That's so Marie. Let me ask you a question. Do you ever do you know of any guys who give mixed signals when it comes to dating mating or relating? Yeah, all the time. Oh, really? Like, why do you think men give mixed signals? I think they want to keep women on their toes. They don't know what they want. They want to, I don't know, they want to get in your pants. Yeah, you're covering a lot of them. What does that mean to keep you on your toes? I'm curious. I don't know. Some men just they don't know what they want. So they give you mixed messages. Yeah Well, this is up to you to figure that one out. So isn't that the case?  I know that wasn't you. Okay But mixed signals is something happens and and what's worse with mixed signals is You know the capacity of string someone along because you said being you so I'm gonna share today for our audience the four Categories men put women in when they meet them for the very first time on a date And what's interesting is as I was preparing for this I was actually thinking about this with respect to our first date So I'm curious to hear what you think I did. Well, I think you'll know so well The first category is when a man okay So what I'm about to share is when a man is meeting you for the first time This is where he decides which category you're going to be in and you definitely want to stick There's four of them and I want you to Stick through no, what's the word I'm gonna stand by till we get to the fourth because this is critically important It actually relates to what Marie just said a moment ago So the first category are the men that just want to sleep with you Okay, now that's either a one-night stand sleeping or maybe a friends with benefits type of dynamic Okay, okay now I'm gonna assume that you've had or you have friends who have had guys who come on very strong and Try to sleep with you or someone on the first date. Yeah, okay now I'm sleeping on the first date isn't necessarily a Sign that he's going to you know be a one-night stand, but I would say and would you agree It's probably 99% of the time. It's a one-night stand. I On the first day. Well, I I don't know I didn't do that. So okay, okay So you didn't do that, but I'm just gonna assume that you'll well I would say most everybody would agree with me Usually when a guy is pushing for sex on the first date He either just wants to sleep with you that one time or he puts you in the friends with benefits zone In other words, he's only in it for the sex So, but how do you know that is it possible that he's just testing the waters to see how you respond to something?   We don't have the time to mess around You know and what's worse and I've heard this from women as well They want to actually have sex with a man sooner rather than later because they don't want to end up with a dud Okay, and there's a lot of duds out there, right? Yeah. Well, there's a lot of fixes for the duds Yes, there are fixes, but there are a lot of guys that aren't even good at sex, too There's a lot of guys that are jack-hammers and they don't even know how to find, you know, the spot so to speak Okay, okay. All right. So the next category is the man. Okay, so there's four categories is the is the category where he sees her He has a really good time with her and he says I want to date her. I Want to date her. Okay. Okay. Like honestly when we had our first date I was sitting in the date and I was like I would like to date you. I'd like to explore this I mean, did you get that vibe from me? I Don't remember. I just remember We're both weighing things out. Yeah, but he lives far. I'm not sure but I'll be candid with you I have put women in that I knew right off the bat They weren't the one but they were the one for that night Yeah, I'm gonna make the best of it. Okay, so but the category of a man who wants to explore a relationship What he does different than the man that wants to sleep with you is he paces himself at a different pace He's not rushing the relationship. It's like right. It's kind of like Goldilocks, you know, it's not too much It's not too little. It's just right You know when a man wants to date someone he's not pressuring her if there's a sense of ease with that person I mean, wouldn't you say that happen with us? Yeah, that happened with us. Okay I'm just thinking of this one guy in particular. Nice as guy went out with them gosh quite a few times But they were like weeks apart kind of thing But it was I just felt like it was just too slow Regression, okay, so I you know, I just kind of got bored. Yeah, so that's a good That's so that's a person that we're gonna talk about in the fourth category. Okay Now the third category a guy puts you in on a very first date is I'm just not that into you You know, he's like he's like I'm gonna pass on this person and usually he doesn't follow up on a first date He might say something like oh, let's see each other again or I'll talk to you sooner that sort of thing But that's just because he wanted to get out of there, you know But those men usually are the ones they've already made up their mind They're going to pass and you rarely ever hear from them after that first date and that's just a very that's a category We men do we do we want to sleep with them? Do we want to date them or do we want to pass on them? Here's the category that most women find themselves in today's marketplace dating marketplace And I'm gonna share this with everyone and you're not gonna like what I'm about to say is That he's going to use you and what I mean by use you is these are men who are deeply wounded They have childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas That have gone unhealed and what they oftentimes are seeking occasional companionship occasional connection occasional sex or worse You become his therapist In other words, you're each talking about your wounds and your traumas With each other you feel like you're bonding with this person and this happens a lot of times in cyber connections It amazes me how many people have text relationships and not actually physical relationships with them Have you known friends of yours that have experienced that? Oh, yeah From people overseas too, and it's like well, when are you going to? Tunisia Like when are you gonna go to Germany or France now? I want to differentiate between the scam artists that are pretending that they're overseas But I'm talking about even here in the United States where two people connect sometimes its distance They've gone through a contentious divorce or they're going through a contentious divorce Or they've gone through a breakup and you begin to have conversations with them talking about their past Relationships, but they're actually using you as their therapist and that's a category that men are Unconsciously choosing see the first three categories. I want to sleep with you. I want to date you Or I just want to pass on you. Those are conscious. It's these men which are doing this Unconsciously using you because they're operating from a place of having their own needs met What do you have and do you have any thoughts on this on the men that use women and They don't do it intentionally is what I'm now and you know when you're dealing with wounded people Yeah, you just don't know what's gonna happen and plus they're they're seeing other people They're they're doing all these meet and grits, too So they're also weighing you out based on the person they met yesterday or the day before and stuff So it's not Sometimes you don't have a chance even before you get there. Well, okay, so there's the wounded man Who's out there dating but there's a lot of wounded women out there dating. I mean, believe me I I I've gone on so many first dates and I mean I could literally I can share with you Oh, you might like this or you may not like this I could be sitting across a woman on a first date and I could see every man that's ever hurt them Standing right behind them on the first date. You didn't see that with me. Did you? All right, so you willing to allow me to be a little bit forthright with our eyes. No No, I first I because we spent time unpacking our past relationships I briefly wondered if you were stuck in those relationships What impressed me was and both folks I really would like to lean into this for a second Marie had done something in her childhood called Life spring, okay, which was I think it was a akin to Landmark and it was came from s the people that started right. Yeah, so folks if you're not familiar with s This is one of the first personal development Workshops that came out in the 60s and the 70s that eventually Turned into life spring or there was a derivative of that and then now S turned into landmark now I had done something called the Hoffman process I done inside Institute, but it wasn't that just that you did life spring It's that you did the naked divorce and naked recovery Do you mind talking about I did I did life spring when I was 18 And that started me in like the right direction because I had a lot of childhood issues to deal with But the naked divorce is the one that I chose to do right after I got divorced because it was you know it was a very painful divorce and I Knew I needed to heal from that or I wasn't gonna be able to move forward I wasn't in any position Just emotionally to even contemplate dating. Yeah, and it was the best thing I did By the way, I put the banner right there for everyone to see so you worked with Adele Adele is amazing And she had she offers different types of programs now. They've really expanded but Adele I I cannot recommend her enough She's just great and she I Thought you know, I'm just one of thousands of people that she that she Has has treated you know been in this program I did a one-on-one program with her in in Thailand because I just wanted to go away to do that and When we spoke with her. Yeah, we actually talked about a few months ago And I mean she remembered everything about me and I'm like gosh.  Tells me that we all have residue from our past relationships. We have residue It's just natural to have that little bit of slime from it if you will and I don't mean that in a contentious way But for some people it's not just slime They are covered with residue from their past relationships, and it makes them very difficult to lean into a new relation And a new relationship also brings up things that you didn't know They just trigger certain things. Yeah So coming back to you know the category men put women in I'm bringing this up because Here's the thing and I said this in a video the other day Most men are good people ladies. They are good people. They're not evil most men aren't evil people I think men. Yeah, I think men are trying to protect themselves as well.  That was just this But I'm really talking about the wounded men the guys who go slow the guys who have been hurt my point in bringing this up is Just because a person is not emotionally mature has poor relationship skills That doesn't make them a bad human being it just makes them a human being We are all riddled with flaws women are riddled with flaws men are with riddled with flaws The problem with this is these men are Unconsciously putting you in the category of using and you're not aware of it. So how do we spot these guys? Okay, that's the real question How do we spot the men who are what I call the spenders and these are men who want to spend time with you? But they're incapable of a deeper commitment. These are the men who are wishy-washy Well, one of the reasons why I created my private coaching and why I help thousands of women attract great Relationships in their life is I want to teach you how to weed out the men who are going to put you in this user category So by the way, there's a link in the description below to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you Here's a couple signs They've gone through a contentious divorce or they're going through a contentious divorce Have you ever met a man that was going through a nasty divorce? Oh, yeah, and did he angry angry, right? Very angry and you start. Hmm.   