Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm John Finasi of johnfinasi.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today, our topic, how to know he's serious about a relationship. We're gonna find out how to know for sure. All right, really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you could be notified of new videos. And if anytime during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance a sentence. So if a F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations. So all I ask is you give me a little bit of a chance. All right, let's talk about how to know if you really, really, how to know if he wants a serious relationship. Well, let's think back about 60 years ago. For the most part, and I'm thinking here in the United States for the most part, and I just said for the most part, now I've said that three times. If two people, if a couple want to have sex, they usually got married because back in the olden times, sex wasn't given for freely like it is today, so there had to be some level of commitment. In fact, marriage was the fullest level of commitment. So it was most likely, well, it was the most serious form of relationship if we'd like to think that marriage is the most serious form of relationship. So for the, God, I'm saying for the most part, repeatedly, I have to rewind myself right there. So when we look back to the past, there certainly was a level of commitment that was just part of the dating process that doesn't exist today. In fact, I'd say it's changed dramatically in the last 100 years, and certainly it's changed dramatically in the last 20 years since the invention of the internet, since the invention of these smartphones.    And I want you to think about this. So roughly about 75% of singles who are over 45 years old are divorced. So they had one significant relationship in their life, maybe two that didn't go the distance. So now the next go around, they wanna make it right, they wanna make it right, they wanna make it right. And what happens is in today's dating realm because of the internet, because of the access to so many people, what's happening is a lot of human beings, again, mostly here in the United States because I can't speak for the entire world, but there's this repetition going on, this one after another, after another experience. I'm gonna repeat this repetition of one after another, after another experience. And what happens is this wears emotionally on most human beings if you've had one experience that didn't work out, another experience. And by the way, when I talk about experience, we could be talking about a first, second, or third date that doesn't go anywhere, a short-lived relationship that was maybe six weeks to three months long, or maybe a longer relationship, maybe a year or two that doesn't go the distance. And what we're seeing is a significant increase of short-lived relationships. And I believe these short-lived relationships actually wears on us emotionally and makes it difficult to actually bond with another human being. Let me add to that that some of these short-lived relationships might create attachments to the people that it ended with. And so what happens is that person tries to fill that void with somebody else. And this is true for men and women alike. They tried to fill the void that happened with the previous relationship and they might actually be yearning for that past relationship while they're engaging with this new relationship. I can tell you as a man out there, I've experienced this a number of times where I've gotten to know a woman. I was very interested in her. Only to have her go back to some previous relationship because that attachment wasn't complete. And I'm sure many of you have experienced the same thing because men do this and women do this. And this can wear on us emotionally, which makes it very difficult to know if someone wants a serious relationship. And I can understand why many of you are feeling frustrated in the process. And I gotta tell you, I'm there with you. I get it. I say this with, I say this humbly. It can wear on us emotionally and makes it very difficult to actually build trust with someone new, especially if you've been hurt more than once, one time, another time, another time, another time. And when I say the word hurt, I'm just gonna say been disappointed, let down, maybe worse feeling betrayed. Betrayed, yes. And it can feel like such a betrayal when you've given your heart to someone only to find out that they're either not ready for a relationship or worse, they're still holding on to someone else, not literally, but figuratively, but not literally, figure, well, you know what I mean. I'm a little tongue-tied right now. And so this is one of the big challenges we're dealing with. And I think it's rather naive to think of a fantasy way most people experience relationship. And yet what's so fascinating to me is people are falling in love every day. It's happening every day. People are connecting significantly on a regular basis. And many people are falling in love.  Yes, a significant percentage of the population is dysfunctional. And at the same time, people are falling in love all the time. And I think one of the big reasons this is happening because we've seen a shift in the fantasy way of dating and there's beginning to be an understanding of the importance to do personal development work and spiritual work and self-help work on oneself so they can actually make themselves ready for a relationship. And I'll talk about that in a few minutes. So let's dive in on how to know if a man is real serious about a relationship. So I'm gonna put on my trusty glasses.  And I came up with a couple of things to share. And number one, and I think this is rather important to address is that they've had, whether it's a man or woman, they've had a significant relationship in their life. They've had a significant relationship in their life. Now there are a number of people in their 40s, 50s and 60s that have a number of casual, casual, short-lived relationship, short-lived relationship. That's not necessarily a good sign that someone has had a significant number of short-lived, casual relationships. For the most part, as I said earlier in the demographic of the over 45 category, most people have been married once before. So that's usually a little bit of a good sign but that's not necessarily, I think it's just important to recognize that they've at least attempted a long-term relationship at least once in their life. Now, this might give criticism to those people who have been never married. I am certainly not criticizing those that have been never married. I'm just here to say that they've had a significant relationship and what I think by significant relationship, it's somewhere between two to five years as a minimum, even if they weren't married, they've had a significant relationship in one's life. If two people have gone through two seasons together, two cycles of the earth traveling 365 days, if they've done that at least two times, that certainly at least means that they're open to the idea of a serious relationship. So I'd certainly want to get a sense of that. And the good news is most people fit into this category, not all, but most. Okay, number two, they ask you about your dating life. They ask you about your dating experience. In other words, they're inquiring about your past relationships. I think it's a good sign when somebody asks you about your past relationships because they're trying to get a sense. And by the way, this is true for men and women alike, but they're trying to get a sense of your experience. And I think people who are genuinely serious about a relationship want to get a sense of your past experience. Now, this can be a little bit tricky because men are also very territorial. And what we're mostly looking for, and at least I know in my case is, are you still attached to someone else in your past? So I know for me, I prefer not to date someone who's had a significant relationship or serious relationship in the last six months to a year at a minimum. And I can tell you when I came off my six year relationship, and there was a period where it was on and off again for six years, it took me a long time before I was ready for a serious relationship. And I say this because interesting enough, every time we broke up, I thought, I'm ready for a relationship. I'm ready for a relationship. I'm ready for a relationship. But I was still attached to this other person. I think it's highly important to ask, I mean, drill someone or interrogate someone, if you will, to get a sense of their past relationships because you may find that they're still attached to a previous relationship, but they're not admitting it upfront. So that's why I want you to become good detectives by asking better questions. In fact, my whole channel is designed to get you to look beyond the box, beyond the surface. I don't sugarcoat this stuff. I invite you to go deeper than the surface because most people, all they talk about on a first date is, how's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. In addition, many of you have been taught to just lean back in your feminine and do nothing and let the guy lead and let me tell you, that's a recipe for disaster.  Don't you ever give that to a man.  Purchase two copies of this book. And the reason being is, you should be reading this together as you're getting to know one another. This literally asks all the great questions you can ask to get to know someone to see. Are you compatible with one another? Do you share the same values? Are your lifestyles blendable? And you'll get a sense of their emotional maturity because only emotionally immature people will reject this. Let me repeat that. Only emotionally immature people, mostly it's controlling people that will reject this.  And don't be afraid to speak your truth. In fact, those of you know, I wrote a book called What the Heck Is Self Love? Anyway, there's a link below to get all my recommended books. The reason why I'm recommending this book right now is chapter one is Speak Your Truth, deal with kindness. And chapter nine, or is it nine? Nine. If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right guy. So don't be afraid to be vulnerable, to be authentic, to be transparent, to be radically honest. So ask those deeper questions. And number three, oh, men are upfront about their relationship goals. They're upfront about their relationship goals. I know I'm very upfront in the dating process. Those who follow my work know my rhetoric. I always say I'm looking for a relationship where we spend three or four days and nights a week together, doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either moving in together or getting married. So men who share their relationship goals with a little bit more forethought than, oh, I want a relationship.  