Okay. Good morning, everyone. Good morning to all students who joined in online and also welcome to the e-learning students. Thank you for coming in. Hope all of you are doing good and well. Good to have you all back. A lot of you are missing. Hope all things have been okay. I think let's just get started. We'll start with the word of prayer and proceed. Let's pray. Heavenly Father, we thank you, God, for this new day. Thank you, Lord, for bringing us once again to hear from you, to hear of your word. Thank you, Lord, for this institution of Managing Family that you have designed. We pray, God, even as we look deeper into specific topics today, that you give us the wisdom, the ability to understand and also, God, to use what you have taught us back in our own homes in the way we deal with others. God, may every learning, may every revelation that you bring about us bear much fruit in our lives. And through that, may we be strong witnesses for you. Thank you, Lord. We pray for every student here who's logged in, who will be seeing this later. God, I just specifically pray, God, for your presence over them, that your hand and your power, Lord, will work in their lives in every area of their need. Thank you once again in Jesus' name. Amen. All right. Okay. So just to quickly recap about what we did last week. So would someone like to share what we spoke about last week? What was the topic that we spoke about? We had started looking into elements of a good marriage and that was the first part of what we're doing, which was, yes? Anyone? We talked about how we should have a good communication within a marriage and also how to build a good marriage. So how does communication build a good marriage? And also we talked about the aspects of communication. Okay. Thank you, Ren. Thanks. Yes, we spoke about communication. We started this entire topic on elements of a good marriage and one of the things that we started off was with communication. So we looked at many different aspects of communication, what really is important, why is communication important in marriage? What are some of the barriers that we may face? How do we communicate? We looked at three aspects. We said listening, we said speaking or expression and feedback. And we also looked at the spiritual law of communication, the power of our words, which brings us life, which brings blessing, which releases faith. So these were a couple of things that we spoke about. Okay. What we're going to look at today, we're not going to go chronologically as per the notes or as per the book, but we will be covering everything. But I just rearranged the order a little bit because I think there are some of these things we can deal with first and then go on to other topics. So another element of a marriage is the way that we resolve conflicts, the way that we deal with differences, disagreements that may come about in a marriage. So we're going to be focusing on that today. And this is in chapter 10 in your books or 104 in the soft copy or 105 in the physical copy that you have, your hard copy. Okay. So we just skipped a couple of chapters and we will come back to those. But we're going to be looking at resolving conflicts. Okay. Now, something that we need to understand and probably remember is the way that we resolve conflicts could largely be largely be, you know, something that we've learned or we've seen from the conflicts were dealt in our parental homes. Okay. How conflicts or quarrels or disagreements were dealt with in the, in our families of origin, that is with our parents and how that was dealt with. And very often we seem to display the same kind of methods or resolution techniques, even in our own homes. Okay. So that's just keeping a background in mind because it's important to understand where we may have received or understood some of the ways that we can work through the differences that we have. And, and that this is, this is a very important factor. Kindly just give me a moment, please give me a moment. Yeah, sorry about that. Yeah. So, this is an important factor, especially when, you know, when we are dealing with premarital counseling is to really understand and observe how conflicts are resolved in our own homes because that can have a bearing on the way conflicts are resolved in a marriage. Okay. So we will, we will look at that in part later, but it's a background that I'd like to bring about. Now, when we're looking at conflicts, we all in any relationship conflicts do happen. Right. There is no, there is no relationship where there aren't differences of opinions. Okay. So, although we may like or desire that our relationships or our marriages are free from conflict and always have that sense of peace. It is good to pursue that. Nevertheless, there will be there, it's obvious that there are going to be moments and issues that bring about certain conflicts. Okay. Now, these conflicts often can, it could be big, it could be small. It could be something that's very, very simple, you know, small disagreements that can happen, or it can be extremely huge and big. Nevertheless, all of these conflicts can bring about anger or it can bring about pain. It can bring about frustration. So, the idea is not to think that if we don't have conflicts, things are okay. We understand that it is a very common thing in marriage or in any relationship, conflicts are common. So, it is not that we should, we keep our marriages free of conflict, but learn how to handle conflict when it occurs. So, conflict is normal when, where people are there, people are different. Conflict is normal, but how we handle conflict is rarely what matters. And what we do during a conflict is what will determine what drives you away from each other or brings you closer to each other. So, this is a skill and one of the elements in marriage is a skill in learning how to resolve these conflicts and have peace at home. Okay. Now, why do conflicts happen? Conflicts often happen because there are two people here and two people in this are different. The way that they see life is very different. Conflicts is not, and I think often we sense or we feel this that in many cases, we think that conflicts happen because one person is in the right and the other person is in the wrong. But in a lot of cases, most of the time, it's just that we are different. We see things very differently. Okay. And so, if we are able to build an awareness about the differences in the way we see life, the way we think, the way we emot, the way we understand, a lot of it, a lot of issues can actually be many. Okay. So, when we were looking at why conflicts happen, we understand that it is because we are different. And because with man and woman, so men and women, there is even in all sorts of ways, there is a lot of difference that you see. So, it's just not in your bodies that is anatomically or physiologically, that is the kind of physiological processes that take place in our body. But we're also different in the way that we handle and deal with things. So, even psychologically, we are different. Emotionally, we are different. The way that we think we are also different. So, I just want to highlight a few differences. I'm not going to go into too much detail, but just to understand that there are these differences. So, when you look at the bodily structure or anatomically, yes, we know that a man and a woman are very different in the way that we have our physical structures. Okay. You would definitely find that men have more strength, more body strength and more muscle abilities than the woman has. Okay. And even if you look deeper inside the structure of the brain, the brain in itself, the skull in itself, for a man is usually thicker and stronger. Women do have greater brain cells, which actually connects both the left and the right side of their brain so much so that they are able to. And usually you say that women are right thinkers, right brain thinkers, meaning that they are able to process many multiple things at one time. Whereas men are generally, now these are, these are generalizations. There could be exceptions. Generally, they are more left brain that is they focus on one thing at a time. So, there are these kind of anatomical as well as physical structural, physiological structural changes that you will notice between a man and a woman. Now, in addition to this, there are differences in the way that we process and do things. So, that's what we call a psychological differences. So, those differences affects the way that we think, the way that we solve problems, the way that we deal with issues, the way that we deal with sensitive issues. So, these are things that we can understand. Now, like I said, they, there are these may be generalizations, you may see some exceptions to this rule. But nevertheless, it helps us to have a general background. Now, if, if to just name a few of your differences that you would see is for example, in the way that a man and a woman problem solve the way the way the man problem solves is one issue at a time. Okay, so they may, they may, they may focus really looking at one problem at a time. Okay. And for, and when they are solving problems, they are, for them, it's more about how well they're doing it, what are the skills that they, that they're using the strength that they have as they are dealing with that with the, with the, with the problem. Okay, whereas for women, women definitely women, not just look at how a problem is solved, but the way that they solve the problem is important. So for them, for women, it's more about how they can discuss it, how they can work with somebody, how they can interact, even through relationships, maybe just through a relationship that they do by talking with someone is how they do solve their problems. But for, for