Good morning, everyone. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Welcome back to this class and also the online students. We will pray and get started. I think even the online students can pray because your audio is connected here. So who would like to lead us in a word of prayer? Anyone here or online? Okay, maybe we'll have one of the online students pray today. Can one of you lead in prayer, please? Maybe Nina? Nina, are you able to? Yeah, I'm there. Okay. Congratulations, loving father. We thank you for this day and for this time, Lord, that you have given us to come to your feet and to come to your presence. Lord, we thank you for being with us in the days in the beginning of this week. And even as we begin this class, Lord, we commit pustmancy and each one of us, we pray that we will open our hearts to receive from you to hear and to understand, Lord, all that we need to learn from your word for we ask in Jesus' precious name. Amen. Thank you, Nina. We we've been talking about intercession. So in the last class, we just began talking about praying for the family. And I told you that we need more time to focus on the different kinds of prayers and how exactly we must pray those prayers. So today we'll take it up. So in our notes, we can look at chapter, just a moment, chapter 14 page 58 where we saw how the passage in 1 Corinthians 7 talks about an influence that married couples have over each other and their children. So it gives us the understanding that there is a spiritual influence which we have and that influence an authority we can exercise in the family setting. So if let's say husbands and wives pray for each other, it is very powerful as compared to somebody else praying for them. Not that it's not effective but what we are saying is there is a special spiritual influence when you are related, especially through marriage, the covenant between the husband and the wife and we saw in that passage that the children also are the children. It says that the children are sanctified the children are holy. That is to say that there is an authority and an influence which the parents can exercise over the children. Now if a third person prays for the children, will it be effective or not? Yeah, prayers are effective if you have the right foundations. However the point we are making is there is greater influence, so we have to make use of it. So with this understanding, how does it change my pray? It just gives more confidence to know that my prayers will be effective. So when spouses pray for each other, it will be effective. When parents pray for children, it will be very effective. So that's the point we are making. And today I want us to touch upon a couple of ways in which we are going to pray for different people in the family. In our notes here, it primarily talks about husbands praying for the wives and wives praying for the husbands and parents praying for the children. The last portion is about us praying for our home. Our home as in the space and our family. So these are the four main categories in which the prayers are recorded in this chapter. Now the beauty of these prayers is that they are all based on scripture. So when we pray, we pray based on scripture and that gives us the confidence that God obviously he works when his word is the basis of what we are doing. So it's all based on scripture. And another key thing that we want us to recognize is that let's say in some matters, you know when we are praying and we've said this earlier when it comes to somebody who's not born again or somebody who's sick it may take some time, isn't it? So we can think of our prayers as seeds. When you sow the seed, do you get the crop right away? No. So there has to be, you know, that there has to be that period of waiting. When you are waiting, you are trusting God and then you will see the results. So this is how we pray for our family members with much patience. Maybe in a home, let's imagine that a husband or a wife is very close to God but their spouse is far away from God. Now when they are praying both are believers but you know one is very strong, the other is not strong and let's say the person who's very strong is praying for the other person that they also should become strong in the Lord. They should fulfill God's purpose for their lives, things like that. But they might notice that nothing much is happening or it might be the opposite also. They might find that their spouse is going far away from God or think about a situation where let's say children, parents are praying for their children and it happens many times. I have personally seen it also this is one particular friend of mine whose child though they were brought up in godly way, in a godly way, when the children grew up one of their children was very rebellious and the child wanted to do whatever they wanted to do and they went far away from the word of God and it was very difficult for the parents. But one good thing which I observed among the parents of this child is they never stopped praying. They knew many things which are going on. They knew how the child is opposing their faith. They knew everything but they never stopped praying. Now how does God work? Means I have seen that through that difficult phase and sometimes even I would wonder how is this rebellious child ever going to come back to God. But it's amazing that they stuck in that place even for a matter of months and a few years I think so and what happened is miraculously you know God spoke to their child when they just brought for a church service and it was as if God was speaking to that child and saying will you renew your faith in me. You used to trust in me. Will you renew your faith in me and that child renewed their faith and it's amazing how today you know this person is married to a believer they both are serving the Lord. It's amazing.  They were so far away from God they were saying all kinds of things against the Bible though they were brought up in the ways of the Lord but it took prayer and you know much sowing in prayer like a farmer for the parents to finally see the result. I'm just giving you one example. I'm sure there are many such examples that maybe even you also know of some such testimonies but the most important point that I want to make is no matter what we have to pray regularly continuously for our family members now if they are in the Lord they are strong in the Lord well and good. We are happy about that but if they are not then it's much harder don't give up because these prayers are like a seed if you sow it today you will reap the fruit if there are no seeds will there be a plant no way but we have to be sincere in sowing the seeds. So now let's get some of the prayers which one can pray for their spouse you can also speak it by faith for your future spouse. So it's not that it's not applicable to us. It doesn't matter God's word is true so we can take these words and we can actually declare it over our future spouse as well. So what are the kinds of some of the common prayers which we may pray for a husband wife and you know children. So we look at that all the three cases we first have to pray for their spiritual strength isn't it that they will be rooted and grounded in the things of God and that they will become strong. So most important is pray for their spiritual life their walk with the Lord. So there are some messages of scripture it's given in our notes Ephesians 1 verses 15 through 21 can somebody read it Ephesians 1 verses 15 through 21 okay thank you. So what we'll do is as we read just hold on to your mic because I think the others also will be able to hear but that's fine. So this passage basically is a prayer of Paul for the Ephesians where he asks that the people now they will have wisdom and revelation okay deep understanding of you know who God is and the fact that you know there is hope in God the riches that God has in store for us that we may understand what the power of God is. So you see all this is important for our spiritual growth and development and that's what Paul is praying for the people of Ephesus. Now we can pray the same thing you know that the people we love family members that they will know God in a deep way understanding revelation right enlightenment about the things of God hope that they may have hope in who God is and what he has promised the riches of his glory Paul says okay so how is this going to happen it's only going to happen if God can open their eyes and that was the prayer which Paul had for the Ephesians that your eyes may be opened okay that the eyes of your understanding may be open and that's what we are praying so whoever it is you know you could even pray that for somebody who's outside your family but this is a prayer which is to strengthen one in the Lord. Now let's also look at a couple of other passages Ephesians 3 verses 14 through 21 this is more about you know the love of God that one may know the deep love that God has for them so can somebody read it please please use the mic Ephesians 3 14 through 21 Ephesians chapter 3 verse 14 to 21 the love of Christ for this reason I fall on my knees before the father from whom every family in heaven and on earth receives its true name I ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through spirit to be strong in your inner selves and I pray that Christ will make his home in his heart in your hearts through faith I pray that you may have your roots and foundation in love so that you together with all God's people may have power to understand how broad and long how high and deep is Christ's love yes may you come to know his love although it can never be fully known and so be completely filled with the very nature of God to him to him who by means of his power working in us is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for or even think of to God be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus for all time forever and ever amen thank you so you see that it's about the love of God that the people may know how great God's love is and also how great God's power is so that is the prayer which we can pray for our loved ones so first