Hello everyone, this is Mr. P. On today's lesson, we're going to take a look at correlative conjunctions. Yes, that's right. Either or, neither nor, both ends, not only but also, etc. Let's get started. What is a conjunction? Well, a conjunction is a joiner, a word that connects parts of a sentence. There are three types of conjunctions, coordinating, subordinating and correlative. So this is what we're going to talk about today, correlative conjunctions. Let's take a look at some of them. Either or, you either cook or clean the house. Underline, you will find the correlative conjunctions. Not only but also.  Look at the placement of the pronoun and the verb. So we have the verb first, which is is, then we have the pronoun she. Not only is she beautiful, but she is intelligent also. Also at the end in this case. The next one. Neither nor. Neither the basketball team nor the football team is doing well. Here you may notice that is is the verb. So it's highlighted in yellow. And is the singular form. Because we're describing or the basketball team or the football team. So is. Other correlative conjunctions. Both ends. Both my cousin and my best friend like ice cream. Notice the verb like. It is highlighted in yellow. And it is using the plural form. Both my cousin and my best friend. So that means two people. So plural. So like. Not likes. Whether or. So in this example we have whether you stay or go is your decision. Is being the verb. Is in the third person singular. Why? Because is describing your decision. Just as so. So the example here is just as many Canadians love hockey. So many Italians love soccer. So we have many Canadians. Love. Love is the verb. So is the plural form. And many Italians love. Again here is plural. So the verb stays in the plural form. So love. So there are many other correlative conjunctions. But these are the most important ones. They're used in pairs to join phrases or words that carry equal importance within a sentence. When using correlative conjunctions you must ensure verbs agree. So your sentences make sense. You make sure that pronouns agree. And also be sure to keep parallel structure intact. So let's take a look at each point then. Verbs must agree. If you connect two subjects with a correlative conjunction, the second one must agree with the verb that follows. Let's take a look at this example. Every single evening, either the horned owl or the squabbling cats wakes a month up with their racket. So we have wake in the plural form because we are describing the squabbling cats. There refers to obviously the squabbling cats. Let's take a look at the same example with different word order. Every single evening, either the squabbling cats or the horned owl wakes some month up with its racket. So here we have wakes. Why? Because we are describing the horned owl. So it's a singular verb form. And its is the pronoun that refers to the owl. That's right. Let's take a look at the second point. Pronouns must agree. When you connect two subjects with a correlative conjunction, the second one must agree with the pronoun that follows. Neither Joe nor his friends show their concern about what they ate at the restaurant that night. So we have the pronoun. Here is there. Why? Because we are describing his friends. Let's look at the same sentence with a different word order. Neither Joe's friends nor Joe show his concern about what they ate at the restaurant that night. So you can see the pronoun here is his referring to Joe, right? So he's concerned. So Joe's concerned. So pay attention to the pronoun. The third point. Keep parallel structure intact. Be sure that you have equal grammatical units after both parts of the conjunction. You can have two main clauses like this. Not only did Joe grill a fish for Mary, but he also grilled for Tokyo her cat. Look at the order of the sentence in the first clause. We have did. So the auxiliary of the past tense. Then we have the subject and then we have a verb. So pay attention to this structure in the main clause, in the first main clause. Then we have but he also grilled. And in this case, we didn't use the auxiliary. We use the verb plus the ed because we're talking about a regular verb plus a prepositional phrase for Tokyo. Her cat. That is one option you can have another option if you choose to. Or you can have two nouns like for example, Joe grilled a fish for not only Mary, but also Tokyo her cat. So we have two nouns, Mary and Tokyo her cat. If you don't like either of them, we can shorten the sentence with two prepositional phrases like this. Joe grilled fish not only for Mary, but also for Tokyo her cat. So we have for Mary as a prepositional phrase and for Tokyo. So now let's practice. I will give you five minutes to complete the sentences. Then we look at the key. Please pause the video. Now that you have your answers, let's take a look at the key. Number one. Could I come over at either three or four o'clock? Ask Jim. Number two. Alfred not only got up late this morning, but also missed a train. Number three. I really need a holiday, but neither in Spain nor France. Number four. I'm going to fish tomorrow, whether it rains or shines. Number five. I don't like him. He's both rude and selfish. Well, that's it for today. I hope you enjoyed the lesson. If you have some questions about correlative conjunctions, just type them under this video. If you haven't subscribed to my channel, I suggest you do. If you liked the lesson, hit on the like button, please. And you may share the lesson if you liked it. Until next time, bye-bye.


The Braves got gifted a triple play by the Red Sox. The first batter got on base, that O2 pitch, chapped it off the plate, sprinted, made it a tough play. He's on first, three, two pitch, did it hit him? Who knows, just ball four, just ball four, okay. First and second, and now you have a fly ball to center field, he runs in, catches it, runner on first with running, didn't tag up, so he's out, runner on second, decides to tag up, he's out, triple play. Unbelievably easy, the Braves didn't even really celebrate it, Red Sox looking on like, what, how did that happen? Cora can't believe it, just sitting there thinking like, wait, what just happened? Hold on, let me recap this. So they caught it for the first out, runner on second was running on the pitch, so then he's doubled up, and then the runner on second tries to tag up, and he's out easily, what?


