What if I told you your study system is broke? In fact, what if I showed you a more efficient way to do it? And as a resident, show you how I'm studying and why it's so quick and easy. I'm gonna show you all of that guys, I promise in this video after the syndrome. All right guys, what is going on? I'd like to give you an empty journey helping you succeed on your medical journey with less stress. Now in this video guys, where you're talking about a topic that I get emails, comments about all the time, which is my studying is in trouble. I need help. I have a test in eight days, help, help me. And I totally get it. I used to be in y'all's shoes, but it's because your study system is likely broken guys. Mine was, and it's hard to identify because you're naturally taught to study like this. But in MedSpo as a pre-med and definitely in residency, it doesn't work. Before we get into this video guys, if you do enjoy this content then definitely hit that subscribe button. I know a lot of you guys are new subscribers so welcome to the channel. Hopefully that can help you on your journey. And if you do enjoy this video then also make sure you get a like. But let's get into it. So first let's talk about why your study system is likely broken. Now no one likes to hear that. It's almost like hearing your baby is ugly. But I promise you guys you're probably studying an incorrect, at least inefficient way. I know I was, so maybe I'll be able to help any of you guys that are doing the same thing. Now the main issues that we have guys is that we don't study what flow. Now what that means is that you're likely doing a hundred and one different things at the start, middle, and end of your kind of study system. You're trying to read a syllabus chapter. You're watching a lecture, an audio lecture. You're trying to review write down notes, do flashcards, do some practice questions. There's just so much.  I really don't know what's going on. I don't understand the topic and I have a test made days like help me. Those are the emails I tend to get. But today guys I'm gonna tell you how you can make a system that needs to be frictionless and needs to be effortless. When you're doing something there's nothing else that matters except that kind of task. And I'll give you an example in a second. But currently your study system has you going back and forth from lectures to audios to reading to reviewing to flashcards. There's just so much going on. And if you don't have a good flow of switching back and forth between the two then you just end up like an Ikea furniture like the ones I just made which probably just looks like a total mess. Instead you want to be like a factory. You want to be a factory where step one is required to move on to step two. You can't even worry about step 10 right now. You're just at step one. So let's talk about a more efficient way to study. So let's talk about four things that you really need to have and a flow of studying more efficiently. There's four steps. First step is distinguish. Then gain, then retain, and finally master. These are the steps that you need to do. I'm gonna break them down really quick. One, distinguish. When you're learning a topic for the first time you're going through a book. I'm gonna use this as an example in a second. You want to be able to quickly identify what do I not know and what do I know if it's still as important enough for me to chop down whatever I'm using as notes. Step number two is to be able to gain that information. Once you identify something is like, hey, pay attention, make sure you learn this. You need to have a process of gaining that information. And then step three is retaining. This is where your review comes in. Maybe you do flashcards, maybe you do outline, maybe you do cube study. You do something. This is how you make sure the information you did learn remains in your head before test day. And finally, the last step is to master. Now this obviously requires some repetition.  Mastery is a long-term process. But again, those four steps are distinguish, gain, retain and master. So let's talk about a system that you can do to make sure you're doing the distinguishing before you even get into the retaining or the mastery step. So to be able to help you guys understand how to study efficiently, we're gonna just use one of my residency books that I'm using currently to study for my internal medicine residency. So if you look through this book, you realize that it's not different from a lot of your syllabus chapters, which is just, it's bulky. There's a lot of paragraphs and it can become intimidating. And the natural flow again is to read a chapter and say, crap, I don't understand that. Maybe I should make a flashcard. Maybe I should take notes. Maybe I should highlight. And that's switching back and forth guys, between one task and another, your brain just doesn't do well. So instead we need to have a process where I could read without worrying about jotting down notes. So here's how I do it. Let me find a nice, heavy paragraph. So this is perfect. So here we're talking about definition of syncope.  And when I'm reading this, versus trying to focus on taking notes, all I'm doing guys is I'm reading, actively trying to pay attention to what I know as well as what is unknown to me. And as I'm going through it, I just leave a little mark on the line of that particular fact or near that paragraph.  Find all of the lines or paragraphs in your mark that you consider to be important. And now try to distinguish, you've already kind of distinguished them. Now try to gain that information. This may be taking everything that I put as I'm working into a flash card or putting that in my outlines. But now I don't have to focus on everything. Maybe I understood this chart here and I don't have to worry about jotting it down. Now all I'm looking for is at that paragraph. Again, my brain can easily focus on the information that I consider it to be important. So hopefully that makes sense. Just go through your syllabus chapters, your PowerPoints, and somehow jot just the pieces of facts that you plan on taking notes on but just don't take notes on them right now. This way you can read and actively retain information without trying to transition between different tasks. So now step two is gaining. So I would go back and look at all the things that I marked, maybe make on key cards because I love making flash cards. And if you guys wanna learn how I made flash cards, there'll be a free video course that you guys can check out below as well as another YouTube video that I explained the whole method in a very brief timeline. So again, that'll be linked down below. So that's gaining. Pick whatever system you want to go ahead and like learn the material for the first time. I love using flash cards, so you guys can check that out if you're interested. And then finally, going into the last three steps is to retain and master. So retain again, it's a flash card that's very easy, on key gives you a nice schedule that you can be using to review but create some kind of review system whether it be reviewing on the weekends or reviewing something you learned a week before. So if it's Monday's lectures, do Monday's lectures plus review Monday's lectures in a week before. Have some kind of review schedule that's personalized to you. And then finally is master. And again, that's about repetition. So making sure that you're somehow creating a system to repeat and review. Now I know I rushed through those last few steps but I did that on purpose. And that's because most of us including myself have issues at the start of our study system not so much at the end. That's because that distinguishing and gaining phase we try to like transition between them back and forth becomes really muddy and we become overwhelmed. So I wanna make sure you guys understand focus on your distinguishing first go into your gaining phase and then you can watch other videos in case you wanna learn how to review and study for exams they'll be all linked down below as well as books and video courses that I've made to help students just like you. But again guys, it's super efficient to be able to focus on one thing at a time. You're going to be a factory where step one is going to be basically where you know nothing and the final step is we're gonna be a competent student and we'll understand that fact and that topic but hopefully this video guys helped you out. If you do have more questions regarding studying make sure you comment down below and as another aside if you do wanna learn how to study better as well as just do better medical school in general I do have books and video courses which I'll also link down below for you guys. But again, hopefully this helps you make a little bit more of an efficiency in your studying system. Let me know if you guys have any questions I'll stop babbling. Thank you guys so much for being part of my journey. Hopefully I've been a little help to you and yours. I'll see you guys in the next video. Take care my friends.


