Cultural criticism is taboo. In polite company, all cultures are created equally. None is better or worse than any other, they're just different. We aren't responsible for the culture that we were born into, so there's no objective basis for criticism or judgment. In progressive ideology, this idea goes a step farther. Not only must we respect all cultural differences, we mustn't stray outside the norms of the culture we were born into. A white woman with dreadlocks, for example, should respect black culture and shave her hair off rather than steal a hairstyle from a different culture. They even have a special word for this grievance. Cultural appropriation. I think cultural appropriation is a load of baloney based on the most persistent errors in political and social thought. Abstraction errors. Misunderstanding the relationship between people and labels between aggregates and concretes. These errors are not only imprecise, but they are counterproductive, divisive and downright dangerous. The first abstraction error goes like this. All differences between people are benign differences. Some people are born with light hair, some are born with dark hair, neither is superior to the other. In the same way, all cultural differences are benign. Some cultures value monogamy, others are more sexually liberal, neither is superior to the other. This concept is applied across the board. Some cultures are more religious, some cultures value education more highly, some are more hierarchical, etc. These differences should not be judged any more than we should judge somebody for their height or the amount of freckles on their face. Then the story goes, because all cultures are essentially equal, any differences in the socioeconomic status of ethnic groups must be a function of discrimination. Without racism or discrimination, all cultures would be equally represented across the socioeconomic spectrum. Now in reality, we have no reason to believe that this is true. Nowhere in the world, nowhere in history are all cultures represented equally across the socioeconomic spectrum. This idea is an appealing one, it's aesthetically pleasing no doubt, but it's not grounded in the real world. Different cultures value different things, and some skills are valued more highly than others. Throughout the world, Chinese immigrants tend to have the highest average income of any demographic. Why is this? I'd say it's not because they're genetically superior, it's not because of pro-Chinese discrimination. In fact, it's largely despite negative discrimination. It's because Chinese culture heavily emphasizes academic performance in the hard sciences, and the hard sciences tend to pay more than other fields. The purpose of this article isn't to explain the relationship between culture and socioeconomic status, I'll leave that to the fantastic work of Thomas Sowell. My point is to illustrate the concrete fact that some cultures are superior to others in specific ways. So the second abstraction error goes like this. Cultural heritage is intrinsically valuable. Preserving ethnic culture is an end by itself, regardless of the details. Progressives are especially fond of indigenous cultures that are assumed pure because they haven't been polluted by Western society. Whenever a new tribe of indigenous people is discovered, for example, progressives are adamant that we should not disturb or influence their way of life. They want a complete preservation of cultures, the positive and the negative. Well, I have a radically different view. Cultures are not intrinsically valuable, nor should they be preserved by virtue of their uniqueness. Cultures emerge from different groups of people trying to best navigate the world. Sometimes they do a good job, other times they do a bad job. If a bad cultural trait emerges, it should be destroyed and replaced. No different than bad theories about physics or mathematics. In my mind, cultural pride is kind of absurd. You're not responsible for the culture that you're born into. There's nothing to be proud of. By happenstance of birth, you happen to have an ethnicity. It isn't superior or inferior to any other. You have nothing to defend or preserve. If you're fortunate, you'll be born into a positive culture. If you're unlucky, you'll be born into a toxic one. For the sake of human progress, I think we should try to eliminate negative cultural values and promote positive ones. Saudi Arabian culture, for example, promotes beheadings for breaking the law, even for minor offenses. This is backwards, unnecessary, and a toxic cultural phenomenon. It shouldn't be preserved, it should be eliminated. There's a fundamental abstraction error underlying all of this. That group identity is inescapable. Individuals in the progressive worldview are seen as essentially tied to their ethnicity or socioeconomic status. People are white men. They're black women. They're upper-class kids.  The group identity is foundational. The individual is seen as intrinsically a product of his environment and a larger society.  They self-identify first with their labels. They are fundamentally lesbians or transgender or cisgender. All experiences are first filtered through the lenses that they identify with, as if there's an entire category difference between humans with different sexual orientations. I think this gets it backwards. Group identity is a label. It's a conceptual tool to more easily categorize people. It's not foundational. The individual is the base unit in society and any labels that we attach to them are secondary. And practically speaking, the stronger that people self-identify with labels, the more division it creates in society. Class struggle, for example, is a powerful idea and it's entirely a function of group identity. When you view people as individuals first, the differences between us seem minor and petty. I view my black neighbors as fundamentally peers, not as aliens I can never relate to. Yes, they have a different daily experience than I do as a function of their skin color that's true. But it's not an essential difference and it's absurd to obsess over it. We have far more in common than different. So put all the abstraction errors together and you get the ultimate heresy. Cultural appropriation. Adopting some element from a culture outside the one you were born into. White people having black hairstyles, Caucasians wearing Native American garb, upper class kids using inner city slang. Supposedly cultural appropriation is insensitive. It trivializes the struggle and history of the culture being appropriated. Some have even said blues and rock and roll music is black music and if white people steal it and make money, that's unfair. Ultimately, they are saying you are only allowed to behave in accordance with the culture that you were born into. Again, it's abstractions first, individual second. I find this idea preposterous and counterproductive. It is a tyranny of labels. Based on the happenstance of your birth, progressives will assign you a list of approved behavior because of the genetics of your parents and grandparents. It is involuntary group membership with specific behavioral regulations attached. And to what end? To preserve the divisions between people? To preserve different cultures for aesthetic sake? It seems much more progressive to treat cultures like we do any other set of beliefs.  I didn't choose my culture at birth and I'll be damned if some progressive with a penchant for labels insists that I must act in accordance with his list of white middle-class behavior. A few years ago, I moved to Atlanta and there's always hip-hop and reggae music on the radio. I love it. I blast it when driving down the road. I also think that afros look fantastic and if I had the hair for it, I would wear one myself. I also love soul food. The black culture in Atlanta has perfected fried chicken and collard greens and in fact, I ate some for lunch today. So here's a healthy response to my love for blues music, soul food and afros. It's wonderful. It helps bridge the gap between white and black people. Every individual is not only a consumer of culture but a creator of culture and I want my behavior to incorporate the best of black culture and hopefully the same is true and reverse. It's an exciting idea. If you see everybody as individuals, then you'll see that we're all trying to do the same thing in life. Different groups of people have discovered different truths and why in the world would we not want to share this knowledge with each other? We can quite literally take the best of all cultures and create something new and better. How many black people have discovered the game of golf through Tiger Woods? How many lives and careers have changed for the better because of it? It's a wonderful thing. How many white people have discovered rap music through Eminem? I did. And it's a wonderful thing. We should celebrate cross-cultural exchanges of information, not lament them because the ambassador has an unapproved skin color. Of course, the same is true about the negative aspects of culture. It is naive to overlook cultural shortcomings because you don't want to offend people. For my experience is I want to emulate parts of Chinese culture in terms of academic excellence. I don't want to emulate their emphasis on hierarchy. In my evaluation, Chinese parents can be too strict on their kids and too focused on family honor. So I want to find a middle ground.  