On the road, on our Wal-Mart to Wal-Mart tours, we don't get much entertainment. And what we do, we're watching Trucker Josh, you should too. Flatbed Trucking, Sam rides, tell them all about it Sam, tell them, they're on your road. Tell them, tell them Sam, tell them how it is. Greetings fellow citizens of the apocalypse. Are you still alive out there? It's getting crazy isn't it? I'm filming this on Tuesday, March 17th. My videos are usually close to a week behind. Maybe you'll get this sooner, maybe you'll get it later. I don't know. Trucking through the apocalypse. I'm healthy. My family's healthy. Britt stayed home from work today because she wasn't feeling well. But it's not the symptoms of COVID-19. It's other symptoms to do with other things. So it doesn't look like that's what it is. It looks like it's probably something just upset her stomach. But I'll keep a close eye on what's going on there. I'm still disinfecting my truck at least once a day, twice a day. I would think, first thing when I get up and sometimes twice a day and probably before I go to bed, it's probably three times a day. I'm going a little crazy. Trying not to panic. They've closed the borders of Canada. To all non-citizens, the only people who are allowed into the country now are Canadian citizens, permanent residents, Americans, and flight crews, diplomats, stuff like that. All Canadians abroad have been told to return home. It's time to come home. So they're on their way home now, or on their way's home. However, they will be screened before boarding the plane, obviously. And if they are symptomatic and if they have symptoms of the virus, they will not be allowed to return to Canada and they will have to seek treatment where they are. I believe that's what they're doing. I mean, these things change about every 10 to 30 minutes. So by the time you watch this, it's probably all completely changed because a week is a long time. We're looking at about eight weeks, hopefully for this whole thing to blow over. So that will bring us into two months. That will bring us into mid-May. And then we're probably going to be battling the tail end of it through the summer from the sounds of it. The virus doesn't seem to be thriving as well near the equator. And I've heard that it doesn't like sunlight much. It's not doing as well in Australia as it is up in the northern hemisphere where it's cold right now. But you know, there's still learning. Still learning by the time you watch this again, information may have changed and it might have morphed into something else. We hear that there's been cases of people being reinfected with coronavirus which means that it's been mutating and able to... Our body's built up an immunity to it and it mutates and it infects the people again. Let's hope that's not the case. Let's hope that was just an outlier. But for now, as of today, it's still business as usual for me. I've gotten a few messages here on the satellite for extra security and health measures they're taking at the office. I'm not allowed in the office anymore. Only essential personnel in the office and office staff are allowed in the office. There's a little room where I can go in to talk to them and we can talk through a window, but they're advising that we have our... We meet with the Lord Gods and the people who helped me out at the office there. Dispatchers and stuff that we meet outside. Best ventilation is outside. Hand sanitizer. I'm still somewhat stocked. I got half a thingy here. Can't find any more anywhere so I've ordered some off Amazon. It says it's going to take a month or three weeks to a month to get to me. Let's hope it's not going to take that long. I've also ordered some Facebook. Got another message. Oh, my new... Okay, new registrations have... Trucks registered for the new next year that had nothing to do with the virus. You have 10 hours and 46 minutes of remaining drive time. Thank you. I'm currently in Canada. Well, obviously, because I'm between Swan River and my next stop in Humboldt, Saskatchewan. I am already pretty much inside self-isolation. I can't talk. I can't English today. I'm pretty much self-quarantined in self-isolation. There's just me and Diesel in here. I meet literally less than five people a day and I keep my distance from them. I wash my hands and face regularly. I shower as often as I can get to a shower. At least my regular shower amount will be okay. I'm listening to the news, unfortunately. Trying to get independent news as well off YouTube so I can get other points of view so I'm not just hearing the mainstream media because I don't trust them really. But I don't want to blow them off either.  So welcome to today's vlog. It's already been five and a half minutes of me talking about this, but I want to assure you that as of today, Tuesday the 17th, I'm still doing well. I'm doing live streams with you guys on the channel so you've already seen me in the future and you'll know if I get sick already. If I do, I'm going to share it with you guys as well so that you guys can also know what to expect. I'm a young and healthy guy. I don't smoke. I've got healthy lungs. I would be fine. So I'm not expecting to get sick, but if I do, I'll take you along for the journey and you can see what it's like, I guess. I'll let you know if I get sick. But there's a good chance a lot of us might. We've got to make sure that we take care of our elderly, our seniors, and our older family members. They're the ones that are most at risk. If you have pregnant friends or pregnant family members, they're very at risk. Young children, obviously, but mostly the elderly by the sounds of it. And the biggest threat we have is that we're going to run out of hospital beds and run out of hospital equipment because for some reason, we're not going to get into this too deep right now, but for some reason, we've become almost completely reliant on China for our medical supplies and our medicine. Who in the world thought that that would be a good idea? Pandemic comes around. We're going to be in trouble. They're hogging all the stuff for their own people. Can you blame them? They're making it. Maybe we'll give it to their people first. That's what they're thinking. Without any medicine, our topic for another time, but that's what we're dealing with right now. That's our biggest threat. We want to contain the spread so that our hospitals don't become overwhelmed, so that if our older relatives do get sick, that the hospital beds are there for them, the ICU units are there for them, ventilators are there for them. I've been talking for too long already. I hope you guys are all healthy and safe. Let me know down below in the comments section. If you know anybody who has been confirmed with COVID-19, so if you feel like sharing it, if you don't feel like sharing it, I understand it's personal, but let's get going with the rest of today, shall we? Trucking through the apocalypse.   So he's just unloading me here real quick. I've got two pieces, they're being left here. And then from here, from here we had to swift current. I believe we'll be there tomorrow morning. But we'll be there tonight, but we'll probably deliver tomorrow morning. No, wait, we gotta go to Saskatoon first. We'll just ask the tune first, and then we go to Swift Current for tomorrow morning. And then we head into Alberta and B.C. Just rolling into Saskatoon here. There's one thing that's good about this whole thing going on right now, if you could call it that. There should be less traffic. So there's that. Small victories, right? So I gotta go around Saskatoon to the north side, close to the Flying J. Up on Idlewild Drive. Drop off two crates there. They're waiting for me. Oh, this road is bad. Wow! Wow! I guess we've got bigger things to worry about obviously. I'm gonna drop these two crates off.  I'm trying to keep my tanks full and topped off just in case if things get really, really bad and I need to get home from wherever I am. Then I can just point the nose of my truck towards home and not stop till I get there. That's what it comes down to but I just gotta make sure I always have enough fuel in my tanks for that. Or if I get, you know, stuck somewhere. If they shut everything down and shut down provincial travel and stuff I may have to live in my truck for a while for a few weeks, right? And if they shut down fuel production well, I better make sure I have enough fuel in my tanks. You should be doing this anyways even without a virus outbreak. That's what I usually do. But I might have to live in here for a few weeks so we gotta make sure that we have enough fuel to keep ourselves warm and we can sort of get around. I don't think it'll come to that but you never know. I mean, as of right now before I started rolling again I checked the total cases in Canada. Now remember this is old by the time you're watching this maybe it'll show you how fast it spread or how fast it hasn't spread. Tuesday, March 17th the total cases across all of Canada was 407 confirmed cases. So, we'll see how many there are by the time you watch this. Maybe go Google it and leave it in the comments down below tell me what the what the total is now. Excuse me not the virus. I just ate some chocolate before and it makes my throat flummy. Absolutely. It's a good idea. That's going to take me to my customer. So far people are still buying stuff. So far I still got work to do. I haven't heard anything about anything shutting down but if you think about it we are where Italy was about two to three weeks ago right now. Now Italy like today Italy is at what was it 50,000 cases or something like that? So I mean we did get ahead of it and we 100 meters take the entrance to the right on Circle Drive West. You never know you know people always tell you to prepare for these things and you're like oh no no it'll never happen well it's 2020 we have modern medicine all of a sudden boom China's like surprise novel corona brand new your body has no idea what it is not like the flu where your body may have experienced before and built up some antibodies so if you come in contact with the germs you won't necessarily get sick you might be able to fight it off fight off the germs right but with this new virus if you come in contact with these germs you're getting sick that's just how it is too bad good luck body there's no cure there's no vaccine there's nothing as of when I'm filming this hope that by the time you watch this maybe there is some progress on that but and if you are a senior citizen you know that can be pretty scary continue on this road for six kilometers I think that's why it was freaking out because you know the common flu we all sort of have antibodies built up immune systems that are built up towards this because we've all been around it our whole lives but this this is something new you get just a couple of these germs inside your body you got it too bad you got it I hope your body can handle it that's why we're being extra safe right we're cleaning down surfaces we're reducing the germs around us reducing contact with other people so that we don't have to worry about this and hopefully they come up with a good vaccine