This episode was prerecorded as part of a live continuing education webinar. On-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation through all CEUs. Register at allceus.com slash counselor toolbox. I want to welcome everybody back to anger management part two. If you remember, this was a two part series that we started last week. So we're going to go ahead and pick up from here. Whereas last session was more focused on identifying the root causes of anger, leading to anger outbursts. Today, we're going to really talk more about what clients can do to deal with that anger and what to do when their threat system gets activated. We'll explore multiple skills necessary, including mindful self-awareness, distress tolerance, values, clarification and goal setting, motivational enhancement skills, cognitive behavioral skills, cognitive processing skills, communication skills, compassion focused skills, self-esteem building skills and ultimately wellness skills. So the first thing clients need to do in order to deal with anything, whether it's anxiety or anger or depression, is become more self-aware. So helping clients become more mindfully aware of what's going on with them moment by moment is really going to help them not only understand where they are at a given time, but they'll become more aware when things start to go a little bit awry and they'll be like, okay, I'm starting to feel a little bit wonky and they'll be able to intervene before it becomes a big thing. So clients need to become aware of their physical, emotional and mental state in the present moment. Not just, you know, how am I feeling, but really focus on emotionally where am I at, am I happy, am I sad, am I bored, any of those feelings? And I usually encourage clients to identify at least two feelings because rarely are we just feeling one. Content can be one, but generally content goes with something else. So have them identify their emotions. Then their mental state. Are they foggy? Are they able to concentrate? Are they being feeling like they're being kind of negative? And most of their thoughts tend to be negative and critical or are they relatively optimistic today and creative? And physically, how are they feeling? Are they achy? Do they need to take a time out and roll their shoulders because they've been typing on a keyboard all day? Does their neck hurt? Do they need to stretch? Do they need to get up and walk around or go to the bathroom? How are they feeling? Too often, you know, I think we're all guilty of this. We will be sitting there and we'll be doing something and we'll kind of be in the groove.  So it's important for clients to become more mindful of how they feel moment to moment.   So that's five times a day. You know, once they master the initial three, add two more because before they get out of bed, it's going to kind of set the tone for the entire day. One thing some research has shown is that our filters are autopilot filters aren't kicked in when we first wake up in the morning, but once we get up and start moving around, then we start operating more on autopilot. So if people do a mindfulness scan when they first wake up in the morning before they get out of bed, before they have their coffee, they'll probably be a little bit more in tune to exactly how they're feeling. This is especially true if they can avoid waking up to a really loud alarm that they have to like fly across the room to turn off, but whatever it takes. And in the evening, likely they will improve their sleep quality if they do a mindfulness scan so they can identify anything that is increasing their anxiety and deal with it. They can identify anything that may be making the physically uncomfortable and deal with it. And they can also identify their emotional state and maybe work to improve that. So as they're going to sleep, they're focusing on the positive and something that makes them happy instead of dreading going to work in the morning or replaying something bad that happened the day before. So again, mindful self-awareness.  When I worked in residential, we had worksheets that the clients were expected to do and turn into their primary counselor that had them basically doing a mindfulness scan at each one of those points. They would turn their things in at the end of the week and then they and their counselor would look to see if there were any patterns throughout the day of, you know, if you woke up and you felt this way. What did you do and how did the rest of your day go? Did it get progressively worse or were you able to arrest it because you found out what was going on or you at least realized that you weren't feeling great and you moved on? We know that if we get up in the morning for most people, if we are not in a good mindset, if we're in pain, if we're grumpy for whatever reason, we're going to be more likely to be irritable. And you know, I'm not saying fly off in a rage, but just be irritable and cranky and unpleasant to be around because we don't feel well. So we want to make sure that people identify their vulnerabilities as they are in the present moment and adjust accordingly if they didn't sleep well and they're foggy headed, making sure that, you know, they get what has to be done done, but they don't try to get six other things done, you know, give them self a break and say, let's just get what has to be done done today because that'll be as much as I can do and being compassionate with themselves. We also want to encourage them to identify the components of their feelings. And if you think back to emotion efficacy, then this will sound a little bit familiar. The emotional component of their feelings. How do they feel? Happy, sad, glad, mad, scared, any of those words. What are their thoughts that are going through their head right now that are supporting that emotion that they're labeling? Because generally we label thoughts with an emotion and then they feed on each other. If you are having negative thoughts, then you may have in a negative emotional state, which will contribute to negative thoughts. You see where we're going. We want them to identify physical sensations that are associated with that emotion and eventually they're going to learn to differentiate the physical sensations associated with a threat, which may cause anger or fear, you know, with your fight or flight versus physical sensations associated with too much caffeine or too little sleep or low blood sugar. And then we want people to identify what behavioral urges they have with each and every feeling. So they develop sort of a catalog. And if they start feeling this urge, they may not have noticed the physical sensations, the thoughts or the emotions, but if they start having this urge to just like, I don't exactly know what that is, but you get the idea. Then they know to check in with themselves because they know that urge is associated with being angry. So they can check in and go, all right, what's going on with me? If they start having sweaty palms, if they start flushing, if they start grinding their teeth, whatever some of their physical sensations are that are associated with anger, if they start feeling those, they can take a break and go, okay, something must be bothering me that I'm trying to avoid dealing with. For me, I know I clench my teeth. If I start getting stressed, I'll clench my teeth.   So physical sensations may be your leading indicator, if you will, or if you just notice that you're being a negative Nellie and you find fault with everything. You're looking at the glass is half empty. You are looking at the day as partly cloudy. Then we want to say, okay, if you're having these negative thoughts, what's putting you in that frame of mind. So there's a lot that can be done with mindful self-awareness to prevent vulnerabilities or to help people identify days when they're going to be more likely to be irritable, more likely to have an anger episode. And they can also identify leading indicators of when they are heading down that anger path so they can arrest it before they're rageful. They can stop it at like mildly irritated.  But think about how people react in line. Some people start fidgeting and getting antsy looking around trying to find another aisle they can get in. Some people start talking more loudly. Some people start criticizing the cashier. You can listen in and see how different people have a different leading edge for their anger, but you can identify that, you know, they're starting to get upset. So once they're aware of their anger, their anxiety, their distress, whatever label they want to put on it, we need to help clients learn distress tolerance skills. Distract don't react. So when they first start getting upset, they have that adrenaline haze going on, you know, the body is said, okay, there's a threat. We need to decide whether we're going to fight or we're going to flee. At that point in time, the person's automatic reaction, if you will, is the one that's going to be reward, going to be the one the person has had rewarded the most. Most of our clients, if they're in seeing us because they have anger management issues or anger issues, we can pretty well assume that anger has worked for them and that's their go to response, which has led to over generalization and all kinds of other stuff. So we know that they're likely going to respond with anger. Okay, we don't want them to do that. So we need to help them figure out how they can distract. So they can move past that adrenaline kind of tunnel vision and make a conscious choice about what behavior to choose instead of just relying on the most automatic urge. They can ride the wave when they start to get angry, they can identify how big the wave is, are we talking it's one of those monsoon waves or is it just one of those little gentle rolling waves and then where are you on the wave? Are you at the crest where it's just going to get better from here or are you are you building? Are you still building momentum on that anger? If you're building momentum, we can help them identify strategies to help diffuse that and ask themselves questions like what is it about this situation that's making me angry? As they try to address that, it'll give their body time to get rid of some of the adrenaline. Another thing they can do when they're riding the wave is just experience it. They identify this is where I'm not on the wave. So I guess I might as well just buckle up and hang on because it's make it a little bit worse before it gets better, but I can do this. So using mindfulness skills to just be aware of it, identify it and let it go without trying to fight it going. I should feel differently, but you don't. So let's just let it come and go and then you can decide what to do about it. Positive coping thoughts or affirmations when something happens, if somebody can say, okay, I've got this or it's all good or I can handle this some sort of positive affirmation that tells them this is not worth my getting all wrapped up and upset about because I can handle it. Remember anger and fear, you know, and primarily we're talking about anger here. It's a reaction to a threat. So if the person can say this is not that big of a threat, then the anger is automatically going to diffuse. Mindful breathing as we get angry, as we get upset, as our body perceives a threat, our respiration goes up, our heart rate goes up. If you can bring the respiration down, the heart rate will go down. The body associates that with calming. So, you know, there will be a cascade effect that's positive if people focus on their breathing and this doesn't have to be four in and four out or six in and six out. It's just focusing on their breath as it comes in and as it goes out. When you focus on it, you don't tend to hyperventilate.  