So, the last thing that you ever want to do is make yourself look desperate. If you make yourself look desperate, you'll be doing everything for a man. You'll make him a priority, you'll put in tons of work, you'll try to be absolutely perfect for him, and he will end up doing exactly the opposite. He'll take you for granted, he'll lose interest, he'll feel like he wants to see other people, he'll think of you only as an option, you'll become obsessed, and he will pull away and want to disappear from you, away from you forever. And so, today I'm going to be teaching you about seven different ways that a lot of women end up making themselves look desperate, many times totally on accident, I mean nobody wants to look desperate, right? And what you should be doing instead. Hi, my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. If you like the work that I do and you want to get my entire system for free, go to the Forever Woman Formula dot com. It's a program all about how to attract a great guy into a relationship where he sees you and loves you and absolutely cherishes and adores you. So the Forever Woman Formula dot com. So what are the seven different ways that women make themselves look desperate? Number one is trying to win him over.  Chasing a man who isn't interested in you, here's something to always remember. Never put a question mark where a man puts a period. So, oh, and by the way, if you're here with us right now, make sure that you say hi in the chat. I love it when it's really cool to see all these women from all around the world just, you know, watching our live stream. So make sure you say hi and tell us where it is in the world that you're watching this from. So instead of doing all of those things, what you want to do is you want him to win you over, at least initially, and then you want it to be more evened out over time. At no point do you want to be doing everything and doing all the investing while he leans back and does nothing. And so you will absolutely 100% lose if you try to do it that way. So that's number one, trying to win him over. Number two is giving him your commitment, your body, your interest and your love without him earning it. So this looks like being won over by him immediately, right? So men value things that they work for far more than things that are just given to them.  It's not fair. It's not right, but it's how human psychology works. Now, every once in a while, granted, I will hear an amazing success story where it was like this instant thing. They just saw each other and they're just like they gave each other to each other, you know, immediately, which is a really cool story. I love when I hear those. However, those are exceptions, not the rule. So don't plan on that being the scenario, right? You want to plan on it, not being the scenario.  And so a healthy mindset to have instead is the mindset of I'm attainable, but not easy. You want him to win you over over time. You're not immediately won over, but it's also not impossible to win you over, right? A lot of times I tell women this stuff and they'll jump over to the other side and they're like, okay, I'm totally impossible to win me over. And they're like trying to like create all these challenges and stuff. You don't want to do that. You want him to win you over and you want to set a frame around the situation where he has to win you over, but you want to be able to be won over. You want to be attainable. So number three is breaking boundaries and letting a man walk all over you.  So what you want is to have standards that he has to live up to have preferences and things that you like and that you don't like and don't be afraid to voice those preferences. A lot of women. Well, I'll hear things like men want a woman that they can walk all over. No, they don't write and a lot of men will say that about women as well and nobody wants somebody that they can walk all over. They might test you. They might do compliance things. They might try to walk all over you, but people respect people who have boundaries. And so you want to set boundaries and stick to them because he'll value you so much more. He'll be far more attracted to you if you have boundaries and you stick to him and he tries to push those boundaries and you're like, no, I don't think so. Then if you just let him walk all over you. So you don't want to do that. You want to have boundaries. You want to have standards and you want to have preferences and you want to verbalize them and make sure that they're known. Number four is over calling and texting. So texting him all the time and being angry that he doesn't respond immediately. Right.  And it's like, take a deep breath. If you're in that situation, take a deep breath and relax, you know, like 24 hours isn't a long time, two days isn't a long time, three days isn't even really that long of a time, you know, and what you want to do. So let's go over other ways of doing this. Right. So double texting is another one expecting him to text you every day or multiple times a day. Instead, what you want to do is you want to lean back. I did an entire video on how to lean back. If you want more information on that, make sure that you go and check out the forever woman formula at the foreverwomanformula.com. I've got an entire system about how to attract a guy and make sure that you're valued. And I talk all about this in there. So encourage behavior that you like, right? Encourage the types of behavior that you'd like to have. So framing is a really great way to do this. I talk all about that as well in my Love Frames toolkit. Find someone who matches your energy, right? Either somebody that matches your energy or become okay with the fact that he doesn't match your energy because for some people, some people are people that need kind of attention and connection all the time, right? And some people aren't. Some people are people that don't want connection a lot of the time, right? And so they, they need a lot of space. And so if you're with a guy who needs attention and connection all the time, that's great because then it's like, you know, you're both on and you're always talking and it's great and it's awesome. But if you're with a guy and you really like him and he's a guy who needs space all the time, then you need to be able to give him space.  And so what you need to do is have a life and work on yourself through healing so that you can give him some space, right? Work on the thing that I talk about in the forever woman program where you have an abundance of connection, right? So you have a connection with other things in the world so that if you need some connection, it's not like, I need it from you. It's like, I can get it from all these different places and it's not that big of a deal and I'm not going to freak him out and smother him when what he needs in order for his fire of love to grow is a little bit of space. So if you get what I'm talking about, make sure you say, I get it in the chat. If you get what I'm talking about, say, I get it. So number five is committing to him before he commits to you. And so I have a metaphor where I talk about jumping into a pool, right?  It's kind of cold. Yeah, I'm not, I don't know. You're doing some weird stuff in there. I'm just going to go, I'm going to go over here. There's another, there's a party over here I'm going to go to and you're like in the pool, like watching him like, I thought we were getting in the pool, right?  And so that's the metaphor. You're committed and you're fighting to make the relationship work and he doesn't even think that you're in a relationship at all. I hear this, I mean, it's just heartbreaking to hear this kind of stuff. It's horrible. I hate to hear it, but you got to make sure that you're not putting yourself into that situation, right? You don't commit to him without either him committing first or there being some kind of actual agreement around it. And so, you know, do things like I talk about in the forever woman where you don't date, you don't move in with him without getting a ring if what you want is marriage long term. Date other people until he's verbally agreed to exclusivity. And I hear women all the time that are like, but I don't want anybody else. I just want him. And it's like, what you don't understand is if you're coming from a place of scarcity, which is what that is, right? Where you're just like, there's just one guy and I got to get him, right? You're far less likely to get him and you're far more likely to get him if you have an abundance of options where you can meet other people and there's other guys and you've got an orbit and you're like, hey, which one of these guys is going to is going to step up and decide that he wants to be with me. So there's that. Number six is displaying your sexuality on social media. And so I see this all the time, right? Putting racy, half naked photos of yourself on social media. It's interesting because I'll hear women like I'll talk to women all the time about this kind of stuff that are in like they're in like a, you know, like fitness or something like that. And I'm big into fitness. I love doing fitness. And so I'll talk to women that are in the fitness and in the fitness world. And I'll talk about I'll talk to them about some of their photos and stuff. And and a lot of times the things that I'll hear is like, oh, well, I used to post a lot of like workout photos. But I found that if I focus on photos of my butt, I get a lot more likes and a lot more engagement and people are talking about it more. And so so that's what I post, right? And, you know, so my suggestion is that you don't sell yourself out on social media, you know, make access to your body limited because when a guy sees that it he it's like he feels like he can't really take you seriously in terms of relationship material because it's sending him all the wrong signals, right? If you want him to take you seriously and look at you as relationship material, don't sell yourself out on social media, make access to your body limited, shift your thinking to this physical intimacy with you is sacred and limited to a man who has earned it, right? Physical intimacy and access to your body access to those kinds of photos, make that sacred and limited to men who have earned it, right? And at a minimum, you want to know what kind of a relationship he's looking for. So these are the three things that you want. You want to make sure that you know what kind of a relationship he's looking for. You want exclusivity and you want a deep emotional connection before getting physically intimate with a man. That is my suggestion. Number seven is constantly asking him if things are OK. And this is like the the ultimate thing of desperation, which I hear all the time and I totally get it, right? I totally get it.  