Hi, it's Bridget. Welcome to Above Life Channel. The purpose here is to inspire your spirit and to fill you with hope. Today's video, I'm going to be talking about and to. A little bit different than what I normally do. I'm going to be talking about and to this afterlife celebrity, Kurt Cobain. Now if you are hoping for some major breakthroughs and some conspiracy theories and some insight into the final moments of his life, you will not get that here. You won't get that here because the purpose of Above Life Channel is to give you hope, to inspire you, not to aggravate, stir up energy, not to make you feel depressed, give you anxiety. And so that's why I stay away from the intensity of conspiracy theories. Well, I try to, let's just be clear. We all know that some of the videos I've done with, oh, let's say Natalie Wood or John Kennedy Jr., I had no idea there were conspiracy theories around their deaths. Not really, anyway. I mean, maybe I, maybe somewhere in my brain, I maybe knew that, but that was not my intention. Whoo! Don't want to touch that stuff. But I am inspired, motivated to speak with Kurt from the afterlife because there's something really sweet about his connection, something genuine and something there is some heartbreak energy around his spirit. But I also think that he has some things to offer, especially for people who are dealing with things like depression, intense anxiety, paranoia, or other mental health disorders. I think this may be a light, a positive light for some of you, or if you have relatives, family, or loved ones that you know are dealing with some of these intense issues, intense emotional issues, intense mind issues. Just, I think that perhaps this video may be of comfort and perhaps give you some hope. So that's why I'm doing it. So Kurt Cobain, he's really kind, he's very nice, he's friendly, he's quiet. He kind of looks like he could be my brother, to be honest. Because of the way he looks, like we look like we could be related. And back in the day in college when Nirvana was like a big thing. I actually had a high school boyfriend, or I'm sorry, a college boyfriend. Let's be clear. College, back in the day when I was in college, Nirvana was really cool.  And I gotta be honest, I'm not like attracted to you or anything. Like it wasn't like a crush or anything like that. But it was, there was something about you and I think it was this quiet depths of your soul that I felt. And not just through the music, even if you're a music fan. If you are a music fan of Nirvana, type the title of the music, the song or the album that you love the most. And if you have multiple ones, you can put multiple ones, but try to keep it to a minimum place because there's like other people that need to put that in the feed. Don't put links though. If you guys put links, YouTube catches it and takes it off. It thinks you're spamming me, so don't do that. But put the title of the songs or the album that really you just, you really connect with. And if you want, you can write why you can do that. All right, so I had some kind of a connection to you and I have had a lot of requests to chat with you, Kurt, in the afterlife. And I honestly, I didn't realize, like I can't, I don't remember. It's been like 20 some years since I've been back in college, 25, something like that. I don't want to date myself too much, but it's been a long time. So I didn't remember that there was a huge controversy around your death. And so when people kept requesting that I channel you, I didn't realize that there were like ulterior motives going on there about, oh, you know, break the mystery about his death. So first thing I'm going to ask you, is there anything in particular that you would like us to know or share surrounding your death in particular? He's smoking a cigarette. He leans forward and kind of puts it out. It looks actually like marijuana, to be honest with you. It looks a little different unless it's a cigarette that's hand rolled. I'm thinking it might be marijuana actually. He leans forward and kind of pushes it out. He says it's legal in Washington now, you know? He says to me, it's legal in Washington. He says that because it's not where I live. This was so funny. Yeah, he's being polite. And he says, nope, nope. People let people think what they want to think. He says people are going to think what they want to think anyway. He says, so let them let them think what they want to. All right, so thank you. I appreciate that too. And we connected beforehand before the channel. So I knew that you would probably not say much about it. Otherwise, I don't know if... I mean, maybe I would channel you, but I don't know if I would share it because I don't want to like stir the pot, you know? He says, yeah, he's like, there's a lot of mind games with that. Isn't there a lot of mind stuff? He's not super, super chatty, you guys. So I know that I could feeling beyond the layer of the energy that's around you right now, Kurt, that I can feel. When we speak of time of death, I feel the energy of around you at the time of transition or before, you know, the last days or weeks of your life. I can feel that energy there. And I feel like there's a lot of... Depression isn't quite the right word, but there's a lot of darkness. And it feels like a lot of withdrawal and detachment and a lot of kind of like wanting to fall into a hole, you know, just to get lost and not be here. And so I guess I would ask you, did you want to die? Did you actually...  And your crew was just kind of just taking off and really doing great, you know, had a few good pieces of momentum around that and with the band and everything. And it seems like you were kind of at this good spot, you know, from a musical standpoint. He says, yeah, he says, ironic, isn't it? So you want to talk? You want me to talk about my mood? Or what are you asking me about? I'm asking about, you know, he says, you want to ask if I was suicidal? He says, who's not? Who isn't? He says, who isn't? There's a lot of pressures and things. And I think that people could maybe make that assumption that I maybe couldn't handle my fame, you know?  