Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley at JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today. Our topic, the five signs he's about to break up with you and how to avoid it. All right, really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if any time during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if an F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest I'm speaking the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations.  I'm not here to talk about casual relationships, situationships, or friends with benefits or anything like that. So my advice tends to be a little more, maybe puritan than others. All right, let's jump into those five signs he's about to break up with you. So before I was preparing for this broadcast, I was actually thinking about when I went through my divorce and for those who don't know, I was married in my late 20s, was married for 12 years, got a divorce, had two children, about a decade and a half ago. And I remember when I was going through my divorce, I actually, and this relates to breakup, if you will, I remember being in family court, family court. We actually had to go to family court one. By the way, you might think of it as divorce courts, but this was called family court. And family court is where you settle your disputes when you're going, whether it's child custody or alimony, all those different types of things. And when we got to the courthouse, we were supposed to be there at 8 a.m. with our respective attorneys. And they don't tell you, and by the way, there were four other couples there and they don't tell you what order you're going to be in until you actually get there at eight in the morning. So you could be the first docket or you could be the fifth docket before their afternoon session. And we happen to be the fourth docket of the five. So I remember, so I'm sitting there listening to three other couples share their experiences in their marriage and what they were seeking and everything, it was very adversarial. They were, I mean, it was amazing how they were practically coming to blows with one another. I mean, it was very adversarial. And I thought to myself, and I'm listening to the different reasons, whether there was infidelity in one, there was money issues in the other or just plain old fashioned, they just couldn't stand each other and they wanted a divorce. I was thinking to myself, wouldn't it be great if couples before they got married actually had to spend a day in divorce court to actually think of what causes breakups? What causes breakups? Because I got to tell you something, I got married so naively. I remember we were supposed to do some couples counseling before we got married and my wife and I, or then my fiance and I were like, oh, we don't need any of that. We just love each other. It's just gonna magically work out. Well, we have learned that magic fairy desk doesn't make a relationship work out. So what I found interesting and what I thought about and why I'm sharing this with you today is imagine if you can reverse engineer. You could reverse engineer a relationship before it reaches a breakup. Like how can we actually be more intentional? How can we be more thoughtful? How can we be more conscious in the process in a way instead of this cavalier approach almost everybody is doing today in the dating realm? And I got to tell you, it is an extremely dysfunctional dating marketplace today. I mean, it's extremely dysfunctional between the swipe applications between, I mean, gosh, you know, when I was getting married, there was no such thing as cat fishing. There was no such thing as Nigerian scam artists. There was no such thing as ghosting back then used to be, you gave your, you went met someone at a bar, they gave you the false phone number. Someone, you know, they gave you a bad phone number. That was ghosting back then. Now ghosting is considered emotional abuse. And there was no things called friends with benefits when I was growing up, they used to be just picking up chicks at a bar and getting laid and never seeing them again. That's what it used to be. I'm laughing, but that's kind of the way it was. And so the world has changed so much in the last 30, 40 years for those of us who are either Gen Xers or Baby Boomers compared to what they're dealing with today. And it is incredibly dysfunctional partially because of these swipe applications, this ability to have this perceived, this perceived smorgasbord of people, it's no wonder people are treating each other as disposable. And oh my gosh, do you know when I was growing up, never, we never heard the term narcissists, narcissists, narcissism, all this narcissism, narcissism, narcissism, narcissism. We never heard about this stuff when I was growing up. Now every single dating or relationship podcast is out there talking about narcissism, narcissism, narcissism. Well, back when I was growing up, that used to just be called good old fashioned selfishness. Good old fashioned selfishness. But now there's a label to it. And now people are spending all their time studying narcissists, so they avoid the narcissist.  I gotta tell you something, if you're following these sites and these channels and these podcasts, you're just going to attract more of what you don't want. So I'm a little worried that even my podcast, my channel is a little bit of an alarmist. And it's like, I'm sorry, one of you recently said to me, Jonathan, you're like the parent telling us, and it's interesting, because it's piggybacking what I've said. I'm like the parent telling you don't touch fire. And so I'm just drawing attention, kind of reverse engineering, so you don't end up in a breakup. You don't end up with someone that's gonna break up with you, because you want to avoid that even before it happens. So while today we're gonna lean into those five signs that someone's about to break up with you, I also am gonna talk about the important need to avoid it before it ever happens, to avoid it before it ever happens. So I'm gonna put on my trusty glasses. My printer isn't working, so we're just gonna have to do it the old fashioned way. I emailed myself the answer. So here's the five signs he's gonna break up with you and how to avoid it. I realized I forgot to mention one of the primary, okay, I'm gonna go into it, but give me a quick second, because if you're not familiar with the work of John Gottman, John and Julie Gottman, he talks about the four horsemen of the apocalypse in relationship. And that's criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. I'm gonna repeat that. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Those are the four things that oftentimes creates the breakups. Those are the things that creates breakups.  I know you love throwing men under the bus. I know you love throwing men under the bus. I gotta tell you something, women are just as bad in their relationship skills as men.  And if you're not familiar with my emotional maturity relationship skills chart, by the way, emotional maturity relationship chart, this is not a fact, this is an opinion, but I believe roughly 20% of the population has clinical issues, clinical issues. And then about 20% are emotionally healthy. I'm being generous because most everybody is dysfunctional and why are people dysfunctional? Because there are unhealed childhood wounds and traumas, unhealed childhood wounds and traumas that makes them dysfunctional in the relationship. So they operate from a place of criticism or insulting someone. They operate from a place of contempt. In other words, they're bedding better than someone. They're operating from a place of stonewalling, meaning they're avoiding, avoiding, avoiding the conflicts that are gonna happen or they're defensive because the minute you trigger someone it's natural to get angry. I recently got angry at the manager at our complex here because of something so ridiculous. And I jumped, I literally jumped on their case.  It's because I was raised this way. Many of us were raised with dysfunctionality. So if you're not familiar with the work of the Hoffman process, the Hoffman process, I invite you to do a deep dive into healing your childhood wounds and traumas that cause those negative patterns and limiting beliefs in your life that causes you to create the breakup. By the way, you lady, listen, my audience is women and I beg on men a lot but I'm gonna beg on you guys as well. You're just as bad at this.  You're not any better. You might be, listen, the fact that you want commitment a little bit more than men, somehow it has created this martyr type of personality within so many of you.  And let me tell you something.  Nobody, very few people studies this stuff and listen. In the dating realm, we are meeting total strangers. We're meeting total strangers. It's so no, so no wonder. It's a dysfunctional dating process out there. If you're not familiar with the book, Total Stranger, Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell. What you should know about the people you don't know. Guess what? It takes time to get to know someone. It takes a hundred hours of face-to-face time just to get to the first layer of trust. But boy, you ladies, listen, you women will sleep with men so quickly and then you wonder why they disappear. Now, cause and effect. Men are just, this is not blaming men. This is not blaming women. I'm inviting you to look at yourself. This is don't look at the gender. Look at your own behavior. Now I know some of you think you're better than at all. I get it, you think that way. But the problem is, is because many of you just don't know the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship. And folks, if you're not familiar with my rhetoric before the penis goes inside the vagina, you should be reading the book Eight Dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman because this is how you're gonna avoid breakups. And by the way, recently on one of the broadcasts here, a woman said, Jonathan, I purchased the book and the guy I'm with now dating is loving it. Because it's a roadmap to avoid the breakups. It's the roadmap to avoid the breakups. All right, since I talked about this five signs, let's just jump into it because it doesn't matter. You know what? Honestly, does this stuff really matter? Do you wanna know what signs? It's simple. He starts to avoid you. It's done slowly, but he starts to avoid you. That's, listen, it may not seem obvious, but it is obvious. Everything I'm saying here might not seem obvious because many of you are so wrapped up in the whole fantasy of a relationship instead of really being practical about it. But Jonathan, I'm just supposed to sit back in my feminine energy and let the man lead. Look it. You wouldn't be following this channel if sitting in your feminine energy is actually working. Okay? Now, let me be clear. I was having a conversation with a client this morning. There's such a misconception.  