How is everybody doing? All good? Good by the grace of God. Everyone at... All of them. Good. Good. Lot of thumbs up. Quick recap. Do you remember what we did the last time? No. We didn't do about suicide. Grief and... Okay. Good. And we also did counseling of the abused, right? Yeah. Okay. So today we'll be doing the last topic. We've just chosen a few we haven't dealt with all, but just chosen important ones. And today we are going to be looking at suicide and how do we minister to those who may have suicidal thoughts or suicidal ideations. Okay. So have you come across anyone who's spoken about suicide? Have you come across anyone who has spoken about suicide? Yes. Yes. Yes. At some point. Sorry? Okay. Okay. They're contemplating suicide. Okay. So what about the students online? Have you all come across people that have had some ideations? Yes. Yes. Can you hear me? Hello? Yeah. I can hear you, but I can't. It's on. It's on. Okay. If you can put up your question on the chat right now, we can't hear you. Okay. So yeah. Any other students who've gone, who faced people who who have suicidal ideations in on the on the Manga online students, anybody? Okay. So what did you do when someone actually spoke to you about suicide? What did you all do? Louder. Louder. They were not serious. So what did you do? You didn't do anything. Okay. Okay. What did the rest of you all do? Okay. Alright. Loud. Loud. Loud. He committed. Is it? He attempted. And he passed away too. Okay. But someone you knew attempted. Okay. Nikhil. Transes. Nina. Sorry. You cried. You tried. Who? You tried to do. Okay. Alright. Okay. So it's important for us to know how to help what to do because you will come across at least once in your lifetime, someone who's probably sharing this feeling or this strong desire to commit suicide. Okay. But before we go there, before we actually talk a little bit about it, I'll just go through some questions just for your just just to just to have an get you all to have an idea about what you'll think. Okay. Suicide attempts are about seeking attention. Do you think it is to seek attention? So how do you differentiate? So my question is how do you know that someone is seeking attention or it is a genuine thing? How would you know? How they're attempting? You'll wait for them to attempt to see. Okay. So it is not true that suicide attempts are to seek attention. It is a cry for help. Okay. So even if there are what you explained about, you know, there's blackmailing or they are threatening or all of that, it's a cry for help. Someone is really asking for help. And that's why either they attempt or they may be talking about it or they're discussing about it. It's something that they it's a cry for help more than us looking at it as a seeking of attention. Okay. People who commit suicide are being selfish and think it is the easy way out. Jim, can you lower me? Okay. There's a lot of courage and a lot of there's a different level to come. Right. So it's not that come again. I'm not able to hear you. Can you speak up please? Yeah, now we can hear you. Sorry, I was just answering to this question of people who commit suicide are being selfish or think it's the easy way out. Just a minute, is it audible? Can you speak up again? Hello. Hi. Is it audible Jim? Sorry for interrupting. Sorry, just a little glitch here. Yeah, Ravili, go ahead. So I don't think so. It's being selfish but they do say that just because they don't want to face things out or people try to commit suicide which really is an impact on everybody around them including the close ones and other things. I'm not sure about that part. Okay. So think what you're bringing up is that because of what they're not able to bear is why they resort to an attempt. However, people on the outside think it's a very selfish act. That's what you meant to say. Alright. There is a clear reason for every suicide usually. Clear reason for every suicide. Okay. Very often there isn't a clear reason. Okay. It can be and I will come to that. Many times people just commit suicide as a symptom of depression because they are in clinical depression. One of the symptoms of depression is suicidal attempts or suicidal thoughts. Okay. Not necessary. There's not always a reason for depression. Depression can come. One is as a result of some, it's called, there are two factors something that's external and something that's very internal. External factors may be something that you see like a stress or some kind of a condition. But internal factors there may not be any specific reason. As a result of depression, people can commit suicide. So there isn't always a clear reason for every suicide. Okay. People are depressed and can give up their lives. Alright. Yeah. Yes. It can be. There can be certain events that may cause a person to feel a certain way that could like let's say low self-esteem, low confidence or a sense of worthlessness that can result in an attempt to suicide. So there can be the, so generally when you look at every kind of an illness or a disease it is, it has what do you say, sources in the enemy, right? The enemy uses something that we're already open to and can affect us a great way. So if you're as a person who keeps devaluing yourself, the enemy can use that against you to bring about these kind of issues also. So when there is an open door it's easy for the enemy to work in. Okay. Asking somebody whether they are suicidal and discussing whether they have a plan or method will simply give them the idea and increase their risk of suicide. So basically if you are someone whether they are suicidal and whether they have a plan, you're simply putting ideas in their mind and it will increase their risk of suicide. That's what it means. What do you think? Unknowingly the idea will come. Okay. Alright. So research has shown that it is important to ask and by asking you're actually helping them to open up whatever they are feeling or they are going through. It's a misconception to think that if you ask them, then they will it's like this when we talk about with young teens, you tell them about drugs or you tell them about premarital sex. So people say that if you talk to them about it, they will feel like doing it. That's not true. It's not true, right? It is you're building their awareness about that so that they're careful. So similarly here, you are asking them. Remember I said suicide is a cry for help. So when you ask them how are you feeling?  Have you had thoughts or plans of suicide? It actually helps them to open up. Okay. So asking about suicide is actually a good thing. It is important to ask about that. Okay. People who talk about suicide won't do it. Okay. So you cannot you may not be able to really like there may be certain times that people do keep saying okay, I'm gonna go die.  You do this, I'll go die, right? But there can be chances that they may act on it. They may act on it. Impulsively they could act on that. Okay. Suicide is a purely personal decision. There is a manipulation Okay. You mean the instances around can you're saying push them into okay, right? So okay, I leave it at that. We will probably talk about that later. Okay. People who really want to kill themselves are beyond help. So people who want to commit suicide are actually beyond help. Not at all, right? And that's why we are actually talking about this because sorry, be upbeat when you respond to a depressed person or someone that is be happy. You know act as of your life is joyful when you're talking to a depressed person. That's what it says. Okay. All right. Those are some things for depression but I want to get back to okay. So just a couple of terms that we need to understand. Okay. One is yes, suicide which is the act of killing oneself. All right. That's what intentionally that is someone intentionally wants to die the para suicide attempt is a person can cause injury or harm to themselves but it's non fatal that is it doesn't come to a place of dying like they may take some kind of medication or they may inject themselves with certain drugs so much so that it's not a pure suicidal attempt.  So let's just look quickly at what is suicide. It is the second leading cause of death.  Alright so it's a good percentage it's almost like a 60% of people actually commit suicide when they are depressed that is clinical depression or mental disorders like too much of alcohol too much of substance or drugs all of that can lead to a suicidal attempt. Okay. So major reasons for suicide is one major psychiatric illness which is like I said depression or even schizophrenia can actually cause a person to commit suicide. Drug use or substance that is alcohol, drugs all of that can lead a person to commit suicide. Impulsivity that is you know doing things without thinking taking spot on decisions that is another reason why people commit suicide or they feel that they're not able to cope at all with the kind of struggles that they're going through. Okay. There can be significant losses that is you know maybe a loss of a job loss loss of a significant loved one maybe other kind of things that they've attached themselves to and lastly one of the reason for suicide is a cry for help getting someone to see what they are feeling and what they are struggling for. Okay. So here are some warning signs of suicide how do you know someone would probably commit or you know are showing symptoms are showing signs of suicide now remember that please don't just take one of these behaviors and say okay you have this that means you're going to commit suicide that's not the point right you're looking at a more collective number of items in this so one is like we said depression so in depression some of the symptoms of depression are here the negative view of self a sense of hopelessness or no hope for the future feeling alone being isolated drastic changes in mood and behavior and also self harm like cutting behaviors all of these are also symptoms of depression so someone may have depression but will have these symptoms additionally you could see that there is you know they keep talking about how they are a burden to others that you know that they're