New tour date alert. All right, the official first show of the Return of the Ghetto Legends Tour. It's gonna be, you ready for this? You ready for this? In making. That's July 17th, okay? July 17th, making at the Coliseum. Go to the website right now for more information. The opposition, the opposition. Somebody did the opposition. Oh, my goodness. Give him. You see where that was going? I do. You see where that was going? I was with it. You was with it? I'll give you one. Yeah. I'll give you one a little now. I know you. I know you like that.  I do. If you can spit, I'm with it. Me, you know what? There you go. That's the one. You know what I mean? You wanna hear something on that? Yeah. You know what I mean?  You know, I'm like this. With a woman of my stature? You don't wanna come romantic, motherfucking black? This is your boy? Black King Lee? That's not your history. No, I really like the gangsta shit, but I would like to hear what you can do. I'd be like, hey, excuse me, Miss Lady. Don't mean to be shady, but would you like to get some lemonade? My name is Lose, and I came from Mississippi. Don't you worry about the money, my girl, because I'm plenty paid. She said, what you do? I said, I'm independent. I do whatever I want. I just, what I spend it. She said, what? I said, huh? She said, what? I said, watch what I do. I said, I'm independent, like I said, and I started coming off the top of the head, and then I understood that she didn't really understand, because she had never came across a man like me, the kind that you see on TV, the kind of ones that the college boys want to be, like a magnificence, so outstanding. She never met a man that was so demanded in my presence. She liked my essence. She liked everything that I was displaying, but I wasn't playing.  And then I took her to my house, because I own that mix. Yeah, and that's a real life flex. But then she didn't even know what had coming next. We might just have breakfast or maybe brunch, or maybe just pack it up and go somewhere where they be drinking Hawaiian punch for breakfast.  Hey, that's just the show I could, because I know she never been outside her neighbor. And if I'm going to treat her right, you know what, I got to treat her good. So you start to get it, yeah.  Change her life right in one verse, you know? Yes, King, yes, King, yes, King. I know that place where they drink Hawaiian punch for breakfast, they put it in the orange juice. I know a spot like that too.  Don't tell nobody. All right. First of all, before we even get into anything, welcome to the trap. Welcome to the trap. Welcome to the trap. Right, now look, let me stop the music right quick, because it's only right that we give you your proper introduction, you know, for the people who may not know. Because not only do we have a true legend sitting in the trap with us today, we have an actress. Come on. We have a writer. We have a creative mind. Come on. We have someone who's been 10 toes down in the comedy game since before there was a comedy game. You feel me? Traveled all around the world. Was in the number one movie in America multiple times. Come on. You feel me? Ladies and gentlemen, without further ado, Miss Lou. I've had the pleasure of working with you throughout the years, and I know you've never claimed no title of a queen of comedy, but you are the definition of a queen of comedy. I don't disagree with that. I'm just saying that I never, you know, I never put that title on myself at all. Well, we see you as that. I thank you, good. Yeah, yeah. Good, good. So welcome to the trap, like I said. Thank you. It's not the first trap I've been in. Hey! We appreciate it, and just know that, man, we have so much respect for what you do and what you have done. And, you know, giving us a blueprint to follow in this comedy game. Yeah. It's crazy, and I want to take this time to actually bow down and say that in the beginning, when the Instagram phenomenon, comic actor phenomenon started, and when people started to get really hot off of Instagram and making money and getting popular and selling out and, like, going fast after people who had put in the work, I fell some type of way.       Go see her.  But then I had to bow down because the amount of time that it takes to create your content, it's a real motherfucking job. Right.   You got to. You got to. Once you saw they weren't going nowhere. Right. Yeah. Yeah. I just had an issue with the word comic and the Instagram thing. I felt more like you guys were more actors, literally, and could go into phenomenal acting career. So some of y'all, you know, you got to admit, y'all motherfucking create content, but then an hour on stage sometime is a snore for some of y'all motherfuckers. And that's just what it is. That's the game. But the acting motherfucking game, the writing game, the producing game, that's where y'all come in. And that's what you're doing right now. Exactly. Yeah. Strong J. Strong J, Strong J.   No, we want to hear from the people we want to hear from. Exactly. Glad you were here. Yeah. Thank you. So tell us, like, where your comedy journey start? How did you get introduced to the stage and the microphone and things like that? Well, do you want the short version or do you want the real version? We got that. You got time today? We want the real. You got time today. We in the trap.  We got wine. OK, well, the short long version is I was living in Long Beach in a really nice apartment with a girl from the mind who was my roommate who was a hug. Oh, OK. I was like, this story went. A real professional. Right. Right. OK. She was a professional call girl. She was British and she was black. And she sounded like Shadei and looked like Shadei, but taller and thicker. She had all the. She had, you know, she had the accent and she could usually, you know, just talk to the person, the guy that would come up into the gentlemen's, you know, and want to keep talking with her. You know, she had that.  So she's very popular. So she met this guy who was a comic.  But then. He must have been doing all right. Because when I started. He was a no. He was a stabbing.  Right. Right. Who was this guy? I'll tell you all, Kevin. But he was doing well. He was buying pussy from her. But then they started dating on the Pharrell. And he would be at the crib.   He said, I do a comedy night at this club called Miss Wiz in Long Beach, which you have to be in triple OG to know about Miss Wiz.  But that was back in the day. He said, I do a comedy night in Miss Wiz and here in Long Beach.  And I said, I don't want to be no motherfucking comedian. I want to sing background for Luther. I used to do a lot of drugs back in the day. No. That's what I thought I could do, whatever. Oh, did you say? Yeah, I could sing a lot of motherfucking. OK, OK, OK. So it was on basis for me. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I could have done it, whatever. Anyway, so, but, and I've never been a joke teller. But I do, you know, I listen to Cosby and to Red Fox and to, you know, flip wheels and stuff like that. And so I was I'm more of a storyteller. I don't really tell jokes. And those are the people that I listen to and that I sell. And I didn't have no comedy material to go down to this club. But I did know a couple of things that had happened to me that I thought was funny. I said, well, one night we were sitting on the patio drinking margaritas and being a couple of girls. And I said, let's go down to this motherfucking club and see what this motherfucking talking about. He's talking about he's going to put me up the minute I walk in. I'm going to call this club. Let's go. So we went down there and I walk in. He's like, you next.   First time I ever took to the stage. And when I got off stage, this guy came up to me.  I was like, thank you. And he said, I got a room over in the Merrick Park.  He gave me his card. And so the first night that I ever did stand up comedy, I met the late great Robin Harris. That was Robin Harris. And I felt like he was passing a baton to me, literally, because I got approval like that the first I ever did it. So I went to comedy act theater, which was another popular place off Crenshaw back in the day. And everybody was in there just starting out struggling the DLs, the Jamie's, Bill Bellamy's, everybody was in there. And I met DL and this guy started booking us together.  And then all of a sudden, Comic View came along. It was Comic View versus Def Jam at that time. You could do both or you could do one or the other.    But anybody knows that if you can do dirty, you can do clean. Stupid.  We could all be booked for the next church convention. T.D. Jakes. Jakes? Hey, holla at us. And watch what we do. That's the beautiful part about being a comedian. And they didn't forget that part. No, being a professional comedian, that's the difference. I think they only do that with us, though. Black people. I know for a fact that they do. Yeah.  And then the next thing, they'll be on a children's show. Exactly.  Have you ever been to a white comedy club and sat in the back and listened to white comedians, what they say? Yeah.  What?  OK, I asked a minute. You got to all say, bitch, you did all this in here, didn't you?   That's the difference. There you go. They want to shock you and say something racist, and we got to come every time. They ain't trying to shock nobody. They be sincere. That's what's shocking. That's what's shocking. Yeah.  They did. So what is this, a Ouija boy?  No, this is a rolling train. I'm trying to figure it out, too. Oh, I'm like, are you doing cast and spells up in this motherfucker? It's a rolling train. That you do look a little conjuring. I'm like, huh? I'm like, what are we doing? What's going on?  I don't smoke blunts. Do you want to know why? Yeah. Because I just do not understand why you would taint wonderful, amazing marijuana with a nicotine-infested tobacco leaf. You don't know if you're getting hot off the tobacco or off the weed.  The tobacco is the devil. I know it's the weed getting me hot.  Because I just smoked a regular Cigarillo, and it ain't even got there. I was desperate.  Well, whatever it is, it's a beautiful combination. Yeah. I don't like them.  