When the narcissist knows the jig is up when they know that their scheme or deception has been revealed When they know that their dishonest plan or activity has been discovered When they know you know The narcissist already knows there's something wrong with them They know they're narcissistic. They know they're very insecure They're not delusional They're not completely out of touch with reality They can see that something is wrong with their behavior But sometimes they cannot control themselves Because they are very entitled and they use it to relieve their anxiety and stress But as time goes by Their behavior starts to cause more serious problems. It starts to have an even greater effect on you It causes greater loss and damage That is difficult for anyone to ignore or turn away from Where it's difficult for them to justify or explain it So in the back of their minds, they already know that what they're doing is not a good thing They already know it's not right But they can't stop themselves. They need to relieve their tension They need to have something to complain about They need to have their temper tantrums, but they don't want anyone to speak on it or confront them They want you to pretend like nothing is wrong, but there is a point where they start to see That you understand what's going on They know the jig is up They know you figure them out Because now you're not taking the bait You're not reacting to something they've said or done as they expected you to You're not falling for the gaslighting You're trusting your own memory and perception more You're not trying to explain or defend yourself And you're not putting yourself down Which will make them even more mad Because now they know that you can see their insecurity They know that you've figured out their game But they need you to take the bait They need you to be mentally unbalanced They need to deprive you of your stability and throw you into disorder They need to disrupt your normal physical and mental functions So that they can say that you're very angry or upset about something and then they can feel better about themselves So when they know you know They will get even worse They will become even more unwilling to share things They will become even more unkind, spiteful and unfair They will go after things that are triggers for you They will have a problem with your job They will make fun of things that you are passionate about You may not have believed it was possible But they will find ways to stoop to new lows They will find ways to be even more harmful and unpleasant, but you just have to stand your ground Do not retreat or lose your advantage in the face of opposition And then you will see that they begin to lose confidence and feel dispirited But before you get to this point there will be a lot of abuse There will be a lot of anger and rage Because they know that you're on to them. They know that you're aware of their behaviors and attentions They may be a narcissist But even they know when they have gone too far They know when they have exceeded reasonable limits They know when they have taken a step or act that is regarded as being too drastic to take They know when they have pushed someone to the edge To the point where you have so many problems and difficulties that you can no longer cope with them They push you and then you collapse You give up You descend into a downward spiral But while they may have some concern over what you think of them They're more worried if it's someone they admire or look up to That will really activate their shame Or even if it's just someone at their work They don't like to feel as though they're being managed or controlled by someone It makes them feel inadequate Because at some level They already know they're mentally unbalanced They already know they need help Especially when you start to distance yourself from them They may try to show you that they can remain calm and composed They may try to avoid an overly emotional reaction Or they may insult you They may become passive aggressive But all they really care about is control They want to control how people see them They want to control the image of the relationship They want to control their narcissistic supply So when you start to figure them out They want to control you even more Because they see you as a threat to their control Which will make them rage even more It will make them destabilize in an attempt to regain their control When the narcissist knows the jig is up When they know that you've figured them out You can't even exist around them You can't be yourself Because your mere presence activates their shame It makes them feel like something is wrong with them It makes them feel inadequate So they will try to destroy you Or they will discard you There's no way for you to figure them out Without them being aware of it They will know that you know They will notice that you've changed And then they will act like there's something wrong with you Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you were like the Nate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching Inquiries You can email me at coaching.naqsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon


Okay, we're back live here in San Francisco, California. This is Oracle Open World 2012. Exclusive coverage on SiliconAngle.com. The Cube, this is our flagship program. We go out to the events, they extract the signal from the noise and it's exciting here. It's shut down the whole streets of San Francisco. 50,000 people. I'm John Furrier, the founder of SiliconAngle.com and I'm joined by my co-host. I'm Dave Vellante at Wikibon.org and we're here with Jay Kidd, who's a senior vice president at NetApp, a company that he helped rename from Network Appliance, which our previous guest, Vu-Win, referred to NetApp as Network Appliance. Old habits die hard, but the new name's sticking and it flows off the tongue, so welcome to theCUBE, Jay. Thanks, Dave, we're really going to be here. Good to see you and it was good. We were trying to get Vu-Win to talk about NetApp a little bit more detailed, but of course they can't do that at NASA JPL. So you can tell us how great NetApp is. So we're here at Oracle Open World. It's kind of an interesting event. We were at VMworld last month and different vibe, very open, everybody's friendly. It's all about the ecosystem here. It's about the ecosystem, but it's a lot more competitive. But interestingly, NetApp doesn't seem to be in the line of fire directly anyway of Oracle, which I guess is a good thing. Tom Georgian says that Oracle just likes us less than others, like this is how we put it. But still, I don't know if you can say it, but I can say it, Oracle's definitely a customer of NetApp and has been for a long, long time. And even though it's probably migrating to more sun storage, but so here we are. And what do you think of Open World and what's NetApp doing here?  And I see Oracle is really becoming the middleware, the application, the database. Oracle is such an enormous company with such a tremendous impact on the industry. It covers such a wide range of things, but it's nice to be out of the line of fire for Oracle every now and then. But we even have been doing some things with their 12C announcement. We did some work with them for the integration of 12C with our cloning technology to let you actually clone the component databases, those pluggable databases that plug into the master. So we still got a great relationship, a great partnership with Oracle. And it fits maybe into the multi-tenant aspect of 12C as well, right? Or just simplicity of upgrade of development if you want to clone a test dev copy of one of the component databases. The key thing is we still work really well with Oracle and they like working with us. Jay, last year at Oracle Open World, we had a chance to get some candid footage of Tom Georgins with Moneyball. You know, the author writing, signing the books. Obviously big data last year was a lot of hype. Now it's becoming more mainstream. Can you just talk about the perspective of what's happened with the NetApp and your view of the industry just one year later around big data. Obviously the database thing you're mentioning is a big part of that, the in-memory and the advancement. So what's changed with big data over the past year? I know you guys have been looking at it before that. You've seen some changes in your customer environments in terms of preferred storage solutions. That's non-sequel and so on. So what's the change in one year? Yeah, so a couple of things are going on with big data. Well, first it's now ascended to the most misunderstood term by our customers, replacing cloud. Partly because cloud's got a little better understood and partly because big data's on the rise. More people are engaging in it trying to figure out what it means. We work a lot with big data of different types. The thing we found most people really need is they need infrastructure which can respond easily and with a high degree of agility to the inflow of data that they may be getting. It could be transactional data or it could be interactional data but they need to be able to capture it and figure out how to make use of it. So we were talking with Billy Bosworth, the CEO of Datastax and he says, the DBA is not going to go away, it's going to change to data management expertise. Not so much administrating, more of a management, more of a broader portfolio. Analytics and automation are two of the hottest trends that we're tracking in the data infrastructure space. You guys talk about it as agile data infrastructure. Can you talk about that? One, the roles within the infrastructure in terms of your customer base and then two, analytics and automation and those two trends in particular. You're seeing a lot of, I've even ads in the papers and online now, the papers, dating myself. But for data architects and sort of data engineers, people who can figure out how to look at a stream of data and figure out how to structure so you can derive information from it. That's a theme that I think it's creating some new types of roles. It's more than just administering a database, it's understanding how to derive value from chaos. The infrastructure side of it though is all about how do you build scale? How do you build infrastructure which is always on? Because these big analytics applications, they need infrastructure which can come and go as it's needed for the different jobs, but as a whole, as a pool of infrastructure, you can't ever really take it down. Analytics are becoming too important part of the interaction with the customer to do that. You guys had a marketing positioning in a company view a couple years ago, data efficiency or efficiency storage, efficiency's always been kind of a big buzzword as the environments are kind of consolidating and then expanding again under these new architectures. Efficiency still is a big part of the equation, right? So you can talk about some of the new challenges around dealing with efficiencies when