The President of the United States and the First Lady, together with such a glittering company, come to dinner at Her Majesty's Ambassador's Residence. We welcome your hair this evening, sir. In this year 1985, it adds splendor to an important anniversary in our relations. In 1785, John Adams, the first American envoy to Britain, was formally received by King George III and thus opened 200 years of diplomatic relations between our two countries. Of course, there have been a few changes in diplomacy since then. And I'm told there is a memorandum surviving in the Smithsonian from President Jefferson to his Secretary of State, in which he wrote Ambassador to France. If we don't hear from him this year, letters write him a letter. Of course, American ambassadors in London have been much more communicative than American ambassadors in Paris. But no doubt, Charlie Price was such a good ambassador to London, an Oliver Wright, who I believe is such a good ambassador here. Sometimes wish they still lived in such an easygoing world. I've discovered another interesting fact. American ambassadors to London tend to go places. Five of them, including John Adams and his son, became presidents of the United States. And eight became Secretaries of State. Well, Charlie, we'll be watching you. But for the avoidance of doubt, Geoffrey Howe and I would like to remind Oliver Wright that there is no such tradition with us. Perhaps I should also mention that 1985 marks the 200th anniversary of a famous British institution, The Times Newspaper. And one of the first reports carried by The Times, shortly after its launching, was of the reception given to John Adams when he presented his credentials. Not that John Adams himself found that an exactly comfortable occasion. What worried him most was that he would have to make a complimentary speech about King George III. And that wasn't calculated to endear him to the folks at home at that time. But this evening, Mr. President, I know such inhibitions about being complimentary about everything about the United States. We in Britain think you are a wonderful president. And from one old hand to another, welcome to a second term. And Dennis will be saying exactly the same to Nancy. And neither of us have could have done what we've done without them. I remember with pride and with gratitude many occasions we've shared during your first term. The Williamsburg Summit with all its pageantry and history. Your powerful and moving address to the assembled lords and commons in London in the Royal Gallery. Your visit to us last year for the London Economic Summit. And most recently, my expedition to Camp David. We've always found it easy to discuss great matters together. We see so many things in the same way. We share so many of the same goals and a determination to achieve them, which you summed up so well. And alas, I cannot imitate this wonderful American English accent.  But one thing has not changed. The joint common sense, which is an essential part of our common heritage, has always led the two governments to resolve their differences and to work constructively together for our common purpose. Our joint interests prevailed, and I know they will continue to prevail. There's a union of mind and purpose between our peoples, which is remarkable and which makes our relationship truly a special one. I'm often asked if it's special and why. And I say it is special. It just is, and that's that. As Winston once said, Winston Churchill, the experience of a long life and the promptings of my blood have wrought in me the conviction that there is nothing more important for the future of the world than the fraternal association of our two peoples in righteous work, both in peace and war. No one could put it better than that. Let us look forward with confidence to the next 200 years of Anglo-American friendship, to an enduring and confident alliance, and to peace and freedom for today's and future generations. May I ask you to rise and drink a toast? The President of the United States of America, the President. Prime Minister, Vice President Bush, Secretary of State, a Defense Secretary, Sir Oliver, Saint Oliver, no, Sir Oliver. And ladies and gentlemen, tonight as we've just been told, and I have to preface this by saying, based on the career that I once had before this one, you are a very tough act to follow. Tonight we celebrate as we've been told 200 years of diplomatic relations between Great Britain and the United States. For two centuries we've been trading partners, we've stood together through two great world conflicts. 40 years ago last summer Americans and Englishmen joined together in an invasion launched from Britain, the greatest invasion in all of man's history. Together we fought in the sands of Normandy and together we reclaimed a continent to liberty. Prime Minister, the United States and the United Kingdom are bound together by inseparable ties of ancient history and present friendship. Our language, our law, even though you do use our language with an accent, our law, our democratic system of government and our fierce belief in the God-given right of all men to be free. All of these, the United States shares with your proud island. We share a deep affection for one another, but then there have been a few moments in our history when relations were not so smooth. I remember being tempted to recall one of those at the summit conference at Williamsburg where the opening meeting was a dinner in the what had been the British colonial governor's residence and I thought that I was all set to open the summit because when we were seated around the table, the heads of seven states, I was going to say to Margaret Thatcher that had one of her predecessors been a little more clever, she would have been hosting the gathering. And so with my well thought out line, I opened that if one of her predecessors had been a little more clever and she turned to me and said I know I would have been the host. So I'm careful, but anyway, Margaret, welcome back to America. In our discussions, I have has always been delighted by the vigor, the clarity and the directness of your views and I wanted to tell you that when I ran for office in 1980, I was greatly encouraged by the victory that you won in 1979 and it was very thoughtful of you to get me another good example, set me another good example in 1983. We've been inspired by your leadership. Sir Oliver and Lady Wright, thank you for hosting this splendid event. Nancy and I are honored to