Okay, esteemed panelists would you please introduce yourselves to us. All my name is Abby, my pronouns are he him, and I'm a master's student at the University of Michigan. I'm pursuing my master's in health informatics, which is, which is a master's degree from school of information and the School of Public Health. I take some of my classes with the medical school to coming here has been a great experience for me in terms of an international student and as a master's student as well. You have, I'm sure you're going to have a great time here in terms of opportunities as I saw that most of your polls had results based on research and having a work life balance. The school has immense number of opportunities when it comes to research and on campus jobs. So, feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions on that also as as an international student or as someone who was a master's student there are ample of resources here and opportunities for here for all of you guys to welcome you all here and yes, congratulations on being accepted at the school. Hi, everyone. My name is Malia I use she her pronouns. I'm an upcoming second year student at the School of Social Work receiving my master's in the interpersonal pathway, along with being in the integrative health for medically underserved populations scholars program. I'm excited to speak with you all today and congratulations on getting accepted. Hi everyone, my name is Dr. I use pronouns as he him. I'm a second year master's students and electrical and computer engineering, which comes under that come graduate school. And yeah, it's nice to speak with all of you and congratulations on your admin. Okay, thank you panelist so what I'd like to ask you first is what do you wish you knew in your first year here in Michigan. Coming here as a master's student. It's really important for us are for you guys are for us who's coming just as an incoming student to have all of the opportunities there on campuses you would be having like once you get accepted you have resource book from the school that would give you as a guiding document of all the resources available whether you're a master's student or an as an international student. And I wish that I, I utilized most of these resources that are there on campus. As a master's student or as a grad student. It's really important. I know, like, the school and the academics is equally important for all of us, but then building your connections, getting engaged with all of these kind of opportunities that are there on campus of building connections is equally as important. I know how, how difficult it can be to come here and off getting your life settled in a different city all together, like an arbor, but there's so many options here, like so many communities here that are that welcome you all. So it's really important that I knew that everything you need as an incoming master's student exists on campus, and you utilize all of those to build your network your connections and to feel that you're not alone in this journey. It's everyone on campus that is here to support you guys on this journey. For me, I think that I would just tell everybody it's very generic, I know, but that everything works out and everybody is in the same boat. And experiencing the same highs and lows of their program and I know again it sounds very generic but it's one of those things that people tell you time and time again and you just brush off. For me during like my first semester. I moved here for the first time I had no community I knew absolutely nobody and then bringing on the identity of a graduate student brings its own stressors and hardships. And within the first semester I was getting a little bit stressed because you know deadlines were coming. My field placement started and I kind of lost that drive and excitement of being a grad student. So I would definitely say like, reach out to people have those conversations with others because one you're building a connection with fellow students. But you're also realizing that everybody has is going through the same journey so they're going to be experiencing the same things. Some people are just better at hiding it. But you're never alone. And there's also faculty that are speaking, they're being paid to be there for you. Something that I saw in the poll was that a lot of people are nervous about classes and faculty. But they're being paid to be there for you so take advantage of them ask them questions even if it's the littlest questions and you feel like you're being annoying, you're not. Make the most of your time being here. The faculty are very understanding you just have to be willing to talk to them. But the main thing is that everything will work out how the universe attends it to be, you just have to trust and buckle down for the ride. Yeah. So, for me, the most important thing that I would say is like, manage your time effectively. And like, take accountability of your time, because graduate studies are like quite demanding. It requires a lot of time a lot of efforts. It's going to put a mental stress on you. So I would highly recommend like use a planner or like calendar something like that, so that you can schedule all of your stuff you can like be prepared for everything.  So this is one of the things that's quite important. Also a thing is like be proactive in your career planning. Like, don't wait for any of the events to come up to you just try and grab all the opportunities that you find yourself and like look for opportunities. And like, don't stop searching for your career opportunities anytime. Like you land here and all of the things start and like your career fair is going to be in just a few couple of weeks from coming here. So like be active and like look for all the things that are around you and like just apply for stuff. So, yeah. Okay, thanks y'all. Now that we learned a little bit about what you wish you knew in your first year, you share with us what you wish you had done in your first year. Sorry Sam, can I have you read on the question. Yeah, what do you wish you had done in your first year. Okay, so. Coming here, like, I was, I was ending up on a research in Berkeley, while I got accepted to Michigan and it was really hard time for me. So coming here I had already lost one week of school. I was already falling late to my all of the schedules. So when I got here. It was already late for me to start my school and the deadlines were already there. As an incoming master's student in a different environment, I did not know or I was kind of afraid to go and approach my professors about extending my deadlines on my assignments. So, I wish I knew that it was really easy to like getting ahead on my first year as a master's student it was it was really easy and then professors were really helpful. And I wish I approached them in my, like, when I had started my journey as a Michigan student so that I could have all of my challenges cleared up that would have been easy for me going forward. But that's something that I would suggest you guys that everyone here is pretty approachable from your professors to your researchers or your colleagues or your students in your cohort everyone is pretty much available for you so don't be afraid to do anything. With regards to the mental health support that all of us need while we embark on this journey. There's this support network on Michigan that's called the Wolverine support network which is for all of the students there. It's called the WSN. So, when I was going through all of my challenges in the first semester, I wish that I knew that there was something kind of like this that would help me through throughout my journey. But going forward, I realized that these are all networks or these are all like clubs or student associations that help you get through this journey. So it's very important that you guys know about all of these things when you start out as a student. The main thing that I wish I would have done in my first year was kind of attending more workshops and events that are held by the university. And even specifically like your field of study. So for me, anyone else who is going into social work, the school social work holds multiple, multiple workshops the day throughout the semester, both in person and via zoom. So it makes it a little bit more accessible. I've learned a lot of people at this level of education don't really enjoy being on campus more than they have to. But for me, I really enjoy it. I think it's beautiful. It has a lot to offer. And a lot of these events are being paid. So you might as well go if you have the time and make the most out of your time being here while you can because it does go by very quickly like within a blink of an eye.  