one, big data's the most misunderstood term on the planet, and two, there's real cost advantages and performance improvements around, say, flash and these new architectures. Yeah, so efficiency and flash go hand in hand with each other. Efficiency just in the amount of data that's streaming into companies or organizations or governments anywhere today, they have to figure out how to capture it and how to save it as cost effectively as possible. Everybody knows budgets aren't going up at all, much less at the pace of data acquisition. So efficiency is actually critical. A lot of the analytics tools out there require you to store multiple copies, three, four, five copies of data in order to protect it. There's much more efficient ways to do that. So that creates an opportunity for delivering analytics at a lower cost point. Flash is changing everything in enterprise storage. It's still too expensive now to be all of the storage for an application, but it's reached the point now where a little flash integrated with a lot of, say, the disk creates a really powerful combination. So Dave and I always talk about NetApp and living in Silicon Valley. It's fun to watch NetApp as a startup emerging to be this massive powerhouse. And now you guys are the, I call the large, independent kind of storage vendor. Everyone else, like EMC, they have all kinds of broad portfolios. You guys are so resilient. You always seem to reinvent and move at the pace of the business. Can you comment on one, NetApp as a company right now in terms of the health and internal feeling in the culture? And then two, the direction you guys are going to take with respect to some of these new changing plans because storage, it's an interesting spot that you're in with Flash and with the growth of cloud and mobile. Yeah, one of the things that sets NetApp apart, and I've been there now about seven years. My history with NetApp goes back even before that. The culture of the company is a major competitive weapon. From the outset of the first orientation to the behavior of the executives to our history, we tell our people that their job is to take initiative, figure out what needs to be done, figure out how to make their job better and how to make the success of the people they work with happen faster. But above all things, we're committed to the success of the customers. So we listen to the customers, we understand what they need, hard to figure out how we can deliver for our customers what they need. That will allow us, it allows us to weather storms, to weather technology transitions. We pioneered unified storage 10 or 11 years ago now and that became very popular. We really drove sand into a company that was religiously on the NAS bandwagon. And now sand versus NAS is sort of yesterday's argument. It's all just part of network storage. Storage efficiency, integration with VMware and Microsoft and the whole virtualization trend. And now our scale out architecture with Clustered On Tap, we've been able to continue the pace of innovation and that really comes as much from the culture of the company as it does from anything else. So NetApp celebrated its 20th anniversary this summer and now you haven't been there 20 years since you've been there seven, but you know well the history of the big bets that you've made. And I wonder if you could maybe double click on the last point you made about clustering. So you guys bet big on the internet, the dot com that worked and then it blew up. Then you bet on the enterprise. You had to make that transition and your founder, Dave Hitz, co-founder, loves to talk about that. And then you bet big on VMware. That paid off. You were able to, you know, buy our data and Wikibon, we've studied this intensely, keep pace with EMC who owns VMware. You guys would argue that you actually integrate better with VMware than anybody else. Yeah, well you've got a strong argument. And now you're making a big bet on clustering. Talk about that and scale out. Talk about that, why that's so important and why you'll succeed. Well it comes back to what we were talking about before with the pace of data acquisition and data creation in companies now is so high that they can't afford to throw it away. So they have to figure out how to manage it. On top of that, they're consolidating infrastructure at a rapid pace. So VMware allowed people to consolidate servers at a 10 or 15 to one rate which consolidated data centers in turn which drove to a higher consolidation of storage. The net effect is most of our customers now have a smaller number of much larger points of IT and therefore those larger points of IT have to serve a much larger base of applications. They have to always be on, they have to be able to scale inexpensively to start small and grow to infinity and they also have to bring a lot of intelligence to deliver the efficiency and the range of workloads and applications the net has always been known for. So one of the things that we always talk about on theCUBE and at SiliconANGLE is this role of the operating system. We talked about the internet operating system, storage operating systems, data center operating systems and we're seeing a trend where storage has become such a pivotal role in these converged infrastructures or data infrastructures or software infrastructures, software defined networking or whatever that the role of data where storage was involved is becoming the epicenter of the heart of this new OS not just storage OS but the data about data is really critical and that's going to affect network virtualization and other kind of cool new emerging areas. So the question I have for you is this is going to impact a lot of traditional markets that you guys played in, obviously in verticals like healthcare, finance, other big verticals and then also the data warehousing and business intelligent markets which are we're slow moving markets the pressure of real time and this convergence with storage at the center of the operating system you look at VMworlds they're all like operating systems pool, abstract compute. So I want to get your perspective and netapp's perspective on this trend data warehouses is business intelligence it has a long tail we talked to some folks earlier it's always going to be around it's not going to be going away soon but yet it's under massive disruption how does netapp and the storage business get in there and move data warehouses intelligence to the new environment faster a modern infrastructure if you will. Yeah, there's a couple of these trends that are going on in data warehousing and analytics the world seems to be dividing a bit into the long running deeply complex looking over big trends of time analytics to do more sort of background analytics and the real time gutter decide how much can I get what kind of decision can I make in 40 milliseconds to be able to respond to the user and those two types of applications are different now over time we think they will start to converge but there'll be more detailed analysis you want to do that takes longer and there'll be things you want to do faster with more data so Moore's law will allow more technology to be applied to both of those application types the key role that storage has to play is it has to make the data available inexpensively sort of a capacity tier for those long running analytics and then available instantly in an IOPS tier for those rapidly running analytics that analytics would be like throw it over there work on it and then real time is it's mobile or and you want so you'll never be able to afford to have all your data in the real time storage infrastructure because you'll always want to have more data than you can afford to put there but flash is creating infrastructure to allow much more rapid response so architectures which integrate flash with hard drives allow you to manage the data the most effectively to put the cooler data where you don't need it the hot data where you do bring that back to NetApp for the folks that might not be inside the ropes of the NetApp how does that relate to the current offering so NetApp is we've been working with flash integrated with our FAS our fabric attached storage controllers for about three or four years now we have SSDs you can incorporate in for to accelerate the performance of drives we have flash and PCI cards in the controller to speed up read performance we also have software that runs on the host to use flash that exists on the host to accelerate reads even faster for the applications that are running in the application hosts so now you've also made some partnership announcements you've made some big announcements of your own so you're building that flash stack out pretty substantially can you talk about where you see that going so in the long run we see flash existing as close as possible the applications but because it will always be more expensive per gigabyte or terabyte than hard disk you're going to want to optimize the use of it extensively so we believe the right model is you want flash close to the application on the memory bus of the servers or close to the network but it's cash and it is dynamically loaded and managed from the backing store of hard drives which have all the data in a way that gives the performance you need at a much more economic point the last thing somebody wants to do is spend money on flash to hold data you're not accessing cold flash is a sin cold flash like cold dead fish I've made the point a number of times with somebody's marketing I've made the point a number of times that the function has moved out of the host into the sand and now sort of moving back ONTAP has been the point of management but that a lot of that function that data management epicenter and made a lot of sense how does that flesh out with flash can slower storage manage faster server close to the server flash or does something have to change there and so what does that mean for you guys yeah the key thing is with flash close to the applications it's easy for a backing store like a capacity tier like an ONTAP system to easily load a large amount of data at a time faster than the applications that are consuming it are going to read because the applications are going to read randomly so you just want enough of a working set in memory in the application host feeding that from the storage system just a way to make that work well when you had a tiny bit of flash in the host it was too hard for the storage to fill it quick enough in response to the application you could put a terabyte of flash in a host that's a pretty big working set but most applications will work fine with a terabyte or four terabytes or six terabytes of flash so then it just becomes how do you protect it the last thing anybody wants to do is have to back up a thousand individual servers or five thousand individual VMs in each having their own discrete process you want everything up at the server side to be stateless so you can turn it on or off if it breaks down you can run the apps on a different server and all the data managed