Hi, I'm back. She was seven. I'm live. I'm live Okay, so the topic of today's video Clues he does not want you anymore. Okay. I know a lot of women that will chase behind some guy Who's left who's moved on but they still say oh he still wants me he still wants me because he calls me and texts me But he just doesn't know That he's he's confused about his feelings. You know what a man does it's not a confused about his feelings He's not a woman That is just an excuse so that he has you in his back pocket and that he could come see you anytime He wants but if he's left you and he's moved on that means he's not confused about his feelings, okay? Hi, everyone. Okay, so I was supposed to go live at 12 noon, but it's good Friday. I slept late my bad slept till noon so Yes Clues that someone does not want you anymore. They already left you. That's big clue number one Number two, they have someone else Okay, that's another big clue if they're still texting you that does not mean they still want you that means they just know Z instead and want to know if you've moved on or if you'll still do anything for them because They want to keep you as their plan B backup plan when my girl's out of town. I'll come see you maybe You know, but it's not because they still want you, you know Um, I'm gonna answer some of these questions. Okay, what if a man has a lot of money but does not spend it on you I every video I tell y'all this It's just like dating a broke man if you're dating a man with money who's not spending it on you A you don't know how to get it out of them B. You might as well be dating a broke guy Okay, you don't ask you tell you expect Okay, when people already think that you're used to getting things and that you expected It's not an option if they want to keep seeing you, you know, they're like a dang I gotta step up my game because I'm with this person and that's what she expects. Okay Um suggest places to go don't ask say we're gonna go here this weekend. Okay. Um, you know, we're going shopping this weekend so You know blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, you don't ask you tell keep telling y'all that Um Even if you have children together and he leaves you and still don't want you.  No matter where it comes from, you know Um, so you got to be careful about that If you stop giving giving it up, I'm pretty sure that he'll move on to someone else. Okay Okay Should you date a rich man with children that are young? I I never suggest dating people with young kids because I feel like You're gonna be upset because that attention is not always going to be on you And you will never be the number one priority. So if you're Um, if you're fine with that then go ahead But if you're not fine with it then um, try to find someone with older children Or no children. Okay. Um, let's see Okay, when uh, this girl's uh, someone said when I tell men what to do they say I'm bossy Well, that's why it's your approach when you tell someone what to do and you have to use Um, you know Make them think it was their idea.  It would be so cool if we could just go shopping I mean, oh my god I saw this really nice dress that I want to go try on don't say bye Say try on and when you take him to try it on with you And show it off. He's gonna buy it. Okay Ask any stripper that they that's this is what they do Um, whenever one of their clients Ask them to go to lunch They make sure the place that they go to lunch at is near a shopping center or a mall And they say, oh, I want to go try on this dress. Will you come with me? Go try it on make sure you're looking good in it. Whatever it is And um, some people say well, I don't want to dress.  Okay some You have to be really smart about those type of things and you know, that's more for like a sugar daddy arrangement It's not about you know Oh, this is the man. I'm gonna, you know, have true love and Soulmate feelings with this is just someone that you know got it and you know, it's nothing to spend it. You know what I mean?  Um Also, if you have to chase them if they ignoring you and you don't want and they've left and you have to actually Take on the masculine role and start chasing them They don't want you because men go after what they want. They're hunters. So, um, If you have a man that's not chasing you and who you know, um In the beginning anyway, or after y'all break up if he's not trying to get you back That he doesn't want you anymore. Okay.  Are you are you trying to get that ex back? Do you still want him back? No So that's the exact same way.  Oh, I still love you. You're the only one I'll ever love Okay, that doesn't mean anything because if you were the only keyword only One hour of love then he would be with you.   Nobody is you know checking for you because you're still waiting on this other guy, okay? Okay, um Oh, yeah, hi trolls y'all How are you? Okay, anyway Y'all that's my number one troll. I think you got a crush on me. What's his name? Solo tv. Hey solo tv I was married. I can't I Anyway, y'all he be talking much trash But you know the ones that give you the most attention Are the ones that like you the most so I'm very flattered Um, because you know when you don't like something you don't give it no attention.  He ain't got no money y'all. He might pretend he does but it's not real money. It's like job change, okay That's why uh, that's why he's always on here commenting Hmm so If you want your oil changed If you want some olive garden hit him up But if you want any more than that you gotta You gotta do you know find someone else for that All right So, um Someone said I need a troll.   So thank you Um Girl, I need a mascara recommendation Um, I used to faced Better than sex mascara. Um, to me, that's the best one right now in the market, but it's kind of expensive So you might want to get somebody, um Like they give out samples they give out free samples sometimes at altar if you can catch it And then you can see if you like it and then you can go buy it Okay, all right um Okay, so another another clue that a man is no longer interested in you like um when he stops, um Texting you period and you go if you go if he goes over two weeks without texting you Okay, that's how long it takes to to to quit a habit. Okay So if he was addicted to you in anyway after two weeks, all that's gone Okay If he's calling you after that is because a he wants some b the first thing didn't work out and you know, he wants to see if you know You're still available to you until you find someone else So if he hasn't text you or called you or seen you in two weeks and you're still holding on to hope For me, it's it's a deal breaker. It's like nah You two weeks, I don't know what you've done. You could have gone on vacations let with 20 people, you know By you know, you're not interested in me. You just want me because the grass was never greener. You know what I'm saying and You know, it's it's just not worth it. So um Okay, um, what should you do to prevent rich men from leaving? Well, what should women do to prevent their rich man for leaving them for another woman? Um, make him invest in you. I'll keep telling y'all if a man invests a lot into you a lot of time Money and if you have good fun Memories it has to be fun Okay, you can't be doing the same thing that he does with everybody else You got to take him somewhere that that's just gonna blow his mind or do something to him It's gonna blow his mind because he'll always remember you you will stand out. You will be unique You know, and if you like to have fun If it's not all about stress and you you can laugh and smile You're going to Be more appealing than a lot of the other women. So you're gonna I didn't say nice. I said fun.  You know what I mean?  Give him a few wins every now and then. Oh my god. I love it. This is fun But then like the next time around it's go. Oh, you know, this is fun I love it, but there's so something so much better and I just want to show you. Oh my god.   I don't know just just you have to get creative.    You got to think outside the box Okay, because most rich guys You know, they get bored easily. So you got to be something special Even if you create whatever it is in your mind and just go for it. You know what I'm saying? Okay, um Can I make a video about having a rival female? Um, don't hang around them You know, if you have a rival stop hanging around and don't be friends with them, you know Um, why would you be friends with your competition?  Okay Anyways, that's just common sense right there You don't bring sand to the beach, right? Okay Okay, the troll is trying to tell y'all all y'all have to do is give Oral sex to men, but that's not true because any prostitute can do that.  Obviously Mm-hmm That's automatic if you're rich. Okay, and you if you have issues getting oral sex is because you broke Just keeping it real. Okay. Y'all y'all want to see my hat? It's a star. Okay Okay Believe me women are automatically gonna give head to someone who has money and it's spending on them. Okay You don't have to say that in in the comments because that's automatic. You would know that if you had real money She were what do I think about the song black space blank space by Taylor Swift I don't like Taylor Swift. I'm sorry. My daughter loves Taylor Swift But I don't like her. I feel like she's overrated and um I don't know. I just I don't listen to her music.    Oh, okay. Where are we going olive garden? Oh, you know what? I'm busy that weekend. Oh really? Yeah um But you know, maybe next win make next weekend we could go to Name some nicer restaurant that you like if he says he can't do it. It's like, okay. Well, maybe uh, take a rain check. Maybe we'll Do something later on. I don't know no definite plan is made. You know what I'm saying? So this is you telling him. I don't like olive garden. We got to do better This is him saying This is all I can do. This is you saying peace. Okay So if you're playing hard to get You're gonna confuse the person if you give him a challenge that they can actually meet and have a goal to to rise to To get to you. That's not playing hard to get that's making them work for you.  Okay women offer The ability to Have an offspring a child an heir to your throne. Okay women offer your life Um excitement, okay When you're rich and you'll have anyone to share it with someone special that you can talk to It's boring. Okay. Ask anybody who has a lot of money is boring. Okay, you might can have any woman you want but at the end of the day It's like you say it's just a warm mouth. So I feel like It's almost like find trying to find a best friend That is You know a woman that you can respect and that other people will respect and who Is going to make a good mother and also it represents someone who is um Very level-headed fun is going to make your life better Because they're exciting and creative So yes, women offer creativity in life like you walk into a man's house.  