Okay. In an effort to offer unique content and first off, what I want to say to my audience is I'm by no means the expert when it comes to human behavior. I oftentimes recommend books and certainly recommend people. And today I want to recommend someone in the area of addiction because I think one of the fundamental challenges in relationship centers around addiction, whether it's drug addiction, whether it's alcohol addiction, whether it's porn addiction, particularly for men. So I want to lean into this conversation. I brought a dear friend of mine, Marybeth. Actually, I just realized I don't know how to pronounce your last name. Shrutter. Yeah, you can call me by my last name. No, I don't. Anyways, welcome to our interview today. Thank you. Thanks for inviting me. Yeah. Well, I hope that this is an interesting conversation. So I like to, rather than giving a big explanation about who you are, I just want to share with our group, like your five second elevator speech. And Marybeth teaches people how to heal themselves energetically using the law of attraction techniques and subconscious reprogramming in order to break addictions to toxic substances, behaviors and relationships. You got it. So can you give us like another minute to expand upon that? So basically, I, yeah, I was addicted myself to alcohol and toxic relationships. So I've been there and then I got the, I healed myself and got the education. And so I was like, I'm gonna, I wanted to really, once you heal yourself, you want to reach out and help other people. It's just a natural thing that we want to do. So I got the education to do that along with my life experience. So that's what I'm doing. Well, it's interesting because I myself, after my divorce, I'll be candid with my audience. I went through a period where I was quite, I was self medicating with cocaine to just get through the day because if not only did I go through a divorce, I've lost my quarter million dollar a year job. And in that, I would drink, I would drink the cocaine allowed me to drink more. So I wasn't getting drunk. The cocaine allowed me to drink more. But I was a functioning, you know, dysfunctional human being for quite some time. And quite frankly, dating was the other drug of choice. In other words, internet dating was my drug of choice to connect with people. And I suspect I'm not alone with that. So first off, let's talk about that for a second, particularly men who use drugs and alcohol, for example, and who are actively in the dating marketplace. I'd like to hear your thoughts on that. Well, men are more vulnerable, usually, especially after a divorce. Like you said, that's when you're started. And by the way, I was very functional, too. I was running two businesses. I really didn't even know I had an addiction till I started learning about addiction. I think that's the case for most people. But yeah, men are more vulnerable for a lot of reasons. After a divorce, especially because men don't tend to, well, we've got toxic masculinity, of course, where men, that society has a construct where men aren't allowed to show feelings or stuff them down.  Usually your spouse is that one person you can talk to. And because men don't necessarily talk to other men like women would connect. So we almost use our girlfriends as therapists, but you guys don't have that. So that makes you more vulnerable, especially after a divorce, because you don't have your spouse anymore. So you want to numb those feelings. I want to jump in for a second, because for those who follow my channel know I lost a child five years ago. And I bring this up because right after my son passed away, two of my dearest friends and I went out to dinner. It was my birthday, actually, the year after. And during that dinner was the first time we ever, and I've known these guys for 30 years, ever discussed deep emotions, particularly because of the trigger of losing my son. And I thought to myself, I never really had real deep connections with men in my life throughout my life. Now, let me just say this, all that drug and alcohol use that I had in my early stage of dating, women were my de facto therapist talking on the dating apps, talking on the dating sites, emailing, that sort of thing. This was before apps, I should say this was the dating site. So women became my de facto therapist during that time. And I see this as a habitual pattern. And I'd like to hear your thoughts on that as well. Absolutely. And I've heard you say this on your videos is that a lot of people who are, you know, haven't healed yet that what they're going to do is they're going to go on these dates and use their date as their therapist.   I think like, I'm sure that I did that when I was going through my divorce.  But that's not good for in the beginning of a relationship, because that just is an indicator that you need more time to heal before you get into a relationship. You don't want to use your date as your therapist, in other words. But I think this is happening on a subconscious level. I mean, I don't think men are intentionally doing this. I think what men appreciate is female energy because we're so reluctant to talk to our male friends. So this is one of the, like I say, one of the major challenges with, you know, dating, it's not an online dating issue, although online dating gives us access to people oftentimes access to a plethora of people. But we were talking about, for example, just before we got started, we were talking about how to recognize people with addictions like alcohol, drugs, or maybe, and I definitely want to lean into porn addiction in a moment. So you were sharing with me a couple of ways to kind of evaluate someone in those early stages of dating. Can you lean into that? Well, just really, you know, it's a lot of it's just paying attention, like let's, let's talk about alcohol. So I'm going to go ahead and say this challenge to anyone listening, whether it's a female or a male, challenge yourself to stay sober on a first date, because you're going to like, I know it's hard because we all I'm going to share why I laughed in a moment. Okay, do like, you know, because like I drank alcohol for 30 years. And so when I going on a date was one of my biggest challenges, because we all have like one of the huge reasons to drink right is social anxiety. And it's nice to relax and feel uninhibited on a date. You know, and I had it just takes practice, but I would just say like, go ahead and try it, just try it once, try to go on a date sober. And you're going to really notice like, you know, there's good, well, I have a theory, Jonathan, that I think there'd be a lot less sex on first dates if people. There's no doubt about that. Because you don't have that cloud of judgment that you have when drinking is involved, you know, everything gets a little bit blurry. And that's the type of drinker I was where I would just, I loved everybody, you know, like I would get I was a happy drinker, you know, and I would just think everybody was so great. And it's kind of sad because I think I led a lot of guys on that way to where they would think, Oh, we're a great match, but I really do love people. And, but it wouldn't really be a great match, but they would come off with that perception because I was, you know, drunk and so nice. And then I'm not saying I had sex with them, but even just kissing somebody that I normally wouldn't have even kissed at the end of the date just because I had a buzz, right? And then the next day having to, you know, they're all excited and I'm not excited, you know, so just if I was sober to begin with that wouldn't have happened, right? No, and I'm in full agreement of this. And yet here I'm about to share something publicly because on my first date with Marie, and it wasn't really a first date because we were two, I felt like it was more like two friends meeting and then it turned into something romantic. However, I had just gotten off an airplane, I just traveled to the hotel and then I met her at the restaurant, which I should say bar restaurant. And the first thing I had was a cocktail and I kind of went through it rather quickly because I was just, you know, I'd been traveling inside. So by the time we ordered some food, I had a glass of wine and we were having such a good time that the evening lasted for six, seven hours. And in that I had a third drink and then I had a nightcap. And what's interesting is she, by the way, if anyone who knows me, I'm pretty, I limit myself to two drinks always when I'm with my circle of friends. And she's commented on that. Like, that was a little bit of a red flag for her because I was just having such a good time. It was more like it was a social thing for me, but it was also to kind of, I was nervous because I liked this person. So there was a dance between, you know, am I an alcoholic and was this a red flag or is it, you know, I was just having a good time. Well, when I drank, you know, alcohol, I only wanted to date other people who drink alcohol. Like that would have been green flag for me. Like, yes, this guy can party with me, right.  And I just, for me personally, it lowered my vibration and I didn't, I just, that's why I quit. Like nothing bad happened. I didn't have a rock bottom. You don't have to have a rock bottom to, to quit a bad habit. You know, like I just wanted to feel my best. So basically, but so I did a funny, sorry, I was dating a guy a year or so ago and he was like telling me he didn't have any problem drinking. And I was like, cool, you know, he's like, I hardly ever drink, but kind of like what Marie did with you, like I'm noticing because only because he said that too, like he had like two to three drinks every time we were together, which was most days.  I couldn't remember. And he was like, I hate beer as he's ordering beer. And I'm like, okay, so you're sure you don't. So I just think sometimes I don't know that he was lying. I just think he wasn't self aware enough to realize, like if you need three drinks every time you go out, maybe you do have a little bit of a habit that bordering on addiction. But that was over three months period where I didn't see him not have at least three drinks every time I was with him. Let me ask you something. So, you know, our topic is called 99% of men won't love you if they do this and what we're talking about is having addiction. And, and while that's kind of an obvious statement, I'm curious, has there been any studies to determine how many people, particularly in the single marketplace, have a drug, alcohol or porn addiction? Do you actually, do you, and I'm just throwing out there if there is any statistics, you know what, I've seen several statistics, but they're all over the place. So I would, I would talk to you more about personal experience and just in society, like it is glorified, right? Alcohol is glorified. You're actually the weirdo if you don't drink, right? You're like, it's like, I'm the weird, I'm the oddball now, right? And I actually have had great conversations with men that I met on dating apps. And then the, as soon as I, they're like, let's meet for a drink. And I will tell them before because, well, I'll meet you for coffee or, you know, or you can have a drink, but I'm, I'm not gonna, I don't drink alcohol just so you know, ghost to me. I've been ghosted over that several times, which is good. That's great to know in the beginning, right? We want to be ourselves from the get-go. So we're not wasting each other's time. By the way, I'm going to confess though, I probably have, have swiped the other way, if you will, if I saw no alcohol and, and it's not because, well, there's a couple things, you know, and this is a judgment on my part. You know, I'd be wondering if they're recovering alcoholic and if there's any problems that come with that. So, and again, that's a judgment on my part. And I own that. And that's not really a, a good, you know, quality within me. The other thing was I wanted someone to drink to socialize with me. The irony is, in my relationship, we barely drink, you know, I mean, we, we, if, if lucky, we have a drink once a week kind of thing. So there's this kind of duality going on. There's the judgment someone might have an addiction. And by the way, women can think the same about men. I used to think that I wouldn't be a guy who, who didn't drink at all.  