I'm like, that's not masculine. That's just simply bad behavior. Do you know what's good behavior? Being patient. Listening, but that's not feminine behavior either.  If you wanna throw out the gender bullshit, read the book if the Buddha dated, if the Buddha dated. By the way, there's a link below to all my books I recommend. By the way, I will be updating the website. I apologize for that.   That's what people do when they lose interest. They start operating with contempt, criticism, stonewalling, or defense, defensiveness. Number two, he stops talking about the future with you. He stops saying we. That's usually a good sign that there's, he's ready to break up with you. Number three, he starts making more time for his family and friends. He's making less time for you and starts, his family and friends are more important than you.  He cuts back on the sexual advances. That's a good sign he's ready to break up with you. Number five, he picks fights. He's unappreciative or he's secretive. He picks fights, he's unappreciative or secretive.  You feel it in your gut. You feel it in your gut. It's because you chose the wrong person right from the get-go and you weren't the right person for him.  Is that actually a word unconsciously? Without intentionality, without a level of understanding, how to actually have better communication skills, how to be a really good partner in a relationship.  There, I said it.  That's all that's happening right now. The sexes are blaming each other. What benefit is it to blame each other? So how do we create a relationship that's breakup proof? Well, it starts by being intentional very early on. I talked about the book Eight Dates. I talked about the Hoffman process.  What benefit is that?  So I invite you to do the work because then you can invite the man in your life to be a part of the process because women purchase these books ninefold greater than men, men just want to know how to meet women.  And I don't mean that in the disparaging way. I'm just saying we men are hunters, we chase sex, okay? All you walk, all you're getting all this advice from so many women dating coaches.  That's such a, listen, what do we hunt? We hunt sex. We don't walk around. I wanna be in a relationship. I wanna be in a relationship. I still wanna be in a relationship. I'm gonna hunt for that relationship. I'm gonna pull out my bow and arrow and hunt for that relationship. What fantasy are you living in? Men don't hunt relationships, we hunt sex. And the notion of being a provider protector, look, that's, listen, right now we are in a dysfunctional financial dynamic when it comes to men and women. Dysfunctional, I meant to say, if I said functional. And there's so much ambiguity in this area. Stop, listen, two incomes are better than one. And sure, you can all dream of dating that rich guy that has the money that's gonna take care of you. How realistic is that? And especially at midlife, how realistic is that? Two incomes are better than one.  This is why I recommend reading my book.  Link below. A journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work. And I invite the man you're with to read my book as well. And if you really wanna start shifting the narrative, I highly recommend checking out the book by Gary Zukoff, Spiritual Partnership. Stop giving it up to some fantasy being up in the air and start giving it up to practical advice.  And if you're not familiar with my chart, relationship iceberg, see chemistry is what we first see for attraction but will compatibility, shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity, that's where compatibility lies. And the more you check these boxes off, the more attractive you become one to one another. You know, working as a coach and I'm so blessed that my client, I mean, I'm getting so many, listen, I mentioned this a few weeks ago, I'm gonna mention I got another client that emailed me or messaged me yesterday saying she's in a great relationship, she knows the difference. And I understand why my clients are having so much success. Do you know what it is? That they're operating with their head and not the fantasy. So I've yelled it all out of me.  You feel it already. My invitation is get, avoid it right from the beginning by being intentional and don't leave it up to the guy. You be in charge of your relationship, Destiny. It's not the man's manner clueless. So you take charge of your relationship, Destiny and invite him to read these books with you. And if he's turned off by it or even if he's turned off by my video, if he's turned off by my video, he's probably not conscious enough to be in a relationship. I have now women telling me, a man are watching my videos with them and they're like, you know, they may not like what I'm having to say. Listen, I'm your big brother. If I could be there with the shotgun pointed at the guy's face and saying, what's your intentions? I need you to do that for yourself. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating with me? Please let me know. Post a comment in the chat box or post a comment below. Okay. I think I've yelled at you enough. I think I've expressed what's going on. I think you get a handle of it. So tell me, are you gonna do something different today? Say yes, Jonathan. I'm gonna operate differently going forward. Post it as a comment, say yes, Jonathan. I'm gonna operate differently or post it in the comments. All right, that covers our content portion of the live stream. Now we're gonna take questions. Those who know my format know that if you have a question for me right now, write the word question, post the question thereafter or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. There's a little dollar sign there. This is only for the live stream. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's a picture of him right there. That was just a few months before he passed away. That's his brother with him and his mom. We were at his brother's college graduation and in my son's name, Connor Asley, also nicknamed Salty. We've got a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development for those seeking personal development work and also to donate to charities like the Hoffman process and Insightseminars.org. Check it out, insightseminars.org. Great organization. You can do the live, you can do the online course. It will change your life. Change your life today, work on yourself. That's my invitation for you. All right. Rose says, yes, Jonathan. Ava says, yes, Jonathan. Bridget says, yes, they're already doing it. Amen. Ava says, I love your style. All right, if you have a question for me, post a question or purchase a super sticker and also super stickers, let me know. Super chats and super stickers. Let me know that you appreciate my work as well. Cass says, I love how you go off on both sexes. Yeah, it's very dysfunctional out there.  What is it? You act righteous. I'm not, you listen. And by the way, I'm no picnic either, okay?  I'm not here to suggest I'm any better at it. I just happen to know more than most people, that's all. So yes, it's both a problem of men and women alike. All right, oh, we got questions. Cat, oops. Oh, Jenny, you're so sweet. Thank you for the soup.  Love you, sweetheart. By the way, Jenny, the RN is the sweetheart who made me this mug.  But Jonathan, I've been sitting in my feminine energy and you can see this, Jenny, that sweetheart, thank you so much. All right, she made this beautiful coffee mug for me. All right, question from Kathy. Question, would you date a woman older than you and buy how much? I feel like it's difficult. Okay, if you're asking me personally, my ex-girlfriend will kill me for saying this, but I was in a relationship, started 10 years ago, and I was with a woman 10 years older than me. And there are some problems with that sometimes, with age differences. A lot of it was things like, movie references and music references and just kind of a little bit of, we were really a generation and a half apart. So yes, I have dated an older woman and that's what happened. So thank you so much for asking. I appreciate it. All right, question, because of the internet and all the options of all the women out there, I'm finding they all want to hit it. That's it. So Sandra, I think women oftentimes think that they have to have sex with a man early for fear of losing him. And it's because we're meeting total strangers. Now, I think back to when I was in my 20s, I used to go to bars, it was called picking up chicks and you use alcohol, this wasn't intentional, it just happened to be, alcohol allowed someone to drop their boundaries and you could have sex, usually in the first night. Now with the online dating, we're meeting total strangers. It takes more time to get to know each other.  Think about this. One of the fundamental important aspects of a relationship is trust. Do I trust, and that fidelity, although that's important, do I trust this person cares about my well-being? Does this person genuinely care about my well-being? If you can figure that out in three dates, you're a savant.  You are a superior God, if two people can figure that out. And I can't tell you how many women, I'll tell you a quick story, a friend of mine, was totally loved by a guy, totally loved by a guy. And she kept saying, Jonathan says it takes 100 hours for two people to really get to know each other. And he goes, tell Jonathan, we are gonna be the exception to that.  And sure enough, there was at the moment of the time they met, it was long distance.  They had sex and all of a sudden he goes, you know what, we rushed everything.   When I say 100 hours of face-to-face time just to get to stage one of trust, stage one, you probably have to go through multiple stages. But by the way, when you have sex too soon, you don't know if they're legit, too legit to quit. You don't know if they're legit.  They didn't spend, I mean, well, he was manipulative so that's a whole other story. But it takes time to get to know each other. Does that make sense? Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. So coming back to your question, yes, and a lot of women are ruining it for a lot of other women. You're not doing each other a favor. That's my perception anyway. All right, question.  