Precisely to express our very, very deep concern at the developments that are going on in UP. Soon after the CAA was passed in the parliament, popular protests against this violation of the Indian constitution erupted all across the country. In Uttar Pradesh, this violence was responded to by the Chief Minister of Uttar Pradesh, Yogi Adityanath, in the most uncharacteristic and unusual and condemnable manner, where he said, We shall take revenge for people who are opposing the CAA. Now the first point I would like to say is that here are some of those on whom the UP government took revenge for not having done anything illegal or violated any section of the Indian law, but they were detained and finally had to be released on bail after three weeks of being tortured in the jails. They will tell you their experience. But the entire question of it being, when we say it is unconstitutional or anti-constitutional, it is because CAA for the first time in the 70 years of our republic, first time introduces religion as a category for granting of citizenship. Our constitution forbids this and this is something therefore not only unconstitutional, but it is anti-constitutional. All the arguments that the Prime Minister, Home Minister are giving, you have all that aside. All of them are wrong, all of them based on blatant untruths, but keeping them aside also. The fact that religion is being linked to citizenship itself is anti-constitutional and protecting the Indian constitution from being violated is the highest form of Indian patriotism. So this government, the Prime Minister, Home Minister, the Chief Minister of UP charging, all those who are opposing the CAA, the MRC and the NPR as being anti-national or speaking the language of Pakistan. I mean this is utter nonsense because what all the protesters are doing is upholding the Indian constitution, this is the highest form of patriotism, taking vote on the preamble and using the prior as the symbol of the protests. So therefore this Badla-I-Ling-e-Helm resulted in 21 people being killed in UP. All the killings or deaths in this protest movement against the CAA, MRC and NPR across the country, the only states where deaths took place and that too in UP police firing were in the BJP World States of UP, Assam and Karnataka. These are the three states only where you have these sort of deaths. There is no violence anywhere else in the country. But even two weeks later the UP government has not been able to show who is responsible for this violence. It has not been able to show any evidence of any indulging in violence and destruction of property except the other BJP leaders in other states like you have the President of the BJP in Wispengal. He says, my BJP governments have shot down protesters like dogs. This is his exact quote. Very proudly he is saying that his or BJP chief ministers have shot down protesters like dogs. Another UP minister and his own record saying, we will bury all the protesters alive and that is what the BJP is capable of. It is they who are now inciting violence by making such statements. And Lucknow, Kanpur, Meerut and Bihar have been the most affected by police violence. Police goes to the houses, the videos are viral in social media. Police goes to the houses, destroys properties and then now turns around and picks up innocent people and asks them to sign evidence saying that they are the ones who destroyed properties and public property and on that basis to persecute them. Now this is something absolutely a sort of a police state that has been established and this is completely against a constitution, the secular democratic republic that is India that this constitution defines, it defines us as and take date not a single family whose property and houses have been destroyed.  Very grandfather was saving money for his granddaughter's wedding. All that was looted. The house was ransacked. Now the wedding of course will be postponed but then even one that will be held is not very uncertain because there is nothing left in that household. I mean this is the manner of destruction that they are giving and now they are giving notices. One was to get innocent people to sign efforts by force. Now giving notices to innocent people saying that you have damaged public property so therefore you pay the compensation. This takes us back to the time when the British colonial rule used to impose fines for civil disobedience movements and hardals picking up innocent people saying that you have to pay for the damage to public property. This is the sort of a situation that has arisen in UP. Now hundreds of people have been arrested and in all the court proceedings that have happened in not one case has the UP government been able to establish any evidence of such attack done by the people. The UP government has now started a new method of enrolling people called the police mitras. Mitras. Police mitras. Warranty is to be enrolled without any procedure. And we know who such warranties will be under the UP government. The swarms and works, the RSS people, they are being equipped with all, I mean with lightings, with uniforms, with badges and they are passing on as though they are official authorities. There is no procedure to tell you how they will be recruited, who will be recruited, what are the qualification for such a recruitment. And we have had, the left party has also had, all our activists being arrested in jail and the entire, the context that is being beat up is that this is only the Muslims are protesting. Or in the 63 left activists arrested in Guarnasi on the 19th, when we gave the early India protest call. Or in the 63, only 13 were Muslims, all the rest 50 were non-Muslims. This movement has cut across the region. It has cut across caste. It has cut across our cultural differences, languages. This is the fight for India's ethos, its essence, its secular democratic constitution. And that is why here, in this sort of a situation, we have here with us, we have a former IG of UP, Inspector General, Sri Devapuri, Esad Devapuri, who was retired, I mean who is now retired of course, and he is the national spokesman of the All India People's Front. And he was the IG of the state, going out of 1972 batch. He was arrested. He was tortured for 21 days. A former senior officer to the rank of the IG oppergies. And then Mr. Deepak Kavir, the social, cultural artist, founder of Vistak, that is to be extremely right, he was succeeded on the television, when he met the sort of torture that he's been through, and for the three weeks that, how he was treated in the jails. Dr. Parangrao Ambedkar, an assistant professor in mathematics. I mean he was picked up as saying one of the professors, I mean one of the protesters, and he's the founder of the, he was a mathematics at the, which institute was this? The American Institute. At the American Institute. So a former police officer, a social activist, who was a contemporary awareness in the student movement, and a retired police officer, a social activist, and an academician, a professor. These are the sort of people who are now, who have been arrested randomly. This establishment of a police state that is happening in the Uttar Pradesh, is completely unacceptable. We think of the front of the Indian constitution and the rule of law, and we are here, our honorable colleagues and senior leaders of various parties are here. We are here to express our solidarity and our protest at what is happening, and calling upon the governments, not only the people, but all the governments, to approve the rule of law and the constitution. I am Mr. Dharapuri, a 1972 batch of IPS officer, Kiran Bedi's batch mate. I retired in 2003. There is no certification. I retired in 2003. I am a social activist, I work on human rights, and I am in politics as well. As I told you, I am at the National Spokesperson of the All India Peoples Front, and in 2014 and 2019, I have been elected to the parliament. As I told you, when this camp came, we also supported it. At the political level and at the social level, we organized it. And when the CAA was formed, we all decided, the political parties and the social organizations that on the 19th of December, we will have a meeting there. We will have a peaceful meeting there. Now, all the publicity was done. When it came on the 19th of December, the police came to my house in the morning and arrested me. From 7 in the morning till 5 in the evening, I was under house arrest. During that time, I did so much that I took a poster and saved the city.  And I put it on Facebook. After that, I was meditating on what was happening and what was happening. So, I came to know at 4 o'clock that everything was going well. Thousands of people gathered at the National Spokesperson of the All India Peoples Front. But after that, it was 4, 5 o'clock. When I got the news that there was violence there, I was very worried about it. I immediately started talking to the people of the civil society who were our social activists. One idea came to my mind that we should form a civil peace society. We should form a citizens peace committee. And through that, we should educate the public so that they don't get lost. And we should talk to the administration so that they don't get persecuted. I did all this work in the evening. And at night, I posted a post saying that there shouldn't be any violence. There should be a civil peace committee that is on my Facebook. I did all this work and went to sleep. The next day, on December 20, around 11 o'clock, a police officer came to my house. A COI inspector came. Two or three cars came. He called me downstairs. Without wearing any special clothes, I went downstairs. I asked him if he was arresting me. He said, no, he's not arresting you. You have to go to the police station. So I thought maybe I should take the arrest of 151. They will take me in the morning. They will leave me in the evening. That's what I thought. I went with him. I stayed at the police station till 5 o'clock in the evening. I took the inspector there at 5.30 and went to the police station. I asked the inspector if he was arresting me. The next day, in the taunting way, he said, yes, it's 39. You are in the challenge. I said, it's welcome. You have to arrest me. After that, I was sent to the police station. At 8 o'clock in the evening, a remand was presented in front of the magistrate. I kept my word. The remand magistrate said, tell him what his condition is. He had eyes on his house. There was nothing to do with his Facebook. He said, I will not give him his remand. He refused. And the inspector who came, he was holding his hand. He didn't agree. After that, the inspector came. He was holding his hand for an hour. The magistrate did not give me my remand. Then he said, I was sent to the police station. After 4 hours, he brought me to the police station. He sat there in the office. What did the police write? The police wrote that we had gone to get the remand. But the remand magistrate was not available. Look at the police lie. I am present.  