Hey friends today, we are hanging out at Epcot and we are going to be exploring around world showcase I want to go to all the different country pavilions do a little shopping and see what unique things we can buy and Just take a closer look I feel like a lot of people just rush around world showcase and they really don't dive into the pavilions themselves So I figured today would be the perfect day to do so Anywho's let's go do this It is a super hot day today in Epcot 93 degrees out so the sun's gonna be beaming down on us as we walk around world showcase But I also see that there might be some thunderstorms around six o'clock. So hopefully we can finish up before that I'm always a firm believer in starting off in Mexico and then making our way around world showcase But today I think we're gonna do something a little bit different. I think we're gonna start off the day At the international gateway and then make our way going towards Mexico Starting with United Kingdom in Canada because last time I did a video like this Canada didn't have any merchandise Same thing with United Kingdom and it kind of stays true to the way that I like to go I always like to go in the direction of Mexico So we're gonna go around and stop at each of the pavilions Mexico Norway China See what cool things they have for sale and things that you get to do and just enjoy all of world showcase I'm gonna really try to focus on things that are like world showcase Specific and like country specific things that you can only do or buy in world showcase or the country that you're actually in Like whatever pavilion and it's always amazing like I said, and it's always like kind of like an eye-opener And here we are at the United Kingdom pavilion We're gonna go explore around into the different stores try to find unique things to buy and just enjoy I love it over here though. It's beautiful, and it doesn't look that crowded today There are a lot of things that you can buy in here that you would be shocked that you can buy like they have some Beatles merchandise also take a look at this Mickey Mouse right here This is from the Disney store in London actually says it on the bottom there. Isn't that really nifty? That's 3499. They have a nice United Kingdom Spirit Jersey over there and even some fancy fragrances look at this very very fancy Take a look at these cool United Kingdom glasses with Mickey on it British and brilliant. I love this. This is actually really funny. Hello, mate I don't know how much this is though. Oh 1499 1499. That's not too bad at all They also have a tumbler over here too. Oh, yeah, this is Mickey as well Oh, and it says Epcot on it. Well, this is actually really fancy 2499 for this a little bit more pricier But I don't know. I like this one a little bit more Something else that's really cool a lot of people don't even know that you can do you can look up your family crest here at the United Kingdom Pavilion and have like a nice little display put together Look at how cool it is in here. I love it and they have so many different offerings too Like I said, you get to look up your family's name or their family's crest and they have all these different frames That you get to do right here.  Like I absolutely love this. It's a really fun thing to do That is something that's really awesome to do I was tempted to look up my name and actually get like a ring but I don't wear jewelry So maybe just like a nice family crest on the wall that would be something fun So you have to check the prices vary depending on what you get done And I just love the look of all the different shops in here like it is so beautiful They put so much like attention to detail Now that we've made our way through the crowning crest I want to hop on over to fancy goods for lords and ladies Isn't that so funny fancy goods for lords and ladies and I also like just to spend time over here right now It's very quiet. Sometimes they have a band in the back there and you can see some character meet and greets Mary Poppins or Alice in Wonderland and look there's nobody back here. This is actually kind of unusual. Oh, hi How are you? Cheers I Feel like the heat might be keeping some people out of world showcase and maybe indoors because like I said it is a Super hot day today But here we are fancy goods for lords and ladies and of course everything looks very fancy. I feel fancy just being in here Looks like they've got a nice little selection of Toffees here like you can get them in a gigantic carousel right here or a little luggage And it's kind of funny all the individual packaging that they have look at that Let me see if I can zoom well focus in English cream toffees and I'm not too sure how much they are though Let's see. Well, there's no price listed. Maybe on this side. Let's take a look see nothing I don't know how much they are but it's really interesting and then over here I didn't even know what this was and then I looked at the tag there and says church hills And I think it's little mini chocolate chip cookies. Look at a little tin though I like this and this can like just fit right in my pocket. I'll have to carry it around so I think maybe I'll get this and Try the cookies on the inside that'd be like fun You can also enjoy a complimentary Sample of some twinning's tea cold infusion. Oh, this is a water enhancer and it's blueberry apple and it's free It's free. It's for me. Can I please have one? Look at this That is very fancy. Well, thank you so much How awesome is that?  It looks very very refreshing I thought it was tea, but it's actually like a water enhancer and Yeah, I'm gonna drink some of this and I got my church hills Little cookies look at this I think I'm gonna try to buy anything like store-bought like snacks throughout the billions because it's Really fun. It's actually a great way to eat around without spending a lot of money because they're Normally a lot cheaper when you buy stuff like this and you get to experience eating around World Showcase I think this cost $12 with my discount and there was so much in there and I could just put it Like I'm gonna open it up here. I could just put it in my pocket and walk around look at individual little baggies and Honestly, it's kind of like a little cute tin especially with the cats and the dogs. We should have a Dalmatian on it I feel like everyone says that about like their animal whenever it comes to like something and be like I wish there was a corgi on it or I wish there was a Dalmatian. That's how I am Okay, but let's dive into these cookies They're very nice little tiny cookies look at this and this is great for families too I'm gonna grab a little cookie a little shortbread chocolate chip Wash it down with a free refresher That's good If it's free, it's for me. I mean, I love this. This is good and these are so good. What a good value. I like it Seriously, I love my little tin here This is kind of it's really cute And like I said, you can't go wrong for $12 and it's not like authentic like something like a United Kingdom like dessert But I did look it up and like the company's from the UK So it's really awesome And it's a great way to actually snack around the world and try different things especially for families because look at all those cookies You get for $12. You really can't go wrong with this at all and they also make the little Toffees too, so they just sell these little tin sets and I looked up and they're only $9.99 online So you're paying an extra $2 to try it in the UK Pavilion at Epcot. I'll do that any day All right now I think it's time we make our way out of the United Kingdom Pavilion and start making our way towards Canada I can't spend too much time in each of the Pavilions or else It'd be like a very long video, but I just want to highlight some of my favorite things I mean if I had my way, I probably would just stay here and enjoy the rose and crown for a little bit But we need to move along I'm definitely gonna end up buying something today because you know, I mean I always like coming out and leaving with something from World Showcase the last video I made I made it a point to buy something in each country and it was a very costy day Very very costy day today. I'm gonna be a little bit more selective and just purchase something that really stands out to me And here we are Canada We're gonna head into the Northwest mercantile the trading post and just explore around This is really beautiful here as well. I love actually just coming up here and just sitting by the waterfall up top I do that almost on a daily basis whenever I come to a World Showcase One of the things I've always wanted to get was the Canada spirit Jersey They actually have two different colors now, but I just love this and I love how you got a little Mickey on there This one's nice too, but I like this one a little bit better They also have some really cool shirts like I love poutine Look at that. Is that funny and then some Mickey Canada sweatshirts here I like how they actually incorporate Mickey into all the different countries So like this is the only place that you'd be able to buy this actually you like You know, I mean they don't have it at the other merchandise locations and I like that Here is a Canada Mickey hockey puck and it actually says Epcot Epcot World Showcase on the back 1499 to this that is such a cool unique gift. I think they also have some tumblers down here Look at this. Oh, I like this one a lot because it has Mickey and it has goofy and they're all dressed up This is actually a really awesome tumbler. This is 2299 2299 not too shabby. Oh, and I love this shirt What I've never seen this shirt before the spirit of the Pacific Northwest That is so fancy The Mickey hockey puck is actually a really cool gift to buy for somebody I think that's really unique and another thing that they have here is their own Circle vision they have Canada far and wide in the back here. So that's always something you can check out We're gonna walk that way and then walk underneath the waterfalls, but for shops They only have like these two right now open. So there's not a whole lot to explore They also sell these really cool Canada hockey Mickey ears. Look at this. They have little hockey sticks on them I don't think I've ever seen these before but they look so awesome and the ears are hockey pucks That is really fancy. I Think it's time to move along from Canada though. There wasn't really anything for me to buy there You know fun fact, you know, we got free drinks over in the UK But a long time ago. I remember they used to give out free maple hard candy in Canada I don't think they do that anymore But how cool would it be if you could go around and get something free from each work that country? Just like little samples. I mean that'd be a cool idea. I think Disney should do a little bit more like Sam's Club And next stop here we are Mexico and it's gonna be good because we get to go inside for a little bit soak up the AC and just chill out for a Bit and do some shopping. There's a lot of cool nifty things that you can buy in here. So I'm excited to browse Wow, I have to say it changed a lot in here It was so quiet in the other Pavilion's and now it looks so busy It is super busy in the Mexico Pavilion But like I said, I think a lot of people are heading indoors to get out of the heat It is like I said a very hot hot day. Maybe I'll get a sombrero They have a nice selection of sombreros some big some very tiny. Look at this little one. It says Mexico on it That's kind of cute You're putting that big sombrero on oh there you go. I like it The sombreros are a good way to keep the sun out of your face when you're walking around World Show case And they have a lot of different macabre merchandise out here I don't even ever notice all this like merchandise that they have Usually just go into La Cava That's like my favorite place to chill out here in the Mexico Pavilion, but they have margarita glasses They have shot glasses They have some hats right here and then some other stuff too, but they have a lot of stuff here Oh vanilla flavoring vanilla flavoring here.  