Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of johnthasley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today. Our topic, how to make him obsessed about you for years. How to make him obsessed about you for years to come. All right, really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit that subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if anytime during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if an F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations. So all I ask is you give me a little bit of a chance. All right, let's talk about how to make a man obsessed with you for years. Now, really quickly, I'm gonna do a slightly different format because I've been getting complaints or I should say requests. And that is I'm gonna do the content of this first, then I'm gonna give you opinion on something that's been rattling in my head and then we're gonna go to the Q and A. So just a little heads up of how the format is gonna be today. So, you know, the title says obsessed and I'm not sure I love that word to be obsessed with someone because I feel like it creates an imbalance in the relationship when you're seeking more from another person than they seek from you. So let's just call this mutual obsession. Let's call it mutual attraction. Let's call it mutual connection instead of obsession. And yet I think this is an important conversation to have because what we're really talking about is how can we create a connection that really lasts potentially a lifetime? How can you have that kind of connection with another person that sense of real feeling of really wanting to be with this person for a very, very, very long time. And I know many of you who watch my channel are seeking a long-term permitted relationship and not a short-term relationship or a hookup relationship or something casual. So that's one of the reasons why when I created my channel is I'm not a big fan of the hookup culture. I'm not a big fan of casual dating. I'm more of a fan of being intentional in the dating process from an intentionality for a variety of different reasons but also from a long-term perspective of being in partnership with someone to be in partnership. And part of the reason I operate from that perspective if you look behind me, there's a picture of my mom and dad. This was taken when they were in their 20s. My mother and father were married just one month shy of 66 years before my mother passed away. And they actually knew each other 72 years. In fact, my mother met my father when she was 16, I think she was 15 and a half and my father was 18 and a half. Yeah, so no, there was a four-year difference. So 19 and a half, excuse me. So they knew each other 72 years. Now there was a period of time where they didn't see each other for a long time, but imagine that 72 years. And one of the things I noticed about my parents, especially towards the latter part of their marriage, if you will, before my mother passed away, is they literally were, they were literally best friends with each other. They were best friends with each other. They would sit in their Barker Lounge and watch the Lifetime movie channel where they watch Jeopardy and Wheel of Fortune like a lot of senior citizens do. And what I most appreciated about them was their deep friendship. And I wanna share a story that's gonna illustrate what I'm about to point out. So there was this time, probably five or six years before my mother passed away. And I went to go visit my parents. They lived in a retirement community. And the TV wasn't working. And they said, well, the cable company is reinstalling cable or something. So they were out of cable for two weeks or for, excuse me, for one week. So I said, well, what have you and dad been doing? And they said, we've just been talking. I'm like, really talking?  We just, you know, we're just talking as friends. So the following week, I went to go visit her and the TV wasn't on, or visit my parents, I should say, and the TV wasn't on like it usually is. And as I said, they watched the Lifetime movie channel and the game show networks and stuff like that. And I said, why isn't the TV, or is the TV working? They go, yeah, it's working. I go, well, why aren't you watching TV? And my mom says, we're not done talking. And I knew what she meant because she was referring to our previous conversation some days earlier, we're not done talking. If you really want to be in a partnership with someone, then one of the fundamental pieces has to be a deep, rich friendship with one another, a deep, rich friendship with one another. Because that's what's gonna wanna, that's what's gonna wanna make two people be together for years. And I'll talk about how to create friendship in a moment because I think it's really important. But I think the other fundamental pieces to make, listen, I know the title is how to make a man obsessed with you, but what I really wanna say is how to make two human beings obsessed with each other, okay? My audience is women trying to understand men. If men were watching this, then I would have made this gender neutral. I say how to make yourselves obsessed with one another. And it starts with deep friendship. And yet these days, dating, I gotta tell you, I see so few women and men actually developing the deep friendship in the dating process because it's more hyper-focused on romance and chemistry and sex and not enough really genuinely getting to know each other. And I get it. It's much harder today because these days we're meeting total strangers. It's meeting total strangers. If you're not familiar with the book by Malcolm Gladwell, I highly recommend checking this out, talking to strangers. What we should know about the people we don't know. And in a world of Tinder swindlers, and I was just watching, what's it called, Bad Vegan on Netflix? Oh my God. Not to suggest that everybody is a scam artist, but what we don't know, the reality is is when we're meeting strangers and we know nothing about their backstory, it makes it more imperative to be discerning, to be discerning.  It's so critically important to be discerning. By the way, if you need some help with that, check out the link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. Because my whole coaching program is teaching you, discerning isn't being picky. And we're gonna talk about picky in a little bit, but discerning is not being picky. Discerning is saying, does this person, listen, most of you have watched my channel know my relationship iceberg, okay? Here it is. Most of you focus on the tip of the iceberg, which is chemistry, which is attraction. What's below the iceberg is shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. And as you start to check these boxes, you become more attracted to each other.  The second piece is trust, trust. And by the way, this is such a critical piece to build trust with one another and trust is, by the way, this isn't singular to the man trusting you and you trusting the man, this is for the two of you. And this isn't about fidelity. Trust is, do I trust this person genuinely cares about my feelings? Do I trust this person has my best interest at hands?  I'm only speaking to those of you that want partnership. If you want hookup and you want casual, this isn't for you. It's okay, but for the men who want casual and hookups, I'm not judging them. I'm only speaking to those of you that want something more.  Because no trust has been built. And any of you that heard that, you know, love at first sight, let me ask you, for those that believe at love at first sight, let me ask you a question. This man that you have this love at first sight and he has love at first sight for you, you guys are so amazingly connected with one another. Oh my God, we're kindred spirits, we're twin flames. Is that man gonna be there for you if you're going through chemotherapy? Is he gonna be wiping the vomit from your chin as you rest there in bed having to suffer?  This is why I continually say in my videos, it takes about a hundred hours of face to face time just to get to the first layer of trust. The first layer of trust with someone.  Let me touch this fire, it's so pretty. But do you wanna have 50 degree burns? No, that's why I recommend you reading all these books so you don't buy into the rhetoric. And this isn't about leaning back in your feminine energy and letting the guy claim you, that's not about that. By the way, isn't claiming what we do with property? And if you sit back in your eminent energy waiting for a guy to claim you, is this guy worth being claimed? And by the way, is this guy gonna be there in the long run?  Number three, to be as confident, to be each other's confidence, that's really what the bottom line is, a confidant. Someone you can trust, someone you can talk to, that's what's gonna make someone wanna go year after year with you, not the short run. And lastly, I want you to write this down, it's the four A's, it's the four A's, okay? The four A's. Attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance. Attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance. Attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance. That's the multivitamin that every relationship needs both parties being in that state of giving each other affection, to give each other presence or excuse me, attention, which is presence, affection, which is touch. Appreciation is gratitude and accepting a person for where they're at in their life. And when we can operate from that place, this person's gonna wanna spend a very, very long time with you if you've got that chemistry piece.  I highly recommend checking out the book if the Buddha dated, if the Buddha dated.  How do we connect with each other's hearts? And that's my invitation for you. So if you want a man obsessed with you for years, first and foremost, you gotta be great friends with each other. Number two, there has to be genuine trust with one another. Number three, you have to be each other's confinat. And then you need the multivitamin of the four A's, attention, affection, appreciation, and acceptance. Is this sinking in? I hope so, I hope so. All right, we're gonna take a break for one second. So bear with me. Bum, bum, bum, I'm still talking. I forgot to do something. I realized that my internet wasn't connected properly and I was using wifi and it's better to use your ethernet when you're shooting a video. So you can have a much better connection. So thank you for allowing me to take a break for a second. All right, is this sinking in folks? Is this resonating with you? Please say yes, this makes sense, Jonathan. Yes, this resonates with me. Ah, so I wanna, before I begin the Q and A today, I wanna share something with you all.  Our modern women are picky.  And women now are in a position where they don't need because survival today is the greenback. That's what survival is, is money. And since women are capable of supporting themselves, they don't need men from a financial position as much as they did before. Although folks, I'm a big believer is two incomes is better than one. Two incomes is better than one, okay? So with that said, I've observed that because women are in a position to actually make better choices for themselves. In other words, from a choice of discernment, a lot of women actually are becoming ridiculously picky. By the way, I'm gonna throw men under the bus in a moment too, so don't worry about that. But particularly in the area of wanting instant chemistry, instant chemistry right from the get-go. This instant attraction butterflies and that physical attraction so early on. And what this conversation, this is what we were debating with each other, me and this other gentleman who happens to be a dating coach for men. And what was interesting is there are, we kind of surmise that there are a lot of men and women that totally overvalue what they think they can actually attract, who they actually can attract in their life. Let me repeat that, this is true for men and women alike, they overvalue what they can actually attract. And what I mean by attract, let me rewind when we're talking about picky because I didn't really explain what was said in the conversation. There's a term these days that's being floated around called hypergamy, hypergamy. And this is where women are oftentimes choosing men of much require or desiring men of a much higher status than themselves, a much higher status of themselves. Now that's probably been true since cave man days, to some degree, the cave woman that was the most attractive could attract the strongest man to take care of the cave. So this isn't anything new, this desire to have the most status. So this is a very true thing. And men tend to choose women based on physicality and women tend to, not always, tend to choose men based on status. That's kind of maybe bred in through our cave man period. But now the conversation is are women too picky? Well, I think the real problem is men and women alike are overvaluing who they think they can attract into their life because these devices now have created a false sense of choice because we can swipe on bumble and swipe and think we have all these choices. And when you see so few people that you're actually attracted to, you see so few people you're attracted to, you see so few people attracted to, then it actually on an emotional level for men and women alike has probably desensitized them to actually meeting someone from a heart centered level to meet someone at that place of real compassion care. And are we seeking a man of kindness or does he all, by the way, I'll give you an example of this, the whole six foot tall, six foot and over, literally 14% of men are over six foot over and yet 75 to 80% women prefer men who are six feet and older, taller, excuse me, I said older, that's funny. So right off the bat, is that being too picky? Well, Jonathan, it makes me feel protected when I'm with a man taller than me. Well, you're five foot two, can't you be with a five foot nine guy, he's taller. But Jonathan, I need six foot so I can feel really protected. Well, Bruce, I'm spitting.  