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The power of Mark on Monday, the 4th of October 2021, the whole world experienced a social media downtime. Instagram, WhatsApp and Facebook were down and the world stood still for a bit. Over 4 billion people around the world interact with one or more of these platforms. 4 billion humans all under the messy of one man. The way I see it, the leaders of the future won't be the government. It will be the tech-preneurs that can impact the lives of billions of people with just the click of a button. Are there pros and cons to someone having this much power? Yes of course there are. So let's discuss. One man controlling 4 billion people. Oh my god. Like we don't know. I kept calling my network provider just to find out is anything wrong. I switched off my phone for like 5 times. And that was really insane. People were licking some cards.  Turn off Wi-Fi. The world literally stood still. Someone drove from one place. It was like 45 minutes to my place because he wanted to connect to Wi-Fi. It was in the network. And I was like it is everywhere. The world stood still for about 6 hours or more. But anyway I love it. I love it right because it revealed how much. A lot of things. It revealed power. It revealed technology dynamics. The importance of technology. Again I mean it reveals how much the value of the solution of to what we are talking about. Not just Nigeria all over the world. This is really amazing. But of course like you said there are downsides to these things. To one man owning this much power. There are downsides to these things. There are downsides to these things. Well to me I am not bothered if one man has it. Because the government has the right to make policies that would control the excesses of one man owning this. The importance of this thing. This is to tell the government of Nigeria that you can't use policies to stifle youth. Allow our youth to thrive. They should take advantage of technologies to do things to shape their own future and thereby develop Nigeria. So the banning of Twitter is one. Imagine what happens that Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp was not working and then the Twitter was banned. You know a lot of us are using these things not just for entertainment. We use this education, business and what have you. So is to teach everyone a lesson that we have to be serious with technology and allow our youth to thrive. Because we can have so many Magsuka Begs in Nigeria. Why can't we develop a Nigerian own app that will be used globally that can have the global relevance. So the government has also supported youth. So apart from even having like global developing our own app locally and then having global relevance. In China, they don't use this product. They don't use this platform. They built their own platform that they use. In India, they started back in 2019 they stopped using all this platform. They have their own platform. So as we are experiencing it some people are still using it but as we are experiencing it it wasn't as bad in those parts of the world because they have their own platform. As this one was down to their own platform using but in Africa, in Nigeria, Kilani, what do we have? What do we have? We were leaking seams and some people were afraid to make like Mak, don't do this one. Please come back.  What was I using? I could not remember but I don't know if you... Did you experience it? How was the experience for you? I had to run back to LinkedIn because people were just looking for different ways way out and all that. So while this goes to show that technology is important in our day to day life I mean this is 2021 you cannot be talking against advocating against technology when you are supposed to use it to advance your systems even governments rely on technology even many governments around the world they felt weight that was on Monday right? On Monday it was soon. On Monday they felt the weight so I mean saying that technology is backward it's not good. You have to rethink your policies. Yeah and you know Nigerians did you see the meme about when the world stopped because of social media that is the end time or what did they call this? That the angels are about to drop that's why the world dropped. Stop. Oh my God. That brings me back to the previous conversation around entrepreneurship within entrepreneurship into education right? So when you think about when did Mark really start his journey into technology I mean when he invited four friends I mean three friends into the dormitory and just some people build out and then we have some people that are now co-owners of Facebook and Instagram and Twitter that tells you that the 70 year old or even from 15 year old what are they really learning and I must give kudos to some very tech platforms that are now beginning to teach girls to code teach boys to code and young people we need to get our young people quickly quickly and be there into this whole technology because that's the future if the world could freeze that's the future it's the future I'm sure the relevant government institutions are listening number one first things first the concept of saying is 16 year old under 18 should not have access to same time is backward number two saying that a girl should not use a smartphone because religious reasons is backward and number three please can we just allow our young people to fly like birds that is the only way see the worlds of nations do not rely on beneath this earth's surface it's between the years of the humans means that your brain these technologies is the future of the world it can generate billions of dollars worth of revenue to the government if they would just allow the youth to thrive because if you keep doing the same thing the same old way you get the same results you always get the same old way let's talk about heading cows heading cows from social and so please to another place whereas people are thinking of how to solve global problem from Nigeria can we just allow young people to thrive enable them enable environment enable them we're not even asking for give us the fish create sustainable platforms and then enable us to actually we are creators in Nigeria is a creator how do I know this when we move offshore we really really thrive we thrive so I think we just need that enable an environment to create thought of October has come never for it to show up again it could show up again we are hoping it does we are begging Mr. Ma I'm not against we using this social media platform the fact that we encourage Nigeria to set up the earth I'm not saying to use it I'm saying do your own go global like their own let's have fair competition amongst persons that are technically inclined and we go for the best should in case disciplines again if you have an app in Nigeria doing the same thing you can share with us so that we'll keep communicating but yeah that's all we have time for today on the advocate join us again next week the advocacy continues on our social media platforms on Facebook at plus TV Africa hashtag the advocate and Instagram at plus TV Africa hashtag the advocate NG to catch up with previous broadcast go to plus TV Africa dot com slash the advocate NG don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel plus TV Africa join us next week same time on this station let's keep advocating for a better society


