I think I gotta go with the Fuji TX1. Otherwise known as the X-Pan, or known by some as the ugly brother of the X-Pan.  Just misunderstood. The machine I have here is what society would call an abomination. The actual camera body itself is the Fuji TX1 version, while the lens is from the Hasselblad version. I call it, Rundle Camera. So why is this camera so special? Well, it's main claim to fame is that it shoots panoramic 35mm film, double the width of a standard 35mm frame, or full frame, if you're one of them. It's quite rare to find a camera that shoots this format and I think a lot of people would argue that the X-Pan is the only camera that does it well. Not me, but some people. Why do I cherish and hold this camera so dearly? Well, it's gotta be the cinematic aspect ratio and the overall build quality of the camera, but also the top notch lens characteristics. The camera is built with titanium and it feels pretty solid. Unfortunately, it's a fully electronic camera, but hey, no camera's perfect. I've found that the Hasselblad lens is rock solid and sharpness, but has a tiny tinge of flare and tonal softness. Perhaps I find comfort in the comparison between this lens and myself. Rock hard badass on the outside, big ol' softy who cries when he watches Bambi on the inside.  Best photography dog. This is a new category this year and yeah, it's Baxter, obviously. Favorite Instagram. I've really been loving Anna Starr's work lately. She takes a bit of an interesting approach to photography because she shoots 120, but she shoots it all through a Holga camera. That's right gang, one of these f***ers. At first glance, this work should be everything that I despise, being square format and a toy camera. But no, somehow she makes it work incredibly well. Honestly, it's kind of making me rethink everything that I thought I knew about photography. Her work is composed of a lot of natural vistas and seaside subjects, which is right up my alley. All of her shots just have this keen sense of life to them, which is inspiring to me because I don't have one.  I don't own one, but from what I understand, the lens is plastic. But so are the Kardashians and look how far they've come. The plastic lens is pretty apparent in the look of the photos with aberrated edges and pincushion distortion. But I don't know exactly what it is. That look just seems to work really, really well for six by six for some reason. It's a beautiful thing. So if you're in a creative rut and you need some inspiration, I recommend checking out her work. It'll certainly give you a new perspective on gear and what it is exactly that makes a photo beautiful. I also wanted to give an honorable mention to Catherine Del Latre. I hope I'm saying her last name right. Her archive of work on Instagram has been a total breath of fresh air. She's able to effortlessly create the exact mood that I look for in every photo that I take, all from rural Pennsylvania. I don't know if she has like a book or some sort of other publication out. Preliminary searches on Google yielded nothing, but that's something I would buy the sh** out of. Occasionally, I'll take breaks from watching gorilla videos to browse the film photography subsection of YouTube. There have been a lot of new channels popping up recently, which I'm super glad to see. This year, I wanted to give a shout out to a channel that is still very early in its development, but it has a lot of room to grow in the hopes of giving it the kickstart that it needs to produce some awesome new content. Think of it kind of like the unrefined coaxium that was dumped into the hyperdrive and allowed Han Solo to jettison the Millennium Falcon out of the black hole in the best movie ever made, Solo, A Star Wars Story. Among the fresh-faced newcomers to this platform, I somehow stumbled upon a channel called Analog Bebop, hosted by some guy named Kyle. But don't be deterred because his name is Kyle. He seems like an okay guy. Luckily, I think his work is quite good and very inspiring, even if some of his videos are slideshows of his work with some downright filthy lo-fi beats. At the time of making this, I think he has about 7 videos out on his channel with his last one dropping on 420. I gotta say, I really enjoyed his shooting film in Point Ray's video. If that's a sign of what's to come, I think that there's a lot of potential for this channel, but until then, come on Kyle, put down the Monster Energy drinks and make some more videos, dog. In the Point Ray's video, he discusses shooting slide film as well as some Portra 800 in his glorious Mamiya 7 II, but then he changes the game by talking about his experience with the panoramic adapter for the Mamiya. So if that's something that you're interested in, he might be a good resource. Hopefully, if enough of us go over and bother the guy with love and positivity, he'll make more videos and soon blossom into a beautiful film shooting degenerate like the rest of us. If there's one piece of gear that has saved me so much time and convenience, it is without a doubt this L bracket. I don't know why I waited so long to invest in this thing. My life has literally not been the same since. It's incredibly useful for night photography. I'm starting to think whoever designed this should win a Nobel Peace Prize or something. Before I'd seen the light, I used to have to rotate or kind of configure my tripod heads to be at a 90 degree angle, and that was no fun for anyone involved. Now I can just detach the L bracket and flip. Problem solved. Well, maybe not every problem is solved. For the Mamiya 7 and most 120 back loaded cameras, you'll need to completely remove the L bracket to access the film clips underneath the camera. But hey, you know what? You win some and you lose some. If I've learned anything from film photography, it's that sometimes you just need to man up, take the L. But if you don't want to take the L, take the W with today's sponsor, Squarespace. Are your peers generally unimpressed with your choice in life to become a photographer? Well, how about putting your best foot forward and impressing the socks off them with a portfolio of your finest work, arranged in a visually pleasing design? Squarespace is a website building platform that is used by many photographers as a means to assemble an online photography portfolio, as well as a thriving resource for all things related to them or their businesses online. With Squarespace is easy to navigate user interface and pre-designed templates. You can get a professionally sculpted website up and running in no time. There's no need to know HTML or any of those fancy coding languages. But if you do, there's a function for that as well. If you hit a roadblock, Squarespace even offers around the clock 24-7 customer support. So what are you waiting for? If you're ready to build a website, you can start a free trial today at squarespace.com slash grainydays. And if you use the code grainydays at checkout, you can get 10% off your first purchase. So that's that. No photography books this year. Between petting Baxter and giving all of my film cameras the love and attention that they deserve, I haven't really had any time to sit down and digest any collections of work. Hopefully this video was somewhat insightful and kind of acts as a bookmark in my own photographic journey so that old Jason might look back at young Jason and think, hmm, he really didn't know what the f*** he was talking about. I mean, I already think that about my early videos, so it probably won't take much time to get there. Anyway, I hope you have a good rest of your day, night, afternoon, 15 minute bathroom break, whenever it is that you're watching this, and I'll see you all soon.