I mean, by the way, I'm six foot two and I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I have not had a fight ever since the playground days. If a mugger came up to me, we're both fucked. Okay, we're fucked. I can't protect you. And thank to God, it's never happened. Now, there are other ways to be protective of a person. I think one of the most sincere ways a man can protect a woman is to actually be a trustworthy man of integrity, who's vulnerable, authentic and transparent to me, that's the greatest way a man could be a protector to a woman. So do women overvalue themselves and do men overvalue themselves in the midlife market? Absolutely, this is why so few people are connecting today.  So it's so easy for men to have sex these days because all men have to do is kind of promise that they want a relationship with you.  That's the barrier to entry is I kind of say I want a really, or by the way, you could even, you could flat out say you want a relationship but ladies, tell me how many times have you had sex relatively early with a man only for him to pull on the phone or through text message? You know, I realize I'm not ready for a relationship.  How he wants to be in a relationship and you're the most amazing woman on the planet. I've never been with any woman like you ever before and then boom, he's God. That's because you're not spending enough time building the deeper roots of trust in a relationship. You're not building that sense of real emotional intimacy.  And lastly, the other thought I was pondering when we were having this conversation centers around the difference between choosing and keeping a man because if you're too picky choosing and then you have chosen someone, the more important thing is how you're gonna keep someone and if you're not familiar with my emotional maturity relationship skills chart, this is for both men and women. This is not a fact an opinion. I believe roughly 20% of the population has clinical issues. And while I stayed here that 20% is emotionally healthy, I'm being ridiculously generous because the vast majority of humans are dysfunctional and that's why you're not keeping these relationships. This is why I continually, continually, continually recommend a couple books. First off is reading the book, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. By the way, there's a link below to Jonathan recommends books.  And lastly, most importantly, well, there's two more books. You should be reading my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway by Jonathan Asley, link below selflovethebook.com. This is a journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work so you can work on your dysfunctionality.  Oh my God, so few of you are actual being adults.  Listen, ladies, I am in your favor. I want you to be discerning.  Did he pay for the valet? I mean, when I heard that a dating coach is saying, don't ever go out on a guy on the second date if he didn't pay the valet, that is being picky. And folks on the height thing, the average height of a man is five foot nine.  Accept that and be grateful. I know you all want the tall guy, but that's, you know, and that tall guy gets to choose whoever he wants. And there are a lot of other areas that you're picking.  Is this sinking in? If you agree with me, give me an amen. I'm sorry for my pit stains. So, just as a reminder, I think the dating, mating and relating process, it is ridiculously dysfunctional.  And that's the energy I invite you all to be in that space of compassion for yourself and everyone else because if you really want to attract that juicy, delicious relationship I talk about, it's requiring throwing out all the list and narrow it down to three must-haves. My three must-haves, just to give an example, she's totally into me, she's totally into life and she's into spirituality. Everything else I can work around. So I invite you to come up with your three non-negotiables, your three must-haves instead of being overly picky. And I invite you guys to do the same for yourself. Are you in agreement with me? If you are, give me an amen. And give me a big gigantic shot at the bear hug too. All right, if I have your permission anyway. All right, this would be a great place to start our Q&A. All right, if you have a question for me, write the word question, post the question there after or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley, that's him right there. Salty, that's him right there. Isn't he cute in his, oh shoot, that Buzz Lightyear. What was the Tom Hanks's character? Woody. And he's my son who passed away a few years ago and in his honor, I started a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development and to donate to causes like the Hoffman process in Insight seminars. And I highly recommend going online, type in Hoffman process and insightseminars.org. This will change your life, I promise. All right, I see some questions already coming in, so write the word question, post the question there after. All right, let me take a drink. Suzanne Conley says, question. Jonathan, do you think if you meet someone and enjoy their company, but physical and chemistry is not present, would you suggest to pursue? Great question, so here's my feelings. So long as the man doesn't have a beer get the size of Texas or he's missing his front teeth, if you feel an emotional connection with the man, then go out on a second, third or fourth date. If you feel an intellectual connection with a man, go out on a second, third or fourth date. If you feel a creative connection with the man, that's what my friend, Alison Armstrong calls the Adam Sandler effect. In other words, Adam Sandler isn't one of the best looking guys on the planet, but he's incredibly charming and he's very funny as an example. So if you're feeling emotional, intellectual or what I call creative connection, then give the guy three chances or more. Here's the thing, I've interviewed hundreds of women who are in happy relationship, hundreds, hundreds, hundreds. And I will tell you that nearly a third of them, a third of them, one third, have said to me, and I quote, I wasn't physically attracted to my guy on the first, second or third date. And then something changed. It's, but I'm not, again, I'm not suggesting going out with someone who has a beer gut the size of Texas or is missing his teeth or whatnot, but you know what? I do recommend, because listen folks, you can overvalue your ability to get people and you could be single for a very long time, okay? Or if you have a good person right in front of you, you may want to invest in getting to know his heart. Now I'm gonna tell you a little story. When I did the Hoffman process in 2017, there were 40 people at the event, or excuse me, 39, 20 women, 20 men and 19 women, 20 men and 19 women. This isn't designed that way, that's how many signed up. Now when you get there, you're not supposed to tell people what you do for a living. So, but you interact with people a little bit and there was this guy, he looked like the Marlboro man. I mean, rugged, tough, good-looking, chiseled face, but actually he had tattoos up and down his arms and actually he looked more like an MMA fighter, I should say, not the Marlboro man, okay? So, but I was interacting with women and on the second to last day, we got a chance to get up on stage and tell people what we did for a living. And when I told everyone I was a dating or relationship coach, I mean like it was so funny, the women goes, that makes sense the way you were talking. And when this guy, this MMA fighter type guy, good-looking guy, I mean really good-looking, tattoos and everything, when he got up, he was a professor of microbiology at Stanford. I mean, I thought this guy was a Neanderthal and he was brilliant, okay? Now, why am I sharing the story? Because later that evening when I was at the Jacuzzi and all the women were surrounding me, all the guys were pissed because all the women wanted to talk to me. One of the gals, actually the gal who gave me this bracelet that says Connor on it, Connor rests in peace. She said, Jonathan, when I first got here, I scanned the room and I saw the 20 men and I was attracted to two of them. There was you and the guy I called the Marlboro, the MMA fighter. She goes, I was most physically attracted to two of you. She said, now that I got a chance to speak to every man here and connect with them at a heart-centered level, she said, I would date every man here. Now, some of the men were married and some men were younger. But what I appreciate about that story was she went beyond the physicality and went to the more important qualities, kindness, character, compassion, authenticity, vulnerability, transparency. That's what mattered to her. And she said, this experience changed my life to be able to look at men. She said, I quote, to look at men from their heart and not their outside. Remember my relationship, iceberg. We tend to focus on the chemistry piece, but what's more important is shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. This is why ladies, I continually recommend this book over and over and over and over and over again.  Oh, by the way, I just realized I forgot to mention earlier in the broadcast how to build friendship. But I wanna end, I'm gonna answer that in a second. But I hope I answered your question because here's the bottom line. What matters most in a guy? His looks or is that question? Or his heart? That's my invitation for you. His looks or his heart? Susan, thank you so much for your question. All right, really quickly, when I said how to build the friendship, I wanna remind everybody what I talk about frequently. And that is social activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends. That is how you're gonna build friendship. But Jonathan, I'm in a long distance relationship. Yeah, guess what? And I know this sounds like I'm repetitive. It's because repetition is going to change you. And that is long distance relationships are all on the telephone. And it is incredibly difficult to bond on the telephone. You can become friends with people on the telephone, but you can't bond on the telephone. We need physicality to actually bond with someone. So understand this. But Jonathan, I'm supposed to let the man lead. Men are terrible at the leading process. So you initiate them. So what? Let's go for a hike. Let's go, by the way, my ex, one of my dearest friends was in a relationship with someone. And all she did was schedule hikes for them. She was the entertainment, what's the word? She was their entertainment concierge. She planned everything right from the very first date. So stop this whole narrative. It's got to be the guy, it's got to be the guy. Because all your female dating coaches say, the guy has to lead, the guy has to lead, the guy has to lead. Men are terrible at the process. So you simply say, hey, let's go for a hike today. Let's go for a walk today. Let's go to the park today. That's how you get to know someone.  Is this sinking in, ladies? You are in charge of your destiny, not the guy. Okay, I go off on my tangents. Let's go swimming. Let's go swimming. Let's go swimming. Let's go swimming. I saw something from a, hold on. Let's go swimming. Oh, Lisa, how? Jonathan, or excuse me, question. Is it a red flag if he wants to know if you're renting or owning, also wanting to know about the area you live in? Okay, where I live in. I live in an area called Redondo Beach, California, just south of Los Angeles. By the way, a man asking if you're owning or renting, I think coming back to, I think there's probably, okay, I was thinking about divorced men that might have lost their assets. I could see where it could be intimidating to be with a woman who owns her home versus renting. I think that's one thing that could come up. I also think if you are financially dependent, that might be another thing that might come up. So there is this belief that people own their home are a little bit more stable than renters, but those are all just constructs. They don't mean anything. I mean, they don't mean a lot in the long, well, they could mean a lot. So let me backtrack on that. Those are just my rough thoughts of why that might be asked. I could be missing five or six things, but I'm on the spot here and when I rip, I just channel whatever comes to me and then I spit it out. So that's my rough thoughts on that, Lisa. So thank you so much for your question. All right. I wanna thank 10. Oh, let's fall, 10, just purchase a super sticker. Thank you for the $20 super sticker super chat. She says, looks are fleeting, heart is forever, so much to learn from each other and share. Amen. Amen to that. Thank you for the super sticker to the Conor Asley. By the way, I've got a cup cup here that says salty vibes. Anyone who knows my son's Conor's nickname is salty. So I get so many sweet gifts from you all. Thank you so much for the gift I shared last week, but anything salty, I love. Salty crew, all that stuff. So thank you. By the way, I'm a large in clothing. Someone sent me a beautiful sweater, but it was extra large. I'm a large. 42 inch chest, 35 inch waist. All right, let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming. Tracy, right. Question, what is the best way to get a guy to open up after a massive amount of adult trauma, including after being combat veteran for multiple years? How do you crack that nut? Therapy, anyone who has PTSD, I highly recommend they go to therapy, they do the Hoffman process. It's not your job to crack the nut because here's the thing. A relationship is not about being each other's therapist.  