All high quality men need these five things from a woman. And let me just say this as we get started. Everything I'm gonna share about what men need, let me just be clear, this is true for women as well, even though the title is geared for women regarding men. So what are these five needs men have that they need from a woman to have a successful relationship? I think the first thing we have to recognize is to be seen by a human being, to be seen. Now, what does that mean to be seen, to be recognized for who you are? That's looking beyond the surface of the facade many of us are wearing, the mask many of us are wearing to actually see inside someone's soul. Are they genuinely a good person? Do you recognize a good person when you're looking at them? Do you recognize them? Do you see them? But more importantly, do you accept them for who they are? Do you accept them for who we are? Men and women alike want to be seen and accepted for who they are.  And today we're gonna talk about high quality men because I wanna differentiate high quality men from other men, which I'll explain in a moment. But I wanna share with you before we get into the next four, some of the problems we have with modern dating today. See, modern dating today is more like leasing a car. You get to test drive it. Well, let's use the analogy of a car, okay? There are some people that go test drive a car. They go walk into a dealership. They say, hey, I'd like to test drive this car. They test drive the car. Or what is it, 10, 15, 20 minutes? Maybe even less than that and then come back to dealership and say, I'm not interested. Well, that's kind of like our current dating. Sometimes we go out with someone one, two, or three, or four times, okay? And then you're like, no, I'm not interested. But you see what's interesting about test driving the car. It seems like some people test drive the car through like a obstacle course, through a mountainous terrain. This would be those dates that turn into physical sexuality. These are the people that are the serial daters that go from one person to the next. And it seems like we see a huge frequency in this. See, I'm using the car analogy, but let's talk about those people that lease a car, right? This is much like our casual relationships we're experiencing today. See, many people enter into a relationship thinking that it has potential, but it's strictly a casual relationship. It has occasional companionship, occasional connection, occasional sex without any real deep commitment to it. That's why they lease the car. They're not making the full purchase. And we see so many people in casual relationships. And I think the reason why this happens is many people are just looking for a placeholder in their life, a placeholder. In other words, they want someone to fill the void within themselves. There's a void within themselves and they find themselves a placeholder relationship instead of what I call an all-in relationship.  It's kind of like the wedding vows that were originally designed, richer or poorer, sickness and health, all that sort of thing. That's that all in. And what we see today is a lot of placeholder relationships which is much like leasing a car, okay? Now, many of you might think in midlife it's not buying a brand new car, you're buying a used automobile. Some people call them vintage automobiles. And we see a lot of what feels like that for those of us in midlife. And many of us are still dating with eyes of as we were in our 20 year old eyes, with 20 year old desires and passion instead of really evaluating where you're at in your life today. We see this happen frequently, okay? Now, what's unique right now is the golden bachelor. If anyone is anyone watching the golden bachelor, raise your hand. This draws attention to those people in their over the 60 category but I think this draws attention to the over 50 category as well. And that is folks that are looking for love in maybe the third or fourth chapter of their life if we are a five chapter book, if you will, okay? And I'm really grateful for this show because it demonstrates what I believe is a high quality man. I'm hoping Gary Turner is truly a high quality man. And let's identify what a high quality man looks like for this scenario. And then we'll get into those other four basic needs, okay? But a high quality man, one of the things I believe it represents is a person's whose actions consistently match their words. Their actions consistently match their words. You know, we're gonna make mistakes at times. We're gonna say I'm gonna call and we don't call or something's gonna happen. That's just natural for that to happen. But for the most part it's consistent but what's also important that they use their words. See, if you're not familiar with the book The Five Love Language by Gary Chapman, here's the book. I highly recommend checking it out. By the way, all the books I recommend are in the link in the description below under Jonathan recommend books. But under the five love languages are words of affirmation.  It's a physical touch, quality time, access service and gifts. Well, why I'm relating to this is a high quality man action matching words is words of affirmation you know, what's missing a lot of people are access service people, men can be access service, but they don't have the words to express themselves. And I'm here to say, it can feel for a woman rather unfulfilled if a man doesn't express himself verbally to his partner. See, we all need verbal affirmation to go with the actions that match the words. So I think a high quality man actions matching words but also is verbally expressive when it comes to those words in relationship. Another factor of a high quality man is he has victor consciousness instead of victim consciousness. See here in the United States we are suffering from victim consciousness. We are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness. And I'm just saying here in the United States because that's the people I know can't speak for other parts of the world but victor consciousness means you take personal responsibility for your choices. That's what a high quality man does they don't blame someone else they're not pointing their finger at someone else because there's always three fingers pointing back and a high quality man recognizes that they have a part high quality woman does the same thing as well. Remember I said this is interchangeable. High quality person knows how to fight fair and what that means is when there's a disagreement with someone they listen to the other person. They acknowledge the other person they validate the other person as if that's their truth they acknowledge that that's their truth and even if they disagree they acknowledge and validate the other person's point they know how to fight fair. Conflict resolution skills is a critical factor for relationship success. If you not read the book this is by Calvin Roberts Robertson at marriage ain't for punks a no nonsense guide to long building a lasting relationship. What I like about this book is he's on the show married at first sight and he talks about conflict resolution is one of the critical factors for relationship success and a high quality man is an emotional grown up. He has relationship skills if you're not familiar with my emotional maturity relationship skills chart I'll quickly go through this this is not a fact it's merely an opinion I believe 20% of the population has clinical issues when it comes to emotional maturity and relationship skills and while I say 20% of the population is healthy I'm being rather generous. Most everybody is dysfunctional in their relationship skills and a high quality person knows how to fight fair it's not about being right it's about finding peace when there's friction in a relationship. Another thing a high quality person does is they have empathy and empathy isn't just I can feel your feelings empathy is also I acknowledge your feelings I validate your feelings I acknowledge my own feelings I validate my own feelings but more important I recognize the importance to build trust meaning your feelings matter to me your feelings matter to me what is trust trust isn't just about fidelity trust is your feelings matter to me what's in your best interest is in my best interest and that's what a high quality person does and lastly they are transparent if it's material to the relationship they're going to bring it up they're not keeping secrets from you if it's material to the relationship so when I say all high quality men these five things I just wanna say it's men and women alike that I invite everybody to operate this way because the second thing as far as in human need is the need to be heard. Remember we talked about a moment ago about when fighting it's important when there's a disagreement every relationship every couple is gonna have disagreement and it's important to acknowledge your partner the person in your life acknowledge them validate their feelings doesn't mean you have to agree with it but you must be willing to acknowledge that that is their truth to be heard by someone and let me tell you this this is probably the number one issue most couples are faced with they're budding heads with each other because they're not hearing each other and I'm here to encourage that you know one of the fundamentals of high quality person is here check out this is my book called what the heck a self love anyway a journey of personal development self health and spiritual