I'm five foot tall.  It didn't take much for me to get a nice buzz. So that's another thing. Like I could get drunk off of two drinks and you're, that's your limit. I'm like hammered off of two drinks.  And it's actually, I'm not saying like alcohol is bad for everyone. It's an individual decision we need to make on our own. And the definition of addiction is actually, if it's having a negative effect on your life. I mean, Jonathan, the way you're talking, it's not doesn't sound like you even, it's not having a negative effect, maybe in the past when you were going through divorce. No, significantly.  I was a functional, you know, drug and alcohol addict to the, not addict to the extent of dependency. Well, I was dependent because I was miserable. When I healed the miserable part, I was no longer dependent upon drugs and alcohol to get through the day. So, so I want to share with you a client of mine who had met a man actually their first date was a picnic. Oh, this was during COVID. And they had a really great time. And the second time was a picnic. And the third time came to his home. They had a couple drinks. It wasn't a big deal. They began a relationship with each other. And it turns out, and I don't know if this was predicated on COVID. However, this is a man that had a very intense professional life. And then he would drink basically till he passed out in the evening. And that's a little exaggeration. You know, how could she have predicted that sooner rather than later? What are your thoughts on that? Well, it's tricky because people are really good at hiding it. I definitely would, like I would have a glass of wine usually while I was getting ready before I go on a date. I didn't like share that with people. You know, you hide it so well. That guy that I mentioned earlier, he came over one time with like a water bottle, but I could smell it was vodka. Oh, okay. Yeah.  Like, if they don't want you to know how much, you just kind of find out the hard way usually, to be honest with you, because alcoholics, I mean, people who are true alcoholics, you're not going to see it. You know, I have so many examples of clients and friends who even married someone and didn't see it until too late. You know, too late, like they're already deep in this relationship or in a marriage.  The big ones, you know, what are those called, the magnums? Okay, that's a lot. That's a lot. I would die. Like, I'd be dead. What would you do if you're a man or woman and you're in relationship with someone who is effectively a functioning alcoholic or, or drug use? Or, and again, I want to talk about porn in a minute, too. How would you address that? Well, nobody ever is going to change unless they want to change. So, of course, you have to bring it up and your delivery can't be accusatory or negative or condescending because what does that do to people? It shuts them down and they're going to get straight into defense mode. They are not going to hear you. So it has to be a good, you know, of can work come from a place of concern and like an adult discussion, no nagging. Either way, you know, it's just, it's just has to really be from a place of concern.  They're probably going to deny it. Denial is one of the, denial is one of the signs, by the way.  Better. So one of the things I talk about frequently is self-love. And when I talk about self-love, I'm talking about self-respect, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance. You know, if I saw someone, and it's difficult for me to judge, but if I felt that there was a misalignment in our way of view, you know, misalignment when it came to drugs, alcohol, or, you know, we'll talk about porn as well. That's grounds for a breakup in my world. You know, that's- In my world too, these days. And, you know, but these days, well, that's because you and I have both done a lot of personal development and self, self-work. We have done a lot of growing and healing and, and a lot of people haven't. So I used to tolerate a lot more than I would tolerate now. My standards are higher. And now I understand about, like, we, you know, we have to have a similar lifestyle. We have to both be open. We have to have the same values. We have to have this, you know, we have the expectations that we didn't used to have because we understand in the long run, things just simply aren't going to be in alignment. Like you said, we have to have the similar lifestyles. And I think that's a deal breaker for a lot of people. If one of them likes to party and stay out till 2 a.m. and then you're a homebody, like that's not going to work. It's just like temporarily when you're in the beginning and you're in that limerence phase and you've got that chemical haze, right? Sure. You're going to be like, oh, we can make it work. And then it's okay. But then that, that- Yeah, because magic fairy dust always works, you know? That's right. So, yeah, I mean, and we can trick ourselves, you know, when the hormones are racing and think that it's something that we could tolerate. But at the end of the day, it's going to, it's going to show up later when you have different values and lifestyles. It just will. Okay, so let's jump into another topic because my audience is women. We like to talk about men. Let's talk about porn addiction because I have a feeling that is a significant problem for a significant number of men. And I do believe that that bleeds into a healthy, you know, sexual relationship with a partner. So I'd love to hear your thoughts on porn addiction, particularly with men. Well, I have a lot of thoughts on this. I do have clients who are sex addicts. That's one of the things I work with. And they're very open about it. And it is a huge addiction. And it does mess up with, if it's an addiction. Now, let's say you're with a partner and she's into it as much as you are, then that's not negatively affecting your relationship. No one's judging, by the way. Johnathan and I aren't judging anyone who's into porn. Hey, Marie and I watch porn once, you know, since we've been together. And we're like, nah, this isn't for us. Okay, yeah. And that's my point. If it's having a negative effect on your relationship, that's when we call it an addiction. If it's not, it's something else. It's just a hobby. I don't know if it's a hobby is the right word. But yeah, so basically, if it does mess up intimacy, because if you're, you're not present when you're always like, you know, watching porn or fantasizing or thinking, you know, about other women or ladies, if you're having like emotional affairs, like, you know, I'm not talking about physical, I'm talking about if you're fantasizing about other men, you're not being present for your man. And men, when they're fantasizing about other women, they're not there for their relationship. It messes up the intimacy. So it just does. By the way, someone just posted a comment. I'm gonna, because this was really good. Can you see it, Mary Beth?  I definitely think they're related and one can lead to another. There's that, you know, that slippery slope of temptation, like when you start watching porn, and then things start to seem okay that maybe you would have, you know, bought that before. And I do think there's a slippery slope where you might just be watching porn and then your values can, things get, can blurry, things can get blurry. Like, I mean, it all depends on the couple too. Like I've literally known swinger couples and they have rules, they have rules. So it's like, I've seen swingers get divorced because one of the couples broke a rule.  So, you know, it's, it's what are the rules of your relationship individually?  You know, these are things that can directly affect your relationship. So, laid it downstream. So, like, how do you vet for that?  Or is it even possible? I mean, it's possible to ask all the right questions, but what we, we can get fooled sometimes, right? Yeah.  Your intuition will tell you a lot. I've definitely screwed myself over by not listening to my intuition. Yeah. And every time it's been right, every time. And then I'll, you know, you could like someone and just be really, sometimes when you have that, tell me if you agree with us, Jonathan, if you have that really strong chemical, you know, attraction to someone, sometimes that could be a red flag because it's a familiar thing, like, you know, that toxic, you know, feeling is, you could have really strong chemistry and that not, that doesn't necessarily mean this is the one. It could actually be a warning because we are attracted to what is familiar. But if we're familiar to toxic, more toxic type relationships, we're going to be turned on by that, you know, by that person who might be more toxic for us. Yeah. And I think when we talk about this particular top toxic, it's not that someone is behaving badly towards you, it's that you choose people that aren't really aligned for yourself. I love Marianne Williamson and I'm sure you know Marianne Williamson in her book Return to Love. I was listening to the audio portion of the book and there's a, there's a segment where she talks about, you know, that, that the love bombing phase of a relationship, that luster limerence phase.  And her entire audience is silent for about two seconds. And then they all scream at the same time, pray. And the point being is, you know, like pray on this, in other words, really go inward and say, is this really right for me? If my pattern is to have this happen, and then it doesn't work out over and over again, well, what's the definition of insanity doing the same thing and expecting different results? So interestingly enough, in my relationship with Marie, we had, we had nice chemistry with one another. It didn't feel over the top, but it certainly was enough electricity to where we felt engaged with one another. And if I now compare that to those experiences where I just came on so strong in the beginning, it was because I was feeling luster limerence. And so, and then I'd use alcohol to get them to sleep with me. And I say that tongue-in-cheek, but I, but there's some truth to that. In other words, if there was alcohol involved, and there was strong sexual chemistry, I did everything I could to convince this person to have sex with me, whether it was the first or second date. And interesting, I noticed a pattern. This happened in my first year after my divorce. And remember, I'm a train wreck. I'm doing a lot of drugs and alcohol. I'd meet someone. We'd have sex. And all of a sudden, I didn't like them. And now I don't want to say I dislike them, but I no longer like them to the degree that I had liked them at that moment. And what had occurred to me was the deception of chemistry. Chemistry is a very deceiving experience because it's merely just chemicals being released from your brain to say you like someone. And as soon as you had quenched that thirst, all of a sudden you're left with the reality. Do I really like this person? So why do I profess to everyone spend a hundred hours of face-to-face time before you give your heart? It's because you got to get through this threshold of the intense lust and limerence.  