Okay, good morning everyone. Hello, welcome again. So wonderful to see everybody. You've got such a beautiful group here in Zoom. It's really nice to see everyone. Okay, well, okay, so we have a wonderful movie this morning. I really love this one and I haven't seen David show it before. So I'm really looking forward to this.  I'm going to be hosting today. And I'll let you know how the day is going to go. So we have the movie with David at the start and then we're going to have a 10 minute break and we have breakout rooms after there where you can share any emotions or experiences you had with the movie. And then we'll have a 45 minute break and then we have the Q and A session with me. So I'll pass it over to you now, David. Thank you, Pete. Welcome everyone. So glad to see you all. What a great movie we have today. Wow, we're going to have such a joyful experience and I hope the whole day for you is just filled with bursting love and happiness and joy because that's our natural state of mind, is pure, pure joy. So some of you know what we do is during the week you vote on different themes. You tell me what themes are important to you and then you vote on them and then I pray to Jesus and I just say, okay, what do we got? Give me a movie for these beautiful themes that people have submitted from around the world. And then we watch a great movie together and we have a lot of fun and we feel the spiritual enrichment of the truth coming through us, through our hearts with all our brothers and sisters. So this week the top theme that you all voted for was experience the true meaning of I need do nothing. That is the deepest teaching in the history of the universe. I need do nothing. You are perfect as you are right now and you need do nothing for that perfection. You already are that. You are that this very instant, this moment and you need do nothing. And to me, when I was reading A Course in Miracles I said, wow, that is hands down the deepest teaching. When I came across that subsection in the text I need do nothing. I thought, wow, that is absolutely amazing. And Jesus was saying, well, there are other methods and other methods will everybody will make it back eventually, but he said, I'm gonna give you the fast track, which is I need do nothing. And he said, your way will be different and not in the form sense, but in the purpose sense. He says a holy relationship is given you as a means of saving time. That's just his way of saying in the present moment everything is healed right now if we just fully devote our attention to this present moment. So that is by far the top vote-getter with 49 votes. And when you hear those words, I need do nothing. There may be another voice in your mind that goes, right. What about my children? What about my job? What about my cleaning task? Or what about the many things I have on my to-do list today? Maybe you have a written to-do list. Maybe it's not written, it's just in your mind like lurking there. I have to do this today, I have to do that.  The key word there is need. In heaven with God, there are no needs. In heaven, there are no wants. And so in heaven, there's nothing lacking. And we could say that key word in I need do nothing is need. If you believe you have needs, then this is where the forgiveness work comes in because God didn't create you as a being with needs. God created you as a perfect being of light. And if you believe you have needs then that just means that there's some forgiveness work. Some emptying out of consciousness, some clearing. So that's a beautiful first theme right there. I need do nothing. And the do part may bother you a little bit. You may say, well, that sounds like idealism. I need do nothing. But what if all doings were based on your belief in the body? And what if you really weren't a body at all? What if you were just pure light and the body was just a figment of imagination? And then that you imagined that this body had to do many things. That's the to-do list.  And instead of focusing on the branch, you just threw the branch, the little twig into the river and you know, wood floats. So you watched this little twig bobbing and weaving as the current of the river took the twig and the twig didn't really do anything. It was just floating.  It never did anything. It just floated and you had convinced yourself that you were doing something when really the twig was just floating down the river. You see? So I want you all to join me today in opening your mind and your heart to being a floater, to being able to watch the body as if it's a floating twig in a river, the current will carry it. You don't even have to worry about where the current's gonna take it cause the current will take it to the ocean where the twig will be swallowed up in the best ocean. I'll give you a hint. It's a big ocean, it's heading for a big ocean but even while it's on the river you don't have to be concerned about that twig. The current will take the twig to the ocean without you doing anything. Hence, I need to do nothing. That's the joy of this present moment. Okay, second one is finding spirit within. Very precious, finding spirit within. Third one, loss of any kind is impossible. And the fourth one, safety in form versus true safety. And the final one is trust that I can't mess it up. You can't mess that twig up. The river has got the twig and there's nothing you can do to mess that twig up. That twig is gone, gone toward the ocean. And all you can do is kiss it goodbye and say, actually I'm tired of thinking of that twig as something I have to maintain. I have to dress it and bathe it. I have to feed it, but even in terms of I need do nothing wouldn't you want to know a state of mind where you're not thinking that the body needs oxygen to survive, that the body needs food to survive, that the body needs water to survive which is very analytical, this survival thing. And instead the twig will float to the ocean. That's a nice statement. That's a little more relaxing than I got to work to survive. You know, you see float is much more relaxing than work to survive. So today we have a movie and I'm so happy to show to you. It's an animated movie. How many of you like cartoons? Does anybody like cartoons? I love cartoons. I could watch Disney every day. Let's fire up Lion King, Pocahontas, you know, everything imaginable is there for us in the cartoon. So today we have a cartoon animated movie and the name of the movie is Pilgrim's Progress. This movie is based on the book. That was written back in, I think 1700s, 1600s. And it was written by John Bunyan. And it was so funny when this movie was announced, my friend Lucy Ricks from England said, oh, I'm living in the place where that book was written. She's out of all the places on earth. She's living there. She said, yeah, this guy, John, I know the very tree where he was arrested as he was a preacher, a pastor who was arrested. That happens sometimes when you keep professing love and oneness and forgiveness. Sometimes in this world you get arrested. He was arrested under a tree. Probably he was just sitting there and praying to the Lord. And that looked offensive and they had some law. So they arrested him. But while he was in prison, he wrote the book that this movie is based on. So isn't that nice? We're watching a movie that was written in prison. I think Gandhi actually did some of his best work in prison too. He did a lot of writing. And Gandhi loved it when they locked his body up because he was really free then. His mind was super free when they locked his body up because he didn't even have to care for the body, they'd feed him and put his body in a cell. He thought, this has got to be the best form of meditation I've ever done. I think he did more writing in prison actually than he did when he had his family. He was more freed up in prison than he was when he was with his family. So in this movie, we're going to see the main character and the main character's name is Christian. So Christian is, he's a family man. He's got a wife and children. And he lives in the city of destruction. And I know a lot of you may be saying, well, I don't really call the city where I live the city of destruction. Does anybody here live in the city of destruction? I think all of us do what we haven't admitted it. We have to go to science to tell us a little bit. In science, there's a term, if any of you know anything about science, there's a term called entropy. Anybody ever heard of entropy? Yeah, everything in time and space moves toward destruction, everything without exception. It's a scientific word, phenomenon, entropy. Everything moves to destruction. If you look at your body, it's very temporary and it's actually withering away. Did you ever think about that? No matter how much cream you put on it, it's just withering. It's withering away, it's subject to entropy. It's going away, it's very temporary. Some of you are enjoying the sunshine. I think some of us have sunshine. Flavia, I think it's still early hours in Hawaii. She's over in Hawaii, so the sun isn't there yet. But even the sunshine that we enjoy, that's just a star that's burning. And what the scientists have told us about the stars, those are gases that will burn out. That's right. The sun will burn out.  And when it burns out, what happens? Blackness, we're going, the cosmos is heading to blackness. The stars are burning out. But not to worry because we are a light that is beyond the stars. We are a light that is beyond the planets, beyond the black holes. We're the light of creation. We're the light of God. So it doesn't matter if the stars burn out. So everything in this world is temporary. And in this movie, our character, Christian, is going to start off with the wife, with children, and he lives in the city of destruction. And this is everyone's story. We all who seem to believe in a body and a world, our city would be aptly named the city of destruction. For example, some of you live in an apartment or a condo or a house. If you went into your beautiful, blissful, I need do nothing, what do you think would happen to your house? It would start to ship and peel. It would start to wither away. If you didn't do things to rejuvenate, to protect that house, that house would just fall apart. The time would just take that house and it would wither it away to rubble. What do you think's gonna happen to the body? You know, no matter how much we try to fool ourselves with fame, fortune, beauty, success, we can project all kinds of things onto the body, but it's just subject to entropy. It's just going away. In fact, as soon as it's born, seemingly as soon as it's born, it's already withering away, even in the embryo. It's already withering. It's on its way out. It's gonna disappear. The sands of time are ticking. The hourglass is going even in the womb. It's gone. It's over and done.  You're putting lipstick, Jesus says, on the lips of a skeleton. Thank you, Jesus, for those graphic reminders. Sometimes we need a graphic reminder like that, putting lipstick on a skeleton, Jesus says. Well, that's what we're doing when we're trying to give life to something that is lifeless. It's an image. It's a cartoon. This is trying to endow it with positive things or negative things when it's a twig and it's floating down the river. So let's let the twig float without trying to ascribe too many positive things to it or too many negative things to it. Okay, so as we move into this great movie, I think Jesus can help us out to get a quick start. Now, this is a course in Miracles. In the movie, there's a book that Christian will find and this book will have so much wisdom and so much truth that he will have to read the book nonstop and then he will have to practice the book the rest of his life. Well, it's kind of like we're dealing with a course in Miracles. Now that we have a course in Miracles, none of us have an excuse. None of us have an excuse. We got an owner's manual that's telling us how to wake up from this dream and you can choose to hide it away or you could choose to read it and then just practice it and live it and then toss the book aside. But here's what Jesus has to say for us today. Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. It is not necessary to seek for what is true but it is necessary to seek for what is false. Every illusion is one of fear, whatever form it takes and the attempt to escape from one illusion into another must fail. So basically he's describing the linear human condition and he's saying, when you go from day to day and you look for things to be better in time, maybe you're looking for a better relationship, a better job, a better education, a better place to live, a better climate, better friends, Jesus is laughing, all the angels are laughing going, ah, seeking to escape from one illusion into another. You see? He's saying don't even try to escape from illusions in time because time was made that you would not escape. It was made that you would get one image to pursue then another one and then another one and most of us go through our life just pursuing goals of the world. That's what ambition is. Future ambitions seem to be a good thing in this world but the ego made them up so that we would keep seeking for one thing after another without stopping to pause and say, maybe I should just stop seeking for images. Maybe I'm just perfect the way I am in spirit right now and I don't have to try to improve the spiritual reality that I am. So Jesus gives us some pep talks and he's telling us that we're actually entitled to miracles where we have a natural inheritance that's called spirit and our natural inheritance involves love that that's who we are and there's nothing we can do to escape love because God created us as love but it helps to have some pep talks. Here's a little pep talk from Jesus. In you is all of heaven. Every leaf that falls is given life in you. Each bird that ever sang will sing again in you and every flower that ever bloomed has saved its perfume and its loveliness for you. Woo, serenade me Jesus. Go ahead, serenade me.  Here's another one. Forgiveness is the key to happiness. Here is the answer to your search for peace. Here is the key to meaning in a world that seems to make no sense. Here is the way to safety and apparent dangers that appear to threaten you at every turn and bring uncertainty to all your hopes of ever finding quietness and peace. Here are all questions answered. Here the end of all uncertainty ensured at last. Jesus is just serenading us. He's serenading us with tunes of forgiveness. Come to the present moment and be free. Just calling softly like a soft instrument playing. Come to the present moment and be free. And then I think this has got to be one of the things that inspired me the most. I remember I was inspired by the course but when I got to lesson 122, I couldn't wipe the smile off of my face. It was too big. I couldn't wipe my smile away. Forgiveness offers everything I want. What could you want forgiveness cannot give? Do you want peace? Forgiveness offers it. Do you want happiness? A quiet mind, a certainty of purpose and a sense of worth, so and beauty that transcends the world. Do you want care and safety and the warmth of sure protection always? Do you want a quietness that cannot be disturbed? A gentleness that never can be hurt and a deep abiding comfort and rest so perfect it can never be upset. All this forgiveness offers you and more. It sparkles on your eyes as you awake and gives you joy with which to meet the day.  And when you wake again, it offers you another day of happiness and peace. All this forgiveness offers you and more. And it just goes on. I remember the first time I read it, I was like, oh please, I can't take it. He just goes on and on and more and more and more. The present moment offers you everything, everything. So in today's movie, we're going to see that Christian has got to make a decision whether he's going to follow what the book says and go on a seeming journey to find the celestial city. He's being told he can leave the city of destruction and go to the celestial city. Doesn't that sound good? That sounds like a nice alternative to me. City of destruction, celestial city. He's being told he can go to the celestial city but he will have to face what's in the unconscious mind as we all do. Whatever we believe in, if we believe in evil, we will perceive evil. If we believe in obstacles, we will notice obstacles. If we believe in hardships, if we believe in challenges, if we believe in difficulties, we will perceive hardships and challenges and difficulties. It's all our mind. Really, we're perfect, but as long as we believe we're something other than perfect, if really we're everything, but as long as we believe we're less than everything, really we are innocent, but as long as we believe that we are guilty, then we have to watch the scenes that come on our movie, our dreamscape. And every scene that we see is just an opportunity to forgive, forgive ourself for thinking of it. Why do we have to have demons? If God didn't create demons, why would we have to have demons? We don't. We don't need demons. I don't know about you. I don't enjoy demons. I'm not a fan of demons. I'm a fan of love and joy and peace. And yet, whatever is believed in will appear on our dreamscape for us to walk past it, to not give it any power, to not be distracted by it. And what I have found is that instead of being dependent on the body or dependent on the world, that it's better to be dependent on your intuition. We all have a great, great intuition. It's a spectacular intuition. And that's what we should be depending on, not on anything but our intuition. Sometimes when I've traveled around the world, people will say, you know, why do bad things happen to me? And what I say is, well, the world's just a reflection of the state of mind. And I do say, if you want anything from this world, the world will want something from you.   In fact, I know some birds that even sing at night, but you're just gonna sing all day long because you have a happy song and that's all you know. But as soon as you pause and you start to think, I want something from this world. It doesn't matter what. I want money from the world. I want success from the world. I want what the Pat Benatar song said, treat me right. If you even wanna be treated right from the world, you want something from the world. You're looking for respect from the images of the world. And if you want something from the world, even respect the world will want something from you because as you sow, so shall you reap. This is the law of karma. This is the law of giving and receiving. If you want something from the world, it means you believe in the ego. I'll use the word get. If you want to get something from this world, you believe in separation. God only gives. God doesn't even know what getting is. It's a one track mind. Give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give. That's all the light knows is to extend and to give. And because we are children of light, then that is our true motive. So this is a beautiful parable today we're gonna watch. This is a beautiful allegory. This is the first time when this movie was introduced to me, they said it's based on the second best selling book in the history of the human race. Wow, second best selling book. What's the first best selling book? The Bible. So this book comes in, slides in at number two behind the Bible. That's a pretty well read book. If it's the number two seller all time, because we know there's a lot of books, but I think the reason this is such a best seller is because it touches on our heart in a very, very deep way. If you were just a child and your parents sat you down and said, we're going to tell you about the meaning of life. This would not be telling you about the birds and bees. They would be telling you, we seem to be sleeping and have forgotten our creator. We seem to be in a perceptual world of time and space where we have major amnesia going on. And they would have told the child, your only purpose is to wake up from this dream. Your purpose is not to succeed in the dream. The parent could have said, I don't care, whatever grades you get, they're perfect. You get an A, a B, an F, it's perfect. You get a job, you lose a job, it's all right. You seem to get sick, you're well, doesn't matter. The only purpose this world holds is that you wake up from it. Imagine if that was your training as a child to wake up from this dream. And this is a dream for sure. So the purpose is to wake up and then Jesus is telling us through the Bible and the Course, he's telling us it's through forgiveness. It's letting go of every dark thought in your mind, every judgment in your mind. And what if you were told, you don't have to worry about the future, that everything will just come to you very naturally. The people you meet, they're all part of a pre-arranged script. You don't even have to figure out who you're supposed to be with or who to meet. You don't have to be worried about being with the right people because there are no right people. They're all dream figures. None of them are right or wrong. They're just dream figures that are there to reflect what you believe in your mind. So you should just be grateful for all these dream figures. But what if you really had that feeling in your heart, you didn't need to do anything. You just needed to watch. Watch the characters that show up. They're all for spiritual awakening. Watch the places that seem to show up in your mind. They're all for spiritual awakening. And what if you were told there are no accidents? There's no chance. Nothing is at random. And that everything that appears to be happening is all for you to wake up. Everything that you perceive is designed with one purpose in mind to wake up from the dream and remember your spiritual reality. So there's no morality. There aren't good things and bad things. We don't need to worry about judging the good things and the bad things because everything's working perfectly for the wake-up call. And you don't have to strain your mind over the good things and the bad things because that body that seems to be experiencing the good things and the bad things is part of the trick. Remember, it's a twig. It's being floated anyway. So if it's being floated, why worry about the twig? If the twig is floating toward the ocean, why not just enjoy it? Why not enjoy every single moment to the fullest? So our main character, Christian, we'll see in the movie begins, he opens up and he has a wife and children but he is going to feel a deep calling into trust, into faith and into an escape from the city of destruction. And to me, that's as simple as it gets. If you're not happy with the world in any way, then what you really are praying for is a hope to escape the perception of destruction, the perception of linear time, the perception of a transitory state of being where everything is always fluctuating but nothing is stable and nothing is certain. Yeah, I think that's something we all really want to escape. We want certainty. We want consistency. We want joy in our hearts and we won't be content for anything less than absolute joy, bursting joy. Remember what Jesus says when you wake up in the morning, it sparkles on your eyes as you awake and gives you joy with which to meet the day. Wow, that's a sentence we could hold in our hearts. Sparkles on our eyes as we awake and gives us joy with which to meet the day. So, sit back and enjoy the ride today. Remember you're watching the movie of the cartoons of the second most popular book in the history of the universe. So you can really enjoy it. And I'll pop in from time to time with some commentary to just add a little bit of context to what our friend Christian is going through. So enjoy, enjoy the ride. I know I will. Thank you.


