And here I am walking into a 9.3 million rent penthouse suite in the heart of Hyde Park. The views from this place are incredible. You can see a Rose Bank, you can see some of the high-rises as well as construction going on here. So it really is super cool and you do get that big city New York skyline feel. However, what New York doesn't have that we do are those incredible Jacarandas blooming and you can see them from every angle in this home. So my name for all of our new viewers is Chad Rivera's. This is the private property home shopper's show and I got one thing to say to you all and that is welcome home. So 9.3 million rent, three bedrooms, three and a half bathrooms and the coolest views I think you can get anywhere in Hyde Ting really does edge out this penthouse apartment from anything else on the market. I think a lot of people think Santon, no Chad, there's no way you're going to find cooler views in Santon but really the fact that Rose Bank has so much flatland and the fact that there are very very few tall buildings here really does give this apartment the edge and I'm not even going to mention the Jacarandas wait until we show you what you get out on that balcony but yeah we all we've come from the entrance hall straight through to the dining room area. You can see there's quite a bit of space here for a penthouse apartment specifically one at this price point got a six-seater circular dining room table right here and underneath this stunning bulkhead featured ceiling there's another bulkhead featured ceiling moving off into the kitchen area it's really nice really spacious and very free flowing. I'll show you the doors leading out onto the balcony in a moment but let's take a look at the furnishings of this apartment because it does come fully furnished at this price point so behind me we've got some stunning Chinese inspired doors it really does invoke the feeling of even that Balinese house we've done previously love the cupboards love the mirror effect as well as the fact that you can put all of this in here give you that extra storage but yet hardly impact the space of this home so coming into the kitchen let's first talk design elements above me a continuation of that bulkhead ceiling and then right here this really cool effect you've got these caesar stone countertops going in and underneath even on the side here and you're getting the light when you can see right through really cool under counter storage above me great for the central air conditioning the controls are right over there on the wall really cool really modern we like that now the cupboard here all of the cupboards beautiful gloss white and then coming further on into the kitchen is where the magic happens can you imagine yourself night time whipping up meals you know that romantic starline all the light shining from uh brine sir and from high park really nice you've got the snake extract fan you've got the snake gas oven so no pile cuts are ever going to affect you guys you've got your back and then further in you'll see that we've got a double basin sink so really do you find penthouse apartments that come with the double sink we've got some frosted windows there letting in all that natural light speaking about light stunning under cupboard lighting throughout really gives us place an upmarket feel and it is upmarket but very rarely do you find upmarket with so many of your needs provided to you already all your appliances are coming in with that fully furnished guarantee we've got smeg everything smeg microwave smeg fridge smeg toaster two different smeg dishwasher as well as a washing machine and this washing machine it's also a tumble dryer so all your needs are being taken care of but let's pull back into the main part of the kitchen and talk about what makes this kitchen so fantastic one i have to mention the lighting i'm such a huge fan of incredible lighting and right here with all this under counter lighting as well as those strategically placed windows all of them being frosted not only gives you privacy in here but letting a lot of natural light and really does just bring that upmarket feel into a kitchen that already does have such high quality finishes i'm a really big fan of these countertops as well they're super cool haven't seen that pattern before on countertops i like that they've introduced it so we've got to come to the standout feature of any penthouse apartment and that is the outside area now this outside area obviously incredibly decorated and guys you get this penthouse apartment with all of this above me we're talking about lighting take a look at the ceiling LED strips love it looks so cool love seeing this and it is so rare that we do find it so it's a shame i don't see more of it again quite a lot of space over here we've got a little counter you can maybe have a breakfast enjoy yourself with your friends enjoy yourself with your family and on my right hand side built against this caesar stone backdrop we've got this stainless steel stunning gas burner obviously the extractor above it but there's two LED lights here making sure when you're grilling you know that's the south african favorite past time you've got all the lighting you could ever need and then guys take a look at this view you're so high up it is really well metered in terms of the noise levels they're not gonna bother you but you're right in the heart of behind me you can get a good feel just how stunning