everyone shiver 1,000 here just a quick back story on what happened was I was in the bedroom watching some YouTube and A-L-E-X-A just she started giving out the weather I heard her saying something I didn't know what she said so I went in brought it up on the security cameras to see what she said and I came back out went back in and just a couple minutes later she started playing something from my Amazon music my personal Amazon music playlist or something like that which I don't have one so you know that part is gonna have I'll have to it was playing copyrighted Christmas song so that part I'm gonna have to mute the audio in but so then I came out and recorded and said what was going on hang on a second I'll tell you I got the times route down I'll tell you what times this happened okay so this is the 14th of December by the way it is now 1 35 p.m. 1 37 p.m. but this happened just a little while ago monkey had to go to physical therapy so and this happened like just a minute or two right before she got home and she went out to see her mom now but the first thing started at like 1235 55 ish and then the second one when she started playing music was 1241 35 so like I said I'll I'll get I'll put what I got for you on here and I'll fast forward some of that through there so you're not looking at a couple minutes of nothing but yeah so so from when you you'll see me go back into the bedroom that was she started playing the music at 1241 35 ish at 1244 30 you know it's when I go into the into the bedroom so this all happened within just a couple of minutes that was today though so that was just you know a little while ago so I'm not sure what's going on there but here lately she's been doing that she's just been telling stories or you know just talking for no reason at all now I don't know if she picked up something that she thought was her name as I'm watching YouTube so I don't know if but I'm watching it I was I was watching a court trial and so and there was that name was not mentioned so I don't know why she would start doing that I don't know if maybe she thought she heard her name or whatever but that's the backstory so here's the clips let me know what you think below but I've been in here by myself just working with my computer no headphones on no speakers on just googling whatnot no TV on and she'll just start talking and here lately she's been doing a lot so I don't know if she's malfunctioning if she's picking up the wrong wake-up words but I don't know so here's the clips thanks for watching guys enjoy the rest of your week weekends almost here see you guys soon check this out let me know in the comments below what you think Alexa stop I'm sure that there's the mic I'm sure that Mike picked it up she's just been going off the wall just talking to stuff on her own


Well, we got an awesome speaker coming up, a good friend of mine, James Marshall. He runs the only world's traveling 10-day boot camp through Europe. And I've seen some pictures from this event and it's pretty sick.  He's all the way here from Australia. He spoke at this event before, second time I believe. And he's talking today about multiple relationships. And is there anyone here who is not interested in that subject? One guy. Awesome. Cool. Turn it out, exactly. So let's give James a hand to welcome him. Good afternoon gentlemen. Now my name is James Marshall, I'm the founder of the Natural Lifestyles. We've been teaching natural games since 2006, well before it was in fashion. And we're still pretty damn good at it. I've just come off the back of about three weeks of non-stop coaching through Europe with my team and the one and only Sacha Dey game. And what we do is we run this 10-day traveling workshop through Eastern Europe. And on this trip the students tend to get laid, which is part of the point of it. They don't usually do it on the first night. But something interesting happened on the first night on this tour. We had a guy who was of Oriental descent, mid-30s, had, well I'll tell you a little bit about him. When he was 19 he met a lovely girl next to him at his university course studying medical science. They started dating and for five beautiful years they didn't have sex. After five years they had sex and then they got married, had two children, started a very successful medical practice together and lived happily ever after until she cheated on him, took the business, took the kids and kicked him out on the street, which is where he found himself with us on the Euro tour. Now on the first night he met this awesome girl. Actually it was during the day he was doing one of Sacha's wind-ups. And is it all right if I let them know the wind-up, Sacha? Are you sure? You're taking a percent though, right? Awesome. Well you go up to a girl and you say, look I don't want to be weird or anything but... And that goes on for quite some time. That's credit to Sacha Degue. And this girl cracked up. She loved it. They decided to go on a date that night. They went for a picnic along the river in Prague, very romantic city, eating strawberries and cream. And as the night wore on they got a little bit closer and fingertips started touching and there's a lot of tension in the air. And one thing led to another and at the end of the night she got in the cabins and gave him a look and he said, well I guess she'll be heading home madam. And she went home. And then she texted him saying, I kind of wish she'd come with me. And so he wrote back saying, shall I? And then she wrote back saying, you shall. And he went to her place, they had a glorious night of love making on the first night of the tour, which was awesome. This was the second girl that this guy had ever had sex with. So the next morning we're all debriefing, giving him props for that and everything. And he says, look guys, I just should let you know that I'm happy to come for the rest of the tour and I'll do the exercises but I'm pretty much done now. And there's just silence amongst the group.  And I place my hand on his inner thigh and I go, just hold it, Sasha. And I'm like, okay, so why is that? He's like, well I've found the one. We all bite our teeth and I just say, okay, cool. For today, you found the one, just do whatever you want. You're going to see it tonight, right? Yeah, of course.  And then afterwards they go and spend another night together and she decides she's got a headache and doesn't want to have sex with him. And the next day she writes a message that ends with the words, take care. Now, if you ever receive a text message from a girl that finishes with take care, that means farewell forever. And it's a good one to use when you've decided that you don't want to see a girl again. Yeah, that was heaps of fun. Take care, she'll get the message. Eight days later, we're in Belgrade in Serbia, the same guy is getting ready to go on a date with some smoking hot Serbian girl. And I said, hang on, Michael, should you really be going in this date considering I mean you found the one, right? So, and he's like, look, I got a go man, all right? So you got the point. Now, the reason I bring this story up is because what I want to talk to you guys about today are some different models of relationships. Some different relationship paradigms that you may want to experiment with during the course of your seduction career. Most men follow this cycle, inactive single, which means you're single and you're not getting laid.  