Good morning, Hickets Tuesday. It's Thanksgiving week here in the United States, so today I thought I would share with you a story of gratitude. So several months ago, Sarah got me tickets to see the musical Hamilton in New York City, and I should say that Sarah and I are both huge fans of Hamilton. Like, we've listened to the cast recording hundreds of times, and now we were gonna have this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see the show with the original cast, and we were gonna go to some art galleries and visit all our favorite places from back when we were first married and lived in New York. So we got to the airport a little early, and hooray, our flight was on time, so we settled into an airport bar for some snacks, and we were debating whether I should direct message Lin-Manuel Miranda, who'd not to brag, follows me on Twitter, and generally just feeling sort of giddy, and then I took a bite of my sandwich and more or less immediately knew that we were not going to see Hamilton after all. A bit of relevant background, I have this weird disease called eosinophilic esophagitis. Basically, I have this mildish inflammation of myosophagus, which usually is not a problem, but then very occasionally food will get stuck part of the way down myosophagus, and that's a real bummer because when it happens, I can't even successfully swallow my own spit, so I just sort of throw up every two or three minutes for several hours until a doctor sticks a tube down my throat and clears the blockage. So, okay, I can't even peel away all the layers of luck and privilege that led to this moment of misfortune in the Indianapolis airport. The ability to afford a Broadway show in a trip to New York City, the joy of a spouse who loves you enough to get you Hamilton tickets, access to excellent medical care so your esophageal blockage is an inconvenience rather than a catastrophe, the list goes on and on. But still, I was pretty bummed out when we had to leave the airport and go to the hospital. Now, of course, it wasn't hard to find a happy home for our Hamilton tickets, and the airline, Thank You Delta, was amazingly cool about refunding our tickets, but yeah, I was still in a pretty foul mood, partly because I was vomiting every two minutes, and partly because I don't love being reminded that what I think of as myself is in fact wholly dependent upon an unreliable and unpredictable machine called my body. Okay, so after several hours at the hospital, a woman named Carmen came by to transport my hospital bed and me to the endoscopy room. Along the way, she asked if I had kids and I said, yeah, and she said, it's nice that your wife can stay with you as you go through this. And I was like, well, we're supposed to be on vacation together. And then she said, maybe after you guys get home tonight, you can watch a movie together. And I was like, maybe. And then she said, so you're married and you have kids, do you like your job? And I said, yeah. And then she says, well, you've got the basics covered. And then I was in the OR and then I was unconscious and then I could swallow again. And I woke up thinking, well, I've got the basics covered. That night, Sarah and I went home and watched a movie. It was a pretty good movie actually. Since then, I've thought about that day and Carmen many times. I love my friends and family and I am loved by them. I've got the basics covered. Okay, so flash forward six months to last week. We've just started filming our new health and fitness show, 100 Days. Starting January 1st, you can watch my best friend, Chris, and I try to have a healthy midwife crisis over at youtube.com. Anyway, as part of the show, we have to exercise six days a week, often at very odd hours because of our work schedule. So last Wednesday, I had to wake up at 5, 10 in the morning to go to a spin class. And I was not psyched about it, so I walk into this spin class and there's Carmen. And she says, hey, John, remember me? And I say, yeah. And she says, I'm your spin instructor. This is what I do before work. And of course, it turned out to be an excellent spin class. So this Thanksgiving, I am grateful to Carmen. When you are kind to strangers, you never know what it's going to mean to them. But sometimes it means a great deal. So thank you, Carmen. Happy Thanksgiving. And the screen. Here you'll find some old Thanksgiving's Eve Vlogbrothers videos, as well as a self-care bunny from Rosiana, who is here to remind you that Carmen thinks you're awesome, and she knows from awesome.


I decided that I wanted to do something different, so when the opportunity arose to take part in young enterprise it definitely stood out as something unique. I also thought it would be a brilliant opportunity for me to make strong friendships that could last forever. We participated in lots of brainstorming activities, we went out and asked other pupils in our school and the revision app came out on top. It's designed to work in teams or pairs and it helps you revise with your friends. You'd hold the phone above your head and a key word or phrase will come up and the other person will have to describe it to you. If you get it correct you tilt it down, if you get it wrong you tilt it back. My phone is like a big distraction and it's a way of turning that distraction into an asset and it really sticks in your head because it's a fun activity to do. As we know, as teachers, if they're enjoying what they're doing they're more likely to learn from it. Initially it was just an Android app, so now they've got an Apple version. We're also thinking of expanding it not just in Wales. We're releasing other languages, we've got Spanish, German, French. More than anything I was incredibly proud of them and I still am to this day.