He says, I'm not going to call them liars. But there's definitely a state that I would enter into when I was creating, you know, making music and beyond imagination. And it does get pretty dark there. There is a lot of depth, as you said. There's a lot of depth there. But so did you want to die? Like that's the question. And he kind of says, like, who doesn't, you know? If you're asking me if I was suicidal, he says, I suppose, probably. But I wasn't really aware of that. Like, I didn't think about it.  I didn't think about that. No, I didn't really think about that. And if I did, it was kind of a passing thing. It wasn't really a, I'm going to do this kind of a thing. But that's not to say I wouldn't have been surprised if that happened, though. That's the thing, you see. It's like that outcome, you know. So did I will my death? Yeah, you know, I suppose on the way I did, I created an out or an outlet, depends on how you look at it. For not being here anymore. I do feel like, Kurt, and I spoke with you about this just previous to channeling, is that it feels like there was a lot of... So how I would describe for the viewers and you can correct me if I'm off on this, but energetically, it feels like you felt like you just wanted to be in a band, play in the music, live in life. You didn't need the big lights and the big stages and the big... It doesn't feel like it was really your dream. Like you didn't really necessarily expect that to happen. You just wanted to make music. And I could see you as a writer, a songwriter, writing a lot of music and seeing you write for other bands. I could see that. That could have been your trajectory, you know. And I feel like you just wanted out. Like you didn't want to be there. You didn't want to be part of the main event. You didn't want all that fame and notoriety, but I don't think you were scared of it. I think it was unexpected to you. I don't think you set out to do music to be famous. Is that accurate? He says, pretty much. Pretty much. He says, yes. Did I like being famous? Did I like the stuff that comes with it? You know, it's pretty nice, some of it. It's pretty good, but you got to be careful. That can really corrupt you. You know, there's a lot of corruption and greed. And I didn't see myself really in that scene. Did I benefit? Yes. He says, yeah. Yeah, I benefited, but I also, he's trying to, he's almost saying he's possessed by it. He's possessed by the greed and the momentum and the corruption around him. He doesn't feel like he was the driver of it. He feels like he was the puppet of it, like he was controlled by it. And I feel like there's a feeling of energy of feeling. He feels like he's manipulated by his own emotions. He's being manipulated and controlled by the desire, the need to escape his emotions and the way he's feeling about things and how incredibly awful. It almost feels like he's having panic attacks, having to go on stage or having to go on tour. And he doesn't feel like he fits or he belongs. And it's not because he doesn't think he's good enough. You guys, that's not why. He's showing me, I just, it's not my scene, like it. You kind of get caught up in this and pretty soon it becomes bigger, larger than life. And then it swallows you whole. And he says, pretty soon you owe this person. You owe that person.  And then where's your soul? You sold it. It's gone. He says, it's gone. There's nothing left there to save. There's nothing left there to save. So Kurt, I did feel a lot of what I would describe as like paranoia around you. And I don't know if that's caused by drug abuse because I know you used heroin.  But I can't tell the difference. I can't tell the difference. So is a paranoia because of the need for the addiction or is it you're trying to numb something else? He says both. He says both. Both are true. He says the numbing is like, I just wanted to fall. Like I kept feeling like I was falling. And I just wanted to get to a place where I could just, where everything was just quiet. You know, where there was no more noise, no more extra stuff. I just wanted everything to stop and everything just to be quiet. Just quiet. That's all I wanted was quiet. And he says there were days when he just lost, like no time, like when, didn't know how many days had passed, didn't know what day it was, what time of day it was. And he'd lost time in those days that wasn't, he says, you know, it should be unsettling, right?   And you don't even care. Like there's no, it's like, oh, okay. So you kind of wasted that time in a good way. Like you don't have to think about things. You don't have to be responsible for other people. You don't have to show up at stuff. You know, you can just kind of disappear. And I think that that's what I was trying to do. That's what I wanted. He's like, I didn't want to be Kurt Cobain Nirvana anymore. I didn't want that. Didn't want it, you know, it's, but it's not because of, it's not like I was scared of fame. He says it's not like I had stage fright or anything, but he shows me this, like his heart, like just wanting to rip out of his chest, like panic attacks going on stage and stuff, not because he's afraid of the music or himself, but the crowds, the intensity of the crowds, he feels super, super sensitive.   That's how it feels like.  