Hello everyone, I'm feeling really emotional right now and I knew that I would be emotional in this video This this year has been The biggest year of my life Thank you all for tuning in for my final video of the year It's New Year's Eve and I always make yearly New Year's Eve intention videos Let's do a little recap At the start of the year I made a New Year's video Just putting out my intention for the year I guess we should all collectively set a new intention for 2018 and it should be nothing less than a vegan world anything less is betraying the animals and it was to basically take things to the next level and I Had no idea how fast and Powerfully it would manifest. I mean Laura and I got together and We started a huge tour. I was determined to go Harder than I've ever gone and I started touring the UK and we started a Series called the vegan prophecy No matter how much money they think they got no matter how much propaganda they think they can perpetuate It's got a backfire Huge things happened as a result of my tour a viral video on Facebook of me talking to two police officers started to rustle up some attention and a lady from the BBC contacted me and she was like hey We want to make a documentary that's going to be aired on Victoria Darbyshire and I was like, okay No worries. They followed me around. They did some filming. They say their cause is compassion for animals What's going on in there is an injustice the next day? They got earthling Ed on to do a debate with a dairy farmer a few days after that They got me on the Jeremy Vine show for one of my most controversial interviews to date Hello, Jeremy, how are you?   My friend say what you want about that interview and my conduct in it and that debate It kicked off a media storm in the UK now the next day I had articles written militant vegan activist attacks Jeremy Vine about his ham sandwich as a result of my Conduct in that interview. I then landed a TV appearance on this morning with two dairy farmers Okay, what happens to your cows? What happens to your cows when they cannot produce milk anymore now after that TV debate more headlines more newspaper articles? I couldn't keep up with the amount of journalists Messaging emailing ringing wanting me to debate with farmers ringing wanting interviews How do you know more to the point that a cow is capable of giving consent they are not capable of giving consent They are innocent beings.  No, no in your you know You're digesting the flesh of an animal who didn't want to die Screamed and suffered in the gas chamber and you've never seen the process. So do you know your animals do not want to die?  Okay, we were freaking out because it felt like someone was looking at me weird at the front Of the server station like they'd recognized me boom and there we were so it was Absolutely massive now the media started to of course if you've been following it the media Absolutely did a smear campaign against me. They went through my whole personal life put it all up on these massive Newspapers with millions and millions of readers. That's how the year started off I went to Israel soon after that and then following all of this Dominion tour touring around Australia Absolutely huge. It was again Very taxing but so worth it then on the way back to the UK to go and edit the footage They refused my access to the UK put me in immigration prison Sent me back to Australia. The only way Laura and I could meet was in Bali for us. Thank you. Thank you so much We we stopped him from killing a chicken.  I got my immigration sorted to the UK Went back there did a huge TV debate with Pierce Morgan the day I arrived basically It seems to me you were a pretty violent guy.   So just a massive massive year. Now, I can't but I just kind of I just cannot believe how that all manifested I mean I just It's just amazing Like just absolutely amazing now. I'm not gonna say that it like I'm talking about all the positives There were ups. There were downs I'm not feeling the best right now. Hey, I'm not sure if I'll ever post this video But if I do then I've decided that it's gonna benefit Those of you in the movement who might be feeling a bit similar I Think I'm a bit exhausted at the moment. I guess I've been having a lot of ups and downs lately I don't know like I just don't know I feel like I don't even know who I am anymore like I just I'm trying my absolute best and I don't feel like that it's I Just I honestly don't feel like it's good enough.  I feel like I'm having more bad days than good lately Which is not good the downs were really down the ups were really up. It's been a roller coaster You know dealing with criticism dealing with the media trying to expose my private life and my past and it's on top of you know not sleeping and you know smashing the activism and the animals suffering and Really really full-on and all of this hasn't been without my own personal struggles I mean, I'm a human being I've had a very rough past You guys have been following me for a while. You know that suffering with my own personal problems PTSD and just just aspects of my past that still haunt me today but The title of this video is am I burning out? Currently I'm in Indonesia. Okay, I'm setting up an office here The reason being it's very cost-effective for me to set up an office here the UK and Australia are just too Expensive as you all know, I've been uploading the light up the world tour series now this tour Was the most demanding three weeks. I've ever put myself through it was gruelling. It was gruelling to say the least We're about a third of the way through in my uploads for that tour and the best is yet to come really with that I Needed a break after that. I mean I I come home back to Australia and I've been using so much caffeine and coffee just to get through that tour would have been impossible without it and I Needed to do some serious self-care So I come to Indonesia and as soon as I got here. I just slept. I slept for like a week I've been exercising and eating healthy consistently really focusing on looking after myself But am I burnt out like is this getting a little bit too much for me? Am I taking on a little bit too much at once? I Want to tell you something like in my life?   