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Hey, so check check in You know, I'm saying, uh Man, it's been uh, it's been long overdue Me and his brother, man, we've been chopping it behind the scenes for a long time A lot of people don't know we should have been hit the record button on a lot of our conversations, man Really really putting it together the right way But I got my man Kevin, Samuel's in the building. You know what I'm saying? Say what's up to the people, bro What's going on everybody? Hey, so check it out.     Oh, we got Kevin Samuel's up in here We're doing today before we go to the movie review because you know, we still got that coming up tonight But we're gonna deal with the 90s scene. Where are they now? I want I want I won't care to break everything down from uh, the dating the clothing of the uh How these chicks was acting? I mean just so many I got a lot of questions, man, but let's start first with, um You know How was that how was the club scene? On the 90s on the 90s tip because like we're pulling up a lot of movies And I mean I I feel like we're getting an accurate depiction of a lot of things But how was it when you was really on that scene like that? rough We we was out From wednesday To saturday wednesday night Ladies night So ladies got in free before we left Okay, and what what city was this? Uh dallas or what houston dallas new york city.   So that dance too. Did you have to dance?  I dance my way into a lot of pussy I build you to not nigga.   How was that going? So I'm gonna break it down Before I pledge and after I pledge because I'm a cappa.  We had no there was no uniform game Think we couldn't even get uniform music.  Let me tell you here's I went from trying I I'm a I'm a salesperson.  They didn't work for me, man You don't know what my game was? Uh, look here. I ain't got no rap. I ain't gonna Mac. I'm just trying to get some conversation I would go up to bitches and just say that because I had no rap and no Mac Only one liners and shit didn't work for me And and and if a woman smiled she would be like, okay That's a more little more original and she would give you some time This is when Alan Roger Curry frat brother came up with around the late 80s 90s.   I'll pay your rent.  Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. You reach Kevin Kevin Kevin Kevin Kevin Nigga, we was we were doing anything we could to try to seem smooth. You had that one or two mistakes Now I remember in the 90s. I used to get bitches my car In the mall like I got got cards made up in the mall. I think I sit on the movie or something.  Yes dead on robin gibbons dead on uh, I think you did uh, I think you did uh strictly business Yeah, yeah Dead on man with that left right up down when especially when you had them ivy lee You know, she went to northwestern. Yeah, aka the short crop bar cut.   She's trying to compete with me to get the position. So i'm her competition Right, so if the company is going to send two people away to get their mba and there's 12 of us Somebody's going to get a 30 thousand dollar education and an additional 20 thousand dollars of a year in pay Back when the minimum wage is three 35 an hour. That's a lot of money So sisters had a lot of problem Dealing with men on an equal footing because they were outpacing us Brothers was the brothers who was going to the military and they had a different track when you graduated at 18 you had three paths Good job Let me be a broke dude military or college And college is the path that people wanted to go to Uh Job was the least valuable the job if you got a job It was assumed you couldn't go to college or the military now Like they had good jobs back there too like the factory jobs. That's what I was about to say now when I say job I mean a job. I don't mean that good gm job.   So dudes like yeah, all right cool And a few dudes that did uh standard straight tended to be athletes Or dudes that had different sources of money That didn't have to tie to some corporate job. See a lot of black men were in that time We were neutered because you know you had to play that Dude is strictly business. You have to play that. Hey, how you doing?    They had more position.  No, you know what I'm saying like they they were all out for self in that period of time and now You know the generations down a line.  No, well So What about college too? Was it a lot of that? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, what did you start to see the single mom? sure late 90s like 97 to 2001 we started to see more of them. See when I came along it was still taboo you Women that had children didn't go to college Back then. Okay. You had a baby. You were out of college.    I had me a sugar mama Okay, and and she put me up on mad game um, had I not run along across her and I just deal with how a woman really should move because she had the paper And the credentials to back it up.    Are you seeing these bitches like? um How could I say like?  You don't get me to lie, man. I think so. So no dude. Honestly. It was not foreseeable that they would fail the way they did See they had here's why we couldn't foresee it Black women have always been put ahead of black men as far as the family if somebody had to go to college You sent the girl to college because the guy could get their good factory job And then they would always come back home and try to uh pool the money with the family But this but my generation was the first generation That they're turning their back on the family traditions on they kept all the shit for themselves and the problem is um They kept it all to themselves and this is when you saw a lot of people Getting married and around the late around 95 to 96 you saw a lot of people getting started getting married Or trying to have children around 26 or 27 26 to 29 But the shit wasn't working because you got a woman who Think she's better than you she's not your equal So you button hands with this stuff. So this is why you see short term marriages falling apart my generation That's why you find a lot of dudes my age who've been married twice We still tried to do it like I was always wondering about that like as far as like the divorce game It just seemed like the 90s had The the most vindictive The you know i'm saying like that was the height of the that was the kickoff of the divorce game The alimony game the runner man through the uh the ringer game right that's when it was My mother my mother's generation. I was my mother wasn't married to my father but that generation They would never they would not take me into uh, I asked my mom. Why didn't you take my dad to get child support? She's like I got too much pride.  We could have dealt with that extra, you know I could have used that money But I didn't understand what she was saying my mother and her aunts my mother and her two sisters who was Sat around and say I feel sorry for y'all with the kind of women. You know, they are not like us because when black women at this time realized That there was more power to be had away from black men They start going in droves. So It's seven almost 80 of divorces are filed by women black women black men aren't the ones leaving So that's why you see black men who a generation X have been married once been married twice somebody married three times It's not the men who are divorcing. It's the women and here's why they're divorcing They're always they were always trying to find the bigger better deal Thinking if I got him over here. Well, you know, this dude has an MBA But it didn't work So you asked that you see that they were going to fail no because they weren't Leaving the man or their husband and going to get another husband They they tied all that stuff up in their job and here's what's happened job I need people to understand this Black women always talk about they putting in career 80% of women do not have careers. They got jobs. You're not an executive You're not a vice president. You're not a director regional manager You have a the largest employers of black women to the federal government and retail You're an office manager.  