Let's see if I can get this live together. Got my settings right on here. See what we got here. Here a microphone. That's what this is. Yes, I told y'all I was gonna do a, hey there heaven, do a night shift Q and A cause the blessed tribe is growing. You know the blessed tribe is growing. And I realized that made a promise when you sign up for the blessed tribe, I'll do weekly Q and A's, but I understand that when I do a Q and A, even though during 90 minutes, I don't get to answer everybody's question. So, and the questions y'all be having so many conversations in the chat that I miss so much cause it be flying up. Probably be easy if I do this on my laptop, but my laptop camera, I need to get me a new laptop. Laptop camera a little fuzzy, so that's why I do it on my cell phone. And so it get a little tough keeping up with y'all messages on here. But if you made it in early now, you got a question. Put your question in there. What does it mean if I don't want to get married? I don't know. I don't know what it mean for you. You know, what the media sound like fear. Sound like fear from a lack of knowledge. That's what fear a lot of times come from. How to take advantage of getting to know someone that is interested in dating you while on quarantine since it is best not to quarantine and chill. By the phone, by the phone, FaceTime, you can FaceTime and you can catch that 19 through FaceTime. Talking on the phone and the good thing you can talk all day.  Go on my mentor.life hit find a coach and then go to the T's, you'll see me. Live eight hours apart. Live eight hours apart. He can't move because of custody. Should I move 32 and 38? Both divorce with kids. No, you shouldn't move unless y'all get married. The only way you move is when you got that wedding date set. When you got that wedding date set, move in that week. You can move up there that week or you could go up there, get married, then move. Tony, what about age? I don't know what else you're talking about on the age. So send me a full question on there, Lydia. How do you do that? Okay, you got it. Go to my mentor.life. Now for those y'all who can't afford your courses, you know, just right now up front, that's why you have self-love you, which is also Gaskins University. So you know, I got Tony Gaskins Academy, but I have Gaskins University, which is the other domain for self-love you. That is where you can do a monthly. So you can take your courses but smaller bite size payments. Tony, would you recommend opening a business bank account before taking clients? Yep, open your business bank account because it's free. You know, I mean, it's free to open. Some banks, you can do it right from the app on the phone. And so I definitely recommend opening that business bank account because you keep your money separate. And the only thing with them business accounts, you may want to go to a credit union to where the account will be free. Because if you go to old ragged bank America, like who I'm with, they saw it, but want to charge you every month. Thank you for all you do. WI has me crying tears of joy. Now, I don't know, I don't know if that's a type or a WI. That's, I missed that in abbreviation university. What does it say? If your boyfriend said to you, I want to see you or you don't love me, what you said about something like that. I don't know what you're talking about, sister. So I'll write your question again. You spoke about a man not putting up with women that talk down to them. So why do they stay instead of wanting a woman who speaks with love and respect? To be honest with you, the men who get talked down to and they stay, they stand for revenge. That's why they stay. They stand because they hit their ego. And for some people, they respond to insulting their ego. Leneeta Boykin, God bless you. God bless you. You know, I miss somebody else that sent a blessing. That was speech to speech.  So that's why some men stay. Since I'm a coach on my mentor, do I still need to have a website and YouTube channel or just drive traffic to my mentor? If you like YouTube, if you like doing videos, then you have a YouTube channel. On my mentor, you really don't need a website because what is a website? It's your bio. It's where you get booked that and it's where you post your blog posts and you do all that on my mentor. So that's really another reason why we created it is so that coaches can have a place that's already designed and it look nice and it bring that credibility and it's simple and easy right there in one place. And you just put that link, your my mentor link, put it on all your social media bios. Dated back in high school, things didn't work forward to 2019. Dated until four months. He mentioned he isn't ready and he was still talking to his ex but said their only friends still reaches out to me.  He reaching out for fun, for exercise, for practice. I remember answering a question like that. Anytime a man is not very intentional in all in, just keep it moving. Just keep it moving. A man gonna be all in and intentional if he want anything with you. My friends found the guy I am with on Bumble. I confronted and he says it's not him. Picture were clearly him. Give benefit of the doubt or run. I don't do dating at run because he ain't nobody for nobody to be still in the picture of. So if his picture on Bumble, that's his butt. So go on about your business and that's what you get for being on Bumble. Then you get on Bumble, you're gonna get stung. That's why it's called Bumble as a bumblebee.  I told y'all, stay off that dating.   Go to the grocery store. Go to the gas station. You gonna meet plenty men. You ain't got to get on that online dating. Currently in my single season, I want to enjoy it and continue focusing on my growth. How do you gently turn down men who are interested in you? You don't have to worry about as long as you say it just like what I'm talking. You know, unfortunately, I'm not in a space for a relationship right now. That's how you can tell men that you're not interested in. And just like that, you can't worry about how he take it. Some men gonna get offended, but you can't worry about that. Oh, okay, you don't do the apps. Your friend found them on the app. Okay, good, God bless you. Yeah, he on there cheating around, he looking around. Where can I find a recording from the Life Coach Q&A? It's on Tony Gaston's Academy in the course. If you're in the course, the recording is in the course. I added it today. Tony, I attract young men. Have you coached a relationship that the woman is older than the man? Is this a waste of time? Yeah, that happens. It's typically only a waste of time when the woman is 10 years older or more. That's typically when it's a clear waste of time. When the woman is 10 years older or more. Up under there, you know, inside of five years, you're still kind of the same generation.  Over 10 years, that's your son. How can I work on letting a man do things for me in a relationship? I'm so used to doing everything myself that no matter how small or large something is, my first instinct is to say I got it. Keep that instinct. Keep that instinct, because that keep a man at bay and a man will have to work to do something for you. And that's what he need to do. He need to be able to say, you know, no, I got it, I got it, listen, I got it, listen, let me carry that, listen, let me pay the bill, I got it. So, you know, keep that instinct. Because when you just sitting there looking like, give me what got me here, and hear what I'm saying, give me what got me here. Give me is what got me here. Will you like that with a man? And that's when he kinda look at your look. Oh, okay, you want it all. So a man actually like a woman who wanna try to do for herself and he gotta really let her know like, no, I'm really serious about this. Let me do this. Met a boyfriend three months ago, says, says his intentions are good and wants to get married. We've been intimate. Is it wise to back off from S now? Red or woman's influence want to give relationship a try. Yeah, it's wise to back off not, but hold on now.  Y'all met three months ago. If y'all already in the bed, then you kinda turn that thing on its head already. So now if you've already been in that bed and you flip the script, you gotta be ready to lose them. Do you suggest audio books or written books for first time authors? Written books, because our audio book is hard to produce as an independent author. It's a whole lot more work, a lot more production. It's a lot of specifications and stuff that it has to be inside of. It's very costly going to the studio cause that's gonna be $55 to $150 an hour. It may take you 20, 30 hours to do an audio book. Then it has to be edited, mastered, gotta fit inside certain parameters, then upload it. So audio book is an expensive and complicated production that a lot of people don't realize everything that goes into it. But writing it, that's a whole lot easier. You write it, it gets edited, it gets formatted, upload it, it's online two days later. For sale on Amazon.com two days later. Make sure you take the birth of your book program. I made it 50% off right now so I think it's only $47 on tonigasinacademy.com. Will a man know you are his wife if he has not healed from the past relationships? Yeah, he can know you're his wife and it can induce healing. He'll start to heal, he'll start to grow. Hey, God bless you to the new members. To join the bless tribe, I think the link is in the description. I see some of y'all found it, God bless you. Me and husband is on 72 hour rule but he stopped contacting, should I be worried? Nope, shouldn't be worried, can't worry. Even if you are worried, can't let him know you weren't. Boyfriend saw that I was watching your live and got so upset saying I ain't messing with no female who listens to you. Saying all you do is bash men. Ask me, am I gonna listen to you over him? Thoughts, you need to run. You need to run, that's a grown boy.  And he ought to know better than talking about I'm bashing men. All I do is tell the truth. So if he doing the right thing, the truth ain't gonna have nothing to do with him. If he doing the right thing, it'll actually make him look better. You'll actually realize you got a rare man. But what it sound like to me is you got an average man. You got your old average man because he's not comfortable with himself. He insecure. And the only time when a man get like that is because he know he ain't doing what he's supposed to be doing. And see, because he giving you or can give you the vitamin D. Okay, the vitamin D.  That's how he'll use that leverage. But your man should never be intimidated by you getting knowledge. You feed in your spirit. He ought to be happy that you doing that. It's really more so a red flag of a woman who don't want to expand her mind and get knowledge outside of herself. And so, but see what grown boys do, they want to keep you in the dark. They want to keep you in the dark because if you see the light, it's going to expose them.   