I'll be his savior Okay, someone who's going through a contentious divorce, okay What about and I'm gonna share with my own personal life after I lost my quarter million dollar I used to be insurance broker 20 years ago, okay, it's got actually 18 years ago. I was an insurance broker I started doing this about 15 years ago But back then I lost my quarter million dollar your job I was emotionally devastated and I didn't know how I could even take care of myself So in that space I wanted companionship. I wanted connection. I wanted sex But there was no way I could commit to someone because I couldn't take care of someone. That's another thing if they're not financially in a good place It's one of the fundamentals of being I'm gonna say being a man is that ingrained Feeling of being the provider and protector and not that we have to pay all your bills But we have to want to take care of you Hmm, and if a man isn't in a good place in his life if the ground underneath him doesn't feel solid He's gonna put you in the category of using you and what I mean is he because he wants some companionship He wants some connection. He wants sex, you know, but he's gonna be wishy-washy So those are the two telltale signs the other telltale sign is people that we talked about covert incest before So there are men and women who have an emotional bond to one of their children such a high emotional bond to one of their children that they use their child as their therapist and unfortunately this child can be the Can be the the linchpin in making the relationship a disaster, right? Okay, and and you're saying that from personal experience. So Folks we have to be really mindful that just because someone's a good parent doesn't mean that they don't have an unhealthy Relationship with their child.  Well, I think okay, so you're right and this is the tricky part This is why I teach radical honesty Prequalifying your prospect. This is all about asking the deeper questions asking medical questions, you know I don't think people lie per se, but they might hide the truth Well, everybody's in fear that they'll be rejected because of it. Sure. I know women who have been concerned whether they have you know a You know MS Lyme disease that sort of thing fear But it's also addressing that and sharing how this may or may not affect the relationship You know in some cases it may not have any material bearing on the relationship but when I'll share I'll share my situation, okay I have essential tremor and it's hereditary and There are medications that that tame it and basically I just shake but someone that that doesn't know that it's benign They'll think that I have Parkinson's or something so I mentioned that early on because I was changing a medication and and then you know it was showing up more and You did you told okay? Well, right? So let me share this part of the story. So I remember Marie her hand was shaking on our first date and I'm like, oh, that's kind of interesting and I was like asking you about it I thought I was nervous and I'm like, oh, she's nervous No, so she shared with me. She has what's known as essential tremors are also known as benign tremors In fact, isn't it odd? We know like four people now that have that. Okay, so I was telling my my dear friend Tammy about this She's like my my wing woman if you will and she's like wait a minute. You don't want to get involved with a person that has medical issues Well, I did my own research, but I immediately said this to Tammy I like you too much not to want to explore this in spite of what I saw And who am I to say I have hypertension, you know, I'm on medication. So my point is though our medical Where we stand in our health can directly affect how much we can give in a relationship So this isn't it's imperative to Recognize first off you're gonna tell the guy you're gonna be able to figure out the guys who want to sleep with you pretty quickly They come on strong and they disappear the guys are not interested in you You don't have to worry about that they don't follow up on a date The men who want to date you they pace it at a good progression.  They're inconsistent. They have uncertainty in their life They have they usually have contentious Relationships with X's and I'm here to say I don't want you to get used So do a better job vetting people in the early stages It's all dating is about screening vetting and filtering in and filtering filtering in the right prospect and Filtering out the wrong one. Is this sinking in? All right, do you have anything to share before we take questions? 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So thank you for being here Folks I will be candid Anyone who's a parent knows that our greatest fear Isn't is losing our child because we are given the assignment to be their protectors at any age You know, I'm sure with your children.  Yeah, and so it is a painful experience to know I couldn't protect him from his eventual Transition in life But at the same time I chose to grieve with love and that means to honor him is to do what I'm doing for a living I wrote my book. What the heck is self-love anyway a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work And I just want to share Where's the back cover? Oh? Bear with me. He's right there in the back cover. This book was inspired by him. His nickname is salty and I'm sharing this with everyone because Self-love is an antidote to suffering and I don't believe I could have Navigated the loss of my son if it wasn't for all the work I did in advance and then the book was a way that I could give back a Reflection of him and so being on this video tonight It's because I get inspired by him and every video because I love being able to make a difference in people's lives So thank you so much with that All right, let's talk about let's see if you have questions write the word question All right, let's see if we have any questions. Oh leaf says by the way Leafs in the house Thank you so much and thank you for that email. I really appreciate it.  What a waste of time exactly this is true for men that usually have it with their daughters And it's usually the mother that has it with their son So and you know from personal experience Okay Let's see Estat says 90% of men hook up for sex only You know what there is a sad reality today I believe dating sites these these things are devices the swipe devices has literally created a culture of hookup and Sadly easy sex the reality is is today a man doesn't have to make much effort These days to get laid. I'm sorry. That's kind of doesn't that's why it's up to you to decide whether That's something you want or you don't I that wasn't part of who I was and So I I just didn't go for that because I always think look I have just as many options as they think they have so Just as many options as they think they okay, I like that Yeah, we met you know, it's funny. I think the internet has created created this Perceived choice. We feel like we have all these options, but the reality is is we really don't if we boy I mean certainly a beautiful woman is probably gonna get hit on by thousands of men and a man who's wealthy tall dark and handsome He's gonna have his pick of a little jet and a jet. Okay. Thank you for reminding me of the jet I'm by the way. I'm ready to buy mine now. It's a little tonka toy jet Okay, but the the reality is is these days dating dating apps have literally turned 90% of opportunities into casual Hookups or casual relationships and what I mean by casual relationships is These user type of relationships and ladies a lot of you are are Engaging this as well and one of the things I see a significant percentage is cyber relationships I can't begin to I can't begin to count how many women are allowing what I call cyber relationships These are relationships where you're spending months months if not years Communicating via text message only rarely on the telephone Rarely on the telephone incessant communication and it's usually always the same thing morning handsome morning beautiful. Hey beautiful Hey, handsome. How's your day? What's going on in your day? It's just this Incessant dopamine hit through text messaging and it's not really creating bonds with another human being and so coming back To the user a lot of you women are also in the category of you're being used And you're also using it for that dopamine hit because the reality is is if you want to have a Day in day out relationship, and I'm physically touching Maria to Demonstrate this you have to physically see each other on a regular basis. Otherwise, you know, what's the point? Even you said listen we had distance involved in our dynamic you even said, you know The only way this is going to work if one of us lives near each other And you wanted to get out of chicago And I have kids here, so I've made sense for me even though you rather live in florida And that's a possibility once callin is a little more grown. All right, let's see what questions we have here Oh tallya says thank you jonathan marie for being so vulnerable with us today I keep connor in my prayers and i'm sending all love your way you make a difference. Oh, thank you so much We appreciate that All right, let's see what questions we have Oh, I love this marie. Can you show us your beautiful necklace? Oh, it's just a little diamond heart. I've had this for many years All right.  Oh, no Fast forward two years He was married. He's probably still married. Yeah, you know, it's interesting when we uh, it was a previous video I shot where someone asked a question. Why would a man turn off his phone on a date? And I didn't know the answer to that I was like and then what a lot of people were writing in the comments is because he's married And he's turning off that, you know, like how I can track your tesla We don't have that 360 app. She just happens to have a tesla and I'm on the app as well. So I I know where you're at I have nothing to hide Neither do I I mean our phones are out, you know with each other, but and we're we live together, but my point is Okay, first off you only have a text communication and your conversation is Smile for you. Okay. That's a tiny dopamine hit. You're experiencing that moment that makes you feel good Okay, and I understand we all want to feel good, but the bottom line is this It isn't real Until you're physically in each other's presence It is and by the way, it takes j shetty. We were watching a j shetty video the other day But he says it takes 40 hours of face to face time just to begin to get to know someone And I've always said it takes a hundred hours of face to face time And when I mean by face to face time, I mean quality face to face time To build the first layer of trust and j shetty goes on to say it takes 200 hours of face to face time Doing social activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends To develop a friendship with someone we can't do that via text messaging. It's called artificial intimacy So ma stop it Okay, that's my two does everyone agree with me regarding ma. Please let me know All right ronda writes a question Question for you both. Why would my friend suddenly stop calling me when he used to used to each day all day long I asked him and he said everything is fine. Then suddenly he's busy. He's always called no matter Um, I think he found another shiny object. Hmm. That's possible Okay, he's either found another shiny object Or he could be so deeply wounded that he it's reached a saturation point for him This happens when a man's emotional capacity is only in relationship to how healed he is on the inside So people who are emotionally wounded or have unhealed adult traumas They have a small capacity for connection. And yeah, they can text and call all day long Okay, but then it reaches a saturation point and they pull back. Okay Here's the thing. Wanda. Do you want to have a here's a question? I have for you Do you want a day in day out relationship where you physically go to the movies together? Or you go to dinner together or you spend time with friends together We're going away this weekend with a group of friends. That's called living life Doing it over text messaging. Yeah, it's experiencing a dopamine hit But is that going to be with you? Is that going to be the person that will wipe the vomit from your face if you're going through chemotherapy? Is it going to be the person that takes you to the shoulder doctor because you've got frozen shoulder? Is it the person that's going to drive you to You know the doctor's appointment because you're you're taking a volume that day and you're out of it See, that's at least in my world. That's what matters most Wanda. So that's what I invite for you Uh Susan says Jonathan I've been following you for about a month now and I can't thank you enough I have learned so much about me and mostly myself. Yay, man. I'm happy for you Hey, I've got to give props to bruni in memory of saltis birthday everyone Thank you so much for those super stickers super chats. We really appreciate and by the way We are going to be donating all of tonight's money that we get into Will you tell talk about seeds of love for just 30 seconds 30 seeds of love? It's a orphanage for children that have been abandoned and They are going through a terminal illness such as cancer and this is in columbia and Anybody that wants to know about maybe we should post that even though it's in spanish because I want The one lady asked us where it was right. We'll get the link. So the next time we talk about it I'll put that it's a really really sad situation. But um, or we're doing what we can Okay, thank you so much bruni. We really appreciate it Oh, we got to thank talia for the six dollar nine nine cents super sticker. Yay. I can't wait to donate that money All right, let's keep going. Oh, okay.  