But yeah so like these workshops are really allowed me to explore new areas of interest within my field of work, allowed me to build upon some knowledge I already had. So I have a lot of opportunities for making new connections, whether that be with faculty with people who are coming to the university just to speak, or with people that are in your cohort that you didn't even know went to your, you know, field of study. It can be a little bit annoying to make the time when you just want to chill at home. When you have the free time I feel as though these workshops and events are really really helpful and to something that may be a little bit incentive for some people is some of these workshops will also count as field hours depending on your field of study. And if your supervisor okay is it. It's also an incentive to kind of get out and explore the university as a whole but the events and workshops that are being put on for you. So, yeah, so like first thing I completely echo with the fellow panelists. It's really important to like connect with professors connect with your peers, because building relationship and networking is one of the like, biggest things in here. It helps you a lot. If you are like building valuable relationship with your classmates with your peers. It will be very helpful to you academically as well as socially. Like, while if you are like working on something work study groups are really helpful. They help you a lot, you will be able to get a lot of study help during exams, it will be very helpful with you. Also like just connect with the professors because sometimes professors do help out students as well. If you are in need of anything you can obviously talk to them and they are always happy to like respond to you they're always like happy to help you. So don't be shy enough so that and don't think like what will happen if I'll just made a professor just try it out. So that's one of the things that I would say. Also the other thing is like, there are hundreds of events that are happening every day around the campus. Like, don't just go out explore humans is a very big school, there are a lot of events. Some of them will build your personality, some of them will help you groom out yourself. So like, it's nothing like you just stay at your home or just focus on your academics, academics is really important but like go out for these events as well they will teach you a lot they will help you connect with new people they will help you learn new things, which you would have imagined itself. So it's a very good opportunity so like just utilize all the resources that campus offers to you, because there are many resources. And I would say is like, just search and Google just search anything on Google and you'll find something related to it.  So that's one thing. Also one thing that I wish I knew in my first year was like, how to manage my stress and self care. Don't get, don't get deep dive into all of the academics and everything. Just take care of yourself.  So it might like make you feel low sometimes just but just be with yourself and like take care of, take care, take a look at all the resources that campus provides. So yeah, that's it. Thanks y'all. I appreciate that. So now that we've discussed what you wish you had done in your first year. Can you share with us. What are the best things that helped you when you first got here. Building on two things are important here. Your one is your career and one is the student life here. Pretty much all of the people I see on here I think you would have accepted and made your mind coming to Michigan. So, I would suggest you go ahead and get your season tickets for the Michigan game, because those are the events. Those are the, those are, that is the event when you would have the opportunity to meet and build your network, make most of your friends that are going to be with you for all of your years here. The tailgates that happen before the game on every weekend that's where you're going to have a huge amount of people coming in for the games make many friends many many friends and find a group of your own friends who you can hang out with. I don't know if the sale is still on for the season tickets but it's like 200 bucks for students. But I would heavily encourage all of you guys to go to the games and start making friends as soon as you get on campus because I guess the first game that begins is September.  Just step out of your comfort zone. If you are a person who just likes to stay at home.  In the fall. The second thing I would like to focus as the that helped me when I first got here is the career fair. So, most of you who are on this call right now would have pretty much their summer internships or summer 2024. And I got a summer intern offer through one of these career fairs. So, SP, the School of Public Health and the School of Information has their career fairs in pretty much the first few weeks of starting. So, get all of your resumes ready when you start the school off and be ready to network and connect with all of the people in the career fair, because most of you will be landing your internship offers through the career fairs. And being in connected with all of the leads and the hiring managers that come into the career fair. So those two things are the two key takeaways that I would like to highlight here. Go to the games, make friends, and then make sure you have your resumes ready before you start school in this in August. Yeah, so mine kind of goes a little teeny bit along with that. The best thing that I did during my first year was making myself comfortable with the uncomfortable. I am trying, I'm an anxious person naturally so I'm trying to kind of step out of that. I moved into a new area specifically Ann Arbor for the first time and not knowing absolutely anybody it was beyond stressful, especially when I was trying to think of how am I going to build connections at such a large university like I know nobody. And I was getting in my head about, well I'm just going to go to class I'm going to go straight home or I moved in a couple weeks before classes started. I just wanted to stay at home because I was so anxious and I just wanted to use the excuse of oh I'm just unpacking, you know, but forcing myself to get out of the house before my courses started and during the first couple of weeks really allowed me to get a little bit more comfortable because Ann Arbor is small but it is so packed full of different people in different communities. It allowed me to kind of ease my mind because now I knew, okay I know the general area of where I'm living. And that helped me like just calm down a little bit before classes started Ann Arbor is great in a sense where everybody is doing their own thing.  Nobody cares, trust me, nobody is looking at you nobody's judging you. So don't get in your head about that. That was something that I kept having to remind myself of. Because doing this kind of stuff is a really good conversation starter as well, especially during orientation. When you're meeting all the new people that you're going to be surrounded with for your entire program, it's nice to kind of start off with, you know, like hi my name is Malia and then kind of start talking about well have you been to this coffee shop have you been here. And if they haven't you know you can start a little study group with them there or go to a coffee shop before after class to further build some friendships and get your core group. While you go throughout your program. Something else that I did was during orientation. I got up from my seat by myself and I sat next to somebody at an MDC at a big table. And that really helped you along the way because I still talk to that girl that I met during orientation, and I wouldn't have had that connection if I didn't step out of my comfort zone. Something that I would also say is making time for yourself, especially for your mental health and setting boundaries, especially with school work. You have a million things to do on your to do list just pick a couple. And once you complete those. Let yourself rest for the night because in the end you deserve it, like one of our other panelists said earlier, nobody's going to tell you to take those breaks, you have to do it yourself. And remember that you're worthy of breaks. Yeah, that's good. So the best thing that helped me in my first year was definitely the orientation week. I would highly suggest you guys to like make the most out of the orientation week, because there's a lot going on. There will be a lot of things, a lot of boots, a lot of events happening in the orientation week.  