They almost make us start to sell coffee in the field. Yeah, but if you're new. So then, they watch, yeah, they use coffee to watch. Imagine watching the Oral Field. When do they prepare the coffee? Yeah, he will make actions too. The whole day. Actually, I think I've prepared the run and gun documentary work. Because now, even if you're alone, you can just, you know, carry yourself when set up the report. Narratives, a different ballgame, man. It's a short film. Like, it's a short film. And already, it's been how many months preparing for it? Like, three months or four months preparing for this short film. Hello and welcome to another video here on the channel. My name is Kwame.  Well, this is more like a walkthrough of how we got it done. Now, this film is inspired by my own personal experiences with my father. And I'm going to share more information on what it meant for me when I make that breakdown video after officially premiering the film. So yeah, please stay tuned for that one. So I wrote this film in January of this year. Yeah, and I promised myself that as a filmmaker, I would explore projects like this short film. And other things to offer up my portfolio. So before we get into how it was shot, here's a little snippet of the film, Jolt. It's been colored and edited, but not final. Enjoy.  It's funny, you know, because I remember how even when I was 18, you would be so angry any time I came close to your drinks. Hey, I really want to thank you for this. I'm really happy to be here. And it means a lot to me. Come on, look, don't make this weird. We're having a great evening. Let's just chill, you know. I know. I know. I didn't expect this. I've been meaning to ask ever since I got in here. Glasses now will shed. And therefore life is a programming thing. Or you can't see sharp now. Dad, did you just try to make a programming joke? You have no idea how I've been rehearsing and waiting for this moment. I'm proud of you, Charlie. You've done real good for yourself.  I can hear them in there. So, call time was at 1pm, even though the film was set in the evening because we only had one day to shoot. And we needed to make sure that we had ample time to cover everything. We spent the first few hours running errands like, you know, getting food and refreshment for the crew as well as making sure that all props and other needed items were taken care of. Again, ample time to cover everything. Making sure everything was set. So after that, the team and I, mostly the cinematographers, had discussions on how to execute the shots as everything was happening in one space and needed to be dynamic enough to engage our audience throughout the dialogue which makes up, you know, 90% of the film. And in the end, when the guys are here for the dress, maybe the OTS is for that. And then we do the inputs when we want to. As and when do you feel like... Because I used to edit, I sometimes feel like, okay, the story might be... You might feel this way, but when you go into post, sometimes you feel like there's a certain emotion that you probably didn't see. That you might want to connect them. But you are short clean for it. Okay. Because we knew we were going to shoot late into the night, we had our lunch before we got ready for the set up. It was all hands on deck for the set up. What seemed like a simple-looking scene took a lot of time to get it just right. Let's talk about lights. Okay, my name is Kwani Bodhi. I'm a co-DP on the set. Let's talk about the lighting. So this happens to be our key light. It's motivated by our motivation basically it's like a ficture in the room sort of an overhead ficture light in this space. We chose our Walmart feel just to make the room feel hot. Given the nature of the scene, it's been very interrogative. So something to make the viewer feel uncomfortable sort of bring more heat into the scene. And we are contrasting that with a day light and temperature lights coming from the outside. We should create some kind of interest. We're probably going to have this cyan or something to create a bit more contrast in the scene. Okay, so we're using the V-Raptor. 8K V-Raptors. 8K Red V-Raptors. We have like four of those in set up. Yeah, from Kwani is like a tip of this also. But you still don't believe it though. Cameras. We had initially decided to go for a three camera set up. One wide or master shot and two over the shoulder medium close up shots. But on second thought, we chose to go with two cameras so that we can film the master later. Now this meant that we had to do more takes but in the end it made sense for this project. We thought we were going to spend about three hours shooting but we ended up spending about five hours which was well worth it to finish it all in one day as planned. Now I have to say a big shout going out to all the amazing people who made this idea a reality. The dedication to this project was truly inspiring and I can't wait to share some lessons I learned while making this short film and how much it cost to make it in my next video on this project. Thank you so much for watching and keep your eyes peeled out on my social media for the announcement on when and where we're going to premiere it and how you can be a part of that too. Cheers and catch you in the next one.


It's supposed to be the last day of the calendar year. So, this end of the year, we need some measure. Otherwise, if there was no count of new years and some of you counting your birthdays, I don't trust you on the birthdays because you may keep on counting eighteen, eighteen, eighteen, eighteen. At least you say this is going to be 2015, I'm sure you're not going to say 2014, 2014, next year. Now, so we will stick to the new year. The idea of counting time is because we need some measure, we need some kind of milestone just to know are we going forward or backward in our lives. I want you to look 2014, you as a human being, not your business, not your career, not other things, those things matter, but you take care of that. But as a human being, have you moved forward or backward? This is something that you have to evaluate today. You must evaluate every night. But if you're a lousy accountant of life, at least once a year, you must evaluate. If you evaluate once a decade, it'll be too late, believe me, you can't fix it. Once a day, once a week, once a month, if you're evaluating, you will be able to take corrective measures in one's life. At least once a year, if you're evaluating, have I moved forward as a human being or have I become backward? Simple way of checking this is, 2013, how I was, 2014, am I a little more joyful human being? I'm a little more relaxed, I'm a little more compassionate, I'm a little more loving. You just have to check. Don't go by your family's judgment because there may be many local prejudice, you know? We don't know. Wasted interests, family, neighbors, friends, these are all wasted interests. If you don't do what they think you should do, they will think you have fallen. Thirty-three years ago, everybody thought I have fallen and lost my mind. Okay? Today the same people clap their hands, that's different. Because that's for a different reason. But I'm saying, even if you've taken up positive steps, somebody else may be saying something. So I don't want somebody else's evaluation of who you are. Within yourself sincerely you look and see, have you moved forward as a human being? Because you're one ear closer to your grave, tch. Are you going to at least die as a better human being if not live?  This is an important question. If we live, wonderful. Suppose we die, there's no regret. Very important or no? Hmm? If we live as better human beings, wonderful for us, wonderful for everybody around us. Suppose we die, at least there's no regret.  So if you're going to make people around you joyful and relieved only when you die, tch, that's… that's not a good way to live. They're joyful because of your presence, it's good. They're joyful because you're absent is not a good thing. It's important. It's important to check this. And the coming year, you must have a plan how to become a better human being than the way I was in 2014. I want you to have a clear-cut plan. How am I going to be a better human being? What is my plan?  We can help you with the GPS. How to negotiate your plan. But you must have a plan. Don't wait for cosmic geometry to come together. Cosmic geometry is in a wonderful place, otherwise it will be crashed. Only because cosmic geometry is perfect, it is going on, isn't it? Did you see any extra noises, loud noises coming up today morning when the sun was coming up? Friction. Cut, cut, cut, cut, cut, cut, cut, it came up like a old machine. Very smoothly it came up, isn't it? Huh? Absolutely smooth. You didn't even notice it? So smoothly it came up. So the cosmic geometry is going perfect. You don't worry about where the stars are, what is the arrangement, is it okay, not okay, it's perfect. It is you. Are you going to ride it or are you going to be crushed by it? That's a question. So you must have a clear-cut plan for 2015. How am I going to be a better human being within myself? What happens around you is a consequence of the way the world is running and the way we conduct things, many things. Consequences are okay, but how we are is very important because this is what determines the quality of who we are.  That is not the quality of your life. That is just the content of your life. Content should not decide the quality. It is always the context which decides the quality of one's life. So the coming year, the plan must be good, a workable plan.   By the end of this year, I must be in this kind of a state. Time to plan. The coming year, we have a clear-cut plan and we work through the plan, a deliverable plan, an ambitious one, not a small one. I want all of you to evolve a plan like that. If necessary, write it down. This is how I'm going to be in the coming year. Whatever is your idea of being better human being, you don't have to go by my prescriptions. But if you're better, you must be functioning within yourself at least with less friction, less struggle, less turmoil, yes? That's an indication that you're better.