Who's been there before? Keep your hand up if you're still there. It's fine. This is the only one that you must get out of and never return to. But most men do that and then they go to monogamous relationship with pretty much the first girl that will let them take their underpants off.  They break up, they go back to inactive single and this depressing cycle continues. I teach seduction for life.  It's boring, yeah? I've had enough. So what I want to teach you guys about is something more advanced. And when you get into this, at first, what you're doing is you're practicing approaching. Now that's a really dangerous thing to do. Never go out and practice approaching. I was talking to one of Sasha's interns last night and he's saying, yeah, I feel like I've reached a plateau because I'm going out, I'm doing all these approaches and then it's not going anywhere. And I said, that's because you're going out to practice approaching not to go out and seduce. Look always towards the end game. It doesn't really matter if you don't think you have the skills to get there because you do. You innately have the skills to get an erection and place it somewhere wet and tight. Yep. So all the details you can figure out along the way. Yes, of course, over time your skill set will, you know, become more subtle and crafted and wonderful and flower and so on. But in the meantime, open, close. Keep that in your head at all times. But look well beyond that. What are you actually trying to do here in terms of a lifestyle that you're trying to build? What kind of stories do you want to live? What kind of women do you want to bring into your life? And in what capacity? And that's what I want to talk to you guys about is having some choice and some direction in that. Does that sound good? Only for you? Just me and him, we'll just have a little chat. I know you're British, but come on, you can say something. Say, oh, jolly good. All right, fair enough. So the five stages that I see as being functional and healthy in terms of going through relationship cycles. And there's, of course, many variations.  But what I think is good to go through is inactive single.  Active single. And this is where you are single by choice. You don't have a long-term girlfriend. You're out there meeting a bunch of girls, testing yourself, finding out what you like, learning about yourself in relation to women, and hopefully getting laid once in a while, right? And that's where most guys are probably at at this point. But from there, are we gonna just go inactive single, active single monogamous happily ever after? Highly unlikely.  And if you do it skillfully, then it means that each stage of relationship that you shift through will be positive, not only for you, but for the woman or women that you're involved with. If you stay in once part of the cycle far too long, then you'll end up hating each other. Who's been in a long-term relationship for about 40 to 50% more time than they should have been? Yeah. Any friends with that girl now? No.  Well done. I have been as well. It takes counseling. It takes patience. Most relationships die well before the participants admit it. And having the ability to go, this is no longer working, we should cut and run now, is a fundamental of being a good seducer, learning how to break up with girls, how to separate when the time has come is really important and to move on to the next cycle. So from there, active single, we move into multiple relationships. This is where you can date and have actual relationships with more than one girl at a time without the need to lie to her or give the impression that you're offering something that you're not.  And then do that to another girl and another girl and so you have a bunch of girls who think that you might be their boyfriend. And where does that end up? Getting caught. Yes, getting caught. It ends with mess and slash ties and broken plates and screaming, I thought you love me and all that kind of shit, which is dirty. We don't wanna get involved in that. But if you're at the winner.  I remember early on when I was experimenting with the multiple relationship paradigm, I thought I'd better tell girls straight away.   And afterwards I said, oh, I should just let you know that I'm not looking for anything serious. And she's just looked at me and said, I don't even know what your name is. I'm gonna go now. Yeah. And I was a bit of a wake up call. Oh, I've just been used for sex. Nothing. So don't presume that all women wanna be your girlfriend because we are sold this myth that women use sex to get relationships essentially, which is not true. They do do that sometimes for sure. But a lot of the times women will use men for sex. There's a whole range of bizarre motivations that lead to a woman deciding to have sex with a man. She's bored. She just wants to get revenge on her boyfriend. She's trying to procrastinate from now say she's supposed to write. You happen to remind her of some weird father figure from when she was a child. God knows what. But it's not necessarily because she wants to be in a relationship with you. From that fourth stage, we tend to move into a primary secondary situation, which is where one of these girls that you've been dating tends to rise in importance. You really like them. They really like you. You guys have some kind of open deal, but most of your attention is focused in on that one person. And then from there, we move into monogamy. Which I do not think is a bad thing. I have done 10 hard years of monogamy with three girls in my adult life. And I learned a lot about myself during that period. This is the time when you'll learn about what really makes a woman work. How relationship dynamics work. Understanding compromise. Understanding how to keep a relationship vital. Becoming a really good lover. There's a lot of great things that come out of monogamous relationships. And there's also a lot of awful things that can happen where people become codependent. They lose their friends, their identity. They get bored, complacent. They put on weight, et cetera, et cetera. So I'm not here to suggest one of these models over another. What I'm here to suggest to you is that you consider what phase of relationships you would like to move into. And why? A very wise Ukrainian woman once said to me, when a woman has 10 men, she has one man. What does that mean? Any ideas what that means? That bit of Slavic Zen wisdom. Nothing, come on. Give her a shot. Just the first thing that comes to mind. Someone's thinking something and they're just a bit scared to say it. Then she gets full attention. We're on the right track. What she's really saying here is that a woman has a whole lot of needs that are met by men. And if she can find one man that fulfills all those needs, then she will likely want to hold onto him and only him. If she can't, which is often the case, she will find enough men to fulfill her needs. And all women do this. Do not be sold on the lie that there are sluts and good girls. That there are certain girls who would never do that, whatever that is. This is not true. What there is, is girls at different phases in their life who are after different things.  