Product finding is one of the most important tests that we have when running our dropshipping businesses and that is because if we are not selling the right products then no one is going to buy them. We will not be making enough sales and profit and that is not what we are here to do. That's why in this video I'm going to be talking about one of my favorite product research methods using Amazon's best sellers. I'll show you how you can dive deep down into that category and find products that will sell on your dropshipping stores. So quick intro and let's go. What's up everybody? Hope you're all having a wonderful day today. My name is Duran from AutoDS. I'm the content manager and I've also been dropshipping for the last several years and in this video I'm going to show you guys how to find best selling products for your dropshipping stores using Amazon's best sellers. Now you may ask yourself how can I find products using something so vast, so general. If we look here at Amazon's best sellers you can see that we have gift cards which we cannot dropship, electronics which we can but not these products that are copyrighted and trademark. Camera faux and photo products here also not relevant. These are featured. These are trademark products. Video games we cannot dropship so how exactly are we going to find those products and how will we know that it is going to sell that these products are the right ones for our stores. We're going to get into all of that in just one minute. One second before that if you are new to our YouTube channel this is the part where you need to subscribe to always stay updated on all of the latest and all of the hottest topics that we have coming out in the dropshipping world when it comes to product finding, suppliers, marketplaces, features, content and so much more that we have going on. So stay tuned, check out this video. We have a lot to go over and a lot to learn. So Amazon's best sellers. So here we are on the page and as I just showed you guys these products we cannot dropship so how are we going to get to the right ones. So I want to talk to you guys about the best dropshipping categories that we can use inside Amazon's bestsellers and this will help us dive deep down inside these categories and there are subcategories to finally find those products that will sell on our stores. As you see here there's a whole bunch of categories on the left side on Amazon's bestsellers and if you guys don't know where Amazon's bestsellers is just go to Amazon's main page and here on their top bar you have a bestsellers link simply click on that and you'll get to this page. As I said on the left side we have all of the categories that we can use all of these categories have Amazon bestsellers products inside but which ones are relevant. So I'm going to switch really quick to our blog post about Amazon's bestsellers. Everything that I'm talking about in this video is right under this video. Check out the link you'll go straight to the blog and you can see everything that I'm talking about in this video but do stay tuned because I do have more valuable information in this video. So which categories are relevant for dropshipping. Here's the list from Amazon's bestsellers that are relevant we got arts crafts and sewing automotive baby products beauty and personal care let me go back one second in automotive we're not selling cars we're not dropshipping cars but we're definitely dropshipping car parts and accessories that is wonderful for the dropshipping business model let's go on cell phones and accessories so we don't want to dropship cell phones most of them are trademark copyrighted and reselling things like cell phones is not always our smartest move as dropshippers I have never dropped a pay phone because I saw what happens to other dropshippers let me get to that in a minute clothing shoes and jewelry computer accessories and here same thing as cell phones and same thing as automotive we're not going through dropship computers now here is something that you can do you can dropship computers but I've seen what happens to other dropshippers who have tried to dropship computers there is a high profit margin when you're doing something like that but on the other hand customers want to have more than just a 30-day warranty which is what we give on most of our e-commerce stores usually they would want to have a one to three year warranty which is something that the manufacturer usually gives now I've also seen scenarios where customers are opening returns on computers and inside the return package they put an older laptop and then they're trying to get a refund for the new laptop that they bought so I've seen these things happening and they usually happen when people are trying to dropship things like computers so stay out of those things but computer accessories is definitely a yes like gaming accessories mouse keyboards mouse pads speakers and any other accessory that you can think of fits the computer accessories niche and it is a very well-selling category electronics handmade products health and household products home and kitchen industrial and scientific now do be careful in industrial and scientific if you are dropshipping on ebay because on really heavy commercial products ebay takes an insertion fee which is around 20 if I'm not mistaken for just listing that item so pay attention to that more relevant categories in amazon's new releases are kitchen and dining musical instruments which once again if you're dropshipping on ebay there's a very low fee for selling in that category very low final value fee or transaction fee if you would like to call it that so I love that category office products patio lawn and garden pet supplies not pets of course sports and outdoors tools and home improvement and toys and games so all of these categories are relevant and we can see them here on the left side along with the irrelevant categories so let's stick to what's relevant and let's begin with the product finding method so let's say I want to choose one of those categories any category that matches the dropshipping business model for example let's go with patio lawn and garden so now I want to choose a product to sell but going into one category is not going to do the work enough for us we need to dive down deeper and deeper and really find that product that will sell well for us as you see here the products do not really relate to one another they're not under the same category even though they all belong to the patio lawn and garden category so let's break it down even some more check out on the left side you have all of the sub categories inside patio lawn and garden let's break this one down some more let's go with outdoor storage now as you see here we have outdoor storage products all under patio lawn and garden but we can still break it down even more and as long as you can break down the products more go ahead and do that that's how you're going to find your secret gems so let's continue we got carports deck boxes garden houses storage benches storage sheds and tiny house kits let's go with storage benches okay so there is no more sub category after this as you see here on the left side so we're pretty much done diving deep into the patio lawn and garden category and these are the results that we have so how can we find our best selling product here well first of all what is amazon's best sellers all of these products are products that have been proven to sell well and got good reviews so so as you see here these products are selling well you can see by the number of reviews and if you and even if you don't have a lot of reviews it may be a variation of something that did get a lot of good reviews but either way all of these products have been proven to sell proven to work and you can definitely use them to take this product and sell it on your dropshipping stores but also look for similar products to these ones that are selling that's how you're really going to find your secret gem okay so let's say we want to start with this product now as you see we're talking about medium to high price ranges so there's a lot of good profit to be had here first of all as you can see we have an import to autodesk button so as long as you have the autodesk extension installed you can quickly import products in just one click so if i just click on this it's already being added to the drafts page of my store of my dropshipping store and in just a couple of seconds it'll be on my drafts page but that's not what i wanted to show you so let's say we want to take this product as an example so what we will do first is add it to our store which is what i just did but i also want to find other products that are similar to this one and that is where i'm going to find my secret gem so i know that this product is selling well it's on amazon's best sellers and i got into it by diving deep down into the categories so one way to do that is to check out other suppliers and see what they are selling the other way to do it is to see what amazon is also selling under this niche so here we're looking at wood console table these are the strong keywords for this product and let's also add storage bench so i know that this product is a good seller but i want to find those that are similar one that other dropshippers have maybe not have their eyes on yet and we will be one of the first to sell that but it's not always a game of seeing who's first i've seen many dropshippers and a lot of dropshippers who are also copying my products and not always looking for their own products that are similar to the ones that are selling but that's fine that's all a part of the game at the end of the day you want dropshippers to copy from you instead of you copying from others that will make you the head of the fox instead of being the tail of the tiger and that is what i definitely suggest here so let's go back to where we were wood console table storage bench we know that this is the product where we came from and we know that this one is actually going pretty well it's selling pretty well so what i'm going to do is add all of these products to my store and this way i can check which products are going to sell well for me and i know that i will have a very high chance of selling them because i got it from the main product that is selling really really well so let's say i wanted to add all of these products to my store instead of using that one click importer which will just do it one by one i want to save more time than that what you want to do is click on the autodesk extension as you see down here again you need the autodesk helper for that so search on google for autodesk helper and you will get to our extension page download and install it and then you'll have the extension here now what i'm going to do is i'm going to click on extract now all of the 70 products that i have on this page all of these wood storage benches have been imported into this little extension what i'm going to do now