Thanksgiving, for my birthday, hello, hi, how's it going? Hope you're good. One more, there you go. One more, no stop, okay that's enough. For my birthday this year I decided to bake myself a cake without a recipe and so I thought the holiday of Thanksgiving is coming around. Why not put myself to the test once more time and make a whole Thanksgiving feast with no recipe. Now this year is the second year that I have done Thanksgiving friendsgiving and hosted at my house. The year before though, last year my dad was here and he made the turkey and most of the food. So I've never really cooked a Thanksgiving dinner. I've only watched my father and mother prepare a lovely feast. So today we're putting myself to the test to see if I can go deep within my mind's eye and find the recipe for Thanksgiving that is inside of me. And the festive shirt because it says I got my corn cob at the Iowa State Fair. Great, lovely. Let's get started. First things first, we need ingredients. Here they are. We've got a lovely turkey. This is a chicken. We've got things to make the turkey, the stuffing, the potatoes, cranberry sauce just like mother used to make. My mom never made cranberry sauce. It always came from the can.  Don't go through all the trouble of making it.  It's gonna take forever and it's not even gonna taste that good. The first thing that we are going to do is we are going to prepare the great roast of the turkey. We can leave these here as little festive things. Isn't this festive? Would you say this is festive? Don't shake it now. This is so festive. Look at this. We've got the big big turkey here. Ready to go. What am I doing? What do I want? What do I need? What do I need? Do I need to take things out of the turkey? Chicken? Something. Probably. God, doesn't that look good? Doesn't that look great? Zoom in. Zoom in. Zoom in. Look at that. No. It's so awful.  What did they do to you? First, we've got to see what this guy's all about. What are the giblets? I don't remember. Okay. Do I need to go in here? Giblets. Oh, it's really cold in there. It's really cold in there. Look at how, look at, look. You can see the whole future in there. Justin, zoom in. What's in their future? Oh my God. So now, part two of our sweet exercise. Nothing says turkey quite like inside of it. What's inside of it? Right? And now, we will put some things inside of the turkey. Welcome to Eat the Nestor's big turkey recipe for Thanksgiving. No one does it quite like me. Okay, we're going to take two whole carrots and a little bit of these. We want two whole carrots. We want some celery, one stalk, two stalk celery. We want a half of a quarter half.  First, we need to do a little bit of peel. Where is my peeler? Last time I used one of these, I snipped the top of my finger off and I had to get my finger cauterized and they said this isn't going to hurt at all.  Did she appreciate it? I don't know, but not my problem.  Great. We've got this, we've got that. Now we need half of an onion. Now you're going to keep the other half for the stuffing that we're going to use later on. We're going to do a little bit of this, a little bit of chop-chop. Great. I don't even think we actually need half of an onion. I think a quarter of an onion is grand.  Great. Now you might be thinking to yourself, Ethan, what are you doing in here? What are you preparing? Sometimes people like to take some things, make a big little thing, put it in. That's why it's called stuffing, isn't it? It's, that's why they call it stuffing. Oh my god. I am a genius. We never cooked the stuffing inside of the bird when I was a wee boy. This is going to be a first for me. Great. You don't get to see what I'm doing anymore. It's a secret. This is my kitchen secret. You've missed my secret ingredient. Cutting two of these up at once for efficiency. Now, in here, we've got many ingredients, right? We've got, we've got onion. We've got carrots. We've got celery. We've got all the works. I don't like raw onion. I don't want, I don't want. That means if the stuffing goes in the thing, then I have to put bread in, right? That's how this works. How much bread do I want? This seems like enough bread. Do I use raw bread or do I use toasted bread? I'm not sure. So we're going to do both. I'm going to put this in the toaster. Okay. This is one, two, three, four, five times two. Now we're doing this.  Into the bowl, it goes. Now we have bread. Now, what else do we need?  Do I not have olive oil? Olive oil. Ooh, apple cider vinegar. This might be good in here. I like the smell of it. So we're going to put a little bit in. Why? Well, because I'd like to. We're going to put it in a little bit of this. Good. What do you think of when you think of Thanksgiving? That's right. White people. And what do we not use a lot of? Spices. But here today, I'm going to change the game, okay? Because I've got so many spices in here. What? Oh, look at all the herbs. This is everything I need. Oh, also, I don't think I prefaced this video. Jocelyn got me all of the ingredients. Zero recipe. Okay. So if you think about it, if you think about it, I could make the perfect meal. Will I? Yeah.  We're going to put some see what I have to do folks.  I have to spend my valuable time and efforts into opening these herbs and spices. All 11 of them. No. It's too late, Jocelyn. Don't say to me. Don't take up the frame. Good. We've got sage. A little bit of this. Good. A little bit of this. Parsley. A little bit of this. Time. I wish I had more of it. Don't you? Now, the classic. A little bit of salt. Never wrote nobody. You hear that? That means our things are done.  They're hot. Great. Grand. Splendid. Listen to that crunch. Now, get familiar with the stuffing that you've made, okay? This is going to bake inside of your bird. If the bird bakes, internal temp of a chicken is 165 degrees. So, that means if I cook the bird at 425 in 45 minutes, it should be done, right? I don't know. So, we have the base of our stuffing. We bring the bird back from the dead. We take him, we caress him. Now, this hole, we remember. You remember this guy? Justin, put my face in the hole. The stuffing is going into the bird, and the bird will go in the oven. Our stuffing will be stuffed into the bird, and when we slice open the bird, the stuffing will fall onto the plate. This is the way the tradition goes, and this is the way that I will make it. Now, let's roll this bird. Are we supposed to clean it? Am I supposed to clean it? Yeah. This is how you do it. Just fill it with water. Do you think anybody ever does shots from a bird? You can fill it with tequila. I'm not going to, because I don't want poisoning of... Look, he's flying. Butter. You can't tell me what to do, Jocelyn, this whole video. This is not supposed to give me ideas. Not supposed to give me ideas. I'm supposed to have the ideas. Now, it's time that we season the bird. We'll flip this bad boy over. And then, even though it was spoiled to me, I guess I should put butter on the bird, even though the whole video is me going without a recipe. Jocelyn had to ruin the video. So the video turns out bad, and you go, God, this sucked. It's because Jocelyn told me to put butter on the bird, okay? Don't complain to me when the video is bad. Okay? Complain to Jocelyn. Melting it. The butter. This is what Thanksgiving is all about. What are you thankful for this year? It's like an artist making a painting. I am making the bird. Yep. Right there. Yeah. Nice. Now, that's a nice job with that bird. You've got to season your bird. So many people nowadays think, I don't need to season my bird. Wrong. You know, so many people just do the same thing every year. Not me, not the way I do it. We're going to be mixing it up this year. I'm thinking we want something spicy, a little bit of chili powder. Never hurt nobody.  That could be kind of cool. That could be kind of good. A little bit of cayenne pepper. Never hurt nobody. And a little bit of whatever this is. I don't know what this is, but a little bit of it never hurt nobody. You're thinking, Ethan, what if I don't want a spicy bird? Good for you. There's another side. And on the other side, we will put some parsley on the bird. Some more salt on the bird.  And I'm just wondering, yeah, we're in front of house.  You think I'd be making this video if I made the food? No. One bay leaf to go atop the bird. It's time we stuff this bird full of the stuffing.  Okay. Why do they call it stuffing?  Okay. So make sure you get a healthy gulp of everything that you made. Get those onions in there. Get those celery bits in there, the carrots. Now, last thing, and this is very important, we must tie up the bird. All right. So now after a few minutes, your bird should be all good and tied up. Our oven is preheated and ready to go. And put this bad boy in here. I am going to, I had to flip the bird around a couple of times just to make sure it was all tied up nice and good. All right. Now we've got our bird. It's ready for the oven. I'm putting it in the oven. Good to go. I thought there was a fire outside. It's that reflecting off of the window. Whoops. All right, folks. Next up is the classic. While we wait for our bird to cook, it's time for a little bit of mother's favorite sauce of the cranberry variety. We've got cranberries and cranberries. Thinking about this rationally, thinking about this rationally, cranberry sauce should just be cranberries. Turn this on low heat. We're going to do a stick of butter and sugar. How much sugar? I'm going to say a cup of sugar. It's probably a cup. Relax. Cranberries, a cup of sugar, a stick of butter. What else could possibly be in there? You know, if I just do a smidge of mashing, right, then this should be good. Make sure that your butter is near the bottom of the pan. All right. Because in good time, this will turn from butter and cranberries into sugar to cranberries. Okay. But you just have to give it a little bit of time. You don't want the butter to burn. Don't want the sugar to burn. To sugar burn? Mm-hmm. You made a big old face when I put in a whole stick of butter in here. But I think that it's a good amount of butter. It's going to make it juicy. It's going to make it flavorful. It's going to make it all sorts of good, good. Okay. Make sure you're zooming in on that. Make sure you're zooming. Make it dynamic. Jocelyn, you have to make it dynamic. You have to make it dynamic. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I want to see more zooms. All around, I want to see more zooms. Not that chaotic. There has to be order amongst the chaos. I am the chaos. Okay. I do the chaos thing. You have to bring a little bit of order, but dynamic order. No. Incorrect.  But there has to be dynamic camera movement. Is that making up for you?  