Hey you guys can you guys get me all in yes girl I'm serving you a Krusty the Clown this is why I don't like to wear my puff like this I don't like to wear a high puff cuz I think I look like Krusty the Clown anyway y'all we won't be doing our hair today but we will be doing I will be doing my nails can y'all see my feel like there's a glare hold on I hear some background noise it's I'm on hold with my job because I gotta figure out my email stopped working on my phone and I need that that's vital for me so I'm gonna be changing the nail polish on my nails because first of all I messed up my nails it's a pretty color a plum color eggplant but I messed up my nails while I was leaving y'all the camera and drop anyway I messed up my nails which is not good so I'm here to repaint them and we gonna chit chat now I bought this beauty 360 advanced nail polish remover I love this thing you just put your finger in there wiggle it around it all takes the nail polish straight off so let me show you what colors I'm thinking of hell I may do two of them so ratchet I have this neutral nude I don't know if it's nude this is old school Lily at Opal station y'all what are y'all know about that I had to get this on eBay old school they don't sell cotton candy anymore this is what Tina said is boring girl then I have this blue color tonight pretty and I have this hot pink yeah I'm gonna do this blue so let me go ahead and get the nail polish off yeah y'all so I need to talk with these people cuz I thinks bye bye I need to have my damn work email on my phone because of the time difference between myself and my team I mean I'm on Mountain Standard Time a lot of people on Eastern Time so literally at 5 sometimes at 5 o'clock in the morning I have emails coming in I mean I ain't answering them but you know I need to have that ability to at least look at it and ignore your ass so y'all if they call me back I just left a message for they help this kind of the answer so anyway y'all what's going on this is gonna be kind of a short chit chat because they want to take me that long to print my nails you see that quick they come off my nails are kind of long but I didn't want him cutting them so anyway girl I've been looking at some crazy YouTube videos I've been looking at a lot more of lovely Ti those you who followed her she's a gossip gossip youtuber but her her content has really come a long ways now I am not looking at all the drama between her and who is that the wine lady it's her name Tasha and I guess Courtney be I'm not looking yeah I don't pay attention to that stuff I don't if you do more power to you but I rather look at someone detangling their hair than look at all that madness anyway a lovely ti did post a video a couple of days ago in regards to Beyonce's ex driver son extrovert ex drama accused her of witchcraft my girl what else is new what's what's the real team we all know beyond that look I shouldn't say the expression since a quarter of my subscribers are from Houston or living Houston but yeah I mean her ex drama came up with this of course after she was fired or let go I don't know she's all over drums for her she no longer in Beyonce's band I should say but she was saying how Beyonce was on all this crazy stuff she has a video the you the drama I haven't seen all of it cuz she seems a little you know what I shouldn't be like that cuz I'm gonna say she seems a little touch she may not be touched that's the first thing we want to accuse someone of being when they come out with these accusations that they're crazy and that's something that we probably shouldn't be rushed to judge you know another person on but I have to kind of like it for the side well besides the fact that she's accusing Beyonce of being a witch oh she was basically saying how Beyonce killed her cat or Beyonce put a spell on her and caused her cat to die now let me tell you this I absolutely believe that people can put spells on you absolutely I do you serious in from the country yes people can hex you hold on y'all people can't do that and sometimes you can feel when someone has some weird energy going on with them so do I believe that Beyonce or is a witch no however I do believe they dabble they dabble in witchcraft and a cult I really do so I think that once you become successful then those power to be like okay you successful now what are you gonna do for us I really do feel that way now I don't I don't know if everyone is like that but we all know Holly weird that is that's the game yeah let me go wash my hands because you know how you get that chalky feel afterwards girl apparently Beyonce is out here snatching up dogs and cats I'm like she got she got more things to be doing doesn't she like no she has to rehearse and get her lace rags together I mean anyway y'all so yeah um let me keep my phone on yeah hold on let me do one coat this blue let me see y'all I don't know if I like this okay maybe I do girl so my love for British TV anyone else love British you you can't you can't comment if you from the UK I mean you that doesn't count but any I'm just kidding any of you really really into British TV I will say that they really know how to do crime TV crime drama right now I watched well y'all know I was been watching how to get away with murder right and I'm done with that oh and now the next season is on yes and I'm all for it it's a little slow but I'm okay I'm okay with being slow and so yeah don't you think Frank is fine Frank is uh he's on the show and he's one of the few men who looks good with and without a beard y'all when I saw him with on the episode where he actually shaved that beard I was screaming I'm like oh God please don't do it then I was like oh please do yes he looks good y'all and he is 52 oh yes he looks good doesn't he look good yeah anyway girl stop lusting so anyway I'm watching that gets me of course and y'all know I told y'all I stopped watching I stopped watching AHS American Horror Story and sure enough apparently the coven holes are back I don't know what you I shouldn't say oh you know what I'm talking about the witches up back I'm like yeah I'm not doing it I'm not doing it anyway I told y'all I'm not doing it so then when it comes to British TV I'm now watching Broadchurch which is good now at first y'all I must have a person I mean I can I can of course get accents I'm not you know how everyone I started to watch the show Happy Valley which is also over there I couldn't get the accents the accents it was almost like they were mumbling their words and so I didn't watch the first the first episode because I don't know what the hell they're seeing so it took me a while and I'm like okay I get it I get it so yeah and like you know keeping up with appearances I can understand all of them but Happy Valley I had a hard time and but Broadchurch is okay one of the main actors I believe is Scottish so pretty you know straightforward accent in my opinion but yes I really am enjoying that show y'all should probably look up a little bit huh so you have to see me um my job didn't even call me back this is pretty how do you like that yeah that's pretty girl looks a little ghetto but it's pretty um oh so when I was watching Broadchurch the first season West from how to get away with murder made a little cameo and I was like I don't know what was English I had the um I had the fast forwarded a few times I was like I had no idea he's English he has a really good American accent cuz some people you can tell I know when Eardice Alba was an obsessed with I've seen that movie like 500 times web excuse me Beyonce the Illuminati Queen herself when they were arguing that seeing where she thought he was cheating on her and where arguing his accent came out full throttle y'all or something I really wanted to talk to y'all about girl why what's the point of having dogs if you keep them outside all the time I mean these people keep their dogs in the backyard all the time I think they're puppies though they probably tearing their stuff up you know you your ass would go to the pound in a minute you already know I'm not a pet person I do I barely do this fish oh real quick um did y'all see there's this picture of okay it's not funny there's this is why you can't believe everything you see on the internet okay so there is this picture floating around with Ken Whitaker and Forrest Whitaker and they're like who would have known that these are two different people and I'm looking at it and turn in my head I'm like they're both Forrest Whitaker both pictures he has that eye you know he got that little eye oh you know whatever that lazy eye due to a medical condition I'm not being funny and I'm like but do they both have the eye I don't know who the hell is Ken I don't know Ken Whitaker so I had a couple of friends sharing and apparently they're both actors and they both look alike Ken is is is he older they're only two or three years apart but y'all you cannot believe everything you see on the internet because they're from my hometown they're from Longview right and I actually am classmates with their cousins and so I'm like I never heard them talk about Ken who the hell is Ken I never heard them mention Ken being an actor and all this and sure enough so I'm from Longview forwarded or share the picture and it's the same person they got 5,000 cousins living in East Texas and one of the cousins came on and said no Ken and Forrest you can tell their brothers but they don't look this much like I know a lot of y'all are in this one group the red table and the red table is I don't know what do you what do you want to call it is it a podcast what is it y'all it's a show with Jada Pickett her mom who is beautiful and her daughter and so they have guests on and they talk about very important discussions but there's also a Facebook group called the red table so I'm in that group and sometimes it can be a little ratchet and then the wife cold group girl when I tell you when I want when I want to feed my drama luma I go in there now every now and then I'll give advice you know whatever but most of the time I'm lurking and reading and being like oh large girl bless your heart so someone posted yesterday I'm not gonna give all details that's actually tell you something how ratchet this group is there's actually been this is why you shouldn't share too much online do not overshare don't tell people all your business there are a couple of women who have at least one in particular remember who have shared that they cheated on their husband why did someone cut go they visited her her profile right contacted her husband and said screenshot of everything she said and basically it was like your wife is cheating on you here's a screenshot blah blah blah I'm like oh my oh sis you both as hell hold on y'all this is pretty fun so yesterday a woman shared oh no she basically posted as a question and I didn't know if it was a rhetorical question are we supposed to answer this or we supposed to think about it so she was basically like what would you do if your husband said he was going out to the store and then he disappeared for five years I'm gonna wait a minute so your husband told you he was running to the store to get some bananas and some cool because we know what he about to do and he never just came back so she goes up and say what you do if your husband left for the store and he never showed up and five years later he pops up he tells you he misses you he's sorry he was immature at the time he had some growing to do and now you're a single with a small shower what would you do what type again and I'm supposed to answer this cuz I'm doing a damn thing if someone was that could you imagine what that woman went through and I didn't look at the comments cuz I was like I'm not about to be sucked into this I'm like oh my god so yeah no I mean know yourself worth ladies I mean you were really entertained someone who did not care enough for your feelings and left you hot and dry with no communication you had no idea and I think are they legally still married I mean she said he went missing for five years. Girl please if my husband did that I would have a party. Y'all I'm playing look I ain't got I need to stop playing I ain't got some nail polish on this no I'm just kidding girl I'm just kidding um yeah no that would be a problem and so there was also another lady and I don't know which