I haven't heard from him. He said this one thing and I don't understand it. Like, are things OK or do you still love me, right? Like, all that kind of stuff starts coming out and it's just it's cringe worthy, right? Like, you hear it and you're like, you know, but you're thinking it and you're not thinking of it as you hearing it. And so you're like, oh, but these are the things that I'm worried about. And for him, it just it just makes you look really needy, really desperate. And it's better like if you need connection that you reach out to your friends, especially early on in a relationship before he's like really hooked on you and you've kind of built up that like emotional bank account that you guys have from being in a relationship together. And so if you need to, you know, do some healing work, figure out what your attachment style is, learn about how to become more confident, get abundance of connection in your life, like what we were talking about before you want to have an abundance of connection so that if you need some kind of connection, if if you're like freaking out and you need that connection, you need kind of validation or whatever it is that you need, you have other sources that you can get it from other than this guy. That way he's not feeling like he's constantly being drained by talking to you and being around you because you're constantly needy and pulling his energy and needing all these things from him all the time and always needing reassurance and validation and all those kinds of things.  And that is not what men want, right? Men want to men want to be a part of this awesome, amazing life. What men want to be able to make it easy to make you happy, right? And and for you, like I've heard women say things like, well, if a man can't make me happy, what's his purpose? You know, and it's like, no, no, no, your job is to make you happy, right? You should be happy in your life. Like how are you not, you know, like how are you trying to like put it on somebody else, right? Like that's the ultimate like victimization of yourself is you're constantly looking to the external world to make you happy. It's going to be really, really difficult to even have a good life, let alone have a guy that is healthy, that is high value, that really wants to be around you like that. And so those are the seven things. If if you have questions, make sure that you ask them in the chat. Next, I'm going to go to the chat and we can talk about whatever questions you have. If you want to ask me questions about the world and life and relationships or whatever you want to ask me about, I'll I'll answer most most any questions that anybody has. So the things again are one, trying to win him over to giving him your commitment, body, interest and love without him earning it, three, breaking boundaries and letting a man walk all over you. Four is over calling and over texting. Five is committing to him before he commits to you. Six is displaying your sexuality on social media. Seven is constantly asking him if things are oh, don't do it. Don't do it. OK, so what do we have here? Cats Meow. Taurus says you are the best. Keep doing what you're doing. Well, thank you. I appreciate that. By the way, I love compliments. If anybody has a compliment, I won't deny your compliment. So go ahead and throw all your compliments my way. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Hageane says love your advice. Hello from Gold Coast, Australia. Awesome. Thank you. Appreciate that. Margaret, thank you for your wise advice. Xiyun from Frankfurt. I was just in Frankfurt. Tokata says hello from Denver. I'm going to be in Denver in a couple of weeks. Julie Tree says how are you supposed to win a guy over that's long distance and you only see them online? That's a good question. That is a good question, Julie Tree. First off, my recommendation is that you follow my system. Because if you are following my system, Julie Tree, you wouldn't even be worried about some dude that's long distance, right? You'd have an abundance of dudes that are looking for you. Usually what happens when women start following my system is pretty easy to know if a woman's following my system or not because their problems change, right? Like problems go from there's this one guy and he lives on the other side of the world from me and I'm trying to win him over too. Like, how do I pick which guy I should date exclusively? There's like all these guys and half of them want to get married to me and you can totally tell when somebody's using my system. So my suggestion, Julie Tree, is you go get my system theforeverwomanformula.com and you start using that. So JNS says what if he started saying I love you and then it dissipated? How do I get that back? Well, you let his love grow again, right? So it kind of depends on what happened from when he said I love you to it dissipating. However, it could be a whole bunch of different things and you have to kind of figure out what happened, right? Because what happened was there is a bunch of different things and I don't know how long you've been seeing this guy or any of the background story, obviously. However, there's a bunch of things that led up to him saying I love you and then there's things that happened and now he doesn't say I love you anymore. And so those things that worked, you want to have, you want to continue doing those things and the things that happened between there, you can either stop doing those things but it might be things that you have no control over and so you have to figure out what those things were and what happened and it might not even be anything. It might just be that he hasn't felt the need to say it or maybe he might have even said it one time or two times and he felt like maybe it wasn't appropriate or something and so he stopped saying it. Who knows? I mean, there's a lot of different things that could have happened and I would, it's important that you see that. Tricia says, I missed the beginning. I hope this will be available to re-watch it. Thank you for your help and insight. Yes, it will absolutely be available. Looks like lots of people say, I get it. I get it, I get it, I get it. Kat says, what about a guy that pushes back and says we should pursue each other 50-50? Well, first off, one of the things that you have to remember, Kat, is that what guys say that they want and what they're attracted to aren't the same things, right? So there was a woman a while back who was on one of our live streams who asked about a guy said that he wants to be pursued and chased and he always wants to be pursued and chased, right? And it's like, okay, but one, is that gonna get you into the relationship you want, right? Two, it's like, okay, so if a guy says, like, I like to have multiple women, right? A lot of guys like that, right? They wanna be pursued and chased and have all these women after him but if you're one of those women, are you in a good situation? The answer is no. You want him to be pursuing and chasing you and like what I talked about before, you know, it kind of depends on where you are in the situation. It's, you know, when I talk about leaning back, it's not necessary that you never initiate, I'm not saying you shouldn't ever initiate, right? You can initiate contacting him. You can do things like, if you're in a world where a man is moving towards you, right? Him and his energy is moving towards you. He's pushing things forward. He's trying to hang out with you. He's doing all these things. It's not a problem if you do almost anything, right? Like you can call him, you can text him, you could set up a date, you could plan something, you could go to where he is. It's not a problem because he has so much energy already pushing, you know, moving towards you. If he's already super invested in you, if he's already doing all these things and you start doing some things as well, it's not a big deal. 50-50, I mean, that's kind of hitting the line right there. Like you shouldn't ever go above 50-50, but you know, if you do, like you can test it, right? Like this is something that you can actually test. You can try doing things where you initiate more often and see how he responds. Does he start kind of going cold? If he does, then you know that he's the kind of guy that needs you to lean back and for him to pursue you. But if you start doing a little bit of it and it doesn't slow him down at all, if he doesn't cool down at all from that, then it's like, oh, that's totally cool. Everything's great and it's no problem that you're in a 50-50 situation. And so you have to figure out what works for your situation. That's the most important thing. I can give you guidelines. I can give you rules. I can give you my system at the foreverwomanformula.com and you can go and follow that system, which I recommend that you do. However, you're gonna have to shift things up a little bit for your particular situation and your particular guy and you and your needs because every single person is an individual, right? There's patterns that men and women have. There's patterns of masculinity and femininity, but there's individuals that you're actually working with and individuals all have different things and you need to figure out what works for you. So I hope I explained that well enough for you, cat. Mary says, awesome videos, love is free and free. I'll definitely agree, love is fun when it's given back a man pursues the lady, thank you. You're welcome, oh, free, well. So Anna says, what to do if acts mature?  What to do if acts immature? You can set up boundaries. It depends on what you mean by acts immature, right? Like saying acts immature is kind of like putting an umbrella over behavior without saying what that behavior is. Like you'd have to get a little bit more specific about what that behavior is.  