I want a relationship. Your ideal relationship and their ideal relationship could mean two different things. Their ideal relationship might be, you know what, I'm gonna see you at my beck and call when I feel up to it. That might be their idea of a relationship. Your idea might be more similar to mine. You want it to be more structured. So go beyond the surface and ask deeper questions and be mindful, is he sharing his relationship goals with you? Okay, number four. He's already making small commitments already. He's making small commitments already. This is how you can tell a man is serious. He's actually planning future dates with you and this is after having sex together. Let me be clear about something. There's the pre-sex where guys will say just about anything to get in your pants and then there's post-sex. Okay, I mean, well, not the post the first time sex. Is he continually making effort to make plans with you? Whether it's social activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, going out on future dates, that's a great sign because these are little commitments. He maybe makes a commitment to go to a party with you. He makes a commitment to go to a family event with you. Those are great signs that he's serious that he wants a relationship. And the last one, and this is most important. And again, I want to differentiate between pre-sex and after the first time sex. He is consistent. He's consistent. He's consistent when it comes to making time for conversations with you. He's consistent with making plans with you. He's just consistent. You know, I did a video this morning about men stringing you along and one of the consistent things about men who string you along is that these people are inconsistent. When a person is consistent, especially when it comes to making time to talk with you. And I can't begin to stress now the importance. I did a video recently about the incessant communication people have, but at the same time, because these days we're meeting total strangers, we're meeting total strangers most likely in the dating realm, we know nothing about them. It takes more effort to actually bond with one another. And it takes a level of intentionality. This is why I'm beginning to recommend the book, Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell. What to know about the people you don't know. Folks, it's so important to develop a level of consistent communication to build trust. It takes about 100 hours of face to face time, face to face time to build the first layer of trust in a romantic relationship. So recognize that it takes consistency and it takes a level of consistent effort. And when people are acting wishy washy or inconsistent, that's a terrible sign. And usually you know when the men are inconsistent, you feel it in your gut, you feel in your gut. When you feel anxiety, I'm gonna say something. I've learned this recently because I had an experience which I'll share in a moment. Where I was feeling a level of anxiety with a person, I realized because their communication wasn't consistent that anxiety was merely my intuition speaking to me, saying something was off, it's an alarm and it's an alarm and it's an alarm. And I wanted to give the person the benefit of the doubt. And yet when a person is inconsistent in their communication, that's a sign that they're either going to string you along or they don't want a serious relationship because a man or woman who wants a fully committed serious relationship is going to be consistent in their communication with you. And I think you have to pay attention to that. All right, so just to recap, those five things I just shared to know if someone wants a serious relationship, they've at least had a significant relationship in their life, it's two years plus in their life. That's usually a good sign. Another good sign is they're asking questions about your past relationships and your dating experience. Number three, they share their relationship goals with you. They share their relationship goals with you. Number four, what did I write down? Or number four, they make small commitments with you on a regular basis. In other words, planning dates, planning activities and agreeing to do the things that you like to do as well. And lastly, that consistent communication, that consistency of making conversations a priority and not being trivial. Because those people that treated as trivial are looking at you as their beck and call girl, sorry for saying it that way, but it's not a good sign when someone isn't consistent. All right, that covers our content portion of our live stream today. If you are watching right now live, there's a chat box in the corner there. If you'd like to ask, this is time for our Q and A section. If you'd like to ask a question, write the word question, post the question there after or purchase a super sticker, super chat. There's a little dollar sign in the chat box. If you purchase a super sticker, super chat, goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Connor Asley. That's my son right there. They're right there. He's the one who passed away a few years ago in his honor. I've created a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development for those who are seeking help in this area and to donate to the personal development charities that make a big impact in the world like the Hoffman process or Insight seminars. So I highly recommend you checking them out. All right, we're gonna take questions in a second. Really quickly though, I have a personal share to share with everyone. First, I want to reach out to Lillian who sent me a Christmas gift of Godiva chocolates. I want to thank you so much for this gift. There was also a little plaque that said believe. And there was also $20 that went to the Connor Asley scholarship fund from the bottom of my heart. I want to thank you. I also want to thank all of those who commented this morning on my post regarding my father. My father, who's 96 years old fell and he's having surgery this week. And I'm a little bit scared. And I really want to thank all of you that wrote comments in the community chat box. I really appreciate that. Also want to share what happened in my most significant dating experience. I shared in a couple of previous videos how I met someone. I was very enthusiastic and excited about them. We had what I thought was a great first date. And then I got ghosted. I just flat out got ghosted. I reached out, we communicated after the date via messaging, but we couldn't get on the phone call. There was some inconsistency on her part. And then when I reached out, there wasn't a response. I reached out again, there wasn't a response. And then I did a last ditch effort of reaching out during Christmas, just simply to wish the person a very merry Christmas and no response. And I do see that they're on social media. So I don't think they're in a ditch somewhere. I can say that being ghosted can wear on a person's self-esteem. It feels like a betrayal from the perspective of the interest that was shared before we last saw each other, or at least during the last time we saw each other and even the interest afterwards, and then nothing. So let me just say this, ladies, it is very common for men to ghost and as equally as common for women to ghost, okay? And I will say that's war on me emotionally.  So I almost didn't do this live stream today. I was feeling between my father being ghosted and then this troll and a few other things. It certainly is wear on me emotionally. The reason why I'm sharing all this with you is you folks actually bring me a ton of joy. I can't begin to thank you so much for your kindness, your care, your love every time you post a comment and that content resonates with you. It brings me much joy. So I wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart. And I do this, listen, the troll made it sound like all I'm in it for the money. Folks, I recommend so many other people's content because I want to encourage personal development, self-help and spiritual work for you all because that's what I believe is the vaccination to emotional chaos. I highly recommend this book. Actually, I'm gonna recommend a new book to you all. This is from my friend, Russell Feingold. He wrote a book called Heart Wisdom, Heart Wisdom. I highly recommend checking out this book. When he wrote this book some years ago, I fell in love with it. He was nice enough to send me a signed copy. I recently got in a chat with him today or a few days ago. There's Russell's little signed copy. Heart Wisdom, I really, I really highly recommend checking this out. There's a link to all my recommended books below, but this is a great book to learn how to connect with your heart because as I shared with you a moment ago, I've suffered what feels like a lot of blows at this at Christmas time of all times. And at the same time, I know the importance to reach into my heart, have compassion for all and know that everything is happening for us and not to us. So thank you for allowing me to share. This is gonna be a short live stream today, so let's go into the Q and A. All right, oops, Anne writes.   So, okay, Anne, I'm gonna share with you a story. It reminds me of one of my first relationships after my divorce. This was about nine months after my divorce. I met a woman online and we connected on the phone and she happened to live about 40 miles from me and I drove down to where she lived for our first date. And I'll tell you what, I'll be candid with you. Our first date turned into three days in a row of three days of great sex. And by the way, this is a high powered executive, senior vice president of a pharmaceutical company. I mean, I'm not trying to differentiate. I was about to say something degrading, but I'm just gonna say this was a person who I thought was a high character. And I didn't judge the fact that we had sex on the first date and I gotta tell you the sex was great. I wanted more and I wanted more sex, okay? What's more important is not about the sex. What's more important is this person an emotional grownup. Is this person an emotional grownup? The fact of the matter is, is sex has nothing to do with emotional maturity. Emotional maturity has more to do with unresolved childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that go unresolved, which causes them to have weak relationship skills, if you're not familiar with my emotional maturity relationship skills chart, I can show you roughly about 20% of the population has, by the way, this is not a fact right here. This is my opinion, roughly has 20% clinical issues, clinical issues. Another 20% of the population might be emotionally healthy and the vast majority of dysfunctional. So having great sex the first time, I think is a great thing. I do not hold back. At least that's how I feel, don't hold back. I hopefully the guy doesn't hold back. You have great sex together.  Buy the book eight dates. Maybe you should read the book eight dates before you have that hot sex. And that might put you in a better position to know if it's worth investing in this person or not. So just as a reminder, the book eight dates before you have that hot sex with him. All right, I think it was Anne. I want to thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. And I hope that helped. Gina says, Jonathan, you rock, thank you so much. Cece says, we love you, Jonathan. Thanks for all that you do. Thanks so much. All right, I really appreciate that. Let's see what else we have. All right. Trish says, I think you're great. It takes a very brave person to share with all the things that are going on in one's life. Carolyn says, red looks good on you. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. All right, let's see. Oh, we've just gotten a super sticker. All right. Jonathan, I'm sorry to hear. I was rooting for you too. She is not your person.  