Leaning back is kind of a lifestyle methodology that a lot of the women in our community have used in order to regain their confidence, gain a lot of power in a relationship, and get a guy, if they're dating, to get a guy to chase them and attract the guy and have that guy value them a lot more. And it's even really great because you can use it in relationships where you can lean back in the relationship the guy will start valuing you more and chasing you more and putting more effort and energy into the relationship. And so it's a really, really great methodology, especially if you're in a situation where you feel like you've been giving everything to a man or a man and they only end up taking you for granted and pulling away and losing interest and disappearing on you, you can use this to kind of turn everything around. But sometimes there's a few mistakes that women will make while they're leaning back where what will end up happening is that a bunch of problems will end up coming up and it's usually the guy will end up disappearing or ghosting them and we're gonna talk about what these mistakes are and why these kinds of things happen and how to turn that around in case that's your situation. Hello, my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. Today, I'm gonna be talking about the mistakes that a lot of women make when they're leaning back and trying to attract a man, trying to get him to chase her, trying to get him to value her more and what you should be doing instead. And so the first one is ignoring a man. So this is a huge mistake that a lot of women sometimes make is that they will completely ignore a man and this is when you don't respond to a guy in hopes to make him want you more. And so this can actually work in some scenarios and I never ever recommend it by the way. The only time that it'll work is if you're dating a really dumb guy or a really insecure man. And in those kinds of situations, he'll start feeling kind of anxious and like, oh my God, I gotta get her back, right? And so he'll start chasing you because of that but it only leads to resentment and pain long term. And if he starts figuring out that you're doing it on purpose, he'll either one walk away if he values himself or two, he'll start doing that to you as well in order to get payback and revenge on you. And so you never wanna ignore a man. The only time I ever recommend that you ignore a man is when you never wanna talk to that guy ever again. If that's not the scenario, do not ignore a man. That does not work. If you're here with us right now, say hi in the chat and tell us where in the world you're watching this from. It's cool to see women from all over the world watching these live streams. Okay, so number two, the second thing that you don't wanna do is going no contact on a guy. And so I hear this a lot. There's kind of this misconception that leaning back is the same thing as going no contact. Those are two completely different things. Going no contact is a breakup strategy.  And then you can either move on with your life or reconnect with your ex in a way where you're stronger and feeling more empowered. The third one that this is not another mistake is ghosting him. And if you're not familiar with the term ghosting, I know there are some women that aren't. It's when you're communicating with somebody and then all of a sudden you're like, gone, right? You just disappeared, right? You turn into a ghost and you're no longer there. And this can be really, really frustrating for whoever's kind of experiencing it. And it's one of those things like, you don't ever want to just not let him know what's going on with you and then expect him to continue chasing you. And I get this with women all the time, especially some of my one-on-one clients that I've had, they'll come to me and they'll be like, oh yeah, this guy ghosted me and I'll ask him about the situation.  And it's kind of interesting, right? We live in this culture right now where people are just ghosting each other left and right. And they've actually done studies on this. I know that they've done studies on so many different things. And they've actually found that women tend to ghost men more than men ghost women. And a lot of times it's actually just miscommunication in my experience with working with both men and women.  But all of a sudden the guy thinks that you disappeared on him completely, right? He sent you a message or something and you never responded or he sent you a couple of messages and you never responded. And you thought that he would continue following up or you sent him something that made him think that you weren't really interested in him and he kind of just disappeared because he thought that you weren't really interested. And so you don't wanna ghost him. You want to communicate with him. You wanna talk to him.  That way he doesn't think that there's something weird going on or that you ghosted him or that you're cheating on him or something like that if you're in a committed relationship. The next one that you don't wanna do is never initiating texts, phone calls or reaching out. This is a huge one that a lot of women mistake when they start leaning back. And it kind of goes along with a lot of the other ones, right? Where they're like, oh, go no contact, right? So you never reach out to him. If he likes me and I've heard women say this and I've actually read books. There's a book that I read not too long ago about leaning back. And the woman who was, who wrote the book actually said in there, never ever initiate contact with a man. And I'm just like over there pulling my hair out. Like what are you taught? What are you teaching these women, right? Cause it's like, I can't tell you how many times I get women that come to me and they're like, oh yeah, you know, he ghosted me and I'll have them reach out to the guy with a specific text message or something like the forward text message that I teach in the forever woman program. And she'll like reach out to him and then the guy will be like, oh, I thought you weren't interested. I thought you ghosted me or something like that, right? And so you want to initiate contact sometimes, right? High quality men want to build a relationship together with someone who's interested in them. Just like you want him to be into you, right? You want a guy who loves you and values you and cherishes you, guys want that as well. Guys want a woman who's into them. And so most guys, most high quality men, if they think that you're not into them, if they think that you only kind of like them or you don't like them at all or that he's chasing you or that he's gonna end up in the friend zone and that you guys aren't building this thing together, most high quality guys will walk away from that situation. So you have to kind of figure out what's going on there and make sure that you reach out sometimes, right? I have a ratio that I kind of talk about when I talk about leaning back and I cover this in detail in the forever woman program where I talk about, it's like a 80, 20 rule or a 70, 30 rule, right? So every one out of three times, like one out of three times, you should be reaching out back to him. In fact, you can do it, two out of, two out of, what is, two out of, like one out of three, two, one out of four, right? One out of three, one out of four. It should be somewhere around there. That's the ideal scenario up into commitment. But it's also one of those things where you can go up to 50% of the time, right? You can contact, as long as you're not the one who's chasing him, right? If you go above the point where you are reaching out to him more than he's reaching out to you, you'll end up getting yourself into problems. And so you don't ever want to get into that. And I talk about that in detail in other live streams if you wanna check those out, why you should never, ever chase them in. So initiating contact to most men means, never initiating contact to most men means that you're not really into them. So if you get what I'm talking about here, say I get it in the chat. If you don't get what I'm talking about, just go ahead and let me know what questions you have or what situations are going on for you. And I will answer any kind of question you have about anything. All right, so waiting days to respond to him, this is another mistake that you don't wanna make. A woman asked me one time, she contacted me and she's like, so Matt, I've been, he sent me a text message and it's been five days since he texted me, have I waited long enough to respond back to him? And I was like, why do you think that you should wait five or more days to respond back? And she said, well, I'm leaning back. And I'm like, ah, you know, like, that is awesome, not what you wanna do, right? You don't wanna wait a really long period of time. And a lot of times I get this from women all the time too, where they'll be like, I don't know why he stopped contacting me. And I messaged him back and I'm like, well, how long did it take? And it was like three days, four days, five days.  You wanna have a real conversation with these people. You don't wanna have like, you don't wanna play games.  It doesn't work. Games don't work long-term, especially with quality men. If a quality man sees that you're playing games, he's gonna walk away from it. And if you like to date insecure men, which is the majority of men and women are insecure. If you like to date insecure men, it's just gonna end up in resentment. They're gonna be angry at each other and it's just gonna turn into a giant mess. And nobody likes that. So my suggestion is that you don't play games, don't wait too long to respond. The next one is making him doing all the work, making him do all the work and you don't do anything. So you want him to do most of the work like I talked about up into commitment at least, right? So you want him to be chasing you and doing all the work and proving to you that he's the right guy because that will make him fall in love. It'll make him stay interested in you. It'll make him value you more because men value things that they put effort into.  