this balcony area is but that is not all because we've got a lounge area to talk about while we come through here let me mention how all of this is tinted you're not going to be bothered by the sunsets although you're going to be able to enjoy them in all their beauty now come on in and let's check out this lounge area gonna close these off so you can again appreciate the tinting on all of this making sure that not only is the sun not going to bother you but neither is the noise when those are sliding doors are closed the apartment gets completely and utterly silent love it again another continuation of that bulkhead ceiling and yeah we get to appreciate once more the incredible decoration that has gone into this apartment there has been an interior designer and she has done a wonderful job now let's talk about some of the stuff we see obviously continuation of those chinese elements the asian elements really nice beautiful area rug but so much space we've got an all shape couch here that fits in very nicely i love the pillar design really does add that feel of almost an industrialization yeah we've got this huge wall to wall window and again it does have all of the tinting required you can see santa and right there the tallest building in south africa we've been there before the leonardo peeking up above the horizon and this feature wall over here i'm sure they're going to be quite a few massive LED TVs mounted against it but we've shown you all of the living areas we've touched on the dining room area this TV area as well as the kitchen which leaves us to the bedroom so through this door right over here and let me mention a couple of things we've got some cupboard space over here in case you need extra storage and the door that separates all the sleeping areas from the living room area so if you do want that extra slice of privacy this has got you and now it's time to go through and yeah we are through this door in the living areas or should i say the quieter more reserved areas right here but i'd like to touch on first is this office it's got a built-in office between all of the bedrooms massive desk as well as cupboards aligning both sides we've got a port in the desk right here so you can feed all your cables through to the plug sockets below it's those small little touches that really do make a huge difference when it comes to the convenience you're living here or at least that's what i feel so i love that they've done that got a cool chair if you're signing deals guys you've got to be doing it in a chair that makes you feel powerful we like that and then just behind me we've got the guest bathroom so let's take a look at this guest bathroom here and then we're going to go into the first bedroom just behind this door so in the guest bathroom you've got a toilet on the left hand side this is a hidden system soft closed lid toilet and then on the right hand side just opposite of that you've got a freestanding circular sink on some caesar stone with under counter storage just below it so with the guest bathroom covered let's walk into the first bedroom and let's see what this has to offer one is cupboards aligning this whole wall here really nice i love the feel of them i think texture and touch is such a big part of comfortable living and on my left hand side you've got a walk-in bathroom so let's talk around this walk-in bathroom and there's a couple of things i'd like to talk about the first is just behind this frosting over here you've got your toilet as well as a towel rack over there again another one of those hidden system toilets soft clothes toilet seat guys you know the luxury bathrooms we look at but then in front of me i've got again the circular freestanding basin the lovely caesar stone under counter storage massive mirror and then right behind this frosted glass door we've got the rainfall shower head and this is your shower and i'm going to show you why i say it's quite a cool little thing when we come through this side because right over here is that frosted glass window that looks into the shower i think this is such a cool design feature we've seen it a couple of times before i love it i think it makes these places look so cool guys in the comments i'd love to hear your thoughts is this just me this is just me that really likes these but i do think it's cool we've got an air con right above the entryway there beautiful light right in the ceiling and then quite a bit of space for your third bedroom in this penthouse apartment and this bedroom does have a key feature and that is your own balcony that leads off to the second bedroom so opening this door yeah you walk out to your balcony enjoy those jacarandas enjoy the views we are 11 stories up so it really does feel incredible that does surmise this bedroom so guys let me open that door and let's go take a look at the next bedroom so with the first bedroom done and dusted let's walk through this office area stunning mirror in front of me into the second bedroom of the three located upstairs and yeah we are so again this is very much the twin of the first bedroom we've got that walk-in bathroom right over here shower hidden behind that beautiful frosted glass again your free-standing sink under counter storage and then behind the next panel or frosted glass you've got your toilet there very fancy toilet it then closes softly and the system is hidden giving you all that more space within that bathroom area and