in a central way that's really what ONTAP is driving Jay, talk about Larry Ellison we love Larry he's been, he's a statesman, industry legend he's a tech athlete as we say and he's one of the old guys still punching Joe Tucci out there on the east coast and Scott McNeely is pretty much retired he's doing some side deals and son's playing golf I read about that on Facebook all the time but Larry's up there he's punching, he's a showman what do you think of his Exadata presentation I mean that was pretty aggressive I mean he slams EMC so we'll see how Joe Tucci responds so you see that out there what's your comments on his mojo and maybe he's oversimplifying it but what's your opinion on his presentation so Larry's reputation in the industry and he has done a phenomenal number of things in the industry Oracle's a company of tremendous power and influence there's been no secret that Larry wanted to own his own data center agenda, infrastructure be able to write the script for a company for their entire data center infrastructure the whole sun acquisition and the Exadata play gives him a box with which to do that where we disagree and most of the customers I talk to is I ask them what they think of Oracle's full end-to-end system agenda and they say well if my applications are Oracle I'll look at Oracle hardware if they're not I won't so I think that it'd be difficult for Oracle to own the whole data center with the agenda they have but then you see the other things that Larry doesn't talk about quite as much of Oracle partnering with people and doing the right thing for customers across a much wider range of workloads than Exit serves but it's entertainment and it's interesting I mean we've commented earlier this morning that he wants to be the Steve Jobs of the enterprise, Apple of the enterprise and you know Apple doesn't own my home I have cable TV so they don't own my home so I don't think enterprise is who I mean I don't think anyone's ever been successful as the one-stop shop going back to maybe IBM back in the 40s, 50s so it's a multi-vendor world exactly so maybe in a silo Larry's got a baked out solution but the reality is CIOs have to deal with legacy and multi-vendor so given that how does a CIO and their team of developers look to the future given the noise of what's going on around them well I think there's certain trends which are secular across old and new, big and small the virtualization of servers is widespread the consolidation of storage and we believe ultimately the scale-out of storage will become widespread as well the evolution of networks to be software-defined networks I think it's a widespread trend as well what CIOs need to look for is trends which are adopted and embraced by more than a single vendor in the industry as you know a single vendor is a rogue story three or four vendors leading a trend is going to create enough choices for a CIO to make but still push the technology forward this industry has not succeeded on the innovations of a single vendor on the way we believe and we've been commenting that we believe that there'll be a data center operating system a lot of multi-vendors, a lot of subsystems a lot of coordination, automation I think your data infrastructure is a cool positioning so that being said the future seems to be in the software-defined networking because that's like the last bottleneck of convergence it's like the last stop we've got servers are done storage is looking really good off the tee right now now you go back to networking Cisco, Juniper, and now VMware has Nacera So, yeah, NetApp I mean you got to look at that and say hey we know software we know a little bit about hardware and moving data around what's your take on one software-defined networking software-defined software virtualization or network virtualization and how does that affect you guys? So we're a participant in the data center but we're really not caught up in the evolution of architectures in networking we work in layer two networks layer three networks and we can be found in the network and where the data resides I've had a few people asking about software-defined storage and I point out that, you know That's you Yeah, we already do that Well, we already do that but the one thing in the data center that actually still does work when you turn off all the power is the storage it holds the data when you turn it back on it's still there so that has mass it has gravity it's the Higgs boson of the data center architecture, right? So it doesn't float around quite as readily as you'll see in some of the other architectures so NetApp is focused on storage and data management we play well with the networking vendors we play well with the application vendors great relationship with Cisco with VMware, with Microsoft we're happy with our position in the market I think we can grow from there So, but since I've been in this business I've been told that hardware's going to be commoditized and here And we've been in the business a long time I've been in this a long time you can tell my mic right here having said that with the consumerization of IT all this software led networking software defined storage you know, Hadoop you're getting to the point where there's a major push from companies like Oracle and VMware maybe even to commoditize hardware even further at the same time you see gross margins, you know, aren't they're pretty steady you're maybe not inside of Oracle for the hardware side but they'll creep back up what's your take on that, Jay? I mean, custom A6, not custom A6 you see it in both places is it more the same is there legs to that commoditization of hardware and what does that mean to NetApp? You know, you hear about commoditization of hardware a lot you almost never hear about commoditization of software Well, open source commoditizes software, right? Not really, there's a lot of innovation and open source and it may lower the cost of deployment that's not equal to commoditization Commoditization is the sort of the absence of innovation and I think software's got a long way to go NetApp is first and foremost a software company that we apply our software to the most cost effective hardware we can get and we do amazing things with efficiency of storing data so I think commoditization is a trend for disk drives and for some semiconductor parts but I wouldn't really say it's a trend in the storage industry or the network industry or the application industry And the enterprise in general I think lower cost will always be a trend That's table stakes though, isn't it? That's table stakes, absolutely agree with you Commoditization implies a lack of innovation I don't think that's the table that people want to play at You were talking about earlier about IT budgets and the discourse in the industry for the last 10 years really since Nick Carr wrote this IT matter has been do more with less IT cannot bring sustainable competitive advantage with the big data discussion there seems to be a change in that sentiment you're seeing real examples in use cases of analytics and big data applications actually having a fundamental change in the productivity of organizations Do you see in our lifetimes when CEOs start to say okay we have to invest more in IT as a percentage of revenues have we cut to the muscle and will we bounce off the bottom in your view? You know I think CEOs will look at that and say I get a tremendous amount of value from a few innovative things done in IT and how much did they cost? That's all? That's not where most of the cost is 80% of the cost in IT is in keeping the lights on and legacy applications and I don't think that these innovations that are a great competitive advantage are going to be an ever be legacy they'll always be innovating which is it comes back to sort of where we started of the whole agility of infrastructure and the agility of data people need infrastructure that can respond quickly that can change quickly and that they need architectures that can change quickly to allow them to take advantage of and create competitive advantage based on the data that's flowing in that's never going to cost that much to do to create that innovation if you're intelligent and efficient around what you do with the infrastructure you have So follow up on that is to your point the biggest cost you said is the legacy infrastructure it's the labor to keep those lights on I mean it's probably two thirds of the cost of what we spend spending not revenue but spending is in labor do we have to solve that problem before that vision just laid out can occur and what are we doing to solve that problem? You know I think you look at the labor cost in IT and it has gone down as a percentage actually it's going up as a percentage of it because the cost of the hardware has come down but the amount of productivity and how much work each individual does it's still gone way up I think if you have a static static environment where nothing is changing you can worry about lowering the cost of labor so if a company isn't growing at all do you worry about lowering the cost of labor? As long as things are changing you're taking advantage of new infrastructure what's happening is the labor is shifting it's shifting from people who just run hardware and keep hardware running to those innovators who work on new applications that run on the big data analytics and on Hadoop jobs and things you shift the labor to there so it's a skill shift in labor rather than an absolute reduction labor What does that mean in your view to a storage admin and a DBA about 2,000 how does that change their role? You used to look at the very distinct roles that the server admin, the DBA, the storage admin the network admin and now we see a lot of organizations that have shifted to managing a vertical stack you want to provision an application with a golden image of an Oracle database loaded in a VM deployed with storage with backup protection that's all done by one team and the expertise across the domains spans across everyone on the team that kind of rapid provisioning of an entire infrastructure stack that's something that we've worked on with FlexPod and our technology at NetApp but bringing people together to do that as a team is what's going to change the way that the labor force in IT looks in the future So Jay, how are you spending your time these days when we first met you were running marketing at NetApp you went through the major brand transformation which has been very successful the Storage 5000 was sort of under your watch there another really successful initiative that you guys propelled and then you went into the product roles what do you do in these days? So my passion has always been the technology and how NetApp can bring innovation that matters to our customers so I've been spending more and more time on that looking at what we do with our management products our clustered on tap and the scale out architectures and I'm just looking, I spend more of my time on what we're doing on what's our overall innovation agenda and