Today we're taking a look at the velour versus venom poylines Cobra slice version 5 from 2004 day-tuned Hey guys welcome back to Comic Gettin TV we're all geek culture collides and if you're new to the channel don't forget to hit that subscribe button so you don't miss out on future videos. Today we're taking a look at the GI Joe Cobra slice version 5 from the velour versus venom poyline which is the 20th series of the GI Joe toyline from 2004 this version of slice came with in a two-pack with agent jinx version 2 of agent jinx the packaging also included a velour versus venom comic and product catalog and instructions Cobra slices accessories where a headband soared two knives and instructions as you'll notice with this slice he is a completely brand new body sculpt as previous versions of slice was more look more ninja he had a full face mask that was kind of a mesh netting that looked almost metallic red body suits in the original sometimes it is different colors throughout the different toylines but in this one velour versus venom it's a brand new sculpt the version 6 from 2005 was actually almost identical aside from the date on the bottom of the year on the bottom of the foot as you'll notice on this one it is 2004 hasbro made in china so this is version 5 and you'll notice i don't have any of the accessories for him that's because i got this guy from a garage sale along with several other toys for my son uh it was the only actual gi joe in the bunch so i picked them up so let's go over cobra slice my first introduction to co to slice was during the early 90s when uh there was a gi joe animated series on fox i believe it was uh in that series slice and dice were a team uh they were always seen together in whatever episodes they were in uh the main episode that i remember remember them from was when cobra attacked a great and elementary school in this series uh storm shadow who's normally known as a villain in and works for cobra uh actually turned on cobra and became a joe he had a black and white outfit with a hood uh black mask uh and he was all constantly training with snake eyes and i think that would have to be my favorite interpretation my favorite version of storm shadow as well i just i always liked that uniform on him and i did like uh slices uniform at the time as well uh this as you can see this one is very different he's got the padding on there he's it kind of looks like he's got maybe snake eyes old i mean not snake eyes but storm shadows old uniform old cobra uniform uh with a few few additions he does not have the full the face mask the mouth piece instead he's got goggles on uh he's got the cobra insignia on his chest he's got a strap for his uh sword along with a utility belt and some samurai looking armor on the bottom part uh his his ninja stockings whatever you want to call him kind of a uh kind of a pea greenish look um in the camera and in person it's kind of a tanish uh same with the padding on his gloves uh as i said in previous versions of slice he did have that full face mask which i'll show a picture right here uh so we never really got to see what he looked like underneath uh the dice was very similar only he had um you kind of saw his face but he had like a cloth very difficult to describe but dice was purple uh sometimes blue while slice was red uh dice used uh kind of hooked swords uh while slice i can't remember what weapon he used in that series but as you can see here he's got red stripe down the top of his head um as i said this is a pretty old figure i got him from a remote sale so he does have some paint bleeding uh standard gi joe articulation his head can turn all the way around you want to be very careful doing that though also his arms go all the way around uh up that far down uh he does have a biceps swivel elbow joints uh no wrist articulation uh i think the newer joes do have wrist articulation i could be wrong uh but the older lines do not and it's the same for both uh both arms got waist articulation and there is a rubber band it's still in pretty good condition and then his legs go out about that far uh no thigh swivel you got knee articulation no calf or foot swivel so that's all you get with cobra slice uh his padding does kind of come up it's a uh a rubbery plastic very soft so it doesn't hinder his movements at all so there you have it guys from 2004 version five cobra slice the 20th gi joe series carded in a two pack with agent jinx version two part of the velour versus venom toyline as i said he did come with a hand band a headband sword two knives and instructions i hope you enjoyed this review guys don't forget to hit that subscribe button so you don't miss out on future videos i'm shannon take care


Good morning and welcome to Moments with Melinda. My guest today is Steven Kiernan. Hi, Steven. How are you? I'm great. How are you? I'm fine.  Let me tell my viewers a little bit about you. Steven Kiernan is a journalist, novelist and musician who has won over 40 awards for his life's work. His latest novel, The Glass Chateau, is receiving rave reviews. And today we are going to talk to Steven about his new book. And if we are lucky, he might strum on his 12-string guitar. Right? Okay. All right. I'm ready. So before I get into The Glass Chateau, which Rick and I listened to on Audible, the gentleman who read your book was phenomenal. I'm glad to hear it because I can't really bear listening to it, so I have to trust other people's opinions on it. I'm glad. So I just curious, why can't you listen to it? Is there a reason? It feels really awkward. And I think about how I imagine the sentence is being read. This particular reader, because he was so good at French and German, we chose him, but he's a Brit. And so there's my language in a British voice. And I think, like, am I putting on airs? I don't know. It feels awkward. And his ability to change his voice to sound like the characters. I do a lot of Audible because I don't have very strong eyes. And so I just listen to books a lot. And this was phenomenal. But anyway, so before we get to The Glass Chateau, I want to ask you if your book, Universe of Two, which I absolutely adored, is getting some attention now that Oppenheimer has come out. You know, it has been a little bit. And there are people who loved that book, who've been very kind to promote it. I would have made a lot more noise about it, particularly right when the film came out. But I was on tour for The Glass Chateau and I just could really only devote time to one book that filled my days enough. Because I think the film is excellent. And there's a lot that's really good about it. And I think it is way too much about one guy. And so, so they lost sight of some things. And so, for example, we are supposed to be very upset when Harry Truman calls Oppenheimer a crybaby. Right, we're supposed to be very hurt by that. But I weigh that on the scale of hundreds of thousands of people who died from bombs and the fallout. And there's not a single image of that or mention of that. And I think like, well, maybe it's maybe crybaby is something that he can take. No kidding. Yeah. Okay, well, I just want to recommend your book for anybody who. Thank you. Universe of Two was phenomenal. So I also wanted to ask you if your book, The Curiosity, because I had heard some rumblings might be made into a film anytime soon. So that that book has been under option for, I think, 11 years. Now, it was actually, I had a film deal before I had a book deal for that story. And with 20th century Fox for a while and then entertainment one. And, you know, in the in the wisdom and ways of Hollywood, you know, there's still interest, but I have very low expectation. They got a lot of rebuilding to do in that industry. I'd love it if they made it. Again, The Curiosity to my viewers is a phenomenal book. And I would love to see it made into a film. So, but one of my most I'm just running through your books really quickly with my viewers now because I want to acknowledge them. But one of my most favorite books of yours is the Baker secret. And it's about the young French girl Baker and Normandy fighting to keep her people alive during the Nazi occupation. One of I just loved her character. I just thought she was phenomenal and so strong and beautiful. And so I love that book. Thank you. You know, if I may say, when I usually when I finish a book, I feel like I'm pretty done with it. And Emma, the main character of that book is still with me and I miss her.  And so I miss her. She had a stronghold on me.  So you also wrote two nonfiction books you wrote the last rights about our medical system and the end of life and authentic patriotism covering the unsung heroes of today, helping to solve the world's most difficult problems. And so that was just that was sort of a bridge between my life, you know, decades and newspapers, and getting into the book business and, you know, last rights is just about how we should stop torturing people to get to death and we should love them up to their death. I miss if I didn't say, you know, that Vermont lost one of its champions of dignified end of life care last week with the passing of Holly Miller, who was incredibly generous in and building the respite house in Colchester and in supporting hospice care all over a real a real ally and an angel to this state in a lot of ways. Oh, and the waters family to the I mean they were incredible they I mean, well, yes, well, you know and I actually was going to get in I'm going to get into that a little bit more in our talk a little bit about that because I really want to get in deep with you on that. But for now. I want to return to the glass Chateau. Because it's getting tremendous attention and the reviews have been outstanding. And as I said I did listen to it on audible and fell in love with it. Share with our viewers because you spent a lot of time in France and working on this book and I just loved following you on that trip in your social media posts but what inspired you to write the story about damaged souls coming together to create stained glass that helps them heal and recover from their grief and their trauma. It's a great description of it, Linda and the answer is that you know I started this book very first days of 2021 and, and I really wanted to write