Hi guys, what is up? Welcome to my channel. So for today's video, I'm very excited I've been talking about this for a while, but I'm going to be doing my Tom Ford rankings. So I'm going to be ranking all of my Tom Ford quads from my least to my most favorite. So I think this is a really great resource for you. If you are looking into purchasing your first Tom Ford quad or any Tom Ford quad, not just your first, I do have 20 quads that I'm going to talk about today. So if you are interested in seeing my rankings, then just keep watching. Finally, it's here. If you've been watching my videos recently, you know, I've been wearing a lot of Tom Ford quads. It's because I've been preparing for this video. I worked very hard on this video because I wanted to bring you the most accurate information as I possibly could as far as my experiences with them and giving you looks for some inspiration as well so that you can make the decision on what Tom Ford quad you would like to buy. If you are looking to purchase some quads from Tom Ford, I get asked this all the time, do you think Tom Ford quads are actually worth it because they are $88 for four shades and here is my personal opinion. Clearly, I love Tom Ford quads. I think they are a beautiful formula. However, $88 if you do not have a disposable income where you can afford to drop $88 on a palette, you absolutely do not need to purchase a Tom Ford quad. You can live without Tom Ford quads. I definitely don't think they are a necessity. However, if you do have the extra money or you've saved up specifically to own a Tom Ford quad because you really want that luxury experience, I do think they are worth it. I think that the Tom Ford formula is very unique. The finish on the eye is very elegant. It's very soft and most of the time it's a look that you can replicate from other brands. One thing to know about Tom Ford eyeshadows is that it's not about intensity or precision as far as eye makeup goes. It's about elegance and simplicity and just a really pretty blown out look for the most part. In my personal opinion, where Tom Ford gets it right is with his smoky palette. So if you're a smoky eye lover, I personally find the Tom Ford formula to be the best. He has some quads that I think create the most beautiful blown out smoky eye with ease. So that is where I think his specialty is. I will get more into his formulas and my preferences as we start the rankings. So like I said, I have 20 palettes. Now I got into Tom Ford because I was very lucky. I stumbled across a cosmetic company store that was having 60% off of all of their Tom Ford palettes. Now most of them were discontinued. So I will specify in the videos which palettes are available for purchase and which ones were discontinued. So the majority of the discontinued ones are the ones that I got at 60% off, but that was my first introduction to Tom Ford. So a lot of this collection I did not pay full price for, but a lot of this collection I also did because after I experienced that formula for the first time, I was hooked. I drank the Kool-Aid and I think when it comes to Tom Ford, it does take a special kind of eye to really see what is unique about the formula because some people just don't see it and that's understandable. Three years ago, I wouldn't have saw it either. I just love the way it sits on the skin, the way that they blend, the way that they blend seamlessly together and the finish on the eye just so elegant. Anyways, we're going to get started with number 20, my least favorite quad. This one is currently available. I don't know that I would recommend it though, but this is the badass quad. And this should not surprise you guys because I actually just recently did a shot my stash where I did try this palette for the first time because it is one of the newest ones that I've purchased. And I'm just not a fan of the formula in here. Of all the quads that I have, this formula is different from the rest. The formula here feels very tacky. This shade right here doesn't show up. This shade right here, it looks like a beautiful reddish aubergine plum kind of color and it just shows up completely gray on my eyelid. And then these two bottom colors right here, they're okay. Like this one is very pretty and the black is fine. But for $88, this palette is not good. It took a lot for me to get a look that I liked. The work that was required, it's ridiculous and I just do not like this quad. So that is why this is ranked last. I don't recommend it. I don't think you should make this your first purchase. And I personally just did not have a very good experience with this one. Moving in at number 19, we have seductive rose. Now, seductive rose is currently available and I do think it's pretty, but it's just not worth the money in my personal opinion. If you like a very simple look, I think you would like this. What kind of turns me off about this palette is this shade right here. It is pretty, but it's very hard to build depth with it. It is a little bit deeper. But the thing I'm like the least about this quad are these two colors look the same. There really is no difference between one or the other. For $22, the shade, I feel like they should look different. And they don't carry much pigmentation either. Comfort has a very unique glitter formula in his line and it's like beautiful. It's not even glitter, but it has this sparkle that's so unique, so well done, so fine. These just look the same. There's really not much color to it. You do get that glitter finish, which I do like, but I would like it in one shade, not two. And I would like another shimmer shade that has pigmentation or kind of a base. So this quad just wasn't worth it to me also. I think it's pretty, but it's just not all that for me. Moving on to 18, we have Golden Mink. Golden Mink is also still available. And honestly, now that I'm kind of staring at it, I really do like this palette. So coming up from this point is where I start enjoying the palettes more. So even though this is ranked at number 18, I don't think it's a bad palette. Again, these top two shades, I find to be a little bit too similar to justify the price. Both of them are very pretty, but neither of them have much pigmentation to them. They feel a little bit dry. And just like Seductive Roads, honestly, these colors look the same as the other two colors in Seductive Roads. I like this more because I just prefer the colors more. These two are very nice quality. If just one of these was in here and then this was a more pigmented, actually like satin shade with pigmentation, I would definitely like this quad a lot more and rank it a lot higher. But every time I don't like a shade, that's $22. And that's just not acceptable in my opinion. I think this is the only one that I don't have a photo for, but it's like a pretty nondescript palette. So this next one is a discontinued one. So if you did want it, you kind of can't grab it, but this is Starry Night. And I did struggle to put this as low as I did, but that was because the quality in here just isn't up to the standards that I have for Tom Ford. I think this is a beautiful quad, first of all, the look that I created with it. I was obsessed with you guys loved it as well. It was just the most beautiful navy smoky glittery eye. And again, this is where I start to talk about his smoky palettes are great. So this is great for a beautiful navy smoky eye. This palette definitely required more work than others that I have in his collection. I found this top color right here to be quite chalky, honestly, almost like a more cheap shadow. And it was a little bit unflattering on the eyes, powder got everywhere. The shimmer just wasn't very flattering. The navy required some work. The real saving grace for me, in my opinion, is the glitter shade here. Now this glitter shade, again, is sheer, but doesn't feel as dry. And it actually has a purpose like this shade is so beautiful. And this is what made this palette and made that look really beautiful with that sparkle in the center of the eye. So I don't dislike this palette. I'm actually happy that I do own it, but it definitely requires some more work compared to the others. Moving on to number 15, we have Virgin Orchid. Now this one is available and it is very pretty, but I was just a little bit underwhelmed by this palette. I don't think it's a bad palette. It's just based on my preferences for what I like. I wanted a little bit more from it. The look that I made was very pretty. It was a very neutral, subtle, mauve-y rose eye look. And I think a lot of you would actually like this quad a lot. For me, I was very underwhelmed by it. My look, I wasn't feeling my makeup that day. I thought it looked okay. This is pretty. I think the quality is pretty good. You can't get much depth from this palette, so just keep that in mind. But compared to all the other greatness that is Tom Ford, this one kind of got shoved back. If I say the number is wrong, I'm sorry. I think this is number 15, but we have body heat. And I think this might surprise a lot of you, but something about this just looked a little bit off to me. I think that sometimes just with the finish of these shadows, they can tend to look a little bit patchy. And I would expect that from more of his palettes, but this is the only one that I noticed because of the shimmers here. It does look a little bit patchy on my eyelid. I think you can create beautiful looks, but I really do feel that this quad does require a matte. I'm not a fan of this cranberry. I just want it to be on flattering on the eye. But for the most part, this is a nice palette. It's a really good formula. The colors are very wearable, and it reminds me a lot of honeymoon, which is what I'm wearing, but I like