Personal responsibility on the road to restoration and you know one of them when we sat down and we thought about this conference wanting it to be as practical for you as possible as helpful to you as possible and we've talked about Taking common issues common problems like communication very very common difficulties with respect to marriage Some of you newly weds or you're engaged at the moment. You have no idea what we're talking about you will though There will come a point where these things will need to be put into practice Right now you're in that honeymoon phase however These are very very common problems in Marriages and things that we run into all the time, you know as I go through this particular session If you've done any counseling With me with respect to marriage You're probably gonna think I'm talking about you But I'm talking about all of our all of our cows Every counseling session I've ever done I has dealt with this particular issue and I have to deal with this myself So I have good material to draw from we're putting the session together These things are very common including this particular issue and that we'll get into we live in a culture that is overtly offended by guilt or offended by shame They have a conscience a God-given conscience we all do and The culture in which we live Cardinal sin is for someone else to draw attention to their guilty or accusing conscience They're offended by guilt or shame. They would much rather silence their conscience and justify themselves by blame shifting by playing the victim by shoving off any personal responsibility for their actions Often by just being a louder than the other guy, right? You see that on the news all the time the way that people will respond to this It's seldom if you notice very seldom that we ever see Someone take personal responsibility for their actions.   I was reading this week. I came across an article on Brian Holloway You've ever heard that name before he Brian Holloway played for the Patriots NFL Superstar for the Patriots back in the day Brian Holloway owns two houses. I thought this was very interesting just it's it's Goes right in line with what we're talking about Brian Holloway has a home in Florida and has a home in Massachusetts They were in their home in Florida When teenagers broke into their house, this was 2013. I think it was Teenagers broke into his house in Massachusetts and held a huge blowout party So they broke in by the time it was all said and done a very very minimal estimate said the damages was well over $20,000 and These teenagers who broke into the house had this party were posting pictures of it posting comments online so Twitter and Facebook all abuzz with this party and That's how Brian Holloway found out about it He found out about it over Twitter that somebody that these kids had broken broken into his house And we're having a party so when he saw it online he called the police Police came out and of course kids drunken kids, you know in a stupor scattered everywhere driving home that kind of thing And so Brian said in the article that initially he was angry and then that quickly turned to We need to do something about these kids these kids are ruining their lives and getting into all kinds of stuff They shouldn't be involved in and so he set up a website called help save help me save 300 I think is the name of the website help me save 300 calm so Brian Put all those Twitter posts and Facebook posts on the website and posted them there So kids taking pictures in his house on top of his tables or on his countertops and drinking and vandalizing his home They were posting their pictures online. He took those posts those pictures posted them on the on his website and Gave them an option these 300 kids or so Said that they could Take responsibility for their actions come and help him clean up the mess. He had an event there the next weekend Come help me clean up the mess Or you can not take responsibility. I'm gonna press charges and they're gonna arrest you and So they he put that online and the next weekend when they had to clean up date set four kids showed up out of three more than 300 Not only that not only that But there was a group a fairly large group of parents who threatened to and I think have sued Because he took their posts and put them on there on his website So posted their pictures and essentially shamed them on His website and now that's not gonna hold up. Those are public. They posted them themselves But that just goes to show you right the attitude the heart attitude of people who want to shift responsibility at the very first Time that I can recall that ever really taking place Publicly openly was the McDonald's coffee suit You remember that that lady spilt her coffee in her lap after getting it through the drive through at McDonald's and sued McDonald's and won that lawsuit Because the coffee she said was too hot So just not willing to take responsibility for their actions and the fact that those parents would not even take responsibility or Insist upon their kids taking responsibility for their actions that night at that party Only four showed up and then they even went so far as to threaten lawsuits Against him. It was interesting to me this last week. I was listening to the news and John Kelly Trump cabinet member the new secretary for Homeland Security actually came out on the news and took responsibility for The rollout of that executive order on immigration Said that he confessed that he could have done a better job that he didn't do what he needed to do to make that roll out more Effective more smooth and I was shocked I just don't remember the last time that I've heard a public figure like that come out publicly and accept responsibility For something that didn't go right Just very rare that that happens sadly this self-justifying self-righteous defensive response isn't just limited to Special snowflakes on college campuses in safe zones, right? This kind of response we're all guilty of this sin is very common and we all do it Even that guy I love that picture is to look on his face, right? Very common we all do it a Jeremiah chapter 17 verse 9 says the heart is deceitful above all things and Desperately wicked who can know it. It's deceitful above all things So we think about those things like that that that story about the party at Brian Holloway's house Is maddening that that would actually take place in the way those people respond But we have to own up to the fact that we all We all Justify ourselves to some degree or another we're all prone to self-righteousness to pride To self-justification. It is a very very common problem. Your biggest flatterer Is the man in the mirror? right It's a terrible problem so To prove my point Maybe you've used one of these self-justifying statements recently see if any of these apply to you Didn't get to take off the bottom a little section there. You ever use that one before? You're react harshly React rudely, but then you self-justify. We have a tendency to do that. Don't we we self-justify. I'm sorry. I'm just tired No, you just sinned right. What about this one? My brother has used that so I felt comfortable using it They joke about that all the time so all right, let's go to the next one Right that's a common one isn't it you just reacted angrily in the car We all do this don't we in some form or fashion often several times a day. What about the next one brother? Did we use that one? Yeah, you're just complaining about the facts. It's what you're doing. You're complaining about the facts What about the next one? You know when someone asks you to help with the kids in the nursery. No, no, no, no I'm really I'm really better suited for a teaching role on it. I'm gifted in other ways You heard that one before Maybe the last one Yeah, you've heard that one for well do this next one is to the point We are so prone to do that all the time It's very common and we all do it except me Which let the slides do to talking Trying to imitate imitate that guy all right It's particularly Destructive right when we carry that kind of sinful baggage into our marriage, but we do We are very prone if not most prone To have that kind of sinful interaction with our wife with our husband, right? We self-justify. We're self-righteous Self-righteousness is a marriage wrecker is a relationship wrecker And we'll talk about why that is as we go through turn with me to Matthew chapter 7 Matthew chapter 7 You get my face off the bed you go to the next one I'm shamed enough. Thank you All right Matthew chapter 7 and I want you to take a look at this text This text dealing with hypocritical judgment. We've looked at this text before but I want to take a moment and apply it To what we're talking about and apply it to marriage in particular right Matthew chapter 7 and look beginning at verse 1 Lord here in the Sermon on the Mount Teaching he says in verse 1 judge not That you be not judged For with what judgment you judge you will be judged and with the measure you use it will be measured back to you And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye? But do not consider the plank in your own eye or how can you say to your brother? Let me remove the speck from your eye and look a plank is in your own eye hypocrite First remove the plank from your own eye and then you'll see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye Lord here in Matthew chapter 7 verses 1 through 5 is referring to the self-righteous judgment of the fairest Pharisees predominantly They the Pharisees being in the business of exalting themselves We're often guilty of mercilessly condemning others that was their MO right this is Very important to understand when it comes to taking personal responsibility or correcting patterns of self-justification self-righteousness in your relationship Success at justifying yourself most often comes at the expense of others It's gonna cost your spouse for you to justify yourself Your self-justification comes at the expense of your spouse most often Right and for the Pharisees to get away with self-justifying or for exalting themselves They had to diminish or to demean others those two things go hand-in-hand So when you're self-justifying it's often coming at the expense of your spouse when you're married This always tragically and destructively involves your spouse when your Self-righteousness runs amok where you are self-justifying Your spouse is paying a price now. Let's consider this passage Matthew chapter 7 verses 1 through 5 In the context of a marriage relationship, and I want to look at three points, right? Responsibility disregarded responsibility denied and then responsibility demanded want to look at the text quickly and then apply this to marriage Okay, so let's first look at responsibility Disregarded in verse 1 the Lord says verse 1 Judge not that you be not judged for with what judgment you judge you will be judged and with the measure you use It will be measured back to you Now in verses 1 and 2 if you look at that text the Lord reminds us that we ourselves are going to face judgment Right while you may be judging someone else for their actions. You have to remember You are going to face judgment one day yourselves for your own actions We get we're gonna be held accountable for unjust or hypocritical Judgements James chapter 4 verse 11 do not speak evil of or slander do not slander one another brethren He who speaks evil of a brother and much more so your wife, right much more so your husband He who speaks evil of a brother or wife or husband and judges His brother or wife or husband speaks evil of the law and judges the law But if you judge the law you are not a doer of the law But a judge there is one lawgiver who is able to save and to destroy Who are you to judge your spouse judge another judge a brother, right? Jesus says that God will judge Using the same measure of judgment with which we Judge others and we do that unjustly or hypocritically When we presume to be judged over others We'll take a look at a minute at what this looks like, but when we presume to be judged over others We can't claim ignorance of God's standard We like Haman, right? We erect a gallows for our spouse and We end up hanging ourselves on it. Does that make sense? So second point beginning in verse 3 responsibility denied verse 3 the Lord says this Why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye and do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother? Let me remove the speck from your eye and look a plank is in your own eye The the difference between the speck and the plank right makes the point that the sin The sin of the self-justifying Critic right the sin of the self-righteous spouse is greater Than the sin of the other spouse So when you stand in judgment when you have a plank in your own eye and You stand in hypocritical or unjust judgment of your spouse and you don't take Responsibility for your own sin. You don't take responsibility for your peace and all of this Then your hypocritical judgment yourself justifying is a greater sin. It's a plank When the other sin is compared to a speck does that make sense? that which blinds him To considering the plank in his own eye verse 3 is his own self-righteousness That was what the Pharisees were guilty of his own self-righteousness his own self-justifying Conduct is that which blinds him to seeing the plank in his own eye the plank of self-righteousness The plank of his sin is right there in his eye and he can't see past it if you've ever Been involved I have I myself to my shame have been guilty of this I've talked to brothers and sisters many of you have to that have that are guilty of this sin You can't see past the speck in the other person's eye in order to see your own plank Your self-justifying Self-righteous pride blinds you to the plank in your own eye And so you become fixated focused on the specks of your spouse and it will wreck Destroy run ramshot over your marriage if you keep doing that It's a relationship killer All he can do in this situation is see the sin of his brother, right? What the Lord is saying is consider your own sin Consider your own sin and then Maybe you can help with your brother's sin right third point verse five responsibility demanded The Lord says hypocrite calls him a hypocrite first Remove the plank from your own eye and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye you know he puts on this critical self-justifying self-righteous prideful spouse puts on the mask of Religious superiority puts on a mask of right puts on a mask of holiness and That self-righteousness is blinding you're blind to your own sin You can't see clearly you certainly can't see clearly enough to judge the matter from both perspectives rightly You can't even see clearly to handle your own sin does that make sense? There is a necessity for righteous judgment the Lord doesn't Set aside righteous judgment here. He affirms it But it's only when the plank is removed that you can then see clearly all becomes clear, right? How's that plank removed? It's removed through humility. It's removed through genuine repentance It's removed through dealing biblically with your sin and being in a state of humility before God that allows you to see clearly The situation lies before you an excellent illustration of this right if you take Matthew chapter 7 verses 1 through 5 And you illustrate that in the Bible excellent illustration is the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18 Listen to this parable in light of those points in light of what we just talked about Listen to the parable verse 9 Also, we spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and They despised others I think about that for a moment again when you Self-justify when you're self-righteous in your relationship that comes at the expense of your spouse So you believe that you're righteous and you show contempt you show disdain or you despise your spouse They trusted in themselves that they were righteous and they despised others verse 10 Two men went up to the temple to pray one a Pharisee the other a tax collector the Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself God I Thank you that I'm not like other men Extortioners unjust adulterers or even this tax collector. I fast twice a week I give tithes of all that I possess and the tax collector standing afar off would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven But he beat his breast saying God be merciful to me a sinner I tell you this man went down to his house justified rather than the other for everyone who Exalts himself will be humbled and he who humbles himself will be exalted now a lot of times We think about passages like that. We think about passages like Matthew chapter 7 in the context of Salvation someone coming to Christ That has bearing in our relationship doesn't it with our spouse You can see how someone in their relationship who does not take responsibility for their own sin But justifies their sin or is self-righteous regarding their sin How that is depicted in the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18 That's the picture that's the That's what you're doing in your marriage when you self-justify when you don't take responsibility for your sin In order to take personal responsibility for your sin in your marriage. It takes humility. It takes humility You must be humble that humility comes through conviction Conviction over your sin Conviction of what the word of God says and then you need with that conviction with God's help God's grace You need courage to do what you need to do in your relationship to restore your relationship takes humility takes conviction Takes courage. All right The point that I want to be clear this morning and have you consider with me is That this heart attitude the heart attitude of the unjust judge in Matthew 7 and the attitude of the Pharisee in Luke 18 is prevalent in virtually every Unresolved marital conflict That attitude that heart attitude is prevalent in virtually every unresolved marital conflict Maybe you've been there before and you would think about that time right now that You're blaming your circumstances on your spouse The circumstances have escalated and they begin to Grow and they begin to get more and more out of control to the point where your home now Is no longer a peaceful loving Kind compassionate loving peaceful environment It's now conflict.  There's tension In that kind of a situation This is what's happening It's prevalent in virtually every single one of those circumstances Someone is being self-justifying someone is being self-righteous both Or being self-justified and both are being self-righteous Both letting their pride get the better of them not repenting not resolving the conflict One or both spouses refusing to take personal responsibility for their sin refusing to Consider the plank in their own eye and they're fixated on the speck in their spouse's eye one or both poisoned With this self-justifying self-righteousness, right? Let me give you the deadly progression of that how that looks in a relationship Let me give you five steps Five steps five steps of the deadly progression This is the downward spiral The first one is confrontation confrontation Confrontation is simply dealing with sinful conduct. We do that in the church, right? Matthew chapter 18 other passages You go to your brother. You go to your sister when they're in sin You lovingly confront them in their sin between you and them alone and you hope to restore Fellowship with them when they repent of their sin And turn back to christ, right? It's just loving confrontation. That's a good and biblical thing to do You need to practice that in your relationship with your spouse Right, you're going to sin against your spouse. Your spouse is going to sin against you And so when they're sin you deal with that sin and you deal with it on a behavioral level Uh, it's the way the lord deals with us, right? When the lord deals with us You sin in this way I'm going to call you to repentance for that sin and we're going to restore the relationship There's going to be forgiveness and peace again in our relationship It's not that these things add up over time And then it becomes this huge Unresolved mess of issues that now can't be resolved any longer because you're just so far gone And there's bitterness and anger and unforgiveness in the home, right?  You ask for forgiveness. You receive forgiveness and you restore the relationship confrontation Next level though when that doesn't take place the way that it's supposed to It morphs into or evolves into criticism Criticism is the next step It may be in your relationship that you passed over confrontation altogether and this is where you're at You've had bad Habits seep into your marriage and so you just you're critical of each other now You've sort of passed over the biblical confrontation Step, you've not been dealing with sin biblically in your marriage and so now you're this step of criticism Criticism is where death begins to seep in to your relationship This is sin rather than dealing with sinful behavior Now criticism begins to impugn their character In other words, it goes from What did you do? Well, let's deal with that what? And I want to repent of that what and I want to forgive that what and it moves to You always do that or you never Do those things because that's who you are That's the way that you are as long as I've known you that's what you do Do you see the difference between those two things? That's the way that the accuser of the brethren Right whispers in the ear of the believer That's not godly.   It's already starting to seep in right? This is where death creeps into your relationship.   It's just a downward spiral, right contempt now manifests itself in purposeful actions or intentional words meant to hurt or wound or demean or diminish So once you have camped out in the criticism phase for a short period of time doesn't usually take very long Now that criticism And you always do this you always do that you never do this turns into contempt You may not say it with your mouth. I love you honey, but you're showing contempt for the other person In the way that you talk to them Your words are hurtful When things begin to escalate you know exactly the right button to push and so you push it And it gives you joy to push it You know you like to put your finger right on that and see what happens right and escalate it even more That's because you're already beyond criticism now. You're in contempt On the other person's part here's where you'll see the eyes roll You'll mention something and it'll be like Like what you see the body language the hostile body language the eyes rolling you'll get um insults You'll get sarcasm like biting sarcasm You'll get um harsh comments You'll be mean to one another mean mean spirited angry words.   You're taking no personal responsibility You're lashing out at the other person now, right? So you're lashing out with accusations of your own not me It may show up like this right Listen, I know I'm not sinless in this But that's the way it manifests itself. I'm not sinlessly perfect. I know I don't I'm not the perfect husband. I'm not the perfect wife But it always you always have to put your butt in there Not me it's you it's that woman you gave me The last step is collapse It's collapse one or both shut down Now there's no more listening everything is blocked off Not even any more shallow attempts at effort the effort just ceases now. There's just resignation Withdrawal at this point There's really no relationship left. You're living in an empty husk and um ugly right just No talking going on no time together your stranger's under the same roof So think about that now confrontation criticism contempt counter attack collapse The last step we'll talk about we'll talk about that in a few minutes is correction It's correction. How do you? Correct course and get back on track first though. What perpetuates That process what perpetuates the process? Well, here's what does it? your self-justification your self-righteousness your blame shifting Your failure to take personal responsibility for your sin All of those begin with the word your right? This is the reality of it now in relationships You do have circumstances where one person sins and the other person does not You deal with that biblically you deal with that biblically when you don't deal with it biblically you put yourself on this downward spiral Then it becomes your responsibility to course correct. Get yourself back on the right track It is your self-righteousness. It is your self-justifying. It is your blame shifting It's your failure to take personal responsibility that will push this thing from one level to the next I've said it many times in counseling. It's really