Hey! Hey there guys! It's me, Doge, and back again with another reaction video and today we're going to be doing free videos and I'm pretty excited. So the first one is the Stray Kids' Cute and Funny Moments reaction to their episode number seven and then we're going to also be doing an MXM reaction video later. And then we're also going to be doing an Astro reaction and I have not actually listened to Astro that much. So it's going to be basically a first time reacting to them because I've never... I don't even know any of their songs. Oh, cool. Sexy. Something. I don't know. But anyways, right here right now we're here to drink some Poo-Poo Whee chocolate milk so you know... No, I'm just kidding. We're doing a Stray Kids' reaction and I am excited for this because Stray Kids is absolutely amazing and their freaking performance video for Girl. Oh, that was good. And I am not excited to see episode seven. But yeah, other than that, let's get straight into this. I'm freaking excited. I hope you guys are too. And let's do this. Okay, I won't do that again. Sorry, I had to do it again. God damn. I love this song so much. So much. And by the way, I got the mixtape. The day it came out because it's so good. Oh, Mr. Nervous. That makes my bias. And it's also my enemy because New Zealand, Australia. New Zealand's better. I'm learning Korean. Oh, don't worry. I do the same. I just go... And I can't do something that well with my brain overload. I like those socks. What kind of socks do I have? Oh, wait, I thought they were yellow. They're striped socks. They got a bit of yellow on them. This performance is good. Bang it up. So good. There's only my second time seeing them. Holy moly. He's two years younger. I thought he was older than me. I'm 19. I thought he was like 20. Yo, Felix. I'm older than you, boy. Yeah. Who has a bit of this? This was a good performance. Oh, I can't push up. Maybe because I'm doing it in the air. I don't know how to do it in the air. Excuse me, cheer. We'll see what time I hear this. They're supposed to say, hey, that does look pretty. It looks so good. I love this so much. I like JYP's fashion. I think a lot of people just like his fashion, but I like it. You know, turtlenecks. I think turtlenecks. Goes to Graham. Toothpaste. Toothpaste? Toothpaste. Toothpaste. Toothpaste. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So good. We are. We are this, baby. We are. We are this, baby. I forgot about the change of atmosphere. The cheers are back. Toothpaste. Being the Luminati. I had the Luminati. Look at this triangle. That is a square. How do you make a triangle? Look at that triangle. You can do it, my boy. You can do it. Ah, so good that song. His voice is good in that album. All their voices is good in that album. I am Logan. That's all I have to say. I'm Logan. Yeah, that was good. That was nice to remember that stuff and oh man, Felix of the Toothpaste. It was so good. It deserves a sip of chocolate milk. But yeah, I just freaking enjoyed that so much. It was so good. I legit just love this show to pieces and it's cool seeing the cute and funny moments again because it just makes me happy, man. It just makes me happy. But yeah, other than that, there's supposed to be all this video to be guys, dip, and do you guys think they're going to show some support by leaving a like and also comment down below your favorite Stray Kids song from the mixtape. That's actually too hard. I'm sorry that I gave you guys this challenge. That is actually way too hard. And also subscribe for guys that are new to the channel because there will be more Stray Kids reactions coming to you guys in the mixtape. So stay tuned for that. And I hope you guys have a great day and just keep on smiling and adios amigos.


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We continue today with Chapter 31, Walking with Christ. An ancient lesson is not overcome by the opposing of the new and old. It is not vanquished that the truth be known, nor fought against to lose to truth's appeal. There is no battle that must be prepared, no time to be expended, and no plans that need be laid for bringing in the new. There is an ancient battle being waged against the truth, but truth does not respond. Who could be hurt in such a war, unless he hurts himself? He has no enemy in truth. And can he be assailed by dreams? Let us review again what seems to stand between you and the truth of what you are, for there are steps in its relinquishment. The first is a decision that you make, but afterwards the truth is given you. You would establish truth, and by your wish you set two choices to be made, each time you think you must decide on anything. Neither is true, nor are they different. Yet must we see them both before you can look past them to the one alternative that is a different choice, but not in dreams you made, that this might be obscured to you. What you would choose between is not a choice and gives but the illusion it is free, for it will have one outcome either way. Thus is it really not a choice at all. The leader and the follower emerge as separate roles, each seeming to possess advantages you would not want to lose. So in their fusion there appears to be the hope of satisfaction and of peace. You see yourself divided into both these roles, forever split between the two, and every friend or enemy becomes a means to help you save yourself from this. Perhaps you call it love, perhaps you think that it is murder justified at last. You hate the one you gave the leader's role when you would have it, and you hate as well his not assuming it at times you want to let the follower in you arise and give away the role of leadership. And this is what you made your brother for, and learn to think that this his purpose is. Unless he serves it, he has not fulfilled the function that was given him by you, and thus he merits death because he has no purpose and no usefulness to you. And what of him? What does he want of you? What could he want but what you want of him? Herein is life as easily as death for what you choose, you choose as well for him. Two calls you make to him as he to you between these two is choice because from them there is a different outcome. If he be the leader or the follower to you it matters not for you have chosen death, but if he calls for death or calls for life for hate or for forgiveness and for help is not the same in outcome. Here the one and you are separate from him and are lost, but here the other and you join with him and in your answer is salvation found. The voice you hear in him is but your own. What does he ask before? And listen well, for he is asking what will come to you because you see an image of yourself and hear your voice requesting what you want. Before you answer, pause to think of this. The answer that I give my brother is what I am asking for and what I learn of him is what I learn about myself. Then let us wait an instant and be still for getting everything we thought we heard, remembering how much we do not know. This brother neither leads nor follows us but walks beside us on the self-same road. He is like us as near or far away from what we want as we will let him be. We make no gains he does not make with us and we fall back if he does not advance. Take not his hand in anger but in love for in his progress do you count your own and we go separately along the way unless you keep him safely by your side. Because he is your equal in God's love you will be saved from all appearances and answer to the Christ who calls to you. Be still and listen. Think not ancient thoughts. Forget the dismal lessons that you learned about this Son of God who calls to you. Christ calls to all with equal tenderness seeing no leaders and no followers and hearing but one answer to them all. Because he hears one voice he cannot hear a different answer from the one he gave when God appointed him his only Son. Be very still an instant. Come without all thought of what you ever learned before and put aside all images you made. The old will fall away before the new without your opposition or intent. There will be no attack upon the things you thought were precious and in need of care. There will be no assault upon your wish to hear a call that never has been made.  No more than this will you be asked to learn. But as you hear it you will understand you need but come away without the thoughts you did not want and that were never true. Forgive your brother all appearances that are but ancient lessons you have taught yourself about the sinfulness in you. Hear but his call for mercy and release from all the fearful images he holds of what he is and of what you must be. He is afraid to walk with you and thinks perhaps a bit behind a bit ahead would be a safer place for him to be. Can you make progress if you think the same advancing only when he would step back and falling back when he would go ahead? For so do you forget the journey's goal which is but to decide to walk with him so neither leads nor follows.  And in this choice his learnings outcome changed for Christ has been reborn to both of you. An instant spent without your old ideas of who your great companion is and what he should be asking for will be enough to let this happen. And you will perceive his purpose is the same as yours. He asked for what you want and needs the same as you. It takes perhaps a different form in him, but it is not the form you answer to. He asked and you receive for you have come with but one purpose that you learn you love your brother with a brother's love. And as a brother must his father be the same as yours as he is like yourself in truth. Together is your joint inheritance remembered and accepted by you both. Alone it is denied to both of you. Is it not clear that while you still insist on leading or on following you think you walk alone with no one by your side? This is the road to nowhere for the light cannot be given while you walk alone and so you cannot see which way you go. And thus there is confusion in a sense of endless doubting as you stagger back and forward in the darkness and alone. Yet these are but appearances of what the journey is and how it must be made. For next to you is one who holds the light before you so that every step is made in certainty and sureness of the road. A blindfold can indeed obscure your sight but cannot make the way itself go dark. And he who travels with you has the light. And from the workbook lesson two forty three today I will judge nothing that occurs. I will be honest with myself today. I will not think that I already know what must remain beyond my present grasp. I will not think I understand the whole from bits of my perception which are all that I can see. Today I recognize that this is so and so I am relieved of judgments that I cannot make. Thus do I free myself and what I look upon to be in peace as God created us. Father, today I live creation-free to be itself. I honor all its parts in which I am included. We are one because each part contains your memory and truth must shine in all of us as one. Amen.


