To understand men now, I'm Jonathan assay of johnthassay.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream you for you today Our topic these four attractive things drive guys crazy Crazy All right really quickly if you're brand new to my YouTube channel Please hit the subscribe button hit the bell so you could be notified of new videos And if anytime during this video the content resonates with you Please hit that like button so I could be seen in the YouTube algorithms really quickly my coaching is what I call Heart-centered radical honesty. It's direct a little tough love and a lot of heart and occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence so an infant f an f-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea I suggest logging off right now Lastly these are my thoughts my perceptions my opinions by no means do I suggest this is the truth? You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a contrarian so much of my advice goes Contrary to public and traditional opinions so Sift through it find the nuggets if you feel like there are some and go from there All right, we're gonna talk about what it takes to drive a guy crazy Now really quickly before I get into this I have to say something when I mean the word crazy. I mean in a good way I don't mean in the way that he's pulling out his hair because you drive him nuts Okay, I'm talking about that inner crazy that makes him just want to be with you more and more and more and more and And you know, I recognize that for a lot of people this is very challenging stuff because most of us weren't raised actually Being prepared to be in a healthy happy relationship Most of us weren't taught what it takes to be in a healthy happy relationship In fact, most of our role models were in dysfunctional Relationships and guess what happens when we witness dysfunction we operate from a place of dysfunction Now why am I sharing this on a topic that centers around attraction? Well, it's because I'm here to say attraction is only one piece of the puzzle of a successful relationship I'm gonna repeat that attraction is only one piece of the puzzle of a successful relationship And yet it is it's the piece that we most appreciate It's the it's the icing on the cake that we most Appreciate and yet if you follow my channel, you know I go much deeper than the surface and even though this topic is a little bit on a surface level There is gonna be some gold and some nuggets. I believe that you'll find and Before we get there though I want to address this piece that I just talked about this attraction piece and if you're not familiar with my Relationship iceberg here it is And you can see that above the waterline is chemistry and you can see the words attraction attraction and yet below the waterline you see the word compatibility compatibility and within compatibility their shared values blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity emotional maturity One of the primary reasons why relationships suffer so much is that there's a lack of emotional maturity Within one or both parties in the relationship and the fact of the matter is most human beings men and women like have weak Relationship skills weak relationship skills and if you're not familiar with my emotional maturity chart I'm gonna share it with you most of you have seen this and by the way at the bottom I want you know, this is not a fact. It's an opinion But I believe roughly about 20% of the population has clinical issues I mean they're they're got stuff going on clinical stuff like Narcissism like bipolar like borderline personality that makes it very difficult for them to be in relationship And then another 20% are actually emotionally healthy enough to be in relationship But I'm here to say that 20% is being probably incredibly generous when I say 20% But I had to balance this out and the vast majority of people are in the 60% or the dysfunctional dysfunctional skills when it comes to actual interpersonal relationships and Romantic relationships most humans have weak Communication skills when it comes to being a relationship So it doesn't matter how attractive you are unless you shore up Do you share the same values are your lifestyles blendable and are you emotionally mature because what at the last Attractive thing I'm going to share today centers around all of this Now really quickly before I jump into those four things which I'll do in just a moment. I promise I want to recommend two books that everybody purchase to shore up their relationship skills and the first book I recommend is Nonviolent communication by Marshall Rosenberg nonviolent communication by Marshall Rosenberg This should have actually been titled compassionate communication It's about learning to communicate in a way that you can be seen heard and understood By those relatively dysfunctional people versus the clinical people and the second book I highly recommend getting is the book eight dates by doctors John and Julie Gottman eight dates by doctors John and Julie Gotman folks I highly recommend reading this and you should be definitely reading this before the next time a penis gets to go inside the Vagina in fact, I recommend purchasing two copies of this book for any couple that's going to explore a deeper relationship Which includes physical intimacy as well All right, I've said my piece now. Let's get into those four Attractive things that drive guys crazy in a good way now I know most of my contemporaries will tell you things like being your feminine energy or Lean back so he can claim you and then they talk about Confidence and they talk about boundaries. Okay. Well, I'm going to share three of the most obvious things or Probably superficial things and yet the fourth one is the most important And that's what I want you to stick around for because that one is critically important to Actually forming a stronger bond with a man and it actually strong forms a stronger bond in the relationship in the relationship So I'm going to put on my trusty glasses Here's my notes and really quickly. I want to thank you then Eleventa misright for the super sticker. I really appreciate that so Really quickly number one and this this is so critically important for me I'm going to tell you something that this is the first thing I notice on women and When I see this my heart starts racing I'm going to tell you my heart starts racing and that is what I call a vivacious smile a vivacious smile Sadly when I when I'm scrolling through dating app pictures I'm scrolling through dating app pictures and I'm using dating apps as an example I can tell you that the vast majority of women are not smiling. They're frowning They have sunglasses on and it's it's really poor quality. I mean sometimes they're with so many friends You can't tell who they are But whether it's in in the digital form when you're connecting via the online medium or in person What really turns on most men is a vivacious smile Many of you have written me and said how much you appreciate my smile But let me tell you something my smile used to look like this or like this That was my old smile and I know many of you struggle smiling and you know, we all and listen if you if you're like me You probably feel that someone like Julia Roberts is infectious because she has a vivacious smile So I want to teach you today the secret to a vivacious smile to that that Infectious smile and it's something I learned folks. I actually some years ago dated a 1980 supermodel. She was in New York print. I mean just did the whole shebam. We dated for a little bit I was kind of in awe Which is not really a healthy thing to be in awe of beauty but but you know what I listen I miss I'm a red-blooded guy like most men and she actually while we were dating Taught me the secret to a great smile Especially in photographs, but also how to present yourself out in person and that is to chuckle to chuckle Now it might feel awkward chuckling but when you take the photograph Maybe I should just take a quick photograph of me chuckling to demonstrate this Or let me get my camera going. I'm gonna do this in reverse All right, I just took a picture. Oh, that's lame But you know what my point is the camera captures the energy the camera captures the energy and Let me tell you something. There's something Incredibly attractive about men and women who have a vivacious smile that have that energy exuding from inside them Now I recognize that a lot of you may not feel like smiling You may have some reasons not feel like smiling.  