honeymoon more. So this one for me just feels like a wannabe honeymoon quad. And it is nice. These are more warm neutrals, but you do have this cool shade right here. It's a nice palette. It just doesn't stand out to me. So number 14, we have Soleil Dever, and this, like, I really like this palette. The only reason why I'm making it where I am is because it does not have much depth for this quad. The only thing you're going to get is a glowy eyelid. There isn't enough depth between each shade. They just kind of all stay within the same shade or tone. But I think each of the colors here individually are beautiful. I think that they all look beautiful on the eyelid and create a beautiful look. But I just think that using any of these shades, they kind of look the same on your eyelid. But it's a stunning glowing quad. That's just the only thing I noticed. So I think if you have a deeper skin tone, you might struggle with this. If you are more on the fair side, you actually will really like this. It's a very pretty look. So if you want that glowing Tom Ford eyelid, this is really beautiful. And it is limited edition, and Tom Ford is known to discontinue items that people love. He does not care. So if you are interested in this quad, I would recommend you pick it up just for the purpose that it will be discontinued. So that is Sole Deaver. So number 13 may surprise you guys. It is a nice palette. I do like it, but this is suspicion. And I really like suspicion. I think that if you are a gold lover, this is the quad that you're going to want to pick up. For me, I just have a lot of golds in my collection that this one didn't really stand out to me. But I do really like this one. It's a beautiful golden palette. You get different tones. You can get a bright gold, a bronzy gold, a brown base gold. And then you have this shade right here, which is gorgeous all over the lid. I think for me, I would prefer if this quad had more depth. I got it all over really pretty golden eye look. But I think for the way that I like to wear my golds, this just doesn't contain the colors that I need. Which of course, it's easy enough to dig into another palette. But as far as ranking these, this is just where it falls. It's a beautiful quad. And I highly recommend it if you love golds. This is very, very nice. I enjoy it a lot. So number 12, this one is discontinued. So unfortunately, you can't grab it. But this is titanium smoke. And I love this quad. This is what I mean when Tom Ford just creates the most beautiful smoky quads.  The shade right here makes a really great transition color. So this is going to be a very cool gray smoky eye that you're going to get. I just think if you're into these tones, this one is very beautiful. I like the quality. You have satins, mattes, glitters in here. It's a really great range as far as texture goes. So I enjoy this one. I don't want to talk about it too much because it is discontinued. But that's where that one ranks. This one is also discontinued. This is silver topaz. This is what falls into number 11. Now for this one immediately, you cannot get much depth from this palette. And when I first used it, I just used these three shades. And I was actually quite underwhelmed by this quad. But what amped it up all the way up into this spot is this shade right here. Because all of a sudden I have the most beautiful light gray eye. This shade right here makes your eyelids look wet. This is one of my favorite shades from Tom Ford out of his whole line. I love the gray look that this creates. Now you can't get a lot of different looks with this quad. But I love the one look that you can get so much. That's why I put that there. It's just beautiful. This is the last discontinued one for a while, I promise. But this one is last dance. And I love this one. And truly this is ranking so high because of this blue shade right here. I wore this in a video and you guys were obsessed. I basically just kind of put these colors out on my crease. And then I popped this all over the eyelid and I'm obsessed with this blue. It's incredible, truly. One of my favorite shades also from Tom Ford. For me, what made this quad worth it is this shade right here. I think it is stunning. The other collars work great too. But the star of the show is the only reason why I grabbed for this palette. But it's beautiful for that glittery blue smokey eye. Unfortunately, it is discontinued. But I wish it was still available because the look it creates is out of this world. Let's move on to number nine. This is one of my favorite classic smokey eye quads in my collection. This is double indemnity. This is fairly new. It came out last year. You have a black glittery shade that in my look with this, I put it all over my lid. I started with that and it was just the most incredible smokey eye. If I'm going to go smokey, I'm going to add glitter as well. Why not? And the other shades around it are also so complimentary. And what Tom Ford does amazing is his satin formula. It would scare you into thinking that it's not going to work because you need mattes. But no, there's something very special about his formula to where you don't need mattes. It honestly creates a very ethereal look onto your eye. And so this for me is the star of the show. And these are just the background to compliment it. And I just think it's a beautiful smokey eye quad. So love double indemnity moving on to number eight. I'm very surprised that this ranked at number eight because it was one of my favorites last year. But I think just for what I'm comfortable with wearing and the creativity that I felt with the others. I put this one here. So this is African violet. I wore this in, I believe it was yesterday's video and it is so stunning. I think it's one of the most unique in Tom Ford's line. So if you're looking for one of his more unique palettes, I highly recommend this one. It is a more warm palette. And without this purple, it actually is a very warm bronzy kind of eye, which I think is so beautiful for the summer. This is going to be one of my favorite summer palettes. But I love the way that the purple blends into the orange. It almost creates this really warm pink shade. And overall, I think the purple is a really nice touch. And I used this a lot last summer and that's why I ended up in my yearly favorites. But honestly, once summer ended, I didn't really grab for it as much. And I love it though. It is so pretty and I think a lot of you are going to like it. I just have others that I like more at this point, but I do really enjoy this one. And it's very unique. And if you like warm shades and you like a pop of purple, you will really enjoy this one. Moving on to number seven. This is one from his winter collection. All of the ones that you see with the white packaging is from winter. And this is Soleil Elune. And this one I enjoy because of how unique and icy it is. This again is limited edition. So if you are interested, please pick it up now before he gets rid of it for good. I love this. This is not me at all. These aren't tones that I typically wear. And you can't get much depth with this palette, but that is completely okay. I'll pair it with other colors if I want. I love the mint shade that we have here. You have an all over kind of skin tone peach shade. You have a white to highlight and a cool silver gray that Tom Ford does so well. So I love this quad. You don't get any of that great glittery formula that I love, but you have his wet dry formula that is really beautiful. And if these colors interest you, it's a very different quad. And I think that's what I love about it so much. And not only is it different, but it's a beautiful color selection. So if you kind of like icy vibes, ice princess, I love this one. Moving in at number six, it's also from his winter collection. And this is Soleil Neige. This is my favorite smoky palette that he has in his line. Now, this one isn't traditional like double indemnity. This one has a play on a navy smoky eye, a black smoky eye, an icy centerpiece here where you have this beautiful kind of taupey shade.  And I just love the taupe and the white as well. You can go in a lot of different directions I feel with this smoky quad. Limited edition, if you're interested in this, pick it up while you can. This really gives you an effortless smoky eye that I enjoy a lot. So number five, this is discontinued, but they did come out with an alternative. I'm gonna break your guys' heart because it's Coco Mirage and I know so many of you have a deep connection with Coco Mirage. This is an all matte palette and it truly is just a formulation that is so good. So buttery, so smooth, so pigmented. This does the work for you, you pop your brush in and I feel like it's already just applied and blended beautifully. Also, this is a great quad to pair with his other quads that don't have a matte if you really feel like you need a matte. I love using this dark brown just for a shadow liner. It is such a solid quad that is so reliable. It is discontinued, however, he did come out with an alternative. I believe it's called Minx Mirage. It's a little bit different, but it has a little bit more variety in the tones that I actually think could be more helpful. I don't own that one. If you want an all matte quad from Tom Ford, I'm sure that is just as amazing as this. This is gonna be linked with the Minx Mirage that's still available for you to pick up, but he has a beautiful matte formula. So that's kind of like a staple matte palette, in my opinion. I highly recommend. Number four, this is the one that I'm wearing on my eyelids today and this is like a semi-warm neutral kind of look and I love it. This looks so sophisticated, it's so beautiful. The glow that my eye