Coming to you from our GIS studios, I am General Novel and this is your midday news brief. The Commonwealth Association of Tax Administrators, CARTA, is currently holding a conference under the theme, The Future of Tax, which explores, among other issues, what the tax policy environment will look like in 2025 and beyond. Prime Minister and Minister for Finance, Economic Growth, Job Creation, External Affairs and the Public Service, the Honourable Alan Shasne is currently attending the two-day conference in London, along with St Lucia's High Commissioner to the UK, His Excellency Guy Meyers. The conference began with opening remarks from the right Honourable Patricia Scotland, Secretary General of the Commonwealth and featured speakers in the areas of tax competition, the move towards a cashless society and the implications for tax, as well as the issues of cooperation between tax, customs and financial intelligence units in counteracting illicit financial flows. The CARTA conference is being held in conjunction with EY and the University of Vienna. CARTA, which was established in 1978 by a decision of the Commonwealth Finance Ministers, helps member countries through conferences, training programmes, publications and knowledge sharing to develop effective tax administrations that promote sustainable development and good governance. 46 Commonwealth countries are currently active members of CARTA. While in London, the Prime Ministers are also expected to hold several meetings with investors and St Lucia's living in the UK. In the Prime Minister's absence Honourable Leonard Montaudt, Minister for Equity, Social Justice, Local Government and Empowerment serves as acting Prime Minister. Hundreds of St Lucia's benefit as well continues on the first phase of the Pearl of the Caribbean. An impressive amount of work is continuing on the horse racing track, which forms part of the first phase of the Pearl of the Caribbean development in New Fort. The first phase of the track includes a world-class race track with two funded courses, quarantine facilities, a polo field, bands and a veterinary clinic. Over 200 St Lucia's have been employed on the first phase of the project, along with 15 local contractors. Our business and employment opportunities will be created in the coming weeks with an estimated 500 jobs being created for locals as the town centre development phase of the project commences. Very soon a training programme will be conducted focusing on maintenance and administration of the track as well as training in hospitality, grooming and caring for the first set of horties which will be arriving on the island before the end of the year. The Department of Fisheries in Commemoration of Caribbean Fisherfolk Day, commonly referred to as Fishermen's Feast, will be hosting a Fisher's Clinic under the theme Gender Equity and Ocean Health, supporting access to markets for small scale fishers. The event is hosted in collaboration with the Cassius Fishers Cooperative, A1 Island Marine Supplies Inc. Mercury and KP Marine Supplies Yamaha. The Fisher Clinic will target Fisherfolk and will be unveiled as a series of interactive booths providing information on the economic and safety benefits of proper outboard engine maintenance. The Fisher Clinic will also be promoting health and wellness screening and information to Fisherfolk. This event is an opportunity to foster and strengthen relationships with Fisherfolk and other industry partners as well as promote improved lifestyle through health and wellness among Fisherfolk. Highlights of the event include tips on how to do it yourself engine repair, free engine diagnostic test, Fisher Cooperative membership drive, free health screening and testing, financial planning tips, tips to reduce marine pollution, tips to maintain fish quality, hygiene and sanitary practices. Fishers and the public are encouraged to attend the event on June 26, 2019 from 10 a.m. at the Department of Fisheries Car Park Point Seraphine Castries. That's all for the Midday News Brief. Thanks for tuning in.


When you had the crib and you have all the females over, do you use them as testers? What you mean? For the music. Hell yeah. You think they're the best testers? Hell yeah.  Hell yeah. I think because at the end of the day, you're going to get somebody like, who's DJing if it's what?  So it's always like a tester for me. I might feel a certain way about a song. I'd be like, well, I might just be clueless. Somebody else might not like this song. So I'll just test it. I'll do that a lot of times at my functions or parties and stuff that we have.


What's going on guys? Got Kyle here relating sports cards. I got three boxes for Chad C. You go, I got a box of Mosaic basketball, Leaf Trinity, and Star Wars Galaxy. Alrighty, good luck Chad. Let's see what we got. Nah, I just, I had him stacked up. I just grabbed all three. I just had him stacked up. I grabbed the wrong box. Some Trinity football. Do have a game to get to. We'll get there. To 25, got Jaden Reed on the rookie. Jaden Reed, green, clear. To 99, I got Nicoby Dean, rookie Otto Byrds. You go, Donnie. Yeah, let's go. The Byrds. We've got Isaiah Spiller to 99, RPA rookie running back for the Chargers. We've got Corey Kiner. That one is RPA to 49. Looks like out of LSU. And to 99, we've got a Garrett Wilson rookie. Nice one there, the Jets rookie receiver. Garrett Wilson. Right, let's do Mosaic now. We'll end with Star Wars. Yeah, that was sweet. The little Charger patch there. Nice Garrett Wilson too, man. I think he's gonna have a heck of a year. He's gonna have a heck of a year. Mr. Rogers. Hopefully I got him before doing what else good. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I didn't, he went higher than I thought he was gonna go. I also reached for a quite a bit of a player, so. That'll happen. That'll happen. I definitely reached on a few. Bones there. And Red, Karis Levert. Yeah, G-Willie. Oh, yeah. Matt was saying you was eyeballing Hertz, so I'm glad I got him, like, good. Balling Hertz, huh? Jake was stealing a couple people from me. Reggie Jackson got a red Lucanart. He was stealing a couple people from me. He had to pick right before me. A couple times I was gonna grab someone and Jake grabbed him. I was like, dang, me and Jake must be on the same, same ideas here. Yeah, Matt said I stole like four guys from him. Yeah, that always happened.  It does seem to always happen. There's Ben Mather and Rookie. Silver Shredder. Blue is Yolkitch. Rookie to $199. Introduction, Sohan. Shaden Sharp Rookie. Silver, Simone Fonticino. Fonticchio. Blue to $199 Clay. Breakaway Tyrese. Jaylen Williams. Breakthrough. Breakaway. Mosaic Moody. And red Jaylen Durham Rookie. Mosaic, we got a stained glass. Stained glass for you here, Chad. Got to $99. Keldon Johnson. And stained glass is Rookie J-Dub. There we go. Nice one there, Chad. Jaylen Williams on the Rookie stained glass. And Mosaic of Devon Booker. Mosaic Halliburton. We got red Jew Holiday. Don Mitchell. And No Doriety of Steph. Very nice, very nice. He's a beast, man. J-Dub, a real good Rookie. We'll take that. And Otto is going to be a Noel Devon Vassal on the Collegiate, or the Collage Mosaic. It's a good sign for the Noel tonight. Collage Mosaic Rookie Otto, or a second-year Otto. Got Levert, number to $149. And Razzle Dazzle is going to be Trey Young. No Doriety, Luca. Silver, Davian Mitchell, Russ Red. Last pack here, Chad. Ain't no problem, I mean, no problem. Silver of FVV, and a red quickly. Stairmaster's DeMar. Alrighty, alrighty, Chad. That'll do it for the Mosaic. Now we got Galaxy. Last one here, Star Wars Galaxy. Sketch. Sketch. See the one I hit earlier? Yeah. Pretty nice though. Those were the Kylo. Kylo. A little close-up of his face, pretty cool. Super. We're even pretty hot on the Star Wars. Let's keep it going. Let's keep it going, Chad. Come on, Sketch. Yes, yes. Come on. Refractor of the Sarlacc Pit. Got it reimagined. That's a pretty cool one, the Stormtrooper. Refractor Yoda. Refractor Han Solo. And one of his Han Solo draws. There's AT-AT. And Kira. Women of Star Wars. So Otto, Ben Solo, and Yoda. Otto, that's an Otto. That's a Refractor. Whoa, Ben. Refractor, Refractor. Like, oh, we wanted Yoda. Otto won. There's a, something called the Remdance of Kenobi. I like that one. And Refractor of Return of the Jedi poster. Refractor X-Wings. Ahsoka. Ahsoka? Yeah. Yeah, that's pretty sweet. This one's nice, too. The Darth Vader, that is the dark side. And a green to 99. It's going to be reimagined of the Stormtroopers. It's a cool one there, the trio. Refractor of Boba Fett and a poster. Refractor, this one is, what a piece of junk. What a name.  You're moving the Falcon. Wave. It is a wave to 99. This one is Sandtroopers. Pretty cool one there. It's horizontal to 99. Refractor of Boba. The Bounty Hunter set. There's a Jango Fett to 150. There is Han. Captain Captured. Aqua. Aqua to 199. The Dyad in the Force.  Rey and Kylo to 199 and a Darth Vader. Yeah, that's a great set, man. Great set. There's, this one's called Vader's Shuttle Refractor. There is Boba Fett and a reimagined Vader. Refractor on the Dune Sea Palace. Last one here, Chad. Come on. We've got Refractor Emperor Palpatine. Palpatine there, the Masters of Evil. Like that. Evil. Alrighty there, guys. That'll do it for you, Chad. Three boxes there for you. Appreciate you, sir. We'll get those right out to you.