be here. We celebrate tonight our past and our future. Great challenges loom ahead and we must do all that we can to expand human freedom and unleash the great potential for economic growth both in our countries and throughout the world. In our own countries, we've already done much to free our economies from the dead hand of government control, but we can do more. Here in America, we're determined to reduce spending growth and significantly reduce tax rates further by simplifying our entire tax structure. In international commerce, our task is to knock down barriers to trade and foreign investment and to the free movement of capital. And I look forward to working with you on these matters as we prepare for the 11th Economic Summit of Industrialized Nations in Bonn. In foreign affairs, we and our NATO allies have stayed strong while demonstrating our openness to genuine arms reductions. And Prime Minister Thatcher, I know that you share my satisfaction that the Soviets have agreed to return to the bargaining table. And now we must press on together for success in mutual and verifiable arms reductions and a more secure peace. We believe that our Strategic Defense Initiative represents the most hopeful possibility of the nuclear age. And we greatly appreciate your support. In many areas of this research, technical progress appears very promising. And we're eager to be joined in this research by our allies and look forward to collaborating with you. It's hard to be on this here on this candlelit evening and your stately embassy without thinking of the great men and women, British and American, who've gone before us and who've worked together as we do today. I think of FDR and Churchill conferring in the rain. Roosevelt deeply admired his friend Winston. And many of us remember the warmth John Kennedy felt for Harold Macmillan and Macmillan's grief after Kennedy's tragic death. There's been something very special about the friendships between the leaders of our two countries. And may I say to my friend, the Prime Minister, I'd like to add two more names to this list of affection, Thatcher and Reagan. Prime Minister, ladies and gentlemen, mindful of the two centuries of diplomatic relations that our two nations have enjoyed and grateful for our common heritage of liberty and in a spirit of celebration, please join me in a toast to your gracious sovereign to Her Majesty, the Queen, to the Queen.


Hello everyone, my name is Ankur. I am a P.A.D candidate at the University of Maryland Baltimore County advisor professor in finance I will briefly talk about the unified cyber security knowledge graph developed as a part of the IBM initiative Why do we need unified cyber security graph currently the cyber security information is represented in multiple formats Hence the information is heterogeneous and it becomes difficult to integrate more over the current format lacks inference capabilities In order to address the problem we have developed a unified cyber security knowledge graph which represents heterogeneous information in one common format and also supports Currently the cyber security knowledge graph is constructed using schema information of multiple standards like CVE and CWA and is represented in description Logics we choose description logic as a representation language as it is supported and maintained by worldwide web consortium Moreover due to the choice of the representation language reasoning is supported naturally We believe the effort to construct knowledge graph for cyber security domain will support downstream application which can combine information from general world Knowledge graph like dbpedia and yago and freebase and it can also support additional downstream applications like Named entity recognition relation extraction event extraction and text summarization Further details about our effort is available in the reference mentioned below. Thank you


Hi everyone my name is Britt Frank and I will be speaking to you about mental health next month at the PMMI Young Professionals Conference. I am so excited to be able to share with you the myths about motivation, the science behind what keeps us stuck, why there's a part of us that knows exactly what we're supposed to do, yet there's this other part of us that seems to take over and the thing we know we're supposed to do we can and the surprising truth about how to solve that problem. So I hope you'll join us on July 19th. Cannot wait to be with you and a big thank you to the Emerging Leaders Committee for hosting. See you there.


So this is a Tesla Model 3 long range without the full self-driving package And it's a software update 10.2 2019 40 50.1 and let's look at the release notes here So what's new in this update and we're gonna talk about these real quick We have driving visualization improvements voice commands phone improvements, which includes text message cat mode Which is a little bit interesting your car can now maintain airflow with temperature interior lighting as well as play music Power devices and in camp mode enabled. It's kind of like dog mode where you keep the climate on when there's someone in the car Or if you leave a pet in the car, which I still don't think it's a good idea But whatever you can leave it on a mode so the AC system or heater keeps working while it's on there That's kind of neat. I can't mode just as kind of an extended version of that for Seeing some of the other home entertainment system not going to sleep essentially Tesla theater that's a pretty cool way you can watch YouTube Netflix Hulu and now Twitch was added there more games have been added Stardew Valley backgammon Voice keyboard and we're gonna talk about in a second tracks a music Composing system kind of novel these are fun things to play with when you're sitting in the car board But I don't spend a lot of time sitting in the car board I'm usually driving you by the way, you can't play these on driving. That's what everybody asked No, all the games are locked out Twitch YouTube and whole theater is locked out when you're driving now This is something I like a lot I don't blow the horn a lot unless I'm angry and because someone has done something To make me angry or just something stupid or you need to get their attention save clips on honk Now the Tesla has a USB drive in and it will record all the cameras around the car of what's going on But of course when you're honking at someone is because you want to get their attention or some incident So save clips on honk where