This video should go viral. Here's a narcissist eating humble pie. In my previous video, I've mispronounced catamin as catamine. Why is that? For two reasons. One, English is my fourth language, out of six. And inevitably, I mispronounce a few words here and there. But ironically, I've been saying catamin all my life. Why did I say catamin last night, yesterday? Because of Microsoft. Like numerous people over the past 40 years, I chose to trust Microsoft. And there's no mistake greater than that, except voting for Donald Trump. So Microsoft has this thing called read a loud engine. And whenever I said catamin, the read a loud engine would spring to life and correct me and say catamine, catamin, catamin, catamin, it became a power play. And like the Department of Justice, I gave in to Microsoft. And I decided to continue my video saying catamin. But of course, the correct pronunciation is catamin. You don't have to trust me. Go and check it out for yourself. Write the word catamin in a Word document and ask Microsoft to pronounce it for you. Okay. The second comment I've received is that you shouldn't say medication or treatment regime, but you should say medication or treatment regimen. That's wrong. Both are legitimate. You can definitely say regime or regimen. Regimen is simply the Latin version of regime. Okay, enough linguistic for one day. I hope the message of my video yesterday hadn't been lost in this gleeful exposition of my faux pas. And the message was simple. I think psychedelics hold a big promise when it comes to depression and anxiety. Regrettably, there is no science to back up this hope. So everything online is hype, not science. End of story. I'm strongly in favor of conducting placebo-controlled clinical trials of psychedelics. I think they hold an even bigger promise than antidepressants and anxiolytics. That's where I stand. Or actually, that's where I sit. And today we are going to discuss what else sex, and I hope I don't mispronounce any of the words related to this sacred, hallowed act, mini. I want to clarify one thing. Cerebral narcissists rarely have sex. The majority of cerebral narcissists are asexual or sexless, celibate, obstinate. By definition, any narcissist who is sexually active is not cerebral, he is somatic. I coined the phrases cerebral narcissist and somatic narcissist in 1995 and I was the first to describe the differences between them. Somatic narcissists derive narcissistic supply from their bodies and the functionalities of their bodies. Anything from bodybuilding to sex. They use their bodies to obtain supply. The cerebral narcissist, on the other hand, is bespectacled and he uses his intelligence and intellect. He leverages them to obtain accolades and applause, attention, affirmation, adulation and admiration. Public intellectuals are usually cerebral narcissists. Cerebral narcissism, therefore, is very distinct from somatic narcissism. Not only in the way the supply is secured, but in the locus of grandiosity. The cerebral narcissist is grandiose by virtue of his self-perception as a unique and precedent genius. The somatic narcissist is grandiose because he believes himself to be irresistible and he believes his body to be a unique work of art. Sometimes, and I've discussed this in previous videos, I encourage you to go back in the last two weeks, I've made several videos about collapse, about depression, in narcissism and so on. It would be good if you watch this before you watch this one, but you know. So in some situations, there is an incomplete transition between cerebral and somatic. Generally, there's no type constancy. Narcissist gravitates and cycles between cerebral phases and somatic phases, but sometimes the process gets stuck. And when it does, there is something which I call the binary system. The binary system is when in the same body of the narcissist, in the same narcissist, you find overt and covert types, overt and covert phases or stages or states coexisting. Similarly, a binary system could be comprised of a somatic state and a cerebral state in unhappy coexistence. Of course, when you have a binary system, there are a lot of clashes. Binary system is typical of a period of switching. When the narcissist tries to switch from cerebral to somatic, sometimes the collapse phase is very protracted. The narcissist is getting just enough supply and maintenance dose to keep him trapped in the previous type and not fully transitioned into the other type. So then we have a binary system in the narcissist cycles very rapidly between abstinence and hypersexuality. So let me summarize. This is very difficult material. A narcissist is dominantly cerebral or dominantly somatic. But when he fails to obtain narcissistic supply, he switches to the other type. The cerebral switches to somatic, the somatic attempts to switch to the cerebral type. This process of switching is essentially called collapse. The collapse is the inability to obtain supply and the dysphoria and depression that accompanies this inability. The narcissist is shattered. He decompensates. His defenses crumble and he tries desperately to transition to the other type. Sometimes this transition takes a long time. It takes years, in some cases years, because the collapse is not