I'm a little joint girl. Yeah. Me and a joint girl. Joint. I'm a little joint. He make any bud. What a reefer that. Anybody got the reefer? I never said reefer. Really? No, I'm not that motherfucking square girl. Reefer. Hey, you guys smoking reevers. What is the reefer? What if you could just find a bag of reefer, like an authentic bag? It probably ain't no more reefer left in here. Now, do you know how far weed has come? Yeah, that's what I'm saying. All the reefer's gotta go.  It was three fingers deep. That was how you measure an ounce of weed back in the day. They also didn't have the buds like they do now.  Then they had this other weed called tie stick that tasted like motherfucking candy.  And then they came out with the sesame, which was the weed without the seeds. They're boneless. Yeah, boneless, that's your boneless. So I done been through all of it. It's just all great to me.  Like don't try to smoke trash weed. I'm from Arkansas and every time I go back to my family reunion, I have to bring my own weed. You do. Because the weed is trash. You have to. Trash. You used to a certain caliber. I'm just saying, I'm not trying to be bougie, but I am about my weed. That's the one thing you're allowed to be bougie about. Thank you. Yeah. Yeah, I don't play about that. Like that's dumb. I miss what's smoked grass. Miss what's smoked hay.    The tie stick that's like chocolate tie.  La, la, la, la. Mm. Tie stick. Who remembers tie stick in the building? Yeah. Yes. Well, look, you ain't one of my favorite movies of all time. What is that?  All right. Yes. The gift to keep some kidding.  It's really inappropriate, isn't it? That's why I was laughing so hard. I went back and tried to watch it. I'm in the motherfucking. I went back and tried to watch it about a month ago. I couldn't get 10 minutes in. I was like, oh my god, I can't, I can't, I can't.   So how did that come about? Regular way. I had an audition. I had an agent. Bill, wasn't it like Starwell? I had an agent named Starwell. And Starwell got me this audition. And they wanted somebody to play a hoe, what? I'm like, what? I'm like, I don't know, I can do it. That's a good look saying. Any time you come into something with some hoes, it's going to work. Well, I played a hoe many times, honey. And you lived with one. Exactly. And I lived with one. So I'm telling you, that's like your. Hoes are my friend. They're your good luck charm, man.  Let it be known. We haven't talked about hoes when we get a chance to. I'm going to talk about hoes after I talk about boy.  I like the line of the ball already. Welcome back to 85th Salvation.  And she putting herself on game right now. Hell yeah. Let's get back to it. Why don't play that music to play me in? Play some, play. You heard what she said. Play her some pimping. She want to hear some pimping.  Well, we're going to put this online. They're going to try to. So you? Can't use other people's music. But you? I started in Long Beach. OK. Come back to Oakland. Oh, you went back? OK. You came back to LA to move back to Oakland. You came back to LA. Move back to Oakland, came back to LA and stay. OK. That's what's up. It didn't take the first until the third time to move back. You know, you know how we make it at the gate. You know? As long as you can stay in the back and regroup. You're lucky if you can't go back to your hometown or to your people and regroup. Right. You know? Where's my motherfucking joint? I thought they had one.  I done sat here and said that I would like. See that? See that? You see that? See that? See that? Hold on, wait a minute. This the end. That's the filter at the end. Hit it on this end. Hit it on that end. OK, guys. Come on. We got you. So, Starwell got you to audition. Starwell got me to audition. They wanted somebody who could improvise and tell, like, some, like, whole stories. They didn't want to write nothing. They wanted somebody who could improvise. I didn't even have a car. My home girl, Bill Eman. Eman gave me a ride to the audition. And I went in this room. OK, excuse me, everybody. Just a moment. That's how you light a lady's joint.  Wait a minute. I heard that. You are ready for the real. Uh-uh. Yes, sir. I wasn't ready for the real. Call me off guard.  So anyway, so I went in this room. And there was this guy who looked like a mad scientist who turned out to be Larry Charles, who was the director. And there was Sasha Baron Cohen, who I had never seen in regular clothes, only as Ali G. But I didn't know that that was Ali G. OK. You know? So then they had to bring it back to life real quick, baby. You know what you mean? Succitation.  So I went into the room. And the dude who was the director, I did not know who he was.    And then at some point, I took Sasha's hand. Just before COVID, I took Sasha's hand. I took his finger, and I sucked it, right? Now, I don't know if they had anything to do with me getting apart. But I got the part.  And I was sitting on Crenshaw in West 48. And then I get an email to say, your ticket has been booked to Bucharest, Romania for tomorrow morning. You know, be ready at 7 AM. The car's going to pick you up. And I'm like, where? Like, what? Bucharest, Romania? Like, do I need a shot? What's the face going on? I don't know. And that's where we shot the Kazakhstanese scenes was in Romania.  You know, what should I do this at? Thank you, baby. So it was the next day. What? Well, they wanted you to fly out. They told you where you was going. Yeah, so I don't really remember much because I was so high. Yeah. But it was like $13. We had to fly to somewhere, then had to change somewhere and then go to Romania. Romania was not pretty. How long were you in Romania? About a week.  It wasn't like I was in Bucharest and stayed in the city. That's where our hotel was.   I was like, oh my god, is this like for real for real?   It was nominated for Academy Award. Yeah. That's dope. They should still be. You just dropped the second one. You should have brought your bag. Well, they were supposed to bring me back and then COVID hit. And then they had to finish the movie some kind of way. That paid me. But I didn't do the movie. That's the finesse right there. I'm fine. I'm fine. We love to hear those things. I'm fine that I didn't do the movie. Plus they lied because at the end of the first, the real first borat, he and I got married after he couldn't get Pamela Anderson. Right. And he and I got married. We had two little interracial kids at our feet at the bottom of the movie. When they came back with this new one, he didn't mention me at all. And he had a totally white girl daughter.  So I'm glad I didn't do the motherfucking second one. And I'm glad I get to check, too. You have to show up with the kids. Meow, meow. Sasha. And that's how we can get in there. We can show up as the grown kids. There we go. There we go. We in there. You know what? Somebody could do that and show up in Sasha and my children. I'm looking at two motherfuckers who could do that. You hear what I said? That they could do a sequel. They could do it where me and Sasha's kids grown. But we had a boy and a girl, I think. You could play the girl.  That's right. He left himself a car. That's what's up, baby. That's what's up. That was funny. Well, you know, you could, but it's OK. No. You've been killing it on the Vlad interviews, too.  I had to have a very interesting point of view to even continue to do, Vlad.    Vlad is not using me. I'm not using him. The motherfuckers got a platform just like y'all do. And if anybody wants to know what I got to say about anything, I'm like, I'm glad to tell you.  I did so many. I had to back off. I did so many even underground interviews during COVID with just regular motherfuckers.   He got a platform, so I'm down with it.  Because I'm a motherfucking G. That's why I'm talking about it. Of course. Of course I do, because I care. Yeah.  Let me ask you.   What type of advice would you give?    First of all, I wouldn't give them no goddamn advice because they don't want to hear nothing from me. They think they know every motherfucking thing. You feel me? You can't tell these motherfuckers nothing. If you could tell them something, they would be listening. They're not listening. They're all about the money. They have forgot about anything spiritual, anything cultural. Every now and then, if you have 10 rappers, maybe four of them are really conscious and want to do something for the community.  And they don't know nothing about real estate. They don't know nothing about stock. They got all white folks around them.     They do not love you. This is all a motherfucking game. It's all about numbers. And it's all about that paper. And the minute that you don't make a motherfucking paper, you will see how motherfucking loyal they are to you. They do not give a fucking. You need to remember that and know that at all, motherfucking time.    And that's all I got to say about that.    Yeah, yeah. In June, they were like, man, is she doing it? Is she doing it?  Yeah, yeah. They be forgetting that you a whole lingerie model too now. For Rihanna. Rihanna.   Yeah, that's, that's, you know, thank Rihanna for that. Yeah, so would it feel like to be a sixth somebody in these streets? But motherfucking just thirsty, first of all, because, you know, me, I'm just a chick. You know, I haven't done the plastic surgery and I haven't done all that. The whole appeal. Shit.  This is the ass, this is these titties, this is the lingerie, let's go.  If Rihanna says I can do it, then I can do it.  Thank god, damn, I can do it.   You can swipe left, click off, and be gone. And Rihanna pays the bag, so there's that.  She's got no lack of motherfuckers like that. I'm telling you, she don't know me.  It's ridiculous. It's ridiculous.  Who you trying to impress?  DJ, what's saying you? You better. He don't know a lot of words. You don't need to.  I've been trying to, you gonna be cool. Bro, don't fall, don't look directly at Luneal. I'm looking to her eyes. No, don't look directly at Luneal. Luneal, the flute is nigga. Bro, we got a show playing here. Yo, Bill, make him stop.  Make him stop, make him stop. Bill, make him stop, make him stop. Y'all tripping. Hell no. I see your Prince tattoo. Yes. Did it jump again? Yeah, you got it. Ah! I'm not gonna be wasting hurdles over there.  Yeah, this is Prince tattoo. You know why I got this? First of all, I always wanted to have one. Second of all, I wanted it on my microphone hand. Third of all, Prince had a band called The Revolution. I got this when we was going through the Joyce Floyd Revolution.  