I'm gonna be totally honest with you. There was a substantial part of my adult life that I definitely did not want kids and was very vocal about that. I see a couple children. I see a strong legacy of foundation. How about you being... I think the, you know, the kissing is sensitive for me. I think it's scary for me. It's like a new thing for me. And when I look at you, I'm like, yes, dad, you know? And I've never looked at someone before like that. What's up, lovers and friends? As many of you know, your girl is 35 years old and it wasn't until I was actually 34 years old that I knew for certain that I wanted to have kids. Now prior to that, in my adult years, I was telling everybody who would listen that I would not be having children. I was telling my parents do not be expecting no grandkids coming from this direction. Every romantic partner, I was letting them know that I wasn't sure this was going to be in the cards for me or not and that's a place of expectation on me. And yet here I am sitting before you, six months pregnant and so hella excited for my daughter to get here in three months, which sounds crazy to say, but it's the truth. It's the truth. It's the truth. So how did I get here? That's what I want to explore today. Why is it that I was so certain in my 20s and for much of my early 30s that children was not a good option for me? And how did things turn around? So I'm going to explore my three big reasons for not wanting kids. And reason number one, I didn't want to have kids because I didn't think I needed kids. Reason number two, I didn't want to have kids because I did not want to be bonded forever with a wrong romantic partner, pregnancy gas. And reason number three is I did not want to have kids because I was afraid of losing my sexual and overall my individual identity. So we're going to explore all of these various concepts. But before we get into that, let's talk about creation as a whole.  And if you are, I want you to consider Squarespace who is the sponsor of this video because they can power your next big idea. This video is sponsored by Squarespace. With Squarespace, you get to control and customize your content to fit your brand this 2020. From websites to online stores, Squarespace provides easy to use templates to build your presence online today. Squarespace is what we use for Shand's personal site and the game of desire.  So let's dive on into this concept. Okay, so the number one reason that I didn't think that I should have kids is because I didn't need them. There wasn't a void or a space in my life in which I anticipated a child would be able to successfully fulfill for me. And that's because a lot of our relationships in life are sort of based on this need and receive dynamic, this transactional cycle that goes on. This YouTube channel is 100% a need and receive dynamic that I give something and then in return I receive something from you that I desperately know that I needed. Now, if you weren't here and you weren't showing up, this wouldn't fulfill my need and thus this wouldn't be a positive venture for me. It wouldn't be a positive use of my time and I would grow resentful of making YouTube. And a lot of our relationships, you know, obviously a lot of work relationships but even intimate relationships are based on this need received dynamic that the only way that we find it fruitful is if it's filling the void that we know that we intended for it to fill. Now I can't fathom and couldn't fathom what in my life is missing that a child could plug in and fill for me and that made me feel unworthy to be a parent. Like, well, you must not understand how magical and important and fulfilling being a parent is and so you shouldn't be one. But through research, I actually realized that in many ways, not needing a kid, but instead wanting, wanting to share your life, wanting to share your body. I mean, I don't want to do that, but it's a sacrifice. It has to be made, but wanting to give someone else an opportunity through all that you have to enjoy this planet to the best of their capabilities that that's something really special and worthy as well too. And what really affirmed that for me is this book that I read called The Art of Loving. Motherly love is perhaps the most difficult form of love to be achieved and all the more deceptive because of the ease with which a mother can love her small infant. But the child must grow. It must eventually become a completely separate human being. The very essence of motherly love is to care for the child's growth and that means to want the child's separation from herself. The real achievement of motherly love lies not in the mother's love for the small child, but in her love for the growing adult. Some people have kids because they have an unfulfilled goal that they want to achieve. Some people have kids because they've got a shop that they need to populate and they need workers and they need the kids to man the farm. Some people have kids because they are missing love in their life and they want something to call their own and something small that is going to love and need them in the way that they want to be loved and needed. If that didn't hit for you, you might have come from a different family dynamic or observed different family dynamics than I did. It's a really beautiful concept to think about that way. To want to have a kid, to want to have an adult. To want to give life so that that person can take that life and do whatever it is that they desire with it. And that their desires are not contingent on your expectations. Another part of the book that really I think is special. Motherly love at its height makes the child feel it is good to have been born. It instills in the child the love for life and not just the wish to remain alive. Most mothers are capable of giving milk, but only a minority of giving honey too. In order to be able to give honey, a mother must not only be a good mother, but a happy person. For any of you who have been following my journey, I've been on this YouTube consistently since around 2015 or so. So five years, how would you have felt honestly if you found out I was pregnant five years ago? I didn't know what to do with myself and I felt lost. And I'd go into these meetings and be like, hey what's up? Like giving my energy and like being or pretending to be the person I wanted to be, but on the inside I felt purposeless. I felt directionless.  Or four years ago. I kind of feel like I'm playing this game of soccer and I have all this stuff on my back and I've carried everything with me. I'm in this game and I'm committed to this game and like it's all on the line. And then I walk over that ball and I get there and I kick it and it moves and I stand there and I watch hoping it'll keep rolling and then it stops. And then I have to pick up all my stuff, walk over to the ball and kick it again and then I kick it and it rolls and it stops. And knowing this, the lesson I've kind of learned in all that is I have to really stop expecting the ball to keep rolling. I genuinely believe that I got to a space of milk and honey. Of having enough to survive and having more to give, having joy to give. Probably in the past two years. 2017 was a really big turning year for me. 2018 was and probably still is the best year of my life. 2019 was just a joyful extension of that. 2020, you know, it's been like this for all of us who knows how to describe it, but getting to that space of honey is something pretty new for me. And so in many ways, putting off having a child for as long as I did, which of course comes with risk because I am an older mom, was the best decision for me because now I'm in a place where I think I can truly look into a kid's eyes and say it is good to be alive. And now go out there and live life for yourself. Here's all the tools, here's all the knowledge. And when you are ready, take this and become an adult who has honey, who has life to give, who has a lust for life in their eyes because I have that now. And I know what that feels like. And that's a reason why I'm deciding to have a kid. Reason number two that I was afraid of having a kid because I didn't want to be bonded to the wrong romantic partner. What actually is very interesting about Jared and I's parent relationship together is we came into this union together, both not really wanting kids. So it was never like a consistent value of ours. And so a lot of relationships had to be built on some primary consistent foundational values because it would be a hell of a mistake to get into marriage and then realize midway through we had different ideals around sharing a family together. But both of us actually came into this relationship not sure if we wanted kids at all. I was probably more on the not interested side and Jared was like, take it or leave it.  So when the kid coming and so that kind of constant of questioning of when is the kid coming and I was still on the question of if I even wanted kids at all. So in many ways, I didn't know if he was going to be a great parent. I didn't select him based on his parenting skills or based on my ideals of what he'd like as a parent. I chose him for other reasons. But through this experience, we've actually learned that a lot of the other values that we aligned on truly do make us good co-parents. And I think that's why I've been able to get over my fear of being bonded to the wrong person.   I like him as a person and I've liked him at every stage of our relationship when we were just friends and I just observed him on social media.  