Yeah, I mean obviously disappointed with the result and you know how it shook out I think there's some positives, you know, I played a long time and know that you know, it's never as good It's never as bad and so You know, I think with a young football team. I think there's a lot of opportunities for us to learn from today And it's gonna be you know, really important for us to get back to work And make sure that we correct some of the things that didn't go our way today.  I think it's both, you know, I think that You certainly have to practice well, which I think we've been doing. I think our young guys played quite a bit during the preseason and you know Every snap that they take is gonna be good for them, you know, as they move forward But you know across the board, I think there's always, you know, a good jump from week one to week two and Even though it was tough result today, I think there are some positives I thought we started fine, you know, came out and did some good things early And I've got to be better when we get down in the red zone and then, you know Can't have penalties and things like that That kind of put us off schedule down there Well, I thought they came in and play a lot of zone coverage and You know, try to keep everything in front and trust their four-man rush to get home And obviously their defense line played well tonight. So I don't think it was anything, you know That we were unprepared for coming in, you know, I think it was a lot of zone coverage Which we expect it and we knew we had to play well up front And stay on schedule and get into drives and try and wear them down and we did a good job of that early But we were not able to sustain that as we move forward in the game. I'm sorry. I didn't hear all of your question. Yeah, sorry Well, I think, you know, that's That's part of being a head coach is taking responsibility for those things and I appreciate Arthur saying that I think from from the same point As players we've got to do our part too and put in the work and make sure, you know That we're getting ourselves ready to go and so As disappointing as it is today I think that, you know, your mindset constantly has to be on what's in front of you and so, you know, collectively We've all got to be better in terms of our preparation next week and We've got to make sure we stay on schedule and are efficient, you know, I thought when we were we move the ball really effectively We just need to be consistently efficient throughout the game. No, I'm good Yeah, I thought, you know, I thought he did some good things for the for the first time We were kind of choppy in the passing game. And so, you know, I think that You know makes it difficult on guys, but you know, really good catch on a seam route You know showed that he can, you know Catch ball through contact, which is what you want. You know, I think he's only gonna continue to get better for us And I think it's good, you know always as young players to have that first one under your belt But I thought he did a good job for us. I don't think so, you know, I think it you know I think it comes down to When you're in known passing situations And and you're playing against a really good defensive front for and they can tee off it makes it difficult to You know stay in rhythm. We we knew coming through it We had to be efficient first and second down We had to stay in front of the chains and we had to you know kind of hit in our spots and stay out of a lot Of known passing situations No, I think, you know, sometimes that's how the game shakes out You expect yourself to be down there quite a bit and so small sample size today You know, I think we got to get down there more than we were give ourselves more opportunities Well, you're right, you know when we get our chances We got to take a look at the film and you know, clean up some of the things that we didn't do well down there I Think when you you know push yourself back and you have opportunities from two and you kind of work your way back That certainly doesn't help. Yeah, I think so I think you know some of those things of penalties kind of moving you back not allowing you to get that first first down You know a lot of the time we talk about let's get that first first down get into our tempo and keep moving And try and wear down a defensive frontline You know, you have to be really good in that first set of downs to be able to get into it and early we were You know, but later in the game we were not No, I mean, I thought we did a nice job early of giving ourselves opportunities in the red area. That's what you want I thought art did a nice job You know kind of getting us going moving the ball As the game wore on, you know, just how it shook out. We didn't really have that chance And so you don't know that but I thought he did a fine job early in the game For sure, you know, you tell him we've all been there, you know, I remember My second game in the league we went down to Tampa and in the first half I think I was like three of 22 something like that might not it might have been uglier than that I'm not really sure but it happens, you know, and you've got a It's hard when you put yourself out there, you know, and you're going against good guys on the interior It's a really good opportunity for him to learn, you know from from this game where he's at in terms of his technique and That's what I tell him. We've all been in that spot man. Keep pushing forward Concentrate on technique and what you're doing in practice and and focus on constant improvement Yeah, I think there's some positives to take away from that. I thought our backs ran hard I really do. I thought Mike and cp ran hard We just needed to do a better job Later in the game of getting into, you know, getting into some drives getting, you know, a couple first downs and get rolling because I think early in the game we did that and you saw them starting to finish runs and runs coming out the back end for big games Thank you


What's up guys? I'm Brian Zacala. You're watching He Spoke Style and today we are talking about five fragrances that are perfect for spring First up we have a fragrance by Zenia from the Asenze collection. This is Italian Bergamot This is Zenia's take on a classic Oda cologne and as the name suggests Bergamot is the predominant note here You also get a little bit of neroli, but I have to say that this is not a citrusy fragrance at all If it was more on the citrusy side, I probably would have waited to include it in a suburb fragrance roundup But the Bergamot here is really Really well balanced with Vettiver, which as it dries down on my skin at least is what starts to come through the most Projection I would say is about a medium on my skin. It lasts from six to eight hours. This fragrance is very fresh I think it is quite sophisticated and it is also very versatile could easily be worn throughout the day or at night Next is a fragrance by Lilabo. This is Santal 33 If you are not familiar with this one already the best way I can describe it is to say that it's it's kind of like that song That you hear on the radio all the time, but you have no clue what it's called or who sings it This is one of Lilabo's most popular fragrances, and I guarantee that you have smelled this before typically I tend to stay away from fragrances like that, but this one is just really good you get Woody and leather aromas, but it's also very fresh. It's not Sort of like an overpowering wood scent Santal 33 gets a lot of shade because it is ridiculously ubiquitous There's a lot of really smart journalism about how it got to this point And I definitely recommend googling it and reading up if you're interested The joke nowadays is that there aren't many people left that don't smell like this anymore But as much as I want to not like it because of that I just can't because it's a very good fragrance and I do really like it on my skin Next up is a Creed classic. This is original Vettiver Vettiver if you didn't already know is a tropical grass native to India Usually the root portion of the plant is where the oils are extracted from but Creed actually infuses the root The leaves and the heart of the plant for this fragrance. The result is as you expect it does have a very grassy smell to it It is very fresh and as it starts to dry down on my skin I do get slight hints of citrus and then almost sort of a soapy quality very clean Very fresh Creed on their website calls original Vettiver vivacious and sophisticated and I think that is a really really good Characterization of this fragrance like many Creed fragrances This one sort of seems simple on the surface and it just works But as you drill down into the subtlety of it you really start to appreciate it even more This fragrance for me is a great everyday spring fragrance Next up is a fragrance from the house of Amouage called Dia for man. This one for me is a very Very classic masculine scent. I've read some reviews online where people say that it reminds them of the way their grandfather smelled And I like that I think it's it's a very cool facet of this fragrance that it can evoke that sort of nostalgia for people This one was an instant hit for me I was first introduced to it at Oswald in New York City, which is a fantastic fragrance boutique. This fragrance is Again very masculine. It has a bit of a spice to it, but it is light and it is subtle It doesn't have a huge projection and it doesn't stay on my skin for that long Maybe like four hours max, but I'm not saying that as a negative thing Dia for man is like the perfect fragrance for a date in my opinion has a kind of subtle and Timeless sexiness to it that is only going to be shared by Someone who's sitting close to you which makes it and you even more intriguing Finally, we have a phenomenal fragrance from Tom Ford. This is Oud Fleur possibly my favorite Tom Ford fragrance ever now As the name suggests you have both an Oud note and a floral note The floral note to me is what pops out the most and it is a very distinct rose But do not think that because this has a pronounced rose note that it is feminine It is not there are other sort of rose centric fragrances out there that are marketed as a unisex fragrance I'm talking specifically about Lolabo rose 31 that to me definitely skew way more toward the feminine side But Oud Fleur is decidedly more masculine. The rose is balanced Really really well. There's a sort of a spiciness to it and as it dries down on my skin It definitely takes on a bit of a smoky quality, which is really really nice This fragrance for me is like the perfect nice event or nighttime fragrance for the spring slash summer So those are five of the fragrances that I am liking for spring right now Links to all of them are down below in the description as always I would love to hear of any favorites that you guys have leave those down in the comments Thumbs up if you like this video don't forget to subscribe to the channel and until next time. Thanks for watching and stay tailored


So Yelena has prepared this brief presentation for us. Hello everyone. I'm very sorry I couldn't be there in person during Open Access Week, but this is the next best thing I guess. I would say as teachers we naturally tend towards open access just because we want to share our knowledge. In my personal work I think I sort of consider access along two lines. One is through releasing my work as freely as possible and the second one is through the efforts of reproducible research. I'll tell you a little bit about both of those. So the goal is really to teach as many people as possible to share ideas. Perhaps this is idealistic, but it's something that feels worthwhile to many of us. So the standard thing we do, what most of us do is really to share our papers and work on our personal websites and even there has been some effort over the past few years even with journals that are for profit that will allow researchers to post their versions of the published work on their personal websites. Code and so on. I have also done a number of wall from demonstrations. These are mathematical interactive demonstrations that you publish through wall from. You can download their free CDF player, a computable document format player. And these are great for illustrating various concepts in the things you teach. And I think perhaps the most important one for me is my work on textbooks. So I have one published textbook in 1995 with Prentiss Hall and then the second one that's coming out this fall with Cambridge University Press and the third one that's coming also with Cambridge University Press next year. So with the one from 1995, my co-author and I at some point bought the copyright back. We have been sort of releasing ERATA for this book for many years and then at some point it felt like it would be really nice if we could manage the book. We were not in it for money, so we might as well sort of release it to the world. So we bought the copyright book back and we have put the book for free open access. It just has a sort of a standard creating commons protection on our website, on the book website. And so this way we are really able to update it with any bugs or typos and so on that comes along. I have also then decided to publish the book through CreateSpace. I don't know if you're aware of it and it's linked with Amazon so then you can publish it on CreateSpace and on Amazon. It's done at expense, so basically I don't get any money from it except from rounding cents and so on. But what this allows people to buy a bound copy of the book with a nice cover for basically the price of printing the book. I think I forget I had to set the prices differently for the US market and for the UK market and I believe it's $13 and that's, you know, 500 page book. Besides this experience and sort of informed by this experience when we went for the new contract with Cambridge University Press first of all we signed the contract very late. And why we're doing this because these two books, the current one to the next year have been in the works for the past 10 years and we have been updating them and sort of working on them for a long time and we have been actually releasing for free almost every six months sort of releases of these books. For instructors, if anybody would contact us and tell us, look, I'm teaching this and we have some sort of reasonable proof that this person is an instructor we would release also a full set of solutions and any other teaching material we have. So we have made a deal actually with Cambridge University Press that even once published the books will be available for free on our website and accept that these books will not have a PDF hyperlink and they will not have exercises but this is still some 800 plus page text. So apart from these two little sort of restrictions that makes it a little harder to navigate through the book it's still an open access book and available for free. So I think that's very important to us because we want this to be widespread. The second sort of line of open access has been through my efforts in the society and sort of in my community along the lines of what we call reproducible research. The idea being that the scientific product is not only the paper that goes out and gets published but all the data, the code, the specific block diagrams, parameters, schemes whatever else is needed to reproduce this work exactly. And so here at CMU for example my students are required every time they submit a journal paper to create this reproducible research page which is then released to the world sort of if the paper, even when the paper gets published. And journal paper we wrote on reproducible research with Patrick Vandeval and Martin Vetterlis was one of the top downloads on IEEE Explorer clearly showing that people have a huge interest in these types of ideas. So again I am very sorry I could not be there in person so I cannot answer questions live but I will be happy to answer any via email or if you want to meet my email is Jelena K that's J-E-L-E-N-A-K and CMU.edu. Thank you.