You gonna catch everything and that's what he knows. And that's what he's scared about.  Tony Gaston said that, get your life together. My boy, let him hear this, get your life together. If you living right and doing right, you ain't got nothing to worry about because I'm already married. So I don't want your woman, but all I gotta do is, all I'm here to do is bring the truth to the light. So if you already in the light, then you ain't got to worry about nothing. But if you operating from a spirit of darkness, I'm here to expose you, absolutely, absolutely. So treat your woman right and she ain't gonna hear nothing on my page that's gonna make her, in fact, your woman gonna be, wow, I got a good man. I can't worry about eating grown boys out here. That why I keep the tool on me now just in case one of them get froggy. Let them know I ain't your lily pad. Should you pay for your name of your business, before you get started? If you got the money, yes. If you don't got the money, then get started, make the money, then buy your name or your LLC. It should be only $125 in most states. It'll be 125 or less. If you go to a site like legalzoom.com, they have their fees in there so you could get up round to $300. Let me see. Amen, God bless you. God bless you for that blessing. Pour out in your life, Lord. Will a man wait till marriage for S if a woman is a single mother with two kids? Now you gonna struggle with that one.   If you his dream. If you his dream, he gonna wait. But ain't no man gonna try to hear about walking if he see you know how to ride a bicycle. If he see you know how to ride a bicycle, he ain't trying to hear no walking, okay? So the fight that you gonna have too, he know you didn't been on your bike plenty of times.  So for him to wait until marriage, you got to be what he looking for. You hear me? So this my point of example, when Megan Good say she was waiting till marriage, one friend sat down and wrote a book about it because that was his dream. She looked like his dream. When Sierra said she waiting till marriage, Russell Wilson could have wrote him a book about it because she looked like his dream. That's when a man who then already has lost his virginity, wait on a woman when he feel like you are his wife. If he don't feel like with a hundred percent of him, you his wife, he ain't gonna wait. So Tony if a woman is making less money than him, is that an issue for the guy? I feel I should stay single until I make 50K or more. Nope, that's not an issue for a real man because a real man anticipating taking care of his woman anyways, especially if y'all gonna start a family, he really kinda want you to be home with the children because from like zero to, from zero up to three or four, a man who can afford it and who working hard, he want them kids to be home with you still at the daycare getting hand, foot, and mouth disease or whatever that is that the kids be getting, playing hand, foot, and mouth. But them daycare is so nasty that that's your last resort.   And guess what, the baby can't say nothing. And this person who hate her life, she enough doing like this to your baby scout. That's why when they turn that camera on, you see all of that going on. You see all that going on. So a man, he relaying word about your money, he word about your heart, your integrity. Can I do the book coaching with you for a poetry book? Started writing last week. That'll take one session. It'll only take one session. Now if you take the birthday of book course, yep, that'll help you too because it'll teach you about your writing schedule and then it'll teach you how to publish. So it will help you. And it's a very small investment. So I would go that route. And if you don't get what you need on there, on the course, then consider doing a one-on-one session. No self-worth, 48 years. The last boyfriend for two and a half years. Bought him a car. Okay. Bought him a car. I helped start his business by buying licensing biz cars. After I got him a job, he got fired in one year. Happy life now. Stay like that. Yep, stay like that and get yourself worth. Get yourself worth.  When I seen all that you did and I looked up on you, looked at you, I already know. Yeah, you got to get that together.  I met a guy two months ago. He keeps asking me to come over to his apartment. Is this worth pursuing now? Nope, not worth pursuing. He need to be asking you. Now see, right now in this 19, you don't need to be going anywhere. He need to be trying to FaceTime with you. He need to be trying to Zoom, meeting you, Skype you. If he asking you to come over this house right now in the midst of this 19, you go over there and he coughing up along and I got you with the 19.  And so that kind of man, you let him know, look, playboy, by July, I'll be able to link up with you and it will not be at your house because I don't know if Ted Bundy, your uncle. So we can meet in July at the movie theater or at the bowling alley or at the skating rink but not in behind closed doors because I don't know you like that. So let him know that now. Lisa God, chosen God, God bless you.  He says, I'm an amazing woman but he can't offer a relationship. Spent lots of time together before 19 and now we talk on the phone daily. Still shows interest, has mentioned he's afraid. Back away. Yup, go on about your business, let him go. See when a man tip, when a man wanna do all that talking but he say he can't give you a relationship, listen to him. If you want a relationship, go on about your business. If you're looking for a male friend that's gonna have you on your back in a few months, then keep on talking to him. If you're looking for you, old splacker valley. Now, if you're not looking for a splacker valley which is basically a friend with benefits, a man that's gonna have you on your back, spread ego in a couple months, then go on about your business. Don't deal with a man who say I can't give you a relationship if you're looking for a relationship. Strict Christian, it's hard to find a man, same denomination, who is okay with divorce and one child advice. Well, see what you have to realize is it's becoming a little harder just to find a man period.   And then when you do that and then you gotta increase your work, meaning working on yourself, producing what you need to produce, doing what you need to do. And when you do that, then that's when God can deliver but if you're not meeting your man it's because you haven't done the work you need to do. Is it possible if a guy was going through financial hardship when in a relationship, the first time, back together, is it possible if a guy was going through financial hardship when in a relationship the first time, back together, he's back on his feet, will he be a better person? Seems stress was taken out on me so I left. It's possible, it's possible but you just gotta take your time.  And keep your eyes open, keep your eyes open and your legs closed and you will know within three months if he's a changed person, if he a better person. Six months at the latest you'll know. Currently I have a coaching session scheduled with you on the 30th. Super excited, trying to heal from my divorce. 20 years with ex and also still dealing with daddy issues at 41. How many sessions? Well, start with the first but it sound like two to four. Sound like four is typically the average. A lot of people have the misconception that a life coach tries to hold a client forever and try to keep a client in there forever because that's how life coaches get paid but it's not really true. That's more so counseling therapy you be going to for years. Coaching is about progression and you graduate from coaching and then you just check in every now and then if you need to or want to but coaching is not about being in something forever because we're not gonna be discussing the same thing forever, it's forward progress. So most of my clients do on average four sessions. Some will do, I think the most I've seen is up to 18, 20 sessions but on average it's about four sessions. I have coaching with you in May. Can we go over relationship and purpose? Yup, if we could do it in that hour now when it come down that 59 minute mark. Well, you know what, hey, it's been great speaking with you and whoo, this hour flew by fast. So yeah, you definitely might need another session. So if we can get through it in that hour then absolutely, we talk about whatever you wanna talk about. Tony I was talking to a guy and he told me he was by a family member. Glad I saw that video, thank you.  I don't know what video are you talking about but God bless you, that's a tough one there. Hi T, single one and a half years. He was the most manly of all, had an attitude of willing to support but sometimes wanted me to pay. Withheld but would come sleep over. Together one year, ghosted me, kind of mutual.  Move on with your life. Mr. Gaston, you said that we could promote our businesses on here but yet when I try my message does not post. I don't know, I don't know what's up with that. Now YouTube does censor comments so if it looks like promotion, they will censor it. Question, same as K-Mac, low self-esteem, working on losing weight, lost over 80 pounds, God bless you, in the past two years I just found out I have been being scammed. How can you know when someone is being authentic? It's gonna take you getting a lot of knowledge, you getting the knowledge and really learning the traits and the behaviors of a real man and being able to get that in your spirit and really sit with it and understanding that a man who is serious about you, I got some video I think called how to know he's interested in you, really sit and study those type of videos and it'll help you. Let's learn and cooperate, God bless you. You helped me a lot during a coaching.  Can you make a relationship official before a meeting? Talking for nine months, never met. I wouldn't recommend it, I wouldn't recommend it unless y'all was talking on FaceTime, unless you were talking on FaceTime and you really got to see him, feel his vibe, kind of read him. But if you're just talking on the phone and you know where he's at, where he lives at and things like that, I wouldn't recommend it, making an official before meeting somebody. Because if y'all ain't close enough to meet, then what's the sense of being together? Cause how you gonna go to the next level? Can be, God bless you, watch your videos on how to make a relationship work and how to become love, very impactful, thank you. I am learning a great deal from you.  