Hello, I am Narc Survivor, welcome to my YouTube channel. Before I begin please hit that thumbs up button down below. Hit subscribe and click all notifications to be notified when I upload a new video. And if you would like to bug a one-on-one coaching session with me, just go to my website, it is Narc Survivor.co.uk. Is the Narcissist happy with someone else? When you see the Narcissist flaunting their new source on social media, it looks like they're happy, it looks like they're having a great time without you, but it's very easy for them to orchestrate a situation and make it look like it's something it's not. Because you don't see what they're going through in their everyday lives, all you see is this snapshot, this highlight, this moment and everything else is left to your imagination. You don't see what is going on behind closed doors, so it adds a lot of suspense and mystery which creates uncertainty about what may happen. Unless of course you understand that inner workings are a Narcissist mind, because that reveals exactly how they are feeling inside, but this can be said for anyone. Because happiness is an internal feeling, people can laugh and smile but that doesn't actually mean that they are happy. And even if they are happy they could just be happy for a moment and then for the rest of the day they might be unhappy and you wouldn't even know. Discontentment and dissatisfaction is something that everyone experiences from time to time. And major depressive disorder and anxiety disorders are the two most common mental health disorders in the world. So a lot of people in this world are not happy, but could this not be the case for narcissists? Because sometimes they are able to show it externally and it can appear as though they are happy, especially when they are love bombing their target. Because they like to show everyone that they're with this new person and how there's so much better off without you. But just because that's what you're seeing, it doesn't mean it's real. One minute you were with the Narcissist and then they disappeared without a trace. There were nowhere to be found and they didn't give you any closure. They didn't give you a reason or an explanation for why they left. Or maybe you left them but you couldn't deal with them anymore. They were too toxic and abusive, which all just reveals that they weren't able to participate in moral and acceptable behavior. It reveals that they lacked kindness and good will and that they were not polite or honest. So they weren't good enough. They were inadequate because they weren't about making the relationship work. It was just all about them. It was about what was good for them and not about what was good for you. So they were just using you as a tool. They were just screwing you over instead of giving you the respect that you deserve. Which is why they manipulated, lied and gaslighted you because they're not about stability, predictability or progression. They don't like it when things are steady and unchanging because they're mentally unstable. They don't like it when things can be declared in advance because their feelings can change from one moment to the next. And they don't like it when the relationship progresses because they know they're going to be left behind because they have a mental disorder which is characterised by a state of unhappiness, dissatisfaction and confusion. So how could they ever commit to a relationship with you? Someone who is the exact opposite of them. Someone who values commitment. Someone who likes stability, predictability and progression. Clearly that was a recipe for disaster because you both value different things. But they can make it seem like they're so much happier in their new relationship and they can make you feel like you're not worth anything because you gave them everything. So you assume that it's you. You assume that you must have done something wrong. You assume that you should have done something differently. But that's just what they want you to believe.  They can't thrive on equitable and reciprocal compromises. If something is fair and reasonable and it gives equal treatment to both partners involved, the narcissist won't be able to survive in that type of environment because narcissists are not built to last or survive, which is why they always need a source of supply rather than an equal and reciprocal relationship.  They would become extinct because they're not self-sustaining. They're like leeches or parasites. They're bottom feeders. So they have to use and exploit other people's troubles and weaknesses. Otherwise they would cease to exist. There wouldn't be any narcissist on this earth, which is why they can't be in a relationship. They can only ever have a source of supply. When you're listening to them and doing exactly what they say, and you're continuously under their power and influence, because otherwise they would become forceful and violent, because they would feel like they're resisting attack, which is why you're never going to be working as a team. They will only ever view you as they're subordinate and everything will be about them. But then you may wonder that if narcissists really are that fragile and weak, and if they're not built to last or survive, then how can they move on and live their best lives? But it's actually all an illusion. It's a deceptive appearance and impression. They've implanted false ideas and beliefs in your mind. Because remember how things were when you first met them. They were mirroring you to create a sense of trust and connection so that they could get their narcissistic supply.  You thought that you had met your soulmate. But if that was real, then they would still be with you now. So that's how you know that it was all an illusion. And yet now you see them with a new source and it looks like they're having such a great time. Maybe they just bought a new house together or they're going on vacation. And it's like everything you ever wanted. You wish that they had done that for you. But if you knew exactly what was going on and what they get themselves into, you would be glad that you got out when you did. You really just dodged a bullet. You managed to avoid a difficult and undesirable situation because they are never going to be able to sustain it. They just repeat the same cycle of abuse again and again. The only thing that has changed is the person they're doing it to. They've just replaced you with someone else. So they're going to do the same thing they did with you with this new person. They're not going to have a healthy relationship because they haven't done the same thing again at work. So they haven't developed any awareness of anything. Instead all they've done is blame you. They probably started a smear campaign against you. And they didn't give you any closure. Which is very unhealthy behavior. Because they haven't even considered that their actions have hurt you. Or that they need to make amends with you. That probably never even crossed their minds. Which is why they didn't come back to apologize. Because they thought they could just move on into another relationship. And then everything would be okay. While you're overwhelmed by grief and disappointment. You're brokenhearted. You're very sad and upset after what had happened to you. And then they moved on after just a few days or weeks. Because they divide people into sections or categories. They separate them into different groups. And they do not allow those groups to mix together. Which means that they do not have a stable sense of self. Because they've got different characteristics that they reveal to you. Compared to what they reveal to someone else. So they were one type of person with you. And then after that's done and dusted. They go and step into a new situation. And take on a completely different character. As though they had no connection to what happened before. Which means that they can never be happy. Because they're disconnected from themselves and their emotions. They don't even know who they are. While happiness is a sense of purpose and well-being. It's a sense of an abiding intention. To achieve a long-term goal. That is personally meaningful. And makes a positive mark on the world. While providing them with a state of comfort and good health. Narcissists are the furthest thing from comfort and good health. They're chaotic and disorderly. There's no structure to their lives. And the last thing they care about is making a positive mark on the world. They strive to cause adverse effects and consequences. And they feel no concern about it. So how could they ever be happy? They cannot contain positive emotions. So they're never going to experience consistent happiness. And even if they could. It wouldn't feel comfortable for them. Which is why whenever you're trying to share a positive or uplifting experience with them. They will turn away from it. Or they will seek to destroy it.   