One of the great things about this job is getting to call the games of super players, guys who are pros who do it the absolute right way. One of those guys for the Tennessee Titans, Delaney Walker, a tight end who came over in the midst of a career that took a very different turn when he got to Nashville. Earlier today, he announced his retirement officially as a Tennessee Titan. That was a big thrill for us. So tonight on the Mike Vrable Show, we honor him as Epic Western's genuine Titan, here's Amy Wells. On March 13th, 2013, the Tennessee Titans switched tight ends. Jared Cook left for a huge free agent deal with the Rams. It was a blow as Cook was just coming into his own as a playmaker. To replace Cook, the Titans signed a soon-to-be 29-year-old former San Francisco 49er. He wasn't always a tight end. He had played seven seasons in the Bay Area and had caught just 123 passes. He was known for his blocking and special teams play more than his receiving. Fan reaction to his signing was muted at best, but his signing proved to be one of the best in his history. I'm talking, of course, about Delaney Walker. Over the next five seasons, he averaged 71 catches per season and scored 26 touchdowns. Delaney Walker made three straight Pro Bowl appearances and was the offensive MVP of the 2018 Pro Bowl. Floats it down the middle, Walker! Titan's greats of both past and present unveiled the Titans' new uniform in April 2018. Walker was on the stage in downtown Nashville. Given the Titans' new look, it's best possible look. Off the field, he made a huge difference, not just in Tennessee, but also in California, as he made the fight against drunk driving his number one mission. For his efforts, Delaney Walker was the Tennessee Titans' 2015 Walter Payton Man of the Year. So when Delaney Walker was injured in the 2018 season opener at Miami, Titans fans were crushed because they didn't just love the player, they loved the person. Delaney Walker meant more than just being the guy in the number 82 jersey. He stood for excellence in good times and bad and became one of the faces of the franchise. His return for the 2019 season was hailed as a triumph and his performance in a season-opening thrashing of the Cleveland Browns provided a lasting memory. Toughness, determination, playmaking skill, the willingness to do whatever was needed to help the team improve and win. All of those things marked Delaney Walker's seven-year run with the two-tone blue. When you talk about genuine Titans over the last quarter century, Delaney Walker has to be at the top of the list. Delaney Walker retiring today as a Titan. Mike Vrable, you didn't have a chance to coach him long. Not long, he made a huge impact on me. I appreciate, you know, sometimes veteran players and the new coaching staff and, you know, he embraced us and what we were about and just his professionalism and, you know, I learned a lot from him each and every day. So a fantastic career as a self-made player who really just, you know, earned his way and got everything that he deserved.


I'm going to show you how to use the Airtame app on your PC. Find the blue icon on your desktop and click on it. All the devices you can cast to will show up. You're going to choose either to share your window or share your entire desktop. And then it will give you a four-digit code to type in. Look up at the screen and put the code in. Soon as you put it in, you are casting. I always recommend just casting the entire desktop. So once you are doing that, anything you are seeing in your desktop is being cast. If you want to adjust the sound to cast as well, you just need to turn on this button to make sure that your sound device is being cast. When you're ready to stop, all you need to do is go to the red stop button and you're finished casting. That's all you need to do to disconnect from casting.


Hi people, thank you so much for coming back to this channel and if it's your first time to come across this channel, it's mixed from the next creation. Thank you so much for supporting this channel. Yes, thank you so much. For the new subscribers, for the new returning subscribers, we appreciate thank you so much for your support. What are we looking at today in today's video? We are looking at the latest updates and we are looking at available jobs. Actually we are looking at the jobs available right now, that is what we call the working interview. The someone that you recently requested me that if I have such kind of opportunity, I can put it out in a video or I can put it out to let people know. No, you never know. People may just go run over and go and apply and get, try to get something they need for yourself. Right now it is what we call the UAE Jobalat and that is in me the UAE Dubai Abderbi and it's all about recruiting what you call the drivers and the bikers. This is what we call the Dubai Taxi Corporation. Remember, it has what we call working interviews and this working interviews are today on 21st of October from 7.30 a.m. until 12 p.m. You can go submit your CV, submit the requirements, you never know, you may be learning your dream job right now. The salary is very good, it is 2000 dirhams and they give you insurance, they will give you accommodation and definitely the other privileges that you are supposed to have as a person who is going to work in the UAE. And what does it say that it actually specify, it does not specify any nationality. Everyone can apply and everyone can apply. If you have a driving license from your country and you are in the UAE right now on what you call a VISTA visa, you can also apply. If you have a UAE driving license, yes you are eligible to apply. If you have a GCC driving license and you are on a VISTA visa in the UAE, you can also apply. Remember, this is a government entity and definitely you definitely know whatever kind of service they will have to give you. It's going to be a good service. I'm just going to read through what was released to me and what was given me, what are the guidelines. Remember, this job, it will require you to have what you call requirements for you to submit along with what you call the CV. I keep on normally telling people that always prepare your CV to be with you. That CV should be something that is going to just talk about you. It should be juicy. What we can talk about juicy? I'm not meaning you're going to get a lot of passion fruits, you're going to get mango juice and poa on the papers, but it's going to be what kind of words, what kind of interesting words, what kind of skills do you put on that CV, that look rota is going to look for you and it's going to say, wow, this is an amazing person. He needs to come and he will definitely be going to be an asset to the company. Normally what these hiring managers or these hiring human resources always look, they always look people, they always look for people who are going to be of a great asset to the company or to the organization. Not people who are going to be reliability. That's why some moments I keep on telling people that normally when you are writing that CV, when you are writing about yourself, your job experience, please try to give it some kind of joys such as even the person who holds that paper, the person who does your selection and holds your CV, you will definitely know that you are an asset today. Yes, the huge job Dubai taxi to hold what you call a work on interviews today for drivers and bikes on 21st of October 2022 from 7.30 a.m. to 12.00 p.m. those who do not have driving permits and hold home country license can also apply. Remember the Dubai taxi cooperation or at roles and transport authority is holding what you call a working interviews today to recruit drivers and bikers of all nationalities. The companies also encourage the ladies to apply. Remember the age group of people who are eligible is between 23 to 50 years and you must be holding a license either from UAE, the GCC or from your home country to go for the working interviews. Remember job seekers who do not have a driving license can also apply as the company will train you and the company will give you what you call a driving license. What does it mean for those people that do not have any license anywhere with them? That is where the fact of your CV, what you talked about your CV, do you have any kind of other skills that can attach to driving that really in the here mention that can enable you to be recruited because they need the drivers, they need the back driver and definitely you definitely know you would send a higher chance for you to be recruited. Remember this government based company is going to offer what you call a salary of 2000 dinam salary commission and health insurance accommodation for those candidates that will be selected for that job interview or selected for that role of what you call a driver or a bike but things that you need not to undermine or things not to forget in one role or the other it is the requirements. All these jobs that are being listed in one role either you go online or you go anywhere they have what you call requirements and the requirements for this role you must have what you call copies of the residence of this visa for example if you are in UAE and you have on a visa yes if you are in UAE and you have a copy of what you call the residence permit then it must be one of them. UAE National ID if you are already living in the UAE and you are doing some other one then if you have a driving license it is a copy that should be attached a passport copy and the CV should also be attached as one of the requirements. Something else you do not need to forget is what you call the photographs those photographs should be with what you call a white background three pieces of the passport photographs and they should be with what you call a white background. 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Hi, my name is Breanna Wagner and I'm a sales engineer at Triangle Package Machinery. Last year I participated in PMMI's Leadership Development Program. I found that this program was beneficial not only to just continue to develop my leadership and communication skills, but also to network with new people within the industry and learn more about the industry as a whole. While I'm a sales engineer now, I actually went to school for chemical engineering and I used to work in that field. From my personal experiences as a woman working in a STEM field, I am very passionate about bringing STEM education to specifically women to introduce them to and hopefully get them excited about a career in an industry that they may have not considered before. And that's what drew me to learn more about and eventually join the PMMI Future Workforce Committee. I'm grateful for the opportunity to have been a part of the Leadership Development Program because it helped me to develop my leadership skills further, but it also got me involved with PMMI.