has, I'm obsessed. This is honeymoon. This is kind of a classic one from Tom Ford. Highly loved and I think it has some depth in there for deeper skin tones. It just has some beautiful warm colors. So rich, so shiny. I love this one. It's so good. Just so you know how I applied today. This was my crease color, which looks odd. Doesn't it look like it shouldn't be a crease color? Well, it does. It looks great. And then I use this color to deepen. I use this all over my lid wet. So I did wet my brush because he has a great formula that works very well with water. And then I use the cranberry-ish reddish shade along my lower lash line just to add some warmth. And I mean, the proof is in the pudding. This is really a stunning quad. So if you are looking for a great palette for the summer or for the fall, I mean, this is great all year round, but this makes me think of summer vibes. I love this one. This is a good one if you're looking for a good neutral. But if you want something a little bit more on the cooler side. So if you're looking for a warm neutral, I'd go with Honeymoon. If you're looking for a cool neutral, we're going to move on to number three, which is New Dip. You guys know them all about the Couto neutrals. I love New Dip. This is another one that is loved by so many. This one pairs very well with Coco Mirage. Those are like hand-in-hand, but I think it would pair well with Make Mirage as well. Just a neutral lovers fantasy truly. So honestly, this is one that I would recommend as a first-time Tom Ford purchase. This or Honeymoon, just depending on what your preferences are. New Dip is probably the one I highly recommend most as far as neutral lovers go. I think if you're starting off a Tom Ford collection, you need to own New Dip because it is so deeply loved by many and it's a beautiful quad it really is. Moving on to number two. One and two is a toss-up. They're both purple palettes. What did I say? You guys know I love purple. We're going to talk about this one as number two. This one is still available for purchase and this is Pretty Baby and I think I turned a lot of you guys onto this quad because I wore it in, I believe it was my quarantine makeup haul recently and you guys were obsessed with my eye look and I didn't film it, but I'm about to show you what I did for that look so that you guys don't have to ask anymore and it's seriously so simple. Alright, so listen up if you want to know how I did that look. This is a shade I use in the crease. As my transition, then I smoked out on my Alder V this deeper shade and at this point I wasn't that impressed with this quad. I was like, but it is this shade that's going to save the day so transition outer corner and this I just used my finger and I applied it all over and this changed the game. This quad flew to the top of my favorites list. It's this beautiful blue purple duo chrome. It feels beautiful when you swatch it. It looks even more beautiful on the eye. So I only use those three shades for that makeup look and you guys were obsessed with it and if you like purples, you're going to love this one. This one is the more neutral wearable purple of his collection. So if you're looking for a more wearable ish kind of purple palette, I would go with this because you don't even need to use that duo chrome. You have these three shades which really play on a more wearable purple tone palette. So I love this one. Highly recommend it. It is stunning. I'm going to move on to my number one favorite, which is sold out everywhere at this point. I don't know if it's coming back, but I really hope it does. If it comes back, somebody let me know and then I'll send the word out to you guys. But I kind of lied in yesterday's video because I said, this might not be my number one favorite for Tom Ford. I haven't ranked them yet and I it is my favorite. Okay. It's my number one favorite because you guys know my strong attachment to purples. So this is the daydream quad, which should be not a surprise if you're a regular on my channel. I love this purple toned quad. I think there's not a lot of eyeshadows that play with purples in these tones. So I feel like that's what makes this very unique. So here you have a silver based purple, a blue based purple, another kind of silver lavender purple and this brighter just regular purple shade right here. They're all his beautiful satin formula. And I just love the look that I could get with this quad. I find it to be one of the most unique purple quads. It gives you the most beautiful vibrant purple eye. You can play around with different tones. You can pair it with different palettes to get a different kind of look. I just love this quad so much. It's one of my favorite purple quads. There we have it. That was my Tom Ford ranking of my eye quads. And don't let the rankings fool you just because something ranked love for me. I still probably have reasons to recommend it to a certain type of person. These are just aligned to my personal preferences and to what I actually wear and what I actually use. I hope this video helped you if you were looking to make a Tom Ford purchase. I love my quads. I think they all are beautiful. And one thing about the quads that I want to note is that sometimes in the pan they look so boring, but don't judge a book by its cover because with Tom Ford's stuff, especially when you put them on the eyes, that's where you really see kind of what you're working with. And truly I just think that he has a very unique formula that a lot of brands can't replicate. So that is all I have for today's video. I hope you guys enjoyed it. Up next, I plan on ranking my Charlotte Tilbury eyeshadow palette. So make sure you subscribe and stay tuned for that over the next few weeks. I hope you guys are staying safe, staying in your home and are all feeling well and healthy and keeping everybody in your family safe. I will see you guys in the next video. Have a good one. Bye.


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also was in a very emotional state that in normal situations, people can say all they want. I will call, I would do this, I would do this. But if you're not in a situation, everybody handles things differently. And I was making an irrational decision in a panic situation when I should have immediately, being an educator, being all these things, it should have been one of those things where it was immediate, no hot answers. And you might think, this girl's gonna be, wanna go fly to India. She's gotta be able to think fast. It was not that easy in the moment because my mind was in so many directions that I could fix it. I literally thought I was gonna fix it. And that was where it went from there. So I was gonna tell Harley. I didn't tell Harley. I paced face-to-face around the situation and was thinking, okay, if I don't have any kind of information, like if I don't have a plan in my brain by a certain time, that's when I'm gonna call authority.  Well, I didn't come up with a specific time, but in my brain I kept saying, okay, I got to act soon. But I knew that, you know, I'm like thinking by six, six, 30, like I need to make a good decision because what am I gonna tell the girls?  So that was where that timeframe would have been like, what do I wanna say to you? Go get in the car and be like, Ganon's not going with us. I couldn't keep going on and on with the irrational decision of not calling 911. And I had to stop the decision. So what happened? So I called 911. Okay. And they said, hey, sorry, you know, this is not an emergency. You have to call this other line. Okay. So I called the other line and it was a four hour wait for them to get there. Okay. So four hours later, they came. I'm still in a panic set. I'm like, these people are nothing I say is gonna solve the situation. So I did say that, okay, unless it is time. Again, I admitted it's a very rational decision because it could have been more helpful to be honest and say, this is the description here to be looking for instead of like the situation being like, he was gone. And that was horrible. I shouldn't have done that because I panicked. Okay. And I made a decision. Okay. And so from then on, that's when you guys came. They came through, asked me questions. They searched the house, every room, flashlights, you know, whatever, whatever, they went outside in the garage. All right, Mark, what do you got? Yeah, so it's interesting.  