sort of like a flu shot a corona shot that you can sort of take and it'll be a vaccine that'll give you immunity see what happens that's all that anyone's talking about today so it's hard to veer off on to other topics because it's just it doesn't matter what I listen to where I go who I'm talking to it's all the same thing it's all the same thing corona corona corona corona corona corona it's corona time it's all people are talking about we're gonna really social distance give ourselves some social distance from everybody and pay more attention to hygiene and hopefully I can find some more hand sanitizer soon so we're rolling towards swift current right now we're currently on highway 19 you want to call this a highway it's more of like a collection of multiple different pieces of asphalt arranged in a nice straight sort of straight line it's a Saskatchewan highway so you gotta be vigilant here I'm very glad I'm not driving down here at night because there are some massive potholes there's not any right now but man I had to do some serious maneuvers there before to save my tires and rims it's pretty crazy a little harder to see them at night sort of like the Titanic rolling towards the iceberg you know you don't want to hit one of them they'll sink the whole ship about two hours or so away from swift current it's been a pretty good day so far definitely gonna have to take my truck in to get the injectors looked at and it's time to get a a service it's time to get an overhead adjustment it's time to you know regular maintenance comes around it's that time any of you guys have tried Lucas injector cleaner in your engine before though it's magical it's magical what it does it really works and I'm not sponsored by them or anything I just want to tell you it really works my truck was running a little rough I was getting a little worried about it it's a little rough I know I gotta get this truck into the shop as soon as I get back but it's still running okay right smooth as silk just like brand new it's just running beautifully my fuel economy is up right away you notice the difference right away I've used it before maybe like months every couple of months or so recently I think I've put one in last month and now this month as well you notice the difference right away on that tank of fuel wonderful product so I'm going to be talking to Andy about that W-900 I'm not in a big rush I'm not going to come home with one tomorrow unless if he swings me a pretty sweet deal but it'll be give me at least a year I don't know maybe soon maybe I'll surprise you I don't know it's all up to Andy really and me see if we can work something out but you know either you have these monthly payments which are pretty big or you have monthly maintenance which is also pretty big the thing with a new truck is you have warranty and you have peace of mind and every mile on that truck is yours oh there's another one another one okay we missed them wow see they come out of nowhere look at those icebergs got a car coming up behind me now too I'm wondering what's this guy doing dodging potholes man oh he's going to nail these potholes off in the left uh oh oh you're poor sunfire just giving her just giving her that poor little thing yeah we'll see what happens I'll keep you posted I think this is my exit we're going for it look at this guy over here on the right on that service road he's driving without his lights on what a silly goose it's night time bud brake lights work at least so we're in swift current I got a deliverer down the road here in the morning but for now we're going to go to the Esso Husky here and try to find us a good quiet park and spot and edit us up a video because I haven't had any videos to release to you guys recently we're probably going to do a live chat and uh discuss more of this crazy virus stuff with you guys live hopefully I'll have a better signal here than I had last night because last night I had a terrible signal it was just awful but uh find us a parking spot and I have 12 hours until I have to deliver in the morning lots of time my truck is purring like a kitten she really liked the little treat I gave her today that was nice this little injector cleaner she really liked that well I just finished my live stream and I was told I am ruining the entire trucking industry I had no idea I was so important I had no idea I had that much power thank you really that important I can't really do that we got into talking about how crazy China is and what did I say I don't even know what I said what I got them mad but they can let me know in the comment section here if they want to I didn't block ya it must have continued later on yeah the world is crazy right now but we are thankful for family friends, thankful for health thankful for the world we live in though it's not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but we got to pray for the areas of the world that are struggling so let me know down below in the comment section how the virus is doing right now when you're watching this video if you're watching this a couple of years down the road it's probably all gone by now or we're all dead leave a comment down below let me know how the apocalypse went and I'll talk to you soon


Hey everybody, welcome to another haul edition here at Oblique and Geekdom. My name is Devonemonadas and thank you for subscribing, liking our content, and just being a part of the family. Thank you so very much. You could have chosen so many other channels here on this platform, but you're here with me. Thank you so very much. I really appreciate it. If you're new to the channel, then at the end of every month, I'd like to do a haul video talking about all the nerdy geeky stuff that I acquired. It can be from comics to manga, games, etc. So let's do this. Let's begin with manga. I skipped on the month of September all the graphic editions, but do not worry. They will be back soon on this channel. But I mostly stuck with two series that I really wanted to continue. One I wanted to continue getting, the other to start collecting it. And the first one that we have here is Dr. Stone Volume 7. And this is a treasure. I loved this so much. I recently read it before doing this video. It is a fantastic series. I made a review for the first volume way back a couple months ago. And yeah, this thing is just firing on all cylinders. If you know what's been happening with this series, just the stuff that they're doing, the concepts that they're working with is breathtaking, man. Beautiful artwork and really smart and funny and adventurous. And there are a couple scenes here that are, you know, they do kind of hit you in the fields when you least expect it. Man, I cannot recommend Dr. Stone enough. If you don't want to read it, you can watch the anime adaptation as well, which is really good, really excellent adaptation. Speaking of adaptations, Demon Slayer recently ended. But I wanted to start collecting the manga because I'd like it as well. Obviously, the anime is, let's just say, prettier in that regard. But still, the manga is a ton of fun. And I do recommend it if you want to read a fun kick-ass shonen battle shonen, as they like to call it. Here are the first seven volumes of Demon Slayer. And I think you've already seen the covers, but I'll show them off just in case. Here's volume one. Here is volume two, volume three, volume four, five, six, and volume seven. I am missing volume eight, which I did pick up, but it went rapidly out of stock. Same with Dr. Stone. This shipped a little bit late. As of this video, the eighth volume of Demon Slayer did not arrive. It will ship out eventually. It's just too hot of a title right now. So my suggestion, as soon as you're able to, and you see these titles up for pre-order, do it. Because then you're going to be stuck waiting for like two or three weeks for them to stock up and ship them out and all that stuff. All right, moving on, let's go into video games. Apparently, once a year, I make a big switch upgrade. Next year, I got the Nintendo Switch, and this year, I got a bunch of games for it. You know, I'm slowly getting into the Switch and gaming more and more with the different systems and the PS4 and all that stuff.  But yeah, very quickly, I picked up titles that, yeah, I know. You don't have to tell me, they're old by today's standards, and I didn't have them. So yeah, Super Smash Bros. Ultimate, got Donkey Kong Country Tropical Freeze, and the zooming on this, the focus on this is terrible today, I don't know what's up with that, Mario Odyssey, and that's it. Three solid Switch games, modern classics, as my friends like to say. Moving on to movies. I did get Godzilla King of the Monsters on 4K. Here we have Avengers Endgame, which I mentioned on the last haul video, so there it is, and the Steel Book Edition of Shazam. Great. Let's move on to Anime Blu-rays. Here we have Lupin the Third, Goemon's Blood Spray, this is the short film, pretty cool stuff. Am I here at Academia Season 3, Part 2? Re Zero Part 2, Season 1 Part 2, whatever you want to call it. And hey, it fits with my shirt. Here is Attack on Titan, Season 3 Part 1, I didn't even notice, that's cool. And this gem right here, Pat Labor or Pat Labor, whoever you want to mention that, really cool design by the way, look at that. The actual Blu-rays are the case art for the packaging, so yeah. It's insane to me that this has all 47 episodes right here on 9 Blu-ray discs, and over here we have the original OVA series, 7 episodes, the new files, which is 16 episodes, then the 3 movies, so yeah, really, really, I guess I should go like this, right? There we go, fantastic. So that's about it guys, thank you so much, it's a pretty small but really cool haul this month. It was, I didn't miss a couple of things that were supposed to arrive, but did not. I'll mention them later, just to keep the suspense going. One of them was a game, the other was another manga, and something else I cannot remember at the moment, but you'll see them eventually, like I always say. September is really cool because it's my birthday month, so a lot of these things were birthday gifts. I want to thank everybody that wished me well on my birthday, that is really awesome, and you know, I feel the love, and I want to give back in whatever way I can, and what better way than to entertain and do videos on this channel so that you guys feel a little bit better, and you guys seem to enjoy the stuff that I'm making, so I'm very happy to continue doing that. Look forward to more reviews pretty soon, I have a couple manga reviews that I'm working on and I am going back into the comic book stuff as well, so stay tuned for all of that. As always guys, thank you for liking, commenting, and subscribing to A Week in Geekdom, it really does mean the world to me, I sincerely cannot thank you guys enough. Follow me on your favorite social media platform, I'm on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, all that fun stuff, just type A Week in Geekdom and I'm there for you. Alright I have got to go, I have got more stuff to read and review and play apparently, so I will catch all of you on our next installment.


