It's an honour for me to come here. It's a pleasure for me to have a chat, have a conversation with you. And I agree with you that the conversation back home and on the rest of the planet is very acrimonious. And I've been saying that it's okay to challenge someone, it's okay to take someone on, it's okay to disagree with someone. But hating them is a choice that we make and it's not necessary to hate people. And I think the main thing that as youngsters you must look at and you must work on is that you're going to meet many people in your life who disagree with you. And they disagree with you because they come from a different place that you come from, a different perspective that you come from, a different set of ideas surround them than surround you. And the starting point, a very good starting point is to try and look at the world from their perspective. Very often, and when I was your age, my starting point was how I viewed the world. And as far as I was concerned, I understood the world and everybody else didn't quite get it like we did. And then when you work, when you go into details, you find that actually perspectives that you might not agree with are valuable. They exist because of certain circumstances the other person is undergoing. And there is always a conversation possible. And I think that's something that has to be done in the 21st century. We can't afford to have the type of wars that we had 50, 60, 70 years ago, 100 years ago, because we would basically destroy the planet. So there are certain trajectories that are building up. You can see in the foreign affairs space, you can see the United States, you can see Western Europe, you can see a rising China, and you can see the foundations of a potential conflict. And it's playing out everywhere. If you look carefully, that conflict is already operating. And I think India, with our nonviolent ideas, with our complexity, with our ability to show compassion to people we don't agree with, which is embedded in our culture, in our history, I think we have a role to play. And I said today at one of my earlier lectures, somebody asked me, you know, is India on this side or on that side? And I said, no, India is much too big, much too intelligent, much too refined to be either on this side or on that side. India has a vision of its own for the world. And we are going to certainly work with others, but we also have a perspective which is important. So I'd like to end there, and I'm happy to listen to your comments and your questions. So thank you, Mr. Gandhi. I think what we are going to do is I'll put out a few questions to start with to get us going, and then we'll open it up to Q&A. So the first thing I wanted to say, really not on my behalf, but on behalf of, I know, many people here, your critics. There is a held view that you've had a very long probation in politics. You've taken your time, and you have finally been elected president of the Indian National Congress. What do you bring to the job along with a family name? I think a couple of things. One is that I've been through a certain degree of violence. I've seen violence up close, I've had family members killed, and I understand how violence works and why violence is destructive. And it's a small thing to say, but I think those experiences have made me a compassionate person, a person who understands that violence hurts people. So I have a tendency to reach out and listen, and I think that's, in my work, it's a very useful thing. It helps one build coalitions, it helps one listen, it helps one actually move things forward. That's one thing I certainly think. The other thing is that, frankly, 15 years in politics is a serious amount of experience. And I've taken my, you know, the share of shots to the chin, I've taken that, and I've understood how to deal with it. I've borne the brunt of massive attacks, and I think I've learned a lot from them. The final thing is I love my country, and I have, I love my country, and I feel deeply for people in my country who are weak, who are bullied, who are beaten up. I feel deeply, for example, for people from the lower castes, tribal communities, farmers, women, who are in a difficult situation, and I really want to help them. And I think that there is a, there is a genuineness that I feel. So let's take three areas, social justice, which you've already begun to talk about, secularism and economic policy. What is your vision for these? What are your policy recommendations? What is your vision for India on these three things? I mean, first of all, we like to divide these things as if they have come in nice buckets, you know, economics, sociology, politics, it doesn't work like that. I like to view it much more in terms of the processes that are taking place. And what I see is a transformation of 1.3 billion people, a transformation that started over 100 years ago, a modernizing impulse in India, a impulse to reach out to the world, a impulse to leave the Indian village to break the shackles of caste. And so I view my job as working with that impulse and helping that impulse expand further and reach out further. I'm also the type of person who understands that my view or what I think is not what should drive the future 1.3 billion people. My view is, my view, and yes, I have certain opinions, but really what is interesting to me is what is the view of the Indian farmer? He understands agriculture much better than I do. Who am I to tell him that this is my vision for you? My job is to go to him and say, what do you need? How can we help you? What is your vision for agriculture? How would you like to help empower your country? How would you like to ensure that the food you're growing, the rice you're growing or the wheat you're growing reaches these young kids? And the surprising thing to me is, which is something that I find people underestimate.  They don't have a good experience. They don't understand the world. You're wrong. I have met many, many policy experts on agriculture. And I can tell you, your average farmer sitting in an Indian farm will take on that person and teach him about agriculture. So to me, it's much more about reaching out to students. That's why I have a conversation with you. Sometimes you get into a situation where you ask us some difficult questions. Okay, big deal. No problem. No, it happens. It happens. No problem. We'll deal with it. And I like to reach out to communities and ask them what you want to do. And how can we organize everybody? How can we negotiate something between the farmers and the workers who work on their farms and the people who sell the products? What does that compromise look like? So that's how I think about it. If you were to ask me what is my vision, personal vision on economics, for example, I would say the central problem we are faced with, and frankly, the United States is faced with it. Western Europe is faced with it. We are unable to produce the number of jobs we need. We have released hundreds of millions of youngsters from our villages and they have come to the cities and they're saying to us, guys, we need jobs. And the Indian state is saying to them, sorry, we're not going to give you jobs. We actually can't give you jobs. So we're going to have a conversation about irrelevant stuff. We're going to have a conversation about, you know, how we can divide the nation or we're going to have a conversation about, you know, what this cricketer looks like or we're going to have a conversation about what this actress says. The thing to understand is youngsters, there's a crisis in India. There's a full blown crisis in India and it's called the job crisis. And the Indian state and the Indian government is not accepting it. It is simply saying it doesn't exist. I'll give you a little bit of an idea. 50,000 jobs every 24 hours in China. 450, 450 jobs in 24 hours in India. That's a catastrophe. Okay, so how are you going to develop these jobs? These jobs are going to come from a couple of places. They're going to come from small and medium businesses. They're going to come from revitalizing, re-energizing agriculture, connecting the farm to the table or to your dining rooms. They're going to come from infrastructure, construction of low-cost houses. That's what they're going to come from. But you have to organize people to say, okay, the first thing you've got to do is you've got to explain to people there's a problem. In the 60s and 70s, there was a problem in India. It was called food security. And India said, okay, there is a problem, we've got to solve it. And then the attention of India moved to solving that problem. And then it got solved. And I'm very confident that this job problem can be solved. But India has to first accept that there is a problem. On stuff like sort of social justice, I think pushing democracy further, protecting our institutions, making sure that people's voice guides institutions, making sure that women can come into all our institutions. Those are the type of things that I would push forward. But again, I'm much more interested, frankly, in what the stakeholders of India are interested in. And I see myself, you use the word enabler, service provider. I view government as enablers. India has a tremendous amount of energy. Our job is to put that energy together and make it productive. Sorry, there was no... No, that's fine. On agriculture, the UPA government commissioned and got the MS-Swaminathan report in January 2007. Would you implement it? I mean, that was listening to the farmers. It's there on the table. It's available. The farmers want it. There are a couple things about the agricultural sector. One, pretty much anybody will tell you that your average Indian farmer simply doesn't make enough money to survive. So there is an economic problem in the Indian farm. That problem requires two or three things. It requires support. So it requires, in the crudest terms, it requires MSP. It requires a minimum support price.  It requires sometimes farm loan waiver. When you have drought after drought, your farmers in debt, you might need to help them out. So there is a support element that is very important. And then there is also a productivity element that is important. How do we change habits? How do we inject technology into the farm? And yes, a lot of these things are in the report. And I think it would be our endeavor to support the farmer as much as possible. See, at the end of it, it's a very simple thing.  