Live from the Wigwam in Phoenix, Arizona. It's theCUBE, covering Data Platforms 2017. Brought to you by CUBE. Hey, welcome back everybody. Jeff Frick here with theCUBE. We are at the historic Wigwam Resort, 99 years young just outside of Phoenix at Data Platforms 2017. I'm Jeff Frick here with George Gilbert from Wikibon. He's been co-hosting with me all day, getting through the end of the day. And we're excited to have our next guest. She is Kellan Gorman, the technical intelligence manager and also the office of the CTO at Delfix. Welcome. Thank you, thank you so much. Absolutely, so what is Delfix for people who aren't familiar with Delfix? Most of us realize that the database and data in general is the bottleneck and Delfix completely revolutionizes that. We remove it from being the bottleneck by virtualizing data. So you must love this show. Oh, I do, I do. I'm hearing all about all kinds of new terms that we can take advantage of. Right, cloud native and separate. And I think just the whole concept of atomic computing, breaking down, removing storage from serve, breaking it down into smaller parts. Sounds like it fits right into your guy's wheelhouse. Yeah, I kind of want to containerize it all and be able to move it everywhere, but I love it, yeah. So what do you think of this whole concept of data ops? We've been talking about DevOps for, I don't know how long, we've been talking about DevOps, George. Five years, six years, a while. Yeah, a while. But now. Actually, maybe eight years. You're dating yourself, George. But now we're talking about data ops, right? And there's a lot of talk of data ops. This is the first time I've really heard it coined in such a way where it really becomes the primary driver in the way that you basically deliver value inside your organization. Oh, absolutely. You know, I come from the database realm. I was a DBA for over two decades and DevOps was a hard sell to a lot of DBAs. They didn't want to hear about it. I tried to introduce it over and over. The idea of automating and taking us kind of out this manual intervention that introduced many times human error. So DevOps was a huge step forward getting that out of there. But the database was still in data in general was still this bottleneck. So data ops is the idea that you automate all of this. And if you virtualize that data, we found with Delphix that that removed that last hurdle. And that was my, I guess my session was on virtualizing big data. The idea that I could take any kind of structured or unstructured file and virtualize that as well. And instead of deploying it to multiple environments, I was able to deploy it once and actually do ION demand. So let's peel the onion on that a little bit. What does it mean to virtualize data? And how does that break a databases bottleneck on the application? Well, right now when you talk about a relational data or any kind of legacy data store, people are duplicating that through archaic processes. So if we talk about Oracle, they're using things like data pump. They're using transportable table spaces. These are very cumbersome. They take a very long time, especially with the introduction of the cloud. There's many rooms for failure. It's not made for that, especially as the network is our last bottleneck is what we're also feeling too for many of these folks. When we introduce big data, many of these environments, many of these, I guess you'd say projects came out of open source. They were done as a need, as a necessity to fulfill. And they've got a lot of moving pieces. And to be able to containerize that and then deploy it once and then virtualize it. So instead of, let's say you have 16 gigs that you need to duplicate here and over and over again, especially if you're going on-prem or to the cloud, that I'm able to do it once. And then do that IO in demand and go back to a gold copy, a central location. And it makes it look like it's there. I was able to deploy a 16 gig file to multiple environments in less than a minute. And then each of those developers each have their own environment. Each tester has their own and they actually have a read, write, full, robust copy. That's amazing to folks. All of a sudden they're not held back by it. So our infrastructure analyst and our Wikibon research CTO, David Fleuer, if I'm understanding this correctly, talks about this where it's almost like a snapshot. It's a read, write snapshot, although you're probably not going to merge it back into the original. And this way dev test and whoever else wants to operate on live data can do that. Absolutely. It's full read, write, what we call it data version control. We've always had version control at the code level. You may have had it at the actual server level, but you've rarely ever had it at the data level for the database or with flat files. What I used was the CMS.gov data. It's available to everyone. It's public data. And we realized that these files were quite large and cumbersome. And I was able to reproduce it and enhance what they were doing at Time Magazine and create a use case that made sense to a lot of people of things that they're seeing in their real world environments. So tell us more, elaborate how DevOps expands on this. I'm sorry, not DevOps, data. I'm still stuck in eight years ago. Yeah. How to take that as an example and generalize it some more so that we see how, if DBAs were a bottleneck, how they now can become an enabler. One, it's getting them to various new skills. Many DBAs think that their value relies on those archaic processes. It's going to take me three weeks to do this. So I have three weeks of value. Instead of saying I am going to be able to do this in one day and those other resources are now also valuable because they're doing their jobs. We're also saying that data was seen as the centralized point. People were trying to come up with these pain points of solution to them. We're able to take that out completely and people are able to embrace agility. They have agile environments now. DevOps means that they're able to automate that very easily instead of having that stopping point of constantly hitting a data and saying, I've got to take time to refresh this. How am I going to refresh it? Can I do just certain, we hear about this all the time with testing? When I go to testing summits, they are trying to create synchronized or is virtualized data. They're creating test data sets that they have to manage. It may not be the same as production where I can actually create a container of the entire development or production environment and refresh that back. And people are working on their full product. There's no room for error that you're seeing where you would have that if you were just taking a piece of it or if you were able to just grab just one tear of that environment because the data was too large before. So would the automation part be a generation of snapshot, one or many, one or more snapshots and then the sort of orchestration and distribution to get it to the intended audiences? Yes. And we would use things like Jenkins through Chef. Normal DevOps tools work along with this, along with command line utilities that are part of our product to allow people to just create what they would create normally, but many times it's been siloed and like I said, work around that data. We've included the data as part of that that they can deploy it just as fast. So a lot of the conversation here this morning was really about put the data all in S3 or pick your favorite public cloud to enable access to all the applications through APIs through all different types of things. How does that impact kind of what you guys do from conceptually? If you're able to containerize that, it makes you capable of deploying to multiple clouds, which is what we're finding. About 60% of our customers are in more than one cloud, two to five exactly. As we're dealing with that and recognizing that, it's kind of like looking at your cloud environments like your phone providers. People see something shiny and new, a better price point, lesser dollar. We're able to provide that one by saving all that storage space, it's virtualized, it's not taking a lot of disk space. Second of all, we're seeing them say, you know, I'm going to go over to Google. Oh, guess what? This project says they need the data and they need to actually take the data source over to Amazon now. We're able to do that very easily and we do it from multi-tier, flat files, the legacy data sources as well as their application tier. Now, when you're doing these snapshots, my understanding, if I'm getting it right, is it's like a, it's not a full like Xerox. It's more like a Delta that like if someone's doing test dev, they have some portion of the source of truth and then as they make changes to it, it grows to include the edits until they're done, in which case then the whole thing's blown away. It depends on the technology you're looking at. Ours is able to trap that. So when we're talking about a virtual database, we're using the native recovery mechanisms to kind of think of it as a perpetual recovery state inside our Delphic's engine.   The transactional data is from the logs is continually applied. Of course it's different depending on each technology. So we do it differently for Sybase versus Oracle versus SQL Server and so on and so forth. Virtual files, when we talk about flat files are different as well. Your parent, you take an exact snapshot of it but it's really just projecting that NFS mount to another place. So that mount, if you replace those files or update them, of course, then you would be able to refresh and create a new shot of those files. So somebody said, we refresh these files every single night. You would be able to then refresh and project them out. So it's almost like you're sub-classing them. Yes. Okay, okay. Interesting. So how, when you go into a company that's got a big data initiative, where do you fit in the discussion? You know, in the sequence, how do you position the value add relative to the data platform that is sort of the center of the priority of getting a platform in place? Well, that's what's so interesting about this is that we haven't really talked to a lot of big data companies. We have been very relational over a period of time but our product is very much a Swiss Army knife. It will work on flat files. We've been doing it from multi-tier environments forever. It's that our customers are now going, I have 96 petabytes in Oracle. I'm about to move over to big data. So I was able to go out and say, well, how would I do this in a big data environment? And I found this use case being used by Time Magazine and then created my environment and did it off of Amazon. But it was just a use case. It was just a proof of concept that I built to show and demonstrate that.  All right, Kellen. Well, thank you for taking a few minutes to stop by and a pretty interesting story. Everything's getting virtualized. Machines, databases. Soon enough. Soon George, right? Not me, George. All right. Thanks again, Kellen, for stopping by. Thank you so much. All right, I'm with George Gilbert. I'm Jeff Brick. You're watching theCUBE from Data Platforms 2017 at Phoenix, Arizona. Thanks for watching.