Do guys judge women? So here's the thing and that's a great question, Heather. I think men traditionally do not care as much as income and profession as women do. Let me just say that. Men don't care as much about profession and income as much as women do. I think women, because of hypergamy, if you're not familiar with hypergamy, let's hold on a second. Hey, Google, what does hypergamy mean? The definition of hypergamy. The actions of marrying or forming a sexual relation with a person of superior sociological or education background and what they mean by sociological, they mean money, okay?  Women have a greater propensity for that than men because you needed the guy to take care of you and your baby, okay?  Men care more about looks and women tend to care more about money. Now here's the thing. I'm a guy that looks at it this way. Two incomes are better than one. So if I make a quarter million dollars a year and she makes a quarter million dollars a year, that's a half a million dollars a year. I'm good with that. That's a lot more to be able to spend on vacations first class, especially if you can combine your expenses together. So I think a lot of men view profession and income. But for the most part, the more financially successful a man is, the less he cares about it, I would suspect. But even look at George Clooney. He married a drop dead gorgeous, but high and international attorney. He seemed to like that was, he seemed to go for that. So I'm just picking on George Clooney. So anyway, coming back to it, men have to care more about looks. Women tend to be the one who cares about money, at least income and profession and that sort of thing. And I know women judge, but men might judge certain professions with a negative negativity. I'm no disrespect to a barista, but if you're 55 years old and you're a barista, a man might judge that, I could see that happening. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just seeing that could happen. I'm sure if a man was 55 years old and his sole profession was a barista, you probably would judge that. This is just natural. Human beings can be very egoic, men and women alike. So what matters most? I think what matters most is you can take care of yourself, you've got good morals and you have good relationship skills. And you take physically take care of yourself, both on your take care of your body and you take care of your outer life, if you will. Did that help, Heather? Please let me know. All right. Jackie says, for the past six weeks have been a revolutionary for me. I'm totally standing with my power, no apologies, no compromising on my boundaries anymore. Can we get an amen? I love it. Ava says, when a man says it's not a good idea to talk anymore, be safe, be safe meaning. I don't know what that means. Okay, Rose writes, why am I attracting younger men? I'm 41. Okay, great question. Younger men like older women because the women their own age often seem very immature to them.  Because you don't have to worry about getting them pregnant. 41 is still in that baby making years but less likely to have to worry about pregnancy. And number three, they have a built-in exit clause. They basically say, I wanna start a family and I'm gonna go marry a 20 year old. So they enjoy talking to older women because they're a lot more fun than younger women.  Oftentimes around age 38 is what I've been told. I could be wrong but that's what I've heard. And lastly, they have a built-in exit clause.  So that's my interpretation of that one, Rose. I hope that helped you. All right, Carrie says question. I'm confident empowered woman and seem to attract married men. Why is that? You know, when I get questions like this, my, I think you might have had three married men hit on you and then all of a sudden, the hundred men who have hit on you are all married men. That's my interpretation of this. Folks, I am sure, Carrie, you get hit on men who are not married. And I'm also sure you get hit on married men. By the way, married men now use these dating devices just as much as single men. Why? Because it's easy sex. Easy sex is why men, married men. By the way, they don't have, by the way, did you ever watch the TV show Mad Men? Mad Men. You know, that main character, I can't think of his name right now. Can someone remind me of his name? Look at, he got laid with all the women in his workplace because they were available to him. Now with a couple swipes, you guys are available and you're easy. That's, it's just ease. That's why it happens. It's easy. So you're not attracting married men. You're just not noticing all the single men that are hitting on you as well. But yes, you are attracting married men and single men alike. I'm suspect. Unless it's out in your workforce because then you just happen to be around more married men. So it's out, if it's out in public, it just means that you're around more married men and you're not around as many single men who can't hit on you. That's my speculation anyway. All right, I wanna thank Sandra for the $10 super sticker. Thank you so much. Let me give you your props. Thank you, Sandra. The Connor Asley fund will appreciate you. Thank you so much. All right, let's go back up here. Allison says, Hey Allison, in my relationship, we waited almost a month before sex and it's great. But I feel like we now have more difficulty talking about deep matters than we did before sex. Could he be scared? Yeah. Cause you probably guys still had very surface conversations thinking it was deep, okay? Deep conversations. That's why this book really opened, here's what I love about the book, Eight Dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.   Why do I yell?  No disrespect to you, Allison. But it's children that are dating and no wonder it's dysfunctional. You're not acting like grownups. Check out the book.  The five keys to mindful loving. You know, I'm nodding my head as if something's wrong. Folks, let me just be candid with you.  I was a bad husband. I, there I said it. I was a bad husband. I hyper focused on making money for the family. And I didn't know how to be a good husband. I didn't. I was a jackass. I mean, my ex-wife was no picnic either. But thankfully she's an amazing, there she is again. She's an amazing mother. She did a great job raising our boys.  Every Mother's Day I make sure to give her props publicly. Cause she did the heavy lifting.  Seven when I met her. I didn't even have any awareness around this until the last 10 years.   Most humans have no awareness. I had a date with someone not too long ago that had no awareness on this stuff. She was a woman. Not that it matters. You know, I'm just saying she had no awareness around this stuff.  Because most of us don't do the work. We just expect it. We deserve it. We are such a self-serving society here in the United States. We just expect everything is a right and we just deserve it without actually having to work for it.  And this whole reason I get so, I get so angry at the narcissism.  You really wanna see real, if you really wanna change your perspective, everybody jump on an airplane right now to India and watch some five-year-old kid walk between two cars and take a dump in between the cars because he doesn't have a toilet or running water where he lives.  A significant percentage. And the media fucks us over by dumping it and it, I'm sorry, I'm going off on a tangent, but you guys, you better understand this.  And these devices and the media have not been your friends. They're not been your friends. Turn off these videos about narcissism because all it's doing is feeding you with more narcissism and start turning yourself on to the really good stuff. Read the book, Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters. Read these books, feed your soul, read, oh my gosh, here's another great book. The Four Agreements, the Four Agreements, feed your soul with good, healthy stuff. Where's the other book?  Feed your soul, not with the poison. Not with the poison that's out there. Feed your soul with nourishment, with the good, healthy stuff that's gonna make a difference in your life. Is this syncing in? Is this resonating with you? Please let me know by saying, yes, Jonathan, this is syncing in. All right, wow, did I go off on a rant right there or what? Ava says, I agree with you. Thank you so much. Wish you a dream. Pondries, Jonathan, love your videos. Thank you so much. All right, let's go.  Oh, here we go, Cass writes, question. I'd like to change my Facebook status to interrelationship, but I don't know how to bring it up without sounding passive or immature. We've both been together two years with six months hiatus. Rather, okay, doing that is for the general public. You know, I'm sorry, but I'm gonna judge this one. I'm sorry. So what if the general public knows you're in a relationship? What matters most is, are the two of you in a committed relationship?  Are you okay with that? Because then you're gonna see whether or not he's legit. Too legit to quit. Focus on whether your relationship is solid before you tell the general public. That's my opinion anyway. Does anyone agree with that one? All right, let's keep going. I'm 61 years old, attracted a 28-year-old and a 22-year-old. They both have to be crazy.   No offense.  It's not that hard to figure out, ladies. Now, when it's a 10-year, you're 61, he's 51, do you think it's a little bit different? 61, 31, yeah, it's either money or vagina. You must have a great vagina, Jane. Flora says, I missed all your books and I regretted it. I promise I'll read them now. Yes, thumbs up. Kathy says, I agree with Jonathan. Yes, thank you so much. Mary Ann says, I agree with Jonathan. Thank you. Heather says, I love it when you rant. Thank you so much. All right, do we have any questions? Okay, here we go, question. Rose says, in case of younger men, should I just pass on them? Rose, do whatever you want.  You don't need my permission to ask that question. Folks, sometimes I get, no disrespect to you, Rose, but sometimes I get questions and I think to myself, what are you guys thinking? Really? You know what? What does being a grownup mean? Learning how to answer your own questions. When I wrote my book, what the heck is self-love anyway is so you can be empowered within your life so you don't have to ask me for advice? I want to, why do I focus on books? Because, listen, and I'm not disparaging my contemporaries. Maybe I am. I think a lot of dating advice is just surface bullshit.   You know what I love about my clients? They come to me and they always say the same thing. Jonathan, why didn't someone teach me this when I was younger? Why didn't my parents teach me this? Why didn't I do that? Why didn't my parents teach me this? Why didn't I learn this before I married the wrong guy? And then I hear over and over again, Jonathan, you made me think, you made me go deeper.  