The best kind of doors are the doors you have to explain. Welcome, welcome to Unhinge with the Doordork. Today, we do have a very special nerd, Rich Strifle. Well, this last one is pretty nasty. I actually got it on my recent trip to Las Vegas. It was in a lower lobby, kind of leading out to a parking garage where you could get Uber. So I'll just let you see it. Hey, it's a hotel, yeah? Oh, and a mag walk too. The exit sign looks like it's on fire. It does look a little... Well, it looks like it's flames, right? Orange at the bottom, red at the top. Oh, is that a card? I was trying to decide if it was an indicator or a card reader. That looks like a hotel lock. Yeah. Like a no-call hotel lock or something. Yeah, mag strip lock, yeah. Wow. There's a reader here. Well, that's for the magnets. Yeah. And you've got to have a card to get through. Wow. Oh my gosh. Obviously, you didn't open the door. I wonder if the card reader aspect of it had been disabled. The hotel lock was maybe in passage function. I would really hope. So... And I would hope that the mag lock had been connected through the fire alarm system so that if someone pulled the pull station that the door would unlock. There's also no pull station right here. Right, my next point is it's got to be within a certain distance of the door and then there has to be a signage on the door indicating that you have to pull the pull station. Yes. I actually had my phone out. I was filming me walking up to this lock and I went up to try to see if it was open and it was locked but then immediately after that an employee came out that door and kind of caught me off guard. So I didn't, I wasn't able to get the whole shot but it was locked. I checked. Yes, yeah. Yep, pretty frightening stuff. What do you think the boxes off top are? Sorry, what do you think the what is? Not that, the like a third of the way down or a quarter of the way down those. What do you think that is covering? My thought was that they put like, I'm guessing that this is near the catering. This is a purely speculative. The catering area where they have the high carts full of decisions and maybe that's rent the door rub. Yeah, I think they just protected, protected play. And it was just staff only was coming in and out of this and so they had the doorman carts and stuff. I mean, you might be right with the catering carts as well, I'm sure. That makes sense. Transferring a lot of stuff through this. Or luggage carts, things like that. Yeah, you'd think at least on a door like this with an exit date at least have like maybe 15 second delay alarm part where you got to hold the bar in for 15 seconds and it squeals at you before it opens or something like that. But this is just, you know, but it's a hotel. So they do their own stuff. They don't hire pros. This is the guy who last week was the janitor and this week he's the maintenance guy, right? He's like, I've played around with low voltage. I could do a maglock. Yeah. I mean, in BC, locksmith is an apprenticeable trade. So it's a three year apprenticeship by the provincial government. Plus you have to be licensed by the attorney general's department, which is security, you know, background check, right? And they started that and I have to look at my license. 1995, they started that. So I went off and I did the test. So I'm a journeyman. So when people call me a technician, that's my pet peeve. I'm not a technician. Technician's the guy who fixes your photocopier. I'm a tradesman, right? I have a piece of paper on my wall says I'm a tradesman. So, but yeah. I don't believe Las Vegas has a low voltage license, but it might be wrong. Maybe someone correct me if I'm wrong. I know Washington, California and Oregon all have, you need a low voltage license to work on electronic hardware like this. But I think Utah, Idaho and Nevada, I don't know. Nevada might need a license, but I might be wrong. Statewide. For BC, low voltage, I think 124 volts or something like that is included in the trade of locksmith, right? And also alarm installers can do access control as well. And the alarm companies do the majority of access control stuff because the locksmiths are too busy fixing the mistakes afterwards. Really? Wow, that's different from here. Usually alarm companies aren't doing as much access control. It's like the security integrators, I guess maybe they're one and the same. I don't know. Here it's quite a split. My nephew is an alarm installer and has been for a long time and they do a lot of access control stuff. I learn something every day. This is awesome. Well, this is not awesome. This is not great. Yeah. So are we gonna rate it? Yeah, any final comments? Yeah, it's still obstructed, right? It's got a nice astragal on the door. It's still obstructed. So you're not getting through no matter how hard you beat on it. And I'll hope that the fire alarm system would disable the mag lock. And that would tell me there's no flush bolts on the door. So if the fire alarm went off and the mag lock let go, which I'm not guaranteeing would happen, the doors should be able to push open. In theory, the right side, the right leaf is actually locked. So it would probably just be the left leaf that would just be able to push. Well, but then they'd be pinned together and then they both open at the same time, right? Yeah, I guess, yeah. The latch on the right hand side would be locked into the left hand side. I mean, when you're using your card entry, it probably unlocks both mags because if they're pushing carts of stuff through it. Yeah, they would have to, yeah. But interestingly, they don't have any lever protection. They don't have any bumps on the doors to prevent carts from taking the door handles off. So it's a toughie.  Maybe they can reuse the door from the kitchens or something. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I guess the mag locks, it's locked in two different ways. It's a technically path of egress. It's exit that apparently only staff can get through. I didn't try my hotel card, but I doubt it was gonna work. I knew it wouldn't work on the mag stripe because I didn't have a mag stripe on, but I doubt it would have worked on that reader as well. Well, that's not acceptable for fire code anyway. Yeah, you shouldn't. Because you have to have a special device. No special knowledge or device to open the door. Exactly. That's three strikes you're out in my book. Yep, yep, yep. Seems like a hat trick today. Yeah, that's pretty scary stuff. And the problem is, is that you can yell and scream all you want and mostly it falls on deaf ears, until the big New York nightclub fire where they were chaining the panic hardware together so people couldn't let their friends in the back door because it was cheaper than putting a guy on the door to read people from doing that. But, you know, till that happens. And hospitality is a whole nother beast and especially in Vegas, it's the race to the bottom. So I'm not surprised to see stuff like this. This was not my only life safety picture that I took over the week that was there. Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. This was probably the worst one though. Yeah, you know, I was in Vegas a year ago actually and I look at, you know, what kind of hardware's on the door? Like when you talk about door hardware nerds, you know, I walk up, I look at hardware and I can, when I first apprenticed, the guy who trained me, we had a little bit of a game going. If we'd walk up to a premise that we were unfamiliar with, it was a contest between the two of us to see who could identify the key way of the door as you were walking up to it, right? Which is, it was kind of fun, but it's a damn good way to learn key ways, right? Yeah, yeah, that's actually brilliant. As you're walking up to like a door, look at the cylinder and who can identify the key way first? I still do that.  Like we were in a upper scale restaurant and we were sitting out on the patio and they had a door that was closed to go from the restaurant side to the patio side. The door closer was half hanging on and there was all kinds of issues with the door, the panic hardware wasn't installed properly and all that. And I'm watching, every time someone comes through this door, they're struggling with this door and I couldn't stand it anymore. When we left, I called the manager over and I said, you gotta fix this and this is the wrong and this is what's wrong and this is the wrong. My wife's just shaking her head, but I have to. It's, you know, it's in my blood. Like a good locksmith, you have a strong sense of integrity and it holds you accountable. So yeah. And a low tolerance for stupidity. Hey, are we saying it? Are we calling it a 10? Another 10? We have to. It's a life safety thing. It's a 10. Wow. This is a first of firsts. Happy birthday. It's a trifecta or a hat trick. If only we were turning 30. Yeah, there you go. I did that a long time ago. I was going to say I'm pretty much another decade older than that, so. Yeah. If we had this last year, I'd have been turning 33, right? That would have been 33. All right. Still baby. Okay, well, Rick, thank you so much for joining us. It was a pleasure having you on the show. Make sure you join us for the next episode of Unhinged. Our doors are always open, partially because they're unhinged. If you want to be featured on a future episode of Unhinged or if you have a photo to submit like Rick did today, you can email me at Mia at doorhardwarenerds.com. Thanks for watching.