There's a lot of stuff going on. And many times what happens is we don't even get to know like, these are the opportunities that are available. But through orientation week, like you get to know a lot of stuff out of it. So I would highly suggest like just go around the orientation week and just go to the events that are like, that are the events that are made for you. So like you will able to get to know the clubs that are available on campus, the organizations, so that you can like join them. And many times what happens is you get to connect with very good people that will be able to mentor you will be able to like help you academically, and will always be there for you, because sometimes you find really great people in these kind of events. And before starting off school, the orientation week is the best time when you can enjoy. Because once classes starts, then it's hard that you get time for yourself and to enjoy. So that's one of the biggest things. Also, one thing I would say is like, build a support network for yourself. So like, try to make friends who are like really close to you and always like some people who are there for you for some time, because you might need them. They will be the ones that will always help you when you are really low. So that's one of the things. Also make the most out of the research opportunities or internship opportunities that you get during the school year, so that these will be able to add up to your resume, build up your profile. And these can help you like get summer internships as well. So if you're getting an opportunity, then do get it, do grab it, make the most out of it, work hard for it, so that you can really like, you can really use that in for your future aspects. So this is, these are the things that like helped me when I was in my first year. And I hope like these will be helpful to you as well. Thank you panelists. Thank you again. Okay, y'all so as we transition into the Q&A portion of our session. My colleague is going to place our evaluation survey in the chat. Can you please do me a favor and just open the link now. And so that you'll have a tab ready and waiting for you when we're done. I believe it will be placed and if not, I'll do it myself. Okay, thank you, Kylie. Okay, so remember that we'll move through this Q&A by keeping stack and for those of you who missed it. It's just going down the line of those who have flagged that they've had a question and in the order of appearance. And you can get on the stack in three ways, the raise your hand function and I'll call on you, write stack in the chat and I'll call on you or write your question and I'll ask it for you. Please speak slowly so that the closed captioning can capture all that you have to say. And again, I want to remind us that we may not get to every question but we'll provide the panelists emails at the end of the Q&A so you can reach out with them personally with any unanswered questions. Let's get started. Does anyone have a question? Well, while we wait for those questions to start coming in, I have a question for you panelists. How do you manage the inevitable struggle of the work-life balance that the grad student has to figure out how to navigate? I'd like to say is start your day early. Don't wait. Get up from the bed till 9am until you have to go to the classes because that's how I manage it and also that kind of helps you to close out your day early. I get done with most of my classes by like 3 or 4pm and I would just go, there would be 6 to 7 libraries on campus and I wouldn't head home unless I'm done with my work or my submissions for the upcoming deadlines or something. I wouldn't go home so I would have all my work done for the day by like 6, 7pm or most of it like 8pm if it's like too hard or if the deadlines are too many and I would then head home, do with all of my dinner and close my day off early. Also, keep your calendars up to date as one of the panelists said. It's very, very important for you guys to have your calendars up to date with all of the upcoming deadlines. Also, when you go to your Canvas on the Michigan website, you would have the option to sync your Google calendars with the Canvas calendars. So make sure you have done that so you have all of their deadlines coming up on your Google calendars which can help you plan your week as per the deadlines. This is very important for all of the grad students because the deadlines is something that is taken very seriously. Also, if you think that you are not going to make up to that, please feel free to reach out to the graduate student instructors or the professors and they would be happy to accommodate your, like whenever you would like to do it and give you extensions based on that. So like it's very important for you to have your calendar saying that's how I manage my work schedule and school. Anyone else have anything to add about the work-life balance? I would just say like just stick to a routine, have everything timed up and assign time to each and every thing according to the credibility you have with it. So that will help you a lot. Okay, so someone asks, do y'all have any tips on academic success? And I think similarly our next audience member asks, are there any recommendations on tools for staying organized? Yeah, I am heavy on the planners and to-do lists. Something that I learned very quickly at the start of my semesters was I get stressed very easily. And so something that I like to do is I will sit down at the start of each week. And on Canvas, it's really nice because there is just like a regular calendar and it'll show every single due date for every class. And so at the start of the week, I'd sit down and do Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and write down each due date to ensure that I know, okay, if it's due on Wednesday, I have to get it done by either Monday or Tuesday. And that kind of helped me plan my days and what I need to do. This helped me a lot because it didn't allow me to bite off too much that I couldn't handle each day. Something that somebody else said on the panelist was making sure your calendars are up to date. So even if you buy just like a regular planner or you have a whiteboard at home, keeping that up to date, ensuring that everything is on your calendars, on your planners, you know what you have to do every day helped me a lot. Something that else that helped me a lot for academic success was being very, I don't want to say like annoying, but for my professors for classes that I was a little bit more stressed in. I made sure that they knew who I was, whether if that's like talking in class or if that's emailing them or talking with them personally after class. I really wanted to ensure that they knew who I was. And that also helps too because later down the line, if you need them to help you with recommendations or job opportunities, you can definitely use them. A lot of professors will even offer that up to you. If they feel comfortable doing so. So just staying organized. It's kind of subjective because everybody has different learning styles everybody handles stress differently. So really just seeing what works for you in the first two weeks of your classes. And then sticking with that once you figure it out. I would definitely support that and say that communication I think it's a really big tool to academic success that I don't think people talk about enough. Yes, please. Yeah, hard work is the key I would say. Just don't think like you'll get anything for easy. Like, you'll have to like really work hard for academic success. Umich is not an easy school. So like just be prepared just like, tell your mind that you'll have to work hard for it. Unless you get it. So that's one of the things I would say. Umich is, do any of you all live in Ipsy? And do you have any tips for this? Or do you have any parking tips? Do you all have a car? I don't live in Ipsy I live in Ann Arbor but I have a lot of friends that I'm really close to in my program that live in Belleville, or they live in Ipsy. So it is like Belleville I think is like a 30 minute drive it sees a little bit closer I think it's like 20 minutes. So I hear them talk about it a lot. I would make sure that during like, maybe the first week of their courses, making sure that you get there early, like maybe an hour, hour and a half early, just so you can get comfortable with figuring out, okay, how is a traffic during this time.  