That creates a dynamic that will most likely implode later on down the road. What you want, what he most likely would benefit from, the Hoffman process, the Hoffman process. I recommend someone who's a professional at PTSD is certainly a therapist that's a professional. And I also recommend doing more than once a week therapy. I recommend therapy three times a week. For people that have deep trauma, I recommend therapy three times a week. But Jonathan, they can't afford it. Guess what, folks? The price you pay of not healing pays dearly in the area of miserableness, unhappiness. And sadly, many people commit suicide and other things when they've had deep trauma. I recommend therapy three times a week. And if you can't find the resources, then scale back your life and invest in yourself. The most important thing you can ever invest in in your life is yourself. And I'm not talking about manicures, pedicures and massages. I know that self care, but emotional self care is so far more important. And yet here in the United States, we are suckling on the nipple of consumerism. Look at what makes money. Instagram, selling products on Instagram. We don't need more products in our lives. What we need is more of a life. And the way to get your life is through self love. This is why I wrote my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway? A Journey of Personal Development, Self Help and Spiritual Work. We don't need the Kardashians. We don't need all the garbage out there.   I actually appreciate YouTube because this is a platform for people like myself to get a message out. This is my own TV show for you to get a message out of encouraging you to work on yourself. This isn't about having a guy obsessed with you.  Thank you for your question. I appreciate it. Heather, dear Heather, would a guy do the same in a group of women? They would scan the same, but then would they have changed their heart after listening to them? So the answer is yes and no. And let me explain why. By the way, sometimes the most attractive women could be the greatest nightmare on the planet. And I've been there, so I know from personal experience saying this. The problem is men need physical attraction to get the equipment up. We needed to get our heart on. So ultimately a man has to be physically attracted to the woman he's with. And so she could have the most amazing heart on the planet. He still has to get a heart on to go with his heart on. So it does require, and by the way, we are a ridiculously dysfunctional culture here in the United States. We have the highest, excuse me, not the highest, but we have an incredibly high obese rate for men and women. And physical attractiveness is important. I'm not, listen folks, I'm not here to diminish anyone's body, but I'm saying to be a healthy person, to be in relationship, it really makes sense to invest in healthier eating and physical exercise. I know some people struggle with that, but ultimately at the day, by the way, at the end of the day, a healthy life usually requires healthy eating and physical exercise to maintain physical, not to maintain physical attractiveness, to maintain, I was gonna say that, but to maintain a healthy life. And yes, when people do more of that, they are more attractive to people. So coming back to your question, you know, the average man, he's just looking for someone he's attracted to. I mean, as much as he may want a supermodel, the average guy knows he's not gonna get the supermodel.  By the way, please don't blast that I just said that, I was just being silly. Or Brad Pitt or George Clooney or whoever you're, you know, the Ryan Goslings of the world.  Am I with a person who's kind? Am I with a person who has integrity? Am I with a person that can be vulnerable, authentic and transparent with me? Am I with a person that is my confidant? Am I with a person I trust and they trust me? That matters way more than looks because as the previous message said, looks are fleeting. And look at my mom. Okay, there's picture mom and dad.  And by the time she had me or my brother, I should say she weighed 300 pounds, five foot five and 300 pounds. And I asked my dad, did you ever cheat on mom? You know what he said to me because they had that deep friendship, they had that deep trust, they had that confidence. They had the four A's in a relationship. And you know what he said? He goes, I look at your mom like the first day I met her.  We all, you know, and so I'm just here to say, and by the way, she was 300 pounds. By the way, when she passed away, she was 180. But yeah, I think it's more important. I think for guys, we need the equipment up. I think that's, anyway, that's just my rough thoughts. Let me just, you know, noodle on that for a little bit. Heather, thank you so much for that question. I appreciate it. Ah, SF says, question. He's moved his father into his home who has Alzheimer's. It's been over a year now. We've been seeing for a year before that. It's taken its toll on us. How long should I wait? I don't understand the question of waiting. What are you waiting for? Are you waiting to be committed?  I mean, tell me about your relationship. How often do you see each other? Do you see each other three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, or is he basically a caretaker? And what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for marriage? Are you waiting for some commitment? Because the only way that's ever gonna happen, ladies, is to use your mouth. Talk, talk, talk. I am so flabbergasted at how few of you actually talked to the men you're with. But Jonathan, the man's supposed to lead. No, you're supposed to express yourself to a man. If this guy is genuinely your friend, then talk to him. If he says I can't do it, then you make a choice after that.  Chapter one in my book, speak your truth. Just do it kindly. And chapter nine, if it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. This isn't about waiting. This is about talking to one another. Purchase the book I hear you. The surprising, okay. The surprisingly simple skills behind extraordinary relationships. Have conversations.  You've been with this man two years. Why are you two together? What's the purpose? What's the purpose of the two of you being together? Why are you together? Do you know it used to be 100 years ago, the dating process, the courting process lasted three weeks.  That's about how fast it happened, relatively fast, okay. We've never experienced this kind of dating before in the last 50 to 100 years. So the problem is, is you're not having grown up conversations with each other. You're not talking, most likely, I'm speculating here. So start communicating. You ladies always talk about the importance of communicating and yet you're terrible at communicating. You're great at vomiting your feelings but you're not good at communicating. You don't know how to communicate. You got to learn how to communicate in an authentic, vulnerable, transparent way. I get so riled up. I get riled up because you guys complain about communication and yet you don't communicate. There's two books I want you to read. How to build trust in a relationship and couples, communication guide. These are thin books. Look at them. Start taking charge of your life. Stop leaving it up to men. I'm just gonna rant today. By the way, is this sinking in?  Let me know. I crack myself up sometimes. Let me know in the comments. Kit Kat says, I love it when Jonathan swears and says it how it is. LOL. Thanks, Kitty Kat. Susan Conley says, at least you're honest and make me laugh. I'm not, listen. You know why? You know why I use humor? Because humans are ridiculously absurd to me.   But you humans are ridiculously dysfunctional. Myself included.  And I say this with humor, it's sadness too. But I say with humor because this whole point, listen, after Connor passed away, I decided to look at life completely differently. It really is a journey. All the nooks and crannies, all the ups and downs, all the dysfunctionality, it's a game to me anyway. I say a game, a game in the sense of I have a choice. I can do it with suffering or I can do it with love. I choose not to suffer in this world. I choose to look at finding the joy as much as I can. And one of the things that stifles joy is stuffing oneself, stuffing your emotions, stuffing your feelings, acting immature, acting picky, all the things we talked about. I'm here to encourage all of you to do personal development work, self-help and spiritual work because this isn't about finding a man for happiness. So many of you are suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. Start feeling good about yourself by loving yourself. I love you, I'm sorry. Please forgive me, thank you. I love you, I'm sorry. Please forgive me, thank you. I love you, I'm sorry. Please forgive me, thank you. The Hawaiian forgiveness prayer, also known as the hoponopono, it is an injection of love. And I invite you all to lean into loving yourself because it's not about finding the guy or he's obsessed with you for years. I want you to be obsessed with yourself in the healthy way for your lifetime. And that's what my channel is all about. And my hope is this resonates with you. So please give me a thumbs up if it does and please share this video with friends. Thank you. All right, our last question of the day with $9.99 Super Sticker, thank you so much. Silly question. What does let me know if you need anything? Wait, what does let me know if you need anything at all? From a man I barely know and who's married, but oh boy, we locked eyes. You know what? It sounds like that there's a physical attraction towards one another, maybe a little limberence, maybe a little lust, and that's an invitation to the door is open and then you connect and the door is open and you connect.    I have to be there for her. Ladies, do you wanna be with a married man? I hope not. So what does it mean? I'll be there for you.  That's what it means. Anyway, all right, there's the exception. There's probably, maybe he's a fireman and he wants to rescue your cat. Okay, there's maybe that, but trust me, 99 out of 100 times, that's what it means. All right, purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat before we wrap up today. Has this been a value to you? Listen, if I've been a value to me right in the comments, Jonathan, you are making a difference in my life. I wanna hear this. I was having a bad day so please tell me this is making a difference.  That's why I was having a bad day. The brown bunny baker says, Jonathan, your channel is so refreshing. You're more entertaining to Brad Pitt, George Clooney. Also, your book was excellent. Please write a review, Brown. Thank you so much, I appreciate it. Maria says, I love your, thank you. Maria also says, I love your advices. Thank you so much, I appreciate it. Mary Tell, Mimi says, amen. Thank you so much. Oh, Heather, thank you so much for the $5 Super Sticker. You are wonderful. That goes to the Connor Asley Scholarship Fund. Thank you so much. Paula says, never mess with a taken man. I agree. Ying Tong Song, sorry, I don't know how to pronounce your name.  Thank you so much. Kit Kat says, you always make a difference. Please never leave your YouTube. My name is Maria as well. Thank you, Maria.  We love you. You helped so much. Thank you everyone. I needed that little TLC right now. Ah, all right. How to make a guy obsessed with you. Deep friendship, trust, being each other's confidant. And then the four As, the multivitamin every relationship need is attention, affection, appreciation and acceptance. Use that. And ladies, you are in charge of your relationship, Destiny.  You need to lean into your empowerment because you are in charge of your destiny, not the guy. All right. Everyone, from the bottom of my heart, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do. First, I'll give myself a big gigantic shot at the merit of self-love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm asking you to turn to someone, Pat, a teddy bear pillow, and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. Tracy, thank you for the $9,000 super stiffer. What a Friday gift to Connor. Julia, thank you for the $2 super sticker to Connor. Oh my gosh, I'm loving it all. Oh, Connor, yes. We got lots of money to donate this month. I'm so excited. By the way, I do donate, I do give to, I was just speaking to a client, I'm donating to the Hoffman. By the way, if any of you do decide to go the Hoffman process, come to me. I will donate one night of your lodging at the Hoffman process as my gift to you. Any of you do the Hoffman process. I don't mean the book, I'm talking about the actual workshop. I will cover some of your cost as my gift to you. Lynn, I wanna thank you for the $5 super sticker. Thank you so much.  Let's keep the money going in. We've got like a marathon or a telephone going. There's a little super sticker, super chat at the end of the live chat box where there's a little dollar sign. That's where you can purchase this super sticker, super chat. Crystal, I wanna wish you a fabulous weekend. Susan, I wanna wish you a fabulous weekend. Grace, I wanna wish you a fabulous weekend. Suzanne, Lynn, Reina, Tracy, Kitty Cat, I mean Maria. Maria as well, Tracy, Grace, Monica, Mermaid Tails, the brown bunny, Baker, Danielle, Elena, Diana. I love the name Diana. Of course, Diana, Prince is where I fell in love with that name. Oh, every one of you. I love all your names, by the way. So I just had to say it out loud. Wishing you a super-duper, wonderful weekend. Be well and love yourself. All right, bye-bye now, bye-bye. Don't let the trolls get you down. Thank you, Suzanne, I appreciate it.


