Folks welcome back. I'm Philip Magnus and this is my brand new series of science fiction reviews It is called fittingly Philip reads the hugos. Why is it so fitting a name? Simple enough because I will be reading and not just reading but reviewing all the hugo ward winning novels Since all the way back in 1953 to whenever I'm done with this series, which is probably going to be 2053 Knowing myself It's going to be very exciting to fail to finish all these wonderful science fictional novels The first one we're starting off is of course the demolished man by Alfred Bester Which first among all books to ever be written Won the hugo There were a few retroactive hugos, but we'll leave those for a later date once I'm done with all the proper hugos Now, what do you need to know about the demolished man? It was written by Alfred Bester who also wrote Tiger Tiger Novel named after the William Blake poem about man a prisoner who True true this demand for vengeance Becomes something much different from from the Vile criminal that at first he appeared to be I read Tiger Tiger a very long time ago We shall speak no more of it Instead we shall together with me Go through my review the one I've cooked up on my word processor of the demolished man What does Philip from the past have to say about it all science fiction? He writes it can be endlessly entertaining in holly and intentional ways. I owe linguistic Drift alone for more than a few chuckles as I explored the very first novel awarded the hugo for best sci-fi all the way back in 1953 I mean Philip we already said all of that. Oh, well Despite certain antiquated notions the demolished man made for exciting reading and I can see why it still holds a place in the science fictional canon Why? Why you might ask I Tangled up my that's not what I was going to say what I was going to say is when you read the novel so old with so much familiar already It can be easy to lose track of some of the ones fresh elements introduced This is one of the earlier sci-fi trailers out there reading almost as Philip Marlowe He faced lightly less deranged Philip K. Dick had written it There's plenty of hard-boiled fun set in a gripping version of the 24th century as our two protagonists go forth to war with one another Ben Reich a solid system-spanning business Tycoon at the end of his rope offers his greatest rival old men the Courtney a merger deal when he is Refused by the Courtney Reich decides to solve the issue of his business rival less savory way Saying at one point if you won't let it be merger. They'll make it murder That's my American accent. It is as dreary as it sounds God will appreciate however a man willing to go all the difference Hey But murder is not easy in the future Not when said future is filled with espers capable of reading your mind Reich starts cut the opening of the book is to navigate his way through a series of challenges In the accomplishment of this dastardly goal While it's certainly an engaging start that the demolished man is at its best when the first class expert Lincoln This honest ape Powell enters into the fray at this point about a quarter into the book The two begin a contest of wills and wits that dominates the remnant of the book Both spin circles over the other out thinking each other in cleverly thought-out ways best as writing here Absolutely shines at the height of this novel. It is gripping intelligent witty and a pleasure to read the way best adores Powell and Reich as the Antithesis of one another the chemistry that the two share every time both are on the same page This has to be one of the original science fictional frenemy relationships and I could not get enough of it A recurring gag with Powell is the line who stole the weather which never fails to make him blush So we never get an exact Explanation it's certain that this honest ape is to blame This part of Powell's personality is a liar extraordinaire Jumping into high gear whenever the policeman seems to lose focus in a more informal Setting our conversation and the gustu with which he tells lie after lie each one building like a stack of cards a house of cards rather it makes for For some really fun dialogue and and also It makes for lies just outrageous enough to be believable you when you're met With with such lies as to think them Totally totally impossible to make up. That's the kind of lies. I'm talking about here It's not all butterflies and rabos alas The demolished man is a Holly Freudian affair in its conception of familial relationships And then its ultimate resolution alike, which I find not only outdated but also kind of yucky in addition to that Bessar allows himself to moralize the readers at the nulls very end and Humanist notions to those moralizing notions are They might even be soaked with admirable enough sentiment and yet to most of us readers in the early 20th century Did I say 20th century? I did didn't I? It's the 21st century Philip Trying to keep them. I've been around for a long long while At any point for the readers in the 21st century having moralizing Fint your book all around up with a bow It it diminishes the work somehow and it is a surefire way to lose us especially if it had been done earlier But that is a small matter compared to the alas expected sexist portrayal of Female characters not much in the way of representation of strong female characters indeed So I will say the book is better in the representation of minorities at least Women seem to only have two tree rolls to choose from They're either love sick or the maliciously insane or Last but certainly not least secretaries it's at once to be anticipated with so many of these golden age or just after the golden age sci-fi novelists and At the same time it is disappointing beyond measure because although so many of them The authors I mean had these visionary ideas of how society could develop and best is indeed a very fine Imaginary kind of use of of his his faculties to extrapolate the notions of what a late-stage capitalist Society with a technology much improved and now growing well outside the span of our own Solid system would look like Despite this magnificent capacity for extrapolation They could only think of The way the future might be in a very limited framework monochromatic and male dominated and that is Unfortunately hard to stomach in the 21st century. Of course, we cannot have the same expectations of Literature from 70 years back to to tick all the boxes But that doesn't mean that we're not At least Required to to mention From from a place where we might think that we know better and I would say that we do at least in in the importance of Women's rights and and the role of women in society which should it must be Underlined should be at the same level as any Male I Know I said no moralizing, but I think that's an important point to make Who knows maybe it's not Maybe of course it is and there's no maybe here It's an important point to make my friends and that is the last I will say on it Now I am absolutely happy to recommend to you the demolished man With that big caveat in mind if you'd think that you can enjoy the novel Knowing it's chief issue By all means you should pick it up. I did but I also have to be conscious and I have to Underline the issues that I see That said Join me again next week when I will be talking about my first Robert a Heinlein book double star which I Loved more than I did this and I was saying something Is it is it saying something? I think I dished this book quite a bit But I said it and so I'm stuck with it Meanwhile, I have but one more word for you and that is Subscribe please I beg of you or If if you don't feel like subscribing you might as well click the like button if you dislike the video of course Click the dislike button and let me know how I can do better in the comments below Do you think you're going to? Read this one Do you think you're going to be into the next few videos in which I will Undoubtedly be dishing a lot of these 1950s novels because of their outdated and sexist views You probably will enjoy it one way or the other and that sir is a shred See you next time bye Not a demolish it Demolished what now the demolished man


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Hello everybody! Welcome back to my channel. I am trying to get into part two of this video finally, but it's just been such a craziness. Like I've tried to re-film this part two multiple times and then there's always something that comes up where I'm like, oh this thing was off or oh I just got like this new plant and I want to make sure it's in there because this is my very first Ethereum and I don't know.  The long-awaited plant tour part two. I know it's been a hot minute and I need to get this done and I'm tired of cleaning and reclaiming this room so I'm just gonna get it done. There's a few new plants so I may need to review their names but I will go over everybody that's in here. I know I sound like a crazy person saying all their nicknames but guys that's really how I refer to them so I'm so sorry I sound like a crazy person but it does help me keep better track of my plants and it's kind of fun so you know I'm gonna stick with it just because I did it for the first video but I swear I'm not that crazy I just think it's fun to give them little names so anyways we'll go ahead and start over here so this is kind of the first little table and you can see here that we have a few fun ficus and some sands of varia okay so I do like to name some plants after pokemon so here we have cherubi and then we have uh volpix beautiful volpix volpix is seeming kind of sad you can see some weird brown on it so if you have any suggestions on why that's happening please let me know back here we have viper obviously because it's a snake plant and I actually combined two plants to make this big one super happy love this one so much and then back here I have two manjula I have jewel and then I have anju so this is jewel right here this is anju I literally got anju from walmart for two dollars guys that was an amazing moment so happy ah also want to share some more of my beautiful art here I got a couple of these cool prints for ten dollars off of amazon so go check them out they're beautiful they look like someone hand painted those so I really like those a lot beautiful all right you're about to learn my love for calathea right here guys there is so many different calathea varieties I love love love how they look they are just beautiful with their stunning foliage so I'm gonna show you all of those guys today so first over here one of my first plants that I transferred to leka is riella and I have a few different of these kinds as weston's grandma gave those to me so yeah if you see a few of those that's why and they're pretty special to me so I really like those and then back here we have thea she was doing so good and now she has some of these yellow leaves and I'm not quite sure why but she is quite stunning and beautiful back here we have cal and found cal at a grocery store this leaf has just like never unfurled but you can see it's pretty huge but most of the other leaves that have come in have been um pretty small but this