Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live video for you today. Our topic, oh shoot, what is it? When a guy genuinely loves you, he says these five things. He'll say these five things if he genuinely loves you. All right, really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if anytime during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if an F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions. By no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations. So once again, all I ask is you give me a little chance. All right, let's jump into this topic of when a guy genuinely loves you, what does he say? I think it's important though, before we get into the particulars of what a man does when he's actually in a relationship, I think we should address the elephant in the room. And that is the dysfunctionality of the current dating process. I'm gonna repeat that the dysfunctionality of the current dating process. And what's interesting was last night I had dinner with a couple of my old insurance broker friends back when I used to be in the insurance business. And one of the guys was asking me about my content and where do I come up with my content? And he was actually asking me, what's original thought? What is original thought? And I'm really glad he did share that because quite frankly, from what I understand, there is no such thing as original thought from the perspective of all, there's an accumulation of information out there that many of us have read over the years or experienced over the years. And then we regurgitate that in our own style. So to the extent what we were talking about was the difference between my style of delivering information versus the actual content itself. Let me reframe what I meant. There's no such thing as original content is what he was saying. And to some degree, that's true. And the reason why I'm bringing this up folks is that much of the advice I share on my channel is because of the books I've read, because of all the coaching experiences I've had. And so to the suggest that I'm creating original thought wouldn't be necessarily true. In fact, many times when I want an answer to my own questions and what I mean to say when I'm shooting a video, I would just simply type in when a guy genuinely loves a woman, what does he say? And you can do that. So I'm just letting you know that that's available to you. And so the content I'm gonna share today is both what I've read out there and a reflection of my own experiences. But I started this conversation about the dysfunctionality of the dating realm and why I wanted to spend a few minutes talking about that before I get into the particulars of this topic is that we are seeing in the last 20 years and in particular in the last few years a real shift in humanity, a real shift in humanity. And what I mean to say is ever since the invention of these devices and certainly in the last 10 years in particular, we have been bombarded with technology and the manipulation of how technology affects many of the people out there. In fact, I was watching a video by Louis Howe earlier today. The author he was interviewing wrote a book about focus because of all the disconnect we have going on because of the information overload we're experiencing, the information overload. Now why I'm bringing this to your attention is many people like to fantasize about how dating and relationship should be based on an old paradigm 40, 50, 60, 70, 100 years ago. And that paradigm doesn't exist today because of these devices. In addition, we are no longer experiencing at least here in the United States, we're not experiencing war. So there's not this need to actually physically protect people like it once was hundreds, if not thousands of years and this is critically important as well because what I'm about to share today is what I'm observing the real crisis that's going on in the dating, mating and relating realm, at least here in the United States in particular is the divide that we're experiencing in this country, particularly between the red and the blue, the vaccinated and the non-vaccinated, the people who are religiously inclined versus those who are atheists and whatnot or spiritual but not religious. And why I'm bringing this to your attention and why this is so critically important for this particular conversation is that men and women alike don't feel emotionally safe in the dating realm. Men and women like don't feel emotionally safe. Now, some of the contributing factors as I just shared was the bombardment of technology that didn't exist 20, 30, 40 years ago. That's one thing that's weighing on us emotionally. And then the divide between people, again, speaking particularly here in the United States, I don't know what it's like around the world, but this is, and also the political climate has created a lot of tension. In fact, you can't swipe a dating app these days without someone saying if you voted for so-and-so swipe the other way. And why this is so critically important is people are seeking their tribe, they're seeking the people that they feel safe with not from a physical safety because we're no longer experiencing war time like we used to. I'm talking about emotional safety, emotional safety. And this is one of the challenges in the dating realm because these days most of the time we're meeting total strangers, we're meeting total strangers. And do you remember what your mother, father told you about strangers? Beware of strangers. And I'm not suggesting that we should feel this sense of guardedness when we meet a stranger, that's not what I'm suggesting at all. What's lacking is a level of familiarity. A level of familiarity with one another which makes it difficult when there isn't this common, there aren't these common experiences like your parents know, each parent knows each other or each family member knows each other or your friends know each other. There's this level of emotional safety and because there's so much divide going on in the world there's a distressing lack of emotional safety these days. And this is true for men as well. Let me just say this. I know from a feminine or female perspective and I wanna use the word feminine, I wanna use from the female perspective there's both a physical safety but certainly an emotional safety but ultimately folks, emotional safety is critically important for a man to actually want to lean into a relationship. In fact, most men won't fully commit in a relationship unless he feels a level of emotional safety on a, certainly on a unconscious level. He might be not thinking about it from a conscious level but on an unconscious level, if by the way, both men and women like when you don't feel emotionally safe it makes it very difficult to actually start building a bond with one another. And yet men of my contemporaries are selling you on this old traditional way of dating that men are the hunters and that they chase and all a woman has to do is be in her feminine energy.  Well, let's get real today. Certainly from an attraction based way of dating which is I'm attracted to you.  Men will proceed heavily, will proceed with a lot of vigor and a lot of bravado when we're sexually attracted to you but that doesn't guarantee relationship success. If you're not familiar with my relationship iceberg most of you do know by now but I'm gonna share it with everyone. Look above the waterline says the word attraction and you can see the tip of the iceberg says chemistry. Below the waterline is compatibility which is shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity.  And sadly, this is one of the biggest challenges with dating, mating and relating today is developing that level of emotional safety with one another. This is why I continually say this over and over again. The importance to be radically honest in the early stage of dating and more so to actually have a game plan of why are the two of you doing this? A shot of video this morning said what does a man need before he can commit to you? He needs a plan. He needs to know that he wants commitment so ladies write this down to help you in your future dating endeavors. Ask a man why does he want a relationship and furthermore why does he want a committed relationship? This is two powerful questions. Now most men are gonna be dear in the headlights. They're gonna be, oh my God, what's that? I don't know what you're talking about. I just wanna have a good time. Can't we just have a good time? It's all about having a good time. In fact, that's the way the dating realm is today. It's hyper focused on the good time and not the understanding does this person share the same values? And by the way, as I shared in the beginning of this broadcast, I talked about, by the way, if you differ on vaccines, you don't feel emotionally safe with this person. You don't share the same values just on that topic alone. And God forbid the other topics where you may be misaligned. And I'm not suggesting that you have to be aligned down the center on everything. I'm just here to suggest that it's important to have these conversations early on so you can develop this level of emotional safety. This is why lately I've been recommending this book by Malcolm Gladwell called Talking to Strangers. Talking to Strangers, what you should know about the people you don't know. Folks, this isn't a dating and relationship book. This is a humanity-based book. This is about learning how to actually get to know another human being.  But it fascinates me how, and no disrespect to women because you're entitled to do whatever you want, okay? And men too.  