Well, you know, I don't really look at it as necessarily even rules or games. I just look at it as like human behavior, right? We're learning about each other. Like my goal here is to empower you. Right now we are in a world of something they call the hookup culture, right? Women, men and women, right? Most people are looking for a real relationship. They're looking for a committed relationship. But we have kind of all these different problems. One is this hookup culture where people have gotten to a point where they're settling for these situations where they're just hooking up with each other instead of having real relationships. And so a lot of people are abandoning each other really, really quickly and easily. They're looking for kind of quick fix easy fling things. They're going for things that they wouldn't normally go for because they think that there's more availability out there for kind of like short term superficial stuff. And so what we're doing here is we're really, I'm helping empower you. That's what my goal is. My goal is to give you systems and ways to make sure that you protect yourself and you get yourself into the best possible situation so that you can have the relationship that you absolutely wanna have. Men and women are hurt right now. There's a lot of pain out there. And so what you need to do is you need to learn how to communicate and know what your value is from a deep internal level so that when you meet a guy you're not taken advantage of, you don't get yourself into a bad situation. You need to be true to yourself, right? Like it's not about just following these rules and playing these games. It's about making sure that you're coming from an empowered, strong, healthy place where you're true to yourself. You know who you are. You're being your best self. Other things that you need to know are treating intimacy and commitment as a sacred act, right? This is very, very important because of the way that men look at intimacy and commitment. It's important that you treat it in a way that everybody else isn't, right? Right now everybody's treating commitment and intimacy like it's just this thing that you do and it's not a big deal and it doesn't matter, right? And so now we have these huge divorce rates and we've got the hookup culture and all these people aren't really getting into relationships because they aren't taking it seriously anymore and so it's important you treat it as it's sacred, right? Another one is partnership. Partnership is incredibly important because if you want a guy to see you as somebody that wants to be with you over the long term, he needs to make sure that you guys can grow together. He needs to be able to see into the future and be like this is a woman that I can be with in the long term future and you need to surround yourself with other women who support you. If you're having these problems, right? And so if you are having these problems, I suggest that you go and join our community.  If you're not having a problem, that's great. You know, if you're not single and you're in a great relationship where a man sees you and he loves you and cherishes you, then that's really, really awesome. But it's really not about rules and games. It's about setting yourself up for success, you know, making sure that you are successful. So R.S. says I have a short relation with a coworker and he always is hot and cold. In last weeks, he tried to make me jealous, flirting with other coworkers. And after, if I lean back, he always tried to interact with, kind of cut off there. I don't know what the rest of your comment was. See if I can find it here. Yeah, I'm not seeing the rest of your comment. If you want to answer, if you want me to answer that question, then you're gonna have to post the rest of it again in the comments because I don't see it. Judy says, excellent metaphors, thank you.  I'm not sure which scenario you're talking about there, Katzmeow. Sharon says, I get it. You gotta match or go slower than the man. Yeah, that's exactly what you gotta do. You gotta, because you're putting yourself in a good situation, right? That's what you wanna do is make sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation. We had a woman in this last live stream that I did where she was like, she got into a relationship after two weeks of being with a guy and she's surprised that he's like disappearing. It's like, you went a little bit too fast there. You gotta get to know the guy a little bit better before you're in a relationship. You're not in a relationship if he's disappearing on you and blocking you. Luzette says, or women who talk against other women who it said wants him. That too makes a woman look desperate, okay? So Ramona says, hi, Matt, you always look so young. Well, thank you. Mary says, how is treating you sat the current time is pursuing? Yes, I agree, not impossible to win me. However, not easy peasy. I have no idea what you just said there. MIA Mirage says, hi, my name is Jokey, but everyone calls me Esco. She says, she purchased the Forever Woman program, which is free by the way, you don't have to purchase it and make him want you and I'm in San Diego and I do agree 100%, but it can be extremely hard to take action. It can be, action's the most important part though. Luzette says, and don't always be in his face trying to always talk to him. It's right. Mary says, self-respect wins all. It's very important to respect yourself. Yep.  Yeah, I mean, a lot of these things, it's universal for men and for women and so a lot of times women will be like, well, why do I have to do these things and men don't and it's like, well, men have the same problems. You know, a lot of the same problems men are having and so you just gotta realize that it's not just one or the other. GNS says, Scottsdale Arizona, I used to live there. Mary says, does he enjoy cheap and easy or high quality women is the question or lazy? Mary says, in it to win it with a self-respected man who pursues me. That's what I'm talking about Mary. That's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm talking about. Good job. Good job. Millie Mel says, I always say friends are trippin' on. Are for trippin' on. Liz says, thanks for being refreshingly healthy. All right. Luzette says, yes Mary, it's why I run behind no man. I know women who do and they're miserable. Not sure what that means. Katzmeow says, how do I get one? Well, you start meeting more guys. I love you Jesus says. I met this guy on Facebook, he's American. He said he wants a serious relationship. Five days ago through a video call he asked me if I'd be his girlfriend. I said yes, so he'll come meet me in Brazil. Okay. Liz says, thank you Matt, you're welcome. Kathy says, you helped me so much. Thank you Matthew, you're welcome. Patty says, hey Matt, nice to see you. Nice to be here, thanks for being here Patty. Carla says, he was so into me at first and then backed off emotionally. I don't do any of the seven things, what now? You're aware. E by the way. You're aware E by the way. You're aware E by the way. Well Carla, you need to lean back. That's the most important thing that you can do. If you're in a situation where he was super into you emotionally and then all of a sudden he backed off, you need to back off as well. There's a thing that I call pacing. And what you do is you mirror a guy's interest level in you. And so if he pulls back, what a lot of women do is they try to close that gap. And what that does is it makes him feel like he's being smothered. And so he backs even further away, right? It's like a magnet that's the same charge pushing another magnet away. And so if he pulls back, what you wanna do is pull back as well and let him fill back in that space. And when he fills that space back in, then that's when you come back together.  This is so weird and makes me feel awkward. Well, tell me a little bit about what you mean by he's hot and cold every day. Like he talks to you and then he doesn't talk to you. Like what do you mean by hot and cold every day? Katzmeow says, you're gorgeous when you smile. Okay, thank you. Thanks Katzmeow, I appreciate that. Didi says, hi Matt, my guy has been visiting family for a month. He said he would be gone for that long but it's been over a month now. Would it be okay to tell him I'm feeling unsafe because his return is open-ended? Well, I mean, have you guys been talking? Like what's the communication been like? What has he been telling you? Like has he been talking to you at all? Like we've only dated about three months but we're exclusive. Like what country are you in? What country did he go back to? Is he a citizen of your country? Like what do you mean he's, is it a different country? Is he in the same country? Like I'm not sure exactly what's going on here so you'd have to tell me a little bit more about your situation and like what kind of communication you've had since he's been gone and what he's kind of said about the situation.  You know, like when were you planning on coming back? I was just curious, you know? And if he hasn't told you that then that's definitely one of the first questions that you wanna have. Ms. Paranoid Android says, Matt, you're the best. Thanks for calming me down, you're welcome. You're welcome. Laura says, hello from East Tennessee, hello. Jin K says, what do you think or maybe it doesn't mean anything but a man who has never married, he's 60. Well he's probably, you know, people have patterns, right? So if he's never been married and he's 60, it means that he's probably never wanted to get married, right? And so you might wanna ask him about that. Like why haven't you gotten married at all?  I mean, if marriage is important to you and he's 60 and he's never been married, there's a really high probability chance that he's never getting married. I mean, really high probability chance because what's probably happened if, you know, let's say that he's met other women and he's dated other women and been in relationships before is he's probably talked himself out of getting married even with women that were probably good for him. And so if I were you, what I would make sure that you do is find out about that. I mean, if you want to get married, he's probably not the right guy for you. But if marriage isn't that important to you and really what you care about is the relationship, then you should be looking at relationship stuff instead of whether he's been married or not. But if marriage is important to you, then he's probably not the right guy unless he's looking at you and talking about it. So Odessa says, my ex-fiancé have maintained daily contact since I moved out but the shift is clear. He still takes care of me, he pays my phone bill, just helped me set up a website but as far as talking, we keep saying good morning and have a good day every day. Can I turn this around? Yeah, I mean, it's possible that you can definitely turn it around. It kind of depends on the situation with him, like why you guys broke up, right? So your ex-fiancé, you guys broke up for a reason and so there's a couple of different things there, right? If he broke up with you and you want to get back with him, he probably broke up with you for a very specific reason and he probably doesn't want to go back to the same situation or relationship that he was already in. And so you have to take care of that, those two things first, right? You need to come from a space where you're not kind of creating the same scenario. Like most people that break up with somebody, they don't want to get back into the same thing that they broke up with, right? Because usually what happens is they feel free at first and they're like, oh, yes, I'm so free, right?  And they're like, oh, you know, I go on these dates and it's really hard and everybody just wants to hook up, right?   