I'll be digging in even deeper to that in the future on the product side or field side or more on the product side what we build, the products we build first and foremost we're a product company with a great go-to-market team but the innovation in our products is really the soul of the long-term growth in NetApp on that, we love products we love product conversations so I have to ask the big data question because we had the data stacks guy and we've always talked to Cloudair, Hortonworks so the Apache, you obviously open source is great scale out open source, rah rah, it's doing great however the reality of servicing scale is a challenge operationally in all the efficiency things so what's your plans for Hadoop or NoSQL or is it Mongo? We have Mongo guys coming on too later today obviously there's interest in having a schema lighter a somewhat non-complicated schema store for batching or real time and that has to, it's going to be part of the portfolio at some point, not replacing anything yeah you may lose some business here in there but for the most part it's going to be a new element how do you look at that product-wise and what's NetApp doing? So we often look at, and I think what you're asking about is do we need to get into the database business in some way and have that as a piece of our offering like EMC did with Green Plum and our belief is we don't much I don't think so we can serve interest there's a lot of database players out there I just partnered with a few of them I think you'd be good on that front that's what we're doing we're partnering with Oracle, with Microsoft, with Mongo with Hadoop, with Hortonworks we believe we have just outstanding technology for storing data and managing the data that it's stored that doesn't mean we have to get into the database business or move us back open source is great it incubates the market and Lena Oracle is great at doing what big companies do is they see it across the chasm they put their blanket over it we now have that too so you guys bring a lot of industrial strength products to the market management mentioned other things so with that, what about the big data I call it the mushroom patch a lot of mushrooms are growing and some of them will be ripe, some will die so you've got to look at that so what are you looking for in particular for breakout products and tech from that area? so in the big data side we developed solutions to work in the Hadoop world we're looking at what we can do inside Hadoop I'm not going to say too much about it here in math what we can do in that open source world to allow Hadoop infrastructures to run more efficiently and with a closer and more cooperative linkage to the backing store that may be in the archive of data that may not be residing on the Hadoop grid at that moment there's a lot that can be done with scale-out architecture in that area so we can look around we talked to Val many times in the queue going back to some math studies a couple years ago so we know it's on your radar I just want to get your perspective and share that so I'm reminded John of the interview we did with Jeff Hammabocker one of the founders of Cloudera he was talking about when he was at Facebook one of his missions was to break the shackles of the container you know now in a way you guys you're into the container business right now having broken the shackles of the container business you know let's call it Hadoop the problem is it's not robust enough for the enterprise so does that you know exploded container sort of change shape and become more robust or do we go to a more containerized traditional storage world in the Hadoop if that makes sense it's a good question and one of the tensions in storage has always been between agility and flexibility of the data you need to work on versus protection of that data and protecting things tends to still be of there's a container mentality to protecting things either a volume or a tape or something I can go and recover from the architecture that protection is done by just making multiple copies through the infrastructure it's sort of the equivalent of backing up your personal data by emailing all your files to your friends it works but when you get something back it's pretty unpredictable how soon you're going to get it back and the same thing exists in the Hadoop infrastructure so enterprises they want great analytics but they want predictable performance particularly for these real-time type of analytics so you got to figure out how to make the infrastructure predictable yet still protect the data within it and that may be two separate problems that needs two different architectures Jay Kidd with NetApp Senior Vice President Agile infrastructure, data infrastructure Agile programming, if you don't understand what that is Agile infrastructure is kind of the same concept we didn't have a chance to talk about applications and data is kind of where apps kind of come together whole another conversation opportunity thanks for coming on theCUBE, appreciate it we'll be right back with our next guest after this short break


With the greater momentum reflected upwards, we can grasp the reflected stomach, spleen and pancreas body and tail and also the liver, pancreas head and duodenum. These organs can be grasped on block. The transverse colon and its mesocolon and then the ascending colon, cecum and small intestine can all be grasped on mass. The descending colon as well can be grasped. You can see the left and right kidneys wrapped by renal fascia. With six hands, we can move the three separate organ groups. The celiac trunk and the superior mesoteric artery are axial structures for the two digestive fascial systems. The kidney is connected via the renal artery to the aorta. The three fascial systems in the abdomen have been demonstrated. This renal fascia is situated between the peritoneum and the muscle fascia on the internal surface of the abdominal wall. The renal fascia envelopes not only the kidney, but also the abdominal aorta, inferior vena cava and renal vessels. From the abdominal aorta, the testicular artery descends anteriorly and from the kidney, the ureter descends in front of the iliac artery. From the internal iliac artery, several branches to the pelvic organs originate. Accordingly, the common renal fascia at the level of the kidney separates into three fasciae within the pelvis. In the lower abdomen, the renal fascia is in three layers. In this transverse section diagram, the ureter, ductus deferens, arteries and autonomic nerves are shown in their respective layers. Three fascial layers surrounding these structures are formed. The orange-colored fascia between the ductus deferens and the testicular artery will be dissected first. We will trace the left renal fascia to the testis and ductus deferens. First, we identify the testicular vessels and then ascend. We grasp the left kidney within the renal fascia and dissect the testicular vessels medial to the kidney and trace downward until we reach the deep inguino ring. Close to this ring, we find the thin ductus deferens. We can note a fascial layer between the testicular vessels and the ductus deferens. Holding the inferior epigastric vessels, we shift the spermatic cord which winds around this vessel group. After this procedure, we can hold the testicular vessels and ductus deferens and identify the membranous fascia between the vessels and spermatic cord. This fascia is provisionally called the testicular deferential fascia. In appearance, this fascia is attached to the peritoneum. However, these two membranes are separable. Now we will return to the pelvic part of the renal fascia. Behind the ureter, the common iliac artery continues to the internal iliac artery which gives off visceral branches. We will dissect the fascia of the ureter and that adjacent to the internal iliac artery. Now we will examine the vesicle hypogastric fascia of the right side from the lateral approach. The external iliac artery is shifted laterally and the ureter is also shifted in order to view the internal iliac artery. The umbilical artery originates from the internal iliac artery at high level, proceeds anteriorly and runs along the bladder within the upper border of the vesicle hypogastric fascia. This important fascia encompasses the pelvic organs and reaches the side of the prostate and rectum. It also includes numerous visceral vessels. Internal to the vesicle hypogastric fascia, there is another fascia which includes the ureter and the pelvic plexus. Provisionally, we have termed this as the fascia for the ureter and hypogastric nerves or the uretero-hypogastric fascia. Internal to the vesicle hypogastric fascia, we find the ureter which is within a different fascia. These two fascia layers are easily separable. Now we will trace the fascia of the ureter upward. As we again descend, we note that this fascia also includes hypogastric nerves. We will return to examine these hypogastric nerves later. Now we will study the three fascial strata of the pelvis using the halves of the viscera which were removed from the pelvic wall. Of particular note, the fascia comprising the ureter also contains autonomic nerves. We will now examine the left side. Holding the renal fascia, we descend along the testicular vessels to the spermatic cord. Examining the testicular deferential fascia, we ascend along the ductus deferens and finally reach the prostate. If we shift this fascia layer, we note that the ampula of the ductus deferens and the seminal vesicle are within this fascia. By reflecting the testicular vessels medially, we can dissect laterally and posteriorward. Although there is some adhesion, we can remove the ureter and its fascia from the testicular deferential fascia. Now, looking at the median area, you can see whitish thread-like structures running inside the testicular deferential fascia. After removal of the testicular deferential fascia, these white thread-like structures can be identified as the superior hypogastric plexus and hypogastric nerves along the aorta. These nerves are included within the fascia of the ureter, thus we provisionally call this fascia the uretero-hypogastric fascia. Lateral most, we find the internal iliac artery, the umbilical ligament, and then the vesicle-hypogastric fascia. The three distinct parallel layers of the renal fascia can be seen. Finally, we will open the testicular deferential fascia and follow the ductus deferens to the ampula and the seminal vesicle. As they are within the same fascia, we can easily separate the ampula of the ductus deferens and the seminal vesicle. Now, we cut and remove the seminal vesicle. Behind the seminal vesicle, the uretero-hypogastric fascia can be seen. The whitish, sheet-like structure is the lower end of the hypogastric nerve. It continues to the pelvic plexus. The pelvic plexus is situated close to the seminal vesicle and the recto-vesicle septum. The visceral fasciae within the pelvis have been demonstrated, with special reference to their continuation with the intra-abdominal fascia.


