Hi y'all, okay. I know it's been a while since I've been live on this channel We're gonna wait for a few people to show up I am in my pajamas. I'm in my robe and It's late as you can see it's dark outside As you can see it's kind of dark outside and In this room There you go, that's a good angle so My tips if you're in a relationship and You or you're married My tips on how to be a good girlfriend or wife Via me my style. Okay, because a lot of people have Their own opinions of how you should act and this isn't that throw all that stuff out the window because it doesn't work Thank you most of it doesn't work and It only caters to Certain people and that still never works. So I'm gonna tell you how I do it Okay, first of all Thank you. Never help your man financially ever Never help him build What should already be built? Don't offer him help. Don't give him tips.  You know, he should already be most of the way They are anyway if you are with him or Mary so if you know something and You see him doing it a different way Don't butt in and tell him. Oh, you're doing it wrong. You need to do it like this If you do it like this, it'll be better. You need to listen to me Don't do all that Because you're just a masculating him Okay, yeah, you might know a better way and I've said this in other videos But let him do it his way. Okay?  Another thing is Don't Always have to know what he's doing. That's that's another mother thing, you know Mothers always need to know where you're going. What time are you gonna be home? What you're doing?   He goes when he's doing who he's with take a picture Don't do none of that. Okay, that's another thing that mothers do to their sons and teenage daughters. You don't want to do that. Okay Always doing the same thing over and over routine. Okay, don't get stuck in a routine Be unpredictable do different stuff every week whether it's with him or without him. Okay Don't wait on him for example if you have plans and he says I'm gonna be a little late or I'm not gonna be able to make it. Don't get upset. Don't get sad. Don't get mad.  I'll be home later. You know, don't get mad.  They may be like, oh, you know what I'm coming home early today We're gonna go do this. We're gonna go do that So don't react Strategize, okay, even in a marriage. You don't you don't get upset The more you expect out of someone the more disappointment you will have out of them So don't expect anything, you know, just be like, oh, I'm gonna be here if you're gonna be there, whatever, you know I'll see you at home later on. Don't give them no time to say later on or You know, I'm going out to eat. Let me know if you want to meet me later, you know, just Nonchalant the the more vague you are the more Their mind is gonna wonder what you're doing and they're not gonna be so quick to dismiss you or lie to you because you Don't even give them a chance to lie. Like you don't even ask them. Why what's wrong? You don't even give them a chance to lie So they don't have to they don't have to lie and if they're out doing anything Their minds on what you're doing because you didn't tell them anything. You didn't tell them that you Where you were going you didn't even see you upset like you have backup plan or plan be due So they're now thinking what whatever they're thinking about what you're doing.  They're gonna be thinking, you know what? I need to spend more time. She's always out and about Okay I'll talk about the Facebook group at the end or in a little while But it's a very private exclusive group and that everybody can get in it and that it's not because I'm trying to be bougie This is for a specific reason Okay, so the 16 year old that's dating a 38 year old I Don't know what country you was in but that's illegal here in America Um Then I tell nobody I'm 38, okay, and I could not imagine dating a 16 year old except for sex You know, and I wouldn't even want to have sex with a 16 year old guy because they don't know anything, you know, so I don't know what that's about. But you know, I like older men and when you're 18, you can date all the old men you want but At least wait till then Come on now Okay, oh in Vegas the age of 16. Wow. Well If it's legal go ahead, I don't care. It doesn't bother me. I Just you know, it's different with women and men but still Be careful They like young dumb girls because they feel like they can take advantage of them Which is why I'm glad you're on this channel because you're learning and you can get him Okay So then another thing, okay, for example, if you're with someone and A lot of people always asking what do you do about someone who has a female friend or male friend? And they're always spending time together blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.   Who's a girl? Who's a hoe?    He's he's thinking whole thoughts Like they like the ludicrous.    Just just tell me, okay It's gay Okay, um Do men value homemakers or do they see them as doing that? Homemakers is something like I'm not I'm a I'm a housewife, but I'm not a homemaker There's a difference. Okay a homemaker is somebody that cooks, cleans Does laundry and all that stuff. I don't do that stuff. Okay. Um because I'm not a homemaker. Um, I you know, I make sure the kids are in order You know, if there's dishes laying around I'll throw them in the sink But I'm not a homemaker. I don't think men value homemakers. They take them for granted and I feel like Unless you're marrying someone who wants that in their life like that's a requirement like they say look I need a woman who can cook who can do this. This is not that's just the kind of woman I want then yes, if they don't say that if they're all about flash and looks and stuff like that They don't care if you're a homemaker, you know, so just depends on the man Okay, another another technique On how to be a good girlfriend or wife Keep an open mind Like don't just shut everything down that he talks about.  That's not gonna work or Oh, I don't like that. Don't be super negative Like, oh, you know, if you don't agree with it, don't say, oh, no, no, no because You know, he might have thought that was the best idea ever and If you don't If you shut it right on down, he's just gonna go Tell sharkisha who thinks it's the best idea in the world, you know, so it's like, oh, that's interesting You know, I would love to hear more about that You just let him talk about it. He ain't got to agree with it. Just let him talk Don't be his competition. Don't don't debate with him. You know, if you don't agree with something just Just do like this Wow, you know, I never thought about that You know Or if it's just really bad, you really don't agree with it. Well, if it was me, I wouldn't do it, but hey That's your decision, you know, it's better than just shutting them down Um, let them talk and the more they talk the worse the idea will sound and they might just shut it down themselves You know what I mean?  Okay Because I have I have seen women.  Oh, I'm stubborn. Oh, I have to get my point across. Okay. Well, you're gonna be alone You know, I don't argue with men I just walk away Looking good They come find me, you know, so that's what you're supposed to do. You don't sit there and argue with people If you were arguing with someone It's because They're Getting to you emotionally. You don't let them get to you emotionally And you can't argue with someone it's because you're not emotionally involved You know So if they don't feel like you're emotionally involved and you're not arguing with them, they're gonna go like Damn, you know, she won't even argue with me.   She must be thinking about moving on or, you know, she's not Involved in this, you know Then they're gonna give you more attention and give in to whatever you want. Anyway, or whatever you were arguing about, you know, you were right Okay, so just split with an abusive boyfriend of four years The best decision I've ever made time to find you a man now. Yep Move on. Good luck Okay, thank you Thank you. So Also, um, don't always have to have Something to do or talk about or say sometimes just be a silence, you know how sometimes Someone comes home and they just had a long day and you're just like Yapping and why you ain't talking? What's wrong with you?  You know why because You don't know what they've just been through Even if You know You have a story to tell wait give them a couple of minutes, you know, you let them get in the door. Let them sit down and go pee When he walks in you shouldn't be yapping What if a guy you recently got into a relationship would come from a wealthy family And you ask him for spending money. He says he's not into it Didn't tell him you're gonna go ask someone else Say what good is wealth if you can't share You know, um Actually, honestly If you're if he's from a wealthy family and he's getting an allowance and then he has to give you an allowance You know, how much is he really getting?  Is he getting any real money? Is his family wealthy enough to give him enough money to take care of you too? So just because someone is from a wealthy family doesn't mean they're spending money, you know Um You have broke men out there who will spend more money on you than a rich guy. I always say If you're with a wealthy guy or of some somebody like that, he's not spending on you. It's the same as the only broke guy They're not spending on you. You know, so what's the difference? You can brag and say, well, I have a rich boyfriend, but I'm still you know Wearing a Walmart purse That's you know, that's how you want to roll, but If they're not sharing Then don't stop sharing yourself cut them off.    It just gives you I don't deal with promises. I deal with action like I don't I won't even let my husband talk about stuff that he's not Putting on putting down on paper to do, you know, I'm like, look when you when you get it together Then I'll look at it. I don't want to talk about it right now, you know Because they'll talk all day Because that's what you want to hear They'll talk all day because that's what you want to hear if you cut them off and say, you know what I actually would prefer If you go ahead and book those tickets and those trips and send me the itinerary and my ticket number And book my trip, you know, put your money where your mouth is And call them out on it. It's like, you know, you talk a lot, but You know, let me know when you make the arrangements And you have my ticket and send me the itinerary And I'll call and confirm Until then cut them off. Don't be talking to them But that's what they're promising you You know, and they're not delivering just cut them off What if whenever he comes in he always looks agitated? What do you do then?  