And more so, Jonathan, I get the other calls. Jonathan, I met a great guy. Jonathan, I met a great guy. Jonathan, I met a great guy and they know the difference. That's why I love doing what I do and I recommend all these books.  You're gonna have to do a shitload of homework.   I go, you know, doing this work is not for the faint of heart. It requires some real discipline and dedication to a better life. Yeah. By the way, read the book, Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, right? Someone write this down in the chat box. Return to Love by Marianne Williamson.  I don't have the book in front of me right now. It will change your life. Read the books I recommend. By the way, if you wanna save yourself time by the book, get the audio version and watch a YouTube video that's about the book. It'll save you a lot more time, okay? All right. Trudy says, Jonathan, I agree. People need to study more. Exactly. All right. Jonathan says, question, how frequently will a guy that is into you initiate spending time together? I sometimes feel like I'm inviting him to do activities more often. Maybe I'm just not giving him a chance to. Does he say yes to the activities? If he says yes, then you're just the social director. What's wrong with that? My best friend is in a relationship with a woman and she just plans the social activities for them. He makes it easy. She plans it. He pays for it. He's rich, by the way. But listen, I'm gonna save the last 10 minutes of our video. If you have a personal question for me, write personal question and write any personal question you have of me. I'll share anything personal that you like as we're getting ready to wrap up in the next 10 minutes or so. So my question for you is, so what? And by the way, if you guys are spending regular time together and you're building intimacy with one another, who cares, who does the inviting? Do you have a commitment of monogamy, exclusivity? Are you exploring a seriously fully committed relationship that leads to marriage someday?  Sorry about that.  Heather just said I ordered the Hoffman process out of a few months. By the way, the Hoffman process this book will take you a lot of hours to do. Just the questionnaire alone will take you probably 10 hours to fill out just to do the questionnaire in the book. But it's worth every penny. All right, Michelle says return to love. That's right, Marianne Williamson. Oh, here it is, Wish Up, Ponder. Marianne Williamson returned to love. All right, Jode, Jade says question. How do you deal with the relationship that got off the ground seemingly okay, asking the right question 100 hours of face-to-face time, openness yet has a difficult point with huge trust issues derailed. Start over? Well, you never start over, but you start fresh with new agreements. You start fresh with new agreements. Listen, it's gonna take being intentional with one another. Now my question is how far apart do you live from one another? Do you spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in your personal and professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that's leading towards something serious.  At our age, within six months, you guys should know whether or not this is serious or not. Don't play naive. And most of you guys are doing it because you're in long distance relationships or you're in relationships where you don't see each other. You're both all so busy. And by the way, it's okay to be in a casual relationship. I'm not. That's not what I promote. It's okay to be in a situation ship. It's okay to be in a friends with benefits. It's not what I promote. It's okay to do those, but do it at least consciously and not with the fantasy that's gonna turn into something at some point. All right. Oh, thanks again, Heather. I appreciate it. And Sandra says, You've been an inspiration to me. I lost my daughter, Nicole, as well, because of the love you have for your son. And I love the love for my daughter. We can share a journey.  Sandra, there are no words to a parent who lost a child. And all I can simply say is I give you a big, gigantic Jonathan Bear hug. I'm giving you a big, gigantic Jonathan Bear hug. Folks, no parent should ever lose a child. It's just not right. It's not right for us. And I know we all have our different pains. I know we all have our different pains. And each pain is unique to us. This is part of our journey. For me, it gave me an opportunity. Connor was the inspiration for writing my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway? He's throughout this book on so many levels. There he is on the back. Salty. I invite you all to find your way to love, no matter what pains you've had in life, because loving ourselves is our vaccination to emotional chaos. And that's my invitation for you. Sandra, thank you so much for sharing. And thank you for the scholarship fund money. I appreciate it. Personal question, how did your date go the other night? Well, there was no love connection. Let me just say that. Nice, pleasant date. We just weren't vibing together. That's all I can say, we weren't vibing together. But I'm grateful for the referral from the matchmaker who set us up. She was a nice person, had a nice time, it was nice to get out. But that's part of the process. When you're meeting total strangers, not always it's gonna work out. But you know what? Fall off the horse seven times, get up eight times. You know what? Don't give up on your desires. That's my invitation for you. Marianne asks, question, do you think, okay, personal question for Jonathan.  And which one of your parents influenced you the most? You know what? My mother, there's my picture of my mom and dad. A lot of my, okay, if you're not familiar with the book, Getting the Love You Want by Hall of El Hendricks, Helen Hunt, I invite you to learn about the Amago. So I used to chase women who were like my mother, emotionally unavailable and probably sexually anorexic. I think I'm more like my father because I chase women more like my mother, okay? That was my patterning. I had to learn to re, I had to rewire myself. I had to rewire myself.  So maybe that could be it. But I'm probably more like my father than I'm actually like my mother. And I've explored this idea, believe me, I've done mushroom trips to kind of explore this one. I've done therapy to explore this one in the Hoffman process. I've explored this one.   I'm a little bit embarrassed right now. But thank you for that question. Everyone's asking, how did my date go? Well, I just shared it. Wish up on, wish up under dreams. Oh, wish up under dreams. Just purchase the Hoffman process way to go. By the way, the link's below. Would I consider a long distance dating relationship? If she had a flexible lifestyle, we shared the same values, blendable lifestyles, emotional maturity, and I thought she was smoking hot. I'd jump on a plane and go anywhere. But if we have a lifestyle that's blendable, that's most important to me. Now, this is bugging me. I'm very self-conscious about my hair. Ha, ha, ha, ha. Heather asks, do you think the majority of people in relationship are pushing to try and make it work when deep inside they know it just isn't right? That's my opinion anyways. I think a lot of people, it's not that they're pushing it to work. I think most people just think that burying their head in the sand is their way of making it work. That's how, I believe people bury their head in the sand thinking that's what's gonna make it work. That's just my opinion anyway. All right. Oh, Tuesday says big hug to you, Jonathan. Oh, thank you. We really appreciate that. Hugs around the world. I'm sorry, Sandra. Thank you. Wish up yonder dreams. Oh, Tracy, thank you for the super sticker.  This just isn't right. Kerry says, I'm waiting for Jonathan to play an 80 song and guess what it is? Hold on a second, an 80 song. Okay, I'm not gonna play it, but I'm gonna sing a song. Okay, I'm gonna sing a song. I'm gonna butcher it. I don't care if Monday's blue, Tuesday's gray and Wednesday two, Thursday, I don't care about you. It's Friday, I'm in love. I think I gave away the song. One of my favorite songs by the Cure. Friday, I'm in love. I can't sing that one. What can I sing? Oh gosh, what's that one? Oh, hold on a second. Hold on, everyone, bear with me. Okay, let's see if you know this one. Let's get lyrics. Hold on a second, the lyrics aren't coming up. Oh, I can't sing this.  So anyway, the Friday I'm in love is the song I was just thinking of. Okay, Tracy says, Jonathan, you're great. Thank you so much. FL says, the deeper a person is the harder it would be to connect with someone else at a relationship level. Hang in there, Jonathan. Thank you so much, I appreciate that. I can't sing, I'm a terrible singer. Tuesday says, I love the cure. I do too, I love the cure. In fact, I'm gonna go off and let's say, what song was I listening to?  Well, not brain dead, I don't wanna say that's negativity. What was the song I was listening to during the Matrix song? Oh my God, I can't believe I've just forgotten it by a Jefferson airplane. Oh, I can't believe I'm forgetting it. Anyway, it'll come to me. Folks, I think we covered the five signs he's about to break up with you. Let's avoid breakups by being intentional before you ever get there. Can we do that? Can you purchase these books? Can you start doing the inner work? Can you guide men to this process?  All right, purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat before we wrap up. I wanna, first off, just give another big gigantic hug to Sandra. Folks, if you find value in my channel, please refer this to friends, okay? Please hit the like button. Please check out the links below to a discovery call with me, to my group called Midlife Love Mastery, to follow me on Instagram. I love, and I love all the comments you share to let me know I'm making a difference in your life. Thank you so much. I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do.  I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm asking you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear, a pillow, and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I want, a white rabbit was the song. I can't believe I just now remembered it, white rabbit. I wanna thank Awe and Jen, and Tuesday, Ava, and Michelle, and Jade, and Jen Zari, and Michelle, and Wish Upon a Dream, and Reno, and Carrie, and Jade, and FL, and Marianne, and Heather, and Tracy, and Mestura, I can't butchered your name. Rose, everyone, thank you so much. Wishing you a super duper, wonderful Friday night. Bye now.