I didn't even know they sold all this stuff. They even have like a little peer peppers gift set What is this? I don't even know how to open it. Oh, yeah. Oh Wow, no that is some fancy hot sauce right there.  It says Mexico on the back there, and then they have another one over here. This looks like it's for the ladies Oh, I love this. I love that actually font on the bottom there Mexico Epcot world showcase And then they've got like a little Mickey tank top and also something for the fellas a nice collared shirt with Mickey Mexico and oh the year 1982 when Epcot was actually built. This is actually a really awesome shirt Another really interesting thing that you can get here that's custom is Some very fancy Joaquin, and it is really awesome because they make them right here like they they carved them right here Some of them can be actually pretty pricey because there's a lot of Detail put into them and the artists are amazing and like I said you can just watch them actually carve them and make them Right here, and I love it. They have all different sizes Look at the size of that flamingo in the back there, and of course these little ones right here and I especially like the birds over here because it reminds me of the enchanted tiki room these only $12 That's a great souvenir for $12 like seriously don't like it's not crazy $12. I think that's a fantastic deal Now we're gonna head back outside, but I want to show you guys something kind of cool that a lot of people really do miss out on Usually when people come into the Mexico pavilion they come straight in the front steps But out these doors to the left or when you come in There's a really nice pathway with some of Mexico's most beautiful Flowers like it is so nice over here look at this and this is here all year round like I love it It's always amazing and just coming over here and basically smelling the flowers like isn't this beautiful? I'm very excited to make our way to China and Germany because those places always have amazing things to actually buy and Maybe I'll get myself something to eat But now like I said it's on to Norway and there's a lot of things that opened up there that weren't open last time I was here either First things first. Let's make our way through the gods of the Vikings exhibit say hi to Odin Thor and Loki This is a really cool Norse mythology Exhibit that they have here and it seems like it might be a little bit busy in there. Look at this I love this walk really look at the artwork. I mean the wood shit like woodwork here Look, isn't that amazing and you can actually walk around it to very tight spots over here But it's a good spot to get away from the crowds. Oh Yeah The AC in here is really good too, but you get to see some really cool exhibits Here's Loki right there and then I think we got Thor on this side look at that Very cool, and he gets to learn a little history as well Funny thing is is now we're in Norway before I was talking about free things I know that there's a free thing here that you can get at the Norway Pavilion I get it every time I come here and it's a little sample of Cologne or perfume from Garnese the essence of Norway We'll get to our free cologne in a second because you know, I love it They even have stuff for dogs, too I got greasy a little perfume, but I love coming in here because they do have a lot of unique things They have a nice selection of fine Norwegian snacks. They got some special coffee. Look at this I don't even know they serve like the coffee here before it's first time seeing this That's actually really cool, and then some candy bars, too This is called Kex. I wonder if it's like Kit Kat I feel like it's like a Kit Kat three dollars and forty nine cents for that some of it I really can't even I don't know how to pronounce the name 795 for one candy bar holy moly, and then this is chop chop 499 for that little guy, so that's kind of expensive Funny it being like, you know, Florida and it's hot They do sell a lot of Helian Hansen like jackets and stuff like that a lot of these actually have Mickey on them So it's a little bit of an Epcot exclusive, and that's kind of fancy. These are very expensive I always look at the prices of them because I'm like wow. Oh This was only $150. I mean that's still kind of expensive, but I thought it was gonna be a lot more They also have a lot of Epcot exclusive merchandise like Epcot Norway Visit Norway Epcot World Showcase.  I like these These are actually really nice. It's cool because this is the stuff that I look forward to checking out. You know what I mean? It also looks like they stocked up on the trolls I love the little troll figurines here because I was a big fan of the mouse drum when it was an attraction here So it's really cool that they brought more of those back.  You got individual guys. This would be me This would be me, and I like it. I don't know how much the prices are they're not they're not listed on there But they were really cool kind of creepy looking this one's knit in a Norway flag Little grandma right there They also have these really cool Norwegian beer steins look at this one though That is awesome.  I get it all the time I'm sure I talk about it a lot, but I always have to include it just in case somebody's never watched this video before This is actually a really good smelling scent They have it for men, and they have it for women, and they have candles And it's really awesome you get to come in and test it all out or like I said you get a little little sample a little sample for free Not too shabby if I do say so myself And I always like doing this and grabbing it as I'm like, you know walking around world showcase Freshens you up a little bit on a hot day, and there's also one more thing I want to point out here that it's kind of cool that a lot of people never notice Before I mentioned I love I love the ride melstrom and it used to be open right here So you can see the ride as it actually goes through now It's frozen, but under this waterfall actually right behind it. You can see there's a sword in the stone there It's really hard to see but it's there when you come and see it in person You'll be able to see it a lot better than on this video All right now we got to move along for Norway and make our way into China China We're gonna dive right on in and go to the house of good fortunes I think that's in the back here And like I said a lot of people don't really explore far in the back and this pavilion itself is massive Like there is so much in here, and you can honestly get lost in the store So it's gonna be cool to bring you in and just show you around a little bit They also have an amazing Shanghai Disney exhibit inside their circle vision because they have China a circle vision too Like their own show here as well One thing I definitely know I'm gonna be getting today is Special potato chip like they always have like really unique flavors of potato chips in here So I always like to explore with those a little bit Take a look at these money trees right here You can actually buy a money tree in a Epcot and like walk out of here with it $118 I bought a like bonsai tree that was bigger than that last time I was here And that was in the Japan pavilion. They also have some Zen gardens over here So you get to create a little Zen for yourself nice way to relax $21 for that. This one doesn't look so Zen though Yeah, if someone needs to do a little gardening Something else that's pretty interesting you can buy Swords and like knives here and they have them displayed the only thing is is they have to ship them out to you I don't think you can take these out like you can't actually walk around the park with them $128 for these right there. Like I said, they have whole entire sets and they have knives And that's kind of cool But you know I mean like it's tough though because if you buy it here, they just ship it I think back to your house. I don't even think they ship it to the resort because you can't bring this into the You can't bring this into the parks Okay, now I'm excited the things that I've been talking about like the chips and the candy all the little goodies Right here, they've got a grilled squid flavor lay potato chip grilled squid a numb and spicy hot pot flavor That's kind of cool. Then we've got spicy crawfish over here one time I got coffee potato chips here and they were phenomenal They have tons though. So like a lot to actually choose from Texas grilled barbecue flavor That's kind of funny That's really awesome though. And then let's see what else they got on this side So you just kind of just keep looking around. I think that's just about it. Oh Mexican chicken and tomato flavor. I Think I'm gonna get the grilled squid flavor so I can try them Like, you know, I just want to try them give them a little sample, but we're still gonna shop around though Another thing I always point out is getting some pretty cool amazing drinks back here They sell shots of Baijo, which is a Chinese liquor.  I got the grilled squid flavored Lay's potato chips and then I got myself a tea beverage of some sort But I can't tell what flavor it is. I don't know anything about it really it just says tea drink tea drink and We're gonna dive into it.  No, it's not horrible. I Don't think I like it though. I don't think I like it.  I gotta try one more though One more Mm-hmm.  