Thank you so much for tuning in for yet another episode of Y254 Unfinished. My name is Karen Jessa and today we are engaging on the topic of exam cheating. So, yes, KCP li patawatu last week nabutua. Yani, they were not expecting the results, but who is the ministry? Yes, they released the exam results na wasuakapata exams zao. But, weh, kuli kwa na question max mahali juu, wasu alipatikano ali cheats, walipata results zao. So, maze, sit back, relax and let's engage. Pale nyumbani head over to our Facebook page, ama Instagram ni Y254 channel. Let us know what's your opinion on these three topics. Karibu. So, recently, exams za 2020 zili toka na, of course, gaveli kam apna. A new policy ikasema kama ulipatikana ali cheats in these exams, the KTPE. Examinas ama invigilators ama principle. Wondo alikwana faku, pa nishiwa, instead of students. Juki tamu ilikwa, students kama me patikana ama a cheats, alikwana pewa x ama y, depending on the level of cheating. But, this time around ali sema, the exam center itself, the whole eternity, that is the teachers, the principal, the invigilator. You saw these children, walu kwa wana cheat ama you had an idea that they had the exam papers already before they were doing this exam. Wewa mwenyo en dutaku wa punished. So, we want to know from you. Do you support this new style of punishing examiners as opposed to punishing the students? Let us know. Shidogo, I mean onelia, I think in Afafu has played kwa sababu. Pia shulene nanda kufundisha mtu morals, you know anna. So, they should also be responsible to, you know, a degree. So, yoku itwa kabisa yote. I don't think inans idea in the long run kwa sababu. You know it will be easy to, nika maku you do something but you don't take care of the responsibility that comes with your actions. So, I don't, maybe they should have at least some degree at a kama si, you know, like ku, at a kama si, you know, getting away the results, you'll find something that's a bit lenient but they should at least go responsible for the actions. I don't support because two parties are involved, the students and the examiners. So, the students should be penalized because they are actually the ones who are involved in cheating and also the examiners because maybe they were a bit not cautious for the students to cheat. So, both partners, sorry, both parties should be penalized. According to me, I don't support your style kwa sababu as we know in Kenya, kuna kitu enye ime MMS, Ekonomi 8, awa makatels. So, as we know students, students don't have that much connection. So, we know students have to be assisted so that they can cheat in the examination because I believe that there are some operators at NEC so our operators don't allow kingi examination because I believe examination is normally sealed. So, you can't tell me as a student in March a bit and as a kujambaka NEC head office, kujia break down kwa izu rooms on a storm piano na kibreke down apu, aibem piano, I don't think so. So, I think kuna makatels na the government should crack a whip the government should crack a whip at those people. So, the big fish comes out as sheque before they reach out to the small people. So, kubidina pili tse mene biyo e exam kuna jo sa ziweine ni monofuun zito kuna planzake so, me shugulika kivike tuwa kapata yo yo mahaji. So, sa ziweine na patatu na muadibu mua limu bila yo kuna makosa ama sa inbidi letter yu sa ziweine na pata wa sa idi ani but kuna cases enye sasuna pata pame usika piya So, kiyanda design kama yo kamba anadibu yo alimu kusipo inbidi letters, yo nisa akin nisa sikila mahali da apply. Kuna kumino ni monofuun zito na kudena planzake tunili. So, aya, sifea bile. Kuna jo sa hatatime kama mechi tukapata e kuna ziweine na kwa yo jobu niko ona itafta kuna yo jobu shinda kudu So, ita bidi yu meji blame urodi tena urodi e tena yo kus na wale wei ni wame pata bidi wana eza kanyu mua kungia kampo kusasa ama jari bukume effort at least a kuna sa but sasa wile mechi e tinda sasa ina bidi kwa ke na kwangumu yu sasa yo ziwe ma max cizake doa me struggle sika mua wile wei me struggle aka pata bidi urodi yu sasa anafatu I do support ma koha situation because kitambo e ma this Kenya have been having issues about examinations ma rahawa reva wa toa me shikwa but we don't see people wame shikwa ma kwa said last night ati, sometime ago ati, e kaisimi tokeleze lakini, awa toa ta shikwa why day you seen them? can you have an action on this because magua is a good guy because he's so serious sometime like now we need it was to be an action that's all about a case here ati kwae awa ma jamaa wanna try kwaiba pa fungi so people will be okay, we say hey now there's an evidence yo kre people has been arrested wame iba mutiani now it's okay as a minister now when you talk only you have to put your action I'm supporting this new directive because it is the teachers and the invigilators who are having the fault here because if they are strict especially the teachers and the principal in school they should bring up the students preparing them for the exams and making sure that during the exam they don't cheat all along but now if the mistake is that found that the students are cheating and then it should be the fault of the invigilators and the teachers and the principal of that school I'm supporting that because if they become strict before I don't think the student will have the courage of cheating when the rules are very strict I would support it and the reason is because I think cheating can be a concerted effort if and what's the point of the invigilator if the students are just given free rein to cheat so there's a role that they play and there's a reason why they are the invigilator and unfortunately with such an office comes responsibility and they need to do their job simply put to a sense if indeed actually they are supporting the cheating they should be punished however like in any other scenario the instances where people are actually innocent and they did their level best to invigilate but still it happened so in such a case I think it would be a good idea to do a sort of investigation and if they indeed facilitate the cheating then they should be punished kumena support kwa sababu it's all about leadership leadership if you can't influence somebody you can't lead leadership is all about influence so if you have good leaders who are the invigilators and they tell us they show us the way we should follow on maybe let's say being a kwa na integrity na kwa niya witu 250 feet so minai support kwa sababu inafi kwanza kwa wali mua niya do ikam kwa ma student I think it's the students who should bear the consequences of trying to cheat although there could be many reasons why they cheat so as much as the government has changed the objective of the invigilators suffering most of the time it happens without the invigilators no knowledge so I don't think it's fair for the invigilator to suffer the grant of it I'll tell you a short story back in my day Sikusa KCP did I mention which year exactly but it was 2000 something during our time people were called kukwa wami cheats na uki patikano na cheat uli kuna pewa x ama y kuna x na kila mtua lukwano na yo x people knew that's cool that's cool cheated and students were given x na maybe wata shukisha kama kuna monyehaku cheat asa ma alia chief ni lukwano pui at least max kidogo kama so ni ni however this time round makatels zile shule zina seme kananga tukilasa zina Peter zina Peter zina juli sinai directive ime pe anwa nikiwa soba bia hawa makatels na jatunajer bukuma liza hawa makatels maze ju corruption kwa ii country hai teisha so lazima sesa we start shooting at this big king pins hawa niwa kuna mikono mi re fu e mi kono zina zina penetrate kwa easy examination centers so I support it because in a way these people who are doing this giving the students marks on our patiya answers and all these things they won't have to do that kwa soba buwewe kama moa limu you don't want to lose your job but no you will not want to lose your job you will want to feed your family and in that case exam cheating let me just say it's a shot on the head so yeah it's a shot on the head so yes we are highly likely going to achieve history kata wa seku cheat so yes I support it I support it completely na pia iki ndasa na nona jua studia na cheat ii na jua buke moa limu ata ndalia na atasema mi mi juu staki ku lose job yango this child ata nda apelepia pundele so of course we're going to achieve this our second question is guys we'd like to know from you of course history are cheating on the system or what's your pick when I look back I feel like system takes most of the blame to be honest it does because you know the pressure that comes with being in school is just so much so much a lot I mean I hated my high school because of that is the pressure so it should be on the system and also the cultural practices that students are being exposed to you see like in our country sorry to say corruption is the routine so even for them they think cheating or using shortcuts is the way to go which is not right so the students need to be educated but again still we as the adults need to mentor them in the right way so I cannot really blame the teachers as such it's a whole it's a whole entity as I can say I think we need to blame the system because as you know kwa corruption we know Kenya is ranked high so I think it all boils down to everything in Kenya for you to get a job education everything corruption kwa kupita during my time in Lifanya KCAC 2014 so during my time there was a lot of cheating especially the year 2015 immediately I left so what we used to be told even the own principle is that you find some top national schools I want to mention their names muna pata there are principles on it tiyana ina makiwa vizuri so you know ina makiwa vizuri so muna pata your examination ina makiwa you know ina makiwa normally but there has been much special you can't be genius all of you the system here is a city city city city muna pata sasa yo yo system here is a city ina apply kakuja kapa tana pandemic tana kapa tatoa koshule so muna punzi kitura isa na isa kwa na naniwa cheating kama mi misa isa kwa na sati nimi kwa ni kidu ason beleta tu nating kukuru dichuo lakini kutule saizima roll su na ana kwezi ka survive high school sai sai at least a lot of students mami aribika ju saingine kunezi strikes saingine kama last year nana kul kwa na strike ya the whole year jua covid saka mawa loa li kwa na fanya exam na jua li fail jua apps omere dolku no na kwa ni ni wana yongelelia kwa radio wana yongelelia kama mawa totoa ruti chuo kama mawa kwa ni iwe ni fonfos pekehake ma na magoha is there as a minis of education he's trying to try to handle that kind of system which we don't know why citizens ma na he's trying to show up ma na we need him to show up nicely on the table ya say this and this what was happening now i have these ambitions to not ever again kenya have such conviction we like him actually I think there is a problem in the system