is click on export as csv any csv file was just downloaded onto my computer now i'm going to head over to the autodesk platform click on add products upload csv here i'm going to drag and drop that csv file that was just downloaded from the extension and file is uploaded so all of those 70 products in just a few seconds will now be on my drop shipping store this is a great way to save a lot of time when you're importing products to your store so remember that is one way of finding a good selling product and seeing what other products i can see or i can add to my store that are similar to the one that is selling well now if you rinse and repeat this same method that i just showed you for more and more products i guarantee that you will start seeing your success the more products that you test the more results that you will see but as long as you know how to increase the chances of selling your products that way you're going to get the sales much faster you're going to be able to test and analyze the market much faster and things will work much smoother this way another way to find similar products to those that are selling is by searching other suppliers now quick reminder autodesk supports over 25 suppliers this means that you have a reach to tens and millions of products as you see here all of these suppliers you can use each and every one of them i just showed you one small example from amazon but let's go for example for another supplier like any one of them it really doesn't matter aliexpress so one more example aliexpress i'm going to head over to this supplier and i'm going to search for wood storage bench and here i'm going to get more results for that best selling product that i was looking for so some are not going to be relevant like this folding table over here but keep going on with your search and you will find those that are relevant and even cheaper than what we saw using the other supplier like this bamboo wooden shoe bench over here but it can also be an indoor or outdoor storage bench and it only cost 47 dollars as opposed to the 100 something dollars that we saw and amazon of course it's not the same product but you don't want the same exact product one by one you want other products that are similar to that best seller that you just saw so let's just take one more example let's say wooden storage benches is not what we want to go for let's go back to amazon's best seller so we already tried one niche we uploaded at least let's say we imported at least 20 products if you don't try at least 20 products from one product line you won't be able to test and analyze the market correctly so this time let's go to another category let's go with home and kitchen and start breaking this one down so inside home and kitchen let's go with kitchen and dining and inside kitchen and dining let's go with storage and organization i just love these categories when it comes to dropshipping i'm personally dropshipping a lot from these specific categories and inside storage and organization we can even break that down some more so we are going to do that let's go with food storage this should be the last one and it isn't so let's break this one down even some more this is going to help us get more and more to that secret hidden gem and this is the best way to conduct product research if you ask me remember guys there's multiple methods for product research and i'm sharing all of them on our channel and on our blog pages let's keep going on with this one until we find the right one let's go with food containers okay and this one can even be broken down some more and that is exactly what we're going to do because once we find a good sub niche like cereal containers or coffee containers if you try let's say two or three sub niches inside this category then you'll know exactly which one is going to work well for you if you try only one let's say one product inside one category you can pretty much believe it that you're not going to get any positive results so let's go ahead and break this one to just container sets okay so we're done breaking this one down let's see what products are selling here as you can see 22,000 reviews for this product and not every customer leaves a review so you can get a nice estimate on how much this product is selling these food storage containers seem to be selling a lot this is something that i would want to go for and instead of just adding this product here from amazon as i showed you guys before we're going to search for the similar product using other suppliers so in this case we're talking about airtight food storage containers set those are the strong keywords that best describe this product so i'm going to copy that text and i'm going to search on any other supplier so let's go back to autods's supplier list and let's see where we can go for let's go this time with target another thing i want to remind you guys is every us supplier that you use on autods that is supported by autods you can automate your orders or better yet autods can automate 100 of your orders and your returns for us suppliers in usd currency so it's not just amazon and or aliexpress anymore it's every us supplier that can charge with a usd currency so that is great you don't need to have any accounts at any one of these suppliers don't worry about credit line at the bank don't worry about getting locked accounts or anything like that autods takes care of everything and you just need to add the right products to your store that will sell autods will take care of the rest okay so let's take a look at target and we're going to use those keywords that we use airtight food storage container set so we got 233 results at target let's see the results okay and here they are this is exactly what we're searching for and here we can simply find them in different variations than what we saw using other suppliers it's always good to work with multiple suppliers and this is one of the reasons why so what i can do here is once again add all of these products or add them one by one using this extension as you see here so you can use the one click importer from the outside or from the inside of the product page or of course again i can use the autods extractor or the autods helper to extract these products these are the amazon asin so i'm going to click on delete then i'm going to click on extract and now i've got all of the product ids from target inside this little extension same process as before export a csv and then import that csv into the add product section of autods guys it's that simple it's that easy i can't stress that out enough but what we're here to do is see how we can find the best selling products inside the bestsellers so once again the steps are to go to amazon's bestsellers see what categories are relevant for dropshipping we have them on the blog using the link below then you can break down the right categories get to the right sub sub sub niche until you get to the final niche or sub category and from there find a good selling product and look for similar products to that using different suppliers test at least 20 different products from each product line and you will see the success start to roll in slowly but surely i hope that you guys enjoyed this video on how to find best selling products using amazon's bestsellers one of my personal favorite places to find them i find a lot of my personal products on my dropshipping store from here and we've got a lot more methods coming up so always stay tuned on our blog page on our youtube channel and on our facebook community if you want to chat with more dropshippers who are in the same level as yourselves thank you for watching don't forget to subscribe see you in the future videos and good luck with your product finding


There's probably nothing more painful or more hurtful than when someone cheats in a relationship. And so how do you know if the guy that you're with is somebody that could cheat on you or might cheat on you or definitely will cheat on you? And how do you know that there's a really high probability or almost completely no chance that he's actually going to ever cheat on you? How can you tell? Well, I'm going to give you five signs today that will give you a good indication that your guy will never, ever cheat on you. Hello, my name's Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. Today, we're going to be talking about these five signs that he will never cheat. And so instead of looking for signs that he will cheat because if you go digging and you're looking for things, a lot of times you'll end up finding them. Instead, what you want to look for is what are the signs that he's going to remain faithful?  Number one, sign number one, is that he is super, super honest with you. And so he tells you everything and he might even confess things that you're kind of like, why would he tell me? Why would he tell me something like that, right? It's something maybe you don't even want to know. But what he's really doing when a guy does this is he's conveying to you how trustworthy he is, how loyal he is, how much he really likes you, how much he wants to be connected to you, how much he wants to be vulnerable with you and just share everything and get to a space where you guys can really trust and respect and love each other. And that's one of the ways that a guy will do that is just by being super honest about everything. Sometimes people lie about stuff, right? And I don't know if I've ever met anybody out there who hasn't lied about something here or there, even if it's a little lie or something that sometimes people don't believe or lies. But if he's generally speaking, especially about really important things, he's being really open and upfront and honest with you, then that's a really good sign that he's gonna be loyal and that he's gonna be connected and that he wants to have a really strong, powerful relationship with you. If you're here with us right now, say hi in the chat and tell us where in the world you're watching this from. It's cool seeing women from all over the world watching these live streams. So number two is that he's just way too busy to have an affair. And so, believe it or not, so for women it's really easy to hook up with somebody if they want to, right?  And one of them's gonna say yes, right? With guys, most guys, with most of the overwhelming majority of guys, that is not the case, right? Most guys, it takes a lot of energy and a lot of effort and a lot of time and sometimes money and doing things and attention and all kinds of stuff in order to actually hook up with a woman. And for most men, it's not worth it. We get a lot of women sometimes in our community that'll be like, oh, men are cheaters, men are liars, men are players. All men, I meet are players, right? Well, most men out there can't be a player and most men out there don't have the skills to be a player and they're not able to be a player. They're good enough looking to be a player.  