Do the opposite. If somebody says something that snarky to you or if something happens that makes you feel like you would get this rush of anger, put a smile on your face. This isn't the way to cope. This doesn't fix the situation, but if you are doing the opposite, it helps deescalate the situation so you can make a more rational choice. You know, sometimes somebody will say something snarky and it's not the time or the place to handle it, but you need to figure out a way to get control of your own anger.  I got this. It can help your body kind of trick your mind into saying this isn't as much of a threat as I might have initially perceived. And then sublimation, which is sort of a Freudian defense mechanism, but you know, Freud and I kind of get along in some respects. It's taking energy that would normally be used for something that is antisocial like breaking stuff or screaming or whatever and using it for something pro social. So instead of getting angry and throwing something across the room, take that energy and go for a walk. Do something proactive with it. I pull weeds. If I've had a bad day, my kids can rate the level of my mood by the size of the power tool that I'm using. If I'm just pulling weeds by hand, I'm good. You know, they can come out and ask me whatever. If I'm using the chainsaw, probably ought to give mom some space. So you can have an idea of different ways that you can use your energy. So if you have a lot of pent up energy and frustration, maybe you need to go dig a hole out in your garden or do something that's really energy intensive to deal with that intense feeling until you can figure out exactly how to deal with it using the rational your more rational mind. Now going back to and this is part of dbt, but it's also part of a CT and many of your other behavioral therapies. Ultimately, we're trying to help people work towards their goals. So what are their values and if you Google values worksheets or values list, you can come up with a whole slew of different worksheets that you can download for your clients that list different values like compassion, creativity, loyalty, patience, tolerance, determination, honesty, faithfulness, courage, optimism, integrity and more. I have them identify which ones are important to them and in what way those affect their goals in their relationships with their family and what ways those impact their goals at work and what ways those impact their goals and how they interact with society in general and themselves. So I asked them to look at that and set kind of set goals. If I want to be considered compassionate. Great. That's my goal out here. You know, maybe I already am, but if that's something I need to work for or work towards, then I know that when I have an anger situation, I need to stop and remember. Okay, I want to think of myself and I want others to think of me as compassionate. So it's getting all up in Bubba's face and screaming going to do any good and is it going to get me closer to where I want to go and the answer is no. So understanding your values or having clients understand their values can help them make better choices in their responses to distress. Distress happens. Anger happens. You know, that's just the way we're wired, but the way we choose to deal with it is well within our wheelhouse. Another thing we can do is ask clients what's important to you in five years. What do you need to have to be content? Because sometimes they'll go through that values list and they'll check off like half of them things on there and we can't possibly right goals for all of those and have them focus on those. That's just too much. So what do you need to have to be content? Do you need to have a half a million dollar house? Do you need to have a Ferrari? You know, you may want to but what do you need? And we have a big discussion between the difference between needing and wanting. An alternate exercise that I've used is asking people what 20 things they need to be happy and this is before we have the need versus want discussion. And then I say, okay, now I want everybody to eliminate to, you know, you can't have all 20 now. You can only have 18 so eliminate to and we keep going through and doing this and talking about why they eliminated what they did until we get down to where each person only has six things left. Now by the time you get down to six, that's pretty bare bones and that's identifying what is really core in this person's value system and we can set goals around those. So ACT interventions. One of the things we can do is ask clients why they consider anger to be a problem. Anger is a feeling we have and instead of resisting it and trying to tell yourself you shouldn't be angry, accept it. Anger is what it is and it's really kind of cool because it's your body's way or your brain's way of saying there's a threat and you need to be protected. So what is it about anger that's a problem and most of the time it comes down to their responses to anger, not anger itself, which is the problem. Determinative anger is part of experiential avoidance. That means do they get angry instead of having to face uncomfortable emotions like fear and depression that are very overwhelming or make them feel vulnerable, do they instead lash out with anger so they don't have to feel vulnerable or feel emotions that for them are more painful. Determinative anger is instrumental. Are you using it to manipulate others and is this part, is this where you want to be?  Distinguish feeling angry from acting aggressively. You can feel angry without acting aggressively. And again, validating that anger is a very natural innate feeling that we have and it's going to happen. It's just how we deal with it. Increase body awareness, mindfulness of physical sensations that indicate anger is rising. We've talked, we talked about that earlier. Diffusion around unhelpful cognitions that feed anger or justify aggressive behavior. So what does that mean? That means when you start getting angry, if you start telling yourself negative things, telling yourself aggressive things or you become very critical of everything or a lot of things around you. These are all unhelpful cognitions that are going to keep you in that negative. I'm under threat mindset. So helping people diffuse. One way they can do that is every time they have a negative thought, they have to have a positive thought. So it makes them stop. Increase awareness of anger triggers. We've talked about that. We talked about that last time. What is it that really ticks you off? But also we're not just a lot of times when you talk about anger, people think rage, the things that make them really, really irritable and angry. We also want to talk about what things irritate you of what things are you jealous or envious because all of those are different sort of permutations of anger. But if you just ask what makes you angry, you're not going to get a full picture. Why is this important? Because it helps us understand the underpinnings of a certain person's anger, what values, what things are going on that are motivating this person's anger. If they believe that or if they want to be seen as powerful and successful, that's one of their main values and they get angry if they fail at something or if someone else wins and they don't, you know, I can understand why that happens. Then we need to look and talk about that therapeutically and figure out other ways to deal with it because at this point, anger is probably not getting them where they want to be. Learn to surf the anger. Ride that wave. Identify that you're angry and just ride your wave until the adrenaline subsides and go, okay, it's all good.  It's just like, okay, I need to ride this through. I'm not going to think about it for two or three minutes. And oftentimes that's like a lap around the building. Connect with values. What sort of partner, parent, friend or worker and or worker do you want to be? Keep a list of those on your phone. Keep a list of those ever present, you know, somewhere where you can see them and remind yourself constantly and review them when you do your mindfulness scans. This is the kind of person I am. So when the person is in under stress, they keep, they've been reminding themselves of the kind of person that they want to be or the kind of person that they know they are once they get their anger under control and it's easier to remember why they don't want to lash out. Encourage them to do imaginary rehearsal of values, consistent responses. And I think we've talked about this before. They can imagine situations that really get under their skin that really get their anger or irritability going and figure out how they're going to deal with those and practice in their mind dealing with those practice in session in individual or in group dealing with those because what's a trigger for one person is likely a trigger for multiple others. But they can also do things and I've done this before I've brought in clips from different television shows like Dr. Phil or back in back in the day Jerry Springer. You know, there's a lot of stuff that can get people irritable on there and we talk about, you know, what was it about this that triggered your anger or got you all fired up and how could you best handle it? We also look at what happened, especially on the Springer show where people would really demonstrate poor anger management and we would rewind and say, okay, now what anger behaviors did you see leading up to this? Did you see the person start fidgeting in their seat? Did you see them start clenching their jaw? Did their facial expression change? So they become more aware of what anger looks like in other people and they can also at the same time become more aware of their own anger clues motivational enhancement. Okay, we're going to work on anger management. Great. But you know what anger and anger outbursts serve a purpose and the person uses them as their go-to response because they have produced the most benefit. So we've got to figure out why is it again that I'm giving this up. So we want to look at motivational enhancement again. What are the benefits of staying angry continuing with this behavior the way it is? Why are we highlighting this? Because we need to find other ways to meet those needs. So if one of the benefits of staying angry is the fact that you know they have more control over situations and people do what they want them to do, we say, okay, aside from intimidating them, how else could we help you or could you learn to get people to do what you want them to do? Let's talk about communication skills. Let's talk about assertiveness. So I go through each dimension and then we talk about the drawbacks of anger and generally that's a pretty easy list too because they thought about that before they came to counseling. Then we think about the benefits of changing and they've probably thought about that at some too, but change and letting go of the anger is not a panacea because sometimes they're going to feel vulnerable and that may be a drawback to changing. So how did they handle that? So we want to eliminate the benefits of staying angry and we want to eliminate the drawbacks to changing or to anger management in order to maximize people's motivation. CBT, cognitive distortions and unhelpful thoughts. A lot of times when we think about anger and we look at the thoughts that were leading up to an anger episode, there are a lot of unhelpful thoughts and behaviors that happen. All or nothing thinking. You always do this or you never hold up to your end of the bargain, which leads to you know also over generalizing. You never do this at home, which means you must never do it ever and always. Mind reading or intention forecasting.  