Personal Finance PowerPoint Presentation. Disability Insurance Companies. Prepare to get financially fit by practicing personal finance. Insurance is part of our long-term risk mitigation strategy where we follow the adage of measure twice cut once put in a formal process in place, looking something like set the insurance goals, develop a plan to reach them, put the plan in action, review the results, repeat the process periodically. Most of this information can be found at Investopedia Best Short-Term Disability Insurance. We'll take a look at long-term disability in the second half of the presentation. You can find these online. Take a look at the references, resources, continue your research from there. This is by Stephanie Kohlstock, updated May 10th, 2022, noting that we ourselves are not affiliated with any of the companies that are recommended. However, Investopedia may be, in some ways, we're just trying to give a list here so you can get an idea, a jumping off point to start your research. You can then go to Investopedia if you so choose and take a look at their references and resources and of course go to the websites of themselves, for the companies themselves, and do some comparisons doing your own research from there. We talked about insurance in general from prior presentations, and now we're moving on to the disability insurance here and thinking about this in conjunction with our overall insurance plans and strategies. So Best Short-Term Disability Insurance, if you were to get injured or become ill, your ability to work and earn a full income could be impacted. That's of course where the disability insurance comes in. We're hoping we don't get disabled or have any problems that would stop our normal income flows. But if it were to happen, we might want to have some safeguarding against that. That's where the disability insurance may play a role in our risk mitigation. So without your usual paycheck, how long would it take for your household finances to suffer? 6 out of 10 Americans couldn't make it 6 months before financial hardship set in and 14% would be affected immediately according to a 2020 survey. Considering a simple broken bone can take 6 to 8 weeks to heal and a serious illness or injury easily could affect you for 6 to 12 months or more, it's clear that a safety net of some kind is needed for your income. So obviously one of the safety nets would be nice for our overall risk mitigation strategies would be to try to save up enough money to self-insure to some degree. It would be nice if we're not living, for example, paycheck to paycheck and we can self-insure to some degree. Obviously that's more easy to do in some parts of our lives in some circumstances than others, but that's one of the risk mitigation strategies that we would want. And then of course we might also consider insurance to help us out with that kind of system as well.  Coverage typically lasts between 6 and 12 months with benefits that begin immediately in some cases. To help you shop around, we compare more than 10 companies to select the best short-term disability insurance policies as according to Investopedia. Factors we consider include price, availability, coverage limits, and the length of time required before benefits are available. Here is what we found according to Investopedia. So the four best short-term disability insurance in 2022 according to Investopedia, we'll just take a look at one or two of them in more detail. You can take a look at their websites and do some more research from there if it's interesting to you and or take a look at the Investopedia references as well. Best overall mutual of Omaha, best for quick issue and simple underwriting, a surety, best for long coverage period, state farm, best for self-employed. You got the life preserve. So you can take a look at their individual websites if you want to do some comparisons there. Let's just take a look at the mutual of Omaha. Taking the top spot for best overall short-term disability insurance coverage is mutual of Omaha according to Investopedia. This insurer provides up to 10 years of benefits much longer than many other companies allow with some policies offering coverage 30 days after your eligible disability. Monthly benefits are available up to $20,000 and policies can be issued through age 61. What are the pros? Benefit periods range from 6 months to 10 years. Maximum monthly benefit of $20,000. Elimination period between 30 and 730 days. Generous built-in policy benefits. What are the cons? Losses resulting from mental or nervous disorders are excluded. Partial disability benefits only available for up to 6 months regardless of overall policy length. Policy must be purchased through an agent. So we have the mutual of Omaha has been around since 1909. When it first started offering health and accident insurance coverage, the company has an A-plus superior financial strength rating from AM Best. It offers insurance coverage across the country, though not all policies are available in all states. Short-term disability coverage through mutual of Omaha is some of the most comprehensive and benefit rich around, which is why we chose them as the overall best provider, that being Investopedia. A coverage max is out at $20,000 per month with benefit periods ranging anywhere from 6 months to as long as 10 years. Elimination periods are available in typical lengths of 30, 60 and 90 days. So mutual of Omaha's STD short-term policies are portable and can be taken with you even if you change jobs. That's amazing. They also come full of built-in benefits such as partial disability coverage, waiver of premium, guaranteed renewability and rehabilitation coverage. If you want even more out of your policy, you can add a critical illness benefit, return of premium rider, a hospital confination or hospital confinement benefit. So then we're going to take a look at Assurity. So I think this is the only second one and then we'll go into the long-term policies and you can look at the rest of them on the list for yourself either at Investopedia and or at the company website. So we got Assurity. If you're searching for short-term disability income insurance that can be obtained quickly and without arduous underwriting, Assurity sets itself apart from the competition. It offers a guaranteed 4-day issue for qualified applicants with minimal medical underwriting requirements. What are the pros? Benefit periods from 6 to 24 months coverage available up to 3,000 per month. Many features included at no charge with a variety of additional riders available. Quick, simple application with a 4-day guarantee on qualified applications. Full and partial disability coverage. How about the cons? Not available in New York. So if it's in New York, that's a major con for you over there for Assurity. Though broad, only two occupational classes are accepted. Policies only issued through age 59. Online quotes are limited and policies can only be purchased through an agent. Assurity's Simplified Disability Income Insurance is our top choice for those looking for a feature risk policy, feature rich policy with quick issues and simple underwriting. It provides between 6 and 24 months of coverage whether you are totally or partially disabled. So coverage is offered from $300 up to $3,000 maximum out at a maxing out at 60% of your monthly income with elimination periods of 30, 60, 90 or 180 days. We got the renewability is guaranteed through age 67 and conditional up to age 70 and a waiver of premiums is included at no additional charge. The optional coverage include a critical illness benefit writer, return of premium writer, a retroactive injury benefit writer. In order to add these options to purchase the policy that suits you