And I'm not going back to that. And so you have to make sure that you clean that up and you take care of that. Usually it involves some kind of healing process, some kind of self-care, usually involves like creating an abundance of connection or an abundance of options, going out and meeting other people, creating a life outside of him, you know, re kind of building your self-identity and getting back to a space where you feel like you don't even really need him in your life but having him in your life would be really amazing and awesome. Arlene says, hi Matt, thank you so much for all your help. You are welcome. Hello from Romania. Thank you so precious. I'll actually be in Romania in two weeks. Be there in two weeks.  He was even speaking of marriage, all of a sudden total withdrawal three weeks in. Now what's the deal? Well, it kind of depends, right? Like, okay, so you guys were together for three years and he's speaking of marriage and all of a sudden he does a total withdrawal, right? Something happened. Something happened and he does a total withdrawal, right? Something probably happened around the point when he stopped talking about marriage, he stopped kind of moving his energy forward towards you and all of a sudden started withdrawing it and then there was a total withdrawal. And so you have to figure out, like there's no way for me to tell you what happened, right? Like you gave me one sentence, that's a question. You have to look at what happened. That's what you need to find out is what happened in that scenario. Was it something that was going on with you? Was it something that was going on with him? Was it a combination of things? Was there something that happened at his work? Was there, you know, what happened? What was going on? What led up to that period of time? And so you need to take a look at that. Viviana says, hi from California, love your videos. Thank you, you are welcome. Vanessa said, we dated two months, became exclusive but I broke up with him and now I regret it and he hates me. Well, if you're trying to get back with him, you know, you really have to, you're the one that's gonna have to mend things, right? And you're gonna have to make things chill and make things okay for him to feel safe to come back to you. It happens, it happens all the time. People do it all the time. They break up with somebody and they're like, ah, this is, you know, things were actually really good together. Luzette says they should try to win you over. Exactly, that should be your mindset. I love you, Jesus says, it's great name, by the way. I love you, I love you, Jesus.  He said he's coming to Brazil in two weeks but he is hot and cold almost every day. Thanks a lot for your help yet. Like I said, you have to tell me what that means. What do you mean by he's hot and cold? Every day, like every day he's hot and cold. What does that mean? That it sounds strange, right? Like it sounds really strange.  And so what do you mean by hot and cold? Cause it's either something that's absolutely normal or it's a giant red flag. And we have to know which one it is in order for us to help you with your situation. If you don't tell us, we won't know. By the way, I'm gonna be in Brazil in about a month, be in Brazil in about a month and a half, maybe. So Sharon says, I agree with that Matthew. Actions speak louder than words. Exactly. Almira says, Indonesia right here. I'm gonna go with your advice. Love this one. All right. Asia says, hi Matt. My long distance guy crush reached out to me out after I stopped calling for three weeks. He said, he's been thinking of me and hope I'm okay. I said, I am well and hope you're good too. Was that too cold? I mean, not necessarily.  Like it feels so good to hear your voice. Like come do that stuff where, do that stuff that Helena talks about where she comes just like the feeling stuff.  Which you don't necessarily have to do. I don't really teach that. You can do that. Like it feels really good to hear your voice or it's so nice to hear from you, right? Because then he knows, right?  And you're like, yeah, I'm well and I hope you're good too, right? It's kind of something that a friend would say to each other, right? And it's not necessarily encouraging him because there's a little ambiguity there which isn't necessarily bad. But if he's in a place where he hasn't talked to you in a while and you want to encourage him to talk to you, then just encourage the action, right? And you frame things, right? I have a program called the Love Frames Toolkit where I talk all about framing stuff and you wanna frame things where you're like, hey, I like this and framing that or saying, hey, that's really attractive or it feels so good to hear this, right?  So that's kind of what you wanna do in that kind of scenario. Asia says, don't want him to think I'm not interested anymore because I'm in love with him and have been for a couple of years now. Yeah, you just wanna encourage the behavior, right? You want to, whenever he does a behavior where he's moving his energy towards you, what you wanna do is encourage more of that behavior by acknowledging it and appreciating it, right? And so when you acknowledge and appreciate it and you're just like, hey, that's really, and you don't wanna go overboard with it, but just you can say it in that kind of sense if you're talking to him, you can say it like, I love it when you contact me, it just makes me feel so good, right? Like when you do that and you just leave it at that, right? It's in the kind of context of a larger conversation that makes him feel like, okay, like she loves it when I call her or when I talk to her or when I text her or whatever, I'm going to do more of that behavior, right? Because I want her to like me a lot. And so I'm gonna keep doing that. So Kay Foster says, a sense seo furth, if kids are important to you, you need a straight answer. I love you, Jesus. Yes, I want this dude to move towards me today. He says he loves me. Tomorrow he takes forever to show up, just weird. Well, I mean, it's one of those things where like, so what it sounds like, so thanks for kind of elaborating on your situation. What it sounds like is it's totally fine, right? And you're freaking out for no reason, right? Because you're overthinking this right now. And he's kind of in this situation where he's like, hey, I love you. And then the next day it takes him a while to show up, right? And start talking to you. And so it doesn't sound like there's anything wrong.  But what you need to realize is that this probably isn't a problem with him. It's probably just something that's going on with you. And so what you need to do is relax and get an abundance of connection and do the things that I talk about in the forever woman program where you just create a situation where you're not freaking out about him. And so you're relaxed and leaning back and allowing him to kind of do what he does. And so if you start overthinking it, you might end up doing some things that you regret later and that actually push him away when things weren't even, there wasn't even anything wrong in the situation. So, and there you go. I think I'll keep in contact with other guys too, exactly. There you go. Sharon says, when a guy is hot and cold, I only mirror. I agree that a guy should pursue. I do not like that rule of 50-50. I've been there, it doesn't work. It doesn't always work, right? And it doesn't work a lot of the time, especially in the initial phases of a dating scenario. You don't wanna be doing it in the initial phases. You want him to be moving his energy towards you. You want him to be investing. It's okay for you to do other stuff, but the more he's investing, the better situation you're in. And the less you're investing, the more power you have over the situation. And so it's not a bad thing to get to a space of 50-50, but it starts to get on that line of a scenario where you might actually end up making him feel a little bit of disinterest. And so, yeah. Anyway, Pam says, I met a man on social media two months ago. Within one month, he spoke of what he'd like to do to me. I told him that was not appropriate. He apologized and two weeks later, he brought it up again. What should I say? We only spoke via text or Skype. He lives two hours away, wants to meet up. I'm not sure anymore. Well, you shouldn't be sure about that one. That is, I mean, it's just, so here's different things that you need to know. One is that it's kind of a man's job to push things forward from a physical standpoint. If guys didn't push things forward from a physical standpoint, nobody would be hooking up ever, right? Like, it's very rare for women to be that aggressive physically. I mean, it's very rare. It does happen, but it's pretty rare. And so, he has to do that to some extent. But if you're kind of creating these boundaries and you're like, hey, I'm not, that's not appropriate. I'm not cool with that. I need love and connection and all these other things first. And he ignores that and he does it again anyway. Then what he's doing is he's stepping over your boundaries and he's seeing how you're gonna react to it. And my suggestion is that you should reward that behavior with your disappearance. That's my suggestion because that's gonna be happening more and more and more in your situation. And you wanna make sure, I mean, he wants to meet up and he's, it sounds like he's gonna be pushing it pretty hard. And so, like I said, you need to make sure that you're doing what I talk about in the forever woman formula, the forever woman program at the foreverwomanformula.com so that you're not kind of stuck on this dude. And it doesn't even sound like, it sounds to me like he is putting himself in a scenario where he is weeding himself out. He's screening himself out. And that's what I suggest that you do is you screen that guy out. Christy says long distance together one year had fight because I said I'm not feeling loved. Seems he puts a bare minimum, said I need actions not words gave him two days space. He didn't show love, he just gave up. Well, you have to tell us a little bit more about your long distance relationship. Have you guys met each other? Are you actually in a relationship? Do you meet up ever? Are you not meeting up at all? Like what is the scenario? You have to tell me more about it because if you are not meeting up then really what you need to be doing is going through my program. Because sounds, because it's, if you're in a situation we're not meeting up with them, it's a problem. It's a problem. So Millie Mel says women are emotional and men are logical. Eh, you know, men are also emotional but they just tend to be more rational about it. Women tend to be more kind of really connected to their emotions and less rational about their decisions and men tend to be more rational about their decisions but they still typically make decisions totally based on their emotions, right?  