group this was I think this was the red tablegrove Lord single moms versus married moms now unfortunately I've been in both situations been a single mom and of course now I'm married so there was a young lady that posted basically she was it was almost like a vent slash suggestion I don't know what you will call it basically she was like you know being a single mom is hard I've been doing this for a while I have five kids I mean it was a long paragraph but to summarize it she basically said that two things that caught my eye basically mentioned that you know single parents should get extra days off or yeah like extra days off and single parents should also get paid more because you know at least when you're married you have someone to help you let me tell you something and I've told my husband this when I knew when we got married I let him know and I told y'all I was single a single parent not for a long time but enough to get a whip of it and Jamie was young he just turned three years old which is a very girl very challenging age I think any ages challenging let's just be real so I told my husband I'm like I'm 10 times more tired now here with you than I was single and with JB 9 when it was just JB and I all I had to worry about was him and I a small apartment we did a little thing on the weekend and that's it just because you're married doesn't mean that your significant other is going to help you a hundred percent on everything and I didn't respond to that now let me just let me just say this I wouldn't trade it for anything absolutely I love my husband and he does help me around the house but what I'm saying is that in addition to managing the house I'm managing the house bills and anything that has to do with the house you know fixing his lunch and girl torque sections and torque sessions I mean so it's a lot more excuse me it's a lot more work like one lady said her friend has to even ask her husband for money like that's how tight it is and he's basically and I know my girlfriend has this problem too having a husband is almost like having another child so instead of having two kids you got three and you know a big a big man child so and you know I'm sorry but I don't know what her background is but you don't get rewarded for having babies you don't you don't get a prize for having babies that is your responsibility they didn't ask to come into this world and I told you I was there by myself for a while they didn't ask to come into this world so you do everything that you can to revive for your child absolutely there's gonna be some rough times I can only imagine with five children but me and married I have that financial stability but girl when we first got back together and I had to get into because this is new for me y'all being married having a child this is new it is hard as hell so don't assume that I mean basically you trading one thing for the other is a long story short is what you're doing so sometimes I see this narrative from both sides actually from both married married moms and single moms you just can't compare your struggles we just know that everyone is struggling to a certain degree you know what I mean no one has it off you know worse than the others so everyone is has their own issues you know we don't know what that married couple is going through and what that woman is go hell she may want to be single without the foolery that she may be going through same thing with a single parent you don't know what they're going through a single parent you know they may have a desire to have a partner to help them financially and to help them mentally because I will say that's two things mentally I don't feel as drained and of course financially but girl don't be betting on it don't be betting on that extra person to help you like they said they're gonna do cuz hey it is what it is so all right you guys my nails are done I like them I have to clean up some a little bit but isn't this cute but these are cute huh very very very pretty and I'm happy about it good about this I'm good about this all right y'all that is it for this chit chat and the thing about this color these are the step one simple colors and they dry really really fast like my nails are dry my nails are dry completely dry so that is it y'all hopefully the next video the next video would be a vlog because I'm not doing my hair this week now I will be doing my hair next week so look forward to a look out watch out for a couple of hair masks videos and I'm gonna redo that flex your rod and yes your girl will be sleeping on them I'm gonna redo that flex your rod with the Lottie body collection so that is it everyone thank you so much for watching and thank you as always to all my subscribers take care


Okay, Argos, hope you guys are doing well. This is Kelly from House of Argos. If you're new, please do smash that like and subscribe button and thank you for all of the subscribes. I can't believe we hit the 30,000 mark. That is so awesome, so, so, so, so excited. Yeah, so this is Argos channel. If you haven't been here before, welcome and welcome everyone coming back. Everybody in the chat, hello. This is for Virgo Sun, Moon, Rising, or Venus. So some of the messages may or may not resonate. Just take a fifth, leave the rest. And I'm running a special. If you want to get a personal reading with me, personal phone call reading, there's a link in the description box below this video. So definitely check that out, okay. Yeah, Virgo, so let's see what the messages, the love messages are. What's going on here? What's the drama? What's the tea? This is, I'm recording this on December 12th, so we're going to take this reading from December 12th through January 12th, okay. Month ahead, from the time you're listening up until that point, okay. Got a card fly out. Oh, wow. Okay, you have kisses. Beautiful. Giving and receiving affection and falling in love. Somebody is in love with you, Virgo. Whoa, those cards just flew out. Wait, let's see. Nothing flipped over. So keep shuffling.  Okay, all right. Okay, okay, you have both. Receiving what you need, progression, arriving, moving on, could be closure issues. So there's definitely movement here. Or somebody connected to a boat or traveling. Okay, the chaser. Okay, wow. All right, chaser and a codependent relationship, fear of abandonment. So somebody's having extreme anxiety, okay. It's fearful of losing you. Then it's, I feel like somebody here is like kind of in between, you know, moving on or coming in your direction. Okay, let's see. Why am I still shuffling? I feel like they want to get another card here for you, Virgo. What is going on here? Okay, lightning, sudden change, shocking news, surprise, epiphany of people, transformation, all right, Virgo. Yeah, you've got somebody here showing up during this time period and they're chasing. Maybe you are the runner, okay. But somebody here is chasing you down, is in love with you or will be falling in love with you. And I feel like this person might say to you that, you know, hey, I'm gonna be coming your way. I'm moving on from something, you know, maybe they're another relationship or some situation ship of some sort, getting out of a past kind of thing and moving away from that sailing.  And I feel like that's with you. And this is like an epiphany that just hits this person. Okay, with this lightning card, it's like the tower.  Okay, it could be happening now for some of you, but I feel like this lightning card, you know, going into this month, this time period, I feel like this person has like an epiphany about you. Okay, maybe you don't even know them. You could meet somebody. Maybe if you're traveling during the holidays or if you are going to be on a boat, you might connect with somebody. Okay, somebody might be having a drink and then following that with a chaser as well. And it's kind of like, boom, somebody gets those like love hearts in the eyes about you. And it's, or maybe there's, you know, for some it could be just you and another person sitting together, spending some time over the holidays, having some drinks and then, you know, feeling real kind of tipsy and then the emotions start to come out. Okay, let's get more into this reading. See what these messages are here. Okay, this person's in extreme conflict, Virgo, at this time. Okay, they might be having arguments with other people or another person. There's aggression, clashing personality with somebody else. Okay, being defensive. There's some struggle. It could be this person could be a Leo or they could be connecting with someone who's a Leo, but it feels to me like there's some conflict in this person's life right now. Okay, conflict in their life right now. Let's see what else is going on. Okay, this person's like, wow, soul searching. Could be thinking about you because that's the Virgo card here or you could be on the cusp of Leo Virgo specifically, but I feel like this person is in introspection right now. I feel like somebody from this person is having a conflict. Like I said, with another person, they've withdrawn. Okay, they've withdrawn from someone, maybe a Leo, maybe a Virgo. Okay, this person is gone within, they're not talking. They're someone who escapes conflict. They don't like it. They've run away from it. If somebody gives them a problem or if there's conflict or a struggle or argument, that kind of thing or disagreement, this person doesn't like to deal with disagreements or issues really. Like if there's, in other words, if there's an opportunity to talk through things and work things out, yeah, they're fine, but if somebody comes at them or is fighting with them or is very temperamental or aggressive, this person just backs down, they back out. They disappear and that's what I feel like the energy is with this person right now. And for some, this is something that this person may have been dealing with since September. So a couple of months ago, a few months ago. Okay, so let's see what else is going on. Somebody's name starts with a K also. Okay, yeah, this person is breaking free from some type of conflict with another person or other people. The fool definitely could be a quarry of synergy. This person is not interested in committing to the conflict or dealing with this person. So if you know who they are already, they're having like an epiphany, they're waking up, they're realizing that, if this was a rebound relationship that they left and they went into this, this thing is, it's kind of like they're waking up and realizing that they are actually in love with you and they wanna be in a more commerce situation. They don't wanna be, I don't know if even if you and this person had conflict, I feel like they're kind of weighing it. Like the conflict with you is much better than the conflict with this person. Maybe they were connecting with an Aquarius. So I feel like this person is just walking away from whatever this is, whatever this situation is that's happening in their life right now, they're just, they're not even dealing with it. It feels like they're just disappearing.  And I feel like this is something that they've been thinking about and also thinking about you. Let me get some clarifies, clarification cards on Show Me the Hermit, okay.  They keep thinking about you, there's some ghosting, maybe you ghosted them or you disappeared on them and this person is, there's Scorpionic energy there. This person is like picking and choosing, making a decision here, okay. Thinking about you, dreaming about you. Wishful thinking. I feel like they're kind of up in fantasy land, but also I feel like this person is chasing, is gonna be chasing after you. Even if you don't know this person for those of you who you have no connection with someone right now, there's no one in your mind. You connect with this person during this time period and I feel like they're coming out of a relationship or they're coming out of something that was very conflicting.  They've gone in, they've really retreated, they've gone into self-isolation from this person or this conflict, whatever these issues, this fighting and these arguments and they're looking for the one. I just heard the one who is unlike all the others, someone special. And they don't know who that is, but I feel like they're gonna connect with you and realize it's like, oh gosh, it's like I've met the one.  