Thank you for helping me on my journey. Oh, I love you, bro. Thank you so much for that super sticker. I really appreciate it. And thank you so much, folks. Listen. You know, I have to oftentimes ask myself, how can I be a good dating coach if I haven't found someone special in my life? And I recognize that this journey of, this journey we call life. This journey we call life, this journey we call life is not about finding your mate, per se. It's about finding the mate inside of you. It's about finding that person inside of you that you can love like nobody's business. And it's taken me a better part of 50 years to get to a place where I actually am starting to like and even love myself. This has not been an easy journey for myself. And what I oftentimes think I experience many of the same things you experience, especially from a woman's perspective, even though I'm a male, I feel like I experience a lot of the frustrations women experience so I can actually be a better coach. I oftentimes wonder if I attract a lot of dysfunctionality from women, if you will, and myself as well as a way to be a better coach. I'm not saying this is a fact because the reality is as we age it becomes increasingly harder to find a compatible mate where we share the same values where our lifestyles are blendable and more importantly, does this person have emotional maturity? This is why, excuse me, I'm gonna walk away from the computer for a second. Because a book fell. This is why I really recommend everybody, everybody purchase this book, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, this book, this book along with, and I highly recommend this book as well, Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. What I love about these two books it's allowed me to get really to the heart of who I am as a person. When someone asks you who are you, we oftentimes share the professional status of who we are, we might share that we're parents, we might share that we're children of parents and such like that, but who are you really as a person? That's been the journey for me using the dating dialogue to really get to understand who I am as a person. Now I don't identify with masculine or feminine energy for myself, I identify with being what I'd like to consider an awakened, evolved, conscious human being, and I feel like I'm only touching the surface of being awake, evolved, or conscious. I feel like I'm just barely touching the surface. So when someone asks me who are you, John? Jonathan, I'm a human being experiencing life I'm a spiritual being experiencing having a human experience in a very dysfunctional way. Because folks, I'm gonna say I feel like my dating habits almost feels dysfunctional. Now what I mean to say by that is I genuinely want a life mate so I genuinely make efforts. I genuinely make effort out there. I put myself on all the dating apps I reach out to people on a regular basis when I feel like there is some compatibility between the two of us. I make the effort to plan dates I go through the process of asking questions I had a time pre-qualifying questions. By the way, that's what I do as a coach so check out the link to a discovery call with me. And what's interesting is lately my intuition has been screaming at me. In fact, even that woman that I was all excited about recently my intuition said something was off because I was feeling a level anxiety between our communication and what I mean by anxiety my intuition was screaming at such a level it was creating anxiety within me because I knew something was off. Folks, in consistent coming back to the original conversation here inconsistent behavior is either the excuse of a person not ready for a relationship or it's just a demonstration that they're not on the same page as you. Let me repeat that inconsistent communication oftentimes means they're not ready for a relationship or they may not be on the same page with you. Now look, I get that people are busy. But when you're with a person that's aligned to who you are and what you want then the time you make to connect with each other will feel almost effortless if it feels like you're pulling teeth or they're trying to pull teeth to get you to communicate with them then that's usually a bad sign that there's a mismatch there. And why I share this with you is I've met some really beautiful women I've met some very kind generous loving women and yet still something didn't feel right that we weren't on the same page and what I know for myself I don't want to do is I just don't want to go down another rabbit hole with someone that it doesn't feel like we're in alignment. In fact in one of my most recent mushroom journeys and those who follow me know I do mushrooms on a regular basis the last journey what was screaming at me was the desire for resonance resonance, resonance that feeling of alignment that feeling of clicking that feeling of like we almost can finish each other's sentences now I'm not expecting this on the first, second, or third date for sake but it's just that feeling of alignment that feeling of resonance and what gets, what's the tricky part is chemistry is so deceptive chemistry is so deceptive and I am not immune to that chemistry bug and if you're familiar with my relationship iceberg you know you can see it right here it says chemistry is on the tip of the iceberg but below which above the water line is attraction and below the water line is compatibility shared values blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity emotionally mature person doesn't ghost you emotionally mature person at least if they're not interested they at least give you a good bullshit excuse why they're not interested they do the whole George Costanza it's not George Costanza it's not you it's me so I'm here to say just to come full circle on what I'm sharing here I often times question am I a good coach now thankfully I get emails after emails and phone calls after phone calls from clients who have worked with me Jonathan I met a great guy Jonathan I met a great guy Jonathan I met a great guy and they know the difference so I know I'm making a difference in other people's lives and you know what whether I meet my soulmate day after tomorrow or tomorrow let's not wait a day after tomorrow or two months from now or two years from now you know what we all have our own divine timing and that's why I highly recommend reading all these books and I recommend if you really want to connect with your heart then read the book if the Buddha dated if the Buddha dated because this throws out all the bullshit gender rhetoric dating practices and helps you connect with your heart because this isn't a masculine or feminine thing this is a heart thing because ultimately we choose relationships to feel good to feel good in our heart because most of us don't need someone from a financial perspective so let's make better choices going forward and I invite you to do the work ahead of time so you can be prepared for juicy delicious healthy happy relationship alright thank you so much for that alright we're going to take one more question Marissa says divine timing yes exactly Crystal by the way I want you to know I got your email I responded back so thank you Sherry says I believe a person who goes has immaturity emotions and is a player that is one possibility but not always some people goes because they don't feel comfortable saying no to someone alright Osho writes Jonathan the question why do I feel guilty about ending the relationship getting ready to it isn't moving forward the man lied about his civil status and has shown his personality to be called a manipulative I don't think you're feeling guilt because I can't imagine someone will feel guilty ending the relationship with someone who's manipulative and has lied to you what I think you're feeling most likely is maybe an unhealthy attachment to someone and so you're feeling love attachment and not necessarily guilt that's just and if you're not familiar with love attachment check out the book called attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller to study that but I'm not thinking I mean I know you say it's guilt but I'm going to assume it's an unhealthy attachment and you feel uncomfortable ending a relationship with someone you're attached with that's just my general consensus on that hey Jenny I want to thank you for the $19.99 Super Sticker for Connor Asley Scholarship Fund thank you so much alright Mijon says question if the new boyfriend said he wants to set the pace and rhythm of our sex that puts me more in a passive place that it isn't as sensual as I like how can we both be excited about it alright I'm a big believer in healthy communication with one another this is why I'm going to recommend two books for everybody right now two books I want you to check out this book couples communication guide to love and happiness and how to build trust in a relationship so these two books learn, communicate, folks I'm going to tell you something women believe that they're great communicators in relationships and ladies just because you have a capacity to vomit your feelings doesn't make you any better at communicating your feelings so this is a time to learn better communication skills this is why I continually recommend everybody reading the book non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg I can't, what you have to do is learn healthy communication by starting by speaking from the heart speak from the heart have deep conversations because I got to tell you what most relationships are missing today is intimacy and I don't mean the penis inside the vagina intimacy I'm talking about emotional intimacy and I highly recommend checking out this book emotional intimacy by Robert Augustus Masters Robert Augustus Masters because I got to tell you most women women have this fantasy that you're so much better at communication than men actually men tend to be good communicators when you speak to them in a logical level versus vomiting your feelings level but that doesn't necessarily mean a man's going to open up so ladies if you want a guide to become a better communicator then lead by example check out these books that I talk about so you can have this delicate conversation with them to talk about your sex life together because here the thing is look at you know that we don't have time to fuck around when you get to your 40s, 50s, 60s the days in front of us are a lot shorter than the days behind us so don't be afraid to speak your truth because you'll only scare off the wrong person and the right person leans into the conversation can I get an amen to that thank you so much for allowing me to share there my Jean I really appreciate it alright okay let's go swimming let's go swimming let's go swimming alright I'm going to save the last okay question the first person the next person that asks me if you have a personal question of Jonathan you want to ask me something personally about me post the question right now the first person and that's going to be our last question of the day so the first person that wants to ask me a personal question we're going to wrap up with that one I do want to say that Teresa says amen Jenny says amen Barry says amen me says amen so again if you have a personal question of me this will be the last one we're going to take for the evening otherwise we're going to wrap up in a few seconds so put it down let's see what you have to say by the way you can tell I'm not bashful about sharing my truth so okay Mary Ann says Jonathan I hope it's not too personal but I want to know about the yellow butterfly my friend lost a son and she associates with yellow butterflies alright folks well this relates to my son Connor who passed away so the story of the yellow butterfly so Connor passed away on July 3rd 2018 and when I came home that later that evening, late evening as I was walking into my complex and we have a beautiful waterfall and palm trees and such I saw