And then she'll have one of those, her first relationship when she's, say, 20 to 23, move in with a guy, see what that's all about. Then she might cheat on him with his best friend and then she might go out, be really focused on her career and her studies, not have time for any of that shit, but want to have sex with a guy that she considers to be a friend once a month. Then she might go off traveling to Ibiza and get gang banged by a football team and then come back to London and wait nine dates before she sleeps with a guy that she becomes the girlfriend of. This is the same girl. And in her mind, that's all completely logical because she felt like doing that at the time because those were the needs that she needed met. Now, if you go in there with the idea that there are tarts and strumpets and then there are ladies, then you will set up those roles. In the initial story that I talked about, this guy only knew one role to play in a woman's life which was husband, essentially. That's all he knew how to do.  And we slapped him about and he learned very quickly that there's other roles and he enjoyed those much more. You need to understand the thing that I love about seduction, the reason that I don't get bored of it. I've been doing this a long time. I've been coaching for six years and if women were like robots, if they all responded the same way when I pressed their buttons in certain sequence, then I would have quit this a long time ago because that's boring and predictable. The thing I love about it is its variation. Is the fact that there is an infinite array of possibilities of what could happen with me and women that I meet. Because essentially throughout life, what you're doing is you're living a story. The collection of all your experiences, all your ideas and all the people you meet creates that story. And magic happens when stories intersect. And as a seducer, not a PUA, but as a true ladies man, what you are doing is stepping out and not just waiting for chance to bring you the one. The one who happened to be sitting next to you, really she was the only one. What you're doing is you're going, how about that one? What about her? Let's see if we can create some magic, some love story. If we can have two lives intersect and create something awesome. Because how much people value, desire you and respect you has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend with them or how nice you are to them. It has solely to do with the emotional intensity that person feels with you. My role in women's lives currently is to appear in their city for a short amount of time, take them on a wild, unpredictable and intimate adventure and then vanish. That's the role that I choose to play in women's lives. If a woman is screening for a boy to look after her and sit and watch TV on a couch, I don't exist. We'll just step past each other. I'll go and talk to her for three minutes. It'll become apparent that these stories are not meant to meet. But there are plenty of women out there who want to live that fantasy. They have needs that need to be met by my archetype, by my role. So you gentlemen need to start thinking about what are the stories that you are playing out with the women you approach? And what impression are you giving them? Because if you give her the impression that you want to go on three predictable, three to seven predictable dates and awkwardly escalate, which my associate, Liam McRae, will be talking about shortly, and make kind of vague promises about the future and then go and hang out with her parents and her friends and hold a hand in public and do all this boyfriend stuff, then she has only one choice but to go, well, do I want him to be my boyfriend? If yes, well, that's what he's selling.  Yep. So if you want to have multiple relationships, you need to let her know that through your behavior and speech from the very beginning. That's why going up and being audacious and direct is awesome. Because only a man who is willing to play that lover, rakish, raugish, debauchers archetype would do that. Do you understand what I mean? Everyone nod. Is that a nod? Okay, what don't you understand? You do understand. Oh, good. Excellent. We're in agreement. So that's some of the, that doesn't mean I have 30 or I've done 30. I've got 30. All right, excellent. So that's what I want you guys to take away in terms of understanding the mindsets of a man who can have multiple relationships.  If it's just about you trying to go up there and get sex out of her, that will work very rarely. Men who are very good with women actually are really interested in them. I am endlessly curious about the little, tiny variations that each woman has. The different face she has when she's having an orgasm.  The way that she operates when she's out of her normal comfort zone away from her friends. Because I'm a transient lover, I'm a person who's passing from town to town, I get to be the guy that doesn't count.  I don't exist, I never happened. Yeah, all I am is a wistful memory that she carries with her to the grave. That's an awesome thing to be. I've also been many other things. I've been a confidant. I've been a great friend. I've been a long-term boyfriend. I've been a husband. I hopefully haven't been a father yet. So, here's the process. You guys want a practical ABC step? I know you do. And how to have multiple relationships? All right, only works if you keep what I've previously said in mind. So, you picked up a girl, well done.  Awesome. Do you need to tell her on the first night? No, you don't.  If it takes more than three nights to go to go into bed, it's too long. Unless she's a virgin or highly religious or that's about it. Yeah? If it takes longer than that, it's too long. Because by then, what we're doing is we're bargaining. We're trying to trade something else for sex.  If it happens within two, three nights, then we're actually on an equal standpoint. So, what I do is I have a talk with girls about the second time I've been with them. The first couple of times you have an amnesty, they may disappear, no one really cares at that point. After the first two, three times, both sides are naturally wondering what's happening here. Now, most guys deal with this by doing this situation, by doing this. They just don't say anything. I didn't say I was not gonna sleep with other girls, right? So, she didn't ask. And then they wait a month or two and eventually the girl tentatively goes, so are we together? Am I your girlfriend? And he goes, oh no, I mean, I'm trying to get over my ex and right now, I'm focusing on my career and so I don't really feel like I've got a bit of fear of commitment and they waffle on about how, yeah, they can't really commit but maybe one day in the future. That's the way most men deal with this situation. And I've done that many times. It's messy. And it is not direct. When we talk about direct, direct is an attitude, not an opener. You should be direct for life.  That is not direct. That's very confusing for a woman. If your guy comes up all super confident, clear about what he wants and then asks her what she wants to do on the date and doesn't actually engage in any conflict or if it needs to be resolved or whatever. So you'd be clear and direct for life. I have two rules in seduction and it basically covers everything. The first one is my inner game rule which is the right to freedom rule, which states, make no apology, take full responsibility. So in the situation where I am stepping into a woman's life and I have something to offer her, I don't necessarily have everything to offer her but I have something awesome to offer her. I will make no apology for the fact that I wish to be actively single right now. That I am focusing on my own personal development, on my travels, on my business and on making sweet love to you tonight, probably tomorrow night, probably night after that and definitely not the night after that because I'm going. I make no apology for that and I take responsibility for the fact that she may not be up for that, that this is an unusual thing to do, therefore I need to have an even more solid frame than the average guy, that I need to be a fucking amazing lover if it's going to be worth her while and everything else that goes on in between. I take responsibility for. So what I do is I give the girls a talk. I've been asked this many times by guys to say, well, how do you bring this up with girls? Would you guys be interested in hearing my talk that I give to girls?   