one is just a stunner no like no browning uh love that one and then this is suikun my very first antherium and uh she's okay I'm getting used to her trying to figure out what she needs I need to clean her leaves obviously but yeah she is cute and I've never had one never really been interested but I thought I'd give one a try it's cute it's an antherium we'll see how that goes back here is my prized possession this yes guys this is an aglaonema pictum tricolor ah um it did have a leaf that kind of tripled and died down here and I haven't quite pulled it off yet because I just want to be so careful with it I left it in the same packaging that it arrived in and I just tried to keep it moist and yeah this is oh look at that which is beautiful anyways that's pictum and then we have a few cuttings down here this is astrea I've been having a hard time with her um just because I got this new uh humidifier and it obviously keeps them a lot more moist than what I was used to so uh you can see right now I had it running for a couple hours and right now it's at 60 percent and before I'd say it was probably between 40 to 50 so yeah I've been having troubles like not over watering these guys and obviously you can see I'm still getting used to that so she looks pretty sad but I'm hoping she can hang in there and start growing some new growth I don't see any yet so fingers crossed there and then back here I have wow a sad looking leaf that I chopped it had a uh little baby coming in the back here but it's not looking so good so there's that and then in the front here we have freddy one of the other plants I transferred to leka it's been going pretty well um freddy seems pretty happy there are a couple of leaves in here but that is to be expected when you are transferring the plant um completely out of soil to a different medium and so that's what's kind of happening with that I'm sorry if these bottom ones are going to be a little bit hard to see my camera doesn't pick up very well in lower light so we'll just do our best I'll pull any out if I need to but I'm just going to show you guys these ones quick so over here we have melvin and like I said I'll just pull them out I believe it might be an asparagus fern I'm not really sure ferns are just not very fun for me um and then back here I have this one I actually got from another little garden store and they were selling it as a plant for the ground which my the place I live is a zone 4 b and this would this is obviously going to be treated as an annual but I got a little rattlesnake calathea ah so cute um I don't really know what they consider this but anyways this is a be do and then back here is my little sad fern at this point it doesn't really matter what his name is but um yeah because he's probably gonna die but anyways um oh gosh what is his name I can't remember at this moment but I'll put it on the screen for you guys and then here we have I know guys a begonia maculata I also got that at the garden store as a annual plant and her name is Nia and then I have this cutie pie getting a little bit of yellowing on the leaves and I think that's because it stays pretty humid inside of this um table which I really like this table I also got this off of amazon but it does make it more difficult to figure out the watering schedule for plants that you typically know the watering schedule for so anyways this is sorak if you watch westworld you'll know who that is and then over here we have some more cutie pies so this one this is like the little humidifier I use but it's just like a um aroma therapy type of thing so there's that and then this is delos I kind of got this on a whim didn't know it was going to be this small but man it's pretty dang cute I it's a little phallic looking but I really like it I think it's really cute um okay so we have a few in here we just have a couple more so this is khaleesi yeah I know game of thrones and then back here this is my first one that I actually got this is bella oh my gosh I know I told you my camera's terrible in low light but anyways you can kind of see that and I don't like taking this one in and out because it kind of ruins the leaves there but anyways she is a cutie here got this one from Gabriella plants this is corcella I love that like black color around the pink it's just stunning I don't know why my hand's shaking so much so sorry about that but there you go so we'll put those guys back and then um I just decorated this with some different rocks so that's kind of fun and I do have two humidifiers in here I have that one in the back of this table and then I have the one sitting right next to or right in front of my prized possession there so yeah and then I said I have my little elicomes humidifier works great except for when you have to refill it that's kind of annoying but it is what it is but I've been super happy and then here we have Sarah Sarah is a big monstera I always wanted a huge monstera and now I have one and my heart's complete I actually got it to hopefully propagate and sell but I haven't been very successful in the propagating part so right now she's just kind of chilling and being beautiful and then down here we have marks I've cut off a lot of marks already and sold a bunch of the cuttings from it so you can see here I love these ones because it makes me just think of like a dragon and it's so cool and some of these leaves are so big like here's my hand in comparison crazy okay now we're going to get into some fun ones that I have wanted for a while and I'm so happy that are in my collection now so the first one is my sabu blue love my sabu blue so beautiful um what is your name I have a hard time remembering some of these new guys names okay anyways this is my sabu blue so incredibly beautiful and has this long trailing piece on the front here and then next to that is ian another one that I got to sell later but obviously that hasn't quite happened yet so there's that and then this was one of my cuttings from marks that just didn't end up doing very well so it's just kind of hanging in there and then this is snowy I found snowy the same time that I found um that I found um my manjulapothos so I don't know I like aglioneema and I thought this one was pretty so there she is and then coming around to this side we have auroras and I know siltapagana she's so uh I'm just in love with these leaves and then it does kind of trail off the front here so so beautiful over here I have a I have malaga um and bondite and together I call these my little fairies fairy plants this is wolf because I called him my lone wolf because he was the one sitting in the office for a while and yeah there's that and then back here we just have a couple more so again this is that south facing window similar to um the last video I'll just show you this at one um used to be a um this used to be an alakacia frydeck I obviously did not know its care needs so I'm wondering if this stump will grow back but we'll have to see and then back here we have leafion she is like just has these crazy big leaves and yeah I really like this one a lot she's beautiful little hanging plant there and then the last one in this room is my beautiful beautiful sony eye adam sony eye that his name is sony eye but yeah this one is just gorgeous and yeah so beautiful all right let's go ahead and go to the basement for the last few plants so over here we have emerald so cute I just fell in love with this guy and look at those leaves so amazing beautiful and then this is v v actually fell down the other day and I did have to um you can see here chop a bunch of the arms off because they just got all weird and yeah it was really sad this is heart for obvious reason no this is corazon which is heart in Spanish back here we have spot spot is so cute and I'm propagating a bunch of spot to put on my Etsy shop so cute this is Maria as its name indicates and it starts to grow in this weird um kind of shape here used to look really nice and now it's all kind of wonky I'll show you where I had it before but yeah it's just kind of growing really weird but it's beautiful and honestly it's never given me any trouble so other other than now it has a couple of little yellow leaves and stuff but I think that might be from the grow light I was using which I'll show you in a minute back here is Hudson my aglioneema so beautiful love those leaves gorgeous gorgeous honestly have not had an issue with any of my aglioneema before and I'm in love with them back here is corduroy corduroy actually has two in there but I just love how it kind of has this like I don't know dual look but each of them is a little bit different too so that's kind of cool I may separate them at some point but yeah and then my cute little pot there from Walmart and then this pot was from Home Depot and this pot came in a set from Amazon so that was pretty good and then lastly we have Thiffy such a weird name but if you look at how spathillophyllum is spelled you can see why I named it Thiffy such a weird name but yeah this one has caused me a little bit of headache I can't quite figure out its needs and all of that but she has a new flower coming up so it is what it is kind of cute I don't think she's big enough for this pot but I don't want to repot so yeah and then we'll just spin around to my desk here so this is where that where Maria was she was actually right over here so I had two plants on either side here and this guy's name is Stahill and I just have him in this really gorgeous matte black pot and this cool little holder on my desk here and then I just have a girl light since he's kind of far from any light all right lastly I have this area again please don't mind the window well it's hard to keep those clean I'm not really sure what to say about that but yeah I have a couple of these guys under this grow light here this kind of grow box which is really cool I really really like it and I'd like to get another one at some point because my plants just seem so happy especially during the winter so over here we have ocean so beautiful and I'll occasionally move these guys around so that the sands of area can kind of get a little bit closer to the light but anyways here is Penelope looking super sad this is a pilea don't know how to care for them and I have a little a little tea in there too I was trying to hold this one up but obviously it didn't work very well seems to be much happier when I don't water it as much so I don't know there's that but yeah it looks really disgusting and sad and then this is Entei both of these were actually free plants from our local garden center we went to kind of this yoga event and we got two plants so there's this guy he didn't get very much water and this light seems pretty bright that some of these are a little bit sad and burned but I'm surprised like he's hanging in there and has some really cool different leaves here he's a begonia but I don't know what type so if you know let me know and then this is Demeter my very first Syngonium obviously this one is a splash and has a little bit of a burnt leaf but yeah another one that I'm really surprised is still hanging in there so super happy about that and then we have violet making me realize that I don't really like African violets but yeah there's her you know the funny thing is she didn't really start growing leaves until I put her under this grow light box thing so I'm pretty happy about that I'm not so good about the watering and all of that so you can see it looks kind of sad but there's that here's the confession of my plants of what they truly look like and then here we have hope obviously because it's a pepperomia hope and I actually divided it and ended up selling most of it so I just have this tiny little piece left in this little pot and then lastly this is Anna well Anna is a little bit dirty here but yeah she's been pretty good to me had a little baby and seemed super happy so that is all the basement plants and I also got this from Amazon so check it out for your interest love you guys bye