Well, I say that versus your body because I don't want to say that sex on the first date is bad. But when you give your heart to someone you don't trust, that's a recipe for disaster. What I would like to encourage women, because I'm definitely not someone who's going to say that either, like, oh, you should never have sex on the first date because I know a lot of people feel like, well, I can do whatever men do and it's empowering. I would just encourage you to really analyze that.  Is that real? Because I don't know that that would empower me. I've never done that for the record. I can't imagine that being a powerful feeling, though. Like, to me, what's more powerful would be if I wait for the right person and spend time to get to know somebody. Like, you say 100 hours of face-to-face time. It really does take a long time. And I was trying to think about what that would come up to in dating. 100 hours would be like, what, 17 to 20 dates, you know? Probably. Yeah. So nobody's doing that. Well, you know what's interesting. So I'm going to go off topic for a little bit, because I'm fascinated with the idea of dating in an incubator. And let me explain where I'm coming up with this. So if you think about shows like Love is Blind, Married at First Sight, some of these reality shows, one of the things they do is they put people in an incubator, if you will, where at first with Love is Blind, they don't physically see each other, but they build up all this tension between them over a 10-day period.  And then they're in each other's, they share a home for eight weeks. Okay. So roughly in about a 10-week period, you're spending a lot of time with the person. Okay. Is that realistic? Probably not. However, you know very quickly if this person is truly compatible with you. The reality is, is our dating practice is such a long drawn out process that you could be with someone for years and never know who they really are. You're just getting the ambassador of this person's best self when you don't live with each other. So the incubator is to see each other as much as you can in a short period of time.  Absolutely. It's hard to spot those things when it's on the peripheral, meaning you occasionally spend time with one another. Yeah. I just, I didn't really ask a question, but your thoughts on that? No, you're right. Like, and I love those shows, by the way, especially Love is Blind. That one is so fascinating to me. And we watch that stuff for research, right? We have to watch it. It's so fantastic. And a lot of times it's, it's, it does work out like I just watched the latest one actually. And you know, you see these, these couples and they have the chemistry and they don't have to question, was it based on only physical attraction? You know that Love is Blind is such a great show. Well, I think, well, I've got a couple of thoughts on this. And it's interesting because the last season was successful, meaning they had three marriages out of five. By the way, before I give my thoughts on Love is Blind, folks, if you have, if you're watching the live stream right now and you have a question for either one of us, write the word question, then post the question there after, or you could purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chats go to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's my son who passed away a few years ago. There's a picture of him right there behind me. In his honor, I donate to causes like the Hoffman Process Insight Institute. And actually, I'm also going to be donating to a cause for children in Columbia who have terminal disease and they're abandoned by their parents. So just a little FYI. So if you have a question, write the word question so we can start taking questions now. So Love is Blind, here's the thing. While they do in the pods, ask some deeper questions about relationships, I'm not witnessing the, you know, really what it is you want out of a relationship, talking about their how to blend lives together, those conversations aren't happening in the pods, and I wish they were, or maybe they are happening and we don't see it because it's not enough drama. Yeah, I think there's a lot of editing. Yeah. Yeah. So with that said, I'm a big proponent of in an incubator, ask all the real serious questions, because here's the thing for the women watching. Men who have a long-term mating strategy have no problem with serious questions. Absolutely. It's only the men who have a short-term mating strategy, men who have drug, alcohol, porn, or sex addiction. And you want those guys to go away.  And the other ones, they're going to go away and that's okay. It's, it's not personal. That's a gift. Yeah, exactly, exactly. So let's go back to porn addiction, because I know a lot of women experience this. How does a woman deal with that? I mean, how does a woman address that with a man, you know, especially when he's probably going to get defensive and deny it? It is tricky because a lot, well, a lot of times they're just caught, right? They're not like announcing, I'm watching porn every day. So really, it's just kind of like we were saying before is, like any other addiction, you don't want to shame, you don't want to shame the person, whether it's the male or female who's watching the porn and both do. You want to really communicate openly and not in a condescending manner at all, you know, because this is an addiction and you want to talk to them as your partner. Like, you know, is there, is there, is like, what can I do? Like, because maybe there's, there's a reason they're like, a lot of times when we're married, but children, we ignore our husband sometimes, you know, other things become more important.  So you just brought up something that I didn't actually contemplate. So in those cases where there are married couples, when there isn't a healthy sex life happening, men oftentimes resort to fantasy world, fantasy world, which again, there's nothing wrong with that. At the same time, though, that can turn into an addiction. Yeah. When it just started off somewhat innocent. Exactly. Like maybe that same couple started out watching porn together, but then, you know, it's like a bad habit that gets out of control.  I suspect that's just as equally, that's not porn addiction, but I do believe there's probably some addictive quality to having the belief that you have access to all of these people. Have you ever addressed that before? Yeah. And, you know, I've had female clients who have complained about that exact thing because it's hurtful. Let's admit it. And sometimes men, honestly, you have to, ladies, you have to, I'm not saying what's good for the goose is good for the gander, but you have to kind of have them see like, well, what would you have?  Like, do guys like that? Would you want Marie to have that going on? I mean, I was gonna say your wife, but I know she- No, no, I know. So, no, I wouldn't. I mean, I think it's interesting because I have a lot of female followers, you know, whether it's my YouTube channel. You have to. It's your job. Yeah. But I don't have, I'm not following, you know, women in bathing suits kind of thing. And if she did the same, I certainly would have a problem with that. I do believe that our relationship has been built on so much trust that if there was a backstory to it, I'm sure she'd have a good explanation for it. Really quickly, someone just posted a comment that I want to address. So, Mary Beth, Carrie says, dear John, you're not saying sex on the first date is bad, but it is if you are getting emotionally involved.  So I want to address something. I'm not here to say, judge, you know, if someone has sex on the first, I know couples who have had sex on the first date and they went on to get it. And they made it. Yeah, there's always exceptions. I might, however, my messaging is truly don't give your heart to someone or, and, or your body to someone you don't trust or you don't feel a sense of trust. This is why I encourage you. How can you trust anyone on the first date? Exactly. But again, I'm not judging that as good or bad. I know many couples who are successful in their relationship. However, the rule, the rule of thumb is, it's probably not a good idea. So I just want to address. That's why I said earlier is ask yourself, like really be honest. Is it really empowering? Like really analyze like why, what's the real reason you're doing it? Because I really, I think if, why lead with sex, why not get to know somebody, you know, I, Okay, we've got another question. Go ahead. Melody writes question. What is a good vetting question if either have an objectification issue? Interesting. Objectifying. So to determine if, so I think if I understand the question, you tell me if your interpretation, how to spot a person who would objectify another person. Is that okay? Okay.  That's disrespecting me as well, because I'm your date and here you are like drooling over other women. And that's just not someone that I feel like is respectful of. Okay, they're drooling over. Well, I okay. So and I'm guilty of staring at attractive women. Okay, so let me just try to hide it. Yeah, well, Marie and I, but Marie and I will see even I'll say, look, look at that gorgeous guy. I mean, like we talked about it when we watched TV or whatnot. And I do the same. Now we have built trust with one another. And she recognizes that's not an objectification. I think there is certainly languaging that can be criticized, you know, like, you know, not predatory, predatory, but somewhat, you know, it's one thing to look at someone who's attractive. It's another if it's a habitual thing. I think that's where I see a difference. And by the way, men get objectified by women based on their bank account, if you will.  Right. It's about how are you making the other person feel though.  