However, you also want to be doing things because if you're not, like I said before, a lot of these kind of mixed together but they're little nuances, right? They're little, little nuances. And think about it as like a skill, like riding a bike or driving a car. When you first drive a car, you're like, you know, like making these like really sudden moves or if you go watch somebody that this is really entertaining. If you go and watch somebody who's like learning how to drive a car, you can see them on the street. They're like, you know, just going back and forth and stuff because they don't understand the subtleties. They don't understand the nuance. They don't understand the little things that are going on.  And it's no problem. By the way, don't do that. That's really, really dangerous. But the point is, is that when you're first learning this or you just start kind of doing something different, a lot of times it's difficult to do. And so you want to make sure that you're learning about the nuances and what you should and shouldn't be doing here. And so the point is, is that most men want somebody, want to be with somebody who's building the relationship with them. They don't want to be doing all the work. And I get women sometimes that'll tell me, they're like, yeah, the guy said that I never initiate contact. And I'm like, well, do you? You know, and they're like, no, I'm leaning back. And it's like, well, that's not what leaning back is. Leaning back just means that you're giving him space to come towards you instead of smothering him and, you know, trying to do everything and trying to prove that you're the right guy and all those things that don't actually work. So the next mistake that a lot of women make is acting cold or uninterested. And so you don't want to act cold. And sometimes, especially if you haven't really learned how to communicate over text messages or through, you know, just your verbal communication or whatever, you might be acting cold or uninterested and you don't even know that you're doing that. And so sometimes it's good to like get involved in our community, right? Join our community, join the forever woman program, learn about the subtleties of how to text and what kind of communications to have and post your text messages in our community that way the women in there can look at it and tell you whether it looks good or bad or whatever, right? There was a woman today that posted in our community and it was these text messages and it was very, very clear if you look at it as an outsider that she was coming off as very, very cold and uninterested. But she might not realize that until she posts that in there and everybody's like, ah, you acted like you were totally not into him, right? And so why would he continue trying to pursue you if you're messaging him like that, right? And so you wanna learn the subtleties, the nuances, like I said before, showing no interest. Again, this is another one that we kind of talked a little bit about but what shows interest, right? What shows that you're into him? There's a whole bunch of different things that show a man that give him signals like, okay, she likes me too. I should continue moving forward here, especially in this day and age of all these kind of movements where men are kind of, you know, on guard right now and they're not sure whether they should be making moves or not be making moves. A lot of men, they're looking for signals that you're actually into them too. Otherwise they're pursuing somebody that may not be into them and then they're worried about getting harassment charges against them and all kinds of stuff. So you wanna make sure that he knows that you're into him. And so how do you show that, right? One is just by initiating contact by responding friendly to him, by talking to him and having conversations and investing to some degree. But like we'll talk about here in a minute, you don't wanna go overboard with any of that. So the next one is getting caught up, so caught up that you're supposed to be leaning back, that you don't calibrate yourself to the situation which might call for you to do something else. And so one of the things that I talk about a lot is that sometimes things happen, right? And like sometimes women will get caught up in this thing. They're like, oh, I'm supposed to be doing this rule. I've got this rule that I'm supposed to be leaning back.  And then something happens and maybe a situation is called for where you need to kind of lean forward and do something and help out or something like that. But you're so caught up in not leaning forward that you don't end up doing it. And the guy thinks that you don't care about him or that you're really inconsiderate or something like that. And so it takes time, right? It takes interactions with people and specifically for you with men in order to learn the subtleties involved in all of this. And so you want, but you want to make sure that you are calibrating yourself, which basically means doing whatever you need to for the situation, assuming that generally speaking, he's moving forward and you're allowing him to move forward. And then the next one is being so busy and unavailable that no man can actually attain you. And so this is something that I call the attainability principle, where you want a man to feel like he can win you, like he can win you over, like there's a romantic relationship somewhere in his future with you. Otherwise, he probably won't pursue you unless he's one of the very small percentage of men who are incredibly aggressive. And those men probably aren't who you actually wanna date and be with. So if you want a man to come into your life, there needs to be space for him to be there.  And I wanna have a relationship, I wanna be with somebody, I want somebody who has time for me in their life, which is something you should be looking for as well with a man. And if he doesn't, if he sees that you don't have that space there, then he might not be there, right? He might not get involved with you. And then the last one is just going to an extreme, right? And this is kind of, in my opinion, what this all revolves around is these extremes, right? One extreme is like being too cold and uninterested and ghosting and distant and not doing anything and leaning back so far that you fall out of your chair. And the other side of it is smothering a man and proving to him that you're right for him doing everything and planning all the dates and always reaching out and convincing him that you're gonna have amazing babies together and buying him lots of things while he's doing absolutely nothing. And so the magic is always in the middle. That is where you want to be. The magic is in the middle. All right, so if you have any questions, let me know what they are and I will get to them right now in the chat. And if you haven't checked out my program yet, you can get it for free. Go check out the foreverwomanformula.com. You can sign up. And if you decide that you want to stay a part of our community, there's a fee involved in that after a trial, but you'll get the program for free either way. And if you stay a part of the community, you can get coaching and all kinds of other things that are really, really great from some of the world's best coaches that we have. So hello, hello, hi. Lots of people saying hi, hi, hi from all over. Hello, hello, hello, you tall. Jetta Botswana. I mean, it's just so cool seeing women from everywhere. It's like everywhere in the world.  Where are you from? Lillian says, hello, Matthew. I really appreciate your advice. I'm from Orlando, Florida. Well, I'm glad you appreciate my advice. So thank you for being here. Thank you all of you for being here. Thank you. I mean, there are just so many people here. It's crazy. So thank you everyone for being here. Wow, South Africa, cool. This is a very good topic. Well, I'm glad you appreciate the topic. Priya says, these days, there isn't true love in this air. Well, there is true love in this air and you have to believe it, right? If you don't believe, if you believe that there isn't any true love out there, then you definitely won't find it. It's just saying and you will fight it even if it shows up. Hey, CJ, Sharon says Ben there gave him another chance and this is the last one he's getting. Well, sometimes you have to put your foot down. Priya says, men has to chase, women has to choose. Well, everybody's choosing, right? So he gets to choose which women he chases and you get to choose which men are the right men for you. And so he might stop chasing you and so that's basically him not choosing you anymore. And so both sides choose, right? It's not one side or the other chooses. You're both choosing and you both should be building the relationships together. Greetings from Canada. Well, greetings to you. Ellie says, what if the guy reaches out to you but either leaves your messages on red or won't open them for days? Do you even recommend double texting? I recommend that you start dating other people and don't worry about what he's doing, right? If he reaches out to you and then you respond, but first, I mean, first off, right? There's this thing that I call a text message that deserves a response, right? And I talk about this in my Irresistible Text Program. If you haven't checked that out, you can check it out. It's super cheap program and it's really, really good. There's a lot of