If you open to an outside perspective, you gonna get something out of it. A lot of people come with spirit or disagreements looking for something to argue and debate about, not realizing I'm the wrong one cause I don't argue and debate about what I know. So when you come with that spirit you got, like my daddy used to tell me, chew the meat and spit out the bones. Chew the meat and spit out the bones. Get what's for you and let the rest go. Mr. Gasson, I thought you said we could promote, okay, this is the same post on here. I was in a relationship with this guy and started shouting and cheating. Thank you for your blessing because I get a lot of knowledge from your video and your book. God bless you. Tony, if a man or woman is still in their parents' home, should they not be in a relationship? Nope, you could be in a relationship. You could be in a relationship and if you have a situation to where your family believes that you should stay in the home to work and save your money, then that's cultural. That's your family situation and most people are understanding that. Most people understand that so it's nothing wrong with that. But if you are living with them just because you don't have a job, you can't earn any money, your life is in disarray, then in that sense, then no, you shouldn't be in a relationship. You should be focusing on getting yourself where you need to be. Apart from completing the life coach certification course, is there any other personal requirement or recommendation you have before starting to offer coaching sessions? I would say do one to four sessions yourself even if it's with a coach who charged $25 an hour just so you can get an idea of how a real session is ran and maybe if you can afford $100 for coaching, then do a session with four different coaches from my mentor.life that charged $25 an hour so you can see how it's done. I would recommend that. Latisha, thank you Tony for your live chats and videos.  Tony, would you recommend starting an LLC before a non-profit to get your business license sooner? You don't need a business license if you're talking about doing coaching. The LLC is enough and a non-profit, it just depends on how you choose as if you wanna charge the person for your services or if you wanna raise donations. So if you wanna charge the people that you're working with, then you need an LLC. If you wanna raise donations cause you got some connections to rich people, wealthy people or giving people and you wanna raise donations and then pay yourself to offer your services for free, then you start a non-profit. Or if you just want a non-profit to raise donations so that you can give and use the money to give stuff away, you know, products or what have you. When should you introduce your significant other to your family? When engage? No, when y'all serious. When you are committed and you say we are in a committed, exclusive relationship, then that's when it's time to introduce your significant other to your family because your family may see something or sense something that you can't see and that will give you the knowledge to not get engaged but you don't wanna get engaged and then go and then introduce them because your family may not approve of it and now you didn't did all of this and your family don't approve and now you're having, you know, second thoughts. Tony, what are your thoughts on letting friends and associates play matchmaker for you? It's fine, as long as you got your own set of standards and rules so that even if they match you with somebody that's a bond, you know it and you able to go on about your business. Hello Tony, I'm in the 14 day challenge due to man not being ready to commit. It may go longer than 14 days, maybe indefinite on my behalf, he's reaching through my daughter now, what do you say? That's not when you use the 14 day rule. You use the 14 day rule when you in a relationship with somebody and y'all are committed and he is ready and he has committed and you are in a relationship and then he commits a deal breaker that means like if he cheats or if he is exhibiting something that you like, listen, this cannot happen, this cannot fly and you've told him once before or twice before, then you leave for them 14 days to send him that final message to say, look, we done and so it's 14 days for you but he doesn't know it's 14 days and that's when you see if he gonna chase you, if he gonna beg forgiveness, if he willing to change and he willing to do things differently. But if a man says he can't give you a relationship, he don't wanna commit then you need to keep it moving anyways.  A guy keeps trying to pursue me and ask what is it going to take to give him a chance? I told him consistency but he still is not consistent enough with communication. So why did he ask if he's not doing that? It's because he is looking for a roster filler. He looking to fill his roster. So a man who fill in his roster isn't gonna be consistent with you.  And so, and if he just does that long enough, a month, two months, three months, the woman builds up feelings for him that he didn't even earn because she's thinking about him on them in between days and then he finally comes around and he able to get on her bike because she desperate for love and she been fantasizing about love and she's falling in love with the idea of a relationship even though she doesn't have the reality of a real relationship and commitment. So that's what he's doing in that case right there. He looking to put you on the roster.  It's been three months, no contact at all. It was very hard at first, but now I'm doing much better.  Thank you for your wisdom. Hey, thank you, God bless you doing the work. That's where you got to be. That's where you got to be doing that work. Missed and lost both parents within 10 months, very close to them in a deep lonely depression. I ended up marrying a man in prison that will never get out. If Mr. Right ever comes, do I have to tell him this huge mistake? You definitely have to tell him, but it'll take you probably three months to six months to know if it's Mr. Right. So don't just go telling the man on the first date. It'll take you a little time to know him, but at the same time, you marry. So what you need to do is do a consult with a lawyer to see how you could get a divorce. Cause yeah, you need to go and get that divorce. You married a man in prison who ain't never getting out and you know you did it for the wrong reasons.  So you need to nullify that right there. And I'm sure an attorney could help you. Sash is royal, God bless you. Thank you for that blessing. Bless you. Pernonka, God bless you. Pull out in your life, Lord. Pull out in your life. Tony, your messages have taught me a lot about men and your wife's emotional intelligence that she exudes so effortlessly has inspired me to work on mine. Thank you and don't stop being obedient to God. Hey, God bless you. I really appreciate that. I really do. What are you supposed to do if you're super curvy in all directions? Keep wearing them curves. Keep wearing them curves. There's a lot of men like curves in all direction. Do I need an LLC for each entity of my biz if each one is under the same main business name but each entity's name varies slightly. For example, ABC Publishing, ABC Apparel, ABC Coaching, all under ABC Company. You don't need a different LLC unless they're in just, you can do enterprises. Your LLC could be like mogul enterprises LLC and then those other companies can be a DBA doing business as and you can file it's only certain types of businesses that needs to be in its own LLC. Like if you get in the real estate investing, then that may be its own LLC. But if it's all products and services, then that's something different. Nikoya, God bless you. God bless you. You showing that pull out in our life, Lord. Pull out in our life. So on the sea for blessing you and the queen, for the blessing you and the queen have been in my life via a woman's influence. Thank you both. Thank you so much. I'm getting great feedback from a woman's influence. If you have not ordered the book, it's on audio. If you don't like to read, it's on ebook. You can download the Kindle app or the Nook app which is owned by Barnes and Noble or you can get the print version. But please, you know, grab that book if you're looking for something new to read. And Nikoya, God bless you. I pray to the Lord, pull out in you.  Pull out in our life, Lord. I've turned into the crazy woman after dealing with a lot of bad men. Now I'm dating the complete opposite. I have been doing way too much. Overanalyze and do way too much. I need help, sir. You got a healer before you deal. A good thing for you will be the soul ties course. I reduced it by 90%. So instead of it being fitted all this five hours, it's on tonigasinsacademy.com. Take that soul ties course cause that's way deeper than what I could give here right now. And you need to spend the time with it and really go through it and let it help you, let it bless you. Vintage, God bless you. Pull out in our life, Lord. Wanted to thank you and your beautiful wife. May God continue to shower your sacred union with blessings. Awesome guy found me. He is open to relationship coaching. He is successful and Christian. If he opened to it, then encourage him that he do it. If he opened to it, that's a good sign and it will not hurt. So encourage him that he does it. And he could go to my mentor.life. There's a lot of coaches on there. Candice Ward, God bless you. Pull out in our life, Lord. Thank you for being a blessing in my life. I love your work. Hey, I really appreciate that. I really appreciate that. Keyleth, now here go my vice president. Now Keyleth, I might have to make you the vice president of the company. Here go my vice president, blessing him with a dividend check.  Thanks again, Tony, for all you do.   Blessing to you all. Good night. Hey, now, Keyleth, you something else.  Let her hit the lottery or something. Even though I'm saying I won't believe in a lottery, but I'm running low at moving your life some kind of way. Fitness mom, asking the question for King. I can't get past men commenting on my body within the first few minutes. I'm a mom so I don't wear a booty shorts or anything, workout clothes mostly. I'm automatically turned off. What am I doing?    You know, it's just a compliment. When a man come up to you and he just go to give you a compliment about your body, the way he can't help himself, that just let you know that it's just otherworldly in his eyes. And it also mean that he honest. As long as you know that he can't touch your body without being your man, then that's all you got to worry about. But you can't get offended unless he come at you just disgusting, you know.  It's just something he can't help, you know. So don't be too sensitive about it because it's the same thing for some men.  And, you know, if he got offended by that, like, man, that's the only thing you care about. I remember when girls used to get mad at me in school.  That's the only thing you got. I was like, hey, man, mistreat me. This is how the Lord made me. So, you know, it could go both ways. So I wouldn't worry about it. Super chat is for Miss Gaskins. Hey, I'm gonna bless her with it. Lord, hold me to it. Have a blessed weekend and I am enjoying the audio book and I do plan on getting a hardcover for the household. Hey, God bless you. Thank you, thank you. I really appreciate that ratio. Renora, hey, bless you. Pour out in a light, bless you. Emotional intelligence, please advise where to start.  