it specifically can highlight certain clips to be played back later on USB I like that feature a lot. So I did turn it on a new language support and driver profiles Just additional navigation settings are now saved to your driver profiles such as volume levels for voice navigation voice guidance As well as traffic display settings There's already a lot done. So when you have different people profiles, obviously not just where the seat goes Where like a lot of cars have but the driver profiles like a lot of custom settings You may have done whether or not you want visual enhancements turned on a will or will not show up based on the driver profile So that's kind of cool. Speaking of which, let's get to the visual enhancement part of this So if we go over here to autopilot and we choose full self-driving Visualization preview we're gonna turn that on and what that is here is you're gonna see over here We're gonna get some visualizations. We're gonna take a little drive and one the first thing I noticed is recognizes garbage cans, which is really novel to me. There's I thought that was weird Barrels was in the last update garbage cans in this one and that's just kind of novel So we're gonna show that I have everything else turned on like, you know The all the other features forward collision warning and things like that So let's kind of take a look at the autopilot and how the enhanced visuals look under It's definitely really cool and it's an added feature that I really like about this update It is pretty neat. So let's go ahead and jump on that All right, we have the extra visuals turned on. Let's take this for a drive and see what it can see So at first the driving looks the same you can see everything just like you could before It seems to recognize the cars the same way as previously so it can identify pickup trucks differently than SUVs differently than cars. So we have a pickup truck and a SUV and another SUV So it does recognize them And we can see a car pulling up behind us But what we're gonna see here in a second is it's able to start seeing the lights So as I come up here to the traffic lights It can see them and it can see that they're green or Yep, it sees this one's a yellow, but the seconds that are still green now. Those are yellow. No, I didn't blow the light It's fine. So that hasn't really changed much other visualizations But that is nice that it now sees the lights It'll also see stop signs and we're gonna come up to the railroad track crossing I think they're drawn on here. It will draw the cross marks on the ground as they're going It does like as in the previous update still recognize double lines versus single lines It picks up less of the fire hydrants as cones unless The fire hydrants are painted two-tone two-tone fire hydrants still get selected and looked like as cones Which I thought was interesting. I don't know if they're gonna be able to really enhance that part of it And it can see these lights here. They're both green Now here we are approaching some railroad tracks. So it should Draw and it does right there a railroad crossing sign on the road There's a stop sign and once again another fire hydrant. It thinks is a barrel, which is fine Now the tracks themselves it thinks are lights, which I guess they are but they're not traditional stop lights But it still always draws them the same way It draws them all as lights, but it shows them dark It doesn't see any lights inside of them. So it doesn't recognize them as a Actual light so it doesn't see a status of them I there's not a train right now, and I haven't come across the train going across here I'll assume it sees train lights as red lights Now the other thing it will do is it can see like the markers on the road They can see the left turn as they're drawn on there and these are not it's hard to probably tell from the Camera, but these are not drawn very well. They're kind of faded and Worn out and it still sees them very well I didn't notice any other changes in autopilot either as far as stop and go traffic or how it handles on the freeway No real changes there. So the autopilot seems the same, which is fine There's not really any complaints I have overall other than the occasional panic attack panic attack the system has as I refer to it when the system goes and Sees a car make a left in front of you And if they're out in front of little ways the car tends to break So that was interesting just flickered green and red, but it seems to be holding red now So I thought I seen it flicker green for a second, but the stop and go everything else works fine now the last little thing to cover is the voice commands and Allegedly, I'm able to open the glove box with it, but so far it doesn't work. Let's see if it works this time Open glove box. Oh That time it worked so that has been a mystery occasionally the voice commands and it's very random Will do things like delay a long time or just not understand what you're saying on let's try it again Open glove box. Oh Maybe gets better over time when I first got the update that was definitely noticeable that you would Use any of the voice commands and they were well not great But that's something I'm sure they'll work on and I've never been as big on the voice commands They always seem to since I've gotten the car been a little bit Slower to figure things out, but I figure that's something they'll improve over time voice recognition When you're trying to do it in car the only company I've seen really get that right like on device I should say is like Google's System seems to work quite well for that Tesla's probably you know They're get a little catching up to do or maybe they can just lease the technology from Google Seems to get it right, but that's it for the update everything else Nothing, you know, I'm not gonna get deep into the games and all that Maybe I'll do a separate video about the whole infotainment system, which is pretty cool And what not but they didn't add any new Easter eggs or anything like that that not that I have been able to find I should say so all that's the same although. I do like that. I didn't I did learn a trick Let me show you so if you ever need to draw, let's go back So from this right here anytime you want to get to the drawing instead of going down if you Tap that I think it's three times so one two One two three fast there we go. It opens up the drawing app and you can Tear well, I'm a terrible drawer. So let's clear that yes clear But if you need to just quickly jot a note down. I thought it was cool. You can tap that I don't know if there's any other things. I just probably didn't know about the car But I did find that out. I don't remember where I found it I don't know if it's because I was tapping it or someone showed me but I learned it a while ago And now it's just kind of novel to be able to go. Hey, look, I hit that three times and it opens up Oh, yeah, and there's the garbage cans Actually, I'll drive close to one more There's more garbage cans It doesn't matter what kind of garbage can it is whether it's a round one or one of the Rectangular or square ones it does that.  Thanks