So, you want to get into a relationship where you're loved and you're seen and you're cherished by a great guy. That's really the best kind of relationship that you can possibly get into. And if you're not in one of those kinds of relationships, I mean is it really even worth getting into one? So, I have 10 things here that we're going to be talking about today and my suggestion is that you stay single unless you're meeting a guy that does most or all of these things. So hello, I'm Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. If you really want to get into an awesome relationship with a great guy, you can go and pick up my program, The Forever Woman for free. If you go to theforeverwomanformula.com, there's a link above and below this video for that. All right, so what are we talking about here? So the 10 things that you should stay single unless you meet a guy who does these things. So the first one is that he is true to his word. So the mark of a mature adult is when they promise something and they keep their promises. And obviously mistakes happen, right? People forget things. Nobody's perfect. But my suggestion is that if you want a great relationship, you wait for a promise keeper. You wait for somebody who has integrity and is true to his word. So that's number one. Also if you're here right now with us, make sure that you say hi and let us know where in the world you're watching this from in the chat. It's really cool to see women from all over the world watching these live streams.   When he misses you, he's willing to be vulnerable enough to say that he misses you.  And so he's open and he's willing to say that he misses you because he really does. He likes you and he's willing to be vulnerable in that way. Number three is that he communicates his vulnerabilities to you. So he's not perfect. He knows he's not perfect and he's strong enough in himself that he can open up about his vulnerabilities to you. And that doesn't mean that he can't talk about himself in a positive way. He should be, right? If you have high self-esteem, you do talk about yourself in a positive way, but he's also willing to open up and admit when he's wrong or talk about mistakes that he's made or he's willing to open up and talk about how he's vulnerable with you. That's another mark of a mature adult is somebody that's willing to do that. Number four is he takes you seriously. So he listens, pays attention and cares about you and your needs. And so this means that he values you and who you are on the inside, right? He actually cares about who you are and he cares about what's going on with you and he cares about your needs. And he actually sits there and pays attention and listens to you and what's going on with you. Number five is he takes responsibility for your needs and happiness even though he doesn't need to. So you're happy and fine by yourself, hopefully, hopefully that's the case, right? But he learns about who you are and what you need and he makes sure that you're getting taken care of and that you're happy and you're, this isn't a codependency thing, right? You're not dependent on him for your own happiness, but he enhances and he enriches your life. So number six is he wants you to be safe, happy and protected. So he's the type of man who even if you two broke up, he'd still care about you and treat you well and be a friend to you. And that's because he's not just your lover, he's also a friend and a partner in your life. And that's kind of the foundation that really creates a really empowering, powerful relationship that you can be in is not just being lovers, but also being friends and actually caring about each other and each other's needs and what's going on with each other. And as a man, one of our primal needs is to provide and protect, right? To make sure that things are going well, everything's taken care of, everything's good to go. You want that to be a part of who he is and what he brings out in himself when he's around you. So number seven is that he is proud of you. So he sees the beautiful and amazing person that you are right now.    So number eight is he brings out the best in you.  And so a lot of people and one of the kind of red flags that you want to watch out for is a lot of times people get into relationships where you pull out kind of the worst parts of each other and you always feel like you're the worst part of yourself is being pulled out when you're together and that's the opposite of what you want. If you get what I'm talking about here, make sure you say I get it in the chat. If you don't get what I'm talking about or you have a question about something, make sure you ask it and I will get to it here in a minute. So if you have any questions, ask them about anything. Number nine is he gets along with your friends and family. So I've talked about this before in the past and there are exceptions to this rule like if you hate your family, right? So there are some people in the world who hate their families or they have really weird families or they have really disconnected families or they haven't done healing around their family or maybe their family, there's people in their family who are just people that are just people that you would never want to associate with. And so sometimes there are exceptions to this rule for sure. But generally speaking, if your family isn't that dysfunctional, right, I know a lot of us have dysfunctional families, me included. But if your family's not so dysfunctional that you've completely disowned them and don't want anything to do with them anymore, then it's one of those things where let's just throw friends and family together here and say that if you want a great foundation and start to a relationship, it's good to have a man who gets along with your friends and your family. He doesn't have to be best buds with them, but he does get along with them. Number 10, he's bold and unapologetic about wanting a commitment with you because he sees a future together. So if a man's afraid of a commitment or he's scared about talking about it or he says he's not ready for one, that's a massive red flag. There's a question about this in our community, I think today or yesterday or something, where this woman was asking about this guy who said that he's not ready for a relationship, but he doesn't want to let her go. And it's just so bad to him to let him go. And it's like, well, you know, it's one of those things. It's like he's trying to get all of his needs met without meeting your needs. And if a guy is really serious about you, he will see you in his future and he will think about you in his future.   You don't want a maybe or a shield do. You want an enthusiastic yes, I want this person in my life, right? And that's the kind of attitude that you want him to have with you. And if he doesn't have that attitude with you, then that's a, that's a major problem. And so he isn't afraid of a future together because he sees you in it. He includes you in his life because you're important to him. So important that he doesn't want to let you go. And that's what you deserve. And you shouldn't accept anything less. Now if you're thinking he's not really, really any of these things. He doesn't have any of this stuff going on, then my suggestion is that you can do better.  So you're not just going for any guy. You're not, you know, acting desperate, all that kind of stuff. Because when you're coming from a space of desperation and just taking anything and just, you know, you want to be in a relationship so bad or you want a guy so badly that you're willing to get into a relationship that isn't really right for you just so that you can have the guy, you end up getting into a bad situation and you'll end up regretting it down the road once some of those crazy emotions that you have kind of settled down. And so you want to make sure you're getting into a great situation. And the way that you do that is by making sure that you value yourself and that you look at yourself as a woman who deserves the type of relationship that you really want to have. So if you have any questions about what we just talked about, ask them in the chat and I will get to them here in a second. Just going to go back over the 10 again real quick so everybody can hear them. First one is he's true to his word.  Third one is he communicates his vulnerabilities to you. Fourth one is he takes you seriously. Fifth one is he takes responsibility for your needs and happiness even though he doesn't need to. Sixth one is he wants you to be safe, happy and protected. Seventh is he's proud of you. Eighth is he brings out the best in you. Ninth is he gets along with your friends and family. And tenth is he's bold and unapologetic about wanting a commitment with you because he sees a future together. Alright so let's see what kind of questions we have. If you have any questions about your situation or you have questions about the world and life, you have questions that you just want me to answer. If you have questions about anything at all, go ahead and ask them in the chat and I will get to them. Let's see what we have here. Lots of people say hi, hello, hello, hello, Michigan, New Zealand, Texas, Canada, Dallas, Nigeria, England, New York, Jamaica, Uganda, UK, Arkansas, Saudi, wow I mean it's so cool to see so many women from all over the world watching these things. Botswana, Utah, Washington, DC, Texas, Germany, Singapore, so awesome. So cool, lots of I gets it, I gets it, I gets it. Oh did I freeze, did this freeze? For a second, Pamela says it's not easy nowadays to get someone special, yeah I mean I don't know about that, I don't know about that. That's definitely not, is that really true, is that really true Pamela, is it really true, I don't know. Khadija says what if he has the last one, he sees a future with you, but you don't seem to see any with him, well I mean that's definitely a problem. If you don't see a future with him, why are you with him, right? Are you just doing something for the moment and just trying to get your needs met for the moment? I don't know that sounds like something that isn't really fulfilling long term for you. So Barlow says hey I met a guy who had these points, he wanted commitment early, yeah hopefully it wasn't too early. Josie says hi from Italy, hello, hello, hello. Kat says I have been holding off dating while I am separated, this month I apply for divorce and still my heart isn't open, yeah I mean you know it can take some time, therapists usually say that it can take up to a year after getting divorced before somebody is actually ready to or longer before somebody is actually ready to get into a new relationship again. So you know just take your time and focus on you and focus on building yourself up.  