First question came from my guy Gary today engraving I just wanted to let you know how much I respect your morals That was a great episode. Hope you and your family are doing really well. Love you, bro I never miss an episode and always press the like button. God bless. I appreciate that a lot Gary Thank you. Um, cuz you got a lot. I remember a lot of your messages and I appreciate you just supporting Like crazy over time. I appreciate you being a patron. I appreciate Just how positive you are and I appreciate your respect too that that goes a long way with me because That's like we always say that's what it is at the end of the day at the beginning and the end of the day It's about respect. So I appreciate you a lot man I said my question is if we didn't go and get a DK Metcalfe Who do you really think we have a chance of getting? Mmm, so what impact player do the Ravens have a chance of getting now? Are you speaking specifically of wide receivers if you are? mmm It's tough. That's tough It's funny because I started seeing the little debo Samuel pictures start floating around the ones of him in the Ravens jet again I know a lot of people been talking about scary Terry With DK Metcalfe is And you're saying if we don't get him like I would I would y'all know I would love for the Ravens to get him I don't expect them to do that but because it's just not that's not them. That's not their element They don't do that type of stuff When it comes to the wide receivers and I think I think they're kind of scared. I Think they're scared And I think what was the last time it really gave a wide receiver some significant money And we were like whoa, I think it was um It was uh, I think he used to play for the Ryan Grant Ryan Grant remember that offseason where they paid him so much money and I felt physical fell physical and I just think Ravens are just Really scared to to get out of that comfort zone when it comes to the pain like paying significant money to a wide receiver Hollywood he was coming up. I was thinking okay. This could but no they traded them away Well, and they they usually signed guys past their prime for cheap like Sammy Watkins Seth Roberts was still young, but he was very cheap really Snead was still young, but he was also really cheap There's Brian We don't want to go down that list again But last time they really paid a wide receiver before Ryan Grant was a Angkwan Bowden But Ryan Grant was after Angkwan Bowden and they were just They were scarred they tried to offer theirs money before they offered it to Crabtree and they all should actually offer theirs More money than they offer Michael Crabtree, but they said no I ain't gonna He said I ain't going there And then they gave Michael Crabtree that three year twenty one million dollar deal But it was really a one year like six or seven million dollar deal But yeah, I think they are very scared because I think they don't want to get burned and then of course I know the the emphasis and their offense is not put on Wide receivers as much as it should be in my opinion And this is not even a Greg Roman thing necessarily This is more of a Ravens philosophy type of thing because again way before great Roman even stepped foot On a Ravens football field there was a lack of emphasis placed on those wide receivers but Something that does give me hope and that's whether they got a Significant wide receiver or not hopefully they do but something that gives me hope is again the coaching the coaching And I know we kind of go in the way left field with your question I ain't forget about it But something that gives me hope is is the coaching staff because the reason I say that is because Even though there has been a lack of emphasis put on the wide receivers It seems as if with the coaching hires that they're trying to Sort of shift and maybe put a more emphasis on The wide receiver room now with Greg Roman I do think this will be his last year whether he finishes the whole season He doesn't finish the whole season I think this will be the last year for Greg Roman and then I think they move on it just it's all it's like all signs of pointing to that All signs of pointing to that I hope he goes out there and has a phenomenal year because I mean Ravens had a phenomenal year on offense But it does seem like they are moving in a different direction It seems like this may be James Urban's last year too Reason I say that because they got the assistant QB coach They got Greg Roman assistants again to a team more than Keith Williams though for those guys They specialize in the passing game and they specialize in areas of Greg Romans weakness So it seems as if the Ravens could be trying to shift the fallout will not shift it But maybe add something to it. Hopefully Hopefully hopefully hopefully hopefully hopefully But we won't know but again back to your question as far as like what impact player do the Ravens have a chance to get him They honestly They got a chance again, whoever they want to Or whoever's available obviously, but they have what it takes to make some happen They could give whatever up. I think the bigger question is what they want to would they be willing to? If it's a wide receiver, I think the answer would be no. I don't see it happening And because the only wide receivers that they have been linked to this off-season Were guys that they could give for cheap Jalen Riga from the Eagles. He is not going to hardly cost you anything He would they would not have to give up significant draft capital for him Jarvis Landry who was a free agent You ain't got to give nothing up and you even gotta give him a big deal I think I forgot with the deal that he got with the Saints is like I think one year Maybe like was it six or seven? It was some cheap But they they wouldn't have to give anything crazy for him. They wouldn't so I just I Don't see them going to get somebody sickness. I still see them getting somebody but as far as a big-time Playmaker a big-time guy like a an it guy. I Just I just don't see it happening But I mean with the guys that they have I'm sure more emphasis will be put on them And hopefully they could just they make the most out of it and they can make some stuff happen But again, y'all y'all know how I feel about the whole the wide receiver thing. So anyway He said and what linebacker is poised to have a big year? Because I think we have to go and get one more now you talking about we need to go get one more inside or outside linebacker But as far as inside linebackers Patrick Queen all all Patrick Queen got to do is just clean up some small stuff Patrick Queen can be so good man He can be so good. He has and I hate use this word because it's a very Ravenous type of worry when the guns are certain players and what not in a lot of players Actually, but Patrick Queen has so much potential He has so much potential man. So much It's just just got to fine tune a couple of little things here and there Just one of the biggest things wrap up wrap up tackling Wrap up because a lot of times he'll do the arm tackle try to go for like a big hit or something Somebody might like bounce off of but wrap up tackling if if he cleans up the oh If Patrick Queen just cleans up the tackling Man this dude that that will ascend his game so much Because he got the speed the speed is there. This is his third year So the game should slow down for him a lot a whole lot The blitzing is there's a blitzing linebacker is there When he like with his explosiveness Uh, we've seen the place where he'll explode through the lines to shoot through the gap and get to the ball carrier quick Quick whether it's the running back or even sometimes a quarterback But he can break up a play But then we've seen some plays where he'll be back there and in the the he'll do like an arm tackle to The running back or like bounce off of him or whatever and say oh man. He was right there So the potential is right there They just gotta find to a couple little things and then just get it out of them and then so I will say Patrick Queen for sure Josh Bynes being there that should help him that should help him be even more comfortable be even more like settled So that could be a just a beautiful thing. So I would go with with with Patrick Queen If you talking outside linebacker or if you say an inside linebacker, we need to get one more They got who Christian Welch they got a I know I'm missing somebody too. I'm missing somebody They got Malik Harrison. I mean he's inside linebacker, but they said they're trying to my outside So we'll see how that goes but as far as outside linebackers It's Daylan Hayes ties Bowser David a jobbo who he'll probably start on the He'll probably start they'll probably have him They'll probably uh make them pass through the active roster They'll have probably have a make them make the 53 man roster But then put them on injured reserve so they can bring him back whenever Because if they put him on the physically unable to perform list and he isn't ready after six weeks Then he can't come back at all So what I expect them to do with a jobbo is have them make the 50 make the 53 man roster But then after that 53 man roster set put them on injured reserve so you can then bring him back Uh after it you could bring them back after three weeks, but he's not gonna be Ready after three week. Well, who knows the technology nowadays, but the expectation is not that he's back after three weeks but with injured reserve Again, you can bring them back whenever uh after the first three weeks of the season So you don't have to it doesn't have to be like the physically unable to perform list Where he has to come back after six weeks injured reserve if he's not ready by six weeks That's fine. You can keep on waiting So that puts less pressure on him to be ready and on them to get him ready um So again, Justin Houston is expected that he's back um Wouldn't mind if they signed jason pa paul to uh get greedy with it man get greedy with they they got Well, he's not the outside line back either the you know, I was thinking the brand urban So yeah, that's what I would do. Anyway, he said I really appreciate everything you do Thanks for answering these questions and hope you and your family are doing great Hey, I appreciate that. Thank you for even sending them in man. So I appreciate that a lot. Thank you as always The next question came from a boy Uh, flirting Owensky, and this probably gonna be the last question to take us out I know we went on a little bit before that previous question and my boy flirting Owensky He'd be going in man, but I appreciate you. I got a lot of love for you man We done had some good conversations about some ravens football man, and I appreciate you a lot man So I hope you're doing well, man. Anyway, he said yo, what's good, bro? It's your boy flirting Owensky back again. Hope all is well with you and yours out there Yeah, we doing pretty good man. I appreciate you First and foremost, I want to say Bateman like my comment and pinned it on his page. I was hype Okay, well congratulations on that