Penn School had its beginning in the dark day woody slave ships discharged their cargoes of primitive Africans. Oatleg to cross the Atlantic, long after the outlawing of the three. And it was here on these islands, occupied during the early years of the war by the Union forces, that emancipation first reached the southern cotton lands, and beginnings were made in the gross freeholders on their own small plots. A great human responsibility developed from the freeing of the simple, carefree, dependent people, rest from their native life and marooned in ignorance under slavery. Freed? They had to be taught how to live as free men. Penn School has demonstrated the power of the school as a social dynamo in its all year rhythm, its island wide reach, its ministration to all round wants and aspirations of the simple folk. Its release of the organic strength of the community. It is making good citizens, intelligent, self-supporting families. For at Penn School, education is literally preparation for life. Practical life in which hunger of the mind, soul and body are very real considerations. These are the people of the sea islands, deeply religious, happy, industrious, good citizens, who look upon Penn School as having brought to them the first true emancipation of the Negro race. Here are the three people. Rosa B. Cooley, Grace Bigelow House and their associate, the school superintendent, James P. King, who today are doing most to carry forward the work of Penn School as the hub of domestic, business and community life on the islands. An adventure in practical education which is being felt throughout the state of South Carolina, the nation and the whole world. That also is playing a great part in pointing the way to the sound solution of the growing interracial problem. Yes, three generations ago, this was a typical evening scene on one of the more lonely beaches in the sea islands. Souls torn from their native land, separated from their families, herded into vile, smelling, bootlegging slave ships for the long voyage to America. Disease bred in the filth of their impossibly crowded quarrels, often thinning their ranks to less than half the number before seeing land again. Then chained together like wild beasts, beaten and driven by heartless overseers, they staggered on to dry land again, bondage, to work long hours in the foots of great sea island cotton plantations that made these islands famous. Women as well as men worked the long hours in the field. But these were stalwart people. This woman, for instance, who wears a cord around her hips to give her strength. In such squalid hovels, whole families lived in one room, dipped into a common pot with their oyster-shell spoons at mealtime, bore more children into hopeless bondage, abject poverty and ignorance. But through all this, the Negro's spirit was not broken. The moon, a visual symbol of an almighty God. At the end of a long day, release of the spirit in fervent prayer. An offering of water from the rising tide back to the tide. Praying as her mother taught her, pouring out water to the full moon. What an opportunity to sway her deep devotion to the living God, from native superstition to enlightened religion. Yes, few people have risen so far in three generations because few peoples, contrary to the belief of the times, have possessed the inherent ability to lift themselves from unlettered superstition to responsive and discriminating play of intelligence with such modest encouragement. But let Miss Cooley, who with her associate, Miss House, has given her life to the work of Penn School, tell you the story as they have lived it over the years. Old children, did you know that Penn School is having its 80th birthday this year? Yes, Mom. Our teacher told us. Have you been here that long, too, Miss Cooley? Good gracious, no, Helen. But Miss House and I have been here for 37 years. Oh, yes, there have been some big changes since then. Before the new school house was built, there was one little rambling building. The roof peaked like a sieve, and the whole thing was ready to fall down almost any day. And do you know the teachers had to sit with an open umbrella over their heads when it rained, and the children sat on top of the desks to keep their feet dry? Oh, well, I remember my first ride down the oyster-shell road from Frogmore. I remember the horse's name was Pleasant. Uncle Sam was sitting there, weaving his shrimp nets, as he has for so many years. And two little boys were watching him. One of them looked very much like you, Moses. As we came up, the smallest boys said, I know exactly. I know I've been doing man's work and first gun shoot. I was born a slave. I've never gotten flogged till I come standard no more. Then I run off into the bush. Then the soldier come and Marshall Lincoln make me free. I see he patrol on the island after that, too. I see the big wind come, and the tidal wave and knock over the houses and drown the people. I remember when the fever come, and the snow parks, and the people fall down dead in the fields. Then come the drought and don't kill all the crops. I see four so hungry and weak they can walk. And they were so low, nothing but more poor for them.  What we just trust, and not let Jesus take care of his children, and work hard and a bad time go away, and his own shine, you know. We ain't got much doubt and sense, but be hard and full of love. And everybody is free. From the beginning, Penn School has been a school for all the people, grown-ups and children alike. For in the words of the great friend and educator of the Negro people, Dr. Purcell, here truly are taught things of the hand, the mind, and the heart. This bronze plaque displayed on the front wall of the community house at Penn School in memory of Dr. Purcell's inspiration and help to the school in one of the most critical periods of its existence is symbolic of the aspirations of the whole Negro race. Things of the mind and hand. The first of these is the soil. It was natural for a people who looked upon the new book learning as a release from the drudgery of field slaves to regard the teaching of modern farming methods with little enthusiasm. In fact, the whole program of vocational training of these people might have failed had not the teachers carried the school to the farms, both through student activities which involved planting their own school acre set aside by their father for their use and through the visiting of the farm by the school teachers to spread better understanding of the aims and benefits of their endeavors. Today it is a regular site to see a large group of teachers going out to the farms to carry on this work. Here we see Phillips Seabrook, a former Penn School boy who is now teacher of agriculture employed jointly by the state of South Carolina and Penn School stopping off at a farm to show one of his students how to measure his school acre. The teacher and student discuss with the boy's father the ground he is to be allowed for his own school acre. 70 paces and a stake goes in. Then 70 paces more as each corner of the acre is marked off. Arithmetic of the classroom given a very practical meaning in the field and it doesn't stop with measurement of the acre. The fair rental for the land is figured. The cost of the seeds, fertilizer and time of workmen and animal and the net returns of the crop make a computation well worthwhile. The influence of this home acre has been great in the life of island farmers not only through the education of a new generation in modern farming methods crop rotation, replenishment of the soil and so forth but the direct comparison of the productivity of the student's acre and that of his father's land has done much to win over the adults to more progressive farming practice. Of course the home acre is the practice acre and does not always turn out 100% successfully. It reflects the amount of learning each student has absorbed on the school farm the testing of the soil, of the seed, planting methods, fertilization the study of the crops that are soil builders and those that are the soil robbers. Nevertheless the keen competition encouraged by the corn club which is made up of all agricultural students with home acres usually shows gratifying results. Better farm animals too are helping in the revolution of the farming system at St. Helena. The scrub stock that for years had been allowed to deteriorate further and further until cows were half the size and gave only a fraction of the milk expected of well bred stock was one of the most serious deterrents to profitable farming on the islands.  Poorly bred and graded chickens produced hardly enough to warrant their keep. When our school farm was carved out of land that had not seen across the tasks of overseers had kept these boys' grandfathers on those same acres a Penn School trustee sent a pure bred bull down to the school and we began to build up a small herd of cattle our purpose not only to demonstrate to our agricultural students what could be expected of good cattle but this herd was to be the nucleus of an island wide herd of improved stock. Here we see the marked contrast between the typical scrub cow of the islands and the well bred replacements that are now being introduced onto more and more St. Helena farms each year. As the school farm herd increased modern silos, milking sheds and barns were erected. Mostly through the skill and labors of the boys' carpentry and masonry classes under the supervision of Hampton graduates the school's vocational instructors. The oyster shell concrete work going forward to song and laughter as the boys often use their own ox carts to carry sand and oyster shells from nearby rivers and the oyster canneries. The carpentry work reigned with favorite spirituals punctuated by staccato hammer blows. Building for the future is the spirit of school and people of the islands. Building better citizens, better families, better farms, better stock, a better life. And this building for a better life begins early in life with him school. Meet Henny Penny. She teaches the mysteries of the chicken and the egg to five and six year olds. Thus is the child's farming begun. They feed Henny Penny grain and green stuff and water. They count the eggs she lays. They learn how to keep her healthy and well. They watch her set upon her eggs and hatch her chicks for a new generation of Henny pennies. And most of all at their early age they catch the full significance of her name. Henny Penny is an important source of food and income for the island people. Then tiny heads weary with the weight of learning succumb to the sand man at nap time. Each has a map to spread upon the floor. They sit upon their maps and sing their favorite lullaby until one by one they rest their little heads in breakfast slumber. Century keeping on the islands is as often a woman's as a man's occupation. Hence the young girl's vocational class studies the methods as well as the economics of chicken raising. Carries forward the early education that built honest respect for Henny Penny and all her tribe. At the school farm poultry is a subject of major importance for the young farm students. Not only the proper feeding, treatment for common diseases, proper housing and so forth are stressed, but the teacher shows the student how to cull the flock by measuring the growing chicken to ascertain which will be prolific layers. In back of the better home of which we will speak a little later is the garden of the older girl vocational students. Here again the house garden is the woman's province to raise vegetables not only for the table but for preserving for the household's wintertime needs. Preparing vegetables for canning is under the direction of the school's home economics instructor who also instructs in the cooking and serving of meals in the better home. Literally tens of thousands of jars of foodstuffs have been put up on the islands since this home economics course has been in existence. All directly creditable to the efforts and instruction of Penn School women. Women