best, you'll need to consult a local assurity agent as coverage cannot be purchased online. The Simplified Disability Income Insurance Policy is only offered to two occupation classes which include professional office occupations such as pharmacists, accountants, sales clerks, biologists and more, as well as skilled and unskilled manual occupations like electricians, plumbers, farmers, mechanics, custodians, crane operators and the like. While these categories are pretty broad, the acceptance of only two classes may be limiting to some applicants depending if you don't fall into those two classes. This particular assurity policy is touted as a quick, simple product. They offer a four-day issue guarantee for qualified applicants and medical underwriting is limited to a medical history prescription jug check check and a potential telephone interview ages 30 plus, requesting $2,000 plus in monthly coverage. Only in certain cases will a physician's statement be requested. Assurity has been providing trusted coverage since 1890 and they currently hold an A- excellent financial strength rating from AM Best. So now we're going to move on to the long-term disability insurance. Most of this can be found at Investopedia, Best Long-Term Disability Insurance Plans, which you can find online. Take a look at the references, resources, continue your research from there. This by Stephanie Kohlstock, updated February 23, 2022. Again, these are not companies that we're affiliated to, but Investopedia may be in some way. These are just to give an idea of different companies that you can use to further your research from. So the best long-term disability plans, according to the Social Security Administration, a 20-year-old worker has a one in four chance of becoming disabled before reaching full retirement age. Man, that's scary. 25, really? Is that, can that be? Whether that disability is temporary or permanent, it's imperative to have an income replacement plan in place as early as possible. Of course, a disability and company would be saying something like that, but it could be a good idea. Which should ideally include disability income insurance. Disability coverage provides you with the support you need if you were to become hurt or sick and could not work. Long-term disability insurance can offer years of replacement income, lasting well into your 60s in many cases, while short-term disability helps during a temporary injury or illness or when you give birth. While both policies are worth considering, long-term coverage is arguably the most valuable, especially if your ability to work becomes permanently affected. So the long-term kind of falls into what more of what you would think of classical kind of insurance. In other words, it would be nice if you can kind of self-insure for short-term kind of problems, if I'm out of the workforce for, you know, a few months or something like that. It would be nice if I had the money to self-insure to cover that. The long-term, if I'm disabled and I'm out for a long time, then I can't. That's that big event like the house burning down or something like that. We're hoping that doesn't happen, but if it did, it would be financially devastating kind of event. And hopefully, and that's what you would think a more like classical kind of insurance component would you might be safeguarded against that big event that's not likely to happen, but that you would like to have coverage in the event that it does. So we compared more than 25 different insurers to determine this being Investopedia. The best long-term disability insurance for you here are our top picks and why we were selected them. So we've got five picks from Investopedia. The five best long-term disability insurance of 2022 according to Investopedia. Best overall, breeze. Best for customization, guardian life. Best for risky occupations, surety. So risky occupations like a police officer, I would assume or something or someone construction working on high rises or things like that. And then best for no medical exam, principal financial group. And then best for writer options, mutual of Omaha. We'll just take a look at one or two of them here. You can go to these company websites themselves just to launch you off and do some more of your own research if you so choose from this point. Let's look at breeze, top in the list, climbing our best overall spot or claiming the best overall spot that it climbed to the top to get. Breeze makes getting coverage simple by taking as little as 15 minutes to apply for and purchase a disability policy online. Really? Not me. It wouldn't take me 15 minutes. I don't think that'd be pretty good timing. I'm pretty good with the sign stuff, filling out paperwork. I don't know. But that's pretty good. There's no medical exam required for most applicants and coverage starts as low as $9 a month. Wow, my Netflix is like around that. I can do that. Pro's automated underwriting makes it quick and easy to buy coverage if you qualify the 100% online process means most people won't need to speak with an agent. That's nice. Don't even need to talk to anyone. No medical exams required for most applicants. That's nice. Non-cancelable and guaranteed renewal coverage through age 65 or 67. What are the cons then? What's the downside people? Consumer reviews are sparse for the youngest insurers among our five bests. So there's not as much feedback information in which that's not good. There are coverage limitations regarding foreign travel and mental health, and some products and rates are not available to New York residents again. What is it with New York? He would think any case. So Though Breeze is a fairly new digital insurance company, only founded in 2019. It's a simple buying process that makes it our top choice for individual long-term disability insurance, according to Investopedia policies and underwriting by Assurity and Assurance Rated A- by A-M Best that has been providing coverage since 1890. Breeze uses automated underwriting technology and algorithms to change the way we buy disability insurance, offering quick online quotes and coverage to customers all across the country. It's a breeze to apply for a long-term disability policy through this top pick, taking 10 minutes or less. Now we're at 10 minutes. I thought it was 15. Just 5 minutes ago it was 15. But 10 minutes or less through a 100% online process. If eligible, you can even purchase the coverage with just a few clicks and a medical exam is not required for many customers. For instance, if you're between the ages of 18 and 50, a medical exam probably won't be necessary as long as you're buying $4,000 or less in monthly coverage. Elimination or waiting periods on Breeze policies range from 30 to 180 days. Benefits can run 1, 2, 5 or 10 years in length. Or they can last until you reach retirement age 65 or 67 depending on your policy. Typically, your benefit options will max out at around 60% to 70% of your income. Available options on Breeze long-term disability policies include automatic benefit increase, guaranteed insurability, own occupation, supplemental DI disability insurance and residential disability benefit riders. While Breeze offers a coverage to a variety of occupations and industries, laborers may find that their policy options are a bit more limited. Also, some products and rates will not be available to residents of New York, where Breeze policies are underwritten by a separate arm of assurity. So we won't go through all the rest of the list here, but you can do the rest of the list on your own. Check it out on Investopedia, look at the resources there, and then on the actual company websites, of course, and you can start to do your own research in the actual companies yourself.