men, they may, they may try and focus it within themselves and come to a place of resolving an issue or a conflict by the way that they're able to think of it. So there in itself, you see that there is a difference. So how the problem is solved is, is, is starkly different between a man and a woman. Now, even the way that they may think. So when you look at, you know, women, women generally are, you know, think in multiple layers or in multiple, they consider multiple sources while they are thinking. Okay. So, and each of this will be connected one to another. Right. Like, for example, if there is a, if they're thinking about something with regard to work, it also matters how things of the home and maybe things that other areas are in their environment connect to one another, connect to one another. So then you would see that there is a lot of interconnection and interdependence in the way that they deal with a certain problem or, or the way that they, they work through that. Whereas men, they tend to focus on one thing at a time. They are able to look at limited issues at a time. They, they, if that's a problem, they try to solve just that and not really pull in from other areas of their life, maybe work or family or things that they don't, they don't pull from other things of life. Okay. They work in those compartments. And if you're interested to read more, there is this book that's called men are like waffles women are like spaghetti. It's a, it's an excellent book to read because it helps to understand how men and women process and think differently. Okay. Even, even in the way that, you know, is especially when, when, when we were looking at problem solving, the way that a man problem solves maybe, maybe more through, through like a challenging situation, they may go out to play a game, or they may go to fix something like a, you know, something that is broken or something. So the more that they do it, they probably have an understanding of how to solve the problem.  And once that talking is done, then they feel a lot more better, a lot more satisfied that their issues are dealt with. Okay. Yeah. And this also has a bearing on the way that they, their memory women often recall memories. It is usually based on some emotional thing that they have connected with. Okay. They probably, they're, they're even able to remember, you know, a certain memory, what clothes they were wearing, what was the setting like, what is the date like. So there are a lot more of details because everything that they connect with are also tend to have an emotional component to it. Whereas men, they think of things that, where they may have used some strategy. Okay. And what, what they do is to, it's the tasks that, that's, that's got done there, that they remember a lot more. Okay. So, so that's, that again is something that you would see is, is different. Another area of difference that you would see is how the men tend to build better relationships through common activities, right. Maybe through a football or through playing a game or through bike riding. Some activity is what connects them. There is women, they have a preference in relationships through communication, through sharing of thoughts, their perspectives, emotions. All of that is what really helps them connect. Okay. So in, in the way that you, you do see this is that in many ways, God has created man and woman to be, to be really different. And in addition to all of this, there may be personal differences. We all may have our own differences because of our, of our homes, the way that we were brought up, the kind of culture. We've been in the, the experiences that we've had in life, what we've been exposed to the kind of learning or the kind of knowledge that we've been exposed to. All of these differences will have a bearing on, on the way that we deal with things. Okay. And also the way that we've been made certain personality traits that are there, the way that we communicate, the way that we behave, the way that we are able to take emotional struggles, the way that we are able to deal with stress. So, so all of this makes it even more, even more different. So when there is a difference, what is it that, that we need to understand is that we need to perceive that the fact that two people in some kind of an argument or a conflict come in because of the differences that there are. And when, when we view these differences in the right frame or in a, in a correct way, there's a greater sense of understanding, there's a greater sense of knowing that happens. Okay. Rather than thinking that something is lacking or something is wrong, something is deficient. And, and so, and that's what generally often leads further into, into conflicts. So the goal in the reason why we need to be aware of these differences is really to understand and recognize and act accordingly. So it is to understand why your spouse would act a certain way. Excuse me. It is to understand that the way that they process things may be very different from the way that you do. And by doing that, when you understand that you're not in a place of criticism or anger, but you're in a place of greater recognition and awareness and understanding. So it's only when we fail to recognize these differences to do points of frustration, points of anger, points of hurt actually come about. And that is what we, and that's, that's what leads to a breakdown of the relationship. So what we're doing is we are looking at each other and accepting and respecting the fact that they are different from us and the way that God has made each one of us are, are also that different. So you keep that difference in mind as you deal with these conflicts. Okay. Yeah. Any questions up until here? Any questions? Okay. So the scripture actually shows us and teaches us that we need to value these differences between a husband and wife between spouses. Okay. So in one Peter three seven, it says in the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you treat them with respect because they also will receive together with you God's gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers. Okay. So just to know that they are going to be different. We are going to be different from each other. We learn to respect and build our relationship together. Okay. Now, there may be very many reasons why conflicts happen. It could be several reasons. It could be differences in the way that we deal with important issues in marriage. There can be a neglect of certain responsibilities. There can be issues with with interferences from other people. There could be issues with finance. There could be other kind of maybe behavioral things that cause that kind of conflicts. Okay. So whatever happens, these conflicts, like we said, are natural. But how we deal with them is is important. Now, what generally happens when there is a conflict? Although conflicts, like we said, are common. But through this conflict, something happens. And it's often that we tend to get angry. We tend to be hurt. We tend to be offended. We get upset when these happens. So there is this possibility every time a conflict can happens. There is a response of a sense of anger, maybe a sense of hurt, a sense of pain, a sense of a feeling as if you've been made use of feeling disrespected, all of this can happen. Okay. Now, those are natural responses to a conflict. Now, although we may experience these emotions, the next thing we need to keep focus on is that when we in conflicts happen, one of the biggest emotions that we face is anger. And anger is that kind of a response that often can create a larger divide in conflicts. Now, anger in itself is normal. It's natural. It's a way for us. It's a way to show us that something is wrong. Something is going amiss. So in itself, it is normal. It's natural. We all feel it. Nevertheless, the way that it is expressed. So even in scripture, it says, it doesn't say, you know, anger, you shouldn't be angry. It says, in your anger, do not sin. In your anger, do not sin or do not be angry for a long time, keeping it in such till such time that you're sleeping for days without resolving.  So anger in itself is is not bad. It's something that's given to us by God. The way that it is expressed is what we have to be careful about. So although it's normal and a natural emotion, we must be careful that we have to have a control of it. So if this conflict, if the anger is not controlled and becomes extremely intense and anger is there, you know, severely, then is some then is what we understand that it can lead to it can lead to a difficult situation. Now, even scripture, if you look at page 107 in your books and page 106 in your soft copies, you will see that there is a lot of scripture that teaches about anger. Okay. Many of these verses are from Proverbs in itself. Okay. And it actually helps you to see from scriptures, what is what, what do you apply? How can you apply this to yourself? So let's just take one of those verses. It says in Proverbs 14, seven, it says people with a hot temper do foolish things, wiser people remain calm. So this is what Proverbs says, when we're extremely angry, we do foolish things. For example, when we're extremely angry, we may say things that we actually don't mean, right? Or we may do things that we don't intend to do. Or we may do things that are impulsively driven. Like when you're angry with someone, you've probably said, I never want to see your face again and you walk out of the door. It is in that anger, that is people with a hot temper do foolish things, right? And then once it is done, it gets hard to undo what is done, right? And then it gets even more messier and difficult. But when you are able to bring down your temper, stay in calm, wiser people remain calm. So maybe you're angry at that moment and helping excuse yourself and say, may I be excused for 10 minutes? Or I will come back when I'm feeling a bit more calmer, excusing yourself and coming back and discussing about it is the wiser way of doing that. Or Proverbs 15, 18 says, hot temper causes arguments, but patience brings peace. So in your anger, when you say something, it's always going to lead to an argument. But when you come down and cool down and be patient with yourself as well as with the other, that's when you're able to talk a little bit more openly and maybe discuss your feelings and where you're at and that in itself brings peace. So if you look at all of these verses, it actually helps you to see how we need to manage anger.  