a yellow butterfly following me I thought that was kind of interesting and just was more like a happenstance I didn't even really think about it at the time I just noticed it and then when I was leaving my complex the next morning I was walking out of the building this yellow butterfly starts following me and I'm like that's kind of weird and I never noticed yellow butterflies before and then the next day so now this is three days after he passed I'm sitting on my balcony I'm at the top floor at my complex which is about three or four stories up I think it's like five stories above sea level and this yellow butterfly is out on my balcony and I knew that was Connor speaking to me I knew it was him saying dad I'm going to be okay I'm going to be okay and ever since then I can't tell you how often I see yellow butterflies and those who know Connor know that his nickname is Salty in fact on this coffee mug you can see it says Salty right there I hope you can see that it's a salt shaker so his nickname is Salty and to me he now represents a yellow butterfly so to answer your question there Mary Ann that's where the yellow butterfly comes from and that's what is associated with Connor so thank you so much for that question I really appreciate it alright looks like we have another one here so let's see what let's see Sherry asked did you like the movie The Matrix I did my son didn't but I went ahead and watched it a few more times at home and I'm starting to get the message behind it folks I believe The Matrix is a metaphor for how we live in a simulated world we literally these days do live in a simulated world ever since we got plugged into this in fact when I did the Hoffman process they took our telephones away for eight days do you know how much quieter my life began to become when I wasn't tapped into this phone we are plugged into The Matrix this is how this phone follows me wherever I go it tracks me it tracks my voice if I'm I was talking to a friend of mine about core exercises next thing and I got advertising for core exercises for all I know the government is listening to us every minute of every second of every day it's probably watching our sleep patterns and everything else so I do believe we are trapped in a level of Matrix and that's why the movie fascinates me because I want to learn how to be Neo and how can I fly metaphorically speaking like a bird and so that's why I'm fascinated with the movie so thank you so much for asking someone asked what does a perfect first date look like you know what a perfect first date looks like it's not what it looks like it's what it feels like a perfect first date to me feels like synchronicity it feels like resonance feels like alignment it feels like this person can and I know we are talking about a first date but there just feels like this person genuinely wants to get to know me I can't tell you how many first dates I've gone where women just do talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and they're in their head they're not in their heart and they're talking about themselves incessantly a great first date for me is a woman a person who's inquisitive who asks me questions that's for me anyway because I'm vulnerable authentic and transparent so my oxygen is talking about for me, oxygen is the following I want to read this to everybody my oxygen is the following I hate small talk I want to talk about atoms, death, aliens, sex, magic, intellect the meaning of life, far away galaxies music that makes you feel different, your flaws your favorite sense, your childhood what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears, I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind, I don't know I don't want to know what's up to me that to me is a first date someone who has a curiosity of life, of human behavior and has a passion to want to discuss these things because that's my jam, that's my oxygen ah so to me a perfect date is that kind of resonance so alright thank you so much for that question and I really appreciate it alright, you know what let's go Carolyn says amen alright folks, you know what I think this would be a great place to wrap up for today I want to thank you all for allowing me to enter your life on this regular basis you have been such most of all of you except for that troll that wrote the other day have been kind, loving compassionate towards recently my father being ill or falling I should say my son who passed away you're so generous with your kindness I get letters in the mail I can't begin to thank you all so much for your love, care and support I do my best to provide you great good content at least from my perspective and I hope I'm making a difference in your life and I know it's happening because I get email after email after email and even this person that gave me these cadaiva chocolates I'm not dating right now I'm not dating right now but your channel is helping me become a better human being you're helping me connect to who I am you're helping me have a better relationship with my family and my friends and I'm so grateful that I can make a difference in anyone's life so from the bottom of my heart all I want to thank you so much for allowing me to share what brings me so much passion and joy and that's the invitation for everyone to do a deep dive into personal development, self-help and spiritual work because I believe that's a vaccination to emotional chaos when Connor passed away I wrote my book what the heck is self-love anyway it's that journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work and this is why I shared earlier I highly recommend this is my Bible The Untethered Soul Singer and then along with that I highly recommend Return to Love by Marianne Williamson these aren't books about dating or relationships these are books about having a great life you know what hurt my feelings about this troll that came in says you pander to people how can recommending books be pandering to people how can recommending books to change people's lives be pandering to try to hurt someone it fascinates me and yet I'm not surprised at how much hate there is in the world right now and I so want everyone to remember them you don't know a human being until you spend a moment in their shoes you don't know a human being until you've actually talked to them face to face and got to chance to really get to know another human being this is why it frustrates me to know and whenever I read comments that complain and bash men and I can't stand the men who complain and bash women I don't complain I'm trying to enlighten people I don't complain I'm trying to encourage people to look beyond the surface so my invitation for everyone here is to work on yourself first so you can be prepared for that juicy delicious relationship where you can do a deep dive into intimacy and I don't mean fucking I don't mean oral sex meaning talking and like I shared a moment ago my oxygen is talking and my hope is that you feel the same way alright enough babbling enough of a rant I hope you found value today thank you again so much from the bottom of my heart I want to thank Sherry Teresa, Jenny everybody Carol let's see Ann Teresa I think I said that Goldie Mary Ann I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart I'm going to wrap up as I always do this video first off giving myself a big gigantic Jonathan Barrett hug of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone a pat a teddy bear pillow or my mug and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it we could all use more love in our lives thanks so much


We're to use daily by the Federal Bureau of Investigation in solving crimes and protecting the safety of our nation and our home Okay, Tommy, this is it at least one part of it the FBI laboratory some place. All right Say what's that fellow over there doing him? Well, he's running a blood analysis Tommy. What for I'm going to hear that a hundred times this afternoon So suppose we do this let's reconstruct an imaginary crime Then as we go through the various laboratories try to work out the solution from what we see Now what sort of a story would you like to hear? Well, my daddy says that now with a war on and all Any criminal here at home is an enemy of our country your dad's right Tommy Maybe we ought to trap a couple of meterers. Oh, I knew we'd have to have at least one killing to satisfy you All right, then let's start with this blood analysis What's blood analysis have to do with solving crime? Suppose we're trying to trap a ring of big-time criminals They're stealing cattle shipping at East and selling it undercover their nationwide operators Tommy Since the FBI has ruined bank robbing and kidnapping. They've been forced to try new angles Jeepers some outfit huh quite an outfit and let's suppose that the whole thing started somewhere in Texas The sheriff has been out to one of the largest ranches in his town And them been moved on Right between the eye yep old man didn't have a chance somebody plugged him just as he opened the door any idea Who might have done it slim Saunders was around this way a couple of days ago Saunders I thought he was in prison was but he's out now Bullet went clean through the old man teller Up there on the summer airs see Shot was fired up front here should have part in the back wall There she is Steel jacket from a 2535.  Why did I want to kill the turtle you and him had words didn't you? We're sure we had words. I have words with lots of people, but I don't kill them And you're a pretty good shot, ain't you I guess I'm about as good as an X man with a rifle You always use a wind chest of 25 35 for about three years now. I ain't use nothing else Hey, how about that blood on your Levi's? It's from a wildcat. I killed about a week ago Hey, sure. Did you hear that shot? Yeah, now that that's a 25 35 or I'll eat it. Let's go have a look here boy There he is sure it's cactus Dawson wrangler for old man turtle Howdy sure what's up? Yeah, let's see a rifle cactus for sure 2535 yeah Taking in cactus. Maybe you can tell us something about the murder of old man turtle old man murdered. That's right. No What would want to do a thing like that? Slim cactus tells a pretty convincing story while your yarns pretty weak Now there was a trail of blood where old man turtle was dragged across the porch and There was blood on your Levi's. I told you a dozen times sheriff. It was it was from a wildcat. I killed about a week ago Funny it didn't have no hide in your pack I killed him because he was stalking a year later mine and not the skin and that's a proof sheriff Well, FBI settle the whole thing. I'll be here in some time today What's the FBI got to do with it? I sent your Levi's to him along with yours and cactus rifles several cartridges So you see Tommy that brings us right back to that piece of cloth you were asking about The chemist was able to tell us in a minute that the blood on Slim's Levi's was not human but wildcat Maybe so but he could I killed old man. That's right So we had to go a little further and find out which gun fired the shot How could you do that with this gadget right over here that microscope not an ordinary one It's what we call a comparison microscope. What's it do? Yeah, I put a bullet in this side another bullet in the other side Now look, uh-huh. I see him now. I turned this gadget right here What happens now? There's only one bullet. That's where you're wrong Tommy It looks like one bullet actually you're seeing half of both bullets, but both has looked the same now. You're getting it Those bullets were fired from the same gun only bullets fired in the same gun will match exactly So that's how you knew whose gun did the killin that's how of course soon as we knew we wired the sheriff All right, man, here's that telegram from the FBI Now they see what's what? mmm Stain-on-pence Murder bullet fired Well, I Guess that settles it There was wildcat blood Murder gun belongs to Cactus what's that? All right cactus. You can't prove nothing I don't have to the FBI has already done it start talking. It was self-defense sheriff. So help me it was About three days ago a couple of city fellas offered me $200 of I'd sort of keep an eye on the old man that night Just to make sure he kept to the ranch house If the old man stirred ours to give a coyote house a signal Ours is sitting in the saddle about 50 yards in front of the ranch house wasn't no moon out Turn that horse Old man was a dead shot. I know I'd have to beat him to the draw Mighty cheap killin a man for $200 cactus.  