Have you ever come across a man who you thought was genuinely interested in you, but he was also scared? Well, believe it or not this happens frequently and I can speak from personal experience because I will share with you publicly I think I've shared this before I have what's known as an anxious attachment style an anxious attachment style and what that means is I Actually act rather needy in relationship because of some inner fears that are going on inside of me Now there's also a different type of man known as an avoidant attachment style And by the way man or woman I should say and what happens is they get scared, but they close down They shut down. So there's the type that I am an anxious attachment style Hopefully I'd move to a secure now although I'll share with you something publicly that Surprises me even at the same time there are men that are avoidant in other words when they get scared They shut down and if you're not familiar with the work of Amir Levine and Rachel Heller I highly recommend checking out this book called attached. This helps you understand the basically three different types of attachment styles There's variations within the three. By the way, you can get all the books I recommend in Jonathan recommend books in the description So what they basically describe is anxious are those needy people avoidance tend to be the Emotionally insecure people or emotionally unavailable people. I call them emotionally constipated But I think we're all emotionally constipated to some degree And then there's what's known as secure and what this means is When you're feeling scared in a relationship you can either act in a needy way You can act in a avoidant way or when you get scared you actually act in a secure way Now, let me tell you where my anxious attachment was birthed because this might help you understand Maybe yourself or some men you've dated and there's certainly plenty of people that are avoidant types So there's a picture of my mother and father. It was taken in their 20s My parents were married 66 years before my mother passed away some years ago at the age of 88 And while my mom was a very sweet and loving woman There was something that happened in my childhood Repetitively that caused me to become an anxious attachment style And that is my mother would give love and then take it away And she'd give love and take it away and she'd give love and take it away And what let me explain that a little bit more detail What would happen is she would be very loving and then if she got mad at my brother myself or my father She would stonewall. She would stop communicating with us If you're not familiar with the work of John Gottman, I highly recommend checking out something He calls the four horsemen of the apocalypse in relationships And that is criticism contempt defensiveness and stonewalling and stonewalling means shutting down love basically shutting yourself down So my mother would do this now. I want you to imagine. I'm a four-year-old boy. I'm a seven-year-old boy I'm a 12-year-old boy And you have this person who's loving and then they take it away And after a while this repetitiveness caused me to get anxious saying mommy love me mommy love me mommy love me In fact, I can viscerally feel those moments right now as I'm sharing with you those times that she did that And while cognitively I understand that this I mean she never left me As a child there's this feeling of abandonment And this can be true for you as well Now the avoidant type usually when this was happening, which really was this my I'm wondering if my brother or sister were avoidants I think my brother might have been an avoidant attachment stop where he went inward when this happened to basically Self-sooth and what happens is they shut everything down So they're less emotional less communicative So you could be in a relationship with someone and this is when when you get triggered by fear And I'll share a couple of those things in a moment. These are the some of the things that might happen So you might be asking yourself. Why would you choose a person like this? Okay, well, it's very common I I believe that well over 50 of people have either an anxious and avoidant attachment style That's according to book. I believe that number is significantly higher I would say that number is closer to 80 of the population certainly the single population Mainly because there's a reason why we're single Because our fears get in the way But I also think it's important to understand something called the amago the amago If you're not familiar with the work of harvell hindricks and hell and hunt Here's a copy of the book getting the love you want What this explains is oftentimes we choose partners who are like one or both of our parents because there's this Gravitation to what's familiar the amago stands for mirroring. So it mirrors what we experience in our childhood For example, I had a friend who was in a relationship with a woman who was absolutely Loud and yelled at him and screamed and belittled him And what was familiar to him is that's what his father was like And this might have happened to you as well This is one of the reasons why women often chime shoes emotionally unavailable men because their father might have been emotionally unavailable And why men tend to gravitate to women like their mothers because they might have had the demanding mother Or maybe a mother like myself. I tended to choose women who stonewalled me that I mean my patterning was that So what are some of the things men do? When they're genuinely interested in you and get scared I want to share with you a couple things First off they pull away and in a moment I'll share a personal story In fact, I will share uh in a little bit some solutions of when this happens to how to avoid When a man gets scared even if he likes you he gets scared how to actually lean into the relationship But in about a second ago. I said they pull away. It's a very common experience when we get scared We feel the need to pull away This is why many of you have been taught to lean back when a man pulls away Because and what happens is look at two people are pulling away. What's the benefit of that? What's the benefit of leaning back when someone else is leaning back? I suggest leaning forward into your Empowerment. This is why I highly recommend women read the book. Where the heck is it right now?  Yes This is an empowerment book so that no matter what happens in your love life You actually can stand in your power. You don't need to lean back I want you to lean into your sovereignty your self worth your self esteem your self confidence Step into your sovereignty Ah Some of the other reasons why this happens what men what they do or feel Is that they they've been hurt before just like you've been hurt before I was recently speaking to a woman who was with a man who had literally been hurt when the last three of his Relationships and so he wanted to take everything slow because he was afraid he liked this person But he was afraid to give in to that like Because he didn't know if she would abandon him Interestingly enough she did I will tell you this. I'm not a big proponent of taking things slow. I'm a big proponent of intentional dating Uh accelerated dating radical honesty laying your cards on the table I'm not in favor of taking things slow.  They're just tired of the dating process I know you feel that way. I know I feel that way and in a moment i'm going to share a personal story because So most of you know i'm in a significant relationship and yet Literally after the first date I pulled away I pulled away because I actually liked this person a lot And I got scared. I got scared because there was distance involved. I was scared because I didn't you know, I'm you know, I've had such poor. I felt like I've had such poor experiences That I did a tiny little pullback And thankfully she didn't overreact. She didn't do anything dramatic She sensed it And yet when we were apart I realized that I genuinely missed her I realized I genuinely appreciated her and sometimes we do need space to recognize what we have I'm not a big proponent of women chasing men, but I'm not a big proponent of chasing in general I believe in mutual effort I believe two people should travel down the street like a two-lane street traveling at the same speed Let the man travel a little bit more make them just a little more effort than you But just a tiny bit more Because if you do if you if it's this lopsided he's not going to feel safe Many of you women that lean back and try to give a man too much space. He doesn't trust you And again, I'm going to share in a moment how to create a stronger bond of trust because that's the most important thing That we want to accomplish So As I shared with you I pulled back A little bit and then I leaned in Okay Now I can tell you that the reason why leaned in because she operated from a place of vulnerability Authenticity and transparency I'm going to repeat that she operated from a place of vulnerability Authenticity and transparency. I really appreciate that. That's the way she operate now Maybe it was because we developed a friendship Over a year period of time before we actually engaged in a relationship In fact, when we first met it was under the guise of just being friends We took the romance off the table to some degree and yet when we met there was a strong connection a strong bond and let me just say this In our dating marketplace today If there isn't a strong bond at that very first meaning It's very hard to have the relationship take off because of because the reality is is these days were meeting total strangers Thankfully, she wasn't a stranger to me when we met But there needs to be a strong connection now.  