I know that's super graphic and gross, but that's kind of the way Kurt is pretty direct, you know. I feel like though this energy of, I don't want to use the word anxiety because that's not quite deep enough, you guys, and anybody that has anxiety, whether it's general anxiety disorder or social anxiety disorder, it's a very, those are very serious things. And those are very common for highly sensitive people and sensitive types and people who are artists and musicians. And like this, not a surprise. That's part of what makes them so incredibly imaginative and expressive because they can tap those feelings and those emotions and their intensities, right? But it's too much at times, it's too much. And so it feels like that, and it feels like it leads you to the edge of paranoia. So you're telling me that the heroine made that scenario that was already current, present there, worse. Yeah, he's like, yeah.  So you get crazy.  And you don't even feel real anymore. You feel like just some character in like a video game or something. It doesn't seem real, you know? And for those of you who've been in those situations, you know that I'm talking about. And it's not healthy for you. It's not healthy for you. And so did you know that? Did you know that using drugs like that, like heroin and stuff, was unhealthy? Did you feel that? Were there times when you felt this? Yeah, sure. Yeah, but I tried not to think about it because I needed it. I needed it to cope, to handle things. And, you know, I couldn't trust anybody. It felt like the walls were closing in, you know? And he's kind of like the billy collectors are at the door knocking on the door asking for money. And you don't got any kind of a thing is what he's making me feel like. And he says, you know, it's the dark side of the fame. You know? It's the... And he says, we weren't even that big yet. We weren't even that as big as it could have been, you know? And I know that I know other people would think that I just threw that away. And, you know, he like leans forward and takes a smoke. And he says, you can't understand unless you're in my shoes, you know? So do you have advice for people who are dealing with addiction or who have been in situations where their loved one has addiction? Because clearly if you didn't have the heroine, how would things have been different is my question. So if you didn't have the heroine, how would things be different? Let's ask that first. And can you respond to that? What would I be clearheaded? He says, would I be clear-minded? He says, I probably would have found another way, you know, another vice. But my music might have been better. He says, my music might have been better. I would have been around for a while longer. But he's referring to that there's some sort of an imbalance. I don't want to necessarily say mental illness because I'm not sure which I'm not going to diagnose that kind of thing for the afterlife. But he shares that it's his mind is messed up, he says. And to get that right, you know, you probably need counseling and things. And I wasn't really willing to do that, you know? And I felt like I should be able to sort things out, you know, for myself. But if I didn't have the heroine, yeah, it's hard to say. He says, it's hard to say. I could have gotten my head on straight, you know, probably. He says, but I think I'd need some kind of help, you know? So I know that some people around you did some kind of intervention, like a week or so before your death. And I didn't know that. I think it was a week. It might have been longer that at some point, trying to get you to go into rehab. And you didn't respond real well to that.  So how do you feel about that, that whole thing, that whole situation? Well, I think people mean well, you know? And I think the person has to be ready. The person, you got to want that for yourself. You got to want to be healthy for yourself. If you don't want to be healthy for yourself, then it's not the time, you know? And then you're on borrowed time. You kind of buy time. And he says, I would give advice to family, to friends, to those of you who are dealing with that when you have somebody in your life that's an addict. He says, I would say, try again. You know, keep trying, keep trying. And know that it's not a reflection of you. It's not because the person doesn't love you enough to go to therapy or counseling or rehab. It's really not about you, but you could make a difference. You could. And I think it's worth a try if you really love somebody to keep on it and keep trying to get them to recognize for themselves, to care enough about themselves because that person has to care enough about themselves to want things to be different, to want more for themselves. You know, you can just remind them of what could be, what life could be like if they were healthy. And I think he says, focusing on the health part of it and I think is important because the whole labeling like you're an addict, you have problems and you're damaged.  It's not something that is going to convince somebody to go to rehab. It's not going to convince them to get help. It needs to be much more caring and understanding and know that it's, you know, they're going to make mistakes. Anybody, you know, an addict, the person that needs help is going to make mistakes. That's how they got to the situation in the first places. They need that support, right? And they don't know how to ask for it. They don't know how to get it for themselves. They don't think maybe they don't think that they have a problem or it's not bad enough or they're not good enough to get help from anybody because they're too messed up. You know, maybe that's what they think. So there's a lot of things, you know, he says there's a lot of factors and he says I can't speak for everyone but I can say that for me, yeah, my career could have been different. My life could have been different if I had went to rehab and it might have also just prolonged, you know, the inevitable, so to speak, he says so to speak, might have just prolonged the inevitable but I don't really believe that anyone, Kurt speaking, I don't really believe that anyone wants to commit suicide or, you know, to kill themselves, murder themselves, however you want to see it, whether they, you know, do it with a needle or a gun or however they do it, right? I don't think anyone really wants that. I