complete. Enough supply is coming in to maintain the previous state, but not to fully transition to the new state. So then we have, for example, somatic cerebral hybrids. And the narcissist can't make up his mind, so to speak. Sometimes he's hypersexual and promiscuous. Sometimes he's totally dead. As far as sex is concerned, he's hypersexual or even asexual. As far as the intimate partner is concerned, such rapid cycling between types is perceived as approach avoidance cycle. When the narcissist is more somatic and is interested in sex, he approaches the partner. But then the cerebral, in this tug of war, the cerebral takes over and the narcissist withdraws and avoids the partner, becomes sex averse. On and off. Yes sex, no sex, hypersexual, hyposexual, over and above, nothing at all. This is the approach avoidance cycle or approach avoidance repetition compulsion. The intimate partner can't make head or tails of the situation. It's very, very disorienting and confusing. This interim period of a binary system which characterizes switching and the collapse usually lasts a few weeks at most. But in some cases, as I said, it can last for years. Binary systems are dissonant because the cerebral and the somatic are competing for narcissistic supply in ways which are mutually exclusive and totally incompatible. So there's a lot of dissonance inside, a lot of conflict. Consequently, a binary system is dysregulated. It does not allow the narcissist to regulate himself by creating or engineering a safe environment with a stable flow of narcissistic supply. And where do we have this regulation is a core feature in borderline personality disorder. We can say that binary systems are dissonant and dysregulated. So they resemble very much a borderline personality structure. Indeed, Grozstein has suggested long ago that borderlines are incomplete narcissists. Narcissists who had failed, children who had failed to attain narcissism. So they got stuck in the middle as borderline. So when the narcissistic defenses collapse, when the narcissists can no longer obtain narcissistic supply, he regresses and his fallback position, his default, is the borderline state. Every narcissist has borderline phases, which is one of the main reasons I am strongly opposed to all these separate diagnosis. I think there should be only one diagnosis of personality disorder because every person with any personality disorder is experiencing all the other personality disorders. This is why we have such high comorbidity, diagnosing more than one personality disorder in the same person. So when the narcissist switches from cerebral to somatic, there's a period of collapse, a period of transition, and it lasts for a while, it takes a while. During this period, there's a binary system which is conflictual, conflictive and dissonant and resembles very much borderline behavior. Ironically, in healthy normal people, depression leads to a reduction in libido, a reduction in the sex drive. Depressed people don't have sex, depressed people are not looking for sex, they're not interested, they become essentially asexual. Exactly the opposite happens with the narcissist. When the narcissist experiences a collapse, he becomes depressed, but it is his depression that pushes the narcissist to become more sexual. How can we explain this?   It's likely to overpower you, to overwhelm you.  This is the only case we know of where depression leads to enhanced sexuality, it's the only case we know of, only group of people where dysphoria, depression leads to hypersexuality, more sex, not less sex and a much more acute and demanding sex drive. How can this be explained? Freud to the rescue. Now people are carping and complaining, especially professionals. Why do I keep quoting Freud? This passe is not a scientist, he's disparage, no one is teaching Freud anywhere in the world. Well, people do many stupid things, one of them is to not teach Freud, Freud didn't get everything right and he was more of a literary figure than a psychologist, I fully agree. But his insights are incalculably accurate, exactly like Dostoevsky. So I do sometimes hark back to Freud and his ideas, and one of the main ideas of Freud was the process of sublimation. Freud said that we have many urges, he called it the id, never mind, we have many urges and these urges could be dangerous if we were to act on them without any constraints and inhibitions. Freud said okay in the process of socialization, we'll learn to control our urges and drives, we'll learn to render them, express them in ways that are socially acceptable. And this is called sublimation, we're not likely, if we feel horny, we're not likely to go out and rape someone, that would be socially unacceptable, that would be non-sublimated, but we're likely to date. Dating and casual sex are forms of sublimation. But sublimation has another manifestation, another way to express. We can take one drive, or urge, and convert it into another. For example, we have sexual urge, or sex drive, which is an integral part of the libido which is the force of life according to Freud. So instead of having sex, we can write a book, it's another form of sublimation. It's channeling the energy in a way that is socially acceptable. So sublimation is crucial.  