here we are again air con over there a full wall right over here or cupboard space i really like those cupboards and how they feel my favorite frosted glass window over here now this bedroom again is flanked by these two really really beautiful side tables almost Gucci inspired and then we've got mirrors above both ends with this stunning soft headboard right over here like i said touch and feel guys it's all depends how it feels on my series and then like i mentioned in the previous bedroom this one also has its very own outside balcony it links between the two bedrooms so you can quickly traverse and it has got that stunning tint making sure that the sun is never ever gonna bother you let's take a peek outside and show you guys what the view is gonna look like and here we are guys the creme de la creme the master suite and this room is decorated impeccably take a look this stunning bed again the area rug behind me as i mentioned the interior designer did a impeccable job we've got this feature wall in gray that looks stunning these two side tables all of this comes with it and then right over here all the mounting points you might need for another one of those incredible flat screens right against the wall we've got cupboards flanking the middle wall and then right there in the corner we've got glass on glass windows the tinting right there giving you 180 degree views of the rest of rosebank all the way down to downtown heart park as well as some of green side really does look absolutely incredible but i'm sure a lot of you noticed because you know i love my showers so right behind me and right behind this piece of frosted glass is your bathtub stunning deep wide love bathrooms like that we've got frosted glass right over there bringing in a lot of natural light but let's talk about this bathroom because it does come with two single vanities as i mentioned i love these circular freestanding vanities more of that caesar stone that matches throughout underneath under counter storage and then this massive mirror right here bulkhead ceiling above you giving you all the down lighting you could ever need and then very important i love it they've included is right over here you've got all this cupboard space and then behind this is where you'll find tucked away your bathroom and again all the cherries on top guys soft clothes lid hidden system but yeah we are my favorite the shower the rainfall shower opening this door huge shower and then a floor to ceiling window frosted gloss i'd be tempted to maybe peel off that frosting and then you get a view while showering although the caveat to that is you're probably going to be giving all of rosebank a view as well but guys how cool is this master suite i think they've done so well yeah really does feel spacious specifically for a penthouse and it feels really really upmarket but that does come to the end of this stunning tour right here in rosebank so what we're going to do is let's go to that balcony and let's say goodbye as well as speak about pricing and now you can be living here next and there we have it folks 9.3 million three bedroom three bottom right here in the heart of rosebank a stunning stunning penthouse suite and if you'd like to purchase this what i'd like you to do is open up the description of this video you'll see the agent's contact number right there as well as if you like the interior design you'll find her details there as well but from myself Chad Rivera the team at private property as well as the team at the home shopper show thank you very much for tuning in every monday to friday where we go through some of the most incredible homes that you can purchase right here in sunny south africa thank you very much goodbye


Edward Hledke and I can't hear myself. Hello, this is Edward Hledke and I'm from the virtualization practice. I'm here with Michael Berman and Christopher Hoff and we can all wave, yes. And we're going to talk today about virtualization security. So this is a mini virtualization security podcast with video this time. So we're all on video here. So the question I have is what's, I mean I've seen a lot of new, actually I haven't seen really much new on the show floor when it comes to virtualization security. There's a lot of stuff that's been going on the same way. It's been kind of progressing along and kind of nice even steps of late. At least what I see on the show floor, is there anything that you guys have seen that's different and new? Mike just had an interesting deal happen with VMware. He should talk about that. Yeah, we announced VShield OEM agreement. So we're bringing VShield application controls inside our policy, orchestration and automation framework. So effectively VShield becomes another version of a firewall you can use. It becomes a particular type of, what I would call a policy enforcement point for firewall applications. Do you see a lot more integrations like this happening with other companies? Well this brings to three our integration orchestration in that we're doing the VShield app. We have a relationship with Sourcefire and we're bringing, we have Saint that we use for vulnerability and agent list configuration scanning. So what's happening with Juniper in that area? With who? Well I could have asked you what's happened with Cisco. What's interesting about the question you asked about, it seems to be kind of stalled. It's interesting to me, I kind of noticed the same thing, right? We're