So these are things that say anger is normal, nevertheless the way that we deal with it. So one of the things, you know, it's an interesting questionnaire that's given in the next page of anger in your relationship.  And that's what it's showing. There are almost 25 items there. If you have the time, you know, take time to do that.  So it's a good reflective questionnaire that will help. So what happens if you're angry? So that's where we stop. So if you are very angry, it's a good thing to do is to press the pause button.  You're in high speed. Okay. And you and especially if you're in Bangalore, you sometimes see that there isn't a yellow light. A lot of the signals don't have yellow lights. It has a red and a green. That's as much as it. So green, you may be really speeding it to 120 and suddenly you see the red and then you've got to screech a stop. Okay. Think of it like that. When you're really angry and you're in that motion of driving at 120 kilometers per hour in your head. It is to screech to a stop. It is to call a stop, press the pause button and stop, bring things to a stop and move away from what is happening. Okay. So whenever you're really angry, it doesn't help.  You don't know what you're saying. You have no control of what you're saying. Okay. Everything seems to be your judgment, your ability to understand, to reason out the consequences all seem to be lost. It's gone on holiday. Right. And so what we're doing is when we are aware that we are angry, we pull to a stop. We press the pause button and stop and keep away from what is happening momentarily. Okay. And then what we're doing is we need to go back to the seven steps of resolving conflicts. And that's what we're going to be looking at the next time. Okay. Coming back to that, to that point. Okay. So, and that in fact, when, when you press the pause button, if you stop at the stop signal, you have let, you have not let things go out of hand because once you let things go out of hand, it gets even more difficult to build. So even if it goes out of hand, you need to take a step back. Calm down and work through those work through the seven steps that we are going to be looking at. Okay. One of the things that we need to be aware of is not to avoid a discussion. So it says avoid avoidance, which means a lot of times when we have conflicts, we avoid talking about it because why? Because if I talk about it, then a conflict is going to come. So we avoid it. So it's saying avoid avoidance. Don't, don't let things that are festering or things that are in conflict, don't let it lie. Don't avoid it. Confront it. Meet with it.  Because if it is avoided, it leads to problems being unresolved over time. It's like, and that's what this, the CD means, right?  No one sees it on the outside. It looks nice and colorful. But you lift the carpet and you will see the dust all flying. So when you avoid it, what you're doing is you're pretending as if nothing is wrong. Okay. And you've pushed it all into the inside. But in time, it's like a Coke bottle. You open a Coke bottle, you shake a Coke bottle, it's all going to come out. And all that is inside, all the not nice things that are inside will all come out very, very strongly. Okay. It's, it's almost like something that's active inside. And the minute there is a bit of a release, everything comes pouring out on the outside. So this is something that's only going to, when, when we lash out out of our anger, it's only going to create more anger. It's going to create further strife. It's going to make one feel, especially the recipient feeling powerless over the kind of anger that's displayed. So it's, it's not good one to either, you know, have an outburst of anger, right? Because you will have two kinds of people. The two kinds of people, one kind of person, one kind of people are that the minute they're angry, they have to speak it out. They have to bring it out. You know, it's, it's like they rattle it for around five minutes and then they're okay. But you have another set of people, they don't do that. They will keep it all inside. They will repress it. They will suppress all those anger inside and it begins to build and it begins to grow within that it leads to a sense of withdrawal, leads to a sense of isolation and a huge lot of dissatisfaction towards the other person. So both ways, avoiding not talking about it because you repressed it and you have suppressed your emotions is as bad. As actually having an outburst of anger where you're lashing out, you're saying things, you're bringing about a lot of upset outside. Okay. Now, we need to also be aware how to keep away from some unhealthy practices when we have conflicts. And, and because there's been no, not a whisper in the last 40 minutes, I want to open this out to you. And ask you, and this is a, you know, personally, and I think it's perfectly okay to share because we're all in the same boat. How, what do you do when you have a conflict that is not healthy? What do you tend to do for conflict that's not, maybe I'll start. So the minute that, you know, there is a conflict that comes to me, one of the first things that I do is I withdraw and I keep quiet. I don't say anything. Right. It isn't a healthy thing because it's brewing inside, you know, so I just withdraw. I keep quiet and I put a wall before me. So that's sometimes how I respond. So I'd like to hear from the rest of you. How do you all tend to respond? Now, this isn't any pre-question. All of us have been through conflicts. All of us have been through issues. And we may have had unhelpful ways of responding to these conflicts. So why don't some of you share just so that I know everyone is awake and is here. And I'm not talking to a blank screen or boxes of black on my Google Meet. Go ahead. Go ahead. Yeah, go ahead. Yes. So for me sometimes, like, if it's, like, maybe if the conversation is getting maybe unhealthy, where two of us are getting really angry, sometimes I just walk away or I just, I mean, any time to be alone, like to cool off, maybe just go talk to God and just, yeah, be alone. Okay. So sometimes what Rin says is, you know, just walk away or maybe in the midst of a conversation, walk away. Okay. Thank you, Rin. Thanks so much for that. Okay. What about the other students? I know some of you are there. Nikhil, Prince, Radha, Francis. Hello, Pastor. I don't know who else is there. I asked Nina here. Yes, Nina. Go ahead. Yeah. So sometimes when you're very angry, I know this other person is asking, talking to you in a very angry tone and I know he's very angry, but try to give a little lighter answer. Okay. Okay. So is that, does that help or does it help sometimes? Yes. It helps. Okay. I'm asking for unhelpful ways. But that's a good one. Unhelpful ways. Okay. Anthony said, Anthony said, I tend to withdraw. Especially if it is tending to intensify. Okay. So the draw, I think there are three withdraws here. Even I generally withdraw, I keep silent. Anyone else who does anything else? Come on. I'm sure this has happened to all of us. So we have, no one is of excuse of how we deal. Ravali, how do you deal with the conversation? So currently, if at all I'm facing those kind of situations, I'm just keeping calm. Just not to make a big scene out of it, even though despite of who is right or who is wrong, give some space and then go back to them and talk about it once they are a little calmed down. And once I'm also can understand what happened really instead of reacting immediately. That's something that I know, I mean, it will be difficult at that point. Somebody is angry with you for no reason. And then you can't really defend it. But I found it not really helpful if you start defending when there is someone is angry and you all can also be angry. Thank you. Thanks, Ravali. Great. Okay. So something I picked up is that sometimes we defend. We defend our position. And so that could create worse situations. I think Shubh Kumar has written, initially I used to shout, fight, walk away. I used to carry this for many days. But whenever I used to go to God's word, it used to remind me to reconcile. Now I worked on my anger. I tried to keep calm. I reconciled within few hours. Okay. Great. Okay. So when we're looking at unhelpful ways, and this is, you know, actually I keep saying, we should really look at ourselves when we are in the roads of Bangalore, when we're driving and there is someone cutting you across. It really shows you how you deal with the situation. You know, that's when all the flurry language will come out. The aggression will come out. The shouting will come out. You know, the fist fighting or the fist showing or the threatening. All of that is when it actually comes out. Am I right? Yes. I wanted to add a bit, because recently I was driving with one of my friends and usually she's very calm and, you know, she's very godly speaking, everything that happens and suddenly I was writing. She was driving and she was giving garlic to everyone. I was like, oh, why are you coming here? You don't know. I can't see. I'm like, I was shocked. I was completely shocked. Such a transformation. Yeah. Yeah. So that's exactly what I was saying. So, you know, these are times when probably you don't have the time to think of a response and say, okay, let me come. You don't have a time to think what is inside is just coming up. Nevertheless, you know, we know that they are unhelpful response. One is showing aggression. That is when we are angry and we are maybe shouting. We're using abusive language. Our tone is high.  