Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today. Our topic, guys will never choose or commit to you if you're making these mistakes. So don't do any of these, which I'm about to share with you. Really quickly, before we get started, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if any time during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I could be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if a couple f-bombs or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my opinions, my perceptions. By no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a contrarian, so much of my advice is contrary to the rhetoric that you've heard in the past. So you have to decide, does this resonate with you? Or do you just go, ah, to what Jonathan has to say. All right, let's jump into the topic of when a guy is gonna choose and commit to you because I know every woman wants to know how am I gonna get a guy to commit. So I'm gonna be candid with you.  Let me just call it for what it is.  Now I know that's kind of cruel, so let me rewind that a little bit. Let me just say mostly clueless would be a better way of suggesting this. And let me give you an example. I am sure you've gone on dates with men and you've said to a guy, I want a relationship. And he goes, I want a relationship too.  And all of a sudden he says, I don't want a serious relationship. Well, the problem is when human beings say, I want a relationship, what you think a relationship is might be completely different than the kind of relationship I may think it is. So for example, in your world, you might be thinking, well, I'd like to see you two or three days a week. We'd like to do activities together. I'd like to be intimate with you. I wanna meet your family and friends and the list goes on and on. And in his world, it might be, well, I wanna see you once every other week at my beck and call. And that's what a relationship means to me. Folks, if you're not getting clarity on even just the term, what does a relationship mean? You're walking into a hornet's nest, okay? Because what he may perceive, what you may perceive it to be and what he may perceive it to be, and I'm just using this as an example, that space in between, that's called drama, drama, drama, because you're expecting him here and he's here.  Let me read back track. You're saying to me when you're asking for coaching, well, he said he wanted a relationship. Well, are you guys on the same page? And we have to take this step, take it to a next level. And what does commitment mean? What does commitment mean to each other? So I'm pulling up my, putting on my trusty glasses and I want you all to Google, I want you to type in Google, what is the definition of commitment? And I'm gonna read it to you. The definition of commitment, there's two definitions. First, the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause or activity, or number two, an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom. An engagement or obligation that restricts freedom. So let me give an example of restricting freedom. Let's say it's my niece's birthday party this weekend.  And I say, I'm in. So I made a commitment, but I wake up that morning going, God, I just don't feel like going. I'm feeling tired. I've got this going on. I've got that going on. Oh my God, I don't wanna go to my niece's birthday party, but I made a commitment. So that commitment feels like a restriction of freedom. And for a lot of people, men and women, commitment can feel like a restriction of freedom. Now, the first definition of commitment is dedicated to a common cause, dedicated to a common cause. And the challenge for those of us in midlife, and if you're in midlife, I'm a midlife dating coach. So that's after baby making years and before retirement. So most of my clients are somewhere between 42 and 69. Okay, what's missing is that common cause is making babies and raising families together. So that used to be the common cause. And now most midlife folks don't know what that common cause is to be together because companionship, connection and sex is not enough. And really, if we wanna take the definition of commitment deeper, we actually, to really reach a level of full commitment with another human being, you actually have to want to reach a point of wanting to take a care of another human being for good or for bad, for richer, for poor, for sickness through health, sickness or in health. Okay, that's the definition of full commitment. And the problem with most men these days, they're not a lot of men after going through a nasty divorce and you ladies feel the same way. I've heard so many women say, I don't wanna be his nurse or his purse. Well, that's basically saying that you don't want full commitment and many men feel the same way, especially after a contentious divorce. So this is one of the challenges of meaning to a place of full commitment and that's to determine if you're on the same page. In addition, so I think this is really important to understand and most of you are in the clouds, you're in the fantasy realm, you're operating from the place of, well, Jonathan, if I just sit back in my feminine energy, he's just gonna naturally climb me. Listen, folks, I'm all in favor of being in your empowerment. I am a big proponent of being in your empowerment.      There are some good things in here about empowerment, but most of it's designed to play games. And I'm here to suggest not playing games. And yet what are women doing these days that are causing men to avoid commitment? Well, first and foremost, you're not, first and foremost, you're giving your power away and most of you have no clue as to what your standards are, what your standards are. So let me give you an example of a standard. I'm gonna use my own personal. If you follow me, you know this because you probably already know this by heart. My standard in a relationship, right from the very early stages till the time I get married is gonna look like this. We are till we actually move in together, look something like this. We spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared hobbies, mutual interests, shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork building skills both in our personal and professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either getting married or living together. That's my standard, okay? Now I interview hundreds of women a month for my coaching practice and every single one of them doesn't know their standard. They go, well, I want a relationship just like I said earlier. If you don't know what that is to you, then how can you determine if the guy you're with is on the same page? And so right off the bat, one of the first mistakes you make is not having clarity around your standards. And if you need some support with that, check out the link below in the description to a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. My area of expertise is teaching you how to determine your standards and how to ask questions in a way that actually turns a guy on instead of turning a guy off. So check out that link below. So as I said before, the mistake most women make is that they give their power away in relationship. They give their power away. And I'm gonna share with you what that looks like. So I'm gonna put on my trusty glasses again and read from my notes and here's my notes. Guys will never choose or commit to you if you're doing these mistakes. And mistake number one is the relationship is on his terms. The relationship is on his terms.  Remember, a boundary is simply what's okay and what's not okay for me. So the relationship is on his terms. So you're seeking three or four days and nights a week together. He's like, you know what? I just wanna see you at my beck and call. And you're okay with that. You're okay with his terms. Folks, do you know what's really sexy to a guy? When you establish your standard and then you stick to your standard. Now, let me say this. This is sexy to the emotionally healthy man. Sadly, the vast majority of human beings are rather dysfunctional. In fact, if you haven't seen my latest chart, I'm gonna pull it up here. Now by the way, this chart, I want you to read the bottom. Not a fact, just an opinion. But this chart is emotional maturity, emotional maturity and relationship skills. And the reality is it's roughly about 20% of the human population or at least here in the United States anyway, have clinical issues when it comes to their personality and behaviors. And then another 60% are dysfunctional. This is men and women alike. You have weak emotional skills, weaker relationship skills. And then lastly is about 20% are healthy. Now, every woman and every man thinks they're emotionally healthy. This is the delusion happening in the dating, mating and relating realm.  And I know a lot of you women think you're better at it. You are not. And I can say this as a man in the dating realm. I'm dealing with the exact, every problem you're dealing with men, I'm dealing with women. This isn't singular to a gender. So we're dealing with a dysfunctional demographic. And if you want to put the odds in your favor, then it's time to wake up to this understanding that so many of you women operate from giving your power away by allowing the man to have the relationship is on his terms. Ladies, men are rather clueless. They're winging it in the dating realm. They're winging it. So let me just say this, if you're giving the job to him, you're giving the job to the wrong person. You are in charge of your relationship destiny, not the guy. Number two, you're afraid to speak your truth in relationship.  Let me just tell you something. If you're not familiar, I wrote a book called What the Heck is Self Love Anyway. What the Heck is Self Love Anyway. Chapter one is speak your truth, just do it kindly. And then later, chapter nine, if you're sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right guy. You can't do the wrong thing with the right guy if it's sincere and from your heart. If you're coming from fear, if you're coming from judgment, if you're coming from a borderline personality, absolutely you can screw up a great relationship. And please forgive me on the borderline. And believe me, this is true of men and women alike. So, but I'm here to say, folks, stop being afraid to speak your truth. True intimacy happens when you speak your truth to a guy. If you're not familiar with the book Oral Sex, Oral Sex, and by the way, it might be out of stock right now, so there's alternative books, but talking and listening your way to passionate intimacy. Folks, the reason why you guys aren't committing to one another is you haven't developed the deep bond of intimacy to actually take the relationship to the next level. But Jonathan, I'm just supposed to sit back on my feminine.   