The answer is no. Hindi mein niyat ki baat hoti hain. Agar niyat saaf hoti hain, samajyata hai. Sorry, do Hindi. Agar niyat saaf hoti hain, samajyata hai. If the intention is right, if the feeling is right, the person understands. So a lot of politics is about that. Do you actually believe that Indian agriculture is something that supports India, builds India, projects Indian power? Or do you believe that Indian agriculture is a drain? The current government believes that Indian agriculture can be replaced. When you speak to them, their conversation is, well, you know what, if our farmer can't grow the wheat, we can buy the wheat from elsewhere. But that's not the only role of the Indian farmer. The Indian farmer is integrated in our society. He does much more than just grow wheat. He is a deep element of our society. And it's our duty to help him and protect him. Thank you. You didn't talk about secularism, but I'm sure it'll come up in questions later. I can if you want. Let's do it. You're the boss? What would you like me to say about that? Well, your vision on that issue. And it is important. Again, there are two big transitions of massive scale taking place on this planet. There's the movement of Chinese people from their villages into their urban areas and the transformation of the Chinese system and then there's the transformation of the Indian system. And it's been done in two completely different ways. So they've organized it. They've got a central control. They have the Communist Party. We have a less organized, more chaotic, more organic structure. But the important thing to understand from the Indian perspective is that whatever we've achieved so far has been achieved on the back of all of India's people. It hasn't been done by a few people. The whole of India is sacrificed to get us where we have arrived. And so to me, it goes without saying that if the whole of India is sacrificed to bring us where we are, the whole of India has to benefit from what we have become. And you cannot now say that, sorry, we are not going to give benefits from this great transformation to tribals. We are going to exclude minorities. We are going to exclude Dalits. We are going to exclude farmers. We will also exclude women. You can't do that. So India is 1.3 billion different perspectives. Every Indian person has a particular view. And I respect every single one of them. So the term secularism encompasses only the religious aspect. I say that there shouldn't be a single Indian person, regardless of religion, caste, community, state, gender, anything, anything who should not feel that my voice is not heard in this country and who should not feel that, you know what, we've come so far. And everybody agrees. President Obama says that the real challenge is the United States is coming from India and China. So we have been successful. So I don't feel anybody in India should say, I am not getting a part of what I have built. Thank you. That gives us some clarity of your personal vision where you stand on these issues. Let's talk about the Congress party. So if you were to do a SWOT analysis, strength, weaknesses, opportunities, threats, to translate this vision on the ground, communicate it, deal with the opposition as it stands, which is a very well-oiled, hard-working machinery in India, how does the Congress, what is your assessment as president of your political party on these four? Would you say, are you talking in the short term or are you talking on a grander, longer-term perspective? Well, I know most of this audience is thinking of the next eight months in particular. Next election is going to be pretty straightforward. Next election is going to be a BJP on one side and the entire opposition on the other side. That is what the next election is going to be. And the reason for that is that almost everybody in the opposition and also members of the BJP alliance feel that the encroachment that is taking place on Indian institutions, the systematic attack that is taking place on Indian institutions, you saw for Justice of the Supreme Court come out and say we're not allowed to do our work. You saw recently a journalist who was sacked because he did a program about farmers in Chhattisgarh. So there is a feeling in the opposition that for the first time an organization is challenging the very conception of India. And this has not happened in the last 70 years before. And so there is this mood that we need to defend the Indian institutions. We need to defend the idea of one man, one vote. We need to defend the sort of inclusive idea of India. And so you're going to have a clear cut election where pretty much everybody is going to be on this side and the RSS BJP is going to be on the other side. And once that math starts to come into play and you can look at the UP and Bihar alliances as the sort of central focus area, it becomes very difficult for the BJP to win election. Now if you want me to tell you about the Congress, the Congress is an idea that is actually very old. It is not a new idea in India. Similar to the RSS, which is also a very old idea in India. These ideas, if you read Indian philosophy, if you read our history, these ideas have been in combat for thousands of years. They are different visions on how to organize society. The RSS vision of how to organize a society is a top-to-bottom hierarchy where knowledge is centralized. And the Congress vision of organizing India is a decentralized structure where knowledge is available with everybody and you try to reduce the hierarchy. That's the basic fight. So the Congress has this idea embedded very deep inside it. When you talk to Congress workers, when you talk to Congress leaders and you scratch the surface, you find this idea. You find non-violence inside them. They struggle in the environment. They struggle to bring it out because the environment is aggressive. There's a lot of pushback. But that idea is deep inside Congress workers, Congress leaders. So that's a huge strength. Weakness is that the Congress is not able to express that idea effectively to people. So when people outside the Congress look at the Congress, they struggle to see that idea clearly. See when you look at the BJP, even I look at the BJP in the RSS, it's very clear what they're saying. There's no confusion. And that's because the RSS has spent a certain amount of time working on that idea. Gandhiji used to do that for us. The big leaders of the freedom struggle used to do that for us. And that's where the Congress party has not sort of kept pace. But the good news is that the idea is in the Congress. And the idea is in many, many, many, many Indians. And the idea manifests. So for example, when you see a strong person beating up a small person, a weak person, a woman on the street, something comes out inside you. You feel this sense of protection. You feel I want to do something about this. That's the Congress. That is the idea of the Congress. And you will feel it in you. So the weakness of the organization is that it is not able to reach out to you and say, actually, that idea that you're feeling, that's us. And the second thing is that the Congress has over time closed itself. And the Congress needs to start opening itself. It needs to start saying, okay, you guys need to come in. You guys need to help us run this system. You guys need to work with us. The Congress needs to expand out. And the Congress needs to be precise about what it actually stands for. So that's strengths, weaknesses. And opportunities. Opportunity to me is bringing in millions and millions of Indian youngsters who deeply buy the Congress idea and delivering them an organization that really can work with them, can empower them to transform India. Threat in the Congress? Arrogance. How are you going to bring these millions of young? Are you going to have membership drives? Is eight months enough? Or is this a longer term? Is this something that has to be done patiently and quietly? You see, these are transitions. And there is a past that are senior leaders with experience, with understanding, and then there are a lot of youngsters who are developing. You can't break the past. Because there's a lot of value in some of the senior people. So you have to, in a sense, the present has to be a merger of the future and the past. And that's really why the Congress ran into trouble in 2014. Because we found that there was an internal fight taking place between the older generation and the younger generation. And a lot of the work that we've done now is to try and bring them together successfully. So you can see, for example, in a Rajasthan, a Sachin pilot working with Mr. Ashok Gelotta, you can see in Madhya Pradesh or in Maharashtra, you can see this taking shape. But see, I don't view the Congress as purely an organization. To me, the Congress is, it's yours. Gandhiji used the word trusteeship. I like that word. This is your organization. And the tragedy is that you can't easily come into this organization. And I spend a lot of my time and I get a lot of beating for it, pain for it, in trying to bridge this gap. But realize that this is your instrument. It is the most powerful instrument. So today I went to the House of the Parliament and in one of the speeches, the gentleman said, it hit me, I hadn't really thought of it like that. The gentleman said, you know, this is the room in the British Parliament from where India used to be run. I frankly was speechless. I had never conceptualized that. That my country could be run from a room in another country. How can that be? But that's the reality. And the organization and the idea that fought the superpower and beat them and allowed me today to go to that room and say, actually it's quite interesting that there are 10, 12 Indian MPs who are helping run Britain from the very same room. With no disrespect, this is a magical thing. And by the way, I didn't say, you know, there was no acrimony. I fully accepted that there is a relationship between the British and us. I fully accepted that I'm speaking to youngsters here today who are studying in the LSE and I'm speaking to them in English. This is not our language. This is the language of the British. So when you draw boundaries and you say this is us and that's them, it doesn't work. It's convenient when you want to beat up somebody or when you want something, but it doesn't work. And that's how I want you to think. I want you to realize that this institution took on a superpower and defeated it. And this is your institution and my job is frankly to hand this thing to you to open the space for you so that you can use this instrument to transform our great country. On a completely different note, can I ask you what you had for dinner at Subway last night? That was Milind. People are very worried that you had a Subway sandwich. No, no, no. I didn't actually. I had a nightmare flight last night.  