That's the kind of aggression that can happen. Or we may, we may tend to show the anger on someone else or something else. Maybe let's say, often, you know, things that happen at work.  So you come home, you show it to the dog, you show it to the door, you show it to the children, you show it to the spouse, or you show it to things lying in your house. And there are things being thrown or, you know, so, so that's a things are banged or things are broken. That's again another.  The more withdrawn, more repressive things is bottling up, you know, we don't share or show our emotions. We tend to bottle up and that grows and that builds and then comes as a result, there is a sense of deep resentment and anger that leads to unforgiveness, not willing to forgive or to see what those emotions are doing to you. So then comes unforgiveness. Other ways is silent treatment. That is, you don't talk.   That again becomes the other person finds it extremely invalidating. You know, when someone's coming to share and discuss things, they say, no, I don't want to talk or you're actually not willing to engage. And the other one, the next helpful one is when there are issues between two people, you get a third person to validate your stand. And this is generally something I think that happens is, you know, we're doing a husband and wife. There's a conflict and one of the spouses go brings the parents to validate their stand. And that definitely creates again a whole lot of struggle. So these are all unhelpful ways in dealing with anger, unhelpful as well as immature ways in dealing with anger. What is a mature way? We need to ensure that that we engage in conflicts, knowing that conflicts are natural. We need to engage in conflicts in a mature, in a constructive way that really helps to look at dealing with feelings. So one of the first, what happens in conflicts is the things that rise up is our emotions or our feelings. And so to understand that when something is going wrong, I am either angry or I'm sad or I'm hurt or I feel rejected or I feel lonely.  It tells you what is going on.  It actually tells you, it's only telling you that there is something around that's going wrong and you need to come to a place of correction. Now emotions in itself are not bad. It is something that God's created. God's given us those emotions to help us navigate life and relationships. So whatever the emotions are happening, it is okay to tell yourself that it's all right to feel hurt. It's all right to feel angry. It's all right to be jealous. It's all right in the sense of it's okay to feel what you are feeling. And it's important to come to a place of awareness on it. So you're describing actually being aware and saying, okay, I am feeling hurt. And when I'm feeling hurt right now, I would like this or I would want to see this. Okay, because when you're able, your body or your whole system is showing you what is it that's being threatened and what is it that you would need. Like for example, when you're angry, you are angry with someone.  And when you tell yourself, yes, I'm angry. What do I need? I need to sort out this matter or this disagreement or this misunderstanding with the other person. That's your need. Or I need to have a reconcile with this person. That's the need. Or let's say if an emotion is of jealousy, okay. So you're feeling jealous about something you've known that you are feeling left behind. So the need is I'm feeling left behind. So I would like to ensure that my spouse understands where I am. And I would like to have a better bonding with them and not feel the sense of abandonment. So feelings in itself are perfectly normal. It's all right. And we need to learn how to confront and work with that emotions as we are dealing with a conflict. So emotions are absolutely normal. And the first thing when we are in a conflict, whatever, whether they're wrong or whether they're wrong, it doesn't matter. We go back, handle our emotions, understand our emotions and know what is it we want? What is it we need in a situation and come back to resolve? Okay. So that is the first way of being able to engage in a mature way is to embrace that emotional part of you. Understand that emotional part of you. Okay. So you're not escaping what you're feeling. You're describing how you feel and what you want and what you need. Another way of engaging with a conflict in a mature way is to absolutely keep away from any form of building hurt on the other person. Either through aggressive means by name-calling, by violence, by abuse, by insulting them, by putting them down. And name-calling, maybe we don't name-call. Probably we don't say too much name-calling, but we could insult.  I wish I never married you. These are all forms of insults and putdowns. So putting the other person down or criticizing them is something that is definitely going to create a lot more of hurt. So no forms of hurt or disrespect in either name-calling or any form of insult or threats or anything that will belittle them is something we avoid. Again, the third, the next one of engaging in a mature way is to take responsibility for whatever your actions or whatever you have done or said. Maybe you were not part of the first process of the entire argument, but nevertheless through it, you would have said something where you have not taken responsibility. So often when we blame, it doesn't help that in order to cut down that blame, it's important to take responsibility because the opposite of taking responsibility is blaming. And the last one is whenever you're discussing an issue, discuss the issue at hand. Stay in the issue of the moment, the here and now, the present moment, the current issue. What happens in conflicts is if this is an issue, everything from everywhere gets piled on. Yesterday's, the day before yesterday's, 10 years, 20 years, 25 years gets piled on. We're not dealing with the issue right now. So to deal with the issue at hand, you didn't make the bed today. Let's deal with that issue at hand. Don't say, okay, you have not been making the bed for 10 years or you have not been doing working for 10 years. You have not so not carrying like, you know, gathering, gathering things and piling it up. So to be able to stay in the here and now. Okay. All right. I think we've just gone past three minutes past time. So let's take a 10 minute break. It's 10 53. I'll be back at 11 three. So we'll have a 10 minute break and come back.


What equipment does the contest provide and what should you bring? Well, the contest will provide a refrigerator, an oven, a range or stovetop, a microwave, a sink with water, one table to prepare ingredients, one table behind the contestant for extra items, one chair, two easels, one extension cord, and of course large grade A eggs. You must bring your ingredients and equipment for making your recipe. These might include spatulas, mixers, dishes, pots and pans, measuring spoons and cups, electric skillets and hot plates. Also bring any supplies related to the theme of your demonstration and three copies of your recipe.


Hello and welcome again to this week's edition of what the hell do I actually do in this game. This week it's Metal Marines. Take a look at this cover for starters. Who is that? Malcolm McDowell? What's with all the hands? You start up the game and you can either jump right in or get some advice, which tells you to shoot lots of missiles and deploy lots of mechs called Metal Marines. Hey, that sounds good to me. From there we go to something that looks like SimCity 2000, with an isometric viewpoint, landscapes, a menu on the left hand side, and a cursor to move around, but no, unfortunately this game is not compatible with the SNES mouse. The game prompts you to place three bases, later on you'll find out you'll keep the game going so long as you have at least one of those at the end of the forthcoming battle.   