Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay calm And I'm so excited to be shooting this live stream for you today our topic the five What the heck is the top again that kept five side the five things that women do that kills attraction with men Okay, can't believe I Jones there for a second Really quickly if you're new my youtube channel, please hit the subscribe button hit the bell And if after this content if this content here resonates with you check out the link to a free discovery call with Me to see if working with this a coach is right for you and also check out my link to my group called midlife Love mastery. All right, we're gonna talk about those five things that kill Attraction all right, um, you know, it's interesting. I'm gonna talk about dating coaching for a second because in the realm of dating coaching for men. There's this Coaching industry called the pickup artist industry the pickup artist industry and this is helping Is basically about teaching men how to pick up women or how to meet women But what's so interesting for a lot of the in screw inscribliest or the unscrupulous?  I know you're watching this going no no no Jonathan. That's not true. That's not true sadly, though it is true on some level because most advice is centered around reverse psychology reverse psychology and reverse psychology is basically tapping into people's fears of Their own stuff their own wounds their own traumas that cause them to react in a hunt Unhealthy way. This is one of the reasons why I highly recommend checking out the book Let me grab it here really quickly is Getting the love you want by Harvelle Hendricks getting in Helen Hunt getting the love you want by Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt because this explains Why we oftentimes attract the wrong person in our life that unhealthy unconscious person So when the dating coaching is centered around triggering our unhealthy Methods of attraction in the short run it might actually result in a relationship in the short By the way, is that picture off? I've got to fix that bugging me By the way That's a picture of my mom today would have been her 92nd birthday if she had still been around she passed away Three and a half years ago and certainly those who follow my work know my son Connor That's next to her. So they're together in heaven right now. That picture was taken when he was younger He was 19 when he passed away So I thought today I would honor my mom and my sons and certainly that's my mom and dad when they were younger Okay, my mom my dad's still around so going back to this reverse psychology So a lot of dating advice is really centered around triggering reverse psychology And I'm here to lean into a different conversation today I'm here to lean into a totally different conversation today a more healthy conscious way of approaching relationships But before I do that not but I'm trying to eliminate but gosh I really try hard to eliminate but for my vocabulary and I also want to lean into this idea that men must earn a woman a man must earn a woman I want to talk about that and I want ever and I want when you get to the point of asking questions Let's talk about this because I don't believe I believe two people should earn each other It's not he must earn you It's that you earn each other and what I'm about to share today is going to shed a lot of light from a personal development self-help and spiritual perspective Let me repeat that from a personal help Or personal development self-help and spiritual perspective because the five things you don't want to do When you're deal when you're with a high quality person and what I mean by a high quality person I simply mean somebody who is an emotional grown-up and They have their act together in fact.  I say the f word I'm sure I will at some point when we get to the Q&A so just know that I'm a big proponent of cursing a little bit Because I think it actually Demonstrates that I'm a real person.  Have you order it? Please order it because it's a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work So you can become what's known as an emotional grown-up remember when I said when you take an emotional grown-up and add You got your shit together. That's a great combination to be dating a person So the things you never want to do with a man and let me just say this Everything I'm about to share is for both men and women alike. This is not Singular to men. I just happen or to women. I just happen to talk to women about men That's my predominant audience, but what I'm about to share goes both ways So number one and this kills attraction when your actions don't match your words your actions don't match your words and I an emotional grown-up their actions consistently match their words So when you begin conversing with someone especially if you're meeting through an online connection Be consistent with your words. Although. They're a stranger most often Be consistent if you say you're going to text at a certain time then text at a certain time If you say you're gonna agree to a meeting then live up to that nothing kills attraction more than inconsistency in one's words. I think of the movie my fair lady Words words words words if you love me show me and what that means is your actions are consistent with the words that come out of your mouth, okay? number two You have what I call victor consciousness and not victim consciousness Can I tell you something ladies when I'm you know in the dating app world and I'm looking at women's profiles and I see I Don't want any liars. I don't want any cheaters. I don't want any drama To me that's literally Expressing that's that's literally starting with complaining. That's starting with what's wrong And that's just one example of I see a victim consciousness Another is when you've had a bad marriage is focusing all on maybe your ex-spouse is being the problem and not taking ownership in your life So so taking personal responsibility for your choices, whether it's a man or woman This is an attraction builder and when you don't take personal responsibility for your choices It is an attraction killer. It's an attraction killer So I want to encourage all of you to start shifting to more of that of that victor Consciousness of that victor consciousness. By the way, I can see that the the live chat is going I can't read it yet because I haven't put on my glasses. So let me quickly read what everyone's saying real quick Oh Great great great KC divine. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Good morning, Australia It's afternoon here in Los Angeles. By the way, I'm wearing a red shirt red sweater this time people keep asking me to wear it So this time I thought I'd wear it. Okay for a lot All right, so number three and this is critically important When there's friction in a relationship, it's learning that you don't have to be right to be happy Let me repeat that you don't have to be right to be happy So I call this learning how to fight fair fight fair and what that means is this is by the way Both men and women need to be doing or I encourage both men and women to do this is you listen to the other person's point of view You accept that point of view of being true for them and they allow you to do the same for you When we know how to fight fair when we know when we're not in that state of I have to be right And I got to tell you this happens right from the very get-go in the dating process Most people are are myopic and focused on their own needs that I have to get what I want Now I know a lot of you are women are been encouraged not to be doormats in relationship and to over give And I'm a full believer in never over giving Giving should be a two lane street. It should be give and receive receive and give give and receive receive and give It should be like a nice seesaw. It should be like a ping-pong game or a tennis game if you are giving too much in a relationship if You feel like you're giving more than the other person is then it's an imbalanced Relationship and you have to reevaluate either you're giving or reevaluate the relationship Because I'm here to say if you over give that's on you It's not the guys fault that you're doing that and I don't even want to put blame to it But I want to encourage you to look within look within Okay, number four and this has to do with empathy Empathy isn't just I can feel your feelings empathy means I care about your feelings So when someone doesn't care about your feelings man or woman alike, that's an attraction killer And I'm going to share with you one of the number one complaint most divorced men Claim after a divorce is they felt unappreciated in the relationship They felt unappreciated in the relationship what that meant was the person didn't actually care about the other person's feelings So I want to encourage again that two-lane street type of dating not the reverse Psychology dating not the chivalrous claiming you he has to earn you and I certainly not in agreement of being Negative in other words that whole fantasy that the person who cares the least holds the power in the relationship Let's scratch all that bullshit out That's just garbage because that's all short-lived based relationships And I want to encourage healthier happier mutually beneficial Relationships and the fifth and then we're gonna take questions And by the way if you want to ask questions for me to do me a favor start