With emotional intelligence, you taking, you pause, you think about what you're about to say or what you're about to do, and then you do the opposite.  So you have to understand that. So, and I'll give you an example of how emotional intelligence can work out. Hold on right quick. Jasmine, God bless you. Hey, Tony, what advice do you have for single women with no children, dating men with children? My advice would be, make sure you're not his daycare. Make sure you're not his daycare. Make sure that he taking care of his children and you can see that they taking care of and that when they need something, they mama there or they grandmother there. Make sure that he's not recruiting you to be a daycare director. And that's what a lot of men with children do is they're just, they're looking for a woman to be a daycare director. So that when they got their kids, they put it on this woman because they know she has a nurturing nature. Now what I was saying about the emotional intelligence is I used to be the type to where something going wrong, I'm going off. I'm going off quick.  You hear me? You know who you talking to? Listen here.  But I've got to the place to where I go and then I sit down and I'll be cool, calm and collected. I could read and man left to right, let them know where they went wrong getting all this. And I recently got $9,000 worth of service done for free because I was emotionally intelligent and I talked like I had some sense. No, Jessica, I don't have a video on it because it's not really my lane to be speaking on that there, but I'll do what I can when I can.  Pour out in a light, Lord. Married 25 years, feel like we're roommates. I can understand it. Have an eight year old daughter. I have leveled up, educated, no romance, et cetera in the marriage. I have discussed with him. He does not want divorce, good provider, but I want a loving romantic marriage. Thank you. Kimberly, when it comes to marriage, what you're going to have to do is do about four sessions or less with me so that we can really talk about it. Marriage is something that's real deep and you can't really apply a blanket statement to marriage. I can't really generalize with marriage. And marriage is so real, it's something that you really want to fight for. If it was your boyfriend, I'd say, just take on off.  Now, what it sounds like he's going through and there's some time you got to seek to understand then be understood. So what you're going to have to do is you're going to have to start sitting down by him and just asking him a question. So how was your day today? What did you do? And then let him answer and then ask him the next question. Ask him the next question. Ask him the next question. Talk to him like he the most interesting man in the world. What that's going to do is start to stimulate his mind and then you're going to start to be able to see where he's at because he's either going to open up or he going to get snappy and shut down. If you get snappy and shut down, that's when you got to look a little deeper because that's when you may have to check that iPad, check that cell phone, look in the glove compartment, pop up at a job, look in that desk, see if he got a back phone at the job. See, that's when, if you being nice and you asking questions and he go to snapping, that's when it could be another woman or a nasty movie because now with these sights, all these different little nasty sights, a man could get so wrapped up in that to where he's sleeping with his fantasy through Angela. See, Angela is the tool and then he got oil or some lotion or he barehandled with Angela, but he on this screen with, you know, Bambi XOXO. And you wondering why you don't have a road mask and it's because of Bambi XOXO. Loose booty nine or one that's on the screen. So that's when you kind of got to start looking a little deeper. Or sometimes it is, little Jimmy then went to sleep early. And he's struggling with that and it's affecting his self-esteem. So I understand that. Hold on one second, let me get these.  Lorenza, God bless you. Now, A.E., I'm gonna catch you on here real quick, but these other ones, they'll disappear on me. You have inspired me to start my food blog, catering and coaching business. So although I don't have much right now, I want to show my appreciation and bless you with something. Abundance minded. Hey, God bless you. Lorenza for that blessing. Now that right there, Lord, pour out in our life. Show what you do when you're abundant minded. When I got off here the early of the day, I'm gonna tell y'all about something. When I got off here early of the day, I went to a mastermind group. I got a mastermind group. And you ain't supposed to tell about this kind of stuff and you don't tell about what you do, but it's a teacher moment. That's to help y'all about abundant minded. I come on here and y'all bless me. And I got off here, I went to my mastermind group. If anyone of them in here, they can attest to it. And I say, I want to send y'all a blessing. And send me a cash out. They all sent me, they cash out. I sent them all $100. And when I got done with that, I wrote my family. I say, I want to treat y'all a lot to some takeout tonight. Now, I may say you be safe, you don't get that 19 in your food, but, and I sent my sister a hundred dollars, I sent my mom a 50 dollars. And that's how I do. Sometimes my wife will look at me like I'm crazy, but I believe in thinking abundantly because see when you give, and you give from a good place, you ain't giving for a return, but a return gonna come because it's a universal law. So when you give, it's giving back to you, press down, shaking together and running over. And when people look at how blessed I am and how favored I am, the one thing that anybody who know me can say is Tony got a given heart. And that's the one difference that is between me and anybody else I meet who is not blessed and highly favored on the level that I am is our heart different. Some people selfish and some people jealous. And when you selfish and jealous, you block all of your blessings because you can't receive blessings when you selfish and jealous. Now, when you bless me, I don't necessarily need the blessing, but the reason why I don't turn it down is because I understand that if I turn it down, I'm blocking your blessing because your harvest is in your seed. So you got to plant your seed in order for you to reap a harvest. And that's why people cash out me $1. I don't send the dollar back. I accept the dollar and I pray over and say, Lord bless and pull out in their life because that dollar, $100 gonna end up coming back or $1,000 gonna end up coming back. So my wife used to look at me like I'm crazy, but now she don't question my giving cause she see how God be pulling out and blessing.   Hi, brother Tony, I don't believe in coincidences. I believe that your videos and your recent book A Woman's Influence has caused my broken heart to heal. Note, 72 hours equals three days for Jesus' death and resurrection. Anyways, continue blessing. Hey, God bless. I ain't even put that together now. I ain't even put that 72 hour rule. I ain't even put that together. You tie that thing on together now. God bless you. God bless you. Caramel, no, my mentor is the code for the life coach certification on tonigasinthacademy.com. On tonigasinthacademy.com for those of you who wanna become a life coach. The coupon code is my mentor. I appreciate you, Caramel. A, Caramel and share. Two bella, be help me out. Natural girl, God bless you. Single mom who shares custody with my four year old's dad. Trying to rebuild my finances and professional life from job loss and debt. Will I still attract a financially stable man who's successful? You can if your heart is in the right place. And if you are ambitious and you working.  But a man don't care how broke you is, as long as he see that you ain't waiting on no handout. If you willing to work, and that's the problem with a lot of people, is a lot of people don't wanna do what they got to do. But if you got to work in a call center for $10 an hour, if you got to do temp work, whatever you got to do, as long as you show on, if you got to start to a business on Etsy or Shopify selling t-shirts, as long as you showing that you have some ambition and a go getter about you, a man ain't worrying about your money. You can make a dollar hour, he don't care. Thank you for being a blessing to all of us, Tony. Sherry, God bless you.  Thank you for all you do. You have helped me understanding men in their wrong boy ways.  Let me grab this question from fitness mom, fitness mom looking out for somebody for Beverly Johnson.  And I believe that you getting some blessings in some kind of way for you to keep doing this cause you be doing this every time you on here. So, hey, bless you. Just found out that my boyfriend of three years has been cheating on me. The worst part is I saw it. He acted just like he didn't care. Why do men act that way? Did he ever love me? He love you like the rug on his floor. That's how he loved you.  That's how he loved you.  And that's the cold reality that you gotta wake up to and smell that Folgers in the morning and go on about your life because he's showing you.  And what he did, he gonna reap what he sow because while he chasing wild tail, he out here chasing wild tail, loose booty, he gonna meet his match. And that woman gonna dog him out. You hear me? That woman finna do him nasty.  He ain't gonna be able to do nothing about it. Jessica, God bless you.  I bought my family a little dog. Is that my office dog standing up on her hind legs looking at him?  Jessica, how did you evolve to this higher level of thinking regarding emotional intelligence? Did you follow someone in particular?  I'm telling you what I follow. Okay? The person I follow is Jesus Christ. Ooh, you don't wanna hear that. Y'all don't wanna hear that. I follow Jesus Christ. And so when I what I did is I read the holy Bible and I studied the life of Jesus and Then after reading about Jesus I went on through the New Testament up until the book of revelations and I learned about the characteristics of Christians and I learned about being the Bible say be slow to anger The Bible say love your neighbor as you love yourself See the Bible say when you give it'll be given back pressed down shaking together and running old See the Bible say don't cover it the Bible say don't lie the Bible say don't steal the Bible say don't kill See when I read all of this stuff and I started to live it I realized that it is the bi BLE basic instructions before leaving earth So when I put that in action I Realized that this the guidebook for life When you get you a new product when you get you something new it have a user's manual The holy Bible is the user's manual for humans When you read it, it ain't gonna lead you astray if you keep the commandments and you live the way it tells you to live So that is why I am the way I am today and how blessed that I am When you see my business creations like self love you dot com and my mentor dot life and Tonic actions academy calm and character university calm that come from being centered and at peace and Operating under the direction and inspiration of Jesus Christ and a lot of people don't want to hear that because in this world We want to think that's a fairytale, but I'm living proof to let you know it ain't no fairytale It ain't no fairytale I'm trying to tell you I run circles around anybody in business because I got Christ I mean blessed and highly favored.  