You got a job not a career with a pad So they were getting paid a lot of money for jobs and they didn't feel like they needed a man So this is so when you don't need us They the dating scene started to turn It started being from you could go ask a woman to dance She'd be like cool to start to turn their nose up to where, you know, when I was in college women didn't dance in groups But 10 years later, they started dancing in groups to crazy ass songs.  I was like, well, you bitches Well, well, yeah, what was all this compliance and stuff when when it was time for that? See, I think black women really believed That they would really be all right.     You just out of pocket and you were expected to just all right.   Brenda had to be able to go back until somebody. Yeah, me and jot went to uh Uh tavern on the green and caught uh cats. What y'all do? Oh, y'all just what y'all do y'all just went to eat. Yeah So that's how they kept score. It wasn't with bags and purses.  They're like, I don't want to do that shit So if sister wanted to go over there so she could have something to talk with About to her friends at work and she ain't dealing with you.     Okay. Let's say the invokes to The adena how would loop in the era because this is this is still in the 90s, but Invokes Cynthia.  I told motherfuckers.  But then forces of stuff start happening. So you back out there, right? So around 2001 to 2003 when I'm back out out there ripping and running uh, I wasn't into women that are younger than me and They ain't requiring none of this whining and dining in the restaurants. They're just like, oh Let's just go get it in It was a twist because I'll tell you there were brothers. We'd sit around talking. I was like You ain't gonna take her out. No, no, man. She just want to go back. We're like, this is confusing, dude They were wanting to get right to it. It was like We hit no something for brothers like you coming from your age A lot of guys didn't make the adjustment and was over dating these Trying to try to cupcake whining and dining trying to foreplay nigga. What no You would hear women talking.   All right.   Yeah, see like I'm thinking about like, um Like like, uh, dina howard the luke era uh bike fest freak nick You know I'm saying like I know a lot of that a lot of the freaky assholes was like the frat the frats like, uh Freak nick even changed freak nick when I was on the yard It was the cap of beach party That women weren't getting naked That what that shit wasn't happening that didn't happen to the late the late mid to late 90s to where what started happening then you start having uh The street the the the D boys and the dudes from the hood start coming to the yard To try to highlight the college women and they started allowing all the parties to be open So used to be on the college campus.   They weren't going back to the yard So They was so the 90s they had a period of time where these women were really really up You know I'm saying Because he's still with the church Nigger you still went to church because let me explain when you I said we partied Wednesday through Saturday, right?  They just they devolved man man Now as far as like the gold digging When did you start to kind of see like, okay? um Because I know that that's that wasn't like big in the 80s like that because niggas wouldn't They didn't have gold to dig. Yeah. They didn't really have yeah Niggas wasn't really getting that paper like that but that 90s That's when niggas when niggas whether he was at the factory jobs or you know, you was a singer or whatever like that Like Okay, this is when the line started.   I had dudes asking to borrow uh you know Borrow your uh your work batch So they could buzz into the buildings uh Because back in the day they didn't have your pictures on them.     They they they never got married They got a lot of kids, but they never got married.  So you take all them apex predators out, right?  They fly They ain't flying now.   Well, this was when uh Magic Johnson had to uh About about eggs How do you feel being actually on the scene like How do you feel about safe sex and how was it promoted like Like like asking to get wrong or was the niggas going wrong?  That was no condoms. The first time you couldn't even buy condoms They weren't widely available. I remember going to the Eckerds, which is not Okay, hold on. Condoms were not available. They weren't widely available. No. So like when I went to Eckerd, which is now CVS I'm in My freshman year of college You there was no birth control aisle, right? They were still trying to legislate morality this time. You know what the condoms were? Back in the pharmacy. You had to go ask the pharmacists for the condoms So you already know that I do remember that So they will get on the loudspeaker. We need it.  Yeah Jap is he I saw Jap it at CVS and he was getting some condoms Cora.   See when matic johnson hit it was 91 So I was around I was around about 24 25 That's when everybody really started getting tested And the first time I got tested All the dead bodies I hit I was like this and when it came back clear that was the time I became a every time every time Uh and more condoms we start becoming available.     You know, I'm saying we're not walking back in it Okay, so from it's just how they was that in when they when them two different those different eras talk It's like a foreign language like dog. Do you know you can get cancer from walking into that? But understand from dude. Yeah these dudes came these except my These guys my father has 13 children We come from Our mothers didn't put our fathers on child support.  Okay, there was no No Herpes really wasn't even a big thing. It was it was kind of the thing, but it wasn't a thing. So It was a joke to a lot of dudes. Uh, you got you got you what it's called.   I'm allergic to latex because a lot of Are coming on to the market. Oh, it's these things aren't pre lubricated I can't use this one. I can't use that one So dudes are still like well all my life women have been on birth control But see women start playing a different game in the 90s. They start playing If I can get this nigga to go raw up in me. I'm not married. I don't have really anybody suiting me I'll got baby fever kicks in and then child support kicks in This was new job No generation that had This happened the women imagine if my Wendy's was the child support era. Yeah, because think about it. My father has 13 kids by five different women He didn't pay child support for any of us Why do you think dudes had all these women women didn't put kids on child support?  I had cancer right my mother worked for firestone good union job My chemotherapy treatment was almost $400,000. My family paid $16,000 out of pocket because of that good insurance So dudes at back that time figured even if I do have a kid You got benefits But then these jobs start to lose And here's the funny thing black women knew that all this stuff was happening But at this time they became all about self Men were still in the community Black women were really it became Supremely selfish right then that's when the child support things start happening Running through dudes through the ringers and dudes is trying to play catch up I mean, why don't you tell your kid? Hey, I want to talk to the church. We got kevin samuels in the building You know, I'm saying we talking about that 90s scene an authentic nigga who's been on the 90s scene Did it lived it survived it?  All right get back to this shit kev so you got dudes like Sean kim who was in the lead And he was having babies everywhere and when when it started getting around That women were starting to put men on child support uh Dudes was around in the mid 20s early 30s.  But see when I was around at age, I was dealing with younger women I weren't dealing with generation x when I was I mean women around my age So if you aren't going to get caught up with a young woman It was 10 you're going to get caught up with a woman after 27 before 35 Because that's when you see a lot of sisters back then having babies Because the that's all they could do they weren't going to get a husband It was it was a it was a different deal now How was it how was the experience?  