Desk Assistants or DA's can be found in each of the residence halls on UC's campus. Desk Assistants always greet residents as they come and go. They also make phone and video calls, attend teams meetings, and answer emails. The DA position was my dream position as a freshman in college. I was looking enough to work in the same hall that I lived in, which meant I had zero commute to work. Also, when there wasn't any residents that needed help, I was able to work on my homework. I wasn't stressed about balancing my life, the DA position did it for me. I was attracted to the flexible hours, you know, the opportunity to work on my homework while being paid, and the ability to develop an on-campus connection as an undergraduate student. When residents are locked out of their rooms, they can get assistance from a DA at the service center. DA's have access to loaner keys for each room and can loan one to a resident for up to 72 hours utilizing their training and STAR-RES. I grew in my organizational skills, emailing, and Excel organization. After my first year as a DA, I was promoted to a neighborhood operations assistant or an NOA, where I get to oversee desk assistants and ensure quality control. To learn more about the Desk Assistant position, visit the housing website. When applications are open, links to apply will be available.


G'day, welcome to Bootlossophy. My name is Tech and I'm coming to you from Wadget Country in Western Australia and I acknowledge the traditional owners of this land. Today I'm going to be reviewing Timberland's eco-conscious boot, the original six-inch leather earthkeeper boots. This is the Timberland original six-inch leather earthkeeper boots. While Timberland now offers a range of products under the copyrighted earthkeeper's name, this was their first earthkeeper's boot. If you're interested in boots wherever you are in the world and you haven't heard of Timberland, I guess your name might be Rip Van Winkle. Timberland was founded in 1928 in Boston, Massachusetts in the United States and originally called the Abingdon Shoe Company. In 1952 Nathan Schwartz bought an interest in the company and eventually took over the remaining shares and made it a family business before moving it to New Hampshire. It first focused on producing waterproof boots capable ofwithstanding the winters of that region. Timberland boots proved popular with industrial workers as well as on college campuses and sold well at high-end retailers. The popularity of the boots prompted the Schwartzers to discontinue manufacturing for other shoe brands and then concentrate on expanding their own brand. In 1978 the company was renamed the Timberland Company after the name of their most popular iconic model the classic yellow six-inch Timberland boot. They continued to expand their range of waterproof boots and shoes as well as introducing men's and women's clothing and accessories. In 1987 Timberland went public and was listed on the New York Stock Exchange. In 2011 Timberland was acquired by the VF Corporation, a global lifestyle and footwear company that also owns brands like Northface, Dickies, Icebreaker and many many others that you've heard of. Today all of its product is made in world markets with factories ranging from South America to Asia and to Europe. Timberland has been estimated to be worth 1.58 billion dollars in 2017 with revenue of about 1.4 billion and it employed over 2,000 employees in the United States and about three and a half thousand overseas. So it's not a small batch handmade manufacturer of boots. My first heritage style work boot was the classic six-inch yellow waterproof boot which I first bought 30 years ago and you can see my review of my current version up here. This is the original six-inch leather earthkeepers. There's a necessary long-windedness in that name. First the word original must be used because this is the first earthkeepers and their first production of an eco-conscious boot. Second the word leather is in there because there are other earthkeeper boots and and shoes that are not all made of leather. So this must be called the original six-inch leather earthkeeper boots. What makes it eco-conscious? Well in 2007 Timberland decided to produce a boot with all the usual waterproof characteristics and rubber-bond-welded soles but with sustainable materials. So this is made from sustainable materials including 50 percent recycled PET linings and laces, recycled from plastic bottles, 34 percent recycled rubber out soles and leathers outsourced from gold or silver rated tannways. I should state out front that I bought these from eBay for 50 Aussie dollars or I probably would not have bought a pair of these at all. I wasn't particularly in love with the aesthetic but I thought for 50 dollars I should at least try it out seeing as how I love my classic yellow boots and some other of my Timberland boots. I believe there were seconds rather than used because the sole and the heels are untouched and the leather looked new but there are some gouges on one of the quarters which looked like a machine problem and they'd been fixed by a cobbler using a little glue and dye. So as I said I didn't really like the aesthetic. I thought the squared-off toe cap has a kind of weird mock-toe aesthetic combined with the stitching everywhere especially around the bottom of the panels and making it look like a Frankenstein monster. There's something like 15 different pieces of leather in this. The funny thing is that my wife who usually likes my sleek and slim boots thought it was different and interesting enough to be likeable. I've got used to them now but I still think they're a cross between the looks of a mock-toe and a work boot and maybe a bit of a hunter's boot thrown in especially in this medium brown. I wasn't aware until I was researching for this video but it comes in ten different colors. This is the most popular medium brown version it's a distress. Red brown comes with it black wheat burnished gold gray dark brown burnished oil two shades of dark brown and something called cactus full grain. You wouldn't class these as service boots or combat boots and calling them a work boot aesthetic isn't quite right but if you twist my arm I'd say they have an outdoors aesthetic. I don't think you'd disagree these are strictly casual boots and in that rugged outdoors casual builders yard workplace casual kind of aesthetic so pair them with jeans and canvas work pants fleecy shirts and rugged jumpers and jackets and all that sort of thing. One thing though while work bootie in look maybe these are not work boots they're just a little too soft and unprotected hiking a little work in the yard looking stylish leaning at the bar counter yeah going logging not so much. Let's look at how they are made and as usual we'll start at the bottom and work our way up. They stand on a rubber commando pattern lugged sole. It's a pretty soft rubber it's Timberland's trademark grip stick rubber sole pretty good shock absorption. The lugs in that familiar commando style pattern you know radiating lugs and star shaped studs in the center they're quite grippy under most conditions. There is a rubber midsole and a welt and it's attached to the uppers in a bon welt style of construction. Bon welt is a form of cement construction a strip of material like a welt is glued to the insole which is itself attached to the uppers and then the welt and the insole is glued or heat sealed to the outsole. The stitches you see on top of the welt are real. Let me be clear it's not a real welted construction it uses the welt here as a medium for cementing. In this case the welt used is leather and the midsole is a compression moulded EVA foam for cushioning. Resolving is probably easier than a merely heat attached rubber sole like in their classic yellow boot but I guess you can peel off the outsole and midsole easily and glue new ones on I think. I don't think there's a shank that piece of hard material that's usually inserted inside the boot to give arch support and stability it's just a little too light and flexible I think. If it does have a shank it's a pretty flexible nylon shank which in my opinion might as well not be there. Inside is a cardboard footbed and on top of that they place a removable anti-fatigue trademark footbed which is pretty comfortable. The leather is full grain waxed or oiled new buck less corrected or sanded down than the yellow new buck boots. They scuff quite easily mainly the wax scratching on the surface and it's easy to rub it out with your thumb. Despite all the stitching everywhere all around the bottom of the panels here along the quarters up the backstay. Despite all this very busy stitching it is waterproof. The leather is treated and the inside of the boot is lined with a waterproof material behind all the stitching as well as with a waterproof fabric also made from recycled plastic bottles. The medium brown leather is actually quite nice it's about two mils thick and is soft and supple. It's very comfortable but as I said earlier I think a little too supple to stand as a knock about work boot. I feel that if I dropped a heavy span on my toe I'd feel it especially as it's not a structured toe it's very soft. At least that's what I think. If you use it as a work boot let me know in the comments below. The oily waxy feel is reminiscent of crazy horse leather like on the Chippewa service boots or like Redwing's copper rough and tough leather. There's not a lot of structure in the toes or in the heels. As I said the toe box has this mock toe look. I'm not sure you wouldn't call it a mock toe but I'm not sure you would either. Let's just call it a Frankenstein monster toe. There's a lot of stitching in there. The backstay at the heel that's a puzzle. It has a couple of loops sewn into it which I don't think has any function at all. There's the usual Timbaland logo