You know, she did tell a lie at that point. So that's the truth. And bang, she goes straight into symmetry on that. So that's lovely to see. Now that's not to say that every time somebody is telling you the truth that they're gonna go for symmetry, but if you can put that against other stuff they've done, you know, there's an interesting change there because normally she's super erratic, asymmetrical. And at this moment, when we know she's being accurate about saying she lied to the police, bang, she goes into symmetry. So that's interesting. Then she goes into the search story, which says there's gonna be some elements of that, I assume, which are accurate in that the police did come in and they did have a look around. Let's just assume that, but she's going into asymmetry here rather than symmetry. So my guess is, is something isn't quite accurate about the way she's going through. Here's what was searched and here's what played out here. I'm not quite sure what she's exactly she's hiding here because unlike you probably watching this now, you know more about this story than I do. But that's a great thing because you can have a better intelligence system in that you could take the information that I'm giving you, put it with the information that you know and come to some ideas about the truth and lies going on. And that's what we call intelligence, taking information and putting it together and coming out with an outcome that wasn't there in the first place. So I'm not quite sure what's going on with this police search. Chase, you got any thoughts about this one? Yeah, she's giving all these details about where the police searched. Where did they search the house and how thorough they were in searching but she's accidentally retelling a part of the first lie story that she rehearsed about being confused if he was in the house or not. She's detailing all the places of police search the house because it's part of her story where she didn't know he was kidnapped. So she forgot that those details wouldn't be part of the second version because this is where context plays such an important role. And when you hear a detailed spike like this here's what to ask yourself so you can hear all these statements like I do. In what context would a person worry about these details? In what context would a person worry about these details? And that kind of lets you know precisely if there's a detailed spike versus context this gives you kind of a what I might call a differential diagnosis there. See what's going on, Greg. Yeah, I think what we're seeing here is her now all of this story that she has made up is coming to fruition. And we can see it in her body loads and then I'll loop back and cover the other part where elbows are now locked to her ribs. They're not moving. She's turtling, she shrinks. The only time she comes out of that is when she's talking about the cops. And like you said, Mark, those are facts. Cops came and did this as Ness. She does a little bit of that front of the mouth talking I was talking about. She starts to try to supplicate the person try to get the person to prove of what she's saying she's supplicate with her and she's doing the front of the mouth talking and she says, I made a bad decision. What's interesting to me is just for a minute look at that video and put her hand down in a two point stance and tell me she doesn't like she's about ready to sprint out of the room. Mark, you always say your legs up under them and more ready to get out. She looks like if she put her hand down you'd think she's in two points ready to come out of the blocks. She knows that she's in a bind here. And I think any place she gets the opportunity to do this stuff she's going to if we go back and look at where she's had spikes in details, it's been evidence. It's been around hiding evidence. It's been talking away the evidence. All that stuff's coming to fruition now. She had a person she gave a code. She had burned the carpet in the house. There's a reason the carpet was cut. She had a brown suitcase missing. She went back going kept coming back and forth to the door. Those are all evidence spikes without a lot of body language to support them. And when she does get up and do something demonstrative it's around there was a green table or there was carpet rolled up. Ugly. Is it Mark? No, it's not. Scott, what have you got? All right. She's still in a panic after four hours. She's trying to get them to come over and talk about the missing child for four hours. And this is getting out of hand for her and she knows it. Still that's the point I'm squatting on because she's like you were saying Greg and Mark and Chase, she's shutting down. Everything's just shutting down for her. Her legs don't even move really at the beginning of that thing. They're just sitting there all together and she uses like Mark was saying, not being symmetric. She's being just one hand over here, then one hand over here, one over there, one over there. So she's totally thinking what she's trying to get apart, making sure and get across. Everything should be the way, to make sure everything is the way it should be. And it's not, it's starting to, she's hearing this timeline thing in her head and it's not working on the other detective and the detective's becoming more open and nicer as she goes deeper in the hole. And again, she's putting that together and it's not working for her and she's a little bit panicked. So I'll leave it there. Yeah, I would, this is you. So I called 911. Okay. And they said, hey, sorry. You know, this is not an emergency. You have to call this other line. Okay. So I called the other line because a four hour wait for them to get there. So four hours later, they came. I'm still in a panic set. I'm like, these people are, nothing I say is going to solve the situation. So I did say that, okay, let's at this time. Again, I admitted it's a very rational decision because it could have been more helpful to be honest and say, this is a description here to be looking for instead of like the situation being like, he was gone. And that was horrible. I shouldn't have done that because I panicked. Okay. In the next position. Okay. And so from then on, that's when you guys came. They came through to ask me questions. They searched the house, every room, flashlights, you know, whatever, whatever, wherever they went outside in the garage. Okay. Okay. So was there anything else that happened on Monday? Like, did you talk to Harley about it or? About what I told you? No, I told them just the first, like the first situation. Like what you told our dispatcher? Right, right, right. That, and that was that Gannon went to go play at a friend's house. Right. And do you remember the friend's house name? I never gave anyone a name or anything at all. And also too, like, I didn't want to leave out any key points or whatever. I had my headphones on because when I was like upstairs, when it all started, I had my headphones on so my headphones were still on through the whole scene. So that's why, if you ask me like where, like did you hear any noises? Did you hear anyone leaving? Did your alarm go back off? I had my headphones, I had my headphones still on.  When you came inside the house? Yes. Okay. Yeah, like I had my headphones still on and I came inside the house. Like, no, not coming in the house with them, but like in the house. When I went downstairs, I still had my headphones on. Okay. Yeah, like I did like this. Sorry, okay, so help me understand. Yeah. So when you came into the house, you didn't have them on, but then you had them on when you went downstairs? Yeah, because I came in doing like a normal, I would get ready to listen to music, I was gonna work out thing. Oh, okay. So I like, you know, you like move on back and forth. What kind do you have? Like I have beats, audio. Like the ones that go over or like they come in?  Yeah, so I always had to, yeah, I always had to like move them, you know, like back and forth and stuff like that. Okay. Yeah. And that's what I was doing, like moving them when I was like, do I hear something? You know, cause it's kind of like I heard something, but I weren't sure that I heard something at all. And that's when I started when I was there. Okay. And are they like noise canceling or anything like that? Or ambient sound? Or do they just do like play regular music? I mean, I think they would be voice canceling, right? Because that would be. I don't know, I think you can get them either way. That would be, I'm not sure. I think you can get them either way. Yeah. So. Oh, Chase, what do you got? When she describes lying to the dispatcher in the first, she says, I told them the first situation. That's the word she uses as if there's another situation cause she's using situation in place of lie. She doesn't want to say lie. So the first situation implies there's another one that came up afterwards. So she did that on accident. And you can now just see it and open now. And then she says, I had the headphones were still on through the whole scene. The scene. I think that she built that scene in her head.  She went through a story and then decided to make a new one. So this is, she recycled it a billion times in her head and rehearsed it and stuff. So it formed a deep groove. And when she gets under stress or what we call cognitive load, that story accidentally starts popping its head up because she's rehearsed it so many times that it came up on accident during the second situation. I think that's what she said. Situation, is that right? Yeah. Situation. I'll just leave it at that. That's just, it's as clear as it gets. Mark, what do you think? Yeah, it feels a little bit grim to me. Look, there's a new story here, which is the headphones. We didn't hear about the headphones in the first place.  Video five to my recollection, she says, as we got inside, I heard something. Well, you kind of both. You kind of, I came in with headphones and so I didn't hear stuff. And then at the start, you said, you heard stuff. So that is, that's a conflict. I mean, look, there's nothing non-verbal about that, but it's all about the behavior, isn't it? And there's two different behaviors. There's the behavior of hearing something and there's the behavior of hearing nothing because of something that you're wearing. You can't have, you know, the positive and the negative at the same time. And then this is the horrific part. Listen to the way she says that those headphones smash your head and the stress she puts on smash your head. That jumped out to me. And so my gamble is, though I could be wrong, I don't know this, but my gamble is there's probably some head trauma in the victim.  