You're broke all it's like how was it?  I don't want to know it. Yeah, uh oprah all of these shows Was frying niggas. Mm-hmm. You know I'm saying like how was the experience like actually walking up to a black woman at that time? You don't say how was the approach If you approach the black one by herself It's one thing you got it was it was still pretty normal But you when you start approaching in groups, that's when the nuclear rejection started Because they started getting off on the insults and brothers because they were our image was being destroyed Our image was being destroyed everywhere we turned so when I would go to work if Oftentimes my non-black co-workers would ask me questions and I felt and I'm like the the representative for all black people I had to represent all black men That's a hell of a burden to carry and it's like you didn't get any support from black women in the office because You were being torn down and they could shine better. So let's say you walk up to a sister uh, who's Well, I don't know. She's just she just came out of uh Out of the mall You could still chop it up and talk to her because they were still used to men talking But when you go to the club, which is where we used to interact with each other The music and also the music became more aggressive See we went from new jack swing And you know kid and play, you know, we were happy We went from net to y'all niggas ain't ready.  Give me a second.      I am king capa kevin. Bitch. Do you not know? No, they didn't I'm in houston. I don't have that rep down here And and and and and new turn to me said No, no frat That she don't work down here. They didn't know how you do it Now he plays the year after I did and he's put me up on I'm like, what are you talking about? He's like, I know man. They how you do it.  Now remember this motherfucker.  Hey brother. What's up?  What's up fool? Let me ask you this The 90s was this when cat calling started?  That's what they used to call it.   You ever watch anthony m anthony adams anthony and He's a brother No, no, he's a brother spice adams Spice adams. He's a brother who used to play football. He's got a youtube channel. He's always you love him.   Oh, yeah, nigga.  So what do you want to have? And then nigga, I don't know you going to you interview dude Okay, well, uh, I I went to war Uh, I graduated this and I'm in three years. I like to be fast-tracked a partner partner Bitches who had ovulation scare I'm not joking This is what because this is when black women were in corporate america And they got they got introduced into how to do business and they did and but instead of going to start our own businesses working together Their business became black men But black men in large weren't working in corporate america.   They always held back It was Too late Well, you would also have women that would not want to have orgasm Because they wouldn't want to lose control Black women got a lot of black women got swole on that power. That's why you started seeing brothers Like myself start leaving those kind of women and this one next to you not dealing with us You started to deal with kisha from the block. Well cause kisha can keep her head down and be cool. Bitch.    Well, I think a couple I think as many things happen one when Affirmative action really hit and companies realized that black women counted twice so I went to college in eight fall 87 That was the that was the fall 87 was the black Monday when the stark market crashed So the cover the business started changing Reaganomics was hitting full stride arms is leaving so brothers Either you went to the get a job military or college.  So you're not on the table if you're in jail. You're not on the table. So if you're still here It's more likely that the women had more than you But but black but what happened Was black men took that L and got our got our ass kicked But we went and did what black women didn't do we started working It started getting our stuff together and now you see brothers are rising We start teaching young guys.  Don't be going around Yeah That's the advice we need to really get our older brothers and start knowing telling your brothers what not to do They telling the just did someone instagram. Yeah. Yeah. I'm definitely gonna speak about that I was that was that was like the best that was some of the best advice I heard from older brother in a while He's been through it. Was he in the 90s? Uh, and we yeah, well, he's late.  You don't want to go down this path That's number one. Number two Dating out When you talk about interracial dating used to be black man black and white woman That's what everybody out of mac do you think but no now it's big now. It's latinas Yeah, span it. I mean latinas agents Uh Now this is what I did want to actually in the 90s, right?    Let me tell you I was I was sick, right?   Yeah brought groceries cleaned my house Woman clean. I mean with the gloves and all pines all fresh. Mama would have been proud Made me homemade chicken noodle soup while cleaning the house now. I'm laying in bed eating the pizza.  I didn't understand I did not understand. I went back to a frat meeting after I got better. I was like I got a talk. I'm like what happened. I was like They're like, yeah white women are nice like that.   We were just dating so Brothers who did crossover had to deal with that cultural experience. It was a shock There were not as many Hispanics in my part of the country. You in chicago and oklahoma They wanted in the middle in the midwest. It was very homogeneous.   Diminish their beauty into like this transsexualized energy that's coming now Dude that that that was That really man. That's been in the last 15 years man that it came right after At the beginning when women probably start we can't really sexually liberated and talking about sex Adina Howard, I need to freak in the morning freaking evening.  What do you think they were learning issues from?  Yeah, I want to ask you like Okay Are you seeing bitches that when you were in the 90s seeing she was classy? Yes, not that she's 40 She's a ratchet like Why are you 45 years old?     You know had to come and finesse. You know, I'm saying it It wasn't so it wasn't so acceptable. First off. She's lost a lot The women who do this are not married They're not married. They may have children, but they are not married They've lost a lot They have looked at life at 40 years old with children and they're looking like their counterparts You're not no one expected to get to be 40 or 40 plus single Jack that's just not what our world was. We saw people married We saw the neighborhoods so they're disappointed They had all these opportunities all these jobs all this stuff and this is what it nets I got I got a son.  I just got a job I I passed over all these decent dudes and this is as good as it's gonna get. They're angry And then so what do they have left?   You didn't grow up that way You were not that way as a young woman In college you weren't like that. You couldn't get away with that on college. Well At that time you couldn't get away with that on college games. You couldn't go to class talking like that now we watching uh waiting to exhale and uh What is her goddamn name? Uh The chick the chick that plays sunshine and uh Okay little shine refined as motherfucker probably She goes down in the history books for beautiful She was was but now um in the 90s Were the women that looked that good that promiscuous Uh And were they able to hide it?   Um A lot of these women still wanted to they didn't they wanted to have a Long-term relationship. They weren't trying to Uh serially date It's like lila rashaan lila rashaan You know people wanted to be like her but you gotta but she I think she has when she had grave disease or something like that Something she got really big She got really big and a lot here's a problem a lot of the women back then Waited too long stayed in the game too long overplayed their hand And life caught up with them So now let me tell you something that happens I know so many women job who around 25 years old Got that kid we talked about earlier, right?  