I'm trying to tell y'all better get with it better get in that holy Bible and start living right The goddess came how to change communication skills When in confrontational conversation, I tend to not say what I feel until after Feel like it's not as effective. Don't want to say the wrong thing want clear thoughts First you're gonna have to help the person you dealing with understand how they need to communicate with you So it shouldn't be confrontational. You need to let the person you know who you dealing with Let them know a don't raise your voice at me a don't use curse words a don't stand up Why are you talking a don't cut me off? So you got to bring it down to a healthy Communication so in my book make it work. I got a whole chapter on communication with a list of rules When you implement that and you teach the person you communicating with how to communicate with you Then that's gonna bless you. Yeah. Yeah black money. God bless you.  He said he needed to see my smile We shared pleasantries at the park while watching my dogs and then he went home. What was that about? What it was about is he should have been doing that when y'all was together So now you can't give them credit for doing that after you didn't left them. That's your ex So what that was is that soul tie? Had him like this Let's see that's old time. That's old time had him like this right up and when that soul talking like this He got to come see you The loosen up that soul time when y'all hear me say his soul tie strangling them That's what I'm talking about and that soul tied and got so tight on him He can't think he can't breathe. He can't live because he need that fix from you because see your energy your conversation It releases chemicals from his brain So it give him that dopamine release that serotonin release and so when he missing that he got to come back and get that fix That's why a lot of times. It's not love. It's an addiction to the person And the feeling that we got from being in their presence and that's what we call a soul tie Jessica best advice ever. God bless you. God bless. I can't remember what I said to you And I've been told I overanalyze how do I know if it's true or just a tactic if the person who you analyze Analyzing telling you you overanalyze then it's a tactic If a friend or a family member telling you you overanalyzing about something you talking to them about Then that's when it's true If you talking to them about something else now see me I overanalyze I overanalyze a lot and but I know when I'm overanalyzing But sometimes you can't convince me. I'm wrong Renita Cove Hi bought the burp your book course. I'm dating a pal egg. Thank you for that. God bless you I'm dating a pastor, but we met Right before my then boyfriend Proposed marriage after three months Because my ex is his drummer We are in secret to protect integrity bad news That sound definitely that sound messy to me that sound messy to me now The cash and now that sound messy to me. I'm gonna tell you that though Because it's it's too many women in the world for him to be dating his drama ex-girlfriend and he the pastor That nasty to me. That's nasty. That's just too much Concoction too much crossing other waters. And so me personally I really don't I Really think y'all in the wrong. I don't think God gonna move like that Not in the house of the Lord not in the house of the Lord I don't think God gonna pass no woman around in the house of the Lord Past the woman from the drama to the pastor. I don't think God is in that I think that's y'all lust and I think that pastor nasty and that's something he's doing for for power He might have heard something from the drama By that aquafina down there and not pastor want to get him a dip so yeah, I don't really trust that and jelly Tony God bless and jelly Tony. Thanks for the video on co-parenting with a complicated ex It really spoke to me Dealing with my current situation when the co-parent is a boy in blue How do you go about placing your boundaries? Well, see when it boy in blue You actually got more Leverage because you can let him know.   Thank you for your content. I am only 25, but I wish I had info like this much earlier Just finish a woman's influence. I needed this knowledge.  I'm glad that you were able to get this knowledge. Hey y'all. I got about 24 minutes on here now 24 minutes on him trying to get off here look my wife and her face for a few hours before she Fall asleep on it. Oh What are some practical things we can do in quarantine after cutting off a friend's with benefits? To build self-confidence and foster self-love You're gonna have to get the knowledge. So literally do you a marathon? Why are you cleaning while you cook and be listening to videos? Be listening to videos of your favorite teachers and it's just gonna fill you up It's gonna restore you when you tired of listening the video listen to some music good music Now that booty-shaking nasty fornicate music put you some gospel on Some contemporary Christian music put you something that's got some good lyrics to it That's gonna fill your spirit up now. See what this knowledge is gonna do is this gonna replace the old It's gonna replace the old knowledge that you thought you had and It's gonna renew you because when you replace old knowledge with new knowledge Knowledge is power because it builds confidence. So that's what you're gonna need to do in this time Harriet God bless you. How do you build the courage to record yourself on IG and YouTube to speak your truth. I have a hard time recording myself You can't record yourself unless it's your calling Unless it's your calling. It's your purpose. You want to do it to help people That's where I do it because I'm shy. I've seen anybody meet me in person. I'm shy I really don't say two words the people who know me In my city from from my kids sports my kids school They probably see me on here and be like, who is that? Who is that person? He don't say a word. Well, nobody hear me say a word at my son kid soccer games at the school They don't hear me say a word any time so only time somebody got a hill song from me And when you try one of my family members and I got to come get you I got to come read you to feel Head to toe left right and similar that's the only time somebody gonna hit me say something but other than that I don't say a word and so for me This is my purpose and that's where I get the strength and the courage and the energy to do it But I'll tell y'all a little secret. I don't watch any of my videos When I do it, I can't remember what I said and I don't go back and watch it I don't listen to it study it to see what I said right or wrong. I Couldn't do it. I can't do it. That's why I don't edit my videos because it probably never go up Pretty energy. God bless you Working on a business plan and a name for my business any advice on where to go tools to use You only need a business plan if you're looking for funding if you're gonna get a business loan Other than that that plan don't really matter because it's just for you So you just write out your notes on what you want to think about and as far as your name You could watch videos on that you could look at names of other companies, you know and and get the knowledge there But don't don't think too much on it. Don't think too much on it. Thank you share. Thank you somebody say I'm a Comedian I won't be telling no jokes so that let me know I always tell y'all if you laugh at anything I say that means your spirit in the right place Is my donation showing up for the book? I tried to do the donation on this live, but I don't see it. I Also email support this morning. I didn't get an email back. I wanted to donate one book Well, it's Saturday. So support really don't work on Saturdays and Sundays So it might not be till Monday that you get an email back, but um, I Did feel like I saw your name up here on the donation, but Yeah, you should get an email back by Monday though Once Tony answers your question and you ask like he didn't answer I will feel like you are a trolling Hey, I'll be listening to Caramel now. So y'all got to be listening while y'all posting a question over and over and over and over and over now Um, I think what it is sometimes is this a lag on the video So I'd be the answer to it and they listen and it's behind as a coach How do you deal with challenging personalities of those who've spoken negatively to themselves for so long? They are hard to encourage keep working with them or pass to another pro Sometimes I'll pass coaches to another pro, you know, I pass them to my dad a lot of time because my dad is he's much more patient than me and Much more emotionally intelligent than me. So if a client is too much for me, I'll pass them to him and Because yeah, I struggle with that as well somebody who they just got money So they just pan but really ain't trying to grow ain't trying to learn They just want to talk about their problem, but don't want to solve their problem That is very annoying and it's hard to do and I used to fire clients, but then my dad started telling me he said listen son Longer they willing to pay for your time Then let them do what they feel they spirit need to do because eventually they're gonna get it So I start to realize it ain't about me and how fast I want them to grow Everybody growing their own pace and as long as they're not taking advantage of my time and they honor and that I'm a professional I'll take a little more time to work with The toy park. No, I didn't see that one. I didn't see that Alicia. God bless you I saw that Sometimes if it comes in the chat like if you do it as a sticker I don't see it because it goes in the chat and then it might I see pretty energy Right there with a blessing bless your pretty energy I think that's what that said See Harriet Yeah, sometimes I don't see them if they go into the If you do a sticker, I think they have a super chat and they got stickers So yeah, sometimes I don't see The stickers Let me see I'm looking for a question on here. Hi, Tony. I got your book in audio I sent my sister your video on riding die check. She got offended We don't talk no more She's still holding on to her deadbeat husband. How can I help her just keep loving her keep loving her keep supporting her keep