The police wrote that he was not available. After that, the police arrested me at 11.30 p.m. But the police arrested me at 7 p.m. They showed me a park at 7 p.m. I don't know the name of the park. I know the police do that. But an IJ rank officer who knows all the prisoners was not arrested at 11.30 p.m. and was arrested at 7 p.m. After that, I was sent to the police station. I was not wearing any special clothes. It was cold. I told them to give me a blanket. They said that they will not give you a blanket. I said that they will not give you a blanket. They said that they will not give you a blanket. I called my son and asked him to get a blanket. I sat there until 5 p.m. Then they took me to the police station and took me to the prison. The remand magistrate was present there. I was saying the same thing. But they don't listen to me. They give me the jail remand for 14 days. At 9.30 p.m. I reach Berwick at 9.30 p.m. I was not given anything to eat during that time. The arrested person should be given food. When I was taking me to the remand magistrate I said that I want to call my lawyer. He said that no lawyer will give you food. I said that he did not give me a ticket. He said that he will not give me a ticket. So you can guess that the police who are with a 32-year-old man who is working with him who is working with him who is working with a common man. After that I go to the jail. There are two important things in my life. The day I meet the arrested people I know one thing. On that station and on another station the number of people who came to arrest everyone was badly beaten up. And the number of people who were arrested I left only two people. I and a lawyer from High Court I left these two people who are of our age I left these two people and they beat them up. They say that beat them up so that they can get up and they are being beaten up. They are being beaten up. They are being beaten up. I have three more boys with me and they are being beaten up. One of them was beaten up. That is why the lawyer said that we will take revenge and we will teach him a lesson. So he taught me a lesson. He taught me a lesson. The second important thing that I found out in the jail that the people who told me that when we were arrested the Muslims were taken away and the rest of the people who were left were the people of RSS and BJP who were arrested on time they were taken away from here and after that they were taken away. That is why I am angry that the people of RSS and BJP went to that village and got the violence done whereas the people who were there were seen there till 4 o'clock and they forget all the peace. That is why I was told by a big international media that I went to all the cities of Jhupi and every place there were amazing people there. In the press of Lucknow there were twenty-three people who were the people who were left behind. So the people there were the people of RSS and BJP who were taken away from there so that we could be taken away from here. Another big thing that I came to know was that the people who were there were the people of RSS who were the Muslims who were working there and the prisoners who were arrested were the people of RSS so the government tried to make it a police and fix the Muslims with them. We have convinced Lucknow what this movement was done. We have built a police and not let a Muslim do that. So this is the things that I was told. Why I was targeted? I work on the civilisation of a people's union for civilisation. I am the vice president of Uttar Pradesh and in Uttar Pradesh there was a wave of people I have encountered more than 5,000 people and 99% of them are in jail. I am a senior police officer. And as a PGOC, we have arrested a witness in the Supreme Court in which the state has been notified. And I have taken all the details of the case under the RTI of Uttar Pradesh Police and presented them in the Supreme Court. This is the reason. I am a PGOC officer. I am a PGOC officer. I have been charged with all the pressure charges. I have been charged twice. So I was a political bengata. And what I was doing in the direction of the rights, that was also the reason. So the reason for this is that the government is in Lucknow. And after Lucknow, the name of the police is completely wrong to be a Muslim. All the people who have been charged with the crime have been charged with the crime. So this is my story. Thank you very much for the press club and all of you. Now, what song, what flight, what love, my life, the country I live in is very painful. Friends, I don't know how much you must have seen this period. A lot of international media is covering it. On the 19th, you all know that a lot of people like me are arguing in the Parliament. It is also happening outside that whether the law is right or wrong. These two democratic people who live in the state are fighting each other. And their job is to reach people. We were also doing the same. In Jamia, when the incident took place, there was a anger in the whole country. And we put a protest in Lucknow on the gun. Our line is clear in that protest that this will not be handled in a religious boundary. This is a fight to save the constitution. They say, debate, debate, we are ready to debate. What is happening? After that, the police did not start the XH-24s. They made some recordings with the police. We are going to do something very clear. A common thing is being protested and angry. Do it this way. On the 19th, it was very important for Lucknow. Lucknow was established in the whole country because on the 19th, on the day of our Saji Shahadat, Ashfaq and Gismil were sent to Fasi. The Karkori Khan and the Karkori Khan were standing behind the Gandhi Pratima at the GPO Park. That is why we decided that we would go to the GPO and this is a routine that we do. We did not have that much of an idea but in the number of children, teachers, schools, people, women, common people have come out. There would be around 1,000 or 1,500 people. No one knows anything about Lucknow. Everything is going on. And the administration stopped the Metro Council. They had put all the barricades there. On the other hand, my wife Veena and I were all live on Facebook. We would get a lot of things. We were stopped. We were born. After that, we were detained. We were sent to the GPO. Veena, my friend Taman, Abib, Amit and everyone were arrested there on the GPO. We were arrested three times. They sang songs and everything was recorded. I took two elderly people with me. One of them was my lawyer and a cultural officer. We had tea there. Another friend came and we went to Lucknow. There were around 4,000 to 500 people standing there. They gave us language, they sang songs. And we had a lot of problems. There were children from Nadua. There were a lot of people. We were all alive. They wanted to say Jai or Vande Mataram. There were girls and mafus. They wanted to see the recordings. They wanted to delete them. They were so tired. One video was coming out. It was so peaceful. At that time, on the fourth floor, the cars were completely broken. The cars couldn't be broken so easily. There was a force there. In five minutes, some people were rescued. Some of them were sent to Ghai. But it didn't take long. After that, Yogi Ji said, and I don't think the police needed some time to identify the criminals.  They will look for you. But, they have been abused. After that, whoever they met, they took him away. Whoever they met, they took him away. They beat him up completely. You can beat him up in anger. When you are caught by the incident, or if you want to get caught by someone, you will beat him up. Brother, we have to find out. My friend, La Patate, I was looking for him. The next morning, I went to look for him. I went to look for him. He caught me there. I went to the police station. Its whole reach is crushed. After that, his senior officer got SSP done. As soon as he left, he said, I had poor hair. So, he said, these people look like criminals. He said, we do look like vices. He told them that, these criminals are criminals. Just you know, these are so many guys, and people called me, I am not naked. I don't deserve to be noperturbed is this. I don't deserve such a отнош. This is an IPS officer, S.S.P. And after that, my name has been increased to F.I.R. And we have only 302 left. No one has been left behind. From 307 to 18 times, 120 B. And the next day, we will be told that mastermind is Sargana. How many interviews have been published in every newspaper. How many things. We come to a very big cultural festival there. For example, Kabir festival. Who doesn't know the youth festival from 10 to 15 years. But this brutality has been done. It has not even been given water. In the jail, kids were suffering at 10 o'clock in the night. Then they got water. So this is our human rights. You see that in the case, there is no time limit. We have got time from the session. We have got time in the first day. We have come out on the 20th day. They don't have any evidence. And they have done this to us without any evidence. So this whole era. I think it is very fast to be a democratic country. You can save it if you can.  This fight will continue. People are very angry. And we will take it forward. So, all the persons and personalities sitting here. Thank you very much. And I especially want to thank the media for coming here. For our coverage. Because in Lucknow, the media has been banned. For us, it is forbidden to listen to any of our pain. I would like to thank the Delhi media. I would like to say that I have been working as a social activist for the last three years. I have quit my job as an assistant professor of mathematics. And on the 19th, on the day of the change, I became a peaceful protestant. And in this protest, which is being carried out by the students of this country, through the struggle to save the country, we have participated there. Whose President, Professor Ramesh Dixitri, Vice President, Professor Ruprekha Verma, and the convener, Amik Jamai. So our protest was going on peacefully. Around 4.45 pm, the place where we were standing, near the barricading, everyone was appealing for peaceful protest. So, until 4.45 pm, our protest was going on so well, that everyone was scolding it. But after 4.45 pm, a blow came. The barricading which was standing near the barricading, a very powerful blow came from the back, the barricading was broken. Because of which, a lot of people had to run away from their lives. While running away, I was asked to do my work, or save the society, save the country, save the country from Abiyan, from Sadab Jafar, I met him. And I pulled him forward. And during that time, the protest had started. The way we were running away from ourselves, there was also a barricading, press club was there. So they couldn't cross that barricading. So they couldn't cross the barricading, and we were standing there. So during that time, a lot of journalists were also there. We were appealing to them, to go ahead and attack those people there, those people who are playing cards, now take a video to show them that they were able to cross the barricading. So a lot of time passed, when we started to spend 5-10 minutes with them, the barricading didn't take so long, that next to them, there was a FAAB India, next to the FAAB India, they opened their gates, whoever was standing there, they took everyone inside, so that they could survive. So at that duration, we were standing there for 1-2 hours, there was a barricading, which we saw while we were inside the gate. When all this happened, we went out at around 5 o'clock, because there was a barricading, because of which I couldn't leave, I was with Sadak Jaafar Ji, we went ahead with him, and as soon as they reached, suddenly, the police attacked me, they attacked me so badly, that even today, I have swelling in my head, I lost my consciousness for 5-10 seconds, and on that duration, they attacked me so badly, that I can't explain.  During that time, because it is necessary to say, that a lady constable came, what did she think?  