Adaku says your words speak your life into existence, my special someone is on his way, that's right, that's what I'm talking about, Adaku, Adaku gets it, right your words do speak your life into existence and so it's very important that when you speak you're saying things that are things that you want to speak into existence and they're not things that limit your vision and what you want. So like when Pamela says it's not easy nowadays to get someone special that's actually creating a reality around you where you're experiencing it not being easy to get somebody special whereas if you open up your mind and you open up the way that you look at people and you start thinking about people in a completely different way then and you start thinking about it actually being easy to find someone special because it is actually very easy to find someone special once you realize that everybody is special, right? And so you want to be very deliberate and very conscious about what you speak into existence because if you're speaking the wrong things into existence you might actually create things that you don't want in your life and you aren't even doing them and you're not even doing them consciously or you don't mean to do them in that way. All right what else do we have here? Constance says I have a boyfriend who has all points but lives 40 miles away and we only see each other once a month. Okay, Julie Tree says Matt your face is glowing like an angel today. Well thank you, this is easier. So what else, anybody else have any questions about their situations here? I'm just going to go over questions here so if you have any questions let me know. In the meantime we will just talk about other things, life and existence, the world around us, what's going on. We have somebody here from Italy, I know that the coronavirus is going on. I don't want to start spreading like anger or fear among the people. Alright Tanja says how should I change as a person from flings to getting into a relationship? What to power think? Been single for six years, dated two guys I really liked but got ghosted. Yeah I mean how long did you date these guys? It's actually pretty common in this day and age so we live in the world of the hookup culture. I've talked about this a few different times where it's become pretty normal for people to ghost each other and women actually ghost more than men do statistically speaking. However, it's just become normal and it's something that you're going to have to deal with and there's not a whole lot that you can really do about other people ghosting you, there are women in our community that ghost guys and they talk about it and it's just one of those things, you gotta not take it, it's hard to not take it personally for sure you know and at the same time you have to remember that those people aren't for you and that they're opening space for somebody else to come into your life that's better for you and your needs and what it is that you want and so yeah it sucks when you date somebody and they ghost you. So how should I change as a person from flings to getting into a relationship? We definitely don't want to get into flings ever, I never ever suggest that anybody get into a fling ever mostly because we have a huge number of women in our community who have gotten into kind of fling situations where that's all they wanted and eventually it turned into them wanting something more but now they're with a guy who they made an agreement with that they just do a fling thing or they never had a conversation about anything more and so now they're in a bad situation and so my suggestion is that you don't get into a situation like that. So Megan says I'm four months out from husband deciding he wanted another woman, I'm wanting companionship but want it to be healthy. Mary says I know it sounds cliche but I found my husband when I wasn't looking at all that's my advice is don't try to force love. We are in a weird transition in our relationship after 21 years of marriage but if you love one another it's worth the effort. I'm finding that I'm putting in 110% and he is putting in 25% so that's the struggle now. He thinks it should be on autopilot but anyway I'm going to keep fighting. Interesting. Yeah I mean it's definitely one of those things I think there's a different energy about us when you're looking for somebody versus when you're not looking for somebody and I've heard a lot of times from a lot of people that they tend to find somebody when they aren't really looking for someone and I think it's because their energy changes. A lot of times when we're like actively looking for somebody what ends up happening is we start acting and behaving in ways that aren't necessarily attractive because we're taking it so seriously about getting into this relationship and so the energy that we kind of put out there and that we put out when we're talking to a guy or we're meeting a guy or we see a guy or whatever could end up being really kind of a repelling energy whereas when you're not looking it's like you're more calm you're more relaxed you're more confident you're more comfortable because you're not trying to make something happen and you're not like okay I got to get this right and I got to figure this out and all that kind of stuff which when you're in your head and you're doing that a lot of times it can end up pushing somebody away because what usually brings somebody in and attracts somebody to you is being playful and being in the state of feeling playful and connecting and having fun as opposed to making things serious and trying to get something to work and trying to make something happen so Casey says is it bad if a guy says they want to marry you but don't give a definite time frame is he just playing well it kind of depends I mean I wouldn't say that it's necessarily bad it could be that he's trying to open up that idea so one thing you have to know about a guy so guys are constantly looking for permission and they're looking to whether something's allowed especially in this day and age with the all the me too stuff and all the things that are going on where there's a lot of kind of like feminist ideas out there that are pushing guys to you know stop approaching and stop making moves on women and you know all this kind of stuff where you know obviously that's not what the me too movement is but that's what kind of some of the after-effect has been on a lot of guys is they've they've been attacked yelled at for making moves or approaching women or whatever right and it happens all the time I you know it's it's happened to guys in our community it's happened to friends of mine it's happened to a lot of people and so you just have to realize that sometimes guys will will look it will say things to kind of see how you react to him right so if he starts talking about marriage and you're like not interested at all he knows that that's not something that he can bring up right he doesn't want to propose to you and you end up rejecting him right he wants to be on the same page and make sure you're on the same page and that you're both kind of in this space where you're you're going towards this thing together and so that's that's something that you want to be aware of so and it also depends on what kind of a timeframe you're talking about in terms of how long you've been seeing this guy and what your relationship kind of looks like are you guys living together are you sleeping together you know how long have you been together all that kind of thing so it kind of depends he says I was seeing a guy who has a woman who's his best friend she lives 10 hours away and he knows she has feelings for him and he's aware of that but can't help the way she feels she's blown up so your your comment got cut off after she's blown up I don't I don't know what your question is so Josie says I wonder if I will find love I've been separated for three years have been dating a separated man for 10 months but it seems like it's not going anywhere from his side yeah I mean you want to make sure that you're getting yourself into good situations here and so so you know you're wondering if you're going to find love you know I wouldn't be so wondering about it I would be wondering if you're going to be finding love with this guy that you're with and it sounds based on what you've been saying that that you you aren't moving in that direction I'd have to know more about your situation so Cassia says today I said loudly in my car what type of man do I want I was laughing because he's going to be perfect haha but the universe heard that most important I know my standards now best greetings from UK all right so Kavita says how to tell my guy friend who's tries to pass those cross my boundaries in which I have I hate flings for sure well you just have to be really you have to be really stern with them you know and just let him know from like with your boundary that you know hey I really like you as a friend I really value our friendship but I'm not interested in anything more and if you you know continue to try to cross my boundaries I'm gonna cut off our friendship all together even though I really like you I just I'm not I don't want to have to deal with that all the time and so if he's you know if he keeps doing that you have to consider whether it's it's worth it to stay friends with him or not I've had gay friends in the past who have been very very like usually with women if they try to do that kind of stuff and you tell them no they like get embarrassed and freak out and disappear and stop talking to you but with guys they tend to be a lot more persistent with it and I've had that in in my case with gay guys before who are friends of mine who were like hitting on me and I had to be like really upfront with them and be like look dude if you try to touch me again or try to you know tell me this or try to hit on me or whatever like it's gonna be the end of our friendship like don't don't ever do that again right and if you're really really stern with them they'll usually get it so that's that's my suggestion on that one keely says his phone while we're hanging out and we had a fight about her so this is this is in continuation from the earlier one his phone while we're hanging out and had a fight about her and I was kind of mean to him when he apologized should I give him a second chance I don't know half of your comment got cut off oh she's blown up his phone while we're hanging out um I don't know like you'd have to tell me more about your situation and what's going on with him it's hard to know from you're seeing a guy and that's the one of the things that concerns me about what you're talking about is that you're the only thing that you said good about him so far is that you're seeing a guy that's it right you're asking me if you should give this guy a second chance but you haven't said anything good about him yet there's nothing in your comment about how he's great and he treats you well and he's really awesome but he's got this best friend who's blowing up his phone who really likes him you you didn't say any of that first part all your all you said is that you're