Or somewhat of the murder act that went on. Could be wrong, but I would gamble money on that at this point simply because of hearing that change. I wouldn't gamble my life on it. I wouldn't gamble anybody else's life on it. But I would stick, you know, I would stick a gamble on asking some specific questions around heads at that point to see where that goes. Greg, what have you got on this one? Yeah, a lot of the same stuff that oops she does when she says, I heard something earlier. She had already said she heard something which is the whole genesis of the story. Now I didn't hear anything. Oh, but she doesn't miss a beat. She says, I pulled my headphones back. You know how you do. And my favorite part of the whole time, well, she's already now, she's T-Rexed so bad with her hands. She can't even put her earphones on. Her elbows are so welded to her side. And this goes back to Chase's limbic discussion earlier as our body panics and is trying to protect our soft white underbelly. It wells her elbows to our sides to protect all of those internal organs and all these arteries from violence. So you can tear my fingers up, but I still got my internal organs. I can fight back. She's really bad. So I'm just going to walk through a couple of things. She touches her supersonal notch, which we say is insecurity around an issue when she's asked did anything else happen? And she goes to that iterative storytelling where she's going after telling what she wants you to hear and Chase, I agree with you. I would say you de-conflict in your head.  And the danger with the longer you get to do it is that you leave remnants of old stories and those kinds of things. And those are neural pathways after you do it enough times. And that's going to come out. And it's going to come out in some cases in the wrong way. So there you go. So of course I couldn't hear. And then she de-conflicts again. She's either premeditated and put a lot of time into this or she's just a good chaotic liar. She's not a great liar, but she's chaotic and capable of pulling facts and using whatever she wants. She explains why she could hear it. I think this is a person accustomed to treating people like they're dumber than she is. That's my opinion, whether she is dealing with people who are dumber than hers a different story, but the detective knows she's full of it because the detective actually giggles and says, help me understand how you could hear this. Gotta love that. And watch the detective. Listen to how many times she uses the word like now. She's mirroring and matching. She's starting to pay attention to word patterns and her movement. She's going to go after and get more information as this goes. And then she does that. She asked her about the headphones or the noise canceling.  Well, okay. Why don't we go get them and let's look at them? There's lots of opportunities. This person, as I said before, if this were not a tragedy, this would be a comedy because this is horrific lying. We can all see it. You can all see it without even using our words. Scott, what do you got? I'm surprised she didn't bring the headphones with her to show her. As detailed as she's been, all those things that protect her story, I wouldn't have been shocked. We would have laughed about it, but I wouldn't have been shocked at all. And to be honest with you, I don't think, I can't believe she didn't. I mean, I can't believe she didn't say, see, listen to this. You can see I couldn't hear anything at all. As detailed as she's been, second, second minute to minute on this. Now, I think she's fallen for that mirroring, the matching and mirroring because you're right. She's saying the same words. Her cadence is going the same way. Her volume is pretty much going the same way. It's a little bit higher. Her tone is a little bit higher than Latisha's, but she's still matching. I think she's falling for it because her feet are perfectly aimed toward that detective at this point. Her legs are together and their point right at her. Her full attention is on her because she knows that there's trouble there. I think she sees the problem. There's a hole in the boat. She's illustrating almost every move because she was prepared for this one. And as she goes through it, she's so prepared she can't give enough detail about this. She can't give enough because she's got, this one she's gone through a lot because she said, how am I gonna say I didn't hear this and this didn't happen. So she's thought about that so often that she can't get enough of it out fast enough to give her that information. She continues with the fading facts and I think she's still trying to connect with her, still trying hard to connect with the detective. That's all I got. Yeah, I know this is you. I'm okay. Okay. So, was there anything else that happened on Monday? Like did you talk to Harley about it or? About what I told you? No, I told them just the first situation. Like what you told our dispatchers? Right, right, right. And that was that Gannon went to go play at a friend's house. Right. And do you remember the friend's house name? I never gave anyone a name or anything at all. And also too, I didn't want to leave out any key points or whatever. I had my headphones on because when I was upstairs when it all started, I had my headphones on so my headphones were still on through the whole scene. So that's why if you ask me like where, like did you hear any noises? Did you hear anyone leaving? Did your alarm go back off? I had my headphones, I had my headphones still on.  When you came inside the house? Yes. Okay. Yeah, like I had my headphones still on and I came inside the house. Like no, not come in the house with them but like in the house. When I went downstairs, I still had my headphones on. Okay. Yeah, like I did like this. Sorry, okay, so help me understand. Yeah. So when you came into the house, you didn't have them on but then you had them on when you went downstairs? Yeah, because I came in doing like a normal, I would get a list in the music, I was gonna work out thing. Oh, okay. So I like, you know, you like move on back and forth. What kind do you have?  Yeah, so I always had to, like, Yeah, I always had to like move them, you know, like back and forth and stuff like that. Okay. Yeah. And that's what I was doing, like moving them when I was like, do I hear something? You know, cause it's kind of like I heard something but I weren't sure that I heard something at all. And that's when I started when I was there. Okay. And are they like noise canceling or anything like that or ambient sound or do they just do like play regular music? I mean, I think they would be voice canceling, right? Because that would be. I don't know, I think you can get them either way. That would be beats, I'm not sure. I think you can get them either way. So just one more thing. Mark, what do you think we've seen up to this point? How's it looking to you? I think we've seen more than we've ever seen all at once, all at the same time. And so I want to say it again, you may well see behaviors there where you go, look, but I do that, but I do that all the time. Or, you know, I often do that and I'm not lying. I'm not being deceptive. Yes, but you don't do all of that all at the same time for hours and hours on end. And if you do do that all at the time for hours and hours on end, when relaxed, when not under stress, how did you get through this video with us? So you don't because you've been focused on us right now and not doing all of that.  You're not doing the clusters that we look for. Chase, what have you seen so far on this? Totally agree. And the way that she shifts stories and deflection tactics could be a sign I think of a chaotic upbringing. So, you know, I always kind of go back to a profile here. So children who grow up in unpredictable environments very often learn to be adaptable and flexible with the truth as a way to navigate chaos. And finally, her ability to just maintain her innocence in the face of overwhelming evidence could suggest a level of delusion or denial. I think more likely delusion. Maybe we're not looking at a pure psychopath, just somebody who's completely deluded. This is common in people who experience a lot of trauma, abuse, and their childhood, maybe had to deny their reality to cope. So they had to dissociate a whole lot. And I think this speaks not only to her level of social intelligence, which is extremely low, but that she was genuinely surprised that it didn't work. So she just doubled down. She's been believed by other people her whole life, probably who had a very similar level of social intelligence. Greg? Yeah, I think what you just said is key. I think we started us off by me saying she's a matador. She's created this cloak, this cape that she uses to dodge the bull. And the interesting piece is if you look at her patterns, if you look at all this demonstrative stuff around facts, concrete facts that have no meaning. And then it dies off when she tells you these things that I think are evidence counters, where she gets to where she's doing this, is she talks about brown suitcase and those kinds of things. If you simply took that and you went back through this entire video and looked at it, you could build a picture of what she has done. It's that good. I mean, it's that easy. Scott, what do you got? I think this is a great example of seeing someone who is going in just swinging because they think they're gonna get away with this. And then as it goes along, they realize that it's not working. And they're not actually winning, that they're actually losing. And seeing these two detectives stay so calm during this without laughing, without the other one giggles a little bit, but I don't blame her for that. What are you gonna do at that point? I think it's just, they did a fantastic job with this. And I think it shows just about every cue that we talk about, everything from fading facts to illustrators to regulators, barriers, you name it. And we've probably seen it in these clips. I think it's a great video for study, actually. All right, fellas, think there's another good one and we'll see you next time. So what do you got?