told Bridget I wasn't going to talk about my death. Specifics, you know, but, well, let's say, let, well, Kurt, let's be honest with people too and let's say I will share with you all here at Above Life Channel as I'm talking to Kurt Cobain and you know I'm not going to bust any conspiracy theories. I'm not interested in drama, trauma, stirring the pot, making your life more stressful. I want to clear that for you guys, heal and clear that anxiety, that sadness, that depression, that energy. But we will say, Kurt and I, we will say that he was not alone at the time of his death. We will say that there were other people around, at least one specifically that I can see. I can actually see two for sure and there might be a third. But that's why I can see others around as well. So he wasn't alone. So you don't need to be worried about that. And, and he says, so I do want to ask too, Kurt, are you in the afterlife? Like, are you in heaven? Heaven, so to speak, like that geographic location of heaven. He says, well, if heaven is sea, Seattle, does heaven look like Seattle? Does it rain a lot in heaven? He says, oh, you know, my heart will always be in Washington. I really like Seattle. And it's kind of my place. And it's my home. And I love music. I love the vibe of a club and just kind of being there, you know, just being like a regular guy. It's really nice. And, but yes, if people are curious about if I'm in heaven, I'm trying to feel you guys if he is because he's not answering the question. So are you an earthbound spirit? Which means like a ghost, you've chosen not to leave, or are you in heaven or on the other side fully? Kind of smiles and looks at me like, do you want me to answer that? He says, what do you think? Kind of likes a mystery. I think he kind of likes that. Kind of like the mystery around that, don't you? He says, I travel back and forth. I'm in both places and many times. I literally see him hanging out by his old house and like the red brick place. And I see him just wanting to be a normal person. I see that. So are you not incarnated? I don't think you're incarnated. You don't feel like it at all. I said, no, I'm not back. Are you kidding? He's like, are you kidding me? Do I look like I'm back? No, you don't. You look pretty solid too. Actually, if I had to say on a scale of earthbound spirit, ghost, and afterlife heaven, I would say you're closer to the earthbound.  You like staying close to the humans, to people. And I feel like you're here. And it's not because you have unresolved business. You guys, he doesn't have unresolved business. You guys might have unresolved business, but he doesn't have that necessarily. He's like, he's okay with mystery. He's fine with that. He doesn't have a problem with that whatsoever.  But he says, but don't tell people that. I don't want people thinking I'm stuck in some kind of purgatory because I'm not. He says, I'm not really in between. I just, I choose where to go. He says, I have a free pass. I got a backstage pass I can be in.  He says, but I like to be by people. I like to be around. I think of it as kind of maybe a therapy for me. Maybe it's something I can do. I can help somebody. Maybe I can help somebody out. Interesting. So I don't really know a clear answer for that, you guys. As a psychic, I can tell you, he's not stuck anywhere, that if he is more close to the human life, it's by choice. And he's writing a lot. It looks like he can communicate through writing a lot. He can, Kurt Cobain, can communicate with you through writing. If that's the way you're, if that's something you want, if you're a fan, if you want some advice or guidance from him about your life, about life in general, you could write and ask. So you could do like journaling. That's what I'm talking about. Like journaling, have a conversation, write him a letter, do that. Try that because he writes. He communicates a lot through writing because it's like this unspoken lyric. I mean, it's just, it's nice. Like he doesn't, he's not super chatty, as you can tell, but he says a lot and feeling and emotion. He genuinely cares about people, about humanity.  You know, I feel like, did you have a kid because I feel like there's a child that you're, I don't know, I should probably know that, huh, you guys? I feel like there's a child that you kind of highlighting for some reason. I don't know if it's actually your, your son or daughter, or if it's somebody that you're noticing in your, that was interesting. That's kind of random. All of a sudden, boom, I just see that right at the end here. It's interesting. All right. So in the comments below, please be sure that your comments are appropriate. They add value. They're hopeful and positive and not stirring up controversy or creating drama for anyone that watches the video. 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You're still on the breakfast and plus CV Africa ride here and thanks for being with us this morning We're looking at the fest conversation and it talks about the economy in Nigeria and orders have been giving the privilege or they have arrived to Export free to the United Kingdom from 2023 and we like to look at what that means for our economy We have a global affairs analysts joined the conversation Polly Jimé Polly Jimé, good to have you join us this morning Thank you Good morning So so let's a bit of a background to this Nigerians are set to benefit from a new trading scheme in the United Kingdom and that will caught price to rieve on hundreds of everyday products exported into the country for from 2023 and not 2022 The United Kingdom's international trade secretary Annemarie announced this on Tuesday as the official launch of the developing countries Traits came in Abuja Now in 2018 from a prime minister of United Kingdom Theresa May had hinted about a new trade deal and economic partnership during her visit to Nigeria This came means that a wide variety of products from