we said that they will have you know knowledge they will have revelation regarding God and we also said that you know regarding God's hope the power of God now we are saying the love of God these are all things which will make them stronger now let's look at the next passage here which is from Colossians chapter 1 verses 9 through 11 so you can use all this even for yourself and pray these prayers so Colossians 1 verses 9 through 11 and 1 for this reason also since the day we hear it do not say to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and his spiritual understanding that you may walk worthy of the Lord fully pleasing him being fruitful being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God with all might according to his glorious power for all patience and long suffering with joy giving thanks to the Father who has qualified us to be partakers of the inheritance of the saints in the light okay so very similar to whatever we read earlier over here again there is an emphasis on the knowledge of God regarding the power of God but also another important thing that we see here is there's a prayer which says that one may be fruitful in God meaning you know God has given all of us a life we are living it for him so all of us have to be fruitful in what God has called us so that is the way in which we can pray whether it's for a spouse or for a child or anyone else at the Lord may be putting on a heart so these are all actually very what do you say foundational scriptures to pray for the spiritual strength of anyone so you can take it you can write it down and you're praying you can read it out in this manner you can declare over people that God thank you you have called them to know your love you've called them to know you you've called them to know your power you've called them to be fruitful you've called them to be established you know so what are you doing basically you're standing on scripture and you're declaring it over the lives of the people so this is the way in which we can pray so I'm just touching on some common things then I will come to more relevant to a particular category of you know family members so second we can pray that if it is the spouse child anyone we can pray that they will grow in God's purpose for their lives right so when we look at any human being we see that God blesses them with a purpose and according to the purpose and the call of God there are some lives there is some grace isn't it so we might notice that somebody is so compassionate or somebody is such a great giver or you might notice right in your spouse or your child that they have the ability to solve problems something special about them the gifts in their life and as you consider these things you can just begin to pray about it and say lot thank you for the gifts that you put upon them thank you for the grace that is upon their lives I pray that they will grow up you know in you they will fulfill God's purpose for their lives now it is possible that we may have an idea you know what that person is meant to do let's say for example a wife may know that her husband is called to be a pastor or that he is called to be a prophet or he is called to be an apostle or he is called to be something else worship leader so I am just using some examples from the church setting but it could be something else may be business is what the primary call of God marketplace ministry so based on what that call is we begin to say Lord you help them fulfill their purpose for their lives similarly children you begin to pray and say God thank you this is how you have made this child and this is you know the destiny of this child we pray that you know you will enable the child to grow up in the understanding that the child needs and fulfill God's purpose for his or her life so these are common prayers which we can pray for anyone then we become more specific right we become very specific based on who we are praying for so let's say a husband he is praying for his wife there are many scriptures that he could actually take and begin to speak over his wife so I am going to read out a couple of scriptures and that will help us understand you know which the way in which we can pray but please note that these scriptures are not complete you got it we can pray many more things you know based on how God's spirit is leading us based on what the Bible really says okay so what can a husband pray over his wife and all of this is taking from scripture these are declarations so based on Proverbs 14 one you know the husband can declare and pray that God I declare that you know my wife is a wise woman and she builds up our home where do you get this from are you speaking it from your imagination yes or no no where are we speaking these declarations from scripture okay so it becomes very powerful whenever we go from scripture and we begin to declare it right but sometimes though I am basing it on these words maybe the Holy Spirit may move upon you and reveal something to you for example let's say your wife is a very prayerful woman so the Holy Spirit might cause you to pray that you know Lord let her prayers be very effective like Hannah let her receive the answers to her prayer so you're not necessarily declaring a scripture but you're praying as led by the Holy Spirit in a very biblical way you understand but this is how we pray take scripture and begin to speak it so if you're not married as I told you you can pray this into your future God I thank you that the person that you are sending into my life is a wise woman that she builds up our home what are you doing you're still sowing the seeds right and what happens as time goes by you will see that God will cause fruitfulness to come out of your prayers so begin to pray begin to pray there are other scriptures that maybe a you know husband can pray for his wife that my wife is a prudent woman she is my pride and joy based on Proverbs 19 14 Proverbs 12 4 so you see the Bible says so much about you know the roles the qualities of your husband's wives so you pick up those things and you begin to declare now it's possible that you might find completely opposite of that happening at home you know in a given moment but we have to stay with God's word because as we speak God's word you'll see the power of that word to transform you know a particular person so hold on to this hold on to it throughout and you will see the result of it so you know a husband could pray this way that she's very prudent that she's my pride and joy what else can he say you know Psalms 128 and verse 3 it says she is a fruitful wine in the home bringing blessing joy and protection to the family so you could say that you can declare that over the wife there are other you know virtues which you can declare from Proverbs 31 you can say things like God I thank you that she is a virtuous woman that her prize is far more than rubies she's blessed in all that she does my heart trust safely in her and our children arise and call her blessed she opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is gentleness her work brings honour and respect for her in the city so you see all this is in the Bible okay so you take that you pick it up when you see it's good in scripture you can take it and you can declare it and speak it over your spouse now just some examples okay these are just some examples now let's say a wife who wants to pray for her husband same thing same exercise you'll get scripture and you begin to declare it now I'm just looking at Psalm 112 okay I'm just telling you what it has to say so Psalm 112 says praise the Lord blessed is the man who fears the Lord who delights greatly in his commandments a wife can pray God I thank you because my husband is a blessed man he fears the Lord he delight greatly in your commandments so you see you pick scripture now as a man you can also pray this for your wife see these are all godly things you can apply it as the Holy Spirit leads you so a wife could also pray something like you know it goes on verse 2 it says his descendants will be mighty on the earth so Lord we thank you that our descendants will be mighty on the earth the generation of the upright blessed so our generation will be blessed wealth and riches will be in his house so a wife could declare that and say Lord you promised in your word that wealth and riches will be in the house of the righteous so my husband is a righteous man wealth and riches will be in our home and his righteousness endures forever unto the upright there arises light in the darkness gracious and full of compassion and righteous so it says that God will be gracious to us now because of the kind of person my husband is God you are gracious to us right so even though there is darkness light will arise upon our family so these are all declarations a wife can pray such things we also see like in Proverbs 31 it talks about the Proverbs 31 woman but it says about her husband that he sits at the city gates that simply means in those times city gates are a place where decision makers used to sit people with authority and influence used to sit so the Proverbs 31 woman when she says her husband sits at the city gates it simply means that he is an honourable man that people are willing to listen to his opinion he has honour in the society and that he continues to command respect from the people so you can make a declaration like that God I thank you that my husband is an honourable man he sits at the city gates his word is respected in the home his word is respected in the community so what am I doing I am beginning to speak and declare the truth of God's word and say that this is how it should be it may not be right now but this is how it should be right so you can take all these passages some 128 is another passage women can take you can declare it over your husband there are many such passages you take you can compile it and in your prayer time just begin to make declarations so this is how you pray you know for husbands and wives now let's move on let's talk a little bit about children so we said that you know firstly spiritual life we pray for family members spiritual life so