The overwhelming majority of men are not running around hooking up with women. And for most men, the overwhelming majority of men, it's really difficult to actually, at least it's somewhat difficult to actually get into a physically intimate situation with a woman that they wanna be physically intimate with. It takes time, it takes effort, it takes like connecting with her and communicating her in all the right ways. And if a guy's really busy, he just, he doesn't have time for that, right? And he doesn't want to do that. It's not something that's a priority to him. It seems like a giant pain in the butt, which is why a lot of guys prefer being in relationships to the whole hookup culture and all that because most guys aren't the ones that are experiencing the hookup culture right now. And so, so you have to remember that, right? And if a guy's really, really busy, he's probably not running around, assuming that he doesn't have the other things, right? He's never been a player in his past and all that kind of stuff, which we're gonna be talking about here. Also at the bottom, the end of this, we're gonna be talking about the number one reason why guys do actually cheat and how to avoid that or stop that or not have that problem, right? You might have other problems going on in your relationship, but it won't be that one. And so, number three, number three is that he has never cheated before or he hasn't in most of his recent relationships. And so, what are we talking about here? We're talking about patterns. And if you've been following my work at all, you'll hear me talk a lot about these patterns because we all live in patterns. We're all in patterns right now. Many of us don't realize that we're in patterns right now, but we're all living in patterns and guys live in patterns as well. And so, if a guy cheats in his past, he's far more likely to cheat in his future.  Like, is he the type of guy who's living in these patterns of cheating and is it something that he's done in the past? Has he done it to other people before? And the best way to find out this information is just to ask questions.  Just ask them that question. Just be like, hey, I was thinking about this. You can bring it up in a conversation or maybe you're talking about somebody else or maybe you saw a TV show where you're like, yeah, I was watching this TV show and these people were cheating and it was like this big thing, but I'm not sure if it's really as common as they try to portray it on the TV. What do you think? Do you think it's common for people to cheat and he'll say whatever he says and then you say, do you think it's ever okay in any situation? Do you ever think there's a situation where it's okay for someone to cheat on their partner and he'll say whatever he has to say? And then lastly, what you wanna say is, have you ever cheated on someone before? Have you ever cheated on someone before? No judgment, just tell them no judgment here. We all get into weird situations, but have you ever cheated on someone before? And just watch his reactions and see what he says and how he says it and how he communicates it to you because that will indicate a lot about what's going on with him and how he feels about it and is it okay to him? Is it not okay to him?  And basically what you wanna do is just see where he is with that and how he feels about that. And you'll learn a lot about what's going on with him. And the reason that I actually mentioned that he hasn't in most recent relationships is because sometimes people cheat when they're younger, and they're more immature and they're kind of in this space where they're like a lot of guys, a lot of women get really angry at men, a lot of guys get really angry at women when they're younger because they get cheated on, right? Like my first relationship that I ever had, I was cheated on by my girlfriend. And so I was angry after that and a lot of guys experienced similar things like that. And so if a guy had something like that in his past, he might be angry at women or something like that and he's trying to like get back at them or whatever. And so he might cheat on them not because he wants to cheat or he thinks it's okay or he thinks it's a good thing to do, but because he's doing it out of revenge. And if he grows out of that, right? And matures and becomes a stronger, more capable man, then a lot of times men will kind of give up on stuff like that because they're like, you know, I don't really care about that. I've regained my appreciation and love for women and I wanna be connected to women again. And, you know, that's not really a morally healthy thing to do and all that kind of stuff. So if a guy's cheated like a long time ago but he hasn't cheated in any of his recent relationships, then he's probably not gonna cheat again just because he's changed his mindset and he's become more mature and he's looking at life in a different way and in a more mature way. And so you wanna find out that kind of stuff. And there are some people that, some dating coaches out there that talk about not asking guys about their previous relationships, never talking about their previous relationships, which is a good idea if you have a lot of pain from your previous relationships, you may not wanna just spew that all out onto a guy, right? But what you do want is to look for patterns because those patterns of how his previous relationships went will tell you a lot about what your relationship is going to be like and what kind of challenges you might end up facing and whether those are challenges that you can overcome or not. And so if you get what I'm talking about here, say I get it in the chat. If you don't get what I'm talking about, go ahead and ask whatever question or anything that you wanna ask me, go ahead and ask it in the chat and I'll get to it here at the very end. So number four, number four is that he doesn't have friends or family who cheat. And so one of the most important things that you can learn about people in general is that we pick up things from our environment. And so if he comes from a culture of cheating, right? So for instance, there are a lot of like Latin American cultures where men cheating in those cultures is a normal and natural thing for a lot of guys to do. I had some friends from Mexico when I was going to college and some of those guys were like, they're like, yeah, you know, but every guy does that, right? The guys cheat until they find the right girl and you're like, eh, that's eh, you know, like, I heard that a few times from some of my Mexican friends and I was just like, that's, that just doesn't sound okay or healthy or morally strong or like, you've got a good character as a human being but that's the culture they came from and that's what's normal to them. And so you have to remember that everybody's got something that's normal to them. And so you wanna look at what is the culture he comes from? What are his friends like? And if you look at his friends, right? If he hangs out with a bunch of friends who are cheating on their, you know, girlfriends or spouses or whatever, right?  And, you know, what's going on with them?  Are they in relationships? Cause it'll tell you so much about his future and what he kind of expects for himself and what's normal to him and normal and natural behavior. If you hang out with a guy and none of his friends are married or in relationships, the likelihood that he's gonna end up married or in a relationship is really, really low. And if all of his friends are running around cheating, the likelihood that he's gonna be okay with cheating is gonna be really, really high. But if they don't, then the likelihood is really, really low because there's so much influence from our culture and the people around us and we don't even realize how much influence is there. And so you just wanna kind of pick up on those things and find out what's going on with that in terms of hip. Number five is he respects you too much to lie, right?  And I wouldn't put too much value around the idea of, are you valuable enough to him for him to necessarily lie or not lie, right? A lot of that has to do with him and who he is as a human being. But all of us get into situations, right? There's like these situations where if you were put in that situation, you might do something differently than what you normally would do.  And for a lot of people, the answer is yes. And so sometimes people get into situations where they're just in a lot of pain, right? And they're lonely, they feel, they're in a relationship where there's no love, there's no connection, there's no intimacy and they end up doing something that's not something that they would normally do. Which is why it's important that he values you and he feels connected to you and he looks at you as somebody that he would never wanna lie to, that he'd never wanna cheat on, that he looks at and he feels like you're special and unique and amazing and somebody that he wants to be with forever. And you wanna have these other signs up there as well. So the last thing that we're gonna be talking about here is why do men cheat? What's the number one reason why men cheat? And they've actually, they've done so many different studies on cheating and there's a lot of different kind of mixed information out there about it, right? So if you're like super, super worried about your guy cheating, it's actually not that common. It is fairly, it's like common enough that there are a lot of guys that are doing it. But at the same time, for most, there's a study I was reading yesterday where I was talking about the most common situation for a relationship, the likelihood that your spouse is gonna cheat on you is like 6%, but there are times in the relationship where there's a lot of tension and a lot of problems where it can get up to like 25% or more. And so you just want to be aware of that kind of thing. And so what's the number one reason? So men have been surveyed about this, like men who have cheated on their spouses or their girlfriends or whatever, their relationships. You know, what was the reason, the number one reason why guys cheat? And the number one reason was that there was a lack of passion in the relationship. So he was no longer excited about it. He no longer felt connected. He no longer felt like a draw to the woman that he was with. He no longer felt like passionate about them being together and being connected anymore. And so he ended up cheating. And so how do you create passion? Like what is, where does passion come from? It's not one of those things that's either just there or not there and there's nothing you can do about it. Passion is actually created. You can build and create passion. And the number one way that you do that is through something called variety, creating variety in the situation, creating variety in the connection in the relationship that you have. And there's a whole bunch of different ways to create variety in the relationship. And if you wanna know a lot about how to build that connection and build that variety with a guy in your relationship, I actually have a program. It's called the obsession formula. You can check it out at commitmentconnection.com forward slash obsession. You can learn actually on that page all about what creates variety.  