It's Wednesday. It's 11 o'clock. It's Trump week. I'm Tim Apachello, your host. I'm here with Winston Welch, Stephanie Dalton, and Cynthia Sinclair. Aloha, everyone. Aloha, Tim. Nice to see everyone. Well, again, a roller coaster week for Trump, and particularly as it pertains to COVID-19. So let's talk about the first topic of the day. That is Donald Trump this week basically has taken a bold step to blame China for COVID-19. He wants to sidestep, in my opinion, the fact that he blew this thing off as far as its importance from the latter part of January all through February and into the first couple of weeks of March. That was six precious weeks that we weren't attacking COVID-19, and it has resulted in over a million, 1.1 million cases, and we're now up to close to 70,000 deaths. So Secretary of State Mike Pompeo basically said he's seen evidence that would indicate that China had been, this COVID-19 virus somehow got out of the laboratory in Wuhan. But at the same time, when scientists have debunked that, saying that it was not manufactured, they've researched the gene trail on this, and it was not manufactured, Pompeo didn't disagree with that. So he's 180 degrees on thinking that it was manufactured in a lab, and then at the same time saying he had no reason to disbelieve it wasn't manufactured in a lab. It was a convenient scapegoat, and I suspect that's one of the reasons why Donald Trump is hanging onto this one. Winston, what are your thoughts about Pompeo and Trump basically trying to deflect the last six weeks and pinning this on China all of a sudden? It's just anyone else is to blame for any problem. You know, China, of course, hasn't been extremely forthcoming in whatever information that they may have had, but in any event, Anthony Fauci came out and said, there's no credence to this. Across the intelligence community, they said there's no credence in this. This one has fallen flat and hard, but it doesn't matter. They will continue to pound this and look for any shreds of anything to continue to promote it so that they don't have to accept any responsibility at all whatsoever. Shock of the week though, Mike Pence saying he should have worn a mask at the Mayo. I almost fell over that someone actually took some responsibility in any tiny simple way of saying I might have done something differently as simple as that, but I was shocked. Good point. Yeah, no, I caught me off guard to and how rare is it that for any administrator under Trump's administration to take responsibility for not doing the right thing. I think he realized the message he was sending, not only to his constituents, but to the country as a whole, as far as how we socially distance, and now the proper way to stop the spread of COVID-19 and I commend Mike Pence for that too. I think that was a good point you're making. Stephanie, what do you think about the transference of responsibility from the Trump administration over to China and having Secretary Mike Pompeo be his mouthpiece on this point? Obviously, to me, Pence is CYA, cover your butt, right, so we can admire him as a positive side to it, but he's CYA because he probably still has a career ahead of him. He's disappointed in Pompeo, continuously disappointed. Don't know what that's all about or how that serves him, his integrity, his future service to the nation. I just, I don't get what he's doing. Let me ask you this, let me ask you this. Do you think there's a correlation of them suddenly trying to deflect to China and the blame to China? Do you think there's a correlation with the fact that this week we heard about all the intelligent reports that Donald Trump received in January about the seriousness of COVID-19? Do you think that had anything to play to it? Surely, Tim, I think that analysis is very insightful. Absolutely. That's continuously what they're doing is deflecting and the shiny object. Let's go someplace else. Let everybody worry about this big investigation into China, which is totally irrelevant now and unneeded. We need to be focusing on all of the issues that we have to take care of. So it's so frustrating and it's so transparent, but evidently people are going to go over there and spend their time worrying about that. There's decades to go to do this unfolding and unpacking and editing what went on and having controversy on it. We don't. Right now, we need to be doing something else because one thing that just came up in the news I read actually this morning, it's about children from two to 15, numerous of them, dozens have been hospitalized. They don't know that it's COVID-19 yet, but they have symptoms that way. It may not be, but it's a huge red flag and it takes us back to the science of this and let's get on with the work, please. That's a very good point, Stephanie, because I think sometimes Trump's loyal followers ignore the science of this virus and they go to the politics of whatever their fearless leader says and does about it. And the fact that this now could affect their own children rather than a age classification of over 65, this may actually get their attention. So good point. Cynthia, what do you think about Donald Trump's attempts to deflect this to China? Is there any sudden reason for it? Well, we know that China did hesitate in getting the word out to the rest of the world that they have this virus going on. But I don't believe, I believe Dr. Fauci when he said there's no evidence that proves that or shows that. And so I go with the scientists and not the politicians. The politicians are saying that it was China and the scientists are saying that it wasn't. I don't listen