everyone whether it's spouse or children you first pray for that and we have scriptures from Ephesians 1 Ephesians 3 Colossians 1 which you can declare and pray for your children and then of course you pray for God's purposes to be fulfilled over their lives and there are many more things which have been listed in our notes here specially for children which we can pray we can also declare the prophetic destiny okay what is the meaning of that declare the prophetic destiny you remember Zacharias and Elizabeth in their old age God gave them a son by the name of John and both of them said his name shall be John his name shall be John and Zacharias begins to prophesy over the life of his son and says you child you will be like this like that you will do this you will do this so what is he doing it's just a he's just a baby John is just a baby at that point but we are saying the parents carry that authority over the life of a child and that is why it's important to speak blessing and it's important to speak life what if we speak negativity and say oh this child useless or this child will never fulfill God's purpose for his life or her life there is authority even if parents speak negative there is authority in that and that is quite dangerous actually godly parents declaring negative things over their children we should never do that because our words have authority even if you know our children are frustrating us we must remember the word of God so there is a destiny which God has for every person and definitely for that child there is a godly destiny and as parents many attend the parents know okay my son my daughter this is what God has called them to do you begin to pray begin to pray now I remember we'll again come back and discuss a few stories but one story I remember about this minister of God I think he passed away a few years ago he was part of the Pensacola revival of Steve Hill so his story is something like he was so far away from God into drugs and all and his mother was a very prayerful woman so she used to keep praying for him that no I know God is going to use him mightily and all but the fact was he was into wrong activities apparently it was so bad that when she went to visit him and his friends they were so high on on nurses that they would inject inject some things so they would inject and then chuck the syringe into the into the roof like the wooden roof so it will go stick so when the mother went to visit the son she saw all that in the home you can imagine her heart would have been broken to see oh this is the life that my son is living but she never stopped praying for him she never stopped praying for him and the something like God softened his heart he changed he became an evangelist and when he was part of the Brownsville revival I think some of you would have heard Brownsville revival and he was ministering there it was a very special time for a season many people went to Brownsville and as he would call out and say does anyone want to receive Jesus people will just run to the altar it was a sight to see how people would run but the point I'm making is looking at a sinful young person you would never think that his life can be changed like this but a very important person in his life was his mother and she never stopped believing that my son can change he will be a godly man he will fulfill God's purpose for his life so as parents you know you carry that authority and never to give up on children even if they have gone astray right and speak their destiny yes they're going in some other direction but you call for the destiny God has called my child to be whatever you know going to bring healing in many people's lives going to provide for the needs like a Joseph God is going to raise up my son he's going to be a blessing to the nation these are declarations this is how we pray you call for the destiny even if the child right now is far away from God so that's how we pray we can also dedicate now how many of us know parents even in the Old Testament under the Old Covenant they should take and dedicate right they'll dedicate the child to God so through our prayer we can concentrate or dedicate our children we can say something like God I let's say you know a child has many gifts let's say sinking gift child is able to sing so you can pray as like Lord I dedicate my son I sanctify I set him aside for your work the enemy will not have any hold over his life so for the capabilities for the skills for the talents I sanctify all of them and I declare they are for the glory of your name that they will not be used you know in worldly things so basically what's happening through your words you know something is changing in the spiritual realm for that child okay and even maybe long after you're gone you see the fruit of that because you have spoken it over your children so you sanctify them through your prayer and set them aside and say God nothing of the world is going to touch my child they will walk in the ways of God so as a parent you know one needs to declare that and you know speak it over their children like covering not just a covering but it also will release the power of God upon them so many times what happens parents don't do all these things they just leave it whatever he wants whatever she wants let them do it right that's how it is isn't it but that's quite unfortunate because in the bible we see that parents can use their authority it's like fighting with the devil and saying no this is what the words say my son will be my daughter will be like this so we have to fight in the spiritual realm okay so pray over them sanctify them set them apart dedicate them call them holy for the Lord you know like Hannah she went and she dedicated to the temple now we don't go leave the child anywhere but what we are saying is even through our prayers we can submit them to the Lord so that is something we can do beyond that no we can bless them remember I said as proverb says life and death is in the power of the tongue right so we bless with the tongue we don't curse with the tongue when we pray we can bless bless the present as well as the future of your child and you can just say things like Lord you know I bless their spiritual life I bless them ministry I bless their I bless them with good health I bless them oh God let them have favor from you in every area of their lives Lord I bless their talents the grace over their lives I bless their career I bless their friend circle so you begin to speak blessing upon everything that concerns your child right now and maybe you know your child is still small and I don't know many parents even my parents have told I prayed for you from the time you were not born right so it's like years of prayers I'm sure those of us your parents also would have said something like that or if you're a parent then you know how much you've prayed you know for your child but what's happening it's all these blessings which are spoken over the lives of our children you know that makes a huge difference so bless their present bless their future you might say things like God I bless their future let there be favor let there be open doors let there be opportunities let there be provision Lord make them successful help them make an impact you know through their lives and let them be fruitful okay so you know sometimes we know the value of a word which can encourage see for example I remember this is just when I started preaching so at that time my mother used to come to the location where I preach and I was not at all confident I was like I'm not cut out for this I don't know why I'm getting these opportunities I should not do this I should just focus on my career so I had all these self doubts but once after the sermon I was very disturbed one thing my mother told me till today I remember she said don't let anything stop you and she told me this when you speak I feel God is speaking to me okay so that was too big for me like I don't know like as a young person people looking at you it's a little scary but when there is a blessing right which comes through someone who's an authority over your life you can't forget it right so you can imagine the encouragement which a word like that might give to us but if these words are in prayer and in declaration you imagine the power of that right so you can pray it even let's say the child does not believe that they can make an impact or they will be successful they don't believe it but in your prayer you're saying Lord I thank you that my son my daughter that they will be mighty on the earth you're not saying it on our own some 112 says that our descendants will be blessed my children their children they are blessed I declare it in the name of Jesus then you know you begin to say they will be fruitful and you begin to speak over their future decisions maybe the spouse that they will marry their children that they will be blessed they will make good decisions when it comes to marriage family they will serve the Lord you know how Joshua said right as for me and my house we will serve the Lord so maybe the children are not yet in a place where they can say it for themselves but as a parent we say it on their behalf as for me and my house we are all going to serve the Lord that is the decision that is the declaration so it's very powerful when you do this for years you know even if Satan comes and he tries to disturb nothing can stand against God's word okay so this is how we must pray for our family and of course you know we will talk a little bit about praying for people who have gone away from God okay so there is an aspect or an element of spiritual warfare it's not just declaration and prayer but there is spiritual warfare where we have to take authority if somebody has gone away from God we'll come back and you know we will touch on that and study about it okay so yeah any questions any thoughts so far we have 3 minutes before we close off this session even the online students can ask no questions I have questions I wish you would ask me those questions so I can answer it what if you know we didn't have parents prayerful parents or believing parents sorry no what if