It could come across as making grandiose promises Okay, the reason why this is happening is he's he's experiencing sexual desire for you Or he's put you up on a pedestal You have to i'm going to post a video in a few days about love bombers and narcissists to get a better understanding of this because Some people operate at such a high level of wanting to get you and that should be a red flag to you Now what I was experiencing was a strong bond a strong connection I was quite differently because I operated from a place of being a gentleman And I believe she would agree. She would griff. She was on here right now. She'd say the same thing Certainly I was a bit smitten by her And that's very common and yet I still got scared. I pulled away Well, let me share something else with you We're now in a significant relationship with each other. We've declared it. I've now finally made it public out there and yet the other day I texted her and she texted me in the morning I texted her back and I didn't hear from her for a long period of time and all of a sudden my default of fear popped in This is a fully committed relationship and yet and I still experienced fear This this is such an ingrained experience this trigger Okay, and many of you have experienced significant triggers as well This is why I continually recommend the book the Hoffman process the Hoffman process This is a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas as well as those adult traumas That causes to get triggered and even as as aware as I am and it was fascinating to me because I should listen I didn't have to tell her I experienced this. I didn't have to tell her it I told her because I was laughing at myself Self-awareness. Okay, so if you take a strong bond With intentional dating as well as self-awareness You have a recipe for this to happen to build a tapestry together Again a strong connect. Did I say bond a strong connection? intentional dating Intentional dating is about is about radical honesty. It's about laying your cards on the table And self-awareness. Do you know your red flags? Do you know your pothole? Do you know the holes the potholes in front of you? I am very I I told her right up front some of my I don't want to call them weaknesses, but red flags if you will I can get needy. I'm aware of that.  I am radically punctual That's one of my ocd things and I'm also ridiculously impatient and when I get impatient. I can get aggravated This is probably some childhood wound that I got triggered in childhood, and I'm still continually working on this after 50 plus years In fact, I shared this recently Uh, when I picked her up the airport the last time I lost my car at the parking lot at lax I can't believe it. I just and I we spent an hour looking for it and I was losing my mind And thankfully she didn't judge me as weak. She didn't she was just she was just smiling the whole time She said this is part of the adventure You know what? I'm gonna share something with you. I'm gonna go off on a tangent like I always do I have a habit of going down rabbit holes One of the things that I most appreciate about her is she's just chill Just chill. I think that's a that's a and by the way, she told me where this came from She was raised in a chaotic home And she had a marriage that was in such chaos that if she didn't learn to become chill In situations she would have lost her mind She in fact she embodies what this coffee mug said let that shit go and that's literally what she was telling me When I lost my car and we eventually found it I was ridiculously embarrassed I was so ashamed And yet she didn't judge me I've had other relationships. They would have seen me as a weak man for that I would have felt I would have felt I probably would have been shamed in that particular case Why I'm sharing all this with you is because Look at there are men that genuinely like you and at the same time to get scared and in a moment I want to share two things that one of you beautiful people wrote in a recent comment That might happen when a man genuinely is he interested in you and gets scared So number one. Oh, by the way, here's my notes bump bump bump So when a man likes you he might try too hard because he's feeling fear and he might And what I wrote here is he just wants to make sure you have or share the same feelings as him I'm the needy one. I'm the one asking. Do you like me as much as I like you? Now for some of you might be oh my god, that's news to my ears and to an avoided person that might make them run away Yes, that might happen. And yet at the same time I'm here to suggest leaning into your feelings folks Let me just tell you something. I think I drew a chart here once before The four pillars of connection There's mind body spirit and emotions most humans operate with the mind and the body Very few humans actually operate from a spiritual or more importantly an emotional connection This is my content I'm not saying it's right or wrong But I'm here to say it is time to develop the emotional intimacy in a relationship We are no longer living in a world where it's about being a man Of the provider protector men can handle the mind and the body the provider protector It is time to evoke the emotions This is why I highly recommend reading the book emotional intimacy by robert masters It's time to develop the emotional side of your relationship with a man It is time to be radically honest and lay your cards on the table because we don't have time to fuck around Is this sinking in is this resonating if it is please hit that like button Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel if this is resonating with you and secondly You know, I was even a little scared that she was entertaining or seeing someone else Right from the beginning.  I get it. We're meeting total strangers We know so little about people it is time to do more vetting In fact, if you need some help with that right here Schedule a free call with me. My area of expertise is to help you learn how to vet if he's serious I teach you how to ask the right questions based on your personality to determine if this guy is right for you So again schedule the call there or check out the description below with all my different content Okay, so I said the solution I've actually been repeating it throughout this whole video the solution Radical honesty and leaving your cards on the table. So when when she and I first spoke on the telephone I actually have 15 questions. I asked to determine if we're compatible with one another What was interesting? We were just talking about the other day of the 15 questions She checked the box on 14 of them and the one and I don't want to share what it is. She goes. Well, that's a maybe That's radical honesty. Radical honesty is knowing your own weakness. I don't like the word weaknesses your own idiosyncrasies your neurosis your problematic areas It might be by the way, it could be a contentious x that might be a problem in a relationship lean into that You might have issues with children leaned into that it is time to lay our cards on the table Because here's what it does it accelerates the process of two people who are becoming closer or pushing away Now if you're not familiar with my book what the heck is self-love anyway a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work Chapter one speak your truth deal with kindness. That's what we did. We spoke our truth to one another We did it in a kind way and chapter nine if it's sincere and from the heart You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.  You are in charge of your relationship destiny. Don't give it up to the guy You are in charge. This isn't about feminine energy This is about empower your life because you don't have time to wait and the reality is is Happy juicy delicious. Happy successful relationships.  You cannot leave it up to a man Because most men are clueless But guess what they're trainable people are trainable and you guess what if you train them right You get them wrapped around your finger. You're happy for a lifetime So read the books. I recommend set up a call with me to find out how to do this Because you actually have a chance to achieve what you want. So I invite you this I invite this in for yourself God universe spirit I invite a juicy delicious relationship in my life Where we have amazing chemistry and connection with one another where there's that mutual attraction where we want to rip Each other's clothes off that we will wait until we actually have a commitment with one another We have amazing communication with one another We can banter for hours and hours at a time and we laugh and play with one another And we are compatible with one another because our lifestyles are blendable with one another And we share the same values those values that will be the core Of our life and our foundation our relationship and then we develop the roots to trust Which includes social activities hobbies mutual interests spending time with family and friends traveling together teamwork building skills Both in our personal and professional life and intimacy both physical and emotional intimacy with a lot of fucking Because what's the point of having a relationship with your best friend if you can't have sex all the time God universe spirit. I invite that in my life and I invite that in for you as well Is this sinking in is this resonating? Are you willing to do the prayer? Please let me know post a comment below All right I think this will be a good place to start with our q and a If you're familiar with my format Simply write the word question then post the question thereafter or purchase a super sticker super chat There's a little dollar sign in the chat box If you're watching the if you're watching it live or if you're listening to the recording or if you're watching the replay There's a super. Thanks button All the money's from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Conor Asley There's a picture of him. He's my son who passed away four years ago last week And in his honor I started a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development and to donate to causes like the hoffman process Insights seminars for those folks who genuinely want to heal from the inside