However, if you'll sleep with me, that's okay too. Does anyone remember the movie harry met sally Yes, do you remember that? Okay. Do you remember the conversation sally had about men can't sleep with women Men can't be friends with women because they want to sleep with them Well, I think a lot of men think that way. Okay, and then she goes on What about the unattractive women he goes I want to sleep with them too Oh Okay men's threshold for who they sleep with is so much lower than their threshold or who they want to be in relationship with Coming back to the categories men put we know on the very first date Are you some we someone we just want to sleep with someone we want to date someone we don't want to see again And unfortunately the dysfunctional men put every woman in the user category Well, they actually can put them in anyone No, the wishy washy men can only put you in the category sleeping with you or using you. Okay But based on what you say all men Probably want to sleep with you if you're gonna Allow that to happen Well, you know, I mean You know, I would you have said no If you if I if I if I well if you said I want to sleep with you john, no, I wouldn't have said no But you know, you thankfully you have a lot of class So um with that said um I still actually if you did I would have been saying no no no no no no no and then I would have said yes Because I wanted to pace it because I liked you and when you like someone we don't want to screw it up Okay, okay. All right. Camille asks Are you going to marry each other? How long will you wait? Are you going to have an engagement party first? Is it okay to do so after divorcing and having kids? So I think we just like where we're at right well, I'm gonna let you answer this one I don't think I'm ready to To contemplate getting married yet And I'm not saying that it won't happen. It's just right now We're still we're still to know each other. It's not it's not getting I feel like we know each other. I feel like There's there's no rush at our age There's no real rush because we're both capable of financially taking care of ourselves So we have that cover in other words. You're not dependent upon me. I'm not dependent upon you Second there are some legal ramifications associated with marriage at this age And so these are things to have conversations about and I think we will have those conversations I know we're gonna be here for two years Because we signed a lease. There's no timeline Yeah, I don't I don't feel it.  Well, I got married so young that I never dated so But when you're younger you're you're thinking of a family and a building alive and you know, I've already had all of that So I don't I don't feel the need that oh, we got a rush to get married But let me just say this and I can only speak for myself. I am fully committed to this relationship I adore and love this woman. I think you're fantastic and I do want to go the distance with you So and I hope you feel the same. Of course, I do. Um, I wouldn't have come this far Yeah, you know Marie made a big move coming out here So I give her a lot of props for that and you know what? I think like anything in life the you know, god universe spirit when the time is right We'll we'll definitely Be doing that. Okay. We'll know. Yeah All right, laurenny says or laurenna says question if you're not physically attracted to someone But they have desirable attributes. What are your chances of that relationship working out? You know what came to mind when I said that Did you ever see the movie revenge of the nerds? Oh, yeah Okay, there was this nerd that had a thing for the cheerleader and that cheerleader had no Physical attraction for that guy. He was a nerd. He was a nerd But she found himself uh in a dark place and she ended up sleeping with him without knowing it And he was such a great lover. She's like, what was I thinking? I love nerds now, you know, the thing is my feeling is this Men tend to fall in love through their eyes, you know, we are physical creatures But men women tend to fall in love between the ears and what I mean to say is If he has good character if he's kind if he's generous if he's a giver If he is a grown-up if he's emotionally respond if he's emotionally and physically responsible And you don't barf when you're looking at him Then I would give that guy a chance, you know, you you know, like you're not necessary You have never been you've told me you've never been picky so picky about looks It was more about their character. Yes And I I was with someone that uh was a long-term relationship and At first I just didn't see it but the more I spoke with him the more attractive he became um Unfortunately, it's the same one that became that I didn't even know it existed that there was other issues Yeah, well, let's not go down that road. Okay, so larney. I say, you know what if he's got really good qualities character And you don't barf when you're looking at him. Give him a chance. You might be surprised All right Right mccoy hill says a few text messages. I have with the head guys go. I miss you. I really like you We hardly know each other. Okay. I think what she's saying is why would a guy say I miss you? I really like you when we hardly know you. Okay. Here's the thing We men can experience what's known as limerence or limerence or lust lust is I want to have sex with you Limerence is I'm extremely infatuated with you and when we're feeling like even with you I was I was enthusiastic after our first date now I didn't love bomb you, but I was like I like you Do you remember I said that I like you and you even said the same thing to me So it's not uncommon when someone is feeling a sense of it Connection we're enthusiastic about it. It's really you have to notice the difference between Is he vomiting it or is it just spreading it out like, you know watering a plant? Okay At least you have to be mindful of that. That's what I would say in that particular case All right. What other questions do we have? Okay, here we go. Michelle says My boyfriend Using me if he wants to move in with me in my town home He does not have his own place and has been going on for two years. I know he has moved with his past girlfriend as well So I think your question is is he using me because he wants to live with you? Um, do you have any gut thoughts on that? Well, this is the first time I've ever lived with somebody so I don't I don't really know I mean Only other person I ever lived with I married her so I'm here So, okay So I do believe that there are a significant percentage of men and women This isn't singular to men but men in particular that are down on their luck financially or struggling financially And they seek out someone to support them to some degree maybe not fully But to take advantage of someone else's wealth. Let's face it women have done this through eons Okay to some degree. I'm not throwing women under the bus completely But I'm saying women have used men for their resources and now men are beginning to use women for their resources What you really have to ask yourself Is he a genuine human being? Is he a giver? Does he invest in the relationship? Is he kind? Does he have good character? Those are the questions you should be asking because just because someone may need your resources doesn't mean that they're a taker However, there's a good chance depending on how emotionally stable he is he might be using you So those are all good questions. I invite you to ask of yourself. So michelle. Thank you so much for that question You know, I I have a cousin that was living with a guy and it took her three years to get him to move out She couldn't get him out of there.  He moved into the garage and barricaded himself Oh, and so then I had the garage door taken off And the police were there and then people started to rummage through all this stuff And then I almost got sued for allowing that to happen Oh, jeez. So, you know Marie brings up a good point if you're gonna choose to live with someone I would do a Fair amount of vetting And when I ground check background checks because remember most of the time we're meeting total strangers I I know we didn't feel like strangers But I had a significant social media footprint I had a a google god. I have a google footprint, but you know 10 miles long and with you You know, I got a sense of who you were based on, you know Your children and the other facets within your life folks It is imperative To remember that when we're meeting total strangers you need to meet people that know the person To determine if they're of good character good character is like one of the fundamental Things you should be vetting for early on and not what someone tells you about them Do your own research you did background checks. Yeah so Hey, Nicole says Can you read that? Marie you're looking gorgeous tonight. Oh, thank you I know when she was getting ready. She didn't feel that way. So I wanted to share that with everyone 15 minutes Um Leaf is letting us know there are some issues with the super stickers. So but uh, thanks for letting us know leaf We really appreciate it. Okay Let's see Here we go My niece lived with someone for years when she was a student. She didn't want to leave her parents. They're a nightmare She was using this guy for accommodations. This is very common You know, I think it boils down to one of the things I've observed with particularly women And only because I work with women so I mean I I I know the male side of it, but what I notice with women Is they oftentimes have a fantasy of what they want And like they have an idea of what they want But they really don't know how to concretize that That's one of the reasons why I created my private coaching because what I do Is take what's the floating in your head the fantasy and concretizing it Based on your values your lifestyle and more importantly your emotional maturity and You know, I think people don't spend enough time really talking about their values in the early stages We did we we did a ton when we did our three day unpacking session That was all about our past relationships, but more importantly our values You know, what were the things most important like like one of my top values is punctuality Now I got to share with you with everybody and I give you a little bit of Marie is so what's the word? I'm looking for you're not professional. You're there's another word for it.  You know, I'm very particular about when I have client calls I'm always calling them 30 seconds before the actual time so that by the time the ringer comes It's actually at the time.  You're not irresponsible with time I I couldn't stand dating the women who are absolutely always late. It drove me nuts So it was one of it's one of my top values one of my other top values is you know Being of service, you know doing what I do for a living. This is a high value for me And I think what you appreciated about me is my values What I appreciate about you is your value to your value with family how important that is how your health is important to you And I was sharing with Marie the other day her sense of adventure I mean, she's ready to go on like 25 trips to the next year You know, at least a dozen trips and it all starts with A thought and you're like, wow, wouldn't it be great if oh, let me let me look it up What can we do? By the way, we have to plan that Costa Rica trip in two months I did want to say something. I was cleaning out some old files and I found a notebook where I wrote all my My values what I was looking in What I was well, that's right. Yeah, you shared that with me. Yeah, I'm like, look at this It's all the stuff that we talked about So it's important to really know your own values Also, how to articulate your values to another person and then assess does this person appreciate your values? Because not everybody shares their top three or five values with one another so everyone tonight you have an assignment I want you to go later after watching this video I want you to write down your top five values the things that are most important to you in your life And make sure that's part of your conversation your repertoire when you're actively dating. Are you with me? Give me a thumbs up Right. Nicole writes My boyfriend long distance of 21 months says he doesn't have a date and plan as to when he will move gets mad Says it's never a good time to talk about it. How do I make it so it's finally get my answer I don't think it's about getting an answer. It's just it's not happening. It's up to you Do you want to stick around until he maybe decides?  