to the politicians, I listen to the scientists. Good point. Well, I'm going to jump on my list of items to discuss and that's going to take me down to Donald Trump had mentioned or had indicated that he was going to disband the COVID-19 Task Force. There may be a lot of reasons for that. And I understand the update today is that he's not going to do that. He's going to let it continue. Why do you think Donald Trump was actually playing with the idea of dismantling the Task Force and the press briefings? Cynthia. I think it's because he wants to keep the numbers low. He doesn't want people to be focused on the virus. He wants people to focus on the reopening and how everything's going to be so wonderful once we start to reopen. And he wanted to keep the focus on that. Let me, let me, let me throw this in. Do you think Dr. Fauci and Dr. Bricks were upstaging him? Yes. The very next thing I was going to say is that I think he wanted to shut those guys up. And so by getting rid of the Task Force, he basically has shut them up. Well, if you remember a week and a half earlier, he retweeted a text about termination of Dr. Fauci. I think that was very difficult because Dr. Fauci's poll numbers of credibility and trustworthiness far exceeded Donald Trump's as it pertains to discussions of COVID-19 virus. I think Donald Trump had a hard time figuring out how he could get him off the stage because he was more popular and more credible than our own fearless leader. So maybe this was a way for him to do it is just get rid of the show rather than the actor. That's exactly what I think he was doing. You know, there's others that speculated one of his possible motivations was to get the blame off of him. When these, when the death toll starts to exceed 60, 70, 80,000, that it's now going to deflect back to the governors of each state and he'll point the finger at them for the tragedy and loss of life. That was one of the ideas behind it or the fact that he wanted to deemphasize the case numbers and the deaths and start emphasizing the, the, the ability to get the economy to rebound. Therefore, better his chances for reelection. But if you could take the focus off the cases and the deaths, that would be a good thing for him. Right. Well, you know, I also think that they were directly contradicting what he said. So Trump would say one thing and then Fauci and Dr. Birx would say another thing. So he was constantly being contradicted. So I think that was part of it too. It wasn't just they were more popular than him, but they're saying the truth and he's not and he doesn't want to have anybody that's going to, you know, show his lies. Yeah. Hey Winston, did you have any thoughts about why Donald Trump was going to get rid of the task force meetings and press briefings. Oh, the whole bleach thing was a disaster and I encourage viewers to go look at Sarah Cooper on Twitter. She's a comedian who just took his words verbatim. It's his voice and then her remixing and saying, this is insane, but he had people in white coats behind him. And when you take it out and you say, okay, here's another person saying this is patently insane and he got hit hard by this to the point where you shut it down. As a new press lady who told us she wouldn't lie. Why would you even say that? Of course, well, number one, of course, she's going to lie why she's no use to the administration if she doesn't live with everything. But you know, I think it's all about trying to control the narrative. And one of the important things here. I think he's losing Fox News. He's been critical of them again and again. He's jumping over to this one American network that maybe he'll take over when you mentioned the word re re-elected. I shuddered for a moment thinking it's such a nightmare to contemplate. But what really is interesting. Obama will come up real presidents, real leaders, we may have disagreed with certain policies on them. Obama is going to be giving a speech NBC ABC Fox and CBS going to have the high school commemoration speech across the nation, all four networks simulcasting. That is important. And I'm sure that Donald must be spinning for losing Fox to Obama in a nationwide address, essentially. So it's an interesting time. When is that going to take place? I just read about it yesterday and it's coming up soon. They're going to have other people, you know, performers and whatnot. But I think both President Obama and Michelle Obama are going to speak with some other people as well. So I don't think Trump was on the invite list. It would be interesting to see if he shoe horns himself in this. Stephanie, your thoughts about why Donald Trump might have been anxious to end the task force? Well, first of all, I'm a former K-12 teacher. So all of this dog ate my homework stuff because he's not doing the work is just so transparent. And then the other thing that he's doing is contingency managing everything. If it isn't me, if it isn't my self interest, then we don't play this. In other words, you don't get what you want. So it's not, oh, I'm not useful to this presentation with Fauci and Bricks.  Like some strategy, national federal strategy. No, no, no. It's like, oh, we're canceling the whole thing. Okay, you didn't like it. You didn't like it. Doesn't matter. And it was me that doesn't. I'm not going to call home and we're not playing the game anymore. Not for me. Precious feedback that can help me correct and get it right and then align with what's going on in this precious presentation, which I hear the polls say that the country does value the presentation. It just didn't get more specific about without let with less Donald Trump. That's right. That's what he's managing. Everything is either him or it all goes away. It's his contingency management. I want to talk about Donald Trump definition of success as it pertains to tackling the COVID-19. And that is if you remember earlier last week, Donald Trump was going on and on about how successful the administration will be if we can keep these deaths down to 50 or 60,000 deaths of US citizens. Now that number has changed dramatically. We're, you know, we're way up above that we're in the 70 going on to 80, and he acknowledged that recently with his interview with Fox in front of the Lincoln Memorial, and he had he acknowledged that yes the numbers are climbing even higher. But did you find it disturbing that he ties his success of the administration's handling of this virus to a death rate. So if the death rate goes to a quarter