I know my own choice I know my it was my own choice, but I'm just saying There is literally Nothing that can stop me Okay, spreading this message and leaving a positive mark on this earth. Nothing can stop me Not nothing anyone says Nothing anyone does Okay, if I was gonna quit I would have quit at the start of the year. Okay, if I was gonna burn out I would have burnt out on the prophecy tour When the media was putting all that pressure on me and all of these things happened all at once There is nothing That will hold me back if anything I just keep getting stronger more pronounced and the fire inside of my heart Burns brighter. That's what's happening.  I love this. I live for it I would die for it every second of every day. I live for my purpose I have to be careful of my, you know, mental emotional physical state and I'm taking care of that Don't you worry. I'm taking care of that literally climbing up the side of this mountain Wow, and we're up here In the clouds, but I can handle it. I can do this if you want to know where I'm at I'm exercising. I'm putting my head down. I've got a lot of work to do Okay, there's gonna be a lot of work pumping out of this little office here And I cannot wait cannot wait every day. I'm anticipating the next move this year I've got a very big opportunity and I'm gonna give you a hint It's to do with TV, but it's gonna be something ongoing. Okay now I don't want to release too much information in case it doesn't happen But I know when your heart is in the right place everything happens in perfect timing. It always does I want to say a very heartfelt. Thank you right now To my Patreons Without Patreon This year Wouldn't have happened the way it did Okay, one of the best decisions I've ever made was starting a patreon and all of you guys who got behind me through Patreon We did this together. Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity To do this full-time. I'm forever grateful Every single day I kiss the ground. I'm so grateful I have this opportunity to do this and to be financially supported for it You have no idea How thankful my heart is Thank you so much To everyone who has supported me in the comments section Okay shares my videos who's been following the journey Some of you have been following me from the start and you've seen my transition and you've seen how far I've come I'm so glad I'm not in jail man I'm wasting my life away on drugs anymore.  I had to but there was just it was a calling It was my destiny all I can say Is that I've only just begun I'm just getting started so let's do it right now Let's set the intention for the new year Let's take all of this to another level To another dimension and let's all focus our intention on making 2018 the biggest year for animal rights and veganism ever Okay, you can see what happened last year this year. It's going to be even more profound Even more powerful. Okay, I'm gonna reach even more people 2018 veganism went mainstream 2019 it's going to blow up Now for a vegan world to manifest we all have to collectively believe it is possible All of us together have no doubt each and every one of you can make a huge difference on earth And you don't ever doubt that Together 2019 We're gonna make this bigger More widespread than ever before and the animals will get their justice. There's a fire inside of your heart Spreader don't hold it in anymore The system that exploits and oppressors animals have rained their darkness on earth for long enough Now it's time for the light to come and the light comes from each and every one of you candles coming together and then We can light up the world And if anyone out there has that That's your purpose and it's calling out to you Like mine was calling out to me. We can do something. We are doing something and we are not helpless Animals are having their throats slashed open for an unnecessary reason. Okay Farmers are sending them on trucks to slaughterhouses. Oh my god I believe that we are putting these positions because we are strong enough to to be there Hey, hey, but I changed my life around and now I'm vegan now Just because I did something wrong in the past doesn't mean I can't do something right now How does that justify your abusive dairy cow so you can have milk in your coffee?  How to how to create change Look, I don't like the way things are on this earth man. It's got to stop doing so Yeah, I want to talk about things that can make a difference. Uh, you know how we can Practically in our day-to-day lives make a difference make change changes Well from the way it is to the way we want it to be that you know So we could all live together in harmony just just be happy man. Like You can't truly be happy We're half the population more than half the living beings on this planet are unhappy There's suffering as long as there's suffering the individual can't truly be happy. Can they that's what I think anyway Let's band together band together join the movement stick together. Let's let's all jump on board Right and do our bit see how far we can take this. Hey, let's see what this will take us. Hey, we got close under the camera Let's see where we can take this