Thankfully at this point your anti-aircraft missile launchers, which have already been placed, will take care of these, although occasionally one might slip through just to give you an idea of the kind of firepower you're dealing with. Okay so I want to fire back at this jerk, how do I do that? Press the B button to move over to the menu on the left and press right on the D-pad to access another set of commands. The one with the two swords is the attack prompt as you might guess, and that brings up a different map. You can select missiles or metal marines to send over there, once you make your picks it'll flip you over to a different map with nothing on it. The game kind of plays like battleship in this sense, when your missiles or marines land, that sends data back to you, so you can find out how the AI opponent is set up, so you can plan out your subsequent attacks a little better. At first you'll be attacking mostly with missiles, they deal damage in a 3x3 grid area. You can shoot up to 4 each turn, but they can be shot down by enemy anti-aircraft missiles. You also have your own anti-aircraft missiles, which you saw earlier. Ideally you'd want those near your bases or anything else you want to protect, and you can enhance their range and intelligence with radar units you can place next to them. You also have stuff like gun pots to protect stuff on the ground, and then there's the metal marines themselves. These are mechs that function as ground units and are very strong. One extra wrinkle the game has is that you can eventually switch out the metal marines weapons, which you'll need to do based on where they'll be deployed. For example, if you land in a pit of gun pods, equip the bazooka from the default weapon, and watch stuff go boom. The catch with the metal marines is that they're very expensive. Yup, the SimCity vibe continues beyond the visuals here because you're also tied to certain resources like money and energy. To generate money you build and maintain a supply headquarters, and to generate energy you build and maintain an energy plant. And by maintain, I mean make sure it doesn't go boom. You use your money and energy to build more stuff and launch more attacks until you finally make your enemies submit. There's 20 total missions here, and you can upgrade your missiles and metal marines as you progress through each of them. And you'll also need to make use of some of the other buildings as well, like the decoy units and bases, a factory which allows you to build stuff even faster, and some crazy overpowered thing called an ICBM. I've never been able to actually get one of those myself, however. There's a password system here as well, which helps, especially since this game can get pretty ruthless. As you can see, the action takes place in kind of a pseudo real-time environment. I say pseudo because there are plenty of pauses here and there. But still, there isn't another game quite like this on the Super Nintendo or any other 16-bit console for that matter. The battles are really fun and get more and more nuanced and complex the further you progress. The enemy AI here should be commended because it's surprisingly well done without being cheap. There's plenty of different ways you can build your army. You can go heavy on defenses before attacking. You can be aggressive as hell. It's up to you. And again, that's to the game's credit for being open-ended enough to allow the player that kind of freedom. I should mention this game is one player only, so your only opponent is the computer, but that's okay because, like I said, it's about as well-designed as you could expect for the time. I should also mention the story of Metal Marines. It'd be nice to be able to explain who you're fighting and why, right? A breakthrough in anti-matter technology led to anti-matter weapons being created. One country in particular got an itchy trigger finger and set one off as an act of war, which, of course, cascaded into all sorts of chaos. In this case, it's pretty crazy because you can see parts of countries outright disappearing because, you know, they're anti-matter weapons. They're erasing everything and completely screwing up the planet. Meanwhile, some alien guy shows up and declares himself the Emperor of Earth. Well, I mean, if you ask me, I'd say, sure, go ahead and take it. It's completely destroyed anyway. But the story still has us defending Earth for whatever reason. It's pretty standard stuff. If there's any flaws in Metal Marines, it's what I kind of touched on at the beginning of this video. There's no indication as to what to do or how to do it, or even what's going on at all. Now, I know that wasn't a problem back then because if you bought Metal Marines, it came with the instruction book. There were even some rental places back in the day that gave you a Xeroxed copy of the manual with the game. But if you're gonna play this game on its own today, there's not really any way to find out what you're supposed to be doing just from the game itself.  And there's not much information on the internet either other than dryly written walkthroughs on Game Facts. And if you wanna buy the manual with the cartridge, it'll cost you the average price for the combination of the two is usually around $8,200. The best way to play this game today, believe it or not, is through the Wii U Virtual Console. That's right, Metal Marines of all games is available there for $8. If you give Metal Marines a chance though, through some good old fashioned trial and error, this game is a lot of fun and is surprisingly well made. It was developed by Namco of all places. Yeah, that's right, the Pac-Man guys. There was also a PC port of this game as well. There's some minor differences between the two here and there, but it's generally the same game overall. Either way, Metal Marines is a great combination of tactical planning and battle strategy. And it's really satisfying to just utterly obliterate your enemy. It's got some limitations. Don't expect this one to be as huge as even something like an Age of Empires game or something. But for a 16 bit strategy title, Metal Marines is fantastic and well worth playing today.


The name of the session was Creativity Innovation Entrepreneurship and we were discussing different ways in which we are working in those areas, but also in relation to policy, activism and interaction with research. I think the most interesting statement mentioned today was that failure should be a human right and that is innovation and that came from Charlie from Columbia. The different areas that we could work on is really making sure that innovation has some structure to it. There are a lot of bottom up approaches and I think it's important that we work towards helping innovators and groups of innovators understand that the policy environment and also how they can interact with research.


So my name is Mark Brathwaite. I'm a technical specialist at Warframe Research Europe. My job title is rather interesting because it doesn't really give anything away. My job is to learn the technology that we have and present that capabilities to others either in training sessions or presentations like I did today. Yeah, so essentially the talk was a live demonstration to show as you just said that AI and machine learning whilst are real big buzzwords at the moment are just a few steps away. Within five to ten minutes you can get started whether you've got no coding experience or you've been coding for many years. The idea is that given the right access to tools you should be able to get started, retrieve your data, create your classifier or prediction function, deploy those results and actually use them for a real-life example in just a few minutes. It shouldn't take the several days of development work which some projects do tend to you may take. The live demonstration part of that was to then prove that and really iterate that it doesn't take much to actually get started. Three or four lines of code, a bit of patience and you can actually have a working example which you can deploy to the web and have people use in moments. I would say that is the most exciting part of my position is that whole discovery section is really saying okay well we have the capability to do machine learning, we can do image processing and we can work with connected devices. Let's try putting this machine learning on a Raspberry Pi and getting it to tell me where my boss is going to walk around the corner. That kind of fun little thing. I get to do fun simple little projects which people at work look at me and are like well that doesn't seem to make much sense but then when suddenly a project comes along from a client I can turn around and say well I've actually done that and here's a working example already. I know what we're capable of, yes we can integrate with that system, yes we can pull information directly from your database. By actually getting stuck in with the language and finding out what it can and cannot do I then become a fount of knowledge for everyone else. It's kind of an exciting thing. It means I get to do things which I can imagine the average person doesn't get to do on their day in the office like flying a drone or playing around with a Raspberry Pi or playing with a little robot that just follows people around because that's what I wanted it to do that day. Having these fun little exploratory sessions is brilliant, it's my favourite part of my job. The idea that people are trying to make data more open and more available to other people, especially from businesses, governments, that kind of thing. And by actually having access to those data sources you can start doing incredible other things with this technology that's also being built in order to come up with things like products or ideas and technologies that people wouldn't have been able to have access to, simply because some gentleman in government has worked on a particular project, it didn't work, but now we suddenly have access to that person's results, we can find out why it didn't work and possibly drive it further. One of the things that I'm particularly passionate about at the moment is healthcare data. Understandably, there's the worries about keeping things nice and secure and safe and that's understandable. However, as I've discussed with various other technology companies, if that information was open, some of the things we could do with machine learning and AI would suddenly become incredible. We would be able to predict and assist with patient workflows, for example, which could help the NHS in some way, hopefully. We've previously done a study with the National Health Service in England proving that it wasn't the number of staff on the ward at the time that was attributing to slips, trips and falls, it was actually how well-trained those staff were. So you could reduce staffing numbers, as long as they were of higher level staff. It's those kind of things which aren't always obvious, but by having the open data source and the access to other new technologies, you can combine things in incredible ways, especially with the identity of cancer we buy from capsule endoscopy. Access to new technology plus open data. You can make some incredible stuff.