It scares them. Because vulnerability is the key to unlocking true happiness. And narcissists can't be vulnerable. If a narcissist was to be vulnerable. That would be the beginning stages of their healing journey. But they can't because they fear rejection and exposure. They can't even expose themselves to themselves. And instead they live in denial. And they create an alternate reality. So they're never going to experience happiness. And they're never going to connect to another human being. Because that requires vulnerability as well. So instead they will live the rest of their lives in a present of their own making. Because they can't connect to you or anyone else. If they could then there would be no problem. There would be no reason for all the gaslighting lives and smear campaigns. But they can't. And how you do one thing is how you do everything. Small habits echo across all aspects of our lives. So if they never even tried to make amends with you. That's a sign that they are never going to be happy. And they're never going to experience a stable relationship with anyone. Because they never managed to find that instability within themselves. Thank you for watching. If you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up. Share your thoughts in the comments section. Hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications. If you would like to support the channel. 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Irregular verbs in English from espressoenglish.net Did you know that about 70% of the time when we use a verb in English, it's irregular? Irregular verbs can make you go crazy, but in fact, they follow some patterns. In this lesson, you'll learn groups of irregular verbs that will help you remember them better. The first group is irregular verbs with all three forms identical. These verbs are the same in the present, past, and past participle. One example is put. Present. I always put the milk in the refrigerator. Past. Yesterday I put the books in my backpack. The present perfect uses the past participle form. I've already put the documents in the mail. Other verbs with all three forms identical include bet, burst, cost, cut, fit, hit, hurt, let, put, quit, set, shut, split, and spread. The next group is verbs with identical present and past participle forms. The only different form is the past. Come, came, come, become, became, become, run, ran, run. A number of irregular verbs have N in the past participle. These can be divided into four subgroups, with O in the past and past participle, with O in the past only, verbs with the past form ending in EW and the past participle in OWN and other. Subgroup one, break, broke, broken, choose, chose, chosen, forget, forgot, forgotten, get, got, gotten, speak, spoke, spoken, steal, stole, stolen, wake, woke, woken, wear, wore, worn. In this subgroup the vowel changes to O in the past and past participle. Subgroup two has O in the past but not in the past participle, drive, drove, driven, ride, rode, ridden, rise, rose, risen, write, wrote, written. Notice that the sound of the I changes from the present to the past participle. The present is drive and the past participle is not driven but driven. Subgroup three, verbs ending in EW in the past and OWN in the past participle, fly, flew, flown, grow, grew, grown, know, knew, known, throw, through, thrown. Finally we have subgroup four, other. These verbs have N in the past participle but don't appear to follow any other pattern. Bite, bit, bitten, hide, hid, hidden, eat, ate, eaten, fall, fell, fallen, give, gave, given, see, saw, seen, shake, shook, shaken, take, took, taken. Another group of irregular verbs is verbs with pronunciation changes. For example, long E to short E. Keep, kept, kept, sleep, slapped, slapped, feel, felt, felt, bleed, bled, bled, feed, fed, fed, meet, met, met, lead, led, led. Another group has EA pronounced differently from the present to the past and past participle. Deal, dealt, dealt, mean, meant, meant, read, read, read, hear, heard, heard. Another group is when the long I changes to OU. Bind, bound, bound, find, found, found, grind, ground, ground, wind, wound, wound. Short I can change to U. Dig, dug, dug, stick, stuck, stuck, spin, spun, spun, sting, stung, stung. Two very common verbs sell and tell become sold and told in the past and past participle. Finally, we have the verbs with ought endings in the past and past participle. This can be spelled OUGHT or AUGHT, but the pronunciation is the same. Bring, brought, brought, buy, bought, bought, catch, caught, caught, fight, fought, fought, seek, sought, sought. Teach, taught, taught, think, thought, thought. Remember that the G is silent in these verbs. Verbs with three different vowels. In this group, the vowel changes from I to A to U. Begin, began, begun. Drink, drank, drunk. Ring, rang, rung. Shrink, shrank, shrunk. Sing, sang, sung. Sink, sank, sunk. Spring, sprang, sprung. Swim, swam, swum. Finally, we have the completely irregular verbs. These verbs don't follow any specific pattern, so you just need to memorize their past and past participle forms. The verb to be, is am, is or are in the present, was or were in the past and been in the past participle. Do, did, done. Go, went, gone. Have, had, had. Make, made, made. Thanks for watching English Tips from Espresso English. If you liked this video, please share it.


First, let me just say that Nancy and I were deeply saddened last night to learn of the death of Senator Henry Jackson. He was a friend, a colleague, a true patriot, and a devoted servant of the people. He will be sorely missed, and we both extend our deepest sympathy to his family. Now, in the wake of the barbaric act committed yesterday by the Soviet regime against a commercial jetliner, the United States and many other countries of the world made clear and compelling statements that expressed not only our outrage, but also our demand for a truthful accounting of the facts. Our first emotions are anger, disbelief, and profound sadness, while events in Afghanistan and elsewhere have left few illusions about the willingness of the Soviet Union to advance its interest through violence and intimidation. All of us had hoped that certain, irreducible standards of civilized behavior nonetheless obtained. But this event shocks the sensibilities of people everywhere. The tradition in the civilized world has always been to offer help to mariners and pilots who are lost or in distress on the sea or in the air. The human life is valued, extraordinary efforts are extended to preserve and protect it, and it's essential that as civilized societies we ask searching questions about the nature of regimes where such standards do not apply. Beyond these emotions, the world notes the stark contrast that exists between Soviet words and deeds. What can we think of a regime that so broadly trumpets its vision of peace and global disarmament and yet so callously and quickly commits a terrorist act to sacrifice the lives of innocent human beings? What can be said about Soviet credibility when they so flagrantly lie about such a heinous act? What can be the scope of legitimate mutual discourse with a state whose values permit such atrocities? And what are we to make of a regime which establishes one set of standards for itself and another for the rest of humankind? We've joined in the call for an urgent United Nations Security Council meeting today. The brutality of this act should not be compounded through silence or the cynical distortion of the evidence now at hand. And tonight I will be meeting with my advisors to conduct a formal review of this matter, and this weekend I shall be meeting with the congressional leadership, to the families of all those on the ill-fated aircraft. We send our deepest sympathy, and I hope they know our prayers are with them all.


Following the desolation of the State Executive Council and Explanation of former Oregon State Chairman of the New Nigerian People's Party, NNPP Ugoni Ola Posi Sonde, the National Working Committee NWC of the party, has begun the process of repositioning the party and the state by appointing Prince Ibrahim Dekunle as the Chairman, Kataka Committee. Conducting the inauguration of the party's State Secretary in Kawaj Adaton, Biokuta, the state capital. The National Publicity Secretary of the party, South West, said, this development and the party will be repositioned for greater height, speaking shortly after the inauguration Prince Ibrahim Dekunle served the Kataka Committee, which his heading will direct the affairs of the party and the state, and set up administrative structures across local government and wards of the state. This loss of glory away from the Sena guys, the past one or two years of the last administration. In order to feed the faculty created by the solution, the National Working Committee NWC on the 28th April, 2003, constituted the members Kataka Committee. The Independent National Electoral Commission, INEC and North Security Agency have duly notified of this development by National Working Committee of the New Nigeria People's Party. In the light of this development, I wish to welcome all the members of the great party whom I have left the party due to the political Sena guys of this format, Stacey Yama, of Gino Lacoste Sondi, to come back to LNPP, new dawn. I also want to give this video to assure every member, this admission is for everyone.