So that's why I got it, cause The Revolution. That's what's up. Right. How long you been wearing your nails like that? Well, since 1977. And I know that because that's when I got on a hunger school and my girlfriend was just, they were just starting to do nails and my girlfriend was one of the first people to ever start trying to do a vunette.  And so she used to practice on me. So I had nails. The only people I had ever seen with nails before me was Diana Ross, Cher, and Claudine White. And then there was me.  That seems like history. That's a little low job. Yeah, it's a little low job. But I'm older than her, so that's why. That's why. You said The Revolution, Joyce Floyd, last time I saw you, we was at the lab factory outside during the whole protest. It was a stuff, Luneo talk. He had hella white people listening. And she cussed this lady out because she was playing with them. Tell it, them little devil sticks, nigga.   When you talk about black people getting cute, yeah.      Like they had been doing. So this, I had, you know, first of all, me and Chaka Khan got together after Amar Abri's murder.  But so we had a rally.   So she was the one who said, let's do it. So we did that. So then after that, I wanted to be active, but I wanted to be where I would feel comfortable. I knew that I wasn't walking over down Hollywood Boulevard. This was before my knee surgery.  And I was like, I'm not gonna be somewhere where I don't feel comfortable.  I said, well, I feel like that's home. I can do it there.   And for the first time we felt listened to and we was there for that.     What are you scared of? Why you don't wanna get involved?  I don't get it. I don't get it. That's real. I was there. I had to be. Once I found out and then it was motherfucking after motherfucking like comedian, comedian, but everybody wanted a comedian. Some people would like activists in the community say real little, you know what I'm saying? We wanted to talk because we had never been listened to. We had all these motherfucking attention.  Like the black paint not on the side. When you drive your car. Sunset. Right. We was like, yeah, sit there motherfuckers and listen to nigga after nigga, after nigga, after nigga. Because, you know, low key, we were laughing too. Right.   And that's what I said to the girl. And then, so. You gonna literally talk to me like that?      She was trying to explain.  Yeah, yeah.    I get you.   That's what I had to explain it. So we took advantage of that opportunity to talk to white folks. And shout out to Jamie Masada for doing it. Hey, that was beautiful what y'all did for Paul Mooney out there too. Yeah, he's gonna have an official, we'll see. I'll be there this Wednesday. They're doing a thing for him in Hollywood. And we're gonna see who is there and who is not.  It's just supposed to be the official, you know, home-going goodbye for his entertainment friends and stuff like that. So that's gonna be Wednesday. And I will report later on my Instagram, at Lunel. At L-U-E-N-E-L-L.  That's what's up, man. She got coming up. Well, you know, we got our names on the front of the comedy story. I thought your name was already on the front of it. I know. Where was it at? And they needed me. Your name just now on there? Yes, mine, and so is Cedric's. And there's like a lot of us black comics whose names wasn't up there.  I used to write my name on there with white out. Oh. I did, but I don't have to no more because it's up there. And when they had the ceremony to let us know, I thought it was just gonna be in the front, didn't even want to take that plaque with our names on it, put it in the back. But our names were on the front, on the Sunset Boulevard side. Congratulations. Yeah. Yeah, that's right. You earned it. Put your time in. Especially if you're from that city and you've been putting it down in that city for a good amount of time. But listen, Hollywood don't give black folks the credit they deserve. Listen, listen to this. So when we may, I'm gonna tell you something. This is to the people who hated on coming to America.  And I'm gonna tell you why. Every day we were going to work with like John Amos and you know, Vanessa Bill Calloway, Garcelle Bouvet and Rick Ross and you know, people like this. Arsenio and Eddie. Number one.  She got to see that.    We was so happy and proud to be in that motherfucker.    You was not rain on my motherfucking parade about coming to America.  That's the fact.   America? America. The whole... Is that her name? No, the country.  These are things that we don't discuss. They've been sucked, though. I've been sucked recently.  I don't do that.  Okay, that's fine. I understand. You a gentleman. Exactly, because I want it sucked again. Ah-ha-ha-ha.   That's right.   You right, baby. You right. I'm gonna give you the...  Oh, my God. What are you... Y'all might... Y'all might have gotten there. It's okay to come out and the football plan...  What happened? The football plan just came out. No. No, I don't do my dog like that. Why do everybody... I don't want to say such a thing, but I don't want the people to come after me. No, no. It ain't the people, man. I know my dog. We done went and seen some hoes together.  It mean everything. I know Motherfucker with 10 kids.  Uh-uh, mm-mm. No. No.  That's my brother. Do you know where you are? I know where I'm at. That's my brother. No. Oh, no, I'm not. I don't mean you.  I'm saying... Don't do him like that. No, I didn't mean you. I don't think you... You would know who was sneaking off.  Niggas ain't never had no questions about a nigga.  I was bullshitting. I know.  I'm not gonna say nobody in here is, but you ain't. Look around. Look around, look around.  I said, down. I gotta do what? The COVID edition? And I would've loved to been in the theater. I didn't know you would do the live show.  Well, I want for free, but I'm...  I'll do the garage for free, but I want to... You're right. I want to do the theater for free, but I want to do it. I wouldn't call you for free. And you bet not. I know how you get down. Cash. I would cash you out. Ain't that a trip about... You wouldn't even have to count it. I just walk up to you and I'll zip your little pouch and you drop it in there. And then once you lift it up, you be like, that's it. I'll zip my little pouch. Your little pouch right there. My little pouch. Oh, you mean this? Yeah. I said you meant this. You meant the food. Yeah, I'm trying to hide it. She's got this little bag right here. Oh, my bag. Yeah, that little bag. That matches my tennis shoes. Oh, you stunted on me that time. I knew where I was coming. Yeah. I said, I can't go in there and get bullshitting. I'm going to represent for you guys. Everything, hidden like a motherfucker, too.  And he looking like the rich auntie. Got bracelets and brolaces and earrings and necklaces and she got a necklace and a chain.  But you dressed down for me? Nah, I'm just, I'm trapping right now. I dressed up for you. I'm trapping, too. This is my trap jewelry. Oh! This podcast is for you guys. Who got some trap jewelry?  Where your trap jewelry at? Nigga, man. My trap jewelry. I'm out here scruggling. Oh, okay. Where your trap jewelry at? It's at. It's a scrubber. That's a scrubber, man. Where your trap jewelry at? Right, where your trap jewelry at? Lil' Neck, give us some of your favorite rap songs of all time. Cause we was talking off camera.    I ain't no joke. I used to let the mic smoke by now slam it on the ground and make sure that it's broke. I love Heavy D, any Heavy D. That nigga was smooth. I love Heavy D. Rest in peace with Heavy D. Rest in peace, Heavy D. I'm very tribe called Quest. Oh, you like it real hip hop.   Come on. I fucks with Short, of course. If you wanna go to Short. Yeah, yeah, Ria, you know. I fucks with Hammer. Don't know how you don't hammer. Fucks with Hammer, my daughter dance with Hammer, don't know how you don't hammer. Don't know how you dance with Hammer. Yes. What Hammer? Which Hammer? Which Hammer ever? The Now Hammer. Hammer! The Now Hammer. Walk around. Nah, boy. The Taco Bell commercial Hammer. Go Hammer, I'm starving. Let's get some burgers. Burgers? And that's out the door. I got something much better than mine. Come on, let's break it. Now, that's the way the hammer runs for the border. Because the board is in order. Yo, yo, yo. Bro, they don't know. No, that was that. Don't do that. Don't shoot.   I'm a denimie.  Queen Latifa. Come on. Motherfucking. Money in the middle. MC Light. Motherfucking the real rocks at hand. K.  I love it. They Houdini. One love, one love. You're looking just at her just one love, one love, one love. You're looking just at her just one love. Rest in peace, the ecstasy. Yeah. Ecstasy. That's all go now.  I know. Because I'm a hoe. You know I'm a hoe. Do you know? Because I told you so. Because I'm a hoe. That's niggas. Come on, man. Some say it's an art. Others say it's a shame that you would give me your body before your name. Them niggas was going, oh, boy. Shame. Come on.  You know, because that motherfucking, mm. There you go. Good girl, baby. Doin' it, doin' it, doin' it well. Doin' it, doin' it, doin' it well. Doin' it, doin' it, doin' it well. I represent Queen. She was raised out of Brooklyn. LL Cool J probably love you. We like each other. You don't like each other? Yeah, his wife, too. We done kicked it before. Not like that. You're so lovable, though. Everybody love you. You think? Yeah. That's good. You have a great spirit. You know what I'm sayin'?  It don't matter what it's on.  No, this the realest show in America. Did you know that this is the number y'all? Well, you know, I have a YouTube show called Haley L. But I'm sad. And I tend to think that that is the realest show in America. They did a poll. This is the number one rated show amongst black people between the ages of 13 and 86. Have you checked my stats, though? You don't even know about my show. I'ma look. That's the whole, you know, I got loony tics. What's your hashtag? What's your people called? The 85%ers. Oh, that's so Muslim. Nah. Nah.  We didn't take that right out. We didn't already took them out.  We know everybody that don't like this. Come on, man. Can your DJ go on? Who do?  