Anyone want to give me a name? Because the first one that always pops in my mind is Sarah and I've never had sex with a girl called Sarah, ever. A girl's name, anyone? Brittany. What? Brittany. Brittany. Do I look seriously, Robbie?  All right, here we go. I'm just trying to visualize her now. Okay, straight to camera, just to be serious. Now, when do you do this? It's important. Not directly after sex. So you just roll off and you go, so I hope you're not taking this too seriously. Oh, you're getting dressed.  Awesome, thank you. This is exactly what I want. Much more than you would expect. When I first started, I set myself a goal one year after my first year in game, my goal was rack up as many girls as possible. Did that second year, I thought, all right, what I want to do is I want to have five really hot, really high self-esteem girls who are way smarter than me. That was my, that was my goal.  Surprisingly, it was the other way around. More than 70% of the girls were like, at least, okay, let's try this. This is another myth that we have in our mind, that girls don't want this kind of relationship.  Lots of girls have had other experience, but that's pretty common. So when you come along and go, well, actually I've got a different option. I mean, I have to sell it really well because she needs to know what she gets out of it. Human beings are selfish.  Here's the question you should be asking yourself. So, Brittany, look, I just want to have a chat to you about what's happening with us. Now, I don't know where you're at, but I really want to know. But what I think is important is that I tell you what's happening for me because I respect you and I just want to be honest about where we're at. All right, so let's pause there. So it's not a big deal. I'm not going, right, so you might want to take a seat now. We need to talk about us, yeah? I don't need to make a big deal about it. This is me, again, being casually clear about who I am. And what I don't do at the beginning is I don't tell her what she wants. I don't say, look, just so you know, not getting married. I say, I don't know what's going on for you, but I want to know, which is completely true. So it's not going to set her up in some reactive defensive position. And then I tell her why I need to tell her this. Because I have respect for her and I want to be honest with her. Again, this is completely true. This is just not rhetoric. I'll be, hey, Brittany, Brittany. I've been having an awesome time with you. This has been really cool to hang out.  All right, so here's the good sell. I tell her what I like about it, what I'm enjoying about this relationship that we're having. And I tell her that I do want to keep on seeing her. So straight away, I've set from the beginning, I'm being open and honest, and I want this to continue before I go in there and say, just so you know. But I think it's important that you know that now in my life, I'm not looking for an exclusive relationship and I'm not offering that. There it is.  Put it out there. And not right now because maybe in the future or something, it's just like, this is my lifestyle. I'm choosing it. And then I can explain to her why that is. For you guys, that'll all be different. And just own it.  Own it. Make no apology for it. So, I've told her. And I'll understand if that's not what you're after. This phrase or variation upon is really important. I'll understand. This is her get out of jail free card. This is saying, you have choice here. You know the fact. I completely understand if that's not cool for you. Because you need to be willing, if you want to have five girlfriends, you need to be willing to let any of them walk at any moment. That was the mindset that I had. And I would, at periodic intervals, just cut all of them off and just start again. Because that was the life that I was committed to when I went through that last phase and that's what I'm currently in again. So, I'll understand if that's not cool with you. But, you don't have to make a decision about this now but I want you to just think about it and let me know where you're at with it. Because I would really like to see you but it's not gonna be all the time or every week. Because that's what I can offer right now. So, what do you reckon? And you put it to it. She can decide then or she can go away and think about it and then it's done. So, that's stage one. Have the talk. Now, don't do it word for word like I would. Use your own way that you would say it. But the key principle is open, direct, honest, unapologetic, here's what I can offer and essentially, in a nice way, take it or leave it. Now, very important is that after that you follow up this talk with your actions because people will hear what you do not necessarily what you say.  Then I'm telling her the opposite of what I told her the previous night and she'll hear what she wants to hear. I slept with this girl once and I spoke of the talk with her. I told her. And afterwards we went down to the tram stop to send her home and as we were standing at the tram stop she just innocently just took me by the hand and just held me there and just started swinging and I said to her, Brittany, remember that talk we had just before? This is what I mean. That's a bit mean, isn't it? It's a bit nasty. And she looked a little bit shocked. She went, oh, okay. And that was it. Just by me setting that simple boundary, I wasn't being nasty. I was just saying, no, that's what boyfriend and girlfriend do. I know you've done that before with a boyfriend. I'm not angry at her. She's just did it absentmindedly. But I'm like, no, that's not my role in your life.  That's what I'm here for. And so after that instance, that's all that she did. It was very clear. So, as a guideline, here are some things that you should implement if you want to have successful, long-term multiple relationships. No public displays of affection.  They are totally okay. Running your hand up her thigh while sitting at a restaurant. Also okay. Walking down the street, suddenly shoving her in an alley and pashing her passionately. Do you guys say pasche here? It's a bit of an 80s thing in Australia. I'm just swinging out and pasche this girl all night. That's all fine because what is that? Those are the touches of a lover, of a guy you're having an affair with. Not of a long-term boyfriend, typically. I'm like, well, it should be, but it's often not.  