especially the KCSA that is 844 in general the system is bringing up the student in a way that if they don't pass they are not going to the universities and get the careers that they want to to do in their life so students have that mentality especially the KCSA that they have to pass no matter what that's why they are even cheating and making it all possible to pass because the system is in a way that if you don't pass, you don't get the career you want to do I think if there was a greater system where the student are specializing in some way I think the cheating will have reduced just like I was telling you of a league yes the system is partly to blame and I also think our society in how we actually judge achievement and how we for you to progress to the next step for you to get to get a job in the future you have to like skip a number of ladders and unfortunately the exam is one of the major ones and it can determine your future so I think part of the reason why people cheat is it gives them a shortcut if I can go to the next step as quickly as possible well and good I think that's why people cheat unlike in other societies where we try to judge achievement based on several things not necessarily just academic excellence the impetus to cheat is law because somebody will be successful regardless so I think we need to change those attitudes in our society and how we judge achievement but it's not a must that you get a job at some company teach people how teach them life skills how to start up business how they can actually develop themselves without necessarily focusing too much on the exam because I think we tend to we focus on the wrong ones so in a sense the system and the society itself is to blame the society unfortunately is I mean given the current economic circumstances and subsaharanak it's a challenge for itself I don't think it's you can entirely blame the people so it's a lot of things that are just working together to compromise the entire situation the reason why we cheat is because of the influence then there is a routine it's like a cult if you don't get a A, you don't get a B actually will not fail look at some of the most successful people Jack Ma, Ilan Mask those people dropped out of college they didn't want those grades so don't have to get a A or a B just simply do your exams now work on your way to success as much as the Kenyan system has improved quite a lot I think that this system is entirely focused on performance rather than the learning of the child so it gives a lot of pressure to the students to cheat so that they just can keep everyone happy and I don't think that's right so as much as cheating is wrong, I think we should also look at the cause of these problems man finished business with this particular topic well, hapa to ta blame watua wili number one society a lafu number two the system society kwa ni kuswabu society sana sana wana taku kwa kama na ni kuna jua, ila storia wana faku waka ma na ni so yes, i storio te apu cheat maze will blame it on the system na society system piya kwa sabu system ila fanya exams i kwa ni kama kupita exams maze that is like to meditaminuwe you're smart, you're intelligent you're correct, you're right come on guys exams hazi maneshi ati wuna faku pita because this are just a set of questions na sazmine, you're given a time to prepare for these exams so if you prepare well utapita, then kuna wene life skills then they depend on life skills so all these things system i na faku angalesi na kusho na ni ni uzi wituza music, zikwa introduced back into the education system na aso eze kuhu kupita exams na life na faku kwa ekonomix let's take a short break alapu we will be back 3rd topic maze natu kakuliza is society mouapa numbani ama paleshu leni do they contribute to watui kuchits? head over to our facebook page upiwa paleni numbani instagram punis that follow at Y254 channel toambie do you think that the society contributes to children or students cheating? if i take myself as an example there's stress in it it was because if i knew maybe there's an organization in Gangalia apart from my grades singa kwa niwa pressure but you see the straight jacket that out here is your grade reflect who you are and for that grade zaki zikwa paleshu so niwa your pressure in handia because students have been gear up to become number one and you see life is not like that not everyone will be number one everyone is left in their own way everyone has their own talent so the system that should be adopted is a system that will look at the talents of the student and then grow that talent regardless of whether they'll be number one or number two so i also don't really recommend the system or even if it's a grading system it should be both theoretically and in practical aspects i think at a see pressure basically from their peers also i think pressure from also the teachers parents i believe that education system iakena tumayeka in this in this mana that wuki fail kcpe you won't make it in life wuki fail kcse you won't make it in life and as we know education iakena is one of the worst i've gone through it and i know so unapata like at a campus mtu amefana like civil engineering we bring chinese people to build the highways, the bridges so then why are our universities teaching the civil engineering so it all boils down to pressure that education iatu na kwangal about to get you mtu anakram kitabu but it can be mtu ni physics mtu a tengeneze steama kitabu a kylbiya physics, a capinta so our education system wai kuzimha genius so it all boils down to kitabu chi wani ni system nana sellia pia kwa kkiwango plan wuki nanaiba y만o sea mtanga fiti and then kwa kikiwaya pimeo perform so kuna o pressure naka wanga jke ako akumba jere ania ako kufanya ujinga planiki logo una kemeo ekinu lmse mginen tofoutu no no so ina changia sasa hata hando no no ingino na jwa sasa ingino na pata mutua na patua dina depression jusa sasa so saya tinam kata na hida ii story zake jwa ti eni telia but sasa ono jwa tosa ingini mazomo aiku hangi privilege sano labda wu kuna talenti ako ii ondo na ebi piya yufanya na watua na kusafuna ini na patua na matipresho ingino na jwa asya tu mutua toa hende afanya exa ya kama ini mutua kamera fine kama ini mutua mikrofon fine don't put someone asama physics and ya ini mutua football leave him to football if you like the esquence we have in a society that where people have to be successful and being successful we have to be well educated and having passed your exams well and you can see the great lawyers the doctors and other top professionals it's all about the education that they have received that they are successful so this pressure is amounting to most of the students in our society that in order to be successful we have to always pass your exam well and we have to be well educated so I think it's actually contributing a lot to the shifting of the exam because without being successful in education there is no way that you can make it in life that's what we are brought up in such a society that you have to be successful in your education in order to be a successful person I don't know whether we are sending the wrong kind of ideals or we are teaching our young students the wrong kind of things but it appears as though there is a value system that supports the corrupt stealing people who get money quick or get what they want quick I think there is a value system that is developing to that extent as opposed to anyone who works hard will always achieve what they want at the end of the day so I think I feel like that is a problem and unfortunately it's everywhere from our leaders to our teachers our friends our parents our entire families we all support a culture of corruption and if we don't uproot it unfortunately it's a vicious cycle to just go on and on so we have to impart the right values in our students and also in our own families to beat our children our friends we have to really impart those values I am not contributing because I don't know what is going on I don't know what is going on I don't know I don't know I don't know what is going on I don't know what is going on Yes it does contribute a lot because you can imagine when someone is getting a lot of pressure they will try to do what they can just so that they can please everyone at this point they are not even doing it for themselves they are just doing it to please other people just to get them off their backs so yeah I think society should totally work on how they think about education and I think the main reason why students are going to school is so that they can get education not so that they can perform Man finished business with this particular topic ni ati pressure iko especially from the parents anata kwa ukwe kama na ni be like Karen kwa kwa lienda alliance we see kwa lienda alliance but those days nikiwa shuleu kwa niyama metua easy job so lasimo pite when the easy places so guys waza jipala nyumbani tulizeni that's the pressure kwa kwa kama na ni kuna atu ufunguka ni ita ngufunguka ni kwa ni ita ufunguka ikiwa kuna atu ufunguka that is after primary school bati temio tia mekua kido gwa mishiliya that intelligence so yes kwa mpa temitiyu teimiakia kili amtua kwa na pays kuna late bloomers na wanyu bloom immediately they are given a challenger they are successful and then those who take time na kuna those two people na those two people ntos imesema system iangaliya sana sana wu yu anafakwa iiside, wu yu anafakwa iiside. So, edukation system piya kuret exams ama sets za edukation systems eneni zina fivavis tukani. So, yes, piya sosaiha tikpale tulizeni, tulizeni ma suju nanini namba one, wewe mbonu na kuwangan namba last kila time. Understand, kila mtoko nambia siyake na life ita move on, vizuri. Piya wali mu pale nyumbani emi nshule ni, sorry. Mtoto ako nshule, alafu jumi namba last, unam overlook, unanzakse mawewe, ata you don't give them questions to answer, you don't, you only favor the top students. We saw them, we saw them teachers, those teachers who used to favor top students only. We know you, we know you do that, so kindly stop that and treat each and every student with, you know, uh, their own uh, viletum to ya na behave, I mean, come to ini in brood nanini, of course, try and tone that down. But of course, if they're not doing so well, make sure you help them get to achieve their goals and their dreams in life. So guys, remember we are on air every Saturday from 7 p.m. and uh, tuna kwa nga piya tuna, leta karipeet pa let's find it at 1 p.m. You can also stream live, see at the, you see, kiri ati utatu watch tena, kama ukomta zi, uneza stream live kyo kwa mat, Y2Fport channel, uh, let us know maoni ako, na maze, changia kwenye isho jyut na fongatuki leta pa, maswali dot pate solutions. So, piya weko kwa na issues, the let it to the end, let us know, alafu tuta zi taku lapa na ase weini kwa street zane robi. My name is Karen Jesser, but you can call me Karen Kang on all social media platforms, Facebook, Y2Fport channel. Tupatane next week. Chau.