Okay I'm being a little tongue-in-cheek. Okay. First we have to assess how frequently do you see each other Is this a relationship where you see each other? Once every six months once every three months once a month or do you see each other regularly? If you're seeing each other regularly, then I think it's important to have those conversations Which you're attempting to do and you may want to cut off intimacy until you actually have a plan with one other I'm sorry to be so draconian about this But ultimately look until you actually decide You've been together. What is it 21 months? Play months. That's a significant amount of time. Listen. I'm a listen we didn't explore our relationship We when we agreed we were going to explore our relationship together We put a plan in motion within the first hundred days. We put a plan in motion. Okay You have to the fact that it's taken this long the real question is Does he really want a long-term commitment with you and the fact that he gets upset and mad at you? Is most likely a sign. He's just a user Yeah, he's gonna make it sound like you're trying to control it But if you're speaking from your heart and this is what you'd like and and if he's not responding to that then It might be time to move on If you speak from your heart and a man gets antagonistic over that That's not a good partner to have in your life. That is a That's a big giant red flag when someone when you're speaking from your heart and then they start Gaslighting you as it sounds like he's trying to do so. Nicole. I'm sending you a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug How do you approach the subject if he's disappointed by his performance in bed? Can I ask you to handle that one? I Well, I mean like what would you say okay if there's a performance issue Talk about it again from your heart You know, I'm concerned for you, you know, there are things that can be done Perhaps you should see a doctor about this and just get some advice on that I think starting with sweetheart I really care about you and I can already tell that something is affecting you Is it okay if we talk about this? Oh, that's good. You know start started off by saying honey I care about you and I can tell that something's affecting you. Is it okay if we talk about this? I know this is a touchy subject. This is a sensitive subject, but I want you to know I'm in your corner.  Believe me Oh, that's a woman saying that but you know, but it does happen to women, right? And I think it's important to have conversation so Uh, I really appreciated that you asked that question Andy, uh, and that's how I go about it But you're the diplomat when it comes to things like this All right, uh Leslie wants to tell Nicole draw a line in the sand if he's the right man walking away can work You are worth it. Amen to that Estat says red flags. He's wasting your time most likely um Nicole says, thank you Marie. That's exactly what I'm thinking. Oh, you're very welcome all right hailey Question repost I'm single 42 year old woman with no children I'm finding that men with little children are ruling me out because I'm childless And can't relate and I'm attracted to am I attracting the wrong men? I have thoughts Why don't you go ahead? So I'm going to assume hailey that this has happened maybe once or twice I want you to be careful to make this out to being this is a common occurrence. Okay I I recognize it's probably happened once twice, but I highly doubt that it's happened 37 times Okay, so I want to be clear about that don't make the experience of one or two men being indicative Okay, now I will say this Some men may think you don't appreciate What it might be like to be a parent. Okay, that's certainly a possibility However, I would think the majority of men and maybe you haven't given enough of them a chance Would actually welcome having someone that doesn't already bring their luggage to the table You know, listen, they've got their luggage and if by the way Believe me two households with children is a pain in the ass I mean, I know the Brady bunch made it look really easy, but that is a fantasy So I highly doubt hailey if you are a woman that is the type that men are attracted to I don't think you're going to be rejected by a lot of men. I suspect it's happened a few times So you're not attracting the wrong men and again I suspect there was probably something else happening That she's not aware of Maybe that was their excuse, you know, there There may be Situations when if you haven't had children, you may not understand certain things that come with parenting But I have a son that had never been married and he married someone that was divorced and had a child and I didn't You know, he wasn't taught one way or the other He just thought that this woman was worth investing in Even though she had a child and now he is an absolute amazing partner to and father to this child Because his dad is not in the picture And they're about to have their their second baby together their their third between them and so My son was only in his early. He was 31 when they met so By the way, exactly, you know, you can be a great addition to a man's life So I'm going to say the majority of men like Would almost prefer a woman who doesn't have children so they can become a good Sarah get parent to their children if it's the right woman now unless he has cobert incest going on then she's through Okay All right. Thank you so much for that question. Hailey. We really appreciate it. Ms. Hamilton writes I'm in a long term for two months Wait, I'm in a long term for two months. That's not very long And he's been in the in my state to visit me about three times. I think she means she's in a long distance relationship for two months Okay, three times. He said he will pay for my ticket if I tell him the dates But now he's asking me if I bought the tickets yet So he offered to pay the tickets now. He's reneged I would remind him that you'd love to go Based on him having offered to pay for the ticket. Yeah, I know that's uncomfortable But you know if they already told you that I would call him out on that Yeah, I'd say I'm really curious you offered to you know purchase my tickets and now you've said something different Am I misreading you? This is a great opportunity to create a conversation to get a temperature gauge if you will I'm using that in this venue to get a sense of his character He said one thing and now he's doing something else Actions matching words his actions aren't matching his words. So in a polite way simply say I'm really confused You offered to purchase my ticket And now you've said something different Have I misread something and see how he responds because in that you'll get a sense of his true Character based on how he responds to that Do you agree marie? Yeah, I agree This one is for you marie I sent him a meme in messenger and said that you have special place in my heart sunday night He started pulling away after that. It was just to let him know. I think he's sweet Why do you think a man would do that marie? Why would he start pulling away after she sends something sweet? Um, well, I would think that he's not in that same place and he doesn't know how to respond to it Yeah, I would say this is where it gets really tricky when a woman is being affectionate And a man can't reciprocate. It feels like an overwhelm your emotional You know investment is here and his is here and that space in between can either represent drama from your end Or it could be an absolute avoidance on his end So, uh, it's sweet that you sent that to him But you've already got a temperature gauge of where he is at because he is not able to reciprocate And again, folks, I'm a big proponent. Do all your romantic stuff in person Don't do it on I mean sure you can send a text message. Hey beautiful Hey handsome like we did in the early stages But but romance should be reserved for in person Because then you can tell if they're really investing in you or not, okay Or at least be looking at them in a FaceTime call or zoom or something Um, by the way, hailey wants to thank both of us Appreciate that hailey all right Tal I don't even know how to pronounce that met sb in real life Uh, I've never used apps and 100 dislike the culture. I found out by accident. He has a profile On one site. Does it make it does it make us incompatible or is it okay to give him a chance in real life? Um, what is sb? met sb significant other no, um Okay, so it it sounds like you've met someone in real I'm just going to make an assumption here, although with assumptions and ask out of you and me But I'm just going to take a wild guess here. Okay. This is a person whom you're not actively Physically dating. Okay. I'm just going to make an assumption if two people are physically and actively dating Then one of the things they should do is talk about The online dating world and actually have a conversation to determine if they're both going to take their profiles off The dating sites if they're going to explore a relationship together So in this particular case about giving them a chance until your boyfriend and girlfriend He's a free agent. He can do whatever he wants.  You can do whatever you want But I will tell you men are territorial I wanted you off the dating apps as soon as possible Once we agreed to explore a relationship and while I was reluctant to do the same because it's such a Fucking addictive thing to be on the dating apps.  So going cold turkey for me helped me wean off and appreciate you more Um responding to that, you know, you met him in person, but then you find out he's on dating apps Well, are you if you're not dating? Of course, he's going to be on a dating app I would still be on a dating app if you know if I just met somebody It doesn't mean that you're in any kind of relationship Now if you really want to explore a relationship with him Then you have that conversation. Do you think that you know, if we're gonna do this I don't know what point you tell me at what point. Do you say that though? It doesn't sound like she wants to do any dating apps So I think before the penis goes inside the vagina. You better have that conversation. Okay I know you don't like me saying that. Okay.  I had to go cold turkey because I was so addicted to the thing I'm gonna own it. I was addicted to dating apps Okay, by the way sb stands for somebody.  So I didn't know what that meant. Good to know. Thank you McCoy goes on to say yes, men can be territorial. I know I am Although, you know, it's interesting.  