Her helmet was broken, but her brutality was not over. So this is an explanation, there have been many things, which I don't want to explain. I just want to keep this in front of you, and I want to say, I want to appeal to everyone, that whatever was attacked, it's okay, it's okay. But the movement that started, for which we have come, for that, today, everyone, the political parties, should come forward, and the movement that has been established, should go ahead. Because in Lucknow, the way this movement has been destroyed, today, if the political parties don't come forward, then the young people of this country, the women in this country, the way they are being dragged, the Hindu-made Muslims, they will become a stone lackey, for this, all the political parties should come forward, by keeping the internal or personal issues behind them. If they don't come back, then the Sharyantra, the Shajis, they are going to go to Sadih, the way, some time ago, the case of Ram Mandir, was finished, Sadih has gone to a Satab, so if it is very important for the political parties to come forward, so that they can protect themselves, so that in this movement, without any invitation, there were women standing in front of me, children standing, 10-year-old children standing, for this protest, standing in a peaceful manner, for that, all of you, should come forward, and for that, I will request all of you. Secondly, I want to say that my identity, my identity in this country, the most necristic identity of this country, the social identity that we have instigated from Sadih, even those people will have to come forward, because it is not the case of Muslims, it is the case of the SCST, OBC of this country, it is going to be with them, and this indirectly, is not ready at all, I will explain to you in detail, because I feel the pain, I feel the pain, how people attack us. The way I was killed in the police station, by taking my name, I cannot forget that, because in this cell, there were 39 persons, in those 39 persons, I was the alone, non-Muslim person, and I was strangled to death. So this is very important, our people should come forward, those political parties, those who are against the Brahmal world, those who are against the Manwad, I have heard a lot of lectures, they are talking about the protection of our people, so I want that all the people in this country, the human rights system, that we support them, we stand with them, the protection of SCST, OBC, we stand with them, I want to give one or two examples, the implications of the CA, the results that will come out, what will be the meaning of that, as far as I am analyzing, I want to keep that in front of you. Those who are from Bangladesh, Afghanistan and Pakistan, I especially want to say my own words, so that they can clearly see that. The respect that is in this country, that is the most request, that is the identity, you can understand that, you can see that, all the abuses of this country, I come from that community, those who are against the Brahmal world, those who will come from Bangladesh, from our society, what will be their respect, what will be their education, what will be their employment, who will give them land, the people who live in Bihar, even today, they are alive, the people who live in Odisha, how do they eat rice, they don't have any idea, what will be their concern, what will they come from Bangladesh, I would definitely like to say, what will they bring to this country, this is also a question mark, can they also come in between, who want to destroy this country, are there any mechanisms for this, no mechanism has been made, if it is asked to the Modi government, that if someone is coming from Pakistan, or wants to come, then have they been scrutinized, can they also come in the name of spreading terrorism in this country, to become a Hindu, to become a Bahadur, to become a Jain, to become a Parsi, and whatever they have been given, not just Muslims, they can come in this country with this kind of name, I will give the biggest example of this, if you can go in the name of Jain, you can collect information from there, then people like this can come to this country, and destroy the internal security of this country, there should be a mechanism for this, we welcome those people who are coming from there, welcome, but will they get land, what kind of education will they get, today also I see in the primary, the way it is talked about, this is the child of the Harijans, it should not be made, if they are teachers, then the people who will come, what kind of name will they be called, their respect is the most important for us, and this is the matter of the Muslims, I would like to say the matter of the Muslims, more than 19 lakhs of people, the last list of NRC has come, more than 13 lakhs of people who are non-Muslims, where will they take them, and the remaining people who believe in Islam, they are non-Muslims, they are poor, they are laborers, they are the people who eat a lot, they will either be put in the detention centre and killed, or the government of this country, the government of this country, they will be brought to India, they will be put in the same state, and they will be made human, and they will be made human, this is the basic analysis, you must quote it, these are the important points, we will talk more about our political parties, we will talk about it, this is my internal matter, and the brutality that has taken place, I have nothing to say about it, we will tolerate the brutality and we will advance this fight, in this country, no one can do anything in the name of religion, no one can destroy the community made by Baba Sahib, unity, integrity, and the devotion of the community to this country, we will not let it end, we will keep the understanding made by Baba Sahib alive, we will keep humanism alive in this country, we will keep everyone inside this country alive, no one around you, he heard from his own ear, the purpose of our actions was that the state in Lucknow is in every corner of the country, In the same way, where the government of the Indian People's Party is, what name can be given to it, I cannot say. I have to say something about the jungle state. I have to say this in the context of this. We have invited these friends here to talk to you. There are some brave people who have not reached here. We used to want them to stand in front of us. The emergency, we were closed to the emergency. But people outside were happy. When we were closed to the emergency, our freedom was closed. Our freedom was closed. But the people of the country did not have any kind of problem. Today, we are at such a point that it is going upside down. That is, the outside is also in trouble and destruction. And the state of the people who are going to jail, you have just heard. There was no such state in the emergency. We were both closed to the emergency. There was such a state. As the situation is today, this is Delhi. We have been in Delhi for 43 years. We have never seen that the students, the university, left the college. The students, the name-makers are the students. Prasid and his education history is still with me. Sridhara Mithri left the university. Today, the youth who are going to struggle in the country are the most important. In 70 years, in any college in Delhi, in the world, the goons have not been wearing nakaab. They have not been wearing lathi, dande, raad, kuladi, farse. Farse and kuladi have not been worn. The people of Delhi, the people of India who have given complete support. All of you have been friends for a long time. I would like to remind you of history. There are many governments against which we have fought. They have been jailed. We have seen everything. But the first government is taking out the Julu Jalsa. They are asking for double CAA. CAA should be double. C double should be double. NRC should be double. NPR should be double. I don't understand why they are asking for the Julu Jalsa. After all the power is in their hands, you have seen such a useless work in the world. That the government which is God, after being so powerful, they are taking out the Julu Jalsa. Yes, I have seen it once before the emergency. People used to go to Indra Ji. People used to demonstrate. One thing is also true, the CPI people used to demonstrate. But I have not seen a government man. There are women, mothers, sisters and daughters sitting here. No one had any problem.  I believe the Supreme Court is very proud. They have put the Julu Jalsa in their hands again. How do you organize the Julu Jalsa? Why do we have it? I would like to apologize a few times. I would like to say that the Julu Jalsa has come out. We have been with them for many days. They have made it happen. If someone gets angry with someone, they do the same thing in the Jainism. Even in the Jalwar province, when the Jail was closed, they entered the Jainism college and beat them. They beat the Harishankar Persai 2-3 times. They do the same thing. I would like to tell you that there was an emergency. There were a few people in trouble. Today, there is an emergency in the country. There is no emergency. Every incident is different. Today, there is an emergency in the world. In our country, since thousands of people have come to the earth, there has been only one book. There is Ramadhan, there is Geeta, there is Quran, there is Bible. This is a spiritual book. If there is one book in which there is Salak, Paneer, Bheeli, Khet, Kalyan, Ijjatwan, Samman, Environment, Nukri, Uddiyog, Danda, they are in danger. They have to be saved. This is my request to those who have come to the country, we are also thankful for them. There are many bad days going on. For the country, for the society, for us and for you. The Prime Minister says that he can be recognized by his clothes. I say that he can be recognized by his name. Dara Puri is in the name of Kabir. Kabir is in the name of Kabir. And Ambedkar is in the name of Kabir. He is the sinner of the top class. He himself said this in his Pira. I want to say that if someone is coming to the country, you have seen some testimonies of Dara Puri, Kabir, or Ambedkar. Such testimonies are spread all over the country.  Imagine that if a police officer is told that whatever I have written, then the danger of my village, or what will be happening to Rakesh Yadav, what will be happening to Falana Mishra. These are the things we have thought about. I am bringing you again and again in this conversation that this fight is not just one day. The Prime Minister is also saying that he will recognize his clothes and he will do this. This is an amazing thing. I was 8 years old when I was in J.P.  