I I guess so sure and our darn well I was I got no more use for a murderer than I have for wrestlers After I lock you up cactus. I guess I better have a look Not much to go on sheriff. I don't know about that slim It's the I've been right smart interested in this year FBI For instance, the FBI man and take a close look at them tire tracks Now what kind of tracks would you say there was? Hmm wouldn't say Now if it was a cattle brand I could spot it in a minute.  What you doing there? Picking up a few pieces of glass. I wonder where that came from I wouldn't be at all surprised what it comes from a busted tail light Let's go back to town But why did the sheriff father was picking up a few little pieces of glass? Those were mighty important pieces Tommy? You see this display over here Wow Look at the headlight lenses sample from every car made Tommy You see we fit pieces of broken lenses together and compare them with these when we match them up We know the year and model of the car we're after Now let's assume that the sheriff sent us those tail light pieces We found out that they belong to a red 10 ton international even know the color all sure the paint That scraped off on the fence post you see how it all fits together Besides the sheriff had another clue the kind of tires that truck carried Now as general rule the FBI would have stopped there, but since this case were imagining looked like rustling We would have figured that the wrestlers were stealing the beef for transport to eastern states So chances are a few days later the sheriff Sheriff Cronkett, yeah, Davidson FBI Howdy young fella you find that truck kid. Yes, we did. We have a pretty good idea who made off with old man Tuttle's cattle How'd you figure that now this job was planned by a well-organized mob run by Frank O'Connell Used to be a bootlegger in the old days Now he's operating in stolen beef counterfeit and stolen ration books and bootleg alcohol What made you so sure this O'Connell was in on this wrestling business? Well, the truck was driven by one of O'Connell's triggermen Limpy Smith He and another O'Connell's rowdies drove the truck. How'd you know their fingerprints were plastered all over the cab of the truck You mean you could have found the truck that quick sure Tommy it wouldn't be much job We knew we were looking for a 1939 red 10 ton international and we knew exactly what kind of tires it had There could have been only one truck that fit in our description perfectly But how did you find the guys that drove the truck Tommy? I'm afraid you're not listening very closely Oh, I know you said their fingerprints were plastered all over the cab But how could you tell whose prints they were we would have just checked them against our fingerprint file here at FBI headquarters Till we found the ones that matched is the file very big. Hmm. I guess there must be about 91 million sets of prints on fire 91 million Cow you have to go through all of them. It's really not such a job Tommy Ever seen an old-fashioned player piano. Oh sure grandma has one. I Play it all the time. You know how the rolls are punched Uh-huh sort of like a conductor punches a train ticket only more holes So fingerprint information is punched on a card something like that, and we run them through this machine How does this thing work see all those little steel fingers? Uh-huh. All right Hey, that's right. I'm setting them to select cards punched one certain way Now I turn it on Now see see how those little steel fingers sort of feel each other How about that? It pulls the card into this little slot. That's right. Those steel fingers haven't found any holes that match The way they're set There see that they caught the little steel finger caught right in those holes now Hey, that card went into a different slide right that may be the very card. We're looking for now. We'll turn it off Yes Tommy this machine right here has sent thousands of criminals up for life Just by selecting a fingerprint card that same way Every once in a while those hoodlums probably look their fingers and say if you hadn't snitched on me I wouldn't be here. So that's how you found out who drove the rustlers truck. That's how we would have done it What happened to the cattle? Well, we'll assume that it was shipped east Of course a couple of FBI men would have followed it because we'd have known that sooner or later We'd catch the big shot. Yeah, the big shot. You said this was gonna be a big case But of course we wouldn't want to lose track of the guys who drove the truck, would we? Heck no What you reckon they would have done after that? Let's suppose they met up with two other characters who had also been mixed up in the liquor racket back in prohibition days But what would they be up to? We wouldn't know at first. We just have to wait But maybe this time local police officials would stumble on to something that would give us a clue All right, doc. What's the story? The man is employed as night watchman of the Morris building Morris building Night watchman. That's the building Anyway, this man was shot while stepping in his car after work Where was his car parked in an alley reserved for a parking space and building employees and tenants you got the slug Removed it from the man's leg. Hmm. Nickel Jagged at 22 You say the man was stuck in the inner part of his thigh. That's right Bullet took a shot downward course. Well, and the shot was fired from above Is this the kind of gun you have in mind captain yes, mr. D a it was just such a gun that fired the bullet I'll have a comparison shot made with this and you can save yourself for trouble captain That could not possibly be the gun. Oh, why not because that gun belongs to the wounded man We found it locked in the grub compartment of his car Well old man looks like we've solved our case you mean you caught the man who shot me I think so But the defense is working up a pretty strong case They're going to intimate that you might have carried a gun for your own protection. Oh, that's ridiculous You know the company forbids me to carry a gun I'd say you could have carried a gun inside your shirt and held it in place with your belt But there's proof man.  I know But fear of an investigation as to why you were carrying a concealed weapon might have kept you from circumstances of the shooting it might have yes, but Who'd believe a crazy story like that? Oh Most any jury you see a ballistics expert has proved that this is the guilty gun Oh, you see Tommy again, we turn to the comparison microscope and again the microscope found the guilty man But why would this guy have shot himself? Well, maybe the two fellows who drove the truck might have had some idea of robbing a bank So they bribed this night watchman to let them into the second floor of that building the time at first national banks on the ground floor And maybe our friend took a gun along just in case the racketeers tried to double-cross him Then he accidentally shot himself was afraid that an investigation would tie him up with the robbery So he might have tried to make out like someone else had done the shooting Cheapers crooks just don't have a chance do they I'm afraid they don't Tommy sooner or later the law always catches up with them and Tommy while it's true G men are especially trained to collect evidence and apprehend criminals even shoot it out with them when necessary There are times when these G men most depend on their ingenuity alone to crack case Well, let's bring another stolen car into our case You mean a stolen car to fit into this case where imagine absolutely Now we've traced this stolen car across a couple of state lines and we suspect that the man we want Is in a little cabin in the mountains But this time we'd have to take it easy because the regular raid would would have caused a lot of unnecessary shooting may be killing Well, that would mean we'd need a special agent who's pretty familiar with that part of the country The man who knew how to talk to people's language, so you might be able to get our man without firewood He man was strictly on his own just had to depend on plain old horse and So early one morning this G man set out alone up the steep trail that led to a lonesome dwelling Presently he came to a weather beaten shack He opened the door There inside he found an old mountaineer seated near an Asheville fireplace You're a Goldman man, ain't you?  That's right. I'm Jed's father and you ain't gonna take him. You're right. He ain't here. So I can't take him Somebody play that fiddle around here. Sure. I do myself And folks say I'm the best fitter but trick here in Asheville. You don't say I used to fiddle a little bit myself Looks like a mighty good violin Do you mind if I look at it? Sure. Pick it up Well, I'm a dog. He couldn't play that thing Yeah, that's pretty I never heard that one before Well, stringing that was the first class fiddling Maybe after a bar de vitter you play some more I never know. There was so much music in that old fiddle of four Oh Well, I gotta be getting back. How about Jed? You want him, don't you?   