I don't know if you've ever encountered that. I have and I got an email recently from one of my viewers who says, someone is trying to charge me 20,000 pounds to work with him one-to-one weekly sessions for a year so that the justification is if you pay for a cheap service you won't likely commit to change. So then this person was asking me, so should I charge more for my clients so that they will also be less distracted by other services and programs and that they will take the change more seriously? So let's talk about that in this video. I'm open to your thoughts. If you wanna add your questions and your comments below the video. So here I wanna first share my own history with this. When I first started doing business, back in 2009 I was selling large group programs for $2,000 a ticket. Yes, and why? Because I was being brainwashed by the marketing and business experts who were saying you gotta charge more so that people will take it seriously and if they don't like it they can always use the money back guarantee or whatever. So I'm like, okay, fine. I'll charge $2,000 just like they are. And I sold, people came into my program. Sometimes there were a few dozen people, sometimes a few hundred people per program, $2,000 per ticket. So now the question is did my students and clients take it seriously? Now I charge $150 a month for my group program. I charge $60 to $100 per course that I teach. And it's the same kind of engagement rate as I did before when I was charging $2,000 10 years ago. So the engagement rates have not gone up or down just because people pay more doesn't mean they will be more engaged. And in fact, some of my most dedicated students take my $5 books and they implement it fully. They take it seriously, $5 books that I sell. So based on my own experience, I have not taken, I have not seen that to be the case for my clients and my students. And me as a student and client of other people, when I have paid less or more, it hasn't changed how I engage with the work. So here's what I really recommend, okay? Because when people are saying you charge more in order to get your clients to take it seriously, it is true, okay? First of all, it is true that people will think twice about hiring you if your rates are that high. And so they have to take it more seriously. They have to take the decision more seriously. But once they make that decision and they start paying you, there's a weird psychological factor here, which is because they're paying so much, it's almost like they feel like they got a lot done. It's really strange. And you might have experienced the same thing.  So ironically, you might actually not do as much because you feel like you paid a lot. So hopefully the program will do the trick for you. Do you see what I mean? Oh, I paid so much for this, so it'll do it for me. Rather than I paid a little bit and I know that I have to put in the effort because I'm only paying a little bit here and I have to match it with my effort to get the results. It's interesting psychological dynamic.  You have to put in your own efforts, right? So that's one point. But the other point is that the people who are teaching you to charge more, so the clients will be serious, is basically saying we don't know how to motivate our clients really, except for charging them more money. And do you really want to motivate your clients? Okay, so here's what happens. Let's say it worked. Let's say you charge clients more money and they feel like they have to put in the work because they're paying money. If they're not putting in the work, they will feel bad. That's the idea, right? Oh, if you don't pay all this money, if you don't put in the work, you're gonna feel bad and that feeling bad will get you to take action. Is that how we want to motivate our clients by making them feel bad? Are we not smarter than this? Can we not figure out a different way to motivate our clients than making them feel bad because they paid so much money for it? Come on, the real justification is not our clients were, the real justification is that we make more money. And that's what the coaches are doing who are saying, no, I'm charging you $20,000 to work with me because then you'll take it seriously.  And think about this. You're paying all this money to one person? To one person? Do you think that person is gonna change your life? Give me a break. I would rather you take the same $20,000 and pay it to 200 people. Then you have a lot more opportunities for who might change your life or pay it to 20 people, fine. Pay $2,000 each to 20 different coaches and mentors and see who changes your life the most. And please don't pay it all at once and please don't commit to paying $20,000 or even $10,000 or even $5,000 at once. I know some of you charge $5,000 packages and I apologize for saying this but I don't think anybody, I no longer believe in paying one time fees of thousands of dollars. I just don't think that's a smart business decision. Okay, so let's say, well, George, how much does it cost to work with you? Let me tell you how much it costs to work with me. If you were to work with me instead of charging you $20,000, here's what I would do. I would either have you sign up for my group coaching program which is $150 a month.  I don't want anybody to stay who doesn't wanna stay, right?  Are they not gonna give you the money back? That's terrible. I don't want that dynamic among any of my clients. I don't wanna say, no, no, you paid so you better keep going. No, I'm not gonna give you any money back. You better keep going. That's a terrible way to motivate people. It's not a way to build a relationship with a client or to motivate them. I have smarter ways to motivate clients, okay? And when I put the blog post up as associated with this video later today, I will link to the blog post where I talk about motivational methods. So I've written about that already. But here's how much you would pay to work with me. My group coaching program is full at this time and it's usually full year after year but if you were to work with me one-to-one, here's what I would do. I would say, fine. Pay me my 50 minute session hourly rate of $200 but do that not every week, do that only once every two months. So think about this. What do you really need? What do you really need to move forward in your business when you're working with a coach or a mentor or a consultant? Here's what you really need, okay? You need number one, you need to know what you need to do so you need some knowledge, some steps. Okay, here's how you build a business. Here's how you do marketing. Here's how you run Facebook ads. Here's how you fill in the blank, whatever you need to learn how to do in your business you need to learn, you need some knowledge. Number two, you need some accountability to make sure you're doing it. And number three, you need some troubleshooting help. Oh, I tried following the steps based on the knowledge but I couldn't figure out how to do it for my type of business. I need some customization and troubleshooting. You need those three things and you may need to do some outsourcing. If you have some things that are too technical you need an assistant to do some technical things for you. Graphic design, Facebook ads, website, technical stuff, fine, great. So you need four things, knowledge, accountability, troubleshooting slash customization and maybe some assistant technical work. Four things. So here's how you would work with me. You would buy my courses. Let's say you bought all of my courses, $800. That's more than you can do in one sitting but let's just say you bought all my courses for $800, all of them, okay? That's only $800. That's not $20,000. All my courses for $800. Secondly, you would hire me to, you would hire me, you wouldn't even hire me for accountability. You would use focusmate.com for accountability. Okay, focusmate.com is free accountability. Soon they might charge $20 a month but that's, okay, another $240 a year. That's not that much, okay? Let's add it together. Now you're paying $1,000 for all the knowledge you need. I think that's all the knowledge you need plus accountability for $1,000 a year, okay? All right, you got knowledge and accountability set. The third thing you need is customization and troubleshooting. Personalizing the knowledge to your business and troubleshooting, hey, I tried this, it's not working, what should I do next? That we could simply do that once every two months as you're trying to apply the knowledge you can email me in between the sessions but let's say $200 every two months, okay? Or fine, $200 a month, let's even call it that. So that's $200 a month. So that's now you're attacking on $2,400 a year. So now you're paying $3,400 a year for all the knowledge, accountability and troubleshooting and customization and then you might need a technical assistant that do certain things here and there for you. Let's tag on another $600 a year. Maybe you wanna do another $1,600 a year. Now you're doing $5,000 a year for all the knowledge, accountability and if I don't have some knowledge that you need, I will give you the resources, somebody else, I will send you an article or a video that's free, okay? All the knowledge, accountability, troubleshooting, customization and assistance for $5,000 a year. You have just paid only $5,000 a year versus $20,000 a year or even $10,000 a year to work with many one-on-one coaches who won't even give you the technical skills or all the knowledge that you need. So I just don't get it. Some people, many of you may have already paid $10,000 or $20,000 to work with a business coach and I apologize for that. I really don't, I think you were not lied to because those business coaches are trying to make a living themselves and that's what they were taught. So that's what they know how to do but it is a waste of money. So back to what should you do with your own clients instead of charging them high rates to try to motivate them? Again, I'll give you the link. If you wanna look it up on my blog, it's called the Five Motivational Methods. So you can read about that. So you can find smarter ways. Use those five motivational methods and customize it to work with your own clients, okay? There's, you can just adapt that article to working with your own clients. So number one, use honest and better methods to motivate your clients, okay? Number two, charge based on enoughness and compassion because here's the other thing you'll discover. Pricing your rates, pricing your services and programs should not be, oh, some business coach said I should charge as much, no. It should be based on enoughness and compassion, okay? Enoughness, what do I need, okay? And you can't say, well, I'm going to only serve three clients and make all the money. It's not realistic, okay? So that's the other part of it, it's compassion. Compassion means what would my clients say, wow, that's a good deal. Your clients are probably shopping around a little bit and so they're seeing prices here and there. So they have a sense of what the prices should probably be and whatever you charge, can you charge a price based on what you offer, okay?  