work they love themselves they genuinely they now this doesn't mean that you love yourself 100% but you're loving on yourself you value your heart and you recognize that it's important to be loving on yourself to have the capacity to love others and when you can love on yourself you can hear others we can hear to be heard okay the third need is to be respected you know Dr. Pat Allen says men need to be respect men feel cherished when they're respected and women feel respected when they're cherished well I'm here to say I believe we should respect men and women alike okay and we should feel cherished as equally but here I'm going to dive into respect because we're talking about men right now you know sadly I see so many women in relationships with men that they don't respect their attitudes towards these men is of such contempt such criticism such disdain you know if you can't respect the person you're with then don't be with that person you have to find what you respect about this person because without respect your relationship is going to wither away and I see this happening so often this isn't about you women being controlling and defensive and stonewalling you're in your masculine energy that's not what that is that's just bad behavior see if you have to control someone if you have to be if you have to be defensive if you have to fight being right then you're not really respecting your partner true partnership is working as a team together because the fourth need is to feel safe and it takes men longer to feel safe emotionally with a woman than usually the other way around believe it or not women tend to need physical safety from a man but a man needs emotional safety he needs to know that you've got his back he's capable of expressing himself and it's not going to be used against him and by the way everything I'm sharing here this goes both ways this isn't singular to men this is women as well you need all these things this is a reciprocal conversation between men and women to feel safe and lastly and this is the sad thing we're faced with I think this is this really feels like a US type of issue but we're in such a divisive country right now and a separation of people is happening at an alarming rate that feeling like you belong somewhere after the pandemic people felt so isolated so alone and there's this desperate need to belong and this is why people join political groups and they join certain groups these niche groups so they can feel like they can belong with someone people that believe in conspiracies although I'm not so certain there aren't some conspiracies out there but these feeling of wanting to feel like you belong and in relationship it's the reason why we partner with someone because it's fair to have at least one person in your life that you feel like a teammate with that you can go through this life holding hands together and what we truly hope is to experience some level of love what is love? I love you I'm here you matter we are important I've got your back I'm not going anywhere and I only want you what does I'm here mean? That means I'm present I'm not somewhere else emotionally, mentally, physically when I'm standing in front of you I am present and I can tell you something I've watched couples together that are not present to one another you matter coming back to what I talked about empathy and trust your feelings matter to me your best interests are my best interests that's what you matter means and we are important that means we're collectively a team we're in it together we are important our relationship is a separate entity I've got your back that means when you're down I'm gonna pick you up if you need me I'm gonna be there for you I'm not going anywhere that means I'm fully committed to this relationship and I only want you that means I only want to ravage your body I don't need to be on Instagram or Facebook or some social media to feel the need to get validation from someone else I only want it from you and you see we are dealing with a emotional health crisis here in the United States and that's one of the biggest problems we're dating today because the number one emotional health issue is I'm not good enough I'm not lovable and I'm not likeable and so what happens is many of you are going into the dating marketplace rather clueless on how to be discerning and if you need some support with that by the way there's a link right there to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you it's in the link below my whole area of expertise is to teach you how to be discerning because when we're talking earlier about car shopping it's not just the car itself but it's the model car you're shopping and are you going to a used car lot? You know, hoping that it's a new car lot this is where having a coach like myself can help support you is this sinking in, is this resonating? Please let me know. All right, those five things men need from a woman I'm just gonna repeat them really quickly to be seen and this is, let me rephrase this five things men and women need from each other to be seen, to be heard, to be respected to feel safe and to belong that's what every human needs is this sinking in, is this resonating? Please let me know if it is please post a comment below I'd like to hear your thoughts I do my best to read them all and if you did like this video please hit that like button please share this video please subscribe to my channel and hit that notification bell as well. All right, those who know my format this is the time for Q and A if you have a question write the word question in the chat box and then post your question there after or you can purchase a super sticker super chat there's a little dollar sign in the chat box all the money's from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Connor Asley that's a picture of him right there with his brother and I that's Colin, his brother he's my son who passed away five years ago and in his honor I donate to causes like the Hoffman process Insight Institute and Seeds of Love and so, and if you're watching the replay hit that super thanks as well let's try to get $50 let's try to get $50 tonight, okay? All right, if you have a question write the word question then post the question there after all right, let's see what we've got in the Q and A board Jennifer says, what if you feel lovable, dateable and good enough and still single not everyone is insecure especially in midlife I am too old to feel insecure what if? Well, let's take out the word still single, okay? What if I'm just I'm lovable I'm dateable I'm good enough, okay? Stuart Smalley, what was that line from Saturday Night Live, Stuart Smalley gosh darn it, I love myself what was that? But simply say what, you know I am lovable, dateable and good enough you don't even need to add the still single in the category, okay? And be proud of yourself for not feeling insecure by the way, I've yet to meet a human being that doesn't have some insecurities I am riddled with a zillion insecurities, okay? I am a human being I don't know if it's flawed but I have foibles I am not perfect so I've yet to meet the person who doesn't have some insecurities but maybe you're the exception, not the rule. All right, let's keep going Miss Flowers is in the house how long should you wait for a long distance relationship to move? Hmm, that's a great question you know, I'm I think let's talk about long distance dating the question is how often do you see each other to build trust with someone? Are you seeing each other regularly? I would say if you're going to move I think you have to have a real strong commitment I would say maybe even, you know either moving in together like what I experienced recently or maybe a engagement ring some proof that there is a full commitment here from the other person what that proof is for you, I don't know but I'm here to say that I wouldn't wanna, you know do a move without some significant agreements with each other and significant proof that this is actually something that has potential and just remember two people can move in together like what I experienced and it still doesn't work out that's just the nature of life, okay? But I'm not here to listen I've always been against long distance dating for most people because they just it's usually turns into bubble relationships where it's occasion, you know you get together for occasional sex occasionally hanging out and it's a nice filler relationship like what we talked about earlier I'm only, I endorse people that are fully serious about taking the long distance to short distance in a very short period of time I would say within six months that would be my suggestion All right, oh here's one of my Facebook members I'm good enough, I'm smart enough and God and doggone it people like me I believe it was Stuart Smiley quote from Saturday Night Live that is exactly it, thank you so much All right, let's keep going here deaf says a silly question what change to your skincare has resulted the better coloring on videos? I think there's an app that makes this look a little bit smoother so I'm gonna own that it's called a touch-up app All right, do you ever not date just because you don't feel like it? Yeah, if you're talking about me personally absolutely, you know I'm here, let me just say this I am open to a relationship with someone and I'm open to dating someone I don't wanna do cold call dating anymore the dating apps the dating apps is what I call cold call dating it's like going to a