Noon tomorrow? Well, so long Glenn You could have nabbed him just like that Just like that taught me without firing a shot all because that g-man used plain old horse hair Besides by making friends with Jed's father. He was able to get quite a bit of information You mean you could have got the goods on the whole gang Well, maybe not the whole gang but not enough to know definitely that everything was planned by one mob The cattle rustling the attempted bank robbery everything Frank O'Connell, eh? Could have been At least we'll presume that all the men we'd watched so far had worked for O'Connell at one time Then why didn't you nab O'Connell? We hadn't completed our case Wow, this case is getting bigger and bigger For instance, we might have had to call on that gentleman over there Why, what's he doing? He's checking a clue under a comparison microscope Here, take a look at this display What are they? Hairs Tommy Hairs from different animals as well as a collection of slides showing 28 distinct shades of human hair This is known as the hair and fiber section Does it have something to do with our case? Well, let's see if it does Let's suppose that our crooks like all crooks finally ran up against the wrong man A few days later local police officials found a murder on their hands It happened in a small filling station just on the edge of town After two days of exhaustive search, the officer in charge of the investigation reported to his superior Got anything on that filling station murder, sergeant? Ah, not a clue, Captain No fingerprints, no footprints worth checking The murderer wore a rope sold sports shoes You know, apparently he just walked in, stuck a knife in the old man and cleared out No, that's fine, just dandy I reckon the old man was tied up in black market gasoline Not a chance Why just the other day he chased a fella out of his place and tried to peddle some coupons to him You say someone did try to sell him coupons? That's what I was told The old man's a stickler for honesty So he chases a guy Hey, wait a minute, why didn't I think of that before? Hello? Yes Oh, and his left hand, eh? Nothing else? Okay The coroner's office found a couple of hairs in the old man's left hand Hey, Chief, I just thought of it The old man tossed out the last guy to try to pump gas coupons on him Now, uh, suppose the same guy tried again Hey, he might have gotten pretty hot, threatened this guy And the guy had knives on him Well, it's a good guess Find who tried to sell him those gas coupons I tell you, you guys got nothing on me Oh, haven't we now? Would you be interested to know your book for murder? Fat chance Where's your proof? So it's proof you want it, Anderson Remember that filling station killing last week? What about it? Just this about it The murdered man tangled with his assailant just before he got a knife in his ribs And a couple of hairs got caught in a ring you wore on his left hand Very interesting So now you got a couple of hairs You wanted proof, Anderson You're carrying it under your hat The hairs in the hand of the murdered man match yours exactly That's what the hair and fiber section has to do with our case, Tommy What do you know? They pinned a murder rap on Anderson with just a couple of hairs Yes Matt would just about sewed up our case except for one thing What was that? O'Connell tried to drop him sight entirely How could he do that? He couldn't, but maybe he thought he could Let's suppose that he tried to dodge fingerprint identification You see, Tommy, skin corrugations on the fingers appear about three months before birth And they never vary The criminal knows this O'Connell knew it But suppose like all criminals, he tried to convince himself that in his case nature would make an exception All right, O'Connell, let's remove the bandages and have a look at those fingers Well, the sweet surprise the feds will get when they check my new fingerprints You know, O'Connell, if this works, it'll be the first time What do you mean?  Hey, Doc, look at that finger And that one I told you it wouldn't work, O'Connell Your fingerprints are coming back just as they were before I operated Even an operation didn't change his fingerprints No, Tommy Fingerprints cannot be changed Acid burns, surgery, nothing affects them for long That's why the 91 million prints that we have on file here at the FBI Are the biggest man trap ever devised Wow, what did I, O'Connell, do after that? O'Connell went back to his old hideout But we already had that spotted Then to clean up the case, of course, we would have planned to attack at night Let's imagine that shortly after midnight The lead car drew up a short distance from the hideout All right, man, you've blocked all roads There's no chance for them to escape Have you guns ready?  Well, give them a tear gas Five Here they come One, two, three, four, five, six Only six of them, Chief There should be seven Well, it's left in there Better come along All right, don't cover You want me, come and get me That's O'Connell, Chief He's upstairs That's why the gas didn't get him Give him another dose I'll bring him out That did it Here he comes Watch it His lab will try to shoot his way out All right, man Load the rest in the car What about O'Connell, Chief? Well, I think we'd better have And the morgue handle that That last blast got him You almost had me believe in you there for a while Sometimes I forgot this was just an imaginary case It wasn't as imaginary as you might think, Tommy I told you a story just to connect All the things you saw here Blood analysis The work of the hair and fiber section Ballistics Fingerprints We change names and places But in the FBI files are actual case histories Which parallel the very things I've been telling you You mean it actually could have happened?  Oh boy, I'm gonna be a G-man when I grow up Today's chapter of adventure ahead has taken you behind the scenes of the federal bureau of investigation For obvious reasons names dates and places were purely fictitious But the entire story was based on actual incidents And factual material contained in the book inside the FBI by John J. Florida Investigative techniques for those which Mr. Florida describes Which are used daily by the Department of Justice And solving crimes and safeguarding America Today's chapter and adventure ahead was adapted for radio by Howard Caraway And was directed by Joseph Mansfield Music was by Doc Whippel Adventure ahead is presented as a public service by NBC and its affiliated independent station This is the national broadcasting company


The All-AFC East team, a division absolutely plagued by Tom Brady and the Patriots for like literally 15 years. So it'll be no surprise you're gonna see a lot of Patriots players on this team. And can I just point out, am I just like not having my timelines correct or are Madden team's crazy good way sooner than usual? I feel like I'm not used to seeing 98-99 overall teams on every single game and this team is at 98 overall.  I don't know. It's like we got golden tickets already. This is our third divisional team.   I love you. Thanks for building the squad. I really appreciate you. Guys, if you have any of the five that we have not done, please show me a DM on Twitter with the screenshot of your team. That would be dope. But yeah, let's go through this team. I don't got to waste any time here. Robbie Anderson is probably one of my favorite wide receivers in this game. I don't know why he's so good. He just is. 98 speed, 99 catching. Insane round runs on everything. 98 spec catch. And he's a lot bigger than he looks. Then we got Braylon Edwards, David Boston, Gunnar Olazewski, and Andre Johnson. Our fullback is actually Gronk because he's a 96 overall fullback. I don't know why.  Half-bass is going to be Steven Jackson, the Eastern. Of course, our quarterbacks are going to be Tom Brady. That one was obvious. Matt Light, Richie Incognito. I love Richie Incognito. He has a special place in my heart from Mad Mobile 16. Kevin Malway, Shaq Mason, and Trent Brown. With Julius Thomas, gold 99 at tight end. Hunter Henry 98 and Gronk 98. The amount of gold 99s on this team is kind of scary. And then onto defense. Oh my goodness. Is this Ronnie Lott? Gold 99 Ronnie Lott on the Jets? Josh even put the Jets art on the card. I love that. Ronnie Lott 99. We got Daryl Talley. I don't know who this dude is, but hey, he's a gold 99. Vanarjic McKinney, gold 99, Sam Mills, and Kyle Van Noyne. Kyle Williams, love Kyle Williams. Marcus Stroud, Nadamakinsu. Nadamakinsu makes me sad to see that. He used to be a lion at once. In his prime, he was a lion, plus a gold 99 Brian Pool.  It's so good. Let's take a quick look at Steven Jackson's stats. I know that we have Patriots come on this team, so I think his stats are going to be kind of ridiculous. 98 speed, 99 Excel, 99 carrying, 96 truck. I'm so excited for 96 truck. And then abilities-wise, Jukebox and Bulldozer on Steven Jackson. We've got Routtek on David Boston, Gunslinger, Hot Rock Master on Brady. Then on defense, we've got a lot of Acrobats, and I think that's it as well. It's an I need overall team. I could play blind and I should have a pretty good shot of win. Why do I say that before I hop into a game? I'm going to get flooded now. Also, a huge thank you to Misen for sponsoring today's video. Misen's whole mission is to inspire and enable great cooking. I'm going to hop in the kitchen in a second and make a Papamique special. 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All right, let me see if I can get the fake. Yo, Brady's about to throw this fake. Or wait, no, does the kicker throw it? Oh, I always forget. Yup, playmaker him. Yup, dope. I haven't done that in so long. It's been like a month since I pulled that off. Okay. Well, that's a start to this video.  How did he catch that? I thought that was an interception, for sure. All right, Sam Mills. Let's go. Let's go. We know what he wants. We know what he wants. We know what he wants. Go, Sean Springs. Oh, I'm just going to blitz. I'm going to blitz. Junior say-out, Kyle Bitt. I'm blitzing Winfield, too. I'm literally blitzing everybody. Let's go. Shit. Stupid. Shit. He saw what I did. All right. That was not smart. I literally blitzed the safety in a blue. But whatever. First in 10, I could put any route on anybody, thanks to Hot Row Master. Well, pretty much. Which I usually do not have the pleasure of doing. So let's give it a go. RB Julius Thomas is going to have a day. Well, David Boston is toast his man here. That'd be cool. I don't know how he got off the edge that fast. Find him. Find him. Is he there? No. But Steven Jackson is open in the middle. What am I looking at? 3rd and 12? Let's run the exact same thing. There he is. Wait, you got to get the first. Come on. Come on. Get to the middle. Get there. Let's go. Let's go. 4 for 4, 49 yards. Tom Brady special. Is Hunter Henry going to be open? No. Oh, the loop. The looping blitz. Dude, the people who do that should get the death penalty. It's so dumb. Although, I'm going to be honest. It's really not that effective right now. It takes him so long to get there that I can just throw in the middle to my boy. Let's go. 5 for 5. I'm marching down this field. Zone alert bubble on 3rd and 1. We're going to hand this puppy off and we're going to stumble. Stumble for our first. Oh, we're giving Hunter Henry that good route. I love this route. Is it there? Oh, wait. Brady. That's not a Thomas Brady throw. I know he did not throw to my man. He just threw to the other man. All right. We're blitzing everyone again. I just got to try it again. Shit. I fell. All right. I'm going to be done doing that now. How about that? Ooh. 5 wide. I love to see that. I'm going up in Arjuk McKinney. Just look for the... Okay. He wants this. Shit. Shit. First intent. It's the two minute warning. It's going to go with a read option. How did he get around that? Stop. Bull. That needs to be a fumble 100 times out of 100. I didn't just hit him, bro. I rocked it. Okay. But Arjuk McKinney. Let's go. All right. Now we march. Now we march right back down the field. No picks. No interceptions. I'm going to hit David Boston right here. Let's go, sir David. Dude, this looping blitz is insane. Tom Brady is just too quick for him. He's going to keep loop blitzing. So I should have like infinite man coverage. Yeah, I should pretty much be able to throw that. Dude. Oh. Oh, okay. First intent. I have one time out left from the 30th field. You're not quitting. You're not. Why would you? They're steady. Oh my God. Let's go get another one. Chat. I didn't know there was a 99 shaz. Okay. What does he want? What does he want? Ooh. Another Michael Vick. This time it's a Steelers Michael Vick. He has an X factor on every single person in his office. He has a 1 AP ability on literally everybody. He's going to throw underneath here. Pop. Did he fumble? Oh. I thought it was a fumble because the play kept going. He just got hit really hard. All right. Slant. Slant mine. He drops it though. That's what I'm talking about. Let's hit our boy Steven Jackson here. Is he there? Ooh. Barely. Steven Jackson again. I will throw that route till I die. And I'm not punting. One more to Steven Jackson. That's passenger Farron. I could have just thrown Steven Jackson again. But he mean mugged me in the middle of the throw. That's so bad.  