an extra mouth to feed or they are a person who the entire family or the entire whatever community can live without okay they may frequently talk about death keep talking and discussing about death they may engage in risky behaviors like they may go on fast car drives you know doing things that are risky like maybe injecting very many drugs swallowing many medication or you know doing some kind of risky sports that could without safety harnesses all of that risky behaviors when they engage in risky behaviors other things that you could see is when they give things away maybe when they give their possessions away when they write their will when they're writing their assets to somebody all of that could be indications making funeral arrangements right so they are making plans to ensure that once they die all the funeral all of that are set so these are some warning signs suicidal threats is again a warning sign of someone who can have an attempt of suicide okay so how do you make an assessment of someone who's committed who may want or who may think of suicide sorry my system is stuck okay right so here are some factors or what we call as a risk assessment you basically find out how likely someone may commit suicide okay so if you look at the acronym of it it's called the sad person right so the first thing that you look at is sex generally males are much more person to commit suicide than women alright so if they are a male there's a greater risk ages between 19 and 45 okay these are probably the times of the most stressful times of a person's life so that makes them more susceptible to suicide be the presence of depression if they have clinical depression that again becomes another factor for suicide P is previous suicide attempts if they have attempted any time before the likelihood that they will attempt again is kind of great E is ethanol which is alcohol or other substance use does the person use alcohol or other drugs as a sense of coping R is rational thinking loss they are not able to think rationally think logically not able to see hope even sometimes they may have everything set for them they may have a job they may have family they may have all things well but yet they are not able to think logically think rationally that's R S is social support lacking there aren't people around them that's there as their network or their support that again can be another factor or organized plan they have a plan they know when to die how to die what means they have to use when they're going to do it which place they have a huge plan and N is generally if they're unmarried or single and they do not have a spouse it again a spouse or family that causes greater factors for a suicidal attempt did you follow this yes yeah okay any questions up till now so we will quickly look at how do we identify how to identify someone who has a suicidal attempt I'm going to show you a video I don't know if this is going to if you all will be able to hear it but I'm going to try now this is can you hear it you can put on the can the students hear it could you hear it when I played it oh is it no okay they can't hear so what's the way for us to hear it's on it's on the okay then I'll just share the video later no it's on it's embedded on my okay I'll do one thing I'll put this up on the stream you can watch it later okay so there'll be two videos one is just to understand a little bit about what depression is and the other video will be on how to how to talk to someone who is suicidal okay so we'll probably I can maybe share it at a later time on the stream okay all right so what we're looking at is to find out again how do you identify how do you understand what is it that you can see as issues or as changes that have that show you that a person is suicidal okay so here are some quick slide it into four there are certain physical symptoms there are certain behaviors thoughts and certain feelings okay now the thoughts and the feelings are things you can't see but things that you may need to ask things that you can find out as you're talking to them so some of the physical symptoms that you may notice is they have difficulty sleeping they feel a sense of tiredness and you will you can see that they may not be eating and actually speaking about how they feel so run down they feel sick okay certain behaviors that will be noticeable is they will be withdrawn from others now this is in general there can be exceptions even to this okay people may be normally you may be noticing people who are normal but yet could attempt alright but this is in general a large percentage of people will show these symptoms they don't get things done they stop having interest in enjoyable activities there is a difficulty in actual concentration in paying attention in doing what they are generally doing in life okay there may be increased alcohol or drug use at a point of time the thoughts that they may be thinking is generally self depreciating or thoughts that are very condemning like nothing good ever happens to me my future is bleak I'm worthless I'm a failure these are all negative views or negative thoughts that they may be engaging in the predominant feelings would be feeling sad being very overwhelmed frustrated feeling feeling a sense of depression these are all symptoms that you will notice okay now if you look at their negative views it generally will follow three areas the negative view of themselves negative view of the world of others and negative view of the future okay so what is negative view of oneself I am not good enough I am worthless I am inadequate negative view about the world you know nobody loves me or nobody thinks I'm worth it everyone it would be better that I didn't live because everyone will be happy because I feel so worthless I am worthless I can't do anything I'm not good for those others and negative view about the future I can never do anything right nothing good is going to come about my life so generally the views that they have about themselves others as well as the world comes from a negative place of mind okay clear right okay so what is it that you would notice a suicidal behavior when there is excessive sadness or moodiness they always actually talk about wanting to die or wanting to kill oneself okay they may talk about it and you know how fed up they are you know I wish I could just die or I wish while I was driving I could just die or you know I wish I didn't wake up in the morning so these are all negative talks about oneself about how they are feeling any kind of a trauma recent trauma or life crisis that has happened maybe it's something that is significant loss that's happened feeling hopeless or having no reason to live there isn't any even despite the fact that there may be other things around like there may be children they may be having a job they may be going through something significant they feel there is no reason to live feeling trapped having that sense of unbearable pain feel that they're a burden to others we spoke about this making preparations for their suicide I remember one person who you know who committed suicide he withdrew money from the bank put it into a kitchen box so that the family would have enough for the funeral you know because that's a box I think the wife generally opens for tea time and that evening so when everyone went out he committed suicide and you know there were some of these things that were already done he had written up a will he had sold some property kept the money in the bank so all of this came in through a whole lot of preparation as a result so making those preparations okay feeling anxious agitated or sometimes behaving recklessly there can be problems with their sleep they may be more isolated they may also be very irritable show anger show rage general seeking revenge so there are many of these symptoms that you may notice like I said all because you notice two or three of these symptoms it doesn't mean that you make a blanket understanding that they may want to commit suicide and that's why you need to ask that's why you need to always have conversations with people okay alright now what do you do when you're actually talking to someone there are some things you need to understand okay and this is what we called as a confidence for a let's say a conversation how do you have a suicidal conversation with someone the first thing is find out the risk factors what are the risk factors we spoke about earlier what did we say the risk factors are sad person yeah so you're trying to figure out how many of these fit into this category are they single you know are they having what age group are they are they in do they have depression do they have a social support are they on substance use all of this is what you will check to find out okay that's what we mean by suicide risk factors then the fact that their idea the you know suicidal ideation it can either be passive or it can be active what do you mean by passive and active what do you understand by the meaning of passive meaning of active correct they're not passive is where the thought may be there but there isn't anything that they're doing towards it but activists there is a yeah they are planning they're organizing something towards that so that's something you understand whether it's passive or whether it is active how do you how would you question someone to know if it's active or passive will you say are you actively thinking about it or are you passive what would you say okay what else what are you doing when you have those thoughts okay so ask how you can actually ask have you devised a plan is there a plan that you have have you thought about a plan okay so what you want to know is whether they have a plan right so okay this has been thoughts what have you done anything further that two things so that's what it's important to ask that they'll say yeah maybe I did two three things something so you know that it is a more active phase and an active one is what do you say more I won't say it is more dangerous but it's definitely something that is playing on their minds greater but the passive one could become very impulsive but then no time