They're doing it because they're emotional and they want emotional needs met. Manon says short-term superficial stuff is, didn't finish, you didn't finish your sentence, Manon. Excuse me. Sharon says, yes, it's human behavior. We have to adapt to our environment just like our relationships, yes. Viviana says online dating to me is so hard because men feel like they have lots of options out there. It depends, some men do, right? Some men don't and so you have to, you know, it's, you wanna make sure that you're not like just dating players, right? Cause like online dating, yeah, there's a lot of options and depending on where you live, he might have a lot of options and depending on where you live, he might not have a lot of options because there's, typically right now, especially there's kind of this small group of men who are like getting most of the women. It's a very small group of men and they're all the players and the chads out there in the world and they're getting a lot of women and most of the guys in the world are in this world of not getting a lot of women and then there's this small, it's not that small, it's around 30% of men aren't getting any women at all, right? Those are the statistics and it doesn't matter if those guys are online or not, they're still not getting any women. So some men are and they have a lot of options and some men aren't and so you need to be making sure that you put yourself in the best possible situation and my suggestion is also that you meet men offline. That's the best place to meet men is to meet them offline, by far. Manon says, short term superficial stuff is not the right way to start a relationship. There you go, that's the finish of the sentence. Patty says, how many men should you actually date? Well, if you're gonna have an orbit of men, what you want to date, I mean, I wouldn't be seriously kind of getting into dating situations with more than two or three men, right? You can have more men who are kind of orbiting around in case you're kind of available for it but if you get past like three men, it turns into this world of I don't know what's going on. Who's that guy again? I don't remember his situation. What did he say to me? Well, I don't even remember what he does is a job, right? Cause you have so many options. It turns into too much and so you want to have an orbit of guys but you only want the guys that really kind of step up to your standards to talk to them and you only want guys that are really closer to what you're really looking for to be in that orbit if you have a lot of different options. Kathy says, men feel like they have a lot of options out there because women are giving it up so freely. That is what the hookup culture is all about. You need to stop giving them those options. Well, those options probably aren't going away anytime soon. So what you don't want to rely on is men not having those options. What you do want to rely on is being different and having standards, encouraging men to step up to those standards and doing the things that I talk about because if you're doing the things that I talk about you're going to be putting yourself into the best possible scenario that you can be in. Tukata says, thank you for expanding your thoughts and coaching Matt, you are welcome. Katzmeow says, many different options saying date a bunch of men. Carla says, I don't push at all. He was all in at first then backed off. Now what? Pacing, do pacing, pacing and mirroring. Just talked about it. R.S. says, if I lean back he tried to interact with me and again he is interesting. He makes me feel great when we are alone. What should I do? I'll get alone with him as much as possible. That's what, be alone with him if he makes you feel great when you're alone. So Mannin says, I think you have to know what men think and behave in a relationship to avoid getting hurt. Yeah, I mean you just have to set yourself up for success, right? And that's everything, my whole system is based on making sure that you are put in the best possible situation that you can be in. That's what all my work is about. Empowering you so that you are in a scenario where you are most likely to get exactly what it is that you want. My nose keeps itching. My grandma used to say that if your nose is itching somebody's thinking about you. Somebody out there thinking about me. Who's thinking about me? Are you thinking about me? Who's thinking about me out there? I'm just joking. Okay, so Michelle says good morning from Sydney. Hey handsome, good morning. I love you Jesus says I love your advice. Thanks, you are welcome. Manan says thank you Matthew for your great sense of humor. Well I'm glad you enjoy my sense of humor. I love you Jesus says you got me, he talks and then doesn't. Ha ha, I knew it. But talks to me as if I was his girlfriend. I'm gonna leave the door open to other guys. I need to learn your method. Yeah, you know, it's really, it's not that like, it shouldn't be that devastating, right? It shouldn't be that devastating to you that he talks to you and then doesn't talk to you during part of the day. You need to be like creating other things going on in your life so that you're not so obsessed with is this happening right now with him, right? We talked about that in depth. Carla says thank you Matt. Roseanne says hey Matt, you're losing weight. I don't know, am I losing weight? Does it look like I'm losing weight? Do I look, do I look like I'm losing weight? I don't know. Katzmeow says okay, here's my question. The guy I'm talking to just told me he loves me but I'm the one that is always asking when can I see you? I don't wanna feel desperate, not sure if he is still with his ex-wife. Well, that's a question you should definitely be asking and finding out more information about. Is he with his ex-wife? Are you with your ex-wife? Are you still like, I've got to, so, you know, it's kind of an interesting situation, right? So you're talking to a guy and he told you that he loves you but he might be with his ex-wife and so, like, that's a huge red flag, Katzmeow. It's a huge red flag. You gotta find that out, right? You gotta figure that out and you gotta make sure, like, if he's just leaving some woman, it's gonna take him some time to heal and there's a good chance he's gonna go back to her and if he's definitely with his ex-wife, you surely don't wanna spend any time with him at all or even talk to him anymore and so my suggestion would be that you just be straight up like, hey, are you still with your ex-wife, right, and just get it out of him and make sure that he is very clear with his answer with you and if he says that, if he says anything but no, never talk to him again. If he says no, be skeptical. If you think that he's with his ex-wife and he says that he's not, still be skeptical about it but give him the benefit of the doubt and make sure that you look for the signs to make sure that he's not. That's my suggestion. Hajain says, I have a guy that came on hot but has backed away. I let him go and I'm dating a few other guys. It's a little annoying though. I have to stay in touch with him as he's my financial advisor. Getting in touch with your financial, dating your financial advisor, that's a first. Okay, so what do we got going on here? Okay, so here's the deal guys. I know that you come and you're looking to be valued by a great guy, right? You want to be seen, you want to be loved, you deserve a guy who feels like you're too important to him to ever want to let you go, right? You deserve a committed relationship.  And we live in this world where there's the hookup culture and it's kind of devastating for a lot of people because it's a real challenge for a lot of people to get into real relationships for guys and women and some of it's not even by choice anymore. So many people have kind of gotten into these scenarios where they're just having these superficial relationships that it's hard for them to even move into something real again and so what I've done here is so I believe that relationships between men and women don't have to be so difficult. Being loved and cherished in a committed lasting relationship, it shouldn't just be for people who get lucky, right? Dating shouldn't be so hard for people. And so I've put together a program called The Forever Woman and you can go get it at theforeverwomanformula.com And really it's a system to help you put yourself in the best possible scenario so that you get into the relationship that you wanna have. And so what it helps you do is it helps you believe in your value as a woman. It helps position you yourself in a position where you know that you're gonna be valued by men and it helps you communicate your value to whatever men that you're with so that you get men who see your value and treat you like an amazing valuable woman that you are. And so we're done with this video. My suggestion is there should be a link above or below this video. If not, go to theforeverwomanformula.com. There's a video there, watch the video. If you want, you can join our community there. Use our resources that we have. Get connected with the other women that are in our community so that they can help you with any questions that you have. We also have an anonymous forum where our coaches will help you with any questions that you have specific to your scenario and just get into a position where you can have the best chance to get into the relationship that you wanna have. So my suggestion is that you go over to theforeverwomanformula.com. You can go and join our program there for free.  You can stay in our program if you want to. If not, that's fine. You get to keep theforeverwoman program and you get it for free. So if you don't go and do this, it's like if you're having a hard time right now, like you're gonna continue to have a hard time unless you do something differently. And so you wanna stop doing what you've been doing and get the best information you possibly can that'll set you up in a scenario where you will get into the relationship that you've always wanted to have. And so make sure that you go over to theforeverwomanformula.com. If you love, if you enjoy my materials, if you like this video, make sure you go out, go over and check that out, learn more about our community. And thank you so much for being here. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey. Thank you for trusting me and giving you information. We've helped so many women that have been a part of our community that are doing some amazing things that have gone from feeling like they're completely frustrated to being in a scenario where they have so many options that it's hard for them to choose. And it's so cool to see women going from this place where they're struggling to a place where they feel loved, where they feel like they're important again, where they feel like they can actually have the relationship that they want, where they feel like they have the power to really control what kind of a relationship that they get into. And so thank you so much for being here with me today. And I will speak with you again in the next video. So I'll talk to you, talk to you all later.