Because again, she's just gonna hear what she wants to hear or what you're forcing her to hear through your actions. Make sense? Excellent. How often do you see the girl? My general rule was once every eight or nine days. It couldn't be once every seven days because that meant that she would start to monopolize my weekends. Not that weekends really mean anything to me because I've never had a real job, but for others, it's important. So I would see a girl every week and a bit. And that was enough time that we had a connection, that we enjoyed our time together, that we had awesome sex, but not enough time for us to be getting attached. If you see a girl two or three or four times a week, you're done, seriously. You can, however, have a really intense, dirty weekend away, or if you're in my position, rock up to a country, have an intense love affair for a few days and then disappear. But if it's a girl who's in your city, you shouldn't be seeing her more than once a week or so. And just on a side note to that, are you guys aware that right next to England is a very large continent with a whole lot of different countries in it? Yeah? Yeah, no, it's crazy. And for the price of a steak, you can fly to these countries.  Did you know that? It's an important piece of information. I've been traveling from Melbourne, Australia, which is about as far away as you can go without penguins, to the south side of the world to take advantage of this fact.  It makes me very angry. Yeah? You guys can go to Serbia tomorrow for nothing.  Cats out of the bag. Don't go to Belgrade. It's not that great. It's really dangerous. Girls not that friendly.  Food's definitely not absolutely amazing. Gypsy music, none of it. Forget about it. The good thing is though, if we follow on from Sasha's 3% rule, only 3% of the guys in this room will even bother to try to get on a Ryanair flight and go over there. So how many people we got here? So there's about one of you. Who's going? Sure. All right, send me an email with photos. So that was my little passionate rant. What was I talking about before that? Brittany? No, before that.  Anyway, yes. Okay, so you can't see a girl more than once a week. Otherwise, it's going to change the dynamic. Now over time, this will shift as you start moving into a primary, secondary thing. The point of this lifestyle is that it means that when you choose a girl to be with long-term, it will be that. It will be a choice out of the available spread of what you've been experimenting with. I remember recently on Facebook, I put up a post about an event we were doing which is on multiple relationships. And some girl from my primary school got on there and said, Jamie, I'm, Jamie was what people know me as, old friends.  People should just, you know, get together through serendipity or something like that. I didn't bother to reply, but I thought to myself, so what this girl was endorsing was literally that, inactive single to whoever you happen to first hook up with, monogamous relationship.   That's what you guys are doing. You will end up in monogamous relationships. They can be a beautiful thing, but they should come out of choice. It should happen when you go, whoa, and I've got no other choice, but to let all my other girls go because that one there has just blown my head off. Only under those circumstances should you enter into a monogamous relationship. Otherwise, you'll cheat on each other. There'll be resentment. You'll feel like you're missing out. And guys do that for decades and then they come and see us in their late 30s and 40s and it's a sad predicament to be in. The other important thing about being able to juggle multiple women is you have to be really good in bed because there's nothing in it for her if she gets one night a week with you and comes over and has lousy sex. Why bother? So it's important that you become a great lover. I think the average that a man lasts in bed has gone up over the last generation. It used to be three minutes and now it's five minutes. Ladies, you're doing better than you used to. Yeah, that's pretty horrible, really. And think about it from the woman's perspective. For the guy, at least he got off.  Unlikely, she's gonna have an orgasm in that amount of time. So if you become a really good lover or even just a better than average lover, then you have set yourself well above the bar of where most men are. Now, I'll give you a few little tips on how to get good at sex. Firstly, good at the sex.  Everyone's like, what? I don't even have the internet. The reason being that this posture is not in the karma sutra, the mouse and cock. Yep. What that posture actually does, and you're gonna use that as a screenshot, aren't you? It's like, James Marshall. What that posture actually does is, if the majority of your sexual experiences is in something along those lines of that posture, it trains your body that this is what sex is. This is how you get aroused. At the same time, you're disassociating yourself from the realities of sex by looking at a screen in this stylized weird kind of conceptual version of what sex is.  And he was like, not good. He's still doing it. Nothing's changed. So, remove that from your life. Yes, you may still masturbate. Carry on. It's good for you. But use your imagination instead. Or better still, focus in on only the sensations of your hand touching yourself. Actually seduce yourself.  So if you're gonna masturbate, do it once a week and have a nice bath, light candles, spend time with yourself.   Not many. All right. Because this will train you to actually become a sensual creature, to actually get in your body and to enjoy the process rather than the outcome.  Right? That's not the way you should view it. You should enjoy every moment of it and then become a responsive lover. That's, and the other thing is, if you have very little experience with women, find a girl who's a bit older than you, who's had plenty of guys and just ask her to teach you. I am so grateful to one girl in my life who when I was 21, she was 26. We went to bed together and I could tell afterwards she was kind of disappointed. And I just swallowed my pride and I said, listen, Brittany, which, I don't know what I'm doing, obviously.  And she did. And that changed the course of my life. Just that one woman and those couple of weeks where she took pity on me. And because I was still direct and clear about, I made no apology.  Can you help me fix this? I would really appreciate that. I can buy you lunch or something, whatever you want. But that would be a big help to me. So find a girl who is sexual, who you're really comfortable with, spend a bit of time with her and just experiment and learn together. And if she's got more experience than you, she can show you what to do. It's really important. No one talks about this. They always talk about how to go up and get phone numbers.  How easy is it going to be to use a direct opener? How easy is it going to be to lead the interaction? Because you're thinking to your end game, rather than the guy who's like, I'm going to go practice an approach. She can see that in his eyes. She's like, this is not worth my time. This guy is not going to take me on an amazing adventure. The role that this guy potentially plays in my life is nuisance, possibly a friend who maybe I'm meeting cuddle with sometimes, but certainly not have sex with. There's a whole lot of roles that women need fulfilled by men that don't involve the men having sex with them. Do you guys want to play those roles? Say yes or no. Right. It's totally fine to play them with some girls. I have lots of female friends.  I really enjoy their company. But that's because I chose that role between us.  