Like you're the one, not just in my heart, but in my head, there's something like you fit me, you're perfect for me, okay? So this is either someone who's coming back in and they're having that epiphany or you connect with someone new during this time period, okay? Somebody might have been born in 1990 also.  What is the fool energy here? Okay, they gave me a whole bunch of cards. So yeah, there's keep his arrows here. Travel on the travel card, good news. So somebody's definitely coming in rushing in really quickly here, okay? From being left out in the cold or it'll be during a time when there's snow on the ground. I'm hearing this emperor energy. We have Aries, there's Taurus, Sagittarius, okay. Wow, this could be someone who is a parent as well. And or it's just someone who's coming in very stable in a place of authority, they're commanding. I don't feel like they are demanding, just commanding, okay? So let me see here. For some of you, there's King of Swords here, their mental state, very anxious, okay? Very anxious, but with the sun, also very positive. So I definitely feel like this person is gonna be like, I don't know, they just said they're in torment and they're trying to get in a much positive mindset at this time, okay? Communicating positive mindset, communicating positive words, thoughts with you. And I feel like Virgo, this is a big chaser energy here. So like I said, whether you know this person or even if you don't, their energy coming in is like heading towards you very quickly. That's what the Eight of Wands is. It's like fast, hasty. Sometime I'm feeling maybe December 19th you might connect with someone. So next Monday you might hear from this person. They might be in a warm area coming to a cold area, okay? Or in a cold area going to a warm area. So wherever you are, whether you're in a cold area or warm area, let me see here. How does this person, so is this someone that Virgo already knows, okay? They have the death card, Scorpio energy, all right? And the devil, okay? For some of you, this might have been someone you're in a toxic relationship with, okay? There was a lot of toxic energy and I feel like that's ended. I'm hearing, they're telling me the address, somebody's address 1315, okay? Capricorn also. So there's unexpected change here. Yeah, and also for some of you, there is definitely a bit of obsession. Somebody here is just secretly obsessed with you. They have mental health issues. There's some, and I'm not laughing to say that that's funny. I'm just, it's weird how that came out for me here. I feel like this person is very dependent. They're very dependent.  So I'm just hearing the connection that this person had was another person kind of mirrored back to them, all of their negative behavior. And I feel like part of the epiphany that this person is having is, wow. Now I know what Virgo felt like, okay? So if you connected with them before, now they've gotten their karma in some ways. I don't know if it's, I feel like the situation was meant to happen. They were faced, they faced themselves in another person and all the conflict and struggles and maybe arguments or troubles that had taken place in your relationship with this person. If they rebounded thinking at first that that was gonna be like the saving grace for them. So they have to deal with whatever split happened. It actually backfired on them, okay? And they got treated the way they were treating you, okay? So the death card is like spiritual transformation and new beginnings letting go and making changes, okay? So definitely coming after you for sure, but I like the death card being in there because that makes me feel like there's release of this toxic energy. I feel like somebody here is kind of like, hmm, well, I now understand what happened. I now understand that it wasn't all you. I now understand now somebody else is telling me the exact same thing or other people were saying these exact same things that Virgo was saying and I was blaming Virgo. Thinking Virgo was a crazy one but actually it looks like I might have been, I might need to take accountability for my behavior in the relationship. Now, and then for others with somebody, meaning somebody new here, this is a lesson that this person has learned about themselves that they might share with you. This might have been someone that got into a relationship with new people and always said their exes were crazy, right? Always pushing the blame off on somebody else. Whenever somebody does that, that's a huge red flag. Huge red flag. You meet somebody and they're like, all my exes were crazy or that one person was just completely nuts. I mean, sometimes that happens but if somebody stays in a relationship for a really long time, with someone's crazy, then that's two crazies in a relationship or if somebody is constantly getting into relationships with people, like I would be like, hang on a minute, all your exes were crazy? Well, why are you in relationships with crazy people? Like what's going on with you, right? What's the deal there? Do you not know how to see red flags and walk away from them? Like what's up? So I feel like this person might have just been that way and they're kind of like in this place here where it's like, oh, okay. Well, maybe they were crazy, but you know what? I think I might have been as well. So there's a bit of a waking up here happening, this transformation, these epiphanies. Okay, let's see. What's this person gonna, what's their energy gonna be towards Virgo here? Okay, yeah. Letting go. They've reached their limit here. This person is some deep self-analysis, looking deeper, moving on and going toward you. There's the tower, just like I said, okay? Breaking everything down. This person's gonna come in. I feel Virgo. Pisces. Scorpio. Aries.  Talk about lessons being learned here. Talk about an epiphany, a wake up call for this person. These are three major arcanas. And then a moving away and a walking away from this chaos, destruction. Mental health issues. Releasing.  For some of you, this person is having this change is happening to them this week. And they might not come into later, but this week, this person is like, boom, boom, boom, boom. Coming to terms with things, with themselves. Definitely. Let's see. Okay, yeah, they're defeated. They're cutting off those people, places and things. Whatever the situation was that they were involved in that was toxic. Or whoever the other people, I mean, it's a strong shutout, big time with the five of swords here. They're not communicating with whoever they were in this conflict with. They're done with it. They're walking away. And that's it. It's over. It's done. Not saying anything. They surrendered. They're defeated. And they're self-sabotaging this connection. They're just dumping somebody. That's really not healthy. But I mean, at least have the conversation and let somebody know. But I feel like whoever they were connecting with is just like unreasonable. Not someone that they can have conversation, like reasonable conversation with. Because this person is just like, it feels very, either very competitive with them or they are, they just seem very uncertain. They're out of alignment and consistent. Whoever they were connecting with, people, places and things, all this chaos, okay? So much chaos. A big challenge. It's too much of a challenge I'm hearing for them to have a conversation with them. They don't want this. They don't want the conflict. And it's a shame because, I mean, it's not a shame, but I feel like this person thought that they were running away or getting away from whatever the conflicts were with you or in their life in general. And they ran, just ran right into another relationship without really understanding who the person was.  They have a co-dependency issue, okay? So they tend to manipulate relationships to fulfill their needs. But I feel like they don't realize that the other person is autonomous and has their own needs that need to be met. And the other person was upsetting the apple cart for them. They couldn't get their needs met because this person was demanding more and more from them and they ran away. But in this time, in this time period here, I see them recognizing these things about themselves, okay? Cause it was just a repeat. Rint, wash, how does it go? Wash, rinse, repeat. I feel like this person had a pattern of doing this in their relationships. Well, if this isn't gonna work, I'm gonna run to somebody else. And it'll be brand new and it'll like start all over again and then everything will be great and, you know, but then they realize that the other person is human and they have needs and wants and demands and things that, you know, to make the relationship work and then your person here would leave and then run to somebody else or run back to you. However, and they may have done that with you or just in general all the time, but I'm seeing a wake up happening here, seeing this person's like, shh, oh my God. So yeah, they're coming in Virgo, but I feel like there's definitely, you know, if I just had minor iconic cards to explain the shift, I wouldn't bank too much on it, but because it's their major iconic cards, that's huge, okay? And I feel like this person has this inner strength now to come from a place like no more self-doubt because that codependency comes with self-doubt, right? That's someone who's very insecure, but with strengths in the upright, okay? Somebody's birthday might be on the ace. The strengths in the upright shows self-confidence and overcoming self-doubt, you know? Hold on, just looking at something. Yeah, okay, so I feel like before this person might have abused their power, they felt disgraceful, they were fearful, they caused a lot of discord, they self-sabotage, relationships, that kind of thing. Yeah, getting away from abusive behavior and standing more in their power. Aquarius, Leo energy here. All right, Virgo, let's take a look at you real quick. I wanna see what your energy is here. So I would say sometime around the 19th or sometime next week, you may hear from somebody here coming back in, reaching out to you, oh goodness. Let me see here, your energy Virgo. Okay, so you have the Wheel of Fortune.  Things are changing, there's a shift for sure, and you're gonna feel this shift. Destiny, change, karma, definitely, cycle of life, switch, shift, change, a people and a chance here, okay? Wow, and you've got the Night of One, so, hmm, Virgo, hmm. See, I don't know, it seems to me like you're in a position right now, or you're chasing after your passions and dreams, or you're just recognizing you might be feeling very sexy, open-minded, free-spirited, if not, that shift is gonna happen, okay? It might have already happened for some of you on the tense, you know? But I feel like Virgo, you are putting your passions and your dreams, your adventures, the things you wanna do being more adventurous and energetic at this time, and being fearless, and putting the plans, the wheels in motion here for you. This is a very favorable time for you, Virgo. You're looking very attractive, and you have people who are drawn to your confidence or self-assuredness and your rebelliousness. Some of you I know are holed up in your houses and you're not going out, okay? Well, I feel like this energy will change going forward, maybe even this person's coming in and seeing the things that they're gonna say to you, this might give you a bit of courage to make change in your life here, okay? King of wands, some of you have an Aries, could also be a Leo or Sagittarius coming in hot and heavy, okay? Or that you could be connecting with at this time. This person's coming in definitely, like they're really hot for you.  