I have liked and I've loved this person every step of the way. And I've enjoyed seeing the changes and evolution in them and I've enjoyed benefiting from those changes and that evolution. And so again, that fear of being bonded to the wrong person doesn't really exist. And I don't have to feel like we have to be together the way that we are right now in order for me to firmly still stand on that decision and still feel good about the choice to create a life with this person. And I don't think I've really ever experienced that before. Definitely been in love before. I've definitely liked people before. But to be in a space where I have enjoyed and benefited from every stage of the relationship and liked and love someone so thoroughly just gives me a confidence that no matter what, I'm going to be happy and look back on this video and say you were six months pregnant with an incredible person's kid and together you will hopefully make an incredible human being. The third reason that I knew for sure I didn't want to have kids is I didn't want to give up my sexiness. Didn't want to give up my sexual identity or my individual identity for that. You might remember this video that I made about Beyonce years ago. And I felt encouraged to watch not just Beyonce but so many women specifically in media who take on the role of motherhood and don't allow that to be the end of their erotic story and have their place as an individual. I think it's problematic sometimes when I see mothers who exchange their profile photos on social media for that of their kids like you can't lose your identity and while there's an extension of you and a beautiful extension of you it is not a replacement for who you are and it certainly is not an excuse to abandon your erotic self which needs to thrive. And look I got tons of flack from that but I actually stand by a lot of what I said to this day and I want to explain why separating my sexiness separating my sexiness and my motherliness doesn't sound appealing for me and let's talk about it. But first let's talk about Squarespace. I know building a website can be daunting but Squarespace makes it so easy. Even for me who doesn't know how to code I find Squarespace very user friendly. I mean if you're a fan of this channel you probably heard us brag about Squarespace because we literally use that for every website we build. But let me tell you some things that you may not know about. Blogging tools. Squarespace has powerful blogging tools to help tell your story. I mean look look you can schedule your post and have your content work for you not the other way around. Social media integrations. So anything that you post on your Twitter, on your Facebook, on your Instagram whatever you use can be posted onto your website. And you can make social links so that they can go from your website straight to go and follow you. Subscriptions. Easily sells prescriptions to products or services on a weekly or monthly basis to generate reoccurring revenue and build customer loyalty. Look if you're still listening to this voice all I'm saying in short is go check it out build a website for free have fun and when you're ready to launch go to squarespace.com slash shambudy to get 10% off your first purchase of a website or a domain.  You can see this all the time there's mom shaming and out that you have a kid you aren't supposed to do that anymore. Like we have this idea that once someone becomes a mother that they're no longer to be looked at as a sexual being that they are now a nurturing being and those two things cannot successfully coincide together. And I didn't want to fight that battle. I didn't want to lose that battle. Let me say that I did not want to lose that battle. And furthermore, I've worked really hard to get to the space that I'm at now where I can feel confident and good about my sexuality and my individuality despite all of the critiques and criticism. It has taken a lot of self love, a lot of knowledge, a lot of inspiration, a lot of pep talking and reading and researching to be able to sit here today despite all of the negativity and the slut shaming that I've gotten over the course of my career that I've gotten from within my family. I've gotten from past relationships. And so knowing now that I am at risk of losing that or that of being a thing that's going to be attacked so heavily once again as I enter into this new phase was really scary to me. But I realized and instead of looking at it like, oh my gosh, I've come so far. I don't want to have to keep fighting. It should be like, yay, I already know how to fight this fight. I've done this before. I've already put in the work. I've already developed the skills necessary to combat the next phase of my fight to be myself, to be my sexual self. And so I don't have to be afraid. I just have to double down. I have to double down in my sureness and be prepared for that battle. And I am. I genuinely believe that I probably am more ready for that than ever. Interestingly enough, even just being pregnant, I can feel the remnants of that battle happening. And it's not all external. It's not all coming from comments and people out there in the world and articles. It also comes from within as my body is changing.  Those things can be difficult to marry within yourself.  Do I this and all these questions come above? And you have to really fight to say no.  And there's this beautiful connection that happens as a result of that. You are better at everything else in life. That's what I've been telling all this whole time that having great sex and having great relationships and having a great romantic relationship will improve every area of your life. So how hypocritical of me to start questioning if it's going to improve my odds of being a good mother or not? Of course it will. It has to. It has to. Because if it doesn't, then I don't know who I am anymore. And that's a really scary sentence to say for somebody who loves who they are in this given moment. I actually think that even as a married woman, you start to fight this fight, right? Because everyone's like, oh, you're married now. You're not supposed to do this. You're not supposed to do that. And the defense I always have is like, my husband thinks is hot. My husband actually thinks it's really attractive that I am still indulgent in my sexual side or I am still indulging in my independent side. And I can only hope that my child will feel the exact same way. And maybe they can't put that into words, but they will receive the honey and be grateful for that.  Those are the three reasons that I did not want kids. And those are also the three realizations that I have made around those reasons. I've gotten me to a place where I feel really proud to tell you I am having a baby in three months. Once again, out there to the world, I'm having a baby in three months. And I'm so excited and ready and overjoyed to be doing so. And I am so excited and grateful that I didn't do it till now. If you are on the journey right now, trying to figure out whether or not you want to have kids or don't want to have kids. Please use this video and others as inspiration to have that conversation with yourself. It is a decision that only I could have come to nobody could pressure me into it.  I will let you know when it is I want to enter into this realm or if I ever want to. But the constant like is not helping and it's not actually pushing me. It's actually if anything repelling me. So being left my own devices, discovering myself, feeling full in myself, finding my honey at 34 years old is what made me feel like now is the time for me. There was a sacrifice and trade off in that, of course, because biologically the older you get, the harder your chances are of conceiving without intervention. And so I knew, especially as we started to try, that I may have made a sacrifice that was irreversible. That as a result of waiting so long, I may have had to pursue other options of child rearing. Adoption, IVF, or surrogacy, etc. But Jared, of course, had this beautiful line which I quote and love. There's ways to move around the limitation of the body. I mean, that's the good thing about being in an era that we live in with so much technology. We can put things off and still get what we want out of it. You may not be able to carry it, you may not be able to do those type of things, but it doesn't take away from the magic of having a kid. A lot of people can have a baby, but it's very hard to raise a kid. So that should be the focus, like how magical did you raise that kid? And knowing that we both felt that way made this a risk-free decision, a risk-free prolongment. And so if you're thinking of prolonging to really figure out, you know, firmly if this is for you, I would also ask yourself those important questions of, are you okay with alternate options? If you do wait and when you do decide, the chances of having a kid the way that you thought you would are no longer available to you.   I was never going to look back and even say, I wish I did this three years ago. It honestly was a window of months and I'm really, really happy that it is working out the way that it is. So in the comment section below, let's talk about it. Where are you on your childbearing journey? Where were you in your 20s? Where were you or are you now in your 30s and beyond? And what's the important question that you are toying with right now?