I don't need any of that.  I don't understand why it's not healthy I said you I said imagine your girl. She has fallopian tubes, right? And she she leaves she drops an egg each side every month every month they alternate that egg is the yolk of Your that of your egg. Why can't I scramble period blood then? You can do whatever you want. Oh, you can't You can scramble the lining of try it. I bet you could I bet you if you put some butter on the pan and Take a take a tampon squeeze the blood out of it. I bet you could probably scramble that up I'm just saying in general I would like to see if you can really scramble the eggs because I don't believe that a egg is a Chicken's period is the same thing.   You can crack like take the white shell. We're not in a shell though Like it's different, you know, you got it. You got to think a little bit.  No because we carry them in our stomach. This is our egg Yeah, this is the shell right here boom You want to see my C-section scar? I see one every day No But this is our shell right here. That's essentially what it is. I mean, it's cool. You can keep eating them, but You know my eggs my guy. He just told me that eggs are this is dr. Sevies grandson.  I don't like that.   No no other species eats drinks milk from another Mammal besides us who else does that? No, listen breast milk is so good ain't it?  I love it What's it? What's it tastes like it's like kind of sweet.   Let me drink this pineapple juice No, it doesn't I like on my wife drinks a lot of liquor cuz you know when she drinks liquor She's still got a pump cuz you're not gonna get it.   What's the difference?  I can't do ice cream.   Does take a while to go in As soon as the baby or even your man comes near your breast when you're um when you're breastfeeding when you Your breast naturally react and we'll start to like squirt Like anytime I if my son wasn't even sucking if I just held him by my titty It would just start leaking because it can sense him there Wow, it's like it's like tells the body like it's time to feed whenever you you can feel that energy And I think it gives you a different connection with your with your woman That's why you know the kids are so close to the mother because it was on that titty Yeah, and I think it's the same way with a man because I get jealous when I see my 11-month-old sucking on the titty Why she just get to get that whenever she wanted She needs nourishment. She needs to grow up. That is important. You don't you were already a grown-up Why don't we do that? Why don't we drink more breast milk?  My son has never had dairy in his life He's eight years old and so he raised his hand.  I understand you have a curriculum you have to teach But when it's false and a child checks you you just got to take that L mm-hmm That's my problem with America, too When we go so hard with these mass marketing campaigns, but won't admit when we run like where's the campaign that's telling people You know what milk doesn't really do a body good. Yeah, you can't destroy the milk industry See what happened open when she tried to destroy the beef industry remember that episode I would bet that the milk industry probably is already discreet That's why if you go into grocery store nine. I'm maybe I'm tripping because maybe that's just what I'm focused on I see more almond milk and other types because they're Yeah, they're finally allowing like you never see those commercials and stuff though You don't because they won't allow them in the industry.


And also, and Suzanne was sharing about her group, this feeling of being kind of addicted to the story, so there's like a story that's being told or a storyline that's repeating over and over and over and you get a sense that the healing has to be beyond the storyline and yet it's like just a bad habit that just you find yourself thinking and speaking in those terms over and over repeating the same stories kind of like you know in movies when two people meet at a restaurant or whatever for the first time and and they start talking and then one or the other or both pour their hearts out and they pour out their their stories here's my story well here's my story oh a moment of intimacy two stories have been told but now with the course it's we're sensing that the intimacy goes much deeper than the stories we have to actually let go of the purpose underneath for telling the stories some of you might have seen that movie I Heart Huckabees with Lily Tomlin, Dustin Hoffman, Jude Law, it's a very good movie but in that movie Jude Law is always telling a Shania Twain story about he pulled a fast one over on Shania Twain I think it's around chicken salad or something and and he tells the story over and over and over through the movie until the existential detectives Lily Tomlin and Dustin Hoffman start to work with him on why do you tell the story one of the feelings of inadequacy why by putting down Shania Twain someone who seems to be popular this popular put down put lifts lifts him up this his image up in some way like he pulled a fast one on Shania Twain and what's underneath that is there's great fear and inadequacy so we have to get to the underlying motives of why we tell our stories otherwise they just seem to repeat over and over and we may not even be consciously aware of why we're telling the same stories over and over maybe it's the tension getting maybe it's the sense that we think it gives us a pseudo sense of superiority or power or control or pride oftentimes stories are told because there's this pride in the story my grandmother got up into her 80s and 90s and was diagnosed with dementia and she would typically repeat stories to me from back in the late 1920s the same stories over and over back in the abundant era right before the depression hit the United States and she would tell the stories over and over and over she was also very deep into the Bible didn't believe that death was real didn't believe that God would ever send anyone to hell we used to have great discussions and at one point it she was telling her stories from the late 1920s 1927 1928 for the umpteenth time and then Jesus threw me said what's the purpose of the story and she just was like what do you mean I said what's the what's the purpose of this story you just told me she said well it has to have a purpose she says it does it must be a purpose and eat the story if you tell me the story repeatedly she said I don't know I can't I don't know I don't know there is a purpose and I said I said well you love Jesus she's oh yes I love Jesus and in the Gospels you know he would tell stories too he would tell parables but he would tell the parable the prodigal son and the parable of the the one who owns the farm who pays all the workers the same amount even though the first ones that work all day and the ones that just come in at the last second he pays them all the same said he always had a purpose there was always a reason for telling his stories he was teaching a message he had a lesson or whatever she said you're right every single story he ever had it always had a purpose she said that's right he said so what's the purpose of your story she said hi I don't know I think I just like it and that's it we like these stories even if they don't have a purpose we're willing to tell them to stranger over and over because we like them we actually like the stories we're addicted to telling stories where we've all become storytellers and now we're so addicted to it that we don't want to stop but the course is teaching us that we need to have a purpose for our stories we need to use words in a purposeful way to inspire and to bless and if our stories have achy breaky heart you know sad songs you know all kinds of heartbreak and pain and misery or if we keep retelling our nightmares over and over and over and over what's the purpose of telling nightmares you know is that to inspire and bless do we really feel that we're helping all of humankind by telling our nightmare stories you know as we watch their faces shocked and or is that or is that there's a bit of pride and my nightmare is bigger and worse than yours will ever be and don't you forget it you know there's there has to be a reason and a purpose