who have been the hub of much of the advancement on the islands. Women who stand as the spiritual anchor for their mates. Women who work in the fields and thank God for the right to be free. To work their own acres. To reap the harvest. Not only of food but of self-respect. Independence. Peace of mind, soul and body. Give us this day our daily bread. Things of the mind and hand. A decadence in all hand work on the islands had been an unforeseen byproduct of emancipation. Trained skills of the slaves were lost. The freed man, as we have seen, longed for the book to take the place of all labor. And in the course of half a century it had come to pass that practically all the farm repair work was carried to nearby Buttefoot or to Savannah. When soon after my arrival I heard a white friend say of the island boys that he had never seen such a total lack of mechanical skill. But nearly all who attempted to unscrew a nut naturally turned it to the right. I wondered why they shouldn't. Considering that they had never had an opportunity at school or at home to loosen nuts or struggle with any mechanical appliances. If the farm were to come to school surely the farm tools and home necessities should have a place in the school curriculum. And so the school shops became another branch of our vocational training. Our cope industrial building was the first large structure built by the islanders themselves built to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the founding of Penn School. From all corners of the island came the wagons, plows and other farm tools to be mended at the new cope shops, often the boy who mended the tool taking it home at night. Down the oyster shell road anew went close a connection between school, farm and home. Not only did the blacksmith shops mend the tools the carpenter shop took its important place in the scheme of life the young carpenter sharing in the building of many of the better homes for the islands. All the work in these shops has been teaching the real things in life. Tools have joined the pens and pencils of the classroom. The young farmers have moved up from the primitive hoe to the mowing machine the thresher and the tractor and the school shops have kept pace with the proper maintenance of these machines. They are learning welding, they are learning how electricity should be handled through practical experience in electrical maintenance work at the school. They are learning how to run a water system, the incubators and how to crush the sugarcane and make cane syrup. The young cobblers and harness makers have been repairing shoes to keep hundreds of children in school. They have seen the transformation from crude leather straps mended with strings to the best grade of harness. A pole string is also an activity in the co-industrial building. It must be kept clearly in mind that Penn School is not merely an agricultural school or a trade school. All of the less novel but equally essential academic subjects are taught and form the backbone of the child's education. The farm and the shops play their part in equipping the boys and girls for life in the country with ideas of leadership in homemaking, farming, and those who go off island are better prepared to meet the realities of life if they have been meeting them all through their school course. When the great hurricane and tidal wave visited the sea island several years ago and caused so much loss and suffering among the people the Red Cross and the government stepped in to help them onto their feet again. One of the activities being carried on at that time was the making of mattresses from materials supplied by the government and fabricated by native artists. The craft inaugurated in this manner has been continued. More than 1200 of these mattresses have been made to date at Penn School from fresh sweet snowy cotton beaten into downy fluffiness by willing and experienced hands. The girl sewing class is a major importance in island life. For here these girls not only are taught the fundamentals of sewing, so essential to any home, but they are shown how to make useful things from what otherwise would be wasted materials, salvaging, dyeing, and remaking old dress materials into new garments, the making of rag rugs and draperies from dyed flower sacks, and so on. It is the economy of the islands that everything must serve some use for purpose for with so little money income on the one hand and a people with an instilled earnest desire for better living on the other only by great ingenuity can both ends be made to meet. One of the first classes to be started on industrial work was a class of boys who had learned to weave the island baskets. This bit of industrial work is not only a holdover from the old days, but has an African origin. We had found Alfred Graham, one of the plantation craftsmen, who had held on to his gift using brushes that grow in the tidal rivers and sewing them with strips of palmetto. He had learned to make baskets from his African uncle and in turn passed the skill on to his grand-nephew. From the first work baskets, the shop has taught the children of today to make scrap baskets, clothes hamses which are sometimes beautiful enough for a museum, and wood baskets such as we found used on the farms. In addition, many types of smaller baskets, hot pads, coasters, and other articles are now among the regularly made items. The boys carry through the whole operation from the gathering of the reeds and excursion all look forward to to the final weaving of the baskets. The grand-nephew who now teaches the craft has been through the same temptations his boys will have to meet. Within a year of his graduation at Penn School, he had drifted to a nearby city where the lights and cash and good times proved to be more enduring than the country's school. His mother had other plans for George. She followed him off Ireland and her determination resulted in the boys developing into a graduate teacher at Penn School with all the feeling for the beautiful craft and all the pride of his old African ancestors in its standard being maintained. Typical of the effects of the campaign for better homes on the islands are such homes as orchard cottage, which, like many of the school buildings, have been the products of the boys' carpentry classes and graduate Ireland students. It all started when a letter came from Washington asking us to join in the national movement for home improvement and a new thrill was given to the very common tasks of women on our islands. The outline sent gave us all the suggestions and these young Negro men and women who had heard their own grandparents tell of that not too far away time when individual family life on the islands was unknown. Furnished and exhibited a cottage which, in the first year's national campaign, won third prize in competition with 961 other communities. In the furnishing of this better home was learned by economic necessity how something could be made from nothing. Boudoir chairs from barrels, dressing tables from old packing cases, rag rugs from old stockings and other material scraps, cribs and cradles from crates, draperies from dyed and appliqued flower sacks. The next year there are efforts won second prize. Since then we have gone on year after year and always has come the letter from Washington, two from the president himself bringing some news of honorable mention or some award and this has served to deepen interest but the winning was the lesser of the goods brought by the campaigns whose influence has put a stamp on hundreds of island homes. And not all of the benefits of home projects were of material nature. The dinner and recreation hours for the young people under the elevating influence of superior surroundings taught almost unconsciously those lessons and amenities needed in every home. Public health on the islands has improved steadily with the enlightenment of the people. And from Dr. Bailey, a Penn School student and later a Howard graduate dared to inaugurate the practice of medicine on the islands. He came not only as a physician but as a missionary to inspire new confidence in modern medicine among his people. To teach health as well as to minister to the sick. A measure of the success of his work is found in a survey made under Dr. Thomas J. Wooster Jr. of the research department of the University of North Carolina which showed our infant mortality rate on the island to be 48 per 1,000 lower than the average the same year in the 23 largest American cities. And speaking of public health one of the activities which has done most to offset the former detrimental superstition of the islands that of the fear of night air which previous to screening brought the malaria mosquito has educated the people that air is a paramount necessity to help. An interesting science class experiment shows what lack of oxygen will do to a flame like into a human life itself. In the miniature house plugged windows and other ventilation means smother the flame of candles put them out like human lives. The effect of this lesson has been great on island inhabitants. But all the activities of the school are not serious. Young boys and girls who have the native African urge to dance express themselves in folk dances that have been developed over the years into historic displays of the inherent rhythmic art of these people such as this dance which celebrates the harvest of the cotton crop. The great desire for learning evidenced in the very beginning when newly freed slave men, women and children flocked into the school singing the old plantation spiritual I would like to read, like to read, like to read that sweet story of old is characteristic of the devotion the island people have always had for Penn school. In the early days the children often came to school weary before the school tasks could begin the boys and girls having walked from one to nine miles to get there or having rowed up the tidal rivers our school has met that problem too but providing buses called chariots which are sent to certain rallying points to shorten the two long journeys. Penn school being primarily a day school these buses take the place of dormitories in a measure and children continue to be a sort of rural newspaper as they carry the news from school to home every evening. Penn school has another first to talk about the first Negro girl scout troop south of Baltimore here in true scout fashion is taught character and morale sugarcoated with plenty of plain ordinary fun six years ago we built the new school house the grown-ups wanted to come to school too mothers and grandmothers made up the first adult groups they called themselves the community class this weekly connection with the school has made them a link with the whole island they do not come just to get for themselves either for as they sing the island spirituals they so busily on quilts which will find the way to some home where there is great need in their words someone is worse off than we and while we're talking about the older people in our praise house has found the simplest form of the Christian religion I have ever seen on every one of the old plantations you will come across a tiny building furnished with rude backless benches and a leaders stand in front in slave days these praise houses served as places for religious meetings every Tuesday Thursday and Saturday nights these praise houses conveniently located on the old plantations were used when it was not easy to travel over country roads in the dark and the churches were used only for the midday Sunday services let us look in for a moment on their service Dear master Jesus we all unspeakable come make us a call to share a day we are not unbut poor, easy, easy open women and people ain't think much about me we ain't trust ass in a damn great high people for come to we church but though you is the one great master great too much than master Lincoln you ain't shamed to care for we African people come to we dear master Jesus shouts are occasionally held in the praise houses they grow less