Let him talk first Okay, somebody's always coming in agitated Try one day and do that take one day that you know, he's gonna come home agitated Just do that surprise. I'm just like Have some nice music going and drink some wine being your sexy outfit or lingerie or whatever and just He's not gonna be agitated after that And then the next day he'll be expecting it or remembering it and then he's gonna treat you nicer And treat you a little nicer, you know If you don't you know Some guys are agitated because they come at home to someone that they don't really want to come home to So however you were in the beginning of the relationship when they met you that's what they expect Yeah I heard some saying it says Men marry women hoping they don't change And women marry men hoping to change them so If you've changed a lot since you've gotten together or marry Chances are the man has an issue with it. He might not be talking about it But he has a small issue with it Just like if you got with a man a potential man and he never reached this potential you have some issues with that Right, okay um How do you get with a rich guy when you are foreign and have not even a driver's license? Ask Melania trump All right online dating darling Uber Just met a new man He communicates with only Through text. He does not call me much. Oh once a week. I'm gonna hit on that. He's probably married girl He's married Okay, or has a girlfriend. Hi from deli Okay, oh Okay This coming off as gold diggers talk, of course, we're going to go digger channel Dirty What up a sure start got it Um, this channel didn't start really start off that way it started off about relationships And most problems in relationships deal with money So to avoid most problems you need Someone who's financially stable in the relationship half the problems are avoided. You know what I mean? If this is about if this is a relationship channel, it would have twice as many problems Like people asking questions in the comments You know what I'm saying? So if you're focused if you have a goal in mind instead of how you want to control a person If you just want them to you know Be a provider and a good um a husband or a good girlfriend or a good wife, you know Verses all these other things that people expect and have so many problems with in relationships that they can't control You know, if you're living a grand lifestyle You're not going to nitpick at every little simple thing that someone does When you're not living that grand lifestyle, you know what I'm saying? It's different if you have ever noticed you see broke women picking on their men more than rich women Or women with money or women who have men with money You see you'll see them. They will pick on the broke man 20 times more because they're not happy financially The woman who has the rich husband will pick less because she don't care because most of her needs are met Because of his lifestyle What do you do if your boyfriend ignores you and then makes excuses that he didn't really appreciate your insight? Oh, he didn't When when people start ignoring you it's for a reason. They're trying to get a reaction Okay, that's the whole point people ignore anyone They're either trying to get a reaction or they're if they're not in your presence and they're ignoring you through They're following away because they're with someone else Okay, it's very simple or they're upset with you and they just don't want to talk to you It says Oprah would shoot me in the face. Good, I can see her Not be rich too I don't think she would shoot me in the face though. I think she'd want to interview me and give me my own talk show So Yeah, someone says ladies notice how they are always on our videos They're trying to get some tips too But the tips that i'm giving they can't use because They're not targets The only tip they can use guys i'll give you all a tip on how to keep your woman happy Keep your job Hopefully you'll have a hopefully hopefully you have a career You know Stay women want you to reach your potential your highest potential Okay, so keep striving If nothing at all just keep going higher and striving for better I don't care if it's for you or her, but that's what they really want for you to reach your full potential Because women will marry. Okay. This is funny Women will marry a man who has not even Scratch the surface of reaching their potential because they have faith and they believe in their men and they think Oh, he's gonna do it. I know they believe in him But men will marry a woman based on what she's doing You know, how she how good she is in bed, you know, it's some of them You know if she has a good credit score, but women they just want you to meet your potential and keep striving That's about it. You know So that's a tip that I can give to men keep striving. Don't stop. Don't give up.  Keep building Take online courses get better keep getting more money Okay, you can't just stay stagnant because women are always Wishing you would do better basically They they might not say it. They'll show it in other ways, you know How do I stop him from watching pornography? Like I like I haven't ever had that problem, but Just take a picture and send it to his mom while he's watching it. I don't know sneak up on him and be like Click I'm sending this to your mom And plus, why would you be jealous of pornography? That's just like a screen, you know That's the screen. Why don't you go and watch some like male? Make it dudes and let him catch you. You know, I don't know Most men lust Most men fall in lust before they fall in love And men are sexual creatures, you know, men are highly visual So if you want to keep his attention off of that, you know, maybe it's an addiction Some people are addicted to that stuff I would just keep I would just keep taking pictures and sending it to people feel better I'm evil like that. So I don't know So how to be a trophy wife? What are her do?   Okay. That's like That's a bad thing Men are visual Okay, if they if they married you and they dated you and you were looking good all the time then they come home and you got You're looking crazy. They're Men easily fall out of love or lust When they fall out of lust they fall out of love So keep this going Okay Mm-hmm Keep it going like how to deal with capricorn men Let them let them work and be a workaholic and just spend their pageant They don't have a lot of time to spend because they're always working or thinking about business or something You know, if they say if they really Love you they're gonna show you Okay, they don't just tell anybody who I love you They're gonna show you, you know Because you're important to them and they uh want you to stay there in their lives They're not just gonna pretend and fake it with you.  A lot of women are very sexual though and they do need that but it just depends on the woman, you know Some women are only turned on by certain things and if The person who they're married to has those things it's not a problem, but If they have to look outside their marriage for them And they're willing to risk you know all this for A five minutes ten minutes or maybe an hour if the person's needed a pleasure You know at the end of the day, is it worth it? So I feel like if women cheat They should cheat with someone who can replace The person they're cheating on As you know, that's just why that's why a lot of women have backup I call them plan b dudes The dudes they should have could have would have married or will still be You know the dudes that would still marry them If they if they were single and who have just as much to offer You know, um, but in general in a general situation um If there's nothing keeping that woman in that marriage and the risk Of losing the marriage is not really important to her Then of course she probably would go cheat or whatever because She doesn't fear losing her marriage Um, so it just depends on what she has to lose for the ones that men cheat all the time and They don't Realize because they don't think a head like women. They don't think too far ahead Like they don't think about that pre-dump that they didn't sign or have Don't think about all them children and 20 percent of that uh paycheck And that child support and they don't they don't think about all that before they go cheat women do we're like, look I can't cheat on my husband because ABC D&E, you know So they'll either find someone with just as much money to cheat on them with Or if they're not smart, they'll cheat on with someone who doesn't have the money Unless their husband's like always out of town and gone and they can just do whatever they want anyway And it doesn't matter because the husband don't care and he's probably cheating too Then i'm sure they have that understanding without saying anything I just don't think A little uh I just don't think some people think it's worth it And you know, they sell toys in the store I'm trying to read How do you deal with relatives who do not like you but your man is loyal? Relatives I don't care about relatives You asking the wrong person Um The funny thing is if you don't care And if you don't let it bother you Then eventually they'll try to win you.  I'm in they family. They look at took their last name. Are they lucky? I'm with they Son or whatever shoot, you know be like that Because if you're not trying to win them They have to try to win you you know They hope that she thinks she's too good. Oh, well, let's talk to her, you know I flipped the script You gotta win me Just like just like your son at the win me. You gotta win me too I take those types of situations and I flip them. It's like I don't have to talk to you. I don't have to be your friend Doesn't bother me. I'll sit in the corner and look at my phone Right That's I know it's rude, but It's you're either the predator or the prey in this world. That's how it is. There's no in between How do you avoid rich men who only want sex and fill the title because they're money asking for some money If they say no, then you say no, okay I'm sorry. I can't date guys that are not You know Generous, I can't you know, what's the use of dating you? Like I can go date somebody else And give them free sex uh a lot of athletes are like that a lot of athletes and like Young rich guys are like that. Oh rich guys. They'll pull out they wallow in a two second. Oh, what you need? What you need? What you need? You know You're going for young men. They're they think they still got they think they sexy, you know They're like this is an added bonus, you know, I'm not paying you as soon as they start getting them gray hairs and gray hairs down there and the wrinkles and They can't stand the music on the radio anymore. That's when they start paying Okay, what's your advice for women in their 30s who want to wish men to settle down? My advice for someone in their 30s Maintain your youthful appearance as much as you can because men like You know you to look Decent go for an older man go for someone who's at least 20 years older than you and They'll be ready to settle down You know, they're ready to wife if they're not going for the young 20 somethings and they're going for you You have a chance because that means they're ready for someone someone a little bit more mature and They don't look like You know When they're out with you. It doesn't look so weird Versus being with an 18 year old or a 20 year old So you can actually blend in and fit into their life So go for the older guys Dress mature. Don't dress like a teabop or don't dress like against the grand model dress mature, you know Like you could be coming out of a business meeting or you know going to Somewhere classy. Don't dress trashy if you want to get get wife What if he's older but still looks good To date or not today The better they look The more you have competition there's only like Like I used to have a thing for pretty boys back in the day and Yeah, it's nice. It's good. They look good. They smell good. They nice to touch But at the end of the day they can't Be what you need them to be some of them can but still there's always that one girl who's into looks and Looking at the side of her eye and holding his hand while He's walking with you or you know stuffing her number and you know Somewhere in his pocket. It's always going to be that So The best and it's always going to be that way too. It's super rich in it You know women are always going to be chasing it So it's up to you. Like I I want to be the best looking one in the relationship. I'm sorry I have to be