man. He said for time to get the business So I know it's been a lot of talk about bringing in a vet. It's either we all for it or we hate it Yes, it's a lot of people on both sides of the fence man And I think it all depends on who we talking about too because that can change the conversation But anyway, uh, now I'm on the fence about that because it depends on who it is I should have just I should have just read I should have just read first See this is I always get to talking before I read and then they end up saying exactly what we said We on the same page so far, but anyway, he said, uh, now I'm on the fence about that because it depends on who it is Julio No debo as much as I love them. No because they are jimmy smiths on offense Um, what are you talking about being injured like a potential there playmaking ability there, but always hurt So DK yes hands down Love it. Love it. We could end it right there. We could end the episode right there. But anyway, uh, somebody nobody is talking about is Robbie Anderson He doesn't want to be in carolina. He's a big body burner also just like dk medcaf now get this That's not it though He's also from florida Hey, he's also from Okay, anyway, uh, of course people will get pushed down the depth chart, but I believe it is needed Let's be real. Lamar won MVP with a hurt rookie and Seth Roberts. No knock to hollywood hurt or uh, Roberts But yeah, uh, what is your thoughts on pulling the trigger trigger on Robbie Anderson? Robbie Anderson It's funny because he's somebody When he was a free agent a couple years ago. He's somebody that I wanted to rate Mr. Sine um just to uh That that downfield deep threat Um, I felt like the vibe was there. Uh, and it would have been there with him and Lamar, uh, both on and off the field Um, and I felt like he would have been a good addition a good compliment to Raven's team. I mean he did uh Was out there asking for Lamar Jackson the autographs But anyway, uh, this is one that doesn't get talked about too often Because it's something that kind of goes over my head. I remember uh, he did he did put it out there like Like he said he was just I think he said he was just playing or he missed Constructors what I forgot what he said the the reason really excuse was that he put it out there on twitter That he was thinking about retiring and I was like, um, I don't believe you, uh, but and then how he uh He said he said no the Baker Mayfield on the Panthers. He's like man, but we Like think about if you Robbie Anderson, man and You you thinking about stuff and you think like man Panthers or Ravens I mean if you're from north or south Carolina, okay, but he's from Florida. So yeah, I think it would be like an easy decision um But yeah, I wouldn't mind Robbie Anderson, man. I I wouldn't and that's something someone that gets uh overlooked um But I would my first choice would still be DK Metcalf though He would be my first choice I wouldn't be mad at a Deebo Sammy, but yeah for the reasons that you mentioned I would be a little bit worried when it came to injuries and stuff Julio, um, I feel like the expectation would be that he wouldn't even play the full season He'd be like a reserve kind of guy, but anyway He said of course people would get pushed down a depth chart, but I believe it is needed. Oh, oh, yeah I read that part. Um, he said also it bring me to my next statement. All right Uh, so my big thing was getting an offensive line for Lamar Uh, man, Drew's is elite don't get me wrong But people always say oh that's Lamar's favorite target blah blah blah But when snoop came in things didn't change. I know a lot of it is by design But a lot is about time uh them snapping the ball and having to run in a couple of milliseconds because the line leaves them no choice but to throw to the closest person lol hence Mark Andrews volume But with this new offensive line that we have that we have this will open up a lot for the offense plays on the center I mean I hope I hope I hope But anyway, uh, he said plays on the center bootleg shot plays etc. I expect Ravens offense to be wide open this season. What do you think? This is where things get tricky Um, because like we talked about in the previous question, it seems more emphasis may be placed on the passing game We just got to see Um, but it depends on how much of a voice uh, Greg Roman, not only Greg Roman, but John Harbaugh Um allows T-Martin and Keith Williams to have And, um, is it Adrian Dixon or Kerry Dixon? I think it's Kerry Dixon Um, it just depends on how much of a voice He allows them to have Uh, well you actually John Harbaugh, he just let offensive coordinators do the thing He let defensive coordinators do their thing He'll step in sometimes now, but he usually pretty much lets them. All right. Y'all got it. Y'all handle it So I guess it really depends on, um What their philosophy is gonna be so that's on Harbaugh, uh, and really bachati too But that's on that's on Harbaugh, uh, and Yeah, what they're gonna just allow that guys to do Are they gonna just be ground and pound ground and pound ground and pound? Or they're gonna just want to open it up more and I think they should open it up more because the more you can do The more options you have, uh, if you just so focused on the run run run run run and we know they're gonna run a ball But if there's just a lack of emphasis put on other areas of the offense Then there's gonna be a lack of production with other areas of the offense Especially when your primary focus it ends up being stopped Because they're gonna be some games where they won't be able to run a ball. They're gonna be games like that Um, but so you need to be able to do other things. You need to have other ways that you can operate We've known already even before last year. We've known Lamar can throw the ball Let him let that man throw that ball man. He always said he said he wants to pass the ball He said he don't want to be running himself So let that man throw the ball man Anyway, um He said it's kind of weird when you look at it Uh, though he said Allen. Josh Allen got digs and davis Kyla, he got de hop more orondale more a.j. Green and now hollywood.  I can't forget about McCall Harman. I'll always forget about him Um And we'll we'll see how his new guys do too. He got um, not sky more. What's what's the other receivers name? Maybe it is sky more and then the then the guy who I wanted to rave us to get uh, man I can't forget his name, but he had the neck injuries Uh, I cannot think undrafted rookie. Um I cannot think of his name right now, but he was nice. So hopefully he can stay healthier and then he can do a thing. Um, Josh Herbert, Kenan Allen, uh, Mike Williams Um, I took Allen to get all this to it it took Allen to get all this to do okay A lot of volume. Oh, no, I was nice, man. I want to say Josh Allen is okay Josh Allen is nice, man. That that that dude is nice, man But yeah, they they gave him they were like here. They were like in the beginning they were like, uh, you're okay, but Here you go. Let's let's really see and that boy is nice, man I know a lot of Ravens fans don't like to give him credit simply because of I think it's because It always seems like media try to put him and Lamar against each other. Like who's better? Who's this? Who's that? Josh Allen is nice though. No, Lamar is nice, but Josh Allen is also nice. Um, but anyway, um He said it took Josh Allen to get all this to do okay A lot of volume Kyla has all that an extremely high volume to underachieve We know Patrick with Holmes in his volume at lol. So Justin Herbert, uh, and his volume just to not make the playoffs Oh Uh, then you look at Lamar with the lack of a proven guy and look at the success It makes you, uh, think like, uh, forget them draft picks at lol If we can do this with them, imagine what we can do with a dk Robbie Anderson, etc Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you that That's uh, thank you. Hmm Thank you. Thank you so much because I I get frustrated when I I I always hear settling Like people be like, all right. Well Lamar got the offensive line. So he should be fine now Remember what he did is MVP season. Look at the receivers that he had and look what he did He should be fine now studying guys since he got an offensive line And I'm like, yeah, he got an offensive line. Why can't he get more? Like, thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you Uh, last but not least everybody wants to put Lamar down for the lack of player success An example boosts burrow up for theirs But something they don't talk about in both cases is the defense Bingo's defense did what they needed to do Lamar losses our defense not so much Well, no, I wouldn't say that. Um, because the defense they would they would they were doing their thing Against the bills. They were holding it down Um against the Titans early on they were giving it up But as the game went on they got a lot better. Um, the Titans game. Hmm. It was like, oh, yeah The turnovers that the Ravens guy didn't help at all And then I think that put defense in some bad situation because Ravens get going four on fourth down They would have dropped the inception. There's all type of stuff um But anyway, he said I'm kind of scared We we let a lot of talent go in the defensive backfield But also do believe in these rookies they can get the job done Do you think our defense is ready for that playoff push if they say healthy? Yes, for sure. I do think so Um, and I think again, I've not been saying this for a long time. If the Ravens defense is healthy They'll be just fine I don't care what anybody says, but wink putting Westry and Anthony Averett on islands made them men you could see their progression all season That was much needed. As you know, I wasn't a fan of getting rid of wink after the amazing job He did with his practice squad teams, uh, but hey, we all can have it We all can't have it always just like the bingos will be once they actually play top talent this year. Mr. Playoffs I'm out. Love it love it Love it. Um Love it. That was that was a fun one And I I knew it was gonna be as soon as I saw the name who it was from I say, oh, yeah, we we info right. I appreciate you my friend