they may just try and do something without actually thinking about consequences okay what happened no both will be but passive you may not know yes they're not thinking like for example an active person may like google and see which is the best way to die right or they may look at okay if I choose this what could be the consequences that happen they're actually researching all of that someone passively may just at the spur of the moment may just do something without actually thinking how much it could affect them if it didn't if it didn't succeed and all of that they may not think about all of that that's what I meant by passive could tend to be that you know they're trying to attempt but not really have the mindset to do that but they're doing it at the spur of the moment and it can cause worse of problems they may not die but they can have other kind of complications okay then a suicide plan do they have a significant plan how they're doing it when they're doing it what they're doing it so again there was this person that I was seeing he had such an elaborate plan that he wanted to do it certain place okay so he had devised the place where he wanted to do it he had kept aside the money he had put the date okay so he had he was wrapping up his work accordingly so that's how serious the plan was and while we were talking I did understand that it was it was quite elaborate the plan so okay so then I tell you how do we minister when we do understand that there is a significant plan and the fourth is intent what is that intent is the intent just to and I want to kill myself or is it no I just want to you know by by doing this I just want to escape for a certain period of time or I just want to sleep so what is the intent of that so these are certain things that you will need to maybe ask ensure that you're keeping these communications open okay we won't go through that alright so if they have suicidal ideations the important thing is to ask directly okay it's good to use the word suicide when asking about suicide like you don't have to say do you want to do something right be direct or do you feel like harming yourself remember harming yourself is very different from suicide harming yourself is you must have known of how people when they are very very emotionally overwhelmed they may take some like blades or you know small kitchen knives and just just superficially slash themselves that's not to kill themselves it is actually to release the pain that they are feeling okay so it's not a very good coping mechanism but nevertheless that's something that they have done alright so ask about suicide like this is some one way that you can ask I ask everyone I meet with about suicide and so I'm going to ask you have you had any thoughts about death or about suicide so you ask directly or I've read that between 10 to 50% of teenagers have thought about suicide is that true for you okay so directly talking and directly asking alright okay now if they do say yes what would you say next why so if they do say yes students online what would you say next please allow the do you have any plans maybe try to understand for how long before you ask a question what do you do think back at your counseling skills yes Ravali can you hear me yeah we can hear you okay so I was saying that maybe ask them since how long you know for how long they have been getting these kind of thoughts if they say yes that they wanted to come in if they're thinking about suicide it's been how long they've been in these kind of thoughts these are all these are all questions towards finding out but I'm saying before all of that yes empathize how do you do that remember we spoke about responding to feelings someone is telling you that they are they want to die and you're going ahead and finding out the plan which is a good thing it's important but what do we do before that because they have to think of all the consequences because they are the last person so what will you think about so Anand you've gone way ahead I'm talking about someone is just saying I feel suicidal or you're saying you know do you want you've asked that question they said yes so how will you respond there go back to class 5, 6 we acknowledge the feelings what will you say you shouldn't judge them say that again you might think of this yes like for example I can't imagine the pain that you may be going through that made you think about this that we have understood what they're going through that's extremely important never lose sight of that when you're talking to someone who is either depressed or probably suicidal okay so don't forego that it is important to get that so next that you would do and which I think most of you said is explore the frequency, duration and intensity of the thoughts how frequent, how many times has this happened from how long and how intense is it right and what all has how long has this intensity been there okay so that's again very important to ask then you need to assess the plan which means you're talking very specifically about the plan can you tell me more about how you have thought about doing it right this is very important because you're helping them articulate and in most cases from what I have seen mostly people actually do talk people will actually tell you that is if they feel unjudged if they're not feeling judged they will tell you if you are open to listen they will actually tell you but if you close and how can you think of something like that don't be silly don't be stupid shake yourself out of it then they may not really bring about this but you need to assess the plan so specifics of the plan what are they going to do needality of the plan how are they trying to kill themselves and are they using a gun are they using a rope are they using injectables are they using medication are they going to go under the train what is the how lethal can it be availability of the means is this something that they've already bought and kept right the rope or the you know whatever material they have and how close is social support proximity means the closeness of other people are they other people in the house are they other people around them that can make this plan harder or easier right so this is something that you will need to check specifics of the plan needality that is would they you know how potent or how lethal you know the meaning of lethal that if whatever means they're using is it a quick thing to die availability and lastly proximity of the support system that there is alright we'll stop here any questions here and then maybe the next class we'll talk about how we can actually minister any thoughts here any questions okay let's stop for a 10 minute break we'll come back at 11 o'clock


Good morning everyone from Grand Forks, North Dakota, flying J on the south side of town. We had a little bit of a delay starting from last night. I'm just getting going now. The time is about 12 30. Everything's all good, ready to go. I'll show you what was the issue. Then we'll hit the road. It's going to Wisconsin Rapids, Wisconsin. And I stopped here to check the load. And I noticed something. Something that grounded me right here. I noticed that. There's these little bolts underneath there, right? You see it? There's one bolt there. There's a bolt there. Same thing up there, there. These guys here. Another one there, there. All these aluminum pieces are being held in by bolts, right? I stopped and I was checking things and I noticed some of these nuts were coming loose. And if they come loose and those bolts fall out, that whole aluminum piece in there and those pieces in there fall out into traffic. That would not be good. That's why it's so important to always stop and check your load. Always double check, triple check, quadruple check. The back one was the worst. This one here also had loose bolts. So obviously from the vibrations of rolling down the highway, they'd come loose a little bit and there were no locking washers or lock nuts on there. So it's a very good thing I stopped and checked it. I wouldn't want anyone to get hurt. So seeing as this load is the way to Wisconsin, and we called in what happened and they sent out a team of technicians to fix everything up for us. I'm sorry if the wind is bothering you a little bit here. We got a little bit of wind. I'll jump in the truck here so I can talk to you. So I'm not sure if the bolts just weren't tightened all the way. The manufacturer, or if they vibrated loose because there was no walking mechanism on them. Either way, stuff happens, right? Stuff happens. And that's why I always say check your freight. Don't just check it once, check it twice.  Now I'm not perfect. I'm not claiming to be perfect and, you know, never make mistakes. But one thing I'm very paranoid of is any of my freight falling off my truck in a traffic behind me. One of those aluminum pieces could have easily bounced off the road and gone right through someone's windshield as lights out for them. I couldn't live with myself being responsible for that if there was something I could do to prevent that. So to prevent that, you check. Stop down here, checked everything I noticed. Oh, these things are getting a little loose, right? And at first I was like, maybe I should tighten these all up. Then we called in to let them know what was going on. And I know they wanted to send down certified technicians to make sure everything, like double check everything else as well. Because if some bolts were coming loose, they want to check everything else as well. So they came all the way down here from Winnipeg, checked it all out, tightened it up, put lock washers on everything, double checked and double secured everything now so that nothing can come loose. Stuff happens, but we should be good to go now. I'm just really glad I caught that. Something that's completely out of my control. There's no way to secure those aluminum pieces in there. They're secured by those bolts. That is the securement. And that falls under the whole thing of check your load securement. You get it. So everything's tightened up, everything's locked on. We should be good. Let's head down to Wisconsin Rapids. I've called the customer down there. They understand what happened. They understand there was a delay. So we're going to go and sleep right in their yard tonight. And tomorrow morning, we're going to wake up there and unload these things. First thing in the morning. And then I have a reload in Evansville, Wisconsin. That's taking me back home. It's actually taking me to Saskatchewan, but I think I'm going home and then we'll worry about that when we get there. Let's worry about today, one day at a time. We're not too far behind. I mean, technically we were a day behind. I was going to unload today, end of day.  