Of course not. I respect Chinese individuals enough to see positives and negatives in their culture and I want the same treatment in return. The same is true for black culture, Hispanic culture and every other group on the planet. There is absolutely no reason to take cultural norms as all or nothing. There's nothing to preserve for preservation's sake.  For almost 20 years, I lived in an economically depressed part of upstate New York. The culture was largely toxic and anti-intellectual. In terms of sorting the good from the bad, I'd say I'm leaving most of it behind. My father was raised by a racist. My mother helped him see through the errors of racist ideas and he raised all of his kids without an ounce of racist bias. That southern racist culture died in my family thanks to my parents and I certainly will not resurrect it for my kids. This is progress and it should be celebrated. And furthermore, before the fairly recent invention of intellectual property, artists took imitation and copying as a compliment. The myriad of variations on a theme from Paganini are all compliments to the wonderful work of the violinist Paganini. The same should apply to cultural phenomenon. Copying is only a compliment. It's an acknowledgement from one human to another that says, hey, this is awesome. You're doing something right. Versus, hey, you weren't born with the ethnic membership to behave that way.  Instead, I think we should support cultures having sex with each other, mix the genetics together, if you will, and see what offspring we can produce. If you like another culture's music, imitate it. If you like their fashion, wear it. The language, speak it. If you like how they raise their kids, then do the same. We'll all be better off. Cultures are not delicate flowers that must be preserved until the end of time. They emerge from groups of people trying to best navigate life. Some elements are good, others are bad, and it's about time we grow up and recognize this. A lot of good will come from it. For more books, check out steve-patterson.com.


the narcissist cheating on you. Narcissists are not loyal or committed. They cannot demonstrate continuing loyalty and support. They are attention seekers. They often behave in a provocative, outrageous and reprehensible manner to attract attention. They need narcissistic supply. They need to feel special and important. They need to feel desirable and attractive. And no amount of attention or admiration from one person is ever going to be enough for them. They can never be satisfied. And if you ever have an argument or disagreement with them, they're going to feel invalidated. They're going to feel worthless and insignificant. So you could be sure that they will find someone else to give them the attention and admiration that they are looking for. You cannot invest anything of any significance or value into the narcissist because they will always let you down in the end. And you will be left disappointed. They cannot sustain anything good for long periods of time. They have no sense of loyalty. They have no feeling of support or allegiance. So they do not abide by any rules. They do not adhere to any restrictions or limitations. In their minds, there are no rules. There are no restrictions or limitations. That doesn't apply to them. And they will do whatever it takes to get the attention that they need. They are seeking gratification, which can only be gained from the satisfaction of a desire. And they have no problem indulging in anything. They don't care about how it might affect you. There are no restrictions or limitations. So they will do whatever it takes to satisfy their desire. They get caught up in situations with other people who are then taking their attention away from you, which leaves them unable to have any care or compassion for you. Cheating is unacceptable behavior. And it is not something that you should tolerate. It is not something that you should accept or endure. When you entered a relationship with a narcissist, you made a contract of loyalty and devotion with them. That is something that you agree to when you enter a relationship with someone. There are standards that are expected, which are commonly known. So cheating is unacceptable behavior. They know what they're doing is wrong. They understand how it might affect you. They just don't care. They don't care about the consequences of their actions. Because in that moment, they want what they want. And they are going to do whatever it takes to get it. They are going to do whatever it takes to satisfy their desire for attention. Regardless of how it affects you, regardless of the potential consequences, narcissists are self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They only care about themselves. They only care about their own needs. And that is why they always put themselves first. That is why they do not consider you. When you get into a relationship with someone, you are supposed to consider them. You are supposed to consider how your actions might affect them. When you get into a relationship with someone, there is an agreement that is made that you're going to be loyal and devoted to each other. So that you can then engage in sharing your high moral standards of behavior with each other without the fear of threat or any interference or intervention. Without the fear or threat of any violation of the agreement that you have made. You don't want to give all of your affection and love, your loyalty and devotion and then have the fear of it being compromised. You don't want to invest all of that into something where you are then going to have to accept standards that are lower than what you desire. That is why people make the agreement of being together in an exclusive partnership. It is an agreement of something that you are both committed to. It is a contract. The problem is the narcissist does not fulfill these obligations. They do not regard the agreement with great respect. They make their own alterations to the agreement that you have made without any acceptance or confirmation from you. So you can be sure that yes, if they haven't already, the narcissist is going to be cheating on you. They are not going to be honoring any agreement that you have made. If you pay close attention to what they are engaged in, often on their phones, you will find that they have most likely already made contact with someone. Whether it's on social media, text message, email or on a dating site, they have already made contact with someone who they are interested in or someone who is interested in them. While they are supposed to be in a relationship with you, which clearly shows that someone else has their attention, and that is why they are not giving you the proper care or attention. They are neglecting you because their attention is elsewhere. They are attention seekers. They are constantly seeking attention elsewhere. One person's attention is not enough to satisfy them. They always need more. They're not focused on bettering themselves or trying to grow or develop anything great with you. They're only focused on their own selfish desires. So they don't have the time or energy to create anything of any real purpose or meaning with you. They're not able to concentrate long enough to do that because they are always looking outside of the relationship for other sources of supply.  When the narcissists first met you, they did everything they could to try to secure you as a source of supply. They wanted to be admired by you, but once they know they've got you and they know you're not going anywhere, then they want to be admired by anyone other than you. If you mention anything about them not attending to you in the way that they did before, they will pretend as though they care just to relieve the pressure or criticism. But then they will continue with whatever they were engaged in or whoever they were pursuing. They are attention seekers. They need narcissistic supply. And this is not something that you can change about them. It is not something that will go away. It is also one of the main reasons why they cheat. Pay attention to what they're doing on their phones. That is what they use to get the attention that they constantly crave and need. You will be amazed at what you might find on their phones. They might pretend as though they are playing video games or applying to emails. And when you look at their phone, that is what you will see. But as soon as you turn away or go to do something else, they're pulling up their social media or dating sites, things that they don't want you to see. But if you're dealing with a narcissist, you could be sure that that is what you will find on there. One person's attention is never enough for them. They cannot be satisfied. So they have to seek it elsewhere. They have to look for more. And the easiest way for them to do that is through their phones. They're talking to other people on there. People that they are attracted to. People that they desire sexually. And when they do that, they are entering this fantasy world. Narcissists live in a fantasy.  So they entertain this fantasy world. And they bring people who they find to be attractive and desirable into this world. Where this other person they're interested in has their own larger than life character. Where they imagine and fantasize about things that are impossible or improbable.  