You know what I'm saying Um, you're going to have all your utensils in your kitchen You're going to have stuff that you need that you That you weren't using other things for so it's kind of out kind of bring it all together You know and rich men know this and and women give them inspiration You know they give them something to work towards someone to impress because if you're rich You're always surrounded by yes people. Yes people But the woman that you're going to wife or be with is not going to be a yes person They're going to tell you the truth that you want someone in your corner.  So they're going to try to get along with you They're going to try to meet your knees. They're going to try to do all those things But they're not going to be a yes woman. So that's your challenge most rich men They've conquered the world. They've conquered the business world, but they have never conquered women. Okay They've conquered. They've conquered. Um, you know groupies They've conquered, you know hookers, but they've never conquered a woman And that's the last You know thing and they shouldn't want to conquer a woman. They should want to learn From her learn her secrets um Understand her because that's like one of the greatest mysteries is to understand a woman and also it benefits them You know men who are married live a lot longer Men who are married are much happier um as far as you know Being not alone. They're not they don't feel lonely and things like that And you know when they get old they actually have someone to share the rest of their life with so You know, but the the way that um Another clue is that you can tell a man is not interested in you Is that if he keeps telling you that you need to improve you need to do this you need to do that You need okay, you would be so much better if that means he really doesn't like you in the first place He's trying to create the person that he wants Because it's not really you or he's trying to make you into someone else that he probably dated before But you're just not there yet, but you do have the potential So that's another reason if he keeps telling you that you need to do this and that you should look You should do if he's trying to create you or recreate you He's not really into you. He's trying you're a project to him And if you don't you know become what he wants he's going to find someone else That he can do the same thing to okay, um So if let me see let me read some of these. I've been talking about I'm gonna scroll back up. Okay Friend text your friend not to FaceTime or text back. I'm using my phone. Thank you Okay, um, sorry y'all Dating a single mom should the man pay for a babysitter and dinner for the children so that you can spend time with him um If he's rich and he and he volunteers But that should not be a requirement Because first of all those okay, I know a lot of y'all don't get mad, but that's why When you you know what when you date someone and You got all these kids and you need babysitters and free meals and stuff That's your responsibility. Okay, and your baby daddy responsibility. You should be getting that in child support Only if the man offers it to you is it okay? Okay, but it's ghetto to ask. I'm just gonna say it straight up It's very ghetto Can you buy my baby some meals to go and pay the babysitter? That just makes dating a single mom Even worse You gotta take care of that. That's your business that you handle that. Okay. He's not their daddy Okay, sorry Like I would never ask somebody to do that unless they were just Voluntary or I really didn't like them. I just wanted free food Okay So, let's see Yeah, I really I think that you know, that's your responsibility If you don't if you're not getting child support from your baby daddy, then that's your problem You got you got to do what you got to do. Okay Yeah, child support can be used for babysit sitting fees when you need to go out with another man No, no problem with that. Um Okay What do you do when you when he wants you to wait for him and never puts in an effort for you? Don't ever wait on a man.   Okay If somebody asks you wait for me, you know That's that's clue number 18. I don't even know what clue I'm on But that's clue something that he don't want you if he tells you to wait on him. Okay Say I'm not a waiter if you know, I'm where's my tip? No, you don't wait on men. That's the stupidest thing ever.  I don't even know what number that is and you're and and you're Being faithful and waiting for a man who Does not put you as a priority. That's done Um, what is your opinion on trust in a relationship when it comes to cheating? Um, I feel like Most men are gonna cheat anyway, so I don't trust people as far as I can spit Um, but what I do I do, um, I do feel like After a while the trust Like after you've been married a long time and you know, especially If you this the type of man you marry if the if you if you were dating and he was cheating before you got married Or if you knew he was a cheater, he's always mostly gonna be a cheater. Okay. That's what you have accepted That's what you have agreed to. That's what you signed up for So that's what you're gonna have to deal with. Okay That doesn't mean you can't cheat too or it doesn't mean that you can't get something out of it You know what I'm saying? You catch somebody cheating.  Use it to your advantage, you know If you're going to be with a cheater might as well be with a rich cheater Because when he cheats he can make up for it Broke man cheating. That's just dumb. Okay. Don't be with a broke cheater How would you react when one of my daughters brings home a broke man?  They're they're they don't go to those, you know Low-end places they're used to like after school I don't take them to mcdonald's we go sit down at a nice restaurant eat, you know You know linen napkins and things like that. They're not used to that when they get to high school and College and beyond that they're gonna expect way more than that or at least that you know If if if a guy can't even equal and do what their parents can do for them They're not gonna waste their time plus the neighborhood that we live in the high school that they'll be going to There ain't no broke people around here. I made sure that I made sure they're going to be in an environment Where they would be around their equals, okay So anybody they bring home is in a very nice home their parents are in a very nice home And I'm pretty sure their parents have instilled in them How to be something, you know what I mean, so Unless they go out and to the other side of town and bring something home looking like, um Slimped up. I'm you know, I'm gonna let them date.  That's what motivated me To not stay with them. You know what I mean? Sometimes you've got to date a broke man to understand Why you don't need or want a broke man.  Oh my god. That was so fun.  It's good for novelty. That's about it. Okay Um What if an older broke handsome what what if he was an older broke handsome man, what If you dating the old man and he broke You might need to get tested for you know, your IQ might not be over 75. Okay Okay, um If you dating the old man and he broke Don't do it. It's not worth it unless you know only people that do that are people that have self-esteem problems And don't think that they can get anybody better, you know Can I give tips to someone who just started dating a rich athlete?  Okay If you look good if you're decent if you have high morals you could end up wife If you do whatever he asks you be that groupie your side chick. Okay. Think about what's what's that girl's name? Alicia curry. Uh, I forgot her name it. You got to be like buttoned up I'm going to church on sunday, even if you don't even believe in god Or whatever whatever he believes in Um mirror that Oh, I'm gonna go y'all remember that movie just right with queen latifah and what's her name? Um I forgot her great main comment.   You know what I'm saying? And talk about the future together, you know, don't Like say, you know what?  You know, um What was your what's your fantasy? Um life. Well, where do you see your life in five years from now? Blah blah blah blah like ask him the serious questions that most groupies are not going to ask him You know And don't even like when you're dating an athlete um Always have something going for yourself on the side. They like that. You know what I'm saying? School a career something like that. You know what I'm saying? Be don't always be available to them They're gonna cheat anyway. Okay. You can't stop an athlete from cheating.   So Um, I would say just play it smart. You know what I mean?  Okay Tell him no sometimes like no, I'm not you know, no, that's not appropriate. No, we don't do that No, you know, you should be more humble. You need to be the voice of reason. That's what they like. Okay Okay voice of reason Shouldn't it should the engagement ring be expensive? Okay, well, there's a lot of controversy around the engagement rings It should at least cost over a thousand dollars just the engagement ring Okay, you're gonna get the wedding ring on the wedding day. Okay, so An engagement ring if he's gonna give you two rings The first one should at least be over a thousand dollars. Okay, if it's under a thousand dollars No, okay The wedding ring is supposed to cost him three months salary. That's the rule. That's what it says I don't know.  Maybe you can get one month But you know, some men do some men love their wife so much that they will do that And they'll just get a credit card and put it on there. I don't know. I'm pay it off and pay in installments I don't know, but there are ways, okay Um So if your man has given you a chip that you can hardly see Imagine how your life is going to be, you know, some people some people will argue well, my man gave me a A cheap ring and now we're rich and da da da That's fine. You know, if you if you want to marry potential That's fine.  What do you think a beautiful rich man? She's 22. He's 46 and they want to get married and start for that's the perfect age He's ready to settle down. He's not going to be out in the streets looking for other women He's he's like, look, I'm about to be 50. I need to settle down Uh, I've already dated all the women my age, you know, I probably don't have enough for them Or maybe I can't impress them as much as I can impress a 22 year old who's going to love everything I do Let me get this 22 year old. She's fertile. We're gonna have kids Yes, maybe that 46 year old man who has money. He's ready to settle down He's not going to be trying to cheat and sneak around with the x or whatever. He's done He's like, dang, I'm getting gray hairs and I'm getting gray pubic hairs. It's time to Settle in. Okay. So yeah, go go ahead. Go go for that. I would Actually, I did when I met my husband. He was 47 Okay, um What is your take on older women with younger men? I don't I don't think I would never date a younger man It's too it's like dating a child like for me because the gender role, okay I need a man. I need somebody to take charge if he's rich and he's paying your bills and he's taking charge And he makes you feel feminine like a woman. Then yes, fine, but if you're the mom, then no, it's just like having another child Okay, what is a good age for 40 year old woman to date to win? I always get 27 Well, the 27 year olds are just after one thing. You know that, right? They're not trying to be husband. Okay They're still out playing the field. They probably just want to get a An older woman experience, you know How should a 40 year old dress? Well, I'm almost 40 and I dress according to you know Whatever I like. I don't try to dress like a teenager. I'm trying to dress like an old lady I try to dress something like in between classic, you know classic pieces can work for any age This ain't classic.  