one doesn't have believing parents to pray such prayers didn't you think of that I mean I was thinking what if you know one didn't have believing parents to bless like this and pray like this so see as a believer our prayers are strong enough so if you didn't have that maybe they don't know Christ they are from an unbelieving home but that is not a disadvantage okay because the word is in your mouth it is in your heart you declare it over your own self okay that's powerful enough so if at all for whatever reasons we don't have praying parents don't let that make you feel oh you know that's a disadvantage it's not the word is still with you you can declare all this over yourself okay so yeah okay so Sean is saying those who have been away from God it's not a disadvantage for many years they know what being in the wrong lifestyle is like and so they can tell people about but you know what Sean this is my way of thinking but they've lost so many years of knowing God and serving God if they knew God they could have grown in the things of God so all those years are in a sense you know lost so I mean it is a loss but as I've been saying time and again God is a redeemer he works you know all things work together so thank God that he can take that mess and make it a message but it's not God's intention that people should live a life like that and you know no I'm just making I got it but I'm saying because sometimes people think like that so if I just go away from God then I'll have a testimony I can impact more people for Christ that's not the right way any questions here from the online students okay alright so let's take a break then it's 9.50 we'll come back 10 a.m. and then we will resume thank you


Welcome to 10 minute Wing Chun Workout and Exercises. In this workout, you're going to learn pivoting moves that exercise your core, your abs, and your back.  So, let's get started. If you want to get stronger, you want to keep doing these Wing Chun workouts, make sure you subscribe and also comment and let me know what else you want to learn, what else you want to see in this channel, and like and tell your friends. So, get ready for the workout. Let's start together like this, standing straight, hands to your side, feet together, drop about an inch, pull your fist to the chest, and pull your elbows back and downwards. Open up your toes, open up your feet, and now we're in the A stance position. And now what you want to do is to learn how to pivot. Notice that my feet right now are pointing into a triangle like this, pointing forwards and inwards. So, all I want to do is to pivot one foot, let's start the left foot, and then pivot it so that it points in the same direction. Let's call it 45 degrees. So, both feet are pointing 45 degrees, keep your hands pulled back like this on your chest, at the chest level. Then when you pivot, you're going to move one foot inwards, pointing in again, and then now you move the other foot, point 45 degrees. And now your weight is on about 70% or 60% of this leg, and about 40% on the front leg. And by the way, the pivot point is your heel. So, you don't want to be pivoting on your toe, this is pivoting on your toe, this is pivoting in the middle of the feet, this is pivoting on the heel. So, the toes are moving back and forth like a windshield wiper. What you don't want to do is to lift your feet like this, don't do that. Now, try to do it at the same time. So, I'm pivoting, now I'm facing 45, pivot here facing 45, pivot here facing 45. Now, what you want to do is to put your hands over top of each other like a rectangle, one hand will go on top of each other overlapping like this, and just put it at chest level. And now what you want to do is when you pivot, turn all the way to the right or to the left. Keep going, one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. One, a little bit faster, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Now you got your pivoting down, now we're going to add some techniques into your pivoting. So, now we're going to punch wuzhao with a hit, so wuzhao punch.  So if you do wuzhao and punch, square forward, it's going to look like this, but now when you add that pivot, we're going to pivot like this. So what we're going to do is start with your hands together like this and punch. Wuzhao just stays in position and then punch comes out, and then now you're in a pivoted position and punch out to the center. To demonstrate how this works is you punch this in, this hand stays in the middle, and this hand punches out to the target, which is the draw of your opponent. When the other punch comes in, I pivot, this hand is wuzhao, and the punch comes out this way. Now if I'm going to be straight and I do wuzhao and punch, see I can't really reach him because I'm squared to him. So when I just pivot, see now I can reach him because now my pivoting throws my shoulder forward. Well this is still guarding against the punch and now I can reach him, same on the other side. If I just go here, wuzhao and punch, I can't really quite reach him, but when I just turn a bit, see now I can reach him. I'm guarded against this punch, I protected myself, and I attack at the same time. So let's practice this together. We're just going to practice first with just one side. So stand in a straight position, we're hands together like this, and then we're just going to pivot one side and back to the middle. Now when you do pivot, I want you to do the punch back to the middle, like this, one back to the middle, going left and right, one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Notice that when I'm pivoting, my weight is a little bit more on the back foot. Two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Good job. So now that you learned the pivoting, we're going to get into the Wing Chun techniques. But before we get to that, make sure you go to my new webinar, register for my free event. It's called Chi Life Mastery. Go to ChiLifeMastery.com. You learn how to actualize your potent potential, just like Bruce Lee, become stronger in the inside and on the outside, and then be able to have more success in your life, be healthier and happier. So make sure you check it out right now. Go to ChiLifeMastery.com. Time's all in hit. So this one application is very simple. It comes in for a hook, I do this, right, do another hook, and then I turn into the hook, and then I also punch at the same time. One, two, three, four, like that. Okay? So when you practice this, just by yourself, thanks Will. This is the technique without pivoting. This is the technique with pivoting. So we can go like this. Now I'm going to combine both of them. So I'm going to pivot one direction, punch in the middle, tonsil at 10 o'clock, pivot the other direction, punch in the middle, tonsil at 2 o'clock. Okay? So we alternate. Ready? Alternate side to side. Let's do it slow at first, and don't look at the open hand, look at where you're punching. A little bit faster now. Two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. Gone and hit. Gone, done. This is the gone cell. This is the done. Okay? We're going to combine at the same time. We did it at the other video with the simultaneous attack and defense training, but now we're going to add the pivot to it. So this is what it looks like. If you want to learn how to do this, watch the other video in the description. So now when we add the pivoted, what we do is we go into pivot and gone like this. Pivot, gone like this. So that's the gone part. Combine it with the hit, same as before. You're gone and then hit. Gone and hit in the middle, this on the other side, this way. How you use this is against lower hooks to the body, right? I can walk like this and hit here, right? Walk like this and hit here. Walk like this and hit like that. Like this. Like that. Okay? So what the pivoting does is it gives you a little bit more power and a little bit more reach. Now that you can do one side, we're going to do the alternating. So alternating, left and right. Okay, follow me like this. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, 10. Okay? A little bit faster. All right. Good job. Are you ready for the next exercise? This is a really cool one. It's called gan dam so, which means to separate, which is gone and down, which is chopped. So you're separating and chopping at the same time. Well, let's say he comes in and then I block him this way. Ideally, I want to block him on the outside, but let's say he's punching on this way and then I block him on the other side. Then I'm going to basically separate or gone south and down. So down is the chop. Let's come this way. So if he punches this one, same thing. If I end up like this, I'm going to gone and then down like that. So if you want to train with a partner, you can do that. If you catch him on the outside of the punch, that's another way to do it. Let's say he punches, catch him on the outside of the punch. You can basically gone and open it up and then do the jumps out here. So if I'm on the outside, I catch him on the outside and then punch. Catch him on the outside and then punch. But just a hand motion. I'm going to do this. One, two, three, four, five, six. Notice I'm going to bring my hand up before I go down. I'm going to hang up or go down. So to show this more simply, I'm just going to use one hand.  Here we do both hands. Up and then up like that. That's how it looks like. Now we're going to combine it with the pivoting. Let's just do one side for now. So we're going to bring your hand up, chop, back to center, chop, back to center. Now let's try this side. Up, pivot, gun sell, pivot, gun sell. So this rotation of the forearm is what helps to redirect the energy of the attack. At the same time, you can use it as an attack. So you combine them together. Let's do it together. Nice and slow. Two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. A little bit faster. All right. Good job. You completed the wing train workout with pivoting and double hand techniques. So make sure you bookmark this lesson and come back regularly so that you can master your skills and get better and better every day at Wing Chun.