Hey there friends. Thanks for checking in.  Now that was not good for Benchmade, but after that it was revealed that they were donating like big bucks to anti-gun politicians one after another. And many people said, you know, Benchmade, you are now dead to me. And I was one of them. I said, you are dead to me. You know, I'm done not that I ever have, but I will not support anybody who doesn't support me or the Second Amendment. Now these accessory companies, these knife companies, these gun companies all say we are strong supporters of the Second Amendment. But does your money show that? Like if we follow the money, can we see that you are a strong supporter of the Second Amendment?  And I think to a large degree, that is true. We saw that with Benchmade, even though they won't admit it, the owner got out there and gave some half-wit response to it. But we're also seeing that through eotech. Through all this, people got in there. They were they were investigating and they found out that eotech and their partner company L3 Technologies donated money to Diane Feinstein of all people. Now, eotech, who's right here in Michigan, I've owned eotech. I talked about an eotech that failed in a carbine class for me and I thought, you know, eotech, you know, they're okay. They're not anymore. No, I'm done supporting companies that don't support me. Now they come, they didn't make a statement at all. You know, the only thing they have done is delete comments off of Instagram and Facebook posts one after another. I think they heard somebody full-time just to delete comments off of face their Facebook page and Instagram. So they are totally ducking the situation, but I'm here to make it known that eotech does not support us. So why should we support them?  This is a great setup. Very happy with this. I have a review coming shortly. But these two combined with the three times magnifier that can be angled off or used combined costs less than one eotech 512. So you tell me what the better deal is. Very impressed with vortex optics. Surefire is another one. They came out with a statement. It was not a great statement. It didn't answer anything to me. But I also understand that these companies, this is what they do. They say we understand far more than you do. You don't have the capacity to understand why we do what we do. So we're going to give you bits and pieces of it. Maybe you will understand. Oh, by the way, we are strong supporters of the Second Amendment. No, you're not. You're dead to me. I'm not supporting people who don't support me or the Second Amendment. The second thing I want to talk about is you may hear a lot of people who make videos talk about YouTube demonetization. Again, that has happened again. I, you know, just one day out of nowhere, all these videos are demonetized.  That is not true. The main reason that this is important is because once a video is demonetized, it goes from a high-performing video, maybe, you know, or mid-performing video to just squandered. Because Google's not going to push something that is not making money for them. So here we have like hundreds of videos that have become demonetized. It suppresses the message, whether it's a gun review or a 2A rant or a self-defense situation. All of a sudden, it gets demonetized. No consistency across the board. Like, a gun review that is just a, an everyday gun review talks about the gun, this and that. All of a sudden, it's demonetized. It suppresses the message and it silences the messenger. And that's what happens.  I don't do that. I never started a Patreon account. This is about silencing the message and the messenger, and it's happening again. So when you hear this, understand it is true and it's affected me as well. The last thing I want to talk about is a giveaway. I have a giveaway coming up. I'm working with these companies for donations.  The only thing I'm struggling with is what the requirement of the giveaway is going to be. Back in the day, they used to say, you know, make a, a video response. Well, that's not fair. Not everybody can make a video response and I don't want to do that. You know, people say, well, maybe, you know, have the people do this or have them do that. I'm not sure what to do. I'm leaning toward just sharing the giveaway video so that more people can see it and get involved. I'm leaning toward that, but I want to get your feedback on the best way to have people enter the contest. And I've got shirts and ammo and accessories and things like that that I'm really looking forward to giving away and giving back to you guys that have supported me so much. That's all I have for now and look forward to this giveaway coming within the week. If you like videos like this, please subscribe and share. I always appreciate thumbs up button. Thanks for watching and you guys be safe.


If you missed the 1992 Pelican Green Demonstrator M800 release, here's your second chance. I've been waiting for this arrival from Pelican and it's finally here and it is beautiful. Let's unbox the Pelican Souvern M800 Green Demonstrator fountain pen. Okay, it has all of the classy Pelican packaging and let's take a look at the pen. It's a demo green and the green is a vivid, vivid emerald green with gold trim. You have your Pelican logo on the finial and it is a piston filler. Pelican M800 design is known for being easy to fill and easy to empty, easy to clean and maintain. You have your 18 karat gold nib and in this special edition Apple Green Resin release, you have a bi-color nib. Let's take a look at the piston filler in action here and it's a demonstrator very clearly. You can see the piston moving and you'll be able to see your ink. This special release is similar to a 1992 release from Pelican but this 2023 release has some changes.  Subscribe for more exciting luxury pen reveals and shop your luxury pens for your collection at pinchlay.com.