clothes shoes food items including olive oil Tomatoes imported from Africa to United Kingdom will benefit from lower twos or Zerg tariff Now according to the statement the trading scheme will assist British business earn 750 million pounds per year that's annually from reduced input costs leading to more choice and Lower cost of the United Kingdom consumer to help with the cost of living The big question is what does this development mean for the Nigerian economy? Apologize me. Thank you once again for joining us Yeah, thank you So, yes, the question is out there. What does this mean for Nigeria? So ordinarily it should mean an opportunity to Ramp up its exports to Britain but before we Job we shouldn't jump the call gone before we begin to celebrate You will look at what is the status now? So what what has it been the trade and investment? Outlook between these two countries now it shows that By you know until the last quarter of the first quarter of this year trade between both countries Britain and Nigeria It's around 4.4 billion pounds Okay, and of this amount it is in favor of Britain, of course That has exported about 2.6 billion while Nigeria I think it's them, you know, almost less than I don't know what is them One point something Billion and so how does Nigeria catch up? I Apologize me. Can you hear us? Well, we seem to have some kind of disconnection. I mean with Paula Jimmy, but hoping that we're able to establish contact back we're looking at the issue of having to export freely to the United Kingdom in 2023 and Like one would think one would think that this is a beautiful Development, this would be something very exciting for the people of Nigeria and economy But would he encourage? Exportation would these not mean that we would have an edge in exporting apology master with us Thank you once again I can hear you loud and clear go ahead with your thoughts. Yes, we can hear you My introductory remarks. I was saying that before you begin now to Celebrate you need to look at where the state and the status of a trip between the two countries now is in favor of Britain and then don't forget that For a country to come up with any law. They would have looked at their own National interest so this is not just them being thrown at Nigeria because Britain loves Nigeria It's a competitive world. There are 65 countries in the in Africa, Asia, Oceania and the Americas that are supposed to assess this developing country trade Trading scheme and so and what are the things that are there? You have names some of them clothing You know shoes tomato Olive oil and all that and that has been Nigeria's and actually it's here in the frame that it is only Exporting a primary products. How can it now get to the point? develop the capacity to be able to to Export more to be able to get them some leverage of even make an impact in this remember that the Americans also had their Africa opportunity growth and opportunity acts which many Africans are not taking advantage of because of the capacity today Nigeria's oil is the mainstay of Nigerian economy But even with that oil is higher now the price But you know that Nigeria is not able to meet his Quarter opaque quarter, you know It keeps them giving excuses about oil terms about vandalism and all that so the case is We have can Nigeria develop the capacity between now and 2023 to be able to Maximize its benefits from this scheme But but apologies man. Let's also look at another issue I made very valid point as you've raised the issue of not meeting our quota. Do we have the capacity? when countries are actually boasting of Earning revenue or making so much money from the crisis that's going on in Russia and Ukraine well, it's it's quite different for us now. I mean, what's our story? That's the question Okay, but on the other hand is also the quality The the quality that we actually chunk out there that we put out export Over time there are reports that our goods are usually rejected because they don't meet They don't meet international standards and requirement. I mean for instance for beans I'm sure that it's a quantity of preservative that needs to be included in the beans so that you know When he gets, you know to the international market like you've mentioned, it's very competitive It meets it But usually our goods are usually rejected and then he makes nonsense, you know of our exports You know efforts every other time. What do you make of this now quality? but well that is part of the The capacity that I'm talking about because And being competitive If your goods have a low quality quality, then you cannot compete in the international market So Nigeria has to do something about it. Otherwise, you will find that The the British Government will benefit more from this there is there even written that They will gain about 750 million from, you know Overcoming the red tapes and all the all the other things, but this is an opportunity from Nigeria, you know It's not just it's not really that the capacity is not there. But is there the coordination? Is there the, you know getting the right people in the right place and then Looking at who can think outside the box trade is not A hand down it is not about Appointments can you do it? Is it a possible and then the government also has to put in place The kind of policy the enabling environment to make those who are trying to produce at home You know to encourage the local industry so that The how is the government doing that even when From all the indications The local Companies that many of them have folded up because of the harsh economic situation your right quality is wanting and don't don't be surprised that Human rights and then labor laws will also be mentioned. So it is there that Nigeria has to really strap up if it wants to benefit from this. This is an opportunity otherwise You know Many of the 65 countries that I told you will benefit more and I did I was all be watching but otherwise