My name is Socrates. I'm a former guest speaker at the 21 convention and I currently run a blog on Relationship and Relationship skills specifically for men at manningupsmart.com my biggest Draw for myself education has been without a doubt the phenomenal success of the World Wide Web It is the end in the internet in particular is that it is a plethora. It is like multitudes of library Communities outreach programs that you're able to go to draw upon at your leisure Literally at your fingertips, and it is a resource tool that I've been able to manipulate and utilize on a regular basis for any number of educational themes ideas processes whether it's my professional development personal development social development Anything I could think of personal interests entertainment, whatever the internet has been a phenomenal resource When I was younger that wasn't around so I can remember a time period when that resource wasn't available You had things to do like for example to go to a library Physically go to a library, and then you were subject to the quality of that library the internet You have access to God knows the number of resources that that that has content available Some of it's good some of it's bad. You have to stream through you have to filter You have to hunt pack search, but the information is available, and if it's not available there I then can find other resources that may direct me and again the net can help point the way So without a shadow of a doubt then the internet has been the the single largest tool that I've been able to utilize Effectively for myself education the personal drivers have always been my my typically my mistakes My failures anytime. I've had a personal calamity I tend to learn through pain, and it's not that I am not necessarily aware of the information Sometimes I may know something in advance, but it doesn't become real to me until I can actually feel it and You know relationships are no different in particular relationship development skills were always spurned by those failures and To self-educate was one of the things that I did to help the healing process to better my life and to better myself As far as a direct response as to an initiator for education or a leading thought or philosophy I think my personal experience has been it's been very very diverse I can point to a number of role models that that I've either modeled followed respected valued and I would have directed myself towards those pursuits utilize them as as Figures that I would you know typically aspire to or guide my life Some of them are authors some of them are well-known authors and ran for example You know an objectivism is something that I found compelling May not have buy it bought into a hook line and sinker But I was inspired by a lot of the thinking of individualism the rights of individual and so forth and it created awareness On a more human level I can sit down and say friends my father The men in my life that that have been direct roles that that you have a personal connection with that have influenced you friends peer groups In interestingly enough, you know, I can sit down and say it's not necessarily someone always older in many cases And in Anthony and you in particular you're younger than I am But it's been an inspiration watching you take the 21 convention and mount that forward and it by your example It motivates you to do similar things and we Failed to recognize often that our own example is a very very powerful motor motivator for change in the world And I know I've always looked directly to others to find different elements to find inspiration to find a measure of a connection And to be inspired by that and so I look for any number ways I joke that I'm a professional thief that I constantly try to steal everything I can from everywhere But you try to make it your own And not just mimic but in many cases if you can follow in somebody else's footsteps It's a lot easier than trailblazing and it even when you are trailblazing you can use others by direct example What did they do? How were they inspired and you get to understand them in a manner? You probably wouldn't recognized and that's been kind of an interesting story when I view my early childhood development with my father My idealized version of him and then when I as a teenager start recognizing him as a man his personal failings and the failings between him and I and the growing issues that happen and of course I'm trying to self-identify and develop my own sense of identity in my own my own life And then to recognize that in a very real way He was a man and he was trying and that he may not have known But I was also realized the humanity that is in embedded with the individual And that has been a tremendous learning experience and then it's also brought me closer to him to understand Truly the man that is my father and not just this idealized self and that's that's been an immense motivator and and and something I can utilize as a touchdown for my own personal growth and It's I've always tended to use personal examples along those ways My influences on heroes and looking up to somebody have always been fairly normal And I think people do it and it's it's very common Whether we idealize them we model after them everything else But the problem when we do that is what we also come into start contrast is that they're human and in many cases that these individuals and heroes and ideal idealized figures will have very mortal human failings and you can become and Filled very betrayed by it and it's not that What they represented was a failure that the failure was was on on them But the internal betrayal that you feel is because you hinge something and pinned it to them when it wasn't meant to be And you need to seek the ideal behind the individual and not idealize the individual and that is completely different concept and I've had a number of issues where I Idealized an individual and felt very very betrayed by their their their human failings and it diminished Their message to me and it took a very long time for me to kind of process some of it and realize no there really was value in it and that the failure for myself was the Idealization of the individual not the concept of what they're representing So if we're going to idealize someone it's to clearly Disenglish the difference between what they're representing and Themselves and to clearly have that notion in mind when we do such and in that regard We can take and draw upon any number of resources individuals experience both past present and you know and in today You know and can come from peers. It can be from elders It can be from people from the past and we can draw upon those But the the danger is to idealize the individual not the symbol the concept of thieving is something I developed and stole literally When in architecture school we had a guest lecture come in and was a highlight of a lecture series the final final lecture It was the surprise lecture and was supposed to be the grand finale and it was in a very very highly trumpeted Lecture series and to our surprise Having seen a number of fairly famous recognizable and influential architects Presenting we were at really at odds with the notion of Gregory Hines being the celebrated speaker And we're walking what is this celebrated American jazz dancer going to teach architecture students about architecture and in the reality Is he didn't teach us about architecture? He taught us about creativity and inspirations of creativity and his notion was this is that he would intentionally go to amateur and Local theater to find and watch dancers move How they celebrated the art form and he would intentionally go to seek inspiration and he related that he was he would leave Disappointed if he couldn't pull something out of the performance that to have that moment of inspiration Take that one moment and then transform it and own it You know to you know in essence a friend of mine refers to it as swagger jacking You know to take someone's swagger and jacket, but it's not just mimicking and copying It's when you take ownership and you make it originally yours and that is an immense difference So when I say stealing it's it's to find inspiration in things and in modeling in ideas Whether it's a turn of a phrase or a concept or an idea and to make it originally yours And to be constantly on the lookout very much like a thief to harvest these sort of things You know and to pick the low-hanging fruit and to make new discoveries and to have inspiration and creativity in your life And that was one way in which I walk and go through and experience the world The concept of community and specifically the men's community or the the manosphere is a kind of an evolving Element there's multifaceted. It's multi-collective and it's not narrowly defined And there's a number of ways in which we can view the the idea of it But ideally it's where men are coming together to talk discuss learn develop share ideas trade ideas train utilizations cross-experiencing and To report back kind of some of the things that they're experiencing and understanding and it's a greater Worldwide kind of collective that what just really wasn't available prior before it was individual interpersonal Relationships where you might be discussed between you and your friends and that was it in this this particular notion It is a vastly greater audience of men coming together and talking about these ideas concepts and the world in which we live in My discovery the man's community was something that occurred when I was directly looking for it It was during a course of period of time that I was looking at self-discovery Reinventing myself or rediscovering myself And I wanted to go back to some of the hallmarks for my earlier life areas in which I had been successful at things That I knew that I had done to excel and I looked at those time periods in my life in which I experienced that and I asked Myself what what was taking place? What was a makeup of that and in part? It was guys that were very much interested in a common idea or a theme or an idea Whether it's sports in high school when I was competitive swimming or when I was in the army And we're training together those sort of events when I was in architecture school pursuing an architecture degree that sort of sense of community when we had a common Objective in mind. We had a common relative goal There was there was a camaraderie there and at that particular time in my life. I was completely devoid of that I was in a relatively in a new city new new experiences and the cultural Exchange was very different from what I was used to and so I literally went out looking for like-minded men In part I was looking for guys that were looking to