But it amazes me how quickly people will focus on the sex piece of the relationship and not the compatibility piece of a relationship because ultimately, where does genuine love reside? It resides when you feel both physically and emotionally safe with one another. And when a man feels that level of emotional safety, that's when he'll start leaning into a deeper level of the relationship and he'll start doing these five things I'm about to share with you. All right, so I think you get a gist of where, so my premise is here is this. I think the conversation about emotional safety is almost non-existent in the dating, mating, and relating realm conversation, particularly emotional safety for men. I don't believe there aren't that many coaches out there and many people talking about this. This is my, to my extent, my original thought that I started this conversation with, the original thought, and what I mean to say is this. I think it's important to stop looking at dating or relationships from the micro, the old traditional way of doing things and start looking at it from the bigger picture. Where are we at in this world today and why aren't things working out between couples? I invite everyone to start asking the deeper questions instead of the questions that men are commitment phobic and men are no good and men are bad.  And by the way, men do this with women as well.  This is why if there's the more, this creates more of a divide between the genders than bringing us closer together. This is why I highly recommend everybody reading this book if the Buddha dated, because it takes out the stupid gender rhetoric that's causing the divide and it says, how can we connect with each other at a heart-centered level? Check out this book. And by the way, all the books I recommend are listed below. By the way, I should plug my own book. What the heck is self love anyway, listed below. All right, so I promised you the topic of the five things a guy says when he genuinely loves you, let's jump in. Here's my notes and let's get started. So number one, remember I started this conversation about emotional safety, what I'm about to share with number one is a perfect example when a man feels like you're his friend, a good friend, he's actually going to give you shit.  And what I mean to say, he'll tease you. Teasing somebody is a great indicator when a man teases you, that's a great indicator because we men tease our male friends. It's just a natural byproduct of what men do with one another. And I don't mean a disrespectful tease, but when he sees you as a friend, he's going to tease you. And that's a great sign that he actually cares about you. Now, you might have a disconnect with your sense of humor and you may not like his teasing, but I will tell you that teasing is actually a sign that he genuinely cares about you because that's what we do with our male friends.    But I'm saying he'll tease you in a kind, loving way. That's a great sign that he genuinely cares about you and he might even love you as well. Okay, so that's number one. Number two, he knows when something's bugging you. He knows when something's bugging you and he'll check in and he'll say the words, tell me what's up, tell me more, tell me about that. When a man genuinely cares about your feelings, he's actually aware of when something feels off. He's genuinely aware when something feels off and he'll actually start leaning in and asking what's up. That's a great sign that he genuinely cares about you and he genuinely loves you when he says, what's up, tell me more, I wanna check in with you. That's a great sign. Number three, he pays attention to your needs. He pays attention to your needs. I shared this in a previous broadcast before. I was in a relationship with a woman who had two big dogs and the dog foods, I think, the dog food packages were either 25 or 50 pounds, very heavy for her to pick up. So I used to say, hey, would you like me to go to the store and get the dog food for your dogs? In other words, can I do that for you? When a guy sees that you need something and he asks you, can I give this to you? That's a great sign, he genuinely loves you because he's paying attention to your needs and he wants to fill your needs. By the way, I know a lot of coaches will tell women, make your man feel like your hero, give him the jar of peanut butter and have him open it or the jar of jelly that might be stuck in open so you can be your hero. A real hero is actually paying attention to your needs and then they step in without you having to ask. That's a genuine hero. You don't need to make a man a hero. He wants to be your hero and a man who genuinely loves you is paying attention to your needs and he says, can I do that for you? Number four, he starts to do things that you like to do. He starts to do the things that you like to do. So let me give you an example. The same woman I was in relationship, every time we went out to a restaurant, she would want to yelp the restaurant to read the reviews and I'll be candid with you, it used to drive me nuts. But here's what happened because I genuinely cared. Oftentimes I'd say, before we went out to a dinner, I go, hey, I should yelp that restaurant we were talking about the other day. These are the kind of things a man says when he genuinely deeply loves you, he'll start saying, hey, I'll do, he knows your needs and he'll start anticipating it in advance and that's a great sign. This guy genuinely deeply loves you.  And he basically says, can you join me in my life? Can you join me in my life? That's what a guy says when he genuinely cares about you because he wants to invite you to his family, his friends, his work, all the things that matter to him, can you join me in my life? And that's a great sign that a guy genuinely, a man genuinely deeply loves you because he'll start saying these things. He'll tease you, he'll say, tell me more. He says, I'll get that for you. I'll yelp that or I'll do that for you. Kind of the same thing. And he's proud to show you off by saying, can you join me on these events? This is a great sign that a guy genuinely, deeply loves you when he starts doing this. Are you in agreement with me? If you are, say yes, give me an amen. So that covers our content portion of our live stream today. We're gonna do a very short Q&A for those that are listening live right now in the video chat. There's a chat box there. You have a question for me, write the word question, then post the question thereafter or purchase a super sticker or a super chat. There's a little dollar sign down there. You can actually contribute, all the monies from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Connor, as like Connor passed away a few years ago. Here's a picture of him right there. And in his honor, I've started a scholarship fund to help to defray the cost of personal development and to donate to those personal development causes that I think have a great deal of impact on making a difference in the world. So post a question there. And if you're listening to the audio portion of this, you won't be able to see any of this. All right, if you have questions for me, post a question right now. All right, let's go swim in. Let's see what we've got in the Q&A box. Let's see what we got. And if we don't have any questions, oh, here we go. Lisa says, hey Lisa, big hugs to you. Question, where are the men who are willing to put some effort into the dating process? Where are the men who are willing to put in the effort in the dating process? I love this question, Lisa. So whenever I get the question, where are the good men? Where are the conscious men? Where are the commitment men? I always say the exact same thing. They're in the exact same place where those exact same type of women are hanging out. They're in the exact same place. Because the reality is, is whenever you ask where there are, that's such. Lisa, I know you're a sweetheart, so please forgive me what I'm about to say. It's a question that really makes no point because good people are everywhere. I wanna invite you, okay, so let's take this question deeper. How can I meet a man? How can I meet a man who's aligned to who I am and what I want? I'm gonna repeat that. How can I meet a man who's aligned to who I am, what I want? I'd rather that be your question than where are they? How can I meet that person? So it might mean you start going online dating roughly about 50% of all new relationships for people over 45 years old is happening through an online connection. So you might wanna start with the online dating sites as one place to go. You might start wanting to do the activities you love that you know that they're going to be other men. The problem with this is in today's realm, this organic way of meeting, the real challenges in your midlife is you don't know when your meetings, because everyone's a stranger, you don't know if they're married, they have a girlfriend, they just broke up with someone, they've got issues. So this makes it more difficult and you don't know where they stand. This is why online dating has become so popular. In fact, as I said, roughly 50% of all new relationships are happening through an online connection. So coming back to your question, they're online dating, just like women are online dating. Okay, yes, there are, and sadly, only a small percentage of the population is online dating. A significant percentage of the single population isn't even making effort. By the way, as people age, people in their 50s, 60s, and 70s, they make almost little or no effort trying to connect because they've given up on the idea of being made it. I'm gonna repeat that, they've given up the idea of being made it. So this is true of men and women alike. So I'm here to say, instead of asking where are they, I invite you Lisa to go, how can I meet that person? And at the moment, online dating happens to be the number one place where more people are congregating than ever before. And this didn't, by the way, there was a movie called Sleepless in Seattle some years back, I think it was in the 90s with Tom Hanks. And there's a scene where Tom Hanks is talking to a friend and his now wife, Rita Wilson, she's in the scene. And I think it was, the friend said to Rita, it's easier to be killed by a terrorist than it is to find love in your 40s. I mean, I'm sorry, and that's, I'm bastardizing the quote, but it's something along those lines. That was back in the 90s. We, you know, with the invention of this, and by the way, there's a blessing and curse with that comes with the technology, is that now we have access to people we wouldn't otherwise have and it coming back to the original conversation. And this is why there's a lack of emotional safety because sadly we're meeting strangers. I'm sorry, this is the world we live in. So how do we work around this? By becoming who we want to attract, by becoming who we want to attract. This is why I continually recommend everybody doing personal development, self-help and spiritual work. So you actually are, because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the relationship with yourself. I won't repeat that. The most important relationship you'll ever have is the relationship with yourself. So in this particular case, when you're at, you know, it's, I'm here to invite everyone. It's not about meeting a guy or a gal. It's about meeting the love of your life that resides within yourself. And that's my invitation for everyone. So Lisa, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. All right, let's keep swimming. Oh, I want to thank Julia for the $2 Super Sticker. She says, are you willing to share how much you have raised? Oh, okay, so sure. By the way, we've raised about $2,200 in the last six months with the Super Sticker Super Chat. I've already donated about $1,500 of that to the Hoffman process was one place. And then I can't remember. I donated to Insight seminars and a few other places. So that's how much we've raised. Thank you so much for that Super Sticker. I really appreciate it. Hey, we have a guy who's written a question here. Question from Michael. Question, dating four months. I tell her feelings and say these things. I'm open my heart and intentions, but she doesn't communicate feelings to me.  