the best looking one in the relationship because I have to be able to say look you lucky to be with me That's what I have to be able to say that It's it's just honesty, you know, it sounds bad, but it's I'm being honest I don't like someone now, but I'm finding That I'm going back to the giving the guys too much of my time is really If they want to sex how do I put on court? have more than one like If you're just dating and not having sex with anyone Date three or two guys at the same time that way you don't spend too much time with one because you got the other one um I'll talk about my facebook group later, but If you have my email write me If you are if you're on my facebook write me and I'll let you know if you have it um Someone says be a woman get a job. I got a job I have a job except I don't work for anyone I created my own job um Dating in LA is so hard. Why would you want if I were I would never Try to find somebody in LA and no offense to people that live in LA But there's too much competition out there, you know, if you're pretty you just average in LA If you move somewhere else, you'll be like Top notch. I see so many girls in LA I can't find a man. I can't find him because everybody has fake boobs fake, but we plastic surgery Okay, you can't compete with everybody Go somewhere where you're where you look You look special move outside of the city. Go further north. Go further south. I don't know I would move out that's just like going okay To me Go somewhere where you where you're unique not where everybody looks the same or everyone's So superficial into, you know Having breast face, you know Plastic surgery and stuff like that Because how are you gonna compete with that? What are the best city for finding a good man? Southern cities? Go to the south I know a lot of women have luck Just depends on, you know If you're are you going for older guys because any city you can get an old man Older men any city you easy just go get an older man. You're looking for like A prince charming rich good-looking successful perfect everything. I don't know what city that thing San Francisco You might have a surprise though at the end of the day um Let's talk about gay men for a second Why are they so perfect?   They find a way to make money, you know um Not most but I'm just I'm not trying to generalize. I'm just saying a lot of them. You know, uh They listen to whatever you're talking about They're not trying to jump in your pants okay, if anybody And but see a lot of women It's like, okay. I love that but then I like a man to be like I'm gonna take charge and You know give you all this money and pay pay your bills and provide for you And then they want to combine those two together and then when you're in a relationship with somebody They want you to be this perfect this perfect man and then just give you all their money. That doesn't happen Very rarely it happens Okay, if if I feel like most Women have this image in their head of what a man's supposed to be And they have so many expectations that when those expectations don't get met They lose hope they lose faith They hate men Blah blah blah blah blah. Well, you have to set the expectations in the tone Not what society does You before you enter into a relationship you say look, this is what I expect Can you deliver or not because if you can't we don't need to be together Have it upfront what you expect You know, and if they can agree to it Then yes, we can be in a relationship if they can't agree to it It was nice meeting you, you know Don't get into a relationship and then want them to do all this stuff that that you never told them That you expected and they're not down for it before you get into the relationship look Just like steve harvey's wife did she said look You want to be with me? You need to do this this this and that And he went and did it You know if you want they want to be with you that bad They're gonna either comply or walk away at the end of the day You're not disappointed And your relationship because they agreed to it Just like when I met my husband I said look I told him what I needed. I was like look, this is what I need. Can you do it? It's like a job interview book Can you can you handle these responsibilities? We got the job there. That's it Now like oh, I'm gonna hire you because I just think you're great and you have so much potential You don't hire people on potential you hire them on experience What they're gonna agree to do If they understood the job description and you do they know how to do this job That way When you come in the job is done the work is done. You're not disappointed and Everything goes smoothly. You don't hire people based on their potential You know You hire them because they can do the job I'm so out of I'm so artificial and narrow-minded.   Okay always have Someone Who can do something for you When your man can't do it doesn't matter if it's your dad your brother Or somebody don't fully depend on him for things Because that's a weakness Okay, so always had a backup Handing me. I don't care if you got a hire a handyman or whatever always have some backup male To do his job when he starts slipping and don't even Like if he's if you're if he's supposed to fix up or get something done and he doesn't Just go and hire somebody else or call somebody else to come do his job And make sure he's home When that person is doing his job and don't even think about it He's like, well, I was going to do that.  I took care of it. You know such and such is doing it for me Then he's gonna feel like dang that's my job. I'm supposed to be doing that And you know whoever's over there working and doing whatever they're supposed to do It's gonna give him a look like dude What's up?  Don't just totally depend on him. He's like, you know have that backup Because if he feels like like maybe he's had a hard day Maybe he can't come change your tire or fix your Sink or you know do all that stuff But maybe he wants to but he just can't or he don't know how or he just you know, whatever Always have that backup person because sometimes we expect too much out of one person, you know Oh, you're supposed to be a man. You're supposed to know how Six stuff and you know, you're supposed to do this for me.   He can fix stuff or he's supposed to do this Tell him look, can you do this? Yes or no? If not, I'll hire somebody Don't ask him do it to prove his love to you if he can't do it. He can't do it My man cannot fix nothing to save his life You know, I fix most of the stuff in the house Uh If it breaks or whatever I know how to work every tv remote all the gadgets. I know all the passwords. I'm like The one that does all the technical stuff and Because that shouldn't I'm good at it, you know So always have that backup or know how to do it yourself Let them take care of the the most important things like the bills Okay Okay, another thing is like how most guys that are not agreeing with this in the comments. That's fine.    You know, you can't always give it to them whenever they want it. That's why they don't want it because it's free Make them work for it. Make them do something for it. Then you know, then they'll be trying to get more of it. They'll be like Okay, she doesn't give it up freely She's not begging me to have sex with her If I want it, I gotta do something for it. Hmm the chase is back Always keeping chasing, you know So Keep your man chasing Don't always give him sex Go go a couple of weeks a couple however Because some people do it every day in the beginning, but if you're in a long-term relationship and you do it every day It's gonna get old quick.  Give me some make them Miss you make them want you build up that anticipation. You know don't always be Chasing after it, you know, um If they're if their sex drive is that high maybe that's why they're watching pornography I don't like someone talking about pornography in the beginning.   It works um I don't even know if you're a man or a woman So I don't know why you're offended um Like how ugly does the man need to be if he's older? As long as you look the best And when you go out, everyone's looking at you and you make him look Important, that's all you need. Okay. You don't have to be ugly. He just has to be average or below average You know, you have to be the best looking thing You have to you have if you're gonna be a trophy piece You have to look that part that means he can't be equal to you and looks You know or he can't like if he's older and sexy He's gonna get young women without even without the money so You would have to go for older and Okay And even still if he's okay, women are still gonna be after him if he has money So It just depends on your what you want to struggle with in your relationship Do you want to struggle with him getting attention from other women? Other women throwing themselves at him or what what do you want to struggle with? To look at a nice face in the dark the dark anyway When you go to bed, you know, um the funny thing is A man with money can dress nice and smell good and still be sexy Even if they're ugly. I don't know. It's just something about You know their persona their confidence Their how they carry themselves Very regal and assured themselves. You know that's sexy to me Okay, why is she not in the kitchen? Because it is late and I my kitchen is really nice you want to see it, but I don't you know, my husband does most of the cooking I've taught him how to cook a long time ago and now he's just like working on His recipes and protecting his his technique in the kitchen. So Um He likes to cook actually I don't even have to ask him to cook he every day. He just come on and cook like Or bring something but last time I cook was a long time ago Because he likes to do that kind of stuff Okay, another tip Okay, that's a trick tip because that's how I got him to cook Because I hate I didn't want to cook because everybody wanted something different I'm like look the kids want this you want this and I want this I'm tired cooking because I'm just done, you know, y'all don't eat the same born food every day. I'm done so I said You cook tonight.  Oh, this is so good This food is delicious. I didn't know you could cook this good I gasped up his ego now. He's cooking every day and I don't have to do nothing Okay Now most of the time, you know, we go out or get something to eat but Not most like Maybe once or twice a week we go out to eat but most of the time he come home and cook cook breakfast lunch dinner I'm like, thank you. Oh, this is so good. Oh my god. What did you put in this? I have to know Really what I'm saying is good. I don't play. I don't have to cook so, um That's what you That's another tip if you want your spouse or your long-term, uh, person To do something compliment them on something That you don't want to do but they do it. Okay, but just You do this You clean so well. I could never get the house this clean.    I'm a good cleaner. Then he's gonna start cleaning He's like, oh, it turns me on when you clean up like that And you don't start cleaning. You don't have to clean. That's what I do. I'm like, look He's cooked so good.  I'm just so disorganized I just make them feel good about what they're doing and they want to do it more because it gets my attention I talk about it. I brag other people about it So I don't have to do it That's how I do it What are your thoughts on plastic surgery? Is it worth it for women to go under plastic surgery to gain men's attention not from the money point But from paying risk I would never get plastic surgery because I have kids and a lot of people die With complications after plastic surgery. They get that skin flesh eating disease. They get permanent scars Botched just I would never do it like If you don't like me or what I look like Then I'll go find some old blind men who do Okay, so That's all I'm saying they make fake silicone stuff.   