Hello everybody, welcome to Messages from Above Psychic Medium Tony G. I'm Tony Green and I'm going to be doing 30 minutes of answering questions from callers. The number is<PHONE_NUMBER>. Again,<PHONE_NUMBER>. Hi, Genevieve. I'm so happy to see you on the line this morning. I hope you had an amazing weekend. I'm going to go over to the first caller and remember, one question per caller. So here we go 919. Hi, how are you today? Hi, great. Thank you for taking a call. My name is Kay.  Things were kind of shaky and I'm just wondering how soon will things get back on track? Okay. First, I'm really sorry to hear about your your disagreement. It's going to work out. Here's the thing though. This big disagreement was like the cherry on top. So you have to go back. This is not what people love to hear, but it's the truth, right? Okay. So in every relationship, I don't care what kind of relationship. It can be a relationship between you and your goldfish. Okay. I don't care, but in every relationship, something happens and then we let it go and we let it go and we let it slide and we let it slide.  So it's time to have and what I'm hearing about you and your partner personally, don't try to clean up everything at once because there are some sensitivities in this relationship and with both of you, you're both extremely sensitive people. So having that, knowing that, knowing it, find a way to slowly say things without saying them in a critical way. Saying them in a way that is in a loving way for whatever that means, however that means for the two of you. I do feel like things are going to be okay midweek, but I am going to tell you not only for you, for everybody, everybody, everybody. Okay. I cannot sing. I do not know why they try to make me sing, especially live, but I can, I have like the worst, like, I have a lot of gifts and talents singing. It's not even on the list, but still they make me break out in verse as though I'm like in a choir or something. I don't know. Anyway, we are going to, we're at the end of letting go of deep rooted issues, astrologically, and I'm not an astrologer. That is not one of my gifts either. But we're at the end of letting go of deep rooted issues. And these are usually childhood issues. Yeah. These are the programs and patterns that we had in our childhood. And now it's like, okay, hello, I'm coming up to say hi. Are you going to push me all the way down and live another year like this? Or are we going to work through it? Now the problems that you and your partner are having aren't always about your partner. I have this strong belief our partners are mirror. They show us what we love, what we hate, what we need to heal. And most importantly, if we can look at it that way, when something, when the poop hits the fan, hopefully it stops there and it doesn't splatter through the fan on everybody. Oh, that is just the most disgusting analogy. Thanks, Vera. 100%, right? So when something comes up, I'm going to work. Good, good, good, good. Because that's the most important thing go, you know, why does this bother now here moving forward over especially this week. And I want to say the next month and a half, there are some aspects coming in that are going to just put people on edge. And locally in our home, when I say locally, I mean in our home, in our home, this could just mean like a lot of little one off comments that lead to fights. Like, why don't you clean that up? That leads to fights. So over the next month, month and a half, there are going to be a lot of and more globally.  There's going to be a lot of clashing over the next month. Want, um, like we're at a point where, okay, and this is in our homes, in our cities, in our states, and then like globally, like they're saying, like it's that Tom Hanks movie, we want the truth. And then I'm going, you can't handle the truth. And us going, we'll just try us. So whether it's in our home, personal home or personal relationship, all the way to global stuff, we're very unsettled. And we need to, um, um, we need, we need answers, or we're going to want answers. And over the next month, month and a half, um, we are going to be on edge. So having said all of this for you, please, whatever comes in, don't let this be the first major thing that led to the last major thing. Take a step back. Don't react. Take a moment and think about things before you respond, not only for you, but everybody else. So here's what I'm going to do. There's, we have a lot of pent up anger and I'm getting a yes on that. So I'm going to start clearing pent up anger for anybody listening, re listening. Um, and people always go, I'm not angry. Okay. Okay. You're not angry. Okay. Then, then this won't affect you. Then you have nothing to worry about. So let's call it anger, frustration, resentment. Let's just clear all that stuff out because whether it's for us or our partner or whomever else, we just, we don't want to carry that around anymore. It's just too heavy. It's just too much. Okay. Uh, by Wednesday, everything should be looking. Oh, absolutely. My pleasure. By Wednesday, everything should be looking better. Find some, the, a really big thing for the two of you is to find some constructive hobbies other than Netflix and chill. Um, other than that, some active, some, something that two of you can do that's an, an act. Oh spirit, you are hilarious. An activity that requires action such as bike riding or anything along those lines, whatever works for the two of you and get out in nature. That's really important right now. Breathe full on fresh oxygen and okay, thank you so much. Oh, I'm sorry. Um, thank you so much for calling in. I, um, I hope that was helpful. And if you stay on the line, there are going to be more clearings that will be very helpful for your situation. So I'm going to go directly to the next caller and that is 551. Hi, 551. How are you today? I'm happy. Hi, it's been a while. It's a package. Hi, how can I help you today? Oh, well, I'm just calling to see if you support me, um, taking your best suggestion in Georgia because I'm going to relocate your family, but I just want to do see what did you see from that. Is it a good situation? Okay, so the first thing I hear is yes. And it's kind of difficult to hear you if you're on speakerphone. If you could, um, go off of speakerphone because it's kind of like a megaphone sounding sort of thing. If not, I apologize for that. Yeah, that's so much better. Thank you. Yeah, so much better. Um, yeah. And I hear at this point, the sooner the better. There are some things waiting for you in this relocation. So it's really funny because, um, we all want to make a move. We all want to jump. We all want to do something that is, um, new and exciting, but, but we kind of drag our heels on it, right? We kind of, but I'm getting this move. Yes, we're, we're afraid. But one of the, one of my favorite things that Spirit always says, um, to people is if you weren't afraid, what would you do? And even more importantly, if you weren't afraid, who would you be? How would you show up? Now moving always gives us a chance to kind of reinvent ourselves. Like we don't have to show up as the same person that people have known or expect us to show up as. So relocating to like a whole nother area. Oh, let the remodeling, the reinventing, the rehashing begin, right? You get to, nobody knows the, yes. So my, my biggest thing was I was more nervous about, um, because I'm trying to get a home down here. Cause you know, right? And this much is mortgage. So I guess that was more of a nervousness. Just making sure I don't overstay my welcome at family home. So just working on that. Did you, um, I guess that's for us. I actually get it's going to fall into place more quickly than you think. So be ready. Like they're showing me, okay. So I don't know if this makes sense to you. And I hope it does. Like there are things waiting there for you. So when you get there, you're going to kind of like trying to be catching your breath. You're going to hit the ground running. Everything's going to kind of fall into place. You're not going to have a pause.  I'm just going to chill back and relax and have a mojito that that that poop's not happening. I'm just telling you now, you're going to get there and your life is going to kind of take off. You're going to be like, okay, so for what, what I'm hearing, and I hope this makes sense to you. It's like down home, but get home, like get it on because it's going like as soon as you get there, it's like this whole new energy takes takes over you. And you're like, why didn't I do this sooner? You're actually don't I just want to tell you one hit that I just got and I just love this. I mean, I love it. You're going to start having investment properties once you get there. You're right. You're like, I'm worried about one. I don't know about multiple, but I'm going to tell you, you are going to team up with I don't know. I don't know exactly. Okay, so you're going to find properties and they don't really need to be rehabbed in the way we think of a rehab. It's not a total tear down. It's more aesthetic stuff that you and maybe a family member. But it's not a family member, but it feels like a family member. Maybe somebody else is already doing this and you jump in on it at some point. I'm just saying, and it might not happen immediately, but it is going to happen.  Yes, it's so good. So some places we do much better in than other places. Like when I go to Florida, my allergies, I don't have any allergies at all, right? So that place for me is a much healthier environment for me personally. And I love that area. But there are places that we can go to where our energy, it mixes with the energy of the environment. And it kind of comes up and shoots through us and we take off. And for you, this is one of those, you're just going to have a lot of opportunities. They're saying use discernment, they're saying go with the flow, but be smart about it. Don't take every opportunity, look at every opportunity closely. I feel like there's going to be properties that you own there eventually, not all at once. I even see like a place where there's a property in the front and a property in the back. And I just see there's going to be a lot of opportunities. So stop talking yourself out of your future. Oh, I love that line. That's a really good line. Yes, because we all do it, right? Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that. Let's do this. I'm going to use a term stuck, okay? We are stuck and this isn't only for moving, this is for work and any area of our life.  