Look at this cranberry soup that we've made. Soon it will be a sauce. A lovely, lovely sauce. Now, apparently, we're supposed to just let these berries cook for a little bit. Okay. I don't think there's enough sugar in here. I'm going to put a little bit more sugar. Stir this on in. And we're just going to let that sit for a moment. Just a moment. Okay. We're going to sit. Let that simmer for a moment. Not everything has to be so feisty, you know. Maybe we sit and think about what we're grateful for. Huh? It's Thanksgiving after all. Why don't you let me know what you're grateful for down in the comments section below. What am I grateful for? Probably my charm, my good looks, my humbleness, my good sense of humor, my willingness to keep going even when sometimes I just want this train to stop. Train keeps going down these tracks and we don't know where the last station is. But we stay on the train all the same. We keep going, trusting the conductor to take us to that final stop. Will it be worth it in the end when we reach that final destination? Will we feel like the ride was worth it? Will we appreciate the sights that we saw along the way? Maybe some of our fellow passengers that we met. Or will we look back and regret ever buying that ticket? Gotta let that get to a simmer. Boil. It's got a boil. It has to boil. That's it. I figured it out. It has to boil first and then we bring it down to a simmer. You can't fool me, Dawson. I know how to cook. Not yet the red consistency. We should check in on the bird. The bird! The bird! Can you see me over here? No? Can you see me now? Let's look at the bird. Oh wow. It's not done yet. It's much to go on the bird. Much to go on the bird. Okay. Last thing to do. The classic. The potatoes. I'm going to take one, two, three, four, five, six potatoes. Cut them up. You know how it goes. Juggle? You want me to juggle? Hold on. Hold on. That was pretty good honestly.  Make sure you wipe them off a little bit. Get them all nice. And clean. Before proceed with the making of the potatoes. All right. You know how knives work.  You don't need to see it. Okay. Potatoes are potatoing. Time to drain the potato. Good job, potato. We put this there and then we take this and we put it back inside. Great. Now comes the time to mash said potato. Okay. Now many people might be thinking, Ethan, you left the skin on.  I know I left the skin on. I left the skin on because I, for one, like the skin. Okay. I enjoy the skin of the potatoes. Now you might not and that's fine. Whatever. I don't care if you don't like the skin of the potatoes. I don't care at all actually because this is my Thanksgiving dinner. This is my eavesgiving. Stick of butter. Put the stick of butter in there. The bird. The bird sings for us. The bird sings. All right. All right. It can still use a little tiny bit more time. Then we're going to do about that much milk. A little bit of salt. Now we get to mashing real good. Mash potatoes. Have I ever made them? Nope. Time for a taste. I threw up in my mouth a little bit. Don't worry about it. Oh, this is pretty good. It is too much salt. Gamers, it is just about game time. It's time to take the titular bird out of the oven. The timer has gone off and so it's time to get this bird out. Okay, go go. What is the internal cooking temperature of the chicken? Just like I thought. The moment of truth. We're good. It's time to carve the biggest bird of them all. We release the little slot from its tethers. The chicken. This is not looking exactly done. What about this though? Oh, now that part doesn't look too shabby. The last part of Thanksgiving is always serving yourself a nice gooping plate of your meal. We've got the cranberry sauce. We've got the potatoes and of course a little bit of our lovely bird and our stuffing. Gamers, we almost forgot about our stuffing.  Nice of you to join me. We've got our cranberry sauce. We've got our potatoes. We've got the works. Now we just honestly, if I'm being honest, it's not bad. It's really not bad. Mashed potatoes are good. Good consistency. Nice little skin on there for some very taste. Definitely a little salty. A little bit of salt. A little bit too much salt. The cranberry sauce. Look at the texture on that.  Now for the stuffing. Now the stuffing, the stuffing is interesting. The stuffing is definitely like real moist, but my family never could put the stuffing in the bird. It's not bad. It's definitely like soggy, but the elements are there. It's weird because it's soggy. The bread is soggy, but the carrots are underdone. And then the chicken is mostly just bland. Like it's just a little dry. They're not dry. It's actually juicy. Spice wise though, it's bland. Jocelyn is behind the camera looking very upset. Chill out.  Chill out. I did this with no recipe.  Or I would like if you would like to make yourself a little plate and I would like a review of what I have done. All of it is technically edible. But it's like passable. You're not going to have a stomach ache. I promise you. Justin Jocelyn and witness protection. Right? Like it's not great. If I had this at somebody's house, I'd be like, this is kind of rough. But as far as like, what would you rate this out of 10? Give it a solid rating. If you went to somebody's house and they served you this, what would you give this out of 10? Five out of 10? Five out of 10. No recipe. No recipe. Five out of 10. I think that's pretty good. Okay. Well, which is it? Five or four? Yep. The bird's bland. Taters are not bad. Definitely too salty though. Yeah. In the cranberries while out of 10. Let's get Spencer's review. I want your honest review. Pretty good. Would you say pretty good? I think he thinks that is pretty good. Well, folks, I would say that this was a smashing success. I would say that no recipe, no prior knowledge, just pure instinct. I would say that I did pretty damn good with this. And hey, that's something in itself to be thankful for. All right? So, I hope your corns get cobbed. This Thanksgiving. I hope that wherever you are in the world, you're having a dandy time. Happy holidays to all. We're getting into the holiday season. The joyous time of year. The festive time of year. A time to be thankful of the things that we have and a time to be hopeful for the things that are coming.  And I'll see you in the next video, whatever that may be. I'll see you in the next one. Bye, guys. Okay, this is about Thanksgiving.


Ladies and gentlemen Tony gaskins here give me one second here In this little situated Wait Here y'all give me a second here Sharon is here to Instagram y'all forgive me Just to let them know around know now want to pop on here As y'all know the show coming on at 9 p.m.. So that's an hour and 13 minutes. So I Get off the end so that if y'all have MTV y'all will be able to watch it Not sure what all happening on there tonight, but looks like they're doing the help note therapists now I didn't know much about that but as As Seeing the session is essentially to me it sounded like life coaching with your eyes closed a lot of the same questions and things that you know Y'all go through in the therapy a Lot of times the same type of questions come up in life coaching Welcome to a new member here. So it's on MTV. I don't know if it streams on YouTube. I don't think so But that'll be at 9 p.m.. Tonight Had step out of my comfort zone You know, it's something different for me first time being on TV like In that in that role I've been on a few other shows, but in other roles but in that particular roles first time and then You know as you get a little older and you grow pay your dues End up possibly getting your own show where you could kind of run some things and really show your full personality and Do things your way? But there's a good good learning experience and then also to be honest with y'all now with that the Those shows they they pretty they pretty real They real a lot of time people be wondering about them shows But like no show they real just right here When no scripting or anything like that like I thought it would be and then also some of the cast You know, they'll keep in touch with you after and still reach out to you. So definitely was some some of the real Connections on the strings on YouTube. Okay, is it live or is it read reruns? Pretty interesting they stream on YouTube. That makes sense though and the day and age that we live in they Day and age we live in Now if you have any questions y'all make sure to hit the hashtag Q so I could see it I called it a Q&A, but Want to pop on here this like my daily video when I'm at practice. I really don't have nothing else to do I could listen to some music probably could do a little bit of work, but this here is work, too I shot a little I shot a course today on how I create my product So y'all gonna really love that and I'm gonna put that course out. It probably be about a hundred dollars but the people who I see who bought the The car the deck of cars gonna get added into the course free So it's like you could pay a hundred dollars or you could pay ten dollars So I posted the link on the On the community page, so you got to go to my go to my account go to community page and then scroll down You'll see the link We'll go from there. All right. Got our first question I see the more I do these the more we're gonna run out of questions So once we run out of questions and we can get a lot of questions and I'm gonna stop popping on here as much How to deal with a man that won't stop coming back I Don't answer his calls or answer my door when he pops up I was fed up with the lack of effort and disrespect voiced my feelings over and over Refuse to hear me Well with that kind of man right there when he pop up, you're gonna have to call the boys Meaning the police You gonna have to call the police Because the thing about it is is you will get into a new relationship and be falling in love and He'll pop up and that'll ruin everything you got going It'll ruin everything you got going So realize that down I've a welcome Course gonna be covering is real simple real straightforward just showing you how I create my products that I be selling My shirts and the deck of cards and all of that How can long distance relationship work I have known him since little. I'm in North Carolina. He's in New York The way alone distance relationship will have to work will have to be daily communication and Monthly in person visits or at least by monthly when you can't do in person and when you communicate It needs to be FaceTime need to FaceTime or do what's out video and You need to be creative So y'all need to put things in place like once a week y'all do a handwritten letter Hopefully he can read and write if not then okay, that's gonna be a little struggle So maybe do a voice note letter But when you long distance you got to be creative. So Y'all set up a system where y'all do surprise gifts You know once a month. He's sending you a little something y'all set a budget. It could be 25 hours Boom you send him something. He's saying you something Got to do it. Somebody dropped the ball. Don't do it. That means the relationship is fizzling out Somebody's not serious. Somebody not into it. Go on about your business Go on about your business long distance is extremely hard to work because The way we are wired as humans. We like physical touch. We like being in person We like, you know Affection and all of those things. So that's what makes long distance very hard. So you got to be very persistent consistent creative and All the way locked in what are your thoughts on being in a relationship with a man who does it Man who does man who Have the same who oh who doesn't Have the same faith or beliefs. I Am a Christian my boyfriend is Vietnamese slash black and strong beliefs in Buddhism I don't believe in that I don't believe in mixing religions just because your religion is your foundation and and You have to build on your foundation. So when you don't have the same foundation It's hard to build and there's core beliefs inside of a religion so When you can't see out of I you got to realize when you mess around and you have a kid He gonna want the kid to be Buddhist you gonna want him to be Christian and y'all gonna be at odds And then the kids gonna be confused So it just it's not wise but Can it work? Yeah, if somebody compromised their religion But if both of y'all are serious about y'all religion, it really ain't gonna really work Thank you. I have a question. I have a LLC. How much eyelash glue should I buy? 50 containers is $130 Dollars should I buy more? Sister what kind of question is not we go here as a relationship question. You're a lash glue About no lash glue that you in the wrong you wouldn't if you show you in the right Chat now Ask glue I do not have a clue What I would say is start with the 50 so hundred and thirty dollars start with your 50 and then go from there Don't start with your 50. God bless you. So it's got a lot of respect for me. Ask me about lash glue I met a guy that's 17 years apart from me. I'm younger He texts sparingly but claims to want to know me should I text him or just wait until he does You need to cut your granddaddy class made off.  