I'm not sorry. How much time have I got? Five minutes. God damn. All right. Cool. Well, I think I'm going to wrap it up then. So if anyone's interested in coaching with me, the only way you can do that is on the Euro tour currently. Myself and Sasha and Liam and Johnny Cooper. Lovely. I've just returned from this. 10 days around the clock through Central and Eastern Europe, we're meeting the hottest women in the world. It's not cheap nor should it be. We've sold out the first two tours and we have five places on the final tour.  You can find out more about what I do at vjainsmarshall.com, theurotour.com, the saucy governor loving, you love it. That's John's website. Thenaturallifestyles.com. And please add me on Facebook and ask me questions at three in the morning like everyone else. Now, does anyone have any questions about how to have more than one chick or anything else? Yeah. Right. Great question. And I actually was going to cover that and then I forgot. So I'm glad you reminded me. Okay, how to troubleshoot this. So you've done the talk. You started this open relationship paradigm. Don't think that that's the end. Because over time, yes, even if she logically accepts it, her emotions are going to come into play and so will yours. Don't think for a minute that if she's out there sleeping with other guys, that you're going to be all cool with that. This is actually a very advanced way to live your life because you have to deal with a whole range of emotional connections with different people that are happening at different stages. One of them you're in the honeymoon stage. One of them you're in the things getting rocky. Someone's getting jealous or whatever else. So at times, yes, the girl will go through a period where she's not comfortable with the situation. And you can't just say to her, we had a deal, if I can deal with it, a walk. Well, you can. But if you'd like to keep the girl around, really usually what she wants is to know that she is special to you and that she is able to voice her emotions. So many times when you have a guy and a girl fighting, the guy's trying to logically work, well, I don't really see what the problem is because the screen door, I fixed it and she's like, usually let's always do this to me, but we can fix this or whatever. Really what she wanted was for him to hug her and say, I love you. So don't say that to girls in multiple relationships. So what I do is I preempt that. Again, don't wait. When I notice that the girl is being a bit colder or I say, how are you? And she's like, fine. I don't just ignore it. I will bring it to a resolution point. I love confrontation because it leads to resolution. So many people are afraid of confronting somebody with an issue and therefore they let it fester until it explodes in some passive aggressive way. So if there's something happening with her, I will say, hey, it looks like you're thinking about something. Are you not cool with what's happening with us? Let's talk about it. And then I'll ask her to express exactly what's going on for her. And then she might say, I just feel like why am I not enough or it's really hurting me that you're with other girls or I'm getting too many feelings for you or whatever is that's going on for her. And then what you do is, again, back to the talk, you say, look, I understand that this can be really difficult for you and I'm actually happy to talk about it. And you allow her to vent it and show her that you're actually listening and that she is special to you because any woman that it is a lover of mine is very special to me.  What I love having is an intimate, deep connection with a girl actually often over years, but across different continents in different ways. So these things will definitely come up and she is special to me and I need to let her know that. That's primarily what the problem is. So once she's been able to express it, again, though, you must keep your boundary clear. So you can say you understand, you know, I can see how it's hard, et cetera, et cetera, but like I said at the beginning, Brittany, this is what I'm doing in my life right now and this is what I want and I'll understand if that's now no longer enough for you. Once again, I check in with her and I just give her that chance to go, again, you are free to walk and when someone's free to go, girls want to be with a man that wants them but doesn't need them. That's really powerfully attractive. So the door is always open either way for the girl and sometimes girls will go, all right, look, I just can't handle it.  Two years later they break up with him. Who's the first guy they call me because they know what my role is and they don't need to like act all awkward because they haven't called me in two years. They can just go and send me a text, hey, what are you up to? Well, well, look who's back. Are you free on Friday? I'm totally cool with that. Does that answer your question? Awesome. Next, yeah. Just my question is, can you go from say like a previous ex-girlfriend to put it into a multiple situation now? See my face, look at my face right now? No.  Can't go backwards. You cannot go from monogamous, serious, exclusive relationship to open relationship. Now, I mean, it has been done in the history of the world. You can try for as long as you want, but you're not going to, or is that, is that me being harsh to her? Because I know that she probably wants more, but I go, well, look, I'll give you that and she'll take it. Am I being cruel to her by allowing her to, and I'm like, I'm with other girls, but she wants, is that cruel to you? Oh, you mean you're in a situation where you've presented to the girl the offer, she stays with you because she... Thinks she can change me. She thinks she can change me. I'm aware of that. And I'm like, well, I'm not going to change. Yeah. I'm going to let you keep trying. Is that me being harsh? Well, I don't think that's a skillful move. When I first started doing this, I basically, I set it up. I had five girlfriends, but it was pretty shaky because the girls had accepted the terms, but were not really happy with the terms. So what you really need to start doing is the more that you become solid in your frame and archetype of this is what role I play, the less girls try and test it, because they just look at me and they're like, it's a waste of time trying to make it in my boyfriend. And on the other side, you need to screen for girls who are up for that kind of thing. And as I said, it's not a type of girl. It's a girl at a particular time.  And if they're like, oh, I'd never do that. Well, I'm like, cool. And they're like, yeah, well, it depends on the guy or whatever. All right, we're screening. We're starting to be on the same wavelength. I go for girls who are very confident, very confident, have high self-esteem and are very clear about what they want. And those girls tend to be far more open to this than girls who are insecure and needy. Yeah? Girls who are insecure and needy latch on to beta-protector males. And they just screen for each other and find each other with amazing accuracy every time. What you're projecting out there is what you'll start attracting. And if your attracting girl is on the fence and she really wants more and whatever else, you're probably in for some mess down the road. It's probably kinder on her and more efficient on you to go out there and just say, look, I cannot give you what you need and go and find the girls who want it. Yeah. All right, I think that's all I have time for. Thank you, ladies and gentlemen. It's been a pleasure.