Oh, so have a look here, it says please wear a helmet when riding. Oh, okay. There you go. Who's not wearing your helmet? It wasn't my own. Yeah, you're not supposed to use them unless there's a helmet. Yeah, right. It's the fact that there's none there. That doesn't mean you just then take someone without it. Stop there. Why are you riding this without a helmet? Oh, there's no helmet. Oh, there wasn't one there. That's why it's very important when you book things and you've got these agreements you've got to agree to that you read them carefully and carefully. Thank you. On the road that you're not supposed to be on. It's also $130 for doubling on these things. They've got a weight limit, guys, and they're very expensive. Doubling, they're going to break them, plus it's a law not to double.


We demystify what goes on behind the therapy room door. Join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. This is The Therapy Show, behind closed doors podcast, with Bob Cook and Jackie Jones. Welcome back to episode 41 of The Therapy Show, behind closed doors with Bob Cook and myself, Jackie Jones. And this week, we're going to be talking about how do we work with the angry client. Interesting. It is, it is. This was one of my big fears, I think, when I first started working in private practice from home. Yeah, yeah, I understand that. Yeah, I've never come across anything untoward while I've been practicing psychotherapy, but I must admit it was one of my main concerns. Well, yeah, I can understand that. I think having your own office provides us a level of safety and security. Yeah, new way. Yeah, I always felt safe when I was practicing from lip, yeah, because there was always somebody else in the building. That's right. Yeah. Okay, let's look at these types of clients. Now, when people talk about expression of anger or lack of emotional regulation, so the person, I've got something in my mouth. The most important thing to bring out, I think, is the contract you have with the client in the first place. Yeah. So, you know, we get many people who phone up or over the years want to deal with anger issues. That's absolutely fine. And that's addressed in the contract. Now, I know anger can come out in the third boutique process and there's other contracts, but quite often people come because they have anger issues or feel overwhelmed with anger issues. And so there's a contract around that. Yes, yeah. And built into that contract, as I hope with the therapist, is what's acceptable and what's not acceptable and spelling out boundaries before they even begin. I have that in my contract, definitely, yeah. How much do you have? There's something about no physical contact or, you know, damaging property and things like that. I have been known on the odd occasion to let a client lob a cushion down me hallway. But yeah, no physical contact whatsoever, basically. Yeah. And that's really in any contract, I think, especially if it won't take anybody on who's dealing with so-called anger issues. I'm glad you said so-called anger issues because a lot of people that come for me with anger issues, they actually say it themselves. Do you know what I mean? I have anger issues and it's been anxiety or fear that's been underneath. It comes out as anger and aggression, but I've not found them to be angry at all. Yeah, well, you're probably talking about a piece of theory. I mean, you trained as a transactor analyst, so you may think this way, I think. The way you're talking anyway, it's about rackets. Yeah, yeah. Now, for those people listening who aren't TA therapist, might not know what rackets mean, but in the world of TA, a racket is a substitute feeling. Yeah. So, if you weren't feeling angry, what would you feel instead? It might be a question you would ask at the contracting stage. Yes, yeah. For example. Yeah. So, quite often, it isn't the presenting anger is the underlying issues. The anger is the racket or the substitute feeling. And what's underneath that might be sadness, fear, anxiety, frustration. Yeah. Any of these underlying processes. So, that's where you need to get to. Yes. That's what I've found with people that actually come themselves and say, I've been told I've got anger issues and I need to come and, my wife has said, I need to come and speak to somebody because I've got anger issues. So, in the contracting, contracting is important though. Yeah. Oh, definitely. Yeah. In terms of keeping yourself safe and what's acceptable or not acceptable boundaries written into your contract are here as yours about. And most of it is actually about keeping themselves safe and what's acceptable and what's acceptable. So, that's really important. And anybody comes with anger issues. I think the contracting stage is important in that sense. Yes. Another aspect about people who may express anger as their major emotion and the other emotions are missing is an inquiry into a person's history in terms of what's been modelled down to them. Yeah. Because if anger was the major currency of the day in the family of origin. Yeah. And they may have taken on that modelling as a way of making contact or solving problems or in fact as a way of being. Yes. They may not have any permission to be sad or to be frustrated or to be frightened or anxious and being angry was the major port of call which is why I think the theory of rackets is really interesting in TA. Yeah. Because if somebody's got a prominent emotion, whatever it is, we're talking about anger here, then it's the missing emotions which you need to get to. Yeah. I love the back-it system. I use that an awful lot with clients. Yeah. And I relate to it personally as well.  So it's like, okay, I can't be sad and I can't be angry. So what can I be? I can be scared or I can be happy. So we kind of, exactly like you say, we substitute one feeling or emotion for another one. Oh. Yeah. So I think that's really important. And in my experience, it's usually the hurt injury in the child where you get to the child ego state I'm talking about developmentally. Yeah. That is often covered up by expression of anger, which I need to get to. Now, as I said, it's really important the beginning here in terms of keeping yourself safe. So somebody lacks emotional regulation and starts getting angry in a very sort of outrageous way. Then the therapist needs to move to a keeping themselves calm and also feeding back to them. Yeah. What their behavior is.  