a withering glare, a snide comment, a gesture of exasperation, and suddenly, never mind how autonomous you are, how strong, how agentic, how accomplished, and how independent, never mind all these, you find yourself aiming to please, attempting to meet unspoken occult expectations, berating yourself, feeling guilty and ashamed when you don't, how the narcissist breaks your spirit, this is the topic of today's video. Now the narcissist doesn't do it intentionally, it's not premeditated, it's not malevolent or malicious or demonic, forget all these online nonsense, the narcissist does it because that's who he is, the same way a virus infects the cell or a tiger bites your head off, do not confuse and conflate narcissists with psychopaths, psychopaths are call-oriented, and yes, they do everything on purpose, everything is preplanned, everything is implemented ruthlessly and callously, the narcissist is different, the narcissist just glides along on the waves of his inner world, he needs you, he needs you, the external object to conform to the internal object in his mind that represents you, to the snapshot of you, to the introject that speaks to him and that he answers to, he needs you to mold yourself, to shape yourself, to shape shift in a way, to be in flux so that you fit into the container that you had become in his inner landscape, and so the narcissist has to coerce you, to tame you, to domesticate you, to housebreak you and simply to break you, so that you don't diverge and deviate from the internal object, thereby creating dissonance and intolerable anxiety in him, he needs you to be quiescent, mummified, dead emotionally and mentally for all intents and purposes in order for him to attain the peace of mind and the inner quietude that is necessary to transition to the next phase in your relationship, separation, individuation, via devaluation and discard. This is the inexorable narcissistic cycle, there is nothing you can do about it and there's nothing he can do about it and when I say he, of course, 50% of all narcissists are women nowadays and so please, in your mind, try the following exercise, whenever I say he, replace it with she, whenever I say she, replace it with a he and to your amazement, all the rest would remain valid because you are inside the maze of a Samvaknin video. My name is Samvaknin and the author of Malignal Self-Lab, Narcissism Revisited, a former visiting professor of psychology and currently on the faculty of CIAPS, a Commonwealth, I'm sorry, for International Advanced Professional Studies and today we're going to learn about the fourth technique, number four, that the narcissist uses to mold you, to sculpt you, to shape you to his specifications, a technique discovered long ago and described in minute details in a school of psychology known as behaviorism, a technique called conditioning. Remember that the narcissist employs and deploys multiple other ways and methods to render you compatible with the internal object in his mind, he entrains you and I have videos about entraining and now to un-entrain yourself, undo the entraining, he inducts you into a shared fantasy where you become a figment, an element, an object, a participant in role play and in the shared fantasy, of course, you have no independence, you have no autonomy and you're not allowed any agency, he in extreme cases engages in what is known as coercive control, that is extreme, that is very extreme and very rare contrary to the nonsense online but some narcissists do ultimately degenerate and deteriorate and devolve into coercive control and the very process of snapshotting has to do with control, by snapshotting you the narcissist creates a corresponding image of you in his mind, it's static and it is at the disposal of the narcissist 24-7, it's also mutable and malleable, responsive to the narcissist's ever-shifting needs and internal psychodynamics and so the internal figure, the internal object, the introject of you in his mind serves as a kind of handle, it's a way to lash you in, lash you, the external object, keep you tethered and chained to the narcissist but I've discussed snapshotting at length in multiple videos and I'm not going to do this today, today I'm going to introduce you to the theory of conditioning, conditioning is the engine and the fuel and the chassis of trauma bonding, everything in trauma bonding has to do directly or indirectly with conditioning but to understand conditioning and it's going to be a long way and a long video, you have been forewarned, I'm not in training you I swear but to get to learn about conditioning I need to introduce you to a few terms to some terminology, let's start with the word reinforcer, conditioning is about stimulus and response, the idea underlying the school of behaviorism and psychology is that we're basically machines, devices, we emit responses when we encounter stimuli, stimulus response and a reinforcer is a stimulus or a circumstance that produces reinforcement when it occurs in a dependent relationship, now a dependent relationship in behaviorism is known as a contingency, so when I say contingency it means a relationship where one of the parties is dependent on the other, we could also have relationships where both parties are dependent on each other for different things, for example the narcissist is dependent on you in an intimate relationship for secondary narcissistic supply and you are dependent on the narcissist for other things, maybe you're codependent, maybe you're borderline and you require external regulation from the narcissist, maybe you're just adrenaline junkie and the narcissist provides you with thrills and risks and adventures, whatever the case may be this is a dependent relationship, all shared fantasies are contingencies, they're all forms of dependencies, they all involve stimuli and response, now when the stimulus encourages behavior it is known as a reinforcing stimulus or in short a reinforcer, now all of you, all of us come across reinforcers in the natural environment, for example food is a reinforcer, we see food, we salivate, we eat, we overeat, we become obese, we feel guilt and shame, so food is a natural reinforcer, water is a natural reinforcer and to some extent air of course is a natural reinforcer, these are inherently reinforcing stimuli, they don't depend on learning and they are not amenable to questions of desirability, it's not like you desire water, you die if you don't drink you die, so it's no question of desiring water, I personally know people who hate water simply hate it but you know they drink natural reinforcers are known as unconditioned or primary reinforcers because they lead to primary reinforcement and we contrast them with conditioned or secondary reinforcers which are initially neutral stimuli that become desirable through training and this is known as secondary reinforcement, for example a light, a sound, they can become reinforcers, they can produce behaviors because we have learned to associate them with a specific benefit or reward or response in a process known as secondary reinforcement, I'm going to deal with each and every one of these concepts a bit later so worry not if you're not getting it a hundred percent the first time, I do recommend however that you rewind the video just in case and listen again and again maybe even take notes and yes I'm conditioning you right now, okay conditioned let's talk about another concept and that is a concept of pairing making pairs in behavioral studies pairing is when we juxtapose two events in time so for example there's a sound or a tone and immediately after that there is food or there is a strobe of light and immediately after that there's a path of air to the eye and then the light and the path of air are paired the sound or the tone and the food are paired so pairing is any combination of a neutral stimuli light or sound and some kind of consequence some kind of event like food or a path of air pairing remember this word nothing to do with sex get your minds out of the gutter children pairing is about conditioning now before I proceed let's talk about accidental reinforcement not everything is malevolent malicious and evil in my world there are also accidents so accidental reinforcement is the accidental occurrence of a reinforcer after an act and this inadvertently strengthens the likelihood of the occurrence of that act let's take for example superstition superstition is often the outcome of accidental reinforcement a golfer might lean as a pat nears the hole and such leaning has been followed in the past by the ball going in the hole which is the reinforcer so even though leaning has no causal effect has nothing to do with whether the ball goes in the hole or not the accidental contingent relationship between leaning and the ball being hold lead to reinforcement of leaning so this is this is called advantageous advantageous reinforcement it's when we do something by mistake we do something and then there's a consequence there's something happens not a consequence I'm sorry we do something and then something happens so there's event b event a or behavior a and then there's event b we say our behavior a caused event b although a and b are totally unrelated totally not connected I for example developed the superstition that every time I go out this rain it's going to rain even in mid-summer I'm kidding or not I honestly truly believe this is of course accidental reinforcement but accidental reinforcement usually leads to behavior so you do you there is a situation there is a circumstance and then you behave in a certain way and there's a certain outcome you say oh my god every time there is circumstance a I get result b so I should make sure to find myself in circumstance a if I if I want to obtain result b even though a and b are not connected okay okay I hope you got it now this is a very primitive form of conditioning conditioning is a process by which certain kinds of experience make particular actions more or less likely so if every time you say something to me I punish you in some way the likelihood of you saying this again diminishes and if every time you do something I reward you the likelihood of you increasing the frequency of such behavior is high every time you're rewarded the frequency of the behavior that leads to the reward goes up every time you're punished the frequency of the behavior that leads to the punishment goes down we can even encourage people to change pronoun density in sentences there have been famous experiments where whenever a student used the words I mean myself and mine the student was rewarded somehow for example the professor smiled at the student or nodded his head or whatever the frequency of the usage of these words known as first pronoun density the frequency of the usage skyrocketed skyrocketed after the positive reinforcement after the reward okay this is conditioning in general the process by which certain kinds of experience make particular actions more or less likely but we differentiate between several types of conditioning start with classical conditioning first discovered by who else are russian russia and conditioning go well together the russian was pavlov and it's also known as pavlovian conditioning respondent conditioning type i conditioning and type s conditioning don't let me go there in general we say classical condition classical condition is a type of learning it's when an initially neutral stimulus known as the conditioned stimulus when it is paired when it is connected with the stimulus that elicits reflex response the unconditioned stimulus results in a learned or conditioned response when the conditioned stimulus is presented so what do we have here we have a conditioned stimulus which is neutral light sound perform i mean these these are neutral things we have an unconditioned stimulus it's a reflex response for example uh salivating and