I don't no problem there. I just I don't know Like I said not my thing, but it was fun to try it Fun to you know experiment try new things and I have no idea what this drink is because it does not taste good Like it doesn't taste like tea I thought it was gonna be green tea because the bottle was green But it just says tea drink with honey Jasmine tea. Oh, there is green tea in it, but I don't know what else is in there. I Think it's actually the Jasmine that's in there Like I feel like that's what it is that I'm tasting cuz I don't like Jasmine like they have a Jasmine beer And I don't like it as much Kind of tastes like fun Tastes like perfume. So it's definitely the Jasmine. I don't like Well, that was a very nice new experience and now I think it's time to make our way to Germany Yeah, we're gonna head over to Germany But also I want to point out if you ever want like a good spot to cool down here in China I definitely recommend coming in here and just kind of either watching the show or taking a look at the Disney Shanghai exhibit. It's very very quiet and nice AC. I Love making videos like this. I mean it's stuff that I've done and seen like Tons and tons of times and it's stuff that I've shown in videos in the past But I always like making videos not for the people that have been watching the channel for a while But for the people that have never watched my videos and people that are planning on coming to Disney people have never been to Disney and then die hard Disney fans who will watch anything Disney because that's how I am like I could watch Someone walking around world showcase like hundreds of times no matter how many times I've done it So like let me know like, you know, what kind of person are you guys? Let me know in the comments. Are you guys just those people that love to watch my videos for like my channel? Do you love watching it just because you get to enjoy Disney or are you planning a vacation to come to Disney? Do you know what I mean? It's really really fun and that's why I try to do videos for everybody And now we have arrived at our next Pavilion and country and it's Germany So we're gonna actually go through and kind of shop around and explore and like I said I'm still looking for something to buy. I kind of that one thing that's gonna stand out for me And if it hasn't stand out yet, then it's not gonna happen Now we're gonna make our way into the Christmas store and remember before I was telling you guys like it's it's hot outside I'm sure I said it like three times already But like a lot of people are just hanging out in the stores just trying to cool off because like I said it is Super super hot out there and I love coming into like the Germany store. So look at these little Mickey and Minnie's here Look at this. I love it That is so cool. I don't know how much they are though I love how I just walk upon something as I'm videoing. I'm like, oh, look at this 3499 for those Oh in these little birds to 1499 for these little ornaments cheaper to get the birds over in Mexico though Funny thing is I feel like I buy a lot of things from the Germany Pavilion like there is a lot here I bought the piece of the Berlin mall like they have an actual piece of the Berlin wall I bought two of them like it's on a stein. I bought a hat like I bought shirts There's a lot of really cool merchandise Look at all of this like exclusive Epcot merchandise Gluten dog and a little mini there and then they've got some hats I love all of this because it all says Epcot's World Showcase on it and it has a little Mickey They have a little pillow down there some shirts This is really cool, and then like I was talking about before they have fancy steins here And one of them used to come with a piece of the actual Berlin wall. I have two of them But I don't think they're selling them anymore Okay, I think I found something that actually stands out to me. Happy beer day beer garden only beer grows in this garden I love this and it says Epcot World Showcase This is actually something that I am very interested in getting $29.99 it's heavy though, but I love this. This is so cool Oh, they also Really? I've never seen this and it's for the 50th anniversary There's only a thousand of them. Oh, wow, that's so cool How much is it? $350 that is so cool though Oh really what about cast member all right, I kind of like this Yes, it's a different authenticity Wow, that's number 128 very cool That bear was really cool. There's only a thousand of them. I didn't even know they were selling that hair I'm glad I looked I seemed like that 50th anniversary box and I was like, what is that? So very cool that they showed that and I do want to get this time, but I don't care it around It's very heavy and I'm afraid I would like break it You know, I'm already one-handed now because I have the camera So I think I'll come back when I'm not actually actively vlogging. I Made my way over to the next spot here in Germany and take a look at these these beautiful picture frames And then the enchanted rose right there Beauty and the Beast and it's actually like so nice $355 for this that's actually really cheap compared to what I thought was gonna be like a thousand dollars And I also like all this too. Oh, it's got the old Epcot logo on there I don't know if you can see it. These are very fancy a little Mickey bell I I want to ring it, but I don't want to bring it because I'm afraid it'll break All right, it's time to move along and our next stop is gonna be Italy now There's not many stores in Italy just a couple, but we'll try to find something fun in there as well Here it is. I don't remember Italy ever having a lot of stores It also has two restaurants in here and a quick service location So like that's probably why but this is the first section here. So we're gonna head right on in This is actually really cool because they have a whole setup here Well, I get to show you guys a little bit of everything We've got the Italy ears up there the dress nice Italy dress and a bag there And I don't see much over here for men. Looks like it's just mostly for the ladies here But maybe something on this wall. Let's take a peek see over here. Oh Yeah, there we go. Wow. Look at this. Oh wow. I like this Look at that Mickey. Look at him. He looks so cool Seriously, I love this little Mickey topolino. Look at that This is I think for kids, but I mean these are really cool designs. I don't think I've ever seen it before They even have water bottles too Across the way they have another store But I want to point out this adventures by Disney sign the world is a magical place Explore it with us. I love that like if that was for sale I think I would buy that and in here they have a little bit more selection of Epcot like exclusive merchandise I can see already nice little hat here Vino Terramisu gelato cappuccino I've got world showcase.   This is huge, too Like holy moly I'm actually a little interested in trying some of these snacks in here, but that is kind of it's really interesting And they they have tons of just not just strawberry doughnuts Look they have all different selections. They even have a cake. Look look at this That is so crazy. I don't know how much this whole cake is eight ninety nine These are like actually not like like bad prices. I ended up buying the pink doughnuts Kambala, which is basically a donut. It's like a circle cake in Italy, but five dollars for this This has got to be one of the best deals here at Epcot I can't wait to try them because I was super intrigued and I wonder how many you get like for a family like this is insane That's not even one think the five dollars won't even get you one like dessert Like one of the stands here. Look at this Holy moly What that is so crazy. I can't even believe this five dollars five ninety nine There are six of them in here like that is I like I said I just kind of still fixated on the price there But like that's like a perfect little snack or treat for a family You know what I mean? That's on a budget and we're gonna try one. We're gonna go in I don't know what I'm gonna do with the rest of them I think I'm gonna like them so I might carry them around, but I feel like they might melt All right, well here we go I don't even know what to say. Oh wow, these are amazing Holy moly. I love them. I Seriously feel like I just found like the best kept secret here at Epcot and look at that There's jelly on the inside of them too. This is such a like unbelievable deal less than a dollar a donut All right, well that is really cool. The donuts were very fun and like they're not like the best ones But they were actually really delicious. They're kind of reminding me of like store-bought donuts But still like I said, you can't go wrong with that price and that's time to move to our next country in Pavilion It's at America. It's America. We're going to America, but they don't really have a store for America I think most of it's outside and then they have the art of Disney store So I mean we'll take a quick look, but I don't think there's anything there really Like I said, they have the art of Disney store over there We'll take a look inside, but most of it is kind of just like not really like Disney-ish like it's just like Mickey and Minnie ears and random hats They have a couple of things but nothing like America Epcot Pavilion like ornate like like I mean this is the stuff that they have right here and that's it It's a very small selection. They have a cowboy hat. They do have their own spirit Jersey though So that is very nice America the beautiful and this is really really nice Wow, I love this fun in the USA Sadly, I think that's it for America like I went into the art of Disney store But they really don't have anything like Epcot or America themed. It's just regular art from art of Disney So I think we're gonna move to Japan next. It's right in order Japan is definitely not like America. They have basically the biggest merchandise shop Actually out of all of World Showcase. It is massive. It starts here and goes all the way around So we're just gonna head right on in and I love hanging out here Literally, this is another one of those pavilions that a lot of people don't even go all the way back like because you know I mean it you don't think it's just it's this big, but it is it's huge Since 1673 that says a lot right there and yeah, look at it in here. I love it One place we can start is here at modern Japan And it's funny because they have so many different cleaning supplies in here Like they have beans bottle cleaning like so these are little like beans that you would put in bottles And then shake them around and you would clean the inside of the bottle there And I think that's really fancy I don't see a price for them, but I like it and then they also have Sponges and different things that you can actually use and it's not so strange that they sell this stuff in Epcot They also have a big variety of different fans and today these would actually come in handy. Oh, wow They work really well too. It's only four dollars and ninety five cents. That's not too bad at all Yep, that is five dollars well spent especially in a hot day holy moly It only feels really good inside of a store because you're pushing the AC But when you're outside you're kind of just like pushing hot air at you I know that like even about like the personal fans. Don't try it like don't try it in the store I always take it outside and try it if you can I mean obviously they don't want to do that because it's shoplifting, but Before I was telling you in the past I was able to buy a whole entire bonsai tree here I don't see any of the bonsai trees for sale.  