Hey Bolo buddies. Thanks for watching. Okay. I have 18 big money Bolo video videos Why am I saying that today big money Bolo's for you today? And these are items that I bought low and sold high items to be on the lookout for and I have a story at the end of the video about One particular item that you guys are not gonna believe so be sure to stay tuned Um Definitely a story you will not believe crazy So let's get started I'm Having camera issues. So this is what you're gonna see and I apologize for that and It's mostly screen sharing. So that's good All right, let me get my screen pulled up and we are gonna get started here So the first big money Bolo item came out of a thrift store mystery box And I will say that most of the items that I pulled out of this box were duds And I have a video on it. I think that was this came out of that big mystery box that I got It was huge.  So I sold this for $70 it's a gym short Santa tree topper and Like I said when I was going through those boxes I was like, oh my gosh, am I gonna make my money back and then I looked this guy up and I was super excited and it sold super fast So definitely be on the lookout and when I first saw it I kind of just dismissed it as you know Nothing cuz it had this like barcode You can see right down there and then I saw this and I looked it up And I was like wow and for some reason they must not have made many of these because this one's highly sought after The next item I sold is this Christopher Radco ornament. I picked this up at a garage sale for $5 I would have sold this for more if it did not have this But what they did is they initialed and dated their ornaments. So Yeah, kind of a bummer, but I sold this for $49 and the buyer paid the shipping So it's an elephant on a ball for those of you watching or listening and not watching The next item I sold is this Spode Christmas true canister made in England And I sold this for $44 and the buyer paid shipping pick this up at a garage sale. I believe it was $5 I will tell you this took a long time to sell. I have no idea why Spode typically does good, but for some reason. I don't know if it's my title or what but Spode can be good, but this was long tail, but I did make a nice profit I had to wait on the correct buyer. The next item I sold is this Birkham bunny another bunny this one is green glass and I sold him for $88 and The buyer paid shipping and if you guys don't know about these bunnies You can check out that story on primetime treasure hunters channel the thrift battle between Donatella Botolino and I I talk about these bunnies. So definitely go check that out The next item I sold are these carolers. They are felt they are inspected Japan And I picked these up at a garage sale and the lady at the garage sale was an eBay seller and I feel like she knew Her stuff somewhat, but everything was garage sale prices So I don't know if she just bought this and didn't see the value in it Or maybe she listed it and didn't get any bites and decided to put it in her garage sale But I paid three dollars for these you guys and I saw them and I saw a win because I always pick up felt items made in Japan If you haven't seen my made in Japan category below video, definitely go check that out If you go into my videos and search Japan It'll pop up and you can see just different items that sell for big money that are made in Japan I sold these for $44.55 and the buyer paid the shipping The next item I sold is this odyssey to ball SRT white pot putter And I believe I had this like I had it cross posted to posh mark and Mercari I cross post all of my items. I use list perfectly you guys are interested in checking out a video on how list perfectly works There is a video. I've actually got several videos, but I'll pop one up at the end of the Video it'll show you different videos to click on and you guys can click on that and check it out Definitely definitely worth cross posting and this is a software. I don't know what you call it that helps you cross post quickly It's amazing If you want to try it, you can use coupon code Bolo buddies that's an affiliate coupon code that will get you 30% off your first month of list perfectly Again, I cross post items to Mercari posh mark Etsy and grailed from eBay and there's different ways you can use the You can use list perfectly, but that's how I choose to do it. So definitely go check out that video So yeah, I think it was on posh mark the whole point of my story That somebody messaged me and was said I don't know they weren't very nice about my putter here and So I was pretty excited when I sold it on eBay for $57 and 20 cents and the buyer paid shipping I can't remember what they said, but um, I don't know if they thought I had it priced too high or It was something along those lines, but I sold it and it was a bolo. I think I paid $8 for this at a thrift store I'm not a hundred percent certain what I paid for it, but I'm thinking $8. I know I got it at a thrift store I think it's in one of my thrift video haul videos The next item I sold is this Halloween witch bed spring. It's an artisan piece It's signed by jewel. Oh eight and it is awesome and I had a Subscriber and somebody who I've gotten to know through my Facebook group reach out to me and she was interested in the item so I had sent out offers and she accepted an offer of 120 and I went ahead and gave her free shipping on that so she got it for 120 with free shipping and it is a really really neat Really neat piece So I'm glad that found an awesome home and this was a thrift store find and it was a thrift store That I have to kind of drive to and they have this area that has more of their high-end I'm trying to think what they call it they call it something like specialty items or something like that And it was sitting there and it's still got the original tag on it from the artist and it's just a really neat piece The next item is this snake bangle coiled arm bracelet this came from my I bought it on eBay to sell on eBay bulk buy jewelry Purchase and if you guys want to know more about that, I've got some videos on it It was 344 pounds of jewelry. I took a best offer on this for $40 and the buyer paid shipping the next item I sold okay, so This also came from a thrift store that is about probably 45 minutes from my house and These items were behind the counter and I do have a video on this as well when I actually picked them up and they were priced kind of high and I Guess after I figured out what they were worth they really weren't priced high But to me like I'm super cheap and I'm always looking for a deal so they seemed high I'm gonna guess that when it was all said and done I had about $10 each in them. I can't remember exactly you guys can go check out that video if you want to know for sure But somebody reached out to me and wanted these four items I had them listed separately and I think it would have been like five or six hundred dollars But they offered me 340 for four of them and with what I have in them I was like you got it and I believe this went internationally. So these are fin hold Bears they're mohair. They're jointed and they're limited edition and they are super cool Like some of them. Let's see like this. There were only 20 of this one made So if I would have held out and waited on the right buyer I probably could have gotten more money for these but like I said, I probably got 50 bucks or less and all four and I sold them for $340 plus shipping The next item I sold is this estee lauder dazzling silver perfume. I pick perfumes up at garage sales thrift stores I usually don't pay very much for them because I usually just buy whatever they have and at garage sales they're usually price cheap and I just buy them without even knowing and this one ended up being really good and it sold pretty quick Um, I don't know. I don't know why some do better than others I guess, you know, they're discontinued and people just love them, but this is almost full, but it's not very big I usually do this just to show people the actual size So, you know, like when you look at this picture, you're like, hmm, I wonder if that's a big bottle and I put 0.5 fluid ounces in the title But I think some people, you know, they if they get that visual with the tape measure I don't know that it's just what I do. So I sold this for 70 plus shipping The next item I sold is this halloween empire blow This came out of a mystery box And if you guys have watched any of my mystery box videos Most of the items get redonated and I told you guys I was never having a garage sale Guess what Courtney did she had a garage sale? um I had donated a bunch of stuff, but I still had some stuff left So I went ahead and had the garage sale But this is one of the items that I was excited about that I pulled out of a mystery box And I sold this for 40 dollars and the buyer paid shipping and it sold pretty fast And this is a tabletop size. It's not really big you guys. It's just a small one The next item I sold is this disney princess t-set now I paid up for this guys I paid 10 dollars for it at a garage sale and you guys know me 10 dollars is paying up And I sold this like super fast I think it was like within a couple of days and I sold it for a best offer of 85 dollars and the buyer paid shipping The next item I sold is this vintage signed art smiling asian buda pendant necklace This also came out of my bulk buy. I want to say I got 344 pounds 344 pounds and I think it was like 170 or 180 dollars So a ton of stuff and I have a video where I go and pick it up in a video where I weigh it So check that out But a subscriber reached out to me and said it was in one of my unboxing videos. They're like that buda and I was like Okay, and then I looked it up and I'm like, whoa, these things go for big money So I did list it and then I let the subscriber know but um There was actually somebody who had one listed and they spelled buda wrong and they had it listed further I don't know like 65 dollars So I went ahead and sent the subscriber The link to that one because I wasn't going to sell mine that low and I would rather you can you know You guys get a good deal if you can because 65 was a great deal so This is another item that sold super fast and I took a best offer of 95 dollars and the buyer paid shipping And he's kind of big for a pendant. It's like two and a half inches, but definitely an interesting piece The next item I sold is this vintage plastic horse with a saddle. It's hard to find It's rare. The reason I said that is because I could not find any comps on it Um, it turns out that this was a briar horse. It was not marked I don't know how that works, but the person left me feedback And they said thank you so much for the briar horse and they called it like some special name and i'm like Oh my gosh, what did I just sell because some of those briar horses can go for huge money And I was thinking that maybe I gave away A horse that's worth like hundreds of dollars and I sold it for 45 But I think I did okay. I don't think the saddle was original to the horse So maybe that's why I was having trouble when I was doing like an image search But I couldn't find it but he called it exactly what it was in his feedback So, um, this sold for 45 dollars plus shipping picked it up at a garage sale for like a buck The next item I sold are these lane Bryant jeans and the reason I am showing you guys this is because They sold fast. I sold them for 40 dollars I have a closet full of clothes that need listed and one day I was like, you know what? I'm going to list some of those clothes and So I'm going to consider 40 dollars a bolo. I paid around $3 for these I I can't give you an exact price because I would buy so much at the same time And then I would just take the total and divide it out Some items were more some items were less, but I just always think in my mind I've got about three dollars in my clothes. So sold it for 40 dollars and the buyer paid shipping And I got those at a discount store. The next item is