That would be really helpful and then for like parking there's a lot of parking structures around campus depending on where you're at it just depends on your field of study and where your buildings at. You can get a little bit pricey because it is per hour. But I do know that Michigan offers like parking passes. But they're kind of weird because they're color coded. And so they don't work for every parking garage so I would definitely look into that. And there's also commuter lots. So there's I know that there's one right by the stadium. I think there's one somewhere on State Street, or somewhere there's two commuter lots where you can park your car at and then take the bus. That's affiliated with the university. And I believe someone can correct me if I'm wrong but I think you just swipe your m card, and it's no charge for the bus ride. So definitely look into that too because it could save you money. Yeah, the ride buses are free of course on your m card, and you can use it on limited number of times. So it, it gets really tough to get parking spot in central campus area specifically during the school year. Also it's quite quite pricey so I would say just do some of your research on parking rules and regulations. Before like thinking of anything. Thanks y'all. Another student asks at they are a non traditional student. They have a family and will also be working while in school, and they're afraid that they'll have trouble fitting in because they have so much buying for their time and energy. Do you have any suggestions on how to balance making the most of what is offered for their home slash work life. I can kind of hope I'm not. I don't have a family but a lot of the great thing about Michigan to is that like my cohort I have people who are my age but I also have people who are a lot older some families. So it's really nice because you get to meet a whole bunch of different people so I wouldn't be afraid of not fitting in, because you'll definitely find your type of crowd somewhere. So that's a great thing about going to such a large university is there are a lot of non traditional students. So you just have to be willing to kind of talk I guess about it and maybe find your crowd. But I know like my first like two semesters I met a lot of people who do have families, and something that they were talking about a lot is just setting boundaries for where it's like we said kind of earlier, don't bite off too much that you can't chew kind of thing. It's okay to set those boundaries it's okay to do two things on your to do list and not do the rest, especially if you're talking to your professors. You know something comes up at home with a child and you're not able to meet this deadline that's in two days or that's tomorrow, ensuring that you are making the time to reach out to your professors and explain the situation. Nine and a half times out of 10 they're going to be on your side and allow you to have a deadline. You just have to be willing to ask. But I wouldn't be afraid of not fitting in. Because everybody here is like really accepting. Sorry, I can't help like that much but I hope like it helps a little bit just setting boundaries and being willing to have communications with people. As a survivor, I can also just support the boundaries and communication are will be your best friend and your best tool for making it through successfully communication upfront all the time, immediately, and definitely like holding boundaries and maybe having somebody in your school, somebody in your family or or another another colleague or cohort member that can help you help hold you accountable to those boundaries because it is easy to want to say yes to everything. Okay y'all so someone asked how much time would you estimate you spend working outside of class per credit hour or just in general. I would go ahead and try and answer this one. Once you select your once you are liking the process of selecting your classes for for the semester. Be sure to go on Atlas, like that's that's where, and that's a very helpful resource I would say here that helps you build your planner, your calendar. It has got every cool features that that's required to build your planner or calendar. I'll put a link or maybe someone else can for the Atlas you mesh. But I would, I would encourage you guys to make use of it. And when you type your class name or your class code on Atlas, it would show you the percentage of the workload that that particular course or that particular class is expected to have. So, maybe if you take a programming class, for example, I would say that the expected workload would be on say 20%. So, from my experience what I what I know is anything that's above 2220% you should expect a really good amount of workload on yourselves. Anything less than 20 is is man is is kind of cool. I mean, it's easy to manage but anything that's about 20% please make sure that you have sufficient hours outside of your classes to work on those kind of classes, because otherwise, if you choose something that's going to be pretty heavy on your schedule, then it would be difficult for you to manage all of your classes altogether. So just kind of like, take a step back, take a look at all of your classes if they're well balanced in terms of workload, and at last is really a helpful website that can help you build your schedule and your classes for the semester. Yeah, sorry to add on to that I think a professor has told me before where it's like one hour for every like credit you're taking so if it's like a four hour or four credit class they're expecting you to do at least like four hours of work. Each week or something outside of classes is what I've been told. But something that helps me to is doing that like balance of. Oh my God I have so many classes I have so much work to do and trying to find time to do it something that I really like to do is just go out and do work at coffee shops or the library. That way, you're focused, you don't have a TV in the other room that you may be tempted to go watch for like 20 minutes. So yeah Alice is also a really, excuse me, a really great tool for planning your courses. Yeah, I think it's like one hour for one credit. But again, everybody teaches kind of different for professors. So, it really also just a prince on your professor and how much work they are giving out, because it's different for everybody. So this is like workload and per hour requirement is very specific to courses, I would say some courses require more than more efforts than you what it states and Atlas, some requires even less what it states and Atlas. I do check out Atlas but like don't get fixed to it. I would highly suggest like just talk with your professor and like ask them what is your expectation from a student to give how much hours into this course, because they would be the one who would be very accurate and they will actually that will actually help you out because it depends on it completely depends on the professor like how they teach the course and what are the expectations from the students. So that's one of the things that can actually give you a correct answer. Thanks, y'all. Um, what would you say is the was the biggest surprise about being a master's student. I think the biggest thing I was surprised about is how fast past it moves. I went straight from my undergrad to my master's program. And it's crazy. So again, like, you learn a lot about yourself while I did and a lot of the people in the social work program that I talked to have agreed with me where it's like, you learn a lot about yourself in graduate school, how you handle stress, how you cope with it. How you how you I don't know look for me for social work, my field placement. You're actually doing hands on work like I have my own client load and learning about yourself in that aspect things that you like things that you don't like in your job. It's really interesting how fast paste everything goes. How much you learn about yourself, and it can be very, very scary, but it's really eye opening, and it shows you that you've had all of these hardships, but look at how much you overcame all of them. So it can be really eye opening, which is really nice and something that I didn't expect to happen at school. I was right out of my undergrad in the grad school to the biggest surprise for me was to see when you're in undergrad most of the learnings and most of the teachings happens in class. When you get to a grad school. It's just, it's just the high key takeaways in the class that are discussed are not the classes don't go much into deep and it is expected that you yourself would take a look and do a deep depth into each of those topics. Make sure that you realize that thing on the first day I wish someone told me this during my first days, but expect your professors to just like be on the key take key takeaways and not going to deep dive because the schedule the course schedule and the, the course is so big and so vast that it's really not possible for the professors to be diving into each of those topics. So be ready as a surprise take that as a surprise but be ready to go have yourself study hours on yourself on your end. So what I would say like the biggest surprise for me is like, I was not even knowing like how much capable I am but I ended up being it.  