That's all he's doing.  She was out front door picking up Packages I got my microphone turned off Didn't get to hop out See if she come back Yeah, cut your daddy class made off Hubby started a business and wants me to support him by working on the business But it's stressing me out because I already work full-time He is not working. I don't know how to stay sane and support him have five kids Wow Well, what you have to do is you got to sit down? And you got to communicate and You got to learn this your husband. So you have to learn how he hears how that ought to be common sense for him, but I just asked My wife, can she help me in my business? Because she did for a while, but then life and all of this, you know with the kids and stuff But then I noticed that if she got to help somebody or she helping the school She work hard. She don't get paid. I say listen. I Got a paycheck for you now. I'm paid Need a little help need a little help now and She jumped right on in there, but what you have to understand about a relationship is communication to a Relationship is like oxygen to life. So what you got to do is You got to get there and you got to say to him you got to say listen Hey, I'm working full-time and We have five kids If I help in this business, I am going to lose my mind I'm gonna lose my mind and You got to tell him that you got to tell him that You got to be straight up with him and if he don't seem to hear you You got to break it down to him say, hey, you know, I really want you to think about this Think about if you work in 40 40 hours And if you got five kids and then you got to do work on top of that Whereas you're not working So you got 40 hours that you could give to your business And honestly, you got another 30 or 40 if you want to put in OT On your business That ought to be common sense, but I think he's trying to ask you to help just because acts of service Maybe his love language So, you know, you could do a little something here and there work, you know Do a little something one day out the week just to make it look like you're doing something and then Fall off in a little bit and he should be all right Tony, I'm Candice 39. There's a man who has upset me have the same I Do not know system. You got to ask a doctor. I do not know because I don't have one of those So I do not know Can't get your medical advice on him What does man have a hard time listening to women? Men have a hard time listening to anybody and everybody they have a hard time listening to men We have a hard time listening to God If any if we listen to anybody we we probably listen to women better than we listen to anybody else So it may be the man have a hard time the man you dealing with have a hard time listening to you Because he don't respect you Interracial dating seems to be the normal now I'm still rooting for black love, but the black man keep painting the narrative of black women to be non-submissive Ah Interracial day Nils picking up it's picking up. I saw a commercial the other day For some type of company and they had the black lady and The white man the black lady. She was a little meat on her bones Probably, you know if let's say she five let's say if she was five six She probably was about 180 To 190 and then the man looked like he was about six four But look they kind of like a computer guy like old software a coding guy So it was a kind of a Interesting-looking couple. Yeah, they weren't like they stepped out of magazine It was a typical type of look of where your race may look down on you for whatever reason So you go outside of your race where you feel accepted and so that's picking up and the non-submissive part I really can't speak to it because I've only been with one woman since the age of 21 and To be honest with you my wife got her own mind She's gonna do her own thing if I'm not making her happy She's gonna be ready to make a move meant not making her happy But if I ain't treating her right she gonna be looking for her she gonna be creating her exit strategy but as far as like no submissive I don't really understand that because I Feel like it's a myth to be honest with you because unless it's just a man But I've never been with a woman who if I asked her to do something she Don't do it So I'm just not really understanding what being meaning by that. I now a lot of women talk tough online It's a lot of women talk tough online But once you get that angle ain't put on her and once she start to fall in love most women become Putty in their man hand They they are at like they mad they don't like them can't stand them But go to the end of the earth form So I really don't understand the non submissive thing I think it's just these single men who not even in a relationship commenting on The bravado and the air in the chest that women speaking with online But in a real relationship I Really don't see to be honest with you when I be out and about and in public I see white women talking to they man like trash and I've been talking all sharp, but see as black man you got to remember black man a Lot of us off our rocker a lot of us come from dysfunction a lot of us come from a few so A black woman really kind of understand that a woman know that and Know that you know things could get ugly fast And so I never really see that what these guys talking about the non submissive Like I Could ask my wife to do anything a baby. Can you ride the? Georgia for me eight hours and pick up this package and she can be like what I Could fly baby ain't got the money Okay. All right. I go I'm gonna stop by and see my friend though because she live up there So I really don't understand what he got talking about and they'll say oh, that's just your wife but Air black woman. I know That's with a man. That's treating her right and doing her right been over backwards form Look how many times grandma bailed out Grandson or her son out of out of jail. Look how many times like women bailing out of man out of So you really think about that thing?  I'd approach that twice X insist on being friends and hanging out not been on my back three years is it ego? Yes, ego and he and if he done had you on your bike before he want to get your bike on your bike But don't deal with it move on about your life now move on about your life not deal with it Move on about your life Y'all had a lot of smile crime faces in here too much. I'll scream and I can't remember what I said that was funny I don't remember telling now I'm Joe which all after that Does it really matter how much a guy calls you like after a while? There's less phone calls, but still calls for text daily and date once a week, okay? Yeah, less phone calls is is normal, but as long as he talking to you every day And he talking to you every day then it matter It matter It matter been dating online for one year and three months He's 25. I'm 31 Consistent plan to come to my country to meet me in September But he doesn't want to address The difference in how we think Says he's busy right now Yeah, that ain't your man That ain't your man hate to tell you that sister That ain't your man for one he 25 He don't know his left shoe from his right shoe Man don't even start to become a man till 25 to He running from tough conversations not a man not relationship ready three You 31 you six years older Technically to a man you're a cougar Even though it ain't that big of an age difference. You still a cougar Fold you are not in the belt. It's intriguing to have a woman in another country cuz You really ain't got no woman because he could do anything he wanted to he could he could be living with another woman and You wouldn't know it He could be sleeping with a different woman Every day and you wouldn't know it Long distance like that, especially you to met online says that ain't real Best one a man running from the tough conversation. Oh Y'all talk about Daddy classmate Good evening. I graduated from the life coach class farewell 21 have a lot of clients that don't be leaving cry I'll navigate them without mentioning Christ. I mean You gotta if they don't believe in Christ and they situations and how I didn't do it Christ So that that should be easy, you know, and you have to And this is the thing you could share a Bible scripture without saying it's from the Bible You could teach a biblical principle without saying it's from the Bible and then when they go and they activate Holy gold at the vein Like the letter said when they go and they do what you said and they come back and say hey when you said this right here That word, where did you get that from you make that up then that's an opportunity to witness on actually that's from the Bible And I know you don't believe in Christ, but I just know it's some sound wisdom in there So I just figured I'll throw it out there really that's in the Bible. What else does the Bible say? That's practical wisdom that I could use in my life. I'm curious. I don't have nothing against it I just didn't know it really work.  That's how people get to know Christ not by us preaching at them They get to know him by our actions in our heart. I went on data house and men were a mess Even Christian outs, but I met a guy on hinge who's consistent with cause and we have great combos advice on how to vet him. I Am a single mom in abstinent for four years Well, you met a guy you ain't say how long it is a consistent call There is such a thing a love bombing now So sometimes you can't really take consistent cause to be the end all be all because it could be a man really getting to know you Really getting close to you to see what holds he can get to see what boys you have So the way you handle this when you meet somebody like this online what you want to do is Is you want to talk to him every day and you want to talk to him on FaceTime? Talk to him on FaceTime or what's out video so you could see him to make sure you talking to a man And you talking to who you think you talking to? Then what you want to do is you want to talk for about 10 weeks You may want to talk 10 weeks Before trying to meet in person and then when you meet in person You want to meet in public? If he got a friend that could come let him bring a friend and you bring a friend if y'all ain't got that Then you meet in public like downtown at the bowling alley at the restaurant You drive You drive He drive or y'all get down y'all own it may be best to take a Uber so that way Even if he want to walk you to the car He looking at somebody else tag number not yours And if he walking you or waiting on you to the uber pick you up Then he nine out of ten times cannot follow you no matter how well you think you know him say no I'm gonna take this over because of how we met we met online You know, I just want to take take things slowly if he can't get with that then okay He could he could get left behind So you got to be extra Diligent now people say what's on the same thing after you meet somebody in person. Yeah, you're right So you could take the same precautions But the thing about it is what's different is when you meet somebody in person and a man got the confidence to walk up to you You get to look him in the eyes straight off the real and see his teeth See his shoes see his fingernails