Bruh. He should have. Play Hudson Pimpin'. This the second time. He was asleep? All right, we're gonna replace this nigga with, uh, Alexa. Alexa. Ladies and gentlemen, Pimpin' coming right up. What do you want to hear? Some funky double shit? I want to hear. Oh, I love sugar-free guy. Damn. He said, I ain't never hit a woman, no.  I said, what was that? Sugar-free sad. Bitch, why the weed wet? Why you all on my dick? It's early in the morning. I ain't even peeing. That sugar-free is a monster. Ugh, I love it so much.  I don't even know how much I love him. I don't even know how much I love him. I don't even know how much I love him. When I tell you, jump over to say hi.   Snipe. High hold silver. Bitch, if you look at me like that again, hold him. Some of the kids. Yes. That nigga's so cold. Yeah, I love sugar-free.  Sugar-free. He's not.   Yeah! Then in the bitch living the day that can move me.   Yes!  Put my on the fucking...  That nigga... That nigga be like... Oh, yeah. Strong Jake. Strong Jake. Strong Jake. Strong Jake. That nigga go crazy. Do he know? Have you ever met him? Yeah, we was on a flight together, man. Did you tell him? Hell yeah, I told him. How did he react? Was he nice?  I really appreciate that.  I would have probably hit the track with sugar-free. Man. For a little while. You would have hit the track with sugar-free. I probably would have hit the track with sugar-free. The straw. You own it. Yeah, I would have probably hit it right quick. Yeah, I did hold an Oakland for two weeks. Two weeks? Yes. But then what happened was... Yeah, yeah, give us that. I got busted, but in all the movies, I thought your pimp was supposed to come and get you out. But he did not come and get me out. I bonded my own self out because I had that much money in my titty. I got out, I went back to the safe house. He laying in the bed with a white bed. I took the dope, the gun and the money out. I never seen the nigga again. His name was Freddie. No! He might be dead.  He might be dead. He might be dead. Shit. For his name was Freddie, he might be dead. Don't fucking... Hey, uh, Frederick, uh... This is all hypothetical. This is, uh... This is from an upcoming movie. We do a little story teller. She's talking about... Yeah, she's talking about the biopic that's in the works. Yeah, we work... No, I'm not.  You know what you did, nigga?  How long you love you in there? No, no, I got out because I had money. I built my own home. But he didn't even make no effort.  I'm like, it adds up to... What is it? It adds up to injury.  I'm like, okay, guess what?  And I was... Damn. Swooped to do out.     I'm glad you gave him some grease up. Well... Because the comedy game needed you more than the movie. Yeah, I did give him up. I was trying to think if I could give him up. Freddie was looking for you though. What? He looked for you for a little while. Freddie? Yes. Freddie was looking around. You seen Luneo. That's ain't three. That's three pans. I was what they call an earner. You want to know when you make the most money as a hoe to me or when you did was before motherfuckers go to work. Like 7-7-30 in the morning they want to get their dicks up right quick before they go hit the financial district. Who? A hoe got to get up early. Rule number one. The early bird gets the cash. Okay. Or the worm. Okay. First, you get the worm first, then the cash.  Pay me. There you go. Pay me. Don't pay me no attention. Damn. Move your right to manual. Right here, right now. First thing you got to do is got to get up early.  Nobody likes a lazy hoe. Nobody. Up in Adam. Nobody.  Get to work. Get that track.     All right, let me ask you this. Thank you. Thank you. What does a hoe eat for breakfast? Hoes don't eat breakfast. They eat that track for breakfast. Woo! Woo! Like the holiday is, this is about my motherfucking cat. You know? If a hoe need breakfast, you don't want to make no money. Exactly.    With the money.  There you go. I don't want to give up all my game guys right now, you know. It's enough. The kids are watching. They shouldn't be watching. Ain't you don't mean none of this, baby.  Like a bye and good night. Take care. Sleep. So do they edit this or how long is this show going on or whatever? You ready to get out of here? No, I'm just, no, no, no. This is what we do in the track.  So love and enjoy our company. I am only here out to love because they are not paid mean I'm only but I rarely do shit without getting the money right now. I've been in a pandemic. I got a year worth of money to make up for.  My tour is called a fresh out of favors. I got no favorites for now, motherfucker.  So here I am.  We can get you that.  We didn't know that's what you ate.  I mean, I'm just saying, we... Oh, you don't have too many divas here. No, we can get you whatever you want.  Why you over here, I can make it happen for you? No, it's already too late, baby. What's up, DJ, looking like Shaggy and shit? That is Shaggy. It wasn't him. It was you. Play that. Play that song. That Shaggy wasn't me. Can you play that for me? Ha-ha-ha-ha. Bo-butt-naked, hanging on the bed real far. How can I...     What's wrong with that man? Stupid. Hey! Turn it up. That's what you like. Just right now, you know. Well, look here. We appreciate you coming through here. Showing us love. Luneo. And that's exactly how it goes, folks.  Yeah, man. Hey, man. Reach R.T. Back. Shout-out to my dawg Clayton English. You know what it is. Shout-out to my man, Chico B. D.C. Young Klai. Get-O-Legends tour. Hey! Coming soon. This has been another 85 South Shore production. Luneo. No, this is family reality. At this time, make sure your seat belt is pure. Fasten your tray table and seat backs are up and lost. We'll be underway shortly and thank you for flying. I was just talking about what you... You know that girl. She's as long as a CVS. Hell, yeah. Yeah, it was long, too. We can see it. We can see it. It was like empty punching bag. Yeah, man. It was late. We just ain't 10-bit late. Hey, y'all good back there? No, we can't. All right, if we can do it. Thank you. Two days. A word? What do you have to say? This is back to home, bro. Hey, man, we back in the game. Look, we got a bunch of them, too. Yeah. 7-17, that's July 17th. We in Macon. Yeah. Then the 24th of July, we in Biloxi, Mississippi at the Coast Coliseum. Yeah. Then August 7th, we in Greenville. Bro, which Greenville? This is the Greenville area. Every state. But whichever one in the Bonsecours wellness arena is it? Remember, we couldn't figure out how to say that. Yeah, I don't even know if it's the same. Bro, is it Greenville, North Carolina, J-O-N? No, it's not. It's Greenville, South Carolina. That's why you're sitting back there. Alright, then on August the 14th, we in Fayetteville at the Crown Coliseum. And then September 11th, we in Jacksonville. At the Vice Star. That sound like a hospital. Yeah.  So that's why we gonna sound like that. October 1st, we in Seattle at the Waimu Theater. Waimu. That sound like a real name. That's the Indian. The Indian? Probably on the reservation. Word. Okay, Waimu. Then 10-2, we in Sacramento at the Memorial Auditorium. Sacramento? Yes, Sacramento. Where they got some things out there in Sacramento? Word. I ain't never been to Sacramento. J-O-N, you ever been to Sacramento? Yeah, I never been to Sacramento. But we about to go to Sacramento, boy. 10-29, we in Tallahassee. Yeah. Donald Tucker Civic Center. I thought they said Donald Tucker. Yeah, that would have been dope. We gonna be at the Donald Tucker.  Yeah. 11-5, we in North Charleston at the North Charleston Coliseum. You know 11-5 is November. Yeah, but I can read numbers. But enough about that. North Charleston, South Carolina? North. North Charleston. That didn't say the state, though. North Charleston? Yeah, it's north of South Charleston. But it's a Charleston in every state, too. 11-6, which is November the 6th, we will be in Greensboro at the Greensboro Coliseum. That's in Greensboro, North Carolina. Yeah, I'm like 30 minutes away from there. All they gotta do is go to the85southshow.com for more information on new tour days. That mean we got some more coming, y'all. Yeah, we can only drop these right now. Right. These are locked in. Yeah. We are on our way to your city right now. We stole these seats from Spirit.  Nah, man, we just being resourceful, bro.   Seating on that back. We're trying to get on that store. This ghetto? Get your ticket.  I ain't got my seatbelt on. Why am I even seeing a different color than mine? It's not even the same brand of seat. It's ghetto.  You better be glad DCA ain't here. He probably on the real plane. Yeah. Yeah. Better than that. Nah, he just caught an earlier flight. That's all that is.  We should have kept one. Nah, that's a good investment, man. Look, we got our people in the back. She mad. No, bro. We probably had to do another season of this show. What show? One and you another one. Man, y'all get the tickets. Look, we got to get some extra seats for the plane. They don't let back. We ain't got no seatbelts.  Ain't no other part to that.  Y'all get y'all tickets to the show. Please. Please. Look at our plane. Look at our plane. Look at the Hawks about to win the NBA championship. So, that's why we dropped our commemorative tribute to the Atlanta Hawks. 85 South Show look, man. Big salute to the Hawks. Look, you can get 10% off this exclusive merch. If you just go to the website and register with your email. We dropped these. They sold out. We brought them back. So, here they are. Make sure you hit the website and order up these shirts, man. Check this out. Hold on. Let me get a promo code. Hold on. The website is 85apparelcode.com. Yup. Do that. Just go there. And then you stray from there. If you sign up, you get 10% off.  Read it. I'm gonna leave it there for a minute because I know you read slow. Because you're probably sitting there right now. We dropped these. Yeah. It's on there. Check it is, man. Go to the website. If you want one of these.  I know that people like... We only got a few of them anyway. These not for everybody. These are for real 85%. If you're not one I understand, this is a limited run. That means it's gonna be worth some one day. Go to the website if you want to stay up on the... I got mine. If you don't buy them, I just keep winning.  More for me. Chicken is ready. Chicken is ready. I'm outta here.


