forgive me getting this thing set up I apologize I had to add a couple of students on Tony Gaskins Academy calm we are with the um what is it called with the situation we in right now we had to move the life coaching certification around so a lot of those students now moving to the online course on the life coaching certification online version because April 11th obviously have to be postponed because of you know the situation that we all in so for those of you who wanted to make it to the April 11th but you can't you can make it to June 6th Lord willing everything back to normal and so if you just go to my site on Tony Gaxon.com for slash events you'll see that hey everybody how y'all doing okay Louisiana from Australia now you move to America or you in Australia because a lot of people was telling me that they couldn't join the bless tribe from outside the country but God bless you if you're out there in down under what y'all call it okay well just watching investing yourself yeah that investing yourself I got going on there and talking for a whole hour I didn't mean I meant to go 30 minutes and you know me I get into the caveats and nuances and get caught up so yeah if you have questions for me y'all know how this get now so if you made it here already and you early put your question in here and put the hashtag Q so I could see you yes the book is on the way the book is on the way it released on the seven some people may get it a little earlier because some of the stores may already have it like Walmart or Target may already have it is it okay to want to put illustration in your book before you publish it yep that's totally fine but I would do black and white illustrations if you absolutely need color that changes everything with the price point and everything brandy parks God bless you thank you God bless you now I'm gonna be looking for y'all questions and it's pretty cool here I got a water bottle sitting up under this hill screen so I'm able to rest my little arm right here and y'all know small business Saturday I just did the video but when I do these Q&A's it's about whatever you know you you have a question about it's not a small business Saturday Q&A so when does the promotion in to be a life coach the course always be there I'm not sure about the coupon code it just kind of it just changes with the times it's definitely available now I'm pretty sure to be available next month coupon code is my mentor don't forget to put it in my mentor why is my baby daddy still trying to get back with me after moving on to his rebound relationship he's not trying to get back with you unless that relationship is failing that that moving on relationship unless it's turning out to be a little harder than he thought it was gonna be that she's gonna require a little more but typically it's just when a man moves on and he's still dealing with you it's really just cuz he wants a roster of women and he has a soul tie with you so it'll really hurt him his ego to see you move on to another man so if he feels like if he sends you mixed signals that'll keep you stuck right where you are you'll be wondering why are you weak being with all this going on Tyra you know I'm feeling good I'm feeling good I serve the Lord what are the signs of in man I don't know y'all y'all I don't talk on that y'all got to go one of these therapists that think they know what they're talking about on that cuz cuz what y'all describe is that type of man that's every man I know so to be honest with you I just feel like a lot of women you using the word but don't even realize that's every man to be honest with you it just me and show it at different times you got to be long and be with them long enough to see it until he grows and change Joanna God bless you watch some men love kids and ignore women because children are innocent children didn't choose to be here children didn't hurt a man you know a man has nothing against children and sometimes if especially if it's his that's blood his blood flesh of his flesh whereas with women a lot of times men have been hurt by a woman lied to by a woman cheated on by a woman and he take that out on all women so that that's what it's a big difference between a child and a woman Roxy God bless you Brandy God bless you let me see all right quick Brandy how to get my man to be a little more sensitive you can't you can't get him to be more sensitive you can't change him you just got to realize if that's what you want or not but you're not gonna be able to change them you can't make a man be more sensitive hey devil God bless you I appreciate it okay London so what y'all doing over there the pounds that's a pound sign God bless you too much hold on hold on somebody's hitting across the head hold on I'm gonna get right to you Chanel so lovely God bless you Tony can you give some advice about starting a publishing company what's the first step you create your LLC on on legal zoom.com or LLC.com or you could go to a CPA and then from there you just come up with the name and then you set up you know you set up then what you're gonna need to do is learn how to publish a book so that may mean taking the birthday book program and then from there you set up but it's a little it's a few nuances in there so you probably gonna need some one-on-one consulting. 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God bless you now that's what I thought I saw pop up there but it was in red God bless you for that blessing there you ain't have to do that pull out pull out I don't know if A.E. is a he or her pull out in a life Lord double portion double for your trouble God bless you thank you for all you do as you are my therapy blessing I am so glad your coaching and truth has changed my life may the Lord continue to bless you and your family hey thank you that hundred all of their blessed us you and me I probably get me some takeout tonight on for that right now and let me tell y'all something if you do takeout this random if you do takeout go get it yourself go get it yourself don't do no over each no that door dash because these people is working they finger to the bone and the other day I was doing my takeout and the man from door dash was beside me to do a takeout he got out the car all over your food your food had all kind of 19 on it because these people if you do door dash over that mean you in a financial crunch that mean you really need some money that ain't no job somebody just gonna choose cuz you barely making any money anyways and then those companies Uber and them they take 30% from from the company who you buying the food from so if you really try to support local go get your own food and and thanks to AE that's a blessing now I'm pay a bill I'm pay a bill that AE God bless you Misha just a token of appreciation I've been able to grow up as a woman and take life in relationship seriously God bless a bless you Misha I really appreciate that showing up Joanna now now Joe whether you in the bless try because I see you on here twice now you could drop that on there can I ask how's your during early dating uh no that's not a question you want to ask cuz you're not gonna get the truth anyways you mentioned most men want children 43 and my kids are young adults should I be looking for a man that already has children um if if it's a stranger things can happen if you love him enough and you want to try to have your own it's women your age who had children now um if if men want children by the age of 43 he's not already had children if he really want children if he had children by 43 then he won't be dealing with a 43 year old he'll be dealing with a woman that's in her 30s in her early 30s if he wants children and he's 43 so I really wouldn't I would just focus on who approaching you you know don't get too don't get too deep in it Tiffany B God bless your tone I received my life coach certificate thank you for everything hey bless you Tiffany now go on join my mentor dot like join my mentor and then y'all go book a session with Tiffany start out at $25 an hour now Tiffany because with that in the Remy you got in your head it looked like you want to charge people $100 an hour now start at 25 an hour and then give yourself a raise every five to ten clients give yourself a 10% raise you know $5 a raise $10 a raise don't be charging people because you got that good ending Remy in your head so start small and then be a queen drip drip what's your advice for dealing with an ex you have a child with and they make it difficult to get along he's disrespectful condescending rude and then manipulating child at times with that type of person you got a limit all interaction to the bare minimum you know you can't give that type of person that much room that much space to be able to get to you like that so the way that looks is you may have to have a mediator so what that mean is it's your mom or aunt or somebody like that in between y'all that he deals with them he doesn't talk to you you want to talk about our child reach out to my mom just because of the way that you act the way you deal I can't deal with you and then what he's gonna do he's gonna change his behavior or he's gonna fall off and you get to be a hundred percent of mom to your child without his toxicity but don't entertain that don't allow him to do that like let him know you blocked if you when it's your day to pick up when it's time for us to meet call my mama call my auntie and then you let them even if you got to shoot them fifty dollars you know hundred dollars a month whatever you can afford keely Crawford God bless you God bless you now keely she own piece of a company by now cuz she the bless me so much now keely let me know if you want to invest in my mentor dot life now get your little residual check or something cuz I feel bad for the way you be blessing me on here and I don't feel like I got enough to give you in return tonight I'm in the bless tribe I need business advice what I would do is make sure you watch my small business Saturday videos and if that's not enough then you're gonna need a one on one session if you trying to get real deep and specific to your particular business one session I talk to my clients all the time on the business side one session I don't save them ten fifteen thousand dollars off one session cuz I don't made all the mistakes I done it all in business and I started 11 companies of over 50 streams of income you just see me doing this but I really really do business I really do business cuz you can't sit here and afford to talk our day unless you really got real business going on behind the scenes cuz this right here this ain't guaranteed it's somebody else network all of Daisy God bless you what are the things to do so I can move on with life and stop dwelling in my past because have pushed a lot of people away you're gonna need coaching you're gonna need coaching when it's something when your past is holding you stuck that's what my video today is about investing in yourself a lot of times we you get everything you could get for free and if that don't do it for you now you got to take that next step that one on that the book the one-on-one coaching the retreat the seminar and just continue to feed and the thing about it is ain't just about the time and money it's about that step it's about that action with you doing that you unlocking doors just because you tap it in the universal laws that when you so you read Felicia God bless you God bless you Felicia now let me see now I missed somebody up here I was there that was Felicia or the