of a million, will he continue to say how successful the administration is on how they handled it. I think he will. It doesn't matter what number it is, he's going to say we were successful. Did you, did you catch a sense of that this week. Who are you asking. For that would be for Stephanie. Oh, oh yes. Um, that's another part of this contingency management, you know, I am your reward. Okay, I am the reward. And everything I'm doing is really great. And everybody should value this. And if you don't value it somehow, then I pull everything, all of your toys, not only my ball but I take everybody's ball off the court. Okay, this member of the whole class at the state and every school are doing recess instead of Jack, Jack Jones here who was the problem. Yeah, so I'm appalled that it's okay for him to do that and why we have no options, no, no way to give him that feedback, other than the election. And that's just such a blunt instrument, literally. But how is it that we endure this. He's I think we just ignoring we're using the ignore mechanism. I find it appalling and I'm going to jump to Cynthia on this one. I find it appalling I think he's trying to desensitize the deaths of all our Americans, and he's trying to desensitize it by just saying no matter what the number is, we're successful. And I think it's appalling. I don't think he's taking recognition of the impact of the loss of all these lives. And I just think no matter what the number is, he's just trying to get public used to the fact that there's going to be deaths and there's going to be a lot more deaths. Cynthia, what do you think about that? Well, you know, if you think back a little ways, he at one point said that it could be one to two million. So if you know, if we've got anything under a million, then we're doing well. So 100,000 200,000. He's keep changing his numbers so often that, you know, just this last week he's changed his numbers three times. But if you go back about a month, he's changed him five or six times, and not just in the way of saying, well, you know, I originally said 50,000, but now it's going to be more because we have some more cases and all of this. No, he actually started much higher. So that way, when he has a lower number, it makes it look like he did better. And I think it's appalling also that he would try to decide how well he did by how many people are dead. That's just awful to me. I agree. Winston, your thoughts? You know, we take no joy in having to go over Donald Trump and his missteps and just his behavior. It is appalling. It's sad and none of us want to be even be here doing this, but he is a brilliant self promoter and strategist and he has hypnotized half this nation to believe anything that he wants them to believe. They trust him more than Fox News now, which is saying something you asked about when that is that graduate together is the hashtag. It's on the 16th of May. That'll be there. And I, you know, it's, it's important to realize there's a lot of other people stepping up and giving us hope and truth and reality breaks besides what we get from the administration and especially Donald Trump. So as the more that he becomes marginalized in the types of messages that he's giving out to people, I think the healthier our nation is going to become because we're realizing we cannot rely on this administration to give us straight facts, shoot straightly to advocate on behalf of all Americans. It just hasn't happened. So when we have other stepping up and even inside of the administration, when we have the Fauci's and the Berks stand up, that helps too. But as we regionalize and have others, you know, nonprofits and, and governors and mayors and whatnot stepping up and ordinary individuals, that is where we need to look for leadership right now. Alrighty, let me change it up a little bit. By chance, did you happen to note the interview that he gave in front of the Lincoln Memorial, and he basically for me played himself as the victim once again, that it was Abraham Lincoln did not receive the slings and arrows about Rage's fortune, as he has with the media. Did you catch any of that. This is for Winston. I didn't see that I can't, it's astounding that that he would compare himself to, well, he doesn't need to compare himself to anyone he is in a class by himself and he just, and that's okay. But comparing himself to Lincoln. And come on. Well, he said he's been treated worse than any president and certainly worse than Abraham Lincoln so I found that to be. Yeah, he's been treated worse than everybody put together in the entire history of the planet, times 10 times infinity. Yes, of course, he is a victim of the first of the first order and yeah, he just deserves our praise and adulation. Okay, I will put Stephanie, did you catch that and did you feel like he was playing the poor pity, the poor pity pity me role as president. That's been picked on by the media and you can't catch a break from anybody. Did you get that sense from his comments. I heard you say slings and arrows. He did he also didn't get the bullet. And so really, really wondered if he knows if if his, his knowledge of history gives him the full picture. Obviously it doesn't give him the full picture no matter that he might know the dramatic events and especially of Lincoln's demise, which was was horrific but so now we're we're we're sorely missing in any form of leadership or competence or capacity evidently as he might not be there anymore I guess with his age but no I see absolutely no value or worth in these expressions that that he's providing us with and it is again just a matter of the self self indulgence and the self interest, and to get himself some point somehow with whoever it is that can can digest what he's and many of us are not. Cynthia, a little bit later this week. I saw but George Bush put on a sponsored a beautiful video of of how Americans should come together unite put aside our political differences are cultural differences in order to combat this virus and it was really well played and true informed Donald Trump tweeted about it and basically stated that where was George Bush, when he was being impeached, I found it appalling once again I mean, you know, one, one thing after another in the last week, I just my, my jaw drops yet again. What were your thoughts about President Trump tweeting that he he didn't hear from George Bush during his impeachment, and therefore the value of his video was negated it didn't mean anything to him. What