self-develop to self-educate in relationships their lives to improve And I ended up just you know literally back in my way via the internet to the Manisphere in a number of ways through chat rooms communities groups and so forth and ended up meeting some amazing people learning developing Becoming part of different organizations and ultimately it led me to the 21 convention. I got to see its birth it's origination conception if you will and and in its evolution to this point and and Interestingly enough I've actually asked to be a speaker, which was you know a really unique opportunity for me to be a part of that I met Anthony when he was a young punk. It was it was amazing. It was a stellar Individually just he was going to stand out amongst a hundred guys. I hear you have a very very young guy Just incredibly sure of himself direct and even when he wasn't sure there was this just this Flair to him that that wasn't to be denied and and it wasn't going to be denied And but it wasn't just that cockiness and self-suredness that that resonated. He he aspired He he literally dreamed and that's where I think I've always liked that real election of as far as avatar And the name was dream is because it really did represent him and it was a reflection of him Is that he aspired for more and he was going to achieve it and you knew this was someone to watch One way or the other whether to stay out of his way to watch from the sidelines or be a part of it This one was when it was somebody to watch so I met Anthony when he was young punk And I've got to see him develop and it's been a pleasure. I found out about the 21 convention when it was Early early in the conceptual form I it was when he was batting ideas around on a Forum with the community and he was really kind of self-generating this idea and a concept and initially it was an under 21 Convention and I had absolutely no interest in it I was an older guy pushing 40 and it was geared really to the young Turks and without question Unabashedly unashamedly, but it it was fascinating to watch To see that process evolve and what Anthony has done with it and so that's when I first said so It was a really unique experience of I remember when this was absolutely a pipe dream You know, it was simply a wild hair of Anthony's ass and he took it and he ran with it Never did I expect to actually get swept up into it and be a member and active participant in it and to see how It's affected my life as well, but he has that way my experience direct experience on the 21 convention was very much the way in which I felt about the pickup community when it was at probably at The zenith when we talked about intergame you have a group of people being brought together for a similar idea and Goal to transform their lives to empower themselves to be better men to define Who and what they want to be all in one place and there was truly an energy involved And it was amazing to not only just hear the speakers But then to literally hear the discussions to be a part of the dialogue and the narrative After and in between both the events and I found it to be an immense immense experience Period where I saw it from the very very beginning it from a conceptual idea from something that I absolutely would have shunned and did And didn't want any part of wasn't going to be a part of the kind of this young Turk movement Had really no interest in something that was completely framed for to one that it's evolved into a vastly more mature open Dialogue and in direction one in which that not only did it encompass many of my own ideas and fascinations Hobbies and interests, but something that I can actually be a part of and actually I'm very proud to be a part of And it's it's interesting when you really look at the questions being posed by young men in a knowledge-based service Economy and what we expect of it's answering the fun You know helping to answer the fundamental question is what do I want to do with my life? Who do I want to become and it's serving as a platform and a springboard to help an individual formulate the ideas Concepts and awareness and to be able to project that and make that decision for that individual and we typically don't see that anywhere else So I've seen it evolve from within the community I've seen it take the best of the community and I'm seeing it evolve in a manner in which the community refuses to do and For that I think it's been absolutely stellar and I applaud Anthony and his his efforts and the success of the 21 convention My ideas of the 21 convention going global was kind of a surprise I Didn't anticipate it one for it to succeed not that I was rooting for it not to succeed But you kind of take this wild idea notion most ideas kind of fizzle this didn't and I don't know Maybe that was my self-limiting belief is that I didn't expect it to go beyond just a local event to all of a sudden become A dominant US event let alone it going global, but that's a reflection of Anthony My future projections for this is not really it going global I thoroughly expect at some time in the future when we have space tourism one of the first companies that will be doing this We will have an event of the 21 convention in space I have no doubt because no one's done it Anthony's gonna go there I have that is now my firm believe having witnesses from the very conception and if you ask me Where's this gonna go? I think it's gonna take it beyond this plane 21 convention being idealistic is one that it gives direction and also a kind of an end end goal as far as what it's trying To aspire to be in a very quick sound bike. You know, it's a calling card. It's a label It's something to reference immediately and the notion of becoming an idealized man or idealized self Is one that addresses kind of a fundamental question of this age for men that are actually developing in a knowledge-based service economy, you know, where you have this delayed adult Onset taking place because of you know, you have to require skills You have to require the experience that goes with those skills And it's not as simple as what my grandfather faced of picking up a drill and marching into a mine You know, you have to become aware you have to become a developed and as we become more knowledgeable The demands are placed are higher on us and the end in that plays out And so when you have this idea of what do I want to do with my life? What do I want to become? Who do I want to be? The 21 convention can address some of that it becomes a platform It's telling you very clearly and succinctly what it wants to become and this notion to motivate To aspire to become the best individual art the idealized self the idealized man is one that's Immensely noble because it's not about being a superior individual to an at someone else It's about being a superior to your former self and that is the essence of a noble ideal and to be a noble Individual and it's one in which you can to aspire to be and to seek to be a better person The relationship you have with yourself is going to be a critical one because it's going to be at the foundation for which You project everything in your life. It will literally determine your expectations for yourself for your life The people in them the relationships you have whether it's work whether it's interpersonal whether it's familiar It's all going to be rejected, you know projected based on your concept of yourself and how you treat yourself and the healthier you are with your yourself the higher probability of you entering into a healthy relationship that the The important element is this is that a healthy person will actually avoid an unhealthy one an Unhealthy one is going to not going to avoid an unhealthy relationship And they will actually try to find and replicate an unhealthy one as it's a historical pattern We see in psychological studies again and again which socialization where people meet their expectations And if you have low expectations for yourself, you're not going to achieve greatness one of the most fascinating concepts with Observing the transformation of the pickup community or the men's community and the Manifest fear is that these these notions of idea waves as they come across into the community and they generate out And one of the most important ones that I've always felt was this idea of intergame This this this notion of your relationship with yourself and how Important it is to start and establish that and when the the community had really first started to embrace that and that Upswell and that knowledge and awareness was cross-ended to a number of individuals very rapidly I think is when the community was absolutely at its at its healthiest and it was probably one of the its finer moments in time Unfortunately that idea faded out as something else came along because sex sells, you know Whether it was the idea of going direct or this idea of the claw or cave manning or any of these other things You know the the quick idea and the quick sell of sex Upsurped this this long drawn-out idea of self-discovery self-improvement and this notion of developing a relationship with yourself But for me the highlight of the community was when the the notion of intergame was a paramount and a Singular focus within the community and it was a large proponent of why I stayed in and the Healthiest part for me for the community the thing that I pulled out of it my discovery of sales type tactics within the community as Related to relationships was not necessarily really a sales thing.  You have to close the deal You have to get the girl first off, but once you get the girl You know having a sales mentality constantly in a relationship isn't going to work You know she's already bought into the goods It's more of establishing marketing and branding type elements as a notion And I've really learned to foster and develop that sort of awareness as it pertains to relationships rather than a sales type thing Establishing your sense and identity as a man, you know equivalent of a brand What is that brand and at every point of contact or sales, you know when you have decisions being made choices are being made What are you consistently projecting and are you establishing a baseline set of behaviors that she can rely on that other people can rely on And you do that within relationships, you know, what's your relationship as a friend? You know, what are you bringing to the table and when we talk about marketing?   It's essentially a commodities marketplace, you know How are you taking yourself and this notion of you as both a product and a service provider and putting that in the dating world? You know, do you know how to properly market yourself? Are you going to the right environments?  