really hard to argue with someone who won't argue with you It's really difficult to get to contempt When this person simply will not do anything But exactly what the lord would have him do in his circumstances You maybe hold that person in contempt because he's doing that you got other problems if that's the case But what perpetuates the process is your failure to deal with the plank in your own eye And yes by this point you have one you've got one Now if you're thinking, you know, that's right That's right and my spouse needs to take responsibility for them Where we find it all the time, but I there I Venture to guess there are people in the room. Maybe thinking that right now. I hope she's listening to this. I hope he's listening to this Take responsibility take responsibility. So let's talk about these individually. Okay first self-justification We'll do this quickly. Self-justification says Self-justification says I did this because I'm of the situation. I did this because of my circumstances Here's how I acted. It's like I forgot because I'm tired Here's one thing I'll use to my shame. I forgot because I have so many other things on my mind Self-justifying right self-justification. We tend to do that for ourselves Because we let ourselves off the hook So we're quick to let ourselves off the hook, but we're quick to put our spouse on the hook Blameshifting and self-righteousness sounds like this They did that because that's who they are. They always do that Blameshifting She forgot because she's so selfish You see she forgot because she's selfish That's who she is That's blame shifting that self-righteousness. It's what we tend to do to others We tend to self-justify But we tend to exercise self-righteousness in our interactions with other people We don't critique or deal with their conduct We impugn their character. We attack their character This person is this way. She's always that way. Do you see? And remember as you're doing that You self-justify And at the same time tear her down tear him down Sometimes you self-justify by Tearing her down or tearing him down Self-justification self-righteousness in your relationship comes at the expense of your spouse May sound like this. I know I could do better, but I know i'm not sinless in this situation, but I know I have my own weaknesses But right self-justification Self-justification self-righteousness you don't know what it's like to live with him You don't know what i'm going through I'm not even sure that he's a christian Self-righteousness the marriage is a wreck because my spouse is a wreck I'm coming for help only because I want to fix the other person. I don't need fixing I'm coming so that you will fix him fix her And when I address the one who Presumes the thing they don't need fixing they get offended They'll be out the door. What are you doing addressing my me in this? It's Him that's the problem. She's the problem Right, we want to fix the other person She really needs to be confronted in her sin. She really I've I've gotten nowhere Doing that somebody else really needs to confront her confront him In their sin, you know if she would just submit Right If he would just he doesn't lead he doesn't lead our household That's self-righteousness. It's blame-shifting now all that to say there are pieces and elements. This is what makes this so Insidious sometimes is because there are elements of that which may be true With self justification with Self-righteousness you don't believe that you're lying You believe that you're telling the truth you believe that you've got a good bead on the circumstances that you understand The way things are going You don't believe that you're making excuses. You're telling the truth as far as you're concerned. You don't believe that these are rationalizations You don't believe that you're responsible for sin or you don't believe that you're as Responsible for sin as the other person the other person obviously has the wrong perspective and you believe your self-righteous Self justifications are true.  I think paul says for I say Through the grace given to me to everyone who is among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think But to think soberly as god has dealt to each one a measure of faith We tend to self-justify when it comes to our own sin And that self justification resolves it very quickly. We tend to fixate on the sins of our spouse Not willing to justify them. We're not willing to justify them We tend to offload any conviction that we feel we tend to offload it very quickly But our fixation becomes making sure that our spouse feels conviction for not letting them off the hook They can't get away with that And making them feel their conviction as they should right? That's our attitude The problem is too That we believe we see things rationally Really as they are And there's that element of truth that sort of anchors our self-justifying conduct Now unless you repent of this You're going to ruin your marriage You'll wreck your relationship So you can't play the victim you can't play the victim in relationships where this begins to happen and you move beyond Biblical confrontation and now you're into sinful criticism. And maybe you've moved on to sinful Abhorrent contempt right you're moving down that spiral. You must repent You must turn from your sin or you will ruin your relationship. Don't play the victim. Don't play the victim. You're not a victim Take responsibility. You need to take responsibility If you Think that in all this this is out of your control, right? This is just this is the way that it is I'm never going to change my wife Right, I'm never going to change my husband If you resign yourself And concede in that kind of way This is always going to be something that is done to you And not something that you have responsibility for to control and to fix And god has given you a stewardship if you're a husband if you're a wife God has given you a stewardship of your marriage relationship So you've got to get in there and do what you need to do to fix your sin problem and work in your marriage Um, I was reading an article we'll go over in a second by doug wilson and doug wilson makes the point he applies um Peter's question about john when peter He hears what he thinks the lord's saying that peter or john is going to live And peter essentially asks the lord about that and so the lord's response to peter was What is that to you? What is that to you? What happens to him? You follow me, right? That applies here So if your spouse sins in this way or that way You deal with the sin biblically you deal with the sin biblically But at the end of the day, what is that to you? You have responsibility in your marriage To fix this self-justifying self-righteous conduct and to repent of your sin Don't play the victim This is not something that's just merely happening to you. You have responsibility for it.  I'm a pretty good husband. I love her I love her. I do a lot of things for her that she doesn't acknowledge She needs to stop complaining Right But you have set aside Very little time devoted to her No substantial investment in building companionship with her And that's the reality now you can either understanding that reality. You can do one of two things you can say One Listen, i'm busy. I have stuff going on all the time. I need time every now and then just to catch my breath Right two hours of video games two hour movie Two hours at fellowship two hours, right Two hours of overtime besides we just spent time together the other night watching a two-hour movie That doesn't count back-to-back episodes of csi. We sat there like zombies on the couch You can do that or Number two which takes humility and takes courage You can repent of your neglect. You can ask your wife for forgiveness right And you can lead in the management of your home And spend time spend the time that you need to spend Right, that's one example. Let me give you another You know You know That you're not being submissive to your husband in that particular area. You know it Rather than just confessing that you're in sin Rather than just repenting and bearing fruits of repentance You think to yourself I'm a submissive wife I submit to him in most areas I'm not a perfect wife, but I'm a submissive wife Trust me. I feel like I am submitting all the time If somebody could see the bite marks on my tongue He's being unreasonable in this but But you know You have failed to lovingly follow your husband's lead when it comes to The kids when it comes to the home when it comes to Church when it comes to whatever it is right, whatever it is You have failed and you know it you have failed to submit to your husband In that particular area. You can do one of two things You can either Say to yourself what he wants in this is not going to make a difference Not going to make a difference besides I don't trust his leadership He's just trying to control my life. I don't get any say in this Right. When did we ever talk about this? You can accuse your husband. He's just bringing this up Because I told him I feel neglected So now he brings this up You're not being submissive to me in this area This is what he always does This is what he always does. He provoked me He provoked me or or You can repent of your rebellion against God You can ask for your forgiveness You can trust the lord and submit to your husband, right? You have those choices laid out before you. What are you going to do? That's the issue. It's one humble repentant loving What god intends the other rebellious self-justifying self-righteous prideful relationship crushing Right love squashing You've got a choice. You got water in your hand and gasoline. What are you going to put on the fire, right? Humility takes humility takes conviction takes courage The last step in the process Think about the seas there is correct correction Correction, you must see it rightly this is Read an article this comes from uh douglas wilson tonight I Thought about this in you know numerous numerous numerous Um counseling appointments trying to communicate this and I just Uh when I read this article from douglas wilson just couldn't think of communicating it any better It just really helped sort of um Lock it down in my mind Most people think of he calls it um that Counseling or marriage relationship is not a zero-sum game in other words. There's not one Pi that equals a hundred percent You guys can really see that well over there, can't you? Um and when you come in or when you're sitting down you're working through the problem You're divvying up that particular pi With your own percentage of responsibility, right that um here's My responsibility And here's my spouse's responsibility, right so I have one percent but it's all her So you're that's what you're you sit down and you think about your relationship that way that um you want to Divvy up responsibility For the sin that is harming your relationship. The reality is The reality is that you have Two circles And here's the more biblical way to think about this You have one hundred percent responsibility for your sin and the relationship For your self-justifying for your self-righteousness for your pride for your sin for your actions And you're one hundred percent responsible for dealing with that sin And if you don't you're crushing you're killing your relationship You spouse your spouse they have their own one hundred percent Uh responsibility for their own sin.  Counseling over we just can't we're not getting anywhere, right? You got to focus on your one hundred percent um the A good illustration and oh, I think it's a good illustration that helps think about that Is um I use the the Orlando nightclub shooting, right?  