do you think. Well, you know, it's just another example of how it is us and them it is Democrats and Republicans. It's not Americans. He doesn't, doesn't ever put things forward as we're doing this together as Americans. It's either you're and if you're a Republican and you don't support him, then you're not really a Republican, you know, and it's basically the way he comes across. He's never a big fan of George Bush, but by the same token, and I never in a million years would have thought that I would think he was eloquent by any stretch. But after this last little speech he gave I, I, gosh, that's eloquent in comparison to the what we hear out of our current president. I think you're right. He's the his disdain for any any Democrat and it particularly played out a little bit when Donald Trump said that Dr. Fauci was not going to testify in front of the House of Representatives, because he blamed the Democrats of being enemies against him and basically was part of a big part of why he was impeached. I didn't know he could prevent someone from testifying because they are Democrats. I would think that would be an executive privilege as a response to why someone may not testify in front of of the House of Representatives, not certainly because they are Democrats and he doesn't trust them any longer. I agree with the law on that. I mean, that's a really good question Tim. Is that that's his power? Does anybody know? I don't believe he can get away with it, but that's what he stated as his rationale. And now we know Dr. Fauci will testify in front of the Senate, but as a basis for preventing him from testifying the House, I don't think he has that justification. That's just me though. I don't think he does either. I don't see how he could, that was my first question, is how can he possibly say that he can't testify? I mean, I guess it's the National Institute of Health, so it's a government agency and maybe that's why, but it's still right that he can do that. And I would like to hope that Fauci would just do it anyway. I would like to see him stand up and do what's right. Winston, do you think Donald Trump has any basis to prevent Dr. Fauci from testifying in front of that committee? You know, it's just astounding that he would even say that, but we have seen time and again, there are no norms, rules, laws that are, that are just ignored, that it doesn't matter. So the fact that he's open about it is, well, at least it's honest, if nothing else, but casting half of the nation as your enemy, as enemies, that's very dangerous. We saw this play out in the Michigan State House where you have people with their Uzzies essentially taking over houses of government, which is insane and having a president essentially saying there's good people on both sides again. This is a non, a non argument that a president should never, ever take. And that's also an astounding thing that happened this last week that is still reverberating deeply. And a lot of our consciousness that says, are we, is this what we are now? And we're having a president? I think what's happening is we're seeing so much so fast that we can't digest it all. And you're right.  I don't think that qualifies them to be stated as good people. I'll go with Hillary Clinton, and some of them were out and out deplorable. So, but yet, Donald Trump got, got his words in edgewise. And again, that satisfies the people that are his loyal followers. So there you go. We're running out of time. Winston, where do we go from here? What's, what's in store for us next week, do you think? It's like you said, it's so much. It's like trying to drink from a fire hose. And, you know, of course, as Americans, we support people's rights of free speech, the right to protest. Those folks have been out there with signs saying liberate us. But the reality is, are we a nation of laws? Do we all have to obey the same laws when it says you have to have a mask to enter the store? Do some people not get to wear the mask, because they don't feel like it? I think that these are really fundamental questions that Donald Trump has really unleashed. So we're going to see a lot more of that coming down the week. And a lot more tough news, but we're going to see a lot of inspirational news too. So we've got to look for what's positive as well as the destruction that's going on at the same time. All right, Winston. Thank you. Stephanie, real quick, what's in store for us next week? Real quick. Okay, I think I just want to say, Cynthia, I think it's on the right track and that Donald Trump is ultimately the boss of the NIH as either commander in chief or whatever. And that's where Fauci works. So technically, he can, you know, ask him as boss to do something. But this shows us his lack of any strategy, nuance or much not even tactics.  And other people, I can't say that other people haven't done this sort of thing as a tactic to protect themselves or some issue. But they wouldn't have been as open and blatant about, but I'm going to keep this person from testifying to the... All righty. We're almost out of time. I want to get Cynthia in here one last comment. Cynthia, real quick, what's in store for next week? Well, you know, we have a whistleblower that has come out just recently here at the end of this week. And I think that is a big step and I think we're going to really start to hear more about this whistleblower. I think hopefully we're going to see more of an investigation into the IG that he fired because she spoke out against him and spoke out and said we still don't have enough PPE. We still don't have enough medical supplies, so he fired her. And now he's trying to put in this other pony friend of his to run the national stockpile. So I think those are the things that we're going to start seeing over this next week. All right. Thank you, Cynthia. Yes, thank you to Cynthia for your comments about that. Winston, Stephanie, Cynthia, thank you so much for joining us at Trump Week. Let's come back together again next Wednesday at 11 o'clock for Trump Week. I'm Tim Appatello, your host, Aloha.