DJ and somebody just came in here and knocked my off my feet CC 421 love God bless you poor out in a lie poor out in a lie then see a picture sideways poor in a lie I think that's a lady yeah CC God bless you poor in a life just wanted to sow a seed and let you know that you have truly been a blessing to me I feel I've become a better woman and mother thanks to your videos even my daughters listen because according to them they know your wife is treated right hey that's a blessing they they they do know right they do know right I wish I could show them some more how much I be treating her but she don't like to show off Celeste your thoughts on developing a consulting and coaching business when you are still working through some of your own personal and professional issues to be honest which is very necessary because nobody is perfect nobody's perfect if you ain't on to you all the way through everything you'll never be there I've been coaching since 2007 I'm still working I'm still working on stuff you know in how to manage your money in you know dealing with what's good that what's bad that you always learning lessons and I'm still learning professional side personal side I need to stop eating Popeye's chicken you know I eat meal Popeye's chicken once a month you know last night I had me a piece of pound cake too late like come on Tony you got to do better you know you can't be eating pound cake at midnight but so we all gonna have a little stuff we're working through but I'm gonna tell you what changed my life what changed my life is by me coaching by me coaching I was saying stuff to my client that I needed to hear so when I was saying it I was speaking it into the atmosphere so I had so it was really like a affirmation so I had to hear that and I remember my first two years of relationship coaching my wife she said to me one time real slick real slick real little quick little jab you talking about it but you ain't living it whoo that thing floored me because I was 23 24 years old and when I was telling my female clients what the males need to be doing in their life I wasn't doing all that so that helped me become the man that I am by helping others so that's why I always say don't try to wait on perfection you know get your life coach certification and start getting clients if you don't need my mentor that life we we market the site the tens of thousands of people a day and people who can't get coaches on their own clients on their own they get clients through the site but if you don't need that and you can you know market then go ahead why a man will give up so easy me and it's not that he give up easy it's that he takes and he puts somebody else in his life as a bandaid so when when when you and a man was dealing with each other that it was it was more than six months to a year especially feels more than a year a man feels it it feels it and it hurts but what a lot of men do what most men do is they go to another they go to another woman that alleviates the pain thank you for spreading wisdom jolly God bless you God bless you jolly I really appreciate that Nikki Rowling bless you Nikki pull out in her life Lord pull out in her life y'all showing up and showing out when you decided to focus on building your brand and doing things God way did you ever have moments of feeling unsure or having trouble focusing how were you able to get to the point of staying laser focused on getting the work done every day yes I had those moments I had those moments to where you struggle because you see people getting fast money you know you see this multi-level marketing people selling teas and people selling just you know credit repair and people selling this other stuff to where they build in somebody else brand and they in somebody else company and they could make millions of dollars you see that when you focusing on your brand and your business then you see you see scam artists online see the people who do YouTube and only do clickbait titles then you see the people who raise and money from other people to live a dream meaning hey invest in my real estate syndication and they got all this stuff to where they make all this money like with my audience I could say hey I'm doing real estate syndication and then have it in there to where I get 10% of everything come in and then anything I invest in I get the first return on investment and then you get peanuts so if I get a thousand people to give $500 that's $500,000 that's quick money and that's what people out here doing so when you trying to live a life of purpose to where you eat what you work for meaning that it's your work it's your time it's harder because it's a slow grind but what helped me is the fact that I know I'm living my purpose and I'm building a legacy and that that's shifting my lineage that my son's life will be different because of the life I chose to live so the way that you keep going is you got to connect with purpose you got to connect with purpose now when you single with no kids it's harder to be purpose based see me I could do this every day because I also realize although this is my purpose I also feed my family so it is gonna be tougher and that's when you really got to dive deeper miss China doll God bless you for your blessing can you offer more courses for young men I'm a single mom raising sons have you taken the course for the young man China doll have you have you gone through that course with him if so tell me what some more topics that you need me to talk on for the young man and I could consider that because the Tony gas Academy it's gonna have a whole bunch of courses can I or Kenny can I God bless you Sheila Mills God bless your part in their life how does a man's relationship with his mother affect his relationship with his wife it does have an effect it does have an effect not every man to be able to pinpoint it I don't really see the correlation with my mom and my marriage like my mom she was there she was in the house she wasn't like my wife is with my sons but because she was raised different and she didn't get a whole lot of focus on her she loving Karen and all of that but my mom she not she didn't make me a mama's boy and so I think for me that helped me with my wife because my wife doesn't have to compete with my mom so that's where a man's relationship with his mom comes in because if the mom made her son a mama's boy that's how I tell my wife all the time like man you gotta chill you gotta chill at these boys get older because dang don't find a wife cuz both of my sons my 12 year old and my six year old tell them they both said look we're gonna get a job and we're gonna live with you guys for the rest of our life like they love they like so much they tell me they don't want to wipe they don't want to move out of course the six-year-old but my 12 year old 13 years old this month he's saying he was he won't live with us and 13 you kind of start to look around but his life's just so sweet and his mama just so thorough that it's gonna be hard for a woman to come in cuz he gonna look at okay is you even have the mother to our children that my mom was to me so that does affect the man and that's when so you got to evaluate that because what you want to make sure of is that he don't hate his mama or that he doesn't have a obsession with his mom he got to have a happy medium shawanna Brooks God bless you God bless you hello Tony the 19 is expected to last several months we living we living alone single how are we expected to survive without partners how to find them we are in in times and everything moving online it now it may last several months but how long you been living how you've been single all your life you know how long you've been living if you have nobody going into this situation you don't need nobody in the situation so as long as it lasts what you got to do is because you can't go out and be shaking hands and meeting people right now this is your season of singleness that you have to don't lose this moment thinking about a relationship when you need to be preparing everything you can in your single life because I tell folks all the time like my wife it would have been if God had seen it fit to be that way it would have been so much better for my wife to Serita God bless I hope your question don't disappear up here let me see it would have been so much better for my wife if God had allowed me to meet her when she was 28 instead of when she was 19 because when she met me I derail her purpose I not her purpose but I derail her life she was a biomedical science major her grades start to slip because she was spending so much time with me she was a sophomore junior in college she got pregnant so now she got to finish her bachelor's as a mother and then went on to get her medical sciences master's degree which is like your trial year before you go to med school as a mother and then had then chose not to do med school because she was a mother to a son who needed her because he was born two and a half months early so that's what I mean by when you single it's stuff you got to do before you be worried about a relationship can you look at $10,000 in your bank account right now today in your cash bank account anytime I don't know 401k do you have you put up 10 in your bank account have you started your for profit company your LLC have you started your non-profit company have you written your book every single human need to write a book every human need to write a book you know what I'm gonna do for you right now what I'm gonna do for you right now I'm a login at Tony gasses Academy calm and I'm about to make the birth your book 50% off I'm about to change the price right now while I'm on here so you ain't got no excuses you ain't got to put in no coupon code I'm a going here for everybody who ain't if you already got it now don't ask me for no refund now because you blessed and highly favor okay I'm about to change the price in Tony gasses Academy right now 50% off so that that way write your book you need to do everything you need to do before you meet somebody had I met my wife later she would have been a doctor but because I met her before she got to that point because she wanted love and so sometimes the love that you want could end up working against you subjective reality what sources of programs can you recommend for a couple that wants to be the seed that falls on good ground in their future marriage wants to be the seed that falls on good ground in their future marriage after having marriages that were the seed that fell by the wayside resources and programs subject to reality personal coaching is going to take you a long ways to know who you are my best personal resource is my book make it work I feel like make it work is my recipe my wife and I recipe for our healthy marriage which I call a perfect marriage 13 years of marriage I put my heart and soul in there and a lady wrote me today she says she left her man her husband they rekindling it they reconciling and they're going through make it work and she say it's blessing them she said they learned so much learned so much leticia I have no idea what to write about you may need to do one session to learn what to write about but everybody has learned something in their life if you was raised in a single parent home you learn lessons if you raise in a two parent home you learn lessons if you was raised poor if you was raised raised rich if you saw pain whatever you went through everybody learned a lesson in their life that somebody coming behind you with your same situation