The cerebral narcissists is not asexual.  The cerebral narcissists is fully sexual. We know this because when he transitions to the somatic phase, he becomes sexually hyperactive, so he does have a sex drive.  He converts his sex drive into intellectual activities. Consequently, when the cerebral narcissists collapses, when he is unable to obtain narcissistic supply via his intellect and intelligence, when no one pays attention to him, when no one watches his YouTube videos, at that point, the sublimation stops. He is unable to convert his sex drive into intellectual pursuits because intellectual pursuits don't garner him narcissistic supply and attention anymore. Are you following the sequence? The cerebral narcissist uses his intellect to obtain narcissistic supply. He displays his intelligence, like a peacock fanning its tail, so he displays his intelligence in ways that attract attention, and approbation, and adulation, and admiration. When this fails, he is no longer able to obtain narcissistic supply.  If there is a collapse and the intellectual activities cannot guarantee supply, there is no point in the sublimation of the sex drive.  So a collapse and the ensuing dysphoria, the cerebral narcissists incapacity to sublimate anymore, lack of utility in sublimation, because why sublimate? Sublimation is a lot of effort, it takes a lot of energy, it's energy depleting, it takes a lot of energy to convert your sex drive into intellectual activities, you have to suppress the sex drive, you have to convert it, you're transforming, it's a lot of work. And if it doesn't yield any supply, why bother, better? Just have a sex drive like everyone else. So the collapse and the dysphoria destroy the ability, the capacity to sublimate, because the narcissist sees no point in sublimating, and then it renders the cerebral sexual again. The sex drive remains unsublimated. And so this facilitates the switching from a cerebral phase to a somatic phase.  So when the cerebral can no longer sublimate his sex drive, and this renders him sexual, he becomes somatic. Now there are two variants of somatic, there's the shared fantasy, single partner somatic, and there is the promiscuous somatic. This is again a lot of nonsense online by self-styled experts and so on and so forth. But since I'm the one who came up with the idea of somatic narcissists, I think I may have some priority in defining what it is. So there are definitely somatic narcissists who are attached to a single partner in a shared fantasy. The test of the somatic narcissists is whether he obtains supply, narcissistic supply via his body through the use of his body, whether he leverages his body to obtain supply. He can do that absolutely with one partner. If the partner regards him, provides him with supply, for example when they're having sex. In other words, if the partner admires and adulates the narcissistic sexuality or his body, then it doesn't need much more than that. Within the shared fantasy, this type of somatic narcissists, all his needs are met. Narcissistic supply is generated by the single partner in a shared fantasy. So this is one variant of somatics. The other variant of somatic narcissists is indeed the classic one, promiscuous, casual sex all over the place, a player and a predator. So what determines when the cerebral transitions to the somatic and when the dominant type is somatic? What determines which type of somatic will occur? What determines for the narcissist which type of somatic is going to become? What determines which subspecies of somatic the cerebral turns out to be is the narcissists' socio-sexuality. So some narcissists are predominantly somatic. Some narcissists are predominantly cerebral, but they switch to somatic after collapse and depression. In both cases, there are two subtypes, shared fantasy single partner somatic and promiscuous somatic, and what determines which subtype will prevail for which narcissists. In other words, what determines for me if I transition tomorrow, as I have done six years ago, on a transition to somatic, what determines for me whether I transition to a single partner somatic or to a promiscuous somatic is my index of psychosexuality.  So the higher the index of the more unrestricted the socio-sexuality and the lower the level of disgust, the more likely that the resulting somatic phase will be promiscuous. The more restricted the socio-sexuality and the higher the level of disgust, the more likely the somatic period or somatic type will be single partner shared fantasy somatic. This is how the trajectory is determined. Subtypes can also collapse. For example, a somatic can start off as a single partner shared fantasy somatic and then experience a collapse. In other words, relationship failure, rejection, abandonment and so on. When the subtype collapses, when the shared fantasy collapses, this somatic narcissist can then transition to the other subtype, to a promiscuous subtype. So we can see a sequence such as this, a cerebral narcissist, predominantly cerebral narcissist. Then there is a collapse and depression. Then there is switching to a somatic phase. And within the somatic phase, because of restricted socio-sexuality, the transition is to a single partner somatic, a shared fantasy somatic. But