I'm an equal opportunity judge here. I'm saying this, believe me, I witnessed a lot of dysfunctionality out there and I'm saying, ladies, you're just as guilty of this as men. Okay, number three, you're waiting for him to initiate contact. Folks, men want to feel appreciated. They don't want the burden of the relationship on their shoulders. Now, emotionally mature men. Emotionally immature men, again, they want you at their beck and call, so they're gonna reach out at their beck and call. But if you wanna be with an emotionally healthy guy, then you're gonna have to initiate contacts, plan dates, take the bull by the horns, stop leaving it up to men. But Jonathan, all the other dating coaches tell me to do something else. You know, if all those other dating coaches were right, why are people miserable out there? Why are they miserable out there? I'm here to offer an alternate way of looking things. Folks, I'm a big proponent. The dating process is a two-lane street. A two-lane street, you're equally making effort in the relationship, equally making effort. You're mutually on the same page. And as I said before, you mutually want to take care of one another. The reality is a stage one of love is I need my needs met, but stage two is I care about my partner's needs. And a lot of human beings are operating from that selfish place of their own needs. I'm here to say, look it, I'm all in favor of putting the oxygen mask on yourself first. It starts with self. There's no doubt about it. Self love starts with self. And at the same time, it's about having compassion for human beings as well. And stop waiting for him to initiate contact. You can make contact as well. Okay, number four, you stop doing your pre-relationship life because you're waiting for him all the time.  I'm gonna repeat that, a doormat, men are attracted to emotionally healthy men are attracted to empowered women.  And number five, you feel like you can't live without him. There's an old adage, the person who cares the least has the power in the relationship. Now I'm a big believer when two people genuinely care for each other mutually, that's where relationship success lies where you both mutually wanna take care of one another. It is not, you can't live without him.  It's just popped in my head right now. Okay, there's a picture of Connor right there and there and there. Losing a child is the worst thing on the planet to have happen.  I know I can live, he's not here in the physical sense. I didn't abandon who I was because he transitioned to the other side. And so when, if you feel as though you can't live without a guy, I just want you to understand something folks, when you can learn to love yourself because that's the lesson Connor, that's the lesson Connor taught me when he passed away was learning that what's most important is I love on myself. It's not to give my power away to anyone else. And if I can pass on this bit of wisdom that I learned for myself, is that you can live well without a guy in your life because let me tell you a guy won't commit to you if he remotely feels like he has greater power in the relationship. And lastly, number six, again, this is kind of a piggyback. You only think this is the only person in the universe that will ever make you feel chemistry. Oh my God. Listen, I've had chemistry with dozens of women and I hope to God the next person I meet is the last one I have, like the last first kiss. But I know if it isn't, there always will be someone out there I can have chemistry with. Stop believing that this one guy, you had Jonathan, I have this most amazing connection. I have to hold out for him because I'll never feel this again. Folks, you can absolutely feel this again because when you give your power away to a man, an emotionally healthy man won't commit. Only the users and the emotionally unhealthy men will take advantage of that. So be in your empowerment, be in your sovereignty, be in your self-worth, your self-esteem, self-reliance, self-confidence, self-discipline, your self-love, be in that space of being and watch how men gravitate towards you instead of runaway. Does that make sense? All right. All right. How is a guy gonna choose you when you are empowered and not giving your power away? And when you know your standards and you stick to your boundaries, that's what's gonna make a guy commit. Can I get an amen? And can I get a thumbs up if you agree? All right. Well, that ends our content portion of this. Now we're gonna take questions from the audience. If you're watching the live stream right now on YouTube, there's a chat box where you can post questions, you can write the word question and post the question there after, or you can purchase a super sticker, super chat. All of the funds, there's a little dollar sign in the chat box. All the monies go to a scholarship fund in the name of Connor Asley. Again, that's him there, my son who passed away. And it helps to fray the cost of personal development. So I invite you to purchase a super sticker, super chat to help fund the Connor Asley scholarship fund for helping folks to fray the cost of personal development and giving to the personal development charities I care about most. All right, let's jump into our, and by the way, if you're listening to the audio portion you won't be able to see the Q&A. So let's scroll here. Declan's world starts off. Question. Do newly divorced men move slower in relationship? X example, introducing you to kids in extended family. By the way, I just received your book. Declan's world, thank you so much. Do divorced men move slowly? Well, yes and no. So men who are co-dependent, co-dependent, if you're not familiar with the book, co-dependent no more, co-dependent no more. There is a group of human beings that are rather dependent on other human beings, not interdependent dependent. And if a man is co-dependent, he oftentimes attaches himself to the first woman he meets. He attaches himself to the first woman he meets. In other words, this is a man or woman who cannot live on their own. They literally feel unsafe. It's the Jerry Maguire. I need someone to complete me so I can feel good about myself. In fact, these people are suckling on the nipple of, I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I repeat that. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I'm gonna repeat that. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. We are suckling on the nipple of that. Many people in the United States. So there's a group of men that immediately attach themselves to other women. The first woman they meet, they oftentimes marry and they often have a 65% divorce rate and then they have a 75% divorce rate on their third marriage because that's one group of men. Then there's the other group of men that are players after the divorce. They're like, oh my God, I have freedom and I have money. Look at the guys with money and have freedom. Oh my God, they turn into players after divorce. And I kind of did that a little bit after my divorce. I wasn't playing, I wasn't a player. I was a serial data after my divorce. I was addicted to the high of meeting women for the first time. I was addicted to that high. So I was a serial data. Then there are other men that are serial monogamous, serial monogamous. And these are men that will enter into a relationship but I have a theory about people who are serial monogamous. I think these are typically emotionally unavailable or emotionally stunted people that are codependent. They prefer monogamy, but they're not capable of going into deeper intimacy. They're not capable of going into deeper intimacy. Then there's a group of men that take a break from dating. Then there's a group of men that the last thing they want to do is ever get remarried. As I said earlier, a lot of men and women don't want to become someone's nurse or doctor or their purse or wallet. So there's all types of different people after divorce. Here's what I have learned. It takes about two years to unravel the tapestry of an old life to integrate into your new life. And most of the time people have one to two transition relationships during that first two years. So here's the gamble you take by dating someone who's just gone through a divorce. The gamble is, are you going to be their transition girlfriend? Now I shared this story once before, but I want to share it again. This was right after I moved out of the house when I was going through a divorce and it was about five months into my divorce. And I met this woman online and she said, how long have you been divorced? I said, well, I just got separated five months ago. And she wrote me back saying, reach out to me in 18 to 24 months after you've had one or two transition relationships. I go, what are you talking about? She goes, you're not ready for a relationship. I go, no, I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready. And she goes, well, I'm not interested. So sure enough, I met a woman about eight, nine months after my divorce. Great woman, fantastic woman. But three months into it, I was so not ready for a relationship. And then about four months later, I met another woman we dated for about three months and I so wasn't ready for a relationship. And when I thought back to what that woman said, she was right. Not that those were real deep transitional relationships, but it took me years before I was ready for a serious committed relationship. In fact, after my divorce, I went through the tunnel of despair. The market crash of 2008 wiped me out and I began doing drugs and alcohol just to get through the day. And that's a significant number of human beings out there, men and women alike. So the reality is, is it takes a minimum, I think, on average, not as an absolute, a good two years to actually be even consider taking on the responsibility of being in a romantic relationship that leads to commitment. I'm gonna repeat that, just even consider it, takes a couple of years. And those codependent people do it very quickly and guess what? They get divorced just as quickly because they jumped in before they got to know who they were. So coming back to your original question, Declan, do newly divorced men move slower in relationship? Some, yes, some, no, some operate the different ways I just shared with you. So I hope that helped out. That was a great question. Thank you so much. All right, thank you. I wanna thank Susan Van Turry for the $5 Super Sticker. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. There it is. Thank you so much for the Super Sticker. All right, question. Oops, bear with me, everyone. This is just a little bit. Let's go swim in. Pa, Parisa says, Jonathan, dear lovely Jonathan, how do we know if we're ready for a relationship? Okay, first, you know what your standards are. You know what your standards are. As I shared earlier in this video, my standard is we spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in our personal and professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy with the desire of either moving into or they're getting married. Ultimately, it takes this one thing. I believe this is my latest conversation that's been going on in my head to really help you get clarity on what it takes to actually be in a relationship, to actually be in a fully committed relationship. Folks, until human beings can reach that point of saying, I'm willing to take care of somebody. I'm willing to take care of somebody, through thickness and thin, through better or worse, through sickness and health, through richer or poorer, until you actually can reach that point where you want that before you even meet a person saying, I am ready to take care of someone. So for those folks that say, I don't wanna be a nurse or purse, well guess what?  You don't wanna choose men who are sick and you don't wanna choose men who are broke. I get it, but guess what happens?  