She had no business sitting next to wearing something. She had no business wearing She has her own Circle do you see not to diminish his horrendous act at all Not to diminish omar matine's horrendous act at all But taking personal responsibility for their own part in the the sin In your relationship you have to do the same thing You have to you have to you have to take your fixation Off your spouse's 100 and you have to be fixated on your own sin On your own sin on what you have done You need to repent of your sin You need to humble yourself and ask your wife ask your husband for forgiveness Focus on your plank the plank in your eye right Let me give you a couple of steps The first is to acknowledge that the first is to acknowledge that if you are having difficulties in your relationship and Those difficulties have not been consistently Resolved such that you have completely clear accounts with your husband Completely clear accounts with your wife and completely clear accounts with god Then you need to work on that today take responsibility for your plank repent of your sin do that now and turn to christ Turn to your husband turn to your wife ask for forgiveness Get that done immediately clear those accounts and That can be done like i know i know we talk about counseling or we're we're dealing with circumstances A lot of those things are deep set over Years and years of time you right now have this tangled I love my brother's analogy of the fishing line, you know this tangled wad of fishing line You don't think you can do anything with it god can God can't and it begins with your repentance In the same way that your whole tangled web and life that whole clump that you were before christ how christ just You can do that too in christ for your husband for your wife You need to do that you need to do that you need to ask your spouse for forgiveness You need to have clear accounts and then you need to deal with your sin in the relationship Whatever it is And humble yourself to ask your spouse about it get feedback on that Keep clean accounts clear accounts with your spouse and with god Next thing you need to do we've talked about this before i know is cultivate companionship cultivate companionship These resolutions And this Process doesn't work if you're not spending quality time with the other and that's my brother pointed that out in his session this morning You need to spend time together and that's non Negotiable so you need to Connect in the morning Before you split and go your separate ways to work or wherever Just sit and spend a few minutes talking it could be over the breakfast table It doesn't take long to do that you need to connect when you reunite at the end of the day Right when you come back from work you come back from school or wherever And you talk you spent how was your day and you spend some time deliberately talking and interacting with one another Make that a non-negotiable Have a weekly date Just make it a non-negotiable spend time and that doesn't mean back-to-back episodes of csi on the couch like zombies Um, you can't do you can't do that then, you know, you can't a movie can't satisfy that right movies very I'd love to go into a movie with my wife, right? But that movie time can't satisfy that necessity. You just can't talk Through a movie like that sometimes my wife tries We can't talk right now sweetie. We're in a movie theater So you've got to have time yes So you've got to have time together to talk and make that a not it's got to be a non-negotiable What you're doing is you're cultivating companionship Cultivating companionship you need to cultivate companionship part of that is Is intimacy my brother also pointed that out this morning intimacy Yeah, you could say My husband doesn't need that, you know My wife my wife she doesn't need it Paul says Let the husband render to his wife the affection do her likewise also the wife to her husband She may he may say That's not important or he doesn't need that he needs it, you know He needs it because the bible says he does and god's always true and every man is a liar So render render the affection do her render the affection do him Don't sin in that way against your spouse um Cultivate companionship cultivate affection Cultivate affection If you're not holding hands if you're not sitting on the couch with your arm around your wife if you're not I mean if you're not affectionate with one another Um, there's just that that cultivates distance. It doesn't cultivate companionship. It cultivates distance Be affectionate with one another if you're not affectionate the repent of not being affectionate render the affection do her render the affection do him That's a command from paul and first christian seven The other thing is you want to do is you want to um cultivate common basis Cultivate common basis And that means christ something the thing that you have in common that is most cherished between the two of you your Common interest and for christians. That's christ right should be serving in the church serving the lord by serving your brothers and sisters Um, you want to do that through family devotions Just reading the bible together talking about the bible together talking about what you're reading what you're learning Just talking spending time what you're doing is you're cultivating common basis. You're cultivating christ in common And that's important you're cultivating companionship You're cultivating christ in common and just render both of those things non-negotiables when you do that Then when issues come up when things come up you can deal with them biblically right honey.  Okay. Well cultivate Um companionship in your relationship and these conversations such that you're making a lot of deposits all the time I love you. You're you know, I love how you handle this. I love the way that you do that with the kids I'm so grateful for the way that you keep our house or you know all those kinds of things You just cultivate that kind of companionship Such that when the time comes and something and it will it will it will you can say honey Um, I need to talk with you. You know, I love you and I'm so grateful to god for you This has been on my mind and we really need to really need to deal with this Can we talk for a moment about that right and you just biblically deal with that particular thing Without it escalating without the hot button Level it contempt or level it criticism or level it collapse Without having to deal with it in that kind of environment You're dealing with it all the way back up at biblical loving compassionate confrontation And you just deal with it right then honey. Please forgive me. I forgive you and it's done right Beautiful And then you you keep clean accounts with your spouse clean accounts before god And that's the way that you keep a Blessed relationship before god amen. All right, let's pray a father and heaven Lord thank you for these Biblical principles that are so clear in your word To help us wisely navigate the challenges of marriage There are challenges because of our flesh because we are lord so prone to self justifying self righteous prideful conduct We don't see our sin and we try to let ourselves off the hook It happens so consistently it becomes Sometimes almost habitual and our hearts are deceitful Desperately wicked and All these things are arrayed. It seems against us. And so we sin We're gonna sin against you and we sin against our spouse But I pray lord that you would help us Spirit of god help us to be humble When we do help us to acknowledge our sin help us to have the Conviction strength that your spirit supplies to go to ask for forgiveness and to resolve those things with our spouse quickly such that it doesn't just continue to spiral downward through criticism and contempt Help us lord help us to see it Protect us lord from just always being blinded by our own self righteousness blinded by our own self justifying conduct and blinded To our own sin because we have our eyes wide open and fixated on our spouse's sin It would help us to accept responsibility for our 100 percent And to faithfully follow you in that faithfully follow you in that and to repent of sin And to clear accounts and to live with a clear conscience before you or was such a blessed thing and Would help us to cultivate companionship with our spouse Help us to cultivate christ in common Lord, we want to serve you in these ways We want to honor you in these ways and we know lord that when we do that then our Relationships are blessed and we experience the blessing That you intend marriage to be thank you lord. Thank you for your forgiveness. That's available in christ. Thank you for hope of blissful marital relationships lord, and I pray that you'd Allow us lord to walk in that kind of marital bliss for my brothers and sisters here for my wife and I Knowing lord that's most honoring to you. We love you lord and thank you in jesus name. Amen


In this series of videos, I will talk about software project management. Let's start with introduction. So, what is project management in general? According to the definition from APM body of knowledge, project management is the application of processes, methods, skills, knowledge, and experience to achieve specific project objectives according to a project acceptance criteria within agreed parameters. This is a general definition. What's important is that project is a temporary activity that needs to finish at some point, and it is constrained by the budget. So, project management has final deliverables that are constrained to a finite time scale and budget. Is the software project management any different? Yes, the software product is intangible. It's like building a cloudcast tool. The software cannot be seen or touched. Software project managers cannot see progress by simply looking at the artifact that is being constructed. Many software projects are one-off projects. Large software projects are usually different in some ways from previous projects. Even managers who have lots of previous experience may find it difficult to anticipate problems. It might be difficult to replicate the success. Software processes are variable and organization specific. We cannot reliably predict when a particular software process is likely to lead to development problems. Project management is needed because software development is always subject to budget and schedule constraints that are set by organization developing the software. It is concerned with activities involved in ensuring that software is created within the given budget and is delivered on time and on schedule and in accordance with the requirements of the organization's developing and procuring the software. In this definition, we see the outline project success criteria. Keep overall costs within budget. Deliver the software to the customer at the agreed time. Deliver software that meets the customer's expectations. That's why we need to create software in accordance with requirements. And team, we need to maintain a coherent and well-functioning development team to make it all happen. Many things influence software project management activities. For example, company size, software customers, software size, software type, organizational culture, and software development processes. What I meant to say is that project managers in different organizations may work in quite different ways. There is no single recipe for success. On the other hand, there are universal or fundamental project management activities. We will introduce some of them in separate videos. These activities are project planning. Project managers are responsible for planning, estimating, and scheduling project development and assigning people to tasks. Risk management. Project managers assess the risks that may affect a project, monitor these risks, and take action when problems arise. People management. Project managers have to choose people to their team and establish ways of working that lead to effective team performance. Reporting. Project managers are usually responsible for monitoring, controlling, and reporting progress of a project to their customers and to the managers of a company developing the software. Proposal writing. The first stage in the software project may involve writing a proposal to win a contract to carry out an item of work. The proposal describes the objectives of a project and how it will be carried out. We discussed that the project has to have the final deliverables that are constrained to a finite time scale and budget. Software project management is somewhat specific because the products are intangible, projects are mostly unique, and there are many different software processes. Summerwheel provides a definition for software project management. It emphasizes budget, time, schedule, customer expectations, and team. There is no single recipe for software project management, but there are universal software project management activities such as planning, risk management, people management, monitoring, controlling, reporting, and others. We will explain these activities in other videos. Thank you for watching.