How long do I persevere? Oh, so folks, I'm so happy to see a man in our group today and share exactly what we've just been, what we've talked about, emotional safety, okay? And here's, well, let me re-backtrack. Most likely the reason why she isn't opening up is she doesn't feel emotionally safe. Why doesn't she feel emotionally safe? Most likely she's had childhood wounds or traumas or adult traumas that have caused negative patterns or limiting beliefs in her life and she hasn't healed from those childhood wounds or traumas or adult traumas. That's number one. Number two, she might have attracted you in her life because you are most likely, and I'm not suggesting this is the case, you are most likely an anxious love attacher and she's most likely an avoidant love attacher. If you're not familiar with the book attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, I highly recommend checking out this book which helps you understand love attachment style, okay? Love attachment style. This will definitely help you, Michael. In addition, what you might also represent, you might be familiar to her as if you were one of her parents. And if you're not familiar with the Amago, I highly recommend reading the book, Getting the Love You Want by Harvelle Hendricks, by the way, all the books I recommend are listed below. This is where we oftentimes choose people based on our familiar family origin. And so maybe, so coming back to your question is how long do you persevere? Look it, I'm a big believer of emotional intimacy. If you're not familiar, I've been talking about this book a lot lately. Emotional intimacy by Robert Masters, okay? I would suggest buying two copies of this book and saying, hey, let's talk about this together. Or as I always talk about the book, eight dates to determine if you guys are really a compatible fit with one another because rather than trying to, by the way, you know, I'm gonna come back to my, I've shared this once before.   I did programming. However, we were complete, we were quite a bit misaligned. We were misaligned.  And 12 years later, we got divorced, okay? Because magic ferried us doesn't change the narrative. What changes the narrative is communicating with one another through radical honesty. And what you find oftentimes is that you're not compatible with one another, but it's better to find that out earlier rather than later. So Michael, this isn't about persevering. This is about leaning in. This isn't about leaning back. This is about leaning in and being radically honest with her because it is through radical honesty can we even have a chance at emotional safety with one another. And it is through emotional safety that she will open up on an emotional level. And she may not be capable of it. She might need to do a lot of healing to get there. And you may not be, it may not be your job to be sitting in the wings while she does that. This is why I highly recommend everybody reading the book, The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process to heal childhood wounds and traumas. Because most likely what you're experiencing is an avoidant personality or someone who's been deeply wounded and has not healed. Most likely, I'm not saying that's an absolute. Don't persevere, lean in, have these conversations, then see what's up. And by the way, I haven't talked about this book in a while, but I highly recommend, well, here, ah, I'm gonna drop all these books. Two other books for you, Michael. How to build trust in a relationship and couples communication. These are thin books, okay? Pause the video later, come back and write these down. This will help you with the conversation because guess what? It is only through healthy communication, active listening. Can you actually build a relationship together? This perseverance or leaning back or waiting for magic fairy deaths isn't going to help your relationship. Lean into radical honesty. And that's my invitation for you, Michael. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. Thank you so much. All right, we're gonna take one more question. Oh, I wanna thank Logan for the super stickers. Thank you so much. All right, let's see. Let's see, let's see, let's see. All right, this will be our last question of the day. It's from Lisa again. Question, if a guy tells you immediately that he had a bad childhood, is that a deal breaker? Great question. So folks, here's how I would, so I was working with a client of mine. And by the way, if you need some support on this, check out the link to a discovery call to see if working with a coach is right for you. My area of expertise is how to ask better questions in the early stage of dating, but I had a client that asked about some man's childhood and he said, and I quote, I had a despicable mother. I had a despicable mother. And I thought, wow, that is really strong language. That is strong language. What she did next was because we've talked about this in my coaching practice, is she asked him, how did you heal from that? How did you heal from that? How did you heal from that? And he didn't have a response because he stuffed it. He buried it. How he healed with it? He hyper-focused on work. He hyper-focused on physical fitness, but he's done almost little or no personal development work to heal. And that most likely he suffered a severe trauma to use the words I had a despicable mother. So when someone tells you that a bad childhood, the follow-up question is how did you heal from that? How did you heal from that? And then listen to their response. Sadly, most people haven't done healing. And this is why it takes sometimes decades for men that go through an emotional crisis to heal. And a lot of times they use drugs and alcohol as their healing method instead of actually interpersonal work, introspective work, looking within. So that's my invitation for you on this one. And that was a great question. So thank you so much for that one, Lisa. Really appreciate it. All right. Michael says, if it doesn't look good, yeah, it doesn't look good, probably not. All right, folks, you know, we're gonna do a short live stream today. It's Friday.   I wanna remind everyone, it is a very dysfunctional dating. That's the word I'm looking for. Dating, mating or relating can feel very dysfunctional. I think the primary cause of this, particularly in the last 10 years is a bombardment of technology, a bombardment of the divide between especially here in the United States, a divide amongst humanity and truly a lack of emotional safety within human beings. And this is why please be careful listening to the rhetoric that says, men are supposed to do this and women are supposed to do that. I wanna invite everybody to lean into their heart because ultimately what's going to make a relationship happen in your life when you feel emotionally safe with one another and when you can start being radically honest right from the get go. I had a client send me a text message she sent a guy. She did a beautiful radical honesty text message for a man that she's had three dates with and he completely, completely collapsed because he can't go down the rabbit hole of intimacy. Intimacy means into me you see. And until there's intimacy in a relationship which is a byproduct of emotional safety, relationships aren't going to go the distance, relationships aren't going, men and women aren't gonna be doing the loving things to actually build the roots of trust to deeper connection with another human being. And this is why I'm here to invite everyone to look inward, start by leading by example with radical honesty because the wrong people are gonna scurry away and the right people as I say in my book, by the way chapter one of my book if it's speak your truth do it with kindness and chapter nine if it's sincere and from the heart you can't say the wrong thing to the right person and that's my invitation for everyone. I wanna thank you for allowing me to come into your life today. Please do me a favor purchase a super sticker super chat before we wrap up today that little dollar sign for the Connor Asley scholarship fund. As always, if you need support check out the link to a discovery call check out my podcast, check out my membership group follow me on Instagram and check out all the books below this is in the description. I wanna wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic job and bearer of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, Pat, a teddy bear pillow and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Natalie and Kit Kat and Lisa and totally chill and Kelly and Michael who joined us. Thank you for having a guy in here and he's a perfect example. Ladies, there are good men out there. I want you to know where's Glenn by the way, Colleen Natalie, PB and Berry, Sherriot or Glenn and everyone that joined us today. Thank you so much. Wishing you a bright, beautiful and blessed day. Take care now. Bye now.