we have uh sorry the the unconditioned stimulus and then we have the response so we have conditioned stimulus unconditioned stimulus and response let's take the case of the famous case of of pavlov the famous famous experiments of pavlov with with dogs there was a tone there was a sound and the sound was immediately followed by food gradually the dogs learned to associate the sound with the food initially the sound had no effect on salivation but then after several repetitions the dogs learned to connect the sound with the appearance with the subsequent appearance of food so they started to salivate so there was a neutral stimulus a conditioned stimulus which was the sound there was a stimulus that elicits reflex the unconditioned stimulus which was the food and the juxtaposition the pairing of the conditioned and unconditioned stimuli created a conditioned response which was salivating tone or sound conditioned stimulus food unconditioned stimulus which produces a reflex response salivating put the two together pair them time and again connect them time and again juxtapose them time and again and the reflex appears the dogs begin to salivate reacting to the neutral stimulus the conditioned stimulus which has nothing to do with food actually the sound okay so this is classical conditioning classical conditioning is used in abusive relationships of course various rewards for example gifts or trips could be a smile could be a nod of the head could be a caress could be sex so yes there's a lot of use of classical conditioning in intimate relationships with abusers whenever the abuser gets his way he whenever he presents a neutral stimulus if you react the way he wants he rewards you you learn then to connect the neutral stimulus with a reward and you react reflexively you succumb to the abuser's expectations and demands now the neutral stimulus could be anything as i said the reward could be many things similarly the neutral stimulus could be anything it could be a gesture it could be a body language element it could be a smile it could it could be specific a specific piece of text it could even be verbal abuse the abuser teaches you to connect one type of behavior one event one word one gesture with an expected reward or punishment so as to change your behavior and this is classical conditioning you're like Pavlov's dog you salivate because you expect food and you expect food because of the sound of your abuser's voice an unconditioned stimulus as i mentioned is a stimulus that elicits an unconditioned response for example when there's a hot stove and you touch it you withdraw when you're you're exposed to light the pupil in your eye contracts when you're presented with food and you're hungry you salivate all these are okay unconditioned responses and they are responsive to unconditioned stimuli okay and unconditioned responses is an unlearned response to a stimulus it is any original response that occurs naturally and in the absence of condition salivation in response to food is not taught you don't learn to salivate you just salivate the unconditioned response is a reflex that serves as a basis for the establishment of the conditioned response in classical conditioning the unconditioned reflex underlies classical conditioning similarly the conditioned stimulus is a neutral stimulus that is repeatedly associated via pairing with an unconditional stimulus until it acquires the ability to elicit a response that it previously did not so an unconditioned a conditioned stimulus could be anything absolutely anything a color a sound a light you name it anything we pair it with some reward or some punishment and it produces behavior behavior is pretty reflexive because we all recoil from punishment and we are all drawn to rewards and to benefits the responses elicit by the conditioned stimulus is similar to the response elicited by the unconditioned stimulus although not in all cases i don't want to go into into the details here but a light for example by being repeatedly paired with food the unconditioned stimulus eventually comes to elicit the same response as food itself salivation when presented alone okay this is the conditioned response in classical conditioning the layer learned or acquired response to a conditioned stimulus i hope you got that part it's hopefully not too complicated not a narcissist and abusers generally use classical conditioning and another type of conditioning known as operant conditioning will come to it in a few minutes to transition from classical conditioning to operant conditioning we need to discuss reinforcement now we all we've all been exposed to the concept of intermittent reinforcement hot and cold i love you i hate you approach avoidance i'm here i'm gone etc etc and intermittent reinforcement resembles very much splitting a splitting defense that's why it resonates especially strongly in people with borderline personality disorder narcissistic personality disorder and so on these people have primitive infantile splitting defenses in other words they have dichotomous thinking people with these cluster b personality disorders they divide the whole world into black and white good versus evil with me against me friend and enemy hot and cold love and hate etc etc so intermittent reinforcement reinforces actually the splitting defense it leverages the splitting defense and it creates catastrophizing if i if you have a splitting defense and i'm hot and then i'm cold i approach you and then i avoid you i love you and then i hate you i am going to ex i'm going to exacerbate i'm going to provoke your splitting defense i'm going to inflame it in a way and your splitting defense defense will take over you you it will it will overwhelm you it will drown you out and it will become a catastrophe you will feel that you are being consumed by your splitting defense and the intermittent reinforcement derives its power by co-opting infantile regressive defense mechanisms such as splitting projection and projection projective identification in order to creating the victim a sense of loss of control a sense of being dysregulated because of because there are there's overwhelming inability to somehow master the environment and there's a total disappearance of self efficacy as incapacity to derive beneficial outcomes from the human environment this is intermittent reinforcement but how many of you know what reinforcement is reinforcement is a key concept in operant conditioning it is a process in which the frequency or probability of a response is increased by a dependent relationship a contingency with a stimulus or a circumstance with a reinforcer so it is when we pair a response with a reinforcer a stimulus or a circumstance reinforcement is a procedure that results in the frequency or probability of a response being increased in such a way or decreased in classical conditioning reinforcement is a presentation of an unconditioned stimulus after a conditioned stimulus we discussed it before but we use reinforcement mostly in the theory of operant conditioning before we go to this theory and how the abuser uses it on you how it actually conditions you and this is amazing because abusers use extremely sophisticated techniques which take years to study and decades to research and they do it on the fly instinctively reflexively unthinkingly it comes naturally to their predators their predators you have to understand this it's not a malicious premeditated process it's just who they are they pray on people so here i am talking for ages about concepts and theories and so on so forth and a typical low life abuser implements all this within the first few minutes of the of the love bombing phase okay before we go to operant conditioning and how the abuser's apply or leverage leverage it we first need to discuss a few more few additional concepts regarding reinforcement so we discussed reinforcement we defined it now what what is reinforcement contingency reinforcement contingency is the contingency the relationship between a response and a reinforcer you remember what a reinforcer is i hope okay if not rewind to the beginning the contingency between a response and a reinforcer may be positive if the occurrence of the reinforcer is more probable after the response or it may be negative if the occurrence of the reinforcer is less probable after the response reinforcement contingencies can be arranged by establishing dependencies between a particular type of response and a reinforcer let's take an example a rat a rat presses a lever and every time the rat presses a lever there is presentation of food the rat learns to associate the lever with the food and here there is a reward so there is a dependency created there's a pairing created between the appearance of food and the pressing of the lever now if the food is presented frequently the incidence of the behavior will increase the rat will press the lever more and more even when it's not hungry by the way if however the frequency of the presentation of the food diminishes as the rat presses the lever the rat will cease to press the lever or will press the lever much less often so it is the outcome the food that determines the behavior the food determines how many times how frequently the rat will press the lever the lever so it's the same situation in in human affairs and especially in abusive relationships the abuser modulates the frequency and the quality of the rewards and the punishments so as to regulate and control your behavior the more he rewards you the more likely you are to repeat the behavior the less he rewards you the less likely you are to repeat it if he punishes you the behavior is likely to disappear this is all contingency reinforcement contingency reinforcement can happen naturally it could be the natural consequences of a response so for example when you push the door it opens that is a contingency reinforcement or by accident in accidental reinforcement but generally speaking a contingency reinforcement is a procedure which yields behavior subject to the modulation of the frequency of outcomes okay what is an aversive stimulus aversive stimulus is any stimulus or occurrence that evokes avoidance or escape behavior so abusers would use aversive stimuli to reduce the frequency of behaviors they don't like so if you are if you talk back if you resist if you're unhappy and express your emotions if you are emotional let's say if you are anything that abuser dislikes about you they're going to create aversive stimuli or events or occurrences which will induce you convince you motivate you drive you to escape to avoid to stop doing what you're doing to control yourself somehow to become highly self-conscious and self-aware in short to walk on eggshells walking on eggshells is the response to aversive stimuli negative reinforcement is the removal the prevent the prevention the postponement of an aversive stimulus is a consequence of a response which in turn increases the probability of that response so there is a response and the response removes some aversive stimulus prevents it responds it and so it's like I'm telling you if you behave in a certain way I am not going to punish you it's not the same like telling you if you behave in a certain way I'm going to reward you because if you behave in a certain way I'm going to give you a gift I'm going to help make love to you I'm going to smile at you I'm going to love you that is positive reinforcement but I can engage in negative reinforcement I can say if you behave in a certain way or if you refrain from behaving in a certain way I'm not going to punish you. They are not going to be aversive stimuli. They're not going to be unwanted consequences. There's not going to be pain. There's going to be hurt. So I'm teaching you that by modifying your behavior, reducing it, changing it, regulating it, hiding it, I'm teaching you that behavior modification on your part can remove an aversive stimulus or prevent it or postpone it somehow. And this is negative reinforcement compared to positive reinforcement. This is known also as avoidance conditioning. The establishment of a behavior that prevents or postpones aversive stimulation. Abuses do this a lot. They expose you to pain, to hurt, to insults, to physical violence, to verbal abuse, to psychological acute stress.  