I Know he would want me to live the most Amazing life So when we're going through hard times remember that those who love us whether they're here or not Want us to live amazing life. So in my son's honor, even though I may not have a reason to smile I smile because that's what he would want me to do and my invitation for all of you is to reach deep inside of you and Find that that joy inside of you so you can exude it on the outside and the secret is a chuckle And when you take a picture of chuckling it looks Fantastic, that's the secret that the supermodel taught me All right number two and it kind of piggybacks on the smile number two number three are all kind of tied together is a sense of humor a sense of humor I Got to tell you as a midlife man dating in this realm today Most of the women I meet have a real shitty disposition I mean, I'm sorry to say this but most the women I meet it seems like that they've got a chip on their shoulder They've got resting bitch face and they lack a sense of humor Now I recognize that my sense of humor may not correspond with someone else's sense of humor I Recognize that and yet the same time it's important to find people who's aligned in your sense of humor And it's important to actually exude your sense of humor And that's what I want to encourage everybody to do to let their sense of humor out sooner rather than later Because that's incredibly Attractive and infectious to be around people that know how to laugh I Remember on a date not too long ago. I was on a first date with someone it was five hours long this was a while back now they think about it and We laughed the entire time because our sense of humor was mess that meshing and I found it Incredibly attractive so I invite you all to lean into your sense of humor number three What did I write down I wrote down? Oh be kind easy going inflexible kind easy going inflexible I will tell you and I guess and I noticed this a lot with midlife women versus the younger population It seems like there's such a Rigidity for most people in midlife that there's these rules that you have to do in these all these expectations that take away all the fun of actually Really connecting with another human being to actually have all this rigidity and rules and it's listen as you all know I Am the first one to say I Don't want to say don't trust men But I certainly I want to want everyone to operate from the premise that most men are rather Fucking clueless when it comes to data They're the clueless ones they are not they're not necessarily commitment fobe They just don't understand the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship. This is why continually I'm gonna say this book over and over read the book eight dates by doctors John and Julie Gottman So you can understand the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship and when you come from that place of knowing you can just let go and Really pay attention. Is this guy really right for you because if he is then let go of all the preconceived Expectations and then just start leaning into the relationship and remember It's important to ask good questions right from the beginning And if you need some support with that check out a link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with The coach is right for you because I will tell you asking really good questions right from the beginning can save you days weeks Hours days weeks or years of heartache by learning to ask the right questions based on your personality How to pre-qualify your prospects? So check out that link below again kind easy going and flexible And number four as I shared with you and this actually brings it back to the relationship iceberg And you're not going to like this one ladies You're not going to like this one, but I'm going to tell you what men go crazy over Are women who are logical who are logical? Ladies you've all probably have heard of the crazy matrix out there And if you haven't I highly recommend after this of watching this video Google hot crazy matrix But we have a predisposition to believe that most women are irrational When it comes to Navigating relationships and I can tell you as a man I've experienced this over and over again, and let me give you some examples First and foremost you expect us to read your mind You expect us to read your mind that is incredibly Irrational we can't know what you're thinking So if you want or need something from us then speak up Because that's the logical thing to do and we actually really really really appreciate when you give us Instructions rather than expect us to read your mind. Well, some of you might say well the man I love will be a tune to who I am He'll know exactly what to do bullshit Man are clueless Myself included I am I can't be attuned to you maybe after listen my parents were married There's a picture of my mom and dad. Okay, they were married 66 years I guarantee you for the first 10 or 15 years my dad wasn't attuned to my mom That happened over 30 years of being in relationship together. Was he attuned to her? We can't read your mind. So the logical thing to do is to speak up What else did I write here? Oh, let me give you another example how you ladies are illogical Okay, I and I've shared this story before I had one client come to me or one client come to me and said Jonathan I'm in a relationship with a guy for nine months and I just want more commitment out of him I'm like, great. What does that look like? Well, Jonathan, I just want more commitment out of him. I'm like, great. What does that look like for you? But Jonathan, I just want more commitment out of him Great. What does that look like for you? Jonathan? You're not listening to me. You're not hearing me. I want more commitment I'm like, look if you can't explain it to me How can you know how can he even know what you want ladies? You oftentimes operate from an emotional level based on a feeling But if you really want to be attractive to guys, it's time to speak up and that's a perfect example Of how illogical behavior turns men off and we men truly appreciate details Let me go into this a little bit further One of the most illogical things you ladies do is expect men to make the first move We no longer live in a culture where it operates that way ladies You can make the first move.  He doesn't deserve me at my best Another illogical thing because that basically says you have permission to be a Pain in the ass and we have to accept that. No We don't have to climb to the highest room of the tallest tower. It's time that we operate from a level of Show up the way you want to be treated Show up the way you want to be treated and that listen I know many of you are doing this or you think you're doing this But I got to tell you a significant percentage of you are not doing this And another example of illogical behavior is some of the most of you that spend time in these long distance relationship and you get caught up in the fantasy in the bubble And then you're wondering why the relationship isn't going anywhere because it's based on a fantasy. It's not based on reality It's not based on logic and we men appreciate Logical women and let me tell you one of the things that ladies do frequently is you say in 10,000 words What we probably say in 500 words Okay, we're not listening to all those 10,000 words And yet i'm going to teach you a little secret if you do want to get us to listen Okay, I was in a relationship with a woman Greatly a therapist doctor celebrity doctor, I should say And we when we were When there was something on her mind, we had a little code for each other She would either say I need to process something. I need to process which means I need to get your advice It was coming from her logical side of her mind. She wanted my advice But there were other times she wanted to vet So we used a technique that was uh that I learned from Allison armstrong and what my she when she wanted to vent she would say would you hold the basket?  I just want you to I'm just going to talk out loud. I'm going to get it off my chest And then we're going to let it go I'm going to Basically, I need you to hold the basket.  Are you with me on this? Are you going to do this? I hope so All right to recap A vivacious smile a sense of humor Kind easy going and flexible and lastly if you really want to turn us guys on Be logical and quite frankly We can talk about the reverse on how men should turn you on but that's for another conversation All right, and lastly I do want to remind everyone If you want to be treated a certain way then show up that way because that is what's going to create the best Relationship between the two of you is this sinking in is it resonating? 