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I like bells. You like bells? Where are my Michigan people at? Crack up bells and toast me. Flims the excuse to drink a beer, but I did get something really cool in the mail, which makes this another Tech Review Wednesday. What is a softbox? A softbox is something professional photographers use to light photoshoots. The truth is, I've never been comfortable with how my videos looked. When I was shooting at the desk, I was facing a large window, and every video looked blown out and flat. In here, the various lighting sources make for uneven lighting, and in both scenarios, my videos look different depending on what time of day it is. So instead of trying to time my shooting depending on outside light, my new friend Mr. Softbox is going to make my videos look like this. Well, that's different. Is this perfect? No. Am I trying to get better? Yes. The truth is, I don't really know what I'm doing. I'm figuring out this whole YouTube thing as I go along, and I appreciate your patience while I learn. The journey will have many incremental improvements, and hopefully this gives my videos a little polish that they previously lacked. And in any case, I can shoot whenever I want now. What do you guys think? Does this look better, or do I look like a tool? Let me know in the comments. Stay safe, follow the advice of professionals, and go blow.


But you're making me fall out, I'm joking. Hey everyone, I hope you're all welcome back to my channel, or if you're new here, my name is Seppie and in today's video I'm joined by my sister, Saina.  She's been learning for the past like five minutes about how I've taken her side. Yeah, imagine, so do I sit like this. No, actually I'm alright. See, you look fine on this side. So today's video is actually so hilarious, I'm so, so, so excited about this. I, honestly, you can probably guess what the title of what's going on, but I'm only explaining it to you. It's really fun. I feel like you guys are gonna cry a lot after this video. So what we're doing today is we're gonna translate songs from Iranian into English and then we are going to say it to each other so we can't sing it on the river. So we're gonna say it in English to each other and the other one has to understand what song they're singing. Like guess the name of the song. Okay, you can sing the song in Iranian as long as you say it. No, because you don't know the names of any songs, so you're saying this so that you have a chance of winning. That's not fair, come on, you guys. Because I'm really bad at singing songs and films and acting names. If you have watched our general knowledge because you know that I need to cut, sign us some slack. Look at her, she's so mean. I'm not clicking on that Jeff knowledge, because she purposely said that so you guys click on it. That being said, the dancing video we did together, the Persian Dance Competition, you won and I thought I won. So we'll be keeping scores, we'll be keeping scores. And if you guys like this video, you like these types of videos, don't forget to give it a thumbs up so I know to film more videos like this. Just do it now, it's right there. And don't forget to subscribe to my channel, the button is right here. What am I doing here? Showing them where to subscribe. And don't forget to check out Sinus channel, it's Persian Honey where she's filming behind the scenes of video. Forget this video, just go into that and take it. So, who is going to go first? You. She's like her first, or you want to go first. But you know that you can't. But I know you haven't written anything so you're just going to copy whatever I sing. How can I copy what you sing? Then I'd lose. So we've got Sinut and Zephy, you've never written it really badly. Okay, so I have the scoreboard here and I'm ready to go. You can't sing it though because I'm not going to sing it for you, so it'll be unlucky. It'll be unfair for you. All right. Are you ready? Are you ready? Are you ready? All right, oh my God, I'm trying to translate from Iranian into English to myself. Okay, an empty, an empty bench. No, a bench on its own, sorry, a bench on its own. A flame that's switched off. You're up, I can't translate. One second, one dream. Let's guess it, see if we can get it right. Wait, Yeg, what is a bench in Iranian? Yesandalia, Huali. Yesandalia's chair. I don't know what a bench is. Wait, a bench, a bench on its own. If you don't get this, I actually gave her an easy one because I'm not going to say anything. I'll tell you after. Wait, no, a bench on its own, say it again. A bench on its own, a bench on its own. One bench on its own, one. Yeg nim kata, Huali, carry on. One flame switched off. Yeg nula ha moush, flame. Yeg a t-shirt, nah, yeah. I don't know what flame is in Iranian, I forgot it. One second, one dream. Yesandalia Yeg Roya. I'll help her a little bit, I'll give you a clue, yeah? I'll give you another section. Go on, say that you have me missing. Bezul manakai, begul, begul kamizah. Say the answer to the question. Kata tan ha yekshul yekhan. Is that what a song is called? No, ready? It's alright, we'll give it. Okay, come on, because I wouldn't know a word. Alright, so we'll give myself a point because I got there eventually. Okay. So I'm on one. Okay, your turn. Uh-oh, I'm scared. Okay.  And I didn't put less for you. I went to zen negim manan barat kam nazashtan. Yeah? Oh shit, I think.  Don't take on shadeh mani. You are the lost macarons. You are the lost half of me. I'm ready to zen negim, hechchi barat kam nazashtan. Mum, you can't join it.  Wait, let me say it for you. Come on. I'm going to go. Hey, June. Ding, ding, ding. Yeah? So I've got it. No, you didn't. You just said it. I told you I could sing it. And I'll get it. Okay, who sang the song? At least give me some. Was it Tohee? Yeah, it's Tohee. If I got it. It's Chohi Boman I'm just gonna put this out there Chohi recently watched my YouTube videos on his Instagram story Thanks for watching. Watch this one too Liotan Okay I would let me give you a point We're being quite nice to each other this time I'm scared Wait, wait, wait All of the world Hame Donyeo On one side Hame Donyeo Ye-Talab Ye-Talab Aziza Aziza I'm giving you really good ones She's giving me hard ones I'm giving her like old school I'm gonna give you an old school one Ready? Go on Scream Scream My love is coming You can't just say scream scream My love is coming That's every song Okay Oh wait, wait Wait No, that's close But So Shout shout My love is coming Wait Don't be excited Don't be excited I love you Don't be excited Wait, I'm trying to translate it Um With the with the feeling of being separated My heart is pounding With the feeling of being separated My heart is pounding Do you guys know what this is? She's saying hard ones, you know Come on And how is this old school? Should I play it for you? It is And you're gonna know it Wait, shout, shout Wait, wait, wait, wait Don't play it Shout shout My love is coming Am I saying dad is coming right? No Chabar, chabar No, no No, no No, no No, no Chabar No Juni's jeek Jeek jeek So my eyes are zoned out I know, I was trying to see if she was cheating No, my eyes are just zoned out All right, jeek jeek No If you get this word right You'll guess the whole song Chabar No Shout shout What else? It's like a really like Fresh way of saying like shout God bezany No, that's not fresh, that's normal I don't know fresh words Do you know? How about, how about No You ought to know Come on This is hot belly It's the same Have on, have on That's cheer Instead of have on What is it? Okay So I couldn't find the name of the song Wait, is it Fadiad?  Mm-hmm I'll give her really good ones You know Noi girl Dokhtal abad Noi No Noi other people's girl Bala bala dokhtal emadu I'm giving her such good ones You know And she's coming up with fariad fariad That's an old school one Yeah I mean it's like super old school The sun is at the edge of the earth The world The day's job is over She's giving me The sun She's giving me riddles main Listen The sun Khorshid Kenare Baqal adonios The sun is at the edge of the world Khorshid The sun is on the horizon Khorshid Kenare adonios The sun is on the horizon It's an fancy horizon Wait The day's job is over If you get this bit right you're gonna get it The sun is on the edge of the world The day's job is over Khorshid After a blabber boomer This kind of show me All right, give me a point I'm giving her a turn Okay, behead god Bad at this That's not fair I was gonna say Behead god Me Them Hello So it's three also Okay, I've got it This is really easy, by the way You guys, it's super easy You got one Hundred years That's all So I'm on four-year-old three So you have to get this next song Why? We sang this week I'm out of song Yeah, but I'm fast Okay So you're one Hit it Let's go Bezan Bezan beri mesinja Bezan beri mesinja Hit it this way, okay? Hit it, okay Hello, my love Salam, Eshram My love, hello Salam, I love you You know what, you're giving it away With how you're saying it Because the first one, you were really tall I was, I was Okay, I was I won't give it away Okay, ready? All right, good What happened? Did someone look at you? She should Should I go, should I go and teach the manners? I don't remember What happened? She just sounds like What happened? Did someone look, look at you? What happened? Yeah, I'm saying it Look Come on What happened? Did someone look, look at you? She should, you keep it But I'm saying it twice What happened? Did someone look, look at you? She should, you keep it She should What happened? Did someone look, look at you? She should, wait She should, you keep Be hit Negokad, negokad I don't Did someone look, look at you?  I really want to win this I mean, learn this, win this one Because the next song I have for you is Wiccan Okay This song's really hard, sir Show you want to give it to me Do I really know it?  Okay, what happened? Did someone look, look at you? Should I go and teach the manners? Should I go to their medical clinic? Should I go to the edge of their medical clinic? Should I go to their medical clinic? Should I go to their medical clinic? Should I hit them in the mouth? Should I go to their medical clinic? Kind of Oh, this is Fingy What's it called? The wrappers, what are they called? Should I go to their medical clinic? Should I go to their medical clinic? Okay, you kind of What happened? Did someone look, look at you? She should, you keep it Negokad, negokad What happened?  I can't give you this Because you're not good What was it then? Really?  It's the way she... Just watch what I do to you I swear to God I'm giving her a really nice, easy one He sings it Sorry, sorry I should have said I can't understand Like you would know Oh, the sound of the world No You would think I was supposed to say What part of the song is this? But then you guys think she's cheating No I just want to say I don't agree So right now I'm on 4 points She's cheating Sun is on 4 She's cheating This one No Okay, so this is the last round You guys should cheat it, by the way That is not acceptable You have to choose another song No, you can redeem yourself It's the last round But I don't know difficult songs It wasn't a difficult song It was She didn't even use Yeah, but you didn't use like If you don't like Okay, I promise I will I'll manage until the minute Yeah, but why would I give you something easy?   