All right, good Tuesday morning everyone. It is time to talk about the markets with Jim Kramer on the floor of the New York Stock Exchange and Jim Intel Under Armour CEO's leaving Trump's Council. Yeah, Brian Krasanich and Kevin Plank joining Mr. Frazier these are people of Who recognize their various stakeholders and I think that mr. Krasanich saying listen the politics are too much and Kevin Plank making a statement Kevin Plank has a lot of endorse endorsees who are upset that he had been committed to begin with I mean I present Trump's polarizing figure To me, I would love to have the input to President Trump. I don't regard that as an appeasement position I don't regard that as being that I have no conscience I know that My old friend Larry Summers has a piece of this. How can you look at your kids? I would tell my kids listen I have to have influence I have a view if you don't like that I Understand, but I think that to be in the room and to try to influence the president is more important than the statement That's my own view. I've not been asked to come down, but I do think that That I understand anybody who wants to quit because there are he there are many things that he's doing that would upset one or Or more of your stakeholders whether it be your shareholders whether it be the people who work with you whether it be your customers And so it's a matter of conscience plus those three and I think that a lot of people Don't need this and one to make a statement In particular the idea that he did not call out Nazis Is rather extraordinary and then he but he did say it yesterday But it I'm not a CEO and I have my constituency is one of of Watching and and offering analysis and I think that I thought the president made a cheap shot at Ken Frazier about price of drugs But immediately on Twitter people say hey listen all those drugs are too expensive and the advertisers didn't really work I mean there is fault everywhere You cannot there isn't a CEO in the country who makes anything that you could not find fault it But I do say that there are people of consciousness People might not want to work with this man I adopted more of a Jeff ML view which is that if you can influence him That's better than just closing the door on him because once you close the door on this man It's never gonna open again because that's the way he is. I think there's a lot of fear of him I recognize that I think CEOs if you had a big defense contract I think you'd be fearful, but because there he is always expressed a desire to Hammer those who disagree with him He's a different kind of president and I think that people have to recognize that he's a different kind of president When you sign one with him you you are Accepting a lot of behavior and if you accept that behavior then you're gonna have to live with it Well, this is important perspective Jimmy you speak to more CEOs than anyone. Well, I mean, I think a lot of CEOs I speak to a very fearful They're fearful because of retribution they're fearful because they want to run their business and They're fearful because they view their job is as trying to work Not you for their country for their shareholders For their stakeholders For their customers for their employees and those are all things you have to juggle and when you add this layer of the president it's too much for some of them because The some of their stakeholders just think it's outrageous to work with this man at all And I look I get all sides of this I mean the president wants to be in touch with CEOs the CEOs sign one And that may be they sign on to some things that they regardless reprehensible so then they Resign out of conscience and I think that did everyone has a right to do all these things All right, Jim, let's move on to the markets the real bright spot this morning Home Depot reporting. What did you think stock is being killed? Yes, I think that there are people who still believe someone tweeted on my column that they used to get Shop all Amazon contractor now they all Home Depot now they get 30% Frank Blake in an interview with an Atlanta paper.  I have bought gardening equipment online not from Amazon But specialized gardening equipment that was not available at home available at Home Depot Probably 80% of my garden spend is with Home Depot But they do have the same plants as everybody else I mean they use a company that has a that Scott's miracle that Scott's Has a own some of and everybody who does plants playing the guy do knows that you'll see the label And you know that most of them get the same I happen to have a particular Home Depot in Riverhead that has always been fabulous to me And very fast checkout line as opposed to Lowe's where it's very slow in the lines long. I like their flats I use them for everything. I don't use for seed other than some stuff that is for Isles I get from Union Square, but Then again, I mean there is a lot of stuff in there that you could easily buy from Amazon So I get it Contractors, I still think pull up all the time with the pickups and buy stuff It's like Costco, but your price sturdiness multiple goes down if you have something it can be Amazon All right another retailer talk about TJX companies You want it for the harder to be Amazon because they are the beneficiary of all the chaos in the brick-and-mortar world They have historically been able to come underneath the prices of Amazon Most of these retailers today are saying listen we can compete with Amazon The only people who compete with Amazon on price are off-price retailers particularly TJX because their strategy has always been to buy The stuff that is Over-inventory and TJX is still putting up stores because there's strong demand There's a there's a new TJX store coming up next to me in Brooklyn Because there's demand and I think that most of these companies do not have the demand to put up new stores They're closing a lot of stores. That's not the case with TJX another retailer to talk about coach reported comps Look, I think that Victor Luis when he bought Kate spade said they're going to change the way that Kate spade works They did do that and he added that that was going to be negative for their gross margins and negative for the short-term earnings period and that Kaibosh the stock I think it could be an opportunity when it settles down another retail stock just getting killed today advanced auto parts Yeah, you know these are I was going over with my team for action alerts And there this is one of the reasons why we sold snap one It's just too hard to own anything that's related to auto auto parts in part because the industry itself is stunned That business is down and it's not because of Amazon Amazon just moving into the business They have not been able to pinpoint why business is so bad I have been postulating that people may not be keeping their cars as long that betrayed them in because the cars advancements have actually been rather stark a collision avoidance, you know before a car You could keep for 12 years But now I think that what happens is the new cars have so many more advances that perhaps they're not being repaired as The older cars are not being repaired. They're being traded in but everyone's postulating What's going on? No one seems to have the silver bullet of what's really happening there? I don't know. Hopefully I'll listen to all the calls and be able to make a better judgment Advanced auto parts was at one time a great growth stock. It no longer is as is auto zone as is a rally They are no longer growth stocks. That's a great secular change that really snuck up on a lot of people are moving to some analysts Commentary Jim, what did you make of Goldman's upgrade of GoPro? Well there? I mean they ate chrome They said look we underestimated their ability to be able to fix their capital structure And that they have a new product that's historically moved the stock up the stock was On a percentage basis much lower. It's moved up. I look I understand why keep a cell on it It's the way I looked at it was the guy it crow and moved on and I think that's right and Jim I saw you mentioned wind resorts on squawk in the street, you know there That's a piece by Deutsche Bank very fine analysts noting that the palace is finally kicking in This is something that those of us who follow win has been Steve win has been saying when this kicks in It's going to be huge When he said that initially the stock was in the 50s and 60s and he bought a lot of stock because he has faith in himself I love CEOs like that. I love Steve win. All right, Jim. We'll wrap up as we always do with earnings to watch We have another retailer as we spoke about before target. Yeah, now targets being softened the stock is coming down And that's very good news. Remember they've been keeping their guidance low That's also good news because if the higher you keep your guidance the more likely that you are going to Overpromise They've been practicing you pod, which is what I taught the Eagles to do And we broke the huddle by saying you pod you need to under promise in Philadelphia And then over deliver because they'll boo you you need to under promise in the land of retail and over deliver because the I love that acronym. Thank you. And then one more on my list Cisco systems. Oh, okay, Cisco We sold Cisco If for action alerts and took the game we wanted to raise some cash and we put the money in Nvidia And if Nvidia comes down more, we will buy more Nvidia a good day for Everest. Thank you. Jim Grammer Thank you so much for more information on the stocks Jim mentioned. Please head to the street calm