Definitely. There's so much travel energy here, okay, wow. And Virgo, your energy is kind of like, I regret to inform you, but I'm no longer interested. That's what I see is going on here, okay? So if you have a connection with the Sagittarius or an Aries or a Leo, you might be kind of like, nah, I don't think so. This is not welcome. I don't want this connection with this fire sign. And for others, there is a fire sign who's kind of in loss or regret about losing you as well, okay? But I see you also showing up too as the king wants feminine or masculine energy, very optimistic and motivated, action-oriented. You're not sitting in your grief. You're done with it here, it looks like. Or you're just kind of doing this thing where you may, your emotions might be, have you feeling sad or maybe you're dealing with some trauma or you have some bereavement going on or a heartbreak. But I feel like you're not letting that stop you because of all this fire energy. I feel like you're not letting a loss or your hopes that have been dashed. I feel like you're not letting it stop you. You're getting on the, you're getting on the horse carriage as it rolls forward and you're letting the wheels take you wherever you need to be. Like you're not, I don't see you being stagnant is what I'm trying to say going through this period. I don't see you being stagnant in your grief at all. You may just be feeling it and just recognize, okay, this is how I'm feeling, but I don't see you staying in it. Nope, okay. That heavy, emotional, Scorpio energy which is deep and intense in your feelings. Yeah, you still have two cups behind you here. So I don't feel like you're giving up your hopes, right? Even if you are currently in this position right now where you're feeling sad or lost, I don't feel like you're, you're gonna get some inspiration or you're connecting with someone who might be inspiring you to keep it moving, Virgo, okay? Definitely. Yep, keep being consistent, building, building, building, working on your business, working on your money, staying committed and dedicated to the things that you normally do, which is good and gaining clarity. Like Virgo, you know what? If you're feeling down or sad about something or lost or there's grief, like it's not gonna last forever, okay? You will come out of this. Definitely. There will be some communication too that you might say to somebody also, you know what, you betrayed me. I don't know who this might be, but you were talking, you were talking-ish on me, you were bad-mouthing me.  I'm not a doormat, okay? Yeah, and also you might say to somebody, well, truth hurts, doesn't it? You've hit rock bottom. You got treated the way you treated me. And that was your karma. That has nothing to do with me. Everybody has karma, right? Everybody, good or bad. And I feel like the clarity is that you also have hit rock bottom and the only way to go is up now. So your energy looks good. I feel like you might have someone in your life who's also giving you a lot of inspiration or directing your path or showing you which way to go and kind of getting that spinning wheel that's stuck in the mud, putting a board under it so you can gain some traction and go for it. That's really what I feel like is happening here for you, whether that's a friend or a family member or maybe you're dating somebody at this time or connecting with somebody new that it's really giving you a sense of getting reorienting yourself back to yourself, okay? Yeah, and you're getting your plans, putting your plans in place. You're looking at the possibilities of what could be for yourself, okay? You're holding up that mirror. You're holding up the shiny things, the bling bling. I mean, that is such a 2000 word, but I see you kind of like, you know what? I can do this. Look at all the possibilities. I can make this thing or these things happen in my life. Yeah, I feel like you're coming into agreement with yourself. Okay, looking at your prospects, jumping in and going for it, seeing that you have an advantage and opportunities lying in weight and your investments and things that, like I just kind of, you know, just with the five of cups being there, like that's just the only little caveat. I feel like that you're kind of like, okay, you're coming to the end of some type of situation or defeat or loss and look at this, I love it. I just, they just said, they just said a lot of Gemini energy here too and Virgo, Gemini and Virgo, which doesn't surprise me. Okay, so here's that Leo energy right here. Success, victory, winning, having the advantage, okay? Recognition, applause, maybe some fame or celebrity or having fans, well wish your supporters back up on the horse, Virgo, okay? So I don't know if that energy is playing out because somebody's coming in and giving you the closure or whether you need it or not. It could also just be that somebody is coming in and it might inspire you to get out of a negative situation and you have hope again, okay? Let me see what the, hold on a second, I feel like I'm missing some cards here. Yep, it was, okay, messages of love for Virgo, Virgo's messages of love. Okay, wait, timing is not quite right, okay. So whatever decision you're trying to make right now or that you have in your mind at this time, just wait a little bit before you do that because there's gonna be some of the things that come in. Okay, retreat, yeah, wait, just wait, retreat, time alone or in nature will help you recharge. So you're not quite ready to move forward. You don't have to like push something forward that if you have, there's an old saying, when in doubt, do nothing, okay? So you might just need to, I feel like this is more about you taking the lead in your life in regards to a particular situation, love or health or career or whatever. They're just saying just hold back, hold back a little bit, maybe let somebody else take the lead in the situation. Okay, stability, a relationship can stand the test of time. Okay, that's good news. Let's see what else does Virgo need to know. Okay, chemistry, the attraction you feel is mutual. Okay, I see it could be connecting with someone right now, Virgo, where there's a very strong chemistry between the two of you. There's an understanding, support, lean on your inner circle during this time, Virgo. And addiction is affecting this relationship, okay? I wanna see how somebody feels about you. We will be together again, okay. I know some of you are like, oh no, we won't. Some of you are like, oh yes, we will. I can't please all of you. My life is not as together as it seems.  And they feel you even though you and they are apart. And they wonder if you are happy without them, Virgo. Oh, okay, we speak to them through music, Virgo. They wish they could take back their words. I don't know what words that those are. They told you they didn't love you, or they weren't interested in you, or they were moving on, or they wanted to break up. They didn't wanna see you anymore. Yeah, there's a lot of regret there. Yeah, because this person does love you. And that's what I feel like. There's some type of an awakening in regards to that, realizing that, I don't know, I just feel like the grass might not have been greener. Okay, for those of you that have a connection with this person from before, the grass was not greener. They tried to water this grass on the other side, but I just feel like something with the other person, there could be no growth. Let's see who the Chinese signs are. Okay, year of the rooster, year of the goat, okay, year of the pig, year of the dragon, year of the rooster is here again, year of the horse, year of the rat, year of the ox, and one more, year of the horse again, could be you, could be both of you, and year of the tiger, or none of you, so don't stress whatever the outcome is here. Okay, let me just get a couple of Romance Angels messages here for you. What are the Romance Angels love messages for Virgo? Romantic feelings, your feelings are real and worth exploring, so somebody definitely has romantic feelings or will be having romantic feelings for you. They believe you deserve real love. You are lovable, Virgo, and the situation is calling for you to have faith, trust, attraction. Also, you attract romantic love by enjoying this moment fully, so a lot of you, like I said, are you just being in a place of joy and happiness in your life? You're not really stressing about anything. And if you are, it's coming to an end about things here, getting back up on the horse, or just getting reoriented and focused, because I do feel like somebody is gonna chase after you, come in either because of a breakup and getting karma served to them in a silver platter and realizing that they really do love you, okay? Or this is somebody new who is like, boing, they've met the one, okay? So somebody's name has the letter G, okay?  GQ kind of energy, GQ energy. Very handsome or very beautiful. It could be a female, very handsome, feminine energy, okay? Let me see, the end of challenging times and a welcome relief is coming. Okay, initial P, okay? We have an R, initial A. Somebody's name has an A, also an S as in Sam of V as in Victor. Okay, I'm just doing call signals. Okay, we have the letter J and a U, that's interesting. And I'm also picking up someone's name. It starts with the letter N as in Nancy, or Nick, Nancy, Nick. Okay, okay, we have Scorpio Libra. Somebody might be on the cusp, Scorpio Libra. We have November 8th, somebody was born in 1988. Virgo energy, Leo, Leo Virgo energy, 1970, 1967. Somebody was born in September 16th, also the 17th. September 12th, also 11th. Whoa, look at that. Number three are standing up there right together. Okay, we have Taurus and somebody, yep, May 10th. May 2nd, May 10th. Okay, September 20th. I'm picking up Pisces, Aries, Cancer. Okay, somebody is 30 years of age. Okay, they just told me 1983. And November 8th again is here. September 5th, August 25th. Okay, interesting. And September 3rd, and somebody was born in 1980. You guys, couple of charms, and then we're gonna finish out your reading. And also really quick, right, a couple of things, you guys. My past couple of videos, I sounded like Alvin and the chipmunks because I accidentally had it, the speed, I don't know what it's called. I was trying to speed up the video of it because it was super, super long and I didn't want it to be like an hour, 15 minutes. So I set the speed on it and I think it made my voice sound like a chipmunk. And I might do it again here now because actually when my videos get way too long, I tend to have a drop off so I'm speeding it up a little bit. So it's still me. It's not my sister. It's not my kid, right? It's not my grandson doing the readings. It's still me. It's just sped up a little bit. So, okay, so we have a kitty cat here. Somebody might have a little kitty. Okay, there's a rose. You might be receiving a rose. Rose represents I love you or there's the name Rose. And there's also a little baby elephant here as well. So baby animals I'm feeling and also I keep getting this, I can throw that away because we don't want that. There might be like a rose, I love you as well. So you might get a rose or a bouquet of roses from someone or you might give them to someone or someone expresses their love for you. Somebody might, there might be like, I just heard just got a new cat or a kitten. Okay, I'm not so sure. This elephant, this makes me feel like somebody is from an area where there's elephants or has been to a zoo or is going to a zoo, but it's a baby elephant. So this makes me feel like I'm hearing, I remember when things were new. I remember when it was all brand new. Okay, I'm thinking about the times when life was easy, when we were both in our youth. I'm thinking about, because the elephant represents memories and also represents protection and kindness. So I do feel like someone is really just purring for you at this time or is thinking about these things. Maybe you're thinking about them. Okay, I was trying to see if I could intuit any other message here. They just said, I needed to just pull one card here for you out of this deck. Hold on, what is this message? A little card here. Okay, wow, OMG. The twin soul, twin flame soul mate. Communicate your love to the divine. Be thankful for this twin soul love. You've been chosen for one another, even when times are tough and seen back and forth. This love was meant to be. It's time to reconcile. Wow, Virgo. Okay, I'm gonna leave that there because that just ended the reading right there. There's some kind of twin flame, twin soul soul mate, soul fire connection, soul flame situation going on here. So I'll leave it be. Again, if you wanna get a personal reading from me, there's a link in the description box. Please, please, please smash that subscribe button and put a like on the video. So the algorithm picks it up and it keeps moving forward. And I will be back here tomorrow now that I'm feeling so much better. Thank you very much. And I will see you guys very soon. Take care.