What's happening everyone? This is Neil Turbin. We're here at the Whiskey of Go-Go with the amazing band Killer Dwarves The whole band is great to be here. How you doing? Great to see you Darrell. How you guys doing? Yeah, good to see you buddy. It's a pleasure Neil So how's the road been treating you guys? Well, it's been amazing actually.  So it's been some years. Yeah, we were off for two years And uh, we're fully back now. Well, we have some new music in the can Amazing and we're we're doing a 60 city tour. It's our 40th anniversary tour if you can believe that congratulations the other 40 years as a band and uh, you guys been around Since the 80s. We're older than dirt. Yeah MTV generation, right? You guys were on MTV. Yes, we were MTV and and much music of course in Canada, which were a Canadian band And uh, much music was a big catalyst and breaking us in that country for sure and it bled over into MTV Actually, and then when we finally got signed epic records You know, then the American thing really took off for us back in 87 88 into Right up until Grunge hit So you guys were touring here and you know, all through the 80s late 80s into early 90s So so a question for you before we dig into some some of the deeper questions I just wondered, um, you know, what do you see differently from, you know Perspective being from canadian coming to america now back in the 80s things were Uh Like america versus canada It was always such a struggle and a big deal for a band to try to come out of toronto For example and break into the united states I mean all those big bands rush and triumph and all those bands they all struggle man to to get down here and make it You know, and they toured endlessly down here, you know before they finally got accepted kind of thing And now I find that it's not As hard. I mean america to us feels like home now You know, when we come down here, we almost feel more like home here than in canada these days So after 40 years, you know, I think things for us have gone united states That's right. We tried to tour america as much as we can I mean canada there's only about 10 cities to tour to You know, and I would imagine you guys have played with a lot of the well-known canadian bands and some lesser known ones as well But I mean, there's certainly some great bands out of canada So I mean have you guys played a lot with the some of the real heavier bands the razors and the Exciters, uh, well, there's a band called diamonds. They're really amazing We played with them.  Yeah, we played with a lot of canadian sacrifice Not them But a few of the interior bands and and helix. Yeah helix lately. We've been playing with Over the last few years we've been playing with kickaxe too And remember them and kickaxe and helix and and and the dwarfs are seem to be a really Great package of bands. I mean, yeah, I don't know fan wise that everybody believes those shows just totally happy How about in the past have you played with april wine? No, love april wine Love the band Not not a canadian man. They're almost fashions canadian. Yeah Well, that's cool. So tell us about the new material that you're working on Is that uh, something that you're in the studio recording or have record started with or is it pre-production or no? We actually have recorded a few tracks. Okay, we're kind of We're on we're on we want to try them out on the fan base. It's been a long time since we've recorded an owl and So we we've actually recorded two tracks for sure and we're we're kind of Indecisive right now on whether we're going to go all the way with a full album Or are we releasing tracks like a lot of bands are are just releasing downloaded tracks now one at a time Maybe you know as opposed to a full record. So we're still we're still throwing that around But there's there's a couple we're excited about there's two songs for sure right now that We have recorded. That's awesome. So is that in the you know, as a fan Is that something that's you know, kind of in the the theme of or feel of you know, recent More recent albums or is it back to the older roots or how would you that was the exciting part about it because When you think about it our last record was start at one Right and that that was recorded 20 years ago Right. Yeah, so that was our last effort and we recorded that after method of madness But It got shelved because the whole grunge grunge movement came in and we decided we shopped it to a few labels metal blade couple labels back then but nobody was buying anything that was metal there when once nirvana got Came out that was it right? So we decided we need to do a hiatus anyway So we just we just shelved the record. It was done and it just sat in the studio vault And then when we came back out to tour again in 213 It was a great opportunity to to dig that elbow mount and mix it and get and listen to it and we realized how good it was and it was kind of an extension of of method of the madness but We toured behind that for the last 10 years and this new music is exciting because we It's like we didn't have to work so hard No to come up with these tracks, but we still didn't know what kind of animal it was going to be and we were really relieved to Listen to it back and say that's the dwarfs That's us man. Well, we're playing one of the songs in the shows now We'll play it tonight And initially it was sort of something we were referring to as the cheap trick song It's sort of send a little bit like something like that But when we got together and played it together and worked on it together It sort of turned into a A dwarf song like it really sounds like a dwarf song and you're hoping that would happen Yeah with the band like us it's been together that one. You just it's almost like putting your stamp on something And it evolves into what you hoped it would But like Jerry said it kind of had a cheap trick flavor to it Which we're not cheap trick, but we like cheap trick, but we're not that bad So it's just melodic tune. It's a cool tune. And I really like the two songs we have right now that were That we could play live actually, you know, they're they're great tune. You guys are rocking writing New new creative ideas. It's great. Time is a really bizarre animal, you know Time like 40 years I've watched the band evolve and all that but it's It's so odd that it's just It's not that long It doesn't feel like 40 years and like the past 10 years we've been out touring the other right now pretty solid That's gone by way too fast in my world So either I'm aging myself and time is speeding up.   No, we'll probably I mean, we have like I said, we have no plan to use the r-word and retire Like I in myself like just speaking for myself only as a drummer Um, drumming is a very demanding instrument and it's very physical and The older you get you start getting, you know injuries different things Arthritis things start creeping up on you, right? So I have a personal goal. I try to work out in students best shape as I can my personal goal I'm gonna play till I can't That's my goal So I'm gonna keep drumming until I can't till like if I if my knuckles start swelling and I get arthritis Whatever for example, right and I start dropping sticks. I'm done and like Phil Collins is a great example It's a sad situation with them mostly because he had back surgery and all that but he he I heard an interview with him and he said I I couldn't hold on to the sticks anymore. This was before the back his hands like he had Couldn't hold on to him. He had tendonitis different things So you just have a trouble holding on to the sticks and I get that right? So I'm not to sound I'm not trying to sound like a bomber or anything here. It's good.  That's a reality. So I'm gonna rock as long as I can that's it and hopefully the dwarfs you guys hopefully the fans see another album and They see another least eight years touring out of this You know kind of a point about Phil Collins.  But gotta give it to him. He went out and did that last tour with genesis They just ended it in England So is there a name for You know the The title or you know, if you are going to come out with this new recording Is there a song title or an album title or is that something you can share with us or any album title? There's song titles, but uh, yeah, what's the song? Do you want to share it? Yeah, I don't remember. He died at midnight Tell me Way to the world is the track that we we actually have been playing live Nice, we didn't intend on playing anything live till we released it But we just started kicking it around at one show in canada and it just felt so good That we continued to do it and we were actually want to try it out in the fans You know to see their reaction and they've been going right on that's a fucking cool new tune They got a new tune out of it, right? So you guys are going to play tonight here live in the wisdom We are weight of the world the weight of the world That's not released And you guys, uh, you know one thing that I I noticed uh when I first just met you guys Is that I'm still I haven't seen any dwarfs though Because I've been to disney because the dwarf went back to the hotel You should be here doing the interview rust dwarf.  Well, I'm just kidding. I just I know I was like on that note.   So when did the dwarf start growing? bigger I didn't know that was the way it works, but apparently so As people got replaced larger people came into and more intelligent the better looking Right. Well, that that helps jerry here. Yeah jerry's been in the band 30 years 32 years Isn't that crazy 32 now? Yeah. Oh, yeah, that's right. It's right cold. But two years of races That no, I swear to god that two years feels like it's erased for my life So I'm forgetting that two years every time I'm going no, wait a minute. That's there's two more years Stand tall Yeah, I was just wondering if that's gonna be gonna have a re-release possibly because I heard it's kind of hard to find out there That album. Yeah There's a bit of politics going on going on with that record, right? I mean, it's I can't really get into it too much about it because epic records own own the record But you know, we're we're going to get it back Actually, and we we can get it back. So that's just something that's a work of progress We have people working on that But in the meantime that records become this big record, you know, it sold 70 000 records in the u.s When it first came out It's a popular dwarf record and and fans now clamor for it to buy it on ebay for 900 bucks Which drives me crazy, but it's a sought after Album to get a good lp of it the full lp whether it's on grudge records In america or maize and candidate was on so if you got one of those, yeah, it's it's worth money It's a good investment It is right now And then it's like the market, right the stock market and then once we get it back and put it out of the gold It won't be worth shit We get it, right? Yeah, I'll be selling my own. We'll be able to buy thousands of them off us Now you guys were uh, you also were doing something with uh, Dave Ellison at one point was that A project was out here Well, yeah, we released a live album on his label. Okay, we weren't we weren't completely Locked in on anything on that deal with it, but he he we We gave them the live album And started one to put it out on his label to release it worldwide You know physical copies and we were going to record new music as well but His label went south as you know, right from his Unfortunate experience Not knowing how to turn a camera off on the internet. I guess I don't know what what exactly how that went down And it's none of my business whatever happened today. I don't know.  