a rebuilding story. I think our society needs it I think our hearts needed a rebuilding story. And I looked in American history and I didn't see a good example certainly not in, you know, in the reconstruction after the Civil War. And so I started looking around and when I've been researching the Baker secret in France I'd seen all these pictures of destroyed cathedrals. And when I visited France. All the cathedrals were rebuilt and I thought that's a great metaphor. And so that got me into looking into the stained glass of these, these cathedrals and, and how many different skills it takes to start with sand and finish with art. And, and that was fascinating to me, and I was fortunate to get two fellowships to an artist colony in France so I got to spend months there and see a lot of great glass and see where was made and see the places where the people lived. And, and I thought there is a rebuilding story there and all these men, every character in this book is damaged only one has a physical injury, all the others are emotional and psychological wounds, but they're very deep. They're always carrying concealed weapons they're ready to fight at a moment's notice, all that sort of thing. And yet, when they start making something together, they stop fighting. And they begin to acknowledge that each person has skills that they can contribute. And there's one point where two men are about to fight and a woman says to them before you kill each other. Just take a second to reflect on what you have built already, and what you might build. And I want to say that like 100,000 times over to have people in America, just think of what you have built and imagine what you could build if you could stop fighting with each other. And so, it's not a Pollyanna story, but it is definitely an optimistic way of looking at the difficulties of our times. That's where it came from, kind of big concept first. Did you discover that when you were in France while you were in France did you discover to do this story on stained glass or was it prior to going to France. Well, it's a little of both when I had already started the book and was writing it almost like a fable. And in fact some of the language in the book is very much like a fable. And I happened to be in this cathedral and rest, which is a small city in eastern France and I was there to see the windows that Mark Shagall had made in that cathedral and it was quite an endeavor to get there. And a lot of travel difficulties and all of that and when I walked into the cathedral, you know, it's as long as two football fields and the roof is 150 feet overhead, and the cornerstone says that they started work on this place in the year 818. It was a classic European cathedral.  And as it went along the side, there was a history that was posted on the wall there. And it was that this was the place where after the war, the first place where the officials and military of France met with the officials and military of Germany. And in that day, short version of the story, the German delegation said this used to be the greatest cathedral in the world and where these amazing windows were that's all boarded up and we invite the people of France to go find the best stained glass window makers on earth to replace the boards with beautiful windows and the cost will be borne by the people of Germany. And it was the first step in what they call reprochement. And I thought this is not a fable. If France and Germany can rebuild this exquisite cathedral and the windows they put in first were Mark Chagall's fantastic fabulous revolutionary windows at the back. If they could do that, then we certainly could. Yeah, let's hope so. So I fell in love with your main character Asher. What a what a what an interesting human being he is, but in some ways he reminded me of you. Did you see, did you see yourself in the character of Asher.  No, I saw myself in the character of a 10, who started out with a much bigger role, and then a tennis French for Stephen, you know, and I thought like, and he was this great, you know, character in the first drafts and the more every wrote the book the smaller and smaller his role got but that was where I was trying to put myself in. You know, a man who saw his family killed in the war, and as a result became an assassin for the resistance and, and it's not like shot with a rifle from 200 yards away it's very retail it's arms around the person's throat kind of thing and so he is full of guilt, and he is full of grief, and I thought this is what that nation was like. And, and he has a sense of responsibility and culpability. And so I wanted his recovery to be the first and most important and a 10. He's still up by himself thinking sitting up on the wall and playing with the prism and what it does with light. That's kind of me spacing out and being in my imagination land. I love it. I love it Stephen thank you for that. So, I'm going to want you to read from your book but before I do that I want to ask you this question. Three of your books have been focused on the Second World War University to University of to the baker's secret and now the glass chateau so what is it about this period in history that draws you to it Stephen. I yeah I actually wonder I want to shift that a little bit because my book The Hummingbird was about the Pacific Theater in World War two, a little bit and right, and what I thought is I wrote I wrote three books about the war Pacific theater European theater and Homefront, and then, and then I consider this book starts a month after the end of the war so it's still echoing in people, but I think it's an important time period. Here's why. Let me contrast it with Hollywood. Since 911, Hollywood has had one essential narrative, some super person with incredible moral fiber and incredible powers is going to rescue us from all the evils of the world. And while that has happened there's been a whole literature of World War two. I didn't realize when I started writing this, but there are now many many books about World War two, and there's no great hero there's no great general or president or champion. It's very much the common man caught up in events that are way out or in the case of the baker secret common woman, you know, she's just a 24 year old baker, right, except that she saves her whole community. And I feel like I wanted to tell that story. And so you don't see any generals. And there's mention of a president vaguely in the University, I mean in the glass shuttle, but I want to be a ordinary folk, because I think that's the real response to 911. It's not that some hero is going to deliver us including a president, regardless of which president it is. It's going to be ordinary folk, and the work that they do together. You're here. Well your books do focus on the ordinary people. Have you have you seen band of brothers or the Pacific. I have seen band of brothers and loved it. Yeah, it's fantastic. You should watch Pacific it's done by Spielberg and Hanks, and it's now believe it's on Netflix and it's, I think it's like nine, nine episodes and it's deeply intense and fabulous. Would, would you thank you for that explanation it's really important so would you read for my viewers a little bit from your beautiful book the glass shadow. I'd love to and I want to give it a tense that it's going to be a short reading I promise like two paragraphs, but I want to give a little context.  And I didn't know how, and then I found out that after the war Mark Shagall did that. And by the way, the as my main character asher conceal the fact that he's Jewish until World War two. The person we think it was Mark Shagall was Moisheh Segel from Belarus, and he lived in Hasidic community. And so he can sit concealed into his Jewishness as well. And there were analogies, and sometimes I had like the windows that they made were actually windows that Shagall made that kind of thing. But, but then his great imagination started to creep in to to my thinking, and I let it. I let his imagination because he's such a genius right. So here's a drawing that he did when he was 14 I believe we don't have exact date on it but so you can see, it's a very simple house. There's a man on the roof of the house, and you can see the woman's expression what she thinks about the man being up on the house. Okay, you see that all right. So here's here that came up in a scene where asher has just told a woman that he loves her. And she says don't don't tell me that because I don't because of the war. I don't know anyone who today has what they loved yesterday. So she changed the subject she says tell me a story. And he's the guy that people say tell me a story he can't help but he always does. So she changes the subject. And this is the story that he tells her two paragraphs. His, so his name is Asher her name is Marie. It's one of my first memories. Remember it as if in dim light when I was four or at most five years old. It was a sweltering day, the house stifling everyone complaining. He took a bowl of carrots onto the roof to eat in the shade. Normally he was a serious as a funeral dressed all in black strict about rules and religion. I was frightened of him, though I believe I loved him to in the manner of a child. We heard his shoes overhead. He was having fun up there. I could hear him calling out to anyone passing by. I went outside and peered up at him from the walk.  I can still see the old man's immense beard, pure white against his traditional garb. Asher was surprised at how amused he felt what lightness there was in telling this memory to Marie. When he came back down. There were bits of orange in his beard. It was funny to me side splitting really tiny bits of carrot in the white. Of course, I tried to hide it holding both hands over my mouth. I was afraid to say anything because it might consider be considered criticism when it only meant to be helpful. So I held back behind the door but my grandmother also had noticed. She went right over stood in his way and picked those bits out without comment every one of them. Then she took the ball and brushed him along on his way. Asher did not tell Marie was that this was the love he wanted for his life, where affection was as ordinary as the air. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful stories. This is a beautiful book. Really beautiful story. Thank you for that. So would you would you like to entertain us with a with a little strumming of your 12 string guitar because you're such a beautiful music. Well, let me try it. I don't know how I'll work with the camera and stuff. So give me a second. Okay. I didn't grab the 12 string because I was hurrying because I've been on the phone with one of my sons right before this. So what I have is actually more interesting maybe. This is a different kind of guitar. First of all, it's a baritone. So like a regular E chord on a regular guitar tuning is this. But in this it is because it's tuned a fifth lower. Okay, this is the lowest string. It's like a piano string. It's like a bass string so it's a lot of work for the left hand. And then the middle strings are paired. So this is an eight string baritone guitar. Okay, I'll play a nice little pretty short piece. It's not Steven. I can't hear it. There's something going on. Okay. I think it's working. Okay. Well, you know, I think about the guitar anyway, sound suppression on I've got to figure this out. I don't know if it's you or me but anyway, I'm so sorry but I'm going to tell folks that they should go to YouTube and find your music. Steven Kiernan on YouTube and listen to you. Thank you. You know, one of my one of my albums is on Spotify to Man of Blast. So you can hear it. You can hear my stuff. I've downloaded it on my Spotify playlist and I hear you all the time and I love it. And thank you. Thank you. I love your sons and it's beautiful music so I'm sorry we couldn't listen to that off to figure that out. Now Steven, I want to move into to talk to you a little bit about the state of our world. You have been deeply involved in trying to create a template for Vermont to sustain its way of life. Can you talk about this Steven and what are the core tenants of a healthy democratic society. Well it's interesting because I just this morning finished a piece I'm writing for Boston Globe about book banning in America and the tour that Lieutenant Governor Dave Zuckerman is doing around the state, engaging people in these issues. And it's been very interesting because you know I went to one of them and you know everyone opposed book banning and believes that you know you should be able to choose what your kids read, but I should be able to choose what my kids read you shouldn't choose for me. And that seems to be universal consensus. And yet, in at the Middlebury event, there was one that people were saying there shouldn't even be challenges to books because that that has its own kind of censoring effect people don't buy books or put them on the wall because they want to avoid controversy. And one woman spoke up and she had a very thick accent and she said, it is very important to have the power to challenge. I lived in a place where you were not permitted to challenge and this is a very important thing. And I spoke with her afterwards and she's a Russian professor at Middlebury College who grew up in the Soviet Union. One of the things I believe is healthy in a democracy is challenging and some friction. And one of the things that the book banning brings to mind is how we were not complacent about reproductive rights, but certainly not militant about them, and look they've gone away. And so I think it takes a generation to restore them, maybe longer. And so I think about like the book banning as a conversation about who decides what our culture is, you know, and the fact that it's at libraries. I mean, compare a library with the real source of most of the filth that is out there right now, and what kids can access without an adult curating what they read and see, and, and they are seeing it. So I think that some of that friction is a healthy thing, especially if it keeps us awake. You know, I think we can predict how this presidential election is going to shape up. And I think that the outcome is going to really depend on how much people are paying attention and not feeling and seeing the friction and being part of the friction. And the other thing is, you know, we really need in in Congress, including the Vermont delegation. We need people who have been in positions of power for a long time to move on. Look at the love that has been poured on Patrick Leahy completely deserved. Right. And I can understand him, wanting to stay as the majority leader or the, the appropriations leader during a Trump presidency I understand it. But there is, there was a great line and JFK is inauguration address where he said the torch has been passed to a new generation. That needs to happen. It needs to happen because you can't have a Senate Commerce Committee holding a hearing with Mark Zuckerman and say to him, That is a Facebook. You can't have that.  And I say that not out of disrespect for elderly people. But I think like it will be a healthier thing for our country when we have a different kind of energy, a different sensibility. And I'm eager for it. And as I say, God bless the people who serve Vermont and Washington but it includes our delegation. I hear you. I hear you big time and I think I say it all the time when I'm doing my lecturing that we have to step aside and let young people take over. It's their world. It's not ours. We're moving on. And thank you. Thank you for that wisdom. I had one other thing Melinda drive to two seconds. I want to think you have all the world. Okay, well, I think that you look at the life that you have had and the influence that you have had without being elected. I like now I don't work for it. If our newspapers anymore so I'm allowed to be on boards and get involved in things. Nobody's voted for me, I just participate I'm very, very proud to be part of the Nature Conservancy chapter in Vermont, where our forests are sequestering about 550 million tons of carbon a year. You know, that's real carbon that's taken out of the air. And, and, and I think people are now more than ever sort of worrying about who's president and I remember when it was sort of mattered who the president was but what the people were doing was much more important. And I think that volunteerism and philanthropy in Vermont could be much, much stronger particularly philanthropy. We give much less than the national average per capita to philanthropies even though we have this great nonprofit community. I think it's a big fan of people taking matters into their own hands and solving problems without waiting for the government to do it. Bravo here here. Passing the torch. I'm not running for office. Yeah, right. So I can feel it from you and I've known you many years and so I know that you're deeply concerned about the trajectory of our country. So, so give me a vision of what you think the future will look like for our democracy in the next 1050 years. Well, I think that we're going to be fighting over the Supreme Court for a long time. And it's too bad because I always felt that I was a very reliable branch and I don't any longer. I think that we're going to see ever more hotly contested and more expensive presidential races. The scrutiny of Kennedy candidates is so much on personality rather than policy that I'm not sure what kind of people we're going to see running for office because you have to be some kind of saint. And most of us are most of us are fallible human beings. So I'm not sure. And I think, you know, there's there's a struggle that's happening as we speak about whether or not the Congress is going to continue to be an effective organization or whether it's in the process. So in terms of the government side of things, I'm not super optimistic. There are going to be some challenges, you know, we are we saw this summer all over the country and in Vermont that the climate crisis is underway, and we are not an island that is not going to be touched. You know I was on the book tour and I came home one Sunday, and not only could I not breathe the air. I have a condition where I can't be exercising the bad air, but all the beaches on the Vermont side of Lake Champlain were closed. And you know, and a week later we had floods that did so much damage. And, and you know so we have to be awakened to that too. And I think there are going to be things like that and people moving to Vermont to avoid the worst of climate and I think that's a huge macro challenge that we have not begun to reckon with. There's a lot of challenges. And the question is whether or not individuals will turn off the TV and join something and become part of it and all the data. This is my second book, Authentic Patriotism, all the data says over and over and over. People who are involved in any kind of philanthropic or nonprofit effort are the most optimistic, even if they're fighting the toughest, toughest problems. They're part of the solution. And that's what I hope that's what I hope we have a wave of that. Thank you, Stephen. I want to talk to you about, I mean you were a newspaper man, and you garnered many awards for your work. Are you concerned about the future of a free press in this country. Yes. Long email on Saturday. I'm a subscriber to the Bronson Free Press and have been since 1990. And I got a long email from the executive editor saying that they were reorganizing the cartoons. And it was going to be all these different cartoons and they listed all the ones and you had to be paying attention to realize that they are no longer running Doonesbury. The free press is no longer running it because Gannett is no longer running the only comic in the newspaper that has won the Pulitzer Prize. That's the one they're going to stop. And I think that there's a kind of editorial cowardice behind it. And I've been making a nuisance of myself with Gannett people who are willing to answer my emails. And I know that there are community newspapers where people are doing heroic work for almost no money, and they ought to get more support. I think we're seeing the kind of very well funded and powerful media organizations in my view, insufficiently acting with their mandate. You know, the Vermont public has got like $65 million in the bank, and I want to see it, and I want to hear it. I don't want to sit in the bank. And that's easy for me to say, but if I was on that board, I'd be a pain in the neck, because there's so many. What can we not come up with the money to keep people out of the kid provided people look at me I'm stuttering about it. You kick people out of hotels, and guess what, you're going to have a lot of people who are homeless, walking on church street and gathering in City Hall Park, because they are unhoused. If you give these people a decent place to live, then then some of the problems begin of continuity of security begin to resolve themselves, just because they're placed to live are we incapable of that. Can we not have a media that will shine a light on that like once a week until it's fixed.  