So that's the work you need to do to figure out your pricing based on your enoughness and based on compassion, which works in the market rate because the market rate is what they're aware of and they're like, wow, you are a really good deal based on the market, based on what you offer, based on your expertise, your experience level, okay? Based on your care, you offer a great rate compared to other people who are at your level of expertise and your level of care. Awesome, great. See, when clients feel so good about what they're paying you, they're gonna feel great about it and you're using smart motivational methods, honest ones to motivate them. And thirdly, right, I should say, when you charge a higher rate, you're going to get fewer inquiries. I experienced it myself. I've seen a lot of people experience this also. Try it out. You charge higher rates, you'll probably get fewer inquiries, okay? You charge lower rates, you'll get more inquiries. So the third thing, use honest motivational methods, number one, number two is charge based on enoughness and compassion. When I add my blog post later today after this video, there will be a link to my article about charging based on enoughness and compassion. And thirdly, you have to do enough marketing to get enough inquiries. And when you get enough inquiries, you will be able to say yes to the right people based on your exploratory call with them, your discovery call with them. You can say, you will learn over time which clients are better for you. Because here's another important element in all this. The right clients will already be naturally motivated. You don't need to charge them more. You will already want to solve the problem, you help them solve or achieve the goal you want to help them achieve. They will be motivated already. And then your motivational methods will just be an addition to their own existing motivation. So if you're not getting clients that are motivated, it's because you're not doing enough marketing, you're not doing enough authentic marketing, so you're getting the right people contacting you. That's the problem. It's not that you're not charging enough, you got it? So you've got to do enough authentic marketing to get enough inquiries from the right people so that you barely need to sell. I don't sell at all anymore. I mean, I'm honest and transparent with what I offer, but I don't try to sell anybody. I don't try to convince anybody or persuade anybody. No, if they're not motivated to work with me, I don't want to work with them. You know what I mean? So that's the kind of clients you want contacting you. People who are so motivated to work with you that you don't have to sell them at all. And if they're motivated to work with you, they want you to keep working with them, so they will have a natural motivation to work with you, no matter how low or higher prices are, okay? Number one, use honest motivational methods at work, which you don't have to do a lot if you have the right people. Number two, price based on enoughness and compassion, enoughness and compassion. And three, do enough authentic marketing so that the right people are contacting. So you don't have to persuade anybody. You don't have to try to motivate anybody barely. You can add your own motivational things that help, but they're already motivated, okay? So, and sometimes, by the way, sometimes the lack of motivation is not your domain of expertise. Sometimes you need to ask them to work with somebody else at the same time, some kind of accountability coach or some kind of more of a psychotherapist or some kind of life coach that is responsible for the motivation where you are responsible for your own expertise. If you're a health coach, right?  They might have to work with somebody else at the same time for that, you see. To have the motivational muscles to make life changes, to not be afraid to make life changes. You are just needing to be in your own domain of expertise of the kind of things that you teach people and work with people on. The accountability and motivational part may have to be worked with by somebody else or by another system, you see what I mean. So, I hope this is helpful. I look forward to your comments and your questions and I'm gonna go and see if there are any comments and questions right now. Give me a moment to kind of pull that up here. I'm using a different type of Facebook Live here. I'm using Zoom instead of doing the straight up Facebook Live partly because Zoom, this is funny for me to say this, but Zoom actually does some natural touch up. So, I look a little bit better on Zoom, slightly better than just straight up Facebook Live. And I wanna thank those who are joining me live here, Amanda, Kim and Sarah, Lisa and Laura. So, Lisa, thanks for your comment there. Enough to some compassion, yes. And yeah, Lisa says, you know what? I fell for a $12,000 program that did not work. Me too, I have paid $30,000, well, over the course of mine, my business, seeking business trainings and coaching. I paid $30,000 to various people and I regret just about every dollar that I paid. Certainly the higher price programs didn't make more of a difference for me than the lower price program. So, yeah, it's really about spending smartly on your coaching and your mentoring. Heather, thank you for your comment there. Yeah, just about everyone, every one of us have hauled them for higher price programs because the higher price programs usually have a larger budget for marketing so they make their graphics, they make their brand look amazing, right? They make their brand look amazing so that seduces us and that's in part, you know, one more thing I'll say is, in part that's why I don't make my brand look amazing. I don't want to seduce you.  I mean, I'm pretty good at, I'm pretty sophisticated with my graphic eye.  But, you know, and partly because I'm lazy, I don't have to because I have enough of a fan base where, like, yes, if I touch up my brand, make it look amazing, right? Work with a real graphic designer, all my stuff will be much more seductive.  So I kind of perfectly want that. I don't dress up. I've said this in the past. I don't dress up. I don't have a great background. You know, this is my office. This is my home. This is my second bedroom, by the way. I work out of my home. So I, it's like, it's almost, I'm also really happy that I can have the luxury of not looking amazing, right? Because I don't need that many people. I don't need to make a million. I want to make a million dollars, but over 40 years, rather than I want to make a million dollars right now or I could, I'll probably make a million dollars in the next 20 years in terms of savings, in terms of actual savings, 20 to 25 years. But I don't, I, you know, and if you pay a little bit more for graphic design, you will be more seductive and you'll get more sales. That's bottom line. But I almost want to model what if someone could do their own graphic design? That is not very good. I use Canva. I use just like really, really basic stuff. I'm not a graphic designer, even though I have a good eye for it. I don't have the chops to do it. So I have really basic graphic design. I'm not seductive in terms of my graphic branding. And yet I make enough sales. I make more than enough money to live in the most expensive city in the world. I live in San Francisco, middle of, not, not, not somewhere in the outskirts. I live in San Francisco on 19th Avenue, highway, I live in an expensive place and I make all the money I need to live here. I don't need enough to save, save some money away every month towards my million dollar goal savings. 1.5 million is what I'm going for. 20 years, 25 years, that's on track to get there. So, you know, it's all I need. It's all I need. And I, so in other words, I'm not trying to solve the money problem. This is what I think, this should be another video, but it's like so many people think money is a problem to be solved. And I think that's such a shame because what is money making? Money making is taking money from other people and giving something back to them. Money making is an exchange of value. And so if you're trying to solve the money problem, you're just thinking about getting money for yourself. You've forgotten the other side of the equation, which is the opportunity to work your calling, the opportunity to contribute to somebody to make their lives better. Why would you want to cut that short? Why would you want to solve your money problem so you could stop contributing and having that reciprocal exchange? Well, I want to have all the money so I can just do my volunteering and give money to people. Fine, but the very making of the money is a sacred calling. Why are you trying to solve that problem? Stop seeing money as a problem to be solved. Start seeing money as a sacred exchange of you figuring out your calling and exchanging that for other people's hard-earned money. You see, that's what I see money making as. So I want to keep making money for as long as I possibly can because it keeps me honest in providing real value to other people, okay? So anyway, two videos in one. Thank you, Amanda and Heather and Kim and Lisa for your comments here. I'm not seeing all the comments. I think Laura also had a comment. So the way I'm seeing the comments here, if not everything is coming through. So I apologize if I didn't call your name here, but that's all I'm seeing. Thank you and I will see you in the next video. And until then, may you approach the livelihood as a sacred calling of saying, how can I take just enough money from others and give more than enough back so that they say this is such a great deal. They will tell all their friends after they've experienced your services, right? They will tell their friends about it. Word of mouth is the most honest type of marketing there is and it's because you gave them such a great offer, such a great deal, all right? Be well, blessings and see you in the next video.