All right. First intent. Why don't we try that again? That's kind of open. Can we break a tackle? No. Laser. Laser. Damn it. I can't do anything.  I just bag fumbled like four straight plays. Slip screen maybe. No. Ooh. That would have been huge. Third and nine. I don't know what he's going to go for though. He's taking a field goal. Dude, I will say our defense has been really good. He has like zero offensive yards. So that's good news. All right. First and 10. Let's see if I can make something happen. Oh, Tom Brady with the wheels. You see those two rushing yards, baby?  Dude, that just happened. I'm still running this. Fourth and one. Shit.  That's so dumb. Why does that happen? All right. This is a big clutch time bucket right here. Fourth and six. Yes, sir. Dude, this guy has to be so mad. All right. We just keep playing good defense and keep getting lucky on offense. Should be an easy win. Dude, this dude is nasty with that spin. Yup. No way. I'm going to pick that off. Yo, that's a field goal. And then I can score and I'll be winning. Is a corner route going to be open? Dude, nothing is open like ever. Look at this. Brady with a deep laser. Dude, I thought Brady was not going to be able to put enough like, I'm fonder that. Tom Brady been in the gym, getting those curls, in the shoulder press, in that bench press. Wow.  That was a bomb. I just got to send my Blitzers and stay deep. He did what I did. He got the same touchdown that I got. What is this game, bro? Somebody at EA messed with the sliders for this game. And twice in one game. Clean. Oh, okay. We have to get down there and score. Going to give this to Stephen Jackson to hopefully pick up this first, nice and easy, clean. Second and five.  He was so open. How, how, how does the best quarterback in the game completely biff that throw? What was that? Second and 10. Okay, so. Okay. Biggest play of the game. And the angle route. Oh no, it got swatted. It got swatted down. All right, well, let's see if we can play a little defense. All right, we're getting ready for the pass. This is definitely going to be fast. Is the angle route bell. That's all I want to know. No, you did not. Oh, did he complete that? Oh my God. That was on third and seventh. No way. He's still through there. That was my opportunity for a turnover two. We have to get an interception or we lose. This is my last attempt, assuming he throws this to win this game. And that's an interception right here. I mean, it's not totally over. We feel those are making it really hard. I got karmaed. I had my garbage touchdown and he got his own. All right, we got a conserve clock and get down field fast. Let's see if we can figure out the best way to do that. Maybe Robbie Anderson could be a touchdown here. I mean, I don't really know what he's in. Oh, wait, that's a bad first. That's a good ball. Well, if I can score quickly here, then this is still a ball game. Oh, I don't know. That's animation. That animation was so wack. Just like warped him into it. We got to get back there. Get the safety. Get this. Oh, guys, are you kidding? Oh, my God. What a sell.  Actually an embarrassment. You just had a chance for a safety. We put the entire team. You couldn't stop a half back dive. That's what I get for playing with Tom Brady, bro. I've had enough. That was one of the most interesting games I've probably ever played. Although it was a tough ending. That's for sure. If you got any teams, shoot them my way in Twitter DM. So just take a screenshot of the team. And that's it. Thanks, guys. I'll see you in the next video. Peace.


I'm with the data science and machine collecting and connecting the Google Thailand. And I am Tufam. Can you turn on the mic? Okay. I'm Tufam, Google graduates, but on the cloud platform and the city of Equate. So we are an internet company working on online advertising. And we have the CPI, CPS, and CPI. We work with the Ladada, Baidu, VHG, and Combo. We have a lot of partners. So the first time we work as an advertising and affiliate company, but then suddenly we have the data. We have the question of how we can monetize the data. So we try to sell all the data on the data warehouse and find out how to bring more businesses. Like the e-doctor, like the dyno, that's the company that buy all our data. So with the data, we can run the platform for recruiting, social credit scoring, or healthcare. Clearly we run in five countries and then... I think it's like 200 terabytes right now. And with five terabytes, new raw data every day. Come from the telco, come from the mobile traffic, the internet traffic, and the social network. And the next big thing we bring to the internet is credit scoring. You may have heard about the web. They build the credit scoring for everyone or every customer using web, like web taxi. So that's what we bring. At the first one, we have the big data and with the data mining algorithm, we can use the identified and with the social user modeling. So with all the data we saw in the CIM and it's always through the advertising network and every kind of network and partner. This is a sample of my profile. So this profile, my profile is mining from the... Only from my social... It's my first. And number one, it's a political and socializing. It's only generated from my social... What I'm talking about in the internet, what my check-in, what my friend, who my friend. And here is what I love to do in my free time. So with the ranking, you can see the star, how much money I have with the star of the hotel, the coffee. And with the credit scoring, you can... You may want to... You can see that. This is a pet. You can have all the information of what you want to do if you are... If you were a bank and you have a loan application. It's fraud or not. What kind of information, what kind of data you want to do, you want to know to decide the loan application. You can see the ad, the gender, number of days, marriage status, number of subjections, number of posts, number of friends. Every kind of data may work with your data. And you can mix with the offline data. So with the offline data comes from the some kind of data you see. You can mix together the online data, the offline data to bring the scoring for every customer you want. So this is a slide that... Can you... Who familiar with the AI? Or machine learning? Only few. So I will play this video to explain. From detecting skin cancer to storing cucumbers to detecting escalators you need a repair. Machine learning has granted computers systems entirely new abilities. But how does it really work under the hood? Let's walk through a basic example. We use it as an excuse to talk about the process of getting answers from your data using machine learning. Welcome to Cloud AI Adventures. My name is Yufeng Guo. On this show we will explore the art, science, and tools of machine learning. Let's pretend that we've been asked to create a system. The answer is a question of whether to create this line or view. This question-answering system that we built is called the model. And this model is created via a process called training. Machine learning, the goal of training is to create an actor model that answers our questions correctly most of the time. But in order to train a model we need to collect data to train it. This is where we will be given. Our data will be collected from glasses of wine indeed. There are many aspects of the drinks that we can collect here. Everything from the phone to the shape of the glass. But for our purposes we will just take two simple ones. We call it as a wavelength of light and the alcohol content as a percentage. The hope is that we can split our two types of drinks along these two factors alone. We'll call these our features from now on, color and alcohol. The first step to our process will be to run out to the low grocery store by having one of your different drinks and get some equipment to do our measurements. A spectrometer for measuring the color and a hydrometer to measure the alcohol content. It appears that our grocery store has an electronics hardware section as well. Once our equipment and the foods we have are all set up it's time for our first real step to the machinery, gathering that data. This step is very important because the quality and quantity of data that you gather will directly determine how good your prediction model can be. In this case, the data we collect will be the color and alcohol content of each drink. This will yield us a table of color, alcohol content and whether it's beer or wine. This will be our training data. So, a few hours of measurements later we've gathered our training data and had a few great steps. And now it's time for our next step of our mission. Data cooperation. Where we load our data into a suitable place and prepare for use in our machinery training. We'll first put all our data together. Then, randomize the order. We would want the order of our data to affect how we learn since that's not part of the determinant whether it's beer or wine. In other words, we want to make the determination of what it is independent of what's going to come before or after it in the sequence. This is also a good time to do any pertinent visualizations of your data helping you see if there's any relevant relationships between different variables. As well as show you if there are any data imbalances. For instance, if we collected way more data once about beer than wine the model we train will be highly biased or guessing that virtually everything since it would be worth most of the time. However, in the real world the model may see beer and wine in equal which would mean that it would be guessing beer or wine half the time. We'll also need to split the data in two parts. The first part, using the training model will be the majority of our data set. The second part will be for evaluating our training model's performance. We don't want to use the same data that the model is training for evaluation since then it would just be to memorize the questions just as you wouldn't want to use the questions from your math form on math today. Sometimes the data we collected needs other points of adjusting and manipulation. Things like duplication, normalization, error direction and others. These will all happen at the data preparation set. In our case, we don't have any further data preparation needs, so let's move on forward. The next step in our workflow is choosing a model that will remain models that researchers and data scientists have created over the years. Some are very well suited for image sharing, others for sequences such as text or music, some for numerical data and others for text based data. In our case, we have just two features color and alcohol percentage. We can use a small layer model which is a fairly simple one that I don't get a job at. Now we move on to what is often considered the bulk of machine learning but changing. In this step, we will use data to incrementally improve our model's ability to predict whether a given drink is wine or beer. In some ways, this is similar to someone first learning to drive. At first, we don't know about any of the pedals, knobs and switches work or when they should be pressed or used. However, after lots of practice and correcting for the mistakes, a licensed driver emerges. Moreover, after a year of driving we become quite adept at driving. We act of