It's a really, really powerful way of connecting with a man that kind of makes him feel obsessed with you. And it's a four part formula. You can learn about it at that page. And at the end of it, you can learn about my program if you're interested in my program as well. It's a really cool program. commitmentconnection.com forward slash obsession. So what kind of questions do you have about your situation? What's the biggest challenge or frustration that you are working on right now in your situation, in your relationship, being single, whatever. What's your biggest frustration with being single or dating or relationships or whatever is going on with you? And I will go and answer all the questions. I'm gonna answer all the questions. So hello, everybody. Hello, hello, hello. Let's see. Hi, what do you do to help my France? Stop yelling at me. I think you're asking about your fiancee. Stop yelling at you. Well, why is your fiancee yelling at you, Anna? Tell us, Anna, what's going on with your fiancee yelling at you? Tell us, tell us more about it. And I will help you to the extent that I can. Lots of people saying hi, California, Florida. We've got Louisiana, Australia, Jacksonville. Cool, cool, cool. Nigeria, Missouri, the Netherlands, Patricia, Mavis. Hi, everybody. Hey, Alene from Greece. It's cool seeing, I love seeing everybody here. It's so cool having so all these cool people all over the place talking about stuff.  So I'm not sure if you're asking about your situation or not, CJ, but it's one of those things where love and cheating are two completely different things. And I get a lot of confusion about this from a lot of women in our community and a lot of women that I talk to because a lot of times they're like, okay, if I'm in love, then nothing else matters, right? And I'm in love and it's this guy and this is it and this is everything. But with a lot of men, there's kind of a different type of connection in their brain where they can kind of separate those things. And with a lot of women, it's true too, right? Like if you're in a relationship and you're not getting the respect that you want, if you're not being valued, if you're not being treated well, if you're not being made a priority, it doesn't matter if you're really in love, if you're not getting those things, that's not a relationship that's necessarily a good relationship for you to be in. And so whether he loves you or not, really doesn't matter in terms of how he, whether he cheats on you or not, right? So I wouldn't make that a focal point of anything, right? So if this guy's a cheater, doesn't matter if he loves you or not. He's still probably, if he's cheated in the past, the pattern says, the pattern dictates that he's very, very likely to cheat in the future. And so you wanna be very, very aware of that and know what's going on with that. As Sabrina says, do you know Spanish? Hablo un poco de español solo suficiente para viajar y pedir comida y otras cosas. But I don't know, I don't know everything in Spanish. I'm not fluent. Do, do, do, do, do, do, do. Hello, hello, hello. Amber says she loves this topic. Well, I love you loving this topic. CJ says, do you leave him immediately or do you give him a chance if he has really cheated on you? Chances might be he will do it again. It's so difficult. So I guess you are talking about your situation here, CJ. And yeah, it's a pattern, right?  Why did this happen with you, right? Was he, was it just something that he went off and did, right? Are you guys in a committed relationship? Are you guys married? Like, what's the scenario that you're in and why did he do it? And if the reason that he did it was he, you know, got drunk one day and, you know, fell on top of another woman, you know, the likelihood that he's gonna cheat again is really, really hot. You know, if he did it because you guys haven't been talking for a month and you've been ignoring him and you haven't been physically intimate with each other and all that kind of stuff has been going on and he's never done it in his past. And, you know, it was a really bad week moment for him. Then it's possible. It's possible that he's not gonna do it again. But here's the thing. Here's the thing.  There's punishment for it, but this is an acceptable behavior in my life. And so it's really, really difficult. If you're not, I mean, if you're not really in a committed relationship where you guys have kids and it's, you know, maybe you're married and you've got a lot of things going on, I'm not sure that it's really worth it for you to stay in a situation with a guy who acts like this and then is trying to get back together with you after you found out that he actually did cheat on you. And so my suggestion is that if you have other options, which you should have other options, and if you're not married, if it's not a really, really connected kind of situation where it's, you know, you've got kids and it's difficult to walk away from the situation, then, you know, if you're not in that situation, then you should probably start building abundance and go find another scenario that's probably better for you to be in. Let's see. Boop, boop, boop, boop, boop, boop. Hello, hello, hello, lots of people get it, lots of people from all over the place, it's cool. So Mirna says, what if he cheated on someone he didn't see himself with? I'm not excusing that, but I'm curious why she did not break up first. Well, if you don't think that you're with somebody, right? You're not, you don't think you're cheating, right? So we all have rules, right? We all have rules about what's acceptable and what's not acceptable and what means this and what means that and is this okay? And is this not okay? And if you haven't had a conversation with someone about actually being together and being committed, like you guys aren't actually committed. And here's how you know that you aren't committed. You haven't talked about it. That's how you know that you are not in a committed relationship, is that you have not had a conversation about it. You have not talked about it. Doesn't matter what he's doing, it doesn't matter how he's doing it. I get women all the time that are like, but Matt, you said that if you haven't talked about it, he's not, you can assume you're not committed, but he wants to see me all the time and he's taking me on trips and he's had me talk to his parents. Well, it's possible, it's possible that you are and that he's just assuming it, but you do not want to assume that. You want to have that conversation and make sure that you are in a committed relationship because you don't know what he's thinking. You have no idea and a lot of guys out there, they just won't talk about it and they'll just assume that you're just having fun and hooking up and just exploring the world together without any kind of serious relationship because there's a lot of women and men who don't want commitment. They don't want a serious relationship and so in this day and age and the day and age of the hookup culture, you absolutely must have that conversation with a guy. If you want to make sure that he thinks that you are in a relationship, if you want to know whether you're in a relationship or not, have the conversation and don't be afraid to have the conversation, just have the conversation straight up and if you don't, you can assume that you are not in a relationship. And so you're asking what if he cheated on someone and he didn't see himself with that person? Well, if he thought that you guys were just hooking up, he didn't think it was cheating and so it's a different scenario, right? You're in a different category. You're labeled as something, right?  I'm definitely seeing other people. This isn't serious. I'm not trying to make this go anywhere. She's okay with it and I'm gonna continue seeing other people until, you know, something else happens and that's why you have to have that conversation. You absolutely have to have it. Do, do, do, we have to be strong and overcome the bad experiences. All right, let's see what we have going on here. Alexandra says he is cheating if he is not in love. It's a possibility, it's a possibility. I wouldn't assume that though. You know, a lot of guys, like I was talking about earlier in the video, a lot of guys it's very, very difficult for them to cheat. It's not like they're just running around hooking up with people. It's very, very difficult for most guys to do. Most guys are not players. They're not trying to be players. They don't wanna be players. It's very difficult for them to be players. They're not running around hooking up with people. That's the overwhelming majority of men are not hooking up with lots of people. They're not players. So Camille says, should you take your ex back after he cheats? What if you both have been on and off for a year since the betrayal? Well, like I said, Camille, you know, I would look at the situation and say how invested are you in this situation and how important is it that you actually get back together with him? And my suggestion is that you open things up, you start building your abundance, you start connecting with other men, you start looking at your value. You know, your value as a human being, your value as a woman, you know, it's one of those things where one of the reasons why I talk about value, if you're new to this channel, by the way, make sure you subscribe where the subscribe button is.  Someone who deserves a relationship where you are not being cheated on, where you're not being taken for granted, where you're not, where you have somebody who's loyal to you, right? If you're in a situation, what does it tell you about yourself? If you're willing to get back together with a guy who is willing to cheat on you? Like, what does it tell you about the way that you look at yourself and the way that you feel about yourself and what you're willing to put up with? And what it tells me is that you don't really value yourself that much, right? You don't really value yourself enough to demand that you get into, take a stand, you take a stand for getting into the kind of relationship that you ultimately want to have.  And so that's my suggestion. That is my suggestion is that you figure out whether that's actually a situation where you really want to be getting back into or not. And Camille says, there's still a bond when you're in person with him though. And that's gonna happen, right? You get connected to people, you get attached to people and you have to break that bond. I talk about that in some of my other videos that I talk about. If you need, I have a program called the Breakup Remedy. You can go check it out at commitmentconnection.com forward slash break up. And that'll teach you how to get rid of the attachment that you have with a guy. You need to consciously break that attachment that you have with a man. If you want something more, if you want something different, if you don't wanna be stuck on that guy, you gotta break that bond. You gotta move on with your life and get to a space where you believe that you're worth more. You believe that you're worth more.  