There's something keeping us stuck. Yes. So let's let's clear that. And you know what? All the time I'm going to tell you this, time after time after time after time. This is not another person keeping us stuck. It's not something somebody else is saying or doing. It's a program that we are running in our head of something that has never happened, but we're afraid is going to happen or something that happened in the past. But we've already learned that lesson. So seriously, we don't need to repeat it, right? And we need to move forward and be like, okay, am I going to stay stuck forever? Or am I going to overcome my thought, which is basically what it is. Let's overcome our little thought in our head and jump, right? So that's really what it is.  So when you do this, please call me and let me, you can call me before that, but let me know because I want to hear all about how everything falls into place for you. Okay, love. Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. I really feel butterflies in my stomach right now. Oh, that's another thing I was. Thank you for saying that. Sometimes when we get anxiety, we think it's anxiety, but it's our soul being so excited that we're taking this next step. So really have discernment. Your word of this whole thing is discernment. Have discernment about what properties you accept, discernment about your feelings and really getting to the bottom of this is excitement. This isn't sadness. This is me being excited because my soul knows I'm back on my path and I'm getting there. So really be in that place where that's what your mind is dictating your emotions instead of your emotions or your feelings in your body, jumping to the worst case scenario or worst conclusion about that. I hope that made sense. I really do. Thank you so much. You're so welcome. I really need to hear that. Good. You have an amazing rest of the day and we will talk soon. Okay. All right. Thank you. You are welcome. I'm going to go directly to the next caller and the next caller is 862. Hey, 862. How are you today? Hi. How can I help you? Hi. This is Ashley. Hi. I was just calling about going back to school and if you're for me going back to school for a higher degree. Okay. Going back to school, I hear yes immediately. I don't know why I'm hearing this so I'm just going to ask you. Do you have really strong math skills? I wouldn't say numbers. Maybe that's why I'm hearing it because I keep hearing math, math, math. So maybe that's the numbers thing. Okay. So whatever you decide to go back to school with, you're going to do very, very well. Okay. I do feel like you need to figure out why you, okay. Thank you. You need to figure out what do you really want to, I don't want to say be when you grow up but really research what you want to do with whatever education you get. What's going to really feed that passion? What's going to be, make it worth it to you? I like to start. No, go ahead. To start up businesses? Start up businesses by showing people how to start their companies. I really enjoy doing that. Okay. Well, if you know what, that is a beautiful thing and I think you should take it one step further and I think that you should not only show people how to start businesses. I think you should start a program. Let me tell you about your life and your life path. Let me tell you what you're doing. I'm so sorry. I think you should really think, consider about starting like a program for kids and it talking about entrepreneurship because by the time they hit college, they're taught to fit into somebody else's business and we really need people out there teaching them about having their passion and following that passion and what being an entrepreneur entails and how they can reach that goal. So that I think is going to be a passion project of yours and I think it's going to be something. It is. Awesome. Well then now, so that is what they're confirming for you. This is what you're supposed to do. This is where you're supposed to go but also helping adults start a business but teaching them all the aspects of business also don't limit it to this. It's going to be a series of four or five programs for different age groups and genres and I'll tell you something. Some of the most successful business people are pre pre teens that 12 that 10, 11, 12 year old age bracket. They have great ideas, great creativity and they're smashing it in business. If they get a business idea, nobody's beat down their dreams yet. Nobody's told them they can't yet. So even working with that age group and getting them into that. This is what you need to do with no limits, no limits, no caps because they don't know limits and caps at that point. They don't know like the programming that you get later on in life. They really do develop products and just take off with them. So really that is something that I think if you follow that you're going to do amazing with it. It's going to be an amazing path for you. Okay. Do you think that I think you have everything you need if you tap into your what you already have, you're going to be really surprised at how much you already know about this and what you can do with it, especially with the different age groups. You going back to school is something that's a personal choice for you that will help you feel more accredited or just accomplish more throughout this lifetime. So it's never a bad idea to go back. I don't necessarily think that you need it for this particular path. I hope that makes sense to you. Thank you. You are so welcome and I hope you have an amazing rest of the week and I hope I get to hear back from you and on that I'm going to say, you know, we all have a life path. So I'm going to do a more block.  So I'm going to clear that so anybody listening, re listening. If you're not on your life path or if you're on your life path and you're running into little stumbles, this will help clear that out for you. I'm going to go to the next caller who is 916. Hello, 916. How are you today? Okay, we're going to skip 916 and we are going to go to 310. Hello, 310. Hi, how are you? Good. How are you? How can I help you? I'm doing successful. And the other part of the question is work ethics and everything and how my heart went to the executive board. I sent a copy to the executive HR department and everything they said they're going to have and then they're examining everything. I also told them about the harassment behind the ear between two different coworkers, two PhD voters, so we're all looking at them just wondering. Okay, that's a that's a bit much going on. So and I I'm going to do the best I can for you in the short time I have so I'm going to just I'm going to put you on mute while I answer your question because there is some background noise coming in. The first thing I want to say is everything that happens to us happens for us. It's not actually happening to us. It's happening for us. And sometimes even though something doesn't feel fair or right or the circumstances are being lied about, sometimes we have to embrace the fact that maybe this was not our place, not our thing. And if you were experiencing harassment already, that maybe spirit stepped in and said, you know what, we're going to take you out of this because we have something better for you. Okay. And we're going to put you in this better thing. This often happens with relationships, we fight and fight and fight for a relationship, we fight and fight and fight for this person we love, we fight and fight and fight and fight for this job. And in the end, if we would have just relinquished everything, taken a breath, we would have asked ourselves, what am I fighting for? And why am I the only one fighting for it? Right. And in a job situation, if you're removed from a situation, a lot of times you're removed for your protection in relationships too. If it comes to an end, a lot of times that's for your protection. It's because not even somebody better was out there is just, if you're struggling this much in a situation, it's time to find a new, better place with people more in alignment with you. So as far as the job goes, please understand, if you were already being harassed, this isn't something you want to go back to. Think about that. Move forward with dignity and grace. And don't fight for something that didn't necessarily work out.


Before posting anything, you should always ask yourself, should I be posting this? It was only after the med student tweeted about it that she got in trouble. Welcome back to the channel, everybody. For those of you who are new around here, my name is Michael, aka Dr. Chalini, and I am a board certified diagnostic and an original radiologist in New Jersey. On today's video, I wanted to talk about something that I heard recently involving a med student and a harmful interaction with a patient. And even though I mentioned it on a prior podcast episode, I wanted to do a video entirely devoted to this topic and go into a little more depth on it. So enough babbling, let's go ahead and get into the video. Let's go. All right, so we are just going to jump in on what exactly happened with this particular situation. So a fourth year med student out of my former state of North Carolina, and more specifically, Wake Forest University, was doing blood draws on a patient. And if you don't know anything on how hospitals work, blood draws are usually done by the phlebotomist or a nurse. However, a lot of times med students will do their own IVs and blood draws on patients because it helps them learn. And after all, this is a teaching hospital and they are there for a learning experience. And also depending on what hospital you are at during your residency, you may do them there as well. So any sort of practice up to that point will help you. During my first year of residency or my internship, I did a ton of blood draws and IVs. So again, any practice you get in med school will be advantageous. So back to the story. She was performing a blood draw on a patient and the patient noticed a pin on her white coat saying, see my pronoun. The patient laughed loudly and said, quote, she, her. Well, of course it is. What other pronoun is there? It, so let's stop there. Again, those are not my words. Those are the words of the patients. I'm quoting this for the purpose of the video. So this kind of interaction happens with patients all the time. As you can imagine, not all interactions with patients are good ones. It's just part of the profession. We deal with difficult patients sometimes and even the occasional patient that tries to assault you. It's