Yeah, all right Then here's something another phenomenon start happening when that kid and I know the the name you're gonna say You don't want to say it when that first kid they had Turn 18 All of a sudden they go out and get pregnant again in their 40s mm-hmm Why because they know they they that that one kid was their their their family They had another why you got a 40 year old 40-plus year woman having another baby And you didn't already done it once because they know they're they're not going to get a husband There's a book called promises I can keep why Why someone when women choose to have children over marriage See a woman knows when she has a kid that's going to be unconditional love and all this other kind of With a man you're going to have to do something So when you started seeing women in their late 30s and 40s Having kids Uh, here's another thing to start happening for the women who didn't have children in that uh window They started you coming to brothers like myself asking them to make baby packs What's that? Uh, hey Kevin We went to college together. I always thought you were a good dude. You know what? Um, thank god, I want to have a kid. Tell you what You will do it. Can you donate your sperm? Here's the paperwork you can sign off on that You have no legal responsibility at all. I just need a donation Now we can do it the old-fashioned way. We can go to the clinic.  What was it a big drug scene like that as far as like abusers?    It wasn't a lot of that going on with the women How do you feel? How do you feel about the women of the 90s? Do you feel that the women of the 90s look better than the women of today? Yeah, they did And a big part of it was because when we came up you still had pe physical education school Grew up and we had a recess.  We cooked more Um, so what I'm coming to see is that y'all actually had some women that were worthy of rawin Video in your chat room that one I'm like now dog tisha Campbell Yes, you yes, bro. We you have we had women that you'd be like All right, she get pregnant. I'm good with it.  I mean Yeah, like, uh, I'm just thinking about like, uh, Vanessa Williams Uh, and the pussy was better It was good, man. It was better. It was better because of the hair It was better because uh, here's how I think it was better the hair Uh I think it's also better because The baby oil and the cocoa butter they took women took care of themselves back The skin was clear.  They didn't have see today Sisters they were all as if they were a lot of makeup if they were and the Tattoos out of shape colored hair.     It wasn't just darkest.       So yeah, this is how you would do it.  Let's just say she's one of them sex and as well sex in the city Shit, that's when it's kind of start changing. Well, let's do that. Uh back in the love jones day She's drinking the cosmopolitan All right, the cosmopolitan man, this is in the this is back in 96 to like Uh 99 that's in that fluted glass.  You gotta stay still or a glass of wine You gotta stay still So the the the general rule was a drink For seven to 10 minutes of conversation She would talk to you while she's finishing her drink.  This was that get your number error. Yes.   I was You in this back in the days. We had jazz. We had smooth jazz clubs.  So if you want to highlight a woman She's more likely just to ghost you. I got to go to the restroom. She just goes to another room Because it was there was no upside to embarrassing you and stuff to like that Because the parties were too big um now if you were at a at a hip-hop club like At club blue And everybody's coming in there with you know, george and a fitted And and and a jersey smoking black and miles.    So let's say like, uh, I uh, how many people I I led a wild life. So Women I've made it used to Be bi-curious. So oftentimes let's say let's say I'm dating Sonia Sonia will get approached by a woman Uh, and she's wanting to give them and she's just say honey. Can I take her home? Sure and we would all get down together um The thing is if you're dating a really pretty woman Of a let's say she's a Chicago eight and a half or nine. Yeah But she's gonna get hollered by everybody and beautiful and and beautiful women just like women back. They've always liked women The thing is would you be cool with?  That's the difference There was no, uh, there weren't as many, you know, women couples running around.  So You know Black women if you point something at them, they're gonna always say well, what about the men?       I didn't see niggas try to call pimps. Yeah, I'm like come on man.  They just think You know, it's different types of dudes, you know, I'm saying Can't be smooth and handle your business. See if you smooth handle your business Um, you because that's not the norm for black men.   My uncle was a mac. I learned from pimps How do you I got my my from the church and from the pimps and max my uncle was mac of the year 1975 for the tree bus club nigga.  I'm like go back and look at don magic one video Right here on all the pimps man. They carry the bag.  I'm like, yeah, you realize some of the best black men that ever did it This is how they dress three four weeks ago. Dr. J turned 70 He had his 70th birthday party here in the restaurant.  See a lot of brothers that we've we've allowed black men have allowed people to take our smooth shit away from us And that's not and doesn't help us. Yes help us like It goes kind of back to taking the 90s tactics like a nigga like Marcus Going around these wolves these untamed Animals, you know I'm saying like it's gonna look like man.  What's with this nigga?  You know I'm saying like I remember we me and my guys We went down to Atlanta and we was the only niggas with fades. Like this was the the uh, the uh, the gold teeth Uh, dreadlocks big beer white tea A-town stomp little happy era around that time. We all went down there And the bitches was looking at us like is y'all what is y'all gay or something?   You know, I'm saying happen to me too You know, I'm saying we was clean cut. We look like rmb group.  It happens in cycles of black men like that. Yeah It doesn't help us all You couldn't be smooth amongst like and then that's when the women say I want to rough. I want rough Gotta get a rough thing. I want a motherfucking dog. I want a I want a soldier. See like that's the equivalent to That's the that's this generation's uh, uh, I need a rough neck.    They were raised by more masculine more men My generation was raised by absentee fathers so We would more likely take cues from females The generation because you were raised with women So when the women start talking about Mary J. Blimes came out doing this shit Dude's like, well, this must be what the women want. So Dude start trying to be there instead of just being on that cool. Shit.  Yeah, uh, bump to the bump so Uh, yeah, I mean the 90s was the 90s the funny thing about the 90s man is It was a good time, but it's it's sad to look back at uh How the women fell off man See I was clowning the women like, you know Like, yeah, you know, because like, okay, uh, if you watch, uh Uh, uh, what was the movie?  That was fine In the jungle fever the white the light skin chicken there Lonette Lonette McKee she was my mother's generation. She's a 70s woman She she was old for that time, but the women in there were in my generation But they were still around 23 to 24. They were starting They were just getting in the corporate America And they were looking for black men to be there with them and we didn't have those jobs They did that's when they started down and brothers So they didn't want to they didn't want to marry a dude that worked at mother fucking Please you work for ups because brothers couldn't get those jobs So they were mad at black men because black men could not get where they were And it's not as though we didn't want it and if a brother did get there, let me tell you something else Let me tell you about the playing side If like myself if you could get the nigga the world was your oyster In the 90s man, please it was like shooting fish in the barrel because the the College women wanted you the middle class one wanted the women from the hood Wanted you this is when dudes started running, but the problem is those dudes How you address women?    