It's now time for Member Statements, the Member from Nipissing. Thank you, Speaker. I'm proud to rise and recognize the Ontario Convenience Stores Association as they visit Queen's Park today. The convenience store industry in Ontario consists of approximately 9,000 stores, employs 77,000 Ontarians, and serves 2.7 million customers every day. The convenience store industry in Ontario is worth over $18 billion annually, but these businesses provide much more value than that. There's no question that these small business owners are essential to the success of Ontario's economy. These entrepreneurs overcome challenges every day, and their commitment to providing reliable, timely, and fair service to Ontarians is admirable. Speaker, I can tell you I speak from experience. I grew up in a family that owned three convenience stores over our decades. My father, Hub, and my mother, Lena, opened Hub's Smoke Shop in the late 1950s. Then, Hub's Hilltop opened at the top of the hill in North Bay in the 1960s, and a third convenience store, Hub's, in the 1970s. My mum and dad, my grandmother, my aunt and me, my sister Teresa, my brother Peter, we all grew up working in these great stores. The Ontario PC Caucus is proud to stand with the Ontario Convenience Stores Association as they continue to grow and prosper to the benefit of all of Ontarians. Thank you. Thank you. Further members, same as the members from Trowell Danforth. Thank you, Speaker. Speaker, today my comments are about the grassy narrowed first nation, where three generations of Indigenous people continue to suffer from mercury poisoning, which attacks the brain and damages permanently. My thoughts are with the mothers raising children challenged by mysterious learning delays, adults who each year lose more of their sense of touch, their hearing, their vision, and their balance. And may we learn from experts that fish on the Wabugun River are still highly contaminated with mercury poison more than 45 years after the government became aware of this dangerous problem. Fortunately, there is a solution to this shameful tragedy. The experts say that the river can be cleaned up so that the fish are safe to eat again, and it can be done safely. This echoes what the Minister of the Environment recommended to Cabinet in 1984. Premier Wynn still refuses to clean the river, but last June, she and the Minister did commit to immediately begin a $600,000 study to be led by grassy narrows and their team of experts. Now as the Wabugun River begins to freeze, I hear that almost none of the money has flowed and that an entire year of field work has been lost as a result. How much longer will this government stall and dissemble why grassy narrows families suffer? Speaker, talk of reconciliation is cheap. Whereas the reconciliation, while babies and grassy narrows are poisoned with mercury. Thank you. Thank you, Mr. Speaker. Mr. Speaker, today is Grouper. Grouper marks the birth anniversary of the first Guru of the Sikhs, Grananik Devji. The Sikh community in Ontario and across the world is celebrating the 547th birthday of Grananik Devji. The basic lessons of Grananik Devji's teachings are truthfulness, living with emphasis on selfless service, tolerance, compassion, love, equality, humbleness, and well-being for all. His teachings are based on three guiding principles, Varn Chakot, sharing with others and helping those in need, Girth Karo, earning an honest living without exploitation or fraud, and Nam Jappo, to meditate God's name. Grananik Devji also passed the message of a universal brotherhood and believed in a casteless society, a society free of discrimination, and he believed in equality for all. All of Grananik Devji's teachings could be found in the Guru Granth Sahibji, the Sikh holy scriptures. Grananik Devji was the founder of the Sikh religion, and his Grouper was celebrated across the world. This morning, I had the opportunity to celebrate at Sarasagar Radio and local media station in Toronto, and tonight I look forward to celebrating in my community in Brampton, Springdale. Happy group. Thank you, Mr. Speaker. Thank you. I'm pleased to rise today to speak on World Diabetes Day. This year's theme, Eyes on Diabetes, was implemented in an effort to help promote the importance of screening for early diagnosis and treatment of type 2 diabetes. Currently, one in two people with diabetes worldwide go undiagnosed. With more screenings, we could impact up to 70% of type 2 diabetes cases, as simply lifestyle changes can help prevent or delay type 2 diabetes. In Ontario, over 1.5 million people currently have diabetes, while over 2.27 million have pre-diabetes. By 2025, the number of Ontarians with diabetes and pre-diabetes will encompass over 36% of our population. Many of those affected by diabetes can lead healthy lifestyles, but until a cure is discovered, prevention of the onset and negative health effects is key. It is important to have regular foot exams, eye exams, and screening to manage your diabetes and or watch for signs of pre-diabetes. World Diabetes Day reminds us to make the necessary lifestyle modifications such as eating healthy foods, being active, losing weight, and quitting smoking to prevent the onset of diabetes. I'd like to take the opportunity to thank the Canadian Diabetes Association and the countless volunteers who not only support diabetics and diabetes research, but work hard day in and day out to educate Ontarians. I'd also like to take the opportunity to make mention that today is Sir Frederick Banting's 125th birthday. We wish him a happy birthday. Without his outstanding research, many of our loved ones would not be here today. Thank you. Thank you. Further member, status member from London West. Thank you, Speaker. Kamoka Provincial Park, located just outside my riding of London West, is truly a gem in my community. For years, people of London West have visited Kamoka to hike its scenic trails to birdwatch or just commune with nature. The park has allowed Londoners to reap the benefits associated with outdoor physical activity. In fact, Rio Olympian and London West resident Lanny Marchant, who just broke a record for a Canadian woman in the New York City Marathon, trained by running on the trails of Kamoka Park. Speaker, access to the natural environment not only makes people happier and more relaxed, it also makes them healthier, with reduced stress, improved mental health well-being, and lowered risk for chronic disease. I am therefore deeply disappointed by the Liberal Government's introduction of new parking fees at Kamoka Park, ranging from $5.75 to $14.50 for daily use. There was no call for a paved parking lot, and it's hard to see these fees as anything other than a cash grab, a cash grab that is likely to get bigger each year given the Liberal Government's decision to index all government fees to inflation. I am concerned that these new fees will reduce the number of park visitors and negatively affect community health and well-being. In fact, I've already heard from many residents of London West who say they will no longer be able to afford to visit the park. I call upon this Liberal Government to remove the fees and ensure that Kamoka remains accessible to London residents and to all Ontarians. Thank you, Speaker. Thank you. Further member statements? The member from Mrs. August Streetsville. Thank you, Speaker. Our eyesight is considered our dominant sense, providing us our biggest window into our world. People say they fear vision loss more than any other disability. We can protect our vision by visiting our local optometrist. As the primary eye care and vision care professionals in Ontario, optometrists provide services in the areas of urgent eye care, children's vision, seniors' vision, and disease prevention and management. Optometrists have the skills, technology, and expertise to detect and to treat eye conditions close to a patient's home. As Ontario's population ages and grows, optometrists will play an even larger role in Ontario's eye care. The Ontario Association of Optometrists has designated this week, the week of November 7th, as Optometry Week. During this week, MPPs will be able to tour an optometry practice, as I have done, in their communities. My optometrist, Dr. Sabrina Ahmed, explained how complex patient care has become. I hope my MPP colleagues see firsthand the type of services that optometrists provide, the technology that they use, and the contributions that optometrists make to our communities, to the Ontario healthcare system, and to the Ontarians that they assist. Thank you, Speaker. Thank you for your number. Same as the number from Brampton Kent Middlesex. Mr. Speaker, it is with regret that I inform this House the death on October 26 of Mr. George P. Decay of Hyde Park in the County of Middlesex. Mr. Decay was a teacher for 35 years. In the early 1960s, he was seconded from the London Board of Education to the Canadian Forces, and he taught Canadian children living on RCAF bases in what was then West Germany. Always interested in history and in particular genealogy, after his retirement from teaching, Mr. Decay completed his research into several connected families who were among the earliest settlers of London Township, in which included his own family. Mr. Decay contributed to the published histories of Lobo Township, Delaware, and Westminster Townships and West Williams Township. He chaired the committee doing similar work in the history of London Township published in 2001. His research was meticulous and his writing clear. Prior to his illness, Mr. Decay had been a regular volunteer at St. Joseph's Hospital and later St. Joseph's Hospice in London for over 20 years. Speaker, I wish to note the passing of a man dedicated to his community who made a significant contribution to the study of the history of Middlesex County, George Decay. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, Mr. Stateman. Thank you, Speaker. I'd like to take this opportunity to inform the House that the government is currently wrapping up the consultation part of the Northern Ontario multimodal transportation study. And since this consultation wasn't held in my writing and I've been able and unable to attend meetings outside my writing, I'd like to take this opportunity to talk about it here. Some of the things they're talking about are rail, road, air, and marine. I'd like to thank them for actually taking the time to consult because when our only passenger train in North-East Ontario was cut by the Liverpool Government five years ago, there was absolutely no consultation. None. None. So I'd like to put on the record on behalf of the residents of North-East Ontario that we need to look at bringing back some type of passenger rail service because the way it is now, the only public transportation service to North-East Ontario is the bus. And there's a lot of people who cannot take the night bus. Seniors, people with medical conditions, it's almost impossible. Bus travel is almost impossible. It's time to look at bringing back some type of viable rail service to North-East Ontario, especially on a government that claims to be spending all this time and money talking about increased public transportation. Our part of the world needs it as well. If you want to develop Northern Ontario, people need to know that they have public transportation that is viable for not only for themselves, but for their children, for their parents, and for their grandparents. Bring back the train. Thank you, Speaker. Recently, our Minister of Health and Long-Term Care came to the Grand River Regional Cancer Centre to mark the start of construction on enhancements to the centre. Grand River Hospital is currently the largest provider of treatment and cancer surgery in our region. This new project means that about 400 more patients can be treated each year. That's an impressive 24% increase. Improving cancer care for patients is part of our patients' first action plan for health care. And this $5.5 million investment in technology for the hospital speaks to our dedication for that commitment. Speaker, Grand River Hospital has provided radiation therapy to more than 7,300 patients in 104,000 visits and chemotherapy to more than 9,200 patients in 65,000 visits. These investments help the hospital continue the vital services that it provides in so many places in my region. Officials at the hospital share the sentiments heard from patients who were pleased with the expansion, especially those who are no longer needing to travel outside our region for cancer treatment. The expansion not only allows patients to be treated faster but also allows for the introduction of new, more complex and sophisticated techniques that Grand River wasn't offering previously. Speaker, like so many people in my community, I look forward to the completion of the expansion and thank our minister for visiting our community. Thank you. I thank all members for their statements.