Hi everyone. Welcome to KubeCon 2020 virtually this year. I hope everyone is staying safe and doing fine in these tough times. So today I will be sharing my thoughts and experience with you all on giving and getting technical help without being scared. So I will begin this talk with a brief introduction about myself. So yeah, my name is Sunya Singla. I'm one of the members on the Kubernetes 1.20 release notes team. I was the past opportunity intern at Mozilla. Recently this summer I completed my CNC internship with Thanos project. Apart from this I love being part of different open source communities. So yeah, my talk is on giving and getting technical help without being scared. Asking questions can be hard. I first discovered that asking can be really hard when I was 17 years old in the first year of my college and at the same time I was beginning with open source. So we used to had a class as well as a lab for straight three hours on the subject called oscillations and optics. So in the class whenever the teacher used to ask any question boys would blurt out without even thinking. While the girls they would raise their hands get shouted over and then they don't say a word what they actually want to say. While I was sort of in the third category just observing things around me. Kind of an introvert person. In the same lab we were divided into groups of three. The teacher used to say clubbing groups of three as assigned open your lab manuals and here's all the required material for performing practical. So yeah go for it. But what I observed at that time is there was no curiosity among girls but the boys they used to rush and perform the practicals very quickly. While the girls they used to wait for the boys to finish so that they can copy the readings which came out while performing the practicals. At the same day I had this thought in mind in what type of culture I am living. Even by I'm studying these subjects it was emotionally weak for me. Helping can be hard. As I mentioned at the beginning of this talk I was also beginning with open source at the same time. So whenever I got stuck with something or need help with something I asked someone send them a DM. Most of the time nearly 95 percent of the time I didn't hear back from that person. I didn't receive any reply back. So I developed this thing in mind just because they are good at something doesn't mean they should be arrogant right. Maybe they aren't. And also trust me mentors in the open source are among the kindest people in the world I ever know. Maybe the person was busy. I was not asking questions in the right method or there could be like billions of reasons why I didn't get any reply back. So when I started restructuring my questions doing proper homework before asking most of the things were changed for me. It was like another side of the coin. Helping is culture. What I observed common between open source mentors and the teachers is that the teachers and the mentors are rushed to help girls more quickly than they help boys. They let the boys struggle a bit with the work they are doing and implicitly sending a signal that the boys are more capable. Ultimately they will figure it out somehow. At the same time I felt that the system is privileged and biased. It's totally understandable that the mentors wants to help the underrepresented people in tech to help them grow become better engineers. Help them in making money and in the promotions so that there is a balance reduced gender gap more diversity and inclusion in our tech industry. But at its core this plays into the idea that the underrepresented people aren't already skilled enough smart enough or ready for more responsibility or leadership. Opportunity and visibility not advice. What members of underrepresented groups in tech often need is opportunity and visibility. Not advice. They have to work extremely hard and be extremely good at the work they are doing so that they can combat the systematic privilege and unconsciousness biasness at play in our work environment. They're consistently under promoted and under compensated for the work they are doing even though they are excellent at their work. So these are some of the nice lines by Christy Tillman. Advice is just one thing a mentor give but there are residual benefits from visible proximity and tangential relationships to begin. So I would request everyone to give it a thought and think about it. Comunity Bridge with Thanos. Recently this summer when I did my community bridge in town trip with Thanos project of CNCF Bartek and Povilas they both were my primary mentors and most of the time I spent working with them. We used to have a weekly call. I saw how they both let me struggle with the code I was writing. How they helped me to grow to google myself and more importantly become self-independent. So yeah helping is a culture a culture of helping others and more importantly creating the culture for our community culture of people in tech and for me this in township absolutely turned down the culture and I saw how big helping can be. It really makes a huge difference in how the whole organization community or maybe class of a bunch of student feels and helps them in transitioning. The culture of organization plays a very important role and also focuses in terms of learning helping and if you have this kind of culture in your organization company or maybe in your college it means that you're doing absolutely great. You can hire amazing people more diversity among the organization. You can take junior fox and draw them into amazing senior fox. So today we are going to talk about tools getting technical help giving technical help and I'm going to share some of the specific tools for making these two things easier because you know they these can be really challenging. So without further ado let's talk about asking and first let's talk about the mindset of asking and then about some of the specific tools that you can use to make it more useful. As a developer it's exciting and challenging to stay up to speed with the latest trends in technology. Every day new challenges new languages frameworks and devices capture our attention. However our developer community is made of people not the tools and it's very fascinating to explore the socio-political aspects. Software engineers they are never done learning as our field is wide apart and it always keeps on changing. We are always beginner at some things and expert at others. Along the way from beginner to expert we ask a lot of questions but it can be intimidating to ask for help. So first of all the key rule is to remember that even if you're talking to a person who's a junior or senior they don't necessarily need to know everything and the same is applicable on you. Being a senior doesn't mean they know each and everything. It simply means you know some of the stuff they know some of the stuff and you both know some of the same stuff. If your code is not running giving you some errors or might be your application is not building this is a sign of progress. It means that you're about to learn something new and be sassy and brave enough to step up. It's scary and intimidating sometimes but anyway you have to push yourself through it. So here are some of the tools that you can use for asking. So the first one is choose the right place to ask. I just want to put this up here and I believe this is a base level importance because if you're working in a toxic culture no matter how good you become at asking no matter how brave and excellent you are you're definitely going to end up in a bad time. The people who are the founders leaders are going to set the culture so listen to them or if you're interviewing them ask them lots of questions whatever you have so that you know you're going to end up in good hands good place. Also online forms slack channels IRC are a much better place to ask. The rest depends upon the organization as every organization follow different norms different communication channels. Once you find a place don't just barge in have a look around to see how a particular community works before you demand for help. This should be the basic netique in some forms the same question gets asked over and over again so do your homework properly before asking a simple google research might give you your answer it will also avoid antagonizing the regulars. A lot of my google research is directed to me sites like stack overflow stack exchange which are both excellent sources of programming help and now I want to share a few don'ts don't expect to be spoon-fitted don't get annoyed if you don't get an answer in the first few hours. People ask you for more details someone tells you that you are doing it wrong and you can almost count on it and it has been occurred to me like many a times. So the second key rule is practice a 15-minute rule take 15 minutes to solve the problem in any way you can however if you don't have an answer after 15 minutes you must ask someone because if you keep escalating bugs without even trying to figure it out you're never going to learn how to solve problems on your own for yourself. When you're going to ask for help you are at least armed with the full context of the problem at hand. The third thing is explain what you're trying to do big picture rule because if you're secretive about what you're doing people might assume that it's your work assignment or maybe you're working on some commercial or it could be anything else. Also don't say I tried to run XYZ it didn't work please help you won't get any response or if you do they will likely to be sarcastic and unhelpful. If you're very lucky someone might say I can't help you unless you give me more details. There are a lot of very clever and helpful people in the community but if you don't give them enough information to be able to help you they simply can't and it will frustrate them out and hence you might get some rude replies. Also whenever you are explaining things suggesting things don't say I think delete I think say whatever you want to say without using the word I think. The fourth thing is say what you have already tried it will be really helpful for both of you. The fifth thing is say thanks and give feedback always come back and say thank you and let people know if their advice was helpful or not. This isn't a much of payback for giving out free help but if you can let people know their solution helped you this is their reward it's also an investment in goodwill they will likely to be there for you next time if you were one of those who said thank you for your time and thanks for your help. So to sum up here are the five tools choose the right place to ask practice a 15 minute rule explain what you are