Thank you very much. Good morning, Nigerians. Good morning, Nigerians. This issue at stake, you would collectively was properly negotiated. It's a timeline given for all these agreements. In particular, the one you mentioned now, which is referenced to the WID award and the minimum wage. Minimum wage statutorily is due for this year, which is around April. And prior to this time, the labor and the government agree that because of the adverse effect of the subsidiary mover on the life of an average Nigerian workers, there is need to design a pallet which is called WID award to workers so that they will be able to at least sustain pending women which will be reviewed. And as at that time, they have already requested for nomination of committees, both from the union side and the government side. From the union side, both NLC, the two labor center, NLC, Nigeria Labor Congress and the trade union Congress have since the review of minimum wage. But up to this moment, the government have not demit fit to inaugurate the committee for action. But we, as a union, we are not waiting to that. We are not relating. We have been doing our background assignment in terms of research into what we call not only minimum wage. This time around, it must be a living wage for all workers across both. So this prompted the leadership of the Nigeria Labor Congress to immediately put up a technical committee to research on the rates, the standard rates of an average Nigerians in each of the 36 states and FCC. We know there are peculiarities across it. Some states cost of commodities, a minimum standard of living is above the means of an average worker. So we are going to negotiate this time around in line with all these socioeconomic indices across states put together, which will form the background of what labor is going to propose to government whenever they are ready for the negotiation. But what we know for sure is that it will not, it can never exceed April. Because by April, the minimum wage will have been lapsed and it will not be of effect. So before the call us to a table, we are preparing our notes. We are doing our background research across states so that whatever we are putting across to government, we'll be in line with the current reality and it will be a living wage for all, not just a take home, which cannot take people. We will not be able to preempt the intention of government. We are labor movement. We are always back already. We are focused and we are determined and we are, and for sure, you know, we are a partner in progress. So maybe two, three weeks ago, the current acting minister of labor and employment, issued a statement that federal government is ready to clear the backlog of the areas of wage award, because they've only paid two out of four, September and October. As I speak, November, December wage award is still pending and January is counting down. So she made some issues, some official statements in this regard that they are very mindful of paying all these backlogs because it's affecting the level of an labor worker, seriously. As I speak, most of our colleagues in the public sector find it difficult to celebrate Christmas and New Year with their entitlements. But be that as it may, we are ready and we are hoping that they will pay this backlog and we focus their attention to the negotiation table which they have already established so that they can institute and inaugurate this committee formally so that they can work and commence in business before a pre-deadline with this minimum wage will have lapsed. So we are very optimistic. We don't want to be pessimistic. We don't know the intention of government, but they are working as we heard that they are going to, you know, inaugurate this committee as soon as they know it's a constitutional matter.  And government should be the number one respecter of law. So they know for sure that the law of the land says, for sure you know that we have our instrument and we have our mode of operation. So we'll give them some automation, approaching this deadline to let them know the reason and the urgency of this committee to commence work in NS. So we'll give them the necessary timeline to know that if they refuse to inaugurate this committee within a short time, it will create a kind of vacuum, which means


Hi everybody and welcome back to our podcast from the Kamasutra to 2020, where we look at your questions, your concerns, even your worries around all things to do with sex and sexuality. So unfortunately, we don't have Dr. Anvita Madan Bihal again with us today due to medical reasons, but I have a very special guest with us on our podcast today. We have with us Habib Akande. Habib is a writer.  He's published six books. The books are generally based on race, on sex and African erotology. And African erotology, because although Habib has been born and brought up in the UK, his family traces back to Nigeria. But the one that I want to talk about today, the book that I want to speak about today is the book that actually introduced me to Habib. It is a book called Kunyaza, The Secret of Female Pleasure. And in this book, Habib explores the concept of squirting. Habib, as I just said, you are the person who actually introduced me to a lot of the information on squirting, which I didn't know about till then. And I have a lot of questions for you on that today, because as you know, this is a platform where we respond to a lot of the queries, a lot of the concerns that people have around sexuality. But before we go there, I want you to explain to our audiences about Kunyaza, because when you told me what Kunyaza was, it just blew me away because I didn't even know that the African nations had this ancient tradition of female pleasure. So can you tell us a little bit more about Kunyaza, please? Sure, sure. So Kunyaza is an ancient African practice, which originated in Rwanda in East Central Africa. And it's Rwanda, did you say? In Rwanda, that's correct, in East Central Africa. And it's also practice in neighboring countries such as Kenya, Burundi, Uganda, and even as far as Nigeria and Ghana, where I'm originally from. And in those neighboring countries, it's known as Kachabali, instead of Kunyaza, but it's both the same thing. And the practice itself involves, it's a heterosexual practice where the man uses his manhood to tap, stroke, and rub the woman's flower in certain rhythmic patterns for a period of time in order to trigger female ejaculation, also known as squirting, or what people in Rwanda call as the sacred water. Now the practice itself is not just once the man does the tapping, then the woman's going to gush fluid. She obviously, he needs to make sure that the woman is mentally and psychologically prepared to engage in Kunyaza. And the woman herself needs to give her self permission to experience the joys of Kunyaza. And what I was fascinated when I first came across this tradition a few years ago was that like similar to what you said, Sima, that I wasn't aware, although I'm originally from West Africa, that there was this ancient African tradition, which celebrates female pleasure that that venerates women's right to sexual fulfilment, and also which places the emphasis on the man to ensure that he finds the water, that he enables or he allows his female partner in order to squirt or ejaculate. So for me, I was really fascinated by it because again, this was a pleasure of positive and female orientated practice where a lot of the focus was placed on making sure that the woman experiences the joys of Kunyaza. Whilst we hear a lot about squirting nowadays, it wasn't seen as something that was taboo. And it wasn't even seen as something that was vulgar or anything like that. It was a celebrated practice that elderly women in the African communities known as Sengers, they would teach young girls and young women prior to marriage about the rights of Kunyaza. And also there'll be uncles known as kodjas who would teach the young men and elders and boys about how they should pleasure their wives in marriage. And also they should be empathised with them and also not rush them. And I think one of the things, again, which fascinates me about Kunyaza was not just the practice itself, because it's primarily a non-penetrative practice. And the emphasis is on the man, like I said, to use his manhood to stimulate the woman's genitalia and focus in on the clitoris, which Rwanda is called the beam or the magic beam. And we know with modern science that there's many studies that speak about the importance of clitoral stimulation in order for a woman to experience an orgasm. So for me, it was mind blowing that there was this ancient practice in Africa that's been practiced for hundreds of years, which focuses on non-penetrative pleasure, and it focuses on women's pleasure, which is obviously the most important thing in order for a woman to experience an orgasm or squirting. You know, Habib, what comes to mind immediately? Two things. One is that when you think of Rwanda in recent years, the Rwandan history has been such that you never ever connected to the idea of female pleasure. You know, it's just how it is. And secondly, what I think is so sad that we are so aware of all the cultures that have talked about repression. And we can name who says it's a guilt, who said it was sinful, who said it was bad, we can say which culture and in what century decided this. But we don't know anything about the cultures that talked about pleasure. How sad is that? Where did we lose this idea of female pleasure, you know, as we kind of evolved? Yeah, that's