On the Ground, presented by theCUBE. Hi everybody, this is Dave Vellante coming to you from SiliconANGLE Media East Coast headquarters outside of Boston, Massachusetts, and we're connected live to our West Coast headquarters in Palo Alto. SiliconANGLE Media Inc. was a combination of two companies in the summer of 2014. SiliconANGLE, which was founded by John Furrier and Wikibon, which is a company that I was managing at the time. And we brought those two together to create a new type of knowledge and information company, comprising research, publishing theCUBE, live TV, and of course social data. And it's our pleasure to be announcing the newest member of our amazing team, Peter Burris is joining us. Peter is somebody that I've known as a thought leader in the knowledge business for several decades. And Peter is now joining the SiliconANGLE Media team. Peter, welcome aboard. It's great to have you on. Thanks, Dave. It's really excited to be here. So Peter, of course, you and I have known each other for a long, long time, but for our audience, who is Peter Burris? Well, I've been around for a long time. I live in Palo Alto. So I've spent the last 25 or 30 years of my life helping large companies figure out how to best apply technology to solve very, very complex business problems. So what about SiliconANGLE Media attracted to you? Why did you join the company? We're in the midst of an extremely disruptive period in all industries. That is largely driven by the new advent of digital technologies and how consumers are utilizing digital technologies differently, and how businesses are starting to utilize digital technologies differently. And that transformation requires laser-like focus on how businesses and consumers are going to come together and engage differently, utilizing digital technologies in a wide array of circumstances. And I came here because if we're going to help our customers transform, we ourselves have to be part of that transformation. And SiliconANGLE is at the vanguard of understanding how digital technology can be better applied to serve the complex needs of the multiple constituencies that comprise complex business today. So Peter, talk a little bit about the role that you're going to play and what people can expect out of your team over the next 12 to 18 months. My role here at SiliconANGLE is going to be to help build out the overall content engine of the company with a specific focus on creating that content that decision makers in large enterprises will need to apply digital technology to better engage their markets. So we'll be focusing over the next 12 to 18 months on the challenges associated with creating digital assets, putting digital assets into production, evolving existing technology infrastructure to be prepared and suitable for this new world. But also we're going to really focus a lot of time and attention on looking at those complex problems that business is going to apply digital to, problems in the sales and marketing and fulfillment and service spheres. So that's really what we're going to be spending our time doing. We've got a great team there. We're coming together. We're learning how to provide a superior service, but the fundamental focus will be utilizing SiliconANGLE's technologies to capture content through theCUBE, utilizing SiliconANGLE's content to, or technologies to deliver content through Wikibon and other assets. And our goal ultimately is to provide the best overall experience that decision makers can have to dramatically accelerate how they apply digital assets to serve their markets better. So last question, Peter, given that context, you are from the East Coast, you moved to Palo Alto when you were working with Metagroup helping to grow that organization. Why is it so important in, with regard to what you just described, why is it so important to have a presence in Silicon Valley? Well, Silicon Valley is where a lot of the changes are first being conceived and where a lot of the technologies that are going to shape those changes are being built. And so by being here, myself and the rest of the team has immediate and proximate access to some of the most important emerging companies or some of the most important companies in some of these emerging domains. So where is the digital car going to be created? It will be perhaps manufactured somewhere else, but the software for what actually makes it work is likely to happen very close to where we're sitting right now. We want to be where the action is and here is where the action is. All right, Peter, that's great. Well, thanks very much for taking some time out to describe what's new with you and what your role is going to be at SiliconANGLE Media. I know all of us are thrilled to be working with you. I personally am very excited to be working with you side by side again. So really appreciate your time. Well, Dave, thank you very much. I'm thrilled to be here. In all honesty, I feel like a kid in candy store with all the amazing assets of SiliconANGLE and what we can do to bring those assets to bear on the challenges of helping customers succeed.