Live from San Francisco, California, the Cube. Covering MarkLogic World 2015. Brought to you by MarkLogic. Here are your hosts, John Furrier and Jeff Kelly. Okay, welcome back everyone. You are watching Silicon Angles the Cube, our flagship program. We go out to the events, this is from the noise. We are live in Silicon Valley at MarkLogic World 2015. I'm John Furrier, co-founder of Silicon Angles. So my co-host, Jeff Kelly, Big Data Analysts at Wikibon.com. Our next guest is Paolo Pellezzoli, who's the Global Head of Architecture and Global Technology Operations for Broadbridge Financial Solutions. Welcome to the Cube. Thank you. So architecture, which means you have to lay everything out. You mentioned you've got about 6,000 people worldwide, global operation. Man, you're in the thick of things. You've got to lay it all out there. What, I mean, it's a double-edged sword. You've got technology and you've got to move fast. So give us the update. What's your world like right now? It's actually interesting because we've got technologies that range back around 50 years through technologies that are being developed as we speak. So because things are rapidly evolving, it's trying to go through and make sure that we've got an applied strategy going forward and doing it at the enterprise level rather than at the departmental level. And the requirements change on a daily basis, which means any kind of traditional technologies that you would use, databases and so on, become defunct the second you actually put them in place. So we've really started taking a look at the entire stack, how we present, how we acquire data, how we aggregate data. And because we do this for the financial services industry, we have data that ranges back a significant amount of time. I mean, we have one system that has railway bonds from 1908. So it's an interesting challenge. So what is the big concern right now? What's the top conversation in your world right now? Internally to your staff, in terms of creating your operational support, DevOps, operations, developers and customers, what are the top conversations in each kind of area that you're having? What are the folks out there right now share that data? I think that regulation is a part of our industry, especially it's been increasing ever since 2008 and it's showing no signs of slowing down. In fact, I think regulation from the US is starting to percolate into other geographies.  On top of that, you do have data sovereignty and you do have security. So to be able to do this across an enterprise with quite an interesting diversity of technologies is no small feat. And you really do need to change the game in order to go through and look at it because doing it piecemeal, it'll take 15, 20 years and we don't have that time. So contrast that with the approach that you're taking and how that's going to obviously take a lot less than 15 or 20 years, you want to move much quicker. So the contrast was that we believe that the schema side of it worked well through the 80s, 90s and early 2000s. You start taking a look at things like Hadoop that came out that didn't require schema, but it was more from an analytical perspective that the latency wasn't really a requirement. The recoverability wasn't a huge requirement. That would solve only one piece of the puzzle for us. It would not really solve the fundamental problem. Can you replatform? Can you share data from multiple platforms in real time and be able to go through and get event-based analytics? Something happens here. How do I go through and percolate it to the appropriate people? With security, with asset compliance and all the other pieces that Mark Logic is well known for. Now regulation is an interesting thing. It really does have a time series function to it because as things change, if you can track what changed and who actually touched it and what it looked like before the change, that's something which we really do go through and struggle with. I think that the byte temporal aspects are huge for us. So it allows you to do things with your data. You simply couldn't do in the past or you couldn't do it at least faster than that. You could do it, but it was something which was unnatural. So you would have to create what they call an insert-only model. An insert-only model will go through and expand the size of the data that you have considerably. So it's not as economical with the byte temporal mode where it just saves the change. That's really where you go through and start saving on the overall storage and you do have the auditability at any point in time. Talk about the financial services industry generally and about how you see some of these new approaches whether it's NoSQL or Hadoop or other big data quote unquote approaches. Impacting that industry. We see that as financial services is leading the way in a lot of cases in terms of adopting new technologies, always trying to find an edge. How is both the technology and then the speed of business changing the way the financial services industry works? Financial services, it's an interesting dilemma, right? When you start talking about wealth management, they're looking for how are people performing. How is an advisor, a financial advisor giving you the appropriate advice? When you start taking a look at some of the other ones, they're a little more structured and they've got a latency aspect to them. So buy side and sell side have different drivers. But I do think that people have realized that the old way of doing it has become more expensive than it should be. You can do it and financial services typically gone through and push the envelope and whatever they try. But I think traditional relational models, because they're so stringent, you end up getting many variants of it. So you'll end up having 100 or 500 warehouses and it starts very quickly, the data lineage, you start losing it. That's one of the main things that no sequel, you do have the Hadoop side of it or the HDFS and some of the other technologies. But I think that when we start still marrying some of the database capabilities, I think that that's where we're really pushing. What are the biggest things in big data enablement are you seeing at technical levels that's enabling organizations to move faster? Is there a technology innovator or enabler that's driving all this change? What could you point to if you say, hey, that's this one, this area of innovation. Flash is a hardware, cloud, is it software, is it virtualization? Where can you highlight as an architectural view? I mean, I think about it, I think about like a building, oh, we're going to have this new concrete, this columns or, you know, I mean, is there a technology disruptor enabler for your business happening now? There were actually quite a few, I think that it's, you know, I don't think there was one standout, you know, to be perfectly honest, you've got virtualization, which has become something which people have tried to reduce the cost. Cloud, I think, is definitely something which, you know, allows infrastructure to elastically, you know, expand and contract as you need. Storage has obviously come down. I think that the application, there was so much noise out there about which one was the silver bullet. You know, I think that if you really take a look at it, the data side of it, if you don't know what to do with the data, all of these technologies are going to just go through and obfuscate it further, you know. So, when you really take a look at why would somebody move to a new technology like MarkLogic, it's really a, you know, is there something familiar that I can take with me? And the asset compliance, which is, it petrifies a lot of people and you lose it. Petrifies? Yeah, they get deer in the headlights, they don't know what to do, indecision. Yep, and they'll say for analytics purposes, it's fine, 95% is fine. It's enough for me to know which way to travel. But you can't do that with somebody else's money. You know, 10 years ago, if you said my best move is not to move at all, then you go slower, but today I think it's different. Today it is very different. You've got to move fast, get the top line. So I got to ask you on the other end is that, what are some of the KPIs that you're looking at in your business? You look at your dashboard. Is there a dashboard in your metaphor? Or maybe there is one. What are your key performance indicators of are we on the right track? Are we vectoring in the right direction for our technology innovation strategy? What are some of those metrics you look at? I think the biggest one is, it's a combination of time to market and cost. If you take a look at the cost of what we're using in the technology stack today, it's fractions of the cost of what it used to be. Making a developer be able to go through and turn around a request with the same data that they've always had in such a short period of time is, it is a game changer. What we do, it's the auditability and the regulation behind it, and the ability to go through and scale it up cost effectively is something you just can't underestimate. You need agile.  I mean, you've got to be agile, flexible, getting stuff very fast out of data that could be literally parked somewhere in the organization. Well, the thing is that people always believe that the data has to come into a central point in order to be able to ask the question. We don't necessarily believe that. We believe that. Policy-based access is critical. You have compliance overlaid on top of it. And the thing is that it's, the model that we take is really trying to go through and take the data as raw as we can take it. Don't run it through a lot of ETL functions because the second you start doing that, you'll either change the meaning of the data or you'll lose certain valuable pieces of that data. Okay, final question for you. We're on the break here. Got the crowd behind us folks. This is happening in Mark Lodgic World 2015. Hello. Hello, Sully. He's getting late today. Final question. Share with the folks out there that might not be familiar with Mark Lodgic's benefits. What should they know about the company, the product? What is something that they should pay attention to? It's actually, it's quite a long list, but if you really take a look at it, it does remove the requirement of forcing structure. So being able to go through and link data together, that doesn't fit within a table construct or the limitations of a table construct and doesn't fit within the limitations of SQL, right? Which is a structured query language that has very defined rules. Is, you know, it is totally different way of looking at how you can access data. Being able to provide that data through API layers is again something that traditional developers are comfortable with, customers are comfortable with. You know, and I think that if you can remove some of the, you know, let me massage everything to look the same, you know, I think that that's something which you have to get some of the traditional relational folks out of that mindset. Semantic modeling on top of that is, I think going to be the next major area that people look at. So good solid product, you're happy with it? Very, very happy with it, yep. Awesome. Palo, Pellezzoli, global head of architecture, broad range financial solutions, obviously architecture support and great endorsement for MarkLogic to have your blessing on that, fill the holy water on that, it's been good. And we are here live at MarkLogic World 2015's theCUBE. I'm John Furrier with Jeff Kelly. We'll be back with more wall-to-wall coverage all day. Stay with us here. We'll be right back after this short break.