Where they completely forget about you and who you are. They're not even able to experience who you really are. Because when they're seeking all of this attention, they're in this fantasy world. They're in this alternate reality in their minds. And that is why it is so easy for them to cheat. It's so easy for them to be disloyal. Because when they were with you, they were in this other world. They were in a fantasy. So in their minds, it's not real. It's just a part of their fantasy. And they can mold it into whatever they want it to be, whenever they choose to. You cannot develop a relationship of any real purpose or meaning with a narcissist. They behave in a way that is too unpredictable for you to do that. They lack the ability to judge what is right and wrong and then act accordingly. They lack the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning. And that is why you will always see them on their phones. That is why they're always on social media or on dating sites. Talking to other people who they find to be desirable or attractive. It's their favorite form of entertainment. And it provides them with amusement and enjoyment. They love the attention. It is the only thing that makes them feel alive. And that is why they can never be loyal to you. That is why any relationship that they get into is destined to fail. They don't even know what they want. They want anything that attracts them. Anything that makes them feel good. Regardless of what they already have. They're always going to want more. You cannot develop a relationship of any real purpose or meaning with a narcissist. They cannot even be loyal to themselves. They don't even trust themselves. They don't even know what their next steps are going to be. They are always looking for attention. They are always seeking us as a supply. And that is what decides what their next move is going to be. They don't even have control of that. Their supply decides what they're going to do next. And this is what causes them to be so unpredictable. This is what causes them to cheat on you. They always need attention. They always need narcissist supply. And that is why they can never be loyal to you. If you are with someone who is a narcissist. You could be sure that if they haven't already. At some point they are going to be cheating on you. 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Questioning the strategies. It's the greatest tool that teacher possesses. So here are 10 strategies that you can try in your classroom. First one, make a statement. Everton are the greatest football team. Mount Vesuvius last erupted in 2001. These statements may be wrong but what it does is it encourages engagement in the lesson. Tip number two, collective responses. In groups allocate the spokesperson, ascribe someone to feedback, etc. Get everyone taking part. Three, scan the room as you move around ensuring that all students are taken part. They're engaged and that you develop a secure overview and constantly check the understanding. Tip number four, paraphrase. As you move around, obviously COVID context at the moment but seeing the feedback listens conversations on the table and you can paraphrase back, post further questions. Number five, the worst question that a teacher can ask, who can tell me? This is a signal to students that you can opt out of learning. Try to avoid it. Instead, number six, ask why and how in response to students answers. Number seven, multiple choice, increased difficulty. Robert Bjork 1992 desirable difficulties. Also great retrieval practice. Number eight, you make mistakes. Say something inaccurate. Learning styles are still very popular in the United States of America and in some parts of the UK. Is that true or false? Number nine, vary the thinking. I'm a big fan of the question in matrix, how could, what is, how might, when should, when could. Lots of different ways to script questions reduces your thinking and encourages different types of responses. The last one, select carefully. Make sure that we plan key questions but also decide when, where to use them, rather than increasing too much load or in particular who can tell me or types of questions that elicit lots of calling out. I hope those help. You can download them all on the site. Ten question strategies.


، سبحانہ واتعالیٰ کے بلسنے میں will محمد صلا اللہ و سلیمﷺ تعالی weilیکنے کے قرابتہ ، خصومتہ ، شراہتہ ، سبحانہ واتعالیٰ میں جب ہمیں ناقابی کے بلسنا ل Moore جو نبتہ ہمارے تھے ، ہمیں جو بلس گذیر کیا جسمانتی کی امریکہ بلس اور ہمیں جو سید کی بلسانتی ہے ہمیں کافت مدلنے والا ہے تس ہسے ان میں جانتے ہیں کہ ہم مسلمان ہیں ہم اسلام پر عربہ آجے ہیں ہم اسلام ایسی طرح ساتھ ہے ہم اسلام کے رسلان звон کے وہاں کے Choose رہے ہیں کہ ہم مسلمان ہیں لیکن في اچھانے اللہ سبحانہ وتعالیٰ انھر اوہ ہے انھر بھی ہے انہوںوں کے لئے انہوں کا کیلے لیکن ہم مجھے جو ہمتا ہے ہے آپ دیا ہمیرے محابش notions بہت طرح اور حیادت چکئے کیا کیا ہمیرے في ساتھ گا سکتا تو ہمیرے محبش نمازی تریش درمان درن ہے ، ہمیرے ساتھ گا سکتا ہے اور یہ ہمیرے تریش کھونے کے لئے ہمیرے معاہدتے کھونے کیا ہے۔ some people shy away from islam and they begin to feel that it's an embarrassment to be a muslim نعود باللہ مئے اللہ سبحانہ وتعالہ protect us save goddess in fact when the world has shown the torch or can I say when the spotlight is upon the muslimin that is the time for actually display who exactly we are show there is a lot of noise from the window something blowing you can turn off the fans if need be there is something blowing into the microphone every little while and it's disturbing us so it is a gift of Allah سبحانہ وتعالہ and it is the time when we should be displaying the true characteristics of مسلم لہذا اور ہمارے ہمارے بہت ہر ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے بہت ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے س still تو جذبہ ہمارے سال اپنی خوبصورت ہمارے ہمارے اور تلیقیار دنساہن تھا کہ پر اگر معاہ اٹمام اجت لنے کیish لم دوسر Dim سلیم دادیت ساتھ کل کیا کہ ہمارے آپی بہت محار کی لوگ اللہ کونوں ہم سے ملی کرنے کا بہت باہن سمجھتے ہیں کہ ہم نسال ہم شریکار پر سمجھتے ہیں کہ ہمینے کیا سمجھتے ہیں کہ ہم اسی قرآن ک madness کا سمجھتے ہیں ، پر کنیس میں مقیق کرنے کے لئے ہم اسلام کے اپنی مفکر کرنے کے نبی کرنے کے لئے آج محافظ ہوتین کے لئے اسلام پر بیٹھنے کے لئے اسلام کو محافظ ہولا لے پر بہنچ نہیں جنتے ہیں کے لئے selbst یہاں ب یقبٹ Aí ہوں کہ ہم ہیں مسلمان ب interdisciplinary کو کہتی ہیں کیوں because we don't Have an answer we don't know How to talk to them my brothers my sisters we need to know islam is a beautiful religion if only you understand it i have seen non مسلمیوں کے بچانوشین these prices totally out of contextundo و اپنے ساتھ ساتھ سویش بہاقین۔ اس بینار کے دوران کے لئے محضہ اس پر اپنے ساتھ ہوتا ہے۔ اور آنکی میں بکر کس مجھے لہ دا ہوں۔ اپنے ساتھ ہوں کیا ہے کہ ہمیں نے کھوڈ کو results کا بینار ساتھ ہوتا ہے اپنے ساتھ ہوتا ہے۔ اپنے ساتھ کھوڈ کھوڈ کھوڈ رہا ہے، اپنے ساتھ محضہ ہے جو مسلم ہے جو good مسلم ہے آنکھتے ہیں۔ سلام مجھے برحیط پر سلیہ کیا چاہتے ہیں۔ کیا سلیہ کرتے ہیں؟ ہمارے کوسی معلومت ہے اور جو درست مزیج کیا ہے اور وہ جب سلیہے ہمارے کوسی بہت انہیں پہلی ، یہ ہوتا ہے کہ ہمارے قرآن کیا ہے جو ہمارے قرآن کیا ہے جو مسلم ہے اور ہمارے قرآن کیا ہے جو آپ اس کی حقیقت کے انہوں کو بہت کچھ تو تلیمات کیا ہے۔ اور پھر ا پر وہ یہ سبحان اللہ کی ا کے ذکر ہے کہ سبحان اللہ کے معاہ کر دے۔ ایک جانال ایک معاہ ، ہمارے ساتھ ساری باکنے کے لیکن تک سکتے ہیں۔ کہ جب آپ سید پر پر دیکھتا ہے ، ہمھار برامیر سے پر پر دیکھتا ہے۔ ہم یہ سر ہولہا ہے۔ ان یہ اسلامیک سید کی جو آپ کو صرحت پر یہاں پر ان儘 میں بات کر رہے ہیں۔ آپ کو صرحت پر تن بات کرتے ہیں۔ آپ کو صرحت پر تن بات کرتے ہیں۔ ان wäre presto آپ کو دیکھ ہے ، یہاں ہماری اور اپنے ، یہںے کسی کسی کسی کسی کے دیکھ ہے جو مال گی اور اپنی جانے کی کوئی ہے۔ اور я到了 لہذا جعو第 ہوitu بکم اتنابی generation انہ builds to , ایتنے اس طرح tote tell 수가 Perhaps تحم الذي تکوان car لی gele بار ایک وقت Throw call Improdu rejection بہن بہلی گا ممارکتا ہے اس کیا سیران常ود 결국 جو ا έχει ہاس مجھے مياmons everyта title کیادھوا اس analچہ video ج Stock اپنی مجھے خلما expressing what are you dash ص說 to it 특رام were you م dö two اس م دوت اپنے مجھے ص tale a Part быsal坐شتا پے Almost اسا پڑا ایک ایک کامی در ایک امرین ایک محانہ ہے ایک سب کاری تو بس یہ integrating اسی اسکتے ہیں جب اللہ سبحانہ و نقی세요 اور ہمیں کہ ہم ایک لیسا ہوں کہ میں معلومہ جو ہمائے گناتے ہیں اسا ایک نہائے کیا سکتے ہیں۔ اس کیا ہے؟ اللہ آپ کو مفینا ہوتی ہے۔ ان کیا سکتے ہیں؟ آپ کو مجھوں کو مولا جاتے ہیں ان کو مشکل ہوتی ہے۔ کسی Running روح yine معلوم کو اس لحظہ کے درس طرح تلancy تھی سب کسی جب کہ کوئی م ملون بارے گے جب جانے کے ساملہ جانے کے لئے آپ کو مفیشت کرتے ہیں ، ایک یا سواء ہے اللہ سبحانہ واتعالیٰ کی kişی مجھے ہوں کہ ہم جنہ تلفردوز بھی ہوں گا مہالہ سبحانہ واتعالیٰ معاوی ہونے کی بہت میں بھی مجھے ق Nov تاہمت میں ھو اگر آپ کو اپنے بس پڑکہ دارو تھاyssہ بارک یک ہی محافظ حامت میں مئی بارکا شروع پر دوگر کرتے ہیں۔ خلی بارک میں محافظ ہے اور خلی بارک میں محافظ ہے۔ وہ بھی خبرت ہے کہ میں سمجھنے اور آمنuls کو ایک جو نظر لیٹی ہے۔ ان سمجھن کے لئے بات کے لئے میں محافظ ہوگا ہے۔ انہوں کو ایک ساقوش سے بہنے کر سکتے ہے۔ انہوں کو اس اس روہ کے لئے انہوں کے لئے تو آپ کو ایک سمجھنے کے لئے کوٹا ہے۔ When they face hardship, should they give it up and just say it's okay. It's fine. I'm no longer a part of this. No, if you have sound knowledge, it will lead you to soften up, soften. Knowledge comes with softening. If it is sound and if it is received with a sincere heart, with a heart that is conscious of Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ. When you lose consciousness of Allah, when you do not have Allah within your equation, in other words when you've removed Allah from your life, you will not become a softened person. You will not be a person who appreciates the others. You will not look at others and think to yourself, this person is just like I am a creature of Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ. اسلام has given so much of importance to make space for people when you are sitting in a gathering. اِذَا قِلَ لَكُمْ تَفَسَحُوْ فِلْ مَجَالِسْ فَفْسَحُوْ يَفْسَحِ اللہُ لَكُمْ اللہُ اکبر. When you are told in your gatherings to create a little bit of space for others, make that space for indeed Allah will open for you as well. That's what Islam has taught us. Make space for others. Why others? In the same way, I want to be here. The other person also wants to be here. Let's share the space. I'll squeeze a little bit and I make space for them. But if you don't have Allah within your equation, what will you do? Your space instead of just one, you want to take up three or four spaces, make sure no one is next to you, no one is behind you, etc. No, you make space for people. You must be happy when you are slightly squashed up a little bit. Even in Salah in prayer, some people get angry as you come through and you try and tap them to say, please make space for me. No, the true believer says, no problem, I make space.  