telephone book and dialing for dollars this is what we used to call it in sales pick a name, you call them you pick a name, you call them you pick, I don't feel like doing that anymore I only wanna work with what I call warm leads in other words, there's already some level of familiarity built with someone and we've talked about what we both seek in relationship that's a person whom I most likely going to consider to explore a relationship with through the process of dating so, but I'm here to say I'm strictly open for a relationship and I'm open to date someone who's also open to a relationship and we have some mutual connection with each other see cold call dating doesn't interest me anymore swipe date, dating complete strangers doesn't interest me anymore I'd much rather connect with someone where we have some level of familiarity with each other maybe it's a mutual connection through a mutual friend maybe it's we belong to the same club or group or organization that sort of thing that's my intent going forward and I'll let everyone know how it works out as the days progress so thank you for that question BX says when you're in your fifties how can you tell if a guy is not married or with anyone? I chatted a few times with a guy but I work remotely so I haven't seen him I would ask for his full name I would ask for his full name, his location and tell him you're going to do a Google search on him I would do a FaceTime also so I would do a Zoom or FaceCall so you know exactly who you're dealing with folks I highly recommend do not invest more than a few hours with anybody communicating immediately go to a FaceTime so you know that they're legit ask for their full name and say that you're going to Google them if they resist this is your you have a very easy four letter word N E X T next, next, next, next, next, next, next do not invest in anyone who is not willing to give you their full name and willing to do a FaceTime very shortly after you've connected folks we don't have time to fuck around okay the days in front of us if you're 50 years old the days in front of you are shorter and the days behind you most likely although people are living to be a hundred but I would highly suggest that as your course of action okay all right let's keep going and by the way if you have any personal questions for me ask that as well oh and if anyone wants to join the hot seat and speak to me directly you can click on the link that I just posted if you want to join the hot seat Melanie is in the house do you put both names on the lease you know I think if two people move in together in a separate location they can do that it depends on who's you know I would have a conversation if it doesn't work out who wants to keep the place have that conversation and then choose the person who wants to keep the place and have it in their name but you can put a lease in both people's name as well it makes it more complicated if it doesn't work out okay and you hopefully you've done this with a person you feel a strong level of trust you know this is you know it's fascinating we'll have physical intimacy with someone we barely know but financially we have to jump through major hoops you know shouldn't we jump through major hoops before we're physically intimate with someone shouldn't that be the case at least it's a conversation anyway so that's my thoughts on that Melanie all right Susan says online for women seems terrible yes it's true for men and women like by the way folks I mean you can't be you women have this belief that they are superior to men and men have the belief they're superior to women you guys are all fucked up okay human beings men and women alike I don't care if you have a penis or a vagina or whatever it is humans are a wreck we're dysfunctional it's equal it is not singular to one gender um that is what I the magic entertainer says that is what I do I work in sales I only call warm leads exactly folks our problem with dating in the last 10 years due to these devices is that we are cold calling just like a telemarketer calls you they're just dialing for dollars that this is what dating is it's dialing for dollars and yes there is the exception where people do meet I know I have a friend that you know met on tinder they got married and have a child together I know another couple that met on bumble they got married and had a child together I know couples from e harmony that met and they had children together okay but I'm here to say it's the exception it's not the rule and by the way 50 percent of all new relation dating dates will happen through an online connection but only about 10 percent of those people will actually at best manifest into some sort of relationship that means less than five percent of people are going to turn is that right the math right 10 percent yeah um yeah it's less than five percent of people who are single will find anyone by the way the odds are fucking against you by the way when you work with me what is that line from uh hunger games may the odds forever be in your favor the reason why I get calls each week from clients Jonathan I met a great guy Jonathan I met a great guy Jonathan I met a great guy and they know the difference is because discernment is the critical tool for relationship success and most of you are terrible at it because we we've adopted this belief most everybody has adopted this is called my relationship iceberg we've adopted that attraction or chemistry equals relationship success most of you do not pay attention to shared values blendable lifestyle and the most important thing is emotional maturity and as I said earlier 80 percent of people are dysfunctional or clinical so if you want to put the odds in your favor work with someone like me ah calm Jonathan calm all right let's keep going here Jennifer says I'm not sleeping with just anyone unless I'm grilling them I've been celibate for too long this is why God invented vibrators all right um hey you know folks I'm going to do a short live tonight we just talked about all high quality men need these five things from a woman I'm just going to repeat that for everyone as we wrap up for tonight it is to be seen to be heard to be respected to be safe and to belong that's what men and women alike are really thirsty for and sadly we are living in an environment where a lot of people are self-centric they're myopic they're only in it for their own needs this is true for men and this is true for women as well and I'm here to invite a different conversation my hope is my channel invites you to look at things differently I offer books to read I make suggestions in your life I'm not here to suggest that my you know my commentary is the truth it's just a conversation inviting you to look at your own truth and I invite you all to start with the beginning to love yourself as your truth is this sinking in is this resonating please let me know if it is please post a comment below I'd like to hear your thoughts all right I'm gonna wrap uh before I wrap up this video we please hit that like button please share this video please subscribe to my channel and hit that notification bell so you can be notified of new videos all right I'm gonna wrap up this videos I always do first off give myself a big gigantic Jonathan Barrett of self love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm asking you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear or pillow there's a teddy bear give either them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it we could all use more love in our lives I want to thank Mercy and Sherry and Magic Entertainer and McCoy and Susan and Sherry and Jubilee and did I say Jennifer and Megan and Miss Santa and Nina and uh Jennifer Watkins and McCoy and Melanie and was Leafs in the house earlier everyone big hugs much appreciation for joining me tonight all right have a great evening be well bye now


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But we have quite interesting headlines on the front pages of today's national dailies and I'm glad to say at this point our guest analyst this morning is already the chartered mediator and consiliator Chris Kehinde Wando, very good morning to you, it's a brand new week, great to have you back. Thank you very much Kofi, it's nice to see you again, good morning. All right, all right, fantastic. We also have Mercy Eberpo standing by as well as we go through the headlines on the front pages of the dailies, Mercy. Some very interesting headlines wouldn't you say and making for quite interesting conversation this morning. Well, let's see what Kehinde Wando makes of the headlines this morning. All right, all right, Chris Kehinde Wando, let's keep you on eyes for a few minutes while we go through these headlines starting with the leadership newspaper, a very interesting position or expose by the paper ahead of the APC presidential primaries, I mean they've not even screened the, the aspirants yet, we're waiting for that. But it says APC presidential flag bearer Obonaya Ono may be Buhari's dark horse, with a rider president to use Ono's choice to pacify the Southeast, will present him to other aspirants in a matter of days, rooting for Ono will be a master stroke for country's unity at this time, the paper says. Wow.  