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And our group, because we have a group chat with me and Andrani and Ashley, Alexis and Micah, and my cousin Melissa's in there too. So got, so makes me emotional. Got text messages from all the kids just now. Ashley started it off to the group chat. On this day, we legally got our brown mommy, Alexis. We love you, brown mommy and all caps. Happy anniversary. And then Micah, brown mommy's for the win. For those of you who don't know, they have affectionately coined that term for her, Andrani's brown mommy. I see so. You canceled. Josh! Hey, welcome back to our show, Direct So Corbin. I love you, Andrani. You can follow us on Instagram, Twitter for more juicy content. Thank you to everybody who supports us on Patreon. Follow us on Instagram, subscribe, like, button. Today we have a game. Yay! Sony made a force that's called Rate of the Director. So it's gonna try to get us in trouble. It's basically what it's gonna try to do. Okay. Okay. It's basically, Gonna show us. A director. And the next one, I think it's, Oh, it's just right here. Okay. You'll be shown directors from different generations and of different genre. You have to rate them to the end to decide who you consider the best in Indian cinema. Oh, great. There's no time to limit, take your time, because I know, so in other words, we'll get two faces. You pick one, it stays.  Because. Yeah, it is. You can't. There's different. Like, there's no way you could pick one. Well, I would do this for the sake of the game, but just know. Exactly. This is not actually true. I can't say Vishal Bhardwas is better than Anuragashyap is better than, Sanjali Libansali. Sanjali Libansali. Is better than Zoya Akhtar. Is better than S.S. Rajamuli, if this. Like, I can't do it. I will do it for the sake of the game. We'll do it for the sake of the game.  Disclaimer, disclaimer, means nothing. Yes. No fact. Everything's made up and the points don't matter. Just, I need that preface. He says he's better than blah, blah, blah, blah. No, none of this makes any sense. No, just like you can't say, like, for the Oscars or something.  It's all a pain. Now, what we could do, because we get legalistic guys, we believe in absolutes. If you rate them based on their artistry, what everything Corbin said applies. However, you can say which is your favorite of the directors and the totality of the work that they've done. That's true. So, which the two of you exempled, I'd have a really, really hard time. Which one? Between Vishal and Anurag. Oh, yeah. That would be difficult for me. Well. In a million respects. All right, so, hold on, I'm just gonna... I mean, how do you compare, like... You can't. I could, someone says you have to choose between Gangs of Wasupra and Header. Header only gets the win for me, only because of how difficult it is to turn Shakespeare into something contemporary. All right, here we go. Ready? First one. But that's the only reason. Okay. Vikas Bahal, who did Super 30 and Queen. Okay. Or Farhan. As a director. This is obviously as a director. Dawn II, Lakshya, Dawn I. And the first one was Queen and what? Let me go back. Super 30? Then it'd be Vikas Bahal. I'm gonna go Vikas Bahal as a director. Me too. Even though I think Farhan is a fantastic director. Me too. But if you're comparing that, I'm thinking those films because we don't have their filmography just memorized in our head. So yeah, I agree. I'm gonna go him. I'm with you. So Vikas Bahal is who we have right now. Right. Lakash. It's Lakash. It's Lakash. It's Lakash. It's not even a question. Yeah. Sorry, Vikas Bahal. Yeah, but it's Lakash. Here we go. Ooh. Oh wow. I didn't expect the third one already to be. Okay, this is gonna go from favorites because you've just entered the realm of you can't say who's the better director. It's just gonna be who you have a preference for and the kinds of films that they do. We're just gonna do favorites. Let's do favorites based on types of films they do and you had to choose. You can watch these films for the rest of your life where you can't. No. He is better than... Who's better? Who's better? Tarantino, Christopher Nolan, Spielberg. Who's better, Quinn Tarantino or Mark Twinship? Come on. It's just a preference and it depends on the year and it depends on the film. Exactly. For me, my personal favorite of the filmographies we've seen it would be Sujit for me. Sujit, okay. Yes. If I was saying these are the films for me that are elevative that I would wanna watch for their artistic excellence and move me and I think are important. We've seen a lot of Sujit. So I'm gonna go with Sujit as well for that reason because I could watch, even though I could watch the three Lokesh films that we... They're very entertaining. Very entertaining. Oh, yes, but I mean... I'm gonna go with... I mean, Piku and... The artistry of Sardar Uda. And there are others that I don't think are here that we've seen of his. Yeah, this is tough. Sujit Sarkar. Anya Agbasu. Ooh, yeah, he's good. He's really good. I love... I love Barfi as you know. But... Yeah, I'm gonna go with Sujit. I'm still sticking with Sujit. That's a tough one though. It is a tough one. Very good. M.T.Azali. Ooh. Rocks. Those are comparable right there. Yeah. I know a lot of Indians would definitely say M.T.Azali because he's one of... Especially millennials. I've gotta go. I've gotta stick to my gut just because of the things I disliked in Rockstar. All right, hey. I'm gonna go with Sujit as well, even though I love M.T.Azali. Me too. Megnagals are... Those are good, man. Razi and Talwar. I am too. I am too. Even though those are very good. Ramgopal Varma. Okay, Bhut. Rangila. We haven't seen company, by the way. So I don't know why that's there. Ooh. And there is a lot more that we've seen as well of Ramgopal Varma. I'm still... I got with Piku and Sardarodham and the others that still shoot it. For me. These are just the kinds of films that I most recommend, love, wanna watch over and over again. Taking nothing away from Ramgopal Varma. This is a difficult one to the... It's gonna be this way for the rest of the game. Ooh. It's gonna be this way. I'll go Sujit, but I don't like it. Me too. I don't like it. Yes, Shankar. Oh, nice. I'm still gonna go Sujit, but he's a lot of fun. Yeah. And there's a bunch we haven't seen of his as well. So maybe it'll change in the future because he makes really fun films. Here we go. Mid-soya. Yeah, mid-soya. Yeah. Hard to argue. As much as I love those other ones so, so much. Yeah, mid-soya. And that's gonna be a tough one to beat, too, in terms of favorites for sure. Envita Dutt. Oh, nice. That's a great choice. Also, I should know that name because she's a fantastic director for those two films. Kala, one of the best films of last year. Yep. Was your favorite. It was my favorite last year. Yeah, absolutely. Anna's a great choice.  How am I not going Zoya here? We've seen almost all of... Well, we've seen so much of her work and we've also seen so much of her, we've seen the short film stuff that she's done. What? You sent me a tweet and said, "'Alu Arjun is only four awards away from an EGOT." The joke is that there's four awards in an EGOT. Sorry. That's funny. That's very funny. That's great. So are we? Yeah, we're four awards. Yeah, we're only four awards away from an EGOT. I'm still gonna go Zoya. Zoya, me too.  Thank you for including her because that is a worthy inclusion here. Yeah. Yash Chopra. That's harder for you. That is much harder for you. Yash Chopra, well. But you know what?  Oh my goodness, Virzara. I'm gonna have to stick with Zoya. I love Virzara. But I gotta stick with Zoya. Gonna have to stick with Zoya, unfortunately. Not unfortunately. I'm gonna have to stick with Zoya. Wait, what? Oh, that's right. Oh yeah, he's the guy that always records. He always works with Onyrog. Yeah, he's a great director. Great director. Even though all those are fantastic. Well, actually we haven't seen Joshi. Yeah, Joshi. But we've seen Udon, Trap. Sacred Games. Obviously the Sacred Games things. And there's others as well. Zoya's still. Yeah, if we're doing favorites, it's always gonna be very difficult to be. I'm waiting for the few that. Oh, Joast. Yeah, I'm gonna have to stick with Zoya. Me too. That's tough though. That's tough though. If it's OTT directors. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, if it's OTT directors, it's Roger D.K. Well, actually, Onyrog would be an OTT director as well. He would, but yeah, it's still Zoya. Yeah, it's gonna have to be Zoya. Sorry, Dost's Dost. Actually, they're South, right? Cause they're Telugu, is their main language, right? Oh, yeah. So maybe I'm not sure. So they don't know. Anyways, anyway. LJP. Oh, good lord. Um, I... Okay, if this was the hypothetical of who is artistically better, which is crazy to say about Zoya not being the artistically better director, I would say LJP. But since it's, if I'm doing favorites, what I can watch the most, her films are so rewatchable and so fun and so good, I'm gonna have to stick with Zoya. Even though, if this was the other way, if we're like, who is the Oscar worthy director out of these people, he would, he might be the best of them all. Who gets the tattoo on their back of film festival genius? Yeah, it's hard to question that. Yeah, who's gonna win all the film festivals, who's gonna win all the international awards and that we're like, however, Zoya has that capacity, she just hasn't done the kinds of films. I agree with you. If this is just favorites. I agree with you. Even though he is probably my top five favorites. It's really hard. I mean, especially for us, this OSR exists because of Zoya Octo technically, you know? It was the Gully Boy trailer and that film. But he is however you say a Dost in Malaya. Exactly, exactly. And a brilliant, one of the best filmmakers on the planet, 100%. Anywhere on earth. Oh, good Lord. Okay. I still go Zoya. Hold on. What do we got? Ramleela. Badmavad. Bajramastani. The Gungubai. Have we seen others? I have. I saw the Eshwarya and Salman one in the 90s. Right. What you would like parts and then you would hate parts. I, so, he is to filmmaking what Thomas Kincaid is to painting. The master of light. If you don't know Thomas Kincaid paintings, he was known as the painter of light. His paintings are extraordinary for the way they capture light. He has a particular genius and excellence in his production design and costume design and his historical epics. However, I think there is a broader, that we've seen. I see a broader scope of genre, style and storytelling. You just see more of Zoya. We just see more of Zoya. Yeah, that's true. Well, he'd know Black. He was Black. That's true. He was Black. That's right. We've entered the realms of. Here's the thing. I'm actually going Sanjay. I'm going Sanjay, even Sanjay because the film I've actually seen the most, I think repeatedly is Ramleela. I think I've seen Ramleela more times than any other Indian film. I have probably, I have seen more Sanjay Leela Bansali films than Zoya Oktar films. So, technically by the rules I've been going by. Let me think about this. I'm actually, I'm going Sanjay. Let me think about this. I'm sorry, Zoya, I love you. You would be very difficult to beat. Yeah, if someone said to me. I could watch all of his films. Yeah, if someone said to me, you can't watch, you know, it's their two films. You can't watch either one of those films ever again. What are you gonna do? To not have Bajirao Ramleela and Padma Vaat. No. I can't, I can't part with those films. So you're gonna, Sanjay as well? I, yeah, I kind of have to because I can't, I can't part with those films. I watch those. When I introduced Megan and Mikaela to Ranveer, we introduced them not through Gully Boy, we introduced them through Ramleela. Yeah, I'm going Sanjay. I'm going Sanjay as well. That's very sad. Sorry.  We love you. This makes no sense. I'm going Sanjay. Yeah. On your own. How many times have you rewatched his films? I'm gonna go maybe never. Yeah. Actually, the only one I have rewatched is because it was for the film club, is Ugly. No, but I promise you. Oh, I agree. It's, this is incredibly difficult.  I don't play any more.   But also, I don't think there's a, I mean, there's, no, the, I didn't love his Devdas adaption. No, not that I die. Devdi. Devdi, I didn't like that one. No, that's for the films we've seen, if that's our least favorite, I think, for sure. Unless I'm forgetting something. I find it interesting that you still, without hesitation, go to Sanjay Lila Bansali because of how many of his films fall in the wheelhouse of what you love, both in storytelling and in the characters you'd like to play. I know. And that's why I'm, I mean, are you forgetting Raghav? Rum or Raghav? Yeah.  And Gangs of Wasp are one and two? If they sit, yeah. I mean, Gangs of Wasp is considered by many, including Martin Scorsese to be the best Indian film of all time. I'm trying not to just go with the answers that I think everybody knew we were gonna do anyway. I know. Everybody knows we love Anurag. He's a dosed. Exactly. We've yet to talk. You know what? He gets it just for that. So if you ever wanna play a game in the future where we choose Sanjay Lila Bansali, he needs to become a dosed. Leave that other dosed on the game already. I'm kidding. This is incredibly difficult. Cause once again, the film I've watched the most is Ram Lila of any film. But I love him as a director. I get, there's very little directors I get more excited about.  The films I watch Sanjay's films more. I'm going Anurag. I've reconvinced myself. Cause I, yes, I've watched more, but I don't, I get so excited for Anurag Kashyap film because of what kind of director he is. He's both, in terms of LGP, in terms of he's at that artistic level. But also, I love his films just as favorites. Once again, I can't back that up with I've seen him multiple times. The only one I've seen multiple times is Ugly. And you know what else? You know what else? He's had breakfast with us. So we're going Anurag Kashyap. We're going Anurag now.  I'm still going to go with Anurag. No more not to in your life. I know, that's so sad. Because my favorite film of his is RRR. Without question. But I'm still with Anurag.  But it's ridiculous.  Designed to Ashutosh Gauraka. This is designed to- You didn't even tell me what he was in. So I'm gonna go Anurag. Yeah, thanks for that, Anurag. Come on, Hasan. As a director, I'm still going Anurag just because we've seen more Anurag stuff. Yep. Raj Kamar Harani. Ooh. I'm still going Anurag.    He did stars, right? And he did Munabai. How many times have you seen P.K.? You rewatched P.K.? It's, I adore. I've seen P.K. six, seven times.  First film we've reviewed on the channel. Yeah. Fantastic film. Yeah. Munabai. Fantastic film. But it's like the watchability factor. Sanjay Leela Manzali's films have a higher level. There's more people I can show a Sanjay Leela Manzali film or a Raj Kamar Harani film than I can in Anurag film because of people's personal taste. Their films are more universal. And Anurag would be the first one to agree with you on that. But the artistic... But we're not doing that. I know. We're doing favorites. But also... I can't...  Because you... All of his films are rewatchable. It's the thought of having to get rid of those Amir Khan films. I can't, I can't part with those Amir Khan films. So you're going Raj Kamar Harani. Raj Kamar Harani. I cannot part with those Amir Khan films. Okay, I'm gonna stay Anurag. But it hurts me.  