In this lesson, we'll be looking at how we can use a known plaintext attack in order to determine the seed value for an LFSR stream cipher. So let's start about how we're going to go about doing this. Like I mentioned, we're going to use a known plaintext attack, meaning we're going to be able to make a reasonable guess about what the contents of the plaintext is, even without knowing that ahead of time. We're just going to make a guess and see how it plays out. So we're going to guess that piece of that plaintext. If you don't have to get it all right, we'll see just getting just a part will be enough for us to retain the seed value. We're going to generate the key stream by using the XOR operation with the ciphertext that will have intercepted in order to generate that key stream. And then we're going to try and use that key stream to determine the C values that were used in the LFSR. And then once we know the C value, we should be able to generate the entire key stream to decipher the entire message. So suppose we've intercepted the following ciphertext, which we've converted to binary. We know that our message sender used a seven bit LFSR that the taps of two and five. Now we're going to assume that we know this, but in practicality, this is a reasonable assumption to make for a lot of crypto systems that are out there. This type of information will be public because it's often made in hardware. So all you have to do is capture one of these pieces of hardware and you know this portion of the system. However, the seed value is what is the secret. So we never know really know what the seed value is. So that seed value is the secret information that we're after using this known playing text attack. Now it's worth pointing out that this is a somewhat trivial example because this seven bit LFSR only has a period of 10, meaning that there's random pseudo random ones and zeros that pop out at the end. We'll start repeating every 10 digits. So this is not a particularly challenging system that we're attacking here, but it should make easy for us to understand the general idea, which can then be applied to a much more complicated or more bits LFSR system. Now, in order to make our known plain text guests, we usually need to know a little bit about the subject of the message. And since this is a programming course along with some mathematics, let's guess that this plain text has something to do about a programming language. And we will guess that one of the programming languages we know about is in that plain text. So let's see that when this is used for other types of files, not just text on a computer, there's a lot of structure and known information about the ways that files are stored on a hard drive that would make a known plain text attack much more reasonable to do, even if you don't know exactly what the topic of the message is. If you knew it was a particular type of file, you might be able to guess about some sequences of ones and zeros that show up pretty commonly. So let's make a guess we're using text here. Again, here's our ciphertext represented in binary. And we're going to guess that this is about the word Ruby. Ruby is another programming language that we have not talked about in this course. So here's how we're going to go about implementing our attack. We're going to take our plain text and we're going to convert it, our plain text guests and convert it to binary using the same ASCII system we've been using. And I'm just going to focus on the first eight bytes, our first four bytes of the messages here just to make this a little bit more digestible. Now we're going to take our ciphertext binary and our guest plain text binary. And remember, we can now XOR those two streams of ones and zeros in order to recover the key stream. This XOR operation is the same thing as kind of the inverse of the XOR. They're their own inverse operations. It's itself. So there's our ciphertext. There's our guest plain text. We XOR those and we get our guess for what we think the key stream is. Now all we need to do is figure out, well, did we guess right? So let's think about how we could do that. So let's go ahead and see if we can verify our information that we've deduced. So here's our guest key stream 110111 and so on. And as a reminder, our definition is a seven bit LFSR with the tabs that bits two and five. So we're going to add the information contained at those two taps, those two bit registers, add them together mod by two or just XOR them to determine the new value that goes into bit seven. So let's start by putting our guest key stream down the bit one column. Remember if that was the in fact key stream, that would have been the order we would have found it in this table. And now we can kind of work some of this information back upwards. So if we take each bit in column one and work it up into the left, we can now figure out the rest of the information that would have been in this table. No arithmetic even needed. So we've actually been able to recover the first row of this table, which would have been the seed value assuming that we get our key stream right. So keep that in mind if this is correct, our seed would be 11111011. Now let's figure out if it's correct. Now the way that we're going to do that is just looking for any flaws in our calculations. If this key stream was correct, it should abide by the rules of the definition. Meaning that if we were to look at say bits two and five in one row, and we added them together and modded by two, or x-word that is those two bits, we should get the result in the next row's bit seven. So these two seem to work okay. One plus one added together is two, mod two is zero. Move on down to the next row, one and zero, x-word those to get a one, that looks good. And we go to the next row and we've got an error. One x-word with one does not return one. The only reason that would have caused this error is that if the key stream in fact was incorrect. So we now know we have enough information here to figure out that this was an incorrect guess at the plain text, because it yielded a key stream that would not have been able to be produced using the LFSR that we know should have generated the key stream. Incorrect guess. So let's try again. Let's say we've got the same ciphertext, but now we think it's about Python, the language that we've been using in this course. So we'll follow the same steps. We'll turn our ciphertext and our plain text into binary. Again, we'll focus on just the first four bytes or 32 bits of information. And we'll take the ciphertext in the plain text, our guest plain text. We will XOR those streams of ones and zeros together to yield a guest key stream. We'll take that key stream and in order to verify, we put down column for bit one, follow those bits back up and to the left to recover the rest of this table. And now again, we have our top row, which would be the seed if we got this key stream correct. And let's verify one and one is zero, one and zero is one, zero and one is one, zero and one is one again, and all the rows that we have appear to be correct. And we mentioned at the beginning of this lesson that the key stream does repeat for every 10 digits. So if we wanted to truly fully verify this, we have to keep kind of recreating the rest of this here, maybe with some more plain text and ciphertext that we've recovered. Or we could just kind of follow this out assuming that these four verifications actually are implying that the rest of the key stream is correct. We could fill out the rest of this table best just by using the rules and then following that out and see what does that give us for our actual plain text if we were to use this key stream for the rest of the message. Let's go ahead and try that. Let's just assume that these four guesses that we got right, these four rows that seem to check out are indicative that the rest will as well. So let's finish this all out here. There's the full ciphertext. There's the key stream that I generated just by taking the first 16 digits that I was able to produce and then just keep running with it using the definition. Got a lot more now, in fact, equal to the length of the ciphertext. And if I were to XOR those together, the ciphertext in the key stream, that should recover the plain text again assuming that the rest of the key stream ended up being correct. And now how would I know if the rest of that key stream ended up being correct? Let's convert all of these bits back to characters and see if it's actually readable. And in this case, we get the ASCII message Python is the best. So it appears to be that this was in fact the correct key stream, the correct guest plain text because it returned an entire plain text message that was readable in a format that we expected. So in general, that's how we do the known plain text attacks using this LFSR stream cipher, is that we're going to make a guess about the location and the contents of a piece of that message. And then we'll XOR that bit with the piece of the ciphertext that we might have intercepted to get part of the key stream, or at least our guest guest at it. We'll work that guest fragment of the key stream back up through the system to determine the seed value and then try as best we can to verify that that seed value actually did generate a key stream that should have been able to come from the LFSR system as defined.