You're probably not gonna find her in a strip club. You know, are you marketing the right areas? You know, are you going to pick up bars? Are you going to cocktail places trying to find somebody who's gonna be a homebody? You know, the the area in the market in which you choose to to look for somebody will you know affect your results?  You have to know yourself You have to know what you're looking for to be able to market and to find what you want and if you don't have those skills You're you know, you're subject to you know Serendipity and that's typically not a successful strategy My personal belief in the sales closing element of pickup and my philosophy of relationships is that the sales pickup is just a small portion of an overall process You know, the closing sales part is just to get an action to to get the girl to start the relationship But and that's typically where the pickup community completely stops They don't carry it forward and matter of fact They'll actually promote the notion of not doing so of washing rinsing and repeating in in my approach You you develop those skills you utilize those skills and you implement the skills But then you deal with the branding marketing and customer relationship process of Continuing that relationship to continue to make additional sales with the same buyer You're essentially developing customer relationships and in ultimately it is a relationship You have access to greater resources It the sales become easier you're able to replicate develop And and it becomes the established sales funnel is it's easiest to to to win the client again And it's vastly easier but it's a different challenge and there are different elements to that and you need to have Relationship skills if you're going to have a relationship whether it's an interpersonal relationship whether it's a customer relationship winning the client again is Proven to be more beneficial than to continually to wash rinse and repeat on clothes in a simple sale my perspective of Seeing the Manusphere evolve has been a fairly unique one I've been able to witness it directly from when it was a very much an underground hidden Facility for men to come together to share ideas and develop themselves their skills the relationships Any any of these elements together in the community or went on the net in particular From a very shamed type based idea to something that has evolved to become something more mainstream that you see Not only in mainstream media in stories and reports and interviews and books and so forth But you're actually seeing it evolve into higher education facilities and education itself Which I find to be very very beneficial and in a very positive set forward From the standpoint that it is a travesty that male issues male culture and education is not being paired Gendered equitably with women 10 years ago You would never find a male center at a university even though you find a complete department on women's studies Today, that's not true. You've now start to see male centers on campus not necessarily full-on Departments for study, but you also start to see classes being taught on theories of masculinity and Other type courses and so that there's this emerging idea of the necessity to teach the idea of male culture male gender studies and and to promote the idea of healthy fostered Relationships because when we don't we see these things played out in a number of ways The most predominantly is the number of failed marriages on the high percentage of failed or high high percentage of divorce rates and the fallout from that Whether it's the failed marriage failed families broken relationships broken family structures and that plays out and that gets passed on Generationally into the children So I will see hopefully see the day or at least my grandchildren will see the day that we will actually be able to have Gendered studies equally taught at universities that being a man will be accepted as part something that would be a healthy role of Relationships and integral part to marriage. Currently. I don't think we live in that world the idea of Self-awareness and self-development outside of the pickup community is is one that gets attention But I think it's also one it gets negative attention For example when we talk about a young man developing or a young boy developing into a man, you know The notion is you know, for example is your is your son to being too much of a little boy Medicaid him, you know, and these notions of developing a Healthy sense of what it is to be a man to develop is not necessarily reflected positively in our society And it's an unhealthy one and it there are consequences when we don't develop Healthy men in our societies in many instances, for example, we diminish and we we devalue the notion of masculinity masculinity when in fact it is essential to a healthy bond to essential to a healthy relationship and when we ignore one Gender we all are affected my observation of how the man is evolving to meet the challenges of feminism and the out the Childbirth social programs that that become it is that as a decent guy You no longer can be the white knight and play the nice guy role Because what we realize is if you want a particular woman, you can't be doing it She's not responding to that and when you watch you sit down and say if I aspire to a particular woman One of the first things you're gonna do it is observe is who's the guy? She's dating who's the guy?  It is gonna be the really aggressive dominant male Okay, the guy who's gonna dump you know pumper and dump her and leave her and what you learn is that's a guy She's choosing it's not necessarily who she ultimately wants, but that's what she's choosing and so the the pick-up community The the the manuscript in many ways are responding directly to the field environment And that's terribly unhealthy and when we talk about sexual freedom. We're really not talking about freedom We're talking about anarchy, you know You don't know what the dating world is like anymore the rules of the road have been it you know for all practical Purpose is thrown out, you know, and you have a wide variety of activity dating is no longer an ends to a means You don't know what it means You don't know what the rules of behavior of cultural acceptability are and and I'm seeing the man is fear play that out And as we evolve women literally are getting the men that they are choosing and that's not really a healthy thing It's not what they want I find it very interesting that feminism and girl power are Are literally failing to get what they want, you know And it's providing them everything that they they're they're not expecting it's they're creating it But at the same time it's not giving them the men that they need that and ultimately what they desire is a man to be able to Hold them and they're not promoting that a Particular note that I have concern about is is not the perception that feminism is good or bad What I have a problem with is that the third-generational wave of feminism is something I very much I'm opposed to in many ways the first wave of a woman's suffrage for example I think was very beneficial brought many things forward the second wave of feminism the one that we recognized from the 1960s in many ways has vastly changed our world for the better the notion that you could actually take a job Because you want to enjoy it you find it fulfilling has actually enabled not only women to succeed But for men to be able to choose a course other than the one that they typically would be assigned by a gender role I think that's been a very beneficial Positive set forth. I would also sit down and say that there have been some negatives that have fallen out of it hookup Culture is is one of them the whole notion of the Catharsis to this is is a pickup culture is spawning off directly because of the relation with the second wave of feminism Third wave of feminism is more about supplicating men's desires to the women feminine nature In and it is something that is no longer about just equal rights and equal status It is about superiority and it's being pushed And I find number of issues along those lines to be terribly unhealthy for not only an individual but for society at a whole Mentioned earlier this idea of third wave of feminism and when we look at it feminism isn't just one Continuous idea notion being brought forward through society There have been three typically distinct and separable ideas and time frames in which they have existed The first phase was simply women's suffrage when women literally were trying to actively get the same rights as Citizens period and it's something that we typically take for face value, so we don't even recognize it today Then the second wave typically occurred during the early 60s transformed through the 70s in which we actually start to see equal rights Equal pay for equal work so forth and that is again something that had brought massive changes within our society both Pro and con the third wave is something very distinct It's it's coming from a multiple different directions and really typically has been taking a typical Form but it's generated by the phrase, you know, for example girl power or female Empowerment, but it's not just empowering women. It's empowering women beyond Gender equality. It's now about supplanting male supremacy. It's about rectifying pass right wrongs through through further wrongs And what we have is a complete alienation of men the complete alienation of Masculinity within relationship structures, you know It's not enough that men are just disposable at this point We're actually at a point in time in which men aren't even necessary We're at a point in which science can actually create out of a stem cell sperm a man's not even needed Even for the the act of procreation and sperm generation You no longer even have to be the sperm donor sperm can be created and thus men are completely Oral of them from the equation Unfortunately Feminism and girl power hasn't been able to they've gotten what they've wanted and and and they've created a world in which I think that they've gone very much astray and it still hasn't answered the real question of being able to have the types of men The types of relationships that they clearly honestly want and feminism isn't answering it It's leading many women astray. It's leading men astray and we're seeing it in rising and rising divorce rates And the catastrophic results that we see across our nation On a very basic level when you sit down and say as your child develops when they don't have a two parent Household or family nuclear family You don't have the role models from the very beginning that Relationships are stable and they will last because your reality is they don't and that starts to play off You also