And I wish that we had a media that was a little less comfortable, a little less careful with its finances, a little more ambition, ambitious with this coverage. Thank you for that for speaking my mind. Wow. Amazing. Amazing. I just wrote a commentary for look at my hair it's just it's I'm seeing it's I think you did.  I wrote a commentary for Vermont here I hope they run it. It's about that it's about the shutdown and authoritarianism. And I together and it's it's some. So I'm hoping they're going to run it before the shutdown of our government which is looming. And I I'm not even going to get into this election with the with the two with our two candidates but I wanted to get into that because I'm so sort of nervous and sitting on the edge of my chair. I want to talk to you very quickly about hospice and palliative care. You were featured in the award winning documentary consider the conversation and your book last rights which was written in 2006 focuses on the suffering that people experience at the end of their lives. And so I you did mention death with dignity. And I think you that you wrote this because of the suffering that your mother went through. My father my father died in an ICU and yeah we tortured the poor guy for a month that incredibly expensive it was only after about 25 days that we realized he was never coming back. And four and a half years later five years later my mom died at home in her bed with her prayer book in her hand and her pain managed and some of her kids around and it was so much better costs one 10th as much.  It was all heart attack and done stroke and done, and that's not how it is now it's Alzheimer's disease and it's cancer and it is these slow, slow chronic illnesses and it really requires a different approach that is much more supportive of the patients needs, which are not only medical. They're emotional their spiritual, all kinds of things.  And I mentioned earlier somebody who spent a hero of that and the giving people the option to end their lives when they choose. Legally, you know a lot of folks that's very important to them. You know, I'm not going to dictate to somebody else if that's what they choose to do. We have worked that we have worked to do though Melinda in terms of hospice use, we're low in national ranking, we could do better. And, and we'll see what happens now that the main vna of Vermont is part of the via medical center. Hopefully we'll see more people getting hospice care. And intensive care they can be home with her loved ones and the dog is barking and the smell of bacon is coming from the kitchen and there's music playing all those things that make up a life that they should have for as long as they're alive. Here here and I do know that hopefully next year we're going to pass on the legalization of psilocybin therapy which is being used at end of life. I don't think that death with dignity needs to needs to be made more accessible and easier to obtain. So I'm with you on that one. Um, so Stephen, what's next for you now that you've, you're out on the road. Beautiful book the glass shutto and I suggest that everyone pick up a copy. It's everywhere at every bookstore I go in it's like you it's yeah it's done very well so the. The first thing is the what's next most immediately is this weekend the Green Mountain Book Festival in his second year and I'm delighted to be part of that. And I'll be in a panel with some really people a lot smaller than me about this talking about book banning, and I'm going to do the talk about the glass shutto and then I've got another eight or 10 events around the country. And then the touring will be done. My next book. This is going to sound like madness and maybe this but my next book is already finished. And now my editor's desk, and I expect to hear back from her any minute. And what I can tell you is that it is not historical is set in the present. And it is set in Vermont, and it has it's like this kind of adventure story, and underneath the adventure story there's a thing that's happening in the culture that no one is talking about. And that is human trafficking. Who milks the cows in Vermont now, and how we all turn a blind eye to it. And so, we'll see how that goes I had a lot to learn about that one. And the adventure story kind of propels it along, but there's this subcurrent. And we'll see how it goes. It's just starting the editing process I think the goal is to have it out in February of 25, which tells you about how much work remains ahead, which is fine I love rewriting so that's all good with me. You're brilliant, you're brilliant at what you do Steven. I love my job. It's, and it's an isolated job it's I mean I write a lot to and it's very.  You're not surrounded by people and it can be it can be lonely. Without question, sometimes it's it's the most fulfilling thing possible. And sometimes I get I get worked up about something and I find it's been three or four days since I saw another human being. It's not so good. But I guess it's the trade off. I don't know exactly. Well let's just always keep seeing each other now to my view out there this has been beautiful thank you Steven. You can learn more about Steven at his website, Steven Kiernan.com. It's beautiful. So thank you my dear wonderful brilliant friend for God bless you and I love you and I'm delighted to be with you. Thank you so much and to my viewers. I will see you soon. Goodbye.


و أقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزل و أقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي و لا أتأوّاله يغتسل قبل أن يغضو إلى المصالح يوم عيد الفطري عردي الله بن عمر يجب أن يشاوى قبل أن يذهب for the عيد الفطر الأسئلة التي يريدنا أن نأخذها و أن نستبعها من العيد هي الأكل قبل الخروج قبل أن تذهب out and that is specific for عيد الفطري as for عيد الأضحة it is بعد الصلاح after the prayer لكن عيد الفطري is before the prayer و عيد الأضحة is after the prayer and this is based upon the حديث ألمان بغاري نريترين الصحيح and the authority of anis bin umarikin رضي الله تعالى عنه which he said كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم was one لا يغدو يوم الفطري حتى يأكل تمرات the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he would never go out for عيد الفطري unless he ate some dates و يقوله النوتراء and the messenger would eat it in odd numbers he would eat it in odd numbers so you eat before you go to the عيد الفطري and you also and you also have it in odd numbers إن شاء الله تعالى number three is a تكبير يوم العيد you do the تكبير on the day of عيد and this is based on the ayah الله تعالى تعالى he says وَلِتُكْمِلُ الْعِدَّةَ وَلِتُكْبِرُ اللَّهَ عَلَى مَا هَدَاكُمْ وَلَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ that you show and you proclaim the تكبير you say it when the عدة is finished the timing is finished so you وَلِتُكْبِرُ اللَّهَ وَلِتُكْبِرُ اللَّهَ وَلِتُكْبِرُ اللَّهَ you say the تكبير based on that ayah also is it said loudly or does the person say it with a very low volume no the person says it very loud and this is based upon the question الوليد ابن مسلم he said سألت الأوزاعية I asked the owner وَمَالِكُمْنُ الْأَنَسْ and I asked the owner عن اضحار تكبير في العيدان should the person say that عيدان very loud should he say it with a very high volume and he said نعب both of them said قال نعب both of them they said yes and they said رضي الله ابن عمر رضي الله تعالى عنه رضي الله تعالى عنهما عبد الله ابن عمر may Allah be pleased with him and his father he would raise his voice on the عيد الفطري يظهر في يوم عيد الفطري he would come out and he would say high and loud رضي الله تعالى عنهما حتى يخرج الامام he would do this until the Imam would come out he would do this until the Imam would come out number 4 the fourth thing that in sha Allah that I want us to know is التهنئة التهنئة means what we greet one another greeting one another is a sunnah that needs to be followed and this is based upon جبيد من نفيل he said كان أصحاب رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم the companions of the messengers صلى الله عليه وسلم they were ones أصحاب رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم they were ones يوم العيديني إذا التقوا يوم العيديني if they met each other on the days of Eid the companions if they met each other on the day of Eid بعضهم بعضا if they met one another they would say to each other تقبل مننا ومنكم he's been accepted from us our fasting our righteous deeds has been accepted from us ابن حجر رحمة الله and ابن حجر he graded this to be حسن الإمام ابن حجر he said إسناده حسن its chain of narration is حسن حديث الحسن number 5 is التجمل it is to beautify yourself and this is based upon حديث الإمام ابن خزيما narrated in his صحيح on the authority of Jabir رضي الله تعالى رضي الله تعالى عنهما may Allah be pleased with Jabir and his father he said كان للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم it was for the messenger the messenger used to have جبه he had a garment عليه الصلاة والسلام يلبيسوها للعيديني ويوم الجمعة he would only wear it on the Eidain the messenger would wear it specifically on the Eidain and he would wear it on Fridays special occasions it was a garment and the messenger had and he would wear it on special occasions while I'm at this point my beloved brothers and sisters I just want to say that beautification for the women when they go out it's not permissible with the overwhelming majority of evidences that have come that this would lead to fitna so the women should avoid and stay away from beautifying themselves on this particular moment when they are outside so again the women should not beautify themselves on Eid when they go out the beautification should be done inside the household and places where there are no there