Dragon Ball Super Super Hero a really great movie, but I gotta be honest the gammas They didn't stand a chance They did not get to show off what they're actually capable of because as soon as Piccolo flip that switch they change teams Yeah, you get rocked one time like that. I should probably change teams too But Ryan we are here to 2v2 against the beast himself orange Piccolo and gohan only instead of using our creative characters We're gonna get some revenge for these gammas. Are you wait? Here's what we're doing Just the people kind of understand the picture what's happening here You know how in Yu-Gi-Oh, Yu-Gi-Oh, Yu-Gi-Oh, Yu-Gi-Oh Sometimes the gammas are going to yell out RUN DUDDO! And we're gonna take control of the bodies and win because we are them Bro, their mental is just shattered after what happened to them in the movie And you gotta remember they were made to be superheroes They found out they were villains and then also that they were not as strong as they should be Which one do you want? Gamma 1 or 2? I was gonna say bro No, on the right side, on the right side Bro, let me be Gamma 1, bro, let me be Gamma 1 I forgot the revamp boys got to the gammas It's a counter, it's a counter Whoa! I know that's on there I wish that was me That's my thumbnail That is you bro, it already happened to you Damn, you getting down back there, what are you doing? Bro, I got into my poses bro Bro, what's our chart? Charge! Why do I run like this? I love that the team actually added that touch Alright, go ahead, take them out, take them out, it's all you bro Me? You want me to 1v1?  What? Bro, I just watched you face plant into the cement man What universe? I'm getting cost There's no way you did that My health doesn't exist again I couldn't stop him Stop Bro, my gun doesn't reach that long Let go, I have a gun There you go Super Gamma blast It's what universe? Why did it hit me? Why did it beat up at that man? The way I put my cape back on man I am clean with it I'm gonna charge my key Go ahead Oh, I just shot him from behind that is safe That is a really cool back hit I gotta be honest Combos Gamma blast Gamma strike I missed Oh!  I don't have a sense of people Or breaker You missed it again man Or breaker gotta be top 10 hardest moves to hit in the game easily Bro, that doesn't make any sense It doesn't make any sense Maybe top 1 There he is Hey, what's up dude Bro, go Oh, I thought it worked I actually thought you did something there Stop No Nice Watch out I go Nice, good dodge I got hops Good dodge again I guess you did hop out of it He kicked me really, really hard Bro, it's okay I'm gonna use a regen capsule on myself Because that's my solo item Look at me, he flipped my gun Oh, there you go I got Blinky bro Let's both shoot him Shoot him! I don't have a key I don't have a key That's circle, what do you mean? Alright Hold him down for a second Like a key Oh, I do just have a normal gun Yes! I'm gonna punch him really, really hard What is going on? Yeah! Yeah!  We've just been fighting this guy for Oh! Stop Oh god, he almost killed me again Stop, don't watch my watch I don't have a key You don't have a key for a core breaker?  Only for a second Whoa, slay the arms I might be dead here Oh, they actually have lore, bro They're canonically saying that this is a rematch I need a heal Oh, they actually got the scrim You need a heal?  Sorry, I'll let you get back to the video Switch it, let's switch it up, you get two You get two, let me get one I'll be game of two, I'll be game of two I am more of a game of two fan Oh Yeah, yeah, that was a video I am mostly shocked that Deon agreed to do this So one thing about game of one which you didn't use Is the counter is really good When you do the head buddy, you can immediately go into the standard break Heavy one, too Yo, I'm good for that Rising reversal, bro, it's all you need I didn't even know I had that, to be honest I told you in the beginning, it's just you just I know you did, I just thought maybe I messed up my selection Watch, watch, watch, let me lock up me Do it, do it, do it You got it No There we go Boom Bro, why'd you move them? I don't You know, I don't know I literally just told you I literally You did, you did I just kind of forgot Loki Bro has the memory of a fish I actually do I'm charging To be honest, bro, one fish, two It didn't work at all Bro I think he was like in a cutscene Game of combos Game of blaster Stop right there, Gohan I have a gun No Okay, watch, let him go Don't push a button Okay, good Broke it Oh, damn, we Broke it in this time Watch, watch, watch The second Piccolo pops in Gohan's butt gets kicked Andro, show my face, watch Where'd it go? How did he heal so fast? I'll get Piccolo Bro, Piccolo, just because you did Are you good?   Oh, my God, he just broke his That move hurts Why are you not up yet? Oh Why are you not up?  Bro, I want a little rematch You're the one that's been running for me Piccolo There we go Docon I got some healies There we go Docon Bish Where did it go?  Can I dodge that? Okay Oh, no, I can't Are you dead? I'll get myself up Yeah, I got myself up though That sucked, bro That was actually so unfortunate He just I don't have a sense of it anymore Oh, no What am I doing? What am I doing?   You got it. It's also heel to bring go on appreciate that. Where you going bro? I was watching you. Is it me or does it my counter? There's a lot of damage, but let it go please bro Just got tight because I was fighting Piccolo man Okay, lock on to me I dare you let's go sit down. Let go of what is your problem? There we go Almost even locked out of me. I don't think bro just had beef Okay It's like a truck. I'll get myself up. Okay after limit first not I'll get myself up never mind. I have no key That's fine. I got it.  That's I think your strategy is genius. We got to get rid of him Rid of gohan so that we can one be two people in the beginning out We'll charge a key I'll break one's nose and then we just jump them the key is to win before gohan gets his battle knowledge back If that happens, we'll get this matchup knowledge. Come to me. Let me know what I'll say when I'll say when recognize stamina now Coming in with a core breaker You actually save my life. I didn't break a stamp. I was gonna say I didn't see that stamina get broken Oh, damn you actually zapped him. I'm charging up for the next core breaker Because remember pickles will spawn in that's true. That's true. That's true.  I got your back. Well. I always got your back shoot him again. Okay. We should be here in a second Yeah, there you guys are nice. Nice. Let me just shoot. So just just a little back. What's your health? We got this.  I'm almost ready.  I got a big-ass forehead.  Oh my god. He just hurts bro. He just hurts It's like a basic that hurts the most hold on.  Hold on. Wait. Wait. You know blast go do yours. Do yours to yours. Can't core break Damn, oh, we tried our best. Hold on. Let me break his nose. I break his nose. Yeah, do that do that I'm not nice to you. I'll watch your back. I'll watch your back with my gun. Bro. That attack is ignorant. No now now now now. I don't have it. I don't have it. I don't have it. I just want a nice gun That's a that's good for me.  Yeah, of course breaker. I guess I do but do it break his core I might miss. I might miss. No, you got him. No, we don't miss It wasn't enough to get it wasn't enough to get through his charge though. He's almost dead, but his healing's too good It's fine. It's fine. Watch watch watch watch watch. I'll break his face. No, if you break his face, then we win Bro, if you break his face and then say I'm gonna win. Yeah, yo, we did It is actually Hold him up. Hold him up. He beats me. Just blow down like that. What wait? Why does game of two jump like a slow-mo thing? Like yeah, I'll heal us. I'll heal us.  You're saying this like I'm not locked up in piccolo's loving arms right now I got you, bro. Uh, apparently I jumped out. Oh, we kicked me. Stop go on, bro I guess I'm fighting piccolo because you're not getting off of me, man. Big beam.  Oh, yeah break his nose There we go, bro, that move is cracked. That move is not fair This move is not fair. Why do they just stand there like little roots? Both of their stamina is with one foul swoop I am a hero. No, bro. I would change teams if that should happen to me. They're jumping me now. You have heels Oh my god, thank you.  Just a regen This beat backs from fortnight.  Damn. Why did you tell me you didn't care about his elbow? Damn, okay. That is the best we're ever gonna do. The way I saw him do the pose.  All right. Well, I can see why they changed teams and you know what? Look, I'll ask the question. Would you change teams as well?  You have no taxes You can have whatever you want for free But if you change teams and go and team go on and piccolo you get nothing But I guess you don't have to fight them. What's the right answer?