Thank you very much. And also I would like to thank the organizers. Right now it's more thanking the one organizer. And I mentioned that this is joint work with Dalia Tehesu. And the topic is, well, decay of correlations. So let me just start a little bit about, well, this is going to be a general dynamical system. So X is going to be the space with some sigma algebra of measurable sets. This is my invariant measure. And my dynamics will be denoted by F. And if we speak about rates of mixing, the thing that we want to estimate is of course the integral of something like this. And this would be in the finite measure set, finite measure setting. But you can also ask this question in the infinite measure setting. And then it doesn't make really sense to subtract the integrals of V and W. But it's because in the infinite measure setting, the thing here for L1 functions will tend to 0 anyway. So this is rather the question. If you look at this, this will go to 0. And the question is, what rate? So maybe this goes with some polynomial rate. And then n to the minus gamma, you want to know what is this n to the minus gamma and what is there in front. And that is the infinite measure setting. Now, well, for the first one, there are of course a lot of results, especially if you have a Markov structure, then studying the transfer operator will be very successful. But also if you don't have a Markov structure, then you can try to induce. Maybe first return inducing works, but since Liza and Jung, we know that we also can do general return inducing. And it works very well. And of course it's not just Liza and Jung. There are many, many people also in this audience who have worked in this direction like Stefano, the chairman, I know. And if you were at the talk yesterday evening by Pacifica, you will have heard more results about this. Now, one thing about this method or maybe all the methods like Cole-Messus, Tomba and Livarani or coupling methods, they tend to give you upper bounds for the decay of correlation. Now, if you're in a setting where you're interested in exponential decay of correlation like Pacifica yesterday, then upper bounds is where you're perfectly happy with just having upper bounds. However, if you are safe, you'll find yourself, for example, in a setting where you expect polynomial decay of correlation, then just having an upper bound is maybe not entirely satisfactory. So then we're going to ask, is there also a way of getting lower bounds? So is this rate of mixing polynomial really sharp or actually maybe the rate of mixing much sharper than you think, much better than you think? Now, that's where Sarek in 2001, I believe, and Goezelle in 2004, but also other papers where their methods come in. So that is operator renewal theory, and that allows us to look as well at upper as well as lower bounds of this particular object. And I would like to add work by Melbourne and Tahesio, and that is in the infinite measure setting. But the unwing thing about this is that this method as introduced by Sarek and Goezelle, or by Sarek and extended by Goezelle, uses first return inducing. And that means that, well, it works perfectly if you already have some Markov structure to start with that you don't lose. If you don't have a Markov structure, then it's precisely the general return. Okay, so you go to look at the return map to some subset of your space. If the first return, if your system is not Markov, then this first return map will not be Markov either, usually. So you try to re-induce and just keep going until your return at the good time, where your branch is really onto when you get a Markov partition. Now, that works here fine. That didn't work here. So that's what I want to talk about. And so the plan of the talk is basically, well, to cover three things. So this is general conditions using general returns, finite as well as infinite measure setting. And, well, polynomial tails. And now I have to look because I'm forgetting a thing. And, yeah, upper and lower bounds for the mixing. So that is the setup. And I want to hopefully get to some major theorems about this. Secondly, there's a natural class of examples. And these are going to be non-Markov interval maps with in different fixed points and time permitting remarks on the proof. So let's try to do the setup a bit more carefully. So I have this map on my dynamical space X, but I don't have any expansion there. So I want to use some inducing to subset Y of X basically to regain expansion. So these are going to be maps without contracting directions. They might be non-uniformly expanding, but I am not allowed to take any hyperbolic contraction. That doesn't work in our setting. So let's say F is going to be this is Markov. And that is to say there is this Markov partition alpha such that, well, for every element in this partition, the dynamics is on two. So for every A in alpha is this field. And I have an invariant measure.  And the union of all the partition elements measured them is full measure. And I have some distortion which is kind of the other part of Gibbs Markov. So if I look at the potential, this satisfies the following distortion property. There exists a C such that for every A in the partition and for every Y and Y prime, the exponential of PY is less than a constant, the measure of this. And if I compare two of these, then I still have this constant, mu A and theta. So, okay, so there is theta in 01 such that this holds and this S is the separation time between Y and Y prime. So it's the number of iterates that I need for Y and Y prime to end up into two different elements of the Markov partition. This is a setup. I assume that I have an induced map with these properties. And then I get to three conditions. And the first one is about the tail of this return map. So this here, let's just use yellow here. This is the general return time. I'm basically assuming not that I'm showing this thing about the potential. Okay. So this is about the tails of phi. And then two different conditions, one for the finite measure case and one for the infinite measure case. Finite. I just want that the measure of what we tend to call the big tail, where phi is bigger than n, not equal to n, but bigger than n is order n to the minus beta, where beta is some number of bigger than one. And the infinite condition, so one of the two will be true. I have this, but then I need to ask a little bit more. That is going to be n to the minus two beta, where in this case beta is between a half and one. Second condition. So that is kind of quite new in this setting. And that allows us to do general returns in the first place. Well, phi is general return or let's say good return. And let's call tau is the first return. And that means that this induced map is basically re-inducing over the first return. So if I look at the first return, then this is not enough. I have to take interest of the first return to reach the good return. And this re-inducing time is going to be rho. So rho is re-induced time. That's it. So I could say that if rho is k, then phi is precisely the k-th return where, okay, this would be the first return. k is going to be the k-th return to f. So I need some tail condition on this row. And it looks as follows. Let's say that zkj is all the y in my space y. So that phi of y is j. And rho of y is precisely k. Okay? And now I want that there exists a constant such that for all n, the following is true. If I measure the, let's write it like this, if I sum over all n, all j greater than n, and all k's, k times the measure of this particular set, then this is less or equal than the measure that phi is bigger than. Well, then there's one more technical condition which I think I might as well skip because in all the, only definitely in the example that I want to present, that other kind of slightly constructional assumption is true anyway. So let's just keep to do these two conditions.  But then I hope to get to the theorems. That is a way of interpreting that. And I hope to get to a lemma that makes this a bit more precise. Well, in the examples that I hope to do, I know that if you fix j and let k increase, then these measures of these sets decrease exponentially. They don't decrease exponentially in j, but for fix j they tend to increase exponentially in k. And I think that is a pretty normal situation. But if you look at this, we don't ask so much the k. Okay, theorem. So I have two, one for the finite measure setting and one for the infinite measure setting. And you know, since I put it over there anyway, I might as well just write it here. And now I also realize that I need to say something about the observables that V and W, but I first write down the theorems and then I say a bit more about these observables because that class of observables is important. So in this case, the finite measure case beta was bigger than one. And that means that if I look at the average of my general return time, that that is going to be finite number. And in this case, I have the statement that the thing that I want to compute has a leading term, one over five bar sum j bigger than m times. And now it's going to first of all just the integrals. This is the leading term. And now we get the error term, which we hope to be of an order of maximum smaller, the maximum of about two different norms that we can put on V, namely a scaled theta whole norm and a scaled infinity norm. This I have to multiply by a scaled infinity norm on W and an extra term dn, where dn is, takes values depending on beta. It's either n to the minus beta if beta is bigger than two and minus two log two. If beta equals two and n to the minus two beta if beta is between one and two. And now for the infinite measure, I will use that board over there to explain that. But I forgot to say about the regularity of my observables and I will in a minute. In very measure case, in that case, so beta is between a half and one. And that means that there exists a Q, an integer, which is the smallest j, such that j over j plus one is no, largest j, such that this is still less than beta. And then there are constants, which I called d0 up to dQ, such that. Now in this case, remember, I will not subtract the integrals of V and W, because it doesn't make any sense. It's rather I want to find out how fast does this go to zero. And the answer is d0 n to the minus beta minus one plus d1 n to beta minus one. And so you can work down all these powers, these fractional powers of n up to the power Q plus one beta minus one. And this thing you have to multiply by those integrals again. Okay. And then there is an error term, which is of the following type. And in this case, dn is n to the minus beta minus a half. Okay. So I hope I have stated the theorem without any errors. So time to, okay, mu is the invariant measure of the original system. And mu zero is the invariant measure of the induced system. So now the regularity of the observables, V and W, well, I