have this this father avoidance element that men are are They're they're simply not needed. They're inconsequential and I think there are immense dangers in society when we tell one gender You're inconsequential It might might take on the rise of the divorce rates and the failures of marriage and how that plays out in the travesty of You know, it's the the the ugliness and the damage that's done to lives families children and how that gets you know Rippled out throughout throughout the future It came about in a number of ways, you know, the the running joke is that it's the four horsemen of the apocalypse You know, you we can sit down and say it was the ease of of contraception and availability of contraception allowed women to respond to the hypergamious impulses the desire to sexually marry up or to better themselves to seek the bigger and better deal and in a very real way it freed them to do that sexually and in it allowed a freedom To take place that it becomes very sexually driven and to not have necessarily the ramifications of a poor choice You know in a past time The second is the massive transformation of the family law structure Is that quite frankly you're you're equal in marriage until divorce, you know And then the laws change that are so feminine weighted that it's not even funny It destroys the incentives for men to actually enter into marriage So you're stripping the incentives the a third one is going to be kind of also another unique one Is that you talk about the knowledge and service-based economy that you know, we talk about culture is one that's devaluing Making men basically irrelevant to the equation and and society and culture or drive-in is you know We can't just reflect, you know to sit down and say Take it as it is, you know and man up, you know It's a phrase I absolutely loathe and it's one of the things that I had responded to naming of my blog Is to do it smartly because it wasn't something I I sit down and say the objective isn't what I find offensive It's the manner in which they're telling men to do it So I see a lot of these things as being major social structural elements that have changed The incentive has changed the structure and has changed the course of men making responsible decisions and being you know being Driven towards marriage and they're they're not healthy When we talk about family law and its impact on marriage It's it's it's one of the prime drivers for the incentive for men to enter relationships And when you strip the incentives away, you know, for example when your rights are stripped out of a marriage You know that that women typically initiate divorce 70% of the time. It's completely Disproportionate and it fuels incentive for divorce because what happens is that women have immediate rights to the child You know because of this this notion of the the feminine supreme being as being the holistic of the mother But no rights given to the father, you know that that you're equal in marriage, but unequal in divorce You know and when we talk specifics about family law, they're immense because there are many different facets We can take you know when we talk alimony, you know Men cannot necessarily be seen as taken alimony as as appropriate and very few men do but consequently typically most women are actually supported and enabled by society for doing it and the the notion of gender inequality in family law is immense and If you're going to change and preserve the institution of marriage and celebrate it and hold it in regard I think you really have to address this notion of gender equality within family law You know for example, if you want to get away from this notion of alimony and have equality is make women pay for it You know we we for example in this nation We imprison and incarcerate 58,000 men in prisons for failure to pay Alimony or child support doesn't matter because if they have an inability to it But we have no jails holding women for the same account and yet we know they tend to be a greater offender in Failure to pay child support. That is not something politically correct You would be shamed in even bringing the subject up in effect. It's debtor prison for men We're incapable of providing for their children, but we don't hold another the other gender accountable The reality is that we're not probably not going to affect Case law we're not going to affect civil law as far as regard regarding marriage But what we can do is start promoting marriage We can start promoting the values conditions and terms in which we engage in these relationships and specifically For example women are have been well celebrated for being gatekeepers of sex and they've failed Miserably they've developed a pump and dump culture. They've developed hookup culture as men our role is commitment We control the commitment women control sex men can control commitment We need to start recognizing that we are gatekeepers for this We are the gatekeepers for marriage We are gatekeepers for these long-term investments of our children as such We need to be making better decisions more informed decisions and taking action and addressing these issues openly when you see miz and andric behavior mizundry is the the antithesis of Misogyny it's when women act aggressively in a negative tone towards your gender Inappropriately you need to voice it. We need to become active. We cannot be passive players in this world stage You have to address it and when you see a quality woman respect that woman demand these things out of them You get the woman you sleep with or let me rephrase it in a different way women get the men they sleep with Men get the woman they commit to The notion of a psychological mirror is a concept that kind of goes back to the beginnings of the founding fathers of Psychology Carl young and Freud and they were the first ones kind of to start the notion and branched out in a number of ways and when we look at the notion of utilizing a psychological mirror in relation to a relationship is that we're trying to choose a Way in which we can view ourselves And we can see it based on our the decisions we make and because they're value-based You're having to make a choice and when we look at our partners We can discover a number of things that we value the choice of our partners who she is why she is what type of person She is why am I attracted to it? What are the things that I'm getting out of the relationship? What are my needs that are being fulfilled by having this relationship if I look and Analyze these I can start to understand myself in a much greater way a lot of cases. It's dependency needs You know, what do I need things that I have to you know, whether it's this sense of security warmth being loved so forth and For example a lot of guys go out and try to get laid because they need a sense of validation Understanding what's driving that behavior can actually help the individual grow because clearly, you know We don't want to be using relationships just to fulfill these dependency needs and because it's it's an addiction You know, and it's an unhealthy one and it's why we have these, you know You know, for example serial monogamy is an outreach of these We have people that have dependency needs that are trying to find and discover themselves and grow by utilizing the safety and security of a Relationship to discover it and people get hurt people get damaged by this and and done a number of times it becomes your personal narrative We can also look at relationships to find out what our developmental tasks are, you know What are the next what's the next thing I need to learn in life to progress and obviously in in when you look at Failing relationships. It's a note. It's a conflict point, but it's an area where you're not adequate You know your skills your development aren't adequate to overcome this and it's in jeopardy And we can either choose to look at these moments in time and learn from them and to direct our energies to modify that behavior Or that condition or to prevent those from ever occurring and learn but if you're cognizant of it we can slowly look at our lives and the choices and decisions we make and To see ourselves better in many cases We can actually see what our next developmental task is before we even come come across it and that is probably the most proactive thing we can do is to Anticipate what our developmental tasks are work at them So they don't ever become an issue and that is the importance of actually learning relationship develop Relationship skills is that they teach a lot of these things they avoid these common pitfalls that mankind has made through millennia You know these aren't necessarily new Obviously societies change people change you have different influences But the common pitfalls typically are always there and we can learn to avoid them thus we can improve the qualities of our lives My concept of relationships as being investments I guess might take on it is not necessarily an investment because clearly it is But I think it's more than that A relationship is a partnership in life You're taking someone on to be literally a partner in your life objectives Whatever they need to be you know or want to be and hopefully they're parallel And and that you have the same life objectives if you don't there's gonna be something wrong And and the relationship is not gonna work out because you don't have necessarily the same Objectives in life and that's that's something you should be screening and filtering directly for but I see it as a partnership not just a partnership But one in which you're bound to because you want to be it's a choice And I think people choose marriage and relationships in a very frivolous careless manner Typically based on attraction an emotional dependency need maybe a developmental task that they have this notion that There's something wrong that they need to be fulfilled by Jerry McGuire kind of coined it in the popular notion of you complete me Would be a sign if somebody has a developmental task or a dependency need that's not fulfilled And then you look for somebody else to fulfill that and they invest in this individual and they become wrapped up into that That's not gonna be a healthy relationship But the the notion of being able to carry that forward choosing the right partner is absolutely an investment into your life and The success happiness fulfillment of your life will be directly related to the quality of choices You make and clearly the choice of a relationship and the quality of that relationship will determine the quality of your life one of the core Relationship elements that you have to have and it'll be it'll be primarily to And it doesn't matter what relationship we talk about Whether it's an interpersonal relationship