That's what you want. Let's see.  He still could. He still could. In the way that he could, Sabrina is if he has a pattern of it. If he has a pattern of it, he might, right? There are guys out there who they're addicted to things, right? They're addicted to sleeping around. They're addicted to all kinds of things. He might never wanna lose you. He might love you to death. He might think that you're the most amazing woman in the world. But if he has a pattern of it, if he lives in a culture of it, if all his friends are doing it and that's who he's being influenced by, there's a high probability chance that he's gonna do it with you no matter how he feels all the rest of it, right? And so you have to make sure you have to look for all of those signs. Look for those signs that I was talking about before because that is some of the most important stuff that you can possibly do. Some of the most important stuff you can possibly look at. Nancy says, it's difficult when he doesn't try. I am always open to create variety and I am easy going. He is always tiring. Well, you can create variety without his consent. That's what I talk about here, Nancy, in the obsession formula, the obsession formula. Go check out commitmentconnection.com forward slash obsession. You can create variety with his consent, but you can also create variety without his consent. And the way that you do that is creating variety in the interaction that you have with him. There's a whole bunch of different ways that you can do that. And it doesn't matter whether he wants it or not. You bring in that variety, girl. You're coming down.  He's like, no, no, please no. I'm way too tired for variety right now. And you're like, phew, you get in that variety whether you like it or not, son.  I like it in some ways and I don't know others, but I don't know, there's something about you that's so amazing and I'm so passionately in love with you right now, Nancy. Nancy, I love you. Okay. Lucy says, no, don't take them back unless you love them, just give one chance. That can, I mean, it's not even if you love them. It's like, you know, look at those patterns. Look at the patterns. What's going on with them? So Andrea says, if they don't admit to infidelity, do you agree you can't really fix anything? Yeah, I mean, if you are like, hey, this person has been cheating on me. This postman cheating on me and they aren't gonna admit it, right? And they're like, well, that wasn't really cheating or I didn't cheat. You know, I don't know what you're talking about. It was this and you did that and this happened. All right. If they don't take ownership of it, if they either one aren't aware of it, right? They're just too like out there to realize that they did it or they're totally in denial or whatever, or two, if they're not taking responsibility and ownership of it, like they aren't saying, hey, this is something that I did do, then yeah, there's not a whole lot that you can really do about it because they can convince their own mind that it's not a problem, that they didn't do anything, that it's your fault, that it's the world's fault, that it's other people's fault, that it's the pandemic's fault, whatever they want to blame it on, they can do that and there's not a whole lot that you can really do in that kind of a scenario. Good question there, Andrea. Good question. It's a great question. So again, if you're with us right now, post in the chat, what's your biggest, what's something that, what's something you're having a hard time with in dating and relationships? What's difficult about it? What do you hate about it? What's a challenge for you about it right now? Just let us know. Tell us in the chat. All right, what else do we have here? What else do we have? What you got? What you got for me in the chat?  I'm old school. I'm not sure what 50-50 dating is. Like everything's 50-50, like you pay, he pays. Is that what you're talking about? That's the culture we're moving towards. That is the culture we are moving towards. That is the culture. As Om says, I feel I am not attractive and not attractive as long-term. I was cheated many times. Men don't like to stay with me. Yeah, and so as Om, the problem that you're gonna have here is that if you don't change all that stuff going on in your mind, right? You're not, you're not your mind. You're not your body. You're not your emotions. However, those things are programs that have been running with you for a long time because you've been cheated on many times. You probably have some other stuff in your past that is hurting you and giving you challenges and making you question yourself and your own self-worth and whether you're, I mean, obviously, right? You're even saying it right here. You're saying I feel as I'm not attractive, right? And I can kind of see your photo there a little bit and it looks like you're very attractive and I'm sure that you have a lot of amazing qualities and you're a beautiful human being.  And so my, I'm sure that you are very, very attractive human being. You just have to get rid of all that old programming and you have to change the way that you think about yourself if the change your beliefs that you have about who you are and what you're worth and what you're willing to allow into your life and just start noticing those patterns and change them and break them, break the old habits, the old belief systems that you have and it can be a challenging thing, right? It can be a very, very challenging thing. We're gonna be starting some new healing programs here in the not too distant future. We're just starting to add events. We just, I just did the first event that I've done in a long time two weeks ago and it was a major success. It was awesome. The women who are a part of it said that it was unbelievably good and we're gonna be doing some healing work for everybody through those events. Cause I know there's a lot of people that are in a lot of pain right now. There's a lot of people with a lot of belief systems that aren't really serving them. And you need to make sure that you're getting into a system where you know a place, putting programs in place inside yourself, updating the software in your brain, right? We all have software in our brain for that tells us what our life is about, what we're worth, what we can get, what we can't get, what's possible, what's not possible. And we have to update that software just like we update the software in our computer or in our phone or any kind of situation like that so that the software that's running in our minds tells us that we're capable of having what we want, that software that stops us from settling for things that we don't actually want. And so that's really what you need to do is you need to start believing in yourself. You need to start emotionalizing what it is that you want and you need to start questioning those old belief systems, right? Like this stuff about I feel I am not attractive and not attractive as long term. Just start questioning that. Start questioning it. Start connecting with people that'll tell you why you are. Start finding reasons why you are long-term relationship material. Find reasons why you are attractive. Find evidence that shows you that you're attractive, that you're long-term material. And start questioning those old beliefs that you have. That's the best way to do it. And then start emotionalizing the new beliefs that you want to have so that you get it into your system so that you aren't settling for anything less than what you absolutely want in this world because you can have something amazing if you want it, but you have to.  Because if you start with anything else, you're going to settle for something less. What's the difference? Everyone here, type in the chat.  What's the difference in the world? What does she experience differently in the world if she believes in her value versus if she doesn't? Type it in the chat if you know. So Sheila says, how can men have two lives? Both worlds isn't okay. Why don't they choose one? Because there's a whole bunch of different reasons why guys might have two lives. One might be because he's afraid that one life isn't really serving him or it isn't really fulfilling all of his needs or he wants something different or there's variety, right? We're just talking about variety and this whole thing about cheating. What happens in relationships and the reason that guys cheat is because of something it's a sad law. It's called the law of familiarity. The law of familiarity states that anything that we're around often enough we start taking it for granted. It starts becoming boring to us. You just a little bit, right? It accumulates over time. It starts becoming more and more and more and more boring. And eventually it's super boring and you go, okay, you start looking to something else in order to fulfill that need of variety for yourself.   You're like, oh yeah, the song's so great. And then after a while it's, I mean, it's a great song but it's not as special anymore. If you listen to it all the time every single day, all day long it doesn't matter how much you like a song eventually you're gonna get tired of it. But if you stop listening to it for a while but you hear it every once in a while like on the radio or something or randomly somebody else is playing it you're like, yay, that's awesome or whatever. So that's creating variety, right? That's creating scarcity. That's building its value. That's making it more interesting and different and not something that you're constantly around. And so you can actually do that in relationships. You can build that in relationships and you don't have to like go on vacation or something every week with a guy but you can create space. You can create scarcity. You can build your value in his eyes. You can pull yourself back. You can have your own life. You can do all these different things that keep the variety and spice in the relationship that you have. Now, does that mean that if you do that that a guy will definitively no matter what, absolutely no questions asked and never have a second life? No, it doesn't because like I said some people are cultured to have this. Some people have patterns of this in their life. Some people have friends that are doing this as well. Some people they want that.  