I'm looking for a good time.   I don't want that. I don't want no part to that I want to enjoy our time together. I want to if we go to root chris I love beautiful women sitting across me eating dinner. I love the norm of tell your ass up when I leave When you with me you get all the benefits of being in a relationship except the title and I'm in my player phase and women It's been my experience when you tell a woman upfront what it is They're more willing to be down with you and there's no I didn't I've never had tire slash Cars key to whatever because I always gave the woman the option.  Was it appreciated? Uh Not to the level that we thought Not to the level we thought we we thought it would have been appreciated more But it was it was damn near expected They expected it because they most black women felt like they were better than black men. Anyway, so You're really buying her time That's why they're so selfish the average generation X black woman. It's extremely selfish and jaded they really believe that it face You spend you spend 95 percent of the money they think if they bought Burger King, they're doing something You're asking what they bring to the table. They keep score. They keep score Oh, they keep score and they really think that just by showing up and giving you some used vagina That we're equal. Bitch.   You got a $600 car note and you 20 what thousand dollars in debt at 24 Why I like to shop Okay Here's the other side of it Let's say you wanted to accept all that Women of my generation could not cook We were the generation we were Men in my generation are better cooks than the women Because our mothers taught us how to cook they didn't teach their daughters. Hey, I'm gonna be honest with you now.   I could Good food.  You ever have a macaroni and cheese soup No, you know you make macaroni and cheese soup. Oh my god. Don't tell me it's the uh It's the microwave mic uh macaroni and cheese in the cup and she put too much water in it. No nigga. She she it's that recipe Except it's not microwave. It's in the box But in the box it says boiled noodles, right?  When i'm sitting in my girl's when i'm sitting there at my girl's house eating and She makes me a sandwich and I bit it in the ooze mustard my scalp started tingling her mother sat there and was like She went to the bathroom. So let me take that she knew This was Cosby people They that woman never taught her daughter how to cook a goddamn thing women in my women in my generation Cook I would the I would the cooking school for three years just After work Men in my generation had to learn how to do all this stuff. So here's what we thought we thought And we were different than our dad We would get different treatment.  Look at all these black men with all these kids And even if my mother never said anything about my father. He got 13 kids or that We never I never got his side of the story.  They didn't we would have been jealous of you We knew that was something wrong. So all the boys tried to learn how to compensate I'm gonna be better than my dad. I'm gonna go to school. I'm gonna take care of my mama I'm gonna learn how to do this. I'm gonna treat women this way.  We had to get it And here's one thing I will say about our generation.    There's no meals They've had that this generation has never had to lose anything.  We see three generations of women and no men Women don't live alone. That's why they allow their children to live But here's the thing job. You say these women are bums today, right?   You know I'm saying and Did they have real stand you had to make you had to make an uh, I'll put it this way If you were not Shout out to Alan Roger career if you were not up front and direct I didn't know it as more one, but if you weren't that way you had to make a show of doing it And here's the difference. Here's what I mean I knew That I really didn't have to do that stuff.   Yeah girl. I gave up the panties. Mm-hmm. Yeah, but He's the kind of man. He I knew he was going to do these things anyway They had to keep up a facade now. It's not required in the hookup culture today.  We had projects Kanye West Family was in Northame projects. Shout out to Kanye carbideo projects. Yeah, Kanye ain't from Chicago He's from Oklahoma City It's people from home city. His mama went to Douglas with uh my honor Is my yeah my second uh Yeah, you had to meet In my neighborhood you did But I grew Well, let me let me take this back not widespread idea, but was it widespread? Not as much as it was in the previous generation But there was an expectation that you had to meet the family if not the father There was no driving up to the house blowing the horn Even if she was raised by her mother you still had to go up to the house And knock on the door because there were older people that still lived in the neighborhood So I think we underestimate how much when the silent generation died my grandparents generation the last people that watched everything And watch your house while you gone a chap uh while you was gone.  It was a it was a real good era. It had Good parts a lot of bad parts.   Here's the thing They tried to make it seem like all black men were doing that 51% of black men don't have children 100% of the women who had kids were having kids were roughly 10 to 20% of the men That's why you got dirty dick Rodney with five kids and in this dude over here with no kids So it's not as though brothers did not try we were there We we were there in the 90s wanting to marry Mm-hmm didn't want to marry they didn't they didn't want to be wives okay so Going back to the title of the show. Where are they now?  From that era Or are you seeing more of the brinders that the big booty brinders as big as hell as big as a house now fucked up like Who who who came out on top from that from that era the men of the women Uh black men have come out on top and I'll tell you why The black men who survived have come into their own Before this show I went back and looked at all the women who I who were my girlfriends All of my girlfriends there were seven of them seven One is Mary The other six Are single and they're all attractive all college educated um now Of the seven that are married four Uh of the of the of the seven and one is currently married five of them have been married But they got divorced early on and never remarried. See black men Will marry and remarry and here's the thing. Here's why we're winning job I'll tell you right now if I decide I wanted to get married. I could be married in a year Standing stop right now.  You're still out here. You got your money, right? You're in decent shape uh We're commodities And and the and the and we're not just commodities for black women other non-black women are Coming for black men in droves and sisters Don't really see this I say 30 percent of college educated black men are marrying out 836,000 more black men are married than black women and there's two million more of them What do non-black women see in black men that black women can't see? Because they don't brothers aren't having a problem out here finding women finding Finding people to be in a relationship to marry what you're having a problem with is finding a black woman To stay in a relationship because eight out of ten times when their black relationship breaks up It is the black woman that's leaving So like the women who come from that scene you're saying they're losing and and how many I mean Is it just because the looks? of are they They added to I mean because you seem like a really happy y'all right now.  It's the attitude It's the attitude more than anything else As a man who's been divorced and we should sit on divorce care seminars The first thing most black men say is if I ever do this again, I just want to deal with a woman who's nice There is no way that 40 plus 50 year old black men Should have to skip our women of our generation and go to millennials Or late zennials for dating, but we know That the women of our generation By choice their attitudes are horrible as the typical generation next black woman About her problems.    