Hey everyone, Drew with Geoalarm and I am back to talk to you about the Geoalarm system and how to get the GeoWFD water and freeze detecting sensor enrolled into the panel. This is a very easy thing to do. All we're going to need to do here is go ahead and start off with pressing the hamburger icon up in the top left hand corner. It will ask us for our passcode. We go ahead and enter our four digit code. Mine is one, two, three, four. At this point, we are then going to go to devices. At devices, you're going to hit the plus sign up in the top right hand corner. All right, so we're going to be enrolling a flood detector, so you just choose the flood option. Okay, so you turn this over and there's a button down here. See it tells you exactly what you need to do, you just press and hold that down. Okay, so now my water sensor has been enrolled and now wants us to select a location. I'm just going to say patio entry, whatever it is, right? Okay, so she's telling us what to do here. Okay, she's telling you to install it. Once you've installed it, you're going to come back to your panel and all you have to do is just hit done. At that point, it will confirm that your device has been added. At this point, it's good to be mounted. This is how you enroll the device. Now if you want to delete it, it's really just as easy as clicking on the device, going into it and then clicking delete. So it has a toggle. If you just want to make it inactive for a little bit, you plan on re-adding it again at some point. You could just toggle the switch to make it inactive, it'll disable it. But in this case, I am going to delete the sensor. So I just click delete. Okay, the sensor has now been deleted. As you can see, there's nothing left except for the door I have in there and my door bell. So this, ladies and gentlemen, is how you program and delete the GWFD water and freeze detector for the all new Geoalarm system. If you have any questions or any comments, please leave them below. Other than that, take care and have a great day.


Hello, Welcome to SSUni Tech, so say this side and today we are going to see one more real-time ADF interview question and answer. So in this video we are going to see how we can archive the file after loading. So here for example we are having a source and that source is the csv file in the blog storage. So first we want to load that data from that csv file to the SQL Server. So after loading the file into the SQL Server we want to archive this file. So we are also having another folder on the same blog storage where we will be going to keep that file. So how we can do that? We will see in this video. So let me quickly go into the browser and here as we can see we are under the input folder. So here the file which is the customer details.csv file and it is having total 4 columns with the employee name, address, department name and gender. Inside the csv we are having the table which is the customer info along with all these details. So we want to load the data from this file to the csv table first and after that we need to move this file from this input folder to this testing folder. So this is the actual requirement and as I told you this is the archival of the file. So the file should not be there inside the input folder. So this file will be moved from here to there. How we can achieve this? So go to on the azure data factor. Here first let me try to create a new pipeline and in this pipeline first we are required to use the copy data activity. So this will be going to load the data into the csv table. So as in the source side we have to click on this new. Go to the azure blog stories, delimited text file. Here we can select the link service that we have already created. Here we can see the file path so we can browse and we can go under the input folder and inside the input folder we will see the file which is the customer details.csv. Now we can click on ok. First row as header click on ok. So we have set up for the source as in delimited text one. So in this thing we want to load the data into the csv table. So here we have to select the azure sql database as an destination. Click on continue. Link service as we have already created the link service and here we need to select the table which is the customer info table. Click on ok. So now it will be going to load the data into the destination table. Second as I told you we have to also move the file from this input folder to the testing folder. So first I want to copy this file from here input folder to the testing folder. So for that let me try to use one more copy data activity and this copy the file from input folder to testing folder. Here we have already created the data set so we can use that that is the delimited text one. So in the sync we have to create a new data set and this is pointing to azure blob storage delimited text and here we can select the link service and we can browse the path where we want to keep the file. So we want to keep the file under the testing folder click on continue. First row as header so we can keep that and click on ok. So these two copy data activity will be going to copy the data into the csv table first and second copy the file to the testing folder. The next thing that we need to delete the file which is available at the source. So we have to use the delete activity and need to connect with the copy data one as well as with the copy data two. So once these two activities will be completed then delete activity will be executed. So in the delete activity simply we want to delete the file which is available at the input folder so in the logging setting we don't want to enable the logging. So this is the process that we have to follow let me try to execute and verify. So here the copy data activity one will be executed so data will be inserted into the csv table copy data two will be executed so file will be copied from input folder to archive folder that is the testing one. So here we have to wait until this will not be executed. So as we can see copy data one and two both are executed with success. So go to the SQL server and here let me try to refresh the table. So here we will see the data as we can see similarly we can go inside the testing folder. So inside the testing folder we will see the file that we can see customer details dot csv file now here we can go inside the input folder so we should not see the customer details dot csv file. So that is gone from here. So if we want to move the file then we have to follow this process. So thank you so much for watching this video see you in the next video.