using the super light button I would any any money that you donate to This live stream. I just want you to know any money you invest in this live stream I'm actually going to be donating the money to charity So all the money if you do hit that super sticker or that super chat button and invest I'm gonna donate that money to charity So I just want to let you know that makes it easier for me to see on the screen that fifth and most important piece is transparency Transparency and what that means is if it's material to the relationship. It's the material to Forming a relationship, then people should become more transparent and be more authentic and more real about it And that includes if someone asks you an honest question and it's you know, it's interesting to me I know a lot of people in the dating sites Negate answering for example on dating sites They make they don't answer a lot of questions because they're feared. They're gonna be rejected for it But that's not being transparent. I'm sure it's being Neutral but I want to encourage people to be transparent if it's material to the relationship then share what come come up Now does that mean you have to say it on the first date? No But certainly once you start leaning into the dating process be more Transparent because nothing kills attraction than being secretive and this is men and women alike And these are the five signs of emotional maturity and these are the five things that kill attraction I'm sure there are many more that we could discuss. In fact, that's what the live q&a is for So I want to now take time to ask answer questions. So really quickly I'm not going to be doing any music today to get started because I've had copyright infringement stuff So we're going to do a movie quiz before we start our q&a This is a movie quiz And the question One question is which film star Which film stars molly ringwald as a teenager whose family has forgotten her 16th birthday Which film stars molly ringwald as a teenager whose family forgot her 16th birthday answer the question there in the q&a All right, so let's start looking at the board to see if there's any questions. Yes, lisa got the question, right? Okay, k.m. Right. I'm oh my god. Goodness. My partner will just yell me down if I don't agree with him on decision all right That's a sign of that person's ego needing to be right So leaning into what k.m. Said oh my goodness my partner Will just yells at me down if I don't agree with him on his decisions now A healthy relationship are two people listening to each other Accepting each other's point of view and then coming to agreements together coming to agreements together If you're in a relationship with their habitually putting you down And that may not be the right relationship for you Speak up speak your truth do it with kindness in fact chapter one in my book Speak your truth do it with kindness And if it's sincere and from the heart you can never say the wrong thing to the right person So I want to encourage you to do that. All right. Let's look see Yes, everybody's getting it right 16 candles 16 candles um, all right, um Okay, let's see His phone is his boundary. That's not transparent to me. Okay. Hmm. His phone is his band. Okay. I want to address this Our phones are a very personal thing to each individual And there may or them there may be content in our phones that might be very personal and intimate to us so I know there's been a lot of encouragement and You know suggestion that if you don't trust someone that you should be able to look at their phone But I want you to know not that I have anything to hide from my home phone But I have lots of communication with lots of different people that could be that I don't want to have to explain Because someone doesn't understand what's going on whether men and women are like and I happen to be in business Where I talk to women all day long So if I'm in relationship with someone and they don't trust me that they have to look at my phone Then I don't think I want to be in a relationship with someone that feels the need that they have to look at my phone To trust me That now if there is there two things that could be going on in there They may have inherent trust issues Or I might be giving them reasons to mistrust If that's the case, it's not the right relationship for either one of us I don't want to be with a woman who has trust issues and nor should a woman want to be with a man She doesn't trust but I don't believe we have to relinquish our This is like our you know our personal journal You know, I I'm not sure that I agree with having to share our phone with people Just because they don't trust us. So I hope I answered that question Um lisa writes ask with love and understanding and compassion. Yes, that's true Okay, lisa also writes I do get that but it's been a source of problems in our beginning Well, again if there are problems in the relationship then address the problems And decide if this is the right relationship to be in because if problems don't get addressed They get swept under the rug And things that get swept under the rug will blow up eventually So deal with them sooner rather than later is my invitation for you. All right. Please ask a question That's what this is for. Don't be bashful even hit that super like or that Okay Knock right.  He was chasing enough is enough Again knock I'm going to say if you feel the need if you're in a relationship with someone that you have to look at their phone To confirm trust then you're probably not in the right relationship to begin with But i'm just going to tell you this if you begin dating a new guy Be careful make that is a relationship killer beginning a relationship with mistrust is a relationship killer And if most likely if you have mistrust issues then I invite you to look inward I invite you to look inward to see if there was any trauma in your childhood Or an adult which you've been cheated on and address it from an inward perspective Because no man has ever until you've addressed it on the inside until you trust yourself Until you trust yourself Every relationship is going to feel untrustworthy and that's just my invitation for you. So I hope that help Uh lisa writes. Thank you Um to me. Thank you. I love you too. I love you all. I really do appreciate this Please ask questions or this is going to be a very short live and I'm here to talk for the next hour Maybe I'll okay. So post a question. I'm going to read another um movie quiz Which character was the leader of the pink ladies in greece? Let me repeat that which character was the leader of the pink ladies in greece Let's see who comes up with that and in the meantime, let's see what johnny just said Where is the line between taking things slow and just being let on? Oh, I love this question. So The reality by the way everyone I've got a little bit of a head cold. So I've got to pull this out I took a covet test today. It came back negative Uh, but I'm waiting for the ante or the the three-day test as well So, okay now I just forgot the question. Oh taking things slow. So the reality is these days Most of the time when you're meeting a new person, they are a complete stranger in your life You didn't go to school with them. You didn't go to college with them. You didn't work with them You didn't know them from the gym. You don't know them. You don't have mutual friends together So the reality is is these days dating is a very slow process to build trust to build trust By the way, the reason why I'm doing this is I want you to think of roots to a tree The more rooted uh relationship becomes the more trust is built. So taking things slow is actually Is more advised It you know, it's it's it's more advised to actually take time. It's not really taking slow. That's not it It's more about genuinely getting to know another human being instead of hey, how's your day going? What's your day like? Hey sexy, what's your day like? Is your day good? Oh my god. I hope you have a good day Did you have a good day? Did your friend have a good day? How was your work day? How was this? How was that?  You're not asking deeper questions What are the reasons why I created my private coaching program? God, I'm yelling I'm yelling because I'm passionate. What are the reasons why I created my private coaching program is so ladies You can start asking better questions So you can determine if you're being if you're in a relationship where a person is Capable of being in a relationship because it's not leading you on It's just are they capable of going the distance or not and do they have emotional maturity? And that's what I teach in my private coaching. So check out the link to private coaching And schedule a discovery call with me now Let's face it Men want to get laid We this whole idea that men chase and pursuers and hunters.  