I think the flight, we had these talks and then the flight was, what, 1030 Milind? It was 1030. They told us 1045, 11, 1130, 12, 1231, 132, 233, 330. I just went on and on and on. We arrived at the hotel room at what, 5 o'clock this morning and then we were off again at 9 o'clock. So we had a bad time and we didn't eat much last night. Good. That lays to rest a lot of concerns that have been expressed out here. Can I ask you a very serious question now about 1984? We've heard Prime Minister Manmohan saying statement. We know this. Can I take this opportunity, Rahul Gandhi, to ask you how you feel about the riots? I think when Mr. Manmohan Singh spoke, he spoke for all of us. And as I said earlier, I'm a victim of violence and I understand what it feels like. So I am against any sort of violence against anybody, even anybody on this planet. I am against violence. Even I get disturbed when I see anybody being hurt. So I condemn that 100% and I am 100% for punishment of people who are involved in any violence against anybody. And that's crystal clear. There's no, that's what it is. I saw, you know, people who haven't had violence done to them think that violence is what you see in movies. That's not what it is. I've seen people who I loved very much being killed. I've also seen the person who killed my father being killed. And I can say that when I saw Mr. Prabhakaran lying on the beaches in Jaffna and when I saw him being humiliated the way he was being humiliated, because that's what was happening. I felt sorry for him because I saw my father in his place. And I felt sorry for him because I saw his children in my place. So when you've been hit by violence and when you understand it, it has a completely different impact on you. Most people don't actually understand violence. Your average person doesn't understand violence. It's a horrible thing. It's an absolutely horrible thing and I don't wish it on anybody. I think the critical thing that people will want to know is that your personal vision, which is very important and you'll be very good at explaining it, then becomes part of how Congress manages it on the streets, in riots, where it stands on the communal question, where it has been complicit in the past. It doesn't have a spotless record. And that's what basically, if I'm reading you correct, you're saying under your trusteeship, your stewardship of the Congress, you cannot be president of a political party that will be party to that kind of violence? I mean, no question. Absolutely not. There's no question at all because the essence of my party, the essence of our ideology is non-violent. Final question for me, 2019, because I know again it's on everyone's minds. Do you have, have you thought through a criteria of how a candidate for the Prime Minister's job will be chosen in this coalition that you described earlier, if the Congress doesn't win a majority and if it does, are there criteria? Have you given it some thought? What we're defending is the onslaught on the Indian Constitution. What we see as an onslaught on the Indian Constitution and Indian institutions. And me and the entire opposition sees it as defending the nature of the Indian state. So we have agreed that our first priority is to defeat the BJP and stop this encroachment on the institutional space of India. Stop the poison that is being spread. Stop the division that is taking place. Once the election is over, all those conversations can be had, but we are not going to have those conversations until we have done the first stage, which is to remove the BJP from power. That is the nature of the conversation. And you're going to agree to a common minimum program? We are actually constructing a manifesto within the Congress at the state level and at the national level, where we are looking into a lot of the ideas we discussed, meeting many people, talking to stakeholders, farmers, others. We're also talking to the allies on what that framework would look like. So potentially we would have a structure that we go to the Indian people with, a common minimum structure. And the other thing is that there are some parties that are not now aligned with the BJP. They were earlier aligned with the BJP and they are not now aligned with the BJP. And that's another thing I want to make clear. I see this as an ideological battle. So we're not going to make alliances with anybody who is ideologically not on our platform. We will work with people who are ideologically on our platform, but we will not work with somebody who is not ideologically on our platform. So now thank you very much for that and I'll take questions from the floor. It will be only students who can ask questions. Stewards will come to you with a microphone, so please introduce yourself and your university. Please keep your questions brief and let's conduct this in a civilized fashion. So let's start with the lady at the back in glasses, third row from the back. Please, thank you. Hi, my name is Lavana Joshi and I study at University of Warwick. My question is why agricultural sector, why so much of focus on agricultural sector when India has so many skilled resources to focus upon? Why not bring technology? Why not bring industries at this moment? Let me quickly answer. You're not saying that you're going to exclude industry or exclude technology. You're saying that one has to take into consideration the entire Indian structure and move the system forward. So it's not an either or. You can do all three things. That's the first point. Second point is when you actually look at it in depth, you can't make these type of segregations. Agriculture is deeply linked to many other things in the country and weak agriculture has an impact on things way beyond the farm. It has an impact on the price of the food you eat.  So the vision that, you know, we can separate these things and say, okay, this is technology, this is industry, this is agriculture. That's not precise. Second thing is, small example. The fastest growth in India and some economists came to me shocked. The fastest growth in India came in the rural areas. In the UPA period when you're growing in 9%, the growth was in the rural areas. And the growth was in the rural areas because Manrega, which is the guaranteed employment scheme and the farmer loan waiver fired off the economy in the rural areas. And when the economy in the rural areas fired off, whole sets of people started selling stuff to them and started to make money.  So you have to view it in a connected way.  What's the point of studying philosophy? What's the point of studying biology? The whole thing comes together. When you add all the things together, the value is much more. And that's why we focus on all areas. We focus especially on agriculture because it is struggling and it's weak. Thank you, Mr. Gandhi. My name is Tom Wilkinson. I'm a PhD student here at the LSE. And I wanted to ask you... You mind standing up, Tom? Oh, yeah, of course, yeah. Can I have a walk around a bit? Yeah, sure, of course. Hello, hello there. Do we have a hand mic? A spare microphone? So yeah, my question is, as somebody who is from a great political family and now finds himself in the position that you find yourself leading the Indian National Congress, how do you understand dynastic politics in India? How do you make sense of dynastic politics in India? And could you answer specifically with regards to your vice, the top? And my second question is... No, you're not allowed a second question. Okay, no second question. Okay, that's fine. Thank you. That certainly helps people identify you and helps you enter politics. But then I'm an elective person. I have fought three elections, democratically elected. So the term dynasty is not precise. I'm actually elected. Thank you. Yeah, so I think the important thing is that I operate in a democracy and I work with people. I get attacked by the opposition. I take the punches. I learn. I react. And I think if you listen to me, you will get a sense that I have thought about some of these things in detail. And that I have learned quite a lot from my experience over the last 15 years about the type of things that need to be done in our country. So I think the most important thing is what you actually bring to the table, how you listen, how you think about things. And that's a judgment that you have to make after listening to me. There's a question here. Good evening, Rahulji. My name is Mohan Sethi and I do politics and economics at the LSE. Across India, we see...  Well, I do a bit of politics as well, let's just say that. Across India, we see growing intolerance. We see actresses getting threatened to have their nose chopped off. We see 4 million people from the minority becoming stateless overnight. My question to you is, do you think all those years ago Mr. Muhammad Ali Jinnah was correct to stress a nation for the minority to get away from the tyranny of the majority? I don't think so. I think, in fact, India has proved exactly the opposite. If you look at our history over the last 70 years, we've had more Muslim people than Pakistan. And frankly, we've had a more democratic country, a more open country, a country that listens and embraces its people more effectively. So I don't agree with that. However, I also say that I can understand why Pakistan is struggling. And I can understand some of the issues that they're dealing with. But the negotiation that India has been able to carry out between its people has been much more effective than the one Pakistan has been able to do. So that's something we're very proud of. However, over the last four years, an attack is taking place on Indian institutions. But there is a massive fight back against that attack. And I'm telling you in this room that the idea of India, the original idea of India is going to win 100% without a doubt. Mr. Gandhi? Yeah. Okay, I'm sorry. I sit down again. Sorry, I know. It's sort of... But you can stretch your legs. No, no. I didn't realize that. I'm sorry. You can walk when they're asking the question and sit down. Okay, I can walk while they're asking the question. Hi, I'm Dhruva Mathur from the LSE. My question to you is that in a lot of democracies, independent regulators such as the Election Commission, the Central Bank Governor, they're all appointed by the parliament. In fact, LK Advaniji in 2012 has suggested a similar system for India for the Chief Election Commissioner. What is your party's stand on this? And would you consider having it as part of your 2019 agenda? Thank you. No, coming soon. Sorry. Sorry. See, what is happening? Have you noticed the level of debate in the Indian parliament? Are you proud of it? You can answer. You can answer. Don't feel shy. How many of you in this room are proud of the debate in the Indian parliament? You see? Now, why is the debate in the Indian parliament of such low quality? Why do you think you have hundreds of experienced politicians, very capable people, and then you look at the parliament and the level of debate, the level of conversation isn't what you expect. There's a lot of shouting. And then notice another thing. If you look at the same parliament in the 50s and you read the quality of the debate in the 50s and the 60s, you look and you say, my God, what's going on? What has happened? So why this puzzle? What do you think? Anybody? No, no, no. That's no, no, no, no. The real reason is that today members of parliament do not have power. They do not have power to make laws. Today laws are made by the prime minister's office, by the ministers, and by a set of bureaucrats. No, it means that we need to make our members of parliament actually powerful. We need to actually turn around and say the fact that you're sitting in this house means that you will have lawmaking power. The moment you give them lawmaking power, you will see the quality of the debate will climb immediately. I'll give you an interesting anecdote. One day I was talking to one of the members of parliament from Rajasthan and he said, you know, I made a huge mistake. So he said, why? What happened? He said, you know, many years ago, in the late 60s, I was a district magistrate. I was a bureaucrat. And every day, a member of parliament or an MLA would come to my room and when they'd come, I'd stand up because the member of parliament had power. So he said, I thought, you know what, I thought I'll resign my job as a bureaucrat and I'll become a member of parliament. So he says, he resigned his job as a bureaucrat, became a member of parliament. And he says to my horror, when I became a member of parliament and I went to the bureaucrat to the DM's office, the guy refused to get up now. So if I take this room and I say to you that what you say is going to be translated into policy, for example, you will have a solid debate on it.  