Really? How do you know what they're thinking? Feelings or facts. I felt angry for a minute. Therefore, it must be threatening. Not necessarily. We've already identified the fact that a lot of times people's feelings tend to be over generalized. So a lot of times things that they get feel angry about like really angry about are more like down on the irritation level of the scale. Tunnel vision only seeing one thing and what's going on. I don't care what happened in your life. I don't care what's going on with you. You are going really slow right now at getting me checked out and I feel annoyed. Therefore, you must be trying to annoy me. I don't know any cashier. Well, that generally does things to try to annoy people. I'm sure there are that just kind of get snarky every once in a while, but a lot of times if somebody feels angry, then they find a way to justify their anger instead of saying is this anger justified? Personalization, taking it personally.  So that's personalization and all or none thinking kind of wrapped up in one. Blaming a lot of times. Blaming is used when people get angry because they they feel vulnerable.  When somebody feels vulnerable and feels attacked, then they may try to diffuse or deflect attention to everybody else in the group. Well, so and so only showed up for three of the meetings and so and so didn't get his thing in on time. And if so and so would have done whatever, then I would have been able to do a better job. Maybe, maybe not, but blaming tends to be a way of reacting somewhat passive aggressively, somewhat aggressively depending on how you do it. When people feel vulnerable or threatened and a lot of times blaming comes up when only when people feel angry. It's like, okay, I'm going to spread the misery. Magnification making a mountain out of a molehill something relatively minor happens and you just blow it completely out of proportion. The fallacy of fairness sometimes people get angry because something isn't fair and helping clients understand that you know what life's not fair and it really stinks sometimes. This is one of the harder ones to help people kind of wrap their head around because they want to find meaning behind it, but helping them also understand and look around and see really good people who've had bad things happen to them can help them also understand that they're not unique.  So part of CBT cognitive behavioral therapy is using the ABCs the activating event. What was it that happened? The consequences you got angry. So what beliefs in there led you to get angry? Did you believe? Did you have the thought that you were disrespected which led you to the thought that they were being rejecting or critical? Okay, well then identify it. So then you're going to go back and dispute the beliefs and go. Was the person being rejecting? Maybe, maybe not, you know, I can't forecast what's going to be unhelpful and what's going to be as they would say irrational without seeing each individual situation, but okay, they mark out the ones that are unhelpful. Then they may be left with some that are still negative, you know, maybe this person that they're interacting with is just an unhappy person. So you need to decide at that point is getting angry with this person. The best use of your energy. Is it going to change anything? Is it going to help you achieve your goals? A lot of times the answer is going to be no because anything you do is probably just going to make the situation worse and draw you further away from your goals and values of being compassionate and you know, hardworking and all that other kind of stuff. CPT or cognitive processing therapy encourages people to play out the tape. If something happens and you get angry, that's fine. It happened. I got angry because which is related to my fear or threat, feeling of threat of rejection, failure, loss of control or unknown. If and this is where we start, you know, playing the tape all the way through. If I lash out or if I act out in a certain way towards this person, what are the consequences? It may make me feel better in the short term, but in the long term, what are the effects? What is the evidence for and against my beliefs that are underlying my anger? Do I have tunnel vision? Am I focused on just one aspect of the situation? Like what happened in this particular meeting? Am I considering that the person may have been less than tactful? Maybe they had a bad day leading up to this meeting and they're just there. They're not in a good frame of mind. A lot of times when we get angry, the tunnel vision kicks in and all you can see is what happened and how it made you feel and the other person's part in it without seeing your part. Am I using all or none terms?  Am I confusing something that's possible with something that's likely? Yes, if your proposal gets rejected, it's possible that you could get your job cut and then you would be unemployed. How likely is that to happen? Are your reactions based on feelings or facts? That keeps coming up in the cognitive part of any of our cognitive behavioral therapies. Communication, we find that a lot of times when we're dealing with people who have anger management issues, one of the biggest stumbling blocks that's led them to where they're at right now is they haven't had the ability to effectively communicate their wants, needs and feelings prior to now. So they feel misunderstood. They feel like nobody listens. They feel like they're being ignored because they're not effectively communicating. Part of communication too though is listening. So they're not hearing what the other person needs and wants. Then they may both be kind of fighting against the same brick wall. So effective communication. One person talks at a time. Person number one states her position. Person number two listens and paraphrases what she thinks she heard. Now, if person number one says something and person number two says, so what I'm hearing is you think I never show up for any of these meetings and the reason we failed to get our proposal accepted was all my fault. Person one would be like, where'd you get that from? So then person number two, person number one can come back and go either. Well, yeah, that's right or no, no, no, no, no, no. That's not what I'm saying at all. What I'm saying is and states it again, go back and forth until person number one's message is understood by person number two. Then person number two gets to say, well, my perspective is blah, blah, blah and person number one has to paraphrase until they're both understanding one another. Once people practice this a little bit, generally the first few times people have this kind of discussion. It goes back and forth quite a bit because they're so used to mind reading and they're so used to forecasting and they're so used to anticipating that a lot of that goes on. But once they get used to paraphrasing and actually stopping and listening without imposing their own expectations on a conversation, it goes a lot faster. When communicating, try to start out with something positive. I appreciate that you came in here to talk to talk with me today or I appreciate, you know, have this conversation with my kids a lot. I appreciate how hard you've been working to get your chores done every single day. One thing I'd like for you to do focus on a little bit more is, you know, for me, it's getting the corners underneath the cabinets when you mop the floor. It just, it bugs me when there's gunk in the corners. I try not to use the word but because but nullifies everything that you said before that. I really appreciate what you were doing but you need to do this, which says, you know, I'm just kind of using a lead-in and I don't really mean it. Try to eliminate but and try to eliminate however. I had one employee who used to, every time she'd get ready to say but, she would stop and go, however, blah, blah, blah, blah, and I was like, well, that's the same as but. So let's talk about what the issue is. No interrupting. If someone is talking, let them talk. Let them say what they need to say before you expect or forecast that you know what they're going to say.  One problem at a time. No lit needs have done me wrongs. Focus on one thing.  Don't dump all that on them at once. Talk about one thing. Then move on to the next. Identify your part in the situation. If any, you know, sometimes, you know, especially like as a parent, I can identify where it's my fault that I have let them get away with doing without doing something for a while before I called them on it. So I can identify my part in it and then we talk about what the solutions are. Use objective measurable language.  No, not so much. Doesn't help anybody for anything. Objective measurable language. Own your feelings and say, I get frustrated when you leave your underwear in the middle of your bedroom floor. That is something the person can address. If I say I get frustrated because you're such a slob, then the person may be going, well, I don't see a problem, so I'm not sure what you're honing in on and telling me I'm a slob. And slob is not nice and it will put the other person on defensive. Yeah. Avoid using all or nothing terms. You never do the dishes. You never pick up after yourself. Avoid catastrophizing. Well, you know, we've kind of talked about that and always propose solutions. So, you know, when I have a discussion with my kids about, you know, their chores not getting done, then I propose one to three solutions of, well, we could do this, this or this. What do you think would work best for you? And generally, I have a part in it too because I'm addressing what my part in the situation was. Compassion. Instead of staying angry at yourself for doing something wrong or failing at something, think about what your values are regarding how to treat people and would you treat and treat yourself that way? So, if you view yourself as compassionate, if you view yourself as caring, treat yourself that way. If you're saying things to yourself that you would never say to anybody else, yes, it's a clue, think what you would say to your child. And, you know, if you do something wrong or you fail at something, identify what you can learn from the situation. The only way we learn is if we kind of get outside of our comfort zone. Instead of staying angry at others, using compassion by thinking about what your values are regarding how to treat them and choosing a consistent course of action. If somebody does something that really gets under your skin, how can you be compassionate towards them? Take a breath, let it go. Maybe, maybe if it's a co-worker, take a breath and let it go and then go find them, you know, 15 minutes or half an hour later or something and be like, hey, you seem like you're having a bad day today. Is there anything I can do to help? Identify three alternate reasons, something that irritated you may have happened. And I use the slow cashier because most of us have experienced that.  And they start blaming the cashier for being too slow. You know, I'm like, let's think about why he or she may be going slow. Are they doing the best they can do? You know, we're very blessed that we have, you know, a lot of skills and tools at our disposal. Not everybody has that. What might have happened leading up to this that causes them to go slower today? Or just, you know, think about if you were in that person's position and you were going really slow, what might it be like in your head? What might be going on that's just slowing up the works? If it's trying to manipulate others to do something for you or to get attention, do it yourself. So if you're getting angry at somebody because you want them to get up and get something to drink, get you something to drink and they're just sitting there watching TV, get up and do it yourself. You know, anger at them is only trying to manipulate them and train them to do what you want them to do. Self-esteem, lack of self-esteem contributes to constantly seeking external approval and being hypersensitive, hypersensitive to threats of rejection or isolation.  