seeing a guy and so that concerns me a little bit I'd have to know more about what your relationship to him is like how he treats you what's going on with that how attracted you are to him and you know what kind of boundaries you've set with him around her because if he's had this friend of his for a long time and they've been best friends for a long time then it's going to be difficult for you to kind of cut him off right if you had a best friend who's a guy and you knew that he liked you but you didn't care anyway because you're best friends and and you weren't really into him and you had some guy come in and all of a sudden he's like oh you can't be friends with him anymore I don't know how would you feel about that could be good it could be bad it kind of depends on what's going on in the situation um you know as long as he's kind of in a space where he's like I'm not going to jeopardize anything in this relationship and I don't want to but you know I'm I'm like we're just friends or you know whatever as long as he's really committed to it um and it depends on what he said about her and you know whether he's um you know like what kind of a relationship they have and how long they've been friends and all that kind of stuff so I'd need to know more about that situation before I really talked I spoke to it better the words coming out of my mouth sometimes all crazy all right Jennifer says what is a good way to tell a guy that you want exclusivity but not scare him off well it depends on what kind of a situation you're in with a guy are you are you sleeping with a guy yet my suggestion is that you bring up the exclusivity talk no later than getting physically intimate with someone so if you're not physically intimate with a guy yet then my suggestion is that you don't bring it up at all and if you are physically intimate with a guy already my suggestion is that you stop being physically intimate with him until you've had an exclusivity talk with him where he's agreed to it and the best way to have that conversation is just to talk about the fact that you're not seeing anybody else and asking him if he's I mean you can you can either ask him if he's seeing anybody else or you can just say hey you know when I'm sleeping with somebody I don't you know I don't sleep with anybody else while that's happening and I want to make sure for you know for health reasons that the person that I'm sleeping with is doing the same thing um you know if if you decide that you want to sleep with somebody else or that you're interested somebody else that's fine but I want to make sure that you let me know first and so that uh you know we don't end up so so that I know what kind of a situation I'm getting myself into and so if if you come from it that way and I know what I just said is going to freak out a lot of women because I just said you know it's okay if you go and you know decide that you want to sleep with somebody else but just realize that you're you're setting up a situation where you're allowing him freedom right and if you know if he wants to go and do something he's going to go and do something regardless and so if you're saying hey that's fine if you decide that that's what you want to do that's fine but you know we're cutting this off if you do do that then um you're you're kind of letting him go and do that if that's something that he wants and you're you're you're kind of giving him enough rope to hang himself with and at the same time you're giving him freedom so that he looks at you and he's like man this woman is awesome and I don't want to screw this up and so I'm going to make sure that I get into you know that that I keep her around and that I don't um you know what why would I and if you're doing all the right things and he's the kind of guy that's interested in having something long term with you it won't be a problem anyway that's my point that's my point so Tania says I've been dating this guy for a couple months now and I've been dating this guy for a couple months now and now he's asking me to move in with him and I said no I'm not ready for that kind of mood a move now he's upset and he told me if I'm not moving in with him we're done and I agree we can just be friends was I wrong for not moving in with him help me man no I mean if you're not comfortable with that and you're not ready for that first off if you're looking for marriage and you know you're not uh you know and he's like hey move in with me and you're not in some kind of weird situation where you need to move in with him or something like that then my suggestion is that you you you wait until you have some kind of promise of marriage before you end up moving in with him because you and you know if it's just been a couple months and it's just like you know because because basically what's going to end up happening is he's going to end up getting a lot of his needs met that he wants to get met that men normally would only get met if they were married and so if he's getting those needs met and you're not getting all of your needs met assuming right now that you want marriage which I just had a conversation with some woman the other day about this she's like well what if I don't want marriage and it's like okay great whatever it doesn't matter right and and I'm not advocating that you should or shouldn't want marriage you know I think whatever you want is fine but if you do want marriage then my suggestion is that you don't get into a situation where he's getting all of his needs met and you're not getting all of yours met and so I absolutely don't think that uh it's you're wrong for not wanting to move in with him you know I don't I don't think that you should ever just want to move in with a guy just because he wants to wants you to move in with him and if he's threatening the relationship because you aren't moving in with him that's a huge red flag anyway because he's threatening the relationship and so you don't want to be with a guy who's ready to throw a relationship away completely because you have a boundary right so you put up a boundary and his reaction is to threaten the entire relationship that's a that's a problem that's a big problem and so it's good that you know that now and that you know that that's going to be something that you're going to see more of in the future if he wants something and you don't want it he's going to threaten the relationship and so that's it's good it's good that you know that now and so I you know I don't know what the rest of your situation looks like but yeah I don't think you're wrong at all Mina says hey I am a single mom of two I've been dating these guys for one year now he's intention to marry me but I am scared because he's a divorcee so my question is should I go on marrying him or what are you going to give me so I it's I don't think it's a problem if somebody's a divorcee right like so people get married to the wrong person all the time like half the world right now is like 50 percent or above divorce rates at this point maybe not half the world but a huge portion of the world is above 50 divorce rates so I'm I'm not worried about that I'm I'm worried about you know why did he get divorced I'm worried about how does he treat you I'm worried about you know all the other things that you need to look at to see if he's a good man and a person that you'd want to be married to or not Laura says learning how important it is to share the same realities in a relationship yeah I mean the most important thing you can do is look at his values right so you you want to share values and if you have the same values then you he'll be able to see the two of you being in a relationship for a long time and you'll be able to see the two of you being in a relationship for a long time and you're far less likely to break up because of something big and which is can be a huge problem for a lot of couples which ends up creating like negative emotional experiences which is the leading cause of breaking up a relationship and so you want to share values with each other Monique says how can you tell that he is telling the truth well what's he telling the truth about what's he talking about what are we talking about here what are we talking about here actions speak louder than words depends on what you're talking about usually if it's something that you don't want to hear and you're asking if he's telling the truth you'll usually want to believe it it's something you don't want to hear and if it's something that you do want to hear you'll usually want to be skeptical that's the general rule thumb Phoenix says what if I am interested when my guy friend brings up the marriage subject what if you're interested if your guy friend brings up is do you have a relationship with this guy friend are you interested in getting married to him what are you talking about I'm cheesed out says we had a video uh-huh and he both enjoyed it and then he told me he can't talk to me anymore because he knows I want more we are in different countries your your I was going to his city in a month yeah I mean it sounds like you wanted something more second thing I want to say is that don't do videos right videos can be out there for a long long time and so my suggestions that you don't don't don't make videos with people anymore and find out what somebody's looking for before you start getting involved with them that's my suggestion it's that you talk about those things because if if he's interested in something more he'll he'll be open to having a conversation about it if he's not looking for something more he'll pull away disappear avoid the conversation act like you're aren't talking about it get angry about it all that kind of stuff and so you want to have those conversations early on in the dating experience Rachel Rachel Rache Rachel Racheal Rachel Racheal so bad with names solo for six years last week no intimacy for almost two years just want to say thank you for being so informative on this subject you are welcome Rachel Rachel Rachel Joanne says how to regain respect after having no boundaries in beginning not sure if he will want to pursue a relationship well how you regain respect is to immediately start having boundaries and start talking and start pretending like you are starting all over that's that's my suggestion is that you start like that whole process of things is starting from right now and finding out immediately what's going on and talking to him about those things and starting to have boundaries and doing all of that stuff and doing it immediately and also start looking at yourself in a different way as a woman who actually deserves the things that you want in your life that is what i suggest in terms of doing that it's very important it's very very important to have boundaries and respect yourself it's very important to do that so i'm cheesed out says i've met him in person and i haven't seen him in 1.5 years wow well that is yep okay so Miracell says