You're not going to be the people who are going to translate it into policy. The bureaucrats sitting in that room and the prime minister's office and the chief minister's offices are going to decide that you'll after some time say, what's the point here? And that's actually what has happened to the Indian parliament. The member, I spend a huge amount of time doing the job of a Pradhan. I am involved in building, helping conceptualize roads in my constituency. But the actual job of a member of parliament is to make laws. And Indian members of parliament today are not involved, actively involved in the process of law. That's why you don't see a discussion. So coming back to your point, you can do what you said. But it means nothing unless you empower the MPs and the MLA sitting inside the houses of parliament and the houses of legislative assembly. So that's really the challenge. Your team says, Milan says five minutes. We can take a couple more questions. And the lady here first, and then the gentleman at the back. Can I just say that I have no idea. I can't tell your faces from here. If I pick LSE students over others, it's entirely coincidental. So please, I have no idea. Please go ahead. Good evening, Mr. Rahul. My name is Nusrat Lashkar and I'm a management student at LSE. My question to you today is, if you're given a chance to become the Prime Minister of India, what will be your plans in terms of empowering youth? Empowering women. Empowering the youth. The youth? Yeah. Okay, let's take another question at the back. Good evening, Mr. Gandhi. My name is Sairam Natarajan and in the spirit of full transparency, I'm not a student, but I am from Nisau. I'm sorry. I'm from Nisau. Sorry. Very quick question. What is your take on transparency in political funding? And if you believe that there should be something about that, what would you do if you come to power? I take it very simple. And at the more transparency, the better. Okay. Thank you. Thank you. Do you oppose electoral bonds? I mean, the way they're designed currently. They're completely opaque. Yeah. So, electoral bonds today are basically designed to... Yeah. ...and attack opposition. While we are at it... Sorry, do you want me to just... Yeah. The lady here, empowering the youth. Empowering youngsters. The instrument to empower youngsters is the political system. And there's simply not enough talented, capable youngsters in the political system. And I think that's where a lot of work needs to be done and that's where I spend a lot of my energy working. And if you're interested in working in that area, we would happily, happily recruit you and get you to do some work. Yes. Thank you. Thank you. I think, Milin, we are going to have a lot of very, very disappointed students. So please maybe have another five minutes. Yeah. Yeah. Can we do that? Please. Okay. So, let me see. Let's take just next to you on the left. Hi. My name's Rohan Sankla. I'm a student at LSE as well. There's definitely a bias going on here. I don't recognize these guys. I must say, I can still ask my question. Okay. Yeah. Can I finish my question though? That's fair. That's fair. Let's not stop Rohan mid-sentence. Yeah. Go ahead. Quick. Yeah. My question is related to the first question Dr. Banerjee asked, which is to do with your own personal experiences. And it also connects to you saying that you want to be an interpreter and an enabler. I want to ask, in your journey when you've been listening and translating the visions of common Indian citizens, farmers, as you've said so many times, have you ever been wrong in your judgment? We are often wrong. I mean, you learn. You don't learn by being right. You learn by being wrong. Because if you're right, you just keep doing it. So I think absolutely I've been wrong many, many times. Example what, I mean, in what area? Just in policy or? I'll give you an example. I thought, I used to think that simply improving the economic position of a person, simply transforming India economically will result in a reduction of caste thinking. I don't hold that view anymore. It won't. And I can give you multiple examples. See, whenever you look at something in depth and you actually study it, you will find that your viewpoint has certain, you're making certain mistakes. And so it's a process of saying, okay, does that work? Yes, it does. No, it doesn't. Okay, then what works? So it's a constant process that you're doing. And if you are taking away, or if I take away the fact that I can never be wrong, then basically what I'm saying is that I'm not human, right? Because it is human to be wrong. So absolutely we do that all the time. I'm sure. Do you do that? Yeah. Okay, let's take two final questions. I'll tell you another very strong example that they taught me about violence. One gentleman came to see me and he sat down in my room when we started to talk. And then after some time he said to me, you know, Mr. Gandhi, I can't believe I'm sitting here. So I said, why? He said because he was an MLA from Punjab. He says because 25 years ago, I would have killed you. But today I'm sitting here talking to you. He was in Punjab, he was involved in militancy. And I realized that day that the power of a conversation.  They're misunderstanding you. And if you go deep enough, you'll find that there is there is people are genuinely nice. That's what I believe. I don't believe people are evil. And so so the extent of it sometimes surprises me how much power of conversation actually has in in turning a perspective. Okay, final question, I think. Okay, thank you, Mr. Gandhi. Over here. Hi, my name is Ranjit Rathore and I'm the president at Brunel Students Union. So I became the first international student to ever become the president of Brunel Students Union. Thank you. So you're not a politician then? Am I? And a couple of months ago I was the youngest Indian to win the Bharat Gaurav Award. That is my introduction. And my question is since you talked about Rajasthan a lot. I come from Rajasthan and my question is in a couple of months time there is election in Rajasthan. So what is Congress Party strategy vision moving forward for Rajasthan? Thank you. You'll have to ask that to Sachin and Mr. Ashok Elode for the details. But there are some interesting ideas that we had done carried out in Rajasthan on healthcare when we were in government. On providing free medicines and constructing a healthcare system that effectively reaches poor people. So that's something that we are looking at in a comprehensive way. And I think that's something that is interesting for the whole country. And I think India healthcare is something that can be the next revolution in India. We're also looking at small and medium industries in Rajasthan and how we can empower them and start to create jobs. There is now that corridor that is being constructed. So we are thinking along supporting small and medium industries, developing the healthcare system, making it slightly easier for the young urban Rajasthani from a healthcare perspective, from an education perspective. There's a student that his arm is going to fall off if I don't. Okay, thank you. Maybe this is why when you ask students the concerns are different. Maybe they want to ask about other things. No, I can answer that if you want. If you like, I can answer that. No problem. I answer everybody. I don't hide. I'm not scared. No, tomorrow you get a chance tomorrow. The single biggest instrument against corruption is the right to information. The right to information is like an arrow that goes right into the heart of the Indian bureaucratic machine, bureaucratic political machine. And that's something that we developed. And unfortunately, that's something that has been weakened and destroyed. It's interesting that it took three years for the Lokpal to be put in place. That's also an institution that we conceptualized and we put in place. The third really powerful thing you can do to fight corruption is decentralization. And the idea of Panchayati Raj, the idea of bringing governance closer to people, that's a very powerful thing. Finally, the real question for me, and I'd like to stand up while I'm talking about it, but I don't have the mic. But the real question to me that is in my mind is the question of Rafael. And that's a really interesting question because HL has been building aircraft for 70 years. HL has built the MiG, 21, 23, 27, 29, the Sukhoi, the Jaguar, the Hawk, whole set of planes. HL has no debt. HL has by far the best experience in building aircraft in the last 70 years. Our government signed a contract with the salt and gave the contract to HL. The price we were paying, approximately 520 crores a plane. Then something happened. Prime Minister Modi went to France, changed the contract from 126 planes to 36 planes, changed the pricing structure from 520 crores to 1600 crores. And magically, Mr. Anil Ambani was given the contract. Mr. Anil Ambani is 45,000 crores in debt. Mr. Anil Ambani has never made a plane in his life. And the company that got the contract, the biggest defense contract, one of the biggest defense contracts in the world was formed. Wait for this one. One week before the contract was signed. Now, to me, this is absolutely amazing. And the absolutely amazing thing about this is that the media in India just won't pick it up. They will not pick it up. So that's an interesting question about corruption. Okay. We'll take the students. You're not an LSE student, are you? Oh, good. Then I'll let you ask.  I'm a student. Where are you a student? Good evening, Mr. Gandhi. I'm Shaurya Vick. I'm the vice president at King's College London Students' Union. And I'm also the first Indian international to be in this position. So my question to you was, we know that Congress doesn't agree to a lot of policies and initiatives of BJP. But are there any initiatives, policies or ideologies to which the Congress agrees to that belong to the BJP? I sent a message to the Prime Minister saying that the day he wants to sign the women's reservation bill into law, every single Congress member of parliament will support it without conditions. He also told the Prime Minister when the discussion about GST was on that we are happy to cooperate with you on developing a GST that works. And the response we got, frankly, was we're not interested. So they developed a GST that had five tiers and frankly has been very destructive for India because it has made the life of small and medium businesses, shopkeepers extremely complicated. And between GST and demonetization, we are looking at two GDP points, percentage points knocked out. So we reach out. Unfortunately, sometimes we don't get the response that we'd like. However, on many things, there's a straight line between us. On the way they treat weaker sections, on the way they treat farmers, it's black and white. But wherever we see that there is an agreement, women's reservation, the idea of GST, we are there to support. No, sorry, you can't have it. There's a lady here. Are you a student of LSE? And you're going to ask the final question. Do you think it will be before we see a female Prime Minister in India again? I'm not a soothsayer, but I think India should see many more women leaders at every level in the States. And it's something I believe passionately in and it is something that if you watch the Congress Party over the next couple of years, you'll start to see some of the women that we are developing, we are helping them along. You'll start to see them rise to prominence. I unfortunately have to go, but it's been a pleasure and it's been an honor.