Yeah, but I'm not you know why because I trust you, you know If I I think when a person is insecure They act jealous or there is some reason the person is giving them mistrust Uh, yeah, see I feel that way. I don't I don't judge one person by what somebody else did. So if you're behaving in a way that makes me Feel that you're trustworthy. Then why would I well, I once dated a woman. I once dated. I'm sorry Interrupt I once dated a woman whose father cheated on the mother and then left the family to go be with another family So she inherently had trust issues with men Now she claims she healed it But she I mean it reared its ugly head in the first 30 days of us dating because I had so many women Following me for my professional efforts and she couldn't handle that. I'm like I did nothing wrong You know, but that's because she had a core wound from her childhood Then there's adult experiences But I will say this when we don't love ourselves And we don't genuinely love ourselves We can find ourselves in a space of being insecure and why am I going off on this tangent? What was said? I forgot what was actually said. Oh ben being territorial. So anyways, yes, I'm territorial with you But I'm not jealous. No I don't give you a reason to be no exactly Okay, gene goes physical attraction give women wait women give men a chance How about the man's standpoint if he's not physically attracted but we cannot We but we connect in every other way. Is it possible to overlook lack of attraction? So this is an interesting thing For men we have equipment that needs to Rise okay, if we don't feel physical attraction for someone that equipment might not rise You know that's part of the equation is to feel a sense of of Physical attraction for our partner. It's not like it's and by the way it has nothing to do with beauty It's every person has their own level of what is attracted to them And so that so for some men. I'm not speaking for all men That could be their deal breaker is they're not able to Either physically get it up or there might not be I think Some okay, the other thing is there's an intangible Intangible about the it factor we talked about last time. There's an intangible It again it has nothing to do with beauty some people Radiate an energy that's highly magnetic and some people rate and Radiate an energy that can actually repel people. That's just a reality. I don't know how this works I'm just you know hypothesis. I'm just sharing what I've observed. So in this particular case Now here's the thing Men typically though will sleep with anybody It's who they actually want to commit to is where that physical attraction probably requires him to want I think for a man He's got to know that he's with a woman that he's a It doesn't have to be with a supermodel He doesn't have to be with you know a mall like we were talking about last time But he's got to be with someone that he's attracted to enough That he feels like you know what I've got a winner and I'm happy He's got to feel that otherwise. He's not going to be able to engage That's just the way I've observed things women tend to be more attracted to a person's character Men unfortunately tend to be more attracted to looks but they require a lot more than looks to actually fully engage with a woman Did I make sense marie? Yes, okay Um, let's see georgia says can men be in love with more than one person? I have a friend who says men can I'm not convinced All right, let's talk about love. What is love? Can men lust for more than woman more than one woman apse f and lootway? Okay. Yes, we can lust But will he be there for her? When she's you know wiping the vomit from her face if she's going through chemotherapy see to me Real love is being there for the person during the hard times Now in the tv show big love, which was about the mormon community where the man had three wives He never saw that it was on hbo, but it was about a mormon Uh, it was about a mormon man who had three wives and they he had three separate homes And each wife and the children lived in the three separate homes. He genuinely loved three women Okay, now there's also the case of polyamory. Didn't we watch a movie about polyamory the other day? Vicki christina Christina barcelona we were watching that the other day so in the case of polyamory It is quite possible to genuinely care for more than one person at a time I do believe it's rare that a man has a capacity to truly love and to be a giver to two men women at a time I certainly believe there's a significant percentage of men who can sleep with several women at the same time But that to me is not love. So I hope that answers your question, georgia Uh, let's keep going Oh, thank you for that. Oh, marie. Thank you. It so resonates with me. I love your reply. I love your beautiful heart You've helped me so much. Thank you so much. See that's why I wanted you on so you can see how much people appreciate your perspective um Question is it also is it possible to truly care about each other? But the man refuses to commit to something deeper than friendship then why care I care about people doesn't mean I want to be in relationship with everybody But if you're sleeping with them, then well, are they sleeping together? Is it truly possible to care for each other? But the man refuses to commit to something deeper than a friendship. Well friendship usually doesn't include sex Friends with benefits. Well, okay, then like I have a dear friend. Her name is tammy, you know, marie has met her You know, I I care for this person if she needs me I'd be there for her I have many people in my life I care for but ultimately the person I want to be romantically involved in I make the effort Ladies if a man isn't pursuing you from a romantic perspective from the perspective of wanu exploring a fully committed relationship Then why does it matt? Well, I guess my question is why are you following my channel? You know, I'm to be what so yes Can they care for more than one person? Absolutely, but you have to ask yourself What do you want gene? What do you want if a man doesn't want you? Why do you want? I'm just speculating here. Why do you want him? Why do you want someone who doesn't want more than a friendship with you ask that question of yourself? the relationship Has to go both ways. Yeah, and and if you're trying to convince someone to want you then That's not the right person you should be with like you deserve to get what you want and have it reciprocated Amen to that You know, we've been an hour now and you want to keep going or we got to go pack for our trip Folks, we're going to go out to wine country tomorrow. So uh for the next four days to enjoy a little bit of uh friends and fun And to celebrate me. Oh, that's right. It's your birthday coming up. It's marie's birthday on sunday. Give her some props right now Wish you're a happy birthday She's 29 years old. I'm dating a much younger woman Anyway, I hope you found value in what we shared tonight Is he stringing along why men put women in certain categories? Listen I recognize it's very difficult right now and the fact is we have to be detectives whether we like it or not because you don't know When you're meeting total strangers, you have to do more due diligence Certainly before you ever give your heart to a man and if you need some support with that There's a link in the description below schedule a discovery call with me join my group called midlife love mastery find me on instagram Check out the naked discovery naked recovery naked divorce ask for a dell mention both our names Okay, she'll take really good care of you and by the way, you're already getting a bunch of props marie Thank you everyone for Tina holly. Thanks everyone If you found value in this, please hit the like button Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel and we're gonna wrap up this video as I always do First I've given you a big gigantic fair hug and thanks for supporting me tonight on connor's birthday Can I get a hug back? I love you back All right, oh I'm very blessed Hey, thanks to nicole and vannette and mccoy oak hill farm and susan and pam and estat And talia and jennifer and leafs in the house and jen and patricia and michelle and tina Everyone big hugs to you all. Thank you so much for the love and support. Happy birthday marie and happy birthday to connor today Hi, hi everyone


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I really, really like how this gun turned out. I really like this gun. This thing turned out, man. That's a great gun. And I laugh how this thing turned out. Hey, everybody. Dylan Schumacher, Sadel Defense. And today we're going to talk about my new rifle. So, this rifle comes to you. It's a franken gun. So it was thrown together with a couple different things. And mostly it would be an accident how it ended up being. I just wanted to present it to you for commentary and thoughts. I guess. I don't know. It's my gun. I can do what I want. So the lower is the first lower that I ever assembled. And by me, I mean my buddy assembled it for me. So I bought the lower, bought the parts kit, and ended up putting it together. And this set with a BCM upper for quite a while, quite a few years. And then I eventually just bought a BCM lower and put the BCM lower on the BCM upper so I can have a complete BCM gun and be all cool and fancy, right? So I had this leftover lower laying around and decided to do something with it. So first thing is, this does have a ACT trigger in here, which I really like. Those are nice. I ended up putting the ambi safety on there. I have this single point attachment thing back here for single point slings. But obviously this gun ends up having a two point sling. But I just left it there because I don't want to mess with it. So that's that. When I got the upper, it's a PSA upper, okay? It's a 20 inch PSA upper. And I got that because one, it was available. And two, I thought, I don't know, why not? I've never really had a carbine or a rifle length gas system. I've never used a 20 inch gun before, so let's see. So about that, this is a MagPol, their MOE stock system. Of course I put that up here. This is a Streamlight. I'll tell you what. I've had four out of four Streamlight rifles fail on me. So this is number five. So we're going to see. There's two reasons I'm trying it again. One, because one of my buddies pointed out that the Streamlights are dual fuel. So I have an 18650 battery in here. And hopefully that'll keep a better connection. And two, usually I mount my lights like right up here next to the muzzle.  I just, I don't like it. So I usually mount my lights really up close. And a light should be able to be mounted right next to the barrel, in case you're thinking it shouldn't be. But this one, of course, is going to end up being further back, because that's where the rail system ends. So I think between the battery and being mounted further back, we'll see. We'll see if Streamlight can redeem themselves. Maybe just a little bit. That would be nice. Just normal A2 birdcage up there. That's it, just a standard 20 inch upper eye. The bolt carrier group is from Palmetto as well. I did remove the charging handle. And I went with a Veltor. I don't even know how to pronounce that. V-L-T-O-R charging handle for that sucker. Because that mil-spec charging handle from PSA is garbage. Hot garbage. Hated that thing. BCM buffer and a BCM buffer spring and then an H buffer. Also from BCM in there. So that's it. I was originally going to get this gun. It was just going to be my iron sight only rifle. However, a couple of things on that. One, I ended up being able to find one with the... I wanted an A2 front sight because I was going to be a rifles only thing. And then I ended up being able to find one with this rear charging handle. Rear carry handle sight. And I thought, oh great. You know, whatever. Works great. Don't have to buy a rear sight. Turns out though, this thing points extremely naturally. And I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the sights are level.  But this thing just points. I couldn't believe how naturally this thing pointed. So I've been a big fan of the irons on this gun. A big fan. And I might leave it that way. I probably won't. I'll talk about that in a minute. But I've been a big fan of just how naturally this thing points. And I just pull it up and it's just there. I mean it's just there. So big fan of the irons only on this gun. And that was it. I was going to kind of be done with the gun from there. Oh, and then I painted it. I did a video on that. You can watch that. But I painted it because it looks cool, you know.  So I tried to paint. And now it's kind of getting a battle worn finish, which is always cool. Anyway, so I did today buy a primary arms 3x sight. That I'm going to put on here. I'll take this off and I'll mount the optic on there. And the reason I decided to do that was it's going to greatly expand the capabilities of the gun, right? That's why optics do. That's why we put optics on guns. Are optics needed? Are they necessary? No. But they're really nice. And then the first upgrade I would tell you to get. A light is mandatory. A sling is mandatory. This is as bare bones mandatory as a rifle gets. But an optic is just really nice to have. And since I have a 20-inch barrel on there, and it's going to be able to really carry velocity at distance, I'd like to be able to better unlock the capabilities of the gun by putting a magnified optic on there. So that's coming. That'll be here in a couple of months. And I'll probably end up, again, putting that on there and seeing how it rides. Until then, it's going to be an irons-only gun. And I love this gun as irons-only. I mean, it just... Man, it points so naturally.  Okay? I'll gladly let you shoot it. It needs to get some rounds through it anyway to verify its reliability. Not that I'm too worried about it, but... So, if you'd like to come take a class and shoot this sucker, I'll have it just let me know. Say, hey Dylan, can I get that cool 20-inch green-painted gun you got? I'd love to shoot that sucker. And you can put as many rounds through it as you want. That's it. That's my rifle. That's my latest build here. And I'm excited to use it. Excited to use it more. Excited to shoot it more. Maybe I'll eventually swap out the muzzle device to a BCM-1 just because I'll have a couple of those lying around once I buy suppressors and stuff. I hope you like talking about guns. I hope you like it. Until then, do brave deeds and endure.