Would you abandon them or would you take care of them? Until human beings reach a point of saying, I'm ready to take care of somebody. Then guess what? Midlife relationships are mostly going to be casual relationships. Let me repeat that. Midlife relationships are going to be casual relationships until you reach this level of saying, I'm ready to take care of another human being. I'm gonna tell you something. This awareness came to me just recently. Now part of this is after my divorce, I'm gonna be candid with you after my divorce, I didn't feel very appreciated in my marriage and we certainly had a contentious divorce. In fact, it was all about the money, the money, the money, the money. And I began to resent my ex-wife and quite frankly, I began to resent women in general. Because on some level the dating process comes with expectation that men are supposed to be the providers and pay for everything without any genuine reciprocation and it was mostly coming out of expectations. So I resented women for a long time, for a very long time. I'm being, this is very sincere. Now I've healed that, I've healed that but many men feel the same way. They feel a sense of resentment, especially if they went through a contentious divorce. And then for the longest time, I didn't wanna take care of anyone because I didn't have the resources to take care of anyone. I was flat out broke after my divorce because of the market crash of 2008. So I didn't feel like I was capable of taking care of someone. And then I literally was having this awareness the other day, I actually was sitting out on my balcony sipping some, well sipping some wine. This is my coffee mug that says, swear a little, you'll feel better. I was sitting on my balcony and I said to myself, I'm ready to take care of somebody. I'm ready to be there, richer or poor, thicker than, sickness and health, I'm ready. And it took that awareness to shift. And I feel like just that shift alone is going to shift how I attract the right partner in my life. It takes wanting to be ready to take care of someone. Is this sinking in, is this resonating? And I know ladies, you are natural caretakers, but ultimately it's gonna require the man to want to be a caretaker in this relationship as well. It's gonna require the man to reach that point to say, I want full commitment. Instead of, remember I showed you the commitment here, the definition of commitment, the state or quality of being dedicated to a common cause. That common cause is I wanna take care of you. You mutually want to take care of one another. Sadly, most men entered the dating process thinking commitment is a restriction of freedom. This is why I encourage you all to ask better questions in the dating process. This is why if you need some help, check out the link to a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. I teach you how to ask those better questions early in the dating process so you don't spend time with the wrong guy you actually determine. And I'm gonna give you a hint. The first question you should ask a guy, what does commitment look like for you? What does it look like for you? That's a powerful question. But Jonathan, I'm not supposed to interrogate a guy on the first date.   And folks, you're not ready for a relationship until you know this book backward and forward and forward and backward and backward and forward. And you better also get the companion, not the companion book, but the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg because most you women and men especially are terrible at your communication skills. So if you, listen, I know I was yelling. Let me take a deep breath. I yell because children, you're gonna touch fire. Folks, you're not ready for a relationship, a healthy relationship until you know the mechanics to a healthy relationship and you have good communication skills and you're ready to take care of someone. So that's my invitation for everyone today. Is this syncing in? Is this resonating? If it's yes, give me a thumbs up. All right, I think that answers your question, Parisa. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. All right, looks like Stacy just sent a dollar super sticker. Thank you so much. We have another super sticker by Stacy. Thank you so much. We have, let's see, I see some other ones here. Oh, we've got Susan. Question. Oh, wait, one second, Susan. Okay, and Debbie has a question. Susan wrote, question. Do I tell this nice guy to check back in a few months?  Well, what has he suggested? What has he said? I mean, a few months. First off, if he's capable of meeting you, then see him. You don't have to make the suggestion. You can certainly make that offer just say, hey, look, I know you're going through a lot right now and maybe you might want to take a break from meeting. I'm okay either way. I'm okay either way. But I would invite, let's see what he says. What does he suggest? Or you can make the invitation. That's a great question, Susan. And that's the way I would approach that question. So great question, thank you so much. All right, Debbie writes question. My significant other was divorced over 13 years ago. He has two grown daughters that don't speak to him. He only blames his ex for that. Do I keep gently nudging him to speak more about this? Well, okay, that's an interesting question. So I'm thinking about this. You know what bothers me? It bothers me that a child can be influenced by their parents. In other words, a child can poison, or excuse me, a parent can poison a child's mind. It really bothers me that a parent would do that. But it also makes me a little leery that a child doesn't love their parent. They would abandon their parent. So I'm not an expert in this area. This is a really tough one. I would probably speak to a therapist or a psychologist because this is a really tough one.  And the fact that a woman doesn't have a relationship with their children freaks me out. Meaning I'm actually believing that the woman is the problem versus the other parent. And I'm not suggesting that the wife in this particular case is the problem, but I would venture to say there are some issues with the man himself that would make me reluctant to even want to invest with someone because here's the bottom line, folks. One of the fundamentals of emotional maturity is you take personal responsibility for your choices. And sadly, most people are suckling on the nipple, the nipple of victimhood. In other words, it's my ex-wife's fault that my children don't like me. It's my ex-wife's fault without taking any ownership in their own part. So I'm not suggesting that's the case. I'm just here to say I'm leery of anyone who doesn't talk to their children even if their ex-spouse poisoned them.  And I probably tried to poison it as well. Look at when you're angry and contentious, this is gonna happen. I'm just a little worried when someone doesn't have a relationship with their child, I'm worried what's wrong with them. That's just how I feel about that. So Susan, thank you so, or Debbie, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. Melissa purchased a super sticker.  Thank you so much, Melissa. I appreciate that. All right. Coco writes, question. Coco 2021 writes, question. What are your thoughts for when he doesn't trust women from being hurt in his past a lot? He tells you different, but doesn't seem to trust you and is on guard all the time. Great question. Folks, here's how I feel about dating people with trust issues. No dating. Do not date a woman or man with trust issues. Folks, I have gone out on dates with women who have trust issues. If a person has trust issues, I run the other direction. Now, a couple of reasons why in my world, I talk to women all day long.  Folks, when someone has an issue, it's on them to heal it on their own time. Your job is not to be the therapist to heal someone that has trust issues. And I would avoid someone with trust issues very much. Someone who's been hurt in the past. Someone who has their guard up.  If you women have a guard up, that means you're not open and receptive to love. Listen, I'm not here, my father used to say, by the way, my parents are Turkish. So he says it with a little bit Arabic tone. He says, you can put your faith in Allah, but don't forget to tie up your camel. Listen, folks, I'm never in favor of being guarded. I'm never in favor of being guarded. I'm in favor of being open and receptive to love and detached from an outcome. Let me repeat that, detached from an outcome. And ladies, as I said at the beginning of this video, you guys are suckling on the nipple of giving your power away to men. That's because you're attached to the outcome. Stop it! Stop giving your power away. Stop being attached to the outcome. There's a dance between being open and receptive and being mindful, versus just giving your power away and expecting a result. Look, listen, if we learned one thing, there are apps. Folks, I shared earlier I lost a child. If I've learned one thing in life, nothing is guaranteed. Nothing is guaranteed.  It can happen as fast as that. Life changes at a dime. If I learned one thing from Connor is to learn to appreciate every day as much as I can possibly appreciate and not get attached to some future outcome. Sure, I might make plans to go on vacation and I buy tickets and things like that, but getting attached to the outcome as if it's, folks, if I can get one say one thing, stop being attached to the outcome with someone because you cannot guarantee what's gonna happen next. And if you're giving your power away to someone, you're literally expecting them to hold your heart and men can't do that. Only you can do that for yourself only you can love on yourself. Connor was the inspiration for this book because he taught me one lesson. There are no guarantees. What's most important is living your life to the fullest each day. Chapter one, speak your truth, do it with kindness. Chapter two, stop complaining.  These are all the lessons I learned from my son. Please order the book so you can learn it. It's a journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work. So you don't learn to give your power away to another human being. Thank you for allowing me to go on on a tangent and thank you for allowing me to share. All right, Coco, I hope I answered your question. I went off on a tangent there. All right.  I wanna give you a hug. You're really giving away good advice which we're all thankful and looking up to you. Thank you so much. Stacy says, we all have trust issues. No, I don't have trust issues because I have learned one thing. So let me just say this. I have learned one thing. I can trust myself. I don't put my faith in other people. I put faith in myself. So we can absolutely learn to trust if we learn to trust ourselves. Do we all have issues?  Do we all have fears in relationship?  