If I could pronounce that right one of the bands that just got recently signed an apom and then And also, uh, you know, he's doing um kings of thrash Yeah, with uh, you know with chris poland and jeff young right and and such I think they're doing shows this weekend actually this week. Yeah, I think it was unfair that he got fired from the band I No, I do I don't know I mean, it's it was so harsh Like he got fired at whatever man like people kill people and still get their gig true That's a that's true. Well, I don't know. I just thought I was on his side You know, I'm gonna just be honest. I'm being honest like well, I didn't pay a whole lot of attention to that whole Thing when it went down But then all of a sudden Dave and staying comes out.  I mean mega death was a pretty tight unit with him in it You know, they were they did a lot of touring together Oh, yeah, huge. They did out, you know hit records. It was absolutely hit mega death records Yeah, so that's my take on that. That's my take on that. Otherwise, you know, we're free of the contract It's all done Great. So um, so what's uh, the you're mentioning earlier about the touring plans For the killer dwarves. So you guys are in the midst of a tour right now north america and Is there other? Well, the 40 like I said, it's the 40th anniversary tour. It's totally ongoing. This is a worldwide tour Uh, Europe is is definitely in the mix for next year There's already some anchor dates in like belgium and different places that we need to work around So there's my management is is uh Seeking out the proper promoters because we haven't been to europe since iron maiden in 1988 So right you guys did tour with iron maiden. We did over there and a big tour the seven sun tour So my point to you is it's we're so overdue to go to europe and I see everybody going to europe and touring over there. So I don't I just don't understand There's really no reason why the killer dwarves. I know we've sold records over there I know it. I know the numbers we did on stand tall in germany alone It was stand tall sold a lot of records in germany. There's no reason if we've never played there.  I'm hoping all it would be more festivals I'm not they sure have a lot of them. I don't even like playing clubs at all anymore to tell you the truth I'm just they still like doing it. So every chance that I that The band can get on something like a festival like we just did some in minnesota and stuff I mean, it's just you reach so many more people. It's just It's just where you want to be either want to be doing casinos or festivals these days If your band is old as we are been around that long and sold as many records as we are But you know, we still do clubs like the whiskey, but the whiskey is a prestigious club You know, it's a it's a cool club to play. It really is. So we've limited our activities of playing bars as you call it sort of thing. I mean, we're trying to In these later years in our last tours, we're trying to make it count. That's all so the more Political things we get but in our corner and the more festivals we play and and casino is the happier we are We're happy dwarfs when we do that. So With iron maiden and 88. Mm-hmm. What was the I guess before the first show maybe if you can think back What was the feeling with the band when you guys nervous at all that? Hey, you know, we're on this big tour and it's iron maiden and We got to go out there and uh throw down hard and it's a good question That's that's a good question Tell you how it went down and how did how did the feeling change? Like after you've done the tour after you've been on the road with them for weeks Or months and at that point, you know, did you guys feel the same way that you felt the first day?   I can't remember what it was actually Because dirty weapons wasn't out yet. Oh, I think it was like all that we dream of No, no, that's dirty weapons. It was off. It was it was a song off big deal I think it was starting to shine or something like that a big deal.    I didn't know what it was at first It was spit. So after that barrage we go into the second song then it's coins All of a sudden boom.  Pound coins You guys are strippers you're getting money. They're not they're not coming to dollar bills. They're not like an american dime All right. Oh, yeah, they're big.   He stopped and watched her show Well, that was a class stand-up thing to do. Tell me about it And it never happened again and all the rest of the tour went smooth And prats came out like karang and they go these guys are winning over the maiden fans and Maiden fans loved us after that. It was just that one city That was it.  You got like 10 000 or no, the the the venues are smaller over there. It was Maybe six thousand at this gig Like we did the Hammersmith three nights in a row right because the everywhere we played We were doing two and three nights in a row because Maiden's huge but the venues are smaller right At least they weren't hauling, you know, like hurling jugs of uh, who knows I could have heard about that kind of stuff. I don't know all those kind of things.  Do you remember what venue what venue that was at that particular one? It was in wales um I can't remember the name of the venue like like I remember the nec and the birmingham and all the those ones but that one I just I can't remember you can find it on one. Yeah, well, it's where archives of that tour is online. So it's just Sorry, I can't remember the name cool, well, uh, thanks for sharing that and um so so as far as um You know the the next part of the tour is that going to be based primarily in north america Right now. Yeah, absolutely. It is and you know, we winter is coming right unfortunately. So, uh We kind of wind down in canada for winter for the holidays and all that so We're probably only going to play into december. There's a show announcement for toronto For new year's eve that I can't tell I can't announce it yet and um Then we wind down for the holidays and shut that down And then I think we're looking towards warmer climates for february like texas and places like that will be back here again Excellent. Okay. Yeah. So europe is supposed to be next year in the summer So so the festival is over there. So would you say that the uh that iron maiden show in wales that was one of the most uh I guess uh shocking. Yeah, or or kind of like uh extreme Events or was there other shows that you guys have had that would even top that? No, there's we've we've never had a show like that before We've never had anything thrown at us. We're a pretty fan-friendly band. I mean, that's why it was that's why it got us off guard But but then again, we were kind of ready thinking that maiden fans are maiden fans into this day they're They're not there to see an opening.  They want to see maiden and I understand motley crew kiss, you know That's why the tour was so successful for so and steve told me himself. He goes like you guys One you won our fan base over in the uk Good for you because that doesn't happen very often Yeah, I see him I see him say that in an interview about that tour so There's another thing bringing up about touring europe again the uk if we did so well over there Why are we not there now? We should be touring the uk right now getting that fan base back that saw us every night, right? So, I mean, I think we're a little overdue On some of these things.  I'd love to go anywhere anywhere latin america brazil and stuff all those Those places are insane those festivals. So what did I see of those festivals? Like I saw the most reason. Unfortunately, taylor hawkins died.  I know made and goes there all the time too and There's like 80,000 100,000 people going insane great countries, you know, why you're why a huge festivals and shows like Ecuador that's on tap for us. I'd love to go there anytime so Great fans over there. Well, absolutely. Well, there was a guy here tonight from There's an argentina tonight. He had like 10 out 10 of our albums. I signed a bunch of stuff for him He's he's here to see us tonight and mexico's, you know a lot of a lot of cities a lot of great, you know places to play over there Mexico, you know great festivals great concerts venues the warm weather man. Take me where it's warm Yeah, there's some resort cities over there too get me by the pool. I'll play a show so So it's just you know, I really appreciate the time that you guys took to Absolutely. Well, I appreciate the time of voice tonight. I appreciate the time for you to drive down here in the traffic and do the interview Yeah, well, it's great to get to see killer dwarfs because And that too because you guys are from canada and we don't always get the imports from canada. Have you ever seen the band? I actually haven't. Oh, wow I've seen some bands newbie. Yeah All right. Well, we should have fun. I've seen you online, but I have you know on YouTube and stuff unless in the albums Same to see in a band live And we miss russ I know In all fairness to russ singers And he needs to chill out man and just not talk like he's one of the best Remaining rock singers in rock right now And I can honestly say that not because I'm in a band with him But he has a great voice still at 61 years old Like you'll see tonight.  He's just a great singer. He is and there's not many of them left, man I'm telling you right now. I don't know. I I could I got a hand I'm not going to put anybody on a chopping block here. There's I could tell you a handful of 1980s Metal singers that still bring it. There's not a lot of them left That's the truth. I'll tell you that well, thank you guys so much and uh any any uh You know as far as where we can find killer dwarves online and where's the best place to you know purchase We are we are well our merge. There's just one site because I find it's just better to Direct everybody to one site as far as our stuff our personal personal Merch, you know what I mean? And that's at killer dwarves band.com There's a store on there that you can go to get our latest merge of our touring merge Some of our past merches on there. You can go there And we are everywhere on social media And very approachable all all all the band members have pages. So I'm talking Facebook Twitter Instagram And I'm a big tick tock horror now.  It's not his real name, but Moyshafenstein and uh, there's russ russ gram on there or russ dwarf for the killer dwarves He's got two accounts on facebook and i'm daryl miller and daryl dwarf everywhere Well, congratulations on the 40th anniversary For killer dwarves the 40th anniversary tour. Thanks, brother the new material coming Yes, and it's great to see you here in los angeles the whiskey in hollywood. Love l.a How can you not? It's so nostalgic here It's just it's amazing here. I love l.a. I lived here years ago I love it. You're thank you and uh, we're looking forward to seeing you guys rock tonight. All right great. Thank you You


I'd say the biggest benefit is maintainability, like especially if you have a big code base. So like at work, we have like a half million lines of Elm code and it's just the easiest large code base I've ever worked on to maintain. Next thing that comes to mind would be like the amazingly helpful compiler. Elm is to this day, by far the language that has the nicest compiler error messages I've ever had. I would say Rust is second place, but it's a pretty clear second. Whenever I hear people say like, oh, Rust has the best compiler error messages I've ever dealt with, I'm like, that is a person who has not used Elm. Or at least hasn't spent much time with it. Cause to me it's just unrivaled. But yeah, it's just, it really feels like having a compiler be more of an assistant than somebody who's like sort of poking holes in your program.