Hi Sasha. What's up? What's wrong? Sasha want your phone now? Mommy's on my phone. I'm on my phone. Go get the iPad Hi They Sasha wanted my phone Okay, um Where can I meet older rich men? What events do they go to charity events? golf clubs country clubs tennis clubs expensive restaurants go to the bar area um They're always like in some type of club some exclusive club.  You can wear your tight workout clothes Be working around working out around reach somebody keeps calling on my phone um So Yeah My highlight is on fleek today. Thank you What kind of car should a women's drive who's looking for a man of means? Don't okay. If you if you have a nice car It's gonna be hard to find someone who's going to take care of you. Okay. Um, I ran to this problem when I was younger I had a nice car and like I would date someone and uh, they would see my car and they would get discouraged because like she already has everything I can't impress her No, because my my parents had money and so it was almost like You'd have to get downgrade on your Purses and cars and things like that to get men to want to do things for you. You know what I mean?   You know what I mean? Um, if that man was not a millionaire And if that man was not doing anything for you if that man was not paying on your bills You shouldn't be chasing him anyway. Okay. That was a relief now. You have room to improve Okay So Anyway, trying to read some of these comments When a guy approaches approaches you online What do you say? How do you appear mysterious and feeling a while keeping their interest? You don't comment back on somebody you make them work for your first response My phone is shaking. Hold up. Um When someone tries to approach you online, don't comment back right away Give like give it a few days and then comment back and be like Hi, who is this? That's how you seem mysterious. Like, oh, you're not waiting on people to inbox you like Oh, someone uh, someone someone's Giving me attention.   He's feeling low about himself.  He's gonna be even more excited Then he would have been if you had responded right away Then his ego goes up if you respond right away his ego sinks and you bring his ego back up Not to that level it would have been but in the middle So now you can work with him, you know, so you text back days later. He's like all excited I didn't think he was gonna text me back. Oh, you're so beautiful Now he's showing his like humble side to you And before he was like, hey babe, how you doing? What's your name? You know Now he's gonna put his max skills on but when he gave up all hope and you text a man, he's all excited You know, so do that. That's that's why women who make men wait longer on texts and things like that They get them because you're hooking them.  Don't ever respond right back. Make him wait a couple days If you if you think he's cute, then make him wait a couple days, you know, if he's ugly Just don't ever ever respond back. Okay Or if you if you look bro, go check out his profile use those few days to go figure out who he is, you know And then still wait and respond back in a day or two because if you're too, you know Extra and too excited.  Okay Um, so I don't feel like dating a rich man versus a working man has a difference with cheating because they all cheat Um at some point, you know, and I feel like if you're gonna date someone or be with someone You might as well If the poor guy cheats he can't make up for if the rich guy cheats he can make up for plus, you know what I'm saying Either way, you're gonna get you know All men cheat they say 80 something percent of men cheat So if you don't like those odds, I'm sorry stop cheating Okay, 80 percent of men cheat, I'm not gonna say all men cheat, but 80 percent of men cheat the other 80 percent They might be priests.  I don't know, you know, I don't know about them Or maybe they're just faithful, but 80 percent I think it's actually 86 if I'm going to be accurate If you like those odds, you know for me if I had those odds Which I do if you have those odds you might as well go for rich because they can make up for it They can take your vacation trips. They can spend the rest of their life making up for cheating one time.  I'm not cheating now Now they can't even question you so it's kind of like a win-win It's kind of like getting the upper hand in the relationship, you know what I mean? So if you have that upper hand Because he cheated then use it to your advantage Don't be all we cheated on me. He's gonna cheat on me again. I'm so paranoid Just you know, if he if he does and you catch him Look it's time for a new person time for a vacation a time for this time for that. Okay, you know keep cheating I'm cheap too, but you'll never figure it out You know just stuff like that you can't take things personal, you know If you really fall in love with somebody and your heart is broken and done Refer back to the part of this video when I said 86 percent of men cheat Okay, why are you expecting? You know all of this out of someone and you already know the statistics That's silly, you know what I'm saying Have I experienced being cheated on yes in many relationships? I was cheated on And I was cheating on them too So it didn't matter. Um, but I feel like, you know As a married person, I don't think I've been cheated on and I don't I can't say I have it or have for sure because He hadn't got caught But I feel like as a girlfriend In in the past. Yes, I've been cheated on and I've used it to my advantage I've totally used it to my advantage But see I married an older man So it was you know if he's gonna cheat Who's he gonna cheat with you know an old lady a young woman who he can't afford to take care of because he'd take care of me You know you if you want to lessen those odds of a man cheating you have to alter Their money. Okay a man a man can't cheat if he can't afford to Right how can you get a rich over? Oh I have this like phone thing To hold up my phone while I do life and I knocked it down. Um How can you get a rich old man hanging around where old men hang out? Um, I'm at mine a bar they all go to bars. Everybody goes to bars, you know Uh, lunchtime at a bar, you know, they got a career. They're on their lunch break they can afford a nice restaurant and sit at the bar or go to a nice restaurant in Like the side of town where there are a lot of businesses and things like that And you can catch one. Um either at happy hour or um on a lunch Hmm Okay, someone says their boyfriend is 58 years old and he likes giving them stuff He is a good lover and he aims to please so there you go. Yep Old guys are experienced. They know what they're doing They want to give you gifts all the time, you know, they got money Like by the time that you know if they if they're a career man or any type of man, they got money They're not struggling anymore.  They can take your vacation, you know They can buy your business Come on now. What what are the disadvantages? Oh, he's old and got gray hair. Okay.  I mean, there'll be less women trying to go after him Um, he's less likely to cheat because he's already been there and done that So I don't see any any downs unless he's just old and broke. Then that's a bad thing. Don't they all broke people? That means they weren't even smart enough to get it together in their old age Okay I never see a rich man with an average looking girl always the fake type So how does the average looking woman get it rich? You okay the ones that you're seeing are the ones the rich man that you're seeing with like beautiful women Those are the ones who are dating for trophy wives There are rich men that are not dating for trophy wives They're they're dating because they've already dated the trophy woman or their first wife was a trophy wife And now they want someone more real So, um, you know, you gotta you gotta kind of get in their head and see what they really want also, um Chances are he probably paid for them to look like that. She was probably an experiment to him So or that's what he likes. He probably found her in the strip club or something like that but If you're if your wifey type in, you know, you keep yourself decent and and respectable You know, they like that too, but you can't be too nice.  She's probably a challenge. He probably can't never please her She's probably always going to be wanting something more Sometimes this is just about that and plus the looks are just an added bonus, you know what I mean? So if you look average, if you say you can go and do yourself up, okay, for example If you know if you go on fishing, okay, and you're Getting the bait you don't get just some regular old bait You get the type of bait that's going to catch the big fish. Okay That's what you got to do.    No, okay If I walk up the house looking crazy, do you think he's going to want to take me anywhere? No, you got to look the part Okay, this is you're applying for a role if you can't fit the part of that role Then you need to Figure out how to do it. Okay You know any any ugly person can be made beautiful with makeup. You see it on tv all the time.  That's just how it is. You can make yourself attractive. Okay There's so many women walking around who are really ugly That you will never know because they're Fixed up.   I made sure that before I married him.  I said this in the last video Um, so it really couldn't happen. You know social security, athlete insurance 401k If he did lose his job, he the kind of job that he has he will get severance pay And all this kind of stuff.  Why would I stay what okay, would you stay in a situation Where no one could do anything for you or would you seek? Else, you know elsewhere what I'm saying is How do you know he wouldn't leave me if he got broke? Um, you know It feels like if someone couldn't support their family anymore, they would actually leave, you know what I mean So I don't feel like I would leave him I feel like he would leave me first if he couldn't afford to take care of us anymore, you know Um Should you say that your high maintenance upfront or should you subtly ask for gifts? You don't ask I tell you to never ask you always suggest or expect for gifts and they'll already know your um High maintenance as soon as you start suggesting stuff. That's not of the norm.  