It won't affect me getting home at all. Thank goodness, because we have been here for a while. Why is my computer not loading up here? You should have long been loaded up. Oh, nope. There it is. You jammed or what? Oh, computer's technology, right? Everything's got to be all technology. Okay. So we've been here for almost 20 hours. It's been a little while, but we worked it out in a way that we're going to be fine. I still have some time now to get down there. So I'm not in a big rush, which is good, because I'm going to be stopping more regularly than usual now to double triple, quadruple, quint triple, quint triple, quint, quint, there's going to stop a lot and check it a lot. Makes me nervous. So the reason they wanted to send down their crew to fix it was, I guess, liability issues, because those things are coming loose. If I tighten them the wrong way, or if I break something while I'm trying to mess with their equipment, it could cause problems for me, problems for the customer, problems for everybody. So this way, all of their tightening and everything they've done here is all certified by the manufacturer now. So if anything goes wrong, right? It's not on me. I did my job. I reported the issue, got it fixed by the professionals. I don't like having issues, but I do like being able to get them solved quickly. And this was, this was good. This turned out well. There was no damage to anything. Feel good. Let's get out there. Let's go do some trucking. Turn on our beacons, because we're fat, we're wide today. All right, Flying J, it's been good. You treated me well. It's time to go. Let's just check our trailer one more time. Trailer's attached, trailer brakes work, and they release. Wonderful. Now, how do I get out of here? Which way do I go? A bit of a sharp corner going this way, so I'm going to go that way. Beacons are on, lights are on. We're not going to run this guy over.  So like I said, I'm going to be stopping more regularly than usual, but every half hour, I'm going to stop and go back there and check until I feel comfortable that it's going to stay. And then I'll stop about every hour to two hours, but at least I'll stop in a half hour. I'll stop in another half hour, another one, another one, probably four times. And if everything is still staying really tight, then maybe I'll start checking it every hour. We'll see as we go, see how comfortable I am. I'm going to check it as often as I need to for my own anxiety. How does that sound? But at least every half hour. These cylinders are made out of fiberglass, right? So they have a little bit of flex to them, and that's probably what helped to vibrate those bolts loose to begin with. And the fact that there was no lock washers or lock nuts on them, and that also contributed to it. So with all that kept in mind, we're just going to assume that, you know, they could come loose again. We're not just going to trust it. My anxiety is going to be like, whoo, having a heyday today, party, party of the anxiety, anxiety party. I love those wide load coming through, coming through. Excuse me. Excuse me. Thank you. I think this is the only way in and out right now. Might be wrong, but so we're in Grand Forks. Halfway to Grand Forks, there's a rest area. I'm going to stop there and check. That'll be less than half an hour, but that's okay. We'll stop there. We'll stop in Fargo. We'll check again there. We'll probably go down to Rossa, Minnesota on 94. We'll check again there. We'll keep checking every half hour until my anxiety behaves. Heal to you, good sir. You have the green. Or ma'am, sorry. One good thing about this delay is now that we're headed south today instead of yesterday, there's less wind. Yesterday I was driving right into the wind and this load was just a giant parachute behind me. So today we'll get a little bit better fuel economy. Still got a parachute behind me, but at least we're not going straight into the wind with a parachute. A little bit windy once you get out of town. I shouldn't have spoken so soon. Hopefully not as windy as yesterday. Yeah, this is halfway to Fargo. Fargo is an hour and a bit. We're pulling here, give everything a check, make sure everything's holding tight as it shouldn't be. Take to the right. How about I just go straight? There's only one road. See, now I can keep to the left. These rust areas don't give a lot of space for trucks to park here and get out. I mean, now there's lots of space, but I mean, when it's packed full, it's kind of, it gets kind of tight. You on this road for 57 kilometers. No, Karen. Gotta go calm our anxiety and go track our load. Hopefully everything is as it should be. Well, it's still there. That's a good first step. So this is what I want to check. Mm-hmm. Start with this guy here. All good. Tight. Tight. Tight. Not those there. They're tight. Tight. Tight. Everyone's looking good. Looking good. Looking good. They haven't moved. They're there. Oops. I bumped you guys on that. I'm sorry. Okay. Okay. See, part of the reason why I didn't want to mess with any of this myself was this is all like one piece of fiberglass, right? And I don't want to do anything with tightening these bolts or securing any of this in here because I don't want to break the fiber glass. So if I break the fiberglass, well, then I've got problems. I'm liable for that, right? These are the ones that were coming loose before. Tight. Tight. Okay. Okay. First stop. Everything is looking good. The pressures are holding. They're tight. Okay. Successful. First stop. After all, still tight. Tight. Tight. Okay. Good. Good. Good. Good. I'm here. I'll kick the tires. Go back around to make sure we got air in all our tires. It's warming up. So we've got to make sure we adjusted the air in the tires, you know? Make sure that it's mild weather air. Just kidding. Flags are half-staff again. They're half-mass. Technically, a mast is on a ship. A flagstaff is on land. It's at half-staff, but most people call it half-mass because they don't understand that a mast is on a ship. If it's on half-mass, that means the flag is halfway up the flagpole on a ship. But society just usually calls that half-mass. I know I'm getting old technical and nerdy, but whatever. Beautiful weather we're having. Look at all this. I love to see all the snow melting. It's messy. Looking good. Feel good about that. Okay. We're going to stop again in Fargo or Moorhead, same town, different states. Here beside me, they're not going to be able to get out around him, but I guess he'll back up in that case. All is good. Let's go about another half-hour and check it again. Off to the right here is the way station one mile. Next one as the way station lights flashing. And look at this. Look how suspicious this is. Dude, I got an oversized load. What are you doing? Stopping right before the scale in front of me into traffic. It's oversized, so they may want to take a closer look to make sure all my permits are in order. Summonary scale. If the green arrow is on, you get to bypass. If it changes to the right, or if the green arrow is on the right, they want to take a closer look at you. They trust me. They're looking at me saying, I think you look pretty good there, Trucker Josh. You roll on by. Come by. We trust you. Someone's getting inspected back there off to the right. View Expressway. I got to go to the other side of the river. I don't think I can cross on this bridge because I'm being routed around to a different bridge. The river's right in front of us. I'm not sure which river it is. I have to look that up. But I get to the other side and then I'm going to sleep right at the cost. 300 meters. Turn right on. West River View Expressway W913. Bit of a sharp right. View Expressway W954. So I just took all of my clearance marker lights off for my wide load. I'm going to have a flashing. I've got two red ones for on both sides of the widest part of the load facing back and I've got three amber ones. Two for the front of the load on the widest point facing forward and one more to strap to the back of the load to flash. Everybody knows when they're coming up to me. There's a wide load. There's no excuse. You should know. So let's get out of the truck here. I'll show you where my parking spot is. Parking in this lineup until the morning. This is where I was told. So I'm not going to turn my beacons off yet. Right here is where we're going to sleep. First thing in the morning they're going to come get me and tell me where to go with this. Get it off my trailer.  So you saw it in my past clips right. I had the amber lights on this here facing forward. They were just steady on just to mark the outermost edge. Then I had the red ones back here facing backwards and then on the back here I had strapped the the other amber one onto here and that flashes so the back of my load has a flashing amber. We made it. Time to go to bed. Morning is going to come quick. So once again thank you very much for joining me today. I really appreciate that. What helps me out the most right now and it's free. If you want to help me out you can go down below my video and subscribe to my channel and join our journey. Go to my playlist while you're here and check out videos from all the way back to 2011. I've got my life catalogued out here on the road for the past 13. We're almost to our 13th year. Isn't that crazy? Wow. I'll see you guys tomorrow. Take care. Drive safe out there. Keep your stick on the ice. Keep your head up and pay attention on the roads. We all want to get home to our family. Good night.