It's not really worth it All right, if you unless you're married and your husband is paying for y'all got insurance and If if your butt surgery goes wrong, you're taking care of great. Go do it, but That recovery time that pain you know I don't think it's worth it unless you already got a man that's paying for it And you can take time off and have the best meds and nurses and stuff Okay I would be offended if my man was constantly watch porn matter of fact. I don't even want my man to Some of y'all women try to control these guys too much.  You know what I'm saying these young women. They have no clue. You can't control me You can't control all you can do is get them to do what you want by tricking them Making them think it's their idea, you know I would just tell everybody I meet. Oh, guess what? This is my husband.  I'm like, dang I thought it was something that you like, you know an interest a hobby what you want people to I would just blast them out. I'm like, you know, I'm Thanksgiving dinner.  It's awesome.  You can just stop watching that porn.  Let his mama see it Get him some of them old school DVDs That's what I would do You have to flip the script sometime when you want when you want someone to stop doing something You have to get on board with it. Like, you're honey. Here's some more porn.  See like I thought you might be tired what you're watching. So I got you this granny panty Just totally make fun of him for it.     You need to go get some help for that treat him like an addict recovering porno heart My husband my boyfriend is too attached to his family in relative. How do you deal with him being way too attached? Cut him off sexually.  I'm getting tired of it.  She was seven if my husband starts watching porn, I swear I'll become aware of him Well, if you can make money go ahead. I don't care.  This is what I want for Christmas.   Don't expect a surprise. Go straight for it. This is what I want.  Oh look at my listen about me.  Actually, I have an ex boss who did that She joined a yacht club did not own a yacht met a man who owned a yacht But he that's all the bad thing is though.  It was like Old beat up yacht and she ended up having to pay for it So make sure they have the nicest yacht or a nice yacht Not them old beat up yachts, but she wasn't that cute. So that's all she could get so Yeah, you can do that She ended up marrying him She didn't have a yacht, but now his yacht is her yacht And when I say yacht, I don't mean like the kind Jay-Z has I mean like the boat the sailboat That they call a yacht that could be classified as a yacht. Um Aside from looking good. What makes the housewife desire peaceful A peaceful woman if you're if your husband or boyfriend is afraid to come home because you're gonna It nag him he he's gonna stay out later and later Don't nag You know at the end of the day If he's not doing what you want him to do, you're the one that Got in a relationship with an emirate and you already knew These things you just hoped he would live up to potential You know, that's why I'm saying No nagging in relationships You know if if if you want them to do something they don't comply And they know that you don't like it Say it one time and let let it be done You know if they keep repeating it Stop caring and stop stop texting stop stop giving sex until they act right You know, just like they do to NFL players You're not in the game, you know, you're suspended with no pay and you have a fine start doing that So what I'm saying is You're either the prey or the predator be the predator in every relationship be strategic Don't let your emotions Get the best of it you know What is your take on interculturally or interracial day I've had a lot of women that I do consultations for who will date Other cultures who will never marry them They use them up and then go marry somebody in their culture So I don't know if that's a good idea unless you're not looking for marriage If you're just looking for fun and money go for it interracially There's a lot of interracial couples in the world. They face their set of problems You know, it's a challenge Upon a relationship, which is already pretty much a challenge.   How can I make him want to marry me sooner than that? Should I use him? If you try to rush someone first of all, I don't know how old he is. It's a marriage And then they're ready for it.  Um, I know a lot of women in different cultures Who rushed to get married and then their husband was like, okay I'm over this and then they moved out of the country And started working somewhere else and had to grow for him. So I don't know what culture you're in I don't know if you're in america, but don't rush getting married.  He don't have to marry you But don't if it's only one year you can wait that you can plan your wedding save some money you know Get things in order and stuff like that. Don't rush it.  I have to be this and I have to be this and I have it And don't care if they don't like you or not like Just be like Whatever You know because I have this question a lot. Well, what if their family doesn't like me? Who cares?  No Don't family members pay your bills?  Well, why don't she ever be here? You know, maybe maybe we should invite her here You know, maybe she doesn't feel like she's part of the family.    That's why he chose me Or oh, you know, I don't really I'm not really into that kind of stuff Um, not yet.  That's what you think of me. That's so funny It's like I'm glad my my feelings aren't easily hurt or I might be offended Like you don't pay any of these bills over here Okay I'm taking questions now About the group. I know you don't want to know about that When this when this is over, which is going to be in the next 20 minutes Maybe 10 minutes if I'm if I have anything else to say I'm going to link A link below where you can write me and Only for information on the group nothing else if I see a book I'm not I'm not answering you back if you write me a live story. I'm not answering you back. Okay If you're doing all of that stuff I'm bypassing it I want to get in the group.  It's like A thousand word email And I have like a hundred emails waiting. I can't answer. I'm so sorry if you've written me your life story I might have read one or two Because I was bored and nothing else to do but normally I don't read the life stories I'll just text back. Okay. Let me know if you're interested and this this and that, you know, that's about it so I just Be honest. Okay. I don't want you all to sit there and waste your time typing you know Like if you want to do a consultation and talk on the phone Yes, I'm available for those things And you can tell me the life story on the phone during the consultation The group is very private and exclusive and there's Uh, a lot of people that want to get in but they're not A lot of times they're not accepted because they're not mentally at that level that the group is at and they would just come in there and be appalled and judgmental and Start arguments with the other women.  That's right. So someone's treating you bad treat them bad Okay, so what is someone's start rumors about you?  It's like look you can do it. I can do it Someone says I think a lot of me have been to prostitutes Does this group cost money? There is a joining fee Why because it keeps certain people out It's like an exclusive Place that you don't know dusties can get into It keeps certain people out because They're not able to Bother the people that are there Who are not trying to vibrate on that level, you know what I mean So it's it's not it's not expensive. Don't worry if anyone could afford it But only people will pay who are serious about A lifestyle change, you know what I mean? So, um It's just a tactic to keep out trolls Not see all them trove in the comments. Y'all really want them in the group A troll is not going to pay to get in the group. They'll just go troll somewhere else for free Okay Plus there's lots of books PDFs Like whole tactics that books in there how to marry millionaire that books in there like a bunch of free books you can read online Lots of books also women who Share their tips and who are actually living the lifestyle Dating certain type of people, you know giving their like Techniques taking pictures of their vacations their gifts You're there stuff that they're getting and all that kind of good stuff How to respond to certain texts when men text you so all that's in there and it's a very active group. It's like Very active So even in the middle of the night, it's active because there's people on there from the other side of the world So wherever you are, the group is active, okay It's a private group. So no one will even know you're in it You can't even look for it.  Did you take people out of it? I have an admin who deletes inactive members So if you don't post anything They think you're trolled or spying and doing stuff like that. So they will delete any inactive members. If you're if you're not posting or You know active in the group and you are removed There's some people that's just so paranoid. They don't want to post nothing. They don't want to tighten it And and the group it shows that you're not active and you just get You know The admin did that it wasn't me I'm just saying, you know, we had a few trolls in there and they pop out every now and then and start going off on people and like This is why we have to Monitor these type of things, you know Especially those life coach types, you know, you're a life coach and you're in my group Most of the life coaches don't agree with what what's being taught in the group and They'll come to a point where they can't take it anymore and they'll just explode all over the group so You're a life coach don't go in the group unless you're You know, because whatever they taught you and whatever in life coach class is not Not what we're teaching we're teaching like Joanne's amortized You know how to get how to get what you want basically My man it's 18 years older than me, but not spending enough for me Then you could be with a young man who don't spend all year. So why would you be with an old man? How do I be less paranoid? Yeah, it's like it's in my jeans stop smoking weed No, it's cute. Um Stop worrying about stuff only think about what you want to attract to you. You won't be so paranoid I'm only paranoid about a few things not everything You know I'm only paranoid about a few things and those are things you should be paranoid about like people stealing your children you know stuff like that but Keeping an eye on your kids while you're out and about i'm paranoid about that but most other things I don't really trust a lot of people either um But most people don't trust people anyway, so that's not that's normal Okay If you're not happy Yeah But if you're okay and everything's great Can you find someone with more money? And you want to leave, you know, that's your free will It's not up to me. It's up to you. Okay Married women are in the group as well. Yes There's married women single women young women old women All different races all different cultures Everything different nations On the other side of the globe It's international Okay, a recap of what i've talked about so far Um, basically don't nag don't nag the person you're with don't always be available to them.   