No, I'm sorry. They just not so A lot of work, you know women put in a lot of work. They sure do I put in a lot of work. Y'all know how long took took me to put this makeup on just to get on the camera Okay, I did that for y'all so you don't have to look at my Um, just woke up face. Okay, so yes, I put in work That's why I reap benefits and results because I did put in the work Even if it's just putting on some makeup That's still work and that you're putting in to get the results that you want in life. Okay Putting on makeup equals attraction from men then put on some makeup. Okay Makes common sense, right All women are subtle hookers well I think all hookers are subtle women You know what I mean? We came first The first women the first woman in the world was not a hooker. Okay. She was just smart hookers learn from them Okay, so But men with all this effort and they'll only be making 40k Aim higher. Why are you gonna aim it for 40k? I make 40k on youtube. I mean Not really But um, I do make 40k uh are up On my online endeavors Okay, you two might be happy that but the other other half is my own doing. Okay, so how can how can you aim for something that you can already do You know what I'm saying?  Okay If you ask I forgot who it was. I don't know if it was bill gates or Steve jobs But they said if you give this if you give a job to the laziest person They're gonna figure out the fastest easy way to get the job done. Okay, so calling me lazy. This is basically calling me smart Laziness will find a way to accomplish what they want in the quickest shortest easiest way Okay So Maybe y'all need to learn from women How is 40k 40k for a single man low. It's low to me because I make that like in my sleep So that's low to me. It might be high to someone else, but that's low to me like If my husband made 40k, he would kill himself And I'm not trying to sound like all this and that but like seriously That is like right out of school. You should be making that right.  So That's not high for me It's my husband a doctor. No, he's not a doctor. Um, my husband has his own business and he works for a pipeline company He's uh into it, you know computer dude like computer geek He feels software and stuff. So he's like He just might be uh black bill gates and the makin So anyway, okay, $80,000 is pretty good and she's a teacher. Yeah, I've seen 80,000 is not I mean 40,000 is not a lot for a single man. That's like jump change Okay, uh most youtubers make that have a certain amount of subscribers and do a certain amount of videos a year They make that okay in their sleep their videos keep playing and they get paid So $40,000 It's good for you know, someone who just got out of school A couple years out of school. That's really good. If you're in your 20s, that's good. If you're in your early 30s That's okay, but if you up above 35 you've got to try harder It's my husband a christian or a muslim.  Yeah, I mean I agree. I think you can get stuff done with 40k But you can't impress women with it Can't take vacations with it Can't buy Gucci with it I don't even really like Gucci. I don't even know I keep saying that I'm more of a Louis Vuitton Kate Spade Michael Kors um Like instead of buying like one big one nice Gucci purse or one Louis Vuitton purse. I rather have like five nice Michael Kors or Kate Spade purses I can interchange, you know, because I wear a lot of different outfits and I like colors and No stuff like that. And plus I don't I don't think spending frivolous money on a purse That's going to be out of fashion or out of style the next year And you're carrying it is you know, like oh, she got that like people that know Oh, she got that Gucci purse two years ago and she's still carrying it If I'm going to like compete with all of that, you know, it's it's a waste of my time I like to get things I like practical so that I can have money to do what I want to do I would take the money that someone would take to go buy a Gucci purse and start a business online You know what I'm saying? So that's why I can make more, you know, than the average man Sitting on my computer because instead of going out shopping. I'm buying online businesses. You know what I'm saying and Making money that way and I can do that in my pajamas when I wake up in the morning when my kids are at school It basically just takes care of itself So, you know smart women smart men would think of more avenues to have money increasing That's what my old man taught me. Okay, my husband my old man He taught me to have many different ways that income can flow in easily Okay, but when you marry an old man, he's going to teach you how to make old man money.  She's like really But I'm not gonna say her name because I want to call her out just in case she's not really a troll and she's just ignorant but I feel like anybody can find a man if they put their mind heart and soul into it, you know what I mean They can find somebody that's gonna take care of them. Believe me It might not be the cutest man. He might not be a billionaire a millionaire. He might be a thousand error But that's good for you. You know what I'm saying Oh When am I stalking Jezebel root? Um in my store online? It's not going to be available till after may but um If you I do have the oil that I can get it's it's available, but it's not on my store But I know how I can get it for you. So um Just let me know and I'll come back I'll put my um information that you can contact me with In the down bar on my store. Just um On one of my websites that you can write me at. Okay Hey girls, I'm super rich and box me Yeah, he's super rich What if you someone says that they rich? He is sorry Okay, there's more. Okay, blah, blah, blah. We work together as a couple. It's not hard. Sweetie. It's love Yeah, those people that work together like as soon as the man starts making a lot more money and starts cheating And drops the woman who worked with him hard up until that level And then goes with the other woman that didn't have to do nothing. Yeah, it's good up until the end. Okay Believe me. I have talked to so many women that that wasn't that working relationship Oh, we're gonna work together and build as soon as he's here In as soon as she's here and he's getting respect from other women. Look Bye. So if you got to help your grown man build Okay, don't expect him to treat you like a lady. Don't expect him to pamper you and spoil you because you are his helpmate His partner in building not his partner in love not his partner and oh, I'm gonna take care of you not his wife You're his actual Business partner like okay You do a I'm gonna do b and when we accomplish this together We're gonna have all these things Now that I have all these things these other women who are not helping me build are not doing anything for me But looking at me sexually, they're gonna get my attention and right over here You know, you're never gonna respect me because you helped me get to this level You built me up to this level. So you'll never see me as this rich hot old guy But these little you'll little young 22 year old do you'll just see me as you know Oh, I helped him get here.  Okay, so build up if you together if you want But don't be mad make sure you get the prenup Okay She wrote what about both make 40 If y'all want me to say, okay, it's okay to date somebody that making 40k, I'm not gonna do it Okay, unless you're under 35 years old or under 30 years old And you both make 40k if you're if you make 40k your man should make 80k Okay If you want that respect if you want to be the man in the relationship You need to make more than the woman and I'm just gonna say it straight up because the woman is gonna be like I don't need y'all money. I can do whatever I want. Anyway, you don't make as much as me And what if she gets a raise and then she's making 60k and you're still making 40k No, the man needs to make more money period To get the respect that he feels like he deserves You know what I'm saying? I can't I couldn't date a man that I made more money then I would be like Oh, I would I would feel like I was wasting my time actually Okay, what are good careers for men Careers that will always be around forever careers that are high in demand like the technology, you know Technology is like one of the biggest biggest things right now because everything is computerized everything is online So look into technology look into online businesses look into software IT and things like that because that's where the future is The men who pick careers need to pick careers that are going to lead the future. You know what I mean? Healthcare is always going to be there of course, you know Think about this. Okay. So, you know how like in all the banks There's no longer a need for bank tellers now. You just stick your check in the ATM and it just scans it Okay, you don't want to go for something that Going to be replaced by a machine you want to actually be the person who builds the things that replace people You know what I'm saying software engineers things like that. Okay She was seven man as cold you are I am 38 years old I'm 38 and Um, yep, I have two kids Live in suburbs married for 12 years So that's what you want. There you go Okay, um I'm single and attractive attracting the man of my dreams. Where can I go alone? Of course defining me happy hours in rich in rich areas or nice restaurants at the bar At lunchtime maybe in a medical center.  I already said this earlier At least oh what?  I can get jewelry. I don't have to give my man any money He will pay for everything. Okay, and I can keep my six figures and go start a business And then I can make seven we then we'll be making seven figures You know what I'm saying or I can give it to my children so that when they get out of school They can already have their business, you know what I'm saying So if you're a man and you have to combine and you got a brag on him Obviously, he's not that impressive, you know, because I feel like Women who get upset with me about being taken care of they're just angry because they couldn't find a man to agree to it Okay, your man might be making this money. You might be making this money But he would never take care of you all the way and that's why you're mad And yeah, people say I look young for my that's because I don't have to work Y'all out there slaving and working away looking old You find a man take care of you.    Okay She was seven. Have you ever think of to cheat on your husband with the Someone ask me if I ever thought to cheat on my husband with a young handsome man I've already had a young handsome man. Y'all like I have I have had like before I got married. I used to date celebrities You know athletes. I've already had all the pretty boys You know, they're overrated. I mean they were fun. That's why I did all that stuff before I married So that when I did get married, I wouldn't even be tempted to cheat, you know, I've already had all of that So I don't like I feel like if I did that it would be risking um All the things that I have and it's not really worth it Besides like when you're when you've been married, it's not even about sex and how young and cute someone looks anymore It's about what you can accomplish what you can do. What's the next step in your life? It's about lifestyle at that point, you know, what's my how can I decorate my house? Where are we going on vacation? You know thinking about young little sexy boys? Yeah, I can see them You know pool guy, you know lawn dude Um guy that works at the restaurant waiter sexy. Yeah, I can I can look But I'm sexually attracted to success and that looks okay That's why those young guys that I did they all had money Not attracted to you know youth.  