What the f**k? RAPER REACTS to Naruto openings 1 through 9. Let's do this, bro. This one is so damn good, man. I swear to God, the first time I heard this sh**, this is one of the only ones I've heard. I think I've heard one or two with the Naruto openings. But this one is so damn good. I love this one, I love the energy. Literally, when I was a kid. If I was a kid waking up in the morning, this sh** came on, bro. Who knows what I would become? I'd be a different man right now. I'd probably be dead. That's the edge it just would have given me. There he is, Sasuke and Hinato. There he is, Kapashi. Whenever I see Naruto and Sasuke now, all I think about is them making out. And whenever I see Ikapi Itachi, all I think about is his fingers going to Naruto's a**hole. So these characters are permanently damaged in my mind. Nobody told me Naruto music was this good. Nobody ever told me this. I've been waiting my entire career, my YouTube career, my anime career for the past year and a half. Nobody told me to react to the Naruto openings, not one of you. Who are these people? Now I know he wins. Now I know Naruto was alive.  I think I've heard this one, wait a minute. Naruto is f*****g good man, oh my god, wait a minute, wait a minute. This one f*****g slaps. This one is golden man, oh my god, I like this better than the first one.  This is that skateboarding music. This is, I want to vandalize the church music. This is, I want to go to the rich person's house on the block and spray paint their fence music. This is, I want to boardwack a cripple lady in a wheelchair music. This is the, I'm skipping school and smoking weed music. Look at the little edgy, look at this guy trying to be Zuko, get the f**k out of here.  Bro, what the f**k, this is amazing. Opening one was God's here, but opening two, what's higher than God? What's higher than God? Was Nicholas Light's here? Like that's how f*****g crazy it was. Wow, Boruto's here, exactly. Like, like you have God's here, opening one and then opening two is Boruto's here, bro. Boruto clears God. I have a feeling this is where it's gonna fall off a bit. I could be wrong. Bro, this is one of those songs or voices where the person singing this is either 80 or 12. I'm not feeling this one. I don't know. I don't know. Which is fine. You just gave me back to back f**king God to your bangers, man. Let me let it cook. Let's let it, let's let it into pot. Let it swirl into pot. Wait a minute, it got a little better. I guess I was comparing it too much to the first two, but it started off. I was like, what the f**k is going on, bro? What the f**k is going on? Like this makes me not want to, like, boardwack somebody. It makes me want to boardwack myself. Oh f**k, now I know he gets wet. Look, they're still together. Now I know they're still together. Now I know Sasuke is still alive. Now I know Masakura is still alive. Now I know Itaki is still alive. Flow. Flow. Flow. Flow. Flow. Flow. Flow. Listen, listen, listen, man. This sh** is taking me back to when I skated and it's making me so, like, emotional. I f**king love this kind of music. Not saying I heard it when I was a kid, but when I heard, like, music like this man, God damn, it takes me back. Just his sound in general. I miss this sound, man.  I miss being an imbecile. Causing ruckus around the city. Oh my God, man. Flow. Yeah. Right here, right now. What the f**k? Why was everybody making this show a meme? I'm not listening to any of you anymore. Everybody memeing on My Hero 2? I bet I'm gonna love that show too.  I f**king love this. I'm on, like, episode 6 of this show and I'm loving every second of it. I love the openings. I love the OSTs. I love the endings. Maybe not the Naruto shit-putting endings. Those could stay in the f**king... They could stay in the ground.  But the music in this anime is so good. It's so good. Why were y'all keeping this sh** from me? You kept the sh** sealed. You sealed it for yourselves. You're selfish.   I would have wanted to be like this guy when I was a kid. I'm not gonna lie, man. I would have picked up the cigarettes. I would have picked up a nicotine addiction if I watched Naruto. For all I know, that's Sasuke on the right. This is Sasuke for all I know. I don't know anymore. I don't know anymore, man. If somebody sent me Naruto's sexy jutsu out of context, Lord knows what I would have done with that. No, no, no, no. No! Wait, wait. Is there like an animal jutsu? Is he tall? Oh my god, no. This guy looks like he's in his 40s. Why is he chasing after children? Was he part of the class? Bro, this makes me want to commit crimes. When I was a teenager.   It makes me want to get a tattoo against my parents' permission. This is Naruto's class picture. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. When I was a teenager, if I had the big three presented in front of me, I think I would have picked Naruto. Oh, this is their emo arc.    And this just starts like a whole new arc, man. This is dangerous. It's every opening. Every opening is good.  I prefer these openings over the shit-putting openings. Say what you want about that.  Oh my god. God!  What are you doing? Would he get a tattoo to impress Naruto, bro?  And then they raise Boruto. That's why Boruto is his master of Sasuke because Sasuke is his dad, his second dad. Wait, which one would be the mom? Would Naruto or Sasuke be the mom? I think Naruto would be the mom. I can't.  This is making me smile too much. I don't like smiling. I don't like being happy. I don't like happy characters. I don't like characters that smile. Non-stop bangers. And we're like more than halfway through.   Sayonara, motherfucker. Get out. I don't want you here. Ow! Damn, this is getting a little edgy, man.  Man, this is a filler opening, but I like it. I don't love it, but I like it. I still appreciate it. I appreciate it. I hated this.  There's no way you can hate this.  He's killing himself. What are you teaching the kids? He's killing himself. Talk about a cliffhanger.   I'm jumping off. He's a human being. I don't know ninjas were immune to fall damage. Oh, no, man. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. This is insane. Nobody ever told me Naruto was this cool, man. Nobody told me this.  I literally have people mad at me on Instagram, Twitter, and in my comments on YouTube, mad at me for reacting to Naruto.   Like, well, that's the real anime, bro. What are you doing watching the big three? It's overrated garbage. And now you're watching the worst in the big three.  You are jealous. Now I know anybody that hates on Naruto is just jealous. There's no way you don't like this. There's no way. There's no way.   Get out. Look, you're in there. It's all right. Come out. Come out, little Jimmy. Come out. It's okay. Admit it. Admit it.  I'm trying my best, bro. I'm only on episode six.  Like, his floating head is in the opening or something, or Sasuke's running around with it. I'm not looking at that. No. No, no, no. It's flow again. It's flow again. I'm gonna pass out.  This would have put the right head on my shoulders, man. Instead, look at me. Look what I become instead. You're saying Mr. Beast. Look, Mr. Beast, watch Naruto. Look at Mr. Beast. He's a millionaire. Look at me. I'm a thousandair. This is a comparison, bro. Listen, man, if you're in your teens right now, it's not too late. Watch Naruto. You'll be on the right path.  What path did I choose?  Look at the failure I've become. I'm better put...  I'm better download the Naruto opening playlist. It's still going. It's still going.   This is like opening what, what, eight? He stole that size? He never grew? Is this Kona Manuno? Is that Kono Hamoru?  He never grew. I thought he was supposed to be the seventh Hokage.   Remember when the Lord Hokage came because of his grandson, Sexy Jutsu? I can't believe I just said that sentence, and it's actually true. Like what I just said is actually the truth. The grandfather came looking at his grandson's Sexy Jutsu. I'm not lying.  I can't even repeat that. Wait a minute. There's no way. There's no way. Who gave her the pass? Who gave her the pass? Who gave her the pass? I don't think there's black people in Naruto. Is there? Were they around this era, era?  Y'all like, no, she didn't say the n-word, she said the... No, no, no, no, no. What if I said it? What if I said it? Y'all clip that out of context? What if I repeated that word right now? I am gonna repeat it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do say it. Say the word, Nick. Say the word, Nicholas. Say it. I mouthed it. Oh my god. Oh god. Wait a minute, wait a minute.  I'm gonna say, nah bro, I'm speaking Japanese. I'm Japanese. I said, nah. Come on, say it again. No, no, no, no.     I was like, I was like, Jesus Christ, what did she say? Oh my god.  Yeah, I love it. You think the n-word's gonna stop me from loving this song?   Nah, I wouldn't go that far, bro. The best one was, wait, which one was the best one? I think it was this one. No. This one. This one was my favorite. If I got to rank them, I'd put that first. That's number two. That's number two. I'd put this one first and then I'd put number nine.  This will be forever be called the n-word naruto opening, the naruto word opening. Definitely. This is my second favorite. Definitely. Definitely. That one was great. That was absolutely amazing. That's how I'm gonna sing it in a car. The nana. The nana. Alright. Opening two. Best one. About far. Opening nine. Second best. What would the third best be? This was number three.