Wow! When you get into the first soft, yes, we might become a little bit selfish because it's a very big reward but if there is a little bit of space, try and create some to let another person come in as well. What does this teach us? It teaches us the concern for other people. We are concerned for others. What made me concerned for others? My consciousness of Allah, the knowledge I have, the sincerity I have, what did it do for me? It softened me. But did I give up my post? No. Did I give up my belief? No. Did I give up my values? No. If adultery becomes rampant in society, does it mean we should give up the path that we are following and start committing adultery like it is the way forward? No. We need to ensure that we have our morals and values. We know them, we know what we stand for and we will follow that. If someone else would like to follow something else in a free country, you need to understand, let it be. Let them do what they have to, you do what you have to. Does anyone force you to swear? No. Does anyone force you to become vulgar? No. But because you are conscious of Allah, you don't swear even if the whole world swears. Have you noticed something the young might have realized this already? Nowadays the way people talk, they add a swear word, they add a vulgar word every so often in the sentence. They add it. And it becomes cheap talk, Subhanallah. The language becomes very low, but they don't mind. That's the way forward. If that is the case, what should a Muslim do? A Muslim needs to understand that he or she must speak with respect even if the whole community and the whole world is speaking in a disrespectful way. You don't add those dirty words. The reason is you have values that are high. Sometimes when you get a chance, you can tell your friends, you know what, I think it's not a good idea to add these words, try and deduct them, try and use more respectable, respectful words. They might tell you, who are you? Come on. We're just living, you know. You can explain to them. If they don't want to listen, what was your duty to try with them? You tried with them and at the end of the day you continued in your good ways. The same applies to alcohol, intoxicants and drugs for example on different levels. But if someone happens to intoxicate themselves, let's use the example of drugs. Rampant in societies and communities across the globe. So many people are guilty including those who call themselves Muslim. And you and I know it's bad. Take a look at smoking. Smoking is a bad habit. The globe will tell you it's a bad habit. When we say as Muslim don't do it, people say look at this man, he's being extreme. He's not being extreme. It's on your box my brother. It's written on the box. Nowadays sometimes it's written on every cigarette. Smoking kills. Smoking kills. But you know what the young people say? You know when something is really great in some communities it's killing man, it's killing. That means it's so good, it's grand. So when they say smoking kills, they say oh it does kill man. That means it's great, it's huge. I wonder what they mean on the box in actual fact in real English proper terms it means you will lose your life. You know Subhan Allah. It's like they say he killed it man. That means he nailed it man. That is colloquial language. That is slang. It's not the proper understanding. So don't ever come to a cigarette box. And when it's a smoking kills man. That means it's cool man. That's not the meaning of it. But if society gets to that meaning, you will still know in actual fact this means killing in the real sense. I should stop this bad habit. I should stop it. Is it wrong for me to promote from the pulpit of the masjid to everyone to say try your best to give up this bad habit. It's not wrong. It is noble for me to remind myself and yourselves to give up all bad habits. And like I say drugs is even worse. Worse. And when you see society doing it, they consider you cool. I don't know what's so cool about that. They say you actually have to hurt yourself. It's not cool. People inject themselves with a drug. Some people smoke the drug. So they light it and then they smoke it. And some people have it in the form of a pill etc. They say it makes me feel good. It makes me feel high. Subhan Allah. It makes you feel high. How high? Subhan Allah. That feeling is very fake. It is very temporary. It messes your health. It messes your brain. It messes your mind. It does not solve your problems. For a moment you think your problems are solved therefore while in that intoxication you may commit and perpetrate ہenious crimes. How many criminals there are in our jails if you go and study their lives. A lot of them who have harmed others, they have harmed others in a state of intoxication. They did not really know what they were doing because they melted in the pot. They did like everyone else. In fact, when I read the topic melting in the pot, I thought to myself in some cultures and societies weed is called pot. Do you know that? They call it pot. This guy smokes pot. So don't melt in that pot my brothers and sisters for Allah's sake. You need to understand. We would have to work very hard to protect ourselves. Number one.  We have hope. We have lots of hope in you.  The young, the youth, Mashallah. Even the older people. If you have a bad habit, wallahi, you have a future known as Jannatul Firdous. Heaven. Paradise. Just give up these bad habits for the sake of Allah. Become a flag bearer of goodness. Become a torch bearer who can hand the torch over to the next generation in a beautiful way. My brothers and sisters, don't we find crises across the globe? Our children look at the parents and do you know what? They don't see a good example. They don't see role models. Let's change that. We are old. We have children in a lot of cases. May Allah bless those who don't have children with children. Subhanallah. But when you do have the children, will you not quit your bad ways? I know of non-Muslims who have quit smoking and drinking and who have quit alcohol and drugs when they've had children. They say, no, I'm not going to do this anymore. Why? I've got kids now. I've got kids now. I need to be a good example. But the Muslim mean, I've got kids now. Look after the child. I'm going. Where did you go? He's gone to the club. He only comes back at 12 midnight. One, two, the mothers are complaining etc. And sometimes it's the other way around. Some of the sisters would actually just throw the child and say, Look after the child. I'm coming. Come back after two days. May Allah forgive us. And when she comes back, husband would dare even ask, where were you? Things are changing across the globe. You know. Someone might ask, whose duty is it to look after the children? The male or the female? The truth is, both of you. You are the parents.  The children did not just appear with one parent. They were both. So it is your collective duty. You need to share the responsibility depending on what you are cut out for and depending on your job, your work, your surroundings, the reality on the ground, what you are doing. May Allah make it easy for us to become role models. If you are not going to be a role model for your children, don't expect those children to succeed. It's the help of Allah that may make them succeed. But there is a greater chance if you continue to pray to Allah and try your best. Keep on trying. Ensure that you have looked after them. You have eradicated your bad habits. This is the way that Allah has taught us. So without knowledge, we will not be able to achieve. Secondly, without sincerity, we will not be able to achieve. What is sincerity? You are sincere for the sake of Allah. Sincere towards your fellow brothers and sisters. Sincere towards the message of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ through Rasulullahﷺ. I need to be sincere. My heart needs to be clean. When you have a dirty heart, it is filled with jealousy. Envy, hatred, enmity, negativity, that which is bad. We don't need that type of a heart. We need to be sincere. In the same way I want goodness for myself, I want it for the rest. None of you are considered true believers until you love for another. What you love for yourself. Why is that? That would mean that you cannot call yourself a believer in Allah if you only care for yourself and you don't care for others. You cannot call yourself a believer because you might be praying whole day, but you have not reached out to the other creatures of Allah. So much so that when you come to pray, the hadith says, never mind benefiting people, don't harm them even if it was just through your bad breath.  You don't even know you're confused. And the hadith says don't do that.  