My name is Sam Vaknin, and I'm the author of Malignant Self-Love, Narcissism Revisited. I wrote the book, but I haven't read it yet. Once I do, I will tell you what I think about it. And about the author. Right, so today we are going to continue to discuss mortification and the false self, but this time in Borderline Women. A bit later in the video, I will recap and summarize the previous video. Some of you have complained that it was too complicated, a bit confusing, too academic, and that I wasn't wearing my glasses through a part of it, which traumatized them. So I promise to summarize the previous video in colloquial speech. So that everyone can understand it, and I will do my best to remember to wear my glasses, because the number of casualties is beginning to exceed the number of my subscribers. So as I promised, today we will discuss the Borderline Woman, who is, by many accounts, the natural compliment to the narcissistic men. I always mentioned my friend, Johan Lachkar, who in 1983 wrote the seminal groundbreaking book, The Borderline Narcissistic Couple. She was a pioneer at that time, but today is common wisdom that borderlines and narcissists team up together, because they gratify each other's emotional needs. They, in the language of Johan Lachkar, they solve each other's archaic wounds. There's a resonance. Later she renamed it the V-Sport, the vulnerability sport. So if the narcissistic men has a modification, is subject to modification, so should the borderline woman be. Why is that? Because both the narcissistic men and the borderline woman have a false self, and both of them have very pronounced grandiosity. I'm moving the laptop because the lighting changes all the time. It's a conspiracy of the celestial bodies against my videos. So both of them have grandiosity and both of them have a false self. If these constructs and these processes and these cognitive deficits are identical, then they should undergo similar psychodynamic processes such as modification. And indeed the borderline woman does undergo modification. But before we go there, I want to discuss elephants and snakes. No, I haven't gone out of my mind yet. It has something to do with narcissists and borderline. And I want to quote from a book called The Problem of the Puea Aeternus, The Problem of the Eternal Youth, by Marie-Louise von Franz. I didn't invent this name. And the book was published in 1970. It's an amazing book about people, mainly men, who don't grow up. People who remain eternal youths, remain children forever, refuse to grow up. Later it was renamed by the therapist Dan Kiley. It was renamed the Peter Pan syndrome. So I want to quote from this book, I mean The Problem of the Puea Aeternus by Marie-Louise von Franz. In antiquity, I'm quoting, it was thought that elephants were terribly ambitious and that if they were not accorded the honor due them, they would die from disappointment. For their feeling of honor was so great that they had to be honored. Snakes love to drink the cool blood of elephants. Snakes creep under the elephant and drink its blood. Suddenly the elephant collapses, which is why whenever an elephant sees a snake, he goes for it and tries to trample it down. In the Middle Ages, the elephant stood for a man who was generous but unstable and moody in character. For the elephant was said to be generous, intelligent, and therefore taciturn. But when he once gets into rage, he cannot be appeased by sensual pleasures, but only by music. And so she says that she has taken this information from a very amusing book. She finds very strange things amusing, but okay. So she says, this I have taken from a very amusing book Polyhysto Symbolius by a Jesuit father Nicolaus Causinus. And in that book I found another sentence that the elephant is perfection, except for being moody and inclined to feats of rage. So here's the elephant, unstable, rageful, and very, very hypervigilant. He is very concerned with the question of is he being properly honored. He believes that he is due honor, he is due respect, and if he doesn't get it, he begins to rage.  I would say that this captures the essence of the narcissistic borderline relationship. Now, as I said, in my view, the main reason borderlines and narcissists resonate is because to a very, very large extent, they are pretty identical. For example, they have a false self, which within narcissists, the false self, yes, I took off my glasses, warning, red alert. In the narcissist, the false self has many functions, and the two most important functions of the false self in the narcissist is, number one, to serve as a decoy. The false self attracts the fire, attracts the abuse. It is a proxy for the true self. It is tough as nails, and it cannot absorb any amount of pain, of hurt, negative emotions. The child invents the false self in order to develop immunity to the indifference, manipulation, sadism, smothering, or exploitation, in short, to the abuse inflicted on him or her by the parents or by other primary objects in the child's life. So, the false self is like the invisibility cloak in the Marvel movies. It protects the child, renders him invisible and omnipotent at the same time. It's like a Superman cloak, which also confers invisibility and impermeability, and renders the child absolutely immune to pain and to hurt. And the second function of the false self is that the narcissist misrepresents the false self and claims that this is his true self. He says, this is who I really am. There's nothing else, he says. There's only the false self, that's me. The narcissist is saying in effect, I'm not who you think I am. I'm someone else. I am this false self. And therefore, I deserve better. I deserve a painless, more considerate treatment. I'm entitled. The false self thus is a contraption, a device intended to alter other people's behavior and attitude towards the narcissist. It's a manipulative tool. It's an adaptation in the sense that it allows the narcissist to act upon the environment to be self-efficacious, to obtain favorable outcomes. In other words, the narcissist agency in the world is mediated via the false self. But the false self replaces the true self. And in this sense, the narcissist very early on in his childhood, sacrifices himself to the false self. Someone said in one of the comments that the narcissist is kind of a hostage of the false self. And I said it yesterday in the video. And it's very true. He's held hostage. He's held prisoner. He's incarcerated by the false self. He's incarcerated in a magnificent palace. But he still can never leave the palace. Gradually, the narcissist vanishes. And what's left behind is this mirage. This fatamogana, this facade, this concoction or piece of fiction, this movie. Narcissus begins to feel derealized. He feels that he's observing himself from outside. He's depersonalized. And he's beginning to be more and more dissociative. Because there is a disconnect between the narcissist and himself. And his real, his true self. And this disconnect creates discontinuities in memory, which later on translates into a very, very disturbed identity. And so at some stage, the narcissist feels utterly smothered by the false self, utterly trampled upon, utterly enslaved by the false self. And he wants out. It's exactly like an abusive relationship. The narcissist is narcissistically abused by the false self. And he wants out. And so he seeks modification. He seeks the terror of modification. Because this terror causes him to disintegrate, to fall apart. And when he falls apart, he doesn't have the energy to maintain the false self. He doesn't have the will, the attention span, the focus, the mental energy to obtain narcissistic supply. And the false self gradually dissipates, fades away. And so terrorizing, the terror of modification is the narcissist's main tool to get rid of the false self, if only for a few days, a few hours, a few minutes, just to feel liberated.  And the false self is gone. The narcissist is open to the malware of life, is open to abuse, is open to being mocked, ridiculed, humiliated, exploited, is gullible.  He's nine to 11 years old. He's nine to 11 years old. The false self protects the narcissist. It has very important functions. And so immediately after the modification, when the false self is disabled kind of, the narcissist harries, even though he feels good with the newly acquired freedom, he is terrorized. He's in a panic state. It's realistic without this big daddy, without this godlike figure that is protecting him. So he harries to reestablish the false self. And he does this by idealizing and punishing the self or by devaluing and punishing the other. Let me explain. One way is to idealize the person or the situation or the discovery that caused the modification to say that person is all good. Yes, he aggressed against me, but he's all good. This situation was actually good for me. It's also idealizing, re-idealizing actually the source of the modification while punishing oneself. And the other method is devaluing the source of the modification and punishing the other. I will come to it a bit later. I said earlier that the borderline patient also has a false self, but the functions of the false self in the borderline personality disorder patient is utterly disconnected, unconnected to the functions in the narcissist. The structure is the same. It's the same. It's a godlike, it's a divinity. It has all the attributes of a godhead, of a deity. It is omnipotent, it is omniscient, it is perfect, it is brilliant and so on and so forth. Exactly like the narcissist's false self, all knowing, all powerful, perfection itself, brilliance, reify. But the false self in the borderline has a different function. The function is the equivalent of a host personality in dissociative identity disorder. I recommend to you to watch the series I've made about borderline women. There are four videos in this series. And there I explain that actually today we are reconceiving of borderline personality disorder as a combination dissociation or dissociative disorder and secondary psychopathy. We think it's a confluence of these two disorders. And so the dissociative part, dissociative identity disorder used to be called before, once used to be called multiple personality disorder. And in multiple personality disorder, we have a central personality, a central fragment of personality, if you wish. It's called a host personality. And many other personalities which are called altars, altars. They're like alternative personalities. So the host personality moderates these other personalities, moderates the altars. He moderates the internal dialogue between these altars, which is totally unconscious. And also he gives cues, he gives signals. He outs, he switches between the various personalities. So there's a personality that tackles difficult situations.  