Okay, so let's say that you are, good morning, good morning, let's say that you're out there dating or you're in a relationship and you want to figure out whether the guy that you're seeing or the men that you're going out with are good guys or whether they're just going to waste your time. How do you know? Today, I'm going to be talking about seven toxic men to avoid who will end up wasting your life and how to figure out who they are and what to do instead. My name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. Before we get started, if you're serious about getting into a relationship where you feel seen and loved and appreciated by a great man, make sure that you go to thegoddaskommunity.com and check out joining our community there for free. So let's talk about the different types of men that you should avoid. Who's the first one? Number one is the guy that I call him Peter Pan. He's got Peter Pan syndrome. And you know this guy because he never grows up.  He still drinks like a fish or uses other heavy drugs. He can't seem to keep a job. He relies on you or somebody else for money. He blames everybody else other than himself for all of his problems. He has unrealistic goals and dreams of who he wants to be. Sometimes it changes pretty often. Like one day he wants to be somebody, an entrepreneur and the next day he wants to be a rock star. Next day he wants to be a professional tennis player or whatever. And he can't seem to keep his promises. That is Mr. Peter Pan.  And so he doesn't. And so number two is the Migtau guys. I don't know if you've heard about these guys but there's a big movement online with them called Migtau. Men going their own way.  It's not that there's something, anything necessarily wrong with these guys.  And so these guys you can usually tell who they are because they tend to think that women are evil and that they're out to hurt men or yeah, they're out to hurt men. They think the system is out to get them. That women don't really bring anything good to relationships, that relationships only benefit women and relationships are doomed forever and there's nothing that they can do about it.  They think that there's nothing that they can do to actually get into a good relationship. And they usually think that men are better off without women.  They're hurt and they'll end up hurting you in order to make themselves feel better. So just stay away from them at all costs. So if you're here with us right now in the chat, make sure that you say hello and let us know where it is that you are watching this from right now. All right, so number three is the player. And so the player is smooth, he's charming, and he never settles down, right? He loves the game and you're one of many, many girls that he's been with and that he will be with and he'd be so perfect if he would just pick you, just pick you. If he could only see how much more amazing you are than all the other women, if you can only show him how perfect that you are together, but you already gave him what he wants and he's moving on to something new and shiny because he's a player. And so a lot of women kind of get caught up in these guys because he's good. He makes you feel really good and so most women go for guys that make them feel good and players, they are really good at making women feel good. And so that's what he does, that's what he's good at. And so you'll see him doing things that anytime it feels like it's too good to be true, you might want to take a second and like take a step back and look at what's going on and figure out what's going on and make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation, have all the conversations that we talk about and some of these other live streams and in my programs and stuff to make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation and you're not getting stuck with a player. So number four is the narcissist. And so this has become a huge thing on the internet where people are always talking about narcissists, I see it all the time. It's actually gotten out of control, a lot of people are talking about, it's like anything that a guy does that she doesn't like, he's a narcissist, right, and you don't want to go that far. Usually narcissists, they're confident, but not because they really believe it.  And so he puts on the shell of being like this really confident guy that really loves himself, but in reality, he's fractured inside. And so these men tend to be really charming, especially at first, but eventually it turns into an emotional rollercoaster from hell because he's constantly gaslighting you, he's making you question everything, he's pretending like he's always right. He constantly hogs all the conversations and he never takes responsibility for anything. And a lot of women end up getting caught up with guys like this, especially initially at first because he's so charming and he's so interesting, he seems like he's really confident and self-assured, but he's doing that because he's scared of somebody seeing the real him.  And so that is another person to stay away from. He's only going to waste your time. The next one is the emotionally unavailable man. And so maybe you've seen or experienced this one before. He's also another wounded bird, but he's got so much potential, right? If only you could nurse him back to health, he would be so perfect. But he doesn't want to get any better because you're helping him get his needs met, right? Hopefully you're enabling him, which is preventing him from having the motivation to heal himself and be the wonderful man that you see him as potentially being. And again, a lot of women get kind of sucked into this because they're nurturing, feminine side comes out and they're like, oh, I want to come over and really help this guy and fix all of his problems and heal him and he'd be so great, right? And you see his potential and you fall in love with his potential, but he's not great because he's got these issues and he's not going to get through them if you're there. And if he does get through them while you're there, there's a good chance that he's going to leave anyway. And so what you want to do is just avoid this guy at all costs because he is emotionally unavailable and it's a legitimate problem. So the next guy that we're going to be talking about is the unsure guy. And this is the guy that's not sure if he wants a relationship, he's just, he doesn't want a relationship. He might not. He's confused. He doesn't know. He's like, I don't know whether I want a relationship. The craziest thing ever, right? He's not sure whether he wants a relationship or not. Doesn't know what he wants. He's confused, but he's willing to string you along for months, years or even decades without being serious because even though he might act like he's being serious, right?  And usually he won't end up stepping up unless you leave and sometimes even then he won't. And what you don't realize is he's just, again, he's getting all of his needs met without taking into account your needs, right? And you're not taking into account your needs either because you're like, well, he's not really sure and so I want to give him some space and give him some time, but that's not going to help him out at all because he knows deep inside what it is that he wants, but he's got something that's going on in his mind or his emotions that's preventing him from being okay with doing that. So you end up stuck in this situation for a long time until you have enough of your friends either tell you that he's using you, he moves on to someone else or you just come to your senses that this really just isn't working out for you and you need to do something else. And so number seven is the married guy and it's fascinating because in our community we've had so many women come in and they're talking about this married guy that they're trying to get with, right? They met a married guy online or they met a married guy in person or they met a married guy and they're trying to figure out what they should do with them and it's like, you don't do anything with him. He's married. He's not available for you, right? If you're just looking to hook up and have fun, I don't condone it, especially with a married man, but that's your own business. Just realize that you're always going to be the other woman. So he's married, but he's not going to get, or maybe he says that he's going to get rid of his wife soon, but he's not. He's not really. He's in the process of leaving her, but he hasn't. It's probably not true. It's possible, but even if it is true, you want him to get that and figure that out before you get involved with him because there's a whole rollercoaster of emotional stuff that's going to happen through that that you don't want to be a part of. And there's a very high probability chance that he's going to go back to his ex after he leaves her because he has this long history with her. Sometimes he has kids with her. There's a lot going on there and there's a lot more with her than there is with you. There's actually a woman in our community that ran into this situation recently because this guy was leaving his wife, right? And so they get involved. They've been involved for months. All of a sudden he ends up going back to his wife because they have so much history together. They have so much going on together and that's what ends up happening. And he needs time. If he ends up leaving his wife, he needs time to heal before he's even ready to date again and he might end up going back. And so you need to let go of him and let go of that and not deal with that until he's healed and figured things out and he's ready for a real relationship. Doesn't matter how great he seems like he is. Just don't do it. Don't do it. All right. So those are the different. Wow, I went through them already, huh? That was a quick one. 15 minutes. Cool. So the seven are again Peter Pan, Meg Turds, the player, the narcissist, emotionally unavailable guy, the unsure guy, and the married guy. Just leave those guys alone.  Those are the types of men that you want to be with. And if you can, focus on being with a guy who's growing, who's growth oriented, who's focused on growing and becoming a better version of himself. Those are the best type of people to be in relationships with because they grow and evolve and they try new things and they do different things and they work on themselves so that you can have a better relationship with each other because he wants a better relationship with you.  And so a lot of women come to me and they're like, well, how do I find these men, right? Or all the men I date are these or whatever. And the point is that if there's a lot of men out there, right? There's just tons and tons and tons of men. Most men, just like most women, don't really have it together. Most people in general don't really have it together. Most people are needy. Most people are insecure. Most people have issues. And there's nothing particularly wrong with that. The more that you work on yourself and the more that you grow and develop yourself, which is one of the first focuses that you should have, is growing and developing yourself into a better version of yourself where you aren't feeling insecure and needy all the time, where you're empowering yourself through, in my opinion, the best way to do this is through abundance.  