really in this, I don't want to say holding pattern, but a lot of what we can and cannot do from an ecosystem perspective is again directly proportional to what the platform allows you to do. So there's a certain point of control that you own the platform, you own how people interoperate. That was exciting. Was that a nurse quick? That was exciting. What did you have for lunch? So I think what we're seeing is as VShield and that architecture VShield manager, VCloud director, all of these kind of machinations around how we're going to do security in a VMware environment, kind of sort themselves out. We're dealing with road maps with vendors, especially larger vendors that get plotted out 12 to 24 months at least in advance. And so being able to turn left on a dime when a platform provider says, oh, we're now going left instead of right, it's hard to bet around. Especially when you have multi-billion dollar lines of business that need to satisfy customer requirements. So a lot of this stall is kind of, okay, what are you doing? How are we playing in this? I was just going to sort out, I mean, I think Mike's move was, frankly, a cap, it was pretty smart, right? I mean, originally you saw an entire segment of the virtual firewalling market go one of two ways. Stay with enforcement, kind of, and the ability to enforce natively. That's Altor and now VGW on the Juniper side. Or trend more towards the compliance, management, monitoring and bringing in through their own sets of APIs and integrations, an ecosystem environment. Because it was just easier, right? You try to manage to the least amount of change that's occurring that will affect your road map. So I think that's where we are. And I think, again, when I saw the news that Capper was doing that, frankly, I thought, given what they were doing, where they were, it was a smart move. And I think we're going to see people trying to build their own ecosystems. But if you're an 800 pound gorilla, that's one thing. If you're a small startup, it's quite another to get people to sign on to your version of the truth. Absolutely. We are able to turn on that dime. And basically, within a few months of an API existing, we've already, here at the show, we're demonstrating some of the integration already today. And that is something that Capper can do, but it's much harder for a bigger scale company to accomplish. So are you also seeing a change in direction for virtual security in such a way that there's more redundancy and availability built into the virtual security appliances that exist today? Because it seemed to be kind of monolithic. Well, I mean, these are just natural kind of, you know, we're emerging out of the adolescent stage of some of these virtual appliances, some of them in their fifth generation. So, you know what, you can't expect, you could not expect today to build a physical appliance, physical security appliance, and go into an enterprise, a Fortune 500, and say, no, I have no high availability. For some reason, we all kind of did that in the virtual space because we just figured, oh, we'll just spin up another instance and, you know, we'll scale out. Well, not really, right? So what we're seeing is customers saying, I'm going to apply the same set of requirements to my virtual security suite as I do to the physical. And in fact, it's more than that. I want to manage them with the same policies. I don't care. I don't make a distinction between physical or virtual. Right. There's also a difference in horizontal scale, right? When you go into the virtual, all applications have to have horizontal scale. So in our case, we have to, we can't think about managing two or three enforcement points. We have to think about managing two or three hundred or two or three thousand enforcement points. And to do that in a reasonable, scalable, efficient way. And, you know, high availability is just another variable in that equation. You truly have to manage, really, an ungodly number of enforcement points that were never, you never conceived the scale that many firewalls, even for a very large enterprise.  For me, in security with cloud virtualization, it's scale and that's management, right? I mean, I've subjected you two to my security hamster sine wave of pain multiple times, right? Absolutely. About how we trend and where we invest over time based on disruption, right? We post to the application, to the information, to the user and to the network. And we flip-flop over time, depending on the intersection of, you know, disruptive technology, Moore's law, Metcalf's law, and well, just plain, you know... News events. Yes. So this becomes Hofslaw. No, no, I just needed Hofslaw. I like the hamster sine wave of pain. It's better. But the point is, right now, we're in a mode where the abstraction and the so-called coming down of the physical and virtual networks to the point that they are kind of, you know, very flat, very featureless. The whole thing is very flat. Right. Almost means that you push many more of these control and endpoints and policy enforcement points back into the guest and the host and up the stack. So you go from managing, like I said, maybe 10 perimeter physical firewalls or 100 to then, you know, several dozen or a couple of hundred of virtual firewalls and then a couple of thousand potentially endpoint or more, right? Right. So it's a squeezing the bloom problem. Goes back to that four horsemen of the virtualization