It's sex. It's not like I mean it's the rare occasion that we find a woman that we put up on a pedestal Yes, it does happen It's rare that we actually put you up on a only emotionally unhealthy people put someone on a pedestal But for the most part when someone's overly excited, it's usually driven by their penis It's not because they want a fully committed relationship with you See like my mom used to say she took what my dad said with a grain of salt And so recognize that men are built this way. We are chasing and hunting sex We're not chasing. I want to be in a relationship. I want to be in a relationship I want to be in a relationship. That's not what they're chasing They may desire that but that's not what they're chasing If they're in hunter chase mode, it's to conquer you in the bedroom Most of the time not always now Emotionally healthy men They pace getting to know a person they pace getting to know a person and what they're looking for is a woman That's paced with them I'm gonna I'd like to think I'm an emotionally healthy guy for the most part When a woman isn't meeting me I'm like off to the next person I I don't have time to you know, wait for you to catch up to meet me where I'm at And what I mean to say is being demonstrative being effusive being inquisitive I can't stand I'll be candid with you one of my biggest frustrations is so many women Don't ask me really good questions. They ask me such boring benign questions. I lose interest really fast That's just me An unconscious male loves a benign woman because he's mostly focused on the body and not the mind And i'm here to encourage again Mindful thinking being demonstrative being effusive being intentional being inquisitive Because that's what's sexy to a high quality man.   I'd like to explore a relationship with you Where are you at?  Don't be afraid.  I'd be open to exploring a relationship with you How do you feel and then see what happens? Okay, sorry for yelling Uh jocelyn right what does a mutually beneficial beneficial relationship look like and sound like? So You know in the days of my mom and dad There was relative what's known as mutual exchange. My father was a provider protector He paid the bills. He took care of the bills. My mother took care of the home There was mutual exchange going on now for those of us So that's an old paradigm now the mutual exchange looks like investing in each other in a two lane street Doing social activities together hobbies together Social activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends traveling together and mutually investing In the conversation about relationships ladies By the way, you have to read this book called eight dates eight dates This is the bible. This is like a bible to look by the by the way john god and julie gotman This teaches you the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship. I'm here to say Look it I spent time in divorce court after my marriage ended And I listened to I was there for a whole day had to listen to a lot of other couples And when I heard all of the complaints in the relationship I thought to myself as a dating coach What I think is a smart thing to do is look at what causes all the problems and reverse it John Gottman did this for you. He reversed engineered it for you So you now know what a healthy happy relationship looks like that's where you want to get started and that's my invitation for you All right Uh, thank you. I am love. I do hope to feel better. What does okay? I'm confused in relationship about loyalty topic if if a human should love Self with knowledge that isn't loyal or if a woman should be loyal Because it's expected or be loyal to oneself. Anna. So I I'm not sure I understand your question fully, but I'm going to try to take it the way I see it So I'm a believer in loyalty in other words If you've agreed to invest your body your your body your mind your heart your soul with another human being Then being loyal to that Is a prerequisite in relationship. Now. We call that monogamy. We call that exclusivity, but we also call that Like my best friend my dearest friend in my life Jeff my oldest one of my oldest friends like if I know some if something's happened in my life He's the first person here when Connor passed away. He was the first person now makes me cry Um, he was the first person at my door And I mean he was bawling his eyes out In fact, I think he was more distraught than I was in that moment But what that demonstrated was loyalty. I keep you know loyalty is I can count on you loyalty is there I've got your god. I'm really getting emotional now. It means I've got your back I've got your back And so loyalty is an I think it's a prerequisite in relationship Now, is it going to happen in the first 30 days? No, is it going to happen in the first 90 days? Starting 90 60, you know 90 days Six months in you should start feeling a sense of loyalty from a person if they've if you've invested a lot of time together And so now is it you know within a year? You should feel like you have a loyal partner not from a loyalty from a place of Infidelity but more from a place of can I count on you? Can I count on you? I was in relationship with a woman for six years Um, my best relationship I've ever had um in my life and while it didn't work out I learned so much about myself and we've actually transitioned to family to one another But there was a time when she had to do a she's a therapist that was on television And she had to do a radio show and she was going to go into a pretty tough neighborhood She called me and said hey, would you come over and drive me to the radio show today? And I was in the middle of work and had stuff going on. I said absolutely I'll be there for you. She could count on me. That's what true loyalty is It's not so much about infidelity is can I count on you when I need you? That's the sense of loyalty to me fact In the honor code for the military the number the first in the honor code of military is don't leave a man Don't leave a soldier on the battlefield scratch that man taking out gender Don't leave a soldier on the battlefield. And that's the same way because that is a sign of honor and loyalty Okay Thank you, Lisa. No need to apologize for being passionate. I appreciate that. Yes, you're correct. Michelle. It was Rizzo from greece What is the main complaint of women divorcing because you explain why men divorce not being appreciated? I think women's most often Is the same complaint not feeling appreciated. This is the common Challenge in relationship it manifests in a variety of different ways Uh, maybe the the partner isn't emotionally available.    It's I did a video on this the four secrets to get them addicted to you watch that Which goes into more detail Again, I swear a little Please I let you I hope you feel better Okay, so we're a little all right, let's go in here. I hope you feel better I love when you yell. Are you going to are you ever going to come to win a peg? I would love to level up. Okay. K. M. Rights the level up community has become very toxic and women are being told If we are solo mothers over 35 even on the shorter side, we are bad real estate. What are your thoughts? Okay, everyone. I want to repeat this the level up community, which I don't know what that is has become very toxic And women are being told that if they're solo mothers over 35 and even on the shorter side. We're bad real estate. What are your thoughts? so I'm assuming level up as a men's group now I will I will say if you're raising a child And you're single it is going to be a little more problematic to date someone because A male might not want to be an active active participant in the raising of someone else's child There, you know, I mean and it's going to take a lot of love They have to love you a lot to want to do that now on the shorter side Look, I don't even know what that meant You know, I know I know plenty of guys of five seven that'd be happily dated a woman five foot tall So I think that's irrelevant um So Um, so it's not a bad real estate. That's such a negative thing to say Here's what I want you to lean into if you're if you're a parent and you're raising a child That's one of the most beautiful loving things you can ever do And there are plenty of men who want to date those women and there are plenty of men that don't Okay, there's just there's a lot of both Some men will some men won't but it doesn't make someone bad in real estate And that's just a crock what was told in the level-up community and that's again this reverse psychology bullshit negating here Let me get my cloth here get a good cloth to clean these. Okay, so Um, can you please do a video on men who have never been married in their 40s and 50s? So um I guess the question is Is a woman who's never been married in her 40s 50s bad bet Is a man in his 40s 50s bad bet. Here's the thing Had just because you've been divorced does that make you a good bet? In fact people that come off divorce actually make more or actually make Are more problematic in relationships.  