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Right now, 690,000 Australians are living with severe or complex mental illness, such as bipolar disorder, eating disorders, major depressive disorder, schizophrenia and post-traumatic stress disorder. So for every one of these people, there are at least five other people who are directly affected, whether it's family, friends or work colleagues. That equates to approximately four million people who are dealing with the challenges of complex mental illness. For 30 years, St. Australia's been working with people to reduce stigma and pull down the barriers that prevent people from speaking up and getting the help that they need.  We need to increase understanding in our workplaces so that we can create environments that are healthier and better for all. Work practice leads us to three key things we need to be addressing in our workplaces. Reducing stigma, strong leadership and understanding how to deal with a mental health crisis. Workplaces need to ensure that they are reducing stigma at every point in the employment cycle. Pre-employment, we need to be ensuring that we're not screening out people from work unnecessarily. If someone discloses they're living with a mental health condition, we need to be asking how might we be able to support you in the workplace. When we're at work, it's really important that we work with someone if they're experiencing a mental illness. Nicole, one of our speakers, tells us that when she was diagnosed with a mental illness, she had a great supervisor and she started talking to somebody outside of the workplace about her mental health condition and was making great progress. She then had a new team leader and he suggested to her that she resign and reapply for her position when she was better. We need to take the responsibility and do better than this. When we are off work with mental illness, it's critical that our workplaces stay linked in with us and keep talking to us, reminding us that we are valued employees. When we're returning to work, we need to be communicating with the person and make sure that we are helping them readjust in the workplace. Mick, another of Sane's speakers, tells us that he gets tired of having to teach managers about mental illness. Absolutely when he's off work and returning to work, he needs to be helping the workplace understand what his needs are and what his capabilities are at that time. However, it's not his responsibility to teach the workplace about mental illness. We need to be clear that we're not creating gated communities at any step in the employment cycle. Reducing stigma at every point along the way is going to make the impact. Dove, one of Sane Australia's thriving community speakers, talks compellingly about his experience as a doctor, both as a patient and as a medical practitioner. Dove has a lot to teach us about how we can improve and make the working lives of people with mental illness much better for all of us. My name's Dove. I live with bipolar disorder and I'm a medical doctor. Most people might be surprised to know that people in the medical health profession actually suffer more from mental illnesses than probably mainstream society. That it's still not widely talked about and there's a huge stigma even amongst my colleagues. I'm often horrified with how patients with mental health issues are treated. It has allowed me to be a better doctor. However, I want people out there to know that even from the position that I'm in as a practicing physician, I too have experienced loneliness and stigmatisation. When I was a medical student, I had my first major manic event and I found it quite interesting that amongst my peers of somewhat 200 medical students, barely any identified that there was a problem or if they did identify that there was a problem, they didn't raise the alarms or speak to anyone. So if you think about it, a medical student going through a mental health crisis amongst medical colleagues, lecturers, etc. and still can't really get the attention and help that they need, imagine what someone in the wider community faces. Six weeks after Dove's video aired, he'd had more than 10,000 likes on Facebook and he reports that there has been overwhelming support from both his workplace and the community. Reducing stigma is a key barrier and once we do this, we're working towards all workplaces having better attitudes and therefore better outcomes for all people living with complex mental illness. We need to start at the top to affect real change around mental illness in our workplaces. We need to be asking ourselves as leaders, where is mental illness in our strategic objectives? Where is it in our executive KPIs? It's only then that HR and other managers can develop and implement the policies and procedures necessary to support people living with complex mental illness. Research tells us that people with complex mental illness don't speak up because they don't want to be a burden and they're ashamed. This is reflected in the Australian suicide statistics. People living with complex mental illness are 10 to 45 times more likely than the general population to take their own lives. Now that we're aware of the high rate of suicide amongst people living with complex mental illness, our workplaces need policies and procedures in place now before there's a crisis. We need to have our key contact points and the best process clearly outlined for all managers in an organisation so that our response is consistent. Mental illness needs to be included. Ignorance stands in the way of good management. It can no longer be used as an excuse for poor workplace practice. There are many Australian workplaces that are providing inclusive workplace culture where people with complex mental illness are able to contribute in their full capacity. It's the responsibility of senior managers to provide the environment and the training for managers to ensure that we have best practice mental health in all Australian workplaces.


From London, England, it's theCUBE, covering Coupa Inspire 19, EMEA, brought to you by Coupa. Hey, welcome to theCUBE, Lisa Martin, coming to you from Coupa Inspire 19 in London. Pleased to welcome one of Coupa's spend setters. Joining me now is James Wagstaff, the Chief Procurement Officer of Providence. James, welcome to theCUBE. Hello, Lisa, nice to be here. So you've had a very busy day. Thank you for taking some time to talk to me about Providence, what you're doing with Coupa, but give our audience an overview of Providence, what you guys do and deliver to your customers. Very good. So Providence is a FTSE 250 UK financial services business. It lends money to people without access to mainstream lending. So its real focus is to do that in a responsible, caring way. So if you can't borrow money from Barclays or HSBC, then Providence is a company that will help you get back to access to that mainstream market. Individuals as well as small businesses? Consumers, around two million people in the UK currently use Providence, either the credit card or our home credit or our car leasing business. Okay, so how long have you been there? I have been a Providence now since April of 2018. So we're coming up now to, I think, 19 months and we put Coupa into the bank, which is the credit car business, in April or April May. Okay, talk to me though about your journey in business and finance. You, one of the things I wrote about you is that you were encouraged from an early age to really understand all aspects of a business from operations, to finance, to marketing, to truly provide value through procurement. Talk to me about the history there that you have.  I think everyone should have a mentor and I lucked into mine, a chap called Terry, who for reasons best known to him, took me under his wing. I was quite old when I came to procurement. I was around late 20s, maybe 30, and he had a vision about what great procurement looked like and it was a holistic view. So procurement is worst, can be very tactical, very cost focused and Terry was very focused on the bigger picture about top line growth, not just bottom line. And right from day one, he seeded that in me and it's been the strength of my career. So I owe Terry, Terry Weston, if he's watching, I owe Terry everything for that. And then I spent the last 10 years as an expat. So prior to Provident, I had three years as the group CPO for Vimplecom, which is the Russian equivalent of Vodafone or AT&T, who had businesses throughout Soviet Union, CIS and Asia PAC and then seven years with Huawei, who are China's largest private company, telecoms company and I was traveling around the world on the sales side, facing procurement. So that was a very sobering and lightning experience to see procurement from the supplier side of the table. And I think it's made me a different procurement person as a result in terms of the way that I treat people and relate to people. So that holistic nature, combined with I think a very business centric view of what procurement should do. Interesting that you said I got a late start in procurement, but your start was founded upon someone giving you very solid advice and look beyond that because this is an element of the business that can, somebody that clearly was seeing how transformative but also how it was important for procurement to partner and understand different requirements and needs within each division within an organization. So it sounds like you didn't really grow up in that traditional siloed approach of procurement. I did not. And I think that for me, it makes my life interesting. So I think if you're in procurement and the danger is you become quite siloed, you're very narrow. And I did my MBA quite recently while I was traveling just to get that bigger perspective. It makes the job fun. I mean, I think you can negotiate contract after contract after contract, but it's the context of what that's doing for the business. And I think when I looked at Cooper as a system, it was with that in mind. So looking at Cooper, not from a perspective of what it did for procurement, but how it was for end user customers. So as a service, was it really, really simple to use? Did it feel like an Amazon shopping experience? Because that drives adoption. And if you can get people wanting to use the system because it's easy, then the data's in the system and then the data's in the system, you can do something with it. So you're not fighting that adoption issue. You would be on a lot of systems. So if you go to some of the big ERP systems, they can be really hard for people to change and adopt. And Cooper's not been like that. It's been relatively easy. Interesting that you talk about it is it needs to be as simple as an Amazon marketplace. As consumers, we're so used to that, right? I mean, people transact daily and get fulfillment of whatever product or service they're ordering from Amazon within, sometimes it's within an hour or two. So we had this expectation and this demand. To your point though, about wanting to have software that would be as easy for your teams to take up that consumer effects. Talk to me about that as an influence. Did you know kind of right away, experience with other systems that might be bigger legacy systems that are challenging to get folks to use because they're not that intuitive? Did you knew right away when you came in to Providence that I need to have something that is more consumer-like? I knew that we needed a system and because as a regulated industry, we had to control our spend. So the fact that we needed a procurement system was a given. So then the choice is what do you buy? I think you don't really need a big ERP unless you really want to spend a lot of money on system integrations and complexity. So you're then into the mid-market space and there's a lot of vendors out there that have had an on-premise model been around a long time, but you can feel that when you use it. So I didn't do a paper-based RFP. I think that's probably a terrible way of evaluating systems because you can get a function list on paper but that doesn't really tell you what it's like to use. So the procurement process was around video online demos. So getting users into the room for three hours for an online demo, walk through the system. So it was a very non-traditional procurement process to buy a procurement system. And I think at the end of that, I think it was a more valuable process for it. Was that something that was driven by you or was that something that was driven by Koopa? How they deliver that type of experience? It was driven by me, but I think it was welcomed by Koopa. I think from the sales guys, I think they do an awful lot of paper-based RFP and I think it's a challenge because it's very hard to differentiate on paper. Actually, a lot of the systems kind of do the same stuff but it's not what they do, it's how they do it. And you can't get that out of the paper. You have to see it and feel it and touch it. Exactly. Well, one of the things that Rob Bernstein talks about and he spoke about it this morning is that the best UI is no UI. And he really talked about what they've done to be user-centric and talked proudly about the adoption that they've had. And you know, it's, we all know, whatever software you're putting in an organization, all these, you know, whether it's marketing, finance, operations, sales, if people aren't going to use it, it's not going to be able to deliver the value that whoever purchased it and brought it on needs it to do. Talk to me about that user-centricity. Did you see and feel that right away in those demos?  