But on a first date, like that guy's not getting a second date with me. I'm sorry, like I already feel uncomfortable and it's just not to me, I have higher standards. We'll just put it up. Okay. All right, we've got another question. We're just going to rattle off the question. I just tuned in question, what do you do if my boyfriend lives far from me? So, we often enough, I prefer to meet once a week and I'm still waiting for him to move and get a job near me in the city. Well, I'm going to let you tackle that one. I have my opinions on that. So, basically the question is you're in a long distance relationship and you're- And she wants more time. Well, I mean, I don't really know how to answer that. If you want more time, I mean, if you're in a long distance relationship, that kind of is what goes along with being in a long distance relationship. Is it that he's not making time for you? Well, she says she's still waiting for him to move and get a job near in the city. So, my opinion is long distance relationship without definitive plans of taking this distance from long to short and having some milestones along the way is not a good move. Long distance, it's not even long distance relationship. It's long distance dating. Yeah. And now, and I'll use Marie and I, an example, I was very hesitant to even engage in a relationship with her because of the distance and when we did meet and we agreed to explore. We began a plan. So, by the time we were 45 days in, we already established, we had seen each other multiple times during that period of time and we established what this would look like and sure enough, a month later, we agreed that we would move in together, which was five months afterwards. Now, for a lot of people, that may not, that might be aggressive, I would say that. But the problem is if you don't spend a lot of, by the way, Marie and I got together in an incubator every single time. Her first visit was four days. The next visit was 12 days and I worked from home and the next visit was 18 days, which included a trip. You clocked a lot of hours. By the way, in a hundred days, we had actually clocked 45 days together, days and nights. That's more than most people do in six months of dating. Yeah. Exactly. I know people who will go out two to four times a month for a few hours. I don't believe we truly get to know a person through a long drawn out process. So, if this is a person, I would say that what I would do is find a way where you could spend a lot of time together in a short period of time. If you can work remotely, work remotely from their home for a couple of weeks and see if you actually get along with one another. Do a weekend trip. Oh my gosh. I learned so much about it. Weekends aren't enough. Yeah, but I've gone on weekend trips with a friend when it ended the relationship. Yeah. No, no, no. But I mean, I actually, I'm saying, I think 10 day trips and I know I'm sounding rather aggressive is because, you know, on a weekend, we can always show up as the ambassador of our best selves. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. What is Chris Rock say? But I'm saying 10 days, you're going to see who this person is. Okay. Let's keep going here. We have Charlene that wrote question. Why do men send nudes to you? We were never intimate. We met via Twitter six years ago. He was nice. I thought, but he started to all of this a sudden. Because he was horny.  That's the obvious answer.  That's usually what he's trying to get something going there. So I don't know if you saw recently, I came across a video by Esther Perrell and she, there was an article in 2001, I believe, did them be, you know, in the middle of COVID talking about artificial intimacy. Okay. And basically these days, through our devices, people are connecting. It's, there's almost an addiction to the dopamine hit of that good morning tax and that mid morning text and that late morning text and that lunch. It's an addiction. It's validation, validation addiction. Yeah. And so people are creating what's known as artificial intimacy. And it's only, it's always the same conversation. How's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. And then all the flirting. There's no real, there's no real concrete conversations going on. So coming back to the nude pictures, you know, this is a six year Twitter relationship. I highly doubt they've met. So why did he do it? He was horny. Yeah. So what?  I'm looking, I'm not looking for this. This isn't what I'm looking for. I'm not, I'm looking for something else. Okay. Carrie gave us a $5 or five pound super sticker. I just want to give her some props. Thanks so much. She goes on to ask a question says, love is blind. Please ask Mary, what questions she would ask. Okay, great. If you were in the love is blind incubator, if you were in the pot, what questions Mary Beth, would you be asking? I would ask everything about lifestyle. Like, because, you know, like, let's say that I, yeah, because I would like to live by an ocean and that is my future plan. So I would, I would need to know, like, is he willing to do that? Is he, what if he wants to live in the mountains? Right.  Like, if you start asking lifestyle questions, if, you know, like about drinking, I would ask of things like that. But that's just me.  If you want to be with your family every Sunday, that's your tradition. Every Sunday, we're going to go and have dinner with my family. And he's like, uh, you know, that's, that's not your man. That's so ask questions about your values, lifestyle, um, what expectations do you have? Like, I don't know how old you are, but if you want kids and he doesn't want kids, that's not an alignment. So anything that's really important to you. Okay. So I have three pets. I get it. Like, not all guys are about pets, right? I got two cats and a dog. You know, I have to work. That's, well, number one, are they allergic? I've met some fantastic men, but they're allergic to cats. So it's a non-negotiable for me. You know, it's, and for them, for them too, like the deal breaker for them. Um, and I have a dog, you know, and then my, it's like, I got to make sure that I have an animal lover because they're not going to like me. Yeah. You know, I think we take a lot of things for granted.  And the reality is, is I'm, you know, I actually like the slogan that e-harmony used to have on their, on their commercials. It's a, when you take compatibility and ignite it with chemistry, you have a greater chance for success in compatibility, meaning alignment. We operate, you know, most Americans operate, well, if we have this great chemistry, we will squeeze into whatever box this person is, and we expect them to squeeze into whatever box we're in. And, and that's kind of a fallacy. And I, that's something I profess daily. So, um, let's keep going. We have a question from SS that says, a year and a half in, in person once or twice a month, when, went from dating to not looking for a relationship, but wants to be friends for life and sees what happens as younger kids end it. End it. That's my vote. Do you remember that video I sent you this morning about two people that want, or the, yes, it, that's exactly it. Like, you might, you might sharing that with our audience, the back and forth. Uh, do you remember it? Oh gosh, made them. Okay. Well, the way it worked out was this, this couple broke up and the woman says, I'd like to still be friends so you can continually validate me, you know, throughout the day. And whenever I have a problem, I can reach out to you and whenever I feel lonely, I can have you take me out to dinner with you. Yeah. But I don't want to be in relationship with you. And then it was the guy was, uh, you know, I want to remain friends so I can base, you know, I want to be, I don't mind being in the friend zone because I will stick around hoping you will change your mind and have sex with me. Okay. That's the gist of it. This kind of reminds me of that, you know, when you two people who aren't really actively on a, on an incubator basis, getting to know one another, this once or twice a month is just a bubble relationship at best. And quite frankly, it's most likely, and then you just want to remain friends. So it's going to turn into a friends with benefits relationship. Most likely this doesn't have the legs to succeed long-term. Do you agree? Yeah. And since I'm all of a law of attraction coach and talk about energy all the time, you know, this is, this is energetically blocking you from someone who could be a much better match, you know, like men, not just men, but people sense that people sense when you're not totally available energetically.  And so you really want to, you know, make sure that you are all in before you, before you go ahead and exchange energy, but just anyone that you get a stranger, because I know a lot of times and you, Jonathan, you tell me if you think this is true or not, but what I've noticed in my own life and what I've had a lot of my lady friends and clients mention is that something that we've noticed, we'll put it this way, is that men tend to, I don't know if it's necessarily always manipulative, but there's this thing where they want to make you feel really special, like you're different. And that's a way of getting laid, right?  This guy's different, you know, because he thinks I'm special.  So I have a thought on this. So and only because I have said this, not once, not twice, probably 20 or 30 times 15 years since the my divorce. So first and foremost, when I'm experiencing lust or limerence with someone, and limerence is an extreme infatuation and lust is that chemical desire to have sex with them. All these chemicals are being released from my brain that says I like this person. So all of a sudden, and I went out with a woman the day before and I didn't like her, but I went out with you and I really like you. Okay. So in that, my languaging was you're different than the last 10 women I went out with. Yes. But you know, in them, in the moment, I don't know why you're different. I just know you feel different. Okay. So that's the first thing. Okay. The second thing is, I think there's, you know, there's a lot of, you talked about casual relationships. There's a lot of men that will lead with I'm not looking for a serious relationship. Okay. They'll lead with that. Okay. Now that's a man who has a short term mating strategy. And a lot of women will hear that and go, I'll be the one who changes them. And he said I was different. So because I'm different, even though he wants, you know, not something serious, I'll be the one to change them. I think women are addicted to that. Here's the really tricky one, Mary Beth. And I'd like to get your take on this because I think this is probably the most confusing phrase women hear. And that is the man says I want a relationship. Believe it or not, that is even more confusing than the person who says I'm not wanting a serious. Absolutely. And the reason being is we men know if we say we want a relationship, we have a greater chance of getting late. And you don't really want it, but not with her. Yeah, exactly. So that's the, that's the real question. So here's, but what always happens, you date the guy dates you, you have sex together, and then all of a sudden he says, I'm not looking for a serious relationship. Well, he's out of integrity with what he said. It's really for whatever reason, I don't like you anymore. So the question when a man says I want a relationship, this question begs deeper interrogation to the answer when a man says, I want a relationship. Okay. What does that look like for you? What does commitment look like for you? Can you describe how you operate in a relationship? That question alone requires deeper investigation than the guy who says, I just want something casual or I'm not looking for serious. Absolutely. You nailed it. Okay. I had a rant there. Let's keep going. You nailed it. Crystal writes question. The man I'm dating for six months, we've been talking, okay, for six months we have, we've been talking about the future. We live 40 minutes apart and I've considered moving closer. Is that okay? Would you do it? I definitely, well, I mean, Jonathan, how long were you and Marie together? You said five months before you started talking about moving closer. Actually, quite frankly, we talked about it. I mean, and this is not, I'm going to say we were on hyperdrive. Okay. Now I'm not endorsing this, but I'm not, you know, suggesting it doesn't work either. We, first off, because we knew each other for a year in advance, we already built up some familiarity. So when we actually met, it was like two friends meeting. We had done some deep unpacking during those conversations ahead of time. And then we did a deep unpacking when she came to visit