and Thomas Yarbrough welcome to Sister Power. In honor of Women's History Month we are celebrating all mothers and daughters right here on Sister Power. Oprah Winfrey Network announced a new brand, new show, deep diving into the difficulties of mother-daughter relationships like mother, like daughter, a new docu-series exploring the complicated and powerful dynamics between mother and daughter-duals in turmoil. With the help of mental health experts Dr. Cynthia Paul Hicks and Dr. Allison Paul Hicks a mother-daughter duo themselves who can uniquely relate to their dynamics. Dr. Paul Hicks the mother psychologist is a multi-award winning medical professional. Daughter, psychologist, Allison Paul Hicks is a mental health relational relationship expert, television personality and founder of the duo consulting group. Aloha ladies and welcome to Sister Power. Aloha. I wish we could be there with you. Hawaii is my favorite place. It is. I'm I can testify to that. Thanks for having us. We're so excited. We're so excited. I know this is so exciting. Any of our viewers out there Cynthia, our parents went to school together. Yes they did. We even thought of. Your mother's name is Alice.  My mother's name is Alice. So I am so excited about this reunion.  Tell us about it. Walk us through. How did you get involved with like mother like daughter and with Disney and old too? Discovery plus, Alice. You want to start? I've been working in television for a little while. I've been dippling and dabbling and the opening network approached me. Well it was actually a production company. They approached me and they were like yeah you know we think you'd be a great fit.  I have a mom. She has a PhD. We like to talk. We like to help people. And that was it. You know it was a wonderful wonderful experience. The from the beginning all the way and still where we are now because I'm not calling it the end because I am claiming 25 seasons. Oh I love that. And the Emmy, she's always claiming that too. So put it out in the atmosphere and then I had always wanted for like the last six years I had wanted Ali and I to do like a talk show or do something together because we're both mental health experts and look at God. He made it happen. Look at God. God is good all the time. This is so perfect because you know Cynthia you have three daughters. Fabulous daughters that I love so dearly. I really do. And I know that everyone tries to say that they're my favorite but anyone that's a mother knows or if you're a teacher whatever you don't have favorites or you say everybody is your favorite. So you know how that goes like a holiday time their birthdays everyone gets the same gift but different colors Christmas. If Ali gets 10 gifts I have to make sure that Shelby and Kendall have 10 gifts too. Luckily their husbands aren't quite like that. So I'm good. Wow that that's a good take. That's a good takeaway for the mothers here on this show. So back to like mother like daughter. What type of topics did you discuss with the more mother daughter duos? We branched in a lot of things. It was really about where they were starting right. So we didn't like necessarily bring them anything we wanted to talk about. We addressed whatever they were going through. So the topic that we saw were trauma like verbal abuse to physical abuse to even sexual abuse. We saw mother wounds which is a generational level of abuse that happens and we experience with our moms and like my mom loves to talk about the abuse of daughters could also hurt your moms.  Yeah I gotta make sure you hear that and also just some communication issues. I think that was really number one in every relationship and I think it's something that all of us can stand to work to get better at right to learn how to communicate with the people in our lives whether they be your moms or dads or significant others. And to communicate not in a hostile or negative way but in a way that it can be a teachable moment and because I know as mothers we may wound but we may not be doing it intentionally and how will we know unless we communicate with our daughters or our other significant others and they tell us. So you just need to be so open and willing to hear that that constructive observation and then those that you're receiving that information from they should be able to sit there and listen to your thoughts as well. So how did the network go out and choose the six pairs of mother and daughters? You know I don't know. We have no idea. They just showed up and you showed out and you gave them advice. So you know what I would like to know? I want to jump right in. Do you think there's going to be a follow-up on your show so you can see how the mother and daughters have progress from your advice? Let me tell you I would love it. I don't know if that's going to happen or not. I'm not giving anything away. Y'all are going to have to find out when you find out what's going to happen. We like secrets over here sometimes. I know. Hollywood magic. Yeah. Hollywood magic but I would absolutely love to keep up and see how everyone's doing. And Dr. Allie's always talks about we want a reunion. We want a reunion. I would love to see a reunion.  