Thank you all very much, and welcome to the East Room of the White House. This room has seen many important people, presidents, diplomats, world statesmen, and none more important, none of greater faith and moral courage than these four men that we are honored to have with us. Mr. Shebaev, Reverend Matt Bayouk, Mikola Rodenko, and Jos Begun, I promise that the witness of faith that you have brought here today will not be confined within these four walls, or forgotten when this meeting is ended. I will carry it in my heart when I travel to the Soviet Union at the end of this month, and I will say that the most fitting way to mark the millennium of Christianity in Kievros would be granting the right of all the peoples and all the creeds of the Soviet Union to worship their God in their own way. You have, of course, been hearing this afternoon about the first signs of progress. The presence of these four men here today is testimony to the fact that our witness here in the West can have an impact. Some Soviet dissidents have been allowed to emigrate, some churches are allowed to organize and file for recognition, and recently the Soviets have said they will allow a printing of language Bibles. And these are encouraging signs, and we welcome them. What we hope for ultimately is a willingness to see continued change in the spirit of Glasnost when it comes to matters of religion. Perhaps the process is beginning. We noted that General Secretary Gorbachev said recently, and I'll quote, mistakes made with regard to the church and believers in the 1930s and the years that followed are being rectified. Well, we sincerely hope and pray that this will be the case. While some new churches are being built and others, mostly Russian Orthodox, have been allowed to reopen, many other congregations are denied recognition and therefore legality. The Ukrainian Catholic Church, the Uniat Church, is still closed, outlawed, and persecuted. Religious instruction of children outside the home, Sunday schools, Hebrew schools, or even confirmation classes, and the production of religious study material are all still illegal activities. And about those Bibles, the authorities have promised to print 100,000 copies for a country of 280 million people. Yet now there are at least signs by Soviet authorities of a new law on the freedom of conscience reflecting the interests of religious organizations. So while every positive step taken by the Soviets is welcome, we realize that this is just a beginning. Let me also say in particular that the rights of Soviet Jews have taken up much of our official time, and this is very close to my heart. Our hope is for the doors to open fully to emigration and to full freedom for all faiths. So the earlier predictions by some that once the grandmothers died, nobody would remember that there had been a church in Russia are wrong. Instead, the church in Russia is still full of grandmothers, women who were little children in 1917, and they're joined by the younger generation longing to satisfy the need, the hunger that no man-made institution in any society can ever fulfill. Today, roughly 90 million people in the Soviet Union, or nearly a third of the population, proclaim some form of belief in God. And it's not surprising that revolutions devoted to reshaping man as if he were so much clay deny one of the most basic teachings of Judeo-Christian belief, that after God shaped Adam from dust, he breathed into him the divine principle of life. As a wonderful passage in Dr. Javago, in which Pasternak speaks of his bitter disillusionment with the philosophy of materialism and the bloody revolution, it is spawned. When I hear people speak of reshaping life, he says, I fall into despair, people who can say that have never understood a thing about life. They have never felt its breath, its heartbeat. They look on it as a lump of raw material that needs to be processed by them, to be ennobled by their touch. But life is never a material, a substance to be molded. Life is the principle of self-renewal. It is constantly renewing and remaking and changing and transfiguring itself. It is infinitely beyond your or my obtuse theories about it. End quote. The history of the 20th century has too often been brutal and tragic, but it has taught us one lesson that should fill our hearts with hope and joy, for we found that the more religion is oppressed, the greater the attempt to extinguish that life principle, that divine spark, the more it glows. History is etched with stories of those who suffered religious persecution. Yes, but it also tells of transcendence, devotion, and sanctity, even conversion. We think of the strengthened conviction Alexander Solzhenitsyn gained in prison, and the case of the Soviet psychiatrist Anatoly Koyagin, recently released after six years in prison. He sought baptism as soon as he emigrated, and we think of heroism and courage that can only remind us of the early Christian martyrs. One such is Anna Chertkova, recently released after being held in a Soviet psychiatric hospital since 1973 for no other crime than her faith. Or Alphonsus Zvarinskas, a 62-year-old Lithuanian priest who was spent 18 years in prison and is not scheduled to be released until 1990. He is gravely ill and is petitioned for permission to go abroad to receive medical care. Or Bishop Julie Janus, Stepan Navichus, in internal exile since 1961 for refusing to collaborate with the authorities. How many men and women have had their faith tested? Now we see some people who have served prison sentences for the unauthorized practice of religion being released, and no one has been imprisoned on that ground for the last two years. Our hopes and prayers are for this expression of change by the Soviet authorities to continue. The faith of the peoples of the Soviet Union is pure and unbreakable. As Moses led his people from bondage in Egypt as the early Christians not only withstood pagan Rome but converted an empire, we pray that the millennium of Christianity in Kiev Ross will mean freedom for the faithful in Russia, in the Ukraine, the Baltic states, and all the regions of the Soviet Union. And if we pray, we might want to use the words of the 22nd Psalm. In thee our fathers trusted, they trusted, and thou didst deliver them. To thee they cried out and were delivered. In thee they trusted and were not disappointed. I have to add a little something here. Recently a woman wrote me a letter and enclosed in the letter was a copy of what can only be called a prayer. But the story of that, it's in that single page of a young Russian soldier in a shell hole in World War II, knowing that his unit was going to advance in the attack, looking up at the stars and revealing for the first time that he had been taught all his life that there was no God. But now he believed there was, and he looked up at the heavens and spoke so sincerely and said, maybe before the night is over, I'll be coming to you. And I hope you will forgive what I believed for so long, the foolishness, because I know now there is a God. And that letter was found on the body of the young soldier who was killed in the coming engagement. I've thought sometimes of taking a Damascus with me. Maybe the general secretary might like to read it. Well, thank you all very much. God bless you all.


Ang karunungan ay kapangyarihan. It's time once again to put that power to the test. Here on... K-check! Hello everyone, I am Bruce Gia. Ako naman po, si attorney Gaby Concepcion. And this is K-check. Buli namin kayong iniimbitahan for another season of teaching and learning. Patuloy pa rin ang pagahanap natin ng magustong sanayin at palawakin ang brain power nila through competition. Alamin natin kung kaya nila ang brain workout na inhanda natin for them this season. Kainsamahan nyo kami until the final week of competition dahil may tatanghalin na naman tayong paribagong K-check champion. Apatakontestans ang dadaan sa ating karunungan check sa araw na ito. Dem is a UP Dileman statistics undergrad. She loves team sports, singing, photography and going, cafe, hopping. Her soul wish in life is to become a golden retriever. Udali naman ang soul wish na. So naman si Nimra, a student of UP Dileman he studies malikhaing pagsulad sa Pilipino. He likes to be physically active and try out different experiences and he also reads and watches anime. Sunot naman si Sami sa BA linguistic student in UP Dileman. Her hobbies include crocheting, occasionally writing, listening to music and learning languages. She also has a pet bird named Ruru. May family naming. Tarumi natin mamaya. Sunot naman ito si Jake, a student athlete and member of the UP Men's Football team of UP Dileman. His hobbies are writing journals, playing the ukulele, tasting coffee and playing other sports. Also fluent in Korean because he's half Korean and Filipino. Anong aseo? Magusat na lang kayo mamaya. These four will be competing under the watchful eyes of today's K-check panel of experts. First, we have Professor Mitsy Reyes, former Dean of the College of Fine Arts, UP Dileman. We also have Professor Ricky Nelyas of the Institute of Chemistry also in UP Dileman. And last but not least, Professor Luisa De Leon Bulinau, former Chair of the Department