me. So after that visit, we were saying if this is going to work, one of us would have to move. And I was very, I mean, I wasn't ready to leave my son. And she had two children who lived here. She had friends who lived here. So it made more sense. And she grew up in Los Angeles. Well, she wasn't even saying she was going to move in with him. She was just saying she was going to move closer. And it's only 40 minutes. I would say like, that's totally like, if you're feeling, if he's all about it, and you trust that he's actually committed to you, and you feel like, but you got to, when you do move, if you do make that decision, you got to be okay with it. If it doesn't work out, now you're 40 minutes away from wherever you, whatever it is for you now. You know, and, and maybe, you know, it might be that I move in with you for a month just to see what it looks like. That's a great idea. How about I move in with you for a month just to see how we get along in that month. That might be a way to test the waters. I have a client who their relationship after four months talked about moving in together and they're going to do it a year. They agreed it would be a year from the time they met because that's when his lease is up. In my particular case, we had talked about it. We talked about how long distance would work for six to seven months. And we're like, and then we just said, you know what, it's, it's going to get snowy in Chicago. Let's do it sooner rather than later. That's what happened with us. So in this particular case, at Crystal, I would do a trial run for 30 days. I love that idea. I agree with Jonathan. All right. We're going to take a few more questions. We have sunshine that writes four weeks into dating, live close to each other, both work till five PM. We've had six long calls, many texts meet, met, did two dates. Is this on track for long term? Only two dates in a month.  So definitely get on track, get back on track by scheduling more face to face time with each other for sure. Yeah. And I want to just caution you, Sunshine, is artificial intimacy is built through text messaging and phone calls. That's not true. I mean, phone calls is better than text messaging. Let me just say that. But text messaging, especially incessant communication, creates this dopamine hit of validation and whatnot that Mary Beth and I talked about earlier. And I would just say be careful of that. I would say try to start seeing each other a couple times a week. That's a good average for the first six to 12 weeks of seeing each other at least a couple times a week. And that should give you enough time to get a sense of who this person is. And by the way, spend time in their home, spend time in their environment. That gives you a sense for who this person is because the reality is, is yes, we're meeting total strangers. How do we get to know someone spending a lot of time with them in a short period of time? And if you can't not drink every time you're together, then you really need to know. Oh, stop taking the fun out of it, Mary Beth. I know. All right. I just want to get the problem. You really get to know somebody that way when you're sober. I want to thank LB multi-time for the $6 super stickers. Thank you so much. You know, folks, I'm very grateful to have my friend Mary Beth talk about addiction.  We talked about sex addiction. We talked about alcohol addiction. We talked about drug addiction. You're an expert in this area. So folks, if you need some support in this, there will be a link in the show notes to get to Mary Beth's website. I have it here. It is one day, wait, one day, day one life coaching.com, right? Yeah. D-A-Y-O-N-E. Here, let's write this here. Day one life coaching.com. It's in here, folks. And by the way, I'd like everyone to start following Mary Beth. You do have a YouTube channel, right? I've got it all. Yeah. I just started my YouTube channel. But I've got Instagram on TikTok. I'm on Facebook. Yeah. I'm all everywhere. By the way, she's on Instagram a lot. And why I say this is where we share videos that we watch these reels for one another or other people's reels to one other. And then we talk about it. Yeah. You have been a delightful person to allow me to bring into my audience. But more importantly, I appreciate your expertise. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart sharing your perspective on this. I hope we can do this again sometime later in the year. If you'd be up for that. And again, folks, I want you to go to day one life coaching here. I'm going to put it right on the screen. Day one life coaching. Do they spell it right? You sure do. Good job. And follow Mary Beth. Check her out. And if you need some support, please reach out to her. I make no money doing this. I just want you to get really good support. And Mary Beth is really good at what she does. And thank you, Jonathan. You're amazing. And I'm so appreciative that you invited me to chat with you today. Oh, well, thank you so much. Well, I want to end our interview, the way I do my videos.  Wait, do I get permission for the hug? I mean, I just, I asked first, okay, I just want to make sure I got consent. I know that Jonathan hugs. Okay. And I want it one back. So thank you so much. Yeah. Oh, you can see mine. Mine was down here. There we go. Folks, I hope you found value in this. Please post a comment below. Please share your thoughts. Please go check her out. And we're going to wrap up today. And I want to say goodbye to everyone. Bye. Bye. Bye. I want to thank Alexandra and Charlene and Wanda and Crystal and Carrie and SS and Anne and Roxy and Carrie and everyone who donated big hugs to you all. Thanks so much. Thank you.


So, first of all, I'd like to say that I've been working on this. I suggest to do something a little bit different. This is not a closed solution, so what I will put here are some ideas. And since this is our cost action, you are free to choose some of the suggestions that I give you. Mainly in terms of format or visual aspects, I put here some possibilities for the poster. Please feel free to criticize, to suggest, whatever. And also what I suggest is also for the PowerPoint. It's a template, mainly at this stage, that you can use not only to publicize the cost action, but also if you are presenting a conference something that is deeply related to the cost action, you can use this as a template. So, not properly restricted to the dissemination of the content of the cost action, but also perhaps if you feel that this is useful, you can use it as a template. So, when you are presenting your work, you also pass the brand that is associated with the cost action. So, starting with the poster, what I present here are some possibilities for the background. So, basically what I did was picking the brochure, so I didn't event nothing. The good work should be always used, so I think it was an excellent work. So, I put here some possibilities. Some of them are more artistic, others are not. So, in the top left is more of oil painting, in the right is more of a watermark. These are some 3D effects. This is more in terms of gradients, in terms of colors. So, please, what you think about this should be what you appreciate more. Yes. If you look at some of both, there are, first of all, the boundaries between the countries shown. And second thing, there are different colors between countries that do and don't belong to the cost action, right? Which drops attention to the fact that we are not covering whole Europe, and especially the east is poorly represented, right? Can we just have points where, I mean, say with the cities where participants are coming, but do not draw attention to the fact that we do not have participants with some countries before, you know, just a lot of different shades of grey or... So, this is basically the image that is in the brochure. So, if you look to the first page, you can see here. Yeah, but I look at it and, oh, there's no one from Estonia, for example, right? Yeah, if you want to look here. Yeah, no, but yeah. I don't know why. So, maybe this is still an open issue. People might join like recently. We have some invitations to join the actions.  If you already make it, you know, kind of unisex in a way, right? No. Okay. There's no... That's just a comment. Yeah? Okay. So, then, there are also some suggestions in terms of the header and the footer for the poster and also for the PowerPoint. I present here some of them. So, here I put one, two, three, four, five. Okay. Once again, I use it what is in the brochure. I just put some gradients in terms of colors. Disposition of the logos of European Commission, the cost action, our updated symbol for the cost. So, here are some possibilities depending on your preference, what you like it. So, more in terms of color for the red, for the brown, for the gray. Okay. And then I present here a possibility by using one of them, a background, and a header and footer. So, I present here a possibility for the poster. Okay. For example, we have at the background one of those images that I presented before. The header and the footer is the first one, the red one. A brief description about each working group, the contacts. I put also again, I went to the brochure, I pick the main diagrams that characterize the work of each working group. If you prefer not so like this, an alternative might be, for example, this one. Okay. We might not put so many diagrams and flow charts. Perhaps you can put that nice drawing that was updated in the website. Once again, I didn't do nothing new. Just pick the picture from the website. Yeah. I'm not closing the solution. I put some solutions for you to choose. Maybe. Yeah. Good. Yeah, I'm just showing when you choose whatever you think that's the best one. So, even the solutions that I present here, for example, I show you another one with another possibility for the header and for the footer with other colors. But you can combine them. If you like more the colors from one poster and you want to use. Yeah. From these, you select and you update it. Yeah. Yes. So, this is the final for the poster. Okay. So, basically, as I said, what I did was develop some backgrounds having footer files and it is easy now to select whatever you think it's the best. Great. Then for the PowerPoint, what I prepared was not properly a presentation about the cost action. It was more about the template. So, the template is here. Once again, this is a basis on what I presented for the poster. Okay. So, you can choose. I don't know if it is. Yes. You can see the background. It's one of the images that is in the top and in the bottom, the head and footers that were suggested. And these are automatic fields that you can edit, put the title, put your names, logos, whatever. Then you have inside a structure to implement your presentation. Okay. And finally, the last slide. It should appear there. Thank you. But I don't know why it's not appearing. I need to see it to check. So, you can use this. I think it's more powerful to put like this. So, you can use it as a template for your work instead of just for the cost action. But we can produce one for the cost action if you think about if it is useful. And we leave this one as a template that is available in the website, for example. People download it. And if they want to present something that they did as a joint collaboration with some people here, they can use this and they are publicizing the networking that helped them to do the work. Okay. That's it. Thank you very much.