trying to do big picture world see what you have already tried say thanks and feedback so that was all about asking now let's talk about helping before I start on helping this is really a hard thing to do and we are never taught how to give critical feedback effectively we are never taught how to be good leaders we are never taught how to be mentors we are not taught how to be experts we are just figuring out the things as we go along so there are a lot of pitfalls here that are very easy to fall into it's also true that you have stuff to do you have a full-time job have kids and if someone comes in and interrupts you and asks you a question it's going to take a weird time on whatever you're working on and that's really challenging I totally want to acknowledge that up front but teams that are really successful know this is the job that helping your team be successful is helping everyone work to their full capacity is the work to do this is the role so even though it can be really frustrating in the moment to put down your own thing and help someone else try to take a step back and look at the big picture and that can really help everyone needs experienced motivated and highly skilled people to work with but people just don't get born with this in open source you are a variety of contributor sometimes it will be a badass ex-coogler who wants to help and might give you some amazing ideas but sometimes you will work with people who have just started their journey with programming the another thing that's challenging is remembering all the things being an expert can actually make it very difficult to remember but it's like to not understand what a variable is a variable is a very challenging concept to people who have never programmed before and you can forego that very easily when you spend all the day in an IDE or on the command line or you know whatever knowing something super well it makes it really hard to remember what it was like before and that can make it very hard to help them out and also very frustrating you have all probably helped people who are new to technology so now I'm going to share some of the specific tools that you can use to help someone the first one is encourage asking questions so whenever people ask you question be welcoming be gentle be compassionate and curious support people emotionally when people ask you questions like hey this is a great question be excited about the problem about the work you know problem related stress can make people seem rude or stupid even when they are not also there could be other two scenarios the first one is you are not getting enough questions at that time reward question asking you are getting lots of question teach them how to ship if the people are in the first few months deal with them and it's not really like you want to proceed maybe shape their behavior for example teach them how to debug effectively we have to look for help how to write better code let them struggle a bit because that's how we learn and grow also before you ask google it maybe search on the mailing list read the error messages try debugging or experimenting the second thing is create healthy environment by a healthy environment i mean you should read the people asking questions like they are your competitors or friends you should never underestimate them and for example if they are asking what is x y z you should never say you don't know even x y z this makes the environment really toxic and discouraging environment the third thing is explain the process and reason so after getting the question from people you should explain the complete process to them by process i mean how the things are running behind the scenes you should provide them enough data uh context or documentation links so that they can understand better there might be things of concepts which you understand but they don't tell them how you approach the solution for a certain complex problem how are you making those complex decisions tell them the reason why you know why you made this thing or feature like this way in this step make sure that if you are not spoon feeding them but providing enough resources from which they can learn after you gave them basic ideas this goes into a really long way but it will really make a very huge difference another point is help them to grow don't just grab their keyboards always ask first i have seen this in many communities and organizations and this is really harmful grabbing someone's keyboard and solving problem for them when the users or contributors are getting more ideas about your project you need to make sure that the wheel is running continuously by wheel i mean the process of turning contributors into maintainers because you will not always be there project will keep growing and it will need new maintainers to maintain them there should be a healthy environment so that they can turn into maintainers of the project after a certain amount of time and also help the other users last but not least use inclusive language by inclusive language i mean don't use the words like easy obviously just f wtw or guys because if something is obvious to you doesn't necessarily mean obvious to another person also and if it's not obvious it clearly states you are insulting someone so try to not use these type of words in github will request forms or discussions there are many times when your tone is misinterrupted by the other person so maybe add some emojis to that use some encouraging words and try to explain things constructively as well as politely so to sum up encourage asking questions create healthy environment explain the process and reason help them to grow use inclusive language successful and healthy community building a successful and healthy community takes a long time but after a certain point of time the result will be so sweet contributors will become maintainers and this chain will keep increasing over the time but the main point here is to keep in mind that don't push your support too much you should have a balance for the same because if you push them too hard or too far it can discourage them and backfire at the same time and if you keep supporting and helping them at every point they will not learn how to solve problems on their own keep a balance for the same because that's how we grow into successful and healthy community so yeah that's all about this talk thank you so much everyone and i have mentioned my handles feel free to ping me if you need any kind of help or support or have any questions regarding this talk again thank you so much everyone


afternoon Express and yes it's time for Winner Home so we're going to follow three talented young designers as they transform three empty properties at Valdivia State into dream homes using finishes provided by Caesar Stone and Plaskon and at the end of it all we're giving away one of those completed apartments worth over three million rand to one lucky viewer. Now being one of the most well-known and established real estate companies in South Africa as well as having a close relationship with private property SEAF is a force to be reckoned with as they carry expert advice and years of experience when it comes to all things property and today we have company director Samuel Seaf in our loft specifically to focus on property on a property that they have an exclusive mandate on a beautiful and magnificent three-level mansion valued at over 20 million rand or I think it's 20 million rand Samuel Seaf welcome to afternoon Express. I mean I get hot flushes when I think of a house this gorgeous I mean for years on top building my favorite inserts were going into some of these magnificent homes so having a look at this one it's called Soul Truck Mansion I mean it's just stunning tell me a bit about this property. So it's a wonderful property and it follows the first rule of property is position position position it's literally a short walk to the edge of your garden at the bottom across the road and you're on the beach so first prize you tick the box it's fantastic position. Secondly it's a double earth so it's twice the size of the normal plot brand new home it was a cottage in its previous life and taken down rebuilt to absolute perfection by the owners they traveled and do travel extensively overseas so they brought back a number of different ideas to make this particular home special five-bedroom wonderful entertaining areas and a great great position as I say it's definitely something amazing to have a 20 million rand home on your books but if you look at the value of this I mean this home is situated on the Dolphin Coast that's correct yes so I mean you're getting a lot for your money yeah absolutely so I think when one looks at that and you see the five bedrooms the entertainment areas it's got a lift in it it's got a special indoor outdoor section that can be utilized either as a guest house can be utilized as a large family home you compare that to some of the properties in the rest of the country along the coast it's still relatively cheap yeah so one now has to consider if you're looking at in Cape Town in Camps Bay Clifton and Nettleton Road easily for the same property you would pay three even maybe four times so a six to an 80 million rand price tag wouldn't be high for that kind of a property in Cape Town it was actually in the newspaper today so Dolphin Coast for those of you don't know is in Durban or just outside of Durban and it was actually written in the paper