You're always doing stuff make other plans quick and do it while you're on the phone when he's telling you that he's not gonna be able to See you or make you know follow through on the plans. Oh, no, don't worry. I'll just go out with such and such and we'll go Have some fun.  Let them figure it out. You know I There's so many women that are what I call ladder chicks And they will give men free advice and tell them how to do this this at that Let that man climb upon their back until they reach a new status level and then that man will leave them You know So don't try to fix your man or improve your man by telling him stuff and Advising him to do this and make this better decision and stuff like as soon as he Gets up there Climbing on your back getting all your information. He's going to leave for somebody else that doesn't You know know That you helped him be the man he he is He's going to get all the credit. So don't build a man. Basically don't build your man He should already be built or able to build himself A lot of women can't help it though. It's in their it's in their Up bringing they've seen their mom do it. So they do it. You know, oh that you're doing that wrong That's not how you do it.  Don't do that Like can he be a man? Can you let him make mistakes?    She would be like embarrassed If you know if if she knew your cleanest field He's complimenting him on stuff you don't want to do and he'll be so proud when he's doing like Yeah, I do clean up pretty good. Even though it's trash And it's as bad you don't have to do it, you know, oh, I do cook pretty good Even though it tastes nasty you gotta add extra seasoning and stuff He'll finally get it right after a couple times and it'll be all right. You don't want to do stuff Make him do it but do it with compliments Also, don't be a know-it-all let him shine sometimes, you know, even if he's saying some wrong stuff He's like, oh really? Don't always correct him. That's that's like emasculating and Yeah, there's more in the beginning of the video. I just don't want to go over it all but basically Let him do all the work Should you be skeptical of an older rich man who has to never been married? As long as he's handing out cash Maybe he doesn't want to be married Maybe he wants to protect his money And he didn't have to get married. Uh, maybe he's impotent Can't have kids. I don't know. Does he have kids? I feel like older guys who have not been married Do a background check on Pay that pay that couple of dollars and get that background check Yeah, playing dumb works too Yep, someone said that they used to be someone's comfort chair and like person that they could You know, but then they stopped and then the treatment totally changed for the better.  Now. They're looking at you. She's sexy. She's you know, she's she's funny I love being with her But then when you turn into their mother, it's like, oh, you know, I don't all this starts fading They start seeing their mom and then they want to go out and chase something else But they can impress that's not telling them what to do all the time So that's why it's important not to be a nagger Or Tell people what to do all the time and stop being their mother and trying to help them all the time I don't help my hood and at all I might I'll say look if if I need him to improve on his cooking skills I'll tell him, you know what I saw on tv I was watching a food network today. I do it in a slick sly way I don't say your your food is nasty. You need to do this this and that, you know I said, you know, I was watching Food network today and you know how you like to make that chicken, you know what they did They were making something similar and you know what they did they put flour And then they beat an egg and they they put it in the egg mix and then they put it in the flour again And they say it comes out extra crispy if you do like that and they got seasoned the flour too So, you know, I was trying to write it down for you, but I guess I just remember it girl next time Next time he was cooking that chicken just like on food network and it came out better So it's easier for me to say that than to say your food It needs improvement and you don't cook chicken, right? Let me show you how to do it. This is better This is how you do it. I made him feel like he was the chef and he had the skills Because I was not going to get my hands dirty I'm not again So that's how you can do like little stuff like that If you don't like the way they dress, oh, you know, I saw this Commercial or I saw this style video or style show reality show or this guy had he looked just like you and he had on this nice tailored shirt with blah blah blah blah And these shoes I think you would look so good in that because he looked just like you remind I thought it was you reminded me of you and I was like, oh really?  I said, oh no, you look good.   Oh, okay. I'm sorry Then he can't do it himself anymore because he told you then he would be a hypocrite I do it. I've done it all I'm like If socks and underwear on the floor, let me throw mine down there, too Just, you know, you can't be for it. You can't be so rigid to where you can't Mental mentally Change the situation, you know with mentalism Oh, the dirt draws Paul. Okay. There you go Um So that's how I get my stuff done. I don't I I you know how they they say work smarter not harder No conflict here Just strategic Messages Okay, well, it's kind of late I'll take a few more questions and I'm gonna end it in five minutes. Okay If your husband bring home a dog, but you've got too many kids to take care of it Or actually take it to something take it back to the vet and say I don't want it I mean take it back to where if he got it from And then tell him it ran away Or make him Take care of the dog or make the kids take care of the dog Don't take care of the dog It's like that's your dog. You take care of it. You need to feed them And take them out. I'm not doing that Unless you pay me a dog sitting feet Like if you pay me a hundred dollars a month, I'll take care of your dog Right, that's what I do Like I want a cat but my husband doesn't want a cat So I'm not bringing a cat in here because I know I'm not changing that litter box And I know if he doesn't want to What's the point? I want men chasing me like dogs.  What's your life on that?  That's the only time they get like that Okay Only time All these women keep asking me the same question I always tell them go and get you another man It could be fake and phony.  They see their woman that they once possessed with a new man their ego and and their jealousy And that possessiveness won't kick in And then they'll realize that they're not ready to let you go Or that they really like you it takes that A man to know that you're with another man For them to step it on it like I remember I think I told this story once before When I was first dating my husband We weren't married or nothing. We were just dating He he called and said I'm not going to be able to make it You know, I was already at the place waiting on His friends were there Because they hang out at that place So this other guy comes up and starts talking to me.  They just think I'm entertaining this guy And I'm talking to him so they see me leave with him and get in the Range Rover and they rush out to call The guy, you know, my husband Well, my my husband, he wasn't my husband then but the guy I'm dating and say, hey, your girl's getting in the car with some other dude in the Range Rover blah blah blah blah So Tell him I said, hey Because he was on the phone right there talking to him even though He thought that I was he was busting me But really he was helping me because the next day guess what? Gifts flowers apology never got stood up again.  What if you get with an athlete who's not so smart? Then you can take even more advantage of My sister married an NFL player He was very easy to fool and trick Okay Um Should I be submissive to my man at all costs if he's paying every bill?  I'm gonna trust you to handle that.  So I will let you lead But if you don't most men Find submissive women because women don't trust men and and um They don't feel secure or safe because Most of the times the man is not financially stable And they got to sit there and worry about rent bills, you know, what if you leave me for somebody else? You know, so when you're a hundred percent Comfortable and feel safe and secure Financially Emotionally in a relationship. That's when the woman naturally submits to a man Anything else is fake and acting to get what they want Do I have a favorite clothing store? Um, I shop a lot. I shop online a lot I like boohoo I like I like a lot of the online stores It just depends on what type of man you're trying to attract, you know I'm how old you are because some of the stores are for younger women Some can go either way. So I don't know how old you are but Anything like I don't spend a lot on trend trends. I buy more classic pieces um so they always have like stores in the mall that are like sacks fit thaw Neiman's last call Macy's Forever 21 I mean, you can get a lot of cute stuff at places like that Marshals I don't like to shop online though because I get bored and I just scroll online. I just shop online But boohoo Fashion Nova's okay, just don't get their slutty pieces They have some cute stuff on there. Um but It just depends on your style as well How can I use a good girl image to your advantage even though you're not? Is that better? If you have a good girl image It just depends on If the reason they want a good girl, you know, do they want to take advantage of you? Do they want to walk over you? Do they want you to be like wifey or something? It just depends, you know It just depends on the man. What are they looking for? Sometimes a good girl finishes last you know They might find something more exciting and thrilling If you're too good What if you're a man That lots of money, but a man with even more money comes along should you leave that man That you're with and go for the middle If the man that you're with is currently paying all your bills and everything How do you know the new man will what if you leave the old man new man ain't paying for nothing So you gotta be smart. Um I feel like a lot of women do this and if they like Don't get don't commit to anyone that way. It's not a problem, you know Say look, we're just friends. We're just dating. I'm just seeing you Don't get emotionally involved if you're If you're thinking that you want to upgrade if you beat someone better, you know, if you're in it for the long haul And you know, they say some people just enough money To So where they don't have to work they can pretty much buy whatever they want Um, they can feel pretty much comfortable and stuff like that. That's all you really need Anything else you're just buying more problems, you know So for example, if you're married to someone that makes a high six figures or six figures and they can provide you a good lifestyle You know, you're gonna have less issues with that type of man than you would Maybe a multi-millionaire, you know what I'm saying? Because you'll probably have chicks in every town and you know Other women that they're probably paying their rents for that you don't know about I'm just saying a lot of guys who are that rich They feel like they deserve more. You know what I'm saying? um, so Unless they're super old and just tired all the games, but I'm just saying Pick a pick a type of guy you want and settle with that guy because you don't you're not gonna be young forever You can't keep bouncing from guy to guy because what if that rich