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We all have tests that we use to determine whether someone is right for us or not. Does he make you laugh? Is he attractive? Can he spell or use grammar in his text messages? These are all tests that women in our community have told me that they use to tell if a man is right for them or not. Well, guess what? Men have tests as well. And these are some of the tests that men use to determine how valuable you are to them. Hi, I'm Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. Here are five tests that men use to determine whether or not you're a high value woman. Test number one is he pulls away. At some point, just about any man that you're really attracted to, a guy that you date, or a guy that you're in a relationship with, is going to pull away for one reason or another.  So here's how you fail the test.  Those are all things that will make you fail this test and make him feel like you're not that valuable, that you're not the kind of person that he wants to be with. Now here's how you pass the test.  If you do this the right way, you'll stand out from all the other women that he's ever met and you'll feel like you're special, unique, indifferent. Most women lose their minds, they absolutely lose their minds when a man pulls away. Don't be one of those women if you want to continue to see him. So if you're here with us right now, just say hi in the chat and let us know where in the world you're watching this from. It's really cool to see women from all over the world watching these live streams. So number two is he challenges your boundaries. So if it was up to most women to move things forward towards a romantic relationship, the population of the earth would dwindle down to almost nothing. That's a little bit of a joke, but in all reality, men typically are the ones that push things forward in most situations.  Right? Most guys know this.  Right? Which is what happens a lot. And then you're in our community going, is this guy gay? What's going on with this guy? We have to be like, no, no, no, he's a really, really nice guy and then you lose interest. And so this is what happens, right? So a guy has to push things forward. And what that means is that he's probably gonna push and challenge your boundaries if you want something romantic. And so here's how you fail this test.  In the short term, this may make him like you. But in the long term, he'll end up losing respect for you. And he's far less likely to value you if you do this. He's less likely to feel like your relationship material, like your girlfriend material, like your wifey material, like your any of those kinds of materials. If you let him push past your boundaries and get away with whatever he wants to get away with. Instead, you need to set boundaries.  But you need more time. You need to let him know that, right?  A hard no is like, no, I'm not interested, don't do that. And a soft no is like, Hey, not yet, right? Not yet, not yet. And so a lot of times women try to give off a soft no, but it comes off as a hard no. And so if you are interested and you are interested in that at some point, but not maybe not right now, because you don't really know him. You need more love and connection and tenderness. You need to make sure he's the right guy. Then you need to let him know in a nice way that this is the situation that you're in that you are interested in him. But yes, you're just not ready yet. It's not time yet. And if it's something that you're not willing to accept at all, you need to let him know that as well. So if you set and stick to your boundaries, he's far more likely to respect you and feel like you're different, unique and special. And that's what you want. You want him to feel like you're different, like you're more valuable than all the other women that he's dated. So number three is he sets up a date and then waits to talk to you on the date. So he waits, so he sets up the date with you and then you don't hear back from him again until the date. This is a common test that a lot of guys use, believe it or not. And sometimes this isn't even a conscious thing.  Why? Because before social media and text messaging made it so that we were able to contact each other with, you know, every single second of every single day, people used to set up dates, right? They'd set up a date with each other. And then they would just meet each other on the date. That's usually what would happen back in the day. And now people are a lot more impatient because of the ability to get instant feedback and they're just sending messages back and forth. Well, a lot of high value men still date like the old way because it weeds out a lot of women who are desperate and needy and who are trying to eat up all of his time and who need, you know, massive amounts of attention because they're not doing what I talk about and making sure that, you know, they're coming from a space of feeling like they're whole and happy and strong and worthy. And then they're, they have an abundance of connection, which are the things that you want to do. If you're not coming from that space, you might be coming from the space of being desperate and needy and clingy and trying to eat up all of his time. And he doesn't want that. He has a life and he needs someone who can fit into that life, not someone who is going to completely derail him and pull him off of course. The way to fail this test is to freak out on him, get angry at him or cancel plans at the very last minute because you haven't heard from him. Another way to fail this test is to start chasing him instead of waiting for the date or waiting for him to initiate contact again. On the other hand, you don't want to meet up with a guy if he's completely forgot about you because then you'll show up on the date and he's not even going to be there, right?  So what's the best way to handle this? The best way to handle this is to wait until the day of and then ask him if you're still on, right? Just send him a text, quick test and say text message and say, hey, are we still on? And that's it. That's all you have to do. If he doesn't respond, you don't go on the date. If you get what I'm talking about right now, say I get it in the chat. If you don't get what I'm talking about or you have some kind of question about your situation or anything, or you just want to talk to me about life because you think that it's so interesting to talk to me, go ahead and ask whatever questions you have in the chat. We'll get to it here in just a minute. We're on number four and there's five of these. These are really important. So hang in there. Number four is he checks to see if you're on his side. So this is kind of more of a passive way of testing, especially in the modern world of the war, the sexes, men are looking for a woman who can actually be on their side instead of against him.  Those are all ways to kind of destroy this thing where it's called the partnership principle of being on his side of him feeling like you're in this together, like you're going to the same place together. If you want to pass the test, support him in his dreams and goals, encourage him, talk him up around his friends and family and be his cheerleader when he needs it. I've seen men who have said that they don't believe in marriage and then they ended up getting married to a woman who shows, who ended up showing him that she's really on his side. I've seen this over and over and over again because many men in America, especially in America right now, but it's starting to happen all over the West feel like they're under attack from the media, from women and from our culture. We have a thing called the war of the sexes going on over here in the West and it is, it's pretty bad. It's pretty bad. But if you can be on his side, it can make a massive difference to him and the way that he sees you and he can feel and think of you as the type of woman that he wants to be forever, the forever one. So number five, this is the last one. He sees how you act in a situation that challenges you. So let me explain what this means. So the things that break relationships apart, they don't usually happen during the good times. It's usually during the challenging times that typically breaks people up. And a common way for men to test women is to take her to something that challenges her to see if she responds to doing, seeing how she responds to doing something that she's not really comfortable with. So this could be something simple like taking her to a sport that she's not used to playing or having her do something that she's not good at or that he's good at, but she's not really good at it.  You blame other people or things outside of yourself for not being good at something. You lose your mind.   You're like, I can't stand it.  I'm going to run and you just start running out of there. And that is a great way to fail this test. So the way that you pass this test is to remain calm, be patient, and allow yourself to learn something new. So just chill out, have fun with it, be playful, poke fun at yourself, just enjoy yourself and have a good time at what you're doing. So that's it for this one. If you really want to raise your value in a man's eyes and you want a man to love you and cherish you, make sure that you check out the Forever Woman program. You can get it for free at theforeverwomanformula.com. It's a great program. Lots of women have used it to turn their situations around and get into great relationships with great guys. Many of those women have gotten married at this point. We've had women who are married that have used it to turn things completely around for themselves. So go check it out. If you're interested, it's free. You can get access to it for free. It's called the Forever Woman. It's at theforeverwomanformula.com. So let's go through some of the questions. Let's see what people are saying today. Hello, hello, hello. Greetings. Hello. UAE Jersey Cancun. Casey says, hi, I'm from Texas. I absolutely love what you say. Well, thank you, Casey. I absolutely love that you're here and listening to us and trusting me on your journey to creating the relationship that you want to have. So thank you so much. I think you are awesome. You are awesome. You're awesome. So let's see. Anne says, hi, Matt, Maryland. I agree with you. If they do it sparingly, I'd behave the way you are saying. But when it comes, becomes a repeated behavior every month by pulling away, that is a red flag and not acceptable. Yeah. And that's something that you definitely want to pay attention to, right? Because like I said, everything's both sides, right? A lot of times we get women that'll come and they'll be like, well, why aren't you teaching men how to be gentlemen? Aren't you supposed to be teaching men how to be gentlemen? And it's funny because if you go over to the men's dating side and there's a lot of people on the men's dating side, there's a lot of coaches over there. If you go over there and look at the comments and their comment sections, it's all, why aren't you teaching women to be better women and being nicer to men and treating us with respect and all that kind of stuff. And it's so funny because everybody's just kind of pointing fingers at each other. But the reality is, is that it's a two-way street, right? We all have to learn how to connect with each other better and be a better partner to each other. That's what we want, right? We all want better partners. We want to have better partners in our lives. And the only way we're going to have that is if we're both better partners. And so it is important that you look at him pulling away. He's pulling away every month. You know, what does that mean, right? What does that mean? He's pulling away every month. Is he pulling away for a couple of days? Is he pulling away for a week? Is he pulling away for a couple of weeks? Is he pulling away and just not messaging you back? Is he ignoring you? And so you want to look at it, right? Is it normal behavior or is it something that's abnormal behavior that you should be concerned with and that it's a red flag? And so like I was talking about earlier, we've kind of, you know, gotten to this world where we have this instant gratification that comes from text messaging and messenger apps and social media channels and stuff. And so we're used to just, you know, messaging back and forth. I had a woman one time who was from Brazil and she was talking about how this guy that she was seeing pulls away every single day. And I'm like, what does, what does that mean to pull away every single day? And I was like, is, are you talking about, he disappears in the evening and then shows back up the next day and she's like, yeah, that's what he does. Is he, you know, around six o'clock, he stops messaging me and then he doesn't start messaging me until the next day again. And it's like, well, that's kind of normal behavior, right? He's got a life. He's got things to do. And so you have to figure out whether this is normal behavior or whether it's abnormal behavior and then look at yourself and say, okay, well, what do I want? You know, what's acceptable here? You know, what kind of a relationship do I want to be in? Is it really necessary for me to be in contact with the man every single moment of every single day? Or is that something that's something weird that's going on with me? Right? Because a lot of times we look at the other person, we say, okay, you know, those people are weird. And a lot of times the weirdness is actually going on with us. We got to admit it. I'm a little weird.  We're all a little weird sometimes. And there's nothing wrong with that. And we have to look at whether the weird that we have going on with us is a little bit dysfunctional or is it healthy? Is it coming from a healthy place or is it coming from kind of this neediness place, this place where you don't feel like you're enough or you feel like you're not really worthy. And so you're trying to make something happen and you need validation from this person constantly, or you don't feel good about yourself. And so that was kind of a long drawn out answer. But and yeah, it can be a red flag for sure. And you want to take a look at that. Absolutely. Jamie says, Yay, finally get to see you live. You're awesome. Thanks so much for all the advice in your program. Well, you are absolutely welcome, Jamie. Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate you. So Scarlett says your advice always resonates with me. Can you also talk about boundaries in the context of when with someone for a year or two? Well, it depends on what you're concerned with, right? So what's your concern is have things already kind of spiraled into a direction that you don't want them to go to? Is it just something small or something important that that that is a little little things here and there? So it really depends on what you're talking about here, Scarlett. So if it's something that's really big, that that had been set like the frame, you know, I talk about frames a lot. If the frame or the precedent behind the relationship behind your interactions behind everything that you're doing is already set and it's been set for a really long time can be really really difficult to kind of break that pattern and create a new one. You can do that, right? You can absolutely do that. Or if you're just talking about little things that you wish that he was doing or he's not doing or whatever, those are things that you can create frames around. I have a program called the Love Frames Toolkit where I talk all about setting frames and how to create a frame. If a guy's not really doing what you want him to do, it's very, very easy to actually start encouraging him to do those kinds of things and then seeing what he does from there, especially if it's a small thing that's not a big deal. All you have to do is wrap a frame around it and the frame can be something like this is attractive or this is hot or whatever, right? But if it's something that's a big boundary thing, like he's betraying some kind of boundary, like he lies about this or he does things about that or whatever, you can set boundaries about that, but you can also, you also want to look at it in terms of this as a person, right? And this being a person who might have this kind of thing ingrained in him. And so boundaries are kind of a big topic, especially once you're in a year or two. And so I'd need a little bit more information from you, Scarlett, about your situation and what kind of boundaries you're trying to set or what kind of situation that you think maybe you need boundaries with or what kind of behavior is a problem that you're looking at. So let's see. Carmela says, how do you slow down a man that is too eager to keep in touch too often for comfort? It was fine in the beginning, but it's starting to become taxing and time consuming again. And this is exactly what I was talking about before, right? Because we've, we've all, right? It's on both the men and the women side. Like I talked to you because I'm talking to you about these things that either work or don't work and these tests that men have, but a lot of these tests are the same for women. It's not like, you know, it's just men that are in this situation. A lot of the women that come to us are in these situations where they're doing things and they're pushing guys away. And here's one of the challenges that you're going to run into here, Carmela, is that when you start being like, hey, you're, you're contacting me too much, right? What you're doing is you're kind of pushing him away. And what that does is it creates a rubber band effect and it's going to make him want to do it more often. It's something that he needs to work on within himself and he needs to learn about. And one of the problems is it's, it's difficult, especially in your, when you're in a relationship to coach somebody on that or teach somebody about that, because then they start feeling like they're not good enough. And why are they, why is he trying to do that all the time? And I hear this women from, from women all the time, right? I always hear women that are like, how do I get men to, you know, text me every day and contact me every day? And then, and then when you do have a guy who's texting and contacting you every day, you're like, how do I get him to stop doing that? It was charming at first, but it's not anymore. And I, I hear that same sentence almost, I think I've probably heard it at least a dozen times or more now. And so you can let him know, I mean, you can tell him, you know, and, and like I was talking about with boundaries, what you do with boundaries and how you communicate a boundary is tell him what you want or tell him what you like, right? They call it kind of like a sandwich or something, right?  And then you set the boundary, which is, you know, but I've got a lot of things going on, and I can't always be talking all the time and every day. And so, you know, if I, and it might not even be a thing with him, right? It might be just for you setting this boundary and making sure that he knows that you're not going to be responding to his messages all the time. And you don't want to do it just cold turkey and just stop messaging him. But instead, what you want to do is communicate. Just be like, look, I've got a lot of things going on. And, you know, these times of the day, there's actually a book out there is called the four hour work week by Tim Ferriss. And one of the things that he talks about is setting boundaries with phone calls with people and saying, having on your voice messenger where you're like, you know, Hey, this is Carmella and I take phone calls. You know, I only respond to phone calls during the hours of, you know, 1pm to 2pm and 4pm to 5pm. If you want to get a hold of me, make sure that you contact me during those times, right? And so it's, it's basically kind of a similar thing here where you're like, Hey, look, I'm, you know, I love contacting. I love how much you like to be in contact with me. It really makes me feel special and amazing and wonderful as a woman. And at the same time, I've got a lot of things that are going on. And so I might not always be responsive to your texts, especially during the day. I have a lot of time during the day when it's really important for me to be working. And so I might not respond to your texts at all during those times. And it would be easier for me if you didn't contact me during those times. That way I didn't feel like I felt a little bit obligated or something to contact you back. And instead, we talked like during the evening or something like that, or, you know, maybe twice a week or three times a week instead of every single day or whatever thing you're trying to set up here, right? And just communicating with him.  It's just, it's a little too overwhelming for me. And it's, I just, I need a little bit more space and just letting him know that. And if he's, if he's socially smart and he's, and he understands any kind of social dynamics whatsoever, he will give you some space. And if he doesn't, this can be a test for you with him, right? To see how he kind of reacts and see what he does. And if he's getting all, it starts getting all needy and clean, which he might, if he's connecting with you out of a space of neediness in the first place, then that's a good place for you to know that he's coming from that space. So I, I hope you understand what I'm talking about there, Carmella. All right, let's see, what do we got next? Lots of people get it. I'm glad you get it. So Wanda says, I lost someone I loved because I did all the wrong things that you had explained. I can't believe it. Well, and you'll lose some people sometimes for different things. And it's just, you know, sometimes it's them. Sometimes it's not you. Sometimes it's all kinds of different things. But what I'm teaching here is how to put yourself in the best possible position, how to set yourself up in the best possible position so that you have the best chance of getting into the best relationship that you absolutely can get into so that you're setting things up right so that it's healthy so that you know what's going on so that you're protecting yourself from getting hurt for in the best possible way that you can, right? There's nothing that's absolutely certain out there, right? There's nothing, absolutely nothing that is absolutely certain out there except for within yourself being certain within yourself and, and knowing what you want and, and making sure that you get into great situations and that if it's not a great situation that you figured out as much as you possibly can. Outside of that, there's not really a whole lot that's, that's, yeah. So, all right, so let's move on. So Penelope says, hi from New Zealand, nerve your vas, you're the best. How do I stand out when dating a guy who's dating other girls? So Penelope, I like your fun talk there and so how do you stand out when a guy is dating other girls? My suggestion is that you date other guys. That's the best, absolute best, number one thing that you can do to stand out to guys is to start dating other guys as well because what you do when you do that is you create abundance and you might be thinking in your mind and I don't know you Penelope, but you might be thinking in your mind right now, but Matt, I do not want to date other men. This is the one man that I want to be with. Why can't I just make things work with him and not date anybody else? And you can and it's possible and your best chance at getting him to chase you and pursue you and value you and feel like you're different than all the other women that he meets is to stop treating him like he's the only man on earth that you want something with. You have to break out of that mindset and get into a mindset of abundance and abundance of options. There are billions of men on the planet and this isn't the only guy that you can have a great connection with. There are lots of guys and once you start connecting with other guys and start creating great connections with other guys, see it always feels like this is the only one. If there's one person and you're connected to that person, you're like, oh, this is the only one and I don't want to have to find somebody else, but if you're connecting with a bunch of different guys and you're having great connections with more than one guy, then you're like, oh, it's not that big of a deal that we have a good connection because I have a good connection with somebody else as well and you start flipping the script around. And so it's not about how do I get this one guy to see me as special and amazing. It's, is this guy special and amazing and different than all the other men that I've been meeting out there? And how is he, right? Because right now you're in this frame of he's the prize. I've got to win him over. I've got to show him that I'm different and special. And if you flip it around and you get him into the frame of him trying to prove to you that he's different and special and unique, he will automatically start thinking that you're different and you're special and you're unique. And that's what you need to do is you have to flip your mindset around. It's all about your mindset where you're at right now and you have to believe that you deserve a great guy and you have to believe that you're going after the relationship, not just the guy that you want. And so the relationship is the goal and what guy gets you to the goal is the guy that's going to win. Right. And so this is, this is the mindset you need to have. There's the goal. It's the relationship. It's this amazing relationship where you're loved and you're cherished and he sees the brilliant, amazing, wonderful you. He sees that smile on your face and it makes him feel butterflies in his stomach and he thinks, I have to win this woman over. How do I win her over? I got to do things that make her think that I'm special and I've got to woo her and I've got to treat her great and I've got to do all these great things. Right. And if he's not in that mindset, it's going to be very, very difficult for you to get into that relationship. And that's why it's better to have a smorgasbord. You must have a smorgasbord of different men that you're all choosing from. And so you want a bunch of different guys and I'm kind of running off on a tangent here, but that's what you need. That's what you need. You want guys to be competing for you, not the other way around. Right now, what you're doing is you're competing for him and you're going to lose that. And so you want to flip it around. You want him to be competing for you. The best way to find that out is to use the forever woman formula. Go to the forever woman formula.com. This whole chat thing kind of resets when I go to the bottom and then I got to go back up to the top and look at what I just went through. All right, lots of I gets it. Carinia says, hi, Matthew. Thanks for all the great advice, big fan. Well, thank you. I appreciate it. I'm glad that you appreciate my advice. So thank you so much for being here. To love, thank you says there are more women on this planet than guys. Guys have more options than we do. How many billions of people are on this planet? It also depends on where you live, right? There are some places that you can go that are super man heavy, right? There's a place called Denver. And Denver is actually nicknamed Menver because there are a lot more men there than there are women. And so women there tend to have a much easier time at dating because they have a lot more options. But the reality is, is that there's lots of dudes out there. I mean, there are lots and lots and lots and lots of dudes. And women, it's easier for them to get into a romantic situation with a man than it is for a man to get into a romantic situation with a woman. In fact, there's actually been studies done on this. And they did a study on the percentage of men and women who are celibate. And what they found is it's I think it was around like 16 or 18% of women right now are celibate, which means that they haven't physically had sex with somebody in at least a year. Men, on the other hand, is around 27%, which is like one if you meet four guys, one of them hasn't hooked up with somebody in a year. I mean, that's pretty amazing. I mean, that's crazy. And the reason is, is because a lot of women are competing for this top tier of dudes. And all these dudes are like that are at the top or just hooking up with lots of women. And then there's a whole bunch of guys at the bottom that aren't hooking up with anybody. But a lot of them are really, really good men. And so I would get out of this mindset of like, men have it easier than women do, because that is just not, that's just not true at all, right? It's not true in any way, shape or form. It's difficult for everybody right now. And it's one of those things where I wouldn't, I wouldn't, you know, if you're worried about there being more women on the planet than men, just go to a city, just go hang out in the city somewhere, because there are so many people, men and women, that you're going to find lots of dudes that are single there. And it shouldn't be a problem for you at all.    Taylor says, what about getting an ex back? What about it, Taylor? What about it? I have a whole program on it. It's called restart your relationship.  It's a program you can get for $1. Lisa says, love your advice. Well, thank you, Lisa. I appreciate it. Jem Kerr says, what if I am pulling away from him? Well, what if you are pulling away from it? Where are you going with that, huh, Jem Kerr? Sharon says, is a text periodically okay because you want to share something funny with him? A video chat at night? Yeah. I mean, well, it depends on what's going on in your situation, Sharon.  