sending her the truth Let her get offended Apostle Paul in the bible says sorrow leads to repentance Miss Jones god bless. I thank god for you. Tony. I bought a woman's influence You helped me realize I expected my fiance to love me the way my dad did and that isn't realistic The burden has been lifted off me and my fiance. Thank you so much. Hey God bless. I'm glad that you that you got that Um, love to see me do comedy. I'll probably be terrible at comedy because I don't know how to write jokes or tell jokes Everything I say on my video. It come off top of my head. I couldn't I probably I couldn't write a joke to save my life Hey, I'll see y'all trying to get a blessing to some of the blessed tribe members. God bless y'all for that God bless y'all for that Well, look like I don't see any questions unless I'm missing it. Simply Pete. God bless you. What's your name? Simply Pete. God bless you. What's your thoughts on casual dating for people who don't want to be in a relationship? Don't casual date Don't casual date the the purpose of dating is to be in a relationship So if you ain't ready for no relationship, it is no sense in creating a soul tie No sense in creating a soul tie Because it's nothing casual about dating because see while you dating you could bump into somebody that's cuckoo for cocoa puffs So you bump into this person and you just want to be casual and this person might You know be somebody That got screws loose and now why are you out there just playing? They serious and not not your life on the line So you cannot play with dating because when you dating You're dealing with the heart and never play with the heart Why do you recommend llc versus s corp?  No marriage is more so like a sports team You know you you teammates It's more so like a a joint venture It's not like a business because see you sometimes with business Business is just about money Sometimes business is just about the goal at hand and you Doing business with somebody that you dislike just because they help make you a lot of money But see with marriage you can't be enemies behind the line You got to be teammates instead of being opponents. And so marriage is you can't see marriage like a business Per se, but you can't see yourself Like a business like a brand just meaning like you're not going to merge with somebody That's not an asset. You're not going to merge with somebody. That's a liability So in that sense, yes But in the sense of like just doing it just for the sake of put pooling your money together Or just doing it just for the sake of financial security or just to have a warm body Then no don't do it for that reason LT or it god bless you hi, tony. I met a man online The first video chat I had with him. He showed me his johnson He told me if he didn't show any physical attraction for me I should be worried is that normal should I move on you ought to move on 100 you got to move on You got to move on rat nine.   You will be chopped up in a little piece and be in a deep freeze or somewhere You hit me.    He yells at me and calls me out my name He says it's because I make him upset and he's stressed out. Should I leave him or stick it out? Leave his butt.  You can't play with a man.  That's really why he's stressed Somebody in there wearing it behind and so he's taking it out on you. You can't play with it If a guy choose the FaceTime to have a combo is that a sign that he is interested? Not I mean it's a sign, but it don't also don't mean a whole lot Sometimes guys just want to look at who he talking to and that could just be the freak in them He just could be nasty, but he don't have to FaceTime you so I wouldn't read any more into that than him calling you on the phone Bears Drop the phone and run that last rant was ridiculous.  I don't receive many blessing from the brother Delaney for god bless you. Hey, Tony. I've heard your messages about men Who don't want a serious relationship? But what do I do to separate my feelings? Can we still be friends?  Nope.  Thank you for that. Thank you for that blessing for that support We need to start a book club y'all with tony gas and books That'll show enough be a blessing that y'all starting a book club now go and get on there Do with some more q&a um Stephen moo God bless you my ex did drive one and a half hours every week to see me while dating tony I left his butt because he lied about some serious stuff and he is immature Thank you for explaining fitness mom. I need your cash out, please Hey, thank you and and hopefully fitness mom's still on there and give you that cash out Tony, what does your mom think about your ministry? She love it, you know, she just she baby keep on going baby. Keep telling the truth She she try to chime in sometimes and she'll tell me stuff That video too long. Ain't nobody gonna watch our long video. Don't nobody do a video that long and I say mama Hush No ye not What god has called me to Like jesus told married woman. No ye not that it's not my time. I have to tell my mama sometime No ye not what god and call me to I say this is what I do I said, just because you ain't got time to watch our long video because you raise me don't mean somebody else Don't need an hour long video So but she support me though. She's one of my biggest supporters And um, she don't say too much now because she don't want to cut that check off because she know I'll be sending her some blessings and she know if she if she get on my bad side I got I get distance I create this I create distance from anybody Not in a negative or spiteful or hateful way But anybody who come the block what the lord got me doing They'll get put on on hold You know a don't get in the way of the lord work So keep your opinions to yourself. So she's supporting it all quay god bless Soon to be ex-husband is a pen pal now. He wants to reconcile after he cheated multiple times three kids Divorce question mark 12 years three years married how to co-parent if divorce still begs not to divorce Uh gone gone divorcing. He done broke. He done broke You know the marriage vows in the bible and in real life, you know outside of the bible He done broke the marriage vows. He cheated multiple times. That's the key word multiple times when somebody cheat multiple times That's a habit. Okay. That's not a mistake. You got a mistake. Then you got a choice Then you got a habit He got to get left the other red flag in here is that you're all together 12 years But only married three years So that mean he never wanted to marry you to begin with he never saw you as his wife But just ran out of options because he was a sorry man And and realized anybody else going to put up with his mess except for you So nine years in he married you So he married you as a last ditch effort a last resort And then still took you for granted and cheated on you multiple times So you got the gone about your business gone about your business.  Hey god bless I really appreciate that. I really appreciate that Please give more detail on why men won't wait for a divorced single mom of one Young child. I'm working on building new income streams Though I struggle with letting go Of the cakes I don't know what you mean by letting go of the cakes Um, I say the reason why a man won't wait on a divorced single mom of one Is unless you are his wife unless you are his dream And when you say wait, you mean wait until marriage because what that means is this whether this what i'm saying Is that you say you struggle with letting go of the cakes or maybe you mean okay sleeping with him um What I mean is If you have children You being abstinent don't make sense to a man.  I think we won't make it. Is it okay for me to keep talking if I plan to move and then cut ties Um Well, why are you doing that man?  When you can love as if you've never been hurt before You are healed my daddy taught me that when you could love as if you've never been hurt before So what that mean is you don't go into your next relationship given the person Two strikes when they ain't even stepped up to the plate yet I struggle with cakes like ashable cakes Okay, okay, like eating cakes you try is you saying you're trying a little weight Uh With the cakes or you struggle with baking cakes, you know, you got me a little lost Advice, please s o s o god bless god bless advice Please for those of us who do not want to wait till marriage to have But are dating with the intention of marriage That's like gambling When you go in and you don't want to wait until marriage just understand you taking a gamble And sometimes when you gamble you lose your shirt Okay, so I I took that gambling For several relationships.  Thanks tony for the work you put in To pour wisdom into our lives you allow god to use you to expose the truth that we otherwise wouldn't know god bless you and your family Yeah, I thank you so much and thank you for that blessing. Hey y'all god bless y'all I got to get going try to relax my body now tomorrow at 9 p.m. Eastern is the normal Is the normal Q&A for the bless tribe these here I do on Saturdays is Bonus Q&A's the bonus Q&A's um Sheila your first book should be on your coaching category Which also could be your experience in life because even if you telling your experience in life you tell a story and make a point So hey god bless y'all. I really appreciate it um Sonya that's fine But you got to realize if you break up with your man that you meet at work Work's trying to be a hard place to be up to be at so don't don't do that unless you're gonna marry the person And y'all listen to share when she say rate the book y'all five stars So if you bought a woman's influence now make sure you go where you bought it from and give us a five star review And I'll be reading them five star reviews and I really appreciate you god bless you And we'll talk soon I'm gonna phone about to die on me You