of History, UP Dileman. At kayong contestants, ito na opportunity na kayo ay magpapakitang gilas. Buzz in but wait till you acknowledge before you answer para di sayang ang effort. Let's begin. Question number one. In the calendar, what month is between December and February? Jake. January. No other month is between December and February. The answer is correct. K-check. Question number two. In astronomy, what star is in the center of the solar system? Jake. Sun. The sun is the center of the solar system. K-check. Question number three. Which Pokemon's name is the word snake spelled backwards? Sammy. Ekans. Ekans is correct. K-check. Question number four. In what city can you find a clock tower housing the Big Ben? Nimra. England. The answer is wrong. Jake. United Kingdom. The answer is wrong. Sammy. London. London is the correct answer. Because in what city was the question? And the city is London. Question number five. Continent. Do people in 20 countries mostly use the euro as legal tender? Jake. Europe. Europe is the correct answer. K-check. Question number six. Kamaysa Dibdib. The title of what Olivia Rodrigo hit song is a French term that describes the feeling that you have already experienced something. BEM. Dejavu. Dejavu is the correct answer. K-check. Question number seven. In the Christian calendar what day follows Monday, Thursday? Good Friday. Good Friday is the correct answer. K-check. Question number eight. Which of the three branches of the government senators and congressmen and their duties? Nimra. The answer is wrong. The answer is the legislative branch of government. Question number nine. What kind of animal is Mali, a one of its kind creature at the Manila Zoo who passed away at the approximate age of 50? Nimra. Mali was an elephant. K-check. Question number ten. In mental math, your favorite subject 20 is 50% of what number? BEM. The answer is wrong. 20 is 50% of the number 40. Question number 11. According to the Christmas Carol children laughing, people passing, meeting smile after smile. And on every street corner you'll hear what? Time's up. Parang ang dami nang kumakanta. The correct answer is silver bells. Last question for this round. Question number 12. In what country will you have to go to experience the great beaches in Busan and Jeju Island? You will never. Maybe you'll never hear the end of this. BEM. Is the correct answer. Jake. They'll never forgive you for this. And that completes our first round. Thank you so much, attorney Gabi, for that round. So tingan natin ang recap ng scores. Sammy and Jake tie with 30 points. We're tied. I hope Mr. Korya is not tied. BEM with 20 points and Nimra with 10 points. Ang kagandahan dito sa K-check sa baut round, may chance kayong makahabol. So laging tandaan habang may round may pagasa. Si contestant BEM gusto nang maging isang ina ng Golden Retriever lang. Kinabahan. Nanunod ang nana. Bakit Golden Retriever? Kasi para sa lang epitome of happiness, pag sa isang species, you think of happiness, you think of a Golden Retriever. I can attest to that. I have a Golden Retriever. When I think of happiness, I think of food. That is also true. From Golden Retriever, isang sojantin ng balikaing pagsusulat. Can you give us a few lines of the work na mga nagawa mo before it? I think mas kaya ko may ming bigay, mga title. Ilan lang ay sa poang sabiak na lupa sumulit si Gaya, sa short story that I've written and to be sold sa mga expose na pupunta handin. I have not because hulap ako ka mong online copy sa parang more on physical copies pa lang ina. Sir, yung seriyosang tao sinin. Ang lalim ng mga titles pa lang. Pero siyempre, in the meantime, we are going to the round two. Lat nang yan sa paggabalik ng K-check. Tolul pa rin ang ating karunungan check. Rekap mo na tayo ng points. Tayo with 30 points, BEM has 20 points at sinimra naman, ay merong 10 points. So, meronokong question kay Sammy. I think Sammy's our very first pet bird owner. Named after the actor ba yung pet mo? Meron mo siyang family, name? Ay, hindi po. Name po siya after Ronald McDonald's ko kasi. Kasi tatlo po sela. So si Jaby sa Jollibee. Ay, pwede mo mo. Tapos si Ruru so Ronald McDonald's yung pangat ko si Ken. Oh, okay. So linguistics student ka, na turuan mo na ba siyang magsalita? Siguro po, na yung tindihan ko po yung... Ay, joke! Kina-sagot ng picture. Mukhang nakakaintindihan naman sila. Yes. And speaking of languages, ito si Jake pala, can you tell us about this, Jake? Yes, I can speak three languages po. Anong languages, eh? Korean, English, and Tagalog. Isang sample nga ng, welcome back to Kate Check in Korean. Kate, siguro, kasi wad huseyo. Malay naman natin, kung tuto uyo, no? Mukhang din alo ko lang, hindi na naka-sagot ng, anong answer ay Korea, di ba? Pwede na tayo umeri sa Harira. So thank you very much, everyone. Hindi na kayo dahil eto na, ang round two. Contestants, get ready to buzz in, but make sure that you strategize. Correct answers are worth 20 points each, but you lose 10 points if you answer incorrectly. Let's begin. This is round two, let's begin. Question number one. Which 2019 live action Disney film is a remake of a 1941 animated movie that features a baby elephant that can fly using its ears? Damn. Dumbo is correct. Kate Check. Question number two. In what mountain range in Asia are nine of the ten tallest mountains in the world located? The correct answer is the Himalayas. Question number three. According to Yahoo Finance, what usually yellow grain is the most consumed crop in the world? Bam. Wheat. Wheat is malik. Anyone come to you? Nimra. Corn is correct. Kate Check. Question number four. In boxing. What do you call the swinging punch that is directed upward? Bam. Upper cut. Let me continue with the question. Especially at an opponent's chin, Upper cut is correct. Kate Check. Question number five. In science. What do you call the sum of the chemical reactions that can take place within each cell of a living organism that provide energy for vital processes? The correct answer is metabolism. Question number six. What sweet but sometimes bitter delicacy is processed from cacao beans? Bam. Chocolate. Chocolate is correct. Question number seven. Which of the three branches of government refers to a country's court system that is responsible for interpreting and applying loss? Nimra. Judicial. Judicial or judiciary? It's correct. Kate Check. Question number eight. In geometry. What do you call the line segment passing through the center of a circle with its end points on the circumference of the circle? Bam. Diameter. Diameter is correct. Question number nine. What company was banned by the Comilec from bidding after supplying them with automatic boating machines for 15 years? The correct answer is smartmatic. Question number ten. In 1898, the declaration of independence was held in What Town in Cavite? Nimra. Imos. Imos is male. Bam. Cawit. Cawit is correct. Kate Check. Cawit was also known as Cavite Viejo. Question number eleven. In biology. It is an organism produced asexually from one ancestor to which they are genetically identical. What is this term which also means an exact copy? Sammy. Mayosis. Mayosis. Mayosis is male. The answer is clone. Okay, last question for this round. Which female singer whose real name is Onika Tanya Maraj? Bam. Nicki Minaj. Let me continue. Saw her 2011 song Super Bass. Become the highest charting solo single by a female rapper in nearly a decade. Alam mo yung song? Okay. The answer is Nicki Minaj. Correct. Kate Check. And that ends our round number two. At the end of the second round, we have Bam with 130 points, followed by Nimra with 40, Jake with 30, and Sammy with 20 points. Exciting. Pero hindi pa po tapos ang laban. Ultimate Pagalingan na sa pagbabalik ng Kate Check. Welcome back to Kate Check. Rika po na tayo ng points. Nangungun na si Bam with 130 points, followed by Nimra with 40 points, si Jake ay may 30 points, at si Sammy ay may 20 points. And now, it's the expert's turn to play quizmasters in our ultimate pagalingan round. Dito correct answers are worth 30 points each, at may 15 point deduction for wrong answers. At sa ating panel of experts pagagaling ang makatanungan para mas exciting. So this is it, guys. Good luck. Let's begin. And we begin the Pagalingan round with Professor Mitzi. Okay, the first question is, what do you call the color scheme based on the combination of several use located adjacent to each other on the color circle or the color wheel? A. Monochromatic. B. Traumatic. C. Anachromatic. D. Analogous. And E. Homologous. Nimra, A. The answer is incorrect. Sammy. D. Analogous. The answer is correct. So analogous colors can be warm colors and cold colors on the color wheel. Next question, Prof. Ricky. Sa chemistry naman tayo. What is the term for a substance that speeds up a chemical reaction without being consumed in the process? A. Catalyst. B. Inhibitor. C. Reactant. D. Product. E. Spectator ions. Catalysts increase the rate of a chemical reaction by providing an alternative reaction pathway without being consumed. Hey, check. Prof. Lu. World history. Who is known as the father of history? Letter A. Aristotel. Letter B. Herodotus. Letter C. Socrates. Letter D. Plato. Letter E. Hippocrates. Sir is