great stuff in there. You can check it out. But the point is that when you send him a message you wanna make sure that it's a message that deserves a response, right? Sometimes I get women who will come to me and they're like, I sent him this message and he never responded to it. And I look at the message and it's like, thank you. Or it's like a sentence, right? Where there's no question involved in it. There's nothing that would make him want to respond, right? And guys, you have to remember that guys are different than women are, right? A lot of times women, they're just like, and some guys are like that too, right? There's a percentage, but most guys, especially in their masculine, aren't just like talkative with each other and talkative to whoever, right? They need a reason to respond. And so if you haven't asked him a question or sent some kind of message that makes it so that he needs to respond back to you, then it might be that he didn't see any reason to respond back to you. And maybe he felt like it might be chasing if he started doing that, right? You always wanna look at the other person and say, what could be going on with that person that made it so that he didn't end up responding back or he did whatever it is that he did. And in this case, it could be that he felt like it didn't make any sense for him to respond. The other one where he won't open a message for days, that's a little bit different. And that's just showing his lack of interest or his lack of care. And my suggestion is that you open yourself up and start doing what I talk about in the forever woman program, where I talk about, you know, putting yourself into a world of abundance so that you're not chasing some guy, you're not making it all about this one dude. So let's see. CB says, if a man disappears for a couple of months on two separate occasions, then returns like nothing happened and wants to resume the relationship, would you give him another chance or end the relationship? Well, it depends on you, right? Cause this is what you're starting to see here. And one of the things that I teach is look for patterns. And so this is a pattern and it's becoming a pattern and it'll probably continue being a pattern. And you wanna look at, is this something that's acceptable to you? Is this something that's okay for you? And this will probably continue for the rest of your life. And your question is, should I wanna put up with this behavior or not? If it was me, you know, I wouldn't if I were you. I mean, definitely not if you're looking for something serious.  You don't know where he's going. He disappears for months at a time and then just shows up like, hey, ba-dee-ba-dee-ba-dee, you know, good to see you again, right? And you're like, where have you even been?  This guy's showing that, you know, he thinks that he can treat you like this and that you'll accept it. And the question is, are you gonna accept it or not? My suggestion is that you don't. Leah says, we're all desperate with how men acting. Well, I hope not, I hope not. I hope you're not desperate with how men are acting. Emma says, he makes an effort to stay in touch every day but has not made an effort to meet me after three months of online chat. Should I pull back? He is an introvert, but that isn't an excuse to slack, is it? So it depends, right? It depends on what's going on with him and all that kind of stuff. It depends on how he feels about you. It depends on what your relationship is to each other, right? Or you said you've been chatting online, right? Yeah, so you've been chatting online. Is it from like an online dating app or is it from like, you know, he started reaching out to you on Facebook or Instagram or one of the social media channels and then, you know, he's just been doing that for a really long time because it could matter what the frame is, right? If it's a dating site, if he came from a dating site and he's been messaging with you, here's what I recommend that you do. I recommend that you say, hey, you know, I'm really busy. I'd love to talk some more, but I'm busy and but I'd love to meet up with you if that's, you know, something that you're interested in. Let me know and, you know, we can schedule something and then just leave it at that. And if he tries to continue messaging with you, just say, hey, I don't have time to talk. I'd love to meet up with you and, you know, make some time for you to like hang out and chat. But if you just want to talk online, you know, I like, I don't have time for this, right? Because you're not, you don't want to end up being pen pals with somebody. You don't want to be, you know, online buddies. You don't want to get invested in somebody that's that you never end up meeting. And one of the important reasons for this, and I talk to women about this all the time, but it's cause women will sometimes get attached to these guys and you don't even know what he's like in real life. You might end up meeting him. And I hear this from a lot of women, they'll meet a guy that they thought was really great online. And then all of a sudden they're like, the attraction isn't there, the chemistry isn't there. They don't really like him that much. He's not the same as he was online, right? Cause if you're online, you have time to think about things, you have time to, you know, craft whatever it is that you're gonna say and all that kind of stuff. Whereas in person, it's like, hey, I'm talking to this person and I have to think of these things right now.   And so my suggestion is that you don't get yourself into a three months of online chatting with anybody.  Have a real conversation in person. Have a real conversation in person. Jessica says, what if he's depressed and feeling down so he backs off with the communication?  And the question is we were going back to the same thing, right? Like, are you committed, right? There's two worlds that you can be in. One is the world of dating and the other world is the world of commitment. And everything up until commitment is just dating, right? So all of these things where you are exclusive, where you call each other boyfriend, girlfriend, where you're meeting each other's parents, where you're, you know, going on vacation together, where you're, you know, doing all this stuff, that's all dating until he looks at you and says, you're it, you're the only one I want, let's do this, right?  Until he does that, you're in dating mode and you should be dating multiple people. You should be in abundance, at least date two or three people at a time and make sure that you're only getting with men. Don't attach yourself to any man, only get with men who are proving to you that they are the kind of man that wants to be in the type of relationship that you want to be in. And if that's not what's going on in your situation, I don't know anything about your situation, Jessica, so maybe you guys are committed. But if you are committed, then you should back off, absolutely, when he's feeling down if, because some people, they take things differently and generally speaking, this isn't true for all men and women, but generally speaking, men when they're having issues and they're having problems, they tend to go into their man cave, right? And need to deal things out by themselves. And women, they tend to wanna talk things out and have discussions and stuff like that. And you have to respect his way of connecting and communicating.  And so you wanna give him space if he asks for it. You wanna give him space if he needs it, right? If that, if his pattern is that he gets depressed and then he needs some space, you should give him that space when he gets depressed. And if you're not in a committed relationship, you should be seeing other people. Do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do. Facebook user says, hi from Germany, love your content? Well, I love that you're here with us anonymous Facebook users. So thanks for being here. Lots of people get it, I get it, I get it. Lots of people get in it, love that people are getting it. Thank you, all of you, people getting it. It's all you wonderful ladies. So Carol says, my guy said he's feeling damaged and not over-cheating from ex-wife, then a few months. I told him I'd like to make him happy. Do I reach out again? He said he did really like me. Well, Carol, here's the problem. Your guy says that he's feeling damaged and that he's not over-cheating from his ex-wife. That is going to continue until he deals with it. So until he heals himself and lets go and doesn't feel damaged anymore, that's going to be a problem in whatever interactions that you have with him. Again, if you're not committed, which it sounds like you're not, you say my guy, it doesn't sound like he's your guy. My suggestion is that you continue dating other people until you find somebody that one is willing to deal with their problems, because here's the problem, right? Here's the problem, Carol, is that if he has a bunch of issues that he hasn't dealt with and he brings those issues into your interaction together, he's going to continue to have those issues, probably indefinitely, unless he finds another reason why he needs to heal those issues. And so a lot of times, women are the reason why guys will heal themselves and figure themselves out and let go, right? And it might be that he needs time. If he's involved in personal development work, which I hope he is, the likelihood is that he's probably not because most people, men and women aren't. But if he is, then he can heal that pretty quickly if he goes through kind of personal development work and heals himself and works on that. If he's not, it could take years, right? Or if he's in therapy, therapy usually takes years as well. In my personal opinion, a lot of personal development work out there can heal somebody in a couple of hours where sometimes therapy can take years instead of hours to do it.  