See everything bottom right off the real and he walked now He's not already one half of the battle because he was bold enough and confident enough to come and approach you a Man who online? It's so much. He got the Dispel it's so many myths so many red flags. He got to get through to even Show that he real Logan hate Tony hope all as well. What's the best way to meet single women around my age? I'm 27 and I live in Las Vegas and okay, Las Vegas out there with the Right there with the my wife was just out there with my sister For the little usher concert and with my sister I did she wanted my wife to go so I'm wife ain't want to leave a hanging Well, I'll tell you this women everywhere and they don't mind They don't mind where you approach them at So a lot of women going to the gym a lot of women going to the bookstore a lot of women going to Starbucks Lotta women walking around through the mall At the job There's so many single women That's so ready to meet their husband At this point they bought they really bought don't care if you send Morse code If you thought a paper plane Which with your name and email and number and Instagram on it at this point they pretty much bought don't care So on that was one of the other dads Invited me to do a run, but I got on my dunks got on my dunks tonight and you know working He just hop out there and run. I've you got the Like a couple of a long Right to give up the gold So Logan just get out there and I'ma tell you the number one thing Logan It's just confidence just being confident enough. You ain't got to walk over no line Excuse me, man. Make sure you got on some nice shoes. Make sure your nails is cut make sure your face is shaved make sure your teeth brush and You know having to be looking nice. You ain't got to be in no suit or nothing. Excuse me now Just wanted to ask you I saw you from across the way and you're so beautiful I just wanted to know if you were single Just keep it simple. Just keep it simple and it's a yes or no question.  She's still beautiful walk on by your business.  We need more men today to be Approaching we had answered that question already if y'all just got on here My ex came back into my life, but his words are not lining up with his actions Real quick my ex came back into my life, but his words are not lining up with his action He had to stop him from asking I asked him why he always asking for that, but he don't want to go on dates Gone by your business system cut them all the way off Cut them all the way off cut them all the way off Single for three years now dated a little but nothing serious Now, you know what I might do I might not do no dating out But I might do a little matchmaking site and got number five guys to put on there, though Don't be five men and 500 will Might make me a little matchmaking site The well here go your pictures where you live what you do And what you like and then do the same for the guys and I might start recruiting single men Put it on now and then just do little matches But take too much time Got the tight shit Single for three years now dated a little but nothing serious not necessarily ready to be in a relationship though But I would like to date again should I wait till I'm 100% ready to be in love Not necessarily because you may never be 100% ready. I'm not sure any of us are ever 100% ready So maybe when you allow 70 80% ready, so if you round 70 80 Then that'll be good Because you could meet the man of your dreams and he helped fill up He helped you get that other 20 30% so as long as you not at like under 50 50 percent or less on How ready you are then you'll be good, but you got to have your guidelines No dates inside houses and stuff like that Any way that you could get laid laid down What are your thoughts on dating a man who is in love with you has great communication? Attentiveness, but it's not sure of his purpose and inconsistent with income is there hope for change Yes, there is hope for change there is hope for change but You got to really evaluate the Inconsistent with income doesn't mean he's lazy. It's because he's lazy because he's arrogant and he quit jobs So you got to evaluate that part of his character because he could not make a lot of money and Not know his purpose but have character and be in a place to where he's gonna build from there So you got to understand that right there if you got good character and there's other reasons why he's inconsistent Then that's something different How did God tell me yesterday that no man is waiting till marriage to sleep with a woman when they give it up for free is that too much to ask of a man in this day and age It is a lot to ask of a man But it's not a lot to ask of of the man that is for you a Real man honestly Still may try you But a real man honestly a woman a woman that values her body That knows who she is and where she is and that grows from her past mistakes that has learned from her past mistakes So a lot of times men be like, oh, well, how are you holding out and you got and you got two kids It's like, uh, I learned from my past mistakes. Don't me That's why I got two kids because I done did the wrong thing with the wrong person And that's why I got these kids. I don't learn from that.  I told him if you have something Tell just say it He said, okay when I was over your house last I felt the vibe. I didn't feel right about What can that mean? and that mean that He felt something that mean he could have felt you was lying he could have felt you was cheating He could have felt you talking to another guy. He could have felt You you been listening to these videos and you I can a little different So it could be any of that our men that didn't grow up with their mom or dad But trying to have a relationship with them now able to have a healthy relationship with a woman that leads to marriage Anything is possible But that does not mean it is probable But anything is possible Does not mean it is Probable he has a great job as a project manager in multiple streams of income real estate investments He's about six years older. Is he a red flag because he's on hands Yes, he is a red flag because he on line. I'm gonna tell y'all something every man That is on line dating is a red flag Every man that is on line dating is a red flag When I mess around and get me some money I'm finna put these dating apps out of business I'm gonna buy up billboards that say do not trust men on dating apps Because listen listen to me now Y'all listen to me Honestly ask yourself as a woman With all of these single women walking around out here everywhere you go For what reason does a man need a dating app? With all of these women and all of these single women It feel like dog on 50 to 80 percent of women is single What does a man need with a dating app? Men do not need dating apps women need dating apps Men don't need dating apps So it really shouldn't be no men on the dating app itself for men who work like 80 hours a week Which also mean he really ain't got time for no relationship So listen, I don't trust men that's on the dating app because it's two men and women walk around out here How to keep hope alive when meeting guys slash dating six months And they all bag out All have stated that they have fear of taking on a household and failing is this normal for today's time now That could be that could be it don't look like you running them off Don't look like you running them off cuz I don't see if it was you but it don't look like you run them off but now We can't say for sure We can't say for sure It's typically something with the relationship though So it could be you putting too much on them. It could be He don't like your child or your children It could be just a quirk in the personality y'all really don't hit it off like that because if a man is really into a woman and He start to love that woman. That's gonna give him the motivation he needs to Start that family Can a life crisis or just a house fire make a man go ghost was consistent before losing resources Is he too embarrassed to communicate?  They may say something that's hurtful or rude and so They'll pull back. Not every man knows how to deal with that Son Tay God bless you God bless you Merit man, I worked with started flirting with me out of nowhere Been going through spiritual warfare heavy these last few weeks having lustful thoughts How do I stay the course?  I'm gonna look at you with my good eye Let me see your clothes So you and I think about that old ed plant, huh, I See I see You know, it's good to hear a Woman say that because this why I be trying to tell y'all ladies y'all act like Y'all act like it just be me and that be lustin just be me and that be looking But that right there that is a setup right there from the devil and all that is It's gonna block your blessings because if you think about this man And you willing to you think about maybe talking to him Maybe dealing with him because you don't know if he you know Separated or marriage about to be on the brink. So what have you? You'll deal with him and then it'll cost you a connection with an actual single man. That's that the job So remember that and then also you read what you so So you could lust you could be less than all you want to but you mess around and you deal with that man When you get married same thing gonna happen to you How should I respond to men putting me on such a high pedestal? With calling me perfect men tell me often that they are not good enough for me or don't speak at all just stare It's discouraging Well, y'all like to say that don't you y'all like to say that y'all like to say that but y'all Y'all yeah System They lie to you just that's that's how you got to look at it.  No Ferrari for no Buick You see what I'm telling so That's a line that men use when they feel is something that just don't click with y'all When they feel y'all ain't all the way there Then that's what that's the line. They'll use right there They'll say that it's the old.  You don't even want to rush no rain with no 26. Yo Your man ain't a man till 25. So to be honest with you at about 28 That's when you need to be worried about that rain with with the way men built today Situation with husband I was fixing the pillow and he was losing it when I moved the pillow. He was hiding something under it saw black Packet said move Maybe CBD gummies. I don't know how bruises now Now this is just you can't be bringing this he'll tell me on the lie now Oh My son get to meet governor the census tomorrow. He doesn't sign a bill that changed the school start times 27 year old White woman get her prison sentence for drug trafficking. So let me send this. Oh, what I'm about to do but one thing we realize is a If those are gummies they don't work they showed on work cuz He got crunk like that right now You definitely since you probably gonna have to sit down with him and talk to him and let him know Like a it ain't nothing in the world worth hiding on that level To where you got to do something like this right here and you might want to get some coaching and also You got to look at this and just let them know like listen anything like this right here ever happen again We done for good and even rat now you got to decide if you want to take you a little break Let's three days seven day fourteen day break Y'all are met in person and we drove separately. We're supposed to have dinner They over the weekend. We've only been talking about three weeks. Okay Well, he ain't take you out. So Should be all right I can't remember your question Only my daughter just had a baby and she's concerned because her husband hasn't touched her for five months But with her last friend and they were at all throughout up until our arm well Tell you what