How did you handle that ladies? Mom, do you want to go? You can go. How do you feel? Yeah. I mean it was heavy. Anybody who works in mental health or like I'm a life coach, relationship coach, when you are carrying other people's pain, you're carrying other people's trauma, in that moment it can be really hard and what it does is it causes me to have a huge explosion of empathy for others because if it's hard for me to hear it, it's got to be hard for someone to actually go through it. I always thank them at the end of the session for being so forthright and being so open, especially with all these cameras around. And I also affirm that I know it can't be easy because some of this stuff, they have suppressed it and not addressed it over years. Some of this stuff started when the daughters were in elementary school or preschool and it just compounded and continued and continued until the daughters now are adults and now they're having relationship issues and challenges. And so of course like most people when they go to therapy or to sit down and talk to someone like Allie and I, they blame the mom. So I think it was really an eye-opener for a lot of the daughters to hear some of the trauma that the mothers had been carrying for years. What do you think, Allie? Yeah, great. Absolutely. It goes heavy for people to hear that.  So what were some of the key issues that you ladies discussed with the mother and daughter do all this? We would talk about how to structure any really effective relationship at the core of a healthy relationship and safety. And if you do not have this safe space, it is hard for you to be vulnerable. And without vulnerability, it's hard to grow in a relationship. And so a huge part of our focus was on creating as much safety as possible so that they could even have this experience to feel vulnerable and open enough to communicate with one another. And also trust because they wanted to know that if they put it out there that they wouldn't get pounced on or the same type of trauma would be inflicted on them as it has been in the past. So we really had to work with the mothers and the daughters on communication skills and safety and positive ways in which you can communicate. So it doesn't turn into a brawl because emotions when they come out, I mean, they can be very toxic and very explosive. So what did you do when the mother and daughter would explode at each other? How did you calm them down? What were your words? What did you say and do? I let them be upset. Yeah, let them live in the moment. Yeah, I feel like what better place to be upset than a place where somebody is here exclusively to make sure you are heard and that you're safe, right? So you're now in a situation where you're not so worried about there being any physical abuse or any type of like incident because we're there. And so I've always been one to allow people to express their emotions as honestly as possible. And I'm not scared of anger. That's another thing that I might get it out, experience it, feel it all. And we knew it would be within limits. It wouldn't be like some patients I've had in the past, you know, you would wonder if they're coming with firearms or, you know, if they're going to have other people outside waiting to do a retaliation or whatever. We were really in a beautiful, beautiful resort area, five acres of land. And Lord only knows how we found out how to get there. But it was just, it was so tranquil. And it was just, it gives you that Mahalo kind of, you know, feeling. Look at me. Mahalo, and that's thank you in Hawaiian. Yeah, that's it. It just gives you that kind of that. So everyone was grateful and thankful. They were very appreciative. That's kind of what I'd like to say. And as Ali said, you aren't to be afraid of the anger because if you keep it inside, it's like a volcano. What's going to happen? So what I like to do is have people let it out a little at a time. But sometimes you really can't because sometimes there were things that were disclosed that, you know, we didn't know that they were going to disclose. And we didn't know how the other person was going to react. So you just let them talk it out and process it. And you just made sure that they were safe. Everyone was safe. And it wasn't attacking. It was just getting the thoughts out. So let me ask you this, Ali, and then also you, Cynthia, what was your takeaway personally after completing the like mother, like daughter docu-series? About the show or about my relationship with my mom? Both. My takeaway from the show was I was just so proud and privileged to have been a part of it. I really thought we had created something truly beautiful. And I was just, I was overcome by that. I was actually very, I felt very privileged. And then I also felt very proud to be able to do it with my mom, because as a clinician, there's no mother-daughter like bring your kid to work day.  