And at the same time, we can learn to trust ourselves because the real journey, and this is the journey I've worked on, is learning how to trust myself. And that's my invitation for everyone. Anna says, hugs to you, thank you. All right, question. Sadie writes, Jonathan, how do you strike a balance between showing a man that you like him and not being overly keen? Well, that's easy, just stop being overly keen. Listen, folks, it's simple. You make an investment, he makes an investment. You make, he makes, or excuse me, he makes an investment, you make an investment. Let me bring it down here. You make an investment, he makes an investment. He makes an investment, you make an investment. A relationship is like a ping pong game. You back and forth volley making investments in each other. You share and express at a mutual level. When it's in balance, what's that space in between? Drama, drama, drama. Ladies, you guys make a lot of drama because if you have an expectation of here and he's here, that's not his fault, that's on you. So don't give this much. If he's giving this much, you give this much. You can still express you care for someone. You can still express you like someone. And at the same time, you can express what you desire in a relationship. That's what a standard is.  It's time to speak up. Stop giving your power away. Listen, there's a great book by Barbara DeAngelis called Making Love All the Time. I love this book because it teaches women how to be more, teaches men and women, excuse me, how to be more engaged in the relationship.  Read this book together because then you don't have to worry about it. You're communicating. But Jonathan, I'm just supposed to sit back in my feminine energy and let him climb me.   No, everybody, as Stacy said, I don't believe everybody has trust issues. I think everybody has issues, okay? It's just a matter of degrees. Some people have clinical issues. I mean, real clinical issues, sociopaths, borderlines, bipolar disorder, narcissism, men and women alike. And then there are the emotionally healthy people that everybody is somewhere in the middle. Stop pretending that Prince Charming exists because the reality is is most men, most men are good guys. They're just bad daters. That's all. Most people are bad communicator. Most people have bad communication skills at best. Not all, most, okay? And it's just as many women as men. All right, I went off on a tangent there. I hope I answered your question. Thank you so much. Gisela says he doesn't exist. And that kind of thinking, folks, is why somebody will remain single. If you don't believe good men exist, then you will remain single. Stacy says BS. Okay, that's how you feel. As I said in the beginning of this video, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, okay? I'm a contrarian. I see the world a little bit differently. You can agree and we can agree to disagree. I don't disagree with what I'm saying. But then again, it's coming out of my mouth. Unless somebody, let me just say this, true growth is to be able to listen to someone's point of view and accept their point of view as being true for them. And I am certainly open to having my mind change. Just give me the data to change my mind. That's all. Okay. KK says, or KJJK says, can you please do a video specifically about crappy X, Ys, divorce and separated men? Will she always be coddled and defended? Okay, I'll do a video on that at some point. Okay, Joy writes, question, we have just have to work on not letting our issues get the best of us. If we don't love ourselves, how can we give away what we don't know and how to do it ourselves? Correct, folks. There's an old saying, how can you love another if you can't love yourself? Here's the thing. I think we're all work in progress. I'm gonna repeat that. I think we're all works in progress. So here's the thing. If you're actively healing childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that cause our negative patterns and limiting beliefs, if you're actively healing it, it's absolutely okay to start being in relationship with someone. If you've done no work to heal childhood wounds and traumas, most likely you are going to be dysfunctional in relationship. This is why I continually recommend the book, The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process. This is a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas that cause negative patterns and limiting beliefs in our lives. And I recommend this book to everybody who wants to shift their narrative from having dysfunctional relationships with themselves and to start having functional relationships with others. Let me repeat that. To start healing on oneself, the dysfunctional aspects of oneself, which allows you to actually have a functional relationship with one another. And that's my invitation for all of you. So I hope that helps. At least that's my perception anyway. All right, thanks so much. Is this resonating with you? If it is, give me an amen. Hit that like button. If you need some support, check out the link to a free discovery call to see if working with the coach is right for you. Check out my group, Midlife Love Mastery. If you wanna have direct access to me on a regular basis. All right, I think we have time for one more question. All right, Stacey writes, "'We all love you and we care about you, "'so you can share with us your top three experiences "'with your son. "'We're here for you.'" Aw, thank you. My top three experiences. Well, my first one that comes to mind is that there are no guarantees in life. In other words, you can wake up tomorrow, you could be dead or someone else can be dead, you love. So folks, Connor passed away on July 3rd, 2018. The last time I physically saw him was July 1st, 2018. My son and I had a ritual. We would get together a couple of times a week to have lunch. We'd break Brad, share what was going on. It was great. And usually, and not usually, every single time we said goodbye, we had a ritual. We gave each other a hug and a kiss on the cheek and I love you.  That's my last physical presence with him. I texted him the day before he passed away. So the first thing I invite everyone to do is to be grateful because somebody could be gone the next day. Number two, this lesson was a Connor lesson, which is part of my book. It's chapter five in my book, where is chapter five? Chapter five, let me fix this. Chapter five in my book.  This was Connor's version of the four agreements. The four agreements. One of the four agreements is don't let anyone's projection of them, their projection of you affect how you feel. Connor had this beautiful way of allowing, people had a problem with him.  Now, what I mean by not caring, what it meant was I'm not gonna let you affect how I feel about myself.  Don't let anyone's opinion. And by the way, I've had trolls. I have nasty people writing messages. I even had a woman last week write a message.    Hurt people try to hurt others.  So that's the second lesson. The third lesson is to do my best to operate from the premise of what would love do and how would love respond? It's the way I responded to this woman. One of the lessons I learned from Connor was really how to operate from a place of love. Connor, Connor was an unusual kid. My oldest son is a, okay, there's Colin, right? There's Colin, the graduate right there.  In fact, he got pretty much a full ride because he had great grades. Total Stepford kid. Connor, James Dean, rebel without a cause. He traveled a thousand miles an hour with his hair on fire. He just had this amazing ability. He was different than anyone else. He beat to his own drum. It was just beautiful. And what I appreciate most about my boys is that parents love their children. I don't just love my children. I like my boys. I like them. I like them as human beings. I used to call, I call Colin to this day.   I learned to communicate with my boys very early on. I just shared the story with a client who came to visit me today but I did something called sacred circle with my boys, sacred circle, when they were seven and 10 years old. I sat them in a circle. We sat together and I said this, sacred circle on. And when sacred circle was on, they could say whatever they want to me. They could say whatever they want to me. So what did they say?    Look at this. I got a napkin that says it. For four straight years, we used to play sacred circle. And that's all they would say. Wow, my oldest calls me up, says, Dad, can you put on sacred circle? I said, sure. Because I need your advice on something. And I realized that in that time, I had built trust with my children. For four straight years, all they would say, we would play a game like musical chairs, sacred circle on.    I mean, literally for four years. And then Colin felt safe enough to say to me, Dad, can you put sacred circle on? And he asked me a very personal question. And then a few years later, Connor did it. Dad, can you put sacred circle on? It meant, can we be vulnerable, authentic, transparent, safe with one another? And if I learned anything from my children, is that you can't control the outcome of anybody's life, especially those you love and care about. What you can do mostly is listen, be there for them, try to teach them right or wrong. And most importantly, you're gonna laugh at this one.  That was a joke in a movie that we saw. And if you ask them both right now, the three lessons I taught them, that was the third lesson and it was a joke. But it illustrates a point. Don't give your power away to anyone. And that's my invitation for you all. Don't give your power away to anyone. Retain your power through self-love. And I learned all of these lessons being a parent and going through the greatest tragedy any parent can go in their life. So thank you for your question, Stacey. I really appreciate it. By the way, if this resonated with you, please give me a thumbs up. If this resonated with you, purchase a super sticker, super chat, I'd really be grateful. Can I get an amen if this resonated with you? My hair is all funky now. Let me see what's said in the, Joy says, thank you. I am so thankful that you always speak from your heart and you're true to yourself and you don't sugarcoat things. Grateful to have found you. Thank you, Joy. I appreciate that. Oops, let's see. Wendy says, I'm fine with you talking about your sons. My sons say the same thing. Ha ha, more so when they were younger. He's now 24, lives in San Diego. Thank you, Wendy. If you only knew that it was true, I'm not sure what that means. I love the idea of sacred circle with your children. It came to me one day out of the blue and it was the greatest blessing I ever had with my boys. Do you even know what sacred circle is? I just shared what it is or at least my version of it. Stacey says, wow. Alisa says, how beautiful to hear you speak so lovingly about your boys. Thank you so much. Thank you for clearing that up, Stacey. We all love its beautiful memories. Thank you so much.  That's not proper. All right. Folks, I think this would be a great place to wrap up today. A lot was shared. I hope you found value. Guys will never choose or commit if you're doing these things, giving your power away. Meaning the relationship is on his terms. You're afraid to speak your truth. You're waiting for him to initiate contact.   If you want a guy to commit, take ownership of your life, set your standards, have boundaries, have fun, get laid and go out and make it a great evening. If you found value in this, please share it with your friends. If you're watching the replay, post a comment below. I'd be grateful. And we're gonna wrap up today as I always do.  I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to a friend, a pet, a Teddy Barrow pillow and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch, everyone. I really appreciate you, Carol, Marina, Stacey, Carmen, Jennifer, lovely, Michelle. The list goes on, Judy. Thank you all so much and have a wonderful, fabulous day. Bye-bye now.