Hi, everyone, Joe for jaskiescasebreaks.com, coming at you with 2020 Panini Flawless Baseball, one briefcase, random hit break, number two from jaskiescasebreaks.com. Pretty easy. We sell 10 spots, I open up the briefcase, right? Type in the hits in this blank list right here, randomize your names, randomize the hits, match you up with the hit, and see what happens. So, thanks everyone for getting in. So you saw Sean did, I think, the first one last night and there he marked that RH2 for a random hit too. So let's see what we got, knife is in my pocket. Oh, I was just gonna ask you that Sean Jaspie in the chat, I was gonna say how was the first box? Sean was saying, it was okay. So we should anticipate a nicer haul in here in 2020 Panini Flawless Baseball. We also have a two briefcase pick your team of this in the store right now. So if you wanna pick your teams and chase your hits that way, you certainly can. jaskiescasebreaks.com. No third hit in this, but let's do this box first. Blockchain, what are we doing with the blockchain card? Sean, what did you do with the blockchain card yesterday? Did you randomize it to the group or did you combo with something? Might as well do it consistent at least for this case. Combos with a relic, okay. So the blockchain is Yordon Alvarez. There you go. And that'll combo with this relic right here, with a relic, with the Yordon Alvarez. We just combo with the Yordon Alvarez, three color patch. It's a good pair there. There is early win six out of 20. Old Washington sender. Sean, did you get the one per case Yordon Alvarez? There's Mark Grace, but that's a diamond and that's addition of Mark Grace. 11 out of 15. Two color patch and autograph, not Sean Paddock, Chris Paddock. I was thinking of Sean Maddock. And then that's been a long week, folks. You got zero Yordons? All right, so there must be a Yordon in here. We've got 23 out of 25, Jose Ramirez, Cleveland. Jose Ramirez. Ooh, and a nice Walker Bueller autograph, three out of 20. Nice Walker Bueller. Then we've got a Gavin Lux, his teammate. 17 out of 25, two color patch and autograph. Ooh, and someone's gonna get a train whistle. This is two out of three, dual relic and autograph. It's Metz edition of Mike Piazza. Nice, I wonder if that's part of the lettering from his catcher's gear. That's right, Jay Cohen, World Series Champion, Walker Bueller. And I guess Lux gets a ring too, if he's on the 40 man maybe, 40 man roster. All right, so how many cards is that there? It's one, two, but that's combo. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine and 10. Okay, so we're good here. All right, I'm gonna do the non-auto first, and that's on the right side, and that's another Metz. That is Pietalonzo, one out of 10 diamond. And this must be the Yordon, right? It is, one out of 15. Top rookie slugging percentage Yordon Alvarez, flawless milestones, patch and auto. And that's it, ladies and gentlemen. Here you go, all the gems are naturally mine, not lab grown. Sometimes there's a third hit right here, but not this time. Now I'm gonna pause the video, I'm gonna pause the video and I'm gonna type in all these hits in the order that they were pulled, and then we'll do the randomizer, see who gets what. Stick around, I'll be right back. All right, welcome back folks. So we got the hits typed in right here, so we comboed the blockchain and the relic. There's one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine and 10, right there. Once again, thanks again to these folks right here for getting into it. Let's match you up with a hit, let's roll it and randomize names and hits, three and a five, eight times each. One, two, three, seven, and eighth and final time. We've got Jared down to Paul, three and a five, eight times, four of the hits, good luck, one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, and eighth and final time. After eight, we've got Walker Bueller down to Jose Ramirez. So here's how it all shakes out. All right, Jared with the Walker Bueller autograph to 20, the World Champ. Paul with the Gavin Luxe patch auto to 25 and the Mark Race autograph to 15. Daniel with the early win relic to 20. Robert with the Jorda Alvarez encased patch auto. Robert with the, also with the Peter Lanzo, you got both encased cards Robert. Paul with the Chris Paddock to 10 and the Mike Piazza patch auto two out of three, all aboard the Big Head Express, whoop whoop. Out of fives and under, of course, get the train whistle, Tyler with the Jorda Alvarez group, right there, the blockchain and the relic and Paul with the Jose Ramirez autograph to 25. There you go boys and girls, thanks for getting into the action. That was one briefcase, one box. Random hit break number two from jasphyscasebreaks.com. We have a full case pick your team in the store if you're interested in that. So check that out, there's the train whistle hit right there, pretty nice. And your two encased cards. There you have it. Thanks again, everybody for getting into the action. I'm Joe, I'll see you next time on jasphyscasebreaks.com.