And so and the host personality is like a moderator. And like in a presidential debate, you know, okay, you can talk now. Okay, you can go out and then there's a process called switching. The person with a multiple personality disorder with a dissociative identity disorder switches between personalities which are very distinct and very, very clear. Now, the false self and the borderline patient maintains the same function as the host personality in dissociative identity disorder. The host, the false self and the borderline moderates and switches between self states. Now, borderlines don't have full fledged personalities. They are not exactly like people with multiple personalities or borderline patients. Don't suddenly become someone completely different. They don't become suddenly a child or suddenly a woman or suddenly an old man, suddenly a painter or whatever. They don't switch between utterly distinct demarcated personalities, but they switch between what we call self states. Each self state is clearly different to others. So we have like variations in the basic personality of the borderline, which are sufficiently big, the variations are sufficiently big to say that the borderline is transition has transitioned to another safe. So it's like the borderline instead of many personalities has many selves. And mediating and moderating and switching between these selves, between these self states is a central core and this central core in the borderline is the false self. And in most cases, in most cases, the host personality, the false self in the borderline has many features of a secondary psychopath. So it would be defined, it would be impulsive, it would be a bit aggressive, it would be disempathic and so on so forth. So there is this core, which is essentially a secondary psychopath, moderating a whole kindergarten of self states and switching between them according to circumstances and according to internal dynamics. And this core, this false self also regulates the resulting defense mechanisms. This each time the borderline switches from one self state to another, she provokes or she evokes and elicits certain infantile defense mechanisms, sometimes it's repression, sometimes it's dissociation, sometimes denial, splitting and other infantile defenses. And the borderline is doing this because she needs to maintain self constancy, evocative constancy. And to do this, she needs the host personality to regulate and to control everything, to micromanage everything, the switching, the self states, the defenses, and to cohere them, to put them together in a coherent cohesive narrative that makes sense. So the borderline is offering her life as she goes along, it's like she's writing a short story or a novel in which she is the protagonist, while the narcissist has problems with object constancy. In other words, the narcissist finds it very difficult to maintain a clear distinction between an external object and an internal object. And when the external object is gone, the narcissist resorts to the internal object just in order to maintain the belief that the external object has some existence. The borderline has the same thing, but that is not the crucial problem of the borderline, that is the problem of her partners, of her intimate bodies. Let me try to explain again, these are very, very complex and difficult issues in the cutting edge, the bleeding edge of psychology today. So I apologize if it's very difficult to get these things clear. I'm going to first go and I have to repeat myself again and again in a desperate attempt to make sense to you and of course to Mini. Let me try again. Both the narcissist and the borderline have problems with object constancy, object permanence. And this problem is known as object in constancy, creatively so. Object in constancy simply means out of sight, out of mind. When the narcissist doesn't see someone, when that person is not in the presence of the physical presence, not mentally, the narcissist cannot conceptualize that person. So when that person is away, the narcissist is kind of not convinced that the person who is away still exists. So the narcissist's solution is to take a snapshot of that person and when the person is away to interact with the snatcher. The borderline is an identical problem out of sight, out of mind. She doesn't see the person, even her intimate partner, spouse, children. She doesn't see the person. He or she doesn't exist. She finds it very difficult to maintain the continuity of external objects around her. If she doesn't feel them and touches them and shouts at them and argues with them, makes love to them or something, she is not fully convinced that they exist. But when the narcissist, the narcissist's solution is a snapshot of the external object with which he continues the interaction when the external object is away. The borderline solution to object in constancy is simply to forget about the object, about the external object. Narcissist, out of sight, out of mind, so now I will interact with a snapshot of that external object who is gone. Borderline, out of sight, out of mind, out of existence. He is gone. He's dead. End of story. I'm free. I'm alone. I can do whatever I want, which would explain, of course, many borderline behaviors, reckless behaviors, impulsive behaviors. The borderline knows cognitively, cognitively, that when she cheats on her husband, it's going to hurt him a lot. It's going to devastate him, maybe. It's going to cause trauma for life. An example. But he's not with her at that moment. He's not sitting next to her. He's at home. And so in the borderline's mind, he doesn't exist. Even worse, she may perceive it as abandonment and rejection that is not with her. But at the very least, he doesn't exist. So she feels that she is free and alone. She's single. She can be with that other man. She's not really cheating on her husband because there's no husband. Why there's no husband? He's not sitting next to her. She cannot touch him. In extreme cases, borderlines carry with them objects that belong to loved ones or to significant others. And when they feel that they're losing object inconsistency, they touch these objects. It's a little like psychic mediums.  So it's like through the object, through the handkerchief, through the, I don't know what, it's a souvenir. It's a trophy. Serial killers have this as well. They take trophies from their victims. This is a trophy. A ratifies and symbolizes the victim. And this whole psychological process is known as synagogue. So borderlines and narcissists have difficulty to move smoothly and continuously from one minute to the other because people go out of the room. Usually people go out of rooms, into rooms, away, back on business meetings, something. And this ruins completely the continuity and consequently the consciousness of narcissists and borderlines. Only the borderline doesn't care. At the core of the borderline, there's a secondary psychopath. And that secondary psychopath regulates her internal environment. It is her fault's self. And this secondary psychopath is very defensive and very protective of the borderline and will not let anyone and anything hurt the borderline. So in the case of the borderline, modification has different consequences. Let me define again what is modification. Modification is an extreme and intolerably painful form of shame-induced traumatic depressive anxiety. When you are humiliated, when you are ashamed, when you are ashamed, disgraced in public, you are forced for a brief moment to see yourself as other people see you. And these people are hostile, they're not your friends, otherwise you would not be ashamed. If you're healthy, you have your own internal equilibrium, internal balance, some homeostasis.  But what if you depend crucially on outside input, on feedback from the outside, from others, on other people's gaze?  It's dangerous if these people are hostile. It's dangerous for your internal peace, for your inner peace, for your ability to function. So, modification, as we will discuss a bit later, is very dangerous to the narcissists, I would even say in many, many cases, life-threatening. With borderline, it's a bit of a different picture. The narcissist seeks modification to be able to get rid of the false self for a split second. When he's modified, it's extremely painful, it hurts, he wants to die, but at the same time, he is finally himself. It doesn't last long, because immediately the narcissist tries to re-establish the false self, but it, it lasts, it can last even months, up to a year, up to a year without the false self, imagine. This scar tissue taken away, all the scabs reopened, narcissists bleed profusely. It's a death sentence, but the narcissist still seeks modification, because together with a death sentence, it's also a life sentence, he finally feels true to himself. For the first time, or for the second time, whenever there's modification, he feels himself, not the outcome of multiple gazes of 100 people. His mind, the mind of the narcissist, is a hive mind, it's like a beehive, input from this person, judgment by this person, opinion of that person, feedback from this woman, input from that man, I mean, he puts all of these together, he makes collages, he makes kaleidoscopic collages of all this constant stream of narcissistic supply, and based on this, he reconstructs himself, time and again and again and again, he reinvents himself and reconstructs himself, he vanishes and reappears, vanishes and reappears, vanishes and reappears, it's absolutely dizzying, not to say nauseating, and so it's very hard work to be a narcissist, this is very energy depleting, no wonder most of them are depressed, anxious, and it's very liberating, this freedom from the false self, no matter how brief, and only modification affords this freedom, and that's why narcissists seek it, borderlines on the other have a different reason to seek modification, they pursue modification in order to feel alive, not free like the narcissist, alive, the borderline patient has a psychopathic core, secondary psychopathic core, she needs to introduce novelty, she's a novelty seeker, she is addicted to thrills, she's an adrenaline junkie, she's reckless, she's a risk taker, and she all the time destabilizes her life by engaging in or engendering chaotic drama, she's a drama queen, the reason she's a drama queen, because only drama guarantees novelty, thrill, risk, recklessness and so on, drama is her way, the borderline's way of gratifying or satisfying the needs of the inner psychopath, the inner secondary psychopath, and so that's why she's so dramatic, but and that's the only way she can experience transformation, and so modification is the ultimate form of drama, in a modification state borderline patient is confronted with the truth about herself, her vulnerability, her weakness, her fragility, the constant danger she is in to disintegrate and harm herself, borderlines are suicidal, at the very least they self mutilate, many of them, not all of them, many of them, so modification is the borderline's way of feeling alive, it's a form of self-mutilation if you think about it, because it's humiliating, it's insulting, it's confrontational, it's dangerous, it's frightening, there's hostility in the air, there's a lot of hatred, there's shame, these are negative emotions, she brings it upon herself and that's the equivalent of self-mutilation, but she does that in order to create drama, to experience transformation, it's the only method open to her, sometimes she uses modification as a form of self-tratching, self-punishment, and that's also a kind of self-mutilation, modification in borderlines is self-inflicted, and it is self-inflicted because the borderline constantly anticipates abandonment and rejection, many borderlines are terrified of abandonment and rejection, they have abandonment anxiety or separation anxiety or loss anxiety, but some of them are not, they're not anxious about this, but all of them, without a single exception, anticipate, predict that they are going to be abandoned, going to be rejected, important things are going to be withheld from them, and ultimately they're going to suffer through this process of separation, and the borderline copes with this anticipatory abandonment, with this fear or anxiety or prediction that abandonment and rejection are about to happen, one of the ways the borderline copes with it is by inflicting modification on herself, so when she's modified, she is effectively abandoned, because what is modification is when you are humiliated, when you're ashamed, when you're disgraced, when you are aggressed, when someone aggresses against you, when you are in a hostile environment, or when you realize things about yourself which are utterly unacceptable, and