Ben pre-season taken to the next stage, how have we found it so far? It's been really good. We've been really quite surprised at how fit the boys have been, how they've come back. Obviously it was a little bit of a step into the unknown with the amount of time that we've been off, which has never happened before. So we've been really impressed with the way the lads have handled themselves in the off-season. They've come back in really, really good condition, which has surprised us. A robit leave have done really well. In terms of strength work they're a little bit down because they've had a lack of facilities and a lack of available gyms and things over this period. But we've been really, really impressed with the players, they've come back in really good condition. Just give us an idea quickly of what the week, the first week, the first few days of pre-season have consisted of, obviously up until recently we've not been able to enter contact training, has it been a lot of fitness based? It's been good because we've had to do the social distancing, which the lads have been good and endearing to. It's been really a case of trying to find where they're at, so doing the testing with them so we know how much more work we need to do before we can introduce a football. We're happy with the fitness work that they've done in the off-season. It's now a case of gradually introducing a football and just building it up slowly. What we don't want to do is overload them with a football because it would be too much after such a long period of not being able to do contact training, football training. So the first week was just gentle or more steady state passing drills, aerobic base work, strength work to try and build us a base that hopefully now we're into this phase two of contact training. We can take that base and improve on it really. You mentioned the work the lads have been doing while they've been at home, while we've been on lockdown. Has that been much of an impact on the work they've been able to do or not been able to do once we're back to training? It helps us out a lot because obviously we now have a squad that we're happy with their fitness levels. It's just now conditioning their bodies to football the accelerations, decelerations, the things that they might not have been able to do on their own. So it's just a case of being cautious with that. We don't want to be in a situation where we think, well, they're fit enough now, we can now just let them play. We have to build it up gradually and that's the challenge. Obviously the challenge as well is hopefully being able to get pre-season friendlies before the kickoff on the 12th. So it's just taking it to the next level now, but baseline we're happy with where they're at. You were obviously here last season as well for pre-season, it's a very different picture here, both at the club and in the world with everything that's gone on with the pandemic. Do we feel the standards are still there and we're looking at where we are at a similar place to where we were last season? I think aerobics will be that the boys are fitter than they were last season. Probably because they haven't been away on holiday, they've just been trying to tick over. Obviously there was that period of uncertainty where we didn't know if a season was going to be completed last year so they were maintaining their fitness for quite a while until we knew the season was curtailed. Obviously we allowed them to have a break, but then they've been very self-motivated and keeping themselves on top of their fitness. A lot of them have been really finding different ways of training. It's been quite encouraging hearing what they've been doing in the last four months and how they've managed to keep themselves mentally and physically fit. Do you, as coach, feel the correct planning has gone in to make sure that the training is stepped up properly over the course of the next few weeks and months until we start the season? Definitely. That's the important thing now, making sure we're stimulating them in terms of the adaptations for the training but also not overloading them too much too quickly, but the players have been really good. The first couple of weeks have been really positive, there's a really good feeling about the place. Everybody's just really happy to be back. Everyone's obviously a period of uncertainty and the horrible things that are happening around the world but it's good to hopefully put that behind us now and focus on the things that we enjoy doing being on the pitch for the players.


standards so that our products will interoperate with products from other vendors. That there's an increasing requirement for interoperability because we're dealing in an increasingly complex world and no matter how hard we try or anyone else tries to say to you, just use our stuff it'll be fine. You're going to reach out and touch something else.  You're going to want those things to interact and that's why you want open standards. The benefits of open standards have been talked about earlier today. They'll continue to be talked about. Here's just like an overview of some of the many. I think I'm preaching to the choir here. Some people would argue that open standards or standardization in general is an impediment to innovation. In fact, I would argue exactly the opposite. Open standards enhance innovation. They provide an environment in which innovation can occur. Open standards are a process by which the smallest player can engage and can add their value. Open standards avoid lock-in today that customers are much more comfortable acquiring a product that conforms to a standard because they like the feeling the comfort that if they get sufficiently displeased with their current provider they can move to somewhere else. While frankly it's our job as vendors to make sure they don't take that step, the fact is that conforming with a standard is something which helps all of us sell our products. Open standards reduce cost. I think I am standing here as a representative of a business that has exploited this to the ultimate degree. As many of you know, we have become serial acquirers. In that acquisition process, we have acquired 65 companies in 65 months. How is it that we can take these products that have been independently developed without any anticipation that they would ever have to be munched together with the other products that are in the Oracle's product suite? How can we do this? Well one answer is to the degree that the products have been built to open standards then it's those open standards that provide the linkages that allow us to integrate.


And this is for the girls. Y'all can love somebody, but in the words of Alina Baraz, don't mean they are the one. Guys, welcome back to How's He Like? In a recent episode, we had answered a lot of your guys' questions. Just a random question that you threw at us. The reason why he has a beard is because I freaking love it. Oh, this is a funny one. Do Adam have fun? I have way more fun than she does. I'm a good time. I'm gonna put that hashtag for Tamara. I'm a good time. I am a good time. There were a couple of themes that came out, including... Relationships. A lot of relationship advice questions so we figure, what the heck? Let's try to answer them. We are not experts by any stretch of imagination, but, hey, if we can help one person like people who've helped us, then so be it. So the first one comes from... Sexy, cool, JC. We both have strong individualities. I didn't realize that. I thought he was the only one with strong individual personality. She is such a pushover. I'm just kidding. Being strong-willed is not a bad thing. To me, it means that you are passionate. And that's what helps Adam and I, whenever we feel strongly about something. The first thing we have to... Well, we have to calm down and realize that it's not us against each other. It's us against the problem. We are just both very passionate human beings that are passionate about maybe different things. What about me? And Adam as well. We learn to respect that and then focus on the issue at hand. I'm just waiting. Patience. Patience. Individuality means patience. You know, you're gonna always have disagreements. The good thing is I want her and she wants me to have an opinion. It's about respecting that opinion. And realizing what we want out of that conversation. We're on the same team. Because we're on the same team and if we really think about the common denominator of a situation even when we may have different points of views, that's respect. If you watched our episode on how we met, we mentioned emails. He said, I normally don't do this. And that's what really kind of just like melted my heart because you were being honest up front. I never have done it before since. Yes. Well, I would hope not. One of the things that Adam noticed about me that I absolutely loved because we were both individually confident people. He said, I love your sassiness. And I was like, oh, that's dope. If I only knew that. But the reality is, is that is a part of who I am. I was that way when we first met at 26 and at something age. I am still the same. And he doesn't push that down. He actually accepts it and he liked it. Oh my gosh. This is where Adam and I are so different and that give and take comes into play. My perfect weekend would just be sitting at home, staying in some sweats, watching TV, hanging with the kids, cooking breakfast, cooking lunch, cooking dinner, having a glass of wine. I think I said that before and just chillaxing. That is chilling and relaxing together. Not Adam. My perfect weekend depends on the weather.  