Welcome to how do I identify if he's right for you? I'm Matthew coast and with me today is Joe Amoya from GPS for love calm And Joe is Joe's an expert in helping women identify Emotionally unavailable men how to find men who are ready for a relationship and how to create a healthy relationship with them Once you've found those those types of men that you're looking for So thanks for being with me today, Joe. Thank you for having me mad. It's an honor and privilege to be here with you Awesome. So just to get started. Can you tell us a little bit about why? You started helping women. What what what got you started in this? Okay, so because we're limited on time I'll give you the cliff note version basically I My occupation was a chiropractor. I went to school and I practiced chiropractic for about 20 years and Struggled in my love life and ultimately got engaged to a woman who was completely wrong for me Was literally 28 days away from getting married and we both realized we were making a huge mistake We pulled the plug and I did a lot of work on myself to say, you know, what happened I thought I was a smart intelligent guy yet. I was in a relationship where I was absolutely miserable And yet I was still willing to marry that person So as a result of doing that inner work and getting to the truth I realized that and there was a huge hole in my life There was a huge void my dad died when I was 15 years old had a great relationship with my dad And ultimately what I was trying to do is create a family of my own and quite honestly She was the meal ticket so realize that you know what that relationship sucked I never wanted another unhappy and unfulfilling relation. I didn't care if I had to be single never had a son of my own I never wanted to be in another crappy relationship So then I started asking myself some questions Well, what is it that I need because in that relationship I did everything to make her happy and make the relationship work And I was miserable so as a result of that I created something I called a checklist for love and got clear on what were those important qualities and characteristics that I needed from a potential Mate once I define those and I simply started dating and really would literally screen people to say are you this person? Do you have what I need? You know didn't go for the chemistry that I used to go for and you know the hot factor that a lot of Us guys do I started focusing on the outside But also the the inside those intrinsic qualities and as a result I met my wife and from the get-go from day one It was just this easy natural relationship. We've now been together 16 years married 14 have not only one but three sons and it's that relationship that we all want and Altly in my journey I realized that this was my purpose in life is to help others create this because at the end of the day We're all wired to love and to be loved and so what do we need to create that relationship? We really want and and that we deserve in life. So that's kind of the clip-built version Awesome. Yeah, that's that's that's amazing and and it's great that you figured out when you did You know that that the relationship that you're in just wasn't going to work for you because I know You know, I know for myself a lot of the women in our community will contact me after being in a relationship for three five seven years with someone who just isn't isn't looking for the same things that she's looking for who just isn't compatible really and and and having a healthy relationship and She's constantly Attempting to turn this guy who she's with into mr. Right and and it's real interesting because I see a lot of information like that out on the internet where The advice is to just turn the guy that you're with into the right guy You know, don't don't go out and screen anybody make sure you know make him into fit the mold of who you want to be So so why do you think it's so important to to screen out men? What? What would this help women do? Wait a minute really I'm a simpleton I like to break things down into its simplest easiest components and to me it really comes down to do you want to be happy?  That you don't have to turn somebody to make him into who you you want him to be But who is naturally that person that you're looking for from the get-go and so I believe that there's one person on this earth At least one person that can naturally give you what it is you're looking for and you know You and I have spoken before and that it really is this fear that I'm never gonna find what I really want So I'm gonna have to take this guy this square peg and make him fit in the round hole Where and that's why you know the majority of people struggle in their relationships because they don't believe there's that one guy out there Or you know, they want the guy. That's really hot that makes them feel special in the bedroom But who makes them makes them miserable outside so it's really about getting clear and Focusing on finding that one guy and I believe and I've learned is that when you operate from that place and you're not afraid And you're willing to give up the good to go for the great that the universe kind of takes care of the detail And that guy will show up. However, he's meant to show up in your life Yeah, so one of the big concerns that I get from a lot of women is that is that they really don't think that there's there's a great guy out there for him and and that every man that they meet is a commitment foe or or that Ever you know when he when he says something to her like he wants to be with her and gets really excited and and you know Talks about marriage and then all of a sudden he disappears on her Are men really all commitment foes? Well first of all what we need to do is we need to differentiate because I believe that there's a difference between men and boys So the way I explain that is boys are the ones I have three boys, you know They're 11 9 and 7 and you know they want what they want what they want when they want it That's kind of what boys do and ultimately there's a maturation process and it's my job as their father to teach them That's not how it worked that your choices and decisions ultimately affect other people So there's some guys who never get the message and they live the rest of their life that way You know it's all about what they want on their terms and a lot of these guys quite simply You know you're a guy are just looking to get late and so those are the kind of guys They could be amazing the chemistry can be awesome. They could be great lovers not the best relationship partners So you got to realize if you want to have some fun go ahead and knock yourself out But if you think you're going to turn one of those guys into a relationship material You're wasting your time and I know a lot of people listen to this and you have been there done that So you got to start off with that and then differentiate that they're also men who get those are the guys who? Emotionally available who are responsible who are unselfish who know how to be good relationship partners And who are willing to do so so you've got to be able to quite quickly be able to differentiate Look and at this stage of the game every woman should know that a guy is going to some guys the boys They're going to tell you what you want to hear and they might even think that their relationship material But ultimately their actions are going to show you that they're not so the beauty of life in screening You just have to sit back and allow them to show you one of the biggest mistakes women make is they jump into relationships and They get involved with these guys who say and do all the right things in the beginning And then as you say they disappear and the women like you know What the hell he said all the right things in the beginning. Yes, just because he said it doesn't mean he's going to live up to it So how does how does a woman know that a guy is looking for a relationship? And what what's what is it that tells her that that this guy might actually be worth Pursuing or or allowing him to pursue her The biggest thing and again to make it real simple is a guy shows you that having a relationship as a priority to him So when I met my wife, I didn't play games. I incorporate her in all aspects of my life You know if I went out with friends, you know, I invited her to go out to friends If I had a family function I invited her to a family function if I wanted to be with her I called her and I showed up and I took her out again and again I didn't call her every three months I didn't call her only when it was convenient for me and I had an opening in my schedule I moved my schedule around because I wanted to be with her because being with her was important to me So when a guy is looking for a relationship and here's to here's the key for it He's going to consistently show you by his actions Not just his words, but by his actions that being in a relationship is a priority and is important to him Okay, so is there a timeframe that women should Wait in order before they end up getting physically intimate with a guy. What what? You know, how can a woman kind of protect herself? Sure, and it's a great question and I say there you know the time frame as far as five dates five weeks two months six months That's really an individual decision that each woman has to make but always when I work with my clients what I teach them is that You know because when you create your list like okay What are the things that I need is this guy consistently showing up and giving me all those other important things and once you see that he's Giving you those other things and that he's showing you consistently by his actions that it's a priority to be with you Then give up the goods because part of the challenge is you give up the goods in the beginning and the oxytocin and the estrogen And all the hormones kick in you tend to miss the other red flags And you tend to ignore them because you don't want to see them You don't want to accept the fact that he's a good guy, but not the right guy And so it's you've got to really go in with some trepidation as far as saying you know I'm gonna go there, but I got to make sure that's the last place I go and kind of save that you know for a guy Who's really earned that right you know one of the biggest things I see with women all the time Is they give that privilege to a guy and then the guy takes advantage of it and then they get pissed off It's like well You know you got him kind of make him earn it not to play games because I'm not an advocate of for that at all but just showing up they're saying look I'm looking for a relationship and I'm looking for a guy that wants me for Something else other than what's in my pants and so a guy who's looking for that will show you consistently It's he looks it as an investment that he doesn't mind investing a little time Altly if he knows it's gonna pay dividends down the road and he's kind of clear on what that is So when I work with women I try to say you know look let a guy know upfront look if you're looking to get late It's not gonna happen tomorrow. You know it's not gonna take three years But I've got to be comfortable I've got to be confident that we're on the same page and we want the same things out of life And once I get to that point Then we'll go there and I promise you that it'll be it'll be worth the wait and most guys who are looking for a relationship Don't have a problem with that.  