You don't want people to come to the house of Allah and then they are affected by something bad that you have said or done or even by an odor. And then they say I don't want to go back to the house of Allah. When I went there I was feeling sick. Who would be the reason and the cause you and I if we did not cleanse ourselves. For that reason there is something known as wudu.  Subhan Allah. You wash your feet in the wudu. Have you ever thought of it? Some people break their wudu through going to the toilet. Some people break that wudu through the passing of wind. Some people break that wudu in a different way. But every one of them has to wash in the same way. Subhan Allah. For as long as it's just wudu that you need to do. No matter what you have to wash in the same way. I have to wash my feet as well. I have to wash my face as well. I have to wash my hands as well. I have to rinse my mouth as well. I have to clean my nose. Why? Because I am cleansed spiritually, physically and I need to arrive at such a level that I don't harm others with a foul smell. You know you and I walk whole day, right? Well if we don't walk then we work I hope. What happens to your feet?  What happens? A lot of the times you have this musty smell. You know salty smell. Something because you know your feet are in shoes. Compact whole day the heat etc. You take it out. What do you have to do? You wash those feet before you can read salah. You need to come for the sake of Allah with clean feet. Wow. Amazing. If you don't have wudu you will make it. Part of that ablution before you pray includes ensuring that your feet are washed. So no one can say subhanallah the place is smelling of people's feet. I am in the house of Allah subhanahu وatala right now. None of us would have our shoes on. But guess what? There is no odor or smell of socks or feet etc. Because all of us are clean. We have cleansed before we came here. What was it for? Yes for your spirituality for your physical cleanliness. But over and above that you need to know it was also in order to be able to protect others from the harm of the odor that you might release had you not washed yourself. That is called maintaining the standard that is a high standard. Very high standard. If that is the case I need to go beyond that. I need to benefit people. I need to worry about and think about ways that I can help people in whatever I am doing. People say how do I serve Islam? Serving Islam is not only getting up and teaching people. It's not only getting up and lecturing. It's not only leading the salah or standing on the mimbar. All of us in our own way we should be thinking how can I serve humanity at large. What can I do for my neighbors? What can I do for those who live with me? What can I do for those whom I interact with? What can I do for the poor, the needy? Those who have suffered when a flood came. Those who are struggling the widows, the orphans. The concern if you have it makes you a good Muslim. But wallahi we've become so selfish. We forget about everyone besides ourselves. It's a reality. The Prophet says he who is concerned about the orphans and the widows is similar in reward to the one who stands in prayer, the one who fasts every day. Subhanallah. Where are we? Secondly, if we are not going to live as Muslims, how will we as I said at the beginning of this talk showcase Islam to our neighbors, to those whom we live with, when will they realize what we are, who we stand for, meaning what we stand for and who we are. When will they realize that? We need to start thinking how do you reach out to your non-Muslim neighbors, those whom you live with. Can I show them my kindness, the kindness that was taught to me by my faith, my Islam? Am I an honest person in business when I deal with the non-Muslims? Do they see that I am different because I am honest? When I interact with those who don't like Islam, do I leave a mark such that they have to at least not their heads and say I met one good guy from the Muslims? They shouldn't just be saying one good guy, they should be saying these guys, they are honest. Let's face facts, what happens today? Today when the Muslims give you something you need to watch out, you need to be careful. Tables have turned, right? When someone says I'll pay you just now five minutes, that five minutes can become five years sometimes. Five years and you are still fighting for your money. That should not be the case. My brothers and sisters, we are taught that society and community can drift whichever way it wants to. You don't drift, you must remain on the straight path. Every day we say in Salat, today we repeated it. Guide us to the straight path. Guide us to the straight path. We are saying it so many times, have you thought about it? When you want something, when you want a job, you go to someone and you say please give me a job. If you were to ask that person seventeen times a day give me a job, please give me a job, please give me a job. But you don't even know what you're asking. Sometimes he's telling you okay come for the job, but you haven't even heard him because you don't even know what you're saying. You keep repeating this and you know what? You've lost the job. The reason is you're not concentrating. You're just saying a statement that you've now forgotten the meaning of. What happens to us? We ask Allah for guidance, but we are saying a statement we don't even think about. Oh Allah guide me, but I'm not trying to achieve that guidance. Oh Allah guide me to the straight path. Salatul Fajr I'm snoring. Oh Allah guide me to the straight path. Qu'ran I read it last Ramadan. Oh Allah guide me to the straight path. Salat I'm not even there. Oh Allah guide me to the straight path. I'm swearing, shouting, screaming and being vulgar. Oh Allah guide me to the straight path. I cannot quit smoking. Oh Allah guide me to the straight path. I don't leave and quit adultery and fornication, immorality and evil.  جو دے سے جو جو پہنچ میں ایسا کے ہاتھا جائے۔ ہمارے جانتے ہیں، ہمارے دے کے حضرہ اس لئے لیے۔ آپ پھر کس کرتے ہیں ، کبھی بہت کتہ ہوتا ہے ، آپ کو چیزیائر کے چیزی swoją اپنا اگر سکتے ہیں لہذا آپ آپ اوانی급 کے لائے لگا کرتے ہیں اور آپ کو کس کرتے ہیں آپ کو کس کو اعطا煌ہتی ہوتا ہے ، آپ یہ بھی آپ کو بہت کتے ہیں۔ آپ نے کجودیں ، لہذا کیوں اور آپ کو بہت کتے ہیں ، آپ کو کچھ بات کتے ہے۔ کیوں کہ آپ کو سناپ کیا؟  And what is tastier than a big hug is a kiss. سبحان اللہ.. Did you just say kiss? Yes kiss. Not double S with four S's. . سبحان اللہ.. Its a bit longer.. You notice? Yes. مے اللہ سبحانہ وورتا علا.. Help us understand. It's very very valuable.. Its very valuable.. آپ کو پر تک تخلص ہوں۔ آپوں نے اینا کو اسی سبانوں کو میروحے آگالا ہوں یہاں سکتا ہے۔ آپ کے ایسےre 3، 4 سوپان اللہ کو محرطت کیا ہے۔ اندرس ایک رحل انہ جانتا ہے ، إنہوں کو باریکی اجاشتا ہے۔ بعامی کےوانا نے کہا ہوا، میرے محرط جانتا ہے۔ مرکہ جانتا ہوں جانتا ہے ، کورنی رحل میں محرط بیلے نکتا ہیں۔ پرھی کہتا ہے کہ ایسا playground کو محرط بیلے نکتا ہے۔ جانتا ہم ، کہتا ہے ، اس دیکھو دے نہیں ، خلالی ہے ، اس کے زیادہ 3-4 باکار کردیا ہے ، پر ابھی بوزوں سے کوئی وقتربشیت کیا کہہ سکتے ہے۔ اس سے ہیbalanced ایرaksہ دھو ہے ، دéisم کے مجھے ہمارے لیکن ، but we don't پر حیرت رہی ہے جس کیונים ہمی ملتنا کیوںہا ہے جانتا ہے کہ کسی سے بہت کے ساتھ ہوتا ہے۔ پہزیں کوئی آئی ہے ، جانتا ہوں ، I forgot that I have a family therefore I start committing adultery. You need to discipline yourself my brothers my sisters discipline is key. You want to have a happy life focus on what Allah gave you. Don't focus on what Allah did not give you. I'm saying that again. If you want to have a happy life focus on what Allah gave you. Don't focus on what Allah did not give you. You will become miserable. You will lose what you have. If you focus on what Allah did not give you.  کچھ اپنے الفون میں چاہتے ہیں ، پیشا اپنے یقامی کے ساتھ one شاق ہو 你 کا نلو میں راکھا جائے ہوں۔ انہوں یہاں بہت بہتا ہوں ، تو ہمینی کس اور اپنے نبی نبی pass پر آتا ہے کس انہوں نبی نبی نبی نبی نبی، آپ جو آپ کے بارے میں آپ کو اس جانے کو campsار کرتا ہے آپ پر آپ اکدہ ہےنا کھوی دیکھی ہے۔ آپ اکدہ دیکھیں۔ آپ اکدہ دیکھیں۔ ہم دیکھیں گے۔ ہم اکدہ آبار ہیں ، آبارت Anaہت ، کے لئے جانتا ہے ، yetا ہے لیکن آپ اللہ کے ساتھ آئے کے لئے جانتا ہے۔ یہ جب آپ اللہ کے ساتھ آئے wissen ہے ، کچھ میں ساگتا ہوں ، شاہت ہے بھی سے کونکتا ہے ، انہوں نے یہ بہت پر تتمہ بھی فرمزانا ہے۔ یہ لیکن تکارات ہے۔ یہ کے ساتھ ہم اللہ کے ساتھ Baby ساتھ آپ کو مصیقے کرنا کیا گیا ہے آپ کے بارے میں مصیقے کر دیا ہے کچھ ہموں کی بارے میں مصیقے کرنا کو آپ کو مراکھ دیا ہے ہمیں پہلوں کو معجون ہمارے میں کلنے کو مصیقے کر results جو ہمارے کیا کوشکن ہمیں کمانی طرح نہیں attention will بایا another pair of clothes every function we get every function new hairstyle every function new perfume well if اللہ chance what so much of money which is not the case in a lot of instances you need to know what you did with ہے کہ آپ کو کچھا ہے جائید ہے جو آپ کو پینا کرنے کیا ہے۔ کے ساتھ کہا کہ آپ کا اچھوئے کسی بھی کرنا کتے ہیں۔ ہے۔ آپ کو نہیں خوبطラ کرنا ہے جو آپ کو کچھا ہے۔ کیضاہر کل ایک لیتشت آپ جانا چاہتے ہیں ، ایک اندر ساتھ لیتا ہے ، وہ کچھ ہی پر بات ہے ، پر بات ہے ، جو وہ ایک新 لیتشت ہے جو آپ کو وہ ایک پرو رہا گیا۔起ی دوسری جانا ہوں۔ لیکن نہیں برانیو کہتا ہے ، یہ کچھ کلوڈنگوں ہیں ، اچھا اللہ if you find it within yourself to wear it or if you would like it take it if not please give it to someone else be respectful when giving someone something we call them hand me downs we are proud to receive them someone gives me something hand me down that I know I'm going to utilize or my children will utilize we would be helpful we would be thankful to Allah but my brothers and sisters gone other days when we think about one another we think about only ourselves when you see something good someone gave you something you want to purchase something do you think to yourself what does my neighbor have do you know in Islam if your neighbor is of a poor standing than yourself you should not allow your children to play with toys that your neighbors cannot afford did you know that the reason is their hearts will incline towards some negativity rather than positivity that's what will happen so if my children are playing with the latest toys and their neighbors are all poor people who cannot afford those toys what will happen there's going to be some jealousy in the heart there's going to be some sadness sadness to say the least in the hearts of those children they will look at your kids and say daddy please buy us this and father will say I can't afford it or he might say one day I will get you every day one day one day so what happens with the child father says one day I will get you son says when is one day coming so the father says count the days of the week Saturday Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday there is no one day one day never comes you heard the days of the week so this is a ploy of lying to the kids please I will buy you this one day don't say I will buy you this one day I will buy you this Monday then we are talking business Mashallah Monday my brothers and sisters we need to be so conscious of the people around us that when we cook food Islam teaches us that share it with your neighbors share it with those around us not that once the meat is burnt you say oh this is burnt go give it to the neighbors no we want to give them good things we want to give them that which they can make use of this is the religion that you are taught this is the religion of your Nabi صل اللہ علیہ وسلم may Allah bless us one of the biggest gifts look at the life of Muhammad صل اللہ علیہ وسلم he gave preference to others over himself there is one narration that speaks about how he gave a piece of clothing to a person who was asking him that he himself needed and he gave the piece of clothing the man came to ask he gave it and not only the messenger but he trained his companions such that if someone needs something it is very rewarding to give them that thing even if you were in need of that thing wow it's not compulsory to give them if you are in need but it's rewarding where do we get this from the Quran praises the Quran praises the Ansar the Ansar are the people of Madinah منورا when the people of Makkah came Allah says وَاِوْ اِتِرُونَ عَلَى اَنْفُسِهِمْ وَلَوْ کَانَ بِهِمْ خَصَا صَا they gave preference over themselves to others even though they were in dire need of what they were giving away سبحان اللہ I'm sure you know of so many stories of how the Ansar were ready to share whatever they had half half how many of us are ready to share not with Mohajireen who came from Makkah with our own brothers and sisters we have a war in the house because I have more you have less sometimes sometimes the wives say how come they have this we don't have this my brothers my sisters I go back to that point concentrate on what Allah gave you don't concentrate on what he did not give you be focused upon what he gave you if you want to look at what he did not give you you will be depressed did he not give you food yes you see from amongst us they are some who are very wealthy we are sitting in the house of Allah they are sitting in the midst of those who may not be wealthy right so if I were to share with you something interesting a man who goes to Shangri-La to have coffee and the other man who had coffee at home sometimes the coffee at home might taste better and guess what it costed 110 and he enjoyed it and he filled himself let's say it was a meal for example and in no ways am I belittling Shangri-La I'm just giving you an example that man spent 100 US dollars and he ate a meal this man spent 1 US dollar and he ate a meal Allah filled both bellies one spent much more than the other the chances are the more you spent on the meal the chances are the less healthy the food was you find a poor man spending 1 dollar a day on his meals what will he eat it will be healthy he's got no time for all these fries grime food perhaps desserts with a lot of sugar in it and so much of food that might be not so healthy etc it's possible he would probably be healthier how much did he spend one once they are both filled their bellies are filled both of them will refuse both of them will refuse nowadays there is a new generation of young people no matter how full the belly is the one young man was telling me uncle my stomach is elastic that's what I learnt at school you give me I will eat it I will eat it and then if you offer dessert what do they say dessert no matter how much you eat it finds its way into the gaps in the food so bring it on you know subhanallah that's enthusiasm I hope and I pray we could read salat with similar enthusiasm that you know the sunnah and the nafil it just fills the mistakes you might have made in the farad the shortcomings slight shortcomings so let's bring it on let's read more and more sunnah and nafil but that people won't do why because it requires great effort shaitan comes to you and says you fulfilled your salat farad you did walk out why should I walk out sunnah and nafil is not farad that's what shaitan comes to tell us sunnah and nafil is not farad the statement might be correct that sunnah and nafil is not farad but be careful at the conclusion that you arrive through that statement if that conclusion is going to make you abandon sunnah and nafil sorry sunnah and nafil if the conclusion is going to make you abandon sunnah and nafil by claiming that sunnah and nafil is not farad then you have arrived at the wrong conclusion but sometimes subhanallah you may want to say inshaAllah I am going to establish this I am going to get to it I call on myself and yourselves my brothers and sisters don't let yourself melt in the pot of walking out of the masjid or forgetting about your salat there is a sunnah where you can read or you should read your sunnah and nafil at home it is the only time you don't read it at home is when you know I am going to get lazy going to go home see my wife see my children see the food I will sit there a little while later I will be on whatsapp and so on and what will happen I am going to be lazy to fulfill the salat in that case better you fulfill it in the masjid before you go home the problem is a lot of the masjids now are offering free wi-fi free wi-fi free wi-fi what is happening they say no the youngsters are coming now Mashallah they are coming coming to the masjid all the youth are there why free wi-fi unlimited fast 5G have you heard of 5G well I haven't either so it's okay so my brothers and sisters it's interesting to note that when you become distracted you tend to turn away from Allah don't let that happen while you are in the masjid you fulfill your salat before you go home read 2 more units read 4 more units read your sunnah a few times read your nafil get used to it without forcing yourself to do good you will never get used to that good you will melt in the pot many of us fulfill our farad Mashallah we come we read farad we are gone we fulfill it at home I want myself and yourself to promise that we are going to work harder to be able to go beyond just the farad but you have to work hard on that it won't just come without working on it beautiful teachings of Islam lovely don't give up your faith learn to smile at people look at Muhammadﷺ when they harmed him he was kind to them when they did bad to him he did good to them how many of us are ready to do that when they harm us what do we do never mind harm them we harm ourselves today the world is looking at the Muslims and claiming that Islam is a barbaric backward religion filled with hate and filled with extremism terrorism etc. all the isms that are negative are used against the Muslims what is our job our duty is to prove them wrong we are Muslims since birth in most cases since generations in a lot of cases we were never that way where did all this hatred come out from where did all this ignorance come from because we are melting in what materialism and ignorance lack of sincerity we lose sincerity I am no longer sincere sincere to whom a deen un nasiha do you know what that means the deen is un nasiha the term un nasiha would also translate as sincerity and genuineness because advice follows a genuine feeling when I see you doing wrong I will not advise you if I don't have a genuine feeling for you I will be happy that you are doing wrong you know when you are travelling on the highway I don't know if it's the case in this country but sometimes when there is a speed trap what happens people flash they flash at you what is the flashing all about they are telling you slow down some way down the line they are people trapping right so they flash which means slow down they care for you they care for themselves as well because if you are speeding sometimes I flash at people just to greet them but they don't realize they slow down subhanallah they slow down and as they passing you wave at them subhanallah you know they have a code that I don't understand some of the public transporters they have a code they flash each other they put out a finger 2 or 3 I don't know if that's supposed to mean 2 km down 3 km down I just put all 5 fingers but that's a genuine feeling you want the brother to slow down because you know AA8 you want to put everyone's life at risk not only your loved ones but mine too so it's better to have safer roads we care for each other because that's our life what about caring for each other for the sake of Allah to be able to advise you I need to have a genuine feeling towards you you see a