what if the guy has a friend with benefits and he doesn't want to leave her even though something going on between us well then you should stop seeing him completely and go find a guy who isn't isn't taken phoenix says what my guy friend said was i'm the marrying type and so are you i'd marry you if i ever marry again what does this mean it means that if he ever decides that he wants to get married then that is then you're the type of person that he would want to get married to that's i mean it sounds like it's pretty clear on that it doesn't mean anything more than that doesn't mean that he's trying to get married to you doesn't mean that he wants to get married to you doesn't mean that he's going to propose to you doesn't mean that he's moving towards that it just means that you'd be the person that he'd consider if he did consider it so it's kind of like a carrot on a stick that he's dangling in front of you and that doesn't mean anything doesn't mean you're going to get the carrot is what that means so lisa says what is the progression of dating to long-term relationship to possible marriage i'm in an exclusive relationship for seven months it's been a long time since i've dated and been in a relationship well the progression is that a guy meets you and that you date for about three months after the three month mark usually what happens is you guys start letting down your guards and start revealing who you truly are to each other and start opening up your vulnerabilities and start releasing all your stuff and then at some point between the six-month mark and the like one year one and one year and a half mark he's already figured out that exactly what he wants right so by the one year mark he's definitively figured out what it is that he wants with you and so if he wants to get married he knows that by then and if he doesn't want to get married he knows that by then he might even know that by now since you guys have been together for seven months but it's it's been shown in studies they've actually done studies on this where they found that guys know unanimously usually after the six-month mark what kind of a relationship they want to be with with you being with you and so the progression is that at one point he decides that he wants to be with you forever and that part of his expression of love and showing you that he wants to be with you forever is that he pops a ring on your finger and wants to get married to you that's that's the progression it happens like that and all the other things that happen don't mean anything all the other stuff that happens whether it's meeting his friends meeting your friends and family meeting his friends and family you know living together like all of that stuff none of that stuff you know sleeping in the same bed together cuddling while you fall asleep none of that stuff means that he's moving towards marriage none of it does what happens is that there's a switch that's flipped in a man's mind and he goes from zero to a hundred where he's like been thinking about it and he starts really thinking about it and then he does it and he usually knows that somewhere between six months in a year of being with you and I know that can be shocking because a lot of women have a like step-line progression of how how this stuff works it's not it's not true for most guys so Rhonda says been seeing a guy for almost a year now and I'm kind of worried we have a great time together and sex is wonderful treats me great but he is very private doesn't really communicate during the week a lot he calls and texts sometimes we go places together a lot and have been with all his friends and he's met my family he runs his own business and works a lot I spend weekends at his house and he comes to my house for weekends kind of seen a message on his phone from an axe he's agreed to take her to a concert a few months from now doesn't like social media at all we have plans for events all summer long should I worry I mean yeah I mean that's kind of a weird thing if he's not talking to you about that and he's kind of hiding it and you were for some reason snooping on his phone and you saw that I mean you can always bring up things in an innocent way and talk in an innocent way find out what's going on you know it's one of those things you it says you say that you've been seeing a guy but it doesn't sound like you've you haven't mentioned any of the conversations you haven't talked about being exclusive you haven't talked about being in a committed relationship you haven't talked about any of the important things that I would expect that somebody would say about some guy if they were talking about him seeing or hanging out with some ex at a concert and being worried I'm worried about you because you haven't mentioned any of those things about exclusivity your commitment or any of that kind of stuff so Rhonda says we are together every other weekend yep Lynn says but I think the children suffer most because of divorces yeah children can definitely suffer but children can also suffer from two people who hate each other staying together and being in a horrible relationship together children definitely can suffer through that Judy says is it possible to get a guide back that showed a lot of interest and did all the right things in the beginning long distance yeah it's possible it's definitely difficult to get guys back long distance it's a really challenging thing to do because you're not in person you're not hanging out together you're not talking and so you have to rely a lot on text messages and messenger and potentially voice conversations so absolutely it's possible to have that happen you would need to set it up the right way and you'd have to make sure that whatever it was that you did initially that ended up creating the breakup was removed and you came at it with fresh eyes and created a situation where he felt like he was getting into a new situation but absolutely it's possible Samuel says hi I will like to know what I'm supposed to do if my long distance partner is losing interest I mean we do see one time each month but lately he does not care about planning when next we will meet the best thing that you can do is to lean back is to give him some space and create so there's this thing that I talk about I don't even think I've talked much about the forever woman program so I have a program called the forever woman and you can go get it at the foreverwomanformula.com there should be a link above or below this video about that and it talks about this principle in there that I call the scarcity principle and basically what you want to do is you want to pull back a bit and give them some room give them some space to breathe because usually what ends up happening is somebody will end up kind of smothering men or being around men or a lot of times what women do is when they feel like something is going wrong they end up kind of moving forward and trying to connect and trying to fix things and with a relationship and usually a lot of times it's the exact opposite that needs to happen and so if he if he's starting to lose interest you don't want to start moving forward and trying to connect with him and trying to fix it instead you want to create space and lean back and give him some room to breathe that way he starts missing you again that's what you really want to do and you can learn more about the scarcity principle in the forever woman formula at theforeverwomanformula.com Sarah says is it possible to start a relationship with someone you meet on Tinder in New Year's saw them once and live in two different continents we speak regularly I'm attracted to him yeah I mean it's possible and my suggestion is that you meet people in your own continent that are close by that you can hang out with that you know are real people because there are plenty of fake people on Tinder who are scammers who are trying to you know who are trying to take money from you you it sounds like you've never met this guy before it's going to be very difficult for you to meet up with him my suggestion is that you find other people and start using my program at theforeverwomanformula.com go there pick up that program you can get it for free and start using it Samuel says I was actually applying the lean back technique it worked for a time but now it's like when I stopped applying it and giving him all interest he's backing off and won't reach out consistently yet you're doing something and it worked and you stopped doing it and now you're now he's backing off again so you're so you do something and it works and then you stop doing it and it stopped working my suggestion is that you go back and start doing what worked again that's my suggestion if you don't have my program go pick it up it's changed people's lives absolutely changed lives that's what I say so sissy says I dated a guy on Sunday at the end of the date he asked if I wanted to go on a second date I said sure I'd like to I texted last night he replied immediately he doesn't take the initiative is he really interested well what you need to do sissy is lean back and let him you already said that you're interested you already sent him a text message he replied immediately and you know it's one of those things where I don't know for some reason there's a lot of women in our community who think like so they're like okay there's this interest and now it all needs to happen immediately it's you know it can take a week week and a half for him to start wanting to pursue things even more right like he's interested but he might have things going on in his life right he needs to have an opening he needs to make sure you have an opening he needs to find a match for the two of you and so sometimes it might take a week it might take two weeks for him to set things up so just lean back give him some space let him pursue let him initiate let him create that initiative that you want him to create it and so a lot of women come to me because they are in a situation where they want to be they want to attract a guy who really sees them and loves them and cherishes them and they want to be in a committed relationship that lasts and you know a huge problem in our community and all over the place is that one we are in the hook-up culture right now where men and women are just hooking up with each other and superficial relationships are the norm and the second one is that the second problem is that a lot of times men will end up pulling away and disappearing on them and so all these things combine together it's created a lot of confusion a lot of frustration a lot of women are doubting their own value their own self-worth just doubting themselves in general and many of them feel like they want to give up and so if you're having a hard time with men and dating right now and whatever is going on in your relationship it's not your fault we live in a culture that encourages superficial relationships and discourages anything that's