Has he been texting you? Does he initiate text normally? If he's been texting you and initiating text normally, then it's absolutely okay to send him a text every once in a while. Why?  It's two people coming together and building the relationship. It's not one person. If you're the only one trying to build it, it's a problem. If you're the only one reaching out to him, it's a problem. If he's not initiating contact with you, if he's not trying to meet up with you, if he's not doing things for you and with you, then it's a problem that you're reaching out to him because he doesn't really care and he's not really that interested. There's some kind of red flag going on there and what you're doing is chasing him because you like him and you value him really highly and he doesn't value you all that highly. However, if he's been chasing you and initiating contact with you and taking you out on dates and doing all these things with you and hanging out with you and spending lots of time with you, then sending him and initiating contact with him sometimes isn't a big deal. Getting on a chat with him at night isn't a big deal. It's not a big deal.   I hope that's clear, Sharon. So Pamela says, you're great and thank you. You're welcome and thank you. She says, I've got a guarded man because of past experience. It's taken him a while to figure out. I know he cares about me, but when will he tell me how he really cares? He has a ranch that I have not been to yet because of his religious beliefs of his grandmother. When is there a timeframe for him to bring me? Well, I would be very concerned if you had gone, if you had gone more than six months, if you've gone more than like six to eight months and he's not showing you to his family, he's not, you're not friends with his friends, he's not, you haven't seen his place, right?  There's something weird going on and so any of that kind of timeframe, if you've gone six months, eight months, a year and he hasn't gotten really serious about you, he's not taking you to meet his parents, you're not a part of his normal everyday life, there's not something normal going on, he's not talking about trying to move things forward, he's not pushing things forward with you, that's a huge red flag because it's been shown that men by around the six months to eight months period of time have figured out, there's been research studies done on this and they've figured out that men know by that time, most men know by like the eight month mark what kind of position you have in their life, right?  I hope that answers your question. Casey says, sometimes we as women can be clingy without realizing it, but it's important to kind of give them space so we don't freak them out. Yeah, guys can do that too, right? Everybody can do that. Everybody can be clingy. Everybody can be clingy. To love, thank you says they don't pay me enough attention. Well, there's probably a reason for that. You might want to figure out what that reason is so why would a guy not pay you much attention? Why would men in general not pay you much attention? There's a reason for that and so you might want to find out what that is. It could be that you're hanging out with all the wrong guys. It could be that you're doing something that really turns guys off because that could be true. It could be that you're going to the wrong places to meet men. It could be a lot of different things. So you want to figure out what that is and then figure it out and get around it so that you're in a situation where guys do pay more attention to you because they can and they will if you're doing the right things and you're connecting with them in the right way and you're around the right kinds of guys. If you're around the wrong kinds of guys, they're definitely not going to pay attention to you. If you're around, if you're doing some things that are huge red flags to guys, then you're definitely going to turn them off and make them want to run away from you. And so you want to make sure that you're putting yourself in the best possible position, which is the reason why I put together the forever woman program is so that you can understand what the basics are and how to make sure that you're getting into the best possible situation where a guy's moving towards you and he's interested in you and you're not throwing off red flags and clean, needy behavior and all that kind of stuff. So I hope that answers your question there. So Jennifer says, the man I'm seeing has stage four cancer. He recently got bad news and I haven't talked to him for a few days. I'm worried and want to check on him, but I understand he needs space. What do I do? Well, stage four cancer is a pretty extreme thing, right? That means that he's, there's a really high probability chance that he's not going to make it in the near future.  He might have all kinds of different things going on. I mean, it's one of those things like you're in a situation where it's like you're probably going to lose this guy at some point. You have to realize that and you have to be very, very aware that there's a good possibility that you might lose this guy at some point. And so if I were you, I wouldn't be so worried about it, right? About reaching out and saying something to him.  And if you reach out and say something nice to him or just ask him how he's doing or whatever it, you know, I've never had stage four cancer before, but I'm guessing that he'd probably appreciate it. And if he didn't appreciate it or he has something else going on, it's probably a good time to start de attaching yourself from him so that you don't get into a situation where you're totally devastated by whatever is going to end up happening with him, which there's a very good possibility that something devastating is going to happen with him in the very near future. And so, you know, make sure that you're taking care of yourself and taking care of your own needs and taking care of your connection needs specifically so that it's you're not, I mean, I don't know what your relationship is to this guy, how long you guys have been seeing each other or any of that kind of stuff. But if he's in stage four cancer, I mean, he's in a, he's in a bad place, you know, maybe, I don't know if it's mentally, but definitely from a physical standpoint. And so you just, you want to be very careful there in terms of how attached you get so that you're not getting devastated when he ends up leaving for whatever, you know, because he's, he's not going to make it through life anymore or because he's, he doesn't want to have to deal with the idea of having a relationship and breaking your heart and seeing you get your heart broken and all that kind of stuff, which is something that could be coming up for him, definitely if he's in that situation. And so, I mean, you can definitely, I wouldn't, I wouldn't shy away from just reaching out to him and finding out what's going on with him and just making sure that he's okay. And if he doesn't want to talk to you and if he wants to ignore you and he wants some space, that's fine, you know, just give him that space and make sure that you're building your connection with other people, not necessarily men, although maybe depending on what your relationship is to him and make sure that you're in a good space for yourself so that you're taking care of your own needs and making sure that you have a support system around you when he ends up leaving, which, you know, he could at any time. So, all right, let's see. Marie Tester says, why is it that some guys get upset if a woman is busy and lives her life and doesn't respond to text messages immediately, then play guilt trips because they're coming from a space of neediness and insecurity and feelings of low self-worth and like maybe they don't really deserve it. And so instead of admitting those things to themselves and dealing with it, they soothe themselves, right? So this, for everybody, right?  That's how most people in the world are. They have super low feelings of self-worth. They believe that they don't really deserve great things in their life. They don't deserve love. They don't deserve happiness. They don't deserve great things. And so the way that they deal with that is to do something that psychologists call soothing. And soothing, what that does is it's a way of taking care of yourself, right? It's a way of loving yourself, actually, where you defend yourself or you put yourself into situations where you can feel like you're worthy and deserving. And what you don't realize is that it's usually a very temporary soothing effect that you have on it, right? Which is why there's men and women that get into these situations where they need that constant response from somebody because they want to feel like they're worthy and so they're getting that from you. And then you stop doing it because you've got a life and you've got things going on and then all of a sudden they start feeling like you're the problem because you were the person that was giving them their drip of worthiness that they were feeling. And so what you have to do, what they have to do is they have to start believing in their own worth. They have to start becoming their own source of worthiness so that instead of getting their fix of worthiness from you, they get their fix of worthiness from themselves and they believe that they're worthy and they believe that they're deserving of everything they want in their lives. And so when then if you're there in that situation and you say, hey, I don't have time to talk right now, let's talk later, or you don't respond to them for a whole day or whatever, then they get it, right? Because they understand that you have things going on and it's not all about them anymore because when you're in that space where you're needy and you're desperate and you're clingy, it's not about you, right? It's about them, right? They are in that space and they're like, I need, I need, I need, I need and that's why they're desperate and that's why they're clingy and they're selfish and they don't realize it because that's their world. That's just how they think things are and they think that happiness comes from the outside world. They think that their feelings of self-worth need to come from the things that they have, right? Their money, whether a woman talks to them or doesn't talk to them, whether when they send you a text message, they receive one or not, right? And if you're listening to me because I guarantee there are some women listening to me that are coming from that space of neediness and cleanliness and they need somebody to respond to them immediately and the guy doesn't respond to them or he says the wrong thing or any of that kind of stuff, then they start freaking out, right? And it's a red flag. It's a red flag. This guy is giving you red flags right now and he's saying, hey, I have self-esteem issues. I have self-worth issues. I have neediness issues. I have issues where I depend on the outside world in order to make myself feel good about myself. And as long as you're with somebody like that, right, which is like we're talking about these tests here, this is a test, right? You're doing literally doing exactly what I was talking about in one of the tests.  And so this is exactly what I'm talking about. This is exactly what I'm talking about. And you are the perfect example of this situation happening in reverse where a guy's doing all this stuff to you and you're doing, hey, why is this guy doing this to me?  It's too much. It's exhausting. I need some space. And if he has a decision to make right now, which is, am I going to give her some space, which will make you value him more or go back to the levels that he was at before?  And so that's the situation that you're in. I just wanted to talk about thanks, Marie, for talking about that and asking that question so that I could emphasize that to everybody who's watching right now so that everybody could really, really get it here. So, okay, Brenda says, thanks for all your help. You are absolutely welcome, Brenda. Sissy says, hi, Matt. Great advice as always. Well, I appreciate it, Sissy. Let's see. So, let's go off of this other part that your Marie was asking about. She says, also, why do guys say they don't want a relationship just casual stuff then because they are chasing the woman constantly texting them and the woman meets up only occasionally reminds him this is casual. They run away and accuse the woman she got clingy. To me, so many more guys are appearing to be insecure in me. That's exactly what it is, right? He's avoiding anything real because he's scared of real connection. He's scared of getting hurt. So, what he's doing is he's flipping the frame. He's trying to flip the frame. He gets needy and clingy and he's used to doing this. This is a pattern in his life. He's getting needy and clingy. He does it over and over and over again and then the woman ends up losing interest in being like, what's wrong with you? Then what ends up happening normally for him is that she starts getting distant and pulling away and disappearing.  And so, that's what's going on there. And so, if you're with us right now and you're interested in getting into a great relationship and you want to attract a great guy, even if you're in a situation where you're seeing a guy and you want a relationship where a guy really loves you and he values you and he cherishes you and he sees you and he thinks this woman is the most amazing woman I've ever met in my life and I don't want to ever let her go, then make sure that you check out my free program. You can get it at the foreverwomanformula.com and go check out the program. Get yourself a copy of it. It's helped a lot of women attract great guys into their lives. Some of the women have gotten married. Some women who are married that have used the program have fixed their marriages. It's helped women get over guys, get over an exes. It's helped women get back with exes. It's helped women do all kinds of things. And so, thank you so much, everybody, for being here with me. You women who are part of our community are some of the most amazing, beautiful and awesome women in the world. So, thank you so much for being here with us today. I've got to go get going right now. I have a friend that has a pet squirrel and he said it was running around. He really wanted me to come and pet this squirrel. And so, I'm going to go pet a squirrel, but thank you so much. Thank you so much for being here with us today. Thank you for trusting me on helping you in your journey to attracting the man that you want to have in your life and getting into the relationship that you've always wanted. So, thank you so much. And I got to get going, but I will speak with you again soon. And always remember, you are worth it.