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They're featured on Showtime's documentary series, Sexual Healing and the Emmy Award-winning NBC show, Starting Over. They're bestselling authors of Sexual Enlightenment endorsed by world-renowned spiritual pioneer, Dr. Michael Beckwith and the co-founders of Tantra Nova Institute in Chicago. They got nominated as changemaker at the Housewife, sponsored 2016 United State of Women's Summit in Washington, DC. Elizabeth and Freddie are beloveds, husband and wife, as well as business partners residing in Chicago. You can learn more at their website, go to TantraNova.com. And with that, I welcome Elizabeth and Freddie to the Dare to Dream show. It's so great to have you both here. Welcome. Thank you, Debbie. Yeah, Debbie, great to be here. Thank you. Yeah, so let's start off, Elizabeth and Freddie. Tell us about the work you do. Tell us about the people whom you work with. Wow, okay. Do you wanna start? Well, yeah. So we have had our institute here in Chicago for the last 21 years. And Elizabeth and I met on the internet and we can talk about that later. But the work that we do, we've done all over the world with couples and singles and individuals. And we teach practices of how to use sexual energy to get more deeply connected to what we most deeply desire in our life and how to stay connected with yourself and your partner and life in general. So we'll get into unpacking that today. And the work is deeply influenced, of course, by the practice of Tantra, which is an ancient tradition that comes from East India. And Tantra is the yoga of the energetic body. In the West, we are very familiar with, you know, familiar with yoga centers at every corner, street corner. However, the focus there is that it's the yoga of the physical body. So how would it be to learn more about the energies that flow through me at all times? Otherwise, I wouldn't be alive. And so these energies show up in different ways in the physical, sexual, in the emotional and love, and then in the mental and consciousness or spiritual way. And so the Tantric practice allows us to not only tap into these different dimensions and bring more awareness to it, but also to become more integrated. So we can fully live the sexual, spiritual, human being that we are, you know? I'm curious, when you talk about this, and thank you for the explanation, it's very clear. How nervous are people when they come to work with you? What are they thinking when they show up? Or what are their biggest fears? Yeah, actually, usually when they come to us, they often have either read our book or like on a show like this one, they have heard us speak and share. And usually when they come, something was spoken to within themselves, like something they are looking for and then found a coherence in hearing us and learning what this is all about, particularly, you know, when we take it out of the just Tantric sex notion, this is just one dimension. Yeah, we get a lot of couples and singles who want to either be in a relationship or more deeply connect with the relationship they're already in. And when they read and see and hear and learn more about what we're offering, what they're listening for and what they're resonating with is something that is a deep desire with most of us. We all want to connect, feel connected, be heard, be loved and so on. And so that is what we call remembering what we've forgotten. So they just naturally just come to us and the sexual piece is just a unique way of getting to what it is we don't see. And we'll get into that more in terms of, yeah, yeah. I want to give you a chance to respond and don't want to just go too deep too fast. I know you got a great listening audience and I want to really be clear with what we want to share with you today. Oh, that's so kind. I love that line, what it is we don't see. So I want to take you up on that. Can we find out what does that mean? Yes, good. Yeah, so particularly in the realm of intimacy and love in our sexual self, there is so much obscured, so much in the unconscious or subconscious. And our society, and I'm really talking about our world society because that is not unique to one particular culture or people, is that the sexual, we call it the last frontier which hasn't been explored consciously.  It's not a new thing. While we may have become more aware over the last 50 years around our emotional self because with therapy and transformational offerings and approaches, we now can speak about our emotions and allow to feel our emotions and express them. That was not necessarily so in the 1950s. Then through yoga and meditation, we have become more aware and reflective and contemplative and the last of the third, like, you know, mind, emotion, heart and body, the sexual. The last one is really that what hasn't been consciously approached. And so yes, to your question from a little earlier, you know, sometimes it takes a person several years before they show up. They heard about us five years ago and then they come after several years and said, you know, I was very curious then but I just couldn't bring myself to coming here because, you know, they were not ready. And I wanna say, Debbie, to further illustrate this not seeing what we're doing to create what we're getting. So we live often from the past into the now, into the future. So if I was in a bad relationship or I was beaten by my father, I might flinch today uncontrollably if somebody raised their hand at me, I might have a real problem with that or not wanna be in relationship but I was hurt so badly before I can't do it, right? So something I don't see about what's creating what I'm getting. And it's not even that obvious for a lot of folks. It's like, I would like to be in a relationship with a woman but I just can't find the right woman or the right guy. And they're all over the place. It's like you don't see red cars until you have one. So the unveiling of what we don't see happens in a lot of ways. There's a lot of ways to get actionable insights, you know, talking, talk therapy or walking meditations and so on but very few ways I know of actually none that teach how to work with the life force or sexual energy as a way to get more deeply connected and unmask ourselves, our unconscious selves because the sexual energy whether you're doing consciousness work or not when you're in it, you're more open, loving, vulnerable, receptive, chemically we're changed, more oxytocin, endorphins, serotonin, the feel good hormones. So we're in an altered state emotionally and chemically. So what we teach our distinctions on how you can work with that altered state to get more deeply connected with what you have set out as an intention. And that's where the sexual energetic becomes a way to be more connected or to transform what we can't seem to see how to do. Let me give you a very concrete example, you know and I'm gonna use myself because it was this is why I'm teaching Tantra today. This is why I'm here with Freda Centale sharing this art of sexual spiritual connection with you and your audience is that over 20 years ago I was a management consultant at that time and I was really good. It was in the 90s, really good at consulting yet miserable in relationship. I had this pattern of attracting unavailable men and while that was exciting at times most of the time I was alone. And I vividly remember that there came a moment when I fell so deeply into despair because I could see that if I was not gonna change the trajectory that I would leave this planet without ever having had lasting intimacy and love in my life. Now I did have love and intimacy in my life but I was not able to sustain it. And I was at a point where I said, okay, I'm gonna do anything, whatever. And so I deeply delved into meditation and then went on to studying Tantra as a discipline, as a practice, not just reading a book here and there. And what opened up for me out of this practice, this Tantric healing was that I got to see that I distrusted men.  I was very charming, I reeled them in. So it was underneath in the subconscious that there was something. And through the Tantric practice, through the Tantric healing and there's a very distinct ritual for the woman to tap into the most inner, sensual sexual self where we can discover and uncover what may live there on the cellular level in our sexual center, actually. And in that moment when I was touched in a certain place a vivid memory came up. It was when I was 18 years old, first boyfriend, first love we just had spent a couple of very blissful years. And then he asked me to have intercourse. And I said yes, although I was not ready. And it was frequently painful to go to the gynecologist, the bill went to my house, might had opened it, all hell broke loose. He called me a whore, the boyfriend left shortly after. So there I was totally alone, no soul to turn to. And that was the time when I started closing off, you know, like armoring. So my whole torso, my sexual being, my emotional being, although I became very promiscuous, but it was more like to get some validation, not really opening my heart because that was too painful. So anyway, I did some therapy in my 30s around that and that was very helpful. So I thought it was all complete. Yet little did I know that what was living or remembered on the cellular level was not accessible through the conscious mind. So we cannot talk about it, we cannot access it. So anyway, that was cleared and in place of the distrust, deeper trust in myself opened up, more trust in me in general. And the six months later, Fredy's been talking into my life. And so this is a great example of what we're talking about, this unmasking that happens in this sexual, intimate vulnerability and chemically changed and emotionally changed state that we're in in the sexual. Now there's some pieces that people learn in the workshops that allow them to work in this ritual in this way. Because for the guy, if he's giving to his beloved or his woman and he's doing a sexual ritual, it might for him be overwhelming that, hey, we should be doing mutual lovemaking now. I'm excited, you're excited, let's get at it. So what's learned in the ritual is how to hold space, how to be in particular roles, people are given roles, as a giver and as a receiver. And this does not take the place of mutual lovemaking and all the other wonderful things we do with sexual energy. This is a new way of approaching sexual energy and the altered shifts that happen as an approach to getting to what we don't see. Because that stuff is hidden, it's deeply hidden. And so we're shifting things, not intellectually or linguistically, but energetically. And that's- Yeah, no, I deeply, deeply understand this modality of healing so, so important because I think a lot of men and women are traumatized and don't realize it for various reasons. So when you talk about that, I love these rituals you're mentioning, what exactly is the power of slow sex? What are the benefits and what is the power of doing sex or rituals slowly? Yeah, so well, we're talking about two different things actually in our parlance.  