really meaningful but i believe that there's a better way for men and women to get into and stay in committed relationships that last and that's why i put together a proven path that will help you get into the relationship that you want to get into it's called the forever woman and there's a three part plan for you to be successful in your dating life and in your relationships and what this looks like is step one is to believe in your own value step two is to position yourself in value and step three is to communicate from a space of value and communicate your value and so if you're interested in the forever woman program you can sign up for free there's a link above or below this video or you can go to the forever woman formula dot com go there there's a video watch the video to learn about what's in the program and then sign up for our free for the for the program and if you get the forever and you use the principle the principles that are in the forever woman program you'll end up attracting a man who loves and cherishes you he'll pursue you for a committed relationship that lasts and you'll do less work and you'll feel more appreciated and valued by your man and if you don't you'll end up just staying stuck in whatever problems and challenges that you have right now you'll feel like you're doing everything in a relationship only to be taken for granted to have a guy's pull away from you and eventually disappear on you and you'll wonder if you're ever going to get into the relationship that you want to have and I don't want that for you I want you to get into an amazing relationship where you're valued and you're loved and valued and you're loved and you're absolutely cherished and so if you want that as well and you're really serious about it go check out my program the forever woman formula dot com thank you so much for being here with us today you are absolutely the best part of our community our community it's you we have some of the most amazing women in the world a part of our community so thank you so much thank you for trusting in me and allowing me to be a guide for you on this journey to help you get into the relationship that you've always wanted to 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It's 501. Oh my goodness. We're one minute one minute on time Hey, it's watch me work. It's 2024. Oh my god it's 2024 and We're here and I Was trying to think a few seconds ago. How long have we been doing watch me work and and then I thought Oh, yeah, it's older watch me work is older than my child And I think it started in like 2010 maybe that's a guess or maybe it's 2011 so someone's gonna have to Fact check that like I can make a phone call and then I'll know but anyway, we've been doing this watch me work thing for a long time and We've been doing it the same way every time which we we work together for 20 minutes and then we I Take your questions about your work in your creative process and while we don't have time for you to read your work or share work It can be any kind of work. We can talk certainly have a lot of time to talk about your process your creative process and If you think in line, why should I ask this question? Usually is a question. It's the perfect question that will help everybody on on the zoom We've been doing it on zoom since the pandemic and will continue because it's such a wonderful Wonderful way to get together and we are have been embraced in the past few months by the new work Development department at the public theater We were powered by the public theater and how around but Amritha and Zoe are there Amritha. You want to say some words? She's the chief for the new work development department Thank you. That's horrible. She's the what she's the head. Can we say that she's the Boss Yes I'm good with it. I'm good with it. Hi everyone. Happy new year. My name is Amritha remnant I'm the director of new work development here at the public theater And so happy to be with all of you and SLP for watch me work and I'm gonna hand it over to my colleague Zoe Hi, everyone. My name is indeed not new work development. It's Zoe Happy new year. I'm happy to be in space with everyone Awesome sauce. So we're gonna we're gonna do what we what we do really well We're gonna work for 20 minutes. You can work on anything and Then we're gonna gather back together after this 20 minutes and we're going to talk about process Here we go That's it that's 20 minutes and we're back Taking questions. This is time. We take questions Yes, if everyone with the question could use the raise your hand function We'll call in your name and ask you to meet yourself and then the please a meet yourself Hey Timothy. Hey, I saw P. How are you? Wow first question of the year, bro Hey, yeah, yeah, somebody had to do it Good to see you and good to see everybody again. Yeah, I actually this is a question that came up And sort of sitting on it for a little while, but it was after the last session. I Found myself in a silence. It's gonna make sense. I found myself in a situation where I had a plot outline And the plot needed to go this way but the characters We're dragging it this way. Hmm, and I was wondering Which one the false? All right, I Mean it was it really was a case of um You know, well if the story is gonna happen then this has to happen then this has to happen then this has to happen Then this has to happen Meanwhile as I'm writing out the characters and I you know, I take a lot of character notes and and You know and sometimes they tell you their secrets and you at least you hope so and The more I did that it's a two two character scene and it's kind of pivotal the more I did that for these two characters it was like You know, I couldn't force them into like a pre-idea plot They anyway So my question was if your characters go in East and your plots go in West Which trade do you get off? Yeah? Yeah, it sounds like it's going south. No Let's hope not these characters don't mind us. Um Hmm Well, how does it feel both way like feel it out? How does it feel to you to tell them? Hey, you're coming over here.  So I kind of I Kind of sat there being stuck for a little while You know, I I Think my inclination is to follow the characters though I'm not sure if I'm gonna have a story So Right. Well, at least you'll have a story about how you followed the characters You'll have some kind of story. I mean, I would say yeah, if you if you tried Have trying to sort of quote-unquote force them to follow you. Mm-hmm. That didn't feel good You feel like it was really what you what you should be doing and I Mean your other yeah, that's that's your alternative, right?  I mean in since like I've just kind of let me just write character stuff in the helplot And like I said little by little I feel like their secrets are being revealed So in a weird way I'm kind of drifting morph drifting from that the plot Yeah, yeah, I mean, it's I had a I teach at NYU. I've taught there for a while and Couple years ago.  It's like well, that's what they that's what a marriage is. That's what dating is That's what you know, what didn't you know that that's what it is character Characters are plot They're they're not different things. So if your characters are going that way then that's where your plot's going Fair enough, okay You know or you can find different characters that will go over there, you know, right? Yeah Not not for not for this particular project. They're kind of the pivotal characters. Yeah, yeah So so you you go you go the way you follow your characters, you know, and see how that feels see how it feels It's it's just writing You know, it's not worth not brain sir Exactly, you know, you know, so you can try it and see how it feels Okay No, this is true this this is this this is true I mean in a weird way almost by accident I've I've actually like They were I don't see they were mysteries, but they were kind of just like okay Well, you need to do this now and you need to do that now and now it just feels like, you know If they're not gonna do it, I suppose I I should find out why and that's kind of been That's kind of been what's been rolling Of you know of late since this was first encountered, but you know as always I just wanted to get other thoughts and you know Maybe the remote thought that I'm That I made the right choice or the wrong but whatever anyway Well, the right choice is to keep at it. That's I think that's always the right choice. It sounds like you're made Well done. Thanks. Thank you for thank you for the help Thanks, Lisa Lisa Hey, how are you? Happy new year. Hi. Happy new year All right, so I decided to branch out. I've been writing fiction short stories and My teacher Suggested that I try just another discipline just another way of writing just to see what How it could kind of cross cross pollinate some of the ideas I had so I tried creative and nonfiction okay, and What which I've never done before ever I'm not an essayist, but I thought it was a good way to stretch and One of the reasons I did it is because I've had an idea for a play And I thought hey, I'm gonna write this out as an essay first Mm-hmm, and just to see where it goes and to see if there's actually anything You know worth writing about here Which led to a really interesting Sort of situation in that the play is based on Hello, I'm sorry your voice cut out just right and the play is based on real people, okay Okay Most of the people in it are no longer alive But their relatives are oh Yes, and it's it's based on a true story that happened back in the early days of television with a friend of mine who was Active in things like Playhouse 90 and you are there and really really seminal work Female So most of her contributions were negated or minimized Mm-hmm, even though she had substantial credits, so what I'm What I'm wondering about is What responsibility do we have towards real people especially people whose Relatives may or may not ever encounter the work but Exist and on one hand sort of Fictionalizing everything seems kind of weird And not telling anybody's story really So and I've been debating this and going back and forth and going how do I handle this what do I do? I feel secure in telling the main character story woman who Substantially contributed but was not substantially recognized. Is that the main character for you? Yes, okay But how do I deal with all the other real people then it's some pretty substantial real people Well, what would I see what yeah, what do we owe the living and what do we owe the dead? I Think it really depends the store on the story you want to tell You know, so right now without mentioning any names, right? I mean you mentioned Playhouse the name of a program right But what if you had said a TV show, right? That would have been enough for me because I'm not familiar with that program Right now you've given me enough you haven't mentioned any names. No names You've given and only woman or a female you said and then I'm guessing the others, you know were others, you know You've given me it a very compelling story for a play Or a short story or whatever you want to write okay, so the question is what story do you want to tell? you know You've already given me a compelling story for a play without any proper without any names Right because in a way that story has happened So many times I mean this is I'm just make I'm just kind of figure this out while I'm talking to you Lisa right now So that story has happened so many times That it would be compelling even if you didn't mention their names But if you want to tell a specific story of this specific person, then you're gonna have to mention some names You see what I'm saying for example If someone wanted to talk about and Oh You know a group of folks who would get together on Saturdays in the 60s in Washington Square Park and play folk music And one of them would write songs and and she was never recognized, but she was amazing right you could tell a really compelling story without mentioning any names, right? But if you want to tell the specific story about some person specific person and Include her music for example, then you would need to start bringing out names. So it depends on what you want to tell Soon saying and that's that's your show. I I think I think you could write it without any without naming names. I mean call them something, you know, but not name any names I think you could if because I'm interested I guess in what's stopping you And I'm looking at what's stopping you and what's stopping you is should I name names? Should I not name names?  