security apocalypse talk I gave where, you know, I claim that, you know, virtualizing security will not cost you less. Ultimately, it will be a net zero will cost you more because of the operational issues. No, but see, this is where I'm finding disagreement with that excellent talk at the time. But where I'm seeing now is that the APIs are allowing me to deployment and policy automation. So from a security operator point of view, I can take a lot of these things that were very complicated and not only make them easy, I can make them go away. Sure. If I do my job right. If I'm using IP chains, sure. If I am trying to use checkpoint Juniper, Cisco, any of the kind of best of breed security products where you expect to be able to deploy and automate, that's not accurate. If you are embracing and able to take a control point that I don't say, I don't say this in a bad way, but good enough or or. Well, no, this is the point, right? You actually said this in your last talk about is it good enough for regulations? This is a conversation I was just having about the whole best of breed horse race that everybody was in an IT security. I'm going to buy the best firewall. I'm going to buy the best ideas IPS. I'm going to buy the best vulnerability scanner. In fact, I'm going to rely on Gartner to tell me who's in the magic quadrant. I'm going to buy that, right? That's great. You now have the best whatever, but how do you make it all work together? How do you make sure you don't have holes in your perimeter? How do you make sure you don't have holes in your defense and depth? In fact, you have no way of knowing. And that was a completely broken model. And we can either repeat that model in the cloud or we can decide these are the this is the building code. Anything I deploy has to have an API. The API has to look and smell and taste like this so that I can integrate. And whether you call that a your framework that you worked on with the cloud second, the audit a six right cloud audit or a security content automation protocol or it's some other beast. I don't care really. I just want one and then I can start to automate and take the TCO and squeeze it down. So let me clarify my point, right? Yeah, technically I don't disagree, but it takes a rather enlightened set of folks that are not afraid to essentially look at what cloud and virtualization bring to them and escape the notion that automation is their friend. For most security people, automation is an anathema because what they are terribly afraid of is they commit through automation some rule set change, which then disconnects me upstream from 6000 firewalls, right? And so what we are dealing with is... I've only done that, I haven't done that. Yeah, me too. In fact, I flew to Hong Kong once because of it. So I don't argue with you technically. What I argue with you is we are in that messy state I alluded to where people are coming to terms and grips with the fact that regardless of whether... It's not even a best of breed versus good enough issue. It's the comfort in the maturity of the automation, the fact that you are now making a transition from CLI and GUI to API and that's a wholesale shift for most guys that can't even spell XML, right? And REST is something they hope to achieve at the end of a workday. So I think we're on the same page. I think ultimately though, when I take a snapshot of where we are now, I think my theorem of for a large enterprise with a sunk cost investment and a set of processes that have been mature over a period of time, as they try to virtualize security, they will continue to depend on everything physically they have unless it's a green field environment and then they'll seek out new ways of doing things, but that's a new operational model. So you kind of double stacking sets of... I agree with what you're saying and that's been the evolution, but I'm meeting more and more people today who've realized that what I now call their legacy security doesn't work. And the more they virtualize, the more they realize it doesn't work. That whole areas of their network have gone dark, right? From a physical security point of view, they can't see the packets, they can't see the controls, they can't audit a darn thing. And it's because these solutions, the 800 pound vendors, have been slow to make their stuff virtualization aware, or even when they have made it virtualization aware, for one element of their product line, but not the whole product line. And that creates a real opportunity for me and the guys like me to innovate ahead of them, maybe eventually be absorbed, but to innovate ahead of them for now and try to address this problem. My new tenant is, if you're virtualizing your data center, virtualize your security. It's just like an axiom. I don't think that's a bad axiom. And in fact, if you look at exactly that gap you indicated, I mean, Juniper, the company I work for now, bought Altor to fill that void. They happen to have an exposed set of APIs that allow us with things like Junos and Space and JunoSphere and the SDKs to ultimately automate security. Are we as nimble and agile as a small startup? No. I think we're more so than larger companies. But at the same point in time, one of the fundamental things that we didn't really discuss, we kind of alluded to it, is much of the automation we're talking about is actually kind of network automation also, very topology-dependent, at least today. And what's interesting