I'm not in politics for personal gain, his bosses have been flooding the streets of major cities in the country. Local government funds, the state's lose as court okays, FG's, NFI use guidelines, the state's lose as court okays, FG, NFI use guidelines, and PDP primaries is Shaku, Dan Cuambo, Turaki, Boloji Abdelahi, and NetWalko Pick Senate tickets. This is talking about the senatorial primaries of the People's Democratic Party. Court jails dismissed policemen for life for defiling a nine-year-old. Security challenges will soon be over, PMB, and strike Nassu Holds emergency meeting today. These are the headlines on the front page of the leadership newspaper. Let's shift our attention from the leadership and look at the punch newspaper this morning. APC presidential primary, Lagos Bernoullou's Jumbo delegates again, Party Chief Senator Paul. It's boldly written on the punch, Kanu, Katena, Oshu, Oyo, Aqaibon, five others command numerical strength, and Bohari Midsasperant Wednesday reps, postponed resumption over primaries. Underneath the bold caption on the punch, that's what you find moving away from the bold headline. States grown over delayed revenue sharing, FAAC Mids today, 36 states lose financial autonomy suits against the federal government, and you also find former President Ulusha Goon, Opassum Jor, Mids, WK, others, Six Justice, and Fennets. Cashless transaction heats 117.33 trillion Naira in four months, according to the N-I-B-S-S, and you also have the N-S-I-A gross net asset by 19% to 920 billion Naira. Just before we move away from the punch this morning, more interesting headlines. Lagos explosion, gas plant owners dies, lawyer insists on 800 million Naira compensation, and 23.3 billion Naira fraud, the Suki case begins afresh after seven years. I mean, all things are possible. Telecom protests, 90 billion Naira new phone tax to bill subscribers.  But let's see how all of this pans out. Again, CITAD Home Order paralyzes EMO and a number of bank schools short. What is really going on?  That's nine. Quite unfortunate. You have a lot of pedophiles moving around. But these are some of the headlines we can take this morning on the punch. All right, let's go straight to the nation newspaper with these interesting headlines on its front page. APC primary, Buhari aspirants, governors for high level talks. What are they going to talk about? And some would say, well, are they going to just allow the delegates to decide APC primary, Buhari aspirants, governors for high level talks. Or Shiba Jyotinibua, Meiji, others for today's parlay. National Assembly leadership, NWC members to meet president. All right, the die is cast. More from the paper. Suspended accountant general, a suspended accountant general became political appointee in 2021. GDP is 3.11% Q1 growth driven by trade telecoms. And merely withdraw suit against INEC, AGF. This is his suit against the independent national electoral commission. And he's seeking to be allowed. He was seeking to be allowed to contest the 2023 elections without resigning. NSIA's net assets grew to 919.7 billion Naira in 2021. APC's planned screening of Jonathan and Mayfield others raises curiosity. The party is saying that even though these persons may not have submitted the forms that were bought for them to it, the APC, they will still screen them. One wonders how they intend to get these persons to the screening venue. All right, at the bottom of the front page, government OK's contract to buy more kits for Air Force. Ligas develops off-grid strategy. These are the headlines on the front page of the nation. Away from the nation, we take a look at the Nigerian Tribune. PDP NAS's primaries, Otam Banki W, Angkor Abdulahi's son, Tegbe Netwuki, Lai Wain, that's what you find there. Sons of Faioshi Kashumo also imagine underneath the rider. The big story this morning, that's what you find. The six governors lose suit against financial autonomy for local government. 19.4 million Nigerians to face food crisis by August. According to a course, you also have despite off-market and SIA. Net asset grew to one nine hundred and nineteen point seven billion narrow in twenty twenty one. Despite off-market and SIA's net asset grew to nine hundred and nineteen point seven billion narrow in twenty twenty one. COVID-19 not over, WHO wants. Niger's GDP grew by three point one one percent in the first quarter of twenty twenty two. Coalition of seven political parties in alliance and CF front. That's what you find the SDP, the ADC and the AMP disaster see itself from the major. Two months after attack, flights resumes at Kaduna Airport and courts grants DSS permission to detain terror suspect for sixty days. Presidential ambition and monthly withdraws suit against INEC and the attorney general of the Federation. Too late now to sign electoral act. Amendment poll observers tell President Muhammad Abu-Hari and you have the APC revised timetable for governors and House of Assembly, NAS primaries, the headlines. This morning on the Nigerian Tribune. All right, time to bring in Chris, Candy, Wando, a chartered mediator and consulate at this point. Chris, good morning to you once again. Let's start with a look at this, this, this one on the front page of the nation. It's interest, it interests me and the audacity of the whole situation. The central bank governor, Gordon Mirfield, he withdrawing his suit against INEC and the AGF. He was seeking in the suit to restrain these two bodies or authorities from stopping him from contesting the 2023 elections. And as a sitting central bank governor, what are your thoughts on this? Well, don't forget that there was a student which instituted against INEC and the AGF trying to determine his ability or qualification or ability to contest the election as a public servant. That, that Agstron was instituted by his lawyer. And then also, there was a suit, also somewhere in the task that I think us about or whatever, where a judge gave him the permission to go ahead with that. But after some time, after a week or two, the judge withdrew that, that permission as well. So as it were, he had no option than to withdraw this case. But for me, it's not that he's not there. The fact remains that from the directives by the president, every public servant appointee of the government that want to contest under the AGC had up to Monday last week to be able to withdraw or leave the service. And then you could see that some ministers, maybe did that. And either the result from the cabinet or those that initially indicated to participate. And I would wait a head to say that they were withdrawing or those that didn't withdraw continue their job. So, but we'll be waiting to see what the president is going to do because some of the ministers we had, despite the fact that they withdrawn from the race, their case is still hanging. And the presidents have not come out categorically to state what will happen. They stay with the CBN. It is too worrisome that a man who is judge of the Central Bank of Nigeria is so partisan and is proving to be partisan. That does not. This is the first time in the history of Nigeria that this is happening. More so when you have that note that even I make in this is finding difficult and feeling so embarrassed. Because all the sensitive material that we use for the election is being kept under the watch of the CBN. So if you are going to keep the sensitive materials for a election under the care of somebody that has come out to be partisan, who is a member of the political party, where you can imagine what is going to happen. If at the end of it all, a election is held and the opposing parties lose, that is enough reason for them to go to God. And you might be surprised that you might get some kind of justification for their actions. So the president has to come out point clear to say whether MEPILE has to leave or not. And they may have to come out. But let's wait. The screening of the candidates for presidential aspirants will start today. Let us see whether MEPILE will be one of those that will be screened or not. Then we can take it off of there. All right. Before we move on, just a related headline on the front page of the nation. The APCs is saying that they will still go ahead to screen Jonathan, to screen MEPILE and others. These yet individuals never submitted the forms to the party. Well, it's still on the basis of rumors. We don't know the fact. APC didn't come out with a categorical statement on that. I've never saw any press statement from APC. I wouldn't know if there was one. But if there was one, I would have seen it. There was no categorical statement by APC. Either by the National Policy Secretary, the National Secretary of the Chairman of the Party. The only press statement that was may have been good to Rosas Pressmen was that it was postponed, I think, as of Sunday. Then yesterday, they came out with another statement that that screening will start between today and tomorrow at Trascorp. So let us wait and see. Good luck, Jonathan, on those. We didn't know whether those that submitted the form on this we have submitted or not. MEPILE, we don't know whether he submitted or not. But as I said, between today and tomorrow, we know those that have been screened, then we can start assuming. But for now, it's just an assumption. Nobody's know who and who. For MEPILE and good luck, Jonathan. Nobody can say for sure. It was some of those that already we do. People like Chris Ngige and one or two other persons. We are also hearing that their name is still there that they'll be screened. So let's wait and see what happens between today and tomorrow. When the screening of the aspirants will be completed. All right, let's take a look at the punch now. On the punch, you