I mean, Rob's great. He's a bit of a force of nature. You've got to say that. But what I like about it is that he's got a very clear sense of vision about what the system should be. And I think he's done a great job of getting that throughout the company, top to bottom. And to date, we've felt that. So normally what happens is you buy the software license as you sign the agreement, there's lots of love and care. And then kind of the vendor disappears a little bit and you're on your own. And to date, Cooper done a great job. We've got Damian Penel, who's our success manager. He's, I get the sense that he really cares about whether the system's going to do what it promised to do and how do we get more value out of it. Some of it is about selling more licenses because Cooper have got other modules that they want you to buy, but that's kind of okay. If the modules are delivering more value, then you don't mind paying for them. But even the modules we own, there is a real sense of are you exploiting it to the max? And that's pretty cool. What are some of the key values that you have gleaned so far in just the what, maybe six months or so that you guys have been using the platform? So I'm quite surprised at the extent to the insights, the value I'm getting out of the insights. So as an example, and I'll be honest, Cooper told me that said your spend through catalogue is 27% and your industry top quartile is 95. And I kind of went, nah, I don't believe you. And then they said your electronic invoicing could be 77% in your currently single digits. And I went, nah, I don't believe you. And then through the community, we spoke to co-op who were another Cooper customer and Mali there was saying, no, we're doing it. We're at this, we're at 95% or 97% even. And I went, well, how you doing there? And she just taught me through how they sell it to suppliers and how in my head, the reluctance to adopt actually evaporated because she was able to sell the idea to suppliers, sell the value out. So she didn't force them to do it. She just said, this is what you're going to get out of it if you do it this way. And she's genuinely got to 97. So what it's done for me is it's removed my own blockers in my own mind, in my own head, you can't do this. Well, insights and speaking to other communities says yes, I can. So it's changed my targets, changed what I think is possible. And I think that's cool. You look back to the beginning of your journey in procurement, business and finance. When you were given this great advice, like be open-minded, understand how different parts of the business work from then to where you are now and what you're able to deliver in just a short time, leveraging Coupa, but you believed you've been able to go from there to there? Yeah, so Terry would always say to me, if you're going to negotiate a deal, before you even pick up a contract, you would spend an hour with the business owner or the techie or whoever it is, and you just whiteboard at a technical level what the solution is. I think that years and years and years of doing that, of going deeper into technology and software and integration and through deal after deal after deal. When you come to run the project to implement Coupa, you have that as a foundation. So you're not just at the surface and relying on other technical people because you're lost when you get to this level of detail. You've already got a little bit more depth. So I think that was the big spin-off in a way that you're able to have more in-depth conversations at a technical level, which you need to unblock stuff. So some of the news that came out today, they talked about what they're doing is to expand Coupa Pay with American Express. I was just talking with Barclays. Barclay Card's been on that for a little while. Looking at the payment space, for instance, on the BGC side, we have this expectation as consumers, we can do any transaction, we can pay bills. It hasn't been as, on the B to B side, it hasn't been as innovative. Some technology gaps, large scale. Do you see Coupa in that respect with what they're doing with Coupa Pay? Do you see that influence from the consumer side that might eventually become an important part of what you're able to do at Providence? We haven't enabled Coupa Pay, so I'm not in a position to talk authoritatively about it. In terms of taking the consumer kind of demand. I look at the one-time use credit cards and I'm really quite excited about what that could do and I kind of get the business sense and the use case behind that. So that's certainly on our radar. I like the risk-aware products as well using the big data and AI stuff. So there's a few things in the roadmap that I've got my eye on. We're deploying expenses module in December, January, so that'll keep us busy on that. And then we need to route six months of data through Coupa so that we've got enough of a data pool to do the analytics. So we've got a busy roadmap, that's for sure. For last question for you, James, for peers of yours, whether they're in financial services industry or not that are facing similar challenges and opportunities to transform procurement, what's your best advice?  I think procurement suffers a little bit from people who have only ever been in procurement and I think that different perspective would be enormously powerful. So I think if we could get more marketing people and more lawyers and more different people from different professions into procurement, I think it would give you a broader perspective rather than I've grown up in procurement in the last 20 years sort of perspective. So go and get that holistic global view would be my suggestion. Well, James, that's great advice. I think for anybody anywhere, and I'm sure Terry would be proud to hear you say that. I'm sure he would. Thank you so much for joining me on theCUBE and sharing with us what Provident is doing with Coupa. We appreciate your time. It's been a real pleasure. Thank you, Lisa. Dr. James Wagstaff, I'm Lisa Martin. You're watching theCUBE from Coupa Inspire 19. Thanks for watching.


Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today, our topic, how men fall in love different from women. All right, really quickly, before we get started, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit that subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if anytime during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if an F-bomb or two is in your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectation. And one more thing, my channel is for those who are seeking partnership and relationship, not those that are seeking casual relationships, situations, friends with benefits, or any-ish type of relationship. So let's jump into how men, or men fall in love different from women. Now let me tell you where this broadcast was birthed from. I was reading an article about how men and women fall in love differently. So I'm gonna share what was shared in the article. I don't have the article listed for me, I just jotted some notes from it, so I apologize for that. But I wanna make an observation, and this is primarily because my channel is for women, helping them understand men, how to improve their relationship lives. And so while what I'm about to share may be directed from the perspective of looking at women and men, what I'm about to share goes both ways. This isn't single, what I'm about to share about women and men can go the other way around men with women, okay? So I just want that to be clear. One thing I've noticed though, because my channel is probably 90% viewed by women is I read comment after comment after comment, not all at the same time, of women who are in completely unhealthy relationships, dysfunctional relationships, and they stay in these unhealthy dysfunctional relationships, calling it love. And I think to myself, why does this happen? Why would a person, man or woman, stay in an unhealthy dysfunctional relationship and call that love? And I think it's because I think very few humans actually understand what really is love versus what's also known as attachment, attachment. So if you're not familiar with the book, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, I highly recommend checking this out. This will talk to you about what's known as love attachment styles, love attachment styles. And it goes into how we actually attach to another human being and not necessarily love another human being. Now, the other book you may wanna check out is called Getting the Love You Want by Harbell Hendricks and Helen Hunt. This talks about the amago. This talks about how we get attached to people who are similar to one or both of our parents. And what that means to say is this happens to most everybody, yourself included, is we oftentimes choose partners that are similar in personality or actually opposite of the personality of one or both of our parents because we're actually seeking, the little child inside of us is actually seeking approval from our parent but we choose partners to reenact this scenario that didn't happen in our childhood. And quite frankly, you could have had an extraordinary childhood and still experienced this or you could have had a rather traumatic and dysfunctional childhood and experienced this as well. And what happens oftentimes is people call this love, they call this love when they're actually literally reliving a childhood trauma with some person in their life. And I'm just gonna make an observation about women in particular only because I talk to women far more than I talk to men per se, is women oftentimes operate from a place of what I call martyrdom, martyrdom. In other words, they gave, they gave, they gave so much, they gave so much to the relationship, they gave so much in a unhealthy dysfunctional relationship, they gave so much and then they act like they're the martyr when the relationship is over. Like in other words, they suffered, they endured all this pain. And that's a very, quite frankly, that's a very narcissistic selfish approach to love because love doesn't operate that way. Love operates from a place of what can I give instead of what can I get? In fact, I Googled the difference between attachment and love, and I just wanna read this to you. You're more than welcome to Google this yourself. You could type in attachment versus love but these were the two things that came up. One is love evokes fond feelings and actions towards the other person particularly. Attachment is driven by how you feel about yourself with the degree of permanence and safety someone gives you based on past relationships. In other words, with love, your person is the one you have feelings for. I don't know about that last part. And then secondly, it says, the major difference between love and attachment is love is a feeling directed towards the other person while attachment is a self-centered meaning based on fulfilling one's own needs. And I'm not surprised at this because here in the United States we are suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. We literally are suckling on that nipple. And so I'm here to draw attention to this because first off, okay, I'm yelling. I'm gonna chill out. First off, we actually have to learn to love ourselves to