I like to feel as strong as a tree, calm as the sea, happy and free to move and breathe and just be me. It's time for a mooga moment. Welcome friends, glad to have you here with us today. Thanks for joining my friends, Teddy and I, for a mooga moment. Teddy, how are you feeling today? Oh, you're feeling worried. You're feeling worried because things feel different and you're being pushed to try new things, even when you don't want to. I understand. That would make me feel worried too. How are you feeling today? And remember, anything and everything you feel is okay. What matters is what you do with it. Then you could always try a mooga moment. Teddy, are you able to try today?  First, we move, then breathe and rest, then sit. Come on Teddy, it's time. First we move, then we breathe and rest and sit. First we move, then we breathe and rest and sit. First we move, then we breathe and rest and sit. First we move, then we breathe and rest and sit. First, we move. Let's start at our head.  Oh, that feels so good. You could go really slow. Looking up to the sky and then down to your toes.   Now I'm going to circle again and see if you can go the other way. Shake your head, yes.  Shake your head, no. Let's move our shoulders around. Put your fingers on your shoulders. You have chicken wings. We're going to make circles with our chicken wings. Breath changes. Let's go really slow. Let's stretch. Let's bring our hands to our heart. We're going to stretch up to the sky and make a big rainbow. Do you see it? Stretch up to the sky. You see all the colors up there in the sky. Reach up to the sky. Outlet stand in a big star. Stretch out your legs. Stretch out your arms. A big star. We're going to crisscross. Take one hand, shake it. We're going to crisscross it over to the other foot. Stretch, shake the other hand. And touch the other toe. Up to a big star. Let's do it again. Take a breath in. And breathe out as you go down. And in my head. Let's go down the middle and shake out our body.  Shake out your arms. You're like an elephant trunk. Going from side to side. Elephant trunk. Elephant make. Shake out your hips down. Squat. Kind of like a frog.   Shake out your legs. Shake, shake, shake, shake. Shake out your legs. If you listen it sounds like thunder. Whoa. Inching along in the ground. Even say to your caterpillar a cocoon around itself. It turns into a... Shake out your legs. We're going into the sky. And we'll stand all the way up to the sky. Ready pose. We're going to try our sunrise today. Take a breath to start. Up to the sun. Hello sun. And then come all the way down to the earth. And step your feet back. One and then the other. This is our plank. And then come in lower. All the way down. Push up. And then come all the way down to the earth. Step your feet back, one and then the other. Hold your plank. Get down to the earth step and then down. Push up. Hello son. Ready pose. Should we go really fast? Really fast. Take a breath to start. Stop, take a breath to start. As slow as we can. Show me ready pose. Jump to the sky and then slowly come all the way down to the earth. Step one foot back fast. Take a breath to start.  Sit up really tall. We have lungs in our chest that help us breathe. We're gonna take some big breaths together. Here we go. Put your hand on your belly. Can you feel your belly moving when you breathe? Make it really loud.  We're gonna take five deep breaths together. This is like your belly. When we breathe in, our belly fills with air and then we breathe out slowly all the air and leaves. Here we go. Sitting up nice and tall. Try to take big deep breaths. I feel more calm now and we're ready to rest. It's time to rest friends. We're gonna start as an ice cube.  You could say to yourself, I love you. Big squeeze. And we're an ice cube in the freezer. Oh, it's very cold in the freezer. Oh, I'm shivering. Oh, it's so cold in here. I'm frozen. Man, someone takes us out of the freezer and we're on the beach. And the sand is soft and the sun is hot. And we're melting. Melting into a puddle.  I'm resting all my muscles in my body like I'm melting onto the earth. And look up, I see the stars. Teddy, do you see the stars up there? They're twinkling. We're gonna rest here for five, four, two. It feels so good to rest. We all need a good rest sometime.   Bring your knees and give yourself another hug. And we're gonna get ready to sit. Come on. It's time to sit, friends. Find your easy pose, crisscross again, setting up really tall. We always finish with a nice seated rest. We try and sit really still and we get really quiet. It feels good. You're welcome to close your eyes.  My belly just moved. Do you feel your belly moving? What else is moving? My lips are moving. I'm gonna try to move my belly. I'm gonna try and sit really still. Oh, my tongue just moved. Maybe your fingers are still moving when we're alive. We try and sit still, even if we still move, and we try and get really quiet. Let's see if we can sit here for one full breath. Thanks for practicing with me today, Teddy. How are you feeling now? You're feeling calm and rested. We know that all feelings don't last forever and whatever you're feeling is okay. How are you feeling?  Thank you for practicing today.


Hello, oscillators in here. Portamento or pitch glide is kind of a requirement if you're going to make soaring leads and acidic bass lines. It's also a great way to add character to pad sounds. So it's no surprise that a long-standing feature request for the digga tone was that portamento would be added. And I guess about a year ago, Electron did what the people were asking for and they added portamento to the digga tone. Parameter portamento as well. It's great. However, the digga tact, I guess because of its lineage of being kind of a drum machine, even though we know it can be so much more than that, hasn't received that portamento update and I suspect won't. So today, what I want to talk about is how you can get portamento effects on the digga tact without having a dedicated portamento feature. We'll look at the mechanics of how it works and then I'll sort of propose kind of a workflow to put together sequences of portamento more easily and more quickly. So in order to pull off this trick, we're going to head over to the LFO page, which is often where we end up when we're trying to do cool things on the digga tact. So obviously, if we're going to be getting a pitch movement, which is what a pitch glide is obviously, but portamento is, the destination for our LFO is going to be tune. I'm just working with a single cycle waveform with a bit of filter modulation on it, but this will of course work with any sample that you like. So here we are. We've applied some tuning modulation and we get tuning wobble as one would expect. Now, to get a portamento type effect, we're going to have to change our waveform to what I think is probably the least often used waveform. It was for me, certainly. It took me a while to work out what this was really for. And that's the ramp. Now, the ramp you might think initially is going to be a bit like a sawtooth. It's going to go but it's actually slightly different. So if we apply a bit of depth, we might be just slowed down so we can hear it. What's actually happening with the ramp waveform is that it ramps up, it immediately drops down, and then it spends the same amount of time as it did ramping up, sat back at the original pitch in this case. So it's not quite the same as saw, which is always moving. It's also going the other way, but obviously we can reverse it by changing the depth. So one thing that we will often do on the dig attack when we're looking at our LFOs is that we will treat our LFOs as if they were envelopes. And we do that by switching the mode over to one. And what this will do is it will do one entire cycle of the LFO waveform and then stop, essentially giving us an envelope that starts when you press the note. So in the case of ramp when we do that, it's going to ramp up, drop down, and then essentially just hold back where it started. Very useful when we're doing stuff like exponential. But if we think about the ramp shape here, what we were just saying is that it spends half the time going up and then spends the same amount of time back at the base. So if rather than using the one mode, we use the half mode, we will only get the ramp and then it will hold for as long as we are holding our notes. And the depth is going to affect how far we slide. And the speed is going to affect how far we get there. And this essentially is going to allow us to fake our portamento. Okay, so let's work this idea into a sequence. Now for this, I'm going to set my multiplier to 32. You get a slightly better resolution this way, I think. And if we have the BPM 32 multiplier and then set our speed to 32, that slide is going to take the same length of time as a step. So that's kind of a good place to start. Obviously we can change the speed accordingly, but that I think helps us get going. So I'm going to set my depth back to zero because we don't want this to be happening on every single step. Necessarily. So let's hold us into just this real simple little loop here, which we're probably going to get sick of listening to, but bear with. Okay, so a little sparkly one there. So what I want to do in this sequence is that I want to have this note, which is up and this note, which is down. I want to slide up to this note and down to this note. So let's think about how we can apply our LFO parameter locked to achieve this. Now the workflow that I usually do, because I think it's easier to reason about it this way, is that I will write my pattern in and play in the notes as you normally would. So this is all in C, of course it's in C. So this is a D sharp and this is an A flat, sorry an A sharp B flat. If I wanted this note, this D sharp to slide up from the C, if you like, so we've got C. If I want that to slide up instead, what I will start by doing is actually coming into the source page and I will tune it down to its starting point. You can do this the other way around as well, but I think this makes it easier to reason about when you look at the notes that are actually in the sequence. So this is a D sharp. If I want to tune it down to C and now if we play now this note is playing as if it is a C. Right, now we're going to come into our LFO page and we're going to parameter lock the depth, which is going to slide this back up to where it should be. Now you would think that if you wanted to add three back onto the minus three that we've just applied to the tuning, we would set our depth here to also be three. However, if we do this over here, it goes far too high. It's going up to F sharp instead. Now the reason for that is that our, or at least I think the reason for this, is that our ramp waveform here is unipolar rather than bipolar and the depth when it's bipolar is the entire sweep of the wave. Because this is unipolar, I think it gets multiplied. I don't entirely know the rationale for it, but the practical offshoot of this is that if we want to go up by three, if you like three semitones, we actually have to halve that and go up by 1.5. So you have to do a little bit of maths. But now if we play this, you can hear that we've got a little slide there. Now if we want to make this slide more obvious, of course we can slow it down, so that means we're going to want to reduce our speed. And we might also want to make this trigger a little bit longer so we can hear the whole sweep. So if we want to make it even more obvious, we could of course tune this down a little bit further, so as we go down to six. And then we can have our depth at three instead. So we can play with how obvious we want to make this slide. So let's have a look at our other note here, this one, the lower note. So again, what I'll do is I'll come into the source, and this time I will tune it up by two, like that. And in our LFO, I want to have the depth at minus one to go back down. And again, we can slow it down if we want to make it a bit more obvious. Might need to make it a bit longer if we're going to do that. And now we have nice little slides going on, little glidy 303 portamento slides. I'm not quite a 303 sound, but on the dig attack, without a dedicated portamento mode. But here's another interesting thing to consider. So on that previous example, the slides that we were introducing were sort of locked to the fact that we were playing in notes. The slide was starting as the note played, and it's all swooped up into the note. But what if you want to apply portamento or pitch bend to a note that is already playing? So here's just a drone kind of sound that's playing across the entire of the bar here. So what if we wanted to take this drone sound and actually have it do like a pitch sweep partway through. So I've got the LFO page set up in the same way here with my ramp and my half and it being sent to the sample. So say maybe on step 12 I want to start making it swoop down instead. Now if I put in a step here and apply my sweep, obviously it's going to go down by an octave so that'd be minus six because we have to halve the amount. Obviously at the moment when it's hitting this step here, it's starting my sample again. You kind of hear that it's killing the sample and starting again, which is not quite the valuable one. I just want to make the currently playing sample slow down like I'm slowing down the tape that's playing it back. Now in order to do that of course we can use our good old friends our lock tricks. So let's put down a lock trick here instead. So this isn't going to trigger our sample to start again, but it does allow us to start parameter locking the parameters on this sound. So let's apply our LFO here. So what's interesting when we do this is that we're not getting that glide we're getting a step happening. And the reason for this is that what's happening is that the depth of the LFO has been applied but actually the LFO is starting here it's getting to its half end point and at this point we're just modifying where that endpoint is. So this is with this LFO page setup, functionally the same as just changing the tuning of the sample. So what we want is for this lock trick here to start our LFO again. So if we come into the trick page if we look at the way that this lock trick is set up by default, this will be the same for all lock tricks, the LFO trigger will be turned off by default. If we turn this on we get our slide instead. We can stop our tape or slow our tape down partway through the bar without restarting the sample. Now one thing I've discovered dealing with this is if we make much changes to the LFO page so I've just changed the speed there. For some reason I don't know whether this is a bug but it turns off the LFO trigger, which is a bit annoying, but just be aware that if you're tweaking the speed you may need to come back into your trigger page and turn the LFO trick back on. Now of course because this is a trick, albeit a lock trick, we could also apply conditions to this as well and annoyingly when you apply conditions it also turns off the LFO trigger again so just be careful of that. So now we can have this not always slide down. Okay well I hope that was interesting and useful obviously you can apply this basic idea to create portamento in any situation but you can apply this basic idea to get that kind of ramping effect for any of the parameters of course. So it doesn't have to be for tuning for example, you can do this to have a different vibe to an envelope with the frequency for the filter, you could, it might be really cool to have the reverb send ramp in on a sound over time as well, things like that. Panning stuff from left to right, this is probably the easiest way of doing it as well. If you did enjoy the video then as always I would really appreciate it if you could give the video a like and make sure you subscribe to the channel especially if you're into electron stuff and digotone in particular because I can't quit them, keep coming back to them. If I have more videos it doesn't matter what new and interesting since I have in the studio. I will always find time to come back and talk about the digotact and the digotone because they're just that wonderful. As always thank you so much for joining me today and until next time, take care, bye bye.