that is Angela Angela he didn't got into he didn't got into the OF To the only fan Or to the pH And when you talk about pH balance on my own hub He didn't got into that and he got that handle that old five finger that old five finger curse And so that's what he doing He take care of self or it could be another one. We don't want to speculate though But he getting that release somewhere. I'm gonna tell you that right now either that or he didn't stumble into ED This function so It's either the ED or It's hands alone So that's one thing she got to realize what she may have to do That's her husband So when it's your husband You could do a little digging When it's your husband you could go through that phone Go through that computer You could do your little digging, but Whatever she fine She got the first keep it to herself and she need to bring it to you y'all need to talk about it But she need to get and have a coaching call and talk about it and see what it is Now at the same time If a man is really highly Sessional He can he may want to be intimate with his woman all throughout the pregnancy and all of that But for for most men pregnancy is not cute The weight that's put on if it's scratch marks It's a beautiful thing. But being that men are visual creatures for a lot of men It's not cute for a lot of men. It's a turnoff that they can't even know they child is being born for A lot of men don't know how to process it like that. They don't see it as that They'll love that child now, but they don't Like the body change and that's a shame It's hurtful It's sad But that does happen. And so sometimes it's also that to where on the other side, maybe six weeks later For something like that That may change which is a sad thing But that's also something that needs to be known and it may need to be addressed Can you explain what goes on a man's mind during the midlife crisis part of life? No, I can't because I have not been there have not been there So I have no clue what that feel like or what that is like really can't say that I've ever known a man or been around a man in a midlife crisis to up close and personal so Really not sure I could only speculate and if I had to speculate then I would say It's fear of Not having lived enough Not having done enough not having had enough not having seen enough because now he is closer to the grave than the birth canal and so I believe the midlife crisis a man starts to operate out of fear and anxiety and a scarcity of time and That's what that's why you see a lot of men in that midlife crisis Want to get them a young woman to feel young again want to get them a fast car to feel young again? Want to do a little different crazy stuff trying to feel young again? Because again he closer to the grave than the birth canal Wow, just having a few minutes ago. What time it is over there? I know he has changed over the past few months. He said he wants to divorce He jokes a lot when he when he says things. I don't know if I should take him seriously Yeah, sister, you need coaching.  If she pop on you at the job, do she work there? If not, I'd be calling the police on them What if she worked that in just smile back at her sometimes you got to kill him with kindness You got to smile back out of smile back out of all you had Hey, ask the question. Your question was next. Don't call Google line. Talk about that. We're fraught. No No blessing Freedom blessing. How can women prevent being desperate for marriage this day in age? My mom is freaking out about me at 27 yet. I refuse to be desperate again.  It's you 27. I mean you got a whole life ahead of you So it's like when I would say a woman who want to be married out to start really being concerned is 46 But before 46 maybe 36 start to kind of get some consultation and get some insight 27 you still a baby You may want to go to the doctor check on, you know, just check on your body Check on your ex see what the doctor say about how long he think you'll be able to, you know, give birth if that's in your story and Other than that, don't rush it Because I'm gonna tell you We are We are hand full Relationships are not easy men are a handful women are hand full 10 years in a relationship living together is a lifetime So You got to realize you want to live if you want this thing to be until death do us part Don't rush it Do not rush it let it happen when it happened and the way it's gonna happen faster or where it's gonna happen when it's supposed to happen Is when you all the way ready when you got them three bees in order What does it mean if someone says I don't have the capacity to love you the way you need? It could mean just that it could mean that he's been hurt. He got cheated on or he got left it could also mean that You close but no cigar meaning that you almost what he looking for But not all the way there. You're not all the way the woman he looking for and instead of saying that He says that So understand that right now Men don't walk away from a woman that he feels is his wife.  He's not the one it really means y'all just are not a fit How can I control my emotions while talking to someone you really like? You don't have to control your emotions. I mean you really like them, but I mean what exactly are you going to do?   That's good Sometimes I'd be wondering what's wrong with my wife. We've been in the room. We'd be talking and She'd be talking I'd be like, man, this woman really love me like this or she just Talking like this. Hey y'all see Jermaine confirm What I said now Why does the X come back in my life? When he's at his lowest and then push me away When asking for communication He just unsure He's just unsure about his life Just unsure about his life, but y'all bringing me everything. Well, just Y'all got me on here like the old wise sage We'll answer the question about the neighbor cutting across lawns So what you want to do here? When the neighbor is crossing the lawn What kind of come on down land what kind of question is this out my scope Come eat person Don't ask me that kind of question Come eat person Neighborhood have a problem Listen to me Listen to me now what you could do involves you I Put no less sign out there Do not walk on grass Just sit it out there for a little bit. See what they do Do not walk on the grass Blanca told you the same thing and then Vince ain't cheap now There's he'll nasty now I'm not that woman doing you like that Don't you like that? Why do you beg to take me out on the date and then after he's off and then after he's off and on? Well, he got on that date and seen her what he need to heal and then met up somebody else Who he trying to see and hear what he need to help That's all it is Just think feelings change Accepted for what it is and move on about your life move on with your life What might explain a 26 year old practice squad player? leading men's Bible study two years in prayer call But terrible in relationships Last only two to four months Well Everybody struggles somewhere, but what that sound like is the type of guy who? He wants to look like the catch He wants to look like a good catch and a good man, and he's more caught up with the image They're actually living it out and a lot of us struggle in that way because I could be terrible in Relationships as well and a lot of times that's the case with men We good out front and we not good behind closed doors, and so He's probably also feeling like God's gift to women So he's very very picky. I remember me nut NFL player Who was 25 and he was a virgin and he was way known as he was wanting to meet his wife And he was so so picky Because he said man. I don't save myself. I am only settling for a 10. I Was like wow, I think he ended up marrying a lawyer Brown skin Naturally pretty lawyer, I think is who he ended up settling down with How can women prevent being desperate for marriage in this day and age we answer that one If you're able to can you make a video about how you navigated the initial stages of starting your businesses and not being discouraged Especially if when you had to leave family and friends behind etc Yeah, I could do that, but it probably be in the blessed business tribe So if you're in the blessed business tribe, you'll be able to see that video If not, you'll have to upgrade from the blessed tribe to the blessed business tribe Unless it just happened to be public You know for everybody, but being that this is not a business page business videos do not Do well and it mess up my it mess up my page So I have to post them for the blessed business tribe. I'll stay encouraged when waiting for your kingdom spouse Especially when you're getting offers that you know Are just counterfeits My exes keep popping up for my future husband Still in my Keep going Don't deal with the exes and the more men you have to meet The more men you gotta meet Get to your husband the better because that lets you know when you finally meet them It was worth the wait What is your take on a single woman dating a man with a child? It's a personal choice for the woman On if that's what you want for your life. Do you want to be a bonus mom?  So that you know the child get, you know pure and full love So it's a personal choice. It's nothing Deep about it because you know If you asking that question that let me know you not worried about trying to do nothing negative or hurt You know the child the different if you were a single woman with a child you asking about how to deal with men Then it'll be more so about protection Is it a red flag of a man's a history of short relationships one two years? No, cuz that's very normal very normal Very normal. What does a man mean when he says you have what he desires, but you just need one more test That you need to run If a man tell you to your face he testing you That's that's dangerous. That's a red flag though. We that's he gonna treat you like crap Man a net who man who says about you and never tell you he gonna test you We met through a friend and he beg to take me out after the date he's off and on but always asking my friend about me wow Just how something talk about Just how something to talk about We had no moderators in here tonight if they took all of them They must have got mad with me last night. Talk about these men I feel looking I am 24 and working on my three B's Do you have any tips on encouraging yourself when you see people your age achieving achieving? Relationship and financial milestones, but you are not just there yet. You might need to get coaching They might be they might have a mentor They might have a coach and they're not doing it alone. They may have a team of help So you can't ever compare and you also can't really Believe nothing you see So if you don't live with them to see their relationship and if you don't have access to their bank account Believe nothing that you see trust me Trust me trust me It's all a mirage Curse me out when I told him I don't talk to guys who then asked me on a date what to do Gone about your business block his number Go on about your business ain't nothing to do ain't nothing to do God bless it the niche to God bless you welcome To the bless try rose a welcome to the bless try He do videos on marriage is not really I do have some on marriage. I have a marriage series you got to click on my playlist go to marriage series but 70 to 90% of my audience is single So and I got a course for married couples on Tony Gaston's Academy But I really got the more so speak to who out here listening And so every nine day and I probably met ten married people on this channel So I can't really make How limited times I can't really give it to less than one percent of my audience But you can sign up for one-on-one session when you hear me announce that