stamped into the side of the heel which I quite like even though some people really don't like logos on their boots. Moving on it has nine generously sized nickel colored eyelets. No speed hooks. I usually lace only up to eight eyelets because that ninth one is pretty high up on the facings. The laces, the laces are great. They're also made of recycled material. They're thick but soft and they tie very well. They stay tight when you tie them. The tongue is un-gusseted which is very surprising for a Timbaland waterproof boot. The leather might be waterproof but I would have thought you need at least partially gusseted tongue to keep the high waterline high. However having said that I have run through a downpour and into deep rain puddles and I've not got my feet wet. At the very top the collar is lightly padded and rolled which makes it very comfortable to tie up tight. As a waxed or oiled new bug it doesn't demand much leather care. It's been waterproofed I think at the tannery and so doesn't need anything in boot oils. As you know by now if you're a subscriber I usually recommend that you check out what the manufacturer says about caring for your boots and then you follow their recommendation unless you're an experienced and a boot collector and you really know what you're doing. In this case Timbaland's recommendations are a bit confusing. Of course when dealing with new bug they recommend their new bug and suede cleaners and conditioners but in this case I think I'd follow the care instructions of what they call waxed or oiled leathers. The waxiness already applied to these mean that the new bug product you use on the yellow new bug boots won't be optimal here. In caring for their waxed or oiled leathers they recommend their Waximum Waxed Leather Protector. It's a balm that comes in a tin. You clean the leather with a clean damp cloth, leave it to dry and then apply the Waximum balm working it into the leather and making sure you get into the many seams. Allow it to dry and then brush or buff any excess with a dry cloth. The leather is a matte appearance so no shining up is necessary. The water repellency can wear off apparently so if you feel you need to replenish a protective layer over and above the Waximum balm you can use the balm proofer all-purpose protector spray. Just pump spray over the boots at a distance of six to eight inches that's 15-20 centimeters and cover the boots with a fine mist. Allow it to dry and off you go. I reckon under normal use conditions doing this every four to six months is more than enough. I'll put links to where you can get these products in the description below. There are affiliate links but you don't pay any more because of that and if you want to get the products anyway it helps me make about 50 cents a purchase. I haven't actually conditioned these by the way. I haven't felt like they need it to. They're still pretty waxy. I have washed them under a tap though when they got muddy in a walk and the water just rolled off and just took them out of way. So all in all I think a pretty easy boot to take care of. Now taking a look at fit and sizing. My true to size as measured by a brand new device is eight and a half in D width in US sizing. The equivalent UK or Aussie sizing is seven and a half in G or average width. But I'll stick to talking in US sizes because being a US product it's just a bit easier. Usually in almost all my heritage style American boots they run a half size large and I buy 8D instead of 8 and a half D. In the Timberland original classic yellow newbuck waterproof boot I wear an eight wide. Timberland only offers two widths average and wide. That was a good fit in that model. These are also an eight wide but in these maybe it's the last or maybe it's the lack of structure. They feel a little roomy. I think I could have probably fitted into an eight average or even a seven and a half wide. I like having room for my toes so probably a seven and a half wide I think. These are not going to fly off my feet. They're not that loose but sometimes when I'm walking fast my feet get a little tired because the toes inside feel like they're constantly scrabbling to try and get a grip as I walk. To make that better I've put a piece of hard foam under their mold at anti-fatigue removable insole. That's barked it up enough to take up the volume. The fit considering that I've just said it's a little loose is better with the extra foam and around the ankles it's pretty good. The anti-fatigue footbed is really quite comfy as it's almost taken the job of impressing the shape of your feet into a leather and caulk footbed. The lack of shank is not a huge problem mainly because the mold at rubber heel is sitting quite low so there's no big flexing under the arch. The rubber heel and sole is very shock absorbing so that's good. The leather is supple more supple than the yellow tins and where those are stiffened by stiffeners in the toes and heels. These are very sparing in anything stiffening so feels like it's a softer set of uppers like a pair of shoes. As for the comfort in the break-in remember these are from eBay even though I think these are unworn seconds not secondhand. Remembering that there was no break-in and honestly everything is so soft even these multiple seams that I think even if brand new there'd be no breaking issues whatsoever if you size right. Okay time to look at cost and value. I got these for Aussie $50 on eBay. That was the starting bid and nobody else came in. The owner was very honest and described and showed photos of the gouge in the leather. To be honest I didn't really want them. I put in the first bid at $50 thinking I'd be out bid and what fun it was and then fell off my chair when I actually won the auction. Anyway I don't wear these as much because they're probably and objectively not my favorites in my collection. I have to consciously decide to wear them rather than automatically grab them like many others in my collection but despite that I'm glad I did win them at $50 and the value at $50 is insanely unbeatable. But what about new? They sell for US $160 and in Australia sell for just under $300 Aussie dollars. On Amazon you can get them new from between $130 to $160 US dollars. Now remembering they are a well-toothed and cemented boot. Waterproof, nice leather, users recycled materials if that's important to you. At $130 to $160 it's a pretty fair price. You get a very unique looking boot for that price. I think that US $130 to $160 will reflect their value considering I've heard people have worn these as everyday boots for two or three years before they're either discarded or they attempt to re-sold. That's $50 to $75 per year of wear. To be honest if it lasts you two or three years and you're looking at a re-sold that might cost half the original price I'd be happy just getting a new pair every two or three years of everyday wear. QC? Well these are hardly handmade boots but with machinery theoretically you can control QC much better and large corporations with large factories do implement strong QC inspection and process control procedures. I can't see any QC issues other than that F4 said gouge which was obviously picked up and I haven't heard of QC issues out of the box from other reviewers or other boot groups either. For $300 Australian dollars though the exchange rate isn't that bad. At Aussie $300 I think they're overpriced and probably priced as a fashion item not a fair value priced boot. If you live in Australia and want a pair I'd recommend getting on the Amazon US site because even with the exchange rate and shipping there'll be about mid $200 and on Amazon you can get free shipping and free returns especially if you're a prime member. So there you go guys my review of the Timberland original six inch earthkeeper leather boots. I hope you like the review. Say even if you're a subscriber I'd be very grateful if you clicked on the like button. Subscribers are reminded of my videos when they come out and so sometimes forget to click on like because they're already watching. 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If you are new here, please subscribe to this channel and don't forget to click the bell icon. It's the only way that will be updated in the upcoming video. Thank you so much for this support. Thank you so much for returning back to this channel. If you are new here, consider subscribing. The new returning subscribers, thank you so much for supporting this channel. Thank you so much. Happy new year to you all. Happy new year. It has been very fun. This is a new happy eve where we had rain getting over in one room or the other. I think most of the parts of hard rain in one room would call it a happy blessing year of 2022. What are we talking about today? One person asked me a question that what is the best month for you to look for a job in Dubai? I'll just give you a little bit of my own experience and from this is my own perspective. There must be a lot of conspiracy theories. Someone would say this is the best month. This is no best month. But this is my own opinion. I'll give you. So from my own opinion, you tend to pick up what is right at one moment of time. Remember, unfortunately, something that I need to let you know, unfortunately job searching is not like tourism. What am I talking about? It has no perfect month. But also what would be, it would just depend on the trend that is available at that time. It would be the trend that is available at that time. Like Dubai and other Gulf countries are not the same. Remember, Dubai even has more salary, paid workers than any other Gulf countries. I think most of you would agree with me at one moment of time. But what I need to let you know, what I need to let you know that it's all about keeping on applying, keeping on applying, trying here and there, trying every now and then that's trying to get up that job