I've got needs It's all about me and you know, that's just a part of the relay those are the guys you got to be wary of Okay, so when do you have this Conversation with them is it the first date is it the you know before you sleep with them? Is it what when when should a woman have this conversation about what she's looking for and and and You know whether this guy is relationship material or not Well, I believe a woman should have that conversation as soon as she wants to you know part of the fear as well If I say that he's gonna get scared away. Well, guess what if he gets scared away He's showing you he was looking to get late So it's a matter of you don't just come on.  It's it's just a natural conversation You know dating is simply an interaction between two individuals trying to get to know each other So you don't have to bring it up. Okay 45 minutes into conversation now We'll talk about it. It will just naturally emerge, you know in relation with my wife We never even spoke about it. It just happened naturally in organic organically But I knew based on the kind of person she was that she wasn't gonna give it up And nor was I looking to get in her past and I'd done that and very none of those relationship led to the result I wanted so it's like okay I'm gonna go there, but I'm gonna make sure these other things that are important that are important are there first Okay, great. So if One of the big questions that a lot of the women had when I posed this Interview with you was was where to find these men, you know Is there a specific place that a woman should go? Is there you know a magical spot that? You find all the quality men that are looking for relationships. Yes, there's there's about five acres off I 95 and in southern Florida where they all hang out No, the reality is is they're all over You know just like they're good women good women all over and so and that's why I kind of alluded to earlier It's when you're out there.  I believe in who you're being energetically and how you're living your life and By putting yourself out there will put you in position to find that guy I mean everybody knows I mean I I've got friends and family that have met their spouses in Multitudes away from bowling to the beach to on a bus to in a park in New York City from dates to online dating You know blind dates, so that's the beauty of life is that you don't have to go Where do I go? Just sit back live your life and if you're being energetically who you need to be the universe will kind of fill in the details great, so Um What about online dating is there you know? I have a Sometimes I get women that will come to me and they'll say that you know they met this guy and they she thought he was great and and they had this great conversation together and and then He he disappeared on her is there a you know and many times It'll be like off a craigslist or off a pof.com or match calm is there is there a good place to go online Yeah, first of all, I'm a huge fan of online dating Primarily because that's how I met my wife now if you would have told me that 17 years ago I would have met the love of my life online I would have laughed at you I've called you every name in the book and I would have bet everything I own against it But again, that's what I talked about just putting yourself out there and kind of universe filling in details Why I'm a huge proponent of online dating is because you get to connect with someone you get to screen them By reading their profiles by talking to them by interacting you talked about a woman who says she met a guy and he disappeared My response is great. You didn't waste a lot more of your time This guy showed you right from the get-go. He wasn't interested in a relationship.  So if a guy's not willing to invest, you know, 25 30 bucks to find the love of his life and For a relationship. What does that say about where he's at? So, you know, the old mantra you pay for what you get. I'm a big proponent of Paid sites that being said the best sites to me are the ones where a person actually writes their profile Because they you know profiles like a written advertisement and You know ladies who are doing advertisement pay attention because if you say the same thing that everybody's saying I love the beach I'm a good person. I have a big heart. I love my dog guys are like who cares You know a guy is reading a profile going are you the kind of woman that I'm looking for? And so you want to write about those things that make you unique and that make you stand out from the rest So a well-written profile works wonders and what I find people who say I hate online dating It doesn't work just really aren't good at it because they just don't know because everybody nobody ever showed them Or taught them how to do it right. It's like going to a gym. You can go to a gym That doesn't mean you're gonna get in shape. You've got to go and utilize the equipment properly and have the knowledge and the skills to put Yourself in position to succeed Great. So so what should a woman look for when she's Searching for a guy on an online dating site. Is it you know that you have the typical stuff? Which is the you know how tall he is and how much money he makes and you know all the different like Matching algorithms and stuff. What do you think about that stuff, right? So first of all, I don't want an algorithm picking my mate and I hope anybody else wouldn't want an algorithm picking theirs So it's a matter.  So you know the first thing is the premise of understanding, okay? This all sounds wonderful Is this really you because again? We all paint a wonderful wonderful picture that we've all got it together that we've got no baggage And that we're emotionally available and we these we're these great relationship creatures when the reality is it's really not true So going off with the premise that okay, you look nice Okay Now do you seem to be the kind of person that I'm looking for and I think that's why having that checklist is real important When I was looking for my wife. I knew what I was looking for so as I read her profile like hmm Seems that she seems like the kind of girl that I was looking for now. Did that mean she was hell? No, she could have been you know a lunatic for all I know But as I talked to her as I engaged her as I dated her the more I went out with her the more I saw that she was the kind of person that I was looking for so online dating is simply a forum to meet men and That's how you have to look at it. Okay. This is a great way of it You know of getting an introduction you can really meet somebody today You know with smartphones you could be on a bus and you could interact and find someone But that's simply the introduction now. You've got to go screen. You've got to do the like work You've got to ask the questions in a way So that you can differentiate is it the kind of guy that you're looking for and that's what dating is for Dating is simply a process to get to know someone to see if you want to have a relationship with them Well and a lot of a lot of the men who email The women in our community at least Tend to use these like cookie cutter Emails and and they don't really say anything about themselves and many times even when one of the women replies back He won't reply back to her again. Do you have any tips for how to you know get this? Get a guy's interest or or get a conversation starting right? Well again that the first thing is to differentiate if these guys are using cookie cutter responses Okay, they're not responding when you say back. They're showing you that they're either boys or They're guys who aren't serious about having a relationship with you So one of the best ways is to engage a guy is to find something because remember a lot of people are doing this online Dating thing and most of them are doing it wrong It's high you know wink at this and wink at that and you know check this out or call me and As you say, it's just something they cotton pick cotton paste and send to everybody Where you want someone who takes the time to not only look at your picture? Let's be honest. That's what's going to attract them first, but then looks at your profile and says hmm It's interesting. I want to know more about you. So it works both ways of just starting to pick something of common interest Where you say hey, you know I see that you know you like Bon Jovi and you know what I'm a huge Bon Jovi fan What's your favorite album and now you're starting a conversation and now the guy will come back Oh, well, I like you know Slippery when wet and he starts talking about the oh, I do too. What's my what's your favorite? And then you just start going back and forth. You have a natural dialogue And it's opened up and so it works to a guy who's interested will do the same thing He'll ask you questions as if he's interested in getting to know you you know a lot of times What happens is oh, you know, you're so beautiful. You're what are you doing? Why are you still single and it's like come on really, you know, that's your opening line You're saying that to everybody what makes me so and not saying you're not attractive But if that's what a guy's starting off with he's showing you the focus is on the external Where you want someone who says who doesn't address that because he's gonna be if he's interested in you You would hope he's attracted to you So now is he interested in you as the whole person and does he engage you and want to know does he ask you questions? Or is it all about him? It's like, okay. Well check my stuff out. You contact me. It's not how it works so What what about? Guys who are who are just What are some telltale signs that a woman might have that that a guy just isn't what she's looking for is it? You know is it the way that he? Is it what he says it is it how he acts?  This is where getting clear on what a specific woman is looking for will help her understand that This guy isn't first.  