Hi, I'm Meenu and going to help you to solve the following problem. It says prove the following using properties of determinants So let's move on to the solution By the properties of determinants. We know that if we Apply any row operation or column operation to the determinant its value doesn't change it remains the same So we can apply any row operation or column operation to simplify the given determinant Now looking at the expression on the right hand side of the question We can see that we want to have a plus b plus c so we apply the column operation as C1 is equal to C1 plus C2 plus C3 and We can see that after applying this column operation the first column becomes a plus b plus c and the second and the Third column remains as it is Now we take a plus b plus c common from the first column minus a plus c minus b plus c 3c again, we apply the row operation R2 is equal to R2 minus R1 And R3 is equal to R3 minus R1 1 minus a plus b minus a plus c 0 3b minus minus a plus b and Minus b plus c minus a plus c 0 minus c plus b minus minus a plus b then 3c minus minus a plus c again, this is equal to 1 minus a plus b minus a plus c 0 a plus 2b minus b and we have 0 Plus b minus b gets cancelled and we have a minus c and here we have a Plus 2c Now we expand this determinant along first row so that we get 1 into a plus 2c into a plus 2b minus a minus c into a minus b and the other terms would be 0 and this is again equal to a plus b plus c into Open the brackets a square plus 2ab plus 2ac Plus 4bc minus a square minus minus a b But when we open the bracket it will become plus a b Then we have Minus ac But it becomes plus a b when we open the bracket then we have bc which becomes minus bc and We can see that a square gets cancelled with minus a square and we get a plus b plus c into 2ab plus a b is 3ab 2ac plus ac is 3ac 4bc minus bc is 3bc So this becomes equal to 3 into a plus b plus c into a b plus bc Plus ca and this is what we had to prove so hence the result is proved So this completes the question. Bye for now. Take care. Hope you enjoy the session


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debate in a moment but just want to congratulate you and your family and your team on a fantastic event on friday night the last one for a while i think you told me on on friday but what a way to do it it was brilliant bread you're probably going to do it next year now knowing you but anyway come here are you happy i think you probably like it's like a bad hangover you say i'm never drinking again then you remember the good times and not all the trouble but um you can probably hear from your voice i'm i'm still recovering a bit but yeah it was a it's there's a lot a lot of pressure on there i guess so i don't know what could could be a a long time in the future but sure we'll see what happens but yeah listen the night itself went really well thanks yourself and all the crew there carlin and everybody that came and so many people helped out and um you know whether it be donation or coming on the night or helped organize it was a phenomenal effort yeah and it was and there was something uh particularly nice about it and i kind of it it's kind of reflective of your character i don't want to blow smoke but you know yourself but there was a family field so your family were there right beside you uh your family uh the members of your family who were no longer with us were were very personally remembered did you want it to be like that because this is hey it just felt really real and personal in in all the positive ways if that makes sense uh brendan yeah i just thought great from the last ball two years ago you know dad and uh margit being there you know just had to i suppose give a word to them and a lot of our family was there as well so it was just a wee bit of remembrance we just put on at the start of the night and margit i suppose got most of the prizes um the last time i had a big input in there and of course her friend and friend of family and Helen Gibbons and a lot of people get in around that as well and and and kind of took up that side of it so it was just important to remember them uh on the night and it was nice i suppose for us to be able to do that and now i'm gonna put together a wee short clip just a couple of images uh of of the family together yeah okay well listen well done to you um uh now let's talk about the deal debate tonight uh unfortunately reflecting on heartbreak for neve connell they lost out in the last four uh to glenn you've got brendan kill coin and john gilday uh on to discuss that game i don't know you've had such a weekend of it how much of the game you got to see or maybe you were there knowing you were having a clue brendan uh but you know uh neve neve connell falling at the second last hurdle i suppose you could say yeah i've been doing bits and pieces for streaming and different things but because the game was on tv then um no listen all she was on the way i could have went up to it but i thought i'd be happy enough to watch it from the the comfort of the couch but yeah listen it was a an enthralling game i mean these games great we're at a stage now where people talk about it's also football it's you know people have a wonderful ball but the pitch was obviously perfect condition and it just comes down to such small margins and there was never going to be any more than a couple of points in it neve connell got off to a terrible start it means 24 minutes before they scored they're 4-0 down at that point greg it was looking ominous because you know glenn are also champions they were in the all-iron final you know they're certainly one of the best teams in ireland but again this neve connell team there's just so so much resolve suddenly they got a score they really got off three you know went down to the break i think happy enough and of course they had the the penalty at the start of the second half uh john oman's penalty and they were supposed and martin reagan says this after the match you know they were just hanging in there we attemed the glenn you just glenn are so talented all over the pitch and you know they've obviously mago rourke and and ryan porter guys that are top top county i mean any county in ireland greg would take those i mean the fact that glenn are able to have the finances to pull them in on top of all the talent that they have it just makes them such an awesome machine but listen they come down to the the tiniest emergence they got aj punched over that equalizer and you thought at that point greg there's it's going to extra time because time was up i think the ref said there was 30 seconds left to play neve connell i think had the one the break of the ball out there got turned over and it come across to big brad then who else on the left thought he's their free taker greg and whenever it came to him in that position i thought buying there goes it just all lined up and um tough tough and uh neve connell because they've done the game was massive underdogs greg but yet it came down to that one point and uh they'll sold it and had a huge effort from uh from from all the lads and everything what do you take away from that uh brand because you know you don't want a hammer in uh but then you lose by the nearest of margins how do you if you're or maybe by the time next season comes around the the pain will have eased somewhat but what what do you take away from that yeah i suppose every game is different if you look at the gunner game the last year it's very very intriguing from a tactical point of view the way neve connell and gunner played it gunner just and it's the different strategies and styles of teams and counties and the way they play and gunner just kept going at me connell connell had them in a bringing place they kept going at him this was very different this was this was much more tactical and keep ball and possession yet so many talented players around the pitch but glenn did uh you know put massive pressure on neve connell all over the pitch and kept you know tackling them in different zones so the work rate of the glenn forward glenn was unbelievable i think in modern football when you look at it rig you know talent is one thing but certainly work rate and tactical setup is by far the most important things i mean the talent kind of works through that then and you'll see the brilliance of certain players come shining but really it's about 15 players that are completely committed all around the pitch which takes massive training and effort and s and c and all that that's what i'm saying about the backup of glenn and obviously neve connell matched them all the way on that so there's it's you're like a mini county team now yeah it used to be for years like the county teams were on different levels to clubs and all that now and you're seeing the top clubs now have something of a mini version of what county teams are doing and uh it takes some effort to do that but neve connell did it and they can they can hold their heads up high because you know there was no shame in what happened there this is to say a one point defeat uh you know the best team in holster and and certainly they are you know you nobody's surprised of glenn window island this year yeah i'm all right and you're also going