And no one should be confused between us political parties that we have created this thing. We have lost because we are poor. But the people have taken the responsibility and taken the responsibility. They have taken the responsibility. These are our clothes. One thing I would like to say in the case of Uttar Pradesh, I am worried for Uttar Pradesh as a citizen, not as a political party. A person who cannot think more than a fish, whose entire view of the world, the limits of the fish, you have given Uttar Pradesh to him. This is an amazing thing. I am not worried for him, but I can say that he has a better idea than this. I don't know if I am compelled to say that I have seen a lot of prime ministers who have protested against them. If the Prime Minister was part of the protest, then we were on the streets of Bihar, we would have taken them to the police station. But no prime minister would have said that he would take revenge. You are not in the middle class. You are not the king or the king. You want to steal the land of the people. You want to steal the kingdom. This is the language of revenge. You get it from Bengal. You get it from the people of Bihar. This revenge will not be limited to Dharapuri Ji, Ambedkar Sahab, or Deepak Kabir. We will all come to this. And we are coming. That is why this fight will go on till the end. It is possible that we will lose. I also think that we may lose. But while losing, it will be felt that we have lost to save the constitution. The one who was going to save the constitution won. Thank you, Jai Hind. At the outset, on behalf of my party, the CPI, I express solidarity with the victims, complete support to the victims. What we witness today in Uttar Pradesh is nothing but straight-sponsored violence, straight-sponsored terror. Ever since BJP came to power, we are seeing there is increase in the crimes, attacks committed against delis, arousies, minorities and women in the state of Uttar Pradesh. I had been to Sanwadru. I saw all the tribals were massacred in Uttar Pradesh. We all know what happened in Munna. And across the state of Uttar Pradesh, all the marginalized people, the downtrodden sections are being attacked. We saw all the valued activists were arrested and put behind bars in the state of Uttar Pradesh when one was organized. Now after Citizenship Amendment Act, they have increased the attacks on all sections, on all sections. Here I would like to underline the Prime Minister and the Home Minister abuse the opposition parties. They accuse the opposition parties as they were spreading lies. The Prime Minister and Home Minister, they spread lies. They have no argument. They have no answer to the questions raised by the people all over the country. Citizenship is an issue settled in the Constituent Assembly. Dr. Ambedkar, Sardar Patel and Galaxy of Leaders debated the question of citizenship and they have all come to one conclusion. Citizenship cannot be linked with any religion. Religion cannot be the basis for citizenship. Settled issue and Sardar Patel was there. Now it is Prime Minister and Home Minister, they spread lies and they do it ever since they came to power. On the occasion of Article 370, they said Sardar Patel was opposed to Article 370. Everyone knows those ordinary children who studied the history, they all knew. Sardar Patel was for Article 370 and it was debated, discussed in his residence and Gopal Swami Ayungar, Patel, Javelal Nehru, finally in Shekabdurla, they discussed and they agreed upon Article 370. When it went to Constituent Assembly, Dr. Ambedkar being the chairman of the drafting committee, he agreed along with majority. Now the Prime Minister and Home Minister, they are spreading lies, they are accusing the opposition parties, they are abusing the opposition parties.  Now the Citizenship Amendment Act, it is there and the people are protesting. The students are protesting, students are protesting. JNU, Jamiya, Jadapur, Chennai, all over the students are protesting. Even today one BJP, so called Igalag, has come out with a statement, JNU DNA is anti-national. JNU DNA is anti-national. He claims to be an Igalag of BJP. He lives in Chennai. I can go on giving examples like that. If anybody questions the government, he or she becomes anti-national, urban Maoist. If anybody criticizes the policies, he or she becomes urban Maoist. What is happening in India?   We see it in campuses, institutions of higher learning and we see it across the country. That is why we are here to question the government, challenge the government. Government cannot take people for granted, the country for granted. And here there are secular democratic forces who can challenge the government, who are challenging the government. And it is not to challenge the government for the sake of challenge. We want to defend, we want to save the constitution, we want to save democracy, we want to save the nation thereby. That is why we are all here. And they explain their experiences. And there are thousands of people who are not here who could not come here to share their experiences. That is the common experience of all sections of the people across the country. Country is at a critical point, passing through a very, very turbulent times and we all should stand together and fight these fascist menace that has captured the political power. We all should come together to challenge this government and force the government to repeal the Citizenship Amendment Act. And here they explain their experiences. We share their experiences. We understand their difficulties, the mental agony, anguish. And we also feel the same way. It's not that we keep quiet here. All the political parties are concerned. We are all anguished. And that is why we have undertaken a series of campaigns in order to save constitution, save democracy on 23rd January. On 23rd January, it is Nathaji's birthday and we want people to come together and take a pledge and articulate the resolve that we will save this country, we will save the constitution at any cost and that the government, the dispensation cannot take us for granted. In the same January 26, Republic Day, it is Secular Democratic Republic. Dr. Ambedkar made it very clear India should and can continue as Secular Democratic Republic. It can never become a theocratic state and there was pressure on Ambedkar and Ambedkar made it clear if at all Indurashra becomes a reality that will be the calamity for India. That is none other than Dr. Ambedkar. Those who talk in terms of theocratic state it is around nonsense. That is what Ambedkar described. This January 26, we all should stand up in order to save our Secular Democratic Republic. Then January 30, January 30 it is Mahatma Gandhi's martyrdom day, father of the nation. If at all one single message we should draw from the life of Mahatma Gandhi that is Hindu-Muslim unity, social harmony, communal harmony, that is what Mahatma Gandhi stood for and today what is happening the Secular Democratic Republic is broken, destroyed and Muslims and minorities are targeted. How can we tolerate? India is a Secular Democratic Republic. Mahatma Gandhi stood for Hindu-Muslim unity. We should understand. That is why the political parties have undertaken series of campaigns and it is not an end and it is beginning and it is a continuing campaign and we will have to fight the BJP others as combined. We will have to save nation, we will have to save constitution, we will have to save democracy, democratic quality of our country. So friends, we assure you we are all together and it is our common struggle and we will have to fight together, we will have to move together. Yes, we were all protesting very peacefully. There was a call as you already have been told that we were protesting peacefully and then the arson took place. I and Pawan Ram Ambedkar stayed back. There was also one of the media person who was hurt on his lip so we decided to stay back and give him some prostate or something and then the arson reached to a level where he could not run away. So we decided, I decided and he too, we were both making videos both online and online. Our online videos have been all erased by the UP police because they hacked into a phone after it was confiscated but we talked live on Facebook. So when we were doing live on Facebook it was showing how the UP police were not doing anything at that time. They were resting for so long they were not doing anything. It was very weird that so much of arson and stone pelting was taking place and they were very casually walking. So we said that I actually called out to them they weren't doing anything and then after the things subsided and there was arson on three sides so we were right there in the middle of it and then when things subsided we decided to film it as we worked towards our vehicles. So because we hadn't done anything because we knew that most of the police people who were present they were witness to the fact that we were not doing anything. So we decided to move right through them towards our vehicle. There was no fear and suddenly one of them called out to Tandak Mildey Aplogukko. And before we could understand I saw Mr. Anbetkar being brutally beaten with batons and these women caught hold of me and said I said where are you taking me? What's the matter? And by then they started hitting me with a baton on my legs. So I couldn't understand until then we were in detail. They took me to the side of the road and they hit me with a baton and they said I had a baton and my legs were in trouble. So they slapped me and my glasses fell down and I was hit and I was pushed down. And by then when I saw Mr. Anbetkar he was being beaten brutally. And a woman caught hold of him and hit him with a baton but by then he was not even responding. His eyes were like this and then I realized what was going to unfold. Then they started hitting me with a baton and I hit my hands because I was seeing that people were shaking their heads and they were covered with blood and they were getting blood from the car. And then they put me in the car and I was brought to the police station without a woman's permission. And by then they took me to the police station and after that I could hear them being beaten by the male detainees. They felt that they were being beaten and they were shouting and they were yelling at me. When the male detainees were taken I was left alone. As the officers started coming and the female constables came in I was asked my name and then they said what is your problem? What are we giving you? What is the government giving you? They were saying in a different way that we have become NRC and we are getting involved. The criminal slur that I had was being beaten by those women and they were trying to hurt me. They were asking me what is your problem? What have you not got? They said are you not producing children? No.  She scratched my face she scratched my hand she pulled my hair in a bad way she was beating me she was yelling at me. Finally when it was night I called my family and told the family that even if I am detained or arrested my phone is my right that I cannot make a phone call. I am a legal rights family should know that I am. They said when they will come they will come in the morning. When it was late it was around 10-11 and I was told that I.G. Sahab was coming I later found out that he was not I.G. He lied and took me to a senior police officer who was lying and his left chin was swollen and I had a feeling I was not sure where he was taking me So I thought that if a high ranking officer comes to know that being single my two children must be very worried about me and they should know where I am. Even if I'm arrested, they should know where I am. So I thought that I would request them not to send me the phone. You open the phone and call my number and tell me where I am. So when I went, I didn't even go to the police station because they started calling me. And then they asked me, you are so educated. What do you know about CAO? Who are you taking from you?  