have a headline that talks about the seat at home order and the fact that it's paralyzed in most state and an amber state. We're looking at the economy of this state now. Mostly you want to see the economy in the South Eastern part of Nigeria, banks, shorts and school short down. I mean, how do we even progress? How do we even get out of the situation when there are reports saying that Nigeria is the capital of the most poorest people? Personally, I'm tired of talking about this. Every Monday I sit at home. It's practically every time we've been talking about this, it's just like pitting ourselves. They'll practically say everything that needs to say that I don't see anything. I don't have any other things to say to this because over time, we have talked about the colossal economic losses in the South East, occasioned by this Monday's seat at home. I'm not only Monday's seat at home. Also, when any day that in Amdicano, the leader of I-POP is going to go there, there's always going to be a seat at home order. I-POP have come out to say that it will not give any directives to that effect. That South Eastern has to go about the animal businesses. So where I'm asking now, who is the person enforcing that? Who is asking that if the man that you say you are trying to protest against, and so he's saying that he's not behind this. There, who is behind this? Then it also means that the leadership within the South East has totally failed these people totally because if, why do we reason why people sit at home? It's not because they really want to sit at home, but because they know that their lives and property cannot be protected by those in government. The secretaries cannot be able to protect them.  If there's enough protection for everybody within this region, then they have to be disabled. So it is much easier for anybody to come and say, oh, who are you talking about? The former governor, Obiyano, did it before he left. He didn't work at the point. I remember one of these period, he's saying he's walking around the street and waiting for one market to go out, but people still show them. When Soludo came in, he gave a flat order that the secret servants must be at work, market must be open. What has happened? Nothing happened. So it is quite unfortunate because I have always said the time and time that you don't continue, if you are fighting for your people and you're also trying to improve with them.  It has even gone beyond that. What have we seen now? We have seen a lot of killing within the South East and just a few days ago, a lawmaker was beheading. But this is what we hear of ISIS in those days, something that was very strange to us. We never thought of, or at times we look at a book or around some of the, when they release some of their videos and rest. But it is happening in the South East, that shows you the level of insecurity in the South East. So you're not just staying as a stay at home on Monday. It has gone beyond that. A lot of people are so afraid to go about their businesses in the South East and that to me is a failure of government. The primary responsibility of every government is the security of life and property and any government at whatever level, federal, state or local government, economic view can be seen to be a total failure. But Chris, you're blaming government for this. I don't know whether you're blaming the federal government or state government, local government, so all of them. But some would say that this trend was tolerated and even encouraged by some governors in the name of agitations and that some, you know, indigents of the Southeast, residents of the Southeast also encouraged the trend when it started as a little fire and now it's become a beemoth that cannot be controlled. Yes, I agree with you. Yes, you know, when it comes to issues like this, and as a stay in my place that is not just giving a monkey a cup of water to take. You can give, you click, climb up, give a monkey a cup of water to take. But the problem is, how do you retrieve that cup from the monkey? Because it may take that cup from you and take the water. Is that jumping from one tree to another?  So that is the problem we are having. This has become an endemic and some people are taking full advantage of the situation, of course. Yes, it was an agitation. I personally said this time with a number that as somebody from the Southeast, you cannot just do the baby with the bat water away. I do not, I'm not a member of IPOR, but I resonate with some of the issues raised by someone like Indian and Bikanu, the issue of marginalization and the marginalization of the Southeast, the Igbo's and the rest of them. I want a more pragmatic approach to the issue. But some people want to resort to violence and that is what, because he who's right on the tiger, most of them ends up in the stone man. It is easier for you to start something, but being able to copy, it's just like a normal student or your student, when we're in the university, you know, when we do an anuta, you know we talk about anuta, several times you and I being an anuta guy, you sell. We start an anuta in the university, we have to protect, but before you do it, wood lumps take over the control of that and it gets out of our control. So while we can be able to control our students, our fellow anuta, we will be able to, we will not be able to control our gurus and the rest of them, they'll take advantage of it. There's a big one, a starting motorist doing that, burning down vehicles and the rest of them. The same thing with what is going on. It has totally, those that started this must be able to find a way of, because the Southeast is becoming a noble area for so many people. And that in itself is killing the economy, killing the political and social life of the Southeast. Which I might just end up doing what I did not is as it was in the past. All right. Let's stay with the Southeast and the agitations of that part of the country to produce the next president of Nigeria. The leadership in Nisupa gave some attention to this with its lead story, saying that former minister of science and technology, Obonayano, may be president Puhari's dark horse. Now, is this something that you, you think it's possible then probably did you see this coming? That this man will be a major player as far as the elections or the APC candidates is concerned? Politics is a dynamic thing. You cannot be able to determine what will happen in the next moment. A day is as long as a year in the life of politics. Anything can change and dynamic can change at any point in time. So what I'm just saying is just a conscious job by certain people. Don't forget that every candidate had the way of selling himself and that it's really through the media and giving us also reason. The president came out to say that he has a candidate. He never came out to say the candidate was. And you know what I'm saying? We just have barely few days to the primaries for the presidential candidate of the, and we have close to about 25 or 27 candidates. So I don't know. I'm not a member of APC. I only want to put all these conscious jobs back. If I might own enough, thinking from what I've seen so far, there are still several front runners within the APC. And I wouldn't know whether Mbunayon is one of them. I've not been seeing him moving around. I don't see how he's able to pick up delegates. I've seen the front runners for me remain Ashwajit Bola Mehtunubu, Yemio Shubadjo, probably the senior president, Amanda Lawan, former transportation minister, and Mehti, and one of the two others, Ubunayon, I don't know what to do. But don't forget that in the past, Ubunayon was also a presidential candidate of one of the political parties and we were made to step down for president Muaman Iwari then. I think it was during the days of AMP, CPC and the rest of them. But if the president, in his reason, finding a problem that he is the one that he wants to use, all well and good, but he's just the president, it is the delegates that are going to win. And to make it even worse, from what we read from the papers, you can see that the two delegates will not be part of, they not be part of this primary. I've said the president signed the amended electoral act as quickly as possible. If he doesn't, the delegates within the APC will reduce from 7,800 or there about 2,400 or so. That is a large chunk of the day. I don't know how the members of the National Assembly made that mistake in the course of passing that bill. They are there to make laws. They have their aides who are supposed to help them in putting this thing together. But the 360 members of the House of Representatives and 109 senators overlook issues like the statutory delegates, of which they are also part of. They will not be able to most of this and get this within the electoral act, only for them to come and say, I'm looking at them, the president is literally done, he has been made up his mind. If the president doesn't sign it, that means a large chunk of the delegates will only be the elected delegates that will be part of the primaries. And that in itself is that they should be there on the footage. All right, let's also take a look at the punch newspaper talks about states groaning over delayed revenue sharing and the fact that you have the FAA Smiths today. Now also with this, it's also been reported and the complaints coming, especially from the Commission of Finance and Ben West, they're talking about salaries not being paid as affected