The bonsai tree I had didn't last very long like I Try to take care of it, but you can overwater it like it doesn't need much care And I think I just took care of it too much like like that's the thing You know what I mean? You have to be very there's specific instructions say it to be very careful with it Another really cool thing that they sell in the Japan Pavilion is a lot of different candy snacks and noodles And I think that's kind of fun They have tons of different Ramions and cups of noodles and you know, they're not like horribly priced four dollars and twenty-nine cents two dollars for the Original right here. So I mean it's kind of fun and they have all different flavors. Oh look holy moly. Look at that That's a lot a lot of noodles right there buckwheat noodles and then down here. We have some golden curry some miso soup I Think it's fun One of my favorite things to always point out is the different Kit-Kat selections they have here and they usually actually rotate the flavors out and they have so many different ones But this one right here caught my eye pretty fast. Look at this It's cheesecake flavored Kit-Kat cheesecake flavored Kit-Kat and then these ones. They're strawberry Kit-Kats and Then I'm not too sure what this one is looks like it's just cracker Kit-Kats So strange and then we have maybe dark chocolate Kit-Kats Yeah. Oh, yeah, I think so and then green tea Kit-Kats. I bet right here. Yeah, it's not so amazing 1295 for these and then they have tons of different other candies here as well And of course you got to get the Pocky the good old Pocky Well, I decided on getting the green tea Kit-Kats to try Well, I decided on getting the green tea Kit-Kats to try so we're gonna open them up I don't know if they're individually like packaged or if they're oh, yeah, they're individually packaged Look at that. Very simple and oh, well, they look nice. Look at this They're a little miniature ones No crack though. I thought I was gonna make that noise, but green tea Kit-Kat Very good. Oh, yeah I wanted to show you guys the inside of them, but these are actually really delicious. They're not bad at all I enjoy these I can eat these on the regular and now I have a whole bag a whole bag That's individually wrapped so these will actually hold up a lot better than the donuts do Well, that was really fun. I really like those Kit-Kats I feel like I need to go back and try some more like try all the different flavors I've seen a lot of crazy different Kit-Kat flavors in the day, but I've never really tried any of them So let me know like what your like craziest Kit-Kat flavor that you have tried and then I was thinking of the song where it's like Give me a break break me off a piece of that.  I think that was it Honestly, sometimes I just try to make myself laugh and if you guys know you know, but Moving along we are in Morocco and sadly, this is another one of the pavilions that doesn't have like a big merchandise location I think they just have this right here like this very tiny little section outside So you really don't have much to go off of oh, but they do have these fancy little hats right here. Look at these guys I like it. How much are they 2499? I Kind of like that made in Morocco. They also have some other hats and some really cool items But I don't see anything like mechs or Morocco Pavilion like themed Epcot. So I don't know I mean, I like it, but I'm not too sure what some of the stuff is They also do sell those little finger ting-tings, you know the ones that go together and you go ting ting ting It's a 999 and I just double checked and they don't have like another location. So this is it So like there's no like exclusive Morocco Epcot merchandise I mean, there's not a lot, but there's still a lot more than America has at least they have an indoor location America is just outside. So that's kind of like, you know, I mean, but there's not really much I can show you in there So this has been fun But I have been slowly getting rid of all of my KitKats because every time I run into somebody who wants to come up and say Hi, I've been offering them and I've given away almost a whole bag I think only have like one KitKat left, but it's cool because I want to share the experience with people So, yeah, I hope anyone that got to try them enjoy them I bought like a whole bag and I've been trying snacks and I tons of them Green tea KitKats, they're very fancy. Thank you Awesome. Bye. I Guess we're just gonna have to move along for Morocco. I did look around a lot I really just couldn't find anything to show or try or buy and Only one country to go one to go in France and it's been fun so far. Like I've really been enjoying my day so much and Yeah, I definitely have to do this again Because like I said, you can do it as many times as you want, but there's always gonna be something different all these stores They don't always sell the same exact thing like in the Japan store Everything is basically just brought in and changed out almost on a weekly basis and the same thing with a lot of the other Pavilion And here we are our last pavilion of the day France and there's a lot to actually go in here. They have tons of different little stores all around We'll start off right here And it's really kind of cool because they're selling some of the Disneyland Paris merchandise because they just had their anniversary They even had the Duny and Burke one here. I wonder if it's all inside So we'll have to take a look see but I love the smell in here. This is where they smell all the good cologne Yeah, take a look they got the Disneyland 30 years here are the ears and they have some of the pins and they had the Which one called Duny and Burke and then I have some of the t-shirts and even a hat. Let me the ball cap up here This looks very fancy. Oh, wow. I'd like that a little Disneyland Paris on the inside there This is a really cool hat actually I Would love to go to Disneyland Paris one day So it's really cool that they at least sell the merchandise here for the anniversary now I think we're gonna head into the other store across the way They have a pretty good selection of like Epcot country specific merchandise I like how they have Mickey and Minnie right here with the Eiffel Tower And then there's a little mini bow on top and it has the newest Epcot logo to it But then we get poor little stitch over here who's been Outdated look at that. These will end up at the character where I was probably very soon. I Do actually like this right here though. This is really cool. I've caught France world showcase Definitely would pinky up with this I feel a little bum that I really didn't get to buy anything today I was looking for maybe a fancy new hat or some really cool apparel I mean, I would love to get one of the spirit jerseys But I have an issue with spirit jerseys and the issue is I never have enough So I keep on buying them and I need to just cut back a little bit. I have some I've never even worn before I just got them to have them and Yeah, I mean, I guess that's that's really it here for the France rebellion I mean, I could have went along and bought some other stuff and showed you guys a little bit more But I think we should just wrap it up before the storm actually comes because I got a great day today Like it's been pretty amazing trying all these new snacks and different things and then also just shopping around and exploring the Pavilions, it's always a fun thing to do and I'm gonna keep making videos like this So I'll definitely do another one, you know in a couple of months when more stuff comes and I hope you enjoyed the video because I enjoyed making it. We'll see you next time. Bye


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Welcome, folks. This is Tom O'Brien of TFNN. We go five days a week. We go seven hours a day. We go 24 hours a day on the Internet at TFNN.com. Always remember, folks, whatever you think about, you bring about whatever. You focus on growth so everybody's having a great day, safe day. It's a TGIF, folks. It's making a great weekend. And we'll kick it into April. You're going to love it. To master love, you have to practice love. The out-of-relationship is a whole mastery. And the only way to reach mastery is with practice. To master relationship is there for about action, not about attaining knowledge. Mugged-wise, let's take a look at it out here. We have the Dow Industries up 119. Nasdaq's up 15. S&P's up 2.5. Gold contract down $23.80, trading at $19.25 an ounce. We have Silver off 36 cents, $24.76 an ounce. Lightsway crew down 81 cents, $99.00 49 cents a barrel. Loads and bonds. A 10-year note. Down 23 ticks, trading $1.2204. The 30-year off 16 ticks at $149.18 and $Kingdollars. $Kingdollars trading up, let's see, where are you, $Kingdollars? There you are. $Kingdollars up 307, trading at $98.619. The year is at $110. The end is at $122.59. And the British pound is at $131.00 to $1.00 U.S. dollar. iPhone number's<PHONE_NUMBER>. Give us a call, folks. Want to know what's going on in your world? In the world of the S&P's, let's take a look at them. What do you have? Well, this is a pretty clean chart, folks, when you take a look at what we have out here. So, what we did out here yesterday, you know, pitching it, well, first off, let's take a look at the type of retracement you have. It's okay. So, when we take the highest of the lows, you're going to see that we did almost a .786 retracement. That's a huge bounce. That's a very strong bounce, and that's saying that you will not go break the low on the way next street down, the next leg down. That's only the first leg. That's how that works, okay? Because then you're going to take the fib number off the last high that we had, not the high, the last high that we had inside the spy, you'd go at the .462. That being said, this is on the daily, so then we had the expansion of volume yesterday. Then we take this, and you're going to put this on the weekly, and what you're going to see on the weekly is that bottom line is that you've got over your two highs that were generated out here the week of the 4th of February as well as the 11th. Bottom line, let's say, so we got up to .462, those numbers were .457 and .458, and you're going to close this .451. So, you get to a higher high, you close under it, and you have higher, a lighter volume. 