are no men around number six is اذيهابو الى الصلاة من طريق والعودة من آخر the sixth and final one is that the path in which you take the path in which you take to go to the Eid shouldn't be the path that you take when you come back from it meaning take two different roads I mean two different routes and routes take two different routes when you go to the إيمو صلى and the place of prayer so if you go if it's a masjid if it's an open land then the road that you take don't take that road when you're coming back don't take that same road and the scholars they mentioned the evidence for that is the Hadith of Jabir رضي الله تعالى عنهما may Allah be pleased with him and his father and Imam al-Bukhari narrated in his Sahih that he said كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم that the messenger was one إذا كان يوم عيد if it was the Eid خالف الطريقة the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he would go against the path he would take another route the scholars they said what's the wisdom why would he do that scholars they stated many many many wisdoms why the messenger would do that from the wisdom that they mentioned was he wanted صلى الله عليه وسلم and the earth to intercede for him the day of judgment the earth to speak on your behalf the second is for the people to see the number of Muslims if the Muslims all take one road or a lot of them take one road and they don't take the other road the messenger wanted the companions to be seen he wanted the numbers to be seen so try to follow those six points بإذن إلهي الكريب for this lead إن شاء الله تعالى I hope every single one of you enjoys yourselves anything I have said that was wrong or incorrect is from Mia Shaytan and Allah and his messenger are free from it سبحانك اللهم بحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله أستغفرك أتوب إليك


Before we talk about the kind of behaviors quality men notice in a woman, I think it's important to establish what is a quality man? Because the reality is is there's a lot of people out there that are men, but are they quality men when it comes to dating, mating or relating? And more importantly, are there quality men when it comes to relationship? So I identify a quality man as a man with character, a man who's kind, a man who has got his life in order.  I also believe a quality man is intentional when it comes to the dating process. And what I mean by intentional is that he is desirous of a significant relationship. In other words, a relationship where two people either move in together, get married, or they can live together apart, but they are actually teammates with one another. They are partners with one another. That to me is the illustration of a quality man. Does he have good character? Is he kind? Does he have his act together? And more importantly, is he intentional? However, we've got to even go deeper than that because the real quality man also has a sense of emotional IQ. He has emotional maturity. And more importantly, he has the relationship skills to actually develop a significant relationship with someone. Now, sadly, we do have a significant percentage of men and women who are deeply wounded from childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas. When I said deeply wounded, let me rewind that. They have not, that we have a significant percentage of human beings who haven't healed from childhood wounds and adult traumas that makes it very difficult for them to be in a significant relationship. And because of that, whether it's a man or a woman, it's difficult for them to notice the beautiful qualities within another person if these people are blinded because they are suffering on the inside. You know, I know a significant number of men who are suffering on the inside, they were hurt in their past relationships, just like you ladies have been as well. And many of these men have put up walls that makes it difficult for them to lean into a relationship. This is why if you're in the active dating marketplace, it's important to learn how to vet for emotional maturity. In fact, that's my whole area of expertise as a coach. I help women craft the questions they should be asking in the early stages based on their personality to really uncover, is this person worthy of me giving my heart? And sadly, many of you ladies have a broken picker. So if you need some help with that, right there's a link to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. Now, before we jump into these five beautiful qualities, these behaviors, men find incredibly attractive. I want to address something that I heard on a podcast today. Now, if you're not familiar with the work of Esther Perrell, Esther Perrell, let me grab a copy of her book. Where is her book? Oh, it's somewhere here. Oh, here it is. Mating Incaptivity. Mating Incaptivity. She has a great podcast. You may wanna listen to it. By the way, all the books I recommend are in the link below under Jonathan recommend books in the description of this video. She was talking about, I believe it was an article she had read, but she talked about artificial intimacy. Do you know we have artificial intelligence now that helps people write essays for school and to do a lot of tasks for them? And we also now have bots or robots, if you will, or artificial intelligence that can actually create intimacy with someone or create a connection with someone on an artificial level. But we're talking about some AI program. I'm talking about, or what she was talking about is the artificial intelligence two people have with each other, excuse me, the artificial intimacy two people have with each other because they use their devices to connect with one another over the phone, they're using their devices to connect. Most of their conversation is text messaging and there's this perceived sense of intimacy in these dynamics. There's a perceived sense of intimacy with people who are communicating incessantly via text message. But what's actually happening is artificial intimacy. It's not real intimacy. Ladies, true intimacy is built through social activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends. That's how you can really connect with someone at a much deeper level when you're actually face-to-face with them. And just like in the TV show, Love is Blind where two people in separate pods spend hours upon hours upon hours communicating with one another only to then be in a blind environment, only to meet and many of the couples after they thought they have fallen in love with this person found out that it was false love. See, because real, and now while some of the couples in the most recent season, actually three of the five couples ended in marriage which is actually an amazing statistic for that show because most of them fail. It's an interesting testament. However, in most cases and certainly out in the real world like the rest of us are in as these people are possibly staying together because it's a show and they get their 15 minutes of fame, I'm here to say real intimacy is built in the doing of things together, the experiencing of one another and not the artificial way it is currently happening today. Now, why is this so critically important to know? Because folks, many of you find yourselves in relationships or perceived relationships that are merely cyber relationships, they're situationships, they're not real relationships built in the doing. And quite frankly, if you're not exploring that type of relationship, you might find yourself sadly disappointed over and over again. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. So today I wanna talk about some good stuff because I do sometimes talk about the negative stuff, but I am happy to report that I have several success stories under my belt with some new clients. They are happy in a significant relationship. They're actually feeling true love because they know the difference. And it's because these folks have decided to reprogram themselves. I think most of us are running on old software, okay? And because of that old software, that clouds our judgment, it clouds our experiences and most importantly, it clouds us from actually connecting from a heart-centered way with another human being. So my work is all about the reboot. It's not the 2.0, it's not the 3.0. I'm giving you the 4.0 because life is moving so fast, as Ferris Bueller said in the movie. Life moves pretty fast. So you have to stop and look around, but look around with intelligence, with intentionality. And thankfully you've landed on my video, you've landed on my show, you follow me, thank you for those that do follow me. And if my content does resonate with you, please hit that like button, please share this video, please subscribe to my channel. So what are those beautiful behaviors men notice? I think the first one is so obvious. And yet as a single man, when I was out in the dating realm, I can tell you that I didn't experience this as frequently as you might think. And the first behavior is what I call easygoing, chill and agreeable. That's right, easygoing, chill and agreeable. I can tell you as when I was single and thankfully I've been in a significant relationship, which will be, it's 355 days as of today. I'm in a relationship with that beautiful woman right there, Marie. And she embodies easygoing, chill and agreeable. You've seen her on the videos.  It's literally like pulling teeth because I recognize to some degree, human beings date with their own desires in mind. And when you're focused on your own desires, oftentimes you're putting on this air of arrogance, an air of attitude, an air of entitlement. Now not all women do this, but a significant percentage of women do this. And I'm here to say that while I oftentimes espouse that you should interrogate people in the dating process, right? Frankly, I mean, do a lot of that work over the phone before you ever meet. The first date should be fun. Well, the first date is really a meet and greet, but that first meet and greet should be fun. It should be easy. It should be easygoing. It should be chill. It should be two people just enjoying each other's company to see if they pass the sniff test. And the sniff test is just like two dogs coming up to each other, sniffing one another to see if they like each other. That's what a meet and greet is. And so I invite you all to show up at your next meet and greet within the easygoing, chill, and agreeable demeanor, okay? Number two, men find this highly attractive and they notice women who have full lives that have passion for their life.  