Did you all of a sudden did you wonder why they came out nowhere?    He think y'all that he a little mean This issue about me your light skin as it you don't want me. So why are you worried about this shit? You know what I'm saying? But the truth is they are mad like because we're not in like when we look at the swirl movement Yeah, my skin are laughing at it.  You know what I'm saying?   What do non-black women see in black men that black women don't see number one number two If y'all when black women marry out, we don't care But they care if we marry out But here's the thing you don't want the men who are marrying out. You say you don't care about them But yet you'll tear them down. Here's what they really care about.  Don't bring it down like that.  But here's the difference job And my generation women that say that she they sing with mothers. Yes. I raggedy niggas But here's the thing in my generation Interracial dating was really taboo.   You know what I'm saying? Now that that's that's all in itself. But this is About this is what I respect about With black men getting white women as opposed to Black women getting white men When a when a black woman gets a white man She totally changes Better she actually talks better. She's more ladylike.  She's not with him. She's sort of polar opposite. She's doing everything You know I'm saying She changed her ways. You know what I'm saying? She's not even being in trooper league.  But she's dealing cars.   They had more education more opportunity. They had more than anybody any black person in this country And look and here's the thing and what did they do with it? Where are they at?  He bought like 65 70 these niggas these smiling. I mean, I'm seeing Oh, we survived. I didn't even know you had teeth. I didn't even know you could show the back of your teeth These motherfuckers these motherfuckers smiling and happy and say hey Jack, what are we drinking baby? They're happy. They're happy. You know what I'm saying?  She ain't she ain't terrible. And here's the funny thing. Could you imagine what those men could have done? If they had been given the opportunity that black women would get Look at what they made out of what they got it out of the mud they So if and here's the thing if black men could be happy, why can't black women? And in the ultimate question the ultimate answer is it's always be the black man's fault It's always our fault So if it's always our fault, what are you going to do?  Why do you talk like this? You're educated.  You don't have to do that. I'm like, uh You're destroying the image of black men.   I mean, you know I think the whole dusty thing.  Zaza Ali. See, I don't this is so crazy, man Kev, I want my enemies from youtube To stop looking like Deborah Cooper's. Yeah Stop looking like saw some rays.  We had that.  I appreciate you bringing your people over here, man For sure definitely top it up. We got to do it again part two Wrapping this up man.   I think the thing is We we were working with every generation deals with the best information they got at their time We honestly did not know here's the problem our fathers If we had actually been able to talk to our fathers We would have been a more like than we did learn. Okay, because I was taught to think my dad got 13 kids That's that's a bad man. You don't do all that.  He's always I was like my dad It's kind of red pill I was like, you know what I've said, I would have been a I would have been a more solid dude Earlier in life if I'd have actually been up under you versus away from you That's the problem. We were taken away from men So yeah, we played it wrong.  Nika, but you ain't gonna come up last when sweeten If you can still place So that's why we're generation x they didn't know what was gonna happen jab. We ain't supposed to be here Crack was supposed to take us out and it cracked it. We had crack Reaganomics and hiv Bro, that's three major plagues the generation and that's crazy and out of all that the black man Is happier He's looking better He's looking younger than all of the bitches coming from there Like I I I cannot stand these bitches from the night We're gonna continue to cook a man. I care man. I appreciate you, bro We're gonna talk more later, man. But definitely man. Thanks. All right church, bro. Later church. Peace out. Peace Man, y'all that was kevin samuels. You know, I'm saying uh, man Old school game smooth player, man These young niggas don't know about smooth players, man.  We definitely appreciate y'all. Um, we're gonna get into Just waiting to exhale. Shit um man, oh man I might have to get the energy drink, man. I I'm getting a little sleepy, man But we're gonna be back y'all. I appreciate y'all


Hello, and welcome to this episode of Psychic Medium Tony G, where I incorporate many different venues to bring you the greatest show possible. We're using BlogTalk radio, along with WSES, Breaker, iTunes, iHeart, you name it, Google, we're there trying to bring you the absolute best show we can. So today I'll be taking callers, answering their questions, and helping them to understand the path that they're on, answering questions about career, life, love, finances, whatever it is that they call about. If you are a caller, and I call out your area code, please let me know your first name, where you're calling from, and then your question, and if you wanna make a connection to a loved one on the other side, the person that you would like to make that connection to, one question or one connection, please, because the phone lines are full, and I wanna make sure that I have the opportunity to get to as many people as possible today. So we're gonna get started right away with the first caller, I'm so excited about this. We're gonna go to caller 202. I think we are, hold on, there we go. Hello 202, how are you today? Hi, thank you for taking my calls. Absolutely my pleasure. What's your name, where are you calling from? My name is Kay, and I'm calling from Brooklyn, New York. Nice, hello, New York. So how can I help you today, Kay? I was calling for you to read into, I had an ex come back, but not quite fully, so I wanna see what you pick up on that, or future husband. Yeah, you know what, I'm, I know that it's always nice, and it's very comfortable to have an ex come back sometimes, but I instantly hear this song from Frozen, and I wanna apologize to everybody because I think we just got this song out of our head, let it go, let it go. This is gonna end the same way it did before. There's gonna be a little bit of tragedy and drama involved in this.  He's not all in, whatever he was in didn't quite work out, so he's doing that fallback thing, like, oh, this didn't work out, so now I'm gonna fall back on what I know, where I felt good, get myself back together, feeling good again, and then, and then I'll, you know, when I feel good again, and I'm a peacock, and my feathers are all spread, then I can, you know, have my confidence and do what I'm gonna do again. I wanna tell you right now, like I said, you have the choice to take this as far and as long as you want, but there is something much, much better for you. As a matter of fact, the second week or the third week of August, which we, I believe are in the second week, nearing the end of the second week, you are gonna have the potential to meet three new people. So over the next week, week and a half, and then over the next month, you have the possibility, the potential, to meet three new really good suitors. You meet them spontaneously, you meet them out in public, and you have the potential to make one of them, and I feel like it's the third one, a very long-lasting relationship.  