that you see at one moment of time. Remember, something that I need to let you know that there is no such month, there is no such month in job seeking for in Dubai. Remember, also this one just depends on what you call the trends that are available at that time and upon what you call different factors that maybe get at one moment of time. And that's what we talk. But remember, job searching will only go to that person who is hungry for that job. The person who is hungry for that job will do whatever to do, will do whatever it has to do at moment time to look for that job in one month or the other. Remember, job searching alone does not stop from you moving from one company door from one office to one office to door you see. But it comprises a lot of things that you need to touch and up together, you need to tap up together, search and at the end of it all you achieve what you want. And how do you talk about this? Maybe you move around, you connect with friends, you connect them with people that you think are going to help you in one word to find up the job, to find up that job or to find up those communities that you want for you or the other side and end of it all. So, but still remember that from the month of October to March this period is favorable for job searching in Dubai and I will specifically talk about Dubai because in Dubai where we have opportunities that you can go on this visa and look for a job and you can still find a job for yourself. So when you look at October and March is actually the perfect month, these are perfect months that you can find the favorable job. Why? Because the climate is not so hot, it is not too much heat and there is not too much humidity. Meaning that you can commute or you can move from one office to another office to another office if you want to look for that particular job that you want for yourself. But remember we say that it is not such a month for job seeking in Dubai. Remember also jobs in Dubai or jobs in Dubai depend on what you call a given train, that given train that you learn how to follow depending on what is the main job period. But remember something that I need to... something that I also still need to let you know is one or the other is that when you are doing what you call job searching in Dubai I think the two types, the two periods that you should normally have to avoid if you really have one to get that perfect March the two periods that you need to avoid. One, it's when we look at Ramadhan's period it's a very short period because remember at that time the human resources are not going to recrote in one way. Why? Because it's a shorter period and people are working shorter hours and what does it mean that for you to achieve or for you to get that opportunity then you have to look at what you call the post Ramadhan period that's when you should begin your searching and even that time the human resources are not willing to recrote because remember that at that time some people are cut off the few hours some are in the qualities, some are not working it will not be economical for those human resource companies or for those people responsible during that period when people are working less hours so one thing that I would say that during the Ramadhan period it will not be a perfect March for you to look for a job or to apply for a job but remember you can still apply online and put your savings online but if you are going to move office to office it will not be a perfect time for you to know and you will not get out whatever you want to do at that time but still another period that I will talk about is what we call summer period remember the summer period the schools are on vacation and the schools are on holidays that is most of the time that the people who are responsible for those positions of recroting the bosses are also off they are off for their vacation, they are off for their holidays and even some of the human resource departments at that time they are off so meaning that for that time if you are looking for a job in that particular area you will not be able to get that full opportunity that you want at that time so I would say that for that period that you should avoid those two periods the Ramadhan period and the post and what you call the summer period you will have what you call the school period at that time because the recruitment itself is a little bit not that favorable at one moment of time you will not get exactly what you want at that period but remember unfortunately for searching some of the jobs you can get like for example in tourism for example in what you call the hospitality or hospitality sector you can still get the job that kind of the winter period when we have many tourists coming so meaning that in some sectors like the hospitality sector there is some period where you will still access the job and get that opportunity because why? because of the influx of tourists and like for those hotels for those immigration centers at that time they will need people to work for them and they will need to look for it I hope I have tried to answer that question rightly and that is my own fear and that is what my own belief and that is my own experience thank you so much for coming back to this channel don't forget to subscribe if you are new here consider subscribing support this channel by subscribing support makes creation by subscribing this channel and pressing the notification bell so that you will be uploaded whenever you upload a video thank you so much see you again in the next video when we are looking at other opportunities and how better we can make ourselves move to other horizons or move to bigger opportunities one way or the other thank you so much see you again in the next video


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On February the 22nd, in Northeast Delhi, there was a deployment of 450 police personnel according to the affidavit given to the High Court by the Delhi police. On February 23rd, there were 1393 deployment. On that day, there were 700 distress calls made to the police, most of which went unanswered. February 23rd was the day when the riots and the violence started. On February 24th, there were 13 deaths. But the Home Ministry of India chose to deploy only 6 more police personnel. So it went up to 1396. It was only on February 24th evening that Section 144 was imposed. So the whole of the 24th and 24th, even Section 144 was not imposed.  He was not allowed to go there. The police took him to the hospital and searched for himself. I came to the report that your child fell and was killed. Today, we have held a press conference. It is very difficult to take care of your grief. Some families have kept their statements in front of you. Because even after one year, you could not get any hope of justice from any government or country. We have been in the hospital for a month now. We don't know what happened in the colony. We have burnt all the houses and houses in the city. So they are brave. And they are brave enough to keep their statements in front of the country. Along with the burden of grief. They were taken out of the prison. My husband's brother-in-law was also there. He was already killed. He was shot in the head. He was released from the prison. He was shot in the head. He was shot in the head. I look at these cases in this way. The grief of a person, the pain, cannot be filled and it is there. But what is wrong behind it? Have we been punished? My husband was shot in the head. He was released from the prison. After that he was put in the prison. He called me at 11, 10, 11. I had to go because I had to run the case. We have made a report. We have given copies to you. The politics behind it, the state agencies, this subversion of justice, our research, and all the affidavits, chartsheets, the statements of the police, the basis of which we have found that behind all this violence, behind the long march, in the country's politics, 5 days of intense violence is not a small thing. The claims of that country we are the best governed country in the world and we are the Vishwa Guru. It is not possible that in the capital of India for 5 days the city should burn under the direct, self-proclaimed monitoring of the Home Minister and Home Ministry of India. On February 25th, there were 29 deaths. The deployment of police went up to 4291. That day there were 7500 distress calls. Most of which went unanswered and the answer of the police is that we were unable to attend to the distress calls. So 7500 citizens of northeast Delhi, whether they were Muslim or Hindu, they were distress calls. They went unanswered, most of them and the curfew was imposed on a day of 29 deaths only in the late evening. On February 26th, 4600, only 400 extra. There were 8 deaths and 1500 distress calls. 273 deaths and some more police were deployed. The role of the Delhi police and the role of the Home Ministry of India and the third, the political dimension you have heard and Emily was seen in the crowd. Mumtaz has got the list of BJP leaders who were in the crowd but the police have not taken a single statement from him. They have witnesses, they have videos which are being sold. People are seeing that in Mohan Naseegh Home the people who were there did not even ask their owner about the arrest. Tears shot Shahbaz, that is Faizan's brother. The witness to Faizan's brother Shahbaz killing the boy who carried him in that crowd to the hospital to save him. He was seen in the thana being beaten up. Faizan is a witness to it but the police have not taken his statement yet. Malika is a witness. The police have not even visited her or taken a statement from her. Vakil Saab Spurin family's witness nobody has taken a statement. Therefore, what does this mean? It means that there is a deliberate subversion of justice because the truth has been hijacked to conceal the role of BJP leaders.