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Buy my coins is the best place to get madden coins for anything. It's cheap and reliable and of course my code MMG is 15% off I promise you boys another gold rush video and I'm absolutely sending it right now The thing about this that's so tough though is that you need 10 wins to get like you know You're undefeated season so I can do so well for like even six To get bold I am gonna go Raymond Cunningham here. I like him a lot in this and a defensive big Taylor Maze Calvin Yes, I haven't gotten mega charm before so I'm excited. He's got Taylor Maze. I can rob that from him snappers versus snappers welcome to The Bo Jackson show.  I don't think I've ever buried someone that bad. I've had some nasty trucks, but are you kidding me?  Don't even play this out. Seriously. Just quit Your fate is sealed bro, you didn't have a shot was that was that a is that a record 13 second W Do I take them take it Julio again? Yeah, he's a beast Good luck, mate Good luck stopping this Ridiculous man, oh and he hits the orange justice We're in business today.  Oh, that's so there. There's so many things He just goofed it dude. There's so many things I could have done to him. You're not about a triple option me, bro Oh, that was a triple option.  I dare you Dude, why did they do the backup Bruce Arian's head so dirty? I could swipe three credit cards in that thing Defensive pick. There's my goat. There's my goat Taylor Maze, man. I've used Taylor Maze so much I'm a goat Anthony bar. I have not used the Anthony bar yet. Who's that clamp in the middle? I had to reject yet. No, you're still in a lot of trouble man. Oh He played that pretty well Bo Jackson does not care. Bo does not have a base of though. I just realized that I can't be spinning with him So I can spin Edge easy spin easy Stiff arm.   All right. Let's get a cubie spy on this man drill case. See I don't know if we'll be able to keep up But there oh, he still caught it. Don't go out like this pop of me Okay, we got him No, you did not Oh, I could have closed the game out Five minutes later. That's a whole first and ten. This is gonna be the QB. This is gonna be the draw This is the draw. No We have to stop this dude have to get to Vic dude. We cannot let him scramble this in. This is so sketchy Go get that QB. Yes. Yes. Yes Yes, let's go first in five. I Know he wants to throw Randy Moss.  He's hitting everything dude. I'm in I'm in deep trouble I got to go for Hail Mary here.  I think I'm gonna lose here My oh my god, I just I stopped stop it. Let's double up the safety. I'll go ahead and read a few minutes later Third and seven. I'm in a little bit of trouble here for the first time in a while.  He's gotta be so mad, dude. I wouldn't you I wouldn't even play Okay, human joystick a little bit got it into Larry Fitz. I'm not taking any hits yet 13 yards straight up the middle Baby, we just gotta hold on to that Reggie white. Yes. Yes. Oh User came through didn't matter first and ten. I'm going play it action right now I might get this into the young watt.  Okay. I got it to him No enforcer hits. Whoo play action tight end leak. I want play action nudes leak All right, first and ten bow Jackson toss to the edge Good set great set human joystick All right, this is like really sketchy because I feel like he's gonna blitz, but I'm gonna try to draw Got it. Got it, baby This is a cheat. It's literally cheating. He's going deep that post is gonna be open. Oh That's a bad pass Why is my team really though? Sorry with the ball, baby. Let's get it.  What I just say starting on defense Dude, you should just threw literally it went through my face mask. I think none of this is open There's nothing you can throw Beauty we get straight up go ten out as long as I don't like big time choke. Okay.  Hopefully. Oh, he didn't Well, I gotta I got a freebie Oh no first and ten it ain't it ain't some glorious crazy defense But it more than gets the job My reactions are getting like stifled right now because I don't know what to say Same shit different side, baby Can't reach it can't reach it come here I think ball over the course of these like eight games has averaged probably eight or nine yards per carry Randall Cunningham's gonna get some yardage. Uh-oh touchdown Don't tell anybody get stone walled. No way. No way I get stone walled What was that? I've never seen that before go back to this inside zone though Because I refuse to let myself get stone walled here. Yeah How many more do I need? Let's not go out boys. Let's keep this up. This could be a run play I mean, uh every play could be it is a handoff great tackle a few inches later fourth and 15 Let's see what he goes with. Oh my god. He goes with a pitch No way Just contain that was one of the worst showings of offense I've ever seen. How are you? Do you have any of this many wins? Put some respect on my name I think he was trying to do what he's about to see Right now here's how you do Oh Somebody any tripped the golden ticket bow Jackson's super sarcastic is the actually the most Ridiculous thing I've ever seen in madden and he doesn't even have jukebox Which is like one of the best abilities in this game.  He caught that like it was egg first and ten back to the basics Could be the touchdown Might be I was in the bathroom So is he running a defense similar to what I like? Or an offense, I mean, which is where you just run the ball. Oh, I missed. Uh-oh. Uh-oh My kryptonite my kryptonite he's the bow Jackson himself. Oh, he passed Shit, I could be in trouble Throw it throw the ball Throw it I dare you we needed that pick Damn, we needed that pick that Michael vick was moving though I'm committing to the middle of the field. I committed the whole team We got him. I'm committing. I'm committing to the run. Shit. It's not a run I Just ran commit I'm fourth in two. We might have met our maker Stop let's go. I'm not giving up this undefeated season yet Get that pitch to the edge. Yes, sir. Lawrence, that's how we're gonna go out He needs some meal it's impossible to go 10 mad and games without something like that, dude I hope you enjoyed this one myself banger. That was the first that was our first run through two We got like eight wins. I think if that was my 10th win, I'm gonna cry. I hope it wasn't I appreciate you boys for watching. I'll see you in the next video. Peace out


I want to welcome you all to this maiden edition of the programme and we hope that you will enjoy and start to pick up tips and understand the journey of cancer survivors across the room irrespective of the type of disease. So today in the house I have three of us cancer survivors. We'll be talking about it and we're using this opportunity to make people understand that people still live with cancer and still have some sort of good quality of life irrespective of the disease. So I'd like to welcome on firstly anaesthesia. Let me introduce you properly. Anaesthesia is a stage 2 breast cancer triple that's what it's called. It's a stage 2 triple negative breast cancer survivor and a widow with three children.  She's a woman with a dynamic vision of reducing cancer and mortality rates and creating awareness. My name is Denise Edgel.  I'll explain to you what methods mean as we go along. Welcome. So ladies, how are you today? Fantastic. Well, let's sit down and let's have a chat and make sure that we get the message out and help save lives because that's the essence of all of this. So very briefly I'm going to ask you both to share your story and let us understand so that we can pick up the differences and I'll share mine as well. So my journey started in 2018 when I was to the precise March 2018 when I found a lump on my left breast. I was very enthusiastic in going for my holiday and didn't think about the the lump. So what I did was I thought okay I would if we possibly would not be anything and by then my mind was never on anything cancer at all. I've never thought about oh it could be cancer it could not be. I've never even heard cancer wasn't something that I was too familiar with even though I've heard the word cancer. So I went on my holiday got back and I got a letter to speak to my GP to do what is called a smertest which is for to detect if there's any kind of cervical cancer. So I did say to them oh I found a lump on my left breast and it's quite big and it's solid so they asked me can you come in immediately which I did and to cut the long story short I went to the doctor he looked at it referred me and I did I went to the hospital I did what is called a mammogram which was it's a machine x-ray to check the size of the lump if there's any lump at all and they dictated a lump and afterwards I was asked to do what is called a biopsy so they took out the tissue sample of the tissue to do to take to the lab went back and I was told it was um stage three breast cancer and lo and behold what did I do I told the doctor to cut the breast off immediately. Thank you I'm going to stop you here so I'm going to give you a briefing of my journey and my journey was very easy I was also not I was actually to be honest with you all I had was a headache so I'm not going to say it as if it was a big deal I had a headache a headache that just wouldn't go I did all the tests and went through I mean hospitals all over Nigeria from Abuja to Mina where I was living to Lagos to about four hospitals in Lagos and no one could tell me what was the cause of the headache and eventually I had a doctor say you know what everything looks very okay with you Denise we can't find anything but so we are sure that we have addressed it we are going to do an MRI scan and lo and behold we had cancer that had spread no so how did they put it you had they say you have lesions that's it that's on Nigeria I call it because you have lesions so I said what does that mean they say well it's more than one I didn't understand all that and I just thought you know what I'm out of here and I left and came out to the UK and found out that I had to have brain surgery within seven days having brain surgery was where they picked up that it was they didn't know it was cancer because once you see more than one apparently I'm not a medical doctor I'm a patient of cancer who has become very very knowledgeable I'm a teacher let me put it nicely I'm a teacher because I like being a teacher and then I found out that I had breast I had breast cancer methasizing in the brain Collie what's the role of family in supporting this journey family actually should play a vital role in any cancer journey but sometimes that's not the case so you find out that sometimes some people shot shot shot out family members from when they're going through this when they're going through this journey so when I mean shutting them out it doesn't mean you know not whatever but at the end of the day they tend not to tell them especially if you're going to be getting kind of a negative vibes from them would decide okay these are the family members I know that when I say XYZ or I've got cancer they would not judge me and they will hold my hands to go through the journey but they are family members when you tell them in my case I have somebody who is supposedly to be a close family member when I told the person the person asked me where did you get the cancer from so you see when it comes to family you have to be careful me personally I have to be careful who I disseminate the information to so when I was going through my journey I know how my family dynamic works so the only people that knew I was going through cancer treatment were just my sister and