Yes. Yes Okay That was me I'm me remembers. Yes. Okay. Okay girl girl. Look don't mention it names write it.   You know to mention specific to a show It can be a fiction live show, right? You can just just go with it let your imagination You're delicious imagination invent all these Details so that you don't get bogged down and oh no what these living people their relatives a lawsuit may be liability Oh, no, I'm saying something mean or wrong or liable or defamation of character or all this kind of stuff I do I do Okay, I I'm sort of wondering though what I was sort of juggling with was Okay, and this may sound ridiculous and this may sound very grad school. So apologize to anybody who was in grad school I was in grad school too if There's a layer of Authenticity that you know I was in grad school too if There's a layer of authenticity that gets lost When you don't write the real history really I don't know that's what I've been debating And why is that why is that a grad school question? There's a layer of authenticity when you don't There's a layer but it's that layer of authenticity Necessary Do you know that the majority of history Are stories of people will never know their names Do we have to sit around and and go I can't talk for example just you know I can't talk about enslaved people because I don't know all their names Oh, no, there's a layer of authenticity is going to be missing because I don't know all their names So I can't talk about it at all for me really Are we really you know I want to write about the shirt waste fire, you know, I don't know all those women's names I can't write about it all because I don't know their names So so I got to find out all their names I mean, you know, that's you could find out their names, but a lot of enslaved people you can't find out their names Okay, so we're going to we're going to let we're going to let a lack of the All I'm saying is Lisa I'm noticing that things are getting in your way and if I can remember A comment that you made I don't know how many months ago about a situation where you were with an educator Who was Getting in your head and making it difficult for you to write I can remember that and so I'm very lovingly and with total support going I just want you to write so authenticity. What does that even mean? Really Good point. Good point The last teacher by the way or authentic because I knew exact I know exactly where she comes from in western Africa Is it more authentic? I don't think so, you know, I'm saying and I'm not gonna write about her because I don't know exactly the village that she came from I mean, you know, we don't need to get twisted up into those I'm not saying the facts are not important and I'm not saying the truth should be just like brushed aside and generalized But I'm saying when we when we are up against these these these these situations And it's actually keeping you from writing something you want to write The story of a woman who did not get credit or did not get her due Write the story and if you have to go back six months from now and put in the the real names because you know You've gotten clearance on several estates or you've made contact with someone's air or whatever then great, but you will have written it Okay, well It's it's time to be free people It's time to be free No, really it's it's time to it's time to you know to do the things we got to do Okay, thank you. Thank you. Thank you and great question And grad school questions are great. I didn't go to grad school. So I have no idea what the grad school questions are, but yes Yes, Nick, please unmute yourself. All right. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hi hi hi Um, yeah, how are you doing today? Well, thank you. It's good to see you man. Good to see you. Yeah. Yeah, it's great So there is a play that I've been working on and I'm really excited about I finished the first act and I hit a bit of a just creative wall where I was like I'm just gonna take some time away from this kind of let it sit in the ether for a bit And I've started to return to it and what do you know the brick wall is just like still there So I'm just having a bit of a tough time getting going on just like writing through and I've been like writing every day the last few days just about characters and seen stuff but it's like there's some kind of a I want to say almost like a fear of getting through this act and so I'm just looking for a bit of advice on that. Like that's that's really brave of you Nick to say there's a fear. I mean, because fear is a real thing and and you're being so brave and just showing up, you know and And working on it and leaning into it and it's like Could you could you say you're writing about characters when you write you sit there and write about characters, right? Yeah, you do you have an idea going going to Timothy's thing. Do you do you have a plot that they won't follow. Do you have a story that they're not kind of they're like I'm not going to do that. So I do have like a general plot of where it's all going to go. It's it's mostly been it's like I know what's how the end gets to where it is. Okay, everything the meet between the end of the first act to the end of the second act is just this weird thing where like whenever I try to dip my toes in the pool of just like I'm not going in there there's sharks in there. Wow. Wow. No, no, no, no, that's that's that's a real thing. Yeah. Is it is it a personal story not to tell me the specifics of it but it's a personal. No, no. Are you in any physical danger by by writing it. I mean, No, I just don't want it. Okay, I want to be sure. Okay. Okay. Okay. That's okay that so it just feels like awful. Like Can you like write it. You see what a how much of a like shitty draft you could write who I think I think that's the answer.   This is really shitty. All right. That'd be that'd be a lot of fun. Yeah. Right. And then go, uh-uh, I must. It's going to get a lot shittier on the next page. Watch. And then I'm going, Oh, this is even shittier.  Oh, that's a good idea. Yeah, yeah, but it's really shitty. Okay, well, we know we're going in the end. Yeah, yeah, I know, I know.   Okay, now let's keep going. Okay, are you going to clean that up now because it's shitty. Ah, let's keep going. You know what I mean? Just kind of like stumble through because you've done all the things you've started, you have an idea where you're going. It's difficult. You're showing up, you're doing character work, and you just kind of inch forward and maybe every day. Do you write at the same time every day? Uh, not at the same time. I've been staying to the same general like block, like basically some time before I go to bed is usually when I would like plug in. Okay, okay. And that's your that's your magic time. Usually, yeah. Okay, great. Okay, great. So you're going to keep that up. And you write for a certain amount of time. Yeah, I either go between right now, like half an hour to an hour. Okay, great. Okay, so you're showing up. You're showing up at a similar time for a similar amount of time. And yeah, just go go like half an hour or 20 minutes.  Give you because, you know, you're doing great, man. And then start, oh yeah, and hypnotize yourself. Yeah. Wow, Nick, you're doing really well. You're doing really well. Look at you. Look at you. Yeah, you're the man. You're him. Look, yeah, you showed up today. It was really hard. Yeah, you did. Look at you. You're doing great. Yeah. No, I mean, it sounds weird, right? No, I totally get it. Just because, you know, if you're walking around going, I don't know how to do this. Oh, no, no, it's fucked. It's horrible. It's horrible. Maybe your characters can say this is a really shitty draft. Let them say whatever they want. But when you're not at the workstation, when you're not typing it out or writing it, however you do it, just hypnotize yourself. Like, man, that was really good. Did you see, did you see how it showed up there? Did you see that? That was like, that was like, oh, yeah. Yeah, I'm going to do it tomorrow too. 15 minutes, man. That's all I'm doing, right?  You're there. You're willing. You're willing to listen. Yeah, I think that's a really good angle to take it from. I think make a game, you know, make a game out of it. As much as possible, I do constantly. I constantly make little games out of everything. So what kind of a game, could you give an example, if that's okay to ask?  That's not serious writing.  Then I'm going to watch a movie, you know, or then I'm going to make popcorn. Then I'm going to go for a walk. Then I'm going to call my friend. I'm going to watch like, what is it, South Park for an hour after, because I did really good.    