learn our love to learn to love ourselves. And I learned this the hard way after my son passed away those who've been following my channel know my son passed away. There's a picture of Connor there, there. That's with me and my son Colin. And I actually two months after he passed away I began writing a book about self love called what the heck is self love anyway which is a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work. It's a very tame entry point into learning how to love oneself. By the way, there's a link below to Jonathan recommends books or you can check out selflovethebook.com. Why am I suggesting this? Folks, we can't really genuinely love another person until we actually start learning to love on ourselves. And I don't mean, you know, getting manicures and pedicures and facials and massages that's self care, that's part of a self love regiment. I'm talking about that place of loving one ourselves so we don't need to become from a dependent place to love another human being. And sadly, here in the United States in particular we are very codependent or maybe even for some people codependent other people counter dependent counter dependent people are oftentimes avoidant attachment styles. Codependent people tend to be anxious attachment styles. Coming back to the book attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. Let me repeat that. Codependent people tend to be more anxious counter dependent people tend to be more avoidant and secure people tend to be interdependent. In other words, you're not dependent upon the other person nor are you afraid of love. You actually work as a team, a partnership. So I wanna read this article to you. Some of the examples list in the article and I wanna give you my perception on it and see how you feel about this, okay? So let me put on my trusty glasses, pull out my notes. So number one, it says men might experience feelings of love faster. Men might experience feelings of love faster. I don't agree with that. Well, let me reframe that. I think women may get attached to men much faster, believing that is love. I'm gonna repeat that. I do believe women get attached to men, partially because the minute you have sex with a man, a chemical is released in your body known as oxytocin and that's a bonding chemical that bonds you to a man. And oftentimes that's perceived as love and I don't actually believe that attachment is true and genuine love. First off, folks, when I say the word I love you, this is what it means to me. I'm here, you matter, we are important. I've got your back, I'm not going anywhere and I only want you, I'm here, I'm present. You matter, that's saying that you aren't just as important as I am. We are important, that means the relationship is a separate entity. I've got your back, that means I'm gonna be there through you thick and thin.  That to me in romantic relationship is genuine love or at least a good starting point. So do men fall in love faster? I don't believe so. I think women get attached faster, I think men might experience lust faster, but let's keep going down this list and see what happens. Number two, men say I love you first. Now that I tend to agree with, I think women are far more afraid to say I love you to a man because they're afraid it's gonna make the man run away. I do believe that to be the case. I think women oftentimes stifle their boys, which is such irony because you ladies always talk about how important it is to communicate and communicate and communicate and yes, so many of you have duct tape over your mouth when it comes to communication. And again, this isn't being, I know this might sound like I'm being mean, but this is just my observation on what I've observed over the last decade and a half of being a dating relationship coach. Many of you are afraid to say things. So I do believe men say I love you first because women are waiting for some level of confirmation before they're gonna say it to their partner. Now, is this a good or bad thing? I'm not here to judge that as a good or bad. I'm just sharing my opinion based on this article. Number three, it says women might say I love you more often than men. Now that I tend to agree with as well. Not always, but most of the time. Now, I probably should pause here for a second because my belief system is that the majority of men and women are in dysfunctional relationships. Most men and women are in dysfunctional relationship because most human beings have terrible emotional maturity and relationship skills. And if you're not familiar with my chart, emotional maturity relationship skills, I believe 20% of the population has clinical issues.  They can be in relationship, but it makes it very difficult for them. And while I say over here 20% are healthy and being generous there, I believe the vast majority of humans are dysfunctional. By the way, this is not a fact. This is an opinion, dysfunctional. So a lot of what I'm sharing here comes from a level of built in dysfunctionality. So why women might say I love you more, it's because they might be needing more validation because they don't feel safe in the relationship. And yet a healthy, happy relationship should be a nice ping pong table of I love you. Oh no, I love you. No, I love you. No, I love you. It should be a nice dance of being able to say those words relatively mutual to one another. I am blessed to be part of a community of friends. I would say there's roughly over a hundred, I call it my spiritual circle. They're just a group of friends that I've met over the years. It's kind of a community of friends. Roughly, I believe there's 40 to 42 couples in this group. That means there's 84 people that are in relationship. And these are men and women to me that are my role models. These are the people that demonstrate not only many, some of them met online, some of them met out in real life, some have been married for more than 20 years, some are newly married, some are newly in relationship. And what I observed and what gives me so much hope is I witnessed men and women with healthy communication with one another. And I know this because I've done workshops with almost everybody in this group. We do workshops together on a regular basis, personal development workshops, and I witnessed men who are absolutely capable of leaning into love.  And yet there are people, genuinely good hearted people falling in love regularly because they have done the work, they've done the healing. They've at least done some introspective work and some healing. This is why I continually recommend the book The Hoffman Process, The Hoffman Process to do a deep dive in childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that help prepare you so you can be in a healthy, happy relationship. By the way, of this group, I think over a dozen people of that circle of 100 have done the Hoffman process. They've done landmark, they've done insight seminars, they've done asked just to name a few, even onsite insight, there's a lot of different personal development workshops, Abraham Hicks, Wayne Dyer, just to name, I've named quite a few now, because these people recognize the importance of loving on oneself to actually be able to love their partner. And these couples also do couples workshop. They're part of a God and Goddess group. They're part of an Eden group. A lot of people that are saying, let's work on co-creating a relationship, co-creating a relationship. If you're not familiar with the book by Gary Zukoff called Spiritual Partnership, Spiritual Partnership, I highly recommend checking this out. By the way, the link below to Jonathan recommend books. Folks, if you wanna be in a healthy, happy relationship, it's time to co-create a healthy, happy relationship. But Jonathan, I'm in a long distance relationship. I don't know how to do that. Yeah, it's gonna be hard in a long distance relationship. But Jonathan, I'm just supposed to sit back in my feminine energy and let the men do all the work. Yeah, dysfunctional men will do dysfunctional things and you're following along with the dysfunctional fallacy fantasy and all this. Folks, I'm here to be your wake-up call. That's why I yell so much. I'm shaking the camera right now. I'm not actually, no, I'm shaking the camera to be your wake-up call. That's why I yell so much because you got, listen, you can get busy living or you can get busy dying. And all I do is recommend great books to prepare you for a juicy, delicious, healthy relationship. Are you willing to do the work? Give me a thumbs up. Give me an amen in the box right now. Ah, I get so riled up. All right, number four, women may be more skeptical of men's commitment. Women may be more skeptical of men's commitment. I totally believe that's true. I think women are so fearful that men won't commit because most of you are entering into casual relationships.   Read this book, Eight Dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. You should be vetting this guy for commitment. But Jonathan, he just says he doesn't want anything serious. Well, then guess what? You're gonna be skeptical of the guy. And how happy do you feel when you feel skeptical?  So start putting the odds in your favor. In fact, my coaching program, by the way, there's a link below to schedule a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you, is all designed to teach you how to ask the right questions based on your individual personality. You work directly with me to formulate those questions so you avoid the wrong people and you actually become a magnetic attractor for a guy like in my circle of friends that I just talked about. All right, the camera's a little off here. Number five, men are more likely to feel like their love isn't reciprocated. Yes, men oftentimes, they're biggest complaint after a divorce is they feel unappreciated in the relationship. I'm gonna repeat that, they feel unappreciated in the relationship. That's the common complaint by men.  Let me just repeat that.  Why have to be sitting my feminine and be claimed? How well does that work? Yes, it works one out of, it's like a broken clock syndrome. You're hearing advice from people who got married at age like babies who got married, not us midlife folk. And yes, they're the exception, not the rule.  Number six, women are more likely to focus their love. I didn't know what that meant, but what I think is they oftentimes, remember I talked about martyrdom, but you hyper focus on how much you're giving and not whether or not you're actually in a co-creative given receive type of relationship. I'm gonna repeat that you're often in a giving, giving, giving and then you're complaining that it's not a balanced relationship. That's on you, it's not on the guy. Choose a guy. Listen, you all whine and complain about communication. Yet you're terrible at communication. You should be reading the book, two books, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. And you should be reading, and I say should, I hear you, the surprisingly simple skills behind extraordinary relationships. These are the books you should be reading so you can learn how to actually communicate with someone. Ladies, just because you have a propensity to vomit your feelings doesn't necessarily mean you're good at sharing your feelings. And listen, if you want, it's gonna take you to extract it from the guy. We weren't trained at expressing our feelings and yet you can be great vehicles to make that happen. You can be, I mean, you actually have the power to create an awesome relationship. Just don't give in the sex right off the bat and don't hyper focus on chemistry and romance as the indicator of relationship success. If you're not familiar with my relationship, Iceberg, this is a nice chart made by Georgie. The tip of the iceberg is chemistry. That's where we notice attraction, but real love happens in shared values, blendable lifestyle and emotional maturity because that's where compatibility comes in. But too many of you are hyper focused on who pays for the date. You're hyper, I mean, I did a post on this the other day and I can't believe some of the comments I heard. By the way, I'm really actually impressed with a lot of the comments, but by the way, the video is called man humbles room full of women. But who pays for a date is not the indicator of relationship success. Let me repeat that. By the way, a man doesn't become the provider protector until he actually chooses you.