this summer hill Body mist. I think this came from a thrift store or a garage sale. Not sure Um, I sold it for 39 dollars and 60 cents and the buyer paid the shipping The next item I sold is this doll house furniture. Um, it's plastic. It's not super fancy And I could have probably sold it in small lots, but you know, the condition wasn't great on some of it And I was like, you know what? I'm just going to sell it and let somebody else do that that work Because I didn't want to mess with it. So I took a best offer of 38 dollars in the buyer paid shipping and I want to say that was a Garage sale that I got that at I can't remember. Yeah, I think a garage sale The last item and here is the story you've all been waiting for So this doll came in a mystery box and When I say mystery box, it was just a box of toys and I actually have a video on it And I had no clue you guys she was naked And I threw her up on ebay in a bulk Barbies Disney she did say Disney on her neck, but I didn't know it was melody So I put her on ebay And a lot of um dolls right before bed I was like, I'm just going to get these listed real quick and I'm just going to put it on an auction and I'm going to go to bed And before I went to bed somebody sent me an offer and I want to say I don't remember what the offer was I don't want to say because I don't remember and I'd just be making it up so But it was under a hundred dollars and it was for all of these Barbies and Disney dolls and She's like I only want the Melody and then the doll with the pink dress on And I'm like, okay, so I don't know about you guys But as a reseller when somebody asks for something specifically I'm going to look it up So I went into ebay and I looked up Disney Melody doll and I could not believe my eyeballs I was so excited um So I ended the listing And I was like, I have the mermaid tail in all of the Barbie clothes So I went and I found the the Barbie um the mermaid tail I pulled the pink dress off the other Barbie that she wanted because she wanted the pink dress for this doll and I put it together and created this listing and this is what she looks like you guys I mean who would have guessed that this is a 220 dollar Barbie Not our mermaid Ariel doll Is that crazy or what this is how she was in the lot and her head was just like peeking out and they saw it and you know, um It's just one of those things where you know, if somebody's asking about something when you have stuff lotted up Stop take a minute and look it up. Um, this has happened to me twice now. So I'll have Um, the other one was for another toy and it was in a lot of toys. So definitely number one be on the lookout for this very rare melody doll And number two if you have a lot of items listed and somebody messages you about a specific item They may just want that specific item and it may just be just that But it doesn't hurt to look it up. So that is my Story and there's going to be some other videos that are going to be popping up shortly click on one of those Check out another video the list perfectly video should pop up if I remember to add it And again the affiliate coupon code is third for 30% off list perfectly for the first month is bolo buddies all one word And thanks for watching


Well, should we do an episode and then we can maybe try and do some of a bulls*** at the end for Lucas to cut around? No, Link. Alright, am I? What? What? So we spent the last couple of episodes talking about real things. Real talk. Let's stop that. Let's not do that. So yeah, I thought why not just talk about some imaginary stuff this time. I want to talk about import maps, which is a new proposal that is very much of the early messing around. Right, so let's give it context because I've seen, we have an article on this. We have had a lot of confusion about how stable certain features are when we announce them. Where is it at? Well, yes. Before we talk about what it is, I would say some of it is in Chrome Canary behind the flag, an origin trial. So you can experiment with it on production with the whole origin trial thing. But none of this is set in stone, so it could still change how it works, why it works. This episode could be completely useless by the time it goes out. So I guess it's also pretty much Chrome only then at this point. Like not the other browsers have it behind the flag? Nope. It'd be Chrome only. So what is it? What is it? Actually, I'm going to answer that because I did the slides and the script and everything. We've got a module import with your old module scripts. See, I used your library. See, you happy? Did you use IDB key valve at once? No, no. I've changed it up this time. But a lot of us are more familiar to seeing something like this. Yeah, because that's how the node import works and most of the bundless support, that kind of specifier where you just say, just put the node package name in there and we'll resolve the rest. And the way this actually works in Node is it will start at whatever module contains this and it will go up through all of the directories, all the parent directories, looking for directors that have node modules alongside. All right, so it goes upwards and tries to find the most, the closest node module? No, it'll find them all. Oh, really? Yeah. I think it's wasteful. It goes and find them all and then it will find two. So you put a node modules folder in Slash, like in the root of my hard drive. I think that will work. That's amazing. But then there's also the special global one for your global modules, so that goes at the end as well. Can you do it in your existing? Well, yeah, if you do npm install dash g, dash g, it goes into your global stuff. Oh, right. I never thought about that. Yeah. And then it will iterate through all of those and it will look for a directory called comlink in each of those. And if there's multiple? Well, it will. So it's going through them close? Yes. So when it finds comlink in one of them, it will go, right, does this have a package, Jason? If it does, then I'm going to look in the main thing. And that's the script I'm going to load. If it doesn't have that, then I'm going to try and load index.js. If that's not there, I'm going to try and load index.json. If that's not there, I'm going to try and load index.node for binary modules. Yes, that's how it works. And if they're not there, it then goes up the directories. Yeah. And off it goes. We want that on the web. Is that what you're saying? That's the problem is we literally cannot do that on the web because imagine how many requests it would have to make just to find a script, right? Time to interactive. Two and a half years. Yeah. Exactly. So we needed a new system in order to bring this to the web and that is import maps. That is what we're going to talk about. Oh, it's a new type. It's a new script type. Can I also put in a file? Yes. Yes, you can. And you shouldn't. And we will get on to why. But this is what it looks like. So it's literally a map that maps from the identifier stuff. Oh, that's interesting because I remember that there is a rule for both dynamic and static imports. They have to start with slash or with a relative or absolute path. Yes. They were not allowed to start with like this. Yes. Modules on the web right now have to start with a dot. I think it has to be like dot, dot, dot. Or a valid URL or slash. Right. Something like that. OK. And so this would let you with this. Now you would just be able to reference. Oh, cool. OK. So there is no way that an import map identifier could clash with existing production code out there right now because of that rule. Hold on. Hold on to that. As long as you've got this, one of these has to go before anything that imports anything, any import statement. If you have one of these later on, it will just error. You'll get an error on this script tag and it will just be ignored. OK. So ideally right in the head of your document for everything else. That's why you probably shouldn't put them in a file. That's why you probably shouldn't put them in a file. But yes, now this works. Neat. Just works. Thank you for spoiling my next slide multiple times. It's just to show we don't rehearse this, right? Yes, I would say you can do this. It has to have a special mine type. But yes, you shouldn't because then you've got this head of line blocking thing. So will that mean that a script type import map is also deferred by default? Because modules are deferred by default. No, this will, I mean, it's not going to block rendering of anything, but it will be immediate fetch. And it will block subsequent script tags. Script tags. So basically, if you put in an excellent file but put the script tag high up, you should still be fine. But it won't lie on it, but you should be fine. But there's a reason we in line scripts, right? Because if it's a very small file, then the amount you pay for that request and response. Will people really keep small import maps? I kind of expect them to be like... That is a question. And yeah, and it would be interesting. So maybe with some of the use cases we go through here, I have been also wondering how large these might get. Because the thing we saw there is I would say one of the more boring use cases for it. Another interesting one. So this is what the example we had before. I can import comlink because it's in the import map. But we've seen something like this. That's the thing that usually works in Node. In NodeLand. You would have, yep. This works as well. Really? You do something like this. So there's a special rule. If the thing ends in a slash, then you are defining a prefix for all of those. That's really nice that they thought of that. I would have expected to have to define... Every single one. Analyze all the imports I have and define a map. This is actually really neat. But they don't have a rule that can just define the last one. An index is assumed. It is a node. No. Index is not assumed. And also things like... In Node, you can miss out the extension. Oh yeah, don't know. I mean that wouldn't just... You could use import maps to work around that, but you would have to do every single file. Right. You had to define everything. It's like, yes, the thing without the extension it maps to the thing with the extension. Yes, so you can do that, but probably don't unless you just, for some reason, know of a way around it. You can do this. Also maybe I can do like rewrites. So something that is already a valid import path. I can now just say, you know what? It's actually here. Yes, absolutely. Oh, that's nice. And it's... You could say that this could just create a lot of confusing code where your scripts are doing... But I think there's a really interesting use case with this that I'm really excited about. So here's an example in port, but in production it will most likely look more like this. Yes, because you... At least it should be because good caching, you need this. You need your unique file name. So then if you change the file, you will watch this. There you go. Change the hash. I set you up for this one. I know. That's great. And then it means you've changed the file, so each of those resources can cache forever because you changed the file when you're changing the content. But the problem with this is you've now also changed the content of the parent file. Yes. So you need to update the hash of that file. If nothing else changed, people will download the file that is exactly the same, except for the imports. Yes. And now with the import map, I see where you're going with this. Yes. So even with a small module change, you end up invalidating like massive tree... Potentially like... The whole lot. Always from where you did the change to the root of your thing, at least that one branch, potentially more. It will all invalidate. So the idea is what if we could just do that and then in your import map, that's where the hash goes. Very nice. So that means if you change foo, we just change foo, watch. And so the interesting thing is that this wouldn't be possible with