out So write the word question or purchase a super sticker super chat and write your question in there All right, I think it's time for q and a so what do we have on the board tonight? question Ms. Cole says I hear you tell us. Well, I don't hear what I didn't see what you said Oh All right, write the word question Or purchase a super sticker super chat Um marlene says i'm 25 single and I think i'm gonna die that way too. I'm sorry to hear that That's a very pessimistic negative point of view and guess what you will attract what you want Folks if you hate the dating process, you will never meet a man you like I'm here to suggest shifting the narrative Start shifting the narrative. It's raining great man. It's raining great man. It's raining great man Because you can be listen You can be bitter jaded and negative all you want. What's that going to get you a lot of shitty experiences Look at you have a choice You can be e or the sky is falling or you can be ticker ticker Bouncity bouncy bounce bounce bouncy bounce you have a choice You can feed the wolf of negativity or you can feed the wolf of love In fact, I highly recommend for that person marlene. You should read the book Return to Love by mary Ann Williamson This is the cd version If you're not familiar with mary Ann Williamson, she was a big proponent of the course of miracles She was basically a teacher of it and that will shift your perspective and change your life because guess what? It's not listen. You can be negative bitter and jade all you want at age 25.  I didn't hold a space of believing I held a space of knowing it was going to happen when you can embody the knowing You actually attract what you want in your life just took me a little bit longer than I expected But that's okay. God universe spirit wanted me to take some detours and I had a lot of fun along the way All right. Thank you so much. It looks like uh, miss coal finally has a question for real You tell us don't give up our power aside from sex and also i'm not trying to be dense Honestly, what is an example of our power and how can you please help me understand this great question? So I think where women give their power away Predominantly and I believe this is instinctually this happened is From neanderthal period up until about 50 or 60 years ago women were predominantly dependent upon men for survival So I think instinctually you're dependent on men from an instinctual perspective of survival That's one way of giving your power away The most common women also give their power away to men is I need you to love me So I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. Give me your power away means you're dependent upon the man for your Emotional survival. So what he didn't tech just like when she didn't text me back and I went into chaos That's an example of giving my power away I don't know how many women complain to me. Well, he doesn't text me a light Like to let me you know to let me know he thinks about me Well, that's giving your power away if you need someone to fill your love cup That's giving your power away Those are a couple examples that I frequently see and I hope that helps you understand What giving your power away means retaining your power is you don't need anything from someone You can certainly want something from someone but when you come from a place of need It's coming from a place of lack within yourself And miss Cole, I want to thank you for the four dollar and 99 cents super sticker. Thank you so much. I appreciate it All right Angela writes Question he's making plans for us doing something special for me They say to play hard to get anyway, but I think I should just flirt. What do you think jonathan? Okay, if a woman play hard to get from me Bye-bye I homie don't chase people if you that is by the way playing hard to get is a game Okay, and it temporarily attracts emotionally unhealthy men Okay, it temp. By the way emotionally secure even though I'm in anxious by default.  They wait a day to text me back Plan a date and they say they can't make it games like that to emotionally healthy men does not work now it might work for this style of man because Emotional maturity relationship skills. This is merely uh, this is not a fact. It's merely opinion Roughly 20 of the population has clinical mental health issues and while I say 20 percent are emotionally healthy Most everybody is dysfunctional So yes game playing works on dysfunctional people But guess what you end up in a relationship with a guy who wants companionship connection and sex But he's not capable of commitment. So don't play games Use radical honesty and laying your cards on the table before you play games Um, that's my invitation, but I think I should just flirt You know what? I'm a big proponent Cut to the quick. Are we going to explore by the way literally with my girlfriend? We had two dates before we agreed to explore a relationship. That was it We spent two evenings together and we said let's give it a shot What do you have to lose?  There's a strong bond You're intentional and you're self-aware Of your issues you have a greater chance for success But most of you are clueless to this because everybody thinks they're perfect And they judge other people instead. By the way, I'm kind of righteous. So let me just say I am far from perfect I have a lot of dysfunctionality in my life The the difference I think for myself is I know it and most people don't All right, that's my two cents and I'm sticking to it ah Okay, let's go swim in Ah Lee says question. What do you mean by teamwork building skills? Great question so a couple things um Well, you know, let me share with you the other day. I got a question from one of our beautiful followers here on youtube And I turned to my girlfriend and I and I shared I shared the question I shared my opinion and she offered a perspective. I didn't think about And I thought wow, I'm really grateful that I have this person that can give me a perspective I can't think about that's teamwork building skills. Let me tell you something else to happen Something was going on with her daughter and she had asked me What I consider maybe speaking to her daughter about something That's related to my realm of expertise That's teamwork building skills. It's actually helping with one another. Do you know how you build trust with someone? Trust is built when the other person's interests matter as much to you As it matters to them In fact, I was just having this conversation with my girlfriend last night And there was something that was coming up for her and I said What's hurting you is hurting me too. That's how you build trust with someone It's their interests matter to you as much as they matter to them And you want to be in relationship with two people that are genuine givers and receivers and agreeable and accept you and build trust together The challenge today is we're meeting total strangers and I get it. It's hard This is why I highly recommend reading the book talking to strangers by Malcolm Gladwell What you should know about the people you don't know It's time to build a level of familiarity with a stranger Like what she and I did over a year period of time By the way, I want to share something else with you I pulled out Steve Harvey's book act like a lady think like a man while I wasn't in love with the book He does make one point Now you don't have to follow this point But he says don't give up the cookie too quickly He says wait 90 days before having sex I'm an agreement that there should be more hoops that a person jumps through before you have sex with someone For example, I always say you know my rhetoric before the penis enters inside the vagina Purchase two copies of the book eight dates by doctors John and Julie Gottman read chapter one together just to determine if you're on the same page So that's part of teamwork building skills. Is he willing to do the work to actually want to build a relationship with you? Because let's face it. We are in a hook-up culture. Listen ladies, you are welcome. Look it I'm all in favor.  How about Have sex when there's commitment That's all I'm saying have sex when there's commitment My girlfriend and I did the dating vows with one another by the way, there's a description There's a the dating vows in the description below. I want to read to you over everybody the dating vows This is it right there Get them to commit before sleeping together the dating vows are what you both mutually say this to one another I agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious in the next three to six months I agree to be monogamous sexually while we're having regular sex together I agree to not actively seek to meet and date others while we're in the process Where we're in the dating process including taking down our dating profiles I agree to speak up if something isn't working for me versus pulling back ghosting or disappearing And lastly, I agree to invest regular time in the process of getting to know you which looks like Social activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends teamwork building skills both in our personal our professional life Traveled together and intimacy with one another both physical and emotional intimacy try my dating vows before that penis ever gets to go inside that vagina But again, you can do whatever you want All right, envy writes question. I've been speaking to a gentleman for almost two years. He makes hours on Wait, he makes hours on the phone daily. He pulled away due to personal issue. Then he pushed me away What should I do or move on?  Most people have rather dysfunctional The ground underneath them is rather dysfunctional. They have a contentious relationship with the next They have contentious relationship with children. They have a contentious professional life They've got health issues. Those are the four most common.  