frequent as the years pass evidently these were linked with the old African days changed in America to fit into the new religious life they adopted so promptly they start as the praise house meeting is breaking up with the singing of the old spiritual oh my sister or oh my brother as the case may be as they circle around welcoming their neighbors the watchful leader sees to it that no one crosses to foot for that savers too much of the worldly dance our singing, our working and our worship go together it is easier to chop wood to the rhythm of an old spiritual it is easier to scrub and wash as you sing and it is easier to feel close to God when we open our throats and rousing anthems the marked contrast between the old praise house services and the present day church worship on the islands is really not such a contrast when you consider that book represent the inherent sincerity and spontaneity of the Negro nature both are succeeding stages in their development from native unlettered superstition toward enlightened religion all through which cannot be subdued the characteristic rhythmic expression of music and living over this backdrop of a simple, genuine people going their various ways to useful moral and mind-elevating endeavors on this out-of-the-way island off South Carolina can be seen the beginnings of a great educational and racial revolution a movement that is all too late in coming that must stem the growing tide in many localities throughout the world it is noteworthy that Penn School has come to the notice and study of educators and governments of almost every oppressed, backward or underprivileged people of the globe the state of South Carolina recognized the merits of the methods for vocational and rural training practiced at Penn School long ago and a permanent installation, Arnett House, has been made at Penn School for the use of South Carolina state cost students so that they may study Penn School methods of carrying the schools to the farms and the homes the General Education Board of New York and other educational foundations are interested in Penn School as a standard bearer in Negro education a map hangs in our house which shows most of Europe, Asia and Africa and into this map are stuck different colored pins that dot the many, many places from which notable people have come to observe Penn School methods and to carry their lesson back to their own country and no one knows as well as the people of the islands themselves what Penn School has meant to them to their fathers and their fathers' fathers who have traveled the long and often hopeless road to new horizons for themselves and the whole Negro race We thank thee for the gift of thy darling son, Jesus through whose suffering, death and resurrection we have been redeemed from the power of sin We thank thee for our principles and instructors who are giving their lives for the education of our children We thank thee for this school which is the light It is the bridge over the Red Sea into the promised land for our people It is the Moses and it is the pillar of cloud by day and the pillar of fire by night O Lord, bless the friends of the school whose spiritual and material health has made it possible to carry on this great work for more than 80 years those sympathetic men, women and all walks of life who understand what Penn School means to us under the whole Negro race O Lord, we pray that their health will continue and the number of our friends increase for there is much yet to be done Our progress has been slow Could we not merely learn lessons? We are learning a new life a better life a more useful life learning things of the spirit as well as of the mind and hands These lessons we have received


oh my god there's a bloody box in the middle of the forest hey guys realistic gaming here welcome back to another video today we're gonna be playing the gravy now this is supposed to be like a last episode from the amazing world of gumbo I'm pretty sure you guys have heard of that cartoon it's on Cartoon Network it used to be very popular I'm not sure anymore because I do not watch Cartoon Network anymore and also winner of the comment of the week goes to Role Blacks Boy thank you for the poem and make sure to comment below for your code alright so let's begin with this and get ready for some ruined childhood vibes well I'm not sure but I'm pretty sure we're gonna get some little vibes here so let's begin with this oh look at this curly games kind of sounds like curly fries and don't look like curly fries now I want curly fries thank you so much curly oh the amazing world of gumbo episode zero the grieving okay do not match at our cost do not watch at our cost my god okay this is pretty weird this is not the usual intro or is it I don't remember but it looks weird okay so that's some sort of intro let's see who we're getting ourselves into the grieving oh nice oh we got gumbo on the school okay says you are gumbo task be upset and look around the school for the very last time my god okay so I'm getting some creepy vibes here the school is so dark dude there's blood on the ground over there right you know what let's go ahead let's go down this hallway I don't want to go down the bloody hallway why I mean this is a hallway but the other one had blood okay so let's go check this side out okay so we're just supposed to look around the school as you task ask us to do that I'm scared something's gonna jump out and what exactly we're looking around for like why we would be here when the school is empty oh look the principal Brown's office so we check oh wait dude is that an open door okay I don't know but let's say we can my okay there's a lot of open doors over here oh look at this the grieving it's written on the chalkboard dude that was a good one just care oh we got the dad here why was he crying okay you are Richard task keep on clicking to cry more louder huh left click to cry louder okay this is so weird now we're the dad and we're crying around the house okay that crying is definitely getting louder and scary can we go upstairs although it's closed off okay I'm getting a little weirded out here okay so he's just gonna cry and cry okay I'm like dude I'm like breaking my mouth I'm tapping away okay how much do we have to cry or maybe we have to find something okay okay there's a picture right there of Easter Bunny and maybe we go to the front door okay so I guess we're just gonna cry our life away as Richard let's see how that goes and let's go to the door okay no he's just gonna be a crime oh okay what what is the mom doing here oh my god watch the TV and cry dude the tall gumball Darwin and I on the TV they're dead well gumball not dead the other two are okay this is getting way too loud oh my god okay so we just keep on clicking forever and ever okay can you stop staring at me mother she's just standing there okay she's mourning with me so it seems like oh my god okay that was horrible okay so now both parents are crying in the living room so I wonder what happened to Anna Ian Darwin okay you're principal brown task talk to the water since about where the kids have gone okay listen mr. water said oh no I didn't get to read that I just can't wait like this Richard crying all the time I just worried about them the police aren't doing their jobs quick enough okay so they can't find the kids Mr. Waters and calm down they already found that nice and Darwin gumball is at your house don't get concerned my god okay so they found Darwin alive wait they already found them oh thank god what happened to them but they're okay where are they are they find tell me tell me okay so she's freaking out I mean I would too they found that nice and Darwin but they weren't found alive oh my god okay so they're dead like who killed them what what do you mean no please no this can't be happening what have we done Richard oh my god okay so they're blaming themselves now but they don't know what exactly happened I'm so sorry mr. mrs. Waters and they found half their bodies in the forest doom 10 minutes ago there's not much they can do now my god so they found a dead bodies in the forest that sounds pretty tragic man I want to know with the whole story behind this just getting an interesting as we can see oh okay so we have arrived at the doom forest of the forest of doom task okay so where the cops now with a donut cop find the missing children and I anneas and Darwin oh my god okay so now we have to look for them this is gonna be creepy oh my god it's so dark out here oh no what I can't see a thing okay you know what let's just go this way let's just follow this dark path okay I kind of like this though it's very creepy which I enjoy playing scary games okay dude it's way too dark over here somebody help I'm gonna get lost out here myself okay so we need to find Darwin the goldfish and Ania the bunny the little rabbit um okay we can't go this way go back go back go back officers I like this donut cop in the carton these like hilarious okay um I did not see anything out here except darkness hello darkness my old friend we have met again oh my god there's a bloody box in the middle of the forest oh my god don't tell me they're in there and yes what have they done to her oh my god okay so her is that just her head in the box okay and now let's go look for Darwin oh my god okay I wonder where Darwin could be I mean you might be in a box as well but I mean we need to find them ASAP okay um let's keep going down this dark way my god this is one specky forest hi guys okay um I think we're going the right way dude it's like pitch black oh okay that was supposed to happen my god there's blood trails but Darwin is nowhere to be seen but he just fell from the sky once oh my god what happened to Darwin mr. mr. water said I know that's heartbreaking but you must understand we didn't know about this I'm really sorry watch the water since cry what kind of task is that that is messed up yo okay this is horrible Richard gumball still safe at home he'll be fine yeah I don't know if gumball would be sane after knowing his brother and sister died or his pet wait I thought gumball took the bus to school this morning I saw him and he told me that he'll be there what okay so where's Darwin task why did it turn red oh I'm seeing Darwin on the screen my god okay Darwin can you hear me pretty sure he can't but it's worth to try okay um do we walk okay I can't move I can just jump in my chair maybe this is getting weird okay oh my god what is that okay so parents please I know this is very tragic for you guys I'm so sorry for your loss I mean I would be crying my heart out too okay so what do we do here exactly I'm seeing Darwin all over my screen but I can't walk maybe I'm using the wrong arrows no we can walk for some reason um can you guys help me out here I'm stuck to my chair please no somebody do something come on case if we're the principal over there you go okay so it's Darwin crying in his room I mean gumball oh god whoa okay oh my god what is going on gumball oh my god oh gosh okay um so is this the end of the grieving episode zero of the amazing world of gumball dude this has to be like the most insane cartoon episode last episode that I've seen oh my god okay this is crazy yo um something's happening something is going on in the background it's turning red okay I think we have survived the grieving this is not a game by the owner of the amazing world of gumball this is a creepy pasta horror game made by curly games I created the models in this game but I did not claim the owner character designer textures as always thanks for playing until next time while mr. curly games this was totally a different experience from what cartoon network would give me this was very insane I don't know what to make of this it was just crazy overall I mean I like the scariness behind it but even that the game was pretty um gruesome pretty horror itself I don't know I mean it lived up to his exe right I mean it's an exe game so that's why it was all crazy and all these crazy things were happening