just part of the job. And I'm not saying it's a good part of the job or even remotely one of my favorite parts of the job, but it is still a part of the job nonetheless. And part of med school and residency is learning how to deal with these kinds of situations because like I mentioned, not all patient interactions are amazing. And I'm trying to put in a pen in the story because I want to make a point here. And the point I'm trying to make is that not all of the patients acting this way are doing it intentionally and we can't lose sight of that. Every patient comes from a different walk of life and may have different views or ideologies, some of which may be extreme and some patients are more outspoken than others, but ultimately you should treat the patient the same regardless of the aforementioned. And the reason we should do this, well, there are many reasons, but one of them is because the patient may not be in control of their actions. They may be demented. They may have mental illness. They may be intoxicated or they may be heavily medicated. As healthcare professionals, we must treat all patients the same in a professional manner. I think every single healthcare professional watching this video right now can comment with an example of when a patient made fun of them or said something extreme to them or even tried to hit them. And please comment below if you've experienced any of these things and you're a healthcare worker. And what happens when these sort of things happen? Well, you just keep going about your day. And I do wanna make myself clear here. I am not by any means saying that this behavior should be part of our job, but unfortunately it kind of is. And we don't have any control of patients actions. So why am I bringing all of this up? Well, for one, this medical student didn't handle the situation in the best manner in my opinion. That's what she did after the interaction that prompted an investigation in the first place. So what did she do? She took to social media, specifically the cesspool that is Twitter. And she tweeted the following, I had a patient I was doing a blood draw on, see my pronoun pen and laugh loudly to the staff. She, her, well, of course it is. What other pronouns even are there? It, and then she went on to say the most important part of this tweet, which was, I missed his vein so he had to get stuck twice. Prying emoji. So let's analyze this tweet a little bit. She's responding to a tweet about transphobia with her own example. The problem is she's talking about an interaction with one of her patients. Now this isn't exactly HIPAA because she doesn't include any specific patient information or have any way to identify that specific patient, but she is quoting a private conversation she had with a patient and putting it on social media. So while that doesn't fall in the realm of HIPAA, that's kind of that ethical gray area. And like I said, the second line of this tweet is what sent off all the red flags. I missed the vein so we had to get stuck twice. Okay, so this is the problem with social media. This tweet could be interpreted a million different ways. And if we know anything about Twitter, we know that anything that you say that could have different interpretations or interesting undertones will be blown up in every possible polarizing manner. This tweet was no different. So did she intentionally miss the vein in order to hurt the patient, to get back to the patient for making fun of her pen? Or did she feel bad for missing the vein twice? Is that a sad emoji or a sarcastic one? You see what I mean here? It's the second line of this tweet that can have many, many meanings. And as you can imagine, Twitter took it and ran with it. Just for an example, the Libs of TikTok account with over 600,000 followers on Twitter said, tagged wait for school medicine and said, fourth year Med student says she abused a patient because he laughed at her pronoun pen. She has since deleted her account. So this is what happens as we know on Twitter, somebody tweets something out, someone identifies it, and then a big account tweets it out and they usually will tag the school or the person's occupation or whatnot. So what did wait for us have to say about this tweet? This was the original response once the school found out. Wait for us school of medicine said in a statement, the actions described in the student social media posts do not in any way reflect the quality of care and compassion that wait for us university school of medicine strives to provide to our patients each and every day. We stand behind our values that include trust, excellence and space where all belong and we can actively reinforce those values with learners and providers the school said. While federal law does not permit us to share specific information, we are taking the proper measures to address the matter with the student school leadership is involved. So now that we had that generic response from the school, what was everybody else on Twitter saying? Well, in case you're wondering, here's some of the quotes or retweets that I found. Let's read the first one. The student needs to be expelled and the police needs to be notified. If the school does not handle this appropriately, I hope the patient sues the student and the school. Next, this individual simply cannot be trusted to the patient. They need to be removed from the program, nothing else. How about one more? I'm not ever going to let a doctor from this school become involved in any aspect of my medical care. This one student seriously degraded the reputation of the entire university with a single tweet. See how powerful these tweets are? Wait for us now has a reputation of their graduates assaulting patients. And what about the other people who saw it a little differently? Well, one commenter said, doctors miss my veins all the time. It's not malpractice to be human. Another said, is there any indication this was deliberate? And another user asked, it's dumb and unethical to post about it. But it seems like it could also just be an amusing coincidence.   They stated the following. Our documentation verifies that after the student physician was unsuccessful in obtaining the blood draw, the student appropriately deferred a second attempt to one of our certified professionals. The student did not attempt a blood draw again. The school reportedly wrote. So what exactly happened to the student? Well, the student was ultimately placed on a leave of absence as a result of inappropriate and a misleading post. This is all according to a statement that the university put out. The student involved actually put out a long apology in the university campus paper in which she basically blamed being inexperienced and saying she never intended harm to the patient. Here is her full apology. For the event mentioned in the tweet, I was performing a blood draw on a patient and during our conversation, they had shown dismay at my pronoun pen. Del Rosario wrote in her statement. I calmly shared my thoughts about the pronouns and did not escalate the situation further. When I was doing the blood draw, I missed the first time due to my inexperience as a student and per our policy, my supervisor performed the successful blood draw the second time. During this encounter, I never intended to harm the patient. Okay, so now that we've heard both sides of the argument, what exactly do I think about this whole situation? Well, I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt here because I doubt that she was maliciously poking the patient multiple times on purpose. What probably happened is just like the article stated. She was clearly upset with what the patient said to her and she wanted to tell the Twitter world what happened, which again, probably not the best idea to share a conversation that you had with a patient on social media, regardless of how good or bad it was. She then likely tried to get Venus access, which she couldn't, which isn't uncommon for someone who is learning. However, if she didn't just feel the need to post this on social media in the first place, she would have never been in this situation. So therein lies the problem. Why even post to social media in the first place? And while we're on this topic, let's talk about med school and how they don't prepare any med student for using social media. And they most certainly should, especially with how popular social media is today and how common it is to see a healthcare worker on social media. It's a blessing to be able to reach a large portion of the public. You can educate them and even market yourself or practice. But it's also a curse because even one small mess up can have career altering effects, especially in medicine. I personally think it's very important for physicians to get involved in social media. And I also think it's just as important to train the next generation to use social media and train them to use it safely and efficiently. The medical education system is very antiquated in the fact that they only teach medicine. But these days, doctors need to know so much more than just medicine. They need to know marketing. They need to know finance. And yes, they need to know social media. If you've been watching my channel for some time now, you know that I have strong feelings about the lack of personal finance, education and medical school, but social media is right there with it. The reason I think social media should be a part of the medical curriculum because it's so important for them to know how to use social media effectively without risking their careers that they worked so hard for. Social media is a great tool to express creativity, provide mentorship for the next generation of doctors, educate the public, market yourself or business, or even be used as a tool to inspire others to go into medicine. It is an excellent tool for medical professionals, but its impact should not be taken lightly. This is just one example of how a med student experienced the negative consequences of using social media, but it also should be taken as a learning experience for others. Before posting anything, you should always ask yourself, should I be posting this? Or could this be misinterpreted in a different way? Or even better, run it by somebody else before posting it. So that officially concludes this video. Please hit the subscribe button and like this video. Comment below if you have any questions or comments on this particular topic. As always, make sure you follow me on Instagram and TikTok if you don't already and I'll see you all on the next video. Bye.