is that we see the emergence of protocols being invented to deal with the need to claw back and make kind of up to the, extend the reach of the virtualized edge to the, right? Because ultimately what's happening and what you see in the networking space is networking vendors like Juniper, like Cisco, they're still that disconnect. They're still not the ability for a VM or an orchestration or provisioning engine to request and subscribe an end-to-end set of quality of service, differentiated service paths, service insertion mechanisms, even through the end-to-end of their entire network. You know, you can do it up to the physical D-Mark, right? You've got tons of protocols and ways of extending that edge. I mean, even legacy, and we call it legacy, but legacy protocols like MPLS, right? Right up to the point of that router.  People say we have existing protocols. We don't need new ones. You could weigh the pros and cons, but I think it goes to, you know, we've got, you know, two sets of teams dealing with this need for automation, the network side, and that's a whole other stack of problems and the security side, but they're, they're inextricably linked at some point. They have to be completely intermatched or it can't be done right. So, one other, thank you. Co-moderating for us. Yeah, I want to say something as I eat the microphone. The other thing is that I see a lot more of this as network-centric. A lot of virtualization security seems to be very network-centric, but that's not the only part of the virtualization security story. So how are we addressing that? I mean, is there anything that anybody knows of, like for VM escape protection or storage protection or things like that? Ultimately, your security has to be data-centric. Yeah, data-centric. You're protecting the data. Now, because of the way the world works, a lot of that data protection has to be in the network, but we have to start really thinking about how we reach the data, label the data, classify the data, protect the data, and this is where I find there are still a lot of gaps everywhere, right? So, witness the DLP integration from RSA into VCHILD 5. Right, hands up. Right now, well, yeah, right now it crawls VMs. Right. I'm going to guess that it's going to do more stuff of data in flight as it matures. Right. This has been needed for a very, very long time. The other interesting thing here is we talk a lot about the network-centric, so there's a bridge between information-centric and network-centric and it's app-centric, which is where a lot of these work, you know, as we start to bundle things not around a VM but an application. And those are the next-gen firewalls, so to speak, right? Exactly. So, yeah, so what we ultimately need to do is kind of enable, remember, making giant leaps is hard for IT, even, you know, I mean, for enterprises. So being able to set forward a path, and if you look at best practice guides from VMware, right, they say, look, you should deploy web application firewalls in front of all your critical information. I'm like, that's great. Do you have any? Well, no. Are they really any available? Well, kind of. You know, but they're not very virtualization friendly. So then we've got entire SaaS offerings now that have sprung up to offer that in the cloud. But wait a second. I'm still virtualizing my private cloud, right? So, you know, what we're going to see next is ultimately that gap fill where we'll see, you know, products like probably Imperva and database activity monitoring and WAF products start to really aggressively enter that virtualized space. They're doing it on the SaaS side, clearly, to offer as a service, because it's good revenue and is easier. But they're going to be forced to start delivering, you know, product and service insertion layers either as, you know, as virtual appliances or even offload to hardware. Because a lot of what, you know, what VMware at least understands is that in many cases, certain things require offloading, whether it's virtual or physical. So the point is, in many cases, they're going to, and they're already working to kind of allow outside of what VCO Edge does a certain amount of interaction. The problem is, you know, again, from an architectural perspective, the industry has to rotate around understanding what that means to their platforms. Absolutely. I think that we're actually out of time here. I didn't see the five minutes. Sorry. We got one minute. So I think we're seeing a turn in the cycle where Moore's law is dominant again. We've seen this generation of processors, everybody here is selling how many cores they've got. So I think at the moment, there's more and more we can do in the host, in the hypervisor, right, that does not require A6 anymore, that does not require custom hardware to offer the same level of protection. There were also some new announcements around file integrity on the VShield endpoint that I saw this week as well. Thank you very much, gentlemen, for joining me. Thank you. Have a good show.