I am honestly beginning to wonder whether or not conservatives are pro-COVID-19. And I say that not to sound hyperbolic, but because when you look at their actions and their rhetoric with regard to COVID-19, everything that they've said and done has been in service to the pandemic. From the very beginning when we learned about the effectiveness of masks, they were against that. You have anti-maskers such as Marjorie Taylor Greene tweeting about how wonderful it is in Georgia that they don't have to wear masks there and that they can be free to let their face be naked. As if you should have the liberty to spread your germs to other Americans during a pandemic. But now when we actually see the light at the end of the tunnel with these vaccines, now they're fear mongering about that too. No masks, no vaccines, I guess they just want the pandemic to last forever because maybe that's their way of owning the lips since their lives haven't really changed much since they don't take it seriously. So they like this. I don't know. But what I do know is that Marjorie Taylor Greene is playing a really dangerous game because now she's trying to dissuade evangelicals from taking the vaccine by speculating about whether or not it might actually be the mark of the beast. They want you to be required to have something called a COVID passport.  And I asked the question earlier today, is this something like Biden's mark of the beast? Because that is really disturbing and not good. Oh, if you're going to come into the football game or the baseball game or the concert, you need your vaccine passport because we're trying to do a good job to keep everyone safe. This is what the Biden administration is trying to talk to these private companies into doing. Well, let's analyze that. You see, it's still the same thing. It's still fascism or communism, whatever you want to call it. But it's in it's coming from private companies. So I have a term for that. I call it corporate communism. I continue to be amazed. By the idiocy of Marjorie Taylor Greene. Every time I think there's no way she could say something dumber than this. It's like she takes it as a challenge. And I think that TJ Kirk, the amazing atheist, he put it best.  And that's exactly it. What she just said there, it's not just stupid, but this is dangerous idiocy. If you're saying something that's silly and I can make fun of you, great. But this has broad implications. If you convince your deluded followers that the vaccine is the mark of the beast, then guess what? The pandemic isn't going to be going away because if we don't have enough people vaccinated to reach herd immunity, then the virus will continue to spread. New variations will manifest. And guess what happens if we get a new variant that is resistant to vaccines? We're all back to square one. Do you want that? Honestly, I want to ask one of these conservatives, do you just want the pandemic to go on forever or are you just ambivalent? Are you comfortable with it? I just don't get this.  She admits her own stupidity. She says that vaccine passports, it's, you know, even though it's private companies who are involved here, it's still fascism or communism or whatever you want to call it. Corporate communism. Except, believe it or not, these words have definitions and fascism and communism are two very, very different things.  That's what you are, Marjorie Taylor Greene. And I think that she probably brought in communism at the last second there because she realized, oh, I'm kind of a fascist myself. So I don't want to necessarily demonize fascism. So or communism will call it whatever bad thing that you think it is. Just don't get the vaccines. That's her message. Now, she pretends as if vaccine passports, which is the new thing that Republicans are using to fear monger about the vaccines and try to stop people from getting the vaccines. She's pretending like this is some new phenomenon. Any time you register your kid for school, guess what you have to do? You have to provide proof to them that they are vaccinated. This isn't a new phenomenon. When I applied for a job at Walmart, guess what I had to do? I had to provide them with proof that I wasn't a drug user. And I did that by pissing in a cup. This is not anything that's new, and it's a necessary temporary precaution if we want to resume normalcy in America. You really think that it's unreasonable for private companies and even public institutions to ask that somebody show proof that they were vaccinated so we can contain the spread of this virus. Vaccine passports is not something that is going to be a permanent phenomenon unless you make it a permanent phenomenon, because you are doing everything in your power to make sure that COVID-19 doesn't go away. This is a non-issue. And the role that Joe Biden will play in this is minimal. And I hate Joe Biden, but let's be real here. What she's basing this off of and what the rest of the conservatives who are spreading misinformation about the vaccines are basing this off of is a Bloomberg article by Fiona Rutherford titled White House says private sector should lead on vaccine passports, where Jen Psaki says a determination or development of a vaccine passport or whatever you want to call it will be driven by the private sector. Saki said hours will be more focused on guidelines that can be used as a basis. And there are a couple of key principles we're working from. So she's saying there's not going to be this centralized effort to make sure that people can only do certain things if they have their vaccine passports. She's saying this should really come from the private sector, as was the case with the mask mandates, for example, because the federal government and state governments can only do so much as it relates to private businesses. You can regulate them, but there are certain things that the government cannot do. That's why they're they're relying on this. Now, I think that the government should be as involved as they possibly can be since this is a public health crisis. But conservatives, Fox News, Marjorie Taylor Greene, Newsmax are taking that article and Jen Saki's comment on vaccine passports. And they're trying to fear monger about the covid vaccines and make it seem as if there's this big government conspiracy. It's Orwellian and it's the mark of the beast. And you won't be able to do anything unless you have your vaccine passports. So what they're doing is tantamount to discouraging people from getting the vaccines. So they must want the pandemic to last forever. There's nothing else that I can deduce from this because you don't want folks to wear masks. You don't want shutdowns. You don't want to pay people to stay home so they don't spread covid-19. You don't want them to get vaccinated now. So are you just pro covid-19? Are you on the side of the virus? Who's that? Are you on? I know you're on the side of capitalism and capitalism absolutely is not going to allow us to do anything that would stifle, you know, economic growth or profits. So we know you're on the side of capitalism, but it genuinely seems like you're just pro covid-19.  Because big pharma is making lots of money from these vaccines. I mean, that shouldn't even be allowed.  But it seems like you're doing everything in your power to prolong a public health crisis.  And I'm sick of it. I mean, conservatives, they just genuinely don't want any precautions against the pandemic. They just want to pretend like it's not a thing, no masks, no nothing.  Like I'm just trying to figure out what the parameters are. Is there anything that we can do as a country to mitigate the spread of the virus that you won't be opposed to? I just I don't get it. This party is the party of death and destruction and anything that they do is all to the detriment of the human species. And that's not to say that Democrats are fantastic, but this is a death cult. These are psychopaths, but yet a lot of them have power. And that is downright disturbing, and it should scare all of us.


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So I've just thoroughly enjoyed it and the most thing I've enjoyed is interacting with the attendees because, you know, they've just been coming up to me with questions. A lot of them weren't familiar with me. Now they are. Yeah. And it's just been a great gratifying experience. And that's good for your brand as well. Mm-hmm. Yes. Very much so. Yeah. And I like that I only have two syllables, more one, because it's easy to remember. It's almost synonymous with your name. It's one of those things where people, when they mention mode one, which is the name of your book, they automatically thank you, automatically. So you and the name of your book are a synonymous brand and it's a method. People, I've heard conversations where people said, oh, I do mode one without even mentioning your name.  It's very recognizable. What is the gist of your message with the men at the convention? My main message is to first identify what are your desires, interests, and intentions as it relates to spending time with a woman? Why do you want to share her company? And once you have a general idea of that, now how are you going to verbally communicate that?  Some people think they're the exact same thing, but they're not necessarily. For example, there are a lot of men who will approach a woman, initiate a conversation, and they'll talk about how great the weather is, you know, how much they enjoy the food at that restaurant, their favorite movies, none of that has anything to do with why do you ultimately want to share that woman's company. So a lot of guys are scared to be too forward because they think that's going to be a turnoff to women. Women are going to have a negative reaction. And in some cases, they will be taken aback because a lot of women are not used to men being straight up front and straightforwardly honest about their genuine desires, interests, and intentions. So I push men to be that straightforward because George, I think if you say we're either in the market for a house or selling a house, you wouldn't want somebody coming to your house and say you go around, show them a tour of your house. And then at the end of the conversation, you say, so you're planning on buying a new house? And they say, actually, no, I'm not planning on buying a new house till five years from now. I just saw your house and I wanted to come. You'd be like, you're wasting my time. And see, that's what I tell guys, why would you want to talk to a woman for an hour only to have her at the end of the conversation say, oh, I already have a boyfriend. And that's happened to quite a few guys. Yeah. It reminds me in business, begin with the end in mind. Simple as that. Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. That's what I tell guys. Yeah, I can't say it better. Begin with the end in mind and then let it flow from there. And then along with that, one thing I frown on, even though I know some guys are going to continue to do this.  There's two thing kind of what I call manipulative head games that guys engage in.  