today that Durban for if you want more bang for your buck Durban is the best place to live I think rentals are 50% more expensive in Cape Town than what they are in Durban and 25% more so in Johannesburg absolutely so again it comes back to the position in Cape Town you've got a shortage of accommodation you've got the mountain on the one side and the sea on the other and a little bit of what Cape Town has to offer in between shortage of space fewer properties prices go up Johannesburg being an economic hub a lot of people go there to make their careers and earn their fortunes being on the further on the north coast just slightly north of Belito the space you're on they see fantastic fantastic value to be had in that area I was actually there yesterday for a shoot and I've got to say I mean the fact that it's glorious weather all year round is just a selling point for me. It's a massive plus plus the temperature of the water. Oh yeah definitely you can swim there but now let's go back to this home because it's got these gorgeous white walls such amazing space it almost looks like a house that would be situated in one of the Greek islands. It does actually interesting enough I'm off there in a couple of weeks I'll be able to compare personally but that aside I think one of the elements of this home is the entertainment factor so they've got a lot of indoor outdoor areas which are absolutely fantastic and when you when you look at it we had a launch last year we had our international referral association with Hamptons from the UK and we had the launch in that particular house we had over 50 or 60 people you didn't even feel like it you felt you were sitting alone with four or five people so it caters to entertaining in a in a terrific manner you've got a great lifestyle of the indoor and outdoor with the views something special no question. Now tell me about the inspiration though behind the design because I mean it looks like it lends itself to ocean and also quite cozy private living as well. Yeah so I think that as I said earlier the owners have spent quite a lot of time overseas and incorporated a lot of their travels into their home it has been a labor of love and you can you can see it in the style. One of the things that they've looked at is it's kind of a Moroccan Mediterranean influence that they've wanted with the indoor and the outdoor flows and with a very important key as I said on entertainment and that's been the central factor throughout the house. Yeah now you know every time I go into private property the good thing is you can put your your brackets of your what your budget is for your home and I always like to put you know around 20 million just to see how hard I've got to work in my life but who is your target market who's going to buy this kind of a home. OK so I think that what has happened in that particular area of Salt Rock is a lot of prominent Durban families have been buying properties in there and they're potentially somebody who would like to live in that area hasn't got the time to do the property up themselves can come in. I would assume with a large family you're not coming there with just a couple it's it's somebody with a large family extended family wanting to have private spaces within the home as well. It could and does lend itself very easily to be used as a guest house as well so you'd be able to live there and rent out rooms if that was your choice. Well it's absolutely gorgeous. Thank you so much for coming through and chatting to us. It's been more than a pleasure. Now when it comes to beautiful properties like the Salt Rock mansion we feel so inspired and our dreams come alive to call such a property home. Remember that you have until tomorrow the 16th of June to vote for your favorite guest bedroom and you start a chance of winning paint from Plascon to the value of 5,000 rand. You will also automatically be placed into the grand prize draw where you could win one of the completed apartments worth more than 3 million rand. When a home is brought to you by private property in association with Nedbank we'll be right back after this.


Hello, hi guys, welcome back to my channel. Today's video is going to be a cooking with my mom I've gotten so many requests to do this and Valerie's making her guessing hill number one Tell them what it is. So we used to call it all the time. Yeah, and we're doing steaks on the grill. You're doing potatoes that are cooked in batter and we use sour cream on those sort of like a baked potato but not white And we're doing broccoli fresh broccoli with holiday sauce. So it's nice. I'm good. Yeah, okay So if you guys like this video, make sure to give it a thumbs up also to see more of Valerie Make sure you are subscribed and I guess let's get into the video. Okay in order to make potatoes We want to have About a stick and a half of butter This is a lot of butter and in order to make the special sauce for the steaks We'll also be using a Stick of butter. This is why we're fat This is why we're fat This is why I'm fat. It's okay Valerie. That's why Alex has to exercise to make sure she doesn't get fat by doing that. Body positivity. You are gorgeous. We love you I'm gonna use a stick and a half there and I always use land of lakes butter Salted land of lakes salted butter. That's kind So we're melting the butter I'm going to cut them She do want to have kind of a uniform size So you'll cook about the same way I have to be exactly the same size. It's sort of the same size and then you do that with all of them Cool Okay, so once the butter is melted and everything you just put the potatoes the chopped potatoes in The little skillet. You don't put any salt or pepper in or on the potatoes Because the butter's salted. Note to self to all the chefs. Don't turn on the burner Yeah, she's making the sauce special sauce special sauce So that's butter in there like she just put in It's hard to say exactly how much goes in. It's all looks right You have to be sure to really shake the bottle a lot.  Garlic powder. Yeah, not garlic salt. Okay garlic powder And you're gonna whisk that all up together Just a little bit more Listen to that thing's got a garlicky That's all supposed to look like It's not a thick sauce It's a very thin sauce and it goes on the Steaks if you're cooking them. They're not turned up hardly at all. They cook very slow So what I'm gonna do is we're gonna wipe off the remaining Soot and grease from the grill after we Scrubbed it the next thing we do Is we season the grill? These are actually two Just telling camera this These are actually two porterhouse steaks because they did not really have What we needed so the butcher at fresh market was nice enough To actually cut it so in a porterhouse steak you have the New York strip side and You have a fillet side That says Alex only likes fillet He's gonna get fillet side So Sherry and I have the New York strip side. Now we'll turn this way down Because I do not like to cook things fast. I Think you're always better off When you're grilling or cooking the potatoes or whatever Cooking them more slowly So all the good stuff Seat in So and how long does mine normally take and how long do yours normally take on the grill? Approximately, how do you know they're done? I use to bring a knife out. Oh And just see eat. Yep Since you like yours done more than we like ours done. Yeah We Will I will turn yours up? Much more. Okay, so what we're gonna do now is we're just gonna leave them there for a minute Okay, and we'll go in and cut the broccoli. I never want to put cooked meat where you have raw meat Once you put raw meat on a plate you need to clean it because raw meat has all sorts of Diseases potentially and that's why you never want to put Cooked meat on a plate that is has had raw meat on it.  Yeah too much moisture in it. Yeah, and then we'll wash them and put them in the steamer basket Everyone here is Sherry. She's doing her fetch rewards. I am just please sponsor us because Using my fetch rewards Just scan your receipt you get reward points and not sponsored. I wish it was Okay, so Valor is just cleaning the broccoli. I think she's shown you how to clean broccoli in another video, but She's just rinsing it off, and then checking to see if there's any brown spots brown spots or anything I don't want to see placing it in the steamer basket thing I'll cook for about 15 minutes as you can see these are cooking You can see some of the blood coming to the surface They've been on here for probably I would say 10 minutes Yeah, when I see that that means that this one's on a hotter part of the grill So I'm gonna switch these around So they will cook more evenly and we'll just let those be on there for a while I'll go back to the broccoli No coyote Gotten steaks yet. Can you catch the vlog up on what we're doing? I don't think we miss anything make they didn't I would just been flipping the tables with the potatoes and I'm setting the table Alex is in the table broccoli and steaming not yet. Oh, I cut the butter so that we got oh and you guys know how to make Hollandaise I've made it before the holidays packet in the hat in the one cup of half and half Okay, it says milk on the packet. Yeah, yeah, yep Cool, thanks. Okay Valerie show us the final product broccoli with Hollandaise steak onions and potatoes So if you guys enjoyed the video, what do they do thumbs up and subscribe? Subscribe to this channel you too Alex Jane, yep Sure you say bye. Bye. Bye guys