These sorts of things are incredibly interesting. Technology is not advanced enough. We can build telescopes that are big enough, precise enough. We can do two things at the same time. They are big enough to observe objects that are extremely thin because they are 13 billion light years away. You must hear this all the time, but for me it really is one of the most exciting moments for me to be able to come and visit here. All the people who are not scientists who come here, the transformation in them, they will never be the same again. One of the things that I did was I funded science centres. And one of our science centres in Edinburgh has a 3D cinema and they show a film called We Are Astronomers and it's all about the VLT.


Broadway's My Beat, from Times Square to Columbus Circle, the gaudiest, the most violent, the lonesomest mile in the world. Broadway's My Beat, with Larry Thor as Detective Danny Clover. Broadway settles down to another year's living. The days begin to drift backward again, away from you like they did last year. And it starts all over. Punch the timecard, smile at the boss, and the income tax forms can be picked up at any bank or branch post office. But there's still the dream, and it could happen on Broadway. It's the corner of the world where a million performers do their bit just for you. It's carnival, and a clown, and a girl with yellow hair blowing kisses.  But there were no dreams where I was, in a big room, the chill room, the room of the lost dead. The city morgue, the man with me, the seeker of sorrow, father. And she wanted to come home, Mr. Clover. The last letter I got from her told me how much she missed Akron. Not that she didn't like New York, but it's so big, so hard to make friends. Yeah. You want to look now, Dr. Holston? Yes. Dr. How did she die? Here. Shuck. Lean. Shuck. Where did you find her? Look, Dr. I want to know. Where was she found? The river. She's been here for three days. No, no, I want to look at her. I want to look at her face. You haven't said it directly, Dr. She is your daughter, isn't she? My daughter. Feeling all right, Dr. Yes, I just want to sit down. Sit right there. How long has Lynn been in New York? About three years. She left Akron on her 18th birthday. Didn't have much trouble getting jobs as far as I knew her last employment was as a private secretary. Private secretary? With whom? She didn't say. She just mentioned it was a real estate office and that she liked her work. Where did she live here in town? I addressed my letters to her at the Linden Apartments in Grammarcy Park. Please, Mr. Grover, leave me alone with her for a while. And know that outside the light of the winter's morning is brilliant, dazzling as it strikes the frost veiled chrome of the city.  Here it lies against the closed eyes of a man who has made the journey, found at its end, his child's death. Then his hand reaches out to the girl's forehead, draws aside a strand of hair, tries to smooth away the pain, the shock that had been frozen there, and walk away from it. Because this is an image of anguish seen too many times. Go now to the Linden Apartments, yellow ivy clinging to old marble, facing the steel-fenced winter's garden, whose paths can be walked only by those privileged for the key to its gates. Grammarcy Park, talked to a man who, among his other duties, had dispensed such a key to Lynn Halstead. You understand it's quite a privilege, our private little park. And I must say of Ms. Halstead, she availed herself of it far too rarely. For what reasons I shudder to think? Why, Mr. Clumman, why do you shudder? Well, after all, it is rather desirable to maintain residence here in Grammarcy. I could show you waitingless years long. Ms. Halstead lived here. I don't see her. Of course she lived here, but so sporadically. Weeks on weeks would go by with her apartment standing forlorn, empty, lonely. You're saying, Mr. Clumman, that she lived here, but didn't live here. Only used as a mailing address, I fear, and a kind of phone service. For what reason? I know, you shudder. Quite.  Here, from Dr. Halstead. A relative? A given to me. From department stores, book clubs, and these phone messages. This man has been calling for three days now. I keep telling him Ms. Lynn isn't in. He leaves his number, not his name. Give it to me, sir. All right, of course. No one else to give it to now? He's there. Show me her apartment, Mr. Clumman. I did like it, too. It's one of our most desirable. Now I'm free to inform the management that it's Which one isn't? Just down the hall. Here we are. Oh, what a mess. What a frightful mess. The disarray, the things left about. Quite these stains on our carpets. Blood stains, Mr. Clumman. That kind of stain? What that means, she must have been here when she, here in Gramercy Park, when she. Where's the phone? Oh, there, there under that French doll. You're going to call that number I gave you, that's that man? This is the police, Mr. Blake. Where are you? 48 and 3rd. Why don't I have a coffee pot in the window? Stay there. I'll be here, kiddo. Hey, you take cream? This is fine. Your name, Gene Blake? That's right. Oh, you must be the phone call I had a little while ago. My name's Danny Clover.  You know a girl named Lynn Halstead? Sure I do. When was the last time you saw her? You tell me first, Danny, what's the trouble? She's dad, Gene. She's not dead. I've got a date with her tonight. When was the last time you saw her? Three, no, see, four days ago. The last time you talked to her? Well, I haven't talked to her for, well, since the last time I saw her. She's dad. Cut it out, will you? This morning, her father identified her at the morgue. There's no doubt about it. I said, cut it out, will you? So that's why she's... That's why what? Well, I've been calling her, you know, to talk to her to remind her about our date tonight. She was never in. She never returned my calls. In a hospital, sick, huh? Lynn was murdered. I don't want you to tell me. I don't want you to tell me. You know her for long? August, I think it was. I didn't get to fall in love with her till September. How'd you meet her, Gene? She wanted to hear one night. Late, sat down there and had coffee. She talked to me, thought my line of pad was kind. We got along, that's all. I closed the joint, took a dancing. Either one of us did things very well or danced a conversation, things. That's why we got along so good. Did you see her often? Yeah, a couple of times a week, sometimes three. A movie, walking, a drink. It's funny though, I never took her home. She wouldn't let me. Just gave me her phone number. Do you know where she worked? The secretarial or something.  But she never said. You'll be here whenever I want you, huh, Gene? Yeah. Where am I going to go? And gather up the pieces that had once shaped the pattern of a girl's life. An apartment in Gramercy Park for mail, for phone messages, for death. Her wandering onto a man who then walked with her, danced with her, loved her. A father who had seen her lying in the morgue. And against them, the barrier of secrecy, the girl had woven out of the city's darkness. Not to tell them where she worked, to give them only a phone number, a mailing address against their sudden need of her. And take what Gene Blake has given you, among other things. The name of a building, the equitable building. Find it in the 40s on Madison. Try it. And after many real estate offices, and receptionists who lip were not moist enough had to be moistened again before answering the policeman. After the long parade of friendly real estate brokers with the bone crusher hand class, and the sorrow of not knowing a girl named Blin Halstead, find the man who did know her, whose private secretary she was. John Martin, real estate. Don't look anymore. We'll find you a home. And I mean it, Mr. Clover. I'm dedicated to it. Why, it's the passion of John Martin's life, finding the right home for the right people. It must be gratifying when you do, Mr. Martin. Oh, it is. Let me touch you, it is. That photograph in your desk, Mr. Martin. Yeah. Your family? Yes. Oh, I like you for that, Mr. Clover. I like you for taking notice of something like that.  Take a good long look at it. No. Fine-looking boys. Yes, auntie. This woman is Mrs. Martin. My doll. My sister, my mother, my wife takes care of me like I was a baby with a colleague. And now you were saying about Lynn. We found her in the river, shot to death. She lay in the morgue three days before anyone identified her. Someone finally did, huh? Yes, her father, Dr. Stephen Halstead. He came from Akron to take his daughter home. She'd written him, she wanted to go home. Go know a girl. Go know a girl who works for you day in and day out. Takes your dictation. Reminds you it's a wife's birthday. Trudges across the street on her own time to bring you coffee, a snack. Then police find her in the river. You'll know them. You didn't know she wanted to go home? Oh, it's like a boat from the blue, Mr. Clover. I thought Lynn was happy here working for me.  Yeah, but something I said before, Mr. Martin. Lynn was in the morgue for three days. No one came to identify her. Oh, you're saying that I should have done that. A girl as beautiful young as Lynn, she takes three days off. I'm not the man to question such whims. She could have been gone a week or a month, her job would have still been here for her. Well, there are other private secretaries. You're kidding. Non-like land, why is she? Oh, excuse me, please. John Martin, real estate. Oh, yes, yes, yes, he's here. Oh, you're Mr. Clover. Thanks. Yes? This is Dr. Sinski. It's called every real estate agent in the Ecuador building, Danny. I'm in the emergency ward. Get down here. I'm busy, I'm sure you're busy. So am I. It'll all keep just get down here fast. Dr. Sinski? Very good. Dr. Sinski? Hello, Danny. Never stops, does it? All right, just tell me what happened. The fur coat over there on the chair, she was worrying when she was brought in here at 10 o'clock. And under it, the nightgown she has on, wandering around the street that way. What happens to people, Danny? Who is she? Who is she? Wait, Miss, can you hear me, Miss? I want you to tell me your name, Miss. Name? I want you to tell me again, Miss. Lynn Halstead. Listening to Broadway's My Beat, written by Morton Fine and David Friedkin and starring Larry Thor as Detective Danny Clover. In homes all over the country, everything stops but the laughter when it's Jack Benny time. Jack, as usual, comes into the weekend blithely writing for a fall at the hands of his fun-loving gang. You can be sure you'll get it when Mary, Dennis, Rochester, Phil, and Don go to work on him. Enjoy Jack Benny time tomorrow night and every Sunday night on CBS