with a friend with a lover and and I'll leave I'll even say with yourself Fundamentally if you're gonna have a friendship or or any sort of relationship You're gonna have to have trust and respect if you don't have those two things You really don't have a healthy relationship and it starts with you If you don't have the ability to trust and to respect yourself no matter what you do how hard you try You're gonna have an unhealthy relationship, but you because ultimately you yourself are unhealthy You know with your own notion of yourself, and if you can't trust and respect yourself, you don't have anything the least of a relationship Specifics when we talk about trust and respect Transcend friendship boundaries to interpersonal, you know intimate relationships because In a number of significant ways because they they truly are more intimate. They're vastly more personal you share You're exposing you're having to open yourself up more fully to those relationships They're gonna be more of where who you really are deep down and that's gonna be reflected and seen and projected out into the relationship And when we talk about these sort of things one of the key is gonna be boundary issues You know if you don't have proper boundaries or or establish boundaries if you have collapsed boundaries Or you don't even are even aware of what those are you're gonna have a lot of problems and in any relationship There are gonna be certain amount of boundaries respecting them establishing them respecting other people's boundaries realizing Other people have them and these transcend obviously when you're dealing with somebody on a more intimate level they're gonna be vastly more acute and any problems you have are gonna be again vastly more acute both positive and negatively and The notion of a relationship is that you're opening yourself up.  I think it's an incredible one If you don't do it, you're not gonna grow if you don't put value back into yourself primarily You're not gonna grow. You're not gonna experience the things and grow from them. You're gonna be a set product You're gonna be stagnant and I think it's it's probably not just an unhealthy element not to do I think it's highly toxic is that if you don't do this you're gonna be not only You're emotionally stunted you're developmentally stunted and we know you have a particular life trajectory You know as a man, I can project certain elements are gonna happen in my life over a certain span I will age my body will do things differently And I have a finite time to improve myself to be where I want to be at a particular time Investing in any sort anything whether it's a business a trade or anything Getting the tools and resources available to do the job necessarily help you out and if it's personal development, you know in your life the most important thing that's gonna ever exist will be you You know for it for yourself Investing wholly into that is an idealized self, you know And how do you achieve that and it's gonna be one of the wonder questions of this age What do you do with your life? You know and we have we don't we've we're living in an age when you can actually Ask yourself that question, you know at no other time in human history have men been able to ask himself that Fundamental question what do you want to do with your life? And then have the resources at hand to be able to have that life to pursue that life and have the liberty to do it It's it's incredibly mind-boggling and it's it's a it's a heady question I think it reflects of one of the things of our days in our age that we live in is that young men are Having to discover that for themselves in this kind of knowledge-based service Economy that we have and it it delays this idea of onset, you know becoming an adult and It's it's fascinating to me that we have these opportunities And we know that we're gonna be responsible for leading Relationships and leading our lives, but we're not giving men the opportunity to learn and to develop and to foster these skills I see the role of honesty being Within relationships being a linchpin to trust and respect because without it you can't develop that those two elements You you can't be honest where you fear to offend And you can't respect an individual that actually deceives you on a regular basis, you know And that's just a founding element and if you don't have these elements You don't have a relationship But the same time in a relationship You have to have that measured response of care and consideration and that is something it's it's not necessarily a Blanket policy issue of initially for me to sit down and say you have to be absolutely honest But it needs to be discussed it needs to be communicated and that is another, you know vital absolutely vital communication skill is is that I blew the answer but the the Notion of communication being an essential relationship skill is you need to be able to communicate these things within a relationship And that also fosters a degree of trust honesty and respect is that when you can be honest and be truthful And yet still be respectful in and consider the individual and how you care and hold that Individual went in a manner in which they're regarded is you know really truly the underpinnings of a relationship The idea of honesty in an intimate relationship is obviously it is going to be a more intimate raw Exposed, you know a completely naked Vulnerable element of your psyche your awareness your sense of self will be exposed You know you can put up a social front publicly, but in a relationship that that public facade is stripped away they're going to get to know you and there will be this raw vulnerability that that you expose yourself in a healthy relationship and You can tell when a relationship starting not to be in a healthy level when it's starting to be in an inflection point Into an unhealthy nature is when that honesty is evaporating when that honesty has been Transgressed when there's been a violation of trust Respect and you don't have that open dialogue that sense of communication no matter what form it takes is is stripped away My concept of the screaming narrative is the personal story that one projects out into life It's it's what can be seen and derived from watching and observing somebody It's their body body behaviors the body communications How they regard themselves the choices of clothing the style of clothing all these things start to tell a story And these stories are self-projected the individuals choosing these sort of elements Because this idea of self identity self-created they themselves have created a man in which they are living to project themselves And it is that story in most cases when I talk about interpersonal relationships I talk about and I warn men about a woman's screaming narrative and in many instances a woman who projects herself as a wild And crazy woman is doing this intentionally. She's setting things up to develop a life and life expectations of you for her and you can expect a woman who's going wild and crazy and living sort of that life to all of a sudden be in a home body and a quality relationship and so men typically are Responding to women based on attraction triggers. They're not watching the story. She's projecting Is this an individual for a viable healthy relationship in most cases?  They don't stop and ask themselves these questions and that's when I talk about the screaming narrative What's the personal story that this individual projecting? We don't even listen to the one that's screaming in the room, you know, let alone the subtle one, you know And the when you get into a Interpersonal intimate relationship, you'll actually get to know the subtle stories, but often we even ignore that the screaming From a personal perspective, I can relate a particular story when I talk about not seeing the Screaming narrative. There was a woman. I chose a relationship developed a tight bond with her projected my life Our lives got tied up together literally the house in which we're filming in is a part of that and in there were devastating Consequences for that failed relationship and and I was immensely hurt There were financial damages and it just it's so Travis the full-on calamity But there was a time period when I was out with a friend and we came across her at a bar And she presents herself and she's wearing a little halter top Express intersexuality throwing it completely out there And what was interesting was that she actually had on the embossed honor halter top a logo of a bad kitty and this is the notion that she was actually projecting that and My partner turned to me and kind of in a very sincere way But in a very direct way sat and said by the way, there's your sign, you know, and in many ways I Had refused to see her screaming narrative You know that idea that she's a wild child and there was no tame in her Okay, I Refused to listen to what she was telling the world and the results that stemmed from that was I didn't listen and Everything else was a consequence of it and men need to pick up on similar things that women are projecting If she constantly sits on as an admirable trait that she says I'm sarcastic These are not necessarily things that you want to partner yourself up with, you know When was the last time you tried to have a serious conversation with somebody that was constantly being sarcastic, you know Are these traits there something is she looking for in the similar is is you know, is it fair to be on the other side?  