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All right, are we ready for questions? I hope so All right, let me scroll through here See what we got um Stormy says What's logical to me is that this is my reality and all of you are holograms and teddy bears will no longer be in my free healthy There you go um Let's see what else. Let's go swim and do we have any questions? when Can you help me be A better picker valley? Yes, I can schedule a free discovery call with me folks My area of expertise is teaching you how to pre qualify your prospect So you're investing time in men who are who are more suited that are suited for you because our old way of dating Which is all chemistry based way of dating isn't working We have to we have to determine do we share the same values? Are our lifestyles blendable and does this person have the emotional maturity and relationship skills to actually go the distance? And that's what I teach you how to vet for that So if you want to vet men check out the link in the description for a free discovery call with me So great question glenn. Thank you so much Elaine says both have to take the initiative exactly. It's a two lane street Roseanne says thank you for another great video and making me and numerous others laugh today It's just my sense of humor By the way, I'm gonna tell you I was in a relationship with someone who didn't like my sense of humor I'm listen. I have a very warped sense of humor. I can be sarcastic. I can be Crass I can be a brat. I mean I'm not perfect by any stretch of the mean so Hmm, but I'm happy to hear I make you all laugh. So Let's see. We got some questions here Vivian says Jonathan that cornflower blue shirt looks amazing on you. Thank you so much. I appreciate that All right. Tia Marie says Tia Marie says can two leos have a successful relationship? You know, I was I I was in a relationship once my birthday is august 1st. Her birthday was august 3rd And we both well she had a much bigger personality than me and she was actually quite a bit more famous than me In fact, I had no fame at that time in my life. So And and I was able to hold space in her success and her big personality Um, the problem with some leos not all but some They're actually highly can be narcissistic. You know, I mean, I'm not I'm not trying to suggest that the Astrological sign, you know meets that but there's certainly this the world revolves around me I know I have a bit of that inside of me. I have a big bravado I have a big personality and if someone else has a big personality that sometimes can clash Unless you find that way to coexist together in your personalities and certainly your professional life Could be a big part of that too. So if you're not able to Mesh your professional lives together It could be quite problematic Now not everybody is a leo that wants to be in the limelight. Not every leo Figure believes that the world revolves around them and yet A lot of leos Are some of the most successful people on the planet because it takes a level of like I said before bravado arrogance To put yourself out there and a bit of and it takes some humility as well. Believe me I get nasty remarks out there from people. So coming back to the question of can two leos get along Um, it's certainly possible But I will tell you it's going to take a lot of consciousness and intentionality for it to work Or at least that's my perception anyway, and I did once have I had a potential date with a woman who shared my birthday But we never made it there because I think our personalities conflicted with one another But that's for another story. So, um tm re thank you for that question All right holly writes question Is it okay to call what we have as a committed relationship where we won't get married or live together But that includes companionship exclusivity and great sex. Okay Great question. So folks There's a vast array of types of relationships out there Let's start with the kind of the ultimate relationship is marriage. Okay, that's the ultimate because that means you've made a commitment to say Through thicker through thin through better through worse through sickness and the health We're going to take care of one another and that usually means a commingling of funds So that's kind of the ultimate commitment now next is living together Which you could be you know if you if you put each other on the same lease or you start to commingle funds together And if you're there for one another that's about the second closest way to full commitment Now here's where it gets tricky when you're not living together or married with someone All right. Now it's based on how often do you see each other? That's kind of an important component Are you there for each other when things aren't going well? Are you there physically for someone? That's a big proponent of it because it's not always about the good times most folks Enter into relationship focused on the good times.  I'm not suggesting that's always the case That just happens to be most of the time So now there's other forms of relationships. There are Situationships, which is basically an undefined relationship. There's casual relationships those are again Relationships that have no destination No plan for a destination There's friends with benefits And there's friends with benefits and there's friends with benefits, but you just don't know it's friends with benefits I will tell you a lot of relationships are friends with benefits, but one person doesn't know that's what it is What I mean to say is you have you get together on occasion. You have a good time You think maybe there might be some monogamy and exclusivity here.  And her idea was to say well, where is this relationship going? Never ever ever ask the guy relate where the relationship is going From now on I have a new request of all of you You tell him where it's going Let me repeat that you tell him where it's going. So what I told her is to tell him that you plan on moving nearby And to have a conversation Tell him you're planning on moving nearby and have a conversation She is scared shitless to have this conversation with them. She's scared shitless because she's afraid he'll break up with her Folks, that's what you want to do You want to provoke to actually see where this man's metal is where his metal is Is it metal or metal? Meddling anyway, I I'm having a brain part here for a moment But where his real temperament is on where this relationship? What does this relationship mean to him?  Yes, the average woman waste five years with the wrong guy. What?     I would rather Find out who this person is before you give your heart away or give your heart to him. Excuse me Then to find out later. I have so many of my contemporaries just say go with the flow Have a good time. You'll find out who he is six weeks eight weeks 12 weeks in Folks, let me tell you something The minute you start engaging and someone your heart gets attached and it's really fucked To find out 12 weeks what you could have found in week one Because you've become attached and by the way a lot of my contemporaries would say this are men Men are men can detach a lot easier than you can Let me repeat that men can detach a lot easier than you can. I'm here to say I'm not going to give you that advice because that's very male oriented advice Because we can detach a lot easier and quite frankly we don't Easier we just we're so used to detaching easier that we can do it But quite frankly it's just as gut wrenching for us When we are attached to someone and they end the relationship 12 weeks in I'd rather have the band aid ripped off in the first or second week Then the 12th week or 12th year not the 12 years or 12 months. Let's just say At least that's my invitation for every one of you. So going back to the original question. What was it holly? um Is okay to call my committed we have a committed relation where we get married live together but Listen folks.   Did I realize the importance of this and it's critically important That you invest in learning by the way, I had one woman write me said Jonathan You recommend over 10 books on your videos.  I'm only asking that you read one book a month for one year I'm only asking for 15 20 minutes a day If you can't invest 15 or 20 minutes a day in your personal development self-help and spiritual work Then you have no business being in relationship and to make it easy start with my book What the heck a self-love anyway purchase on amazon below A little pitch for my book who's purchased a copy of my book and who's it changed their life?  Don't leave it up to a man You are in charge of your relationship destiny not him because most men as I said before are winging it winging it and they're rather Clueless is this sinking in is this resonating? Please let me know give me an amen or a thumbs up All right there holly. Thank you again for your question. I really appreciate it All right Wow, I was on I was on a rant All right, let's see let's go swim and let's go swimming Kimberly says at what point are the I love you's exchanged When you act okay So let me just share with you what I think I love well what I love you means to me. It means I'm here You matter We are important. I've got your back. I'm not going anywhere and I only want you We oftentimes say the words. I love you the way we say the words. Thank you They're just we throw it out when we feel good I love you isn't about feeling good. I love you means you're sick. You know what?   I'm gonna help you out a little bit That's when you really are loving on someone But we use the words I love you when we feel good. I feel so good. Let's just say I love you when we feel good I was in a relationship with a woman and we didn't say I love you right away We I called a I called a french friend of mine and I can't remember the term but we I asked for the term of what does love mean In a friendship capacity, but in a french way And this is what we said to one another because we weren't ready to say I'm ready to take care of you Ultimately to me. I love you means I'm really I'm ready to take care of you through thick and thin That's just my perception of I love you. You can have your own perceptions. I love you. I'm just offering you mine I'm here. You matter. We're important. I've got your back. I'm not going anywhere and I only want you That's what I love you means to me and that's my invitation for all of you as well So kimberley, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it Carrie leg says question Why do you why do you men on dating apps want your phone number right away and want to meet right away? Great question because we don't want to wait. Okay, some men Don't want to waste time. They want to get the sniff test out of the way.   