Essentially, they put themselves in a woman's friend zone, hoping with their fingers crossed that there's going to be this one lucky day in the future where she says, oh, you've been such a great friend. I want to upgrade you now to my boyfriend. There's maybe a 1% chance that that will happen, but that will never happen. So I tell guys, don't put yourself in a friend zone, because I think it's a misnomer for men to say, well, yeah, you know, Amber, she put me in the friend zone. No, no, no, you did. So you're basically telling men that they are responsible for the zone they are in. Whatever zone that is, it's on them.  He knows how to bring everything down in a concise manner. Exactly. Exactly. Yes. Be responsible for the zone you're in. And even worse than that scenario is guys who know they just want something short-term, non-monogamous and casual, but they'll lie to women, mislead women and give women the misleading impression that they want a long-term, emotionally profound, monogamous relationship.  And I'm like, come on, fellas. So mode one is also a compassionate mode. You don't want to hurt anybody.  It's not a careless pickup artist method. It's actually a caring method. I'm taking you on tour with me, George. You were just excellent at articulating in simple terms what my method is about. Exactly. Yeah, you summed it up very well. Yeah, I'm not trying to run game on women that will leave them mentally or emotionally damaged.  So I try to eliminate all the lies, all the BS head games, just lay your cards on the table and see where they take you. A guy is in the friend zone for three, six, nine months. They do things together. And then one night, you know, at the end of every night, they hug each other by sweetie, see a honey, you know, and they do stuff socially. And then all of a sudden one night, he tries to kiss her. And she goes, whoa, we're just friends. She's acting surprised. All of a sudden he's offended because he's been a nice guy, spent money on her. They did a lot of things socially. She might have even held his arm as they're walking down the sidewalk. But she's not going to go there with him. But if he was clear right from the start what he wanted and clear about asking her what she was interested in, it just eliminates the nonsense, doesn't it? Oh, understatement. And that very scenario you describe, that has been the scenario of a lot of my male clients. They found themselves in that position. And again, they put themselves in that position. Some of them, I have like, okay, I have four modes of behavior, mode one, mode two, mode three, and mode four. Mode four represents when you just develop a high degree of bitterness and resentment towards women, borderline, misogyny towards women because you're so romantically and sexually frustrated. And one of the scenarios that provokes a man to transition into mode four is what you just described. Like I described in my chapter about mode four, where I knew this woman, she had this guy who lived in her apartment building. And he presented himself as just her friend. He presented himself as if he was content with being her friend. So he behaved like he was fine with being her friend until one day, he found out that she had hooked up with another guy in the apartment building fairly quickly. Like the guy had only been in the apartment building like a week or two, and she hooked up with him. So she said, he came by one night, he said, you know, my shower broke. Can I use your shower? You know, then being friends, she was like, sure. But then he comes out the bathroom with his towel, and he just drops it off. And she's like, what are you doing?  And she's like, no, you're my friend. And he's like, well, you slept with so-and-so. And he just moved in like two weeks ago. And he just started, she said, he just started going off on her. And she literally had to go, it got to one where she was going to call the police on him.  And he started cursing at her. And this was because he had been phony all that time for let's say six months. He disingenuously pretended like he was this woman's friend, like he was content. But then he showed his true self in that night. And it was sad. So. And then he's accusing her of leading him on. Exactly. Exactly.  You led me on your street. No, she didn't. No, she didn't. Not at all. That's a good example of you are responsible for the zone you are in. Mm hmm. Absolutely. You coach guys. Yes, I do. I do. On a basic level, I do email consultations. Next level up, I do Skype and telephone consultations with both guys domestically as well as internationally. In my highest level of coaching, I do one on one face to face coaching in four hour blocks, eight hour blocks and a three day, 14 hour block. And I've done a lot of traveling this year. I work with some clients in Miami this year, Vancouver, Canada, Chicago, Los Angeles. And the first starting point is I want me to get to a point where they're not afraid of rejection. Because one problem I have with a lot of what I like to call conventional PUAs is they try to teach guys. Tell there are some men in the audience right near right now that don't know what PUA is. Oh, that's true. Pick up artists. There are a lot of men who are professional pickup artists and the acronym for that is PUA.  Some people call it the traction and seduction community. But yeah, there are a lot of guys who are pickup artists. And one major philosophical distinction I have from probably 98% of the pickup artists out there is they will teach you methods and techniques designed to ideally help a man prevent rejection and avoid it completely or at minimum delay it or circumvent it somehow or minimize the egotistical sting. And my attitude is you got to learn how to be a man and handle rejection head on. Life is going to be full of all forms of rejection. Not in form of just women but job rejections and whatnot. And you have to be able to accept that. And I find that the guys who are the most afraid of rejection are interesting enough the men who have experienced the least. I find that most men who have experienced dozens and dozens and hundreds and hundreds of rejection like myself fellas. A lot of guys think oh Alan he is a successful dating coach. He has probably never been rejected. It is quite the contrary. I have been rejected just hundreds of times. And I have come to realize it is no big deal. It is part of life. And matter of fact there has been a lot of rejections that at the time it was disappointing and then say six months later when I found out more about that woman who rejected me I was I am glad she rejected me. So that is my first step with guys I coach and consult with. I helped them overcome their fear of rejection. A close second to that is a lot of guys just care. And this is both men and women in general but men in particular they care too much what other people think. And so that makes them afraid of criticism, afraid of negative reactions. And I always tell guys if you like say barbecue chicken pizza and you happen to be at a social event that might be attended by some raw vegans and some vegetarians they come to you and like ew why would you eat that?  I am like if that is one of your favorite dishes of all time are you going to stop eating that barbecue chicken pizza because these vegans and vegetarians had that reaction to you? I said if you were then that means you care way too much what other people think you know. Now it is different if you were invited to a party and it was made known to you ahead of time that it was going to be nothing but raw vegans and vegetarians and they prefer that people who eat meat don't eat that in front of them. That is being you being respectful. So that is totally different concept.  And so that is another major lesson I teach guys is that you know some guys they are scared of every little criticism that comes their way. Why do you watch ESPN so much? Why do you hang out with your male friends so much?  Why do you do this? Why do you do that? And they will try to change and modify and adjust their behavior in order to accommodate and appease this woman and then they wonder why the woman loses interest because you are too easy to women don't like guys and you notice I am preaching choir with you. But women do not like guys who they can too easily mold to their liking. Now as I say maybe platonic friends they might like a guy like that but women like a guy who is their own man who has some backbone and makes their decisions the way they want to make their decisions that guy is his own man. That is when you earn a woman's respect. Even if she has some nitpicky criticisms deep down she respects you for being your own man. One of the effects of a mode one approach to life from my perspective is that it saves money. When a man is just going on date after date after date and of course the many men think that they have to spend money on a woman. So can you imagine taking a woman out for a $200 dinner? You might be giving her flowers or treating her to a gift whole evening. If you have enough of those dates you are going to be out of three grand. Mode one can save a man money. How many men waste money trying to impress women? How many hours do we have for this interview? Because oh that's a big, big stickler for me because again I hate to pick on the PUA community again but there's so many conventional PUA's that will essentially tell guys that the key to dating women even the key to getting them in bed just for casual sex is to take them out on three, four or five dates and like I recently read this ebook by this PUA who said you should go on a minimum of three dates but don't spend more than $25 a date but when I got my calculator out and I estimated that if a guy was to go out with say 17 women in a calendar year and each woman went on three dates and spent $75 that was like it was like just under $1,300. Yeah that he threw out that he just threw away you know let's say all 17 women at best he got maybe a two second tongue kiss with him but he never ended up making out with him he never ended up bed with him he just spent $1,300 to have friendly flattering entertaining conversation and I think that's a conservative figure because there are some guys who blow some big money on girls. Oh matter of fact there was a guy here I just overheard telling another guy about he had a friend who spent over four or five thousand dollars on some woman that he never even ended up getting a kiss from he played he paid for trips of hers and bought her clothes and all and I'm sure she enjoyed everything you had a great time of course and that's why I talk about you heard about presentation I have these five archetypes and one of them is the manipulative time waster yeah and see those are the women like a lot of guys think that rejecters the women who are rejecters are the enemy but I say no no no no you should appreciate women that once you lay out your desires interests and intentions the women who rejects you in an upfront straightforward in other words their mode one in terms of rejecting you don't get mad at those women you should almost want to give them a hug yeah because they they're preventing you from wasting time and wasting money yeah but the manipulative time wasters those are the women that they know from the time they meet you that they're not interested in you romantically or casual sex but what they do is they pretend like they are they'll become extra flirtatious and they'll have you waste all this time and money and then they'll say you know I appreciate you spending the ten thousand dollars only but I only look at you as a friend I'm sorry oh those got to be the worst words to hear after you spent ten thousand dollars exactly so out on the street of Orlando last night I'm walking to the cigar bar and there was a I don't know if he was homeless or just a man a panhandler type but he had a sign that said I can't lie I want to buy a beer because everyone says don't give money to the homeless because they're only going to buy alcohol and a lot of people just keep their hands in their pockets this guy's sign said I'm not going to lie I want beer I mean to the point yeah so you know if you're going to put a dollar in his cup he's going to get a beer straight to the point exactly no take the mystery right out of it and first thing that came to my mind was mode one street style right exactly well so you do coaching people can go to a website called what direct approach dating.com is one word direct approach dating.com and you'll find my email my contact information my different types of coaching sessions and all of my books the gist of I have four books that have related content but yet distinctively different content and so you can find all about me I'm also can be found my biography is on wikipedia.org George Bruno with the 21 report in Orlando Florida talking with Alan Roger Curry author of the book mode one thank you thank you George