something that still mystifies me because I agree with you wholeheartedly that, especially in the African continent, if I were to ask people what do they think about when they hear about African sexuality? First thing that will come to many people's mind or female sexuality is female genital mutilation, women being oppressed and things like that. But you've got this practice, and don't get wrong, unfortunately, these practices do happen in some parts of Africa, but we don't hear about the female pleasure positive or the pleasure orientated practices, where women are celebrated and women's sexuality is liberated. So Rwanda is an example where for a number of reasons, some people say because of the influence of colonization by the Europeans, because Rwanda, although it's been, it was it's been practiced for hundreds of years, following the colonization of Rwanda by Europeans, the practice was suppressed, and it was only practiced in villages. So a lot of people as they became educated, they kind of saw this as this is like a practice, which is not something that a refined man or woman would engage in because the Europeans at that time, the Christian Europeans considered it to be barbaric. So it's something that even amongst modern Rwandans today, it's not something that is popularly known. It's like you need to go to some of the rural villages or speak to people that know about their tradition to kind of understand about this beautiful practice. And it was something that I again, even when I was researching and studying it, it was quite difficult to find the singers or the female sex educators who teach it because it is known to be secret practice. And as I mentioned earlier, it's known as African secret to female pleasure. And one of the things that a number of Rwandan sex educators or singers told me was that they were worried that they didn't they were worried that they didn't want me to abuse the practice as in it's not just about squirting. That's not the goal. The goal is a woman's pleasure. If she is able to enjoy that experience pleasure by way of squirting or orgasm, then that's great. Or even if she can experience pleasure without experiencing squirting or orgasm by Kunyaza, that's fine. But it's important to understand the sacred of sex and sensuality in their culture. So that's why I wanted in writing a book, not only to talk about the technique itself and the history of squirting, but also the importance of the man understanding the importance of making sure the woman feels at ease and relaxed to enjoy the pleasures of Kunyaza. So it's not just about, you know, it's like a checklist. If you do A and B, see what happened. It doesn't work like that. You need to obviously make sure that you're seeing a loving relationship and obviously the woman's in their love and state of mind to really experience the joys of Kunyaza. So that's interesting. Sorry, sorry to interrupt you go and finish. No, sorry. I just wanted to say the ethics of sex. That was also what I wanted to kind of emphasize in the book and the tradition. Yeah, I think the ethics of sex is such a good and such a useful term because that's really important. So you, you said that the goal in Kunyaza is not squirting. So we shouldn't sort of say this equals this, that Kunyaza equals squirting. It's not that. No, it's not that. So Kunyaza itself refers to the practice of the man using his manhood to stimulate the clitoris and labor minor and labor major in a taping function. Whereas Kunyaza is what is that is that's the word used for the ejaculate fluid or the squirting. So if you do Kunyaza, you're likely the woman is likely to experience Kunyaza, but Kunyaza itself with the practice is about women's pleasure. Now, again, like I said, like in Rwanda, for example, there's some studies that say up to 80% of women are able to experience squirting by Kunyaza. And there are a number of reasons why, why maybe is it that women in parts of Rwanda are able to squirt more than women in other parts of the world, like in there was a Western study that said that 54% of women in the West are able to squirt. Now, one of the reasons why, unfortunately, maybe a number of women, particularly in the West, aren't able to experience Kunyaza.  I think because they've been told that maybe this is urination or because of that, they might fear that they're going to be slut-shamed. And because sometimes there's a lot of a version towards female fluid, there's a number of women, even when they're in the virgin, they don't allow themselves to fully let go and experience squirting because they hold themselves back because of, again, maybe what they've been told or what they've been conditioned to believe about squirting. So, but in, like I said in Rwanda, it's quite popular, it's common for women to squirt, whereas nowadays the practice is actually dying out because a number of people have been influenced by Western understanding about sex and sexuality, which, funny enough, a lot of people in the West are now trying to go back to not necessarily Kunyaza tradition, but the squirting tradition, which is quite interesting. So, it's interesting that you say about, you know, how it's, it's all to do with the mind, isn't it? Because the Kamsutri says that, it actually says that it is very much about opening up those little channels in your mind which say that you are worthy of pleasure, you are entitled to pleasure, and you will open up your body for pleasure. And that's when things begin to happen. 100% and I love that and I love what you said about you are worthy and you are entitled to pleasure. And I think especially in the case of many women, I don't think many women feel that they're entitled to pleasure and that's something which drew me to the Kunyaza culture and tradition was that it was a practice that was telling women that they are entitled to pleasure, because I think with a lot of men, generally, we have this bravado and ego that we believe that we're entitled to pleasure from it's like a birthright, whereas unfortunately a number of women are led to believe that sex and pleasure is for the man and they're there to serve him whereas in the Kunyaza tradition is that no, the man is there to serve his wife or his female partner so much so that if he's unable to find the water and I make a squirt, he is considered to be lesser of a man. So the pressure is actually placed on the man as opposed to pressure placed on the woman that on the woman that she needs to squirt. So for me it was again because it's the opposite of what I've been brought up and heard about in the West, it was quite refreshing to hear that yes women are not only entitled to pleasure but the only thing is on the man to make sure that his female partner feels open and vulnerable and trusting enough with him that she can experience the joys of Kunyaza rather than it's an act that he makes her squirt. It's not a case of him making her squirt, it's a case of a woman experiencing Kunyada squirting in his presence. I think that again is an excellent point, it brings me very, very neatly to my next point because a lot of people have been writing in asking questions about squirting and wanting to know I guess the techniques etc but they all write in and say how do I make her squirt and you've just said that that's not the mindset that we go in with because we're not looking for I think the term that you used was sexual applause. Yes, yes so I think for a number of men in particular why I think a number of men especially in the West outside of maybe Rwanda are fascinated by Kunyaza or squirting is that it's this idea that I can make her squirt and it's a form of sexual applause as in it's a tap on the back, it's something that I've done and I think with a lot of men I think because we know that you know a lot of women fake orgasms and there's no way of knowing exactly if a woman has actually climaxed a lot for a number of men they look at squirting as this is something that this is like an achievement it's a sexual achievement it's a sexual applause it's something that validates my manhood and that's like a trophy it's a trophy and it shouldn't be like that and unfortunately even it's there's a lot of pressure placed on women unfortunately where some women feel that if they don't squirt they haven't experienced the height of sexual fulfillment or sexual pleasure and that's not the case I'm not saying that squirting is the highest form of pleasure that a woman's experience that's not the case it's just one form of pleasure amongst many that a woman's able to experience so it's not although I'm promoting Kunyaza and squirting I want to be mystifying take away the stigma from squirting but it's important to not put undue pressure on people they feel that in every in each and every sexual encounter they need to experience squirting and even an orgasm yes absolutely because I think that people have enough dysfunctionality in their sex lives and already orgasms are really really hard to come by and I think that we don't want to put extra pressure on them but I think that this is a fabulous subject to explore because it's coming to the to the global mindset in recent times through pornography so people can see it and it's generally put forward as this amazing orgasmic experience when you watch it on porn but unfortunately there's nothing about the techniques so how it's supposed to happen or what it's supposed to make you feel etc and I think that's what I'd like to explore with you today if that's okay with you that's great so there's been a few little average kind of questions