all over the place well um all right mr. curly games I like to say I enjoyed the game it was pretty cool overall well thank you guys for watching thank you guys for the amazing support if you guys enjoyed the video make sure to slap the like button if you're new to the channel make sure to subscribe and turn that notification bell on and I will see you guys in the next one hey guys real estate gaming here in my my here hey guys real estate gaming here today we're here with Mikey from pixel game squad should go check them out right so today there was a new sonic trailer for a sonic movie which is like live-action sort of like the Pikachu one the detective Pikachu so that's why today we're all Sonic EXE the assault we couldn't find any other sonic game but this is like the latest one we found so new we are two months ago this is the newest one so let's see what this is about Sonic EXE the assault better be scary with chain of characters loading to your solution okay where are we at oh it looks creepy already let me put the volume up that's on his room or way might be man okay so the volume is all the way up to see how this goes wait there's two doors which in do we take left or right all right so we figured out the controls we have these arrows which is pretty weird because not many games use the arrows and these kind of games so let's click this all right there you go dude these are the weirdest controls ever all right so sonic was sleeping in the in the basement or what I don't know what Sonic is doing down there man or maybe you got abducted or something oh look sure Sonic's room it looks pretty cool hey man I've never seen this in a Sonic game I like it Sonic we got Sonic first day of school right there first day of school what is that in the amiibo of Sonic look Sonic mania a Sonic tails and knuckles that's the squad right there man okay so the pianos playing on itself I don't know what's going on here yo can we play this in the beat hey are we are you playing I think you are no no I don't think we are what this is sad to see my mother roaming our house guarding with teary eyes and worried looks gazing at every inch of the place looking for a trace that might lead us to unfold the mystery of the sudden disappearance of our lovely cat okay so the cat disappeared now that both of them both of them are gone I feel lonely oh God so kitty in the house in the house there's nobody no kitty okay how do you get out of this escape that works only his only way so there's a big room in the room or what is that I don't know man let's go see what's going on here they have a ceiling in a room his door is locked something we have to find a cure something or maybe jump out the window nope or are you Sonic right now I have no idea you're RG okay let's see there might be a who is that I think we're that kid right there it kind of looks like you bro okay so how do we get out of this room all right man so I'm gonna go check that door down there maybe there's something that's to be something down here because we went to the room you have to pressure because I'm over here like I'm like doing some DJ mixing right let's try to open this oh okay that's weird so I didn't open the first time let's see this there's like endless doors what is going on here man at the same room bro I know that looks the same okay so we just crossed to the other side to get inside the same room it looks brighter though doesn't it or am I just blind I know it kind of does the other room did like a little dark the same no can you switch no okay so it's the same note seems to be identical to the other one this game's amazing okay do the bed no jump out the window nothing let me jump out the window so that is right for sure yeah it is the other one had like more dark like the shadows were very dark all right maybe try the door now all right let go try the door hopefully it does open no nothing maybe go downstairs again all right let's go check out run run run sprint go go go go go go go run it down it's not like it's locked in his own room wait it was closed remember was open yeah they knocked on the door okay so somebody's definitely knocked on the door we all heard that that was pretty creepy it's a loud knock too it was on away my heart started beating fast right now what the way hold on the hold it because then the stamina goes away and I can't hold in at the whole time okay nothing there's somebody knocked there has to be someone down here the door closed what we're trapped in here yo I got to get ready to push it the light went out oh god what's going on what is going on go up there go up there let's see if we can open the door dude I can't see the door he's gonna trip on his oh I shouldn't trip on his feet it's dark okay okay let's see what's behind this doesn't open it doesn't open now maybe you have to go down this way oh man yo Sonic's room is scary no wonder they never showed it in the games okay there better not be a jump scare here man this time we didn't have to go up the cellar okay wait now it's weird you know how before we had to go down the hallway oh yeah now it's at the bottom what is going on here man did it open the door close oh oh it's going dark again oh you didn't pay the light bill you didn't pay the light bill I hear like crumbling dude I hear something wait yo the pictures are moving are they oh no I think it's just my eyes but you heard that right it's like some crumbling the thing is behind there dude I didn't want to open the door oh it's probably the cat he's probably scratching on the door okay stop okay we can't open the doors anymore what is that though it's like is that like a symbol yeah Japanese writing is it is the letter the same yes yeah it's the same thing go try the other door again or maybe try to pick those up no nothing no we've only been in the in the same to my god I know right maybe we can go out now okay now we can okay so they're making you go up and down right now yeah this is weird okay down here wait what pictures they got what is that the sonic stage make of it okay what is this I love you that I loved I loved the past tense loved you so something must have happened can't even read that what does that say have what have you have done something have done I don't know man yeah things very hard to read go open the door go open oh okay that looks weird right let's do it behind the door another door what's happening here okay some weird pictures the same pictures okay that's a note right there isn't it it's a picture of a note okay now the door switch the handle switch guy so this is getting freaky dude what's up a door after door it's going on the cops outside what oh it's the letter okay there's a note right here now what does it say it's a long note curiosity kill the cat reckless adventures who did not what did not alter at the prospect of throwing themselves into the abyss and ignore the ominous omens coming from the above we'll meet their fate by the hands of a ruthless scoundrel who would deliver the sentence that will lead to their demise the act of defying destiny is an incredible wait is that incredible no it read them a ball every devil it was demobile six that is to be punished by a warning sovereign who will surely carry justice I don't know what that's supposed to mean my god creepy okay open the door now or no hopefully we can go through this door you gotta go downstairs again we know the drill or maybe let's pick this up real quick so loud oh my god do we have to go downstairs I mean there was nothing else there okay that door's closed so maybe with you oh here we go it's gonna close not yet okay there's some footsteps somebody all the doors that close no somebody's eating hot cheetos another someone's eating hot cheetos did I count the door hey open the door bro we hear you share those chips you want those cheetos let's check down here dude look at my hand okay that door won't open so we're stuck in here the door has to open open sesame they just trapped us in here what if I zoom into the door can we peep through the hole no we cannot open dude we heard you but what if it's the cat doing all this you know maybe the cat or something oh there's blood here now that wasn't there for sure wait that's where the toys were yeah they killed the toys they maybe the toys came alive and killed each other or he jumped out of the painting remember you there okay the doors open it went to the other room I'm so confused do this confusing there's a lot of weird stuff going on there supposed to be the shift prison yeah oh my god we come in peace we come to help you buddy oh sprint to him run at him bro he disappeared okay so oh maybe we have a flashlight now no oh sure cuz there's a door at their leg where's the handle at what side right there it is go straight did they get closer oh no which isn't there like what the door get closer yeah yeah go downstairs go back down I guess we finally saw something weird Sonic game I never played anything like this I feel like I'm doing something by pressing shift son he's blocking my we can't get out here really scared me bro did he turn there's image might just trip in man we could move see you is he turning I don't know I feel like he is dude that's scary okay so what do we do what if that's the flashlight oh it is we got a flashlight wow okay we got a flash I know okay the doors locked now it was going down now it goes up dude this game gets crazier by the second game is a red light or something I don't want to look because I know he's gonna be like the evil sonic oh no wait this was a door he was blocking yeah came up the opposite way wait this is a different room yeah okay now that weird music is back the windows open go outside go outside the sonic is hanging oh god what kind of game you have me playing hey you're the one that taught me about the shadow dude I'm scared that sound like Sonic X he's gonna come out wait what is that a carpet a picture of the carpet on the carpet that's an eye now and that's black now remember it was just like the sonic background yeah the doors locked it's creepy oh what that's your room do remember it was appearing remember was black right now okay some the doors open where do we go go go back downstairs go back downstairs no that's creepy music yeah that is some weird music okay go down you got a flash oh oh they turn they turn it like a you okay this is pretty scary man oh my god this is one of the creepiest games I've ever played I think it's the music that yeah well look the top the toys right there now remember was hanging now it's right here hey that was those pinata licking guys down there it's getting creepier by the second man door oh my god okay the door open now this is not gonna be good from now on I bet a door after a door oh my god this is dude how many doors is the scariest thing out it collapsed we fell down oh my god oh that glowing thing spotted from your recent memory committed to restore your energy it's drama I could see and through its gravity wisdom is the key to face this reality what mouse we're using the mouse wheel what using the mouse wheel nothing's happening wait so that's it that it I think it is oh yeah because the demo oh yeah was a demo this is a weird game I never played anything like this I mean if they finished the game that would be pretty awesome because it is just but it just leaves you the life what what is this like what even is this right you guys all this was sonic exe the assault thank you guys for watching make sure to go check out Mikey from pixel game squad on my channels and we'll see you guys on the next one bye peace oh my god what is up you guys real estate game here and today we are back in the secret life of pets dot exe now as we know the secret life of pets are like beautiful pets who doesn't love pets right dogs cats a rabbit and as we can see here we got max and the whole squad but today they turned evil that should be awesome so let's go ahead and press enter and see how this goes oh dude it turned like erupted oh no okay so we start off with Duke himself all right mr.