In other words, like for example, in Marie's case, she traveled. She's seen, she's been to 68 countries. Now I know that's kind of the exception, not the rule, but where are your passions? And do you exploit those passions? And what I mean to say is do you live to work or do you work to live, you know? Do you work to live? And demonstrate those passions, but yet many people have a full life that's consumed with busyness. And yet what's highly attractive are those people that have a passion for life. Ladies, you're attracted to men who have a passion for life while it goes the same way. In fact, everything I'm sharing here is equal to both genders. Number three, unapologetic for past choices. Unapologetic for past choices. Look, many people have found themselves in their second or third significant relationship by the time they get to midlife. And midlife is after baby making years and before retirement. That's the demographic I speak to. So with that said, being unapologetic about your past means not being a victim to your past experiences. It's what did I learn from my past experiences? How did my past experience shape who I am today? That's a significant way of, that's a highly attractive behavior for a quality man. Now, let me just say this, coming back to quality men. Look, I recognize that there are a significant percentage of men who are deeply wounded, as I said earlier, from their childhood wounds and adult traumas that don't make them very good candidates to be in relationship. It's probably 70, 80% of men and women alike probably aren't really capable of a significant, a significant, healthy, happy relationship. Most everybody's capable of some sort of relationships. There are friends with benefits relationships. There are casual relationships. There are situationships. Certainly there are plenty of people capable of some sort of mediocre relationship. Those that are really capable of something deeper is really a smaller percentage of people. That's the reality of it. We may not like it, but that's the truth. At least the way I perceive the truth. You have to decide that for yourself. So part of dating is a vetting process. It's to vet this person for their emotional maturity. It's to vet them for their relationship skills. Do they live in a sense of victim consciousness or are they in victor consciousness? Do they know how to communicate when there's a difference of opinion? Do they actively listen to your point of view? Do they acknowledge your point of view and even accept your point of view as being true for you? See, that's a person that can actually resolve conflicts with you. Do you know men and women alike have terrible conflict resolution skills? That's the number one reason why most significant relationships fail. Is there inability to resolve their differences? Well, certainly there are times when you can agree to disagree. But for the most part, strong, healthy relationships have that capacity to listen, acknowledge, and validate another person's point of view. And as I said, coming back to unapologetic about one's past, we all have a past. But if you're living in victim consciousness, you're gonna carry that past with you in every relationship thereafter if you haven't healed from it. Number four, this is obvious, a sense of humor. And more importantly, appreciating the other person's sense of humor.  I'm a bit sarcastic, crass, and it can be even childlike. Thankfully, my sweetheart, at least she accepts my sense of humor.  It's our style of bantering with one another. We've gotten accused of being, like we've been uptight with each other. No, it's just the way we banter with one another. It's where we find our joy in giving each other shit a little bit now and then. That's where our sense of humor lies. Whether you have a dry wit, sarcastic, dark wit, whatever it is, finding that mutual sense of humor, finding that space where you have a sense of humor and they appreciate, you appreciate their sense of humor and they appreciate yours. Because sense of humor is certainly part of the, it makes the monotonous a little bit more acceptable, but more importantly, do you know children laugh 500 times a day and adults laugh five times a day? I'm making up that number. It's something to that effect. Humor is what I think can bond to people together. And last but not least, I said this before is about communication, but I wanna go deeper. What men find this particular capacity incredibly attractive is people that are good listeners, but more importantly, they're interesting and engaging in their conversations.  I think human beings are bad. A lot of human beings are unskilled at being a good listener and more importantly, being engaging in conversation. You know, I've often heard women say in 10,000 words, what men can say in 10 words, okay? Women oftentimes talk in stories and they go on and on and on. But what a man and woman appreciate is succinct conversation that actually has some value, that has some meat to it. Instead of, how's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. My little bit from Seinfeld, my Kramer there, people that have good listeners and also are interesting and engaging. Those are people that we appreciate being around. So I invite you, if you're weak in any of these areas, work on these areas for yourself.  If he's weak in these capacities in any of these areas, you have to ask yourself, is this a person you wanna invest your heart in? Because at the end of the day, listen, we get one chance at this, go around on this third rock from the sun, make the most of it, make the most of it. Don't choose partners that are incapable of a significant relationship. Learn how to be a better picker in relationship. Start from an empowered place from within yourself, but more importantly, and there are abundance of good people. Your job is learning how to do a better job. At picking the good ones, out of the ones who are, for lack of a better word, broken. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. Please hit that like button. Please share this video with your friends. Please subscribe to my channel. And again, in the comments, in the description, are all the links to connect with me. All right, for those who know my format, this is the Q&A time. If you have a question, write the word question, then post the question thereafter. It makes it easy for me to find. Or you can purchase a super sticker, there's a little dollar sign in the chat box. Or if you're watching the replay, you can hit a super thanks. All the monies from the super sticker, super chat, super thanks goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Conor Asley. That's a picture of him right there in the little woody outfit. It's my son who passed away almost five years ago. And his honor, I started a scholarship fund to donate to causes like the Hoffman process and Insight Institute. So again, if you have a question, write the word question, then post the question thereafter. All right, let's see what we've got here. We've got any questions so far. Thank you, Jeannie for posting all the ones we shared so far.  They contact someone on a dating site and stringing them along, telling how beautiful they are and how much they want to be with you and never show. Do this, do this so, do this to an innocent woman who never done anything to them before. You know, sadly, Jeannie, there are a lot of wounded men out there who want companionship. They want connection. They want physical intimacy. And yet they're afraid to love and they're afraid to be loved. Yes, they want connect. They've been hurt so much and yet they want something. And at the same time, they're afraid. Two truths can be held in the same space. They want something and yet they're afraid. It sadly does happen. It does happen. Unfortunately, your job is to not focus on them. Your job is to focus on you. What are you going to do different going forward? That's my invitation for you. Is that sinking in? Is that resonating? Please let me know. All right, let's see what else we have in the way of questions. Sweet art says facts. I'm so happy you brought that up, Jonathan. I'm afraid this robotic intimacy will become another battle we'll have to fight due to misuse and the likelihood of over dependency on them. You know, we are living in an age where folks, we are, you know, there's a real benefit to technology, but it's also replaced connectivity. You know, I remember growing up. I mean, I remember going outside and playing with friends. Does anyone remember that? If you're a baby boomer or Gen Xer, we used to go outside, play with our friends. You know, we didn't have to worry about being kidnapped or anything. You just went outside and all you did was show up at the dinner bell at 6 p.m. Okay, that says us as kids. Now today, sadly, we don't really interact with people. Certainly COVID changed everything as well.  And we are lonely than ever before. That's right. We are seeing a high rise of suicide, certainly amongst young girls. I mean, amongst adult men. There's this sense of loneliness. Quite frankly, there's a, I think we are gonna see a huge fear start to pop up. It's already here right now. As people age, they won't have the money to support themselves. There's gonna be a drain on children. We are in a world that's, I think, starting to implode because the cost to take care of yourself as you get older is significantly high and not enough people are wealthy enough to take care of themselves. And so the desire for partnership is somewhat of a dependency place because two incomes are better than one. I can understand that. But at the same time, our need for interdependency, in other words, our own individual autonomy is conflicted with one another and we don't live in tribe type of environments anymore. So there's more people supporting the individual. It's a scary time out there. I know women in fact are hugely afraid of the fear of aging. And there's this strong desire to want a partner because who wants to do this all alone? I get that. This is what we're faced with. And yet people want society to fix this. Society isn't gonna fix this. You have to start it with yourself. If you don't have a community, build a community. You know, Marie talks about her travel group. She goes, this is a group of people that she's spent time with over the last decade and they're practically family to one another and they all live in different parts of the world and they get together on a regular basis because they're there to support one another. And that's just one example. I know here in Los Angeles, I have a community of friends that span over 100 couple or 100 group of men and women, lots of them couples that are here to support one another. Build your community because it is, it may not be that you find the mate you want, but you can certainly build the community you want. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. All right. Zengal says, question. What's a nice way to let a guy know you're not feeling it? I wish Marie was here because she has a nice way of saying it. She simply starts off with something positive about the person. You seem like a really great guy. I've enjoyed our company tonight. I just want to be candid with you. I'm not feeling we're a match. And because of that, I want to wish you all the best on your journey to love. She says something similar to that. It's funny, I was watching Indian matchmaker and there was a man, I think he's a ER doctor who had a date with a woman and she says, would you like to see each other again? And he was like, no, I'm not feeling it. It's stung. I'm sure it's stung for her. It's stung to watch this. But the same time, love isn't intangible. Spark chemistry isn't intangible. We all think that everyone should love us or be attracted to us, but the reality is is only a select few really have that chemical bond to be with one another. So simply say, he seemed like a great guy. This isn't, you know, and at the same time, I just don't feel like we're a match and I want to wish you all the best on your journey. That might be a way to approach it, Zengal. All right, thank you so much. Looks like we have a bashful group tonight. If you have a question, write the word question and post the question thereafter or purchase a super sticker, super chat. Otherwise, we're gonna have a, we're gonna be wrapping up early tonight. So if you have a question, this is your last chance to post a question or we're gonna be wrapping up rather early. Okay, going, okay, here we go. Sweet art writes a question. Sweet art, I like that. We acknowledge not being ready to date. I asked if we can just be friends. He asked to be friends with benefits. I said, no, he pulled away. Think I should give him a chance if we're both ready or not. You know, if, listen, if you're not ready to be in a relationship, let me ask you a question. Is this really, is this person truly gonna be a friend in your life? Is this the person that if you need a ride to the airport, they'll drive you to the airport? If you need someone to take you to the doctor, would they take you to the doctor? Are they that kind of friend or are they simply going to be some social acquaintance or not even a social acquaintance? Some filler until, because here's the reality. It's funny, I said the same thing to Marie. I don't need to, but before we met, it was long distance, okay? And I, she said, would you like to be friends? And I'm like, not really. I don't need to collect friends. I have a hard enough time spending time with my only friends. And my point bringing this up is if I meet the love of my life, if it wasn't her, I probably wouldn't communicate with her. I mean, maybe a Facebook post or a birthday message on Facebook, that would be the equivalent of our friendship. To me, friendships are the people that you get on the phone, you talk about your personal life and you get intimate with one another and you're there for one another. Do you need to collect friends in your life? Because if you have a friendship with this person, you meet the love of your life, will you really be friends with this person? Probably not. So I just want you to evaluate what friendship is. And since he wanted just friends with benefits, it just goes to show you two aren't meant to be in a significant relationship. So why should you be significant friends with one another? That's just my two cents on that. All right, thank you so much. Wanda writes question. I went, I went, or I went to a friend request to that guy after a day and he accepted it and de-friended me because I said happy birthday I am. Is this mean? You know, his reason for de-friending you could be a variety of things. He met another woman and he didn't want to, he wanted to delete people from his Facebook group. Is that mean? I mean, were you really bothered by it?  And could it, was it maybe for a different reason why he wanted, maybe there is something you don't know. You know, rather than looking at the wrong, just why don't you just give it, why don't you say, you know what? He had a change of heart next. Because if you give energy to something like that, that means he has your power.  Is that, do you get the drift just of that? Okay, good point or good. Thanks for that question. SW1 says, John, please speak on consuming alcohol during the dating or to get to know each other's stage. Oh yeah. All right. Alcohol is the great reducer of common sense and logic and boundaries. Alcohol can drop people's boundaries. Certainly I've had a few too many on a date. And when I've had a few too many on a date, I cross boundaries all the time. And I will, and there have been plenty of women who have relinquished their boundaries because of that. Listen, I think one cocktail on a first date is ample enough. Some people, they can have two. But certainly beyond that, just remember that alcohol is a way to reduce inhibitions and it's a vehicle to push boundaries. So I would limit the alcohol to one, maybe two drinks at the most, depending on your tolerance level. Great question. So thank you so much for that one. I appreciate it. Sweet Art said, that's a good point. Thanks, I'll think about it. You're very welcome. Zengal wants to remind everyone to read the four agreements. Folks, if you're not familiar with the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, by the way, there's a link below to get a copy of the book. I highly recommend checking out this book. This isn't a dating book. This is a lifestyle book.  Always do your best. Remember that other people's opinions of you are projections of them and don't make assumptions. All right? All right, hope that helps. Cassandra writes, question, is it fair to diss a man because he smokes cigars? Well, I used to smoke cigars. Would you have dissed me, Cassandra? Would you have dissed me? It depends on how often a person smokes cigars. I know I've smoked cigars when I play golf on occasion. Sometimes when I have a scotch on occasion, it's so rare these days. But is it something, is it their habit? Is it something they do regularly? Because I can recognize that smoking could be a deal breaker. I think smoking cigarettes is more disgusting, just in my opinion.  I'm not anyone else who smokes. That's, you know, that's their choice. I think I wouldn't discount a person if it's occasional, but if it's something that affects the odor effects, and it's, by the way, it's physically harmful too, so I can recognize the health implications. But if it's something casual for them versus something habitual, that's where I would make my choice from that standpoint. Okay, Cassandra, thank you so much. Page writes, question. I just started dating a new guy who is newly divorced, November 2022. We're taking it slow, but we're now, but we're now establishing that we have chemistry. What is your advice to me?  And what typically happens is men in that space have what's known as transition girlfriends, one or two, during that particular time before they're ready for a significant relationship. Now, let me tell you a quick story. After I filed for divorce, I'd been five months into my separation and I wrote this woman on a dating profile. This was a dozen plus years ago. And she said, how long you've been divorced? And I said, well, we just separated five months ago. And she wrote me back and she goes, reach out to me when you've been divorced for 18 to 24 months and you've had one to two transition girlfriends. And I said, what are you talking about? I go, I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready for a relationship. And she goes, well, that's my standard. Sure enough, four months later, I met a woman. So I'm nine months after moving out. And met a great woman. We started dating and three months into the relationship, I hit a wall. I couldn't go any further emotionally. I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship, okay? And we ended our relationship and she was heartbroken. Sure enough, but I want companionship. I want connection. I want sex. So I'm back out on the dating sites, you know?  