and they haven't healed yet so they need you now I missed somebody message who Katrina dog God bless you somebody had gave fire all up see what they do is the larger ones they keep it up there for me the smaller ones they disappear let me get the small Tony what to say to end it with a guy I've been talking to for a year no physical just talking in dates I don't see a future with him call him the day and just say hey you know I want to talk to you you know I don't I don't think this is going anywhere and I don't want to waste any more of your time I feel like you're a great person but I don't feel like we're for each other and I don't want to hinder you and you meeting the woman for you Serita it was your message I miss hopefully it's this it's the one you had so just tell them like that straight like that straight like that y'all hold on y'all hold on a y'all hold on y'all hold on this thing going too fast for me not raggedy YouTube they need to have a little cue where you could just put all your questions right there and then all the regular chat just run on the other side of the you got the queue over here where everybody just input a questions I can go one by one you too you get to watch this list to me now you got the best dog on developers in the world have one cue for the chat and then over here on the other side of my screen I just need to see questions where people hit submit a question and the questions go in there all right now you too come on now y'all like that sitting on your thumbs how do you recharge your energy when having to deal with a lot of people who are in pain how do you not allow it to drain you hey that's a good question now let me tell you do you know what your pain led Jesus that's what I compare it to as long as your pain ain't taking me to where Jesus had to go I ain't got nothing to worry about that's how I look at it because I'm working for Jesus your pain got got him he had to go through so much put on a cross for you so in long and see that's why I draw the line that's why I tell folks like this right here listen Jesus died for you so I ain't got to die for you you're gonna drive me crazy so I deal with what I could deal with and then if I need to take a break I want to go live last night but I was like man I don't need to go live every night now come on now I said baby you think it's all right if I take the night off she say yeah you don't want to be on there too much but my heart was saying hey go live you got more people to serve but I said now I'm gonna take the night off so I'm on I'm refueled so today I'm doing live right now and I'll probably do a lot another live tonight okay because we in here it's Saturday that's all I got to do you know me and my family had breakfast together this morning we're gonna sit down watching Netflix after we watch Netflix hang out with their little dog then I'll probably do another live tonight around 7 p.m. eastern so I just kind of base it on what I can give but when you live in your purpose see now when you copy somebody you're gonna be drained when you're trying to do what somebody else doing because it looked like it's making money or because it looked like it's good you're gonna be drained but when you're doing what you call to do God gonna give you the tools you need to build what he told you to build so that's why you got to make sure you build what he told you to build Sean God bless you God bless you hey Tony I was wondering what or how should I go about my spouse meeting new women and trying to be friends with them also he loves sending friend requests to women and like inappropriate pics you got to shut all that down you got to shut all that down however you say it in your words but don't curse don't yell but he need to feel he need to feel when you say it to him it need to feel like God talking to him and so what that need to come on hey listen all this what you're doing uh y'all know Liam Neeson on the movie taking after this he'll search Liam Neeson taking clips on youtube you're gonna see how Liam talk Liam talk I will find you and I will kill you that's how your voice got to be when you talk to your man hey listen all these friend requests that you send them it has to come to an end and all of these pictures that you like it it has to come to an end because if it happens again I'm gone that is the utmost disrespect and I refuse to be disrespected play with it if you want to we will be in court next month I will get alimony I will get child support but I refuse to be treated like a baser on the street corner now if you're in front of south you might not know what no base is I don't know but however you say it you're gonna have to say it the way he feel you don't in a man don't respect crying a man don't respect all that crying he don't respect all of that okay you have to come to him strong he don't respect crying and he doesn't respect irate behavior if you're doing all this will you try me nasty no good him ever what you think this is all that right now he don't respect that and he don't respect this he respect this right here hey listen to me all the liking of the pictures that you're doing that got to stop today because if I see it again that's the last time you're gonna sniff me you ain't gonna be able to touch me with a 10-foot pole I refuse when he hit you like that you ain't crying you ain't yelling he gonna take you for real hey gentleman M took your real love course after 10 year relationship in my late 20s read the books prayer worked hard et cetera to heal and met a guy two-year relationship just ended could I need some healing from this and not know I'm sad not broken yeah you need healing two years you need at least six months of healing but what you're doing is is you you you going alone see the real love course it's a great course but it's general it's kind of talking to everybody you're gonna have to get coaching for you specifically and see what a coach is gonna do is is finally get to the language that you need to hear that activates your spirit you read in books but you're reading comprehension might not be the best if you comprehending the wrong way that the words on the page don't change to say it in a different way it just says what it says so you could be missing the blessing missing the lesson because you doing it alone question is it true that it takes the same amount of time to get over breakup as long as the relationship lasted I feel like I keep going backwards to be honest with you without intense serious work it takes twice as long so people don't understand that if a relationship was a year long it take you two years to get over if you just going day by day just living and you counting on time to heal you it'll take twice as long and people tell you time don't heal nothing time doesn't heal all wounds you got to do the work to heal so and when I say with intense work I'm really talking about what you're doing right now one-on-one sessions reading the book but I don't coach people who was in a relationship for three years and they're still talking about that relationship eight years later literally hello Tony I recently got three of your books I like to know the one you suggest I read first for where I'm at in life single is not a curse make it work Mrs. Wright I've been single for three years read single is not a curse then read Mrs. Wright then read make it work single is not a curse Mrs. Wright then read make it work none none relationship question yeah you had a type on there says let me figure out what you were saying any tips on how to become more in tune with the spirit I feel like I don't hear God I'm trying to find my purpose in life need guidance in life what you're going to have to do in that space is you're going to have to read two chapters a day and you got to go to the chapters not just the chapters giving you the history of the bible like you know Genesis and all exodus and all of that like the history of go to the chapter where God talking in Proverbs God talking okay and Jacqueline my books on amazon.com go to amazon.com type in Tony Gaskins and you'll see all my books my daddy got a couple books on there but all of my books that they listed on amazon.com Proverbs God talking and Matthew Mark Luke and John that's the gospel you sense the life of Jesus so you can start in John you're going to see Jesus the way he lived the way he taught and then after John read the rest of the new testament all the way up to revelation you don't need revelation right now don't go there you won't even understand it so read from John up to revelation what's going to happen is you hear the way God talks you hear what God has shared with his apostles his prophets to share with the people so that when you face something in life there's a scripture that addresses what you're facing and that's how you hear the spirit see a lot of people they think hearing the spirit is laying in the bed and they're going to hear hello my child I am God I've been meaning to tell you that your husband is on the way he has five steps left and ten steps right where your hair and a bob put on purple and smile and he will approach you that's what a lot of y'all waiting to hear they ain't how God talks they ain't how God talks God voices in his holy bible and then you're going to be able to apply you pray you pray for wisdom knowledge and understanding and you apply that to your life ladies say so God bless you my 11 year old son asked about my ex and his dog I told him we broke up my son cried because he thought we was getting married what can I say the question is how long were you with your ex and that's a lesson on how soon to introduce a man to your son so learn from this about introducing a man to your son before the wedding day is set that's a big big lesson the other lesson is don't date a man longer then you need to to introduce him to your son meaning if he ain't talking marriage between 12 or 18 months you need to cut him off anyways and then uh making me meet I would have seen your question but you say you giving up on the question because the vip is kicking your butt you should have posted your question right there I would have seen it see that's a lesson in faith that's a lesson in faith never give up keep the faith because the moment you feel like giving up that's when God finna move you hear me it's always your biggest blessing is always on the other side of the breakdown the breakthrough on the other side of the breakdown y'all got to remember that now I'm 25 queens and curls god bless you now the VIP line is getting long okay I don't know a stimulus checkhead y'all got savings your job still paying you but y'all is blessed and highly favored you better count your blessing then listen to me now don't ask me and google for no charge bike because I know how a lot of y'all want to do oh that was a fraudulent erroneous charge I did not do that and you didn't got your question in let me tell you you do that you're going to be cursed for seven years because that ain't how the lord play because you go over here touching the anointed listen now don't play now because I seen somebody did a charge bike google showed me I said boy these folks plan with the lord man if we over here doing good work so don't don't mess up your harvest now y'all around here trying to scam the system I'm 25 and I found myself always being pursued either by men who are 10 plus years older or with baby mama drama and or financial issues and then there are guys my age that try to pursue but they are very immature any advice yes your advice