What's up guys we're back with another epic opening video and today we have several different products first of all we have Blazing vortex the newest booster box So we have one of those to open and we have one to give away from Yu-Gi-Oh black market So all you guys got to do to enter the giveaways like this video be subscribed and let me know what you like the most from this video There's all kinds of different packs. So enter that booster box giveaway. It's gonna be pretty awesome We also have three pharaoh servant legacy blisters. They had some tape on them So it kind of get ripped up but three legacy blisters Five Japanese packs. Yeah, these are premium pack one two three four and five So I've never opened these up on the channel. It's gonna be pretty awesome So let's start off with the blazing vortex and the pharaoh servant and we'll finish with those Japanese packs Okay, here we go. We're gonna open this one and the other one is a giveaway for you guys. So in here I think it's called pot of prosperity is the big card There's also a trickle of star starlight rare, which is gonna be pretty awesome as well So let's see if we can pull one of those if we pull a starlight rare, then that's gonna be insane Okay, let's keep this booster box here. We'll go ahead and open the blisters real quick Just in case we pull, you know like a ghost rare out of here or something out of the back Well, we'll keep the packs sealed though for a second and then we'll open them up later All right, we've got a couple of rares. That's then that's the usual marauding captain Jar of avatis. Okay. We're also gonna have an epic PSA return coming up soon guys That should hopefully be tomorrow or the next day something like that. It's gonna be pretty awesome. Oh token Hopefully we can get some better grades this time. Hopefully well, I would say hopefully but we know that the Professional graders are all gonna appear out of nowhere in the comments as soon as we start a grading video But still gonna be fun either way Here we go. Oh, we got oh we got a Full armor photon dragon that kind of looks like a ghost shirt first Mechana mechana gear frame or whatever machina mechana. I don't know That's actually a pretty good card in the coin flip deck and dual links There we go. There's the third person speaking of dual links We have been opening or we have been playing dual links on twitch And we have now passed a thousand followers. So if you guys haven't followed me yet over there Go ahead and do it. It's been a lot of fun. We've been doing some awesome stuff and you guys have been pretty awesome over there So here we go. Let's see what we can do. I think we streamed last night I'm recording this before the night. So I'm assuming we did but we may or may not have sacred tree beast Hypertun Yeah, so I'm pretty sure we did but you never know, you know, cuz it's in the future So you can't be sure about what's gonna happen. Even if you think, you know, okay, there we go Let's get these out of the way All right blazing vortex, can we get that pot of prosperity? Let's make sure I'm saying that right. It is pot of prosperity Okay, watch it's in here and like I have I have to like share keep that in there So I like that whole thing of me looking it up can stellar the sad gist because we pull it but we didn't know job. Whoa Jamma pink That's creepy and weird, but that's exactly what ojamas are so are any of the superheroes good in here I forgot to check You guys ought to let me know are any of the superheroes worth anything? Ultras I think I think this set apparently is not doing too good. That's what I'm hearing. Is that right? It's not uh, not starting so good. There's a virtual world. I think those are kind of popular. I think oh, yeah I completely forgot about the arm dragons in here So is there is that is that one of the star lights? Or is that a collector rare? I think it's a No, it's an ultimate rare. That's what it was s force justifies our first ultra rare Don't don't know about that one I didn't see it on the list so it could be but I have it up in a weird way because I'm gonna be trying to look up a price before the set is actually out because it's gonna come I mean I'm posting this tomorrow so but when it's actually out But you try and look it up like the day before like when it's out at locals or whatever then There's not any like data on there yet because it hasn't sold online doesn't sell them until Friday. I think which is today But you can buy them at your locals the day before the whole online thing isn't really isn't really going yet, okay? So far for an ultra. Let's see what we can do here guys. Oh, that's interesting Armored dragon. Yeah, we need to fabled and ref We need to pull some fire I haven't opened up a new product in a while since we did that live stream on New Year's Eve That's pretty much it. We opened up a ton there though I do also have a case of this so let me know if I should live stream a case opening of this and try to pull a starlight rear Wind witch chimes.  Okay. That's pretty cool.  It's so funny They are pretty cool though to be honest. They are pretty cool. I'll give them that Guitar Gernards Gernard Bernard We're gonna pull anything this would be the one I would want to pull the armed dragon Thunder level 10. I don't know what it's worth, but that card is sick Okay, that card's worth like 10 bucks. That's not bad. Also. If you guys see me my Mess around my cheek. That's cuz I have like a hole in my cheek from biting my cheek I don't know when I did it. I just all of a sudden had a hole in my cheek And I was like what happened? I don't know must have been basketball. That's the only thing But I don't remember doing it to be honest and it really is annoying. Oh I'm dragging Thunder level seven. We pulled three Seven and ten. That's pretty awesome. So we've got the ultra rare We've got the secret rare. We've got the super rare. So where's level five? That's all we need I totally forgot these are in here. These are actually really cool. We're pulling the cards I like now. We just need to pull a pot of generosity or prosperity. It's not generosity. That's the old card Prince prosperity I think we need to pull that and we will be good to go or Starlight rare Tricia. I am down. I'm so down We're on fire. I'm dragging little five, baby. That's all of them. That's that's four in a row I think we pulled them all in a row. It went three ten 75 we have the whole set. Let's just go ahead and show it. Let's just go ahead and do it. Okay, check that out. Yeah We're not messing around That is sick. That is super sick. We have pulled all four. I'm assuming that's all four I don't think there's a there's not a level one unless they added it at least in the original arm dragons The oh geez we can arm dragons. We should open up some soul of the duelist. That's what I'm thinking Anybody got any soul of the duelist we can open Even if it's a retail would be pretty fun. They're so expensive now maha vilos in here light of the heavens What does it do? Gains a thousand tack for each equip card. Okay, that's a normal opponent cannot activate monster effects during the battle phase Sorry about my thumb when your opponent's card is activated or targets this card quick effect You can send one equip scar to gate the effect. That's pretty good Pump cannot activate cards or effects during the battle phase. That's really good Any battle damage this card inflict is doubled. Oh, wow. That's actually pretty cool I wonder if anybody likes to try to use that. I feel like in like some sort of rogue deck. It might be okay But I feel like yeah, but with like hard stuff like heartbeats feather duster Well, did it say you can negate no it has a target that card Okay, yeah, so it can't negate like a heartbeats feather duster So the heartbeats feather duster your back row boom things not very good. Yeah, you see that guys You see that that duel analysis. Yeah, I know it's almost like I've duel before not really though Not really Yeah, sometimes occasionally people will message me and be like Hey, man. What do you think about my deck or whatever? How can I fix my deck? I'm like you're asking the wrong guy, dude. It's like maybe a duel links deck, but we're talking about real decks You got you got to go way back. You got to bring back 2005 Then maybe I could help you but even then I don't even know what the best cards are are the best decks I mean another best card ooh a greater polymers That looks odd That looks really weird. Also What's up with all the throwbacks in this set? It's really cool. I'm a fan I'm a big fan.  Let's go So if you made it midway through the video, you're awarded with a discount code Otherwise you bought without the discount code speaking of discount codes. You need to speed this up I Gotta speed this opening up. I'm taking forever, but let's pull something good like the pot of Pot I don't remember what it's called Jenner. No Prosperosity Generity Pot of a velocity Something like that, you know, you know what I'm talking about that pot the pot the pot of greed What does it do nobody pulled what if there was a starlight rare pot of greed? We got a kit Okay Just a kit all I can think of is the bachelor when I see that word now But uh put them like I didn't say that let's continue on War Rocks Skyla de Gemma fable. We got an ornest the dream mirror tormenter All right, okay, okay, okay, okay, so I got a secret in here. All right, let's get this box out of the way Here we go five more packs of destiny. Oh, we have fair a servant. Maybe we should maybe we should mix it up See what happens and See What happens I see what's happening here we go respect play only tank Regulation of the tribe. Okay, Red Moon, baby They fire dragon. All right Next pack of blazing Either feeling this might be the secret rear Here we go prismatic starlight rare.  