That's why they do it.  Okay. The three is this no more than three email or text exchanges Should lead to no more than two telephone calls that should lead to one date all in a three week period Shouldn't take more than three weeks if you live relatively near each other to meet each other three two one three No more than three email text messages no more than two phone calls should lead to one date all in three weeks That's my rule of thumb. Take it or leave it. All right. Thank you for that question. I really appreciate it I want to thank oh we have Amy who just purchased a super sticker. So oh Kathleen, thank you so so much for the super sticker. I really appreciate that and let's find the one question from Um Oh my god, there's just here we go. We got a lot of questions. I missed All right from Amy question I don't wait for a man to make the moves But I don't want to seem pushy or too forward either. Is there a happy medium or how much is too much great great question, so Let's say you're communicating with a guy on this little device. Let's use that as an example first You can simply say hey, I'm enjoying our conversation Would you like to get together for a drink my treat? Would you like to get together for coffee my treat? You can simply say that Hey, I'm enjoying our conversation. Would you like to gather together? Would you like to get together for coffee my treat by the way folks? I'm I'm suggesting you treat because that might that that's a very listen remember I said earlier in the video show up the way you want to be treated if you want a guy to treat you with generosity Show up with generosity. It's as simple as that Let me give you a different example.    Okay.   Okay Folks, I'm here to suggest leaning into a different way to date That's why I keep recommending this book if the Buddha dated. I swear to god this will change your life I picked this up and read this in literally two hours It's not that hard and it's such a heart-centered way of approaching things and it teaches you how to make the move Without coming across as pushy. It's only pushy if the guy doesn't like you Let me repeat that it's only pushy if the guy doesn't like if he likes you he appreciates it But Jonathan, I'm told that men fall in love when you play hard to get Let me tell you something that temporarily works on dysfunctional human beings and You're gonna have to play hard to get for the next 60 years of your life because I will tell you the minute You know, if you're playing that game of hard to get because that's how you think men fall in love That's a slippery slope to play Start leaning into and folks. Let me tell you this Going back to my book chapter one Speak your truth do it with kindness chapter nine if it's sincere and from the heart You can't say or do anything to the wrong guy Being demonstrative being effusive being intentional only turns away the wrong guys Well, quite frankly, you're battling an uphill battle because 99 90 percent of the guys are the wrong guys That's why you want to find this shit out sooner rather than later So be demonstrative be effusive be intentional and if you don't know what those words are google them demonstrative effusive intentional And see what happens. I'm a contrarian as I said in the beginning of this broadcast I'm here to give you the opposite advice Do you guys remember the Seinfeld episode where George Costanza decides to do the opposite of every Instinct he ever had Remember what happened to him?  I'm offering every all I do is say read these books to improve your inner being And be more intentional. That's all I'm offering Oh, but I also teach you how to by the way back to my coaching I teach you a skill that very few have ever learned is how to vet for emotional maturity That's my area of expertise. So again, check out a link to a free discovery call Okay, thank you so much Amy for that question. I really appreciate the super sticker as well All right, folks. Is this making a difference in your life? Please let me know give me that thumbs up Okay Belinda says the right guy should flow easily with you. Yes Belinda Riviera leaning back is much better than obsessing over them. No leaning in is much better than obsessing over them my opinion All right, Carolyn says If the chemistry is good, but you want to take it slow, what would you say to a delay the sex without killing the momentum? um Tell them you have a vaginal disease Tell them you have a uti. Tell them you have I don't know if you want it to I'm being rhetorical here. I mean, I'm being silly here Listen, you might want to say look. Are you open to exploring a serious relationship with me? Are you open to exploring a serious relationship with me?  And if you do Then here's my suggestion.   By the way, folks, you might think this is crude. I'm just saying it for a bit of laughs Okay, but the the the the essence of what I'm saying is If he demonstrates he's willing to make an investment in you then you're willing to say I'm hoping you're willing to say I'm willing to explore the sexual side But I'm not going to do the sexual side until I know you're legitimate And since 90 percent of you guys aren't legitimate, you don't get that. What did what did um Steve harvey say if you want the cookies did he call it the cookies? He makes every in his book uh act like a lady think like a man. He suggests waiting 90 days I don't suggest waiting 90 days I suggest reading a book and by the way This will give you great insight if he's legit or not. Let me repeat this. This will give you great insight if he's legit or not Ah Is this helping is this sinking in please let me know carolyn, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it All right, let's go swimming Glenn says, oh my god, was it that much? Patricia says you're being real jonathan. Thank you Um totally chill girl says crude is good. We're all grown-ups here. I'm happy to hear that Um Rita just said I just spit up my wine.   Thank you I laughed out loud grossed out gross. I am out gross. I'm out. Okay, so we turn someone off. That's okay Karen, that's okay Uh belinda says ha ha. Okay. Let's see what other questions we have here. Yeah, we're gonna scroll up Let's go swimming.  By the way, I have a scooby-doo coffee mug now I need a dory coffee mug or a finding Nemo coffee mug. Let's go swimming All right, saty one of my regulars. Hey question jonathan Is it sensible for a woman to wait three to six months before sleeping with a guy in order to protect her heart? Could you give some measure of security? Um, I'll be candid with you saty if you were dating me and you wanted to wait six months. I'd be gone Sex is part of the decision-making process. Okay, and now I'm not saying that crudely I'm saying sex is part of our decision-making process to decide if we want to fully commit to someone so The idea so the first level of commitment At least in my book is the agreement of monogamy and exclusivity. That's the first level of commitment monogamy Exclusivity and the way we men get there is we got to fuck. Okay, that's part of our dna now This is one of the reasons why it used to be if you want to get laid you had to get married Okay, we don't operate in that space before so I don't believe in arbitrary Timelines, I'd rather you just say hey, can we purchase two copies of this book? Eight dates review it together before we have sex and that can happen within eight weeks Or it can happen within four weeks, but I don't like an arbitrary because here's the thing if you have to protect your heart You've already lost ladies. I really need you to hear this I have a video coming out about this, but I really need to hear this If you have to protect your heart from someone you have already lost Because here's the bottom line a woman with a protective heart She's already blocked from the very get-go I want you to operate from a different premise. It's not about protecting your heart I want you to have an open heart. Oops. I want you to have it. Sorry about the pit stains I want you to have an open heart because here's the thing Everything is happening for you Every situation you've ever happened in your life is is the connect the dots to who you are as a person So all those bad experiences should also if you actually learn to reframe everything reframe everything And you ask yourself what was what did I learn about each relationship? What are positive things that I learned about myself in each relationship? What was good in each relationship? And what am I most grateful for when you can operate from an open heart? You're going to have greater relationship success when you operate from protecting your heart You've already lost and I get it. There's a lot of wounded birds out there. Let me tell you something most