The incarnation of Shakespeare. True. I do. His adaptations of Shakespeare are the best. And the header. You're going against what you just said from... I know. I know. But anybody who knows me, my favorite thing in the world of theater ever in the history of stage and screen is William Shakespeare's Hamlet. And my favorite screen adaptation of Hamlet is Header. I feel like you shouldn't have put Vishal or Anyurag in this. To make it more fun for everybody else. Because I feel like those were the obvious things. No, and now I'm actually... I'm actually feeling the emotions as if I can't watch those other films again. And I don't like this feeling. So you're going Vishal? I'm gonna stick with Anyurag. It's Vishal. Yeah. Dost. Long time Dost, by the way. Sweet, sweet man. Shekhar Kapoor. Bandit Queen, Mr. Indian, Assumptian. Vishal Bhardwesh. This is why you shouldn't have included Anyurag or Vishal. Mani Ratnam. That's just... Goodbye, everybody. Good night. See you tomorrow. I hate this game. Yep.  Stupid. And I don't want to play it. So I won't! I'm skipping this one! You know what it would be like? You know what it would be like now? You know where we are now? It'd be like somebody's someone showing you three pictures of your kids. Pick one. No. It's Sophie's choice. Pick one. It's Sophie's choice. I'm angry. I'm not playing. You've ruined my anniversary.  So you pickin', you pickin' the guy you've called one of the greatest directors of all time? One of the fathers of Indian cinema? It's Satyajit Rai. You all know it. Go away. How could you do that to Vishal? Because you don't have Vishal. You don't have any of those other directors that have Satyajit Rai. You're going at this for your son in the beginning! I don't care. It's Satyajit Rai. I don't think you know the rules of the game. Oh, it does. Thank you, old man and bearded bastard. There are many more directors that I did not include either because the simple says the work is smaller. You won't see much of their work. Just a small suggestion. Also watch anime. You guys are missing out on one of the best forms of art. Start with Attack on Titan. You won't regret it. It's really, I'm sure you get it. The anime lovers just are, they are like pit bulls. They just won't let go. Oh yeah, they love anime. Yeah. It will happen someday. Hang in there. You should watch that. The Butterflies one? No, the, what about the? That's the one I heard a lot of back when I was doing just international film stuff with the kids. No, the Prince Ram one. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I forgot what it's called. Yeah, I forget. I watch it with Steph. This game made me feel bad about life. Thank you for making the game and I hated it. Made me feel bad about everything pretty much. Don't ever make it again. Yeah. And you're blocked. And I feel like now Vishal and Onyaraga are upset with us. No, I picked Onyaraga. So. Yeah, well. He still likes me, we'll have breakfast tomorrow.  Thank you for making it. Josh!


Hey survivors and fravers, in this video I am going to be discussing how narcissists always have to be in control. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to make a donation, my paypal link is in the video description. If you are interested in one-on-one coaching, please send me an email at narxvivercoaching at gmail.com. The narcissist wants to control your life. For a narcissist to be in control, they have to target people with specific qualities, who they are able to take advantage of, people who are naive, maybe they do not have as much experience, wisdom or judgement, people who are vulnerable, people who are honest, trustworthy and loyal and most importantly of all, a person who cares. If you do not care, they cannot control you and this is one of the main reasons why they targeted you, because you do care. People who care are easier for the narcissist to manipulate and take advantage of. They want someone to trust and believe in everything they say and do. They do not want to self reflect and accept responsibility for anything, so whatever happens, you have to blame yourself for their mistakes. A codependent or empath will do this, because they have empathy and consideration. They will trust them and believe that they are the problem in the relationship. Narciss study you to find any weaknesses or vulnerabilities for them to get in. From there they will then destroy your boundaries and change your beliefs, values and principles. This is done through influencing your thoughts, through emotional abuse, manipulation, subtle comments and backhanded compliments. By influencing your thoughts through these COVID tactics, this then leads to a change in your feelings, which then leads to a change in your actions and behaviours. Now they have control over what you are thinking and feeling and how you are acting and behaving and since they are the ones who influenced all of this, they can already predict how you are going to think, feel, act and behave before you even know. They want predictability so then it becomes easier for them to control you. They have to know what you are doing and where you are going at all times.  They do not trust you and many times this can become a self-defeating prophecy. This is where their expectations of you can influence your own behaviour. They then use this as an excuse to control you even more and then the cycle repeats itself. If you act or behave in a way that doesn't benefit them, they will then go back to influencing your thoughts through their COVID tactics. It's all about managing how you see yourself, them, other people and the world around you. This is what gives them total control over the situation.  It makes no logical sense but this is exactly how the narcissist sees it. They need full control over everything with no responsibility or accountability, no precautions, no thought of the consequences. It really is a recipe for disaster and as soon as something goes wrong, they pass above responsibility onto you even though they had all of the control. Somehow in their minds it's still your fault. This is the flawed logical mindset of a narcissist. If you try to confront them, they will deny, project, blame, shift, gaslight, whatever it takes to deflect any responsibility or accountability. The narcissist will control your life in every possible way and then everything goes wrong and even though they were in control of everything, they will still blame you. It makes no logical sense but this is exactly how the narcissist sees it. They need full control and full responsibility over everything but as soon as something goes wrong, they pass responsibility onto you. This is the flawed logical mindset of a narcissist. The narcissist is obsessed with controlling their victims but what they fail to realise is they can't even control themselves. They are obsessed with the control and yet everything they touch falls apart. Despite having control over everything, they are still quick to project the blame onto you for everything that goes wrong. The narcissist has to provoke you to react because you are in control of your thoughts and feelings and they don't like it. It's a reminder of everything they are not. It's a reminder to them that they are not in control of their thoughts or feelings so they cannot allow you to continue being in control of yourself. This is why they will provoke certain thoughts or feelings within you. This is all fuelled by their hate, anger, envy and jealousy of you which comes from their own insecurities and inferiority complex. Next time they try to provoke you to feel a certain way, imagine how you would feel without that thought and then let it go. Now that you have the awareness of narcissism, they can only control you if you let them. They are extremely controlling individuals. They want to control every aspect of your life. They would love to have a remote control for your mind and body. That will be the narcissist dream. To them we are objects used to satisfy their existence, used to serve them. They do not see us as individuals or real people. The narcissist manipulates you gradually over a long period of time. It begins as a very subtle behaviour telling you not to talk to this person or don't do this, don't go there. Gradually over time this act of control becomes more and more obvious but as you are under their manipulation you don't see it.  You've lost weight but you don't see it because it happened gradually over a long period of time.  