Here, I would like to have legal representation. Well, I was questioned by a judge however I processed that found that I was not allowed legal representation during that very short and sweet hearing. I really don't know what the situation is about. Nobody has told me anything except that I'm accused of murdering a police. I know nothing more than that and I do request someone to come through to give me a legal assistance. No, I have not been charged with that. In fact, nobody has said that to me yet. The first thing I heard about was when the newspaper reporters in the hall asked me that question. You have been charged. Sir? You have been charged. Nobody has said what? Okay, I'll give you that. Okay. How did you do in the right way? How did you do in the right way? The turmoil in the lineup room had long before been taken over in the police station car doors. Everyone was there wanting to see Oswald wanting to be shown the rifle. A police officer brought the rifle out. Foreign May, the press was told. Reporters were asking questions. Newspaper photographers were hustling for better angles. Television cameramen were feeding pictures. And one interested bystander was just looking on that Friday night. His name, Jack Ruby. Chicago born Ruby was a Dallas nightclub owner. He had been a beer joint, he had a beer joint downtown where girls did striptease dances on stage. He didn't belong in the police station. Especially at a time like fortunately Oswald's need for a lawyer soon ended. Instead of law there was one man's impulse, one man's plot for the climax of conspiracy. More questions for the Warren's permission to answer in just a few moments. The next day, Sunday, Oswald as required by Texas law was being transferred from the city jail to the county jail. As all the world knows and as much of America witness, the man who had shown up Friday evening showed up again. Of the Dallas City Hall, and that's a couple on the basement floor, it seems to concern the park. He had this shot, Oswald had this shot.


Microsoft, a name familiar to most, harbored a sinister secret in the depths of its history, an enigmatic operating system known only as Windows Code Name Darkness. This arcane system emerged from the shadows, discovered by a tech enthusiast named Lakerson. With an eccentric obsession for technology, he amassed a trove of forgotten Microsoft Windows operating systems and constructs. One fateful day, he ventured into a hidden cavern, stumbling upon a cache of concealed operating systems. Among them lay Windows Code Name Darkness. Intrigued, he returned home and inserted the enigmatic CD into his newly acquired computer. As the system booted up, an unsettling sight greeted him, a startup screen cast in hues of black, white and eerie grays. Navigating through the setup, he noticed an uncanny resemblance to Windows Millennium Edition. Upon completing the installation, the startup screen manifested once more, accompanied by a chilling sound. The familiar Windows Millennium jingle had been contorted into a cacophony of distorted audio, culminating in haunting screams. Finally reaching the desktop, Lakerson found himself immersed in an ominous ambience. The wallpaper depicted a shrouded forest, its trees framing the edges with an unsettling aura. Amidst his exploration of the applications, he uncovered an arcane anomaly embedded within the operating system. A hidden trigger awaited, typing the word darkness transported him to a gallery of images. Eerie depictions of the abyssal, ranging from desolate woods and caverns to forsaken dwellings, all punctuated by eerie contorted visages leering from the shadows. It dawned on Lakerson that Microsoft was not the progenitor of this malevolent creation. It bore the mark of a shunned technologist, an architect of darkness. And by vengeance, he embarked on his own malefic creation, birthing Windows code named darkness. As if in response, the very computer hosting this eldritch system began to wane, consumed by an enveloping darkness, the CD standing as the sole artifact of its existence. A paroxysm of horror gripped Lakerson as he witnessed this ghastly transformation. In a desperate bid to sever ties with the malevolence, he cast the CD into the fiery abyss of a fireplace, hoping to banish the abomination forever. Yet the haunting legacy of Windows code named darkness endured, poised to etch its memory into the annals of those daring enough to venture where shadows converge.


Welcome back to the course. So this week what you saw was Aditi and Balraj with their secret box. Now what was very peculiar about the secret box was it could be closed with one of the keys and open with the other. So now let's look at how can we use this to communicate secretly between Aditi and Balraj. What do you say? Right. I think many of them have guessed rightly that Aditi would choose a pair of code and then keeps one to herself and shares other with everyone else and Balraj does the same. And if Aditi wants to send a message to Balraj, she locks it with the code that Balraj has shared with everyone and then sends it to Balraj. Balraj uses his own code which he has kept with himself to open that message. Right. So we could actually give them these codes some name like we could call the code that they share with each other something like a public code. So if they are, so the idea is if Aditi wants to send a message to anyone she could just give out her public code. They could lock the message with that so that only Aditi could open it. Right. This also resolves the problem that if there is only one code which is shared with anyone, everyone and then it is also used to open the message. It is, it can be leaked or it can be used by others. So this pair of codes would resolve that problem. I agree. I totally agree. I think this is a right time for a reflection question. Right? Yes. So what you have to do is pause and read the question, take your time to answer and then proceed. Here is your question. If Balraj is sending a secret book to Aditi which is bigger than the box which among the following is the most safe and efficient way to sending it. Option A send the book in part using the public private code box. Option B send the book in the single digit 16 code box and Aditi personally to share the 16 digit code. Option C send the book in the single digit 16 digit code box and send the code in the public private code box. Option D all are equally efficient and safe. Those who chose C, yes it is the most efficient and the safe way for sending the books as the book and the key go both at the same time. The 16 digit code has also been shared securely whereas in the other options either the book has to be sent in multiple turns or as in the second option they have to meet personally which defeats the purpose of sending the item in containers as they could be handed over personally. So now you have seen the analogy and what we saw there was that when Aditi and Balraj wanted to communicate with each other and they wanted to do it secretly they had to use some mechanisms so something similar happens over the internet.