So that's the beauty of master studies, I would say. Definitely, definitely. So y'all, can someone enroll in a lot of grad courses, say the four or five, and then attend them on the first week to pick the ones that they find that they're the most interested in and then drop two to three courses afterwards. But what's the last date for free drop of course I will find that and I'll put it in the chat for you, but yeah. Different schools I believe they have different add and drop deadlines. It depends on which school they're enrolled in. I believe it's it's uniform for undergrads but I guess for grad school it's kind of different across schools I don't know if I'm sure I'm not sure though. Many people do that like they take courses with their pitch they aren't sure if they would be taking or not and once they are interested they see that okay they're interested lies in it. And they, they are comfortable with the workload and kind of stuff they would take it and they would drop other courses so feel free to do that you can your but then make sure you drop the other ones before the add and drop because once they get logged, you would not be able to make or make any changes to your Also kind of to talk about maybe not like specifically exactly this question because I feel like it was just answered but to go along with adding courses and dropping courses. When you get your day to sign up for classes. Make sure you are prepared and you have all of the classes that you want ready and ready to go in your little backpack online because for the school social work anyways like it is really difficult to get classes after they're filled. But it is possible to fill out a petition online. If you really really need this specific course at this specific time on this day, you just list your reasons why it could be. I have a child and I have to pick them up at daycare after this time you know, if you make your own little case, you will more than likely be accepted into that course, even though it's full. But make sure you are prepared on your day when you have to get classes because it can be very difficult. Because classes fill up really quickly so make sure you're not waiting two days after to try and apply to courses. So I would like to highlight here that we as incoming or rising second year master's students we have already been enrolled. So already you guys would be like on those seats for the incoming second year master's students, because sometimes the first years and the second years get in the same classes. So make sure you do that right away when you have your dates ready for enrolling. So what you can do is like you can always talk to the seniors of your department or major. So like, they can guide you like which courses are really busy courses and are hard to get in so that you can always focus on getting those first because there's always a set number of credits that and you can only enroll in those number of credits you cannot go beyond that. So you'll have to prioritize your courses like which ones to resist register first. Sometimes it happens is when classes start people leave courses and then you can get into those classes but it's very picky and depends on courses and departments and major. Some departments usually like get quite empty when the classes start but some doesn't. So it's actually depending on the course, which you're enrolling in. Thanks y'all we have time for one last question do you have any tips for searching for summer internships. I think the key shake is one of the very good portals that the university offers. Also, there is one portal called last careers by 1220. So, these are the portals that are very helpful and have active listings in it. But what the thing is like, these also these portals also take you to the careers website of companies. So, it's just a like redirected link it's nothing like you mesh has a very different application for each and every job. It has for some of the job postings but not for everyone for most for most of the job postings it will just redirect you to the company's career website. So, yeah but handshake and careers by 1220 is a very good resource that you can use. I don't know like if the 1220 is very specific to engineering students, but yeah I'm like aware of these two majorly. Also, like I would highly recommend you guys to have a list of firms or companies which you want to get to, because generally speaking all of these websites like LinkedIn or handshake or any of the careers website they are not updated as often so maybe they would show some links that have already been expired some job postings are already expired so I would highly recommend have a list of on an average of 20, 30 firms or companies which where you want to apply to for summers or maybe full time and check on their company website only because what I've had experiences with is the recruiters are the hiring managers when they go with the applications, they would have their applications collected first from their careers website, other than LinkedIn or maybe handshake or something. So make sure whenever you apply to an opportunity or for an opportunity for summer or maybe full time you apply on the company website and not unlike LinkedIn or Indeed or any of the other options. That's my recommendation and that's my personal. Okay, thank you. Before we part ways today. I'd love to ask our panelists the biggest piece of advice they'd like to leave our audience members as they start their new journey here in Michigan. So from my end, the biggest piece of advice I would like to give you guys is there's something called as office hours for all of the classes for all of the courses, which are held by the professors as well as the graduates through instructors. I would highly highly recommend you guys because many of the people like I was not from programming background and I came into programming course a data science course. So I would highly recommend make use and utilize your office hours of GSIs and of your professors, because that is what is actually going to help you to get through the course to the course assignments deadlines, because actually the instructions that are given in the class or maybe on the assignments are mostly not clear when you start school in the beginning. So make use of office hours as much as you can throughout your journey as a student. The first piece of advice that I would want to leave with everybody is to try and remain present throughout this entire experience. Make time to have fun and make the most of every situation, because again it goes by within a blink of an eye. But just ensuring that you're making space and making time for mental health, physical health, it's vital because burning yourself out to the point where you lose yourself is really easy to do in a high stress environment, but it's really difficult to recover from.  The next piece of advice that I would give is advocate for yourself and your needs, because you are the only one for yourself and like, try to communicate as a graduate student and try to express the feelings that you have.  Also like seek out for a supportive community, join, join affinity groups, clubs, events that that are really close to your interest so that you have always something around you. So yeah, and explore I would say, because the more you'll explore the more you'll learn and the more you'll get to know, and you don't know like when you'll find a very good opportunity just by exploring, because most of the people don't explore itself. So, yeah. Okay, thank you. Have a good one.


Hey, this is Brett, and this 2018 Chevrolet Tahoe Premier is stock number 13811Z. I'm here at Summit Automotive in Fond du Lac, Wisconsin, your new and used SUV headquarters. This 2018 Chevy Tahoe has the 5.3 liter V8 gas engine. It's paired up with the 6-speed automatic transmission. This Tahoe has been fully safety and inspected by our service shop per the state of Wisconsin inspection process. It has a fresh oil and filter change, all the fluids have been checked and topped off, and it is 100% ready to go. I'm going to go all the way around in this video, inside, start it up, take a look under the hood, show you all the options, and give you the most accurate representation of the vehicle that I can. Black clear coats of color, and I shoot all my videos in 4K, so if you have HD capabilities turn them on now. And if you like the video you can subscribe to my YouTube channel, which is youtube.com slash Summit AutoClick, the bell notifications to get updates on the videos I do each and every day as well as having access to one of the largest catalogs of vehicle walk-arounds on YouTube. This one comes with the 22 inch painted alloy wheels with the chrome inserts. It has Falcon, Wild Peak, HT tires, these are 285, 45R22s, and I would say that they have a really good amount of tread left, probably 70, 80% of the tread left on those tires. I got Wild Peaks on my truck, they're pretty nice. Front fender is in nice shape, you get the projector lamp headlamps, the LED running lights, and the factory fog lights, front bumper is in pretty nice condition, does have the front bumper parking sensors, didn't see any cracks on there, headlight lenses are nice and clear, you get the chrome trimmed grille, we'll turn all those lights on at the end of the video so you can see just how nice and bright they are. The hood is in fantastic condition, didn't see any major dents on there, and the passenger side front fender is in really nice shape as well. Passenger side front wheel, no major scuffs or scrapes, and as you go down this side of this 2018 Chevy Tahoe, take note of how clean that body is, how reflective and mirror like that paint is. I take these HD videos so if you are far away or even if you're close by and you just cannot make the trip down but you're still interested in purchasing the vehicle, you can see the vehicle, hear the vehicle, and have confidence in the vehicle that you're looking at before you even get here, so when you do get here there's absolutely no surprises and you can make a smart and informed buying decision from wherever you're at. If this video helps you make that buying decision, let your salesmen know that you saw the video that I was helpful and that Brett sent, you have back wheels in nice shape, looks like we have brand new brakes in the back as well, and the back tires have just as much tread as the front tires, you can see the wheel wells are all in really nice shape and you get the factory running boards on here as well, frame and under body, not too bad, a little bit of corrosion on the welds there but that's pretty common on these Tahos and GM body style SUVs.  