And again contentious relationship with x maybe going through a contentious divorce contentious issues with children that can be very problem children can be very problematic in midlife relationships Issues with their health or issues in their professional life What can you do?  I hope that helped envy. Thank you so much Okay Uh Cole says the answer to our question about uh Is uh depending on my man for emotional well-being exactly. Thank you so much All right, you have a question Debra says I think you're priceless you get you could get anyone with your personality I'm 83 and I follow you because your advice has helped me in my eighth month relationship with my new lover Long distance are the best way to go Debra.  I love it. I love it I love it. I'm working with the 78 year old client.  I work with women in their 30s I am so grateful to be able to share what I have learned and experienced and by the way, this is the world according to Jonathan I I came up with all this shit based on what I read And what I've experienced myself. I'm not saying I'm right I'm just a bit of a contrarian My advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations because I think most of that traditional shit is garbage Oh, I want to if I could throw up right now I'd actually throw up on the screen because that's what I think about a lot of the rhetoric out there It's just a lot of noise. It's a lot of All right, that's me being pompous right now uh I am being you need to put a course together about men and women relationship Intimacy tensions to be taught in school. I am more than happy to be invited to do that. Thank you so much Deborah says you make me laugh Marlene says we you should we should be teaching young women out there to have a man to commit to them before giving out their cookie Yes, I agree But sadly it's listen, you know I'm gonna tell you something after my divorce.  I want a relationship Now what I thought a relationship was and what they thought a relationship was was two different things in my mind I get to see you at my beck and call. That's a relationship in their mind It's I get to see you three or four times a week doing social activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends Traveling together teamwork building skills both on our personal and professional life intimacy both physical and emotional intimacy My word for relationship is I get to see at my beck and call hers with something a little bit more defined Folks if you don't ask a man What does commitment look like for you? And actually get him to describe it. Don't you ever ever ever?  It's too easy So many women because they've heard the relationship talk believe what's coming out of the guy's mouth And listen after my divorce. I wanted companionship. I wanted connection. I wanted sex, but I didn't want commitment I was scared to death I genuinely like people, but I was scared It's time to vet by the way schedule a free discovery call with me. Okay. It's time to learn out of vet That's my area of expertise to teach you that Is this sinking in is this resonating? Please let me know. Give me a thumbs up hit that subscribe button Share this video. I'd be truly grateful All right Let's keep going Oh So kimberley says questions Uh, so is your person planning on moving to california? Yes, she is that is um Official she is planning on moving in the next few months. Listen.   I love to have sex six times a day and um I'm being tongue-in-cheek here. Although she would probably tell you that's true Um, but more importantly, I want connection. I want to go to parties. I want to do journeys together I want to travel together and it's hard to do that with long distance. I wasn't looking for a bubble relationship I was looking for a relationship where we spent regular time together And she was planning on moving to los angeles. Anyway, that's the only reason why I considered this So yes, she is planning on moving in the next few months But that was her intention anyway And quite frankly we have built a very strong bond together because we practice radical honesty We lay our cards on the table. We're vulnerable authentic and transparent this morning I told her I went berserk because she didn't text me back Now it was only because she was driving in her car and I recognize my insanity I got triggered but we talk about it and it's actually like venting, you know A volcano erupts because all the pressure is kept inside But when you vent things out it actually helps relieve the tension So we've eaten by the way, she was sharing a trigger with me. What was it? Oh So I've kind of um, she grew up catholic I'll share this with you all she grew up catholic and religion is important to her And I'm kind of anti-religion and I'm not anti-religion. I'm just more spiritual not religious And so she said I triggered her the other day.  That's what happens when you get triggered You talk right away to vent the energy out and what happened was in the conversation We found out I mean, I think we are more alike than not it's just I'm just not big on some of the pomp and circumstance of religion Although I'm very much I I'm I actually find so much value in some of the the basic principles The basic teachings of judy of the judyism catholicism christianity. I love buddhism I love cabala in particular, which is mystic judyism. I love cabala Um and most importantly We talked when triggers come up. We don't stuff it in because when you stuff it in it's under the rug That's when they explode and resentments happen later. So coming back full circle We've laid enough cards on the table to know this actually has some real legs This has some real potential and it's worth exploring it in the same town So coming back to your original question kimberley. Yes, she is planning on moving here So thank you so much for asking. All right Sylvia says tmi. Yes, I I too much information That's right So what? You're gonna use it against me I you know, I'm happy and confident within myself that I can share things because my listen Our parents were our original role models. What did we notice as children? Most of the time we watch we witness the negativity of our parents I'm trying to be a role model showing the good the bad and the ugly because the reality is It's interesting. I have dear friends that are part of what's known as the eden group Um, I don't I google the eden group. I think it's out of san diego But it's a group couples.  It just felt like a good percentage of those 50 men So it helps you recognize when you hear other people's stuff. It helps normalize our own stuff So yes, I am tmi I'm just trying to normalize things. So sorry, soviet. Thank you so much Uh Jay Cole says I love that by the way cupid strikes when you least expect it He got you in a long distance relationship. It's adorable. Thank you so much Uh All right Citizen jones is happy for you jonathan. Thank you so much Monica says virtual hug. Thank you so much Um Angela says my email on here doesn't exist anymore next time. I will use my active email account. Okay Uh Kimberly says you always pray. Thank you so much. I believe me. I pray um I do the hawaiian forgiveness prayer. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you Like a vaccination to chaos It's an injection of love in my heart and that's one of the predominant prayers I share for myself It's known as like a pono pono pono pono or forgiveness hawaiian forgiveness prayer. So thank you Uh, cecilia says is it true that shy guys won't call for weeks after no contact? Possibly so call them Uh, let's see. Do we have any questions? Let's see We gin says Question out of curiosity. Do you think your current abortion policy will wait? Do you think our current abortion policy will impact our dating culture or world? well I think for younger people You know, it's hard to say that's a tough one. I mean I I have to I haven't studied enough Of it from the perspective of will this deter casual sex? I don't think so But I think it affects younger people much more than those of us in midlife So, you know, I I'm grateful that most of the women I dated I didn't have to worry about Uh pregnancy so it's I don't feel like I have enough expertise to answer that question But I do appreciate the question we gin. Thank you so much all right Sweetie morris says I was looking to get laid and he fell in love with me And we're still in a very loving relationship this time the opposite work for me when I wasn't looking ha ha any advice to keep it going So let me just say something folks um Let me just say this All relationship advice one size doesn't fit all what happened in my relationship for a long distance isn't going to happen for someone else as an example, okay and And what you have to do is sift through the advice And find those pieces those nuggets that really resonate with you because what I share isn't in the absolute for every situation So find the nuggets for yourself. What resonates with you and then operate from that perspective Does that help? I hope so sweetie. Thank you so much Angela says I wish I could remember my password. I'd like to pay you you deserve it Thank you so much. By the way, you can go after this video or any other of the videos to a super. Thanks And donate to the connor asley scholarship fund. Thank you so much Okay, kimberley says this is resonating all right Jake Cole says the world according to joth and pretty funny to learn from thank you so much uh Oh, here's one that's funny. Didi said I had the biggest crush on my oncologist big mistake Uh, I think so All right, do we have any questions? Oh, here we go. We got a lot more in. Okay Um Jake Cole says you're right the more communication the better all the way around. Thank you angela says You communicate the landmines from previous relationship in a light way Exactly we talked we unpacked Our her marriage my marriage my significant relationship and her previous significant relationship We unpacked all of that shit together now. I happen to be a professional unpacker So what I do for a living But you know what it did is it bonded us together? I'm a big proponent of unpacking your past as a way to connect with one another Not everybody can do this first. You have to have a level of trust with a person to be able to unpack we listen You have to be securing yourself To trust another person if you don't feel secure in yourself It's going to be difficult to trust another person But I felt enough safety within myself that I could unpack my past She was vulnerable authentic and transparent.  