From Hollywood, it's time now for Johnny Deller. Hi Joe. Good to hear your voice And I always thought you cared. Oh, what is it this time? Every year Harvey stone. Sure the stone corporation and stone Sounds like he's a foundation himself So so the total amount of insurance we're carrying on him is over a hundred thousand so Westchester County Last night he was driving along a road in the country small object hit his windshield. Oh, look Joe Don't tell me you want me to investigate a claim for a broken windshield sure do Johnny That small object was a bullet Tonight and every weekday night Bob Bailey in the transcribed adventures of the man with the action-packed expense account America's fabulous freelance insurance investigator is truly Johnny dollar Expense accounts submitted by a special investigator Johnny dollar to Northeast and demnity Associates Hartford, Connecticut Following as an account of expenditure during my investigation of the imperfect alibi matter Expense account item one one dollar even taxi to the office of Northeast and demnity where Joe McNabb was waiting for me Well, it usually is when people get shot at Joe now mine. We're not sure the bullet was meant for Harvey stone He's inclined to brush the whole thing off think somebody might have been doing a little target practice in the woods Very shot huh could be yes But the kind of insurance we're carrying. Yeah, better. Give me a rundown on him Harvey's father Ej built up the business a widow Two years ago. He remarried last year. He had a retire. He's in a wheelchair now. I see Well now Harvey is running things lives with his father and stepmother in a big place in Westchester County But he also keeps a small apartment on East 57th in Manhattan Any trouble in the family anything like that Harry's been running around lately with a supper club singer named Helen Barrett. I Gather he's thinking of marrying her. I also gather his family is bitterly opposed to the idea How about Harvey's business affairs? Could he have made any enemies there one at least oh? Dutch Krueger No, yeah, I sure do a gambler with a lot of dough behind him and a couple of gunsles in front That's the one How come he got mixed up with a carrier like Krueger? He didn't refuse to come again Krueger is put on a big act about going legitimate Young stone was negotiating a sizable real estate transaction recently found out that Krueger was one of the associates in the deal He threatened to call it all off made the other associates kick Krueger out Dutch wouldn't forget a thing like that. No, he wouldn't who's the beneficiary on stones insurance policies father and stepmother jointly Johnny I smell trouble I want you to get down there nose around see what you can turn up and do me a slight favor sure. What is it? Keep Harvey's stone alive will you? Expense account item two twelve dollars and fifty cents transportation and incidentals to the stone estate in Westchester County It was one of those massive dignified-looking places nesting comfortably in about 10 acres of bronze The butler showed me into a room only about half as big as Grand Central Station So I wandered around inspecting the paneling in the Italian works of art Then I zeroed in on one of the paintings and involved a luscious lady a bunch of grapes and a pool of water Nice isn't it? Yeah The painting I mean quite nice isn't it? Oh Yeah, if you like grapes you must be a stone mr. Dollar Daphne stone Mrs. I Didn't know the wedding had taken place My you are behind the times it took place two years ago to Why I'm Mrs. E. J. Stone. Oh, I'm sorry. Well, uh, is your Stepson here Harvey. He should be back any minute. He had to run into the city But let me give you a tip mr.  You see he and I are just about the same age and he's yeah Okay, I'll remember How about Harvey's father is he here? Yes, my husband will be along in just a moment He has to get around a wheelchair now, but he's very stubborn won't let anyone push him Well, uh, Mrs. Stone, I think you know why I'm here. Yes, of course About that absurd thing that happened to Harvey last night absurd Isn't it ridiculous to think that it was an attempt on his life? After all he will go tearing around these roads at night in his sports car Probably someone out hunting. Is that what you think Mrs. Stone? What else could it be? Nobody has any reason to kill Harvey Everything Harmonious here at home. I suppose of course How about Harvey's plans to marry Helen Barrett? Oh? Yes that that mr. Dollar Say I'm getting a little weary of that name. It's Johnny. Isn't it? Yeah, and Daphne Johnny Let me give you another tip.  What's this one Daphne? I wouldn't mention Harvey's Beyonce to his father.  How do you feel about it? Why anything Harvey wants it? Oh? Edward this is mr. Dollar. Yes. Yes. I know hello mr.  Stone precautions Well just as well as suppose Harvey could use a nursemaid you always manage to get things fouled up somehow now Edward You see my orchids dollar orchids of course you do this way out in the solarium. Okay. Oh here Let me push you ever mind. I can manage all my good advice This way dollar I'll have a drink for you when you're ready Johnny. Thanks Some orchids who cares about orchids. Just wanted to talk to you. Well What do you make of this business dollar but Harvey I mean that bullet in his windshield last night You really figure somebody's trying to kill him. Well, I don't know mr. Stone. That's what I'm here to find out Well, I don't know who it be Hope he's not a bad sort really terrible business man. Oh, how so I could run the stone corporation better than he does for Mike wheelchair. He doesn't do things your way, huh? Nothing's like it used to be everything's done differently now Maybe it has to be has to be business is business. Yeah. Well, how about his fiancee? I suppose you disapprove of her, too Helen Barrett. Oh, no, oh my golly. I Got a hand at the Harvey there don't quite know how he managed to land someone like her Wait a minute.  Oh, I did the same thing. That's what picked himself a Broadway girl You mean Mrs. Stone Daphne right out of musical comedy. I See How does she feel about Helen Barrett? Yeah, it won't seem to warm up to her. Oh Well, how can you figure out a woman? Yeah? So it's Daphne that disapproves of Helen. That's very interesting interesting nuisance. Here's your drink Johnny. Oh Thanks, Daphne Mr. Stone, you're not having any. No, that fool doctor of mine says no Edward you look tired. Perhaps you'd better read tired Who's tired? Well, there's just one more question. Mr. Stone. What is it? Do you know of anyone who might want to kill Harvey once in a while? I sure would Edward I tell you when I think of how he's running that business into the ground. I could I could ring his neck Edward It's no time for jokes Johnny this whole thing is ridiculous Harvey hasn't an enemy in the world Have you gotten me nicely taken apart by now people? Harvey dear This is dollar Harvey Jimmy isn't it Johnny? Yes, I heard Mr. Dollar was coming and why how are you you look tired Harvey? Let me fix you a drink. Thanks Darling, thanks darling You know dollar sometimes I wonder which one of us is married to Daphne That was a perfectly charming thing to say Edward. Yes, father. You seem to be an unusually good form tonight This is for the benefit of our guests no doubt Look if I could just talk to you for a moment Harvey Oh, don't mind these little exchanges Johnny if you're around this place very long you'll get used to them Good night. Good night Stone Like a drink now Harvey. Oh never mind Daphne. I can manage all right I'll go on up then. I hope we'll be seeing you again Johnny. Oh, you probably will good night. I I'm sorry about that business with father just now Johnny Most of the time he thinks he's fine that Daphne and I get on so well together sometimes he doesn't I Suppose now he's in the wheelchair. He feels the difference in their ages even more Yeah, and ever since I've taken over the management of the corporation. Well No, I'm sure he must have made it very clear. He doesn't approve of my policies And he's probably right. Oh Well, my heart's not in it really but somebody had to take over look Harvey. You said you knew why I was here Oh sure about that silly business last evening. What exactly happened? Well, I have a new sports car that I'm fond of I went for a drive No, there's a pretty good country roads around here and I slowed for a sharp turn and I heard what I thought was a backfire But my windshield shattered it was a bullet What'd you do then I stopped to warn whoever it was to keep away from the roads It didn't occur to you that somebody might be trying to kill you Well, good Lord. No, look Johnny I used to roam these woods when I was a kid taking potshots at men's posts. That's obviously what happened last night You didn't see anyone when you stopped. No, it was probably some kid He's probably still running and you can't think of anyone who might want to kill you of course not I'm a Dutch Krieger Krieger the gambler I understand he was involved in a business deal. You were thinking of making you refuse to go through with it Until his associates dumped him of course After all the name stone does have a pretty honorable history. I couldn't very well have a connected with somebody like Krieger Well, Dutch wouldn't forget a thing like that Look about your fiance Helen Barrett Johnny, I suggest you can find your questions to subjects not quite so personal I sound nosy, but you're heavily insured Harvey and that bullet last night could have been meant for you My job is to find out if there's anyone who could possibly have any reason to kill you there isn't Do you know of anyone who's opposed to your marriage? I told you I'd rather not talk about that Anyway, there's a good chance there isn't going to be any marriage. No, what do you mean? Look Johnny, I have a good idea It's almost time for the last train into the city I'll drive you to the station a polite but firm message that the interview was over Harvey got called to the phone and I went outside to wait for him Daphne had lied when she told me Harvey's father opposed the marriage to nightclub singer Helen Barrett It was Daphne who didn't like the idea She and Harvey seemed pretty chummy and the old man didn't seem to like that Harvey had crossed a rough boy named Dutch Krieger in a business deal and that's a cinch Dutch didn't like that And now Harvey just told me there might not be a marriage which indicated some kind of trouble there All in all it looked like a cozy little powder keg Then as I started for Harvey's car the keg exploded right in my stomach in a form of a fist I couldn't see who they were but the two of them really knew their business the way they worked me over Hard enough to hurt not hard enough to put me out Finally I guess they got bored one of them did me a favor. He put me away Now here's our star to tell you about tomorrow's episode of this week's story tomorrow Well, look you should never get in a card game with a professional gambler. He can eat you any card He wants even the ace of spades the death card Join us. Won't you yours truly Johnny dollar or is truly Johnny dollars starring Bob Bailey is transcribed in Hollywood Written by Robert Reif. It is produced and directed by Jack Johnstone Be sure to join us tomorrow night same time and station for the next exciting episode of yours truly Johnny dollar Roy Rowan speaking