Why are you staying here? And after that, they were so shocked that someone was talking big things about them. Another senior ranking officer said that he was talking big things about them. He said that he was going to put 307 people in jail. These were the words that he said. And after that I told the police that who should be beaten up? Those who beat up very beautifully. But they were not satisfied with that. So they thought that they would come and abuse me. They pulled my hair and pushed me down. And then on my stomach and my knees, they hit me very hard. And then there was no hope in any way that my family could be contacted. I don't know what's going to happen to me. Lucknow, a lot of people know me. So I was hoping that someone would come to find me. Someone would come. If I am at home all night, someone would know that I kept waiting the whole night. Actually people came. They were looking all over for me. They were going to every police station. They were going everywhere. And I was told that Mr. Gul came to the police station. He was detained for 10 steps away from me. But he was not told that I was sitting there. One of them came to me and said that he was going to abuse me. He was calling me especially with a particular abuse. He was calling me. And for the next 24 hours, he had become my name. Because he was calling me with that same name. And he used to say that he should be sent to school. He should be put on the ground. So I said that I can't stand here because I have a pain. I am very sick and I can't stand here. So I was told that I should be able to stand here.  So when you come to the sir, stand there. If you go to the sir, you will sit there.  Around 2 o'clock, my blood pressure rose. I was feeling very uneasy. I said that I am feeling very bad now. So he shifted me and took me to the medical hospital. He tried to take me to the doctor but my family was not told. He said that he needs a scratch. So I told him not to do anything. He said that I should give you an injection. I said I should give you another injection. I rested for a while. I was lying on the stretcher on the ground for 15 minutes. It was very cold that night. Then he told me that I need to walk. I said that I am still feeling uneasy. He gave me another injection. I said that I am a female doctor. So I can show you that I am feeling very sick. Because my shoulder and back hurt a lot. I was feeling very bad. I told him not to do anything. I wanted to stay in a warm place. I wanted to lie down on the stretcher. Next morning, when Mr. Deepak Kabir walked into the women's room, he came straight in. After walking for so long, he showed me his life for the first time. I was so scared. Because I knew what would happen to him. He went outside. He sent him out. Then I saw him getting into the police man. So I had the whole idea that I wanted to be here. I had the idea that I wanted to be here. In this brutality, we were talking to the people of that two-legged, 19-year-old. We are making the women a human chain.   And that night, I was being hit on my stomach. I was being abused. But according to my name, the communal slum and the communalization of the police, the way Mr. Yogi says, will be changed. And the way the U.T. police is working with the excuse of changing, that really needs to be highlighted. That they think that atrocities are going on. That you should be so cruel. When I was here yesterday, my daughter told me that the second point of the property attachment has been served. So in every way, we are trying to break it. We are trying to scare it. We are trying to brutally kill it. When we were taken to the jail, they didn't even know that a woman was also with them. The place where I was sitting, they were stripping men. And they were showing that the marks were loaded. The medical says that there was no atrocity. The men were being stripped in front of me. Until I just gave up. There was so much dehumanization. As a woman. As a human being. The way I was dehumanized. Because ultimately, I had to get out of here. So we have heard the four testimonies today. And a question arises that when an elected state government uses such fascistic methods to suppress dissent in an extremely communalized manner, then what is the way out? That is a critical question. Where are the other institutions which are supposed to defend human rights? Today in Uttar Pradesh, we are also involved in it. And many other organizations have filed reputations in the Allahabad High Court. Today, one of the hearings is there. We haven't heard exactly what has happened. So one aspect is, against this government, will the courts give any kind of relief? That is a question before us. The second question is, where is the National Human Rights Commission? There are institutions which have been mandated by India's parliament to stand up precisely in such situations. You will recall in Gujarat, after the Gujarat genocide, when the central government did not do anything, it was the National Human Rights Commission under Justice Varma at that time who did have an inquiry and who brought some relief in its recommendations for those victims of that violence. But today, where is the National Human Rights Commission? Sadaf has said, she's told us she is going to appear to the National Human Rights Commission. But the question is, why is there no sumo to notice of what has been happening? It is all over Uttar Pradesh. Everybody knows about it. But where is she? What is her mandate? And do we have the right to ask her, but she is not there either. And the third thing is about the Supreme Court. Because the Supreme Court has asked many questions. In state-related matters, when there was such a large scale of human rights violations, why is she silent today? All these issues are present in front of every citizen today. Where are the autonomous and independent institutions in India? In the form of a political party, our friends have told us that there are many people like us. We have gone to four districts for our delegations. We have also met with many victims. They have told us that at this time, we are living in a state of such terror that whether we come to Delhi or not, this is also a question in front of us. So many people, poor people who have been noticed at home that you have to pay so much compensation. So even they are scared today. And that is why they are not able to come to the state. But the four of our friends have raised their voices. Their voices are in those voices. So finally, our demand is that in relation to Uttar Pradesh government, that this vandalism of people's property should be immediately compensated. The second thing is that all these false cases have been filed. Like Deepak Kabir has told us that there are 302 cases left with 307 cases. So in relation to that, legally and legally, what kind of demand we will take from that? This is also a question. And the third thing is that against the police, what the police have done and even today are doing, against them, there is a need for action. This is against the vandalism, against the struggle, against the united actions of political parties. And the courage that our friends have shared with us, we thank them very much from all of us. And we can only assure them that together, we are fighting against this fascistic government. Another thing that is not in this regard, last night I was in Khureji, Sadav was also with us, our sister Sahiba was also with us. We came to know that there was no peace at all, which happened after Shaheen Bagh. Last night at around 1.5-2 pm, the police went there and did a great attack. Even the men police, like Sadav has said, used the men police and attacked the women. Last night it happened in Rajdhari. So in relation to that, today it is against us. So we all will go there in the evening and attack. Thank you very much, you four. And Sadav Ji, you have finally reached. Thank you very much. And what you have told us, and what you have made us feel, what kind of need is there today, that if we can not defeat it now, then we will not be able to save our country. And for this, we are the leaders of the political parties, Mr. Sharad Ji, Mr. Adkumar Raja, Mr. Manu Jha, and we all, i.e. the people who have been there for 25-20 years, all of them are part of it, and are trying to connect with more people. So once again, we are trying to give the image of a man and woman. And we have fought with them many times, we will fight again. But the sad thing is, that when there was a government in Gujarat, there used to be a Prime Minister who gave a lot of respect to Modi and politics. Now, if Modi himself is the Prime Minister, then there is no one to say this in this country. Now, if you want to remind us, then you have to remind the people, us and you. And we all will have to remind them. This is what we will do. Now, all of you have come here. Thank you very much for your income and being through this experience.


Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Johnathan Asley of johnathanasley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this livestream for you today. Our topic, the five ways to spot red flags and guys who are not ready for a relationship. Really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if any time during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if that isn't your cup of tea, log off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my opinions, my perceptions by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a contrarian, so much of my advice is contrary to the rhetoric that you might be hearing out there.  All right, let's jump into those five ways to spot guys who are not ready. All right, let's think about the difference between a red flag and a deal breaker. Now, a deal breaker means no.  Maybe it's their behavior. Maybe it's where their future lies, whatever it is. Maybe it is they're a smoker and you're not interested in being with the smoker because you're a health conscious person. Whatever it is, a deal breaker is where you draw the line in the sand. Now, I know a lot of people draw their line in the sand is I don't wanna be with people who are liars and cheaters and untrustworthy. Can we just agree those are a given?  