Let me ask you all a question. Is racism wrong? Is racial discrimination wrong? Obviously, these things are wrong and illegal, which should leave you wondering how in the hell something like DEI could infect its way into every institution without a shred of scrutiny from our so-called Protectors of Democracy. DEI is inherently racist because it devalues both whites and Asians as Inferior to literally every other group who the government and corporations put a higher value on. It really doesn't take much Imagination or intelligence to see where that leads. This was recently demonstrated in public view Thanks to a very entertaining exchange between one of the more prominent DEI promoters Mark Cuban and several others Including Elon Musk and a popular Twitter user named the rabbit hole I'm gonna fill you in on the debate up to this point and then the bombshell that happened today But first just give me a quick capitalism break so I can tell you about this free coin offer from Noble gold If you're trying to navigate market turbulence Why not set course to the Noble gold investment safe haven with global uncertainty looming your savings and retirement plans are under siege But there's one asset that has stood the test of time gold unlock the peace of mind that comes with owning gold The ultimate safe haven and if precious metals are new to you Noble gold investments will hold your hand through the entire Process they have a team of experts who will guide you every step of the way to save thousands of investors have shielded the retirement savings With noble gold investment don't leave yourself exposed to the markets right now It's way too risky with gold at an all-time high and looking to climb further It's the perfect time and right now get a free three ounce silver American virtue coin when you open an IRA with noble gold investments today act now before it's too late Call<PHONE_NUMBER> and claim your free coin now before it's too late or visit noble gold investments comm That's noble gold investments comm the only gold company I trust and remember there's always risk of investment And there are no guarantees of any kind All right So this battle over the legality of DEI began at the beginning of the month between Elon Musk and Mark Cuban After Cuban stated that DEI was critically important to the success of American corporations Saying that any CEO who doesn't implement DEI at their companies are committing malpractice What if you don't hire based on skin color and sexual preference It's malpractice which shows you right off the bat that people like Cuban are living in a completely warped reality And remember this is from a guy with an NBA basketball team that is anything but diverse Oh, that was different this caught the attention of popular ex-user the rabbit hole who chimed in to point out that Airlines are now choosing pilots based on their gender and sex rather than merit No way because think about it They're already having trouble finding qualified pilots much less with these stringent sex preference and skin color based guidelines Cuban couldn't leave it alone and responded once they graduate It's a multi-year process to have an opportunity to pilot for united looks like multiple layers of merit-based Valuations before they can fly for united Elon Musk just straight up calls him a liar And then the rabbit hole comes in for the combo punch. You said DEI does not undermine meritocracy There are many examples like the attach that indicate that statement is incorrect. DEI is not worth defending Let's work together to pursue colorblind meritocracy instead Since then they've been going back and forth on this with Mark Cuban seemingly completely unaware that what he supports is systemic racial discrimination But seeing it as somehow different when it's done in service of an acronym Now that brings us to the last few days with the rabbit hole Discrediting Cuban to the point where he's whining about mean people Twitter has changed a lot I can remember a few times a years ago I could post and expect responses from both sides of an issue leading to an interesting discussion Now it's fun to post on X just to show that I can't be intimidated by mom's In the echo chamber. It was at that moment that Mark Cuban Wandered into an actual field of rakes named Andrea R. Lucas Commissioner of the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission It starts with the rabbit hole saying yes I would be against hiring a white person purely because they are a white person don't hire anyone whites blacks or otherwise on the Basis of demographics colorblind meritocracy should be the goal like I've repeatedly said over and over Cuban comes back now explain How far your demographics extend? religion politics ethnicity Geography what exactly? Don't you get I believe in a colorblind meritocracy This means I am against forms of hiring which undercut merit including forms of hiring which cut out merited individuals over their group Association I've answered plenty of your questions So you got to do one for me title seven of the civil rights act of 1964 prohibits employment discrimination based on race Religion sex and national origin. Have you ever hired people on the basis of demographics on the belief that doing so better Positioned your companies to succeed. Oh boy. Is this great? I've never hired anyone based Exclusively on race gender or religion. I only ever hire the person that will put my business in the best position to succeed And yes race and gender can be part of the equation.  You know that don't you EEOC commissioner here? Unfortunately, you're dead wrong on black letter title seven law as a general rule race and sex can't be used as a Motivating factor nor a plus factor tiebreaker or tipping point You've got to stop it. Is there any way to stop it? I can't it's irreversible What do you all think will there be any repercussions for what mark Cuban has admitted that he and other companies in this country are doing? It's undeniable that it's illegal racial discrimination at this point But will anything happen make sure to let me know in the comments after you hit that like button trust me When I tell you there's a lot more to read here that I didn't share because it would take an hour to do the whole thing And I just don't have that time, but I'll put a link to all these exchanges in my description


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Have you ever had a man end a relationship with you only to attach himself to the very next woman he met? In fact, maybe even go on to marry this person. I got to share with you, this seems to be a pattern that I've noticed over the last decade in particular in the dating, mating or relating realm. In fact, it's such a pattern that I've gotten many comments on this lately from a previous video I did and I thought I'd do a repeat video because I think it's important to address why a man might choose one woman over another and what you can do about it and please ladies, stop chasing men because it seems like you have a propensity of chasing men when this happens instead of actually leaning into your sovereignty, your self-worth, your self-esteem. In fact, that's what my book is about.  A journey of personal development, self-opening spiritual work and I'm inviting you all to lean into that sovereignty within yourself because it doesn't matter whether or not he chooses the next woman. What matters most is do you love yourself enough to know in your heart of hearts that a great guy out there exists because many of you have adopted a philosophy of desperately trying to convince men to like you, desperately trying to convince men to love you who are incapable of love. And this is because there is such a proliferation of emotionally constipated men and women. This isn't just singular to men. We have a demographic, a significant demographic of emotionally dysfunctional human beings that have weak emotional maturity and terrible relationship skills. That's right. The vast majority of humans have terrible relationship skills. This is why I work with so many women to shift that pattern so they don't attract those men who are dysfunctional and constipated. You can actually track the men who are going to choose you on the very first go-around. Are you with me on this? Because I hope you are. Okay, so I was watching a woman coach who talked about this very same subject and she merely said, ladies, if you want the man to choose you over another woman is that you simply sit in your feminine energy and receive him. Just receive him, be in your nice dress and just receive him. Really, is receiving the way it's going to work? Yeah, receiving is an important thing, but do you want to receive the wrong guy? Do you want to receive the guy that's going to work with, basically use you as his therapist? And so the minute he's healed with you, he goes and finds the very next woman to be the bright shiny penny with, okay? That's what happens. As many of you are operating as a man's therapist only to find out that he's going to choose the very next woman because you haven't stood in your power, your sovereignty, your self-worth and self-esteem. And in a few minutes, I'll talk about some ways that women give their power away. And I want you to ask yourself, do you do these very same things? Now there's going to be some very real reasons why a man might choose one woman over another. There are some significant reasons. And we're going to talk about that right now. Let's talk about one. And by the way, this is in no particular order, okay? But number one is I shared in the previous video is the other woman that he meets is less effort than you. Now what I mean by not less effort as if in you are, you know, she's low hanging fruit, although that could be the reason why a lot of men aren't capable of being in relationship with a strong, confident woman. That's true. A lot of men aren't capable of that. And some men choose what I call low hanging fruit to enter into relationship with, but I'll tell you something about the low hanging fruit woman. That's only a temporary relationship. So one thing I want to say to all of you that have noticed that men literally end a relationship with you and choose the very next woman. He might even marry that next woman. I'm going to say statistically speaking, 75% of the time that relationship isn't going to work out. So just because he did it doesn't mean it's going to work. And yet an emotionally healthy man, an emotional grown-up man might choose a woman that fits in his lifestyle, there isn't. So with sometimes we date from both men and women might date, like during COVID for example, a lot of men and women dated from somewhat of a dependency perspective. This is even true for those men who are growers and builders. I think COVID caused many people to seek companionship connection and sex, but weren't capable of leaning into commitment. So what they have done is once a man is healed, he might say, I'm going to choose a woman who truly fits in my lifestyle, where we actually share the same values, the same passions in life. Whereas he might not have with the woman he was previously with.  Some people aren't as sexually compatible as others. You know, here's the thing, this is a really tricky one. This is a tricky one for you ladies, because I know many of you don't want to enter in relationship with a man who's not a good lover. That's kind of the risk you, this is the one of the challenges that many of you have expressed to me as Jonathan. I want to wait to have sex with someone, but at the same time I might want to have sex early to determine if he's a good lover.  Okay, and I've heard this many, I've heard a lot of you women tell me you've met guys like that. And then I feel sorry for those men that have that. And yet it's kind of like Goldilocks, you know, the porridge, you know, not too big, not too small, just right. You know, many of you are happy with the just right.  