I love this song by Halsey, it says, I keep a record of the wreckage of my past, and what I like to say is that is wreckage from my past that I am so letting go of, because who wants wreckage, right? History repeats itself, so let's not let this history repeat itself, let's move on as strong and powerful way knowing you're the blessed, beautiful being that you are, and let's get into that space where you are open to brand new, brilliant, beautiful opportunities with people who are on your level, people who are looking for what you're looking for, new starts can always be invigorating and beautiful, and bring a lot of new experiences with them. Your angels are asking you to definitely release what didn't work and move forward into the unknown, if you will, does that make sense to you? Absolutely, and I know that it's comfortable, but let's be uncomfortable to get into something good, right? Let's get out there, let's tear down our fears, or let's go past our fears and get into something new. Now, him coming back, that should give you the confidence in knowing that, yeah, I was good, but I also am better than this, okay? Does that make sense to you? It does, it was just like, I ran into not a nowhere, we broke up 10 years ago, and it was sort of like, he professed all of these things, and, yeah, so it was just like, whoa, and I guess it is, it's that comfort of the magic that I used to know. Yeah, yeah, it can never be new again, and before you know it, the issue will start coming out, and that's not what we want. It's always nice to try something new, okay? Yes ma'am, thank you so much. You are so welcome, you have an amazing rest of the week. If I can listen? Oh, I'm sorry, I actually, I'm gonna come back to you, I'm sorry, what were you saying, if I can listen? Oh, if I can listen to the show on the phone, I'm not sure if I can hold on and listen to it. Oh yeah, I'm not gonna disconnect you, you can listen to the rest of the show, and thank you for asking that, absolutely, okay? No, thank you for coming back to Sweden. Oh yeah, of course, I'm sorry, I was gonna go to the next caller so soon, thank you. Okay, now I'm gonna go to six, seven, six, six, six, seven, eight, hello, six, seven, eight, how are you? Hello, how are you? Yeah, ma'am, you're the mantis. Oh, hi, how are you today? How are you doing? Excellent, how can I help you today? Well, I've got a lot of things going on around me, I've just tried to get things, a lot of the cooperation of getting sidetracked by other people. And I'm just wanting to know if everything's gonna come to an end here soon and so I can get on with my life. Okay, so what I'm getting here is, that's your choice, like you have to make you a priority and you're kind of, I don't really know completely how to say this, but you're using this as an avoidance technique and it's time to get back into your life, let go of the drama, and move forward in a very passionate way about yourself and your life. It's nice to be distracted or feel like you're helping other people, but it's better to be all in on you and working toward your goals. Does that make sense to you? In such a way that my take all the money and leave them with nothing. Okay, so now that's a completely different question.  There are some things we have control of and some things we don't. People are who they are. Leave this between the two brothers and take yourself out of it, okay? Don't end up being the bad guy. These two brothers have dealt with each other their whole lives, put it in their lap, let them take care of it and don't get passionately involved in this. It will not turn out well in the end for you if you do. And if you choose to get passionately involved in it, try to take that medium ground without stating too many judgments about it. That's the best thing, the best advice that I can give to you. I hope you have an absolutely amazing week and I hope that this information helped you greatly and I'm gonna go directly to the next caller, 773. Hello, 773, how are you today? Is there any messages or anything? Okay, you need to be a little bit more direct than that, I don't have 20 minutes to, not that it would take me 20 minutes to get into your energy. Give me a person you want a message from because there are a lot of people waiting and when I'm on the phone doing this, I need a direct person, first name in the relationship please. Charles Gabb. Okay. He has this larger-than-life personality and fancied himself to be a little bit funny. He could do those one-offs, such a huge character. Is that him? Yes. Okay, so the first thing he says is, he starts it with ah, he starts his sentence with ah, I love you, ah, but you already know that and then he wants you to know that he's with you all the time. Stop thinking that you're so alone and that he is gone. That's the biggest message.  Don't dismiss me so easily. I'm with you all the time. Huh? Yeah. And then he wants to also tell you that he's going to be bringing you a gift. He's bringing you a gift, a monetary gift. Sometimes it's monetary, sometimes it's something else. He's going to be bringing you a monetary gift and then he says the word small, small, small. He wants you to know it's just a token of appreciation. It's not going to set you up for life, but it'll be a little bit of extra change in your pocket as he would like to say.  There are no coincidences. Everything you're seeing and getting are right on track. Don't doubt for a minute. Start paying better attention to those things and allow yourself to be in that space where you're all in on knowing he's riding in your passenger seat car. That's a different message. Those are two. Be all in on knowing and he rides on the passenger seat of your car. Okay, those are two different messages. He's over talking himself. Which I love that. I hope this is helpful for you. Oh, I appreciate it. Yes, thank you. Absolutely. And thank you so much for asking for a connection. I love making connections on the show. Love it. Thank you so much. Thank you. Okay. Okay. Thank you. You're welcome. And I'm going to go directly to the next caller. And the next caller is 860. Hello, 860. How are you today? Hi. This is Susan. Hi, Susan. Where are you calling from? Can you get... Can I get... Hey, Susan. I'm kind of going through a very difficult time right now because there's been some accusations made against me and it's become legal during my job. So I'm wondering if these people will get away with what they're doing. No. No. Nobody... Here's the message I'm getting. Nobody is going to get away with what they're doing. Nobody involved is going to get away with what they're doing. This is very stressful for you. You're having a lot of complications. Things got out of control. You feel like there's a conspiracy going on. We're going to clear all of this and I'm going to clear the complications or not me, but the angels are. I want to tell you, you're going to have some difficulties over the next month, month and a half, but after that, everything should calm down and subside. You should start looking for another position, someplace where perhaps things are not so... difficult for you. Okay? Find a place where things are a little bit better. Start over fresh. Let go of the past and move into a better environment. Okay? It seems as though this environment that you're in tends to have a lot of what they're calling cattiness or high school mentality. It's time for you to be in a more mature, more sophisticated environment and when you get there, it's a fresh start for you also and do things differently. Okay? That sounds beautiful. Does that? And I feel like if you start looking now, within two weeks, you're going to have some really good potential new opportunity employment. Okay? I don't think that's determined and I'm going to, tomorrow we'll, you know, represent her. I will represent her. Yes, but there's going to be, there's going to be like a little what they're calling a stick in it. I don't, like it's going to be stuck for a moment. You're not going to be able to completely move forward as quickly as you would like to with this. Okay. This is, I feel like- It's okay. It's okay. Because I'm being paid as a amount. I might be at least now. Okay. So I'm not in any rush? But I still feel like you need to, to start actively pursuing a new position. And I feel like you