Good Monday morning. We are on the floor of the New York Stock Exchange with Jim Cramber to talk about the markets and Texas still dealing of course with Hurricane Harvey Jim Refineries are closing. You have a stock play for us. What's your right about real money? I made only real money this morning. I urge people to go because it's more than I can say in this video. Historically the biggest winners have been the insurers. People don't realize that but they're able to raise rates off this. So for the first couple days the stocks have always gone down. Three months later they're always up. So look at progressive, look at all state. Travelers a little less. Look at chubb. These have been real big beneficiaries of higher prices as have been Marshmack and Aion, the two brokers. And don't forget there could be relocation here. That's CBRE, the real estate company. When it comes to the refiners, they're the winners. Valero has said that the rest of the country is safe. The infrastructure is in good shape. They can't get their people to their Gulf refineries. But if you want to play a refiner, go right ahead with that or Endeavor which is the old Tesoro. A lot of people are playing United Rentals. That's not one that I included today because you need rental big equipment. It's going to be URI that is the winner. The losers here are all the oil companies that have Permian because the Permian won't be able to be used. Permian goes mostly to Gulf, various whether it be Texas or whether it be to Louisiana. And the pipes are closed. There is no way for that oil to get there. So I expect the West Texas Intermediate to fall to 45. Alright everyone, please go to RealMoney.com for more on how to play this storm. Jim let's also talk about Uber naming the Expedious CEO as the Uber CEO. Yeah now Expedia has correctly done a lot because Dara who is the CEO is extraordinary. He's managed to be able to battle against Wall Street which is for years bet against Expedia. Expedia is becoming more and more like Airbnb because of the home away acquisition and how much they've done. I am so impressed with what he'll do but obviously it doesn't matter because Uber is private. Do you think Dara is a better choice than say Jeff Immelt or Meg Whitman? Yes I mean Meg Whitman is disappointed. David Faber reported that she did speak to them on Saturday after giving multiple nos. HPE reports next week. HPE is in a very competitive dogfight with a couple of companies where the price pressure is just really really awful. I'd be very careful there. Alright let's also talk about General Electric. There was a report in Reuters that cost cuts are coming. You've been talking about this for quite some time. Actionalers is buying GE. Why is that? Because we think that Flannery is already starting to write the ship. Jeff Immelt ran a ship that was sloppy. That is my own judgment. I don't mind saying it. I am sure it'll be refuted to the nail by GE but your record is frankly abysmal and you are what your record says you are. So I think that Flannery coming in and making these changes is a sign that Flannery did not have belief in the way the company was run. I don't blame him. It has to be run differently. Alright meanwhile Proctor and Gamble urging shareholders to vote against Nelson Peltz. What did you think? Okay if you have a longer term view of how Proctor is done then you have to vote for Peltz. That's pretty simple. If you have a shorter term view of how Mr. Taylor is done then I think you want to give the company a pass and let there and not have Mr. Peltz won. Again what are going to happen is that the people who are in favor of the longer term view will not like what I said. The people who are in favor of the shorter term view will not like what I said. I don't do what I do because I want to please anybody. I do what I do because I want to please you. Alright there was also a Reuters report that the western digital CEO is in Tokyo potentially trying to finalize that Toshiba. Yeah I mean western digital we sold it. We made a lot of money. If they get to Shiba the stock goes much higher. Okay let's also talk about Apple confirming that September 12th is their next. I don't know if they confirmed it. I mean press reports have confirmed it. I've been trying to speak with Apple directly. This is much faster than people thought. Apple will be pushed hard I believe by Warren Buffett when he is interviewed by Becky Quick on CNBC on Wednesday. I think that's important. It's also remembered important that he's been cutting back his IBM stake. What I find to be most interesting is the Broadcom report last week and we have a very good multiple analysis for Action Alerts. Why Broadcom fell and a lot of it was because I think that they couldn't talk about Apple and how much it means. A Valgo Broadcom AVGO is being sold here. It's being sold here by people who feel there's no more upside. We saw the same thing with Nvidia. I say let the stock come down. Why? Because the people who sell it are not doing the homework that I'm doing. They are just looking and saying that there was no guide up so therefore it's no good. This is the company that's the largest supplier to Apple. This is ahead of schedule for Broadcom. Let the sellers finish and then buy it.  You were in Georgia over the weekend posting a ton of fantastic pictures that really took off. I went to a wedding and one of the things that I like about the iPhone is the multiple ways that you can bring things to light. Obviously on Twitter my pictures were well received and both Lisa and I thank you. The important thing to remember is that when you go on vacation it is just an Instagram Twitter festival. This is why I've been always favoring Facebook. I haven't been favoring Twitter because they've not been able to monetize it. But everything that I put on was just a mimic of one-tenth of what went on on Instagram with the people who were at the wedding. I think this is weddings, big events, cruises. Once again they verify the notion of experiential transfer to Instagram good for Facebook. Don't forget gardens. Yes, now my gardens will be this weekend. Alright, we'll look forward to that. Jim also, Gilead Science is buying kite farmer for about two years. Why is this important? Because people have been feeling like, when is Gilead going to make a move? Gilead has not been able to deploy its cash. Gilead has been stuck very much on its one, on its hep C, which is a cure. So that's one time only. This is very positive. I do like CAR-T. You're talking about three, maybe four years in advance. It's multiple myeloma. It's one of their main areas. A lot of different blood cancers. When you think of blood cancer you think of cell gene. This is going up today. That makes no sense to me. This is dedicated to going up against cell gene. But people are going to say that there's going to be more takeovers in this industry. I believe there will be the drugs that are way too many drug companies. This is the beginning consolidation I have historically like Juno as my CAR-T play. Okay Jim, the Amazon Whole Foods deal closes today. Do you think there will be more Whole Foods locations? They should. I mean they have 400 that we're going to go to 1200. What we're going to hear is that these Whole Foods will be distribution centers and centers to be able to move product to you. They're trying to be much closer to you than they are currently. Although in the urban environments Whole Foods is ready to take over. Whole Foods was able to make the most money per square foot. They could cut it in half and still be able to, I think, do quite well. Which is bad news for Kroger, but that stock has come down a great deal. Bad news for Costco. Stock came down a great deal. You can let it lift. I don't think that you necessarily want to be in these stocks longer term because Amazon, whatever it touches, has hurt them so much. Let's go over to Home Depot. Home Depot and Lowe's are both up on the storm. Home Depot was up a dollar on Friday. Historically these stocks have had a two-day pop after hurricanes. We are now in day two. Don't forget that Home Depot is going up against Sears Amazon when it comes to appliances. Appliances have been a very big ticket for them. I like Home Depot, but I understand that now you have a lot of fast money in the stock. That worries me. Jim, staying with some of these retailers, what are you expecting from Best Buy's earnings on Tuesday? Best Buy has had 52 week highs, so therefore it usually means that the smart money has already bet that it's going to be good. My problem there is, again, it'll be good and then people talk about Amazon. Amazon stock, by the way, multiple good articles about it. Doug Kass has a good piece today. Don't forget to always check Bruce Kamich, because he's been dead right on a lot of the negative stocks, but Amazon's been going down. Amazon's been going down because I think people just say, you know what, if they're going to do all these things, they're really going to crater their gross margins. Therefore I don't want to be in Amazon. I myself do not want to be in Amazon. It's my least favorite fang stock. Jim Kramer, we'll leave it there. Thank you so much. Thank you. As always, for more information on the stocks, Jim mentioned, please head back to TheStreet.com.