And so you can't find out what everything everybody has and all the things that are going on with everybody immediately the first time but that's why you wanna look for patterns and that's why you wanna slow things down when you're dating in relationships so that you can start seeing more patterns of what's going on, excuse me with this person and what's going on with them so that you can make sure that you are getting yourself into the best possible situation that you absolutely can. And so that's what you wanna do. That's what you wanna make sure you're doing, right? So Chi Wong says, how do I learn to trust again after he cheated? Reason for cheating was attention from other women made him feel like he still had it was able to attract other women. Well, that is a bad reason for cheating.  I don't know, but that is a very bad reason for this guy cheating on you. That's a horrible, horrible reason to feel like he still has it. And so, I mean, you can do that. You can create that with him, that feeling that he still has it through things like role playing, through things like creating variety, through things like distancing yourself from him. Like you can make him feel that a whole bunch of different ways, but like we were talking about before, what does it say that you end up getting back together with this guy who cheated on you and did all this kind of stuff. And so you wanna look at your situation. I don't know what your situation is, Chi Wong, but that's a bad situation to get back into if you absolutely don't have to get back into it because if you're teaching him that it's okay for him to cheat on you and then there's a high probability that he's gonna do it again. And so if you do end up getting back together with a guy who does something like that, you wanna make it incredibly difficult for him to get back together with you. You wanna put a lot of obstacles in his way and you want to make him earn you back. You want to make him earn you back. Zeynep Ali says, I wonder why always women have to put all the effort to keep the relationship working when everything starts to fade while men always choose to simply walk away for the slightest reasons or there are not any they just walk away out of boredom. Well, that's actually like, if I felt that way, Zeynep, I would be very, very concerned as well. But here's the reality of the situation. The reality of the situation is that women don't always have to put in all the effort to keep the relationship working and you shouldn't have to put in all the work to keep the relationship working. It's actually the men actually aren't the ones that are more likely to walk away from the relationship. There's been many studies done on this and what they found is that women are three times as likely to walk away from a relationship than a man is. Women are three times more likely to walk away from a relationship. That doesn't mean that the man's putting in a whole bunch of effort to try to fix things. Most men typically just put their heads down and just continue going on even if the relationship is really difficult. But women are typically the ones that walk away from the situation. But you also wanna be in a situation with a guy who's willing to fight for the relationship. You shouldn't be the one that's putting in all of the effort for the relationship and it should be that way from the very beginning, right? You should both be building relationships are built together. It's not one person or the other person and it shouldn't be one person or the other person that should be built together with the both of you creating the relationship together and any other situation isn't a good situation but it's just simply not true that women are always the ones that are putting. Yeah, I used to think like I had some thoughts about that as well. Actually when I was growing up, I thought women were the only ones that were cheating and lying and leaving men and all that kind of stuff until I actually got into the women's dating side and I started finding out that women have just as many problems with men doing it as men have it with women. But you only see one side because you're on one side. It's painful because you're on the side and you're like these relationships that I've been in, the guy hasn't put in any effort and I was doing everything and when he was trying to walk away and all that kind of stuff and so to you it looks like men always walk away. Women are the only ones that are putting in the energy and the effort but in reality it's very, very different than what you perceive, right? Because you only perceive based on what you've seen and what you make it mean and there's a whole nother reality of a world out there where lots of other things are going on and a lot of times it's exactly the opposite of what you've been experiencing but you have patterns, right? Just like men have patterns of cheating and you wanna know what those are, you have patterns of what kind of situations that you get into and so if you are in a pattern of getting into situations where you're constantly meeting guys who are walking away and not putting any effort, not doing anything and you're doing everything and all that kind of stuff then you wanna look at that and say why am I getting into this pattern? What can I do differently to get into a different pattern and how can I see when I'm getting into the pattern that's not a pattern that I wanna be in and what can I do to break that pattern, right? The last, the event that I just did the other weekend it was this event called the Chase Formula and one of the things that I talked about was how do you break patterns? How do you break patterns in a relationship because that's a big thing if you wanna get back together with somebody is you need to look at what kind of patterns are going on there, what kind of patterns are in the relationship, what kind of patterns of perception does he have of you, right? And how do you break that and get into a better situation that's far more valuable for you and what you want? So Alicia says, does flirting with other people count as cheating? Well, it depends on you, right? So it depends on how you feel about flirting depends on what kind of flirting it is it depends on, is this a flirting kind of person? And it depends on whether you're concerned about emotional cheating. What they found is that women actually tend to be more concerned with men emotionally cheating than they do with actually physically cheating. A lot of women out there are okay with men who physically cheat on them as long as they don't emotionally cheat on them, right? As long as they're not getting emotionally attached to other women, a lot of women are okay with men cheating on them physically, right? It's crazy. And with men, men are far less concerned about emotional cheating than they are with physical cheating, right? So most guys don't really care if you're getting emotionally connected to some guy that you're never gonna hook up with because he doesn't have to worry about all those emotional things that normally he might have to worry about but he's very concerned about whether you actually physically cheat with that guy or not. That's just, those are some patterns that men and women have around cheating and what's acceptable and what's not acceptable to them. And so it kind of depends it depends on what the flirting is it depends on whether this is the kind of personality of the guy that you're with because some guys they just flirt with everybody, right? And so if you date a guy that's flirting with everybody all the time then you're gonna have to assume that when you're in a relationship that he's gonna continue flirting with everybody all the time. There's a lot of women that do that as well. And so it depends on you, right? It depends on what that means to you what it means to him, what's going on there is that is it flirting, is it actually flirting? Is it emotionally cheating? Does it count as emotional cheating? Is it malicious and intense? Is he trying to get something with somebody? Or is he just having fun and just connecting and talking to people and that's what he does because he's an extrovert, right? So you have to look at the scenario a little bit more to figure out whether that's something that's important to you or not. Okay, and whether it's normal behavior that's the other thing. Is it normal, is it normal or is it abnormal? So Naughty says, Naughty, Naughty, Naughty, Naughty, Naughty Jones. Naughty Jones says, how do you cope with not being appreciated? How do you prevent cheating then? Well, if you wanna be appreciated more then what you need to do is there's a whole bunch of different things that you need to do. I have whole live streams about how to get more appreciation from a guy, right? And one of the best things that you can do is create space, right? Like just what I was talking about before with the love of familiarity, right? We start taking things for granted. If we don't take something for granted we're not appreciated as much. And if you're not being appreciated in your relationship, if you're not being valued, if you're not being respected the best thing for you to do is pull back is to walk away, not necessarily forever if you don't want to, but don't stay in a situation, don't stay somewhere where respect, where appreciation is not being served to you.  I want to be respected. I want to be desired and taken seriously and treated as a priority. And make sure that you're one, that you're communicating what it is that you want, that you're connecting with your guy and letting him know what it is, what kind of a situation you want, what you're interested in, what works for you, what doesn't work for you. Set up boundaries and make sure that you're getting your needs met. You need to make sure that you're getting your needs met. This is a need, right? We all have a need to be appreciated. It's called significance, right? Our emotional need of significance dictates that we must be appreciated. We need, we seek being appreciated. And so if you're not being appreciated, you need to pull yourself back and start finding places where you are appreciated and go to places where you do get appreciated and be around people who do appreciate you. That way you're making sure that you do get your appreciation.  He's not gonna get to have you, right? You're coming from a frame. You wanna always come from this frame, this master frame of like, he has to prove that I'm somebody that he gets to be with, right?  And if he's not trying to win you over and if he's not proving to you that he's worthy of you as the prize, then he doesn't get to have you. And it doesn't matter if you're in a relationship for a short amount of time or a long amount of time. You know, if you're in a committed relationship or if you're in a marriage, Naughty Jones, which I don't know if you are or not, you might be dating, who knows. But if you're in a marriage or a situation like that, the first thing that you wanna do is make sure that you are appreciating him, right? You wanna make sure that you're giving what it is that you want to get. And you want to create a relationship with him through you and what you're doing that makes him feel like he's amazing, right? Because most people, most men and women, if you get into a relationship with them and you really fulfill their needs and you make them feel just absolutely amazing, they will feel horrible if they don't give that back to you. But if you're not doing that, then it's very easy for them to justify that or do it for revenge or whatever because they don't feel like they're in a great relationship either. And if you do that a whole bunch, right?  