They need to take a step back and take control of themselves and of their own lives. That would make more sense but they don't because they are emotionally immature and believe that they are never at fault. The narcissist wants to hijack your life and take over, operate in and take control of everything you do. They want to take hold of you and force you to go to a different destination or use you for their own purpose. There is also something I've experienced which is very extreme narcissistic behaviour. I have never heard it talked about before. I guess it's like the ultimate form of control over a person. This is something I am going to call the observer mode. Imagine as though wherever you are looking with your eyes, whatever you are looking at, the narcissist will say some word from it which relates to whatever it is you are looking at or they will say a word that rhymes with it. You could be looking at anything, a person, an object, whatever it is, the narcissist will obsessively follow your eyes over time. Even this level of control isn't enough for them so they will begin to predict what you are looking at before you even look at it. They might predict that you are going to turn your head to the left and observe a chair. Before you do that they will say something that rhymes with the word chair or relates to chair or the colour of it. They will then observe you to feed off your reaction which they can then use to further perfect their art of manipulation. In this observer mode they act as though they are in your body to have a higher level of control over you. They don't want you to look at a single person or object without them knowing. Because when you are looking around you are giving out energy. You are receiving energy. When you are thinking about something your thoughts are sending signals. This is just too much for the obsessive narcissist to bear. They are pathologically envious and jealous.  They will spray certain perfumes or plant objects in certain places or make noises. Anything to prevent you from experiencing the natural environment because they are just too obsessively envious and jealous of you. Please let me know in the comments if you have experienced the observer mode. I believe it is only something the most extreme narcissist will engage in. It is a highly invasive tactic and more intimate than having sex but it is something these sick people like to engage in so please be aware of that. Highly predatory behaviour. They need the ability to sabotage whatever you are doing that is productive or anything that doesn't revolve around them. Narcissists need excessive attention and admiration. They want you to be thinking about them all of the time or else they will feel alone and wanted. If you are not thinking about the narcissist, in their minds it is like they cease to exist. They can only exist if you are giving them attention and admiration. I don't believe narcissists even have the ability to have a genuine conversation. Even when it appears as though they are being genuine that is an act too. They were just acting as though they are having a genuine conversation with you but it is never real. They always have an ulterior motive when they are acting as though they are having a genuine conversation with you. Their ulterior motive is to make you believe that it is a genuine conversation. Really it is just an attempt towards the shame they feel for not having the ability to genuinely converse with you. They cannot simply be in the moment and have a conversation without any ulterior motives. They can only create the illusion as though this is what they are doing but the ulterior motive will always be there due to their obsessive need to control. A genuine conversation would involve truth and as we know narcissists hate the truth because the truth would expose them. The truth would expose the very person that they are trying to hide. So do not expect the truth from the narcissist. Do not expect any vulnerability. They cannot be emotionally vulnerable with you. They cannot experience a deep emotional connection or any form of real intimacy. To do this they would need to be emotionally vulnerable and this is something they cannot do because of their inability to be real or authentic with you. It makes it impossible for them to experience any real genuine positive emotions. It makes it impossible for them to live in truth. Accept them so or any form of love. Instead they remain stuck. In an endless cycle of trying to gather whatever dominance or control they can gain over you or the situation. This is why they are always trying to make you think that something is wrong with you. If they can get you to believe that something is wrong with you they can control you. They can then influence you to seek validation from them rather than validating yourself. This creates a trauma bond. They want you to believe that you are not good enough. This keeps you looking at yourself rather than seeing everything that is not right with them. It gives them the upper hand and gives them further control over you. Now you are doubting yourself. You have low self-worth and low self-esteem. Now they can tell you whatever they want and you will believe it. You will even modify your own thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviors to suit however they have to find you. This is how they control your mind and when you act on these dysfunctional thoughts and feelings which they have planted in your mind. You may have actions or behaviors that are not considered to be socially acceptable. Now the Narcissus can point the finger at you and call you crazy. It makes it more believable to the fly monkeys and now they can create a smear campaign. They manage your interactions through resistance. This is designed to leave you to chase them or how you want them to be. It gives them Narcissus Xpli, a sense of power and control of the situation. If they let go of their resistance towards you, this would then give you the power. If you had the power, you would then realize that this person isn't serving you or improving your life in any way. This is why they hold on to this position of power or control so strongly. They know that they can either keep this position of power or you are going to want nothing to do with them and they already know how painful it is going to be to not be wanted or desired by you. Their value is based off your desire of them. They are externally validated. They are always putting on an act or creating an illusion with their words. They use tactics like denial, projection, blame shifting, gaslighting and the double bind. They cannot put themselves in your shoes. They cannot see things the way that you do. They do not want a resolution or mutual understanding. They want dominance. They want to control you and the situation. A resolution or mutual understanding makes it very difficult for them to dominate or control you. We do assume that we are dealing with honest, genuine and trustworthy people like ourselves but then we soon discover that nurses are not honest, genuine or trustworthy. They are emotionally immature like children. They live life like a game of chess and every move they make is designed to affect you in some way. They are emotionally immature so they will not accept responsibility or accountability for anything that they do which means that they will never learn from their faults or mistakes or ever grow from them. They will remain in this emotionally immature state since they never accept responsibility or accountability. Quite a disturbing video but I'm sure a lot of you have experienced the same things. Please let me know in the comments if you have experienced the observer mode. This is probably something only the most extreme nurses will do. I didn't really go that deep into it. I have experienced it far worse than I have described in this video but if other people have experienced the same thing I will probably do a separate video on this. That's all for this video. Thank you for watching. Please like, comment, share and subscribe and I will talk to you soon.