Good afternoon and thanks for joining us. This is the news update. I'm Loreta Chiyogo. Former Senate President Adolfo Swabara has emerged the new Board of Trustees Chairman of the People's Democratic Party. His appointment followed the resignation of the former National BOT Chairman Walid Jibril. I made the crisis rocking the opposition party. Jibril's resignation and Wabara's appointment were announced at the National Executive Committee meeting in Abuja.


The energy conservation, the energy conservation is the effort made to reduce the consumption of energy by using less of an energy service. This can be achieved either by using energy more efficiently using less energy for a constant service or by reducing the amount of service used for example, by driving less. Energy conservation is a part of the concept of eco-sufficiency. Energy conservation reduces the need for energy services and can result in increased environmental quality, national security, personal financial security and higher savings. It is at the top of the sustainable energy hierarchy. It also lowers energy costs by preventing future resource depletion. Energy can be conserved by reducing wastage and losses, improving efficiency through technological upgrades and improved operation and maintenance. On a global level energy use can also be reduced by the stabilization of population growth. Energy can only be transformed from one form to other, such as heat energy to motive power in cars, or kinetic energy of water flow to electricity in hydroelectric power plants. However machines are required to transform energy from one form to other. The wear and friction of the components of these machines while running cause loss of quadrillions of BDU and $500 billion in industries only in USA. It is possible to minimize these losses by adopting green engineering practices to improve life cycle of the components.ref.r.chutopabutikolan green tribology, green surface engineering and global warming, ASM International USA, 2014. Also three books by same author published earlier on wear, surface engineering and global warming.


In your journey through the back rooms, you'll find a ton of dangerous levels, ones where you can see creatures running around or that there's obviously a dangerous environment or something like that. But the level in today's video is extremely dangerous and you wouldn't even know until it's too late. And except I'm telling you right now, you're welcome. The level in question is level 68, a.k.a. theater, the eater. You get it? The eater. Sit back and relax, but don't actually sit back and relax on this level because you'll never be able to stand up again. You'll see what I mean later. Anyways, let's get into the video explanation, shall we? Go check out my third channel, Spoogey, if you want some more internet mystery horror deep dives. I just uploaded a video on some creepypastas. Go check that channel out if you want more from me. Level 68 of the back rooms is classified as a class 3 difficulty and is very unsafe and very insecure. But it has a low entity count, but it's not the entities that you should be worrying about. The level itself seems to take the appearance of a massive movie theater that sprawls out for a long while. It's just one massive complex with different parts of that same theater. The entire level doesn't feel like a theater, though. It almost feels organic, like it's alive or like it's an organism that you're walking around inside. There's things like fungus and grass that grow up in the darker hallways and mushrooms sprout from random areas as well. There are also corridors and hallways and rooms that intersect to this massive theater, and they all lead back to this one large theater room.  And at first glance, it seems pretty innocuous, pretty normal, until you examine it closer. You see, these seats seem to be coated in some kind of saliva material, making them a gross and sticky mess.  Like, even though it looks disgusting, you want to sit down. It's almost this irresistible urge. And when wanderers do sit down, they describe the chairs as being abnormally comfortable. Like, more so than any other chair they've ever sat in, this is the most comfortable, even though you're sitting in a soggy chair. You see, once all the people inside the theater are seated in a chair or they choose to sit down, the chairs themselves seem to release some type of chemical enzyme into the fabric of the chair and the saliva that's coating it. This enzyme has one function and one function only, to rapidly melt the skin of the thing sitting on top of it. Which is, you know, just great as it is, but it doesn't just stop there. The enzyme melts and re-solidifies clothing and to the chair fabric itself, virtually fusing the skin of the thing sitting in the chair to the fabric of the seat that it's sitting in, causing whoever sitting down to melt directly to the chair and be unable to move. Nice. Now, while this is happening, the victim doesn't really seem to notice anything and they're distracted by something else. There's a ton of theories on what distracts people.  I don't know. Now, once you're successfully melted directly to the chair, the screen at the front of the theater will start to play a movie. How nice. The films that are played here are random and they don't seem to correlate at all with anything from real life. There's not been one single movie that's known. Now, it's unknown that the back rooms itself made these movies or if somehow they're being played from an alternate reality that's like Earth, we just don't know. But the movies do tend to be really crappy and really graphic and wanderers are just physically stuck in the chair watching this very graphic movie, unable to move and unable to run away. Hey, did I mention they're melted to the chair? Once the movie that's playing ends and the credits roll, the people who are stuck inside of the chairs start to shake and convulse violently, eventually succumbing to the shaking. Think of the scenes from Stranger Things Season 3 where the victims start shaking and then they turn to that jelly-looking stuff and you've seen that before. That's kind of what happens here. Anyways, you're no longer there, if you know what I'm saying, after the credits roll of the movie. The chair you were sitting in will then break down the tissue and dissolve it via digestive enzymes, but it doesn't stop there because this level just doesn't know how to. Surprise. After the flesh is broken down by the chairs, it will then be sucked into the chairs to never be seen again, almost as if it's consuming you for lunch or dinner or breakfast.  I gotta say, it doesn't sound too good. Now, the reason this level is so scary besides being melted to a chair and digested by it is that from a quick glance, it seems like a safe theater level. You know, there are several safe theater levels scattered throughout the back rooms and many of them play as sort of a home base for wanderers or a destination for them to get to because they're so safe. So victims of this level might think that they found one of those safer levels when they get sent here, only to sit down and realize that they've walked into their own grave. Now, survivors of this level are few and far between since the level could somehow warp your mind into this false sense of security. It seems that the only way that people make it out alive is they somehow notice what's happening before the chairs release that enzyme to you and consume you. Now, if you can get out of there before then, you'll be okay.  You know, how do I escape? I don't know what I'm doing. I was trying to segue this into the exit portion. Let's just go to it. So to enter the level, you have to walk into a theater on level 11 and you seemingly have a random chance to be sent here. Just completely random, you can be on level 11 chillin' and you'll be sent here. Which again, is terrifying because level 11 is a widely known safe level and the fact that you can be sent here from a safe level to be diced by a chair, it's pretty scary. Now to exit, you have to get up before you get stuck and run to the movie screen at the very front of the theater and then proceed to no clip into it. Or you could also run into a hallway that's here and find a door that looks like this to be sent to level 74. Either way, you got to get out. And the only way to notice what's happening before it's too late is if you sit down and you start to feel your arms getting sticky and harder to move and you'll kind of get uncomfortable. And this happens randomly because like I said, most people who sit here think it's really comfortable and really relaxing. And this mainly only happens to people that are wearing short sleeve shirts since their skin is touching the seat directly.  Sorry. But if you feel yourself getting stuck to the chair, you got to get up and run to the screen to get out. Or you'll never be seen again. That's it for the video. Thank you so much for watching. I thought this level was incredible. I love the name. The Eater is very clever wordplay for theater. I love it. Hope you guys enjoyed it too. Let me know in the comments what other levels that you want me to see go over and make sure to turn the post on and like and subscribe and all that YouTube stuff. I don't know. Do it if you want to. If you don't, that's fine. Hope y'all are hype. Thank you so much for everything. I have so much coming out on this goofy little channel. Thank you for everything seriously. I love and appreciate all of you. And I will see you in the next video on any of my channels, whether it's Broogly Tugly or Spoogey. I'll see you there and I'll be happy to see you then.


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Tommy Beautiful collar you are Tommy. Yes, sir My head good long thick Your master's whistling for your Tommy that man outside the gate. He's gonna scold you for running in here.  Yeah, mr.  It's Michelangelo It's your emery paper How's the statue look? It's okay. If you like antiques, you'd never guess there's a vial of uranium compound Worth half a million dollars hidden in the neck would you have four million dollars? I'd like to kiss it kissing. It's all right But keep this stuff close to you long enough and you'll become radioactive and die Don't you ever touch this statuette without a pair of these special gloves? I won't even kiss it but mr. Morton them foreign guys you're in touch with well They pay you up in their own door or good old United States greenbacks Stubby you and I have lived in this dinky town 50 miles from the atomic plant for two years planning and working finally success We're gonna be paid plenty in the United States green back That was a slick stun all right getting this uranium compound out of the gate and stuck in the dogs long hair with adhesive tape The dog was so low and ran so fast Even the Geiger counter at the gate didn't register boy. I done good when I hooked up with you mr. Morton You got more brains in all them bank heisters and counterfeiters. I ever wake with But now we got this stuff mr. Morton. How do we get the statue out of the country? You'll never guess study. I will anybody else. Yeah have to be some way like nobody ever thought of Remember every Sunday the past two months. I drove over to that mountain resort a hundred miles west So at the big hotel There's a certain guest I've been studying a wealthy Mexican gentleman named Juan Satio 47 good character and very Religious yeah He's visiting over the resort, but his home is in Acapulco, Mexico the famous beach resort Beach resort and an ideal place for us to catch a ship You're say maybe we could stay over there. Oh, wow I said for the uranium compound will be discovered any minute We've got to get it to Acapulco fast That's where the Mexican gentlemen, Senor Satio is going to help. I don't get you. We're going over to visit him study Get the car Only about 10 miles more to the hotel where Senor Satio staying study. What do we do that mr. Morton? Every evening about dusk Walks along the shore of a little lake in back of the hotel There are rowboats on the lake I'm going to be rowing in one of them. Oh look.  You won't be with me study. I Want something to happen so this statue of Saint Cecilia will mean a great deal to him So that he won't part with it under any condition look mr.  Senor Satio Satio Walking on the lake shore Hey, Senor and this is Satio. I'm the man you saved from drowning last evening. Oh, yes, Senor Morton come in, please Senor Satio I brought you a gift of appreciation Let me show it to you. It's beautiful a statue of Saint Cecilia It belonged to my mother before she died. Please take it. No, no, Senor Morton. I could not accept such a beautiful gift What you say of my life. I want you to have it. I insist I Will cherish it, Senor. I realize how dear it must be to you Senor Satio Are you staying in the States? No, I am starting to my home in Acapulco, Mexico tomorrow. I am driving down I'll be happy to know sir that my statue of Saint Cecilia will be going with you. Thank you, Mr. Morton and by you state condios In English one would say May God be with you Elena It is a long drive here from Tennessee Elena And I have 500 miles more to drive to my home this time you you would stay Elena I Promised you that while I was in the States. I will think about us and come to a decision. I love you very much I love you very much to Elena But listen and try to understand you know, I'll do whatever you say your father is a fine man a proud man and You are all he has left I do in my way. I'm a proud man and And I know he does not want you to marry me But we will tell him my life does not belong to him anymore. It belongs to you Elena.  As our party I would keep it at the head of my bed always. I will never part with it. I Should pray every morning and night that that she will watch over you and and protect you Finally I love you for it This is a tear. Huh? What are you doing here in my patio? Don't you recognize me mr. Satir? Senor Morton The man whose life I saved in Tennessee and this is stubby a man who Works for hi. How do you do? This is Satio? That's that you would have since the seal you I gave you in the States. I Need it back. I I do not have it. Where is it? I'm sorry, but I cannot tell you I can't you tell us I Cannot say that either Maybe this gun will make you think a little differently Satio If you don't want to be shot right this minute Walk up front to our car. Can you hear me? Again, I asked you Where is that statuette? I? Will not tell you case study more. Yeah You know Morton this guy can't take it Hold it stubby Then you're Satio Listen to me The reason you won't say where that statue of census here is Is it because you might hurt somebody if you did? Yes, now we're getting somewhere. Who is that person? I would never tell Not if you beat me for a hundred years. Does that person have the statuette? Yes, listen Satio I Gave you that statuette so you would bring it down here to a capulco. 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You must have great reason indeed to come here now You use such words to I am sorry You could not have known No, I must remember Even now that you loved her deeply That is the door to her room a room Is she in the doctors do not understand it But they say there is No hope for her No hope She's She's dying Seniors or teal That is her room You may go in. Are you here? Yes, Elena. I Am real. Let me touch you. I am sorry Elena So bitterly terribly sorry well On the table here Your statue of Saint Cecilia It has been near me all the time. I Don't know what to say. I Am so happy you have come Elena I'm going to take the statue it away. I must very well if you must but for a moment Hold it where I can see it And you I'll be waiting for you one some time Somewhere I promise And my word of honor I Must leave now good bye but I'll be waiting till huh till wait what oh Senor Morton You have the statue up give it to me. You promised you would not follow me they have a million dollars at stake stubby Let him have it so he can't talk This is Helen Ferguson. Mr. Harding secretary. No, Mr. Harding's not here. He flew out this morning He's already at the atomic plant in Tennessee Naturally, Mr. Harding the theft of uranium compound from this atomic plant is a matter for the counterspires. Well, Dr. Corning What section of the plan do you believe it was stolen from right from this laboratory section, Mr. Harding? It's highly radioactive isn't it? Unless precautions are taken it can be fatal. Pardon me, Mr. Harding for Yes What? Yes, yes, yes, of course Oh, that's awful awful. Yes, I'll tell Mr. Harding at once What is it doctor? One of our young chemists so would parts that just shot himself over at his house home and he left a suicide note addressed to you Let's get over there as fast as we can doctor. I want to read that note. I Am killing myself because I committed treason blackmailed by a man whose identity I never learned But I followed his orders I Stole the uranium from the laboratory out from the yard. I picked up the yard cat The man was on the outside of the gate with a collie shepherd dog He let the root dog run in through the gate and there was a fight Of all the fiendishly clever scheme I petted the dog But as I did so I hid the vial under the collie's stomach with adhesive tape The dog's owner whistled the dog ran out of the gate Looks so natural the guards pay no attention What a trick to now I cannot live on as a traitor my wife my children Forgive me what an entry He could have given us just one clue to the identity of the man Maybe he did Peters without realizing it in this part of the country people prefer hounds and not many have collie shepherd dogs I want you to locate every collie shepherd dog within a hundred miles of this plant Now go ahead and tell me but we've located 119 collie shepherd dogs within a hundred miles of the atomic plant the owners all stood inspection the only odd situation is this family We're going to visit Six weeks ago a man named Morton said he was going to Mexico and gave them his dog That's worth investigating I'm glad you brought along the gag her counter to With so much uranium compound taped to the body of the dog even though it was only on him for a few minutes It may have made him radioactive. Yeah, there's some trucks ahead Peter sound your siren the time counts Easy boy, this isn't gonna hurt all set with the counter to move the dog over this way father Peter Come on try the guy your counter. Oh, that's normal Swing the dog over to the father. Come on boy. There you go. Good boy. He sure is radioactive This is the dog without any question Peter look at that needle This dog will never live Sorry, old boy Look at his eyes. I Think he knows it too Peter's you say the woman who has this dog now says that the man who gave it to her mentioned flying to Mexico Yes, I'll check any plane reservations made recently from around here to Mexico and contact the Mexican police The thieves are going to want to get that uranium to some foreign country just as soon as they can Mr. Martin, I'm sure glad to see that boat. Yes, I'll be glad to get out of Acapulco, too Not too happy about our disguises Oh, why is the best we could do you got the tickets nice one study for Europe in a half a million bucks pay off, eh?  That's only the lighter to take passengers out to the ship Oh, thank you. It way out.  We have to show our tickets You know, I got a laugh what's funny right now hands enough uranium come Don't you yell it out. Yeah, here's the guy taking packets There you are You two gentlemen the arse to a gentleman want a porter for that bags and I'll carry a very well Just a moment. We're delaying the line. Let's keep going stand where you want A gun and another one right behind your boy walk through that door. What is it United States counterpies? Peter's I've got them covered see if they have guns We're one each but the hunting the hiding I protest this trick if I am wrong. I'll apologize Peter Bring the Geiger counter closer Shirts ties toilet article Morton what's this wrapped in flannel? just That's your wet hear that The Geiger counter tells us that whatever is in this flannel is radioactive Open up Peter.   Just a moment. I have another way to make it test Come on out Tommy The dog hasn't forgotten you have you all the people here he picked you right out you killed him now He's putting the finger on you When your friends drop in be generous, but be thrifty to serve plenty of delicious Pepsi Cola Pepsi's big 12 ounce bottle gives you not just one sparkling glass full but two get a carton of six and serve 12 delicious drinks Yes, Pepsi is America's biggest cola value. You get twice the tangy taste twice the refreshment twice the Pepsi So why take less when Pepsi is best? Whenever you reach for refreshment, remember That's the cola hits the spot two full glasses. 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What do you think is going on? What is Tom Watson playing at? They've had several years to come up with some policy differences with Jeremy Corbyn. They had the Owen Smith Leadership Election campaign during which they didn't dare articulate policy differences with Jeremy Corbyn. They didn't dare come up with policy differences during the snap election. They thought that by leaking the manifesto they were going to, you know, mock the Corbyn's policies and just show up what an extremist he was. Turns out they were rather popular, so after that they haven't been able to articulate any policy different disagreements. Look, I think we should be very wary of anything that suggests overestimating Tom Watson's abilities. He was good in his time, as Morrissey sang. He was a very adept, parliamentary maneuverer and wrangler. He was good at twisting arms. He engineered the downfall of Tony Blair. We can't thank him enough for that. Right, exactly. He did the right thing. Obviously not necessarily for the right reasons. He ensured that Blair stepped down when he was becoming a liability. But he's had always that very narrow repertoire of backstage maneuverings. And politically his strategy has become a disaster. So of course we know that historically he positions himself on the right wing of new labor. So what I mean by that, I suppose you should say, he positions himself on the authoritarian nationalist wing, right? Not the cosmopolitan, open-ended sort of international swing. And not particularly socially liberal either. So when he was running Liam Burns' campaign and they defined themselves mainly by running against the Lib Dem and portraying the Lib Dem as drips who were soft on asylum seekers, soft on drugs, soft on team gangs, soft on immigrants. So this was in the Hodge Hill by-election in 2004, the campaign leaflet read, Labour is on your side, the Lib Dems are on the side of failed asylum seekers. Yeah. He later took responsibility for that very leaflet. He sort of apologized, but I mean. Well, to be fair, he never stopped. I mean, look at his involvement in Sean Simons' West Midlands mayoral campaign, catastrophic mayoral campaign. I mean, Labour should have walked that election and they lost to a dismultory.  He was back in the day when he was, I think, some sort of student activist, Blairite, but he ran on the basis of what was it, take back control, the Brexit slogan. And everything, the whole literature was designed on a Brexit basis. I think Watson also had some involvement in the pretty awful Stoke by-election campaign where it was run with the English nationalist motifs. And we're going to bring back the mills and go back to the way it used to be before all those people came over.  They didn't actually say that. But so I think Watson is an adherent of a political strategy that has been shown to fail time after time and in fact has contributed quite significantly to Labour's serious electoral decline after 1997. Okay, in the aftermath of the snap election, Tom Watson was one of the few people to put a neck out along with Gloria de Piero and Phil Wilson, a few others. And the interesting thing about all these people is that though they don't come from different wings of new Labour, so Phil Wilson is a leader of open Britain. So it's a remain coalition. But Phil Wilson is also a Blairite who wants to get tough on immigration.  He also writes, I remember after the 2017 general election, he had a fairly poorly researched piece which said that Labour have abandoned the working class because he was looking at those constituents that have the traditional white working class in them, completely ignoring and invisibilizing anyone who were on low incomes living in cities. So in response to that, I remember looking up, because that was based on where Labour did the worst, was in seats with the highest white working class or traditional working class in the sort of Gold Forb sent seats. But if you actually looked it up, the 20 seats with the most, I think kids on free school meals, about 18 of them voted Labour. So it's a really warped view of class, which means that you say Labour is meant to serve the traditional working class. And if we get votes from black and brown people in cities, that's kind of incidental. Yeah. Well, and I mean, also, I think this definition of class is just awful. It's rooted in a kind of culturalist nostalgia. It has nothing to do with real sociologically realistic definition of class relations. But that, beside the point, I mean, I was about to refer to the article that you just describing because it was one of the series by Watson, Piero and a few others. And they all represented a socially and nationally conservative response to Corbinism. And basically, the argument was, crucially, now that we've had this stunning success, thanks to Jeremy Corbyn, we feel that we now need to broaden our appeal and slightly modify our agenda so that we can reach out to the C2s, sort of who are slightly semi-skilled working class voters according to this schema based in small towns and suburbs and so on. And the argument was that the reason why they hadn't been won over was because Labour was too lefty on things like national security and immigration. So it needed to wave the flag more. So this is what I think Tom Watson wants. In terms of his actual concrete politics, that doesn't mean that that's the same as what he can actually deliver in terms of a Labour leadership and so on. But I think that would be clearly what he would be pushing. What he wants, obviously, is to provide some sort of organised framework in which the currently marginal but nonetheless powerful forces of the Labour right can develop some sort of common sense among themselves. Because I think they know that they can't get rid of Corbyn in the here and now. But I think they also know that nothing is guaranteed in politics and some years of pressure and attrition and maybe some disaffection over Brexit or some other issue. We'll start to open up some of the pro-Corbyn membership to more right-wing arguments. So you think it's about winning over the membership to some degree? Historically, Labour right's never been particularly good at working with the membership. So for example, the Labour right in the 1980s almost exclusively worked through the union bureaucracy and the parliamentary groups until eventually they realised they needed to reach out to the union, student union branches, they needed to reach out to constituency branches and so on. But to be honest, demoralisation did a lot of their work for them so that when they finally did get around to talking to the members, they had that should a thank for winning the members over and I guess that but I think they do want to talk to the members. I just think they can't help aggrandising sort of first of all aggrandising their traditional concerns and obsessions but also aggravating the average member. I mean it's kind of gratuitous the way that Tom Watson intervenes. For example, that video statement he made, there were many odd things about that but the oddest thing I thought was his whining about identity politics. I mean he was just, he was talking about a split that occurred which according to him and others was motivated in large part by Brexit and racism, antisemitism and he's complaining that identity politics has caused all this or this antisemitism. Is that what he means? What does he mean? Does anybody know what he means? Yeah when I read what I mean there was the the very dark reading of it potentially true which is that it's it's that the reason there's an antisemitism problem is because people have sided with Muslims. I mean that was what some people were saying on Twitter. I don't know if that's what you should read into it. I mean the other idea is that one of the reasons for the level of the degree of hostility within Labour because a lot of this is about civility, right?  