So working on self-esteem, being confident in who you are, confident in your values and not needing every single other person in the world to say, you're all right. Now we all need some people to give us validation. You know, that's just part of being in an interdependent society, but needing everyone to like you is very, very different. Values-based activities build self-esteem. So it's important that people do things that are consistent with their values intentionally. So if you have a value of being compassionate, each day, try to do something compassionate for someone else. People with self-esteem issues may get very angry if they perceive rejection because maybe a stranger on the street gives them an ugly look. So if their initial response is to get offended and get angry and be like, I wonder what was wrong with him, that's going to have a much different outcome than if their response was, oh, golly, that person must be having a really bad day. If somebody does something and you automatically take it as a personal rejection, figure out where that fits into your values of being confident and being selfish word or whatever, you know. If your initial response is to lash out, again, you want to look at what are your values and what activities can you do that are consistent instead of lashing out? Part of this is also generally modeling because you're modeling effective coping skills to everyone around you, not just your kids, people, just any old person that you work with, that you encounter, they see and through observational learning, we learn a lot of stuff. You know, I learned a ton from my first two practicum advisors and it wasn't so much what they actually sat down and taught me. It was observing how they worked with clients and how they worked with fellow staff, team members.   But if you force yourself to do the opposite and smile and say good morning, they may not reciprocate or they may, but at least you didn't contribute to making their day worse. So self-esteem enhancement planning. I didn't want to say treatment planning because, you know, it's not always treatment. First thing people want to do is figure out who they are. What are their values? What do they stand for right now? If somebody had to write a description of them or a biography of them right now, what would it be like? And then who they want to be.  What values are important to you? Go back to those top five values. Identify things you can do each and every week or even each and every day to build on them or to reinforce them. Keep a journal each day of what you did to embody your values. Five values, five pages in a journal. Each day, add something to each page or focus on a value a day. So you have five values. There's five days in a work week. So Monday's Compassion, Tuesday is forgiveness, Wednesday is dedication, whatever it is for you. And then write a journal or at least reflect on how it felt to embody that particular value that day. Self-esteem can also be done or self-esteem work can be done through the mirror exercises.  So I would say to somebody, I want you to tell me about your friends, your good friends. What characteristics do they have? Because generally the characteristics they have are the same ones you have. So we go through and make a list of the characteristics they have, but then I encourage clients to write those characteristics in, you know, eyebrow pencil or whatever on their mirror because their friends are a reflection of themselves. So if their friends are really awesome, then guess what? They probably are really awesome too. The way to go list and you can do this. I've done this as either tearing down a brick wall or building up eggs. If there are things that somebody wants to accomplish, if there are goals they have in order to become the person they want to be, we make a brick wall out of construction paper and each brick is a goal they have to help them achieve being who they want to be.  The other one which kind of works in the opposite is building up eggs and forgive me for my impersonation right now, but we have chickens and when our chickens lay an egg, they make this sound and my son identified when he was really little, we first started having chickens. He said the chicken did a good thing and I said, what and the chickens make a sound something like and in his mind that was the chicken saying I did a good thing. I did a good thing and I know y'all are just like rolling in the aisles laughing right now, but you know it's all good but building up eggs and this works a little bit better for kids because you're building up something instead of tearing it down, but every time they do something on their treatment plan or every time they do something that embodies their values, they get an egg and it sits under their chicken and their pile of eggs just builds up as they do more and more good things. So their self-esteem also builds up and there I'm sure there are other metaphors that you can use, but those are the two that I generally use. People also need to develop motivational sayings to repeat to themselves when they feel rejected. What's a saying they can tell themselves about acceptance? Whether they're accepting themselves or whether they have other people that accept them. When they feel like they failed, what can they tell them about prior success themselves about prior successes or about what they can learn what they gained from that failure. When they feel uneasy about the unknown, what can they tell themselves about taking chances and the benefits that those have had before and in the past when they felt a loss of control, what's happened and what can they tell themselves about trusting the process or trusting themselves or having faith in themselves or the higher power or other people. So for our basic threats, we want to have some motivational and strengths-based sayings that when we start to feel that threat, we can go, I got this. Wellness skills and I know we're running short of time here. Increase the happy. You can't be angry and happy at the same time. So if you focus on saying, you know, today I am going to be happy and make sure you put things in there. Don't just tell yourself, I'm going to be happy, but put things in your day that make you happy and focus on the small things. You know, I love jumping spiders and so I ended up reading about jumping spiders this morning while I was drinking my coffee.  Anyhow, don't sweat the small stuff. It's a good book, but it also is just a good principle. If you're going to stay healthy and well, getting caught up in every little hiccup is going to be exhausting and you won't have energy left to be happy. Keep a gratitude journal, things that you're grateful for each day. Add one or two things to it every single day. Put a priority on relaxation. We need to relax to let our body rejuvenate. So it's not optional. It's not something that, okay, I'll relax on Saturday. Even if it's only 15 minutes, give yourself a relaxation break every day. Limit as many irritants as possible. We can only handle so much in a day. So, you know, try to portion out any irritants that you have to do. So they're not all on one day. So maybe do the bills one day and return phone calls the next day or return phone calls in the morning and do bills in the afternoon. Counter every negative with a positive that helps you keep a balance, get quality sleep, eat a healthy diet, exercise because we know that reduces pain and improves serotonin and improves mood and address pain issues. Know yourself and be your best friend. That goes back to temperament, too. And we've talked about temperament and treatment. If you need downtime every day, make sure to take it. If you need more of a schedule, if you don't do so well, if everything's just kind of all up in the air and loosey-goosey, know that and assert that that's something that you need in your relationships. But be your best friend. Try to be accommodating to your own needs. Develop a social support system and make your environments plural, welcoming and comfortable. This can be your home, your office and your car or whatever you it is that you ride on the way to work. Try to make as many of your environments as pleasurable as possible.  Children perceive many things as threatening. So a single event like a barking dog can be overgeneralized. As adults, we can help them challenge those beliefs, but a lot of us as adults haven't challenged our own beliefs that have been overgeneralized. So we may need to go back and do that. Level the playing field by taking care of yourself like you would take care of your child, which means be compassionate. Don't push through just because you're grown up and you're supposed to be compassionate to yourself. Address your vulnerabilities. Learn about your anger triggers. Develop coping strategies to deal with threats of rejection, isolation, failure, the unknown and loss of control. Identify your values and values consistent reactions to threats and put them on a note card or on your smartphone so you can access them when you are triggered because then you're not thinking as clearly and you're not as able to come up with the new solutions. Learn ways to deescalate yourself, whether that's through breathing, using a strength-based coping mantra, disengaging either mentally and or physically, taking a walk, phoning a friend, distracting yourself for a minute and urge or feelings surf. Practice, practice, practice. If you practice using these when you are not in the midst of an anger situation with someone else, you will be more able to do it when you are with other people.  So encourage people to keep an anger log. Are there any questions? If you enjoy this podcast, please like and subscribe either in your podcast player or on YouTube. You can attend and participate in our live webinars with Dr. Snipes by subscribing at allceuse.com slash counselor toolbox. This episode has been brought to you in part by allceuse.com, providing 24-7 multi-media continuing education and pre-certification training to counselors, therapists and nurses since 2006.


I know I could fastball. Forcing him was running good. Sink it was also pretty good. And then career ball was a better day than spinning past.  So if you can do that, you're going to have success for the most part. Look at that third inning. You gave up the double, but then we're able to bear down with back-to-back strikeouts to get out of the inning. What was the key in that situation? Not letting him throw a ball down the left of the line. I mean, that was about as good a placement as you could possibly have on a bad swing. So just not letting the next guy get a hit. That's pretty much all I did. What is the level of concern for this team right now to be in the stretch where you've lost 11 under 19? There's a lot of good baseball players in here. I don't think they're worried about that. If you start worried about the pass, then the future will sneak up on you. So we're worried about what we've got to do. We've got a big series coming up against the team that are pretty darn good. So we've got to not worry about the pass, because they don't care what we've done in the past. They care about what's going on that day. So we don't worry about what is going on that day. The next team we're playing, the next game up, and that's all it's about. Are you surprised when he takes you out there? I know the bullpen's there for a reason, but are you surprised when you have to do a pitch constant with that? I'm the type of pitcher where, if I don't throw over 100 pitches, I feel like I didn't do my job that day. So yeah, I mean, but when it's all said and done, that's part of this run or where you're at during the season. You got a bullpen where guys that are fresh with an off day tomorrow, you know that most likely it's gonna be six at the most. And then if you're in a situation where you got close game, you know that D-Rupt can go two, so that makes sense.