HTTP redirects or rewrites because it wouldn't hit the HTTP cache. Exactly. You could do it maybe in a service worker, I guess. You could do this in a service worker. You could intercept all of this stuff, but it wouldn't be there for that very first request where your service worker isn't installed. Whereas with imports, import maps, it is just there. That's a really exciting use case, actually, for this. I think it's great. And so that means, yes, the user will obviously have to download the new foo, blah, blah, blah, blah. But only that? Only that. Only that small change. The entire rest of the pipeline can still just rely on, you know, hash to load all the static imports before executing so everything will just work and keep working. So I think that's, yeah, I think that's a lovely little use case. So, here's a fun one. So, here's a fun one. We haven't done that in a while. Although I said these script things, these import map scripts, they have to be before anything that imports anything, otherwise they're invalid. So they have to be the... Oh, they're actually invalid. I didn't catch that. I thought the modules above it wouldn't respect them. No, it will error and ignore. That's probably a good idea. Yeah, so it won't error modules. It will just error on the script elements. You'll see an error that this is not in the correct place, but it will also let the other thing that have invalid import statements error out. Yeah. Okay. But you can still create them dynamically, as long as you're still creating them dynamically before any other imports. And I think this is really cool because you could have something like this where it does a feature test. Like, oh, it could be like a new JavaScript thing, could be a new DOM thing. Oh, that is really cool. New JavaScript syntax, and you could say, right, now dump out one of these import maps instead of loading main. So for example, I could say, do you have readable stream, transform stream, writeable stream? If I do, I'm just going to create this redirect to a small file, we'll just re-export the native. If not, load the entire polyfill thing. And in my code, I just import one normal module. I will get the polyfill if it needs to be one. Otherwise, it won't be. Exactly that. That's really cool. But it means you could do the same with new JavaScript syntax. So if the scope operator became a thing, let's hope it does. It's not going to, though, is it? But let's hope it does. It means you could do something like this, like direct it to another file, which makes use of that and therefore doesn't have to be transpiled, that kind of thing. Could be smaller. Could be smaller, hopefully. So why did you do this? Do you know why I did this? No, that's why I'm asking. What? Come on, we do the show. Why do you do this? Oh, do you? Sometimes we make the leave on this show a little bit, No, I legit, I guess it has to with some sort of escaping, but I didn't. It is. Because it's just a normal string. It's like the only part we make use of the template literal. Yeah, the HTML parser, once it enters a script, the end of your script is when there is angle bracket slash script, angle bracket. That's the end of your script. So without this little trick, the script would end there and all of this would bleed into the HTML. Oh, that's the thing. Yes, yes. I remember now that even in a string literal, you can't just have angle bracket slash script because by the time your file gets parsed, the parser would be like, yeah, script ncm. Yeah, because this is HTML parser time rather than JavaScript parser time. So, yeah, you've always got to do something to work around. This is the first time, I think, I've ever seen this. Like both this kind of escape, but also insert, adjacent HTML. I've never used it. I actually love insert adjacent HTML. I always create, to create element and set inner HTML or something. Yeah, and I quite often end up doing that or you're using some sort of library that's essentially making it easier for you, but for the sake of a slide, and this is an old Microsoft API. This was one of the non-standard things that went into Internet Explorer, blah, blah, blah. Four. It could be, it could be 5.5 or so. In that era somewhere, but they standardized it because it is actually pretty useful, very weird API. You can say, I want it to go after the end of the current script. That's how it works. And then it will just, yeah, pause it as HTML. Disgusting. Disgusting. But for this case, it was actually quite, it was actually quite useful. I was quite happy with it. Anyway, have you seen this type of thing before? Of course I have. It's disgusting. It is. So what is happening here is they're trying to load like jQuery from some sort of CDN where, you know, in the hope that it will already be cached because they've used it on a different site or whatever. But some countries don't have access to particular CDNs or sometimes the CDN is down or something. So you end up with this little script block here going, well, if jQuery is not there, then I'll load it from my own server instead. Document.write. They could be using either adjacent to HTML, shouldn't they? They should be using, well, the problem with that is that would behave differently because that wouldn't load the script synchronously. In async. It would be an async script. Yeah. So that's why they use document.write which is horrible. We've got little script escape again, through and a different version of that there. So, I'm less excited about this feature because my response to this would be don't load jQuery from CDN. Just load it on your own server because then you're not going to have the... Especially if Safari already double keys their caches. Like, no other site can put something in the cache for you on Safari anyway. Don't rely on it. Yeah, and Chrome as well is doing the double key thing. And you're going to hit another connection setup time for this. Yeah. Okay. We think it's bad. But do you know what? Modules. Let's talk about it. They've got maps have a solution for this. As I say, I'm not massively excited about it, but what you can say is, you know, jQuery and you can give it two URLs. Also, we'll try the first and if it fails, we'll use the second. Yeah. All right then. Fair enough. Yeah. It's in there. So I just wanted to mention it. Here's one I'm a little bit more excited about. Oh, it's a rollercoaster of excitement. Isn't it? So here I'm loading, like, I've got foo, which is pointing to foo version two. Oh, because we have past version one now. Past version one of foo. I'm also using comlink. What? God, man. Comlink also uses foo, but it expects version one. What are you going to do? There. It goes faster. It goes faster. That doesn't work. That doesn't fit.  Right. In this situation, here is what you would do. You've got this scope section where you can say you're essentially providing exceptions to the import section. So for any modules that are under this directory, like onwards that have that sort of URL prefix. Well done them that they thought about this. Yeah, exceptions. So is that something that we think will happen that, you know, libraries will stop bundling their dependencies and just leave them as like raw identifiers and leave it up to you as the final app developer to actually, you know, bend the arrows the right way that every import points to the actual correct file. I think that's the dream. I think the dream is to find a way to turn node modules, turn the node resolution system into something that can be described by this import map. Yeah, I guess we would expect bundlers to output this for us. Yes, absolutely. Because they already do the whole analysis and do everything. It's like, you know, here's your import map. Just put it in your HTML. I think those libraries already exist. Like people have experimentally gone and like, you know, we can generate an import map based on the project structure. I know that the rollup bundle object pretty much contains all the data we need to do this. Yeah. Yeah, so it's easy. It's easily done, which is great.  Final thing, and this is one of the things I'm actually most excited about. Oh boy. Import scheme. Right. Oh, so that basically says to any old element that takes URLs can now take something with an import scheme and if we look it up in the map, is that what is happening? That is it. That is exactly it. It's anything that can support URLs. So it's the same thing then that I can prevent and validation of the entire resource. Okay, here. Works in CSS background images. Works anywhere. Oh yes, it's a scheme. So anything. It wouldn't even work in fetch. Yes, yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Ah. So there is a slight problem with like relative URLs because especially if you're in CSS land, it knows it's relative to the CSS file because that's how referrals work in CSS. But if you're in a script and you do fetch your, and you get relative URLs relative to the document. I'm going to derail this for a second because I've passed drive me mad on the web. I have, I like that roll up when you like bundle it, everything just ends up in a root folder. There's no folders anymore. There's no sub directories. Everything is just dumped into one directory and there's no clashes because they have hashes in the file name. It makes things easier. I would say for anything that is not going to be user-visible, I would tend to agree. Yeah. I like, obviously we like good URLs. Right. For things I would appear in the URL bar. You shouldn't sacrifice that. But basically I have subfolders for the index HTML to my blog post. But all the images in the blog post are back in the root folder. Absolutely. So every URL is just, every image include is just a slash something something. Yep. And it makes things simple. But it means in cases where it's going to be relative to your document rather than relative to the module, the proposal is to have something like import.meta.resolve which will take a relative URL and it will do it relative to the module rather. You could even do things here. Like this is actually really good for like progressive enhancement when you want to do like, oh, does this browser have WebP support and you can bend the import the right way? I mean, we have picture element and everything. I know that. Yes. But now you have programmatic control over it. Well, do you know what? I'm glad you said that because I've realized there was a little bit. I was going to talk about earlier and I forgot in terms of progressive enhancement, this model where you're saying like map like food.mgs to the hashed version, you could ship this to browsers that don't support import maps as long as you also have food.mgs on your server. So you would have this URL, this on your server, which has the full caching headers. Yeah. And then you would have this on your server as well as a fallback which had no cache. Yeah. So an old browser aren't excluded. They get a kind of, worse loading performance. Yes. But they're not excluded. Like the thing still works. So like maybe when it gets to like most browsers have this but some still don't, then that's a switch point and you've got a progressive reading tool. Yeah. I'm really excited about this. I'm sure it will change a little bit before it reaches browsers properly. I think it's very important. Like this is not happening yet. This is an experiment. Like at this point it's in Canary. It's unstable because we have an origin trial but it's not enabled and stable by default. Yep. There are still standards going on. There is a discussion going on. We should link to the proposal and stuff so people can weigh in if they want to. And again, we're looking for developer feedback on this. Do you like it? Do you hate it? What do you like? What do you hate? What do you think should be different? And now is the right time to be letting us know. Yeah. All of that stuff. Weigh in.  Thanks mate. He's got like strong fingers. He's typing fingers. Every day. Everything else is just rot. That's it. I can't.