And at the same time, people are falling in love all the time, just like my two clients. So what's the antidote to this? Folks, I recommend a tremendous amount of time. Let's talk about those five questions men ask when they're falling in love. So really quickly, I wanna be transparent with you. I saw this title posted by several of my contemporaries and what was interesting is they approached it from the perspective of the five questions they asked themselves when they fall in love. But I thought about what kind of hints, what kind of questions are men asking you when they really like you, when they really are starting to have feelings for you beyond the surface. So I thought we'd dig in from the perspective of what you might be hearing versus what they might be saying inside their head. Now I wanna start this broadcast by saying, I had a great week last week. Last week, I had two clients reach out to me, one who just finished my coaching, my private coaching program about four months earlier. And she told me, gave me the heads up that she's been in a six week relationship and they're inseparable. And she said she knows the difference. She knows the difference. And that's one of the things I like about when I work with a client is when they meet men, they can tell the difference. The men who are actually leaning into love versus those men who are love bombing, those men who are coming on strong only to disappear later. And then my other client who worked with me about seven months ago, well, she texted me to tell me that she got engaged and I was so happy for her. And I'll be candid with you. I don't think she'd mind me sharing this is that she lives in Alaska of all places. And I really thought it was gonna be hard for her to meet someone in Alaska. Although in retrospect, there's probably more men in Alaska than there are women. So ladies, if you wanna go to a target rich environment, you may wanna move to Alaska. Not that I'm recommending that, but I was very excited for her. So it was a really great week. Up until Thursday. So it was a good week, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and then Thursday, I received a call from a prospective client and she shared her story of being really let down in a relationship. And then later that day, I had another one and another one and another one. In fact, in the last three or four days, I've heard so many stories from women who have engaged in a relationship with someone only to have the person turn around. And what I mean by turn around, it was almost to the extent that they were a completely different person. And it really saddens me to think of what's happening today in the dating, mating and relating realm. I've seen a real shift in dating in the last five or six years, partly because of these devices, I think it's bastardized the dating process, the swipe dating process. In fact, there are now so many movies on how the algorithms are designed to keep you swiping, swiping, swiping. So the companies make money. And even the more, we'll say reputable companies, the ones that are the dating sites, not the dating apps, although they all have dating apps associated with them, even the way they operate, they're actually hiding so many people. In other words, hiding your ability to meet people. And it's becoming very distressing that the system is designed to keep everyone in failure mode. Let me repeat that. The system is designed to keep everyone in failure mode. In fact, I don't know if you saw the recent Matrix movie, The Matrix 4, but it said negative emotions now generates more energy than positive emotion. People who are hyper-sensitive, what their emotional state is in a state of anxiety, depression, and flux, to keep people in a flux actually promotes more energy. And it really saddens me. And I do believe that dating triggers our number one emotional health issue that's plagued most everyone else on the inside of suffering in some way, shape, or form, of not feeling good enough, not feeling likable, and not feeling lovable, and imagine this, and it saddens me because I'm seeing a habitual experiences from my women and myself included where you get all excited about someone and then there's a let down and you get excited about someone and there's a let down.  How can this dating process be better? Because the reality is these days we're meeting total strangers. And we're meeting strangers. We really know nothing about them. And if they don't have either a social media footprint or they don't have any friends in their town and they're not connected with their family and there's like five degrees of separation from you and the other person, it makes it very difficult to feel a level of trust. And I don't, I'm not saying this to scare people. I'm saying this to actually wake human beings up, to wake human beings up. It's time to not look at this dating process from a naive perspective. I know many of my contemporaries got married at a young age and these are people who are relatively emotionally mature and they met someone else who was relatively emotionally mature and they started families with them.  And I'm sad to say, I think it requires being way more diligent in the beginning phase.  This is why I've been lately recommending this book. If you haven't read it by Malcolm Gladwell, talking to strangers, what we should know about the people we don't know. You know, and part of why I'm saying this, it's interesting. I've been reading this book by the founder of eHarmony. It's called Two Dates Are Less. Two Dates Are Less by the founder of eHarmony. Why am I bringing this up? Is it talks about the 25 qualities that are most must haves to determine compatibility. And why I'm leaning into this today because I believe ever since the dating apps, ever since really, look, when I was in my 20s and 30s, you know, my friends and I would go out Friday and Saturday night. And the whole thing was you go to bars or dance clubs to pick up chicks. You know, it was like, it's Friday night, let's go pick up chicks. It's Friday night, let's go pick up chicks. And, you know, back then the whole dating process was completely different, although alcohol was involved, so oftentimes you might get lucky. And I'm not professing that's the right way of going about it, but it was a whole different organic feeling. In fact, when I met my ex-wife, not only did she know several of my closest friends, she grew up in the city right next door to me. We had a lot in common. And while it didn't work out and that's okay because we have a couple of beautiful children from the process, although sadly Connor's not here. Oh, sorry, that affected me. For those who don't know, I lost a child a few years ago. So when I shared that, it just totally brought it all right in my consciousness. So let me bring it back to where I was going. You know, when I met my wife, there was a sense of synergy and today we're meeting total