if you realize it and others will realize it, they will abandon you, etc, etc, so modification is a form of self-inflicted pre-emptive abandonment, and the borderline's type of modification is different to the narcissist, the narcissist's modification is 99% cognitive, narcissist is totally self-aware, totally there in the situation, monitors, absorbs and remembers every single moment, every insult, every humiliation, every shameful incident, every disgrace emitted and inflicted upon him, and he keeps regurgitating it, he keeps ruminating, it becomes total obsession, with the borderline it's different, she wants to feel alive, she also anticipates abandonment, she creates modification, for example she misbehaves egregiously, everyone says, you know, you're horrible, how do you behave this way, you know, it is a punishment and so on, so she creates modification artificially, she brings upon herself modification, then she feels alive, because modification always entails drama, always entails chaos, thrills, risks, so she feels alive, but she realizes that because she had inflicted modification upon herself, she is about to be abandoned, so there's pre-emptive abandonment there, she abandons and then she dissociates, she cuts off the memory, she becomes dissociated, what is to dissociate, the dissociate is to disappear, so once she is modified, the borderline chooses to disappear, but some borderlines instead of dissociating, thereby disappearing, become total secondary psychopaths, what is to be a psychopath, it's to make other people disappear, by mistreating them and they go away, or by killing them or something, one way or another, you make people disappear, so the borderline, once she is modified, chooses one of two, one of two routes, one of two forks in the road, either she disappears, she dissociates, she's gone, bye-bye, or she makes people disappear, by abusing them extremely psychopathically, disempathically, horribly, causing hurt that can never be amended and can never be fixed, disappearance, the disappearing act is at the core of the borderline, first she disappears as a personality, she's fragmented, she's fractured, she's disorganized and chaotic, that's why Kernberg used the term borderline to describe a near-psychotic state, and then other people disappear because she has no object consistency and when they're not next to her she has no one, she's all the time throughout her life, alone, existentially alone, solipsistically alone, and then she creates modification and then either she disappears via dissociation or she makes other people disappear by a psychopathic behavior, disappearance, that's the core behavior and the main light motif of borderline, while in narcissism presence is the core motif, the core light motif, narcissists want to be too present, present too much, they want to be uber present, they want to force all other people to vanish by merging with them, they treat all other people as extensions of themselves, they want to be in other words omnipresent, like God everywhere, the borderline is exactly the opposite, she wants to not be, that's why 11 percent of borderlines tend to 11 percent commit suicide, the borderline's main preoccupation is to not be, the narcissist's main preoccupation is to be too much, the narcissist has an ideal fantastic and grandiose view of his self, we all know this and when an aggressive person challenges this view, the narcissist feels like he is disintegrating and it's a state of terror, there's a famous painting by Salvador Dalí Galatea, where you see there's a painting of a beautiful woman but the back part of her skull is disintegrating into molecules, sort of evaporating into thin air, that's a gnosis, when it when it's challenged either by an aggressive person from the outside or by some realization from the inside, come to that, but when it's challenged by an aggressive person, he feels like he is disintegrating, it's a state of terror, he wants sort of to collect the molecules and put them back together but all over the place is he feels shortly nothing will be left of him and that is external modification, similarly when the narcissist realizes that his grandiose fantastic ideal view of his self is totally wrong, for example if he realizes that he is mentally ill or somehow deficient or limited, he reacts exactly the same way he feels that he is disintegrating into molecules, he is that he is being atomized, but this is internal modification, so external modification is caused by an aggressive person, internal modification by an inner realization of deficiency, of lack of shortcoming and of course in both cases the continuity, the stability, the coherence and the well-being of the self are utterly compromised, totally compromised, it's a very very bad feeling and modification reflects the activity of infantile strategies of coping with frustration and the narcissists and the borderline with babies, they develop like old babies, strategies of coping with frustration, mommy doesn't want to breastfeed me, it's very frustrating, where's my toy, I can't put my big toe in my mouth, you know babies go through horrible frustrations, the likes of which adults can only imagine and so they develop coping strategies to cope with frustration and to also cope with repression, there's a lot of material, first of all there's an avalanche of information and the baby is besieged by ginormous, humongous amounts of data and his brain is growing like mushrooms, I mean and so a big part of it has to be repressed and baby has to learn, the main skill the baby learns is what to ignore, not what to assimilate but what to ignore and this is called repression, but babies cope with repression and with frustration, the borderline and the narcissists develop a dysfunctional coping strategy, grandiosity for example and they have also defense mechanisms that never disappear, while in healthy people, normal people, many defense mechanisms stop operating, are disabled, it's about age two, once you become an individual, once you separate from your parents and you become your own man or woman, your own girl or boy, your own toddler, you have your own individuality, separate, distinct, utterly cut off, demarcated from mommy and puppy, especially from mother, many defense mechanisms become unnecessary, for example, magical thinking or splitting, they're no longer necessary, so they die away, not so with the borderline and the narcissists because the borderline and narcissists fail to separate from mother and cannot become, do not become individuals and so all these defense mechanisms continue to work well into adulthood and when we look at these people, our initial reaction is wow, they're so childish, yes, you're right, they're childish, they're infantile, in adulthood a self-inflicted internal notification usually is used to compensate for an external notification or at the very least to disguise it and an external notification is used to compensate for an internal notification or at the very least to disguise it, let me give an example, but before that, yet another reminder, forgive me for repeating so much, people clearly find the material very difficult to digest and its new material is perfectly understandable, external notification usually when an aggressive person or group of people attack you, challenge you, humiliate you, shame you, disgrace you, mock you, ridicule you, etc etc, that creates external notification, internal notification when the narcissists or the borderline are exposed to insight, insight with the T, realization, some understanding, when they suddenly see themselves in the mirror they say I am not fantastic, I am not grandiose, I'm not brilliant, I'm not perfect, I'm far from perfect and I'm definitely not omniscient and omnipotent, that is shocking, it's like you would look at the mirror and you would see someone else's face, it's as shocking as this, as shocking as this, there's a syndrome called the cup dress syndrome in psychology where people mistake their loved ones for other people so a husband would look at his wife and see another woman, it's absolutely breathtakingly terrifying, it's the stuff of horror movies and the narcissist goes through this many times and this is internal modification, so when there's internal modification, the narcissist cannot cope with it and he comes up with external modification and when there's external equally he cannot cope with it, he comes up with internal modification, generally, narcissists and borderlines became narcissists and borderlines because they're weak, constitutionally weak either genetically or for some other reason, they're fragile, they're vulnerable, they're damaged, they're broken, they can't cope, the main thing a borderline patient would tell you in therapy I can't cope, the main thing a narcissist would tell you in therapy of course I can cope, while at the same time clearly clearly displaying total inability to cope, so coping is a problem and what these people do, borderline narcissists, instead of coping, tackling the problem head on, honestly, sincerely, maturely, instead of doing this they confabulate, they lie, they create substitutes, they disguise, they modify, they hide, they refrain, they're playing games, game, the whole thing is a game, that's why the narcissist is looking for a playmate, the whole thing is a movie, it's not real, derealisation, depersonalisation, many many borderlines describe their lives as autopilot, they describe themselves as observers and spectators, it's a theatre show, so clearly they can't cope with external modification or internal modification, too much for them, so they compensate, they disguise, when there's internal modification they will use external modification to disguise, they will invent I mean an external modification to disguise it, so for example imagine that someone, that a narcissist realizes that he is evil, that he is evil, simply, he is hateful, he is contankerous, he is unpleasant, he is obnoxious, he is mean and nasty etc, in other words a typical narcissist, imagine the narcissist realizes this, but I mean realizes this, not just knows it, knows it cognitively, not just having been told this, but suddenly from the inside there's an insight, cognition coupled with the equivalent of emotion, the narcissist says, oh my god if he is religious, oh my god I'm bloody evil, I'm hateful, what have I been doing to people all my life, that's internal modification, but he can't cope with it, so what he does instead, he replaces it with an external modification, so he would say, well maybe I am hateful, maybe I'm obnoxious, maybe I'm aggressive, maybe I'm unpleasant, but it's because people hate me, they make me do it, they make me misbehave, they don't love me, they conspire against me, they undermine me, they treat me unjustly, in other words a persecutory delusion, paranoid delusion, a conspiracy theory, which is an external modification, replaces the truth, I'm evil, I'm obnoxious, which is an internal modification, and vice versa, the narcissist has an external modification, yes for example he's been shamed, humiliated, disgraced in public, he can't cope with it, so he would create an artificial internal modification to cover up for it, he would say yeah well maybe my wife cheated on me, which is an external modification, but it is all my fault, I made it happen, in other words I'm in control, which is an internal modification, the internal modification is I'm bad, because I'm bad, I drove her to cheat on me, the external modification is she cheated on me, humiliated, when there is external modification the narcissist would prefer the internal, when there is internal modification he would prefer the external and the need to reframe narcissistic modifications is because the modification threatens the integrity of the sin, the very