Did you mean anything to the narcissist? The narcissist is very good at making you feel special. Making you feel as though you are distinguished by some unusual quality or you are superior in some way. You begin to feel as though you are something significant and important to the narcissist. But this is actually nothing more than an illusion. They have given you a deceptive impression and they have planted false ideas and beliefs within your mind. You never meant anything to the narcissist because they only saw you as something that was temporary. Something to support them for a limited time. You were just a toy. You were just something for them to play with when they were bored, which is why they were so excited when they first met you. It was like a kid who just got a new toy, but as time goes by they get bored of the toy. They don't want to play with it anymore. It no longer interests or excites them and this is what happens with the narcissist. They lose interest in you because they are constantly distracted by other things. They are constantly looking for someone else to give them that rush of excitement, which they experienced at the beginning. Because you can no longer affect them in that way. When they first met you it was very exciting for them and they weren't interested in you. At that time you were very significant and important to the narcissist. Because you were a new source of supply, but as time goes by you no longer arouse their interest or enthusiasm. You may notice that the narcissist always treats other people far better than they treat you. They treat the people closest to them the worst. It's easy for the narcissist to mistreat them and put them down. Because they are disposable, they don't interest the narcissist anymore. It's got boring or tiresome of the narcissist. As a result of repetition or over familiarity. It no longer has the same effect as it used to. It's like an old vacuum cleaner that doesn't even work anymore. All it does is take up a space and that is why it's so easy for them to replace you. Once they have become used to having you around. You are no longer significant or important to them. They can get rid of you without any consideration for you. It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship with them. They can replace you just like they might replace anyone else. They have to operate in this way because they know that everyone they deal with has an expiry date. They know that at some point you're going to figure them out or they're going to get bored of you. They know that it's only a matter of time. They know that this is unavoidable so they don't invest too much of their effort or emotions. Because you don't have any special meaning to them and you're not going to be around for long. They are expecting this to happen and without your knowledge or awareness. They are looking for your replacement because they have this compulsive desire for excitement and adventure. They get bored very quickly and constantly needs something new. They need attention and admiration from other people. They need to experience sex with other people. And there's really no way around this once they've learned you and gotten used to having you around. The longer you remain around a narcissist, the more your significance and value begins to deteriorate. So when they meet someone new, there is no way for you to compete with them.  And even this new person will one day get old and lose their significance and value just as many other sources did before them. Which is why the narcissist is constantly seeking new sources of supply. And any relation to a partner who is currently with the narcissist will be discarded to make room for the new source, with a stronger effect on them. You never meant anything significant to the narcissist. Nothing you had, did or shared together was anything significant. It meant nothing, but a lot of people don't understand this. They look back at all the time, energy, emotions and money that they invested into the narcissist. Everything that they put up with. Everything that they had to go through. And they think that it must have meant something, but it didn't mean anything. You were just a temporary form of support. While they were waiting for the next person to make them feel alive. But none of these people really mattered to them. What matters most is that feeling they get from being around them. It makes them feel like they exist. But they cannot feel that way without constantly being involved with new people. Some narcissists may change sources quicker than others. It also depends on the source. If the source is willing to support the narcissist and put up with a lot of the things that they do. Then the relationship could last a very long time. But the only reason it lasts that long is because the source is tolerating it. And enabling the situation to continue. The source is providing the narcissist with supply. And that is the only reason why the narcissist is still with them. But that doesn't mean they are loyal. They will have other sources of supply. They cannot survive without having multiple sources. Because they have a compulsive desire for excitement and adventure. And the longer they spend around one source, the less satisfied it becomes. They are addicted to people and the energy that they get from them. They are addicted to attention. There is just no way that you could ever mean anything significant to the narcissist. You could never be the only one. But you believed in the illusion that they displayed to you. You believed that it was real when the entire time that you were with them, you were sharing them with other people. It was never an exclusive relationship. But when you realise and accept this to be true, it makes it easier for you to leave the situation. Knowing that it was never a real relationship. Because they were never exclusive to you. But as long as you allow them to mislead you, they will stick around. They're not going to leave if they have someone they can fool. They will keep that fool around for as long as they can. But you never had or shared anything with the narcissist. No matter how long you were with them, no matter how long you chose to stick around, it was wasted on someone who is not worthy of your time and attention. Because you wanted it to be something significant or meaningful. But it wasn't because you're no longer with them. Stop replaying those memories in your head and applying significance or meaning to something that didn't mean anything. If they really loved you, if you were really something significant to them, then they would have had consideration for you. If they didn't have any concern for you, then they didn't have your best interest in mind. There would have been a deeper meaning to it. Rather than just things that are shallow or superficial, things that only exist on the surface. If you were dealing with someone who was considerate, they wouldn't have blown everything out of the water. They wouldn't have overreacted or treated the situation too seriously. They would have identified the problem and tried to fix it. But they wouldn't have put you at risk of danger or harm. Narcissists are not mature or considerate. They will blow things out of the water and do things that greatly impact your life. And then they will just come back as though nothing happened. If you meant anything to them, if they really valued and appreciated you, they wouldn't have let it go that far. Thank you for watching. I hope this video has it with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. 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Hey, good morning and welcome to this week's edition of Encompass Live. I am your host, Krista Burns, here at the Nebraska Library Commission. Encompass Live is the Commission's weekly online event. We're a webinar, we're a webcast, an online show. The terminology, as I say, is up for debate, whatever you want to call us. We call these things, but whatever you want to call us, we are here live every Wednesday morning at 10 a.m. Central Time. If you're unable to join us on Wednesday mornings, that's okay. We do record the show every week, as we are doing this morning, and then they are posted onto our website. I will show you at the end of the day show where that is, so you can get all of today's recording, if you want to, and any of our previous sessions that we have done. The show and the live show and the recordings on our website are free and open to anyone to watch. If you are thinking of today's topic or one of our other topics of interest to any of your friends, family or colleagues, do pass on our links and information to them. Anyone who wants to can join up with us and then watch our recordings afterwards. We do a mixture of things here on Encompass Live, book reviews, mini-training sessions, interviews, demos of software. Basically anything library related or could potentially be of interest to libraries, things libraries are doing, new products, resources, things they might be interested in. That's really our only criteria is that it somehow is of use to libraries out there. We do have Nebraska Library Commission staff that sometimes do do presentations here, and we do some more Nebraska-centric things and things that we're doing here out of the Library Commission, but we do also bring in guest speakers, and that's what we've got today. On the line with us from just up the road in Omaha is Amy Schindler, who is the director of the Archives and Special Collections at the Chris Library at the University of Nebraska at Omaha. Good morning, Amy. Good morning, Christa, and good morning, everyone. She's going to talk to us about a work in progress still. A new collection that they've started up at UNO, the Queer Omaha Archives. I heard about this on a colleague of mine, a librarian colleague shared about it on Facebook that you were having your dedication opening, some events about it in the last couple of months, and it seemed like a really cool local thing that was being done. So I reached out to Amy, and luckily she was available to join us and tell us a lot more about what's going on with this new archive. So I will just hand it over to you, Amy, to take it away and tell us about what you've been doing up there. Okay, thank you, Christa, for inviting me to do this Encompass Live presentation. We're really excited to share more about Nebraska Omaha's Queer Omaha Archives with everyone today. As Christa said, the Queer Omaha Archives is a very new project for us, and we really appreciate the Nebraska Library Commission's interest, as well as the interest and support of those of you who may be watching today or in our recorded future. So as I was thinking about this presentation over the last few weeks, one of the notes I wrote to myself was, why are we here today? What does UNO's Chris Library have to share? And the further than thought was, what's so special about what we're doing? Part of the answer that I found for myself is, firstly, it's actually really nice to be able to share the sometimes important, sometimes exciting, and the often enjoyable work we're doing at our institutions with others. But as I was thinking further about why should I do this webinar with the Queer Omaha Archives, it's not necessarily something new in the United States. I was reminded of other presentations I've attended or seen mentioned about new LGBTQ collections or collecting initiatives in recent years. There always seemed to be a few people in the audience or in the comments on blogs or other posts later who did not know that this was a thing, okay? So I'm here today to add to the body of work about LGBTQ archives and collections and also to remind myself and my GLAM colleagues out there that there's always more work for us, outreach and otherwise to do. I don't think I'm surprising anyone with that statement. So this work, of course, includes talking about our projects when we have access to form like this until everyone knows about our archives and our repositories. So today I'm going to talk about our collecting initiatives background, our partnerships involved in its creation and ongoing work, the mostly good news about the recent launch of the Queer Omaha Archives. And then we'll also talk a bit about our plans for moving forward, sort of what is next. So I'll begin with a few words just to situate myself in the Queer Omaha Archives. I'm a