need to scale in a particular way or weight them in a particular way. So let's say T tau star is going to be one plus the minimum time. And this minimum could be zero, such that f is equal to fn of y. Well, let's say this is a point x could be anywhere in the space, belongs to the set that I'm going to induce on. And I also fixing some epsilon bigger than zero. And now I want to say that the weighted infinity norm of W is simply going to be the supremum over all x in the space, W of x times this particular weight one plus epsilon. So that's the simplest case. And I'm going to do something similar for the theta, the theta whole norm, which in first instance is going to be a semi norm. So that's going to be the supremum over all elements in my Markov partition. The supremum over 0 less than i less than 5. And the supremum over all points in these particular Markov partitions. And then what I want to do is first weigh them and do that. No problem. No, quite. Fi of a. And then tau star is this one. Has nothing to do with tau. Shall I use another number? Yes, but I might already start in y. And in that case, I say this number is one because I add one. Otherwise, it's the first thing. Plus one. And now we get V of f i y minus V f y prime. So this is a weighted theta semi norm. And to get our true norm, I'm just going to take the semi norm plus the weighted infinity norm. So that's the regularity that I'm imposing. So those theorems on the left board hold for all V and W in the, well, Banach spaces with these norms. I, well, okay. So I'm going to discuss an interval example with a neutral fixed point. And what this basically tells me is that those V and W should decrease to zero at the neutral fixed point. And they do that with a particular rate. And this rate depends on this epsilon, but epsilon could be arbitrary close to zero. And the parameter beta. So it means that the V and the W may be supported on the whole space, but they should go to zero when I go to the indifference fixed point. So this particular map looks as follows. It is very much like the Montville-Pomol map. So f alpha of x is going to be x one plus two alpha x alpha if x is in the left half. So here we have this neutral fixed point over particular order of contact. And also my beta will be one over alpha. And normally we just have a straight branch from zero to one. But I'm not going to do that. I'm going to make a non mark off by taking a straight branch from zero to gamma. So this looks like, what would it be? Something, two x minus one, if x is in half one, where gamma is some fixed parameter strictly between zero and one. And now we have a neutral fixed point with map without mark off structure. And for which we expect and can compute that this tail condition, this one, is indeed going to be satisfied. And I'm going to induce to this interval. Y is going to be a half. Now this class has been looked at before by Ho and Venti in a preprint which hasn't appeared yet, but you can find it on the archive. So not quite know the year, but in the last year or two. And there they looked at similar results for V in BV. So there they used bounded variation space and only for finite measure setting. And the support of V and the support of W, they are both inside Y. So not this general support. But the statement is quite the same as this, except of course that you use a first return or that they use a first return inducing scheme. So that gives the following kind of philosophical question that, well, we are estimating this, the integral W compulsive F. And now you can ask, am I going to use the first return map and use Ho and Venti's results? And what they get is one over tau R, where this is the average of the first return map, times, and now mu tau is going to be the invariant measure of the first return map. They don't. Okay, but who and Venti do, they take first return map on this set Y, which is not full branch, but it's still in the, or the density of, it's invariant density, is still in this class BV. So that's what they can do in, well, dimension one, times V d mu tau, d mu, what, W d mu tau, plus the error terms, higher order terms. That's what you get from first return and what you get from general return would be J should be larger than this, 0, 5 bigger than J, and this is all the same except that I'm, oh, that should be not be tau, plus higher order terms. And both results are true. And this should be of an order of magnitude smaller than this, same here, because otherwise we wouldn't have the lower bounds. This is the leading term and gives you upper bound as well as lower bounds. So question, are these two things the same? Well, the formulas don't look the same. They look similar, but definitely not the same. And definitely those two numbers are not the same. So let's call this one and this two and, and the lemma to resolve this mystery, why do we get two formulas that look different is the following. So lemma, well, of course we scale differently, but that's not the issue because it turns out that phi bar is rho bar times tau bar and rho bar is the average of the re-induced time. And, and I'm going to look at the crit paper again. If I look at this difference, well, I should put the right, the right scaling in, right? So let's say tau i minus double i. And if you work that out, this is the sum 1 over rho bar mu 0 phi greater than J minus mu tau, tau greater than J. And we hope that this is really so small that the difference between this term and this term is absorbed by the further error terms. Now it turns out that this has a nice formula. Well, maybe that, not that nice, but it looks like this. So I'm summing over okay greater than one and integrating over the set where phi is tau k plus one, bigger than N. Okay. That's different classes of observables. I mean this is for BV and this is for the class that I'm raising at this moment. But of course there is a big intersection between the two, right? Yeah. And also for functions in that big intersection, you definitely don't want contradictions. And the mu, this is what they get in their paper. And the bottom is that theorem that is a bigot. Now you can work it out like this. And in this particular example you can indeed compute it. And this is indeed, well have you started a bit longer? I mean of course there's a bit cryptic formula, but it means that I'm integrating over the set where phi is bigger than N. And at the same time phi is the k plus first return. That this is really a lot smaller than either of those terms. And it's really absorbable in these two. Now I can say a few things about proof and I think I will. Because how do we do that? Well, we use definitely a tower method. So it's going to be a tower, which I call delta, which is, well I'm just writing down, but it's quite standard. So let me just draw it. Here we have y0, which is y cross 0. And then we get the tower above it. And the tower map just brings you from one level to the next. Tower map I go, going to call f delta. And at some point you reach a point where you can't go higher, and then you go diffeomorphically to the base. And this map preserves some measure new delta. And the good return, phi, on this tower of course corresponds to a first return to the base. So there we have a first return, which we would have liked from the start if we could have used Syke and Goussel straight away. And here we have the projection to our space x with subset y. And we call this yi. It's just fi of y. And now we get the problem that if I lift the set y, I don't only get the base, I get definitely more. So let's use some color. We get this, and maybe part here, and maybe part here, and maybe part here. And this part I want to call. And then we use the ingredients of operator renewal theory. And I'm just going to write down some operators and comment on them. So we have the associated to the tower map and the invariant measure of the tower map. And we're going to build a power series using this. L of z is the sum over all n greater than zero, the nth iterate of this power series of this operator times z to the n. And we also use operators associated to a return to the base. So t is going to be the indicator function of the base times the nth iterate of my transfer operator, but only starting at the base. So this is this. And you form the power series in the same way. So this is the transfer operator that is associated to all the points that start in the base and after n steps are back in the base. They could have been in the base in between, but at step n, at iterate n, I want them in the base. And we get the first return. And then we do the same thing. But here we not just start in the base. We also restrict to the set where the return map, return time is n. So if we look at this and rz is the sum of these operators, then this is associated to when I return time n, but really for the first time. Now not in between. And then there is this standard relation this renewal equation that allows you to associate this power series to this. Now if I knew that this was the first return, then I could simply say, well, these things are the same. And that is if phi was first return and the supports of v and w are both inside this set that I use on. But that's not the situation that we have. This is not the case. So I just need one more board and explain what adjustment we have to make here. And this is basically following techniques introduced by Gouazelle, where we have another set of operators. Well, let's just try to explain this just by the picture. Let me just write this. So instead of this here, I will have a decomposition of this power series using the same as the core, but some extra power series here and here. Now this power, sorry, let's just do this power series. If I just take any observable v and I lift it to the tower, it's going to be supported on the whole tower, not just on the base. Now what this operator b does, it just iterates forward until I hit the tower the first time. And I make a power series out of that, and that is the bc. Okay, and then I return to y, 0 a number of times, and at a certain point I'm close to my final, it's with n. And in the last steps, well, this mass spreads out again, and the operator associated to that is the ASAP. Now what is the CZ? Well, if I have a particular n, fixed n, I might be somewhere in the tower, and in n steps I don't even return to the base. Now then is the stuff that I take in C. So then I get this particular relation which replaces the standard renewal equation. And then, well, condition h1 and other stuff is allowing us to do estimates on this one, estimates on this one, and the Fourier coefficients and so on, so that we also can compute the whole operator product. And that's basically what's behind in trying to estimate this because after all, the nth coefficients of LZ is precisely an estimate for your nth coefficients of correlation. So I think I have now exceeded your patience enough to stop. Thank you very much.