You never get to watch them do their work. And so getting to watch my mom do what it is she does for the first time in my life was pretty exceptional. You know, Cynthia, what makes a good mother-daughter relationship? Communication, communication, communication. You cannot stress that enough. And at the end of the day, if you maybe misstep said something that wasn't perceived correctly, the way that you wanted it to go out, guess what? You're texting, you're cleaning it up, you're calling. And at the end of every conversation with all my girls, I always say, what, Allison? Love you. Yes. We were taught as kids too that at the end of the day after our devotion, you know, whether you were, you know, you were reprimanded or scold, we had to tell each one, I love you, before going to bed. And I think that there's several words that are not used enough to me and that is thank you and I love you. So I'm loving hearing about Allison, but I want to ask you about your do you card deck? Tell us about your do you card deck? I have one here. Allison, auntie wants one. Get one. You got it. Oh my goodness, you have a whole little photo and everything. Yeah. This is how moms help their daughters, yeah. So the do you deck is all about helping people who use it to reconnect with like who they are with what's important to them. And originally it started off as a way for me to fill myself with courage because it was the beginning of the pandemic and I was really stressed and scared and worried like I'm sure a lot of people were. And so I was like, let me write down all of the things and all the interventions that I know that tap into intuition and courage, because I felt like there were those are two things that I needed. And so at the end of the day, I have like 60 interventions and 60 things that I have used. And so I was like, let me put this into like a book. And then it became a card deck because I was like, I want people to be able to pull one card out a week, read it, do what it says, internalize it and like change their lives. And I've been getting really, really, really good feedback so far. I just started sending them out and selling them and I'm very excited about it. And I love them too because I believe in positive affirmation affirmations every day. I really do. So thanks Allison for making that happen. I don't have my glasses with me so I can't read it out loud. Okay, that's all right. Well, Allison, how can sister power viewers purchase? Do you deck cards? You can find them on allisonhicks.com and I'm gonna have to spell that for you. A-L-L-Y-C-I-N Hicks.com or you can find it on my Instagram at Dr. Allie, A-L-L-Y. Oh, great.  So I can't wait to get my deck. Thank you. Aloha. You created a mother-daughter coloring book. Just all the stuff. This is the mother book. There's actually one that looks just like it but it's the daughter book and they have the same pictures so you can color no matter where you are with your daughter. Have it on the screen right there. The attack is showing you the mother-daughter coloring book. Yes, yes. It's beautiful. Yeah, I love it. And I love it too. Our mutual friend Tina and our other friend Donna, they both have colored for years and it's a release for them, attention release. It's also interactive. They color with their daughters. Donna has a granddaughter. She colors with her. And like I said, if you're in Hawaii sharing, I can color in California. We can color at the same time and we can talk about what colors did you use for the certain page. It's so interesting to see how different pages can look depending upon whose coloring or what mood you might be in. You might use more of the bolder colors and you know use darker strokes or whatever so it's really exciting and my girls and I we enjoy coloring as well. I really enjoyed it when you sent me the mother-daughter coloring book and it was a time in my life I really needed something to just put my passion in and I never thought I would enjoy coloring but it calmed me. You know it made it about joy. The colors were vibrant and I was just shocked that I was able to do it. So how long have you been doing this Cynthia? You will not believe now. Let me just preface our two mutual friends have been doing it for two to three years. I just started in July. I know even though I've always had because I've worked a lot with children I've always had children coloring and everything but I was not an artsy person but I enjoy using glitter pens. Sharon have you ever tried the glitter pens? Not yet but I will. I love it. It's real sassy and real bright and then when the the light hits it a certain way it sparkles and what do we like Dr. Alley? All sparkly things. Sparkly. Yeah the back corner of hers yeah. I love that love that. So Cynthia tell our sister power viewers how they how our sister power viewers can purchase the mother-daughter coloring book. Go to Amazon and look up Cynthia Powell Hicks and the coloring book will pop right up the coloring books. You have to order the mother and then the daughter they sell them separately. Okay good you know I want to ask you go back to like mother like daughter Cynthia. How can I put this? How to be the best mother to your daughter? I just put it out there.  