Now, it's not necessarily that you've got a lot of time there to be profitable. I think profitability is kind of, I don't know, for me personally, I personally believe that being profitable is the easy part. Getting to where you want to be target-wise, a 4K a day or 5K a day target like myself, I think that's difficult to attain. That takes time. It takes effort. You have to be able to have to have fervor through dips. Some people would give up right here, and some people would give up right around here. Somewhere in here, they're like, I'm out. I get to a point where, I mean, if you started at zero right here, this from here to here is a free up to, that's a $5,500 move. That's $5,500 from there to there. That's bought. Then we draw down. That's a $2,500 draw down. Can you sleep through that and know that, hey, well, a big trade, if I'm on the right trade, here we go. Now I'm up 4K on the day, which means from my negative point of the day, that's $3,200. So I had to go $7,000, right, immense confidence in the system. That's true. That confidence only comes with practice. That confidence comes with the practice of the system. The system is by itself going to do that for you, but the confidence in it trading over time, working on your sizing, working on your entries, working on your adding two positions, sizing is a lot of what we do here because the system does all of the analysis for you. The analysis is done.  I try to narrow that practice down for you, only focus on five sizes, right? So what do we got?  That's it. Five trade sizes. If you can just mentally get that in and practice that. One of the things, I'm going to give you the best tip right now. Everybody who stayed here through the end listened to me talk to you guys about it. Best tip I can tell you, if you're practicing this weekend in market replay, use the rewind button. Right here. I'm going to black and white this one. Use the rewind button. A lot of traders, even though you're practicing, you're not using rewind. Does that mean, I mean, take a trade, do it well, but you're like, I didn't do too well. I could have done better on that.  No, don't do that instead of going on to the next trade rewind, go back, play it again, go through it, play it again. Oh man, you know what? I could have sized up on that. I could have added on that one thing. Okay. Great. Do it again. Now, when you do it perfect, boom, you got the perfect one. You nail it. Awesome. You've got one more time to reinforce this for yourself. Go back to it one more time. You follow me once you've reached perfection. Okay. Do it. This is called baking. Okay.  So you got it. Now I want you to bake it in. Right. I want you to nail it.  You're not good. Let me actually show you how this applies even in regular gaming. We pull up some of my, pull up one of my gaming clips right now here for you. Watch this. Okay. Here we go. So I like it. I'm going to show you an example here. Now, I'm flying around in my jet. I haven't been in a jet in a while, okay, and starting off here like my first thing. I remember I started off rusty. Okay. Look. I can't get on the guy. I'm going to get this in again. I mean, I should have normally had that guy first round. That took me a few tries to get that guy. Normally, I'm going to get that guy right off the bat. I was a little bit rusty. I hadn't played in a while and so I lose it a little bit, but watch what's going to happen. You'll start to watch me get better as the game progresses. Now mind you, I already have the skill set, right? It's baked into me. It's there, but it's not to the level that I can play. If you give me a little bit of time and I start getting warmed up, what I call getting warmed up, which is why I tell you guys this in a few, what your best training, what you should do is market replay the night before. I've said this before in the past, I have noticed there is a deal. If I have spent time market replaying the night before, I have yet that I'm about to knock on wood. Market replay the night before, I would not have a red day the following day. I noticed that for when I was doing that for a long time, I don't do that as much now because I'm more that you play at some point when you reach years of experience, which I noticed, look, I haven't killed very many people. I'm still flying around. You notice I'm rusty. I'm trying to evade an anti-aircraft. See that guy over there, the anti-aircraft is sitting there trying to get me. He is trying real hard to get me and I'm still trying to get my bearings. I might have gotten a little bit right there, but I got to kind of blind off of it. I'm still rusty. I come and take a second pass, which is good. I should be able to take him out right here. All right, I do get him almost hit that tree very, very close, but watch this. I can still tell I'm rusty because watch this, I'm going to whiff this. I totally whiffed that guy, totally whiffed. I should have definitely taken out that helicopter. I'm having to come around, do a second round and chase him while he's running away. I finally do get it. I was rusty at the beginning of this game, but watch what happens. You're about to see if you follow through on the rest of this video, or at least this this weekend. I want you guys to see what happens. This is like Marker replaying the night before. Now all of a sudden, I've done some Marker replay here. I'm doing a few rounds. There's my buddy right there. He's a green jet flying along with me. Okay, so I'm going to get on in behind him and kind of get my bearings. I'm kind of feeling my speed out. I'm trying to make sure that I'm running, you know, in this game, you want to travel your speed between 300 and 315. That's the ideal for the best cutting speed. And so I'm coming up here. I'm approaching this guy and now watch, I can still tell I'm rusty. Watch this. I still normally, I would dodge that guy. So I'm still rusty even right here, but watch what happens after that kill right there. And yes, I'm six kills in on top of the boards right there, but still I'm rusty. I can tell. Okay, so I get in. I go do some more stuff. I get some practice in. But as you start to watch me progress through this game, I get insane with this game. Like I start absolutely destroying people in this game or what happens after and you kind of got warmed up and this happens in training too. The reason I'm telling you this is it happens in training. You know all these things, you know all the deals. Like it's like, I know I need to line up on a guy, I know all the technical things I need to do. But there is something about having your finger on the trigger and having been doing it recently. Recency is key in your practice that you've done most recently is what sticks in your head. Now again, here I'm flying a helicopter solo, am I soloing? No, I got, I got Princess Polka. Princess Polka is in the helicopter with me. She's helping me out with the solo section here. But you know, we do a decent job. We're flying around the map.  She gets some good kills there. And but you'll see that you get better as you mark the replay. I think the helicopter is a little more boring to watch than flying around it yet. So somebody just popped us right there, but we were able to get out. Here comes Princess Polka. Princess Polka is going to hop out. She's going to help me heal up this helicopter. So there's Princess Polka on the other side, healing us up. We didn't die. It's cool. It's cool. So anyhow, we start shooting up. We have a good time. But yeah, your sensitivity on your mouse makes purchasing way up to the max to turn faster in the chopper. Yes, that's super handy in the chopper. And then what you find later on is like, I've got some videos that I'll probably show you guys, particularly around mouse settings and mouse speed. You need to have your mouse sensitivity turned down pretty low when you start trading with our system, because what you don't want to do is slip click. You slip click and you hit the buy button when you need to hit sell, you need to sell button and you need to hit buy.  And so you want to turn that sensitivity down and where the accuracy is going to be high. And that does improve your training. Also improves your gaming. Now, some people would argue without it. Well, you can't move as fast. Well, I'll tell you something. Move your hand faster. OK. This Arnold Schwarzenegger would be like, oh, there's not enough time to sleep. Schwarzenegger said, sleep faster. OK. Literally, move your hand faster. Oh, come on in here. We made a crash in bed. The fun parts. I'm going to show you. Let me progress to the end of the game. Watch the end of the match and watch my flying here towards the end of the match. OK. So here's towards, this is about the three quarters of the way through. OK. I'm going to start. Oh, yeah. I flew off of that guy. I was about to say, I'm about to start annihilating everyone. But I just start picking off target after target. I mean, nobody can get away from me. At the end of this game. That guy's toast. One pass. He's toast. Let's see if I can play this at high speed. Can we go a little bit faster? I mean, I start, like, not missing anybody. That guy's on my team. Nice drop in on the tank. He's disabled. That guy's toast. That guy tried to shoot me. Oh, got his buddy. I watched this guy. He tries to turn around. He's like, oh, I got him. I'm going to get him over the mountain. Are you sure about that, bro? Nope. Perfection. Perfection. Oh, that guy tried to get me. Nope. Not going to happen. Oh, it smoked me. I got smoked. Well, I thought that was one of those good spots. I went out of pretty solid run somewhere in there. But basically, you get better. Practice, practice, practice. And yeah, you just get better. I think I was mad at that guy, but I'm still in the first pass. Oh, man, I love this game, man. I freaking love this game. I can talk about Battlefield 3 all day. It's a lot of fun. If you haven't played Battlefield, we have our own server. So you guys can come check it out. If you guys want to come and play with us. There's a lot going on here. I know it looks like all of them are flying around and things of this sort. But there's a lot going on in the ground as well. You don't have to be in the air all the time. You can fly tanks. Fly tanks. And you can drive tanks, jeeps. You're going around. All those A, B, C, D, E. Those are all points that you can capture. And it's a lot of fun. There's that guy right there. He's running around with his buddies. Almost got him. All right. Happy Friday, everybody. I hope you guys learned something from that. And thanks for putting up with watching my gaming, even if you're getting up here. But yeah. Play your Marker replay over the weekend. Play and get paid.