how to never get disrespected by women ever again. And I do mean that with this title. Like I don't exaggerate with my title, so if you do this correctly, you are never gonna get disrespected by women again, okay? So the way to do this, I'm gonna explain what it is that you have to do to never get disrespected. I'm gonna say how to do this in real life, like what are the actual things to create this kind of environment that you're doing it. And the last thing, what can you do today to make it so that the next person you meet, you don't get disrespected by? Okay, so let's talk about the first thing. How do you never get disrespected by women again? Okay, it's very simple. You have the ability to walk away. If you have the ability to walk away, you will not get disrespected. It's that simple, okay? People treat you how they can treat you. If you allow somebody to treat you a certain way, they will treat you a certain way. Most people are not bad people. There are plenty of bad people out there, but most of the time when people are bad, it's the given the conditions to be a bad person. And yes, there are plenty of bad women out there. And they're a lot better at hiding it at first. So if you're someone who comes in and you allow somebody to treat you a certain way because they know no matter what they do, you're never gonna leave. They will treat you badly. And this could happen to anybody.  And yes, I am talking about a certain celebrity named Johnny Depp. Look what happened to that dude. When he got with Amber Heard, he was literally the most desired male on the planet. And she was a nobody who had started Friday Night Lights, I think that was her starring role. She got with this guy and the stuff you heard in this testimony, the arguments, I don't know if you guys have heard it, but like, oh my goodness. Like it's unbelievable the things you've heard that are coming out of her mouth. And she didn't just do this to Depp, she did it to Elon, I've read Elon's biography and it's like, it's so incredible to see the most powerful men and the most desired men in the world getting treated by this particular person because of, well, only they can answer that question, okay? But needless to say, they knew, or she knew rather, that they weren't gonna leave. And that's how she felt the ability that she could do that. I mean, she treated Johnny like that for years, dude, and the guy never left. Do you think she's gonna stop? Probably not. So when you're someone who's in this position, it doesn't matter how rich you are, it doesn't matter how famous you get, it doesn't even matter to a certain extent how good your game is. This can happen to you. And there are a few ways that a lot of guys think is the way you can do this. The way people think, the ability to walk away is determined by the options that you have.  You think Johnny Depp didn't have options?  There have been times where I've been disrespected by women and I'm like, a scratch man, I'm like, wait a minute, I can go out tomorrow and get a new girl and I'm letting this person treat me this way. Here's what usually happens with guys, okay? It's usually early on when they get an especially attractive woman. A woman they normally wouldn't be able to get. A woman that if they left, they're like, oh my God, it took me this long to get a girl like this. How am I ever gonna find someone like this again? Maybe it's their exact type, maybe they're super picky about that. Maybe the girl's just smoking, drop dead, or maybe she's done certain things or sometimes these women come in. And Amber Heard was a classic example of, they do like incredibly special things that nobody else has done for them. I think for Alon, you know, in his biography, they wrote that Amber Heard dressed up in this incredible skin tight costume from his favorite video game. And she just surprised him at like some event dressed like that. And then she acted like the character, like that's not something that most women would do, but Amber did it.   And I'm sure she did that exact same thing to Johnny. Okay, so what does it take to actually be able to walk away from women like this? Okay, I'm saying from my own personal experience, when I dated a particular woman who was like, dude, she was like my exact physical type. The way she would talk, the things that she could do, how charismatic she could be, I was like, dude, how am I gonna find a woman like this? Like, this is kind of early on in my development. And I was like, if I leave this person, I know how long it's gonna take for me to find someone like her. And I'm not sure if I can do it. So there was some self-doubt in there that's preventing me from moving on to the next person. Okay, so that's the first thing, eliminating self-doubt. Okay, the second thing though, is you are gonna be alone for a while. And I knew this, I knew in my heart of hearts, could I find someone like this again? Yes, I know I could find someone like this again, but I'm going to be alone for a while. Because it's gonna take me a long time for me to meet someone who's like this person. And I knew the pain of leaving a relationship.   So what you have to be able to do is rely on yourself. Take the women out of it. Take the woman out of it. Whatever she gives you, you have to be able to have a lifestyle that can be comparable to that. If the woman is the primary focus of your life, which I'll be honest with you, it was at that time. Getting girls was like the ultimate thing for me. That's all I did. I wanted to become a dating coach other than jujitsu and working out. This was all I frickin' did. So when I got that person, I was so head over heels and like I thought I'd made it that I couldn't bear to leave. Couldn't bear to leave, because I knew I was gonna be alone for a while and I knew to find that person again, my God, it was gonna take me, took me years to find this person. So what I had to learn to be able to do and what you have to learn to be able to do is literally be okay being alone, being by yourself. It's not gonna be as good potentially, but it can still be pretty good. If she comes into your life, and your life's already frickin' amazing, which by the way, my life was, she comes into your life and it's like a compliment to it.  