cardio does not send a muscle building signal cardio sends a build endurance signal and it also burns a lot of calories during the time that you're spent doing it so because it doesn't send a muscle building signal and because it burns a lot of calories the way your body adapts to it is by making you more efficient giving you more endurance but also making more efficient with calorie burn so you end up losing muscle you end up paring muscle down cardio will send a competing signal with the strength training so could you lose more weight on the scale total weight by doing cardio plus weights plus a deficit in calories yes will you lose more fat no will you build muscle definitely not so remember the goal here is to build muscle and burn body fat at the same time you don't want to do anything that could potentially get your body to pair muscle down you want to do everything in your power to try to get your body to build muscle while simultaneously eating in a calorie deficit to burn body fat and if you don't then your body will adapt metabolically by reducing muscle


This morning I want to talk about, you know, dealing with those difficult patients and how we can kind of keep our cool so that things don't get worse. So what is a difficult patient? What would you call a difficult patient? Complications? Here, well, it's okay, I've got answers for us. So somebody that's got many symptoms, severe, I guess that could be complications. Some underlying mental disorders, they're less functional, hard to satisfy.  Every time you turn around there's another telephone message from them, lots of appointments. Takes a lot of your clinic time, the Tejas, you've had these people before. So basically, according to the Journal of Internal Medicine, this is how they define it, which is basically what we were talking about, more symptoms, severe, underlying mental disorder, less functional. And a study by Hawn, I believe it was, they figured that about 15% of the patients, adult patients, are termed like the difficult patient, they're meeting this definition. But this is a statement from a difficult patient, somebody that knew that they were labeled a difficult patient. And I thought this was great because their ophthalmologist is the doctor that they've identified as the one that they really trust. And I'll let you read this, but what I love about this is the very end. I don't want to be a difficult patient, but I don't know any other way to be, but I love this. Here's another quote from a patient. The best doctor is going to listen to my complex history and be a partner with me, trusting that I can understand what's going on and be well-informed. And then as far as the non-compliant patient, well, resistance only happens if you push back, you can get them all the medicines in the world, but if they're not going to take it, that's still their choice, right? So it's the pushing back that creates the problem. And I love this, over half of the prescriptions that are written are either not taken or not taken correctly. So what are some of the reasons why patients are non-compliant? What do they give you when you talk to them? Exactly. Some of the reasons that I've heard, they forgot, I can't remember to take it. They're worried about side effects. They're worried about what's going to come from that, the cost. Sometimes they don't realize when they say, yeah, sure, give me the prescription. When they get to the pharmacy, even with their co-pay, sometimes they're expensive or if they don't have prescription coverage, they didn't believe it was going to really help. They had difficulty getting to the pharmacy, especially with our patients a lot of times. I worked with one guy that was in extreme pain, but he couldn't get to the pharmacy. So he didn't take his medication. This was not for an eye condition, it was for, he went into the ER with what they thought was gout, and you know how painful that can be. And he couldn't get to the pharmacy to get the pain medication filled, and so he had to live with this for like three days before he could get there. Because he didn't have anybody to go for him. Adverse reactions? It stings. I hear that all the time. Well, I didn't like to take it because it really stung. Or you know, they're maybe they're in denial. They really don't think it's going to be that bad. Or depression where they can't, they don't have the energy to do something for themselves. And then, you know, what prevents a patient from following the treatment plan that you've set out for them? Things that you believe that are going to help them in their condition? Well, maybe it's not their plan. Is it a physical issue? And they physically do it. We had one patient who was prescribed drops, but he also had a neurological condition where he didn't have the strength to actually get the drops in his eyes. And he was also a kind of a tactic, and he was having difficulty. So it was a physical issue. Is it a cognitive issue? Are they remembering? Are they able to remember? Again, the financial issue is that they can't afford the recommendations. And then we also had one patient that I was called down to do a mini-status exam on because the doc didn't believe that the patient was remembering. He thought they had some memory issues. And even though the patient insists that he was taking the drops just like they were prescribed, he didn't think that he was really remembering correctly. Well, the patient was sharp as a tack. And I believe that he really was. I just think they weren't working for him. So agreeing on the treatment plan with the patient so that your agenda and their agenda kind of are in alignment. One of the great things that help kind of also cut down on clinic time is that what else technique? You know, just when they're listing their complaints or their reasons why they're not sure if the plan's going to work or questions, asking, what else? So then they're kind of searching their memories. Is there anything else? Is there anything else? So that, you know, after they leave your office and they think, oh yeah, well I know why I can't do that. They don't come up with it then, right? So it just kind of saves a little bit of time, what else? So the components of a difficult encounter, you know, we talked about the difficult patient. There's one part of this whole, you know, triangle. There's also the situational issues that make it a difficult encounter and also the physician characteristics that make it a difficult encounter. So as far as situational, maybe it's language and literacy or the understanding. Having multiple people in the exam room, it gets confusing. Being able to, you know, attend both the patient and you when there's other things going on in the room is kind of difficult. Breaking the bad news, that makes it a bad difficult situation. And just having them, by the time they get into the exam room, if it's been a long way to the backed up clinic, that can also make it a difficult situation. Physician characteristics, if you're overly tired or already harried, are angry and defensive. Not from that particular patient, but just coming from somebody else, maybe, or whatever. And of course, this does happen. We do have physicians that are dogmatic or a little arrogant. So changing the way that we see the difficult patients will also help us to interact with them differently. And once you interact with somebody differently, it has to change the way that they return the interactions. So just being aware that sometimes the patient's angry or their anger, their angry behavior, underline that is really fear. Fear is the primary emotion there. Anger is a secondary emotion. Having lots of appointments or calls, you know, the person that's a little bit anxious, seeing them instead as being more actively engaged in their own treatment and their own health care, a different way of looking at it, having many complaints, lots of severe symptoms, seeing that patient as maybe your challenge, you know, that's going to really test your skills. You know, this is going to be the one that might be a little bit more interesting because it's going to take a little bit of research. And then, you know, the people that come in with chronic pain or they're having to have painful procedures, asking about their chronic pain or history or asking about, you know, if they do have a lower pain threshold, kind of it tells the patient that you are aware and caring. It also, you know, lets you know that you may have to really prepare this patient if this is something that's a little bit painful or if there's any numbing drops or something like that that you could use. Chronic pain, they're taking lots of pain medications. It's lowering their production of endorphins. They're not dealing with pain as well. So using distraction, being extra solicitous, are you doing OK? How are you doing now? Breathing. Having the patient match your breathing patterns, slowing it down will keep them from getting super anxious during super painful procedures and then using a little humor where appropriate helps a lot. Working with the fearful patient, again, that distraction, very helpful. You know, talk about the patient's hobbies or things that might, you know, interest the patient, kind of break that fear, give them out of that. They can't hold two things in their mind at once, right? How are you doing? How are you feeling? Talking through what's happening step by step. Breathe again, auto-blase, slowly so that the patient can match that. Again, that extra solicitousness that you need to have there. And again, a humor. Humor works with so many things. Working with the angry patient. We'll look for the signs, so they might not be cussing at you, but you get the facial expression or the short, curt answers, things like that. Things that might tip you off that this is kind of a person that's kind of angry first of all, showing empathy, keeping your cool, remembering that don't take it personally.  Because there's something that we can do to that, keeping your cool, even though you're faced with a confronting kind of person. Again, I cannot emphasize breathing enough. During the day, just start to breathe so shallowly. We need to take that deep breath every now and then. It gives us that extra beat to kind of pull ourselves together. Make your voice calm. Soften your tone a little bit. Be a little bit quieter than the patient's tone. Brings it down. Validate them. It doesn't mean you have to agree, but just saying, I see that you're angry. I hear that you're angry. I can understand why you were very upset about long wait times or whatever it is. Don't ignore or belittle their emotions. That only makes it worse. Explore their values. So, for example, if they're angry about something, that's something that they really care about.  I'm asking, what do you want? How can I, what are you wanting from this encounter? Tone is everything. If you're going to ask, what do you want? You can say, what do you want? Totally wrong tone. What is it that you want? What do you want from this? Different meaning entirely. Avoid the blaming or what even might feel like blame. Avoid threatening postures. Take a step back from them. If they're seated, sit down. Don't stand with somebody seated. Even if they're standing, if you sit down, it's a less threatening thing. All of a sudden, they feel like, okay, I'm not being threatened here. And then sitting to the side rather than straight on, which is a confrontational kind of position. Creating that open space, you know, keeping no barriers in between you so it's not like a desk or something that would signify authority kind of thing. So, and then use your active listening skills. So there's two kinds of listening. There's mindful listening and there's active listening. And mindful listening, we're going to do a little exercise. So I want you to turn to the person next to you and the first person is going to talk for two minutes and it can be about anything, an issue that bothers you, something you're passionate about, just how you feel about having to get up at 7 a.m. in the morning and be here. And the other person is going to just listen, okay? After two minutes, I want the listener then to just reflect back what they've heard. That's all.  