to be previewing next weekend's also intermediate hurling final it's a big one for satanta you've a big guest in satanta's gary megette again they're hoping to become holster champions of course we hope they don't fall at the last hurdle obviously brendan yeah last team the standard now at senior level i suppose in terms of the the competition last team keeping you on the air brendan what are they the last team keeping you on the air or there we go i keep the show going actually you know you know half year's like a win made a wee break quickly after last week yeah we'll see we'll see there's always something to talk about breaking for sure yeah especially with the chats you have with people about their lives and stuff but anyway go ahead brendan that's it no no i you're going to put uh yeah gary's on i've actually got a good friend's in carragmore with my job i'll be up about there so i've made a wee call i'm chatting a fella here michael haddon later so we might get a wee bit of a word from the carragmore side as well but gary obviously has has been in some time with satanta let me between being a manager and now he's in the backroom team as well so we just want to give them their their respect and and get the balls they've been on a brilliant journey through to this uh uh clump final and and an austere crown as i said there's only uh donnie gall said now that has a has a chance of winning that should be from the flim they wanted i mean that's that's a high grade you know it's a it's a thing where donnie gall clump football weren't able to compete in for years and now we have satanta on the cusp of of possible austere victories all right does that yeah there's that and so much more besides a show not to be missed of course live after the 7 p.m news and you can listen to the deal debate or uh watch much of an in association with sarah's kitchen assistant sarah's letter kenny brendan thanks so much as always great to have you back on great to be interviewing you that's the way i like it let's keep it like that yes all right buddy sort out them socks my man i'll take care of you it's not great just where you go it's lovely to get you up and get you on the corner a wee bit on the back but thanks to you thanks to your good self actually but next time ask me we can pretend i didn't know about it i'll give you better things to have a go at me out all right take care brend thanks so very much indeed yeah indeed they had the clue but they dragged he dragged me up for a quick chat on friday night too uh as a bit of preparation but anyway um we answered a question about what shawne eats um and he told us there as i say huge commitment you think oh well you can eat whatever you like but it's not really because it's margins and greg would you say hello to shawne 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morning greg i'm great thanks and thanks for having me on the show no exciting because this is a significant body of work here a lot of effort has gone into this program yeah so it's going to air on tj care on thursday at eight p.m it's called air for dunagall so it's and it can be viewed the great thing about tj care is it can be viewed worldwide so for any of our emigrants around the world can we'll be able to watch it so yeah we spent the crew spent over two years filming at dunagall airport from 2020 to 2022 and basically it tells the story of the airport through the passengers that fly in and out and the airport staff responsible for getting them for me to be but i suppose the main thing which stands out for me about the airport is the vital thing is really it provides um flights for patients availing of medical treatment in dublin so that's one of the like the key things that the airport does and marry over and at dinner neve pedrick in ghidor is fantastic so she coordinates the flights of summons ellen they need to go to dublin for um for treatment she coordinates all that so that's a vital service otherwise they'd be sitting on a bus for five hours after getting treatment in dublin so that's really important the airport also provides reduced transport i'm not sure if everybody will be aware of this but for students going to college in dublin you can get cheaper flights as well so there's there's lots of stuff that goes on over at dunagall airport it's an excellent service yeah and i think it hopefully brings to a wider audience the importance of having a facility like this in dunagall because you know the detractors they will say sure it takes as long to get there as it does to get where you're going and all that kind of stuff i think it really is important uh for to have a project like this that highlights the importance of you know regional connections and particularly regional airports absolutely i mean as i said you know we've been traveling on a bus or driving for four or five hours to get to dublin like dunagall airport is our network to the to you get to dublin then you're connected to the rest of the world it's a really really vital service for this part of the county but it's not just as the airport it's been voted three towns in a row the most scenic landing strip in the world and that is something to be extremely proud of and that's where the idea came from when the first year it was voted i thought oh there's something in this you know the fact that it's not just a small regional airport but it's it's been voted the most scenic landing strip in the world and that's a that's a great honor to be given that and it's something we should all celebrate but i think as well what i found in making the program you know there's some amazing characters like for example charlie mackey's a local taxi driver and as a documentary maker finding someone like charlie's like finding like it's one of an oscar because charlie's such a a natural character he's a brilliant storyteller like many people in dunagall you know and he's when you get off the plane he's the person he'll take you to your next destination you know but there's there's private planes flying in and out of there over the summer like people will just fly down from dublin to maybe go and do a walk along karag fin beach go for a swim and then fly off again it's like you know it's it's amazing well we get that insight because you know maybe locals will be familiar with certain planes coming in and out but more broadly across the northwest and beyond we might not be familiar with the different types of traffic that use the airport you know it's not just one flight in and out of day yeah no no people can fly in i think it's if you're if you're flying in and within arland i think it's 20 or 25 pounds to fly in within arland and you just need to give them like 15 minutes notice and if you're flying obviously from from outside arland you need to give them 24 hours notice but yeah so you know we'd be filming and next thing a plane just comes in you know and they're just we've just popped in it's the most scenic landing strip in the world we've just flown in for a couple hours they go for a walk on the beach and then away they go and but over near where the airport is as well it's absolutely stunning there's the boat strand there and and and and the karag fin beach and you know when we were filming we were talking about the different types of things people will try and bring on the plane with them and people have a tendency to go and walk on the beach and pick up a stone and want to take it as hand luggage which can't take it because it's as seen as an object that could be used you know and but yeah so and it's funny like over the years when what you're in filming like you won't believe us but like metallica flew into dunny gall airport serra jessica barker flies and you know and of course daniel o donnell's the regular there and pakky boner and and the flight also that the glass go flights not on at the moment but that will be coming back on and that's a huge thing there's a huge connection between dunny gall and glass go so have that to have that flight within an hour you've gone from dunny gall to the center of glass and i think what interests me too is uh when i watch programs like this the bits that interest me is you know we see the facade uh you know the front of the building the desks the stairs the plane you know all that kind of stuff but you don't see what's going on behind the scenes or how it's run or what's involved in that slightly things and a two i presume two uh looking at the time frames there's a bit of an adjustment had to go uh because of covid and what have you as well so we get an insight into that do we uh helena yeah yes we felt we had us to kind of stop and start filming due to covid because of the restrictions so we get you go behind the scenes and how that impacted the airport as well and you know if you're you remember at a point it was only i think one flight a day and there was the worry that maybe you know and the airport staff talk about this there was the worry that they might have the airport might stop running altogether so there was that worry during the pandemic and so yeah we look at that and how that you know impacted and you know on episode one you know there's a family there's a gentleman who comes in from america and it's his first time home in two