Do you know that? Yeah, example. Yeah. Because 10 to one, what they're doing with you, they'll be doing another relationships. And probably that's why they've come in the first place. Yes. Yeah. I think the only one that springs to mind, specifically, and it was it was anger, but it was specifically about road rage. That was the reason why he came was road rage. He just loses the plot if anything happens when he's on the road in the car. He was traveling long distances. If it was a traffic jam or if somebody cut him up or anything, he would he would feel himself get absolutely irate while he was driving. So you might do a bit of educative therapy there about teaching him how to regulate his emotions. Yeah. One thing if you want to do that. Another one would be if you weren't feeling angry in that car, what would you be feeling? And explore that. So I don't know which way you went, but you could do both. Yeah. I think we had lots of conversations. He was funny. I think I don't know if it was the last one or the one before that we were talking about art therapy. He was he was very reluctant to talk about a lot of things. It was like it was hard work with him. Let's put it that way. But yeah, I ended up saying because he traveled a lot and he was paid for traveling. So he got a daily rate. So it didn't matter how long he was sat in a traffic jam. He got paid. And that was where the conversation went in the end. I was saying but you get paid the same amount if you stood still in traffic or whether you're humping things up and downstairs.  Yeah, that's an important technique reframing. Yeah. I think, you know, working with people who are often angry in the way you described it. It's a really important technique to reframe the way you did there. Yeah. Yeah. I think, you know, I have worked with many people with anguiduction. As I say, I usually think of rackets, go to substitute feelings, look at the developmental hurt and look into the feelings underneath the anger. Yeah. Okay. Do you just focus on the anger or do you focus on the situation around which they get angry? None of you always look at, well, they come together. Okay.  Yeah. Like if that's what you might situate.  I work with a lot of alienated parents where, you know, they haven't got access to the children and they're really angry towards their ex-partner and get triggered really easy around anything to do with that.  So it's quite specific with some people. Yeah. So I suppose number one would be contracting. Yeah. Keep yourself safe, boundaries what's acceptable and what's acceptable. Yeah. Or contract around that. Number two, if a person starts to get angry, keep yourself calm. Yeah. Number three, if they continue to be angry, you need to feed back to them what their behavior is like and how it's impacting them. Yeah. And what's them to change that behavior and also link it in. Well, is this what you're usually like then? Yeah. So you're, you know, you're actually getting to some frame of reference in the process in terms of, well, what's happening here? Is that what's happening there? Yeah. And usually when you do that, people are able to move to their thinking or their adult place quicker because they put the two and two together. Yeah. Another thing I tend to do with them is ask them, how would I know if you got angry with me in the room? What would I see? That's a good question. Which kind of gets them to really think about the behavior and what goes on in the body or sort of thing. You know, like if I said something now and you were angry at me, what would happen? What would I see? Oh, that's right. So that's another good way. I usually had developmentally, though. Yeah. I want to find out, well, you know, was it modelled to you to be angry? Yeah. To get your needs met. When you were angry, were other needs not seen? Yeah. Would you be angry to, you know, get heard and understood? If you weren't angry, what would happen? So I do a lot of developmental work and usually, as I said, the anger usually is a racket or it's modelled down to them as a way of getting their needs met. Yeah. And often anger sometimes and especially with borderline clients, for example, when there's a borderline switch, which is usually involving extra, you know, anger, you know, frustration or attacking transactions that are the therapist, it actually usually is a real desire to make contact, but they don't know how to do it. Yeah. I found that with a lot of the foster kids that we had. It was their only way of communication sometimes. I think it's really important for therapists to do that developmental work, but I do want to stress that if the if this person is getting an anger in their room, you know, in the room, I think it's really important for a therapist to say that transaction I said earlier, it's just the anger issues that you're talking about. You've come into this therapy to resolve because actually you're, who are you behaving now? I feel quite scared. Yeah. Are you aware of that? Yeah. So you're shifting them to thinking? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Because touching on what you were saying then is a form of communication, you know, the strokes, any stroke is better than no stroke. So you can imagine a young child if they've got attention for being angry or having a tantrum or throwing something, that then becomes kind of internalised that that's if you're not listening to me, this is what I'm going to do to get your attention. That's right. And in the process, other needs can often be missed. Yeah. Yeah. And I think if one person, you know, comes to therapy with one expression of emotion, it usually means that other parts of the self or other emotions are hidden. Yes. So you need to get to what's beneath the anger. Yeah. When you get to the hurt part of the self and you start dealing with that, usually the healing happens there and then the anger can, well, the anger dissipates or because the real feelings get dealt with. Yes. Yeah. That's the developmental approach. If you stay in the here and now, you definitely, I think it's important to contract and keep yourself safe, keep yourself calm, reframe the process. If you're still having problems, go to supervision. Talk to the colleagues about it. And last analysis, if you still can't get through that process, you can always terminate the say, well, I find it quite hard to work with you because you don't listen to the contract we make. You keep doing XXX. It's quite scary working with you. Are you aware of that? And all those things don't work. Yeah. Pass them on. Yeah. Yeah. Again, that's it. And I think, you know, your own safety has to be paramount in that situation. You can't be putting yourself at risk exactly like you said in a therapy room. My experience, though, nearly always is if you go developmental, yeah, help them understand how the past affects the present. Yeah. You usually get to the feelings which are underneath the anger. Yeah. You didn't mention something I think also is really important and another tack as well is helping them identify the triggers in the present. So they can work out how the past affects the present and how the present affects the past so they connect the two. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's really important. Yeah. Definitely. There was something else I was thinking. Oh, yeah. I know we're talking about the angry client or clients who, you know, lack of emotional regulation, but there are some clients who find it really hard to express anger, which is completely the opposite. But it is an interesting one because you do get clients who come and say they have anger issues. Yeah. And when they walk in, you can tell they have anger issues because, how can I explain this to you, there's a sort of passive aggressive stance. Yeah. And the best way to, the best metaphor I can think about is a pressure cooker. Yeah.  