can you believe that The trade trade or relationship between Britain after all Nigeria was colonized by Britain goes as far as their history But you know that Nigeria Is ranking in the ranking is you know 43rd in the 40s about the major trading partner of Britain Is that acceptable? So if Nigeria cannot trade and become number one In the ranking who should be it has the population. It has the the means it has the resources to be able to do that But that hasn't happened 43rd you are in the 40s So you will not ask where where where is Nigeria because it is a case of what are you importing It's not it's good to have a sense. But what are you sending to be able to is it just a Medical tourism is it just going there to because they're growing the economy of Of Britain by sending everybody going to to have their medical or their holiday Why can't we why can't we make it a way that British people can come here and spend their foreign currency Nigeria means foreign currency now But it hasn't happened and it cannot happen overnight. It is a deliberative you know government policy to attract investment and also make a local environment You know conducive You can do that once the insecurity is there you can do that when the policies are not friendly You cannot do that when you cannot put your best food Forward you have to be on top of your game to be able to benefit from this kind of opportunity. I'm afraid So in terms of policy direction now because this is actually huge and and I'm hoping that the relevant quarters would You know take advantage of this But as an expert that you are what would be? What should be the policy direction of the government? That's on one hand now specifically for the Nigerian national standardization strategy, which is actually a body or you know an agency started with the responsibility of ensuring that The standard and quality of goods that we send out of this country export out or send out You know, it's not rejected. What what should be the thing that they should do? I mean We're asking now solution in terms of policy What what policy should government be looking at and to this particular body and all the bodies and authorities? What should they also be looking at now? So, you know for years Nigerian has been talking about them, you know, diversification of this economy from oil concentrate on non oil goods Don't send only primary products So you need to have your economic team and and meet with them both public and the private sector So, you know tease out what the the what they call it them areas of competitive advantage What is it that Nigeria can do that will gain more than other countries? This is how it works and then be consistent Consistency of a policies are another issue that one government will come or you keep changing them policies as if No, no, no investor will we like to to have that because he shows uncertainty and instability and then so when you now do that follow International best practices don't do a Nigerian thing or Nigerian factor To get the right people those who encourage those who are investing those who can produce for for both local consumption and then exports and then in terms of policy of Quality look at the you need to pass the integrity and quality control must be top notch that Your partners will be able to trust you. They will have confidence But now when Even locally you are not showing because trade and everything you do actually is based on trust and confidence But when your partners, they see that you are not Up to it and there are gaps. There are loopholes that many people can Explore it that is not going to give you Even retain the partners that you have take later load Attracting more. So these are Nigerian has to sit up in terms of policy direction Like you said and then also look at the You know programmatic look at the production the value chain Who are there? What are they doing that they are not doing that punish those who are not great Measures that can show to your partners that you are you can't take low quality Products no matter who is involved. So these are the when they see that kind of commitment They see that kind of as you they see that kind of you know policy trust You are likely going to to enjoy the the confidence of Of foreign partners, but at the moment, I think the country has a lot to do But diversification diversification of the economy has been unbeatable. It's been mountain, but it has not really been Of course, it's growing incrementally, but it should be what oil is a wasting asset I don't know how many times people will say that so it is now time for people Look for cheaper Money it is a case of You know looking for Immediate returns you need to invest and then wait for the gestation period for your business to grow and Dividend of benefits should be a profit should be incremental. You don't go and get profit It's not a policy where you they tell you you bring a hundred Neither and then they double it to a one thousand that does that system does not work in international trade so Nigeria continues to enjoy to attract foreign development Investment from Britain. I looked at the you know trade and investment in the last For one year was about 5.5 point one billion pounds And then you ask what are they? This is money that Nigeria can also use it can be more so that The local environment becomes a production if you like call it a production Zone or not just consumption because that is what is the case. We are consuming where Nigeria is not really producing much And that has to change and it cannot change overnight, but it has to start somewhere All right. Thank you so much. Apologies. May we have to go on because we're out of time but we appreciate your time and all of the Perspectives if you brought in on the topic this morning. Thank you All right apology man is a global affairs analyst and has been very very with this particular You know our topic right here Maybe it's just an opportunity for us to diversify finally Maybe it's an opportunity for us to look away from oil and just focus and be great on export It's a time where we don't have to be that country that imports and does not export anything and very you know Great at consuming other products that come from different country But i'm hoping that those who are at the helm of affairs will be taking and formulating policies from now Till we get to 2023 to ensure that you know, we enjoy the benefits from You know free exports And that's the size of our first topic this morning. We take a break when we return we'll be looking at another interesting You know conversation right here in security is top on at the front boner now according to Of former security personnel. He says that terrorists and ipop members threat to the 2023 elections. 