Use the hashtag pro competition. Tell us what you think. Tell us what events you're looking forward to afterwards You will be seeing so many of these players at future stops But we have a winners finals to get underway here must we do we do indeed. I can't wait to see it I actually have no idea how to call it. I know hiate has been playing Incredibly well, of course taking over foxy grand part in a game fives earlier on to get here and a Tekken master again much of the same game five against DCT T right both of these players had to really fight this position and while they get through their button checks I just want to say again Yeah, this has been such a fun weekend for just Mortal Kombat But not only that of course a huge shout outs to road runner records for sponsoring the pro competition and Giving us this cool music Of course you see Aquaman rock in the much and see you as a metal fan in me is happy this happened I never thought this would be a thing that we're on a desk talking about Mortal Kombat Sponsor by roadrunner records like if teenage me saw this he'd just be like nah, they that Okay, we're going in this is gonna be the matchup Aaron black versus Sonya blade Oh, so Sonya blade coming out of Tekken master's time. I mean Tekken master collectively plays I mean without pretty much all the top tears We're not gonna sugarcoats that he plays all the top tears and for a good reason He knows how to exploit dirt He knows how to exploit a character's strongest tools and I mean even though he plays Aaron black I doubt he's gonna give the mirror match to hiate who is highly experienced in it running the mirror versus So that's the thing right hiate is no stranger to top-level competition and Sonya is one of the most popular characters in So if anyone's gonna be ready for the matchup, you know, it's gonna be hiate at the same time Aaron black No, we saw shark teeth pulling out the air on black.  How much will it matter? And now getting completely zoned out the moment hiate runs out by he's no longer able to really Get through the projectiles the way he normally can Tekken masters keeping his eye on it You're noticing the moment the amplifiers run out He's far more aggressive with his keep away because he's got a life lead. He can afford to take these trades now It's becoming less likely the acid in front of him his back to the wall He's like just out of the range of it as well If her foot is like hairs like the way Oh and hiate after playing so patient the whole time accidentally stands up into the amplified ring It's a crashing blow. I mean Tekken master going as far back as he can I mean he has no part in trying to be within Aaron blacks effective range, especially when the amplified shots disappeared Oh, okay light. Okay, wonderful throw tech and I love it enforcing the barely might the barely plus frames that exist Show me just buffering something there. Oh, okay. Take a bus with a downward ring wash. You don't see that very often On the acid has to be read Tekken master. No, this is instantly playtime for all black This is the ticket master has spent the entire round trying to avoid that. Oh, he got the Wow Three seconds on the clock on the verge of a timeout.  Yeah, that's that's rough So you just walk down and they're on black that has fatal blow with the acid on the screen That took some serious cuts from Tekken master, but this is why he's such a cool player Right, he's willing to make those decisions. Oh, wow doesn't block the other low Down three lots of down threes. They are plus on hit really good at guaranteeing that offense blows block Not gonna be much there for hiate now take a master remaining with the life lead And he's gonna play the school screen game again. The meter is gone But fortunately for hiate the backs of the wall is so significant that there's no way you can Really deal with the acid anyway. It's there. Oh, I got a lot of big mid coming through from hiate Oh, okay You see that happen quite a lot the the second here of that string with our own black does tend to catch people That are looking to throw tech all the walk up into the overhead Tekken master making it work getting this way out of the corner hiate with the day wake up Taking Tekken masters minus frames.  It's like the game never happened Oh can't with punish I love the empty jump low actually could he knew that Tekken master wasn't far enough away to enforce back one It is the patient screaming out from Tekken master.  He's gonna get the acid It's not gonna be very fun for you Tekken master trying to play this long range game zoning out air on black I've seen his uh, his zoning game is quite meter intensive If you want to keep up and do damage to you it's gonna cost him bar doesn't get it for free And as you can see his rifle is out of ammo But Tekken master game is a lot more limited He's also making the cool in this final round when when he predicts the the shot that destroys projectiles He's going into the drone drop because it will trade favorably Yeah, the whole point about destroying projectiles is you power through them and then punish But if Tekken master's trading with the drone drop and he's got the life lead He can do that until the game and he will out sustain Hayate I actually like the fact that you press the low poke. Oh wow Oh Oh close enough for the down one Into the jump kick Now the time has come to make a choice Hayate two good reads on the jump in Tekken master's not very punishable yet fatal blows in play down to This could be the 50-50 into fatal blow we're gonna see it Fishing oh the block that was crucial make or break Oh, and he pulls the trigger and Hayate was just waiting for it Doesn't even need to use his own fatal blow. He goes guaranteed punish takes damage where he can and Tekken master played so carefully up until the last minute where it came down to two jump ins Respectable a respectable and risky patience from Hayate there If you're willing to sit there and block against a Sonya that has that built in 50-50 Either either or was going to kill when put into fatal blow. So the fact that Hayate was was uh That confidence to just call out. He's gonna go for this fatal blow And I'm gonna block until he does it for that long was very very risky, but paid off massively Trades trades and more trades now as Hayate Losing his amplify and I feel like he is exclusively using his meter on destroying the energy ring And it's a huge part of the matchup. It feels first ring is going to connect So no crushing blow to be had good stuff Hayate And I feel like even though Tekken master is currently in control It is a game of using that life bar as currency to get Tekken master in the corner and then keeping him there to the best of your ability Oh, I really like Tekken master's use of that me You don't typically see it too much with Sonya because it's one of the on the slower side But it's still not terrible and it's decent on block and hit. Oh, okay the anti air ring The moment you try and jump in it's pain town for you But I love it wonderful first round there for Tekken master You can really see how heavily full screen of this matchup is but it is a game of I expect a A projectile that destroys mine. So I'm going to make the call and go for the drone drop But at any point maybe Hayate is going to make it with if he jumps and you can risk skating as well It's understanding each other's options really You're definitely seeing Tekken master playing this matchup like I'm picking this character I think more for the keyboard Right like normally you see Sonya very aggressive very rush down heavy But Tekken master he plays a lot of characters for very specific matchups and reasons And I definitely feel like he's picked Sonya here for the keep away right? She is turning out her own black He's been keeping my arms length and if he wants to get in and start playing his game She can mix them up too So I like this pick with Tekken master He's putting it to work really well big crouch with the grab but just get anything else This game really need anything else Yeah, I mean this game entirely changes the moment Hayate was able to throw the acid where Tekken master cannot understand behind him He has the verge of maybe making a comeback here He's going to get some plus frames from down three But clipped by the back one and a very calculated game number two the adaptation from this Olmerly was just 100% drone drop the drone drop was a game changer We didn't see it as much in the first game and it was entirely based on hey in game number two I'm gonna stop that shot from mattering as much as it did before And I'm seeing some coaching coming out from Aziz Aziz would definitely be TM's designated coach Oh, yeah, for sure. I'll be I'll be surprised if not vice versa I think I think Tekken master was Aziz's coach actually before that took place not again It's not surprising especially when it's easy, but he plays a lot of characters Collectively the Middle East know a lot about the game But that was how they learned that was how they were able to try and level up Tekken master for all the American tournaments that he was sent out to it was the Middle Eastern scene that Would learn the setup to learn the situation and just teach him everything he needs to know On top of his own skill, of course, but Hayate now a little bit of a life lead And yet by the ring and a life lead at this early on when they have these resources or lack of in this case I guess it's temporary because now Tekken master is going to steal it back Now I do wonder how Hayate is able to play around this though Because in the day like this is how the neutral is going to be played I like this is better for him when he has Tekken master to the corner, but can he keep him here Now that button there with Sonya it is ever so slightly plus So if you try and press a poke, she will actually beat you in that situation Oh, okay Seeing some more trickiness from Hayate now going for the down forage of the stud shot He tried so hard to back the back down three to make it with but Hayate gets the jump all the same Very very slow round again knock down Tekken master back in it Oh watch out for that though clipped No break away Oh, is that actually close enough to her? I don't think so it is not no It's not at all just our range unfortunately. Fatal blow is still inflated. Uh-oh, maybe not anymore seven bullets left in the rifle too Get her away Hayate tries, he was like a tiny amount away from that fatal blow actually hitting it smart I love the positioning there Hayate so it's not close enough Hayate's going to take it still three bullets left in the rifle the rifle The rifle seems to be a huge change in the matchup when it comes to like Hayate being able to sit on a life lead But that's a finite resource and it's not going to be very easy for him to reload it against this drone drop Don't drop though Tekken master going to be a lot more comfortable using it when he's far away There's a less chance of a jump in Hayate almost gets one, but Thankfully the meter was ready for the energy ring to do its thing again Look at how close Tekken master is from the acid stepping in it just to try and fight his way out the corner Yep, had to use the breakaway there There's a breakaway from Tekken master there But I feel like Hayate wasn't that likely to actually end in the slide because he would have cornered himself And he seems to try so hard to keep Tekken master cornered. Oh, that's an answer We haven't seen yet. Is that the first time I've actually seen him go for that big move? I think it's one of the few fatal blows that we've seen about 20 of them by now I love it Using it on reaction to energy ring the 10 frames start up on the fatal blow there from Aaron Black will eat up any projectile thrown at him First time we've seen the Aaron Black fatal blow coming through but absolutely perfect time So it said right it's the 10 frames. It's the speed it hits multiple times. It's full screen One of the better fatal blows in the game hands down Hayate, you know, it's going to be feeling good about that. We did see a canadian player win VNLT last year Now I actually I'm pretty confident that the VNLT crowd Hang on. I feel like they've thought by listening to the crowd. So we've got a european crowd cheering for Hayate Oh, okay. They're saying he's