guy Says, okay, I like you but I'm not taking care of you and then you just throw away the other guy who used to take care of you And now you're stuck Unless they can outdo the other guy and they agree to it and they start doing it Then I wouldn't suggest leaving One time I did a joey in the scammer and accidentally let the dog run to the street and he never came back Oh, it's hilarious question. What type of women's snag rich men? A woman with a plan Women with a plan a snag rich man, okay? You can't just show up and be like Oh one enrichment. You got to work. You got to know what they what they like How to dress You know where they hang out It's strategic Most women who are married to rich men they plan that it wasn't just oh, we met and it was love at first height only he's just having to be rich no Women were scoping scoping out the scene long time ago And you know, it does happen sometimes that they meet someone that they're like and they just have to be rich But it's not it's not often. So basically you need to Strategically plan to be in the places where wealthy people hang if that's what you want to marry Or date because sometimes they don't want to get married. They just want to date, you know Would you date a billionaire? I don't know I mean Mariah Carey couldn't even do it And I know I'm she's worth it. I Everybody that married everybody that got with billionaires couldn't couldn't make it over a year Their egos are probably out of control The group is the group is for gold diggers It's not a group of learning how to deal in relationships or It has there's less little morals in this world. It's just about getting getting the money Getting the lifestyle and the money that you desire from men. That's what the group is about. It's not about love It's not about Stuff like that. So if that's what you're looking for That's not the group for you like seriously. I say this in all the videos There's other relationship groups out there For that But this is for women who are done with that and ready to get paid This is for women who tired of working and paying bills Okay, this is this is for that. This is not about love This is not about looks this is about Man has money But man gives woman money woman happy That's what's about And there's no judgment in this group There's there's women in here who are dating guys that are older rich millionaires They and they're young and cute and they go on dates and they get they get their rent paid apartments cars and all that kind of stuff so it's not like looking for true love and Stuff like that. This is like look i'm tired of working Let's get some money no pick me no life coaches Pick me's are chicks that like are in the comments on facebook or are youtube defending men and how women are Gold diggers and this is that that's called a pick me chick. They're just begging to be picked by some random person scrolling through the comments so um, no pick me's no trolls no Looking for true soul mate love none of that. This is just straight up. I'm tired of working. I need somebody pay bills type situation I'm I'm too You know, that's just all it is. That's it techniques on how to dress Where to go what websites to get on women are sharing their Like texts and Backing for it with men and how to get them to put money in their paypal before even meeting them. It's just straight up Someone just said savage. It's just straight up. Look. I know you want me. So let's see what you're willing to invest You know, um, I teach I teach the women to make sure the man invested them first you know and Make sure you're not giving away your time free You know, if you're gonna go out to meet them to go out to dinner make sure you're getting a nice gift make sure You know, you're being compensated for your um Expensive outfits and clothes and stuff like that If they want to be seen out in public with you, you know Make they have to make it worth your while because if not You can just stay home You know Why So and there's no judgment because some of these girls are dating old guys rich guys Guys of foreign countries that will fly them out getting on planes and stuff like this. It's like serious. This is not some little Lovey-dovey group. This is like This is their life. They don't work They just get guys to pay their bills and they go shop. That's all you know, there's girls that Join the group a couple months ago and You know, they were in a bad relationship working nine to five Now they're being fully taken care of flowing around the world, you know stuff like that because There's guys out there just waiting on these websites To pay women to date To go on trips To eat dinner with them It's like to you know for a picture Not even a nude picture, but just a regular picture, you know to talk to them for 20 minutes It's like and not even phone sex just a regular conversation And these men like i'll put 400 dollars on your paypal account Um, so you can go buy a nice outfit for our date tomorrow, you know Stuff like that not these loser guys not these trolls and these comic book guys that have careers You know real money and They can't date The caliber of women that they want without compensation Yeah, they can go get somebody their own age and date them for free, but that's not what they want They after they get the money then they go for the women that they could never get before because they have the money To get the women to keep the women happy because the women don't want them for them The women want them for what they can offer them and that's why they go to work and earn all All that money so they can have their choice Of women, okay, they're not happy settling They want to be seen out with a bad chick. They want to be seen out with someone beautiful And I want to be seen out with Ethel, you know, old lady. They're on age. They don't want to be seen out with that okay, so they They go on these websites looking for these young pretty girls and they Hey, you you know Do you want to be my friend? Do you want to go out on dates with me? I'll put like sugar sugar sugar daddies. That's what they're doing So No, they don't want to go out with Ethel You want to go out with Gertrude? You want to go out with Sophie or Uh Kaylee or or they want to go out with Denise or they want to go out with Patricia or they want to go out with Latavia or they want to go out with Sharkisha. So guess what? They pay, okay That's what it's all about. Now. They don't have to work now. They can make a sleep late They don't have to wake up and get in the rush hour traffic You know Yeah Good old sharkisha. I saw sharkisha. Oh my god, okay I saw this girl her name not really sharkisha, but I saw I saw a sharkisha type Um in this really nice bar and she was telling the guy you need to leave you you're the leader I follow, you know, she she knew what she was talking about like basically if you can't leave me And support me and secure me. I I can't be with you, you know They're not A lot of women know they're worth now and they understand that they don't have to work if they don't want to You know, like a lot of women they don't have to work They don't have to work at all You know, they just not connected to the right resources Sasha, are you still awake? Fasha try and get them ready to go back to school if I need to be in the bed early I was trying to read the question um Should women constantly be under Like unpredictable and ignore their men To make their men chase basically be a challenge If your man can predict your every move he's bored with you Okay Yeah, that's the whole Thing that draws men in your mystery. They have to work for you that you give them purpose You're the reason they wake up and shave and shower and put on cologne and stuff You know if they can't predict you You're still exciting and that keeps them on their toes, you know, like day to day I could I could go here. I could go there.  I go to so many different places with different people You know doing different things and I don't really tell him about it. I just tell him about it after the fact Like oh, I went here today You know, so not always keeping tabs On the other person helps stay a challenge, you know Someone says I had my man pay for implants That's good Okay, yeah, if you're in a relationship with a man Or you live with a man and you're sleeping with him and he's not paying every bill You're doing it wrong I'm just saying, you know, if you get if he's getting free sex, I'm like, you're gonna. Yeah, you're doing wrong If you're paying half that rent and you're sleeping with him You're not smart You know At least he needs to get the whole rent You know something Or mortgage or whatever y'all are working towards but what I'm saying is I don't know how I would feel Doing that and giving a grown man money, you know what I'm saying I would not be able to Perform in the bedroom with that type of arrangement So You know some women do it And they're happy with that life, but they don't have to do it. That's the whole point. You have a choice.  Stop giving it up and when he asks you Hey, what happened? Why are you not giving up? It's like, well You know I just I don't know. I just I'm not turned on anymore.  I don't Have a weird feeling about that. I don't really I'm not into that to say I'm not into it because that means There's hope, you know, there's like, I'm not really into that It means you could be into it. Maybe it doesn't mean you just totally shut them down, you know I'm 25 and I have a 20-year-old taking care of me That's not true Okay Well, if you can get a young guy to take care of you that's fine. You know What if he knows my punishing techniques?  That's the best technique.  You don't punish me And if you react to it It doesn't mean it's less punishing being less punished. He just knows he's being punished Then he's gonna try to punish you that's immature. That's why I get older guys They don't play they don't play half those little silly games I want to know how to get into the wheel if I'm not the wife I'm dating an old guy now It's the old guy married Or you can just take an insurance policy out on him. You don't have to get in the wheel Just take an insurance policy out And have him give you the money to pay for it every month You get like a good one like a million dollar get a million dollar insurance policy And have him help you pay for it Or just tell him you need money for this and just pay for it When he dies You're gonna have to get a copy of his death certificate That might be hard because the family will have to give it to you so You're gonna have to uh It's kind of hard to get someone's birth certificate. I mean death certificate So you're gonna have to uh make friends with one is whoever's over his estate And get a copy of that death certificate bribe the funeral um If you volunteer to pay for the funeral That's a wait a loophole if you volunteer to pay for the funeral out of the insurance money A family or whoever will give you A copy Of the death certificate doesn't send into the insurance company of even even uh I mean if you have if you have a million dollar policy and you're paying for a couple thousand dollars for a funeral That's nothing, you know, so That's a loophole And they'll think you're generous, so I'll pay for the funeral Get a cremation. It's super cheap No, you don't have to buy a casket or nothing So like I'll pay for the cremation and stuff like that. Don't worry. I'll handle all the final arrangements um Let me do that for him I just need a copy of the death certificate for the funeral home The funeral home will give you the death certificate to send to the insurance