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The darkest secret of the narcissist, the narcissist has a very dark secret. They won't want you to know this and they're often quite good at hiding it but the truth is that the core emotion of a narcissist is envy, they're experiencing discontentment and resentment, aroused by your possessions, qualities or luck. They decide to have it or they decide to have you all to themselves, which is why they try to control you because they see you as this possession that belongs to them and it's why they will often feel and express bitterness and annoyance because they feel it isn't fair and at times they may even seem very angry and frustrated because of their inability to change or achieve you, to mold you into who they want you to be so that they can then continue as this thing that belongs to them.  Another key indicator that someone is envious of you is when they try to trigger your insecurities and make you envious of them, at times these behaviors may be unconscious, if they are aware of it they will try to hide it because they don't want you to see them when they are vulnerable, they fear that it may expose them to the risk of attack or harm. When in actuality an unhealed victim would likely feel most attracted to the narcissist in that moment, that would likely be the moment that you've been waiting for because you're desiring to help and save them but once you've healed from narcissistic abuse that is the very thing that will turn you away because then you would desire something more healthy and normal and if you've done enough research you will know that they envy developed in their childhood, they had unmet emotional needs and they envied their parents for withholding that from them which is what caused them to become attention seekers or attention whores, well at the same time they became self-absorbed, they became preoccupied with their own feelings interest and situation, when now it seems like one minute they're lacking empathy and consideration for you, well the next they're arrogant and entitled to something from you, which is all the inevitable result of their core emotion, it's why they shut themselves off, it's why they end up devaluing and discarding you because this thing that they want and desire cannot be theirs in the way that they would like, which is why they become so bitter and resentful because it resurfaces their childhood trauma where their emotions were neglected by their parents, narcissists want to be admired and adored but they do not want anyone to see that vulnerable side of them, they want you to validate the false character and the more you try to encourage and love that true part of them, the more they will begin to hate you because they believe that it's not good enough, which is what they learned in childhood as a result of being neglected by their parent, so you will never see that side of them, you will only see different characters and they often have a different character for everyone they deal with, but even if you could see what is beneath the surface you wouldn't know how to deal with it because in that moment they can be very fragile and they may even lash out at you, only a licensed therapist should deal with a narcissist in that state of mind but the odds of that you will never see that side of them over a long period of time, you may often witness small windows of self reflection when they've experienced a narcissistic injury or when they're disillusioned, I did that moment they may appear shocked and cut off guard or they may seem bitter and resentful but those feelings will quickly subside and they will be replaced by feelings of anger because they see it as an attack once you've resurfaced their feelings of shame so they will become very arrogant and entangled and you will witness their envy of you as this destruction alleviates the distress and the sense of own emotional disabilities, the narcissist rejected their true self because psychologically they're unable to accept that they're fraud, they're unable to accept their weaknesses in character and that their damage went perfect in some way, the false character is meant to be superior to you, they believe that it has unlimited power and it is entitled to whatever it wants from you, their psychological survival is dependent on securing external validation for their supply, so they have to make you believe that their illusion of perfection is reality, the only problem is that this is unattainable, it's not able to be achieved, which is why they often engage in controlling behaviors and manipulation tactics and it's also why they show a lack of empathy because it's designed to distract you from focusing on their flaws and imperfections as they endlessly chase information or evidence that they are more than other people but for them to do this they need to have a reference point, they need to have a basis or standard for comparison because without a comparison they cannot assess what is more than, which again is why they targeted you because they feed their ego by valuing their own personal and social worth by assessing