What do you do, fam? Big T, you busy, bruv I'm always busy when you call her Alright, for me, if you get fluent And I give you a few grand as soon as you land For me, bruvs, I know you don't want to do it But would you battle you, man? A few grand, for you?   Do you know why?  I ain't sayin' I have no gut But I took it upon myself To subtract some of the flab dough, bro I've been tryin' to map those sluts Not wind up lookin' like Truffle Shuffle Tea over here Cause I'm fat, no sympathy Cause if you didn't want to be fat so much Then you wouldn't be fat so much Obsession with Emily Tillard You're trash That's the type of chicks to give you a boner I'd be impressed But she looks like Princess Fiona Turnin' into the ogre That's a big Terrence bout to stare it out With a rapper from UK Nobody cares about I can't pitch it to the club Anybody here ain't goin' out And actually carein' about The way unanimous is whereabouts Like, have you ever seen a gun? It may be a curfew times Like when you were standin' out in your parent's house But mine is only like the sex tape The fence was carryin' out in Jared's house What's to be embarrassed about? Life isn't fair Ain't nothin' to be fair about He want to get the fair one out But life ain't fair Ain't nothin' to be fair about Nick, I'm happiest when your mother See a fair amount of heroin out I ain't seen nobody take smack To the body like this Since the nature boy Ray Flair was out But this time, Texas singin' We makin' country songs Texas singin' We makin' country songs The car pull up and post on this block And it wasn't alone I ain't seen animals in TV like this Since Jumanji's on See, I'm from a sectionate structure Home to my comfort zone So when alone When I'm from the woods run alone Man, why you just can't leave a well enough alone? Bang!   You've got authenticity But no heart in this And your near-death experience Plays a big vital part in it Because the defibrillator was the last time He had that spark in him See? He was talkin' about you now And now he's sparkin' him And I believe Because you're a good performer The only time you ever snapped And got into a mix-up It was a fuckin' muller corner That was a rote for me Let me use the URL gun analogy If I ain't explaining it properly I need cartridges Because the contents of a clip Isn't made for a shot Let me guess


So, okay, my name is Selvakni. I'm the author of Malignant Self-Love, Narcissism Revisited, and this is my trusted pal, Mini. I am the author of Malignant Self-Love. Not she. Don't believe anything she says. She's very good at coffee, nothing much else besides. She's a woman, of course, and this leads me to today's topic. The Narcissist Interactions with Women. I want to dissect it or analyze it from an unusual angle. Narcissists interact with women in three stages. First as fans, admirers, adulators, then as playmates, or play bunnies, and as time passes and intimacy begins to form, the Narcissist pushes his women to become mothers, so admirer, playmate, mother. Why mother?  The Narcissist never had, never has, never will have any adult intimacy with a woman. He's incapable of it. And he's incapable of it for a variety of reasons. We know that he lacks empathy. And another problem is that he internalizes when there's a woman in his life, he internalizes her. He creates an inner representation of the woman. And he interacts with that representation with a snapshot. He never interacts with the real woman. And he reminded by the woman of her autonomy, independence, and separateness any time the woman reminds the Narcissist that she is distinct from him, he perceives it as a threat. So he's trying to suppress these manifestations, these expressions. He, and in this particular sense, the Narcissist is like a codependent. He seeks to merge and fuse with his woman, with his object of intimacy. And he does it by converting her into an inner representation or an extension of himself. So, evidently, he is auto-erotic. He is masturbatory. He's interacting with himself, not with a real life woman out there. We've gone through all this in previous videos. Today, I would like to focus on these three roles that women have. Admirer, Playmate, Mother. Women react, women are flabbergasted and aghast when they confront this trajectory or this relationship pathway. Some women agree to be admirers, adulators, and fans, and also easily transition to the role of a playmate. When they do, the Narcissist objectifies them, and then he abuses them. And he objectifies and abuses them when they refuse to graduate, to graduate from playmate to mother. At some point during the playmate phase, the Narcissist begins to send signals to his women that they should become mothers. And most women ignore these signals or find them very creepy or eerie or pretend not to notice. And this incenses the Narcissist, infuriates him, and he begins to abuse and reject the women. If he doesn't help, if the woman categorically refuses to become a mother, to mother the Narcissist, the Narcissist cuts the relationship short. He even encourages his women to be with other men, as a way to test their commitment. It's like, it's your last chance to be my mom. It's your last chance to be my mom. Let's see if you will betray me. And if the women at this stage show real or active interest in other men, the Narcissist gets rid of them. Other women do transition from playmate to mother, but the role of mother feels so alien, so forced, so abnormal, so frankly sick. These women immediately rebel and refuse to continue. So the Narcissist displays infantile behaviors. He begins to act more and more childlike or childishly. He regresses. There's a regression. The Narcissist can even begin to talk in a childish voice. He becomes clumsy. His gestures become childlike. And he visibly regresses. He visibly becomes a child. It's pretty off-putting, honestly. And many women just refuse to participate in this game, refuse to play. And so in this case, again, the Narcissist pushes the woman away and towards other men as a way to test her. And if she fails the test, end the affair, end the relationship. So Narcissists resent women who refuse to adopt the role of a mother, ultimately. Resent non-maternal women. Resent women who insist on remaining women. Full-fledged, independent, autonomous, sexual, feminine. They are threatened by such women. They want to convert them instantly into mothers. And when these women decline the offer, the job offer.  