Yw'r Worshipful Mayor, dystinguish guests, the Pro-Vice Chancellor of the Faculty of Education, Health and Human Sciences, University of Greenwich, Professor Derek Moore. Well thank you, good morning. My name's Derek Moore and I am the Pro-Vice Chancellor of this fantastic faculty. Dear graduands, families, honoured guests, the Worshipful Mayor, friends and family and members of our university community, it's my absolute honour to welcome you to today's graduation ceremony. As the Pro-Vice Chancellor of this fantastic faculty, it's my pleasure to be the first to congratulate our wonderful graduates on your amazing achievements.  More recently, you also managed to get your tickets for today, which I am told are almost as sought after as those of Taylor Swift. And managed to get into your robes and have managed to balance your hats on your heads and are all looking very sharp in your outfits. So in celebration of both your resilience and tutorial elegance and skills on Ticketmaster, I would like to start today's ceremony by asking every single person to put your hands together and give a huge round of applause to the graduates of the University of Greenwich. Okay, now that's not a bad start, but generally, you know, this is a celebration. So what I would really like you to do is take the roof off the chapel. So let's have another go. Come on. Okay, that's better. It's not quite Taylor Swift, but it's better. Now this chapel is a truly special place in which to celebrate and host today's ceremony. It reminds us of the University's 130-year history as a seat of learning in which we take enormous pride. This heritage is one of high standards of teaching, research and enterprise and the reason why thousands of students from across the world come to study with us. And we continue to build and enrich our legacy every year, and last year was no different. There are too many fantastic achievements to mention them all, but I would like to highlight a few in a little bit of time I have available. So this year we saw the graduation and we see the graduation of the first NMC-approved midwives to be trained as degree apprenticeships, the first in the world. And we also have launched a new midwifery programme at Medway to help tackle workforce issues in Kent. We continue through our Institute for Life Course Development to undertake research and knowledge exchange that has significant national and international impact and that informs our teaching. For example, Dr Charlotte Stoner is being funded by the National Institute for Health Research to help support people when they're diagnosed with dementia. And Dr Sajid Humaian is being funded by the Youth Endowment Fund to evaluate family therapy interventions to reduce child criminal exploitation. All very important work. And last year we officially launched the Greenwich Learning and Simulation Centre, GLASC. This is where we use life-like mannequins, virtual and augmented reality and live actors to simulate and recreate a variety of scenarios using our fully equipped hospital wards, our critical care unit and operating theatres and other settings. And this allows us to recreate a whole range of typical and rare emergency and team working situations that our healthcare workers may face so they can practice in a safe space and are ready and prepared when these situations come along later in their careers. This has included in the last two years the simulation of mass casualty events that give our paramedic students other opportunities to experience what these would be like should they ever have to attend to them. And we are particularly proud of the work we do to ensure our simulation training embraces and represents the full diversity of the service users we work with. And our team is really proud to have developed together with our partner, Lifecast, the world's first healthcare mannequin of a child with Down syndrome, Gwen. And that's a real testament to the innovation of our team. Many of you will have used these facilities in the last few years, which we actually built during lockdown and they are the most advanced in the country. And this is not just a facility for you to use have used in these last few years but also for you to return to for continuing professional development over your future careers. And we have been visited by many MPs and policy makers in the last year who have come to see how simulation can help the UK expand their capacity to train more healthcare workers. And to confirm how prestigious our work is last year our team of academics and technicians led by Professor Sharon Weldon and Charles Everard won two prestigious Zenith Global Health Awards. Now other staff as well, many other staff have also received distinguished awards this year. For example, three of our community nursing staff members Helen Elliott, Emma Whittle and Prince Sanko Amin's mill, sorry, were given the title of Queen's Nurse this year. I think that's an intervention. They've also been some wonderful individual successes that show how amazing our students are. For example, Cherry See who was awarded Student Nurse of the Year by Maidstone and Tumbridge Wells NHS Trust and Anna Stocks, sorry, Amy Stocks who was named Learner of the Year at the Student Nursing Times Awards. And these are amazing achievements and many of our students, as you hopefully will do go on to be national leaders. For example, Suzanne Sweeney who graduated in 2015 is now director of the London Neonatal Network hosted by guys in St Thomas's Hospital one of the largest and most high-achieving NHS trusts in the country and she received an OBE in 2020 for transforming the care of very sick preterm babies. Now what I'd like to do now is have a round of applause for all our successes past and present of our students and staff. I think they've lost energy again, don't you? Come on, let's have a really big round of applause. That's better, thank you, thank you. So look, if you set your mind to it and heart I know that all of you can achieve extraordinary things just like the many alumni who were sitting in your seats some time ago. There are many more examples of Greenwich graduates who've gone on to become world leaders, Nobel Prize winners, influential campaigners, musicians or business owners and you can learn more about those if you look at our Greenwich Portrait Series. Now I along with everyone at the university look forward with interest to see how your careers develop and how you shape your future. Sticky pages. Graduating and going out into your professional world can be daunting but I have full faith that each and every one of you will go on to do amazing things and have long and impactful careers and I know that together we have done everything we can to set you on the right track and perhaps unlike High Speed 2 I'm certain that that track is actually going to be extended and lead you to a successful future. For today and for the future I offer you my very best wishes and sincere congratulations on your achievements today and I'll finish by drawing on the words of Nelson Mandela who said education is the most powerful weapon with which you can use to change the world. Greenwich graduates of 2023 go and change the world. Thank you. Greenwich Students Union officer Sadiq Lawaw. Hello everyone and a very warm welcome to you all. My name is Sadiq Ayobamilawaw and I have the privilege of serving as one of the elected Greenwich Student Union officer for this academy year. This means that I represent the world for all students studying at every Greenwich and Midway. I am honoured to be here today to share this celebration with you and your loved ones. After years of late night in the library, assessment, lectures and a lot of hard work you did it and we could not be prouder so can we get a big share for you all please. Let us also make some noise to our friends and families who share this journey with us who laugh with us sometimes they panic with us but they are the ones that got us here today so let's give them a share please. Finally to the ones who have supported us the academics, the support staff the student leaders we couldn't have done it without your patience your guidance and your kindness so let's have a big share for them also. And now today you become an alumni part of a fantastic community of Greenwich students who no matter where they go they always have a home here I am sure you all are going to achieve great things and share the knowledge you have learned over the years you as a Greenwich graduate will take pieces of us with you and continue to be in this community I am so proud to be here to see you begin this next chapter thank you for letting me be part of your story so it's time to enjoy this moment reflect on your accomplished mesh and above all celebrate with your loved ones thank you so much. Vice Chancellor I now call upon Alison Cork Programme Leader to present you award holders from the Faculty of Education, Health and Human Sciences Vice Chancellor I have the honour to present to you the award holders from the Faculty of Education, Health and Human Sciences from the School of Health Sciences for the Degree of Bachelor of Science Adult Nursing Sylvia Abotu Ola Wumi, Omalara, Adam Alakin Ola Yudi, Ola Bacola, Adedara, Ola Deli Ymisi, Elizabeth, Adiai Ola Bacola, Agarra, Jackson Nekha, Henrietta, Agu Ola Bumi, Ola Waishan, Egbodi Dylan, Otiki, Egbogan, Egbogan Veronica, Damolola, Ajay Ola Lardee, Modipiola, Ajowoli Ola Niki, Restodat, Ajabola Eniola, Joseph, Akindaini Adabacola, Ola Waishan, Ola Lardee Imuintin, Azimsen Jennifer, Ayn, Apau Vera, Ari Juliana, Asidua Oma, Balanley, Sharifa, Ayn, Laja Ola, Bacola, Damoli, Babilola Rhi, Christian, Sharon, Bade Ola, Tosi, Badejo Ola, Bisi, Aduki, Bacari Charlotte, Mamber, Therese, Brett Nicole, Carol, Burroughs Emilia, Coleman Ola, Osimhae Min, Daniel, Green, Rotondo Louise, Dipros Shella, Dobo Kenneth, Andrew, Donahee Hannah, Donka Paulina, Marta, Dusha Rita, Obi, Egwabaw Luchia, Ovigueri, Eroho Queen, Daly, Ekator Ngozi, Asenwer Natasha, Kadine, Ever Joseph, Ikatukku, Izzy Ian, Fletcher Riamah, Serre, Fofanna Lydia, Godfrey Abbey, Gooding, Jax Taylor, Jean, Graham