In mutual love making and slow sex, you can integrate aspects of what you do in the ritual in terms of gazing, breathing together, mutual enjoyment, transmuting, circulating orgasmic energy or nectar. And all those things you can do in a love making, mutual love making. It's a little different again when you are in the roles of specific ritual practices. We teach it in terms of modality to get to something intentionally that you wanna see that you otherwise can't get close to emotionally. That's a little different because when you're in a mutual love making stance, you're both adults. You're both giving and receiving and you both play roles of that. Yeah, let's talk about this a little bit more the giving and receiving that imagine to be in the receiver role for an hour or for two hours. What could be possible to be experienced there and listened for that is not available in the mutual back and forth, you know? Now, can you give some examples? What is possible there? Well, in that instance, and I'll let you take it right back is, you know, if you are receiving and say my intention is to let go of the anger I have towards my mother for beating me all the time, right? And it's shown up in my relationships. This is just a hypothetical. And so now I'm being given to by my beloved and I'm in this intimate state of sexual intimacy where perhaps I'm aroused or I'm not and I've altered with the endorphins and serats of the feel good hormones. I mean, mostly more available. And I have this intention to let go of this anger towards my mother, for instance. I might then get in touch with a deep sadness in this intimate vulnerability. This is not a place that I would go to if I was mutually love making with someone. And that door open because of this intimate vulnerability in terms of this altered state as an example. So then I can get in touch with that, let it go, recognize it and be a little further down the road of getting unloosed, if you will, from that emotional attachment, unconscious emotional attachment. And the rituals allowing ourselves to drop into this receivership which of course requires a lot of trust. And that is such a huge thing for all of us because letting go, surrendering and we never surrender to another, we actually surrender to ourselves and the other gets to share in that with us because the fear often with surrendering is like, oh, then I give myself up. No, we don't give ourselves up. Surrendering is letting go, letting go into myself, into my bliss and to share this with another can be most blissful, you know? Is it possible to surrender? I mean, I know when I orgasm 100%, I couldn't tell you what I'm doing or being in that moment. I'm just so in an experience, right? And so I know that level and I know what it's like when my partner, I've seen him in complete surrender. That's sort of a new thing in our relationship which is really beautiful gift. Is there a way outside of orgasm to be in that full surrender? Yeah, you can, you know, orgasm is not just a moment like being in the orgasmic wave or the orgasmic dance which like, you know, then it becomes very effortless. And this is not only available for the woman because the woman has, you know, is circular in terms of sexual energy. Energy flows like this and all over the place and like masculine energy is linear, directional, you know, forward coming. It's based in testosterone that is, you know, strong. And that end through the tantric practice, a man can actually learn to also have multiple orgasms or be in the orgasmic wave. And that's one of the practices that men learn. So we have women's workshops and men's workshops and co-ed workshops. And specifically in the men's workshop, one of the main practices is for them to learn as a homework practice how to separate ejaculation from orgasm. And that's a couple of things. One, a lot of guys, you know, well, you know, I'm not a quick comer. I can, you know, last as long as I want. She can have all her pleasure and I can come when I get ready. That's not what I'm talking about lasting. I'm talking about a new dimension of consciously circulating this orgasmic nectar. So that means you can ride on this orgasmic wave for an hour or 45 minutes or 30 minutes or however long you want. And you don't always have to end in an ejaculation. There's ways with muscle, breath awareness and energetic awareness that you can practice learning how to get to 10 being that ejaculatory moment, eight, eight and a half, nine, nine and three quarters and even a 10 where you can actually have an energetic ejaculation. And you won't spill semen. There won't be ejaculatory reflex and you won't have refractory where you lose the erection and you will still be able to stay engaged because once we as men have the orgasm it's pretty much over until we can regenerate. So if you can transmute or and circulate that energy then you can be complete for a moment but still be able to engage and have energy for other things because it's not just sexual energy. You can use that same energy for other creative pursuits energetic pursuits the next day and so on.  It creates life, it's pleasurable when we're in it. And when you bring consciousness to the sexual creativity and pleasure starts showing up in areas of your life that seem completely unrelated to sex and the simple process of living.  So once we start getting what we call this witness and distance from all of that then we can start choosing how we're experiencing our life a little more. That's a lot said, I know. Sorry. Yeah, no, I'm tracking completely. Okay, good. So many questions. So let me lead with this and write this other one down. So let's just say based on what you're saying people these days, as you know they're so busy, right? So how do they learn to incorporate and dedicate time to lying together, to being together? How can they shift out of that busyness and make this really conscious choice about beingness and sensitivity together? That's a great question. It has a lot to do with intentionality. That is where it starts. An intentionality about our relationship or if someone wants to be in a relationship and intentionality is the key thing. It only will show up if you bring awareness to it and energy to it. Which means that I need to be clear where do I wanna bring my energy to in life? Usually there are three senior priorities, work, family and relationship. Some people may have something else. And then with intentionality to make sure that all three of them are equal. If one is more important, then you get the results in the other that you don't hold as important. So that means intentionality of that. This is my relationship with Freddie is just as important as to internal law. It's more important. It doesn't have to be less important, you know. Then the intentionality shows up every moment throughout the day. It may be through a phone call or a text or very particular practices we have that take one or two minutes. Like for example, the hall 12 connection we can just show. Yeah, so I can come to Elspeth when she's busy at her desk or vice versa. And we come to the front which is the fourth chakra, the heart chakra and the same position in the back, mirroring the back. Can you see it? We're creating like a mudra where I'm holding in the front and the back. And then we gaze into each other's left eye and then we breathe in together and we exhale together and we might do that for 20 seconds or so. But just the stopping and being present for a moment is reminds us of the gratefulness and the joy of just not having to be so busy in our head. Yeah, the breathing is essential. So we do synchronized breath, we breathe in together and we breathe out together. And on the inhalation, I receive Freddie's laugh from his heart and on the exhalation, I send, you know. Send energy, love energy. My love into his heart. So we have the circuit and we very intentionally look into each other's left eye because that is correlated to the right brain hemisphere and it immediately brings us into this experiential easy place where we drop out of our head. It happens. It's not like, oh, I have to stop thinking. No, it's going forward. Well, what you can do Debbie and one of the things we teach are how to direct our energy. So the mind is busy.  I don't feel anything. So you use your mind, you put your attention, attention on the breath and your intention to move it on the exhalation and receive it on the inhalation. Now you're using your mind's focus to tune into a subtlety of energy that is there. Yeah. And this happens like this, look at me then. So we're just connecting perhaps three breaths. It's not a long time, but when we do it, we are fully there. Now, this is an agreement we make beforehand because there may be moments when I sit at the computer, I'm so engrossed in some project and when Friday comes, it could feel like an imposition at that particular moment, but given that I agree to, because that is where my intentionality is in terms of my relationship, that I take a moment and this moment recalibrates not only me, but also this connection is established right away. And we can do this at any moment. And of course, what we say is that intimacy doesn't start in the bedroom. It is every moment or in the kitchen or, you know. So when you ask how do couples find the time, it's what's the cost if you don't. And it's pretty severe.  You're so physically beautiful. And then to see you do that exercise together, I felt that here, that was so moving to feel you connect like that so quickly to drop in together. Because you know that place, you know, we all as humans know that place and we look like it's over there, but it's always available to us. So these are the tools for us all to tap into it regularly because we can really forget that it's there, you know, with all the busy and all of the external reference stuff that we are. And forgive me for asking this very ignorant question. When you do the couples workshops, do they get assignments and then they go back and do them and there's more sharing or here's the question to Jor that I know a lot of people ask is, do I have to get naked in front of other people? So let's get it out and answer that. Good question. So let's clarify that. There's no nudity in any of our workshops. And we designed it like that intentionally. The intimacy practices that we teach are then done as homework. And in class, in the workshop or the retreat, we do demonstrate them. However, we have props, you know, that we can use to be very explicit in terms of instruction so people can really move into a new space with great guidelines. And when we demonstrate it, there is such an energetic, just what you described from watching us here, just, you know, imagine showing this in that, let's say the ritual for the woman where I receive and Freddie then gives to me, you know, where I'm really so attuned with myself and he's listening and I can ask for whatever I want or, you know, that it becomes very visceral without being naked, you know. And then people go off and do it. If it's a men's workshop, they do their solo practice as homework practice. They just work with themselves.  