strangers. And I think it's incumbent upon us, especially if you didn't see the Netflix series, Tinder Swindler, to really, I think it's time to be more diligent. And this is in particular in the area when we sleep with someone. And while I'm not the biggest fan of the following book I'm gonna recommend, I'm starting to wonder if this makes more sense is the book by Steve Harvey called, act like a lady, think like a man. And again, I'm not suggesting buy this book but he has a philosophy and I'm gonna read it. You know, just the chapter number 11, the 90 day rule and his philosophy is you wait 90 days to have sex. And I really am starting to wonder if that doesn't make more sense to hold off the physicality of a relationship until you've actually established some level of trust. And folks, you know, I talk about this frequently. It takes about a hundred hours of face-to-face time just to build level one of trust. And that might take 10 days. And quite frankly, as we get older we are dealing with a far more dysfunctional population. Just because someone is older doesn't mean their relationship skills are any better than a 20 year old. In fact, I think as we age we become more and more dysfunctional because there's more layers upon layers of dysfunctionality that's happened in our life. And if you're not familiar with my chart called emotional maturity and relationship skills, by the way, really quickly, this is not a fact. This is an opinion. I roughly believe 20% of the population has clinical issues. These are people, I mean, I'm not gonna get into it but these are people that have, listen, I'm not suggesting clinical issues doesn't mean they can't be in a relationship but it makes it challenging to be in a relationship. And by the way, over here, I say 20% is emotionally healthier as good skills. I'm being ridiculously generous because the vast majority of the population is dysfunctional. And look at, I'm starting to believe it's going to be the needle in the haystack and any of my contemporaries that are selling you on this fantasy, it's time folks to wake up to study human behavior. In fact, I did a post the other day on Instagram that said in 1996, it used to be you had me at hello and in 2020, you had me at I do therapy. You know, I'm wondering now, how important is it to ask these really deeper questions? And I talk about this continually about being radically honest but asking deeper questions before you invest time in the wrong person because we've all been indoctrinated in this belief that chemistry equals relationship success and that's the furthest thing from the truth. And if you're not familiar with my chart on relationship iceberg chart, you can see chemistry is where we notice attraction but compatibility is really, do we share the same values? Do we have lifestyles blendable and is this person emotionally mature? And as we feel into these, the waterline of attraction drops and we feel greater attraction. By the way, someone said it's time to laminate these and put it in a professional manner. Folks, if someone's willing to do it for me, I'm happy. You would, you know, to mail it to me as long as it fits in a three by six card that would be great or whatever. This is a half a sheet of paper, three by eight or five by eight, excuse me. So why am I so emphasizing this so much right now before I get into how man demonstrates love? Because listen, I'm your big brother. If I could be there on a first date for you to have the shotgun out pointed at the guy's face and say, what are your intentions with my little sister? And what I mean to say is when we're dating strangers and we know nothing about them, there's no fear on their end to be caught, to really care about your feelings.   And at the same time, people are falling in love all the time, just like my two clients. So what's the antidote to this? Folks, I recommend a tremendous amount of books to help prepare you.  By the way, there's a link below to get all the books I recommend.  And everybody knows my line.  Folks, it's time to set a higher standard. It's time to set boundaries because the worst thing you can do is invest in the wrong person and then find yourself emotionally devastated. And this is what's happening over and over again. And I think it's time to really slow the sexual process down. Whether it's Steve Harvey's 90-day rule or reading this book before you have sex, you wanna weed out the looky-loos because there are a lot of buyers and there are a lot of liars out there, as it's said in sales.  And so what I'm about to share gives you a little insight into where maybe guys might actually be falling in love and be legit. So I wanna share with you the five questions.  There's probably dozens of questions being asked. These are just some that I think will make a difference. By the way, is this content so far making a difference? Give me an amen in the corner. Tell me this, give me a thumbs up right now. Hit a thumbs up here, but let me know that what I just shared for the last 10 minutes is sinking in. Please let me know. Because I'm really talking about dating with a level of intentionality and not this surface level dating that's happened. Believe me, I am guilty of surface level dating. So I mean, I'm speaking from a place of I've done this as well. So let's jump into those five questions you ask. All right, number one. If a man, here's one I thought of. I thought this might be cool. For the guys who are more evolved, they might ask you what your love language is. What your love language is. If you're not familiar with the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. If a man asks you what your love language is, that's a really good sign. Now I can't guarantee that that's gonna lead to him falling in love with you, but I do believe that someone who's read some of these books and asks you that question, by the way, most people today are aware of this book. This is a popular book for men and women alike. So I think that's a good sign that he wants to, he wants to lean into exploring something deeper than the surface. That's what all of these are. These are just questions that are designed to wanna go beyond the surface. So number one, what's your love language? Number two, I think this is a really good question. Oh, by the way, coming back to the love language, I said, even if he doesn't know the book, a man will wanna know how you wanna be in love, how you want to be loved. So just let me say this, he might not know the book, but he might ask you