All you have to do is be nice to me. All you have to do is agree to sex.  Is there such a thing anymore? All you have to do is clean the house. All you have to do is this and all you have to do is that. All you have to do is don't talk back at me. Don't argue with me and don't criticize me because I know best. So this is negative reinforcement. The abuser exposes you to aversive stimuli and aversive circumstances which involve acute discomfort, extreme pain and so on and then tells you, I can take it back. I'm in control of this. You have the power to avoid this these consequences. You can be pain free. You can be fear free.  Perfectly be submissive and obedient and this negative reinforcement leads to extreme obeisance or extreme obedience. Have a look at the mental health dictionary letter A, a video I posted a few days ago. So in a typical conditioning experiment, a buzzer is sounded. Then a shock is applied to a subject until the subject performs a particular act. So there's a buzzer.   I'm going to sound the buzzer. I'm going to shock you again and again. This is the aversive stimuli. These are the aversive stimuli. So until you relent, until you give up, until you submit and tell me that I'm a genius, at that moment the buzzer will no longer ring. The shock will not be administered on the very contrary.  This is negative and positive reinforcement. When they alternate the way I just described, this is intermittent reinforcement. After several trials, usually the vast majority of organisms, dogs, cats, humans, they obey, they conform, they alter, they modify their behavior. It's a fact. To avoid the shock, the shock would be electrical shock, but it could be used. Many forms of shocks, external shocks in abusive relationships. This is also known as avoidance learning or avoidance training. And it's a close scheme of something known as escape conditioning. Escape conditioning is the process by which someone acquires a response that results in determination of an aversive stimulus. For example, if a monkey learns that pulling a string eliminates a loud noise, he pulls the string and this is escape conditioning or escape learning or escape training. It's very close to avoidance conditioning, but in avoidance conditioning the subject is taught to modify her behavior to avoid the aversive stimulus. In escape conditioning, the subject is taught to do something to avoid the aversive stimulus.  If you don't want me to abuse you verbally, you have to always agree with me, actively agree with me, not just keep mum or keep silent. If you keep silent, that is avoidance conditioning, but I want you to tell me that I'm right and that is escape conditioning. So this is negative reinforcement. What is positive reinforcement? Positive reinforcement is an increase in the probability of occurrence of some activity because that activity results in the presentation of a stimulus or of some circumstance. So where negative reinforcement goes from stimulus to behavior, positive reinforcement goes from behavior to stimulus. When we know that some activity, some choice, some decision, some behavior and even some trade result in the presentation of some positive stimulus, some reward, some benefit, some gift, some circumstance that is very pleasing. If we know this, then there would be an increase in the probability of the occurrence of the activity or behavior that lead to these benefits. I discussed it before. It's a procedure of presenting a positive reinforcer after a response and this creates something called a schedule of reinforcement. Would you believe that abusers do all this unconsciously and automatically? Not all abusers. Psychopathic abusers know very well what they're doing. Narcissists don't and borderline is definitely not. Schedule of reinforcement in conditioning is a rule. It determines which instances of a response will be reinforced. There are numerous types of schedules of reinforcements and reinforcement schedules depend crucially on the type of behavior you want to encourage or discourage, but it's like making a map, creating a map which says, okay, here's a stimulus, aversive or desired. Here's a behavior I want to encourage or discourage and this is what I have to do. Whenever there's a behavior I want to discourage, I have to expose the subject, my intimate partner, to an aversive stimulus. Whenever it's a behavior I want to encourage, on the contrary, a positive stimulus and so on and so forth. And finally, we reach the theory itself. We've reached operant conditioning. Operant conditioning is simply the process in which behavioral change, learning occurs as a function of the consequences of the behavior. The abuser teaches the intimate partner to anticipate the consequences of her behaviors, choices, decisions, the circumstances that she creates. It's as if there's a tariff or a price list. If you do this, you're likely to get this and if you don't do this, you're likely to get this and so on and so forth. And this creates anticipation, catastrophizing anxiety and modifies behaviors in ways which are alien to the subject. Very often victims of abuse keep insisting, I don't know myself any longer. It's not me. I don't know what came over me. He has changed me to the point that I don't recognize myself anymore. True. He's done it with via operant conditioning. He has changed your behavior because he has created in your mind a mental map of the bad and good consequences attendant upon your choices and decisions of behaviors, thereby encouraging you, incentivizing you, even seducing you into reducing or increasing the frequency of particular behaviors or even eliminating them all together, teaching the dog to do tricks in a way, rewarding behavioral change in a misbehaving child. These are examples of operant conditioning. It's also known as instrumental conditioning or operant learning. And operant conditioning takes place via shaping and behavior modification. Let's talk about shaping. Let's discuss shaping. Shaping is when we produce new forms of operant behavior by the reinforcement of successive approximations to the behavior. It's also known as approximation conditioning or behavior shaping. Let me explain. What is operant behavior? Operant behavior is a behavior that produces an effect on the environment and whose likelihood of recurrence is influenced by consequences. Operant. It's like operant conditioning. Operant behavior is nearly synonymous with voluntary behavior, a behavior that is intentional in nature, like walking or typing or making a YouTube video. And it is distinct from opposed to reflexive behavior. Reflexive behavior are responses to stimuli that are involuntary or free from conscious control. The aforementioned salivation, when you look at a tasty cake, reflexive behavior serves as a basis for classical conditioning. Operant behavior involves choices, decisions, selections, intentions, planning in many cases. Operant behavior navigates itself in terms of frequency, in terms of intensity, in terms of the content of the behavior. It is influenced by anticipated consequences, expected outcomes and very often catastrophizing. The abuser does. He exaggerates the outcomes and he is being very unjust, arbitrary, capricious, unpredictable, indeterminate, introduces uncertainty into the situation to some degree, so that you never know what's coming on the one hand and on the other hand you learn to behave in ways that prevent punishment and encourage rewards. You become, in short, hyper-vigilant. Operant behavior, your operant behavior becomes ingrained and entrenched. And one of the techniques to accomplish this that abuser's use are successive approximations to the behavior that is desired by them. And this is known as method of successive approximations. I will explain. It's also important to understand that planned behavior and behavior that is under the organism's direct control as opposed to reflexive behavior is mutable, is malleable, is changeable. Reflexive behavior is not. You see food, you salivate, end of story. You can't control it. Planned behavior is controllable. The abuser knows this.  The abuser wants you to control yourself. He wants you to control yourself to perfection. He wants you to control yourself to the point that you have the power to suppress certain behaviors and enhance others because it pleases him. It conforms with his goals. It furthers the shared fantasy. It affords him even more control over you. But he cannot control you if you can't control yourself. When he presents you with aversive stimuli, unpleasant things, uncomfortable things, frightening things, threats, he expects you to control yourself to the point that you can modify your behavior, change it, stop it, adopt other behaviors which would reduce, eliminate or prevent the aversive stimuli. On the other hand, when he presents you with rewards and gifts and benefits, he expects these to provoke in you commensurate behaviors. But if you don't control yourself, if you're incapable of planned behavior, what good are all these techniques? So there are two layers of control in intimate relationships with abusers and especially with narcissists. Self-control. The narcissist expects you to self-control to the maximum, to perfection, and if you don't, he gets very, very, very pissed off.  