Whereas if you're coming from a space of being needy and insecure and you've got all this baggage and all these issues that you haven't really dealt with and you have emotional problems and you've got all this stuff, right? And you come and you start meeting these high quality people, they're going to look at you and be like, you're great, but you've got these kinds of issues. You've got these red flags that are going on. And so they're not going to want to be in that relationship with you. And so you need to make sure that if you want to attract a really great guy, that you take care of whatever issues you have, right? We all have issues. We all have a pass. We all have baggage. We all have things that went on in our lives that we are hurt from, that we had challenges that we've tried to go through, that things that we're dealing with right now, that we have challenges that we're going through. And it's important to emotionally prepare yourself and take care of things that are going on so that you can get into a really great and healthy relationship. So that was the seven men to avoid. Next, we're going to get into a question and answer if you have any questions about the stuff that we just talked about. Or if you have any questions about your situation or whatever, just go ahead and post that in the chat. And before I go over to the chat and look at it, just if you're serious about getting into a committed, lasting relationship with a great quality guy, make sure that you head over to thegoddaskommunity.com and check out joining our community for free there, where you can get a lot of help in your situation. You can join a support group of thousands of women and get help from a world-class coach and do a whole bunch of other things. And you can go check out joining our community there for free. All right. So let's go through some of the questions that we have here. What do we got? I didn't turn the questions on here. All right. So questions are so everybody says good morning, good morning, good afternoon, good evening, depending on where you are. It's actually, I'm in Europe right now. So it's 5 p.m. where I am watching from Djibouti. I've been there. Angela, nice to meet you all over. Kibula says, I take all your words. Thanks. You're welcome. Sophia says, I'm in a long distance relationship. Okay. Kelly says, I encountered a narc and narcissist and honestly it's sad. I felt bad and I think that's what kept me there. And also my self-worth wasn't strong enough at the time. Yeah. That can definitely be a serious problem. Diane says, been there, done all that really hard. I'm widowed 65 and it seems, and it's open season for guys in their 40s. Judy says, divorcing a narcissist. Thank God I'm celebrating. Yeah. Yeah. Narcissists are problems. Paula says, what's gaslighting? Gaslighting is emotional abuse. Basically it's a way of twisting your perception of reality around so that you start confusing what's going on. You're not sure of yourself anymore. You start thinking you're the problem. You start questioning yourself. You start questioning your own value.  Yeah. Judy says, gaslighting is denying someone's reality, making someone feel like they're crazy. Yep. Hello, hello.  How long you guys been together? How long you been together Abigail? So Nebulous says, if you're interested in someone who is married, you should take a look in the mirror why you're taking up with an unavailable or unfaithful person. Do some work on yourself, value your time. I agree. Sissy says, hi I almost missed this. Good morning. Good morning. Portland Girl says, hello Matthew watching from London. You're looking gorgeous today. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. You're welcome. Thanks for the compliment. Metmonk says, you surely are looking good. Thank you. So Mae says, I met a lovely guy who's 16 years younger but is going through custody issues with his ex. Should I be understanding that he's not very available to me right now? Yes, that is exactly what you should be understanding and checking out because if he just got divorced and he's got all these custody issues that are going on and there's a lot of emotional stuff that's going on there, it kind of depends on him. What you should check is to see where he is. See how he feels about his ex. Is he still stuck on her? Is he not? Is he still super emotionally engaged in this? Probably. There's a good chance depending on how long they've been broken up with each other. Sherry says, interested in a guy I work with, how do you maneuver through that?  So it's actually a lot easier for you to navigate through the workplace environment. But what you want to do is go the friendship route until you guys can get to a place or go somewhere where you're together and then you can start doing what I talk about in, there's a live stream that I did about Flirty questions to ask a man, go and watch that live stream and use that stuff on him after you guys end up going out together as friends. And you can turn that relationship from a friendship kind of relationship into, because if you go to Flirty in a workplace environment, I don't know where you live, but if you're in the United States and you go to Flirty, there's a good chance that you can get yourself into trouble. And so you want to avoid that as much as you possibly can. Joanna says, how can you tell if they're lying? It depends on what you're wondering about, whether they're lying or not. So if a guy is lying about something that's, most people lie, by the way. Most people lie about things in general, right? You, somebody comes up to you on the street and they ask you for money and you say you don't have any, but you've got some change in your pocket, right?  People lie so that they don't hurt somebody's feelings. There's a lot of different reasons that people lie, and it depends on what you're worried about them lying about and how big of a lie it would be and what the situation is. So you'd want to look for clues, one, in how they're kind of communicating with you when they're telling you whatever is going on. The first thing that you want to do is kind of listen to your intuition and kind of feel like, does this feel like there's something weird going on with what they're telling me, right? And that could be two things. It could either be one, that they're lying, or two, it could be something within yourself that you're afraid of because you have past emotional trauma that you haven't healed. And so you want to check in with that, like which one is it? Is it that I have issues and so I'm projecting my issues onto this person or is this person actually lying and they're fidgeting and I'm noticing that they're kind of like changing their gaze and they're trying to talk around a subject and they don't really want to talk about it very much, like what's going on there in that situation? And then you can also look for other clues and indications as to whether what they said was true or not. And you can also ask them later on and if somebody's lying, usually they'll forget what they said before as long as in terms of the details. And so you can kind of ask them what's going on again with it later or another day or something and just see what they say. Yeah, Judy says, why would anyone want a married person? Well, you know, there's something where a lot of people like they want things that are out of reach or hard to get. And a lot of times that can have to do with like your childhood, right? Like depending on how you are raised and how your relationship was to your father and was he unavailable all the time?  And so you're kind of trying to re-attract another person into your life that's similar to your father. And if you're doing that, then it can be a serious problem. But there's also other reasons why people do it. There's another thing where putting up boundaries and somebody having to get through those boundaries can be really attractive to certain people. Like a really big challenge. I know this guy that I met a couple of weeks ago and we were chatting and he was talking about how he only approaches women who are in relationships. And his favorite women to go after are women that are in relationships and trying to get them to cheat on their boyfriend.  Like is this really something that's healthy for you or you're just fulfilling some kind of weird, dark kind of thing that you have going on that you haven't healed yet inside of yourself? So may it says, my mother always messed up with my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel bad everything she did to him. How can I handle this family issue? Well, it kind of depends on the family issue and how close you are to your family and do you live with your mom or do you not live with your mom? And it's one of those things like family, it's important to love family, but it's not necessarily important to include family in things if they're toxic. So if you have family members that treat people badly, it's like, hey, I love you to death, but I can't bring you around my boyfriend because you got issues. You're constantly trying to hurt him, you're lying to him or whatever it is that she does to him. And so sorry, unless you can get it together and stop being like this and start fixing whatever issues you have, I can't bring you around my boyfriend, right? And so it's just one of those things. Like you gotta figure it out and it depends and it's not necessary. Obviously you want to be able to bring your loved ones around your parents and your family members, but some family members have issues, obviously. Like I have a family, a whole family of issues. I have a whole family of people with serious issues. And so it's one of those things like you can't, if they're not good to have around people, sometimes you just can't have them around people. Kind of depends on the situation.  If she starts doing this or that or this, make sure that you get out of that situation and you come tell me and we'll leave and we'll let her know that we're not gonna hang out around her until she fixes whatever issues that she has. And if she just can't help herself, then so be it. We can only spend so much time around her and you can always talk to your mom about it as well and just discuss it with her and let her know how much pain it brings to your life and how much you love her.  Sophia says, how you know if they care about you and want to be with? Well, it depends on how long you guys have been seeing each other. I did a live stream yesterday about it's called Eight Things that men will only do if they really love you and you should go watch that live stream. Yeah, Ms. Kendra says boundaries. That's right, gotta have boundaries. Okay, so yeah, TW says boundaries. Yeah, it's your relationship, not your mother, and sure expectations are clear around your adult relationship. Yeah, just make sure that you have boundaries and everybody's clear and you're communicating. If you're not communicating, it's a problem but if you're communicating, it's like, hey, this is what is okay. This is acceptable. This is not acceptable. This is what I want. And it's the same thing, even when you're setting boundaries with loved ones, you can do it the same way, right? And you wanna do it the same way because it's human psychology, right?  I want to have a better relationship with you. I love you. I care about you. I wanna have you in my life. And at the same time, I can't deal with you doing this. Like, it's just not okay. It's a problem for us.  Is it possible that you can spend some time around him and not bring up X, Y, or Z or whatever it is that she's doing and ask her that? And if she agrees to it, then that's great. And if she doesn't, then you know where she stands. So Rafila says, how do you know if a man cares about you? Like I said, the live stream yesterday that I did tells you everything about that. That's how you know. Go watch that live stream I did yesterday. I met someone we got intimate. Sissy says, however, he keep texting me every day and making time and planning next dates, I've been dating others, no sex. Should I stay with no expectations with this new guy? Should I always stay with no expectations with everybody all the time? Expectations ruin everything, right? And the more you can let go of your expectations and create kind of this free space, the more that people will surprise you in good ways. And the more you have expectations around what should happen or what's going to happen, the more people will end up disappointing you in unexpected ways all the time. And so what you want to do is you want to let go of your expectations and you want to continue dating other people and you just want to continue doing the things that we've talked about in all these live streams and in my programs and the stuff that we talk about and just allow what happens to happen and allow him to step up and do all the things that you want him to do. And over time he will show his true colors to you and whether he's the right guy for you or not. And I mean, it sounds like you're on the right track and that you're doing everything well and yeah, absolutely don't have expectations. Don't have expectations because people will let down those expectations and it's better to have standards and it's better to have boundaries than it is to have expectations. Expectations make you feel bad. Boundaries and standards make you feel good and make you make it so that people step up and raise themselves up to those boundaries and those standards that you have. And that's what you want to have. You want to have standards and boundaries, not expectations. So TW says, broke up with a guy I was dating for six months, did no contact and he reached out after 35 days. It's amazing how that happens, right? Go no contact. And next thing you know, he's reaching out. I have then contacted him and made small chat and he has responded to my texts immediately. Now what? Now what is that you guys need to meet up with no expectations of anything and make sure that you don't end up sleeping with him? I have a full program on this. It's called relationship. Restart your relationship. And go check it out if you're interested. Sada says, what about if your partner puts blanket between me and him on bed? What about it? So he puts a blanket between you two on the bed. Maybe he needs some space. Maybe he's like, yeah, I roll over. I roll in the middle of the night, I roll over and I land on people.   