for 25 is that you need not be focusing on a man you need not be focusing on a man so get into the career that you love or the job that you love or the brand that you love when you get there continue to build by 28 to 30 you're going to meet your husband but you're still so young that you don't want to 25 year old man because he don't know who he is and then 10 plus older he's going to try to raise you and then the baby mama drama that's gonna make you lose hair so financial issues he want to use you so what this means is let me help y'all understand something y'all hold your question real quick hold your question real quick let me help y'all understand something what this mean is is that you seeing how the numbers breaking down with the men that's out here today and it's a lot of men that's out here that's trash but it's a lot of men that's good men so in in order to get the good man the more you elevate see if you just 25 and you living beneath your purpose and you not in your you not in your zone in your career or your brand then you just 25 so you only you're going to get everything that's coming you getting the trash you getting the lint you getting the dust you getting everything now when you 25 and you author when you 25 and you a business owner you gonna started your LLC when you 25 and you then step into your career or you building your brand you elevating so now the trash men start to fall down and they realize you too good for them now the men who ambitious character integrity they coming up now they walk it up to you a boom saw you on Instagram saw your book that you wrote saw your company you got congratulations amazing I want to ask you are you taking and you say why no I'm single as a dollar bill and then he said oh well I would love to get to know you would you mind if I have your phone number so I can reach out boom you look at his profile on Instagram you see what he doing on his own company taking care his body living right doing right why because you elevated so that's the thing the days of old is gone to where you just could do the bare minimum and get old amazing husband that's gonna love you and provide for you no you got the it's so many trash men out there the day you got to raise your stock so that you so that you attract in the cream or the crop remember cream rise to the top patrol car god bless you Tony I can't seem to get over my ex the breakup was my fault I went back to addicted behaviors and he chose to move on he ended up having a baby with another girl I still love and I think he was right so I can't move on you're gonna need coaching you're gonna need coaching y'all can't put all that heavy stuff on me in this little light Q&A now you're gonna need coaching when you can't move forward you need coaching visit my mentor dot life click on find a coach hire a coach whichever it says go to the T's and you're gonna see me on there Tony you're gonna see them on there you're gonna have you're gonna need more than this little light Q&A now special one stuff specific when y'all have a question that when I answer it could help other people too and it's not just specific to your situation then that's when this that's what this Q&A for but when it's your heart your specific situation scenario that's when you know it's gonna take a little more out you to get past that Veronica God bless you if I suspect progressive health concerns with a new interest is it appropriate to ask how can I ask um yeah you can ask you can ask no question when it come down to your life and your time and your energy no question is off limits no question is off limits now there may be consequences to that question but so what if that means something to you so if you feel like this man suffering if you feel like a death bed coming soon if you feel like he's gonna have something that's gonna cost you a lot of money insurance and medical expenses and all of that then ask that question ask that question Patal car I see your question here now um Patal now to answer a little bit of your question here pop back up for me and you say the breakup was your fault and thank you for your blessing now when it's your fault and you say you went back to addicted behaviors that what that means in order for you to heal on this relationship you got to heal those behaviors so you're gonna have to get the coaching and get the support and get the system in place to heal those behaviors where you can heal those behaviors you then will be able to forgive yourself when you could forgive yourself then you're gonna be able to heal from the relationship but you can't fix your heart unless you fix in you your habits and your behaviors when you fix those habits and behaviors that's when you're gonna be able to heal jeal ivy Blair god bless you god bless you my coworker wants to give me money to order him a self-help book we flirted a few times but stopped after i experienced his grown boy behavior should i order the book no no you should not that's just a tactic he got amazon that man know how to order on amazon he got a job you had to fill out an application and get a job so if you know how to get a job you know how to get your stinking musky grown butt on amazon i can't stand these men these days man the way these guys out here playing these games listen to me and you cut them off you say you stopped flirting after you experienced his grown boy behavior when you really hear grown boy gonna take off because guess what when you're entertaining the grown boy let me tell you what's gonna happen you're gonna walk up the grown boy here you is walking up the grown boy uh yeah so about that self-help book i found a great one you know it's called the new guy code by tony gaskins and i want to get it for you so where's your money while you sitting there talking to a grown boy your husband walking down the aisle to his cubicle he look over see you talking the old trash bucket and then he like up she nasty she off the radar that's what you talking to you talking to him immature grown boy that's what you like just what i thought these women are stuck on the grown boys and can't see a grown man so i'm gone so just like that's why i say when you dealing with situationships i got a video that's called why you should end situationships when you dealing with situationships you blocking your blessings your blessings can't come in your blessing can't come in somebody say elaborate more on pataw question uh i elaborated on that question you might be late or maybe your message coming in late but pataw question is specific because they say she went back to addictive behaviors a lot of women is not dealing with that if you dealing with that anandria then that's two words addictive that's a strong word a lot of women ain't dealing with that and a lot of women not running a man off that's not a mass question a lot of women is not running a man off because i'm i do this every day a lot of women is not running a man off to get who got with another woman and got the woman pregnant now it's a lot of men that then got the woman pregnant but they didn't run them off due to addictive behavior that is a counseling session i'm not a counselor that's a therapy session when anything say addiction that's counseling and therapy after you get through that then you want to get back on the dating scene that's a coaching session okay so now don't be coming over here trying to tell me what i need to answer what i listen this is what i do i know what is mass market and what specific to one person now and i'm trying to answer all these questions debbie god bless you debbie god bless you you asked the question earlier debbie and then you come in and bless me god bless you now see love god bless you god bless you now you see love you came into use some money or something now but you were born like that god bless you see love next year i want to buy a property to rent to build a residual income stream as i transition from corporate work into life coaching i think having residuals along with two years of living expenses is a good start thoughts yes that is right that that is right now but here's the thing on that property you want to get a low-cost property so like you want to go into a neighborhood that's been around for a while and the people there this what a lot of people get wrong when they start trying to invest is they think going into the rich neighborhood when you go into the rich neighborhood you dealing with more education those people know all the real estate laws they know all the tenant laws they're going to dry you crazy they know how long they could squat on your house and not pay rent they're going to take advantage of this type of situation to not pay rent they know how much it costs you to go to eviction court they know all of that but when you go into your neighborhood where you come from like a neighborhood where it's mothers and fathers been there 50 60 years the houses been there the people hard working the rent might just be a thousand dollars but the house only cost 50,000 you know you go into them neighborhoods like that where the houses from 50 to 150,000 the way you got loyal people who they take care of their family they're going to pay their rent and the house already has a tenant in it don't get nothing that you've got to fix all up find something that an investor is trying to get out because and wait till this market crashes market if the house is going to go down another six 12 months it's going to keep on shoot then you go do it but on the flip side listen to me this what you got to think about see love this what all y'all got to think about a lot of y'all don't think about this but my wife helped me think about this my wife helped me think about this can you please give advice on how to ask about health concerns only been talking a month of Veronica as I said in some of my other videos about I just did a video yesterday on how to communicate with a man you just ask them and one thing about women y'all y'all be wanting to know how to talk to a man you just ask them hey you know I'm kind of sensing that you're not doing that well like I you know I sense that your health is kind of going down a little bit like how are you feeling like do you have some health issues that are arising just ask them you don't have to submit an application you don't have to you know go all round about just asking it's a grown man you got to realize his whole life he didn't be being cussed out by coaches and teachers daddy uncle just ask them now let me tell you about this real estate now okay I got a real estate company called tag group investments and this is the thing when you get this real estate for wine you're going commercial real estate you're going to have to put 20 percent down when you put that 20 percent that you put that 20 percent that you put down so if this house is a hundred thousand you putting twenty thousand dollars down understand this this what you could do if you want to be a coach this what I recommend if you want to be a coach what I would do when you do your certification five hundred dollars then if you on my mentor that's two hundred dollars for the whole year that's seven hundred dollars you do your business card that's a hundred dollars you get your logo made on fiverr.com that's twenty dollars so now you add seven hundred and fifty seven hundred let's say eight hundred dollars then with that after that eight hundred dollars you take and you start your instagram page you post it every day you post the post with your quote then you boost the you boost the