All right absolutely fantastic many thanks once again welcome back this is still lying in the morning that is on the hashtag you can find us on our socials and Facebook, Instagram and Twitter as well on Instagram is white 2 for 4 underscore channel we are verified with the blue check mark. But personally you can check me out at brand circle 101 now this is our first interview of the day and it is a very it is a very powerful session because it is also marking a wild refugee day and before we get too far just like to actually give you a brief description of what you should expect in today's marking of wild refugee day and maybe what are some of the things for this year and its significance. So this year's theme for wild refugee day I can see my phone is saying to do that thing okay MSMR point I lost so I'm putting you on blast but this year's theme is actually inclusion for refugees how do you actually integrate refugees who are living maybe in Kenya and maybe also outside country and just overseas especially when it comes to accepting them in terms of their needs resources and how does the government actually coming to help especially also with non-governmental organizations as well but today we are taking a different angle we are going to use the tool which is the power of radio how is radio coming in to ensure that it helps the refugees in the country to maybe access information access help and also have conversations when it comes to sensitizing people especially netizens of this country that we should accept refugees and also ensure that they feel at home even though they are away from home feel at home away from home good one right there and during a slav in studio with us today is George Oluanda he's a radio programs manager from REFM he's going to tell us what exactly that means and definitely good morning morning nice to meet you all right you're welcome so tell us a little bit of REF if I butchered that REF simply means simply means it's REFFM which means refugee families it's a short form of refugee so it's a REFKK FM 88.4 these are short form of refugee Kalibei Kakuma so Kalibei is the the camp where the station is located is the only station radio station located in a camp okay so broadcasting within Kakuma and Kalibei that's where their name comes REFKK FM all right all right when was it officially in its inception 2020 that is during the COVID-19 times yes was there like was it like a partial driven station was it like an individual's dream was it like an initiative from the government how did you guys see the need to set up a radio station that will cater for refugees and now since today is also World Refugee Day yes it it it was actually initiated by REF FM Netherlands it's one of the organizations that set up stations in refugee camps so what happens they set up the stations in refugees camp then they run for a few time I'm a they run for some type after after after after after the station is stable they they give out to organizations to organizations actually operating within the same area all right so it was initially it was previously owned by a H and which which which letter submitted the station to Filmade Kenya so currently it's being operated by Filmade Kenya okay yes it's an NGO operating within Kakuma right yeah all right before we talk about how still on the end you're not before we talk about how you and HCR and the rest come again to really help refugees why why target refugees especially today what what what what the station is all about all what the idea was about is having the refugees included having the refugees feel like they're human beings actually what we what we say is Saudi I will say muakos out here I will say muakos out here that's that's our kind of the tagline we're talking about your story our voice so what we're doing is getting the stories of the refugees and actually giving it a voice making sure that they had making sure that their needs are met actually ensuring that we are doing what we call inclusion just as the theme of the day says we are trying to make them feel that as much as although they are away from their homes but the camps are also their homes Kenya is also their home so we're actually making them feel comfortable feel that they're part of Kenya because we are hoping one day if things go well they'll go back to their homes and feel like we went Kenya and this is what we got from Kenya which is the most prominent nationality that you guys are dealing with or have encountered a lot at Kakuma Sudanese Sudanese because recently they had skirmishes that actually had almost half of like other netizens from each country evacuated did that affect did it like maybe trigger a huge number of them coming at Kakuma since that probably did cause you find that in the in the camps around or Kakuma and Calobee most of the most of the people who are triggering in our refugees and after these skirmishes obviously there was an expectation of more of them coming in okay yeah but now that is controlled by the UNCR okay all right I'm also interested to understand like what are the dynamics that happened before a person comes less for example still on South Sudan like is there like maybe a less an immigration an immigration process that happens or it's like immediately it happened like the emergency one where like are you a citizen of another country do you feel you're not safe and all actually it was like declared they're not safe being in Sudan so I remember the US came and picked all their citizens I think it was Larry Madoz watching that feature he was live on CNN and he did a feature on it and he was actually trying to paint for people a picture that you know South Sudan how but then I'm trying to also understand like how did they come to Kenya you look at you can take your name on a rudy on a king and then to dad but there's like a process if you don't mind painting for us a picture of what happens there is a process I what I understand is the government is included UNCR is also included so there is a process you can just come and get into the camp the registration the month is so you have to actually go through a process of identifying your nationality identifying obviously the reasons that's why you are getting into the camp and also you have to be accepted to the camp before you get in so that there's a process there's documentation and they're all that that will actually enables you to get it like we just don't get into it but yeah right there's a there's a reason future that was done by I think it was Nimrod tabu just at last week elastic on Sunday and Sunday where the he was he was trying to bring out how refugees at dad up are going through food short food crisis how drought is affecting them and how in fact the number has massively doubled and in fact the government is now may be enabled to even sustain them and now organizations like WFP UNHCR is coming in to help them have like amicaba stay for your dad up what are you guys doing to ensure that them are having an amicaba stay I think I think that's the basically a role of UNCR and WFP just to ensure that you walk together with yeah they do they do ensure that WFP is playing that part of ensuring that there's a food stability in the camp ensuring that they are getting food and all meals as required UNCR comes in to ensure that they are they are well taken care of actually trying to ensure to let say how like all that the affairs are well taken care of so that's just basically UNCR and WFP's role yeah and back to today's theme or today's celebration which is marking wild refugee day you had mentioned that you're not celebrating it in Kakuma at the event is officially being which is happening literally today but you had mentioned in Kakuma you did it yesterday and what there may be reasons why that happened and not today I think I think the main reason would be most officials might be traveling to Nairobi for the event okay and being being being being a camp the same same leaders are needed to be around on this day so that's the reason that's why they had to do it yesterday so that the leaders be around and just make the refugees feel that this is your day and these we are celebrating you guys we are we are concerned about you and we just make you feel you're so that was the reason that's why it happened it actually happened in Kallubei village too all right have you told us the the majority of the nationalities that you deal with and and how do you guys integrate them with other nationalities you mentioned of south Sudanese, South Sudanese, Congolese, Uganda as well yeah yeah there are quite a number of nationalities yeah they're quite a number over 20 actually over 20 massive that's like all countries yeah it's like Kallubei is a camp that is hosting over 200,000 refugees over 200,000 refugees over 200,000 yes so it's a camp with over 200,000 refugees yeah okay now I'm also interested because these are people who come from different country backgrounds it will live along but also you can integrate that they come from a different nation where they speak a different language it's like for example Kittokapu and a Pari I hate pronouns as Pari the way people in Pari speak you don't know you don't know French you have to learn French you don't know maybe how to speak that kind of English that they speak there so you have to like officially go to some sort of like language training or something how do you guys even start a conversation with a person like South Sudanese I know they speak you say Juba Arabic right Congolese