B. Okay, this is on theater and music. What is the name of the character in the West End production about the French revolution that was played by both Lea Salonga and Rachel Angol? A. Cosette. B. Fontaine. C. Eponine. D. Amandine. E. Marius. A. Cosette. Incorrect. Sammy. C. Eponine. This female character is secretly in love with Marius, her student revolutionary friend. She sings one of the famous numbers in the show on my own. Correct. K. Check. Thank you, Prof. Mitzi. Back to Prof. Ricky. Among the various zones of the ocean, each region extends from the low tide mark to the edge of the continental shelf. A. Neuretic zone. B. Benthic zone. C. Pelagic zone. D. Hippipelagic zone. Or E. O zone. Tends from the low tide mark to the edge of the continental shelf and is characterized by shallow, whenlit water. The correct answer is Neuretic zone. Thank you, Prof. Ricky. Prof. New. Cultural history. What was the first toy to be advertised on television in April 1952? Letter A. Lego. Letter B. Mr. Potato Head. Letter C. Barbie. Letter D. Hula Hoop. Letter E. C. Barbie. That is incorrect. Nimra. Mr. Potato Head. That is correct. Letter B. Mr. Potato Head. K. Check. Back to Prof. Mitzi. This is a question on dance. Who is considered the first prima, prima ballerina in the Philippines? An honor that was declared in 1978 and was given the Gawad CCP Para Sasini Award of Excellence in 1992. A. Lisa Makuha. B. Alice Freyas. C. Mania Baredo. D. Stella Abrera. E. Melanit Motus. Sammy. B. Alice Freyas. Incorrect. Nimra. D. Stella Abrera. Incorrect. J. Peter E. Incorrect. Mania Baredo. So Mania Baredo performed for the Joffrey Ballet Atlanta Ballet and the Les Grandes Ballet Canadians. She is taught at the Mount Torres School of Ballet and is the founder and director of Metropolitan Ballet Theatre. She has been described as the technical trump card of the Hari Raya Ballet Company. The answer is correct. K. Check. Prof. Mitzi. Geological feature is formed by the deposition of wind, blown sand, creating a mound or ridge in a desert environment. Mesa, butte, dune, platul, or tundra. Ben. Si, dune. Dunes are formed by the accumulation of wind, blown sand, and deserts creating distinct ridge-like structures. Prof. Lu. Philippine geography naman. What is the capital of letter A? Kaluya. Letter B? San Remigio. Letter C? San Jose de Buenavista. Letter D? Libertad? Letter E? Patis correct. Letter C? San Jose de Buenavista? K. Check. Prof. Mitzi. Who is the Philippines first national artist and is officially recognized as the grand old man of Philippine art? A. Jose Hoya. B. Fabian Dela Rosa. C. Fernando Amorzolo. D. Vicente Manansala. Galo Ocampo. Ben. Si, Fernando Amorzolo. He is renowned for his trademark luminosity and ability to render the iconic provincial Filipina. He painted scenes in glowing rural landscapes such as farmers, ankle deep in rice fields, women in colorful barot sayas, sorting through mangoes and vibrant society portrait. The answer is correct. K. Check. Thank you, Prof. Mitzi. Back to you, Prof. Ricky. Mayology naman tayo. Silular division. What structure ensures the equal distribution of chromosomes to daughter cells? A. Centrosome. B. Locululus. C. Ribosome. D. Lysosome. And E. Chromosome. J. Letter E. Chromosome. Malay. Letter A. Centrosome. The correct answer is centrosome. A is the crucial role in organizing and separating chromosomes during cell division. K. Check. Back to Prof. Do. Balik tayo sa World History. This country is considered the youngest country in the world, gaining its independence only in 2011. Letter A. South Sudan. Letter B. Kosovo. Letter C. Montenegro and Serbia. Letter D. Timor Leste. Nimra. Letter A. South Sudan. That's correct. Letter A. South Sudan. K. Check. And that's it for our K. Check pagalingan round. Congratulations to BEM, our K. Check daily winner with a final score of 205 points. We'll see her again tomorrow when she competes with our other daily winners for a spot in our semifinals. And of course, thanks to Nimra, to Sami, to Jake, for joining us. And of course to the members for panel of experts, Prof. Mitzi, Prof. Niki and Prof. Lyo. Once again, I'm Jules Dia. And I'm attorney Gabby Concepcion. Join us again tomorrow for another K. Check.


Hey, hey you guys, welcome to above life channel. The purpose here is to inspire your spirit and to fill you with hope. So today we're gonna talk about energy shifts and the rough seas. Yesterday was the 1212 portal if you follow astrology and now we're in Mercury retrograde, great.  And so I'm not feeling great today. In fact, I'm kind of debating on whether or not I'm gonna go to cardiac rehab or not. So not sure if I'm feeling well enough to do that. So can you let me know if you can hear me okay? Just put a thumbs up. I'm trying to figure out a way to hold on without having to hold on to this but I think I'm just gonna have to hold it. Hi, hey, can you tell me if you can hear me, will you give me a thumbs up? I can't double check my stuff here. Hope I'm feeling better. You know, I was doing pretty well but I didn't, hey abs, nice to see you. I have been like physically feeling better but then yesterday I had some emotional stuff and so I had some, what would you call it? Stress on my heart space. So I feel very, I'm trying to set something up here so I can actually just sit and talk without I'm doing too many fancy things. Let's say, hey, nice to see you. See if I can do this. I don't know if this is gonna work. It might, it may not work. Yeah, I don't think this is gonna work. Ooh, I got an idea, just a minute. I should have done this before I went live but I didn't plan very well. I'm glad you're on those so at least I can chat with somebody and I'll feel good. I'm at the townhouse today. I came yesterday and it feels good to be here. The doggos are here with me, keeping me company. Oh, that looks good. Yeah, that looks pretty good. Keeping me company which is really nice. And so I appreciate that. Hi, Lisa from Florida, nice to see you. So I was just sharing that we're gonna have a conversation a little bit about the energy and how yesterday was the 1212 portal which was like a whole thing astrologically. Now I don't do astrology specifically but I have a really good friend who's like super into it and so she fills me in and tells me all about it and so I know that there's a lot of stuff and for me personally, I had a lot of things come up from the past yesterday, a lot of, it wasn't even triggers, it was just like in your face, like a frying pan in the face kind of thing. Like what the hell was that? Like really, really why? Why? Why does this need to be the scenario, you know? And so I was, I spent, I was really upset yesterday. Yesterday was a rough day but I was able to come here, I did a session. So that was awesome to talk to a client because that always kind of gets me centered and grounded in my body and connected and it feels really good to do a session, to work, it feels so good. And then I just hung out here with the dogs and I couldn't even journal, like I just felt kind of waves, it felt like rough seas and I kind of had been happening, I knew something was up yesterday morning, like I could feel stuff, like I couldn't get off the couch yesterday, I was so tired and I was so, so tired and it was just like an energetic thing, you guys, I'm talking about energy, this was energetic, right? 12, 12. And I was like so, so tired, I could not, I was trying to get myself to, and I had been up since like 5.30 in the morning, I was trying to get myself to take a shower, trying to get myself to take a shower and it wasn't a physical thing, I'm not physically limited, I mean, I do get tired easy but not like before, I'm really picking up, like I've been exercising, I've been doing what I need to do to take care of my physical body and the healing of my physical body and so it was definitely an emotional and energetic thing that I was feeling and I just could not get motivated. I was like, what the hell's wrong with me? And I talked to some friends and some of them said kind of the same type of thing too and but I felt like something was coming, like I felt like, like as if you were on the ocean in a sailboat or a boat and you can kind of tell that it's, you know, you're not gonna storm later in the day but you're not sure how bad the storm's gonna be, it was like that and I, it doesn't matter where you are in the boat as long as you're, when you're still in the boat, you're still affected by the storm, even if you're close to shore, it doesn't matter, even if you're like, it just, and that's exactly how the energy felt for me and so it was a rough day, I thought maybe I was dealing with some depression or maybe I was dealing with some heavy or thick energy and I thought, you know, I really don't want to end up back in a space where I was this time last year and I gotta be really conscious of that especially because I am not able to do the kinds of activities yet, I'm not full on like, I can't hold my body weight up, I can't push and pull and I can't do weights and so I can't do yoga, like with my arms and stuff, I can do some chair yoga but I can't do anything where I'm using my body weight which I love, like I love to do planks and I love to