He wants you to have self-discipline and self-control because these are the tools he uses to control you. This is the irony. The narcissist can control only someone who controls herself to perfection. If someone is labile and dysregulated, never mind how intelligent and amazing the narcissist is, he cannot control her. There's no way to control her. So, reinforcements, positive and negative, operant conditioning, all the aforementioned techniques, are intended on the one hand to break your spirit, to render you an extension of the narcissist, and on the other hand, to establish in you a regime of terror, fear, which would lead you to control yourself rigidly in order not to incur the punitive measures of your intimate partner, the abuser. One of the techniques the narcissist uses is known as the method of successive approximation. It's a way to shape operant behavior by reinforcing responses similar to the desired behavior. Initially, the responses roughly approximating the desired behavior are reinforced. Later, only responses closely approximating the desired behavior are reinforced. The process gradually leads to the desired behavior, converges on the desired behavior. So, if the narcissist wants you to tell him that he's a genius, for example, that's the desired behavior. You need to provide him with secondary narcissistic supply. You need to tell him that he's a genius. He needs to reinforce you. He needs to operant condition you to tell him that he's a genius. But he may use the method of successive approximations. Initially, he would expect you to agree with him. Then he would expect you to praise his work, and only then he would expect you to tell him that he's a genius. So, there are steps of reinforcement, a gradient of reinforcement. It doesn't come all at once. He leads you there imperceptibly, glacially. You don't even see it coming. Suddenly, you're there. And this is what is known as behavior modification. Behavior modification is the use of operant conditioning, biofeedback, modeling, aversion conditioning, and reciprocal inhibition, or other learning techniques as a means of changing human behavior. Behavioral modification is used in clinical contexts to improve adaptation and alleviate symptoms. We use it in organizational corporate contexts to encourage employees to adopt safe work practices, et cetera, et cetera. It's a kind of behavior therapy. And the narcissists and other abusers by extension, they use behavior modification. They modify your behavior. They do it in a variety, using, deploying a variety of techniques. They model. So there's a technique called modeling. It is used in cognitive behavior therapy and behavior therapy. Modeling is when learning occurs through observation and imitation alone, without comment or reinforcement. So the narcissists will behave in a certain way, ostentatiously, conspicuously, in your face, consistently, and every time he would behave this way, he would let you imitate. He would encourage you to imitate him, but not overtly. He would not provide stimuli to imitate. It's just like his presence would induce you to imitate him. Remember that the narcissist regresses you to an infantile stage.   So you have a huge incentive to imitate mommy, the new mommy, the narcissist. And this is called modeling. It's a process in which one or more individuals or other entities serve as examples, models. And it's typical in childhood, children emulate these role models or entities. Models are often parents, other adults or other children, but they may also be symbolic, for example. It could be a book character or a television character. It's part of what is called social learning theory. Okay, another technique is a version conditioning. It's a process by which a noxious or unpleasant stimulus is paired with undesired behavior. This technique is used therapeutically also, by the way, when we treat substance abuse. And then it's called aversion therapy. So we let the junkie use drugs, but we give him a medication that renders the drugs noxious, and then he throws up or alcohol, same alcohol therapy. Aversion therapy and exposure therapy are forms of aversion conditioning or aversive conditioning. The narcissist uses aversion condition.    Another technique which I've discussed in the previous video is reciprocal inhibition. The reciprocal inhibition is a technique in behavior therapy that aims to replace an undesired response, for example, anxiety, with a desired response. And this is also known as counter conditioning. Reciprocal inhibition relies on the gradual substitution of a response that is incompatible with the original one, and is potent enough to neutralize the anxiety-invoking power of the stimulus. The whole concept was invented by Joseph Wulff. It's also known as systematic desensitization. The idea is that you have an undesired response. So the narcissist thinks, for example, that the fact that you disagree with him is an undesired response. So he provides you with another type of response. He provides you with an alternative response that is actually very pleasant, very powerful, and neutralizes the original response. He replaces one response with another. He inhibits the original response, and later inhibits the substitute response. This is why it's called reciprocal inhibition. So a narcissist, if you disagree with him, may provide you with huge benefits whenever you agree with him, but he would do it in a way that would reduce your anxiety about disagreeing with you. Ultimately, he may preserve the substitutive stimulus, or he may take it away. It doesn't matter. You're already inhibited. Reciprocal inhibition is the reason we cannot recall two associated ideas or items, because they interfere with each other. They inhibit each other, and the narcissist uses it abundantly. There's also instrumental conditioning. It's a form of conditioning in which the correct response is essential for reinforcement. Instrumental conditioning is very similar to operand conditioning. It involves complex activities in order to reach a goal. So when we train a rat to navigate a maze to obtain food, that is instrumental conditioning. In classical conditioning, reinforcement is given regardless of the response. In instrumental conditioning, reinforcement is given only subject to the response. It's operand conditioning in all but name. It's known as instrumental learning, or type 2 conditioning, or type R conditioning, and so on. But honestly, the distinctions are too subtle even for my own overpowering and overtowering mind. Okay. Last things that I want to mention are primary reinforcement versus secondary reinforcement. Primary reinforcements in operand conditioning is the process in which a presentation of a stimulus or a circumstance following a response increases the future probability of that response without the need for special experience with the stimulus or the circumstance. So every time the intimate partner behaves in a certain way, the narcissist presents a stimulus or a circumstance and the partner does not experience the stimulus and does not experience the circumstance but is just aware of their existence. And this is enough. This is enough to modify the behavior. So the stimulus or circumstance known as an unconditioned or primary reinforces, reinforces, functions in effective reinforcement without any special experience or training. Let me give you an example. Imagine that the narcissist wants the intimate partner to be more sexually receptive. Okay. So every time she's more sexually receptive, he would deposit money in their joint bank account. Now the intimate partner doesn't touch the money, use the money, experience the money, nothing. It's just there. It's just a fact. But the very fact that the joint account is being augmented serves as an inducement and incentive to sleep with the narcissist more often, more frequently or to be more passionate and enthusiastic about it. It's an example of a primary reinforcement, an event, circumstance, stimulus that's out there not experienced by the partner but induces behavioral changes in the partner. So the contingent occurrence of such stimulus or circumstance after a response is known as unconditioned reinforcement. What is secondary reinforcement? In operant conditioning, secondary reinforcement is the process by which a neutral stimulus, light sound, you remember, a neutral stimulus acquires the ability to influence the future probability of a particular response by virtue of being paired with another stimulus that naturally enhances that probability. Let me explain. That's very complex and a very beautiful way of actually conditioning without appearing to be conditioned.  And so you know that your girlfriend likes, what shall we say, likes chewing gum. Okay, so when you wanted to do something for you, you offer her chewing gum. She's a cheap girl. You offer her chewing gum. If you were to find a way to connect something else with the chewing gum that would remind her of the chewing gum, that other thing would motivate her to change her behavior. It's linking one stimulus to a stimulus that is already working, that is known to be working. Now the chewing gum example was not the best honestly, but I don't know. Imagine that every time she pleases the narcissist, he takes her out to dinner. She loves food, takes her out to dinner. Okay? And now he hires a chef. He hires a chef to come home. Now the chef is not connected to the restaurant. He's not connected to the dinner, but it's the same kind of stimulus. He connects stimulus B, the chef, with stimulus A, food, because he knows that food works. Food alters, modifies a behavior. This is the initially neutral stimulus or circumstance. Functions as effective reinforcement only after special experience or training. So he links stimulus B to stimulus A, stimulus B to stimulus A, time and again, time and again, time and again until she learns to associate stimulus B with the desired modification in behavior as she used to associate stimulus A. So now he has two instruments, stimulus A and stimulus B, and he can modify her behavior either way. And this is actually secondary reinforcement.  And at the same time, we sound a noise. We make a noise from a tool. Every time. So we say sit, we give the dog a treat. But at the same time that we say sit, we make a sound, a specific sound. Eventually the noise, the sound itself, can be used alone to induce the dog to sit, to induce the desired behavior, with no treat reward being necessary, actually. So it's a contingent occurrence of such a stimulus or circumstance after a response that is called conditioned reinforcement. This was a brief cursory glance at conditioning and how abuses deploy conditioning, use conditioning, to tame the shrew, or shall I say tame the shrewd. Shakespeare, as usual, got it right. He knew more about the human spirit, with the exception of Dostoyevsky, perhaps. And let's see if I can recall some quote or find some quote from the taming of the shrew because it would be an apt ending this video. If I be waspish, best beware my sting, to change true rules for all the inventions. Forward, I pray, since we have come so far, and be it moon or sun, or what you please, the taming of the shrew. William Shakespeare, had he lived today, he would be probably considered would have been probably considered a narcissistic abuser, and he would have his own YouTube channel and would annihilate mine. I'm so lucky to have been born hundreds of years after him, and to benefit from his infinite wisdom regarding human nature.