salaries being paid for states and also capital expenditure being carried out. Now, how long will states continue in this pattern? And what can really be done? I mean, how do we grow an economy? How do we even, you know, catch up, try to catch up with developed climes if we constantly have states having to be very dependent on federal allocation? Well, let's say there's nothing new what they're doing, it has become a daily occurrence. Every month, they'll fight over at fact the sharing formula or what is to be shared. The dorsions and you see all the commissioners disagreeing with the federal government only. And for me, it's not that, you know, there's so much there's dwindling within the fortunes of Nigeria in what we earn. We are not making much progress on a monthly basis. Our foreign earnings continue to wear and personally, in my personal opinion, I don't seem to bother myself with the state because the fact remains that after we find a new way of doing things we'll continue to come to this terrible situation every month. With situation where the state government have to depend on the federal government close to 90% for their survival. This is not how to grow a country. That is not how to grow an economy. That is not how to grow politically, economically, socially and otherwise. Because, come to think of it, each of these that have become so moral about that they don't even have, they're not even creative at all. They are it ideal, the internal generated revenue is created by the, they're not even doing much, maybe to do the, to grow the, so that in itself, where they just sit back every month and just go to Abuja to get collected for the federal government, come back and share it within themselves, is not going to help any matter. The governors are not doing what they are supposed to do. Yes, we can say that there's so much problem that economy is not looking up and rest of them. But you can also be very, very creative in your way of generating. Let's, let me take you back to what happened in the first four years of, yes, first four, eight years. When we had General Lusiegou and Vasanjia as the President of Nigeria, and Lagos State was denied, is a monthly allocation because of the problem between the federal government or Vasanjia and Bola Mehtunubu. That means the Lagos State government to go back and be able to restrategize and be able to come out with something robust and the way of internal IGR. At the end of it, Lagos State, yes, you can say that Lagos State, yes, has the potentials like River State and one or two other states to be able to go back. They was going to re-event themselves and at the end of it, they didn't even need anything from the federal government. But if they have consistently remained just, if not for that issue they had, Lagos State had with federal government, maybe Lagos State today, we still wouldn't have been like every other state, but you can see Lagos State at any given point in time, whether they're getting anything from federal or not, Lagos State can solely depend on the state. The same thing I expect these states to do. That is what they need to do. There are a lot they can be able to generate. They can go into agriculture for goodness sake. If they go into agriculture, so much they can make so much money from agriculture. Let us even look at other areas where you can see that the federal government is having a strong goal, area of minerals and rest of it. There are still other avenues of making money, but we are so lazy and all they do is just with every month they go to Abuja to share what Abuja have to give and go back to their state and wait to the next month until we're able to do the right thing. They'll continue to go with this kind of problem every month, month in, month out. That will let's be the issue. So for them to be able to do the right thing, they just do the right thing and get creative and find ways of surviving out of without dependence on the federal government and what's come from back. All right, let's go back a bit to this issue of the progressive Congress and the super delegates are some called emissatory delegates because you raised an important point, but there's also an angle to this Chris Kennedy Wando of Lager state who should ordinarily have had a 60 delegates, sorry, 304 delegates. Now if the president doesn't sign the many electoral bill well act will now have 60 delegates and it seems that states from the analysis, states that have more APC officials that are APC led in terms of the governance of that state but have fewer local government areas who have fewer delegates while states that do not have an APC's government but have more local government areas who have more delegates. So for instance a state like Lagos that has only 20 local government areas but has a lot of APC appointed officials or elected officials who have only 60 delegates, state like a river state that has more local government areas than Lagos state but doesn't have an APC state government and has fewer APC appointees who have more delegates than Lagos state. How do you think this advantage for Lagos state if the status quo remains will pan out especially with the chances of Bola Mektimbo in the presidential primary? This will definitely change the dynamics and the calculation in the outcome of the primaries if it remains, the status quo remains as you know I said it earlier on. From all indications without the statutory delegates the delegates to the primaries of the APC and I'm sure from that of BDB is the same it's going to be the same thing, it's totally reduced. I say it's going to be from about 7,800 to about 2,400 but not more than 2,300 something. So you can see that a large chunk of the delegates are not going to participate and that itself will also affect the fortune of most of the aspirants who are depending on most of this state for some kind of circle. Yes, Lagos state is there from what we've seen Lagos is maybe about 20, maybe about 30 Lagos supposed to have close to about 130 but it's 304. For example, it's 20, it's about some other states who had a large number of local governments they won't be fully affected. State like Casinas, like Kanu, we still have their numbers. Bono state will be depleted from what we've seen. Bono is moving from I think about second or third to about fifth within the delegates everything. Whereas some states in the southeast and the south east and the south south may have more delegates than a state like Lagos state state that have more local government than Lagos state show. That is the situation. I personally think that it is for the governors to be able to, especially the governors of the APC because they are the one running the government to be able to preside on the president to be able to do the needful. I don't, the president has not given any reason why he has not signed that list because that in itself may also exclude him from the actual voting, a government official. Yes, but Chris, can I want to, do you believe? You showed me that, well, the president has not signed it is to, the advantage that I don't know what he meant by it is to their own advantage. I don't know what he meant by that. Maybe they're one of those that are not expecting so much from most of the state. So the little that is coming, they might be able to grab but unless the president signed that electoral, amended electoral ads as quickly as possible. But Chris, before you go, Chris, can you hear me, sir? Don't forget, most of them paid as much as 100 million to get that, to pick up those from the PDP to as 40 million. And if they're depending on these delegates and they're not going to get them, I wonder where they're going to get the numbers from. All right, Chris, I was asking for your thoughts on the chances or the effect this will have on Tinnable's aspiration but I think you tactfully dodged that. So who will leave that for another day? And but we have to go. We want to thank you very much for your time. Thank you very much for having me. You have been nice to have you. Well, that's the size of our conversation this morning. Thank you so much, Chris, Kay and DeWandu, for being part of the breakfast. After the press, we look forward to having you next week. We'll step on the brakes when we return. It will be time for us to head straight to our major conversation first right here but just before then, let's tell you what happened today in history. Stay with us.