how they compare to you, so you are their reference point and their pathological envy acted as a magnet that drew them to you, where they idealized you and put you on a pedestal until their envy led to them devaluing and discarding you as they eventually began to believe that they were a better you than you narcissists target those who possess what is absent in them, they targeted you because of your empathy and compassion, your strength courage and kindness but even though they were drawn to these qualities, it was never to value this about you, it was only so that you could mirror to them what they needed to believe about themselves, which is how they began to merge with you and mirror everything that was great about you and then try to convince not only you but themselves that the two of you are very alike, when really they are nothing like you they are the exact opposite of you, which is why they end up devaluing and discarding you because at some point they realize that they cannot compete with you, they realize that they cannot manifest all of their lies and future faking into reality and when that realization takes place they begin to experience a lot of pain and distress as they realize that they lack your qualities achievements or possessions because up until that point they manage to delude themselves that they are the same as you, that they are on your level or that they can do what you do but inevitably this delusion comes crashing down like a house of cards as your qualities break through their denial and they realize that they are in fact inferior to you which is what then causes them to oppose you and compete with you because they feel less than you you set a standard that is very threatening to them it's something that they cannot match which puts their false character in danger because although they may have talked the talk they cannot walk the walk they realize that you possess qualities and traits that they do not have so instead they devalue you they invalidate and abuse you and they gain pleasure from your pain because your misfortune makes them feel better so that is when they will come after you with manipulation projection dominance intimidation isolation lying gaslighting spear campaigns and ghosting and it's not because you were randomly chosen it's because they are envious of you because you are an amazing person you're so loving kind and generous and you have a warm heart you just forgot about it because you were around a narcissist who made you doubt yourself and made you believe that you are less than who you really are because they are envious of your skills and talents they're envious of your ability to be happy and of your optimism and empathy and your ability to experience real love so they wanted to destroy that which they were not able to have and that which they were not able to participate in which is why they devalued you because they didn't want to see you moving on and experience something that they can't but just the thought of it made them envy and resent you it made them want to bring you down to their level while all you wanted to do is help them but their envy of you just made them want to hijack all of the attention while preventing you from realizing that they are beyond help they will never be satisfied they will never appreciate you and they will never accept you because you become this reflection to them of everything they're not everything they wish they could be and they constantly reminded them that they will never be a part of it because you're not the same which is why they try to become more like you they take on your interests and ideals only so they can use it to triangulate you with someone else because they already know that they don't belong with you they can't even be around you once you see them for what they are which is why they always pull out the false character because they know you don't want to see who they actually are they haven't even begun to work themselves they've depended on their manipulation tactics their entire lives and all they managed to secure by doing that was people who are foolish or people who didn't have any other options because that is all that they can get so of course they haven't got anything to give to you all they have achieved in their lives is from manipulating and deceiving other people just as they did with you from lying and future faking and selling you a dream but they can't get you once you're aware of it because it is all a game it's a fantasy it's a delusion and it is based on their envy of you which is their darkest secret and they're trying to cover it up by deluding themselves and to think that you are envious of them when you are the one who endlessly overextended your empathy and compassion of them while they devalued and validated and abused you but sometimes their envy is unconscious they may not be aware that they are envious of you but if you look at their behaviors and how they treated you that should give you the closure and validation that you need and it should reveal to you why they inevitably turned against you because they knew that they could never be like you they knew that you were not the same and that they could never reciprocate what you would give to them so that only option was to fall back and fall off they had to remain hidden but you can share your qualities with someone who will appreciate you someone who is more like-minded someone who is about the same things and when you do that you will realize why it never worked out with the narcissist thank you for watching if you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up share your thoughts in the comment section hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications if you would like to support the channel you can donate at payable.me such as Narc Survivor you can book a one-on-one with me on my website it's narcsurvivor.co.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon