Let us tell you something, the dynastic Egyptians you read about in the history books did not have anything to do with the construction of ancient megastructures we see in Egypt. In fact, it is more than likely they damaged these ancient wonders to a state of disrepair and destroyed their secrets that dated back to a glorious age. The Colossi, the Pyramids, the stone boxes, and the Obelisk were already there when the Egyptian civilization migrated across that area around 5000 years ago. The structures in Egypt that have baffled archaeology for hundreds of years are much older. In fact, they could be anywhere between 30,000 and 100,000 years old. Wait till you hear this. A way back in a time called prehistory, civilizations all over the world seem to have been highly advanced. They built structures that would stand for, well, forever so far. They achieved things that even 200 years ago, humankind could not have even attempted these undertakings. They seem to have been using machinery to create complex, accurate cuts into very hard stone and one day they just disappeared. Why? Where did they go? Was the Egyptian region ravaged by humanity as they discovered the riches and went on to plunder the resources there for thousands of years until they exhausted the resources? Think about that for a second. What if this is true? For thousands of years, the dynastic Egyptians claimed the wonders of Egypt as their own, completely obliterated all the historical evidence that would have been of major importance, destroyed the technology they could not understand, and possibly ruined all the instructions that was left behind for modern humans to discover and understand, just a thought. One of the biggest mysteries of the pyramids themselves is that they seem to be everywhere and they seem to have a similar design. They have similar geometry and they even have the same measurement systems. The Great Pyramid is the most wondrous place on earth and when you're standing in front of it, you are confronted with the greatest mystery of all time and possibly the answer to our existence. Well, at least the question. Who built this place? How could it have been constructed? Why is it still standing?  Could there be a connection between the Pyramid of Khufu and other pyramids around the world, one that has been lost to time, or is it possible that the builders of these engineering marvels had an otherworldly inspiration? Both the Mayans, Chinese, and the Egyptians have legends that the gods came down and gave them instructions to build pyramids. Not so much that God appeared to and told them, but more they were somehow able to access this information from a different realm and from there began the pyramid building process. But could this information be a retranslated idea to suit the discoverers of the pyramids in order to claim the glory for themselves? The fact that different cultures throughout this plane have similar structures is mind boggling. What made these beings decide let's do the pyramid shaped objects unless they were told, unless they were given blueprints. The structures are just unbelievably perfect as if done by a lot of industrious machinery as if there was an almighty important idea for earth inhabitants. You have to come up with the conclusion that you know it's very possible that extraterrestrials built these places as a guide for humanity, a guide to the stars, and possibly a signal that when we become conscious enough the answers will be waiting. Somehow the answers are obvious, that is what we believe, but yet we cannot even understand the concept of what it might be. Might the thousands of pyramids found throughout the world have a common extraterrestrial connection? Is it really possible that the ancient pyramids are part of an advanced, perhaps alien technology, one which we have not yet discovered? If so, what will happen when the secrets are unlocked? We believe that throughout the world a lot of information left behind has been lost, destroyed, or used for a financial gain. If true, can we still decipher the ancient knowledge left behind for us to discover by a civilization that dates back tens of thousands of years ago into prehistory? Whatever the pyramids were constructed with is no longer of this earth, neither are the blueprints. Perhaps the Colossi art representations of the true builders, who knows? What do you guys think? Comments below, thanks for watching.


We had done a study and you may want to look at this study where we had calculated the life cycle greenhouse gas impacts of coal based power plant and if we wanted to instead of coal if we wanted to import natural gas through the LNG basically liquefied natural gas import it from the US look at the entire life cycle of that and then see what happens in terms of the CO2 point of view. So if we look at this you will find that in the Indian context the most of the as we saw most of it is in the power plant itself very similar to the Manan's path study here we got it as 1082 kg CO2 equivalent per megawatt are mine to plant has something coming in with the mining at mining the CH4 emissions fugitive emissions at the mine diesel and electricity use at the mine and the transport. So this accounts for just 59 grams of 59 grams per kilowatt hour or 59 kg per megawatt hour. And so this gives you a sort of breakup just from the this is cradle to the gate kind of calculation and if we look at a similar kind of thing for the if we wanted to use imported natural gas we find that the power plant accounts for much lower the total comes down from 1000 to about 585 here the well to power plant is significant of which it starts with the this is where they are looking at hydraulic fracturing and so back the production of the oil and then processing the transmission in the US liquefaction shipping re-gasification that adds much more than the mine to mine to the well as in the coal case where we started from coal mining to the power plant that was very small this is much higher but then the actual operation is much lower. So overall it turns out to be less we also saw based on this we made a distribution of the actual CO2 emissions for the coal fleet of India of India and you can see very clearly that the mean is around this there are some plants which are which are more efficient maybe there are the supercritical ones and there are some which are operating with a much poorer emission record. And in the case of natural gas if we had this kind of distribution you can see that the mean will be much lower than this. So this gives you an idea of what are the kind of GHG emissions for the power sector and how we can look at it from a energy point of view. When we look at energy return on investment there is a recent paper in nature energy which you may want to look at which calculates the EROI and shows EROI for different kinds of different sources including renewables. So we can look at the energy EROI based on primary will be whatever energy is used in the extraction and the production but we can also look at the energy embodied and used in transmission and distribution and the final energy. So finally if we look at this as the framework the EROI values that we would get would be lower than that we would get only if we looked at the primary. So if we see this, this paper shows the EROI primary and the EROI final and you can see over a period of time that the EROIs have been coming down and the final EROIs we are talking of are of the order of about 30 or so which is also pretty high number. This is a summary of different studies EROI estimates and you can see here that the EROI estimates show for electricity for photovoltaics the EROI final which we are talking of are of the order of 6 to 20 again depending on the different kinds of studies and the different kinds of estimates and assumptions which are there. In addition to the EROI there is another EPBT which is basically energy payback time. So if we look at the total amount of embodied energy in let us say a solar PV module and see how much time does it take for us to generate that much energy. So in the 1970s and 1980s the energy payback periods of photovoltaics was high which meant that it would take a large number of years for that energy to payback and for any new source which we consider as renewable we can calculate this and see whether or not it is viable. So apart from EROI we have another index called the energy payback period. So this is from an NREL report you can see this NREL if you look at this document it shows you the kind of energy payback periods for the entire PV system which is of the order of 3 years or less and we can look at this data it happens this way that we put in all the energy in the initial period this is when we build the PV cells the balance of systems and then you get the returns over the years and then that gives you the energy. So when we look at the earliest environmental impact systematic environmental impact of photovoltaic was done by ALSEMA and you can look at this paper in 2000. Start with the raw materials go to the material processing the manufacturing the use the decommissioning and well as some of it is recycled and the treatment and disposal. And with this the energy payback periods that were done for rooftop and ground mounted systems of course this will depend on this solar insulation and the efficiencies and based on this you can see that these payback periods are of the order of 2 to 3 years again depending on the kind of assumptions. You can look at this paper and this will give you based on this we can also look at the GHG emissions and you can see we had seen this in the initial phase where we talked about the kaya identity and we said that renewables are an option for us to reduce the GHG emissions we said as compared to 1 kg of CO2 per kilowatt are roughly for coal when we talk of all the renewables they are all in the range of 20, 30 grams per kilowatt hour and so this is these numbers are got from this life cycle analysis and one may look at this in a little more detail. There is a recent report from the European Union which talks about the energy payback period of the recent cells again with different kinds of efficiencies monocrystallic silicon if you see it turns out to be of the order of about 2 years and then the similar things you can look at multicylic and cadmium telluride and so on. This also gives you an idea of the total carbon footprint we have later I will show you some numbers that we have done for an Indian context on a similar basis. When we look at the final life cycle analysis normally you can actually use your own calculations you can do this on with an Excel spreadsheet or you can use MATLAB many of the researchers do use software for LCA and there are a number of software Simapro, Gaby some of them are public domain software like open LCA. The advantage of the software often is also that they have databases which are available for different kinds of materials and that will that reduces the kind of time that you need to make the analysis. Please also remember that these databases which are there for the embodied energy will have assumptions will be based on a certain kind of mix will depend on the country for which it is there. So if you are doing something for India please make sure you know how that when you use an embodied energy for some materials find out for which country or context it is there and is in the Indian context is it going to be similar. You will find in all of these software you will find that there are multiple criteria which are calculated including the different kinds of. So there are different environmental emission factors which are there and then the emissions are computed both local global. So you can see there are criteria for global warming which is CO2, N2O, methane, CFC and then this can be converted into a CO2 equivalent. There are ozone depletion criteria like CFCs, HCFCs and then there are acidification, Sox, Nox, hydrochloric, hydrofluoric acid, eutrophication and local photochemical smog all of this the toxicity all of these parameters are there and one gets the one gets a whole set of multiple criteria. Now depending on your application we have to look at these criteria see whether they are beyond the limits compare the criteria across different options and then take then look at the implication in terms of a decision. So in many of these cases, so basically what happens is this is from the IEA's assessment of different sources and you can see what all are the adverse impacts for different kinds of sources and then these can be quantified one can see what kind of tradeoffs one can have. Similarly this is the LCA assessment report in terms of this is from the World Energy Council and you can see that this has the different kinds of CO2 equivalent tons of CO2 equivalent per gigawatt hour and you can compare the impacts which are there for nuclear for wind and for photovoltaics. There are LCA has been traditionally you has been very useful in seeing for instance when we think in terms of replacing oil we have been thinking in terms of using biofuels and there are number of different sources of biofuels one can use biofuels based on waste one can also have dedicated plantations for biofuels and several countries including US and Latin America have been having large energy plantations and sometimes what happens in these energy plantations is one puts in a significant amount of energy in the fertilizers in the agriculture in the irrigation and when you look at the overall it may or may not be net energy positive. So, there have been situations where these are subsidized and so it looks like it is a viable option it is renewable but when you do the numbers you find that this is a net energy negative. So, this is an example from a report which is from science where in the state of California they assess that corn based ethanol is net energy negative and is actually worse than gasoline. Gasoline is the fuel which is used for vehicles in the US and if you look at it this is the greenhouse gas emissions from gasoline in terms of equivalent CO2 equivalent per mega joule of the fuel and when we look at corn ethanol there is a direct emission and then there is an emission which is because of the land use change and when you add this up you can see that this turns out to be worse and so of course these are interesting because in as we will see when we talk about policy analysis policy makers usually like to have a solution which is a large scale solution. So, we want to have a large amount of corn ethanol or we want to have a large amount of chatrapa and then because it seems to be renewable one subsidizes it but then maybe in some cases this does not result in the impact that you expect and you are actually putting in more energy you are actually putting in more emissions then you would have done if you just continued with the gasoline case. So, this is now a study for Germany you can look this is a paper by Cal Smith where the biofuel rips in methyl ester for transport is calculated and the way it is calculated you can see the paper to get the numbers but just to show you what it means is that the total energy that you are getting per hectare and this we are looking at plant production including fertilizer harvesting transport oil extraction and some percentage is going to is attributed to the rapeseed oil which is being used for our fuel and then refining esterification some percentage going to be this is what I meant when we talked about the allocation. So, 96 percent going to this 4 percent going to the other byproduct glycerine and then final transport. So, the total annual comes to about 16200 mega joules per hectare and if we look at this so per hectare this is the amount that we will get and this can be compared with the energy content which we are using for diesel and we can then compare these again in terms of the emissions. So, this comparison which was done in terms of primary energies this is 16.2 47.1 is diesel the CO2 equivalent is 1594 in diesel is 3752 and so overall you can see there could be in this it looks like this is a viable option in terms of at least primarily it passes the test of emissions and energy. So, let us look at now another example which is from an Indian context we had carried out there was a period when the government was very keen on having large scale Jatropa plantations and at that time we thought that it should be worthwhile it would be interesting to see. So, there was a the entire map of India you would see that there was a plan to have a large amount of Jatropa plantations and one of the things which we felt at that time was that one needs to analyse and see whether or not this is a viable option. So, this was the work done by one of our students who was interning in summer and we compared both Jatropa and another one which is Karanj Karanj is a seed which is used in often in South India you can look at Jatropa or Karanj and we start with the first phase which is the agriculture cultivation phase. In the agriculture cultivation phase there is some energy going into seed bed preparation sowing there is some fossil energy going into diesel and electricity and there is energy going into the irrigation and fertilisers and herbicides. So, that is the agricultural cultivation stage we then take that and transport the in transport we are using some fossil and diesel then we have the conversion stage where you have the cracking, pressing, filtration, electrification and then we have the fossil which is used in vehicle operation stage and based on this we calculated using the net energy ratio and the net energy ratio this is another energy output, energy input and in this we do not take we are only taking for the energy input we are not considering the energy that is put in with the biomass we are only looking at only the fossil input. So, this net energy for it to be viable the net energy ratio must be greater than 1. We can also calculate what is the mega joule per kilometer of vehicle driven we can look at also the costs on a per ton and a per kilometer basis. So, when we did this if you see this we had primary energy which was going in here primary energy going at this point and then we had the transportation and cracking stage and for jatroper and current. So, we did the life cycle approach and we looked at energy output by energy input any r greater than 1 the replacement would be viable prime of AC then we have to look at the economics of cost any r less than 1 replacement not viable then we did the life cycle cost and annualized life cycle cost and calculated. So, we can calculate it based on primary energy on the renewable energy and secondary. So, we would like to see and the interesting thing is please look at this graph these are all 2007 values you can see that there are different there are different kinds of combination depending on the yield and depending on the nature of the land. So, if you are using fallow land which has relatively low yields we need to put in much more of irrigation and fertilizers and there are situations where in the case of jatroper where this is less than 1. So, the other cases where the yields are higher and you can actually get this is without the co-product of course, if we if we are using the co-product which is and we can we can actually market that and that has a value then of course, it becomes greater than 1 for all cases. But if we are not using the co-product which is glycerol then you see that it depends on the kind of land. So, if your yield is high then of course, we are getting an NER of 3 and in this case what happens is that this is land which is typically fertile land and so there is an issue of food versus fuel. In the wastelands where we are looking at if you put jatroper you would find that it is not viable we are putting in much more energy than it requires and then so this is the kind of case. Of course, this is the kind of price that we get and the price is was is similar slightly higher than the price of the fuel that we are getting x refinery at crude. In the case of Karanj we find that the situation is slightly better that it is going to be viable in all the cases. So, whatever we looked at we have looked at life cycle analysis and net energy analysis and we have looked at how to apply these and we have looked at a couple of examples. In the next module we will take a few more examples to illustrate the use of net energy analysis and life cycle analysis.


Well, like many weather related disaster events, there's not an easy one alternative fits all answer because each operation obviously is unique. In general terms, it's not a good economic decision to keep a cow that's lost a calf for another year. One year's production costs have not been covered and then if you keep the cow and hope she rebreeds and successfully raises a calf the next year is very risky. So after the necessary drug withdrawal period and drying up the cow marketing may be the best option. And of course, moisture conditions may make the decision easier. Last year, for example, producers and drought areas were forced to liquidate cows and reduce stocking rates. And so cows without calves were the obvious choice to sell. And right now cows without a calf that were going to be culled sold in the fall anyway and now don't have a calf selling them now. Prices are higher. October is always a seasonal low on prices. For producers with sufficient a pasture available, the first step bar none is to schedule an appointment with your lender. The call call markets increase seasonally to the highest level in several years. But there's a wide range in prices that call cows bring and due to their quality addressing percentages, good cow calls may bring $1,000 now. And in some instances, bred cows or bred heifers may be available for a few hundred dollars more. So purchasing a bred cow or heifer now would allow the calf to be sold this fall and proceeds could cover the additional cost of the purchased cow plus a may pay some of the additional costs, production costs that a calfless cow would not provide. So depending on how many calves were lost, the decision may not be an all or none decision, possibly repays placing a portion of the cows that lost calves with purchased cows would be the best option. And be sure to check with your auction market before you send cattle, you normally wouldn't market at this time. And again, consult with your lender. They're likely dealing with the same issue with other producers. There are many, many outside factors affecting the market right now. For instance, 60% of the beef card US beef card is a drought feed costs are high. COVID impacts linger the Russian Ukraine war is causing unprecedented uncertainty and chaos in the markets. But I want to remind everybody the US beef card is declined for three years likely again this year. So when things settle down here, cyclical higher prices are expected for the next several years. So it'd be a good idea to position yourself for that.


What's going on everyone? Sam here with Leading Sports Cards. We've been 22-23, putting in a Primate League EPL soccer choice. 10 box break, number four. Random team style, there's a look again at your random results. As always, you can find those on the website under the results tab, as well as the link that's in chat. Good luck here, everybody. Did I upload that last video? Yes, I did. Okay, perfect. Yes, they did, they did, Dean. Fortunately, fortunately for Vaughn, they did lose. Well, I hope late comes in here. I hope late comes in here so bad. That's awesome, dude. That's so cool. Good on Harden for that. Maxwell Cornette, James Justin, Sam Greenwood, rookie silver. Ruben Nevis. Oh, nice. Brentford, seven of ten. That is going to be gold scope of Apontos Jansen. There you go, West Ham, going to Dean. Oh, no, Brentford. Excuse me, Brentford. Going to, he's got Brentford. C-Chan. Thank you, C-Chan. Sorry about that, Dean. I thought it was West Ham for a second there. Takahiro Tomiasu, Patrick Bamford, and a Harry McGuire, for sure. Next place you've got to get filled up, guys, is Dynasty. Dynasty baseball, left side serial numbers. Got six and five in those. Sorry, I know, I'm sorry, Dean. Rico Henry, Trebo Shalava, and Max Kilman, Pablo Fornos. And this is actually for West Ham. Tony Cati. Nice one there. There you go. That is actually going to Dean. Hey, thanks, Victor, taking two spots in fast break later on today as well. Or no, maybe the next fast break, never mind. Solly March, that's Danny Ings for Assen Via to 30. And A, Wapface. Again, Ten Kaser, Bowman, Random Player Style, tomorrow with Matt and myself over on the baseball channel. Still some spots available there if you guys are interested. Oh, we got a Tiger Stripe. Let's go, baby. See a big name on the Tiger Stripe. Jack Relish, Bobby Clark Rookie, and Anthony Gordon. Scorer's Club is Alexander Mitrovich. See like a Holland, dude. Saul Campbell. Club Legends for Arsenal. I hope he was watching. Pedro Nito. That is Abdelay Decore, to 15, and Tiger Stripe is Josh De Silva on the rookie. Nice one there. Brentford. See Chan. Congrats, buddy. Brentford.  And I kept telling them, like, dude, I know the Hawks are not going to win. Every time the Hawks lost, come in Celtics W. Celtics W. Oh, another Tiger Stripe. Nice. Silver Holland. There you go. Luis Diaz and Nathan Patterson. Got for Arsenal, Takahiro Tomayasu. Scope Auto. Nice one there, Arsenal. Jose R. There's Sam Greenwood. Red Trevo Chaloba for Chelsea. And Tiger Stripe, Cole Palmer. There you go, man. City. Grats on that, Evan. Very nice, man. Tiger Stripe, Cole Palmer. Again, Super Short-Printed. Let's go Phillies. This is live. Let's go Phillies. Silver Udsana-Edward. Bruno Guillermas. And Pascal Strucic. Kladyscope, Johnny. Got for Chelsea Flashback Signatures, Ashley Cole. Anthony. Brighton. Crystal Palace. Nottingham. Both are pretty cool. Gabriel Martinelli. Moussa Genepo and Rico Henry. Nottingham is pretty cool. They just got promoted, I think last season. They got promoted to EPL. We're going to watch this again, really. That right there is my thought. Season's over. Another Tiger Stripe. Alejandro Garnaccio. Kirian Trippierre. And Seikubar Rookie-Silver. That is Tomas Susek. Manchester United. That is Diego Delo. Man, United. Nice one there. Again, guys. Six to go on Dynasty. Let me drop you a link really quick. Six to go. Random left side serial numbers for Dynasty Baseball. When you get to it, you don't have to do it now. Obviously, just drop that on Facebook, if you don't mind. When you have time, obviously. Tio Oaniwi. Yves Bissuma. And Tiger Stripe is Kenny Tete. Rookie for Fulham. Nice one there. Yeah. Three Tiger Stripes in the streak. Not too bad. Is that the reason we lost? Was Aaron Hicks' poor base running? Pretty much. He also didn't get tagged. I know. I just saw that. Then he got back up. And he still booted it. Dennis Undav Rookie. Kyfer Moore. Now, what happened in the F1 race? Danny Ings. We've got Arjen Robin. That is for Chelsea on the scope order. Got ourselves a Diego Jota. Ryan Christie and Tiger Stripe is Manuel Lanzini for West Ham. There you go, Dean. Nice little super short print Tiger Stripe for you, buddy. These are so clean that come out of Prism Choice. Yeah. Wow. Our staff had started 9th and won in the F1. That's crazy, actually. Yeah, for sure. Dean doing well with West Ham. Jared Bowen. Jeremy Sarmiento, Rookie Silver. And Bubacar Kamara. Takahiro Tomiasi. And David Rye. We've got Auto Diego Carlos. Is for Aston Villa. There you go, Mark. Got Antony for Man United 230. Fabio Carvallo, Exclusive. And a Alejandro Garnaccio. Exclusive as well. So yeah, looking to fill up some dynasty guys. And then after that, next one we've got to fill up is Eminence. Eminence. Another Tiger Stripe. Good Lord. Nisgen's Cabana. Pulisic. Silver. Solly March. Or Solly Mark. I think it's Solly Mark. Luis Sinistera. This is for Fulham. Bobby Zamora, Flashback Signature. For Fulham. There you go, Will. Gabriel Jesus, Arsenal. Nice. Rodrigo Bentacor. That is Tottenham. 4-5 going out to Aaron. There you go, Aaron. And nice one here for Crystal. No, Brighton. That is Tariq Lampty. For Brighton. There you go, Anthony. There you go, buddy. There's a Tiger Stripe for you, man. One of the coolest parallels out there is the Tiger Stripe. You want to watch hockey or basketball tonight? Your call. I don't care. I'm fine either way. Another Tiger Stripe here. Thomas Sousec. Who's playing tonight? Silver Luis Sinistera. I think it's Nugget Sons, I think. Is that it? The Nuggets are playing the Sons, right? Am I bugging on that? Brighton Johnson. Got Nottingham Forest. Steve Hodge. There you go, Anthony with Nottingham Forest. Now picking up an auto. Okay, Nugget. Yeah, Nugget's overplay off basketball and hockey. You want to watch May baseball. Dilo Kerr. Kai Havertz. And Diego Jota. Nice one there for Liverpool. Going to Chris. There you go, Chris. Nice one there, man. On the Tiger Stripe. There you go, Jota. I mean, if there is a good baseball game. No, we can watch playoffs. It's just fun to give you a hard time. No, we can watch playoffs. I understand. Yeah, definitely a nice way to end it there. Do a quick recap. Thanks, sir. Tiger Stripes. We had Diego Jota, Tyreek Lampty, Manuel Lanzini, Cole Palmer, Kenny Tete, Josh De Silva. Tiger's Dodgers. I'll be down. Dude. I'll be down. That's a good series. Rodrigo Bentecourt to five. Steve Hodge, Diego Carlos, Arjan Robin, Diego Delote, Taki Hero Tomiasu, Tony Cati, Saul Campbell, Ashley Cole, Bobby Zamora, and Gold, Pontus Jansen to ten for Brentford. That will do it for the break, guys. Thanks again for the fill. Up next is Archive.


The Narcissist loves you one minute, but hates you the next, part two.  The reason for this is because they need you. They need you to function. Whatever you are given to them, or however you are making them feel, is the reason why they're still with you. You're giving them attention. You're managing their emotions.  You're validating their false self and the illusion that they want to portray. You're funding their lifestyle. Or maybe they just can't stand to see you being happy with someone else. Maybe that would only remind them that they are dysfunctional, as they cannot maintain a healthy functional relationship with you. And they don't want you to become that reminder to them. The Narcissist may act as though they can't stand to be around you, but they're actually very comfortable in these situations. They are comfortable in dysfunctional environments. It gives them the opportunity to express their own self-hatred and project it onto someone else through devaluing and degrading you. Their family or friends would not tolerate with what you have to deal with. They would not accept the words or names that you are called every day. They might not even believe that you are in a relationship with a Narcissist. They are very good at deceiving people, just as they deceived you. The Narcissist may act as though they can't stand to be around you, but they will not leave you. They will not leave you because they cannot deal with failure. If they were to leave you, that would mean that they made a mistake. It's too much for them to deal with. And they need to keep you on a string where you are constantly trying to meet their impossible expectations so that they then have a reason to be bitter and resentful towards you. The Narcissist cannot accept that someone who is good is not perfect. In the Narcissist's mind, everyone has a rank according to their relative status or authority. You are either above their status or below it. If they believe that you are above them, they will envy you and treat you as though you are beneath them. If they genuinely believe that you are beneath them, they will still treat you with disrespect. This is due to their poor emotional development. They struggle with whole-object relations. They lack the ability to form an integrated, realistic and relatively stable image of themselves and other people that simultaneously includes both liked and disliked aspects. Both strengths and flaws. They lack the ability to see our state of being whole. What brings us together and drives our sense of humanity as a collective? Whole-object relations is what allows us to see another person's qualities and abilities in a way where they are combined to form an integrated and realistic whole. This is where we can accept that people can be good yet still do mean or hurtful things. We can forgive people who act in ways that are not to be desired or approved of because we understand that we are all human. We understand that we all do things wrong from time to time which is why we often forgive Narcissists for what they do to us. Even things that should never be forgiven. The Narcissists cannot comprehend this. They have a dualistic mentality. Black or white thinking. Where they see people as all good or all bad. In the Narcissist's mind, if you are no longer special or important to them, you now have a low status. You are now beneath them. They will now see you as one of the most worthless people in society. The lowest of the low. This is how they can go from making you feel like the most important person in the world to making you feel like you are completely worthless. Where they now believe that there is nothing good about you. There is nothing to counteract or correct your negative qualities or traits. They see you as being inherently bad or defective. They believe that this means you now deserve to be truly or unfairly treated. They don't believe that they can have a stable relationship with you if there are setbacks, conflicts or disagreements. They struggle with object constancy. If you make a mistake or do something to hurt them, even if it wasn't intentional, they will still feel as though you are out to get them. This is why it is so easy for them to devalue and degrade you and treat you as though you are beneath them. But they know that you see them differently than they see you. They know that you do have object constancy. And this is something that they will take advantage of. They know that you will stay with them despite the abuse because you will remember that good side of them. The false character that they displayed to you at the beginning. They know that you will remember the times when they did treat you right. Even though it wasn't real. Even though it was nothing more than a deceptive outward appearance. It's just a part of the cycle of the abuse. They keep you hooked on them like a drug and hoping to see the good side of them again. Even when they are being kind or friendly, it's still a part of the abuse. It's still designed to keep you locked into the abuse of cycle. The narcissist's objective is to keep you locked into the cycle of abuse. To keep you locked into the cycle of abuse and fake affection. This is what they were really looking for when they targeted you. This is their ideal relationship. It satisfies their conception of what is perfect or most suitable. They will promise you that they are going to change. They will act as though they do appreciate you. But this is just a part of the abusive cycle and it is designed to keep you around. They will give you false promises and use future faking. It's never real or genuine. They have no intention of changing anything if you could look into the future and see what it would be like with them five, ten years down the line you would see that nothing has changed. If anything, the abuse would likely have escalated. There would probably be even more controlling and manipulative towards you. They don't want anything to change and they don't believe that they have to change. They see themselves as a victim. So they believe that it is you who needs to change to accommodate them. They will never see things in the way that you do. They will always see you as their rival or opponent. Someone who they need to keep beneath them. And that is why they are always in opposition to you. Whatever you like or are interested in whether it's a song or a TV show a favourite colour they always have to be in opposition to you. They always have to go against whatever you like or are interested in. They can never be on the same page as you. They cannot allow you to exist in your own power and strength as a sovereign individual.  That's why they are always in opposition to anything that you like or are interested in. That's why they always have to disagree with anything that you say. They cannot be around someone who is confident in their own likes and interests their own values and beliefs. So they have to be opposed to anything that you're doing. It creates self-doubt. It makes you lack confidence in yourself and creates a backwards person who needs constant validation and reassurance which then keeps you locked into the cycle of abuse with a narcissist. It makes you feel as though you can't just live without them as though your only option is to stay and be abused by them. You have to leave them and never look back. It doesn't matter how they've defined you or if they've told you that you don't deserve anything greater you deserve so much more than what they're giving to you. You deserve to be admired and appreciated. You deserve respect. You may never get this from the narcissist but you can give it to yourself. The first step towards respecting yourself is to walk away from the abuse. Understand that you deserve better. Understand that you deserve respect. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching, inquiries, aclima, me and ask for other coaching at juma.com Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.