Welcome everybody to your course on legal and ethical guidelines for coaches. During this presentation, we're going to identify the legal and ethical guidelines for coaches, review common ethical principles that are, when I say common, common to health professionals, counselors, and coaches. We'll review ethical decision making and explore some common ethical issues such as social and sexual relationships with clients, payment, fee structure, and bartering, adherence to the scope of practice, HIPAA and confidentiality, documentation, and business management. Currently, coaches are not licensed in most states. That doesn't mean they won't become licensed. What that means is it's important that you stay on top of your regulatory agencies and regularly check with your state board of health to ensure that you're not required to be licensed to practice coaching in your state. Ethically, coaches should adhere to the recovery and resilience ethical guidelines, which are in your class. Some common ethical principles that are really important to be aware of and uphold are fidelity, which means being faithful to your client. If you tell them you're going to do something, do it. If you make a promise, keep it. Do things that are in their best interest, which takes us to beneficence. We're always trying to help our client and do things that are beneficial for them. Non-malfecence means we make sure that whatever we do doesn't hurt our client. And sometimes we have to do things that we don't necessarily want to do, like terminate our client. We want to make sure we do that in a way that doesn't cause harm. We want to make sure that whatever we do is in the best interest of our client. And we're going to talk throughout the different courses about how to avoid creating dependencies with our clients. Because if they become dependent on us, even if we think we're doing the best thing for them, ultimately they're not going to be able to basically do these same skills without us, which is creating a problem, creating a dependency, which is harmful to the client. So we want to make sure that we do no harm. Autonomy means we respect our client's choices. They are going to discharge when they want to discharge. But they are also going to follow a recovery and relapse prevention plan that they create. And we're going to empower them to identify what they need and what they want. And we're going to try to help them meet their goals. This is not about us. This is about the client. And finally, justice. Fair is fair. We want to make sure that we treat all of our clients the same. If you have a sliding fee scale, make sure it's documented, what qualifies for a sliding fee scale, what kind of proof people have to have, and that you adhere to it. Make sure that you're not taking on certain clients and giving special favors to certain types of clients as opposed to others. So what do we do as far as identifying an ethical issue? Well, first, we need to know that there's an ethical issue.  If your head says it's wrong, well, there's an ethical issue there. If your heart says it doesn't feel right, there's probably an ethical issue.  Your head, heart and gut have to say, this is the right thing to do, or there's an ethical issue. So if any part of you feels that something you're doing might not be in your client's best interest or might bring them harm, then you need to figure out what to do about it. The first step is to get the facts. What are the relevant facts of the case? And do I know enough to make a decision? Do I know enough about what's going on with my client? Maybe you find out that your client is becoming progressively depressed and suicidal. Those are pretty relevant facts. You have to make sure those are accurate. And then you've got to figure out what to do. One of the hardest things as clinicians we have to do sometimes is have people committed involuntarily. Now, as a coach, the role is a little bit different, but it's still incumbent upon you to make sure that they don't harm themselves. So you're going to have to call law enforcement or call someone that's on their emergency contact to make sure that they are in a safe place. We want to identify stakeholders. What individuals and groups have an important stake in the outcome? If I make this decision or to do something or to not do something, who is it going to affect? It's going to affect me. It's going to affect my client. But who else? Is it going to affect my client's family? How might it affect the community? How might it affect the profession of coaching? Those are all things that we need to consider. Are some concerns more important? Is it more important to consider whether it's going to harm you or your client as opposed to the community? And that's not something that we can say yes or no. It's something you have to decide for each situation. Then brainstorm the options. What are your options here as far as how can you deal with it? I talked about a client who's becoming progressively depressed. What are the options that you have as a coach for acting? Refer them to their mental health professional. Hopefully you have a release of information if they're already seeing a clinician and you can call the mental health professional and go, uh, Jim Bob is not doing so good. Figure out what other options there are. Can you call 911? Do you need to call 911? Can you call their emergency contact? Is there someone that you can trust to come take care of them? Generally, if you're concerned for their safety, it's going to be more than just calling their emergency contact. Now, again, looking at the ethics of everything, do you transport them in your own car? That opens you up to a whole host of liability. So generally, it's recommended that you don't transport them in your own car, which is why 911 is a viable option. So you evaluate options by asking the following questions. Which option will produce the most good and do the least harm? Which option best respects the rights of all who have a stake? Which option treats people equally or proportionately? Which option best serves the community as a whole and not just some members? And obviously some of these questions are going to be more applicable to certain situations than others. After you figure out what your options are, then you make a decision. Eventually, you've got to make that decision. And then you test it before you act on it. You say, how would I feel if someone I respected knew my decision? Going back to that head, heart, and gut honesty. You also might ask yourself if the roles were reversed, how would I feel in the short term, and how would I feel in the long term? And do you want to ask yourself, does this decision conform with current laws? Because we've got to obey the law. Does it conform with current laws while doing the most good? Then you act. Once you've decided that, yes, this is the best decision, you've got to do something. So you act. Once that happens to reflect on the outcome, did it turn out the way you expected? If so, are there things that you can improve? Are there things you need to do differently next time? Did it turn out differently than you expected? If so, why? And what do you need to potentially do differently the next time? We need to adhere to the scope of practices coaches. Coaches only perform activities for which they have special training and are legally allowed to perform. This is one of my big hangups. I see a lot of coaches performing nutrition counseling. In most states, in order to provide nutrition counseling, you have to be a registered dietitian or a medical doctor. You can provide education, you can say, here's a book to read, but you can't prescribe for people what they need to be eating or what they should be doing. It's very important to understand the difference between educating and prescribing and very important to understand what you're legally allowed to do, because you can get a whole host of hot water criminally for practicing without a license. HIPAA and confidentiality. You know, always go with the strongest standards. And in this case, it would be the HIPAA standards that doctors and counselors have to follow. Coaches should protect all client information to these HIPAA standards requiring signed written releases, court orders, and documentation for any kind of release of information. Maintain all files behind at least two layers of security. So if it is sitting on the desk in your office, just open, which I hope it's not, but if it is, you should have the door to your office locked and you should also have another door between the door to your office and anybody else. So your exterior door and your office door. It is recommended that you always keep client charts stored in a secure location. Maintain all files for seven years after termination. That's a long time, especially if you're seeing a lot of clients, which is why digital files are good, but you need to make sure you have backups and can access those files. And you have to maintain an accounting of all disclosures made. So if your client, Sally Sue, wants you to call her therapist and give her an update on what's going on, you need to note in Sally Sue's chart that you called her therapist on X and so day and what you discussed. Documentation. It's really important that we maintain good documentation to protect ourselves legally and in the best interest of the client. You can't just walk into somebody's house and go, okay, yeah, your, your client Jane, I think I remember what's going on with you. That's not legal. Well, maybe legal, but it's not ethical by any standards, not professional. So you need to maintain demographic and emergency contact information. What's their name? How old are they? What's their telephone number? Who's their emergency contact? And ideally, do they have insurance? Now insurance doesn't cover coaching, but if for some reason your client should fall out on you and you need to call 911, it's good to have all this information. Have an informed consent documentation about your fees, payment methods and collections, what you're going to do if they start to rack up a bill. One of the most common ethical complaints or prompts for an ethical complaint against a clinician is when the unpaid bills start ramping up. If it gets to be overwhelming, sometimes the client may see that as an opportunity to say, well, the counselor wasn't providing the ethical service. So I shouldn't have to pay for services. Make sure you document. Ideally, make sure you get payment at the time services are due and never get more than two payments behind. Have