How many differing focusing of different ideas is someone aware and are they able to implement that awareness that experience and knowledge appropriately to fulfill a better healthy life to develop a to further relationship along in their life objectives and are they able to maintain that with another individual and that is a very Very complex notion and set of skills to develop Knowledge-based to become aware of and to not only just comprehend but to kind of relatively master and get right And it's very difficult when you're younger when you're it being inundated from any number of directions about ideas of life concept of self Relationship patterns in the in your just sheer lack of experience and so I would take the notion that Typically that you're gonna have a vastly more mature life and in relationship much further on in life than you will Early on it'll be fairly rare to find a mature developed relationship Fairly early on but it's going to be essential to actually have those skills in place to develop one healthily My belief on relationships is that they're not Static that they evolve and they have the potential to evolve in any direction and in any shape You can take an unhealthy relationship And it could evolve into a healthy one with the care consideration direction leadership any any number of Skills and attribute, but it's gonna have to be Compatible with two parties the same can be true for example also with a healthy relationship that can deteriorate into an unhealthy one So I don't necessarily would sit down and view somebody that's unhealthy as always having an unhealthy relationship But the notion is is that they're probably likely for success will be determined based on their state of health and the relationship with themselves Then the relationship with their partner the healthier it is the more beneficial and the higher probability of success and happiness Obviously would be would befall that When I spoke about the hallmark of suffering being resistant reality is that reality Exists and can't typically be changed and you can struggle against it You can fight against it, but you're taking on a feudal effort It's it's a fool's errand, but it's one that's going to be fraught with anxiety Frustrations pain and it's not going to affect a change And that's when I talk about you know it being a hallmark of suffering is that you're choosing to actually Do this knowingly when you fight reality the the more appropriate thing to do is to recognize reality and Let it in because that's simply all we can do we can't necessarily change reality It's going to exist and often we struggle against reality when it's easier and more appropriate to make room for it And now there are skills that you need to do to develop that Methodologies and so forth and practices and philosophies for doing it, but the easiest solution is to make room for it The future 21 convention that I'll be speaking I to be really honest I have not formulated the actual talk or speech But you know when we talk about this idea of becoming an idealized self in my particular interest and focus has been Relationships and will continue as being why I'm being asked to speak We'll probably center around those two concept of becoming not only just an idealized individual But an idealized relationship and becoming an idealized candidate for the idealized Relationship and it can take on any number of forms that you decide you determine And that's probably the direction in which I'll be taking that that speech and we'll be directing come come August if there was one thing I would express to an individual watching this or hearing my voice and For them to talk and or to take away from would be the notion is that your your life is finite You know and live accordingly You know make up your mind look do the research find out who you want to be direct your life towards those goals Don't waste your life just floating along Don't don't let this time and opportunity pass you by reach out for those resources reach out for like-minded individuals Share those ideas become an act of participant in your life and act on it live life Hey guys, thanks for watching really enjoyed the interview I hope you come see me at the 21 convention and please when you do come see me Tell me about your stories tell me about your experiences and definitely bring your questions I'd love to be able to elaborate and continue this conversation directly with you You can find me there or you can address me and it and contact me through my blog at manningupsmart.com Take care


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Everybody forest one ripping 2023 2023 top series one baseball jumbo six box case number one random team style You can find the results anytime elite sports cards calm. Let's go ahead and get started Good luck y'all series one is here. There's a link in chat Real quickly before we get started everything is gonna shift But all base cards gonna be split even between all spots including rookie base just FYI all Random you will get all inserts hits For your team any numbered cards as well any parallels Here we go. Good luck y'all I'm gonna need some because this case is like Series one is here Let's pull something. Let's pull a monster. Let's pull the one-on-one. Let's pull a cut auto series one Box topper of a Kunya Ronald Acuna silver packs. Here we go y'all So, yeah, we'll kind of go through the the base pretty quickly and all key rookies a good top. What everything is gonna be Spit out random Bobby would junior on the rainbow foil Nestor Cortez in the blue 88 rookie auto Travis Swaggerty Pirates Future stars rookie auto Travis Swaggerty 26 of 199 already Freeman Kibri and I'll give you a stack of like Base that split and base that needs to be sorted or like in sense inserts need to be sorted basically Ryan Hayes gold foil It's a 50 Hasu Sanchez Marlin's father's day Yeah, Boston Luis Garcia rainbow foil Jose Ramirez home run challenge the Guardians to 499 a Cubs green foil board Cubs team card Pedro Martinez aces those are cool all aces Ezekiel Duran on the 88 Boom Max Kepler gold foil Bueller and Urias Abby base there They have a good one man Tanner rainy rainbow foil 1099 a Donnie Jimenez some vintage stock It's a 99 real one. I think it's gonna be called Cheeshy over here. Yeah vintage talk to 99 Jimenez Luis Castillo all aces Votto on the 88 Randall Gritchick rainbow foil to 199 is a red foil board of Tough as nails To Guardians foil board to 199 Nailer Luis Robert manufactured patch City Connect White Sox is pretty cool Brett Beatty rookie and sir Akunya You on the Ron gold foil Mullins welcome to the club Bray you David McKinney rainbow foil rookie rainbow foil Jersey card Aronato Here we go black parallel to 199 cardinals All aces McClanahan Sonny Gray 88 a couple more base packs here. So have the silvers to Gold foil of Adrienne Houser to 499 Gabriel Moreno green foil rookie. There you go blue jays nice Moreno B-backs now I believe Christopher Morell Tell Marta gold foil. So 76 is a Ryan Presley independence day parallel for the Astros Cena and Clemens KB. I'll do the base packs box one So I would just have different bins for one. Yep all split She like put that like the hands or whatever All right All right our silver packs here got Devers Jayrod The over piguero rookie for the Pirates and a Cal Ripken jr. All righty Bregman Taryn Vava rookie Shrout and Nick Proto rookie auto 106 to 249 Royals great hit Crazy Royals. That's that's a bonus to the silver pack autos are like bonuses As we obviously had the other auto in this one Royals John C fantastic card 249 mag that Craziness right there. All right judge topper. All right. Jazz Chisholm rainbow foil rookie auto Travis Swaggerty dude Two Swaggerty autos already for the Pirates Pretty uh, it's a swag, huh? Lost swag. It's too much swag. Oh, there's Bayo. That's my guy right there. They're an Ashby rainbow foil Roars to 99 vintage stock Liam Hendricks white socks Seiko club card Mookie throwback So what's up everybody? What's your favorite release today? Series one Don Russ or iMac UFC? Zach Thompson rookie rainbow foil cardinals Vladdie jr. Home run challenge blue jays It's a 50 Caleb Smith Father's Day diamond backs Greg Maddox all aces Devers throwback It's always Good design on those Paul Seawalds gold foil Shohei Otani nice gold to 2022 angels 346 of 2022 twins duel there jeter downs on the Red Sox 88 Hills rainbow foil team card all aces max freed nasty nester GT realm uto on the rainbow foil and we have a Ryan Sandberg blue so six to six hundred copies. I believe on these the blue not numbered ones City Connector on Alvarez Astros made a factured relic Vlad jr. Goldschmidt Noa Cinder guard Philly's gold foil. Oh Nice a Joe Barlow So you can see here and then on the back that is the the super short print Gold mirror image variation. There we go Rangers. I said it says SSP First one we pulled right there or that I pulled Matt pulled a few even small rainbow foil rookie brewers Tanner Scott to 2023 gold Marlins bat relic Wanderfranco rays Now never bat relic rays there all aces Corbyn burns Josh Chisholm 88 Byron Buxton gold foil Everybody left chat like this. Nice a question. I got nothing It happens Stonewold Oscar Gonzalez on the rookie gold foil guardians Nice one there 2023 Clayton Kershaw gold paper Just gold. I should say the Dodgers there. Well, I hope you're all having a good day to join the breaks Interesting triple release they win Kowski rookie Red Sox Perez Mattingly posie Larkin Shea Alangoliers Brian Hayes and a purple one Soto Padres number 47 of 75 There you go Padres. I like the 88 design It's good stuff Hey guys more series one of the next couple days series one is sold out for today and and tonight Christian Yelich Travis Swaggerty on the rookie rainbow foil for the Pirates Alex Cobb the 2023 gold for the Giants Tommy Henry on the rookie auto for the Diamondbacks Baseball stars all aces Shane Bieber Josh young rookie throwback. There you go Rangers. Good first pack So every first pack has had the auto so far I've opened Sunny Gray gold foil Libertor on the rookie 88 there Cardinals Libertor You miss typing all his names on yeah Yeah, I figured pretty much seemed like so much fun I'm a chanager rainbow foil Hey Josh Chisholm home run challenge Riley Greene greatest hits Bobby with junior 88 Rookie Riley Greene Tigers greatest hits Philly cheese they menu from Hardee's and Carl's Jr. I'm in Count me in count me for a day and a half of hardburn right there Oh, yes, go full over Roberta Perez it's a 499 to Grom Green foil board Mets Oh, it's good though. Mm-hmm Max Meyer Max Meyer rookies this year. This is a good class man. It's a good rookie class. It's my chat not working It's not talking. No, no, no one's talking. That's just how it is Our guest is you and me buddy. That's it It's all we need. That's it. Nice orange foil rookie Josh Minkowski Red Sox 70 of $2.99 Pasha rainbow Rizzo and Bregman I'm with you. I would love some top series one like Choice of hops to do some choice with boom right to the right to the point CJ Abrams silver rainbow foil future starts for the Nationals there Francisco indoor Mets City Connect Rallick Those are manufactured by the way to Grom all leases Be thankful Maybe maybe thankful. Why not thankful? Got shot next to me. We're good. We're good Holy not alone green foil boards Scott Barlow Royals to 499 rainbow foil Brad Keller Got howly here too. She's also she's also silent Yeah, we hit it Joe Barlow one to sell kids Bob Must be listening about a Sam and Donnie listen to Exactly rainbow full Chris Bryant nailed it Byron bucks and a 499 green foil board twins Jersey nice game use Jersey Tatis Padres Yeah, game use your says Padres Mike Yaz Will Clark Giants legends Yeah, Sean. Yeah, Sean's here today. If it was Donnie, he'd be asked me a million questions Every break is Donnie's chance at the game of called 20 questions They call him Riddler, you know that Rookie gold foil Nolan Jones for the Guardians To 2022 