So to Corbynism I'm a Corbynite and everyone else is evil I suppose. It's potentially what he's pointing to I don't know I don't want to put my myself in his shoes. I mean in a way I think by talking about his ideas we're giving him too much credit. Tom Watson has never appeared to me as an ideas man and I think what's interesting about this this grouping he's made is that he's trying to position it as a sort of talking shop for Labour MPs on the back benches to start to pull their way in to start to move Labour policy in a particular direction but they still haven't come up with any particular ideas. So the one thing they say is look we back all the economics this is obviously a tig the independent group have gone down a bit of a more sort of Blair right new Labour-y we don't want to nationalise stuff but Tom Watson they've said we're basically fine with the economics we're going to say some sort of buzzwords about the new digital economy even though I mean I'm sure there's no sort of factional barrier to them doing that within the approved mechanisms in fact it's been Tom Watson's job for the last three years and he hasn't done anything but besides moving on from that they've said it's about foreign policy because what they've tried to see as a wedge issue basically between Corbyn and the electorate is the idea that everyone now loves Corbyn's economics but his foreign policy is a bit wacky a bit anti-nato a bit anti-nuclear and so we're going to shift the Labour Party in that direction the problem is Corbyn's already conceded on all of those things so I mean are they going to be a lobbying group for Trident because we're already pro-trident are they going to be a lobbying group for staying in NATO because we're already staying in NATO I mean it's it's as if they're pitching themselves against the Labour Party from 1983 because they think that some people in the leadership might share those attitudes but when the people who who potentially are a bit anti-nato and are a bit nuclear which is some of the people in Corbyn's office probably Corbyn himself they haven't tried to assert that over the party so so the one the one area they've decided to battle on or where they're pretending to battle Tom Watson et al is is an issue on which they've already won I mean I think what is going on I don't think this is about ideas is and I think it makes sense I think it's relatively smart is that they recognize that the one place they have in the Labour Party with some power is on the parliamentary benches they recognize that because they've all sort of had their tails in between their legs since 2017 they haven't really utilized the bargaining power the leverage they have from that position as they could have done I think Tom Watson has recognized that if they unite if they sort of as we know on the left if you the workers united I mean they're not really workers but you know people united have have more influence and I think what he's trying to do is gather about ATMPs who can say if you don't do XYZ we'll leave and the alternative to doing that is them just sort of waiting to individually get picked off some of them get picked off in deselections some of them know they're never going to get a promotion and I think what he's saying is instead of us getting picked off one by one and melting into a relevance let's go out with a big bang all 80 of us unless we can wrestle some control back from the party so I think we'll see an ultimatum at some point to John Mcdonald to Jeremy Corbyn to say I mean the ultimatum could be something like call off deselections it could be something like put XYZ person into the shadow cabinet or all 80 of us will go at the same time and that would be damaging I mean I think we have to look at it as a as a build up to coup 2.0 I don't think it's about ideas at all


Hello friends welcome again to another session on number system and in this session. We are going to discuss how to find out root of any positive number positive root of any positive number on the number line okay, so let us understand how to do that and so Basically, let us say I have to find out a root of 7.4 Okay, so this is what I am Intending to do so let us say I am trying to find out root of x root of x where x is equal to 7.4. This is my Objective how to do that? These are the steps look carefully and I'll also explain what is The rationale or why this particular thing would work So this works on the identity, which is this which is x plus 1 by 2 whole square Minus x Minus 1 by 2 whole square if you do this. This is nothing but equal to x Okay, so if you somehow find out Root of both then you will be able to find out root of x So that means if I put a square root over it that means this is equal to root of x So this is what the underlying philosophy of finding root of x on the number line Let us see how to do it the steps are like these first of all We have to draw a line segment of length 7.4 that is whatever you want to Find the square root of for example in this case it is x so I have to draw a line segment of the same length So this length is 7.4. Isn't it? So you can see a line segment of length 7.4 has been Drawn now again. You have to extend this line segment by one unit. So let us say now I am drawing BC which is of length one unit So total length AC is nothing but 7.4 plus one now next step is to find a perpendicular bisector of AC So let us draw the perpendicular bisector of AC. So a See so now I have drawn perpendicular bisector of AC and let the point of intersection of the perpendicular bisector and AC is d D, okay This is d now the next step is to take d as the center and Radius as ad or dc. You have to draw a semicircle. So I am now drawing semicircle between a and c with d as the center Okay, so this is a semicircle with d as the center next is you take a line perpendicular to this AC and Passing through B. So I am drawing Yeah, so if you see this line now the draw line drawn is perpendicular to AC and passing through B and let us now Find a point which is the intersection of the perpendicular and the semicircle. So that point is now e This is e next is what you need to do is you need to do is take d as the center and E as the radius and before that let us just join d and e for our convenience So I am not drawing I'm joining d and e for our convenience because I Will be proving a little while later how this particular thing works So now taking B as center and be as radius again taking Be as center and be as radius So if you see I drew a circle with B as the center and e is that e is that be as the radius and now I am trying to find out this point of intersection of point of intersection of The circle and the x-axis and that point is f now. Let us do one thing Let us now measure what bf is so now if you see the length bf is given as 2.72 and if you have a calculator with you or you can do a simple calculation actually bf 2.72 is approximately Root of 7.4 which was our x isn't it so we wanted to find out root of 7.4 Which is now given as bf. So now you can treat B as the origin and Bf point f on the number line represents root of 7.4 Okay, so once again, what did we do we first of all draw we draw we drew a line AB With this which is a 7.4 unit long then we extend B to BC to see which is One unit away that is BC is one unit then we perpendicularly bisect AC to find point D Then on D as the radius and AD as sorry D as the center and AD as the radius We had drawn a semicircle a and This top point of the semicircle is C So AC if you see this one circle which is mentioned as small C So this is a semicircle which we drew then what did we do we took point B and drew up a perpendicular be on Passing through B which intersects the semicircle at point E Then taking B as the radius, sorry B as the center and be as the radius we drew a circle intersecting X-axis at F. So you need not draw a full circle You can simply draw an arc EF such that F is on the X-axis here F is in the X-axis Now the segment Bf represents the root of X and the proof for this is like Just described over here. So if you see let me write it down and explain it to you so if you see Points DB if you see what is DB or DE? DE is given as DE is nothing but the radius of the semicircle, isn't it?  So we got DE as X plus 1 by 2 now. What is Let us say DB now DB will be equal to DC DC which is equal to the radius again, which is nothing but X plus 1 by 2 and minus so DB is DC minus BC BC So this is X plus 1 by 2 minus than 1 because BC was one unit and if you do this calculation You'll get it is X minus 1 upon 2 Is it it so hence? hence BE BE Square it will be equal to equal to DE squared minus DB squared, isn't it? DE squared minus DB squared by what by Pythagoras theorem. So hence my dear friends BE will be equal to under root DE squared minus Dd squared Isn't it and if you look closely This particular relationship is nothing but what we have explained here. So D BE is nothing but X and DE is nothing but X plus 1 by 2 whole square and then DB is X minus 1 whole square and that is the that is the That is how we found out that this length BE represents root of X now since BE represents root of X, but I had to show it on the number line So what do I do I draw a circle or an arc taking B as the radius and BE as the sorry BE as the center and BE as the radius and that particular circle intersected the x-axis at F Okay, you don't need to draw a full circle even an arc will do but the point being that BE is equal to BF isn't it why because BE is the radius of the circle and BF is also the radius of the circle So hence BF in a way represents BE which is nothing but root X which was found out by Pythagoras theorem So this is how guys you can find out Any number square root though it was given in this example as 7.4 You could have done 9.7 9.3 8.11 11 whatever and you have to do exactly the same Right quick repetition draw a line AB of the length of which square root You want to find extend it by one unit to see draw the perpendicular bisector of AC find the point D taking D as the center and radius as AD make a semicircle and then Take the point B from point B draw a perpendicular intersecting the semicircle at E Now be as the center and be as the radius draw an arc intersecting The number line at F BF represents root of X. That's how the process is. Hope you understood the process. Thank you