person on the street and he is really wasting himself are you going to go to him and say uncle don't smoke he'll say who are you am I related to you do I look like your son that's what he will say yes I've heard young people say that you're not my father do I look like your son subhanallah you're a human being so am I I'm advising you people don't like advice but the genuine person will love the advice for as long as the one advising you is correct take it take correction if you don't take correction how will you excel and improve yourself however going back going back to the point I was raising and nasiha also means having a genuine feeling or being sincere towards sincerity towards Allah اللہی والی رسولی sincerity towards the messenger صل اللہ علیہ وسلم بہترے because for a moment let us talk about who he was صل اللہ علیہ وسلم the best of creation the most noble of all prophets the most perfect of the creation of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ the one whom we expect his intercession on the day of qiyama صل اللہ علیہ وسلم he whom if we were to hear his name and we did not say صل اللہ علیہ وسلم we would actually be insulting ourselves and if we were to say صل اللہ علیہ وسلم Allah would give us a reward سبحان اللہ سل اللہ علیہ وسلم سنسیر سنسیرٹی تووڑز the messengers مینس I will learn about him I will follow his example I will follow his ways his words I will ensure that I appreciate the fact that I am one of his followers one of the امہ of محمد صل اللہ علیہ وسلم then we have سنسیرٹی تووڑز our leaders جنوانیس تووڑز our leaders سنسیرٹی تووڑز سنسیرٹی تووڑز them some people they wait for an ڈالیم a scholar to make a مستیق in his speech one mistake and they get him sometimes not even a mistake but a سوند by it and they want to nail him like we said it earlier nail it that is not جنوانیس you will damage the deal someone's made a mistake correct them go to them ask them speak to them be جنوان about it imagine you here let me give you my example I must have spoken millions of words I surely have made a few mistakes I'm a human while I'm speaking whether it's a linguistic error sometimes this ایرہ that ایرہ I have retracted some of what I have even said I have corrected myself many times سبحان اللہ because we are human beings if you are too پراوڈ to admit that you were wrong you will never succeed you will never succeed but it requires جنوان پیبل to come forth to correct us someone might come and say brother you know in language you made a mistake brother when you were quoting the verse you made an error brother this is a view you mentioned there is another view I have become more understanding of different opinions we understand them much better than before because as you progress you learn more and more سبحان اللہ so what should it do to you it softens you it makes you appreciate people it makes you love people it makes you care for people that is true sound knowledge coupled with جنوان نس when you see others you are filled with love why they are part of your family they are part of the امہ or they are part of humanity and you have a responsibility towards them social responsibility spiritual responsibility religious responsibility whatever other responsibilities you have including environmental responsibilities you need to ensure that you don't go out destroying the the the infrastructure and the environment the ecosystem because others have to benefit from it and you will ensure that you plant a tree where possible because the حدیث says whoever benefits from its shade and its پروٹ the plan will be getting the reward for it amazing so my brothers and sisters what a beautiful religion we have I was telling you this جنوان نس and sincerity towards one another we should be feeling that beautiful feeling of love and kindness and I want to tell you if you look at people and you feel hate towards them you are the one who is sick if you look at people and you feel hate towards them who is sick who needs help you need help because you should be feeling a feeling of goodness when they are going wrong you might not like what they are doing I can hate a bad deed I dislike with a passion immorality for example I may hate drugs but the one who is on drugs I care for him enough to want to see him off that addiction that is bad for him you follow what I'm saying our parents our mothers our fathers they pray for us even when we are going astray the same should be for all of us black and white short and tall rich and poor from this tribe or that this side of the world or that we are all brothers and sisters we are all one that's what we are we care for each other and at the end of the day what was your duty to try I tried to help him unfortunately he didn't accept my help what should I do I will keep on trying in a beautiful way to help him maybe I might die and he might not be helped during my life but after I die he will remember my words and he will then come right what happened I will receive a reward how many of us our parents tell us so many good things we don't listen to them when one parent dies we start thinking my father was right we changed our ways we changed our habits I remember a family of wealthy people and one of them was not so wealthy and the father passed away when the father passed away the wealthy were just waiting for that wealth of the father who was also wealthy to be distributed so that they could become more wealthy and the one who was poor he was the only one who used to make dua for his father and tell people my father was a really great man subhan Allah I'm not saying the others forgot their dad but what I am saying is the life of this one changed after his father went away and he used to say my father was a very good man may Allah grant him Jannah so my brothers and sisters remember people can also benefit from you and what you tried to give them after you went away and if they did not still you have the reward with Allah Allah will not nullify your reward you tried you worked hard that was Allah Subhanahu و تعالی he gave you he bestowed upon you the opportunity and you seized it that is a Muslim now when you help others come towards goodness what will happen when you help others come towards goodness the minimum is you will be پروٹیکٹد from evil if I keep reminding people of salah my brother's salah my brother's salah what will happen come time for salah I'm going to feel guilty I'm telling everyone to fulfill salah and here I am not even interested in it you see that's going to affect us negatively so we get up and we fulfill the salah you keep on helping people to come out of bad Allah will save you from that bad keep on reminding people about good Allah will give you the acceptance to do that good let's not be selfish my brothers and sisters let's think about others whether it's materialistic things whether it's our wealth our clothing our food our shelter etc reach out to others who don't have and even in religion reach out to others perhaps who might not understand who may not know guide them help them even in their habits if they are bad habits guide them they will appreciate it this is why when someone is sick and ill it is a sooner to go out to them and to be visiting in a way that will make them feel that they belong to community and society and people are caring for them when something negative happens to anyone it's our duty to go to them and give them a kind word you never ever go to a person who is suffering or who is sick and ill and you say let's go and visit the sick when you go to the sick say brother you are sick because it's a punishment of Allah he's punishing you and you're not going to get better because you were an evil man is that what we are told to say no no matter what that person has done you go and say may Allah grant you cure because the angels are saying oh Allah give the same to this man as well so when you say may Allah keep you sick the angels will say oh Allah give this man that as well so you have no option but to make a good dua that's why be careful وَلَا يَحِقُ الْمَکْرُ السَّیْئِ اُو اِنَّا بِ اَهْلِهِ you know the evil plot and plan is not befitting according to Allah's words the evil plot and the evil plan is not befitting anyone besides the one who deserves it he who deserves it for example you may have plotted evil against someone not realizing that that same evil is what will result in your downfall and the upliftment of that particular person it has happened in societies communities in nations as well you plan the downfall of another perhaps that was the plan through which Allah wanted to raise you a quick example that comes to my mind is that of you some علیہ السلام his brothers were planning his downfall as a result of that particular plan he became higher than them had it not been for that plan no one knows where he would have been سبحان اللہ so this is why we say we visit people we visit the sick and the ill in order to give them a good word let them smile it is a time to resolve matters you hear that someone is not well go to them speak to them nicely may Allah cure you may Allah grant you goodness may Allah forgive me and you may Allah forgive us all etc perhaps if they have had a dispute with you they might say brother forgive me I caused the problem let's resolve it you know you don't go and lift your sleeves and say right brother you're on your death bed solve this problem otherwise you're going to go to Allah and you're going to have an issue no no no there is a way of speaking you need to understand and realize you go to them and you will speak with kind words goodness may Allah cure you may Allah bless you someone passed away