629 million we were going into, you only did .406. That is the perfect setup, folks, that number one, you know, you're going back to this bottom, and you know, we'll see how this shakes out, meaning if I'm correct, on the way down. The NDX100, now the NDX100 has been the weakest industry anyway, and we take a look at the spy or the NDX. NDX did the same thing, the Qs yesterday had an expansion of volume, and if we pull this up, let me do this one, because I want to see the amount of, okay, so also with that, okay, the NDX, you know, also was almost at a .618, okay, so that's still strong too. We take this, we're going to put this on a weekly, and what you're going to see is going to be the same type of setup. Bottom line is that you got into, let's see if we got over, what do we get, we got to 371. Yeah, we got over both of them again. You got over both of them, and let's see, 429 million versus 301. Oh, yeah, it's not even close, man. So what you have here is this, you got over the swing point, you had light of volume, rejected low, low, higher price, we're going right back to these lows. I suspect where we're going, and I was talking about this a couple weeks ago, but right here, that's, you know, you can see that high volume load that's sticking out 297, and right now we are 350. We go to the spy, I suspect we're going to see the same type of setup, put this on a weekly for a second. Come on, I don't like this chart. I don't know what they do these charts. I just hit the wrong letter when that happens, folks. So take that, okay, here we go. So that number, yeah, see, oh, there it is right there, I see. So the number in the spy is 371. We'll see how that shakes out. That's, you know, the first leg down could get into the lows of the last low. You go sideways, you build some more cars, you get down to that next level. Gold, we take a look at the gold contract out here, what you're going to see in the gold contract. Gold contract trading down $29. Bottom line, you get volume of 124,000. So that's really light volume. That's the bottom line. So you're still consolidating the gold market. Now, this is what the mindblower is out here today. There's no doubt. I mentioned it when I just did the updates. You get gold down $25, yet you get Newmont breaking all-time highs. Newmont right now is trading up $291. You get juice behind the move. We were talking about Newmont yesterday because what happened with Newmont, Newmont was coming into its highs with monster volume. And you can see the type of volume it had in a monthly. It was huge. So you're going to blow away the highs. Newmont's on its way to 98. We go to Royal Gold. You're going to see the same type of set up in Royal Gold. And what I suspect we're going to see here, just as I said, Royal Gold rising up is up $456. I think the high on Royal Gold is $165. Let me see this. I don't think it says, oh, look at this. No, it's breaking. Yeah, $147. So $147. And you can see, just look at this. I mean, Royal Gold is the same way. You get two monster bars. I was talking to Z yesterday. These don't come in singles, folks. These bars, they love coming in triples, man. This thing's going up and away. And I suspect what's going to happen is that you have a change of sector rotation. That's what's going on. Some of the big funds, you see, if the big funds, they would go into those first. And let's go take a look at Barrick because they would go into Barrick. But what happens at Barrick is that Fidelity's own so much of Barrick. Yeah, Barrick's up $0.40. Nothing heavy. But the bottom line is that that's what I suspect you see happening out here. We go take a look at the Yen. And of course, the Yen has that correlation with where Gold wants to go. The Yen's got weaker last night. That's, yeah, that's building costs to go back downtown. You can see the Yen got up to this $123. You're at $122.55. And I suspect you're going to build some more costs to basically get down into lower price, which is stronger Yen. Dow. Dow industrial is right now trading. Where is she? Dow's trading up $77. Nasdaq is down $10. S&P's are up $2.5. Stay right there, folks. We're coming back with our man, Best of the Hulu. We are going to be talking some cap rates, real estate cap rates. We're going to walk you through a couple spreadsheets here. Stay right there, folks. Come right back.


Hey there friends, thanks for checking in. Let's talk about ankle carry. I have an ankle carry holster I carry at the ankle on occasion. It's not my primary way to carry It has some advantages and disadvantages. So that is what this video is about now One of the greatest advantages would be if you are Driving for the majority of your day or you are seated for the majority of your day in that case your knees are already bent It could be a quick draw. If you wear long pants, okay? And you can't carry at the hip for whatever reason. You don't feel comfortable in the pocket Ankle carry is not a bad way to go. It makes for an excellent backup choice and I have an ankle carry holster right here. Probably nothing is more concealable than carrying on the ankle because it just Covers up so well. Nobody would know all right And it's it's it can be comfortable, but it could also be uncomfortable depending on What gun you choose to carry in the ankle that I heard people say well I carry a Glock 26 in the ankle to me that would be too heavy. All right for comfort reasons now It has to be rather snug on your leg most of the time It's velcro that attaches together the one that I have is okay. I'm not recommending this one I'm not even saying what kind it is, but it requires practice more practice than drawing from the hip drawing from the hip is Easy to practice. I've been to many training classes where we have done all types of drills Drawing firearm from the hip not one can I remember that we ever practiced drawing from the ankle? So it does require practice So if you're seating or if you're seated all day or you're driving all day great benefit if you Want it for a backup great benefit if you want deep concealability Great benefit some of the disadvantages. It's not that comfortable. All right, it's primarily because you have to keep it rather tight and It sometimes can bounce around if you move around a lot it bounces around doesn't feel as secure as it should be now There are all kinds of ankle holsters. I'll let You decide which one is best for you, but when drawing from the ankle it is important that you learn to pull up your pants and Draw typically it has a strap here draw Like that you will probably shoot from your knee position When drawing from the ankle most of these have a Strap that goes around the gun. So not only do you have to pull up your leg pant You have to undo the strap and then draw that may not seem like a lot but it's actually a lengthy process considering this is So much quicker So you have to practice and you probably are going to use a small gun now the micro 380s would be a good choice This is a diamond back DB 9 gen 4 I would carry this in the ankle anything other anything heavier than that I would avoid because in my opinion, it's just too heavy and cumbersome To keep at the ankle So the draw is not very quick and the practice required is pretty intense to get good But if you can do that and you have the space to step forward and draw from the ankle Then that would be a pretty good Way to carry for you. Most people step forward and pull out like this, but also They can step backward and pull out depending on the situation that You are in and the space that you have to work with now. It is a Great backup. I know a lot of police officers carry in the ankle and they feel they feel confident with that once again It limits the type of gun that you could use dependent upon the size and weight of Your handgun and the type of ankle holster that you have Okay, you have to have one that straps on the top of your cap and Places the gun down by your ankle and there's a strap down there too If you don't have that or you get one of those cheap ones They sell at the gun show which is a one-piece Velcro. I don't even waste your time. Those are garbage Guaranteed I had one before it doesn't stay still it bounces around a little bit So you have to have a double strap ankle holster and if you can get it to work for you Then it's a great backup if it's it has to be your primary and you're seated all the time Then that's your preferred style of carry and I'm sure it'll work well for you It is a method that is effective for many people and like I said, I do it on occasion, but for excellent concealability Backup purposes and while you're driving long road trips would be a good time to ankle carry those would all be Advantages and I'm sure I'll hear back in the comments about the situations that people incurred When ankle carrying and I look forward to that if you like videos like this, please subscribe and share I always appreciate thumbs up button. Thanks for watching and you guys be safe


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The only reason you are watching these videos is to catch me committing an error, to catch me making a mistake, I know it, and I'm not mistaken at least about this. So let's tackle today's crop before we revert to the topic of the video. I have received several comments, emails and two carrier pigeons in bad shape with messages that I'm mispronouncing serotonin. I'm pronouncing it as serotonin, and the accepted pronunciation is indeed serotonin, but it's wrong. Exactly as you wouldn't say adrenaline, you should not say serotonin. How did this happen? This is the accepted pronunciation, everyone is saying serotonin. How did this mistake take root so deeply and inextricably? Well, the scientists who discovered serotonin in the 1940s mispronounced the word, they combined the word serum and tonic and they mispronounced the word, and this mispronunciation was handed down the generations, and today that's the way we say it, but my critics are right. If I want to be understood, if I want to be comprehensible, I should adhere to the way the overwhelming vast majority of people pronounce the word serotonin, and from now on I will. The thing is I'm a bit eccentric, which is a politically correct way of saying that I'm totally nuts, and one of my eccentricities is language. I'm addicted to language you may have noticed. I study the etymology, the roots of words, I try to understand how they were made, how they're created, etc, etc, and I'm utterly allergic, utterly allergic to mispronouncing words, not using the correct pronunciation when it comes to words, and I regret to say no nationalism or racism implied. Americans do it a lot. They mispronounce words all the time, because Americans are in control of the global mass media, Hollywood, and social media. These mispronunciations become entrenched and widespread, and it's very very difficult to eradicate them after this. And so from now on it's serotonin, but you should know that properly it should have been serotonin, exactly like adrenaline. Now another torrent, another torrent of mischievous unraveling of my alleged omniscience had to do with with the fruit. In the previous video I said that Eve gave the fruit to Adam, and I've received numerous misives informing me that she gave him an apple. Well actually she didn't. If you go to the text in Genesis 2 and Genesis 3 it's fruit, not apple. So where does this very common misconception come from? It comes from Latin. In Latin the word evil is malum, and the word apple is malum, malum, malum, and people confused it. When they wanted to say that Eve handed evil to Adam, they said that she handed him malum and apple. Now the last thing I want to tackle before we go to the topic of the video is the commentary by various people that God acted very eventually, narcissistically, and so on and so forth, in expelling Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden just for eating, just for engaging in vegetarian diet. God actually acts in the text as a loving father would. Not only is he a loving father, but he's the first-fashioned designer long before Coco Chanel. He, as you will see shortly, he made the first clothing, the first clothes, I'm quoting, and to Adam also, and to his wife, did the Lord God made coats of skins and clothed them. But then of course he posted security guards and instructed Adam and Eve to leave the Emporium as he caught them shoplifting, and then they ghosted him. This is the whole story. So he drove out the man and he placed at the east of the Garden of Eden cherubims, security guards, and a flaming sword which turned every way to keep the way of the Tree of Life. So God wasn't as bad as he's made out to be. He actually was very compassionate. He saw that Adam and Eve were naked, and he made clothes for them, and he gave him these pieces of clothing free of charge. And of course he wanted to protect his property, so he placed security guards with swords at the entrance to make sure that the shop lifters Adam and Eve will never come to visit this particular shopping mall again. Today we are going to discuss, we're going to review actually, the literature, and we're going to ask the question, why do they abuse you? Why do narcissists and psychopaths abuse you? Why does he abuse you? And why do you stay?  