Yeah. And you're attempting to keep it all in and then something could happen and then it comes out like an intense fury. Yes.  No. Usually they want to try and solve this. And I think, as I just said, the developmental way. Also, another interesting question to ask yourself is, whose anger is it? Yeah. Yeah. Particularly when you were talking earlier on about how it was modelled and how emotional regulation was modelled and things like that. Yeah. Totally. Yeah. So they may have been brought into an angry household that far uses anger as a way of getting control, for example, or solving problems. And then the child thinks that's the only way to, you know, act or behave or feel the situation. And they sort of take on the significant others, you know, actual anger. And it's not as anyway. Yeah. That's quite an interesting concept to try and explain to a client sometimes.  Well, I think if people listening to this podcast think developmentally and help the person look at how the past effects are present. Yeah. Then you're going to get there, aren't you? Yeah. Yeah. Flashing of lights have started up here. Hello. It's like the illuminations. Yeah, they are. We're having a disco, Bob. What's going on? Yeah. One minute. I've got discos. Let's see if this is better. For those that are listening, they can't actually see it on the video.  It's like there's a bit of a disco going on in his kitchen. Yeah. What's happened? Oh, I don't know. What's happened? Anyway, let's hope that solved the problem. I'm back again for the people who are watching me on people listening to me. Somebody who doesn't like you talking about anger. That's what it is. Yeah. I haven't got angry about it yet. No. So going back. So I think that developmental is really important to think about who's angry it is. Well, that's another road to go down. And usually, if those two connections add up, then the client can give back the anger that wasn't theirs in the first place. Yeah. Because learning how to regulate our emotions is a developmental thing. There is a period of time where we learn how to express our emotions appropriately. And if it's not handled well at that age, then how are we supposed to know what is okay and what isn't okay? Yeah. So you might actually, as they make those connections, teach them that. Yeah. So there's a lot to do in therapy, I think with people who come specifically with anger issues or and it comes up in the therapeutic process. Yeah. Yeah. And the end of the day, though, for people listening, the therapist's stroke counts the safety is paramount. So if you really can't get through this, whether to think of helping the person developmentally through this, taking the supervision, talking about the issues with them, then you need to, you know, not continue. You need to stick to the boundaries, the contract that you've set up. Yeah. That means referring on. It's really important you do that. Yeah. Definitely. Yeah. I don't know any statistics about anger towards clients. It's not something that I looked up before. I'd like to think there isn't many instances of actual physical aggression within the therapy room. No. I mean, I work for 30 odd years. And the other thing is, of course, you know, in many cases, their anger might be valid. You know, the other things, if you start, but you need to start tracing back to the context of all this. Yeah. So if you, you know, whether you work relationally or not, you know, might work relationally and say, well, what I do is that I feed back to the person in the relationship in the room. If they're starting to get to angry and unacceptable levels, but I'm feeling scared. And are you aware of this? And this is, and these are the issues that you come in the first place. And that can get perhaps to the here and now issues about failures in relationships and what they, you know, what they do in acting out and other circumstances. Or you can go developmentally. And as they start putting these two connections together and they start healing at the feelings which are under the surface, then the anger dissipates in the present or you can teach them triggers. But if none of those processes work and you feel you can't go any further, then you need to end it. Yeah. Yeah. For both parties, because if what you're doing isn't helping any, then it's, you know, it's obviously outside of your skill set. And it's only, you know, it's ethical really to refer on. Yeah. Emotions are very complex anyway. They're the best of time. Well, quite. And I always feel like with people who feel trapped and find it very hard to express any other types of emotions. So, you know, relationships break down, for example. I think it is important to come to therapy and explore them, but there needs to be a well worked out contract. Yeah. And not just to, especially with these clients, not just to, you know, go really nearly into it.  And that will give you the space to do the developmental work, to trace it back, look at the connections past and present, look at the triggers before going any further. You've got an actual contract in place. Yeah. And it's important to discuss that contract as well and why it's there, the purpose of it. Yeah. Absolutely. And you said something very important at the, right at the beginning. And that was about working at home. Yeah. Now, if any, if you don't want to see people with anger issues at home, don't. Yeah. That's not to people working offices, where there's people around. Yeah. And the other thing, which is, again, I don't know if you hear where you, perhaps can give me some information about this. But if I, if I was a supervisor and somebody worked at home, they would talk about working with some of the anger issues.  So the safeguarding of safety issues for yourself. Yeah. Are taken into consideration. Yeah. I was going to mention that about having a panic button, do you know what I mean? And things like that. But in the early days, when, when I was, you know, newly qualified and working from home, I think I was much more nervous about it than, you know, potentially what I am now apart from I'm only working online now. So that's not a problem. But yeah, I think as time goes on, you get more of a sense of the person when you meet them. Yeah. Yeah. Like that pressure cooker, you know, the sometimes I suppose it is anxiety when people are twitching and things like that. But you can usually tell when somebody's got that pressure cooker thing where they are starting to get quite angry with you. Yeah. And I think it's very good practice to tell peers where you are. Yeah. To, you know, if you, if you've been live alone, particularly I think it is good practice if you can have somebody panic button or some ways to talk to your supervisor about this. Yeah. Just work alone in your house with people with anger issues without these considerations being talked about with your supervisor. Are you right? I don't know. It's just the side of the probably very rare and they're really important to talk about with your supervisor. Yeah. And I think you again, you've raised a really valid point there that as psychotherapists, it's okay for us to pick and choose who we want to work with. It's okay for us to work with certain people and not with other people. And that's not to say that anybody can't get angry at any point, you know, so we can never be 100% sure. But it's okay to choose not to work with males that have got anger issues if you're a female working on their own at home. Absolutely.   