my mom's younger brother it's very interesting because family friends I think there's going to be one common thread amongst all of us and I think it's amongst all cancer patients is things that are said at the time of diagnosis and a lot of people not realizing the impact of what they see at that time I remember somebody saying who sinned and I thought really that's a Christian he was even a pastor so I can imagine and that's why I asked you because I'm coming back to another question and I'm waiting for her to come on would you say um cancer is stigmatized would you say what? cancer is stigmatized yes I would why why I would say cancer is stigmatized is when they see somebody who's gone through cancer the way they treat that person is totally different from the way they treat maybe somebody who's gone through malaria and again that most people are very myopic in their thinking so sometimes they think cancer is um what do you call it's uh contagious contagious yes so they tend to stay away from you and try to you know avoid you and when you come out and say oh um I've been through cancer they'll be looking at you okay maybe it's the sins you committed that God struck you with cancer or maybe is your past life or whatever so by the time they start unless you allow them to label you and that's why you find out that most people don't come out to say anything they live within their within the shelves of themselves so uh yes cancer is very stigmatizing thank you interesting because I don't think that a lot of people realize that and a lot of good intentions come out of trying to care for people with cancer thinking if they are good intentions but we we have to accept a lot of people walk away from you um a lot of things are said that are very hurtful a lot of people don't navigate the journey properly because of lack of knowledge I always stand there and that's why awareness is very key so I'm going to talk about the cancer disease itself now um uh talk me through your treatment the first uh thing I had was uh the removal of sample of the lymph nodes so it was I did a surgery on the local anesthetics and it was a day surgery and where they took out samples of the lymph nodes to test afterwards I had the big one which is the mastectomy and which is the removal of the breast where I had my old breast chopped up then uh on the same day I had what is called a reconstruction so they took tissues from uh from my body and reconstructed it is I have a designer breast so super proud of it what the devil thought you know uh that the devil thought we used to so in the process of it I had to get the book lift to make sure that the reconstructed one which obviously will be firmer than the other one synchronizes with the new one afterwards I had chemotherapy I had eight cycles of chemotherapy which was the most dreadful one because I lost I wasn't afraid to lose my hair because I thought okay I've heard I was warned you could lose your hair that X um your your nails could turn black you will lose your taste and everything and all of it I experienced but to be honest when I was going for my chemotherapy my eyelash was on flick even when I had my dreads as soon as I finished the first cycle of the chemo by the second one I saw one dread that already fallen off and I went to my brother and I said can you shave the hair and I shaved the hair properly and I wore my wig so anytime when they see me coming for my chemotherapy every three weeks I ask him are you going for a party are you going somewhere after this I said of course I'm going somewhere after this I've come for a cocktail so what do you expect you have to look pretty to come down there and not look gloomy so you know I I was more like putting Bob smiles on the faces of the women there and it took a ton because there were some other younger girls when they are coming they are just coming on you know just like that let me just come and get this now but I noticed some of them one girl went to do her nails and when I saw I was like what's going on she said you taught me how to come to come to take chemotherapy and I've taken the steps so and I had a radio I had a one month one full month of radiotherapy and after that I'm now currently on what is called a hormonal medication tamoxifen okay well thank you and I say very briefly can you summarize what stage two breast cancer is all about thank you yes um stage two triple negative breast cancer doesn't have a receptor like the doctors told me I'm not a doctor I started off with a lump I had a mammogram biopsy and that was all brought out um the stage and told the doctors what way to go I was told I'll have four cycles of chemotherapy and then it accept on me that is the complete removal of the breast I did that at the second stage of my chemotherapy my hair style falling off and so I had a complete shave and after the fourth cycle I went for the max tectomy I don't have a reconstruction or when I dress up to go out you don't know I have only one breast and so I have decided to tell people that cancer doesn't kill if it detects Ellie and if you receive the treatment Ellie thank you um and to those of you watching us and listening to this we're trying to make this discussion quite light because a lot of people are afraid of the word called cancer cancer yes can be a killer disease but doesn't have to be and we want you to know that you don't have to fight on your own so long as you know what you need to do to get through this journey I'm going to talk about mental health because one of the things that we've had is the challenges to do with mental health and um there's a because of the denial let me put it this way because of denial I think we lose more people and statistically globally one in two people will get cancer all over the world um when I was at the world cancer congress it was also identified that 2 percent 2.4 percent of Africans um are the ones that live they remain so in currently we've got 80 percent 70 to 80 percent of um cancer cancer patients do not survive in Africa so I'm going to ask you a question now looking at your journey and both of you will have a shot at this looking at your journey give me one or two things that you would give to you would give as a tip very quickly to anybody that is going through cancer two tips I'm going to give uh in respect of um to people going through cancer it's number one when you're going for your cancer treatment have a positive mindset that's number one you must have a positive mindset and number two do not leave in denial tell yourself the truth when the doctor says x y z take it back process it and tell yourself the honest truth fantastic okay mademoiselle anesthesia two tips I'll give yes two tips I'll give surround yourself with positive vibes people who are positive um people who will tell you they are ready to go along with you not people who will who would want you to fit it a lot of Nigerians or Africans you know they they want to fit it um it's not my portion it's not my portion if you are diagnosed with cancer face it and then surround yourself with positive vibes to eat well be happy it's not a dead sentence thank you so I'm going to add to you and might you are be honest with yourself yep and I would say why I have stage four cancer stage four cancer means it has metastasized so I said I will explain to you the differences when cancer has metastasized it means it has moved from the origin to somewhere else and what I have is breast cancer that has moved from the breast to the brain I have undergone three three cuts to the brain I have had over 10 tumors removed from the brain and I'm still here so focus is what I'm saying and listen to your body your body tells you when you are sick cancer is an everyday illness that's how I put it to the layman that means it can be a headache it's headache that got me here it's nothing there's no lump they've never found a lump it's a persistent headache people who have um had um colon cancer it's continuous diarrhea or constipation you know so I'm saying to the general public no matter anything that is persistent that is the rule anything that does not stop that you take medicine it stops and it starts again can be cancer so please if you find yourself with a persistent illness and it's everyday illnesses so not all this complicated name it is called cold that's the type headache diarrhea those are the type they do they start to build and can become cancer so before you find yourself in stage two please make sure that you know that stage one and two apparently is curable totally curable so once you are in a small pace please try and address it we agree awareness is pivotal so what do you think give me one thing that you think we need to go forward for the general public so you tell me each person anastasia you go first one thing we need to go forward for the general public um in in nigeria where i live funds are very very scarce and religion is a pain I think we should start the awareness from the pulpit let us start letting people know that everyone has cancer cells in them everybody carries cancer cells in them it is only the ones that now become malignant than that need to be to to be addressed and so we should have that that's a consciousness you know of always wanting to I think go for checkups basically we we don't we don't do that so my belief is that we start from the grass root and the grass root for me is the rural areas talk to the women who don't understand English speak to women who are selling pepper these are the people that when it heats it heats hard and by the time they present to the hospital is too late so awareness from the grass root okay and where would I come from on this one I will come from it from a totally different thing I would say that um all stakeholders make sure when decision is being made cancer survivors are in it it was shared even at the world cancer congress in 2022 this year that there was a drive or there is now a drive that in the entire running of cancer issues around the globe cancer survivors should be part of it and so committees that are being formed are now taking on people who live with the disease to be voices because unless we talk a medical doctor does not know what we are feeling I am taking Kimo as I'm talking to you today and somebody else will look at me and think oh my god she's taking Kimo so yeah so what's the big deal it is not it is a big deal because we do have a lot of challenges that go with us so how do you think we should do something differently one thing we can do differently I think that there should be a way in which it is a register of all those who provide support and to be checked so check dates that we only we have less than 100 oncologists qualified oncologists in Nigeria if you calculate 100 and then the population you know that we are very understaffed which immediately raises the alarm that that means a lot of people will be taking cancer treatment from non specialists yes okay so we need to think about how to work this differently and to do that I think we need to recognize the power drain that is going on in our country and how that is going to be resolved by the government by all stakeholders in making a difference for the lives of cancer patients okay and I say yeah you go for no call you go for this one please what we what I think we can do differently is to for when patients go to the hospital for them to be more involved in their treatments and to be able to ask questions what I found out is that most Nigerians I'm going to use Nigerians because they're the most widely people I've dealt with most patient