And so this is where we usually go internally, but it's useful to imagine it as a report because we don't have a total down here. If you look at the report, the idea is this is a sub ledger report breaking out this information, not by date, but by who owes us the money. And it should tie into what's on the balance sheet at any given time. And that's why the zero system will often not let us enter a transaction for accounts receivable, unless we have assigned a customer to it, otherwise the sub ledger would not tie out to the accounts receivable, and that would be messy. So if the other one, the inventory, as we saw before, if we're tracking, I'm gonna duplicate again, if we're tracking inventory within the accounting system on a perpetual inventory basis, then we will have inventory reports. So if I go to my inventory, I'll just type in inventory, and I look at my inventory item list. This is another sub ledger report that will be adjusted as we do inventory transactions, purchasing inventory with bills, checks, and so on, and then decreasing inventory on a perpetual basis with sales forms, invoices, and money out forms. So you can see our inventory list here. This will be adjusted, the number of inventory, two, eight, nine, six, as we do transactions that would increase and decrease inventory on a perpetual basis. And then we've got the fixed assets. They don't look, again, the sub reports for the fixed assets in the United States, oftentimes we might do those externally in tax software for a lot of many small businesses will do that because you have to do tax basis depreciation. And so you might as well use the software to do both book and tax. So we'll deal with those later in practice. What you need to do for tax preparation at the end of the year is make sure that you have a list of the new purchases and the sales that happened during the year, which there shouldn't be many of because we don't buy a lot of equipment from day to day. We just buy periodically. And then those adjustments need to be made on the sub ledger, which might be on the tax software so that the proper accumulated depreciation can be calculated. And then we can make periodic adjustments in our system either monthly or yearly based on that sub ledger. So we'll talk more about that in the adjusting entries. Accounts payable has another common report. So if I right click and duplicate again, we've got our, and let's go to the reports again and go to our reports. And let's take a look at accounts payable. Counts payable, we've got accounts payable summary. So similar report to the accounts receivable summary. And the idea is that we're gonna break out our payable by vendor who we owe money to. So in practice, we'll typically be tracking that by going to our customers and our suppliers or vendors or whatever you wanna call them. And there's our list, but once again, it doesn't give us the total. And so you wanna think about this from a reporting standpoint as a sub ledger breaking out your accounts payable by vendor, supplier, whatever, and then the total is gonna tie out to the liability account on the balance sheet. All right, and then we've got the credit card which we'll have bank credit card and the reconciliations we may need to deal with. There's no real sub ledger for the loan payable except that you might have an amortization schedule which is provided externally typically by the bank or the financial institution. But if they don't give you one, then you can generate one, an amortization table that'll break out interest and principal for each payment using Excel or online tools or actually your accountant to do that. So we'll talk more about how to do that in future presentations. So those are some of the reports that will be impacted as we do data input. So just remember, as we do the data input, then your primary thought is I'm gonna check out what happens to my primary financial statements, balance sheet income statement. And then I'm also going to then think of what other subsidiary reports are gonna be impacted, keeping special attention to those accounts that I wanna have very important and specific subsidiary ledgers for, that being the accounts receivable that has to be broken out by customer, inventory that has to be broken out by items of inventory and accounts payable that needs to be broken out by vendor as well. So when we do transactions to those accounts specifically, we wanna make sure that we don't do something funny to it that throws that out of whack, like doing a journal entry to accounts payable instead of entering a bill which properly tracks the vendor and so on and so forth. So we'll take a look at that as we do data input in the future. Let's take a quick look at some of the other reports. If I go to the tab to the right and go down to our reports down here, we've got our favorite reports, we've got the financial reports, the analysis, the budget reports. These are reports that would help us to kind of make projections out into the future. The financial statement reports, of course, being the balance sheet and the income statement being the primary two reports, the payables and receivable, the aging reports for the payables and receivables that we looked at. Notice that most of these reports are giving us more detail about one or multiple line items on the balance sheet or income statement. The reconciliation reports, bank reconciliations and credit card reconciliations primarily are an internal control type of report helping us to tie out to what is on the bank side of the financial institution. And then we've got our taxes, our 1099 report are important for the United States. Journal reports can help us to give us that detail of the journal entries, a journal entry format and then the general ledger which is similar to those drilling down when you drill down on this particular number on the balance sheet, but it'll give you the whole general ledger transaction by date report typically. And then you got your transactions, account transactions, duplicate lines and inventory item summary and so on. So the general idea, you think first balance sheet income statement all of these other reports are basically usually subsidiary reports giving you more information about one or multiple line items and that'll help you to kind of not be overwhelmed by the number of reports.