Something is going on here, some very unhealthy diet, some very unhealthy connection of bonding, some dance macabre. And I've received complaints from various listeners that and viewers that I tend to focus too much on two, three, four scholars, and I keep mentioning them. And in the letters that I've received people said, but surely these topics are dealt with by other scholars, by other psychologists, and by other theoreticians. Can you tell us a bit about these other people? Well today I'm going to do that. First of all I'm going to refer you to a book as had become our tradition, and the book is Sadism, Psychoanalytic Developmental Perspectives. I strongly recommend this book, it's an anthology of articles, but it gives a great overview of dysfunctional relationships. So the first scholar I would like to mention in this context is a guy by the name of Glasser, that's G-L-A-S-S, sorry, E-R. Glasser came with the concept of the core complex. The core complex characterizes sadistic and aggressive people. Glasser thought, he developed the he developed the idea, he started developing the idea in 1986, and he had written about it in 86, 92, 96, and Glasser saw the core complex as a universal stage. Everyone, he said, goes through the core complex. And a central feature of the core complex is the very delicate relationship with a primary object, which is usually the mother. There is a kind of dance, a kind of approach and avoidance, but it's very gentle and very subtle and very delicate and very nuanced and very hinted. The core complex is on the one hand a withdrawal from the object, a withdrawal from the mother. You remember that the baby tries to separate from the mother, tries to individuate in the process of becoming an individual. The first thing that has to be sacrificed is mommy. And mommy is a safe base. Mommy provides, mommy is the world. Mommy is also in a unitary bond, in a unitary cell with the child. The child doesn't really regard himself or herself as separate from mommy. And so in a way, in order to become an individual in order to separate, the child is to sacrifice a part of himself. So the withdrawal from the object, the separation leads to a sense of desolation, aloneness, desperateness, and even in some cases fear. This is why it's critical for the mother to be a safe base, to be a rock, to be solid, to be there for the baby, so that the baby can feel safe enough, strong enough, secure enough to venture out into the world grandiosely to take on the work, knowing that mother has his back and that he can always return to mother. But even if the mother is a totally safe base, compassionate and loving and warm and accepting and unconditionally there for the child, even in this total perfection of a case, even then there's a lot of fear. Venturing out into the unknown is frightening, even when you're an adult, no, imagine when you are, I don't know, a few months old. So there's a lot of aloneness, a lot of desolation, a lot of fear, and it can become unbearable. And so children react sometimes by clinging to mother, clinging to mother. If the mother is a safe base, gradually this clinging will wane and disappear. The child will venture further afield and further afield and further afield. He will start to run away from mother. He will lose sight of mother and he will not panic. He will know that she is somewhere there monitoring him, looking after him.  The clinging will only be enhanced because there will be a perception of doom, impending doom. I'm about to lose mommy forever. Better cling to her. And in many, in many cases, even clinging is not enough. And then there is inside the baby the realization that he needs to utterly control and possess the object, utterly control and possess mommy. Because if he doesn't, he's gonna lose her. So clinging, control, freakery, possessiveness, they develop very early on in life. But at the same time, the child wants to separate. He wants to individuate. He wants to set very clear, demarcated, impermeable boundaries. He wants to become his own person. So there is a dissonance. Yes, there's a conflict, there's a clash. On the one hand, fear, panic, loneliness, desperation, and despondence, desolation on the one hand. On the other hand, there's the fear of engulfment, of being digested, of being assimilated, of vanishing by merging and fusing with the mother. And when the mother is unhealthy, mentally, when she is not able to provide the safe base, there is no resolution to this dissonance. Both strands, both psychodynamic processes operated the same time. And one of the reactions is a narcissistic and omnipotent psychic organization, where power and control are the pillars and the foundations. The child relies on power plays, displays of unmitigated control and mind games, frankly, a bit later. And the child also sexualizes the relationship, even with mother. There are hints of incest and these hints grow with time. The relationship becomes very incestuous emotionally. And as the child matures, it becomes, for example, adolescent. This ambient incest, this emotional incest, becomes dominant. And the child is totally parentified. He becomes the mother's boyfriend. He becomes the mother's husband's substitute. But it's later down the road. It all starts in childhood. But such a child learns to relate to objects. In other words, he learns to relate to other people, only via control, only via power play, only via submerged submersion, possession, immersion, fusion, merger. These are all utterly dysfunctional ways of relating to an object. They don't allow for whole objects relating. They don't allow for proper relating to other people, because they don't see other people in all these ways of relating to an object. The object is there to be subsumed, to be digested, to be devoured, to be integrated, to become an extension. The object is not an autonomous independent entity with its own boundaries and its own mental space, its own psychology. The object becomes, in a way, a symbol, a representation, the condition for inner peace, the condition for egocentrity. It's like a favorite food. You have to eat this food to feel good, soothing. It's a form of self-soothing. This creates, in turn, an addiction, because the devouring of the object, the possession of the object and the control of the object, they're critical. Soothing, comfort, inner peace, a level of coordination, self-efficacy, autonomy, reality testing, all these critical functions become highly reliant on possessing and controlling the object. Now, there are two ways to possess and control the object. You can blackmail the object into possession and control by becoming helpless, by becoming needy, and that's the codependent solution. The codependent is so helpless and so needy that she coerces, forces the object to respond in a way that bonds and binds the object to her. If the codependent is so helpless, so needy, and so childlike, and so at risk, and so disorganized, and so disintegrative, and so, you know, then you feel that you're obliged to help. It's not okay not to help her. It's cruelty not to cater to her emotional needs, so it's a form of control. Codependency is a form of control freakery. It's a form of possession. That's one solution, clinging, neediness, and the other solution is the narcissistic solution, aggression, power, contempt. So, but in both these solutions, there's no real object related. There's no ability to relate to other people. And so Glasser says, remember Glasser? This guy who invented all this. Glasser says that in core complex defenses, I've just described core complex defenses. Core complex defenses are characterized by a denial of the object. It's like the person says, my mother is not a safe base. She doesn't give me the reassurance and acceptance and unconditional love and presence that I need in order to feel safe and secure and strong and resilient and able to take on the world. So I can't trust her. I can't rely on her. She's not serious, you know. So who can I trust? Who can I rely on? Who is my best and only friend? Who am I in total control of? Who is utterly predictable? Me. Only me. So goodness, safety, security, they come from a single source, the self. The self. And everyone else is considered to be unsafe, hostile, insecure, dangerous, risky to be avoided. There's a disavowal of the very possibility of receiving love and care from another person. And now, if you challenge this, if you try to love a narcissist, if you try to care for a narcissist, you're challenging his worldview. He has a worldview that he is, and only he is, the source of everything that's good, everything that's safe, everything that's secure, everything that's permanent, everything that's predictable, only me, only the self. If you are trying to get close to a narcissist, if you're trying to be intimate with a narcissist, if you're trying to love the narcissist and to care for the narcissist, if you're trying to embrace the narcissist, even sometimes physically, you're challenging that you're actually criticizing the narcissist.  It's not true that you are the only source of everything that's good and safe. I'm also there for you. I also love you. I also care for you. And you know, narcissists don't like to be criticized. They don't like it when you disagree with them.  That's a God-like attribute that renders the narcissist divine. And here you come and you're telling the narcissist you're wrong. You're not divine. You're not divine. I can give you the same. I can give you love. I can give you intimacy. I can hug you.  