We call it self-love practice versus masturbation, which is very different, you know, tragically speaking and experientially. And then in the couples or co-ed workshops, you know, people go to the hotel room or if they are here from the area of Chicago, then they go home. If actually when singles come, they pair up with a practice partner and that practice partnership is not about falling in love with each other or having sex together. No, it's to do the learning and to support each other in, you know, each other's learning. So yeah. Okay. Well, you mentioned the women. What does it take for a woman to let go into receiving and trusting plus connect with her feminine essence? What needs to occur for there to be the letting go, the receiving, the trusting and the feminine essence? Yes. So, you know, long before we actually go to sexual intimate practices, work a lot on emotional intimacy. And it starts over here. If I'm not intimately connected with myself, I can listen to myself tune with myself on all levels, sexual, emotional, mental, spiritual levels. I cannot do this with another. So in the women's workshop, I guide women to connect with these different dimensions through practices, you know, through processes. There's a very particular process for the women to drop into their subconscious because that what they struggle with, be it emotionally or be it sexually or relationally, is really lives in the subconscious. If it lived in the conscious mind, they already would have resolved it, you know, by themselves. So when they drop into that subconscious place of themselves, they can discover, you know, where certain notions, certain feelings, certain apprehensions may come from. And we do that process, not now to dig in the past. No, we use it so that we have a reference in the past. So for example, with me, with that 18 year old, you know, that hadn't come up in my present day sexual relationship with men. But that is where my distrust was, you know, fueled by and by tapping into that, then I have a choice. If I wanna perhaps perpetuate that pain, emotional pain and physical pain I experienced then that's still running underneath like an undercurrent or let that go so that I could drop into myself, come home to myself and trust myself. And so trusting is not an act that we do, you know, like, okay, I wanna trust now. It's not how it works. It's really tapping into that often, that place that is so vulnerable, perhaps that got hurt and that we cover up. So when we cover up something, we cannot be alive in that place. We cannot be expressed, fully expressed in that place. So just one moment.  Because when we come into this world, we don't, it's not a question of trusting or not. We're just alive, we move, look at infants, they are not constricted anyway in the body, in their emotional self. But then we grow up and we start compartmentalizing so we can cope with the world, with the punishment, with the fears, all of that. And that is what in some sense we wanna undo so that that authentic original self can arise. In that place, it's actually very easy to trust them, but it's a process, and it doesn't go through the head. Okay. And Freddie, did you wanna add something to that? I wouldn't say, Debbie, once you have an actionable insight, like something that, well, before you get to the actual insights, you come in with an intention and you have an idea of what you wanna create, whether it's the girlfriend or a better relationship with your beloved, whatever it is. And once you can get an idea of what that feels like, just dispel any disbelief of that it's not happening or that it can't happen, but just allow yourself to drop into the imagination of it happening. Then we can begin to work with the subtle energy that is the resistance that keeps us from allowing that to be so. And it's in this working with the sexual energy and the shifts that happen, how we become in an altered state with intention and beginning to be in this witness state where we're watching the total felt sense of all these stories and beliefs to then begin to move and step slowly towards what we most deeply desire, getting out of our own way, seeing what we didn't see before that kept us from allowing in what we most deeply desire. And that's how it all comes together as a gestalt to shift with working consciously with sexual energy. And we've seen it with people who are big meditators who don't know anything about it, all levels of economic and educational agendas, races, all over the world, we've done this work. And we've get 99% results for people. That's really good. Yeah. That's really good. How long does the workshop? So most of them are three days. The mastery program is more, it's a three-month programs over time. But so we start with what we call the foundations, workshops, there's one for men, there's one for women, and then there's a COVID foundations workshop. And they are three days long, like a long weekend. Unresidential, but so really, and it's like an intensive for three days, you get totally immersed. Sounds amazing. Yeah, it's really, it's like recalibrating. And it's in the greatest city. It's in Chicago. Yes, yes. And we have a beautiful Institute. It's a place where when people enter our studio, they say, oh, it feels so safe here, which is, of course, essentially in order to trust. You know, so and yeah, so they start out, we start out with cultivating emotional intimacy. Now that doesn't mean that in these foundational workshops that the sexual doesn't show up, but we don't go in terms of practices in on the first, on the entry level. Because again, in order to cultivate trust, trust towards myself, and then trust towards another or others, it's essential that we go slow and that we allow ourselves to start feeling through the heart. And once we are more connected in the heart, then opening to our sexual self, because we really want an integration of the heart and the sex.   They have wonderful energy into their heart. For most women, it's opening their heart so that their sexual center or your knee, as it's called in Sanskrit, which means sacred space, so that their sacred space can open. Yeah. If people have different rhythms, one likes to have intimacy way more than their beloved. How does that play out? Are there techniques to help people be ostensibly on the same page?  One can look at, well, what is my need to want to have sex so much? And the other could look at what is my need to not want to have sex so much? And then between all of it, there can be a way for them to come together. Now, the thing of it is, is a lot of women, even though they may love their guy, and he's like, but we have many couples come to us in the peak of their sexual energetic, like in their 30s or early 40s even, or even sometimes 20s. And she's like, you know, I don't know if he loves me. And he's like, of course I love you, baby.   And that's not something that most guys learn.  Those are the two that are okay for guys, but hugging and intimacy and coddling, that's something for guys in the guy world.   Keep your cards close to your vest. And so what happens in the men's workshop is one of the actual insights they get are the emotional exercises we do. And they begin to see that there can be a broadening of this emotional experience for them as men. And that connects them with themself and also then with their counterpart in a deeper way. And then learning to separate the ejaculation from orgasm gives them some consciousness around what seems to be automaticistic and uncontrollable. Yeah, so the differences in desire and drive is really just what Freddie alluded to. It's like for the men to become more aware of himself. But it could be the other way around. It could be the other way around. Because I've experienced that. So it could be where the female is much more desirous of more intimacy than the male has whatever, hormonally or intentionally. So it's then really, because then again, back to the giving and the receiving, the giving is like, if the desire is higher, you know, the giving is easier because there is this, you know, it's a higher testosterone that can show up in women as well. And the one who may have a lower drive, you know, is that calls more for reawakening. So how can we play again in this giving and receiving that the one who is more desirous, you know, is also aware of that and can transmute the desire through the breath so that it's not so intense yet can be channeled and then be an invitation to the other instead of being felt like it's a demand. And that is something to do with both how we manage our energy and how we listen to each other. And then also that it's an invitation. If both are committed to the relationship, then if there are differences in like if they question their commitment, it's difficult, you know, to bridge that difference in desire because that can only be bridged if we are deeply committed to our highest good individually and together, you know and then of course, if I have less desire than Freddie, then I welcome his invitation. And then I'm also, you know I allow myself to be invited. And I also, you know, of course, I'm open to take my time or ask him to go slow or to touch me, yeah, touch me. Usually there's something behind the opposition one way or the other. There's something that's not being seen about being together but then fighting about this very intimate thing, you know and for guys sometimes if a woman is really too much intimacy for guys can be scary if they haven't really honed their capacity to hold all that intimacy.  You come from dramatically different backgrounds. How today do those differences play out in your relationship personally and career-wise and how do you manage those and negotiate them? So the beauty is that over the years, I know very well over the years, really that has been a growing and learning together to actually for both of us as I see it and please correct me if you see it differently is that both of us owns their gifts fully. So the whole competitive thing fighting for air time, all of that that has pretty lessened because Freddie contributes in his way and I contribute in my way. So that is how like when we teach or when we speak with you that we come from different places and they complement each other. And then in terms of our sexual energy there have been different phases in our relationship. There used to be times when Freddie was much more desirous than I was when I post menopausal and on the other hand, that was really good because we both had to look at who we are as sexual beings and what is right for me, what is right for him. And from that place create our relationship instead of thinking, oh, there's something wrong it should be different, you know and now, there are also times when I'm all the desirous have more desires, you know but we just move with it then. It's really a co-creation instead of having expectations for some result or outcome or performance or that this depends in the way we relate sexually together that this has something to do with how much he loves me or how much attention I get. They are no longer correlated. Yeah, we've been together for 21 years which is the longest relationship I've ever been in. I think before this one it was five years, you know and I'll be 60, I was just 66 years old. But the thing of it is Debbie we almost to the six months to the day we met we transcended what I call the romantic drama, you know and we created this baby, Tantra Nova and Tantra Nova has been something that feeds us physically and feeds us emotionally, collectively and individually and it's the greatest gift for me that I could be doing in my life in this world. I mean, before this I was in corporate America and it was just a job. I was in the software business it was glamorous in San Francisco and Adam Mercedes and all that stuff was all in place but it was like there was after 15 years it was something missing. So coming to Chicago meeting Elzbeth and then creating this work, it was like a kismet as you said earlier it was like an intuitive aspect of me that said go to Chicago and meet Elzbeth, you know even though a company hired me that was the ruse, you know but it was really coming here to meet Elzbeth and do this work. So, you know, relationships never what it was it's never what it's gonna be, it's what it is and most of us can't be with what it is because we are in our head analyzing the moment thinking about the past, figuring out the future and we missed the moment. So in this work we really practice familiarity and accessibility to the moment. That was beautiful. I loved how you just said that so busy elsewhere that we miss the right now and the present that is very powerful. And I want to harken back to something Freddie you said in the very beginning you left us with a teaser and you use the words sexual or sex transmutation and you said you wanted to talk about that later well, here we are. I would like to hear about that.  