You know what I'm saying So, um, yeah, don't pay attention to the troll.  Would you be trolling on someone's video on a Friday at I don't even know what time this at 315 central for 34 minutes. Obviously you have nothing to offer anyone Okay, I'm here because this is my this is my youtube channel and I get paid. Ha Anyways Where do you go to find the trick sponsor?  Okay, like if you're You like he doesn't have to be a millionaire rich. He can be a thousandaire You know what I'm saying? But if he's going to spend the money on you if he's going to spend more money on you than a millionaire Then yes, go for him Okay So make sure you go somewhere that you know you look the best because there's always rich men hanging out In in certain spots and in nice areas and in bad areas, you know and Um, because they are often the richest man in that like hole in the wall place. So they feel like the man Okay, you come in looking like the best woman in the place. You're gonna attract the richest man.   He got what he wanted now y'all can kind of At least y'all can get out of the area. You know what I mean? And and go have a decent Time and other places or y'all can stay in the own area and make everybody else jealous You know what I'm saying? It's up to you. There's many ways you can attract somebody that's going to spend money on you You don't have to go to these high-end areas.  I'm like What do you want me to tell him that you don't? It's like no, no So I think he watches I think he sneaks and watches here and there which I don't mind Because I this high taught him anyway Like we joke around about this and he already knows like even on our wedding vows He didn't even say for richer for poorer. He said for richer or richer. Okay, so When we get when we got married, he already knew what it was and we even played At our reception we we even had the dj play gold digger and it was hilarious You know when he was taking off the garter, you know, they have the song when the guy takes off the garter And they were playing gold digger and we had requested it It was like we already knew that everyone we invited thought that anyway So when someone when people are saying oh, she just married him because he got money or he She's gold digger.  He wanted her He had the money to get her She's not hiding the fact that she married him for money Maybe they really do love each other because they can joke around about this kind of stuff You know embrace the negative in life and turn it into a positive.  Okay, that's not even on his level. You know what I'm saying Do you okay someone asked do I think my husband is faithful to me? Yes, I do because first of all he can't afford nobody else Because I'm I'm just looking all that money up and our kids Um, and if he was I think it's by now. He's like I I think you know anybody he could get right now No offense would not look better than me be funnier than me and he would just be wasting time Plus every day after work.  Okay Just make sure you want your man to come home. Have all the sports channels have The best cable have Look look good. Don't don't come don't walk around that body and and um, you know, no makeup on looking like like this If he coming home to a good looking woman, uh, all the sports channels all the cable he's coming home To a nice house A nice dog some kids that are well behaved.  You know what I'm saying?  I already know that because if they look better than me, they're gonna want more than me Okay, they don't want more than me.  He ain't got time and he has his own business So he don't even have time to cheat plus he's old and tired. So You don't got no that or no or no energy Would I leave my husband for a millionaire if I you know what I have had millionaires come on to me But Like I said, they wanted to turn me into something that I just would not be happy at Those are the kind of men that want you to be something that you're not, you know what I'm saying? Oh, I'm a millionaire. You have to do what I say, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah Let me tell you what they wanted me to do You know, I listen for a little bit, but I was like, uh, no, thanks um, because like When you make enough money and when you have enough money to basically have anything you want A millionaire or you know, someone that wants to offer you more It's not really a big deal because you still have access to most of those things unless he's got a private jet and stuff like that But like they want to turn you into something that You don't want to be, you know, if they're trying to, you know Some of them won't some of them won't I've dated millionaires and before I got married to my husband My husband is not a millionaire, but he's very close. But the reason I didn't marry the millionaire is because I'm staying in Texas. Y'all he want to move somewhere and travel and do this and I I want to settle down I want a house. I want this, you know, a lot of millionaires just want you to be their Like travel partner. They don't want to settle down Until they're like super old and then by that time, you know, it's it's just They want you to follow them to the extent where you no longer have yourself, you know, so I feel like Me not choosing To marry a millionaire, but a man who could do like basically the same thing Was smarter, you know what I'm saying? My husband will eventually be a millionaire is what I'm saying. So In the next five years, my husband will be a millionaire So it wouldn't make sense for me to leave him because if I left my husband for a millionaire I'm you know, I'm I'm I'm leaving behind A lot of things especially being married, you know, I'm leaving behind the potential The will the insurance I will be a millionaire. You know what I'm saying? So you gotta think smart Um, I mean to this millionaire. He wanted me to be like one of them church ladies. Okay With them big hats. I did this on one of my videos Go to church where the yellow suit like his this guy his mom works with or worked with President Obama, okay, they had money.  I can't I can't do the Janet Jackson thing. Sorry. I'm stay here I can't go against my true nature Wouldn't it wouldn't work.  I'm reading some of these comments Okay, we we didn't got off the whole subject. Okay.  If you got a if you got a figure out ways to get his attention and want him back And he don't want you.  I'm like, dang, I should stay with her But usually they don't want you back if they if they're already gone and moved on Just give up and go find somebody better It's always if I had you know, I would say this in my videos if I had Tried to get my ex back and was successful and I would be not happy right now You think I'd be a millionaire first? I probably could be I probably you know what? I'm probably gonna I am working on writing a book y'all for for my other channel But I'm then after that one that one's coming on here But I'm pretty sure eventually in my lifetime I will be a millionaire. You know, I have no doubts about that That's gonna be you know, I'm like I have my whole life ahead of me I will be a millionaire thanks to learning from someone You know on how to do things You know who's success who's successful and you know business minded Like my husband is not the flashy type. He ain't buying rims. He's not he's not buying flashy clothes He's not doing nothing all his money goes into business business house, you know Building up his kids and family and stuff like that. So that's the real wealth right there. No Okay What if he says I don't show him enough attention? I never call or text A man that will say that to you is basically saying, you know That's good. I feel like that's good. Oh, that means He cares about what you think he cares about your interest in him So he's gonna does he work harder to make you text him does he work harder to get you to call him, you know What what you need to say is, you know You're right. I don't show you enough attention, but I'm very busy, you know Um, why don't you call me? Why don't you text me?  You have a phone that can do automatic response and you can personalize or you can say Um, hey, I'm so sorry.  Don't even do it. Just like, well, why don't you text me first? And maybe I have something to text back to Okay What are the actual signs that he's done? If you're chasing him He's done If he's left you moved on but still calling you saying you're the only one I ever love but still with the other person and gone He's done.  He's done He's just using you um if you know if he's always Talking about other things and other people plans with them and not and does not include you In the future if he's still thinking about getting back together with you He's done, you know, if he's um saying, oh, you know, I don't know Where I'm gonna be at, you know In two years. I don't know what this is going to be but he's still telling you. Oh, I'm gonna be with you I love you. You should be included in that.  I love you. Wait on me.    That's just dumb. Would that man wait on you? If you if you can answer that and the answer is yes, then All right, but if you know he would never wait on you don't wait on him Okay How do you get out of the friend zone? If you're a woman and you want out of the friend zone start dating somebody That treats you really good and tell him about it.  That's not right, but 100 of people on the planet lie They that's how you know a lot of people if everyone was 100 on it's nothing would have gotten done on this planet I'm sorry, you know people lie every day to get to where they want to get okay to me I feel like it's a necessary evil and If you're in competition with people that lie and you don't lie guess what you're gonna lose So you got to know when to lie how to lie and you know You know what's worth lying for you know Because you know you you talk about who the line is wrong, but it's you over here cheating Or oh lying is wrong, but you're over here, you know Cussing and Having pre-marital sex, but lying is wrong. Okay. If you're doing all that you might as well throw in lying too. Okay Get it together Did you grow up rich or poor?  