I've worked with other women who you know Having a family is very important to them So if they talk to someone and he's got a poor relationship with his family or he can't stand this family member And he's saying well I don't know if I want to get married and she's clear that she wants to get married It's a waste of time, you know at this stage of the game a guy should know if he wants to get married if he wants to have a family And so this is where a woman has to be clear on You know, this is what's important to me and if we're not on the same page I'm not going to try and you know manipulate you and trick you into being who I want you to be I'm gonna be honest with myself and move on to find that guy who naturally is on the same page So you don't think that Maybe after a while a guy might Feel like he loves her so much that he'll change his mind about marriage or kids or one of those topics I didn't say that what I said is that if you want to roll the dice You can But it's a very risky proposition Because people are who they are and if you understand human behavior when a guy says something it's usually true So I say it's kind of like you can run across the highway without looking and There might be one person who gets across but for everyone who gets across 999 get smashed So I'm a big believer and just go find the person who naturally Gives you and who naturally is on the same page from the get-go. It's just a lot. It's just a lot easier journey What about women who attract all the wrong kinds of men all the time? Is there a reason why why women do that? What do you think? What there's always there's reasons for everything that happens in life any time you see a pattern in life There's a reason you know if you have rats showing up in your house. There's a reason why and So if you attract certain types of guys There's a reason why and that's where a woman has to really do I call it mirror time is really take a good Look at herself and go what's going on? Why am I attracting these guys who? You know we call the bad boy syndrome, you know, there are these great guys They say all the right thing the chemistry is amazing, but then they're douchebags You know there's reasons why and that's where a person has to really like get honest with themselves and get real You know part of the challenge and I see it a lot of time in our community We've got all men this or all men that I said until you've dated every man man on the planet You cannot use that statement Okay. Yes. Are there a lot of boys out there? Hell. Yeah, you know you're a guy on this planet You know all the tricks that men use you know, you're a good-looking dude I'm sure you've you know you've had your way back in the day But also you get to the point where you're like hey, you know what there's a difference between these men and the boys And so now let me let me find guys who naturally from the beginning show up and Show me that they're interested in having a relationship with me and they're interested in being with me And they're interested in being faithful and committed to me Those are the kind of guys that you invest there So how about when a woman goes out and she's looking to meet men Should she just wait for men to approach her? Should she approach men?  So go find something else that will put you in position to meet and attract Decent guys. However, if you're a woman who doesn't mind initiating a conversation Then simply go up to a guy and just engage him in a conversation You know ask him about you know, if you're at a sporting event, you know, ask him about the teams He's watching, you know, if you're out at the beach, you know, and you see him right reading a book Ask him about the book he's reading, you know Part of this thing with men and women is they were so afraid of simply having a conversation With another human being and you have to look at a man is simply another human being And so if you and there are a lot of guys out there who can be intimidated, you know Just women don't understand there are a lot of guys who are afraid of rejection as well You know, I wasn't the kind of guy to walk up to a grocery woman in a supermarket crash my car into her and start a conversation That just wasn't me But if I was at a barbecue or I was at an event there was another woman there that I found attractive I'd have no problem Engaging her in conversation and then if it went well asking for her number at the end So you really have and this is part of the problem with a lot of the you know Quote-unquote experts out there where you talk about manipulating do this to say that it's like who are you? What works for you?  So you've got to find What are the rules that you're comfortable with and that will help you get the result you want? Yeah, you're absolutely right and one of the things that That I've noticed a lot is a lot of women kind of tend to think that men are like these Just confidence machines, you know, like they're just out there and they see the woman they want and they just you know Go approach, you know immediately and and and I've definitely You know my background and and anybody listening to this probably knows a little bit about my background but was of I used to be a men's dating coach initially and the biggest concern that a lot of Men had was the approach because just about everybody's scared of the approach and and the only guys that I ever met that Weren't that would just you know immediately walk up. We're guys who approached all the time, you know, and so Yeah, you're absolutely right and and I think that's another reason why online dating is a great a great vehicle It's just because it it makes that interaction so much easier And and you don't have to put yourself out on the line as much and and I've noticed actually Facebook has been getting a lot of people Attracting men on Facebook as well. Do you know anything about? Facebook and and what's going on there? In what regard I mean we do Facebook my wife's a big for I don't spend a lot of time on it We don't do a lot of a lot of dating stuff on Facebook, but again, it's simply another vehicle You know, I think Facebook is a great avenue for people to connect You know, I've met a lot of people who were able to connect with old flames With people that they knew when they were younger and as a result of engaging each other It they allowed to start that process So I'm for anything and everything that's going to bring a man and woman together To allow them to then take the process from there But you know, I want to add something you talked about, you know, I said I met my wife online My wife actually reached out to me simply because I didn't even know she was out there online dating is such a numbers game And I was so distracted, you know interacting with others that I didn't even know she had a profile online And my wife is the most laid-back easy-going like that's so not her nature And I said to her I said, you know, that's so unlike you. Why did you and if she's like, you know I was at that point in my life where I had nothing to lose and So she's like, you know, I've read your profile I liked it and I figured I'd send you an email if you responded great. If not, no big deal So you've got nothing to lose by simply sending an email now once she did that I took over took over the role of the man and Pursued her and show her that I was interested in getting to know her Okay, and so Would you suggest then that because a lot of times what ends up happening is is when a woman if a woman Starts initiating things she kind of takes over that that role and starts leading the interaction and starts pushing for different dates and pushing to You know take them out here and hey, let's go there. Are you saying that a woman shouldn't do that? What I'm saying is a woman. It's kind of like this. It's like hey. I'm over here. Check me out Okay, once the guy realizes that then it's his role as the man I believe is to initiate to follow up because again if you're doing all the work you're asking him out You're making all the plans. He's kind of showing you. It's not a priority to him Where you want the guy to be the man and say, okay, look, I've got this. I'll take the lead Not because you're subservient to me, but because that's what us men do We're the pursuers and every woman loves to be pursued She loves to know that a guy's interest and you know Matt we're men We love to pursue a woman and know that she's interested in us that that's great for our egos Yeah, absolutely You know so one thing you talked about before was this this checklist for love right and and whenever I talk to a woman about What it is that she's looking for in a man. I'll either get one of two things I either get this long shopping list of Every single trait and aspect that a man could possibly have that she wants and she's you know very stuck and rigid on that Or I'll get that she hasn't really thought about it. Um, so so are you think are you saying that these? this checklist that you know what's What's something that a woman would look for is this you know should she just take that list that she has of everything she wants and and Go up to every man and she meets and you know check one thing off at a time Right see and again, that's great question because you need to differentiate because the magic word is one There's a lot of things that we want But a one is simply a preference So the way I look at it in this process I think my clients do is that it's cool that you want that but what is it that you need if you're gonna spend the Rest of your life with someone what are those important qualities and characteristics that you absolutely positively must have and if you Don't have them you'll never be truly happy and fulfilled So it's what I call the essential needs so the items that ultimately wind up on the checklist And that's really different for each individual or called essential needs So you've got to learn to hopefully define that and from my experience most individuals have anywhere from 7 to 12 Essential needs so once you identify now the process is easy because now you date and go okay Do you have these things? Can you give me these things that I need and either does or he doesn't but it's not you know I totally get what you're saying is I've got 362 criteria, and if he doesn't meet everyone I Can't be with them. I'm like well. You'll never find a man that does that so go buy some cats and get ready Okay, so So let's say that a woman's met this amazing man that she's looking for You know Mr. Wright and she wants to start a relationship with them one of the big concerns that I get is that a lot of women feel like relationships need to be as Just this magical easy going you know flow with thing where everything it happens perfectly And then they freak out when whenever an argument comes up You know is that a major concern? If when starting a relationship is is to make sure that there's no arguing there's no fighting There's none of that kind of stuff and and if it does come up Is it some kind of clue that that things are going to go sour? Well again Matt It's very indicative the two people in the relationship because the reality is when you get two people from two completely different backgrounds Even if they have the same morals values and goals, they're going to be things that they disagree on So it's how they communicate during those times how they resolve conflict How they do agree to disagree sometimes that hopefully will determine The state and the quality of their relationship. So I'm just a big proponent of finding someone where you're not just going like this all the time Now I know there are some people who actually enjoy that.  