of you wounded birds You shouldn't be dating you shouldn't be in relationship until you've actually achieved this experience What's called loving on yourself loving on yourself self love? This is my book purchase it and I highly recommend rather than protecting your heart read this book The Hoffman process the Hoffman process This is a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas Childhood wounds and traumas that cause those negative patterns and limiting beliefs in your life that cause mistrust issues folks It is all your past hurts is why you're suffering in your relationship life Listen, I know I generalize that but I'm saying it's this when you're focused You know, it's like the woman who follows a Follows a channel all about narcissism if you're following a channel all about narcissism all about narcissism all about narcissism All you're going to do everything is going to be narcissistic in your life rather than focusing on the wrong Focus on the right focus on the healing Heal within oneself. This is a critically important book along with these two books to heal Getting the love you want by Harvelle Hendricks and attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Oh Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt It's time for a healing. It's not a don't protect your heart Because we men cannot climb to the highest room of the tallest tower It is not our job to break down your defenses as I'm sitting It is both human beings job to show up open demonstrable fusive intentional And that is the greater path to relationship success and that's my invitation for you Listen, as I said in the beginning of this broadcast These are my thoughts my perceptions my opinions by no means do I suggest this is the truth You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a contrarian And I feel like that's what love would do and that's how love would respond Is to operate from an open loving heart than a protected closed heart. Who's with me here? Who's with me here? You know When connor passed away those again remember that's my son connor I had a very closed heart after he passed away I very fearful of opening my heart to somebody because I was afraid they would abandon me And for years for the for up until really recently. Have I actually opened my heart up? In fact, hold on everybody one second I shoot these videos actually near my kitchen. This is my front door It says here open and receptive to love open and by the way, easy meaning it's going to be easy But I'm open and receptive to love This doesn't say block your heart to love. This doesn't say this It says this be open be receptive So it's not about a timeline of waiting to have sex because here's the thing most guys will ditch you if you If you put a timeline on it, I would by the way, I would do it And I know a lot of you women would like to date me. So I'm saying if that's turn off to me It's a turn off to a lot of other guys Don't set up arbitrary timelines Set up better communication Read this book eight dates together read it together set up better communication with one another And then you'll know if you have a legit prospect or not And if you need help with that check out the link to a free discovery call with me Let's see if working with a coach is right for you because that's my area of expertise to vet better So you don't have to close your heart You can have a wide open heart to attract a great person in your life Can I get an amen? And I'm not going to raise my hands any higher because I don't want my pit stains to show All right, Sadie. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it All right Carolyn says this is sinking in yay Pleasant Valley says I appreciate your honesty. Keep it real Jen four says I wasted a year trying to get a man to love me You can't change a man only you can change only a person can change themselves exactly Jackie says Jonathan. Have you heard of the book boundary boss by Terry Cole? No, I have not. I'll check it out Um Catherine says amen by believe you Jonathan Jonathan You're one of the few relationship coaches out there who's truly trying to help women's lives and have wide open hearts. Yes. Yes. Yes Pleasant Valley says you have to be willing to be hurt to find love Listen, love is a risk and at the same time. It's still the best game in town It is listen. I I listen I've been rejected twice in the last Uh six weeks by two women You know what and it hurts it stings, you know, I'm not everybody's cup of tea I get that for whatever reasons and by the way, it's their own listen I take culpability with where I screwed up and they've got their own issues that they got to take You know take whatever they have to do they just do it themselves, but I still hold a vision for myself That I will attract an amazing partner in my life. I hold that vision I hold that vision that we're going to have amazing chemistry together I hold that vision that we're going to have amazing communication together I hold the vision that we have these lifestyles that're going to blend with one another I hold the vision That we have shared values. I hold the vision that she's emotionally mature and we're both emotionally mature together I hold the vision that we can build the roots to trust the roots to trust that will take us into our Senior years in our life.   It's raining good men most men are good people They're just bad daters. Most men are good people. They're just bad daters So rather than judging men as being bad and hyper-focusing on what's wrong Start hyper-focusing on what's right and it first starts with the relationship.  It starts there Because when you're genuinely loving on yourself And you're genuinely loving on yourself. You know what? Folks, you know most of you know I wrote this book birth after the loss of Connor It is in his honor. It is in his honor that I work on having a life that thrives Folks, I invite you all this is my invitation for all of you to choose a life that thrives and not get stuck in the past The past is prologue The future is unknown what we have is the present and my invitation for you is to heal from the inside out So you can attract an amazing loving partner in your life and not everyone is going to do it You can do all this work and get a goose egg. That's okay. We get to do this over and over again I truly believe we come back and get a Numb thousands of opportunities to do this over again because I believe time is an illusion Okay, now I do a lot of mushrooms. So I do believe a lot of wacky things out there folks I mean my perception of reality you really want to shift your perception of reality Read the book a course in miracles read the book a course in miracles. This will change your life and truly along with all the other oh and One of the found not the founders But one of the the delivery of the person that talks about the course of miracles most read this book Return to love by Marianne Williamson return to love by Marianne Williamson because the real miracle is the love We have for ourselves and the love we have for everyone else Can you repeat that with me the love we have for ourselves and the love we have for everyone else Can I get an amen? I'm I should be a preacher. What do you think? Should I should I become a preacher? Alright, you know, I've said a lot today. I hope I found have given you value If I have please purchase a super sticker super chat before we wrap up today. I see a lot of comments here I want to thank Everybody is saying amen. Thank you so much Catherine says Or Catherine says thank God for Connor's life. Elaine says mushrooms for all. Thank you so much Folks this has been a blast to be able to share with you my thoughts my perceptions my opinions from the bottom My heart I am grateful to you all for your love and support I can't begin to tell you how much I appreciate you and I hope I'm making a difference in your life All right, I think this will be a great place to wrap up today. Are you with me?  Oh I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm asking to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear or pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives I want to thank you and have a wonderful blessed and beautiful weekend. You take care. Bye. Bye now and let me say goodbye to faith and Marianne and Glenn and Jean and Catherine and Elaine and Deanne and Catherine everyone pleasant alley. Thank you so much. Bye. Bye now. Bye