Coming around to the driver's side just as nice as that passenger side, this one's, I like that it's got the mud flaps on it keeps you lower rockers and everything looking good, rear quarters in great shape as is the door, didn't see any denser dings on there and for full disclosure this back wheel is just as nice as the rest, no scuffs or scrapes and down the rest of the side, once again the doors look really good, didn't see any dense or dings, you get the chrome trimmed mirrors, power mirrors, heated mirrors, built in directional signals, blind spot monitoring, inside the Premier package gives you the black leather bucket seats in the front, no rips or tears on them, smells very clean inside this vehicle, I don't think it's ever been smoked in, no rips or tears, weather tech floor mats up here as well both these front seats are heated and cooled, you get a factory brake controller, power telescopic and tilt steering wheel, power pedals, lane departure warning, stability control, you can turn your parking sensors on and off, turned out four-wheel drive and your auto headlamps, power windows locks and mirrors and memory driver seat, this one does of course have the Bose sound system, these mirrors do power fold in, I always like showing both sides so that you know that both sides are working properly, take a quick look at the back seats, second row bench seating, these seats are heated on the outboard sides, you get the latch child safety system for any child car seats you may have, very nice and clean back here, weather tech floor mat and you get your heated seat buttons, rear air controls, 110 volt, 150 watt plug-in and a 12 volt power point, two USBs and an HDMI hookup and an aux jack and that HDMI hookup is for the Blu-ray player right there and that is in nice shape and a very nice feature to have especially if you have kids, back seats are just as clean as the front seats, no rips or tears back here, looks really good, you get that weather tech floor mat that goes up there, those seats go down like so and up like that, inside and bottoms of the doors all look really good and we'll hop inside check out the miles, the radio and everything that this Tahoe has to offer on the interior, you can see this one has 73,415 miles so considering the age and miles on this vehicle really nice shape, you get a compass display, instrument cluster is very nice and clean, you get the heated leather wrap steering wheel, Bluetooth and information center controls on the right, cruise controls and heated steering wheel controls on the left and your forward collision warning controls as well, there's your six-speed automatic transmission shifter with the optional tap shift, this one has the Chevy MyLink radio, it does have the factory navigation system, there is highway 41 so you know that is working nicely, you also get AM FM and Sirius XM radio capabilities, you also have projection manager right there, you can project your cell phone to screen via android.oreapplecarplay, does have a CD player you also get a hideaway spot behind that radio for a cell phone or something with a charge USB right back there and then you have your different apps on here as well and this is also where you put your Blu-ray disc in to play on that screen back there, push button start, dual climb controls, here's your rear air controls, heated and cooled seat buttons and your cup holders right there, keyless entry with your remote start and power liftgate buttons, this one does have the wireless cell phone charge pad which is a really nice feature and the passenger side dash, floor mat and seat are in fantastic condition, once again I don't think this vehicle's ever been smoked in the headliner is in fantastic condition and you get the power sunroof so this thing is loaded up with just about every option you could get in 2018, you get your map lights, your home link buttons for your garage door security systems and lighting systems and your sunroof and rear gate controls on-star and SOS buttons in the mirror and we'll start it up and take a look under the hood, starts right up, no check engine lights or anything like that other than my hoods open and we'll take a look under the hood, I was not aware that those headlights are the HID headlights so let's go check those out, you also get the LED running lights and you can see those are very nice and bright and you get the factory fog lights right there, under the hood we have the 5.3 liter V8 engine, engine maze very clean ones, very smooth once again this Tahoe has been fully safe and inspected by our service shop has a fresh oil and filter change all the fluids have been checked and topped off and it is 100% ready to go, brand new rear brakes, there is the emissions sticker and I would highly recommend this Tahoe from a quality condition standpoint considering the age and miles on it's in really nice shape fully loaded up and 100% ready to go and to see more pictures of this Tahoe or 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Dear students, in this module, we are going to discuss identity as deviance. This is very interesting to see that how deviancy is defined in a social context. However, in some cases, deviancy also defines that how a person should be considered. For example, identity can also be considered deviant if one does not confirm to the societal norms and expectations. Your identity can be considered as potentially deviant. In many contexts, your identity, which does not have any character, is defined by nature for you. For example, physical disability is not considered normality. The reason for this is that physically disabled people are not considered as deviant, they are not considered as normality in the society. For example, transgender people become a stigma. Because of this stigma, they are treated inappropriately and discriminated. In Pakistan, for example, religious minorities are marginalized groups, often face discrimination and are viewed as deviant. Non-confirming gender identities such as transgender individuals are also often considered deviant and they face social stigma. So identity as deviant can lead to social exclusion and can be a barrier to accessing the basic rights and services. In the recent past, you must have seen that there have been many social movements in Pakistan regarding transgender people. There have been many movements regarding their rights. That is why transgenders were discriminated against by birth status. So these social movements were used for their basic rights and basic services. That is why we are seeing that relatively a much better position has been created for transgenders. However, embarrassing and embracing and accepting diverse identities can lead to a more inclusive and equitable society. Addressing discrimination and promoting acceptance of diverse identities can help reduce the negative consequences of identity as deviance.