What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? Chita Who? Who broke your heart? She gives hard songs I know even like The songs I They don't Okay What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? Who? Who broke your heart? Who? Who broke your heart? Who broke your heart? They don't know your worth They're not for your pain Come on, Saina You know this We listen to this all the time Do you guys know which song this is? Is what Do you want me to say it on the beat for you at least? God, you don't lose this really badly What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? Is this with the beat? What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? Who? Who broke your heart?  Do it the beat again, God What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? Who broke your heart? Guys, don't sing the next bit So they don't know your worth It's not Sussie I know it is It's not Sussie Kiki It's BMX BMX What's the song called? Kiki That's me doing it It's funny because you don't know any of the words in the song Yeah, but I said the beat It's like Kiki Do you guys deserve to hear what it actually sounds like rather than what we are singing? Good guys, don't you think? She was alright I think I was amazing You gave really difficult words to me The final score for that round was 6 points to me and 4 points to Saina You guys When did you guys... Sorry, she's right I have 6 points I think she has 5 Because she's probably cheating No, I haven't The only person to miss one so far is you with the last song What was your slush? It's because the lyrics she chose were wrong Okay, I'll let her have this If you guys want to see a rematch, then please make sure Her songs were hard If she makes out, everyone should send in their songs Then it's more fair Leave it down in the comments Leave us some songs down in the comments If you want to see a rematch If this video gets 2,000 likes I will do a rematch of this So, get liking And don't forget to subscribe Try to make sure you like Because it's not a fish, she's actually cheating And I deserve to win this Don't forget to check out our social medias My Instagram is Perjan Bunny I am Perjan Honey Saina's YouTube channel will also be linked down below We love you so much And I'll see you next time Bye


Proudly, we hail. From New York City, where the American stage begins, here is another program with a cast of outstanding players. Public service time has been made available by this station for your Army and your Air Force to bring you this story. As proudly we hail, Women with Courage. Our story is entitled, To Freedom. A true story of a troubled time. Our first act curtain will rise in a moment, but first... Young woman, how about your future? Does it include an interesting and important job? A job that will take you to the exciting places of the world? Places where tomorrow's history is being made today? Right now, young women like yourself are urgently needed to serve their country in the Women's Army Corps. Here's your opportunity to secure your future. Go to your nearest United States Army and United States Air Force recruiting station and get all the facts today. And now, your Army and your Air Force present the proudly we hail production, Flight to Freedom. Okay, we'll take it in 60 seconds. Stand by to record. Are you ready? I'm ready. Control stand by. Take it straight up in 55 seconds. Flight for cue. In a soundproof room, many floors up in a building in Manhattan, a young and pretty woman sits before a microphone. Engineers stand ready to record her voice in 60 seconds. Many thoughts cross the mind of Melita Gaber during that silent 60 seconds in which time appears suspended. And nothing moves but the hand of a stopwatch. Bring the cue that will be the signal for my first words. This country is transmitting thousands of miles overseas. Places and scenes where freedom once was lost, where freedom is again in jeopardy. I wonder if the signs are the same or can freedom ever again slip from the grasp of those who remember the first time? You saw the first signs in the faces of the people, the growing uncertainty giving way to constant fear. In the many-story grooming house my mother and I had fled to in Vienna. I remember how the terror told in the faces of the occupants that night. When I returned to find them huddled in frightened groups on the landings, listening for any echo the stairwell might carry up to them, I hurried past the groups and up the stairs and finally reached the last landing. Mother, let me help you out a bit. Melita, dear, what's wrong? I remember the police. Their police is in the house making a search of the rooms. Who is he looking for? I hear the mother steps. He's coming here to this room. This? That does have a door. I must go to the door. Say nothing. Let me in. No. Don't touch me. Tell me what you want with us. My mother's very ill. Frau Geber. It is you. Carl Edmondsdorf? Yes. Who has not seen you in so long? Carl. The uniform. It is not a joke you're playing, honest. I think the faces of the people on the stairs would tell you that Carl's visit is no joke. I could not come straight to this room. I had to make my visit to this house appear routine. Routine under the new system is the daily terrorizing of innocent people. Melita, wait. Let Carl tell us why he's come. It is possible for a man's thinking to change. Is it? From the invaders have done their work on the forest where the trees ever grow again as they once did, Carl. Working with father would have taught you that at least. Even if all the rest he had to say was wasting, Melita. I thought you and Carl were too many. I'm sorry, mother. You never told you why Carl went away. I begged father not to tell you. I was so ashamed. Talk to her, Carl. Will you listen if I do, Melita? When I explain to you the danger you are in. Our danger wasn't being born. No doubt it is what you were going to explain to us. You know it isn't. I have a 24 hour leave. It will be up this time tomorrow night. By then this section of the city will have been covered. Covered? It is the next to be searched, Melita. Frau Geber, surely you can see it. My mother's too ill to run if that's what you're telling us to do. We have a hiding place here. Here in this building? Is that what you started to say? Please go. Melita, listen to me. You must believe what I tell you. You are no longer safe here. But kindness is soon discovered. And the people who own this building are now known to be offering help to people. And it has become a crime to help. I want to help you. I have two documents here. Both are careful for juries. One authorizes me to transport Hilda van Hesse, a political prisoner to the Italian border for trial. The other... Wait, Carl. It's a document you just mentioned. It is to be used for Melita? Yes. But it never minds the other one, Carl. It will not help. At the border we can surely get medical help for you, Frau Geber. No, Melita. I have only the strength to raise my hand to you. Give me yours, Carl. I can feel the strength in it. You have turned your young strength to a task. You've grown ashamed of it. God will bless you for offering the help. Melita, you will not refuse it. Mother, I cannot leave you. Yes, yes, you must. It's a senseless sacrifice to stay when free. Free you can do so much more good. The world needs the free. Freedom is a promise that only the free can bring to the world Mother. and escape. Guard your identity. You'll stay into the character. The precious thing that gives way to your word and promise. Will you still help me to escape, Carl? Of course. You must hide. So, very soon now, I will be free. Take care. The couch doesn't move. Always used to say, walk quickly through the night. If it frightens you. She would want us to hurry. Walk quickly through the night, Mother. Come, Melita. I'll step out on the landing, but don't start down the stairs, my chair. A pair of handcuffs? They do. This paper says that you are Hilda van Hesse, a political prisoner. Oh, I see. Your wrist. You know the other one? Free on the express from the Barnhoof, Barn South, the Italian border. Outside the compartment, the corridors were crowded. Faces stared through the glass at us. Then, as exhaustion overcame me, the faces became a blur. My head fell forward and I slept. Melita. What? Your sleep seemed troubled. Yes, Carla. I know what's wrong. Those faces at the window of the compartment, one of them, Carl, did you notice a man standing just behind us while you talked with the guard on the platform? Yes, he followed us aboard. Then I wasn't imagining it. He's been watching us. You weren't imagining anything? Who is he? I don't know. Someone who knows they're here? Hilda van Hesse? It could be. We mustn't appear to be talking. Leaving things unsaid is nothing new, is it? For us. The express was deep in the Alps by now, climbing over snow-covered roadbeds. We sat motionless, not daring to speak, wondering what meaning lay behind the expressionless, looking those narrowed, watchful eyes. Then, taught dawn, we reached the border. Compartment three, routine check. Do you have papers for the prisoner? Here they are. Well, there'll be a long wait here. We'll try and get you on the next train for Vienna. Vienna? I've just come from Vienna. My orders are to take the prisoner into Italy. These papers give you authority to bring her only as far as the border. But surely that includes crossing the border? To cross the border requires a written authorization which you do not have. You'll be happy to take the prisoner off your hand. I do not intend to lose sight of the prisoner. I'm sorry, but your present authorization... Well, unfounded, how do I go about getting another one? These matters are not our concern, Lieutenant. It happens to be very much my concern. I cannot relinquish my prisoner to anyone. I couldn't help overhearing. Perhaps I can set the young lieutenant's mind at rest. The man who stepped into the compartment was the same man who had watched us during the journey. I can well understand the lieutenant's concern. Apprehending the prisoner as he did reflects a great deal of credit on him. It would on anyone. So I propose the prisoner be handed over to me. I do not wish to do that. The prisoner belongs... To anyone whose authority extends to crossing the border into Italy. Mine does. I'm Eric von Hammer, special agent. Therefore, from this moment, Hilde von Hess is my prisoner. The prisoner will proceed with me. As soon as I receive complete information about her from Vienna, her file is being checked now. Expect a call at any minute. Captain Hammer, I ask you once more. In view of the fact that it was I who captured the prisoner, have I not the right to take her to trial? A technicality stands in the way of that. Which makes it possible for you to... Take credit for the arrest of Hilde von Hess? Is that what you are about to say? Let me