don't know what's worse. CCP cash BlackRock cash.  And then they go and do this with BlackRock and exactly right. I mean, they might as well just go on to CCP themselves and say, hey, could we borrow $2 billion? No, it would have gone. Yes, sure. Wouldn't have been a good look for them though. So, you know, BlackRock's just just a company. And this, this comes back to what I say in a while back, that we're not living in the democracy. We're living in anymore. Unfortunately, what's happened is businesses got so big, so huge, we can't fathom the $1 billion, you know, trillion dollars, $1 trillion, $1 trillion, sorry, my arm's going off of something, $1 trillion has 12 zeros after it. $1 million has six. And they've got like 10, $9 trillion worth of assets. What's our GDP? 120 billion? We can't, we can't even, you can't tell me these businesses don't have their knees under the table of the decision makers around the world and all the, all the governments and that sort of thing. We're being played a fool and we're just sitting here lapping it up and no one's doing nothing about it. And you're right, nationals know better, mate. Nationals just another globalist party. Oh, exactly. So it's going to be a real dilemma for us at the, at the election. We go with the red team and BlackRock, BlackRock's billions, or we go with the blue team and the CCP billions. Unfortunately, I think it's, it's all too late. They've already spent the money, you know, COVID has done this deal and all the money's been spent. I mean, we're living on borrowed time with the US dollar. It's going to go, excuse my phraseology, but it's up any day. And as soon as people realize that, then that's going to usher in the CBDC and then we're all going to be slaves to the grind, you know, and it's, we're already over the cliff. We're falling and we're just waiting for the bump at the bottom. So I mean, now is the time for people to just prepare, I guess. And BlackRock's donkey deep in digital currencies and ESG, so you can just easily see that, you know, if you've bought too much diesel this month, there'll be no access to your funds for you this month. It's still fully programmable when you only allowed so much meat per month, you know, because climate change and all that. So I mean, yeah, it's just, it's ludicrous and it really aches my heart because I've got a couple of boys and they're not going to live in the world that I lived in when I grew up.  We need more people to have the guts to say no enough and you're not going to do that with our country. And I don't think people actually realise the implications that there is in signing up with these voracious wolves who are only looking at their balance sheet and not ours. Absolutely right. Absolutely. All right. And most people don't realise until it's way too late. Like I say, we're already falling down the cliff and people won't realise until it starts getting a bit uncomfortable when they hit the bottom and they'll be like, hang on, I didn't sign up for this, but unfortunately you did because you were sleeping at the wheel. You weren't watching what was going on. You were watching TV3 News and you were seeing TV1 News and they're telling you everything's all good. Soon they're going to start telling us about the CBDC and how we should all be looking forward to when it comes in and that'll be the sign that the CBDC is coming very soon is when they start advertising it. Well, it looks like we've got the two major parties just wanting to sell out our country. Yep, 100%. Like I say, they're both globalists and I believe that actors as well, based on old Seymour's actions of recent, I think he's sold out to the powers that be that are pulling his strings and we're really running out of people really quick. And I'm not convinced actually, like I say, that we're living in the democracy. We think we are anyway. So it's frustrating and it's a bit worrying. Well, it's very sobering, your thoughts there, Marcus. And thanks for calling into Cam's Buddies. Appreciate it as usual. And so do the listeners. They seem to really enjoy this segment. It's tough. All right, go out and prepare and make sure that you're ready for it. Yeah, totally. Thanks, Marcus. See you, mate. Hello, Miles. Welcome to Cam's Buddies. Hello, Cam. How are you today?  I've just been talking to a few of my other buddies about the announcement on Tuesday by Chris Hipkins together with his pals from BlackRock about a $2 billion fund for climate change research and infrastructure and things like that. And just wondering what you think about that. Well, $2 billion is an awful lot of money to spend on something that will, in fact, produce expensive energy. How so? Well, if you just look over the ditch at Australia and you look at their investment into renewables, we can see that the average Australian power bills are going through the roof. And it's a shame we can't speak German, because if we could speak German, we'd be reading stories from Germany about how renewables have cost so much and put so much strain on their own power grid. It seems that coal-fired power stations and, indeed, nuclear power stations are being re-energised, as it were. Re-commissioned. In the UK, we've had all of this push on renewables. And it seems that nobody is able to join the dots that the wind doesn't always blow. The sun doesn't always shine. Yeah, well, you know, when I get home from work, it's dark and it's cold. And I turn the heater on or turn the heat pump on. Guess what? The sun doesn't shine in the dark, not unless something's happened that I haven't noticed recently. And if you have one of the fine winter days that we've been having, which has been completely still, those wind turbines don't turn either. Yeah, so you think this is a big waste of investment, a risk for New Zealand in just in terms of security of our energy? What about the devil's dilemma, the choice between national who wants to borrow money from the CCP and Labour who wants to let these globalist companies into our country? Do we want either of those things? Well, it's actually quite interesting. You know, since Tuesday I've been thinking about this. We've got billions of dollars coming from BlackRock. Now, excuse me for thinking about it, but if someone arranges a loan for a big amount of money, there's a commission to be paid and there's interest to be paid. Now, make no mistake, BlackRock isn't our chum and neither is China. Neither of these countries are New Zealand's chum and they all want their pound of flesh. I'm just asking, what's BlackRock's pound of flesh? Surely they're not going to give us discount interest rates, are they? Well, I don't think they do anything for nothing. Well, I don't think they do anything for nothing either. And Cam, maybe you can remember, did Ardern visit BlackRock while she was still PM? She did.  There's no need to worry about it. Well, hello, we've got Jacinda Ardern meeting BlackRock on several occasions. We've got Chris Hipkins meeting Carl Schwab from the WEF.  These things don't happen in isolation. It's not a pure coincidence. This is planned. I agree. I think it smells fishy. I think it smells very fishy. This is a heck of a lot of money. And what is the cost? And I'll tell you what I think, right now, you know, it's the choice between the devil and the deep blue sea. At least I know with China what they want.  And the other thing that gets me really hit up about this is if I was a mortgage broker, and I arranged a loan for, I don't know, $100 million, let alone $2 billion, I'd be toasted and fated and I'd get a nice commission. Where's all that money going? It smells of fish to me, looks like a fish, and it's certainly fishy. Well, the other thing too is at least the Chinese buy our milk products. Exactly. Not sure what BlackRock is going to buy from us other than our country. Well, I feel very disturbed that we've got two major parties who are succumbing to a globalist agenda, and I'm not sure that that's best for New Zealand. I think that there are better things that we can do locally. And I think let's just remember about this $2 billion decarbonisation investment that Labour's calling, you know, first in the world. We're talking New Zealand. New Zealand produced five-eighths or four-fifths of stuff all carbon dioxide. In fact, we produced so little carbon dioxide, it doesn't even register on the world scale. And what are we trying to do? We're trying to bigger ourselves to foreign interests in order to do what? To reduce stuff all carbon dioxide to next to stuff all. And we're going to bigger ourselves by doing the one thing that has made society cheap energy. So they're going to look at energy and say, gosh, I'll tell you what, let's invest $2 billion at massive interest rates. And we'll get that back from Joe Consumer. And I bet you, dollars to doughnuts, our energy bills won't be cheaper. We just need to look around the world to see what's happened in other countries. It's not rocket science, is it, Miles? It's not. And I feel particularly aggrieved that I can't see what Black Rock's end game is. I think, you know, at least the Chinese are honest and open with their end game. Say, buy our products, buy our products. Well, yeah. The Chinese are honest about it, at least. They're telling us they want world domination. Black Rock says, are we here to help you? It's a little bit like the government tipping up at your front door and saying, hi, I'm from the government. I'm here to help. Well, I'm deeply suspicious. And I think that this is what you can call a move that has happened and been organized by the last Labour leader Ardern. And I think it's being announced by Hipkins to somehow prove that Hipkins has got whole other than Vowel in a climate crisis. And from where I stand, looking at carbon dioxide, we actually need to produce cheap food. We need to produce cheap energy.   