Um I I don't think I was rich. I was probably upper middle class, you know So the my mom would buy me cars and put bows on them for my birthday You know in high school, um when I graduated high school. She bought me a car, you know, so I did work though. I did have jobs For like my little spending money or whatever But I feel like I was raised a little bit spoiled. You know what I'm saying? She paid my way through school. I didn't really have to you know, Struggle or any I've never struggled in my life. Let me just tell you that I never struggled in my life never struggled a day in my life and probably that's why um, I would never want to Experience that struggle. I've struggled in other ways, but not financially. You know what I mean? So therefore I cannot accept someone who's struggling because I don't want to I don't want to ever have to experience that I don't want my kids to experience it. You know what I'm saying? So I'm keeping The vibration of struggle out of my Family, you know what I'm saying? Okay Do I have friends I do have a few friends. I don't really hang out. I'm more of like a A loner But like my cousins and my sisters those those are like more of my friends. I hang out with them I have a few friends. I have a best friend My kids are my best friends too. Like we hang out and you know They're getting older They're wanting to go shop now and they want to go get their nails done and stuff like that So, you know every week we go get our nails and patties and you know mannies and patties and we go shop We you know, I'm teaching them how to live and um You know expect the best and you know always look their best always You know, we had I had their hair done other like last week for the first time They had their hair professionally done in a salon well for the second time And you know, I just make sure that they're well aware of their worth and um So that no one can treat them any type of way and tell them that they don't deserve what they already know that they do That's why it's really good When you're a parent to teach your daughters and your sons that their value and their their self-worth because No one's ever ever going to be able to tell them different. You know what I mean? They're already going to know You know what? That's not right Next something wrong with you, you know, not something's wrong with me. Why don't you like me?  They're going to doubt the other people which is exactly how you want your children to be Okay Sheerah, I'm studying for my master's degree I'm 23 waiting to get a job in the field to look for my guy because Now all the guys that surround me at school are still young and broke any advice Well, I feel like wherever you work I don't think I don't ever think dating someone where you work is smart But if you're gonna date somebody date the boss, okay Don't go date a colleague Don't go date your competition go date the boss or someone in charge. I'm you know, someone highly Okay Someone asked me if I know about poverty in poland There's poverty everywhere. Okay. There's poverty 20 miles from my house. So I'm there's poverty everywhere.  I always go for the managers. Yep. Somebody said they always go for the managers Did you marry your hubby because of love or mainly his money? Well, let's say let let me just tell you this If he didn't have money, I wouldn't love him Okay Then that's the honest truth. That's all I can tell you if he didn't have money. I would not have fallen in love with him so I married him for both Just like if I look good, but you know, if someone looks good If someone was ugly, could you fall in love with them? Yes. If someone looks good, could you fall in love with them? Yes, if someone was broke, can you fall in love with them? Yes. If someone had money, can you fall in love with them?  You can be glistening in the sun. You can have perfect lips Perfect abs perfect everything, but if you broke you just went from a 10 to a 1 in my book. Okay Let's see $50 a week. What who makes $50 a week? Yeah, I hope you I hope that you don't have to leave your house for that Okay, let's see If he hits you he does not love you. Uh, I guess somebody's talking to someone in the comments Yeah, don't stay with abusive man if you do get, you know, don't Get a restraining order on them Um And leave, you know, that's not a good thing Okay What type of highlighters do I use on my cheeks? This is still in the color kitten Bastilla got it at um Sephora Um, let's see when should you quit your job?   I don't have any shady girlfriends that talk behind my back because I don't have any friends Get rid of them. That's how you do it. Um, then you don't have to worry about it.   Never, you know, I'm too good for that How do girls deal with rich abusive men?  You better hope that People are asking questions because they don't know the law.  Okay So if a rich man beats up on you, you're gonna get paid You can go to civil court and all that you can press charges Have your legal fees paid. You can get crime victims compensation You you you would actually be doing a you know, very well if you got beat by a rich person You gotta think of stuff and money don't think of stuff as oh, no, he beat me What do I do? I'm in an abusive relationship with this rich man.  You know what I mean? So either way you're gonna get paid If you smart Okay And then like you can still leave after you get paid that's what I'm saying I'm always talking money. Yes. Like I'm trying to tell you every negative can be turned into a positive It's called alchemy spiritual alchemy Mental alchemy and you're gonna you're gonna focus on being abused. I'm focused on what I can get out of the abuse Me like every hit Oh, that's a new purse. Oh, that's a new wardrobe Okay, now you're done.  Get paid. Oh, I had to have reconstructive surgery Um Or I had to get my my tooth was chipped.  So they might pay you To sign some type of affidavit. I know lawyers y'all to find sign some type of affidavit to say that this never happened Okay, that could be worth millions. So think about it Don't Rich men know this. That's why they won't hit you Most of them won't anyway They do they know that you know, it's gonna cost them a pretty penny Money is tools don't bring happiness, right money. Don't bring happiness. It brings comfort Money brings comfort happiness is should come from within, you know what I'm saying People always say well money don't bring bring happiness. You're right. It brings comfort Comfort brings peace Peace brings joy Okay, happiness is fleeting Okay, if you can wake up every morning not worrying about your bills, but complain your vacation That's joy. That's peace. Okay happiness is an emotion and it is temporary but peace and joy and constant constant peace you can't you know you can't put a price on that because Nobody a lot of people don't have that so yeah, you're right. Money don't buy happiness, but it buys comfort which buys peace which buys joy Yeah, you know You just most people just repeat what their parents said and they parents said and they're probably you know in the poverty mindset Money is not evil. Money does not bring happiness. It brings comfort Okay Enjoy Right there. I saw this meme it says whoever says that money does not bring happiness and deposited all into my account How do you keep a man on the back burner just in case he starts to make a lot of money in the future If you leave a man and and you know he has potential to make a lot of money in the future You have to leave him And you put him in the back burner.   I know you're gonna be something one day I know you're gonna be a millionaire one day.   Oh, she was always there for me. She always had my back She's the only one that ever believed me.   That's what she believed in Anyways I had to plug up my phone So what time is it? Okay, I'm gonna go I'm gonna be gone in the next 15 minutes So if y'all have anything else to ask Then y'all put it in there. Okay Most men most men, okay Like the trolls are saying that's why I don't miss with women that you won't ever know it's coming The least the woman that you least expect will probably be the woman that gets you the best Because um, they won't you won't even be able to tell you like oh, she's a good girl.  I don't know. Um Rock his world I'm not dating him. I refuse to date him until he can afford a full take of gas Girl, have you dating somebody who's just been able to afford a full take of gas? That's still bad But hey, at least you have some standards You know Make sure he can buy a full take of gas and his car and your car then maybe go to lunch Okay, um Where do I go for my facials? You have pretty skin I have not had a actually I I do my own skin work. Um, because I don't trust people, you know people be like, um Plus I'm allergic to like some products. So I have to be careful But I use I use like, um, shade moisture products. They have facial products now masks, um And stuff like that like natural stuff lush I use natural stuff and a good highlighter like this will make you look flawless. Anyway, so you gotta have I wash my face mostly every night. I try scrub You know exfoliate um Moisturize that's the key you gotta moisturize um Every day twice a day maybe Okay Who's my favorite comedian? I have to like if I have to go I I've seen it used to be cat Williams because he was crazy Until he started making fun of my Jackson. Then um, and then he took it all back and I was I was happy about that, but it used to be Dave Chappelle and um Cat Williams Because they actually make you think and laugh. I also used to like Eddie Griffith because they were hilarious Like they had some information with theirs.  Make string them along and get what you can out of them. Oh, we gonna get back together. Oh, I need some money String them along that's what I would do um If you especially if you don't want them back just string them along Advice for starting an online business Save up your money research. You need a tax ID number and um able to um A lot of these online businesses are like third-party shipping so um You're gonna have to pay for like web hosting and stuff like that So just research it before you do it. There's lots of videos on youtube about it How to start an online business how to how to start an online store and things like that that will walk you through it Okay, it's not that big of an investment. It's probably it costs less than um Uh, it's probably cost you less than 300 to start up. Okay. Okay Let me read some of these comments When should you start having sex?  Okay I always suggest 500 to a thousand dollars spent on you and at least two to three weeks of seeing this person like um a lot so They're um now that they're almost you know used to having you in their life They've spent a chunk of change on you and if you left or if he left you you would have benefited You would have benefited the relationship more than they had because they only got it once You know what I'm saying or twice, but you you got you know 10 meals out of it a gift out of it, you know, um every you know every Every time he thinks about you he's gonna think about all the good times you guys had And you kind of built up a relationship. So if he has invested a lot of time effort and money into you Then that's when it's a good time to give it up. But if you just had two days and he took you to outguard Mm-hmm.  Okay, he's not going back.  It's a trophy So now he's going to want it even more and he's going to be waiting for you to put a new challenge on it Okay Okay, well, maybe we could go out of town this weekend and have a romantic getaway I'm gonna put it on you that wouldn't that in the first time you should see what I got for you this time Now he's gonna be all excited. Okay. Where you want to go?  He's going to be trying to figure out how to get it the next time And what it's going to take to get you then, you know, uh, he's not going to throw his money down the drain after all those dates and Gifts and you know All that kind of stuff. He's gonna be like, okay, and what's next? You know, he's going to see you as girlfriend material versus You know side chick, wham, bam. Thank you, man. I'm material. Okay Okay Olive garden. Hey, I eat at olive garden with my kids after school. Okay, and I can't impress with no man. Um Like that's that's our after school dinner place, you know, that's our after school food.  