And what do they want and asking really good questions ladies? If he's single if he's never been married ask him What does he want and if he acts ambivalent and that's not what you want Then he's not a good bet for you But let me tell you something just because someone's been divorced Before doesn't make him any better bet than a person who's never been married It might Because they actually might be less likely to get remarried a lot of people have been divorced Are less likely to get remarried than those who have never been married In fact, the never married crowd has a greater chance of remarrying than the divorce crowd And for the divorce crowd that crowd that remarries Their relationships end doubly fast if 50 of people end up in divorce the second marriage it's 75 percent and third marriages It's like 85 percent or something like that. That's not an absolute Okay Sorry My guy agrees couples therapy is in order to work on trust issues created in the beginning Would you think this is a positive move my trust issue plants the seeds that maybe he's doing this as a cover side? Um, I am a big proponent of going to couples therapy I'm a bigger proponent of doing individual work and if you have trust issues I highly recommend getting the book Getting the book the hoffman process so you can do a deep dive into your childhood wounds and traumas because most Trust issues start from childhood so address your stuff first And then maybe consider couples therapy You know ladies I've gotten complaints by some people that all I do is pitch books Now I've heard one person say I pitch books so I can make money as an affiliate By the way, I made all of a hundred dollars last year on affiliate sales I do that and I donate that money to my son anyway Um, now I'm also recommending a lot of books. Why because there are inexpensive resources These are beautiful Inexpensive resources to do personal development self-help and spiritual work to shore up Our issues from the inside out and if you're not willing to invest 15 minutes a day in yourself Then don't ever bother being in a relationship because if you're not willing to invest I'm only asking for 15 minutes a day That's three times five.  I'm cursing here because I'm angry at this one Those people to say now by the way, it's not just reading books. You can do audible books. You can watch videos on youtube about the books I highly recommend that but if you're not willing to invest not but and if you're not willing to invest Then you're I promise you you're gonna have problematic relationships invest in yourself every day Here's a great book to help your relationship read this book Read it How to make love all the time by barba de angeles how to make love all the time great great great book Oh my god. I want to eat this It teaches you how to develop a juicy delicious relationship You don't need to go to some feminine energy workshop. All of this is right at your fingertips Now if you want to learn how to vet man, that's something that isn't taught in books That's something done individualized for you and I can help you with that immensely So check out a I'm going to pitch myself now check out a link to a free discovery call. All right Um Oh lisa big hugs. I am love. I love eight dates hugs. I'm sorry you lost your son. Thank you so much Oh, thank you youtube mama Um, it's a full moon coming emotional and all by the way, I saw the full moon this morning from my balcony Oh my gosh, I can't begin to tell you how awesome it was. Did I take a picture? Actually, here's a picture of my balcony I posted on but oh my god. I saw this gorgeous moonset this morning. So yes, it's a full moon Maybe something's going on there um Becca writes I lashed out on my guy. We only met once but he is hot and cold with me So I'm a little mad at him. I told him he is a catfish I lashed out on guy. We only met once you flashed out at someone you only met once he's hot and cold Have you really had enough time to build anything if you've only met once? That's not a look and uh And you told him he is a catfish.  He just might be Emotionally unhealthy that doesn't make him a bad person that just makes him a human being No, I was I am love. No, I was not in the military Stephanie, uh, love how you're passionate. Thanks for your live videos. You're very welcome. No man wants to be No man wants a used woman or raised wait, what? Sorry No man wants a used woman and raised a child. They didn't father That is not true. Mr. New are I have plenty of people I know in fact one of my favorite couples is bedding Stephanie and they merged their chill It was literally like the brady bunch. So yes, mr. New are At you know, maybe unconscious men might feel that way, but then let me backtrack. That's not fair Some men feel that way and some men don't it's just some it's not all um, all right Single dads should date single moms. They understand and have the same priorities as their kids knock right So it's interesting when I after my divorce.  Thank you. Sarah writes. I'm in love with a man who says he won't commit to me He's in his 50s. I'm in my 30s. It's been eight years now. He just got close to me now after his mother's death How should I move on He just got close to me now after my his mother's death. How do I move on? um I'm assuming you want to end the relationship. You simply say We want two different things. I'm moving on I don't know how much more simpler is that if you want to move on move on and the relationship Because being with someone who doesn't want to commit. I mean it's Minds me of the scene in harry met sally where sally's girlfriend is in relationship with a married man and you know, this was played by um Oh debbie reynolds a carry fischer and she's like hung up on a married guy Literally when you're with someone for eight years that doesn't want to commit. That's like being with a married man It's do you want commitment if you do then choose someone who wants commitment? It's that simple It's the red pill or the blue pill choose the choose the red pill the guy who wants commitment versus the guy who doesn't God that's expression age. Okay Women initiate 84 of the divorce.  That doesn't mean that's any just because they don't initiate the divorce Doesn't mean that the relationship is healthy. You know what? You know, in fact the likelihood, you know, most married couples aren't happy because most married couples don't invest in the relationship This is why I want you to read this book Besides eight dates. I want you to read the book spiritual partnership spiritual partnership I want you to read making love all the time when you do these books read the five love languages Here i'll put the spiritual partnership back up. Okay because look Either get busy living or get busy dying if you want to be in a happy relationship Then invest in the core of building the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship and all these books I've outlined is designed to help you get there.  In fact, I'm going to show you a little cocktail napkin. I got Fuckity. Fuckity.  Why am I cursing so much? It's because I use cursing as an exclamation point. It's literally just to enhance a sentence.    Do the best we can Do your inner work do yourself love work Do yourself love work to be prepared? That's my invitation all right Can a confident masculine man be so insecure about his appearance that he may not get involved with someone? Mary Jane Wright Yes, I'm a perfect example. I was you know the other day. I was thinking to myself I got to lose 10 pounds before this date because I put on 10 kovat pounds. I'm Maybe I mean, maybe I'm a feminine man. I don't know I'd like to think I'm a good balance of masculine and feminine only in the sense that I believe in giving and receiving Receiving and giving giving and receiving.  I'm not likeable and we here in the united states have adopted this philosophy that I need you to Love me to feel good about myself. We are suckling on the nip on the on the nipple of I need you to love me for me to feel good about myself. This is why I wrote a book about self love Thank you connor connor you are the inspiration for this book. Thank you so much It is through the loss of a child that I got down on my knees and said what needs to happen To break people open to this area of loving themselves Okay, I'm on a roll. I think you got my point. Thanks mary jane Um, so yes human beings are insecure lisa. Thank you. I am love amen. I wish schools taught more of this Yes, lisa when I go when a client goes through my coaching program They all say the same thing after they do my boot camp. Why didn't they teach this in school? Why didn't my parents teach me this? Why didn't I learn this before I dated that knucklehead? Mr. Noir writes what are women actually doing not saying to actually get and keep high caliber caliber men That they feel entitled to so mr.  They're the low hanging fruit and then there's another percentage of women that are relatively confident Relatively secure. So mr. Noir is experiencing a lot of the entitled type of women That's why the whole men going their way and maybe this level up is started because of entitled women Those are the the women who seek sugar daddies. Those are the princesses. I get it But not all women are that way mr. Noir Let me tell you there are a lot of women who are door mats and and are When I mean by door mats is they have such low self-esteem. They desire relationship, but they lack self-esteem True self-love is the antidote to all of this because it negates the entitlement and it negates the door mat It helps you become centered. So that's my opinion there Um Bear with me Okay, knock writes Oh cam writes. I know plenty of men who are never Wanted kids of their own, but we're happy to raise others. Yes, exactly Knock writes day the guy who proposed to me and moved to england. He wanted a long distance relationship. COVID happened He's trying to get back what to do. I guess i'm going to have to date other people Knock that's way too complicated question. I have so many questions to ask you I'm not even sure this is a good format to ask that schedule a discovery schedule a call with me And we can get into a lot more detail on that one lisa writes That's an outstanding man who welcomes blending a child or children that are not his Yes, that takes an extraordinary Level of effort to want to take on someone else's children