cisgender straight white woman archivist who's leading this collecting initiative. Further, I'm a new resident of Omaha and Nebraska, having set foot here on the Great Plains the first time less than three years ago. The Queer Omaha Archives joins a long list of similar collections in community, academic, historical societies, and other archives and special collections. LEGAR, the Lesbian and Gay Archives Round Table of the Society of American Archivists, is about over 30 years old. And its guide to repositories, Lavender Legacies, is about 20 years old. And just to interject here, my moment of feeling long in the tooth, as we say, last week was remembering how helpful Lavender Legacies was back in the early days of the internet, and then also recalling my own contributions to it, updating entries in the early days of this century. When you think back to the internet, you know, 15 and 20 years ago, it sort of makes one pause a little bit. My bigger point here though being just that the Queer Omaha Archives is joining many other established archives. And, you know, as we acknowledge, we are overdue for this initiative in Omaha and in Nebraska. So UNO's LGBTQ material in the archives prior to 2015 was not voluminous. We have some material in the Congressional Papers of Chuck Hagel, but that collection was closed. And much of what was in the University Archives was the usual type of material you would expect to find in a University Archives, including things like eight-and-a-half pilot and flyers like this one that were posted around campus, articles in the student newspapers, as well as some somewhat brief mentions in Faculty Senate and Task Force records. And as a side note, we might have some personal papers of LGBT folks here in the archives, but they were not identified as such at the time that those collections were initially accessioned. So that's a project to sort of go back and re-examine some of our collections to see what else may be in there as far as content and to do some additional description of those collections. So in 2014, Chris Library Archives and Special Collections revised its entire collecting statement for the first time since the Reagan administration. So the new portion of our collecting statement that relates to the Queer Omaha Archives is on your screen here. It reads, material in Special Collections includes unique and specialized items of local, state, and regional interest with a particular focus on Omaha history and culture, and then emphasis added here. Areas of focus are individuals and organizations which have traditionally been under-documented. We intentionally left this broad. We knew that there was a lot of work to be done in the Omaha community that could be done. We spent some time, myself and my colleague Bob Nash spent some time in 2014. We went on archives field trips and visited with some of our other colleagues here in the area at other cultural heritage institutions, learning about what they were collecting, sort of floating the ideas of things we were thinking about adding to our collecting statement and getting a little feedback from our colleagues. Here at UNO though, for a number of years prior to 2013 really, the archives faced a pretty sad circumstance that unfortunately many archives and special collections had faced. We didn't have enough staff, space was insufficient, and we didn't have enough resources. Actively collecting archival and manuscript collections was not always encouraged, supported, or frankly even possible. The good news for us is that between 2013 and 2015, the department doubled from four people to eight people. Our workspace was also significantly expanded and beautifully renovated. And relatedly, we also then had an increased emphasis on collecting new material for the archives and providing access. So what really, really got the Queer Omaha Archives off the ground came about last year. In October 2015 during LGBTQ History Month, Josh Berford of UNC Charlotte was invited to campus by my wonderful UNO colleague, Jesse Hitchens. Jesse is the director of the Gender and Sexuality Resource Center here at UNO's, it's part of UNO Student Affairs Unit.  His visit, as you can see, was co-sponsored by Sociology and Anthropology Department, the GSRC, and the Gender and Sexual Orientation Student Agency. As I said, the Queer Omaha Archives was created pretty directly because of this event. In the days before Berford visited campus, he reached out to me inquiring if the archives here had an interest in creating an LGBTQ collection, to which our answer was, yes, of course. We hadn't gotten to that yet, but we are very interested in it. And then followed up with, thank you very much for getting all these campus folks thinking about the possibility and talking about it, and getting the folks with potential interests together in a room. So after those two talks in November 2015, my campus colleague, Jesse Hitchens, put out a call to her extensive Rolodex of Campus and Community Contacts for meeting here in Chris Library to discuss creating an LGBTQ collection at UNO. The folks invited included representatives from various community organizations, representatives from student organizations, some queer faculty members, including those who were teaching courses that were part of a new LGBTQ and sexuality studies minor here at UNO that's directed by Professor Jay Irwin. And then, of course, Chris Library's Archives and Special Collections was at that meeting. Attendees, brainstorm potential collections and folks to contact for this new archives we were talking about. To start the meeting off, I provided some basic information about what an archives would and would not collect, how the donation process works, including the ever-exciting donor agreements, and also talked about potential financial contributions to support the ongoing work of the collection. We discussed how researchers might use the material because some people who aren't familiar with the work we do in archives, libraries, museums, of course, might ask, well, what's the point of collecting all this? What are you going to do with it? And then, of course, we also talked with folks about what we would do to care for the collection long term. And there's a bit of that work of reassuring folks that this isn't a passing fancy, it's not something we're just going to do for a year or five years, and then it will go away, or it will go away when a particular person or someone else leaves the university that there's a long-term commitment to care for this collection. We always want to reassure folks about that. We also explained to folks there that there are some things we would not want to add to the collection, and this might be for reasons of space, preservation needs, or that the material on offer was outside of our usual scope. For example, things like t-shirts. We're very fortunate, obviously, in 2016 to have the option to fairly easily photograph objects that we do not want to add physically to our collections. So we would then retain the photos of those items in our collection. And an example of t-shirts, we might even eventually submit the photos that we've added to our collection to a site like this, like wearinggayhistory.com, which is a wonderful site and you should go browse it if you haven't already. So also at our organizing meeting, we discussed the potential geographic scope of the collection. For those of you who are joining us from outside of Nebraska, I know there's a couple of you out there. You're probably like most of us who maybe haven't lived in the Midwest and not quite aware of where things are situated, but Omaha is located in the easternmost part of Nebraska. Driving across the state is a drive of around six hours, and we're very much a Midwestern city, as well as being part of the Great Plains. But I also think of us as being pretty close to my notion of the American West. Omaha is situated immediately across the Missouri River from Council Bluffs, Iowa. And about one half of the state's population lives here in the Omaha Metro area. At our initial organizing meeting back in November, we ultimately decided that the collection would collect material from the Omaha Metro area. This they defined that metro area. But we would also be open to collecting material from across the state of Nebraska in the future. If another cultural heritage organization in Lincoln or another community in the state did not have a particular interest or tie to collecting that material that might have been offered to us. So that metro area material does include very Western Iowa Council Bluffs since it's part of our metro area. Our attendees at our initial organizing meeting were also very interested in the potential oral history project. Many people of course are when they hear about it. We discussed possibilities for folks who could be interviewed and how we might go about collecting those interviews. And this is something that I have experienced with from work at a previous institution. We talked about how the oral history program could be a funded project. We could raise money to hire someone to do the oral history interviews. But we also talked about other options such as working with a small group of interested and trained individuals from the community or a specific organization. Or working with a UNO class faculty member and students who might collect oral history interviews as part of their coursework. We also had some further discussion of potential projects with UNO faculty related to their courses. As far as both the students going out and seeking material and letting us back in the archives know about material they'd come across. Maybe especially in private hands during the course of their own research. But then we also indicated that we could be interested, depending on what it was of course, be interested in adding material created by our students as part of their coursework that could then come to the archives. Our group also discussed long term goals related to fundraising. And it really warmed my heart how much folks in attendance understood the need to raise money to support this initiative both in the short and long term. We discussed things like potentially establishing an endowment and the possibility for renaming the collection to honor community members in the future. And sort of almost finally we knew when we were together that day that we wanted to hold a very public event to announce the collection of the public, to welcome the public. Not only into the archives and into the library but onto campus. We are a metropolitan university here at UNO and that community engagement and having members of the community come to our campus as well as those on campus go off campus, work with the community is very important. We initially thought that we would hold our community launch just a couple of months later in February. It was very ambitious of us. The final piece of business we discussed at that initial organizing meeting was what we were going to call this initiative. We had been referring to it more as a sort of a sentence like the name, it really wasn't a name proper. So after some discussion, the name Queer Omaha Archives was selected by those in attendance. In the weeks that followed our initial meeting with committee members and students and faculty members. Jesse Hitchens from the Gender and Sexuality Resource Center and I had a bit of a reality check with each other. We both acknowledged that we had a lot going on in those winter months. So we decided that we would delay our plans by a few months and hold our public reception announcing the collection in this summer. This time it was important to the archives and I think it's a successful launch for a number of reasons. First, we decided to hold our launch event this summer so we didn't have to worry about winter weather. But more importantly, after doing it in the summer allowed us to have it after our annual Heartland Pride Festival. And this of course would then allow us to do some outreach at Pride and related to Pride. Secondly, delaying that public launch gave me time in the archives to work with a very enthusiastic student to build the LGBTQ records in the University Archives. We probably had I would say less than 50 identified pages and that was mostly fires. When we were getting this started and working with that student, we've built that up to several cubic foot of records that now include publications, even more fliers, administrative records of student organizations, some memorabilia, and signs from protest and rallies like the one you see here. The student's passion and interest for the archives was frequently demonstrated as they made numerous trips from the student union to the library, bringing boxes of records from multiple student organizations and offering us various pieces of memorabilia. I just want to note here that we accepted some of the memorabilia and other material that our student offered, but we also declined some of what was offered. So that's just a reminder for all of us that appraisal is important. Even in the early stages of building a collecting initiative when you may be somewhat fearful, you know, you don't want to discourage people by saying no, but there are some things we should not accept and we need to be forthright with our potential donors and educate them about what we may and may not want. Before I leave this slide, I'll just share sort of my fun archives fact about this sign. At the bottom of this sign there, it's sort of dark in this particular version of the scan, but that's glitter. And this particular sign, after we received it over the winter, led to the creation of my favorite note on an archival container to date. And it always makes me giggle when I open that particular map case drawer. The folder reads, Warning, Contains Glitter. That's probably not something you see in most library collections, that kind of warning. Not usually.  