Well, the same is true with men. It might be that you're not sexually compatible. And then he's like, this doesn't fit for him. And he wants to be with someone else. I am hoping that sex isn't the only criteria because I'm hoping there's more to the relationship for both of you if the sex isn't great, but for some men that's such a significant part of their needs that they might shift relationships for that reason alone. But that's usually not the real reason, but that can be. Number two, the emotional, more importantly, the energetic connection with the person that they're with isn't that strong. They might like the person, but it isn't over the top like them. I see a lot of women accept men who give crumbs because they like the woman, but it's not over the top like. Folks, many of you know I'm in relationship. There's a picture of my sweetheart Marie.  I'd been connecting with some women and they were nice connection with them. It was nice, but for some reason when I met Marie, it felt over the top and it wasn't just looks. It wasn't, it was really something and intangible. Energetic connection is an intangible that you can't really quantify, you can't qualify it. It just is there, it's not. We sometimes use the term chemistry, but it's not chemistry. Chemistry is more the sexual arousal we feel with someone, whereas energetic connection, which might be associated with chemistry, is really the serotonin being released in our brain. So when we think of chemistry in the initial stages, we think of dopamine. Dopamine is like crack cocaine. And I'll snap, give myself a shot in injection of crack cocaine to illustrate this, but early stages of chemistry is usually based on lust, okay? When you have a real energetic connection with someone, serotonin is released in our brain, which is the feel good feeling of love, okay? Real, more like the calm place of love, more like the, this person, I just feel good being around. You know, ultimately when a man commits, he commits usually with someone who's his lover, but more importantly, he just feels good being around her.  But let me tell you, it's there from the, listen, maybe not the first date per se, maybe not the second date per se, maybe not the third date. But if a man sees you four time and he isn't over the top into you, and I don't mean love into you to get you in your pants, okay? Let's differentiate.  The grower and builder type of men, those men who genuinely want a serious relationship, they might want sex, they might drop an innuendo here, but they're not leading with sex. They're leading with actually wanting to get to know you because they feel good energetically around you, okay? And if a man isn't actively putting energy towards you, non-sexually, if it's ambivalent, it's like, hey, it sends text message, you know, I'm really busy, I've got businesses, I've got, it's always, you know, busy is the number one excuse men say to validate their reason for not being into you, because it's easy to use busy as the excuse of saying, I'm just not that into you. And that's what most men do.  Number four, higher compatibility. Some people, you know, friend of mine once dated a man who, you know, they shared the same passion of snow skiing and yet that was it. Their lifestyles were different, their philosophies, they're different, their ideologies were different. They shared one passion of snow skiing and everything else about them was different. And some men will view that and they get attached to someone because they share the same passion and will spend time with that person because they shared whatever that passion is, my, by the way, but they realized that they don't fit into this man's life. They're not compatible with one another and he'll end a relationship with her and choose a woman who actually fits into his lifestyle. You know, many of you know, I was in a long, we were at long distance dating. I wasn't interested in long distance dating. It wasn't until I realized that her lifestyle and the balance of her life is compatible with mine, it just needed a little bit of tweaking. Well, we had serious conversation to determine that tweaking to make that happen and many of you are afraid to even speak up.  Do you like me? Ask him that, do you like me? And then see how he responds and most likely who responded in some kind to say, well, then I'd like to explore a relationship with you. And then you see his medal, you see who he's made of, you see his character because in that moment, you see if he's serious about wanting commitment or is he going to give you the usual excuses, man, no say. And you all know the excuses, I'm busy, I don't know if I feel, I don't know if I want a serious relationship, I'm not feeling it yet. Well, that's a fair statement, I'm not feeling it yet. But let me tell you, most men buy the fourth date. Now, let's exclude the meet and greet, but four dates, okay? Four dates after the meet and greet, okay? Four dates.  Men who are growers and builders, they will actively pursue a relationship with you sooner rather than later because number five says that he's in a good place in his life. You know, several years before I met Marie, I was a train wreck. I just lost my 19 year old son. There's a picture of Connor right there in the Obey shirt. I was a train wreck for a while. I wasn't in a good place to entertain a relationship. No matter what has happened in a man's life, if he's not in a good place with you, you might have spent that time helping him heal unbeknownst to yourself. So he actually gets prepared to choose the next woman because you happen to be the person that helped him heal. And then guess what? He wants to be a bright, shiny penny to someone new. So he's got to be in a good place in your life before you should strongly consider a relationship with a man. Number six is timing. Timing plays a role. You know, Marie and I met a year earlier online, but it wasn't the right time. The time that we met was the right time. Sometimes it's just the timing. And the timing you met a guy isn't the right time for him just for all the reasons I've expressed. And what happens is the next person he meets just happens to be right time. And number seven, and this is the most important thing many of you need to hear. The woman he's with doesn't love herself. She doesn't respect herself. And the next woman has that self-love piece. I talked about that in my book, What That Could Self Love Anyway. By the way, there's a link below to get a copy of my book. She loves herself. She has self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence, self-esteem. Because here's the bottom line. Many of you are giving your power away to men. You're just giving your power away to men. And if you need some examples to illustrate this, let me share what you do. The relationship is all on his terms. You abandon your standards and boundaries with a man that's giving your power away.  An example of a standard I share, this is my standard standards. Is a relationship where you spend two, three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in your personal and your professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either moving in together, getting married, that's a standard.  And if I let him leave, he'll claim me. And if I just act like a doormat, he'll claim me. Ladies, princess energy is only going to attract the more dysfunctional men, the women who stand in their power have a get bread or chance of attracting a great guy. Number two, you're afraid to speak your truth with a guy. Oh my God. So many of you are literally, you're like, if I put duct tape over my mouth, this is the ability to speak, we're literally able to speak because you're afraid to speak your truth. Listen, right now, I want everyone to make an agreement with me right now, right in the chat box or post a comment, Jonathan, from this day forward, I will speak my truth and I will do it in a kind and loving way because if it's sincere and from the heart, I can't say the wrong thing to the right person. Will everyone agree to state, I will speak my truth going forward from this day forward. Please write that down. Number three, when the relationship ends, all you do is focus on him. It's all about him, it's about him and it's about why didn't he love me enough? Why didn't he do this? Why didn't he do that? Folks, the minute you make it about him, he has your power. What's the benefit of giving the power to him? All it does is, and by the way, you become a magnetic attractor for more men to give your power away. I want everyone to stand in their power today. Number four, waiting for him to initiate contact. It's always, why do men ghost? Why do men disappear? Why do men stop texting?  By the way, if a man goes silent for a couple of days, have you reached out to him?  Sorry, that's my truth. And for whatever reason, I wasn't feeling energetic connection and I was really just pondering it for a couple of days and I didn't reach out to her. So you know what she did? She reached out, said, Jonathan, I'm sensing something's off between us, is my gut right? And I said, your gut is right, something is off, I'm just not feeling it in this relationship. So sadly, we had a text conversation, we didn't have a verbal conversation, but the reality is is by initiating that text, she got me to open up. You can do the same thing.  So many of you are doing this, I want you to stop it. Number six, feeling like you can't live without him. Like as if he's the only, listen, I get it. You've been with a man where you felt something special, unlike what you may have felt in the previous decade or two or three, I get it. But guess what? It can happen again. And guess what? It can happen again and again. When you are a magnetic attractor, when you've adopted the philosophy it is raining great man, it is raining great man, you can always find a man you feel great with. And lastly, you think the other person is the only person in the entire universe who will love you and have this chemistry. That is fantasy thinking that is giving your power away. And let me tell you something, ladies, many of you argue for your limitations. You have this capacity to gaslight yourself. Do you know the ego is, by the way, the greatest narcissism we have is the gaslighting we do to ourselves, the way we rationalize our behavior to, not what's the word I'm looking for, to argue for our limitations.  Let me ask you, have you been in love more than once? If you have, it can happen again and again and again. Is this sinking in, is this resonating? Please let me know if it is. Please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel. In the description below you can schedule a discovery call with me. Right there, johnathanasley.com coaching to see if working with a coach is right for you. My job is to help you do a better job of vetting these men so you don't find yourself with men who leave you for someone else. All right, I think this will be a great place to take questions. If you have a question for me, post the word question then write the question there after or you can choose the dollar sign there. You can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's him right there in that obey shirt. He's the son who passed away. Oh my God, it's coming up on five years. And in his honor, I donate to causes like the Hoffman process and Insight Institute just to name a few. And if you're watching the replay, you can hit the super thing. So with that said, if you have a question, write the word question and post the question there after and I saw that Wanda posted a question a little while ago, let me find it here. Here we go, question. You can see she wrote the word question first. I'm going to wait for the over the top. I'm 58, so I have no time to waste for breadcrumbers. Am I right to wait? I think it was Mark Manson. I could be butchering this. Where is his book? Where is his book? It may not be, I think it was Mark Manson that wrote this, but he wrote the subtle art of not giving up F, fuck.  