Hanging out, chillaxing, which isn't... It never rains in Southern California. It's raining Southern California right now. I know, but I've experienced that. I want to finish my point. Okay, go ahead. See, patience, patience. Back to my thought process. Okay, so I have two perfect weekends. If it's ugly outside and cold, hanging out at home, doing exactly what she says. But if it's warm outside, I don't mind actually hanging outside. If it's warm too, I'm hanging at home, but I want to be outside. I want to be in the pool. I want to be in the sun. I want to listen to music. I want to maybe do a project or something. But I also like to go see and do. So not all the time. Not all the time. No, that's a good thing. I like to just go for a...  Remember when I was little, I used to go for a Sunday drive with my parents and my grandparents. And they would go look at property or whatever. Just go for a drive. I remember some of the coolest moments were sitting in that car and hearing them talk. And remember there were times I wanted to be in their memories. Like I wanted to be like, oh, I wish I was born then when they were doing that. So those things are really cool. So it's kind of a mix. So I do actually agree with you on some things on the chillaxing weekend, especially when it's cold and rainy. But I also like to go do and see as well. I like to go out. I want to experience things. Exclusive fun fact for the Housley life. I had to drink coffee like every day just to keep up with this one. She would sleep a lot. You did. You slept a lot. I was like, you're gonna sleep. Albert Einstein.  He said it's very healthy to get naps. Naps are one thing. Sleep in 21 hours a day is another. I did not sleep 21 hours. I think the longest nap I ever had is like two and a half, three hours.  Babe, I have never slept longer than that. That is not true. I wish your family was here. No, they know. They take naps. Your naps were like three hours. Did I not just say two and a half, three hours? No, you just had two to two and a half. I did. I said two and a half to three hours. I said that is the longest nap. Obviously, that's a nap. That's a sleep. That's a coma. I love naps so much. Like I get excited. Like I like folding my bed, fluffing my pillow, and I always say I have a date with my pillow. I don't mind a nap. I used to. But now you take naps. I do. But mind like 25, 30 minutes? Done. Perfect. 45 minutes. That's a cat nap. No, cat naps are like five minutes. What do you think? Tell us in the comments. Five minutes is not even a nap. It takes me like five minutes to take a nap. I didn't say five minutes. I said five minutes are cat nap. Ten minutes. I'm 35, 40 minutes. You guys tell us in the comments. I know you're going to be with her. That is a power. 35, 40 minutes are perfect. Can I just define my naps because I love naps? Three hours. Cat nap is like the short, short naps. Power naps is like a nap that kind of gives you energy to get through the day. That's like 20, 30. Ain't no shame in my game. That's why I still look young.  There are moments where Adam and I in the midst of those, you know, highs or even the low moments where we look at each other and we say, you know what? I ain't going anywhere. You going somewhere? I ain't going anywhere. So we got to figure this out.  Oh, oh, she's looking for, she's looking for, Aiden, do you want to go? Do you want to go? Do you want to go say hi to your sister? I don't want to stay here with you. All right, all right, come sit here. Araya, Araya, come here and sit with mommy and daddy. We're talking about relationships. Speaking of a strong-willed individual, there she went. There she goes. And here she comes again. Araya, hey, Aiden is with you now? Let's switch. We're doing a switcheroo. All right, see that strong-willed personality. Araya knows what she wants. Okay, I'd rather be in a relationship where the other partner is free to be honest with their emotions and feelings instead of someone always just being a pushover, letting someone always get their way. Because eventually I feel like they're going to regret that and it's going to come out in different ways. Adam and I actually have check-ins. I know it may sound weird, but it actually works. We've been married this year. It'll be for nine years. And I think it's very important to just see how your spouse is doing. Sometimes you could be so focused on your career, the kids that you forget or, hot, this is a big one, people are so focused on their own happiness in their relationship that they actually forget, yo, you have another partner. How are they feeling? So there have been times where I've asked Adam, hey, are you happy? And he'll be like, yeah. I'm like, Adam, are you happy with everything? Is there something that we could do a little bit differently about our relationship? And he's like, yeah, for the most part, I am happy. But, and then we would have the same scenario vice versa. And I feel like that has really, really helped us. Well, you know, the old book from back in the 90s, Miner from Mars, Women of Her, Venus or vice versa, whatever the title is. You guys are from Mars. Think aliens. Oh, my favorite one is. Venus has the pretty rings. That's Saturn. Oh, Saturn. Never mind. It's like the old picture someone sent me of a cockpit. You know, men is like a regular, regular old, you know, car that's automatic where it's just drive neutral reverse and park and women are the inside of a fighter jet.  So we're different. We're different. That's okay. I mean, the key is being able to communicate with your spouse. So for example, again, we're not relationship experts, but if I have an issue, usually I'm not on the person that will say something to me like, hey, when you were on the real, you said this yesterday, I do not wear socks by Birkenstocks. I don't even have Birkenstocks. And then she was like, oh, maybe it was your dad.  And but the key is the other one being able to take it. And remember, I keep saying this. We're on the same team. So I see them to her. She has to realize I'm not attacking her. I'm on her team. That's just my concern or maybe my problem that I have or whatever the issue is vice versa. She wants to come to me and say, you know what, when you did this, I got to be able to understand that she's not doing that to attack me because we're on the same team. It's a hard concept to grab, but it can be grabbed. And it's good. It's really good for relationship and for friendships too. Not just relationships. So there's two ways to do this election. There's three ways to do this with date night. Every once in a while, babysitter will cancel. And so guess what? We find a way to take the kids with us. The second way was we had someone that only one time we only had an hour on a Friday. We literally had an hour. And there's like, we have an hour. What do you want to do?  We went down there and we had a little sampler together just by ourselves for an hour. And that was fun. Connecting was awesome. And that's the key. And then the third one obviously is to find a babysitter. To find like someone in the neighborhood. Make the effort to find, you can find somebody. Adam said the key word. I'm learning not to jump in when Adam talks as well. My sister and I have been doing that for years. Never. But anyway, Adam said the key word is connect. Connection. I agree with a lot of the stuff he said. Now, we don't know your full situation. Maybe you don't have anyone to watch the kids. So I would say the main thing is find something that you can do even with the kids around in your house to connect sometimes. And we've actually done this once before. If you have if you have games, iPhones, or, you know, a television, put something on just for 30 minutes or an hour in another room. You and your spouse can watch something in your room. Netflix, chill, have a little quickie.  It still works. Or, or, here's another one. Here's another one. Cook together. Just cooking together with that glass of wine and like I, like I say, make sure you connect when you're doing it and just give the kids an activity that they can do on the side. I'm telling you just the idea of you guys trying to do it and seeing that your husband or you want to do something like that, that could be enough too. So that is not an easy answer. But I'll tell you this. You have to like that person. It's literally that simple. So it doesn't matter like, for example, that to marriage an actress and I was a news guy or, you know, we both believe in God, but she went to this church and I went to that church. I mean, it comes down to is this someone that you want to be with, you want to hang with? Is this person your best friend? It's that simple. If it is, if that person is your best friend, then it's worth fighting for. It's worth figuring it out. It's worth tackling those problems together. If that person isn't your best friend or there's some serious issues in the sense of, well, we don't agree on some major issues, then it's not worth saving. In fact, it's better to have those conversations now. We had those conversations before we got married. I mean, we were together for five and a half years before we got married. Yeah. We broke up for a while too and we had to go through some of those things. There were they were looking back. It was really nothing major. It was like outside influences, but there were still things we had to talk about. Do we want to have kids? You know, I had a friend that just their relationship broke up because they decided that after, you know, five years he wanted to have kids and she didn't, you know, those things need to be talked about before. Well, you know, even while the bliss is still going, find out because sometimes when you're in the blissful moments, they can cause illusions. You're not getting the truth of that person and your relationship. And if you are looking to get married, oh, baby, the truth will come out. If you're constantly trying to fight and like figure things out all the time, it's probably not meant to be. If you feel like you're always, always swimming upstream. So what I say, so simple, if you are crying more than you're laughing, ain't it? And there's one more. I think of a cup, right? My mom actually told me this in a relationship. There's always give and take, right? He should be feeling your cup and then there are times. Oh my gosh, he annoys