If our goods are high quality and cheap, people will buy it. And you can laugh all you like at me, but just look at China and India. Their carbon footprint looks like a mammoth has sat in it. And people are still buying their goods.  Yeah. Oh, what I'll do is I'll buy an overpriced New Zealand grid. I mean, come on, who does that? Nobody does that. Well, the owners of Aliexpress and Timu would back your analysis on that. I think they would. And, you know, if I'm, if I'm talking to Joe Average in the street and I ask what concerns them the most, it's the price of their energy. I mean, I'm concerned about the price of petrol. I'm concerned about the price of power. And here we have a Labour government promising to spend a lot of borrowed money, which comes with an interest rate. And, and as we all know, interest rates go up. And Joe Average consumer is going to have to foot the bill for all these expensive plans that Labour has announced. And I don't think it's right. And then meantime, we've got, you know, 30 centimetres of global boiling tipping down on the South Island, as we speak. Yeah. And those poor South Islanders will be stoking up their wood fires and hoping that their hydro is still pumping so that they can get cheap energy. I mean, if it was me, if I was in charge, I'd say no to all the climate change. I'd throw it all out. I'd spend the money locally in New Zealand. I'd reduce all of these climate charges on petrol, on electricity. I'd make things more affordable. Well, right now, we as a country need affordable energy. We don't need renewable energy. Our energy is pretty clean. And as I mentioned before, five eighths and four fifths of stuff, all carbon dioxide produced by New Zealand, we don't need to be the first in the world. People will buy our product if it's high quality, and it's a reasonable price to hell with climate change. Well, I'm with you on that, Miles. And that's why you're one of my buddies, because you and all the others keep me grounded in knowing what the man on the street thinks. Thanks so much for calling in to Cam's buddies. Appreciate it. Thank you, Cam. Have a good day. I will. Thank you. Good afternoon, Greg, from Wintery, Queenstown. How are you? Good, I came here, Matt. Yeah, what's happening? Yeah, it's a bit chilly. We've got a lot of this global, what do they call it now, global boiling happening falling on top of Queenstown, all the snow that you've got? Well, we call it snow, but they call it global boiling. So what's happening, Matt? Well, you might have seen on Tuesday, Chris Hipkins launched a new climate infrastructure and climate research fund with $2 billion of money from BlackRock. I'm just wondering what you thought about that. Well, here's the funny thing, and some of my friends from the website, thebfd.co.nz, maybe some of these scientists, the big $2 billion fund to deal with these things, I actually think it's a good idea. Let's develop new electricity generation, new environmental programs, totally agree with it. The annoying thing is, and not one single member of the mainstream media or anybody else has picked up on one simple point. This fund from the BlackRock investment group, it's not a donation to New Zealand. They're not giving it to us. It's a loan fund that we can borrow against, and then we need to pay it back with interest. BlackRock don't do anything for nothing, do they? Exactly. And Mr. Hipkins and his usual odd-toothed man are completely lost over that simple fund. They're not giving it to us. They're lending it to us free of charge. It's a commercial loan, the same as interest. What's worse, Greg, CCP cash from Christopher Luxon or BlackRock cash from Chris Hipkins? That's a hard one to pick, to be honest. And next to the CCP by-staff office, Hipkins locked down. Maybe we'd best avoid both of those. A hundred years ago, we didn't need either of them. So why do we now? Exactly. Thanks for your comments there, Greg. Appreciate you calling into Cam's buddies. Thanks for having me, Cam. See you, mate. See you, mate. Good afternoon, Jack. Welcome to Cam's buddies. Cam, how are you? I'm great. How's the flying being? Well, there's never enough of it. The weather keeps closing in on us every day, but it is getting better. Well, other things that are closing in on us, I don't know if you saw the news, but on Tuesday Chris Hipkins announced that he was going to create this new climate infrastructure and investment fund together with BlackRock. What are your thoughts on that? Well, I thought once again, I see a hundred percent aiming for a hundred percent, wanting to be first in the world. It's a little bit like the zero percent for the road toll. And I think grandiose ideas, lovely ideas, we wish they could come true, but unfortunately, no. I mean, I've had my company for 50 years, and I'm first in the world several times until some wise soul told me, I think back in the 80s, stop being first. You won't make any money being first. Come second or third. You'll learn from the others and it'll work. Anyway, it's just a thought. So what do you reckon is a better option for us? Is it Chinese cash from the CCP, like Christopher Luxem ones, or is it one of these big globalist trillion dollar companies that we should be selling our assets to? Well, before we do any of that, all this philosophical stuff about being self-sustainable. In 1968-69, I was a civil engineer, instrument man they call this, working for the Utah construction and mining company at West Ham Manitoury. Largest construction of its type in the world at the time, thanks to Muldoon and Bill Birch, who actually are the ones that I know that Muldoon sort of not thought of very well, but by me is he was the one that actually gave us the energy we've got now. People need to stop and think about that. But anyway, that was curtailed. It never worked properly because right at the last moment, the people of New Zealand got up and petitioned and said, oh, we mustn't raise the lake. And the whole project was based around a certain head of water and it never happened. That could change. We could actually get a whole lot more energy out of Manitoury very quickly by just going back to what they had planned in those days. Anyway, just a thought. Well, you know, engineers generally have good solutions. You opened the statement and said, how's the flying? How am I going to fly in my aeroplane? How am I going to fuel my tractor? I know these are mundane things which most people don't think about, but aeroplanes aren't going electric anytime soon. And also, if it was down to me, I mean, I'd have a totally different approach. I'd open up oil and gas explanation. I'd have coal mining back in the West Coast. There's heaps of people over there that just would love to be back mining coal. But that's just me. Meanwhile, we import it from Indonesia and other places. Yeah, dirty, cheap coal when we've got a vast mountain of coal sitting under our ground and we've got oil reserves. And a heap of people that want to actually mine it. Exactly. They would love to do that. And I know we had a tragedy, and that was very unfortunate, but they do happen. But I think if you ask, if you took a survey of those West Coast people, I'm sure a lot of them would say, yes, please, can we? Yeah, let's keep going because cheap energy is the key to prosperity, not these expensive boondoggles that mince birds and don't work when the wind doesn't blow and don't work when the sun isn't shining. And as an ex-civil engineer, I can tell you that I wouldn't have any New Zealand companies building anything in this country because they're hopeless. No, they are. Seriously. I mean, I've worked for them, and I've also worked for the largest American company on the planet, and it's chalk and cheese. I don't know about the Chinese. I don't know if I could trust them enough, but however. Well, a wise man once told me that the Chinese are the world's experts at doing 80% of the job 100% of the time. It's just that 20% that bites you. Yep. 