It's not all pixie dust. You know, it's not all sunshine and rainbows that's unrealistic and so finding the right partner that can help you have the most enjoyable and Stress-free life as possible or relationship as possible So do you think that a woman should avoid getting into a conversation or an argument where there's an address where there's a disagreement? No, because you're gonna have disagreement again It's how you resolve those disagreements if one person is making the other person wrong Guess what? That's what gonna be doing throughout their relationship But if they say okay, well, you know, why do you feel like that? Tell me I see it differently. Tell me help me to understand why you see it the way you do Okay, that's very healthy. You're gonna be there with times in 16 years when my wife and I saw things different ways and We were able to communicate and say, okay, why do you see it this way? And it's like, well, I didn't see that You know, I agree or it's like, you know what? Maybe we'll just agree to a disagree But that doesn't mean I love you doesn't mean I don't want a relationship It's just in the big scope of things. It's not worth arguing over awesome well, um, I appreciate everything that you've had to say today Joe and I really It's really been an honor to have you here on our show. What's the best way to? Get ahold of you if if somebody wants to contact you if they want to check out your stuff if they if they want to Find out what you're all about. Sure. Well first of all Matt I want to thank you for the opportunity of being here and I want to acknowledge you for the work You're doing you know, I know us guys We got a bad rap sometimes and so the fact that you're spending your time and energy You know dedicated to helping women improve their love life and find that great relationship I you know, I want to acknowledge you for that Secondly, you know if they want to find me simply go to GPS for love calm I mean, it's really the simple easiest way just go there You know we put out blogs, you know several times a week just like you and you know Just check it out if it resonates with you great. If not, that's okay, too awesome well, thanks a lot for being on the show and Everybody I will speak with you again soon great. Thanks a lot man. I appreciate it


eight top trending products to sell online, beginners and experts. Hey, if you've been trying to figure out what's the next hot product, well, you've landed on the right video because I'm gonna give you research behind the eight top products that you should be selling that are exploding online and we're starting right now. Hey, do me a favor, before we get started, don't forget to hit that subscribe button down there. If it's red, click it, turn it gray, and don't forget, turn on bell notifications, turn on all bell notifications so you're notified each and every time I do a new video. Okay, so we're selling online and we've got to have products that are gonna be, what, selling well? Yeah, so what I've done is I've compiled the top eight ones. Now anybody can sell these products, it's not hard to do. And a lot of these products, no matter what your niche is, you can kind of work them in to your niche. So let's get started with the first one. Okay, and the first one is Dormats. 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So it doesn't matter if somebody's trying to express their hobby, their political views, their feelings, or just an idea, they can put it on a Dormat and you can make money on it. The next item is home storage containers. Yeah, we started organizing since we were home, right? As a matter of fact, home storage container sales have gone up 276% in the past year and an additional 115% growth in stores that are now carrying home storage containers. The more we stay home, the more we try to organize, the more we try to get things put in its place and home storage containers are a great item for you to sell. You can do this as an affiliate, you can inventory them, but I like doing it as an affiliate and selling products that I don't even have to invest in. The search term storage containers has grown to 135,000 per month. And the search term food storage containers has grown to 74,000 per month. There's a huge market out there just waiting to buy them from you. There's so many different types.  There's so many different types of storage containers that you can sell and start making money today. The next item, number three, is kitchen towels. Kitchen towels, yeah. Now, don't think if you like to buy kitchen towels, think about what the market. And the market says 192% growth year over year for kitchen towels. And there's also been 109% increase in websites that are now selling that product. It may surprise you how big this market actually is. According to market trends, it's expected to grow to $20.9 billion in sales by 2026. Don't you wanna be part of that? Now, you probably wouldn't be surprised to know that William Sonoma and Bed Bath and Beyond hold a pretty big share of this market. However, drop shipping these items is extremely cheap. And since it's so cheap, an average individual can get into it and a lot of times beat the retail prices of some of these big box stores. 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As a matter of fact, there's over 90,500 searches a month for that term. And as technology gets better and better and better, these toy kitchens and these play foods become more and more realistic and people become more and more interested in them. Check out that niche. It'll make you a lot of money. Our next category, number six, is mobile carpet and upholstery. It is a huge market. Matter of fact, the growth last year alone, it's a 106% increase and an 85% increase in sites that are now carrying these products. Now there are 74,000 searches a month for car mats but for custom car mats, there's 8100. Now what does that tell you? There's a lot of people that want these customized and through the print on demand resources that you can find everywhere on the internet now. Now you can design custom floor mats that will match any niche. Maybe they're into pets. Maybe they're into fishing. Maybe they're into football. Maybe they're into soccer. Whatever it is, you can design these floor mats and upholstery covers for their seats to match just about any niche and you can cash in on them. And you know the cool thing is it's pretty easy to promote these items. You can create videos that are custom installation videos. You can create a blog around the niche of cars or a particular type of car and you can then sell your floor mats to the audience that you've designed. If you're into social media, of course you wanna look at the different niches of cars, maybe it's older cars, maybe it's antique cars, maybe it's sports cars, maybe it's race cars or luxury cars. But any one of these particular areas, these niches, you can sell your mats to, you can sell your poster covers to and make a lot of money. The next category, number seven, temporary tattoos. That's right, temporary tattoos. There's been a 27% increase in purchasing of temporary tattoos online in the past year and a 93% increase in stores that are now carrying temporary tattoos. They're easy and they're cheap to sell. Now with the previous year's lockdown, a lot of people couldn't go to tattoo parlors and since they couldn't and they still had that desire for a tattoo, they turn to henna tattoos or temporary tattoos.  They're hugely popular now and I think they put a hurt into the tattoo shops. These are sold really well on platforms like TikTok, Instagram and Twitter. It's a great place to market them. Now according to Social Insider, they say that posts with people with tattoos get a 5% greater interaction than any other post that they do. Crazy. And the last one, number eight, hair styling and accessories. Well, that kind of goes to figure, right? Because we couldn't go out and get our hair cut, we all had to turn to alternatives. I remember in the beginning of the lockdown, we couldn't even find scissors or anything to cut hair with because they were all sold out. So these accessories are hugely popular now. Now a lot of people who adopted doing at home haircuts have stuck with it. At home hair grooming, they've stuck with it. They found out that they can do it a lot cheaper than actually going out to a beauty salon. Now this will probably blow your mind, but there was a 245% increase in the past year of these products and 110% increase in websites that carry them. Now, hair styling tools are getting 12,000 searches a month and if you drill down to hot tools under hair styling, it goes up to 33,000 searches per month. There's a huge market there for you. Now get this, on YouTube, the top 20 videos for hair styling tools get 1.7 million views per month. Now of course, the possibilities are endless as far as marketing these. You can have guides on how to do hair styling. You can do videos on how to do hair styling. You can do how-to videos. There's so many things and that can also lend itself to makeup and clothing and a whole bunch of other areas that you can upsell to. Now we've gone through the top eight items you should be selling because of their increase, but you gotta get going because what's hot now may not be hot tomorrow. Right now they're all on an upswing. All of these items, if you add them to your arsenal of online e-commerce, you're gonna do well. However, you gotta get started. Don't wait till that trend ends. I hope this video has helped you out. Don't forget to subscribe. Hit that subscribe button down there. Don't forget to ring the bell, turn on all bell notifications so you're notified each and every time I do a new video. I thank you so much for watching. Put your comments below. Have you tried some of these products? Do you know people who are selling these products? Have you used some of these products? 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I've been here for almost three years now. We have a armed conflict because we have the Taliban and those are anti-governmental forces which are fighting against the recognized government. We have terrorists. One of the major issues in Afghanistan is the use of ID's. We face crime as well. There is a specific way that the UN implement security measures. The first thing is to evaluate the threat, evaluate the risk to be exposed to those threats and come up with mitigation measures for students to avoid that the staff program activities are exposed to those threats. There are two aspects of scan. First is the collect of the incident that allowed us to feed to the system and share the incident with the colleagues, provide them with advisories. So we have a good location of the incident and we can tell them where not to go and what to do with the scan if you have already the application and you come to the country right after getting out of the airport, you just have to change the geolocalization and they will register you into Afghanistan. The other aspect of scan is also alert building. If anyone of the staff is in immediate danger, they just have to press them. I'm not okay and we will immediately know that someone needs to be supported. If there is a major incident, we launch what we call in the UN system the wardens. Every staff is listed. We have a specific person which is in charge for a group of person. Through the scan, the person reporting to the warden that the warden report to us can allow us to collect all the information at once.