company Yeah, I know I used to be a mortician. I know I'm a loophole Shira, why is it easier for white women to find sugar daddies than it is black women? Well, a lot of the times There's a certain look that they're looking for and a certain The meaner that they're looking for and it's almost like If if they want you to fit into their circle You can't be Someone who does not fit in, you know what I mean and it could be cultural It could be how you speak It could be how you look what you wear how your hair looks It could be all of that because there are some black women that have sugar days and but they're not um typical Black women they're very um well spoken They are you know, they have a certain look about them And they basically cater to what that man finds attractive. You know what I'm saying? So If you look if you watch the show having to have knots you see how Candace young carries herself That's the type of black woman these sugar daddies want someone who's classy you know well put together well spoken um Things like that. They don't want someone who they can't bring around their colleagues or that that might embarrass them with you know, some type of Speech or You know problems that you know that don't really affect their world it's very You know, they might date you in private, but they're not going to be like Oh, we'll come to this charity event with me or you know come come moving with me or I'm going to buy you a car You know, they're going to be like they might go over to dinner with you and see what you're about And kind of like the interview But after that they're like, I can't bring around my people, you know um, so etiquette class grooming class It's very important when you're trying to get in with Super wealthy or if you're trying to get a sugar daddy you have it's not about what you want. It's about what they want You know what I mean? So you have to cater to what they think is attractive not what you think is attractive, you know so Yeah, and it's it's also about attitude, you know, can you fake it? Can you can you stroke somebody's ego and lie to their face and look pretty doing it and feminine, you know Are you too independent?  I'm just saying that's not what they're looking for so You know, there are so many beautiful young black women who do have sugar daddies But it's because they fit that role You know what I'm saying? So if you don't fit the role and you're out there trying to get a sugar daddy Um, it's not It's not gonna be easy. You know, they might just be curious They might go on a date or one date with you and then they might be done So you gotta you gotta fit that role you gotta dress walk talk For the role that you want What if a man wants you to prove your sixth game before the benefits? Then you're being played Tell him, um, all sex is good You know, that's why men will pay for it without ever having it in the first place So if you can go trick some other woman like that, but I know my I know I'm good. So you want to find out? Come on with the benefits That's just reverse psychology that do to do that.  It's not working Men who are serious and have real money. They don't mind giving it to you because that's gonna make it even better, you know Because you'll be expecting more so you're gonna perform well and be like Okay, you know, you be my sugar daddy. I'll date you.  You know, there's too many options out here Um, but good luck. Don't be a sucker Where do I pull a sugar daddy? Try seeking arrangements sugar daddy.com Oh, no, they have sugar daddy dating sites Uh, what's your price?  Just meet them at the restaurant The money's in your account before you even get to the restaurant because it's in the paypal so That's that's all the advice I have on that but like a lot of that stuff is in the group, you know Um, and I do also exclusive videos I'm gonna start doing exclusive videos for the group. That's not gonna be on youtube as well You know just but it's specifically tailored for the group, you know, so for example Um, on on facebook. I talk. I mean on youtube. I talk more about general And also, you know dating man and means but general but this is more specific to go digging the sugar and stuff like that and blah blah blah so um My the guy that I married He was basically my sugar daddy before we got married so, um You know, he took care of me Paid all my bills. I didn't have to work. You know, we went we traveled we did this with that um, so That's why A lot of women aren't moving more towards that because they want to be taken care of The new generation guys or the younger men they they're not as driven as they used to be back in the old days You know, they're not as chivalrous as they used to be back in the old days They want this equal thing and a lot of women aren't down for that anymore So they're going for the older guys or the richer guys who can still Provide that nostalgia of being with a real man that can take care of you So a lot of women are stressed out. They work too much. They don't have enough time for themselves They're running themselves haggard. So, you know, they're like, look, I'm tired of this Let me get into a different type of lifestyle and Take a break and get treated how I'm supposed to be treated, you know, and none of this 50 50 roommate stuff happening over here So basically when women realize their value and they're tired of struggling and relationships that don't Benefit them, you know, that's when they come over to this other side And start dating with purpose So Someone says I'm with an older man, but how do you guys deal with people staring at you on dates?   That's that's what they're looking at. Okay, so Dang, she's lucky. They might be like, oh, why is he with that young girl? Why do you think he's with that young girl? Oh, I bet he's paying her. Of course.  You should don't you should be the one we staring at You know, like I'm looking at you know what I look at pygmies and broke women with broke men. I'm like When I'm out with my old husband and we ordering whatever we want. I'm looking at them Uh checking they bank account on they phone Okay, so that's what I'm looking at. Yes, you're um We kind of got off subject This is not the typical moral How to be a good wife video This is how to be a good wife So your man doesn't leave you for someone else because you nag too much and you emasculate And you help them too much so they never get to experience Impressing you or being the man that they're supposed to be That's hot. I have to open the door. I wonder who James is still James Yeah, like my channel is about like Getting you know, what you deserve And in a nice way these girls are on here asking guys if they have money in the comments No, of course not it's just Society puts so many so much pressure on this and they they put so much stress on this and Make you think that you're supposed to go out and do all these things Well, you don't even have to you know Back in the old days Women didn't do half the stuff that that they're doing now And it's showing in society on their faces They don't really want to be doing this. They just some of them don't have a choice or they don't know any better That's why I offer No information like I do saying you don't have to do this You know, if you look better than me, you shouldn't even be working Okay, and there's a lot of women a group that look way better than me Younger thinner, you know, better features and they were working. I'm like You don't have to work. You don't have to work quit your job Or at least cut back like if you If you look better than me You're working Something is wrong. That's what I told him, you know If if you have to work, you shouldn't even have to work You should be like and if you do work, you shouldn't spend any of your money on bill You should save all of it. It should just be going towards whatever, you know a business A money market account of savings Shouldn't be paying nothing Because there's too many other people that will pay for it for you That's good Someone says they're dating a man who got money and buys things for them. You know, that Is and mom are happy Okay, if a man makes you feel less For not helping him, what does that make him look like if he needs help from you? You know, I would if I were a man, I'd be embarrassed to ask for help from a woman. I'm like You know what I mean? So he the if he's doing that.   I gotta keep the clothes If I were a man, I wouldn't do it on you But I wouldn't ask anybody for help. I was like, I'm a man. I got this I'm a man. I got this Just like I'm a woman. I got this Oh my gosh My man never worry about me doesn't even buy a b-day gift. He works.   You're not Living the best life you can live that there's other options out there I'll put them glasses on I sure do need to put my glasses on. Oh, but I'm gonna end it anyway. So I don't even think I have my glasses over here Okay. Yeah, what's your price? See how that works is a guy will say I'm interested and You put in like $150 for dinner And they'll either accept it or they'll counter offer it saying like to a hundred like a hundred And you'll be like no, I need more 50 But if you're desperate you go ahead and take that hundred and say well, I need uber money. So another 20 Maybe if you don't have a car Um, he's still alive. You don't have a car.   And most of the time it's a nice restaurant And They paper everything meal drinks Whatever See a lot of these Trolls and stuff on here. They don't know about those sites. That's why they're on here talking trash a lot of the time Because they don't know there's so many more options Like we you know, we're beyond them now like we know where to find what we want And it's just so easy, you know I was just I watched a lot of the girls in my group and you know, they're getting they they're showing their little money when they they um Go and meet up and they take a picture of it. Did they pick take a picture of the meal? The money the gift that was bought and it's they said, oh, I just had a really good date with A potential sugar daddy and like he gave me money. He bought me this and look at our meal And that's a bit the kind of stuff they post in the group. So And it's every day. This is not just every once in a while. These girls are doing this all the time Because that's how they pay their rent. That's how they pay their student loans. That's how they pay their way through college That's how they get, you know cars and stuff That's how they start their own businesses like a lot of women They'll just use that money to invest in themselves and start their own business and don't have to work for anybody, you know or For something like that because you can't really get ahead in the world. We're gonna nine to five and trying to pay debts student loans And then, you know, have enough time to take care of yourself. It's a lot of stress, you know So why would you put yourself under that when you don't have to? For young moms who want sugar daddy that want to meet at certain times Um Well, if you have a set arrangement and pick those times and agree to it in the beginning That's how you work that you don't just let him be spontaneous. You just say, okay. Well, I have a set time Can you can you work with it? I'm like, yeah What time and y'all agree on the time? Okay, well, I can't do that. Well, I can do that time. Okay You know, we agree on a time that y'all are both free and available So you just make arrangements for time And not just spot, you know, spontaneous spontaneity Say, I can't I'm not one of them spontaneous ones.   