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The government's media lap dogs are doing that, and we don't need to do their dirty work for them. Nobody has started the New Zealand purity party. If someone does, I'm not convinced that they'll get 50 plus percent votes in the next election. The whole truth is coming out, and sooner or later they'll admit they had it wrong because the evidence will be overwhelming. Fox News is a good example to follow. They are mostly conservative, but they do talk to a wide spectrum of people, and their popularity ratings show that. We need to give ACT and National a platform from which to spread their message without being threatened and argued with. This platform is growing, so let's get more people on board by being viewed as being fair and reasonable. That sensible comment was from Jan, and I can just clarify a couple of things. When I was talking about ACT and National not coming on the show, it was about not coming on my show. We have had some ACT MPs and some National party MPs on other shows, but this week, as you will have heard, we've had Mark Mitchell on. He's the first National MP to come on the show, and I welcome them even more MPs coming. Maggie suggests, thank you for giving me the opportunity to ask my questions. Liz Gunn is in the process of registering New Zealand loyal. On her very first video, she mentioned scrapping all taxes. I believe it's not feasible or possible to run the country without taxes. One can reduce the taxes and the general spending, but not canceling all the taxes. I wonder what you think about that matter. Can you please comment? Well, Maggie, it's not something I'm an expert in, but I think that a flat tax system is probably the closest we're ever going to get to reducing taxes, but the flip side of that is that we also need to reduce general spending. Got a guest suggestion here. Judah says that we should perhaps consider talking to Mark O'Neill, the New Zealand First candidate who is standing in the Labour stronghold of Christchurch Central. Thanks for that suggestion, Judah. Regarding Brian Tamaki, definitely be having my vote. Brian walks the talk from Anonymous. Another anonymous commenter says, hey, Cam, great interview with Brian. Also, excellent advice, re-voting strategy. You may want to share with listeners that New Zealand First is committed to funding Mike King's program for mental health. Ask Winston if you'd also fund ManUp. He's got the best chance of getting in, but we need ManUp desperately. Warm regards, Sarah. Jackie says, loving the crunch. Keep up the good work, Cam. Brian Tamaki has some great ideas. Yesterday, I've listened to Brian and Hannah speaking in Hastings and seeing their ManUp program in action. They are there for the people. Now, a comment about Morris Williamson. Hi, Cam. Loved your interview with Morris Williamson. Feels like we're being transported back in time to get the insider's scoop on a whole secret world. And even my 12-year-old was in fits of last after listening to Morris relay some of the antics you got up to back in the day. Great show. Keep up the good work. Clear. Now to some comments about Don Brash. I was listening to you talk to Don Brash about GST. This is a little off topic, but at the moment, R, B, and Z is increasing the OCR. This is pushing the interest rates up and making the banks richer and harder from mortgage holders. Could you run past Don? What does he think about increasing KiwiSaver contributions to slow the economy?  Your thoughts as well. Well, Bruce, that's a good suggestion. And maybe we'll get Don back on to talk about some of those options. Now, Bronwyn says, thanks for reading out my email and taking the time to reply. No need to read this one out. Well, Bronwyn, of course, I'm reading it anyway. I just wanted to say that by the end of last week's replay, I'd figured out your thoughts voting National, Act or New Zealand First to get a change of government. And I'm very sorry I didn't follow up with another email to say so. That's okay, Bronwyn. I've enjoyed this week's replay too, especially the interview with Don Brash, and I have a much better understanding of GST now. And we've got a long comment here, very long comment. I'll have to edit some of the comments out. It's a bit a little bit sycophantic, but you'll get the gist of it. Hi, Cam, I don't profess to know much about politics prior to 2020. I wasn't all that interested in the subject. However, like many truth seekers and freedom lovers with critical thinking capabilities, I soon became very interested in the COVID Trojan horse that came along. When I was a Democracy New Zealand supporter, I bailed after the top five candidates left, I used to get annoyed with your bias for Winston Peters, and then I had a massive reality check and saw the light, in part due to your Northland poll. Like you, I'm deeply concerned that with the number of minority parties and freedom community vote is so split, we're going to end up with no voice or handbrake at all in Parliament post-election. As you are well aware, this election is critical. If we don't have a strong voice in Parliament, the National Act globalist cabal puppets will continue to implement all the Marxist or Wallian ideas and legislation prepared without any opposition by Labour and worse. I agree with you that Winston in New Zealand first is the only minority party that is anti-gobalist, anti-co-governance, and pro-democracy capable of exceeding the 5% threshold. And then he lists a whole lot of quotes about Winston and where he stands. He says, I've observed on social media, as well as political debates within my own local freedom community, the main reasons why freedom voters say they won't vote for him. And they are, they don't trust him. He's a traitor as he went against the majority vote in 2017, choosing Labour. Although National said they would have done the COVID response harder, faster, and more efficiently. So maybe he saved us from a worse fate, but who knows? They also think that he cares more about himself, his ego and career than New Zealanders. It sounds very much like every politician. And he was initially pro-Jabbs, mandates, mass lockdowns, even though he's now addressed that. And they blindly or ignorantly believe that their favourite will gain enough votes. Winston is far from perfect, but the reality is the other minor parties will not align or unite. Therefore his voters United say, we are the freedom voters, must align and vote strategically with our heads, not our hearts, if we are to succeed. He then recommends that we read an article on Gary Moller's website at garymoller.com about freedom parties and the insurmountable hurdle. He says, I applaud and admire and respect most candidates in the minority freedom parties. They got out from behind their keyboard, put themselves out for a noble and just cause, saving and restoring New Zealand's freedoms, rights and democracy. However, they're so intent on their individual courses that they are not seeing the bigger picture or reality. They are, as you so rightly say, living on hopeium. Thanks for your thoughts on how to vote on the crunch this week. I've shared this and suggested people listen to your words and experience the wisdom. It'd be great if you could turn those few minutes into a shareable sound bite. Love the political panel show and the crunch, both provide valuable thoughts and opinions and knowledge and insights. And also the new improved version of you is a winning formula. And you say you're enjoying it too. Always a bonus. Thanks to all of you for your courage, integrity and hard work. You guys and girls make the difference. RCR is invaluable. Thanks for that long email, Tracy. I appreciate every word that you put into that. And now it's time to go and have a look at some of the socials comments that are out there on the book face and the Twitter and things like that. We've got Jeanette, who says, great and informative mix of interviews, really enjoying your show. Thanks, Cam. We've got Madeleine, who says, great interview with Brian Tamaki. I'm glad someone with a track record in decades of working with the community has an approach that works. What the law and order policy shows is that there are long-term changes at the forefront. We all want harsher sentences, but really the breakdown is three of the parts that make law and order working independently currently. And once they're released, it's no wonder they reoffend. We've got nothing to lose in this election is everything for my kids. I need change and I need it now. As I want to have safe old New Zealand, I used to know that I would definitely be voting for freedoms New Zealand because I know for a fact that they're doing this already and it's very successful. So it's not just a good speech like the rest of them. It's the results already being produced with not even a cent funding from the government. Currently, their results so far, I can only imagine how they will do with funding. And Lisa says, awesome, I'm listening in. Hey, Cam, New Zealand First, Acton National are just as bad. None of them came out to the steps. They all cosigned in agreement form with Labour to not speak to the protesters. Winston also helped get Jacinda into Parliament. And New Zealand First also helped with the publishing of the new sex education programme being pushed on to our kids. That's it from the mailbag. Lots of comments there. Still not getting any negative ones. Do I have to try a little bit harder to get some of those? Anyway, I look forward to hearing from you next week. This is The Crunch with Cam Slater. Conversations with a side of controversy right here on RCR. Right, that's it for The Crunch this week. The election is approaching and the silly season is upon us. Beware of politicians making huge promises. And remember, they're making those promises with your money. It's been a real pleasure having you all back this week. I'm loving the feedback and really enjoying to talking to so many people, sharing their thoughts on politics, life and everything in between. There's plenty more in this election campaign that we need to crunch into. So a big shout out to all of you and thank you for listening and having faith in me as we continue to explore this beautiful game of politics. Don't forget email suggestions to inbox at realitycheck.radio for people for me to interview. 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