How do you upgrade to the business tribe so when you go to the video Under the lower right hand side, you're gonna say where say see perks You click on see perks if they still got it set up like that You click on see perks. It's gonna bring up Your perks for the bless try but then right up under that you're gonna see it say 999 or 1199 or 1299 Depending on where you looking at it from So you might want to go to Google Go to YouTube on your computer on like the Chrome browser and Sign up from there if you sign up from that out on Apple it's gonna charge you more because Apple take 30% Tony I have been out of a Been out of a six years and have Taking the time to heal and now ready to date How do I answer the question when men ask why my last relationship ended without having them in my business? Just say we weren't a fit. We just weren't meant for each other and we came to a point where we say hey, you know It was nice. It was a nice run, but we're not meant to be and we decided to mutually part ways so You could always answer a question without giving away all your business Tessa God bless you Once take a year to solely focus on my three B's and not date what to say to men when approached You could tell them you should tell them that you are taking So hey, um, I'm taking Because when you say taking It lets a man know That you have representation If a man does not know you have Representation he may try to put hands on you. He may try to stalk you. He may try to do something to you So tell him you take it and technically you are taking you taken by your goals You take him by your dreams. You take him by your work You take him by your focus So you are taking And that's what you got to tell these men today because of the fragile egos so because of the fragile egos You can't do like we would do in the days of old When you could just you know, tell a man That you're not interested and he say, okay, well, God bless you. Hope you meet the one Today because of the fragile egos and because of the grown boy Epidemic you can't really be real With these guys today y'all for giving up here looking for my son See him so understand that right now Son them still practicing. Why don't we see men asking these questions? because Men learning the dark women learning the light Men will sit back and watch and observe and listen So out of the seven hundred people we have on here It could be two hundred men watching this But men we don't show our hand. We wear a poker face. We don't show our hand and All of that It's nine o'clock. Hey, so God bless y'all Trisha would just saying show come in the show is on the show that I'm on It's on on MTV. I don't want to be competing with you know Even though a number seven hundred people on here seven hundred people could be over there on MTV So my little show on and I think I'm on there tonight Doing a little session leading the session now y'all got to remember I'm not a producer this ain't my show I don't write the episodes or nothing like that. I'm just a host I'm just a co-host on there. So don't y'all put nothing on me now God bless y'all Again, it's on MTV So 700 y'all if you got MTV somebody said stream on here on YouTube I don't know if that's true or not, but it may be under YouTube and Couples retreat MTV couples retreat God bless y'all and we'll talk soon


So, did you have a question you were about to say something at the end of the last session? No, Buster. No, okay. Thank you. Right, okay. So I just want to kind of encourage us as believers. You know, this is God's desire. The, you know, the exhortation that we started with, you know, as we prayed. Honestly, desire the best gifts. Desire to prophesy. And first you love and desire spiritual gifts. That's God's will for us. And the reason that he, over and over again, that exhortation is there, right? You know, in those three chapters is because God, that's what God desires to do. Okay, God wants to show himself strong on our behalf. So, you know, we do what he has declared in the word and we go ahead and just do it, right? Just be there and do it and see God move on our behalf. And I think that's the greatest joy and contentment to watch God to see that we are just being expected as to what God does through us in us, right? So this one encourages us to grow strong in the Lord, really, you know, be nurtured in words of faith and step out and do what he has called us to do. And we can start small, you know, we can start small, maybe with family, maybe with friends and somebody says, okay, you know, I have this thing. I've been going to the doctor, I've been doing this, you know. Just say, hey, can I just pray? And it may be a long lengthy one, but just say, can we pray? And as you're praying, you know, you lean into the Holy Spirit and lean in and see what does God wanting to do. You know, you lean in and be sensitive in your spirit, man. And what is God saying? What is God doing? And make it, you know, make it second nature, right?  What is it that you want done? And what are the inputs in your heart? And, you know, you just go ahead and release that, stand and faith, release that. And it can be a blessing for those around us, right? Okay, so just want to encourage you to do that, right? Okay, let's move on. You know, we, so we looked at all these gifts, okay? And we looked at these gifts in operation. Some of them, you know, very clearly mentioned in both the old and the New Testament, especially tongues. We don't see that much in the Old Testament. We see some indirect references. We see that. And also interpretation of tongues. We don't see, we see some references. We don't see any operation. But then, you know, we see, of course, plenty of references in the New Testament, right? So for us to be developing, you know, just like how we develop our spirit sense of hearing and seeing and so on, we need to be developing, walking in the gifts of the spirit and developing the gifts of the spirit in our lives. Paul writes and Timothy and he says, you know, do not neglect the gift that was given to you by laying out of hand, by prophecy or by laying out of hands. Don't neglect it. It means don't, you know, don't let it be there without use. That's neglect. So not only are we to desire honestly, but we are told not to neglect these gifts. The Holy Spirit comes and he comes with all these gifts within us. We're not neglect walking in these gifts or the use of these gifts and pay the opportunity. So how do we develop, you know, which is going back to the chapter which we said that we will look at, which is the chapter on love, you know, Acts chapter 13. Sorry, 1 Corinthians chapter 13. And we looked at that chapter on love, which is there. So when it comes to the exercise of these gifts, we see that it is to be with love. Love has to undergird this. It has to be motivated out of love. Okay, so let's just look at that. I just want to share the notes. It's a chapter. Let me just put it up. It's coming up. So we see that 1 Corinthians 13. This whole chapter on love. We see the context in which 1 Corinthians 13 is written and it's in the context of the spiritual gifts. Chapter 12, the listing of spiritual gifts, and it also talks about the body of Christ and how we should minister to one another. Chapter 14, some more about the gifts. Chapter 13, we see love being mentioned there and without love, how everything else is. It's vain. It's empty. So, firstly, we see that love is patient. The characteristic of this God kind of love is that love is patient and it's kind. So, while ministering these gifts, we need to be bold. We need to be firm. We need to be confident in God. At the same time, we are called to be gentle and kind when ministering in these gifts. When ministering in the power of God. Because love is patient and love is kind. People may sometimes test that very thing. Test your kindness. Test your patience. But the love of God overcomes and the love of God is patient and it's kind. The second thing that we see is that the love is not jealous. It is not jealous. That's what we see. Love does not envy looking at verse 4, which means that it's not jealous. It does not look at someone and say, okay, envy that person, jealous of that person. So, which means that even while working together as a community of believers and when we see God doing something through a fellow believer and God doing something wonderful that we don't envy that, we don't become jealous of that. But we praise God for that. Praise God and honor what God is doing through that person and celebrate really what God does through that person. And of course, it's a wonderful opportunity to observe, wonderful opportunity to learn how he's working and what he's doing through others. So, love is not jealous. In the same verse, we see that love is not proud. It is not proud. It is not arrogant. It does not parade itself. So, it's not proud, arrogant, boastful. So, while we are confident in who we are in Christ, that does not mean that we cross over and become arrogant. We continue to be, just because God is powerfully using us or the pits are being manifested in and through us, does not have to make us or we should not become proud and arrogant. Because the warning is, again, that God resists the proud, which you've seen James, but gives grace to the humble. All these gifts are gifts of grace. Something that we don't deserve, it's enabled by God. So, these are gifts of grace. That is why these are called Charisma. Charis means a gift of grace. So, these are gifts of grace. So, when we minister the gifts of grace, we don't do the opposite. We don't become proud. But God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Love is also not rude or ill mannered. We need to be Christlike. We are reflecting the love and the nature of God. So, we should not be discourteous or rude, because sometimes people do that. They forget their manners because they are under the anointing of the Holy Spirit. But this is what love is. The love of God is not ill mannered. It's not rude. So, also in our ministering, we don't become that. It's not self-centered, self-seeking, or self-promoting, which is what we see. That verse five does not seek its own. It's not provoked. Things no evil. So, it does not promote ourselves. We don't need to promote ourselves. We don't need to focus on ourselves. And we don't minister the gifts in order to turn the spotlight on ourselves or to get some favors done or to... nothing of that sort. Nothing of that sort, because it is from God. It is through Him. And we are just vessels. We are privileged to be vessels in His hands. And the love of God, this is the quality that it's not self-seeking. So, therefore, when we minister the gifts, we are not seeking our self to be on display. We are seeking God to be exalted, to Lord Jesus to be exalted. So, these are really foundational things, but we need to remember that. We need to not lose this.  