All right. This is about like a six dollar card So nothing too crazy. We didn't have the most amazing box, but you know what that means guys That means that you guys can get the best box. I just gave it to you. Well You get black mark you have to so Hopefully you guys can win it and by the way speaking of giveaways. I know you guys are gonna ask me Where do I see the giveaway winner? How do I know if I won the giveaway? Check out the youtube community tab. It'll pop it up right here. Also What? Why do we have three secret rears? What happened? Why do I have three secret rears in this box? Uh, excuse me. Did they change up the ratios? I thought it was only supposed to be two That was back-to-back secret rears Uh, that's three secrets in one box Hello, is this an air box? Wow That's pretty cool I don't think I've ever pulled three secrets out of a modern box So that's that's sweet and that's a 13 dollar card. That's like one of the best secrets. So That's awesome. Yeah, you guys don't have to let me know in the comments. Have you seen that happen? That's weird. So maybe we have four secrets uh, uh Uh, what are the chances, huh? That's pretty crazy actually No, okay. No I think three is pushing our luck, which is really weird. I don't know how we got three. That's super strange. That's super cool I'm down I'm down. I enjoy it pendulum on core. Let's just get the star light to end it off I don't think it's in here. We'd see it That's our problem with star lights. You can tell right away that you got one I think you can just lose your mind, which is pretty fun I'm okay. Let's do it like this What would the card be number five two three? See what's in here. Okay. We got some stuff. All right Final card from this booster box Starlight rare No, all right. We got three cigarettes in that box. That was awesome. Let's continue Two more not three two more pharaoh servant packs You guys know what we say about pharaoh servant, you know Who is our favorite monster? cyber falcon No, not who we're talking about thousand eyes. I'll definitely not our favorite. Okay One more pharaoh servant pack And then we can open up that epic those epic japanese packs here we go Metal detector seven completed buster blader. We've never pulled one by the way. We've said it a million times noble We pulled a million no women of crossouts. It's like this in gen zone. That's what we pull I mean, this is like a really good super to pull though. It could be a lot worse. We could pull like What's what's one of the really bad all fairy meteor crush. We could pull that every time that would not be good Here we go Japanese packs the thing about these is I was gonna open them in their own But I think they have like a guarantee of the same card. I think these are expensive though I think they have the same cards every time though. I'm not really sure so How are we gonna preserve this pack? Because we could rip it like this or we could rip it like from the bottom. I think that's the way we should do it Japanese premium pack five. These should probably not be open to be honest, but Oh, this is not working too well. Oh, no Just what I didn't want to happen. Okay the cringe All right, we destroyed the pack art. Unfortunately We have some cards that I don't know what they are. These are super old. I'll pop up the year they came out I don't know when they came out Amazing amazing.  Oh, is this a secret rare? Metal morph. I think they're all the same or there are some sometimes their secrets I don't really know you guys have to let me know ocg product. I don't know too much about it All I know is it looks amazing. That's all I can tell you and this is super old. This is super awesome Metal morph parallel secret a thing or something On to the next one. This is actually one of the biggest ones, but it has dark magician girl inside I think I don't know if it's every time though. Maybe it's mixed up There's only like a few cards in the set. So maybe it's it's probably mixed up. So hopefully we get it Dark magician girl and the I think the dark magician as well I actually gave away a couple of those on twitter like yesterday So if you're not following me on twitter, I do giveaways over there occasionally just for the twitter people So get in there make a twitter account. Oh, there it is The dark magician girl the sintering is terrible but that card is very shiny Check that out It's very shiny Ooh the dark magician all that sintering is brutal Thousand knives that's pretty cool Ooh the um, what is this called the dark magic curtain And then the uh, something about the box and a magic cylinder. So these all come in ultra rare. So that's really cool. Let's sleeve up The two big boys. Well one's a boy and one's a girl. That's pretty cool. That's pretty cool pack All right, we're getting down to the last three The final three premium pack three. We have blue eyes ultimate dragon I don't know if i'm guessing he comes in here. I don't know Do they have a a secret rare in these? I hope they do because the secret rears are sick Maybe we'll get something we can grade And then we can get a bgs eight on it. It's gonna be sick All right, here we go Ooh Magician of black chaos didn't mess it up guys didn't mess it up because there's so many of Meteor dragon not that cool Meteor b dragon. I think that's what it's called. That's pretty cool Oh this card sick Isn't this like originally a prize card? It's like Hercules something or something like that Oh the classic this is a prize card. Okay, so that's pretty cool. I had no idea it wasn't that one so A little bit weird on those. I mean, there's some kind of weird ones, but still pretty cool All right final two packs. These are pretty big. We got the black luster soldier on the front of this one Premium pack two Japanese. I mean these are like ancient. They're like older than LLB. I'm like 99 percent sure You guys will know before I do well, I guess I'll know first but because I put it up there But you know what I mean Past ruxen compared to you guys right now It's like you know it first. Uh, you know what I'm saying Here we go. Oh, baby. There's a lot of cards in this one That is a black luster soldier ritual version. Oh man Look how short that name is Zerothament That's a cool looking one. I can't remember what his name is but he's in our premium pack as well The fiend's hand mirror. Yeah, I'm pretty scary.  I guess I'm gonna have to sleeve all these after the the vid so it doesn't take too long. Oh, that looks that looks really nice These cards look incredible. All right final pack premium pack old as heck pack Here we go Japanese I don't know what's in here, but hopefully it's sick. That's all I can say I looked a little bit earlier and I can't remember what it was I just remember seeing that there was the saint like at least only a few different cards So I was like, oh, okay. This is not what I thought it was But still never opened it on the channel. It's a really cool card. So I was like, yeah, let's let's uh Let's go ahead and open it. Oh, it's at the front the secret rare time wizard Wow, okay. Look at that card That is amazing. There's not even like a set code on it. Sinnering is pretty good. Maybe we can grade this. What do you get? Okay, okay. Tell me what you guys think surface bgs8 Nice. Yeah, I think so wall's so bgsa right There we go. Nice. Nice. Nice. Yes Yeah, I mean if I send this one in I should inspect an it, right? I'm just wondering from you guys Darmacan, Cosmo Queen, really cool. Exodia and Frog the Jam, how does that go together?  Wow, that's super awesome. Premium Pack 1 is sick. Alright, overall in the video we got some really cool cards. I didn't slew up all the individuals like the Black Luster Soldier and stuff, but we got three secrets in that booster box. That was crazy. Don't forget you guys can win a booster box. That replaced an Ultra. So we got three Ultras and three secrets. That's wild. So you guys can win a booster box as well. Maybe yours will have three secrets as well. So I'm assuming that's not normal. But, like this video, join the giveaway. Don't forget to follow me over on Twitch because we're streaming a lot. It's been a lot of fun. Thank you guys for watching. I'll see you guys later. Peace. One Metal Hero Dark Bright. Boom!


Welcome back. After defining the Carnot cycle, the next question is, what are we going to use it for and how are we going to use it? What we will do is using the definition of the Carnot cycle as shown in the previous part, we will implement it using a working fluid and let us select the working fluid to be for simplicity and ideal gas with constant specific heats. Why this? The equation of state relating p v and t is very simple, p v equals r t. The relation between u and temperature is straightforward, delta u is c v delta t or d u is c v d t. So our algebra or some amount of calculus that we will have to do will not be very complex. Then we will analyze the Carnot cycle in detail. It is an ideal gas with constant specific heats. So we will use the mass m. We will perhaps have an expression containing r, its gas constant, may be c v, may be c p, may be gamma and also the four states. Let me simply call them states 1, 2, 3, 4. May be temperatures at these four states are involved, may be pressures are involved, may be volumes are involved. We do not know to begin with what is the complexity of this expression. But we will definitely note that although there are four states, there will only be two temperature levels. One will be T a and one will be T b. After analyzing this, we will obtain expressions for Q absorbed, Q rejected and hence we will be able to obtain an efficiency expression. Eta is W by Q absorbed, which we know also equals 1 minus heat rejected divided by heat absorbed and this we will be able to obtain in terms of all these. Hopefully it will not contain all of these. It would be a very simple expression, hopefully. So this is let us say equation 1 for relation 1. But then we will also say that since what we have a reversible 2 T heat engine, which is running on that Carnot cycle. Hence by the second law, the Carnot theorem, its corollary and the thermodynamic temperature scale definition. The definition of the thermodynamic Kelvin scale, we will also write theta equals 1 minus theta b by theta a. This comes purely out of thermodynamics. It does not depend on the details of the cycle, the working fluids and the process details. All that we have to assert is that the engine is a 2 T reversible heat engine. This will be expression 2. Notice that expression 2 will contain only thetas, theta b and theta a and expression 1 will contain T a and T b and may be a few other parameters. Hopefully hardly any other parameters. And then using these two expressions, expression 1 and expression 2, we will be able to relate theta 2 T. That is our aim in analyzing the Carnot cycle. Thank you.