This is the state of the state of Hawaii. Welcome to the show. I'm Stephanie Stoldalton, your host for this show. And our show title is Hawaii's student achievement lowest due to COVID. And the reading and math learning is deeply declined. So we have some serious topics to discuss this evening. And we're going to lead off with finding out about the current assessments by Hawaii's State Department of Education and by the U.S. Department of Education that reveal COVID's drastic impact on American students learning. And Hawaii's plan with federal resources to regain students achievement. So we have actually two topics to cover. So the learning condition of students and then the resources that are there in a generous amount to make a difference for them to restore Hawaii's education and student achievement. Well, Hawaii's own published school data reports indicate that there is serious and significant learning loss among elementary and secondary students. Hawaii Department of Education reports that up to 53% of elementary students and over 61% of middle school students tested one or more grade below level in English language arts. And in math, more than 60% scored below their grade level. Now Hawaii's serious learning loss that is reported in Star Bulletin and other texts is affirmed by the U.S. Department of Education's peak new first look at with just released data from an assessment known as the nation's report card. And that national data showed the largest declines observed in 50 years of administering this assessment in the nation's student achievement. And for Hawaii, for example, that means that a nine-year-old student typically a fourth grader had a larger slip in reading and language arts in 30 years. And it was also showing that there was the first decline in math scores ever. So to make up this loss of learning in our state and across the nation, the U.S. Congress over the past two years has been trying to provide the resources to make schools good again and open them up again and make them safe, which is what I mean by good. And they have done all of this for all the states. But for Hawaii, this state has received close to in total over the two years a billion dollars for educators to use to keep students healthy and safe and to recover from the pandemics learning losses and to soothe their social and emotional wounds, if not repair them. So this show is about recognizing our students' academic and social emotional conditions, which are very sensitive and serious, and trying to understand how the state plans budgets and operationalizes the generous one time federal funding to restore student learning and family confidence in the schools and teachers. And we have a knowledgeable guest here tonight to discuss how Hawaii addresses this formidable and daunting task. And Dr. Sherry Nakamura is director of the non-profit advocacy group, the Huey for Excellence in Education, or the HEA coalition. She follows in this work with her organization, Hawaii's governing agencies like the Department of Education Legislature and the Board of Education and others as they plan budget and operationalized approaches to improve schools' capacity to restore and assist the students' learning. So welcome, Sherry, to the state of the state. Yes, thank you, Stephanie. I'm so happy to be here again. It's a pleasure to have you. And I know that you have been quoted many times in Star Bullet Tendon Civil Beat, and I did find a quote where you said, we would like to see the money get down to the schools as soon as possible. So I thought I'd ask you, what have you found out about that in your tracking and studying of what the state's doing to make that happen? And how is it happening? So can you start off with telling us a little bit about that? Right. Well, maybe I can go from sort of our data in Hawaii. The available data looks at pre-pandemic smarter balance assessment. That is the summative assessment that measures a student's proficiency from one year to the next. So because of COVID, we missed a year, 1920, 2019, 2020, but we do have results from 2018, 2019 and 2020 and 2021. So you can imagine for English, language, arts, and math and science, all students' proficiency declined. All students. I heard you say all students. Yes. But for the subgroups, which are economically disadvantaged, students receiving special education, English learner, and certain ethnic groups like native Hawaiian students and Pacific Islander students, in some cases, the decline was greater. So they declined further than all students. So we did have decline and it was more widespread in particular in math and science from pre-pandemic to post-pandemic. So it is true. The federal government has provided close to a billion dollars for recovery, for health and safety, as well as to address learning loss. And plans have been made and shared with the Board of Education. But we find that a lot of these plans are quite broad in general. And we're not quite sure exactly how these funds are being utilized at the school level. And we're not sure whether or not there's progress being made. So this is the kind of transparency we continue to ask the Department and the Board. To the Department's credit, they do provide monthly financial statements. So we can see how the monies are being expended. It's just that the categories are so broad that we're not sure exactly what is being done in these broad categories and whether or not specific strategies are being used to target the subgroups that have been disproportionately impacted by the pandemic and whether they're helping or not. Well, I saw that the Department is required to provide the Board of Education. That's where the report goes with a monthly expenditure report. Well, actually, it is on the Hawaii Department of Education website. If you do a search for ESSER data and information will come up about the federal funding. And there is a tab or link that says monthly expenditures. So you can go in and see a financial statement. And you can see what is budgeted and you can see what has been expended and you can see the balance. But the categories I mentioned are very broad. So for example, you can say complex area plans and it could be in the tens of millions of dollars for health and safety. And maybe a million dollars have been expended. So you really don't know specifically how these funds are being used. And so we keep, again, we as an advocacy organization continue to ask the Department, you know, can you be more specific? We'd like more granular information about how the schools are utilizing these funds specifically to target learning laws. Well, is the report aligned with like the budget or a plan? Or does it stand alone? What what is how is it? Yes. Okay, yes, I know what you're asking. So the schools every year create academic and financial plan for themselves. So each school does an academic and financial plan based on their students and their community. And I think that has that process has been going along, you know, pre, during and post pandemic. And we're still in a pandemic. But this process has continued as is. But then the federal funding has been supplemental. So you would hope that the continual or the the plans that have been there throughout or have been had a consistent process would align with the federal funding plans. It's not, I'm not quite sure if they are, it seems like the federal funding did add another layer. And my understanding is the schools and the complexes had to come up with a federal funds plan, how they were going to use these funds. And I would imagine in some cases there is an alignment, or there was an alignment, and some cases perhaps. So are you saying that that report is not it is not designating the funding source that these are these are the department's allocations from the state. And then this is the federal funding. And yeah, the way they they're reporting it is the federal funding is a standalone source. And they're utilizing this standalone source for various initiatives. So it's it is, I think you can think of it as separate, even though we would hope that it would be aligned with the normal process of how a school does its academic plan and budget. So a parent can go on and find S or ESSER is the acronym for that elementary and secondary. They could, but it's not that easy to find. So actually, a parent could find the academic and financial plan for each school. That's on one part of the website. But then the ESSER plan and funding is in another section on the website. So you do have to have some knowledge. It's not like one page where you can easily navigate. It's it's actually quite complicated. Well, it said that there's also a narrative that is due with it. So it says from what I read about what was required that it had the financial plan and then the narrative. Does it have a good narrative? I should have looked at it. I didn't get a chance. But so is there enough narrative there to help a reader know what it's about? Well, the department did create a academic and financial plan. Actually, it was the board that directed the department to do this. The department at first came with a financial plan, which was difficult to understand. And so the board told the department, you know, this is hard to understand. We need an academic plan. So how you are actually going to or what is your plan for providing health and safety, ensuring health and safety, and also addressing learning loss and a corresponding financial plan. So the board directed the department to do this. And the department fulfilled that request. They did create a plan with the financials. And the board did approve it. Now, we're not quite sure if they just created a narrative to match the financial plan that they had initially, or whether or not they truly created the academic plan and then connected the financials that would be needed to execute the academic plan. So that that we're not quite sure, but the department did come up with this plan. I would say that it was still it is still difficult to understand exactly what the department is doing at the school level. So once again, they have very broad strategies. So I can name these strategies. You know, there's four of them. One is healthy. One is healthy habits, healthy schools. The other is action oriented decision making. The next one is responsive capacity building. And the last one is effective academic practices. So all right. So those are the four system wide strategies. Correct. And but those are very broad. So we would like to know. So for example, action oriented decision making, action oriented decision making, what specific actions are, is the system or schools executing or performing to really target some of our struggling subgroups? I mean, that's the kind of information we would like to know. We haven't heard specifically what schools are doing. Or for example, if there's a particular school or schools that are using effective data driven actions that are really addressing all students or students who are economically disadvantaged or the subgroups, we would hope that the department would be able to identify some of those and maybe be able to share them. Or maybe they would look system wide and see what common issues came up with respect to the pandemic. We hear about social emotional mental health issues. I would imagine, you know, even though students are individual, perhaps there would be common issues regarding engagement. We would hope that the department would look at the system or have a systematic way of identifying some of these issues and solutions so that we could utilize our resources in the most effective way, you know, a systematic way. But because we don't have this kind of detail, we don't really know what to make of these strategies. And, you know, it could be that each school is doing what they think is best for their own situation, which is fine. It's just that we don't have unlimited resources. We have limited resources so that, so we would hope that the department would make the best use of the limited resources that we have. And we think that that is just having a systematic way of, a systematic