quote for three dollars a day for ninety for ninety dollars you boost the whole month you're reaching hundreds or thousands of people for ninety dollars by the time you spend twenty thousand dollars in boosting your quotes and in marketing yourself by the time you spend twenty thousand you will have made two hundred thousand so that's why I got out of real estate because I realized I could take and promote me and write books boost my posts for less money and then have a one thousand percent return instead of having this house that you got to be worried about evicting people you got to fix the ac you got to fix the roof you got to worry about getting new tenants in you're doing all of that when if you just would have put that money in you so before you do anything do a coaching session see love and and weigh your options and then you put both of them down and you weigh the pros and the cons and see which way you're gonna go but this is what I've learned this is what I've learned like what I earned last month just off investing in me it took me 10 20 years to earn that off my real estate properties or what I earned in one month invested in me so I I'll show you that what I mean let me see 340 real estate talking to a guy for nine months but only texting we work together but there is no movement do you have any advice God bless you God bless you God bless you 340 real estate so you've been talking to him nine months all y'all do is text it's time to leave it's time to leave one thing I said when I was listening to Steve Harvey show sometimes people call in and they make the people feel stupid they make they crack jokes about the people question and I say I don't I don't want to do that I don't ever want to make nobody feel bad about their question but that right there you got to leave anytime a text relationship it's not real a text relationship is never real two anytime you go past three months if a man has not ask you to be exclusive with him to be his woman he's not serious understand that right there okay understand that Elphonia Blackman God bless you God bless you for that blessing so y'all understand that now what y'all gonna have to do Jill is a prenup necessary in a healthy marriage well if you already in a healthy marriage without a prenup then you definitely don't need to go get a prenup if it's before the marriage that's why it's pre pre pre nuptials that's before the marriage now so if you get one before the marriage now I've seen that ruin a lot of marriages because when money get involved hey my life is an hour and a half y'all so I had to do an hour and a half the website to do your logo Fiverr F-I-V-E-R-R so like the number five with two Rs at the end just type in logo you'll see a bunch of people come up choose somebody with five stars pay $20 get your logo made still paying $250 market rate for a logo is $250 $250 the $750 you go on Fiverr get that same quality logo for $20 just bought a copy of what daddy never told God bless you can I let my 15 year old daughter read it if not what age is appropriate also any discount for the life code certification yes you can let your 15 year old daughter read it if you read it and you feel like it's okay for her that's your choice as a mother if you don't if you feel it's too real then don't let her read it but but it's a lot of these out here on a bike by the age of 15 so I don't believe it's too early in the world we live in today by 12 years old we talking about the birds and bees by 12 because the e-chairment out here today is fast okay life code certification it's on tonigasinsacademy.com now they ain't gonna last for long now this is what I'm trying to get y'all the coupon code is my mentor just like this just this first part though not dot like just my mentor now the way y'all do this I'm gonna tell y'all again you go on the site you go to the page you click on the page of the life code certification when you click purchase or buy now it's gonna if your card already on file it's gonna charge your card so before you click purchase look right above it'll say have a coupon if it don't say have a coupon then you click the purchase button then it'll take you to that next page the way you got to click purchase look for the thing say have a coupon just look for that link it'll be above the purchase button if it's not above it then you gotta click it and take you to the next page have a coupon put the coupon my mentor when you put that in there you'll see the price change and I told y'all I'm gonna change the the the price on the birth your book course I'm gonna do it right now while I'm on this hit lie because if I get off here I'm gonna forget and I'm just gonna put this up here let me see this way you ain't got to use no code don't use no code on this here birth your book now what I'm gonna do because I y'all like to get slick people like to get slick people like to use a I give a discount like this 50% off then people go get the user 10 or 20% code on top of the discount out of game I say but I made a course five dollars I made a course five dollars you know those people using the 20% off coupon code on the five dollar course that I made five dollars and it was a 50 dollar course I made it five dollars and they still hit me with a 20 I say boy you ain't gonna succeed in life like that you're trying to get over you're trying to I say my goodness y'all give them a second now because I got to not have made the birth your book 50% off so now I got to go change my coupon remember I got the coupon code for y'all that's called healthy and it's 20% off now I got to edit it I got to edit it because people will be taking 20% off on top of that all right that's done hey god bless you god bless you they don't need no dollar off no five dollars that right there that's scarcity minded now one thing my wife taught me that's another thing she taught me but once she taught me about that real estate she said man get out that real estate invest in yourself because she said when you invest in yourself your returns is a thousand to ten thousand percent you busting your butt to make a little bit of money in that real estate and you don't control the market any day it go up it go down she's saying invest in you I I got a real estate investment company I had to get on I invested in me but one thing she taught me is about scarcity minded versus abundant minded and when I stopped being scarcity minded when I stopped being cheap when I stopped being so nitpicky when I started investing what I need to invest that's when my life blew up when I started giving I give 10% of my gross I don't give 10% of my net I give 10% of my gross to people in need they all saw me when I came on here and I said hey the first 50 people send me your cash out them 50 people it wasn't a whole lot but I sent them 20 dollars that was a thousand dollars and in these times that's a lot of money to give away but I believe in doing stuff like that because I say this right here we'll get somebody some bread some tissue and a pack of meat and so when when you think abundantly it come back tenfold L. White R. N. God bless your question I'm 27 my daughter is two grown boy toxic dad is 38 so 11 years old he has an 18 year old daughter and a one year old on the way he only wants to get my child when he in a temporary relationship for sure I'm uncomfortable with him having her tips don't let him have don't let him use your child as a as a prop to make the woman think he a good daddy don't let him go to the court to get to get the child let him go to the courthouse go to courthouse get your letter get your judgment and I'm gonna be standing in court if I'm you I'm in the court your honor I know he deserve every right to see a child but he let her down so much he never shows up only time he shows up is when he's in a new relationship and I don't feel like that's healthy because it's breaking a heart every other time but he shows up in a new relationship trying to show face for the new relationship and he has my daughter around this new random strange woman me being her mother I don't feel comfortable with that so what I'm asking is that he has supervised visitation meaning that he can come over and spend as long as he want to spend with her but it's under supervision so that my child is not with strange women judge may deny but that's what you said that's what you stated you stepped on his toes now he butt hurt now you know his game is exposed now he get a conviction in his spirit you pray that the law convict his spirit and work on his spirit and you keep praying that he feel that feel that feel that and then hopefully some change will come but anytime you need to protect yours that's when you got to let them go to the courthouse can I hope it I'm a spiritual life coach pastor and work full time what are some ways to grow my life coaching business and get paid for other types of purpose work I want to make a living from purpose work alone um if you're a life coach then make sure you're on my mentor got life the other way is you got to find your voice online so if you do videos if you do posts if you're a writer I'm a writer so I started out on Twitter writing and that built me to over 100,000 followers on Twitter now it's over 300,000 at around 150,000 I added Facebook and I went from 30,000 on Facebook because I got my Twitter people to like my page and that 30,000 went to a million in 12 months and then from that I went to Instagram so you take your gift and you use it in the different free marketplaces so you show up and you do life coaching videos or you do life coaching posts on your favorite social media outlet and when you giving and you showing now people get to choose you for your style and for who you are and then when you have your audience then your audience will be your supporters they'll be the ones who buy your books so write your books I write a book a year write your books do your courses whatever you teach on put it into a course because some people want to make that investment in themselves that they could sit with that video every day and go through it several times so it's a strategy to it now you you know the way you build outlaw god bless you my grandparents have been married for years she's done having because it's not a loving marriage and he really can't perform he is frustrated okay outlaw um god bless you uh is it a question okay uh your grandpa and ma'am are you okay and he frustrated okay um yeah outlaw uh I don't know if you're asking me about that or you want to help them um you know that is a sign though that's why I be trying to help y'all understand when y'all want to you know date those men that's 20 years older than you his motor might start to run out before your motor run out and if she doesn't stop doing that that's another sign for y'all who those are you who you want to you with you with somebody and you ain't got love don't lose yourself just to say I've been married 50 years don't lose yourself just to say I've been married 20 years if you're not happy and the relationship is not productive and it's not real love then you got to let the relationship go Lenora should we do the authorpreneur course before we start the birth your book course I already have a beauty business but I'm wondering if I need a different brand to sell books you can sell books through your beauty business I got clients who in the beauty business who have written a book and then sell it to that same audience because they want to know your behind the scenes story how you built your beauty business you know they want to know how you got into that they want to know your business principles you know so they want to know those things the authorpreneur course is is if you want the other courses that come with that so in the authorpreneur course it's other courses so y'all forgive my computer coming on so like if you want to write a book and you want to understand social media and you want to understand entrepreneurship with purpose I think those are the courses that's in the authorpreneur course if you don't need the other courses just do the birth your book course my boyfriend told me his son's mother wants my boyfriend told me his son's mother wants him loves him always he told her he loves her but not in love with her should I be worried what is the difference between in love and I love you the difference between it is he got love for her but he with you so if he was in love with her he wouldn't be with you now the thing about it is the fact that he has love for her she could get touched the fact that she love him and she want him she read him well so and she read him well and for whatever wham-bam thank you man five minutes you pop in to get the kid let's hop in the room for two minutes boom get you this before you go back to your girl and remember who gave it to you remember what I'm about so when a man telling you all that that's a red flag because he kind of he kind of letting you know what you're getting into he kind of letting you know listen you come into you coming into a whole situation now well I got a lot of pull I got a lot of play over there now I still own that over there so you hike up I'm in that so he letting you know and he talking too much because if he had nothing for her and he wasn't interested in touching her then he will just pretend like it's a non-factor like she don't even really exist like this is strictly business by the child and all this how she feel and what he told her that's a red flag he's trying to let you know something Tony what makes a man leave his wife and child for another woman that he has moved in with and say he doesn't love the other woman this is a plague that has to stop help please uh there ain't nothing but the devil work but what you got to understand is that a man leaves his wife and a child because he started doing the things that you do to get into a relationship before he had real love before he knew what real love was so for this it's about him it's about his selfishness like he's not even worried about the wife and the child because he's being selfish and he wants what he wants so that's what you have to realize it's something to where it's really not even him like he don't even know what he's doing he doesn't honestly even mean anything by it it's just that he's so lost broken hurting and confused he didn't see real love growing up he didn't see nothing that would show him how to be a real man and that's all that is and and it truthfully honestly means he may not actually love her but he that's why he's just going from woman to woman because he needs different band-aids this band-aid right here old is it got the little stuff around your skin the little sticky stuff that came from up under the band-aid now it's on your skin and it's old and now it's soggy because you didn't been taking showers in so now you need to take this band-aid off you need your new band-aid so you was his band-aid and you went you got old now he need a new band-aid ex tried to pursue me again went goes for a few days and post a pic with another ex with a heart says he loves us both but he thinks about me daily i cut him off did the right thing question mark both 24 year old okay he under the age of reality for a man so he's still a child he don't know what he's doing and you did the right thing by cutting them off and you got to cut them off completely you can't let them come back you see he tried to pursue you again ain't no person when he come to pursue you he talked to miss dial tone the number you have reached has been disconnected that's who he need to talk to and you let him go on by this business and don't let him come back because he gonna just keep dragging you dragging you dragging before you know he gonna pop in one of them days and you're gonna be in your special 24 hours of the month that you could see and he gonna put that at the end and then you're gonna have that and have to birth it and carry it and take care of it when he going on to the next woman so don't play with it if a man want to leave let him leave close the whole door and change the locks tony is it okay to ask a man to show you proof of his std status after dating for some time yeah that's okay that's okay if he ain't got nothing y'all go to the doctor get tested together a lot of men won't go that far though so if that's your question of what you want to ask you're gonna hear a lot of you're gonna see a lot of doors slam in your face just because with them testing now to what i've been understood now is them test the way they test you for that at 19 where they stick that q-tip all the way up there no when i seen that and how they do that i said new i got to let it take me for i go get that done and that's how a lot of men bought their tests because they take that q-tip to my knowledge of what i heard they take that q-tip and this the man and they stick that q-tip in there and wiggle it around just get all in there and get something out of that is what i heard now a lot of men ain't gonna go through that so if he's saying he ain't got nothing and he feel like he believed he ain't got nothing and you telling him to go get that done most men gonna leave you so to be honest with you it's okay to ask him now but please believe you're gonna have to go through some knows before you get to your yes if i register for class now can i take it at a later date will the system allow it yes once you sign up for the class you take whenever you want to is lifetime access it's self it's self-paced self-directed so it doesn't expire so yeah you can take it whenever l white rn thank you i really appreciate your obedience to our lord jesus christ i heal daily watching these videos hey god bless you i appreciate those who appreciate got a lot of haters out here but just to have some appreciation it really means a lot what does it mean when a man says you're too hard on me or you pay too much attention that's a compliment but but you need to make sure that that's the truth so when he say that you need to pay even closer attention because he could be saying that to make you chill you know to make you drop your guard so that's when you need to pay even closer attention but what it means is if he being honest it means you're a real one mean he can't get over on you but play pay closer attention stacy my daughter's grandmother keeps harassing me to get back with her son after years why because it's a mother's love she don't care about you and your heart she don't care about what you going through she don't care about how trash her son is how sorry he is she won't her baby to have what he won't in life because that's what she do she keep one in his mouth he's still got similar around his mouth so if you're going to be the disposable woman the bandaid the test dummy she don't care about you and your mama and what your mama want for you she just caring about what she want for her son and that's a flow mat so if you ain't with them it's obviously for a reason because you need something better um 48 and my 34 year old boyfriend left mad six weeks ago together three years Jennifer that's too young that's your son okay that's your son it's women that they have sons by 14 some um it's I know some women had two sons by 14 so for one you as 48 you are not in his belt that's a part of a man's that's one of the notches see men who grown boys they get notches different races is a notch different age groups different generations is a notch different heights different income levels different jobs all of those is notches different eye color different booty shape different breast shape different body shape all of those is notches 34 to get a woman that's 14 years older than him to take him serious that's a notch in his belt he done got the notch so he caught the attitude six weeks ago the lead because he didn't got his notch he didn't he didn't did what he came to do is it wrong to stop communicating with my parents and family who cause emotional pain and who are immature no it's not wrong it's not wrong because you got blood because you shall blood that don't mean that that's a sentence you know that you got to stay with that you know family ain't blood family who treats you right so absolutely cut them all it might not be forever it might be a fall season for them to get the message but i didn't had to do that for a season and some people you know friends or family i have to cut off for good my baby daddy oldest daughter hey y'all i got 10 more minutes now got 10 more minutes my baby daddy oldest daughter 12 years sent me a disrespectful DM about seeing her bro said i'm damaging her he and i aren't on good terms because he chose to be a deadbeat with our son what to do well she 12 okay for one you don't know if she wrote it he could have wrote it and he running her name in the dirt by writing you from her account he could have wrote that and if she wrote it he put her up to it oh 12 yo don't care nothing about that 12 yo don't care nothing about that she she she she happened to be her daddy only child because she'd get all the gifts she'd get all the tension she'd get all the time she didn't worry about that since seeing um seeing her half brother she she ain't a bit more worried about that so he had to put her up to that or he got on her account because a lot of parents run or monitor they 12 yo's account my son don't even have access to his instagram account my wife run that so that's what i say on that doesn't know shabelle i'm a mental health therapist how did you know it was the right time to leave i've worked for unethical places i've had to leave advocate for clients um i i didn't leave because of what was going on when i was a you know group home counselor i mean i left just because i wanted my own you know if you're working for a company as mental health therapist the company charging ninety dollars a hundred dollars but you're getting thirty dollars to sixty dollars you could take and get a credit card and create your um brand get your website for a hundred and fifty dollars or for free build it yourself and then get on your facebook start your facebook business page start posting tips every day boost your posts post your services boost your services and for a hundred dollars a month you could be earning three thousand dollars a month in in coaching clients or in therapy clients that's coming to your office if you want to do therapy if you're a mental health therapist you could easily be a coach you don't need to take a life coach certification because you already know how to run a session so you sign up on my mentor dot life put you'll put that you a mental health therapist in addition to a life coach that's going to be another selling point you're going to get even more clients you're going to get even more clients so that's what i say i'm focusing on brain brand and body love will come amen what are some good guidelines for long distance dating i think i got a video on that i don't know but go to my videos and or search long distance relationships tony gaskin search that in um in the search bar long distance relationship tony gaskin it's it's hard to make those work now i want to build two more streams of income this year and would like your input on what direction to take do you mind take talking on different streams of incomes again thanks in advance now if you watch my video that whole hour ought to be enough now if that hour ain't enough you need a one-on-one session i did a whole video now i think of last week on streams of income but what you have to understand what streams of income is basically just putting your gif in different markets so youtube is a stream of income one-on-one coaching is a stream of income courses is a stream of income books is a stream of income online recordings on iTunes is a stream of income so that's what you got to understand what streams of income is just really if you do real estate that one house is a stream of income two houses is two streams of income three houses then a real estate course teaching people how to invest in real estate that's a stream of income a real estate book that's a stream of income so whatever you do it can be packaged and put in different arenas he said he couldn't figure me out what does he really mean it just mean he can't beat you it mean he can't get over on you it mean that he feels inadequate because he can't play the games he want to play and get you what he want to get you so that's a compliment so glad to catch the live chat before work wow you still got to work god bless you tony march one year divorce virtual coaching with tony and reading my bible what a difference god bless you martina for doing your coaching with me why do you block women for no reason what is that all about that's a question uh i don't know are you talking to me or are you talking to somebody else but i don't block if you're talking to me oh you say oh okay it won't say you why do men block i miss that i'm trying to be smart read fast i'm like no oh you're here throwing accusations you gotta get blocked but i'm glad i read that right why do men block women for no reason what is that all about that that is uh for one it's a reason a man ain't blocking for no reason so he he blocking you because he does not want to trigger his soul time every time he sees you it triggers the soul time that's why he blocking you and then two he blocking because he don't want no interaction with you another reason why he blocking you is because you could do that in front of your new woman see this right here is who i used to talk to but you know what i'm finna block her because she you know she be chasing me and stuff like i know i'm a good man and all that but you got to be a good woman to be on my level so i'm finna block her right now i'm glad i'm even talking about this with you hey i appreciate you because you so confident i'm blocking her right now that's what he doing he also get cloud off that so now she get to see wow okay and women y'all so i'll be trying to get y'all to game and y'all still be like a tortoise out here in the game and y'all oh girl he girl he blocked her right in front of me oh you know this the one oh my good and when he blocked her right in front of you you know it's real then girl oh i just had to tell somebody but yeah i ain't want nothing else all right girl we'll talk and that's how y'all be and it's like you don't know this game so that's why guys do that stuff god do that stuff for the old type of reason question is it safe to say to him you're a grown boy and i need you to step up and work on yourself towards a grown man if he's willing before we get back together now grown boy that's the term i made up it's going around it's going around it's all on the blogs you see it in the comment that's my term anybody say that before i said that men don't like me men don't like my message on average so when you say that that's a cuss word so instead of calling a name that's calling a name instead of saying that say listen i really need you to continue growing and continue getting better as a man and understanding what it takes to be in a relationship and what's needed in a relationship say something like that because when you say you're a grown boy that's a cuss word hey y'all got two minutes 15 seconds now i got to go i'm only get a couple more of these is it okay to cut your dad off for the rest of your life if he's toxic and calls you disrespectful when you hold him accountable if you could live like that it's okay if if you could live like that but see that's what you got to understand when you think about a decision like that you got to ask yourself if the lord call him home tomorrow if you cut him off today and he got called home to meet the lord tomorrow how would you feel how would you feel and if it's i feel terrible i will hate that i did that instead of just being the bigger person and understanding he got a lot of pain got a lot of issues that he didn't live through and that he could be a whole lot worse off than what he is and i should just deal with him you know from a distance love him from a distance and not take everything he says to heart just to be in his life because i could be his only form of peace and truly he really loves me but don't know how to express it because he was raised so cold he don't know how to be warm so see sometimes it's taking seeking to understand then be understood instead of taking it so personal i love your quote broke busted and disgusted is my favorite quote of yours tawny um that front that's from the hood you know that's from where i grew up that's what they used to say growing up on you know somebody made that up on a grandma somebody grandma in the south made that up they used to say broke busted and disgusted and tore up from the floor if you stood your ground to guys who are asking for inappropriate things does that attract them more yes it does it lets them know that you're different because there's so many women a man say similar send this to me in u d and he and here she go in the bathroom taking all these nasty pictures and then she sent them so he's so used to getting that so when he meet a woman that he say do that and she don't do it he like oh okay the woman different now you elevate hey god bless y'all i might get back on here later i ain't decided what a dog out there doesn't holler dog scared me all right hold on now god blessing now let me cut off these comments because y'all don't send no more don't send no more comments okay don't send no more um question don't send no more other other blessings i appreciate the blessing now but i got to go now i need to take my little break my eyes hurt me stephanie the last one now stephanie the last one if y'all see another one that just a donation ain't got time now stephanie i'm 28 established boyfriend is 26 and not he has a plus character together for together four months he has his own apartment but recently lost his car he hasn't got another because credit and insurance cost from accidents two years ago he just got a great paying job but got furlough stay y'all stay y'all stay nothing in there you said has to do with the way he treats you badly so and he's only two years younger than you three years will be the max really three to five years is the max you can go down okay a plus character y'all only been together four months you also did not say he asked you for a loan now if he asked you for a loan you ain't gonna be able to do it you ain't gonna be able to do it ain't no telling a listen i am scott gotta pay they loan sba unemployment given six to eight hundred dollars a week here go to unemployment here go to unemployment link so would you bring his value you find an unemployment line send that unemployment line let him get on the internet and get on that link and fill out that application don't loan him no money don't let him move in with you because he furlough so he just lost that car okay his credit and insurance cost from accidents two years ago that mean he that mean he either came dry or somebody hit him or he was driving and texting so when that credit dropped the max it is causal but I'm asking the same tap is credit so that a plus character might be a or a minus because you got that bad credit now I'd have been there with him I might still be there with him because I don't pay too much to no credit because I buy what I need to buy but the next thing to go because he furlough the next thing to go is his apartment hopefully they give him the three months off if they don't give them three months off he gonna need a place to stay listen he'll play boy you got to stay with your mama if your mama is going to meet the Lord you got to stay with your home boy so the worst thing you could do Stephanie at 28 and establish is end up letting the man live off of you now he need if he furlough then okay go work at the hospital because they still working every day so they you could be one the one that pushed the bed they need somebody to push the bed okay from one room to another one go work in amazon they hiring a hundred thousand go work at the grocery store they need staff so don't sit at the house on my two furlough go get your job so if he really got character he finna either start making money online or he about to go get a job now I told y'all don't sit no more blessing now no more question but this ain't no question key to God bless you God bless I was talking to you other night I'll talk about key to the other night I say well this is on the hill God bless poor out in our life Lord Lord hear me if you hear me Lord poor out in our life Lashon God bless you thank you be blessed God bless you hey thank y'all so much I might pop back on here at 7 p.m eastern time um after I get my little relaxation in on sat is I got the I have a little more time than normal because it's a little different around the house for me so my wife be focused doing her stuff so it give me a little bit more time to work but God bless y'all I appreciate it we'll talk soon