Radio. The new year has taken hold now, and already Broadway scurries to quicken its passing. There are ways to do that. Add more neon to burn away the night times, more masters in the spectaculars to wink away the long darkness. And the illusions? No new ones, kid. Last year's models. Heated up and with a new paint job, no one know the difference. Need an illusion, kid, to pass the time for free? Just reach in the bag. Every color, every size, faded a little, worn a little. But at these prices, what do you expect? Big red rose all dewy with tears? Reach in, kid, take your pick, and hurry, because Broadway's waiting in line. But the lost girl who had wandered a city drifted on winter's wind, this was no illusion. Nor was her slow still dying. I tell you this, Danny, this girl could have stayed alive, even with the bullet wound that is in her. You mean she wanted to die? No, no, I don't think so. I think what made her get out of whatever bed she was in, that made her walk in the cold only in the nightgown and the coat, what made her do that was something else. Shock may be here, hurt may be a memory. You're saying that if she'd stayed where she was, she wouldn't have to die. What else am I saying? The wound had been tended to. The bullet removed three, four days ago, professionally. The healing had already begun to take hold. It was not the work of a clumsy man, Dan. It was the work of a professional, a doctor. You're sure of that? Some things I know, Danny. I'm saying to you, this girl undid what was done for her. Can she be moved? Yeah, it won't matter. Put her in the room upstairs. All right. We've been going all around it, Danny. We haven't let ourselves dwell on what she told us. That she was Lynn Halstead? That she was Lynn Halstead. I'll make a call. Dr. Halstead? The man who called another dead girl his daughter? That's right. Tell him to get here quickly, Danny. And what? Nothing. Just tell him to get here quickly. One more thing, doctor. What? Don't talk to any reporters. I don't want this to get out. Danny, please get this girl's father here quickly. You should only explain to me, Mr. Clover, why you asked me to come down here after all. You'll get all the explanation in need, Dr. Halstead. Very well. Is it? Never mind. This is the room. Go ahead, doctor, on the other side of the screen. Lynn. Hello, Lynn. It'll be all right now, Danny. Of course it will. All right now? Yes, I won't go away again. I waited. It was so long. It was just a little while, and then that's no more than an hour. It seemed, seemed. Don't talk, Lynn. Lynn, my daughter is dead. Yes, I'm sorry. This is my daughter. This is Lynn. That other girl, the one in the morgue, who is she? I don't know. I've never seen her before. Well, it's over. Suppose you'll have to do something about me. Instruction of justice, doctor. There'll be something to be charged with. You want to talk with me now? Outside. All right. All right, doctor. I got to New York four days ago. I came here to bring Lynn home. I found her apartment house. And I found Lynn. She'd been shot, doctor. Did you? I found Lynn. She was dying when I got to her. I didn't shoot her, Mr. Global. You can think so. I don't care. I really don't. If you want me to say I shot her, and you want to charge me with that, it's all right. If you want me to, I'll say I did. Just tell me what happened, Dr. Houston. She'd been shot. She was barely conscious. Tell you, who shot her? No. She cried when she saw me. That's all. Then she went into shock. After that, she just babbled about her childhood, about her home, about the faraway years. And you, a doctor, you removed the bullet, treated it? Yes. I didn't know whether she was going to live. I just sat beside her and waited for her to say the person's name who shot her. There were phone calls and people knocking on the door. I never moved from her side. But she never spoke the person's name who shot her. Well, how'd she get away from her? When I came to the morgue this morning, Lynn was gone when I got back. I guess she wandered around looking for me or looking for something. I don't know. Why did you come to the morgue? Those phone calls, those people at the door, I suddenly realized that one of them might be my daughter's assailant. But go on. I'm a doctor. I've been in morgue before. There was a good chance to be an unidentified girl in your morgue. There was. I identified her as Lynn because I wanted to keep Lynn alive. You did all that. You could have gone to the police. I'm here now. And you'll do what you have to do. What do you want, Gino? Well, at least look at me when you ask me, what do I want? The way you stand at the window, staring out into the nowhere and the beyond gives a person chew blames. Sorry, Gino. My eldest Tina does the same thing, a stare from cold windows. What am I to do with you two? Oh, I'm looking at you, Sergeant. I ask again, what do you want? To give you things. Like that Dr. Holstead is now being held by the DA for arraignment. Go ahead. Thank you. The girl in the morgue whom Dr. Holstead called his daughter has been identified. This time for sure. Oh? A Miss Lily Follett, the frequenter of bars where there was frequent mayhem.  It was there she was shot from there, cost into the river. Several characters are now being held on suspicion of her mother. Anything else? The rundown on the true Lynn Holstead, the girl who- Brief it, Gino. Who goes without saying. Miss Holstead left Akron arrived in our city three years ago. This checks with her father's testimony. While here attempted all the things bright out of found girl's attempt. Drama school, modeling. What else? What else is that our checkers have discovered where Miss Holstead was staying when she was not staying at the Linden apartments? Oh. Indeed. Our checkers having gone over Miss Holstead's place at the Linden with fine tooth and comb came up with a commuter's ticket to Long Island in the effects. And to Long Island they went. You want them to tell me what they found, Gino? A cottage, small, quick-sounding highway owned by Miss Holstead. Nice going for a secretary to maintain two residences. Nice going to you too, Gino. You understand everything now, officer? I think so. I can go over it for you again if you want. I'll be OK. Use this phone. I'll listen in on the extension. Go ahead. Try to act heard, officer. I'll try, Lieutenant, but I've never been shot. John, it's Lin. Lin. Lin Holstead, where you left me. You know where I am, John. Wait. All right, Lieutenant. Just fine. Sit down, Mr. Martin. I said sit down. Where's Lin? Dead. I don't believe you. That's up to you.  That's funny. She's dead. Where is she? In there, in her bedroom? You want to see her? Died after she called me, huh? You want to see her, Mr. Martin? No. No, I never could stand aside. Well, I guess I'll be going, Mr. Clover. I guess the papers will tell me the where and when about the funeral, huh? Don't go, Mr. Martin. Why not? Lin's not in her bedroom. She died hours ago. I don't get you. What are you doing, playing crazy games?  She is here. She isn't here. She's dead. She isn't dead. Who called me, anyhow? A police woman. A police woman? Well, be proud. Funny, funny game, you policemen play. Why'd you come here, Mr. Martin? I'm a sucker for phone calls. A girl calls and tells me she's alive. I get happy about it, and I call a cab. That's not the reason. Well, read my mind for me. All right. You came here to finish what you started out to do, to kill Lin Halstead. I got to take this from you.   Tell them the same thing. What's on your mind? You didn't know whether Lin was dead or alive until just now, did you? You just knew the girl who was first identified as Lin wasn't really her. You told me she was. I believed you. Why shouldn't I believe you? You didn't believe me the first time I talked to you. You knew the girl dragged out of the river wasn't Lin, because how could Lin have gotten to the river?  Shoot a girl, and there's no news of the shooting. Just waiting. And a girl is identified as Lin Halstead, and you knew it wasn't Lin Halstead at all. All you could do was wait. What are you mixing me up in this for, anyhow? I got a family. You had a family when Lin Halstead walked into your office. She was a beautiful girl, wasn't she? I told her that. How much were you paying her as a secretary? Well, she was a good secretary. I paid her $75 a week. I guess she could have afforded her place here at the Linan Departments and that. She started at 50, but I raised her at 75. But how could she afford to buy that cottage in Long Island? I thought about that, Mr. Martin. I asked myself a question. If a real estate broker has a friend and he wants to keep the friendship quiet... All right. All right. All right, I gave her the house. But she gave it back to you, didn't she? Everything in it. Because she found a boy she fell in love with. Love? That's love. What she had with that soup slinger in that 10-seat restaurant? She told you to sell it. Do anything you wanted with it. She didn't want any strings attached to you anymore.  That's love. What she had with that soup slinger? Cheap movies? Walking in the park? That's love? Listen, I'd been through it when I was a young punk. You think that kind of stuff was for Lin? Saw you killed her. I thought I did. I'd sweated through it for four days I did. Let's go. She walked down on me. You think that's fair? Sure, I killed her. What do you think I was anyhow? A punk? Some young punk? What do you think I was anyhow? Broadway's quiet now. The hour without color. Six o'clock hour. The hour of going home. But in a while, the night will dip down and touch the street. There'll be fury again. A rack and roar and crowd. The puppet dance into a screaming furnace of light. It's Broadway, the gaudiest, the most violent, the lonesomeest mile in the world. Broadway. My Beat. Broadway's My Beat stars Larry Thor as Detective Danny Clover, with Charles Calvert as Tortaglia, and Jack Krushen as Muggevin. The program was produced and directed by Elliott Lewis, with musical score composed and conducted by Alexander Courage. In tonight's story, William Conrad was heard as John Martin, and her Butterfield as Dr. Halstead. Featured in the cast were High Everback, Joyce McCluskey, and Bob Bruce. If you like Arthur Godfrey, you'll love King Arthur Godfrey's Round Table. It's in session every Sunday afternoon on most of these same CBS radio stations, bringing you the best moments from all of Godfrey's weekday sessions. There's music, song, and fun with Parthagy and all the little Godfrees when King Arthur Godfrey's Round Table holds open courts Sundays on CBS radio. Phil Anders speaking. And remember, those lovable rascals, Amos and Andy, are here every Sunday on the CBS radio network.