Yeah, old man. They can't even see that good no more As long as you look decent and nice addressing some heels And they could take you out and show you off and you were good on their arms. That's all they really care about Somebody say it worked out Yeah, you might you might get them to pay for your gym membership and then you can upgrade later on Or some plastic surgery You tell me something Just ask how do I ask an older rich man for money? Say I need some money, you know I think I want to go shopping Please I really need some money. I want to go shopping talking about something nice to wear for you You know just do something you ask for money. We're gonna leave but I don't know That's what I that's what I would do, you know You don't just ask like a serious question You ask nonchalantly like you're used to it like You got money share, you know And they'll do it because they don't want to disappoint you. They don't want to see you upset They don't want to see you sad. They don't want they don't want to disappoint you. You know They'll give you a little something something That's what I do Like I need somebody I need a hundred dollars I need two hundred And just look and smile They don't want to see this turn into this They don't want to see So get them in person I'm just straight up ask but in a in a nice way like Can I have some money? How much do you need? I don't know like maybe three or four hundred Well, I think I can handle that but I'm gonna have to go to the ATM. Okay Then they won't want to queue And you were like Close your eyes and imagine someone else How to convince an insecure man that you wouldn't run for upgrade I wouldn't they always have to know that I can't upgrade. That's the whole point That way they they stay in line You don't need to convince him of that It's better if he thinks you will leave him because he'll always He won't take you for granted And he'll do extra Keep it. All right. Y'all it's late. I gotta go to be actually I'm go watching it. But I'm not sleepy at all I need money for rent should I say it's for that reason I need to ask if he Like it's kind of like Go fund me like if you're gonna wait that long to get the entire rent At the like he needs notice for that type of stuff, you know So he can go to ATM or to the bank. So Tell him before you meet him out My rent is due. I really need it Could you help me out? you know I would really appreciate it and See what he says Well, how much is your rent? He might say I can put the moment And that's why you have two of them One gives you the rent and one gives you the rent Um, since I just want to know y'all are finding these men at casiqueting arrangements for a full of brokehearted They they you have to put certain things in your profile because you're not saying the right words, you know If you're not if the word I'm looking for a sugar daddy or a generous Old-fashioned gentleman who spoils in every way financially You know physically and You're gonna attract the broke one You gotta put specifics because if they see sugar daddy or I want sugar daddy in your profile The broke ones are gonna keep scrolling and the ones with the funny are gonna click on it because they know what you're about They know you know the routine And they don't have to you know, dilly-dally with you. So put those words in your profile Don't be putting a whole paragraph of some stuff. They'll never read put what you want right there I want a man who I need a sugar daddy I'm seeking this uh sugar daddy arrangement. I'm beautiful I uh, I look good on it.  I enjoy you know cocktails and Conversation I love travel and I love making my Sugar daddy feel like the king of the world every sugar daddy's gonna click on that Okay, if you're saying all this up extra bs and stuff, they're gonna scroll past you make sure you put exactly what you want Okay It's it's important to be honest on the profile and that way You filter out all the other stuff and it's faster and easier, you know, uh, I think I made one just to show the group and After one day, I got off but I just want to show them how to do it And like I got I got offered. I don't like dang. I still got it, you know, so, um I had already I somehow offered me $2,000 a month Well, that's pretty good for me. So, um, just without even meeting me, you know, so I think Be direct. It's the best option. You know Very uh direct You'll you'll find something. Okay. Well, I'm getting ready to go. Thank you all for tuning in. I appreciate it. Um And like I said, I'm gonna put My information If you really want to join the group um You can find me on facebook and message me under Here, I'll write it down That way you all can see it's my facebook You all you all see a picture. I mean, it's a it's a Recent picture, so you will recognize it Hey, tasha Go to bed You're going live. I'm still alive Why are you still awake?  LaTCIA Podwall, that's my facebook page Hey, baby Oh my baby This thing is still awake Her hair is straight You put it in the bed You put it in the bed, okay Go get in the bed, you messy boy I know you're trying to sneak down in my bed You can sneak down in there if you want If you make up my bed I see you got my baby Anyway Thank you So yeah, that's my facebook You got if you're serious about joining the group just write I want to join the group Don't write me no book. Don't write me your life story because I can't read it. I don't have time Some people write me 2000 word essays and I'm like I'll just read the last sentence The first and the last sentence is what I do Okay Thank you Yeah, Sasha's gonna be something else She gets older But at least she'll have all the information All right Good night y'all


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I don't believe we have council member Beck in attendance. So, I'm going to go ahead and jump into the presentation. This community meeting is about our storm drain project, 7th street upper net storm drain rehabilitation. My name is Dylan Johns. I'm the assistant project manager for the city on this project. Mike Bennett is the main project manager for this. He is also on the call. So this project came out of the city's storm drain. Rehabilitation program, which is something that we've been working on over the last few years to. Proactively maintain and upkeep the aging storm drain pipes in the city to prolong their service life. These projects are identified in areas that the city either knows have a history of pipe failures. We know that the pipes were installed a long time ago so that they're older and in need of maintenance. And there's also some institutional knowledge within the city. Of just areas that historically have problems with the infrastructure where we can go in. And try to identify these problems we do that through a closed circuit television inspection. There's basically a small robot with a camera on it that we can drive down the pipes. Those videos are then reviewed to identify defects in the pipe. And then those defects the pipes are then prioritized based on the severity of the defect and the location. Of the pipe or us to then go in and address those problems. The we would we try to address all of our problems with. Using trenchless technologies when possible. It's not always possible on these projects for us to do that, but that is our goal. The trenchless technologies minimizes the amount of excavation we have to do. So, it minimizes the impact to all the residents and short tends to shorten the construction duration. Some of the common types of trenchless technologies that we use are cured in place pipe. Which is basically a flexible liner that is slid into the existing pipe. And then it's inflated to form to the existing pipe and then. Using ultraviolet light or heat is hardened to create a new pipe within the existing pipe. Geopolymer pipe lining also creates what is essentially a new pipe within the existing pipe, but this uses a mortar or. A mortar like compound that is sprayed onto the inside of the pipe and is then cured and. Binds to itself to create a solid structurally sound pipe. And the last method we typically use is pipe bursting. Basically, a kind of drill like tool is used to fracture the pipe. And is a driven through the pipe and fractures the existing pipe pulling a new pipe into place behind it. And so, for this project, we will be utilizing mostly trenchless techniques. We will be working primarily along 7th street in between Lexington and cherry. And then we'll also be working along 6th street in between cherry and burn it. A little bit of background on this it was identified through our rehabilitation program. You can see the picture on the left as an example of. What we get out of the videos to identify the defects, you can see the severe cracking in the pipe. So, this pipe is an older pipe and is showing signs of deterioration. So, we are going to rehabilitate rehabilitate it to stabilize the pipe. To prevent any potential failures. HDR incorporated is providing the engineering design on this project. They'll also be providing support throughout construction. We will mostly be using the cured in place pipe. To rehabilitate the pipes on this project. There will be some excavation at the corner of 6th street and burn it where we have to do a point repair. There's a inlet along the side of the street there and the pipe connecting the inlet to the storm drain main in the street. Is displaced and unfortunately, we cannot repair that using a trenchless technique. We have to dig it up. To and replace the displaced pipe. The the main impact to residents from this project will be temporary lane closures along 6th street and 7th street. During construction the pipe is along the north side of the road. So, it will affect a west bound traffic. Along 6th street, we will have to close 2 lanes to give our crews room for the excavation and doing the. CIPP work and then, but along 7th street, only 1 lane will be closed and on both streets, we will shift the traffic lanes. So that we maintain traffic in both directions on 7th street and on 6th street, there will still be 2 usable lanes for traffic to get through. Our crews will mostly be working through existing manholes along the storm drain pipe. So, they're the areas where we're working will be isolated. To the immediate vicinity around the manhole. Most of the manholes are in or near intersections along this route. And if any of those manholes are in a location where it would impact access for a. A driveway or parking garage for a business or apartment or anything like that. We're going to work with those owners. To make sure that we nobody loses access to their building or driveway or anything like that during construction. So, we will. Provide accommodations or we will find ways to ensure that. Traffic can still come and go as needed. We are expecting to start construction on this project in early summer of 2022. We only anticipate it to last about 4 months. And we're expecting it to cost about $700,000, but this is a. A low bid project so that will really be determined by the bids that we get. And this, like, lastly, this project is completely within existing city right of way. The pipe is underneath the roadway. So, the city will not need to purchase right of way or easements or anything like this for this project. And with that, I will open the floor to questions and that is the contact information for Mike and myself. If anybody would like to reach out to us after this meeting. And if anyone has any questions, please feel free to unmute yourself and ask. Or you can put the questions in the chat if you would prefer to do that. I don't see any questions in the chat and stop the recording and call it a.