they speak French or Lingala French Lingala people from Uganda they have a very awkward accent good accent by the way good accent I had a Uganda in teacher how do you integrate these people and start a conversation to get to understand them and even explain to you that this is I need this kind of help yeah first of all I will start by saying it's one of the reasons why at Shref FM we have different presenters radio presenters from different nationalities it really helps us in getting our programs in order apart from that we have translators for instance you can get in you can go into you can go to into the field to cover an event and you find that you trying to get a story from someone who doesn't really understand what you're saying right you are using probably maybe English or we are using Swahili so that calls for a translator who will help you get the story done so you may be interviewing someone in English this person is not getting it you're trying Swahili is not trying it is not getting it right so you'll definitely need a translator from the same I'm of the same nationality to get the story done yes so that's how we do it we use most of the time translators but you walk around in the camp and you find that most of these guys are learning English there's schools within the camp so English is being is being taught in this school so that kind of good in English and so yeah yeah all right because that's what we speak yeah I'm also looking at it from a point of like now agenda yeah which is like the majority is it females or male from the start male majority of the refugees yes yes yes to me I thought it was mothers a female mothers of course from no from the last this is it's female sorry for that it's female that yeah yeah the majority are female all right yes and there's a story recently that was done as well that pointed out on child child health care especially for refugees like how do you how do you guys plug in on that to ensure that the kids that have come with the maybe they don't have a father maybe they come with an auntie or just a relative or maybe it's the mother than the father's not there how do you guys like integrate their health welfare to ensure that you know they get immunization they get the right meals also nutrition because it was pointed out that you know most comes and now in food crisis and now they're reaching out to even other higher aid organizations to come in I think I think I might look like one of the challenges that really facing the camps but I believe and I can strongly say that UNCR is really working hard to ensure that everyone is coming in is being taken care of in terms of health they have programs they have programs where immunization is done to children in case of this is like missiles like I think two months two months or one month ago they are doing a missile to tremendous in immunization so that is well taken care of by the UNCR all right yes what about food food is done by WFP WFP is in charge of food distribution in the camps here all right yes a buck to your radio station I'm also interested because very is really intense yes it's interesting how you guys if you don't mind us to take us through the process of how you guys curate programs that specifically target specific nationalities like the South Sudanese Ugandan's because I can imagine this kind of a radio station and it's hostile that can be really hard like the editorial style for radius really intense also choosing the personality the presenter and at some point you mentioned you are one of the presenters initially but now you're like the radio programs manager what what we do first of all or what we need first of all is to do radio calls for research first before you have to first understand your audience so that you know what kind of programs you're giving this audience so you first to understand who am I speaking to what does this person want here what does this person want to listen to in terms of music that doing a research of what what would this person people in the camp specifically because when you are doing radio speaking to one person remember so so when you are when we did the research you find out what this kind of people what what what are the refugees in the camp want to listen to what kind of programs do they love for instance we have a lot of youth we have a lot of youth in the camp so what does this one youth want to listen to what does he like what does he prefer doing at what time is it in the morning what kind of music does he want to listen to what kind of conversation does he want to engage himself into so that's one of the things we did as a refer-femme to find out what audience want before we started doing the programs and again given that we have different nationalities in the camp we have to understand what does Sudanese want to listen to and what time does Sudanese like listening to radio yeah so what is that type of kind of favorite music yes the kind of music does the Sudanese want to listen to what is their genre by the way I really like to know I have like a name for their genre for which which South Sudanese South Sudanese they most most of the guys in the youth most of most of them who listen to radio youth so they like kind of hip-hop music right but I'm looking for like their tradition like for us we have Ganga tour and Kapuka the rest of whatever are you able to like remember from their community of their country I wouldn't I wouldn't really figure that out but I can't respond to that in the course of the conversation but I know a Congolese definitely in Gala yes which was recently included in the grammar just a train doing the research getting the actual statistics of what the refugees want to listen to what they want to hear what the kind of a conversation and from that as when we decided to now start our programming understand right then trying to understand if these water Congolese once in the evening then would it how what what percentage of other refugees would want to listen to the same kind of program in the evening so if it's anything above 80 then that rules out that this will work for the whole audience yes right and still on programming like what are some of the topical like not the nitty-gritties of the program the topical topical choices that you guys display like exactly like for ourselves Sudanese what exactly are they listening to in that program definitely I'll talk I'll talk about programs that programs that talk about cohesion programs that talk about a reconciliation because are these people these are people who are just from kind of a war-torn country or send a kind of a country that is full of scum she's so they want to listen to things that will really make them believe that things that are topics that really give them hope topics that will really make them feel that this day things will be okay topics that really make them feel accepted make them feel at home so those are kind of the topics we give to such kind of national issues yes right which I which I think is is a very key is a very key area yes now in terms of the lesson in terms of our employers employees that is the word do you guys have like a place where like you vet professionally that this person can has the gift of God which is the gift of radio talking like you can vet professionally this guy can talk even though he's hasn't gone through broadcast class and understood the ethics and ethos of broadcasting but this one we can he can maybe sustain a conversation this one can you know can be trained like how do you guys identify it now talent especially for OAPs on a personal on a person I think what what we do at refer family we we first we've given room for volunteerships so we get volunteers from the community who comes in those who feel that they have the talent first of all we we we we get it we get the world out there by probably adverts then we vet them we actually take them through a process that will leave us with a number of which we feel they have the talent they have the talent in terms of maybe production they can learn in terms of on-air programs then from there we now take them through professional training which takes some quite good time we'll train them through training and I believe through the training you'll be able as a professional journalist you'll be able to tell this guy is okay he you will be able to understand this guy is supposed to be put here this one is supposed to be put on production put on air yes so that's the that's the process we use at refer family to just ensure that we have our presenters intact intact yeah all right you had mentioned the station is still community but it has a commercial it has a commercial frequency code which I noted initially they do have like maybe plans of like now fully going commercial or in the meantime it's just still community radio for now reform is a community radio session but in terms of taking to the next level think that I will leave to the management I would actually want to comment on that but what we know is currently we are working on expanding the frequency to the rest of true kind of county that's one of the things that in the process that that's something already on the table of ck so it's a process we are we are having at the moment just to expand the frequency to cover the whole of true kind of right yes good fantastic you had mentioned you are an rpm initially maybe what were you doing before you got to this level of an rpm and also currently what are some of your roles and responsibilities in the Samsung company