Yeah, it's a different process because the, you know, the anger has come up in the therapy development, you've got a relationship and everything else. But for stranger walks in and says they want to work on therapy issues, I think you need to really think about it in terms of what we've just been talking about. Yeah. And again, you know, what you said then about, you know, the relationship, I think that's really important, you know, because it's a fine line in allowing a client to express the emotions freely in the room and know what isn't acceptable in the room as well. And I think that again is through the relationship that you build with your clients. And the contract. Yes. Yeah. So I really liked what you had in your contract at the beginning. I don't know whether you actually give them the contract on a piece of paper. Yeah, we assign it and they assign it. It's kind of a done deal. When you don't, you know, damage furniture, property, you don't, all the things we just talked about. Yeah, you've got a contractual process to be able to stop the process in a way. But I do think it's important to think, talk about these things with your supervisor. Definitely. Yeah, you're feeling comfortable or intuitively feel comfortable in any way at all. Yeah. Yeah. And trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy with somebody, then it's okay to not see them. It's, you know, it's a prohibitive that we have. Yeah. Thank you for that, Bob. That was really interesting. Place to stop. It is a good place to stop. Emotions and anger and things like that are perfectly human. You know, we can all do it at certain times. We've all experienced it. Yeah. So what we're going to be doing next time is silence. Silence. I was so scared of silence when I first started, Bob. The use of silence in the therapy. That was one thing that I really didn't, didn't sit well with me in the early days. So that's what we're going to be talking about the use of silence in therapy. Yeah. Okay, till next time. Thank you. Okay. You've been listening to the therapy show behind closed doors podcast. We hope you enjoyed the show. Don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review. We'll be back next week with another episode.


Hey everyone today we got a four pack of stories for you guys maybe it's a three but no it is a four pack I had to double check my notes here um there's a lot of cool stuff happening uh you guys remember we've been talking about uh the nintendo direct that's supposed to happen this month we have a potential update for that uh a big rumor coming out in regards to the nintendo switch online that isn't from your typical rumor inside sources right you know the samus on jerseys zippos and then nathe hates uh even jeff grubb like none of these places it's actually an outlet that literally every time they have backed a rumor or stated their own rumors they're they've been right and you'll understand why that is when i get to it there's obviously some other stuff happening as well some stuff in regards to a certain big name third party game that slated to come to switch and obviously some updates for that so let's just dive right in after i remind you we are giving away a nintendo switch oh that's right that thing you see up there it's in the background of our video we are giving away one of these platforms well literally uh day one we're giving away right now all you gotta do is be subscribed to enter and then we will have a live stream in early october uh that you need to be at uh and all that jazz but literally you just gotta be subscribed to enter uh and i wish all of you guys luck uh and your guys just continue support your likes your comments your subscriptions and obviously all any of the community support that happens during our live streams or to become a member or or all that stuff all helps support what we do as a channel obviously helps us expand and do content more often and obviously helps support us continuing to do giveaways uh i'd like to give back to the community as much as possible and i have no idea what giveaway is going to be next we do have the holidays coming up so i'm sure there'll be a nice little uh package happening in the month of october to for the rest of october after uh olag comes out and then obviously heading all the way through christmas so we'll see what happens uh if you guys any have any ideas for future giveaways just let me know down in the comments i'm always you know trying to plan things ahead of time gotta make sure i got that budget set aside all right folks let's just jump right in and we're gonna start with the story that really originated i think from the nate the hate podcast so we talked about this the other day about how we talked about how some certain emulators that have been in existence and we've known have been in existence for a while but that was really it he didn't really dive into um you know he put his personal opinion out there we're not really saying that he has any sources saying x y or z is going to happen for nintendo switch online aka expansion into gameboy gameboy color gameboy advance and all that jazz well the turns out that when nintendo life uh went to cover this story uh or the this potential story they did mention that podcast but then they went on in their article to say they have actually confirmed with their own sources that nintendo is about to add gameboy and gameboy color to nintendo switch online services this year uh that is obviously a really really big get because at this point it's all been just kind of speculation uh including from nate the hate but in this case we actually have nintendo life throwing their backing behind the entire idea of gameboy and gameboy color games coming to switch this year now if you think logically it could make some sense if nintendo thinks n64 games are too valuable which is weird since they've had on virtual console before but let's assume that they do think they're too valuable uh if they do think uh you know maybe gameboy advance i would like to see them advance come over there's a lot of studios who are potentially remaking and remastering gameboy advance games including nintendo like with advanced wars one plus two reboot so maybe that kind of takes that off the table for now uh but it obviously we all want to see gamecube and we and all that eventually on switch we