And it's really important that I get good sleep at night. So it kind of depends on, there could mean a lot of different things. Give me a lot of different things. So Bridget says, kindly guide me. Guide on my query, please. Is, did you, did you have a query? Query. Oh, I skipped it. I see. Okay. Bridget says, what should my friend do? You should get her on these live streams so that she can ask questions herself. That's what your friend should do. Her husband has gotten involved with another woman. Okay. And is asking her for a divorce. She still loves him and wants him to stay. She can't get over him. Advice for her, please. Well, here's the deal. Okay. Like, yeah. So she still loves him, but it takes two people in order to be in a relationship that works. And so if he is choosing to leave her for another woman, then she needs to let go of that because it's going to happen. No matter what that's going to happen. She's, he's going to leave her for another woman. That's the current situation. She needs to face reality, which is that her husband is leaving her for another woman. And she needs to build herself up. She needs to work on her self-esteem. She needs to heal. She needs to go no contact with him. And she needs to work on herself and make sure that she's coming whenever, if they end up, because what's probably going to happen with her husband is that her husband is going to, here's what's probably happening. And I've seen this time and time and time again, is the guy is feeling like things have fizzled out, obviously. And so he's felt attraction to another woman. And your friend is grasping and trying to work things out and fighting him on it and probably arguing with him and doing all these really needy and desperate things, trying to get him back. She's probably trying to convince him logically that they should stay together. She's probably trying to do all kinds of things right now, which she doesn't realize, but all those things are actually driving him further and further away from her. And what she needs to do is stop doing all of those things, accept reality, accept his choice, let him go and start working on and building herself back up. And if when she heals and works through her own issues and starts building herself back up, if he comes back, which there's a high probability chance that he will, because he's having this kind of rebound, it's not even a rebound because they haven't broken up, but it's this kind of cheating, like going with some other woman because he's not feeling it anymore thing. And, you know, which is a huge red flag, by the way. But he's going out and doing that right now. Things are probably really good with her because it's in contrast with how things are going with your friend right now, which is probably pretty horrible. And so he's focusing on all the good things with her, but ultimately, when your friend pulls herself from the equation and lets go, what's going to happen is all kinds of new things are going to go on in his mind. One is that the relationship to this other woman is going to shift. And who knows what that's going to end up looking like. He might start realizing that she's not everything that he thought she was. And then the relationship with her is going to change because all of a sudden, she's going from this weak and needy place to this place of being powerful and strong and having value, which is going to make him start feeling things again for her. And so what happens a lot in these situations is if she can get herself together and manage to use some self-control and pull herself away from the situation, it's very likely that he's going to, after some time, he's going to get over this other girl that he's been seeing and try to come back to her.  And Nebulous says, yeah, keeping a high-value woman don't get into being his counselor through his problems. Okay. Oh yeah, I skipped that part. Okay, so that's where we were. So where are we? Gloria says, social media has caused a lot of relationship dysfunction. It's hard enough trying to date on a daily to know someone. It takes time for love. Everyone wants to fall in love. Yeah, I mean, it's social media hasn't caused relationship dysfunction. It's only amplified the relationship dysfunction that was already there. So there's already a lot of relationship dysfunction. And what social media did was it allowed people to start doing all kinds of crazy things that they normally wouldn't do, right? So for a lot of women, for instance, all of a sudden a lot of women are now seeking lots and lots and lots of attention from random dudes all over the internet because they can, because they can post a picture of themselves half naked on the internet. And all of a sudden, all kinds of guys will be liking it, right? And with guys, what's ended up happening is a lot of guys are now opening up their realm of what kind of women that they can sleep with and date and connect with because there's kind of this new kind of realm of where they can, and they're getting their attention pulled away because there's all this like porn and all kinds of other stuff on the internet that is sucking their attention away and all these hot Instagram models and all these other things where normally they would be connecting with a woman that's in front of them who's a little bit more in their league because that's somebody that they actually are emotionally connecting to instead of wasting all their... So there's all kinds of things going on and it's not the cause of social media. Social media has just amplified it in a lot of ways. So I totally ran off on a tangent there. So Metmonk says, are you traveling in Europe to make talk shows? No, I don't do the normal publicity stuff. I try to stay away from most of that kind of stuff for the most part. No, I'm just traveling through Europe because I like Europe and I'm going to be going... I'm going to Romania in about a week and a half and then I'm going to Spain and then I'm going to Italy and so I'm going to be checking all those places out because I haven't been to any of them. Well, I've been to Italy anyway. So Gloria says, romance is exciting but takes work. You have to be on the same page. Fantasy is just that. And Nebulous says, letting go of expectations and being present and joyful in the moments you have is a game changer. I've witnessed it. Yeah, absolutely. My love interest pursues me more and I'm much more at peace. Exactly. That is exactly what I'm talking about. That is exactly what I'm talking about. Sissy says, agree boundaries and standards. Excellent advice, Matt. You're welcome. Thanks for all you do, young brother. I'm your big brother. Okay. I'm your big brother. Three years older. I don't care. I'm still your big brother. Judy says, definitely don't sleep with anyone on a first date. Have more respect for yourself. Give it time. May says, what if you got intimate too soon? How do you come back from that and deal with them assuming it'll carry on that way? Well, what you want to do is just get clear on what it is that you want and how you want to go forward. I mean, getting intimate too soon isn't necessarily a bad thing, but what it does is it meant to have kind of this biological drive where they push towards something that they want. And when a guy, and that's kind of like the sexual drive that he has, and when you end up sleeping with a guy, a lot of times what happens is that it cuts that biological drive off, and so he's not seeing that as well. And the question is, you know, what's too soon? How does he feel about you? You know, what's the, especially early on, how are the power dynamics in the relationship when you get intimate with a guy? What ends up happening is there's a fluctuation in the power dynamics and he ends up getting more power and he ends up, a lot of times guys end up backing off because of that, because they have kind of this drop in attraction. And depending on how you interacted with him before and the way that he saw you before depends on how he'll end up proceeding after that point. And I mean, you just, you gotta wait and see and you gotta just make sure that you have all of your stuff and you know, figured out of where you want this to go, how you plan on going through the process to make sure that you facilitate you getting what it is that you want ultimately and making sure that you don't settle for anything less. And you just gotta make sure that you, if you want exclusivity, that you end up communicating that, the first time sleeping together isn't a big deal as long as you end up communicating what it is that you want. You don't set this long precedent of, hey, we're hooking up with each other and we're not exclusive with each other because then that makes it really difficult to go from, hey, we're just hooking up to, hey, we're exclusive or in a relationship or doing something that is much more meaningful to me. So Metmonk says, really nice advice and talk today. Thank you, you're welcome. Judy says, great explanation, Matt, about social media. Glory says, true, I agree. Judy says, Italy is amazing. Hope you enjoy your trip. I hope I enjoy my trip too. Well, that looks like all the questions for today. So thank you so much for everyone for being here. Again, if you're serious about getting into a committed lasting relationship with a guy, go check out thegoddaskommunity.com and consider joining our community there for free and you can check out all the amazing things that we offer as part of joining our community and it can really change your life. It's helped a lot of women. There's a lot of women that have gone from being really frustrated and stuck to having, being in great relationships because of the work that we've been doing with them and you can get your answers, your questions answered. You can be a part of a great support network. And so that is it. Thank you everybody for being here. It is great to see you again and I'm going to try to do a whole bunch of live streams here in the near future. So thank you and I will-