And many women like don't wanna be with cheaters, liars and all that kind of stuff. So you don't need to even put that on a dating app or putting it on a dating profile. Can I just tell you that will set you up for failure if you're starting with those examples of deal breakers. Now, it's very fair to have deal breakers in your life and I invite you to explore what they are for you. I wanna differentiate a deal breaker to a red flag but a red flag merely means caution, caution. I mean, well, it means stop actually. So let's think of the stop light. There's the green light, the yellow light and the red light. So the green light means progress forward. The yellow light means caution and the red light means stop. In other words, what makes you stop? What stops you in your tracks? And I want to invite you to do the following when something stops you in your tracks because it's not a deal breaker yet. It just simply means stop for a moment and maybe ask more questions. Let me repeat that, ask more questions. That's what a red flag is. It merely means, hmm, something seems off. Let me ask more questions. I'm gonna do that again. Something seems off. Let me ask more questions and I'm saying that with a little tongue in cheek here. But the point is, is a red flag is just means stop for a moment, pause. Now, I know a lot of you look at red flags like, oh, he tipped the waiter less than what you would have. So that might mean that they're cheap or something like that. I'm tired of rhetoric like that. That's the nitpicky kind of red flags. I wanna lean into the deeper emotional red flags you should be paying attention to. And the following five that we're about to share today are probably, if not absolutely, probably, probably, if not absolutely, the most important things you should be paying attention for right from the very get-go, right from the very first telephone call, the first phone call, the first date or the first few dates, because guess what? I've interviewed hundreds of women after a breakup and they all said the same thing. I knew something was off on the first, second, third, fourth, fifth date but I went against my better judgment. So here today, folks, I don't want you to go against your better judgment. I want you to lean into being more rational, being more intentional in this process of dating, mating or relating so you don't find yourself on the other end of feeling hurt or disappointed later on down the road. I'm gonna repeat that, getting hurt or disappointed later on down the road. So I'm gonna put on my trusty glasses and we're gonna lean into the five ways to spot red flags in a guy who's not ready. All right, number one, this is the guy who says he's not ready for a relationship. I mean, it blows me away. How many men and women will actually date one another and women do this, everything I'm about to share today, women do the exact same thing. So this isn't singular to men. I know you guys are interested in men so I'm leaning, my audience is women and let me just say women do the same thing. When someone says they're not ready for a serious relationship or they're not ready for a relationship, you should believe them. I don't know, I mean, really you, well, okay, so we just said red flags means ask more questions. So let's lean into this for a second. Let's lean into this for a second. So what do you mean you're not ready for a relationship? What does that, then why are you on a dating app? Well, I just wanna have fun. It's all about having fun.  You know what, you're getting way too serious. Let's just focus on having fun and getting to know one another. Folks, by the time you start to get attached to another human being, it's very, as soon as you get hooked, it's very difficult to detach from someone when you've only been focusing on having fun. And I can tell you, most dating coaches will encourage you not to actually ask better questions on the first phone call, the first date or the second date because it should all be about having fun. My philosophy is quite a bit different. My philosophy is interrogate the motherfucker. In other words, you should be interrogating each other. Now, I say it with a little tongue in cheek. What I mean to say though, is it's all, dating isn't a numbers game. I know a lot of male coaches try to encourage women to understand that dating is a numbers game. And you should just be talking, you know, you should spend about 15 to 30 minutes a day on the dating apps, communicating with men, scheduling one date a week so you can have 52 dates in a month, in a year.  It's not a numbers game. Dating is a prospecting game, prospecting, just like the old prospect minors. And what I mean to say is wouldn't you rather narrow it down from 52 men, 52, to narrow it down to two potential partners? Wouldn't that have more value to you to be able to learn how to ask better questions? Well, the first one right off the bat centers around if they're not looking for a serious relationship then dig a little bit deeper because ladies, I know many of you're going, well, you know what, I'm not looking for anything serious too. And then guess what happens? You get attached, you get attached, and then all of a sudden he's like saying, hey, look, I laid my cards right on the table. I wasn't looking for anything serious. That's on you and not on them. So I'm here to suggest going forward, ask better questions. And if you need some help with that, check out the link in the description to a free discovery call with me. My area of expertise is teaching you how to ask better questions in the early stages of dating, mating, or relating so you can determine emotional maturity and to determine if you're genuinely compatible with one another by asking specific questions based on your personality. So again, check out the link below. Number two, what did I write down here? Oh, these days I'm noticing a propensity from both men and women to treat human beings as disposable, as disposable. And the best way, the red flag of someone treating you disposable is that their actions don't match their words. Their actions don't match their words. So let's start with the dating app. As an example, you've clearly stated in your profile that you're seeking a fully committed relationship. But in the dating process, you take days to return text messages or they take days to return the text message or they say they're gonna call you and they don't call you.  And sadly, especially in the dating realm, men and women alike are treating each other as disposable. And so I'm here to say your actions should match your words. In fact, if you're not familiar with the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the agreements is be impeccable with your word. And that starts from the very first communication because let me tell you something. I'm on the dating sites. I can't, I would say roughly 70 to 80% of the women that reach out to me, write me, are absolutely flaky in communication. Now they might have reasons why they're flaky with communication. They're busy, they've got stuff going on in their life. I get that, but guess what? What does that say about a human being when you're flaky with communication? Now again, there's always the exception to the rule. I'm here to say the actions consistently match the words, whether it's a man or woman, because when we begin to treat people as disposable, quite frankly, we're very ambivalent. And that's a huge red flag that someone isn't ready for a serious, fully committed relationship. Okay, number three. No, he lives in victim consciousness. He lives in victim consciousness. Oh my God, many women are doing this. They're suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness. And the best way to determine this is to simply ask questions about their mostly divorce. By the way, in my demographic midlife, roughly 75% of people over 45 years old are divorced. And there's the never married and the widowers in that group. But roughly 75% of people are divorced. Best way to determine victim consciousness is people that bag on their ex-spouse and they blame their ex-spouse for the problems in their relationship. I can't tell you how many... I'm seeing this from the male perspective and I hear this from my clientele. How many men take no ownership in the ending of their relationship? And let me just say this, this is equally true for women. Equally true for women. So many of you are the victim of whatever happened in your past relationship.  Nobody else is in charge of your destiny. So one of the big red flags to pay attention are men who throw their past relationship under the bus. Now you might be saying, well, Jonathan, what happened in your marriage? I'm gonna tell you. You know what? I got married too young. What I mean by too young is I didn't know who I was. I was very selfish in my marriage. I was very myopic in my marriage. I was following programming. I also, a woman I married didn't have chemistry for me. I learned that after we went through a divorce. She admitted that in therapy. So she has a part to play in the ending of our relationship and I have a part to play in the end of our relationship. That is a grown-up way to view life. Are we viewing it from victor consciousness or victim consciousness? And sadly, men and women alike are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness here in the United States, particularly. So that's a great sign, red flag, stop, hold your horses, ask better questions. Now quite frankly, if someone doesn't take, if they take zero ownership in the ending of their relationship, man or woman, I wouldn't invest in them. That's my belief system. Here's the thing. If you're not familiar with my emotional maturity relationship skills chart, okay? By the way, this is, if you can see on the bottom, this is not a fact. This is an opinion, these numbers. I believe 20% of the population here in the United States have clinical issues, clinical issues that make them absolutely unfit to be in relationship. Then there's the 20% that are emotionally healthy. They have good relationship skills. Most everybody else is in the dysfunctional range, the dysfunctional range. This is why many of you are struggling because everybody thinks they're in the healthy category when they're most likely in the dysfunctional clinical category. And I can tell you, I know how many of you have dated narcissists out there. And by the way, statistically speaking, men are more narcissistic than women. Here's the thing, statistically speaking, women are more borderline personality than men. And let me just tell you something. There is just as many borderline personality people out there as there are narcissistic people out there. So the reason why men call women crazy, that's borderline behavior. And most people are unconscious or unaware that they actually have these clinical issues. So I'm here to say, we're all swimming in the same pool. This is why I'm a big proponent of asking better questions. And be careful of those who are in victim consciousness. Number four, he's experiencing chaos in his life. It's his work life, his ex-spouse, maybe his children, maybe his health. There's chaos going on in his life. The ground underneath him doesn't feel very solid. And for those people, it's very challenging to actually be in a relationship. That's a huge red flag when someone is going through chaos. Folks, I went through, I was a train wreck after my divorce. I kept wanting a relationship. I wasn't capable of a relationship. When someone, I was going through job issues. I was had a drug and alcohol problem back in the day. I mean, the list goes on and on. And like many men, I was going through the tunnel of midlife crisis. Back to midlife, you're gonna get the vast majority of men or women are going through some sort of midlife crisis. So here's the thing. The more chaos, the more the red flag. Low chaos might be yellow flag, big chaos, red flag, okay? Red flag. And lastly, and this is a big one. I see this with men and women alike. Their most recent relationship just ended. Their most recent relationship just ended. And they're actually still hung up on their acts. Listen, my most significant relationship ended four years ago. It took me a good year before I was no longer hung up on her. I was caught in that cycle of victim consciousness. I was caught up in the cycle. I loved her more than she loved me kind of stuff. And it took me a good year to let that go. This is why I'm not a big proponent of dating people that are just going through a divorce or just ended a significant relationship if they haven't taken a good year off for themselves.  So I've been dealing with a lot of chaos. The ground underneath me wasn't solid to be in a relationship. But I'm gonna tell you that first year after our breakup, I was still hung up on her. And a lot of you women do this and a lot of men do this. So just recognize that it takes time to unravel the tapestry of an old life before you're ready for a new life. And if someone is still hung up on their ex, stop, ask questions, but here's the problem on this one. They can all say, I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready. You know what? Don't roll the dice. Tell them to come back a year or two later after they've had a transition girlfriend because what you don't wanna be is the transition relationship when someone is still hung up on their past relationship. And you know this because they're always talking about their past relationship. That is the biggest red flag of all. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know by hitting that like button. All right, we're gonna take questions for a little bit now. So for those who are listening to the live stream here on YouTube, there's a chat box in the corner. You can post a question by writing the word question and posting the question there after or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. There's a little dollar sign there. The funds from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. There he is right there. Oh, I went, a little pause for a moment. The monies from that fund helps to fray the cost of personal development for those seeking personal development help. All right, time to jump in to our questions. So let me go to the Q&A board. All right, let's see what we have here. And it just occurred to me that I didn't, I shot a video for Sunday and it happened to be Halloween. I forgot to dress up. I can't believe that. So it was just occurring to me because people are posting questions. Also check out this cute mug I got from one of you guys, the Scooby Dooby Doo. I don't know if you know, but I've had a Scooby Doo voice lately. And look at this cute mug that was mailed to me by one of you sweet folks. So thank you so much. I wanna thank Julia for the Super Sticker right now. Thank you so much. That's very sweet of you. I appreciate that. Vivian says you're looking good tonight, Jonathan. Thank you. I appreciate that. All right, let's scroll and see if there are any questions. Sherry says no transition relationships, please. Amen. Or Leif says amen. Let's see if we have any questions. Post the word question and write the question there after so it's easier for me to find. Okay, here we go. Stephanie writes, question.  What about FB for satisfying my sex life? I love dating and I want marriage, but I'm not ready now. I believe FB meaning friends with benefits. So folks, listen, I'm not object to anyone having a friend with benefits. I've had over the years friends with benefits and what that simply means is there's been women in my life that we are friendly to each other. We occasionally get together for some camaraderie which includes intercourse and then we move on. No strings attached, basically what that means. And we're very upfront with one another and I'm okay with that for myself and I'm not judging anyone who chooses that in their life. That's sometimes a transition relationship in it of itself. So if that's something you choose to do, that's totally cool. You just have to be aware of the consequences when you might get attached to someone. And if you're not familiar with the book attached by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, you might wanna read this book because there could be a propensity to get attached to someone else in an unhealthy way and then you find yourself having regret later on down the road. So again, no judgment here. Do what feels right for you. Listen, this is your journey. This is your journey. You gotta decide how to, you get to do it however you want. Every single day is a reset button. One day you could feel one way and the next day you can feel another way and that's absolutely okay. That's why it's called life. It's a journey and not a destination. So I invite you to explore it the way you choose to. So, Stephanie, thank you so much for that question. All right, if you have a question, oh, here we go. Question, Diane says, question, I've been divorced for three and a half years. Why is my ex hateful to me? Does this mean I'm not ready? You know, this is a great question. And many, as I said back before, emotional maturity relationship skills. Roughly 80% of the population is either clinical or dysfunctional in their relationship skills. And when someone's feelings get hurt, most humans do not have the tools, the tools in their tool chest to actually navigate their negative patterns and limiting beliefs in their life. This is one of the reasons why I continually recommend every one of you to purchase the book, The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process, or go to The Hoffman Process up in Napa, California, or I believe in Connecticut, and I think it's all around the world. This is a book to help heal childhood wounds and traumas, childhood wounds and traumas that cause negative patterns and limiting beliefs in one life. And one of the fundamental things that happen at the process is a letting go of past hurts and past pains. There are so many exercises to work and healing on that. So in the case of your ex-partner, most likely this person is very dysfunctional in their emotional maturity. I don't mean maturity, I mean emotional maturity, and they don't have the skills to overcome the hurt and pain that they're experiencing. So that's my belief in that particular case and my suggestion, everybody read the book, The Hoffman Process. Great question there, thank you so much. All right, Linda writes, question, how do you know when a newly divorced man is ready to date without it being a rebound relationship? So I'm gonna tell the story. I went through a divorce myself and started the divorce process in 2005. It took two years for the divorce to finish. I remember five months into my dating life, I met a woman online and she asked me how long you've been divorced. I said, I've been separated for five months. She says, reach out back to me in 18 to 24 months after you've had one to two transition relationships. I said, no, no, I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready. She goes, no, you're not. Sure enough, two years later, I saw her back online and I wrote her. I said, oh my God, you were so right. I wasn't ready for a relationship back then and sure enough, I had two transition relationships in that process. What I mean by transition relationships, these were very short lived relationships. And I realized in both of them, I wasn't ready for a relationship. It takes a good two years to unravel the tapestry of an old life, a minimum of two years, in some cases, five to 10 years to unravel. Now, here's the thing, I know a lot of men, they go through a divorce and they marry the first person they meet. This is why, because there's significant amount of men and women that have what's called as codependent problems. And there's a book called Codependent No More. People with codependency issues attach themselves to the first person they meet right after they are going through a breakup or a divorce. And then they repeat the pattern because they haven't healed what caused their divorce, they repeat that pattern over and over again. What's the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. And this is one of the reasons why we see this pattern. I believe it takes a good two years at a minimum after a divorce to actually be ready for another significant relationship. And this is provided going back to our list of red flags.  That's how you know they're not ready. Ask better questions right from the get go. And if you need some help with that, check out the link in the description for a discovery call with me. All right, thank you for your question, Linda, I really appreciate it, big hugs to you. Deborah writes, question, what if the red flag starts showing up after a couple of years, like always being busy, always work related? Those red flags, okay, that's a great question. So those red flags are typically because somebody is falling out of love with their partner or their partner and them have not co-created a relationship. I'll repeat that their partner and them have not co-created a relationship. This is why I invite everybody to read Gary Zukoff's book, Spiritual Partnership. Folks, if you're not learning how to co-create a relationship from the very, by the time the penis gets to go inside the vagina, that's the time to start co-creating a relationship. That means understanding the fundamentals of a relationship. And if you don't know the fundamentals, I highly recommend ordering the book, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. So you can learn the fundamentals, the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. Most of you are operating like this. Let's just have a good time. It's all about having a good time. You know what, let's just have a good time. And then after the good time starts to fade, you're left with a dysfunctional relationship. Folks, if you're not familiar with my relationship iceberg, let me put this up. Look at the top of the iceberg is chemistry, chemistry. That's attraction. Below the iceberg is shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. If you're not co-creating a relationship, you are missing the most important part about being in a successful relationship. This is why you should be reading this book, How to Make Love All the Time by Barbara DeAngeles. Begin these things right from the very, by the time the penis gets to go inside the vagina, start co-creating a relationship.   Sitting back in your feminine energy and expecting men to lead is chaos or excuse me, it's insanity. Why? Because most men are winging it. They're winging it. They're winging it. They have no clue. Folks, you are in charge of your relationship destiny, not the guy. So start taking ownership of your life. I yell because I'm passionate.  This is why I wrote my book, What the Heck is Self Love? Anyway, look, there's a picture of it right there. Check out the link below to all the books I recommend. This is your wake up call, folks. Get busy living or get busy dying. Shawshank Redemption. All right, you know what? We're gonna wrap up pretty soon. So I'm gonna leave the last few minutes of this live stream. You can ask me any personal questions right now. So in the chat box, you can either purchase a Super Sticker, by the way, if I provided value, please purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat that tells me I'm providing value for you guys. You're getting something out of this. Also, if you wanna ask a personal question, put down the letters P-D, P-Q, personal question, P-Q, and then write a personal question to me. So I'm gonna save the last few minutes for anything personal you have to ask of me. By the way, if you're not familiar with my private group called Midlife Love Mastery, there's a link below there. This is a group where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis. And the questions you ask in the group, I shoot personalized videos just for you. So, Melanie says, got your book and liked it. Got your book and liked it. Oh, thank you, Melanie. I appreciate that. Vivian says, did you carve your pumpkin? No, I did not. I wanted to do it with somebody, but I didn't do that. Leap says, thank you so much. Thank you very much. I appreciate that. Again, if you have a personal question of me. Sadie earlier said, I look like Tony Hadley of Spandau Ballet. So true, funny how it seems always in time, never in line for dreams. Hey, there's Sadie. She just asked a question. All right, PQ, personal question. What would you think less of a woman who slept with you on a first date? When I think less of a woman, she slept with me on a first date. The answer is absolutely not. In fact, even to this day, one of the best relationships I ever had with a woman was when we had sex on the first date. In fact, it was a three day date. I was at her home for three days.  