You don't want his cuts, because he's cut, right? He's hurt. His ex-wife cheated on him and he's in pain from that. And so he's gonna end up bleeding on you, right? He's gonna start taking it out on you.   And so my suggestion is that you be very, very careful about who you end up getting into a relationship with because if he is hurt and he's not willing to deal with that, it can be a major, major problem down the line. Angie says, I enjoy listening to your advice. Luckily, I did psychology, so I agree with all of your advice. Well, I'm glad that your psychology agrees with all my advice, Angie. She says, I was married 45 years, widow for two years now, but life goes on, a new relationship developing, but I am controlled. Well, I wish you the best of luck, Angie, with your new relationship and I hope that it's everything that you hope and dream and wish that it is. And create and create, create for yourself. Do, do, do. Jillian says, I thought women were complicated, men are just as bad. Yeah. I mean, when it comes to relationships, there's, there can be a lot of complicated things going on. So you have to, you have to remember that. You have to remember that people can be complicated, right? People have things going on with themselves and there's stuff going on. And sometimes it's not as simple as do this, do that, you know, have these rules and all that kind of stuff. And so you wanna, you wanna be smart. You wanna be smart, all right. Do the ninja thing, like what's going on people? All right, so he, Daisy says, he dumped me. I've reached out a few times. He wrote back saying we need to heal and take time. He also said not in the best headspace at the moment. To me asking to meet in private before seeing our mutual friends, does this mean it is completely over? We have not seen each other. I feel it's all miscommunication. We were committed for over a year. Well, Ms. Daisy, my suggestion is that you assume whether it is or not, there's no way that I can tell you based on what you said, whether it's completely over or not. It sounds like he needs some time and space away from you.  You get yourself back to a space of wholeness and confidence and security. And then when you're in that space, when you're coming from that space, my suggestion is that you open yourself back up to abundance. And the only way that you let him back into your life is if he earns it. That's my suggestion. That's my suggestion. That is my suggestion. You want him to earn it with you. Otherwise, he'll just take you for granted. I'm gonna come out with a hit song. Hit song about relationships by Matt Coast. You don't want this man to take you for granted. All right, that's ridiculous.  I realize that. CJ says so many things run through a person's mind when you are leaning back, but not all men want space when you want to give them space. They think you're not interested at all or think you're ignoring them. Yeah, that's a very good point, CJ. And that's one of the reasons why there's something that I call the communication blueprint. I really only teach this in my seminars that I have. And so if you wanna learn about it, you can always go and join my seminars. I'm doing seminars now at least once or twice a month where it's virtual. We're just doing virtual seminars for right now. If you're part of my email list, you'll get an email. I think we just sent out our first email today about the seminar that's coming up in another week and a half. And then, but yeah, you wanna find out what's going on with him. What is his communication blueprint, right? What's normal communication for him? Cause everybody's different. Everybody's different. And that's why it's so important to understand what's going on with them, right? There's like these things out there about how to figure out what's going on with a guy. And it's like, one of the best things that you can do is communicate with him and communicate with him in a way that he understands and have him communicate back with you in a way that you understand so that you get what's going on and what his idea of being in a relationship looks like. Otherwise, you're just creating all kinds of problems. You could be creating all kinds of problems with each other. Leslie says, I think I'm doing everything wrong. Well, Leslie, let me tell you something. Now is the best time to stop doing everything wrong and start doing everything right. So this is the time. This is the time. Now is the time. When is now a good time for you to stop doing everything wrong and start doing everything right, Leslie? When is now a good time? All right, so Sally says cultural differences between people has a great effect on a relationship. It can. Yeah, absolutely, it can. Mel says, hi, Matt from Melbourne. Well, hello, hello there, Mel from Melbourne. Leaning back when you're consumed with wanting him and desiring him, it's one of the hardest things to do. Like trying to act cool in a heat wave. I try to come from abundance. Well, you wanna have other things going on in your life as well, right? There's multiple forms of abundance. It's not just abundance of men. There's also abundance of connection, right? Getting your connection and your feelings, right? Abundance of love. There's an abundance of feeling important and significant. There's an abundance of, you know, feeling strong and confident and certain in your life. And you wanna have abundance in all of those areas because the more abundance you have with those things, the less dependent you are on the man. And then the less dependent you are on the man, the less you're like, oh my God, I gotta make this work. Oh my God, I wanna make this work. I'm so bad right now, right? And you can get into a better mindset and you can just kind of let go and you still want him, right? You still want him there, but you're not attached to what's going on with him and what's happening with him. The other thing that you really need to do is do some healing work, right? Heal whatever past wounds you have, you know, change the way that you see things that are going on in relationships and with yourself and all that kind of stuff. That way you're coming from a really healthy and strong and powerful space. Clow says, what do you do when a guy is persistently leaning back and then back in, ask you out, then say to friends and leans back, then starts flirting again and admits to be confused? Well, Clow, this is something that we call hot and cold, right? And there's only one way that a man will act hot and cold with you. And it's if you let him. That is the only way that a guy will act hot and cold. And usually most women that I talk to, they say, they'll say something like, you know, I want to move away or I want to stop dating him or I want to date somebody else, but he won't let me go, right? That's usually the phrase. He won't let me go. And it's like, you have control here, right? You have all the control here, right? He's confused, he's hot and cold. He wants to stay friends. He starts flirting again. He's back and forth in and out, right?   And what you should be doing is going, hey, man, when you get it together, right? Like, if you're confused, right, that's okay, right? If you want to be hot and cold, that's okay. If you want to, you know, just be friends and then start flirting with me, that's okay, but I'm not going to, you're not going to be a part of my life doing that, right? You are the gatekeeper. You are the gatekeeper.  And if you allow a man to do those things to you, you're going to get the results of allowing a man to do those things to you, which is pain, it's abuse, it's neglect, it's feeling taken for granted, it's, you know, being walked all over, right? It's having no control of your life, right? That is the result of allowing a man to do those things to you.  And if you want a real game plan on what you should be doing in these kinds of situations, my suggestion is that you go and check out the devotion switch. It's a program that I have, it's all about if you're in situations where a man's confused, where a man just wants a friend with benefits situation with you and you want something real with a man. My suggestion is that you pick up a copy of my program commitmentconnection.com forward slash devotion, it's a great program and you will learn exactly what to do in a situation like this to put up boundaries, right? Put up boundaries and let him know that if he doesn't get it together that you're gonna walk away and to stop putting up with low class behavior, right? This right here, Clow, is low class behavior and you should not be putting up with that. Anonymous Facebook user says, what's the middle I need help? Well, this is one side and this is one side and the middle is right here, right? So one side is smothering a man and doing everything and jumping all over him and the other side is doing nothing and showing no interest and ignoring him or ghosting him, right? And the magic is in the middle here and the middle depends on him and it depends on you, right? You have different needs than other women have and he has different needs than other men have and you have to have a communication and figure it out. Some of it you're just gonna figure out naturally, right? You're just gonna see what's going on. You're gonna see his patterns. You're gonna see what he does.  Another one is finding out what he wants and what he likes and what's normal behavior for him. And the way that you do that is to ask him questions about what's going on with him and what is normal for him in a relationship and what makes him feel loved, right? Those are things that you need to find out from him in order to find out where that space in the middle needs to be. Carol says, after a few days, I asked him if he was still alive and nothing. Well, that gives you your answer, Carol.  