then when the single partner shared fantasy subtype collapses, there is another transition to a promiscuous somatic. So we can see two transitions, cerebral to shared fantasy single partner somatic and single partner shared fantasy somatic to promiscuous somatic. And then a third transition from promiscuous somatic back to cerebral. All these transitions are totally possible because a collapse can occur between subtypes. A somatic can switch from one subtype, the shared fantasy single partner, to another subtype, the promiscuous. This happens to narcissists who are predominantly somatic and this also happens to cerebral who had switched their allegiance to the somatic type. All these transitions can be perceived as confusing and confounding by everyone around the narcissist. And indeed it's an integral part of what we call identity disturbance. I've made a video about shape-shifting borderlines and morphing narcissists. Narcissism is not a stable phenomenon. It's not a single clinical entity. It's a family. It's a family of variants. And every single narcissist transitions between all these subtypes and all these types. Every single narcissist alive is sometimes overt, sometimes covert. Sometimes cerebral, sometimes somatic. Sometimes shared fantasy, single partner somatic and sometimes promiscuous somatic and back again to cerebral and back again to somatic etc. There's total flux, there's constant cycling between the types. This cycling is mediated by the mechanism of collapse and the attendant dysphoria, the attendant depression. So next time you watch a video by a self-styled expert about the narcissist, that's someone who has no idea what he's talking about. There's no such thing as the narcissist. Which narcissist? In which phase of his life did he recently experience collapse? And as you see, the affinities between narcissism and borderline are very, very close. That's not some vakny. That's Otto Kernberg, the father of the modern understanding of borderline personality and narcissism. Otto Kernberg said that borderline and narcissism are essentially the same thing and both are on the verge of psychosis. And I agree, under duress, under stress, in extremis and taken to the extreme in conditions which are not conducive to obtaining narcissistic supply, the narcissist switches the same way the borderline switches and he switches to types which are mutually exclusive the same way the borderline has not fixed core identity. Both types, both the diagnosis, narcissistic personality is on and borderline personality is actually involve very, very profound identity disturbance. The narcissist has no identity because he has a false self which is not, it's not he. And before you say anything, when I say he, I mean also she, of course, they're women narcissists, but this false self is not the narcissist. So he can't have an identity by definition. There's nobody there to use Kernberg's words. There's only emptiness. To use Klettley's words, the narcissist rejects life. To use Seinfeld's words, the narcissist abhors life, gives up on life. To use Ganttrip's words, there's an empty schizoid core. All these colors throughout the generations zoomed in on the same observation where a core identity should have been, where a person, a personality should have been, there's nothing, there's just void. So switching is easily accomplished. Not easily in time, but easily in the sense that it's ineluctable. It's inevitable. So narcissists transition from type to type. Now the transition could be prolonged, could be protracted and difficult. The transition could generate mutations such as binary systems, a lot of conflict, a lot of mayhem and dissonance. Yes, it's not a smooth operation or a smooth flow, but it's inevitable. Every narcissist goes through all this. When all the subtypes have failed, the new fangled somatic narcissist switches back to cerebral narcissists. So the cerebral becomes somatic. The somatic tries one variant. For example, the somatic tries the new somatic, the somatic who used to be cerebral tries to be promiscuous. It doesn't work. He tries a shared fantasy with a single partner. It doesn't work. He becomes cerebral again or vice versa. He starts with a shared fantasy with a single partner. There's heartbreak and breakup. He becomes promiscuous. It doesn't work. He reverts to the cerebral phase. And the same goes the other way. There are also subtypes of the cerebral narcissist. And when the somatic switches to cerebral, he attempts to capture these subtypes. He goes through these subtypes. So for example, there's a subtype of cerebral narcissist who is focused on self-supplying. It's an introverted cerebral narcissist who derives a sense of accomplishment from realizing that he had just achieved a great intellectual feat somehow. He doesn't need to advertise it. He doesn't need to publish it. It's an he is his own audience. So this is a form of self-supply. That's one type of cerebral. The other type of cerebral is the public intellectual who needs an audience, chases an audience at all costs and so on. So when the somatic switches to cerebral, he also goes through subtypes. And when the subtypes collapse, he reverts to somatic. That's the cycle from major type to another major type. And within