The Narcissist explodes, literally. He begins to abuse verbally and otherwise. And he is very likely to push a woman away, usually through the agency of another man. It's a kind of reverse triangulation. It is a Narcissist who introduces other men into the couple in order to test his woman or to get rid of her. Of course there are one or two women who complete the course. They graduate. They are admirers, then they become playmates, then they become the mother or mothers. But when this kind of woman starts to regret her choice, to regret the role of a mother, starts to challenge it. When she starts to lose patience, honestly, with the childish ways of the Narcissist, with his lack of responsibility, with his overwhelming anxiety, with his lack of continuity, dissociation, with his immature immaturity. When many women lose patience after a few years or a few months or a few weeks or even a few days. When this happens, the Narcissist feels that he had lost. He had lost the woman. He had lost the love of his life, as he would say. He had lost object consistency. He loses trust in the woman and he immediately starts to look for alternatives. The process of idealization, devaluation, discard and replacement. This inexorable cycle is triggered very often by the woman, not by the Narcissist. It is when the woman stops being a source of narcissistic supply on the one hand and stops providing a maternal environment, a holding safe environment within which a Narcissist can feel that he can be himself. What the Narcissist is, is a very young child. The mental age of a Narcissist is unknown by 10, 11. He can fake it during the playmate phase. He can fake it as a man. But it's fake, it's an act. At some point he wants to rest, he wants to calm down, he wants to be himself. He wants to relax. And to do that, he needs the woman in his life. He needs his intimate partner to agree to be a mother, because he is a child. And when this doesn't happen, he reverse triangulates. What happens when the woman misbehaves with other men? The Narcissist then is thoroughly hurt, sorely disappointed, pervasively depressed and existentially frightened. But very rarely, romantically jealous. It's an amazing thing. Narcissists are devastated when they are cheated on. They are annihilated when they discover the affair, an affair, that the spouse had an affair. But they don't react as a man.   When mom has a new man, has a new lover, has met someone. And this is how the Narcissist reacts. It's more about possession and control, fear of loss, fear of abandonment, than about real romantic jealousy. Romantic jealousy is an adult reaction. It's an adult translation over fear of loss. Possessiveness is a childish reaction to fear of loss. And the child then, the Narcissist, who is a child, pushes the woman away even further, patulently, to the other man.  And it's a temper tantrum, in effect. The Narcissist is romantically jealous very few times. He accepts all incidents of cheating with equanimity. But he often conflates and confuses fear of loss with romantic jealousy. If you ask the Narcissist, are you romantically jealous? Yeah, of course I am. She cheated on me, it's horrible. But actually when you drill down, you push the Narcissist to the corner, which is never a good idea. Don't try it at home. So when you do this, you discover that actually it is nothing to do with romance or jealousy. There's nothing other than there. There's simply a terrified child cowering in the corner, afraid, mortified by the idea that his mother might just dump him, abandon him, in favor of another person, in this case a man. But it's difficult to understand because if the Narcissist is merely a child and the woman in his life is merely a mother, why the hurt when his woman ends up with another man, with his intimate partner ends up with another man? Why is he hurt? Again, it's because of the risk of abandonment and loss. It's real, it's very probable. You see, when a woman has a choice between a real rounded, full-fledged man who caters to many of her needs, all of her needs, and a childlike, regressive, infantile, immature, non-man, looks like a man, but he's not a man. The Narcissist, most women, I think, would choose the former. They would give up on the Narcissist, they would dump the Narcissist and abandon him and go with the full-fledged man, with the real McCoy, with the real thing, with the full offer, with the full menu.  You can have it once in a while, but it's hardly healthy nutrition and it's hardly a long-term proposition or a long-term solution. After women take care of their needs, outsource their needs with other men, many of these women are loath to completely lose the Narcissist. Women get attached to the child in the Narcissist. They feel pity, they feel motherly. Few women have the stamina, the strength, the resilience, the courage, I would say, or even the cruelty to abandon the Narcissist altogether. It's a child and they realize it's a child. And so most women are trying to somehow balance, somehow square the circle. They take care of their needs with other men, so they have sex with other men, they have intimacy with other men, they have a good time with other men and so on, but they come back to the Narcissist, they return to the Narcissist. At the end of a long night, 5 o'clock in the morning or 6 o'clock in the morning, the woman returns to the Narcissist. They try to adapt, women try to adapt. They try to be the Narcissist's mother and the Narcissist lets them. So the woman tries to be a mother to the Narcissist and a woman to some other men or some other men plural. And so in most of this relationship what happens is don't ask, don't tell. Most of the relationships, the couple settles into effectively an open marriage or open relationship. The Narcissist accepts that his woman has needs that only real men can satisfy and that he again failed to be a man and to