caution you about making impetuous accusations again. Ah, there's the call I'm expecting. Yes, von Hammer speaking. You have the information on Hilde von Hess? Good. Give it to me slowly. Eh? See? Yeah? What? Say that again. Are you sure? Impossible. No, never mind. I will call you if I need further information. Yes, fine. What is it? What did you learn? I have learned. Not here. Come through this door. We'll talk in the other room. Were these papers identifying the prisoner in her possession when you apprehended her? Yes, yes, they were. And it didn't strike you as strange that she would have them with her? What have you learned? I have learned that Hilde von Hess died two days ago in the prison hospital in Vienna. What? The woman in the other room is an imposter. Probably a refugee who needed papers and somehow came by these. What do you intend doing with her? Do it. Sir, I apologize for any embarrassment this may have caused you. I will contact my superior. No, I don't advise you to do that. But if a mistake has been made... It is not up to us to correct it. At least I want nothing to do with it. I don't want any arguments of this sort, ruin careers. I have no desire to find myself a laughing stock or worse. The spoils of this woman, I don't care what is done with her, but I wish this woman had moved at once. You are listening to the proudly we hail production of Flight to Freedom. We'll return to our story in just a moment. Have you noticed the new trim, whack uniform worn by the young women who are serving in the women's army corps? This new uniform not only stamps the wearer as being smartly dressed. It also indicates that she is doing her part to keep America strong. If you are a young woman between 18 and 34 and can qualify, you are urged to do your part in making unity, strength, freedom, a reality. Go to your nearest United States Army and United States Air Force recruiting station and enlist in the women's army corps today. You are listening to proudly we hail and now we present the second act of Flight to Freedom. Young, pretty Austrian-born Melita Gaber sits before a microphone awaiting the queue that will be her signal to record a message to be sent abroad to places still in her thoughts. In the remaining seconds before getting her queue those thoughts continue. A seaport on the Adriatic. A ship riding at anchor in the fog provides to receive the boatload of human cargo silently filling a small craft beached at the water's edge. Refugees seeking a friendly shore. They're getting ready to roar out to the ship. You'd better get in, Melita. I know. But Carl, I want to say... Melita, don't say anything. Don't try. No, Carl, you've arrived too much. You've been left unsaid between us. Melita... Carl, do you miss this room in that boat for both of us? Melita, I wish I could come with you. Start a new life with you. There's something holding you to the old life. No, Melita. There's... something I must do. They are beckoning to me from the boat. You believe me, don't you, Melita? I want to, Carl, but how can I... Melita, the greater part of love is trust. I know. If you can believe strongly enough in my love, then you will find yourself trusting in what I tell you. I'll try. Carl, I must go. When all this is over, we'll meet again. In the lane that leads from your house. We'll meet. We'll find one another. Goodbye, Carl. Watch from the shore. Stay on the shore where I can see you. I'll watch from the boat. The water was under my feet. And as I climbed into the boat, he seemed very far away, standing on the shore. I kept my eyes fastened on the shore and Carl, until the fog closed over them. On board the ship, I stood by the railing as the anchor rose noiselessly to the deck. As I strained my eyes through the fog, I was suddenly aware of someone standing beside me. I did not mean to give you a start. You didn't. Well, not big stuff. I'm afraid we're all conditioned to jump at the slightest sound. There's someone out there in the fog. Yes. Yes, there's someone. It is hard to sever ties with the past. You must be an Austrian. I'm part Egyptian. Drodma is my name. I'm Militia Geber. And you're right. I'm Austrian. And he, out there, a countryman of yours, it's hard to tell what makes a countryman. One will share the common danger, or one who shares a common hope. You are afraid there is more standing between you than just a fog in the growing distance. The human mind is so given to doubt. I too seek to hold to a belief, not in one person, but in all my people. You see, I've been away from them so long I could not obtain a passport to return, and so I am on this ship. I must know if they are resisting this ideology that is spreading. And that is why you are going back? Yes. We dock in Alexandria. Then I will travel overland to El Alamein. A five-day journey brought us to Alexandria, where my newfound friends suggested I make the journey with her to her home in El Alamein. It would be a journey of several weeks, made in the company of a wandering tribe travelling across the desert. We were many days into the journey, and far out on the desert, when the caravan stopped at a small oasis. And for relaxation, Radma and I took the children from the caravan to play at some distance from the group. Then I noticed a strange thing. Radma, why the children suddenly so silent? They are frightened by something they've seen in the sand. What are the treads of tanks? They were put there very recently, probably during the night. But I remember hearing the British maneuvers for over two days ago. The enemy is here on this shore. This news must be taken to the nearest town. A runner can be sent ahead of the caravan. How many days to El Alamein? Three more. And when we get there, Melita, we must make a decision. It's no hiding. We haven't the right... Mother said that before she died. There's a large British contingent ready to defend El Alamein. There are women in their ranks, recruited from these shores. They call these women the ATS, the Auxiliary Territorial Service. What do you say, Melita? I say we cannot wait for the winds to wipe those tanklets out of the sands. The war in Africa began and the tanks came, digging their treads into the sands. While England was fighting for its life in the Battle of Britain, the enemy advanced safely into Egypt, as far as Sidi Barani. Only El Alamein stood in the path of the push toward Cairo. Radma and I, now privates in the British Army, awaited our assignment as Rommel's advance began. Our assignment came. We found ourselves part of another caravan, finding its way into the desert. A caravan made up this town of trucks and jeeps, taking us to the desert oasis of Tel El Kabir, the hill of goodness. If Rommel was to be stopped, it would be at El Alamein. The English and American supplies destined to do the job were to come from Tel El Kabir. The battle for Egypt was a battle of supply. After the fall of Tobruk in December of 1941, it seemed that nothing could stop Rommel's advance. But there were General Sherman tanks, a maze of minefields, long-range American bombers, taking heavy toll of enemy supply lines. In October of 1942, Rommel was defeated in the final battle of El Alamein. And the Middle East was saved. They came to Tel El Kabir, the prisoners of war. Radma and I were among those assigned the responsibility to the welfare of these battle weary men who had come from the hell of war to the hill of goodness. Don't understand. You're in charge of a case here in the hospital? Yes. He was brought here because no one could tell what was wrong with him. It isn't his body that's broken. It seems to be his spirit. I don't know enough of the language to get through to him. I'll see what I can do. This is the bed? Yes. Melita, what is it? I think I know him, Radma. The neighbor's son whose only ideology was the sporting way to win at a game. Rudy? Rudy, if you can catch the way Carl shows you, you'll make the team at the gymnasium. They'll be proud of you. They? Your family and Carl. You remember Carl? His mind is frightening. I think he recognizes me. Carl can't show me anymore. Carl is dead. Dead? Rudy, how do you know Carl is dead? They killed him. They? At first, they gave him an important job clearing the forests. He knew the forests could do the job. Yes, Rudy. Till they learned Carl was conducting escape route for refugees. Helping refugees out of the country? Through the forests. He knew the forests. What did they do to him? He was shot. I... I saw it. They shot him. He was whom I had shared the joys of childhood. They shot him. But known. If I had but known, the war in Africa was over, but the rest of the world fought on. And from the hill of goodness, supplies went out to help speed the day when thousands could return to homes they had left. And when that day came? Milita, what would you do now? You are welcome to remain here, but it would be difficult for you among people whose customs are not your own. And yet, for I to return to Vienna, I'd be but a lonely stranger. There's a lane that leads from our house through the woods of Vienna. I was to meet someone. Milita, you left Vienna with the promise that you would use your identity in the fight for freedom. If you have patience, I think you can be sure of keeping this promise. Patience to do what? To wait a year, perhaps two. There are limited quotas under which persons displaced by war can go to America and freedom. Do you think? I know, Milita, and I know that there you will find a way to continue the fight. I know you will ask yourself a hundred times over if you have kept faith, and eventually you will find the answer. Have I kept my faith? What other question could I, now an American citizen, ask myself sitting here, in America, before this microphone waiting for the cue to speak, the signal for my first words, words that will fly through forests struggling to grow again, in a country whose people are struggling to understand freedom again. This freedom is a great promise to be able to bring them, and I know that my new identity will give weight to my promise. All right, Miss Gaber, 10 seconds. Stand by. Hello, this is Corporal Milita Gaber, Women's Army Corps, of the United States of America. Here's an opportunity for you young women of America, an opportunity to get in step with the smartest. Today, the rapidly expanding Women's Army Corps, proud newcomer on the team of defense, needs qualified young women between the ages of 18 and 34. This is your chance to do an important job. The pay is good, with excellent prospect of rapid advancement. Why not check with your local United States Army and United States Air Force Recruiting Station today? You'll find that it's easy to get in step with these proud American women who are serving their country in the Women's Army Corps. This has been another program on Proudly We Hail, presented transcribed in cooperation with this station by the United States Army and United States Air Force Recruiting Service. This program featured a cast of outstanding players. This is Kenneth Banghart speaking and inviting you to tune in this same station next week for another interesting story on Proudly We Hail.