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Hey guys, welcome to SSUnitech, so still decide and this is continuation of SSIS project. So this is part 5 of SSIS project and today we are going to see the one more real time project and this is the complex project. So if you haven't watched last few videos of this video series, so I would strongly recommend to watch those videos. So you can directly go on the browser and here you can search for SSUnitech and after that go inside the channel, then go inside the playlist and here you will see the playlist which is SSIS internal questions and answers. So you can play that playlist and here if you can see I have uploaded few videos which is related to SSIS project. So I would strongly recommend to watch third fourth of this video series. Now go to on the slide. So today as per our project, so we are having a multiple Excel workbook from where we need to load the data into the SQL Server table. But here we have a catch. So on those Excel workbook having multiple Excel seats. So those Excel seats are having either address information or customer data. According to the seat name, we need to load the data on their tables inside the SQL Server. If the seat name is having address, then we need to load the data into the address table. Otherwise we need to load the data into the customer table. So go to the next slide. If you haven't understand about this, so here you can understand. So first we need to use a loop. That loop is going to loop through all the files which is available inside a folder. So it will be going to return the file name along with the file path. After that we need to use another loop. So this loop will be going to loop through all the Excel seats which is available inside the Excel workbook. So here we can get the seat name. And if that seat name contains customer, then we can go inside the customer and load the data into the customer table. If its address, then we can go and load the data into the address table. And inside the address table as we have already discussed in the last video, we need to check inside the country first. If data is not available in the country table, then first we need to load the data into the country table. And after that we need to load the data into the main address table. So don't worry if you don't understand, then so we can go and try to implement this in the practical. So first we can check the source data. So here we are having these two files. So these two are having data for the month end and mid month. So in the real time the data is coming twice in a month and we need to load that data once in a month. So first data which is coming mid month around 15 or 17 and next we are getting the data on 30th. So these two files that we have in this folder, so we need to look through all these two files and loading the data into the table. Go to on the destination. So inside the destination we could see we are having these three tables, customer, address and country table. So we need to load the data in these three tables. Now go to on the SSDT and we will try to implement our package. So now we need to create few variables and those variables will be going to help us while implementing the package. So first thing that variable is required for the source path. So that source path is this one. So in the real time this might be going to change. That's why I'm going to create a variable and this path will be going to use there. And after that we are required to have the second path which is a folder path. So by using the loop that we can say by using the first loop we can get the file name with the file path. So that will be the folder path, the second variable. So it will be going to hold the value on that variable. That is the seed name. So seed name is basically on the second loop we are going to loop through all the seeds. So we are extracting the seed name. So that seed name will be going inside the seed name variable. The last which will be going to check seed name variable. So that check seed name variable means here we are going to check whether the seed name contains customer or address. We need to do certain transformation on the seed name variable to get this check seed name. So nobody will be going to see in the practical. So here inside the SSDT let me try to create these variables first. The first variable that I told you source path. So this is the source path and the data type that should be string and here we can directly copy this path and paste that path in the value side. So it should be like this. Second we need to add one more variable. This variable will be folder path. So this will be folder path and it is a string. The value which is coming on this variable from the loop. The third variable that should be the seed name. So this is from the second loop. And the last which will be the check seed name. So we will be going to do the transformation later on on this. Now here let me save this first. Let me try to drag and drop for each loop container and make it bigger like that. Now double click on this but on the collections. So this for each loop container will be going to loop through all the files in a folder. So we can use the file enumerator right here. Then it is asking the path. So we can browse or we can directly copy that path from here and try to paste right here. But this is the static one. We want to make it as dynamic. So we can go inside the expression and we want to get this excel file path which is directory. And this should become from this source path variable. We can evaluate. Looks good. Click on OK. Again OK. Here we want to extract only the file which will be going to have the excel sx. So excel sx. Whatever the file contains the excel format only those files we want to get. In the retrieve file name we want to get full qualified path. It means it will be going to have the folder path along with the file name. Here we don't have any subfolder. So we don't want to traverse inside the subfolders. Now go to on the variable mapping. So inside the variable mapping we are having this folder path. So this folder path we want to getting from this folder. So what are the files? Those are available. We will be going to loop through one by one and it is going to have the path on this folder path variable. Now we can click on OK. So we have done with the first for each loop container. Let me try to drag and drop the second for each loop container. This second for each loop container we can set here like that. So this time in the collections we are going to loop through with all the excel seeds. So on that case in the last video we have seen we need to use the for each edu.net schema rosette enumerator. Here it is going to ask for the connection. So we can click on the new connection. It will take few seconds. So this is we have already created. Let me delete click on the new. Here it is asking for server name but in the provider we need to select the provider which is OLA DB provider for the access database engine click on OK. Now it is asking for server or file path. So this time I am going to provide path for any of this file. Let me copy this and paste it here. Now we can go in the all and here we are having the extended property. So in the extended property we can call this as excel 8.0. Now we can test the connection. It is succeed click on OK click on OK again OK. So everything looks good. Now we can see inside the schema. So inside the schema we have this table. If we can select this set restrictions then table name is coming in the second index. So 0 for the table catalog 1 for the table schema 2 for the table name. We can click on OK go to the variable mapping. Here we can see the seed name. So in this seed name the index that should be 2 we can click on OK. Now everything is configured for the for each loop container 2 as well. Now what next we need to do we need to go on the variable site. And inside the folder path inside the folder path we can specify a static value for any one of this file. So let me copy any one of this file and go back to here and provide that value right there. It's not required but I am just writing that in the seed name here we need to specify any one of the seed name. So that we could see let me try to copy this address USA first like this. If you have a remember in the last video the seed names are coming with a seed name and dollar. So we can add the dollar right here. Now here we can see this chip seed name. So we can go on the expression and we'll try to evaluate for those. So here let me click on these three dots and here we need to write the expression. So as you can see in the seed name we are having this hyphen. So before the hyphen we want to get the seed name if that is address then data should be go in the address table. If that is customer then data should be go in the customer table. So in this check seed name we are trying to get the seed name before this hyphen. So how we can do that. So this is very simple. We can write the substring function. So this is substring now we can start the bracket. So we want to get this from the seed name. Let me put comma then it is asking for starting value. So we want to start from one. Then how many characters we want. So for that we have a function which is called find string. So we can use that function find string. So first parameter of that find string is the seed name from where we want to find any string. Then what string we want to find that is hyphen. Then third the searching position. So we want to start from first position now we can evaluate it is reflecting an error. Let me check what is that error go back to here. So this is the substring seed name one then the find string. One bracket should be close right here because first bracket for the find string is second for the substring. Now we can evaluate and it looks good. Now we can click on. So everything is set up for the variable side. Now we can close this and here I am going to check all these values. So first of all let me go and try to get the script task inside this for each loop container. Now double click on this and here let me add the variable. So I want to see this check name. I want to see this folder name. I want to see this seed name as well. Now click on OK. Let me click on the edit script. It will take few seconds. Now it's ready. Here we can write the message box to check the output. So let me use the message box dot. So here we can have the DTS dot variables and after that specify the variable like this. So first time I want to see the folder path. Then dot value dot to string and close the bracket. Now second I want to check for seed name so DTS dot variables inside this bracket. We can specify the variable name and this time this is seed name dot value dot to string and we can close the bracket. And last we want to check for the check seed name as well. So DTS dot variables inside the square bracket. We can have the seed name. So it should be like this dot value dot to string like that. Now we can close this and here click on OK. So now everything is ready but I need to make few changes on this. The first change let me go on the edit script again. Here we can see we have here we are checking for the check seed name. We can ignore this because it will be going to take time to return the output in the message box because it is having the calculation. Now we can close this click on OK. Now one more thing go on this connection manager. So as of now it is static connection. So we can go and here go inside the expression and here we are having a property that is server name. So this server name is the file path. So that is coming in the folder path. So we can drag and drop evaluate click on OK again OK. Now we can save this and click on start. So it is checking for the month end. This is for Australia, Canada, others US is for the customer Australia, Canada, others here you can see this is for the mid month for the Australia. So it is working as expected. So let me stop this package. Now here we need to use few things. The first dataflow task we can use and after that we can use one more dataflow task right here. If we connect with the first one and let me call for address and let me call this for customer and here connect with this script task. Now double click on this and here we want to check expression as well as the constant. So inside the expression what we want to do, we want to check for this check sheet name if this value will be have the customer slash. If this is the true then we want to load the data inside this customer dataflow task. Here we want to check for the address. If expression and constant if that value of the sheet name which is the check if this value is address so this