driving and reacting to real-world data as adapted to drive abilities. We will do this on a much smaller scale with address. In particular, the point of our straight line is y equals nx plus b where x is the input and this is slope of the line b is the line set and y is the value of the line at that position x. The values we have available to us or trained are just n and b where the n is that slope and b is the y-intercept. There is no other way to accept the position of the line since the only other variables are x and y are output. In machine learning, there are many times since there may be many features. The collection of these values is usually formed into matrix that is denoted to w for the weight stages. And that is called the biases. The training process involves initializing some random values for w and b and attempting to predict the outputs with those values. As you might imagine, it does pretty poorly at first. But we can compare our models with the output that it should have produced and adjust the values in w and b so that we will have more accurate predictions on the next time around. So this process then repeats each iteration or cycle in the weights and biases is called one training set. So let's look at what that means when we first start the training it's like we drew a random line through the data. Then, as each set of the training progresses the line moves step by step closer to the ideal separation of the line here. Once training is complete it's time to see if the model is any good. Using evaluation, this is where that data set that we set aside earlier comes into play. The evaluation allows us to test our model against data that has never been used for training. This method allows us to see how the model may perform against data that has not yet seen. This is meant to be representative of how the model may perform in the real world. A good rule of thumb I use for a training valuation split is somewhere in the order of 80, 20, or 70, 30. Much of this depends on the size of the original source data set. If you have a lot of data perhaps you don't need a fraction for the evaluation set. Once you've done evaluation it's also that you want to see if you can further improve your training anyway. We can do this by tuning some of our parameters. There were a few that we implicitly assumed when we did our training. Now is the time to go back and test those assumptions. Try the values. One example of a parameter in two training sets during training we can actually show the data multiple times. So by doing that we will potentially lead to higher accuracy. Another parameter is the learning rate. This defines how far we shift the line during each set based on the information from the previous trains. These values all play a role in how accurate our model can become and how long the training takes. For more complex models initial conditions can play a significant role as well in determining the outcome of training. Differences can be seen depending on whether the result of training with values initialized to zeros versus some distribution of values and what that distribution is. As you can see there are many considerations at this stage of training and it's important that you define what makes a model good enough for you. Otherwise we might find ourselves tweaking parameters for a variable time. Now these parameters are typically referred to as hyper parameters. The adjustment of tuning of these hyper parameters still remains a bit more in March than in science and it's an experimental process that heavily depends on the specifics of your data set, model and training process. Once you're happy with your training and hyper parameters, guided by the data which is set, it's finally time to use your model to do something useful. Machine learning is using data to answer questions. So, for patient or inference, is that set where we finally get to answer some questions? This is the point of all this work where the value of machine learning is realized. We can finally use our model to predict whether given drink is wine or beer, given its color and alcohol percentage. The power of machine learning is that we were able to determine this and how to differentiate between wine and beer to use our model rather than using human judgment and manual rules. You can extract what the idea is presented today to other components as well with the same principles as well. Gather data, preparing that data. Choosing a model, training it and evaluating it. Doing a hyper parameter training and finally, prediction. If you're looking for more ways to play with training and parameters, check out the TensorFlow paper. It's completely browser-based machine learning sandbox. Brief? 377 machine learning. So, you may want to ask a question. If you and your competitor have the same kind of data, have the same number of data, what is different is the productivity of your data science team. So, how do you bring the productivity of your data science team? So, you must have a workflow. You must have a work process. Like three years ago, when we have small data and a complex workflow, we have a lot of people to do the management job like copy, paste, bring data. We think very easy way that puts the data in the kind of storage that our employee in. They feel easily, they feel comfortable with the kind of data. So, they put the my data in the CFP, in the in the Mongo in every kind of data storage. So, after that, here is our common task. It tries the data a lot of data while how and brings the value. But no one can bring the real value when they do a lot of ETL job that is the problem. So, we try to bring the much more process but nothing work. So, we try to redesign our flow. Here is the very first flow of our team. Remember where I save the data. It's important. Sometimes I forgot the web save the data. And use the tool, it tries the data comes from the SQL, Spark, Pandas, everything. Then download the data. We call it some security purpose. I must download the data and draw some field and send it to the data sign team with them for train the model and redeploy it. If something wrong, might just step one. That is the problem. Our productivity of data sign team very low. Our productivity, the accuracy of our model is low too. So, I realize that the maturing and processing is only the small work in the central of this picture. You need the configuration system, you need the data collection, you need the future section, you need process, you need server, you need network, you need infrastructure, monitoring, everything to bring the MVP product with the data mining, with the machining to the product competitor. So, this is what you know that when you realize that something wrong, send up and think what wrong and what you can do automatically, not manually. So, at the first time, it might slow down your company, slow down your company, but maybe in few months, it's much faster. It's much faster. And it's dry, don't repeat yourself principle. So, here is our principle to design the workflow. Simple, don't repeat yourself single-rate possibility to scale out and to keep the cost low. If you have the complex flow and you cannot split the model, you cannot keep the cost low because you must scale out everything. Here is our flow. So, at the first, we have the load balancing and then collect the raw data into the compu engine. And the compu engine converts the raw file to the packet file and upload to the cloud storage. So, that's the phrase. Our data science team can use the data lab read data from the data cloud storage and use the training model, training models and then redeploy it again. So, no one needs to have the kind of manual job again. It's the full flow of my company. So, the key of this flow is only one data warehouse. We use the cloud storage. Only the cloud storage. Here is HBIN. So, at the first, the GCP the GCP and the cloud storage and data lab and the maturity engine. You can see the list. So, I will explain step by step why we use this model why we use this kind of technology. Why not another. With load balancing and compu engine. So, what I love about the compu engine is the high performance and low cost with fast networking. You can see this feature about 100 capital network in the Google network. So, because Google have the kind of private network. So, you have very fast and reliable network. When you put your data in a lot of gerions like I have two three gerions in one in Singapore and one in US red. So, another machine can pull the data from both the Singapore and the US red to compu the data. Then we we convert the raw data to package because there is high performance query and the cell depraving. You can see it's like comparison between the CFP and the lechan. Of course it's much better. The key of this the key of performance, the key of everything is the how the engine saw the data. So, it's column so it's saw in column not the row. So, it can select what column is one like in the S-square, in the S-square, in the adibemance, if you want to select one cell data you must read to the row that saw the data then it check the cell. But in the column you only select the row, the column that saw the data only. It's much more smaller, much more faster with the row sorry you must read until to the block that saw all the information of the row. But in column you can select one column if you want to select add you get add only. It's much more smaller than this thing how we upload it to the cloud sorry because it's fast, it's cheap and it has solid class that you can see here they have four class that regional, multi-regional like near line and co-line. So, it's for the fast and for the low data like some kind of data like archive data you only need near line or co-line data for backup data but for data for serving for customer every day you need to put it into the multi-regional or regional data it's much more expensive a lot but it's fast the key of saving is to know understand the model understand the kind of service and to what we want as a company we separate the data into multiple packet and then then we store in the year split in every year then every month so we can select it easily and cheap so with data lab you can you can write start from the iPython and you can write a Python code and run and pull the data from the class or and run every kind of like scikit-learn in project it run in the computer engine too after you get the zero you can try to work you can choose the TensorFlow or scikit-learn to work with the machine learning engine to get the scale level of this then here it's too tight of machine learning and you have if you want you have your old data you want to use TensorFlow you want to use the cloud machine learning engine or you want to use the services like cloud like image like natural language processing you want to use the right side if you have the left side then here's my tip the first time you create your system principle it's much more important than coding than everything else then design the system architecture and data flow and data model and data shock first then separate the the real time and the batch job and get the cost by network instant cost by read the dashboard every day and get the metric and get the alert when something wrong a lot of company don't have the data driven culture that's the problem and sometimes they ask about why my cost so high it's not high if you if you need if you care about your data you talk about the data but you don't care about the data the platform you running that's the problem of the high cost so that is thank you