ategic transport projects, review projects and do them as quickly as possible, because they're there for a reason, supported for a reason, and it will deliver further sustainable economic growth. The big ask of the convener, Jim Eadie, and all members to me and Government, is will I produce a new revitalised, energised policy? Yes, I will, as part of the national transport strategy, which should be complete by Christmas. However, here's a further commitment. This is decision-making in real time. If that looks too big, too comprehensive to dominate the national transport strategy, I'll separate it from it to have a separate document, but my ambition would be to have it as part of the national transport strategy. That will capture the Government's economic strategy, the national planning framework 3, the position on Scottish planning policy and our marine plan, because I think that it is very important to align all of our economic and investment strategies together to make the recommendations in the report happen. You will have your new, rejuvenated policy, but it will capture, as I said to Jane Baxter, many of the interventions that the Government is already making. I don't wait for a new policy to be written to be able to intervene to deliver the kind of infrastructure investment that will realise sustainable economic growth. The Recythe Zeebrigger example is a good one, in which we have sustained waterborne freight through support and intervention in the private sector and, of course, leadership as well. Aberdeen Harbour and Niggs are another good example of private sector-led development, with multi-million-pound development potentially going forward. I think that there is much to be positive about and more to do to support our economy and the transport of goods indeed as well. As people can say, I was very involved in freight in relation to the national planning framework 3 and the national designations there. There is an action plan around supporting freight and supporting infrastructure enhancement. There is a question around the port models. We have mixed models, and we have other potentials for deep water ports as well, such as Hunterston or ScapaFlo. There is a plan, and there is a range of plans that we can bring together to give that leadership that people seek. On some of the other issues of substance investment, we are very much delivered an agenda and a mantra of on-time and on-budget, even under-budget in some respects, if you take the Queensferry crossing. However, I have been disappointed sometimes by the failure to spend some grant support—for example, the freight facilities grant—and sometimes it is because of the complexity of the case or private sector competition with each other, or the failure to meet the critical mass, so collaboration, partnership working and greater involvement. I am happy to play the role as honest broker, of course. I take that point, and I think that that was well explored in the committee report. However, having identified that money, it would be a huge missed opportunity not to find ways to help to get that innovation in the freight industry that we all want. I want to make sure that the funds are streamlined as possible and can reach their objective. The reassurance that I give you is that, where we were not able to spend it on freight facilities grant and ensured that it stayed within as best I could, the future transport fund was actually spent on other objectives within future transport. You would welcome such a sustainable travel, but the good news is that it is coming. We are on the precipice of not just big announcements in terms of private sector port infrastructure spend, but I can also say very carefully that we are actively considering a line freight facilities grant application from a well-known Scottish company. We hope to make an announcement soon. The reason I cannot reveal the details yet is that it will be subject to planning conditions and so on, but it will be a big announcement. I think that we will show a very helpful step forward in terms of freight facilities grant, which will continue to remain under review. Mike McKenzie will be very helpful points around infrastructure. A number of members have talked about speed limits for road haulage as well. That is a very sensitive matter. On the A9, for example, it was the package of measures, including the average speed cameras that allowed us to increase the speed limit from 40 to 50 for HGVs. I would only be looking at doing it elsewhere if there was an appropriate package of measures that made it safe. Members will know that south of the border, the Department for Transport has wholesale increased on a blanket way speed limits from 40 to 50mph. The reason I am not attracted to that proposition is because they estimate that there will be more totalities and casualties as a result. That is not a gamble that I am willing to take with Scottish lives in a Scottish context, but I will, of course, learn the lessons from what happened south of the border and look very closely at our findings on the A9. Here again, the plea for Lawrence Kirk has established a team to try to take that forward by way of funding commitment as a further intervention as well. Between the report of committee 2, the investment plan, the constant review and the energy that we continue to put into infrastructure investment, and I hope that we can support freight in Scotland across the modes, delivering modal shift to deliver our objective of sustainable economic growth. I now call on Jim Eadie to wind up the debate on behalf of the committee. Before I try and summarise the debate, I thank again my fellow committee members, our expert adviser and, of course, the clerking team, who's work on this inquiry was so invaluable. It was a true example of MSPs leaving any political baggage at the door of the committee and properly reflecting on the evidence that we received as a committee. This report and debate has also demonstrated that, if Scotland makes the right choices, and we encourage collaborative working in taking those choices forward, despite our geographical position at the northern tip of Europe, a successful freight transport sector can be at the heart of our economy while also playing a significant role in helping to meet our environmental targets. Those are themes that ran throughout the contributions in this afternoon's debate. The minister reiterated the Government's commitment to identifying strategic freight routes within its wider approach to transport infrastructure. I was glad that he acknowledged the committee's call to accelerate projects already identified in the strategic transport projects review. He talked about the importance of continuing to make significant investment in transport infrastructure, including investment in the rail and road networks, and in projects that can bring about the modal shift that all of us wish to see, which can improve transport links within Scotland and ensure connectivity with international transport routes. I very much look forward to the minister putting his money where his mouth is to use his own words from this afternoon. He also reminded us of the importance of the freight and logistics advisory group, Scott Flag, in ensuring that the Government engages with the sector and that there is the necessary leadership and strategic direction in taking forward those issues. That was also a very welcome contribution from him this afternoon. Many of those issues can also be taken forward through the strategic rail investment fund, which will be another opportunity for the minister to put his money where his mouth is. Sarah Boyack spoke of the challenges and the need for innovation and investment, which will be necessary in overcoming them. She rightly placed an emphasis on the role of a freight transport policy and strategy in bringing about the transition to a carbon-free economy. That is particularly important as we look at bringing about the modal shift from moving freight on road to moving it on the rail network. She also talked about the interrelationship of the national planning framework with our freight strategy. That was a point that was also well made this afternoon. Alex Johnson, for the first time in this chamber, I agreed with every word of Alex Johnson's contribution. I look forward to that being something that is repeated in future debates, but perhaps I should not hold my breath, Presiding Officer. He talked about Cairnryan and the importance that it has in terms of having appropriate links along the A75 and A77 given its importance in facilitating trade with Northern Ireland. He also talked about the challenges of getting goods on to the key side, the challenges of passing loops and of being able to free up capacity if we are to run longer trains and increase capacity in moving freight along those routes. Mike Mackenzie shared with us his experience on the committee's trip to fell-shopping in Sweden and the fact that the rail freight facility had been funded by a Swedish local authority. Perhaps that provided an exemplar of good practice for local authorities closer to home to follow. He used a plumbing and heating diagram analogy, which I have to confess that I did not fully understand, despite being the son of a plumber, but perhaps that is more of a reflection on me than it is on Mike Mackenzie. However, he made a very important point in terms of getting goods to market, and that was about the need for greater co-operation between operators and the role of the Scottish Government as an honest broker in facilitating and bringing about that co-operation in what is a competitive market. James Dornan, in a contribution that was perhaps not unsurprising, reminded us of the good practice that took place during the Commonwealth Games in terms of barriers to urban freight, and the fact that the nighttime deliveries during the Commonwealth Games did not actually produce the complaints that might have been expected as a result of that. He also talked about the contribution that consolidation centres could bring about in reducing road use. Another point that was very well made during the debate, Jane Baxter, reminded us of the importance of the recith to Zee Brugge service, and of the importance of that, not just in terms of passenger numbers but in terms of freight as well. Nigel Don, not for the first time, mentioned the Lawrence Kirk junction, and I think he received some of the reassurance that he was seeking from the minister in his summing up. Mary Fee reminded us of the air freight sector, which was perhaps an area in which we had received less evidence from stakeholders than we would have wished, but is an important issue nonetheless. She also talked about the need for investment at the freight-liner terminal in Sunnycote bridge, which was also a visit that the committee undertook during its inquiry. In bringing my remarks to a close, I would like to highlight the fact that the committee has gone to some length to highlight the importance of freight transport in Scotland and the role that the Scottish Government, local authorities, transport operators and other stakeholders in the sector and users can all play in supporting and facilitating innovation, growth, efficiency and sustainable operations in the sector. That is a theme that runs throughout the contributions that we have had from across the chamber this afternoon, just as it ran as a theme throughout the evidence that we received as a committee during our evidence sessions and the numerous visits that we undertook as a committee. All of that has informed our work, all of that is reflected in the report that the committee has brought forward, and it is also something that has been addressed in the Government's own response to the committee's inquiry report. The committee, and I hope any successor committee, will continue to closely scrutinise this work. The aim must be to continue to identify, to understand and to overcome the challenges facing the freight transport industry in Scotland, to ensure that we do overcome the barriers to moving goods across rail, road, air and sea, and that we ensure that Scottish businesses have the high-quality links by all modes of transport within Scotland to and from the rest of the United Kingdom and connecting with the rest of the world. As Scotland has always done, as Scotland will continue to do, and as I think this report has been very invaluable in pointing the way forward, both for the Government and for the sector. Mr Reidy, thank you for the valiant effort in taking us to five o'clock. That concludes the debate on the freight transport in Scotland. We now move to the next side of business, which is decision time. There are two questions to be put as a result of today's business. The first question is at motion number 14190, in the name of Murdo Fraser, on internationalising Scottish business to be agreed to. Are we all agreed? Yes. The motion is therefore agreed to. The next question is at motion number 14193, in the name of Tim Meadie. On freight transport in Scotland to be agreed to. Are we all agreed? Yes. The motion is therefore agreed to. That concludes decision time, and I now close this meeting.