But the whole point is to just really attend to what your speaker is saying. Okay, two minutes. Go ahead. So, wrap it up a little bit. Now for one minute, I want the listener to reflect back to the speaker what they've said. Go ahead. Okay, so just kind of wrap it up, okay? So now I want the listener to reflect back what they just heard. Go ahead. Okay. What was that like? Was it hard just to pay attention to listen? To find yourself kind of thinking about what you were going to talk about or did you find yourself wanting to get clarification or go more in depth and as a listener to try to ask questions or things like that? Exactly. Mindful listening is all about just listening. That's it, which is simple. Active listening is sometimes a little bit easier and especially, you know, because of your training. Because you're training to probe, right? Well, that's more of the active listening.  So as you're reflecting, you know, did I get that right? You know, did I miss anything, that kind of thing? So the difference? Let's just do one minute, okay? Let's just do one minute. Let's do it again, pick something new. And for one minute, speaker, talk about an issue, listener is going to be active listening this time. You're going to summarize, ask for clarification and then switch, and you know, did I get that right? Did I miss anything? Is there something more? And then just go ahead and switch when you're done. So speaker, go ahead. If you haven't switched, go ahead and switch.  What did that feel to be the speaker? Did you feel heard? How did it feel to be the listener? Was it easier to be able to listen? How did that feel to be the speaker? Did you feel heard? How did it feel to be the listener? Was it easier to be able to get this feedback and clarify and all of those things that are much easier, isn't it? You know, mindfulness sounds so easy, but it's not necessarily. It does take practice. I guess that's why we call it a mindfulness practice, right? Active listening really will help for the patient also to feel heard. So one of the other things is, you know, our nonverbals, actually about 93% of the information that we receive are coming from nonverbals. This makes it difficult when you are a person with visual impairment or blindness, especially if, you know, the blindness has happened later in life, adventitiously, we're used to getting a lot of the information. So they become hyper-vigilant to the tone of your voice, to the meter of your voice, things like that. So just as an awareness, but keeping that open posture, you know, don't cross your arms, what are you telling them, lean forward, you know, making eye contact even though they might not be able to see you. You know you are. The feeling is there, they're picking up on the tone and everything else. So to do exactly what you would be doing to someone who is fully sighted, do that to the person who is blind, they pick up on the same cues, even though they're nonverbal, they're picking up on it. Empathize with people. This was really interesting. There was a study that was done and they were asking physicians about, you know, empathy and being able to empathize with their patient verbally and they said, well, you know, I don't have time to do that, you know, or I don't know how. But what they found was that patients, and I want to get this right so I'm going to read this, in this study by Levinson and his associates, when discussing life-threatening diagnosis, the patients were offering many opportunities for an empathetic response. The doctors only responded 10% of the time. And it didn't take a lot of time. When the empathy was not provided, the patient again offered another opportunity for the doctor to empathize. And they kept doing that, it's like, oh, he's not getting it. So they keep offering these opportunities for the empathy. So when the empathy was provided, the patients ranged responses, ranged from one to two words up to one sentence. They felt heard and they were done. Took less time. So that empathy. So offering reassurance to somebody, you know, even if you can't assure a good outcome, the reassurance that, you know, we're going to watch this very carefully. I'm here with you. We're going to get through this together. Those kind of reassurances that you're with them, you're available, you care. That goes a long way as well. In bringing down some of the fears and the anxiety about it. And then knowing yourself, recognizing your own warning signs when you feel like your buttons are being pushed. You know, we are human. We have buttons. Sometimes they get pushed. So the feelings are your first clue that your buttons are being pushed. So examining your pattern of response. Okay, what is it about this that's pushing my button? Why am I feeling this way? Most of the patients that you find frustrating to deal with have a great deal of adversity in their own lives. They've got so much going on. It's their stuff. It's not yours. So when you feel like your button is being pushed, think about it. Okay, who's is this anyway? Maybe it's theirs, not yours. What their expectations are of the visit. Where is that coming from? Being clear to set your own expectations, your own boundaries, and sticking to them. And being aware of that transference, that misplaced strong emotion that you might be feeling. So to avoid overreacting. You attend to the patient after you first attended to yourself. If you feel yourself coming up with some kind of an emotion. In that interaction, check in first. Then check with the patient. Identify the issue, the problem that's supposed to be addressed right there. Acknowledging again the patient's feelings. Allows them to know, okay, he gets it. They don't have to keep giving you those cues again.  Or are you just feeling really kind of angry in general? Sometimes they're just angry at the situation. Not you. And that kind of helps to also not take it personally when you feel like it's just a matter of help. I think it's very helpful to ask the patient, what is it that you're asking me to do? Sometimes when it's not very clear, sometimes it's like they'll talk in a circle. And then being able to say, this is what I will do. This is what I won't do. And those are the boundaries.  Okay, so this is what I'm going to do. And then in return, you're going to make sure that you take this three times a day or whatever it is, and you're going to return in the clinic in one week, those kind of things. So everybody is this, this is what I'm doing. This is what you're doing. This is what I will do. This is what I won't do. And why? Those are boundaries. And boundaries can be, you name what your limits are, and they can be given gently. They don't have to be, you know, there's no way I'm going to do that. It doesn't have to be confronted. It's like, I'm sorry, I won't do that. Or I can't do that. I won't do that. Whatever it is. Call it what it is. And, you know, most people have a hard time setting boundaries because they don't think that it's polite, you know? So that it can be delivered very politely. And you have to give yourself permission to have boundaries. It's a sign of a healthy relationship to have some boundaries. So in some of the communication, like we did in our active listening exercise, what I hear from you is, did I get that right? You know?  How do you feel about the care you're getting from me? Sometimes I don't feel like we work well together. That's not a statement of blame on either part. It's this interaction.  You, the other person, and the relationship. So sometimes it's just that we don't work well together. Nobody's fault. This, it's difficult for me to listen to you when you use that kind of language. I was actually in clinic with one of our ophthalmologists. The patient was very upset. And using, you know, some pretty strong language. And he used this exact phrase, she calmed right down. So, and she was able to then express her anger, watching her language, which made it easier for him to listen to her about what was going on. Can you help me understand what's going on with you right now? And then asking for what their understanding is of what's going on. It could be totally different than what you think. And then sometimes, you know, when we just don't have anything, it's like, I wish I or a medical miracle could fix this for you. Goes a long way. And then again, self-care. We've been hearing a lot about this with the whole wellness initiative that's going on. It's not self-indulgent, it's not selfish. We can't nurture others if we don't have anything to nurture them with. We have to take care of ourselves. So making sure that we are getting what we need as well. That's also one of those boundary settings of, I need this, I need some self-care time. So, of course, my references. And thank you. Thank you for coming out early and listening. Is there any questions or anything else? Thank you. OK, you know, and I'm always here if you just kind of need to process a difficult interaction or, you know, something that came up that you weren't expecting, little feelings about that patient. I'm here. Thanks for coming out early.


Hi everyone, Joe for JaspeysCaseBrakes.com, Monday, June 12th, 2023. Nikolajok, it's just named as the NBA Finals MVP, lowest drafted player to win NBA Finals MVP. Nuggets are your world champions for the first time ever. Right here, we got a Mosaic basketball hobby pack, Random Team number 56. We've got a few things happening here. First of all, we're going to give away eight extra spots within this break. We've only sold, what, 22 spots outright? I'm going to randomize those names. Top eight are going to get extra spots. Then we're going to do the pack break itself. Then we're going to give away six spots in that dual case break. So for 41-49, you could win a $200 spot. That's pretty nice. Big thanks to this group for making it happen. There's everybody right there. And here's our first dice roll. So top eight after six, five and a one, we'll get extra spots. Two, three, four, five and a one. Six in final time after six. Nathan, Tristan, Tristan, Eugene, Russell, Jeremy, Stephen and Tristan. Extra spots going your way after six. Now the rest of you, don't worry. You're still part of the break. And you're still part of the chance to get a mixer spots, double case break spots. All right. So we'll put rooftops next to your name so you know you won those extra spots. You can differentiate it from your full spots. Now all teams are in. Let's do the quick pack break. Second dice roll. Six in a three, nine times names and teams. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight and nine. That's a long road for Jamal Murray. He's got his eyes a little red. He's emotional. Long road back for him. That's good. One, two, three. All right. There's the first half of the list right here. There's the second half of the list right there. Now since we're in the business of collecting things. Now the Denver Nuggets winning is definitely hashtag good for the hobby. Does anybody's value gets boosted or has that already been baked into the values of these players now? Did everyone think, I mean they were the favorites. So maybe it doesn't really do anything. You know people already probably considered Yolkage as the real MVP anyway. Any of these guys get a boost you think? Michael Porter Jr. rookie cards. Maybe Jamal Murray rookie cards. Maybe Jamal Murray, Scott's thinking. Are Yolkage cards going through the roof now? Wow. So maybe he did get a big boost. I thought maybe the market had already priced in Yolkage stuff. Maybe Denver fans are all over this now. We got a redemption out of a filler pack. I like that. All right. Justin Holiday is going to help us out. Good luck. Someone's going to get an autograph out of here. It's autographs Mosaic card 27LUKA Donchich. Wow. Plenty of time to redeem. He got until July of 2024. Dallas, Jeremy Port. Won an extra spot, got randomized. Dallas is going to get a Luka Donchich redemption. That's not bad from a filler break. Congrats. All right now, let's see who's going to win spots in the mixer. Let's gather everybody's names for the third and final dice roll. New dice, new list. Let's roll it and randomize it. Five and a one, six times. It's the top six after six. Good luck. One, two, three, four, five, and six. All right. So from seven through 30, sorry, James. Seven through 30 sad times, but we'll get them next time. Thanks for trying. Top six. You're happy because you're in the next break. Jeremy is happy. Stephen K is happy. James, you're happy. You're in. Russell is happy. Will is happy. And Russell again. There you go. Top six. Thanks everyone else. But congrats to the top six. Happy times for you. We'll see you in the next video for the break. Jaspy'scasebreaks.com.