Yeah. Okay, well science will tell you that energy is one there's no any kind of energy before you turn it into electrical energy to drive a light a light bulb or drive a car or some other kind of way of energy but it's unique when it manifests as sexual energy it's creative and it's pleasurable. And when men don't have the ejector reflex and lose that energy through the lust or through the procreative process and we start to bring some consciousness to it we can transmute that general energy to again I mentioned it earlier to empower our creative day to be more connected in the moment without beloved to have energy to play with our kids have energy to catch a plane or whatever it might be that's transmuting sexual energy. So this is just as applicable to women not just men that we can just as we harness electric energy, you know, 200 years ago we can harness our sexual energy the sexual energy is there already because it's life force energy it's the same sexual energy and life was energy are no different. So it just shows up at different gradations you know that right now it's probably, you know a subtle energy at least I assume that none of us is aroused right now. So, and then it goes up, you know all the way to highly aroused and then the climax. So it's this whole range and we want to become more attuned to this range and be sensitive and notice. And then I can learn to breathe up that orgasmic nectar or that subtle energy I can breathe it up through my torso up into my third eye and then instead of having a climax or an ejaculation I can circulate it. So I can stay in this energy for a long time. I do not have to have a climax or an ejaculation to complete because after a while I feel fee I will feel complete, very satisfying, very fulfilling. I can also transmute it into a project into writing a book, you know or into creating a company. Yeah, Napoleon Hill spoke about it in reference to what his book was about which was making money and being, you know financially successful. So you can do ritual and you have that as an intention to have your project, whatever your business work be what you envision it to be. And what happens is you get really deeply connected to that vision, more deeply connected in that altered state of what happens in the sexual energetic as a ritual practice.  So we are just uncovering something that was around before we as homo sapiens thinking and aware of our own existence had language before we even had languages energy was around. So we're just beginning to uncover what's possible. And I think that the whole else been mentioned earlier the whole, you know, focus on a pornography and a lot of the sexual abuse of stuff that's happened in a lot of these organizations is all part of the spiritual, the quantum leap that we are about to make in terms of really getting this energy as a way of being and it's not about Sodom and Gomorrah. It's about being what this energy is when we're in it we could teach these practices to nuns and priests and it would shift how they are being with their parishioners and living in their life. In a conscious way, not like the priests in the Catholic church. Right, right, right. Totally get it. Yeah, that's so powerful.  And I am just, as I'm listening to you there are things that my partner and I do just, you know, some we've heard a little bit and then instinctively do things like this breathing and the gazing not exactly as you do, but I can tell you makes a huge difference that everything else falls away and to look into someone's eyes to have the appreciation, the beauty, the care, just the beingness in that moment. We did it last night before we went to bed. And I can see your glow. Yeah, exactly. And then we have things we, we actually haven't done it enough, you know and there are things we do that I call the nest that I can we nest tonight, you know so we can create some of that intimacy and some of that receiving and it's really important to me. Yeah. And I just want to also address as I'm saying that age because you know, I think it's easy for people to assume as you were giving out some ages 20s, 30s and maybe early 40s but you know, for people who are older than that I remember I saw there was a great show and I won't remember the name of it it was like on HBO or Showtime famous Irish actor was playing a therapist and people used to come see him. And the only thing I remember about this show is that there was an older couple 70s or 80s and you used to see them there was literally love making scenes of them in bed and I was like, yes, like that is so beautiful that TV is depicting that they're not sitting in some rocking chair these are vital, alive, loving involved intimate people couple. So let's talk a little bit about age age and this Tantra. Well, let me just start out by saying like I said earlier, it's not what it was not what it's gonna be, it's what it is and when we drop our resistance to what it is everything's good. So as we change as men from being really highly sexually active in our 20s and 30s and 40s and 50s and 60s even and we start to slow down, wind down what is at risk wishing that it's gonna be what it was it's what it is. So how do we move with that? And what's new skills that we learn and employ? So that's the thing. Yeah, and also for a man really tuning more again, this connection of sex and heart because he gets more attuned to the subtleties within himself and the listening and the appreciation of pleasure that is not dependent on performance, you know so the other dimensions open up and for me, I'm 72 years old, you know and I'm young. And not and young and gorgeous. And so, you know, too, it's all about a life-ness. So what back to intentionality bring the intentionality to the energetic life-ness and through the tendric practice there is, you know, with the breathing and the energy and of course also what I put into my mouth, you know and how I move my body, all of that how I support myself hormonally all of that plays a role. The dedication is to be and feel alive. And so a life-ness, we really activate through greater consciousness around our energetic self. You know, there are other ways as I said, nutrition, hormones, all of that appropriate exercise, nothing has to be overdone. It's just bringing awareness to that. And then the flow also through the tendric practice and aging is that we connect, you know just like this, connecting heart to heart. It's like a heart orgasm. Heart orgasms. I love it, heart orgasm, I'm in, I'm in. You know, your Tom Chernova website, it's so cool because it also features theater, love tours, retreats and more. Can you unpack a little bit about what's possible, Freddie? It looks like you're a song and dance man. Yeah, I do that too. It's been a passion of mine since I was a little kid actually, I used to play guitar and then I had this big growth spurt towards the end of elementary school and then athletics became my winning suit and I went on to college on scholarship with that. But when we found that this worked 21 years ago, I wanted to rediscover myself in terms of theater because there's such opportunity for insight in theater because you are totally unmasked and so on. So I created this show at one time in our work that I toured all over the world and there were five songs in it, original songs. And so I did it the way I wanted to do those songs. But after the show and I stopped touring the show, I wanted to learn singing jazz. So I've been singing jazz for about three or four years now and I sing at the jazz clubs and actually April 9th, next Saturday, we're doing what we do a couple, three or four times a year. It's called a musical suare here at our institute and we have guests who pay, they come and you can wear your tuxedo. I'm wearing mine and we have hors d'oeuvres and champagne and I sing jazz tunes, have a piano accompaniment and it's a great time. It's all around love and intimacy and... Yes. Oh well, okay, beautiful. So talented. Well, Elspeth and Freddie, this is Dare to Dream. So what are you next, Dare to Dream? What are your future dreams and goals? So what I'm dreaming, continue dreaming is to really spread this opportunity that we shared with you today to as many people as possible for their sake that they can see, oh, there's another way of creating fulfillment in my life with myself with a beloved, if I wanna be with a beloved so that new possibilities arise for people in how they can feel love, intimacy and be deeply connected with their life-giving sexual self. No matter whatever your age. Mm-hmm, whatever you are. And the best place for people to find you is at TantraNova.com. Yes. Yes. T-A-N-T-R-A-N-O-V-A that come like supernova, and also of course our book, A Sexual Enlightenment, How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy, is now available in Audible and audio books. So you don't have to hold the book anymore. You can just listen to it while you ride in your car. You're peloton or golf or whatever you do and cook. And get sexually enlightened. That's right, that's right. That's beautiful. Thank you both so much for coming on the show today. I've really enjoyed this. Thanks Debbie. Thank you. Amazing. TantraNova.com folks. And I end today's show with this quote from Chagyam Trungpa. Tantra is the hot blood of spiritual practice. It smashes the taboo against unreasonable happiness, a thunderbolt path, swift, joyful and fierce. There is no authentic Tantra without profound commitment, discipline, courage, and a sense of wild, full-hearty, fearless abandon. Subscribe to this number one transformation conversation the weekly Dear to Dream podcast with your host, Debbie Daschinger. Leave a comment. I love reading them and I get back to all of you. And next week on the show featured is Joya Sasnowski, a sound and voice healer and quantum spirituality coach. Joya has been studying the Aramaic teachings of Yeshua for many years and has created a formula for awakening and ascension based on these teachings. Remember folks, don't just dare to dream but be really yummy and delicious in your life and learn how to practice Tantra perhaps with these folks, read their book, listen to their audible and maybe go to Chicago and learn how you can have a truly ecstatic life. Thanks for joining us today.