We had a great time. I pulled back. I think I had a couple of relationships before I met a significant relationship five years after I moved out. Now, I wrote this woman back. I saw her online four or five years later. And I said, I want to share this story. And I told her she was right. I did need a couple of transition relationships because I didn't know what I wanted back then. I didn't know who was right for me. Remember, for dating for a lot of people is you learn what you want by what you don't want and you sample a lot of people. So with that said, you two are taking it slow. That's good. But just remember, this is the challenge with dating people who are newly divorced. So this is where you have to ask a lot of deeper questions, practice radical honesty, laying your cards on the table. And what I call is the rules of engagement means you establish your standards right from the get go and you do not accept anything below that because if they cross a boundary, it means they're not right for you. All right, Paige, I hope that helps. Thank you so much. All right, Rebecca writes, went on a dating app. Is it appropriate to state something to the fact not interested in booty call type statement? That's all I got from men. Anytime I saw a woman who wrote that, I knew that was a person that experienced that a lot. And to me, I felt that they were focusing on the wrong thing. Ladies, you do not put on your profile what you don't want. You put on your profile what you do want. So what would that look like? I'm looking for a significant relationship. I'm looking to get remarried. Put what you do want and not what you don't want because guess what the universe does? The universe doesn't hear don't. Here's what the universe hears. I don't want a booty call. What the universe hears is I, they take out the don't want a booty call. So what happens is they send you more, the universe will send you more and more people until you say, I want a significant relationship where I'm living with someone and then see how the universe will provide there. God universe spirit, okay? Leslie or Rebecca, I hope that helps. Question, do men mark territory after they've dated you? An ex matched with me on hinge, asked to catch up on a call, said his buddy had matched with me and told his buddy he wasn't allowed to go there. Yeah, men can be very territorial, like just like a dog wants to pee and mark his territory. I used to go pee in women's houses to mark my territory, just kidding. Yes, we men are territorial. We don't like the idea that someone we know is going to sleep with somebody we were with. So that is exactly what happened in that particular case Leslie. So I don't know what advice to give you in that but that does happen, absolutely. Diane writes, question. After meeting online and going on three dates and three weeks we found we're very compatible. While I'm packing our past, I learned his roommate is actually his ex. What is the best way to accept? That's a tricky one. That's a tricky one, you know? Hey, I mean, if they sleep in separate rooms, I think that's at least a good sign.  You know, it depends on if they had a conscious uncoupling.  So, but I would be a little concerned about that. So tell him, I'm concerned about this. Tell me why I shouldn't be. I'm concerned about this. Tell me why I shouldn't be. And see how he responds. I mean, that's a tough one. I could go either way on that one. Now you could walk away, but you could be walking away from a great guy. So why not dig a little bit deeper and say, how would we navigate a relationship together given that that's uncomfortable for me? How would you reverse it? How would you feel if I was living with an ex lover and see how he responds to that? He's probably going to have to do something because a lot of women might reject him for this. But you know, you gotta trust your intuition on this one. This is your gut say on this one, Diane. Midnight blue says, I would not be okay with the roommate thing. I get it.  I think I'm gonna head out. Marie is in Florida right now. Visiting family, I'm gonna join her. I'm gonna catch the red eye tomorrow to join up with her.  I'm gonna do my best to shoot a video while I'm out there for you. I'll have some pre-recorded videos as well. So folks, I just wanna tell you how much I appreciate your love and support. I hope you find value in the content I provide. And I want everyone to recognize that there's nothing easy about this thing called dating, mating and relating. I get it. This is not easy. And yet what's most important when I talk about this in my book, what the heck is self-love anyway? A journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work, all the books you can get are listed below. The first person you should be dating is yourself. That's the first person you should be dating. And when you're dating yourself, you can bring other people into your life and hopefully a partner in your life at the same time, but always be dating yourself. And I just wanna remind everyone, most men are good guys. They might be broken. They might be wounded. Most men are good guys. They're just bad daters. But I wanna also remind you, it's raining good men. It's raining good men. It's raining good men. God, universe, spirit. I invite in a partner in my life where we have amazing chemistry with one another.  And our lifestyles are blendable with one another and we share the same values to build the deep roots of trust so we can explore a fully committed, conscious, co-creative relationship. God, universe, spirit. I invite that in my life. And I invite that in for everyone who's watching today because good men, it's raining good men and there are good men out there. All right, I hope you found value tonight. Just wanna remind you that.  I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear, a pillow and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Sweet Art and Jenny and SW1 and Kim and Leslie and Rebecca, Zengal and Paige and Midnight Blue and Cassandra and Diane.  Have a fab evening. Bye now.


is rich from Rich TV Live. Recently I've been watching Bitcoin Cash very very carefully and I've been telling everyone that I thought it was highly oversold and it was going to be ready for a breakout and that's exactly what has happened here. So as you can see we were at $604 on April 6th. Now here we are on April 23rd and today we are all the way up to a ridiculous $1400 and $5. So in a very short period of time we have seen huge explosions in this cryptocurrency. Now the question is why and how long will it last? So that's ultimately kind of like the question right now. We're trying to figure out the answer. We're trying to figure out and my opinion my prediction is that Bitcoin Cash will be 30% roughly a little bit less sometimes a little bit more of the price of Bitcoin. So if we see Bitcoin explode further and I mean it hasn't really exploded it's gone up but it hasn't exploded the way Bitcoin Cash has. Bitcoin Cash has more than doubled as you can see here. In the last they've more than doubled. They've gone from $600 to $1,404 right now. In the last three weeks okay in less than three weeks and they've done it with a lot of momentum with a lot of buying pressure. The lines here you see the indicators here are the MACD okay.  Now these lines here these indicators are the indicators that I use that I build in to the software that I use and these are called the Bollinger Bands okay. Now the Bollinger Bands as you can see they've been pointing up up up up up up you know kind of sideways up sideways and now an explosion right up up again up again and up some more now if you look at the lines here you can see the green line is pointing right up the red line is pointing right up the MACD shows the blue and yellow lines kind of coming down right now which is kind of concerning so I think it might be highly overbought right now however when it was at 600 it was highly oversold. Bitcoin Cash is going to be more and more used and readily used every single day it is going to be a major player long term I believe in my opinion now remember Rich TV Live is strictly for education and entertainment purposes we are not licensed advisors okay we are strictly just people like you that are learning about cryptocurrencies that are excited about cryptocurrencies and I actually own quite a few cryptocurrencies and my strategy has been to accumulate the best cryptocurrencies now I own three of the top four I own Bitcoin, Ethereum and Ripple now as you can see Bitcoin Cash is number two and they're up 18% they're at $1400 I have not been accumulating Bitcoin Cash I feel very frustrated about the fact that I didn't I knew that at 600 they were at a good price but I have been focused on Ripple, Ethereum and Bitcoin so I'm still okay I feel happy about that I just feel frustrated that I knew that Bitcoin Cash was highly oversold at 600 and I just knew that they were going to hit a bottom at some point and unfortunately because I was focused on other assets I did not buy any Bitcoin Cash but I think Bitcoin Cash long-term has huge potential if you believe that Bitcoin could reach 100,000 one day which I believe it could then there's a very good chance there's a very very good chance that Bitcoin Cash could be as high as 10, 20 or 30,000 but they're at 1400 right now they're up 17% of the day I would not be chasing this or any investment I like to wait until it's in the red but I believe that crypto is turning around the indicators are showing it they are pointing up we are starting to see more explosions every single day in the marketplace okay every day in the marketplace we are seeing companies go up 84% like Z classic today up 84% bit send up 26% there are quite a lot of winners every day right now which is very similar as you can see Bitcoin Cash is on that list which is very similar to the momentum the weight started last spring so if this trend continues I expect Bitcoin Cash to continue to grow and continue to rise further now I would not be buying something in the green I would wait until a day that they are in the red but definitely keep Bitcoin Cash on your radar keep them on your watch list they have been a huge winner over the last couple weeks quietly secretly silently going up from look at this chart $600 they're at on April 6th I showed you and today on April 23rd at $1400 this is rich from Rich TV live remember if you're not winning you're not watching we are giving you the analysis we are educating you we are entertaining you absolutely free all you got to do is follow Rich TV live if you like this video please smash that like button if you haven't subscribed please I would love for you to subscribe we give you updates 24 hours a day seven days a week on all the top trending topics in the industry thank you for watching if you would like to comment or have a cryptocurrency analyzed please comment down below I would love to see some of your picks if you think that this is a good pick please let me know if you think that this is highly overbought and it's going to come down please let me know but this chart right now looks like a thing of beauty look at that I love it Bitcoin Cash a big winner you heard it here again I've told you since day one how much I love Bitcoin Cash when it first came out at $200 today they're at $1400 USD for one Bitcoin Cash token it's true and you heard it here first from your boy Rich bringing you the analysis bringing you the truth absolutely free thank you for watching have a great day this is your boy Rich and I'm out peace