Time is of the essence. It ain't always on our side. So we gon' live it up because you only get one life. I believe it's only one or two places, but when you die, when you visit, you gon' stay, so you gotta live it right. Christian Fulton, there are so many things I want to talk to you about. I'm so excited to have the chance to sit down with you. But I don't want to start with football. I want to start off the field and I want to start at your store, The Trenches. Why did you pick the name The Trenches for a clothing store? We wanted it to be something that everybody could relate to. It's a lot of people that's from there and that's kind of the environment that we kind of grew up in. And just the store location where that kind of reminded us of home, when I'm from New Orleans. That's kind of how we came up with the name. And it's kind of like The Trenches tightens teeth, so it kind of had a catchy thing to it. So you put it in North Nashville. That's where you decided. What was it about that location? You said it reminds you of home. What about that really struck you? We're a black-owned area. They have a couple restaurants over there that's black-owned. And they have a couple lounges over there that's black-owned. It's kind of a black-owned street. We thought that would be a perfect spot to where it could be a one-stop-shop for everybody that can't visit. So describe it a little bit because it's more than just clothes. There's more to The Trenches. Yeah. So yeah, we sell streetwear clothes. We sell art. And we sell shoes. We also have a design lab in the back. We'll have TSU interns that those who are graduating will have interns come in and they can work in the back just to get some experience. And just learning how to design and working with people in the retail area. So why so many things? I mean it's pretty easy to just open a clothing store. This is so much more than that. Like I said, you know just want to give everybody else an opportunity. You know a lot of people don't have the opportunity going up. People kind of fall into the high-end luxury brands of clothing stores.  Now you're doing this with your brother. Did you always want to go in business with your brother? Sometimes they say working with family is hard. Yeah. To be honest, we never grew up thinking that, you know, that we wanted to go into business. You know, we kind of stuck to sports. Now you guys did play together though, right? So you can work together, you can bond, right? Just having that experience playing together, take out some of the brotherness that could kind of happen in a business? Yeah, definitely. On the field, you know, once you're playing with each other, you got to push each other on the field. That's kind of my job, you know, to make sure that he stays on top of this part, you know, in the business side, and he kind of puts me on the football side. You know, I let him handle the business side and he kind of puts me on the football side. Now you're in year two. There's a lot of expectations on you and there's a lot of conversation about what you could be for this Tennessee Titans team.  I mean, I try to stay away from it, you know, at the end of the day, football is football for me. So I don't kind of, I don't really go up that expectation. Everybody I have for me, I go up my expectations and that just will push me every day. There are other younger guys on this team. Caleb Barley was also drafted and has some expectations based on his college play a lot like what happened for you. How do you help guide someone else, a younger guy, through that same scenario?  So I mean, I just try to go out of my experience and go out of the experience that the older guys in last year gave me, you know, is always good to pass it down to the younger guys.


Every single person has 24 hours in the day. No more. You'll never be given anymore. So either you get it done or you don't. And it's that simple. Either you make excuses or you figure it out. Get the life that you want to or you don't. There is nothing in between. Today, we're gonna talk about how to stop being so frickin' lazy and how to be more motivated. So we're gonna talk about how to stop being lazy, how to be more motivated. And I'm going to give you one of my secrets that I teach my highest paying clients of how to be more motivated and how to be more driven, which in turn will then make sure that you're less lazy. And one of the biggest questions that I get on my Facebook, on my Instagram, I get so many messages on Instagram from people is how can I be more motivated? There's so many people that are out there in the world right now that just feel demotivated with all of the heaviness in the world, all of the things that are going on, all of the uncertainty. So many people are just so curious how can I be more motivated? I don't feel that motivated. And the really important part of that is the feeling motivated. And we're just gonna dive in. I want you to remember this quote for the rest of your life.  Right, when you don't feel motivated, it's because that's a feeling, that's an emotion.  Now I'm not saying that emotions are bad. I think emotions are amazing things. What I'm saying is don't let your emotion run your life.  So one of the reasons why I find that so many people are not motivated and they're not driven towards the life that they want is because they have no plan and they have no intention. They don't know where they're going. And when you don't know where you're going, you don't know what you need to do to get there. And it's hard to take the right action when you don't even know where the hell you're trying to go. So it's very simple if you think about it. If you don't know, if you're not motivated, you don't feel driven and you don't have a plan, you don't have an intention, you don't know where you're going, you don't know what you need to do to get there, then it's hard to take the right action to go that direction, right? Most people, hopefully not you, wake up and when they wake up, they have very little vision for what their life is going to be. They have very little vision for what direction they're going into. They have very little plans for exactly what they're going to do and they try to figure it out as the day goes by and then they feel like the whole day they're just in reaction mode and reaction mode and reaction mode and they're just putting out fires. Have you ever felt that way before? You just kinda see what happens. It's like getting into your car every single morning, not knowing where you're gonna go and just driving around and taking random turns and then getting pissed off that at the end of the day your car, you and your car are not where you want it to be when you don't even know where you want it to be in the first place. You just woke up and you're like, I'm gonna just drive and just turn left here and I'm gonna turn left here, I'm gonna turn right here.  You had no plan as to where you're going. You had no intention, you literally had nothing. What makes you think that driving your car with no direction is any different than waking up in the morning and having no direction? It's the exact same thing but of course you want where you wanna be because you don't even know where you want to be. The example I always give that tends to make sense for people it's like your mom calls you up and it's November. She's like, hey honey, I'm gonna buy some Christmas gifts. What do you want for Christmas?  She's like, are you sure? Yeah, no, I don't, just whatever, get me something. Like, okay, cool.  Like how could you get mad at your mom for not giving the gift that you wanted when she asked you what you wanted and you didn't tell her? That's how a lot of people are living their lives. I don't like where my life is. Well, what's your vision? I don't know. It's the exact same thing as not asking for the gift that you want. You've gotta figure out what it is that you want to start working for it.  The first thing is vision. The second thing is schedule. The third thing is intention. The fourth thing is action and the fifth thing is routine. We're gonna go through each one of these. So the first one, vision. What do you want in your life? Like this is such a simple question, but majority of people who I talk to have no idea what they want in their life.  What do you want? What do you want your life to look like? Where do you wanna be? Let me ask you a very simple question. Where do you wanna be in 12 months? What do you wanna be? What do you wanna look like? What do you want your body to look like? How much money do you wanna have in your bank account? Where do you wanna be in your career? What do you wanna be in your schooling? What do you wanna be in 12 months? It's a very simple question, but have you actually sat down with a pen and paper and written down everything that you want to accomplish and everything that you want to achieve and everything that you want to have over the next 12 months? If you haven't, then you're just driving blindly through life and not actually going anywhere. So what do you wanna be in 12 months? I got another question for you. What do you wanna be in five years? Where do you wanna be?  Where do you want that to be?  You're just like, all right, car, let's see where we're going. We're gonna take some lefts, we're gonna take some rights and maybe we'll end up at a mansion. Maybe we'll just end up at a shack. I don't know where we'll end up. Figure it out. What do you wanna be? Where do you wanna be in 10 years? If you don't know, then you'll never get the life that you want. You have to know what you want in order to go and work for it. You'll never hit a target that you cannot see. So what do you want? I feel like it's the notebook. What do you want? I don't know, it's not that easy. Yes it is, just freaking figure out what is. What do you want? I don't know. Yes, write it down.  Figure it out. Okay, that's the first thing. Vision. Now that we've got a vision, we've written down what we want, now we gotta make a schedule.   Really, you don't have enough time? Poor you. Maybe one day you'll be blessed with more than 24 hours in the day, right? No, you have enough time. It's just that 99% of people are absolutely terrible at scheduling their time. I was running a meeting for some of my higher level coaching clients, all business owners, and I was saying, who here? We're on a Zoom call. I said, who here has said, in the past month, I don't have enough time or thought that you don't have enough time? Raise your hand. Everybody raise your hand. I said, all right, keep your hand up if you would be really nervous. If I said, you need to show me your schedule for the week right now and everybody's hands stayed up and I said, why is that? It's not because you don't have enough time. It's because you're absolutely terrible at scheduling your time. It's not that you don't have enough time.  