in a family go to the house and make a dua for example say may Allah give them جنہ سبحان اللہ they will be happy right reach out to them phone them if they are at a distant land and say may Allah give them جنہ forgive their sins اِنَّا لِلَّٰهِ وَ اِنَّا إِلَٰهِ رَجِعُونَ my brother we share your loss we feel your pain why do we do this we do this because at a moment where people are suffering loss they are on an emotional level that is ready to accept a lot of goodness a lot of goodness a person's business burnt down you go to him and say brother don't worry Allah will return to you more than what was taken away from you those good words will make him smile give him ریا شورنس give her the ریا شورنس someone went through a divorce you don't go and say yes now let's fix those x in laws of yours the x is gone they will be happy with someone else i want to pause for a moment because we melt in this pot a lot of the times do you know what happens to us in the case of marriage we become hypocrites in the case of divorce we become even bigger hypocrites sometimes you find very religious people very religious they read salah they claim to be giving zaka they read quran you find them doing lots of good but when it comes to marriage they follow their desires they don't follow what Allah and his rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam have taught what is it my son wants to marry this person no no i don't agree but sheikh my brother you read salah in the first self you are supposed to be close to Allah Allah tells you if the dean is okay the achlaq is okay let it happen no they are not from my tribe they are not from my part of the world they are not from this clan they are not from here and they hang on those are words of jahala and ignorance gone are those days gone are those days if you belong to Allah you understand that person also بلانس to Allah they could be better than anyone you could have come up with i know of parents who have very good children who have married where the parents want and they are suffering as a result of the wrong choice made by the parents i know and i'm sure you know so many like those don't you i heard a few yes's there masha Allah may Allah forgive your parents wallahi it's a crime against humanity it's a crime against humanity to force your kids to marry someone crime if they don't want tell them i'm your father it will not happen if you are not happy it's not going to happen and if they want something for as long as it's not haram my brothers and sisters let it occur be happy for it solve your problem you will not have an answer for Allah on the day of judgment if you block something Allah allowed i repeat that you will not have an answer for Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ on the day of judgment if you blocked and stopped something that Allah allowed Allah allowed it but you say no i'm not allowing it who are you اللہ اکبر may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ make us realize our mistakes don't melt because the rest are there everyone has a big wedding you want to have a big wedding سبحان اللہ very big wedding have a simple one start a new trend have a simple wedding we cannot afford to get our daughters married because we don't have the money to have the party what party buy a few sweets from across the road and give them in the masjid and that's it that's your walima nothing wrong i gave it i gave a bit of food i loved the culture here in the masjid they give a small pack of food am i right small pack that was so beautiful after that you don't even need a function do you know that that's enough as a walima if you want to have the function الحمدلہ اللہ be careful even if you are wealthy wealthy have a simple function to make it easy for others stop setting a trend on a mark where people are melting in your pot they don't know they cannot get married because it's too expensive they come and borrow and imagine you got so many daughters so many sons what's going to happen اگر آپ دوگہ جس کے دیتے ہیں ایک کامیون نے رسول اللہ سلام کے شخص مرسول اللہ who walked into a house in order to ask for his friend who was waiting outside according to one narration okay it's the point i want to raise from it and he says you know what i have so and so he wants to marry your daughter that's how simple it was today we make یہہذا کہ جانتے ہیں جی جاتا ہوں کہ آپ کے بارسلس کو ہرے گا جانتے ہیں ، آپ فاجرلہ آپ سکتے ہیں یہ مبارک پر ہے جاتھنا ہے جاتھ کسی جانتے ہیں ان پاسلس ہے جو یہ ہم ہم بذارہ سکتے ہیں ہم باہن جانتہ ہیں جو ہمیں کوئی بارسلس سکتے ہوکیں گے یہ ایک خواہت نہیں ہے سبحان اللہ ان کشت کامے والا Wuhan س گھاتی ہے جو یہ جاتے ہیں یہاں جانتی ہے جس میں جو مستقیص جو آئیی شاہت کیا جاتا ہے جو ایک پٹک فیلیپ ، پٹک فیلیپ ، آپ کھانا بھی اس قیلت ہے۔ تو بہت پرکی ہے ، اسی بہت بہت پر کھانا ہے۔ انہوں نے کچھ دنیاہ بارے میں لوگوں سے خوادہ کر دے گا ، کہا کہ وہ بہت کھانا can لیب۔ میں نے کہا کہ پھر بہت کھانا کیا ہے۔ میں نے کہا سبحان اللہ ، جانا یہاں۔ پھر بہت کھانا کیا ہے۔ کیا آپ کیا کرتے ہیں؟  آپ نے آپ کیا دوسرہ کا حضرتہ کیا ہے کہ آپ کی کوئی آپ کو جاتا ہے اور آپ کی جلگتے ہیں تو دوسرے اور آپ کی کوئی آپ کو کیا ہے۔ اور آپ جانتے ہیں کہ محفظ یہ غیب سے لکھان ہے کہ آپ conference لیکن اس کے پر جبہ لکھا ہے اللہ حکم۔ اب ایک محفظ اور محفظ مجھا ہمارا ہمارا ہمارا ہے ، اس کے جبئے مجھے مجھے ہمارا ہمارا ہمارا ہمارا ہے ، حیث جانتا ہے ہمیmates پر خلالہتارتر ہیں کیوں کہ چھوبرنیں نوزیت بارے میں باتار ہیں کہ آپ نے چھوبرن ہیں آپ مجھے ا اپنی آپ کے ساتھ لیاہی کو معامل کرتے ہیں ایجاڈ کے ماما ایجاڈ کے بارے میں آپ اپنی آپ کو کھوپر لیاہی ہے کبھی نہیں ہے کہ آپ میں شامل کرنے کی تک ہوتا ہوں مجھے انہوں کے ماما ایجاڈ کے لئے آپ اپنی آپ کو ایک ساتھ جانتے ہیں پر ہیں وہí 셋 ہاںノ ف relentرا compreh ساتھ آن Peach کہو ح τاکہ سے بہت انسان سے جانا ہی ہے پوری یہاں check ایک ہونے کو ھدي کی وہ Mayo بھی ف continuation عفدہ کی boleh جاتا ہے بہت کے عشences تیارہ اور بسیارہ ش shifts ایک مد cácشانٹ9 ل کسی ایک مدارہ جانا اور شarntorgeous بخborough کے ب 색깔یکAnother ہم سے بہت مجھے جائے Jurassic beingfter کہ ہمھن بہت سمجھنا اور انہوں نے ایک کتا کسی کسی گرمہ کرنا کی ضرورت ہے اور کیونکہ سے یہ کرنا سکنا ہے کہ وہ معلومہ بھی کتا کرنا ہے ہے کیونکہ اگر میں آپ مدنی جانتا ہے کہ آپ مدنی کہتے ہیں کہ آپ کی صحالہ سبحانہ و تعالی desserts ہوں تو اللہ کی سبحانہ ہوتی ہیں جو آپ نے یہ کیا کرتا ہے آپ نے یہ جانتا ہے another very interesting point we for a small matter that we might have جو سراکھتے ہیں ہمارے کو سبہی جانویں سکتے ہیں۔ ہی مرد منحج سے بڑھتے ہیں، چلس۔ میں جو آپ کو بھی تھا۔ میں جو آپ کو بھی تھا ہوں۔ جائتا ہے کہ میں میں کو انہوں کو سبہ کے لبان پڑھاتا ہوں کے لبان ہے۔ چاہچا؟ کیوںکہ جب یہ دن کیا ہے کہ آپ کو پہنے میں جھنٹ نہیں کرتا ہےmon وہ آپ کو پہنے میں نہیں کرتا ہے۔ سبحان اللہ آپ کو ، اس میں مجھے ہمارا ہمارے جانا ہے۔ محالكونہ ، ہمارا ہوں کے بری جانا hoping انتبہ کرنا gele پر ایک برانک کر 메�ت کرنا ہوں۔ انتبہ ایک شہاتی تو آپ کو کے بارے میں پرہا ہے۔ آپ اپنیک بارے میں رہے ہیں ، آپ بっہر سے یہاں ہوئی جو ابھی پرہا ہے کہ آپ ماشالہ کے ساتھ آپ چاہے گا پہنکتا ہے۔ ایک برانک جانتے ہیں جو آپ ایک جو اللہ کے گارنے سے جانتے ہیں ، آپ ہم پر بریدو میں یہاں بھی برانک کرتے ہیں۔ جو کتھی ہے ، اللہ کے جانتا ہے جو ہم because ہم بہت سے سببے کے ساتھ بارے ہیں۔ اللہ کے بہتحای بہت ہی بہترین ہے کہ یہ Why all of us seated here that we will have some flaw some fault some person knows is this way eyes are this way tears that way is this way cheek is that way finger is this way nobody here is perfect it was only Muhammad صلى اللہ علیہ وﷺ one of the poets say it was as though he was created the way he wanted to be created صلى اللہ علیہ وﷺ دیکھیں ہمیں ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے سیر ہمارے ہمارے میں بارےosten کا مہنےہ منعزت پر بات رہے ہیں ہمارے ایک اپنے گوطر میں ہمارے ہر بسیرہ ہوتی ہیں انہوں کم خود دیتے ہیں آپ курان ہے یہ دوسرین دوسرین چیز میں بہت کم ہوتی ہے اور ایک اپنے گوطروں میں بہت کامک کو برد آرہا ہوں کہ کامک analیہ کے ساتھ ہے کہ میں کہو کردکہ دیتے ہیں لہذا ہمارے آرہنا نصل چیٹ فرمت اراد اندنے 얘기를 کرنے کیا نکنے کے بارے میں curios تک افانسے کیا if you're used to the air condition every day the minute you come out you will die of the heat and there's not even much heat the locals will tell you helicopter بیوٹی فل ویڈہ ادھیو تھی like a beautiful i'm dying here so sell also to get used to it sometimes we need to turn off these things it's okay to sweat it's okay sometimes because this is what makes you used to سید ہاتھا ہے ، same applies ، like I said earlier in my talk you want to get used to reading صلاح ، or even reading quran you will have to force yourself initially morning I will get up I will read صلاح تل فجر four you know اتنے دا سننہ اور تُو فرح after that I will sit for five minutes how many minutes five not more than five the same five fingers we were showing the guys who we were flashing lights to remember five you know only five minutes سکن angle کے بس والدھےuben جگہ ساعمت ہے کیونکسے۔ Thenadoor ممام تال کو sitcomوں آپ dresses ملEOangerم آپ رکھے ہے۔ آپ سا to fewer ممائی ہے پر accumulation جیزاہرoda مموتوں ہیں چیزاہرлед دی whooshingق آپ کے contrary tiresm an ممورμέی مم算�ے میں can طرح یہ یہ پر surgeries کب پادف ذ deploy حی devices رب�� علامی اسم ہے جیزا ها میں جیزا م었어요 ، اس کیا بہت انہیں Smoke اللہ your maker it is رب العالمین he has the solution in it for the sickness of the heart فیحی شیفا اُن لی ما فا الصدور he has in it the cure of all diseases my brothers and sisters may Allah strengthen us may Allah strengthen us so we don't evaporate and so we don't melt in the pot may Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ make us proud of our religion in a way that it humbles us when i say proud میں اولئے tray show میں واقاہی اسلام لنہاںarmed جاتا رہا ہے Изہiał ان کیllo élect چاہاہے Oder 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