First question is from fit Vic thoughts on German volume training methods. Love it. 10 by 10 Yeah, this is so that's the name that they've given it, but this is how Lifters used to lift back in the day They didn't do lots of exercises if they increased the volume they would do more sets of a specific exercise So just a quick rundown German volume training refers to exactly that so rather than doing three exercises or four exercises for my chest and doing three sets each Do one exercise and doing ten sets of that single allows you to get really good at that exercise Oh the skill that you develop from it and the strength that you'll you'll develop from it through the roof because a lot of people won't realize this But I'll you'll obviously muscles move the weight they contract So they definitely are a part of the strength formula But technique and skill is a big part of that And so a lot of getting a better bench press is getting bigger muscles But it's also getting better at bench press and then also strength gains can be pretty specific There's a transfer, but they can be pretty specific to what you train So this I love this method Especially if you want to get really good at certain exercises like if you want to get really good in overhead press Instead of doing you know three different shoulder exercises just do a lot of sets of shoulder press Yeah, I love I love the simplicity of it a lot of times You know I know for your average person who doesn't really have like a trainer brain when they go into the gym It's just like what do I do you just look at all these like machines? You look at all the dumbbells like where do I start whatever like something like this is like so painfully like it's You're gonna do this today this this like two to three to you know five exercises, whatever But like very very straightforward, and I'm just gonna kind of hone in on this as a particular skill and just practice It until I get really strong. I don't think I've ever followed a complete GVT like protocol though where I went through like a whole program that way I like to intermittently same do this You know what I haven't done this in a long time today I'm gonna do ten sets of bench and then I would just do that Yeah, I would say our maps power lift program is probably the closest thing that reflects this I mean there's a lot of eight set extra. There's a lot of eight set exercises in there You're only doing the major lifts and a lot of volume in it So and a lot of it's around practicing and getting good at it So I'd say that's probably the program we have that's closest to that but we get asked us a lot And I think it's a I think it's a great tool if funny part is I think it's not as popular because people like all this Different shit, you know, they all want they want a novelty Yeah, they want to have you know ten different exercises or we taught something new and the truth is if you train this way you picked Five to seven of the best exercises and you always came in the gym and you did ten sets of them You get really good at him and you get really strong and build a lot of muscle He used to always are kind of annoying me when I would hear clients say something like oh, what's next that this is You know, I've done this on board now. It's like. Yeah, I'm doing today Supposed to be entertainment, but I get it. It's a factor, right? So I do get that. I look I tell you For me personally, this is one of the fastest way for me Now I don't do this all the time But if I want to get really strong at something and really reap the benefit This is the fastest way like if I do ten sets of ten reps for squats I'm gonna get really good at squats in a short part of time Now here's some some things some pointers to keep in mind if you're doing ten sets of ten reps Start with the weight that is lighter than you think. Okay, that's a massive factor Yeah, because you do ten of ten you think oh, this is easy with your first set You just wait to get to set number eight or nine. I did this with squats I did it with 225 which ten reps is Relatively easy for me with 225 it wasn't at the end of the workout by the time I got to the tenth set It was really really difficult. So pick a weight that's easier than you think So this I actually used to start when I would like kind of fall off the wagon for a couple weeks or whatever They get back in the gym I would always start with legs and I would do 135 actually I do 135 10 10 sets of 10 and that was always like a great way to get me back into training and it always blasted my legs You think 135 is nothing as far as moving the weight But that's a lot of volume in squats And so just be careful if you do if you do say if you go to if you go to GVT training You've never done it before I would recommend starting way lighter than yeah way lighter than you think now What are the what are the the the potential cons of this kind of training like one of the things you need to watch out for?


In the conclusion, I'm going to mention you three keys that Israel did, write them down, that Egyptians did. These were the three keys that unlocked the storehouses.  Faith, they knew grain existed. They knew their problem, their famine is not going to turn into a funeral. Their famine will turn into a feast, because Joseph has already planned for this. When you are a child of God's promise, you have a freedom in your mind, no longer to be a slave to your problem.  First of all, be free in your mind, become a child of God's promise. The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not lack. That's who I am enslaved to. If you are struggling in your health, do not be the person who is a slave to your sickness.  The way they talk about their sickness, oh I'm always sick. Something is always wrong with me, and if they go for a day without sick, they're tormented, because why is nothing bad happening to me today? They are shocked and surprised, constantly expecting something bad.  Maybe there is a famine in your house, maybe there is a famine in your finances, in your health, in your ministry. Remember, where the Holy Spirit is, there is no famine. He's not going to come down to your level.  Can somebody say amen? Let's put our hands together for the Lord Jesus Christ. Ilya mentioned, Ilya mentioned when Moses was trying to get people out of Egypt, and he tried all of these things, and nothing was working. He tried the tricks. The tricks didn't work. And God came to Moses, and he was so frustrated, he wanted to already quit, and people on the top of that became so discouraged. They said, you gave a sword to Pharaoh to torment us and hurt us. We told you to leave us alone. And Moses complains and whines to God, and you would seem like God was in Moses. I'm so sorry, I let you down. Let me just go and clean up the whole mess, get rid of Pharaoh, and let's just get out of here. I don't have time for all of this. But in the middle of that, you will see, I think it's in Exodus chapter 7, if I'm not mistaken, God comes to Pharaoh, God comes to Moses, say, Moses, I make you a God to Pharaoh, and Aaron is your prophet. He said, now you go. God to Pharaoh, Moses is not a God, but what God was doing is God wanted to change Moses' zip code in the spiritual world. God wanted Moses in the spirit, not to come to Pharaoh as a slave begging for mercy. He wanted to come to Pharaoh as a king demanding justice. Something happened. After that declaration, the Bible says Moses start bringing plagues. Until that, no plagues. Every plague Moses pronounced was a direct insult and an attack on one of the chief gods, Egypt worshiped. God's went to war. Moses rose up and the plague was a direct guidance through the power of Christ. He was demolishing one idol after another, one demon after another, and only then their reality changed.   Don't wait until you get a promotion until you receive a revelation. God has blessed me in Jesus Christ. Lift yourself up to the level of your faith. Lift your faith up there. When your reality catches up to your faith, you're in trouble, because that means you stop living by faith then. When the sickness leaves and you now live by your reality instead of constantly pushing further to live by faith, constantly have greater dreams, have greater dreams. Anytime you have a dream higher than your reality, this is the space for the Holy Spirit to move. But when your dream is at the level of your circumstances, you give no room to God.


Hello friends, today we will have line balancing as our topic for discussion. As you know, production planning and control involves various stages like routine scheduling, machine loading. When it comes to machine loading, naturally there is a question of line balancing because process time for the jobs vary from machine to machine and also the process time varies from operation to operation depending upon the contents of that operation and as well as the accuracy and the specification required for that particular operation. Therefore, line balancing is a very important aspect mainly used in the mass production and at the end of this line balancing session, all of you will understand what is the concept and method of line balancing and at the same time, you will be able to differentiate between balanced and unbalanced line. The contents are what is the definition of line balancing, what is the concept of line balancing, methods of line balancing, balanced and unbalanced line, what are the typical features of balanced and unbalanced line that we are going to discuss today. Line balancing, it is a simple means of balancing the production line or an assembly line, what that means probably will be clear to you in the next slide as we are explaining with a simple example. The main objective of the line balancing is to distribute the task evenly over the workstation so that ideal time of the main and machine is minimized. Another entire focus of all production systems or operation systems is that we have to increase the profits of the organization by meeting customer demands, customer satisfaction, delivering all the required goods and services on time with the required quality and quantity and at the predetermined price. So, therefore, any method of line balancing or any method of any other technique are ultimately aiming at optimum utilization of the available resources and ideal time or wastage should be as minimum as possible. Of course, line balancing is one of the attempts in that direction only. It aims at grouping the facilities and workers in an efficient pattern in order to obtain an optimum or most efficient balance of capacities and flow of production, assembly or processes. It can be assembly line balancing or it can be a machine or process line balancing. Tasks are grouped so that their total time is preferably equal to or a little lesser than the time available at each workstation and therefore try to reduce the ideal time of the entire jobs. What that means? This means now it is a very simple example. Because there are three workstations. Now, what is the meaning of workstation? We will discuss first, workstation is the group of various resources. It may be machine, it may be equipment or it may be number of machines or it may be machine plus some inspection table or machine plus quality checks. All that taken together we are forming a small group of various resources and then calling it as a one workstation. It is a convenient method of making the groups of the available facilities so that amongst that you are dividing that particular work into small workstations we will be able to calculate the time required for each workstation and thereby we are trying to aim at the time required for the each workstation will be almost equal. If not exactly equal we are trying to see almost equal and this time is equal to the time required by the bottlenecking or time required for that particular resource which consumes highest time or the longest time. Now this is a simple example where there are three workstations or for convenience we can make for the for a moment you can think of three three machines. Machine number one, two, three and then for the process time for each of this is the machine number one has having two minutes, machine number two is having five minutes and machine number three is having three minutes. And suppose I want ten pieces of this at a regular production flow then of course how that will be determined now the entire output of this three line machines will be dependent on only the bottlenecking that is machine number two which is taking more time in terms of the processing it takes five minutes whereas machine number one and machine number three are taking two minutes and three minutes each. Now I have to balance this line there can be number of alternatives for the possible one simple way of make it is that combine machine number one and three and then probably you can get the equal time only thing is that this will result into backtracking of the material once again but it will definitely have a balanced line as such therefore now replace the world machine by workstations then we will be able to apply the meaning of line balancing in a broader sense. Now in the initial way we have thought of machine now we can talk of workstation workstation can be combination of various resources so what is bottlenecking the workstation that takes longest time is called as bottlenecking bottlenecking decides the entire output of that particular line how much time