do exercises on my arms and all that and I haven't been able to do that and it's definitely affecting my mental health and so I even took extra vitamin D yesterday because I'm like, I gotta get out of this funky energy feeling and I didn't really feel heavy bad like when I was depressed last year and I felt so bad, so bad, like I couldn't keep my head above water last year, it felt like somebody was trying to drown me and literally all the time, like I was walking around in mud is how it felt up to my neck and I could barely breathe, that's how it felt and so it didn't feel like that so that's good but I was just, it was, I couldn't do anything, I just couldn't do anything and then all of a sudden later in the day I had something kinda bubble up, something personal bubble up and it was from the past and it just, and it was so random how it happened, I started a new TikTok channel, you guys, I need to tell you that, I started a TikTok channel for, for, above life channel, so I did, so I started a TikTok channel for above life channel on YouTube and so when you do that and you can connect some things like Facebook Messenger and Instagram and other kind of things that you have and it's, it, it shows people and things like that and then people start following you and then like I guess the algorithm or something does something and I got, I got some, I, it was kind of a thing that is kind of a, I don't know how much to share but it just felt, oh God, and I'm gonna get upset too.  Just like with my open heart surgery, I didn't realize how close I was to fragility until that happened. I was like, what? And then denial and resistance and all that, right? Well, with the astrology yesterday, I sensed a storm coming but I didn't think it was gonna be this big bad thing and it wasn't like somebody was super mean to me or anything like that. It wasn't like my immediate family or anything like that, it was external and but I felt very, I definitely felt this leak from me. I felt like I've done so much to keep my energy. Maybe I haven't done enough to keep my energy protected and held in the cocoon, right? And I think it goes to show how and then I just got knocked out of orbit and it's hard because I'm so visual, so imagery. So when I see videos or when I see pictures and stuff, it's just, it's so fucks with me and it felt very, I felt very vulnerable to the energy and I felt like that last year too. There were times last year where I felt very targeted and psychically just weak energetically and like personally, like in my private life and I just, there was some weird stuff that happened and I had stuff happen last year and the year before with like psychic attacks and weird stuff that I've never dealt with. People that do like negative uses of energy, that manipulate energy in ways that are really dark and not dark like shadow, but dark like just evil, like for their own benefit in a way that's like when they feel threatened by you or something, like it's just ridiculous. Like why would you be threatened by me? I'm just a weird live in my life, like trying to live, like I'm just healing, okay?  And the energy was just so targeted at my heart and it was really hurtful and in my face and very painful and it brought up a whole bunch of past things of grief and loss and not feeling enough and feeling like I should have known better and like I should make better choices. Like in general, like my head, you know what I mean? You know how you go to those places? I go to those places to you guys just because I'm a psychic, just because I'm an intuitive coach, just because I'm a life coach and I do healing work doesn't mean I'm immune to human experience. I mean, I am right there with you and thank God because that's the kind of person, thank God is, that's the kind of person you need that understands real life, right? Because psychic stuff doesn't do any good. Spirituality, energetics does not do you any good. Number one, if you're gonna manipulate that stuff. Number two, if you're gonna totally misunderstand the empath and the heart space and how tender it is and also then how powerful it is, it's not gonna help you either. It can make you so unhealthy like look at me. Look at me. So today I'm dealing with the aftershocks of that and my physical heart hurts. It's like, it's not my heart, it's like the muscle like the aorta, the muscle, right? And it's the left side, it's not even the right side. Usually when I feel like, when I overdo it, like when I lift too much and I shouldn't, like if I pick up a dog for example or carry a grocery bag up or carry my backpack, I carry my backpack in. I usually is on my right side, I can usually feel it and I can tell and it kind of feels underneath my ribcage right here. This is all right here. And I know it's because of that broken heartedness that stress and it hurts. And I think it's good that at least I'm feeling it. I got angry too yesterday and in fact I told my friend both two of my friends that were trying to like help me through it, through the feelings I was feeling because it's really not about like whatever happened, right? It's not about that. It's more about me and how I handle it, how I handle myself and take care of myself and choose myself and love myself and hold myself and same with you when you deal with something.  It's what you know in your heart that's true for you and that light has to win. It has to shine. It's like not, that's not when you dim it down and try to hide because that was kind of my instinctual thing was, oh my God, not again, please. I cannot, I cannot handle it. My heart cannot take anymore. And then, so there's this like withdrawal, pull back, isolate and that's not healthy and that's not what you need to do. It's turn it up. Turn it up, baby, turn it up. And that's what unconditional is. It's other people's conditioning, it doesn't, that's the moment that you choose yourself and that's when the empaths, we have so much power. You guys have so much power. It's like truly solar power. It's soul or power, right? It's soul, her power. It's soul, your power. And it just, that's the truth. That's the truth. And I was like, and I told both of my friends, I'm like, I just get to get, I get to be angry right now. I get to be angry. And so remember you guys, I've been telling you for like a week and a half. I'm trying to get in touch with my anger and trying to get in touch with my anger. And now all of a sudden, I was like raging yesterday and I'm like, this is just cruel, you know? This is just, this is not okay. It's beyond not okay.    It's like, I am no threat to anybody, you guys. But sometimes can't, don't you feel like a target? Don't you guys? Seriously, don't you feel like that? Sometimes don't you go, what is going on? Like, what did I do to deserve this? Don't you ask the universe sometimes, what the heck? What kind of karma did I inflict in a former life to deserve this? Like really, what? And it's like, I don't really want to know that by the way. I just am like, doesn't it kind of feel like that? It kind of does, you know? And I'm going to be clear. This is nothing to do with anybody and my personal relationships right now, my close friendships right now, my special people in my life right now, it has nothing to do with you. It doesn't have to do with my family, my husband, my kids, my sister. I know it's not that. My main, it's not that, it has nothing to do with that. So, but it really fucks you up, the energy.   She's like, okay, this is not yours. These people have to deal with that. And I'm like, but I can read the energy. I know what the situation is. Like I can feel that this person's bad. Oh my God, and my instinct is to like, help protect the other person from this person. I'm like, they don't know, they don't know. This person's really bad. They think this person is like their savior and this person's bad.  And they're acting all nice and all sweet.  This person's a bad person. They pretend like they're good. Oh my God. And that, I was just like so in that space, like, oh my God, you know. And I realized that that was the past. That was an old pattern for me to wanna protect. But the truth is, people have to make their own choices. Even like our kids have to make their own choices.  And we can't protect people from themselves. You know what I mean? They're gonna make bad choices. And sooner or later, maybe they'll realize that, but I'm not gonna be able to do the I told you so and I wouldn't do that anyway.   Like, really? Can you not see the manipulation? Can you not see, you know, there's a lot. And I'm like, well, getting into that place, I'm like, ah, and my good friend said to me, it's 3D.  She literally said to me, is Texas, my friend from Texas. She said, it's 3D, you're not there. That's not you, that's not you. And I'm like, but I can, it's so hard because I can read the energy. And then my friend Rebecca was like, she's like, it's not yours. It is not yours. You don't play, let's like don't, it's like the message I got was like, don't play that game, don't fall for that, you know? It's a lower energy, it's a lower vibration. It's like, I'm like, do they want me dead? Like, really? Let's cause her so much heartache that her heart explodes. Let's try that.  