Cheesecake factory is nice. It's like but it's not, um, like it's okay. Like it's okay It just depends on how much money you're making, you know what I'm saying? If your man's a billionaire, he shouldn't be trying to take you to cheesecake factory for dinner or a date, you know That's lunch. Yeah, that's that's a good lunch spot. Um, but You know, if if you're it just depends on their salary Like if you know they can't afford this place, but they trying to impress you and you know They make a good amount of money cheesecake is cool. I love cheesecake factory ain't gonna say nothing bad But if this, you know, if it's a man who's really trying to impress you, you know cheesecake You can get up there with those drinks. You can get about a two three hundred dollar bill You know, so If you go to cheesecake factory at least be able to order what you want on the menu You know what I'm saying? Don't be afraid Okay, um I feel like on a first day if this man is really trying to impress you and you look good and you know He's lucky to be with you. He should be trying to impress you and you should be able to get whatever you want on that menu You know what I'm saying? Okay, um Like the first day I met my husband. He's he must have spent at least Let me let me let me tell you how much my hub and the man I married to spent on me the first day We even met. Okay. I'm gonna tell you a hundred He must have spent at least a thousand dollars on me the first night we met Okay And that is not that is probably not even like I know he's probably spent way more than that But that's just an enough like in a guesstimate He spent at least a thousand dollars the first night we met. Okay, and I'm not joking. I'm not even lying. Um A thousand dollars. Okay, and with with no flinch Okay, that's how you know somebody really wants you and it's trying to invest in you like this is the one To Ching take my credit card. Take my cash. Here you go You know and I didn't even ask him to spend any of that on me. It was Do you want to do this? Do you want to do that? Let's go here, you know Get what you want It was like that, you know So When you have it, it's like spending ten dollars. You know what I'm saying? It's not a simp to spend something To you that's ten dollars, you know a thousand dollars to some people. It's like a hundred dollars to some people You know If you worried about a little thousand dollars, you don't need to be dating somebody Like this, you know what I'm saying? So, um You know a lot of guys call men who take care of their wives families girlfriends and children simps, but That would just make the meaning of simp A decent man, you know what I'm saying?  It's called etiquette class Um, my mom made me take etiquette class when I was a kid I hated it, but I know what fork to use. I know and plus when I went to culinary school They teach you how to set it up like the place settings and which forks and all that they teach you that too But I'm sure I'm pretty sure that they have that on youtube by now Okay Anyways Do y'all remember that movie pretty woman where she'd know how to eat? So she went down the hotel restaurant and that dude taught her which forks and stuff to use And she was still struggling at the table. It was funny, but yeah, I don't think that's super important But you know, there are some people who grew up in certain environments where table manners were not Used at all and they'll sit up there and eat like this and like Use their finger to get the food and like, um, you know Put their elbow on the table and go like this at the fork, you know Try to get some etiquette classes on youtube if you if you feel like your, um, dining skills are not good Yeah, um, okay, so someone says Fabulosity by camorelly Simmons is a great etiquette book if y'all were wondering. Okay, so someone did put that in the comments um This be the spawn of the devil The spawn I like that spawn um And in the physical world, you know on earth on the planet earth you do need To survive you do need to be comfortable, you know So So be it How to be a shameless gold digger. Yeah, well Shameless is the key word.  You know, if you already know you have a plan and goals in place Chances are you're going to reach it, you know, because you already know what you want You know what you're aiming for you're on the right path You know what to do and what not to do what to entertain and what not to entertain And eventually you're going to reach your goal or gold Okay, yes shameless is the key word. I have not a shame Of wanting what I want And you shouldn't either, you know, people who try to put shame on you for wanting more in life You know, think about that. That's poverty mindset I can't wait till her man leaves her y'all should see my last video If my man left me, I would come out way better You know, I would have way more money if he left me Than him being with me. Okay, divorce child support 401k All of that social security all of that.  You should be mad at yourself for not being able To do what women need you to do Okay, keyword need not want but need If I if I'm going to marry somebody I don't want to have to want for anything. I don't want to have to struggle with you.  You know what I mean? You shouldn't even approach the one unless you could give them what they needed I mean, how how would you feel if you had a daughter and she was dating a broke man And he was asking her for money hand out every time the bills come Can't pay for her own, you know can't pay for her dinner at a restaurant How would you feel if your daughter was being treated like you treat? Or some of these men treat their dates or girlfriends or stuff you would be pissed off and You would you would tell them not to date that loser, you know and and you would say you wouldn't say oh honey Just work with him. Oh honey. We just work with him. You know help and pay this help and pay that because that's Taking away his manhood. You know what I mean?  So I would never if I was a man. I would never Be happy if my daughter was dating someone broke. I'll be sad. I would feel like I didn't raise her right I would feel like, you know, she's settling. I would feel like, you know, hopefully this is just a temporary thing And she'll learn to do better next time But I wouldn't be too happy about it And most of you guys who are in the comments trolling y'all or if y'all ever have a daughter y'all are not Gonna let her date no broke bum either. Okay Which is why it's funny until you have a daughter You're not gonna understand.  She was she was all into something You know She's probably old and gray now, but I'm gonna go find her old youtube videos and give them to my daughter I know it She's gonna be like, hi, she was seven. My dad was solo TV Yeah, y'all remember that old troll? Just 20 years ago 10 years ago. Mm-hmm. He sent me over here Oh, somebody asked me if I was bi I'm not bi. I'm so sorry. I'm very straight.   I like So I could not be attracted to a woman. I admire women. I admire their looks I think they could be sexy and all that kind of stuff, but I'm not attracted to them like sexually She was seven when you're gonna do an interview with solo TV. I made you famous. You did not make me famous. Okay You wish you made me famous. You couldn't do nothing for me even that. Okay um I don't think I would ever do an interview with you because I feel like I don't respect you enough and I only do interviews with people that I respect so Couldn't do it with you. Sorry Yeah, he's on here trying to get y'all to go subscribe to his channel where he talks bad about people and women and me in particular, but He's trying to get up there in the youtube world too But he does it In a way where he has to get attention as a troll. So it's all good, you know, y'all go subscribe to him That's what he's been begging for over the last two years Don't ever say I didn't do nothing for you He said you said I'm a woman with a deep with money and a deep voice Yeah, I like a still my sister That was married to the football player She after she divorced him. She went with a woman Um, because she just couldn't do it. Uh deal with men anymore.  I just um, I just couldn't I'm just you know, there's levels to To this, you know, it's just not It's not for me, you know I have many family members and and friends In the lgbt community, but you know, I won't be joining Do all husbands cheat It depends like I told you it depends like if you don't if your husband ain't got time or money to cheat and they're older It's gonna be harder. You know, if you got young sexy husband with, you know, lots of free time and It could be the odds increase. So you just have to deal with odds and Numbers like that, you know anything If you got extra money to spend if he's cute if he's on boys night out the the the odds rise If he's older if he works all day comes home, you know, uh tired You know spending all his money on you. He ain't gonna have time to cheat So you gotta set it up so he does not he's not able to cheat You know what I mean and it's be very hard for him to cheat So if you're in a relationship, you need to set it up to where he's it's very hard for him to cheat if he wanted to You know what I'm saying? and um Just be really smart That I'm trying to read some of these questions I'm actually doing an interview Tuesday with someone else Who I do respect Their name is m Period a period 2.0 and he tells women almost You know kind of the same thing I do but from a male's point of view and he's very nice And complimentary and he's just giving relationship advice. He has a very um Very nice vocabulary. He's you know, he's he's very well read Um, so if y'all want to go subscribe to him and check him out I will be doing an interview or not really an interview but like almost a video collab with him this Tuesday He's like this. I don't um, he's like he's young So you're getting a perspective from a young male And um, I just kind of discovered his videos a couple of days ago actually and I was so impressed That I contacted him to do a video collab with me on this channel and he agreed to it So I'm very thankful to him. His name is m period a period 2.0 And uh, I don't know if y'all are subscribed to him, but y'all need to go subscribe to him Y'all will love his videos.  Okay, so that's the only reason I have agreed to Um do a video collab with him because he is respectable He's respectful and respectable and he is you know dropping jewels major jewels um We kind of have a very similar videos except he's not teaching women the gold dig And I did warn him about that. I said, you know Uh, I do talked about gold dig and I tell I tell women to get you know get paid But the other information I do tell them are is very similar to what you're teaching as well And he laughed and blah blah blah So I don't think he's gonna hold that against me. Hopefully he won't but um I'm just being very honest and this is just my opinion You know, there's some women who don't believe in gold digging and just want to be a good honest good down to earth woman And that that's fine. It works for them. But to some people they have different You know, they have different wants and needs in the world, you know, so it's you know, it's It shouldn't be held against them, you know, if that's what they want So it's all a preference. Um, so we're gonna be doing that Tuesday and I don't know if it's gonna come out Tuesday or Wednesday But next week for sure. Okay Um, how do you remain positive as single being single and sad?  