I know personally I have a hard time with that right now, especially after losing my son. I have a real Fear around that because I'm still morning the loss of my child I may not be able to I'm not saying I can't do that But I'm telling you I have a concern that I may not be able to do that if I met someone who's raising children right now I happen to be older. So most likely I'm dating. Um, you know empty nesters anyway, but I'm sharing with you Yes, it does take a level of love and courage to take on someone else's Responsibilities not everybody acts that way my ex-wife's Partner they've been together for almost 15 years. He always he did great job being part of my children's life But he always says Jonathan you're the dad And we had really good discussions around that so Jennifer writes When harry met Sally's my favorite movie no wonder why I'm single. Ha ha ha I had a breakup uh, Becca writes I had a breakup with my ex because he was wishy-washy Well, I wouldn't want to date someone wishy-washy either. Sophia writes. Hi, Jonathan. I've been separated for four months But I stopped Loving him two years ago. I've been working for me For 14 months. I'm ready for a relationship specifically after reading your book. Yay. Congrats, Sophia Jane writes my husband moved out. So I filed for divorce. Does that mean that I initiated it I thought we were very happily married. By the way, this happened over 20 years ago You know who cares who who really cares who initiated it? Yes, you initiated it from the legal perspective, but he initially by the way Women who filed for divorce the guy checked out a long time ago is usually the case Casey writes ha ha. Where did you get that napkin? I don't know. I got this at a party this napkin um Kim writes sorry. I'm late to mail writes. We are all adults because we all we're all adults cuss Wait, we are all adults cuss all you want. Thank you kim Michelle writes. Do you think you can be friend? Wait, do you think you can be friends with a guy that you're interested in? He's been through two marriages. He doesn't want another relationship I don't know if I should stay friends with him or just walk away why does What does it first off? What does friendship mean to you? Does it is it a social friendship or is it I've got your back kind of friendship? Be you know, because it takes a long time to develop. I've got your back kind of friendship social friendships I've got 10 000 social friends. It's called facebook. Does that mean does it mean anything? No True friendship is like my best friend who showed up at my door when my son passed away That's a true friend and those are the people I invest in and I know it takes Months years if not decades to make that happen and that's my invitation for you Uh knock writes all the women I know were the ones who filed for divorce because uh, they were men were cheating.  What makes a person cheat? We've got a book Chatting or cheating by the way, everyone. This is my ex-girlfriend dr. Sherry mires Fantastic woman wrote this book called chatting or cheating. Here's the thing Why do people cheat they're miserable in their relationship and they want connection with another human being So it's the the act itself is irrelevant. The y is more important now Some people want to have a marriage and they want to have a sexual partner somewhere else Yeah, but most people cheat because they're miserable in their marriage and so actually And most of the time the women were miserable as well A lot of people stay in miserable marriages and then when they find out someone cheated They're like, oh my god, but i'm like you're in a miserable marriage So what so be happy that it's over. Anyways chatting or cheating great book All right, we're going to be wrapping up in a few minutes Thank you. I am love my guy is five six. I always say he's taller than me. I've known metaphorically. Hey yoga preacher writes. Hey Okay, and f or t f writes. Do you think a relationship can come out of a friends with benefit situation? You know interesting enough. I do believe that is possible It's possible when two people communicate Consciously with each other. Is it absolutely possible? And if you want it to happen I definitely recommend reading a date to make it happen But yes, it's possible. Is it likely probably not All right, nox says, thank you. Wow Ah Wow, thank you for the hearts. Thank you all for the love. I'm going to recap really quickly Five things you never want to do Or five things you want to do you want your actions to match words Oh, we're i'm going to do another movie a trivia question in a second You want your actions to match words you want to have victor consciousness not victim consciousness You want to know how to fight fair You want to be empathetic and you want to be transparent That's what you know when you're not any of those things that kills attraction for men and women alike Okay, so let's do another movie trivia question here Oh, here's a good one. Here's a really good one Can't fight wait a minute. Oh, which real life couples starred in the 1987 film Overboard which real life couples starred in the 1987 film called overboard how apropos this couple has stood the test of time hollywood couple They seem to be very happy with one another I suspect they're happy with one another because they have a real conscious intentional relationship They actually talk to one another ladies. I'm so tired of women not learning I say tired, but I want to encourage you all to learn healthy communication skills. Yes, you're correct With the answer there read this book called nonviolent communication by marshal Rosenberg.  And if you'd like a little more piece of me Then check out the link to my group called midlife love mastery This will give you a chance to talk to me on a regular basis through a private facebook group I've created in a once a month webinar and it's only 20 a month to be part of the group and it's very personalized and very intimate Okay, I got to tell you this has been an absolute blast to share with you.  So i'm happy to hear that But from the bottom of my heart, I want to thank you all for jumping on this live you guys You ladies have been so kind so loving especially about my son connor My other son collin you've been asking about him. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart I can't begin to tell you how much your love means to me I say this because like many of you i'm lonely Covid hit me just as hard as anyone else and is through the love and kindness from all of you That has helped me navigate this tough experience My hope is that the love and kindness that i care in the passion that i have for this Has made a difference in your life and if it has made a difference in your life Do me a favor hit that like button right now Share this video with your friends. Please tell everyone about my channel I would be immensely grateful and if you'd like some personal personal touch Check out a link to a discovery call to see if working with the coach is right for you Again hit that like button right now. I want to thank you so much Please thank you. Thank you. Thank you and i'm going to sign up this video as I always do first off Give myself a big check in and shout out the mirror hug of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone or a pet or a teddy bear or a pillow and give it and them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love And we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye. Bye now. Bye. Bye Thank you. I am love. Thank you. Anna. Thank you clip. Thank you knock. Thank you tracy. Thank you lisa. Thank you, jennifer Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Yes. Goldie hawn jane dc Surge michelle jennifer jenna With love. Thank you all so much. Bye. Bye now


Hello, I'm Sue Ellington, Chairman of South Cams District Council and ward member for Swavesy. Let's look back at some of the events of 2015. In September, VJ Day was celebrated here at South Cams, with the unveiling of a plaque by the High Sheriff of Cambridgeshire and in the presence of a really lovely group of VJ veterans and other veterans. The March past was something to be believed with 90 year olds stepping it out like goodens. We are building council houses. 20 new homes will be available for people who are linked with Swavesy. This is a real first and a real step forward and South Cams is going to build more council houses. Every year we put on Park Life at Milton Country Park. It's a free family fun day and last year was great. Next year it's going to be on 17th July, so don't forget to come. Many of you will remember that we do a community ward ceremony where you can nominate people to be celebrated for what they do in your community. The deadline is the 15th January, so go to scams.gov.uk and get somebody nominated from your village. Thank you to everybody who's contributed towards my charity for the year. Dogs for Good. It used to be called Dogs for Disabled but they've renamed it recently. These dogs really do help people to remain independent in their own homes and we have managed to raise a thousand pounds so far to buy a puppy called Hope who's going to be trained to help a disabled person. We have a target of 5,000 in two years and we're well on our way. Happy Christmas to all our residents. South Cams works for you. Please keep us informed of what you want us to do and where we can help you to live a better quality of life.