is like a double DRE double S address slash evaluate expression so this is true click on OK again. So if we are getting the sheet name which is the customer then that will go in this dataflow task if that is the address so that will go in this dataflow task. Double click on the address first. So inside the address what we need to do so first we need to check for the country table let me connect with the source first so our source should be Excel file so we can drag and drop this Excel file right here then we want to remove the duplicate in the country names so we want district country names so for that we can use the short transformation and after that we want to look up with the table which is the existing table in the SQL server so for that we have to use the lookup transformation and if data is not available in the country table then we want to load the data into SQL server table so for that we can use the already be destination so this is we need to set not only on this Excel source let me click on this new browse this time let me select any one of this file and click on open click on OK here we need to select the sheet name so let me select for the address go to the columns so that is OK click on OK so we have done for this now we can connect this with the short transformation this is static as of now will make it dynamic later double click on this short transformation and in the country name we want distinct values remove W duplicate click on OK let me connect this with the lookup transformation now double click on the lookup transformation full cache is OK here we are going to check inside the SQL server table so already be connection manager is OK go to the connection manager here we need to set up a connection so let me click on new here we need to specify the server name so here we can see the server name so we can copy this and we can go on the ssdt and try to paste it there and after that here we can select the database so we want to load the data into SSIS test database not just the connection it succeed click on OK again OK click on OK here from which table we want to check in the lookup so for that is country table go to columns here we have the country ID and here we can see the country name so let me connect country name with the country name only and in the output that is OK click on OK now let me connect this lookup transformation to the already be destination so here we want no match output but we need to do one more thing so inside the lookup transformation here specify how to handle with the no match entries so obviously redirect rows to no match output click on OK here let me double click on this already be destination on which table we want to load the data so we want to load the data into country table go to the mapping so country name should be going to map with the country name that is OK click on OK again so we have done all these things but everything is static so let me try to make the dynamic in the Excel source first so inside the Excel source we can see the Excel connection manager so here we can go inside the expression and here let me try to use the Excel source path so this Excel source path is coming from the folder path so we can drag and drop evaluate it looks good click on OK again OK so it is OK and now we can double click on this and here instead of this data access mode table or view let me make it as dynamic so we want to get this seed name from the variable and that variable is the seed name now we can go on the columns so it is OK click on OK so everything is OK so we have loaded the data into the country table now we want to load the data into the address table so we can connect this with this data flow task let me double click on this and this time our source that again should be Excel source so we can drag and drop that Excel source here then we want to load the data into the destination so we can drag and drop this destination double click on this source here we can select this address or we can directly make it dynamic instead of the static so this time seed name go to the columns we want all the columns so it is OK click on OK here we can go and connect with the OLEDB destination double click on this here we want to load into the address table go to the mapping so all the mappings are succeed but here you can notice one thing we are having the country ID but we don't have the country ID in the source so how we can get that country ID so for that let me delete this connection first this data pipeline and after that in between we can use the lookup transmission so let me try to drag and drop this lookup transmission connect with the Excel source double click on this lookup transmission everything leave as it is go to the connection here we are going to match with the country table so you can find out the country table put to the columns so we want to match this country name with the country table again and get the country ID from this click on OK now we can connect this with the destination and here obviously for the match output only now double click on this and here it is ok we want to load into the address table go to the mapping so all the mappings are succeed now click on ok so everything is set up for the address side now we can directly jump into the customer side and try to build that as well so double click on this customer and here our source that is the Excel source so we can drag and drop that and after that the destination that should be OLEDB destination so we can drag and drop that as well so in the Excel source let me go in the variable first so as of now it is going to check for the address USA but let me try to make this as customer now because we are going to consider this for the customer now let me close this double click on this Excel source here instead of the static let me make it dynamic so we can select as seed name all the columns are coming so that looks good click on ok here we can connect with this OLEDB destination double click on that so here it is going to load the data into the customer table so we can select the customer go to the mapping so all the mappings should be succeed so it looks good click on ok so we have done for all these if we go so our package is configured successfully before running the package you can go on the package level and here we can see a property that is delay validation because it is going to validate for the Excel seed name and all the things at the starting so that caused the problem because because in the seed name we can provide only one value either for the customer or for the address so one will be evaluated successfully and second will be going to fail so that's why we can enable this delay validation option as true after that we can go on this for each loop container level in all the level we can enable this delay validation so in the address again for true then for this again we can make it as true for the customer again we can make it as true in the connection manager level as we can make it as true for the second and for the last we can make it or not that does not matter so everything is looks good now now in the table first let me truncate all these tables so truncate table so first I am going to truncate this customer table second for the address and last for the country let me try to execute all these so we don't have any data in our table now let me try to execute this so click on the start so this is for the month end click on ok for the australia file so this should go inside the address it should not go anywhere this is because if you can see in this so at the starting we are having the single code so this is the reason this is not going anywhere let me stop this and here while we are going to check let me double click instead of this we can specify single code right there and in the customer as well we can specify single code let me click on ok now let me try to execute this package so before that let me try to truncate all these tables and here we don't have any data now now let me try to execute and load the data into the table click on start so this is for the month end file and this is going to load inside the address so it is going to execute address so first it will load the data into the country table then it is going to load data into this address table second for the canada it is going to do the same thing for the canada and going forward it will be going to repeat all these so this is for the others so this is for the US so now it is going to start with the customer australia then customer canada then customer others then customer us now you can see mid month file is going to start now click on ok so first address australia so this will be going to load in the address table second for the canada so I am going to pause this video until this package is not going to execute successfully so package executed successfully now go to on the sequence over and here we can see the data should be inserted into the table as you can see all the data is available in the table in the real time we are required to delete the data that is truncate the data into the address table as well as in the customer table but we are not required to delete the data into country table so let me double click on this execute and here we can see the connections that we can select and here we can write the truncate statement for address and customer only so country is not going to delete click on ok click on ok so whenever we are going to process the data for these two files then it is going to truncate the data which is available in the customer and address table and at the runtime the data is going to insert in the country table if not available already so this is about this package this is a complex project so please watch this video again if you are not clear and still if you have any doubt then you can drop your questions in the comment box I will try to response on your questions so thank you so much for watching this video please subscribe our channel to get many more videos and don't forget to press the bell icon to get the notification of our newly uploaded videos see you in the next video with new project thank you so much


Chapter four in our book is variability or looking at how much scores differ from one another and Like we had with central tendency. There are several different ways of measuring that so in terms of what we're gonna talk about We're gonna talk about variability in general But things like the range the intercortail range the variance and the standard deviation in particular and the reason We study those is because those are used for things like Determining whether you have outliers in your distribution. They're also used for calculating things like Standard deviations and standard errors and doing inferential statistics So they lead into a lot of other procedures that we're gonna do So that's a good reason but in terms of what you can use these for in the real world It's just nice to know what kinds of things vary a lot and what kinds of things don't So for instance, some things are really consistent If you're going to be in the military, you know what division you're in You know what your rank is your years of service You can predict how much money you're gonna make really well Same thing if you're teaching in the public K through 12 system the pay is very consistent on the other hand If you're an entrepreneur or business owner, it can be anywhere from zero dollars up to millions of dollars It's highly variable and the problem with Variabilities well it sometimes of interest in and of itself is it can also be noise It's hard to settle in on what the true meaning or most representative things going on are in your data So if you're trying to figure out how much a house costs in the neighborhood But the houses are going from ten thousand dollars to ten million dollars. It's it's hard to plan around that. I Know people who work as consultants and sometimes they have zero clients for a month And then they have ten clients in another month and it's all over the place that kind of variability It's important to identify how much is there and how can you plan around it? It's one of the reasons for instance, if you ever were to buy stocks, they tell you buy a mutual fund Which combines lots of different swans because that tends to be more stable and more predictable over time So when you're trying to make decisions It's easy to make decisions with things that are stable and predictable But it's hard to make decisions when things fluctuate all over the place And so you want to know how variable your data are and that's the purpose the point of These different measures of variability and how you can use them both in research and in your own decision making