each major type, there is a cycling between the subtypes. Each of these phases and sub phases is mediated through collapse. In other words, the transition, the trigger that causes switching from one type to another type and from one subtype to another subtype, this trigger is collapse. And collapse simply means inability to obtain supply. I want to talk about another thing which is somehow reminiscent of the first part of this video. And it's, I kept saying that when narcissists transition and when they switch and so on, they become very reminiscent of borderline personality disorder. And in borderline, especially in borderline women, that's not gender bias, that's simply a fact. Because each gender, each sex actually, expresses its mental problems in accordance with strict social and cultural mores. There is another video of me a few days ago about the gender element in personality disorders. The personality disorders as clinical entities are the same in men and women. No difference whatsoever, but the way the personality disorder manifests is different for women than it is for men because of society and culture. Women still express themselves in highly specific ways as do men. Women, for example, are much more likely to become promiscuous and men are much more likely to become anti-social and criminalized when they're subjected to collapse. So I want to explore one type of collapse when it comes to borderline women. Borderline women are secondary psychobots at the very least or maybe subclinical psychobots. There's a close affinity, we now know, there's a close affinity between borderline and psychopathy. Many scholars have gone to the extent of saying or suggesting that borderline is psychopathy for women. Mind you, it's not the same type of psychopathy as in men. In men we have something called factor one psychopathy and in women it's factor two psychopathy. So these are different types of psychopathy. In factor two there's an emphasis on impulsivity and so on. Factor one there's an emphasis on grandiosity, etc. But still it's psychopathy. So borderline women are psychobots secondary psychobots and this is very clear when they're subjected, becomes very clear when they're subjected to stress and abandonment and humiliation and so on they begin to act psychopathically and they become emotionally dysregulated. Some borderline women have a history of promiscuity, other borderline women are chased and never have never slept around with strangers or with friends or whatever. So there's a whole monopoly of possible sexual behaviors among borderline women. It's a myth that all borderline women are promiscuous and all borderline women cheat subsequently wrong, it's a stereotype. But some are and some are not, some do and some do not.  They sleep only with intimate partners and in intimate settings and they have a high level of sexual disgust, so one cannot generalize. But many borderline women, regardless of whether their background is a background of promiscuity or a background of inhibition and restraint, many borderline women regardless of background embark on a spree of sexual self-trushing after they have been discarded abruptly and cruelly by a long-term intimate partner to whom they had been scrupulously faithful. An intimate partner who was the center and the pivot of the world. I'm going to repeat this because it happens a lot.  An intimate partner that they had been faithful to, never cheated on. An intimate partner who used to be the center of the world, the pivot around which they had revolved. An intimate partner with whom they shared every minute of the day and everything they had, every emotion. So when such an intimate partner just walks away and he does it abruptly and cruelly, it breaks these borderline women apart and it's a form of collapse. This is a private case of collapse and these women begin to sexually self-trash in horrendous ways. I've witnessed and treated the most horrible cases. These women just don't care anymore. They don't care anymore and such self-harming can last for years, in some cases decades and in some cases it degenerates and deteriorates into full-fledged sex work.   Many sex workers are agentic. It's a choice. But I'm talking about these kind of borderline women. They are pushed to sex work as a form of self-harming by letting men, individual men or groups of men do with their bodies and do to her body as they please. The brutally abandoned borderline is attempting to accomplish three goals. We are still describing a collapse and the depression attendant on the collapse and the anxiety pushed this kind of borderline woman to sexually self-trash and there are three goals she has in mind. Number one, to secure male attention and acceptance, compassion, affection, however fake and even if it is only for a few minutes or one night. Number two, to reaffirm her self-perception is bad, worthless, unworthy, harsh and incorrigible in a way she's trying to justify her intimate partner. She says to herself unconsciously, by abandoning me so cruelly, by dumping me so sadistically, by devastating me, so upset-mindedly and thoughtlessly, you are actually telling me that I'm no good, that I'm worthless. So I'm going to prove this. I'm going to prove to you that you're right. She's still trying to affirm the way he sees her or saw her. And every borderline has a bad object inside. Every borderline believes herself to be essentially bad. That's why many borderlines push people away because they're afraid that if people come to know them better, they're going to be abandoned.  