gold paper Jeffrey Springs raise Yeah, they call him Riddler because he has a lot of questions It's funny. Listen to him and him and Sam goes funny. Yeah, it's always a good time What am I doing here the club there? That's gold foil J. Ram guardians. Jose Ramirez Yeah, we did hit a parlor mirror though. They just have a gold thing right here. It says gold tops on the back It just says it instead of like the team color where it says like all the name and team and all that it'll be golden It'll say SSP. So it's very easy to spot It's all it was also turned around so like you can't really miss them and a jumbo box anyway All right is equal to Rand rookie for the Rangers in a silver pack Goldschmidt, Tony Gwynn and Clayton Kershaw Sandberg the Grom Yellich and Gabriel Moreno blue jays rookie three more y'all Mookie topper. Maybe the Red Sox to get a guy like that on their team one day one day Dude Derek Carter the Dolphins Let's go. I'm down He's a free agent. I would love to see it Whether to is there or not that should be a movie. You know what I mean? Mookie bets rainbow foil Martin Perez 22 gold paper Rangers Auto now is Tyrone Taylor burrura's auto future stars all laces Nolan Ryan Rangers Suzuki We did have a Nick Pratt. Oh Silver pack auto. We also had a Moreno a Gabriel Moreno green foil board rookie for the blue jays It's pretty solid stuff so far for those two teams. We're looking for like a monster though Obviously. Oh, here's a Moreno Blue jays again gold foil this time Who jays some nice Moreno's you got to 499 Atlanta Braves green foil team card I've got Garrett Cole rainbow foil harm run challenge Lindor Metz To 499 is a Jonah Hyme green foil Rangers when you'll cruise It was really good Randy. We pulled on card autos of Habib Liddell Lesnar Nunez pull some dual autos like BJ Penn and He and Matt Hughes Think of them all top my head Rony Garcia, it was pretty good man If you want if you got it if you got a chance of going back wash your cases later on be a good idea Sean typed in all the names so well He literally murdered the break break was dead done Graham Ashcroft on the rainbow foil rookie for their reds Brian Bayo on the SSP Red Sox, dude, I love the Bayo That is awesome There we go There we go. That's going in a mag J rod insert Pascantino Vinnie Pascantino They was so nice super jealous of that one Red Sox Super jealous of that one. All right gold paper to 2022 Rodan Giants Kirby future stars for the Mariners there rainbow foil Brandon Crawford Giants City Connect Relic Yeah, each case had some big hits for sure Alcantra aces all aces Tiasca Hernandez gold foil blue jays rally green on the 88 Super Lagos handle blaze Jordan ripping this stuff. No. Yeah. Hey, I guess we'll roll a dive for this one Arias judge and Bogarts average leaders there Rainbow foil. So we'll roll a die one two left three four middle five six right unless somebody has Majority here, let me check that first. That's possibility Red Sox Kyle B Yankees John s twins John's random here die roll here one two three four five six There's a five going right Red Sox Jersey card Alcantra Marlins Major League material game used Shohei Otani 2022 greatest hits and an 88 Otani No, I don't believe so too cell and tops chrome. Maybe the variations can be I think last year they were Like that screen foil board Royals team card 499 rainbow foil glaber. There you walker Paul Blackburn A's gold foil Danny Jensen the 299 orange foil for the blue Jays Cunha Orias base two silver packs coming up Caleb Killian Cubs rookie Buxton Derek Hall is Derek Hall, I'm guessing Derek Hall for the Phillies rookie and door Mookie Griffey Oswaldo Cabrera rookie Yankees Big hurt Frank Thomas That's got a griffy box topper now Ding on this one unfortunately, but sometimes it happens. They're literally on top of all the packs You guys gonna get Super Bowl snacks on Sunday No, no How's gonna brag right now by the way Judge trout Alvarez Oh Next year Sean I need the invite We'll go one two left three four middle five six right same. No, no majority in this one Six going right again. This one goes Astros Astros on that one Lee leaders rookie Otto Nolan Jones a go Guardians Now we just chillies we had we had two of our friends over we just chilled It was great play some card games Rise and stop gold foil future stars or rainbow for is that gold or rainbow? I Think that's gold I'm having trouble that one's like in the middle. It's a 499 green foil. Here we go again Dodgers dude. We didn't have any so the first like four boxes or first like three boxes Let's see Dodgers JP Marlins Michael B and Braves Aaron M. I'm gonna die one two three four five six To go in left Dodgers on this one That was a 499 by the way keep that thing handy. You were pulling these things like very easy to now and Think it's great.  We've got a Nolan our not a homerun challenge nasty Nestor the 299 orange foil board Yankees Dude just sour cream in the packet gotta go classic Aaron judge. No, it sounds pretty fire though I imagine Greek yogurt is a good substitute for it's like sour cream But no, dude, I just because when you go to public says like Bogo sour cream Bogo this I'm like, oh, this is gonna be easy It's gonna be easy Still spend a couple hundred bucks, but you know that's that's that's the groceries nowadays Call it Gibson gold foil eskibar Mets. Oh that Gibson is a gold paper. I'm sorry. It's 2022 Phillies 2023 forget it's 2023 now. That's what here it is you guys That's true. That's true Braves rainbow foil gold Schmidt albies That's true Every time I turn on my computer, I feel like I spent money I'll be seeing email like oh you're uh your Duke energy bill is ready to get paid or You're in a bill here it is like how cool green foil Braves Ozzy albies It's a 499 rainbow foil rookie Michael Massey Royals. I don't think I can afford to take any vacation time So you know now Jose I break you on the city connect that one's numbered for the White Sox Bob Gibson all aces That'd be a terrible game of cards to play with it with this stuff. It's only aces. There's no idea What's going on anything else? Oh? Burrisky after the gold paper Brandon loud at 2022 rays is a gold foil Bo brisky brisk risky Cossus 88 rookie. How are you going to collect a con? What is collect gone? I need to try and go We should go Saturday. I don't know how much it is. Are we maybe we just get in here future stars gold O'Neill cruise number to 2023. Oh dibs Yeah Orias Jersey rookie out the rush man. There we go game player Warren Jersey out the rushman Orioles seniority I get one for sure Well, who's all gonna be set up at the booth, so it's gonna be Halle Lane Caleb Camille. I'm sure you're gonna be working They didn't say anything. I don't know either maybe since Caleb and Camille will be there deep backs gold foil I'm so excited. I can't wait to go see the shop when it's done. Yeah That is a caber to ease SSP You go Nats caber to ease SSP at Duffy All right guys silver packs then one more box I'm taking a spin on that thing All right silver packs show it's honey Harper Alonzo Jeter downs rookie Red Sox Hit it like a football practice dummy by as my junior Cal Mitchell rookie pirates and if on her era rookie Cardinals Sounds violent Just playing Keep checking chat. I just it's just nothing going on. We're not missing anything Cal Ripken on the topper Here we go Good luck to all the sorters and shivers the next couple days. Good luck Especially for the PYT's Gold Santiago espionel to 2022 blue jays Hassan Kim rainbow jersey card Marlin's jazz Chisholm Marlins verlander all aces That was the first like pack I've opened up with the like the first one of the box has an auto in it Here we go gold foil.  Got a lot of these I'll double check though braves Aaron M Dodgers J. B. Padres Janel to yep one two three four five six Two Left braves. There we go That's one coming up here gold paper to 2023 Sam mall a's Gold foil rookie Nolan Gorman for the Cardinals with a ding on this one top right Ice-card Cardinals though. Could that be You would be talking to Sam all the time Cardinals we'll send a box out for the Cardinals. There's a ding on that Gold foil Gorman Rainbow foil Roger center blue jays there Riley green homerun challenge Tigers Shohei Otani all aces Gold to 2023 Chris Bryant Rockies Marco Gonzalez rainbow foil all aces are inola Green foil rookie is JJ Blede Marlins number 214 to 499 Here a rainbow foil rookie auto Marlins here are in Carnation future stars auto there Alvarez and Machado So what's up everybody? How is it's going red foil board Trevor story Red Sox number to 199 Gold foil rookie morel for the Cubs Nice one there for the Cubs. He was pretty good last year. It's surprisingly good Zach Thompson pirates on the rainbow foil CJ Abrams on the city connect patch Nationals Gunnar Henderson rookie greatest hits for the Orioles ice Vinny Pasquantino rookie black 14 of 72 Nice Pasquantino foil marté Wade Boggs Angel Stadium gold foil their last couple silver packs here, too. All right, Adley rushman rookie silver. There we go O's Jram James Altman for the Dodgers rookie there Brett Beatty Mets rookie Charles LeBlanc Marlins rookie Nato McGuire and a Blede Marlins rookie. Here we go. Relics. We had Abrams Chisholm Ruchman Abray you Alcantra Crawford Tatis Lindor Wander Jordan Nolan Aronato that was to 199 Luis Robert's autos now you're our incarnacion Nolan Gorman There's our Nolan Jones Nolan Jones, you know the corner for later Tyrone Taylor Tommy Henry two Travis Swaggerties It's 199 on this one on the stars out of there We have Blackboarder rookie Vinny Pasquantino Royals. You go to 72 We had SSP Brian Bayo Red Sox And rookie Otto from the silver pack Nick Prato for the Royals 249 and that will do it. Thanks again. Everybody case two is coming up next