I do, however, think less of a woman who leads with sexuality, who leads with what we call low hanging fruit energy. So these are the women that you see on dating profiles. They're oftentimes showing off their breasts. They're very seductive. They're showing lingerie. This to me means that they're trying to sell their body and not their heart.  Now, let me tell you something. We men are territorial. So we might for a moment think, well, how many other men has she slept with on a first date? The reality is, as we get to midlife, it's a whole different ball game. And quite frankly, young people these days, they're very free in their sexuality. So I wouldn't get too hung up on that. And I can only speak from my personal experience. I would not judge a woman. However, I am not attracted to the low hanging fruit women who lead with sexuality versus leading with their intellect or their heart. So Sadie, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. Scooby-dooby-doo, Jean says. And I want to thank Sherry for the super sticker. Thank you so much. Sherry also writes, personal question, what do you consider a good idea for a first date? Getting late. That's a good idea to me. I'm a guy. Folks, I'm a red-blooded guy. I'm driven by my testosterone. I'm driven by my libido. Now with that said, these days I don't lead with sex anymore. My libido has now been replaced with a lot of estrogen. So I'm now more in touch with my feelings than ever before. So to that extent, I'm not leading with sex. Now with that said, what do I think your first great date? Let me tell you a quick story. I was at a woman's workshop. This is three or four years ago. Three years ago, four years ago. And I was sitting with a group of eight women. Seven women. I was the only guy in the table. And I did an exercise with one of the women. It was some personal development exercise. And I was just hitting it off with her. I couldn't believe how our communication and our synergy was just aligned with one another. I mean, it was almost like kismet.  You know, I didn't mean it from a romantic sense. I just liked her as a person. To me, a great first date is energetic connection, energetic connection. And yet sadly, I'm gonna tell you, most women I go out with are emotionally blocked. They're dealing with traumas. They're dealing with their issues. They have walls up, they're guarded or they're playing hard to get. And I'm here to say, I have no patience for those women who I just don't have the capacity to hold enough space for you. If you're playing hard to get, this homie don't play that. Scooby dooby doo, don't Scooby doesn't do that. Scooby don't do that.  If you have walls up, unattractive to me, I show up vulnerable, authentic and transparent. I'm looking for someone who's capable of being vulnerable, authentic and transparent without compromising their sovereignty, without compromising their self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, coming back to the self-love book. So for me, great first date, energetic connection. That would be a great first date for me. Now as far as activities for a great first date, look, it could be coffee, it could be drinks, it could be dinner, it could be Disneyland for all I care. It doesn't matter where, what matters most is energetic connection for me anyway. All right, thank you for that question. Oh, and speaking of this, Jennifer says, I need, or Jennifer says, I need deep conversations. I keep meeting men who can't go deep surface questions. I do have a meme I wanna show everybody. Folks, I hate, Google this.  I wanna talk about atoms, death, alien, sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, far away galaxies, music that make you feel different, memories, the lies you've told, your flaws, your favorite scent, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears. I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't wanna know, what's up? These days, most people are saying, how's your day going? Did you have a good day? Hope you had a good day. Did you have a really good day? Wishing you a really good day. Wishing you a blessed day.  I mean, the capacity to not go beyond the surface by first stating someone's name, giving them a compliment, asking them a curious question and give some emoji, some energy if it's done through text. All right, any more questions?  I'm always in a mood. Thank you so much. Jennifer says, I love that meme. Thank you. Personal question from Jen. For what reasons do you usually screen out women before going on a first date? Okay, couple of things. Turn the thing. If we're misaligned in our political point of views, that's probably something I'm gonna be cautious about. If we're misaligned in our spirituality, that's something I'm gonna be caution about. If a woman, I'm an empty nester and I'm seeking an empty nester, so I'm seeking someone who has no children or is not currently raising children. So that's most likely going to be, I don't like to say a deal breaker, but I'm just in a place now. Folks, I lost a child. I'm just right now, my heart isn't in the idea of raising someone else's children. So that's just kind of where I'm at in my life right now. What else, deal breakers? I like someone who likes to socially drink, so if they're not a drinker, that's not a deal breaker, but that's close to one. I like to do spiritual journeys using cannabis, plant-based medicine, spiritual journeys. I'd like someone who would do that as well. It's not a deal breaker, but that's a preference I have. What else? Someone who's not still just separated. I mean, these are just some of the things I look for on a dating profile, plus I have to be physically attracted to them. Look, nine out of 10, or probably 99 out of 100 people, you swipe on an app, you're not physically attracted to, they could be really great people, but that's just not what you're attracted to. And we meant, listen, I need to be able to get a hard on so I have to be attracted to someone to get the equipment up, or otherwise the equipment looks like this. So I feel like they have to be attracted as well. Doesn't look it. I'm not looking as much as I'm in love with Kate Beckinsdale. I mean, I just want someone, I'm attracted to her, she's attracted to me. So, great question, thank you so much. Other says, you're the only man I have heard. Well, thank you. Barbara says, spot on, Jonathan, thank you. Amen to deep conversations, thank you. All right, if you have a personal question. Oh, Diane says, how do you find dates? Folks, here's the bottom line. Listen, I live in a condo complex that has hundreds and hundreds of units. The perfect woman might be right at the balcony across from me and I don't know she exists, number one. Or she lives in the complex next to the one complex I have. The reality is, is roughly about 50% of all new relationships are happening with an online connection. And quite frankly, that number is gonna be 80% in the next few years. The reality is, is organic meeting is becoming increasingly hard. So, online dating happens to be the place I connect with people. Look, it's just the spoke and the wheel, but I work from home, I mean, unless a female burglar comes in and says, I wanna rob your TV and I go, wow, you're cute, you wanna go on a date? It's not like they're walk, listen, and I know all of you are like, well, Jonathan, you have all these women on YouTube.  I don't know who you are. If you wanna send photos and your profile to me, maybe my soulmate is out there and all you have to do is send it to me, but you gotta send your photos and I've gotta know a little bit about you and vice versa, although you get to see me physically through my video. So that's just to answer your question. That's where I meet people. Thank you so much. All right, Sherry says, Jonathan, you're amazing, Jonathan. Thank you for being so transparent, direct, so very refreshing and helpful. I need my Jonathan video fix. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. All right. G-Wart says, I love those plant-based goodies. Oh, wait, anyone else? Anyone into these? Caminos, these are called gummies. Oh, actually, these are a different gummies. I put it in my Camino jar. So anyway, Jennifer says, physical attraction is a definite, exactly. Me says, online dating, online meeting, bilch. Hey, if you find a better way to meet, knock yourself out. It just happens to be where most people meeting are today. All right, Alicia says, happy Friday. Teresa says, would you date long distance? So here's my feeling on long distance. I recognize it takes about a hundred hours of face-to-face time just to build stage one of trust. So unless we were physically intensely attracted to each other prior to meeting, and we did a lot of vetting of each other ahead of time, and I knew that their lifestyle would eventually be able to fit into my lifestyle because I don't plan on moving, I'm not gonna invest in long distance. And sadly, here in Los Angeles, 10 miles is a long distance relationship. So, and I live in a city that there's 10 million people. So I'm hoping that she lives nearby instead of around the other end of the country. I would not dismiss it, but I'm gonna tell you some, it's gonna have to be some amazing off the charts alignment and attraction before I'd even consider it. At least that's my way I view it. All right, let's see. Question, what if the guy is too ready too fast?  This is why there's an old saying, men are the gas, women are the brakes. You have to decide what that means for you. I can't tell you what that means.  So that's my thoughts on that anyway. You know what folks, I think this would be a great place to wrap up. Lilian says, Ellie says, Jonathan, I think you're great. I love your honesty in your videos. They have really helped me to understand men too. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. Jennifer says chasing sex. Yes, that's what happens when people go too fast. Elaine says, happy Halloween.  Maybe that's what I should wear. Me says long distance, never again. G. Wortman says, find me on match in Florida. My name is Jonathan, find me in match as well, because that's where I am. All right folks, before we wrap up, if you would order a super stick or super chat, I'd love to help that Connor Asley Scholarship Fund. And we're gonna wrap up today just as a reminder, the five ways to spot guys who are not ready, the five red flags. Number one, he says he's not ready. Number two, he treats people as disposable. In other words, his actions don't match his words. Number three, he lives in victim consciousness. Number four, he's experiencing chaos in his life. And number five, he has most recent relationship just ended and he's still hung up on his acts. Those are five huge red flags to pay attention for before you invest your heart in someone who might not be ready. Folks, I wanna thank you all for the love and support on my channel. If you do agree with what I share, please hit that like button. Please share this video with your friends. I would be so grateful. It's Friday night.  And I wanna wish you a super duper wonderful weekend. And I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off, giving myself a big gigantic, Jonathan Barrett of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear, a pillow and give Iter them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye-bye now. Bye. Bye, Cece. Bye, Ether. Bye, Barbara. Bye, Kelly. Bye, Queen. Bye, Ellie. Thank you so much.