I could say, yeah, it could be like laminated or something to make it less falling off. No, no, Kristy, we never laminate. No. Okay, sorry. That's an evil word. We encapsulate. And plastic mylar sleeves. There you go, yeah. Yeah. And we've since received a couple other, these are signs, posters from rallies and protests and things. So we've received a few others that have glitter as well, but this is probably the first one and it's really probably my favorite. So I have to share that. Thank you. Thanks for that sidebar. So during this past spring semester, we also had an opportunity to continue solidifying some of the libraries and archives partnerships on campus with the UNO Gender and Sexuality Resources Center, but also with English professor, Tammy Kennedy. The library was a co-sponsor for a series of events last April that we dubbed the Sexuality Extravaganza, which included a screening of the wonderful documentary, TIG, with director Christina Golsby, and that was co-sponsored by Film Streams. And then we also had appearances by author Anna Pulley and artist Kelsey Beyer for their wonderful book, The Lesbian High Coup Book with Cats, Explanation Point. This partnership created an opportunity for the library to be included in these events. Some of them were held at the library, but when you co-sponsor an event, your name always gets mentioned, you know, on the publicity, but then at the actual, the book reading, the film screening. Not only was the library mentioned as a co-sponsor, but we also then would have an opportunity for this mention of, so hey, we're starting this new initiative called the Queer Omaha Archives here at UNO. And so that was a way to get that in front of some of our students and UNO employees. So that was great. Another partnership with English professor, Tammy Kennedy, was the ingestion of her students' work into the Queer Omaha Archives. Professor Kennedy offered her Queer Film course for the first time during the spring semester. She had decided to require her students to do their responses to films and some other writing on individual blogs that were created for the course. And early in the semester, she extended the invitation to her students to add their blogs to the Queer Omaha Archives after talking with us, of course. And according to Professor Kennedy, when she offered this to the students, they were all excited by the offer, and she said it seemed to make them a bit more thoughtful about the work that they were producing. And this is just a photo of Professor Kennedy, her students, and some of their guests at a film screening. In this upcoming fall semester, we're going to work with Professor Kennedy and another faculty member on two different courses they're doing. And their students are going to have an oral history component. And the intention there is that those oral histories that they're collecting with Omaha community members will be added to the Queer Omaha Archives. So let me move on to the public launch of the collection. We signed up to share a table with our friends from the Gender and Sexuality Resources Center at Heartland Pride Festival in Pest June. This is our ad that appeared in the Pride program. We paid a little extra for that. And then we also distributed this on postcard-sized flyers at Pride. And on the reverse side was a brief blurb about what the archives was with a link to our contact info on our website. And then, as Christy mentioned, how she heard about this whole thing was also shared widely in the community on Facebook and other platforms.  But I heard from a lot of other folks too at Pride and then also at our public launch, you know, sort of chatting them up. So how did you hear about this, you know, to hear about it from so-and-so or so-and-so? And, you know, I just, I saw it on Facebook. So, you know, as much as I bemoan Facebook some days, it's helpful. It definitely has its uses, yes, absolutely. And I think I actually saw someone link to this flyer somewhere, like online or something. I do recognize it, yeah, from what I was looking at on Facebook, yeah. And I mean, that's something to talk about is sort of how much I think about when I had my first, like, academic archive job, archive's job, you know, 15 years ago. And I remember going out and prospecting for collections at the time. And it was, I was sending paper letters because, you know, if they had a website, it often didn't have even an email on it. I just had to call people on the phone. So, you know, we still do that now, but it certainly, it took a lot more effort, you know, to get that reach that we're able to get much quicker now. You have to use all of the resources you have at hand, yeah. Any type of promotional area you can get into. Absolutely. So, and a further result of that sharing on Facebook was about a week before Heartland Pride, I was contacted by Terry Sweeney. Mr. Sweeney had lots of questions for me about this new collecting initiative he'd heard about on Facebook. He was asking questions that, frankly, I do not typically receive from, you know, prospective donor during our first chat. He was asking about our, what was our funding model going to be? What was our long-term sustainability plan? He would even quiz me about the particulars of our collecting policy that he had browsed our website and found. Someone who was reading our collecting policy was quite impressive. But during that conversation, it was a long conversation. He very quickly decided that he wished to donate his collection to us in honor of his deceased life partner Pat Phelan. The Terry Sweeney and Pat Phelan papers include local magazines that they had a role in publishing called The New Voice. Also programs that you see here, lots of photos, several scrapbooks, a good bit of memorabilia and more material. Terry is a fairly organized person, I would say. As you can see on the right there, I think you'd read it, on the Ziploc bags, which you might chuckle at, but he's labeled the Ziploc bags as to their contents. So we know that, you know, those two banners, which marches they were from, they were carried by the Nebraska delegations at the marches on Washington in the 80s and early 90s. And one of them was actually signed by the folks from Nebraska who attended the 1987 march on Washington. So the collection includes lots of interesting documents and photographs, as well as some of that memorabilia. And frankly, because of the perfect timing of Terry's gift, you know, these photos you see here, these were sort of the quick photos I took with my camera, you know, day or two before Pride, as well as a few others, and, you know, put them on an iPad and was able to show those two folks that we were talking with at Pride, when we were talking about these are the types of things that we already have in the Queer Omaha archives, and that we want more of. So here is a picture of our table at Heartland Pride Festival, and the little close up there at the top is, you have to have giveaways. People love the giveaways. So we had a whole bunch of things, including the UNO beach balls, which children of all ages enjoy beach balls. I can tell you that. But we also had some temporary tattoos, excuse me, temporary tattoos and some buttons. The library recently got a button maker, and people have been very enthusiastic about using our button maker. We were also fortunate that our wonderful student supporter also promoted the Queer Omaha Archives for us at a separate Pride event the evening before that was specifically for teens and young people. That very warm Nebraska Saturday, we talked to over 400 people at our table during the just under six hours that we were able to keep ourselves hydrated. And this included members of the general public who were walking by stopped by to get a pen or a button or what have you, and we chatted them up. But it also included folks from other community organizations, and some of the folks who I had been emailing with in the weeks leading up to Pride about potential donations to the archives did stop by the table. I told them we would be there, and then I hope they would stop by. And several of them actually did stop by the table, and we were able to have brief conversations. But it was also just important that they could see me and meet me and realize I was a real person and not just somebody behind an email address. And I think of benefit for the university is that we also ended up talking with a number of students who were going to be coming to UNO. So they were incoming freshmen or transfer students or graduate students who were at Pride. Some of them were there with their parents. And that was a nice opportunity to talk about the university as an inclusive environment. And I think that made some of the parents who we were seeing that day freshman feel a little bit better about their little ones leaving the nest. So we invited everyone to visit our website to come to the opening on July 13. We had cards that we were handling out, our cards with more information, the invitation that we were handing out that day. So the actual launch. About a month before our opening reception, Jesse Hitchens and I met with a colleague from our university communications office. And we were actually thrilled because they had contacted us about a press release for the Queer Omaha Archives and potential media placements. So that announcement went out the week before the event. The announcement that was written by the university was picked up and published in a few local papers as those press releases often are. And then Jesse and I spoke with a reporter from the Omaha World Herald, which is our major newspaper here. And she wrote an article for the newspaper. I was also interviewed by a local radio station before the actual reception. And then a local TV station came to the reception and filmed some B-roll footage. And they included mention of our reception in sort of one of those around the metro, you know, 30-second news highlight clips that you see on the local news. So we were happy with the media coverage that the Queer Omaha Archives opening received. I was, however, once again reminded that the online comment section of newspaper articles, apparently especially on Facebook, in the case of the Omaha World Herald newspaper, are often not what I would call an affirming and happy place to visit. So in the interest of self-care, just a reminder to everyone, it can be important to schedule something joyful or cleansing to do after reading those comments. Some people use the phrase, you know, just never read the comments. But sometimes it is, I think it's important. You'll see in all sorts of topics that some things it'll be agreeable and some not. It's better to be aware of what's going on out there. But then, yeah, I like your idea. Just, you know, afterwards do something good for yourself. Yeah, I sort of very intensely waited until Saturday afternoon, read the comments, and then I went to the Jocelyn Art Museum and saw an exhibit I've been waiting to see. And I haven't gone back to revisit the comments since.  