releases of information. If you're going to be talking to anybody about anything, even though you're not required to as a coach required by law, ethically, let's go ahead and do it. That way we're not talking to people that our clients don't want us talking to. Now it gets a little stickier if you get asked by law enforcement or someone else about what's going on with the client because we don't have privilege as coaches. It's important to understand what your limits of confidentiality are, but ultimately keep it as confidential as possible. You need to have your intake interview or your assessment paperwork that shows that you got to know the client and you developed a service plan. The service plan needs to be in there. Let's prove that we worked with the client and developed a service plan. These are all things that you're probably billing your client for, so you need to have the documentation that it was done. If it's not in the chart, it didn't happen. Progress notes need to be in the chart. This protects you, but it also helps the client learn how to evaluate their own behaviors and their own progress. A quarterly reassessment at least. Sometimes I'll do reassessments every 30 days. That's up to you, but it really helps the client see what they're doing, what's working well, how far they've come, and make any adjustments necessary before it gets too far out of hand. A termination plan. It sounds kind of odd, but this should be in the chart from the beginning. If a client starts seeing you and sees you for five sessions and decides, you know this isn't working, you still have something to give them that has referral information on it, so they aren't just left kind of flapping out there in the wind no better off than they were when they started seeing you. Hopefully they are.  Begin termination planning or discharge planning at intake. Make sure you have that termination plan or that game plan for what someone's going to do when they leave your care, whether it's tomorrow or two years from now. Documentation needs to be completed within 24 hours of service. It needs to be computer generated or written in ink, and if it's computer generated, you can save it as a Word document, but it's better legally if you save it as a PDF, because it's harder to modify PDFs and you can prove that it was a document that you created on X and so date and it hasn't been modified. Never erase once a document has been saved and signed. If you have to make changes, always strike through, initial, and annotate. If you can't do that for some reason, then create an addendum to add to it and just title it like addendum to progress note for August 3rd, 2015, and put what you need to put in there. If a situation required consultation with another professional, that needs to be in the notes. That will protect you as well as informing the client about what happened. Liability arises if the coach can't prove that he or she used the care and judgment of a reasonable professional, regardless of whether injury occurred. So the court is going to say, would another reasonable person have done this or failed to do this? It doesn't matter if the client was injured or not. If they say you were negligent, they can sue you. Business management. This is a big snafu for a lot of people. Really important to understand in your state and in your locale what it takes to open a business. You can't just start running a business. There are paperwork. There are hoops. First, you have to get a business license. All businesses are required to get a local business license through their clerk of the court.  It will tell you all the steps you need to do. It's not hard. It's just time consuming. It's important to have a contract for services. That way you're laying out everything that you will do and you can be held responsible for. And then what your client is responsible for like payment of fees of X dollars per session. And if there are any additional fees for bounce checks for failure to show up for services, anything like that it needs to be included in your contract. Liability insurance is important even if you're a coach, not a clinician. It's important if you are a personal trainer. It's important if you're a nurse. It's important if you are a professional working with people. Have liability insurance. When it comes to collecting money, make sure you give receipts to your clients and keep a copy of the receipt. If they're in arrears, don't let them get more than two payments in arrears before you start a corrective action of some sort. And that can be writing up a new contract.  And finally bartering. Generally bartering is discouraged. Really, really discouraged because again, it opens you up for liability and ethical charges and all kinds of stuff. If they think that whatever service they're providing to you is worth more than the service that you're providing to them, it can get sticky. It is really better if you're going to do something like that, which again, I advise against that you exchange money. If you are providing coaching services and exchange for four dozen eggs, I'm just guessing here, if each dozen is worth $5, so your coaching services are $20. The person pays you $20 and you give them $20 for the eggs and everybody's happy. Yes, it's smoke and mirrors, but at least it's more legitimate at that point in time. And people aren't felt like they don't feel like they're obligated to continue with that arrangement if it's not working. Dual relationships, sexual or non-professional relationships with current clients should be avoided at all times while the professional relationship exists.  Avoid it because when you're in one of those roles, you're in a power position and the client could easily be hurt. Remember, non-malthecence, the client could easily be hurt and could potentially sue you for negligence. It's strongly recommended to avoid dual relationships in clients with clients in perpetuity. That means once you've had somebody as a client, you are not going to be BFFs. You are not going to be business partners. You are not going to be romantic partners. It's really better that way. For coaches, it's not a legal issue at this point. It is important to consider for your own ethics and your own integrity what you feel. Health professionals licensed by the state must adhere to the code of ethics of their licensed profession. So if you happen to be a nurse and a coach or a counselor and a coach, you are obviously held to the higher standard, the more stringent laws, the more stringent ethics. Other things that you need to consider are burnout, illness, and addiction. If you start getting burned out and all of us do at a certain point in time, we can get exhausted.  Take a vacation.  Make sure you have a backup plan for when you are on vacation for who your clients are supposed to call. But if you keep going past that point of exhaustion, you're not going to be able to provide them the type of services that they deserve and they need. You're not going to be able to be beneficent. If you are sick, it's important not to practice. If you are under the influence of medications, if you can't think clearly, if you are not going to be on your game, so to speak, ethically, you need to consider whether you should cancel your clients for that day or even for that week. If you are starting to experience problems with addiction, this is a big one. If you are starting to experience problems with addiction, you cannot see clients. You are not in the place at that point in time where you're able to deal with life on life's terms. So you need to back up and get help before you can start working with clients who are suffering from similar issues. This is not mutual support. When you are a coach, you are actually the professional that has a little bit more power. Even though we try to keep it as a egalitarian relationship, there's a power dynamic. Recovery coaching is a profession in which the coach holds a certain amount of influence over or with another person. Coaches are required to be aware of their personal and professional limitations in providing services and must adhere to all laws in their jurisdiction. Now, I say in your jurisdiction, because you may not be in the United States of America. So whatever your jurisdiction is, you need to conform to those laws. Coaches must strive to make the most ethical decisions when faced with ethical conflicts. And it's the coach's responsibility to be aware of all relevant laws and regulations in his or her jurisdiction, including but not limited to the practice of coaching, business regulation, confidentiality, and mandatory reporting of abuse issues. Saying, well, I didn't know isn't going to get you out of trouble. So ignorance is not bliss in this case. It is definitely your responsibility to be aware of the minimum standards to which you can be held accountable. Once you're finished watching this video, please go through. There's another video to watch and read the ethical guidelines that you are going to be held accountable to. And you're going to have to sign before getting your certification. It's important to remember that adequate timely documentation is an excellent step toward providing the best services to clients and protecting yourself from legal action. Recovery and resilience ethics board is always available to answer your questions regarding ethics. You are, however, advised to consult an attorney regarding laws in your area or any legal matters about which you may have concerns.