He's very nice, you know, and he may not look like he's nice.  And I literally said, I'm a little bored at one point. I think this segues perfectly into something you mentioned just now. You said, at one point I only dated, or I said I didn't date black men. How's way over it? Walk me through how you got there, why you got there, and where you are now. Okay. Growing up, I had a lot of white friends, so I was more into their culture, of course.  And we're a really country black family. Like, eat raccoons, squirrels, you know, make moonshines, stuff like that, yeah. I have not eaten raccoons, but my granddad likes to eat raccoons, so I'm like, have that. But my friends who were white, and I was very influenced by, they talked about marriage a lot.  The kind of guy I want, kind of lifestyle, and I thought that was what I wanted exactly because it seemed, it was different from what I had.  I wanted my dad in my life, so I was like, if I have kids, I want my kids to have their dad in their lives, and most of the black families I knew didn't. So this is one of the reasons why I was so attracted to white guys, then growing up and, you know, getting out of where I was before and coming into having more friends instead of diverse cultures, realizing that a lot of them are around their children or wanted to be if they were going to have kids. And now I'm open to dating basically any race because it's based off of who you are as a person.  Now I don't believe that at all. I have so many black guy friends who are all into their, their kids and what are they with the, you know, the baby mom or not, they're right there with their kids and they love their children. And I am, I literally warmed my heart to see that because I didn't have that and I wanted it. And I remember to this day when I was six years old, I used to write all the time and I wrote a letter to my dad and I was crying my eyeballs out because I kept asking, why don't you want me? I didn't know he didn't know who I was. I had no idea. I knew his name, but my mom at the time didn't tell me I was six, you know. So I just thought he just didn't want me. And that created like an abandonment thing in me, you know, I'm over that now. He and I actually, right now, we're really good, we're a common friend, basically, because he came in my life later on, you know, but I love my dad. And I still need him at times. And he was just talking to me yesterday, tell me go buy a lottery ticket. I was like, I'm not doing that.  So it's what you're used to or you want something different. And I really appreciate that story because very often when we hear about women say, I'm going to go to a white guy, he treats me better. It's not as deep as that. It's it's more so I was dating black thugs. And then I found myself a white nerd that is a nice guy to me. And then my pushback is always that why couldn't the black nerd be a good man to you because we don't incentivize that behavior in our community. But in your in your situation, they started from beyond. They started from white men represented this, black men represented that. How do you feel like this common thread of father's not being in the home, whether because they left voluntarily, whether they didn't know, whether mass incarceration, whatever the case may be, what part do you think black women are playing in this? Because there's there's a there's this common thing out now where like women are saying, you know, I'm having a kid without a man. Like I'm going to go to the sperm bank and like this idea that men are not necessary at all.  OK, so I've actually said I'm going to have a kid on my own.  And it's really hard for me to actually get a man who actually wants to stay and actually be with me. That's my reason. Oh, we're going to get into it. Go ahead. I know. So I've seen and experienced some women actually want to use their kid as leverage over the man a lot of time. So they will actually say sorry, women. I guess I'm not biased towards anything. I appreciate it. Yeah, no problem. They if they're like, OK, so he doesn't want to be with me. He can't see his kid. Who does that? The kid is totally different from you.   If the dad wants to be in the kid's life, let it let it happen.  And you have some kind of fear over your kids' livelihood and stability. I understand that. But if he is a good person and a good dad, let him be around. And I think that is one of the biggest things that happens in a lot of women.  He did that to me. And then they use that kid as, no, you can't see your child. Let's talk about you. You said, you said, I did, did you say sperm bank or did you say, I'll just go ahead and have a kid with somebody? Sperm bank. OK, so so I don't want to like prematurely pun intended, no pun intended. I don't want to prematurely like, you know, assess what you're saying. So explain to me why you think it's a good idea. I've had I've had some experiences with guys that you know, lead up to not necessarily being long term, right? I really believe a lot of it is and I could be wrong, but I've had some guys tell me as well, I am too independent. I know I'm a little too independent at times, and that's fine. You got more questions for me. So the reason why I am too independent is, you know, people would say it's because I grew up with a single mom. So she was very independent, right? So therefore it's not that I don't feel like I don't need a man.  If he's not there when I'm ready to have a child, then sperm banks here we come, you know. And I would prefer, like I said, like I said before, I want my children to have a dad. I do.  I love that. Like I said, it warms my heart when I see my guy friends with their kids and they're like all over it. And I'm like, oh, it's so cute. You know, I love that. But I can't necessarily say that's going to happen for me. I would love for that to happen. But the way my life has been going as an adult, it hasn't seemed like that's necessarily going to happen. You know, I'm still a young adult, but still, you know, it's still not necessarily there. So. OK, so let's let's let's investigate because looking at you. I doubt you have any issue using a job analogy. I doubt you have any issue getting a job, right? AKA getting a man attracting somebody towards you, right? What is what is the disconnect between attracting a man and keeping a man, not just a man, but a man of caliber, a man of substance, a man of like character? What do you think is going on? First off, OK, I am a attractive person. I know that. But I'm not normal for most people. Like I'm not nor neurodivergent. Is that the term? Basically, like I, like I said, I'm not biased towards any race or gender or anything like that. I'm very understanding. And that's something a lot of men don't understand. I they don't get why I'm so understanding. Like I should be mad. I should be crazy. You know, I should be doing this or that. They go for what's more normal to them. I am, like I said, when I said I'm independent, one of my friends saw the car drive, which is not expensive, but I still I pay for my own car. My apartment is nice. I have good credit. You know, I have more than one job. I actually own my own business. I am very, very just constantly on the go, constantly doing something. I think like a man in the aspects of money.  I don't want to, I don't want to be homeless ever again. You know, I don't want to lack for anything. So I take care of myself because there's no one else to help me do it. Now, if there is someone who wants to come in and help me out with that kind of thing and I also feel like he is suitable for it, of course I'll do it. You know, I will let those walls down, but I have walls built up. Like walls because I've been hurt in the aspect. Like I've had a boyfriend once who wouldn't pay his part of the rent. Oh, well, that means I had to pay it, right? Or I had another guy who was actually emotionally abusive towards me. He's not in my life anymore. Or someone else who just, they were very easy to manipulate. I don't like that. Give me a little bit of a challenge.  So I am a highly picky person when it comes to who I decided to be in a relationship with. And that stems from a lot of things. So this makes up who I am. So when you say you're an interesting person, are you saying that a certain caliber of guys put off about that? Yeah, I'm intimidating. No, well, we don't talk about that. Okay, okay. I hear that a lot actually. I hear women say they're intimidating. I think it's bullshit, but that's just me. I mean, yeah.  So the question then ends up being what is the, what difficulty are we having attracting that type of man? Or is it that we're actually not attracted to that type of man because we're used to the bottom of the barrel? So what do you think it is for you? Is it that you can't attract that guy or retain that guy? Or it's easier, more fun, more exciting to manipulate the low guys down here? Ooh, I don't like manipulating. No, I can't stand that, honestly. So I do attract guys who are high value, right? Now a lot of high value guys necessarily want a lower value woman. So they can actually take over and manipulate, not feel like they're fighting for dominance, right? One of my guy friends, I'm definitely not saying his name, but one of my guy friends who is a high value guy. How do you define high value? Because I want us to frame it properly.  He has either his own business or he's making over 100K somewhere else. Someone who literally has confidence in who he is. And he's not ashamed about it. He's who he is no matter what. And I like that confidence in that kind of alpha presentation type situation. So that's my definition of high value, also educated, definitely. So this particular friend, he told me, and I've had a lot of guy friends actually confess their love to me and I'm like, I'm not interested in that way. He specifically told me that he was afraid to be in a relationship with me, but he wanted to be. And I was like, okay. He said, if I were to be with you, I would be 100% with you and I would give you everything. And I'm not talking about, he said I'm not talking about material things. I'm talking about all of me. And I was sitting there like, this is nice to hear but it's not from him that I wanted to hear this from. So what I've noticed, because unfortunately he was dating somebody at the same time he told me this. Right. He wanted some pussy, that's what I wanted.  