But I will say that I want to make sure that everyone knows that we are going to include copies of all of those comments in the Queer Omaha Archives in our ephemera collection. So we want to make sure that we document the public's reception of the collection, and that'll include the happy photos from our reception, as well as those comments that people made on a news article. It's all part of history, yes. It is, and we do get to choose what we put in the archives. So we're, you know, we're choosing to put that in there. One thing reporters, I was asked by a reporter for this opening, and I've been asked about other collections and other repositories I've worked at, is what are people's reaction to this new collection? And then the sort of their follow-up question is, you know, is your boss okay with it? Is the president, you know, of the university or the chancellor? Have they said anything to you? And usually at that point, you know, it hasn't maybe gone public until there hasn't been much of a reaction. And so it's not until that newspaper article comes out that you sort of hear that, any negative reaction. But it happened, so be prepared for that. So this, I just want to mention here, kind of a quick sidebar. The button here is about amendment 416. This anti-amendment 416 button was actually offered to the Queer Omaha Archives the day before our opening reception, maybe two days by my wonderful library colleague, Angela Krueger. And it was actually a great item to have in the collection, and I was like, oh no, we are displaying this at the reception. There's no answer about it. And actually, more than one person when I was chatting with them at the reception or afterwards said, you know, I've got some things about 416 I've been holding on to. And it wasn't a lot of material, but they had something they had held on to. And do you think you might want that for the archives? And we were like, yes, of course, please offer us that material. We would love to have it. That's the idea, yeah. And I should say Angela is who I saw about the archives on Facebook from. She's the one who shared about the opening and got me connected with you. Got us, got us, got us together. Angela is one of my colleagues here in our archives and special collections. She's a cataloger. So back to the party. So we held the opening reception for the Queer Omaha Archives about actually two weeks ago on July 13. We were absolutely thrilled to welcome over 80 guests to CURSE Library Archives and Special Collections that evening. Our target audience for the event was the general public, but it was also open to you and employees and students. And we ended up with guests split pretty closely between those populations of members of the public, UNO students and UNO employees. And while a number of our wonderful library colleagues came to show their support, we also welcomed folks from across campus, most of whom had never visited archives and special collections. So that was wonderful for us. The Archives and Special Collections staff and students, I have to say, did amazing work that leading up to it to make it a success and provide all of our guests with a great experience. You can see in the top two photos there, we have a display of items from the Queer Omaha Archives that we staged in our workroom. And our workroom is where we do all of our arrangement and description of collections. And then we also had a brief program that included Jesse Hitchens there on the lower left and the Dean of the UNO Libraries, Dave Richards. They talked about our goals and dreams for the collection, including future potential donations, this, you know, potential oral history program, paid student internships, possible paid student internships, hoped for student internships, hoped for fundraising and more. And so it usually happens to archivists when you get into conversation. That evening we heard about many basements, garages, and storage units that needed to be visited. We also heard about personal stories from folks that needed to be recorded. They didn't have any records, but they have a story to share. And also as we were talking with maybe the younger professionals who joined us that evening, the younger folks, the non-students, younger folk, and then some newer members of the Omaha community as well, we were talking with them about potential outreach and other kinds of events that we could hold with the Queer Omaha Archives or that we could hold in the library's archives, you know, hosting, you know, they do like a monthly happy hour and we could host that in the archives and have a display of material just for, there's a local group here in Omaha called Rebel. That's kind of a younger lesson of the reception. It was past time for my wonderful colleagues from archives who'd been there from the beginning of the reception to go home. And then a bit later, as I said to a few enthusiastic guests a little later, as the library was closing, we would maybe host future events in the library during the academic year where the library's open until midnight. That night we were only open until nine. So what's next for the Queer Omaha Archives? We have a number of community members and organizations that we're following up with about donating collections. I've heard from multiple community members who'd like to volunteer with us on organizing collections, and we decided we're going to have one volunteer start in August and then we're going to wait a few months when we have some more collections and have things a bit more ready to bring in further volunteers in the community. We are going to be talking with an organization next month about a potential fundraising initiative. We want to capitalize on the success of our opening reception and ensure that we maintain contact with attendees. Conveniently, our library here at UNO recently welcomed a new communications specialist to our staff. She actually joined us the week before the reception. So we're going to be talking with her about how best to maintain a flow of information to folks who are interested in the Queer Omaha Archives. We're also talking with an arts organization about potential joint programming in the months ahead. And this is someone the library has never previously worked with, so that's pretty exciting for us. And we'd also like to hear from local and regional cultural heritage organizations who may have an interest in working together on this or related initiatives. We set up the Queer Omaha Archives site, this site on OMECA, just to show folks how we can display digital objects that are part of the collection, as well as to serve as a home for information about the Queer Omaha Archives. You can see that it includes information about how to make donations. There's a link there to the university's foundation, so people can get dropped in and make a gift directly to the Queer Omaha Archives fund. We set up the OMECA site also in part because this past spring, the library was going through a website redesign, and we're moving from one platform to a new CMS. Pages were changing. We weren't going to be able to sort of update things in the weeks leading up to the public launch this summer in Pride. So the OMECA site allowed us to promote, you know, we're going to be at Pride on Saturday, see us there, and, you know, save the day to have that information out there for folks. Our OMECA site also links to finding aids that we have for collections that are part of the Queer Omaha Archives. You can see here we use Archive Space for our collection management system. And just a cataloging note, as my colleague Angela and I were working on accessioning these first collections for the Queer Omaha Archives, she raised the matter of how should we identify those collections in their finding aids. And at her suggestion, we went with, you can see there at the bottom, a local subject heading that just says Queer Omaha Archives. And everything donated after November 2015 that was given with some intention by the donor for the Queer Omaha Archives will receive this subject heading. And then what we're doing to connect any collections we received prior to the official launch of the Queer Omaha Archives is we have, we use live guides for our research guides. And we can see we have a whole bunch of different subject guides for things from archives and special collections. So we'll use this for material-related LGBTQIA history on live guides. So thank you again, everybody. The Queer Omaha Archives at UNO Chris Library Archives and Special Collections, as we said, was established to collect, to provide access to, and preserve the history of LGBTQIA life in the region. We have a long way to go in the work ahead of us. But the enthusiastic response, mostly enthusiastic response, this collecting initiative from partner organizations, members of the public, students and others has in my, I will acknowledge, biased opinion been wonderful for the archives, but also pretty darn good for the library and the university as well. I think it's opening the eyes of many folks on and off campus to the potential of partnerships between the archives, the library and community organizations, as well as just generating some goodwill. One of the first bits of feedback we actually received from outside of our initial bubble of supporters was from the parent of a new graduate, actually. The parent heard about the Queer Omaha Archives at the university's lavender graduation this past spring. And they told the university's chancellor, you know, the boss, the boss-boss, that they thought this was a great thing, the Queer Omaha Archives. So yay, archives. And thank you to those parents. So thank you again for your interest in listening to me this morning, and I'm happy to take any questions. Awesome. Okay, thanks, Amy. That was great. That was exactly what I was looking for to find out what was going on. Like I said at the beginning, I know this is a work in progress, something that I'm new. Well, yes. But I was glad to hear about it and get to see, you know, get the word out about what you are doing there. If anyone does have any questions, type them into your questions section of the GoToWebinar interface, and I will grab them and pass them on to Amy. And we do have some that did come in while you were talking. I have a note to myself that I'd say, when I saw what Terry had done with wagging and labeling all those things, I'm like, that must be like a librarian at heart or something. How it's so organized. He's a collector. He's a senior. He's a personality. He is a savior and a collector. But he's also a donor. He's going to start volunteering with us next month on organizing his collection. But he was also very generous with his time when he brought in the first two accessions of material and wanted to sit down. He didn't just want to leave it and drop it off the boxes and go. He wanted to sit down and we walked through a lot of material he donated. But there's a lot more for him to do as far as identifying people and events and things, especially in photographs. That's what you need somebody to sit down. Unless something's been written on or something's been included with it. That's what you usually end up with in a lot of these cases. I don't know who these people are or what you remember. Cool. So yeah, a few questions we have come in. Can you give an example of something that you didn't accept as a donation? Something that did not meet the criteria you guys have set? Well, a number of things that Terry offered actually. And he's loaned them to us and we're going to return them to him. So the big one that comes to mind is plaques and awards. And these are from various organizations, employers, community organizations. Icon, a local group here in Nebraska, EGLE, which was an employee group of what was U.S. West. So things like that. Let's see. I'm trying to think what else Terry... I mean, we accepted a lot of Terry's memorabilia, frankly, because it's in great condition. And he had some really interesting pieces. Like you can see in the photograph here at the front of the photo there in the middle of the table. That's a brick that's been decorated with some, not glitter, but some detailing, glitter-like detailing. But it's actually a brick from the Diamond Bar, which was here