Someone asked me. I've been talking to myself. Is that a bad sign? And I said no way I've been talking to myself for years via YouTube Very few people watch my videos and I think it has to do with my $10 words and my echoing mic both Visible signs of my overwhelming contempt according to some of you So here's another video no one is going to watch about Roller theory is your personality is your identity and is God forbid your narcissism are these merely roles that you play or are they reflective and emanate from your essence Essentialism versus Representationalism or phenomenology if you wish you see ten dollar words and the movie and the video hasn't started yet. I Am incorrigible Incorrigible another ten dollar word. Let's delve Writing my name is Sam Vaknin. I'm the author of Malignan self-love narcissism Revisited. I am also former professor of psychology and currently on the faculty of see ups. Roll theory has two dimensions individual and social Roll theory is a conceptual explanation of social behavior, but via or reduced to individuals The actions of individuals are defined by the role that they occupy in various social settings For example in relationships So if you are a father if you're a husband if you are a member of a group or a cult If you're a leader an employee a boss, these are all roles These roles are assigned to you by society via scripts And by following the script the script you actually adopt the role Jean-Paul Sartre called it bad faith. He said that these roles Distance you from your authentic self from who you really are So Sartre believed that role play is one way of betraying your true essence your true quiddity Roll theory suggests that role play or playing roles is actually a very good thing it says that the roles that individuals establish and follow and adhere to and Create exchanges between individuals aka Relationships there's an interdependence That emerges from playing role and this in the interdependence is at the core of Social coordination and self-efficacy. So what is a social role? What is a role? It's a set of attitudes traits characteristic behaviors Expected of an individual in a particular setting or environment opposition or Position not opposition or position. So the individual performs functions and and an act speech acts and actions only Within a social context in this sense role theory is relational It's not individual Individualistic, it's not like for example Freud or Jung Who discussed the individual as an atomized unit? Jung spoke of the constellated self as if it as if it emanates out of thin air Crystallizes out of thin air Lacan on the other hand plays huge emphasis on relationships as the nexus of Forming personalities and identities same with object relations schools. So Role theory firmly belongs in the relational school of Psychology the social context defines specific particular functioning and Together they create a role So being a spouse for example is a role which is comprised of a set of predetermined socially acceptable sublimated actions and Is valid only within a social context known as marriage Okay, get it now. It's not as easy as that Because people can get seriously confused and disturbed and diffused when it comes to roles Momentarily in this solipsistic video, I'm going to discuss identity and can discuss Social functioning. We're gonna venture far afield Leveraging role theory to understand diverse phenomenon including narcissism, but first we need the basic tools We need the terminology we need to get acquainted with the rudimentary concepts of role theory so role confusion role confusion is a state of uncertainty About a given social role a role in a group a role in a context a role with other people a Relationship a romantic relationship or a marriage is a role which is determined partly by your partner within a relationship So but it can be very confusing for example gender roles nowadays a very confused because behaviors that used to be Exclusively attributed to may to men or women male or female today are In flux today, you could have females who act as men and Males act as women and so this great gender role confusion later on we will discuss identity confusion which To some extent is coterminous with role confusion, but at this stage slowly slowly Patience does it follow your leader The pipe piper that is some vacuum and listen to the stages of Role theory so role confusion. There is something called role deprivation It's when you're denied the Ability to act in a role That sits well with your psychology or status or Education or so when you are unfairly Denied or deprived of social roles That is role deprivation One of the effects of role deprivation is role confusion on the one hand and status incongru in congruence status incongruence is a mismatch between various status dimensions for example your socio-economic level your income and Other parameters of your autobiography or personality for example your level of education Imagine that you hold a PhD a coveted PhD in I don't know engineering or computer computer sciences and yet You can't make ends meet and you can't find a job that is status incongruence and would create in you role confusion when there is a perceived mismatch between your characteristics and Your role in particular contexts this reverses traditional assumptions about correlations Between certain elements of your life So for example, there is the assumption that the more highly educated you are the Hire your income and should this not work in real life. You would be very confused You you'd also be frustrated and aggressive and angry Similarly, if your boss is much younger than you that would also create create dissonance and so on and so forth. So This also leads to a perception of injustice discrimination victimhood so we are beginning to see the emergence of many of the modern-day phenomena as roles in modern support modern societies Have been subjected to heavy attack for example the role of masculinity and As roles have become much more fluid for example gender and even to some extent sexuality and has as traditional roles have withered and gun with a wind and New ones did not replace them For example, what's your role in a date as a man? There are no sexual scripts to help you with this so as As there is be as there has been a concerted attempt to undermine roles this led to extreme role deprivation status incongruence frustration and passive aggression sense of overwhelming victimhood narcissists especially a prone to misperceived status incongruence Narcissists are grandiose. They are entitled They believe that they deserve much more than they actually do They they have no accomplishments to talk of usually in the vast majority of cases and yet they believe they should be the boss They should be lorded and celebrated as geniuses, etc. Etc. And when this doesn't happen they experience status incongruence This is especially true with covert narcissists Okay but how do we How do we decide Which is the right role for us? In rigid conservative patriarchal traditionally societies Roles are externalized. They are dictated to You learn roles You become acquainted with your roles via the process of socialization and a culture the processes of socialization and a Culturation Your parents don't tell you how you should behave and what your role is the first born in families all over the Arab world For example first-borns have a special status and special responsibility their substitute fathers. That's a role in more flexible societies Where everything is in flux everything is Negotiable everything is the outcome of consensus and compromise in this kind of societies the Assignment of roles is Autonomous and agentic in other words people assume roles they take on roles and They swap roles they change roles as if they were changing clothes, you know or socks So the assumed role is a behavior pattern Adopted by a person in the belief that such behavior is expected For a particular position status environment or circumstances set of circumstances So the element of expectation here is very crucial and it is communicated to the individual via Socialization society communicates expectations the difference between rigid conservative societies and liberal progressive societies is it in the former There's no debate You're assigned the role and you assume it period in the latter you can challenge often do you can challenge The expectations of society of your family of your mother of your father of the neighbors of your colleagues You name it. There's always a process of Adversarial challenging it's as if in more in postmodern industrialized westernized societies The whole thing is a huge courtroom drama Where there are adversaries and then there's a verdict only the judge is you Okay, so taking on a role is a method for dealing with uncertainty about how to behave In a way, it's a kind of script so and In the process is known as role reenactment. I will discuss As an example What is known as the sick role?  