That is awful. But like I said, with energy, the rough seas, nobody really can hurt us, can they? Like not? Well, that's not true. Nobody can. Maybe it's, maybe the elixir or maybe the antidote to that, to that constant reoccurring cycle of pain or punishment or guilt or whatever you feel, that heartache or heartbreak or that longing for that person or whatever it is, that just feels toxic, that poison. Cause that's what it is. That's what it was directly told to me, poison. I have the antidote. I don't have to drink it. I don't have to see it. I don't have to look at it.   And then sadness, I cried first. I cried, I just couldn't believe that somebody would. And it was just awful. And then anger. And now today, the stress of it all just, I let it seep in. I let it leak in a little bit. And so now today is rebuilding time. Now the energy is my choice to turn up that light in my heart space. And to connect with people I love and to get hugs and cuddles from the dogs and to find a way to forgive myself for that time in my life. Because I am such a good person and I know that and I want you to say that right now to yourself. I want you to say that. I wanna hear you say it. I wanna feel you say it. Put your hand on your heart and say, I am a good person. I am a good person. And I deserve a beautiful, unconditional love. I deserve all the goodness that I am in my heart space. I am a good person. I am a good person. And if other people can't see that, that's their problem. It's probably because they're not a good person and they need to be out of your life. They can't be in your life anymore. That scenario, that circumstance, that situation, it's over. It's done. It's done. Right now we're leaning into the solstice, the winter solstice, which is another energetic thing that's happening. And that's next week. And with that, it is the darkest night, right? Or the darkest day, the least hour of daylight where I'm at here in the United States, it is. In other parts of the country, if you're watching from the other parts of the world, it's different, but that's what it is here. And so that's what it means. And so it is dark and then it gets really light. Then the light starts to grow. So right now we have this chance to, in the work that I do in the 13 Moon, in the 13 Moon Oracle, using the 13 Moon Oracle deck, or, and I don't have it with me right now, or I'd use it with you. Or the 13 Moon Mystery School, or Priestess Presence Temple is, it is the archetypal energy of the Queen of Death right now because that is associated with this winter time that's going within this being letting things die. And so this is the message, is to let those old things die, let those feelings die because then there's no end. And it's not about ignoring it, it's not about detachment in a way that's like not healthy. Okay, it's not about unhealthiness. It is about allowing yourself to heal, it's time. I am a good person, say it. I am a good person. I just serve unconditional love, say it. You do.  I know you do. You are the empath that is watching this. Maybe the experience I had is for all of us. So I'm gonna take tender, tender care of myself. And I'm gonna encourage you to do the same, especially during this time of moving into the darkness with that Queen of Death energy. It's not literal death, it's moving into the dark space, which is the quiet, which is no noise, no chaos, no other people.  It is a time of being alone so you can have sovereign reflection. It's not being lonely, it's being with yourself, your soul and your heart, your beautiful, beautiful, beautiful heart and soul. So you're never really truly alone, even if you might be alone because of that. And so energetics do impact us for sure. And rough seas, I'm telling you, I'm living it right now. And I do have, I have been told by multiple psychic friends of mine that I'm extraordinarily empathically sensitive right now. I am so hyper aware and I can read that energy. So when I see something like physical, a physical, like a video or picture or whatever, I can read it. Like, like in ways that I don't want to be reading that. I don't want anything to do with that. And I can, you know, it's just, it's rough. Okay, there's a lot going on in the chat right now. I just need to peek and make sure everything's okay. Oops, it looks okay, good. So there's definitely energetic ups and downs. It's not, it's not just you in your own world where you have to worry that you're losing your mind. You're not, there's a lot of other things that are impacting you besides the holidays, besides the hustle and bustle, other people's energies is a big deal. The astrology is a big deal. There's a lot, but you don't have to get, you don't have to succumb to that. You don't have to get overwhelmed by that. You just go right to your heart. I'm a good person. I deserve unconditional love. I do, I do, I do, I deserve to be unconditionally loved. And that starts with me. So I go into my heart space and I turn up that light. I turn up the volume. I don't, I don't try to hide and shrink so that I'm safe. Because if you hide and shrink, you're not safe. You're blending into the background and then you are subsequently filled with holes and are able to be totally overpowered by energy that is not healthy for you. That's when depression gets really bad. That's when anxiety goes off the charts. That's just when there's, there's just, that mind just spins out of control and doesn't even wanna be attached to the body anymore. I mean, really, really, really focused right here, right now on how just how much you get to because of how good you are, love yourself. Ooh, who's here? Is that UPS? Is that Amazon? Oh my gosh, Tucker's freaking out. All right, well, I was gonna do a card for you guys in regards to the energy. Yeah, he'll stop in just a second. In regards to the energy. See if there's anything we can do to help support your heart.  I am a good person, I am a good person. I deserve unconditional love. And if you'd like, you can say I am unconditional love. If you can believe that, if you're in a place where you can believe that, then say it that way. But I know not all of us can believe that, that I am unconditional love. Am I? Like, what does that mean? What does that look like? But that's when you get out your handy-dandy journal and you start contemplating these things and you could write things to yourself to encourage your heart space. Like, I am a good person. I am worthy of love. I believe in my heart. I believe in the beauty that is me. I believe I love myself. I am such a good person. I am such a good person. Just please, that peace alone, the goodness of you, that just outshines everything else because the goodness of you is connected to the love you have in yourself. And that love in your heart is totally like, goodness, good, good, good. Flashing neon sign, good, good, good. Yeah, there's no vacancy here. It's good, good, good, good. It's that, it's that. Yeah, it's definitely that. All right, okay, so let's do a card. This is the Kyle Gray deck. The Angel's deck from Kyle Gray. So good, so these are the cards, right? Guardian Angel.  Call in your archangels. You can call in Archangel Michael for the energy of protection. Archangel Raphael for healing and hope. You can call in my friend Archangel Ariel for badass women, especially those entrepreneurs. Okay, especially those women who are trying to organize stuff, get things together and maybe thinking about career stuff. Call in my friend Archangel Metatron who works with grid systems and aligns your energy like an energetic chiropractor. Call in my friend Archangel Gabriel, beautiful yellow, golden yellow, holding that solar plexus all about communication and connection. There are numerous spirit guides. There are saints and goddesses and deities and totem animals that are at the ready to be in service to you, to connect with you, to remind you of how good you are, to fill you with that essence of unconditional love until you can love yourself in that way. And that's just the truth. So thank you so much for being here today for connecting here on Above Life channel. Go check out TikTok, Above Life channel on TikTok. And as always, I hope that I've inspired your spirit today. Filled you with some hope and given you the opportunity to recognize how important it is to live your life. And I know as an empath right now, it is not easy. But I see you and I believe in you and your empathic-ness is not a flaw, it's a powerful. We just gotta learn how to use it in a way that's really helpful and healthy for you, okay? I am good, I am good, I am good. Let's start there, all right? That's your mantra. Write it on the mirror, an eyeliner. Write it on a post-it note at your desk at work. I am good. Write it in your journal over and over and over and over and over again. I am good, I am good. Okay, put a little heart next to it. All right, thank you so much for being here. Love you guys. Oh, and yeah, I am scheduling sessions in January and February now. So you can use the link to schedule one if you want. So, bye for now. All right, guys, you're so great. I just love it.  All right, I think we're good. 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