I'm not feeling inspired right now, but I'm here in front of you and probably in a few minutes I will be feeling inspired. You can see if that's the case or not and I'll let you know. I hear this excuse from so many people over the years. I don't make videos because it takes me a long time to get inspired. That's why I don't make videos. Most of the times I'm not inspired so I have to get into a certain mood or go to a certain place or same thing with writers or people who wish they were writers. I don't write because I just don't get inspired. I'm not inspired right now. I don't feel like in the flow so I don't write. Here is a secret that I share with many writers, filmmakers, creatives, business leaders, artists. Here's the secret. I'm uninspired but I'm willing. That's all. I just show up more often than you do and so because I show up more often and I show up again and again and again and again and again to the creative process, I get more confident at it. That's it. That's it. I just simply practice ignoring the fact that I'm uninspired. I practice ignoring the fact that conditions are suboptimal. Right now, I'm in a hotel room. It's stuffy in here. I accompanied my nephew to his college orientation so while he's there I'm working from the hotel room. It's not usually where I am where there's better lighting. This lighting is not great. It's kind of a weird light. Anyway, I don't want to show you but I'm making this anyway because guess what? It's on my schedule to do this but I don't want to follow a schedule. It's so constricting and I'm a creative. I'm an idealist. I follow my heart and it's fine to do all that. It's just that you won't create very much. That's all. That's all. You can follow your heart. All you want. You just have to accept the fact that that means you won't create very much because if I only created when I'm inspired, you won't see me very often. When you do see me, it's probably not going to be that good anyway because you don't become a great creator by only creating when you're inspired. You become a great creator because you have a lot of experience creating.  You get good at this stuff by practicing it and of course being mindful in our practice and seeing how we can improve every time. To be honest with you, I have been, my play has been so full that I really haven't been on the path of mastery for making videos for the past couple of years, to be honest with you. I have the intention for, okay, I got to put on my list, I'm going to think about when I could start practicing making better videos, but I haven't, I've been on a plateau for making videos for years. That's why my YouTube channel has not grown. My Facebook views really has not grown in my videos for years now, but I've had other priorities. My business has been growing in other ways and so I haven't taken a priority of making better and better videos, but what is always a priority for me is to not to fail to show up because I know that if I ever fall into that trap of thinking, I got to work on getting better at making videos, so I'm not going to show up for another video until I finally carve out the time to get better at making videos. Then that becomes an excuse and I know myself well enough to know that if I allow that excuse, you're going to not see me for a while and I don't know if you'll see me again because I never feel inspired. Now let me actually correct it to say, I do feel inspired sometimes and I'll tell you when. I feel inspired about 1% of my day, so I'm walking my dog and walking my dog and sometimes during the dog walk, I'll probably get some kind of idea, some inspirational idea. What happens when I get some idea, oh yeah that would be a great video topic or that would be a great business idea or whatever it may be, I stop my dog walk in that moment just for a minute or half a minute, but he's very kind to wait for me, just to write down the seed of the idea. That's all. That's my only inspired time and sometimes when I'm showering at night, I'll get another idea and then I'll stop and I'll write it down. I have something called Aqua Notes which I recommend to you. You can go get it on Amazon, it's like $20 and you'll get a whole pad of Aqua Notes which is basically paper that comes with a lead pencil and a pad of paper that can stick on your shower and you can write down ideas during the shower. So I write down ideas when they strike, but I only take one minute to do it. I don't stop the shower, I'm going to take the next hour and write. No, I don't do that. Stop the dog walk. Sorry, buddy. I'm going to sit down here and write for an hour. No, I only just take a moment because I trust my process the rest of the time. The 99% of the working time is much more important than the 1% of the inspiration time. So I get this inspiration and it might have come a few days ago and now it's all my schedule to sit down to write. I don't feel like writing. I never feel like writing. Do you ever feel like writing? No, you don't. That's why you don't write, right? No, that's not how it works. That's not... And by the way, right now another suboptimal condition is I don't have my earpiece with me so the sound is probably more echo-y than usual. Anyway, conditions are always suboptimal to be honest with you, even if I'm at home. I'm at home, maybe there's construction going on outside or some other noise going on outside or if there's no external suboptimal condition, I'm not feeling like it. I just don't feel... I never feel like writing. And I never feel like working. Hello. I never feel... If you were to say, George, you have all the money in the world and all the world's problems have been solved and you don't need to grow at all, I'm not going to be working. I'll be watching whatever, Hulu, Netflix, YouTube. I'll be playing video games. I'll be eating potato chips on the couch.  Maybe that's a little exercise that I should get, you know? I'm never going to be working. I'm not going to be creating courses. You'll never see a course from me. You'll never... You'll never see an article from me. You'll never see a video or a book from me. Never. I never feel like doing it. Never, ever in 10 years have I never felt like working. But here's what happens. I make myself work anyway. And once I get into it for five minutes, half an hour, sometimes 45 minutes in a session, then I feel glad that I worked. And that's when I know I'm on purpose because we're not in this life to feel comfortable, people. We are not in this... The purpose of this life is not pleasure. The purpose of this life is not comfort. Comfort and pleasure are respites for our souls and our bodies as we pursue the purpose of life. The purpose of life is not to have a good time. You can do that in heaven when you die, okay? You'll have plenty of good times in heaven when you die. While we're here in this soul gym, it's just like when you go to a gym, you don't go, yeah, I'm here in this gymnasium because I'm here for the air conditioning, woo, I'm here for the showers. Oh my God, it's so great. The showers are amazing. I hope you don't pay for a gym membership. Go to a gym. I'll go all the way just for a shower. I hope you have a shower at home. I hope you're not homeless. That's okay. So the purpose of this life is not to have a good time. It's not vacations. It's not to finally have the life of our dreams. That this is this is what has led so many people astray. Maybe you as well. You're following the business coaches and the and the marketing experts that are selling you on the dream that the dream, the purpose of life is to be on vacation all the time, is to be able to live, live permanently on vacation all the time. No, no, no. The purpose of this life is growth. The purpose of this life is to become a better person. That's why we're here. We're not here to just because if the purpose of life is just to enjoy ourselves, all we need is just some marijuana or other drugs, potato chips.   You'll often you'll become smaller and smaller and smaller. You'll become more selfish, resentful when you can't have it your way. It's not becoming a better person. We are here on this earth soul gym to become more courageous, more loving. Those two more wise, generally those are the, you know, courageous, loving and wise, compassionate. Though those take work. It it's not easy to become loving. It's not easy to be courageous. It's not easy to be wise. Being on drugs, playing video games doesn't make you more wise or courageous or loving being on vacations all the time doesn't make you more courageous or loving or wise working makes you more courageous, loving and wise. And working also happens to give you enough money to occasionally go on vacations as a respite for our souls as respite as a break for our soul's journey of becoming more courageous, loving and wise. OK, you see what I mean? Self-care is not the purpose of life. Self-care is a respite along the way. I have plenty of self-care during my day. As you know, I have four naps a day. I go on my walk. I watch YouTube and Hulu and Netflix in the evenings. And I don't work at nights and weekends. I go on vacations. Of course I do. But that's not that's only just so that I can have the energy to do the real stuff, which is to work, which is to help, which is to serve. Work is for the purpose of serving others, exploring your soul and building your virtues. That's why we work, not for the money. The money is just helping us get more self-care. But the self-care, if we indulge in self-care only, we become addictive, becomes addictive and we become smaller and smaller and smaller as souls.   And when they make a video for you, you think they're always inspired all the time. And they're like, look, look at me and my yacht and my million dollar home. And my, you know, I'm on this vacation again and I'm inspired. And wouldn't you like to have this life where you're inspired all the time and you're like having a good time all the time? Is that, is that supposed to be the purpose of what they don't tell you? They're not inspired all the time. They're lying to you. Nobody's inspired all the time. Not even the people who are on vacations all the time, so-called. They have their down moments. They have their doubts, like, am I really on purpose? And if I were coaching them, I'd be like, well, you're on purpose when you're serving. You're on purpose when you're helping. You're on purpose when you're growing. But if you're just like, you know, drinking your martini on the beach, you're just having a break, which breaks are important, obviously, as I always say, frequent creative rest, breaks are super important for the energy generation, for the rest or the change of pace so that you can then come back and do what you're here for, which is to serve, which is to grow, which is to explore your soul's purpose not to explore the world, to go to another forest, to go to another beach, go to another mountain. That's just that's just for your soul's rest for a moment. Just like when you're at a gym, you go to the bathroom, you rest. OK, my God, that was a great workout session. I'm going to rest for a moment before I do my second set. You see what I mean? That's the going on vacations. That's, you know, so I'm connecting the two because there's this there's this fantasy, which sounds good. But I want to tell you, it's a fantasy that you're supposed to be inspired all the time. That's that's how you know. No.  