So what he was meant by that, if you're not feeling awesome, if you're feeling doubt, if you're feeling fear, if you're feeling anxiety, then it's probably a no. You should be feeling such overwhelming excitement for someone that I mean, listen, listen, I know many of you know that with Maria, I'm over the top excited. And that's because I'm blessed to actually be, be in relationship with who now is my best friend. We love hanging out with each other. We love just shooting this. Our favorite activity is our morning coffee from six 30 to eight o'clock before I go to work. And that's our, we do that for an hour, mostly an hour, hour and a half every day. It's our favorite activity. It feels exciting to be with someone whom you actually can speak from the heart and have real, true, intimate conversations. Not about how's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. Most of you are in cyber relationships with men over your, all you're doing is talking on your smartphones. All you do is talk on your smartphones. How's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. That's about the extent of many of your conversations. You know, folks, I want to read you a meme. That's my favorite meme. And I'm going to share this with everyone because this is how my life is.  I want to talk about atoms, death, alien sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, far away galaxies, music that makes you feel different, memories, the lies you've told, your flaws, your favorite scent, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears. I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't want to know what's up. I might ask my sweetheart how she's feeling because she does have shoulder impingement. But I don't ask about her day. We talk about what happens from the heart. And we talk about twisted things. Believe me, I have a twisted mind. She probably is exhausted with my twisted mind. But the same time, that allows for deeper depth and intimacy and that's my invitation for everyone. Is that sinking in with you? I hope so. Wanda, thank you for your question. Don't waste time with a breadcrumber. Let's see what else we got. I'm glad to hear Jennifer says, I will speak my truth going forward. Wanda says, I will speak my truth going forward. Cassandra says, I will speak my truth from this day going forward. Newsy says, I will speak my truth always. I'm happy to hear this. Holly even says that. And my sweetheart, Leif, thank you so much. From this day forward, I'll speak my truth. Okay, let's see what other questions we have. Let's keep swimming in. If you have a question, post that question. Here we go, Jennifer writes, question. Why do men come back to some women after picking another one? I've had that happen to me even years later. Great question. I love this question. So this reminds me of a story about my son, Colin, who I remember once we, this isn't an analogy, so give me a minute to share this. So I think when he was 14 years old, he wanted to get this video game that came out at midnight at Best Buy or GameStop. And so we had to wait in line. In fact, we got there at four in the afternoon and the line was 20 people. And by midnight, when the store opened to give this game out, there was probably 2,000 or more people in line that went back several football fields. Okay, so he gets the video game and he plays, I think it was Halo or something like that. He plays it, plays it, plays it, plays it, plays it. And then a few months later, he says, dad, there's a new game that came out called Duke Nukem. I remember Connor and I went with him to get into a new video game. And he got that new video game and he played it and played it and played it. And then I said, hey, what happened to the other video game? And he said, it's sitting on the shelf. I go, do you ever play it? He goes, yeah, when I get bored. Ladies, a lot of men treat you like this video game. They know you're sitting on the shelf willing to be used for that game. See, many of you have adopted a pattern of staying close to people you were in relationship with, not as true friends, but as actually a, kinda like the way my son used video games, as a place of entertainment and as a place of curing boredom. See, that's why they go back because it's on the shelf, it's available.  He knows you're just there on the shelf. And sadly, that's why many men do it because they know you're available for them. Okay, Jennifer, I hope that helped with that question. All right, so let's see, let's go swim in. Kim says, question. Why won't he talk about his past relationships? I do not wanna hear about my pet. I do not wanna hear, wait, why won't he talk about his past relationship? I don't wanna hear about my past relationship. I'm not sure about that second part. So some men will avoid talking about their past relationships for a couple of different reasons. One, it's rather painful for him. He feels a sense of pain from him. Another, it's avoidance that he doesn't want to reveal that he was the big jackass in this relationship. Some men are incapable of actually being intimate with another person. Let me share something with you. Our past relationships give us a window into how someone will operate in a future relationship. And the other thing is when you're meeting total strangers, when you're meeting men who you know very little about, it's imperative you find out about their past relationships. It's imperative that you dig, listen, meeting strangers, we were watching, what was that show we were watching where the guy turned out to be completely, not the Tinder swindler, not Dirty John, but it was the bad vegan or bad vegan we were watching the other day. This is on Netflix, but it's a man who completely misrepresented himself and she fell for it because she did no due diligence. Plus he said he was in the CIA and he was covert operations.  And she gave her power away. And I feel sad for her and I know it was mental manipulation on her part, but at the beginning she had the capacity to be in her power. So now I went off on a tangent on this question. By the way, when someone avoids their past relationship history, then I would do everything I can to do a background check on this person because when you're meeting strangers, you know nothing about them.  This woman lost over $2 million. She went to jail for over four months and she could have went to jail for 15 years for fraud because she defrauded the business she was in. Merely because I love him so much. By the way, he was a jackass. It's not that she loved him so much. It's that she didn't love herself enough to really stand in her power. And that's the message I keep saying to you over and over again. Don't chase men. Is that sinking in? Is that resonating? Please let me know. All right, Rebecca, question. Oh, I'm sad to read this. My only son died two years ago. I find it difficult at this time as I continue to grieve my son's death. How will I know when I'm ready to enter the dating field? You know, my heart goes out to you, okay? As a parent who lost a child. And there is, I think the loss of a child is a grief that is unlike any other because when I lost my mom six months earlier, it just felt like the natural time. I think if you lose someone you love that's as equally faithful, but a child, our job is to protect our children. That's part of the duty that we have. So it's almost a failure on our own part or at least that's what it was felt like for me. So I can't give you a timeframe. What I know one thing that Connor, and this is what I said in his eulogy, I knew he did not want me to suffer one day in my life. So what did I do?  Anyway, A Journey of Personal Development, Self-Alpent, Spiritual Work, Link to Love. It was dedicated to him, okay? It was dedicated to him. He is throughout this book. Here's a picture of him in the book, okay? Why do I share this with you? I put my energy into something that allowed me to grow from the inside out. And I was actually ready to date fairly soon after that, about a year and a half after that, two years after that. I was really, it took me about two years of grieving to really feel like I was in a good place, but a lot of other factors were part of that. So with each person that's different, but Rebecca, my heart goes out to you and I'm sending you a big, gigantic Jonathan Bear hug of love right now, okay? All right. Ah, let's keep swimming, Rebecca. Grace, Brenda Grace writes, question. I just started texting someone, been two weeks, not every day. He started saying, I'm beautiful and pretty with kissing emoji. Is he love bombing me? Yeah, look it.  But Jonathan, he doesn't like phone calls. Folks, the smartphone is the worst form of communication. Our human beings weren't designed to communicate with our thumbs. Beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep. We weren't designed. Did you know 80 to 90% of all communication is non-verbal? Look at my hands moving, you know, although it's 2D, but 3D with, with scent and feel and touch and everything is part of communication. You're getting the weakest form of communication. And yes, he is most likely love bombing you to make you like him. And then he'll sleep with you and you'll be excited about sleeping with you. And then he'll stop texting you saying, I'm really, really, really busy. By the way, if he's so busy, like, well, anyway, I'm going off on a tangent. Brenda, I hope that helps. Thank you so much. Heather writes, question. Isn't it important to get to know a person before deciding if it's a hell yes? Great question.   And then you stand there and go, do I want to take another step forward? And you stand there and evaluate and feel it.  A hell yes is simply it feels good to move forward.  It's allowing you to trust your intuition. One of the chapters in my book, I forget which one it is now. Centers around learning to trust your intuition. Which chapter is it? Oh my God, with so many chapters I forget. But learning how to trust your intuition, that's what hell yes is all about. So thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. Bum, bum, bum, bum, bum. Jennifer said, thank you for answering my question about why men come back. The ones who tried to come back to me, I rejected them, way to go Jennifer. All right, let's keep going. Tanya writes question. What book do you recommend to prepare someone for getting back into the dating realm again? Great question. So one of my favorite dating books is if the Buddha dated, if the Buddha dated, this throws out the bullshit gender rhetoric and says, how can we date from a heart centered place? How can we date from our heart and not the grand expectations that we have been traditionally grown up with? So I would try that book. I love that book from a dating perspective. All right, let's keep swimming. Let's see, do we have any more? Oh, it looks like we're running out of questions. If you have a question, post the question so I can create some dialogue. Shannon says, haha, I was listening in the background. Didn't know this was live. Jonathan is my favorite dating coach. Cuts through the BS. Hi, Jonathan. Hi there, Shannon. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. By the way, if you have a personal question to ask of me, write the word personal question then post the question there after. You can ask me for the last few minutes a personal question. So Wanda says question. Shouldn't he be putting effort in order for it to be a yes? You both, again, coming back to the book if the Buddha dated. It's about mutual effort. By the way, there's a book. Hold on if I can find it. Here we go. This is not a dating or relationship book. This is a book called the partnership charter. How to start out right with your new business partnership.  