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Welcome to the lecture number 6 of the course quantum mechanics and molecular spectroscopy. We will have a quick recap of contents of lecture number 5. In the lecture number 5, we looked at the perturbation theory of 2 states in which if we had a Hamiltonian H naught such that it acted on state 1 and produced E11 and H naught acting on state 2 gives you E22 and the states 1 and 2 form complete set and they are orthonormal. Orthonormal simply means integral of 1 over 2 is equal to 0 and integral of 1 over 1 should be equal to 2 over 2 is equal to 1, okay. Now we said that there is a time dependent perturbation that acts on states 1 and 2 or this system which is nothing but H prime of t and this when added to H naught will give the total Hamiltonian H and it will follow the time dependent Schrodinger equation. In this case the psi is a superposition state one can think of psi is equal to a1 of t e to the power of minus i e1 t by h bar 1 plus a2 of t e to the power of minus i e to t by h bar, okay. So this is the wave function psi. Now by using by plugging the psi in the Schrodinger equation we ended up with following equation after doing some amount of algebra that is nothing but i h bar a1 dot t e to the power of minus i e1 t by h bar should be equal to a2 of t e to the power of minus i e to the power of minus i minus e to t by h bar integral over 1 h prime of t. Similarly, we had i h bar a2 dot t e to the power of minus i e to t by h bar is equal to a1 of t e to the power of minus e1 t by h bar 2 h prime of t, okay. So these are the equations that we ended up with the last lecture. Now let us start looking at this equation little bit more carefully i h bar a1 dot t e to the power of minus i e1 t by h bar equals to a2 t e to the power of minus i a2 t by h bar 1 h prime of t, okay. Now of course this is a definite integral. This definite integral will give you some number, okay. It could be 0 but definitely it could be a number. If this is some number and a2 t is a coefficient and e to the power of minus i this is the phase factor. So all this tells you that the time dependence of a by the way a1 dot t is nothing but t by dt of a1 of t. So the time dependence of a1 coefficient will depend on the a2 coefficient, okay. One can rewrite this little bit in a different way. So a1 dot t is equal to so one can take i h bar on the other side i h bar into a2 of t e to the power of now you can take this exponential function on the other side. So what we will get is minus i e to minus e1 into t by h bar and the integral 1 h prime of t. Of course if you can write e to minus e1 is equal to delta e to 1. So this is equal to h bar omega 2. So if I write that way then I get a1 dot t is equal to 1 over i h bar a2 of t e to the power of minus i omega 2 1 t because this h bar and that h bar will get cancelled, okay into 1 h prime t. Now you can also rewrite this same equation starting from the other equation for a2 dot. So that will come out to be a2 dot of t will be equal to 1 over i h bar a1 of t e to the power of i omega 2 1 t sorry 2. Now we will quickly realize if h prime of t is Hermitian then the integrals 1 h prime t 2 should be equal to 2 h prime t 1. So this is only true when h prime t is Hermitian then you will see that this one and this two will be equal or if they are not even if this h is not Hermitian then this will be complex conjugates of each other. Now we will see that this is if you look at the constants this is i h bar is a constant okay. Now these are some constants because they are definite integrals okay will have either complex conjugate of each other or they are equal to each other. Now all you can see that a1 dot dependence on a2 is with this function e to the power of minus i omega 2 1 while as a2 dot dependence will be on e to the power of i omega 2 1. So these two functions are out of phase with respect to each other is simply something like this okay so that will be our a2. So whenever a2 will go up a1 will come down and whenever a2 will come down a1 will go up okay. So that is the time dependence of the two or a1 and a2 which are out of phase a1 of t and a2 of t are out of phase with respect to each other okay. Now if such is the canary so we need to solve this couple differential equations which are nothing but d a1 of t by dt is equal to a1 a2 of t e to the power of minus i omega 2 1 t a1 h prime t 2 and t a2 t by dt equals to a1 of t e to the power of i omega 2 1 t okay. So these two are couple differential equations okay and such that a1 of t a2 of t are respect to each other okay. Now of course it is kind of difficult to solve but we will make an attempt now let us assume there are two states 1 and 2 with energies e1 and e2 okay. Now a time t is equal to 0 I am going to switch on a constant a perturbation okay and it is constant. So what happens is that a time net if I think of perturbation so I will switch on a time t is equal to 0 this is time is equal to 0 I will switch on a constant perturbation for some time okay until this goes to say t prime okay and I will have some value let us recall it as okay. So this is now in a such a way that this 1 h prime of t 2 becomes h bar v and 2 h prime of t 1 becomes h bar v star okay where v and v star are complex conjugates with respect to each other. In fact if you look at these integrals these integrals are complex conjugates of each other. Now if such is the scenario then your a1 dot t will be equal to 1 over ih bar a2 of t e to the power of minus i omega 21 t and you had this integral 1 h prime 2 h bar t 2 okay and other integral was a2 dot t is equal to 1 by ih bar a1 of t e to the power of i omega 21 t 2 h bar h prime t. Now this integral of course is equal to h bar v and this integral equals to h bar v star okay then what happens I can rewrite these equations as the following a1 dot t is equal to this h bar and this h bar will cancel i in the numerator will go to sorry in the denominator will go to numerator as minus i. So minus i v a2 of t e to the power of minus i omega 21 t that will be a1 dot and your a2 dot t will be equal to minus i v star a1 of t e to the power of i omega 21 t. So I am going to rewrite them again so what you had is a1 dot t equals to minus i v a2 of t e to the power of minus i omega 21 t okay and a2 dot t is equal to minus i v star a2 of a1 of t e to the power of i omega 21 t. So what I am going to do is I am going to rewrite this equation as slightly different way so what I will do is this I will make a I will write in terms of a1 and a2. So one can rewrite this equation as this will become a2 equals to minus 1 by i v a1 dot t e to the power of i omega 21 t because if this I take on the other side then minus i omega 21 will become less and this will become a1 of t it also is of t will become minus 1 by i v star a2 dot t e to the power of minus i omega 21 t okay. What I will do is I will differentiate once more differentiate equations with respect to time okay. So what I will get is if I differentiate once more and rearrange okay what I will get is the following a1 double dot t equals to minus i v a2 dot t e to the power of minus i omega 21 t minus omega 21 v a2 of t e to the power of minus i omega 21 t okay. Similarly I can get a2 dot t equals to minus i v star a1 dot t e to the power of i omega 21 t plus omega 21 to v star a1 of t e to the power of i omega 21 t okay. Then what I can do is instead of a1 and a2 I can plug this here and finally what I can get is the following after rearrangement what I get is a1 double dot t equals to minus a1 of t v v star minus i omega 21 a1 dot t. Similarly a2 dot t is equal to minus a2 of t v v star plus i omega 21 a2 dot t. So one can do you know you can all use this four equations okay and rearrange okay because wherever there is a a1 dot you can plug it in wherever there is an a1 you can plug it in a2 dot and then you can do amount of rearrangement it is not very easy one can do it as a homework. So this is conversion of these to this okay you can try it as a homework it is not very easy it takes little more than 10 or 15 minutes or this is just simple math so one can be able to do it. So what we have is these two equations okay so the two equations that we have is very simply that a1 double dot t is equal to minus a1 of t v star minus omega 21 minus i omega 21 a1 dot of t a2 double dot of t is equal to minus a2 of t v v star minus i omega 21 of a2 dot t. Now by writing this we have done one thing very simple now the equation 1 will only consist of a1 of t a1 of t its first derivative and its second derivative and this equation 2 will have only a2 of t. So a2 its first derivative and its second derivative with respect to. So what we have done by doing this we have separated out the couple differential equations in a1 and a2 as second order differential equations a1 and a2 respectively. So they are no longer coupled okay but while from going from first order equations to given to second order equation differential equations to uncouple them. Now if you have such a case one can find a general solution a1 of t will be equal to a e to the power of i omega t minus b e to the power of i omega t minus b e to the power of minus i omega t e to the power of omega 21 t by 2 and a2 of t is equal to a e to the power of i omega t plus b e to the power of minus i omega t e to the power of omega 21 t by 2 and where omega will be equal to half of omega 21 square plus 4 times modulus of e square whole to the power of half and a and b are constants which will depend on initial conditions. Now one can solve this with the condition that at t is equal to 0, a1 of 0 is equal to 1 and a2 of 0 is equal to 0. Why are we doing that? Because if we had two states 1 and 2 and their coefficients being a1 of t and a2 of t a time t is equal to 0 we are assuming that the population is only in the state 1 and state 2 has no population and when you do that these equations will run on to a1 of t will be equal to cos omega t plus i omega 21 by 2 omega sin omega t whole to i e to the power of minus i omega 21 t by 2 and a2 of t will be equal to minus i by modulus of v by omega sin e to the power of i omega 21 t by 2. So these are the two equations that end up and one can then one can then equate the probability, get the probability. So p1 of t will be nothing but modulus of a1 of t whole square and p2 of t that is probability of finding the state the system in state 2 is a2 of t modulus square. In such scenario what we will get is the following p1 of t after doing some math what we will get is 1 minus 4 modulus of v square divided by omega 21 square plus 4 times modulus of v square into sin square half of omega 21 square plus 4 times modulus of v whole square to the power of half and p2 of t will be equal to modulus of v by omega square sin omega t which will be nothing but 4 times modulus of v square divided by omega 21 square plus 4 times modulus of v whole square sin square half of omega 21 square plus 4 times modulus of v square to the power of half. Now one can think of it this is p2 of t. Now think of it like this so there is some function that is sin square x and some multiplier. Now let us look at p2 of t. Now this is sin square of some function multiplied by something. So let us call it as a sin square. So p1 of t is nothing but 1 minus a sin square of x. So at time t is equal to 0. Let us say this is 0 and this is 1 that is a population. Now if I take population then my a1 will go down like that. So this is p1 of t and a2 will whenever will go like this. So this is p2 of t such that p1 of t plus p2 of t is equal to 1. These oscillations of states 1 and 2 are called Rabi oscillations. So we will stop here and continue in the next lecture. Thank you.