which before we come to the technique we'd like to sort of bring forward so a few people have written in to ask that is it harmful in any way if a woman squirts no it's not harmful in any way it's not harmful for the woman and it's not harmful for the man excellent um what about the smell now a lot of people are wondering whether is it does it smell is there something that's sort of dirty about the fluid a lot of others have written in and said that um their partner they do manage to get their partner to squirt but they like to drink the squirt so is that bad for them so in regards to the fluid I'll probably should explain the different types of squirting or or ejaculate fluid that women generally experience there's one which is um what is known as true ejaculate which is um it's not normally that is quite thick and in terms of the color it's like musty and and it's not transparent and then you've got squirting which is considered to be um large expulsion or female ejaculate and that's more fluid watery like and transparent in terms of the smell and obviously then obviously urine urine is certainly different because obviously that's generally a yellow tinge and it's gone oh the whereas both female ejaculate and squirting or the large expulsion of fluid is both considered to be odorless so there should there should have been generally no odor um or no smell with with the two um whether the female ejaculate or the squirting fluid now in terms of the taste I'm not come across anything in my studies which suggests that um it's harmful um that's again I'm speaking about female ejaculate and um the squirting fluid now urine itself I'm not so that's advisable for someone to and to drink but in terms of female ejaculate itself and squirting fluid from my understanding it's not harmful but I'm not a medical doctor but from my understanding it's not harmful for someone to drink and um yeah so that's what I understand that's fine um one last question which was um somebody who's actually written in a young lady actually and said is this going to stain her sheets permanently no it won't stain your sheets it might bless your sheets I will say that's a nice one I like that it'll bless your sheets it will bless your seats I think we need to get away from and I'll I'll pose a question while answering the lady's question is that does she think that when the man ejaculates it stains the sheets generally probably not you can wash it away that attitude when we're speaking about women's fluid so that's why I think we need to shift this mindset that anything that comes from the woman is seen to be impure and dirty unless it's a baby whereas anything that comes from the man is kind of seen as fine whether it's by way of oral sex whether it's by way of fluid on the bedsheets or things like that so it doesn't it won't stain the bedsheets it might bless the bedsheets and even in parts of Rwanda and Kenya where kinyasas commonly practice there are known to be like secret mattresses or that that people make for because there's some women who are well blessed enough to expel large quantities of fluids there's some that only expels small amounts and the women obviously that are blessed enough to expel large quantities they have these special mattresses just so that the mattress itself won't be too blessed by her fluid so that's it so it's got like a covering on it so that it's okay yeah yeah exactly great so i guess that's one good thing it's a good thing to sort of suggest that if you're worried then put something on your mattress to actually protect it exactly so i remember the first time that we met and you told me about kinyasa and you told me about squirting you told me two things you told me a little story that comes behind it so there's a little myth that that's attached to this particular act and then you talked a little bit about the technique so do you want to tell us the story first sure so i will tell the story but i love the way you tell the story because it's magnificent obviously professor's storyteller but so in a nutshell according to rwandan folklore there was an ancient queen going back hundreds of years ago who was yearning and waiting for her husband who was away on a military expedition her husband obviously being the king and while she was waiting for her husband she was in need for attention so she called one of her gods she summoned one of her gods to make love to her now the goddess he came obviously he was worried because he knew what she wanted and also he was fearful of the repercussions of the king was to find out and then she said that if you don't make love to me i'm going to get you have you executed and then the as a god made his way towards the queen he started to he held his manhood in his hand and he started to tremble because he was worried and as he came near her again this is what the story says as he came near her he started to tremble his manhood against her genitalia a female flower and that enlisted a gush of fluid to emanate from her lines and from there Lake Kivu is a great lake in east central Africa was was was allegedly built from this from the gush of a fluid and that was known as the beginning of the kinyasa tradition that when the king came back obviously the god had left by that sign and the queen told her husband this is now how i want you to satisfy me make love to me before you enter me so that's where the whole kinyasa tradition is it said to have been um has started from and since then it's been passed down from generation to generation from women teaching other women about not only the story behind um this sacred practice but how they should teach that their male partners to satisfy them in the bedroom i think um i absolutely love this story we have a similar kind of practice in um in some of our ancient traditions from india where the idea of tapping against the yoni the vagina uh and and you know sort of basically maybe even gently stimulating the clitoris with a little bit of tapping brings the woman to a great deal of pleasure so i think that it's really interesting that this is based on the same kind of act that you know it's it's that he the the god is trembling so much and he's holding his his phallus in his hand and he's so frightened and he's trembling and it's knocking against her rather than being able to penetrate her and that knocking arouses her so much so okay i love that story i just think it's great fun now um there's obviously more to bringing a woman to squirt than merely tapping against her now are there a few techniques that you might have come across in your research and your um your sort of finding out about this yeah sure so in terms of there are many ways to bring a woman to climates or for women to experience climates with a male partner now with the konyasa even technique itself um it's it's adapted and evolved over time so now it's not just the tapping technique it's a that's known as a simple konyasa technique or practice there's the advance or more complicated practice which is consists of both the tapping of the external genitalia and then the advanced practice of konyasa involves not only the tapping but also involves the deep thrusting so it's a combination of penetrative intercourse as well as the external tapping now with the penetrative intercourse that can be done by way of the malpainas or it can be done by way of the fingers so obviously the man can use his fingers to stimulate the um the inner vulva area and obviously the infamous g-spot so these are and again it's for the couple to see what works with them and that's why even in in my book i laid out the different examples so obviously now some women who can experience an orgasm or squirting just by way of the tapping technique some require g-spot stimulation some require a combination of g-spot stimulation and oral stimulation and penetrative intercourse so again it's that there's a range of practices that obviously a woman can experience with her partner but it's for the couple for the partner to couple to find out which what works best for them but basically it is uh more dependent on tapping from the outside or just tapping just between the lips just inside of the lips it's more it's more dependent on tapping the clitoris what's known as well the clitoral gland shall i say because as we know that the clitoris itself extends far deeper into the woman's genitalia so that most of the clitoris actually sits inside the woman instead of out of clitoris what what we kind of know is the clitoris so the tapping of the clitoral glands that's initially done on the knocking technique and then what the man would do is then he would rub the labia minora and labia majora and he would press against that with the penis glands now the reason for doing that is because he's also when he's tapping against the labia minora he's also stimulating the inner clitoris the clitoral legs which many people are not really aware of so in in in essence cunyaza is stimulation of why i call the k-spot because when we think think about the k-spot the k-spot i'm referring to is a whole clitoris so it's not just the clitoral gland it's also the clitoral legs and the bulge which sits inside it so inside the vulva sorry so when the man again he is practicing cunyaza he's finding which what what part of the clitoris stimulates the woman more than the other because there are some women who experience extreme delight by tapping the clitoral by receiving stimulation of the clitoral gland some women it's the what do they call it it's the two o'clock spots so if you can imagine a clock two o'clock