And that's the truth. Most people are terrible with time management and that's something that's good. Do you want to know why it's good? Because it's a skill set. You can always develop a skill set. You're not just talented. There's no talent there. It's just a skill set. So you've got to get better at managing your time. Every single person has 24 hours in the day. No more. You'll never be given anymore. So either you get it done or you don't. And it's that simple. Either you make excuses or you figure it out. You make excuses or you find a way. That's it. You make excuses or you find a way. You get the life that you want to or you don't. There is nothing in between. And then some people are like, well, Rob, I want to start this successful business but I've got a full-time job. Okay. Has there ever been another person in the history of mankind that has started a successful business but had a full-time job? There has? Okay. Well, then clearly it's possible. Someone else has done it. Why aren't you doing it? Oh, Rob, but I also have children. Okay. Has there ever been somebody in the history of mankind who's ever started a successful business with a full-time job and with children? There is? Okay. Then what's the difference? If they can do it, you can do it as well. So what you start doing, you start realizing that what you're doing is you're externalizing all of your excuses. It's, I don't have enough time. That's outside of me. I've got a full-time job. That's outside of me. I've got kids. That's outside of me. You need to take all of your blame and all of your responsibility and stop putting it on something else and start putting it on yourself. Figure it out because you're not gonna get more time. So the one thing that I always tell people, I got from Gary Vaynerchuk, probably about five years ago, he says, stop saying you don't have enough time and just start saying it's not a priority for me and see if that switches your mindset on something. Don't say I don't have enough time. You've got enough time. You could find time. But the difference is you just haven't found the time. You haven't scheduled it correctly. I'm not saying take time away from your children and never see them to build your business. What I'm saying is get better at scheduling your time. Once the kids go to bed, do you have a couple of hours you could build your business? Do you have the weekends? What can you do to make sure that you're building life that you want to? Okay, that's the schedule side of it. Number three is your intention. Do you wake up every single day with intention, with a plan for the day? What you're going to do, how you're going to feel, what you're going to accomplish, what would make today an absolute success? Or are you just driving that car around and just taking some random turns and just seeing what happens? What is your intention every single day?  They're not intentional with their day. And they're just, as I've been saying, in reaction mode. You have to have intention. How do I want to show up today? What would make today an absolute success? How can I impact someone else? How can I make sure that I bring $500 into my business today? $1,000 into my business today? I'm going to set an intention because it's kind of like just going, all right, I'm going to be throwing darts anyways. I might as well try to find the bullseye. I'm going to hit that bullseye. What would the bullseye for today look like for you? Sit down with a pen and paper. Ask yourself those questions. Figure it out.  So you've got to have intention. So now that we have, we have so far before we go a little bit further. Number one, we have a vision. We know where we're going. Number two, we have a schedule. We at least know what we're supposed to do. Number three, we have intention. We know what we want to accomplish for the day. We know how we want to show up. We know how we want to be. We know how we want to act. Okay, what do we need to do now? Speaking of acts, number four is action. You've got to freaking do it. You've got to get your body moving. Emotion follows the body. Let me say that again. So it gets really deep in every single person said, your emotions follow your body. When you don't feel good, I guarantee 95% of the time, it's because you've been lounging around not doing anything today. It's because you've been spending the past 45 minutes on Instagram. It's because you're not doing what you need to do.  There is nothing more incredible than our bodies. But when you just let your body do what it's gonna do, it's not as good as it could be. When you take control of it and you say, okay, I don't feel really good. I don't really feel motivated today. Usually when you don't feel good, you don't feel motivated.  When you don't feel good, get your body moving. Your body has this incredible adapting mechanism that once you start moving, once you start going and you feel like you're moving in the right direction, you get more excited. Your body releases dopamine and then it actually gives you more motivation. Dopamine is the motivation chemical inside of your brain. I'll give you a perfect example today. I worked out really hard yesterday. I worked out really hard today, the day before. And then my girlfriend Lauren was like, do you wanna work out today? I was like, ah, not really. Like I feel like I need a little bit of a recovery day, but I'll come out and I'll work outside. So I made a plan for her to work out and I was like, I'm gonna do some movements with you just to kind of get my body moving and to kind of, you know, get the lactic asset out of my body. Turn on some music, crank it, and I get about 10 minutes into moving and I went from not wanting to do anything to 10 minutes into moving. I'm like, I'm gonna finish this workout with you, right? Because my body adapted to the circumstances and because I was starting to move and I felt better about the movement, what happened? Then I started to get dopamine release and the dopamine goes, hey, Rob, keep going. This is good. And I was like, this is pretty good. Dopamine gets released when a person feels like they're going into the direction that they want to. So when I'm looking at myself in the window, I'm like, I'm actually starting to look pretty good. I wasn't motivated today. Now I'm motivated. My body releases, my brain leases dopamine and then it gives me more motivation to keep working. So action is absolutely required. Get some action moving. Emotion follows the body. Get the body moving. Just get started, whatever it is you have to do. If you wanna work out today, but you really don't feel like working out today, what do you have to do? You have to just start moving in that direction. Okay, action turns into what? When you do action over and over and over and over again, what does it turn into? It turns into a routine. Do you have a set routine for your life? Do you have certain things that you have to do every single day? Do you have a morning routine? Do you have an evening routine? Do you have consistent daily action?  So many people that I've found, they feel like routines are very restrictive.  Have you ever felt that way? What's interesting is that once you get really routineed, you realize that all of your freedom is within that routine.  Not just like wake up and have no intention. I wake up, I know what I'm doing, I know what I'm going and there is freedom in routines. And so many people I've seen do this where they don't like routines because they don't wanna feel restricted. Then they force a routine on themselves and they realize there's a lot of freedom in that routine. And so they force themselves to keep being more routine and they enjoy the routine after a while. So do you have set routines? The morning routines, the evening routines, consistent daily action creates routines.  What routines do you need?  But if you have a vision, if you have a schedule, if you have intention, a plan of action and set routines, it's gonna make your life a lot easier to get there, right? Would you be more motivated every single day when you wake up if you had a vision, a beautiful vision of all of the happiness and the joy and the love and the success and the money and the travel and the adventure that you could have? Would you be more motivated if you could see that in your future, if you had that vision? Would you be more motivated if you had a schedule of exactly what you needed to do every day to accomplish that? Would you be more motivated if you had an intention of how you wanted to show up, how you wanted to be, how you wanted to treat people, how you wanted to be as yourself and how you want to impact the world? Would you be more motivated if you had a plan of exactly how to get there? And would you be more motivated if you had set routines that would get you step by step by step closer to where you want to go. Would you be more motivated and be less lazy? Yes, of course. So, I have an assignment for you. Grab a journal right now and answer these questions. You can pause me if you need to if you're watching these videos. There's a pause button, pause it. If you're listening to me on the Mindset Mentor Podcast, you can pause me, grab your journal. If you're driving, please don't grab your journal. Do it when you get home, whatever you gotta do. Here's my questions I have for you. Write them all down and then journal through them. Where do you wanna be in 12 months? Where do you wanna be in five years? Where do you wanna be in 10 years? Figure those three questions out first. Next, what is my daily schedule to start moving in that direction? Now that I know where I wanna be, what is my schedule that I can set up to start myself moving in that direction? Next question, what intentions do I need to set daily? Maybe it's workout intentions, maybe it's work intentions, maybe it's character intention of how you want to act, how you wanna treat people. What are your intentions that you need to set every single day so you're actually moving in the direction you want to versus feeling like you're just putting out fires? Next question, what actions do I need to accomplish today? What actions do I need to accomplish today? And then last question, what routines do I need to create? Here's the beautiful thing about all of this. It's not rocket science. It's freaking simple. People act like success is so hard. Success is not hard. It just requires you to do the simple things every single day. Just show up every single day. It's about creating a plan. It's first off, creating a vision, then creating a plan of how to accomplish that vision to get you from where you are right now to where you wanna be. Cause here's the answer to all of it. We're all gonna be somewhere in 10 years. Hopefully we're all alive. We're all gonna be somewhere in 10 years. But the actions that you take today will decide where that somewhere is going to be. 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