need- Okay. Otherwise you'll have consequences if you don't look right away. It's something, something's going to happen. I'm not sure what, but all of a sudden everything will cut and you'll go, oh wait, I didn't, I didn't expect that. So you need to be actively looking and whatever comes along, that's very good for you. You need to take it. Don't think, oh, I'm, I'm on paid leave. This is vacay time. That is not, that will smack you in the, that will smack you in the behind. Like you cannot even imagine. You need to actively be looking for something new and you need to be very diligent, diligent about it. And you cannot tell anybody you're pursuing a new opportunity. Keep that information to yourself, even the attorney that you're going to be working with. And absolutely when something good is offered to you, take it. Don't hesitate. It's time for you to move forward. You know, our angels give us many opportunities to move forward. And what you're in right now is like, what I like to call by choice or by force. So we have a choice to move when things are not working out. And if we do not, they will force us out of a situation that is not healthy for us, that is not helping us grow in love and light. If we don't move forward, they will push us as hard as they can. Right now, sweetie, you are being pushed. You are being pushed into a better situation. There is just, there is no rejection. There is just protection. And you are being moved into a better place for you. Okay? The most that I was going to retire in three years. And now I won't get the retirement from this place. Well, sometimes there's a better plan and you have to, you have to cut your losses and move into the light. Okay? I'm sorry that this isn't exactly what you want to know, but it's exactly what you need to know. Okay? No, it's actually very, it's a quick list. Thank you. You're so welcome. You are so welcome. Have an amazing rest of the week and good luck with what you're going through. Okay? Thank you very much. You're so welcome. I'm going to go to the very next caller who is again another six, seven, eight area code. Hello, how are you today? Hello, I'm fine. Hello, I'm fine. So when I call for first... I'm sorry, what's your name, love? Ma'am. Oh, my name is Sonia. Sonia, where are you calling from? Georgia. Beautiful. Love it. Okay, how can I help you today? Do you see a financial blessing coming my way soon? Yes. Okay, so I want to tell you something is coming your way. It is a financial gift. It's like a gift. It's finances coming in, but I do also need to tell you it's not as much as you think or want it to be, but it's going to be helpful. It's something that's coming in out of the blue. I cannot... I feel like it might come in like within the next three or four... I want to say months, but they want me to say weeks. I want to give it a little extra time. I don't want you to count on this money and then feel like, oh, no, it didn't come. And again, I need to say it's not as much as you want it to be or you think it might be, but it will be very helpful at the time, okay? It will give you that little extra bit, but you got to keep going. It's not lotto money, sweetie. You're not going to be able to retire on this, but you might be able to catch up in a few areas. I also want to tell you that after this, you really, really financially need to make a solid plan. You need to sit back and look at where are you spending money that you do not need to be spending? What can you hone back? What can you cut back? What can you change, okay? And I'm just going to admit it right here, I am. I refuse to pay for TV. I do. I think it's ridiculous. I shouldn't say that, probably since I'm on TV right now. But I am very, very cautious with any money I bring in and plus, as far as TV goes, if I paid for TV, I would never move from out in front of my TV. That's the God's honest truth. I wouldn't sleep. I'd have popcorn and 24-7 be watching all these shows that they offer and I'm blushing because that is so, so true. It's a weakness. It would happen. I'd be up all night. I'd be sleeping until not at all. Probably that's like Vegas to me. You don't sleep in Vegas. I don't sleep if I have like all these channels. So what I want to tell you is it's time for you. Enough about that. It's time for you to look at what do I really need and what am I really wasting on and pull in on that, hone in on that and then take that extra money and start hiding it or stashing it away. Okay, sweet girl. And I want to tell you, and this is another message coming in and it's coming in from a gentleman on the other side and he's saying it's not about how much money you personally bring in because no matter how much you bring in, it is spent pretty much as you get it or before you get it and they are asking you to bring back your spending, hone back your spending so that no matter what amount you bring in, you always have a little extra leftover that you can hide away or stash away. Put it away for a rainy day. You'll be so happy how quickly the amounts add up and you can move ahead and actually have some really good stuff going on for yourself, okay? Perfect. I hope you have an amazing rest of the week. Thank you for listening and thank you for calling in. You are so welcome. I am going to go to 720. Hello, 720. How can I help you today? I'm just wondering what you see for a career for me. Okay, can you make that a more exact question for me? I just want to see what my next career move is. Okay, so I need to tell you you're my last caller and I only have a couple of minutes, so the more exact your next career move is very vague. Here's what I'll tell you about career. You need to be cautious in what you're doing. There's something coming in that's going to catch you off guard. You're going to get this move within the next month. You really, really, really need to be cautious. Does this concern finances? Yes. Does this concern another person? No. Okay, career-wise concerning finances. This might not be the message that you were thinking you were going to get, but it is the message that they're giving right now. You really need to be cautious with your finances. There's something coming in. Either there's going to be an amount going out. Okay, we're not talking about career. I don't think this is just finances. There's going to be either be an unexpected amount going out or you're going to lose an amount that you think is coming in. They're saying be very, very cautious. Watch your finances. Now, when I hear this, what I normally understand this to be is anything could happen.  Or like a major appliance or car. Just be, watch your finances is what I'm getting. Be extremely cautious with your finances over the next six weeks. Okay, sweetie? Thanks. Does that... It doesn't even work. So I... I'm just going to tell you... Thank you. I appreciate it. Yeah, I know this might not be the message that you wanted, but it's absolutely the most important message that they could give you right now. There's something coming down the line about your finances and you need to be very, very cautious for whatever that means for you. So every time you go to spend, check your account often and be frugal about things over the next six weeks. Okay? Excellent. You are so welcome. Have an absolutely amazing rest of the day. Okay. Thank you so much. I want to, first before I say anything else, I want to say this is my newest book. What If? A Transformational Guide. I always have to read the title. That's so funny. And it is available on Amazon.com, along with all of my other books. And if you just Google my name, you'll be able to find it very easily. Also, every Monday at 12.30, I host messages from above with Tony G. Actually, apparently I don't know what time my show is. It's at noon. Messages from above with Tony G. And I will be back doing psychic medium Tony G next month. Please follow me on blog talk, radio or I heart, whatever you're listening in on. And you will be notified of every single show every single time. Thank you for joining me. It was a blessing to be able to help you today. Till next time.