I can make you feel safe. You can sleep safely, sleep on my chest, on my shoulder. You can trust me. This is a direct challenge and the narcissist reacts to these, to your empathy, to your compassion, to your caring, to your love. Narcissists react to this with unmitigated aggression and violence because all these that I've just mentioned, your empathy, love and so on and caring, these are challenges. You are challenging him.  Bateman in 2006 developed the work of another scholar by the name of Rosen. Rosen suggested that there are two types of narcissists. Thick skin narcissists and thin skin narcissists. Thin skin narcissists, when they are challenged, tend to withdraw. They tend to become schizoid. They have many elements of borderline and they are a bit covert. They are also passive aggressive and so on. Thick skin narcissists. When they feel under attack, when they feel criticized or disagreed with or challenged, they react with aggressive strategies. They become inaccessible. They become defensive. They become violent. They protect themselves against the perceived threat, the threat of unsettling and undermining their Weltanschauung, their worldview. Here they are with a perfectly well arranged point of view and view of the world, a theory of the world actually, in which they are all good and everyone else is all bad. This is called splitting. It's a defense mechanism where the narcissist is all good and everyone else is all bad.  There are the good people. For example, me. I love you. I love you. I care for you. I feel your pain.   He would immediately become utterly inaccessible. His eyes will glaze over. He will see that there's nobody home. He will put forward his absence. His absence will become conspicuous absence, ostentatious absence. So as to inform you, I'm no longer here. I'm gone. Forget it. Don't even try. There's nobody home. Don't knock on the door. Go away. And this is done very aggressively and Bateman 2006 described the process. Glasses concept of core complex helps us to understand the development of the special relationship between the aggressive narcissist and psychopath and his mate, his spouse, his intimate or so-called intimate partner.  Why do you stay? I've just explained why he abuses you.  He hates because there are indications of weakness, not only your weakness, but his weakness. He sees in you his weakness. He's projecting onto you all his negativity. And if you refuse to accept it, if you remain a positive person, he suddenly realizes that the negativity is his, not yours. The projection fails.   He hates your guts for being good and especially for being good to him. Okay, we got this part. But why do you stay? Glasses says that people stay in such relationships because there is what he calls a sadomasochistic fit. Glasses believes that the core complex has its origin, as I said, in normal developmental phenomena. He said it's the infant's wish to merge with an idealized, omnipotent and gratifying mother as an early solution to anxieties of loss and gendered by the infant's move towards separation and individuation, as I explained before. But as I again said before, if the mother is unavailable, if it's a dead mother, if it's narcissistically oriented, or if it forces the narcissist to meet her own narcissistic need and to become a primary caregiver, if it parentifies the child, this creates serious problems. So the core complex is actually a glorified version of what Sigmund Freud called approach avoidance repetition compulsion. It describes a movement, a repetitive, undisrupted movement between a deep seated longing for intimate closeness with an object and at the same time, simultaneously, terrifying, terrifying escape and flight away from the object. So at the same time, there is a flight response.  So he's trying to run away, but he also craves it. He really misses it. He wants to fulfill his emptiness with your love and empathy and he can't. He can't because the desired merger with you threatens him. He believes that if he were to accept your love and empathy and caring and hugs and sexuality and intimacy, if he were to accept this, it would result in his annihilation. He would vanish. It's his annulment. The narcissist cannot understand any other type of relationship except when one of the parties vanishes.  It's the same in the codependence mind. It's the same in the borderline mind. This vanishing effect is a kind of magical thinking effect. If I fuse, if I merge, if I vanish, I'm safe. I'm safe because we become one. I can never be abandoned. If I become one with my intimate partner, if we become a single organism with two heads, if we share everything to perfection 100%, if I vanish, he can never abandon me. How can he abandon himself? I become him. So he can never abandon him. He can never abandon himself. So in the narcissist's mind, this is the only way that objects, that people relate to each other. His version of object relations is one object which takes over kind of a hostile takeover, merger and acquisition. One object that takes over another object, a leverage buyout of the other object. So whenever someone approaches a narcissist offering friendship, love, intimacy, empathy, the narcissist immediately translates it in his persecutory, paranoid ideation. He immediately interprets it. Oh, this guy, he wants something from me. He wants to take over me. He wants to take something that's mine. This woman, she's offering love. It's conditional. She wants something. Gradually, she will digest me. She will assimilate me. I will disappear. I will vanish. She wants to devour me. She wants to eat me alive. I need to run. I need to run, but it feels so good. What am I going to do? And then swing oscillation, this pendulum movement. This is the confused, this is the confused interplay of closeness annihilation and distance abandonment. And it's almost unresolvable. Glasses says that there are various ways that the narcissist copes. And in a minute, I will come to the answer. Why are you staying? For you to understand why you're staying, you first need to understand the narcissist more deeply. He said, when the narcissist experiences this fear, this panic, this terror, because it's equivalent of modification, it's terrorizing. When he fears that you will annihilate him, that you will consume him, that you will devour him. So he either becomes defensive and he withdraws. That's when you see the narcissist becomes cold, detached, absent, sometimes physically absent. He becomes, for example, a alcoholic. And that's one solution. And the other solution, he becomes decreased and arrogant and contemptuous.  In other words, to destroy you. He wants to destroy your existence because it's only one of you will be left standing. It's like dual at noon. The first one to draw is the first one to win. So he has to draw first. He has to eliminate you and annihilate you because you're threatening his existence. Or he has to keep his distance. He has to withdraw. And when he withdraws from you, he devalues you.  But in both cases he loses you. He desires you. He craves you. He wants you. He wants love. He's hungry. He's thirsty. He's exhausted. To be a narcissist is a horribly depleting experience. I mean, it's internal exhaustion that cannot be communicated. Trust me. I'm a master of words and I have no words. I'm speechless. There's no way to communicate. The vacuity, the howling void, the deep space that consumes the narcissist from the inside. Like an unrelenting, metastatic, systemic cancer. Every cell co-opted. Every cell compromised. Every tissue. A traitor. The narcissist has a fifth column inside him. Multi-multiplicity. A herd of Trojan horses. And he's fighting this in a battle in this battlefield. And he takes away all his energy. And he's dying to take your energy from you. That's the vampiric element in narcissism. But he also wants to be loved. He's a child, remember, yes? Don't ever forget this. Narcissus is a child. And he's dying to be loved. But, and he has this terror that you will abandon him. This extreme abandonment anxiety. And the loss of the desired object is the ultimate tragedy. That's why it usually leads to modification where the false self crumbles. The narcissist suddenly faces himself in the mirror. And this is the fundamental conflict of narcissism. This is the circular nature of the core complex. The aggression when the narcissist is aggressive according to Glasser and his core complex concept. When the narcissist is aggressive it's because he wants to master you. He wants to master you. He wants to own you. He wants to possess you. Because he says he gives up on himself. The narcissist gives up on himself. He says, so I'm going to work. It's not going to work because I have no capacity. No capacity to accept love and care and concern and empathy. I am disabled. I can't do empathy. I don't do empathy well. Of course, majority of narcissists aggrandize and reframe this. They don't present it. They don't regard it as a disability, but they regard it as an evolutionary advantage. It makes them superior. It makes them untouchable. It makes them immune. It makes them strong. It makes them omnipotent, etc. But deep inside, deep inside alone at night, when everyone's asleep and the narcissist is in the bathroom looking at the mirror, he knows everything. He knows something's wrong with him. And he knows he can't fix it. And he knows that he can't do what other people do effortlessly. What every man does 200 times a day in every restaurant, in every bar, in every workplace, intimacy, real talk, real communication, concern, capacity for empathy. It doesn't get through to the narcissist. The walls, the defenses, the fortresses, the draw bridges. I mean, it's totally isolated on a hill. It's like a city on a hill. It's like a citadel. And no amount of siege will get through. And Glasses suggests that reality is corrupted in order to meet narcissistically driven needs. But it works against any toleration of dependence, of separateness, of loss, of ambivalence. All these are experiences, threats to the self. So on the one hand, he wants you gone. He wants to separate from you, like the child that he is. He's still stuck in the separation individuation. But on the other hand, he wants you to be a safe base. He wants you to be there for him, to have his back, to love him, to caress him, to kiss him gently, to make tender love to him. He wants this and he can never have it. It's like Moses and the Promised Land. It's like the fox and the grapes. And of course, he has numerous cognitive dissonances. I don't really need it. I don't really want it. I'm strong. I'm resilient. I don't need anyone. I'm sufficient. I'm self-contained. Yeah, we heard all this. We heard all these nonsense. And when he's alone, he knows it's nonsense. Glasser distinguishes between what he calls self-preservative violence and sadistic violence. He says that self-preservative violence has to do with eliminating the threat posed by the object. It's about attacking the object, destroying the source of the ego-discrepant messages, destroying the found and the foundation of the challenge to the grandiosity. The narcissist feels extremely disconfident, extremely vaguely menaced by your presence, because your very existence proves to him that it's possible to be different. You don't have to be a narcissist. You can be something else. You can be happy. You can be smiling. You can be loving. You can be caring. You can be empathic. You can bond with other people. You can have great fun. You can have a good time. You know what? You can make love, even with strangers. And here he is, crippled, invalidated by his own haughtiness, arrogance, and honestly, stupidity, profound stupidity.  