So thank you so much question How can you help a partner who's grieving for a parent and is pulling away but loves you? You know when I lost my mom that was a toughy, you know, it's hard to You know each person grieves in a unique way look at I lost my mother and my son in a six month period of time And literally my father moved away You know within six months of that so I had a lot of grieving going on Each person grieves differently. All you can do is hold space for them Um, ultimately you have to ask yourself is your relationship fully committed to one another Because if you're married with one well, think of it this way if you were married together What would you do for a partner you're married with?  You'll hold space for them Holding space merely God, I want to share something personal, but it would be tmi. So I won't go there um There was a moment when my girlfriend was having an experience and she just needed me to hold space holding space sometimes Is doing nothing but just being there for them That's holding space and that might be what you need to do right now Cass, thank you so much for that question all right Melissa says question I asked the group earlier. I've been committed.  I get hatchetated. I'm sorry. Okay Isn't it fascinating?  What is love? But trust care interest That's what you that's by the way and that should be all wrapped up in your sexual relationship as well Now if you are have if you're not having sex then but here's the bottom line Just say it just say it Just say it see how he responds if it's sincere and from the heart you can't say the wrong thing to the right person melissa So give it a shot um Deborah says you have a lot to offer a woman in income and beauty surroundings.  Good luck I'm assuming that was for me. So thank you so much Uh angela said or andreus has questioned congratulations. Can you share if your lady friend your age or five years or 10 years younger? So since you guys ask, I will share something publicly with you Uh Bear with me one second Where is it? I'm trying to show okay. Hold on a second Okay Darn it. I'm having a problem technical difficulties Okay, there's a picture of her We are within one year apart of each other and I will not tell you who's older. We are one year apart from each other Yes, she looks 20 years younger than her age, but we're one a year apart from each other So that's uh to answer your question. Thank you so much Uh vr says Just found out a man. I've been in relationship with has cancer diagnosis. I'm not sure what to do. Oh sweet art What would you do if it was your husband? What would you I I may ask you if this was your husband? What would you do? I invite you to check that out. So thank you What would you do? Can a guy who's a taker turn into a giver? Very rarely Very rarely Uh vr says she's stunning. Thank you so much um No, I did not say kimberley. She is not 62 years old. That's incorrect. I did not say that Um, and I'm not 61. I'm not the big 6o yet Okay All right, jake Cole says no idea what I'm doing just saying thanks. So thank you so much um Question how does one who is divorced and healed from an abusive marriage consider being open to love again? When the x is still exhibiting abusive behavior may do so to the x's new love interest That's tough. You know when you got problematic past relationships, it can affect all new relationships. So um So God, that's a tough one. I I really don't have a good answer for that You know Move away. I was thinking of the movie sleeping with the enemy. I mean just move away I I mean I I know that's not possible, but that's a tough one. I don't know how to really give you good advice That's not my area of expertise, but thank you so much for asking and I appreciate it um citizen jones says question I'm in my 20s never had a boyfriend. What's the number one question I should ask on a first date What are you looking for and what does commitment look like for you? What are you looking for in a relationship and what does commitment look like for you? That'd be a great question to ask all right Folks is this sinking is my is my content resonating with you. Is this helping you? Is it making a difference in your life? Please post a comment. Please write. Please let me know that it is Uh roller goa says she's pretty pretty. Thank you so much base says she's cute. Yes, she is Thank you so much folks.  It is very challenging human beings are rather dysfunctional And it's hard. I get it my invitation for you not everyone watching this video is going to Find a juicy delicious relationship. What you can do is have a juicy delicious relationship with yourself first Put out an energetic vibration to the universe to attract in a great partner god universe spirit I call in a juicy delicious relationship in my life Where we have amazing chemistry with one another where we have Incredible communication with one another where we can blend lives with one or another where we share the same values And we have the emotional maturity to build the level the layers of trust through social activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends teamwork building skills traveling together And emotional and physical intimacy with one another and we have regular sex with one another on a regular basis God universe spirit.  That's my invitation for you Please post a comment below if this resonated. Please hit that like button. Please share this video Please subscribe to your channel if you haven't done so And i'm going to wrap up this video as I always do first off give myself a big gigantic jonathan barrack of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone that teddy bear pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives I want to thank jake, uh, coal michelle Teresa her uh, hempress. I'm vejab might envy faith, uh, melissa christie uh angela roller girl kimberley, uh Uh, let's see dana citizen jone cast cana vr. Sweetie morris. Thank you so much Sweetie says Thanks, it did you are awesome. Thank you so much everyone be well Take care now have a wonderful day and don't forget to schedule a discovery call with me All right. Love y'all. Bye now


YouTube team keep it clean. I got good news and I got bad news good news two things as of the recording of this video We are exactly five subscribers away from thirty thousand and it's like really like kind of starting to really hit me now And also we got our AC fixed. It turned out that it was the capacitor got it replaced and now Oh, we in the cool house again, so I'm extremely thankful for that another bad news Michael Thomas Saints fans Michael Thomas he they said he's expected to miss several weeks With the high angle spraying now I remember when when it was first reported that he was injured He was said that Michael Thomas was like a I'm gonna play through it. It's fine. I'm cool. I'm good. I'm Gucci I can do it But apparently it's a lot worse than what they thought initially and he's gonna be out several weeks now while Michael Thomas he is a good receiver and He is the best Saints receiver He got good hands runs good routes And while he will be missed I Do not think that the Saints are just gonna be so stuck now And I don't feel like they're gonna be sold behind now and they're gonna just follow I don't think that Because with the Saints One thing that they show and they have shown is that they can get very creative especially offensively They can get very creative when it comes to their past catchers Because they will have everybody out there catching passes Now, of course, they signed the manual Sanders who played for the 49ers last year 49ers just quietly just signed Muhammad Sunoo Quietly like super quietly. It's like it was like a secret deal or something But anyway, the Saints signed a manual Sanders So he's somebody that can be a number one receiver. He's somebody that will have to step up now But you still have Trey Kwan Smith. He could he can come in and help I mean, he's gonna he has no choice but to the auntie Harris the young bull Small guy, but a same-tap Brandon cooks before So the stature of a wide receiver means nothing to New Orleans Because they have shown that they know how to get it done with any kind of they done had the tallest of the tall and Marcus Coastin and they done had a shortest of the short with Brandon cooks. So Size it don't mean anything when it comes to the Saints wide receivers as long as you can catch the ball You're good to go So they can withstand Michael Thomas being now while it does hurt them They can get by and then you got Alvin. Come on and you got Tay-Tay The Saints Tay-Tay taste some heel So if I'm a Saints fan I'm yeah, it hurts Michael Thomas is out but No, it'll be fine because different positions But and it's no offense to Michael Thomas but Wouldn't a QB being out hurt more than a wide receiver being out Think about it And of course it depends on so many different situations and it depends on the team and it depends on the coaches It depends on a lot but normally a QB being out would normally hurt more than a wide receiver being out their QB was out last year what five games And Teddy Bridge woulda went in They won they did just fine They went on five games So now that their receivers hurt and he's gonna be out The quarterback still in so Saints will be a okay. Oh, they actually be a K 41 get it. Anyway, so team keep it clean. Appreciate y'all Saints fans None to worry about Yeah, and I don't think it's anything to worry about it just not that it's not a big deal But again, it's something that the Saints they can certainly overcome Anyway, who that nation we appreciate y'all love y'all and we out