And the third reason to do it for this kind of behavior is to punish actually her previous partner, her ex-partner by cheapening and prostituting his property. Like if I'm going to sexually self-trash, it's going to hurt you. She's telling her former partner, I'm going to hurt you by hurting myself. I know you used to love me or at the very least I know you used to regard me as your property and now I'm going to give your property to any passing man. See how you like it. Sexual self-trashing is not the same as promiscuity. It is non-autonomous, non-agentic, and it is self-objectified. It involves copious, ubiquitous dissociation as well as self-incapacitating and disinhibiting substance abuse intended to help legitimize the self-harm. So this kind of borderline where we will say I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing. The idea is to resolve cognitive and other dissonances by attributing the sexual self-trashing to the influence of a substance. I was under the influence.  But in reality such behaviors are lifelong addictions. Studies show that such women are unable to commit in relationships and they break up and they cheat much more often than the average. For our purposes, the transition of the borderline woman from a faithful, loyal, stable, intimate partner to a self-trashing, self-objectifying kind of slut in her eyes, the transition from the first type to the second type is a private case of collapse and how collapse facilitates a total change in personality because there's no identity there. There's no identity core. The borderline is subject to an identity disturbance so she can have a relationship of five years or seven years or eight years or even 15 years in which she will be utterly faithful, never look at another man, be a good wife and excellent mother, stable, predictable, reliable, the best spouse anyone could or girlfriend anyone could hope for and then she's dumped, abandoned, humiliated and the next thing you know she sleeps with hundreds of strangers, she subjects herself to group sex, she gets drunk to the point of blackouts and then sleeps with every passing man, she's suddenly the exact absolute opposite, the antonym of what she used to be and this is mediated through a collapse, she actively transitions from one type of borderline to another type of borderline, the collapse made this happen and so the mechanism of collapse and transition between types is common to every mental illness and every mental health disorder which involves identity disturbance, whenever there is identity disturbance a collapse leads to a switching, a transition between mutually exclusive, diametrically opposed types of personality and a collapse could be anything, in the case of the narcissist the collapse is owing to a lack of narcissistic supply, in the case of the borderline the collapse is because she had been abandoned and humiliated and rejected in the case of the psychopath, the psychopath can collapse because he had failed, has failed to obtain his goals, the histrionic collapses when no one pays attention to her and so on and so forth, the paranoid collapses when the extent of stress self-induced most of the time is too much for him and is overwhelmed, so collapse is a standard mechanism in personality disorders and it allows the personality disordered patient to transition into a more egocintonic type, a type that provides comfort and reduces anxiety and eliminates depression, in the case of the narcissist, a failed cerebral, a cerebral who fails to obtain narcissistic supply would feel much better, much more comfortable, much happier, much more content and much more functional as a somatic, so he switches to a somatic and then when this doesn't work he switches back to a cerebral, the only glitch in this perfect mechanism is a binary system, the fact that some of these transitions take a long time and during this length and prolonged period of time there could be a competition between equally efficacious or self-efficacious self-states which creates a lot of dissonance and inexplicable behavior including acting out in the case of the borderline for example or narcissistic rage in case of the narcissist, approach avoidance in all these cases. This is the general overview, this is the picture of transitional mechanisms in the personality disorder, I hope I haven't mispronounced any word, I have disabled Microsoft read aloud so I'm feeling much better and more self-confident, apologies for the ketamine which should have been ketamine and I hope to see you all in my next video. My name is Sam Vaknin, I'm the author of Malignant Self-Law, Narcissism Revisited and a professor of psychology and I know many of you have waited through this video just to get to this final statement, you can't live without it, I know it's an addiction and if you don't hear this statement from me, my name is Sam Vaknin etc, you experience a collapse.


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