cancer patients in Nigeria do not ask questions most of them when you ask them the my usually my first question when I meet somebody is what stage and what grade most of them don't know what stage most of them know don't know what's great so when you don't know the stage and the grade how do you navigate your treatment and when you go to a doctor and you're able to pose questions that they are unable to deal with that will automatically tell you that you're not dealing with an oncologist if you're very clever most cancer patients whether newly diagnosed or or in active treatment or in remission in quotes should be involved in their treatments fully involved thank you anesthesia can you give me your own view yes I will say we'll separate facts from fiction people are sick they go to church believing the pastor can do perform a miracle and like colia said we as um uh as people in remission who have once gone through the treatment should be a part of the treatment we we have stakeholders so we should be a part of the cancer patients journey the cancer patients story but a separating part from fiction is actually very very key and I've come to realize that it is a point where we don't always get it right so now as we draw to the end of this I'm going to give you one or everybody an opportunity to give give advice either advice to a cancer patient or speak to the government or speak to the population as to what you think what strategy or improvement whatever that will make a difference for a breast cancer survivor in Nigeria and across the world cancer doesn't have to be a death sentence if you notice any change in your body please go to the hospital and listen to what the doctor says when I was diagnosed a lot of people became doctors they told me not to take chemotherapy they had one negative thing to say about chemotherapy we should start you know the government should start getting hold of these people they are killing people whoa okay call you go on so um my advice would be to the government don't wait until people start dying before you take a decision you see somebody who's come to uh to you and you've told you would categorically tell the person you have to drop 25 million naira for a start and when you're looking at the person the person is not even what up to five thousand naira where are you expecting the person to get them funding from and this is why people resent back to churches to taking heads to taking different kinds of all sorts of nonsense just to say they are curing cancer and the government need to step up to do something uh either they reduce the cost of treatment for people who go to the government hospital reduce the cost of treatment for them or subsidize it listening to your views both of you I really appreciate it because one of the things I think people don't realize is that a lot of people will look at me now sitting on this screen and they wonder this much is just enjoying herself but if they had the opportunity to see what I have looked like over the years with my bald head and very big my head was very very big only because I had to take steroids and to have to go through that every time every two years and they have the cuts and then take the steroids and the head now becomes two times the size and it's very heavy it's a very interesting experience that a lot of people do not even know cancer patients go through the illnesses that come with it and everything it's left for us all as as survivors as patients to just keep a positive please a positive mindset you learn to laugh through your pain learn to praise through your pain learn to thank god through your challenges and trust me um it only gets better no matter what it says no matter what the decisions are finally you've got to find space in yourself as a survivor or as a patient because all patients are survivors until the day you go home I want to say thank you very much for joining me on this today as we get to the end of the year it is the aim that we make people know what to do how to do it and get through because together we fight together we win join us on comal cancer foundation on this program and watch the videos they will be shared online for you all and you can share it because awareness is key the more people know what to do and know where to find information the better it is for us to reduce the challenges and reduce the mortality rates across the globe I want to say thank you all for joining us on this medium edition and look forward to seeing you again soon


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We humans have made the finding a partner ritual so complicated that even experts are still finding new tips, tricks, and hints. This dance can often feel unnatural to us, making initial forays or revisits after long breaks unnerving. We even have a name for the dance Dating. It's a jungle out there and we'd like to give you some tips to help you navigate the new terrain or help you reacquaint yourself Expansion pack included Number one know yourself Before you even contemplate who the other person is you definitely need to know you This will save you an incredible amount of frustration and time if you already know the fundamental basics of what you need in terms of values, treatment, beliefs, ideas, and support Think of it as the absolute essentials the deal breakers if you will for example You can probably live with a person who likes a different brand of chocolate than you But you might never be able to stay with someone who refuses to comfort you when you're crying Spending some time exploring which behaviors you value can help you develop reasonable and tangible expectations When you understand this you can confidently allow yourself to cross off the list those who don't meet your needs Number two go at your own pace. Hey, who's in the whole dating thing again? That's right. It's you you're a part of this and so you have every right to decide how you are going to go about it Sure, other people may try to nudge you in particular directions But you are the only one who 100% knows what's going on inside and can tailor your speed to it In fact being rushed could be considered a red flag if someone keeps pushing rushing and insisting Despite you indicating otherwise. This is a sign that the other person can't take no for an answer Which in turn implies just how little your needs matter to them Number three think of each step as practice Do you expect to hit a hole in one the first time you play golf? Well dating is kind of similar. It takes practice these days online meeting through texts apps and even online forums is far more common No one you know has vetted these people and if you are used to meeting people in the traditional way This can be daunting certain behaviors show up more often than others For example, if you're a heteronormative a woman will have to deal with many messages from men with a blunt aggressively sexual approach While the men deal with ghosting from the ladies Interestingly enough if you're pursuing a same-sex relationship There is a tendency for less pressure on who sends a message first and a lot fewer in your face inappropriate replies number four Communicate and be honest as nerve-wracking as it might be Dating is supposed to be a good thing a fun thing And there are a few things less fun than severe discomfort from awkward silences or cringy outbursts Quite often many of these Painful dates stem from one or both parties not being honest or communicative about their intentions actual wants needs and boundaries Certainly first impressions are important We're not telling you to go on a first date and you're binge watching pjs after not having brushed your hair Think of it more like if you're not actually a hot shot gajillionaire don't act like you can make it rain The truth will out eventually and that leads to seriously awkward sometimes super embarrassing confrontations Oh and wasted time So much wasted time You do want to tell just enough so both of you understand each other Spilling everything with all details in history and a torrential flood especially early on is overwhelming While it may not be advisable to gush marriage on a first date It's a good idea to be forthcoming about why you are dating Whether it's a hookup a long-term thing or even just I haven't met anyone new in a while In the same vein don't go on and on about past partners But being honest about the big stuff like being widowed or divorced etc Will help steer interactions in the right direction giving some general but honest info will help avoid red flag status too It's about balance if you're returning to the dating scene after being away for a super long time and give no reason That seems suspicious On the flip side if you spill every single moment of your past like you're trying to find absolution through therapy This is also not good Okay, number five watch out for red flags And speaking of those red flags look out for the four major ones criticism defensiveness stonewalling and contempt But what exactly am I looking for you ask? Don't worry. We got you covered Criticism isn't a one-off you're late. It's an all-or-nothing thing with the criticism flag So more like you're always late or you never notice me So the movies were right on this one only a sith deals in absolutes Defensiveness is like a pre-attack everything you say becomes the opening salvo for a debate Fight or guilt trip an offhand comment of it's raining pretty hard Why'd you park so far away gets a response of I don't want my car to get scratched. Do you know how much that costs? It's just rain. What's your problem? Or asking for fun Do you think a hot dog is a sandwich and you get a full blown insulting tirade about giving a name reasoning to manipulate a result I mean come on sometimes a question's just a question Stonewalling on the other hand takes an inactive approach.  I mean of dating Contempt goes hand-in-hand with being condescending They'll behave in a mean-spirited manner humiliating you or otherwise making sure you know they're superior in some way So demeaning jokes at your expense on a first date Run away. In fact, if any of these red flags make themselves clearly Absolutely known the best course of action is to turn and leave and not after giving it a go for a year leave quickly You'll have noticed that they all entail the flag bearer not caring about their partner or at worst using their partner as a tool Like a sport though dating also has a yellow flag where there's unease, but you're not really sure if it's really a thing One in doubt ask an expert You could also sit back and ask yourself how you'd feel if this treatment was being received by someone close to you When put in that light we tend to lose the rosy glasses of initial dating forgiveness Number six tell someone you know where you are and be aware of your surroundings I know you've been watching those docu series or at least have seen the newsfeeds You know the ones where the aftermath involves a friend or family member of the victim saying we had no idea where they were if only Always let someone you trust know where you are and with who you never know when something may happen It might be something petty like this is super awkward. Can you conveniently show up or call so I can leave this date? Or on the other hand it could possibly save your life As much as we're all digitally connected always remember that someone you met online or while waiting for coffee is not someone you know Dating is complex We want to arm you with your best chance So stay tuned for part two and take that stride and pride. We're here for you