Hi, my name is Mariana Di Giacomo, and today I'm going to be talking to you about wet solvage of taxidermy mounds. And this can happen after a hurricane, a flood, or any other water event that you may live through. And you may have these gorgeous mounds in your house that can be memories of a hunting trip, or can be... sometimes people taxidermy their pets. And the goal for this video is to protect them so that if they are wet after an event like this, you can continue to enjoy these mounds in your house. So first things first, you need to protect yourself. Why is that? Because taxidermy mounds historically have been made using some materials that are quite dangerous. For example, arsenic, mercury, lead. And this is not to scare you. This is actually to empower you because knowing that this can be a problem will actually let you understand how to work with these mounds, not get hurt, but at the same time, save them. So ideally, if we were working in these conditions, a water event, I would be wearing a mask, especially because in those instances, if it's too cold and too humid, we can have a lot of mold. And so you need to protect yourself. And if we were going into a house that is still flooded and there's a lot of taxidermy, I don't know what's in that water. And so a lot of the times, a good idea would be a Tyvek suit, good boots also, so that you can protect your skin from any of these hazardous materials. So what I am going to be wearing today are gloves because they are your first line of defense against anything that could be on these mounds. So when you're looking at them and you're seeing them in such a bad state, you may want to rush and get them out of the water and protect them right away. I would recommend you not to do that. I would recommend you take a lot of photos first, document everything that's going on, and make very conscious decisions about how you're going to lift everyone of these and how you're going to move them and where you're going to put them in. So the first thing is to line any tables that you may have with towels or with a tarp or anything so that you can bring the taxidermy to those tables and set it down. And whenever you're moving any of the taxidermy, you have to think how you're going to be moving it, especially for example, if a mount has been in water for several days, some of the adhesives, the glues that were used, or sometimes even the skin, can gelatinize and then things were going to start failing. And so it is very important for you to be very aware of those things before you even lift anything. And you should look for any cracks or any issues on the bases. If they have bases or if they're wall mounts and they have a frame, you have to be mindful of those things as well. And once you can bring the taxidermy, also you have to be careful. In this case, we have small mounts, but you may have a whole bear in your house. How are you going to move that? You can't do that by yourself. You're going to need help. Or maybe you have a bird that has open wings and you have to be careful about moving that bird around the house through smaller doorways or things like that so that you can actually bring it to safety. And again, very, very careful about mold. Create our circulation, bring fans in so that you can get any mold out of the house, but also you can prevent any mold from growing if it hasn't started to. So once we bring the mounts, first thing is, are they wet? How can we tell if the mounts are wet if we are wearing gloves?  But if you can't, the best thing is to use the paper towel. So you're going to actually touch the mount with a towel. And if you see that the towel is wet, then your taxidermy is wet. And unfortunately, we have to start drying it. So you bring it to the surface, you're very careful. And sometimes you may use trays for smaller mounts so that you can carry them a little bit safely so that they are not damaged. But sometimes if they're in water, you may have this situation in which they are just pouring down water. And the best thing to do is to take them out of that situation and lay them down on a towel so that they can dry. In the case of this fish, we can see that both the head and the tail are lifted up. And if this has been in water for a long time, these shaves may start to go down. And so my recommendation is to use absorbent materials and place them under this so that it will not lose its shape. So you can just roll the towel and make it fit with that. And actually, you can see right now that this moves. So it's in a very delicate situation. And so the best thing is to try to give it some sort of a scaffold so that nothing happens. And once this situation is set, you cannot just go away and wait. What you have to do is check that this doesn't get soaking wet because if it does, then we're still in a very wet environment and we can damage these mounts. So what you do is you take this away and then you grab a new one and we start over until when you take them out, they're dry, which means that these mounts are no longer soaking water. The other thing is if these mounts were in a very wet environment that was very muddy as well, what you can do very gently is if there's like big pieces of mud that are stuck on the skins, you would grab some clean water, not this one. And wet a sponge, wring it, and then remove the mud very, very gently. And don't try to clean it. This is not the purpose at the moment. The purpose right now is to actually remove the chunks of mud that may be on the mount. And once this happens, you have good air circulation. You're switching all these drying materials. All you have to do then is let this happen and wait. So now you're dry. How do you know? You test with your paper towel. So if you're dry and the mounts are stable, so we remove any sort of scaffolding and things are fine, what do you do? So the first thing is to try to clean some of these mounts in a very, very gentle way. How do we do that? For example, you can grab a gentle brush and brush the surface to see if any of the dirt can come off very easily. Also, you can use some cotton swabs to clean the bases, but always dry. Do not bring any water again into these mounts. Another friend are cosmetic sponges, the ones that you can use to apply makeup. They are fantastic to just very gently dab on the surface and make sure that you are doing some of this cleaning. When you're working on a mount that is like fish or something like that, you have to be very careful with the scales. When you're working with a mammal, the hair can start pulling and so you also have to be very careful not to go against the hair. So just dab very gently and never go against that grain. And if you have a lot of just loose debris, what you can do is use a vacuum cleaner that is a very, very gentle vacuum cleaner, not something that is industrial and cheesecloth. Why do we need cheesecloth for? You will cover the nozzle of the vacuum cleaner so that no hair, no feathers and none of the small decorations that sometimes taxidermy have can go into the vacuum cleaner and then you're just like trying to find it inside the bag. So cheesecloth is a fantastic friend to avoid any of those issues. Another thing that you have to be very careful about is sometimes when these things have been wet for a while, you may have any wires or things coming out that may have rusted. So again, protect yourself, be very careful, always document the process in every single stage so that you can see how things are changing, especially if you're not used to seeing taxidermy wet. You don't know what is happening. Just take a lot of photos and document the whole process and you can start then to very gently work with your taxidermy mount and make it beautiful again. But sometimes you don't feel confident about doing this yourself and that is okay. You're not necessarily a taxidermist or a conservator like me. And so what do you do? Well, you can go to culturalheritage.org and go to find a professional. And there you will find someone who is in your area and they will help you. First of all, sometimes just guide you through the process or you may bring the mount to them or they may come to you. But also you can find local museums or collections and ask for help in those places. So you need to know that you're not alone and that working with taxidermy is not easy. So getting help is always a good idea. How do we prevent this from happening in the future again? So one thing to keep in mind is if you know that there is a water event coming, one good idea would be to make sure that none of your mounts are at floor level. So keep them raised. And another option is to, if they are by a window, move them out of the way so that if that window breaks and the glass breaks and then you can have glass over the mount and it's all wet and it's very dangerous, just move them out of there. And so that will help you a lot. If your mounts are stored in a wall, what you can do is grab plastic and you can just wrap the plastic around them to protect them from any water coming in. But that also can happen if you have a big mount that is hard to move and it's right next to a window. Just cover it in plastic and prevent any of the water from touching the skin. And then another thing is take a lot of photos. Document everything because what if you need help? What if you need to bring a conservator in? And having photos of how that taxidermy looked before this water event is going to be extremely useful for this professional to help you bring it back to life once more.


The devastating air raid on Pearl Harbor, in the early hours of December 7, 1941, came as a surprise, but not a complete surprise. For years, Japan viewed war with the West as inevitable. She needed room to expand. Looking out across the Pacific, Japan saw the colonies of Europe and the United States. Despite threats from the Western powers, Japan decided she needed colonies too. Japanese expansion began against the weaker nations of Southeast Asia, Korea, China, Indochina, with designs on Burma and Singapore. This left only the United States standing in Japan's way. America still reeling from the Great Depression of the 1930s, focused on restoring its economy at the expense of its armed forces. The Japanese military knew it couldn't win a long, drawn-out war with America. If they were going to fight, they would have to hit hard, fast, and first. Japan faced a now-or-never dilemma. They chose now. The Japanese adopted a two-pronged approach. They prepared for war before the end of the year, while continuing diplomatic efforts for peace. The U.S. Secretary of State, Cordell Hull, insisted Japan not only remove all troops immediately from China and Indochina, but that she withdraw from the Tripartite Act. The Japanese government refused. Feeling these demands were too harsh, Cordell Hull stood his ground. Meanwhile, secret preparations for an attack on Pearl Harbor continued. Two-man crews trained in midget submarines would be used against targets on Battleship Row in Japanese spies on Oahu, reported on the movements of the American fleet, harbor security, and conditions at the naval and army airfields around the island. To achieve surprise, a daring plan was developed. The Japanese knew that the American patrol aircraft out of Hawaii, Wake, and Midway, flew patrols within a 500-mile radius. The planes did not patrol to the north, above the 40th parallel. No Japanese naval ship in the 10 years had crossed the Pacific in December north of this latitude. The winter conditions made such a crossing too perilous and revealing too difficult. Any attack by the Japanese was expected to come from the south, so in Tokyo the decision was taken. The hazardous 40th parallel would be the approach to Pearl Harbor. In Washington, a coded telegram was sent to all U.S. military commands in the Pacific. The peace talks with the Japanese were not going well. All installations were alerted to be on the lookout for Japanese moves against the Philippines, the Tai, or KRA, peninsulas, or Borneo. The warnings specified that if hostilities cannot repeat cannot be avoided, the United States desires that Japan commit the first over its act. The messages did not mention Pearl Harbor. In Washington, peace negotiations continued, but in name only. Japanese diplomats in America had not been told of the armada, steaming east 3,300 miles across an icy Pacific. Instructions were sent to Japanese ambassadors in Italy and Germany to inform Mussolini and Hitler that war may come quicker than anyone dreams. These messages were intercepted by American code breakers. Still, no one in the U.S. knew of, or even imagined, the war fleet bearing down on Pearl Harbor. On December 4th, the Japanese government decided to issue a formal declaration of war against the United States. On December 5th, a message was intercepted by the U.S. code breakers instructing the Japanese envoys to burn papers and destroy code machines. American intelligence knew an enemy attack was imminent, but where? U.S. military commands throughout the Pacific were on guard. At Pearl Harbor, vigilance was increased against sabotage or submarine attacks, but no other routines were changed. Air patrols took off as scheduled. Entire craft batteries were lightly manned. The sailors aboard ships in the harbor, soldiers in their barracks, settled in for a pleasant Hawaiian winter weekend. Early on December 7th, a cable arrived at the Japanese embassy in Washington. This was the formal declaration of war. 200 miles north of Hawaii, the Kido Butai, reached its launch point. At first light, pilots strapped themselves into their cockpits. Large ocean swells rocked the carriers. The deck swayed up to 15 degrees. These conditions would have canceled any exercise, but this was no drill. On the Akagi, the signal was given. The first zero, zoomed forward, off the deck, dipped to 15 feet above the ocean, then banked left and climbed. Following him was the first wave of the air assault, 183 fighters, bombers, and torpedo planes. In the pre-dawn gray and rocking seas, only one fighter crashed. The rest circled above the Pacific, towards a sleeping and unsuspecting Pearl Harbor.


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