initially I was working with the CFFM stations as a breakfast show host a news and news presenter and also programs producer and how I got to where I am it was it was just through a normal application job application that I did then I saw an advert of radio manager a station manager so I did that process and and it went through so currently what what what what I'm a task at ref fm as a station manager and programs head of programs is to just to ensure the entire smooth running of the station in terms of programming in terms of HR issues and in terms of just general staff welfare okay yes so how in total how many how many are you I have a team of ten presenters ten presenters ten presenters present of those who will present a producer yes who are present a producer but working on working training on the job or training on the job yes paid or volunteer paid as you sum up on that individual part you can talk about you won an award recently which was by Cousa I talked about how you guys won that award and what exactly do you think made you guys deserve that award first of all I want to say thanks to the CAK for organizing such an event then secondly how we got there it is it's it's it's a Obunifu award okay so that simply means creativity and I believe a traffic family is so creative in terms of doing programs in terms of engaging with our listeners from where we are located remember we are the only station located in our Fiji camp and you can imagine you can imagine how it would be or what it takes for such environment for such a station to thrive for such a group of a team to come up with programs that really impact the society really impact the community so that calls for creativity to we are creative in terms of programs we make sure that our programs are so much impactive through the response we normally get the audience response that really gives us that hope that really gives us an assurance that whatever kind of programs we are doing they are really impacting the community so I believe through the creativity of programs we've been doing is why we go to where we are okay why we got the award and also it's personal I would say I'll give it to the audience I'll give the credit to the audience because they believe in us they actually what's what they're saying or what they're talking to us about is we understand or we really appreciate the creativity you guys are doing as a refer-firm and we really want to award you and that's why I would say we got that award and congratulations thank you so much good luck as well as we as a move away from from that maybe how do you guys plug in to support refugees living with disabilities because it's now like a main issue especially also in terms of inclusion since also this year's theme is all about inclusion how do you guys help refugees with disabilities those who can't hear who can see who can't even completely walk like they need help from one place to another first of all allow me to put it clear that refer-firm KK is under Filmmade Kenya Filmmade Kenya is there's a production of films it's a communication through visual I will say okay on the other side refer-firm is communication through audio so inclusion of refugees living with the disability what we do we are so open to when we are doing when we are doing a recruitment we are so open to giving chances to people living with that or people living in the disabilities and what I will say how we do this is or how we do the inclusion is by reaching out to such kind of groups ensuring that at refer-firm the kind of programs you are doing they are being received by them as well what I mean when I say this I mean when we are doing a community kind of outreach we make sure that we have this special group of our team that reach out to such kind of people just to make sure that we make them feel that whatever we are doing we are doing them we are doing them also putting them in our heart ensuring that they also beneficiaries of our program they also part of our team they also part of the whole community all right yes all right I have two questions for you and then we exit in regards to today maybe what are some of the expectations that you guys how tabled that you feel like today we must achieve this in regards to marking world refugee day the expectations as a refer-firm I think one thing I will say as a station in as we mark this our refugee day just making sure that we include all the refugees in what we do we make them feel included in everything that you do our expectations are as a radio station would be and I will say this as an appeal probably maybe to the other organizations who are listening to this conversation you know running a radio station in such environment is easy we need a lot of support for instance we need the kind of some financial support yes in terms of radio equipment so we need that support so my appeal would just be to the organizations and the government if probably they will come in just to give us a backup on how on ensuring that we get this support to make sure that we do our best in good quality and in kind of comfortability just to make sure that we delivering the best to the refugee refugees in the campers all right before you tell us how people can plug in and support as we exit just on a lighter note radio actually the aim of you being a radio presenter is to make people feel good when they listen to radio like how you talk you must be pleasant to the person like you said you speak into only one person yeah and sometimes that person you sing them in studio with you right so how do you guys you know make people feel good especially now that it's a divergent crowd of people how do you guys make them feel good and warm I will respond to that by going back to our programs we do we make sure that the progress we do our production our production of programs are such inclusive in a way that as Aliah had told you we first do research on what people like so probably we know who we do that by the kind of presenters we have we know who to put in what show for example in the morning probably definitely will have a presenter who is who has a good ground touch because these are refugee camp after the show you can always walk around and interact with the refugees so we do that by actually ensuring that we are placing different presenters at the right shows yeah presenters who have that ground touch you understand what I mean by yeah sure so this really makes the refugees feel part of the station they make them feel part of the RFM yeah and they developed that relationship with the presenter I don't know if you've since you've also been in the space is there may be something that changed in your course radio changes changes your mind changes your projection changes your diction by the time you transition to TV you are actually struggle kiddo go like for you personally did you change is there something that changed there's even also a book about hosting especially breakfast breakfast are called power shows is there something that changed there's something you learn since radio is a theater I think I think at this point what really changed or what I really struggled with for a few a few weeks at my current position is actually shifted from a full gospel a station to kind of a Nikola so that she should that she should really give me some kind of I would say headache kiddo okay because these are the you are you are coming from a fully gospel station to vernacular so the kind of music you listen to this side you're like oh really and be one is just so you have to really you have to really a cop up with it and move on secondly it was from a radio presenter to to a station manager so you you kind of have some little workload to to to to to carry the bag but with time I'm cool and we're moving on we've adapted well and that's why we are able to get that cruise out all right now you can tell people how they can support our EF that's rough rough yes here in the cemetery it's in this image you know how can people support our EF and if maybe there's a rough if you want to reach out and plug in please tell them where they can find you in that camera you if I would first of all I just all the organizations who are watching this and probably the government as well CAK and also media of our media council of Kenya if you you want to find as you you check on our website that's Refefem KK we are open to all kind of support so if you check our website Refefem KK that's Refefem Kakuma or set Refefem KK you'll find all the details on our website yes by the way is the event taking plus today since it's happening in Nairobi the event just to us to get the invite yes I'm waiting for that you're waiting for it yeah all right thank you so much for there for your time and for coming through thank you so much is it okay to say happy World Refugee Day because it is today because it is the World Refugee Day so it's okay for you to say happy because I'm specifically targeting the word happy because you know refugees most of them are not happy yeah it has to be happy because you have to make them feel happy and feel accepted feel at home yes all right okay cool now I have the the part to say happy World Refugee Day thank you all right we have been speaking to George Oluanda who is a radio broadcast journalist and producer at Refefem right thank you so much for coming through and sharing your insights with us thank you for hosting me you're welcome and on what note we're gonna take a very short break and up next is Stephanie Yaita she's coming up with