obviously get all the we you but i i think in earnest uh gameboy and gameboy color make a lot of sense to come to the platform obviously uh the big concern for us as nintendo fans isn't necessarily what platforms are going to be added although we obviously have all of our favorites and gameboy is a favorite from my childhood the question is what is the launch lineup going to be available and how often isn't going to be updated and what titles will be updated when you have gameboy and gameboy color which nintendo considers the same generation coming there's you know thousands and thousands of games but a lot of the games involve licensing a lot of some of the best games were licensed games on that platform uh you and you can expect to you know safely to see most of nintendo's offering someday plus obviously games like tetris but how many of those other games that are outside of that spectrum are we going to get and how often is the real big question uh we have seen that the nests and snests app really slowed down in updates after really the first six months of each of them launching uh and then the games we get added today are kind of um i'm not going to say bad games uh but not necessarily the games we would like to see added and a lot of that's because of licensing issues and we have to wonder what's going to happen when you add gameboy and gameboy color into the fray as well now from nintendo side of things obviously all i expect as a nintendo fan and nintendo consumer is that bare minimum any game they own the rights to be put you know on their virtual console or you know the nintendo switch online service here and they still haven't even done that with the nintendo entertainment system and the super nintendo entertainment system so things aren't really going to be different with gameboy color but the more platforms that they get added to nintendo switch online the better it is i think the long haul hope is that this isn't a service that's going to be reset i kind of hope this is something they continue to build off of into their next generation platform where we have these same games that are available now also available there i think this is a better long haul idea than virtual console was or reset every generation but again this might reset too that's the thing we don't know how these things are built and if they're actually going to be you know forward compatible with future generations of hardware or if nintendo even cares to do it that way but with it being a subscription service why wouldn't you because if you take if you haven't done a switch online and you have tens of millions of subscribers to it that play those games and then you move to the next platform um what's gonna like it wouldn't upset them to suddenly have less value because they upgraded their system i again this is obviously something for nintendo to worry about uh but yeah it it obviously is a concern i do appreciate that they do make some online modes and stuff available and update the games a little make them look a little better a little bit better on widescreen but still uh i i just i really want to uh see what the lineup is going to be i think that's really the big deciding factor on how good this is but i fully expect this to be talked about in what appears to be a new nintendo direct at some point in september now this next one is a bit of a rumor so you know tim foil hat maybe i'll put my hat on my hat for this one uh this one comes from a dextero article uh which is a from a completely different country than the united states i can't read it natively so i'm actually going to read the information off of the gaming and rumors subreddit over on uh well on reddit and uh they have a link to the article and i'll put a link down in the description it says for many franchises there were two glimmers of hope and we're talking about a major game coming to switch the first obviously was a return of normality once the pandemic restrictions could be lifted the second was the release of overwatch 2 so yes folks we are talking about overwatch 2 and it coming to nintendo switch um which according to the sources we spoke with have become synonymous with a hard reset of the league and a potential resurgence of enthusiasm among fans for the ip when rumors started to circulate that the game was going to face delays the team's owners wanted to know how long realistically that would be the case on august 7th the reputed overwatch insider metro spoke publicly about these rumors stating that from what i can gather a release in 2022 does not seem likely anymore an internal activision uh source told dextero that this was incorrect and added that getting the game out as soon as possible was now a high priority which i suspect activision blizzard getting any big game out is a high priority at this point because they want to distract people from the ongoing lawsuit but we're not going to talk about that here but just know i'm aware of it and it's a pretty shitty thing an internal activision source told us sort of this was incorrect and he said we're more than aware that we need to get it out they said so the word is the dev team has been told to lock in the features that the game has get it fixed and get it shipped we're looking to get it out before summer 2022 another source a member of franchise management also corroborated this version of events saying we've been told the aim is for quarter two of next year the timing of the release will factor in the league schedule because obviously they don't want to switch game versions in the middle of a season so they're trying to time seasons ending in current overwatch to the launch of overwatch two now obviously um this seems to be coming from sources that are claimed to be inside of activision blizzard and and the actual development team so we'll have to see what happens overwatch two obviously was a game announced quite some time ago it is announced for nintendo switch and they reminded us in an interview back in late july that it is still going to be coming to nintendo switch and they're trying to make it day in date it's just going to have some sacrifices which we presume to be resolution um texture detail and possibly the lighting systems we'll have to see if that gets touched and then maybe frame rate obviously for a multiplayer game like this we would hope it could maintain 60 fps i know paladins has been trying to do that uh so it would be nice to see that we already have overwatch on the platform so it would be nice to see them prioritize keeping that but if they cut that back to 30 that could be a realistic expectation so there will be cutbacks but it's supposed to be their day in date at least that's the current plan for nintendo switch they have been developing it you know the switch version and you know all that alongside all the other versions so we'll have to see how it goes but it is a major game that is supposed to come to switch next year so uh yeah i guess at this point just stay tuned now last week there was a partnership uh between puma and