I think that the Denver Broncos offense is looking a lot like, dare I say, an NFC South offense. Jerry Judy, wide receiver, you drafted 15 overall. KJ Hamler, 46 overall. Look a little bit later, you drafted tied in in the fourth round. Pair him up with no offense. You've got Cortland Sutton already. You've got Melvin Gordon that you signed a free agency. You've got Phillip Lindsay. I mean, this offense, they're just building around Drew Locke. This offense is looking sexy. So I love what the Denver Broncos did with the offense, but build around Drew Locke. That's what you need to do, and I love it. Next AFC West team. The LA Chargers drafted Justin Herbert at quarterback to be their next guy behind Phillip Rivers. I think overall this was their guy this whole time. I think that if they really wanted to, they're going to trade up to that number three spot, but they did. I think that Herbert was the guy that they were honed in on, and they felt like he could be the franchise quarterback for the future. So Herbert is going to be backing up Tyra Taylor, maybe starting over him. We're just going to have to see what the Chargers decided to do, but I like that pick a lot. And then they trade back up into the first round. It's like Kenneth Murray at linebacker to that number 23 spot from the New England Patriots, who I thought was the best linebacker in that draft class. So good job by the Chargers to draft Kenneth Murray. Then Josh Kelly at running back, they didn't have a pick, a selection, because they traded up to that number 23 spot. They didn't have a selection for the next two rounds. So in the fourth round, they select Josh Kelly and pair him up with Austin Eckler. Melvin Gordon is gone. So this might be a good one-two punch for the Chargers on top of that. It'd be interesting to see if they're going to start Justin Herbert right out the gate, or if Tyra Taylor is going to be the starting quarterback. Definitely let us know your thoughts. What do you believe? Do you think that Herbert is going to start, or do you think that Taylor is going to start in week one? Let us know in the comments down below. The Las Vegas Raiders franchise that we talked about earlier that doesn't care what other draft analysts have on the draft boards. They really don't. If they love a guy, they're going to draft him with their first round pick. That was evident last year when they drafted Cleveland Farrell, number four overall, over someone like Josh Allen, who went to the Jaguars. Now it's proven right now that Josh Allen ended up being the better option, but who knows, maybe Farrell is going to pick it up in a sophomore campaign. That was evident in this year's draft class when at number 19, they drafted Damon Arnett, a quarterback which a lot of people were saying, who's Arnett? Who is this guy? But that's exactly how Mike Mayock operates. If he loves a guy, he's going to draft him. Let's see if it pans out for the Raiders. At number 12 overall, a selection before that with their pick, they had Henry Rugs as their first selection by the Las Vegas Raiders in history. So a pick that Al Davis would have loved because of the speed that Henry Rugs possesses. I love the pick. It makes the offense just much more dynamic. I don't like the inconsistency though, especially in fantasy football.  If I need to guess whether a player is going to have two catches for 24 yards one week or eight catches for 113 yards and three touchdowns, and it's just back and forth with that, I'm not going to even bother with it. You can have them. I'm cool with that. But it might bring some inconsistencies with that in the Oakland Raiders offense, but when you need them, it could pan out. So with Tyrell Williams being there as well, we believe that Tyrell Williams, I don't think he's better than a number two receiver, but he's not quite a number one receiver. He's like a good one and a half. So with Henry Rugs there, maybe that's going to make both of them, they're going to bounce off of each other and both of them are going to excel, but we'll have to see. But I love that dynamic that it brings to that Raiders offense and the possibilities that they can do. And the last team, we're going to wrap it up with the best team and the NFL from last season, the Washington Redskins. Just kidding. Just making sure you're still paying attention. The Super Bowl champion Kansas City Chiefs had an interesting draft and a good draft, I would say. Drafting Clyde Edwards-Hilaire, the first running back taken off the board. They need help with Damian Williams because I don't want to discredit Williams. I believe he should have been Super Bowl MVP. But I think he's best when you have a good talent with them, when you split time, not so much as a three down back. And so I was thinking to myself, okay, maybe like Jonathan Taylor, maybe Deondre Swift, like these guys, they could be three down backs themselves and maybe they could take Damian Williams' job. But if you want to split time with Damian Williams, these are good players that you could take. And we were talking about it and we thought, well, maybe Jonathan Taylor is more suited for an offense like the Baltimore Ravens, like just a ground pound kind of deal. And Deondre Swift, we thought maybe the Dolphins were just going to take them in the first round. So at that point, yeah, maybe Clyde Edwards-Hilaire is the best option at that point. But Deondre Swift was still on the board, decided to pass up on him and take Edwards-Hilaire. They're pretty high on him. So I think this is going to be good to split time with Damian Williams. They got Willie Gay Jr., a linebacker, and then they added a tackle, a safety, a defensive lineman, and then a cornerback as well. So the biggest pick for them obviously was that Clyde Edwards-Hilaire pick for the Kansas City Chiefs.


in the book you mentioned that the kindness shown to you from minorities, people of color was really like another part of like the the persistent kind of re-educating that it required to get you to flip the switch. You mentioned the black lady at breakfast right and that was such a such a powerful can you maybe we'll start on that. Yeah. Well in McDonald's? Yes. Yeah. It's a great story and it definitely to me it's an example of the power of kindness. So early on in my white power days because I'm a gifted genius I thought it'd be clever to get a swastika tattooed on the middle finger of my right hand which has since been covered up. By the way Nick do you know who covered that up? Was it Chris? Chris Buckley. Gotta love it. I do want to touch on him eventually. We will for sure.  I got swastika tattooed on me.   It was like the bricks the 10 for a dollar ramen and it was just something that filled my stomach and that's what I ate all week long to so I had more drinking money but one day a week on payday I would go to McDonald's and I'd get a Big Mac and that was like the only thing I ate all week that wasn't ramen noodles and it was I'd all week long I'm looking forward to that Big Mac and I it never occurred to my gifted genius self that maybe if I didn't drink so much I could have ate Big Macs more often I don't know which would have been worse for me but in any case I go into this McDonald's to get my Big Mac and behind the counter is this elderly black woman working there taking orders and I froze in the doorway because she had this beautiful smile on her face that was so genuine and so like unconditional for everybody I liken it to the sun in the sense that the sun shines on everyone doesn't care what color your skin is how much money you got don't God who you love who you don't love who you vote for like the sun just shines and that's how her smile was and it made me really really uncomfortable because I'm trying to hate black people and here's this sweet genuine old lady like making that seem as stupid as it is so I go get my food I scurry out of there next week payday I come back to the same McDonald's it was right next to the place where I cashed my check and she's there again and this time she recognizes me and she remembered what I ordered she's asking me about my day and I'm all the more uncomfortable now this is like fucking with my whole program so again I get my food and I scurry out of there the next week goes by and in between these visits is when I got the swastika tattoo so the third time I go back to this McDonald's the third payday now I have the swastika tattoo and I specifically got it to enrage people like I wanted to hurt people at the sight of it and then if they wanted to do something about it I closed my fist and I physically hurt them like that was why I got that tattoo and I certainly was not thinking of the sweet gentle black lady who worked at McDonald's when I got the tattoo but when I walked tried to walk into that door I literally froze in the doorway again and I just had this almost like instinctive thought I'm just like I don't want her to see this and I put my hand in my back pocket and I'm just like what doesn't it be else work here like I'm waiting for seeing somebody else comes up there nobody does I'm thinking like where's the next closest McDonald's it's December it's freezing and I'm hungry and I'm like okay I'm just going to keep my hand in my pocket she won't see it so I go up there and I didn't occur to me that it's pretty difficult to reach in your pocket to get a bill with without showing the back of your hand and despite my best effort she sees the tattoo and she just says like my grandma used to say to me when I she'd catch me beating on my little brother she was just kind of like what is that on your finger and I couldn't look her in the eye I just like looked down at my steel-toed skin had boots and I'm just sitting there and I'm like it's nothing and she waited until I looked up again and when I did look up our eyes met and she just said I know that's not who you are you're a better person than that and I was like guys my big man please and I got my food and I scurried out of there and I would love to say that I went skipping out of McDonald's going racism stupid she's so nice like glad that's done but I actually I went home I got as drunk as I could as fast as I could I went out the streets and I attacked the first person I could find because I wanted to put as much space between me and this like singularity of humanity that I experienced as I possibly could but the thing about human experience is and this is why people like my friend party can make a living in mental health is that we can't subtract things from our experience once something happens to us it's there and we can't just remove it we can't pretend it never happened all we could do is process it and deal with it and I it was all I could do to not process that act of kindness to not deal with it and for seven years this happened like within my first couple months of being a skin for seven years that experience was part of me and I despite my best efforts to rip out that seed that she had planted it took root and it grew alongside other seeds of kindness that I was so fortunate to experience and it left less and less room in my heart for the kind of hate that it takes to hate people and so it took seven years to get to the point where I'm like I can't do this anymore I gotta change and that woman's kindness was an integral part of the exhaustion that led me to that point hey everyone thanks for checking out that clip if you enjoyed it be sure to hit the like button down below and if you're interested in hearing the full episode it's out right now on our youtube channel we've had a lot of great guests 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