approach to addressing the effects of the pandemic. Well, I found, I had another descriptor in here that is supposed to be given to the board, which is a quarterly educational metrics report. Yes. That contained in, have you seen that? Yes. Well, so this is really interesting. Yes. A department was required to do that. And they have presented to the board the beginning of the year and the middle of the year report. So every school is supposed to have what they call a universal screener. And you mentioned that data, you mentioned the data from the screeners at the beginning of the show, where I think you quoted that, you know, certain amount of percent of students are not on grade level. So the screeners are able to assess students and this information is produced. So I've only seen the beginning and the middle of the year. I think when I looked on the website, they did update it for the end of the year last year, but they never presented that to the board. So it's on the website, but there wasn't a presentation to the board. So, you know, and, of course, the data on the website, like if I was a parent and I just looked at this data, it is hard to make sense of what the data is saying without a narrative or maybe looking at across years or some kind of explanation. So it is true that the department is posting the information as required, but I think stakeholders like a coalition is really wanting a narrative and an explanation of what the department's analysis is of this. You know, if we would like to know is, by looking at these interim, you know, snapshots, is the money that the federal government has provided as a supplement really helping? We can't really tell, unfortunately. So one would expect then to have that the educational metrics report that those metrics then would be reflecting the criterion that everybody's trying to reach like improvement in English language, arts, or math issues. So those are all different, right? There's no district-wide metrics that everybody's trying to meet and who is and who isn't. Yeah. So how does that work? Yes. So this is, I think I mentioned this before. So when the department was presenting their plan to the board, a board member asked the superintendent, what are your targets for the use of these funds with respect to these metrics, indicators, academic achievement indicators, or social-emotional learning indicators. And the superintendent said, oh, there were no targets, but rather he just wanted progress. So it turns out that there are targets, although the department has not clearly pointed to them, there are targets that the department has made to the federal government, long-term targets and interim targets. But it doesn't seem like any of those targets were mentioned in the federal funding plan. So to us, without clear targets and goals, it's hard to know if progress is being made because we don't know where we're trying to get to. So that's another question we've been asking the department. Can you clearly articulate what your outcomes, your goals, your targets, even if it's, if they don't think that, even if the targets maybe they're too aggressive need to be adjusted, that's fine. But we think that there needs to be clarity on what they're trying to get to. Because then, I mean, right now, without any clear goals, we're not sure if these four strategies are really helping. Or, yeah, we're not sure if our money is being well spent, I guess. Well, yeah. And I mean, it doesn't sound, I don't want to say it's not coherent, but it doesn't seem like it's hanging together out of a framework of guidance for it. Anyway, it's not comprehensive. Anyway, I wanted to say who's signing off on it? So it's the, so the board asked for it, the department posts it, and that's it. There's no letter on there, dear colleague, you know, this is what you're doing. This is a nice sign off of it because I'm a board member in this. Well, so actually, I think the results from last year's smarter balance assessment will be reported. Usually, it happens in October. So we're hoping that there will be a meeting in October to review the results. Now, one thing that is different this year, this time, is that the board has contracted the National Association of State Boards of Education, the acronym is NASBE, and they're helping the board create a strategic plan. And it's the first time that the board is taking responsibility to create a strategic plan. So there have been some trainings with board members that are open to the public that have been very useful for people like us or advocacy organizations like us, because we're seeing the process being done, you know, in real time. And I am, I believe that in October there will be a session with all of the DOE data, student achievement data. And I think this would be very informative for the public to attend and, you know, pay attention to because hopefully we'll get more, hopefully we'll get more specific specifics on, you know, where we need to focus. Right now, it seems very general, like we know that there's been learning loss and we know that we have these four strategies that the department is utilizing. But we, we believe that we need more specific. So could you say that the four pillars then they're, they're not, and I guess I should, anyway, they are operationally defined ordinarily, those would be operationally defined. And those would be translated into, as you say, those indicators, targets, or and the metrics, then the metrics matched up with them. So that's something maybe they're learning with the NASB work. Well, hopefully we will have targets so that the strategies can work for those targets right now. I mean, perhaps the department internally has these targets, but we haven't been informed about them. Well, it's just good to know that you all are looking there and overseeing what they're doing to, you're not overseeing it, but you're tracking it so that we can make some sense out of it because my other question was about how you tend to look also at other examples of school systems that are similar have features that are of interest to Hawaii's work. Yes, I have been looking at other districts that are similar size to Hawaii. And I do learn a lot from their processes. It seems like the districts are more transparent on their process of how to do a strategic plan, what their goals are, the strategies then tie into how they're, you know, trying to make progress to those goals. So we would encourage the Hawaii Department of Education not to copy because we every district is different, but maybe take a look at those processes so that it's clear to the public and we can make the connections a logical connection on what the department's trying to do so we can better support our students. Yes, that's very good. I also saw that it was reported that the teacher union president was asking about the superintendent Hayashi's role in the process and that he was implying that or maybe directly stating that it was the superintendent's work that brings that money down into the schools and makes things happen more expeditiously. How is that superintendent's role working for the benefit? Well, I do agree with the union in that the superintendent can make a lot of things happen. Again, we don't have all of the details to know and so I guess we are consistent. We want more transparency. We want to understand what's going on at the school level more specifically and yes, we do believe that money should get down to the schools because that's where the students are and the schools are doing the work and we feel that that's where the support needs to be. Well, I noticed in the write up from the feds that these funds, very generous funds, are use it or lose it funds so that you've got to use the funds by the deadlines that they're placing on them. So in other words, the latest one would be September 2024. I mean that's really only two, I mean less than two years away, right? So does it appear to you that they're moving in the direction to be organized and operationalized enough to use all of this money? Well, I just took a look at some of the the last monthly report and for some categories or line items, we are far away from spending down that money. So I'm not sure. We hope that processes are in place to get the monies down to the school level as we would hope. From some of these snapshots of the financials, it seems like we've spent a little money, but that there's still a long way to go for some of these line items. Well, do you think that there's, do you think that there would be any spontaneous ways of, I mean like buying more teachers or buying more assistants for the classroom? I mean is there that, is it moving along really bureaucratically or do you see that there are there open discussions about other alternatives? I think the department has recently hired a couple of deputy superintendents. So now there are three deputy superintendents and I believe it is their charge to help maybe operationalize some of the processes. So we'll see. Maybe on the next time I can give you an update Stephanie and we can continue this conversation. Well, good. I was going to ask you for any recommendation you have for those who are responsible for moving this along and I think you've made several and one of them is about the transparency part of it because we would ourselves teachers and parents and parents would like to go take a look at it and be able to understand what seems to be happening with these funds and how it's going to make a difference for the students. But we're getting out of time and we still have to say, so we will have to say more. Well, I think that our organization continues to advocate for a simple way for the department to communicate to parents and community members on what's going on. So hopefully with our advocacy there will be some streamlining of communication processes so that, you know, for example, we don't have to search the website all over to find the information that we need. Well, and also suffice give some information or build the confidence of teachers and parents who are reporting in the media that they don't see any changes at the school. They don't see where any of this is coming in to make a difference for the students' achievement. So that's a question and they would be well, you could serve them well by giving them some help on getting them. Agree, agree. Yeah. But we're out of time. So I'm your host, Stephanie Stoll-Dalton for the State of the State of Hawaii and we've been discussing Hawaii students' learning loss from COVID deprivations and the federal resources that are here in the state to restore schools and student achievement. And I thank Dr. Sherry Nakamura for discussing these serious education issues in ways that our bureaucracies, agencies, and those responsible are trying to make a difference with the generous funding. We'll join us again in two weeks. Mahalo to all of the viewers and aloha, everybody. 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