Thank you very much. Thank you very much, Joy, and thank you very much for having us this morning. And thank you for calling us together with these very equal panelists. I would like to say from where I sit, we are much better than us here, and especially on several parameters. One, you could say that the path is small, but you need to see where the path is leading. A small path at least there is much worse than a bumpy one at least with a better place. So, last year it seemed like things were better, but what was insignificant are things were better. One, I want to look at the policies that were there then, and especially looking at the policies that are subsidies, for example, fuel. Yes, on one side you could argue it's better because the prices are lower, but to what extent? You cannot manage an economy official for too long, and therefore on that front I don't think we are in the right direction last year. I believe, yes, now this may be tight, and we may have to tighten our belts slightly for the time being, but the direction of the economy is what we need and we desire. Because we believe, after tightening the belts that we are doing now, the steps we are making, however small, are in the right direction. On the second front, I would say we are much better in terms of parameters, because I want to look at the economy two-sided. One in terms of economic parameters, but also in terms of GDP in the pocket. Because many times, people like us here in the panel, who are on that side of the economy in terms of profession, sometimes we talk about parameters only, and then we forget these parameters being something to people. And therefore I want to divide it in two ways. On the parameters front, because these are not figures that I make as the leader in your government. On the parameters front, I want to look at two things. Economic growth and inflation, and also debt. In regards to inflation, I think it's easier because what we have already talked about here. Last year's inflation, at a time like this, was almost a debt stricter per digit. Currently, our inflation is around 6.7%. In fact, last month it was 6.7%. The Kenyan economic benchmark that we set for ourselves, in terms of inflation, is 5% then with a burden of 2.5 in the site. And therefore it is between 2.5% to 7.5%. Currently at 6.8%, we are within our own targets, which we were not within that benchmark last year. On the side of the other parameter, which is economic growth, this room, when I look around, I have seen almost everyone here has a smartphone. And therefore it will not be very hard to get information, not Kenyan information, but also from OnePan, from IMF. We are in year 2023, and I do want to improve upon all of us to look for the data itself. That Kenya in the first quarter grew by an average of 5.3%. First quarter of 2023. In the second quarter, the data is just out. We grew by 5.4%. If you look at all the economies of the world, in those two quarters, Kenya was actually the 29th fastest growing economy in the world. Those are facts. I'm not generating them now because you can actually fight them. And the other parameter, of course, is debt. Debt, in terms of the economy, you may use to miss a debt in terms of the absolute. But it is more advisable to miss a debt subject to something. Because even as when you're going to borrow money in a bank, you don't have to go to borrow an absolute figure. You borrow money based on some parameters around yourself. And therefore in terms of debt, it is more prudent to miss a debt as a factor of GDP. If you look, for example, at the deficit side of the debt, because deficit accumulated is what then becomes perfect debt. Last year when we came in a time like this, our deficit to GDP ratio, our deficit to GDP was actually around 7.2%. When we came on board, we reduced to that in our first half of the matter. And currently as we talk, the budget that we're implementing, we are at 4.4% deficit to our GDP. So in terms of parameters, it is good. But also because I live in Kenya, I have to admit that there are many, several points of improvement that we could have. Because an economy that grows in terms of parameters must be felt in the pockets. And one of the predicaments or the hidrances of that, number one is inequality. We may have an economy growing, but growing in some certain sectors, probably not cutting so many people. And therefore in that regard, Joy, I believe we have a room to improve in terms of creating a more egalitarian society, a more equal society, and I think we are here and there. Thank you very much. All right. Thank you for trying to convince us, but I believe in the second round of questions where I have to share the audience, because also you do chair the budget and appropriation committee. Probably you can break it down for us. What do we need to do for our economy to stabilize and start to feed the people whom we are calling the hustlers with our transformation agenda? Thank you very much, Joy, again. That's a question that needs a week to answer, because basically we are talking about all the interventions that we need to do to make Kenya a better place. And most of the time when I attend such an interview, I actually don't come to the same side. I come so that we try to look for a solution, because whichever way, whichever seat you have now here, or in leadership, whether in government or otherwise, you are a Kenyan. And a much better Kenya is better for a president, a liberal opposition, and everyone else in between. And therefore, I come with my thoughts in that regard. And I want to break it down into two things, Joy, because however much we may try to run away from parameters of the economy, we go out and we get ourselves there, because there are certain ways of measuring whether an economy is doing well. And even if we say GDP is not eaten, unfortunately that is the only way that reaches the economy. And I want to look at it in both in two ways so that I give my thought on where we can improve. And I want to look first of all GDP in terms of the income side of it. And pinpoint where we could improve and what we are doing out there. And I want to look at GDP number one as a summation of our consumption as private people, and investment, and also government itself as a consumer, and also in modern exports. Mostly in class we say C plus I plus G plus X minus M. And this makes sense beyond the excess and the M's and the rest. Because for an economy to grow, you have to grow the variables. One of the variables you have to grow is private consumption. But then private consumption is an element of private income. So people have to have money for an economy to grow, and especially when you want to grow an economy through that parameter. On the other side of investment, it is also a part and also a parameter you can only do in government savings also. So to cut the long story short, I believe we have a loan in terms of a lot to do, especially to cut the last part of what I talked about. The last part of imports and exports in Kenya has been negative for almost our entire existence. We must reverse that threat of having exorbitant imports in a situation where we have very little exports. To do that, we are already doing number one is to substitute the imports that we usually have. And as I said, I am trying to break down a very huge question so that I make sense of it. So to do that you have to do import substitution, that is what we are doing in terms of work. Because however much we want to grow a very robust economy, we cannot pride ourselves in growing an economy where people are not even full secure. And therefore on that front of import substitution, we have been more into the terms of food. And currently, as you know, we are not likely to import food. For example, we are doing our best to grow all the other parameters around food. But also to cut the other side, it's a huge question also. The other side of import substitution, we are not looking to grow the economy. Kenya is stratified into three. And one of the issues that we are discussing today is part of it in terms of IT and digital economy and all that. Kenya, number one strata in the base of our economy, is what we call our Greek, agriculture or our primary production. Primary production in Kenya is agriculture, is mining, is fisheries and everything that is around primary production. What are we doing out there? You already know, I don't want to talk about what you usually talk about all the time. We all know about fertilizer subsidy and we all know that our food in terms of production has greatly improved. The other point is on industry. Because I want to stratify Kenya that is primary production and secondary production and tertiary production. In terms of industry, we are actually much behind in terms of Kenya because we need to have done much more in terms of industry because we create more quality jobs around that sector. And of course, lastly is what we must do in the service sector, which is tertiary and primary more broadcast here. Because I see we have time, our day around the digital side of the economy and around the opportunities they are in. Now, this is the paradox that we have to face as policy makers and as Kenyans. We must talk about production and productivity. Because many times, a country like Kenya focuses on labour-inducing production because we want to make every Kenyan part and parcel of the growth. But then you realise this is the paradox that most of the labour-intensive production has low productivity. If you look at Kenya as an economy, we project to have an economy of 16 trillion Kenyan citizens by June of next year. That 16 trillion, the base that is primary production, accounts for 18.2% of our GDP. I want to go sequentially so that we see this paradox. The side of industry accounts for 16.8% of our GDP. Service accounts for 65% of our GDP. Now this is the paradox. The primary production that accounts for around 18% of our GDP employs over 65% of our workforce and employs over 70% of our local Kenyan. So we must come to a point where we must distinguish the production we want to have and also the productivity. Because yet it is good to have our Kenyans working and having jobs. But at the same time, we must create an environment where we also have productivity per parcel. And I want to draw this question to you, Torin, on Nidakigari. Maybe in a household of 10, a household of 10 people, 10 people who are able to work, their father has 100,000 children, would you rather have a family of a father earning 100,000 or a household of 10 each earning 15,000? I want you to do that, Mark and all the other people here. So that we now try to unravel these paradoxes. Between having, yes, creating opportunities in labor intensive, but on the other side, these first countries that we are having and people who are very, can be very productive in an opportunity, also playing a part in this higher productivity barriers. Because across the world, the task here aside is more productive, but unfortunately, it doesn't create as many jobs. Okay, to answer your question real quick, I'll say because 15,000 is not taxed in Kenya. So I would say 10 people earning 15,000 tax free. But if it's one person and he has to be taxed any 100,000 children, then that's going to bring it down to even way less. So, but then at the end of the day, we all want or we all prefer that every Kenyan has food that they're putting on the table, no matter the kind of background they have, whether or not they're the house or the have nots.