animal crossing announced by the official puma twitter account and puma has actually worked with nintendo on other merchandising crossovers in the past such as with the mario series so this crossover makes sense especially when you consider animal crossing new horizons is the number two best selling game on switch and the fastest selling game in switch history so i don't know if it's ever going to overdate number one sales are really dipped in 2021 but um it upset some fans because obviously we've all been waiting for a major update for animal crossing and there's been some rumors around some major updates coming you know the holidays are coming so there has to be at least holiday updates uh but setting all that aside today we're talking about the puma and animal crossing uh you know partnership because we got a look at a couple of the items and we've gotten looks at them already once the back of a sweatshirt and the tennis shoes in particular but now we have some some new images some closer up images and i get to talk about it so i wanted to bring it up in particular i actually think the kicks actually look really really cool uh something that i might even consider wearing in certain situations i'm not afraid you know i know i don't seem to wear gamer gear that often but i'm not afraid to wear gamer gear um you know i got this hat so i you know i'll wear this hat in public it doesn't bother me so it's one of those things where with certain attires and certain clothing getups i have i would be willing to rock those shoes and i do enjoy puma shoes i don't i don't buy them very often obviously i assume these shoes are probably more targeted at children and i if i know my kids are all gonna want a pair uh but yeah this is just a pretty neat crossover and it'll be even cooler you know if i see this in some of our local shoe outlets uh you know at some point next year because it usually takes about six months before stuff like this ends up being available uh in general stores even though they'll have online orders so i don't know i just think it looks cool and i just wanted to bring it up in case people weren't aware of it on my channel now lastly i just wanted to talk briefly about the nintendo direct we put up a new poll today asking people when they think a direct will happen obviously our last video had had some sources saying it's happening this week i have no idea when an nintendo direct is happening in september my money is obviously on any time before you know september 13th and earlier so basically anytime before september 14th based on prior nintendo directs but it could happen at any point it could also just not happen this month uh although that seems really unlikely by my estimation even last year when we didn't have a direct we did end up having the mario 35th anniversary celebration so there's been something every september like that uh and they actually had they technically had a direct we just wasn't a general direct right it was that partner direct showcase but anyways the point is that there's going to probably be something and i just wanted to know that there is actually no update today there was no announcement by nintendo uh although there has been like this one tweet with this image going around about a nintendo direct tweet from that uh that supposedly went up for nine four which would be a saturday that'd be a really weird day they technically have done sundays for something before so you can't rule out a saturday but nintendo america doesn't work on weekends so that's usually why they don't do weekend announcements like that that being said um it's obviously fake uh i have done all the research into it um there are ways to check twitter accounts that even if they throw up a tweet and delete it within literally a second of when they went live um you could still have a record that that tweet was at least made even if you can't see the contents of that tweet and yeah nintendo america never made such a tweet today so it's just funny watching um all of the speculation and rumors and and all this about a nintendo direct this month kind of getting a little bit out of control which um again pretty safe bet that we're getting one this month when that's the big question but uh yeah i just kind of find it funny that there's stuff like this floating out there that's making people feel um a little bit more excited than maybe they should be i'm pretty excited by the way for new nintendo direct so i might say don't be excited it's just you know let's let's let's let's just wait a little bit obviously the the bare minimum we expect are the rest of the games this year to be re-advertised in it well just from there you know the new smash character i think is the one expectation most people have because it's supposed to come this year so it should be unveiled in a direct we would think doesn't have to be they have unveiled them outside of directs but you would think it's going to be unveiled in this direct beyond that it's anyone's guess what they're going to show so um i i think that you know i want to give some some nintendo fans a lot of you guys that watch my channel some credit although we are obviously incredibly hyped for a new direct um we're also seem to be a lot more in control i feel like the overhypedness of the switch pro rumor mill kind of started making fans go look obviously we're probably getting a direct but let's like chill a little right like that's not allow ourselves to get way up here so like when it's not what we want it to be um you know that that we get super disappointed still going to happen of course but i feel like at least in my community we've been a lot more in control of our emotions when it comes to stuff like this but i'm still incredibly excited for it um but yeah i i feel like obviously uh we're we're more willing to just take in the information consider the possibilities and then we just let happen we'll let let what happen happen you know hey this platform back here i'm getting one day one just for me too i'm not just i'm not just selling it i actually play in handheld quite a bit and i don't even have an OLED screen in my house besides my phone so it'll be really cool uh just to be able to have that you know at my disposal plus uh you know my switch is gotten a little beat up and this might just be the switch i let my children use sometimes as you know i'll i'll obviously get the OLED one just kind of a lockdown for me but anyways folks thank you so much for tuning in i am with andi rubber jats from the nintendo prime i've had a lot of fun making this video today um and yeah i did a weird thing i upgraded to windows 11 on my editing computer my new the new one that was just kind of sent to me even then customized uh really weird thing about that i don't really know what the point of the update why it's so weird i i don't really know what's going on but anyways that's it for like after you guys today thank you so much for tuning in and i'll catch you in the next video


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