basically french. That makes sense. I understand that makes a lot of sense So does that mean if Hayate wins is this still a win for europe? Does this mean that europe's going to win VNLT if Hayate wins it? Yeah We'll say that Hayate is one of ours now Officially claimed dude claimed but oh, no, we're seeing a character change coming out from tecumaster now I mean, he's not he's not shy of it Uh tecumaster when he when he truly believes that he needs to make a drastic change often a changed character is what he chooses to go for Um, I mean, this is a series that we saw him take out dizzy with so, uh, it's definitely it's definitely worthwhile And he's not shy of making those big plays and in the infinite warden that sand trap will I won't even trade with the projectiles that will just chew through them But if you're hi, I say and you play in north american tournaments You've fought a gear or so too in your time and he's going to be so familiar with this matchup Is tecumaster as versed in it as a punish? So there's a great start crushing blow and a guaranteed situation for tecumaster. Wow. Oh, okay. Still I say with a big crouch Oh, no combo though. That's the drop unfortunately jump kicks going to get out of dodge Be and get through the acid puddle He actually went for the flawless block that's some knowledge and a bit of information for tecumaster A good grab tecumaster score game with his gear is before was definitely one of his strengths Well the wake up down one from hiate He knew a tecumaster would mistime his meaty the four two didn't even begin to come out by the time the down one happened I mean, don't forget to sometimes challenge the opponent their meaty timing will not be perfect all the time I can't believe he didn't out here that I think he was looking for it Well, there was an empty jump hiate. So they keep realizing he jumped out. Wanky still had that Escape failed boys. It's going to be match point For pg hiate. She needs one more round now. It's gonna be our first grand finalist of the night Go throw tec. Okay that down four again. I arranged that don't think you're on black can punish it Oh, there's the fist Oh tries to ante a big mistake Escape failed. I love the reverse grab tecumaster happy to put himself in the corner They can't make the beat Oh, okay, you know any of this time from hiate good block on the overhead Tecumaster, I think it's gonna be happy with his life He's not gonna risk it for a chocolate biscuit off that low But he's gonna go for the one one one. I think he was not ready for it to hit I don't think just excited Knocked down now no crushing blow left. So that's gonna be the round still left to go I see tecumaster such a fan of that that down four into the sand trap He knows people they see the down four on block they want to move and he's like absolutely not Gonna catch you for it my friend and there we go the grab tecumaster getting another round It's still match point hiate but tecumaster is fighting back He has plenty of crushing blows left to go is yet to use his fatal blow very much still in this just Maybe not where he wants to be on the screen per se Let's jump kick but a bit too high up to capitalize back to back down three coming out from hiate I think you can do a hind. How about that? Spinning the apple fight gets another down three tried Oh, he almost gets it too, but a bit too slow with the down two coming out there That's in now and a wonderful position no punish, but still has called a positioning Of course erin black one of the characters that if he sees that his punish is late He can go to scud shop make himself safe no matter what Oh poke game exchanging definitely about a pokes right now Venus hiate is only really pressing the advantage when he sees a poke connect All right, and that's what's going on He hits a down three and there we see that back to that fast bid tries to add the other down one But it doesn't connect tecumaster again with that down four The back down four Oh, oh, oh He's in big trouble now. There's even have health. There's even have health to use fatal blow. He hasn't even got the chance hiate This is his game and he gets the apple fight shot And he's going to be grand finals on the winners side taking over tecumaster who now lies in weight in the losers fight Hiate pop one off pull into the crowd. He dares. They got his back


Welcome folks, we have the Dow Industries trade up $316, Nasdaq up $75, S&P up $26, Gold contract up $6.50, trade at $19.37 an ounce, we have Silver down $0.02, $23.32 an ounce, Light Sweet crude up $1.93, $74.92 a barrel, notes and bonds, 10-year note up $3.00 ticks, $111.08, $30.00 up $9.00 at $124.11 and $king dollar, $king dollar, where are you baby, down $293.00 ticks, $101.00, $6.79, Euro $1.10, yen $1.40 and the British pound $1.29 to $1.00 U.S. dollar. We get over and take a look at the spy folks and you got, you know, we had last 10 minutes they did 20 million shares so it's pretty wild so you did 57 million so bottom line is that your first high up here had $110 million, the second one was $104 million, see how this shakes out tomorrow, it's going to go after it tomorrow man, that's how this shakes out and that's telling me more than likely the CPI is going to come in bottom line as a lower number and they're going to go after this high. When you're this close to this high and you have only retraced, now look at this for a second, you only retraced, you didn't even do a .382 retracement from the first high so bottom line this can do a lot more than just test highs so it's going to be a black and white deal tomorrow morning, I mean tomorrow afternoon, you know what I mean, as it goes through it we'll see whether it slices it through like butter or bottom line stalls up there. Take a look at the queues, what do we have with the queues, the bottom line is at the queues, queues right now are trading at $368.17, the queues same type of setup, you're at $377.85 is the number, $372 rather, so the queues can go right after it, the queues have a high volume high and when you do take a look at the queues also you're going to see a very small retracement, well it depends how you do it, I really got to do it from here man, yeah it's not even close, you got a .382 retracement man, a .382 retracement is a small retracement in a bull market that wants to go higher, a 50% retracement you can do all the time up or down, you know bottom line is that you know shaking and banking tomorrow morning, it's going to be out here folks, join Tommy, check it out 9 o'clock, CPI is going to be out and there's going to be action, have a great night folks, have a safe night, we'll get them folks.


What's going on guys it's your boy DPJ here today with another Overwatch video now before the release of Overwatch under 24th of this month of May I'm doing this mini series where we take an in-depth look at certain characters while we watch gameplay from myself and I will give you guys my personal opinion and review on them and we started the series with Zenyatta which if you missed you can find that video linked in the video description. The character of today's video is no one other than Widowmaker but before we go any further can I ask you guys if you do enjoy the video and want to see more Overwatch here on my channel do be sure to hit that like button as it really does help out and if you guys are new to my channel and Overwatch is what you have come for definitely subscribe as it's a game I plan on posting and I've got all your needs covered. Okay so getting into the video and more on the backstory of Widowmaker. It is believed that in her former life Widowmaker was married to Gerard La Crux an Overwatch agent spearheading operations against a talent terrorist organization. After several unsuccessful attempts to eliminate Gerard, Talon decided to change its focus to his wife and Millie aka Widowmaker. Talon operatives kidnapped her and subjected her to an intense program of neural reconditioning. They broke her will, they suppressed her personality and they reprogrammed her as a sleeper agent. She was eventually found by Overwatch agents apparently none the worse for wear and returned to her normal life. Two weeks later she killed Gerard in his sleep. Her mission complete and Millie returned to Talon and they completed the process of turning her into a living person. She was given intensive training in Culver Arts and then her physiology was altered drastically slow in her heart which turned her skin cold and blue and numbed her ability to experience human emotion and Millie was gone. Now Widowmaker is Talon's most effective assassin feeling a little saved and satisfaction of a job well done. Widowmaker is the perfect assassin, a patient ruthlessly efficient killer who shows neither emotion or remorse. So that's her backstory let's take a look at her in-game abilities. Okay so for her main weapon that being her primary is the Widow's Kiss, a rifle that charges by holding a left trigger to fire a deadly shot capable of doing 150 damage but also shoots like an assault rifle when fired from the hip. This makes for a great close range weapon when under threat from enemies looking to eliminate you at that close range although in this form it's not the most powerful. She also has a grapple hook she launches a grappling hook towards any location she's aiming at. When the hook connects to a scalable surface she's quickly drawn towards it allowing her to expand her view of the battlefield and evade or flank targets. Her other ability is Venom Mine. Widowmaker adheres a swiftly arming Venom Mine to nearly any surface. When her target wanders within range of this mind's motion trigger it explodes delivering a poison gas to any enemies in the vicinity. Her special ability is Infrasight. Widow's Reconvisor allows her to see the heat signatures of her targets through walls and objects for a moderate amount of time. This enhanced vision is shared with all her allies. So those are her in-game abilities so what do I think you may be thinking? Well let me first off say before I play any game especially first person shooters I always look towards the snipers as my go-to characters. It wasn't any different with this game Overwatch. Widowmaker was a character I first chose and although at first I wasn't doing that great I just knew she would end up being a favorite of mine as soon as I figured out the game a little further and in that it happened she quickly became my favorite character. Now I said this on my last Overwatch video that this game truly has a character for every play style and with that I feel this fact doesn't really help Widowmaker's case. As some characters are really easy to eliminate others are way more difficult. Also with the beta we only had a few maps and a few game modes. This in my opinion also did not help Widowmaker's case in becoming a fan favorite although I would say I am a better sniper than Russia a better sniper than I am a healer but on most of these game modes and maps I felt I could do miles better with certain characters I preferred not to use. Which yes for sure makes one reach out and try other characters but most of the time I don't want to. I feel other characters such as Bastion, Tracer, Soldier 76 could do well and all maps against all opponents but this certainly is not the case for Widowmaker in my opinion anyway. Now it's common sense that she is a long-range defense character and it's what she should be used for but I do feel from what we got from the beta she's slightly at a disadvantage more time than most. I feel her poison trap needs a major buff as a few times I played against Widowmaker and her poison trap was easily avoided making it really easy to sneak up on her and land an easy kill. This happened in my case too a lot of the time I thought that Venomine had my flank but before I knew I was dead and also in my opinion her grapple hook needs a slightly quicker cooldown. Some may argue against these points which is fine just for me though as a character who has a little health and does not have any way of healing herself having a weapon that only does a max of 150 damage which if you charge and also has a cooldown and really doesn't have any other weapon at a disposal I think a slight buff to either her or her abilities in some minor way may be introduced but even if it don't she will still remain the one character I always look to use first. No matter the map or game mode a sniping is what I like and enjoy to do. Her being slightly underwhelming for many to use adds to the fun and reward of using them in my opinion. I've had many discussions with people about her some saying she's too weak for what she is while others say if used right she could be deadly with both I agree targets arranged can be eliminated with one shot if accurate but some other targets require more than a single shot and they have the advantage of getting away and flanking you or at least they learn your position as she really is the type of character to find a position in a map and sit there until you die unless you're pushing forward. Either way though I absolutely loved using her in a beta easily my favorite character besides Zenyatta and for sure is a character I damn sure look forward to using the full games release. Now following the gameplay you'll see all her unlocks in terms of costumes if you haven't seen them already and some look absolutely sick. Now coming towards an end of the video but before we do end tell me guys did you use will make it in the beta if so what did you think of her let me know down below also guys if you enjoyed the video do leave a like as it really helps out. Thanks for stopping by as always and I'll catch you guys on that next one peace out till next time POSS