He is the wisdom of a donkey. He is knowledgeable, but never wise.   And this is the self-preservative violence, because he wants to preserve his self, his false self. And then there is sadistic violence. And sadistic violence is more about gaining control of him, the pleasure of dominating you, in an extreme cases of sadistic narcissists, inflicting pain on you. This causes the narcissist's pleasure, because it reaffirms his superiority and his omnipotence. Sadistic violence leads me to the answer to your question. Why are you staying? You're staying because you are enmeshed in a sadomasochistic diet. You yourself have a sadomasochistic streak. There is a sadomasochistic object. And if the relationship between you proceeds beyond a certain point, the manifestations of aggression become toxic, because they become addictive. Let me explain. Violence and aggression and passive aggression in a typical relationship with the narcissist has to do with sadomasochism. Someone enjoys being the recipient of the aggression, and someone enjoys inflicting it, because it reaffirms his omnipotence, because it ameliorates his abandonment anxiety, whatever the reason is. There is joy, there is joy, subjective joy, reaffirmation, there is egocintony, restore inner peace in inflicting this pain and power play within the power play. And the recipient has the same reaction. So there's a sadomasochistic object, and you gradually pick up the signals from the narcissist. The narcissist actually establishes boundaries for you. What you do in a relationship with the narcissist, you outsource your boundaries. You allow the narcissist to set your boundaries. If you try to transgress, if you try to cross these boundaries, extend them flexibly, redefine them, reframe them, the narcissist has a persecutory, persecutory and paranoid reaction. He's going to regard you as a threat, and he's going to react with aggression and sometimes violence. There was another scholar by the name of Mottz, M-O-T-Z, it's a woman. She came up with the concept of toxic coupling, and she demonstrated in her work how the two partners, the narcissist and his intimate partner, or insignificant other, how they are destructively dependent on each other. They're allied in a perverse bond. I advise you to read her work, especially papers and books published in 2014. According to Mottz, the main defenses that are used to preserve the relationship are projection and projective identification, and these defenses serve important functions.  I have a video about projection, projective identification, and projective interjection. So projection, interjection, projective identification. I have several videos actually, but there's one of them which deals also with interjection, and interjection is what you do in the relationship with the narcissist.  Steiner in 1993 discussed the emergence of sadomasochistic type of relating in such relationships. He said that both love and hate exist in these relationships, and they both function in a perverse way. He said that both parties, the narcissist and his partner, they create fantasies, and the these fantasies have very strong sadomasochistic elements and hues, and these are the sadomasochistic elements, create a lot of excitement and thrill and pleasure, because cruelty is sexual. I mean, Croft-Ebbing was the first to describe this. Sadism and cruelty have a very powerful sexual element. Well over 80 percent of women have submissive masochistic fantasies, well over 20 percent of women. Their main sexual fantasy is rape, and of course men have aggressive fantasies. So when there's embedded cruelty, when the abuse is ritualized, when it becomes a common religion, a shared fantasy, a shared psychosis, there's a lot of excitement and pleasure and thrill. It's like a joint adventure, and this is not inhibited by any recognition of hurt or damage to the object. We see this a lot in BDSM, in Sadomasochistic Sex, where the hurt and the pain are recognized. The parties know that they are inflicting pain and hurt on each other, but it's highly regimented. It's rigid, it's ritualized. It's like a ceremony, and there are keywords, and everything is like catechism in the Catholic Church. It's like a religion, and the confusion and excitement, this confusion, this excitement, this cruelty, they characterize the relationship. It seems that gradually the parties, even if you start out as a totally normal person, loving, empathic, caring, even if previously you had relationships where everything was totally functional and emotional expression was healthy and forthcoming and communication was well established and working, even then when you enter the narcissist's hall of mirrors, your ability to link hurt and pain to the subject to another person, this ability disintegrates. You develop difficulty in linking the concepts of being hurt or inflicting pain on the subject and the object. In other words, let me try to explain this. It's like hurt and pain become the third part. There's the narcissist, there's you, and there's what you do to each other. What you do to each other has nothing to do with you or with the narcissist. It's like a third entity. You can see this plainly and wonderfully in two movies, The Last Tango in Paris and Who is Afraid of Virginia Woolf, where you have couples, men and women, and they're clearly very bonded and very attached, but they together cultivate and nurture a universe of pain and hurt, maybe also nine and a half weeks. The hurt and pain become like children and they both emotionally invest in growing this sibling, this child of anguish and torment and torture. Suddenly these emotions are disjointed, they're not connected to the narcissist or to his spouse or mate. They're like they're standalone units to be used, devices, and so it's extremely difficult in couple therapy to work through this because the members of the couple, the narcissist and his spouse, they play roles. The spouse or the mate or the intimate partner usually plays the role of a victim within a comfort zone and the narcissist plays the role of the abuser over there and sometimes it's reversed. The narcissist claims to be the victim and so, but these are role plays. It's like a theater production. It's like a movie. Well done in 2012 coined the phrase malignant bonding. She highlighted the enmeshed relationships in which abuse and cruelty become the norm. Well done saw the violence in such relationships as the way in which partners attempt to overcome earlier trauma. It's like they're trying to reenact experiences in order to triumph over learned helplessness. She was not the first to say this. My good friend, John Lachkawa, in the 80s, she wrote a seminal groundbreaking book, Narcissistic Borderline Couples, now in its second edition. Lachkawa is the first to point out that narcissists and borderlines, they have archaic wounds. The archaic wound is something first described by Freud. It's trauma, childhood traumas, and they're trying to heal each other actually. They're interacting with each other's archaic wounds. It's like scratching a wound. You can't help it. It's itchy. And so they scratch each other's wounds.  Hyatt Williams in 1998 suggested that enactments of aggression, violence, and even murderousness, they are part of this toxicity, part of these toxic relationships. And because a lot of the emotional experiences are not processed, there's no mutual containment, but beyond COVID. They're not processed. The emotions don't, they are not really processed, but what happens is the emotions are converted into the language of mutual aggression, mutual infliction of pain and hurt. Jekyll in 2010 suggested that if the child had internalized a pathological attachment relationship, then his or her capacity to regulate emotions is very reduced. And the individual is more likely to express emotions in a primitive way by engaging in aggression and violence towards self and others. But I value most an earlier contribution by Phonagy and Target. In 1995, they asserted that aggression and violence come about because people are unable to reflect and unable to mentalize, unable to mentalize. And in my next video, I'm going to discuss mentalization, because mentalization is the very mechanism, the very process by which we generate empathy. Mentalizing is a process where we make sense of each other and we make sense of ourselves by making sense of each other in terms of subjective states and mental processes. In other words, we ask ourselves, what's happening to this guy or girl? What's going on through their minds? What makes them tick? This is mentalizing. It's a social concern. We are attentive to the mental states of people we're with physically, psychologically. It's the ability to understand the mental state of oneself and of other people. And it leads to behavior, translates to behavior. It's a form of imaginative creative mental activity. It's with mentalization that we perceive and interpret human behavior in terms of intentional mental states. And without mentalization, we cannot create a theory of mind, a theory of other people's minds. And therefore, we cannot empathize. And I think, I think this, these insights by, by Fonacci and Target, this is the crux. This is the issue. This is the issue. When you're not allowed to separate and individuate, there's no one there. You are not allowed to become. And when you're not allowed to become, who? There's no one there to do the observing. If you don't exist, you can't observe. If you can't observe, you can't reflect. If you can't reflect, you can't mentalize. If you can't mentalize, you can't realize that there are other people. You can't, you can never understand other people because there's no you. If there's no you, there's no he. If there's no you, there's no she. If there's no you, there's no they. If there's no you, there is no world except something very fuzzy, very foggy, very ominous, very about to become on the verge of becoming, but never really there. The narcissist is an absence about to become on the threshold of becoming a presence, an absence on the threshold of becoming a presence. And yet, absence fears presence.   I'm going to lead you over the threshold from absence to presence, but you don't understand. What you're saying to the narcissist is, take my hand.  I'm going to lead you into becoming. I'm going to lead you into becoming an entity. Nastas fears nothing more than the world and then having a presence in the world. And you can facilitate this. Therefore, you are the enemy. The more you love him, the more of an enemy you are.