Sushma, Gurung Abdi, Nesia, Hassan Abdi, Karim, Osman, Harabbe Para, Horsley Khadija, Noor, Hussain Natalie, Jane, Hutton Enkoree, Kefany, Onero Chukwabuka, Francis, Eguizi Abbi Oden, Rachel, Egyrodi Doris, Chinwyi, Ekajimba Conor, Lee, Evan Bethany, Elizabeth, Jones Wacabo Jasmine, Jessica, Knight Christiana, Akiya, Kudua Jo, Foloshadi, Caleoso Llys, Chima, Cawadio Jo, Morgzato, Cushala Gladys, Tele, Veronica, Lackle Romina, Lugato Bethany, Mae, Maplesdon Melda, Mary, Martin Georgina, Elizabeth, Patricia, Macan Jessica, Magorin Aliatu, Mohamed Eni, Hazel, Mapanda Joyce, Muhaki, Mathukia Itha, Akta, Naeem Greta, Peter and Duka Itha, Akesua, Intel Kate, Ijio, Manwadazi Isfumi, Abbasohan Chineni, Izakimoa, Obi Grace, Oden, Yami Rosalyn, Foloshadi, Ogundi Shiyoma, Cynthia, Akiki Ocarodi Kisha, Ann, Oliver Oledynton, Oloethobi Adoniki, Faisara, Oni, Osanmi Sylvia, Oshifade Edna, Osondi Yvonne, Adatwam, Ousu Tinuola, Teo, Fakat, Ayabamji Patricia, Ann, Nicole, Sason, Palomo Orak, Ishmel, Hajimuza, Patel Prasanna, Rai Oyan, Odatun, Rifi Ruizda, Alegria, Garcia, Echilira Eisekinat, Szilagia Foloshadi, Yutundi, Seneiki Void, Tego Claudine, Tala Haban, Berhitechi Monika, Tinawe Belinda, Valentine Gin, Willoughby Shagon, Samson, Zubair Eniola, Adasola, Osonnoe Fy ddiagri ffatullwf science nursing bracket adult nursing Shanoi, Kamara, Devanya, Edge Rhaenys, Pyrrhus, Mae, Howard, Harrison Yulita, Zinavashi, Karen, Rytami Enkechi, Okwagu Ninilawa, Grace, Oli, Emi Divitch, Pradel Margaret, Samura Eve, Sifra, Sena Fatima, Silla Dwynsola, Sabawali Amber, Tyll Bair, Patel, Juliet, Tathar, Barney, Windsor Tutu Vice-Chancellor, mae'n rhan o'n cais ei gael yw cyfride agoradau i gyfridegau Ffacultynau, Fefolodau, Llyfridol Fy ddod, mae'n gweld wedi'ch gyfridegau o'r hiradau Llyfridol Pwyshys Ysbydd, Jane Harrington ddod i ddod i ddod i ddod I ddod o'n cyfridegau Mae'n ganddo dda'n ddod i ddod i ddod i ddod i ddod So, I would like to ask all of our lovely graduates if you could all stand up please and could you face your family and friends for me. Okay? Okay, hang on a minute, right? I'm going to say some formal words and then the paparazzi will be ready for you. Right, by virtue of the powers vested in me as Vice-Chancellor of the University of Greenwich, I confer upon all those who have been awarded the title, award and honours to which you are entitled. So in other words, you are all now graduates. Well done. And you can all sit down now please. I'll have you up again in a minute. Don't worry, there's lots of opportunities for photos. Okay, as the Vice-Chancellor and Chief Executive Officer of the University of Greenwich, it is my absolute honour and privilege to formally congratulate you all on graduating today. Now, it is a day of celebration and it is absolutely fantastic that we can celebrate with so many of you. And I had been warned actually that you were probably the noisiest crowd we ever get. Now, today is an important day for you but it's also really important for everybody who's supported you along the way. And I really want you to take a moment to think about those people who've helped you, your family, your friends, your lecturers. And I do know you want to thank them so I'm going to get you to stand up and I'd like you to face them and I'm going to count you into three and I want you to show them with as much noise as you can how much you really appreciate them. Okay, stand up, face them all. Okay, one, two, three. Just stay standing a minute. I'm just a minute. I'm just going to ask our head for it better. Okay, we do all think you could do better than that actually. Right, so are you ready? One, two, three. Lovely, I think that you have all been really appreciated. You may sit down now, thank you. Now graduation marks the end of an important part of your lives and the beginning of the next and each of you has taken a unique journey to get to this moment. And as you walk out today you are taking with you wonderful memories, friends that you've made, skills that you have gained and each and every one of your accomplishments. And what I ask you to do over the next few weeks is to find somewhere quiet to sit down and make a record of all of those accomplishments. So at some point in your life when you need to be reminded of what you can achieve it's there for you to refer to. Now we know that many of you have juggled multiple responsibilities, cared for your families and you've persevered despite all of the challenges that life has thrown at you. You didn't give up, you are here and you are graduating. So you have every right to be incredibly proud of your achievements, to be incredibly proud of your resilience and to be incredibly proud of the determination that you have shown and always remember that you did it. Now throughout the last year the University of Greenwich has also had some amazing success. We've been named by Student Crowd as the best UK University in 2023. I agree. And it is actually the only award that's based entirely on student reviews and this outstanding result really is a testament to the dedication and work that we do to support students that enriches your overall experience with us. And throughout the past year our team has worked tirelessly to provide extensive costs of living support including doubling our hardship fund, giving out vouchers, providing free meals and much more. And we've also made significant investments in our mental health and wellbeing services, expanding our provision to provide a wider range of in-person and online dropping sessions. And we also really hope that you all enjoyed and made the most of the diverse array of events that have been available on our campuses such as career mentoring, design shows, mock trials, shark expo and many others. And also the wonderful simulation that you now available for all of you. And these engaging activities were designed to foster personal growth, enhance your skills and create memorable experiences. Now in June the University achieved a significant milestone by being ranked among the top 100 global institutions in the times higher impact rankings. And these measure our contribution to society and the planet. And we're really proud to have been ranked 20th in the category of reducing inequalities. We also have amazing research happening and it's making a real difference to people's lives locally and across the globe. And just to mention two to you, Professor Josh Davis is researching super recognisers. These are people who have exceptional capacity for memorising and recognising unfamiliar faces which in turn supports national and international police forces. Also Professor Rosanna Pechella, the director of our Institute for Life Course Development, is part of a worldwide partnership looking at the prevalence of child abuse and neglect. And this year results of her work reported in Australia are having a major impact on policy there. And she's now working in partnership with the UK National Statistics Office to develop a new national survey that looks at the prevalence of child abuse and neglect in the UK. All I'm sure you'll agree are really important pieces of research. Now finally this year, the University of Greenwich has been ranked eighth in the People and Planet University League and that really is a great achievement as we've climbed up 15 places. And our students always tell me that sustainability is their number one priority. So this is particularly special achievement for us because it recognises our green and ethical credentials. During the welcome speech, you've already heard of some of the great things that colleagues in your faculty have achieved throughout the last few years. And I want us to take a moment now to really recognise the wonderful faculty and the wider teams working at the university because no institution exists without its staff. These are the people who supported you on your journey with us as well. And what I'm going to do is I'm going to ask all of our academic and professional services staff to stand up. I think you stand up and round the room. I like the sponsor.  Normally I have to encourage everyone to clap and cheer. You're great. But I agree with you. I really would like to thank the Pro Vice-Chancellor, the faculty's senior team, the head of school and each and every member of staff to support our students because they do make the University of Greenwich what it is, which is a wonderful, friendly and supportive place to be. So from me to you, thank you. Shall we let them sit down? Yeah, you can sit down now, thank you. Graduates, we want you to go out to the world and be proud of the institution that you will always be part of. Our new strategy 2030 is extremely ambitious about what the future holds for us and for our students. We want to have net zero carbon emissions. We want to ensure that all of our graduates have the best future for them. We want to be the best modern university in the UK and to be in the top 30 of the Guardian League table by 2030. And we will do this and we will do it by being inclusive, collaborative, impactful and by putting students and staff, mental health and wellbeing at the core of what we do. So we promise you to continue to work really hard and continue to improve in the future so that you can always be proud of us. Now graduates, as of today, you have joined a global alumni community that is now over 270,000 strong and more than ever this community is a really powerful resource to lean on because they along with the university are really are here to help you to progress in your graduate career and navigate the next stages of your journey. So on behalf of the University of Greenwich I wish each and every one of you huge congratulations on your wonderful successes and I look forward to hearing about your future successes too. Well done everyone, congratulations. Vice-chancellor, pro-vice-chancellor, your worshipful mayor. This completes this morning's presentation of successful award holders of the University of Greenwich congratulations graduates of 2023. Would guests please remain seated until the processions have left the chapel and await instructions from stewards. Thank you.