What's up everybody and welcome back to the channel. I'm evil rabbit staring here in beautiful Germany at the Nuremberg or north sliven track As you can see north sliven is that way, so we're here today Huh, if you can see that Volkswagen logo right there here today to see if I cannot get sick with the twist turns Elevation changes bumps of the north sliven ring here on a set of Corsa if you see we got a beautiful TCR Volkswagen GTI here to rip for today and Very beautiful model if you notice done a little aesthetic changes We got some evil rabbits on the roof or on the hood on there We got some energy innovations on the mirrors there as well as on the side panel and a little bit of energy Innovations inside there and on the seat itself did a little paint changing on This car for my personal use for my visual aesthetics So we're gonna be ripping it here at north sliven and seeing if I don't get sick and trying That's a puke with the elevation changes and everything here in VR did get my settings a little bit better got the mod mic going So hopefully the audio is much better So as always make sure you guys follow me on Instagram and Twitter I'll put your file in the description box below Nuremberg ring north sliven is calling me the GTI looks like it's all ready to go So we're gonna hop in it and we're gonna go full send here So let's get in there try and figure out how to open the door and actually get into this car All right, so we are in the GTI right now I did turn the driver off so I can kind of see through my body But it's much better not to see the hands and stuff like that for me personally and for while FBS purposes So everything's a lot crisper and clearer because I did find out that my settings were not perfectly correct for the Oculus Like I said energy wheel right there So we're gonna go out. We do have the factory fanatic wheel out because we are using the paddle shifters and well we're gonna put it in gear and We're gonna see what we can do here We are in our little pit speed so Oculus Rift S definitely been a lot of fun here on a set of course And a lot of you guys been asked for more Oculus content. So we're here to see if I can not puke on north sliven So let's do this Go full sense from the drive votes back in TCR GTI 2018 And uh, yeah, we're gonna go full slime mode Drugs don't need clutch. We're gonna be doing a little uh, you know twin-foot driving And the elevation here is not bad But once we get into the bumps and twists and turns of the inner part of the course Ooh, that torque steer is where I will be testing my stomach for sure With the elevation changes and everything like that Like right there Feels a little weird But we're definitely going to be using This Oculus as much as possible looking where we need to look for apexes to kind of help us so you can't get a good flying lap here and uh Have a good run a little lock up with the brakes there. We good So I do have a lot of fun driving different cars at north sliven ring And with the Oculus it's a lot different. So if you guys want to keep seeing some maybe flying laps Of north sliven ring with some cars on the rift s Let me know down in the comments So far so good Probably one of my new favorite front wheel drive race cars this gti if you guys know My first original From way too much for that My first original dealership job for BMW was Volkswagen down in Florida And uh, I did own a 2007 Volkswagen rabbit that was modded cam and set up lower, you know, stance point So Volkswagen is a big Big heart of my, you know, career and it's a big uh Big piece of my heart. So We're not doing too bad. I feel like commentating and talking was making the Oculus not as uh Terribying right now, but of course feedback is really Definitely more here on bc on the fan attack than on Xbox for sure I'm trying to remember All the twists and turns Of north sliven we locked up the brace a little bit. We're good on the curve, but Front wheel drive car is definitely a little bit more forgiving than a real drive car But when it comes to the torque steer That's when it gets terrible Throttling out too much out of the turn spinning the front tires kind of just, you know, not going where you want it to go definitely Takes a little bit of getting used to and you can't just power out of a turn If you need to rotate the car more you can kind of lift and I know this car is definitely uh lifting the back wheel Of the car when I'm in hard turns I've been doing some racing and stuff like that with these PCR cars and uh They lift up because of how stiff the suspension is and how short of travel they got The back wheels usually tend to lift up go Where we need to go? So So if you guys are enjoying this stuff here at north sliven make sure you subscribe to the channel and appreciate all the support Her profit we're good though And tap that bell notification for me if you guys want to be part of the notification gang And get the videos as soon as they come out and we appreciate all the support and all the comments from everybody Trying to change up pace here in the new year I'll be doing some more racing stuff. Of course more drifting stuff and you know more and more Oculus Rift content because I have it. I love it I will keep wanting to use it and I'm becoming more and more comfortable in it Now they got my settings to make it look more crisp It's it's a lot better surprised I'm not even feeling anything at all right now We're at four minute drive here so far At north sliven Oh, that was a big hit. Oh, I do have damage on so That could uh, definitely cause some suspension issues I do a bit of a vibration now in the steering wheel not too too much But a little bit because yeah, I do run full damage As well as tire wear and feel wear and everything like that So I know a lot of people been asking about open mobbies Going to be doing that soon. I can't talk right now. I'm trying to focus on driving I'm going to be doing that very soon with Running my service and something that I'm drifting and something like that as well as uh, well This weekend is the Rolex 24 at Daytona and definitely super excited because you guys remember Oh Oh, there we go. That was a little Little disorientating You guys remember the 12 hour race that we did on four of the motorsport seven at sea bring My friends and I are thinking about doing another endurance race but here in a set of courses so Unsure if we're going to do a 24 hour race, we may just do another 12 or maybe 12 at Daytona Because it was a lot of fun and being on a set of courses. It's going to be a lot more intense So if you guys would like to see a full live stream of Another endurance race with my friends and I rotating in and out of the car here on such courses Let me know chime in down in the comments As well as if there's a specific car you would like to see ripped here at the Nuremberg Ring I was trying to look upwards which I can actually do in an Oculus To try to see where I was going if there's a car you'd like to see me rip here at Nuremberg To see what I can do with it whether it be an Oculus or out of Oculus Let me know down in the comments. Let me know the car them and where to get the mod if it is a mod I may already have it. So if you do come in the car, I will ask if I don't have it where I can get it I'll just find it because you'd like to do more of these Fun drives here Oh That's not good What happened? I think we just got a little airborne and we kind of just lost control That that was a hard hit s right in front of really sos Right in front of the sos sign is where we wrecked Man, I think we just got a little airborne and just Car did not like that. It got unsettled. This is a hit and uh We wrecked hard and in vr wrecking is very uh Very disorientating when it starts spinning especially if you start flipping So unfortunately we wrecked and that's uh Not a good time at all I kind of want to go back and take a look at replay and see what actually happened Because I'm very unsure of what happened Of course, we will have to switch out of the oculus Because we all remember from my last animal z video Oculus replays are a little weird. So we will switch out of the oculus to go take a look exactly what happened Once we finish our Run here tries to car so lives would have been shadowing children because you know, that's definitely a very hard hit Carpio would have been done So we finished the tourist lap at 75277 with a wreck and kind of stood there staring at the sos sign Look at the blink or the hot air balloon So we're going to pull ourselves into the paddock area And then we are going to go take a look at the replay and see exactly what happened Because I'd be I'm very curious on what happened And uh, I think we're parked over this way We're going to go back and park our car up To finish off our run here for today So let's go take a look at that replay and see exactly what happened So i'm going to catch you guys once we get out of the oculus and back in normal replay All right, so we are out of the oculus and back on to our normal microphone And we are taking a look at the replay I was gonna take a look at some of the beginning of the clip just to get a beauty of this tcr gti And the way it sounds on the outside of the car is definitely a lot cool It's got the dsg blop that i'm so familiar with was working on these cars. Ooh a little kerp hop there so The tcr cars are very fun the frontal drive race cars. They're definitely a fun series I'm trying to get a point where I could see the back wheel kind of pick up Under braking what it seems to be not on any points really on This part of the course maybe there it would have we're in the wrong view So I want to find that wreck. Oh, there it is So we're gonna find out exactly what happened here Because I'm very unsure of what happened why I wrecked bounce the curb Oh, yeah, there it was So we're gonna slow that down a little bit. We kind of just uh We kind of just got a little uh A little airborne off of that off there. Yep clear airborne Bottomed out to suspension and the car just unsettled and we kind of just Went sailing into the wall. There was no saving that at all that's a very very hard hit that was Definitely a hard hit And uh, you can see my driver's head bobbing We are alive in the car So I think that'll do it here for this episode here on a set of course on the oculus rift s I hope you guys enjoyed this content If you guys want to keep seeing more make sure you follow me on all social media I do appreciate all the support and as always I like thank you guys for watching. I'm evil rabbit I'll see you guys on the track Look at that twist