I know I'm on purpose. Now I'm feeling inspired, right? Because now I can really feel like I'm I'm I'm serving you and hopefully serving you, but certainly expressing what I what I have learned to be true, maybe with a capital T for most human beings anyway. So I know I'm I know I'm on purpose. When I work through the creative discomfort, when I work, I know I'm on purpose when I work through discomfort and I and I'm glad afterwards that I did that. Versus OK, versus. The opposite, which is. I play video games. I go on vacations only, you know, not work. I do whatever. And then I feel bad afterwards that maybe I wasn't on purpose. Maybe I maybe that's not the purpose of my life. It's just have all this fun, right? Yeah, somehow it feels empty after a while. You can only sit on a beach or you can only party for a while before you start feeling empty, that maybe this is not maybe something there's more to life than this. Yes, there is. Yes, there is. There is more to life than partying and video games and drugs or whatever it is, choose your fancy vacations. There's more to life. That's a lot more life. It's called creativity. It's called it's called service. And ideally it's creativity through service. Wouldn't that be great? And ideally it's personal growth through the creativity of service because now you've got all three. You've got you've got you're serving people, which if you do it strategically, you'll make money, right? You've got the creativity, which is unlimited, which makes you bigger, your soul bigger and bigger and bigger. And then you've got the personal growth, which makes your soul bigger and bigger and more and more wise, courageous and loving. So OK, to come back to to come back to this, by the way, this video is quite different from the blog post that's associated with it. But that's part of the creativity, right? That's part of I don't have to make my videos. My videos are not scripted. My videos come from I've written the blog post now and I'm like, OK, generally it's going in that direction, but my videos can go in a very different direction and that's OK. That's OK. So what about you? It's time for you to have a have a have an authentic reflection about how do you relate to the discomfort of work? Do you think that work is somehow a necessary evil? Now, work is not a necessary evil. If you look at it from the soul's perspective, work is for serving others, making the planet better and in the process of making the planet better and humanity and all beings better, you make yourself better.   No, you don't have to do that. There's a higher perspective, which is and here's the thing. I am actually in joy most of my day. Even when I'm in discomfort of work, which is, again, the beginning of every session, the beginning I never I never feel like creating a course, never, but I sit down to do it anyway because it's on my schedule. But there is an underlying current of joy that is there for me all day long because I have come to the realization. For me, this is how I this is you may have a different way of coming to that undercurrent of joy, that tapping into the undercurrent of joy, which is available to you at all times, the peace that surpasses understanding. That's what I want for you. That's truly what I want for you. I, yes, learn Facebook ads, yes, learn how to create courses, yes, learn how to make money, yes, learn how to have an authentic business. That's relatively shallow compared to the underlying current of joy and the peace that surpasses all understanding is really what I hope for you, what I wish for you. And you need to do whatever you need to do to get there. Some people call it enlightenment. I don't know if I'm enlightened, I don't know. But whatever enlightenment is, I don't care about getting there as long as I have what I have now, which is that underlying level of peace and joy at all times, which is for me, how I got there is realizing that this life is just a drop in the ocean. I mean, I basically read a lot of near death experiences. And by the way, the air conditioning is making a grating noise right now. I don't know if you can hear it, but conditions are always suboptimal. But I show up anyway and make videos and be creative and try to serve you and try to grow and be patient, you know, and all that stuff. So do what you need to do. That is the most important thing. I don't care if you ever work with me. You need to you need to first get your spiritual path. That that that is the most important thing. The spiritual path is the most important thing. Work with a coach, work with a mentor, work with a healer, work with a counselor or just do whatever reading you need to do, do whatever meditation you need to do to to prioritize your spiritual path. That's the most important thing. And then once you can reliably tap into that, not you shouldn't put off your business until you get enlightened. You know, that's not realistic. But as you are working on your business, you should also be prioritizing. Am I are you consistently tapping into that that joy? Now, the way I do it throughout my day, remind myself throughout my day. Is that I do my energy reboot, which takes me 30 seconds many times a day. And also I do several times a day. I do my longer energy reboot, which takes me three minutes, which is a series of stretches, basically, along with my 30 second energy reboot. So that's how I stay connected to to God, basically throughout the day. Now, if you're not staying connected to your God, OK, to your source, to your, you know, way of being in peace and joy and love. If then work becomes a chore, then work sucks, you know, and then then it's like reading your teeth and having to do this or having to do that. Versus I get to I get to show up now. I get to write, even if I don't feel like writing, I get to do it because it's good for my growth because I get to serve other people. I get to show up now and do my bookkeeping. I get to show up now and do my taxes. Nobody likes doing their taxes, except for tax accountants, maybe, or bookkeepers. I'm not a bookkeeper, but I get I have to do it anyway. Right. I get to do it because now I get the to practice the joy of paying attention to the details. I get to practice the diligence of and the patience. I get to practice the patience of sitting with numbers for a little bit here. All of it, all of your entire day, your entire day is just a stage for your personal growth. That's it.  I get to do this because I get to practice the service of cleaning up the environment or not letting my dog pollute the environment. Right. I get to practice this. I get to practice the patience, the mindfulness. It's kind of gross. But but you know, I mean, like every single thing, no matter how gross or how boring or how confusing or how tedious or how whatever. It's practice. And when you remind yourself of that, you can tap into the underlying level of joy. So anyway, enough preaching for today. I hope this has been useful to you. I the blog post that's associated with this video has a couple of really inspiring quotes from great creators. So I hope you'll check out the blog post and get inspired by the creators. Remembering, though, that inspiration is nothing. It's one percent of your day. What are you going to do with the other 99 percent of your day? This is why so many of you go to retreats and workshops and courses and you get inspired and then you don't have to follow through because you have this illusion that you're supposed to be inspired all the time. No, I'm inspired one percent of my day. What about you? Maybe you're lucky and you have like audios to listen to or you have me to listen to or whatever you listen to. Maybe you're inspired five percent of the day, but you still have the 95 percent of your day that you got to work. So how will you work? I hope you work with joy, but knowing that it's going to be uncomfortable. It's like at one level, it's uncomfortable and confusing and tedious and boring and on and on from frustrated. On one level, it's that it's the mind-brain level that's feeling that. But the soul level, I hope you'll feel this peace and joy and seeing the brain level and kind of being patient with the brain level and going, it's OK, my child. It's OK, my brain. It's OK. I know you're confused and you don't like this technology stuff. You don't like these numbers. You don't like not knowing what ideas you're going to write about right now. You don't like reaching out to people and feeling rejected. You don't like that's all brain stuff, but the soul stuff. So that's OK, my child. It's OK, my brain. This is just practice. So just do it anyway, please. Please just do it anyway. OK, just sit down. Your schedule says to do this. So please just do this anyway, my child, you're loved. You're loved. It's all going to work out for you. And just please do this anyway, practicing the diligence, practicing the patience, you're going to become better and better and better. All right, so I hope this is helpful. I'm going to take a look now to see if there are any comments on the video. And I always I always really enjoy seeing your comments and your questions. And if you have a request for me to make a future video, please feel free to to do that. So I'm going to go ahead and look at to see if there's any comments. So thank you to those who are joining me now, Lisa and Dorota and Christine and Nick, Tanya, Merit, Susan, Giovanna. So yeah, Giovanna says, I recognize that the discomfort of work is my container. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Mary says, yes, never feel like working bingo. Absolutely. So go forth. Know that, yes, you've got your one percent of the day when you happen to get that creative urge, when you happen to watch my video or whatever you're inspired, but you still got the 99 percent of your day. Treat that 99 percent as really the most important part of your day because it is and it's the practice. It's the practice that's most important. All right, take care and be well. And I wish you that underlying peace and joy that can see your brain's frustration and discomfort and confusion with compassion, with compassion. All right, be well.