So yeah, I filmed yesterday. So Saturday. I mean Friday Friday the 13th I filmed Friday November 13th I just took a few clips that morning and then I don't really film anything else for the day But today I'm hoping to get some work done So the Momo actually sent me this printer, which I think is super cool. I'm wanting one I actually reached out to them for it because I was interested in it and yeah, so they sent me this little printer it prints on sticker paper and on the Yeah, for some sticker paper and with the app on your phone You could either print stuff from your phone But it only prints a black and white or you could print using their images which are pretty nice So I printed a few of those so like you could cut these out or just paste them in like this cut them out And put them in your planner. Um, it's great for people who journal. I just found this one And I was gonna put like laundry and then it says no and no because like I have been a little bit behind on my laundry I found a pair computer and it's just like victorious and I Carly vibes. I don't know some plants Hero cards and things like that This camera shot looking thing So yeah, thank you so much to for now. 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We love this for another quick update I've been reading a ton of them or is it well, I've been reading a ton of metamorphosis for an update and Yeah, I'm really liking it I was reading at my last vlog if you were wondering this book does have a lot of trigger warnings for social assault and rape So please keep that in mind before picking it up But it's basically all about greek mythology and a bunch of myths and how they Intertwine and just there's so many stories in here and like so many different characters in here like you learned so much So Yeah, um, I had to break the spine like I I didn't want to but it wasn't opening fully So now it actually lays flat But which is because I'm actually writing in it like I actually need to You know do stuff like write in it and stuff So now it lays flat Thank god, but the spine bent so this might bother some people. I don't know but Yeah, I'm on page 312. I only have like 60 pages left until I'm done And then this will all be done and I'm so happy. It's from my mythology class. I'm reading this So Yeah, and I'm really enjoying the book. It's very interesting and mythologies by far my peer class right now So yeah, it is much later in the day now, but I just want to give you an update so uh in that previous clip I just showed like I did up on twitter to see what you guys would want to see And everyone voted for a vlog Um, which I didn't see the results until now and so it's vlogging any of these but Still, um, I just like to like it's nice to see that you guys enjoy them and stuff because sometimes I just think in my head that nobody watches my videos and nobody really cares. So Yeah, um, I don't know but like that'll be relevant.  So Uh, to see you guys be like, yeah, this this is what you should film Like it's a a good video or a video that I usually enjoy from you. So I just appreciate that. So thank you In really good news. I finished my door visit. I'm so happy. I've been reading this thing for like a while It's all written and like all analyzed like I've been through all the themes about it I've read a bunch of stories about all of them now like researched each individual myth as well Um for class pretty much. So yeah, this is all done. I'm really happy I think I'm moving at four stars. I've really really liked it again be aware of the tour warnings and also like if you're a mythology person Are you like mythology? I would highly recommend picking this up because it's like a huge staple And it's where a lot of the origin stories are at. So if you're interested in it, definitely check this out or add it to your tpr If anyone was ever wondering how I kind of organized for classes Like I use notion and I make my syllabus in here So then I can do completed and put in the grade and then there's actually a grading calculator along here Um, but I have like all the weeks and then when they're done and then you could just add like a a document in here Um, so then you have it all If it would load that'd be nice But you can add like a header photo and you can add table of contents in here I found it really useful for school this year. Like I usually use just like google drive But this year this has been really nice to use It's not gonna work. That is supposed to be look different when it's on full screen. But yeah, um And that's what I do if any of you care So welcome to tuesday on this vlog. It's november 17th Um, I felt filmed a few clips this morning. Um, but yeah, this is a weird shot on my room I actually put my mini tripod up for my um Little camera, which is this one the book my vlogging camera, but yeah, um I just wanted to give you an update. So this morning I've been working pretty good. It's only 11 But now since like seven it's snowing out. I'm so happy I've been just working on school. I did some social psychology some planning for today and then some like self-care stuff this morning and um, yeah, like all my morning stuff is done my bed made that kind of thing And for school after the social psychology stuff. I wanted to work on um classical mythology course that I really like so We're gonna be reading the argon the argonautica I probably said that wrong. Um It's basically the argonauts and like their journey for the golden fleece if you know anything about that story Or you've probably heard of it. Maybe um So we're gonna be reading that this week and I started reading I think I read half of like the first book because there's four books within the one. Um And I was just like I I hate reading stuff Just like all my computer like that like unless it's like a pdf that I can Highlight and annotate. I don't and even then I don't really enjoy it that much Like I rather have a physical copy that I can like underline and write in and stuff Um, so I ordered that because it's only 13 bucks on Amazon. So I ordered that I've been getting the if you guys care the oxford classic editions. That's what I've been getting all my um mythology and philosophy books in those editions for the old match But yeah, I just decided I'll work on mythology leader this week when the book comes in so then I can actually like read and annotate it properly Um, and then I just feel like I'll get a better understanding. So 13 bucks And it goes with my collection. So I'm good But anyways, I really want to film a video today I have a sponsorship deadline coming up and I'm kind of getting anxious about it Like I'm currently filming this vlog and then now I need to film. Um, there's lots of things I need to film But my most my priority is um the one featuring the sponsorship coming up So I have to figure out how I'm going to set up my camera. I don't know if I should do it like this or more without probably more that way Um, but I also make sure the lighting's okay, and I wouldn't wear these. Um But yeah, and I also just might do my makeup today. I don't know or my film without it. I don't know. I don't know But um, yeah, and then I'll do some Filming for that and hopefully everything will go okay. But yeah in terms of reading Yesterday I finished no a few days ago. I finished by the morpheus and I'm super happy Um, I was hoping to update you guys that I finished this like the are gonna not take forever I was hoping to tell you guys that I finished this um in my like next update, but I'm just gonna wait for the physical copy to come in because I don't know about you guys, but I don't like reading Hold on 80 years of text just on a screen and it's all the same like I rather just have the book and Mark it. So That's what we're doing. I don't know. I can't do anything else for mythology because I have to wait for that unless I want to watch videos But then I like I know what happens in the golden place But I rather not watch all of the other stuff for it or like read all the other stuff or till I've read the full thing um, plus there's not as much to do for mythology as usual, so I have to do a few things about these lecture based assignments that I have to do. I have to Do one or two I think because I messed up and it's like these ones are like one mark only So if you mess up you get a zero. Um, and if you do good you get a hundred percent. So they're really weird, but they're not worth a lot. Um But they're there so I have a tracker. I did check my emails. I have been studying. I did play animal crossing this morning Um, I did read beautiful So yeah, I might work on some Stuff for that class then so that's going to be my criminological research methods class. So we'll do that I know one side of my face is like the lighting is not great right here, but I got something in the mail that I'm gonna show you. So I'm excited. Um, I got cookie mama This is cookie mama cook star. I always played this on my little ds growing up And I really like to use a little pen. You got to like make things and Stir and like I just