My name is Evan Volgas and I'm going to be talking about things you always wanted to know about WordPress But we're afraid to ask and I actually have to apologize to you guys because I had to make a few slight amendments I was talking to some people today and And also yesterday and I realized I was missing a few slides The first thing I want to go ahead and mention is what is an API? It's the term that gets thrown around a lot. There's a lot of API's in WordPress itself the database API etc When we're talking about an API if you're not familiar think of like a soda machine when you're interacting with a soda machine You walk up you put a dollar bill in the soda machine you press a button that you know Gives you a soda that that's an interface that's designed to allow you to interact with this machine And that's exactly what an API is like, but it's an eight, but it's this interaction for Software so if you want to Interact with Facebook for example via WordPress use an API to do that and really if you just kind of have a mental model of There's an interface that lets you talk to a machine. That's where you are another term that I've heard a lot but I don't know that is is quite as familiar to everyone is accessibility and when you're when you hear people talk about accessibility what they're really saying is You know there are elevators in this building when you want to go upstairs to get lunch You can take an elevator or you can take the stairs you can take the escalator But it's convenient and it's accessible to everyone the web is not like that So accessibility is really about making elevators for the web Just if that hasn't already sort of come across and there's been a lot of talks about it But when we go ahead and throw that out there as well and with that What is WordPress? So WordPress is a database. It's some PHP. It's some files and at this point we could be talking about Facebook We literally could be I mean Facebook is nothing more than PHP a database and some files But the thing that makes WordPress WordPress is there are rules Sort of how everything ties together and one of the most in my opinion one of the most important rules In WordPress is this thing that's called the template hierarchy and I'm assuming you guys can read So I'm not going to even try to read from my slides because that's boring but when we're talking about the template hierarchy what we're saying is There are rules in WordPress that if you're on the front page Load this template if you're on a blog post load that one If you've never heard of the template hierarchy, it's one of the best It's the literally probably the best 15 minutes you'll ever spend just reading over how that thing works It's quite remarkable and it really helps your mental model Another thing hooks you guys may have heard people talk about hey There are these hooks and there's two different types of them. There's actions and there's filters This is going to take a little bit more time to be honest with you The difference between the two is actions do stuff and filters modify stuff Filter, you know, if you come from a database background filters seem like they maybe get rid of things Like I want to filter people out of this room and you know You think that they get rid of things where they keep things from happening, but they don't necessarily do that They just modify things and there's some great Actually a fellow who's here his name is Otto It's not actually his name is his handle Samuel Wood. I believe is his name He was a great example of when to use a hook or when to use a Filter versus when to use an action and and sort of how to keep that, you know straight in your mind Read this article. It's it's a fantastic article that should you know probably not to read it like, you know Five or six times to really wrap your mind around it, but it's worth reading So the thing is Wordpress, I mean, it's just a database. It's some files. It's some PHP big deal And there's these rules the thing is if you were to print out all the rules Just just the hooks alone just the you know, literally here your actions here your filters It'd be about 50 pages Which is why I want to segue into what is doing development with WordPress? It has nothing to do With actually knowing all of those 50 pages of document I mean, that's why the documentation exists. We need to read it as developers We have to go there and you know make sense of this stuff And one of the things I've noticed being a developer is when I walk into a room sometimes people like oh I could never do what you do That's not true. And if I could dispel any one thing today It's that literally everyone in this room could be should be maybe you know if you want to Contributing to the code of wordpress. It's actually it's not that hard. You really can do this and you really should give it a shot It's quite fun It really is not about knowing everything on the planet. It's understanding that there are a couple of rules The template hierarchy for example that you've got these hooks and then it's about getting in there and just building stuff and trying it And that's where you know everything that I've said up into this point has not been an opinion It's all been you know, this is in fact what wordpress is This is in fact with a template hierarchy is and now I'm gonna go sort of into opinion land Please you know bear this in mind. This is an opinion But when you're building or when you're trying to get into developing with wordpress I really think that one of the best ways to do that is to use something called VVV Which is called it stands for varying vagrant vagrants It's so difficult to say The the nice thing about it if you guys have ever tried to install wordpress on your computer You've maybe read an article about hey go use map go use ex amp go use wamp and so forth It's incredibly painful and you read this blog post and you're like, oh, it's a five minute install And none of us do it in five minutes the first time. It's like a five hour install. Maybe Varying vagrant vagrants is is probably the coolest thing you will ever find it literally just works And you'll be up and running Within minutes, you'll be able to start developing wordpress on your local machine With that I guess two notes What now I've got some suggestions for things that you could do to start getting into wordpress I mean again, what are we talking about? We're talking about a database some files some PHP You can get it up and running on your computer very easily and you know, it's it's simple, right? It's just a Little bit of PHP database, but it's what built wordpress. It's in fact what built Facebook These are very powerful things and you have access to them and you really you know, it's fun You should play with them with that. That's that's actually my talk. So


Welcome to the Pyramid Insider. I'm Tyler Patner. Today we have some new releases from FX, the 25-caliber hybrid slugs, and the brand new superior liner. So first thing we're going to be taking a look at today is the new hybrid slug and 25-caliber. Now these are 26 grains, so a relatively lightweight for a slug. And if they're anything like their 22-caliber variant, they should be very good in a lot of guns. But that intro is kind of into the second new thing we got today, which was a bit of a surprise, and that's this new superior liner. Now built on the Smooth Twist X system, but according to FX, a little bit more precise in terms of the manufacturing here. So we should be getting more consistent results, I suppose. Again, we'll test and see just exactly what the superior liner is doing. But the real important point here is that FX is saying, unlike the 22-caliber, these hybrid slugs are not going to shoot very well out of your pellet liners. You're going to want to get one of these superior liners.  This is where the caveat comes in. FX is also saying that this superior liner is going to shoot pellets just as well, if not better, than the pellet liners that are existing today. So you're getting the best of both worlds, a liner that shoots both pellets and slugs. So to put the new slugs and the new liner to the test, we have two FX guns today that we're going to be testing in. The first of those is an FX Dream Lite. Now, this is of the Dream Line platform, of course. 600-millimeter barrel, and this already has the Smooth Twist X superior liner installed. It also has the power plenum installed, and what you guys can see here on the reg gauge, this thing is jacked up to the max. A little bit over 150 bar. This thing is meant to be a powerhouse to push those slugs at the speeds they want to be shot at. Got it topped off with a Miopta 4.5 to 27 first focal plane scope. Should compliment the rifle really nicely, but this is going to kind of be our test bed more for the slugs than the pellets. Now, to compare a pellet liner to this new superior liner, we have my own personal FX Wildcat Mark II here. Now, this is a 700-millimeter barrel variant, so we are going to go ahead and shoot this with both standard pellets. It's favorite food is the JSB Kings. We're going to shoot it with those Kings. We're also going to shoot it with the new hybrid slugs. See how it does. Should be running them right at about 880 or so. And then we're going to swap over to the superior liner and see if it, in fact, does shoot as well or better with pellets and how much better it's going to do with slugs. So we're going to put it to the test and see what it can do, both at 45 yards and then out to 100 yards as well. So since we've never done this before in terms of switching liners for you guys on camera, I figured it would be a good opportunity to show you how it's done. So we're going to take the Wildcat here and this is pretty much the same procedure for any of the FX guns with the STX liner system.  And once you can slide it off, go ahead and do so.  And then at the end of your barrel housing, you'll have this kind of locking nut here. And you'll notice it has two flats on it for a Crescent wrench or a standard wrench. And you just kind of go ahead and get that slid onto those flats, tighten it down there, and then torque counterclockwise. And then once you get it loose, just go ahead and you can twist it out by hand. Very easy to do. And you can see now we have our pellet liner exposed. I'm just going to kind of get it started there and then pull it on out. And you can see a couple of O-rings on there. We are going to want to take the O-rings and put them onto our superior liner. So I will get those off and get them put onto the superior liner and then we'll go ahead and reinstall. So I've gotten the O-rings replaced onto our superior liner. You can play with the spacing if you want. This is just kind of where I threw them on. If you want to pay close attention to this line in the back, that is your breach end of the barrel liner. So keep that in mind. We're just going to go ahead and slide it on in. A little bit of silicone grease is good on the O-rings as well. I definitely recommend that and get it seated in there. And we're going to go ahead and take our screw here. Get that started. And then once you get to the end there, you take your wrench and make sure it's nice and tight.  Nice and snug. And now our superior liner is installed. Now let's go put it to the test. So starting at 45 yards with the FX Dream Lite all cranked up there. We have five JSP Kings and a 5-8 inch group here running about 930 feet per second on average for those five. A lot faster than I'd recommend pushing pellets. You drop that down probably 40, 50 feet per second and the group's probably going to tighten up a bit. But that speed is very beneficial when we talk about these slugs. Now these hybrids in that superior liner, again, 5-8 of an inch. So basically the same size as our pellet group. Just a little bit different shaping, 939 foot per second average. So just slightly faster out of that gun there. But again, the superior liner absolutely doing well with both pellets and slugs there at 45. Now moving over to the Wildcat, again, a 700 millimeter barrel. But usually they do shoot a little bit slower. It doesn't have all the fancy adjustments that we do on that Dream Lite. A half inch group here, five shots at about 880 with JSP Kings. So this is kind of standard accuracy for the Wildcat, at least in my experience. And then putting those slugs into that pellet liner, a two inch group. This is pretty bad, 885 foot per second average. Again, there's barely any weight difference so the speed makes sense. But a slugs don't want to be pushed this slow. They definitely want a little bit more speed and that pellet liner just simply doesn't appear to like them. So after changing over to the superior liner, we have another half inch group with the pellets. JSP Kings again out of that superior liner. And then moving over to the slugs, a huge improvement. A three quarter inch five shot group out of that superior liner at right around 895 feet per second. So a little bit of speed increase probably would have done even better had they been going faster. Now we're going to go ahead and extend the range with the superior liner here and see just what it can do out of distance. For the long range shooting today, we got 90 yards here in the warehouse. Not quite the hundred we wanted, but it'll certainly work. Starting off with the dream light here with that 600 millimeter superior liner. With the JSP Kings, a 0.9 inch group here, five shots. So an MOA group, fantastic. So certainly just as good as we'd expect to see out of a pellet liner at this distance indoors. And then with those hybrids, a 1.1 inch five shot group, certainly pretty solid. And this obviously shot those hybrids a little bit better than our Wildcat did. Moving over to the Wildcat, we have a 0.98 inch group with the JSP Kings. Just a little bit bigger, but still very respectable, you know, sub one inch there. And then with our slugs, again, pushing those slugs a little bit slower in the Wildcat. We got four out of five in a one inch group and then that one up there is kicking it up to about an inch and a half center to center from the bottom to the top there. Now, this is a really important group right now because with that superior liner, again, an inch and a half at 90 yards. I want to remind you guys before the superior liner with the original pellet liner A, those hybrids, two inches at 45 yards. This is a smaller group at double the distance. That's what the superior liner is going to give you the advantage of is shooting those slugs reasonably well. Of course, you tune your gun for them and they are going to certainly perform better than you saw here. But guys, that's really in a nutshell what the superior liner is going to give you. Better performance with slugs without compromising your pellet performance. And that's what this is all about. We hope you guys enjoyed the video today. For The Insider, I'm Tyler Patner. Don't forget, as always, to like, comment, subscribe, and check us out on Facebook and Instagram. We'll see you at the next one.