And you need to pull yourself away and stop allowing yourself to be in a situation where you're not getting respected, you're not being appreciated, you're not being valued and only get into situations where you are, where it starts that way and it builds that way and there's a pattern of that in the relationship and it stays that way. That's what you want. CB says, how to move a relationship forward or let someone know you like them when you're coworkers and don't wanna be too obvious? Well, if you are in the West, specifically America and you have a coworker that you're interested in, the likelihood that he is going to hit on you is pretty close to non-existent these days because of a lot of the movements and stuff that have been going on over the last few years, last decade or so. And so you have to be very obvious about what it is that you're interested in and what it is that you want because if you don't, then it's gonna be very, very difficult. If you're a woman, it's really up to you in the workplace at this point, right? Because a lot of people, I have friends, I have good friends who have been accused of workplace, harassment and all kinds of stuff that they weren't even doing because women didn't like them and so they accused them of things. And so a lot of guys are freaked out about this. There's actually a study I was reading recently where a lot of people aren't hiring women anymore because they're so worried about all the lawsuits and harassment charges and stuff that women are filing on just tons of people all the time and they don't want to deal with it anymore.  You're gonna have to let them know that you're interested, you're gonna have to let him know that you want to hang out. If you want to do it in a non-obvious way, then what you should do is you should just let him know that you'd like to hang out with him at some point, right? And then move things from there and don't hang out at his house, don't hang out at your house, go somewhere where it's public and you can talk and you can have conversations and you can start creating a dating frame around the interaction. Because if you get into that situation and you're a coworker situation at work, it can get really, really messy for the guy, right? If he hits on you at all, even if you hit on him, if he hits on you, you know, he can get in a lot of trouble. So it's really up to women these days in the workplace. That's just, that's the way that workplace is going right now for the time being. And so if that's something that's going on with you, you need to let him know. That's what's gonna happen. You have to let him know. All right, so if you really want to create passion and excitement and amazement and love and fun and all that kind of stuff in your relationship, make sure you check out commitmentconnection.com forward slash obsession. That's my program called the Obsession Formula. It's a great program. And that's it for today. Thank you everybody for being here with us. It was really cool having this live stream. I love doing these live streams. I love connecting. We're just gonna start doing events. So I'm probably gonna stop doing as many live streams and we're gonna start doing a lot more live events and so if you're not, make sure you go and check out commitmentconnection.com and join our mailing list. That way, if you're interested in being a part of these live events where we're gonna be going over healing work, we're gonna be talking about how to raise your value in men's eyes. We're gonna be doing some stuff about getting your exes back. I'm working on getting some really awesome speakers to come and talk about femininity and feminine energy for women that are interested in that, you know, attracting guys, just doing all that kind of stuff that you're looking to do. Make sure you're part of just go to commitmentconnection.com and join my newsletter there and you will get emails about what we're doing and what's going on. And so that's it. And thank you everybody for being here with us today and I will speak with you again soon and always remember, you are worth it.


Horse at the Calgary Stampede was euthanized last night. It happened during the last heat of the chuck wagon races. The stampede says an outriding horse was injured during the event a veterinarian found the horse had fractured its lower front leg and it was put down. Now horses that take part in the nightly chuck wagon races are usually in peak fitness. There are veterinarians on hand to monitor the animal's health and now the stampede is using a new device to test the anaerobic performance of the horses. To tell us more about this is Dr. Renault Leguiette. He's the chair in equine sports medicine at the University of Calgary. Thanks for doing this. Thank you Andrew. So for those who don't know as much about horses and the stampede, in the case of the horse last night why would a horse that broke its leg be put down? Yeah horses are heavy animals and there are athletes running very fast so because of the weight mainly and because we don't have really the plates and screws that can support that kind of weight for horses really most of those leg fractures are unfortunately almost impossible to fix. The weight will break the implants and the horses have just skin on the bones on those legs so any kind of support material will very quickly induce some wounds and tissue that will swell and bleed and so unfortunately we don't have really good options for horses with a fractured leg like that. All right. Thank you for that. So let's talk about this new technology. Trackside is then? Yes. Yes. How does it work? So with the University of Calgary my program is very interested in exercise physiology and performance and how to help you know training these horses and get them as you said to the peak of the performance for these competitions and so we have we're validating handheld analyzer blood analyzer that's been designed to test ammonia usually in humans and we are interested in ammonia because it's a very very good indicator of anaerobic energy so the energy that your metabolism can give you to move without oxygen so when you run you get out of breath you know you're burning oxygen but you can even go faster or longer than that off the oxygen for a little bit and that top up of energy without oxygen is what really will get you even faster and ahead of the game and so ammonia is released when you're running without this kind of oxygen and is really tightly correlated to your anaerobic top up or performance of energy and so we have this analyzer that's a small portable design for humans and we're very interested in ammonia and wanted to validate it so does it you know does it work in horses and also we wanted to see now what kind of numbers do we get on horses running fast like horses at the stampede so once you have this information what do you actually do with it yeah so we're still in that step of validating and measuring but what you can do with that is two things one is you can look at the potential the athletic potential of a horse so the dream situation would be well eventually I can say I'll do that test and say that horse is better than that horse eventually we're not there yet it's not that simple unfortunately but it's going to help to make these kind of decisions and on the other hand too that's going to help mainly to before the events get your horse prepared and be at the peak of their condition for those important competitions as you probably know you know the athletes train let's say for the olympic games and they are at the top during the olympic games but they're a little bit less before and over train or lower after so you want time a little bit your training so that you're at the peak of your performance at the right time and these kind of tests I mean that test alone wouldn't do all of that but combined with all of the other things we do for fitness testing that definitely can help people train their horses and say oh I have more more room to improve or no you know I'm going to over train now so I should just talk where I am well Dr. Leguiette thanks so much for your insight on this thank you Andrew


We continue on today with chapter 18, The Two Worlds. You have been told to bring the darkness to the light and guilt to holiness. You have also been told that error must be corrected at its source. Therefore, it is the tiny part of yourself, the little thought that seems split off and separate the Holy Spirit needs. The rest is fully in God's keeping and needs no guide. Yet this wild and delusional thought needs help because, in its delusions, it thinks it is the Son of God, whole and omnipotent, sole ruler of the kingdom it set apart to tyrannize by madness into obedience and slavery. This is the little part you think you stole from heaven. Give it back to heaven. Heaven has not lost it, but you have lost sight of heaven.  Within its barricades is still a tiny segment of the Son of God, complete and holy, serene and unaware of what you think surrounds it. Be you not separate for the one who does surround it has brought union to you, returning your little offering of darkness to the eternal light. How is this done? It is extremely simple being based on what this little kingdom really is. The barren sands, the darkness and the lifelessness are seen only through the body's eyes.  