years and he was unable to come home for his father's funeral because of the pandemic and that's a really really moving and will resonate with a lot of families in ireland who were unable to attend funerals for loved ones and actually i cry every time i watch that book when you see him reconnect with his family and it's really sad you know but that was part of life for us in 2020 and 2021 you know so that's covered and so it's a four-parter i presume there's threads that go throughout the four episodes or not you can let me know but there's also sort of four scenarios or stories or you know examples of the work of the airport so is that how you've structured it yeah so it's four episodes so and one throughout the whole series we follow Kahal Blesby who starts off he'd done aviation at college in Dublin and Kahal was at the airport as work experience and then we follow him throughout his journey and Kahal actually goes off to Spain to become an air traffic controller and so we meet him in episode one as being there from college getting work experience in episode two he's packing to head off to to Spain to become an air traffic controller and episode three we meet him in Spain and in episode four he's back in Donegal airport in his role as air traffic controller now at the start Kahal didn't want to be in the program at all it was there was a lot of i had to really persuade him to be in it but he's absolutely brilliant but he's the only person that features throughout the whole series and obviously you meet the airport staff who are throughout the series but with regards to the people flying in and there's different things happening in each week so in episode one we meet Maread Nimuni of Alton and she talks about how the airport enabled her to move back home to Donegal she's absolutely brilliant Maread and um and I suppose for me too I haven't been lived away myself for 30 years and just I came home during the pandemic to make this and now I'm home permanently you know it's really strong in the Irish language Donegal Irish is just beautiful and that's throughout the program and for people that don't speak it it's obviously subtitles available but Maread Nimuni's in episode one and and the Mulladoo Band on St Patrick's Day and like they stop at all the houses of people who've passed away so they hadn't been out for a year because of the pandemic so that was really moving as well it was very emotional as they stopped at people's houses to to commemorate the people that were lost during the pandemic so that's an episode one and the family from Ghidor who are reconnected in episode two we talk about the vital medical um the flights for people availing of medical treatment in Dublin and we follow a lady who talks about how it's assisted her um and we meet student Lee McGarvey who's studying in Dublin and she talks about how the cheap flights enable her to come home every weekend she plays for Neve Wara you know that's another thing you know the airport enables teams to come home and people to be able to play for their local GAE teams if the airport wasn't there they wouldn't be able to come home and therefore the teams wouldn't be able to put a put a full team out on a Saturday or a Sunday um an episode three uh it's a private plane and we meet Grace Rogers from Tory Island now I heard about this lady who flies in on a private plane from America and it happened to be over in Marrotti one day filming and I met this chap I know from Tory Island and I said you know there's a lady who flies in from Tory would you know or and you know yourself what it's like trying to get people to take part in programs and stuff and and this gentleman um Patrick who's a cousin of Grace's so he gave me a contact for her and I um spoke to her daughter and I had a zoom with her and Grace is 85 and she lives in Washington T.C. and she left Tory Island when she was 17 or 18 on the steamships from Cork it's such a moving story so I I zoomed Grace and I said listen Grace I'm from Arranmore Island my mother's from Innisfree my father's from Innisfree I'm a hundred percent island blood like yourself so that was sold her then she said okay I'll do it she's from Tory Island and um we initially we're only going to film her when the private plane arrived and um at Carrick fin airport and then I said well is there any way we can come over to Marrotti with you so we went to Marrotti and needless to say we ended up on the ferry out to Tory and um she walked us up through Tory to her house it's just really moving beautiful story about her life and it was one of you you know I'll never forget that sounds like a full parter on its own oh yeah yeah there's a tv series on Grace Rogers herself and you know she flew in as well we had a screening at the airport in august and she flew back in for the screening so it was just really important that she was there so that's an episode three and also the salt festival you know and Donnie got in Ghidor which is an amazing festival people don't have to leave this county to go to Dublin um to see gigs there's amazing gigs happening here you know I went to see the coronas a couple of weeks ago over in Ghidor but the salt festival fantastic lineup and what I think is outstanding about this festival is it's all run by volunteers and any money made at the festival goes straight back into the community um so we follow people flying in from Dublin um to attend that festival so that's all kind of rock and roll and then episode four is business people flying in and out so it's a really good mix of people um from all walks of life all ages so it covers everything and there's that Donnie Gaul charm and storytelling within it as well you know fantastic uh funded by tigie cahar and common a man uh it is on thursday november 30th at 8 p.m on tigie cahar and worldwide to on tigie cahar dot i e just a couple of comments for you before you go if you don't mind because this is the wonders of local regional radio hi Greg Helena is an amazing producer and fantastic at what she does wish her the best of luck from anti-naurine Rose and Elaine was so proud of you and Helena sanden good on highland radio mary joe and a few more as well which i'll get to later thank you so very much for your time i do appreciate it bye bye actually we could go to line one and stay on this topic now rory are you there hello hi rory how are you getting on very good Greg how's it going there good good good your experience of donnie gaul airport we had um we had an excellent experience of donnie gaul airport in fact it was last christmas time when my son and his partner had returned to Ireland from new york they were here for a week's holiday over christmas but the left here on the 29th of december greg at 6 30 a.m in the morning to get the five to eight flight back to dublin for the connection on to new york and with that particular morning it was the frostiest morning you could ever believe and as they went out over glenn v they were only able to do 20 and 30 miles an hour and they most they definitely thought they're going to miss their flight but they arrived there at about quartered eight in the morning i very mind the flight was going at five to five they arrived at quartered eight and the flight was going at five to eight and they rushed in the airport and uh the staff and the gears there were a hundred percent and getting them checked in checked their bags in all the way through to new york got them on the flight and the left on on schedule at five to eight you know you don't have to arrive at an airport at ten minutes wow brilliant that was excellent service and it's just what a fantastic amenity it is to have don't go to the airport and you know the more people that use it the more sustainable it becomes so fair play to everybody involved wonderful story roi thanks so very much indeed i really do appreciate it the nine till noon show with letter kenny credit union now offering mortgages from 40 000 to 600 000 euro with no hidden fees or transaction charges letter kenny credit union 9102127 santa claus speaking it's me santa your trusty elf i've got an urgent message from coonies christmas shop oh my golly goodness what's happening at coonies well santa they've gone all like this year their christmas decor is bigger and better than ever visit coonies christmas shop letter kenny retail park and feel the magic of christmas santa proved unwrap the magic of christmas gifting with eason's fiction and 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instagram uh x or uh tiktok wherever it might be if you were on it at the weekend you're bound to have come across a very nice video it is a christmas video and it is for charlie's bar um and we're told and you can see in the video there are no strangers at charlie's bar only friends you haven't yet met and that's a vote a quote from wb yates una berns manages charlie's bar and joins us now hi una hello how are you thank you very much for having me on this morning it's our pleasure now talk to us about the thinking behind this video i can't imagine you just anticipated it would get the traction that it has it's astonishing it's absolutely everywhere we could never calculate the views because it's been downloaded and shared on so many different platforms