Mark, three points in the road, bad way to return to actions even. No, we had a little weight obviously because of obvious reasons but it was a difficult game. Tram here under the lights, they talk about their reputation here but we came here and played our football.  So you have to win that initial battle, you have to match that physicality and we talked about that before the game. That's what we did and in the second half we had good moments as well and we were able to take the game away from them. So I'm really pleased, really pleased, I think sometimes maybe people just think we want to play football and we don't do the other bit while we proved a lot of people wrong today. Again, like you mentioned showing that grit, it's the same result as the Walsall game but a different pattern in terms of being picked back and having to soak up a bit of a pressure period. It's difficult, when opposition teams are going from back to front, you can't always get pressure on the ball to stop it going forward. So you've got to deal with the ball and the shells coming into your box and you've got to get your head on them and that's what we did. A few occasions, probably the only moments that we had a little bit of fear in terms of the general game was probably when the referee allowed things to go, obviously foul on Rom leading to their goal and they've got to be better than that. But overall, in spite of that, we looked threatening going up the other end and like I said, once we got a foul on them, the ball retained possession, moved it around, then we saw the game out quite comfortably in my view. Ten days without a game around about, so was that the message today to get three points by any means and just make sure that we continue with the momentum that will be? Yeah, well you know that's my buzzword, I'm not talking about momentum, momentum in fixtures, momentum in results, momentum in our play and we've got to keep it going. We want to be in the, I don't know where it leaves us today, I think we may well be in the top seven, six, I don't know what it is but that's where we need to be to make sure we're in a good position so that we're able to maintain that momentum, that we need to have a real push this year. So we're coming to places like this on a Tuesday night, we have to bang results out and that's what we've done. Another two for Andy Cuck's sound, bit of a broken record talking about him every week but nine for the season now he's really in a great form. Yeah, great, it wasn't just the goals tonight which obviously you've attained the game away from Tram here but it was his general play as well, didn't get a lot of help from the officials if we're honest and got battered in his shirt was all torn. But that's where he is, he'll fight for the team, fight for his team mate and fight for his club and that's where he did tonight. Not sure on the official figure yet but looked to be well over a thousand in that way and again on a Tuesday evening he'll show up on that. I mean it's fantastic, we're always surprised really the amount of numbers that we always bring but we shouldn't be really because they do it every time we have a fixture so once again a huge thank you to them for continuing to support us like they do. The team needs it, we need it, when things are getting a little bit hairy then their backing will always get us through and we're just really grateful that the last couple of way trips we've given them something to cheer. Before you know it again on Saturday 16,000 of them back at home I guess we're looking forward to that one now all eyes on now. Yeah, we've got to maintain this now, another difficult game but we've got a lot of elements to our play that I'm really pleased about and we've just got to keep on showing those good fundamentals and let our quality come through.


Now, let us see the contracts one by one, forward contracts. They are two persons, Asylum and Bashir. The current price of gold say on 1st January 2021, Rs. 10,000 per gram. Don't expect that gold price will increase in the next few months. Bashir suspects the decrease in price of gold, both parties do not have the gold. They both agree to contract in which Asylum is willing to buy and Bashir is willing to sell on 31st March 2021, however the price is decided 10,000 a gram. The price is not necessarily the same in the last three months. Every day the price changes, but both parties agree that gold is willing to buy and Bashir is willing to sell on 31st March 2021. If the gold price increases to Rs. 12,000, Asylum is willing to buy and Bashir is willing to sell on 31st March 2021. Asylum is willing to buy and Bashir is willing to sell on 31st March 2021. Asylum is willing to buy and Bashir is willing to sell on 31st March 2021. Bashir is willing to sell on 31st March 2021. Bashir will lose 2000, there will be no purchase or sale of gold. Bashir will give you Rs. 2000 per gram as per the size of the gram. If the gold price decreases to Rs. 9000, Asylum will sell Rs. 10,000 and Bashir will sell Rs. 10,000. Bashir will get Rs. 9000 and Asylum will sell Rs. 10,000. Asylum is willing to buy and Bashir will sell Rs. 10,000 and Bashir will sell Rs. 10,000. Asylum is willing to buy and Bashir will sell Rs. 10,000 and Bashir will sell Rs. 10,000. Normally, I have given you a simple example. Practically, in the season of cotton, we decide in advance how much bale we have bought and what is the price. Obviously, a bale costs Rs. 50,000-60,000. If you have bought 2000 bale, how much will it cost? If the price is decreasing, then the seller will benefit because he has to sell at a center price. But if the price is increasing, then the buyer will benefit because he will get a cheap price. This difference in pricing benefits people or losses. In both parties, we have to be very careful about how to make a deal. The period involved is not more than 3 months. The longer the period is, the expectation or prediction is not good. That is why we decide the deal within the period of 3 months. This is not just about cotton. In all the places, what do these juice factories do? In the season of flowers, they first contract. We have to buy so many tons from you and buy at this price. The price in the market will have to be given at the same price. If the market price is increasing, then the buyer will benefit because he has to buy at a lower price. If the price is decreasing, then the seller will benefit because he has to buy at a higher price. The problem in this system is that one party can run away. You cannot force unless you go to the court of law. Because there is mutual agreement. You cannot force legally. If there is an agreement, then you can go and fight in the court. If a party runs away from its contract, otherwise there is a profit. There is a benefit on one party, but on the other party, there is also a loss. That is why there is a normal conflict in this system. In conflict, there is a loss of both parties. If you go to the court of law, then there are problems. Now look at this. A contract which is for future but its sale, its rate has been settled to the present day. After 3 months, what will be the price? You never know. But we first decide that after 3 months, we have to sell such amount of things at this price. If the price is more, then obviously there will be a loss and the other party will benefit. This is an issue of a forward contract. We will discuss later what is the difference between forward and future. In forward, there are 2 parties and they both mutually agree on what is the price and when to sell. Time and price are fixed. Quantity and time and price are fixed by everything. Now there is a chance that they will not accommodate each other and run away. They think that they should not honour the contract. Then you do not have any other option to go to the court and defend yourself. Thank you very much.