From the world of bodies made by insanity, insane messages seem to be returned to the mind that made it. And these messages bear witness to this world, pronouncing it as true. For you sent forth these messengers to bring this back to you. Everything these messages relay to you is quite external. There are no messages that speak of what lies underneath, for it is not the body that could speak of this. Its eyes perceive it not, its senses remain quite unaware of it. His tongue cannot relay its messages. Yet God can bring you there if you are willing to follow the Holy Spirit through seeming terror, trusting Him not to abandon you and leave you there, for it is not His purpose to frighten you but only yours. You are severely tempted to abandon Him at the outside ring of fear, but He would lead you safely through and far beyond. The circle of fear lies just below the level the body sees and seems to be the whole foundation on which the world is based. Here are all the illusions, all the twisted thoughts, all the insane attacks, the fury, the vengeance and betrayal that were made to keep the guilt in place so that the world could rise from it and keep it hidden. Its shadow rises to the surface, enough to hold its most external manifestations in darkness and to bring despair and loneliness to it and keep it joyless. Yet its intensity is veiled by its heavy coverings and kept apart from what was made to keep it hidden. The body cannot see this, for the body arose from this for its protection, which depends on keeping it not seen. The body's eyes will never look on it, yet they will see what it dictates. The body will remain guilt's messenger and will act as it directs as long as you believe that guilt is real. For the reality of guilt is the illusion that seems to make it heavy and opaque, impenetrable and a real foundation for the ego's thought system. Its thinness and transparency are not apparent until you see the light behind it and then you see it as a fragile veil before the light. This heavy seeming barrier, this artificial floor that looks like rock, looks like a bank of low dark clouds that seem to be a solid wall before the sun. Its impenetrable appearance is holy in illusion. It gives way softly to the mountaintops that rise above it and it has no power at all to hold back anyone willing to climb above it and see the sun. It is not strong enough to stop a button's fall but to hold a feather. Nothing can rest upon it for it is but an illusion of a foundation. Try but to touch it and it disappears. Attempt to grasp it and your hands hold nothing. Yet in this cloud bank it is easy to see a whole world arising. A solid mountain range, a lake, a city all rise in your imagination and from the clouds the messengers of your perception return to you assuring you that it is there. Figures stand out and move about, actions seem real and forms appear and shift from loveliness to the grotesque and back and forth they go as long as you would play the game of children's make-believe. Yet however long you play it and regardless of how much imagination you bring to it you do not confuse it with the world below nor seek to make it real. So should it be with the dark clouds of guilt no more impenetrable and no more substantial. You will not bruise yourself against them in traveling through. Let your guide teach you their insubstantial nature as he leads you past them for beneath them is a world of light and they cast no shadows. Their shadows lie upon the world beyond them still further from the light. Yet from them to the light their shadows cannot fall. This world of light this circle of brightness is the real world where guilt meets with forgiveness. Here the world outside is seen anew without the shadow of guilt upon it. Here are you forgiven for here you have forgiven everyone. Here is the new perception where everything is bright and shining with innocence washed in the waters of forgiveness and cleansed of every evil thought you laid upon it. Here there is no attack upon the Son of God and you are welcome. Here is your innocence waiting to clothe you and protect you and make you ready for the final step in the journey inward. Here are the dark and heavy garments of guilt laid by and gently replaced by purity and love. Yet even forgiveness is not the end. Forgiveness does make lovely but it does not create. It is the source of healing but it is the messenger of love and not its source. Here you are led that God himself can take the final step unhindered for here does nothing interfere with love letting it be itself. A step beyond this holy place of forgiveness a step still further inward but the one you cannot take transports you to something completely different. Here is the source of light nothing perceived forgiven nor transformed but merely known. This course will lead to knowledge but knowledge itself is still beyond the scope of our curriculum nor is there any need for us to try to speak of what must forever lie beyond words. We need remember only that whoever attains the real world beyond which learning cannot go will go beyond it but in a different way. Where learning ends there God begins for learning ends before him who is complete where he begins and where there is no end. It is not for us to dwell on what cannot be attained there is too much to learn the readiness for knowledge still must be attained. Love is not learned its meaning lies within itself and learning ends when you have recognized all it is not that is the interference that is what needs to be undone Love is not learned because there never was a time in which you knew it not. Learning is useless in the presence of your Creator whose acknowledgement of you and yours of him so far transcend all learning that everything you learned is meaningless replaced forever by the knowledge of love and its one meaning. Your relationship with your brother has been uprooted from the world of shadows and its unholy purpose has been safely brought through the barriers of guilt washed with forgiveness and set shining and firmly rooted in the world of light. From there it calls to you to follow the course it took lifted high above the darkness and gently placed before the gates of heaven the holy instant in which you and your brother were united the messenger of love sent from beyond forgiveness to remind you of all that lies beyond it yet it is through forgiveness that it will be remembered and when the memory of God has come to you in the holy place of forgiveness you will remember nothing else and memory will be as useless as learning for your only purpose will be creating yet this you cannot know until every perception has been cleansed and purified and finally removed forever. Forgiveness removes only the untrue lifting the shadows from the world and carrying it safe and sure within its gentleness to the bright world of new and clean perception. There is your purpose now and it is there that peace awaits you and from the workbook lesson 149 of the review my mind holds only what I think with God when I am healed I am not healed alone heaven is the decision I must make.


If you are just learning how to play baseball one of the first things that you'll probably learn is that three strikes is an Out called a strikeout, but lots of rules in baseball have an exception to them And the strikeout rule is no exception because of this It's actually possible for a batter to strike out but to not be out allowing him to become a runner and potentially reach base So we know that typically if a batter has thrown three strikes then this is a strikeout He's out the lesser known part of this which has actually been a rule ever since way back in the 1800s And they started to write this stuff down and formalize the rules is that the third strike must be caught by the catcher in order to complete the strikeout in addition to that one of two Stipulations must be met in order to allow or batter the chance to run after the catcher has botched the third strike Which by the way does not have to be a swinging strike Although almost always seems to be for reasons we'll get to in a second The first is that there is no runner on first base and the second would be if there are two outs Then it doesn't matter if someone's on first base. It's a free-for-all So let's say first base is unoccupied our batter swings and misses at the third strike But it bounces off the catcher's glove This doesn't guarantee that the batter gets to go to first base It just means that he is not out yet and he has become a runner Because of this he can still be put out in a few ways Typically if the ball doesn't bounce too far the catcher can pick it up and just tag him out before he can get away Or because there is now a force play at first the defense can throw him out of first base But if the batter manages to beat them to first base then he is now on first base and is a runner The rule makes it clear that the pitch must be legally caught by the catcher in order to count So if something crazy happens like the pitch comes in the batter swings and misses the catcher also misses it The ball bounces off the umpire up into the air and then the catcher catches it This is not a legally caught third strike and so the catcher then must tag him out or throw out the runner The unique thing about this situation is that even though it is not an out It is still recorded as a strikeout in terms of both the pitcher and the batter's statistics This is because the batter does not actually advance just on the strikeout, but on something else as well Almost always when this happens It's a batter swinging at a pitch that's way outside the strike zone that he probably should not have swung at and that the catcher Cannot get to which would mean that the batter would advance to first base on the strikeout and a wild pitch as they said though the batter does not necessarily have to swing at the pitch and A call strike would probably hit the catcher right in the chest if he missed it But catchers aren't perfect and so if it bounces off his glove Swinging or not the batter could advance to first on that strikeout and a pass ball He could also advance on an error if say the catcher throws the ball down to first that would clearly have beaten the runner But the first baseman drops it in this situation. It would be a strikeout in an error on the first baseman Another possibility would be if there's a runner on say second base and the third strike bounces away up the third baseline If the runner on second base tries to run the catcher may try to throw him out Conceding that the batter would advance to first base and thus no matter what happens a third base The batter would reach on a strikeout and a field of choice So you might question why can't someone be on first base? Why not just let the batter always run if the third strike is dropped? The reason for this part of the rule is similar to why the infield fly rule exists Basically, it's trying to prevent a quote-unquote cheap double play So if there is a runner on first base with one out the catcher could just always drop a third strike on purpose And then quickly turn a double play If you watch enough baseball sooner or later, you'll see a catcher drop a third strike But a batter who for whatever reason does not run Usually he's just upset with himself for striking out or he's slow And he knows he probably won't be able to beat the throw to first base Most of the time the defense will go through the motions of tagging him out or throwing the ball to first just to be Safe, but there is a rule that states that if a batter makes no attempt to run at all Then he has called out once he walks out of the dirt circle surrounding home plate This rule may not apply to all levels of play in many lower levels like little league a third strike means that the batter is out Whether it's caught or not But if this rule does apply it takes place when there is a missed third strike with nobody on first base Or if there are two outs then it doesn't matter if someone's on first and at this point our batter can run The defense can still get him out either by tagging him out or throwing him out of first or he might reach safely No matter what it's still technically a strikeout