remember distinctively doing this growing up. So I decided to buy the switch game So I'm excited to see how it is. It just came in. Um Yeah, hopefully it's good. I'm excited Plus look how cute it is. It's just nostalgic for me to be honest. Um, have any of you guys played cooking mama The name you guys played on the ds. Have any of you tried the switch game? Let me know Hey guys, so it has been a few days, but I have just been really busy with school It's kind of crunch time right now semester's ending Year is ending to be honest and then christmas shopping and then all of that stuff online that is going on as well so Um, I ended up finishing jason and the golden police and I read this in one day and I just I just sat down and read it And I know two days Yeah, but which is still good for me But I got down and ended up making notes on it along the way and like underlining Literally every single page. So it took me a bit longer to get through but I quite liked it. I still think You know, like I really liked metamorphosis more just because it's like all of the works and you get so much more Myths and stories in it, but I really liked the story that we follow with jason and the golden fleece and Jason and his argonauts and then the islands that they go upon on their journey and they stop at certain islands And I'm just all the circumstances and things that go wrong throughout it So, yeah, it was pretty good. If you like mythology at all, I would suggest picking it up I'm not sure what I'm going to give it. I think a 3.5 or something. I'm not sure, but it was quite good So that's about it for reading wise But yeah, um journaling has been going really well like my journal for the end of the year is filling up and like I don't know this is what my journal looks like right now then I'm Kind of want to like I'm just planning for the next month And then I realized I got to get a new journal So that that that will be fun. Oh, I got some stickers in the mail From this come this etsy shop So I made a little spread with her stuff just because it was so cute She sent me some stickers. Well, I bought them and then she sent them I'm so weird. Sorry But she sent me some stickers. I'm already started using them a lot But the good thing about this was the shipping was like two dollars And yeah, that's what I was really happy about because it was more like as a shop that's um In Canada, so I'm actually able to get it for a good price, but I got these froggy friends Which are Super cute. I thought you guys would be interested. There's some missing because I've been using them Um, I got two animal crossing sheets These were my main motivation for buying this I haven't even know I've used the like the leaves on it. I'm lying. Okay. The winter sheet which again I've started to use quite a bit The Christmas sheet which I've started to pick into a little and then the home body sheet Is what I got which has some little books and tea and all things cozy So yeah, I don't know. I thought you guys would just like to see that but yeah, that's a little update From me. I'm probably gonna end this vlog Here and then work for another like probably do another one in the near to late future But if you made it this far, please comment down below um Comment froggy down below Or that frog emoji that'd be super cute. I really like frogs Yeah, thank you guys so so much for watching if you sit until the end I really really appreciate you and yeah, thank you so much for watching my videos and commenting down below Or liking the video or anything that just means a lot to me. So yeah If you want to see my last video, I did a video talking about Book recommendations based on metal music and did the second video in that series Um, so yeah, I was yeah, I did that so you can watch it if you want So I'll have that link down below if you want to watch it But yeah, thank you guys so so much for watching again, and I'll see you super soon. Bye


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All right, so voting why do I want to talk about voting today? Well, you know while I was on leave You know to tie this in I thought about that voting You know about being the absentee voter as I was back in my state, you know of California where I'm registered to vote and Thinking wow, you know upcoming primaries Across the the United States Getting up ready for you know Even some presidential elections coming up here in the near future where people are starting to talk about Whether they're throwing their hat in the ring. Where are we with our? Absentee voting and where are we as military whether we're Air Force or Army or Navy or Coast Guard or Marine? Across the world and where are we in educating our young? You know military on voting people that we vote for as we are military members are the ones, you know in Congress and state and our federal government that are voting on You know our pay voting on our use of our military Overseas and you know, how much money we get as a as an Air Force as a Navy as a Marine as an Army as a Coast Guard And what we do with that and so it's very critical not just as an American citizen But as a military member It's very critical that we take the time to research our candidates that we talk about voting that we're registered to vote And we're doing everything that we need to do To be that absentee voter. So a lot of us, you know in that age group between 17 and 24 Come into the Navy during that time frame and for many of us We turn 18 or are 18 eligible to vote in the United States While we're in the military during our first hitch and so we're learning how to vote For the first time while we're in the military and for many of us the first time we're going to vote Is while we're overseas and having to use an absentee that absentee ballot so for many of us The first time we're voting And we're voting overseas when we're in the United States military How do we do it? How do we vote? So for all of our young sailors out there in our young military regardless of branch How do you vote? You're in the military. You just turned 20 years old You know, it's the first election that you're able to vote in you've never done it before So I guess my first message out there is Don't be afraid to vote or don't not vote Because you're not familiar with how to vote Find that assistance find that chief or find that, you know Leader that can help you vote every command is required to have a voting assistance officer, right? So now that we all know that every command has a voting assistance officer That's your first step find out who your voting assistance officer is Where else can we go to get help if you're in a remote location? And you don't know who your voting assistance officer is or you're on the road Or you kind of want to look things up yourself Everybody has a great website out there. Who's our website to go to that is fvap.gov Right, and that's the The federal voting assistance program, right fvap.gov if your Dependents that are of voting age are also with you overseas Can they get an absentee ballot? Can they vote absentee? Absolutely. And where can we find this information? Fvap.gov That's right the best website ever about voting. Yeah, there's lots of information I know you have the website up and you have looking at right now the frequently asked questions And that's one of the questions in there, right? Yeah, it is so like give us verbatim like right It says under the uniform services, right? You know, there's specific questions And I think one of them was you know, can my dependence or can my spouse? Vote is that correct? So what is it? What does it tell us on there? Yeah, somebody asked my family members. They're not in the military. Can they also vote absentee and the answer first word? Yes, eligible spouse's independence and that is a u.s citizens 18 years or older of military personnel may vote absentee Some say some states allow children of military personnel residing overseas who are u.s citizens But who have never resided in the u.s to claim one of their u.s citizens parents legal state or residents as they're up And see that's good information and that was something I didn't even think of and didn't know So if your child turns 18 years old While you're stationed overseas and they haven't registered before so what state do they claim so they can claim either parents State where they're registered, which is great because they haven't settled somewhere in the states yet. They've been overseas And so that's great information when we bring this all together Age 18 or older. Yes vote vote vote vote If you're a first time voter register register register register If you're overseas, whether you're active duty military or your dependent spouse or child that is of a voting age Register register register vote vote. You are eligible as well for that absentee ballot And if you are looking at changing your state of Register of Votership, where do you do that? How do you do that? And again your voting assistance officer www.fvap.gov Has a myriad of information on how to do that.