So you need to, if you're not familiar with what you should do after that, you should go back through the Forever Woman program because I go over specifically in detail what to do if you send a message like that to a guy and nothing happens. I talk about that in detail in the texting video of the Forever Woman program. Denmark, South Dakota, Vancouver. Magdalene says, how do you make him trust you again after a mess you created? Well, it depends on how bad the mess is, right? Trust is created through difficult times, right? Trust is created through telling the truth and how much he trusts you depends on him. It's not just you, right? You can't just force him to trust you. You're like, if I press this button and I press that button and I mold him like this, he'll just start trusting me all of a sudden, right? It doesn't work like that, right? He is now in pain if you did something to betray his trust and you're gonna have to earn that trust back. That's how it works. You betray his trust, you have to earn it back. That's how it works. And depending on how bad it was and what other issues he has in his mind, right? If he's got like mommy issues around trust and he has a story of abandonment and all that kind of stuff, then it could be very, very difficult for him to start trusting you the way that you want him to trust you. However, if he doesn't, then you might be able to earn it back pretty well, but you have to do things that show him that you deserve his trust, right? And the more that you do things that break his trust, the worse it's gonna get and the less likely he will ever trust you again. And so it's difficult. You have to show a man that you are trustworthy in difficult situations, right? It's easy to be trustworthy in really easy situations. It's difficult to be trustworthy in difficult situations, but that's what really creates trust is those difficult situations where you do things that show that you're trustworthy. So Sandy says, what do you, what do you if he texts daily for three months and now he's stressed about work and didn't text for five days? He gave no explanation. You lean back and give him space, right? Stop smothering him. Stop worrying about whether he's texting you all the time or not. So this is what happened, right? This is one of the reasons why I'm not a big fan of, everyday texting, the good morning, good night texts, which can be good sometimes, but my suggestion is you don't do it all the time because it sets a precedent and all of a sudden you're like, oh my God, what should I do, right? You give him space. You give him space, right? And the other question which I ask everybody is, are you dating or are you committed? If you're dating, you should be seeing other people. If you're committed, then you should just give him space. And if you're not committed and you're this attached to him, that can be a big, big problem.  So make sure that you're both committed to each other. You're both committed to each other. What you want, what you want, what you got. Elizabeth said, how can women initiate contact while leaning back? Or what are things we can do to show we're interested while leaning back? Just send him a message, just ask him a question, just initiate contact. That's all initiating contact is.   And I have women sometimes, they'll be like, he just sent me a hi. What does that mean? What does he want from me? Well, he wants to connect, right? That's a connection message. And that's all you have to do is you have to just send out a message and just be like, hey, how are you doing? What's going on? Just connect with them. That's it. That's all you have to do to show them interest, right? And that's what you do. And like I said, it's not about leaning back doesn't mean that you never initiate contact. It just means that you try to initiate it less than him so that you don't get yourself into trouble. But going through that other extreme where you're never initiating, that's gonna get you in trouble too. Because what's gonna happen for in most situations is that he's gonna think that you don't really like him that much, right? Why don't you ever reach out to him, right? You can reach out to him. It's not a problem. It's like a lot of women think that it's like a technique, right? Like leaning back is this technique that I do during these certain situations. It's more of a lifestyle, right? It's more of a lifestyle component where you're creating space for him to move forward and be there with you. And the mistake, the misconception is thinking that it's this thing that you do, right? During this period of time. Well, I'm leaning back right now so I can't contact him. No, you're leaning back all the time. And if he's been moving forward, if he's been initiating contact, if he's been doing things to show you that he's into you, then you can do that sometimes as well.  When something happens, when he stops being into you or something else weird goes on and you won't notice it because you're leaning forward all the time. And so leaning back doesn't mean you never initiate contact or anything like that.  But you can reach out to him, especially if he's been pursuing you, right? If he's been pursuing you and he's got movement forward and you're in kind of this thing that I call a whirlwind, right? You're in a whirlwind courtship where you're just like loving on each other and it's just so great. And you guys think that you're both just so awesome. You can do all kinds of things. You can contact him. You can initiate contact. You can set up a date. You can drive to him. You can do all these things because he's been doing those things with you to a higher degree. But if he hasn't been doing those things with you to a higher degree, don't do any of those things, right? Lean back and give him space and allow him to start doing those things because it shows you. Shows you what his interest level is. But at the same time, what you do shows him what your interest level is as well. I hope that answers your question, Elizabeth, because that's very on point. So thanks for asking a really great question. Facebook user says so funny, I guess men are the same everywhere. Yeah, I mean, there's certain cultural elements that are different everywhere, but most of the stuff that I talk about is human biology, right? Human psychology, things that don't change that aren't different anywhere you go. Priya says, I follow your advice. Actually, it works, dear. Thank you so much. You're welcome. Glad that it's been working for you. Glad that it's working for you. Good evening. Hello. The faces of Jeep Fodge says, I, Natasha, oh, hey, Natasha, have made many of these mistakes in the past and grateful for your page. I'm taking this time to learn new, healthy, proactive ways to connect with me. I'm also working in myself. Well, good. Good, good, good. Hello, hello from Holland, from Denver. Deanna says, hi, Matt, work from upstate New York. I've been with this guy for nine months, took your advice, and it's working awesome. Just keep doing it. Keep using it there, Deanna. Joanna says, I've been chatting to this guy and met on a dating site. Chatting with those guys on dating sites. Celeste says, why is that they feel they have to chase when I am equally as interested? They really didn't win anything if it was in my mind in the first place. Well, it's funny that you say that, right? Because guys, some things they pick up on and some things they don't, right? He wants to feel like he won you over because he's a man and that's his primal brain going, I wanna go after this and win it and get it, right? And he wants to feel that way and he's gonna feel that way regardless of how interested you are in him as long as he can move forward and pursue and chase you, right? That's the male mind, that's the biological mind going after what it wants. It's the masculine in him moving forward and achieving and getting and all that kind of stuff, which, you know, if you're in your feminine a lot, it's probably very, very foreign to you why guys do this. It's probably very foreign to you. Deanna says, but how do I know how far to pull back? I just went over that. Just went over that Deanna. Dating after 40, help. Well, you know what? I talk lots about what you should do, especially in my forever woman program. So definitely go and check that out, get that because that is the basis for everything that you should be doing. Go check that out there, Floyd Pepper. Floyd Pepper. Madame Ladybug, Madame Gunslinger. Is that like a video game avatar or something? Hey Matt, just wanted to say thank you for the advice. It really helped me. Well, you are absolutely welcome. Katie says, we appreciate all your YouTube videos and posts. Well, I'm glad you do. Mayummy says, I love watching and listening to your advices, Matt, although I'm single, but good to learn. I mean, a lot of this is for women that are single and wanting to get into a relationship. Natasha says, I have been telling all my friends about your awesome page and great advice. Well, thank you so much for doing that. I really appreciate that. I really appreciate you telling all your friends about what's going on over here. Get them great advice. All right, so thank you so much for being here. I gotta get going here. But if you haven't checked it out yet, go check out the forever woman formula at theforeverwomanformula.com. And I will speak with you again soon. And thank you again for being here because you're awesome. And always remember that you are worth it. You're worth it. Remember that you're worth it. Always believe and feel that you're worth it.