Yes, even mental illness is a role in role theory Expectations social other expectations familiar environmental expectations expectations Come from the outside and they generate expectations inside so in the case of the sick role there are exogenous expectations and Indogenous reaction to exogenous expectations and this endogenous reaction reaction from the inside Generates its own set of expectations and the totality of the expectations space or expectations universe is Overwhelming and compels the sick individual to behave in highly specific ways in role theory sickness involves a role role play especially mental illness the community society at large and the individual Collude and collaborate in settling on a role of mentally ill The person then knows how to behave There's a script a script of a narcissist a script of a psychopath and the person follows these expectations he Descript or the role also informs the individual how other people are gonna react It renders life more certain and predictable if I as analysis is do a The reaction is gonna be B And if I do see the reaction is gonna be D. So the world becomes a safe Stable place within which I can enact my role without undue adverse consequences It is when you exit your role that you are penalized when you behave in ways which are unacceptable and Define your role and of course societal expectations then you're punished You're punished mostly in order to force you to revert to role But in a gracious extreme cases you're punished in a way that there's no return In her pioneering discussion U.S. sociologist Talcott Talcott Parsons and he's I'm sorry firing discussion. So Talcott Parsons wrote that as early as 1951 That people in a sick role are expected for example to cooperate with caregivers To ones to get well But they are also exempted from Normal obligations and this gives rise to fictitious disorders. I will go into it in another video The narcissist's role is to actually negate all this The narcissist is an anti-sick role In effect the narcissist does not collaborate with anyone because he's superior and he needs no training or learning and There's nothing. There's no improvement because he is perfect and he Does not want to get well because he is already maximally well Narcissism is an interesting case of Anti-sick role which is in itself a sick role Okay role enactment There is a sub theory in role theory known as role enactment theory and An interesting application of role enactment theory is hypnosis role enactment enactment theory claims that hypnosis for example is a social Phenomenon the hypnotized individual unconsciously Takes on the socially constructed role of a hypnotic subject And he behaves according to expectations This was suggested in the 1950s by Theodor Sarbin as a our BIN and Then this gave rise the study of hypnosis gave rise to a much larger theory the role of enactment in social behavior and role enactment theory and I've just applied role enactment theory to narcissism as as you have heard now we all According to Bandura and others we all Model behavior in other words we serve as models to other people and we imitate or emulate the behavior of meaningful significant others so the child Imitate and emulate emulates his parents behavior, and this is known as modeling and hence The famous phrase role model role model is a person or a group a group Serving as an example or an exemplar for the goals attitudes or behavior or of an individual the individual identifies with this person or group six to imitate the person or group So this is the vector. This is the channel through which roles Flow to the individual via role models which serve as a pipeline if you wish now In modern in post-modern societies we come across a problem known as role overload role overload is situation that arises from the assumption of multiple roles When you ask to perform dozens sometimes hundreds of roles and All of it at the same time and this is known as quantitative overload or When you are asked to perform roles Which are beyond your knowledge or your skills or your abilities qualitative overload narcissists defend against qualitative overload By simply denying that anything is beyond their ability They are omnipotent No role is outside their capacity or remit this way they avoid overload What is role role play therefore we have defined what is a role assumed role role model and then what? Let's assume that you've accepted the role You've gone through a process of socialization Socialization like alteration this that you grew up and you accepted your role as I don't know husband the father An employee whatever it is whatever it may be you have accepted the role. What is role play? Actually role play is a term borrowed from psychotherapy It is used in human relations training A Role play is when the participants are asked to play out Social roles They're given a sheet of paper very similar to a movie script and The sheet of paper describes a role and they're supposed to enact the role. It's a part of what is known as psychodrama But it's widely used now in in corporate settings in clinical settings and so on so forth Playing roles has been proven to change attitudes and relationships For example in in family or couple therapy Rehearsing different ways of coping with stresses and conflicts by playing a role Becomes habituated and a part of you The played role teaches you things forces you to learn and to evolve and to transform There's even something known as role reversal and I have a whole video dedicated to it It's a technique in therapy and in education Where individuals exchange roles with other individuals? So this for example the therapist Exchanges roles with a patient Therapist then pretends to be the patient and the patient is listening Witnessing and the very act of Looking at himself in the mirror in the therapeutic mirror through the therapist induces Change induces a dynamic of transformation. So role reversal allows the individual to experience alternative cognitive styles problem-solving feelings behavioral approaches role reversal is very powerful and has been used even with sexual offenders and and and Mass mass killers. I mean mass shooters and serial killers and so In psychodrama the protagonist exchanges roles with the auxiliary with an auxiliary ego In acting out a significant interpersonal situation. So it's a bit more limited but in management programs Management development programs and so on so forth that they are open total exchanges of roles between for example boss and employee or supervisor and employee Okay, so roll reversal Involves something a dynamic known as role shift in this dynamic is very very crucial in the shared fantasy of the narcissist Role shift happens usually but not always in a two-person Relationship, so it's dyadic. It's in a couple and it is the adoption by one partner of the characteristics or behavior of another partner The narcissist coerces his intimate partner into a role shift She becomes him. He expects her to become an extension of himself. He subsumes her he consumes her He converts her into an internal object Identifiable only with him So she becomes him. It's not merger infusion like codependency It's predatory consumption It's like a hostile takeover merger and acquisition if you want to borrow similes from from business and it involves coerced role reversal role-taking is The benign form of role shift and role reversal in the shared fantasy in role-taking is Role-taking involves Looking at a situation from the viewpoint of another person putting yourself in another person's shoes For the purpose of understanding his or her thoughts or actions or fears or needs or emotions or cognitions or whatever So when you put yourself in someone else's shoes, you are role-taking role-taking skills are crucial in developing social cognition and empathy and In empathy role-taking is known as perspective taking Looking at a situation from a viewpoint that is different from your viewpoint You have a unique viewpoint point of view like in pornographic movies point of view. So you have a unique POV Perspective taking asks you to adopt someone else's POV to see the world through someone else's eyes If only momentarily adopting the perspective of another person or the perspective of another social role So this is a role-play exercise and It enhances empathy the narcissist is not asking you To take his perspective To play to take on his role. No, he's not asking you this He's asking you to become him He's asking you to adopt his role as the exclusive all-devouring role The minute you become the narcissist your gun narcissist expects you to Eliminate yourself to vanish to repress who you are Narcissist regresses you to infancy where you did not exist in the full sense of the word now The victim in a shared fantasy the narcissist's so-called intimate partner reacts to this coercion To take on to adopt To reverse the rules to become the narcissist she reacts to this coercion With something known as role ambiguity Roll ambiguity and is there when there are indefinite expectations about the behaviors to be performed by individuals Occupy particular positions within a group social setting circumstances or environment. So when you're not sure What what is expected of you? The victim in a shared fantasy and I'm using the word victim judicis the victim in a shared fantasy is utterly disoriented The need to transition from her role to his role from her role to the narcissist role Completely Disorient her dislocates her confuses her She is this co-populated to use a $10 worth This role ambiguity She knows that the narcissist expects her to become submissive to the point of vanishing To never defy him never argue with him never criticize him always agree with him adopt this point of view Work for his interests and so she knows of this But his expectations are never verbalized Unambiguously the narcissist maintains ambiguity uncertainty indeterminacy and Intermittent reinforcement as tools of control He keeps you on your toes walking on a floating above eggshells lest you break one. So It's a narcissistic technique So your neighbor never able to say okay That's what he wants. These are his expectations. That's the role I have to play from now. No You're kept all the time all the time Very very confused It's a role ambiguity is Caused by a lack of clarity regarding the role itself or lack of consensus regarding the behaviors associated with the role or The individual role takers uncertainty with the grad with regards to the types of behaviors expected all three are Integral elements of the shared fantasy No consensus because you can't negotiate with the Nazis. You can compromise No clear script as to what is expected of you and No understanding no deep understanding of the narcissist So even when you try to emulate and imitate him you keep getting it wrong He becomes angry the rage is narcissistically finally begins to devalue and discard you because you have failed to become him optimally This is role conflict There's a state of tension or distress caused by inconsistent or discordant expectations associated with with your social or group role You don't know what you're doing wrong. You don't know when when you are doing right You don't know anything.  Everything is dissonant and discordant.  It's not gaslighting. It's confabulation The psychopath does exactly the same as a corn artist But he does it purposefully Intentionally and that is gaslighting The Nazis is simply confabulates.  He wants you to become unreal He has expectations from you to fulfill your role as a maternal mother to help him to separate and individuate and And and to behave in a way that will justify his devaluation. This is insane the narcissist Demands as far as your role are insane The psychopaths demands are goal oriented. You can do business with the psychopath. However Disadvantageously you can't do business with the narcissist. He's nuts. He's simply nuts The role the role that the narcissist demands of you is Inconsistent with other roles so he expects you for example to be his mother and his child This is known as intra-role conflict. You can fulfill the two roles successfully similarly He creates an inter-role conflict When you occupy more than one role of behaviors Of behaviors and they are incompatible There is an inter-inter-role conflict, but also an inter-role conflict So your role is defined in a way that you can never fulfill it Satisfactorily you can never satisfy the Nazis because his demands are conflictive and Contradictory and he demands of you several roles which don't sit well with each other contradict each other negate each other inter-intra-role conflict the conflict within your role owing to crazy unarticulated Expectations and the inter-role conflict between your various roles for example his mother and child Okay, so you can't get it right. This is what I'm trying to say in so many words The role differentiation within the shared fantasy is damaged It's disrupted isn't incomplete in groups and other systems There's role differentiation There are many roles as Your member of many groups your member of your family of your church of your nation state of your football club So there are various roles in all these in all these affiliations And so these roles are differentiated from each other There's a gradual increase in the number of roles and decrease in the scope of the roles in their applicability and This and each role becomes more specialized so You learn the roles and Then you differentiate them from each other Gender differentiation is an example leadership roles is another example in narcissism in the shared fantasy The narcissist does not allow you to differentiate the roles For example, you're not allowed to treat the narcissist as a mother And then you would be only a mother.  That's a dual mother.  What are you? Who are you? You're not differentiated you are a hodgepodge you're a mixture of child and parent And that's where the narcissist wants you to be in undifferentiated territory This creates what is known as role diffusion Role diffusion is a state of confusion About the social about your social role It typically occurs in adolescence And so the narcissist drives you back regresses you to early stages of life where you were not sure about the roles Your roles kept changing all the time and you couldn't capture Any single role and define it properly and perfectly. This is role diffusion Role diffusion is at the core of identity diffusion and identity disturbance in effect The narcissist dysregulates you By refusing refusing to let you have certainty Regarding your roles He undermines your identity And as you change roles your identity changes and that's a great definition of borderline personality disorder. So He pushes you To dysregulate a territory suddenly you can't recognize yourself.  You have mood mood ability ups and downs depression. This is that You are out of work And this has to do with identity confusion Eriksson Suggested eight stages of psychosocial development Identity confusion is the fifth It's an identity crisis Again, it typically occurs during adolescence And at this stage the individual experiences what ericsson called psychosocial Moratorium a very ominous term. It's a period of time That permits you to experiment with different roles different social roles Now the narcissist gets you stuck In permanent psychosocial moratorium You're constantly experimenting in order to gratify the narcissist and avoid his rather Punishment and rage This is also known as intermittent reinforcement. So I'm now connecting behaviorism with role theory The moratorium the permanent psychosocial moratorium is also known Also known as intermittent reinforcement in behaviorist theory So And this leads to an identity crisis because your experimentation leads nowhere The narcissist is never happy with the outcomes never signals to you yet. That's the right role Keep at it, baby. You've got it right this time. No, you're always wrong You always criticize you always put down humiliated and shamed It's a narcissist is in a standardized version of your harsh inner critic Actually, it takes over your harsh inner critic via the process of entraining. So He becomes your sadistic super ego to borrow from Freud.  You keep experimenting because you're terrified of the of the outcomes if you don't But you keep failing.  He doesn't allow you to form an identity You identify with the group with subgroups in the group You try to to to generate a negative identity by saying this is who who I'm not But you remain utterly confused utterly confused and this is identity diffusion now There's something called identity status model It's an expansion of ericsson's fifth stage of identity versus identity confusion Yeah The model the identity status model Suggests that there are four possible identity statuses that an individual might assume particularly during adolescence, but Because you have been regressed also in the shared fantasy each of these possible identity Statuses is characterized by a different level of exploration and commitment to any specific identity So development moves towards identity achievement status And this is characterized by evidence of identity exploration and commitment This identity achievement status is related to a stable sense of self self-worth and self-esteem and healthy psychological functioning Narcissist never lets you get there Never it threatens him your self-esteem threatening your stability threatening Your ability to separate from him your separateness Is cannot even be perceived by him because narcissists don't do separateness They've never been exposed to separateness. They've never separated from mommy in the separation individuation phase So separateness is automatically misperceived by them as abandonment And they misattributed to hatred or envy or they mislabeled The other three identity statuses are moratorium status, which I've described Which is evidence of identity exploration, but lack of commitment to any single role For closure status that is a commitment to an identity Usually set by role models like adults Influential peers, influences, teachers and so on. So for closure status It's a commitment to an identity given to you By someone but failure to explore different options because before this commitment is made And as I said, this is typical of traditionalist conservative societies This is where the narcissist wants you to be He wants you to commit to a diffuse ill-defined nebulous identity To forsake and forswear and renounce all other options But he doesn't give you any certainty He doesn't give you specs, specifications He wants you to remain within the shared fantasy as a cloud And the last status is the diffusion status It's a lack of both identity exploration and commitment And this is where you end up in a shared fantasy You end up giving up on exploring roles and identities and what-have-you You say I'm gonna I'm gonna roll with the blows. I'm gonna flow With the flux. You know, I'm gonna just play it by ear Whatever happens happens This condition has been first described in 1966 by the Canadian psychologist James Martian M-a-r-c-i-a-s-i-a-s So identity diffusion is where you end up in the shared fantasy And it is essentially a borderline personality organization feature It's a lack of stability A lack of focus in the view of the self or any elements of your identity As I said, it's common in borderline personality disorder It's known there as identity disturbance In Ericsson, Erick Ericsson's ego psychology Identity diffusion was a possible outcome of the fifth stage Identity versus identity confusion The individual emerges from a disrupted fifth stage With an uncertain sense of identity And confusion about his or her wishes, attitudes, goals, and so on and so forth If it sounds familiar, it's because this is a perfect description The state of mind of the victim of narcissistic abuse Narcissist abuses not only you He abuses social mechanisms He abuses expectations He abuses mores and norms Take for example, role expectations Role expectations are the traits, attitudes, and behaviors Which are considered appropriate In a particular position Or in a group or in a setting or in a circumstance or environment Social setting So it's a list It's specifications of attitudes and behaviors That are appropriate, simply So these expectations are communicated to other people And communicated from other people There's an exchange there And you absorb these communications And you sometimes unconsciously adapt yourself To conform to these expectations And this is something the narcissist abuses He keeps broadcasting to you Expectations that are non-normative, chaotic, disruptive, threatening, negating And how can you adopt to this? How can you adopt to this?  Something is happening in Canada God knows what Within the shared fantasy You're both subjected to a special kind of bias Known as confirmation bias You tend to gather evidence and information That confirms pre-existing expectations Communicated expectations You emphasize or you pursue Supporting evidence You dismiss You devalue You fail to seek contradictory evidence Gradually becomes an echo chamber A thought silo Within which you tend to reinforce each other all the time The shared fantasy becomes one resonant hive mind Mind melded with a D Both your minds become one You become each other's internal objects And you inhabit an internal space You are less and less connected to the outside world Physically as well It begins to resemble what used to be called A shared psychotic disorder Now, one last thing As a victim It's very likely that you've been victimized before You've learned the role of victim Early on Before you've entered the shared fantasy You would not have entered the shared fantasy Had you not been conditioned behaviorally to be a victim You have been taught to be a victim You are a professional victim Whether you like it or not And this relies This insight comes from exemplar theory Exemplar theory in role theory is the hypothesis That categorization depends on specific remembered instances of the category In short, you would behave in a way that emulates or imitates Either another victim that you have seen Your mother or something Or yourself in an earlier role as a victim You need an example Known clinically as exemplar You need an example to emulate or imitate Exemplar theory has been applied to Many many questions in psychology Attention, skill acquisitions, social decision making And so on and so forth Prejudice We don't rely on obstructions Concepts don't do anything to us That's why case studies are very important That's why people who make videos with real life cases and examples They get many more views than people like me Who like to dwell on ideas, abstract ideas and concepts Without a single example Examples are much more powerful than any principle This what's happening to you is a victim When you enter the shared fantasy The examples of victimhood in your past Play inside your mind Interact with the narcissist's expectations That you should behave as a victim And you adopt the role as a victim This is what role play has to say About the narcissist's shared fantasy And about questions of personality and identity in general I hope those of you who have survived Found it of interest And I will see you with the next torture session