an interesting segment about how do you actually unpack from trauma you know trauma is really is really bad yeah but how do you hear from it there's a funny hard conversation with that he was telling me at some point you need to reparent yourself you could have gone through wrong parenting but also that's a good question are there people that have gone through wrong parenting and it created like some sort of child trauma how do you reparent yourself now that you're an adult but still struggling with things that happen to you at 9 10 12 teenagers so I can't wait for that conversation coming up shortly on that hashtag which is hashtag why in the morning as well as Y2 for 4 channel on the gram Facebook and Twitter as well personally at Brian Soko 101 we take a break we come back with much more stick 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Hello, hello, everyone. My name is Laura. This is my channel Laura's Little Library and welcome to my November wrap up month of November, I read 15 books and they were quite scattered in terms of The genres and everything that I read but that kind of is what November typically is for me. They were all Pretty good like I enjoyed Pretty much all the books that I read. There was just like one or two that was like that was not great but yeah, so the month of November I kind of finish reading the spooky books that I had leftover from spooky season and then I read Some more fall books just because November is still technically fall and I want to stay in that vibe a little bit longer And then kind of near the end of it I really start looking forward to Christmas, especially in the last week after Thanksgiving. I'm thinking about Christmas quite a bit so There's it's a very transitional month So I'm gonna start off with the two spooky books that I will not there's more than two I just only have two physically here I'm going to start off with the spooky books that I did read As a leftover so first off I read in the dark dark wood by Ruth where I gave this like 3.5 I it's very much Ruth where's style Where it starts off and it's kind of thrilling, but then like it doesn't get even more thrilling it just coasts and You kind of get used to the thrilling elements almost and you're just waiting for something more to happen But I enjoyed this more than the woman in cabin 10 I will say that I like to remain character just a little bit more So it follows this woman who gets invited to the hen party or the bachelorette party of a friend From high school that she just hasn't seen in years and it's kind of confused as to why She was invited and it's kind of secluded I don't know. I just feel like it was less it have less creepy vibes Then then what I was hoping for just you know with it being called in a dark dark wood And then being secluded and people end up dying, but you know still like a hen party Yeah, I had a very like Ruth where twist So if you've read a lot of Ruth where you're probably gonna be able to predict the twist in this Especially because it is one of her older books So just keep that in mind, but yeah, I enjoyed it. I'm glad I read it Then I also read white smoke by Tiffany D. Jackson. This is a haunted house book so this follows our Blended family who is moving into this new house and our main character already has like this huge fear of bed bugs And so that kind of shapes a lot of things of how she's reacting to moving to a new house She doesn't really get along with her new stepsister and her stepfather So there's like some tension there. Yeah, this was a four out of five stars. I very much enjoyed it I did read the weight of blood by Tiffany D. Jackson and I think I enjoyed that one a little bit more Mostly because I remember that one more like I remember more details about the weight of blood than I do white smoke And I read this one like quite recently, but I will say I the haunted house vibes here were amazing It was very hauntie. I mean I probably could have done with a little more, but that's just that's my personal thing but Yeah, it just it was a haunted house and it was creepy and Very true to form so the twist was great. I loved it the ending It had one of those like longer drawn out endings than what I prefer and then it didn't even like and I don't know Just gonna throw that out there, but this was definitely a four-star read it had such good Haunted house vibes. I think I just wanted a little bit more from it Then I also read capturing the devil by Carrie Manascale called This is the final book in the stocking Jack the Ripper series and if you've been on my channel for a while You know that I've kind of been reading one book a year around Halloween, but this year I couldn't help myself. I read both Escaping from Houdini and capturing the devil because I was just so excited to read the next book I wanted to finish the series So good, so I gave this five out of five stars I was so satisfied with how this series ended. It was amazing So we follow our characters who are in America and it was just the perfect wrap-up of the series So stocking Jack the Ripper follows our female main character in the 1800s who Wants to be like a an undertaker of mortician And so she studies under her uncle and she ends up solving these like very famous crimes Like stocking Jack the Ripper hunting Prince Dracula Escaping Houdini and capturing the devil, but this book just this the fourth one tied in all three books Before it so well, and it was such a good ending for our characters. I was So happy there were twists and turns the interesting thing about this book is that it balanced more so the crime that they're solving along with the personal issues and Because most of the books it's very based off of the crime that they're solving But this book because it's the final book and we've grown so attached to the characters that they start to have their own like Figuring out life with each other that ended up being much more prominent in this final book and I actually loved it I thought that I like I worried it was gonna take away from my experience of the book because I love like the murder plots But actually I was enraptured by it I just needed to keep reading and keep like figure out what was gonna happen because like My mind was blown it It made me so happy I just love how it all came together and I cannot believe the series is over now Which just means I can move on to carry my own Skellco's next series the kingdom of wicked Then I also read killers of a certain age And this is by Deanna Ray born and I also gave this four out of five stars. I enjoyed it quite a bit So this follows this team of women who were recruited way back when to be assassins and Somehow they have managed to get to retirement age like they didn't die Like a lot of you know agents typically do so they are Rewarded with a cruise that their company is paying for Before they retire Except that they figure out that there is a plot to get rid of them on said cruise because no one really ever Retires from this job. I very much enjoyed it. I I love their characters They were all they all had such big personalities and they work well together Like to end funny and there are these jokes about them being old which was fabulous and wonderful. It was Amazing I could have done with a little more of the age jokes. I'm actually gonna say Yeah, it just the book was like I don't know if it took itself too seriously or if it was just the perfect amount of balance with comedy and seriousness Just lots of espionage lots of spy work cool dual timeline. That was fun Yes, I enjoyed this one final spooky book that I had that carried over from spooky season was actually Bella Donna by Adeline Grace and this 4.5 out of 5 stars it was so good like there was some hype around it and Some people had been really enjoying it and some people had been like not enjoying it so much So I kind of went into it with a slightly lower expectations Because I knew that some people weren't enjoying it quite as much as the hype was just and so I wanted to take that into account But I ended up enjoying it quite a bit. So our main character is the heiress to this huge Fortune, but her family her parents die and she keeps going from Family to family as she's trying to find someone to take care of her that isn't just there for the money So like she's had some bad experiences with family members who don't care about her They're just waiting for her to come of age so they can gain access to her money It's kind of like series of unfortunate events in that kind of way because they also just keep dying She then finally ends up at this one family's place That has like their own mansion their own money and it's different for her there And she finds lots of secrets and it's very mysterious But yeah, I don't want to say too much, but I loved death as a character death is a character And Bella Donna is able or Our main character is able to eat poisonous berries and she doesn't die, but she like communicates with death and it is So cool. It has amazing like dark Gothic vibes good twists like It was it was pretty thrilling. I'm gonna say so now I'm gonna move on to the rest of the books that I read this month that were kind of more like For the fall season or I had been wanting to read these so I finally did Especially this first one. I've been wanting to read it and I finally Did for the throne It took me so long to read this like I picked it up in summer But it took me a very long time to get into it because I read a little bit of it But I felt it was so slow moving that I