What is up you guys and welcome back to another one if you are new to the channel I am Goldpony and today we are in the new 2019 Mazda CX-5 courtesy of Jack G Mbalvo Mazda in York PA and I am excited to be in this one today you know why because there is a new engine available for the 2019 CX-5 and I happen to have it today so without further ado let's start with pricing. So there will be several different trim levels of course for the 2019 Mazda CX-5 first one being the sport that is going to start at $24,350 then the touring for $26,615 and the grand touring for $30,045 that was all front wheel drive to add all wheel drive simply add $1,400 to those prices then there are two more trim levels being the grand touring reserve for $34,870 that comes standard with all wheel drive as well as the signature for $36,890 that's the one that we have today but so then I alluded to the power on the new CX-5 there are two different engine setups available for this one first one belonging to the sport touring and grand touring that is going to be powered by a 2.5 liter naturally aspirated four cylinder putting out 187 horsepower at 6000 rpm 186 pound feet of torque available at 4000 rpm power is going to be sent to the front wheels or all wheels through a six speed automatic transmission giving you MPG numbers coming in at 25 in the city 31 on the highway for the front wheel drive 24 city 30 highway for the all wheel drive but then there is the other engine setup and this one's going to be in the grand touring reserve in the signature and this engine setup is the one that is all new for the 2019 CX-5 but also found on the CX-9 as well as the larger Mazda 6 sedan if you are curious but so this engine setup is going to be the 2.5 liter turbocharged four cylinder engine putting out 227 horsepower at regular 87 octane but 250 horsepower at 93 octane coming in at 5000 rpm and 310 pound feet of torque available at a very low 2000 rpm so definitely quite a bit more power with this engine setup that we have today that power is only going to be sent to all four wheels through Mazda's all wheel drive system and that power is going to be sent to the ground through a six speed automatic giving you MPG numbers coming in at 22 in the city 27 on the highway and so that before we do any accelerations I did want to mention there is a driving mode singular a sport driving mode that button is going to be located just to the left of the shifter there but if you press that it did just immediately downshift for me it's going to hold the RPMs in a much higher level it's also going to adjust the throttle response a little bit so it is going to hold the RPMs in that sweet spot so to speak giving you more power on demand there but having said that I think it is timeless to a quick little acceleration in the new 2019 CX-5 with the new engine and let's see how quickly we can get this one here up to speed definitely got a good bit of pep there to it and I wouldn't say there was any turbo lag either so pretty nice acceleration on the new CX-5 especially the turbocharged engine we have today and we'll also mention if you wanted to shift through your own gears you slide the shifter to the left you do have the availability to do that although this one does not come with paddle shifters who really needs paddle shifters on an SUV anyways but to go along with that acceleration braking is equally important let's go on the 2019 CX-5 for the non turbocharged engine you will get 11.7 inch ventilated front disc 11.9 inch solid rear discs and I mentioned it that way because if you do go with it turbocharged engine front rotors are actually gonna be upsized a little bit bumping it up to 12.6 inches and when it comes to the braking feel not too bad but so to go along with the 2019 improvements besides the turbocharged engine of course there are some handling improvements for this one as well including the new G vectoring control plus system yes Mazda has added a plus moniker to that G vectoring control system that they previously had and basically what that plus designation is going to signify as a new feature that applies braking to the outside front wheel when the driver straightens the wheel which Mazda says is going to improve stability and while I am not sure if there is any improved stability I can tell you that the steering feel is quite nice especially coming off of just reviewing the 2019 Hyundai Tucson steering feel does feel a little heavier in the CX-5 definitely points you in the direction that you want to go a little more precisely than the Hyundai Tucson since I just reviewed it so I do like that in the CX-5 but then in addition to that Mazda has also noted that they have reworked the suspension for 2019 making for a more smoother ride as well and when it comes to ride quality I really have had no issues probably wouldn't say it is as smooth as the 2019 Tucson but I will say it is not bad at all though certainly would not have any issues taking this on long road trips or anything like that for as the cabin noise goes there is a little bit of engine noise that comes into the cabin perhaps because I have the turbocharged engine but we'll say it is a little louder than most other SUVs in this class and as far as visibility goes absolutely zero issues when it comes to that usually smaller SUVs you're really not gonna have any issues but I can see perfectly fine out the back but in addition to that there is also actually a head-up display that I'm looking at right now telling me that the speed limit is 15 miles per hour and I am going 21 so I don't think you can get a ticket for that corrects me if I'm wrong but that is pretty cool that that's there and it is super bright as well and it is adjustable I wanted to make it a little higher up or a little lower but that is pretty cool that that's there it definitely helps you keep your eyes on the road a little better than I guess you otherwise would be able to but enough of the driving dynamics you guys because this is a very nice looking SUV let's check out the exterior of the 2019 Mazda CX-5 and so starting up front one of my favorite parts about the CX-5 is every single trim level of this one will give you LED headlights with daytime running lights LEDs usually don't come standard on SUVs especially in this segment they're usually reserved for the upper trim levels but every single trim level is gonna get it with the CX-5 and you will get the automatic feature with that as well so the headlights can turn on automatically if you want them to and if you go with the touring trim level and up those LED headlights are also gonna be auto leveling so that is really a safety feature in itself as well but in the middle of those headlights that front grille will be the same among every single trim level definitely looks nice up there and LED fog lights are gonna be reserved for the grand touring trim level and up but then make your way to the side on this one body colored power adjustable side mirrors with LED integrated turd signals will come standard on every single trim level and again those LED integrated turd signals usually will only come standard on the higher trim levels for most other manufacturers out there so that is nice also zooming out a little bit you will find a chrome belt line molding along the CX-5 when it comes to the wheel setup there will be 17 by 7 inch aluminum alloys for the sport and touring trim levels that is gonna get bumped up to 19 inches if you go with the grand touring or reserve and the signature trim that we have today again 19 inches but they are gonna come with a unique dark silver finish to them but so then make your way to the back of the CX-5 there is a rear spoiler with the integrated brake light along with the rear window wiper just below that for all trims you will find LED tail lights for the grand touring trim level and up and just below it all dual exhaust outlets with chrome tips so you guys know what I have to do next let's check out the way this new turbocharged engine sounds and as always here is that exhaust clip but so now since we are around back as far as opening that rear hatch goes there is a button on the key fob if you like but that button is going to equate to a power lift gate if you go with the grand touring trim level and up and once open up cargo capacity is gonna come in at 30.9 cubic feet with the seats up and if you fold those seats down it is gonna come in at 59.6 cubic feet then make your way up to the rear leg room that comes in at 39.6 inches so actually good bit back there for reference I'm an even six feet tall this is how much space I had back there also there's rear passengers will find a rear center armrest with cup holders if you go with a touring trim level and up and again with that touring trim level and up rear air vents back there as well and heated rear seats if you go with a grand touring reserve or signature so we do have those back there today but they're taking a look at the front seats there are manually adjustable claw seats for the sport trim level you will get a power driver seat with a leatherette finish for the touring and those seats will be heated as well actually grand touring is going to give you a power passenger seat then the grand touring reserve and signature trim levels are going to give you ventilated front seats with a Napa leather that is definitely very high end but so then taking a look forward when it comes to the steering wheel it is tilt and telescoping manually adjustable for all trims but also leather wrapped for all trim levels that is very nice and for the grand touring reserve and signature it is also heated which I do have on right now because it is 28 degrees out today in Pennsylvania very cold but so now then when it comes to the startup let