You have to really love yourself. You can't give what you don't have. So for me know what you love what you like and what you want to project. So self-care to me is the foundation for all relationships and then as you know I have three girls each and I should stop calling them girls they are adult women and married sorry. So I know they each one of them even though they were it's truly a surprise to their father and I when we raised them all three identically the same Sharon. Same schools, same house, same church, same discipline, same everything. All three of them totally different totally different. So mothers you have to also be accepting be accepting wherever your adult daughters at sons whomever where they are where they landed because if not you'll get frustrated if you're trying to do a cookie cutter type mother relationship with your child. But the bottom line is after the foundation it's it's communicate because you won't you can't read the minds. Yeah yeah that's good advice but I want I want to come to you Allison what would you say to daughters right now who are not communicating with their mothers for whatever reason you know Cynthia and I you and I had this conversation and you know sometimes I wish my mother was still here and then I'm listening to these women who are not speaking to their daughters for one reason or and their mothers for one reason or another. I'm gonna say one sometimes relationships are toxic and if the relationship truly is harmful and sometimes you have to keep distance in order to maintain boundaries then listen I can't tell you what to do but in other spaces sometimes it does take just that setting really good boundaries and in order to set really good boundaries you have to understand first what it is you want and expect that of the relationship so it would be like reinvestigate the relationship with your mom and see is this truly something toxic so I need to leave it or is it just that we've had a few miscommunications and neither of us are willing to establish what it is we really want out of this relationship so you figure out what you want and then you can communicate that to the person in a way that's effective for them and for you and then you set you set the standard and you say like you know this is what I expect if I'm not getting that then this is what's going to happen maybe we just talk once a week maybe we talk once a month maybe I see you at Easter and Christmas and so reassess yeah yeah wow that's good advice and I hope that the mother and daughters who are tuning in you know since we're celebrating women's history month you know we are valuable to each other yeah that that's the key we need each other and we can learn from each other and grow and love each other and I want to ask you Cynthia what is your ultimate hope to help heal mother-daughter relationships that are in turmoil obviously if I had a magic wand we wouldn't have any mother-daughter conflicts I would my advice to them would be take one what do you say Sharon one rainbow at a time one rainbow one day at a time there you go nothing is too large if both of you are genuinely wanting to work together to resolve whatever the conflict is do not take it all at one time it may take you every day for one whole year to process it but don't give up Allison you know there's something I hear people say all the time I say it myself it's like people say like hey girl I see you I see you and I actually love that statement so much because I think what it was important to me is a lot of people want to be seen by one another they want to be understood so not just seen on a physical level but seen on a emotional spiritual you know connected level so I think it takes being seen being seen and being heard is correct so at the end of your series for like mother like daughter was there any type of things that you wanted to say at the end that you did have a chance to say you know I feel like I got it all out you know I leave it all in the field so I feel like I got everything out mom all I'm gonna say is the the parts that were actually edited and shown to the public was perfect and we really the parts that weren't shown we really said a whole lot more yeah so so so the mothers actually were able to leave with additional information that was not actually shown but it was definitely video it was definitely said so like my mother like daughter do you have any contact with any of these uh the mother and daughters after the show um we I think we're gonna wait and see what the uh if there's a reunion or what's gonna happen with that yeah so we we did offer aftercare the network did offer after her support for them if if needed so in three minutes or less I want starting you with you Allison and then I want to finish with um the queen here Cynthia thank you give us your thoughts and give us some hope and tell us something that you did not tell us before doing this process some hope about what and then what we can strive to be I mean you know this world right now is very toxic so we need we want to leave our sister power viewers with some words of wisdom and hope I focus on living a life that moves from good moment to good moment instead of from bad moment to bad moment um so in order to do that I write down all the good things that happened to me at the end of the day so beyond a gratitude list like I actually focus on every tiny great thing that happened from a person holding a door and smiling at me to me catching a green light and I remember the good things that happened because your brain will always help you remember the bad things oh all the time all the time love that you yeah be true to yourself know who you are be true to you no matter what be powerful and not pitiful I love that be powerful and not pitiful that says it all well I love that because here at sister power we are giving knowledge and donating kindness and I would like to thank my dear friend Dr Cynthia Powell Hicks for your wisdom and your lovely lovely daughter the Dr Allison Powell Hicks for your knowledge and your encouraging words and educating us I'm your host Sharon Thomas Yarbrough Aloha