Welcome to this week's preview show, BBC Radio Solence Chris Temple is back alongside me as we look ahead to another weekend in the Premier League. Here's what's coming up today. We'll be looking back at last weekend's 1-1 draw against Sheffield United here at Vitality Stadium and we'll then be going on to look at tomorrow's game against Aston Villa at Villa Park. But first we're going to start back at last weekend in that 1-1 draw with Sheffield United. Chris Meppen got the goal but here are the short highlights. Ryan Fraser's right-footed ball is deep and in comes Billing, nods it down, that came with an overhead and turn, Callum Wilson, Meppen! The centre half from close range, it bounced around twice and Meppen was there to drive it home and after 62 minutes the Cherries take the lead. Oh we have three goals in it. As you said the ball was dancing around, people made a couple of saves but it was Meppen. Well I don't think he hit it cleanly but who cares it hit the lack of the net, that's the main thing. The lack he had a go, Callum Wilson had a go saved by the keeper and then Meppen drove it into the ground and it may have been that slightly unclean connection from Meppen which actually helped it go in as it bounced over the goalkeeper who was already on the ground. So David McGoldrick going off and Oli McBurnie coming on, the Sheffield United change that was already planned before that goal went in. Don't underestimate Billing on the far post who headed the ball back, a magnificent header, absolutely. Two and a half minutes left, it's down the right side of the box where Bulldog will drive it in, right across the six star box, beaten away, Billing! The Cherries were not switched on, they may have got fortune at the other end. When they scored their goal the fortune went United's way this time. It bounced a couple of times off defenders and the former Southampton man Billy Sharp poached it home with two minutes left. Bournemouth won, Sheffield United won. Well again, Rueco was involved, it slipped down the side of him. Two people are in the wall and he's one of them.  Well that was last weekend our season opener against Sheffield United. Chris it was an interesting game wasn't it, one one and one that the Cherries might have looked to get more out of. Yeah we're two minutes to go, you thought they were going to win it, probably unjustly actually, I thought Sheffield United did enough to get a draw. I think the worrying thing for Bournemouth's point of view is the front three just didn't fire at all, I mean Callum Wilson was hardly in the game. Joshua King had one of a couple of those runs but then it came to nothing. Ryan Fraser didn't really get an opportunity to get in the game that much. So I think when you've come off a good pre-season obviously bouncing off that result against Leon here, three-nil when the attacking thrust looks positive and they scored a few goals in pre-season both Callum and Joshua King have been on target in pre-season and Ryan Fraser as well. So I think that was the disappointment was the lack of sort of I guess coherence between the front three and thrust as well. Now I know that it was a new formation and Sheffield United were you know sat back quite rigidly for a lot of the game until Bournemouth scored. But I think that the biggest sort of concern out of it, of course apart from the way the goal was conceded which goes without saying, I think that was the biggest worry really that the front three just didn't look themselves and in a home game you know against newly promoted opposition you've got to look to that to have your big players all three are internationals to be at it from the word go and it's sort of strange how you can be looking good in pre-season and a week later when it actually matters you're like oh hang on a second we're a bit rusty so yeah that for me that was a sort of the thing to take out of it was a sort of lack of sharpness I guess up front. And one thing that may have frustrated fans a little is you know not making a substitution to the 89th minute Dominic Slanky coming on and you know not giving much time to impact the game despite again a good pre-season for him. Yeah substitutions I know have been a bone of contention for a while and some people feel that Eddie should you know roll the dice a little bit quicker. Sometimes he has a sort of formula where he'll drag people at half time if it's not working often the hour mark is quite a sort of a notable time for him to make a couple of changes if it's not going well. Maybe when he was starting to think about making changes they scored of course you know in that period in the second half so it might have been that things were starting to happen in the background that we will never know about and the goal change matters. And then you know once you're one nil up do you necessarily need to need to change it. Sheffield United didn't carry a lot of threat until their subs came on. McBurney came on and obviously you know started to busy himself a little bit. Billy Sharp obviously scored the goal. I should mention about the goal by the way. I've seen a lot of talk on social media and forums and things about VAR and whether that goal should have been disallowed under the new rules where if it hits a hand and it creates a chance from which a goal is scored it should be chalked off. Now I spoke to Eddie Howe about this they've looked at it from every angle slow motion and they're happy that it was the right decision that a goal was given so that should hopefully just clear that one up from their point of view because I'm sure they would have found a way to to say that they got VAR'd but they were they were happy that was a goal. And when you look at the game across the whole 90 minutes you know one really good chance in the first half which fell to Chris Meatham and then the chance in the second half again fell to Chris Meatham. He had an interesting afternoon didn't he Chris Meatham because after 30 seconds of all sales over his head catching the wind and you know suddenly David McGoldrick's through thankfully Aaron Ramsdale got him out of a hole there. You're right just behind us here he sort of snatched at the shot he felt like he should have scored that and then he was the sort of unlikely poacher when a bit of pinball around the box and let's face it both goals were messy. Both goals had you know very sort of similar characteristics to them but yeah great for him a great day for him to score your first Premier League goal he'll never forget it. I tweeted a stat out after the game that Chris Meatham has scored two goals in his career one for Brentford one for Bournemouth both in one-one home draws against Sheffield United which is just ridiculously random. But yeah for him defensively is that the key part of his game goals are a bonus and obviously defensively you know himself Nathan Akke and a not fully fit Steve Cook will take a bit of time again I think to gel when they play in that three. Talking of the defense just behind the wheel Aaron Ramsdale Aaron Ramsdale in goal he chose to go with him what did you make of his performance. I thought he did really well yeah I mean as Mark Travers you know Mark Travers had more to do in the game down here against Spurs. But I thought Ramsdale did absolutely everything that you could have asked of him he kicked well. The one thing I've noticed about him he has a real confidence I've seen that from him you know you'll have seen it as well around the camp he's got a real character he's not a sort of a wallflower let's put it that way and maybe he's you know maybe he's done a little bit of maturing over the last couple of years maybe the loan spells you know have sort of I guess got his mind focused a little bit as well but he made a couple of great saves a good a good punch this end as well where he came out and cleaned a few people out so I think you know thrown in as a 21-year-old on your Premier League debut and of course a nice fairy tale against his old club against the manager who gave him his debut so there was some nice sort of romantic lines with it as well and I think probably my favourite line after the game from him was that he was really looking forward to going to watch his old teammates AFC Wimbledon and the Carabao Cup on Tuesday because he made a real connection with them and he went on to say now is my time to make a connection with Bournemouth and the fans because now is my chance on the pitch on a Saturday to show what I can do and hopefully the fans will come to to like him here as much as other clubs have and another player we saw last week Phillip Billing made his Premier League debut for Bournemouth and he did what he did well didn't he? I thought he did well I thought he looked good in there for a guy who hasn't played a lot of football only been training with Huddersfields under 19s over pre-season alongside Jefferson Lermer there's going to be some thunderous tackles going in in that midfield the only thing I'll say on on that sort of pairing is there's a robust nature about it there's a sort of a dynamic physical nature about it is there enough creativity in that pair that's what's going to be under the microscope over the next couple of games I think to see you know fair enough in a job in a two they'll they'll protect the bat four very well we saw Billing have an absolute thunderbolt of a shot which when you saw the side on angle for that it was like it had come out of a cannon great save from the keeper and the keeper somehow dive into his left ended up injured his right calf so that's how that's how it sort of sent shot waves through his body but yeah so that's the key Lewis Cook obviously is coming back from America this weekend with Simon Francis so he's going to be back in training so he's only going to be I think three or four weeks away probably so he obviously provides the creativity but Billing and Lermer will be in there for now and I like what I saw from from Billing first up and a slight blow before the weekend was Dan Jume he he picked up an injury in training we're not sure the extent of it just yet but that was a little bit of a blow yeah he won't be available this weekend so yeah when you sign someone for what was it 13 14 million pounds you and he plays in pre-season and doesn't make the first game of the season that's obviously disappointing so he remains sort of I guess a bit of a ghost figure in the background that we won't know what we're going to get from him until we see him in a Premier League game exciting exciting talent for sure bit of a connection with him because of a couple of Villa summer signings of ex-bruge players as well like he is so yeah at the moment the jury will remain firmly out on him until we get to see him hopefully soon absolutely well next up our attention turns to the game against Aston Villa tomorrow at Villa Park let's take a look at what happened last time we played the villains well goals from Steve Cook and Joshua King there Chris we'll be hoping for a more of the same tomorrow won't we yeah I mean Villa fans we're going to encounter Villa fans in a different mindset today because that was the result that pretty much sent them down back at the end of the 2016 season but it's a it's a passionate vociferous place to go people say every stadium is but some are definitely more than others and Villa Park that whole 10 when it gets going it's an absolutely massive stand but that was a you know encouraging performance catching Villa at a bad time then for sure the Villa the Bournemouth are going to face this weekend you know completely different riding the crest of a wave but Steve Cook and Joshua King I'm sure they're both like to open their goalscoring accounts away at Villa again tomorrow and speaking of you know Villa Park it is a bit of a fortress to go and first home game this season it'll be absolutely rocking won't it yeah Bournemouth fans will remember back you know in 2015 when Villa came down here and upset the Premier League party first ever Premier League game Villa with the visitors and won one nil here possibly slightly against the run of play as well so I suppose Cherry's over one from that point of view to go up there and to to spoil their big Premier League homecoming they've sold 30,000 season tickets there and they've got 8,000 people on the waiting list which just tells you the the magnitude of the club they've spent 140 million pounds over the summer on 12 signings now money doesn't buy you success that's one of the old cliches Fulham spent loads of money last year they've gone down but they seem to have recruited quite strategically of course quite a lot of the monies in the bank account just behind us here for Tyrone Mings which I'm sure Cherry's will be looking forward to coming up against and hopefully getting one over him but yeah Dean Smith and a bit like Chris Wilder last weekend for Sheffield United a bit of a romantic fairy tale supported the club as a boy used to sweep the whole tend when his dad was a steward you know a local lad and again another one like Chris Wilder who's earned his stripes in the lower leagues as manager of Walsall and Brentford and here he is getting his Premier League chance and we should mention Richard O'Kelly of course former Cherry's assistant as well who was assistant when Eddie was a player here back in the Seanair Driscoll days so another one who's you know great for him to get a Premier League chance so yeah there's a nice story with Villa but I think the money they've spent their billionaire co-owners now who've bought the club outright they've just bought Villa Park as well for £53-54 million pounds they look to be having a right