me first start by showing you guys the key here you do lock unlock that button to pop the rear hatch but it is of course keyless entry though so I'm simply just going to put my foot on the brake and press the engine start button which is located just up top of the driver's right knee there but so then once started up tachometer is going to be on your left fuel gauge is on your right and the speedometer is part of a digital setup a digital display front and center you get a cool little CX-5 intro when you turn this one on so I found that pretty cool but loose gauges will also tell you how many miles you have left until you hit empty but taking a look at overall interior quality there is an overhead sunglass holder that will come standard for all trim levels if you go with the touring trim level and up you will get dual zoom climbing control as well and the grand touring trim level and up is not only going to give you a power moon roof but an auto dimming rear view mirror with homelink controls are up to three different garage doors so rather than having the garage door opener that vibrates on your sun visor all the time you actually have it just under the rear view mirror there so that is definitely convenient and less annoying as well did would also mention since I have the very top trim level today there is LED ambient lighting absolutely everywhere including in the back for the rear passengers you don't usually find LED lighting back there found that pretty cool also wood trim accents just above the glove box there and that ties into the doors as well and again Napa leather finishes throughout so definitely a very high end feel for a Mazda for a Mazda CX-5 so I got to say I am very impressed but I think it is time we make our way to the tech display on this one because all trim levels will give you a 7-inch color touchscreen display will come standard with Bluetooth and audio streaming and if you go with the touring trim level and up that will come with Android Auto and Apple CarPlay meaning if you have a smartphone simply hook it up to the CX-5 and you have free navigation as well as the ability to like and dislike your Pandora songs up there speaking of when it comes to the radio settings if you go with the sport or touring trim level you will get six speakers however if you go with the grand touring trim level and up you will get a 10 speaker Bose sound system so you guys know what we have to do next let's turn on the radio see what we got playing this morning and let's test out the clarity of this 10 speaker Bose sound system a ton of bass on this sound system definitely I've had Bose sound systems in my previous cars and it is absolutely amazing I've never had any issues with Bose failing or anything like that so definitely a very nice sound system on the higher trim levels of the CX-5 here but so the last thing I wanted to mention on the tech display is when you do put the CX-5 in reverse you will find a rear view camera for every single trim level however that signature trim level that we have today is gonna add a couple more things as well including front and rear parking sensors so it's gonna beep at you if you get a little too close to an object as well as a 360 degree view camera and that button is gonna be located just by the driver's left knee there but that's gonna let you know what is around you everywhere around the CX-5 so that is definitely pretty nice but as always that is going to lead me into safety and so to start there are front side inside curtain airbags also in the back latch aka lower anchors and tethers to children for the rear car seats rear child door locks also standard for all trim levels tire pressure monitoring system also all trim levels though this is where it gets good blind spot monitoring with rear cross traffic alert comes standard for all trim levels that is definitely not a standard feature usually fine and if you go with a touring trim level and up you will also get adaptive cruise control with stop and go in the touring that's pretty nice also smart city brake support with pedestrian detection and lane departure warning with lane keep assist and so but that is about it for this one you guys thank you so much for watching be sure to like the video and subscribe feel free to follow me on social media if you like at the bottom of the screen there and I will see you guys in the next video stay gold


Good morning, it's day 11 of this 100-day art challenge I'm just checking in because It's helpful for me to tell someone and To feel accountable, and I hope it's helpful for you to see someone else making art every day So it's day 11. I'm using this chart for now Today I'm feeling I'm feeling good because I've painted Feeling good because I painted. I woke up worrying and feeling anxious and then it just started painting Didn't that's all just do that. Okay. Here's what I'm working on So I just felt like doing something big and I felt like using oranges and pinks So it's starting to come together. I wanted to reposition the nipple. So it was centered and then I got to work on these lips, but I'm kind of figuring it out and and This one I'm still building this snowflake And I just don't know what I'm gonna do with the legs yet and then working on the butt Working on the butt and I may put use this silver stainless steel powder to do that So let's just start anyways and then I'm starting to add some shape to this thing but the cool thing about this butt is there's a circle right there That lines up with the bottom of this circle and it makes your butt curve and is centered. So that got me excited I like looking for stuff where you can find geometry and Like there's even a circle there right in the middle, which is cool Okay, and What else oh Then I have this turtle one So this turtle one Again, it's I love finding geometry and shapes and things right so there's a couple cool shapes going on So see how I did the sketch Played around and then I did this to play with color and shapes. I just want to accent all these lines that just work Really nicely, you know everything Is a complete line right so there's basically just two two main lines Making up most of the design Okay, and then thank you as one of your suggestions in this area. I'm gonna do cells so like pouring art and make it look like organic cells They're called Okay, I think that's all I got to talk about. Oh, no, this has been helpful. So here are Some helpful lists Maybe this will help you start a list of your project ideas your painting ideas So I have these are lists of painting ideas. So I have lots on the go I Even found some scrap paper Here's some put references. I want to get into feet. I Want to get into feet, you know? Try something new And then here here's some other ideas So as I you know, if you get if you're just in the zone Write down your thoughts. So these are all painting ideas and then references to get For example, I need references of pigeons taking off for one of these ideas And then oh, I got this reference beautiful snowflakes. I got that reference, which is great Where is it? Where's the reference? I don't know. Okay Is that the three lists I said oh and then the third list is Your supplies list stuff you need to buy so that's here like I need more painters tape I need some I want some light inks and I need more resin here. So Okay, keep making art. Don't ask why just keep doing it every single day until Something happens. Okay, just do it every single day All right, thanks everyone Making art is a wonderful thing I'm getting up early excited to paint now and I never did that never did that But you got to do it every day. Okay. Bye everyone


Your Excellencies, Honourable Ministers, Distinguished Delegates, Ladies, and Gentlemen. Chair, I come out with all more and greetings from Nauru. At the outset, please allow me to thank the Royal Government of Bhutan and FAO for convening this first ever virtual FAO conference for the Asia-Pacific region. I commend all your efforts in marching on, especially in light of the challenges posed by the global pandemic. I would like to take this opportunity to express a warm greetings to the new Director-General, Dr. Koo Dong Shu. I must also recognize and congratulate the new Assistant Director-General and FAO regional representative for the Asia and the Pacific, Mr. John Jean Kim. Chair, Nauru is an island nation with a population of 10,000, living on a landmass of just 21 square kilometres. This makes us the smallest independent republic in the world. It should go without saying that the pandemic, the devastating effects of climate change, the immensity of the NCD crisis, the vulnerability of our small economy, the challenges of our geographical isolation, land degradation, and food and food nutrition insecurities. All of these have pushed the capacities and resources of this particular microstate beyond our limit. Nauru is almost completely reliant on imports for its food supply. Our domestic production is next to zero. There is limited arable land for agricultural farming, and the country's development continues to be impacted by extreme climate events such as droughts and sea level rise. Nauru is at the end of the food supply chain, making us extremely vulnerable to the external factors beyond our control that can server or restrict our access to food supplies. As borders closed off, there was an alarming threat of food shortage in my country. With Nauru being completely reliant on one transporter of freight, the shipping supplier Neptune took advantage of the monopoly by significantly raising prices and by being a hindrance to our new and sovereign COVID-19 regulations. I cannot stress how important it is to show solidarity in the face of a global crisis. The pandemic has really put things into