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Going on YouTube how y'all doing so I'm back one other video and in this video. I'm doing a blowout taper I'm doing all my little homie man. I've been cutting this kiss since he was like 12 years old now He's 18.  I've cut him on my Instagram I've cut him on my YouTube, but that being said hi taper with a blowout He had a honey badger, you know blonde on top, you know if you have any haircut suggestions for me to do Let me know in the comment section below. I am I want to help you guys out as much as possible It's for you know, the students or the kids that are learning how to cut hair. I'll get back to you guys I'm not really the best at explaining things, but I'm trying to do my best for you guys So hey man, let me know I always say peace and love baby So let me use number one and a half guard on our walls And we're just gonna take off the bulk on where the taper area is going to be yet I'm not trying to dig it too hard. So as you can see, I am Flicking out on the spot where I want to flick out to try not to like go too high either Because I'm gonna come in eventually with my clipper over comb and just knock off all the weight But for that, we're just flicking out. I'm not trying to make a really hard line Like I always say this in most of my videos try not to make hard lines and just try to use your touch to flick out So now we have our clipper comb and I'm just gonna take off most of the weight That's underneath right there. So Use that just kind of create a shape as you go as you see I'm just digging underneath the hair and I'm just creating that shape. I'm not trying to like Dig in too deep. I'm kind of keeping my comb at an angle As you see it's kind of coming together. Just get underneath the hair You see the hair that's poking out. That's stuff that you take out Clipper over comb is kind of like an advanced technique I don't expect most of you guys to like know how to do it it took me a while to get used to it but For the most part it is one of the best techniques, especially in fading hair because it saves so much time and also makes shapes Uh, like I said shapes are like the most important part in like my haircut and because Like if you don't have like a good shape the haircut in my opinion, it's not gonna come out great because you got to kind of Make the shape into like the person's head like what what fits the client's head, you know What hairstyle fits the client's head shape and I based a lot of my haircuts on that Some barbers they don't do it.   I'm using my balders or my trimmers to make a line. I'm using it I'm kind of being I'm measuring it kind of underneath the ear I'm doing a high taper. So just make sure that's your ball line is straight It doesn't look that straight right here and my eyes it did but I'm just kind of cutting out an angle So I couldn't really see everything So we're going to be making our first guideline with our wall magic lips with an open lever We're making our guideline about an inch two and a half an inch. It just depends on how you guys want to do it I'm flicking out at the top where I wanted to stop at Just make sure that you guys flick out make sure that the guideline is straight And I mean you guys would get it down So to take out that bottom line right there We're going to be having our lever close and what I what the close is is all the way lever close We're going to use our corners to To kind of like take out the bottom line use the corners a lot That's what I say most of my videos corners And then once you take out that bottom line, you see a light end up you want a halfway and then open Halfway lever open lever and display with your levers a lot use the corners to nick out any dark spots that you see And just play with it for the most part Not every hair texture is the same. So you kind of want to dig more dig more than Most you know and some haircuts you got to dig more some haircuts you don't have to so You just got to figure it out and play with the lever For this next step, we have our number one guard on our walls And we're going to make another guideline about an inch high fingers width I am flicking out to the top where I want to kind of you know stop at But I'm also kind of shaping it as I go to because Uh, I did use a one and a half guard to deep walk the hair And then I clipper over combed it and I'm just kind of blending that number one into that one and a half or clipper over comb So we have our zero guard here and I have my lever all the way open I'm just using it all the way open just to see How light it gets it and if I don't like how I do it then I close it up some more So you start off with your open lever if it take if it you know if it makes it any lighter and just close your levers even More use your lever close halfway open kind of the same steps as I used to take out the ball line You know back when I had the open line But yeah, just play with your levers use the corners a lot You want to kind of take out as any dark spots that you can see Um, just try not to go above that That one that one line that we did before because you don't just going to make the blend even higher and higher So just try to use the corners because if you do use the corners you you you most likely will not Make the blend higher because the corners are just going to take out little bits and pieces if you use the full blade Then that's when you make hard lines So I'm just using my one guard right here just to take out any dark spots It's really nothing just kind of detail work And I I seen a little dark spot. So I'm just going to take it out with my number one guard You can do it if you want to but I usually do at the end of the cut but I just recorded to show you So for the side taper here, we have our Balders or liners trimmers, whatever you want to call them just to make a ball line So we're doing a high taper. So we're kind of taking off the hooks So we're doing the ball line kind of underneath the the tempo area or where the vertical bars You know are so just balled out. Just make sure that the ball line is straight and There you go So pretty simple steps. We're going to do the same steps. We did it on a back taper So we have our number one and a half guard right here. I am using different one and a half guard I couldn't find the other one So we're just using that one and a half just to debulk the sides and kind of create a shape By doing it with the one and a half guard just flicking out at the top I'm not trying to dig in too much because I want to keep out that you know that blowout look So when you get to that top just flick out and just blend into it So we have our one open making the guideline about an inch Same same steps as before guys. Just make sure that you use the corners to make the The guideline too because on this part it's a taper. So you want to keep it, you know in that area So using the corners kind of help So you're closing up that lever just take out that ball line and then we play halfway Open halfway just play with it a lot. His hair is kind of light right here. So it's pretty easy to taper Some some clients actually most clients their their hair is kind of lighter on like where the taper area is at So it is easier to taper people when it has and when they have like light spots because you know It this blends much easier and it's much smoother. So now we have our one guard And just doing the same thing as before I am cutting an angle right by the ear area because his hair is growing in that direction You always want to cut in cut against the direction of where the hair is growing Because you get a more smoother cut and it cuts it more evenly than if you do cross grain or you know with grain So What now we have our zero guard? I was about to say one guard. We have our zero guard Closing it up just playing with the lever. We're using the corners right here As you see, I'm kind of cutting out that angle because his hair grows in that cross direction So just close the lever halfway open to use the levers a lot and also use the corners too So we have our clipper comb here and we're just taking out that weight up there I'm trying to keep the weight kind of more of a blowout look. So I'm not really digging into it I'm just kind of taking off the hair a little bit right there I am combing his hair back because here was kind of flat right there And I want to you know, give it that blowout look say when he takes a shower It'll give it more of a because when you take a shower your hair stands up more because the steam So I'm trying to give it more of that blowout look. So by combing the hair backwards It flares out and I can see more of the blend and how the hair is going to lay naturally when you take a shower So we have a one and a half and I'm just kind of taking off any of the dark spots I've seen that I didn't get with my clipper comb So yeah, just detail work like I did in the back of the taper So just the one and a half just to lighten everything up So I'm putting clips into his hair I don't want to cut into any of his long hair at all So we're just clipping up the hair and the hair that is kind of showing that's the hair We're going to take down and line up I had a hard time clipping up his hair because it's straight and it was only a little bit of area So you guys don't have to do this I do it because I want to kind of give the you know the hairline more of a better look So just clipping up the hair is probably the best bet that you can do So yeah, I'm taking a long time right here because I couldn't find my other clip. So We are using our wall trimmers. Let me tell you all these trimmers are haters, man I think they're called like the hive is or something man the wall they sent me these these hate man So we're starting from the left and then working our way to the right or from this angle from his angles The right to the left, but we're going from the left to the right and then I'm just using it I'm trying this new technique when I lined up because I sometimes when I feel like I do from the middle, it just doesn't connect right So when I go from the left and I'm just following that line throughout the entire head It's gonna all match correctly.  Just make sure that the enhancements aren't really too dark You kind of want to make it all evenly. Um, you just want to tap tap tap I don't know if you guys use enhancements, but I feel like that's the way of the barbering is going right now enhancements His hairline was already straight, but just to give it that extra pop and just for the video Just make sure that you guys do it lightly. You don't want it too too dark You know, you don't want to give it that you know Ray Lewis, you know hairline So just follow your natural or your hairline that you did Previous to line them up and just make sure that is all You know one color if you know what I mean about one color color It's just like make sure that it's not too dark on one side and then light on the other. So Yeah, just uh follow to your hairline and I feel like you guys can get it down So now to end off the cut We're going to use a straight razor to get all the hairs from the hairline just to make it more more more more Crispy y'all, but yeah, hey this video is about wrapped up I thank you guys so much for watching my youtube videos. Like I said, I am being more consistent with it y'all So man, make sure y'all stay tuned. Don't forget to like comment subscribe And let me know what you guys think at the end of the video of this cut Put the post notifications on too, man If you guys want to see daily content or weekly content However content I post, you know weekly daily whatever it is, man I do appreciate y'all man. Like I always say peace and love, baby


So as the Vice President of Administration, one of my responsibilities is managing the CU health plan. As part of that, I have the opportunity to engage with Kaiser on a myriad of different projects and what I will say is that Kaiser has been a very good partner not only since I've been here, but when I worked for Governor Hickenlooper in the state of Colorado. One of the reasons that we chose or continue to choose Kaiser Permanente is the fact that it has an integrated model. I feel like one there is a stickiness with the people who currently use it and the fact that people can go and have one stop shopping so to speak. They can see their provider, they can pick up any prescriptions that are necessary. At the same time, they can have specialty care all done in some cases or some instances in one facility. As people think about their offerings more often than not, people want to make sure that they have someone who is going to be listening, providing what our employees want and two, at a cost efficient and effective price point. And Kaiser for us has done that. My mother's employee number is 18. She started I think around 69 or so and what is really important to note is that being an African American woman and being a nursing, Kaiser did not hesitate to hire her. They've always hired African American women in leadership and Latinas, LGBTQ, they have never been afraid or shied away from having diversity in some of its senior roles and I applaud them for that. So here's to Kaiser Permanente Colorado and 50 years of excellent healthcare and partnership with the community and the state of Colorado.