What's up everyone my name is Zesty Mike and today we're going to be talking about Epoxy.tv and if you can't already tell I'm standing today because I really don't feel like sitting down anymore so hopefully it looks all right and if it doesn't I'm sorry. Can't really fix it now. So when I heard that freedom offers a free subscription to Epoxy.tv I got so excited except for nothing but good things about this service. So if you're partnered with Freedom and haven't already done so make sure you go sign up with Epoxy.tv if you like this video. Now my favorite thing about being a creator is by far the community. I love being able to interact with my viewers and get instant feedback on my videos when I upload them. It really helps bridge that gap between a creator and a viewer. Well I try my best to respond and be engaged on all platforms but the fact of the matter is I manage three Facebook pages, three Twitter's, two Instagram's, three YouTube channels, and create content for freedom. So it's really hard to keep up with everything since I'm spread so thin. Well this is where Epoxy comes in. Now I'm not saying you have to have a ton of social medias to use this. You can even use it if you have just a YouTube channel. But I recommend anyone who's into YouTube to at least have an Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. But that's a different video. Back to Epoxy. Epoxy's website or a phone app so you can use it on the go as well. After signing up with Epoxy you can connect your social medias of choice and track it. Not only does it track it but it allows you to read, respond, and filter out comments on all platforms. So let's take YouTube for example. Once you click YouTube you have four tab options. Fan comments, your videos, audience, and insights. So let's start with fan comments. Epoxy organizes your comments by the time of the comment so you can respond to your latest comments no matter the video. Now let's say you get tons of comments and you're curious as to who's watching your videos. You can drag the slider up and filter out your viewers by a subscriber count. Now you can see the top subscribe channels who are commenting on your videos. Now these would be good people to talk to about having a collaboration with because they're the people that are going to help grow your channel. Just saying. Next tab is your videos. You can organize your videos here by views, likes, and comments to see which videos are the most engaging. This can help you to decide on what you need to make more of. And apparently if I want the most engagement I need my car to break down more. Now if you click on the video you can see all the comments on said video and respond right from here. Next is the audience tab. This shows you your viewers who comment on your videos. You can organize them by subscribers or comments to see who's the most engaged on your videos. And lastly insights. This shows you your growth in the past week and shows how much you've grown that set of time frame. Now you can do this for all social medias. It gives you full insights on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram and you can respond to all the comments from all platforms just from the site or from the phone app. No reason to open up each and every website and have to go to each one to respond to it or go to Instagram on your phone to respond to comments. You can do it all right from this platform or right from the phone app. It's so nice and so convenient. Now there's one other tab worth going over. The share tab. By going to the share tab you can do the typical sharing or scheduling text, post, photos, videos to your social medias. But Epoxy allows you to do more. Epoxy allows you to share video clips, memes, or gifs to your social medias. And here's how it works.  You watch your video and find the clip that you want to share. Then click and hold the record button and record that section. Once you're happy with it hit save. Now you can share that clip to your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and even Vine. Now you can use this to promote your videos further on other social medias. This way you're not showing the full video on these social medias. Instead you show a small little snippet that makes the viewer want to see more and then they'll go back to your video to see the rest. Now I found this feature pretty cool and it saved a lot of time for me. Not only that but now I'm going to start using Vine. Otherwise I probably wouldn't use it because I'm not going to take the time to frame up my clips and export them in the correct size and then upload my phone and blah blah blah blah just to post it to Vine. Now memes work the same way. You find a frame that you want to meme, save it, plug in your text and export the image. And lastly your GIFs. Simply record a section of the video that you want and export it as a GIF that you can share on your social medias. 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Investa space and do you work with the team? So let me explain a bit about investor space and so in 2019 December also add another moment and we thought why not teach, I was in my family, why not teach people how to invest and get them to become financially literate and we said a club of my friends, Samuel, my brother Clement, a lady called Wangoye Faisal investor club in the same, became very active and then corona happened and I was like let me, all these have learnt in the last 3 years extreme research numbers and invested in 2018 then we teach to someone at a very cheap price so we said the investor space where you teach someone the details from the knowing water shares and everything how the market works going through analysis, valuations, research everything about the market from beginning to the end and it's now, we saw people one through, one seminar we saw people through helping them to save at a good interest rate of 85% and then for the shares class the investor space, you learn and get to learn get contacts out of opening own investment account, legitimate brokerage companies you learn how to invest, how to hold your companies how to look at market analysis so that you fully prepared to invest and everyone who has joined the class I remember when I started the class it was fully refundable because I wasn't sure why people loved it and guys were so happy not even one single person asked for refund and so I continued increasing it and improving it as I studied and right now we are a team of three and now it's getting better and better there's more value, there's more content and we're just growing for me, when you guys started look at the save women away and also the investor space what is the market gap that you saw when it comes to to whatever you're doing and what is your target market by the way my target market is youth and there's power in numbers you see we were doing some numbers and you see if 50 youth just 50 contribute 100 book per week in an entire year they'll have saved over 200,000 that's the power raising capital together and so I realized youth have money people go out a lot people spend a lot people buy a lot of amazing clothes people buy a lot of everything but then we don't invest and more so we don't invest in our own country where there are amazing companies and amazing opportunities and so that's my market that's my target market because the youth have opportunities that they don't realize they have capital that they can utilize and they also want the youth to grow their finances and their futures that's actually an impressive and actually a good way to go about it but let's also look at the situation about we have young people who are not privileged enough to gain this financial literacy or even not background in financial in finance that is even people can help them out and they're dealing with pressure when it comes to just financial aspect of it pressure like when it comes to education maybe I feel like I need to take another degree or even family matters there's also the pressure of marriage or just taking care of your family back at home so how do you balance that when it comes to saving or even investment when you're going on the field and just talking to this young people I know it's tough some people have it rough but then the most important thing is for you to have a good plan and that's the way you can be able to better handle your situations you see saving even 100 or even 50 it grows over time and I know it's tough for people but then one is they need to to really have a good plan to know the opportunities you see when you invest in shares it's passive once you buy shares, forget about them and you can focus on you being a journalist and you keep on working and that way you can even have extra income to supplement some other needs and once you grow and realize these opportunities people can make careers out of it through investment can make careers out of it they can put an investment and it grows for them I mean all people can reach through the stock market because it's where buyers and sellers meet and you get invested in one of them so it's an opportunity sometimes investment is a luxury for some but then the goal is even if you're in a tough position try to work hard and get a point where you can invest and which play your money and speaking about investment being a luxury to some some people even the mentality because when you think about investment look about probably investing in real estate most people think that way so probably you can break it down for us when it comes to investment what sort of opportunities are there for young people you see the thing is for you to buy safari kumshayas you only need $3,700 but to buy cooperative shares you only need $1,200 so investment is not expensive because someone had shares in safari kumshayas they were like are you Kriskirugi and see it's cheap but then the thing is one you can invest in shares great companies safari kum DABL, Centrum and you can also invest in digital currencies like Bitcoin and money markets and Ethereum can invest in money markets and they can invest for you you can invest in you can also invest in gold in the stock market in Kenya you know that you can actually invest in gold you don't have to buy a gold or to invest in an apartment somewhere you can actually buy shares in gold tomorrow morning so would you say that in all falls and the building capacity and also financial literacy building capacity knowing what actually matters pertaining finance and everything yes there are so many opportunities to invest can invest in a small business can invest in your friend maybe as a PS place can invest in that so the thing is to understand the investment opportunities around you and so you can utilize some of them so with access to different apps that actually lend loans and young people just having this particular opportunity so when would you say it's the right time to go for a loan or even borrow consider that most of us most of young people actually they are running away from paying this particular loans because the installments they skyrocket and will be like for me I would say don't take this mobile loans they have very high interest rates till they preach your money and they have a lot of pressure and say if you can try small loans it's better to go for maybe a bank loan or at a cheaper rate from a relative because these mobile loans they have a risk because many people don't pay them and so for these companies to account for this risk they charge very high rates can be paying 15% every month to mean that in 6 months you will pay almost the entire amount but one can argue that I can borrow from this particular app and move to another really like actually held accountable because it's easy it's flexible it's not prudent one it's not the numbers don't make sense and also there's no ethics because you'll be put in the next 5 years you cannot take a loan just because of just of being cheeky so when it comes to the club that you guys have when it comes to the investment space who is eligible to be part of you guys anyone anyone who wants to learn about shares and investment and to be guided on how to look at companies how to analyse a company how to research how to various investment strategies and everything anyone is eligible the class is only 1000 I made it in Rechip for over 50 contents of material 3 investment books can ask any questions it's a great company so that you can open an account it shows you how to invest for yourself and can even ask me what I have invested in and I tell them so it's anyone and I've had old guys and I've also had young guys I think from 16 to about maybe 32 so anyone can join if they want to learn it's a very wonderful class it's live and it's just amazing and for someone who's watching this conversation and they're wondering how they are interested actually to be on the other side of where you are who's actually running the show when it comes to finance they have probably information about finance and they want to start off similar kind of a business so what would be your advice I'd say the result of opportunity just needs to fortune favors the board just needs to start get something you see if you're offering someone value offer it to someone make it a business and so if you feel like you can advise someone you can actually help someone invest can actually help someone manage your money maybe keep them accountable give them a financial plan can even help people pay their taxes can help people like do their KRE the trimitances or something there's so much you can do can help people do accounting for their business so start, ask people do you want this the best way to do is to ask and to offer it if people love it, go fully with it and the most effective delivery channels that you use to reach out to the young people so for me, you can follow me on Instagram at www.clarent.com you can also follow the investor's space on Instagram page we said it recently www.clarent.com I'm on Facebook called Clarence Solomon and my number is 0756-490-192 0756-490-192 what's the future looking like when it comes to the investor space the future is great and it's bright and I just pray that God bless us so much so that it can impact as many people and then we really want to do to get bigger and better and get as many people to invest when they are because the results show if I can give a story when Safarecom started in 2008 one share was going for five shillings and our president our former president Kibaki bought one million shares so he used five million so one million shares at five shillings per share five million right now, Safarecom is at 37 and so that his wad is now at 7 million but over those 12 years he's gotten dividends for about 14 14 times one million shares that's about 51 million and if he compounded his shares meaning if he got his dividends and he bought more shares it would be wad over 60 million so five million to over 60 million in a period of maybe 12 years that shows even ways you can grow your wealth over time he just bought them and he's now maybe playing golf or talking to his grandkids during travel so that's the power of investment it's good to start now, we have time Michelle Young guys is a fortune fiver the bold chooses today so go there take on risk think big and try your best alright thank you very much for creating time to be with us thank you so much Michelle you're very much welcome and we will talk about understanding youth and their financial needs and I hope you have learned one or two things when it comes to matters pertaining finance and actually investing at Y254 channel you can find us across all our social media handles at Michelle you can find me across all my social