Um, you know different stuff starts coming to light in various aspects, and you know things start bubbling up or whatever and and I I do tend to believe now that Mendo P is in there somewhere. Yeah, I do You know and it's simply because you know, there's there's a lot of connections between like Mendo and our crew And those bay area cats in one way or another like I said I mean I have a long running relationship back then with one of the guys That we did a lot of exchanging of We had a we had a cut called anus that used to get pushed through the bay quite a bit and it would Did you say the annus the annus? Which was which was which was a strangely which was a Mendo perps Durbin poison. Yeah, interesting thing


This is LG's latest home theater system. This is called the Cinebeam Q I recently purchased this at 1100 pounds. That was a 200 pound discount on the pre-orders from its retail price of 1300 pounds. Everything that I'm going to review and give you my opinion on will be based off of this being the full retail price if you do go ahead and buy this at 1300 pounds. Now this has a lot of features in it It's 4k native laser projector a single laser and it also has 500 anti-lumines It can project up to 120 inches and also it has LG's TV web OS built into it Rather than the traditional Google TV or Android TV that you would expect from most projectors Now as you saw from the title and thumbnail of this video, this is great It packs in a lot of features in this very nice little compact design However, there are some problems and when I say problems There's some scenarios that actually in my own honest opinion does not make this good value for money So make sure you stick around till later in this video to find out what they are But let's go ahead and get started and see what this can do So in the box you get yourself the power plug the remote control with two AA batteries Use a manual and the projector itself. Let's just take a quick look at the remote control You can see it does have the dedicated Netflix Disney Plus and Amazon Prime video buttons And it is very basic, but it does resemble more of a LG TV remote control But we'll dive more into this later in the video now design-wise This is very portable and it's made to take with you and travel with you can use this outdoors if you need to as well And that's a really nice unique feature of this It has this 360 degree rotating handle that you can actually use to either position or angle the projector upwards If you need to or you can just use that to carry it and have it very Transportable wherever you want to take it with you on the back of this you have a single HDMI port You have a USB-C port, which is also nice a DC input the power button and also the infrared receiver Just on the right then you have the fan at the back as well, and we will be testing the fan noise So let's go ahead and test out the fan noise Just going to get close now I'm not sure if you can hear it clearly Of course me standing in front of this I can hear it much better than all of you watching this But the fan is not that quiet Because the speakers are only three watt speakers I can see the fan actually interrupting this at low volume if you are going to watch content But I was actually hoping that the fan would be a lot quieter given the size of the projector But that's not the case. So unfortunately, that's not a really great thing that they've done But let's go ahead and test things out at full volume as well to see if it does eliminate a lot of this fan noise Okay, so I've just made it more dim in the room just so you can see the projection a little bit more clearly Now let's go through some of the OS and the system settings. So this is LG's TV web OS It's got that familiar design if you do own an LG TV So you have all of your favorite apps you have Netflix Prime Video Disney Apple TV YouTube, etc You can also go through to the app store once you've logged in I have to say the setup process to log into my LG account that took about 10 15 minutes It does sometimes take a while to get everything set up including signing into all of your apps one by one You also have a web browser and all of the other apps that you would expect from LG TV web OS One thing I have noticed the airplay option is just like my TV. It's very natively built into this It's so fast is so responsive and it's very quick and easy to just watch anything from your iPhone or your iPad And that works absolutely great You do have the option to send the sound out to a speaker Now I would recommend using a speaker if you are going to keep this projector long-term because it doesn't have very loud speakers in Built into it. Of course, it's a very small compact portable projector So you don't expect it to have loud bass or any type of subs in there If I just open up settings, you've got the picture mode there that you can switch from standard cinema Sports you can see that's very bright game optimization if you do connect your consoles filmmaker mode brightest Expert this is also good for daytime watching as well. So I may leave it on this Then you also have expert dark space So let me go ahead and leave this on expert bright space because I do have a bit of daylight coming into the room right now Sound out projector speaker. You can also change this if you do have external sources connected Like a Bluetooth device or HDMI arc soundbar game optimizer sleep timer Connect to your network installation wizard and all settings But if you go into general you find a little bit more information about the system as well in case you ever want to do a full Reset you also have an option for support as well in case you are having problems using this projector So all in all this web OS system is nice It's fluid and I actually prefer this over the typical Android TV or even Google TV system I just think it's quite nice. It's actually very responsive when I do use the remote control and that's something I can't complain now one thing I will say is that if you are going to use this 4k laser projector Typically laser projectors will work best when you have an ALR screen rather than your typical matte white screen Or you just have a white wall because you'll get the most quality from the output of the picture on an ALR screen But having said that you would probably have to spend around the same cost as the cost of this projector Just to get an ALR screen But I want to showcase the best quality that you can get with the LG Cinebeam Q by using my ALR screen Instead of using my matte white screen which does look for me in my opinion very washed out Just because it is only 500 ANSI lumens so let's go ahead and compare them So I'm going to take the white projector back up and I'm going to raise the ALR screen which is a floor rising screen Now just by doing it half and half You can start to see the difference in quality Of course, this is darker and it's going to look so much better when I have blackout or I'm watching this at nighttime But I just wanted to show you the contrast in the difference of quality When you do use an ALR screen to a typical cheaper white screen So I'm just going to go ahead And do the complete swap and we'll jump into the demos now the autofocus is really fast and also the auto keystone Just look at how I'm placing it moving it around It really adjusts it and it makes it very accurate and I really like this feature So you can see here no matter where you position it which angle you use It will do a great job straightening it out for you and making sure it's in focus even if I go back Make it larger You can see it maintains the clarity as well You don't even really notice that it's autofocusing it. It's that quick And this is the fastest and best autofocus auto keystone I've seen in any projector So LG have done a really great job on that front If you are planning on using this with an ALR screen Then this makes it much more manageable to watch during the daytime Of course if you have direct sunlight coming onto this then again It's still not going to solve that problem of being able to watch it comfortably But this is going to be more for me personally watching at nighttime or in a darkened room And remember I have set the picture mode to expert bright spaces So this should be tailored to specifically daylight coming into the room And it is manageable as you can see on the video But I'm going to now show you a demo for its full capability when I'm going to switch over now to nighttime So hopefully you enjoyed that demo and you saw what I saw which was a very clear crisp sharp image Especially when you have a very darkened room You can enjoy your movies your tv shows very nicely if you do want to set this up for your home movie nights The pictures and the color were vivid. They were vibrant and I can't really fault that Especially paired with an ALR screen. This is like the perfect quality to watch your content Especially if you set it up in your room You just want to chill back and enjoy your night times Then I have nothing but positive sides to say on that front and they've done a really good job Making this a very portable high quality 4k laser projector now paired with the audio quality. You also heard it is quite loud But again, it's not such a punchy speaker It doesn't have much bass and you can see that I actually went to 100 maximum volume Just to try and hear a lot of the things that I'm watching now if I'm going to watch a movie That's fast-paced action movie with a lot of explosions Then the speakers on its own I don't think it will do justice and you won't enjoy it as much as if you do watch this on a tv, for example So that's why I always recommend you have something like a soundbar Just to really take the home cinematic experience that step further But overall from the image quality, especially at nighttime. This is near perfect So going back to my original question There are some problems with this that in my opinion don't make this great value for money The first one being the remote control This is a white plastic and it looks like a very cheaply made remote control I feel like LG have just used this as kind of like an afterthought. They wanted to cut costs maybe But if you're going to have a metallic projector like this and you pay 1300 pounds for it Then at least have a slimline metallic remote control that looks premium All the projectors I've reviewed in the past have slimline remote controls that have two AAA batteries This one is quite chunky. It requires the chunkier AA batteries But not just that I've noticed whilst I've been using this as well No matter where I'm standing to the sides of the projector This doesn't work because the infrared receiver is on the back side of it So if I'm a little bit to the side to the front or even a little bit lower down It doesn't work and it doesn't register the inputs I have to move and go behind the projector just to allow me to actually use it So that's not great as well and maybe they could have just created maybe an RF remote rather than an infrared remote But overall I feel like this costs no more than 1015 pounds So it doesn't feel like it matches it. The color doesn't match So for me The remote control can actually make a lot of difference as well and and this just isn't it The second thing is that 500 ANSI lumens of brightness This is not going to be great to watch in any scenario in the daytime Especially if you have a lot of sunlight coming into the room That's irrespective of if you're using an ALR screen or just the white screen or just the wall For me, you need to use this at nighttime or in a very dark room to get the maximum Usage out of it to really enjoy it If you just have a look at this sample, this is how dim the 500 ANSI lumens are When you are projecting this on a white screen or a white wall with a lot of daylight coming into the room This is going to make it very difficult to actually enjoy your content because it's not that bright Of course, you can make minor adjustments through the settings of the color modes But none of them are going to make this in any way replaceable to a normal tv So if you're planning on using this during the daytime Then I would say it's probably not going to be worth it Probably don't even bother doing that because as you can see it's very washed out And there's no way that I would actually use this during the daytime But if that's something that you want to be okay with then by all means that's your choice But then I would say there's a lot of other projectors out there Even small portable ones that can give you a lot brighter images In the daytime. I reviewed a projector recently the dang bay atom That one is a lot cheaper than this and also I can use that because it's a lot brighter in terms of the ANSI lumens count as well But if you're the type of person that is looking to spend 1300 pounds I would say there's a lot better options on the market And you can also get something that's around 800 pounds That does so much more better quality video in the daytime than the LG Cinebeam Q So that's something just to be aware of and obviously I'm reviewing projectors all the time So make sure to subscribe so you don't miss any of the other projectors around this price range That can do a lot more than this one And third last but not least is the speakers and the audio quality Of course, this is a very small projector. So there's only so much technology They can build into this that allows it to have very large outputs It's not hi-fi. It's not Dolby audio Dolby sounds nothing like that It's just standard speakers and three watt speakers is just not enough and depending on how far you actually sit Or you're on your bed lying down wherever the projector is placed You may need to put it all the way up to maximum 100 like I've had to do And even then it still wasn't as good As enjoying it with like a soundbar or even a projector that has really high quality speakers built into it So if you are considering buying this then make sure you do have a soundbar connected to it Or you're just going to have to use bluetooth headphones And if you're okay with that then of course, then that's your choice But spending this much money for this projector You would expect it to have really good audio quality in addition to video quality as well Because you want it to have the whole package You don't want to be able to spend a lot of extra money for accessories on the side Just to get that home cinematic experience from your room So for me the audio is not great But if you have to have it then you have to have it but for me personally I don't think this warrants spending 1,300 pounds for this projector. So that's it. Thanks for watching Hopefully you found that review useful and I want to hear from you and your opinions as well Would you consider buying this? Have you already purchased it? What were your experiences? Make sure to drop a comment down below ask me anything If there's anything else you want to learn about the LG Cinebeam Q then I'll get back to you as soon as I can as well Make sure to like and subscribe. I've got a lot of projector reviews coming out I review all things tech as well So make sure you don't miss any of those ones and I will see you all at the next one. Take care