I wanted to also ask you about executive authority. I mean, you're not running for president. You're running to be a check on the president, theoretically speaking. But I mean, we've kind of seen this really troubling trend that started really substantially with the Bush administration, where executive authority has been expanded. And then that trend didn't stop with Obama. He also increased the power of the executive. Trump is now taking that to what seems to be a really dangerous conclusion. When you go so far in terms of increasing power, we start to see more dictatorial methods. And we see basically an occupying force in Portland currently against the consent of the governor and the mayor of Portland, Ted Wheeler. And this is my city and it feels really weird to feel like we have this invading force that's not foreign, it's the federal government. So I mean, this is a state's rights issue and I don't hear conservatives saying state's rights conservatives, you know, speaking out. So I'm curious, what could you do in this instance? Because let's assume that Joe Biden actually does beat Donald Trump and the polls hold. I mean, I would suspect that he'd expand his federal power as well. And now that kind of we've seen this precedent with Donald Trump, I wouldn't be surprised if let's say like hypothetically speaking, this is all speculative. Donald Trump refused to concede and riots broke out in a state like Alabama in support of Donald Trump. Then Joe Biden can do what Trump did and send in the fed. So we're going to see this trend continue on. And I don't think it's going to end with, you know, Donald Trump's tenure in the White House. So is there anything that you can do as a senator or would try to push for it to reign in the power of the executive? I mean, we saw that attempted with the power to wage war. You know, Bernie Sanders and Mike Lee, they actually got that bill passed. You know, this was influenced in the House by Ro Khanna and Trump vetoed it. So what other steps could you take to reign in the power of the executive?  Right. Yeah. No, I share that concern because we have given up so much of that check and so much of the privacy that, you know, Americans had in the name of security in a lot of ways. And I think that it's important in moments of crisis when people are looking for safety to really think about what they might be giving up because I think that's how we got here in a lot of ways. You know, after particularly September 11th and the feeling that everyone had of just wanting to be safe and protected has really put us on this trajectory. So I think it's, a lot of it can come from rhetoric in some ways, like so much of what has been the message that we get from anyone in government has been a lot of fear, has been about, you know, terrorists, has been about, you know, Donald Trump running on undocumented immigrants being the problem. And that's why so many people were calling for the abolishment of ICE because this is what ICE has been doing to undocumented immigrants for years. And now we're seeing it extended beyond that one group and I'm glad that people's eyes are being open to that but they need to recognize that this has been going on and this is authority that we gave up out of fear. So I think it's really important to talk more about like, to run on hope and the concept of actually building something better, not run on fear, because I think when you put people in that place of fear and crisis, they're more willing to kind of go along with giving up on these rights. So there's that element. The other thing is that we need to be obstructionists if we need to be obstructionists. Like when you vote to increase the military budget and create a space force and extend FISA and all of these things, you are going along with it. So then to turn around and say, oh, we didn't really want Trump to do this. Well, what have you done to raise the alarm before that? And that's, I think something that needs to be done more publicly as well is to talk about like, what are you actually opposing when you oppose something and for what reason? And I think in this moment, we have to really think about, you make the point of, you know, conservatives don't seem to be saying that this is a state's rights issue and they're oddly quiet on it. In fact, I kind of called this out and some of the responses I got was, well, then they shouldn't be defacing property or rioting. And it's like, okay, well, they're using these federal agents to take away First Amendment rights. What if it's now Second Amendment rights? How are you gonna feel about that? And they'll say, you know, they'll come out with their guns and they'll defend themselves, but the federal government has drones. The federal government has a much more intense arsenal. And I think that we really have to make sure that we are appealing to people like from the direction that it's gonna make sense for them. Because yes, maybe people oppose the protesters that are going on, but I think you can expose to them the slippery slope that this might be and really talk through how like, we have to demand that these powers get reeled back in. And I think we have to use the power of the ability to not approve budgets, to enact some of the change that we need to see, to basically restrict the funds, restrict the way they can be used and protect people that way. Yeah, and I'm so glad that you said that. This is why I think that like your election is so crucial because we don't have really that many voices that are like yours in the Senate. I mean, people are either unprincipled or complicit. I mean, in the sense of being unprincipled, Republicans are silent. They're okay with it if someone on their team is the one who's doing this. And when it comes to Democrats, as you alluded to, I mean, Chris Coons is largely complicit. I mean, how many times have Democrats voted to expand Donald Trump's military budgets and the power of the federal government to spy on Americans illegally, which is obviously unconstitutional. So I mean, even just like, I think the step of not being complicit in and of itself would be huge, which is why we have to elect people like you because the current status quo, like the corporate Democrats in office, they are enabling Donald Trump. I mean, they can use the rhetoric that they want. They can say, I don't like it when he does this, but at the end of the day, you are the one who are giving him this authority to do that. If you continuously vote on bills that give him the power that approve his federal judges, that basically take what he does that's unconstitutional and legitimize them, right? And say, you know, I approve of this. So it's troubling, which is why, I mean, this election is so, so important. And even if people may be disappointed with the results of the presidential primary, I mean, there are so many great candidates, including yourself, to where this is still so, so crucial, you know, that we change the makeup of Congress.


This time, we're going to be looking at another example of applying Amdahl's law to optimizing programs. As with the previous example, I'm going to be looking for how much time am I spending on each of these programs on average and then improving the most expensive one. So I'll start with program one again. Program one is 10% of my total computation, and every time I run program one, it takes 12 seconds. So on average, I spend 1.2 seconds on program one. Program two is 30% of my total computation, and that's going to take five seconds. So 30% times five seconds gives me 1.5 seconds. Then program three takes the remaining 60% of my computation, and that takes three seconds to run. So that will give me 1.8 seconds on average. So this time, program three is the most expensive. That's consuming more of my time on average than any of the other programs. So I would want to optimize program three first. Program two is taking the next most amount of time, so I would optimize it second. Then maybe once I've improved those two quite a bit, then I would work on program one. This may seem a little backwards. Program one is clearly much more expensive than either of the other two, but a whole lot more of my computation is related to program three. Two times as much computation happens in program three as in program two, and six times as much as in program one. So in this case, I'm really interested in running program three a lot. As a result, it's not as important that program three doesn't take a whole lot of time to run because I'm running it almost all the time. Again, if I want to know how much I need to speed up program three before I would switch to optimizing program two, well, I'm just going to look at the ratio of these two times. So once program three has been improved by 1.8 divided by 1.5 times, 18 over 15 or six-fifths, then I would switch to optimizing program two. If I want to know what that tells me about the execution time for program three, then I need to apply this speed up to the three seconds. So I'd have five, six times three seconds. I'll have a three in the numerator and a three in the denominator, which will cancel. And that would tell me that once program three takes less than 2.5 seconds to run, then I'd be interested in switching to program two. Remember that the six-fifths is the speed up that I've got. This is how much I'm improving program three. And that turns into a five-six when I actually want to apply it as an execution time. If I just applied six over five to my three seconds, then I would get a larger number. Whereas I'm expecting to improve my performance slightly, so I want to get a smaller execution time out in the end. So again, I'm going to get diminishing returns if I focus on just optimizing say program three, which is why once I get to this threshold of 1.5 seconds, then I would switch to optimizing program two. I don't just want to focus on optimizing a single program in this case.


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