Think of it as, you know Oh, I'm free.  Okay. You should only you should only compare them financially.  They're not gonna be your ex But at least You know, they're interested in you. So stop doing all of that. What if he was comparing you to his ex? Okay, how do you over How do you overcome home single to empty house? Have a party Invite people over You know walk around naked.  Your job is done. You have raised me. Thank you so much I love you. I respect you, but it's time for me to start making my own decisions and I hope that you can understand that Like my mom's still be trying to control me. I say look I love you, but i'm almost 40 years old. I think I got this by now You just be funny and playful with it.  She's like, no I was like, okay, then Okay, I'm about to go in five minutes y'all. So let's get it together How to overcome being shy Get drunk Very easy. Get you some alcohol And drink it and go out Okay, the answer is very simple Okay, okay. Okay. How do you manage a long distance when you love someone and they love you so much and And be it be with them, but they six months When should we get started on living together? What long distance if somebody is in you in a relationship with you in their long distance It's for a reason like unless y'all already knew each other in the same state or the same city Um, you know, it's easier to have a long distance relationship because you don't have to put in as much effort And you don't have to be there as much Some people like long distance relationships because it's not almost it's almost not like a full commitment at all And they still have their freedom So you have to wait and understand if this person really wants to be in a committed relationship Or if he just wants the the freedom of a long distance relationship, you know what I mean?   So find out where where he really is on the matter And you know lie to him say look I'm moving to your city Let's see how nervous he gets What what what you're moving what? Yeah, I'm moving to your city, you know, let's go look at apartments next weekend. I'm flying out. Oh really? Uh, well, I don't know if I can't you know, then you'll know.  So sometimes you gotta Call him out and bluff, you know, call him on on their bluff And you know See if that's what they really want because most of the time it's not Okay All right, I will see y'all Later She was seven the devil don't have power over us Okay, somebody's religious in the comments. I see The devil does not have power over you. You are correct. No one has power over you unless you give it to them Okay, that's common sense. Okay So thank you for telling me that and I understand I totally agree with you. No one has power over you Uh-huh, uh-huh I am the devil someone says I am the devil The devil look good then Bye y'all I'll see y'all later Okay, I'll see y'all later Okay


This makes you a narcissist magnet This makes you attract narcissists into your life When you become successful You will attract a lot of narcissists into your life You will attract people who want what you have as you have been becoming more and more successful You have become more valuable You have become useful to people You are useful to them now and naturally this will attract more fake people This will attract narcissists to you because they are looking for people that they can use They are looking for people to rescue them when you become successful You will become a narcissist magnet You might have had no one in your life up until this point But as soon as you become successful Suddenly everyone wants to be around you, but they're not there to give anything to you They're just trying to piggyback off your success They're trying to take advantage of your existing system It's like you've already done all of the hard work and now they want to come around and reap the benefits and rewards Even though they didn't contribute anything to get you to where you are today They are trying to exploit you They are trying to make full use of and derive benefit from you In a way that might be considered unfair or underhand When you become successful This will naturally attract narcissists into your life They won't have any interest in getting to know you They won't have any interest in your feelings or what you want They're just coming around you so they can reap the benefits and rewards of your hard work They won't make any effort to get to know you as a person They just want to leech off your hard work and success The more successful you become The more that you will attract people who are trying to get something out of you Until you feel drained and lifeless They will act like they're trying to help or support you But they're only there to get something out of you before you became successful You might have been alone Maybe no one talked to you or had any interest in you But as soon as you start becoming successful They start praising and flattering you excessively In the hopes that they will get something in return from you As soon as you start becoming successful You will have all sorts of people coming into your life Saying that they want to be your wife or husband Saying that they want to be your friend As though they want to help or support you When really They're just there for their own benefit or gain When you become successful You will attract narcissists that want to sabotage your success They will be gossiping about you They will be plotting and scheming to tear you down And you will be able to sense it around those people You will notice that something is not right about them That they are not comfortable with your success When you become successful Even your own family and friends will turn against you Because they feel like you're leaving them behind They feel like you're doing better without them Which makes them feel insignificant It makes them feel as though they don't belong in your life As though you don't need their support When you become successful You will attract jealous and secure people Who are only there to destroy you Because they feel like your success is taking something away from them They feel inferior to you So they come around you and then attempt to bring you down to their level Although being successful may make you a narcissist magnet It will also make you a magnet to other successful people People who are inspiring powerful and attractive People who have something to share with you You will attract higher quality people Successful hard-working men Beautiful women You will attract completely different people People who are charismatic So being successful isn't always a bad thing It may attract leeches to you But it will also attract other people Who are on the same level It will attract other people who have something to share with you Rather than just taking everything from you For their own needs The main difference that you will notice between these people and narcissists Is that narcissists will try to attach themselves to you They will be dependent on you for their own survival They will try to compete with you When you become successful You will attract people who say that they want to help you But you need to observe their actions Rather than just listening to what they say When you become successful and you start making loads of money It will attract greedy people into your life People who have an intense and selfish desire For wealth or power As soon as you start making loads of money People will want to take it from you Without any consideration for the work you put in To get to where you are today Now they want you to pay their bills Or look after their kids They will harass you And pester you for money As soon as you become successful And you manage to make some free time for yourself They will want you to take on their responsibilities Because they are jealous of your success They are trying to take it away from you And they hold you to a higher standard and expectation Than they do for everyone else Because they realise that you are better and greater than most people So they expect more from you They will hold you responsible for their responsibilities Because they see that you're becoming successful They see that you're accomplishing things When they see that you're doing better They expect you to take care of everything They will expect you to be responsible for everything While they're sitting back and being lazy Because they know that you have the natural ability or talent They know that you've got the drive You've got the ambition So they see it as though they don't have to worry anymore They haven't got to work hard anymore They haven't got to do anything Because now they've got you But just because you can do everything It doesn't mean that you should Don't let these narcissists take advantage of you They will come into your life Thinking that you are the solution to all of their problems They will spend all of your money They will use you as an emotional punching bag Because they see that you have all of this enthusiasm They see that you have all of this ambition for success So maybe you can reserve some to take care of their problems And that is why When you start becoming successful You won't just attract people who need money But you will also attract people who are emotionally damaged People who haven't healed themselves Narcissists They will come into your life And try to damage you emotionally They will have temper tantrums They will damage your stuff And you will be wondering what you did wrong But these types of people just want to break you down mentally and emotionally They want to manipulate you into giving them what they want They will play all of these games with you Because they want you to think about them They want your attention Because they know that you're not worrying about them anymore They know that you're more focused on your goals and dreams And this really gets to them They are competing for power They are fighting for control They see that you are becoming successful And they feel like they are beneath you So they will play games with you They will try to damage you mentally and emotionally Because they're jealous and insecure But you have to keep moving You have to continue on your path to success Some people may not like it But you cannot let them hold you back Be cautious of the people you keep around you But keep doing what you need to do to succeed Preserve your success And no matter what people say about you Or try to do to you You have to keep moving Because the longer you stay around them The more time they spend in your magnetic field The more opportunities they have to interact with you And immerse themselves into your life Don't stop for anything Leave the narcissists in the dust And keep moving forward into your path towards success Thank you for 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