I'm excited to wake up in the morning and get to my business or I'm get to my career. I'm excited to do my hobbies, which is competing jujitsu and hang out with my buddies, pick up other girls as well too, which is what I was doing. I enjoyed all of that stuff. I was making memories all the time, I was traveling. There was so many great things going on with my life that I was excited about that when she came in, it was almost like, eh, it's nice, but my life's awesome. That is how you have to get back to that point because typically what happens, what happened to me is that when that person came in, I stopped doing all of that stuff. I got lazy. And then she becomes the primary focus. And then you can't walk away anymore. So if you're in this position, maybe you're dating a woman who's disrespecting you or maybe you're single right now and you can't even get the woman in the first place and you're disrespected by women who you're trying to get, make sure that you put the focus back on you. Put yourself first, homie. Create that life that you want to be. Take all the women out. What are you going to put in there that's going to make it good? And then also to allocate time so you can meet new women as well. So we talk about in this program, how to generate a lifestyle. I work on this with every single person I work with. You got to have a lifestyle that fulfills you, but it's also built so you can meet new people, potentially new women to date. It doesn't matter if you build a lifestyle, if you're not meeting anybody, right? Okay, so the first step to start building this, this is my opinion, number one, start hanging out with your guy friends, okay? I have a lot of female friends too that I hang out with that are really helpful in these situations. And even they, women are pretty good.  It's nice to have a female friend in there, okay? But definitely have male friends, guys that you hang out with and you spend time with regularly. Okay, I recommend actually two times out of the week that you hang out with these people. Number two is have a career. If your career ain't the most important thing in your life and you got to pick a different career. Number three, make sure that you have a routine that you can wake up to and feel fulfilled with that you enjoy little things. Even if you enjoy playing video games, allocating some time for that so you enjoy it, right? These are just things that make you happy, right? Hobbies, all right? And have some that you actually like, you know, you're getting out of the house for too, all right? Those three things together, you make sure you're doing them every single week.   They got your back, okay? You talk with them every week.  Uh-uh. They got your back. You think she doesn't have her female friends getting their back? You could have the same thing, okay? Same, and then with hobbies too, something to look forward to, something to get better at, okay? And the third thing, finally, is that career, okay? That's your bedrock. That's where a man gives value to the world is their career. And so that's what you got to create too. So if you're getting fulfilled from all of those three things, dude, you're gonna have the ability to walk away just fine. We make sure that we establish those things. Oh, and the final thing, the fourth thing, is like, you know, in the future, if you are single, if you are single, you need having a weekly schedule of meeting the kinds of women that you wanna meet, okay? Developing the ability to be attractive to those women. I talk about this all the time on my channel, okay? But if you haven't written down those things, satisfy those four things, write them down, figure out a plan for them. That is how you're gonna be able to do it. So on this video right now, just start to think about ways that you could start doing that. In my own life, I got my male friends.  Number two, I got hobbies, I got jujitsu, things that I'm getting better at. Number three, I got a career that is fulfilling me. I love waking up and doing this every single day. This is my life's calling. This is what I was born to do, to create content and help you guys and walk guys through with mentorship programs. Coach guys personally through this process. Get out there, host events, do the things that I love doing, okay? So I wake up in the morning and I'm excited to do this. All right, all of this stuff is paramount. If you have slack on these things, I guarantee you, you will walk into a relationship where you're gonna get disrespected or at least gonna lose yourself in it. So make sure that you do those things you guys. And if you need help creating this lifestyle, if you need help making sure that no women disrespect you in the future or actually being attractive to women that you find attractive, getting the girls and meeting girls that you actually wanna date, then go to this website, link is down below, getcoachbyloid.com, book a free consultation, call with me or a member of my team. We will see if you are a great fit. Thank you so much for watching and good luck out there you guys.