Our dear viewers, welcome to another episode of the Master of Messengers. In our previous show, we mentioned that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala, our beloved Prophet peace be upon him and his purified progeny and family, that he advocated the Muslims to write and to compile hadiths and traditions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and to gather them and to save them and to pass them down from generation to generation. Furthermore, we mentioned that there was an opposition and this opposition started at the time of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and this opposition continued through the hands of Quraish when they would submit those who gathered and compiled hadiths of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala to refrain from gathering the hadiths of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala because he was not infallible and his words were not directly from Allah s.w.t all the time. Use that as an excuse. Also we mentioned that the opposition, the second part of the opposition started merely with the departure of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala from this world. To be precise, this opposition, the second part of the opposition started when Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala was on his deathbed. And he had gathered the Muslims for him to give them his last words of advice. This day was known as the catastrophe of Thursday or raziyat yawm al khamis or raziyat al khamis. When Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala gathered with all the Muslims or the majority of those who lived in the city of Medina in his home and he told them that bring me a pen and a paper so I can write you a book and through this book you will never stray from the laws and guidelines of Allah s.w.t and at that moment a man stood from the crowd and the congregation raising his voice in the face of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala hasbuna kutabullah that all we need is the book of Allah s.w.t and he kept repeating these words and of course the congregation erupted those who did not agree with this man and those who agreed with this man and their voices became loud and they started to yell at one another until Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala told them to leave his home and this was done by Umar ibn al kutab on the last days of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala so this campaign started at the time of the departure of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala very crucial times for the muslim ummah basically a time where the future of Islam was destroyed and hijacked by those who came with these words hasbuna kutabullah and this became a campaign against the tradition and the history and sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala that every time people would refer back to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala the opposition would raise their slogan that we only need the book of Allah the holy Quran that we do not need the words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala even though that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in the holy Quran says that the prophet of Islam and his messenger does not speak from himself unless it is through revelation so the words the true words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala did not differ from the revelation of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala as we mentioned previously in the last episode that Jibrail alayhi sallam would descend upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and he would teach him his sunnah and he would teach him his traditions in an increasing amount or a great amount of sources in some schools of thought within the Muslims the Umar ibn al-Khattab would command every single preacher from the Ansar and the Sahaba and the companions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala to minimize from the hadiths of our beloved beloved prophet and to only stick with the Quran and for those who did continue to speak or to advocate the hadiths of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala they were imprisoned they were prosecuted for example Ubay ibn ka'ab or Abu Musa al-ash'ari they were both prosecuted and taken into court and custody for their crime was that they had mentioned hadiths from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and one or several different references and sources that one day Umar ibn al-Khattab joined the Ansar who were leaving the city of Medina to the city of Kufa and he walked with them to the end of the city or the outskirts of the city the borderline of the city and he told them that when you reach the city of Kufa the people of Iraq will say that the companions of Muhammad have arrived to our city so of course without a doubt they will come and ask you of the traditions and hadiths of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and everything that you will say they will nod their heads in acceptance but what I ask from every single one of you is that you stop and minimize the spread of the traditions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and you only stick with the Quran so this became a campaign the campaign of Hasbuna Kitabullah moreover this persecution grew to a larger scale and some of the companions of the Prophet those who were very close to our beloved Prophet were placed under house arrest for example like al-Zubayr he came to ask for permission to leave for Umrah but Umar ibn al-Khattab refused to let him leave for Umrah for his excuse was that you will cause mischief in the Ummah of Rasulullah by spreading the hadiths of our own Prophet people like al-Zubayr, ibn al-Mas'ud, ibn al-Dardaa, ibn al-Ghufari were placed under house arrest for they would refer back to the hadiths and traditions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and of course this opposition grew stronger it grew stronger as days went by as mentioned in the previous show as soon as our beloved Prophet passed away Abu Bakr got rid of the five hundred hadiths that he had written from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala as if as soon as our Prophet departed his this life in this world his traditions his hadiths also departed from the lives of these people they had no longer anything to do with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa a'ala and they came with this new agenda this agenda of hasbuna kitabullah and when Umar was asked that why such behavior he had several responses one of them was that I fear that the Muslims will walk in the same footsteps of the nations that came before them for example the nation of Moses or the people of Moses the Jews or the people of Isabna Maryam alayhum sallam the Christians that they will take the books written by their scholars and they will neglect the book Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala and one of his words he says moshnat kamoshnata ahlul kitab referring to the gamara and the Mishnah of the Torah of Jews today that these books were written from scholars and people neglected the books of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala thus I will stand before the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi and I will not allow them to spread within the Muslims so they do not become like the Mishnah and the gamara of the Jews and the Talmud Talmud the book of the Jews other words of Omar ibn al khattab he says the actions of the Muslims remind me of the nations before us for they took for they took the books of their scholars and they left the words of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala and they abandoned the books of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala there is no comparison when it comes to the words of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi because Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi la yantigu anil hawa inhu wa illa wahyun yuha and if we continue to seek what happened at the time of his ruling even people such as Abu Hurayrah if you refer back to his biography in the sources that we will share with you in the screen below Abu Hurayrah says at the ruling of Omar anyone who mentioned the hadith from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi or merely gave a hadith starting with Qala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi he was persecuted and he was sentenced to jail so Muslims stopped stopped bringing up the tradition and the hadiths of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi merely years after the departure of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi now mentioning the burning of hadiths that occurred after the death of Rasulullah or the departure of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi in the book of Taqeeb al-Ailm lil khatib al-Baghdadi the author of this book taqeeb al-Ailm al-khatib al-Baghdadi the Baghdadi preacher as a translation in volume one pages 38 Abu Hurayrah says that we gathered all the traditions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi by the command of Omar from all around the Muslim world Islam had spread throughout the whole Middle East throughout Asia at the departure of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi as a ruler he wrote a book commanding all those who had written or documented anything regarding Rasulullah hadith tradition or history for them to bring their books for they wanted to make an encyclopedia or a very large amount of books and to document every single one of them so instead of having thousands and thousands of books from several different people or hundreds or thousands of different people we have one book that gathers all the hadith of Rasulullah his tradition his surna and his history and he says the Muslims did do so but when they gathered when they gathered the books and all in one place they set them to fire and the hadiths and their tradition and history or history of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi that was written by the companions by the people of Medina by those who had converted to Islam and the religion of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala were set to fire and it was demolished brothers and sisters our dear viewers what i have just mentioned actually occurred within the Muslims it is documented in our books these are not the words of Muzaffar qazweeni everything that has been mentioned today on this show is documented as historical events in several different books different sources reliable sources to some schools of thought within the Muslims unfortunately our time has come to an end but we will continue the sweet talk of the tradition of the master of messengers so follow me Muzaffar al qazweeni on our show the master of messengers