just I wasn't super motivated to read it even though I loved the first book and Then once I finally got through and the book started to pick up then it was much easier to read and to get through But like it started off kind of slow, so that was a little disappointing I think I think I still very much enjoyed the first one more than this one Just cuz I liked the romance of the first one better But it was continued into this one nicely like a lot of times when you kind of switch focus from one couple to another I feel like You lose the magic of the first couple, but I didn't I didn't feel that with this one which was great lots of there was a lot more of like kind of The belief behind everything and how the world actually works which was Interesting, I think this one was just a lot clearer and easier to understand Which I think took away from the mysticism from the first one that you were able to just kind of be like this is the way it is We don't really know why but we know that it is so we know what we're working on and it just If it was very dark, I feel like this one just wasn't like quite as dark and You know, you had a lot to just kind of go through I still very much enjoyed it and I would still Highly recommend this duology, but you know the first one is almost always my favorite, so But I'm just happy to have finally read this it took me so long Then I read a book called spindle and dagger and this is by Jay Anderson coats. I Did not like this one. I gave it like one star. This was a one out of five stars I would not recommend reading this one it the summary of the book is Background information that you need to know before going into the book like the summary does not describe what happens in the books It's the prologue basically Because the summary says that this woman Her village was being Rampaged by this king and her family was killed and she was taken by him and now she Convinces him that she is this representation of a goddess And so he needs to protect her to keep himself safe and in this goddess's favor the book actually starts off her in The castle like convincing him she has already Convinced him that all this like everything had already happened, so we're picking up from there So I didn't know what the book was about which was kind of disappointing But this is a Welsh book by the way, and it was just really slow boring Didn't really care The thing is is that our main character would constantly reference the past but without being explicit like a memory So you never knew if who she was talking about was actually there like a character that was happening Or if she was relating someone there to like a memory that she was having so it got really confusing It was not dual timeline, but it felt like it should have been and it was just Really weird our main character was so She irked me I didn't care for her There were so many things that could have just been done better. I did not like the writing of this book And there just was no story here I felt like for a long time It just wasn't happening and it's a short book and so I felt like for a majority of the book There wasn't a story like the only thing that happened is that The the guy that she is with gets banished to Ireland And then they somehow come back for some reason it was not good I'm gonna stop talking about it. Don't read this. I Was so excited for it It was bad. I then read the final gambit by Jennifer Lynn Barnes. This is the final book in the Hawthorne Legacy trilogy although there is a new book like the brothers Something coming out and I think it's like a backstory kind of companion prequel to it But anyway, I finished the final gambit five out of five stars. I love how it all wrapped up. It was Nice neat little bowl the puzzles. I think the puzzles were probably some of the best parts classic Just dove into the family and the history and puzzles. I love how We got into the complexities of the emotions of the Hawthorne brothers I love how they had feelings and they were learning to express these feelings. And so we got to kind of See them grow in that way, which was really cool So I read that book not much to say about it other than I loved it And I would highly recommend the trilogy and also read the ballad of never after by Stephanie Garber This was a 4.5 out of five stars It was it was really good I enjoyed it like it moved quickly, but there was just something missing from it. I think I Think it was just a little easier than the first book And normally I feel like it should be the opposite Where the second book is harder and the first book is a little bit easier because it helps like get me into the series a Little better. I don't know how to describe what I mean by it was easier It just I think it was just more clear-cut this happened than this happened than this happened Yeah, I think that's what I mean It's just a lot of like putting things together and not like twisty per se But it was still like a phenomenal book and I love Stephanie Garber's writing So I was very happy with it overall I'm starting to speed through it a little bit because this is starting to get to be a long video And I still have quite a few books to talk about. I then read The Witch's Heart and this is by Genevieve Gornecek and this follows North mythology So you are following the witch Agrivoda and her kind of love story her life from what she remembers and Like her relationship with Loki because she like falls for Loki. They have some kids They may or may not bring around Ragnarok who knows it was a very Interesting book like the pacing was weird just kind of sped up slow down sped up slow down It was inconsistent, but I mean it was all right like it like I started to enjoy it Probably halfway through the book is when I actually started to enjoy it. There were quite a few times I was considering DNFing it or putting it down, but I just I knew that it was going to get better I was just I felt like I was waiting for that to happen. But yeah, it was very like Rich in mythology with Loki and the things that he does and the stories that he tells of what he did to like Thor and Some of the other gods. It's it's very character driven It kind of almost put me in a slump, but I managed to not slump so three out of five stars. I don't The only reason it's not a two out of five stars is because I don't quite think it deserves that But it's right on the edge there now changing gears for a hot minute I actually did read a contemporary romance in the month of November, which is not Super normal for me, but I read chef's kiss and this is by TJ Alexander This book it Surprised me so our main character is by which I was super excited about of course and she works in a test kitchen for a magazine Like a cooking magazine company, but she's a pastry chef, which I'm like Yes, please. I'm here for it and she so her company They get a new kitchen manager and this kitchen manager uses they them pronouns They are genderqueer and a lot of this has to do with so the company is trying to stay relevant And so they start switching their format to making like YouTube videos Um, but with the new kitchen manager, oh There's a lot of like homophobia a little bit just with not accepting of using they them pronouns So just as a trigger warning that's Be warned. There is some hate around that which was really really sad That's also it's their romance and I I give this four out of five stars. I I loved it I loved how the like our main character is by and her roommate is trans But she is constantly asking stupid questions Like it's just the idea that not every single queer person knows every single detail about Everyone like Everyone's like sexuality and gender identification is very different and unique to each person So for her to not have all the answers about everything was just like yes, that is true Just because someone is gay doesn't mean they know the experience of a trans person or you know things like that And it was just it was nice and refreshing to kind of see that although I do still think our character did ask some pretty stupid questions Just I love how they handled the hard topics and how everything played out it It just made my heart pound It was not quite a five-star read and there were a couple reasons for that the first being we were constantly reminded of their professional palates, which was like really annoying and also so they Cook in a test kitchen Which I don't work in a test kitchen. I work in a commercial kitchen and a catering kitchen but Like there it's still there were some elements that I felt were missing to like the kitchen atmosphere But again, I'm like relating it to my very specific experience But that's because I got so excited about like I'm a pastry chef I mean characters a pastry chef they work in a kitchen, but I don't know it just it didn't it was so close to the right experience, but just not quite I think Also, there's a character in here kind of near the end of the book and she is French and the audio book This reader did not understand How French works or how French accent works and it bothered me so much So for example to say no in French it is spelled n-o-n But you don't pronounce the last n so it's and you get really me easily about it. So it's like no no and This audio book person said none Every time none like they pronounce the end it and at the end And I was like this is such a common word that I feel like so many people know Not to do that and oh as you can tell I'm very passionate about it. I'm a linguist this this This is what I do so that was one