so the top right hand right side quadrant is seen as the most sensitive area for some women it's the left leg so every woman is different the same way there are some women who are able to experience an orgasm by simulating the what they call as the venous mounds which is the two indented indented uh indented spaces at the lower back so every woman is different so different women have definitely different erogenous zones but in terms of the cunyaza technique whilst he's performing it although he might concentrate on the clitoral glands initially then he should move to stimulate the labia myonora and the majora and even if the woman experiences most pleasure and joy from simulating the clitoral glands by him then starting to stimulate other parts of her um her genitalia will increase anticipation so the whole idea is not just to concentrate on like you have to play with and tease so even when the singer speak about how a man should um be with his wife the whole idea is to tease to tease her so once you find out what really turns it on then you play with that area a little bit then you leave it and then that will build up that will increase around and then you go back to and heighten um the excitement so i think two points of the year that you made um which i just want to clarify i like the idea that if you find something that really excites her you go to it you tease it then you leave it and come away and then go back to it because if you keep going on and on then it just becomes stable so so you leave it you come back to it and the other thing you said the two o'clock spot makes it her left leg no so the yeah the two o'clock spot is the left side of her head of the clitoral gland so you uh i had a so you've got the i was trying um i had to actually have a model of a clitoris but i don't know where it's with me but if you can imagine these are the legs then if you can see this and at the top i remember use my fingers these are the legs and at the top here is a clitoral gland the left side here for some women is seen as the most sensitive area okay so the left to the left of the clitoris of the clitoris you have the clitoral gland so the round up and then there's some women it's it's it's the left leg and that's obviously pressing against the maybe um minora and then for some women it's the g-spot now that's your g-spot in and of itself which we know is actually part of the clitoris but it's part of the inner clitoris so when people and a number of women who experience heightened the pleasure by um when the g-spot is stimulated that's really stimulating the inner clitoris just be just behind the clitoral gland which is known as a clitoral head okay I think that's it's a lot but I think the whole idea and even with the kinyasa practice because it's non-penetrative well at least a simple practice the idea is for the man with obviously he's lady to explore her body where she's at ease but he's taking the time to fully understand what turns on with penetrative intercourse the the issues that a lot of men are in control and are able to know what actually she enjoyed and it's very difficult for the penis itself when it's in the vagina to know what are the most enjoyable areas so to speak and a lot of men will just concentrate on how fast and how hard they are whereas with kinyasa he can obviously when he's doing the tapping or knocking technique he can do it in the slow rhythmic fashion he can do it hard he can do it fast so there's different ways he can play with her and he's also going to experience some pleasure as well because when he's using the clitoral glands we know that's a much sensitive area of the penis so and the reason why I think some men prefer kinyasa over oral stimulation is that with oral sex unless you're someone who in receives in drays making your partner feel pleasure some men feel bored when they're giving their wife and they perform in the cunnilingus because they're not really experiencing much stray themselves with their tongue whereas with kinyasa you're feeling the titillation sensations and it's also helping you to delay ejaculation and make sure you're in control of not only yourself but obviously making sure that she's you're in control of her pleasure so it's quite it's like it's like an it's an adult game it's and it's a win win because like you said that if you're actually doing it with your fingers you're able to see how much pleasure she's getting you're able to give her more pleasure and you're able to control your own ejaculation for longer yeah brilliant and did I hear at one point you saying or somebody else saying that there are also certain breathing techniques that women can use to bring themselves to pleasure yes so that's something that I've heard from a number of modern thinkers that they've made use of some modern breathing techniques that they've learned from different parts of the world and they've brought that into the kinyasa tradition so before the mani engages in kinyasa they encourage the couples to sit in front of each other and I think they was known as eye gazing or soul gazing and just to attentively pay attention to without performing any physical touch just paying attention to and they're both their responses and they're just engaging in some deep breathing exercises so both at ease both the man and the woman the man so he doesn't he's not eager he's especially even if he's really aroused he can lower his arousal and then also for the woman so she can be in a more loving and relaxed state of mind so I think it's beneficial both on the man's part on the on the woman's part for the man who is generally maybe at very hot to cool him down and maybe where the woman where she's not she's quite cool to kind of warm her up so that's the whole idea of their breathing exercise and hopefully to make him become in sync with one another before they engage in kinyasa any form of sexual encounter yeah because like the kamasutra says that men and women are sexuality is so different that if it is not helped with all these different types of exercises it can never be synced it'll never come to the same point so these things are extremely important for us 100% I think sexual compatibility that's one thing I did love about not only about the kamasutra but I love the way you and I have got your signed coffee I've read it about four times of your book is that the importance of understanding sexual compatibility and it's not and sex shouldn't be like a race that I'm supposed to achieve this it's all about understanding and coming together and and enjoying each other in harmony and that's something which I think a lot of the ancients realized and understood more than maybe maybe because I had more time on the on their hands or they had more time to understand each other and that's why when we're speaking about practice like and other ancient techniques because I think in the west we're very goal-oriented or modern people suddenly in the west we're very goal-oriented if you want to know if I do this is going to get me this give me this result it's not about that it's about giving you a guide of different techniques and exercises for you to understand and incorporate into your love life with your partner so that's why it's very difficult when someone asks me okay if I do this is this going to happen it's like it doesn't work like that but you can give some of the tools and they can understand okay this works best for me so it's about empowering people with appropriate sexual knowledge I'm going to use your word Habib if there were three tools that you were going to give to a young man to get him started on this journey of squirting on the journey of pleasuring his partner what would those three things be what was the advice that you would give them my first piece of advice is to adopt a pledge orientated mindset where he understands that she comes first so it's always important that he's prioritizing her pledge over his the second is go easy and be patient so as long as he understands that so he's not responding to his desires he's responding to hers so he's making sure again so similar to the first but it's making sure he's always taking time because I think that's a lot of mainly kind of rush that's to be the second piece of advice the third I would shamelessly plug my book and I'll say by my book can you answer the secrets female pleasure absolutely why not so that's a free that's a free but on the series of the first the first is arguably the most important I think so adopt a pledge orientated mindset where he he's putting his female partner's pleasure above his I think that's the most important thing and I said female pleasure above his rather than female orgasm because again if he's thinking about female orgasm then he'll be in a rush and he'll keep asking her have you come yet have you come actually and it's not about that whereas if he wants to make sure she is satisfied and she enjoys herself in the bedroom whatever however that manifests yourself that's the most important thing so rather than thinking about squirting orgasm or time or how many fuss or how many sex positions you're going to do if he has a pleasure orientated mindset where he's placing her pleasure above his I think he's that's the most important thing and then secondly which is similar to the first but it's making sure he's go easy and relax always take your time so again with a lot of men I think we're always in a haste and we're always rushing to make sure you're always taking your time and making sure your attentive to her needs and then the third I would say if you want