Right. Just that. And then you just, and also I really, I really love short amounts of work time. I really believe in them. I have them constantly through my work day, very small increments of work time. All right. So, okay. I'm going to try that out. I'm back. Because guess what, you already won. You won. You can't lose. You just show up. You do. For 15 minutes, and then you give yourself a treat. And you do that seven days in a row from now until next week. Or not. Well, it's MLK day, but anyway, do it anyway. Boom. You win. You won. All right. Well, thank you so much. And now y'all know what I do. I sit around and go, whoa. Because it's, it's, it's difficult just to get through the day. You know, convince yourself that yeah, I can just keep going. That's, that's a, that's a trick. You know. Thank you. Hi, Grace. Please unmute yourself. Right. Hi. Good to see you. Hope you're well. I have a quick question about, you know, just about reading and writing and watching because I know you also write screenplays as well. But I'm just like really in a phase in my writing life where I just want to like read a lot of things and watch a lot of movies and read a lot of plays. And so I just wanted to know, like just some tips that you would recommend to someone that is reading like from the lens of becoming a better writer. Yeah. Sure, sure, sure. You mean like plays or I read screenplays, I read regular plays, and then also like books too. Like right now, like my 24 resolution is to read all the Toni Morrison books, but just wondering like some tips.  Right, right. Oh, oh gee. Toni Morrison is great. What a great idea. What a great and beautiful thing that you're going to be doing this year. Shakespeare. But Shakespeare on the list. Oh, any like Shakespeare in particular because I haven't read Shakespeare in a while and I didn't really like it in high school. So all of them, you can do them in alphabetical order, make a game out of it. You can do them in historical order. You can do them in the order in which they were apparently written. You can do all the comedies and all the tragedies or you can put all the names of all the plays and all the sonnets and hat and pull one out and read it. You know, read it aloud, read it with friends. I mean, yeah, because it's sure it's a kind of it requires a kind of athleticism like Toni Morrison.  It requires some muscle, you know, some athleticism, but it's great writing and great writing. If you want to improve great writing is a good thing to consume. And also, you know, I mean, film, you can read film scripts, but you can also watch films and they don't have to be in English.  And that's a wonderful break for your eyes just to see a director who just, you know, Jane Campion, you know, just a beautiful visual field. Oh, my God, it's so gorgeous. Just, yeah, and maybe if you think, oh, anything you read in high school that you thought was hard and you didn't like, but on the list. Okay, I will keep that in mind. Usually for movies, I mean, I watch a lot of movies and I think that that's like the easiest thing to do for me. Because honestly, like I haven't really been much of a reader, because I'm currently in university, so I have to read a lot for school. So usually like reading, like outside of that is like, oh, I'm so tired, let me just watch a movie. But what I started to do is if I really like a movie, like I'll watch it first. And then if I really like it, I'll read the script. Like what? What movie did you do that to recently? I really liked Charlie Kaufman's I'm Thinking of Ending Things. So I read the script for it, took a while. I love his films adaptation he did, right? Yeah. I haven't watched that one yet, but I like watched like all of them except for the film. Okay, okay. No, that's a, I love I love that one. Yeah, it's really good. My biggest inspirations like for sure. Oh, very cool. Well, so you could go on so you could have you read all his scripts. No, I haven't. Well, that would be fun to do, you know, just that would be really, really fun. Have a little film festival, you know, that'd be really cool. Just yeah, I mean, it seems like you're on the right track. Come now.  I really like Natalie Diaz. Okay, then read Natalie Allowed. You know what I mean?  Move, you know, because these things, these, you know, writing for the theater, writing for film, you're writing for bodies moving. You're not just writing for people sitting there, you know. You're kind of, you want to be moving around and feel the language in your body. That's always, that's a good thing to do. Yeah, I also think it can be a little bit hard for me to do that just because like I'm not like a actor. I mean, I used to want to be an actress when I was little, but then I figured it's not for me.  Because sometimes like I do get like really into it. But then I'm like, okay, is this like really necessary for me to think specifically about how people should say these lines or what movements they should do? Because I mean, I haven't like ever directed a play or a movie, but I know that when it comes to like casting and the actuality, it can be a bit hard because actors have their own methods and then writers have their own ideas. What day were you born? On what day were you born? Oh, January 11th. Oh, really? Yeah. Almost happy birthday. Yeah. Your mind is like... I was just like, re-support your loud girl. You know what I'm saying? You don't have to be an actor.  All the world's a stage. We're all performing right now. I mean, it's cool. You know what I'm saying? You can just...  So you can read Natalie Diaz aloud just to feel the language in your body because you're going to be writing for the body. And I think the more we as writers can feel the language in our body, the better we are as writers, especially for writing for the theater or for film or video, you know, or TV. Definitely. Thank you. I just have one... Why'd you ask me when my birthday was? I'm just so curious. No, because your mind was just moving and I was like, where are you from?  Thank you so much. You're welcome so much. Happy almost your birthday. Thank you. Right. Two minutes left. Two minutes. And we're going to take MLK Day off. We're going to be doing our day of service elsewhere. The new works department is in the public theater closed. Oh, oh, somebody has their hand up. Yes. Oh, where did they go? Hey, go ahead. We got two minutes. Okay. This is kind of like a question someone asked before, but there's this, I just started a new script and I originally began it last year. And I have, I only had a few ideas of it and decided to trust like the characters as I was writing. But I always find that whenever I return to the script, I end up dropping it and write to start something else. And so I'm trying to like tell myself to work on it now just to see what I can get out of it. And I guess my question is like, how do I commit to the script that's giving me trouble that I'm not sure where. Uh huh. Get yourself some index cards. Have we talked about this before?  I don't have any index cards handy, you know, three by five index cards, small ones, you know, like this. And you write out the story, write it out in really small cards. Just the story. Don't try to do dialogue. Don't try to do big themes or anything. Just what are your characters doing? Jane walks into the grocery store. She buys a quart of milk. You know, Debbie's there. Her dog is dancing on the counter. They meet. It's a rom-com. Oh my God. I love a rom-com. You know what I mean? Just, just tell me what the characters are doing. Do you know what I mean? Card after card. And as you flip the cards, the scenes will develop. Okay. Yeah. That sounds good. That's a game. Just have fun. Have fun with that, you know. I will. Thank you. Um, you're welcome. It's funny. At the watch we worked for the week, I, it came to me and then I forgot it. So there you go. Um, when something comes to you, write it down. That's the first thing. That's the first thing. And I'll, I'll have to, uh, next time where I'll remember it miraculously and email everybody not, but, um, it's six o'clock. It's so, as we think about the new year, you know, we think about like what we want to do. And, um, we can all, what's great here, we're all resolving just by being here to show up for our work. You know, you know, we're going to do that thing we've always wanted to do, which is great, which is great. Cause the world does need us to do that. And I know we need it too for ourselves. So it's a great thing to be doing. And, uh, oh, that's what it is. See, there you go. So that's the thing about a job, a game. This, it's the quotation from Mary Poppins for every job that must be done. There is an element of fun. You find the job and snap. You find the game, the job and snap the jobs a game. Now I didn't get that right for every job that must be done. There is an element of fun. You find the fun and snap the jobs a game. That's what I was talking about. Mary Poppins got it in a spoonful of sugar. So that's the tip of the week. You find the fun and snap the jobs a game. And that's what, uh, can keep you going. Okay. We're going to be back. When are we back? So we went to be back after, after MLK. Okay. So which is the. Next Monday. Yeah. Not the 15th, but the one after that, right? Yep. Okay. We'll see you here. Happy new year. Happy 2024. Thanks for being here. See you next time. Bye bye.


Hello and welcome to the session. In this session, we discuss the following question which says solve square root of 2 minus x plus square root of 2 plus x, this whole upon square root of 2 minus x minus square root of 2 plus x is equal to 3. Before moving on to the solution, let's discuss the result of component O and dividend O. According to this, we have if four quantities A, B and C are in proportion that is A is to B is equal to C is to D or you can say A upon B is equal to C upon D then on applying component O and dividend O, we have A plus B upon A minus B is equal to C plus D upon C minus D. This is the key idea that we use in this question. Let's proceed with the solution now. We have square root of 2 minus x plus square root of 2 plus x, this whole upon square root of 2 minus x minus square root of 2 plus x is equal to 3. We need to solve this. It means that we are supposed to find the value of x.  So we get square root of 2 minus x plus square root of 2 plus x is equal to, now since in the right hand side we have just 3, it means it is 3 upon 1. So here we have on applying component O and dividend O to the right hand side we have 3 plus 1 upon 3 minus 1. Now here in the left hand side in the numerator square root 2 plus x and minus square root 2 plus x cancels then in the denominator square root of 2 minus x and minus square root of 2 minus x cancels. So we are left with 2 times square root of 2 minus x upon 2 times square root of 2 plus x is equal to 4 upon 2. Then this 2 cancels with 2 and 2 2 times is 4. This means square root of 2 minus x upon square root of 2 plus x is equal to 2. Now squaring both sides we have 2 minus x upon 2 plus x is equal to 4.  So we have 2 minus x is equal to, now this 4 means 4 upon 1. So applying component O and dividend O to the right hand side we have 4 plus 1 upon 4 minus 1. Now here this x and minus x cancels in the numerator and 2 and minus 2 cancels in the denominator. So we have 2 plus 2 that is 4 upon minus x minus x that is minus 2x is equal to 5 upon 3. Now here 2, 2 times is 4. So this means we have x is equal to minus 6 upon 5. So therefore the final value of x is minus 6 upon 5. This completes the session. Hope you have understood the solution of this question.