I love the content in this book as an illustration of how we should negotiate or not negotiate but navigate relationships at midlife, okay? This is a business book but I highly recommend reading it because it talks about how to navigate partnerships. And another book I recommend, it's not a dating book. Oops, not, well actually sacred. This wasn't the one I was thinking of. Sacred relationships, a practice of intimate erotic love. That's an interesting book but that's not the one I wanted to pull out. It was this one. Folks, everybody should be reading how to be an adult in relationship. That would be a great book to read, okay? So to answer your question, I hope that helps some books I recommend. Question, what do you think of men who are non-confrontational by their character? I try to bring up things are on my mind. He says he's not going to argue with me. So, great. Okay, so, I want you to think of confrontation as violent. By the way, there's a great book called Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. In addition, there's one more book. I Hear You by Michael Sorenson, okay? These two books, okay? This is all about learning better ways to communicate your thoughts, your feelings to a person because when he says argue with you, it means that there is a difference of perspective, a difference of perspective, and he sees that as an argument. One of the things I love about my sweetheart, Marie, is when there's something that's bothering her, she has a capacity of bringing up in a non-violent way. What I would prefer this book to be titled is Compassionate Communication. Learning Compassionate Communication starts by expressing your feelings from a sincere place, a place of love, and it's, by the way, you can always agree to disagree, but a grown-up human being, a grown-up male, if he feels like it's confrontational when you're speaking from the heart, it means he's afraid to actually lean into deeper conversations.  It's no fun being with someone who can't connect with their heart. That's my bottom line for you all. So I hope that helps. Thanks so much, Harry. Sunny Pie writes, question. If a guy says he cares about you but needs space and haven't heard from him since he said that in a while, did he break up with me? Hey, Tim, I understand you needed space. I wanted to let you know I'm taking space from our relationship and I'm actively back in the dating marketplace. I just wanted to let you know that I don't appreciate this silence. I don't appreciate this space. That's not how a grown-up operates in relationship and I don't want to accept childish behavior. The only person that needs space is a child, okay? Because they don't know how to navigate their emotions. A grown-up man will talk about what's going on. I wouldn't accept that kind of behavior.  I don't want to accept someone who says I need space and I need it. Did he break up with you? Does it sound like he's in a relationship with you because a man who wants to be in a relationship makes effort? That's just my two cents on that one. So thank you, Sunny. And I'm sorry about that. Question, how to navigate relationship with someone with PTSD? That's a tough one. I would have some serious dialogue. I might invite a counselor in on your, into your relationship. I might, I would definitely recommend a counselor. I'd recommend doing some studying, but also you have to find out, are you a relationship where the two of you are growing and building something or are you just simply together for companionship, connection, and sex without commitment? And if you're going to commit, then it's my invitation for you is to do it through a conscious way to co-create something together. Okay, Sarah, I hope that helps. Thank you so much for that question. Question, what if my form of communication is teasing, playful, and sexy? Should I not be myself so that a man doesn't lead with sex? I do want a good man.  My attraction to them, I'm not suggesting that was you per se, but my perception of them was sexual. And quite frankly, I didn't, you know, I wanted the sex, but I wasn't connecting at a deeper level. Now, because the fact that they led with sexual energy, I put them, I'm sorry to say I put them as low hanging fruit.    So I get that that's part of your makeup and I'm, you know, I'm not discounting that. What I wouldn't encourage you to do is if you want a good man, I wouldn't lead with sex. Okay. Wait, maybe I didn't read that right. What if my form of community, teasing, playful and sexy, should I not be myself so a man doesn't lead with sex? Well, I'm interpreting, you're leading with sex. I could be wrong, but that's the way I interpret it. So how you do it is through serious conversations. You know, by the way, it is through deep, like with, with Marie and I, we laid our cards on the table. It wasn't playful teasing. It was raw. It was honest. It was talking about our fears and our shame. That's where real trust was built. See, playful, fun and light doesn't build trust. Real vulnerability, authenticity and transparency is where trust is built. So that's my invitation for you, Lilian. Lilia is to operate from a real vulnerable place and connect at that level. I highly recommend reading the book, Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters. And maybe you might want to do another book is the language of emotions, what your feelings are really telling you. Maybe your teasing, playful, sexy is an avoidance mechanism to deeper intimacy. I'm just speculating here, but that might be some suggestions for you. The Language of Emotions by Carla McClare and Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters. All the books I've listed are below. In the description of this video, there's a book recommended book section. All right, let's keep going. Hey, thank you, Sarah, for the $1.99 Super Sticker. Thank you so much, I appreciate that. All right, what else do we have? Sherry says, I'm reading the book, Nonviolent Communication, A Good Book. Thank you, I'm glad you're sharing that with everyone. Thanks so much. Let's see, question for Jonathan. Again, if you have a personal question, ask that as well. What reasons would be acceptable to allow a man a second chance and how should it be done? Um, well, you know, I've put my foot in my mouth. Oh my God, I once, okay, let me, okay. I did something, I can't believe I did the following, but I was having a conversation with someone I was dating and I said the C word and I named the bad one, not the good one. The commitment is the good C word I'm talking about. And what happened was I was listening to a comedian, she had used that word several times in a video and it stuck in my head and I said it. And I really, I thought she would break up over me at that because it was, you know, it's, it was disrespectful. I mean, it wasn't disrespecting her, it just came out. Now what I did was I sincerely apologized. And if you want to know a real apology, hold on. Let me grab this book. A true, oh, I just, where is that book about apologies? Hold on, bear with me, everyone, apologies. Where is it?  Hold on, everybody, one second, page 101. It's the four R's to an apology, okay. Or the four asking for forgiveness, what is it? Okay, the four, this is the book, Chatting or Cheating by Dr. Sherry Myers. She's my ex-girlfriend, my dear friend, but she wrote a chapter, the four R's in an apology. First is they recognize and acknowledge the pain that they have caused you, recognize. Number two, they express regret and remorse about what they've done, the pain they've caused you. They took responsibility for their actions and they can, they make, they offer some sort of remedy or restitution if they've created. Check out the book, Chatting or Cheating by Dr. Sherry Myers, okay. With that said, coming back to the question, I can't remember now exactly what the question was. Should I, so first, does he give you a sincere apology and how should that be done, giving a second chance? As first, has he apologized for what happened? So whatever caused the ending of a relationship, there should be some sort of apology and if there's not, I wouldn't give someone a second chance. Unless you were the one who ended it and then are you asking for a second chance? That's a different question. All right, Elena writes, question. Who puts all the books away after you're done with your lives? I do it myself. Sometimes they sit there for a day or two like sometimes I leave dirty dishes. So okay, Cupcake writes, question. As a woman driven for a long-term relationships, how can I allow myself to enjoy a friends with benefits situation? When and if I choose to do that? I find myself doing or wanting to do things in a relationship. So Cupcake, I want you to study the Buddha, the teachings of Buddha, Buddhism. Buddha says all suffering comes from an attachment, attachments, particularly attachments to an outcome. A friends with benefits dynamic is a non-attachment to the outcome. Now the problem is for most women, the minute the penis goes inside the vagina, oxytocin is released in your body and you bonded with a man and it's very difficult to be detached, okay? This is where Steve Harvey's book, act like a lady, think like a man, comes into play, men don't get attached through sex. We really don't. I mean, we can bond with someone, we, here's the thing, we don't get overly attached to new sex. We certainly can get attached to someone whom we make love with over and over and over again.  So if you have a propensity to be attached to a man during sex, then it's gonna be very difficult for you to lean into a friends with benefits dynamic. And I'm not a big fan of it. So I would encourage you not to, where's that shadow coming from? I would encourage you not to choose that kind of relationship. Anyway, that's my two cents on that one. Thank you so much. All right, this will be a last question for the day. How do men feel about educated women? I currently have a paralegal degree, currently studying a foreign language, I'll be pursuing an accounting degree. So if you're not familiar with the term sapiosexual, these are people, human beings that are attracted to someone's mind. It has nothing to do with their education. Do they have a breath of, I think what men are more attracted to versus education is they're more attractive to self confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, self-reliance, self-respect. But now if you are highly, by the way, I know highly educated women that do not have any self-worth, self-esteem, self-respect. It doesn't has nothing to do with your education level. Okay, now with that said, I have dated a doctor. Remember I talked about my previous relationship. She was a Dr. Sherry Myers. I dated a doctor and I've dated someone who didn't even graduate high school. What matters most is how did they carry themselves as a person? But more importantly, did they love themselves enough where they didn't give their power away to me? Okay, as I said in the beginning of this broadcast, women have a propensity of giving their power away to men, which is one of the number one reason why a man chooses one woman over another. And I invite you all to lean into your sovereignty, your self-worth and self-esteem. So don't give your power away to men. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. If it is, please hit that like button. Please share this video with your friends. Please subscribe to my channel. And by the way, again, in the description below are all the schedule coaching session with me, join my group. What else? Follow me on Instagram and all the books I recommend. All right, I'm gonna take my sweetheart out to dinner tonight. So I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do.  I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear or a pillow and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we can all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Melissa and Rebecca and Marilyn and Brenda and Leif and Cupcake and Alaina and Sheik and Wanda and Sherry and Sarah and Kelly and did I say Rebecca and Sarah and Sunshine Pie and Melanie? Everyone, thank you so much. Have a fab evening. Be well. Thanks, bye now.