Like it's never been anything physical at all.   I'm really careful on that kind of stuff.  Why are you dating her? If you don't feel like you can give her your all. That is a problem. And I didn't really actually give me the answer, but he was basically just telling me that's how he feels about me. And he's known me for years. And I just don't, I'm a visual person. So he wasn't visually attracted, I'm not visually attracted to him. So that's one of the reasons why we're not, and have not tried anything, but I mean, I don't know. Like that's some of the situations I've dealt with, when it came to some guys especially. I think what's challenging about that, because I've been privileged to have a lot of conversations with a lot of women. And sometimes subconsciously what's actually happening, because unfortunately a lot of our women have abandonment issues. And a lot of our women have self-esteem issues. And a lot of our women have even mental issues, ADHD, depression, anxiety the whole night. Depression, anxiety right here. What actually happens sometimes, and it should have satisfied, sometimes we run away from good things because on some core level, we don't think we deserve it. And we'll use language like, it's boring. Because it's peaceful. And when we're used to chaos, peace looks boring. So how do we reconcile that? Because good news or bad news, you're not alone.  But some part of their subconscious is either telling them, run, this is too good to be true. I don't deserve this. Or it's not even attracted to that really. It's like you're conflicting with yourself. So what are your thoughts on that? Well, considering the fight that me, being such a visual person, it's hard for me to get past that sometimes. And I'll use that as my main thing. Like, oh, I'm just not attracted to him like that. Like I can't see myself have sex with him.  And that's one of the reasons why I don't date that many people and haven't, because I have like certain looks seriously. So that's one of the things for me. Another is, yes, I did think a lot of times I don't deserve good things because I didn't have good things when I was growing up. You know, I told you before that I had a band of issues from both parents. So therefore I was like, everybody's gonna leave. It's always gonna be like that. It's always just gonna be me because I don't deserve to have someone else around. And therefore keeps me single for a while. And me having situationships on the side, you know? So, and then now I'm different now where I've actually healed from a lot of that. And I actually do want a stable, happy and calm relationship. So I actually now kind of am talking to someone actually who shows that he's more, he's very nice, you know? And he may not look like he's nice.   And I literally said, I'm a little bored at one point. And I was like, wait a second. No, no, no, we're not going back to that. This is not happening. So I talk myself out of it. I have to, you know, think about all the trauma and the situations I have from previous guys who were not boring, right? And what I liked about them but what it led to later on. And this guy sounds promising for the most part, you know? And I decided to do something different. Like he's not necessarily the type of person I was 100% go for physically, but he's got the height. He's got the money, the, you know what I'm saying? Like, so I'm kind of like going for that and seeing what happens. I mean, it's very new, so I don't know, but. Well, so let me, let me ask you, is it, is it, and I want you to really think about this before you answer. Is it that you want those good things or that you want to want those good things? Oh, I actually want those good things. I do, but I also like bad boys. I used to like bad boys, really bad. I used to, it's like, I like the, so when I was a teenager, it was all until like, hot topic, right?   And that kind of trickled into my adult life in that way. But it was, it looked different, you know? So the outside may have looked different, but the inside was always the same. Like it was a mental play, I don't play. And, but I've always said, I want this, I want that, you know, like I want this good thing and I would never get that good thing because I didn't know how to get that good thing and keep it and who to look for when it comes to that specific thing, you know? Now I know the guy who is emotionally stable is a good, that's a good thing. So, and that's what I desire. I wanted an emotionally stable guy who has no problems with expressing what he wants. And, you know, if he's upset about something or he's sad about something or happy, whatever the emotion is, but also the communication.  So some people they won't communicate. And I'll be like, why, what's going on with that? And sometimes it will have me chase the guy if I really like them. And not realizing that me chasing them is not necessarily a good thing because I'm looking like I'm needy, you know? And I hate looking needy, that is not my thing. So I just won't say nothing.  I'm like, I'm not doing this anymore. And that's a lot healthier than me doing the opposite. So a lot of times when I hear women describe like their ideal guy, a lot of the characteristics are in conflict with one another.  So like, why do you think a lot of women don't necessarily mature in their preferences? They just combine them. We're stubborn? I mean, honestly, as much as men are stubborn, women are too. We're very stubborn creatures. And we want, we want, we're like, I deserve this. If you keep saying I deserve this, then you, regardless of what you think you deserve, you're going to get, you know? So it could be like, I deserve a guy who's a bad boy.   But you necessarily can't get all of it at one time, you know, into that one package. Like you were explaining, like, like the other day I saw a guy with a bunch of tattoos. I was like, it looks kind of good. Like, I personally don't like tattoos on myself. I have none and I don't want any. But some guys with tattoos look kind of good. You know, they have that edge to them. And I'm like, okay, Kristin, this is not what you're looking for now. Like this is old you just get away from that, you know? Which is funny because I actually don't normally date guys with tattoos. But, but I look at them and think they're hot as hell a lot of the time. I'm like, ah, okay. So, but, you know, it's just, if you want different, you will act different. If you also want different, you will treat, you will go towards different situations, you know? And I had to make myself go towards different situations. And that's why I was making the distinction between what you want and what you want to want. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. Because a lot of women say they want stuff, but a lot of times they want to, I want to want a good father. Exactly. I want to want, and typically not. Yeah, but where are you finding this good father at, you know? Like you're going out to the clothes. Thursday, Thursday. You know, with a tattoo. And so I'm trying to find a family, a God fearing, you know, potential politician someday. Yeah. Exactly. I'm like, so where are you finding this guy at, you know? You got to go where you want to find somebody that you're wanting to get. So like if you want, if you're looking for a man who is a good dad, where would good dads go? You know, like potential good dads? Where do they hang out? You know, if you want a tattoo guy, where did tattoo guys go? You know, I mean, and that's what you have to think about. Like I personally don't go out clubbing anymore. I do not do it because every time I do is the same type of people, whether it's the exact same people or it's the same type of people, you know? And I don't want to associate myself with people who are the same type all the time. If I'm looking for something that's gonna actually last. And I don't pick up guys at clubs. No, I don't want to, I'm gonna say this. They approach me, I just go, I'm not interested. So like I went to Charlotte a few weeks ago and I was sitting at the bar with my girlfriends. This guy came up to me, grabs me on the back of my arm and I was like, he was like, hey, what's your name? I was like, nope, not interested.  Oh my God, I'm not interested. I have been approached that way so many times, it is annoying. It's very annoying. So sometimes I go out looking not so pretty because I don't want to be approached. So like, not necessarily means I don't wear makeup. I mean, I do have fresh face most of the time, but it's what I wear.  But somehow somebody always still comes after me.  You want somebody that's out of club all the time, goes to the club. Not me. Not me.