crack and what did you make of Villa's performance last week they were up against Spurs a tough team and for 70-80 minutes things were going very well weren't they yeah if you look at the shot count after the game I mean I think it was 31-7 in Spurs favour the game didn't pan out like that it took Spurs an hour to get going you know Villa will have stunned that stadium John McGinn scoring early on John McGinn is Ryan Fraser's roommate on Scotland duty by the way they have quite a lot of mental and social media if you've ever seen that so that'll be a contest to look out for tomorrow in there sort of midfield or the wide areas but yeah I mean Villa what a tough opening game that is to go to Spurs but to go one nil up you know game plan for half the game was going brilliantly Spurs through on Christian Erickson obviously here we've seen against Bournemouth can can often change the game so in the end Spurs had had too much power for them but that's the life of teams outside the big six is if the big six are on their day it's going to be very difficult so yeah Villa fans will have enjoyed it for an hour I'm pretty sure and will have been encouraged by the way their team played Tyra Mings I think had 17 clearances more than anybody else in the Premier League last weekend so he was certainly a busy boy and he's become very much a fan's favourite there well you mentioned Tyra Mings it's it's a shame he didn't really ever get the chance here you know with his injuries to show what he could do but he seems to you know have settled in Wallet Villa yeah last week there was a bit more room between well there's a bit more room this week because we had Willow between us here and he was a huge fan he is a huge fan of Tyra Mings and thought he could be something quite special you know eight million pounds best part of eight million was was quite a lot for a player of his experience when he signed here as a left back converted to centre back injuries you know he just had such bad luck with injuries what he came in you know he mixed bag of performances you know he might make a mistake or two but when you're coming in you need you do need that time to gel with your defensive partners he never really got more I don't know exactly what the status of how many games he played in a row but I'd be amazed if it was any more than six or seven in a row so for Bournemouth that is so yeah going to Villa last year I think it was the sort of resurgence new lease of life he needed became a cult hero there his performances there obviously and they were Bournemouth debunked the price up a little bit I think it was an initial 20 million or 21 million and then a few extra bonuses and things he's even been talked of in England circles already so I hope for him he can stay fit and do brilliantly I hope he does never great game this weekend because I want Bournemouth to win but yeah what a player I think he could have been and still could be it's a shame but Bournemouth won't I guess see that in a red and black shirt and speaking of the Villa squad in general we've talked about Tyrone Minx you mentioned John McGinn but who are the ones to look out for because of course as you say they spent an awful lot of money well Wesley up top is one of their new signings who again is a little bit of an unknown quantity in terms of English football so he'll be sort of leading the line he played up front on his own last weekend which again for an introduction to Premier League football will have been will have been a tough one Trezeguet wide on the right Mahmoud Hassan but known as Trezeguet simply because apparently he looked and played like David Trezeguet when he was in one of his youth teams age nine that's why he's called Trezeguet not because it's his actual name but it's his official name on his shirt and obviously you know Tom Heaton in goal was a great late signing for them as well eight million pounds so what a you know a lot of people linked Tom Heaton to Bournemouth actually as well before you know when the the goalkeeping merry-go-round was a bit more uncertain Bjorn Engels heart of the defense has already formed a very good partnership with Tyrone Minx they didn't lose him pre-season Villa so they've had quite they won every single game scored a bag load of goals so they seem to have gelled pretty early on the one I'm interested to see is Douglas from Manchester City the Brazilian midfielder who never played for City hasn't played first-team football for a couple of years but he's just got his work permit through pretty sure he was on the bench last weekend and he's a city player they don't let many good ones go city 15 million pounds he could be and again he could look a bargain by half way through the season and of course in terms of our team news we said earlier no Dan Juma but apart from that there's no fresh concerns for Eddie how to worry no still I mean as we we're going to say every week but Steve Cook is didn't look fit last weekend he did say he started a struggle after about an hour of that game last weekend his groin has been playing him up so he's going to be managing himself I think I said that last weekend but other fitness worries you know Dan Juma was the only blow really on the on match day that he wasn't going to be available the other ones Lewis Cook Simon Francis are in America coming back Sunday Monday Francis is a bit further behind Junior Stanislaus is still a little bit away Lloyd Kelly still a few weeks maybe four or five weeks it does get yeah and then Gosling we've got to mention as well who's a good still two or three months away I spoke to him this morning as well he showed me his scar which is very nice of him I didn't really want to see it just after breakfast to be honest with you but yeah so there's a few around David Brooks of course you think of where all those are back fit but you know ultimately last weekend the team had a decent enough look about it but obviously was rusty and you know was nowhere near the levels and people will talk about the 343 formation and whether that suits Bournemouth I don't know and Harry Wilson I would think would would get a go this weekend definitely and as per last weekend I am going to ask you for a score prediction what did I say last week I'm sorry you didn't know you said 3-1 to Bournemouth last week see Willow last week said 2-0 he always says 1-1 he said 2-0 last week and it was 1-1 so he should stick to his guns I would I think Bournemouth would take a draw right now I think Villa are going to be decent at home this season I don't think the attacking three can be as blunt again as they were last week so I'm going to say they're going to click and it's going to be 2-2 because the last three away games last season produced 19 goals 5-0 at Brighton 3-3 at Saints 5-3 at Palace I know the pressure was off by then Eddie loved that stat didn't he in his press conference he loved me throwing that at him yeah so I'm going to go 2-2 2-2 well there we go if you are over 18 and you want to take part in predicting the score then you can head to mansionbet.com this week's winner can win two hospitality tickets to our game against Manchester City with the overall winner of the season winning a training ground experience that's all we've got time for for now but if you are going to Villa Park have a safe journey if not make sure you keep an eye on all of our social media for the latest updates bye for now


and the next time we can get into homogeneous transformations which combines rotations and translations. So, we think about conversions now. So, we have we started with the rotation matrix and I gave you yaw pitch and roll right. So, that is the first thing we did and you can go back and forth between these, but you have to be very careful about the problems I talked about the kinematic singularities, the non uniform representation and just generally because of non commutativity it gets complicated. So, when you have individual rotations and you are not combining them it is nice, but that is because it is based on three different axis angle representations that happen to be the coordinate axis right. Then we went down the path of axis angle representations. So, I mentioned over here you can convert back and forth between quaternions and rotation matrices. So, we can get to quaternions using this Q representation. So, unit quaternions. So, you may want to convert back and forth between these I am not giving the exact conversion formulas here. If you would like to look them up it is very easy to do a search and find those. You can also find them in my planning algorithms book I cover all these things in the context of robotics, but it is the same kind of thing. So, it is in my book. So, just you can look for that it is online for free. And then there is very simple conversions between this and axis angle representation, which by the Euler rotation theorem as I said is a very natural way to describe rotations. So, there is a very easy relationship between axis angle and quaternions. It requires some computational expense to go back and forth between rotation matrices and the others. So, very often people like to work directly in quaternion space because it makes it very natural for axis angle kinds of computations and representations as well. And all of this will turn out to be advantageous when we do things like head tracking and we want to avoid kinematic singularities. So, that is I think just about where I want to finish. Let me add one last thing here, which is the order of operations to pay attention to here. And this is just one sort of final reminder about non-commutativity and to pay close attention to the order. We have a question of if I have rotations r 1 r 2 or I have quaternions q 1 q 2, there is the interesting question of which is applied first, right? So, for example, let us suppose I have some point p equals x y z and I calculate p prime equals r 1 p and then I calculate p double prime equals r 2 p prime and now I would like to combine both these matrices together. So, I want to figure out what is p double prime is it r 1 r 2 p or p double prime equals r 2 r 1 p. So, which one of these is it? This one? So, a lot of people do not like this, they do not like the fact that wait a minute, if r 1 came first why is not r 1 appearing first, right? So, it is backwards. So, a lot of people call this would say this is counterintuitive. This is the way the algebra works because these matrices are acting from the left side and so, they come in act you know. So, that if you look at it by putting parentheses in you can understand it like this, right? You say first this gets applied and then this gets applied. So, if you add parentheses and remember associativity which does not matter for matrix multiplication, right? In these at this stage when we are when we are chaining together rotations this does not matter because we have a group of matrices that are being multiplied, but nevertheless if you add the parentheses back then you can keep track of it like that and remember that this is occurring first and then this. So, the order of operations matters because of non commutativity and just when you see a chain of matrices make sure you are correctly interpreting the order of operation. So, it is very easy to get that backwards it is a common source of mistakes and another thing is when you do inverses as we have talked about just make sure you are applying the proper inverses.  So, that is just a basic property of group theory it applies all over the place when you are dealing with algebra that is commutative you do not care, but when you have non commutative algebra which we found ourselves dealing with because of 3D rotations you have to reverse the order of the matrices when you apply the inverse and distribute it across each of the matrices, right? So, just something to pay attention to. So, if you are going to invert a sequence of quaternions the same thing is going to happen you are going to have to reverse the order of the quaternions and then apply the inverse to each one which is just these simple sign changes that I told you about, right? Questions about that? All right. So, I am going to I am going to finish up for today next time I will talk about homogeneous transform matrices you can read in chapters I believe 6 and 7 of the Shirley graphics book if you would like some background on this. Thanks.