act like one. Deep inside, Narcissists realize their deficiencies. And of course if a woman is malicious, vindictive, aggressive, defiant, they will never get to the stage of a mother because at least initially the mother figure must be nurturing must be holding, must be containing. Narcissist must have an immersive experience with his new mother. You can't be a mom if you abandon the Narcissist maliciously, if you intend to enhance his abandonment anxiety. Narcissist rejects such women not because of what they do, not because they cheat on him, but mainly because of how they do it. The Narcissist rejects malice and rejects malevolence because it doesn't sit well with their perception of the mother as a perfect entity. Perfect and imperfectible, means cannot be improved upon. And even if the woman qualifies as a playmate and an admirer, but it's clear that she can never be a mother, Narcissists will not go there. It's not true that Narcissists are promiscuous and so on. They immediately home in and seek the mother element. I mean, they can cheat, they often cheat, they often infidelity is rampant, they often unfaithful, but only because they're looking for a mother, because they're afraid to lose their current part, or because their current partner is behaving the same way, cheating on them. Of course if a woman misses the first phase, she's not an admirer, or the second phase, she can never be a playmate.  If she doesn't even have the qualifications for the first two stages, even if she is mother material, the Narcissist will not go there. Narcissists cannot transition directly from admirer to mother without passing through the playmate phase. All three are crucial. Each phase has its function. The admirer phase endows the Narcissist with the confidence needed to approach a woman. The Narcissist believes that only his brain or only his body, only aspects of him, only elements of him are attractive and all the rest is repulsive. So the cerebral Narcissist will try to impress the woman with his brain, with his intellect, with his intelligence, with his perception, perspicacity, analytic skills and so on.  The somatic Narcissist of the country would like the woman to appreciate, admire and be inexorably drawn to his amazing body and ignore the fact that he is a half-wit and has a repulsive personality. So the admiration phase is critical because without clear, open adulation and admiration or attraction the Narcissist doesn't dare approach a woman. And he doesn't dare approach a woman because he knows how partial, how defective, how deficient and how deformed and how disabled he is. Narcissist is an invalid. And then once the admiration phase has been cleared, once it's cleared that the woman admires the Narcissist, adulates him and is willing to overlook all his deficiencies, there's a playmate phase. And the playmate phase includes rudimentary, courting, sex and fun activities. And it's a simulation of the typical behaviors of a man in the initial stages of a relationship. So during the playmate phase the Narcissist is actually a man. And this phase helps to deceive, deceive, cheat. Both the Narcissist and the woman into believing that the Narcissist is a proper, fully evolved man. A bit childlike, but fully evolved man. So the playmate phase is the Narcissist's false advertising. The Narcissist is very sexual, very courting, very manly, very virile. And the woman says, wow, what a man. Yeah, he's a bit childish, he's a bit curious, he's a bit funny, funny. But still he's a man. It's wrong information. It's propaganda, it's fake news. And women fall for it. And then once they are hooked, once they have become addicted to the technicolor display, to the amazing novelty and risk involved, the adventure of the Narcissist.  Narcissist is spectacular, truly. It's a show, it's a theatre show. It's a Broadway production, you know? It's hard not to fall for it, it's hard not to get addicted to it. And once she does, then the Narcissist lends the blow.  The main thing tarnishes. It's all been an act. It's thespian. It's not true. It's a phatism. It's a mirage. And then the real Narcissist appears. And he insists that the woman becomes a mother. Because the mother makes him feel safe. He wants to be ensconced and immersed in unconditional love as a child. The woman is then free to outsource her needs like sex with other men, as long as she doesn't act maliciously. She doesn't seek to hurt the Narcissist or to be ventured. If she's benign, if she's good-hearted and kind, if she's committed to the Narcissist, if she pledges not to abandon the Narcissist, if she doesn't cross certain boundaries, of course. She's discreet. She doesn't provoke abandonment, anxiety. She doesn't vanish for the entire night without a word. Or for two weeks without a word. If she behaves within limits, she's pretty free. The Narcissist is quite indifferent as to what his woman is doing with other men. Or otherwise, not with other men. The amount of freedom and personal space that the Narcissist gives his partners is enormous. So enormous that the relationship becomes tenuous and very transactional.  If the woman insists to be a woman, if it's clear that she's highly feminine, her sex drive is strong, she insists on being treated as a separate, autonomous, distinct individual with respect, with, I mean, this causes panic in the Narcissist. The mother face is always invariably sexless. There's no sex there.  It's incest.   I want to have sex. This, the Narcissist reacts to this with utter, unmitigated hysteria. Because you see, the Narcissist's inability to be a man saddens the Narcissist profoundly.  His life is a wasteland. He knows that his woman, his women will always abandon him and go to other real men. The anticipation of inevitable constant and repeated losses of this kind, such critical losses, losing mother over and over and over again is crushing and oppressive.  It's a Promethean, Sisyphian punishment, penalty. And in this sense, it is a kind of karma, wrong usage of the word karma, but still in the colloquial sense. What goes around comes around. The Narcissist is punished by his essence as much and much more than any of his victims.