perspective for my country. There can be no denying that food security is absolutely central to our national security. Consultants who have conducted in-country missions have told us to develop kitchen gardens, but are this enough to help us address their food and nutrition insecurities? In my assessment, the current situation gives rise to one main question. Kitchen gardens are not enough, so how do we produce food in Nauru at scale? Chair, it is common to find host countries in the Pacific region disproportionately benefiting from or influencing the opportunities provided through the regional and international agencies. These agencies are concentrated in the South, leaving Nauru and other Micronesian states in the North Pacific often overlooked. The Micronesian states called for the establishment of a UN multi-country office for the UN to better respond to our needs. With the announcement of its plans to have a dedicated MCO in our region, our leaders agreed to have it established in the Federated States of Micronesia. It is expected that this office should provide the support required from the UN to help address our unique challenges and priorities, and this includes FAO, to help us achieve food and nutrition security and to tackle the inequalities of the global food system. Chair, Nauru should be considered a storage facility for our region where food and other essential supplies can be collected and deposited, and in the event of any natural disasters in our region, food supplies and other necessary resources can be quickly mobilized. You may wonder what makes Nauru the ideal storage facility. My country is a raised coral limestone island, and our proximity to the equator makes us free from natural disasters. We are strategically located in the middle of the Pacific, and with the transformation of our port into a world-class climate, resilient seaport, along with a successful regional air carrier, we can serve as a natural transport hub for the region. We have also recently established our own shipping line. Viewed from a disaster preparedness angle, this concept is economically and strategically sensible. This is regionalism at its best. Chair, our last agriculture strategic plan expired back in 2017, and so our food sector is functioning with very little direction. Nauru requested the assistance of FAO to develop an agriculture strategic plan in 2018, including a food and nutrition security strategic plan only recently. Response had been slow even prior to COVID-19, and now that the world has stalled due to the pandemic, I am gravely concerned that the support required from FAO may be further delayed. I would hope that the organisation can respond to our appeal for assistance in developing these roadmaps in a manner that shows similar urgency. Chair, Nauru welcomes the Hand in Hand initiative, whereby FAO will match developing countries with developed country partners to accelerate the achievements of the SDGs. This initiative is indeed timely, considering that food security challenges are being compounded by the COVID-19 pandemic, and I hope that Nauru will be considered to join this wonderful initiative. I note from the paper on water scarcity that the Pacific is not mentioned, and I hope that the same attention will also be given to us to help address our water security issues. In closing, food security and nutrition is not only a priority for Nauru, but we consider it an issue of a national security, and anticipate FAO's support in taking better coordinated and more coherent action on the ground to ensure that no one or no nation is left behind. I'm Artur Bakar and I thank you.


They are aware of it every single day and they never forget about you and you didn't even have to pick up the phone. You had to push one little button, say what it is you want to say, and it reaches all of them at one time. So I want to ask this. When's the last time the manager in here sold the car on social media? We're here to teach social media. Why? Cause we believe in timing and we believe in speed. How fast can you move on social media? Very fast. We made 40 million, I was just telling them last year, net in our company, not gross 40 million net. I'm going to put 100 million this year. Do you know why? Because of social media. I was talking to Dominic earlier, right? Dominic, one of your oldest guys that works for you, right? What's his name? Burr. Burr said, I don't understand this. Am I right? And you know what I said? No problem. I get it. Times have changed, things have changed. I said, it would be disrespectful to Mr. Burkheimer for you not to learn this. Would you be willing? He said, absolutely. Am I right? Guess what he does? The oldest dinosaur in the company goes and pulls his phone out. I tell him exactly what to do. He was a guy who was against it. He gets on social media. He does one, one Facebook live. It reaches 500 people in one under 10 minutes. Has he ever been able to contact 500 people in under 10 minutes? Never.  I said, it's called social media. It's a little bit crazy. He goes, I don't understand. Like, so how do these people know? I'm like, dude, listen to me.  And then the next day you come again. And the next day you come again.  They are aware of it every single day and they never forget about you. And you didn't even have to pick up the phone. You had to push one little button, say what it is you want to say, and it reaches all of them at one time. He was his very first live. And he had 500 people. Also, his phone rang. Wouldn't that meet? He goes, somebody's called her me. I said, answer. And what was it? It was a lady trying to trade out of her vehicle.  I just saw how excited you were about how vehicles are bringing over money right now. We're actually thinking about trading out of our car. How would he have found her? He wouldn't have. She would have bought from someone else. How much business are we losing? Okay, you got a sales guy right here that completely just tore it up and it's getting warmed up and understanding why can't everybody in the company be like, yeah, why what would happen if all the managers bought in and the managers went live every day and said, here we are Memphis, Tennessee with the number one sales team in the United States. Memphis, you asked for the best company in the world and we're giving it to you. I'm going to introduce you to my guy right here. He loves people. He's retired military. He loves his people. If you're looking for somebody laid back chill, come meet Bobby. Here's the cell phone number. You can text it out. I'm going to walk over right here. We got little Burkheimer, amazing man. This right here is the son. You know what he does? He loves his people. He's just as passionate about selling people cars as his father was. He has one flaw. He gets too much money for trade ins. If you want to reach out to him and let him make a mistake on your trade bar from you too much, send him a text message. You know what? They'll start reaching out all the time. Dude, I want to know something. Does everybody in the world around your area, when you walk into the room, are they like, oh, that's the car guy? Yeah, that's that's you. That's the car guy. If you were looking at his pubs the other day, I was noticing because I watch everything. There's people commenting. I can't wait to get a shout out on social media when I buy my car. Am I right? He's turning into a celebrity in the area. How long did it take? Half a year. Was it worth it? Well, do you know what life would be like without social media now? You don't even know what it would be like. I know what it would be like. Him living and dying by the gate, staring out the window, waiting for the next phone call. I watch him on the showroom floor and he's alive. And you managers in here right now, if you understand this, your sales team, they deserve to have that feeling. Okay. They deserve to have that feeling. It's not stand outside anymore. It's get on the damn phone or get on social media. If you don't have a customer, you're looking for one or you're training to get better. That's it. We have to kill all non-income producing activities in our companies. You guys in here that let salesmen have phones, games on their phone. You should be deleting them and throwing them in the trash can. You get what you tolerate.   My sales guys don't do this. You're the problem.  If you don't have the marriage you want, that's your fault. If you're not the parent you want to be, shame on you.  You're the only person that can fix it.


I'm going to show you the correct way to use Instagram music promo pages. Now one of the biggest things that I see is that artists tend to only use these music promo pages when they have a new song or a video out that they want to promote. And there's nothing wrong with this when you're first building your audience within that community, but the moment you have fans, even if they're small within that world, that becomes a much better way to use these pages. So let's use the rapper Yeet as an example. He's been using the page Our Generation Music as a part of his recent promo run. And he's been using Our Generation Music in a really effective way. Let's look at some of the posts that he's had over the last week or so. There's posts about him being in the studio with other artists, posts asking the community about their impression on his new music, a tracklist tease, a celebration post about his music hitting 100 million streams on Spotify, and a post about his fans doing some wild shit. So what he's essentially doing is using Our Generation Music like a blog. That's basically what these music promo pages are, modern day blogs. So don't use these pages to only promote your music, use them to promote the world you're building around you.