how do you wanna be loved if he's not aware of the book? All right, number two, where do you see yourself in five years? Now this is a question a lot of women ask men, but I think a man who genuinely is falling for you wants to get a sense of where you see your future. Now, keep in mind, for the 20 year olds and 30 year olds, they're asking completely different questions. And that's actually a question that 20 or 30 year old might ask. But certainly for those of us in our 40s, 50s and 60s, that gives you an indication that he's trying to get a sense of where you see yourself in your life so he can go, can I fit into her life? Can she fit into my life? I mean, that's a question where that's, by the way, men who are genuinely serious about a relationship are gonna be asking you those questions, design, how does she fit into my life? How do I fit into her life? And I think that's a great question to ask as well. All right, so next, number three, I thought this was a cute one. What's something you can't stand in life? What's something you can't stand in life? He's trying to get a sense of your deeper personality. I think this is an interesting question because this really goes beyond the surface of how's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. Most people, they're hyper focused on how your day is going and not asking the deeper questions about your personality. By the way, one of the things in the book, Eight Dates, it talks about the importance of discussing, hold on, let me show you this, conflict resolution skills, sex and intimacy, money, family and growth, adventure and play, these are deeper questions that people that ask these deeper questions, someone wrote five years from now, I hope I'm alive and healthy, I love that one. But asking these deeper questions gives you a sense that they want to know more about you than the surface. And number four, and I actually got this from a younger gentleman, he was in his mid 30s and one of his primary criteria centered around financial status. So the question is what's your financial history or status because money plays a big role in the survival today. Folks, 80% of Americans make less than $100,000 a year in the significant population of the midlife or divorce. So there's alimony, child support, visitation rights, raising children and money is a big component of this. So I was speaking of this 30 year old man, one of his main criteria, his non-negotiable was, I don't wanna date someone who's in debt. And that was because he was in relationship with several women who had major continual money problems. So I think a man who asks you about money is actually not, listen, I know they could be trying to scan you. I'm talking about a more evolved relationship than a first, second or third date. But I think it's important to understand that's a critical question to determine compatibility with one another. And number five, and again, there's dozens of questions a man might ask. These are just five that I shared. I love this question because it's something near and dear to my heart. Because the question is, what's your greatest passion and what brings you joy? What is your greatest passion and what brings you joy? I think that's a question of the man, listen, a man who's only in it for the short run, he's not gonna ask most of these questions, but when a man asks what's your greatest passion, what's your joy, that's someone who really wants to get to know you beyond the surface.  I mean, can we agree it's a mess out there dating and it is not gonna get any better. This whole, by the way, part of it is because the world is in chaos right now. There is so much emotional chaos going right now just to actually find two people that are compatible with one another is becoming progressively harder. So look at, we can bury our heads in the sand or we can give up on love. We can give up on finding a life mate. I refuse to give up on a life mate. I lean into that desire that we feel that chemical attraction for one another, that desire that we feel that level of banter and communication that can go on for hours and hours of the time. I have that desire where we can blend our lives together. I have that desire where we share the same values with one another and we have the emotional skills and relationship skills to lean into deeper love, especially when there's conflicts and challenges and relationship and last and most importantly that we can develop those roots of trust and we do those things like shared values or excuse me, social activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, intimacy, both physical and emotional, intimacy together and that we speak each other's love language and those roots build trust because trust is not just simply, trust is not just simply, I trust that you won't cheat on me, trust is I can trust that my feelings matter to you as much as your feelings matter to my, my feelings matter to you as much as they matter to me and vice versa.  Can I get an amen? Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.  But at the same time, when reading all these books and doing the personal development work I invite you all to do is actually becomes a magnetic attractor for what you desire. And just like those two clients that called me last week I want you to experience that. And by the way, if you want some support and help check out the link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. We're gonna wrap up this video. The five questions men ask when they fall in love with you really quickly they are, what is your love language? Where do you see yourself in five years? What's something you can't stand in life? What's your financial history or status and what's your greatest passion or what brings you joy? I hope you found value in this. If you did, please share this with your friends. Please, please check out my book, What the Heck Is Self Love? Anyway, check out the discovery call with me. Please like this video from the bottom of my heart. I hope you found value. If I'm making a difference in your life please say Jonathan, you're making a difference before this episode runs out. I'd love to hear that it's, this is making a difference in your life. All right, I'm gonna sign up as I always do.  I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pat, a teddy bear pillow and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it, we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye everyone. Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.