in Omaha. And it was known as our Nebraska's oldest gay bar. Now, there's some things we're hearing about. There was a gay bar that was actually in Omaha in the 40s that we want to follow up on. But the point is that the Diamond Bar was known as the oldest gay bar in Nebraska. So that was something that was given...the brick, the decorated brick, was given to Pat Phelan, Terry's partner, by the owner of the Diamond Bar. I think when it was either moving or when it closed. Nice. That's just something to be aware of. The question about something you didn't accept, that this is something that's not even just specific to your collection, but libraries in general having your collection policies. So people know what is and isn't accepted. We have the same thing here at the commission. We have our Nebraska Memories Project. There are certain things we can take, and it just has the criteria that what is and isn't, you know, what we're looking for. And that can also be adjusted in the future if you suddenly discover, wait, this is actually something that we didn't realize was important. It's not in stone. And if somebody out there would like to give us a financial gift to create an endowment to hire someone and to buy the supplies in this storage space to care for some of that, you know, like t-shirts and other kind of like drag costumes, they take a lot of space and resources to care for. And special, special, special like rooms, climate one, not to just preserve them properly. Right. Well, we have the climate controlled storage room. It's just sort of the space in that room and the boxes or the mannequins and things like that. So, you know, the t-shirts, that's something that we're not planning to accept, but we definitely plan to sort of grasp them. Right. Do you have any plans to digitize anything and to make it available in that way to people who can't come to Omaha to... Yeah. So on our Omeka site there, which again, we set up as a quick demonstration site, you can see on the right hand side there, there's two buttons. And those are, again, those are two buttons from Terry's collection. And again, we photograph those with my phone very quickly so I could take them to Pride Festival and show them to people and then also went ahead and just put that photo into Omeka. But there, yes, we've had conversations with some people who they maybe don't want to donate the original to us, but they're willing to let us digitize it, or it's born digital, of course. And so that content will put into this Omeka site. That's something that you could, but do you have like the scanning equipment for that? Or is that something you'd also need donations for? We do, yeah. Like the scan documents and whatnot. Yeah, no, we're fortunate. We have a couple of very nice flatbed scanners. We have a nice book guy overhead scanner. We have the library has cameras, and so we have like the black backdrop where we can set up a little photo studio to shoot artifacts nicely. So you won't be able to see the laminate table in the background when we shoot these pins. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you're the special collections to begin with. You've got your resources there, and this is a subset of that. Right. I was actually really, when I saw that Angela shared this, I was like, oh, this is great. I know we have, you know, there's the bars here in Lincoln and Omaha for this, and we have the population, the group here. And I was actually, I think I was a little surprised that it wasn't already something. I think, I know you said somebody didn't even know it was a thing. I was like, really? Parades. We have such a, we have parades and events and stuff. Yeah. Yeah. I was actually surprised myself. Do you know, this is Omaha, and you said it's for the region, which is kind of a nice, greater Omaha region. Nice to make it a little vague, I guess, so you can expand as you need. Do you know if UNL here in Lincoln is thinking of doing something or has something similar, or are you guys working together? So when we had that initial organizing meeting last winter, you know, folks were, some of the folks in the room were very, this should be a Nebraska-wide collection. And so I could actually have that conversation with them about, well, you know, we don't want, if someone else is collecting this in Lincoln or in Grand Island or somewhere else, we don't want to step on their toes.  So I said, you know, let me reach out to my colleague Mary Ellen Ducey at UNL and see what they're doing, if they have any plans, if they'd like to.   Because if you are, we'll stay out of Lincoln and we won't collect anything. We'll refer everyone to you. So we had that contact and UNL was focusing on collecting from UNL organizations and groups. And I did some kind of quick web surfing. I didn't contact every repository in Nebraska. So if anyone out there is collecting from Nebraska, I would, I'd love to chat with you. I think we could work together. Yeah, I was going to say it doesn't have to be, you're separate because you're in different locations. It could be something you guys should be referring people to each other. You know, someone's in Lincoln and or is, you know, in Omaha, but only heard about Lincoln. So what Lincoln's doing, Lincoln should be saying, oh, it's okay. You've got, there's, go up there. You know, that's where you're actually, that's where you live. Check out their set or if there's something out west or something.  And frankly, I mean, we're always looking to partner with people here at UNO. So if somebody somewhere else is another repository, another cultural heritage organization in Nebraska or even in Council Bluffs, Iowa does want to start their own collection. Let's talk and I'm very happy.   They're planning this right now. Yeah, maybe it'd be a little more aggressive. It would be maybe the Great Plains or something like that. Oh yeah. And I should say too, there are people who are doing this in other parts of the country. So like George Berthard at UNC, he started an initiative called Queering the South. And so he's trying to get, you know, representatives from all the southern states to kind of work together or share their info. I'm not sure how that's going, but I know he was hoping to do that. So if anybody wants to queer the Great Plains, let's talk. Let's do it. Absolutely. I know our colleagues, you know, at the University of Wyoming, they did amazing work after the horrible, horrible murder of Matthew Shepard. You know, in documenting, you know, the online and social media response to his murder. So people are doing this and why not work together? Absolutely. Well, being you being so new, as you said, to the Great Plains, not native to here, which I am not. I am as well. I've been here longer than you, about 15 years now. I can't believe it, but it's been that long. I'm originally from, huh? I said you blink, and it's, you know, that's embarrassing. And I don't know if I'm considered a native or not, I don't know how long that takes, but I'm originally from New York. You've done a great job of grasping what's going on out here and getting this collection and archives going, and I think it's awesome. Thank you. Thank you for joining us. And yeah, anybody have any, we're almost to the top of the hour again. So I just wanted to put it out there. Anybody have any last minute urgent questions for Amy about what she's doing or any ideas or thoughts about other collections or things you know about? Let's get them into the questions section there. While you're working on that, I'll tell you, we are recording. So this will be up on our YouTube, as we mentioned earlier, and then Amy up. I'll send it to you. Link to it, grab the YouTube video for whatever use you want to put it in the collection and all. I have also grabbed all the various websites and locations you've mentioned that I could find online and put into our delicious account. And Library Commission uses delicious to collect links to various things. It just makes it easy to get it onto our recording page afterwards. So some of the different groups, the Gender and Sexual Research Center. LIGAR from the Society of American Archivists, your website. So we've got a lot of these things linked in there. That'll be available to everyone afterwards, so you'll be able to quickly grab them. We do sometimes do the presentation. I'm not sure, do you have these slides somewhere or do you want to just, we can do whatever with the slides? The Chris Library has a digital comment site UNO. So I'll be putting the slides and the text of my talk in there as well as a link to the video. Cool, perfect. All right. Then if you can send me that link, I can link back to it so we have them all connected in there all together. Perfect. All right. Librarians, we're all about saving and linking and archiving. Absolutely. Well, it doesn't look like any urgent questions. So come in. Just some thanks. Great project. Glad we got to hear about it. Comments coming in. So that is great. All right then. Thank you, everyone, for attending. Thank you, Amy, for being here with us this morning. I wasn't able to make it up to what you had your opening, but I'm hoping at some point. I go visiting up to Omaha regularly. I hope to come in some time and take a look at it in person. Wow. And certainly you'll be here for the NLA meeting, the Nebraska Libraries. I will, yes, in October. Yeah. We'll have a reception here at the library. So stop in then. Oh, right. Oh, absolutely. Yeah, that'd be a perfect time. Yeah, because I will be up there for those three days of the conference. Yep. And October is LGBTQ History Month, so it's a nice thing. Yes. Great. All right. I'm going to pull back the screen control to my page here. There we go. This is just our delicious, as I was working on most recently, page. But this is the Library and Compass Lives website. If you need to look for us online, if you actually just Google, Encompass Live, we are the only thing out there called that so far. So lucky us. You'll come up with our website. This is where the archives will be here right underneath our upcoming sessions as all of our archived ones as all of our previous ones. Going back to the first one we did, which was in January 2009, all of our recordings are on YouTube. Links are here. This is from the last week's show. And then presentations, they'll be in various places. We try to link to them wherever they might be. We have a slide share account. Some people put them on their own websites in Prezi. As Amy said, linking out to their page. But we try if we can to link to wherever something would be available. And any other handouts or documents that people may include in their sessions. So that should be up there. If everything processes and works and plays nice with me today, by this afternoon, I should have it up and I can let you guys all know that it's available. So that will wrap it up for today's show. I hope you join us next week when our topic is the Crouettes Bennett Donor Advised Fund. This is a program for giving grants to specifically to small town libraries, public libraries in Nebraska. Richard Miller will be here, our Library Development Director. And Reggie Carlson, who is with the Nebraska Community Foundation, who works with this grant fund. Along with some libraries who have received the fund, the grant itself. And I believe one of the relatives of Shirley Crouettes Bennett is coming to join us as well. They are still involved with the grant program. So if you're looking for something to help out your small town public library here in Nebraska, check that out. And any of our upcoming shows we have here, we've got August all fully booked and on the schedule. And I'm always working on new shows. So September, October and upcoming dates will be added as we get things finalized. So keep an eye on our page for that. Also, we are on Facebook.  Like our Encompass Live page, I post updates. Like here I post this morning, log in right now for this week's Encompass Live. People are coming on the fly. When our recordings are available, I'm going to put the notice on here. So if you're big on Facebook, do give us a like over there. And you can keep up with what we are doing here at Encompass Live. Other than that, that wraps up for this morning. Thank you, everyone. Thank you, Amy. And we'll see you next time on Encompass Live. Bye-bye.


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