Hello and welcome back to the craft box. My name is Brent and today We are on episode 50 of the completionist craft a series now This is a very special episode and I decided that since 50 is such a big number We are going to be crafting the last death spell that I need which is Lord of Night one that I have not got from Lawmaster So I thought might as well craft it as always Everything we need is on screen right now and all of the requirements in order to do that this spell has Being the death of me really I did recently find a really interesting way of Getting Lord of Night TC's now you can buy them in the bizarre and there are quite a stock as I'm recording this In there, but if you don't want to do that or you have no gold. I am gonna quickly show you How I got them so the Beast Moon hunt came out a while ago In fact a whole year ago nearly which is crazy to say but you can get the plants And there are one for every single school So these are just I've just got elemental and spirit ones because I was farming up stuff But if you get the death one you can get a dead knight and Lord of Night TC's from them So yeah, that's fun And I'm assuming the other ones can give you the other law spells as well So the myth the balance of the life the death the fire the ice the storm ones can also give I assume the Law TC's but yes, that is one way you can get them otherwise you can go to the bizarre some of them are in stock Some of sometimes it's not at the moment. There's quite a decent stock But anyway, let's craft this because I know that's what you'll hear for Lord of Night Six Lord of Night TC's just showed you how I got those perfect onyx. You can buy ghost fire You can buy nightshade transmute deep mushrooms turquoise you get you basically bizarre or you can find them Whilst fighting things throughout the world's scrap iron Mali bone is a great place to go Sunstone You can find that fighting stuff. I think you can also purchase it with arena tickets and amber. Obviously. I have my amber video I farm King pasties, but you can also craft it collect it with Arena tickets if you so wish but yeah, let's create this and we have learned a new spell Lord of Night. Holy Moly My death is now completed And because because of this I'll look at that regal music playing We are gonna go and quickly test it out because you know, that's what everybody does We're gonna do one in a million with a Lord of Night because not quite, but maybe not quite, but maybe maybe we'll see We'll try and put in as many buffs as possible. So two blades a couple of curses a Couple of death traps a couple of faints a couple actually no, we won't put dark pectin. That's suicidal What else do we want to do what else can we do what else can we do in fact? We can go for a couple of those a couple of those and We have faints right we do so now we need what like Two of those one two three four of these And yeah, let's go over to unicorn way. No, let's not do unicorn way. That's where everybody goes Let's head off to golem court. We're gonna use our tapestry since I don't really use them as much And I need to start using them. So we're gonna do that. We're gonna go over to my Lambros Just because it's easy to get there and we'll just walk slightly out of his office Into a golem court because that's where we'll go. We'll go and defeat one of the minions over there Yeah, I'm actually gonna put on my full crit set as well just well my full crit set not really full crit set But a decent crit set we'll just wear this stuff I think just to spice things up a bit Just to have a bit of change for one of these episodes because they're not usually long and this is a big milestone So, yeah, let's do this. Hopefully I have everything Yes, most likely. Okay, here we go wooden construct Feel the wrath of me Right, so we will start off with a blade as always because you know you've got to always start off with the blade What is he doing? He is doing a nice wee beetle Rara beetle But yeah, let's blade we should only have one of everything So basically as long as I make sure I enchant my things correctly, which is not too difficult to do We should be fine. We're gonna go for a death trap to start with I should have also like put shriken or something That was my phone. Oopsie doopsy It's five o'clock somehow already geez that went quick Yeah, hopefully I Should have probably put in shrike or something that would be cool or trickster, but hey, it's fine. It's fine We should crit definitely now So it's not too big of a deal. We'll do this Go for a faint because we can they can't damage themselves so I'm not too worried about screwing this up or them screwing it up for me and Yeah, we'll see how much damage this can do how much do you think it's gonna do put it in the comments right now Before I hit if you don't I'm gonna be disappointed in you not really But maybe just a bit maybe just a bit disappointed. I don't also know why I have a reshuffle in You know, you can never I guess you can just never be without a reshuffle It's just there just in case all the time I'm actually so happy I've crafted this spell though This has been bugging me for a long time because it's like the last spell that I've had Like just knowing that I don't have the last death spell and now I know that I've got them all I even got death spear for no reason at all other than to say that I have it I can truly wear the master of death badge Not that we're wearing that today because it's not up to that number not not up to that badge in our bad rotation But yet we will be soon and we can actually wear it with pride because we have learned every single death spell finally Right scarab not cool It sounds so weird now as well. I think I say that every time I'm still never gonna get used to the new changes of the sounds not gonna get used to it ever We got our enchant which is good. What blades do we have? We have our pet 40 Did it do we have is this a normal curse? No, we don't have a curse on so we'll put our curse on so we need an enchant for our blade to and blade enchants and a death trap a Faint Yep a faint enchanted So we'll do that now an enchanted faint We can also put on the death blade just the regular one as well So that's not too big of a deal we can do that Man, he really loves scarab today. Doesn't he really really love scarab Geez Okie-dokie that's an 80 faint noise and we have a Regular death trap which is cool a regular faint as well. We have two sheds as well, which is crazy But we're gonna see how much this does he fizzled a scarab. Oh, no, how sad how sad for him. Oh, no on the law um We already have that one and we do so we can do the regular faint We can do the regular faint and we need to do the blade and then we need some enchants, please Scarab again, is he seriously only casted scarab? I swear he's only casted scarab Like actually what the heck what the heck? Craziness crazy wooden construct absolutely crazy Right, we're gonna do this we'll bubble next if we don't get any enchants, but we should hopefully maybe get some enchants We can discard the The reshuffle as well if we don't but I don't see what else we will be getting A curse which we can actually Not put on so we do have to we'll just do this well and discard if we need to Hopefully we actually get what we need That would be very bad if we don't very very bad We will have to do a couple Without which would be sad, which would be very very sad. Please don't make it do that game Right. There's a we do need this right 30 20 We do have that already so we can enchant that And we'll cost that we can also do the no we can't do that blade. We've already done that blade already done that blade I'm starting to forget what we've got. This is why I don't like doing one in a million Because I just always forget blood that wow time for a change. He wants to go blood that now. That's cool. He ran out of his um His scarabs just as well Don't like scarab. It's not really a good spell. Right. Here we go. Here's our last two blades done So we will do the spirit blade first and then the death blade afterwards And I think that is all the blades hopefully then we just need to get the rest of the Enchants for the hits for the traps.  It's been eating away at me for so long And to finally have it is great Any fizzle to scarab? Of course he did. What would it be without him fizzling his scarab?  Let me guess it's a scarab We will find out but for now Let's kill Let's destroy him with lord of night It's a firecat. He's going out with a bang or with a flame who knows Right here we go lord of night. No fizzle, which is good Look at this boy Look at him Amazing and the crit one two three four five six one two three four five six seven eight nine six and nine What a perfect combination That did a lot Well gg there we go lord of night has been acquired That did way too much. I was hoping for one in the million, but it doesn't really matter. That did a lot as well So, yeah, thank you for watching this very special episode of completionist crafter We will be hitting back into Aquila next time But anyway, thank you for watching remember to like and subscribe and first subscribe press the little bell So you know exactly when I post another video and member craft outside the box


hanga index GHI annual report for 2019. GHI is a tool designed to measure and track hanga at global, regional and national levels to assess the progress and setbacks in combating hanga while also revealing the hangres country in the world. According to the report Kenya is ranked at position 86 out of a total of 117 and this clearly indicates serious need to curb food insecurity in the country in line with the big four agenda. Today we are launching this global hanga index. This report gives very important data about the hanga situation in this country. We are learning that out of 117 countries we are number 86. That is not a very good number, but the ministry we are taking this with stride because we understand the challenges that are facing us and we are taking different strategies to be able to narrow that gap of hanga in this country. Dr. Magenya father said the government is very keen on mitigating strategies to curb food insecurity nationally, especially global warming and climate change. Previously we have been using the NCPB and the government to procure fertilizer, but now it is being transmitted to the Evocha system. We have a big project in the ministry funded by the World Bank on climate smarter agricultural project and that is working with the farmers to be able to develop interventions that farmers will use to adopt or to mitigate the effects of climate change, particularly in the dry areas of this country Kelvin Singles agrees that Kenya has got very good gains and policies to ensure this food security and nutrition in Kenya but false implementation strategies. Kenya has made some improvements over the years. The report has taken statistics way back from the year 2000 right up to the present day. So we can see improvements in regard to food security. We can see improvements in regard to children's status when it comes to wasting or stunting. The big issue for Kenya though is the undernourishment and I think in the report you can see that it was highlighted that over 26 percent of Kenyans are actually undernourished meaning that they don't get access to quantities of food, don't get access to the variety of foods that actually is required to have a healthy lifestyle. Noting some of the challenges that have been highlighted by the global hunger index Kelvin reveals the way forward to carbon food insecurity among the most vulnerable and marginalised communities for a world without hunger. There are very good policies that are in place, regulations that are in place. The gap that I believe is that those policies now need to filter down through to county government, need to filter down to respective communities and for communities also to understand what their right is to food and to be able to advocate for that as well. This corruption thing is eaten into us. Kenya is one of the most taxed countries in the world yet very few people on the ground see what the taxes do. There is the big four agenda. There is a commitment from government. Uhuru Kenyatta has itemised food and nutrition as being a pillar that needs to be supported and I think there is policies in place. There is directives in place. The only problem we see now is having that filtered down through to communities, through to county government structures that they're able to support their people and that households are informed on what their right to food is as well.