tiny thing that really bothered me about the audio book And then the other thing was it was kind of like a guide for straight people a little bit But overall I still very much enjoyed I loved the romance and the things that the characters went through and just again How they handled the hard topics It was really good. So four out of five stars. I would definitely recommend this. We are almost there Wow, okay I Also read the merciless ones by an Amina forna this is the second book after the gilded ones and I believe this is going to be a trilogy and I'm So proud of myself for like keeping up with this. So hopefully the third book will be released next year. It's great This It was good four out of five stars. See I had a great reading month four out of five stars the thing is is that there are a lot of terms for a lot of different situations and Things like that and it was kind of hard to keep it all straight like I just got to a point where I was like I can't even register what this term is supposed to mean at this point. It's it's Too it was mentioned once in the first book with context and then since then I Have forgotten what it means because there were four other terms I was trying to memorize and it just did not happen this series definitely deals a lot with discrepancies between male and female because females were very much looked down upon but there was starting to be an intro into Queer genderqueer and trans which was like I had kind of been waiting for that in the first book but I'm really glad that they introduced it in this one because Then you you were able to gather a handle on the first book and then in this book Like it was there and it was given the time that it deserved So that was really cool to see I love how kind of the mythology of the world Got into a much stronger play here. Not everything was as it seemed it took me a little bit to like warm up to it again But then once I did it was like Amazing, so yeah, it was just it was very fast and it was a lot to keep up on But it was definitely worth it. So Highly recommend the series so far the final book that I'm going to talk about in detail Because I have two more books after this that I read but they are going to appear in a vlog So I won't talk about them too much, but I Also read hench and this was by Natalie Zina Walcott This was recommended to me by one of my old co-workers quite a while ago And this follows our main character who is a temp worker and she works for villainous agencies So she is a hench. She is a bad guy and Her specialty is data analysis It's very office job. It was great. I actually ended up giving this two out of five stars Here's the thing I loved the premise of this book. I think it sounded so good But I was very let down on the execution of it. I the beginning I was super happy I loved it. I thought it was amazing how you know, she gets this job and then she starts to Analyze the heroes to find out how to make their worlds crumble around them so that they are Weak or more sporadic and then the public starts to fall less in love with the heroes and the villains can take them down Then it just kept the book just kept going and there was nothing new introduced and It just kind of let me down. I started to get bored by it a little bit. There's also zero romance Which wouldn't be an issue? It's just something I think you should know if you think you would enjoy this book and when pick it up There is no romance. I just by the end of it I was like when is this book going to end? Where is the climax like you didn't Get introduced to the climax until a lot later just because you're kind of On the rise and then low and then rise and then low with the events happening in the book And so I just I did not enjoy this near as much as I thought I was going to there was also very little Description in this book. I I could not picture anything and so I had a very hard time like Imagining the world and immersing myself in it because of that the characters were okay. They were not my favorite I felt they were kind of two-dimensional and there wasn't much to them They were just kind of doing their jobs and moving along which I just I couldn't get invested in characters like that Even though it is kind of character driven just because there didn't seem to be too much of a plot But then it switched around And yeah, I I was very let down by this book Unfortunately, so as I mentioned there were two other books that I read in the month of November But they are going to appear in another vlog and they kind of don't fit the vibe with November I'm gonna say so I read kisser once by me by Allison Cochran and a very merry romance by Lisa K Adams These are both Christmas romance books holiday reads I'm starting to get into that mood right now kind of at the end of November and in December So I very much enjoyed these I loved a very merry romance five out of five stars. Lisa K Adams does it again. We're following Colton the country singer Just captured my heart kisser once for me. I didn't have the right Kind of summary going into it. I had one expectation. It is fake dating But queer romance and so I was kind of let down by a couple of the aspects in this book So I didn't quite read it as highly.  Just I was expecting one thing. It wasn't that and so I got let down but Whatever so these were the last two books that I read the Christmas books And they will be talked about in my Christmas book reading vlog going up later in December So stay tuned for that and the best way to do that is by hitting the subscribe button and hitting the bell So that you're notified when these books go up. I am starting to actually post bonus videos throughout December So I will be posting three videos a week on sunday wednesday and friday. 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press the name of the game for the Nets right now. Find a way to win. They're playing without Kevin Durant without James Harden. There are others that are missing in action right now for Brooklyn taking on a short-handed Boston team. And look like the Nets were going to run away with it up 17 cruising towards the finish line. Something shifted Celtic's great effort to make this one interesting. But in the end the Nets made their free throws came up with enough defensive stops to secure the W. That was the key. I and the defense of stops and I think we saw throughout the course of this game some big-time shop-making by the Nets in certain areas they did a tremendous job in dictating the tempo pushing the pace and 32 fast break points held Boston to none but overall and ultimately when they were closing out the game it was about some timely stops some blocks some steals so much of the activity in the reads on the defense event allowed them to have those opportunities offensively and everyone played a role I think it's something that has become a theme with this team of different players stepping up and making contributions throughout the course of the night but you look across the board and think about some of those plays whether it was Joe Harris knock it down a three-point shot Bruce Brown with some big jams and dunks Blake Griffin making plays the list goes on and for an off-night for Kyrie Irving from the field was doing a lot of other little things and facilitating getting the job done defensively but just overall a gritty way to close this one out when it did get tight Kyrie has taken on a lot of responsibility in the absence of Durant and James Harden not just the last few games extended over a long period of time the fact of the matter is that the Nets do have to find other ways if Kyrie just doesn't have it on a given night you mentioned some of the players involved Blake Griffin one that really comes to mind and the energy that he brought defensively the hustle has been there from the day that he signed on with the Nets and he's now wearing it as a badge of honor in many ways well to think about the fact that he now leads the league in charges and additionally does so on the Nets just with his time here in Brooklyn but it was those two charges he took the night that I think at some way shifted the momentum of the game and those stretches allowed the Nets to open up the floor and offensively they can run and initiate so much offense through him not only because he can score and take advantage of mismatches but also how he's able to find teammates and we see just great reads of all these guys off one another and to think about the fact that Mike James played such a significant amount of time after just being signed to attend a contract but it's the roles it's a fit that I think everyone is able to feed off of and find that type of continuity and the Phoenix Suns come to town on Sunday they've been one of the best teams in the NBA this season Monty Williams has done outstanding work there Chris Paul everywhere he goes that team wins that has been fairly consistent throughout his NBA career and you imagine this is going to be a hungry motivated and well it have relatively rested Phoenix Suns team despite the fact they're on this road trip they probably had one of their worst games of the season just the other night at Boston and so they'll have a couple days and opportunities to prepare for the Nets on Sunday and you said it's been fun to watch what Phoenix has been able to do and imagine they will be ready to rebound Sunday 20 games over 500 the Nets are once again in sole possession of first place in the Eastern Conference they sweep the Boston Celtics and they get it done down the stretch