you. The water goes out. But the thing is, is you should always be feeling that cup. Yes, life isn't perfect. The water goes out, but feel that cup. Water goes out. If that water is always going out and you and you're always empty, you're going to be thirsty. Yes, you're going to be thirsty and it's not meant to be. Stay my favorite part of our wedding. I love to sing and Adam had hired a band and I got to sing along with the band. That was freaking awesome. And I got to sing our song, which is Don't Stop Believing by Journey. And I got to sing our song. Our second part of the song, which is going back to Cali by Uncle Jay, which is perfect. My favorite part of our wedding was seeing her, my turn the corner and looking down that aisle with the flower petals and seeing all of our friends and family from all over the world and seeing her at the end with our pastor and our families. And it just, and she looked gorgeous and I still think of that view and think, wow, I remember thinking, holy smokes, I was nervous. But so what do you guys think? I mean, that'd be fun to kind of maybe our anniversary's coming up nine years. We've been together 15 but nine years for our anniversary. Maybe we should do an episode about, maybe talk about our wedding for one of these. That'd be really cool if we can kind of. We can use our photos again. Yes. I think it's balance, whether it be your job or what you want to do in life or maybe something you really invested in, it's all about being on the same team. So if Tamara comes to me and says, you know, I really like, for example, the real. Tamara's like, I don't know if I should do this. I said, you know what, I think, I think it's for some reason, I think you should. And I think you'd be great at it because you've never done that type of thing. And, you know, that was a purpose, a new purpose for her and her career. It ended up being a great decision. There's been times, you know, when I was like, I don't know if I want to do news right now. I mean, I love covering news. I love seeing history, but it's become so political and that's not me and you know, and Tamara was like, you know what, I think, I think we can do this.  We're going to be fine. So I think a lot of it is just communication and being able to support one another and knowing that, hey, those paths change sometimes, you know, sometimes the path may be this way and then guess what?  I see us as each other's purpose partner. And I think the pee pee. I think that when you are thinking of getting married, yes, you can date someone. So I always say to like, you can fall in love or maybe just because I love, love, like I have fallen in love with people before and way back in my past that I am grateful. I say thank you that I didn't work out because looking back, they were not my purpose partner. Adam and I, we support each other in our own purpose. But we also have one main purpose and that is, well, we all, we both love God. So we pray about everything. We have faith. So in those moments where I may have to step back a little bit, we pray about the situation and we support and have faith because in the beginning Adam was very much focused on his journalism career. I had Aiden, Adam was traveling a lot. I couldn't go out on as many auditions as I wanted. But in that moment, I had faith that we were exactly where we were supposed to be and I supported him. Cut two years later, Adam did the exact same thing for me when I did the real. There was somebody else you love before. Oh my gosh. There's a famous song that comes out called, from Gareth Brooks called Sometimes I Thank God for an Answered Prayers. On that question, I would say Adam's Confidence. That is one of the main traits that attracted me to Adam. I dealt with a lot of insecure men, maybe because I don't know. I mean, I didn't realize my career had made some men very intimidated. Really? Yeah. I thought it was some, I thought, well, there could have been some things wrong with me too. No. But there were a lot of men who were intimidated. They were intimidated by my success. And yes, I had success at a very young age. That is rare, but what I loved about Adam, Adam was like, yo, that's dope. I love that she's successful. So he was very confident. He was very confident in how he approached me. So I would love for my children, both of my children, to have that. I think they do. I just want them to keep it. I would say there are two things. Two. I get two. He is feeling. Her spirit. Aww. And her singing voice. Well, thank you. I know Aria has it. Aria has two for two. Adam has a spirit. Aria does have a spirit. You know, we get a lot of questions about this. And maybe it's something we do later on in a full episode. Just talk about things. Because you listen to talking is the best medicine. I think it's what? Next year or the next couple of years, the majority of kids born in this country are going to be mixed. Yeah. So it shows that a lot of those barriers are being broken down. And for me, for someone, I grew up in the Bay Area. And candidly, the Bay Area, I never thought anything of it. Honestly, I didn't. And obviously, I'm a white guy. I understand. No, it's hard for you to believe that. You're white? I know. But I never thought much about it. Honestly, because I mean, in high school, I remember I had friends who had girlfriends who were Filipino or whatever. It was never, for some reason, call us naive. But in the Bay Area, when I grew up in the 80s and 90s, we didn't think about that.  We thought, oh, his girlfriend's nice, or she's pretty. Or, hey, she's a pretty girl. Man, why is she with him? I mean, it was more on that. We never thought about the racial part of it. So I know other parts of the country were like that. That's just the way I grew up. Yeah. And you already had the experience. And I also want to say, just stay out there. It's OK to have your preference. Totally. If you like a particular type, OK, cool. But don't be afraid to be open. And I mean, I think maybe because I was raised in, you know, I'm biracial. I was raised in an interracial household, interracial marriage. It was always accepted.  Wait, she's with a, yeah. He's with a, I don't understand how that works. I guess that's the blessing of how, you know, we've been raised. So we don't really think about it that way.  OK. Yeah. I mean, the first thing for me is I never thought about it. And even now I don't think about it. Like I don't think, oh, I'm married to a black woman or a mixed woman. I don't, I don't think about that. I'm married to a beautiful woman who I love. I don't think about anything other than that. One of the coolest things I liked I got to do with you is when we got to go see the loving premiere about the mixed couple in North Carolina, I think it was in back in the 50s when they were the ones that helped change the law to allow mixed couples to get married.  I mean, it's really against a lot of marrying an actress, but nothing else. If you're married to an actress, you know what I mean. Oh my gosh. This is the second time. Third time, Adam. You're sleeping on the couch. I want you to want to do it. I want you to want me. I want him to want to do the dishes. I need you to need me. What song is that? Need it. I can't remember. Do you know my name is Luca? I live on the second floor. I live upstairs from you. I don't think I ever seen you before. And I see you're true. Okay, you know what, stop. See, you know what, this is one of the things that I absolutely love about Adam and I. I've talked about this on The Real 2. We connect with our love for 80s music. And 80s movies. And music in general. We like that.


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Well, with Election Day one week away, it's down to the wire for two candidates running for Bemidji's highest office. Josh Peterson shares with us how both mayoral candidates hope to lead the city into the future. It's not uncommon for campaign signs to dot the landscape during an election year, but within Bemidji's city limits, siging for mayor outnumber other offices. Incumbent Mayor Rita Albright and former Beltrami County Commissioner Joe Vinny are both buying for the seat to lead the city. I'd like to continue to lead the city forward on a positive path, continue to develop new businesses and work on making sure that our event center is serving the population the way it needs to. Public input, all government again is local. I want to engage the public and be having it open-form at all times. The ongoing issue of taxes will also be on the table along with the possibility of a hospitality food and beverage tax to support a property tax reduction. How do we get more dollars into the coffers without raising taxes? And one of those ideas is to capture more tourism dollars. So when tourists come here and spend money, how can we capture more of that outside funding and outside spending to do better for our community? If we can utilize ways and means to increase the use of facilities, build the economic development dimension, increased jobs will be able to stabilize. Another campaign issue being brought to the forefront is the Samford Center, its management and how to maintain the aging facility. Grow the use, increase the revenue and decrease the operating deficit so that in the time to come we'll have that viability that can be ours with this relatively new event center. We're building ages. We're going to have additional capital needs there. So being able to reduce that property tax levy that we're using now and hold property taxes flat or reduce them is one of the goals that we would have. With a tight race expected, this is one where every vote counts. In Bemidji, Josh Peterson, Lakeland News. Joe Venney served as Beltrami County District 2 Commissioner for 12 years and lost re-election in 2016. Rita Albright was first elected as Mayor in 2012 and is seeking her fourth term in office. If you enjoyed this segment of Lakeland News, please consider making a tax-deductible contribution to Lakeland PBS.