more information you can buy my book excellent and if you were going to give the same piece of advice to women because I always find that you know when people say to me what is the advice how would you start us off what do you say to women to say okay you can walk down the path of pleasure and the first thing I always say to women is give yourself the permission to feel pleasure to begin with and secondly that you know just you have to be responsible for your own pleasure because if you have decided that you are worthy that you're going to have it that you are worthy of it you will walk down the path of pleasure but if you've got your mind closed off then your partner certainly can't do it for you so when it comes to actually techniques now we're talking about techniques and if you're going to see to women that you could actually give yourself the pleasure of squirting what would your advice to them be it will be similar to what you said about first and foremost give yourself permission to experience pleasure and with kinyasa or squirting how you're going to give yourself don't be afraid to let go don't hold back don't be afraid to because I think a number of women who've experienced I'm squirting they say just before they squat it feels like the feeling is similar to urinating so I'm sure there's a lot of women I'm sure a number of men who have listened to this who they've been in relationships with a woman that a number of women say oh hold on wait I need to use a bathroom and it might be that she wants to squirt but she's not able to differentiate between the two so I would say it's important that obviously like you said make sure she gives herself permission to experience pleasure I'm squirting and don't be afraid to let go I think that's very important don't hold back because as men not only do we not we're not afraid to let go we push out we release and I think that's something that a number of women don't really do and I think that's why I think it's important that you need to you need to kind of let go and again and take ownership of your pleasure take ownership of your squirting or take ownership of your orgasm don't look at it like it's the man's responsibility to make me orgasm you're you're not a passive recipient in this encounter it's something that you're both should be mutually enjoying together but ultimately you should take ownership as in when your experience is pleasure if you're feeling that you might squirt orgasm push out let it go it might need a bit of a nudge so definitely I would definitely say don't be afraid to let go so it can women also bring themselves to that point where they can squirt I mean can they sell pleasure to that point yes it's possible it's there it's definitely possible for women by way of masturbation self pleasure have you want to call it can bring herself to both squirting and orgasm and there are a number of women especially a number of studies in the west which say that most women most women are able to squirt by themselves down with a male partner the same way a lot of women are able to climax by themselves down with a male partner one of the reasons is because they're able to they're not worried about the reaction of their partner that maybe he might judge her and things like that so the reason why a lot of women are able to climax by themselves is because they're in tune with their body they're able to get out of they're more likely to able to get out of their head out of their head and into their body and relax whereas when when they're with a partner, maybe they're thinking about what their partner's going to think and things like that.  So I wouldn't say to a woman, use the upper quadrant method because she might, for her it might be the lower quadrant method. It might be the tapping technique. It might be juice pot stimulation, which is most arousing and most pleasing to her. So by first, like you mentioned, giving herself permission to experience pleasure, she can find different ways of exploring squatting but she has to be able to let go. And I think maybe a woman are able to do that by themselves more than with a male partner. And tell me something, is there lubrication needed for this particular technique or this act? Is it important? Because in a lot of other sexual acts, we recommend that women use lubrication even if they are getting wet on their own, but still we still recommend that they use that as an extra thing to help them along. Is that necessary in this as well? Well, for the advanced cunease technique, yes, because that involves the frosting. Penetration. Yeah, that involves penetration. Whereas the actual simple cunease technique, it doesn't need lubrication but it doesn't mean that lubrication won't help. And one of the reasons why, again, it depends from person to person, one of the reasons why sometimes lubrication, some couples prefer not to use lubrication with the simple cunease technique is because it allows, in some cases, it allows when the woman is not lubricated or she's fully lubricated with using external fluids, the man can see, is able to pay more attention to the woman. And sometimes what happens, and I'm sure some of the men who listen probably could testify to this, sometimes when either you're doing manual stimulation or using orally or even using cuneasa, when it's very wet, especially the external surface, it's kind of slippery for you, you can't concentrate. So sometimes it's easier when there's no lubrication but at the same time, again, it's not to say that you shouldn't use it, whatever works for that for the couple. So if it does help the environment, you should use some lubrication. And just before we close this conversation off, which has been absolutely fascinating, is there one last thing that you'd like to say? Yeah, I think, I love what you said about give yourself permission to pleasure. I think that's because the book, although it's for couples, it's scared towards women. And I think it's important, if I was gonna leave you with anything, is what you said about give yourself permission to pleasure, to experience pleasure and to try and adopt a pleasure-orientated mindset. I think that's the most important thing. I think if both the woman can do that and understand and appreciate that women should come first or their pleasure should be, you should prioritize women, female pleasure above male pleasure. I think you're on to a winning rung and run and then you probably will be able to experience the joys of kinyas. But don't be afraid to let go and enjoy kinyas and squirting. And it's not urine, I would say that. Excellent. You know, I'm hoping that this is going to clear up a lot of the doubts and the questions that people have had about squirting. Like I said, it's the new kid on the block because of pornography. But I really hope that this makes them understand how it was really about pleasure, about female pleasure. And it is such an ancient technique that it should actually be revered as such. It should be venerated almost as a pleasure technique and not just used as something that you watched on some kind of porn and you think that you can kind of plow through it in some ridiculous way. So I just hope that this is gonna change a few mindsets. And I hope that it's going to bring a lot more pleasure to a lot more people. Okay, so for everybody out there, if you've been listening, I hope that this makes you more comfortable about trying it. And I certainly wish you a lot of happiness in the next few winter months with this new act that you might be able to get a lot of pleasure from. So as always on the video, do like, comment, subscribe. If you have any other questions, send them into info.seema.anand at gmail.com. If you need to get in touch with Dr. Anvita Madan-Bihal, she is on anvitamadan-bihal.com. If you need to get in touch with Habib about any more questions on squirting or kunyaza, Habib is available on Instagram. He is Habib, H-A-B-E-E-B, underscore A-K-E. A-N-D-E. And of course, his book, Kunyaza, Secrets to Female Pleasure, is available on Amazon. Happy reading if you manage to get that book. And we will see you here next week.


Two shots, a single leg, a lot of fees and wrestling if you're really good at something. Make sure you know every position to finish from it. Make sure you just got to be able to get back to that area every single time. So come on, sit, come on. Finish shot to anyone from anywhere. Pop my knee right behind this toe and right behind this heel.


As in one that I go to the range with, you're probably thinking, Johnny, what in the world you will see in this end before? It's not a real optic, of course. It's help you see, right? You might be shooting your target or asleep. You're welcome. Now here, I'm going to show you the real rifle is safe, cleared, and no magazine. There's no round, individually and physically checked release. People want to hear rifle is on the range or to clear it and stuff, but also earlier, actually goes to this rifle. But I decided to, this is a BCM, yeah, this is, yeah, it's a BCM, but the one thing that I don't have on this rifle that I do need is a flashlight. So I was trying to get a different flashlight for it, but I have so many other rifles I need a flashlight. So at some point was it so, it's bigger and it's a little heavier, and I'm already getting dirty. Realt the nerf rifle back. There's a difference. If you did hear a difference, please comment below and let me know when you heard or didn't hear. Or if you think I should do a different kind of rifle, comment down below and I'll see you in the next.