Love is not irritable. It says it's not provoked. Things no evil. It does not rejoice in iniquity. So, it's not angered. It's not irritable. It doesn't get provoked. So, we realize that when it comes to ministering and we are dealing with people. We are dealing with people. And there could be every opportunity that things go the opposite way. That people can provoke us. People can do things to kind of maybe anger us or whatever. But do not get provoked. Stay in the love of God. Stay in the peace of God. Don't get provoked to react. We see that love has no evil intention. So, we don't use the gifts to manipulate. We don't use the gifts to talk down and take revenge. You don't use the pulpit of time to do that or minister and say, Okay, now's my chance. I'll get back. And we hear so many horrors stories of ministers of God doing that. Something happens and they use the church. They use the pulpit to talk down on people and use them as illustrations to cut them down to size. But do not do that because love is opposite of that. Love is truthful, honest and holy. Therefore, the gifts of God must be handled in a similar way. Love hopes, believes, endures and love never fails. So, do that in the same manner. A classic example is the Lord Jesus. When ministering to the woman at the well, the Lord knew what kind of person she was. During the course of the conversation, I think when we see that it could be a word of knowledge. The Lord knew how many times she was married and the fact that she was in a living relationship. But the Lord conveyed that information very objectively so much so that the woman, having heard about her life, she went and she testified to the entire village. He brought them to Jesus such were the manner in which the Lord ministered. Well, he had harsh words for those who were hypocrites, those who were religious leaders. But we see that when he was ministering, he was ministering in compassion and he did expose the sin of this person, the sinful lifestyle. But there was no condemnation with it. There was a conviction for her to change and she brought the entire village.  And love never fails in the sense love never comes to an end. There's no limit on love. It doesn't have an expiry date. This is something that's going to live on in eternity. So let's continue to walk in love with something that's going to be eternal, that is eternal. And so we continue to walk in love. The other thing that we see is that when we look at the word love, we see that love never fails. It means to become inefficient, to come to an end, to become inefficient and has the understanding that to fall from a place. So it means that love, as long as we walk in love and humility, as long as we walk in love and minister in love, that we will not fall or we will not be without effect or things won't come to an end. We will continue to have influence and impact when we walk in love and minister in love. So these are some things that we need to keep in mind when we minister. And it is minister in the gifts and it is tempered with love. I just want to move to developing the spiritual gifts. So we see that love has to be a foundation. So never forget that because we can sometimes get excited with the fact that, hey, God is using me. These things are happening. God is speaking to me and God is using me as a spokesperson. And the thing is that we might get puffed up. There's every tendency to get puffed up, but we need to stay grounded in love. So developing the gifts of the spirit, first always motivated by love, do things out of love. Second one is what we saw when we started the class, what we looked at, the earnestly desire. Have a strong desire, earnestly desire now. I just want to say that there are several things to put out that fire out of our lives. They could be discouragements, they could be challenges in our own personal lives. Maybe people pointing fingers at us, accusing, blaming, several things that could happen to put out that fire. Or it could be some sin that creeps up. Maybe we have not been careful and fallen and that definitely tries to extinguish the fire. You don't have that same zeal. You don't have the same zeal for God or the things of God. We need to really look in introspect and see what is causing that. See, what is it? So that God can put a finger on it and say, okay, this is what it is. You've been harboring bitterness or you've been harboring unforgiveness.  You've been speaking some loose words. The Lord might say several things. The Lord might say you've been compromising on things that you're watching. You used to be very sensitive but now that sensitivity is losing its edge because you've been compromising on what you are watching. And therefore, because of that, you're losing that fire. So it could be that. So it's time to introspect and say, what is it that is killing the appetite? What is it that is reducing the appetite? So come back to it and earnestly desire. The other thing that we see is to stir up the gift of God, which means we keep the flame burning. It's like killing that coal to keep the flame alive. Stir up the gift of God. Walk in it. Let there be the time interval between the last time we moved in the gifts and present what we're doing. Let it be short. And sometimes we might have to intentionally step out and say, okay, it's been a while now. I need to pray and just do it. Get out of that complacency and say, okay, I want to move in it. Stir up the gift of God. So Paul's instruction to Timothy, do not neglect the gift of God, a gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy, laying on our hands of the hellish.  Stir it up. Use it. Don't let it, don't let the dust settle on it. Stir it up. But seven, for God has not given us a spirit of fear. And we see that one of the reasons was fear, maybe fear of man, maybe fear of getting it wrong, maybe fear of what will people say, whatever. So God has not given us a spirit of fear. So this verse again is in the context of the use of spiritual gifts. So God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. He's given us a disciplined mind. He's not given us a spirit of fear.  So the fear is not from God.  Let it not be dormant. The other instruction we see in Galatians 5, if you live in the spirit, let us also walk in the spirit. What does it mean to walk in the spirit? It means to be led by the spirit, to stay in step with the spirit, listening to the Holy Spirit. Let him lead us, let him guide us, be aware of the Holy Spirit's presence in our lives. Don't shut out. So we can never switch off that way. Sometimes people say, I need a break, I need a vacation, I need a thing. Brilliant. But don't switch off the presence of God. We can don't intentionally stay away from God even during these times of moments of leisure or entertainment. Always be aware of God's presence.  God's spirit speaking to you and ministering to you. Some practical things is to stay calm and rested. The word rest means to rest, remain quiet, be quiet, settle down. The thing is that for us in our minds to really stay in that place of peace and calm and not be agitated, agitated or being fearful or anxious. Initially, yes, we will be. Maybe we are praying and then we kind of anxious, oh God, I want you to speak and we are anxiously waiting and saying, what if God does not speak? What if I get this wrong? But then relax. When God speaks, if God speaks, you receive it. All that is required of us is to be in that place of peace, to be in that place of rest and to stay alert, to be sensitive. So don't be agitated, stay calm in the spirit. There could be a lot of things happening out there which really cause us to be agitated in the natural when you see that there could be things happening. But you stay calm in the inner man. You stay calm in the spirit. The other thing, practical, some more practical thing is to step out boldly when prompted by God. When you know, the thing is when we continue to walk with God, when we continue to be obedient to His leading, it's like we build a history with God. We know that God has spoken because that's how we did. We are becoming more and more sensitive, not familiar to the point of being, not esteeming His presence, but familiar to the point of being welcoming His presence and honestly desiring more of Him. So we become familiar in that aspect. So when we do that, we do it boldly. Whatever God is putting in your heart, you know, you do that. You step out and do it. It could be to do something. It could be to speak something. It could be to pray something out, whatever it is. Be faithful, be obedient. And when we step out and do it, it requires some boldness. Maybe it requires doing things which we are not temperamentally, you know, temperamentally it seems outside of our comfort zone, right? So, but it requires us to do that, right? See, I'm not the person temperamentally who would go and speak to strangers.  And I look back and I see that, oh, wow. That's not me at all. But the fact is that God is, even those ingrained temperaments and fears, God deals with us. And God changes that as well as we continue to walk with Him, right? So faith, you know, somebody defined faith this way. I'm sure you've heard that faith equals risk. Or faith is spelled as R-I-S-K, right? So we will need to take some risks when we are ministering. We need to take some risks. We need to, probably, it's not something that we are used to doing. And we need to take some risks. But when we take those risks, when we take those steps of faith, then we see that God, you know, we walk in the plan and purpose of God. We see God step in and do things that He's already prepared. You know, one beautiful thing that we see is when we read Ephesians 2, we see that Ephesians 2 and verse 10, for we are this workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them, okay? So we are His workmanship. We are His works of art created in Christ Jesus. We know what that means. We are in Christ, new creations in Christ. And what have we created? Why have we created in Christ? We are created for good works. Okay, so these are the good works. We know that the Lord Jesus, He was anointed by the Holy Spirit, and He went about doing good, right? So these, we've been in Christ, we are created in Christ Jesus, anointed by the Holy Spirit in a similar manner to do good. So we are created for the good works, which God has prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. He's designed these good works. I just want to share one instance which happened. I think John Paul was also, you know, John Paul and I, we were going for one of our, let me just put this down, okay? So we were going for this prayer walk. It was in, you know, Jai Nagar South. So we went and then, I think that was the only time both of us went together. So we went and then, so we saw this person who was walking in, you know, was trying to walk. He was actually kind of, I think he was walking with us. I'm not sure. But anyway, we went and we told him about Jesus, and we asked him if he would, if we can pray for him. And we were believing God for healing, and we just wanted him to be completely okay. That didn't happen. I think, I don't know if he sat down, you know, on the side of the payment and then we prayed and over him, he was being held by one other person. But the thing is that I managed to get his phone number and he kind of invited, I spoke to him on the phone, he kind of invited me home. He said, why don't you come? So I went to his house. There again, got to share the gospel. So they come from a completely, you know, non-Christian home, you know, from, I could see, very small. Just one room house went and prayed, shared the gospel, taught from the word. Then got to hear that his mother was actually a believer. So his mother knew the Lord. And it was amazing. The way they said, they believed in Jesus the way you do. And she believed in Jesus the way. And she was also, you know, she was, I heard that, he said that the mother also, she died a believer and also was, you know, the funeral was done according to your ways and some things he said. But the fact is that the mother, God had touched the mother and we were walking that, you know, that day and we got to, you know, we just took a, we didn't know, you know, how it will respond or whatever. But we just took a chance and said, okay, let's talk to them about Jesus, talk to them about Jesus, ask him if he would like us to pray. And he said, okay, we prayed, got invited home and prayed again, shared the gospel and told him, you know, this is what you need to do. And then he opens up and says, my mother used to believe the way you believe and so on. So it means the seat of the gospel was already there and you see the whole thing, you know, playing out. So then I realized that many things like that, God has already prepared beforehand, right? God has prepared beforehand. All we need to do is take that risk.  