but what was the thinking behind the video and the creation of it yeah we would share a lot of videos on our social media platforms anyway but a lot of them would be quite lighthearted and a friend of mine asked me and said would you not consider doing a christmas advert and that just got me thinking and i suppose what i wanted in the christmas advert was to portray what we see in charlie's and i wanted to reflect charlie's as a pub and the one thing that stood out to me over the years and particularly a christmas time is that it can be a really tough lonely time for some people and that's very much in contrast to what we see on the news and on lines sometimes which is very joyful and happy so we wanted to get that message across while also portraying the essence of what charlie's is it is a really welcoming place as is for manna and the people all for manna and in a skillet and so it was really to be a kind of gentle reminder to people that in the festive season not everybody is as happy as they might seem and just to be kind to people always so it tells the story of a gentleman well you tell us the story but he's lonely at christmas and as life sort of moves past and people don't notice him and and that's kind of the emotion i'm getting when i'm watching it and then of course he goes into charlie's bar and and all of a sudden then he's not alone is that the story that you wanted to tell because i think it's really quite relatable it's real and i think that's why it's been so popular yeah that is exactly what we wanted to get across and i have to say that it's kind of people are very friendly and it doesn't reflect what what people are like here in that but we wanted to reflect the the wider image and i think as you have myself walking up the street and you're on your phone maybe looking at tiktok videos and you don't maybe grand up and there could be somebody that just a smile or a simple hello would go a long way towards but we certainly never expected anything like the reaction that we've got and i think one of the reasons we have got that reaction is because it is universal message you don't need to be from in a skill and you don't need to be familiar with charlie's as a pub to really feed you something or to take something from that video yeah and another thing that sort of resonated with me uh you know this gentleman and others are lucky to have charlie's bar but it reminded me of the closure of rural pubs you know when people associate pubs we're just going in and getting loaded or whatever and don't consider how important they are or have been to the rural fabric or an outlet for people like the star of this video you know to go in and socialize and chat about what's going on in the world in that given day you know pubs do play a really valuable role and for some of our communities here um uh unna they've been lost which is really sad absolutely and i think for us covid really highlighted that yeah you know people depended on the pub and a lot of people who are maybe living at home on their own came to the pub and it might have been the only people they saw all day so i think as well as you say unfortunately we're losing a lot of them and just to remind people that you know you don't need to come in and have a drink and we consciously made the decision for the the man the main actor to not actually be drinking he was drinking again a zero and we well there was two reasons for that we didn't want to connect grief with you know alcohol yeah but also to show people you can come in and have it you're coming in for the social aspect not for the alcohol and i think too it's almost like a metaphor uh you know you talked about that this not being a reflection on the people of ennis gillen of course it's not but sometimes we can be surrounded by people and still feel alone uh and that's what i see in this character if you know what i mean i also say i don't think it's the people of ennis gillen walking past me ignoring him but you know they do say you don't have to be on your own to feel alone and that's addressed when he goes in and has the pint and just starts chatting with the couple i think the dog sort of being the the instigator of that and it's very real and natural it does it is what goes on i'm sure you've seen this in the bar yourself yeah a lot of people have asked where did the idea come from and that's literally where it came from it wasn't a groundbreaking idea it's not it's just something that you would see every day and particularly around christmas where you find people coming in on their own more and more and because me and my father would work on christmas day that has always been a point you know really hits home with me it's those days where they might be going home to a house on their own there's no christmas dinner there and so at least if the pub's open it's somewhere for them to spend a couple hours and chat to other people before they go back home finally i mean all great actors in it but the dog itself i mean he jumps up on the chair on cue he sits there acting perfectly who owns that uh little rascal so the couple megan and alex are actually customers of the bar and i would know them the end with the dog messy so i'd ask them would they be in the video with messy because they just thought they were the perfect the perfect three yes and they did that they nailed it so yeah brilliant it's just had an amazing response it must be so heartwarming une it's great for business as well but i know that's not your actual motivation necessarily as such but people are comparing it with some of the best christmas ads ever it's genuinely touch people in a really real way which is lovely yeah i always loved the john lewis advert it always stood out to me and for me it was the start of the christmas season once i'd watched it could read headlines of people comparing it to that and saying that it's blowing john lewis adverts out of the water and john lewis actually replied to it on tiktok last night it just seems like phenomenal it's hard to believe um we're a small family run business and in the skill and we never expected to get anything like this response you have the bars looking lovely as well and really welcoming and warm and cozy listen to the well done thanks so much and uh you give people a wee lift which is lovely as well thanks for your time thank you for having me on it's our pleasure thank you very much indeed that is unabern uh unabern's there who's the manager at charlie's bar we've linked that on our facebook page as well if you're not familiar with what we're talking about maybe you're not on the socials but it's just a beautiful wee video that shows people coming together um at christmas time which is nice or any time of the year for that matter all right unah thank you for making yourself available uh let us see heading towards the end of the show time for a few comments here great service from karak fintag glasgo used at many times flying over to the Celtic games brilliant interview with helena gallagher a great lady she comes across as such yeah congratulations to jessica who represented donagall and arland in the junior eurovision song contest at the weekend she did a fantastic job and i'm sure she did herself her family and all of us really really proud i didn't get to see that it was a really busy busy weekend um between the jigs and the reels we were at brendan it's just one of those weekends brendan divany's thing on friday uh obviously the well i just like so much the kitty taylor fight and saturday and then last night we were in the shandan hotel for their santa thing it was lovely hudson got to meet santa and he was really really well behaved hudson's not free yet he's heading towards free he was but but it was getting late close to his bedtime you know what i mean do you know the way toddlers can be and then santa landed and just went pure quiet he was fascinated and it was wonderful and uh it was lovely to meet santa and mrs glores as well uh the whole place looked lovely and lovely staff too so it's not an ad i'm just want to credit where credit's due the staff up there are lovely people as well all right okay that's where we have to leave it on the show john breson's around the north west shortly from me greg hughes caroline ore and uh shannon wilks we'll be back tomorrow morning at nine


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Hi, I am Kushadra and I've been working on D3 the whole night and I've tried basically on health-related data and so lots of functionalities and lots of Plots are already available in the D3 Page and I tried to utilize the same to plot my data set and it's like most of them I just map like as you can see here you have a map of a state and you can plot the amount of People having a particular kind of disease or so there are lots of lots of plots that can be reused actually and you can just Use it for any kind of application. So that will be very much helpful In your project actually so I think D3 is very powerful tool and for any kind of Visualization we can definitely go for that and it was a very good experience here at the hackathon and so the hack night Hack night and Hack night and so I would like to thank you guys for Giving us such a great opportunity. Thank you