the bottleneck takes that will be the ultimate time which is required and that decides the total output current cycle time it is the same as the bottlenecking time and the flow time is time to complete all the operations on all workstations now for example here the flow time is equal to 2 plus 5 plus 3 is a total minutes the current cycle time is of course five minutes that is the cycle time which is on the bottlenecking machine there are some diagrams which are used for this line balancing one is called as precedence diagram which shows network of tasks and restrictions on their performance because we cannot do any activities in isolation each particular activity or each particular job has to have a some precedence it depends upon some other prior operations and also some operations need to be complete before that particular job goes to the next operation total work content is the sum of total task times for all the production tasks for that particular product and now this will give a formula for minimum number of workstations that is total work content divided by cycle time total work content is x and in cycle time is the total longest time on that particular various activities is the total now what is a balance line and what is a unbalanced line this look to this figure this figure is there are total four workstations and 15 minutes 15 minutes 15 minutes and the last workstation takes 10 minutes so these are the various time required resources for the various workstations and probably we can call it as a fairly balanced line because the first three workstations have almost equal time and the last workstation has a small amount of balance unbalanced which is remaining over there this is an example of perfectly balanced line what are the benefits of this perfectly balanced line is that it promotes single piece production flow Toyota production system has used this term as and the same concept is also even to lean is that it promotes single piece flow instead of a bus or batch we are talking about a single piece it also avoids overburdening at a particular resource and it will try to minimize the seven Toyota production system has defined the total time of total types of waste as seven types including overproduction or including delays including scrap or the rejections it can be waiting so all it can be inventory all these types of waste are there when you have got a balanced line of course we are not reducing only one type of waste we are trying to focus it at all types of waste reduction is possible and ultimately when you aim for zero defect further to zero defect it is trying to reduce the variation part to part variation is reduced when you are trying to achieve a balanced line as such and the contrary if the balance is not there it is unbalanced line now unbalanced line this example is giving that first workstation takes five minutes second workstation takes 25 minutes the third workstation takes 15 minutes and the last workstation takes 10 minutes if you observe it over here workstation number two is the constraint which is the cycle time which decides the entire flow of the output of this particular line now if you just see over it over here is that since the workstation number one is having only time of five minutes process time of five minutes and therefore at workstation two there is a heap of inventory waiting for the machine and therefore naturally overproduction of workstation number one will definitely cause other types of waste it also increases the inventory but we have to think of some other alternatives otherwise this will go on increasing WIP will be definitely piled up before the constraint machine is just obvious phenomena now if you look to the third case it is again a different story where the operator has to wait because this taking more time and the operator has no work to play therefore he has to wait and again it results into another type of waste waiting waiting for the job to be completed in the previous machine or previous workstation similarly if you look at this here 10 minutes again the time required for this 15 minute is more and as compared to the last workstation which takes only 10 minutes also here we'll see that the operator has to wait until operator at workstation number three completes all his operations so this is a typical phenomena where we'll see that it is resulting into all types of waste it may be waiting it may be inventory it may be piling waiting of the operator waiting for the job all these things so unbalanced line has lot of disadvantages lot of problems in terms of wastages and in terms of wastage of resources may be material main or machine in this case we will feel that there is a wastage of material and there is a wastage of in terms of inventory in terms of waiting not actually material waste as such and there is also waiting of the operator and waiting of the machines sometimes so that gives you the idea about balanced and unbalanced lines so naturally as a result of this we should always try to have balanced line as far as possible and reduce the unbalanced component to the minimum thank you thank you very much


Next, we have wretches. These are another zombie humanoid creature that were apparently once human, but due to like a food, water, and sleep mutated into these wretches. The process of changing into a wretch is called the wretchid cycle. This process can be slowed, but never stopped. The only way to slow it is to provide proper food, water, and rest, but like I just said, you cannot stop the cycle. So once you get it, you're toast. A wretches behavior has been documented as somewhat intelligent, but somewhat hive mind like. In rare cases, they're known to craft into wheeled weapons, but the majority act in a sort of hive mind sense. They have superhuman strength and are typically fast on their feet. However, some are slow and just meander around like zombies. In order to avoid the wretchid cycle, which you should do at all costs, you have to stay rested and well hydrated and never under any circumstance attempt to save a wretch that is on stage three of the wretchid cycle because there's no hope for them then.


I really got it, and we're just gonna make it all shine, but well, true is the name, don't you hear? Now believe to be from heaven's sense, I'm the son of the field, the whole little gentleman's son, I don't know where to go, tell me where to go, well, not so much, but, um, gotta have a song at the ready. So just in case we get invited to the right, we're gonna play in DC, but we're not gonna, I don't think we're gonna play the way I sound, but we're gonna play in DC next week. And we have a song, just in case we get invited, which we're gonna sing to you right now.   Well, one day, I can't help it, because I gotta, I gotta be, you know, here, I'm here, we're all here, right? So we gotta talk about what's happening, oh, we don't have to, but, the other, a couple years ago, and Beth has heard this song, because we used to play minigigs we had in the lobby of the signature theater, which is Beth Whitaker's theater. Hey, good to see you here today, and usually Carol knows, we do watch-me-work, it was very space, so this could be called, you know, watch-me-play.  So you walk by the newsstand, you kinda like, like that, I do that every day, and so several years ago, I was walking by the newsstand, looking at the news, not wanting to look on the cover of the New York Times above the fold, which is important, I guess, right in the middle, you know, where all the important news is, it was a photograph of a black man running away from the camera, and he had his hands up, he was running away, and there was a cop in a policeman's uniform, and he had his gun out, and he was pointing at this black man who was running away, his hand up, and I said to myself, no, no, no, that can't be happening, I must be saying it wrong, you know. So I went home, and I looked online, and sure enough, it was a man, a brother, a black man named Walter Scott, who at a routine, I think it was a routine traffic stop, got on a cop, decided to shoot at him, and he was running, and somebody had taken that photograph, and it was on the front page of the New York Times, and I cried for a long time. Yeah, he's running from the cops, and they're shooting, yeah, they're shooting at the brother, his hands raised as he's running from the cops, shooting bullets at the brother's kids, and the tears reading down wanting justice and getting shit.  Love songs might sound political, I don't know. It's the desire of a political act, probably, at this time, right? To say like, I want you to depend to you love. I think it depends that you love. We could get into this conversation, which we'll say it later. Okay. Okay. And this is how we do the song. Revolution! This is kind of like a retrospective. The signature was kind enough to give us a space there, every week, for like a whole year almost, a whole year and a half maybe. And I thought I'd write a song for Jim Halton, who's a founding artistic retro signature, who passed away a couple years ago. And so we're going to, we're going to close out with this one, that I wrote for Jim. It's called Actual Miracle.


On 25th of July, I had asked question about semen retention and following up that I started practicing it and also try to transmute it, that energy and what I experienced, which I never experienced previously when I tried semen retention is that this time when there was a possibility where I felt that while I was sleeping that I may get a wet dream or something like that I was woken up and it happened over multiple times and almost two months later I happened to eat outside, still this time I was just eating home cooked food and that particular night I did had a wet dream so I wanted to understand these two things that what was happening in terms of where I was getting woken up where it felt like everything is helping me to continue on that while when I was in a restaurant and I ate there and that night it didn't happen. When a seeker starts to practice retention of the semen within the system it means he or she for a female it's of course a different composition but it's similar in terms of the energy contained within the fluid. The system at first is in a state of insecurity because it's something unknown to the system that the seminal fluids are retained. But after a while what happens is that pulling that energy upward creates a sort of a heat in the system. Tapas Shakti is created in the system and as you pull this energy higher and higher it turns from a shadow state into a twilight state and then you pull it up even higher and then it turns into a state of light and then into the fiery light and then you pull it even higher and it becomes the electricity electric light actual electricity in the body and at one point by the time it reaches the top of your body it turns into an incandescent light. In the history of spirituality the aim of pulling that upwards was actually to create an opening in the system so that the awareness could leave, could transcend the system and move into cosmic states of experience. Some are the experiences where the awareness moved further and further away from the body into subtle and even more subtle states where there was no experience of the body anymore just a sort of an entity and then at one point not even that entity. What happens is that when the practitioner, when the seeker is actually trying to keep this energy within the system the processes that happen are different because when you are leaving the system and going into those samadhi states there's not much control in the body anymore and that's when even the greatest of spiritual masters have spoken about the fact that they then had those wet dreams but what is happening now especially when the self realization processes are taking over from the enlightenment processes the energy stays within the system it keeps the awareness within the system and it pushes that energy that force of consciousness into the very materiality of the body into the cells they become more conscious they become more aware the emotional part of the being becomes deeper, wider, stronger and there is more mastery and so also with the conceptual. So what happens is that the body itself is supporting that action because it knows that if it releases outward then there is no force left in the system to go into self realization because the samadhi state is not the aim which is why you are supported in those processes by the body itself waking you up before that wet dream happens but if you let's say go out and eat some food and the person that cooked that food had some extreme sexual energies in their system while they were cooking that food there is a transmission that occurs into the very materiality of that food an energetic transmission and when you eat that food that energy is taken over by your system and then you're not of course in a position to defend against the impact of that energy so it will cause something like that to happen because it's an overwhelming sexual desire based force that has been taken into the system so it will cause that desire to be fulfilled especially if you've been holding back for long enough not having the release so those are the mechanisms and especially now as more and more seekers tune into the self realization processes these phenomena will show themselves very crassly almost so that's why it happened that way.