Well, but the thing is that since it's already prepared beforehand, why not take the risk? Why not take that step of faith and move with Christ's confidence and say, okay, God, you are sufficient to do this. So just want to step out and do it. And I'm sure many of you are already doing that, but just want to encourage us to continue if you're doing that. And those of us who have yet to step out, step out. Because you'd be amazed to see what God has planned and how God connects these things.  Okay, I just felt okay, maybe I should just sit there. So I sat next to this guy and then so he got talking and asked him, I was carrying my guitar.  Are you listening? So I told him, you know, just got to share with him about what we do and then about the Lord.  Now I work with church and YA and all that. So then got to know that his grandmother, you know, was a believer, right? So he shared, you know, I know my grandmother and also another uncle. So they believe in Jesus like you. So then I just shared, it's so simple.  He wants a relationship with you. And this is the reason, you know, that we are heading towards a destiny without God, but God wants to step in. And so, yeah, so he said, hey, I'm glad I met you. You know, his flight was earlier, the flight I was just sitting there and they said, I'm glad we, I'm glad I got to speak to you.  He said, yeah, yeah, I will. So you see that it's a risk, right? It's a small risk, you know, and also personality was I'm not the person to take those things, but I'm learning. And having seen God move in these ways, I know that when God says something that he's already planned it, he's already this, you know, maybe some network, something that he's already put in place, all we have to do, even though I may not be able to see it then and there, but if I do it, then it sets things in motion, right? Open this up and then you get to see, oh, wow, this is why I'm glad I did it. I'm glad I stepped on. So, yeah. So just want to encourage, you know, it is definitely risk. Not saying that you will get it right all the time. You know, I made it a point that I pray for, you know, the people who are begging and first I pray for them, you know, just first pray and then pay. So still I'm going to pray and then I'll give you the money. Okay, so just pray for whatever condition there is.   So they've been very heart-moving, heart, you know, really moving moments when you step out and do that as well, right? Okay. So, yeah, so take this, the other thing is, let me just, wherever we, okay, the other thing is to practice in the sense we need to, you know, when we learn about these gifts, you know, there's always a sharpening which comes through walking in it. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 14, he says, 14 and verse 31, for you can all prophesy one by one that all may learn and all may be encouraged. Okay, so every time we step out and use the gifts, you know, it is, of course, a practice, we are learning something, maybe reflect and say, okay, I made that mistake and now I can avoid it. I can do this, I learned something, so, you know, I can do it in this way. So we learn, right, there is a learning that comes and in 2 Timothy 221, if anyone cleanses himself from the laptop, that it's talking about, you know, the works of the flesh, if there's a cleansing, then he will be useful in the master's head.  So it's talking about, you know, cleansing oneself, you know, so when we learn, when we discard certain things, when we take on, there is a cleansing, there is a sharpening that's happening. Okay, learn from every experience. Okay, learn from the experience, both from things that happened for the better and also things that we did turn out so good and turn out so well, you know, we learn from those experiences and learn not to step out in the flesh, learn not to overextend ourselves, you know, several things that we learn. Okay, this is something that I can do, this is something, you know, I should not do. We learn from every experience. Okay, Romans 12-6, having been gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them. If prophecy, let us prophesy in proportion to our faith. Okay, so faith is involved here. You know, faith is stepping out, faith is taking a risk. But we can increase in our faith. We can grow in our faith. We build ourselves up in faith. We meditate on the Word of God. We listen to the Word of God. We declare the Word of God. We pray in tongues, we worship God. We grow in faith. And Galatians 3-5 talks about, you know, how are these gifts released? How are these miracles worked among you? Is it not by the hearing of faith? It's not by the works of the Lord, it's by the hearing of faith. So faith is involved there. So it's good for us to grow in faith so that we can step out in proportion to our faith and minister. Of course, that word is about prophecy specifically. So we can step out and minister in the prophetic in proportion to our faith. Fasting, again, helps us. We put it at some of the things of the flesh. We sharpen our hearing. And, you know, we pray and fast and prepare ourselves to do this. Receiving impartation. Okay, now, God is the source. God is the one who manifests himself in all these wonderful ways, right? So the gifts of God are from him. It's not man-made, right? But the thing is, he uses his people, his servants, to activate, which means to get us started and absolutely impart more, right? People who are walking in it to a certain degree. Let's say, maybe certain prophets of God are pastors or God uses them to impart into our lives and add another dimension of the same thing, right? And impartation comes in different ways, you know, maybe through laying on our hands and prayer, through, you know, through association in the ministry by actively, you know, receiving their ministry of teaching and preaching and all that and so on. So we receive that. And Paul here says in Romans 111, for I long to see you that I may impart to you some spiritual gift so that you may be established. Okay, again, in 1 Timothy 4, 414 talks about the gift that was given, how by prophecy, by laying on our hands of the worship. So God, you know, we should not mistake, we should not make a mistake and say, okay, you know, this man of God gave this gift or this woman of God prayed and therefore I have this gift. No, the gift belong to the Holy Spirit. He is the source. God is the source. He's the giver of gifts, right? Never, never forget that. However, God uses His servants, right? His ministers in order to strengthen, in order to maybe enhance certain things in us. And that's how He does it. That's why we are the body of Christ, right? So He does that, which is against Scripture. So, but the focus is on God, right? Our focus is on Him and not on man. Because when we turn our focus on man, that's when all the problem happens, right? When we elevate man beyond, you know, beyond the place of honor, then we bring division to the body of Christ, like we see in the Quentin Church, right? Quentin Church. All have to write to the Quentin Church about these gifts for them to rightly use it. But what was happening was that they were elevating man. I'm of Paul. I'm of Olos. I'm of Sifas, whatever. And because of which they were, you know, there were strivings and, you know, different factions. The body of Christ was divided there. So He had to write and give them these instructions. He did this for the edification of the body and so on, right? So, yes, God does use man. God does use other believers to impart into our life. But our focus is on God. So let's continue to grow in our function and our anointing. God has placed us in the body of Christ to carry out a particular function. But we need to grow in it. We need to, you know, add also in the anointing, right? We can expect to increase in the anointing, which means the presence and the power of the Spirit of God, and grow in it. And as we increase in the anointing, then we can expect to increase in the manifestation of the gifts of the Spirit in our, in and through our lives as well. Okay. So we have some more time. I just want to address these things. Foundation for the release of the gifts. Proper foundation. So the gifts are from the person.  I'll never forget that. Right? So it's not about technique. It's not about a method. It's about a relationship with this person who longs to display himself. Okay. Because the Lord says, you know, I am divine. You are the branches. The branch is connected. The branch has a relationship with the wine. It's a close relationship where the life of the wine flows through the branch. So we should never forget that. We should never forget that. It's based on relationship. It's based on intimacy. So it's never on, you know, method.  These are the nuts and bolts of it, right? But never forget that we are looking at these nuts and bolts, but the bigger picture is that it flows from a place of relationship, from a place of intimacy. Okay, so we minister out of that relationship with the Lord. So that's of paramount importance. Never forget that. The second thing is to be strong in our identity in Christ. So in many times, what happens is people get their identity from the gift. Oh, I'm a prophet. So I'm a prophet so-and-so. Always understand that our identity is who we are in Christ. We are children of God, sons and daughters of the most high God.  He, you know, he indwells us. He empowers us. He strengthens us. He has justified us. He sanctifies us. So, you know, our identity needs to be strong and not on the gifts. Because sometimes we could go wrong, like in the mystery of the gifts, right? We get it wrong and then our identity suffers. Why? Because we placed our identity in the gift.  Or, you know, maybe I should stop. Or, you know, nobody told me that it was a great message. Maybe something's wrong. No, he's strong in our identity as people of God.  And it's not in the gift. It's not in the fact that we are prophesying. It's not in the fact that God uses us to heal people. It's not in the fact that God uses us to, you know, minister in different ways. Our identity is not based on that. It's never based on that. Okay. So always remember that. Okay. Okay, quickly. A couple of other things. Demonstrate Christ as a character. Okay. Ephesians 4.15, speaking the truth and love, that you may grow up in all things unto him who is the head of Christ. That we mature in Christ, that we mature in Christ's likeness. In 1.14 also Paul says, plus you love. Okay. What is that love? That agape which is Christ like character. Right. So, plus you love, grow in that love, display that love, demonstrate Christ's likeness. Okay.  We are Christ-like in all that. And never focusing on the self, or promoting our self, or putting ourselves on a pedestal. Okay. Just because someone else does, you and I don't have to do it. Right. Because this is scriptural. This is what God has told us. Right. Okay. So, we'll stop here. I think there are a couple of other things, but yeah, we'll just stop here and look forward to the next class. We'll, you know, we'll try and kind of finish the rest of the portions.  Yeah. So, we've looked at quizzes. Okay. So, you can finish those as well. Okay. Okay. God bless. Have a great day and a great weekend. God bless you. Bye-bye.


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